The Tranquility Tribe Podcast

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Brit Patos, founder of Infant Feeding Care, to clear up one of the biggest feeding myths out there: that all bottles are basically the same… they're not. They break down why bottle feeding is not one size fits all, and how things like nipple flow rate can make or break both feeding safety and your breastfeeding relationship. Brit explains that what people call “nipple confusion” is often actually flow confusion since bottles deliver milk instantly while breastfeeding requires a little more patience and coordination. They also talk through how to introduce bottles without derailing breastfeeding, what to do if your baby starts refusing the breast, and why feeding before your baby is crying can make a huge difference. This conversation gets into the details most people never hear, like how “slow flow” labels aren't regulated (yes, really), why that matters, and what to look for instead, especially in higher-risk feeding situations. If you're navigating bottles, breastfeeding, or both, this episode will help you feel a whole lot more confident in what you're choosing and why. 00:00 Reflexive Sucking Warning 01:17 Listener Email Advocacy Win 04:08 How to Use the App 06:22 Meet Brit Bottle Basics 10:55 Flow Confusion Explained 12:54 When to Introduce Bottles 16:14 Hunger Cues Before Crying 18:07 If Breastfeeding Is Struggling 20:37 Sponsor Just Ingredients 23:13 Nipple Flow Labels Exposed 29:23 Best Slow Flow Options 32:45 Hospital Disposable Nipple Risks 34:56 Special Feeding Needs Down Syndrome 37:26 Do Nipples Need to Match 39:41 Wrap Up Resources Goodbye   Guest Bio: Britt Pados is a Neonatal Nurse Practitioner & Nurse Researcher AND founder of Infant Feeding Care.  Britt is a neonatal nurse practitioner with a clinical background in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). She has a PhD in Nursing focused on feeding in infants and has done research on flow rates from bottle nipples. She owns Infant Feeding Care where she provides breastfeeding and bottle-feeding support to infants in Massachusetts. Follow along with Britt here: www.infantfeedingcare.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Britt on IG: https://www.instagram.com/infantfeedingcare/   BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: Listen to the original episode here: https://podcast.thebirthlounge.com/e/ep-191-bottle-flow-rates-and-choosing-the-right-bottle-with-britt-pados/

Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe walks you through the birth prep she and her husband actually did for their home birth… and what actually mattered once they were on the other side of it. They took The Birth Lounge childbirth education course together to understand labor, get aligned on preferences, and make sure her husband felt confident and steady through a three-day labor. He also went through Dad Days to learn real, practical support skills from other dads. HeHe also shares how the Secret Sauce to Pushing course played a huge role in her pushing experience, supporting her pelvic floor, minimizing tearing, and setting her up for a smoother recovery, even with hours of pushing and a long crowning phase. They prepared for the “what ifs” too, taking a newborn resuscitation class and a breech birth course, and she brought in an IBCLC prenatally for breastfeeding support so she wasn't figuring it out for the first time postpartum. This episode is a real look at what prep can actually do for your birth and recovery, and how to focus your energy on what truly makes a difference.   00:00 Postpartum Perspective 01:10 Episode Overview 01:49 Birth Lounge Prep 03:52 Water Break Moment 05:26 Dad Daze Course 08:37 Secret Sauce Pushing 13:53 Newborn Resuscitation 17:13 Breech Birth Training 19:23 Lactation Support Plan 23:12 What We Could Skip 25:18 Wrap Up and Resources SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: https://www.breechwithoutborders.org/courses/  

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with family physician and circumcision safety innovator Dr. David Tomlinson for a detailed, no-fluff conversation about newborn circumcision in the U.S. They unpack why this topic can feel so taboo, what most parents aren't told about risks and complications, and how technique and device choice can significantly impact safety. Dr. Tomlinson also walks through the proposed health benefits often associated with circumcision, including infection and disease risk, and how those claims are supported in research. The conversation also explores timing, including why circumcision is often done within the first 24 to 48 hours in the U.S., why that differs from other countries, and what considerations come with waiting. HeHe and Dr. Tomlinson discuss pain management options, vitamin K and bleeding risks, aftercare, and what parents should know before making this decision. This episode isn't about telling you what to choose. It's about giving you a fuller picture so you can make a decision that feels informed, intentional, and aligned for your family. 00:00 Circumcision Injury Reality 01:13 Birth Lounge App Overview 04:43 Episode Setup Circumcision Questions 05:55 Meet Dr Tomlinson 09:48 Why Circumcision Feels Taboo 12:16 Safety Risks And Common Devices 14:21 AccuCirc Origin Story 18:26 How Often Injuries Happen 21:11 Long Term Injury Impacts 22:36 Foreskin Function And HIV 24:30 Benefits Evidence And Sexual Function 26:10 Devils Advocate Hygiene Question 27:46 Paraphimosis And Origins 30:50 Guidelines Without Shame 38:07 Why Delay Circumcision 38:47 War History And Early Timing 42:54 Ideal Timing 7 To 14 Days 44:05 Waiting Until Adolescence Tradeoffs 47:08 Beyond 28 Days And Anesthesia 49:04 Anesthesia Timing Risks 49:46 Topical vs Injectable Lidocaine 50:59 Hospital Cost Tradeoffs 52:53 Sponsor Cozy Earth 56:28 Vitamin K and Bleeding Rules 59:27 Oral vs Intramuscular Vitamin K / IM Vitamin K Options 01:04:33 Bleeding Prevention Techniques 01:06:11 Safer Clamp Design Explained 01:13:22 Healing Timeline and Dressing 01:14:20 Aftercare Vaseline and Trapped Penis 01:19:15 Transparency and Follow Up Care 01:22:49 Foreskin Disposal and Donation 01:26:20 How to Connect with SafeCirc 01:29:15 Final Encouragement and Wrap Up   Guest Bio: Dr. David Tomlinson is a family physician, medical innovator, and international leader in newborn male circumcision care. An Academic All-American from MIT with a degree in Mechanical Engineering, he went on to earn his MD at the University of Colorado and complete his Family Medicine training in the U.S. Navy. For over 20 years, he has worked to make newborn circumcision safer worldwide, leading the development of the minimally invasive AccuCirc® device. As a Clinical Assistant Professor at Brown University, Dr. Tomlinson has advised the World Health Organization, NIH, and Gates Foundation, and created training programs across Africa. He has served as an expert witness in malpractice cases involving circumcision injuries and has dedicated his career to preventing these devastating complications. A longtime staff physician at South County Hospital, where he was named Physician of the Year, Dr. Tomlinson has also lectured at leading institutions including Mass General, Brigham and Women's, and Dartmouth. He authored the surgical chapters of the WHO's global manual on infant circumcision and continues to shape programs for HIV prevention and safer newborn care worldwide. Connect with Dr. Tomlinson here: www.SafeCirc.com And Get a 10% discount anytime in 2026, just by mentioning The Birth Lounge Podcast  You can find links to all the research Dr. Tomlinson shared in this document.  You can learn more about the SafeCirc here.  SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with filmmaker and activist Brendon Marotta to explore the history, ethics, and modern practice of circumcision. Brendon shares how circumcision became medicalized over time, shifting from early cultural and religious roots to routine use in modern hospital systems. The conversation looks at how messaging has evolved, including past beliefs about infant pain, what current research suggests, and how conversations around consent and bodily autonomy have changed over the years. HeHe and Brendon also discuss the function of the foreskin, common claims around hygiene and health, and why circumcision rates in the U.S. have been declining. They touch on cultural influences, generational beliefs, and how parents today are navigating this decision with more access to information than ever before. Throughout the episode, the focus stays on informed decision-making, understanding the full picture, and creating space for thoughtful, pressure-free conversations around a topic that is often considered routine but rarely questioned. Chapters: 00:00 Cold Open + Why This Topic Matters 02:50 HeHe's Perspective + Research Lens 09:20 Circumcision Conversation Begins 16:25 Meet Brendon Marotta 22:58 History, Power, and Culture 32:06 Infant Pain and What We Know 44:19 Trauma and Long-Term Considerations 57:06 Health Claims and Controversies 01:04:30 Industry and System Incentives 01:10:16 Function and Anatomy 01:17:24 Parenting, Autonomy, and Decision-Making 01:28:03 Cultural Shifts and Changing Rates 01:42:22 Documentary + Final Thoughts See American Circumcision here: https://circumcisionmovie.com/ Guest Bio: Brendon Marotta is a filmmaker, author, and speaker. His last film, American Circumcision, won multiple awards and played on Netflix. He is the author of four books, The Intactivist Guidebook,  The Haunting of Bob Cratchit, Children's Justice, and The Gods of AI. He has spoken at Yale University, the International Conference on Men's Issues, the International Symposium on Genital Autonomy and Children's Rights, and the Association for Pre and Perinatal Psychology. Brendon hosts a regular podcast called The Brendon Marotta Show. He is creating music and art with AI under the name Strange Aura. He currently lives with his family in Austin, TX.   Follow Brendon on social media here: http://www.brendonmarotta.com/subscribe/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page

Today's episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you've been dreaming of. In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with OB-GYN Dr. Kirti Patel, host of The Gynarchy Podcast, to unpack how patriarchy has shaped women's health, maternity care, and the way society talks about our bodies. With more than 25 years in obstetrics, Dr. Patel brings both experience and perspective to a conversation that challenges a lot of the norms we've been taught to accept. They talk about what “gynae” really means, why Dr. Patel intentionally centers women's voices, and how sexism has historically influenced medical training, leadership, and the care women receive. HeHe and Dr. Patel also explore the displacement of midwives, the slow shift toward more women in OB-GYN leadership, and the reality that women's bodies are often treated like public property when it comes to birth control, abortion, and fertility. The conversation dives into medical paternalism in labor and delivery, why informed consent is still a major issue in maternity care, and the very real physical, emotional, and career sacrifices that often come with pregnancy and motherhood. They also talk about the need for better support systems, the importance of community and “the village,” and why men sharing the mental load at home is part of the cultural shift families need.   Guest Bio: Dr. Kirti Patel is a board-certified OB-GYN with over 25 years of experience and the host of The Gynarchy Podcast. Known for her bold, feminist perspective and evidence-based approach, she's passionate about challenging outdated narratives in women's health and calling out misinformation. Through her work, Dr. Patel blends science, advocacy, and real talk to help women better understand their bodies and feel more confident navigating their care. www.thegynarchypodcast.com The Gynarchy is a podcast at the intersection of women's health and feminism, hosted by ob/gyn Dr. Kirti Patel. @thegynarchy on IG: https://www.instagram.com/thegynarchy TikTok, and Bluesky, Find The Gynarchy on most podcast platforms and YouTube SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Bronx-based doula and Bridge Directory founder Emilie Rodriguez for a real conversation about the uncomfortable truths inside U.S. maternity care. They talk about why the system is failing families and why avoiding hard conversations only keeps things the same. HeHe and Emilie unpack the debate around doula certification, why some doulas intentionally remain uncertified, and how certification can sometimes become a tool for control within hospital systems. Emilie shares how Bridge Directory is working to create a more accessible pathway that allows doulas to work within institutions and bill Medicaid while still honoring traditional training, ancestral knowledge, and doula autonomy. They also dive into the difference between true informed consent and the watered-down version often called “shared decision making,” the role racism plays in obstetrics, and why it's unrealistic to expect doulas to fix systemic problems they didn't create. This episode explores accountability, transparency in maternity outcomes, and why community, mentorship, and ongoing self-reflection are essential in doula work. Guest Bio: Emilie Rodriguez is a Black traditional birth and postpartum doula and medical anthropologist. She founded Ashe Birthing Services, a team of BIPOC doulas serving over 400 families a year in NYC, and co-founded The Bridge Directory, a platform of perinatal providers and professionals of color creating a new standard of maternal health. They are on a mission to heal the disparities in healthcare from within by training institutions and providers, redefining expectations in care, and closing the access gap. As an active Bronxite and reproductive justice advocate, Emilie is deeply passionate about her community and perinatal health. She is also a leading expert in policy-level change, particularly in advocating for doula pay-equity and the development of accessible doula qualifications and standardization, as doulas begin to accept insurance in New York City and New York State.   Connect with Emilie:  https://www.ashebirthingservices.com/ https://www.thebridgedirectory.com/   https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilie-rodriguez11/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: https://www.thebridgedirectory.com/

