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Best podcasts about good a proven prescription

Latest podcast episodes about good a proven prescription

Luke Ford
Trump's Days Of Thunder (2-16-25)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2025 79:18


01:00 The Mayor of Kingstown, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mayor_of_Kingstown 09:50 The Elon Musk Show 14:00 The Premiere League is the world's most competitive soccer league and it is much more athletic and intense than it used to be 28:00 The Age of Empire Strikes Back: Stephen Kotkin on Trump, Wrestling, and the Use of American Power, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIhwjiJBUz8 30:00 Dooovid joins to discuss multi-culturalism vs racial identity 49:00 Trump's Gaza plan 1:03:10 Kip joins to discuss his birthday on Valentine's Day 1:04:20 The fall of England & Australia 1:08:00 The American work ethic 1:20:00 Treat Your Own Knee by Robin McKenzie, https://www.amazon.com/Treat-Your-Own-Knee-838/dp/0987650483/ 1:26:00 Jewish vs goyisha suffering perspectives 1:29:00 Underearners Anonymous, https://www.underearnersanonymous.org/newcomers-to-underearners-anonymous/symptoms-of-underearning/ 1:33:00 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 2:06:00 John Mearsheimer Feb. 12 said Trump wasn't settling the Ukraine war 2:08:00 Feb. 13, Mearsheimer changes his analysis of Trump settling the Ukraine war, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8G9I1ZdEGU 2:18:30 After Pete Hegseth's speech Feb. 12, Mearsheimer completed changed his analysis on the war in Ukraine, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5-L5pyXLZQ 2:29:00 The ideological straitjacket strangling real talk 2:38:00 WP: Trump's global funding freeze leaves anti-terror programs in limbo, https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2025/02/16/trump-funding-freeze-terrorism-africa/ 2:40:00 Politico: Trump's Anti-DEI Edicts Just Scared a Big Sponsor Away From a Major Pride Event, https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2025/02/14/booz-allen-worldpride-sponsor-00204059 2:55:00 Shawn Ryan: Lindy Li - Obama's Third Term, Kamala Paying Beyoncé, Cardi B, and Oprah, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHXVeLVHWuY 3:01:00 The pundit's privilege, https://thecritic.co.uk/the-commentators-privilege/ 3:06:30 Politico: Dems concede Republicans ‘running circles' around them online as Trump remakes Washington, https://www.politico.com/news/2025/02/16/democrats-losing-trump-doge-information-battle-00204522 3:19:00 A mystery novel in defense of Barry Manilow, https://www.amazon.com/Misdemeanor-Man-Novel-Dylan-Schaffer/dp/1582344604

Luke Ford
Learning To Forgive For Good (2-12-25)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025 115:28


01:00 NYT: Vance Is Laying the Groundwork, https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/12/opinion/jd-vance-donald-trump.html 04:30 Jesse Waters 08:00 My initial step four experience in 2012, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=47372 24:00 Elliott Blatt joins the show to discuss a resentment 32:00 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 52:00 The problem (Adult Children of Alcoholics), https://adultchildren.org/literature/problem/ 58:00 Al Anon questionaire, https://adultchildren.org/literature/problem/ 1:08:00 My step one journey from 2012, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=44793 1:11:00 My step two journey from 2012, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=44798 1:14:40 Forgiveness Workshop | Dr. Fred Luskin, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJ5o6DsCa90 1:19:45 The Alexander Technique and Addiction Recovery, https://alexanderaudio.com/applications/addiction/ 1:22:00 Alexander Technique lesson, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXqIuvav5hY 1:25:00 Alexander Technique teacher Robert Rickover, https://www.bodylearningblog.com/about-robert/ 1:42:00 The Chair: Rethinking Culture, Body and Design by Galen Cranz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U47uK4opHeg https://odysee.com/@LukeFordLive, https://rumble.com/lukeford, https://dlive.tv/lukefordlivestreams Superchat: https://entropystream.live/app/lukefordlive Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford, Best videos: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=143746 Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Book an online Alexander Technique lesson with Luke: https://alexander90210.com Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

A Life of Greatness
Dr. Frederic Luskin: The Healing Power of Forgiveness

A Life of Greatness

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2024 45:27


Forgiving isn't letting someone off the hook; it's setting yourself free. Joining Sarah Grynberg is clinical psychologist and researcher Dr Frederic Luskin, a Stanford University teacher of 30 years. Dr Luskin is director of the university's Forgiveness Projects, has taught tens of thousands of people to live happier and more fulfilled lives through forgiveness, gratitude and meditation, and is the author of the book: Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness. In this conversation, Frederic and Sarah discuss how harbouring anger and pain can turn into illness, how forgiveness allows us to be happier and form better relationships with others, the steps we need to take to truly forgive another, and how to let go of anger even if we have to see the person who caused us pain. If moving on from grievances of the past leaves you feeling resistant or distressed, hearing Dr Luskin's wisdom will be just the relief you need, and remind you to listen to your soul. Dr Frederic Luskin's books can all be found here.  Purchase Sarah's Manifest Your Greatness Course here.  Purchase Sarah's Kid's Meditation here.  Instagram: @sarahgrynberg   Website: https://sarahgrynberg.com/ Facebook: facebook.com/sarahgrynberg Twitter: twitter.com/sarahgrynbergSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee
#448 A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness: Why Being Able To Forgive Improves Your Physical & Mental Wellbeing with Dr Fred Luskin

Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2024 107:52


What does the word forgiveness mean to you? If the very idea of letting go of a past hurt makes you feel indignant or upset, then listening to this podcast could be one of the best gifts you give yourself.Today's guest wants us all to understand why forgiveness matters for both our mental and physical health. Dr Frederic Luskin is a clinical psychologist, researcher and speaker who has been teaching at Stanford University for the past 30 years. And as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, he has taught tens of thousands of people to live happier and more fulfilled lives through the practice of forgiveness, gratitude and meditation.Although 20 years old, his book Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness, is as relevant today as it ever was. Based on groundbreaking scientific research, it provides practical strategies for letting go of grudges and resentments. And it offers startling insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness, and its profound impact on our lives.Fred explains how our past hurts are stored in our bodies. People who are able to forgive are physically more relaxed. Their blood pressure and central nervous system normalise, their perception of pain lowers, their risk of depression and anxiety goes down. Crucially, their relationships are more open and trusting, so they feel less alone.This is such powerful knowledge to have. Most of us can probably think of an example where we've allowed something that's happened in the past to sabotage our present. Not letting go of old hurts can be a way of trying to protect ourselves and control the future. But Fred points out this is a coping mechanism to stop us acknowledging when we are vulnerable. True resilience means sitting with that discomfort and learning that it will pass.Of course this doesn't mean we don't have a right to be devastated if our partner has an affair or our boss treats us badly. It's vital to feel the hurt and process your feelings, says Fred. But if you're still living in the negative emotions months or years later, it's time to move on.If that sounds easier said than done, rest assured that Fred has plenty of inspiring examples and practical suggestions to help you forgive. He is adamant that forgiveness is a choice and a skill anyone can learn. And you start by giving yourself permission to enjoy your present and future, unbound by the past.I really enjoyed with Fred and completely agree with him that forgiveness is an undervalued human skill. It may feel hard to access, but it is a brave choice and one that in any given situation will trigger a cascade of rewards. I hope this conversation prompts you to reconsider some of your past hurts and move forwards with self-compassion and freedom.Dr Chatterjee's Journal https://drchatterjee.com/journalThanks to our sponsors:https://vivobarefoot.com/livemorehttps://drinkag1.com/livemoreShow notes https://drchatterjee.com/448DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nobody Told Me!
Dr. Fred Luskin: ...that forgiveness was a lot simpler than I thought

Nobody Told Me!

