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As we go through life, we're constantly trying to figure out what other people are thinking and feeling. Psychologist Liane Young says this ability to assess other people's thoughts is an extraordinary feat of cognition. This week, in a favorite episode from our archives, we explore this mental superpower — and how it can lead us astray. In our conversation with Liane Young, we explore:*The uniquely human ability to think about the minds of other people, which scientists refer to as "theory of mind." *How and when young children develop this ability to intuit what's happening in other people's minds. *Why our understanding of other people's minds affects our moral judgments — and how those judgments can be disabled.*How misreading another person's intentions can affect our lives in both small and significant ways.Then, in the second part of this week's show, we welcome back researcher Fred Luskin, who responds to listeners' questions about grudges. If you missed the original conversation with Fred Luskin, listen to our episode No Hard Feelings.
Fred Luskin, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, reflects on the nature of forgiveness and the value of letting go of grievances.
Hey, Heal Squad! Kev is back with Part 2 of his eye-opening conversation with Dr. Fred Luskin – a world-renowned forgiveness expert, Stanford scholar, and mindfulness coach In this powerful episode, Dr. Luskin dives into how he coaches elite Division 1 athletes at Stanford to break free from perfectionism and forgive themselves when things don't go as planned. He also talks about the shocking link between resentment and relapse – and why letting go is the key to true recovery, and the secret to self-forgiveness (hint, hint: we need to stop over-apologizing!) It's time to let go of the past, stop self-sabotaging, and use forgiveness as your superpower for healing, success, and happiness. Don't miss it! HEALERS & HEAL LINERS: Forgiveness & Addiction Recovery Resentment is the #1 trigger for relapse. Dr. Luskin's forgiveness-based approach to recovery helps addicts release guilt and shame, which are major emotional drivers of addiction. Gratitude is a Powerful Tool for Rewiring the Brain Negative thoughts naturally dominate our thinking as a survival mechanism.. A more empowering approach is to intentionally practice gratitude. -- HEAL SQUAD SOCIALS IG: https://www.instagram.com/healsquad/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healsquadxmaria HEAL SQUAD RESOURCES: Heal Squad Website: https://www.healsquad.com/ Maria Menounos Website: https://www.mariamenounos.com My Curated Macy's Page: Shop My Macy's Storefront AquaTru: https://aquatruwater.com/ code: HEALSQUAD Prenuvo: Prenuvo.com/MARIA for $300 off Sleep Number: https://www.sleepnumber.com/ GUEST RESOURCES: Dr. Fred Luskin Website: https://fredluskin.com/ The Forgive for Good Recovery Workbook: Overcome Addiction, Heal Your Past, and Find Peace in Sobriety: https://fredluskin.com/books/ Tedx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fZhku-TqmI The Stanford Forgiveness Project: https://med.stanford.edu/survivingcancer/coping-with-cancer/cancer-and-forgiveness.html ABOUT MARIA MENOUNOS: Emmy Award-winning journalist, TV personality, actress, 2x NYT best-selling author, former pro-wrestler and brain tumor survivor, Maria Menounos' passion is to see others heal and to get better in all areas of life. ABOUT HEAL SQUAD x MARIA MENOUNOS: A daily digital talk-show that brings you the world's leading healers, experts, and celebrities to share groundbreaking secrets and tips to getting better in all areas of life. DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content (published or distributed by or on behalf of Maria Menounos or http://Mariamenounos.com and http://healsquad.com) is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within website or on Company's Podcast are their own; not those of Maria Menounos or the Company. Accordingly, Maria Menounos and the Company cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating a specific illness. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment.
Dr. Frederic Luskin is a psychologist who has been teaching at Stanford University for the past 30 years. He has a Ph. D in Counseling and Health Psychology from Stanford University and holds clinical licenses as a Psychologist and a Marriage and Family Counselor. Currently he is on the faculty for the GSB Executive Education program where he teaches mindfulness, emotional intelligence, psychological safety, and positive psychology to executives from all over the world. When not at Stanford, Dr. Luskin often speaks to a variety of audiences, including investors, corporate leaders, medical and mental health professionals, educators and several other organizations and individuals. He also serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects. The forgiveness projects sponsor teaching and research that validate his nine steps to forgiveness. Dr. Luskin is one of the world's recognized authorities on forgiveness, both of self and others and has taught forgiveness to tens of thousands of people. Fred's group has completed some good pilot data and written a workbook to help folks. How to use the research derived 9 steps to forgiveness. There is particular need for self forgiveness in recovery HELP SUPPORT OUR FIGHT AGAINST ADDICTION. DONATE HERE: https://www.patreon.com/theaddictionpodcast PART OF THE GOOD NEWS PODCAST NETWORK. AUDIO VERSIONS OF ALL OUR EPISODES: https://theaddictionpodcast.com CONTACT US: The Addiction Podcast - Point of No Return theaddictionpodcast@yahoo.com Intro and Outro music by: Decisions by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Source: http://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1100756 Artist: http://incompetech.com/
01:00 NYT: Vance Is Laying the Groundwork, https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/12/opinion/jd-vance-donald-trump.html 04:30 Jesse Waters 08:00 My initial step four experience in 2012, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=47372 24:00 Elliott Blatt joins the show to discuss a resentment 32:00 Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness By Frederic Luskin, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133590 52:00 The problem (Adult Children of Alcoholics), https://adultchildren.org/literature/problem/ 58:00 Al Anon questionaire, https://adultchildren.org/literature/problem/ 1:08:00 My step one journey from 2012, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=44793 1:11:00 My step two journey from 2012, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=44798 1:14:40 Forgiveness Workshop | Dr. Fred Luskin, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJ5o6DsCa90 1:19:45 The Alexander Technique and Addiction Recovery, https://alexanderaudio.com/applications/addiction/ 1:22:00 Alexander Technique lesson, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXqIuvav5hY 1:25:00 Alexander Technique teacher Robert Rickover, https://www.bodylearningblog.com/about-robert/ 1:42:00 The Chair: Rethinking Culture, Body and Design by Galen Cranz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U47uK4opHeg https://odysee.com/@LukeFordLive, https://rumble.com/lukeford, https://dlive.tv/lukefordlivestreams Superchat: https://entropystream.live/app/lukefordlive Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford, Best videos: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=143746 Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Book an online Alexander Technique lesson with Luke: https://alexander90210.com Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.
Holding a grudge can feel like a form of justice, a way of punishing those who have wronged us. But psychologist Fred Luskin says that more often than not, grudges don't hurt the targets of our anger. Instead, they only hurt us. This week, we explore the lingering effects of long-standing animosities, and how to let them go.If you enjoyed today's conversation, be sure to check out these classic Hidden Brain episodes about apologies and forgiveness:The Power of MercyHealing 2.0: The Power of ApologiesHow to Make Amends
DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE PDF HERE TO START DE-STRESSING YOUR LIFE! https://emotionsinharmony.ck.page/3be65c0248 Granting forgiveness, either to yourself or someone else, can be a way to let go of anger and resentment. However, a big misunderstanding about forgiveness is that once you forgive someone you have to reconcile with them even if they wronged or hurt you, but this is not necessarily the truth. Granting forgiveness serves as a benefit to your mental health, and it is perfectly okay to keep the memory of what happened to learn and create plans of self-protection for the future, while still letting go of the anger and hurt, which will help you to maintain your mental health. In this special episode of Emotions in Harmony, Dr. Carmen Román talks with the renowned expert on forgiveness, Dr. Fred Luskin, author and director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project. Together, they address the transformative power of forgiveness as a key tool to heal emotional wounds, improve relationships, and find inner peace. Forgiveness is not just an act toward others but a gift we give to ourselves. Throughout this episode, we explore: * What forgiveness really is—and what it is not. * Common myths about forgiveness that prevent us from moving forward. * The emotional, physical, and psychological benefits of practicing forgiveness. * How forgiveness helps us free ourselves from resentment and accumulated pain. What you will learn in this episode: * How to differentiate forgiveness from reconciliation. * Why forgiveness is essential for our mental health and well-being. This episode is an invitation to reflect on the impact that resentment and the lack of forgiveness have on our lives, and how we can free ourselves to live with greater peace and emotional harmony. Connect with Dr. Fred Luskin https://fredluskin.com Let's stay connected! Subscribe to the Newsletter: https://www.emotionsinharmony.org/newsletter Visit our website and check out our services: https://www.emotionsinharmony.org Find us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/EmotionsinHarmony Meditate with me: https://insighttimer.com/carmenroman Join us on Telegram: https://t.me/EmotionsinHarmony Do you want to be our sponsor? Email us at info@emotionsinharmony.org
How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like? These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all. In today's episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew. However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh). Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that's right. We're talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour. So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt
Forgiveness Is A Personal Journey Not Dependent On OthersPart of the ProHuman Foundation Board of Advisors Series...learn more about the Prohuman Foundation at ProHumanFoundation.orgToday I'm honored to sit down with a fellow member of the ProHuman Foundation's board of advisors, Dr. Fred Luskin. It's a privilege to be in conversation with someone whose work in the field of forgiveness and emotional well-being has touched so many lives, and whose insights are invaluable for anyone looking to cultivate deeper happiness and emotional resilience.Dr. Luskin has dedicated his career to the science of forgiveness, serving as the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects and authoring bestsellers like *Forgive for Good* and *Forgive for Love.* In our conversation, we'll explore how forgiveness and gratitude—cornerstones of Dr. Luskin's research—are not just abstract ideals but teachable, actionable skills that can transform your life. From breaking free of the victim mentality to fostering personal responsibility and emotional health, Dr. Luskin's work shows us that we have the power to reshape our emotional reality.In this episode, we'll dig into the science behind forgiveness, the dangers of labeling others, and why humility and vulnerability are essential for genuine healing. Whether you're dealing with personal struggles or just striving for a greater sense of well-being, Dr. Luskin's approach offers practical steps to move forward.So, join me as we dive into this transformative conversation with Dr. Fred Luskin, and discover how you can take control of your emotional well-being through the power of forgiveness and gratitude.TakeawaysForgiveness is essential for emotional well-being.Gratitude is the genesis of happiness.People often give power to their past grievances.Forgiveness can be measured scientifically.Victim mentality harms mental and physical health.Narcissism is often overused as a label.Self-centeredness is not the same as narcissism.Acknowledging vulnerability is crucial for healing.Forgiveness is a personal journey, not dependent on others.Humility is necessary for constructive dialogue. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop Amazon by going through our Support Us page and I'll earn through qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. I look forward to hearing from you!