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you've been dreaming of. In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe continues the surrogacy series with Tiffany Jo Baker, a three-time surrogate who carried five babies, including two sets of twins. Tiffany shares how her faith first led her to surrogacy and walks through what the process actually looked like behind the scenes, from agency screening and psychological evaluations to matching with intended parents. They talk honestly about IVF hormone protocols, embryo transfers that didn't stick, experiencing pregnancy loss, and how consent and autonomy are navigated when it's the surrogate's body but not her baby. Tiffany also shares what conversations around selective reduction looked like, how relationships with intended parents evolved after birth, and why her surrogacy journeys ultimately ended in C-sections after previously having unmedicated vaginal births. HeHe and Tiffany also unpack the practical side of surrogacy, including contracts, escrow, insurance, compensation, birth certificate logistics, and some of the biggest myths and misunderstandings surrounding the fertility industry.   Guest Bio: Tiffany Jo Baker is a caffeinated mom of two young adult daughters, surrogate mom who has delivered five babies for three families dealing with infertility, proud dog-mom, and wife to an extreme outdoorsman. She is the podcast host of The Tiffany Jo Baker Podcast, author of the devotional Soul-Care for Go-Getters, speaker, and Holy Spirit-led strategist who uplifts the soul and success of women walking out their "why" at home, online and in the real world so they can get free, live full and birth their God-given dreams. https://www.TiffanyJoBaker.com https://www.tiffanyjobaker.com/tiffany-jo-baker-podcast https://www.tiffanyjobaker.com/services  SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Kallie Fell, executive director of the Center for Bioethics and Culture, for a thought-provoking conversation about the ethics of surrogacy. Kallie shares why she believes modern surrogacy raises serious concerns about exploitation, commodification, and what she calls “fragmented motherhood,” where the roles of biological, gestational, and social mother are separated. Together, they explore questions about surrogate health risks, potential long-term impacts for children conceived through IVF, and the complicated legal landscape surrounding contracts, autonomy, and representation. Throughout the conversation, HeHe reflects on how her own perspective shifted after becoming pregnant and emphasizes the importance of having open, respectful conversations about topics that are often considered taboo. Guest Bio: From the beginning, Kallie has been passionate about women's health. After graduating with a Masters of Science degree in Animal Sciences with an emphasis on Reproductive Physiology and Molecular Biology and working in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Vanderbilt University Medical Center,  Kallie continued her education in nursing and has been a perinatal nurse for nearly a decade. Kallie has worked with the CBC since 2018, first as a volunteer writer, then as our staff Research Associate, and now as the Executive Director. In 2021, Kallie co-directed the CBC's first documentary on “transgender medicine” titled Trans Mission: What's the Rush to Reassign Gender? In 2022 Kallie co-wrote and co-produced The Detransition Diaries: Saving Our Sisters. Kallie hosted the popular podcast Venus Rising and is currently the Program Director for the Paul Ramsey Institute. Her latest film, The Lost Boys: Searching for Manhood and new book, co-authored with Jennifer Lahl, The Detransition Diaries (published by Ignatius Press) were both released in early 2024.    About The Center for Bioethics and Culture:  The Center for Bioethics and Culture Network (CBC) is an educational nonprofit addressing bioethical issues that most profoundly affect our humanity, especially issues that arise in the lives of the most vulnerable among us. We work through a variety of media platforms—documentary film, writing, speaking, interviews, social media, and more—to educate and inform members of the general public, thought leaders, lawmakers, and others on ethical issues in healthcare, biomedical research, and biotechnological advancement. We exist to educate and inform members of the general public, thought leaders, lawmakers, and others on ethical issues in healthcare, biomedical research, and biotechnological advancement by intentionally bring together diverse voices from across the spectrum of human experience to build common cause in addressing the crucial questions that accompany these fields.   Connect with CBC: https://cbc-network.org  X: @kal_fell and @CBCnetwork Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Cbc-networkOrg  SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: Just Ingredients Ready to simplify your supplements with a brand you can actually trust? Check out Just Ingredients for clean protein, prenatals, electrolytes, and more, made with real, transparent ingredients. Head to justingredients.us and use code TRANQUILITYBYHEHE to save 10% on your first order.

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you've been dreaming of. In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe is back behind the mic for the first newly recorded episode since having her baby and let's just say… postpartum has been full of surprises. Three months in, she's sharing the unexpected symptoms no one warned her about. From intense cold flashes (sometimes right after eating or nursing) to a wave of jealousy and nausea when someone else holds her baby, HeHe gets honest about the weird, emotional, and very real postpartum moments that don't make it into most conversations. She also talks about the shock of a painfully strong breastfeeding letdown that feels like electricity, random hormone symptoms like a metallic taste in her mouth, and even scalp sensitivity that suddenly made ponytails unbearable. And yes… we're talking about the “downstairs” surprises too. HeHe shares about severe rectal pain after a long pushing phase, intense vaginal itchiness, and the random “throbbing vagina” sensation that had her briefly spiraling before getting reassurance from her midwife and pelvic floor physical therapist. This episode is honest, a little funny, and deeply validating for anyone navigating the wild world of postpartum recovery. If you've ever wondered “is this normal?” after having a baby, you are definitely not alone. SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/    BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: Check out HeHe's birth story here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=noh5eFpCFcs

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with former labor and delivery nurse, mom of nine, and founder of Transformational Motherhood, Sarah Martin, for a real talk conversation about labor room rights, hospital policies, and what it actually looks like to advocate for yourself during birth. Together, they pull back the curtain on how hospital systems work, why many hospital birth classes can be biased, and why evidence-based childbirth education outside the hospital can make such a difference. Sarah shares practical ways families can navigate the system with more confidence, from choosing a provider who aligns with your goals to requesting a specific provider, hiring a doula, and understanding your right to informed consent. They also talk about fear-based maternity care, how to decline students or procedures you are not comfortable with, when it is appropriate to request a different nurse, and how to report concerns if you feel disrespected or mistreated. This conversation is all about helping parents understand their options, protect their autonomy, and walk into the birth room feeling informed, supported, and in control. This episode originally aired Tuesday Mar 02, 2021 and can be found here:  https://podcast.thebirthlounge.com/e/ep-154-rights-in-the-labor-room-with-sarah-martin-rn/   Guest Bio: Sarah Martin is a mother of 9, an experienced OB nurse, and founder of Transformational Motherhood (previously Traditional Motherhood).  Sarah has taken her passion, knowledge and experience in pregnancy, birth and postpartum to create a community dedicated to education, empowerment and support of expectant and new mamas to take them from feeling scared to confidently prepared! Traditional Motherhood is taking expectant and new mamas from scared to confidently prepared through education. Connect with Sarah:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/transformationalmotherhood/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: Temp Drop If you're over peeing on sticks, overthinking charts, or trying to take your temp at the same time every morning, Tempdrop does the work for you while you sleep. Grab a discount with code AFHEHE at tempdrop.com/discount/AFHEHE

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you've been dreaming of. In this episode, HeHe sits down with Dr. Kristin Lasseter to unpack perinatal mental health with a focus on postpartum anxiety (PPA) versus postpartum depression (PPD), how they differ, and when “baby blues” may signal something more. While mood shifts are common in the early postpartum days, symptoms that persist beyond a couple of weeks, disrupt sleep, bring constant anxiety or sadness, intrusive thoughts, or thoughts of death deserve real support. They talk candidly about the guilt, shame, and fear of judgment that keep many women silent, and why telling one safe person can be a powerful first step. The conversation explores common risk factors like fertility struggles, pregnancy or birth complications, and PMDD, along with the significant hormonal shift that happens after the placenta is delivered and why the brain can feel especially vulnerable during that window. HeHe and Dr. Lasseter also navigate the often-stigmatized topic of psychiatric medication during pregnancy and postpartum. They discuss why abruptly stopping medication is usually unsafe, how to thoughtfully weigh medication risks against the risks of untreated mental illness, what research tells us about breastfeeding compatibility, and what to expect when starting or adjusting treatment. They touch on newer, faster-acting postpartum depression options, therapy modalities like CBT and EMDR, and additional treatments such as TMS and ECT. The episode closes with an honest conversation about bounce-back culture, social media pressure, and choosing support systems that protect a mother's mental health. Throughout, the message is clear: evidence-based care matters, suffering in silence isn't a badge of honor, and there is no shame in using medication when it's needed. 0:00 - Introduction: Mental Health Medications in Pregnancy & Postpartum 4:36 - Postpartum Anxiety vs Postpartum Depression: Key Differences 6:01 - Normal Baby Blues vs Red Flags: When to Seek Help 9:51 - Intrusive Thoughts & Breaking the Stigma 17:26 - Medication Safety in Pregnancy: What You Need to Know 24:43 - Should You Stop Your Meds When Pregnant? 30:03 - Hormones & Mental Health: The Postpartum Crash 43:56 - Breastfeeding While on Psychiatric Medications 51:26 - How Long Should You Stay on Medication? 60:50 - Fighting the "Bounce Back" Culture & Social Media's Impact   Guest Bio: Kristin Yeung Lasseter, MD is a Board-Certified Psychiatrist in Texas who specializes in Reproductive Psychiatry and Women's Mental Health.  She graduated cum laude from Southwestern University with a Bachelors of Science in Biology prior to attending medical school at the Long School of Medicine at the University of Texas Health Science Center in San Antonio. Dr. Lasseter excelled in medical school and was awarded membership into the prestigious Alpha Omega Alpha Medical Honor Society. After receiving her Medical Degree, she completed Psychiatry residency at Dell Medical School at The University of Texas at Austin where she served as Chief Resident. She additionally spent time training in Reproductive Psychiatry at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston.  Dr. Lasseter founded Reproductive Psychiatry Clinic of Austin in 2018, which now hosts multiple psychiatrists and psychotherapists specialized in treating mental health disorders related to the reproductive lifespan. She dedicates much of her time educating the public and other providers about reproductive mental illness through speaking engagements, writing and social media.   Connect with Dr. Lasseter:   www.rpcaustin.com   www.kristinlassetermd.com   https://www.instagram.com/the.reproductive.psychiatrist SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Dr. Lasseter on IG: https://www.instagram.com/the.reproductive.psychiatrist   BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page RESOURCES MENTIONED: Maternal Mental Health Suicide Hotline: 1-833-TLC-MAMA Postpartum Support International: https://postpartum.net/   

Ep. 429: The Science Behind Intrusive Thoughts with Dr. Katayune Kaeni aka Dr. Kat In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with perinatal psychologist Dr. Kat to have the conversation we don't have enough: the real, nuanced truth about mental health in pregnancy and postpartum. They break down the full spectrum of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, including postpartum depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, panic attacks, bipolar disorder, and postpartum psychosis. They cover what's common, what's urgent, and what deserves immediate support. A major focus of this conversation is intrusive thoughts. Dr. Kat explains that intrusive thoughts are incredibly common, especially postpartum. They are typically unwanted, distressing, and they don't reflect your true desires. But when thoughts become frequent, graphic, intense, or begin to interfere with daily functioning (like avoiding holding your baby out of fear), that's when it's time to reach out for professional support. HeHe shares personal examples and normalizes how sleep deprivation, hormonal shifts, stress, and identity changes can amplify anxiety and intrusive thoughts, while emphasizing that struggling does not mean you are broken. They discuss: How to tell the difference between common intrusive thoughts and something more serious Why suicide is the second leading cause of death in the postpartum period When therapy and/or medication are appropriate and valid tools How to talk to your partner and loved ones about not feeling like yourself Why reassurance alone may not be enough for severe anxiety or OCD How to use resources like Postpartum Support International The importance of proactive conversations during pregnancy This episode is compassionate, evidence-based, and deeply validating. If you have ever thought, “Why is my brain doing this?” or felt afraid to say your thoughts out loud, this conversation will help you understand what's happening, and remind you that support is not weakness. It is care. You deserve to feel safe in your own mind. Guest Bio: Katayune Kaeni, Psy.D. PMH-C, aka, Dr. Kat is a perinatal mental health certified psychologist, author of The Pregnancy Workbook: Manage Anxiety and Worry with CBT and Mindfulness Techniques, and host of the Mom & Mind Podcast, the longest-running perinatal mental health podcast since 2016, covering perinatal mental health personal stories and expert interviews. She volunteers her time, serving on the board of Postpartum Support International (PSI) as a board member and as the immediate past chair. Dr. Kat began specializing in perinatal mental health after her own experience with postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD over 14 years ago. Dr. Kat continues to offer psychotherapy virtually to clients across California.   www.momandmind.com, IG and Tiktok @momandmind, FB @momandmindpodcast SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Dr. Kat on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momandmind/   BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: PSI descriptions of symptoms: https://paulspector.com/assessments/pauls-no-cost-assessments/physical-symptoms-inventory/