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2024 27:11


Do you find it difficult to forgive?  Do you wish others would find it easier to forgive you?  Joining us is Dr. Fred Luskin, who's the Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. Dr. Luskin is one of the world's leading researchers on forgiveness.  He's the author of the best selling books,  ‘Forgive for Good:  A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love:  The Missing Ingrediant for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship'.  Check out Dr. Luskin's website at www.learningtoforgive.com

Depression Detox
599 | Fred Luskin Ph.D.: "You're Gonna Be Hurt By People You Care For."

Depression Detox

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2023 12:45


Dr. Fred Luskin returns to share an important message for everyone about love.    Source: Fred Luskin: Finding the Good in People We Love   Connect with Fred Luskin, Ph.D.:    Book: Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness   Previous Episodes:   428 | Fred Luskin, Ph.D.: "They're Both Inadequate."    254 | Fred Luskin, Ph.D: "Forgiveness Is The Ability To Make Peace With The Word   Hosted by Malikee Josephs (Pronounced Muh leek Jo seffs)    Give Me A Shout:   Follow Me On Instagram @DepressionDetoxShow.   Email me: mj@depressiondetoxshow.com   Support The Show: Donate

Kaleidoscope of Possibilities
EP 83 – The Forgiveness Process with Dr. Fred Luskin

Kaleidoscope of Possibilities

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2023 42:00


To watch the video of this episode, please go to: https://youtu.be/B8yUKHrgzfw   What is the forgiveness process?How do we make and expand peace after our own reactivity? What are the many promises and benefits that come from forgiveness?   Find a wealth of essential life information in this hopeful and helpful episode of Kaleidoscope of Possibilities: Alternative Perspectives on Mental Health, in which Dr. Adriana Popescu speaks with psychologist, professor, author, and Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, Dr. Fred Luskin.  You will hear about the powerful and profound ways in which we limit ourselves by holding onto resentment, anger, and victim status and how we can embrace forgiveness and begin the forgiveness process to have peace, transformation, and well-being in our own lives.   In this episode: Dr. Luskin's hippie days Betrayal  Forgiveness Victim mentality Anger, resentment, and self-pity What the research shows Destructive anger Keeping a scorecard Making peace Reconciliation Taking things personally Abuse and abusers The Forgiveness Process Project  Mothers Wounding Grief and grieving  Gratitude   Resources mentioned in this episode:    Dr. Luskin's email: learningtoforgive@comcast.net   YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=dr+frederic+luskin   Forgive For Good Book: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/forgive-for-good-frederic-luskin   About Dr. Fred Luskin: Dr. Frederic Luskin is a psychologist who has been teaching at Stanford University for the past 30 years, with a PhD in Counseling and Health Psychology also from Stanford, he holds clinical licenses as a Psychologist and as a Marriage and Family Counselor.   Currently he is on the faculty for the GSB Executive Education program and he also serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects.   A worldwide expert on the topic of forgiveness, Dr. Luskin is the author of the best-selling books Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship, and Stress Free for Good: Ten Scientifically Proven Life Skills for Health and Happiness.   “Making peace after my own reactivity, that is what forgiveness is.” – Dr. Luskin   Would you like to continue this conversation and connect with other people who are interested in exploring these topics? Please join us on our Facebook group! (https://www.facebook.com/groups/kaleidoscopeofpossibilitiespodcast/)   About your host: Dr. Adriana Popescu is a clinical psychologist, addiction and trauma specialist, author, speaker and empowerment coach who is based in San Francisco, California and practices worldwide. She is the author of the new book, What If You're Not As F***d Up As You Think You Are?   For more information on Dr. Adriana, her sessions and classes, please visit: https://adrianapopescu.org/ To find the book please visit: https://whatifyourenot.com/ To learn about her new trauma treatment center Firebird Healing, please visit the website: https://www.firebird-healing.com/   You can also follow her on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrAdrianaPopescu/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradrianapopescu/?hl=en LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriana-popescu-ph-d-03793 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/dradrianapopescu Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCflL0zScRAZI3mEnzb6viVA TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dradrianapopescu?   Disclaimer: This podcast represents the opinions of Dr. Adriana Popescu and her guests. The content expressed therein should not be taken as psychological or medical advice. The content here is for informational or entertainment purposes only. Please consult your healthcare professional for any medical or treatment questions. This website or podcast is not to be used in any legal capacity whatsoever, including but not limited to establishing “standard of care” in any legal sense or as a basis for legal proceedings or expert witness testimony. Listening, reading, emailing, or interacting on social media with our content in no way establishes a client-therapist relationship.

Nobody Told Me!
Dr. Fred Luskin: ...that forgiveness was a lot simpler than I thought

Nobody Told Me!

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2023 29:14


Do you find it difficult to forgive?  Do you wish others would find it easier to forgive you?  Joining us is Dr. Fred Luskin, who's the Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. Dr. Luskin is one of the world's leading researchers on forgiveness.  He's the author of the best selling books,  ‘Forgive for Good:  A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love:  The Missing Ingrediant for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship'.  Check out Dr. Luskin's website at www.learningtoforgive.com   We're excited to tell you about another great product from our sponsor, Ritual.  It's called Synbiotic+ and it's a daily 3-in-1 clinically-studied prebiotic, probiotic, and postbiotic designed to help support a balanced gut microbiome.  Ritual's Synbiotic+ provides two of the world's most clinically studied probiotic strains to support the relief of mild and occasional digestive discomforts, like bloating, gas, and diarrhea.  Synbiotic+ and Ritual are here to celebrate, not hide, your insides. It's time to listen to your gut!  Ritual is offering our Nobody Told Me! listeners 10% off during your first 3 months.  Visit ritual.com/NTM to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today.

The Business Of Happiness
#235 - Acceptance and Possibility In Grief with Sonia Weyers

The Business Of Happiness

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2023 38:41


In this episode, Dr. Tarryn MacCarthy is joined by the Author, TEDx Speaker, Gestalt Therapist, and the Founder and Leader of Eudokima, Sonia Weyers. They talk about acceptance, forgiveness, and coping with grief and loss – all of which Sonia experienced during the health decline and after her parents' passing.Sonia Weyers, the author of Happiness Now! and The Sundown of Life, has explored numerous paths in her personal quest for meaning in her own life. After successfully finding meaning and helping others do the same as a trained Gestalt therapist, she faced the difficult situation of caring for her parents at the end of their life. Now she desires to give others a message of hope that there is more possibility for happiness even in some dire situations. While many may admire her degrees, they pale in comparison to her success in learning to love the life she has now. She enjoys her workouts, singing in a choir or two, learning new ways to live more sustainably, and spending time with her four children and loved ones.Reach out to Sonia:Website: https://eudokima.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonia-weyers-eudokima-a096376/FB: https://facebook.com/eudokimaIG: https://instagram.com/soniaweyers.eudokimaGrab a copy of her books:Happiness Now! A Guided Journey: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073GC9GL2The Sundown of Life: Overcoming the Challenges and Reaping the Rewards of Caring For My Parents During Their Final Years: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B61ZT25BDownload her free happiness guide: https://eudokima.com/en/5-things-in-the-way-of-your-true-happiness/Fred Luskin's Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness: https://bit.ly/3Wu0gYQShow notes:[2:46] How has Sonia been since publishing her book and reflecting on what she went through?[7:06] What was more challenging for Sonia?[11:47] Finding a place of forgiveness for her mom[16:50] Join Radical Happiness for Practitioners to rediscover happiness within your profession and life. Check out https://www.thebizofhappiness.com/radicalhappiness [22:57] Why do we struggle so much to accept the inevitable such as death and loss?[25:26] How does she prepare her clients for it?[27:03] What's one thing she hopes people to get from her book?[31:01] The courses and services she offers[33:27] What is her current definition of happiness?[37:56] OutroGet on Dr. Tarryn's Radical Happiness for Practitioners Waitlist: https://www.thebizofhappiness.com/radicalhappinessPlease join my Facebook group: Business Of Happiness Hive, so we can all take this journey to find fulfillment and happiness together. Click here.Where to find meWebsite: www.thebizofhappiness.comFacebook: facebook.com/thebusinessofhappinessIG: @thebizofhappinessIt would mean the world to me if you subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with your friends, co-workers, and families. This will help the trajectory of this podcast and allow others who are seeking true happiness to find the podcast.

