Podcast appearances and mentions of seth haines

There's no escaping it: everyone experiences seasons of pain and despair. In 2019, when Amber Haines resigned from her position as church curate and walked out the church doors for the last time, she entered her own season of pain and despair. That season taught her--and her husband, Seth Haines--that the journey toward hope starts with recognizing "the deep down things." In The Deep Down Things, Amber and Seth point to a simple truth: even in the darkest times, there are tangible signs of hope all around us. The authors demonstrate how tasting, touching, feeling, holding, and participating in these tangible acts of hope picks us up, builds our strength, and moves us into beauty, even in times of despair. They invite readers to participate with those signs of hope and thereby experience the divine love of God, even in the struggle of their everyday lives. A lifeline for those who desperately need it, this book helps readers overcome despair, find hope, and spread that hope to an aching world.

Seth Haines and his wife battled issues that led them down different paths, but with prayer and discernment, they both realized their true spiritual home was the Catholic Church.

In this final chat of the year, Seth and Tsh work through a few of her end-of-the-year questions—and you're invited to do the same. They're tougher than they initially seem!* Hosts: authors Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider* Buy a round of drinks* Recommended reads* Tsh's end-of-the-year reflection questions Get full access to The Commonplace at thecommon.place/subscribe

‘Tis the season to have more options than possible to read, watch, and listen to. Authors Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider share what they're currently imbibing in this department, along with what's in their queue for the holidays.* Hosts: authors Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider* Buy a round of drinks* Tsh's 2023 Holiday Gift Guide* Six Reads for Advent on Tsh's Substack newsletter* Winter Fire, by Ryan Whitaker Smith* Christmas Karol, by Faith Moore* Perelandra, by C.S. Lewis* This Hideous Strength, by C.S. Lewis* Ben Rector's holiday playlist* Louis Armstrong & Ella Fitzgerald* Pray with C.S. Lewis on Advent* It's a Wonderful Life* All Creatures Great and Small on PBS* Vikings on Hulu Get full access to The Commonplace at thecommon.place/subscribe

In this episode, Amber C. Haines, Seth Haines and I talk about their latest book The Deep Down Things, which details the story of Amber's abuse in the church and her decision to step away. In the despair of loss, confusion, and disillusionment, a lifeline of hope was given. Seth and Amber give us practices and examples of what it looks like to find hope in the times of despair. We talk about calling out the truth of who people are, setting signs that can point to hope, attachment to Christ through adoration, the embodied power of the eucharist, and practicals like trail running and gardening. Join us as we find signs of hope when we are in the pit of despair. Amber C. Haines is the author of Wild in the Hollow: On Chasing Desire and Finding the Broken Way Home and The Mother Letters.   Seth Haines is the author of Coming Clean (winner of a Christianity Today Book Award of Merit) and The Book of Waking Up. Together with Tsh Oxenreider, he cohosts the podcast A Drink with a Friend.   Amber and Seth have experience speaking at conferences and events. They live in Fayetteville, Arkansas, with their four boys.Amber & Seth's Book:The Deep Down ThingsSeth's Recommendation:Only Murders in the BuildingAmber's Recommendation:Demon Copperhead by Barbara KingsolverConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Threads at www.facebook.com/shiftingculturepodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/shiftingculturepodcast/https://twitter.com/shiftingcultur2https://www.threads.net/@shiftingculturepodcastConsider Giving to the podcast and to the ministry that my wife and I do around the world. Just click on the support the show link below.Support the show

Amber and Seth Haines have each written and published books of their own, but now this married couple have written a book together—The Deep Down Things: Practices for Growing Hope in Times of Despair. In this episode, Amber and Seth Haines talk with Jonathan Rogers about Gerard Manley Hopkins, writing in partnership, marriage, and recognition, among other things.Support the show: https://therabbitroom.givingfuel.com/memberSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why hope? Because we have no other choice. A few years ago, Amber Haines entered a season of pain and despair when she resigned from her role as church curate and walked out those doors for the last time. Since then, she and Seth have been learning that hope requires a recognition of the deep-down things. Writers Seth, Amber, & Tsh Oxenreider talk about why we HAVE to hope, even when (especially when?) things are bleak.* Guest: Amber Haines* Hosts: authors Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider* Seth & Amber's new book, The Deep Down Things: Practices for Growing Hope in Times of Despair* Buy a round of drinks* Recommended reads* Merch* Go to Greece with Tsh* Why We're Required to Find Beauty* Orthodox Farmhouse Brewery* Patty Griffin: her self-titled 2019 album* God of the Garden, by Andrew Peterson* Ask a question! Email adrinkwithafriend@gmail.com Get full access to The Commonplace at thecommon.place/subscribe

Find Amber Haines' and Seth Haines' new collaborative book, The Deep Down Things here.  Ivanka Demchuk's icon of young Mary receiving the angel can be found here.   Click here to view Caravaggio's “The Incredulity of St. Thomas.” And see his “Madonna and Child with St. Anne” here. Erin Lane writes extensively about the concept of "mothering" as a verb rather than a noun in her book Someone Other Than A Mother. Read Mary's song of liberation in Luke Chapter 1.  If you're interested in learning more about prayer using icons, Henri Nouwen's book Behold the Beauty of the Lord is a great place to start. This reflection and practice were also published this week in The Slow Way Newsletter. Find a transcript of this episode here.  Find Micha's website and sign up for her weekly newsletter here Find Micha on Instagram Find Micha on Threads.  Micha's other (award winning!) podcast, The Lucky Few, is all about Down syndrome advocacy. She cohosts it with Heather Avis and Mercedes Lara.  Preorder my new book Blessed Are The Rest of Us: How Limits and Longing Make Us Whole at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and available everywhere books are sold.    

Social media isn't great for us, neither individually nor collectively. Know what's better? Substack. Not just for writers or creators — for readers and listeners, too! That means you. Writers Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider share why they dig this bright spot on the internet, and why you should, too. It's not perfect, but it's doing a good thing.* Hosts: authors Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider* Buy a round of drinks* Recommended reads* Merch* Go to Greece with Tsh!* Buy Seth's new book!* Over the Field, by Hadden Turner* La Beef, by Anonymous* The Blue Scholar, Nate Marshall* Flak Photo, by Andy Adams* School of the Unconformed, by Ruth Gaskovski* A Pilgrim in Metropolis, by B. Christof Wachtel* Hearthstone Fables, by Kristin Haakenson Get full access to The Commonplace at thecommon.place/subscribe

We officially live in a world with AI, like it or not. It's been around quite awhile, but its ubiquitous presence is escalating, and quickly. How shall we then live? Is there ethical space for AI? Writers Tsh Oxenreider and Seth Haines have thoughts.* Hosts: authors Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider* Buy a round of drinks* Recommended reads* Merch!* Come see Tsh next Thursday, October 5 at Fabled Bookstore* Tsh's latest: First Light & Eventide* Seth's upcoming: The Deep-Down Things* Ask Tsh & Seth a question! Email adrinkwithafriend@gmail.com* Anna Tivel's Outsiders: Live in a Living Room* Joan Chittester's The Rule of Benedict: A Spirituality for the 21st Century Get full access to The Commonplace at thecommon.place/subscribe

We're back for a new season of chatting over drinks! Writers Tsh Oxenreider and Seth Haines discuss the old idea of Ignatian examen and how it applies to us moderns. Also, why morning and evening bookends are a great idea.* Hosts: authors Seth Haines and Tsh Oxenreider* Buy a round of drinks* Recommended reads* Merch!* Tsh's latest: First Light & Eventide* Seth's upcoming: The Deep-Down Things* How to pray the examen  * Scientifically proven benefits of gratitude* “The Want of Peace” by Wendell Berry* Rules of Civility, by Amor Towles Get full access to The Commonplace at thecommon.place/subscribe

Three weeks ago, Maile gave up eating sugar, and it's had a profound impact on her creativity. Which leads us to consider how addictions in general impact our ability to write, and the various ways we can get unstuck when our writing feels like its source has been blocked.  Check out Seth Haines' books HERE.

Your next great book idea may be hidden inside the pages of your journals! As a writer, you've probably found journaling helpful at different points in your life. Perhaps you're an avid chronicler of your thoughts and feelings. It may surprise you to learn you could find your next great book idea in the daily commitment you've already made by putting pen to page in your journal. In this episode, host Clarissa Moll invites you to consider how you might turn your journal into a book. Relying on wisdom from authors Seth Haines and Shawn Smucker, discover the feedback you'll need to transform your journal entries from personal writing into a published work that serves your audience. The Writerly Life is a production of hope*writers. Written and compiled by Clarissa Moll Edited and mixed by Tyler Anderson Music by Karla Colahan

As a writer, you've probably found journaling helpful at different points in your life. Perhaps you're an avid chronicler of your thoughts and feelings. It may surprise you to learn you could find your next great book idea in the daily commitment you've already made by putting pen to page in your journal. In this episode, host Clarissa Moll invites you to consider how you might turn your journal into a book. Relying on wisdom from authors Seth Haines and Shawn Smucker, discover the feedback you'll need to transform your journal entries from personal writing into a published work that serves your audience. The Writerly Life is a production of hope*writers. Written and compiled by Clarissa Moll Edited and mixed by Tyler Anderson Music by Karla Colahan

We're excited to fill you in with everything that's been going on in our lives. From starting a new company, Robert finishing his ceramics studio at home, his blog to how we're taking steps for some major transitions.  Join us as we catch you up.List of resources mentioned in episode, suggested reading & social media handles:Tsh Oxenreider & Seth Haines' Podcast - Drink with a Friend COG Railway, Colorado Springs - https://www.cograilway.comLegacy Artisan Business Coaching, Lara Cornell - https://www.laracornell.comRobert's Writing - https://recognizingthedivine.comThree Tree Coffee's Compassion Subscription - https://threetreecoffee.com/products/brewing-hope-boxNoble Tree Coffee, Defiance Roast - https://nobletreecoffee.com/product/defiance-dark-roastUnited Art Space - https://www.unitedartspace.orgThe Hub @ United Art Space - https://www.unitedartspace.org/the-hubFollow Coffee Time Conversations, or Robert or Rebecca on Social Media: InstagramCoffee Time Conversations - https://www.instagram.com/coffeetime.conversationsRebecca - https://www.instagram.com/prince_beckRobert - https://www.instagram.com/robertprinceFacebookhttps://www.facebook.com/coffeetimeconversationsWebsitesCoffee Time Conversations - https://www.coffeetimeconversations.comRobert's Writing - https://recognizingthedivine.com

