Empath To Power Podcast

Being caught in the whirling vortex of a narcissist can be both damaging and defeating. Without being able to identify and key into the red flags of a narcissist, it can be all too easy to fall into a toxic dynamic. We have seen countless clients navigate this, and we have one of those clients with us today! This week, we are being joined by Kristen Elliot, a client since 2016 who quickly became a close friend. She has experienced first-hand the troubles of navigating a narcissistic relationship, the red-flags of a narcissist, and the little deaths inside that allow us to move past it. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Raising a child can be one of life's greatest accomplishments, and one of its wildest adventures. How do you balance being a conscious parent, with being true and transparent to yourself and your boundaries? How do you maintain both a healthy separation and a deep connection with your child? What if you don't have kids, how do you serve as a parent to yourself? On this week's podcast, we are joined by Leslie Potter, the founder of Purejoy Parenting, to share her insights into parenthood, boundaries, and creating a safe home. In this conversation we will learn about finding and leveraging our internal strengths, opening our hearts and minds to healthy separation and connection, and creating a safe space and home inside of yourself. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The world we live in can be really overwhelming for most of us. Working all day long in front of screens, too much stress, lack of quality sleep and all the unhealthy habits that come with our modern, high-performing lifestyle are just some of the reasons. For highly sensitive souls there are even more reasons to often feel overloaded and overwhelmed as their nervous system is wired to process more information from the environment, and are also able to feel the emotions of the people around them. When we feel overwhelmed it becomes very hard for us to concentrate and perform at our full capacity. That affects our self-esteem by making us feel we are not able to handle the tasks we have to handle. And when the common advice we often get - "well, just break it down into the smallest possible items, and then tackle it one by one" - does not work, we feel even more frustrated. But the truth is this advice can't really work when we are overwhelmed. And no, it is not your fault, it is not because you are weak and unable to do something that may seem so easy to do. Not at all. There is a scientifically proven reason for that. And if you want to learn how to manage overwhelm, forget about that advice. Instead, you can learn how to identify the signs of overwhelm that your system is giving you as early as possible and practice some self-care strategies to beat overwhelm. In this week's episode, Lola dives deep into how to understand what's going on with our body so we can catch the signs of overwhelm, how to stop being detached from our beingness, why we need to take the word “should” out of our vocabulary, how to tell the difference between intuition and overwhelm and what is beneficial stress and how to partner with it. More than that, she reveals the most important overwhelm signs and gives effective self-care solutions to each one of them. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pricing can be a very tricky thing for any business owner. And when they are sensitive persons who offer services created to help people, setting the right price can be a very difficult problem for them.  As highly sensitive souls we want to help everyone, we dream to save the whole world, to make everybody happy and content. But when we also have to make a living out of helping people, as coaches or healers, for example, establishing a price for our services can be really challenging.  Most of us have a lot of limiting beliefs regarding this topic. We may think we don't worth too much (as we usually struggle with self-esteem issues), or that people in our audience can't afford to pay a high price for what we offer. We may also feel often confused about what the “right” price may be (and picking a wrong or, worse, an unfair price is the last thing we want to do).  But, there are some important things we all must keep in mind.. The first one is that we, as gifted human beings, are unique and absolutely priceless. What we do and who we are cannot be measured in money. The other thing is that we will be surprised how many people can afford to pay a high price to transform their lives into better ones we have right in front of us. At last, but not at least, we need to remember that pricing is a double-sided initiation and a powerful boundary in our business.  And what if we told you there is no such thing as “wrong price”?  What if you could get something extremely valuable each time you set a price, regardless of what your audience may think about it? Ready to find out more? Ready to take your business to the next level?  In this week's episode, Lola dives deep into the problem of pricing and explains why it might be easier to sell higher-level offerings than  “more affordable” ones, how to identify our limiting beliefs around pricing and why no price that we choose is a wrong one. She also reveals what is the only thing we need to look for as business owners, why money and worth are not the same thing, and some effective pricing strategies to apply in our business to make it more successful.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As coaches and healers, we value transparency and authenticity. We don't want to pretend that our lives are perfect and we have it "together" all the time. We want our audience (and potential clients) to perceive us as genuine human beings who can relate to their struggles. Most of us think that sharing our own experiences and struggles online can be beneficial for our business and that being vulnerable online will make people trust us more. We aim for our audience to see us as warm, sensitive people who can understand their own problems. And yes, if we share these kinds of things in a healthy way, this authenticity can help us grow. But sometimes being vulnerable in our online communities can cost us dearly.  We are actually walking on a very fine line when we want to post in a way that is authentic and transparent because at the same time, we don't want to instill a fear that we can't handle the opportunity to work with someone.  Sharing the emotions and feelings we struggle with at the moment can create a huge amount of resonance among our audience and it  opens up the gateways to have empathic connections with people who are also in a bad place. But this is certainly not a good strategy marketing-wise.  Letting our audience know that we are not in a good place at this moment can lead to them feeling like we might not be able to handle their struggles right now. They may not want to bother us with their problems and therefore they are unlikely to sign up for our coaching programs, our online courses, etc. So, how do we walk this fine line of being authentic and still inspire people to work with us? How can we still be vulnerable in a way that BUILDS trust and adds to our bottom line? How can we stay in INTEGRITY while making a living out of helping other people become the best version of themselves?  In this week's episode, Lola answers all these questions and much more. She dives deep into why being authentic online can sometimes end up costing us sales in our business and what are the filters we can use when we are thinking about what to share online. More than that, she shares some effective strategies to navigate authenticity, transparency and vulnerability the right way on social media. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mankind has used the Moon's energy to guide them for millennia. For generations and generations, farmers have planted crops and harvested them at specific times based on the moon. Hunters and fishermen were also tracking the moon to ensure success in their activities that were so important for daily living. There is a strong connection between the Earth and its satellite, and there is also a powerful relationship between the inhabitants of our planet and the energies of the Moon. Among other things, we know that the lunar cycle influences reproduction in fish, melatonin levels in birds, hormonal changes in insects, and also our menstrual cycles. Moreover, the phases of the Moon can affect our mood, our emotions, our health, our sleep and our behavior.  Nowadays, many of these things are scientifically proven, but paradoxically, it seems that people have lost that genuine connection with the Moon that they had centuries ago (before the giant leap for mankind was made and we conquered the Earth's only natural satellite that was once believed to be a goddess). Living in big cities and working inside offices all day long makes us often forget that there is a sky above us. But the Moon, with its huge influence on our lives, is still there. And learning how to benefit from the energies it sends to us could make big changes in all areas of our lives. Just like it does for farmers, hunters, or fishermen, the Moon can guide our businesses towards success, regardless of our activity field. By tracking the lunar cycle we can predict when is the best time to start new projects and the Moon's energy can give us a boost or help us find our flow. Moon MAGIC is real and it can bring huge benefits both in our business and personal lives. We just have to learn how to work with the Moon, how to enable the connection we have with its energies and how to predict different events by tracking the lunar cycle. In this week's episode, Lola dives deep into how to understand lunar energy, how to track the Moon cycle, and how to work with the Moon signs and their elements. Plus, she reveals some efficient strategies to plan your business for success using Moon work. So, if you want to plan your business and your life with the help of the Moon, check out this episode to learn how to partner with its MAGIC! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Highly sensitive souls seem to often be attracted to narcissists and involved in toxic relationships in general. This is mainly because narcissists need so much attention, care, and reassurance, while our high level of empathy makes us drawn to helping and caring for others. More than that, we can see through somebody's toxic behaviors into the core of that person, we can see (and fall in love with) the good part in anyone, with the potential each person holds. Sometimes the deeper that good part is buried, the more we fall for that potential, beautiful soul we will actually never get to know in real life. Also, many of us struggle with low self-esteem issues, insecure attachment, and people pleasing patterns - things that also make us prone to get into toxic relationships. Once we get there, it is very hard for us to get out or to make those changes that could transform the relationship into a better one. But admitting that there is something wrong, identifying some narcissistic traits in our partner and some toxic patterns in our relationship is an important step. So, if you've already done this, the question becomes: “Now, what? What should I do now? How do I handle this situation?” This is certainly a difficult moment for anyone. Deciding what to do next with a relationship that doesn't work anymore and preparing for a serious conversation about this is not an easy thing to do. And, if you are a highly sensitive soul and your partner is a narcissist (or a person who shows narcissistic traits), things can be even harder. But having this conversation and deciding what to do next is a must if we don't want to stand in the way of our own happiness. Hoping things will change by magic or wishing one day we'll wake up next to that wonderful person we once fell in love with (instead of this stranger that took their place sometimes along the way), is not realistic and certainly not healthy. We know that this situation is never going to change unless we do something about it. But how do we know what is the best thing to do? Do we need to move out of the relationship? And if so, what is the best way to do this? How do we leave a narcissist? And how do we move on?  In this week's episode, Lola answers these questions and much more. After revealing the most important narcissistic traits to look for in your partner in last week's episode, this time she dives deep into the three-step process for transitioning out of a toxic relationship in order to finally be able to live the life (and find the relationship) that you deserve. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It all started like a fairytale. You met this charming person and they made you feel so special. They were so good, so smart, so caring, and so loving. You felt that unique connection and you truly believed that you have finally found the love of your life. It was all so romantic, so amazingly perfect. Yes. It WAS. At the beginning. That beginning you are playing again and again in your mind and can't understand where it went. How did that wonderful person disappear? When did this “evil twin” replace them?  How can your partner be so different from the person you once fell in love with to the point that they feel like a totally different person? Have you done something wrong? When did the fairytale turn into this horror movie you live in today? If you resonate with this story, you might be already asking yourself: “Is my partner a narcissist? And if so, what do I do now?”. Unfortunately, highly sensitive souls seem to often be attracted to narcissists. It is also very hard for us to end a toxic relationship. And this is not because we are weak or easy to be manipulated, or whatever others may think about us.  The real reason is that we can see deep inside people. That means we can see the good part in anyone, no matter how deep it may be buried.  We can see through somebody's toxic behaviors into the core of that person. We see the potential that they hold, the love-worthiness that they represent, and the soul that's inside of them. We can see it and we can love it - to a point that it becomes really toxic for us. Our sensitive superpower can work against us in these situations, because it makes it hard to differentiate between the reality that we live in and this other potential reality we can feel. This makes it easy for them to manipulate us and more than that, we might start gaslighting ourselves, too.  Of course, if your relationship isn't working or if you feel there is something wrong, it doesn't necessarily mean that your partner is a narcissist. A narcissistic personality disorder is a diagnosis that should be given by a specialist.  However, even if our partner isn't a textbook narcissist, they can show toxic narcissist traits that are just as harmful for the relationship. In fact, all of us demonstrate toxic narcissism to some degree or another in different types of situations.  So, before we start armchair diagnosing anyone, there are some important patterns to identify, both in our partner AND in us (this can really help us become a better version of ourselves) ... In this week's episode, Lola dives into what narcissism is, why empaths are attracted to narcissists, and what “love bombing” is and how it can lead to a toxic relationship. Also, she reveals five signs that your partner might be a narcissist and what we need to do to get out of a toxic relationship. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I shouldn't have done that!”  “Oh, if only I would have…”  “I was so stupid to do that!”  “I can never do it right.”  “I will never figure this out.”  “ I'm always gonna screw this up.”  “I am worthless, I should definitely give up…” Do you have these kinds of negative thoughts each time you do something regrettable or make a ‘wrong' decision? As highly sensitive souls, we are prone to extreme perfectionism and self-criticism. And while in healthy doses, self-criticism can be a good thing. It can help us achieve our goals and become better people. However, constantly striving for perfection can set off a spiral of negative thoughts that will eventually lead to negative behaviors and self sabotage. Like anything else, when done in excess, self-criticism and perfectionism can make us stand in our own way to success, and it can easily become  a pattern of self-abuse and self-abandonment. Beating ourselves up each time we fall, each time we make a small mistake, and each time we make a wrong decision is certainly not healthy behavior Do you struggle with this? Do you go into spirals of “should have,” “would have,” “didn't,” and shaming or judging yourself for decisions that were off track for you? Do you often fall into a shame spiral and then you feel ashamed you were in a shame spiral? Are you judging yourself  because you have self-judgment? Are you familiar with this toxic cycle of self-sabotage that seems so hard to break? Well, most highly sensitive souls and empaths know this story. Dealing with regrets can be very tricky for us, because we have this tendency of beating ourselves up and falling into toxic spirals, instead of taking responsibility for our mistake, learning our lesson and moving on with the determination to do better next time.  Regrets are not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, never experiencing regret or guilt (if that is even possible without being a narcissist) will not help us become better persons after we do something wrong. Feeling regret is a common human emotion that should function like a guide and a teacher. But there are regrets and regrets. Good ones and bad ones, real ones and false ones, useful ones and toxic ones.  Real, genuine regrets are designed to help us grow, to help us realign, and learn from that experience. We all know that the most important lessons in life come in these kinds of moments, when things don't go as we wanted them to. As opposed to that, false regrets are very toxic and will always stay in our way to become better persons. But how can we differentiate between these two types of regrets? And how do we deal with regrets without beating ourselves up, without falling into unhealthy spirals?  In this week's episode, Lola dives deep into what regrets really are and where do they come from, what the meta shame spiral is and how can we pull ourselves out of it, what is a real regret and what is a false regret and how to differentiate between the two. Plus, she reveals some efficient strategies to help you use regret as a teacher and some useful tips on how to make powerful decisions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you know that the biggest violator of your boundaries is actually yourself? As HSPs or empaths, being so connected to everyone and everything makes it hard to connect to ourselves and our own needs. But to be able to follow our calling as sensitive souls, we really need to set better boundaries with ourselves. For HSPs and empaths setting healthy boundaries is usually challenging. It is difficult for us to understand that most people are not capable of feeling what our needs and expectations are (because we CAN feel what theirs are, right?) and that we need to express these things through verbal communication (no, people usually don't read minds, body language, energy and vibes like we do!). So we blame this insensitive world for breaking our boundaries over and over again. But even though the world can be really mean sometimes and there are some people who take advantage of our sensitivity, the truth is that we are responsible for our lack of solid and healthy boundaries. And the first thing we need to look into when it comes to these issues is: do we have solid boundaries with ourselves? As highly sensitive souls, we know that self-care is very important. Keeping ourselves safe and healthy, making sure we do not get overstimulated or overwhelmed are some of the things we need to really pay attention to in order to function at our highest potential. But an essential form of self-care (which actually underlies all of the above) is setting healthy boundaries with ourselves.  Boundaries help you create a safe space for yourself in your own life, and if you want to be able to establish healthy limits in your relationships you need to start with the most important one: the relationship with yourself. This is tricky and challenging for a highly sensitive soul. Most of us have been taught that we're worthless, we've been taught that we need to toughen up, that we're too sensitive, that we don't have what it takes, that we don't matter, that our voice is never going to be heard, that we're going to be invisible. Growing up with these kinds of messages created a belief system that makes us think we are not good enough. So, the relationship with ourselves is the last one we think about. Putting off things that we want to do for ourselves while our calendar is overloaded with other people's needs, letting our past dictate our future, or perceiving our limiting beliefs as facts are some of the signs that we might have troubles with the boundaries with ourselves.  Want to find out more of these patterns and what to do to set better boundaries with yourself?  In this week's episode, Lola dives deep into what boundaries with ourselves are, who are the people who have the biggest issue with our boundaries, why lack of boundaries with ourselves attract narcissists to HSPs and why setting boundaries with ourselves is so difficult sometimes. More than that, she reveals what are the most important signs that we are having trouble setting boundaries with ourselves and some effective strategies to help us establish solid and healthy limits with us and the world around us.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It is pretty common for an HSP or an empath to go from being the uncool, “too sensitive” kid to becoming that cool, fun and detached person who is so easy to get along with, who is friends with everyone and seems to have it all. How does this happen? Well, being a sensitive child or teenager can be really difficult and quite painful sometimes. When all the other kids call us “crybabies” (and maybe bully us because of that), when the adults advise us to “toughen up”, when we are told we are “too sensitive” and we “shouldn't care that much”, what can we do? A common way to cope with that, a way to protect ourselves from all this pain that “caring too much” seems to bring with it, is trying to reduce how much we care by tuning out, numbing out, and chilling out. In one word: by becoming the “cool kids”. For an HSP or an empath, acting cool is actually a form of protection from being rejected by others, a way to easily become friends with everyone, a pattern of people-pleasing. Are you an HSP who plays this role of a cool, “go with the flow” person? And is this person really you, does this “cool kid” feel like yourself deep inside? Or is it just a mask that protects you from feeling “too much”, from being “too sensitive”, from being that uncool kid who is still silently hurting? Being “cool” means being cold and you, as a highly sensitive soul, are anything but cold. No matter how much you pretend you are made of ice, you have a WARM soul that was sent in this world to shine. And yes, there is a way to be uncool, to be WARM, to be yourself and also feel happy. There is a way to stop being a people pleaser and start leaving the MAGIC life you were created for. In this week's episode, Lola shares her own experience as an empath who used to be a “cool girl” and the lessons she learned from this experience, she explains why HSPs numb out their feelings and emotions, how trying to “go with the flow” can lead to depression, and why being warm is healthier for an HSP than being cool. Plus, she helps you identify what type of empath you are in order to start your people-pleasing recovery. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Giving is the best way to show kindness. This is something we all have been taught from a young age. But is over-giving a form of generosity or is it something different? Generosity makes us feel good. It is scientifically proven that doing an act of generosity raises our levels of happiness and emotional well-being, it reduces psychological problems, and even releases feel-good hormones.  