ChooseFI
424 | The Power of FI | Deanna

ChooseFI

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2023 53:55


In this episode: budgeting, the power of FI, different funds, living in the present, and the power to make your choices. No matter your background or the hardships you've endured, you should never rule yourself out for success! Ruminating over your past mistakes can make you feel undeserving of the life you want, but those same mistakes can actually serve as motivation to propel you further on your journey! This week we are joined by returning guest Deanna to discuss how her FI journey has progressed in the last 4 years, the freedom and power she gained from budgeting, and an update on her journey of overcoming adversity. Just because you feel you've hit a rock bottom doesn't mean this journey isn't for you. A large part of FI is making mistakes, learning, and changing. An even larger part of this journey is learning to forgive yourself and others and continue on! For those who do not think they are capable of achieving FI because of their past, let Deanna and this episode serve as an example of what this journey can look like when you act with forgiveness and intentionality!  Timestamps: 1:35 - Introduction 2:16  - Deanna's Backstory 6:26 - Dave Ramsey and Budgeting 14:16 - The Emergency Fund 17:30 - Different Funds For Different Things 23:35 - The Power of FI 27:12 - It's Not All Unicorns And Rainbows 30:28 - Broken Vessels Made Whole 34:42 - Chronic Stress and Living In The Present 43:36 - Deanna Today 48:10 - The Freedom To Make Your Own Decisions 51:54 - Conclusion Resources Mentioned In Today's Episode: From Addiction To FI | Ms. Fiology | ChooseFI Ep. 106 "The Simple Path to Wealth: Your road map to financial independence and a rich, free life" by J.L. Collins and Mr. Money Mustache The Emergency Fund…Is it a Bad Idea? | Big ERN The Reveal | ChooseFI Ep. 66 "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. "Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School" by John Medina "Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness" by Frederic Luskin The Art of Forgiveness Todoist Subscribe to The FI Weekly! More Helpful Links and Resources: Earn $1,000 in cashback with ChooseFI's 3-card credit card strategy Share FI by sending a friend ChooseFI: Your Blueprint to Financial Independence Keep learning or start a new side hustle with one of our educational courses Commission-Free Investing with M1 Finance  

Depression Detox
428 | Fred Luskin, Ph.D.: "They're Both Inadequate."

Depression Detox

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2023 10:42


Tune in as returning speaker Fred Luskin, Ph.D. talks about the necessity of grief and suffering on the path toward forgiveness and healing.    Source: Fred Luskin: The Resolution of Grief   Connect with Fred Luskin, Ph.D.:    Book: Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness   Previous Episodes:   254 | Fred Luskin, Ph.D: "Forgiveness Is The Ability To Make Peace With The Word   Hosted by Malikee Josephs (Pronounced Muh leek Jo seffs)    Give Me A Shout:   Follow Me On Instagram @DepressionDetoxShow.   Email me: mj@depressiondetoxshow.com   Support The Show: Donate

The Perkins Platform
Forgiveness: For Us or Them?

The Perkins Platform

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2022 36:00


Dr. Frederic Luskin joins us on Wednesday, June 15 @ 6pm EST for an impactful conversation about his research on forgiveness. Dr. Luskin founded and currently serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects. He is also the Department Chair in Clinical Psychology at Sofia University. At Stanford, he teaches classes on Positive Psychology, The Art and Science of Meditation, Forgiveness, Wellness, Flourishing and The Psychology of Storytelling. Dr. Luskin is the author of the best-selling books Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Happy Relationship. Dr. Luskin teaches stress management, emotional intelligence and happiness skills to corporate clients throughout the United States and has been interviewed by the New York Times, O Magazine, Today Show, Los Angeles Times, Time Magazine, Huffington Post, and CBS Morning News, etc. His work has been applied in veteran's hospitals, churches, in resolving legal disputes, with cancer patients as psycho education and in psychotherapy. Dr. Luskin's work focuses on the research proven triad of a healthy and happy life: Enhancing interpersonal relationships, creating a positive purpose in life and guided practice in appreciation and other positive emotions.

Nobody Told Me!
Dr. Fred Luskin: ...that forgiveness was a lot simpler than I thought

Nobody Told Me!

Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2022 29:18


Do you find it difficult to forgive?  Do you wish others would find it easier to forgive you?  Joining us is Dr. Fred Luskin, who's the Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations.    Dr. Luskin is one of the world's leading researchers on forgiveness.  He's the author of the best selling books,  ‘Forgive for Good:  A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love:  The Missing Ingrediant for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship'. To learn more, check out Dr. Luskin's website at www.learningtoforgive.com Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you'll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Become your own Superhero
Forgive for good: A proven prescription for Health and Happiness with Dr Fred Luskin

Become your own Superhero

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022 53:50 Transcription Available


Fred Luskin, Ph.D., is the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a senior consultant in health promotion at Stanford University, and a professor at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, as well as an affiliate faculty member of the Greater Good Science Center. He is the author of Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness (HarperSanFrancisco, 2001) and Stress-Free for Good: Ten Proven Life Skills for Health and Happiness (HarperSanFrancisco, 2005), with Kenneth Pelletier, Ph.D.https://learningtoforgive.com/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/labanditchburn?fan_landing=true)