On the episode of the Bear Grease [Render], Clay and the gang discuss an array of riveting topics including getting ninja kicked by a mule. They discuss how Clay got it wrong on the game warden story, and Kolby Morehead of Bear Hunting Magazine squeezes in a legitimate "bears, beets and Battle Star Galactica" reference. The guys are joined by writer Seth Haines, who was also a guest on the first episode of the Daniel Boone series. They discuss the tension created by Boone potentially having a Cherokee wife, and wrestle with "armchair valor" in saying how they wouldn't have done it. The discussion is rich as they render down the first episode of the Daniel Boone series.  Connect with Clay and MeatEater Clay on Instagram MeatEater on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Youtube Shop Bear Grease Merch Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Join Ben and Elizabeth as they have a conversation with author Seth Haines about his most recent book “The Book of Waking Up”. Listen as Ben, Elizabeth and Seth moves from the problem, to the pain to waking to the divine love. It is an insightful conversation dealing with the reality that we are all have dependency issues, turning to something for comfort in times of pain. We need new order, a new order that only the divine love can offer. Enjoy this episode! Coming Clean by Seth HainesThe Book of Waking Up by Seth Haines

Join Ben and Elizabeth as they wrap up the 10 week series “otherworldly”. Questions asked here (1) What does it mean to live in the flesh? (2) What are some way we can keep in step with the Spirit? Quoted for us is portions of Galatians 5 and Romans 8 to help us understand how the Spirit works. They also introduce the up and coming summer series called “How We Cope” and their next up coming guest, Seth Haines, who walks through his book “The Book of Waking Up” for the start of the series. Enjoy! Forever by Paul Tripp