In this heartfelt and insightful interview, Fred Luskin, PhD, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, shares his life's work on the power of #forgiveness. Luskin delves into the origins of his interest in forgiveness, the scientific impact of harboring anger and bitterness, and the steps toward #healing through forgiveness. The conversation also touches on Luskin's work with families affected by loss and trauma, including my own story as a Gold Star mother who found solace in his teachings after the tragic loss of my son Jason in Afghanistan. Luskin discusses how forgiveness is essential for #resilience and true happiness, offering practical steps to help people overcome the pain of the past and live fully in the present. Please subscribe, follow and share this episode of my podcast on YouTube and on my website haveyoueverwonderedpodcast.com. You can also follow #HaveYouEverWondered podcast on all social media and view or listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, iHeart Radio or wherever you listen to podcasts.
In this heartfelt and insightful interview, Fred Luskin, PhD, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, shares his life's work on the power of #forgiveness. Luskin delves into the origins of his interest in forgiveness, the scientific impact of harboring anger and bitterness, and the steps toward #healing through forgiveness. The conversation also touches on Luskin's work with families affected by loss and trauma, including my own story as a Gold Star mother who found solace in his teachings after the tragic loss of my son Jason in Afghanistan. Luskin discusses how forgiveness is essential for #resilience and true happiness, offering practical steps to help people overcome the pain of the past and live fully in the present. Please subscribe, follow and share this episode of my podcast on YouTube and on my website haveyoueverwonderedpodcast.com. You can also follow #HaveYouEverWondered podcast on all social media and view or listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, iHeart Radio or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Sermon Resources: 1. Franz Jägerstätter: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Franz_J%C3%A4gerst%C3%A4tter 2. “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. In fact, it's the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead 3. “For the growing good of the world is dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs." -George Eliot, "Middlemarch" 4. “If we truly love people, we will desire for them far more than it is within our power to give them, and this will lead us to prayer. Intercession is a way of loving others…it is selfless prayer, even self-giving prayer. In the ongoing work of the kingdom of God, nothing is more important than intercession.” -Richard Foster, "Prayer" 5. "On The Powers of Simple Medicine," by Galen 6. “In careful scientific studies, forgiveness has been shown to reduce depression, increase hopefulness, decrease anger, improve spiritual connection, and increase self-confidence.” -Fred Luskin, "Forgive For Good: A Proven Prescription For Health and Happiness" 7. “The greatest single cause of atheism in the world today is Christians: who acknowledge Jesus with their lips, walk out the door, and deny Him by their lifestyle. That is what an unbelieving world simply finds unbelievable.” -Brennan Manning
Send us a Text Message.HEALINGHealing from Toxic Religion – Part 3Springcreek Church | Senior Pastor Keith StewartJuly 28, 2024#realspringcreekchurch #healingfromtoxicreligion #healing #toxic #religionhttps://www.springcreekchurch.org/If you carry scars from a toxic church or leader, those wounds won't heal merely by the passage of time. It takes intentionality to heal. Issues like the betrayal of trust, manipulation of our thoughts and emotions through the toxic tools of guilt and shame, and degradation of our God-image must all be exposed to the light of God's truth. Jesus once said, "You will know the truth and the truth will set you free" (John 8:32). In this next installment in our series, we'll examine what it takes to heal from some of the worst damage caused by toxic churches and those who lead them.DISCUSSION QUESTIONS 1. We often only associate grief with the losses we face in death but grief is God's way of healing us from all of the losses of life. What sort of losses have you grieved? What feelings get expressed in grief? How has God met you in your grief? 2. Forgiveness is often misunderstood and therefore resisted. What separates real forgiveness from stereotypes and misunderstanding? Have you ever needed to forgive someone? What made it challenging? Take some time to discuss the following quotes; “[Forgiveness means becoming] a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell.” – Dr. Fred Luskin, Stanford University Forgiveness Project “Forgiveness is not a one-off decision; it is a journey and a process that takes time, determination, and persistence. Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is simply denying your pain the right to control your life.” - Corallie Buchanan 3. Trust is often violated in instances of toxic churches and toxic leaders. Trust is something that's never commanded in Scripture. Are we appropriately cautious in new relationships to extend trust only when it is earned as opposed to leaving ourselves vulnerable? Have you ever had someone violate your trust? What effect did it have on you? How did you deal with it? How does it affect your present relationships? What did you learn about scars as it relates to trust wounds? 4. When people use the feeling of guilt to manipulate others, they are most definitely using guilt in ways that Scripture never does. The Biblical word for guilt only deals with the fact of guilt. When it comes to the feeling of guilt, Scripture uses another term “worldly sorrow” which only produces death. How is godly sorrow different from worldly sorrow? When you feel guilty or are made to feel guilty, a child of God can reject that feeling as not from God. Have you ever been in an environment, church or otherwise, that heavily used the feeling of guilt? What effect did that have on you? What would you suggest to someone coming out of a toxic church that regularly practiced guilty their members? 5. As a group, take some time to read through the out true identity in Christ. How would your life be different if you lived like each and every one of these truths were also true of you? Print this list and post it where you can see it, read it, and remind yourself of its truth daily. My True Identity in Christ:• You are not condemned (Romans 8.1)• You are accepted (Romans 15.7)• You are ransomed - "restored to favor" (1 Corinthians 1.30)• You are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5.17)• You are the righteousness of God (2 Corinthians 5.21)• You are liberated (Galatians 2.4)• You are chosen, holy, and blameless before God (Ephesians 1.4)• You are redeemed, forgiven (Ephesians 1.7)• You are alive (formerly dead in spirit) (Ephesians 2.5)• You have boldness and confident access to God (Ephesians 3.12)• You h
When should we forgive, who should we forgive and why should we forgive? What are the emotional, psychological and practical pros and cons of forgiving? Or not forgiving? What about people who don't 'deserve' our forgiveness.. you know; the sociopathic c***s? Well, I sat down with forgiveness researcher, author and expert, Dr. Fred Luskin and we explored it all. Apart from being arguably the world leader in this space, Dr. Fred is an ex-hippy (maybe, current hippy/academic), a great story-teller, a brilliant mind and honestly, just a good bloke to chat with. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Listen as host Amy Rodquist-Kodet, a health coach with UK HR Health and Wellness, shares 9 steps we can take to practice forgiveness to reap its healing benefits. This method was researched and pioneered by Dr. Fred Luskin of Standford University. Each month, Amy will explain a new practice you can try to build your resilience and thrive more. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becoming-wildly-resilient/message
What does the word forgiveness mean to you? If the very idea of letting go of a past hurt makes you feel indignant or upset, then listening to this podcast could be one of the best gifts you give yourself.Today's guest wants us all to understand why forgiveness matters for both our mental and physical health. Dr Frederic Luskin is a clinical psychologist, researcher and speaker who has been teaching at Stanford University for the past 30 years. And as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, he has taught tens of thousands of people to live happier and more fulfilled lives through the practice of forgiveness, gratitude and meditation.Although 20 years old, his book Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness, is as relevant today as it ever was. Based on groundbreaking scientific research, it provides practical strategies for letting go of grudges and resentments. And it offers startling insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness, and its profound impact on our lives.Fred explains how our past hurts are stored in our bodies. People who are able to forgive are physically more relaxed. Their blood pressure and central nervous system normalise, their perception of pain lowers, their risk of depression and anxiety goes down. Crucially, their relationships are more open and trusting, so they feel less alone.This is such powerful knowledge to have. Most of us can probably think of an example where we've allowed something that's happened in the past to sabotage our present. Not letting go of old hurts can be a way of trying to protect ourselves and control the future. But Fred points out this is a coping mechanism to stop us acknowledging when we are vulnerable. True resilience means sitting with that discomfort and learning that it will pass.Of course this doesn't mean we don't have a right to be devastated if our partner has an affair or our boss treats us badly. It's vital to feel the hurt and process your feelings, says Fred. But if you're still living in the negative emotions months or years later, it's time to move on.If that sounds easier said than done, rest assured that Fred has plenty of inspiring examples and practical suggestions to help you forgive. He is adamant that forgiveness is a choice and a skill anyone can learn. And you start by giving yourself permission to enjoy your present and future, unbound by the past.I really enjoyed with Fred and completely agree with him that forgiveness is an undervalued human skill. It may feel hard to access, but it is a brave choice and one that in any given situation will trigger a cascade of rewards. I hope this conversation prompts you to reconsider some of your past hurts and move forwards with self-compassion and freedom.Dr Chatterjee's Journal https://drchatterjee.com/journalThanks to our sponsors:https://vivobarefoot.com/livemorehttps://drinkag1.com/livemoreShow notes https://drchatterjee.com/448DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Do you find it difficult to forgive? Do you wish others would find it easier to forgive you? Joining us is Dr. Fred Luskin, who's the Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. Dr. Luskin is one of the world's leading researchers on forgiveness. He's the author of the best selling books, ‘Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingrediant for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship'. Check out Dr. Luskin's website at www.learningtoforgive.com
