Podcast appearances and mentions of gemma hartley

This episode was originally published on May 5th, 2018. Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, making food for the potluck, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list goes on and on. Like a modern-day Greek chorus, women from across the country wrote in to the Dear Sugars inbox echoing identical inequalities in their relationships with their husbands and boyfriends. The Sugars commiserate with this aggrieved chorus along with Gemma Hartley, the writer who set off a national conversation about emotional labor with her viral article in Harper's Bazaar, “Women Aren't Nags — We're Just Fed Up.” Broaching the subject of emotional labor with a romantic partner can be tricky, especially if he feels as if he's being blamed for the imbalance of labor. The imbalance in Ms. Hartley's marriage began righting itself when she and her husband shifted their perspective: “This is not a problem with you and it's not a problem with me. It's a cultural problem. We have to unlearn a lot of things together in order to move forward." The Sugars Recommend “I Stand Here Ironing,” by Tillie Olsen “The Yellow Wallpaper,” by Charlotte Perkins Gilman

Jo is refreshed by Trouble in the Cotswalds by Rebecca Tope but Charlotte quickly ruins their peace by connecting the sex in Heather Lewis's violent novel Notice with Miranda July's NBA-shortlisted All Fours. The effervescent Emma Robinson joins to share her love for Dianne Brill's Boobs, Boys, and High Heels, which inspires further reflection on 90s era beauty books and instruction manuals.Other books mentioned in this episode: Steven Saylor's Murder on the Appian Way, Rachel Cusk's Aftermath, Gemma Hartley's Fed Up, Shelia Heti's Motherhood, Bobbi Brown's Teenage Beauty, Amanda Brooks' Internet Escort's Handbook, and Sydney Barrow's Mayflower Madam and Just Between Us Girls.Charlotte's review of All Fours and Gemma Hartley's Fed Up, both in Bookforum. Inspired at once by radical philosophers and tulips, Emma Cager Robinson is looking for beauty. As a mechanism for change and source of inspiration, Emma uses beauty as the driving force behind her activism. With a focus on Consciousness Raising and creating “Insurgents,” Emma uses media of all forms to shift the way we interrogate culture and the systems we interact with on a daily basis. A Texan at heart, she's especially impassioned about spreading this energy through the South; as a means of completing ancestral business, and working in a long line of women committed to making the world suck less for their families and communities.Send questions, requests, recommendations, and your own thoughts about any of the books discussed today to readingwriterspod at gmail dot com. Charlotte's most recent book is An Honest Woman: A Memoir of Love and Sex Work. Learn more at charoshane.comJo co-edits The Stopgap and their writing lives at jolivingstone.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of GHY, Misty shares an article from Good Housekeeping about The Wobbly Work of Finding Relationship Balance by author and friend of the podcast Gemma Hartley.If you'd like to hear our episode covering Gemma's viral Harpers Bazaar article titled Women Aren't Nags, We're Just Fed Up, you can do so here. You can also listen to our episode interviewing Gemma on her book Fed Up here.Have a question, a story you'd like to share, or a topic request? Get in touch with us! Email us at gohelpyourselfpodcast@gmail.comWant more GHY?Sign up for our newsletter at gohelpyourself.coFollow us on instagram @gohelpyourselfpodcast If you're enjoying GHY, please leave us a rating and review, as it helps other people find our show.xoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Back in 2015, journalist Gemma Hartley wrote an article for Harper's Bazaar that went viral. The article was about emotional labor & it really hit home for so many people - in fact 2 BILLION people read it. It led to Gemma writing a book on the topic & coming up with some real solutions to this incredibly familiar experience. Gemma is the author of Fed Up; Navigating & Redefining Emotional Labour For Good. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Gemma on Instagram⁠ & via her website. BOOKS Fed Up; Navigating & Redefining Emotional Labour For Good. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:55 - The Mother's Day that led Gemma to write the book 00:03:30 - What is emotional labor? 00:06:35 - Society assumes women are the default parent  00:08:00 - The mindset of ‘helping out'  00:10:40 - What happened when Gemma's husband became the full time at home parent 00:12:30 - The response to ‘stop being such a control freak' 00:15:00 - Setting shared standards 00:19:00 - Emotional labor for men in the dating period 00:21:12 - Why Gemma no longer asks for ‘help' at home 00:25:11 - How to explain the problem without it becoming a fight 00:30:18 - Why taking on the emotional labor can make partners' lives richer 00:33:15 - Having the expectation that this is going to require more than a single conversation 00:36:16 - Taking on the emotional labor of addressing emotional labor (!!) 00:40:30 - It's okay to leave if someone isn't meeting you where you are  

Bridging the Gap Community Group is a movement of gender equity through the community. Rowan Whitehead is the founder of this online community which includes over 64,000 members at the time this is published. It's a Facebook community group that you can join today. And I recommend that you do - because it offers support, encouragement, education, and practical tips when you feel stuck carrying too much of the load or when the gaps feel impossible to close. This community truly strives to help everyone feel heard and valued. You'll find the link to join in my episode description. In this episode Rowan and I will talk about: Community Finding community when you feel isolated or alone, especially in motherhood. And not just any community - but a supportive and intentional community striving to bridge the gaps you are battling in your own life. Emotions We will also talk about managing the resentment, anger, or other emotions that might come along in the process of noticing, calling out, and bridging those gaps. Along with overcoming internalized misogyny, addressing some questions and comments submitted on my community survey form, and so much more.  

Ariana Madix (Vanderpump Rules) and Meredith go WAY back - they've known each other longer than they haven't at this point. Ariana has some hot tips for Meredith on the egg retrieval process, talks about why she decided to freeze her eggs, and reproductive panic.Read the accompanying blog post here: https://backupplanpod.com/28-fertile-myrtle-w-ariana-madixWomen Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed Up, by Gemma Hartley: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/ CONNECT WITH ARIANAInstagram: https://instagram.com/arianamadixTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@arianamadix?lang=enDrink From Home: https://dfhcocktails.com/Support the showCONNECT WITH THE BACKUP PLAN Website: https://backupplanpod.comYouTube: https://www.www.youtube.com/@backupplanpodInstagram: https://instagram.com/backupplanpodTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@backupplanpodFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/backupplanpod CONNECT WITH MEREDITHInstagram: https://instagram.com/meredithk8 WORK WITH THE BACKUP PLANVisit https://backupplanpod.com/work-with-me for brand partnerships and business inquiries. Support the show: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=FTHC2VXY65NZNCreated, produced and hosted by Meredith Kate, co-produced by Julian Hagins.@backupplanpod on Instagram, TikTok, Pinterest, Facebook, and YouTube.Visit https://backupplanpod.com for show notes, transcripts, partner links, and our newsletter.