Walking is good for us, but it takes a while — it's not the most efficient mode of transportation. But it's not about efficiency; that's not the point. What about the other stuff in our life that can benefit from slowness? Seth and Tsh talk about being slow to reply, slow to respond, and slow to assume, and how we all need to do more of it. Seth: Newsletter | Twitter | Instagram | Website Tsh: Newsletter | Twitter | Instagram | Website Support the show — buy the next round of drinks! Subscribe to the show's Substack Find all the episodes Tsh's Rule of Life workshop Ancient Nutrition Bone Broth Mark Sparrow's tweet @findinginterestingpeople Atlas Obscura Podcast Scroll down for the transcript Tsh: This is A Drink With a Friend, I'm Tsh Oxenreider. Seth: And I'm Seth Haines. Tsh: Seth, what are you drinking this afternoon?  Seth: Have you ever heard of Ancient Nutrition? Tsh: No. I've heard of those two words.  Seth: The brand Ancient Nutrition. Yes, you know ancient and you know nutrition. The is a brand called Ancient Nutrition and they make bone broth. Powdered bone broth.  Tsh: Oh yeah. Seth: Today, I was noticing I was a little low on my protein intake which is to say a lot low. I need a lot of protein. I went to Ozark Natural Foods which is our local co-op, our local Whole Foods competitor. I try to go there any time I can instead of Whole Foods. I picked up a packet of Ancient Nutrition Chocolate Bone Broth that tastes amazing!  Tsh: Okay! This comes full circle to a few episodes ago when you talked about anything chocolate and healthy is terrible.  Seth: I know. Someone on A Drink With a Friend that sponsors the drinks has recommended some things which I have not gotten around to trying but in preparation for today while I was at ONF looking for high protein foods, I saw this and it was chocolate flavored and it was $3 and it had 20 grams of protein, less than sugar, very few carbs. I thought I'm going to try this and while I drink it on the air I'm going to report to the people about whether it's good or terrible as all healthful chocolate things are terrible, this is kind of amazing.  Tsh: Nice. I'm literally looking it up right now. Seth: I mixed it in, it recommends 12 ounces, it would probably be better, but I mixed it in 16 ounces of hot water. It would be super amazing in hot cashew milk or almond milk.  Tsh: That's great to know because bone broth drinks are expensive so to me, $3 is not that bad.  Seth: Well, for a packet. I use it as a meal supplement so I think the bigger tub of it is quite expensive but still amazing. If you use it as a snack or a supplement, I highly recommend it. Tsh: Very cool. Seth: I'm assuming I know what you're drinking because you texted me before we went on that you were running a few minutes late because you were making your drink which is… Tsh: Coffee. Black coffee. I don't drink coffee that much when we talk because I can't do caffeine after 2 pm but this is 1 pm so I can still do it, I'm in the window. It's just my standard Cafe Creole Ethiopian coffee that's just good. It's nothing fancy but it's really good coffee from the grocery store. I actually added a cinnamon stick because I was just reading cinnamon in the nutritional benefits so I'm just tossing it in there. I am actually testing out a theory. After we record, I'm going to take a 15-minute nap. I was just watching this YouTuber talk about the weird unknown effects of taking a power nap after drinking coffee and that it does something or other that I can't remember and I'm going to test to see if it's complete sh*t or if he's telling the truth. We'll see. I've never been able to take good naps but I'm desperate for some sleep.  Seth: Can you report back? Tsh: I will report back.  Seth: Interestingly you said, the amazing health benefits of a cinnamon stick and I don't know what that even means.  Tsh: It's like digestion, mental clarity, and what is that called? The bio-gut stuff. Whatever that's called. It promotes healthy bacteria growth, the good bacteria and not the bad bacteria. That is a very scientific way of explaining what I just said.  Seth: That sounds pretty amazing. Maybe I need to get eat a cinnamon stick today.  Tsh: Don't do that. That's probably toxic or something. We are not doctors.  Seth: Yes, that's right. Tsh: We're kicking off, I don't know if you want to call this a series because they're basically not non-sequiturs so in my mind they are kind of a series. This week and next week, we're going to talk about these two ideas we've had on our minds. Today, what's been on my mind because it's been on my mind all week, is this idea of slow. This is not new. I've talked about slow and moving slowly through life frequently in many different places so I'm kind of reinventing the wheel here except I want to talk about it in a slightly different way. The thing that's got me thinking about this is my current workout routine. I've been walking about six miles a day for the past seventeen days. Today's my eighteenth day of walking six miles a day.  Seth: Wow, that's amazing. How long does that take you to walk?  Tsh: Believe it or not, not as much as you think. Here's the thing, I don't do it in one sitting. I do it all throughout the day. I'm very grateful to live in a very walkable neighborhood. I've made this commitment post-Lent to walk anywhere a mile or less and so I've just been walking everywhere. I take a morning walk, afternoon, and evening walk but then I sometimes just get up and walk around the block. It's for mental clarity in a lot of ways but also for a lot of other health benefits. And it's really been a net positive for me. I was doing some reading about it. We all just know walking is good for us but here's the thing, it's really slow, that's a big duh, but it's a slow form of working out and it doesn't feel like you're doing a lot. It feels like you're doing the thing you've done since you were eighteen months old. It's gotten me thinking about what does it look like to move slower through life. I've been thinking about three different ways that I think we can all move a little slower. Before I get into those three things, unpack with me a little bit, Seth, what does slow look like for you right now? Are you able to be slow at all in any capacity in your life at the moment?  Seth: Yeah, in some capacities. I juggle a lot of hats from a courier perspective mostly because I've made now two career shifts in the last two years. One away from the practice of law and one back into the practice of law so I've had to juggle both of those transitions. I'm in the middle of one of those transitions right now. From a business perspective, I always feel like my hair is on fire. Everything moves so fast. The practice of law moves pretty fast anyway. The content development and coaching and book editing and writing move pretty fast, too, with the kind of work that I do in that space. My day feels pretty fast. In the last few months, I've really been focused on, we've talked about this before, I've been doing CrossFit now for almost a year and I've been focused on not just doing CrossFit but then building some endurance work on top of that that is intentionally steady state cardio which because I'm forty-three is much slower than when I was twenty-three. I have been intentionally seeking a slower rhythm and slower pace probably four to five times a week. Whether that's by sitting on a rower and just clocking off forty-five minutes or whether that's going on a long run to have that slower state cardio. That slow time is really helpful for me because it pulls me away from that breakneck speed and I find, actually yesterday, I had a slow row day and there was this issue I was having a hard time unlocking. Within ten minutes, I texted the answer to somebody. That slow, slowing down, being disconnected from the internet, being connected really only to yourself and your thoughts has been really helpful for me. I really have to seek it out. I am not as good at it probably as you are. I would love to hear more about your journey into slowness. But before, I have a couple of technical questions.  Tsh: Okay. Seth: One, is your morning, afternoon, and evening walk for mileage? Tsh: It's for steps officially but I also look at the mileage so I've got a Fitbit, our whole family has them now, actually. I wanted to track a number of things but yes, technically it is. I walk our dog most of those walks and I just keep track. I officially check for 10,000 steps a day but it roughly checks out at four to six miles a day what I end up clocking. I go for mileage. Seth: That was my second question, is how many steps is six miles? Tsh: 10,000 steps for me equal to about four miles. 15,000 steps get northward of six. The reason I'm going to switch to looking at more miles, now that I've got in the habit, it feels weird, eighteen days in a row of doing 10,000 plus steps, it feels normal to me. The thing I've thought about is everybody's steps are different, right?  Seth: Right. Tsh: My gait is a lot shorter than Kyle's because I'm a foot shorter than him. But five miles is five miles. That's why I'm using that as a metric more probably in the near future.  Seth: Those are my two questions. Miles and steps. I think that's good when we're talking about slow exercise or slowness in general, but with slow exercise, I think one of the things is having a consistent metric. When I think of rowing, for instance, yesterday I rowed a 10K and it took me forty-five minutes but I'm also really long and generate a lot of leverage and so somebody who rowing next to me and rowing a 10K who might be shorter, maybe like you, would have to pull a whole lot more and so the amount of energy generated isn't quite the same. That's why a lot of times people will say run for time, pull for time, and row for time when you're doing these slower cardio, steady-state cardio events. I like the idea of saying let's pick a metric that is the [inaudible] same and do that. Tsh: Yeah, for sure. For me, one of the things I've noticed the past few weeks is I started off doing it for the physical health benefits but the mental health and the emotional health have been right there with it to where that's one of the reasons why it starts feeling weird to me to not walk as much. Let's say I get closer to 10K versus 15K, I can feel the steps. I can feel it. For me, the gains have been mostly mental because let's face it, I'm not sore after walking six miles, it's not hard. It really is not. But the mental clarity and the emotional clarity have been so great and here's the reason. Our bodies release cortisol when we work out, that's just how they do it. Women, in particular, release more cortisol than men and that's the stress hormone. We need that stress hormone. It's not about getting rid of cortisol but it's about having it released at the right times or for the right reasons. Right now, I'm trying to lower my cortisol levels because I'm trying to get better sleep and I'm trying to work on my mental health, my constant monkey brain. I need to lower my cortisol levels and walking is a great way to do it because it's one of the only forms of active working out that lower cortisol level, not elevates it. That's why I feel like the mental and emotional benefits have been really solid for me. That's where I want to park on because as much as we like to talk about fitness and we will continue to, I think we all can relate a little bit to thinking slower and maybe reacting a little slower to the things in our life. We've all been through a global pandemic and I think most of us have experienced a slowing down of our life in the past twelve months because of our calendars, that they have emptied. I don't know about you, Seth, but that was to me, probably the best benefit of something like this that has not been a good thing. I have welcomed the lowered expectations of me needing to be somewhere at a certain time and having to run all over town to take kids places, stuff like that. It's been a really nice slowing down in that department.  Seth: I agree with you 100%. We were talking the other night about how there was a moment early in the pandemic when my business on one front slowed down so much that I was actually concerned. But by the same token, we were eating out zero, we were going zero, we were driving zero, and we started realizing maybe we're losing a little bit of money but we're also saving a ton of money just as a result of the slowness. Then we started realizing we're more connected, we're spending more time together, we see each other just because the pace of life had slowed down so much. Over the last six months, it's slowly creeped up and I miss some of those things, some of that slow time. I just miss it.  Tsh: Yeah, I do too. This is for me why it's a benefit to do something like walk because you can claim it. Walking is completely not efficient. You don't get anywhere quickly when you walk. If I choose to walk to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription or to the library to pick up a book, by walking I'm intentionally taking the harder, slower, more methodical route. But I welcome the space. Many times I listen to an audiobook or a podcast but I'm also really and truly embracing the being with my thoughts, especially in the Spring when I can hear birds and wind and things like that and I don't want to miss them.  What's been on my mind is this idea that we can all collectively understand, three different ways that we can embrace a more sacramental nature of slow and it all has to do with response. Responding to the world around us. The first one, and I'm curious what you think, Seth. Actually, while I pull it up, I'm pulling up a tweet that I retweeted. I didn't write it but I loved it, I read it last week. How quickly do you respond to email? Seth: I'm not super great at it. Some of it is that I put parameters around my time. If you shoot me a business email that's non-urgent after hours I'm not going to respond. Period. End of story. Until business hours. There are exceptions to that. I have a client who will periodically text me something and he's in a different time zone and will text and say I know it's after hours but will you look at the email, then yeah. I will do that. I am probably an efficient responder to emails but I'm not always timely because I don't respond after hours. I'm pretty slow.  Tsh: I'm very slow. No one will give me an award for inbox zero, ever. I saw this tweet, it's by a guy named Mark Sparrow, I don't know who it is but just says,  “Best email signature ever: It is normal for me to take a couple of days to read my emails and several more days to reflect on the matter and respond in a calm manner. The culture of immediacy and the constant fragmentation of time are not compatible with the kind of life I lead.”  Seth: That's amazing.  Tsh: I know. It feels a little stick it to the man-ish. I can see how somebody can read it and think who are you to say that this is not compatible with the life you lead? I need an answer ASAP. But I really like this because I think the point of an email signature like this is saying, listen, these things you are putting in my inbox, you're not owed a quick response. Someone even commented below that when they started work in the early 90s it was just a normal practice to not respond to a letter within two weeks. This sudden expectation for a same day, sometimes same hour response is just not realistic. I once heard my favorite definition of an email inbox, it was like a to-do list from somebody else, or a to-do list for someone else's time. I forget how they said it. Basically, it's people wanting things from you most of the time. For me, I really like this idea of embracing a slow to reply posture. I've done this for a long time. I've had this no-need-to-reply practice to my emails but to me, I feel like this might be an encouragement to anyone listening that there is perhaps not as urgent a need to reply to that email, to that Slack message, to that text, to that request to volunteer at your kid's end of the year banquet, all these things that you have permission to think it over before you reply to something like that. Seth: It seems to me that one of the benefits of your walking practice, if I'm thinking of it in practical terms, is if I were to walk more everywhere I went and an email came across on my way to the library, 1) I might not even see it unless I'm looking at my phone if I'm walking which feels antithetical to the whole point; but 2) even if you did receive it, are you going to stop on the side of the road and sit there and type it out with your thumbs? Probably not. It feels like even when you're talking about this, and maybe this is part of your initial point, is that as you go on these walks and as you slow down, the tyranny of the urgent actually can't reach out and grab you by the throat.  Tsh: 100%. That's one of the great beauties of this. I think just being outside at minimum is this invitation to detach from the ability to be immediate. In fact, I have been tempted by the idea of leaving my phone, which I know sounds like, just leave your phone, what's the big deal? But for me, because of the audiobook/podcast tethering, I haven't done it and I've been more reluctant but I think I'm going to try. Here's the thing. I barely check my email on the phone anyway but I'm still reachable. I still could be reached. That is one of the great beauties of a slower posture is intentionally making it inconvenient, let's just say, to reply quickly to things in life.  Seth: That's sort of a side practice. I've heard people talk about this with respect to social media. How do you slow down the onslaught of social media and social media demands on your time? Responding to every comment on any, choose your platform, or making sure that you post on, choose your platform, which is all pretty vacuous stuff, if we're being super honest. Although my beautiful thing that I'm going to share today is literally an Instagram profile. Anyway, that aside, I have often heard it said that if you want to live a slower life, if you want to not be dragged into the tyranny of the urgent, then make it more difficult to get to [insert the platform], your Instagram, your Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, whatever the next thing is, make it inconvenient.  Tsh: Yeah, add some friction there. I don't have Twitter on my phone. I currently have Instagram on my phone because I was working on a thing. But for a better part of the pandemic, I deleted it and only downloaded it on Friday's and that was fantastic to where I had to intentionally go and download it, re-sign in, retell it yes, you can have access to my photo library, and it was really good for me because I wouldn't just mindlessly scroll when I was waiting at a checkout line. But I could still access it on my laptop but there's something a little more intentional about opening up your laptop and that's the same with Twitter. That's actually a nice segue to my second form of being slow and that's a flip side of the same coin, and that's being slow to respond, which I know is similar to slow to reply. It's this idea that something in this culture of ours has dictated that we should respond to situations right away if we're to be good people. I made the foolish decision the other day to scroll through my unsubscribe messages, why people unsubscribe from my email. I never do that. I know not to do that. Seth: A bad idea.  