Hey! On today's ep I'm chit-chatting about 7 self-help books that have (actually, for real) changed my life. THE BOOKS ✨ Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman: https://amzn.to/41YYDX0 ✨ Unwinding Anxiety by Judd Brewer: https://amzn.to/3tR2bOi ✨ The Power of Strangers by Joe Keohane: https://amzn.to/3HnhaTa ✨ Forgive for Good by Fred Luskin: https://amzn.to/3S4VwZc ✨ More than Words: https://amzn.to/3RU0xDH ✨ The Relationship Handbook by Dr. George Pransky PhD : https://amzn.to/3tGqr5W ✨ The Way Out by Alan Gordon: https://amzn.to/48SXBhg ✨ Opening up by Writing it Down: https://amzn.to/3ShNDAT NOTES The Relationship Handbook / More Than Words will not be helpful reads if: You feel unsafe or worry anything you do or say could anger or upset them. You feel like you're 'walking on eggshells'. They limit your social life and isolate you from friends and family They won't let you go out without them or without their permission, or say they prefer you to stay home with them. They decide where you go, who you have contact with and how you spend your time. They never let you have a say or decide. 'Gaslighting'/making you question your own mind Your sense of self and confidence is broken down You are constantly humiliated and criticised Your sanity, memory, and sense of reality are constantly questioned You feel like your decisions are controlled or made by someone else SHOP ✨ The Intention App - Manage Your Mind to Create a Life That Feels Good ⇢ https://www.theintentionapp.com/ ✨ The Life Map - Part eBook, part digital workbook. Use The Life Map (2.0) to create your most incredible year yet ⇢ https://www.muchelleb.com.au/the-life-map CONNECT WITH ME
Hey! On today's ep I'm interviewing Fred Luskin. Fred Luskin, Ph.D. is the author of Forgive for Good and one of the world's leading researchers and teachers on the subject of forgiveness. He is the director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, a series of research projects that investigate forgiveness methods. We talk about the impact of forgiveness on mental health, the importance of setting boundaries and challenging unenforceable rules, the need for gratitude and positive intention in the forgiveness process. RECCS OF THE WEEK ✨ Fred's book Forgive for Good ✨ Fred's book Forgive for Love ✨ How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable about Anything ✨ The Intention App: Train Your Brain For Happiness | The Ultimate Guide to Stop Overthinking (Part One) SHOP ✨ The Intention App - Manage Your Mind to Create a Life That Feels Good ⇢ https://www.theintentionapp.com/ ✨ The Life Map - Part eBook, part digital workbook. Use The Life Map (2.0) to create your most incredible year yet ⇢ https://www.muchelleb.com.au/the-life-map CONNECT WITH ME
Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can lead to better health. In this episode, Dr. Fred Luskin, author of Forgive For Good, shares groundbreaking research and insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. He offers a forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of contentment.
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01:00 Russell Brand's rhetorical avalanche reminds me of Ben Shapiro, Matt Walsh, Nick Fuentes, Mike Enoch, Eric Striker, https://www.conspirituality.net/episodes/brief-russell-brand 04:00 How Russell Brand Became the New Alex Jones, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHO04xzBY80 07:00 On Bullshit, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/On_Bullshit 08:00 If books could kill, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/If_Books_Could_Kill 09:00 If books could kill podcast, https://www.patreon.com/IfBooksPod/posts 36:00 My best blog posts, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=143746 37:45 Russell Brand speaks to seize attention and weave a spell 40:35 Right wing influencers like Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro cannot stand to pause 43:00 "Content is never the point with pundits and cults. Leaders want to hold your attention with emotion, not with ideas." 45:20 Forgive For Good: Recovery Workshop with Dr. Fred Luskin, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t83_hM-Ki9c 1:09:00 Are Sanskrit Prayers The Most Powerful? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CstGirMy9YM 1:18:40 Goy joy, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QslVfBPa7Q8 1:21:00 Yoga - The Risks and Rewards 1:22:00 Alexander Technique, Yoga 1:27:00 Is Yoga Idol-Worship? 1:42:00 I celebrated Yogi Bhajan's 80th birthday in 2009, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=10138 1:44:45 Elliott Blatt joins 2:02:00 How Involved Were SBF's Parents? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gLvOT2AldwM 2:14:00 These Wily Older Women Exploited Me https://decoding-the-gurus.captivate.fm/episode/interview-with-the-conspirituality-trio https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/russell-brand-latest-sexual-assault-allegations-205058747.html https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2023/09/russell-brand-allegations-aughts-media/675369/ https://www.nbcnews.com/news/world/russell-brand-youtube-suspends-monetization-rape-sexual-assault-rcna105750 https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-66843160 https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2023/09/us-culture-moral-education-formation/674765/ A Less Religious America Is a More Polarized America, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=150846 Your Hero System Is Your Morality And You Get It From Your Tribe, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=150319 Is blogging destroying journalism? https://statmodeling.stat.columbia.edu/2011/08/22/blogging_is_des/ How Livestreaming Made Me A Better Man, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149835 Why Do Some People End Their Sentences In 'Yeah'?, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149856 Cruel optimism, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149844 A Fan's Life: The Agony of Victory and the Thrill of Defeat by Paul Campos, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149853 The Republican Brain, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149724 People Often Base Their Worldview On Bogus Facts, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149510 HP: Richard Hanania, Rising Right-Wing Star, Wrote For White Supremacist Sites Under Pseudonym, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149672 The Obama Factor: A Q&A with historian David Garrow, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149632 https://www.unz.com/isteve/muslim-is-arrested-in-brooklyn-for-murdering-a-gay-black-how-3-news-outlets-covered-this-story/ https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/06/us/politics/woke-republicans-poll.html https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2023/08/06/europe-britain-carbon-cost/ https://www.wsj.com/articles/he-thought-he-saw-wrongdoing-on-wall-street-it-took-over-his-life-4d9ab491?mod=hp_lead_pos9 Decoding Decoding The Gurus, Part Two, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149545 Decoding Deep Left JOKL (7-24-23), https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=149329
To watch the video of this episode, please go to: https://youtu.be/B8yUKHrgzfw What is the forgiveness process?How do we make and expand peace after our own reactivity? What are the many promises and benefits that come from forgiveness? Find a wealth of essential life information in this hopeful and helpful episode of Kaleidoscope of Possibilities: Alternative Perspectives on Mental Health, in which Dr. Adriana Popescu speaks with psychologist, professor, author, and Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, Dr. Fred Luskin. You will hear about the powerful and profound ways in which we limit ourselves by holding onto resentment, anger, and victim status and how we can embrace forgiveness and begin the forgiveness process to have peace, transformation, and well-being in our own lives. In this episode: Dr. Luskin's hippie days Betrayal Forgiveness Victim mentality Anger, resentment, and self-pity What the research shows Destructive anger Keeping a scorecard Making peace Reconciliation Taking things personally Abuse and abusers The Forgiveness Process Project Mothers Wounding Grief and grieving Gratitude Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Luskin's email: learningtoforgive@comcast.net YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=dr+frederic+luskin Forgive For Good Book: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/forgive-for-good-frederic-luskin About Dr. Fred Luskin: Dr. Frederic Luskin is a psychologist who has been teaching at Stanford University for the past 30 years, with a PhD in Counseling and Health Psychology also from Stanford, he holds clinical licenses as a Psychologist and as a Marriage and Family Counselor. Currently he is on the faculty for the GSB Executive Education program and he also serves as Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects. A worldwide expert on the topic of forgiveness, Dr. Luskin is the author of the best-selling books Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship, and Stress Free