Gemma Hartley is a writing coach, freelance journalist, and author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She has spoken about emotional labor and the mental load around the world, and her writing has been featured in Marie Claire, Harper's Bazaar, The Washington Post, and many others. She is passionate about creating a world in which invisible and domestic labor is supported by both partners and public policy alike.  Mentioned in this episode: Fair Play with Eve Rodsky Rage Becomes Her by Soraya Chemaly Article: Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed Up Follow Realzachthinkshare  Follow Gemma: instagram.com/gemmalhartley/ Follow Erin on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about Erin:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠erinspahrtherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Support the podcast with a monthly donation:⁠⁠ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support⁠⁠⁠ Please note: The information provided on this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The content shared here is not intended to be professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. This page may contain affiliate links.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support

Have you ever heard the term, “emotional labor”?  It's that invisible, unappreciated caring you do for other people.  You're about to hear a lot about it as we talk with our guest, journalist Gemma Hartley, whose viral article "Women Aren't Nags, We're Just Fed Up" was viewed more than two BILLION times!  She's the author of, "Fed Up:  Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward".  Her website is http://www.gemmahartley.com/

Many parents struggle with the physicality of caring for children, but even more with the growing lack of autonomy new moms may feel in their personal and professional lives. Join us for an evening with Amanda Montei, author of Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control, and Kristi Coulter, author of Exit Interview: The Life and Death of My Ambitious Career. Moderated by Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward, Montei and Coulter will discuss the state of ambition for women, the often hidden labors of both parenthood and gender, emotional labor in the workplace and mental loads at home, and much more. Amanda Montei is the author of Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control, out now from Beacon Press, as well as the memoir Two Memoirs, and a collection of prose, The Failure Age. She has an MFA in Writing from California Institute of the Arts and a PhD from the Poetics Program at SUNY Buffalo. Amanda's work has been featured at New York Times, Elle, The Guardian, The Cut, Slate, Vox, HuffPost, Rumpus, The Believer, Ms. Magazine, and many others.  She lives in California. Kristi Coulter is the author of Exit Interview: The Life and Death of My Ambitious Career and Nothing Good Can Come From This, a Washington State Book Award finalist. Her work has also appeared in The Paris Review, New York Magazine, Elle, Glamour, The Believer, and many other publications. She teaches writing at Hugo House and lives in Seattle and Los Angeles. Gemma Hartley is a freelance journalist, speaker, and author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward. She has spoken on the topic of invisible labor around the world, from corporate conferences to festivals at the Sydney Opera House. Her writing has been featured in outlets including Harper's Bazaar, Women's Health, Glamour, The Washington Post, CNBC, Redbook, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Teen Vogue, and The Huffington Post. She is passionate about creating a more equitable world in which invisible labor is valued and supported by both personal partners and public policy alike. Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control Third Place Books

On this episode of Emotionally Unfucked, we welcome Gemma Hartley, author and writing coach, as a guest to talk to us about her book Fed Up. Gemma's article "Women Aren't Nags; We're Just Fed Up" went viral in 2017, sparking a national conversation on the mental load that women have been expected to burden and leading to her book, Fed Up. Her book not only names the problem of invisible work but also lays down the groundwork for men and women to learn how to wield emotional labor to live more full and satisfying lives. We're chatting more about: How her viral article idea turned into a book What is emotional labor and how it breaks down into 4 different parts The conversations partners should be having to help the burden The first step is to start dividing the emotional labor in a household Negative effects of not sharing the mental load Gemma's upcoming 6-week live course (August 23rd - Sept 27th) Pitched to Published to help freelance writers learn to pitch and get published in online publications and print magazines. She has extended a special offer for our listeners! Use code emotionallyunfucked to save $50 when signing up for Pitched to Published. Visit the link to learn more! https://gemma-hartley.square.site/product/pitched-to-published/1 Can't get enough of Gemma? We get it! Learn more about her and her book Fed Up here- http://www.gemmahartley.com/ Follow her on Instagram here- https://www.instagram.com/gemmalhartley/ Connect with Us! https://www.instagram.com/emotionallyunfucked/

Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list goes on and on. In this favorite episode from the archives, The Sugars commiserate with Gemma Hartley, the writer who set off a national conversation about emotional labor with her viral article in Harper's Bazaar, “Women Aren't Nags — We're Just Fed Up.”

Have you ever heard the term, “emotional labor”?  It's that invisible, unappreciated caring you do for other people.  You're about to hear more about it as we talk with our guest, journalist Gemma Hartley, whose viral article "Women Aren't Nags, We're Just Fed Up" was viewed more than two BILLION times!  Her book on the topic is called "Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward".  Her website is http://www.gemmahartley.com/   Thanks to our sponsor, Paired, the relationship app for couples. You and your partner download the app, “Pair” together, and every day Paired gives you questions, quizzes and games to have fun, stay connected and deepen your conversations. It's simple and often hilarious and heartwarming!   Each day you get a quiz to play, or a question to answer and you can't see your partner's answer until you answer yourself.  Whether you're just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it's time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Paired has a special offer for our Nobody Told Me! listeners.  Head to PAIRED.COM/NOBODY to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription.     Thanks to our sponsor, Lomi, the world's first Smart Waste Appliance.  If you've struggled with composting and feel it's too much work, or feel bad that you're not doing your part to help the environment, you have to check out Lomi, the countertop electric composter.  Just about anything you'd put into the kitchen disposer can be put into the Lomi on your countertop and turned into dirt in four hours.  Use that dirt in your garden! There's no smell when Lomi runs and it's really quiet.  Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi.  Lomi will make the perfect gift for someone on your shopping list!  Just head to LOMI.COM/NTM and use the promo code NTM to get $50 off your Lomi!

Holiday magic is made by women. The holiday season would be a lot less magical without the work that mostly women do to create it. In homes and in organisations, creating happiness for other people. It's an additional mental load, without us realising that it is. At this time of year, most of us are dealing with end-of-year workload: having budget meetings, wrapping up performance reviews, aligning on 2023 strategy, plus lots happening in our social lives and personal lives. The dash to the end of the year. But what about all of the little things that, put together, make you feel warm and fuzzy over the holidays… when you think about it: who does all of those things? Who adds the details that make the holidays special? 99% of Lisa's female clients turn up in overwhelm this time of year – and she doesn't hear her male clients being swamped in the same way . It's worth unpacking this and bringing in more gender equity. Let's recognise and appreciate the effort. Let's notice the contrast between the happiness created and the workload & time that it requires. Let's make conscious choices – up front – of what you want to do, skip or involve others in. Choose what works for *you. Let's also acknowledge that holidays can be difficult for people. Reach out to someone, to us. The holidays are not magic for everybody. If that's you: there are people out there that are happy to connect with you, including Lisa and me. And let's become more aware that, actually, creating holiday magic is a real expression of genuine leadership skills. Being able to attune to other human beings is exactly what happens in organizations when amazing and highly effective teams are created. Organizational magic is made by these skills. Recognise it as your interpersonal leadership skill that transfers to the workplace context. Make it a season that is magical, inclusive of the people that put so much of the work in. Happy holidays! Referenced: - ‘Holiday Magic Is Made By Women', Gemma Hartley in Huffpost. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/emotional-labor-holidays_n_5a1ec905e4b0d724fed5588a - ‘You should've asked', https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/comment-page-1/ More about us: Lisa Dempsey – https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisakdempsey/ - https://www.leadershiplabs.eu Marjolijn Vlug – https://www.linkedin.com/in/marjolijnvlug/ - https://www.marjolijnvlug.nl/?lang=en Reach us both at PeopleImpactPodcast@gmail.com

Do you find yourself carrying the mental load of motherhood? Moms often serve as the default parents. The housekeepers. The caregivers. The go-to for all of the to-do lists. It's a problem that can leave us overwhelmed, exhausted, and burnt out—and we often don't even realize it's happening. But we can make small changes that shift the household mental load and create buy-in from our partners.  Today, I'm joined by Gemma Hartley, journalist and author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward, to discuss how to rebalance the emotional and mental load of motherhood.  Show Notes: http://bit.ly/3V4l4G8  Book a Free 15 min Consult with a mom therapist: happyasamother.co/wellness  Follow Happy as a Mother on Instagram: instagram.com/happyasamother  Sign up for our weekly VIP Newsletter: happyasamother.co/newsletter  Register for one of our popular workshops: happyasamother.co/shop  