But what about when we over-give? Well, it seems the effects of over-giving are really different. Feeling angry, frustrated and restful are just some of them. So, while being a generous person is a wonderful thing, giving too much can get us caught in unhealthy cycles. Giving in when our child is having a tantrum in the middle of the street, still helping a former client that is not paying for our services anymore, or saying “yes” to something that our partner wants to do, even if we don't want to do it, are all patterns of over-giving in your relationships. Over-giving is something that most of us, HSPs and empaths, are guilty of. Although we know we cannot help everyone, that's exactly what many of us feel like we should be able to do. And we spend a lot of our time and energy doing it. Because we have kind hearts, because, as highly sensitive souls we can feel what others feel and it pains us to see people suffering. Especially when there might be something that we could do to alleviate that pain.  Unfortunately, in many cases, trying to save the world in our over-giving way, ends up depleting us and even making us sick. Both physically and emotionally. But how can we save the world, how can we protect our loved ones if we are not healthy, strong and happy? Is there a way to stop sabotaging ourselves and our relationships by always giving more than we need to? Well, as in many other situations, the first step is awareness. We will first need to identify the patterns of overgiving in all our relationships. And this can be tricky because sometimes there are some surprising ways that this actually shows up.  To find out what these patterns are and what to do to change this behavior, listen to the newest episode of the Moon + Manifest Podcast! Lola reveals some of the physical and emotional indicators that you are over-giving and the most important signs of over-giving as an entrepreneur, as a parent, and as a partner. Listen now to learn how to stop giving too much in order to really be able to SHINE your light upon the world!    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being a highly sensitive soul is definitely a blessing and a GIFT. Many of us recognize this and are thankful for all of the great things that come with being a sensitive human. But, we also know that life in a non-HSP culture can be really challenging sometimes. And there are those moments when this wonderful trait feels more like a burden and we just wish and dream that someday this world will change, will become more sensitive, will understand and appreciate us for what we are. Well, the bad news is that it's very unlikely that the world will change for us. It is how it is, and maybe it doesn't have to be different. Maybe there is a reason why we are just a small percent of sensitives in a non-sensitive world. Who knows? What we know almost for certain is that the world is not going to change for us. But there is also good news: we have the power to make a positive change in our lives so we can always overcome these challenges. For that, we have to realize that our sensitivity is actually our biggest strength.  If it doesn't feel like that yet, there are two powerful questions we need to ask ourselves, two questions that can absolutely shift our entire trajectory in life. They are not only powerful strategies to get underneath our subconscious programming, but also ways to rewire our relationship to ourselves and others in this world.  To find out what these questions are, listen in to the newest episode of the Moon + Manifest podcast. Inside, Lola explains what these powerful questions are, why we need to answer them and how they can help us develop our resilience as a sensitive soul so that we  can stop getting in the way of our own success and overcome all the challenges of living in a world that doesn't always understand and appreciate our MAGIC. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Your sensitivity is a superpower”. As an HSP how many times did you hear or read this phrase? How many times did you even say it to yourself or to the people around you? Countless times, right? But let's be honest for a moment. Do you really believe this? Do you really feel like your sensitivity is a superpower, a blessing, a gift you should love and celebrate? Well, you certainly feel it sometimes. But do you feel this all the time? Are you ALWAYS thankful you were born with this trait?  If your answer is “No”, don't worry! You are certainly not alone. Most highly sensitive souls struggle with this. Far from feeling like a blessing, there are many times when we feel like our sensitivity is more like a curse, like something that makes us stand in our own way to success and to happiness. But you know that your sensitivity should be a superpower, right? You are convinced it should. So, why doesn't it feel like that most of the time? Well, first of all, having a superpower is not always something easy to live with. I mean even Superman struggled with self-isolation and hiding his true identity behind Clark's glasses, right? But does it really have to be like this? Do you really have to struggle? What should you do to partner with your sensitivity, so it can truly become a superpower? Listen to this new episode to find out the answers to these questions and much more! Lola explains why your sensitivity doesn't feel like a superpower yet, what is happening with our sensitivity in its pre-superpower state, what our real sensitive superpower is and much more. Plus, we teach you the art of being able to navigate as you are, without needing to toughen up and we reveal the three steps you should take in order to learn how to partner with your sensitivity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“If you want a better life, you have to change your habits and improve your mindset.” How often did you hear this advice? And how does it make you feel deep inside? Do you resonate with it? Do you really believe that this would work for you?  Maybe your answer is “No”, or maybe you even tried to follow this advice and didn't really get the results you expected. If that is the case, don't worry! There is nothing wrong with you! It doesn't mean that you don't want to change, or that you don't have what it takes to create positive changes in your life. You just need to go about it differently. If you are an HSP or an empath your nervous system is different and more wired for protection. That means it can prevent you from going into an unfamiliar place or navigating uncertain territory just to keep you safe.  Even though you might try a new habit, and you might try some positive mindset techniques, if your nervous system doesn't feel safe with the success that those habits or patterns of thinking are going to lead to, then you are going to get in your own way. So, what should you do instead? How can a highly sensitive soul feel empowered to create the life that they want and DESERVE to have? Listen to this new episode to find out the answers to these questions and much more! Lola is going to explain how mainstream personal development advice can misdirect HSPs and empaths and why trying to change habits or mindset is totally backwards for neurodivergent people. She will also talk about some of the most common signs that your nervous system might be more wired for protection than you think. Plus, she will reveal a “manifestation” practice that will take you farther in a year than vision boarding ever could!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries sounds very challenging for a highly sensitive soul because our boundaries can be full of holes, confusing, or nonexistent.  HSPs and empaths need healthy and solid boundaries to be able to create the deep CONNECTIONS their souls need. Does the idea of boundaries sound kind of confusing to you? Is it hard for you to build healthy boundaries? Do you usually find it difficult to say “No,” just because you are afraid of hurting someone's feelings or because you are always worried about what people think about you? Well, you are not alone! Most highly sensitive people are struggling with this issue, operating with polarized boundaries that are toxic and unhealthy, instead of setting resilient ones.  