What are the most common reasons for a home birth transfer? Is every transfer an emergency? If you've found yourself wondering about this, you're exactly where you need to be. In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with birth doula, childbirth educator, business owner, former teacher, and MSW student Jen Walts to talk about something that doesn't get discussed enough: creating a thoughtful transfer plan to support a smooth, patient-centered, trauma-informed transition from a home or birth center setting to the hospital if the need arises. Because here's the truth: planning for transfer isn't planning for failure — it's planning for safety, flexibility, and peace of mind. HeHe and Jen walk through why transfer planning matters and encourage parents to ask their midwife about transfer timing and transfer rates (and why a rate of zero can actually be a red flag). They gently reframe transfer as a responsible, informed pivot when circumstances call for additional support. This conversation covers common reasons for transfer, like maternal health, baby's health, and access to additional tools such as pain management (including epidurals), assisted vaginal delivery options, and postpartum repair. They also explore how fear of the hospital can complicate transfer, the importance of understanding the “why” behind birth location choice, how a transfer can impact the nervous system, and the role of surrender and flexibility when a birth plan changes. Jen recommends developing a hospital backup birth preference sheet, including a shorter “top 10” list of non-negotiables to share with the receiving team, with examples such as immediate skin-to-skin, backup skin-to-skin plans if separation occurs, delayed cord clamping, newborn feeding preferences, and cesarean-specific requests.    Guest Bio: Jen has been a birth doula, childbirth educator and business owner for five years. She taught high school for ten years and is now pursuing her second Masters degree. She hopes to become a licensed social worker and therapist to children and families in Massachusetts.   Connect with Jen here: Thebirthpath.org https://www.pioneervalleydoulas.com/   Get $100 OFF Hypnobirthing with Jen Walts (virtual or in person) when you mention that heard about it here!  SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Jen on IG: https://www.instagram.com/_thebirthpath_/ BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe is joined by Tracy aka Modern Day Midwife (a hospital-based midwife in Arizona with a NICU background) for a candid, behind-the-scenes conversation about the realities of modern healthcare. Together, they unpack how the U.S. healthcare system is failing both patients and providers, from provider burnout and lack of mental health support to the pressures of hospital politics, insurance reimbursement, and productivity quotas. They explore the difference between  “Medicine 1.0” (acute care) and “Medicine 2.0” (preventative care, functional medicine, wellness), and how insurance-driven, fee-for-service models often prioritize sick care over true health. The result? Confusing medical bills, rushed care, poor patient experiences, and providers who are stretched thin despite doing deeply meaningful work. HeHe and Tracy dive into the unique challenges facing women's health, maternity care, and birth: over-medicalization, the cascade of interventions, the limits of 10-minute OB-GYN appointments, maternity care deserts, and the need for individualized care, informed consent, and continuity of care. From ACOG guidelines to ever changing evidence and research, they explore possible solutions including a midwifery-led model of care, better transfer systems for home birth and birth center patients, coverage for doulas and health coaching, and shifting consumer demand away from traditional insurance and towards alternatives like health shares.  Tracy shares her exciting vision for an integrated wellness hub that could include midwifery, obstetrics, pelvic floor PT, lactation, chiropractic care, and community-based health supports, and ends by sharing how to connect with her at Premier OB GYN in Phoenix and via Modern Day Midwife online and on Instagram.   00:00 Why Healthcare Breaks Providers 02:24 Burnout and Speaking Up 04:59 Fear and Privilege in Advocacy 07:18 Who Supports Clinicians 12:32 Medicine 1.0 vs Prevention 17:25 Billing Confusion and Fee for Service 19:06 Burn It Down or Reform It 23:55 Disrupting Insurance and Incentives 26:49 Birth Care Needs a New Model 29:36 Preeclampsia Prevention Debate 30:47 Rethinking Maternity Care Roles 32:04 Money in Wellness Care 34:55 Building a One Stop Birth Hub 37:43 Continuity Across Birth Settings 41:45 Evidence Based Medicine Reality Check 47:56 ACOG Guidelines vs Individual Choice 53:23 Demanding Individualized Care 55:11 Rebuilding Healthcare and Provider Support 56:59 Where to Find Tracy 58:15 Closing Thanks and Resources   Guest Bio: Meet Tracy Burns, Board Certified Nurse Midwife. Tracy graduated from the University of Cincinnati in 2003 with her bachelor's degree in nursing. After graduation, Tracy spent a year in labor and delivery as a bedside RN and then took a job in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at Cincinnati Children's Hospital. Tracy spent the first 13 years of her career taking care of premature infants and mothers before pursuing her advanced practice career in Women's Health.   Tracy graduated from the University of Cincinnati in 2017 with her Master's degree in Midwifery. With a big heart for women, Tracy is an advocate for midwifery care for women and the continuity of care model. Tracy has been an active team player in bringing midwifery services to Banner Estrella and Abrazo West. Tracy is passionate about health and wellness. She believes in using a functional/integrative approach to health promotion/disease prevention through an early introduction to nutrition, exercise, mindfulness, sleep, and community. Tracy is committed to caring for women by collaborating with other like-minded providers who are as committed to changing the way we care for women in America.   Tracy is married and has two teenage daughters. She enjoys Crossfit, hiking, and spending time with family and friends. She is a co-owner of Crossfit Fury, CrossFit Trainer, and BirthFit professional. Tracy and her husband are actively involved in changing maternal and neonatal outcomes globally through Helping Babies and Mothers Survive Campaign.   Connect with Tracy here: Www.moderndaymidwife.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Tracy on IG: https://www.instagram.com/moderndaymidwife/   BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe welcomes Kara, a Mother-Baby Nurse and mom of three, to walk through what actually happens after you leave labor and delivery and transition to postpartum care. From fundal checks and C-section vitals to newborn screenings, pain management, lactation support, and discharge, this episode gives you clarity without overwhelm. This episode is detailed, practical, and empowering. Postpartum in the hospital doesn't have to feel chaotic when you understand what's routine, what's optional, and where your voice matters most. 00:00 Speak Up in the Hospital: You Can Say No (Advocacy Mindset) 01:05 Listener Story: Holding Firm Against 39-Week Induction Pressure 03:56 How to Use the Birth Lounge App to Back Up Your Choices 06:10 Maternity Leave Update + Why This Episode Is a Re-Air 07:50 Postpartum in the Hospital: What We'll Cover (Tests, Checks, Taboo Topics) 09:08 Meet Kara the Baby Nurse: Mother-Baby RN + Mom of Three 10:40 The Postpartum Unit Reality Check: It's More Than ‘Rest and Discharge' 12:10 Transition from L&D to Postpartum: Bedside Report + LDRP vs Separate Units 15:25 First 4 Hours Post-Birth: Fundal Checks, Vitals, Safety Paperwork, Goals 18:27 Getting Up After Birth: Movement, Gas Pain, and C-Section Recovery 20:47 If You Decline Fundal Checks: Bleeding & Clot Warning Signs to Watch 23:19 Postpartum Pain Management: Meds, Non-Pharm Options, and Speaking Up 27:35 Who's Coming in Your Room: Rounds, Labs, Screens, and the DND Sign 35:09 Baby's Pediatrician Exam: Nursery vs In-Room, No-Separation Rights 39:40 Newborn Head-to-Toe Exam & Routine Postpartum Checks 40:26 Newborn Screening Labs: PKU Heel Prick, Bilirubin, Car Seat & Hearing 42:46 Sponsor Break: Lalo Registry Must-Haves (Travel High Chair + Play Kit) 45:55 Bilirubin & Jaundice: What the Numbers Mean + Phototherapy Options 48:05 Newborn Hearing Screen: How It Works & What a “Fail” Usually Means 50:28 Newborn Meds/Vaccines in Postpartum: Vit K, Erythromycin, Hep B Timing 51:45 Breastfeeding Support in the Hospital: Nurse Training, Latch Help & Pumps 55:43 Baby Weight Loss & When to Supplement (Pumping, Donor Milk, Formula) 58:24 Circumcision 101: Procedure, Pain Control, Aftercare & Red Flags 01:03:40 Advocating for Yourself: Communication, Boundaries & Requesting a New Nurse 01:07:08 The Postpartum Poop: Why Staff Ask, What Helps, When to Call Your Doctor 01:11:26 Wrap-Up: Kara's Book & Sleep Course + Where to Follow Guest Bio: Kara is a mother-baby, hospital based nurse with 3 kids of her own. Her passion is educating and empowering people through her social media pages. She shares nurse tips and mom tricks, author of the book Why Didn't I Learn all this Parent Stuff Sooner?, and creator of a tried and true baby sleep course. You can find her @karathrbabynurse on YouTube, TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram!   Connect with Kara here: https://karathebabynurse.com/link-in-bio/   Check out Kara's sleep course here: https://kara-s-site-b397.thinkific.com/courses/karathebabynurse   Snag her book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BBSH4Q9Z/ref=sr_1_6?crid=2GWZSFDOW1WFP&keywords=kara+thompson&qid=1661365188&sprefix=kara+thompson%2Caps%2C83&sr=8-6   SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/  Connect with Kara on IG: https://www.instagram.com/karathebabynurse/ BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page LINKS MENTIONED: Lalo Beautiful, minimalist baby gear that actually works for real life. From their travel-friendly Hook-On High Chair to their durable, design-forward Play Kit, Lalo creates pieces that grow with your family and look good doing it. Head to https://www.meetlalo.com/ and use code HEHE to save.  

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you've been dreaming of. In this episode of the The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe shares her full home birth story and early postpartum reflections after welcoming her baby boy earthside. She breaks down her intentional choice to build a home birth team to protect autonomy and avoid unnecessary interventions, walks through a long, physiologic labor, and shares how informed consent, continuous support, and advocacy shaped a trauma-free birth experience. From 'late' labor, slow progress, and powerful pushing to staying grounded through conversations about hospital transfer, this episode is a real look at what empowered, supported birth can actually look like. HeHe also shares early postpartum life, including her thoughts on lying-in, breastfeeding, babywearing, and motherhood updates on Instagram @TranquilityByHeHe. 00:00 Why This Birth Couldn't Happen in a Typical U.S. Hospital 01:09 “I Have a Baby!” Postpartum Awe + Becoming a Mom 04:18 Why I Share Online: Birth Rights, Options & Normalizing Motherhood 07:16 Privacy Boundaries: Protecting Baby's Details in the AI Era 09:31 12 Days Past Due: Date Night Sushi & The First Contractions 12:44 Water Breaks at 6:30 AM: Confirming, Mucus Plug & Waking Dad 15:53 All-Day Early Labor: Staying Home, No Pressure, Infection Precautions 19:51 Night 2 Ramps Up: Birth Space Setup, Dinner, Slow Dance & Shower 27:03 3 AM Toilet Time: Transition Signs, Filling the Tub & Calling the Team 33:59 Sponsor Break: Cozy Earth Postpartum Comfort Essentials 36:04 In the Birth Pool: Team Arrives, Complete Dilation & Passive Pushing Begins 38:27 Ferguson vs. Fetal Ejection Reflex: When FER Never Shows Up 40:10 Benadryl Rest Strategy: Trying to Reset a Stalled Pushing Pattern 41:47 Calling in the Chiropractor: Adjustments for Positioning & Persistent Rectal Pain 42:52 All the Positions, No Progress: Movement Marathon to Bring Contractions Closer 43:21 Midwives Say ‘You Have to Push': Letting Go of Waiting for FER 45:51 Shower + Birth Ball & ‘Hulk Out' Mode: Feeling Hair and Finding Fuel 48:43 Perfect Vitals, Growing Concern: The Transfer Conversation Looms 50:37 Clearing the Bathroom: Talking to Baby, Asking for a Sign 54:06 Husband Advocates to Stay Home: Autonomy, Risk Talk, and Trust 57:16 Crowning for 90 Minutes: The Final Push to Birth 59:29 After Birth Care: APGARs, Pitocin Decision, and Stitches 01:01:07 The Afterglow: Doulas, Dad's Support, and First Night at Home 01:04:01 What Made It Possible: Prep, Team Support, and Mindset Lessons 01:08:04 Big Takeaways: Autonomy, No Birth Trauma, and Final Thanks   SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience — all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin LINKS MENTIONED: Check out the First Trimester Update HeHe mentioned here: https://youtu.be/DgcQGnHJ-Aw?si=6sgC5o4iOtuT94WE   Save 10$ on Tubina Wild with code HEHE: https://www.tubinawild.com/shop   Check out the birth sling here: https://thebirthsling.com/ 

In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe dives into the big, messy, beautiful reality of life after baby. She introduces Dad Daze, a course created to give dads-to-be the tools, knowledge, and confidence to show up fully—from labor and delivery to postpartum support—so they can be active partners in parenthood. HeHe is joined by Kalista Anderson, founder of the New Mom Boss podcast, RN, lactation counselor, and new mom coach. Together, they unpack how relationships shift after a baby, why it's so important to notice and prepare for those changes, and how love languages impact connection in the postpartum period. They share practical strategies for communicating, leaning on your support system, and reigniting intimacy, so partners feel supported, connected, and empowered in this wild transitional time. This conversation is full of real talk, actionable tips, and gentle guidance for navigating your relationship during the rollercoaster of postpartum life. 00:00 Introduction to New Parenthood Challenges 00:59 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:41 Introducing Dad Days Course 02:24 Course Details and Benefits 04:48 Re-airing Popular Episodes During Maternity Leave 06:46 Interview with Kallista Anderson 08:44 Postpartum Relationship Changes 14:43 Importance of Communication and Affection 17:35 Date Nights and Love Languages 22:29 Understanding Fertility Tracking 22:48 Personal Fertility Tracking Methods 24:02 Navigating Postpartum Touch and Intimacy 28:18 Reengaging in Sex After Baby 29:32 Supporting Each Other Postpartum 33:19 Building Your Postpartum Village 35:15 Adapting Postpartum Plans 38:13 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Kallista is married and is a mom of 3.  She is a registered nurse and finished the lactation counselor training course through The Center for Breastfeeding.  Kallista helps new moms in their journey into motherhood. From pregnancy to welcoming baby in arms and beyond, she offers education, support, as well as her own experience.  In this episode we are diving into your relationship with your partner postpartum!  See the originally published episode here: Ep. 173: Your Relationship with Your Partner Post Baby with Kallista Andersen SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Kalista on Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kallista-andersen-7762651b2/ to see what she's up to now    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/  Psst. Dad Daze is included in the lifetime membership!  Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin

In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with couples therapist and relationship coach Jonathan Van Viegen to unpack something that shows up in almost every partnership at some point: emotional dysregulation. Together, they break down what dysregulation actually means, not as a label or a flaw, but as what happens when emotions come out sideways instead of being expressed in healthy, connecting ways. Jonathan shares insights from his upcoming book, including what he's learned from working with couples in high-stress, high-conflict seasons, while also reminding listeners that regulation, repair, and connection deserve just as much attention as the hard moments. The conversation explores how expectations, self-awareness, and reflection shape the way we show up for our partners, especially during seasons like financial stress, career pressure, pregnancy, and parenting. They talk openly about communication breakdowns, rebuilding physical intimacy, and why support and curiosity matter more than “getting it right.” You'll also hear Jonathan's practical, no-fluff tools for improving communication, reconnecting emotionally and physically, and navigating hard conversations without spiraling into blame or shutdown. Yes, they even go there on the topic of scheduled sex and why it can actually support intimacy instead of killing it. This episode is a reminder that strong relationships aren't built by avoiding conflict, they're built by learning how to come back to each other with honesty, regulation, and care.   Guest Bio: Jonathan Van Viegen is a couples therapist, relationship coach, and author of an upcoming book to be found in stores in 2026. With over 10,000 hours helping couples rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional connection, he's known for his no-fluff, solution-focused approach that actually gets results. His work has transformed thousands of relationships, and he's on a mission to save a million marriages. SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Jonathan on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.   LINKS MENTIONED: https://stan.store/relationshipswithjonathan

In this episode, HeHe shares a quick life update before re-airing one of our most-loved conversations while she's on maternity leave and it's one that still matters a lot. This episode pulls back the curtain on hospital-sponsored childbirth education and why so many expectant parents leave those classes feeling more confused, constrained, or quietly uneasy instead of truly prepared. We talk about how bias shows up, why informed consent is often glossed over, and what gets left out when education is tied to the same system providing your care. This is an honest, empowering conversation about why independent, evidence-based, out-of-hospital childbirth education can change how you experience pregnancy, birth, and advocacy. It's about understanding your options, protecting your autonomy, and reducing the risk of trauma by being informed before decisions feel urgent. If you've ever wondered why traditional birth classes didn't quite sit right, or you want education that trusts your intelligence and centers your voice, this episode is for you. New episodes drop every Wednesday and Friday. Follow along and join The Birth Lounge community for grounded, non-judgmental birth education and support that actually prepares you for the real thing.