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LINK per iscriversi Ecco il link per iscriversi al webinar GRATUITO "Ti senti una mamma sbagliata" dove parleremo della rabbia delle mamme, del risentimento nei confronti del partner dopo i figli e di una nuova divisione del carico mentale.   Ciao ragazze, oggi con me ho Barbara Antongiovanni, psicologa e psicoterapeuta. E parliamo di carico mentale! Abbiamo letto entrambe il libro "Fed Up" di Gemma Hartley, un libro pubblicato in seguito di un articolo andato letteralmente virale dell'autrice sul tema del lavoro invisibile delle donne. L'articolo si intitola “Women Aren't Nags – We're Just Fed Up” “Le donne non sono delle rompiscatole, ne hanno solo abbastanza, sono piene”   FED UP affronta le questioni riguardanti il lavoro emotivo: le basi storiche e le radici del femminismo, i vantaggi e gli oneri di questo tipo di sforzo e i contesti specifici in cui il lavoro emotivo, altrimenti noto come "carico mentale", gioca un ruolo importante ma sottovalutato, tra cui relazioni, lavoro, sesso, genitorialità, politica e cura di sé.   ll lavoro emotivo non potrebbe essere più rilevante in questi tempi in cui stiamo vivendo. Se non ci imbocchiamo le maniche e lavoriamo su una divisione più equa all'interno delle nostre famiglie non possiamo aspettarci un cambiamento a riguardo. Aspetto le vostre riflessioni e esperienze legate al tema della puntata! Trovate tutti i link e i riferimenti di questa puntata e la trascrizione dell'intervista qui: Appunti   E vi invito a seguirmi  e scrivermi su Instagram: Natalia

In this episode Stephanie interviews her husband, Grant, about his experience with their daughter's hearing loss diagnosis. They explore together his take on the impact it had on him and their marriage. We discuss the topics of paternal post partum depression, learning to find balance and how to know when things just aren't right. Grant shares about how as a male, he processed his emotions through actions instead of words and learning to be comfortable with reaching out and sharing about his experience. Stephanie recommends the book FedUP by Gemma Hartley to start discussing the topic of emotional labor between a male/female partnerships. Stephanie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanielucas.mft/ For a transcript of this podcast please visit https://stephanielucasmft.wordpress.com Stephanie's email newsletter sign up: https://www.subscribepage.com/f8d8e6

“If you feel like you're doing everything, you're doing too much.” -Gemma Hartley. Have you ever been reading a book and got mad at the protagonist? Because you can't believe they are tolerating what they are tolerating and not advocating for themselves? I felt that way when I started Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward written by today's guest Gemma Hartley. It didn't take long for me to realize I wasn't mad AT her, I was mad WITH and FOR her. Her writing, her story, is so beyond relatable it feels like you're reading your own journal. Today we talk about how motherhood is often assumed to be synonymous with martyrdom, the pressure of “motherhood intuition,” and wondering where the hell “fatherly intuition” comes into play. Gemma Hartley is a freelance journalist and the author. She is passionate about creating a more equitable world in which invisible labor is valued and supported by both personal partners and public policy alike. Learn more about Gemma at www.gemmahartley.com and follow her on instagram at @gemmalhartley. More info in the shownotes here.   Download your free guide to the 20 Things No One Tells You About Pregnancy & Postpartum here. Want to connect with me further? Follow me on instagram and join our private Facebook community Mom's Club.  Want to learn more about what I do and why I do it? Are you looking to elevate your pregnancy and postpartum experience? Visit me www.alissa-alter.com

Women from across the country wrote in to the Dear Sugars inbox echoing identical inequalities in their relationships with their husbands and boyfriends. The Sugars commiserate with this aggrieved chorus, along with Gemma Hartley, the writer who set off a national conversation about emotional labor with her viral article in Harper's Bazaar, “Women Aren't Nags — We're Just Fed Up.” This episode was originally released on May 5, 2018. 

Gemma Hartley's 2017 Harper's Bazaar article "Women Aren't Nags, They're Just Fed Up" received 2 BILLION views online and sparked a national debate on Emotional Labour and the role that women play in it and the expectations of men. Join Scott today as he and Gemma discuss Emotional Labour and what it means for Women and how we can adopt better practices in our relationships.-Her book Fed Up: Emotional Labour, Women, and the Way Forward has sold 1000's & 1000's  of copies.-You can find Gemma's book on Amazon: https://read.amazon.ca/kp/embed?asin=B077MBP9XV&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_B49NY36P1SX5ZE9DDEHEor on her website: http://www.gemmahartley.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmalhartley/?hl=en-"Be the best possible version of yourself you can be!"-#podcaster #podcast #starttalking #surroundyourself #bethepebble #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #conversations #community #foreveryone #men #women-Support The Show* Become a Patron and  support the amazing guests and conversations we bring you every week! http://www.patreon.com/starttalking* Buy Us A Coffee: A one time donation helps us keep the mics on!  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/starttalking-Want To Start  A Podcast?Using the link below let's Buzzsprout know we sent you, gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan, and helps support our showhttps://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=303359-Join the conversation at https://weas.ca/ or https://www.flowcode.com/page/we_as_starttalking-Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter & YouTube:https://www.instagram.com/we_as_starttalking/https://www.facebook.com/WeAsStartTalkinghttps://twitter.com/we_as_https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwtKEIMBrxzrH4lUvHFrFHAFollow the link below to receive 50% off your first order with Farmly.http://www.farmlycanine.ca Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/starttalking)

Gemma Hartley's 2017 Harper's Bazaar article "Women Aren't Nags, They're Just Fed Up" received 2 BILLION views online and sparked a national debate on Emotional Labour and the role that women play in it and the expectations of men. Join Scott today as he and Gemma discuss Emotional Labour and what it means for Women and how we can adopt better practices in our relationships.-Her book Fed Up: Emotional Labour, Women, and the Way Forward has sold 1000's & 1000's  of copies.-You can find Gemma's book on Amazon: https://read.amazon.ca/kp/embed?asin=B077MBP9XV&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_B49NY36P1SX5ZE9DDEHEor on her website: http://www.gemmahartley.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmalhartley/?hl=en-"Be the best possible version of yourself you can be!"-#podcaster #podcast #starttalking #surroundyourself #bethepebble #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #conversations #community #foreveryone #men #women-Support The Show* Become a Patron and  support the amazing guests and conversations we bring you every week! http://www.patreon.com/starttalking* Buy Us A Coffee: A one time donation helps us keep the mics on!  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/starttalking-Want To Start  A Podcast?Using the link below let's Buzzsprout know we sent you, gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan, and helps support our showhttps://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=303359-Join the conversation at https://weas.ca/ or https://www.flowcode.com/page/we_as_starttalking-Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter & YouTube:https://www.instagram.com/we_as_starttalking/https://www.facebook.com/WeAsStartTalkinghttps://twitter.com/we_as_https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwtKEIMBrxzrH4lUvHFrFHAFarmly Canine Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREESupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/starttalking)

Gemma Hartley's 2017 Harper's Bazaar article "Women Aren't Nags, They're Just Fed Up" received 2 BILLION views online and sparked a national debate on Emotional Labour and the role that women play in it and the expectations of men. Join Scott today as he and Gemma discuss Emotional Labour and what it means for Women and how we can adopt better practices in our relationships.-Her book Fed Up: Emotional Labour, Women, and the Way Forward has sold 1000's & 1000's  of copies.-You can find Gemma's book on Amazon: https://read.amazon.ca/kp/embed?asin=B077MBP9XV&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_B49NY36P1SX5ZE9DDEHEor on her website: http://www.gemmahartley.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/gemmalhartley/?hl=en-"Be the best possible version of yourself you can be!"-#podcaster #podcast #starttalking #surroundyourself #bethepebble #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #conversations #community #foreveryone #men #women-Support The Show* Become a Patron and  support the amazing guests and conversations we bring you every week! http://www.patreon.com/starttalking* Buy Us A Coffee: A one time donation helps us keep the mics on!  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/starttalking-Want To Start  A Podcast?Using the link below let's Buzzsprout know we sent you, gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan, and helps support our showhttps://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=303359-Join the conversation at https://weas.ca/ or https://www.flowcode.com/page/we_as_starttalking-Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter & YouTube:https://www.instagram.com/we_as_starttalking/https://www.facebook.com/WeAsStartTalkinghttps://twitter.com/we_as_https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwtKEIMBrxzrH4lUvHFrFHA Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/starttalking)

