Dear Mind, You Matter

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/humorist.therapist and  https://www.instagram.com/mattcard.oneFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Sara Kuburic is an existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and columnist for USA Today. She specializes in identity, relationships and moral trauma. Social Media Handle: Instagram: @millennial.therapist Twitter (new): @sarakuburic Website: www.sara-kuburic.comPublications: https://www.sara-kuburic.com This podcast is hosted by Dr. Angela Phillips (IG: @humorist.therapist) and Matt Cardone (IG: @mattcard.one). It is produced by Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please contact anphillips@advancedrecoverysystems.com.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Memorable Moments: 2:58 - I'm a constant learner, and just obsessed with that. That personal development mission that is just at my core of continuing to evolve into that complete person you're intended to be. And as a result, I've had the chance to build an incredible team. My team is my heart. I have enjoyed not only working alongside them, but also watching their evolution and pushing them to grow.7:45 - One perfect example is we launched an educational program called Real Talk back in 2016. And I got to really marry my two worlds. For those that don't know, I'm a former Miss Florida. I have absolutely loved being involved with the Miss America organization. And I saw an opportunity to have Miss Florida and potentially Miss America service spokesperson for Real Talk and the prevention of teen drug abuse and misuse. And so we were able to do something in tandem with the Miss America organization. We have Miss Florida who has been an ambassador for us for six years.10:14 - Our team is rooted in strengths-based coaching. We use Gallup's StrengthsFinder to help clients identify their strengths, because people will naturally gravitate towards “I need to fix my weaknesses”, or “I'm not good at this”. Your strengths are where you should stay in play.11:32 - A huge part of what's made me successful is the level of self-awareness and being able to articulate when I see a potential in something and having a plan to execute it. 13:21 - Don't be afraid to be amazing. Putting one foot in front of the next incremental growth on a daily basis is going to add up over time, and you'll be blown away by your results. But it requires you to actually take the step forward. And it doesn't mean you have to climb Mount Everest, it's literally one foot in front of the next like that's it. So don't overwhelm yourself in the process. Commit to growing, commit to learning.15:27 - I've been on this show and just throughout my entire life, really over the last 20 years, I struggled significantly when I was in high school. I had terrible eating disorders. I struggled with anxiety and depression—my own battle. I always utilized my voice to create change and try to create a safe place for other people to recognize that they were struggling with that themselves. And so I am now going to be working primarily with adolescent mental health, which is very exciting to me.17:15 - Happiness means being happy with how I'm showing up for others and with where I'm at. 15:22 - I struggled significantly when I was in high school. I had terrible eating disorders. I struggled with anxiety and depression—my own battle. I always utilized my voice to create change and try to create a safe place for other people to recognize that they were struggling with that themselves.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @bpmattmorganMemorable Moments: 01:18 - I learned at a very early age that I had to work incredibly hard for something, and the more work I'm willing to put into something, the better results I'm going to see.02:02 - I've gotten into 16 years of sobriety now under my belt from opioid addiction to doing what I feel the Lord has put me here to do. And that is to help as many people struggling with addiction as I did every single day.02:34 - I do believe the Lord made me a wrestler, made me seven feet tall, and made me all these different things to use one day to get people's attention… My job is to use it as a platform to put a spotlight on important issues that I'm very passionate about. Drug addiction is at the top of them.06:23 - The face of addiction is every color of the rainbow. It's every race, every creed, or every religion, short, tall, fat, skinny, funny, unfunny. It's an equal-opportunity butt kicker. And I think it's my job to get that message out there to show everybody that no, it's not the dude under the overpass on a floor with a needle hanging out of his arm, homeless. That's not a drug addict. It's so much more vast than that.11:21 - My addiction specialist made the mistake of telling me he's never had somebody he's worked with who has never relapsed. It's a normal part of the process. If it happens, we just get back on the wagon. It's no big deal… But what stuck in my head because I'm weird, and I'm very competitive is that he's never had somebody that didn't relapse before. So I treat it like a sport and said I'd be this guy's first. So anytime I'd want to use after two or three days of not using, I wouldn't do it because I wanted to prove this guy wrong—that you can do it without relapsing.12:16 - Everybody's different. It was a different story. Our struggle is going to be different. But if it gets to that point where it's so myopic, where you're flipping out, like I was in that intersection, because it's too stressful, calm everything down, slow everything down and say, “All I got to do is stay sober for just five more minutes.”16:57 - I knocked on all their doors not once, not twice, but three times and talked to these residents to find out what their needs were, what they wanted to see done in the city that really wasn't too far off what I want for my own son—a safe community for him to grow up and prosper that has more special needs services in this community as well.17:55 -  Most of my support came from my community who wanted to see a change and wanted to see somebody that had no ties.18:27 - Nobody could tell you what to do one way or the other. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Memorable Moments: 02:51 - Hypnosis is just a state of highly focused attention. It's like when you get so caught up in a good movie that you forget you're watching the movie and you enter the imagined world… It's the ability to narrow the focus of attention and put outside of conscious awareness things that would ordinarily be in consciousness.03:44 - Shifting mental states has great power. And it's something that we can learn to use better to help us live better.04:24 - You can start out dealing with stressors on the outside by dealing with the way they affect your body on the inside. That's the way you start to gain control.06:32 - This is better because [for example] you're trying to get to sleep at three in the morning. I'm not going to be there to hypnotize you back to sleep. But the app is. 07:24 - Hypnosis is the oldest Western conception of Psychotherapy. It started 250 years ago—the first time that talking interaction between the doctor and the patient was thought to have therapeutic value. 10:05 - Just by shifting your focus to how your body feels, you're changing the relationship between external stressors and our normal reaction.10:43 - Learn to approach stress by first handling the thing you can best handle, which is how your body reacts to it, and then approach the problem and figure out what to do about it.11:42 - Hypnosis is Western. It's meant to solve a problem… And it's more focused on changing a given problem. You do it not just to be open and to lose yourself but rather to deal with your pain or your stress.  16:05 - We're born with this big brain and a great imagination, but not with a user's manual. We don't use it very well.  Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @plantbasedaddictMemorable Moments: 03:35 - Evolutionary Psychology refers to the ways in which people behave, why they choose to go one way versus another, in regards to the way in which our genes have explored the environment of our evolutionary story.04:58 - All animal life is actually motivated by something called a tripartite motivational system, or a motivational triad, and those are pleasure-seeking, pain avoidance, and energy conservation.13:03 - In the modern environment, when we get a dopamine stimulus, it is what we call a supernormal stimulus that raises our dopamine circuitry way outside the bounds of normal human experience. And our brains don't really like that. And so what they're going to do is they're going to defend themselves against this intense stimulus.15:23 - When you're habituated to repetitive, consistent supernormal stimulus, the wrong decision feels incredibly right for your survival. And the right decision feels incredibly wrong. 16:01 - The reason why people find themselves in that situation isn't because they're broken. It's because that is their psychology responding exactly the way it's designed to respond to an environment that is too shifted away from our natural history and our natural behavior. 17:48 - It's not a fault of theirs, it's the fault of their environment. And if they are willing to cultivate an environment that looks more indicative of their natural history and their natural behavior—spend two to four weeks living in that environment, their dopamine receptors are going to regain sensitivity. They're going to recalibrate to an environment that makes sense. 25:02 - What you have to understand is that humans have a psychology of more. We're trying to get the most for the least every single time. But now for the first time in human history, that decision might not be the best thing to do for our long-term outcome. 25:48 - If you can organize your environment to look like what you want to do, you don't have to outcompete the environment in order to be successful. 29:10 - Everyone thinks that they've got to figure out how to be disciplined enough to do a thing. Instead of trying to become more disciplined, design a more disciplined environment. This is really valuable. Your self-control will always be a lot less necessary when your environment doesn't require you to depend on it. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @allisonwalsh @humorist.therapistMemorable Moments: 2:15 - So many of the individuals that we work with on a daily basis have also battled their own challenges throughout the course of their lives. We wear that as a badge of honor, not something that we're shameful about, which is just a beautiful place to be able to work and come from and to be able to share our lived experiences with others.3:09 - We've had a lot of open, candid conversations, really asking very straightforward questions of how are you feeling? What's going on? How can I support you do you need time?3:18 - Being compassionate and empathetic to people first, and the employer second was the most important thing and allowed us to create this safe space to have open conversations.3:55 - Mental health is health.4:09 - Having these conversations on a more regular basis allows people to feel very safe and be able to be very open about what they're dealing with so that we can get them what they need. 4:18 - Give people the space and resources they need. Or just purely checking in with each other to let them know that we care on a deeper level and that you're not just another person that's on the team. You're a very special person that we care about.5:07 - One thing that a lot of us struggle with is the difficulty to decipher or determine what's appropriate for us to share and what are we really going to feel comfortable with.11:42 - We don't have cookie-cutter approaches. We were very focused on what are the needs of all the people that were taken care of in our centers or online with Telehealth.15:16 I've seen so much movement around big, small and medium-sized groups and companies wanting to provide their people with what they need. And they're really looking for a solution that's really going to meet all of those needs, which is why we love Nobu, why we love Advanced Recovery Systems, who we work with and for because we're able to really provide a lot of that.18:26 - When it comes to setting boundaries around work-life balance, it's really about being intentional about that transition from one environment or role to another, and then being consistent with that, and really respecting that time.20:03 - Boundaries are the greatest act of self-respect.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Ross Szabo is a social innovator who pioneered the youth mental health movement. He is the Wellness Director and founding faculty member at Geffen Academy at UCLA, where he has created a program for students to learn about mental health once a week throughout their education from grade 6-12. Ross is also an award winning speaker, author and the CEO of Human Power Project, a company that designs mental health curriculum.Social Media Handle: @rossszaboPublications: A Kids Book About Anxiety, Behind Happy Faces; Taking Charge of Your Mental HealthMemorable Moments: 2:50 We're really kind of in just the beginning stages of mental health literacy. And what we're trying to do is tie that past history of physical literacy and mental literacy as a way to actually normalize conversations around mental health. 4:26 We need to start actually teaching that there are different categories for mental health challenges. One would be everyday challenges: stress, lack of sleep, body image issues, things like that. Those are things everyone experiences. Another category would be environmental factors. The next category would be significant events, so experiences with loss change, and rejection, and how that affects your lives. This is really critical in terms of normalizing mental health. Because most people are confusing these issues. But those aren't the same things. This is just one tool. Let's actually separate what you're experiencing so that you have a better vocabulary for it.6:20 - One of the most important things there is teaching kinds of sensitivity around what is a mental health disorder and what isn't. 6:25 - The conversations that are getting normalized now aren't actually beneficial. They're dismissive of people's experiences.8:06 - Mental health literacy and mental health education are different from social-emotional learning. 8:36 - Mental health literacy is important because the definition of mental health isn't having a problem. It's how you address challenges in your life.8:56 - Mental health should be taught the same way as physical health. What schools are mainly afraid of is becoming therapeutic centers. But there is a way to take a public health approach to mental health. 12:12 In the professional setting, put up boundaries and only share things you've processed. Give yourself the outlet so that you're not stuck to take things back or wish you didn't share some.13:27 - One of the most important things you can do as a parent is to model the behavior you want to see in your kids. The largest form of education will always be through example. It'll never be words.16:40 - It's natural for kids to have different things they like and have those things shift throughout adolescence. There's nothing wrong with that. But when it gets deeper than that, when you see that they're not able to do the things they used to do for a longer duration of time,  that's when it's time to call someone in.18:05 - As you go through the early decades of your life, you spend so much time building and trying to find what works for you that it takes a while to get to a place where you can be more present and be in a place where you're connecting.