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you've been dreaming of.   In this episode of The Birth Lounge podcast, HeHe shares her personal journey through the final weeks of her pregnancy. As she eagerly anticipates the arrival of her baby, she details her physical and emotional experiences, including her decisions on newborn resuscitation training, gestational diabetes testing, and preparation for labor. HeHe discusses the benefits of pelvic floor physical therapy, counting kicks for fetal monitoring, and the importance of having a supportive birth team. Follow along as she provides insights into staying active, managing pregnancy symptoms, and preparing for the big day.   00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome 01:05 Pregnancy Reflections and Preparations 05:27 Third Trimester Experiences 09:35 Gestational Diabetes Testing 11:38 Baby Gear and Nursery Planning 28:22 Unexpected Pregnancy Symptoms 33:45 Final Preparations and Reflections 41:11 Conclusion and Farewell SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience — all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy The Secret Sauce to Pushing course gives you step-by-step guidance on how to push effectively — whether you have an epidural or not — so you can reduce tearing, labor faster, and feel in control from start to finish. HeHe teaches which muscles to engage, how to position your body, and the techniques that actually work, giving you the confidence and tools to achieve your best birth possible. Learn more: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/SSP LINKS MENTIONED: Check out our episode on pushing her: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZrzPyJLu50   Check out our episode on Gestational Diabetes here: https://youtu.be/rgRyNfOOgKU?si=DjdOM21A_yqhw0lr    Listen to our episode about counting kicks here: https://youtu.be/0nBT2FxZJfA?si=prnyGCdjwzXUZXfc   Listen to our episode about choosing a stroller with Hip Baby Gear: https://youtu.be/ljVnpZwhKlk?si=eTiU16-XHlzVnvMy Check out Dr. Berlin's Growing with HeHe: https://www.informedpregnancy.tv/growing-with-hehe Check out the electrolytes HeHe likes here (use code HEHE for a discount!): https://justingredients.us/products/electrolytes-blue-hawaiian?selling_plan=3422945473

Preeclampsia is one of those pregnancy conditions that gets mentioned often, explained poorly, and frequently dismissed until it suddenly isn't. In this episode, HeHe sits down with Dr. Dallas Reed to pull back the curtain on what preeclampsia actually is, how it shows up, and what expectant parents deserve to understand long before things feel urgent. Together, they break down the basics in a way that's clear and human, including how common preeclampsia really is, what symptoms to take seriously, and how to make sense of blood pressure readings and pregnancy-related hypertension diagnoses. Dr. Reed explains the differences between severe and non-severe preeclampsia, what monitoring can look like before and after 37 weeks, and why postpartum preeclampsia deserves more attention than it often gets. The conversation also explores prevention and management, including lifestyle considerations, aspirin use, and how care plans may differ depending on risk level, gestational age, and whether someone is being monitored inpatient or outpatient. A major focus of the episode is the future of personalized maternal care, including a deep dive into the Encompass test. This new RNA-based blood test, available between 18 and 22 weeks, helps identify pregnancies at higher risk for preeclampsia and pairs that insight with an evidence-based action plan and virtual support. Dr. Reed shares how this type of testing may change the way providers and families approach monitoring, communication, and early intervention, including potential benefits for out-of-hospital birth settings. This episode is grounded, evidence-based, and empowering, offering expectant parents tools, language, and understanding so they can participate confidently in their care rather than feeling blindsided by it.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction to Preeclampsia 00:56 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:39 Features of The Birth Lounge App 03:00 Pregnancy and Postpartum Articles 04:54 Introduction to Today's Episode 07:47 Discussion with Dr. Dallas Reed 08:35 Understanding Preeclampsia 10:46 Symptoms and Diagnosis 18:56 Managing Blood Pressure During Pregnancy 22:37 Risk Factors and Prevention 31:59 Strategies to Prevent Preeclampsia 32:29 Healthy Lifestyle Recommendations 33:37 Monitoring and Follow-Up 35:05 Risks and Complications of Preeclampsia 37:05 Postpartum Preeclampsia 39:20 Managing Preeclampsia Before 37 Weeks 41:20 Inpatient Care and Medications 46:22 Understanding the Encompass Test 53:06 Benefits of the Encompass Test for Home Births 58:19 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Dr. Dallas Reed, practicing OBGYN, medical geneticist and advisor to Mirvie, a company delivering data-driven solutions for predictive and preventive care in pregnancy. Mirvie recently launched Encompass, which is the first RNA-based blood test to predict preeclampsia risk, combined with an evidence-based preventive action plan and virtual assistant to guide individualized support and care.    SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Mirvie on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.  

Some birth stories don't go the way anyone expects, and Hannah's is one that every expectant parent deserves to hear. In this episode of The Birth Lounge, Hannah joins us to share her experience of developing preeclampsia and giving birth at 28 weeks, despite having what looked like a completely normal pregnancy. She walks us through the early signs that were easy to miss, the moment everything shifted, and what it was like to suddenly find herself navigating a NICU stay she never saw coming. Together, we talk about why preeclampsia can feel so shocking, how often it's missed or caught late, and why first trimester placental screening has the potential to change outcomes. Hannah shares what she wishes she had known sooner, what helped her advocate within the medical system, and how early detection could have altered her experience. This conversation also offers practical, heartfelt support for NICU parents and the people who love them. Hannah shares what actually helped during her NICU journey, how relationships can shift under that kind of stress, and what meaningful support really looks like when a baby arrives early. We also explore emerging tools like the Encompass test, the role of baby aspirin, and how global practices around placental screening differ from what's commonly offered in the U.S. This episode isn't about fear, it's about awareness, advocacy, and the belief that parents deserve better information earlier. If you're pregnant, planning a pregnancy, or supporting someone through a high-risk experience, this episode will leave you feeling more informed, more empowered, and less alone. Guest Bio: Hannah is a NICU mom turned maternal health advocate. After developing severe preeclampsia at 28 weeks, she delivered her daughter three months early to save both of their lives. Now, Hannah shares what she wishes she had known so other parents don't have to be blindsided by a diagnosis they were never truly prepared for. SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Hannah on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.   LINKS/RESOURCES: If the NICU has touched your story, our NICU Support & Survival playlist on YouTube is there to hold space with honest conversations and supportive guidance.   These are the NICU outfits from Luxie Charm Hannah mentioned!    Learn more about why first trimester preeclampsia screening matters. This short video from Labcorp breaks down the importance of early, blood-based screening across pregnancy and how earlier insight can change outcomes for families: https://womenshealth.labcorp.com/preeclampsia-risk-assessment-across-all-trimesters-using-blood-based-biochemical-markers Support making early screening the standard of care: Hannah has started a petition advocating for first trimester preeclampsia risk screening to be included in routine prenatal care in the U.S., helping protect parents before they're ever blindsided: https://www.change.org/p/make-first-trimester-risk-screening-part-of-standard-prenatal-care-in-the-u-s  

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you've been dreaming of. Join HeHe in this re-aired episode as she dives into a super important topic: preeclampsia. She sits down with High-Risk OB/GYN and Maternal-Fetal Medicine specialist, Dr. Lexi Hill, to break down what preeclampsia really is, how it can show up after 20 weeks, and the signs to watch for—high blood pressure, persistent headaches, swelling, or proteins in your urine. Dr. Lexi shares practical guidance on monitoring yourself, key risk factors, questions to ask your provider, and the medical options you might be offered if preeclampsia arises—giving you clarity, confidence, and tools to advocate for your health and your baby's. Guest Bio: Dr. Lexi Hill obtained her BS in Nutritional Sciences with a minor in Spanish from Texas A&M University. After taking a year to volunteer abroad in Costa Rica, substitute teach, and work as a Medical Assistant, she attended medical school at Texas A&M followed by an OB/GYN residency in Phoenix, Arizona. The native Texan returned to Galveston, Texas to complete a fellowship in Maternal-Fetal Medicine at the University of Texas Medical Branch where she received multiple teaching awards for her involvement with medical students and residents. Dr. Lexi Hill is licensed in over 20 states and practices telemedicine full-time to underserved communities. She is extensively involved with the Society for Maternal-Fetal Medicine to help advocate for maternal health care at both the state and national level. She has traveled extensively and enjoys incorporating her study of the Spanish language into her daily clinical practice. Her commitment to teaching self-advocacy skills to patients, as well as physicians, led her to start her own business based on the three pillars of EXPANDING knowledge, DEVELOPING skills, IMPACTING lives (E.D.I). With this concept, Dr. Lexi Hill shares data driven pregnancy information through social media, YouTube videos, and her podcast. She also offers virtual concierge consultations which require no referral or delays due to insurance. She truly has a passion to help individuals experience a happy and healthy pregnancy. Links:  Connect with Dr. Lexi: https://www.drlexihill.com/   Resources from Dr. Lexi: www.drlexihill.com/aspirin   www.drlexihill.com/fetaltesting   https://www.drlexihill.com/advocate Link to purchase a module or book a consultation with Dr. Lexi https://www.drlexihill.com/pregnancy-advocacy   Connect with HeHe on IG: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/   Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education and more resources like this that prepare you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Check out the original episode here.   

Feeling exhausted, foggy, short of breath, or just not like yourself during pregnancy and being told “that's normal”? This episode is for you. In Episode 417 of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with OB/GYN PA and public health expert Kristy Goodman to talk about anemia in pregnancy and why it's so often overlooked, minimized, or brushed off until it becomes a much bigger issue. Together, they break down what anemia actually is, how and when it should be screened for, and why catching it early can completely change how you feel during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. They explore how untreated anemia can impact energy levels, labor stamina, recovery, and overall well-being, and more importantly, what becomes possible when it's properly identified and treated with intention. Think more clarity, more strength, better healing, and the confidence to advocate for yourself instead of second-guessing your symptoms. Kristy brings an evidence-based, patient-centered lens to this conversation, helping listeners understand what labs matter, what questions to ask their provider, and how to push back when concerns are dismissed as “just part of pregnancy.” This episode is grounding, empowering, and deeply validating. If you've ever felt brushed off, unsure whether what you're feeling is normal, or just want to feel stronger and more supported in your body, this conversation will give you real tools and real answers.

This episode is brought to you by our Newborn Sleep Solutions Guide, because newborn sleep doesn't need fixing, it needs understanding. Newborn sleep can feel like one of those things everyone has opinions on… and somehow none of them actually help at 3am. In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe breaks down what newborn sleep really looks like and why daytime sleep matters way more than most parents are ever told. This conversation focuses on biology, not bootcamp sleep rules. HeHe explains how supporting daytime rest sets the stage for better nights, what wake windows actually mean for a brand-new baby, and how simple tools like swaddling, white noise, and a full belly can make a big difference. No rigid schedules. No “cry it out.” Just realistic, nervous-system-friendly support for brand-new humans and the parents learning alongside them. You'll also hear HeHe's go-to tips for creating a sleep environment that works with your baby's circadian rhythm (hello, darkness and sound), plus gear recommendations that are actually useful, not just trendy. She wraps it all up with resources like the Newborn Sleep Solutions Guide for parents who want clarity without overwhelm. If you're wondering whether your baby's sleep is normal, or you just want a calmer, more intuitive way to approach those early weeks, this episode is your exhale. Timestamps 00:00 Newborn sleep expectations (and why you're not doing it wrong) 01:11 Personal update + what this episode is really about 02:51 What newborns biologically need for sleep 06:39 Daytime sleep, wake windows, and overstimulation 09:28 Swaddling, sensory input, and calming the nervous system 18:12 Feeding tips that support better rest 20:36 White noise and why silence isn't always your friend 22:55 Light, darkness, and circadian rhythm support 24:47 Final reassurance + helpful resources Connect with HeHe on Instagram    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.   LINKS MENTIONED: Grab your copy of the Newborn Sleep Solution here! 

If pregnancy sleep has you staring at the ceiling at 3 a.m., running through every thought you've ever had… you're not alone. And you're not doing anything wrong. In this episode, HeHe sits down with licensed midwife, educator, and Milk Trails podcast host Hayley Oakes to unpack why sleep can feel so hard during pregnancy and what actually helps. From first-trimester hormone shifts to third-trimester heartburn, nighttime anxiety, and the pressure to “sleep perfectly,” this conversation is equal parts evidence-based and deeply reassuring. Hayley brings over a decade of experience attending births in home, birth center, and hospital settings, plus her lived experience as a mom. Together, they break down how nutrition, blood sugar balance, movement, mental load, and sleep environment all play a role in night waking. They also tackle common fears around sleep positions (yes, including back sleeping), strategies for middle-of-the-night wakeups, and why self-care and nervous system support matter just as much as sleep hacks. This is not a “just relax” conversation. It's practical, grounded, and designed to help you feel more confident in your body and your choices. If you're pregnant, postpartum, or supporting someone who is, this episode will leave you feeling calmer, more informed, and way less alone in the sleep struggle.   Guest Bio: Hayley Oakes is a licensed midwife based in the Central Coast of California. She has been attending births since 2010 as a doula, midwife assistant, apprentice and midwife, witnessing and supporting birth in all settings: home, birth center and hospital. Hayley is the host and creator of Milk Trails -- a podcast dedicated to the out-of-hospital birthing experience. In February 2019, Hayley became a mother herself and welcomed her second child in January 2022. She currently offers private consultations for expectant mothers planning hospital births who desire holistic medical support. As a midwife, educator and mother, she is committed to supporting women in having a safe and satisfying pregnancy, birth and postpartum experience to help grow healthy, happy babies.   Connect with Hayley: www.hayleyoakes.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Hayley on IG  BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor. LINKS MENTIONED: Expectful App Grab HeHe's favorite magnesium supplement 