Fed up? Burnt out? Feel like if you don't ask, it will never get done? Sick of doing it all? Oh my warriors, have you ever heard of emotional labor? Listen in to this week's episode as I get to interview Gemma Hartley, the interview of the book: FED UP! Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward. Listen in and then tell us what you think on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/smb.wellness or in the Warrior Women Facebook Community at facebook.com/groups/smbwell Show notes for this episode can be found at www.smbwell.com/139 The post Emotional Labor with Gemma Hartley appeared first on Susie Pettit.

Show Notes:Gemma Hartley is a freelancer writer, wife and mom of 3 who lives in Reno, Nevada. She writes about emotional labor, and wants to create a world in which invisible labor is valued and supported by both partners and public policy alike. What we talked about:Getting married at 20 and being together 16 yearsHaving severe postpartum depression with her 1st child and thinking she couldn't do it againDidn’t get postpartum depression with her 2nd and realized she wanted a 3rdHer article, “Women Aren’t Nags - We’re Just Fed Up” in Harper's Bazaar Talked about her personal experience with emotional labor and wider cultural implications of doing all of the invisible workNever expecting it to go viral What emotional labor is: the intersection of the mental load and the unseen work, as well as emotion management Constantly having to ask, keep track, delegate and monitor to make sure things are getting done, and having to ask in the right way to keep people happy Having huge blow ups about something that seems trivial, but it’s because of built up frustration Couples using her book as a way to start conversationsThe entire process of signing a contract for the book happened within one month of the article coming outPart of the contract was that the had 6 months to write the bookHer book deal coincided with her husband getting laid offShe and her husband struggling with emotional labor while she was writing the book Criticism about her book and pushback because it's a marker of structural inequity It impacts women of color and women who are poor at such a severe levelPeople who work in unappreciated jobs having no safety netSingle moms being treated differently than single dads Men aren’t expected to have to take care of their children Needing to be intentional about our language Thank you to ChildLife Essentials for sponsoring this episode! ChildLife Essentials has been a trusted children supplements brand for over 20 years and they are offering 10% off with the code CHILDLIFE10 at iHerb.com. ChildLife Essentials can also be found at Whole Foods & Amazon. *Talk to your healthcare provider about what supplements are right for your family. Follow Gemma on Instagram or her website.Follow Mommin’ Podcast on Instagram and FacebookThanks so much for listening and for supporting our podcast! Please rate the show, leave a review if you liked what you heard and make sure to subscribe on Amazon Music, iHeartRADIO, iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts or TuneIn!

Continuing the discussion about Feminized labor, Heaven discusses Invisible Labor and The Second Shift that is often times left to women to do. This type of labor is undervalued since there is no paycheck attributed with doing household labor. Heaven revisits Gemma Hartley's essay, "Women Aren't Nags--We're Just Fed Up" when discussing Invisible Labor, as well as references a classic I LOVE LUCY episode that acknowledges Invisible Labor."Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed Up" by Gemma Hartley:https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/Stavros Halkias's review of CASINO on Letterboxd:https://letterboxd.com/stavvybaby69/film/casino/

This week Heaven discusses the phrase Emotional Labor--what the actual definition of it is, the type of jobs that require a heavy use of Emotional Labor, the misuse of the word, how the definition has changed, and whether or not the misuse of the word will have a lasting impact on the Labor Movement.The articles referenced in this week's episode:"I was the first person to file a sexual harassment grievance at Verso Books. This is what happened" by Emily Janakiram:https://ejanakir1128.medium.com/i-was-the-first-person-to-file-a-sexual-harassment-grievance-at-verso-books-this-is-what-happened-c8a878fb5fef"Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed Up" by Gemma Hartley:https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/"The Trauma Floor" by Casey Newton:https://www.theverge.com/2019/2/25/18229714/cognizant-facebook-content-moderator-interviews-trauma-working-conditions-arizonaThis episode is dedicated to the loving memory of my mother, Mary Ann (1961-2011).

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING! Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups: Live and Love with Joyful Courage Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Join the Patreon Community and enjoy livestreams of solo shows, group coaching and a powerful community! www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage :::: My guest today is Gemma Hartley. Gemma is a freelance journalist and the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She’s a mom of 3 kids, 5, 7 and 10 Takeaways from the show: Gemma’s journey of being a writer The article that started her career  Not wanting to ask your family to do something, just wanting them to know to do it Teasing apart emotional labor The pressure that lays on moms’ shoulders What are shared standards Acknowledge your standards exist for a reason  Holding resentment when your significant other feels like they should get praise for things you do on a daily basis Being in conversation with our family in a way that supports everyone Make it normal to talk about emotional labor  Vulnerability with your partner is scary but necessary  When going into emotional labor conversations, be clear on your intentions The process of re-evaluating the life you share should include everyone being involved Tools that help make everyone feel supported in emotional labor Asking your kids to “help” you with household chores implies it is your job, which it isn’t Recognize the subtle messaging you’re giving your kids Where to find Gemma: Book | Website | Facebook | Instagram | Women Aren’t Nags Article | Emotional Labor Article What does joyful courage mean to you? I think for me it means doing the scary and vulnerable work that's going to lead to a life with more joy.  See you next week!! :) :::: Parenting for the Brave New World Mini Summit We are all walking into a new year with baggage -  some of it is collective, some of it unique to the individual… . But none of us escaped the radical journey that was 2020. The Parenting for a Brave New World summit is designed to put you IN CHARGE of creating the world and the life that you want. Yes, there are things that are out of our control, and YES we CAN live in an intentional way and change the experiences we are having. I have zeroed in on five areas of focus. Five areas that are the most POTENT areas for growth and relationship. 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Kate Davis talks to Gemma Hartley--writer, reporter, and author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward--about the disproportionate burden of emotional and unpaid labor women bear both at home and in the workplace.

This week, Lisa and Misty review How To Get A Man Without Getting Played: 29 Dating Secrets to Catch Mr. Right, Set Your Standards, And Eliminate Time Wasters by Bruce Bryans. We know. Can you believe we dipped our toes in this pool again? Just like our last review of his book, we can find nothing about this author, other than they are incredibly prolific and like to write lots of books about dating. From the author’s website: Bruce Bryans is a successful author with a passion for research into the dating and mating rituals of men and women. He doesn’t fashion himself as some all-knowing “relationship guru”, but instead prefers to provide insightful information based on the social and biological factors that bring men and women together for love and romance. In this How To Get A Man Without Getting Played book review podcast, we cover the following chapters: Introduction Chapter 1: How to Date a Man to Get His Love and Respect Chapter 2:  Power Dating Strategies for finding Mr. Right Chapter 3: The Beliefs and Standards of High-Value Women Chapter 4: How to Capture His Heart and Bring Out His Best Final Thoughts If you like what you're hearing, you can purchase the book here.  You can also visit the author's website here.  During this episode, we also mention the previous book we reviewed by Bruce Bryans. You can check out that book review here: Texts So Good He Can't Ignore: Sassy Texting Secrets for Attracting High-Quality Men (and Keeping the One You Want) by Bruce Bryans We also talk about our episode with author Gemma Hartley and her book Fed Up, where she discusses some of the ways rape culture is perpetuated. Listen here. You can also find our episodes reviewing For the Love of Men by Liz Plank here: Part One and Part Two.  Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review Go Help Yourself!