The good news is that you have the power to CHANGE this and learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries as a highly sensitive person.  In this week's episode, Lola dives deep into what boundaries are, how they function, what they are made from and how they can help you become a better version of yourself. Plus, we'll reveal some effective strategies to start building healthy boundaries that will help you develop your amazing POWER to create deep, genuine, and special connections. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Purpose is defined as “the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.” Many of us spend lifetimes in the agonizing and sometimes elusive pursuit of purpose. We seek it in our jobs, personal lives, goals, and ambitions. But is purpose all it's really cracked up to be? Is it a  ‘missing link' that can be found? In this week's episode, Lola breaks the myth around purpose by reminding us that sourcing a sense of belonging from what we do, and not from who we really are, is a trap. and that the real key to purpose lies in the alternative definition — “a person's sense of resolve or determination” (supported by resilience) — is the key. If you feel like you're stuck in an endless loop of trying to derive meaning from everyday drudgery that may be bordering on madness, this episode offers you a way out. You'll discover how to build resilience and arm yourself with fortitude and awareness to ensure that you always stay in tune with who you really are, and what your true purpose is! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gaslighting, a term you've probably seen thrown around quite a bit...but what does it actually mean? Gaslighting put simply, is a pattern of manipulation that causes someone to doubt themselves. Most of the time this comes from outside sources such as family, friends, co-workers, or even our intimate partners, but what if over time this pattern no longer comes from outside sources? What if we began to manipulate ourselves to sow the seeds of doubt in our own minds? Could you subconsciously begin to Gaslight yourself? As empaths and sensitive souls, we are especially vulnerable to suffer from gaslighting. There is a multitude of ways that we can start to gaslight ourselves, so how do we identify them? How can we learn to decipher what thoughts are from our true selves, and what thoughts are conjured from our own self-doubt? How do you stop over-rationalizing my intuition, and begin to trust your own gut feelings?   Luckily on this week's podcast, Lola is going to answer all of these questions and give you tips on how to break free from your inner glass ceiling. Intentions and knowledge are as good as the requisite action, so be prepared to take smoke actionable steps and manifest a change to stop gaslighting yourself. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Wouldn't it be amazing to have the ability to shed the things that hold us back like a snake sheds its skin?  But each and every one of us knows how challenging it can be to let go and move on — even when we're moving toward bigger and better things. So how can we ease into these necessary transitions into our lives? Not all of us are so keen to perform elaborate cord-cutting rituals. Thankfully, those aren't the only ways we can energetically clear and cleanse the things we need to let go of. 4 Surprisingly Practical Ways to Cut Cords In this week's episode, Lola will take you on a journey from the kitchen, to the bedroom, and even to the bathroom and show you some thoroughly magical but surprisingly practical cord cutting rituals that you can do any time! Get ready to unleash some everyday magic using these practical exercises to cut cords and release what no longer serves you.   DISCLAIMER: When Lola speaks about cutting physical objects as a metaphorical practice, she is not referring to self harm. If you or a loved one are cutting yourself as a way to process your pain, please speak to a licensed mental health professional so you can receive support.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The modern workplace can feel overwhelming enough as an empath, not to mention landing the job to begin with! If you're an empath or highly sensitive person, you may have experienced struggles with the job process. That's why we are going to talk about navigating the workplace and answer why no one wants to hire you as an empath. Many of us have experienced the dilemma of choosing to either be an empath and be true to ourselves, or to be employed. Finding that middle ground can feel unobtainable, so we default to disconnect from ourselves for the sake of employment. This is not only unhealthy, but disconnects us from our true self. Empathy is currently the #1 skill being recruited in corporate America, which empaths have in spades! So why are empaths still struggling to find and maintain careers, get promotions, or even get paid their worth? Are you ready to become an outrageously awesome hire? In this week's episode, Lola explains why empaths struggle in the modern workplace, how to discover what feelings are your own and not someone else's, finding a healthy place of empowerment,  the importance of setting boundaries and their purpose, and establishing resilience as an empath. Prepare to learn how to feel your own feelings, connect to yourself, and to grow into your best work self. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt the need to please, placate, or help other people at the expense of your own needs or desires? This pattern is called people-pleasing, and in this episode, I'm going to show you how to stop people-pleasing in your own life. Sometimes it can feel like you are locked into a battle of either making yourself happy OR making everyone else happy. This is a reality that many empaths and highly sensitive people face on a daily basis. Because you can feel other people's emotions and energies so strongly, shielding yourself from their unhappiness, unease, judgment, and misunderstandings through subconscious people-pleasing is a way that your nervous system helps you feel safe.  So, how can you talk about things or make decisions that could be triggering, upsetting, or insight judgment from other people, without being paralyzed by their discomfort? Are you ready to learn how to stop people-pleasing? In this week's episode, Lola explains exactly what people-pleasing is, why we subconsciously do it,  the “shadow” side of people-pleasing, and how to let go of taking responsibility for other people's feelings. Get ready to take a deep dive into one of your nervous system's most confusing defense mechanisms! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you noticed that the neurodivergent and Empath/HSP communities are often intertwined? From common experiences to similar diagnoses popping up throughout the lives of Sensitive Souls, each of us is made brilliant by our divergence from “the norms” of society. But too many of us hold ourselves back with the belief that we're “broken” or that we need to be “fixed” in some way. In this week's episode, Lola reminds us to follow the path to liberation — whatever that may look like for you as an individual — and offers insight into how and why neurodivergence and being an empath go hand in hand. If you're a part of the neurodivergent and/or Empath/HSP communities…you may actually belong to both spaces. Why? Listen in to find out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shadow work is an intrinsic part of living our most authentic lives. But how do we actually go about illuminating the pieces of ourselves that we've hidden away? It can be nerve-wracking and uncomfortable to face these “darker sides” but with the proper approach, we can do the work, grow, and blossom into fuller versions of ourselves. Leading with light and moving from a space of compassion. In this week's episode, Lola explains exactly what our “shadow” is and shares some tips on how to begin shadow work. This episode is surely one you'll come back to as you embark on your journey to transcend your darker side! Grab a pen and paper, and get ready to take notes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As Highly Sensitive People and Empaths, we are able to deeply tune into the experiences of the people around us. This is an extraordinary gift when it comes to helping others, but it's an awful hindrance when we're brought face to face with toxic narcissistic traits and gaslighting. Why do Empaths so often find themselves in unhealthy relationships? What makes Highly Sensitive People more vulnerable to codependency and toxic dynamics like gaslighting and derailment? In this week's episode, Lola digs into the shadow side of life as a Sensitive Soul and shines a light on the patterns that hold us back from our growth and wellbeing. Are you ready to stop getting gaslit by others AND yourself? This is the episode for you! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Financial trauma is real and it affects so many of us! Even when we make a conscious effort to move from a space of logic, our nervous system holds onto the memory of our experiences — both good and bad — which can disrupt our income. So what do you do when your body has created a non-beneficial relationship with money in an attempt to keep you safe? Before you can make (and keep) money, your nervous system must have the capacity to hold it! In this episode, Lola and Kimberly dive into the topic of money and the nervous system. Once you learn to identify how money patterns and financial trauma have affected your nervous system responses, you can step into the frequency of abundance. Take charge of your finances and work alongside your nervous system to create the financial freedom you deserve! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Imagine what it will feel like when you shift from being overwhelmed, numb, resentful, and burnt out to resilient, confident, energized, generous, and purpose-full. It is possible! Are you ready to live like that all the time? In this week's episode, Lola shares some of the first steps toward discovering your Authentic Self and bringing your Resilient Rockstar ways into the world sustainably. A life half lived is not what your soul is asking of you. A life where you make yourself small is not the life that was meant for you. By intentionally partnering with your nervous system, you can honor and then LET GO of old protection and coping mechanisms, creating room for your gifts to truly thrive. Brew a cup of tea, grab some paper and a pen—because you'll definitely want to take notes!—and get ready to become a Resilient Rockstar! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you think that making money is all that affects your financial state, it's time to transform your perception! Our relationship with money has a remarkable impact on our monetary resources—not to mention the emotional, mental, and energetic impact that money has on our lives! When we unearth the root of how we as individuals connect to earning, spending, and pricing everyday necessities and pleasures, we can unpack the non-beneficial aspects of our relationship with money. Understanding how we view money, how we relate to money, and how we FEEL about money are key components to living a life of abundance. This week's episode shatters the myth of an “abundance mindset” and guides us, once again, out of our heads and back into our bodies. Lola helps us understand the responses of our Central Nervous System and how to reprogram our way of being to work alongside our sensitivities—rather than against them—and truly embody the MAGIC of making money! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Time is something we all must learn to live and work—or rather, play—alongside. The way that we perceive time is crucial to developing a way of life that is ENHANCED by time and not overwhelmed by it. In this week's episode, Lola reminds us that our value is not measured by the amount of time we have or give. It's time to change our perspective and start making the most of our days! If you've ever struggled with having enough “you time”, this episode offers an abundance of time management tips, tricks, and healthy tools to ensure you too can bend time! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How are you choosing to show up in partnership? To build a strong foundation for any relationship we must intentionally create and hold space for intimacy, integrity, and harmony. We must show up for ourselves just as much as we show up for our partner. Having a Sacred Marriage is a gift that requires personal growth, hard work, authenticity, and self love even before stepping into the partnership. In this week's episode, Lola shares the story of how she met her husband, Tigre, and the journey that led her from what she calls a “Practice” Marriage to a Sacred Marriage. If you're longing to build a stronger foundation for your relationship but feel uncertain about where to start—listen in! This is the third episode in Lola's miniseries about how she reclaimed her magic and created her true dream life.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when you realize that the life you're living isn't one that resonates with you? How do you transition from simply KNOWING something to ACTING on it—embracing and embodying change as you go? Where do you start? In this week's episode, Lola shares the steps she took to call back her power and create her TRUE dream life. Not the version that society portrays as successful, but one of truth, integrity, intuition, and magic. If you've been stuck in a cycle of realization that only returns to a state of resignation and stagnation—if you're ready to move forward and LET GO of non beneficial situations—this is the episode for you! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When did you lose touch with your magic? So many of us have found ourselves caged by the fears we inherited from a society that dismisses what they cannot understand as FALSE. But your magic? Your magic is so very powerful and so very TRUE. Your magic matters. In this week’s episode, Lola shares the magical experiences that shaped her and talks about her journey to reconnecting with the otherworldly. You too can reclaim the full spectrum of who you are. You too can live a magical life because YES, you are magical. YES, magic is real. And YES, you are not alone. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As a culture, we have lost the capacity to cultivate stillness. Societal programming has moved us into a mindset of DOING rather than BEING, and many of us feel like we’re running out of time and space to rest. But as our guest speaker so beautifully explained, “It is our birthright to deeply rest.” In this week’s episode, we are blessed by the inspiring presence of Tracee Stanley—author, yoga instructor, and facilitator of rest. Tracee invites us to experience the radiance that follows when we choose to prioritize stillness and shares with us the tools she uses to support herself and others on this journey! Listen in as Lola and Tracee discuss the importance of embracing quiet in a loud world! Tracee Stanley was introduced to the practice of yoga nidra in 2001. She immediately recognized it as a healing salve for the world and began to incorporate it into her life and her yoga teaching. She left her high-stress career as a Hollywood film producer to delve deeper into the study of the practices that were empowering and rejuvenating her, so she could share them with others. With over 20 years of experience practice and teaching in the Himalayan Tradition, Tantra and Sri Vidya, she also understands the demands of life as an entrepreneur, wife, and stepmom. Her effortless way of sharing ancient teachings in accessible ways is her superpower. She travels extensively to offer yoga nidra, meditation, self-inquiry, teacher trainings and workshops. RADIANT REST published by Shambhala Publishing is her first book. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are leveling up! After ten years of building my personal spiritual practice and creating the life of my dreams, I’m opening the doors to YOU. I’m sharing the secrets, the magic, and the medicine that led me toward living my most authentic life. Guided by the cyclical nature of the moon and the wisdom of lunar astrology, you too can tap into your Divine Self. Just like la luna, our lives wax and wane. We rise into fullness—shining light on what needs to be noticed—and we embrace the shadows, allowing darker times to teach us and build our strength. The Empath to Power podcast has taught me so much. It has helped me guide other sensitive souls through their healing. Now Empath to Power is ready to become something more… Moon + Manifest will have MORE magic, MORE medicine, and more science and soulful success than ever before! Read all the show notes, links, and more at: https://empathtopower.com/110-moon-manifest-podcast-trailer/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when you return from a retreat—totally changed—to a life that’s stayed the same? How can you create a bridge between your sacred experiences and the everyday routines of your life at home? In this episode, Lola shares the Art of “re-entry” and shares five common mistakes to avoid as you navigate everyday life post-retreat. Avoiding these mistakes will support a more sustainable transformation and build a gentle bridge between the life you currently have and the life you now know you want. If you’re curious about how to bring the retreat and the TRUE YOU back into your daily life, this is the episode for you! Read all the show notes, links, and more at: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From the moment you say YES to a healing retreat, your transformation has already begun. Choosing to embark on a journey like this creates a remarkable ripple effect that continues long after your return. In this episode, Lola gives us a behind-the-scenes look at the process of creating a healing retreat during a pandemic and offers us a glimpse at the powerful ceremonies that took place in the jungles of Costa Rica. From painstakingly mapping out the travel process for retreat guests to moving through fears on a stormy flight, to witnessing the blossoming of individuals and being deeply touched by the power of nature—healing retreats inspire us to leave behind what seems familiar and step into our truest, most vibrant selves. Read all the show notes, links, and more at: https://empathtopower.com/108-what-really-happens-on-a-healing-retreat-with-lola-pickett/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you struggle with negative self-talk? (Let's be real, who doesn't??) Negative self-talk doesn't start in the mind, it emerges as a result of the inner conditions of the BODY. In this episode, Lola shows how the TYPE of negative self-talk that you tend toward can point to your nervous system's state and the ways you're unconsciously protecting yourself. Going beyond thought redirection, affirmations, or positive thinking, this episode guides you into an embodied way to shift your negative self-talk, empowering you to change this pattern at the root. Read all the show notes, links, and more at: https://empathtopower.com/107-how-to-stop-negative-self-talk-with-lola-pickett/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As sensitive souls—especially those with traumatic pasts—we would do anything NOT to be predatory. And yet, accessing our inner predator can be a key to liberating ourselves from abuse, toxicity, and boundarylessness. In this conversation, Kimberly and Lola talk about how to neutralize the energy of "predator" and move it from a purely mental concept into an essential way of embodying our power. We also talk about how our nervous system states can be discovered (and partnered with) by understanding our biology and physiology; including the role of our fascia and the type of fascia we each have. Kimberly dives into this and much more in her brand new book, Call of the Wild, which is out now! Please visit your favorite bookseller and pick up a copy; it offers a real-world understanding of the Nervous System; offering us tools and perspectives to help us step more fully into healthy power. Kimberly is a Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Experiencing trauma resolution practitioner, yoga teacher trainer, birth doula, and single mom. She is the author of Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power and Use It for Good as well as the early mothering classic, The Fourth Trimester. She is hosts the Sex Birth Trauma podcast and is the creator of Activate Your Inner Jaguar: A Real World Understanding of Your Nervous System and Embodied Consent. Read all the show notes, quotes, and more at: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As highly sensitive souls, creating rituals can be a deeply supportive practice in surprising ways. As Lola gears up to co-lead her Art of Ceremony Retreat with her husband Tigre, she reveals how she creates powerful rituals that actually WORK. If you've been craving more magic and creativity in your life, this episode will inspire you to tap back into the Sacred and settle your nervous system in the process. For ongoing support in working with magic, rituals, and the lunar cycle, come join us in the Moon + Manifest collective! Each month, we gather to honor the New and Full moons, have group coaching and circle calls, and enjoy our powerful community of healers, priestesses, witches, and wild ones. To learn more about what you'll get when you join, visit moonandmanifest.com. Read all the show notes, quotes, and more at: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do we balance self-care with the collective's well-being? Is self-care a form of social activism? And what are the opportunities and obligations of having a mental-health-oriented platform? In this conversation with incredible illustrator and creative Vida Rose of @comics_and_selfcare, we dig into the balance between self-care and collective care, how to let go of what people think of your creative ideas, and having the courage to stand up (and out) for what really matters for you. Vida Rose is an artist and intuitive who believes unconditional love exists and world peace is possible if we want it. She is a lifelong student of self-care practices and shares what she's learned through comics and humor on the social media account @comics_and_selfcare. You can follow her on Instagram and TikTok and learn more on her Patreon page: Patreon.com/vidarose Read all the show notes, quotes, and more at:  https://empathtopower.com/104-comics-and-self-care-with-vida-rose See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever wondered HOW to get your partner, friends, or family members to try the things that have worked for you? Whether it's working with tarot cards, learning about being an empath, or other ways we've found healing, it's natural to want to share what's worked for us with our loved ones. We want them to feel good, right? Of course! And yet, we're often dismissed or rejected when we bring these things to their attention - because the way we do it usually creates imbalanced power dynamics in the relationship. In this episode, Lola walks through how to "coach" your partner to try the things that have worked for you, without coaching them at all. We also spend a few moments of silence to honor the six Asian women who were killed in Atlanta, GA on March 16th. Read all the show notes, quotes, and more at:  https://empathtopower.com/103-should-you-coach-your-partner/ ‎ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In celebrating their first 6-figure launch as a company, Lola shares her reflections on what had to change for her internally in order to break through their most recent plateau... If you struggle to make peace with financial success or feel good about generating abundant results - this episode will help you connect income with IMPACT... Plus,if you're a fellow empathic entrepreneur (or would love to become one), this episode will also help you more fully understand the inevitable energetics of launching so that your system is better equipped for the ride. Read all the show