Podcasts about better life therapy

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit HelloAlma.com/ATPP to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Elizabeth Earnshaw about the themes from her new book, ‘Til Stress Do Us Part. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She also founded A Better Life Therapy, where she sees couples in her tailored weekend intensives. Over the past 15 years, she's become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Hear why couples fight when they love each other, how to help clients manage stress, how to get them to be more compassionate towards each other, the most common stressors as parents, and how to help your clients internalize concepts with metaphors, analogies, and pictures. To learn more about Elizabeth Earnshaw, A Better Life Therapy, and ‘Til Stress Do Us Part, visit: ElizabethEarnshaw.com ABetterLifeTherapy.com ‘Til Stress Do Us Part Instagram @LizListens  

Is your relationship a refuge from stress in a turbulent and demanding world? Do you always have each other's backs? OR has the stress you face at work or in the culture seeped into your home life and created a rift between you? Marital therapist ELIZABETH EARNSHAW, the author of Til Stress Do Us Part, works with couples to identify and address the life stress that is undermining their partnership. In this episode, Andrew and Elizabeth discuss: Setting effective boundaries Self-soothing when life gets rough Taking responsibility for what makes you happy Communicating with compassion rather than resentment Elizabeth Earnshaw is a marital therapist from Philadelphia in the US.  She owns the practice A Better Life Therapy, and over the past 15 years she has supported thousands of couples as they navigate the ups and downs of life. Elizabeth has been featured in The New York Times, Washington Post, USA Today, and other national and international publications. She is also the author of I Want This To Work, 'Til Stress Do Us Part, and a therapist's guide called The Couples Therapy Flipchart.  If You're Looking for More…. You can subscribe to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Podcasts) and hear a bonus mini-episode every week. Or you can join our Supporters Club on Patreon to also access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests  and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  This week supporters will hear: How to Deal with Hot Button Topics Three Things Elizabeth Earnshaw knows to be true.  AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Get Andrew's free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things  Take a look at Andrew's new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools  Buy Elizabeth Earnshaw's book, Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in our Relationships  Visit Elizabeth Earnshaw's website  Follow Elizabeth Earnshaw on Instagram @lizlistens Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall   

We all know that when we're stressed, we're not our best selves. But what happens when this stress threatens to erode our most important relationships, and we feel powerless to change the dynamic? Returning guest Elizabeth Earnshaw joins Dr. Solomon to address this pressing yet common issue. Liz is a licensed family and marriage therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, AAMFT Approved Supervisor, and founder of A Better Life Therapy. She's known for her popular Instagram account @lizlistens, is the author of I Want This to Work, and has been featured in the New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, and more. Her newest book, ‘Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our Relationships, is an empowering guide to stress-proofing your relationship.While we may initially believe it's our relationships that are the cause of our stress, Liz says that it's often the other way around: that “the unprecedented collective stress we all face today is the cause of many relationship challenges couples are experiencing.” In this episodes, you'll hear Liz's deeply empathetic re-frame of this issue. Liz and Dr. Alexandra discuss why our partner often gets the “worst” version of us, how we can understand different types or “buckets” of stressors, and the small but mighty changes we can make that will serve our relationships for the long haul. They also focus on the pressures of parenthood and what makes this moment particularly challenging for parents. Finally, they answer a question from a listener in Idaho named Amber about how to move forward after a rift in a friendship. Relevant Links:Liz's book: 'Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our RelationshipsLiz's website and InstagramParents Under Pressure: The U.S. Surgeon General Advisory on the Mental Health and Well-Being of Parents (2024)Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy's essay in The New York Times Opinion section, August 2024: Surgeon General: Parents Are at Their Wits' End. We Can Do Better.Order Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Build essential relationship skills with MasterClass. Dr. Alexandra, Ryan Holiday, and other experts share how you can improve communication, resilience, and relationships with the class “Using Ancient Wisdom to Solve Modern Problems”. Learn more at http://www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomonHey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout, at least until the end of the year. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at http://dralexandrasolomon.com/

“It's Not Me & It's Not You…It's Stress: How To Restore Harmony In Your Relationships with Liz Earnshaw, LMFT”. We all experience stress but we often overlook that the issues we are having with our partners aren't due to the person, but to the stress! From emotional disconnection to conflicts over big and small issues, stress can quietly erode intimacy and trust between partners. You'll learn about the different types of stress, hear relatable stories from the book, and learn practical strategies for managing stress to be more present. Whether you're feeling the pressures of daily life or navigating a major challenge, this episode will provide insights and tools to help you and your partner maintain a strong, supportive connection, even in the toughest times. Be sure to follow the show and share this episode with a friend!    RESOURCES MENTIONED JOIN MICHELE'S NEWSLETTER + Receive A Free Curated List of 52 Self-care Tips Say hi to Michele on INSTAGRAM GUEST INFORMATION Website: https://abetterlifetherapy.com/ Book: ‘Til Stress Do Us Part Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ GUEST BIO: Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age” and Til Stress Do Us Part, How to Healh The #1 Issue in Our Relationships. Elizabeth founded the therapy practice A Better Life Therapy, LLC and shares relationship health content on Instagram as @lizlistens. If you enjoyed this interview, please take a moment to rate and review it on Apple podcasts. Your reviews are so appreciated! Not sure how to do it? Instructions are below. XO, Michele