On the Well Woman Show this week, we discuss why women are fed up, according to Gemma Hartley, author and speaker whose book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward brings much-needed awareness to the invisible work shouldered by women. Her viral Harper's Bazaar article Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up sparked an international conversation about emotional labor inequality, and was shared and read by millions of readers. We discuss: - Woman's workload during the pandemic. - How we can build a culture of awareness, and bring men into the conversation, - and finally, why it is so important for us to abandon the need for perfectionism. All the information shared today can be found at the show notes at http://wellwomanlife.com/radio (wellwomanlife.com/radio) The book Gemma recommended were: Nobody Will Tell You This But Me: A True (as Told to Me) Story by https://bookshop.org/contributors/bess-kalb (Bess Kalb)You can also continue the conversation in the Well Woman Life community group at http://wellwomanlife.com/facebook (wellwomanlife.com/facebook). The Well Woman Show is thankful for the support from The Well Woman Academy™ and High Desert Yoga in Albuquerque. Support this podcast

On this edition of the Weekly Beef, we are joined by special guest Renee Colvert of the podcast "Can I Pet Your Dog?" to talk about how dogs can contribute to self-help. Renee Colvert is a Los Angeles based writer, comedian, and co-host of the wildly successful and entertaining podcast Can I Pet Your Dog? If you'd like to learn more about Renee, check out her twitter and instagram. If you'd like to see the explosion of adorableness that is her dog Tugboat, check out his very own instagram, too! (You can also see many other cute animals on GHY's insta account here.) Misty and Lisa were also guests on CIPYD and got to meet Tugboat, bring Lisa's dog Wrigley, and talk about her journey with him and her other dog Zoey. Check out that episode here. If you'd like to listen to the episode of GHY that covers the book Fed Up by Gemma Hartley, you can do that here.  And if you'd like to read I'll Be Home Soon, the book about preventing and treating your dog's separation anxiety, you can purchase it here.  As always, please rate, review and subscribe to Go Help Yourself!

Welcome to our summer series, where we play you some of our favourite episodes that you might have missed or might want to revisit.  A woman’s work is never done. And author Gemma Hartley knows this. Whether she’s at home or in the office, there’s a whole layer of labour done predominantly by women that most men can’t even see. Emotional labour is being the person who notices problems, delegates solutions and makes sure life goes smoothly for everyone around her. It’s noticing there’s barely any milk left and then doing something about it - and changing the toilet paper roll when it’s run out. This work is invisible and exhausting at the same time. And it’s not just something experienced by mothers or women in relationships. A couple of years ago Gemma Hartley wrote an essay about emotional labour after a particularly disastrous Mothers Day. It went viral and it led to her writing a whole book on the subject - Gemma’s book is called Fed Up and she joins me now to talk about it... The regular season of No Filter returns Jan 20th 2020 Click here to subscribe to No Filter. CREDITS: Host: Mia Freedman  With thanks to special guest Gemma Hartley Find her book Fed Up at apple.co/mamamia Producer: Elissa Ratliff GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Email the show at podcast@mamamia.com.au No Filter is a podcast by Mamamia. Find more shows here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to our summer series, where we play you some of our favourite episodes that you might have missed or might want to revisit.  A woman’s work is never done. And author Gemma Hartley knows this. Whether she’s at home or in the office, there’s a whole layer of labour done predominantly by women that most men can’t even see. Emotional labour is being the person who notices problems, delegates solutions and makes sure life goes smoothly for everyone around her. It’s noticing there’s barely any milk left and then doing something about it - and changing the toilet paper roll when it’s run out. This work is invisible and exhausting at the same time. And it’s not just something experienced by mothers or women in relationships. A couple of years ago Gemma Hartley wrote an essay about emotional labour after a particularly disastrous Mothers Day. It went viral and it led to her writing a whole book on the subject - Gemma’s book is called Fed Up and she joins me now to talk about it... The regular season of No Filter returns Jan 20th 2020 Click here to subscribe to No Filter. CREDITS: Host: Mia Freedman  With thanks to special guest Gemma Hartley Find her book Fed Up at apple.co/mamamia Producer: Elissa Ratliff GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Email the show at podcast@mamamia.com.au No Filter is a podcast by Mamamia. Find more shows here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to our summer series, where we play you some of our favourite episodes that you might have missed or might want to revisit.  A woman’s work is never done. And author Gemma Hartley knows this. Whether she’s at home or in the office, there’s a whole layer of labour done predominantly by women that most men can’t even see. Emotional labour is being the person who notices problems, delegates solutions and makes sure life goes smoothly for everyone around her. It’s noticing there’s barely any milk left and then doing something about it - and changing the toilet paper roll when it’s run out. This work is invisible and exhausting at the same time. And it’s not just something experienced by mothers or women in relationships. A couple of years ago Gemma Hartley wrote an essay about emotional labour after a particularly disastrous Mothers Day. It went viral and it led to her writing a whole book on the subject - Gemma’s book is called Fed Up and she joins me now to talk about it... The regular season of No Filter returns Jan 20th 2020 Click here to subscribe to No Filter. CREDITS: Host: Mia Freedman  With thanks to special guest Gemma Hartley Find her book Fed Up at apple.co/mamamia Producer: Elissa Ratliff GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Email the show at podcast@mamamia.com.au No Filter is a podcast by Mamamia. Find more shows here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, making food for the potluck, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list goes on and on. The Sugars commiserate with Gemma Hartley, the writer who set off a national conversation about emotional labor with her viral article in Harper’s Bazaar, “Women Aren’t Nags — We’re Just Fed Up.” This episode was originally published on May 5th, 2018.

The holidays are supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, right? Ha! For moms it’s easily the most stressful time of year. There’s the gift giving, schedule planning, cleaning, decorating, hosting and often times the managing of family politics – all of the behind the scenes work that make the holidays magical. Not to mention, this is on top of our daily chores and responsibilities!Intentional or not, most of us have morphed into MOMAGERS and that is where the concept of EMOTIONAL LABOUR comes into play.  So, what is emotional labour and how do we tackle it? Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up, a book about emotional labour and the mental load, is on this episode to break it down.

Är känslomässigt arbete feminismens nya frontlinje? I boken Så jävla trött! skriver Gemma Hartley om det praktiska och känslomässiga ansvar som oftast faller på kvinnor och som omgivningen tar för givet: tänka ut presenter, ha koll på barnens skola, veta när det är dags att handla mjölk. Hon talar med Cristina Grenholm. Samtalet förs på engelska. Medarrangör: Natur & Kultur

Gemma Hartley, author of the book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward is here to delve in to this fascinating subject and offer some advice! For more information or to purchase: Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Woman and the Way Forward by Gemma Hartley You can find Gemma on her website, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Also in this episode: 12 Indigenous Picture Books To Add To Your Collection Own Your Anxiety: 99 Simple Ways To Channel Your Secret Edge by Julian Brass The Braid by Laetitia Colombani 6 Rules I Break (By a Big Rule-Follower)

Writer, reporter, and author Gemma Hartley talks with Nate and Erica about her book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. Hartley discusses why women often take on such a large share of the unseen and undervalued work in the home and offers practical advice on how partners can begin establishing more equality.…

It's finally happening… we're talking about Harry Potter on the podcast! More specifically, Episode 60 of SSR is all about the book that started it all: Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone. In this episode, we talk about why the books have been challenged by conservative communities, obsess over the amazing world of Hogwarts and beyond, and chat about what we would have liked to see more of from Rowling's female characters. Alli also reveals her true feelings about the movie adaptations and takes a guess at which House she would be sorted into. And that's just the start… there's so much to talk about when it comes to Harry! Learn more about guest Gemma Hartley by following her on Instagram (@gemmalhartley) and Twitter (@gemmahartley).