This is one of those conversations that pulls the curtain all the way back. In this powerful episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with traditional birth companion and educator Billie Harrigan for an honest, unfiltered look at the modern medicalized birth system and how it impacts families. Together, they explore how maternity care has shifted away from physiology and toward control, efficiency, and liability, often at the expense of autonomy, trust, and emotional safety. Billie brings decades of lived experience and deep systems-level insight to this conversation, naming the ways many parents feel silenced, rushed, or traumatized within institutional birth settings. They talk openly about birth trauma, why so many families are opting out of the system altogether, and what it actually looks like to center consent, choice, and community support in birth. This episode is not about telling you what kind of birth to have. It's about understanding the system you're navigating so you can make informed, intentional decisions that align with your values. From the rise of free birth and traditional birth companionship to trauma-informed care and restoring birth wisdom to families, this conversation invites you to question what you've been told and reconnect with your own inner authority. If you've ever felt unsettled by how birth is handled, curious about alternatives, or hungry for a deeper understanding of how we got here, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Guest Bio: Billie Harrigan is a Traditional Birth Companion and owner of Birth Trauma Ontario in Canada who has been serving families for over 40 years. With extensive international experience, Billie understands the complexities of modern maternity services and the pervasive issues that contribute to birth-related trauma and negative outcomes. Today's conversation will challenge your assumptions of the medical system and push you to expand the perspectives in which you see the delivery of healthcare in the US & Canada by discussing common tactics used by cults and the resemblance of hospital care. We dive into the impact of non-trauma-informed care on patients' short-term and long-term well-being. Buckle up because this episode is like nothing else you've ever experienced! SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Billie on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.   LINKS MENTIONED: Billie's Traditional Birth Companion Program: https://billieharrigan.com/becoming-a-traditional-birth-companion  Is hospital care actually evidence based? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3241518/ The System Isn't Broken: https://billieharrigan.com/blog/2019/11/6/the-system-isnt-broken-but-its-people-are Here is the link to the original episode: https://podcast.thebirthlounge.com/e/ep-218-hospital-culture-or-cult-behavior-with-billie-harrigan/

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, one of HeHe's favorite things to have on hand for a comfy pregnancy and postpartum period! They're also a great way to detox your home! Use code HEHE for 20% off the softest PJ's, loungewear, or even new sheets to make your pregnancy and postpartum feel a little more luxurious: https://cozyearth.com/ In this episode, HeHe sits down with pelvic floor expert Nikki to talk about the part of birth that somehow never gets explained until someone is telling you to “push.” Yep. That part. They break down how the pelvic floor actually works in labor, what truly helps reduce tearing, and how to push in a way that works with your body instead of against it. No fear tactics. No vague advice. Just clear, physiology-first education you should've been given way earlier. Nikki shares practical, evidence-based strategies you can actually use, from breathing and positioning to perineal prep and postpartum rehab. They also get into advocacy, provider skill, and why your autonomy in birth matters just as much as any technique or tool. This conversation is empowering, grounded, and full of “ohhhh, that makes sense” moments, whether you're pregnant, postpartum, or supporting birthing families in any capacity. If you want to understand your pelvic floor, protect your perineum, and walk into birth feeling informed and confident instead of guessing and hoping for the best, this episode is for you. Guest Bio: Nikki Bergen is a globally recognized Pilates expert, women's pelvic health advocate, and founder of The Belle Method. With over 20 years of experience, she's helped thousands worldwide build strength, restore function, and thrive through every life stage - through pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause and beyond.   Learn from Nikki The Core Restore Course: https://thebellemethod.com/core-restore/  The Push Prep Course: https://thebellemethod.com/push-prep/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Nikki on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor. Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection

In this powerful episode of The Birth Lounge podcast, HeHe sits down with Rajia, the founder of InvisaWear, to talk about a reality far too many women know all too well: moving through the world while constantly calculating risk. Rajia shares the terrifying experience she had in college that sparked the creation of InvisaWear and why “just be more careful” is not, and has never been, an actual solution. Together, they unpack the deeply unsettling statistics around violence against women, where current safety systems fail us, and what real, practical protection can look like. You'll learn how InvisaWear discreetly weaves safety technology into everyday accessories like necklaces, bracelets, and even scrunchies, allowing you to alert trusted contacts or emergency services with the press of a button, without escalating a situation or drawing attention. The conversation also dives into self-defense strategies, rideshare safety, hiking alone, and the emotional toll of living on high alert. They also explore the bigger picture: why legislative change, community accountability, and shifting the responsibility off women's behavior and onto systems that actually protect us matters more than ever. This episode is equal parts validating, infuriating, and empowering. If you've ever gripped your keys a little tighter, shared your location “just in case,” or wished you had an extra layer of protection, this conversation is for you. Guest Bio: Rajia Abdelaziz started one of the fastest-growing companies in America when she was just 21 years old. Today, she is an award-winning entrepreneur revolutionizing the personal safety industry. Rajia is the Founder & CEO of invisaWear, a company that creates safety devices disguised as jewelry and accessories. With just two clicks, users can instantly alert friends, family, and-optionally-police. Her work has earned national acclaim. She's been featured on the cover of Forbes 30 Under 30 in the Social Impact category, named one of the most successful entrepreneurs in Massachusetts by the Boston Globe, and recognized on both the Inc. Female Founders 250 list and Inc Fastest Growing Companies list. Rajia raised $3 million to develop invisaWear's technology, scaled the company to over $20 million in sales, and secured powerhouse partnerships with ADT and TELUS Communications, two of the most respected names in the security industry. With over 3 million social media followers, Rajia isn't just building a company — she's building a global movement to make safety accessible to all. In 2023, she launched Smart Alert Holdings, a company focused on acquiring businesses that share the same mission of creating a safer world. Their first acquisition was Flare Safety, invisaWear's only competitor. Her companies have been featured on Good Morning America, ABC News, CBS, WBZ, TODAY, and more. They've also earned prestigious accolades, including TIME Magazine's Best Inventions, Fast Company's Innovation by Design Award, and the New England Innovation Award. As a minority female CEO, Rajia is passionate about breaking barriers for women and underrepresented groups in tech. Her journey of overcoming obstacles fuels her mission to inspire the next generation of entrepreneurs — proving that no matter your background or the doubts you face, success is possible. Rajia remains deeply committed to mentorship through UMass Lowell's Entrepreneurship Program, helping others turn bold ideas into reality. SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Rajia and InvisaWear on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.   LINKS MENTIONED: Get 10% off InvisaWear with code HEHE If you're over peeing on sticks, overthinking charts, or trying to take your temp at the same time every morning, Tempdrop does the work for you while you sleep. Grab a discount with code AFHEHE at tempdrop.com/discount/AFHEHE.  

In this episode, HeHe is joined by Dr. O'Daniel to break down the real tools and procedures used in labor and delivery, the ones no one explains until they're suddenly happening to your body. Together, they unpack what tests like the ROM actually tell us about water breaking, when internal monitors like an IUPC are used, and what patients deserve to know before anything is placed inside their body. They also dive into operative vaginal deliveries, including vacuums and forceps, how clinical decision-making works in those moments, and why true informed consent matters so much when things move quickly. Dr. O'Daniel explains newer innovations like the Traxi for safer C-sections in larger bodies and the Life Bubble, a game-changing tool for supporting NICU babies. This conversation is evidence-based, honest, and incredibly empowering, especially if you want to walk into birth understanding the tools, not fearing them. Knowledge is advocacy, and this episode gives you plenty of both.   Guest Bio: Dr. Tori O'Daniel is a Board-Certified OB/GYN whom has been practicing for 14 years. For the past 11 years she has been an OB/GYN Hospitalist at Mercy Medical Center in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. Dr. O'Daniel is the Medical Director of the OB/GYN Hospitalist program and the Department Chair of the OB/GYN Department in her facility. She also instructs educational classes and facilitates the OB Emergency Simulations for the nurses and physicians within her department.   She has been actively involved in the Society of OB/GYN Hospitalists (SOGH) for the past several years. She currently sits on the SOGH Board of Directors.   Dr. O'Daniel is passionate about education, and she actively teaches in multiple venues. She is a master trainer for Kiwi vacuum assisted deliveries; she travels across the globe to train residents and attending physicians in the 5-Step Vacca Method.   laborie.com   Check out the tools Dr. O'Daniel shared about here: https://www.laborie.com/products/obstetrics-gynecology/   SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Laborie on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.

In this episode, HeHe sits down with Fahti, the powerhouse creator behind the Nella Speculum, to talk about something long overdue in women's healthcare… a speculum that doesn't feel like a medieval torture device. Yes, finally. Fahti shares the story behind redesigning one of the most dreaded tools in gynecology and turning it into something that's temperature-neutral, gentler, and actually built with patient comfort in mind. They dive into the real issues facing people during pelvic exams, how advocacy is reshaping the landscape, and why we should all expect better tools and better treatment. You'll hear about the design process, clinical feedback from both patients and providers, and how the Nella Comfort Kit is giving folks the option to bring their own speculum into appointments. They also unpack the recent TikTok controversy that highlighted major trust issues in women's health care — and how innovations like the Nella can help rebuild that trust. If you've ever braced yourself during an exam or wished the system cared more about your comfort, this conversation is going to feel refreshing, validating, and deeply empowering. Tune in to learn how the Nella Speculum is changing the future of gynecological care, one thoughtful design choice at a time. Guest Bio: Fahti is the Founder of Ceek Women's Health - the first company to develop and launch a modern comfortable speculum for women. Learn more about the Nell and Ceek Women's Health here: https://www.nellaspec.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Check out Nella Speculum on Instagram   BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor. 2026 is calling!

In this episode, HeHe sits down with Dr. Sophia Johnson to pull back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood topics in postpartum recovery: placentophagy. Together, they dig into the science, the cultural traditions, and the ancient wisdom behind consuming the placenta… a practice that's been normalized around the world long before Western medicine ever tried to dismiss it. Dr. Sophia breaks down what we actually know about placenta encapsulation, why so many parents report better mood, energy, and hormonal balance, and how oxytocin and postpartum hormone shifts come into play. You'll also hear practical tips for handling and preparing placenta safely, plus a look at why these rituals hold such deep meaning across cultures — and why the traditional medical system still struggles to acknowledge the value of them. If you're curious about the real role the placenta plays in healing after birth, this conversation is rich, grounding, and packed with the kind of nuance you won't hear anywhere else. Tune in and let this episode expand what you thought you knew about postpartum recovery.   Guest Bio: Dr. Sophia Johnson studied human medicine at the University of Witten/Herdecke. During her studies, she expanded my training and took part in the university curriculum for Chinese medicine and Anthroposophic medicine. Since 2014, she has been working as a researcher and completed my doctorate at the Placenta Laboratory at Jena University Hospital.She works in an outpatient practice specializing in integrative women's medicine.   Connect with Dr. Sophia: https://sophia-johnson.de/en/ SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Dr. Sophia on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.

Join HeHe and Alex from Baby Led Weaning Academy as they take the confusion out of starting solids and bring you back to what's actually normal for babies. This conversation walks you through true readiness signs, how to tell the difference between gagging and choking, and what to do with the very real fears around allergies. HeHe and Alex gently debunk the myths that make starting solids feel scarier than it needs to be, while reminding you that your baby's instincts matter. You'll hear how BLW and purees can work together, how to follow your baby's lead with confidence, and what a safe, calm introduction to food really looks like. This episode is packed with practical tips and grounded wisdom to support your BLW journey from the very first bite.   Guest Bio: Alex King is a postpartum doula and baby-led weaning specialist who helps parents approach starting solids with calm, confidence, and trust. Through Baby-Led Weaning Academy, she supports families in honoring their baby's cues and development—making feeding a joyful, connected experience instead of an overwhelming one. With her doula background and lived experience weaning three foster babies, Alex brings heart, real-life wisdom, and a deep respect for both baby and parent to every conversation. SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Alex on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.   LINKS MENTIONED: babyledweaningacademy.com babyledweaningacademy.com/podcast babyledweaningacademy.com/registry-guide Use code  monthhehefree to try out a free month in Baby Led Weaning Academy: babyledweaningacademy.com/club EZPZ straw cup: use code  BLWAcademy Check out https://bapronbaby.com/ and use code BLWACADEMY10 to save 10%  Catch Alex on DoulaTok  CPR course: https://courses.thrivetraininginstitute.com/courses/cpr-aed?ref=084849 HEHE10 for 10% off, making the course only $15 with their current sale 75% off sale. (alexis FYI, they promote this as a sale but its been 75% off for like a year,

Ep. 407: Re-air-Setting Yourself Up for Breastfeeding Success with Brianne Taggart  Today we're bringing back one of the most loved breastfeeding episodes inside The Birth Lounge, because honestly… this conversation is too good to live in the archives. If you're preparing for breastfeeding or already navigating those early days, this re-air is going to hit differently the second (or third!) time around. Lactation expert and IBCLC Brianne Taggart joins HeHe to dig into what truly sets you up for feeding success: protecting your mental health, grounding yourself in evidence-based lactation education, and knowing what's normal so you're not second-guessing every feed. Together, they lovingly bust the biggest breastfeeding myths, walk you through why colostrum is absolute gold, and break down how to follow your baby's lead with confidence. You'll learn what tools are actually helpful, how partners can show up as real support, and how to steer clear of the endless bad advice circulating online. Brianne brings her calming, clear, deeply supportive expertise — and whether it's your first time hearing this episode or a much-needed refresher, you'll walk away feeling prepared, empowered, and rooted in what matters most.   Guest Bio: Brianne Taggart is a mother of three, a Registered Nurse, IBCLC Lactation Consultant, childbirth educator and Certified Educator of Infant Massage.  She loves teaching and empowering families about all things babies, boobs and breastfeeding. She understands firsthand how rocky the road into parenthood can be, so she likes to make that transition as smooth as possible for the families she teaches.  Follow Bri on Insta for quick tips and tricks @breezy__babies and at www.breezybabies.com to see the products she offers. SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Brianne on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.   LINKS MENTIONED: https://breezybabies.com/   Listen to the original episode: https://podcast.thebirthlounge.com/e/ep-172-setting-yourself-up-for-breastfeeding-success-with-brianne-taggart/

In this episode, HeHe welcomes Kassi to discuss the vital role doulas can play in lactation support. The conversation touches on the misconceptions about doulas' scope in providing lactation advice, Kassi's journey from a community clinic to becoming an IBCLC, and the importance of prenatal lactation education. They explore how doulas, with proper training, can address new parents' needs, identify red flags, and refer to IBCLCs when necessary. The episode delves into practical advice on breastfeeding, pumping, and supporting new mothers, highlighting the collaborative benefits when doulas and lactation consultants work together. Kassi also introduces her 'Bridge' program, designed to empower doulas with advanced lactation support skills. This comprehensive discussion aims to enhance breastfeeding success and maternal well-being by fostering a cohesive care approach. 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:09 The Role of Doulas in Lactation Support 01:36 Personal Journey into Doula and Lactation Work 03:48 Challenges in Prenatal Lactation Education 06:05 Lactation Support in Hospitals 07:51 Insurance Coverage for Lactation Support 09:32 Educating Families Prenatally 16:19 Recognizing Red Flags in Lactation 19:01 Nipple Pain and Damage 23:53 Pumping Guidance for New Mothers 26:14 Understanding the Roles in Breastfeeding Support 26:55 Navigating the Scope of Doula Support 28:21 The Gray Area of Clinical Support 31:58 Diverse Advice in Lactation Support 35:17 The Importance of Standardized Lactation Education 39:14 The Role of Pediatricians in Lactation Support 46:29 Introducing the Bridge Program for Doulas 50:32 How to Join the Bridge Program   Guest Bio: Kassi Reyes: IBCLC, RN, Doula, Clinical Educator, and Mamá + your go-to person for real-world lactation tools. She is bilingual in English and Spanish and passionate about helping birthworkers gain real-world lactation skills, because I believe they're the missing puzzle piece in helping families feel confident and supported on their feeding journeys. When Kassi's not working, you'll probably find her with a cup of coffee, chasing my toddler, practicing yoga, or exploring the outdoors. Connect with Kassi: https://www.kassireyes.com/apply https://www.kassireyes.com/training Free Lactation Guide for Perinatal Professionals - Answers to the Top 10 Feeding Questions your Clients will ask: https://www.kassireyes.com/guide SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Kassi on IG  Connect with Kassi on YouTube   BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor. LINKS MENTIONED: Get 10% off Silverettes to support your breastfeeding journey with code HEHE   Check out Kassi on HeHe's DoulaTok here!   