Tsh: It's never helpful. It's like looking at book reviews. They're not helpful for me. Seth: It's actually like going and asking people that hate you why they hate you to their face. Just let it go, who cares? It doesn't matter.  Tsh: I don't care why you've unsubscribed. But this one person unsubscribed from me because I did not respond to a current newsworthy event that happened not too long ago. I didn't make a statement in my weekly email and so she decided that was worth an unsubscribe and worth telling me. Here's the thing. I didn't even know what happened because I closed up all these links because I had a book deadline. I literally did not know what happened. My silence was for a reason. But here's the thing, even if I did know what happened, if I didn't reply to it, that doesn't make me a bad person. If anything, it simply made me a person who needed to think or maybe let other people who are wiser than me or have more ownership in the issue or stake in the issue, speak about the thing. I just find it interesting that we live in this world that says if you're remotely online, which is honestly all of us, most people have chosen to be on social media if they're listening to a podcast, that you need to say something. I just think that's really, really weird. I don't like it. Seth: Yesterday, I was watching some awkward Mark Zukerberg moments. That was the title of the YouTube video clip. I was actually looking for something to make this meta-joke. This is all getting really weird, what I'm about to tell you. I was looking for a clip to make a meta-joke on Instagram in a Reels post. It was going to be this really snarky meta-joke about Reels themselves.  Tsh: Got it. Seth: I started looking for awkward moments of Mark Zukerberg and I happened to run into this one and he was before Congress and they were asking him questions and they said something like, Mr. Zukerberg, you're not from here, you flew into DC to talk to us, would you mind telling us publicly where you stayed last night? He just stood there and laughed and said, no. Then they asked, would you mind telling us where you ate dinner last night? He said, no, I don't really want to do that either. They said would you at least tell us how much money you spent on dinner last night? He said no, I don't really want to do that either. They said, yet, you're providing this platform that encourages those people to do all of these things immediately. Everybody got a good chuckle out of it. He got a good chuckle out of it, too. The point held, was that we feel the need to instantly tell everybody everything about us just because we can. That feels bonkers and then when you bring that into a news response scenario, it gets really tricky because, in the last week and a half, three major news outlets have had to come out and say we missed a story. We missed it, we misreported, we gave some bad facts, we correct those facts, here are the facts. Facts are still bad but they were reported inaccurately. If you had spent the time to immediately respond to the inaccurate facts, then are you going to go back and immediately respond to the correction? It's a cycle that never ends and there are some things that just demand a lot more thought. On top of those two things, I look at some of the issues that make major news cycles these days and I think about systemic racism, which is in my opinion, a very real thing, a very terrible thing, that needs to be dismantled in the United States.  Tsh: Yep. Seth: And in my local town.  Tsh: Yeah. Seth: I know people who are doing amazing work in the realm of really dismantling these systems who are not on social media and who are very quietly doing amazing work. I would rather continue to watch them do amazing work than jump on to social media and always have to have a response. I've always felt like there are times that you do need to immediately say something if you know about it. Come out and say the thing, be clear, be honest, be who you are. But also, that's no substitute for doing really good quiet work that no one ever knows about. That is slow. That is not instant. Tsh: Exactly. That actually brings me perfectly to the third point, which is being slow to assume.  Seth: Yeah. Tsh: People are nuanced and the Internet, by and large, is not. People are three-dimensional, our screens are two-dimensional. It is hard to pick up on, not only tone and rhetoric but also what's not being said. Someone's silence could very well be because they're doing the on-the-ground, un-sexy, hard work of dismantling racism or sexism or poverty or whatever the issue is, in their local community and it is a better use of their gifts and resources and energy than having some kind of public statement in a tweet. Even when we're not talking about issues or newsworthy events, just looking at somebody online, looking at their body of work, and deciding why it may or may not be for you. To bring it back again to those unsubscribes, I noticed a few other people had mentioned that they decided to unsubscribe once they heard that we had joined the Catholic Church as a family, which is a whole other thing which maybe we can get to later on this podcast. The reason is that they assume that because we have basically put ourselves under the authority of the Catholic Church, then it means we believe and feel A, B, and C about a certain type of person, a certain belief, a certain you name it. They're jumping to this huge conclusion based on this one thing they know about me and they don't know me, really. Here's what it comes down to, I have messed up their idea of who they want me to be. Or I've messed with their version that they want about me and because I am not offering that now, they've been given another piece of information they don't know what to do with it and they just decided they can't have it. Here's the thing. I am all for the act of unsubscribing whenever you just flat out can't have something in your life for whatever certain reason. People are not for everyone and that's completely fine. I follow a podcast that I learn a lot from. I really do not like this podcaster's politics at all. We are on very opposite ends of the political spectrum but I still subscribe to his podcast because I can learn from him and I appreciate that his posture is one of humility and he is nuanced and I appreciate that. Let's be slow to assume. Seth: Again, part of the work of slowness and the work of slowly getting to know yourself and being comfortable with yourself and who you are, means that when people make snap judgments about you and you have clarity about who you are, what you believe, and what you're about, what you're supposed to be about, some of those things just roll off your back a little bit differently. If you have the confidence of someone who has done the slow, hard work and continues to do the slow, hard work and continues to change, and be open to new ideas and move in different ways, then some of that stuff can just float away. I will ask because I think it's a fascinating question, were the assumptions, based on your joining of the Catholic Church, were there both conservative and liberal people who assumed quasi opposite things about you as a result?  Tsh: 100%. It's fascinating to me. I think maybe this is why the Catholic Church can feel so uncomfortable to people because it's so old it doesn't fit into anybody's modern categories. It does a great job of pissing off both the liberals and the conservatives. It's uncomfortable for me. There are some things that I'm like, ehhhhh, I don't know.  Seth: Because you're human! Tsh: Exactly, that's what we're saying, right? Of course, this is just one example of nuance. I'm not at all implying that this is the book of where nuance lies. We can be nuanced and not be Catholic. This is just my reality at the moment. I'm rattling people's ideas of who they thought I was. They thought because I promoted candidate X, then, of course, I must believe this way theologically. Or because I make these decisions about my kids' education then, of course, I also think these other things. Nobody is one way. We are all just a mixed bag of stuff. I can't think of what it is.  Seth: I took some of that heat. Amber and I took some of that heat after the election. Go look through my profiles. I was very clear. I'll just say to the listener here, I voted for Joe Biden. I very much supported Joe Biden. Not because I agree with everything Joe Biden says and certainly not because I consider myself a Democrat. But I felt like we were at an imperative point in American history and I felt like, of the two candidates, there was one candidate that could get us where we needed to go out of that imperative moment at least head us in the right direction, point us in the right direction. Does that mean that I'm 100% pro-abortion? No. Not at all.  Tsh: Exactly. Seth: I've been very, very clear about that. Yet, I took heat from people saying that same thing. How could you ever support abortion? That's not what I was doing. I think part of the problem, and this is not to make it about politics. I have very good friends who will vote another way and I'm still very close friends with them and will continue to be. Typically when we get in a room I can vehemently disagree with their political opinion and we can still find common ground where we still love each other and still have productive conversations but that is primarily because we're in relationship not because we're in this weird subscriber/consumer/producer relationship. I think once we start to commodify each other and impute meaning to each other that maybe not warranted or not fair and in that commodity turn sour or disappoints then it's really easy to throw the commodity away and say Tsh, you're a commodity, I'm done with you. Seth, you're a commodity, I'm done with you. I do this to people, too. I'm a human too, so I have done this, too. I think part of what we have to get back to, again, back to your slowness, we have to get back to the slow art of paying attention. We talked about this a little bit with other writers, the art of paying attention a few years back. I don't know if you remember that. That's the primary work of the writer. I think that's actually the primary work of the writer because it's the primary work of the human. Paying attention. Slowing down. Listening to each other. Not being so quick to throw each other away. Listen, like you said, if I'm not for you, please go find the person that's for you. I'm totally cool with that. You're not hurting my feelings but don't throw your assumptions on me.  Tsh: Exactly. I think that seeing is the act of being sacramental. This morning I heard this fantastic definition of sacramentality, which is simply seeing the world as it really is. Since we like to talk about that here and since this episode, in particular, is about slowness, just to bring it full circle. We have a neighbor down the street, who during the election had all sorts of signs in their yard for the opposite candidate our family had signs in our yard for, or at least that we were voting for, they were Trump supporters, basically. They felt compelled to put signs out in their yard for that. I admit that I was probably quick to judge what they might have been like as people. Fast forward, in my walking habit, I nearly every day past their house. It is a sweet older couple who have a fantastic backyard garden that I can see because it's a corner lot. They are the nicest people. They say hello. They talk about our dog. Our neighbor across the street who drives a Harley, he's been over there. I've seen him in their garage chit-chatting. They are beacons of the neighborhood because they've been here a long time. I've really grown to appreciate who they are as people, just a sweet older couple. For me, that's my lesson. These people are nuanced and I slowed down enough to walk past their house and recognize that and I don't think I would have if I just drove by their house all the time.  Seth: I think that is key for this moment in our country, is just being slow enough to actually get to know each other as people not as avatars, not as thoughts or ideas on a screen. One of the things Amber and I have been talking about, we've actually talked about it on this podcast, Amber and I have been talking about why do Instagram quotables work to drive audience engagement? I just freaking refuse to do it. I refuse to do it. I know it would be good for my audience but I cannot do it. The reason I think that I push so much against it is just the instant gratification of quotable words in a moment that don't make us wrestle with the meaning of an image. Some of what I'm going to share today in what is beautiful to me right now is an artist who is legitimately the viewer wrestle with the art of an image and it takes time. You can't necessarily impute meaning and it's important.  Tsh: Go ahead and tell us about this then because that was going to be my next question is what's adding beauty to your life. Tell me more.  Seth: There's an account called @findinginterestingpeople. I actually sent you the link so that while we're talking you can pull it up, maybe. Tsh: I'm pulling it up right now.  Seth: If you look, it's just black and white street photography by I think a female artist who's just capturing the world through her lens. Every one of these photos is either an interesting composition or an interesting person and it really makes you stop and say, what is the story of that photograph. Again, you have to slow down and stop and look at these photos and spend time with them and say what is it about this that's compelling? And they're all compelling to me.  Tsh: These are fantastic. First of all, it's in New York, which has so many street images that it's just interesting to those of us that don't live in that environment. I love that she's done black and white and I like that it's not quotes. I agree. These are real photos.  Seth: I don't know why, my assumption is that it's a woman and I'm not 100% sure why because I'm looking at the profile and it doesn't really say that. What is super interesting is that I've already made an assumption based on these images and the way that these images have been captured makes me think this is a female looking at the world. Even that is just a fascinating assumption on my part. Tsh: You're the one that really gave me that idea last year about thinking of Instagram more as a museum and it has made me hate it so much less. I'm not yet at the point where I like it. I don't think I like it as much as you but I don't hate it like I used to, so I appreciate it.  Seth: The curation has made the world of difference in my life.  Tsh: Yeah. That's very cool. It's like visual poetry. Seth: 100%. I actually talked about this in my last newsletter because I've been having such a hard time writing. What I have found is that if I can find the right image, it somehow unlocks the words. These last three to four weeks of just having a real struggle writing, it's unlocking words for me.  Tsh: That's really cool. I think it's funny, I went to my homepage and it's literally @#!%. It is jarring. I'm unfollowing right now.  Seth: You've got to mute those things. What you should do is, Kyle, put a big long beep there and then me coming back and saying, you've got to mute those things.  Tsh: That's a good idea. Do that, Kyle. Seth: What are you listening to, watching, reading, that is making your life a little bit more good, true, beautiful? Tsh: Right now, it is a new-to-me podcast that I did not know existed because I thought they just did written stuff. Have you heard of the website Atlas Obscura?  Seth: No. Tsh: I think you would like it. It's a great travel website but apparently, they do a podcast and I started bingeing on this podcast the past week and it is a delight. One of the reasons I like it is because each episode is only fifteen minutes long. There's a place for shorter podcasts and I'm here for it. It is a podcast about the weird obscure, unknown places around the world that would never make a travel guide or you would walk by and never know. The first episode I listened to was from a few weeks ago and it was called Brooklyn Latrine and it was about this buried latrine before there was indoor plumbing in this guy's backyard. It's really well produced. The sound is great. It's like reporting but it's reporting about mundane things that we walk by and I thought it was perfect for this particular episode of talking about slow and walking because it feels like they discovered these things by going on walks and unpacking these unknown places. There's one about a sourdough library.  Seth: What?? Tsh: Yeah. There's the one about this tiny little place in Malawi. There's a thousand-year-old rose somewhere. There's a thing about communist mummies. Snake dens. There are just really cool, tiny, little, weird, bizarre places. I feel like it's a great audio form of armchair travel. If you're feeling the itch to get the heck out of dodge because of this pandemic and you still just can't, this is a really good podcast for that. Two thumbs up for me. I'm glad to have found a new travel podcast.  Seth: That sounds pretty amazing. I'm going to have to listen to that.  Tsh: It's really good. I think listeners of this show, if you like our show, you'll probably like this show.  Seth: That's awesome. Tsh: It's time to wrap up this episode. You can find this episode, as well as all episodes, at adrinkwithafriend.com. It's also where you can sign up for our new Substack space for the show, where we have plans for some pretty great extra stuff for you, and it's also where you can support this show for just a few bucks. If you like what we're bringing to your earbuds, we are almost 100% listener-supported and we like it that way — so again, all this is at adrinkwithafriend.com and in the show notes of this episode. You can find me and all my work at tshoxenreider.com — Seth, where can people find you? Seth: sethaines.com and like last week, follow me over on Instagram @sethhaines. Tsh: You're doing good work there. I appreciate it. Seth: Thanks, I appreciate it. I'm really excited about the next photo that I'm going to release which I found on my phone, taken in Kansas City in 2017. You will see it probably by the time this episode goes out.  Tsh: Very cool. Look forward to it. Music for the show is by Kevin MacLeod, editing is by Kyle Oxenreider, and Caroline TeSelle is our transcriber and assistant extraordinaire. I'm Tsh Oxenreider, and Seth and I will be back here with you soon. Thanks for listening. Subscribe at drink.substack.com This is a public episode. Get access to private episodes at thecommon.place/subscribe