How do couples stay connected when life's stressors threaten to pull them apart? What if the problem isn't your partner―it's stress? In today's episode, Diane Boden talks with Elizabeth Earnshaw, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Till Stress Do Us Part, about navigating relationship challenges.Episode Chapters |06:01 | The Importance of Accepting Differences in Relationships08:19 | Differentiating Between Core Needs and Behaviors11:14 |Common Stressors in Relationships13:08 | Navigating Stress and Finding Balance22:03 | Introduction and Setting the Stage23:25 | Don't Be Down on Yourself: Learning from Mistakes24:01 | Compassion and Empathy in Navigating Stressors25:43 | Prevention: Identifying and Addressing Potential Stressors27:29 | Adaptation: Accepting and Adapting to Challenges29:15 | Acceptance and Adaptation: Keys to Resilience30:16 | Understanding the Impact of Stress on the Body31:17 | Fight, Flight, or Freeze: Stress Responses in Relationships33:44 |The Importance of Body Awareness in CommunicationAbout Elizabeth |Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, CGT, is a licensed family and marriage therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, AAMFT Approved Supervisor, and founder of A Better Life Therapy. She's known for her popular Instagram account @lizlistens, is the author of I Want This to Work and ‘Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal The Number #1 Issue in Our Relationships' and has been featured in the New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, and more. She lives between Philadelphia and New Orleans with her husband and children.Links Discussed in This Episode |Order a Copy of Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with SimplicityDiane's Resource: Scatter Joy - September RosesPrevious Episode: More Than Mental Health with Zach Thompson (EP335) Elizabeth's Resource: Nextdoor AppCan't Stop Talking About: Montana Women HomesteadersConnect with ElizabethInstagramWebsiteBook: Till Stress Do Us Part by Elizabeth EarnshawEpisode Sponsors |The Minimalist Moms Podcast would not be possible without the support of weekly sponsors. Choosing brands that I believe in is important to me. I only want to recommend brands that I believe may help you in your daily life. As always, never feel pressured into buying anything. Remember: if you don't need it, it's not a good deal!Enjoy the Podcast?Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review. You can also share this with your fellow mothers so that they can be inspired to think more and do with less. Order (or review) my book, Minimalist Moms: Living & Parenting With Simplicity.Questions |You can contact me through my website, find me on Instagram, Pinterest or like The Minimalist Moms Page on Facebook.Checkout the Minimalist Moms Podcast storefront for recommendations from Diane.Need help decluttering? I'm here to help! If you've been struggling with motivation to declutter, I'd love to help you achieve your goals in your home. We'll work together (locally or virtually) to discover what areas in your home are high priority to get you feeling less overwhelmed right away. For more info on my processes, fees, and availability please contact!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/minimalist-moms-podcast2093/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

“If you and your partner are experiencing friction, consider whether there are things going on in your lives—whether it's a few really big chronic issues, a lot of little constant acute issues, or a mix of both—that could be contributing to this,” advises Liz Earnshaw, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified Gottman therapist, and founder of A Better Life Therapy.   In this episode, Dr. Z shifts the focus from narcissistic relationships to the everyday stressors that impact healthy partnerships. Joined by Liz, known for her popular Instagram account “@Liz Listens” and her books “I Want This to Work” and “Till Stress Do Us Part,” they delve into how external pressures can fuel relational friction.    What are the stressors in your life that might be affecting your relationship? Liz encourages couples to identify and list these stressors, a simple yet effective practice that can lead to greater empathy and cooperation. She also discusses different partner types—such as avoidant or indifferent—and shares concrete strategies for improving communication and setting healthy boundaries within your relationships.    Liz introduces a structured approach to managing stress, helping couples distinguish between what they can shed, prevent, or adapt to. By aligning actions with core values and addressing how conflict avoidance with others can impact the relationship, she provides a roadmap for couples looking to strengthen their bond. These insights offer a practical guide for anyone aiming to build a resilient partnership rooted in clear communication, empathy, and intentional choices.   Quotes “The first piece I think is really important is if you and your partner are experiencing friction, consider whether there are things going on in your lives—whether it's a few really big chronic issues, a lot of little constant acute issues, or a mix of both—that could be contributing to this.” (05:10 | Liz Earnshaw)  “What I've noticed with the couples I'm working with is that they're mismanaging the amount of stress they bring into their lives without considering the long-term repercussions. A lot of this stems from saying yes to too many things and putting immense pressure on ourselves to do more, accumulate more, and live a big life.” (20:20 | Liz Earnshaw)  “One thing I think is really important for people to do is to consider their North Star. What I mean by that is, where are you and your partner heading as a family? Where do you want to be? This has a lot to do with your values. For example, if your North Star is to create a safe and secure family, build a stable financial future, or live an adventurous life, it should reflect what you and your partner value as a family—your combined family values.” (35:19 | Liz Earnshaw)   Links Connect with Liz Earnshaw: elizabethearnshaw.com https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ Til Stress Do Us Part book: https://amzn.to/4dSHpPP I Want this to Work book: https://amzn.to/3X3JXnw   Connect with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist   Get my FREE breathing exercise here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/newsletter Register for my virtual workshops here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/workshops Order my workbooks! http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/books   Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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Having a bad experience with an employer may feel terrible at the time, but it can fuel a fire to create something amazing. Elizabeth Earnshaw, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist, did just that by launching and expanding her group practice, A Better Life Therapy, to six locations across Pennsylvania and New Jersey.Elizabeth speaks with host Michael Fulwiler as she shares her personal experiences and practical tips on expanding from a solo therapy practice to managing a group practice, highlighting the challenges and rewards along the way. She also discusses the importance of niching down, explaining how focusing on a specific area not only enhances your expertise, but also attracts a dedicated client base.She underscores the value of networking with lawyers, accountants, and other professionals and how these connections have been pivotal in her business's growth and success. She also emphasizes a care-focused approach with her employees, maintaining an environment of integrity and trust, ensuring that paying employees, even during tough times, can reap long-term benefits.In the conversation, they discuss:Networking as your secret sauce in intentionally connecting with the right people where you can make all the difference for them.Invest smartly in your practice and strategically focus on what matters most to prioritize essentials and provide quality care for patients.Attracting and retaining top talent is crucial for a thriving practice. Fostering a supportive and collaborative environment while offering growth opportunities within the organization is key to building loyalty and satisfaction among her team members. Connect with the guest:On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lizlistens/  Elizabeth's website: https://elizabethearnshaw.com/ Preorder her book: ‘Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our RelationshipsConnect with Michael and Heard:Michael's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelfulwiler/Newsletter: https://www.joinheard.com/newsletter Book a free consult: https://www.joinheard.com/welcome-form Jump into the conversation:00:00 Introduction to Heard Business School with host Michael Fulwiler and special guest Elizabeth Earnshaw03:12 Working in community mental health05:47 On starting a private practice10:42 On accepting all types of clientele and not niching down15:59 Challenges during the first year of practice20:56 Managing the financials24:50 Unexpected surprises during practice 26:42 Building a network of professionals 28:03 Keys to successfully opening your own practice32:15 Business growth objectives 34:06 On finding the right therapists to hire39:56 On building the brand and its presence on Instagram43:04 Challenges in maintaining social media46:00 On Elizabeth's overall role in the practice48:23 Conquering current challenges  This episode is to be used for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, business, or tax advice. Each person should consult their own attorney, business advisor, or tax advisor with respect to matters referenced in this episode.