In this episode of The Birth Lounge podcast, HeHe sits down with lactation superstar Kelly Kendall, RN and International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), to get real about breastfeeding — the joys, the struggles, and everything in between. They dive into the realities new parents face, from hand-expressing colostrum and mastering proper latching to managing oversupply, nipple trauma, and sleepy newborns. HeHe also introduces the Birth Lounge app, packed with bite-sized, evidence-based tools to help you feel confident navigating parenthood. Kelly shares practical, heart-centered advice for building a supportive environment, getting your partner involved, using pumps effectively, and keeping your milk supply healthy — without shame or pressure. Whether you're expecting your first baby or navigating feeding with a little one already at home, this episode is overflowing with actionable strategies, evidence-backed guidance, and a dose of compassion only HeHe can deliver/ 00:00 Embracing the Realities of Parenting 01:06 Introduction to The Birth Lounge App 02:16 Features of The Birth Lounge App 05:04 Breastfeeding Statistics and Challenges 08:27 Interview with Lactation Consultant Kelly Kendall 13:52 Breastfeeding Techniques and Tips 25:41 The Importance of Baby-Led Latching 36:03 Common Breastfeeding Challenges and Solutions 38:31 Avoiding the Vicious Cycle of Breastfeeding 38:43 Frequency of Feeding and Its Impact on Supply 39:32 Sleepy Newborns and Feeding Challenges 46:11 The Importance of Night Feedings 47:48 Breastfeeding and Postpartum Self-Care 48:57 Navigating Social Media Expectations 49:33 Breastfeeding Subsequent Children 52:55 Dealing with Nipple Trauma 58:17 Introducing a Pump: Timing and Tips 01:03:40 Partner Support in Breastfeeding 01:05:22 Final Thoughts and Advice for New Parents   Guest Bio: Kelly Kendall is a registered nurse and internationally board-certified lactation consultant (IBCLC) who's been elbows-deep in boobs and babies for years—both in the hospital and as a private practice After watching too many parents get steamrolled by outdated advice and sugarcoated nonsense, she created Boob School: a no-fluff, all-facts lactation program that shows you how to prevent breastfeeding chaos, survive the messy middle, and get back on track when it all goes sideways. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Kelly on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: https://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding-data/media/pdfs/2024/05/Dietary_Guidelines_for_Americans_2020-2025.pdf#page=65   https://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding-data/about/index.html?utm_source=chatgpt.com https://firstdroplets.com/ Listen to episode 240 of The Birth Lounge Podcast all about hand expression here!  Listen to episode 356 of The Birth Lounge Podcast all about perceived low milk supply here!  Get 10% off Silverettes to support your breastfeeding journey with code HEHE  

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, one of HeHe's all-time favorite ways to stay cozy during pregnancy and postpartum. Their ultra-soft PJs, loungewear, and sheets make those long nights and lazy days feel a little more luxurious — and they're a simple way to detox your home while you're at it! Right now, you can use code HEHE to stack up to 40% off holiday sale prices on anything from dreamy PJs to new sheets: https://cozyearth.com/ Understanding Epidurals: Everything You Need to Know with Marissa Mulder of Sassy Anesthesia In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe dives into the real talk on epidurals with Marissa Mulder, a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist (CRNA) and the brain behind the popular Instagram account Sassy Anesthesia. They break down why every labor is unique (so stop comparing yourself to everyone else!) and go step by step through the epidural process — the risks, benefits, pros, cons, and the myths you've probably heard. Plus, they cover the difference between epidurals and spinals, how to advocate for a birth experience that truly works for you, and how tools like the Birth Lounge App can give you bite-sized, evidence-based education to feel confident from pregnancy through postpartum. Whether you plan to use an epidural or not, this episode is packed with the knowledge and empowerment every parent deserves. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Advice on Epidurals 01:00 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:53 Introducing The Birth Lounge App 02:10 Features and Benefits of The Birth Lounge App 05:21 Today's Topic: All About Epidurals 05:54 Guest Introduction: Marissa Mulder, CRNA 06:54 Epidural FAQs and Common Concerns 10:41 Epidural Placement and Procedure 30:03 Medications Used in Epidurals 36:49 Postpartum Comfort: Cozy Earth's Bamboo Jogger Sets 40:20 Eating and Drinking During Labor: What's the Risk? 42:54 The Importance of Honesty with Hospital Staff 43:55 Why Partners Might Be Asked to Leave During Epidural Placement 48:36 Adjusting Your Epidural: What You Need to Know 51:53 Epidurals and Labor Progression: Myths and Facts 58:40 Epidural Risks and Benefits Explained 01:01:56 Spinal vs. Epidural: What's the Difference? 01:09:53 Emotional Aspects of Choosing an Epidural 01:13:59 Final Thoughts and Where to Find More Information   Guest Bio: Marissa is a CRNA and first time mama to a busy 5 month old and can be found on insta & tiktok at @sassyanesthesia .  SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Marissa on Instagram    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor. Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience. Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress.

In this special re-air of our milestone 200th episode, we hear when HeHe celebrated ten years of supporting over 2,000 families through all kinds of birth scenarios from serene vaginal births to unexpected twists while sharing how ancestral wisdom has shaped her approach to childbirth. With warmth, humor, and that signature bold honesty, she dives into the art of trusting your body, making confident choices, and saying “no thank you” to unnecessary interventions. This episode covers everything from declining cervical checks and IVs, navigating late pregnancy ultrasounds, intermittent fetal monitoring, and pushing positions, to handling unwanted inductions, all while keeping your birth experience empowered and trauma-free. HeHe also highlights the Birth Lounge App, your go-to for evidence-based education, bite-sized guidance, and a supportive community to help you rock your pregnancy and labor with confidence. Whether this is your first listen or a welcome refresher during maternity leave, tune in and let HeHe help you claim your power in birth, because your choices, your voice, and your baby deserve it. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdote 06:17 The Birth Lounge App: Empowering Birth Experiences 09:06 Re-Air Announcement and Podcast Highlights 10:46 Celebrating 200 Episodes and The Birth Lounge 14:32 Navigating Conversations with Your Provider 15:45 Declining Cervical Exams: Your Rights and Options 22:25 Pushing Positions: Advocating for Your Comfort 25:38 Pushing Effectively in Labor: The Secret Sauce to Pushing  25:55 The Baby Soap Debacle: A Better Alternative Use code HEHE at coconu.com 28:03 The Importance of Organic Products During Pregnancy 29:01 Understanding Big Babies and Late Pregnancy Ultrasounds 31:18 Alternatives to Ultrasounds for Fetal Monitoring 35:51 Setting Boundaries with Healthcare Providers 38:11 Electronic Fetal Monitoring: What You Need to Know 44:17 Declining an IV During Labor 47:54 Navigating Unwanted Inductions 53:58 Empowering Your Birth Experience SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience — all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy The Secret Sauce to Pushing course gives you step-by-step guidance on how to push effectively — whether you have an epidural or not — so you can reduce tearing, labor faster, and feel in control from start to finish. HeHe teaches which muscles to engage, how to position your body, and the techniques that actually work, giving you the confidence and tools to achieve your best birth possible. Learn more: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/SSP   Say goodbye to hospital “baby soap” and hello to safe, nourishing lubrication! CocoNu is one of HeHe's favorite all-organic lubes, made with coconut oil, coconut water, shea butter, cocoa butter, and other natural ingredients that keep your pH balanced and your downstairs happy. Perfect for your birth bag, pregnancy, or just better, safer intimacy, CocoNu comes in oil-based and water-based options, plus convenient single-use packets for labor or on-the-go. Because what you put in and on your body — especially down there — truly matters. Use code HEHE for a discount at CocoNu.com

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe dives into a conversation every parent needs to have — how to protect your kids in today's wild digital jungle. She's joined by Ben Gillenwater, aka The Family IT Guy — a 30-year cybersecurity pro, former NSA analyst, and dad on a mission to keep families safe online. They unpack the hidden hazards of tech, from social media traps and online predators to the rise of sextortion, all while keeping it real and doable. Ben shares practical, no-fluff strategies for setting screen-time boundaries, creating tech-safe homes, and teaching kids to thrive offline — because yes, kids can survive (and flourish) without being glued to a screen. This episode arms parents with the confidence, tools, and savvy to raise children who are secure, smart, and resilient in a digital world that doesn't always play fair. No fear-mongering here — just clear, actionable advice to protect your family and reclaim some sanity. Guest Bio: Ben Gillenwater is a cybersecurity expert with over 30 years of experience, including work with the NSA. As the founder of The Family IT Guy, he helps parents protect their children's mental health and safety in an increasingly digital world. Blending deep technical expertise with a dad's perspective, Ben empowers families to set healthy tech boundaries, navigate online risks, and build safer, more mindful relationships with technology. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Ben on IG  BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone! LINKS MENTIONED: https://www.familyitguy.com Here's a link to Ben's article, The Digital Danger Zone: https://www.familyitguy.com/digital-danger-zone.html Seiko clock company: https://seikousa.com/ Officer Gomez's Facebook Page? https://www.facebook.com/deputygomez/ Get Ben's family technology agreement here: https://www.familyitguy.com/assets/downloads/family-internet-safety-agreement.html Listen to Ben's episode with Conrad Woodall https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/25-years-fighting-predators-what-every-parent-needs/id1831912044?i=1000721914372 ICAC website: https://www.icactaskforce.org/   Looking for gifts that aren't screen related?  Check out Lalo, use code HEHE at MeetLalo.com to save on kids toys that are sure to boost creativity and keep everyone off screens!   

Black Friday is finally here, and it's your chance to grab $150 off your Lifetime Membership to The Birth Lounge. Just a few days left to get trauma-free, evidence-based birth prep that puts you in control from start to finish. Get your discounted membership here!    In this episode, HeHe sits down with Tori, a seasoned NICU nurse, to bring clarity and confidence to the early weeks of newborn life. Together, they unpack the things most parents are never taught but deeply need — from what normal newborn breathing actually looks like to the feeding and diaper patterns that signal things are on track. They also explore the signs that something may need pediatric attention, helping parents feel grounded instead of guessing.   Tori offers her expert insight on the benefits of having a lactation consultant in your corner, how to recognize dehydration early, what parents should truly know about newborn jaundice, and how to keep an eye on temperature changes without slipping into fear.   These show notes center evidence-based guidance with HeHe's signature calm, holistic approach. Parents and professionals alike will walk away feeling more supported, more informed, and more empowered to advocate for newborn well-being during this overwhelming yet beautiful transition.   Guest Bio: Nurse Tori, MSN RNC-NIC, is a seasoned NICU nurse with over a decade of experience caring for critically ill newborns and supporting their families. She is also the co-founder and CEO of NICUity, a company dedicated to empowering NICU providers and parents through modern education, tools, and resources. Social Media: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with HeHe on YouTube   Connect with Tori on IG  Connect with Tori:  https://www.tipsfromtori.com/ https://nicuity.com/   Resources Mentioned: Kinsa Thermometer  https://lactationnetwork.com/ Listen to episode 239, colostrum is milk with Gina Motsay, IBCLC  Birth Education Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   The Birth Lounge Black Friday sale is in full swing, and you've got only a couple days to snag $150 off your Lifetime Membership. This is one of only two sales all year, and it unlocks HeHe's full evidence-based system for confident, empowered birth — including the CONTROL Method, the Secret Sauce to Pushing, partner prep, advocacy scripts, all PDF guides, and the Birthing Your Big Ass Baby course. You'll learn how to navigate the hospital system with calm authority, avoid unnecessary interventions, push efficiently, reduce tearing, and advocate for every choice that matters to you. Plus, HeHe is sending you a handpicked Birth Box, packed with comfort, self-care, and advocacy tools she's used herself to help parents have their best birth possible. Your birth, your rules, your confidence — don't miss out. Go to thebirthlounge.com/join and use code BF25 before the sale ends.   Looking for a low tox way to care for your family? Check out Zebra, use code HEHE to save at https://yayzebra.com/