for Good: Ten Scientifically Proven Life Skills for Health and Happiness. “Making peace after my own reactivity, that is what forgiveness is.” – Dr. Luskin Would you like to continue this conversation and connect with other people who are interested in exploring these topics? Please join us on our Facebook group! (https://www.facebook.com/groups/kaleidoscopeofpossibilitiespodcast/) About your host: Dr. Adriana Popescu is a clinical psychologist, addiction and trauma specialist, author, speaker and empowerment coach who is based in San Francisco, California and practices worldwide. She is the author of the new book, What If You're Not As F***d Up As You Think You Are? For more information on Dr. Adriana, her sessions and classes, please visit: https://adrianapopescu.org/ To find the book please visit: https://whatifyourenot.com/ To learn about her new trauma treatment center Firebird Healing, please visit the website: https://www.firebird-healing.com/ You can also follow her on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrAdrianaPopescu/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradrianapopescu/?hl=en LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriana-popescu-ph-d-03793 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/dradrianapopescu Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCflL0zScRAZI3mEnzb6viVA TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dradrianapopescu? Disclaimer: This podcast represents the opinions of Dr. Adriana Popescu and her guests. The content expressed therein should not be taken as psychological or medical advice. The content here is for informational or entertainment purposes only. Please consult your healthcare professional for any medical or treatment questions. This website or podcast is not to be used in any legal capacity whatsoever, including but not limited to establishing “standard of care” in any legal sense or as a basis for legal proceedings or expert witness testimony. Listening, reading, emailing, or interacting on social media with our content in no way establishes a client-therapist relationship.
Wouldn't it be nice to give your mind a break and put it on pause? Forcing yourself not to think is almost impossible. According to research by Dr. Fred Luskin of Stanford University, a human being can have around 60,000 thoughts per day—and 90% of these are repetitive. And 70% to 80% of those are negative! Here's a short guided exercise to stop the chatter.
THANK YOU FOR 5 WONDERFUL YEARS OF FINDING BRAVE, HELPING US REACH THE MILESTONE OF OVER 500,000 DOWNLOADS, AND RANKING IN THE TOP 1.5% OF OVER 3 MILLION PODCASTS WORLDWIDE! We're so excited to bring you this special episode of Finding Brave which celebrates two big milestones that I am very proud of. Firstly, we're celebrating 5 years of continuous publication of this show and, secondly, reaching over 500,000 downloads! And we're thrilled to be ranked in the top 1.5% of over 3 million podcasts globally and to consistently list in the Top 100 Apple Career Podcasts all over the world. I am so grateful to all our amazing guests who have provided so much thought-provoking and informative content that enriches our lives, careers, and relationships. Today, you'll hear brief excerpts of the top 20 most popular episodes of the show since its inception. I hope you love them and find them thought-provoking and enriching, in your life, work and pursuits. I'm very grateful to you, our wonderful listeners, who've been so supportive and encouraging over the past years. Thank you again for all your interest and support of the show. It's been a true joy to bring it to you. I and my wonderful team send our deepest thanks, and we look forward to the next five years together! Here's to Finding Brave in your life every day! Key Highlights From This Episode: • Bestselling author Joseph Grenny explains why “80% of the problem (in communication) is pre-verbal.” [01:48] • Why #1 vocal coach Cheryl Porter encourages you to believe in yourself without a doubt. [03:22] • The vital importance of distinguishing between a job and a calling with Kathy Caprino. [05:05] • How to turn your “mess into a message” and what has to happen first, according to success coach Anthony Trucks. [07:16] • How learning to let go of the future can become a superpower in your life, with futurist April Rinne. [08:47] • What it means to #1 Communication Coach Dorie Clark to build a “portfolio career” and why that's essential for success today. [11:00] • Why forgiveness expert Dr. Fred Luskin believes that you limit yourself when you take things “too personally.” [12:58] • Jason Marc Campbell explains why, in your sales, professional and business growth endeavors, you must not ever compromise on your true mission. [15:06] • Five essential steps to take when you want change in your career with Kathy Caprino. [16:08] • Top 100 Financial Advisor George Grombacher on the unforced errors you might be making in your personal finances. [18:18] • How Simple Courage founder Heather Hubbard believes experimentation propels us forward like no other action can. [20:45] • Why Brave By Design founder Laura Khalil stresses that 30% of people won't like you and how understanding that fact frees us. [22:11] • The importance of recognizing and understanding “privilege” as unearned benefits, with coach and author Karen Catlin. [23:19] • Financial coach Catherine Morgan's strategy for relinquishing guilt and shame around money. [25:13] • How self-help guru Amy Morin defines mental strength and views it as a choice. [27:32] • What Chief Storyteller Tony Vlahos means when he says your story must “have soul.” [28:34] • Three aspects of a worthy goal, according to author Michael Bungay Stanier. [30:05] • Entrepreneur Wendy Pease on the differences between men and women in business. [32:26] • Why we need to resist some aspects of socialization in order to avoid mediocrity as explained by human performance expert Dr. Nate Zinsser. [33:25] • Advice for finding clarity through experience, from performance coach Stu Massengill. [35:02] Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: 186: How to Have Those Difficult But Crucial Conversations With Friends and Colleagues, with Joseph Grenny 187: #1 Vocal Coach on How to Pivot Your Creative Business and Soar, with Cheryl Porter 190: Free Audio Chapter 6 of The Most Powerful You: Losing Sight of Your Thrilling Dream for Your Life 192: Making A Powerful Identity Shift That Will Elevate Your Life, with Anthony Trucks 193: Using a "Flux" Mindset To Better Navigate The Future, with April Rinne 194: How Being A Long-Term Thinker Will Improve Your Life and Career, with Dorie Clark 195: How to Forgive Someone When You Feel You Can't, with Dr. Fred Luskin 196: How to Sell With Love (and Love Doing It), with Jason Marc Campbell 197: The 5 Biggest Blunders Career Changers Make 198: What's Really Holding Us Back From Earning and Having Exponentially More Money, with George Grombacher 201: Are The Stories You've Been Told Supporting or Suppressing You? with Heather Hubbard 202: Build Greater Business Success By Answering Three Key Questions, with Laura Khalil 204: How To Be a Better Ally at Work And Build an Inclusive Culture, with Karen Catlin 205: How To Build Financial Wellbeing Into the Heart of Your Life and Work, with Catherine Morgan 207: How to Build the Mental Strength You Need To Reach Your Great Potential, with Amy Morin 209: How to Tell a Riveting True Story About Who You Are and Why That Matters, with Tony Vlahos 210: How to Begin Doing Something That Matters, with Michael Bungay Stanier 211: Stepping Out From Corporate Life to Entrepreneurship By Buying a Business, with Wendy Pease 212: How Confidence Is the Key, and How You Can Get It, Build It, and Keep It, with Dr. Nate Zinsser 218: Find Your Direction and Fall In Love With What You Do, with Stu Massengill Seize the Day and Take 40% off my three most popular 1:1 Career and Leadership Coaching Programs! 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Dr. Fred Luskin said, "There is a season for our suffering and regret. We have to have that. But the season ends; the world moves on. And we need to move on with it." In today's episode we look at the need to forgive yourself as the wise choice to move on from pain and suffering. Can you believe in yourself enough to forgive and love yourself? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/a2d--from-addict-to-disci/support
Learn the value and practice of "forgiveness" with Stanford University's Dr. Fred Luskin!Frederic Luskin, Ph.D. is the author of the best selling Forgive for Good and Forgive for Love and one of the world's leading researchers and teachers on the subject of forgiveness. He is the director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, a series of research projects that have validated his forgiveness methods. He is a Lecturer in Wellness at the Stanford University School of Medicine and Department Chair of Clinical Psychology at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. He lives in Redwood City, California.https://www.amazon.com/Forgive-Good-Proven-Prescription-Happiness/dp/006251721XFred, I thank you and the Bamboo Pack! You make our world a better place.Your Host,Brianhttps://bamboolab3.com/
Do you find it difficult to forgive? Do you wish others would find it easier to forgive you? Joining us is Dr. Fred Luskin, who's the Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. Dr. Luskin is one of the world's leading researchers on forgiveness. He's the author of the best selling books, ‘Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingrediant for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship'. Check out Dr. Luskin's website at www.learningtoforgive.com We're excited to tell you about another great product from our sponsor, Ritual. It's called Synbiotic+ and it's a daily 3-in-1 clinically-studied prebiotic, probiotic, and postbiotic designed to help support a balanced gut microbiome. Ritual's Synbiotic+ provides two of the world's most clinically studied probiotic strains to support the relief of mild and occasional digestive discomforts, like bloating, gas, and diarrhea. Synbiotic+ and Ritual are here to celebrate, not hide, your insides. It's time to listen to your gut! Ritual is offering our Nobody Told Me! listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/NTM to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today.