On this week's episode, we welcome Elizabeth Earnshaw, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Liz is a couples therapist, writer, and content creator. This episode is full of so many nuggets like how to encourage therapy for your parter as well as themes that are often present in relationships after both kids and trauma. We hope you find this episode so helpful!On this episode, you will hear:-Exploring the world of couples therapy- The impact of trauma on relationships- Navigating couples therapy after having a baby- What to do when a partner is not interested in therapy- The role of couples therapy in trauma recovery- Addressing dismissiveness, betrayal, and mental load- Rebuilding trust in relationshipsYou can find Liz on Instagram: @lizlistensGuest Bio:Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head of Relationship Health at OURS, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible, starting with premarital counseling. She also founded A Better Life Therapy, where she sees couples in her tailored weekend intensives. In addition to making couples therapy more accessible, she is the author of “I Want This To Work”. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.

Discover the secrets to successful relationships on this episode of the Dude Therapist podcast with Eli Weinstein and Elizabeth Earnshaw. They discuss the shifting dynamics in relationships, from traditional issues like infidelity to modern stressors like work pressure and societal influences. Elizabeth emphasizes the impact of external stressors on relationships and advocates for boundaries and effective communication. Gain practical solutions like joint accounts for financial harmony and learn the importance of empathy and understanding in resolving conflicts. Explore the complexities of ending relationships with honest communication and self-reflection. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering harmonious and fulfilling relationships. Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age". She sees couples and trains therapists at A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and is a co-founder at Ours, a company focused on helping premarital couples have important conversations. She has also hosted  a relationship advice segment on the iHeartRadio podcast, Good Risings, and creates relationship wellness content on Instagram @lizlistens. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Whether you've been single and are looking for a relationship, divorced, or lost your life partner, Elizabeth Earnshaw, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist, guides us through dating in midlife and how to find love again. We discuss how to look for red flags, where to meet someone, what chemistry really means, how to maintain healthy boundaries, why people cheat, why you can lose friends after a divorce, how to be fully empowered and more. If you are single and in your twenties or older this interview is for you! And if you are in a relationship, there is a lot to learn from this conversation too so be sure to tune in. Share this interview with a friend!   RESOURCES MENTIONED JOIN THE NEWSLETTER + Receive A Curated List of 52-Selfcare Ideas + Great Weekly Tips CONNECT WITH MICHELE ON IG Buy Michele's Book 1st interview I did with Liz on HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LAST   GUEST INFORMATIONWEBSITE: https://elizabethearnshaw.com/ https://abetterlifetherapy.com/ https://www.withours.com/ BUY THE BOOK: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age by Elizabeth Earnshaw SOCIAL MEDIA: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ Guest Bio: Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age” and Til Stress Do Us Part, How to Heal The #1 Issue in Our Relationships. Elizabeth founded the therapy practice A Better Life Therapy, LLC. Follow, Share, and please rate and review the show on Apple podcasts. XO, Michele

Today With Elizabeth Earnshaw: Today on The Inner Edit I am joined by Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and trusted relationship teacher. She is also a business owner, an author, a podcast segment host, and a content creator…you might know her as @lizlistens. Liz is one of the original Instagram therapists, but as the platform and algorithms have changed, so has her mindset about how she uses the space. Listen now to hear how Liz remains true to herself, trustworthy to her clients, and ethical in her career as a therapist while sharing her message online. Pick It Apart [2:33] Elizabeth shares why she decided to start her Instagram page and its aim of introducing therapy to people who might not realize what it is or how it can help. [8:05] Elizabeth and Christie discuss how Instagram has changed, along with how (and why) Elizabeth continues to use the platform in ways that align with her values. [18:24] Christie has an AHA moment, realizing that Instagram began to lose its appeal for her when it became something she “should” do. [25:45] Christie asks Elizabeth her thoughts on the pressure put on creators with large platforms to take a stance on every issue in the world. [32:55] Elizabeth explains how taking public stances as a therapist can limit what her clients feel comfortable sharing. [40:51] Elizabeth speaks about taking care of herself and her nervous system responses to negative comments on social media by setting boundaries. [41:33] Christie asks Tomi about how she responds to current events with her audience. Christie Rocha's and Elizabeth Earnshaw's Ah-Ha Moments “For years, I have always enjoyed [Instagram]. I've always liked it. And I think when it shifted to a ‘you should do this' is when it starts feeling like ‘ugh'.” – Christie Rocha “Once it became the obligation to say things a specific way…that obligation took the joy away…I'm only going to [post] now when I feel like it's something I really want to say or I feel confident about it, and it's aligned with what feels good. And I'm really trying not to look at metrics.” – Elizabeth Earnshaw   “[As a therapist], any [public] stance that you take can be read by your client…and that can limit the way they talk to you.” – Elizabeth Earnshaw   “It's much more powerful to talk about what you believe instead of what you don't believe.” – Elizabeth Earnshaw More About Elizabeth Earnshaw Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age". She sees couples and trains therapists at A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and is a co-founder at Actually, a company focused on helping premarital couples have important conversations. She hosts a relationship advice segment on the iHeartRadio podcast, Good Risings, and creates relationship wellness content on Instagram @lizlistens. Connect with Elizabeth Earnshaw Website Instagram Facebook Connect with Christie! Website Like Us: Facebook | Follow Us: Instagram | Listen Here: Podcast Other Shows Mentioned: SS #177: Katie McDonald: Gaining a Competitive Edge Through Self-Care   TIE #204: Kim Young: Building Genuine Influence: Strategies to Foster Authentic Connection with Your Audience   TIE #207: Christie Rocha: How to Cope With Creator Burnout   TIE #210: Chelsea Conners: Transforming Creative Ruts: The Breathwork Strategy for Digital Creators