Misty and Lisa check in on their homework from the book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward by Gemma Hartley. Plus, Lisa shares a thought-provoking Twitter thread from @JenMarieWilde about her experience with the New Age Movement.  We also mention @rachel.cargle and @NoWhiteSaviors as great resources online. 

This week, Misty and Lisa are losing their minds because AUTHOR Gemma Hartley joins GHY as a special guest to discuss her book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward! Gemma Hartley is a writer, reporter, and author of the viral Harper's Bazaar article Women Aren't Nags -- We're Just Fed Up. She specializes in the subject areas of feminism, pop-culture, health & wellness, finance, budgeting, and mindfulness writing. Her work has been featured in outlets including Harper’s Bazaar, Women’s Health, Glamour, The Washington Post, CNBC, Redbook, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Teen Vogue, and The Huffington Post. Her other regular clients include sites such as Ravishly, Headspace, Big City Moms, Romper, and SheKnows. She lives with her husband, three young children, a wonderful dog and a terrible cat in Reno, Nevada.  Check out Gemma's website here! That's also where you can purchase this amazing book! You can also follow Gemma on instagram at @GemmaLHartley Here's Gemma's episodes of Zen Parenting Radio and Dear Sugars if you'd like to listen to it with your partners, as she suggests! Please write to us at gohelpyourselfpodcast@gmail.com and let us know what you thought of this very special episode! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Go Help Yourself!

Vi talar om emotionellt arbete och det ogripbara begäret. Läsning: "Women aren't nags - We're just fed up" av Gemma Hartley och "Men have no friends and women bear the burden" av Melanie Hamlett, båda publicerade av Haarpers Bazaar.

Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4th – click here to join Team Zen and participate.

Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4th – click here to join Team Zen and participate.

Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4th – click here to join Team Zen and participate.

Misty and Lisa cover the viral Harper's Bazaar article Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up: Emotional Labor Is the Unpaid Job Men Still Don't Understand by Gemma Hartley.  The article was published in Harpers Bazaar on September 27, 2017. You can read the full mental load article here.  If you'd like to see the graphics from the bureau of labor statistics representing the average amount of time per day men and women spend on household activities, you can do so here.  For other articles on the mental load, check out this brilliant comic from The Guardian and this article from a heteronormative man's perspective.     

Do you anticipate other’s needs before your own? Does your brain house the master to-do list for your entire family? You're a queen of emotional labor — the unpaid and unnoticed work that many women do to keep their loved ones happy. Gemma Hartley, author of "Women Aren’t Nags; We’re Just Fed Up," tells us all how we can cut back, and stand up for ourselves. In Mailbag, how to invest in Roth IRAs, prioritize saving versus investing, plus the dos and don’ts for downsizing.

We often talk about women’s unpaid labour — the work women do in the home, in terms of child rearing, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, and so on and so forth, that not only is uncompensated,…

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In the era of the #MeToo movement, Black Lives Matter and a torrent of books on the subject, it’s a time when women’s anger at the inequality built into our financial, economic and social systems is finally being heard. Or at least some women’s anger is. In this week’s episode, we’re talking with emotional labor expert and author Gemma Hartley, and comedian and author Sarah Cooper, about the moment women’s rage is having, the steps that most of us must still take to function in a male-oriented career world, and the tired old stereotype of the angry black woman.   Links from the show: CNBC story with “Tanja Hester and her husband” Gemma Hartley’s book, Fed Up Sarah Cooper’s book, How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings Rebecca Traister’s book, Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women’s Anger Soraya Chemaly’s book, Rage Becomes Her Burn It Down: Writing About Women’s Anger, edited by Lilly Dancyger

After giving Fox a little extra screen-time, Zoe is dealing with some serious parent guilt, but Sean reassures her that a little extra Elmo doesn’t make you a bad parent! If you’ve ever experienced parent guilt or burn out, we’d love to hear from you. Call us on 02 8999 9386 or email us podcast@mamamia.com.au Plus, after listening to a recent No Filter episode on how emotional labour makes women feel exhausted, Zoe and Sean discuss how parenting responsibilities play out in their relationships and how it affects their ability to raise their kids. And if you’ve ever struggled to find the perfect baby name, Zoe and Sean talk about everything they thought about before they named their kids… And there’s a lot more to it than you might think… For more on emotional labour, you can listen here…Mia Freeman talking to Gemma Hartley on Emotional Labour...https://omny.fm/shows/no-filter/emotional-labour And on Mamamia Out Loud… https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/ CREDITS:Host: Zoe Marshall & Sean SzepsProducer: Amelia NavascuesGET IN TOUCHUp in the middle of the night scrolling through Facebook? Why not join other parents just like you on our Facebook page ... https://www.facebook.com/TheMotherish/ Are you in the baby bubble and want to tell someone about it? Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au Find more episodes of this and other Mamamia podcasts here... https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/ This show is brought to you by Big W where they've got all your baby needs covered. Want to take part in our survey? For your chance to win three $100 gift vouchers, head to...www.mamamia.com.au/babybubblechancetowin Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you eat the same thing every day for lunch? How about breakfast? And why does it matter? A recent article in the Atlantic looked at people who eat the same thing every day and as a regular chicken sandwich eater, Jessie thinks it’s a great idea.   Holly thinks it’s boring...until she realises she’s not all that adventurous herself. So does eating the same thing every day make you a bore or a decision making genius? Plus, following Mia’s recent interview with Gemma Hartley, the Outlouders discuss the complexities around emotional labour in a relationship and how it’s leaving women exhausted. So, is it really the responsibility for women to tell men to step up and do the dishes or should they do it without being asked?  And is the situation the same in same-sex couples? WANT MORE?   Listen to Mia’s interview with Gemma Hartley on the most recent episode of No Filter here… https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/no-filter/emotional-labour/  Listen to our bonus episode debriefing the verdict of Archbishop George Pell here… https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/george-pell-extra/  END BITS Hosts: Mia Freedman, Jessie Stephens and Holly Wainwright. Producers: Amelia Navascues and Rachel Corbett COME TALK TO US Join the Out Louders Facebook group GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Email the show at outloud@mamamia.com.au Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia Mamamia Out Loud is a podcast by Mamamia. Find more shows here.