Do you know someone who has been hurt in the past and can't let it go? They aren't able to move forward with their life. Or maybe they wanted something really badly, but they didn't get it. Either way, they are stuck. This episode is for that person. Dr. Fred Luskin is the author of the book “Forgive for Good.” He is also the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects. In this interview, he discusses why forgiveness is a key component of resilience. Dr. Luskin shares how grievances are formed, how to overcome them, and why we live happier healthier lives when we forgive others and ourselves. Dr. Luskin is the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a senior consultant in health promotion at Stanford University, and a professor at the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, as well as an affiliate faculty member of the Greater Good Science Center. In addition to “Forgive for Good,” Dr. Luskin is the author of “Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship” and co-author of “Stress Free for Good: 10 Scientifically Proven Life Skills for Health and Happiness” along with Dr. Kenneth Pelletier.
Can everything be forgiven? Forgiving the small and average sufferings experienced throughout life is one thing. But what about bigger transgressions, like infidelity, abuse, or even large-scale offenses such as genocide? Showing that forgiveness is the healing of the heart's wounds as well as the revival of love, Olivier Clerc looks at what prerequisites might be needed to enter into a process of forgiving and what the effects of doing so might be, for oneself as much as, if not more than for the perpetrator. He identifies 15 obstacles to forgiveness—prejudices, confusions, false ideas, misunderstandings—and discusses where these perceptions and obstacles originate from, which keep many of us from taking the path to healing. Exploring how to overcome the obstacles to forgiveness and how to let go and change our thinking, the author details four practical methods for forgiveness, each with a unique approach: the Hawaiian practice of Ho'oponopono, Colin Tipping's Radical Forgiveness, Fred Luskin's Nine Steps to Forgiveness, and the author's own Gift of Forgiveness, inspired by his work with don Miguel Ruiz. Drawing from his years of forgiveness work as well as from the Forgiveness Project, he shares inspiring testimonies and examples from both victims and perpetrators who have rebuilt their lives after trauma by walking the path of conscious forgiveness. Clerc reveals how choosing to engage in a conscious process of forgiving our perpetrators—while not without struggle—helps stop a spiral of destruction, cleanses the heart, and leads to relief, freedom, and inner peace. Even when faced with the unspeakable, forgiveness is a path we can all take and in doing so we recover our full capacity to love and find happiness.
In this episode, Dr. Tarryn MacCarthy is joined by the Author, TEDx Speaker, Gestalt Therapist, and the Founder and Leader of Eudokima, Sonia Weyers. They talk about acceptance, forgiveness, and coping with grief and loss – all of which Sonia experienced during the health decline and after her parents' passing.Sonia Weyers, the author of Happiness Now! and The Sundown of Life, has explored numerous paths in her personal quest for meaning in her own life. After successfully finding meaning and helping others do the same as a trained Gestalt therapist, she faced the difficult situation of caring for her parents at the end of their life. Now she desires to give others a message of hope that there is more possibility for happiness even in some dire situations. While many may admire her degrees, they pale in comparison to her success in learning to love the life she has now. She enjoys her workouts, singing in a choir or two, learning new ways to live more sustainably, and spending time with her four children and loved ones.Reach out to Sonia:Website: https://eudokima.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonia-weyers-eudokima-a096376/FB: https://facebook.com/eudokimaIG: https://instagram.com/soniaweyers.eudokimaGrab a copy of her books:Happiness Now! A Guided Journey: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073GC9GL2The Sundown of Life: Overcoming the Challenges and Reaping the Rewards of Caring For My Parents During Their Final Years: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B61ZT25BDownload her free happiness guide: https://eudokima.com/en/5-things-in-the-way-of-your-true-happiness/Fred Luskin's Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness: https://bit.ly/3Wu0gYQShow notes:[2:46] How has Sonia been since publishing her book and reflecting on what she went through?[7:06] What was more challenging for Sonia?[11:47] Finding a place of forgiveness for her mom[16:50] Join Radical Happiness for Practitioners to rediscover happiness within your profession and life. Check out https://www.thebizofhappiness.com/radicalhappiness [22:57] Why do we struggle so much to accept the inevitable such as death and loss?[25:26] How does she prepare her clients for it?[27:03] What's one thing she hopes people to get from her book?[31:01] The courses and services she offers[33:27] What is her current definition of happiness?[37:56] OutroGet on Dr. Tarryn's Radical Happiness for Practitioners Waitlist: https://www.thebizofhappiness.com/radicalhappinessPlease join my Facebook group: Business Of Happiness Hive, so we can all take this journey to find fulfillment and happiness together. Click here.Where to find meWebsite: www.thebizofhappiness.comFacebook: facebook.com/thebusinessofhappinessIG: @thebizofhappinessIt would mean the world to me if you subscribe, leave a review, and share this podcast with your friends, co-workers, and families. This will help the trajectory of this podcast and allow others who are seeking true happiness to find the podcast.
An exploration of the life-changing power of forgiving• Discusses 15 perceived obstacles to forgiveness and how to overcome them• Details four different methods of forgiveness: the Hawaiian practice of Ho'oponopono, Colin Tipping's Radical Forgiveness, Fred Luskin's Nine Steps to Forgiveness, and the author's own Gift of Forgiveness• Shares inspiring testimonies and stories from around the world, revealing how forgiveness helps stop a spiral of destruction, cleanses the heart, and leads to relief, freedom, and inner peaceCan Everything Be Forgiven? Forgiveness allows our hearts to heal and love to be revived. Forgiving the small and average sufferings experienced throughout life is one thing. But what about bigger transgressions, like infidelity, abuse, or even large-scale offenses such as genocide?Olivier Clerc identifies 15 obstacles to forgiveness--prejudices, confusions, misunderstandings--and discusses from where these perceptions originate and how they might keep us from taking the path to healing. Drawing from his years of forgiveness work as well as from the Forgiveness Project, he details four practical methods for forgiveness, each with a unique approach: the Hawaiian practice of Ho‘oponopono, Colin Tipping's Radical Forgiveness, Fred Luskin's Nine Steps to Forgiveness, and the author's own Gift of Forgiveness, inspired by his work with don Miguel Ruiz. Inspiring testimonies and examples from both victims and perpetrators who have rebuilt their lives after trauma show that even when faced with the unspeakable we can heal. Choosing to engage in a conscious process of forgiving helps stop a spiral of destruction, cleanses the heart, and leads to relief, freedom, and inner peace.Olivier Clerc is a writer, translator, editorial consultant, and workshop leader. He is the founder of the international program Circles of Forgiveness, based on his life-changing experiences in Mexico with don Miguel Ruiz. With his wife, he created a yearly conference on forgiveness and founded the Association Pardon International (API). The author of The Gift of Forgiveness, he lives in Cluny, France.