How do we deal with the inevitable pain that comes into our life?  Nate gives an update on recent struggles with Allie's health before having a discussion with Seth Haines, who shares his own season of severe anxiety related to the health of his infant son, the even deeper pain of a seemingly absent God, and his subsequent slide into alcoholism in an attempt to numb the pain.  The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Encore Presentation: When you invite Jesus into your pain and addiction, you invite Him to reorder your life for the better.  Bill talks about this with Author Seth Haines who left a life of addiction and is now being used by God to minister to those still struggling through his writing.

In Episode 13, Trina talks to Seth Haines about his personal story of battling addiction, finding purpose through his pain, and how he reordered his life. Seth details the aches of addiction, beauty in healing, and redemption of recovery. If you, yourself, or a loved one has battled addiction--this episode is a must-listen. Trina and Seth discuss what addiction really is, why pain cannot be ignored, coping mechanisms and attachments, how to support a loved one who is dependant on substances, why we need to examine our own hearts, and healthy ways to reorder our lives. Show Notes Seth's Website

dWant to find some very small things that dramatically improve your life? Today's show is for you! Our guest today is an author, speaker, and podcaster. Her latest book "Shadow & Light" is out now, and of course, we always recommend her amazing book "At Home in the World: Reflections on Belonging While Wandering the Globe."  Along with an incredible newsletter, she also hosts the podcast "A Drink with a Friend" alongside Seth Haines. Today on List It, Tsh and Jesse break down, small, everyday activities that can dramatically improve your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott and Troy pick out four of their favorite books of 2020. Troy may have interviewed each of the authors in his two favorites. (He did by the way.) Here are the four books The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the divine love that reorders a life, by Seth Haines. Troy's second choice is Rich Villodas The Deeply Formed Life: Five Transformative Values to Root Us in the Way of Jesus. Scott's books were Nt Wright's: How God Became King:The Forgotten Story of the Gospels and his second choice is Thomas Sowell's: The Vision of the Anointed: Self-Congratulation as a Basis for Social Policy  

It's always been easy in our culture to numb ourselves so we don't have to face honest truth, goodness, and beauty. ...The temptation's been even stronger in 2020. So what does it look like these days to posture ourselves toward healthy adoration — to devote ourselves to what is actually true, good, and beautiful, even when it's hard? Tsh talks with Seth Haines over drinks. Seth's website and newsletter Tsh's website and newsletter It's not too late to order Shadow & Light Seth's habit tracking spreadsheet (go to File > Make a Copy) Atomic Habits, by James Clear Shadow & Light on Spotify Browse Tsh's recommended books Create Your Rule of Life StoryWorth.com/tsh

The conversation continues over drinks as Tsh Oxenreider and Seth Haines talk about Advent, why leaning into the liturgical calendar's rhythms is a gift, and how it's an outcome of thinking more sacramentally. Seth's website and newsletter Tsh's website and newsletter Order Shadow & Light and join the Advent Community The Liturgical Year: The Spiraling Adventure of the Spiritual Life, by Joan Chittister Offerings, by Typhoon The Divine Comedy, by Dante Alighieri Browse Tsh's recommended books Create Your Rule of Life Rothys.com/GOODLIST StoryWorth.com/tsh

The next few episodes will feature a special series called A Drink With a Friend. Tsh talks with her longtime friend and fellow writer Seth Haines, where over drinks they'll discuss what's meant by "sacramental living." What the heck does that word mean? How is it different than just being religious? And what does it have to do with our day-to-day life? A lot, it turns out. Seth's website and newsletter Tsh's website and newsletter The Thousand Autumns of Jacob De Zoet by David Mitchell The Inspector Gamache series by Louise Penny Shadow & Light Browse Tsh's recommended books Create Your Rule of Life

Because of this paradox about the internet: that it can be both a thing of beauty and a dumpster fire, we all have to do our individual parts to make it more of the first description: a place of needed connection, education, encouragement, and personal and communal growth, and much, much less of the latter. There's more than one way we can do this, but this episode is about one specific idea. Shadow & Light Browse Tsh's recommended books Create Your Rule of Life (pay what you want) Who Tsh supports on Patreon: Annie Jones' From the Front Porch, Beth & Sarah's Pantsuit Politics, The Catholic Traveler, Dear Hank and John Who Tsh supports on Substack: David French's The Dispatch, Claire Diaz-Ortiz's Newsletter, Knox McCoy's Sectional Healing, Amber Haines' Story Letters, Seth Haines' The Examined Life, Circe Institute's Forma Journal, Hank Green's Pay Attention, Nicole Bennett's Book is the Watchword, Mark Galli's Galli Report, Jeff Chu's Notes From a Make-Believe Farmer, Stephanie Smith's Slant Letter, Michael Wear's Reclaiming Hope, Anna Cordrea-Rado's The Professional Freelancer, Sarah Bessey's Field Notes, Erin Moon's The Swipe Up, and Caroline TeSelle's I'll Be Witty Tomorrow The Repair Shop, on Netflix Rothys.com/goodlist

Join Ben and Elizabeth as they talk through the nature of sin and the beauties of the gospel. Seth Haines among others is quoted in helping us understand the problem of sin and how it plays a role in each of our lives. Talked about is the importance of how we view sin, Ben says, “if we have a small view of sin we will always have a small view of Jesus. If we believe we only have a little bit of sin in us then we will believe we only need a little bit of Jesus to fix us. But the cross says so much more than that.” Enjoy this episode! The Book Of Waking Up by Seth Haines Counterfeit Gods by Timothy Keller Sunflower galore!

ADDICTION SERIES PART ONE   Seth Haines looked like he had it all together. As a lawyer and a writer, no one would have suspected that he had a problem. Sure he drank pretty regularly, but who doesn't? It didn't seem to be affecting his home life or his career. He'd never gotten a DUI, never been abusive, never seen alcohol hurt his work. On the outside, it looked like Seth had it all under control, but on the inside he knew he had a problem. Drinking had become his escape from the world, and before he knew it he couldn't get by without that escape. To kick off our addiction series, Seth shares some of his story with Davey about how he realized he had a problem and what he's learned about himself and God in coming clean. Visit Seth's Website Buy Seth's Book: The Book of Waking Up Visit Faithful Counseling This podcast is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.

Your host Blake and author Seth Haines discuss addiction versus coping mechanisms, the reality that most of us are addicted to something, and that sobriety doesn’t always look like abstaining. Follow Seth here

Seth is a writer and photographer who loves the Ozarks, his wife and four boys, and a good collection of poems. He's the author of two books, both of which touch on addiction, sobriety, and spiritual formation. You can pickup a copy of The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life and the award winning book Coming Clean: A Story of Faith wherever books are sold. We talk, art, books, creativity, photography and a love for good food. And yes we even talk about the hard stuff like addiction and pain. 

Sarah sits down with lawyer and author Seth Haines. They talk about coping with pain, alcohol abuse, embracing a life of sobriety, and how stillness and solitude are avenues into deeper attachment to God.Seth is a self-proclaimed working stiff who considers himself lucky enough to call the Ozark Mountains home. He has been married to the love of his life, Amber Haines, for twenty years, and together, they have four boys. Seth enjoys good sentences, good music, good food, and good fly fishing.For notes from this and other Not My Story episodes, go to notmystorypod.com.Follow this link to find out more about hope*writers and take the 30-second writing path quiz.

Seth’s first book Coming Clean: A Story of Faith received a Christianity Today Award of Merit in the publication’s 2016 book awards. Seth’s poetry and prose have been featured in various publications, including In Touch Magazine, Fathom Magazine, and on his personal website at SethHaines.com. He makes his home in the Ozarks with his wife, and their four sons.Seth joined me to talk about his recently released work, The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life.

What if finding true sobriety is so much more than ditching our substances? In this powerful interview, my friend and brilliant author Seth Haines shares the heart wrenching story behind how he became an alcoholic after receiving his young son's terminal diagnosis, how he ultimately won his battle against addiction, and how he found true wholeness.  Seth also shares the heart behind his newest book Waking Up and how can we truly wake up physically, emotionally, and spiritually to so much more.   In this episode we discuss: 1. The role of pleasure and self-control in our lives, and how they point us to sobriety. 2. The science behind addiction and how it can help us change addictive patterns. 3. Why our smallest vices are still costing us big.   Favorite quotes: 1. The opposite of drunkenness is not just not drinking. The opposite of drunkness, true sobriety, is being awake to the divine love of God and the world around you. 2. I was using a substance to numb the pain. I won't only say a substance. Social media was something I used, books, binge-watching Netflix. All of these things became addictions. 3. We have the choice and the chance to wake up. We have the choice and the chance to say, I believe we can wake up. I believe we can wake up from despair. I believe we can wake up from the pain. I believe we can wake up to something beautiful. 4. God didn't just give us pleasure for the fun of it, it's an invitation to do something. 5. Do the work to wake up! Do the next right thing.   In this episode I answer these questions: 1. What is your policy on chores in your house with all those boys? (34:18) 2. Why am I afraid to pray out loud? I live in fear of people asking me to pray. (39:1) 3. How can I improve my Instagram engagement? (41:58)   Links to great things we discussed:  1. Seth Haines 2. The Book Of Waking Up 3. The Oh Hellos- Eurus 4. Typhoon- Offerings 5. The Two Popes 6. 1917 7. Atomic Habits 8. Fijifilm X100V Digital Camera      Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)   xo, Alli    www.alliworthington.com/podcast/sethhaines

Seth Haines is back! In our continuation of last week’s conversation we talk about things like waking up to our coping mechanisms and living an embodied faith. In the intro, Robert & Holly talk about Lent and what foods they could both eat forever (spoiler: they’re both candy).