A woman’s work is never done. And author Gemma Hartley knows this. Whether she’s at home or in the office, there’s a whole layer of labour done predominantly by women that most men can’t even see. Emotional labour is being the person who notices problems, delegates solutions and makes sure life goes smoothly for everyone around her. It’s noticing there’s barely any milk left and then doing something about it - and changing the toilet paper roll when it’s run out. This work is invisible and exhausting at the same time. And it’s not just something experienced by mothers or women in relationships. A couple of years ago Gemma Hartley wrote an essay about emotional labour after a particularly disastrous Mothers Day. It went viral and it led to her writing a whole book on the subject - Gemma’s book is called Fed Up and she joins me now to talk about it... Click here to subscribe to No Filter. CREDITS: Host: Mia Freedman  With thanks to special guest Gemma Hartley http://www.gemmahartley.com/  Find her book Fed Up at apple.co/mamamia Producer: Elissa Ratliff GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Email the show at podcast@mamamia.com.au Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia No Filter is a podcast by Mamamia. Find more shows here.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A woman’s work is never done. And author Gemma Hartley knows this. Whether she’s at home or in the office, there’s a whole layer of labour done predominantly by women that most men can’t even see. Emotional labour is being the person who notices problems, delegates solutions and makes sure life goes smoothly for everyone around her. It’s noticing there’s barely any milk left and then doing something about it - and changing the toilet paper roll when it’s run out. This work is invisible and exhausting at the same time. And it’s not just something experienced by mothers or women in relationships. A couple of years ago Gemma Hartley wrote an essay about emotional labour after a particularly disastrous Mothers Day. It went viral and it led to her writing a whole book on the subject - Gemma’s book is called Fed Up and she joins me now to talk about it... Click here to subscribe to No Filter. CREDITS: Host: Mia Freedman  With thanks to special guest Gemma Hartley http://www.gemmahartley.com/  Find her book Fed Up at apple.co/mamamia Producer: Elissa Ratliff GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Email the show at podcast@mamamia.com.au Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia No Filter is a podcast by Mamamia. Find more shows here.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A woman’s work is never done. And author Gemma Hartley knows this. Whether she’s at home or in the office, there’s a whole layer of labour done predominantly by women that most men can’t even see. Emotional labour is being the person who notices problems, delegates solutions and makes sure life goes smoothly for everyone around her. It’s noticing there’s barely any milk left and then doing something about it - and changing the toilet paper roll when it’s run out. This work is invisible and exhausting at the same time. And it’s not just something experienced by mothers or women in relationships. A couple of years ago Gemma Hartley wrote an essay about emotional labour after a particularly disastrous Mothers Day. It went viral and it led to her writing a whole book on the subject - Gemma’s book is called Fed Up and she joins me now to talk about it... Click here to subscribe to No Filter. CREDITS: Host: Mia Freedman  With thanks to special guest Gemma Hartley http://www.gemmahartley.com/  Find her book Fed Up at apple.co/mamamia Producer: Elissa Ratliff GET IN TOUCH: Call the PodPhone on 02 8999 9386. Email the show at podcast@mamamia.com.au Find any book mentioned at apple.co/mamamia No Filter is a podcast by Mamamia. Find more shows here.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Likeability is still a huge issue for women in the workforce – they can’t just be good at what they do, they have to be likeable in the process”. Sobering words from journalist Gemma Hartley, whose new book Fed Up explores the burden of invisible labour and why it tends to fall more heavily on women both at home and in the workplace - as well as offering up practical solutions on how to better navigate it. Plus some advice for a listener who’s concerned about the lack of diversity in their office, and not sure how best to address it. Fed Up by Gemma Hartley Find Gemma Hartley on Twitter (@gemmahartley) For more career-related ideas and advice, join the Women Who community by signing up at www.womenwho.co, or follow @oteghauwagba and @womenwho on Instagram and Twitter.

Gemma Hartley is the author of” Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward,” and I’m thrilled to have her on the podcast to talk about emotional labor. Defined as “the invisible work women do to keep people around them happy,” emotional labor is a topic that doesn’t get talked about a lot, and often takes a toll on women and relationships. I’m excited that Gemma has opened the door for this discussion by addressing the topic, and offering thoughts on ways to move forward. Resources Gemma Hartley’s Website Gemma Hartley’s original article “Women aren’t Nags, we’re just Fed Up” on  Harpers Bazaar Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward by Gemma Hartley on Amazon

What exactly is emotional labour? Nas talks about it all the time, Dan is still unclear about what it is, so he speaks to Gemma Hartley, Author of ‘Fed Up: Emotional labor, women and the way forward', to find out more. Guest:Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up: Emotional labor, women and the way forward http://www.gemmahartley.com/Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host:Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Sign up to our newsletter via our contact page https://www.thegenderknot.com/contact/ Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Marie Claire and The Thinkergirls Present We Need To Talk About...Today's Topic: Emotional Labour00:44 - Foreword from Editor of Nikki Briger1:27 - What actually is ‘emotional labor’ in a relationship to Stace and Kristie? 5:43 - Women bit by bit taking on more in relationships 8:18 - Feminine and masculine energy in relationships. We’re not just talking about men and women here 12:27 - Kids being a game-changer for ‘emotional labour’ in relationships 15:33 - What are some of the take outs from the article that went viral? 20:30 - Why conversation is key 23:19 - How millennials / new relationships are reshaping the way the dynamic works Women Aren’t Nags We’re Just Fed Up by Gemma Hartley. Originally featured HERE ‘Fed Up’ By Gemma Hartly - Read HERE https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/38647406-fed-upMore from The Thinkergirls:Email us – hello@thinkergirl.com.auFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/thinkergirlsInstagram – https://instagram.com/thethinkergirlsAll Podcasts – http://bit.ly/2wviSir See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Our guest this week on the pod is Gemma Hartley, the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. Gemma Hartley is a writer, reporter, and author. In September 2017, Gemma wrote an article that went viral, titled Women Aren’t Nags – We’re Just Fed Up. That article was viewed by over 2 billion people and gave voice to the frustration and anger of countless women, breaking the dam on the conversation around emotional labor. Fed Up picks off where the article left off, expanding on the role and impact of emotional labor in our lives. Fed Up is on sale now. Gemma sat down with Ana Maria Alessi, and talked about what she wants the book to accomplish on a national level, why the reach of her article surprised her, the difference between how boys and girls are rewarded for empathy, and more.

Gemma Hartley is the author of the new book  Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. The book was inspired by a viral article that Gemma wrote for Harper’s Bazaar called “Women Aren’t Nags - We’re just fed up.” It was read more than 2 billion times, so clearly it struck a cord and it definitely resonated with me. In our conversation Gemma pulls from her own life experiences as a mother and wife that I think we’ll find all-too familiar. We discuss how she defines emotional labor, how women often find themselves bearing the brunt of it...And what is the way forward to living a fuller and more satisfying life? To learn more about Gemma, visit www.GemmaHartley.com and follow her on Twitter and Instagram.

Gemma's Hartley's book, FED UP. Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward, tackles gender relations and roles by way of the housework! Gemma's article on this topic in Harper's Bazaar got 2 billion views! Listen as she discusses how to make marriages equitable. 

In this episode, Izzy and Grace drill-down on Lena Dunham: Is she the self-absorbed narcissist the media insists on painting her as? Or is she a victim of a sexist culture that holds women to a higher account than men? Plus, a deep dive on the concept of ‘emotional labour' in the wake of Gemma Hartley's new book ‘Fed Up'. Plus Plus, Izzy has found Gossip Girl 2.0 (kinda) and how Grace lost her mind on Black Friday.You can email us on afterworkdrinks@gmail.com, join our Facebook closed group ‘After Work Drinks Podcast' and follow us on Instagram at @isabelletruman and @grceoneill.Links: Yeah, I'm Not for Everyone.' Lena Dunham comes to terms with herselfhttps://www.thecut.com/2018/11/lena-dunham-comes-to-terms-with-herself.htmlArmchair Expert with Dax Shepard https://armchairexpertpod.com/pods/lena-dunham‘Fed Up: Navigating and redefining emotional labour for good' by Gemma Hartleyhttps://www.hachette.com.au/gemma-hartley/fed-up-navigating-and-redefining-emotional-labour-for-goodWhy Women Still Can't Have It All by Anne-Marie Slaughterhttps://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/ Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Gemma provides her expertise on the subject of Emotional Labor, addresses the resentment that often arises around the unpaid work done to sustain a family, and gives great examples and advice on how to share responsibilities at home.  We did this interview after her wildly popular Harper Bazaar articles on emotional labor, before her book Fed Up was released.