Tune in as returning speaker Fred Luskin, Ph.D. talks about the necessity of grief and suffering on the path toward forgiveness and healing. Source: Fred Luskin: The Resolution of Grief Connect with Fred Luskin, Ph.D.: Book: Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness Previous Episodes: 254 | Fred Luskin, Ph.D: "Forgiveness Is The Ability To Make Peace With The Word Hosted by Malikee Josephs (Pronounced Muh leek Jo seffs) Give Me A Shout: Follow Me On Instagram @DepressionDetoxShow. Email me: mj@depressiondetoxshow.com Support The Show: Donate
Pastor Susan chats about forgiveness - in particular - Fred Luskin's research on forgiveness and the process of forgiveness as a part of healing.Support the showThe Village Churchvillagersonline@gmail.comThe Village Church meets at 10a and 5p on Sundays1926 N Cloverland Ave, Tucson AZ 85712Mail: PO Box 30790, Tucson AZ 85751
A lot more God talk in this one people, which you may or may not be into. A lot of Philosophical and theological perspectives on God, with a capital G. We continue our conversation with a very interesting Seminarian who has been studying not only theology but philosophy as well so he use big words, make brain thing hurtey. This recording dates back to August of 2022 and I'm just now getting to it… my friend the Seminarian was in a summer program of Chaplaincy at the hospital where I do some volunteer work, we've had some interesting conversations and I finally connected with him to be on this show. We start out with a simple question, that being: If God is all loving, how can there be so much hatred among us? If you are looking for an answer to that question, you'll need to visit another podcast, but inevitably, the answer to all questions can be found in a podcast. A few glossary items referred to in this episode: The Eternal Now - It feels to me like I'm hearing more and more about this referred to as Mindfulness and mindfulness meditations, but to a Catholic Seminarian it is much more. It is his desire to be as present to God as he is present to us. This also sent me down a crazy rabbit hole that led me to a site called “faithhub.net”. Faithhub! Doesn't that sound tasty? Like GrubHub only they deliver faith! Right to your door! There is a post titled, “God's Eternal Now” it reads, “God, is present, here, and NOW. In each moment. It is our greatest desire to be present to God as he is present to us. It is we who are often missing from the moment and, therefore, are often out of touch with God.” Even if you take God out of the equation, and please do if you have a negative association with that word for now. Take God out of the equation, and most reasonable and thoughtful people would see the value of being in the moment and that, regardless of faith, we spend way too much time regretting or reliving the past and fretting about the future. I know I do and there really isn't much value to it. Other than the satisfaction I get out of having a winning drop the mic argument with a fictitious person I've never met in a situation that will never occur. Back to the article on Faithhub… and get ready for a rabbit hole because it led me to a previous rabbit hole, that being author C.S Lewis. Remember I told you I thought he wrote Alice in Wonderland but it was actually Lewis Carroll? Well, this time it IS C.S. Lewis I am interested in. Lewis was an author of novels filled with Christian metaphor and before he wrote the Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe, he wrote a novel called “The Screwtape Letters” which was dedicated to his friend J.R.R. Tolkien. “The Screwtape Letters” was published as a list of letters from a senior demon or devil, named Screwtape, to a lower level Devil, named Wormwood… sounds like JK Rowling snatched and changed a couple of names there doesn't it? Wormwood is actually the nephew of Screwtape, and Screwtape advises Wormwood on how to treat his patient, which is an earthly being, so as to get him over to the dark side. Wormwood tells Screwtape, “Our business is to get them (meaning mortals) away from the eternal and from the present.” He also tells Wormwood that if the human “concerns himself with the Present because there, and there alone, all duty, all grace, all knowledge, and all pleasure dwell, his state is very undesirable and should be attacked at once.” - Your affectionate uncle, SCREWTAPE.“ This all gets back to the Eternal Now our Seminarian tells us about in this episode. Next glossary term... Boethius - He was a Roman Senator and Christian Scholar in the Early Middle Ages, when Rome was embracing Christianity and wrote and translated a bunch of texts. There's your moron definition. next…. We talk about How to pray for someone and give them their money's worth. We learn the origin of the term scapegoat! You guys probably know already but I haven't a clue. He also tells us who THE all time scapegoat is. Here's a hint… the GOAT is not Tom Brady. Also, a note: There is a graphic description of death and dying in this episode that you may not feel comfortable hearing, specifically involving a patient dying from cancer. With that same patient there is a discussion about the power of forgiveness, which leads me to bring up a professor I have mentioned before on the is podcast, Dr. Fred Luskin from Stanford University. He has done extensive research on the training and measurement of forgiveness therapy. His research demonstrates that learning forgiveness leads to increased physical vitality, hope, enhanced optimism and conflict resolution skills. It also shows that forgiveness lessens the physical and emotional toll of stress, and decreases hurt, anger, depression and blood pressure. There is a link at the bottom of the description to a short talk by Dr. Luskin. We pick up our conversation right where we left off last time, in fact there's a slight overlap as our guest is talking about the literal versus figurative when trying to interpret the Bible. It's my conversation with a seminarian and his chaplaincy work in a hospital and thank you for listening to The Modern Moron… CLOSE - I hope you enjoyed that conversation with my friend from the seminary and I will try to keep in touch with him and hopefully have him back. Since I have a couple of minutes I'd like to tell you about a recent visit I made to a patient. I was on the floor walk along and came to the door that was closed and had a sign posted that before anyone entered they should check with the attending nurse. I did and found out that it would be okay and that he seemed to be in a good mood that day, as he had been doing Elmo impressions earlier. Not knowing exactly what that meant, I walk in and find a young man, probably in his 20's to early 30's, long hair with a gauze mesh over his entire left leg due to a burn, and not much clothing other than that. His blanket was covering his kibbles and bits, and he had an incarceration geo-tracker on his left ankle. Not much of a traditional conversation. Even though I'm a moron, I'm feeling like not only am I observing someone who could possibly be a meth addict to the point of permanent damage, I also have the very unprofessional feeling that I'm observing someone who could be schizophrenic. Also, he looked to be fairly healthy physically and lacked the gaunt look with accompanying sores and missing teeth. He seemed to have all his teeth. Yay! They certainly were not dentures… and if they were, he got ripped off. So which is it? Meth of schizophrenia? I looked it up and gosh darn if there isn't some overlap between methamphetamine-Induced Psychosis and Schizophrenia. How about that. There is a link to a study of just that at the bottom of the description if you're interested. It can be difficult, with out the proper educational background, to make the distinction between someone who is suffering from addiction to Chrystal Meth and someone who is schizophrenic. I was speaking with a new friend who is in one of my exclusive social clubs that has recovered from addiction to meth and heroin, and he told me based on his experience and not medical data or trials or anything professional, that someone on meth will hallucinate, see and interact with hallucinations, partially because the stimulant effect has kept them up for 4, 5 or even 6 days and they are literally trying to sleep while awake and it results in these hallucinations. Again, that is the experience of one person, not a science based or clinically based conclusion. He also said that in his experience, the withdrawal from heroine was more physical with an actual craving for the drug, while the withdrawal from meth was additionally psychological. Again, his experience. Also, I noticed he had rather long fingernails, which I was slightly concerned that if he got squirrely on me, I would not care to get scratched by this… um… person. He did seem to respect that I was a Chaplain, he did have a bible with him and at one point asked me what was my favorite quote from the Bible. I am not that familiar with the bible and you wanna know what this moron's answer was? I said, “you know, the gospel of Matthew is the first thing that comes to mind.” I mean, why limit myself to a favorite verse? I'll take the whole book, thank you. This patient was pretty cagey. In fact that's a pretty good word to describe him. Every couple seconds his eyes would shift as could his mood. So I tried to wrap up my talk with him in some prayer. He asked me to pray for him and just like our seminarian recommended, I asked him, “what would you like me to pray for?” His response was, “I would like you to pray that I will be back with my wives and that I never test positive for Chrystal Meth again.” Not my wife, my wives and not to be released from the grips of Meth and it's addiction, just don't let me get caught. And you know what? That's exactly what I prayed for… “Heavenly Father, please let Bob heal from his injuries so he can be reunited with his wives, and may he never test positive for Chrystal meth again. And also God, please release him from the grips of it's addiction.” I threw that last part in there so I would have a clean conscious. He told me that prayer was very powerful, I bid him goodbye and as I left the room he continued a conversation with his imaginary friends. Out of curiosity, if you have ever prayed for either of those things, to be reunited with your wives or to never test positive for meth again, would you please… PLEASE contact the Modern Moron because we would LOVE to hear your story… provided you can string two sentences together. You might think you yourself, “how can you be a chaplain and not know the bible?” My answer is that so far, the patients I have sat with mostly want some one to just listen. Listen to them, listen to their story, listen to their suffering and just be present. Not to come up with my own fish story or my tall tale that one up's your story. And, so far that has been acceptable… but I do have a lot to learn. Thank you for listening to these last two episodes that have been a bit different than what we've had previously. Hit like, and subscribe and write a glowing review and all the things people don't want to do when they listen to a podcast. If fact, you know what? Skip it, I wouldn't do it either. We'll see you next time… A Comparison of Methamphetamine-Induced Psychosis and Schizophrenia: A Review of Positive, Negative, and Cognitive Symptomatology - National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) What Is Forgiveness? | Fred Luskin, PhD - YouTube God's Eternal Now | FaithHub - Faithhub.net
What does it mean to be happy? The concept of happiness and how to achieve it has become a constant conversation. In the age of instant gratification and the need for constant success, trying to be present and happy has become more difficult. Additionally, there are many misconceptions around happiness and what we need to be happy. Join us for a special lecture by Dr. Fred Luskin about these misconceptions around happiness and some simple guided practices that can help us.