What are the common reasons people enter couples therapy? How can you improve communication with your partner? What are the Four Horseman and why does research show they are what can cause a relationship to fail? What are the most common reasons relationships fail and is there something people can do to prevent those things? The role of core values, communication styles, and love languages on relationships. Whether you have been in a long-term relationship or are in a new one, you will learn from this fascinating interview. Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of “I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age”. She sees couples and trains therapists at A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and is a co-founder at With Ours, a company focused on helping premarital couples have important conversations. She hosts a relationship advice segment on the iHeartRadio podcast, Good Risings. RESOURCES MENTIONED Join Michele's Newsletter Website: https://elizabethearnshaw.com/ https://abetterlifetherapy.com/ https://www.withours.com/ Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ Books Referenced: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age by Elizabeth Earnshaw What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John Gottman The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa Marin As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Make sure you are following the show and please rate and review it on Apple podcasts. Your reviews are so appreciated! XO, Michele

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The course of true love never did run smooth (preach, Shakespeare!), so today we're sharing some major tips from our episode with couples and family therapist, Liz Earnshaw, on navigating power struggles in your relationship (spoiler: it's okay to go to bed angry!) and moving forward after a major betrayal.Liz is a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia. She helps her clients and hundreds of thousands of social media followers develop healthier relationships every day, navigating issues like betrayal, grief, loss, and trauma, while teaching the art of communication. You also might've seen her on Instagram where she shares incredibly valuable relationship advice and therapy strategies on her account @lizlistens. Listen to both episodes with Liz here and here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultmediainstagram.com/yunggillianaire/instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Liz:@lizlistens@abetterlifetherapyAbetterlifetherapy.com

Religion, sex, parenting & finances. Just a few of the sometimes tough topics to tackle before exchanging vows. After all, you want to be on the same page on these important topics before committing to forever. Today we are joined by Elizabeth Earnshaw, co-founder of OURS to discuss all of these and more.   Over the last decade, Elizabeth has become one of the most trusted relationship teachers. She is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy, owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania & New Jersey and is an influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. In addition, she is a co-founder of OURS, where she works to make couples counseling mainstream and accessible. Her debut book, I Want This To Work, is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face – conflict, healing and connection. Join us as we tackle these topics with Elizabeth so you can feel confident and equipped in your relationship!     In this episode you'll hear:   •   What relationship health looks like •   When to consider counseling •   How to have evolving conversations   Links to all the things mentioned:   •   Elizabeth's Instagram •   Elizabeth's Website •   OUR's Instagram •   OUR's website •   Elizabeth's Book: I Want This to Work   If you have a question or fun story to share (we love hearing them!) email us at podcast@bustld.com     CONNECT WITH US! Website Instagram Facebook   The podcast was produced by Pivot Media Co.

Despite what we've learned in fairy tales during our childhood, there's no such thing as the perfect relationship. Marriage therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw has seen and heard it all and offers up practical advice on understanding the issues in your relationship, how to work through them, and when to consider calling it quits. This episode's practice is about communication, getting your needs met, and building a relationship that works for you AND your partner.    Resources from the show Read Liz's Relationship Guide  “I Want This to Work.” If you happen to be a resident of Pennsylvania, Delaware, New Jersey, New York, California, Utah, or Maryland, check out A Better Life Therapy to find a local therapist who specializes in individual therapy, couples, family, and more!   Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod   Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.   Did you try one of these weekly practices? We want to hear about it! Call 833-4-LEMONADA (833-453-6662) or email us newday@lemonadamedia.com.    To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.   Follow Claire on IG and FB @clairebidwellsmith or Twitter @clairebidwell and visit her website: www.clairebidwellsmith.com.   Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.    Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Elizabeth Earnshaw joins @Banyen Books & Sound in conversation on her new book, I WANT THIS TO WORK. Earnshaw shares tools and insights for couples to navigate difficult issues. Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, CGT, is the founder of A Better Life Therapy and influential Instagram therapist behind @lizlistens. She holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and is a certified Gottman Method couples therapist. Elizabeth also trains and supervises new therapists seeking their licenses in the counseling field. Learn more at abetterlifetherapy.com.

Elizabeth Earnshaw is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is a co-founder of OURS, where she works to make couples counseling mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Elizabeth is the author of I WANT THIS TO WORK, a trustworthy guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face. Culturally inclusive, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and written for both married and unmarried couples, this book brings an accessible guide to healing relationships and creating enduring intimacy. So, Elizabeth is AWESOME and I'm so excited to have her on the show. Because she's not only built two thriving businesses, but she's been actively pursuing work she loves for over a decade and has brought so much heart and soul into that process. If you're a therapist or take a therapeutic approach in your business, or you want to scale to a multi-practitioner company, this episode is for you. In this episode, we chat about her professional career path and why she left behind her role as a schoolteacher and become a therapist instead (hint: she saw a sign), what it looked like for her to start her own practice and set her sights on building a team of practitioners, how her ambitious, go-getter mindset helped her be incredibly scrappy as she built her client-base and made a name for herself, why she has always been drawn to family and couples therapy specifically - and how she developed her world-renowned therapeutic approach, what it's been like to run her own thriving practice alongside her other business venture, OURS, and lead the development of a super accessible and modern therapeutic process for couples, how she's found a balance between being a public figure on platforms like Instagram and a therapist and kept the ethics of therapy in mind, and so much more!   To learn more about Elizabeth Earnshaw and the resources mentioned in this episode, visit the show notes.   Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram

For many couples, a second marriage is a fresh start and a new chance at happiness. But it still means a lot of work and reflection as you'll hear in this episode where Claire the therapist becomes Claire the client. Licensed marriage and family therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw is back to talk with Claire and her husband Mark about trying to blend their families, their struggle to prioritize each other, and what it will take to make this second marriage for each of them succeed. Liz also breaks down some common reasons couples have issues with communication, ways to stop having that same argument over and over with each other, and how and why to adopt a problem-solving mindset in order to make it all work.    Resources from the show Read Liz's Relationship Guide “I Want This to Work.” If you happen to be a resident of Pennsylvania, Delaware, New Jersey, New York, California, Utah, or Maryland, check out A Better Life Therapy to find a local therapist who specializes in individual therapy, couples, family, and more!   Do you have something you want Claire's help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at newday@lemonadamedia.com or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask.   Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod   Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.   To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.   Follow Claire on IG and FB @clairebidwellsmith or Twitter @clairebidwell and visit her website: www.clairebidwellsmith.com.   Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.    Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Elizabeth Earnshaw is one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. She's a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy, author, and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. Elizabeth is one of the founders of Ours, where she works to make couples counseling mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Her debut book, I Want This to Work, is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face. We're talking about...  Why relationships can feel so hard A common cause of conflict within relationships The importance of co-regulation in relationships How to respond if your partner is not sharing how they feel Why it's so hard to recognize your own needs in a relationship The importance of effective communication in relationships How to reduce defensiveness from your partner How passion is maintained in relationships The impact COVID had on relationships A common misconception about couples counseling Why we all need to start talking about the fact we have conflict in our relationships The difference between healthy and toxic arguing Episode goodies...  Save 10% off your order of Kion coffee when you use code COURAGE at checkout.   COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES: https://courageouslyu.com/elizabeth-earnshaw/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/  

Hello and welcome back!   I had so much fun with my guest this week. She's down to earth, funny and so relatable and I know what she shares with us today will be impactful for every listener.   Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author and has one of my favorite Instagram accounts in the game. Make sure you follow her on @lizlistens.   She is one of the founders of Ours, where she works to make couple's counseling mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Released November 30, 2021, Elizabeth's debut book, I WANT THIS TO WORK, is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face.   In this episode, I got to pick her brain about all things relationships, from how to find balance in the roles and responsibilities to how to better communicate your needs.    I walked away from our conversation with so many tangible takeaways that I've applied in my roles as a wife and mom. Sit back, grab a cup of coffee and get ready to hear some insightful advice on creating a successful and fulfilling partnership.   In this episode, you'll learn: How to collaboratively manage the mental load of parenting 4 things to avoid when communicating with your partner; and How to set healthy boundaries to ensure a positive and productive relationship   Ways you can connect with Liz: Instagram: @lizlistens Book: I Want This To Work Website: http://www.elizabethearnshaw.com A Better Life Therapy: https://abetterlifetherapy.com/elizabeth-earnshaw-lmft-cgt Ours Wellness: https://www.withours.com/about

Hi Friends! Today's topic is one that is widely discussed as a source of tension in relationships: Clutter & Stress between Couples. It typically results when one person carries the majority of physical and mental load and is left feeling resentful, frustrated, and depleted both physically and emotionally. Joining me today to discuss this topic is one of the leading and most trusted relationship teachers, Elizabeth Earshaw.  Liz is a Gottman trained Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and one of the founders of Ours, where she works to make couple's counseling mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey supporting a team of clinicians working with couples to strengthen their relationships. Some of you may be familiar with her Instagram @lizlistens where she works to normalize the stigma surrounding couples therapy. She is an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community and works with both married and unmarried couples. Her debut book,  I WANT THIS TO WORK, released in November 2021 is a must-read for anyone looking for tools to strengthen their communication skills with their partner. I invite Liz on the show specifically to discuss the hidden truth behind Couples and Clutter. During our conversation we talked about: Why clutter and household responsibilities in general is a leading cause of stress and anxiety in a marriage How  to communicate your “clutter tolerance” to your partner when it's different from theirs. Strategies to help start the conversation, and why passive-aggressive behavior doesn't work. Why expecting our partner to be mind-readers is a losing game  I encourage you to listen to this episode which is filled with personal stories and actionable strategies that you can start using today. Make sure to check out the links below for links to topics discussed during our interview. XOXO- Laurie CONNECT WITH LIZ WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM BUY HER BOOK: I WANT THIS WORK LIZ'S BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS FAIR PLAY | FED UP | GOTTMAN BOOKS  EXCLUSIVE LINKS FOR OUR LISTENERS: SORTIFI:  ****USE PROMO CODE SBO15 for 15% off! 10% OFF YOUR COLOR GURU WITH CODE “ORGANIZEDLIFE”