In this thought-provoking episode, we pick apart the concept of emotional labor with Gemma Hartley, whose Harper·s Bazaar article Women Aren·t Nags · We·re Just Fed Up went viral last year. Gemma is releasing a book on the subject the day this episode airs called Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward.  Gemma talks about why she feels doing less isn’t always the answer, her feelings on 50/50 splits, and much more.  In the intro, Sarah admits she may have planning fatigue, and a listener writes in about whether to prioritize job satisfaction/opportunity vs being home to greet kids after school.

Have you ever heard the term, “emotional labor”?  It's that invisible, unappreciated caring you do for other people.  You’re about to hear a lot about it as we talk with our guest, journalist Gemma Hartley, whose viral article "Women Aren't Nags, We're Just Fed Up" was viewed more than two BILLION times! Her new book is called Fed Up:  Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional Labor: The load. The mental labor. Author Gemma Hartley sums it up in the introduction of her book Fed UP: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward as, “a special kind of invested effort encompassing the anticipation of needs, the weighing and balancing of competing priorities, and the empathy of putting oneself in someone else’s shoes, among other factors.” Or, it’s knowing about homework assignments and meal planning. It’s how holidays magically seem to happen. It’s remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and when to buy toilet paper. It’s a lot, but it is also invisible. 

 The invisible work that women have predominately been keepers of and responsible for passing on to generations is finally coming to the forefront and we’re wondering, there has got to be a better way. 


 Gemma admits this is still the beginning of the conversation, but it’s an exciting beginning. 

Fed Up is a book that explores how our culture got to this moment, how engrained emotional labor effects women in the home, workplace, and culturally at large, and starts to ask questions about why we need this work to be seen and valued.

Whoa - Gemma Hartley had me at FED UP. If you're wondering why you're so tired, have a listen to this podcast to consider the emotional labor you're putting out in your life. Gemma wrote a 2017 piece in Harper's Bazaar that that went viral - as in nearly a million share and over 2 billion clicks. (You read that right!). The piece focused on a hot issue for so many women: how women are typically the ones doing most of the emotional work around the home. Wonder what that is? Make yourself a cup of tea (Gemma's having English breakfast, I'm having cardamom cinnamon), lie down, and join us.  As always, I'd love to hear your comments below or on Facebook or Instagram. Be sure to check out the show notes to read her viral piece. Show Resources Gemma's viral piece in Harper's Bazaar: Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up: Emotional Labor is the Unpaid Job Men Still Don't Understand Pre-order Gemma's book, Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward. The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling by Arlie Russell Hochschild  Oprah & her book The Wisdom of Sundays Michelle Obama

Does this sentence sound familiar? "I don't want to have to ask you to do it, I just want you to do it!". Today, I get to talk with Gemma Hartley, who is a writer, reporter, and author of a forthcoming book on emotional labor and the mental load. This idea of emotional labor went viral after Gemma wrote an article for Harpers Bazaar entitled, "Women aren't nags - we're just fed up".

Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, making food for the potluck, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list goes on and on. Women from across the country wrote in to the Dear Sugars inbox echoing identical inequalities in their relationships with their husbands and boyfriends. The Sugars commiserate with this aggrieved chorus, along with Gemma Hartley, the writer who set off a national conversation about emotional labor with her …

Gemma provides her expertise on the subject of Emotional Labor, addresses the resentment that often arises around the unpaid work done to sustain a family, and gives great examples and advice on how to share responsibilities at home.

Dr. Lynn Ponton and Jennifer Wong, LMFT talk about "Emotional Labor" sparked by the article http://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12780277/emotional-labor-men-respond/ "Men Everywhere Finally Understand Emotional Labor" by Gemma Hartley

'Tanya' writes in, discussing her inability to date a guy who is dynamic and ready to settle down. Some sage sex advice and so much more in this Solo Ep. Also, Christmas gift ideas, and why emotional labor is ramped up during the holiday season. I discuss the article 'Holiday Magic Is Made By Women. And It's Killing Us' by Gemma Hartley. Sex Actually is a free form podcast that talks about sex, dating, relationships and all that is right and wrong with the dynamics of love. We chat about how we were raised, what makes us unique. Its fun AND we learn alittle about each other. Hope you enjoy! Dave @dnealz @sexactuallypod

On this episode Kara and Tanja dive deep into the concept of "emotional labor," an idea that has recently gotten more attention thanks to a kickass piece in Harper's Bazaar by Gemma Hartley entitled, "Women aren't nags -- we're just fed up." We talk to Gemma and do some of our own exploration of the emotional labor in our own lives, and how it affects us, our relationships, and our money. Come chat emotional labor and how it disproportionately affects women. Season 1 of The Fairer Cents is sponsored by FreshBooks, the cloud accounting software that's changing the world for freelancers and small business owners everywhere. Go to www.freshbooks.com/tfc and enter "the fairer cents" in the how did you hear about us section to get your free one-month trail of FreshBooks.

Emotional labor is the avocado toast of women's topics these days. Valerie and Regina discuss the recent viral Harper's Bazaar piece written by Gemma Hartley and other articles on this topic and try to figure out what emotional labor actually and how it shows up in our relationships and workplaces. Is everything that you have a feeling around emotional labor? Or is it emotional labor the the work that work that comes with making decisions that keep our jobs and households moving, work that goes unspoken and that society takes for granted simply because women are usually the ones doing it? We get real in-depth. We also chat about harassment and assault and the groundswell of women and the media openly talking about it. This shit isn't going away. Help Wanted is sponsored the women who have to deal with their own harassment and assault experiences, while comforting their male friends who feel pretty bad up on learning their hero got naked in front of women and masturbated in front of them. 

Sorry guys! We're going to blame this on Morgan's jet lag subsconsiously trying to etch Shannon out! Version of this episode uploaded yesterday was just Morgan talking to herself. Smh! Enjoy the actual episode! -- Episode 38 of #TwoWiseJawns is available for your listening pleasure on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play, and SoundCloud. Are you a "nag"? Or are you simply emotionally labored? Last week the internet blazed atwitter with conversations and think-pieces on "Emotional Labor" as the result of an article by Gemma Hartley written for Harper's Bazaar called "Women Aren't Nags - We're Fed Up." Emotional Labor is the process of managing feelings and expressions to fulfill the the emotional requirements of a job or task. Essentially women, particularly those in heterosexual relationships, are TIYAD. Overworked. Underpaid. And still expected to cook dinner for the family even though her husband got home from work two hours before her. #SKRESSED. We explore the dynamic and pose questions related to the phenomenon of "emotional labor" and why it seems women are the only ones experiencing it. Is it a biological gender difference? Do women care about the details more so than men? Is it a communication issue? Is it an acceptance issue? Are women doomed to be stressed!? We discuss that and more! HOT TOPICS: - Unfortunately we didn't get to touch on Harvey Weinstein and the predatory nature of the rich and powerful [men], but will next week. Important. - Trump vs. NFL vs. Puerto Rico. - Is the government regressing on reproductive rights (Birth Control), social welfare (CHIP), and 1st amendment? - Is the 2nd amendment the true law of America? via Las Vegas shooting and NRA. - All of the Kardashians are preggers - congrats to Khloe the most! - Is Cam Newton sexist for questioning a female sports reporter's knowledge of routes? Is sports reporter Jourdan Rodrigue racist? - RIP AIM! AOL Instant Messenger is retiring its services this year. Shout out your screen name from childhood and tag us! Recorded Sunday, October 8, 2017.