Black Friday is here, and it's your chance to snag $150 off your Lifetime Membership to The Birth Lounge — one of only two sales all year! This is your shot to get HeHe's full evidence-based birth system, handpicked Birth Box, advocacy scripts, partner prep, and all the tools you need to confidently navigate your birth — no unnecessary interventions, no guesswork, just you in control. Don't wait — the sale ends soon! Head to thebirthlounge.com/join and use code BF25 to claim your spot. In this week's episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with certified nurse midwife Becca Helie to unpack everything you need to know about inductions and VBACs, without the fear, confusion, or pressure. Together, they dive deep into how induction methods actually work, what a “failed induction” really means, and how to know if your provider's recommendations are truly in your best interest. Becca breaks down the differences between medical and mechanical inductions, when cervical ripening is appropriate, and how to navigate Pitocin like a pro. You'll also hear about: ✨ Why individualized care matters more than protocols ✨ How to manage Pitocin safely and effectively ✨ What makes induction different (and riskier) for VBAC parents ✨ The mindset shifts that help you stay calm, confident, and in control Whether you're being pressured into an induction or planning for a VBAC and feeling unsure what to expect, this episode will leave you grounded, informed, and ready to advocate for the birth you deserve.   Guest Bio: Rebecca Helie is a Board-Certified Nurse Midwife passionate about empowering women through evidence-based, patient-centered care. With experience as a labor and delivery RN and midwife in both rural and metropolitan settings, she champions shared decision-making, expands access to midwifery, and works to reduce low-risk cesareans and preventable maternal complications. Certified in Perinatal Mood Disorders and deeply shaped by her own experiences with infertility and loss, Becca advocates fiercely for her patients' voices and education. Based in Las Vegas, she shares her expertise online, spreads reliable women's health information, and balances her professional life with family, bread baking, and adventures with her pilot husband, two daughters, and dog Buddy.   INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Becca on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: CocoNu is one of HeHe's favorite organic lubes for pregnancy, labor, and beyond. Unlike the hospital standard (looking at you, Johnson & Johnson baby soap), CocoNu uses clean, plant-based ingredients like organic coconut oil, shea butter, and cocoa butter to keep your pH balanced and your downstairs happy. Perfect for your birth bag or just better, safer intimacy during pregnancy, CocoNu even comes in single-use packets for convenience — because what you put on your body, especially down there, truly matters. Use code HEHE at https://coconu.com to save 15%! Here's the original episode aired Nov 10, 2020: https://podcast.thebirthlounge.com/e/ep-146-what-to-know-about-inductions-with-becca-helie-cnm/    

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, one of HeHe's all-time favorite ways to stay cozy during pregnancy and postpartum. Their ultra-soft PJs, loungewear, and sheets make those long nights and lazy days feel a little more luxurious — and they're a simple way to detox your home while you're at it! Through November, you can use code HEHE to stack up to 40% off holiday sale prices on anything from dreamy PJs to new sheets: https://cozyearth.com/ In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with nutrition guru Lily Nichols to cut through the noise around gestational diabetes (GD) and give parents tools that actually work. They compare the old-school GD advice with Lily's evidence-based approach from her books, focusing on keeping blood sugar steady without stress or guesswork. Lily dishes out the real deal on carbs, which ones matter, how much, and how to pair them for maximum impact, while busting myths about ketosis in pregnancy. She also shares clever, practical hacks like walking after meals, eating your veggies first (yes, first!), and tailoring your diet to what you actually need. They also tackle the nitty-gritty of continuous glucose monitoring (CGM) versus traditional glucose tests, all with a focus on personalized care. By the end, you'll have a playbook for nourishing your body, managing GD confidently, and skipping the panic… because informed choices and empowered parents are always in style. Black Friday is here, and it's your chance to snag $150 off your Lifetime Membership to The Birth Lounge — one of only two sales all year! This is your shot to get HeHe's full evidence-based birth system, handpicked Birth Box, advocacy scripts, partner prep, and all the tools you need to confidently navigate your birth, no unnecessary interventions, no guesswork, just you in control. Don't wait! The sale ends soon! Head to thebirthlounge.com/join and use code BF25 to claim your spot.   Guest Bio: Lily Nichols is a Registered Dietitian/Nutritionist, Certified Diabetes Educator, researcher, and author with a passion for evidence-based nutrition. Her work is known for being research-focused, thorough, and sensible. She is the founder of the Institute for Prenatal Nutrition®, co-founder of the Women's Health Nutrition Academy, and the author of three books: Real Food for Fertility (co-authored with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack), Real Food for Pregnancy, and Real Food for Gestational Diabetes. Lily's bestselling books have helped tens of thousands of mamas (and babies!), are used in university-level maternal nutrition and midwifery courses, and have even influenced prenatal nutrition policy internationally. She writes at https://lilynicholsrdn.com. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Lily on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: Connect with Lily:  https://lilynicholsrdn.com https://realfoodforgd.com/ Check out Lily's free video series on gestational diabetes here: https://realfoodforgd.com/free-stuff/   YOUTUBE LINKS: Connect with HeHe on YouTube.

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Jessica, a mama of five — all born breech — to unpack what it's really like to birth outside the box (literally!). From her first head-down birth to her series of empowering breech births, Jessica shares her story of confidence, trust, and self-advocacy. Together, they explore how breech birth can be safe, positive, and deeply powerful when you're supported by the right team. You'll hear how Jessica learned to trust her body, release fear, and even fire providers who didn't align with her vision. This conversation is filled with real stories, fresh perspective, and a big dose of encouragement for anyone who wants to birth boldly and on their own terms.   Guest Bio: Jessica Gray is a first responder (NREMT), social media community organizer, wife, mom of 6 and breech birth advocate. 5 of Jessica's children have been born breech naturally in two different countries.  Jessica created an online community that has proved invaluable to women globally who have found out their babies are presenting breech. Recognized as a go-to in social media for breech insight and resources, her Instagram account @breechbirth is daily interacting with women who are desperate for resources and encouragement. Jessica also shares her advocacy for breech birth through speaking engagements and appearances on popular birth podcasts.  Currently she is working on writing a guide to breech birth for moms.  She resides in the Southern United States with her family. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Jessica on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: thebreechbook.com   Get the temp drop at 30% off for the month of November with code AFHEHE at http://www.tempdrop.com/discount/AFHEHE  

In this re-aired fan-favorite episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Dr. Rixa Freeze, research professor and president of Breech Without Borders, to challenge everything you think you know about breech birth. Together, they unpack the real facts, not the fear, behind breech birth, from what it actually is to the true statistics and why the right provider can change everything. Dr. Freeze breaks down short- and long-term risks for both mom and baby, exposes how outdated research continues to shape today's birth practices, and explains how upright birth positions can dramatically improve outcomes. You'll also hear what's really going on behind the scenes when families try to find breech-competent providers (and how to advocate when your baby's got their own plans for positioning!). Whether you're currently expecting a breech baby or just want to be prepared for anything, this episode is packed with evidence, empowerment, and that signature HeHe honesty that helps you feel calm, confident, and in control of your birth choices. Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of infant and maternal mortality statistics. 00:00 Introduction and Common Misconceptions About Breech Birth 00:52 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:01 Black Friday Sale Announcement 02:15 The Birth Lounge: Comprehensive Childbirth Education 04:48 Special Offers and Membership Perks 08:51 Exclusive Black Friday Deal Details 09:38 Re-airing Popular Episodes During Maternity Leave 10:51 Introduction to Breech Birth with Dr. Rixa Freeze 11:55 Understanding Breech Birth Basics 16:18 Safety and Risks of Breech Birth 25:46 Maternal and Long-term Outcomes of Breech Birth 29:24 Understanding Long-Term Effects of Birth Decisions 30:34 Insights on Preterm Breech Births 31:08 Discovering a Clean Brand: Just Ingredients 33:40 Hospital vs. Home Birth Data for Breech Births 36:47 Encouraging Breech Birth Training for Providers 42:53 Labor and Birth Positions for Breech Births 54:33 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Dr. Rixa Freeze holds a Ph.D. in American Studies from the University of Iowa and is an internationally recognized researcher, professor, and mother of four. As president of Breech Without Borders, a 501(c)3 nonprofit, she specializes in vaginal breech birth and advocates for autonomy and human rights in childbirth. Her work bridges history, research, and education to bring evidence-based, respectful care to every birth setting. Dr. Rixa blogs at Stand and Deliver (rixarixa.blogspot.com) and is passionate about all things birth- and breastfeeding-related.    This is a re-air of episode 179 with Dr. Rixa Freeze, which you can find here:  https://podcast.thebirthlounge.com/e/ep-179-the-safety-of-breech-birth-with-rixa-freeze/ INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Breech Without Borders on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   .

Ep. 396 Twins Untangled: The Data Behind Safe Twin Birth with Dr. Stu In this week's episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Dr. Stu Fischbein to unpack the truth about twin births, and it's probably not what your provider has told you. They dive into why C-sections have become the default for twins in the U.S. (hint: it's not because it's safer), and how our medical system continues to over-manage what can often be a normal variation of birth. Dr. Stu breaks down what's really happening with rising twin pregnancies, how assisted reproductive technology plays a role, and why evidence still supports vaginal twin births when handled by skilled providers. You'll hear them talk about: How to find a provider who's actually experienced with vaginal twin births The real deal on ECVs, breech twins, and what “mono-mono” and “mono-di” really mean How to advocate for your birth plan even when you're having multiples If you're expecting twins, or just want to understand how broken our twin birth system has become, this episode is your blueprint for making informed, confident choices and protecting your power in the birth room. 00:00 Introduction to Twin Births 01:07 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:14 Black Friday Sale Announcement 02:29 The Birth Lounge Overview 09:52 Special Guest: Dr. Stu Fischbein 10:21 Challenges and Misconceptions About Twin Births 11:25 Dr. Stu's Background and Expertise 12:48 Navigating Twin Births in the Medical System 14:15 The Importance of Informed Consent 15:51 Current Landscape of Twin Births 20:49 Training and Skills in Obstetrics 35:34 Risks and Realities of Twin Births 57:29 Legislation and Training in Midwifery 59:07 Economic Incentives in Birth Practices 01:00:16 Personal Experience with Baby Gear 01:03:31 Cost Analysis of C-Sections vs. Vaginal Births 01:04:50 Hospital Policies and C-Section Rates 01:08:44 Historical Perspective on Birth Practices 01:14:08 Twin Births: Hospital vs. Home 01:20:30 Challenges in Breech Deliveries 01:24:27 External Cephalic Version (ECV) Insights 01:30:42 Timing and Risks in Twin Deliveries 01:40:07 Final Thoughts and Advice for Expecting Mothers   Guest Bio: Stuart J. Fischbein MD is a community-based obstetrician and an Associate of the American College of Obstetrics & Gynecology, published author of the book “Fearless Pregnancy, Wisdom & Reassurance from a Doctor, A Midwife and A Mom” and peer-reviewed papers Homebirth with an Obstetrician, A Series of 135 Out of Hospital Births and Breech birth at home: outcomes of 60 breech and 109 cephalic planned home and birth center births. After completing his residency at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles, CA, Dr. Stu spent 24 years assisting women with hospital birthing and, for the last 13 years, has been a homebirth obstetrician who works directly with midwives. Since retiring from attending home births in 2022, Dr. Stu has turned his focus to traveling around the world as a lecturer and advocate for reteaching breech & twin birth skills, respect for the normalcy of birth and honoring informed consent. He hosts a weekly podcast with co-host Blyss Young and together they offer hope, reassurance and safe, honest evidence supported choices for those women who understand pregnancy is a normal bodily function not to be feared. Follow him on Instagram @birthinginstincts. His websites are www.birthinginstincts.com & www.birthinginstinctspodcast.com INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Stu on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS/RESOURCES MENTIONED: Check out our episode with Dr. Stu's cohost, Blyss Young (ep. 232)    Listen to episode 179 with Dr. Rixa Freeze    Here's a link to the Primitive Reflexes episode Dr. Stu references   https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0313941   www.birthinginstincts.com   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/birthing-instincts/id1552816683   www.birthinginstinctspodcast.com   https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30305050/   https://static1.squarespace.com/static/52ca1028e4b05c5f2d7b157d/t/62e02090874eae67b683bc67/1658855570428/A+Maneuver+for+Head+Entanglement+Published.pdf

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, one of HeHe's favorite things to have on hand for a comfy pregnancy and postpartum period! They're also a great way to detox your home! Through November, you can stack code HEHE for up to 40% off holiday sale prices on the softest PJ's, loungewear, gifts, or even new sheets to make your pregnancy and postpartum feel a little more luxurious: https://cozyearth.com/ In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Katey from The Violet Fog to dive deep into one of the body's most overlooked power players, your fascia. Katey breaks down what fascia actually is, why it matters for your mobility, lymphatic flow, and emotional well-being, and how to keep it happy and hydrated (yes, your fascia needs love too!). Together, they chat about gentle movement, self-massage, red light therapy, and nutrient-rich hydration to keep your body flowing freely, especially during pregnancy. Plus, Katey shares her best tips for reducing swelling and creating beauty routines that actually support your body's health from the inside out. This convo is your permission slip to slow down, tune in, and treat your body like the powerhouse it is. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience with Fascia 01:00 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:09 Black Friday Sale Announcement 02:23 The Birth Lounge Overview 03:17 The Control Method for Birth 04:09 Comprehensive Birth Preparation 04:55 Special Courses and Membership Perks 05:27 Secret Sauce to Pushing 06:20 Scripts for Advocacy and Additional Resources 06:56 Birthing Your Big Ass Baby Course 07:51 Lifetime Membership Birth Box 08:59 Black Friday Sale Details 09:47 Introduction to Today's Episode on Fascia 11:56 Understanding Fascia with Katie Yurko 12:59 Fascia Health and Daily Habits 22:35 Posture and Hydration for Fascia 25:20 Diet and Fascia Health 33:08 Kidney Function and Pregnancy 35:48 Simple Health Tweaks 36:38 Understanding Fascia Damage 37:11 Posture and Fascia Health 39:03 Self-Massage and Fascia Care 42:39 Lymphatic Health Tips 44:14 Managing Swelling During Pregnancy 49:33 Electrolytes and Cellular Health 53:16 Red Light Therapy Benefits 55:16 Adrenal Cocktails and Final Thoughts 56:20 Beauty and Health Connection 01:00:48 Conclusion and Farewell   Guest Bio: Katie Yurko is the founder of The Violet Fog, where wellness gets real and women connect over love, nutrition hacks, and aging gracefully. A self-proclaimed “career investigator,” Katie digs deep into ingredients, health practices, and the hard stuff most people shy away from. After years of battling chronic UTIs and over 400 rounds of antibiotics, she turned her own health journey into a mission to expose false marketing and empower women with honest, no-fluff wellness education. Her content blends research and girl talk, pulling back the curtain on topics like gut health, thyroid conditions, and natural healing, all with a signature dose of wit and raw honesty.   INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Katey on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: https://www.violetfog.com/ https://www.lymphloveclub.com/   Check out our episode with Dr. Chris Motley for more about lymphatic drainage   HeHe and Katey also discuss some resources from Healthillie, you can hear our episode with her here.  YOUTUBE LINKS: Connect with HeHe on YouTube.