This week we will be joined by Marta Cafone. She is a therapist with A Better Life Therapy and will be discussing her use of EMDR. EMDR– Eye Movement, Desensitization and Reprocessing a way to assess bilateral understanding of the trauma. Today's question: How can I help my partner that has been through childhood trauma and does not know how to address it? Answer: This can be a difficult time. Watching a loved one struggle can be very difficult. First, you should be a safe place and just there to listen and comfort them. It is also dependent to try but you have to understand they may not be ready to deal with their trauma. You have to remember that you are not their therapist but are their partner.  You can offer them your advice to help them to seek advice from a professional. You can encourage them to recognize you as their partner and place where they can relax and feel comfortable. You have to simply be supportive and empathetic and compassionate. You have to realize this is about them, not you. You may need to reflect on whether this is for you or are you truly concerned about them?    Good Risings is a mindset. Join Elizabeth Earnshaw for a daily dose of Advice. Presented By: Cavalry Audio.  Producers: Jason Seagraves & Margot Carmichael.   Audio Editing: Revision Sound. Music: Gramoscope Music.  Show Notes by: Brett Burris Executive Producers: Elizabeth Earnshaw, Dana Brunetti & Keegan Rosenberger.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com You can now search all of the Good Risings episodes on Fathom.fm/GoodRisings! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we will be joined by Marta Cafone. She is a therapist with A Better Life Therapy and will be discussing her use of EMDR. EMDR– Eye Movement, Desensitization and Reprocessing a way to assess bilateral understanding of the trauma. Today's Question: I feel that infidelity is a type of trauma and would EMDR be beneficial for someone like me that is experiencing the trauma of an affair? Answer: Infidelity can be a traumatic experience. EMDR can be a helpful tool if someone is trying to get more grounded in their body. Trying to desensitize a trigger may be a key to helping to deal with this trauma. You cannot find safety and peace until you take away the triggers. It can be a challenge but the first step has to be to limit or remove the triggers. It will be difficult for you to ever let your partner close when you are hurting, angered and uncertain simply when being in the presence of your partner.    Good Risings is a mindset. Join Elizabeth Earnshaw for a daily dose of Advice. Presented By: Cavalry Audio.  Producers: Jason Seagraves & Margot Carmichael.   Audio Editing: Revision Sound. Music: Gramoscope Music.  Show Notes by: Brett Burris Executive Producers: Elizabeth Earnshaw, Dana Brunetti & Keegan Rosenberger.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we will be joined by Marta Cafone. She is a therapist with A Better Life Therapy and will be discussing her use of EMDR. EMDR– Eye Movement, Desensitization and Reprocessing a way to assess bilateral understanding of the trauma. Today's Question: Is there a typical amount of time to spend in EMDR Therapy? Answer: Remember as we have discussed, EMDR Therapy is an eight part therapy treatment. In short the answer is it also depends. Some folks have difficult trauma and do not get past this as quickly. It is really a matter of the type of trauma. Was it a car wreck, was it childhood trauma, PTSD of war or loss. It is truly dependent upon the person, and the trauma they are experiencing.  It is a process and not everyone sees the same grounding and progression as the same for everyone. All therapy is meant to get you to a safe place. Not everyone can get to the Window of Tolerance.  Window of Tolerance is the space where we can tolerate our emotions.    Good Risings is a mindset. Join Elizabeth Earnshaw for a daily dose of Advice. Presented By: Cavalry Audio.  Producers: Jason Seagraves & Margot Carmichael.   Audio Editing: Revision Sound. Music: Gramoscope Music.  Show Notes by: Brett Burris Executive Producers: Elizabeth Earnshaw, Dana Brunetti & Keegan Rosenberger.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com You can now search all of the Good Risings episodes on Fathom.fm/GoodRisings! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Developing healthy relationships is a large part of how we heal the wounds implanted in us by the relationships of our past. Marriage and Family Therapist and author, Elizabeth Earnshaw, takes us through the ways in which your relationships mirror your parents' relationships and ways to free yourself from those patterns.ABOUT ELIZABETH EARNSHAW Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of “I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age". She sees couples and trains therapists at A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and is a co-founder at Actually, a company focused on helping premarital couples have important conversations. She hosts a relationship advice segment on the iHeartRadio podcast, Good Risings, and creates relationship wellness content on:IG: @lizlistensTwitter: @liz_listensBook: I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern AgeKEEP UP WITH DR. MARIEL - On Instagram: @dr.marielbuque- On TikTok: @dr.marielbuque- On Pinterest: @drmariel- Via her website: www.DrMarielBuque.comBonuses:                                                                         ❤ Get weekly coping tips to your inbox here: https://www.drmarielbuque.com/pl/2147514232 ❤ Watch the podcast video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKa79peiy6CJf2RDI13YNeQLike this episode?Subscribe to this podcast wherever you listen. Share these healing conversations with your friends on social!

Despite what we've learned in fairy tales during our childhood, there's no such thing as the perfect relationship. Marriage therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw has seen and heard it all and offers up practical advice on understanding the issues in your relationship, how to work through them, and when to consider calling it quits. This episode's practice is about communication, getting your needs met, and building a relationship that works for you AND your partner.    Resources from the show Read Liz's Relationship Guide  “I Want This to Work.” If you happen to be a resident of Pennsylvania, Delaware, New Jersey, New York, California, Utah, or Maryland, check out A Better Life Therapy to find a local therapist who specializes in individual therapy, couples, family, and more!   Do you have a question about grief or other ways you can take care of your mental health? Send Claire a question to be featured on an upcoming episode www.bit.ly/newdayask   Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod   Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.   Did you try one of these weekly practices? We want to hear about it! Call 833-4-LEMONADA (833-453-6662) or email us newday@lemonadamedia.com.    To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date.   Follow Claire on IG and FB @clairebidwellsmith or Twitter @clairebidwell and visit her website: www.clairebidwellsmith.com.   Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia.    Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's episode, I'm joined by Elizabeth Earnshaw (aka @lizlistens), Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, owner of A Better Life Therapy, and author of “I Want This to Work.” We discuss the different types of couples therapy, the most common issues couples face, how to ask your partner to go to couples therapy, and early signs of relationship success or failure. Liz gives us tips for starting hard conversations, fighting well, and building healthy relationships from the start. Elevate your kitchen and upgrade your at-home date nights with Caraway Home's non-toxic cookware made modern. Caraway's cookware and bakeware is the best engagement and wedding gift you could get for the happy couples in your life (after you get it for yourself, of course). Use code “Seeingotherpeople” for 10% off your purchase at carawayhome.com/seeingotherpeople curology.com/seeingotherpeople to get your one-month free trial of Curology's custom skincare today Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping

Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw (LMFT) has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), an influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she works to make relational wellness mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Out on November 30, 2021, Elizabeth's debut book, I WANT THIS TO WORK is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face. Couples will learn to work with three challenges they must tackle to repair and strengthen their relationships: conflict, healing, and connection. Culturally inclusive, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and written for both married and unmarried couples, this book brings an accessible guide to healing relationships and creating enduring intimacy. For more information, please visit www.elizabethearnshaw.com.

Today we are diving deep with Elizabeth Earnshaw couples therapist, couples therapist and author of "I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age".. We discuss  boundaries, attachment styles and how she approaches trauma, addiction, and abuse in couples therapy. She also shares about her formally broken picker and how she managed to fix it. Elizabeth Earnshaw is the founder of A Better Life Therapy, Head of Therapy at Actually. She holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy Clinical Fellow, and a certified Gottman Method couples therapist. Elizabeth trains and supervises new therapists seeking their licenses in the counseling field. Learn more at www.elizabethearnshaw.comAdult Child Listener Survey - https://forms.gle/3BMXMkAWYXvjELYMAAttachment Style QuizSupport the Podcast -https://www.patreon.com/adultchildwww.buymeacoffee.com/adultchildFollow Andrea on social -www.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zSQp7YOPdJ8(I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/adultchild)

Elizabeth Earnshaw works with individuals, couples, and families and is the founder of A Better Life Therapy. She holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and is a certified Gottman Method couples therapist. Elizabeth also trains and supervises new therapists seeking their licenses in the counseling field. With Sounds True, she is the author of I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age.  In this podcast, Sounds True founder, Tami Simon, speaks with Elizabeth Earnshaw about what she has discovered to be the building blocks for a successful relationship—and the most common pitfalls that can lead to irreparable damage. They also discuss the unique approach of the Gottman Method and the research behind it; the importance of turning toward your partner (and the dangers of turning away); “bids for connection” as key moments in relationship; the “four horsemen” of unhealthy communication: criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt; the three Rs of a healthy relationship: reliability, respect, and responsiveness; interdependence, or how we balance our desires for connection and our desires for autonomy; repairing broken trust; the recent dramatic decline in the divorce rate; the connection between happy relationships and physical health; avoiding the trap of “triangulation”; and more.

Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw (LMFT) has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she works to make relational wellness mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Out on November 30, 2021, Elizabeth's debut book, I WANT THIS TO WORK, is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face. Couples will learn to work with three challenges they must tackle to repair and strengthen their relationships: conflict, healing, and connection. Culturally inclusive, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and written for both married and unmarried couples, this book brings an accessible guide to healing relationships and creating enduring intimacy. For more information, please visit www.elizabethearnshaw.com.   We talk about:  Her new book “I want this to work” and some of the challenges we face with modern relationships and dating  The importance of self-accountability and relational awareness  The concept of opposite action and how it can help you during times of anxiety in your relationship The things we should be looking for in a partner  How modeling from the relationships we witness plays a role in how we show up and experience our own relationships AND how to break that pattern The Gottman's 4 Horsemen - the 4 communication habits that can increase the likelihood of divorce How to express needs and boundaries, gridlock and willingness vs. willfulness, hot conversations vs. warm conversations  And SO much more!!    If you want to win a copy of this book, share a screenshot of this episode on IG and tag me @thehaileydaily and @lizlistens and share what you figured out this week! I'll be selecting two winners.    LINKS:  Follow Liz on Instagram Liz's Website  Get Liz's Book Follow me on Instagram  

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw (LMFT) has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she works to make relational wellness mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Out on November 30, 2021, Elizabeth's debut book, I WANT THIS TO WORK, is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face. Couples will learn to work with three challenges they must tackle to repair and strengthen their relationships: conflict, healing, and connection. Culturally inclusive, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and written for both married and unmarried couples, this book brings an accessible guide to healing relationships and creating enduring intimacy. For more information, please visit www.elizabethearnshaw.com. Elizabeth's social media handles are: @lizlistens and @abetterlifetherapy.Memorable Moments:3:02 The mental load is that work that we have to do that's not physical, but that keeps a life, a relationship, a family running. So anything from having to remember, having to delegate, having to pay attention to dynamics, you know, noticing how people are feeling, if they're getting along, if they're happy in a situation, those are all things that are in the mental load. 3:41 The problem becomes when only one person is shouldering that mental load and they didn't fully agree to do that. 4:30 One thing when I'm working with premarital couples that we talk about a lot is for them to explore this idea of mental load, because it often doesn't really feel problematic until there's a lot of layered responsibilities. 7:16 If you are suffocating under the mental load, you have to be willing to let your partner do it in their way, as long as it gets done. And that might mean that you come home and you cringe because the way that the person they chose to do landscaping didn't do it the right way. But you have to take a deep breath and recognize that the bigger picture is that you're getting a break. 8:55 So my job in this situation is to keep expressing that I'm frustrated, let my partner know that I'm really looking forward to the way that they're resolving this and all of that kind of stuff, but like allowing him to truly deal with it. Which is really hard, and when I work with couples, a lot of people will be like, “but it means that our house isn't going to look right.” And I'm like, “yes, I totally get that.” And it takes a period of time to readjust, to giving some of this up and seeing that most of the time, it truly does work out.9:52 Couples get themselves in really messy spots when they start getting into this, it's almost like a stubbornness, where they're saying, I'm not going to talk about it because they should. I'm not going to bring that up because they should know better. I'm not going to go to their parents house anymore because their parents shouldn't act that way. I'm not going to let my partner know that they bummed me out because they should already know that; who wouldn't know that?10:18 The second you start to get to that place, you get into a place that I call willfulness. Where you have put your feet in the ground, you're digging your heels in and you're saying, I'm just going to sit still here until you please me. The problem is, if your partner truly knew, if they did, most of the time they would do the right thing. So if, if they really did know about the mental load, most of the time they'll want to talk to you about it. If they do know, and they still don't care to do it, then that's actually really important information for you to hear. 12:02 And when we start thinking in the shoulds, what we do is we really block out communication and we also tend to then shame the other person. Because if you should know something or you should do something, then it means that you've made a mistake, right? Because you didn't do it or you didn't know it. 13:19 So difficult conversations are going to be everywhere during the holiday season. I think they always are, but especially now, because people have to decide what they're thinking about their health, what they feel comfortable with, what they feel disappointed by and adding that on to the layers of disappointment, discomfort, sadness, grief, all of that, that has already happened over the past year and some, right? So it's a lot. Something that is really, really important for people to be able to do when they're approaching a difficult conversation is to know how to enter it gently. And to enter it from a space where you want your partner to be your ally. You're not entering it immediately seeing them as the opposition.14:09 What happens with really tough conversations sometimes is that we feel so anxious. We feel so overwhelmed, so worried that we're not going to get what we need, that we already address the other person like they're our enemy. 14:49 So if we start from an offensive position, we can not expect the other person to be in a neutral position. But we often act really surprised when they're defensive.15:58 Let the other person talk first, because as soon as you let the other person talk, their defenses are down.17:51 It takes the ability to have other awareness and self-awareness to be gentle and firm. If you don't have both of those awarenesses, what happens is you are too far on one side or the other. 18:42 But when you're having a tough conversation with your partner, you want to try to stay in this place of: I still see you as a human being with feelings, with needs, with thoughts. I'm still curious about you. I want to understand where you're coming from. And, I see myself as a person with thoughts and needs. And I want you to be curious about me.21:04 Human beings are wired to connect with other people, but we're also really wired for aggression too. So we are nuanced, we like to fight people and we like to love people. Neither one is actually the more dominant trait, they're both there. 24:10 So in our everyday interactions, we want to increase the amount that we're turning towards, because what research has shown us is that when people are turning towards their relationships, and I think this is pretty obvious, tend to be happier. 24:56 In the big picture with our communities, we want to create connection, not isolation and distance. In our intimate partnerships, obviously you want connection. So you want to really look for the ways in which you can turn towards. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. 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Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, CGT, is the founder of A Better Life Therapy and the influential Instagram therapist behind @lizlistens. She holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and is a certified (John and Julie Gottman)Gottman Method couples therapist. Elizabeth also trains and supervises new therapists seeking their licenses in the counseling field. Learn more at abetterlifetherapy.com.Liz new book: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern AgeConnect with Liz Instagram Follow The Story Box on Social Media► INSTAGRAM ► TWITTER ► FACEBOOK ► WEBSITE SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE! ► Apple Podcast ► Spotify WATCH HERE:► YouTube If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe to YouTube & Apple Podcasts, and leave a 5-star positive rating and review over on Apple Podcasts. Share it around with your friends and family.Support The Show Here:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/thestorybox. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Relationships of any kind are never easy. You have to have a deeper understanding not only about yourself and the other person but also your relationship dynamics. Today hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros are joined by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw. They talked about relationships and how to work through them with the people you value most. She also shares tips on how certain situations like setting boundaries and addressing needs in a relationship should be approached, so take all the information and advice you can get and use them to better your relationships with everyone you love.Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania & New Jersey, where she supports clinicians who are helping couples every day. She trains and supervises therapists as an Approved AAMFT Supervisor. In addition to making couples therapy more accessible, she is the author of “I Want This To Work.” Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings, where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums.  Where you can reach Elizabeth:Website: https://www.elizabethearnshaw.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-earnshaw-lmft-cgt-5093b818/IG: http://www.instagram.com/lizlistensGet a copy of her book I Want This to Work at https://www.amazon.com/Want-This-Work-Navigating-Relationship/dp/1683647955/What are you waiting for? Grab this  FREE COURSE now! https://next-level-university-courses.teachable.com/p/what-it-takes-to-get-to-the-next-levelGroup coaching details: https://nextleveluniverse.com/group-coaching/We love connecting with you guys! Reach out on LinkedIn, Instagram, or via emailWebsite