Seth Haines is back! In our continuation of last week’s conversation we talk about things like waking up to our coping mechanisms and living an embodied faith. In the intro, Robert & Holly talk about Lent and what foods they could both eat forever (spoiler: they’re both candy).Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Steve Austin’s ‘40 Days of Giving Up’Connect with Seth on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Buy The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life or Coming Clean: A Story of Faith.Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website or Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

Where does your mind go when you are alone in silence? What are your "go-to" distractions to cover up  pain? Seth Haines is a phenomenal writer and a dear friend of Gabe and Rebekah. This week’s episode led us into an important conversation centered around breaking down numbing barriers and how to begin discovering the root(s) of our pain. We know that it is in these places that we are able to live abundantly and experience true freedom.To order The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love that Reorders a Life, click HERE.To order Coming Clean: A Story of Faith, click HERE. To read Seth Haines' daily blog, click HERE. Take Rebekah's quiz, and discover your healthiest rhythm by clicking HERE.To grab a copy of Rhythms of Renewal, click HERE.A special thank you to both of our sponsors for today's episode! Start your day with Abide’s daily meditation. Based on Biblical scripture, these audio meditations will center you and draw you closer to Christ. For a limited time, our listeners will get 25% off a premium subscription, when you visit Abide.co/life.Samaritan Ministries is a health care sharing ministry with over a quarter of a million Christians that care for one another’s medical needs all without the use of insurance. Discover the joy of health care together at SamaritanMinistries.org/rflpodcast. 

We’re joined this week by Seth Haines, author of the new book The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life. He tells us his story of realizing he had a drinking problem and finding sobriety that inspired his first book, Coming Clean. Then we talk about his new book, 3 common shapes of pain, how divine love responds, our unhealthy addictions/attachments, and more. In the intro, Robert & Holly celebrate Holly getting tenure.Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- Seth mentions the New York Times article ‘Off the Drugs, Onto the Cupcakes’- Gabor Maté’s book In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with AddictionConnect with Seth on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Buy The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life or Coming Clean: A Story of Faith.Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website or Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

We’re joined this week by Seth Haines, author of the new book The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life. He tells us his story of realizing he had a drinking problem and finding sobriety that inspired his first book, Coming Clean. Then we talk about his new book, 3 common shapes of pain, how divine love responds, our unhealthy addictions/attachments, and more. In the intro, Robert & Holly celebrate Holly getting tenure.

Writer and photographer Seth Haines is the author of Coming Clean and The Book of Waking Up. In this episode, Jonathan and Seth discuss the slow process of waking up in the "key of joy," the instructive power of pain, and the under-publicized companionship between creativity and sobriety. Support the show: https://therabbitroom.givingfuel.com/member See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Note: the interview in this episode was recorded differently then we usually do it, so the audio sounds a little different. Thanks for bearing with us!Have you ever wondered how neuroscience intersects with faith, or how they both intersect with the Enneagram? We talk with Dr. Jerome Lubbe about that, the neurotheology of self-care, identity formation, and much more. In the intro, Robert & Holly talk about what’s currently giving them life.Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- sign up for Holly’s newsletter here- The Neuroscience of Human Relationships by Louis Cozolino- The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life by Seth Haines- previous episodes of CXMH on the EnneagramConnect with Jerome on his website, Twitter, Instagram, or buy a copy of The Whole-Identity: A Brain-Based Enneagram Model here.Quotes:- “If somebody speaks in absolutes about something or makes something reductive, they either don’t understand it or they’ve oversimplified it.” (tweet)- “Self-care is the lifetime endeavor of being a healthy human being.” (tweet)- “How can we take a verse like ‘Jesus is acquainted with all suffering’ and say Jesus was not depressed or anxious?” (tweet)- “If you get met by a doctor, a pastor, or someone teaching you the enneagram and what they gave you was fear, shame or intimidation, you do not need to lean on them as an educator or a resource.” (tweet)- “We are innately capable of wholeness. This is not about being less broken, it’s about becoming more whole.” (tweet)Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website or Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

Seth Haines, author of The Book of Waking Up,  looks at how we handle the inevitable pain of life and where we can find healing, wholeness and freedom.  Seth shares how we can “wake up”  and journey toward the only love that cures a soul.

Today on Cultivating the Lovely podcast, host MacKenzie Koppa talks with Seth Haines. Seth is a lawyer, a photographer and the author of The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life. He and his wife, along with their four boys live in the Ozarks. MacKenzie and Seth chat about addiction, recovery, pain, and waking up to the life God wants you to have. Why this book is for everyone, not just someone struggling with addiction Misusing God’s good gifts to numb ourselves to pain The power of meditating on God and finding His divine love Every created thing is a gift from God given to us to use and to enjoy Him. Seth Haines Learning to recognize God’s quiet voice amidst painful circumstances Allowing ourselves to sit in the pain and wait on God to show up Seeing emotional pain as a signal that we need to tend to something Making the most of community and the tools God has provided for us to address our pain Seeing relationships differently once you wake up Being willing to see a different identity for yourself to move forward Waking up and recovering is a day-by-day process, not a one-time thing Why Seth internalized a message of scarcity and lack and how he is dealing with that today Seth’s routines for building in habits that will refresh and renew him A typical day in Seth’s life Current Lovelies- Seth: practicing his photography skills and working on a new book idea MacKenzie: journalling on a daily basis and getting back in the habit of writing Resources Mentioned- Affiliate links used in this content. Books: The Book of Waking Up Coming Clean Movies: O Brother, Where Art Thou Almost Famous Find Seth- You can find Seth on his website sethhaines.com. You can also follow him on YouTube,Instagram, and Twitter. Find MacKenzie- You can find MacKenzie Koppa on Instagram, Facebook, and the CTL Facebook Group, of course! Join us on Patreon at Patreon.com/CultivatingtheLovely. Thanks to Our Sponsors- This week’s episode of CTL is brought to you by Wickbox. Get $10 off your first box, go to Wickbox.co and use coupon code LOVELY at checkout. CTL is also brought to you by ClassPass. Get your first month FREE at ClassPass.com/NEWYEARS.

The psychology of addiction is fascinating. What makes us reach for the things that we're addicted to? Maybe we're not addicted to heroin but do we have disordered attachments? When pain hits us as stress or emotional trauma do we reach for that glass of wine, binge a show on Netflix, or refresh those social … Continue reading FoC 124: Waking Up From Disordered Attachments with Seth Haines →

Episode 25 - Chelsea leads us on a little topic jumping. We discuss Christmas presents, books, movies, tv shows, AND even more importantly our thoughts on the latest season of The Crown and the Prince Harry and Meghan Markle drama. Trunk Club https://www.trunkclub.com Go See the Principal by Gerry Brooks https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738285064/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_o0LhEb96TP52 Gerry Brooks's Lunch Room Etiquette https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_W6bCJR-jbI The Book of Waking Up by Seth Haines https://www.amazon.com/Book-Waking-Up-Experiencing-Reorders/dp/0310353963/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+book+of+waking+up&qid=1579048312&sr=8-1 The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Failure-Parents-Children-Succeed/dp/0062299255/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+gift+of+failure&qid=1579048348&sr=8-1 How to Lead in a World of Distraction by Clay Scroggins https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310598699/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_k3LhEb65Y4Q7M Inside Bill's Brain: Decoding Bill Gates (it is currently on Netflix) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10837476/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1 Little Women https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3281548/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0 Ozark https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5071412/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1 Broadchurch https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2249364/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/from-the-middle-podcast/support

Seth Haines is one of those friends that makes me want to pursue things that really matter. His new book is vintage Seth Haines: poignant, at times snarky, and pure gold throughout, The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life is a beautiful call to attach yourself to a love that satisfies deep down. This is how Seth describes his new work:  I wrote The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life for those who want to wake from their coping mechanisms, attachments, and addiction and wake to the Divine Love that brings true, inner sobriety. Grab a copy at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or Bookish (my favorite independent book seller)*. Then, as you read, come back here to check out the library of books that influenced The Book of Waking Up. (And don’t forget to check out my award-winning book, Coming Clean: A Story of Faith.) *Reminder: Consider supporting your indie booksellers. You can follow Seth on Twitter, Instagram, and on his website. 

Political scientist Mark Caleb Smith provides an update on the impeachment process, talks about the mixed support for Trump among Evangelicals, and how campaigns are targeting niche groups in the 2020 elections.  Seth Haines, author of The Book of Waking Up, talks about moving beyond our coping mechanisms toward God.

Political scientist Mark Caleb Smith provides an update on the impeachment process, talks about the mixed support for Trump among Evangelicals, and how campaigns are targeting niche groups in the 2020 elections.  Seth Haines, author of The Book of Waking Up, talks about moving beyond our coping mechanisms toward God.

Writer Seth Haines joins Gabe Lyons for a candid conversation about how we handle the inevitable pain of life and where we can find healing, wholeness and freedom. Seth is the author of the award-winning book, Coming Clean: A Story of Faith, and the newly released title, The Book of Waking Up: Experiencing the Divine Love That Reorders a Life. Seth shares how we can “wake up,” embarking on a journey toward the only Love worth adoring, the only Love that cures a soul.  Amid life’s inevitable pain, author Seth Haines shares how we can find healing, wholeness and freedom.

We take a humorous look at news and life with friend and colleague Patrick Albanese. Then author Seth Haines invites us to stop numbing ourselves from life's pain, and instead wake up to Christ's healing love that reorders our lives.

Another year and we are here together and I am so grateful. And why not kick it off with an incredibly vulnerable and personal episode? LOL. Seth Haines joins us to talk about all the facets of sobriety, how to face your desires, what to do next, and it all is just a step towards who we want to be in the next decade. His new book The Book of Waking Up is a beautiful, helpful, and life-giving read. Hope you're joining us for #100DaysToBrave2020! It's not too late- grab a copy of 100 Days To Brave and jump in with us! . . . . . http://anniefdowns.com #thatsoundsfunpodcast ... join in the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome. :)  Thank you to our sponsors of this episode! Class Pass: Go to classpass.com/newyears for your first month free! Prep Dish: Text the word “mealplan” to 33777 to get a free week!