World-renowned social scientist, best-selling author of "Forgive for Good," and director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, Dr. Fred Luskin recognizes why forgiveness is so "unpopular." It takes hard work, intentional practice, and deep vulnerability. Grudge-holding may feel more justified, but it only makes us sick. In his seminal "Forgive for Good" workshop and class series, which he has presented around the world, Dr. Luskin takes people through his forgiveness training methodology that's been validated through six successful research studies conducted through the Stanford Forgiveness Projects. Workshop participants learn to move from hurt to hope as they learn how to release grudges and free themselves from grievance. Through his research at Stanford University, over the past 25 years, Dr. Luskin has confirmed that forgiveness has been shown to reduce anger, hurt, depression and stress and lead to greater feelings of optimism, hope, compassion and self confidence. Dr. Luskin holds a Ph.D. in Counseling and Health Psychology from Stanford University. He continues to serve as Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. The forgiveness project has successfully explored forgiveness therapy with people who suffered from the violence in Northern Ireland, Sierra Leone as well as the attacks on the World Trade Center on 9/11. In addition his work has been successfully applied and researched in corporate, medical, legal and religious settings. He currently serves as a Senior Consultant in Health Promotion at Stanford University and is a Professor at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Website: https://learningtoforgive.com/Dr. Luskin's books: https://learningtoforgive.com/tools/
Do you find it difficult to forgive? Do you wish others would find it easier to forgive you? Joining us is Dr. Fred Luskin, who's the Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations. Dr. Luskin is one of the world's leading researchers on forgiveness. He's the author of the best selling books, ‘Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingrediant for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship'. To learn more, check out Dr. Luskin's website at www.learningtoforgive.com Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you'll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ira Israel shares tools to keep you at the high end of the happiness spectrum. Psychotherapist Ira Israel is the author of “How To Survive Your Childhood Now That You're and Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening,” which is endorsed by Sting, Reverend Michael Beckwith, Marianne Williamson, Jack Kornfield, Shauna Shapiro, Warren Farrell, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Jai Uttal, Joanne Cacciatore, Lorin Roche, Fred Luskin and many many others. Ira teaches sold-out Happiness and Authenticity workshops at Esalen and Kripalu and has written over 400 articles on psychology, philosophy, Buddhism, yoga, film, art, music & literature for The Huffington Post, Good Men Project, Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, and Medium. Ira is also the producer, writer and actor of the best-selling series "Authenticity and Awakening for Lovable Idiots,""A Beginner's Guide to Happiness," "A Beginner's Guide to Mindfulness Meditation," "Mindfulness for Depression," "Mindfulness for Anxiety," and "Yoga for Depression and Anxiety.” He graduated from the University of Pennsylvania and has graduate degrees in Psychology, Philosophy, and Religious Studies. For more information please visit www.IraIsrael.comHost Bonnie Burkert melds the worlds of media and higher consciousness, sharing tools for transformation to find our highest Truth. www.instagram.com/yogi_bon
In relationships between imperfect people, mistakes are inevitable. And when we find ourselves with damaged connections, it's a specific kind of communication that can help us make amends.Fred Luskin is the Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, and has devoted much of his career to researching the way forgiveness affects our psychological, relational, and physical health.“Apology is one of the few things that research shows actually facilitates forgiveness,” Luskin explains. In this Think Fast, Talk Smart podcast with host and strategic communication lecturer Matt Abrahams, Luskin outlines what it means to truly say we're sorry.Think Fast, Talk Smart is a podcast produced by Stanford Graduate School of Business. Each episode provides concrete, easy-to-implement tools and techniques to help you hone and enhance your communication skills.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Why is it so hard to say "I forgive you"? Is it really possible to forgive someone who's hurt you? If you forgive does that mean that you condone bad behavior? What are the steps to forgiveness? In this fascinating discussion with Dr. Fred Luskin, the world-recognized expert on forgiveness, we'll learn the steps to forgiveness and why it's important to forgive. And, most important, how forgiveness actually frees us from the prison of our own anger.Here's a link to:Dr. Luskin's excellent book on forgiveness His 9 point forgiveness processMy article on 5 Steps to a Real ApologyMy name is Jacob Brown, and I'm a Couples Therapist in San Francisco. To find out more about me:My websiteMy blogMy podcastThanks for listening and please leave us a review, comment, or rating.
Perfection is often held up as a virtue by our families, peers, society. It is actually a deadly neurological trick and a cognitive distortion, which steadily wears us down. Perfectionism is much different than a “vision of excellence”, which has the energy of accurately assessing your strengths and weaknesses, creating a vision of where you want to go, and figuring out the steps to get there. Perfectionism is a self-critical voice of “not good enough.” It is a motivating force but detracts from experiencing joy. Dr. Fred Luskin author of Forgive for Good, is our guest on this podcast and discusses issues around perfectionism in detail. Find out more about David Hanscom MD here Find out more about Les Aria, Ph.D here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
When we're hurt by others, we have the choice to forgive or hold onto a grudge. We often think of forgiveness as a gift we give someone who has done us wrong, but forgiveness is just as impactful to the giver. The act of forgiving is good for your health. On this episode, Deloitte Chief Well-being Officer Jen Fisher talks with Dr. Fred Luskin, a world leading researcher and teacher about forgiveness and the author of the best-selling books, Forgive for Good and Forgive for Love, about why forgiveness is important, recognizing the need to forgive, and how to forgive.
When we're hurt by others, we have the choice to forgive or hold onto a grudge. We often think of forgiveness as a gift we give someone who has done us wrong, but forgiveness is just as impactful to the giver. The act of forgiving is good for your health. On this episode, Jen Fisher talks with Dr. Fred Luskin, a world leading researcher and teacher about forgiveness and the author of the best-selling books, Forgive for Good and Forgive for Love, about why forgiveness is important, recognizing the need to forgive, and how to forgive.
We're talking about creating awareness around your own thoughts and how to question them. We discuss why it's not your workload or your circumstances that are causing negative feelings, but rather your thoughts and belief systems. According to a study by Dr. Fred Luskin of Stanford University, some people can have up to 60,000 thoughts per day, and of those 60,000, 80% are negative thoughts, and 95% are repetitive thoughts from the day before. We share how to break those cyclical patterns and find more mental peace and clarity. Addressing these thoughts can lead to major shifts and progress in your life, so join us as we discuss what has helped us on this journey. IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT: How to become more aware of your thoughts Offering yourself different perspectives Breaking down toxic belief systems Why negative thoughts have never produced a positive outcome Our top tips for how to focus on the positive The concept of approachable and realistic optimism Questions that Ashley H. likes to ask herself when she's evaluating her thoughts Recognizing patterns and habits that show up when we're trying to avoid doing the thought work RESOURCES MENTIONED Loving What Is by Byron Katie CONNECT WITH ASHLEY HUGHES Follow her on Instagram: @ashleynhughes Follow her business, Wilona Marketing: @wilonamarketing CONNECT WITH ASHLEY GREENE Follow her on Instagram: @ashleydgreene Follow her business, Effective Fitness: @effective_fitness_ Follow her business, Fork It: @fork_it_food EPISODE TIMELINE ( 1:14 ) Welcome back to Do The Thought Work ( 1:36 ) Ashley H. shares her mindful moment. ( 3:11 ) Ashley G. shares her mindful moment. ( 3:38 ) Ashley G. dives into today's topic, which is all about questioning your thoughts. ( 4:27 ) Ashley G. says the first step is to become aware of your thoughts. ( 6:26 ) Ashley G. recommends Loving What Is by Byron Katie. ( 9:32 ) Ashley H. shares a study that found on average, humans have 60,000 thoughts per day, and of those 60,000, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive thoughts from the day before. ( 14:15 ) Ashley G. explains how single thoughts turn into a belief system. ( 16:12 ) Ashley H. talks about the concept of approachable optimism. ( 19:21 ) Ashley G. says, “When you think something positive, then you're motivated, then you take more positive action and create more positive results.” ( 21:01 ) Ashley H. says, “Negative thoughts have never produced a positive outcome.” ( 22:39 ) Ashley H. and Ashley H. share ways that they find more mental clarity and calmness. ( 25:17) Ashley H. suggests that listeners look at what they're doing to numb out or distract themselves. ( 28:21 ) Ashley G. shares how she recognized patterns of avoidance. ( 31:46 ) Ashley G. and Ashley H. talk about the importance of critical thinking in general ( 33:39 ) Ashley G. and Ashley H. wrap up the episode. ( 35:05 ) Follow @ashleynhughes and @ashleydgreene, and DM and comment your mindful moments and. Follow, rate, and review on Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of you listening to the show and tag @ashleynhughes, @ashleydgreene, and @dothethoughtworkpodcast.