State of Mind
The Power of Forgiveness Remix

State of Mind

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2021 57:37


Episode #38: We too often think of forgiveness as an event between two people: Something like, “I forgive you,” or ”please forgive me.” In this show, we hear from our guests about how forgiveness is much more of an internal process, one that often occurs slowly, and frequently centers around forgiving ourselves. And why do we forgive? It seems it is only sometimes to repair or preserve a relationship, and more often because finding our way to forgiveness heals our mind, eases our soul, and allows us to enjoy better mental and physical health. In this episode, our guest Gitta Ryle, a Holocaust survivor who experienced terrible trauma while fleeing from the Nazis, shares how she was able to shed the physical and emotional turmoil she had experienced. She talks about learning  that forgiving herself and others played an essential role in her journey to physical and mental wellness. Gitta describes this process as allowing her to go from “just existing” to actually living. Also with us to discuss the profound power of forgiveness is mental health researcher, author, and forgiveness expert Frederic Luskin PhD. Dr. Luskin helps us understand what forgiveness is and isn't, why it is of value, and ways to access it. Broadcast: 1/2/22 Special thanks  to Jeanne Baldzikowski for audio production, to Jennifer Young for research and outreach, and to Izzy Weisz for marketing. And thanks to acoustic guitarist Adrian Legg for composing, performing and donating the use of our theme music. SUBSCRIBE NOW to get past or new episodes delivered to your listening device. Apple Podcasts / Google Podcasts / Spotify / Stitcher FOLLOW OR LIKE US Facebook  @stateofmindksqd Instagram @state_of_mind.radio JOIN EMAIL LIST Want to know our interesting topic each month? Simply  SIGN UP for a monthly notification. SUGGEST A TOPIC If you or someone you know has topic ideas for future shows or a story of mental health recovery to share, please email debra.stateofmind@ksqd.org IN YOUR VOICE ”In Your Voice” are short segments on the show where a listener gets to add their voice to the topic.  You can call us at 831-824–-4324 and leave a 1-3 minute message about: a mental health experience you've had, something that has contributed to your mental health recovery journey, or share a resource that has helped you. Alternatively, you can make a 1-3 minute audio recording right on your phone and email that file to debra.stateofmind@ksqd.org. Your voice may just become part of one of our future shows! SUPPORT OR UNDERWRITE If you like what you're hearing here on KSQD, also affectionately called K– Squid, you can become a “Philanthropod on the Squid Squad” by becoming a supporting member  and help keep KSQD surfing the air waves! Consider underwriting your business or agency and showing our listeners your support for State of Mind. RESOURCES Books & Articles Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness by Frederic Luskin (2003) —Based on scientific research, this study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers insights into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Dr. Fred Luskin offers a nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment. Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship by Frederic Luskin (2009) — This book offers new research about the one missing factor that is vital to relationships—forgiveness. Dr. Fred Luskin shows that no matter how much two people may love each other, their relationship will not succeed unless they practice forgiveness—an approach that most relationship experts continue to ignore. The Gift of Forgiveness: Inspiring Stories from Those Who Have Overcome the Unforgivable — by Katherine Schwarzenegger (2021). A book on learning how to forgive, with firsthand stories from those who have learned to let go of resentment and find peace. Nonviolent Communication Books & Resources Website — NVC is an approach to communication based on principles of nonviolence. It is not a technique to end disagreements, but rather a method designed to increase empathy and improve the quality of life of those who utilize the method and the people around them. Greater Good Magazine: Science-based Insights for a Meaningful Life — Turns scientific research on human experience topics like forgiveness, happiness, mindfulness and gratitude into stories, tips, and tools for a happier life and a more compassionate society. Organizations for Helping Others (Local): Volunteer Center Santa Cruz — Helps link volunteers with opportunities to help make a difference in our community. 831-427-5070 Suicide Prevention Service Volunteer — Volunteers carry out many of the services offered to those in need, while learning new skills, meeting new friends, and building upon existing strengths. Administrative Line: 831-459-9373 Organizations for Finding Help (Local & National) 24 Hour Suicide Crisis Line Toll Free: 1-877-663-5433 Serving Monterey, Santa Cruz and San Benito Counties National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255 Grief Support at Hospice of Santa Cruz County – offers an extensive array of compassionate, professional, and individualized end-of-life care and grief support.  Grief support services are low or no-cost, for adults and youth, and may include support groups, one-day classes, or one-on-one support.  Contact them for more information about Grief Support, Transitional & Palliative Care, Hospice Care, Pediatric Care, or Community Education. 831-430-3000. The Conflict Resolution Center of Santa Cruz County — Provides tools, training, and a guided process for people in conflict. Their services are affordable, confidential and available to all. Their programs address conflict at all stages-from prevention to intervention-in our homes, neighborhoods, workplaces, and courts. Through respectful dialogue, participants create their own mutually beneficial solutions. The center provides mediation services for general community conflicts, in addition to Small Claims Court, Affordable Divorce Mediation, Workplace Mediation, Parent-Teen Mediation and restorative justice dialogues as well as training in all areas of communication and conflict management skills. Community mediation offers constructive processes for resolving differences and conflicts between individuals, groups, and organizations. Affordable Divorce Mediation is an alternative to having to go to court. Instead, we give you the law and the tools you need to help YOU decide what will happen with your property and debts, child and spousal support, and your children. Workplace Mediation helps people who are in conflict at their place of work, whether between colleagues or supervisor and supervised. Small claims court mediation gives disputants an opportunity to reach their own resolutions before seeing the judge. Parent-Teen mediation is a safe space for families and teens to discuss tough subjects and come to agreements that everyone can live with. Restorative Justice dialogues allow people who are involved in wrongdoing and harm to come together to discuss the harm and impacts and determine what needs to be done to repair the harm. Communication and conflict skills trainings are designed to help individuals and groups gain a better understanding of conflict, why it happens, and how we can address conflict in a more effective, constructive way and with more positive outcomes. Alternative Therapeutic Services for Stress & Anxiety Santa Cruz Somatic Bodywork and Yoga — Cranial Sacral Therapist, Somatic Emotional Coaching, Yoga & Meditation Teacher. Contact: Crystal Maxey CMT, RYT 200  510-541-6740 Other Family Service Agency (FSA) of the Central Coast is a dedicated underwriter of State of Mind. FSA provides resources, support, and counseling services to adults and children.  FSA believes in the power and potential of people of all ages and backgrounds to discover their own creative solutions and welcomes people of diverse cultures, genders, sexual orientations, ages, faiths, socio-economic backgrounds.  FSA Counseling Offices offer Medi-Cal, Medicare, and low-cost, sliding scale services in both downtown Santa Cruz 831-423-9444 x200 and in Soquel 831-346-6767 x200. NVC Santa Cruz —  Nonviolent Communication Santa Cruz offers a variety of online and in-person skill-building classes that support healthy relationships. In-person classes are often held in central Santa Cruz. Nonviolent Communication Books & Resources Website

Luke Ford
Recovery From Underearning (10-22-21)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2021 16:55


Earn What You Deserve: How to Stop Underearning & Start Thriving, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=140174 Debtors Anonymous, https://debtorsanonymous.org/ Underearners Anonymous, https://www.underearnersanonymous.org/ Financial Underearners Anonymous, https://www.financialunderearnersanonymous.org/ The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130903 Earn What You Deserve: How to Stop Underearning & Start Thriving, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=140174 Democracy & Oligarchy, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=137486 Our Problems Are Not Our Problems, They're Just Symptoms Of Deeper Problems, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136900 Seeking external validation vs developing internal validation, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136247 The power of state, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136021 I'm Dysfunctional, You're Dysfunctional: The Recovery Movement and Other Self-Help, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133894 Sham: How the Self-Help Movement Made America Helpless, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133768 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 How To Bypass Your Self-Destructive Tendencies, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132822 The Life That Works, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132737 Loneliness & Eccentricity, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132434 When the news doesn't go your way, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131747 What's the payoff for despair? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131268 Why do people over-schedule? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131240 Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSFVD7Xfhn7sJY8LAIQmH8Q/join https://odysee.com/@LukeFordLive, https://lbry.tv/@LukeFord, https://rumble.com/lukeford https://dlive.tv/lukefordlivestreams Listener Call In #: 1-310-997-4596 Superchat: https://entropystream.live/app/lukefordlive Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Luke Ford
America Is Not A Hell Hole - The Hole Is In Your Soul (10-18-21)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2021 57:55


The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130903 Earn What You Deserve: How to Stop Underearning & Start Thriving, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=140174 Democracy & Oligarchy, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=137486 Our Problems Are Not Our Problems, They're Just Symptoms Of Deeper Problems, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136900 Seeking external validation vs developing internal validation, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136247 The power of state, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136021 I'm Dysfunctional, You're Dysfunctional: The Recovery Movement and Other Self-Help, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133894 Sham: How the Self-Help Movement Made America Helpless, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133768 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 How To Bypass Your Self-Destructive Tendencies, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132822 The Life That Works, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132737 Loneliness & Eccentricity, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132434 When the news doesn't go your way, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131747 What's the payoff for despair? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131268 Why do people over-schedule? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131240 Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSFVD7Xfhn7sJY8LAIQmH8Q/join https://odysee.com/@LukeFordLive, https://lbry.tv/@LukeFord, https://rumble.com/lukeford https://dlive.tv/lukefordlivestreams Listener Call In #: 1-310-997-4596 Superchat: https://entropystream.live/app/lukefordlive Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Nonfiction4Life
N4L 181: "Forgive for Good" by Dr. Fred Luskin

Nonfiction4Life

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2021 39:30


SUMMARY Dr. Fred Luskin, author of the bestselling book Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness, founded and currently serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects. His forgiveness work has been applied the world over in veteran's hospitals, churches, in resolving legal disputes, with cancer patients as psychoeducation, and in psychotherapy. Luskin has had extraordinary success helping people recover from the murder of their family members as a result of political violence in Northern Ireland, as an aftermath of the attacks on 911, in Sierra Leone after their civil war, and in artic Canada where native populations deal with the loss of their ancestral lands. LESSONS FROM LUSKIN How do grudges start? “Renting too much space in our mind to a problem comes from taking something too personally. Blaming someone else for our feelings then takes away our power, and we progress to forming our grievance story. Behind the process lies our tendency to make unenforceable rules that the world or other people are supposed to follow.” What stops us from forgiving? “The major obstacle to forgiving is a lack of understanding just what forgiveness is. Some of us confuse forgiveness with condoning unkind actions.” What is forgiveness? “Forgiveness is the feeling of peace that emerges as you take your hurt less personally, take responsibility for how you feel, and become a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell.” Why should we forgive? “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it changes the present. Forgiveness means that even though you are wounded you choose to hurt and suffer less. Forgiveness means you become a part of the solution. Forgiveness is the understanding that hurt is a normal part of life. Forgiveness is for you and no one else.” BUY Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness RECOMMENDATION Read the book, "Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption." Connect with us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit

Luke Ford
Historicism And Hill Street Blues, Major Depressive Disorder, Afghan Refugees

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2021 95:50


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Shield https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Historicism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hill_Street_Blues https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friday_Night_Lights_(TV_series) https://www.wsj.com/articles/why-do-we-shout-when-we-argue-lack-of-confidence-11629518461 DSM: A History of Psychiatry's Bible, https://www.wsj.com/articles/dsm-review-the-meanings-of-madness-11629062194 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_E._Sarno Author Steven Pressfield tells author Tim Ferriss about his time working in a halfway house for people released from mental asylums: “They weren't crazy at all. They were the smart people who had seen through the bullshit and because of that they couldn't function in the world. They couldn't hold a job because they couldn't take the bullshit. That's how they wound up in institutions. The greater society thought, ‘These people are rejects. They can't fit in.' But to my mind, they were the people who saw through everything.” Our Problems Are Not Our Problems, They're Just Symptoms Of Deeper Problems, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136900 With Or Without You, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136247 The power of state: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136021 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 How To Bypass Your Self-Destructive Tendencies, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132822 A life that works: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132737 What's The Reward For Despair? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131268 Why Do People Over-Schedule? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131240 Bring souls out of hiding - https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130933 The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130903 The road to recovery, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130767 Diagnosis, Therapy, and Evidence: Conundrums in Modern American Medicine, https://www.amazon.com/Diagnosis-Therapy-Evidence-Conundrums-American-ebook/dp/B0037CFD8C/ * "For much of human history death was associated with the infectious diseases that took their heaviest toll among infants and children. Beginning in the late nineteenth century—for reasons that are not clearly understood—infectious diseases began to decline as the major causes of mortality. The reduction in mortality among the young permitted more people to reach adulthood and thus to live longer. Under these circumstances it is not surprising that long-duration illnesses—notably, cardiovascular-renal diseases and a variety of neoplasms—became more prominent elements in morbidity and mortality patterns. These diseases were associated with advancing age; the longer individuals lived, the greater the risk of becoming ill or dying from them. In one sense the increasing prominence of long-duration (or chronic) diseases as in part a reflection of the fact that more and more people were enjoying greater longevity. * During the latter half of the twentieth century, however, a dramatic perceptual transformation took place. Nowhere was this better expressed than in the constitution of the World Health Organization, promulgated in 1946 and ratified in 1948. “Health,” the constitution stated in its declaration of principles, “is a state of complete physical, mental and social wellbeing and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” Such a definition implied new roles for the medical profession. The care and treatment of the sick and infirm remained part of the physician's responsibility. But to this were added the functions of making people healthy, happy, and socially adjusted." https://nationalinterest.org/feature/ive-worked-refugees-decades-europes-afghan-crime-wave-mind-21506?page=0%2C2 Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSFVD7Xfhn7sJY8LAIQmH8Q/join https://odysee.com/@LukeFordLive, https://lbry.tv/@LukeFord, https://rumble.com/lukeford https://dlive.tv/lukefordlivestreams

Luke Ford
Health Beliefs (8-19-21)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2021 42:10


I muse about some things I learned here: https://www.emotionalalchemyacademy.com/ https://www.kimknighthealth.com/ https://www.youtube.com/user/artofhealth1 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_E._Sarno Author Steven Pressfield tells author Tim Ferriss about his time working in a halfway house for people released from mental asylums: “They weren't crazy at all. They were the smart people who had seen through the bullshit and because of that they couldn't function in the world. They couldn't hold a job because they couldn't take the bullshit. That's how they wound up in institutions. The greater society thought, ‘These people are rejects. They can't fit in.' But to my mind, they were the people who saw through everything.” Our Problems Are Not Our Problems, They're Just Symptoms Of Deeper Problems, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136900 With Or Without You, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136247 The power of state: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136021 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 How To Bypass Your Self-Destructive Tendencies, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132822 A life that works: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132737 What's The Reward For Despair? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131268 Why Do People Over-Schedule? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131240 Bring souls out of hiding - https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130933 The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130903 The road to recovery, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130767 Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSFVD7Xfhn7sJY8LAIQmH8Q/join https://odysee.com/@LukeFordLive, https://lbry.tv/@LukeFord, https://rumble.com/lukeford https://dlive.tv/lukefordlivestreams Listener Call In #: 1-310-997-4596 Superchat: https://entropystream.live/app/lukefordlive Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Luke Ford
The Awkward Angle (8-17-21)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2021 4:45


I muse about some things I learned here: https://www.emotionalalchemyacademy.com/ https://www.kimknighthealth.com/ https://www.youtube.com/user/artofhealth1 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_E._Sarno Author Steven Pressfield tells author Tim Ferriss about his time working in a halfway house for people released from mental asylums: “They weren't crazy at all. They were the smart people who had seen through the bullshit and because of that they couldn't function in the world. They couldn't hold a job because they couldn't take the bullshit. That's how they wound up in institutions. The greater society thought, ‘These people are rejects. They can't fit in.' But to my mind, they were the people who saw through everything.” Our Problems Are Not Our Problems, They're Just Symptoms Of Deeper Problems, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136900 With Or Without You, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136247 The power of state: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=136021 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 How To Bypass Your Self-Destructive Tendencies, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132822 A life that works: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132737 What's The Reward For Despair? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131268 Why Do People Over-Schedule? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=131240 Bring souls out of hiding - https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130933 The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130903 The road to recovery, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130767 Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSFVD7Xfhn7sJY8LAIQmH8Q/join https://odysee.com/@LukeFordLive, https://lbry.tv/@LukeFord, https://rumble.com/lukeford https://dlive.tv/lukefordlivestreams Listener Call In #: 1-310-997-4596 Superchat: https://entropystream.live/app/lukefordlive Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Untangle
Encore - Dr. Fred Luskin - Try Forgiveness: It's Good for Your Health and Happiness

Untangle

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2021 32:14


Dr. Fred Luskin is the Director and Co-founder of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project and the author of several bestselling books including "Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness". He dives into what science tells us about the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Dr. Luskin explains why you don't have to forget, or even feel good, about 'the incident' in order to forgive, but we do have to change the story we tell ourselves about the inciting grievance. It's good stuff for those of us who might hold a grudge or two.

Live Life Happy- Andrea Seydel
FORGIVE FOR GOOD: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness

Live Life Happy- Andrea Seydel

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2021 30:24


No time to read? No worries, I got you!! LIVE LIFE HAPPY THE UNCONVENTIONAL BOOK CLUB FOR BUSY PEOPLE with Andrea Seydel  _________________________________ Welcome, If you love books as much as I do, you will love the content I create! No time to read, but love learning? Don't worry; I got you. I am book obsessed (to say the least),  I believe that Books Change Lives!  Sign up at my website and gain access to hundreds of Book summaries in my BOOK VAULT so you can start putting knowledge into action right away...   Hugs!  Andrea  __________________________________ THIS EPISODES  FORGIVE FOR GOOD: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness   WARNING: HOLDING A GRUDGE CAN BE HAZARDOUS TO YOUR HEALTH!!   When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or you can embrace forgiveness and move forward.   Who hasn't been hurt by the actions or words of another? Perhaps a parent repeatedly criticized you growing up, a colleague sabotaged a project, or your partner hid a drug addiction. Or maybe you've had a traumatic experience, such as being physically or emotionally abused by someone close to you. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger and bitterness — even vengeance. Perhaps we feel that, in principle, we have to oppose this injustice. So we can get stuck in our suffering.   But if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.   In his book Forgive For Good, Dr. Luskin talks about all the power of forgiveness and offers very practical, easy-to-use techniques to lessen the suffering in our lives. Join us _________________________ LET'S CONNECT:  Live Life Happy with Andrea Seydel  Instagram Facebook Website YouTube  Podcast  Have you subscribed, left a comment or review yet? I put a lot of love and energy into my content. I would really appreciate it if you could support me by hitting Subscribe, Comment on what you think, and provide any feedback with an honest Review. Your support wouldn't take long and can really help grow the show!! Don't forget to get your full book highlight and summary sheets here, CLICK Book Vault.  Finally, Do you have exciting book suggestions? What book are you dying to read and don’t have the time to read but really love the content coached to you. Let me know, and I will do my very best to highlight your suggestion!! Please respond in the comments or direct message me on social. I can't wait to hear your suggestions... SO MANY BOOKS SO LITTLE TIME! HUGS!! Andrea P.S. If you want to give birth to a book, but you don't know-how or simply are having troubles with where to start turning your hard-earned knowledge into book form, I am your gal! I know how to help you painlessly give birth to your book and get it published. They don't call me the Book Doula for anything!~ Let me help you map out your book plan in a FREE discovery call today!       

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Thoughts on Record: Podcast of the Ottawa Institute of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Dr. Fred Luskin: Forgiveness as a Skill to Improve Health, Well-Being & Unresolved Grief

Thoughts on Record: Podcast of the Ottawa Institute of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 11, 2021 56:55


Forgiveness has been defined in many ways by many traditions. However, a powerful and clinically relevant way of defining forgiveness is as a suite of skills that can be learned to promote a sense of self-efficacy, emotional effectiveness, physical and emotional well-being & resolution of grieving in the aftermath of betrayal, wrongdoings and even trauma. In this episode with author, teacher, and clinician Dr. Fred Luskin, we discuss the clinical and practical implementation of his forgiveness model as outlined in his best-selling book Forgive For Good. In this conversation we review:the Forgive for Good definition of forgivenessthe preconditions of forgiveness, including grievinghow & when a grievance has formed and when this becomes a barrier to moving forwardforgiveness as a strategy for resolving complicated griefthe definition and application of the concept of "unenforceable rules"the definition and application of the concept of the "personal and impersonal pain" dialectic and how this concept is critical to conceptualizing our hurts caveats and considerations around forgiveness in the context of traumaa brief consideration of the role of forgiveness in helping address clinician burnout/compassion fatigue.Fred Luskin, Ph.D. is Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. The forgiveness project has successfully explored forgiveness therapy with people who suffered from the violence in Northern Ireland, Sierra Leone as well as the attacks on the World Trade Center on 9/11. In addition his work has been successfully applied and researched in corporate, medical, legal and religious settings. He currently serves as a Senior Consultant in Health Promotion at Stanford University and is a Professor at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. He presents lectures, workshops, seminars and training on the importance, health benefits and training of forgiveness, stress management and emotional competence throughout the United States. He is the author of Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Stress Free for Good: Ten Proven Life Skills for Health and Happiness with co-author Kenneth Pelletier, Ph.D.https://learningtoforgive.com/

Higher Energy
010: Forgiveness: A Prescription for Health and Happiness with Dr. Fred Luskin

Higher Energy

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2020 31:52


Today, on Higher Energy, we are joined by special guest Dr. Fred Luskin, a lecturer at the Stanford University School of Medicine, Senior Consultant in Health Promotion/Wellness at the Stanford University Health Center, and one of the world’s leading researchers and teachers on the subject of forgiveness.   He is the author of the best-selling books, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness, and Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Happy Relationship. His book Forgive for Good is the best-selling self-help book published on the topic of forgiveness.   Dr. Luskin founded and currently serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a series of projects that have validated his forgiveness methods. At Stanford, he teaches classes on Positive Psychology, The Art and Science of Meditation, Forgiveness, Wellness, Flourishing, and The Psychology of Storytelling to undergraduate and graduate students.   He also conducts numerous workshops and staff development trainings in relationship enhancement, stress management, and positive psychology through the Stanford Be Well program, and teaches stress management, emotional intelligence, and happiness skills to corporate clients throughout the United States.   Dr. Luskin’s research has shown that the Forgive for Good forgiveness methodology leads participants suffering from a wide range of concerns to improved physical and mental health. His work focuses on the research-proven triad of a healthy and happy life: Enhancing interpersonal relationships, creating a positive purpose in life, and guided practice in appreciation and other positive emotions.   Dr. Luskin joins us today to explore forgiveness, its profound impact on our health and well-being, and how we can learn to forgive others in order to make peace inside ourselves and live with less stress in our lives. He shares the biggest obstacles that prevent people from being able to forgive and explains that forgiveness is about taking the action to no longer let someone or something have power over our lives, even if we do not desire reconciliation.   Dr. Luskin provides insight on the link between forgiveness and our emotional and physical health, and how an inability to overcome a victim mentality and self-regulate our disruptive emotions can manifest things like chronic stress and chronic pain. He shares how we can learn to develop forgiveness as a skill and regulate and calm our nervous system through the practice of meditation.   Visit https://podcast.energypsych.org/ to learn more!

Luke Ford
Kamala Harris - The Affirmative Action Candidate (8-14-20)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2020 225:32


00:00 Paul Johnson's A History Of The English People, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133561 05:00 NYT: How Biden Chose Harris: A Search That Forged New Stars, Friends and Rivalries, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133708 14:00 Get Another Job: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133674 23:00 Carl Schmitt and decisionism, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OxTmd5O5G2Q 27:00 The Floridian Inquisition, https://quillette.com/2020/08/13/the-floridian-inquisition/ 40:40 Lightning Round with Alex Jones 42:30 Dennis Prager's Shocking Sexual Revelations, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32bUBpKfCd0&app=desktop 44:00 Doov joins to talk about what surprised him in Orthodox Judaism 48:00 Luke's surprises on his journey into Judaism 1:38:00 "You Stole The Religion!" Miko Grimes, Wife of NFL's Brett Grimes, Goes on Anti-Semitic Rant 1:58:00 Heresy in Judaism, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heresy_in_Judaism 2:05:00 Rapper Kevin Gates On Black On Black CRIME! "N*GGAZ KILL N*GGAZ, N*GGAZ HATE AND STEAL FROM N*GGAZ!" 2:07:35 Matt Christman from Chapo Trap House on Karens, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PJBV9eTFsIs 2:10:00 What's going on with our cities? 2:16:00 Model U.N. Club 2:17:40 Vaush says the AR has infiltrated the Republican party 2:20:00 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin 2:27:30 Nick: Tomi Lahren Goes FULL Anti-Men 2:32:30 Merritt Corrigan: 5 Fast Facts You Need to Know, https://heavy.com/news/2020/08/merritt-corrigan/ 2:36:00 NYP: Macy's employee beaten in viral video requests leniency for attacker 2:41:10 Thinking Ape: Misreading The Mating Market, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qIM-HcZVatM 2:44:10 Twitter suspends Bill Mitchell 2:50:20 Is Instagram radicalizing women? 2:52:00 Charlie Manson (Helter Skelter) 2:53:40 Paul Gottfried on biased polling in the 2020 election, https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-Pa5w_YWKYQPq-9Haak9gg 3:19:00 Tucker Carlson on Joe Biden 3:31:00 Cannon Hinnant, a 5yo boy murdered 3:42:00 London City Voices choir sing Video Killed The Radio Star, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scSb0AiAeOM http://news2share.com/start/2020/08/06/jacob-wohl-denies-kidnapping-former-white-house-staffer-merritt-corrigan/ https://townhall.com/columnists/dennisprager/2008/12/23/when-a-woman-isnt-in-the-mood-part-i-n1055719 https://www.dennisprager.com/column/when-a-woman-isnt-in-the-mood-part-ii/ Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 Forgive For Good lecture, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJq5mtficaY Forgive For Good book, https://www.amazon.com/Forgive-Good-Proven-Prescription-Happiness/dp/006251721X Polls, questions, super chats: https://entropystream.live/app/lukeford Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/lukeford/1nAJEAnVRDaJL Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Reb Dooovid: https://twitter.com/RebDoooovid Book an online Alexander Technique lesson with Luke: https://alexander90210.com Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Luke Ford
What Happens To Your Body When You Take The Black Pill?