notes, quotes, and more at: https://empathtopower.com/102-how-to-go-from-broke-to-breakthrough/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when you take a STAND for what you believe in and rise up in RESILIENCE? Well, in the case of musician Fia Forsström, your soul gifts can be shared for the highest good of all humanity! In this uplifting, encouraging, and inspiring conversation, we talk about Fia's call "home" and what that meant for her Spiritual Journey, her work as a Ceremonial Musician, and how we can ALL activate the sacred space that we ARE. Lola has been LOVING Fia's Nordic Spirit voiceplay ceremony music. If you want to receive from this beautiful transmission too, you can find it here: https://fiasmusicofficial.com/voiceplay Based in the countryside north of Stockholm, Fia Forsström (known mononymously as Fia) is a folk pop singer/songwriter who with her inspirational lyrics, empowering songs, and catchy melodies quickly enchanted hearts all over world with the release of her solo debut ”Made of Stars” in 2016 which was crowdfunded together with her fans. Building a solid platform through social media and word of mouth, Fia took her place as one of the leading voices on the motivational music scene with ”Legacy of Light” (2017) and ”Waterfall of Wisdom” (2019), both of them recorded and released with the help of her loving listeners. Fia was born in 1994 in Kista, Sweden. She began playing the oboe and writing songs at the age of 10. During her teenage years she picked up the guitar and piano being part of different ensembles while attending the music program at Westerlundska High School. She released her solo debut ”Made of Stars” in 2016 independently with the support of fans, and in 2017 Fia garnered even more widespread acclaim with the follow up ”Legacy of Light”. At this point Fia was a known name in the personal development community and her star continued to rise with ”Waterfall of Wisdom” released in 2019 which wrapped up the acoustic album trilogy. 
In 2020, her music was featured in a meditation app developed by the University of California Santa Barbara Center for Mindfulness and Human Potential, bringing her songs to high school students all over the US. Read all the show notes, quotes, and more at: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Instead of living outside the “box” - which tends to be about breaking with external/societal norms; in this episode, Lola explores the internalized norms and limitations that we build around ourselves... AKA “The Bubble.” What is the bubble made of, and how do we break through it when, often, we don’t even know that it’s there? A “breakthrough” happens when we see it for what it is and break through the protections that no longer serve us. Listen and follow along as Lola helps you navigate into your next breakthrough. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you're used to telling yourself little white lies, the Truth can feel like a "threat" to your nervous system. What feels comfortable is often NOT what's actually good for us. So how do we stay centered when we're activated? How can we tell when we're telling ourselves a lie and be able to hold ourselves through inconvenient truths? In the episode, Lola will help you find your center, discern what's in alignment with your inner Self, and invite you to explore your soul's purpose with her in this week's Purpose Playshop. You can register for the free Playshop at lolapickett.com/playshop. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is it safe, or even responsible, to share your soul work with your dear friends? In this episode, Jason shares what happened when, as a friend of many years to both Lola and Tigre, he said YES to some of their deepest work... First an adventure in Peru. Then, an Alchemical mentorship, and finally Empathology... Was it ever awkward to exchange money for gifts offered? Was it weird to be in such vulnerable spaces together? Jason and Lola spill the beans on what can happen when business and friendship mix. Hayson (aka Jason Yocum, he/him/his, INFP) is a highly sensitive queer human and recovering perfectionist working as a graphic designer in Wyoming. Jason is an Empathology alum, regularly re-auditing class with fellow empaths. He possesses a passion/obsession for pop culture and media. Follow him on Instagram at @holyhayson. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you've been feeling "stuck" in your career or your relationship; struggling to create a different situation for yourself, then this episode is for you! There's ONE key behavioral choice that's essential if you want to create a better relationship or improve your career options. Lola will help you see why you've gotten (and stayed) stuck and how to move yourself out of that pattern of stagnation. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can an empath have a "soulmate" or "twin flame" relationship with someone who isn't an empath or HSP? In this episode, Lola offers her perspective on creating a healthy relationship as an empath or HSP and how to create connections with people who may or may not personally relate to our sensitivity. She details what gave her incredible marriage such a strong foundation from the very beginning, what to look for in a potential partner, and offers guidance for you—whether you're single or already in a relationship—to help you create richer, more authentic connections. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Typical business advice does NOT usually work for Empaths and HSPs. Because of how we process emotions and other sensory information, we have different needs than most; both in terms of MOTIVATION and RESILIENCE. This is why most online business courses and entrepreneurship trainings fall short for us. It's not that there's something wrong with US; it's that typical guidance doesn't include the highly sensitive folks. So, if you've had a hard time with "marketing", sales, or other ESSENTIAL business functions, this is an episode for you. A must-listen for any empath who runs or wants to run their own business, Lola covers the 5 key elements of running a successful business as an HSP or empath. If this episode resonates, then it's a good indication that Empathology will help you fill in the gaps left behind by the other courses you've taken. Armed with resilience for success, visibility, and boundaries, you'll finally be able to succeed in business on YOUR terms. We're open for a limited INSIDERS launch right now, come claim your seat before Thursday 1/28 at 9pm pacific at Empathology.net! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you have a green thumb, an imposter complex, or prefer animals over humans? If so, then you've got some empowering insights headed your way in this episode; where Lola dives into the final three Empath Types: Herbal, Animal, and Communication. With riffs on money and HSPs and overcoming people-pleasing (and the secret reason so many of us do it) - this is a can't miss episode, no matter which type of empath YOU are. We've also opened the doors to Empathology for our Insiders' enrollment. There will never be a better time to say yes to joining this program! Visit empathology.net for more details and to enroll. Get your "Recovering People Pleaser" mug when you invest in full! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the second part of our series on the 9 Empath Types, Lola takes a deeper dive into the superpowers and kryptonite of Vibrational, Spiritual, and Somatic empaths. Because we are all "hybrids" - even if you don't think you're one of these types, there will no doubt be takeaways that you can apply to your own journey with boundaries and self-respect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lola catches you up on closing out 2020, shares some of the incredible insights that arose through her sabbatical from the show (and social media), and then takes a deep dive into the most popular, most undercover, and most metaphysical empath types revealed by our empath quiz. Read all the show notes, quotes, and more at: See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.