Seth Haines has experienced the grace that comes from a God who lives in mystery, who works through both joy and pain. Seth’s first book Coming Clean: A Story of Faith received a Christianity Today Award of Merit in the publication’s 2016 book awards. Seth’s poetry and prose has been featured in various publications, including In Touch Magazine, Fathom Magazine, Tweetspeak Poetry, and at SethHaines.com. He makes his home in the Ozarks with his wife, Amber Haines, and their four sons. His next book, The Book of Awakening, will be released January 7, 2020. Twitter: @sethhaines Instagram: @sethhaines

It’s easier to numb ourselves than feel our pain. This helpful and insightful interview with Seth Haines (author of Coming Clean and the forthcoming The Book of Waking Up) shows us a way forward. We talk about so much: addiction, sobriety, political polarization, rhetoric, the church, and parenting. Don’t miss this one! LINKS Preorder Seth’s new book coming in January: The Book of Waking Up: https://amzn.to/2po4hUe Seth’s book, Coming Clean: https://amzn.to/2oA7gsz Seth’s website: http://www.sethhaines.com Seth’s Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/sethhaines A video of John Michael Talbot Seth speaks about in the podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gma2z9GCPp8&t=228s SHARE “The primary addiction I notice is Facebook, Twitter, social media. We all use some method to numb pain.” @sethhaines “When you’re the addiction guy, people confess these things.” @sethhaines “Why don’t you think we have more robust ways to deal with pain?” @aahales asks @sethhaines on the #findingholypodcast “I had to invite God into that pain through silence and solitude.” @sethhaines on #addiction, recovery, and pain on #findingholypodcast “Personal transformation gave way to communal transformation.” @Sethhaines on the church, spiritual practices, and addiction on #findingholypodcast “These are the things that keep you sober. Don’t live lives of isolation. Also the community is necessary.” Listen to @sethhaines on #findingholypodcast “ The best thing we can do as parents is model lives of temperance.” @sethhaines @aahales #findingholypodcast ONE SMALL STEP Give yourself just 10 minutes a day of quiet. Start by making a list. Ask: Am I in a season of stress? Make a list of your stressors. Also consider the things you cannot not do — maybe you have to watch Netflix every night, or have a drink or a bowl of ice cream. Maybe you find yourself scrolling through social media whenever there’s a quiet moment, or shopping online, or getting enraged on social media. When you go to these things, ask: what am I avoiding? Get curious about what those things do for you. I hope you’ll find some insight in the process. SUBSCRIBE and review the Finding Holy Podcast on iTunes! It’s one great way to help others find us here.

Leave us a Review How does a “straight” father of two who's also a school principal in Texas with a 401K and life all set, end up moving to California, come out as a gay man, find the love of his life in a coming out support group, do a Ted Talk with over a million views, become a world-renowned Author, public speaker, Podcaster and Book Coach?  Shifts…major freaking shifts!  Azul Terronez is humble and filled with life experience. His phenomenal story will keep you captivated and if you are debating a major life shift, this story will give you the courage you need! In this interview, we discussed his passion for teaching, how he uses his dyslexia as one of his superpowers.  Azul shares his creative methods as a book coach including ways that he's been helping Jay to write his first book. Listen in as Azul talks about his inspiring world travels with his husband Steve. Find out how Azul got to the point of purging most of their worldly possessions including his home, to create a debt-free location independent lifestyle and business together. Azul has worked with so many great authors including public personalities and entrepreneurial icons like The Boss Mom: Dana Malstaff, Pat Flynn, Seth Haines, Chris Ducker and so many more! But Also: Coming Out Dyslexia Traveling the World Working with your spouse Major Losses and starting from nothing Links & Resources: Azul's Ted Talk Pat Flynn and The Smart Passive Income Podcast & Blog Steve Vannoy - Soul and Stories Connect with Azul Terronez Email Website Twitter Facebook Instagram Connect with The Shifting Perceptions Podcast: Shifting Perceptions Website Join Our Mailing List Facebook Instagram Twitter  Connect with Jay Alders Jay Alders Website Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Pinterest Connect with Chelsea Alders & Companies Om Mamas Doulas Website Sun Dreams Productions Website Instagram Chelsea Om Mamas Doulas Sun Dreams Productions  

Seth, a writer and creator, has been exploring what it means to be addicted to and burned out on social media.  Check out Seth's book Coming Clean. Links from this episode: DREAM: BRAVEtogether Virtual Retreat 2/23/19 BLOG: What You Need to Know About Burnout From a Single Parent Seth's favorite Twitter follows: Emily P Freeman, Tsh Oxenreider, Russ Ramsey, Michael Wear, and Jen Fulwiler Tyranny of the Urgent Liturgy of Lament PODCAST: Holiday Burnout Episode #59 Resonate Recordings Connect with Seth: BLOG: sethhaines.com PATREON: patreon.com/sethhaines YOUTUBE: youtube.com/user/sethmouk FACEBOOK: facebook.com/sethhaines.writer INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/sethhaines TWITTER: twitter.com/sethhaines Connect with Becky: BLOG: BeckyLMcCoy.com PATREON: patreon.com/BeckyLMcCoy FACEBOOK: facebook.com/BeckyLMcCoy TWITTER: twitter.com/BeckyLMcCoy INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/BeckyLMcCoy PINTEREST: pinterest.com/BeckyLMcCoy NEWSLETTER: BeckyLMcCoy.com/3truths Have a product or service Sucker Punched listeners would love? Send me an email at podcast@BeckyLMcCoy.com for advertising information. Share your Sucker Punched story at BeckyLMcCoy.com/Podcast Please subscribe to and rate this podcast to help others find Sucker Punched.

Meredith and Kaytee are back in your earbuds to chat Non-Fiction and some other really wonderful titles! You’ll hear a “bookish moment of the week” from each of us: a bookish candle and IRL friendships that are reading more. Next, we tackle what we are currently reading, just two titles from each of us so we have time to talk about 50 thousand additional books! Our deep-dive this week centers on some of our favorite non-fiction genres! We throw a whole metric crap-ton of titles at you to get you started in the non-fiction world, if that seems to be a place that you’re lacking. Every one of these titles have been vetted by one or both of us (along with many others that we’ve mentioned in past episodes), and we are all about you picking them up! As always, we finish up with A Book (yep, capitalized) that we’d like to press into every reader’s hands. This week we have some beautiful fiction as well as a great and FUN contemporary mystery. Time-stamped show notes are below with references to every book and resource we mentioned in this episode. If you’d like to listen first and not spoil the surprise, don’t scroll down!  .  .  .  .  .  1:21 - Friday Reads candle from Main Line Candle Company 5:06 - Some Writer! The Story of E.B. White by Melissa Sweet 6:37 - Stuart Little by E.B. White 6:39 - Charlotte’s Web by E.B. White 6:56 - The Trumpet of the Swan by E.B. White 7:35 - A Study in Scarlet Women by Sherry Thomas 8:24 - Episode 10 of Currently Reading 9:23 - The Beekeeper’s Apprentice by Laurie R. King 12:02 - Finding Holy in the Suburbs by Ashley Hales 12:55 - The Art of Neighboring by Jay Pathak and Dave Runyon 15:12 - The Turquoise Table by Kristin Schell 15:45 - Little Free Library! 17:16 - Hens Dancing by Raphaella Barker 17:47 - Bridget Jones Diary by Helen Felding 23:23 - Sound of Gravel by Ruth Wariner 23:35 - Magnolia Story by Chip and Joanna Gaines 23:51 - Food: A Love Story by Jim Gaffigan 24:28 - Yes, Please by Amy Poehler 24:31 - Monsoon Mansion by Cinelle Barnes 24:55 - Coming Clean by Seth Haines 25:18 - Educated by Tara Westover *Other memoirs mentioned in past episodes that I LOVE: As You Wish by Cary Elwes, Born A Crime by Trevor Noah, anything by David Sedaris 26:38 - Disney War by James B. Stewart 27:29 - Smartest Guys in the Room by Bethany McLean 27:34 - Conspiracy of Fools by Kurt Eichenwald 27:46 - The Pixar Touch by David Price 28:11 - Bad Blood by John Carreyrou 28:55 - So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo 28:57 - I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown 29:08 - The Sun Does Shine by Anthony Ray Hinton 29:13 - Evicted by Matthew Desmond 29:41 - Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson 30:08 - Tattoos on the Heart by Gregory Boyle 30:10 - Barking to the Choir by Gregory Boyle 31:14 - Same Kind of Different As Me by Ron Hall and Denver Moore 32:11 - Start With Why by Simon Sinek 32:17 - Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek 32:24 - Pour Your Heart Into It by Howard Schultz 32:44 - Delivering Happiness by Tony Hsieh 32:58 - 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership by Jim Dethmer and Diana Chapman 33:30 - Tools of Titans by Tim Ferris 35:07 - Essentialism by Greg McKeown 35:38 - Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin 35:39 - The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin 34:50 - The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown 35:05 - Daring Greatly by Brene Brown 35:07 - Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown 35:10 - Dare to Lead by Brene Brown 36:33 - Fringe Hours by Jessica Turner 37:15 - The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R. Covey 37:28 - The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Steven Covey 37:45 - Chasing Slow by Erin Loechner 38:20 - Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist 39:06 - Cozy Minimalist Home: More Style, Less Stuff by Myquillin Smith *Other productivity books mentioned in past episodes: Stretched Too Thin by Jessica Turner 41:00 - This is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel 44:28 - Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty 45:59 - The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty 46:02 - What Alice Forgot by Liane Moraiarty 46:54 - Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty *Please note that all book titles linked above are Amazon affiliate links. Your cost is the same, but a small portion of your purchase will come back to us to help offset the costs of the show. Thanks for your support!*  

This week, we spend some time with Seth Haines author of Coming Clean: A Story of Faith, detailing Seth's journey through alcoholism to sobriety.Seth says he is blessed to be the husband of Amber Haines and the father of four boys. He enjoys good sentences, good music, good food, and good fly fishing.You can also find him at A Deeper Story, where he serves as the Church channel editor. He is also a contributor to sites such as Tweetspeak Poetry, The High Calling, and In Touch.You can find out more about Seth hereResources that we talked about, for further reading:Book: The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery, Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne StabileBook: Sober Mercies: How Love Caught Up With a Christian Drunk, Heather Kopp.