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2020 194:54


00:00 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 30:00 Forgive For Good lecture, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJq5mtficaY 33:00 Forgive For Good book, https://www.amazon.com/Forgive-Good-Proven-Prescription-Happiness/dp/006251721X 44:00 Helter Skelter (Charles Manson) 1:21:00 DOJ threatens to sue Yale University for racial discrimination against whites, asians Be Antifragile: Get Another Job, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133674 1:43:00 Charlie Manson become a guru, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guru 2:04:00 John J. Mearsheimer takes questions on international relations, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNu_-7veij4 2:07:00 John Mearsheimer: The plague and the future of international politics 2:10:40 The formidable Russian Lobby 2:18:50 The Plague and The Future of Great Power Politics, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ydCfU5bgqW4 2:24:00 Forward: Facebook banned stereotypes of Jewish global domination. Has the move satisfied Jewish groups? 2:34:00 R. Yosef Mizrachi says not all...are traitors, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Rq67aHK6Fk The Media's Sudden Crush on Kamala Harris, https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2020/08/13/media-crush-kamala-harris-395020 2:52:00 Michael Cohen's new book contains shocking revelations 2:53:00 Our leaders don't care about our biggest problems Polls, questions, super chats: https://entropystream.live/app/lukeford Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/lukeford/1nAJEAnVRDaJL Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Reb Dooovid: https://twitter.com/RebDoooovid Book an online Alexander Technique lesson with Luke: https://alexander90210.com Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Luke Ford
Joe Biden Selects Kamala Harris As His VP (8-11-20)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2020 210:04


00:00 Willie Brown's former mistress Kamala Harris 04:00 Should good people step away from the pursuit of power? 50:00 College football canceled this fall 52:30 American Heart Association publishes racist paper 54:00 NYT: For Doctors of Color, Microaggressions Are All Too Familiar 1:10:00 How do we treat rabbis who degrade Torah scholars? 1:12:00 Doov joins, discusses how he treats rabbis 1:22:00 Is Gossip good? https://www.lukeford.net/Dennis/indexp271.html 1:30:00 Rabbi Yaron Reuven: UK Chief Rabbi Ephraim Mirvis & Joseph Dweck PROUDLY Distorting Torah, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80Zkxe4e_YE 1:34:00 Were David and Jonathan gay lovers? 1:55:00 Doov on essential Judaism 2:12:00 LAT: Art Dealer Detours From the Fast Lane : Lerner Could End Up in Prison on Drug Charge, https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1990-06-25-me-433-story.html 2:15:00 Stan Lerner's Criminal, https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/7628, https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1990-06-26-me-561-story.html 2:50:00 World War II analysis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I'm_Nobody!_Who_are_you%3F Diversity, Inclusion, and Equity: Evolution of Race and Ethnicity Considerations for the Cardiology Workforce in the United States of America From 1969 to 2019 https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133630 NYT: For Doctors of Color, Microaggressions Are All Too Familiar, https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/11/health/microaggression-medicine-doctors.html Will A COVID-19 Vaccine Change The Game? https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133658 Why Does The MSM Hate Dissidents? http://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133608 Marc B. Shapiro on conversion to Judaism https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwLxwulxxU8 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 Polls, questions, super chats: https://entropystream.live/app/lukeford Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/lukeford/1nAJEAnVRDaJL Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Reb Dooovid: https://twitter.com/RebDoooovid Book an online Alexander Technique lesson with Luke: https://alexander90210.com Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Luke Ford
Why Does The MSM Hate Dissidents? (8-10-20)

Luke Ford

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2020 185:56


00:00 Why Does The MSM Hate Dissidents? http://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133608 17:20 Looting in Chicago's Magnificent Mile 19:30 Classically Abby's Jewish Faith Journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2T6weNx7v7c 25:00 Dooovid joins 34:00 Trump taken out of press conference because of a shooting outside 1:34:00 David Cole on revisionism 1:35:00 Marc B. Shapiro on conversion to Judaism 1:43:20 Bryan Callen responds to rape allegations from 21 years ago, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhWThXe-k7o 1:47:00 David Cole on the genetic basis of intelligence, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNziCsQAqds 1:48:30 Tomi Lahren, this is your future - JF Gariépy, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8PYI743py0 1:53:40 Child abuse in Hollywood 1:56:15 Paul Gottfried on the Democratic plan to destroy the federal court system 1:57:00 Paul Gottfried's new book, The Vanishing Tradition: Perspectives on American Conservatism, https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07Z9P6DDX/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0 1:59:20 Joseph Cotto likes disco 2:00:00 The Cotto-Gottfried channel, https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-Pa5w_YWKYQPq-9Haak9gg 2:18:40 Tucker Carlson on mass shooting in DC, crime spree in Chicago 2:33:30 Keith Preston on the conservative base vs conservative elites 2:37:00 Breaking Bad plane crash season at end of season two 2:39:00 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 2:44:00 Forgive For Good, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJq5mtficaY 2:55:00 Forgive For Good book, https://www.amazon.com/Forgive-Good-Proven-Prescription-Happiness/dp/006251721X Forgive For Good, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 Talmudic Secrets To Wealth, http://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133626 Polls, questions, super chats: https://entropystream.live/app/lukeford Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/lukeford/1nAJEAnVRDaJL Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Reb Dooovid: https://twitter.com/RebDoooovid Book an online Alexander Technique lesson with Luke: https://alexander90210.com Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

Dr. Dave On Call
Forgiveness and our health: An interview with Dr. Fred Luskin

Dr. Dave On Call

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2020 45:22


In Episode 15 of Dr. Dave On Call, we interview forgiveness therapy expert, Dr. Fred Luskin. We discuss forgiveness and its profound impact on our health and well-being. Dr. Fred Luskin is the Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project. His extensive research centers upon the training and measurement of forgiveness therapy, and he is the author of Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription of Health and Happiness. Dr. Luskin's research into forgiveness therapy has influenced both the psychological and medical sciences. He has worked with many patients of different backgrounds and experiences. For example, he lead the HOPE 1-2 projects. Families who experienced profound loss in war-torn Northern Ireland (both Catholic and Protestant) received forgiveness therapy and benefited both psychologically and medically. He defines forgiveness as "the experience of peace and understanding that can be felt in the present moment.” Forgiveness can be achieved by allowing oneself to feel hurt less personally, take responsibility for how one feels, and to become a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell. Dr. Luskin describes that in order for us to understand the process of forgiveness we must address our grievances-an unwanted event that "rents too much space" in our minds. Further, if we try to enforce unenforceable rules, we will continue to write "mental tickets" to punish the once who acted wrongly. However, the only person we end up hurting is ourselves. We clog up our minds with these tickets. We can practice forgiving by implementing many physical techniques such as Positive Emotion Refocusing Technique (PERT), Heart Focus and Breath of Thanks. Further, we can challenge our unenforceable rules. For example, we can recognize when one is upset in the present and not yesterday. Importantly, if we change our grievance story to a hero's story we can reconnect to our goals. As the Northern Ireland patients who suffered traumatic loss in their lives, their goal was to achieve a loving family. Dr. Luskin describes the 4 stages of becoming a forgiving person: 1) Self-justified anger after being hurt 2) We realize that our hurt or anger doesn't feel good 3) We remember how good it felt the last time we were able to forgive 4) You simply become a forgiving person (rarely take offense) Citations: Luskin, F. Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness. ISBN: 9780062517210. More questions, please visit us: https://drdaveoncall.com/wp/ (https://drdaveoncall.com) Email us: hello@drdaveoncall.com Tweet us: https://twitter.com/drdaveoncall (https://twitter.com/drdaveoncall)

Untangle
Dr. Fred Luskin - Why Forgiveness is Good for your Health (and Happiness!)