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with Dr. Joel Gator Warsh, a pediatrician known for his refreshingly transparent and evidence-based approach to children's health. Together, they unpack one of the most emotionally charged topics in parenting—vaccines. HeHe and Dr. Gator talk openly about the gaps in vaccine research, the importance of truly informed consent, and what every parent deserves to understand before making decisions for their family. They explore everything from the new RSV vaccine and aluminum adjuvants to SIDS and medical ethics—all through the lens of curiosity, compassion, and critical thinking. This isn't about fear or finger-pointing—it's about facts, trust, and empowering you to make confident, informed choices for your baby. 00:00 Introduction to Vaccine Debate 01:16 The Birth Lounge Podcast Introduction 01:23 Debunking the 'Big Baby' Myth 03:32 Introducing the 'Pushing Out Your Big Ass Baby' Course 05:29 Vaccine Exploration Series Recap 05:50 In-Depth Vaccine Discussion with Dr. Joel Gator 07:46 Challenges in Vaccine Research and Public Trust 12:21 Ethics and Future of Vaccine Studies 45:42 Pushback Against Vaccines 46:18 The Need for Open Dialogue 47:30 Personal Experiences and Public Trust 50:16 Ethical Dilemmas in Pediatric Care 57:33 Herd Immunity and Vaccine Efficacy 01:06:13 The Quest for Clean Deodorant 01:13:14 Complexities of Vaccine Safety 01:19:35 Chronic Disease and Medical Humility 01:29:00 Questioning Vaccine Safety Standards 01:30:28 The Controversy of Vaccine Skepticism 01:33:09 The Need for Vaccinated vs. Unvaccinated Studies 01:39:31 SIDS and Vaccines: A Complex Relationship 01:46:07 Aluminum in Vaccines: Concerns and Debates 01:53:16 The New RSV Vaccine: What You Need to Know 02:01:03 Final Thoughts and Gratitude   Guest Bio: Joel Warsh aka DrJoelGator of the popular parenting Instagram account and substack is a Board-Certified Pediatrician in Los Angeles, California who specializes in Parenting, Wellness and Integrative Medicine.  He is the author of multiple books including his latest, Between a Shot and a Hard Place: Tackling Difficult Vaccine Questions with Balance, Data, and Clarity,  He grew up in Toronto, Canada and completed a Master's Degree in Epidemiology before earning his medical degree from Thomas Jefferson Medical College. He completed his Pediatric Medicine training at Children's Hospital of Los Angeles and then worked in private practice in Beverly Hills before founding his current practice, Integrative Pediatrics. Dr. Gator has published research in peer-reviewed journals on topics including childhood injuries, obesity and physical activity. He has been featured in numerous documentaries, films, summits, podcasts and articles. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Gator on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone! ✨ Pre-sale ends today for Birthing Your Big Ass Baby! Get evidence-based guidance to birth your baby—no matter their size—with total confidence:

It's the final week to grab Birthing Your Big Ass Baby at pre-sale pricing! Don't miss your chance to ditch the fear, shut down the “too big” myths, and learn exactly how to birth your baby (no matter their size) with total confidence — all for the lowest price it'll ever be. In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe is tackling one of the most common (and misunderstood) fears in birth: having a “big baby.” From those intimidating late-pregnancy ultrasounds to the “your baby might be too big” comments, she's breaking down what's actually evidence-based and what's just outdated scare tactics. Drawing from real DMs and community questions, HeHe pulls back the curtain on how baby size is estimated (spoiler: it's often way off), what true macrosomia really means, and why the risks around shoulder dystocia are often exaggerated. She shares the birth positions, mindset shifts, and advocacy tools that help parents stay calm, confident, and in control, no matter what their provider says about baby's size. You'll also hear about her brand new course, Birthing Your Big Ass Baby, created to help you ditch the fear, trust your body, and birth your baby (no matter their size) with total confidence. Plus, HeHe chats about safe lubrication options from her friends at Coconu (get 30% off til 10/31 with code HEHE and 15% after that), the problem with hospital baby soaps (looking at you, Johnson & Johnson), and why upright labor + open-glottis pushing are total game changers for preventing trauma and protecting your pelvic floor. This episode is your permission slip to stop fearing a “big baby” and start trusting the truth: your body was built for this. 00:00 Introduction: Your Body is Not Broken 00:57 Introducing the Course: Birthing Your Big Ass Baby 01:39 Debunking Myths About Big Babies 02:53 Understanding Shoulder Dystocia 04:11 Course Details and Benefits 05:08 Key Insights on Big Babies 17:31 Pushing Techniques and Hospital Practices 30:19 Informed Consent and Advocacy 37:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with HeHe on YouTube BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone! Grab Birthing Your Big Ass Baby at pre-sale pricing! Don't miss your chance to ditch the fear, shut down the “too big” myths, and learn exactly how to birth your baby (no matter their size) with total confidence — all for the lowest price it'll ever be.  

What actually shapes the way we connect with our babies? Our biology or our environment? In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with neuroscientist Dr. Rocio Zunini to unpack the wildly fascinating science of parenthood and attachment styles. You'll learn how your brain literally changes during pregnancy and parenting (yes, your brain rewires itself!), why nurturing is far more powerful than we ever realized, and how those early interactions shape lifelong emotional regulation and resilience. Dr. Zunini breaks down groundbreaking research on how nurturing behavior in animals translates to humans, from secure to anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles and what that means for how we show up as parents. They also dig into how mothers' and fathers' brains adapt differently, the critical role of “allo parents” (those loving caregivers beyond mom and dad), and how awareness and mindful connection can actually rewrite generational patterns. If you've ever wondered how to raise emotionally secure, confident kiddos or how your own upbringing plays a role in the parent you're becoming, this one's a must-listen. PSA for all my mamas worried about “big baby” talk: Our brand new course — Pushing Out Your Big A** Baby is officially live and in pre-sale until November 1! This class busts through every scare tactic, lays out the real evidence, and gives you the exact tools to advocate for yourself with confidence (no matter how big your baby is). Grab your spot at thebirthlounge.com/bigbaby 00:00 The Impact of Environment on Development 01:40 Introduction to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:58 Understanding Big Baby Myths 04:51 The Science of Attachment Styles 09:31 Interview with Dr. Rocio Zunini 11:19 The Importance of Parent-Child Bonding 22:51 Emotional Regulation and Brain Development 26:02 Balancing Work and Parenting 26:21 Differences Between Moms and Dads 31:56 Navigating Childhood Wounds and Parenting 33:31 Clean Living with Just Ingredients 37:23 Understanding Wounds and Resilience 38:58 The Concept of Orchid Genes 40:42 Exploring Attachment Styles 43:19 Breaking the Cycle of Insecure Attachment 47:45 Nature vs. Nurture Debate 48:29 The Impact of Nurture on Stress Systems 54:38 Gender Differences in Nurturing 01:00:35 The Role of Allo Parents 01:03:18 Adoption and Attachment 01:05:03 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Rocio is a neuroscientist and mother of two. She is the founder of Newborn Parents, which was born out of the fusion of her two passions: the brain and the relationship between parents and their infants. She educates parents and professionals about parental brain science so that they can take advantage of the profound brain changes that accompany mastrescence and patrescence. She is also co-directs and co-faciliates the Nurture Neuroscience Professional Certification along her friend and colleague Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Zunini on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Check out my brand new course Birthing Your Big Ass Baby   Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: Sign up for Dr. Rocio and Dr. Greer's 5-day FREE Event: Nurture Neuroscience for Professionals https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/free-event-for-professionals www.newbornparents.net

In this episode, we're diving deep into one of the most talked-about (and often misunderstood) topics in early parenthood SIDS and co-sleeping. Despite the scary warnings you've probably heard from the AAP or your pediatrician, many families still find themselves wondering how to safely sleep near their baby. And honestly? That's a valid question. We'll explore what the research actually says about bedsharing, the science of a baby's biological need for closeness, and how parents can make informed choices that balance safety and connection. You'll hear about the work of James McKenna, Helen Ball, and La Leche League's Sweet Sleep, plus insights from Sarah Ockwell-Smith that bring real-world practicality to this nuanced conversation. If you've ever felt torn between expert advice and your natural instincts, this episode will help you find clarity, confidence, and calm in your family's sleep choices. 00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Safe Sleep Practices 01:18 Personal Story: Transforming a Mother's Sleep Routine 03:28 Newborn Sleep Solutions Guide 07:22 The Science Behind Newborn Sleep 09:06 Interview with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum 17:07 Understanding Co-Sleeping and Bed Sharing 22:32 Safe Sleep Guidelines and SIDS 28:39 Controversial Topics: Vaccines and SIDS 31:06 Global Perspectives on Safe Sleep 35:22 Purity Coffee: A Healthier Choice 38:43 Addressing Sleep Challenges in Babies 42:16 Embracing Flexibility with a Newborn 44:04 The Importance of Nervous System Regulation 46:11 Building a Support System for New Moms 52:28 Debunking Myths About Newborn Habits 56:47 The Impact of Sleep Training on Mental Health 01:06:43 Tips for Optimal Baby Sleep 01:13:17 Final Thoughts and Resources   Guest Bio: Greer Kirshenbaum PhD is an Author, Neuroscientist, Doula, Infant and Family Sleep Specialist and Mother. She trained at the University of Toronto and Columbia University with additional training at New York University and Yale University. Greer has combined her academic training with her experience as a doula and mother to lead The Nurture Revolution. A movement to nurture our babies' brains to revolutionize mental health and impact larger systems in our world. Greer wants families, professionals, and workplaces to understand how early caregiving experience can boost mental wellness and diminish depression, anxiety, and addiction in adulthood by shaping babies' brains through simple intuitive enriching experiences in pregnancy, birth and infancy. Her book is called The Nurture Revolution: Grow Your Baby's Brain and Transform Their Mental Health Through the Art of Nurtured Parenting. She offers resources, workshops, and coaching on her website www.nurture-neuroscience.com and on Instagram @drgreerkirshenbaum. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dr. Greer on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: www.nurture-neuroscience.com   Reviews of the research on SIDS and infant death James McKenna: https://cosleeping.nd.edu/ Helen Ball: https://evolutionaryparenting.com/bed-sharing-and-co-sleeping-research-overview/ La Leche League's Sweet Sleep book: https://llli.org/resources/sweet-sleep/ Sarah Ockwell-Smith: https://sarahockwell-smith.com/  

This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth, our go-to for buttery-soft, temperature-regulating bamboo sheets and loungewear that actually lasts. Cozy Earth products are made from responsibly sourced materials that keep you cool, cozy, and comfortable through pregnancy, postpartum, and all the snuggly moments in between. Use code HEHE for an exclusive discount at cozyearth.com and treat yourself to the comfort you deserve. In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe dives into one of the most overlooked parts of preparing for parenthood, financial stability. While the world loves to scare you about “big babies” and sell you all the baby gear under the sun, HeHe and her guest, Dan Brigham (aka Budgeters Anonymous), are here to help you focus on what actually matters: building a strong financial foundation for your growing family. Together, they unpack the sneaky expenses new parents often overlook, smart budgeting strategies that actually work, and how intentional planning can bring more peace and less panic to your postpartum season. Dan shares his journey of overcoming debt, creating financial freedom, and shifting the mindset from “surviving” to thriving. They also get real about emergency funds, 529 plans, IRAs for kids, and how to get on the same financial page with your partner. This is the money talk every parent needs: judgment-free, empowering, and designed to help you build the future your family deserves. PSA for all my mamas worried about “big baby” talk: Our brand new course — Pushing Out Your Big A** Baby is officially live and in pre-sale until November 1! This class busts through every scare tactic, lays out the real evidence, and gives you the exact tools to advocate for yourself with confidence (no matter how big your baby is). Grab your spot at thebirthlounge.com/bigbaby 00:00 Introduction: Financial Stability for New Parents 00:49 The Myth of the Big Baby 01:31 Understanding Macrosomia and Birth Advocacy 03:05 Introducing the New Course: Pushing Out Your Big Ass Baby 03:27 Pre-Sale Announcement and Course Details 05:01 Budgeting for a Baby: An Essential Guide 05:45 Meet Dan Brigham: Budgeting Expert 08:25 Defining Financial Responsibility 12:22 Good Debt vs. Bad Debt 15:52 Intentional Spending and Budgeting Frameworks 23:34 Making a Baby Budget: Practical Tips 32:33 The Reality of Social Media and Financial Comparisons 35:31 No Spend Weekends: Finding Purpose Beyond Money 38:10 Nesting Instincts and Cozy Earth 41:06 Budgeting for a Baby 44:03 Emergency Funds and Financial Priorities 47:15 Setting Up Financial Accounts for Your Child 51:45 Tracking Expenses and Budgeting Tools 58:59 Mindsets for Financial Success 01:06:57 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways   Guest Bio: Dan is the founder of Budgeters Anonymous and has free resources on his website. Dan's focus is Faith, Fitness, Family and Finance.  INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Dan on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: Find Dan here: budgetersanonymous.com