Seth Haines, writer and attorney, journaled his first 90 days to sobriety in his book Coming Clean.  He describes his book as not being about alcoholism but rather it being about the human experience of pain and our tendencies to run from it or numb it with something.   When his youngest son was hospitalized as an infant for failure to thrive, Seth decided he was done praying and decided to turn to alcohol instead.  It wasn't until he faced his pain that he began to find God again and healing in the mystery of His grace.  Connect with Seth and find out more at:      https://tinyletter.com/sethhaines

This coming Sunday in the United States we celebrate Mother's Day. Eight years ago, I wrote a tribute to my writer-mom, reflecting on they way she modeled how to live the tension of being the mom she wanted to be while also being the writer she wanted to be. This tribute included family stories and my own memories and fun photos that helped me remember. To honor her publicly, I published it on my website, though I could have written it as a gift and presented it privately. Write Your Tribute It's not too late for you to write a tribute—a set of memories that celebrate and honor a mother in your life. This mother can be your biological or adopted mother or a grandmother. This mother might be your wife. Maybe your children are grown and you have a daughter or daughter-in-law who has herself become a mother. This mother can be a friend or a mother-figure—sometimes a Sunday school teacher, guidance counselor, aunt, or neighbor will fill that role for someone. Pick a mother you'd like to elevate, celebrate, and honor. Decide if you want to share it publicly and/or privately, then come up with a structure to write this tribute. Resources to Support and Inspire Your Process I'd like to suggest two resources that might help you, both of which—in full disclosure—are written or collected by friends of mine. The Mother Letters The first is The Mother Letters: Sharing the Laughter, Joy, Struggles, and Hope. This collection of short essays in the form of letters was compiled by Amber C. Haines and her husband, Seth Haines, who reached out to friends Amber knew online and in person asking them to send letters addressed to “Dear Mother.” Seth's plan was to collect them and present them all together as a surprise Christmas gift. So many letters poured in, Seth could barely manage all of them. But he did. He assembled and presented them to her that Christmas morning and Amber received a gift that spoke to her mama-life, as the letters, one after another after another, confessed, as she herself wrote, “how little any of us know and how precious it is to be right where we are and who we are” (The Mother Letters, 14). The letters were from mothers to a mother; tributes to motherhood itself, encouragement for a mother; they celebrated motherhood and the power of the letter form. Years later, Seth and Amber realized her Christmas gift held wisdom that could help many others, so they decided to pull a selection of the letters into a gift book. And that became The Mother Letters. I mention it not only because it's a lovely book and—full disclosure again—I confess I have a short essay included in the book. But I also mention it because the letter form is an excellent way to write a tribute. Consider writing your tribute as a letter. Pack it with memories and spotlight the strengths this mother in your life is known for—strengths she may need to hear spoken back to her. Everything That Makes You Mom The other resource that can help you collect memories, compose your thoughts, and structure your project is Everything That Makes Your Mom: A Bouquet of Memories, by Laura Lynn Brown. In this book, Laura offers prompts to draw out memories, often focusing on a topic or theme or time of year or type of memory. She includes brief vignettes—memories of her own mother—to serve as inspiration. She follows the vignette with questions which, as she writes in the introduction, “help to exercise your own memory muscles.” And this gift book leaves space to write out your memories directly on the pages, so that the book itself can be given to the mother you are honoring, if you wish. Write Your Tribute Today At the time of this writing, there's still time for you to write your tribute for Mother's Day. But if you're reading it later, write a tribute anyway. What mom wouldn't love to be celebrated in this way on Mother's Day or any day...memory by memory, by someone she loves who remembers her laughter, joy,

This coming Sunday in the United States we celebrate Mother’s Day. Eight years ago, I wrote a tribute to my writer-mom, reflecting on they way she modeled how to live the tension of being the mom she wanted to be while also being the writer she wanted to be. This tribute included family stories and my own memories and fun photos that helped me remember. To honor her publicly, I published it on my website, though I could have written it as a gift and presented it privately. Write Your Tribute It’s not too late for you to write a tribute—a set of memories that celebrate and honor a mother in your life. This mother can be your biological or adopted mother or a grandmother. This mother might be your wife. Maybe your children are grown and you have a daughter or daughter-in-law who has herself become a mother. This mother can be a friend or a mother-figure—sometimes a Sunday school teacher, guidance counselor, aunt, or neighbor will fill that role for someone. Pick a mother you’d like to elevate, celebrate, and honor. Decide if you want to share it publicly and/or privately, then come up with a structure to write this tribute. Resources to Support and Inspire Your Process I’d like to suggest two resources that might help you, both of which—in full disclosure—are written or collected by friends of mine. The Mother Letters The first is The Mother Letters: Sharing the Laughter, Joy, Struggles, and Hope. This collection of short essays in the form of letters was compiled by Amber C. Haines and her husband, Seth Haines, who reached out to friends Amber knew online and in person asking them to send letters addressed to “Dear Mother.” Seth's plan was to collect them and present them all together as a surprise Christmas gift. So many letters poured in, Seth could barely manage all of them. But he did. He assembled and presented them to her that Christmas morning and Amber received a gift that spoke to her mama-life, as the letters, one after another after another, confessed, as she herself wrote, “how little any of us know and how precious it is to be right where we are and who we are” (The Mother Letters, 14). The letters were from mothers to a mother; tributes to motherhood itself, encouragement for a mother; they celebrated motherhood and the power of the letter form. Years later, Seth and Amber realized her Christmas gift held wisdom that could help many others, so they decided to pull a selection of the letters into a gift book. And that became The Mother Letters. I mention it not only because it’s a lovely book and—full disclosure again—I confess I have a short essay included in the book. But I also mention it because the letter form is an excellent way to write a tribute. Consider writing your tribute as a letter. Pack it with memories and spotlight the strengths this mother in your life is known for—strengths she may need to hear spoken back to her. Everything That Makes You Mom The other resource that can help you collect memories, compose your thoughts, and structure your project is Everything That Makes Your Mom: A Bouquet of Memories, by Laura Lynn Brown. In this book, Laura offers prompts to draw out memories, often focusing on a topic or theme or time of year or type of memory. She includes brief vignettes—memories of her own mother—to serve as inspiration. She follows the vignette with questions which, as she writes in the introduction, “help to exercise your own memory muscles.” And this gift book leaves space to write out your memories directly on the pages, so that the book itself can be given to the mother you are honoring, if you wish. Write Your Tribute Today At the time of this writing, there’s still time for you to write your tribute for Mother’s Day. But if you’re reading it later, write a tribute anyway. What mom wouldn’t love to be celebrated in this way on Mother’s Day or any day...memory by memory, by someone she loves who remembers her laughter, joy,

(00:00)- The Alexa device has started laughing at people for no reason, and Jen knows that this is the first sign of the robot takeover.   (28:51) - Jen thinks that we can (and should) talk about traditional marriage without painting LGBTQ activists as our enemies.   (53:09) - Jen has a powerful chat with Seth Haines about the addictions that hold us back in life (and how to overcome them).

What supplements should you be taking? We chat about our daily regimen, and continue our conversation about the enneagram, taking a deeper dive into type 5. We chat with Kelley Nikondeha, author of Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World, about some of the unique strengths and challenges of being an enneagram 5, as well as with Seth Haines, author of Coming Clean, about some of the internal fears and motivations unique to type 5's. We also share a great offer from Grove Collaborative, our favorite destination for clean and nontoxic beauty and cleaning products. They are offering new customers the following as a gift with purchase this week only; Mrs. Meyer's hand soap Mrs. Meyer's dish soap Mrs. Meyer's hand lotion Grove Collaborative cleaning caddy Grove Collaborative walnut scrubber sponges Use this link to cash in on this offer! Here are some of the supplements we talk about in this episode: SmartyPants chewable gummies ($14 for a month supply on Amazon( Vitamin D Alpha Lipoeic Acid Methylated Folate (a form of folic acid that is safe for everyone) Probiotics Omega 3 Fish Oil (burpless!) or DHA Omega 3 gummies Natural Calm Magnesium Riboflavin (B2)

This is the second time I've had Seth on the podcast - I love this guy. September is National Recovery month, so in this episode, we talked about how his understanding of sobriety has matured since Coming Clean: A Story of Faith came out two years ago. We talked about the foundational principle that God has created everything for good - including sex and beer. But we also talked about the pursuit of the deeper desire of intimacy with Christ that seems both elusive and right in front of our face.  Enjoy the podcast!  And then connect with Seth on his website, or by subscribing to his Tiny Letters, or by joining his Patreon Community. And make sure to grab a copy of Coming Clean. Music on today's episode is from Andy Gullahorn (Song: I Want to Be Well). 

In Coming Clean, Seth Haines writes a raw account of his first 90 days of sobriety, illuminating how to face the pain we’d rather avoid, and even more importantly, how the Divine can meets us in that pain.

Katherine Willis Pershey joins me on the podcast this week. Her book, Very Married: Field Notes on Love & Fidelity, is the focus of our conversation. With a foreword by Eugene Peterson, and endorsements from Glennon Doyle Melton, Sarah Bessey, and Seth Haines, you know you have a winner! It is beautifully... The post Episode 52-Katherine Willis Pershey appeared first on Anita Lustrea.

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Anne talks with attorney, blogger, and author Seth Haines, whose first work, Coming Clean.Anne and Seth have a great conversation about reading as escape, how they both hate so many books, first editions clubs, reading for the morning/noon/and night, and, of course, what he should read next.Click over to the podcast website for the full list of titles discussed in this episode, and leave us a comment to let us know what YOU think Seth should read next!Connect with Anne: Blog | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | WSIRN Instagram

For Seth Haines, doubt led to pain, and pain to addiction, and yet Seth's process of coming clean is really a journey for us all, as we learn to face our pain, find it's source, and forgive again and again--all in the company of Christ. Coming Clean--A Story of Faith, by Seth Haines   Subscribe or Leave a Rating or Review HERE