Untangle

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2020 32:32


Dr. Fred Luskin is the Director and Co-founder of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project and the author of several bestselling books including "Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness". He dives into what the science tells us about the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Dr. Luskin explains why you don't have to forget, or even feel good, about 'the incident’ in order to forgive, but we do have to change the story we tell ourselves about the inciting grievance. It’s good stuff for those of us who might hold a grudge or two.

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
ERP 123: Forgive For Love With Dr. Fred Luskin

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2017 42:47


GUEST: DR. FRED LUSKIN Dr. Luskin founded and currently serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects. He is also Senior Consultant in Health Promotion/Wellness at the Stanford University Health Center and Department Chair in Clinical Psychology at Sofia University. At Stanford, Dr. Luskin teaches classes on Positive Psychology, The Art and Science of Meditation, Forgiveness, Wellness, Flourishing and The Psychology of Storytelling to undergraduate and graduate students. To many different organizations all over, Dr. Luskin conducts numerous workshops and trainings in relationship enhancement, stress management, emotional intelligence and positive psychology. Dr. Luskin is the author of the best-selling books “Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness” and “Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Happy Relationship.” (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) EXCERPTS FROM DR. FRED LUSKIN WHAT IS FORGIVENESS? “Forgiveness is making peace with the word no.” Dr. Fred Luskin Forgiveness is the antidote to a hissy fit, when a desire is thwarted. Forgiveness is the process of resolving the upset and being back at peace. Forgiveness is an internal cognitive, affective, storytelling process. WHAT ABOUT UNFORGIVABLE ACTS? The number of ways that people are horrific to each other is pretty much endless. When it comes to one person’s experience, nobody wants anyone in their life harmed. It is unimaginably painful to sit in a group of people who have had family members killed. It is almost shocking to recognize how much this happens in this world. There is a level of compassion and understanding as an overlay. When you look at one person’s experience, whether it is someone cut me off in traffic or someone murdered my child, it is still the same basic problem that I couldn’t get what I wanted. This issue haunts human beings all the time. The question is not “Is that good or pleasant?” It was awful. The question is “How long does it take for our brain and soul to recover?” “If that is too big for you, which it might be, forgive everything else.” Don’t use that as an excuse not to forgive anything. Instead, say “this mountain is too big for me to climb, but I will climb another mountain.” Even though the thing that happened is mind boggling horrific, the truth is there are many, many people who have actually had that direct experience and moving ahead with successful lives. And there are people who have had worse experiences happen to them in other parts of the world. And we can’t allow all of these atrocities to form a foundation of “We are never going to get over this.” If we were too say, “Yes, this is too bad to let go of.” There would be no room left. We would simply weave a web of endless pain and hatred, which is not sustainable for a world. “Without forgiveness there is no future.” Desmond Tutu Without forgiving, we don’t have the same amount of future. We are still living in the past. FORGIVENESS IN RELATIONSHIP Imagine two people romantically interested in each other and they both have 12 pieces of luggage with them.They are both looking out behind their luggage. Between them and the 24 pieces of luggage they can barely see each other. That is the damage. If you hide behind your wounds. People can’t see you and you can’t see them. Not forgiving leads to bitterness. As an example, when working with someone who has experienced divorce, been left or cheated on, he will ask some questions of personal responsibility: What were you doing with that person? What were the signs that you ignored? How did you think even the simplest thing… if 50% of relationships end in divorce…and you live in a culture that doesn’t do relationship well, so how can you be that shocked when it happens to you? WHEN SOMEONE STUCK? In the case of modest, normal trauma, if someone is still very, angry 6 months after the experience happens that it a bad prognosticator. Anger is meant to be a short-term defense against both seeing your complicity or starting to work on your own reactivity. Proximity to the experience matters: If after 6 month, and someone is still angry, it is not very adaptive. If someone is angry 3 months after the incident, I tend to not challenge because that is normal grief. If someone is angry 18 months later, I tend to challenge that a lot. VULNERABILITY The whole issue of forgiveness is about vulnerability. We are all so frightened to admit how frighten we are. There is a deep vulnerability that we are all struggling to cope with. We are all vulnerable to so many things and we want to keep that awareness from our consciousness. One of the ways we keep that awareness from our consciousness is we ignore it. Secondly, we have all these cognitive distortions. Like inventing rules for other people or fantasies about how life is suppose to be because we do not want to face our lack of control and influence over things. What we do with this vulnerability is we react, as we should, with grief, outrage, and fear. But if we are not careful, we identify the whole problem in the person or event that hurt us rather than seeing that we are always vulnerable. The problem with forgiveness comes when we are unwilling to sit with our vulnerability and hold the specific pain of the experience. Instead, we spend all of our energy making whatever happened to us wrong. When the whole focus is projected outward, we can’t actually address the problem. The problem is to develop resilience and depth inside ourselves to handle how many times life will confront us with these type of issues. TWO CENTRAL MISTAKES In terms of relationships, human beings make two central mistakes. People forget to acknowledge that: When they commit to somebody, they are committing to their good point and their bad points. Every single human being is deeply flawed. ACCEPTANCE AND FORGIVENESS BEFOREHAND The deeper preparation in a long-term relationship is to see that “I am joining with a flawed, wounded, imperfect person.” That is the absolute bottom line in relationship. The other piece is “I am flawed, wounded, and imperfect, so I am not going to see them clearly.” A basic implicit compassion-forgiveness that starts at the beginning this is crucial in relationship. While it is hard, the challenge then becomes being gentle towards us both. Older couples understand the nature of their partner’s flaws implicitly and love them anyway. Marriage should provide training for us to grow as people who can love, with self-control, compassion, forgiveness, gentle and kindness. Marriage and relationship can be used as spiritual practice for us to grow in our own dealing with reactivity. PRACTICE: Can you believe that somebody can actually put up with you? How is that possible? Look at all the ways you are selfish, annoying, and disrespectful. Interesting…someone will willing to come home to you. A flip in orientation from self-absorbed, narcissism to seeing the relationship from a forgiving point of view. Forgiveness is a decision. Commitment is essential for a long-term relationship, and the commitment requires some degree of forgiveness. These show notes are comprised of excerpts from Dr. Fred Luskin’s interview. To learn more about forgiveness, see the resources below. Check out the Connected Couple program to develop happy, lasting love: For a limited time only, you can use this coupon code for a 20% discount: fall2017   MENTIONED: Forgive for Good, by Dr. Fred Luskin Forgive for Love, by Dr. Fred Luskin Youtube videos of Dr. Fred Luskin Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory Of Love (Wikipedia) ERP 026: How To Repair & Resolve Hurt In Relationship (podcast) TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: ERP 123: Forgive For Love With Dr. Fred Luskin [Transcript] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!  If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or doing relationship coaching work with me.

Health Talk With Dr. Diane MD
Learning to Forgive with Dr. Fred Luskin

Health Talk With Dr. Diane MD

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2014 27:00


Dr. Luskin is the author of the best seller Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Stress Free for Good.  He has worked with many organizations and has trained lawyers, doctors, church leaders and congregations, hospital staffs, teachers and other professionals to manage stress and enhance forgiveness all over the United States.  Dr. Luskin’s work has been featured in Time magazine, O magazine, Ladies Home Journal, U.S. News and World Reports, Parade, Prevention as well as the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, U.S.A. Today and the Wall Street Journal.  Frederic Luskin, Ph.D. is the Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects and an Associate Professor at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology.  He also serves as the Co Chair of the Garden of Forgiveness Project at Ground Zero in Manhattan.  Dr. Luskin’s websites:  http://learningtoforgive.com   Disclaimer:  The information presented in this broadcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended for diagnosis or treatment.  Please seek the help of your health care provider before making any changes to your health.