Modern relationships face some pretty unique challenges, and sometimes it seems like those challenges are only growing. Thankfully, there are people out there like Liz Earnshaw! This was such an enjoyable discussion, and we go heavy on modern dating and marriage problems, "pathologizing" your partner, the shifting meaning of things like marriage and partnership, the need for flexibility, even the changes in gender roles. If you're with someone currently, dive in together! Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania & New Jersey, where she supports clinicians who are helping couples every day. She trains and supervises therapists as an Approved AAMFT Supervisor. In addition to making couples therapy more accessible, she is the author of “I Want This To Work”. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums. She is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like Mind Body Green and The Huffington Post and has been featured on numerous podcasts.  Connect with Liz -Website: https://www.elizabethearnshaw.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lizlistens -Book; I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age: https://amzn.to/3lh0T7W Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they're looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The Tech See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today I'm sharing a chat with my friend Elizabeth Earnshaw, licensed marriage and family therapist and director of A Better Life Therapy, LLC. She shares her thoughts about how the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted different types of relationships, gives tips for starting difficult conversations with your partner, and explains the importance of rituals in building reliability in your relationship. Plus, I ask her about the inspiration behind her brand new book I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/357

We all want a relationship that's more than just functional, we want one that's truly fulfilling. On today's episode Forrest is joined by a wonderful therapist and author who focuses on giving people the tools they need to communicate, navigate hard times, and create deeper connections with other people: Elizabeth Earnshaw. They explore: How the pandemic impacted our relationshipsThe Gottman approachThe stages of a relationshipBalancing differing needs for intimacyHow to request, and give, repair. They then close the episode with a fun game focused on debunking common relationship myths.About our Guest: Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the founder of A Better Life Therapy, and the author of I Want This to Work. You might also know her as @lizlistens on Instagram, where she's helped countless people transform their relationships.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You  can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction.1:45: Elizabeth's background.5:30: How did the pandemic impact relationships?7:30: Responding to stress in relationships.9:00: Co-regulation.11:15: Punishing others for our unpleasant emotions. 13:45: The four stages of relationships.17:50: What to look for in a partner. 20:10: The “Four Horsemen” of bad relationship communication. 24:25: Key skills for navigating conflict together. 27:00: How to request repair from your partner.34:10: Deciding if you should leave.37:45: Interdependence.41:30: Balancing differing needs for intimacy.46:30: The Instagram Meme Game: Common misconceptions about relationships.47:30: “Partners should share everything with each other.”50:30: “Your partner should be your ride or die.”52:15: “Never go to bed angry.”54:50: “My partner is my missing piece.”56:35: “If you can't handle me on my worst day, you don't deserve me on my best day.”1:02:05: Recap.Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:From Boston Globe Media comes a new podcast, TURNING POINTS, a show about navigating mental health. Listen on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.Find the new CBD+ performance gummies and the whole dosist health line-up today at dosisthealth.com. Use promo code BEINGWELL20 for 20% off your purchase. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, who specializes in treating couples overcoming affairs, joins us to answer your most frequently asked relationship questions. Learn her take on having friends with benefits, how to know when a relationship has turned toxic, and how to show up authentically in our relationships while still holding our boundaries. Elizabeth also shares her advice on how to move forward in a relationship past infidelity.  "Relationships can make or break your mental health. - Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT Elizabeth works with individuals, couples, and families and is the founder of A Better Life Therapy. Elizabeth specializes in couples experiencing distress due to a betrayal or commitment issues, supporting individuals through the end of their relationships, grief and trauma issues, anxiety, and self-esteem. You can find Elizabeth on Instagram @lizlistens Website-https://abetterlifetherapy.com If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving an honest rating and review. You can also stay up to date on all things mindful by following the podcast on Instagram , @themindfulcorner, and The Mindful Corner homepage.   For a chance to share your story on the podcast, email Themindfulcornerpodcast@gmail.com For business inquiries email: Drerikavelez@gmail.com