I read some recent statistics that around 77% of employees experience physical effects of stress and 63% of employees are ready to quit their jobs due to stress. But this episode is not about those external factors that affect us all—that wear at our emotional fortitude. No, this is about the people in your workplace that have harmed you.Take a pause right now and consider those who've negatively affected you at work (directly or indirectly). Yes, channel the resentment, just hold it for a moment. Let's explore releasing the grudges, the resentment, or even the spite. Today, let's talk forgiveness.BUT these people were TERRIBLE, their behaviors were [ awful / hurtful / selfish / condescending / meanspirited / stupid / fill-in-your-own-blank ] Yes. But we're not talking about their behavior. We're talking about your inner peace.Because as you dredge up these memories, as you consider all the wrongs, the bitterness and resentment…as you channel those feelings, here's a thought to consider. These people are NOT thinking about you. Do you think that they're feeling guilty or responsible for your angst? That they wake up in the morning committed to “doing better?” To work hard to earn your forgiveness? It's actually quite ironic, isn't it? The extremely high probability that they're not thinking of you at all.I was exposed to a book many years ago that profoundly impacted the way I think about forgiveness. I've given the book as a gift both literally and figuratively. Because forgiveness is a gift, we give ourselves.Fred Luskin, Forgive for Good. He helped me reframe what forgiveness was and also what it wasn't. This was profound.Forgiveness is not:condoning unkindness or excusing poor behaviorforgetting the paindenying or minimizing hurt or feelingsreconciliationForgiveness is:peace for you, your healingtaking responsibility for how you feeltaking back your powera choicebecoming a hero rather than a victimForgiveness is about the present moment. It means making a choice today, about a situation in the past. It's about feeling better today, and being clear about the situation, then choosing to overcome the negative emotions. This is about how you want to feel about yourself and your life. Maybe you're willing to explore what it would feel like not to feel the way you do about your past or current situation. Maybe you are willing to open the door to peace. But how?Start with clarity. Identify the feelings, identify the behaviors/actions that “harmed” you. And talk about them. Discover the emotions, clarify the why. Consider how you're telling the story. Consider why you're choosing to tell the story in that way.And let it go. Because do you want to be the victim in your story? Or do you want to be the hero overcoming the challenges that were tossed your way? Do you want to be the one that was able to rise above the dysfunction and be stronger for it?If you want to release the resentment:Define the perceived wrongClarify your emotions (past and present)Decide how you want to think about the situation with you as the victorChoose the emotion you want to experienceReframe and retell the storyFor more help: order the book or get coaching! I've helped a lot of people, let it go!My mantra: “Forgive everyone everything.” Because I give myself the gift of inner peace. You can too.
Elle Russ chats with Ira Israel - psychotherapist the author of How To Survive Your Childhood Now That You're and Adult: A Path to Authenticity and Awakening which is endorsed by Sting, Reverend Michael Beckwith, Marianne Williamson, Jack Kornfield, Shauna Shapiro, Warren Farrell, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Jai Uttal, Joanne Cacciatore, Lorin Roche, Fred Luskin, and many many others. Ira teaches sold-out Happiness and Authenticity workshops at Esalen and Kripalu and has written over 400 articles on psychology, philosophy, Buddhism, yoga, film, art, music & literature for The Huffington Post, Good Men Project, Mind Body Green, Thrive Global, and Medium. Ira is also the producer, writer, and actor of the best-selling series Authenticity and Awakening for Lovable Idiots, A Beginner's Guide to Happiness, A Beginner's Guide to Mindfulness Meditation, ”Mindfulness for Depression, Mindfulness for Anxiety, and Yoga for Depression and Anxiety. He graduated from the University of Pennsylvania and has graduate degrees in Psychology, Philosophy, and Religious Studies. For more information visit www.IraIsrael.com. CLICK HERE to get his Authenticity and Awakening for Lovable Idiots course for only $27 using code ELLERUSS1 SELECTED LINKS: www.IraIsrael.com Authenticity and Awakening for Lovable Idiots course for only $27 using code ELLERUSS1 ElleRuss.com
Drs. Jerry Smith E.D.D., MBA & Fred Luskin, Ph.D. discuss forgiveness. Dr. Jerry Smith (author, former T.V. Show host, Esalen Institute instructor for over 50 years) interviews his friend and fellow Stanford Alum Dr. Fred Luskin). Fred Luskin, Ph.D. Is the author of two best selling books on Forgiveness. He is a professor, corporate trainer, meditator, and mindfulness practitioner. He has expertise on the impact of forgiveness on health, love relationships, and the ongoing political polarization in the U.S.. Dr. Luskin did ground breaking research at Stanford University that remains very relevant today. To find out more about Dr Luskin click here To purchase Dr. Luskin's books click here To contact Dr. Smith click hereTo purchase his book Couples Therapy: Me & Yo & Us click hereTo purchase his book Hidden meanings: A psychological dictionary click hereTo learn more about Dr. Bramson click hereTo connect with Rafael Cortina click here WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
The word forgiveness comes from the Latin word perdonare which means 'to give completely, without reservation.' In The Book of Forgiving, Desmond Tutu calls forgiveness the greatest gift we can give ourselves when we have been wronged. However, most of us find forgiving others and ourselves to be one of the most challenging acts in life. Why is it so hard to forgive? How can we do so more easily, and what is the greatest gift awaiting us in this act? Can we forgive and forget when we are wronged?In this interview with Dr. Fred Luskin, Director of Stanford University's Forgiveness Projects for over 20 years, we'll explore these and other profound questions surrounding forgiveness. He is currently a lecturer at the Stanford University School of Medicine and the School of Business as the co-founder of the Wellness Education Program. He is the author of the best-selling books Forgive for Good and Forgive for Love. He has created a train-the-trainer program for forgiveness and has helped people recover from grievous wounds in Northern Ireland, Sierra Leone, Columbia and the World Trade Center.Stay with us and find out if the gift of forgiveness can bring you the joy that you deserve.karuna is a social enterprise with one mission - to make happiness accessible to all. If you believe that happiness should not be a privilege of the few, but instead a birthright of all, come join us. Become a founding member of our completely free community called the reimagine happiness™ community. As soon as you join, 10 dollars will be donated to our nonprofit arm, the karuna happiness foundation. For the entirety of 2022, we will be donating $10 to the karuna happiness foundation for every new member for up to a total of $100,000. Our mission at the karuna happiness foundation is to empower marginalized women, youth, and children to break the vicious cycles of poverty and abuse. Plus, when our paid membership options launch, we will be donating 10% of all revenue to the karuna happiness foundation. Your membership to the reimagine happiness ™ community, however, will always remain completely free as long as karuna exists.If you're ready to make a real difference in this world, we need you to join us. Once you become a member of the reimagine happiness™ community, you will also receive access to the tools of wellbeing we all need to thrive - because stress, anxiety and burnout do not define your story...happiness does. Come start your happiness journey while spreading compassion where it's needed most. Now is the time to start a movement where happiness is no longer the privilege of a few, but a right of all. Join us.happiness lives here™ welcome homelearn more about karuna or the karuna happiness foundation
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