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @plantbasedaddictPublications: Memorable Moments: 4:11  I was very accepting of myself, both physically and emotionally. But all of a sudden I was told there are now conditions that I was allowed to accept myself physically, and that was a scary thing, especially coming from my parents.7:46  One of the biggest drivers for depression is a future that doesn't seem like a place you want to be a part of doesn't feel safe and doesn't seem comfortable. In fact, it feels like it's gonna be a painful place, too, more so than where you are right now.9:18  On August 21st of 2012, life had been the most painful it has ever been. Every day was the most difficult day of my life, and I live in full confidence that the next day would be even worse. And when you do that long enough not only do not know how it got to this point, you don't know how to get out of it. Because there's so much shame and stigma wrapped around it, you don't know how to say Hey I don't know what I'm doing here but, man, things are not working out, and so I tried to end my life.11:05  I believe this to be true for the majority of people: Suicide isn't someone wanting to end their lives; it's someone wanting to end their pain.12:45  The things that we choose to believe have consequences on us and the people that we care about.15:42   The reason why I have survived all of those moments, those years, and that experience was because my body has never once given up on me. My body has been fighting for me since the day I was born, regardless of the way I treated it.16:18  When I switch the mindset to not what's the matter with me, but what matters to me in terms of my physical health, my social health, my emotional health, then you're very clear about which direction you want to go. Then every decision that you make isn't about what not to do. It's about what's going to enhance the opportunity for you to show up in life in a way that feels meaningful to you.19:13  The nutrition conversation is about trying to inform better decisions and patterns over time.20:28  Human research data over time shows that fiber is dose-dependent to benefit, meaning the more you consume, the better the benefit, the greater the reduction of all-cause of mortality, and the greater the increase of human health outcomes over time.28:12  What I think is so important, what I think matters most in recovery, isn't “Why don't they stop?” It's “Why does it make sense?” It's such a more valuable question to ask.28:30  If we can understand why it makes sense that someone uses drugs, we can reorganize their life, we can organize their dietary pattern, and we can reorganize their emotional patterns in a way that reconnecting seemed a lot more likely. Use may not stop entirely over the course of the rest of their life. But the intention may be different. And the frequency will be far less.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Amy Van Slambrook is a licensed psychotherapist and certified leadership & relationship coach. She helps high-profile women and couple CEOs, entrepreneurs, and leaders to reclaim and elevate into the most aligned and powerful version of themselves in their business, relationship, and life by doing deep healing and transformation at the soul, mind, and body levels. With 30 years of professional experience in psychotherapy, coaching,executive leadership, genetic and psychological research, functional medicine, and entrepreneurship, as well as her own 35-year personal journey of trauma healing and personal development, Amy brings vast experience to her work in post-traumatic growth and holistic wellness and empowerment. She is a sought-after speaker, podcast guest and host, and published author. Amy builds her life and works on a strong foundation of faith.Social Media Handle: @amyvanslambrookMemorable Moments: 2:47  I think one of the hallmarks of someone who's really of transformational wealth is that they've tried to separate them, they tried to exist in the mind without appreciating what's happening in their body and trying to be in their body without appreciating what's in their spirit and the three are so inextricably tied because they are mouthpieces for one another.4:36  It's great to have relationships when there's no pressure. It's easy. It's when there's the pressure that we are really exposed to the reality of our lives and our relationships.6:15  I really encourage my clients to take a pause and let themselves get silence in their lives because silence is when we face the reality of things.6:33  When we are silent, we're faced with looking in the mirror of what we've created not only on the front-facing image of our social media but what happens behind the scenes in the reality of who we are and the relationships that we have starting with ourselves, with God, with those we love the most in life.8:14  I really am such a champion for the fact that trauma, can be the biggest springboard for your life into a whole new level of success and triumph. It isn't something we need to run away from.8:58  I've been through decades of my own trauma, I can stand here and say it is the gateway to that next level in your life because it reconnects us to the truest part of ourselves.10:20  That is how post-traumatic growth really gets to shine because suddenly you're saying what inhibited my growth, what stunted my growth now can actually catapult it so that I can impact the world the way I'm supposed to.12:39  If you went through trauma as a child, that's kind of an imprint of how you are going to view all relationships happening. 14:18  We are usually drawn to people who not only give us the comforting feeling of home but also remind us and tend to wound us in ways we were wounded as a child.19:28  What matters most is absolutely going all in on what God has called me to go all in on. I just turned 50, and it has given me a new sense of liberation and freedom. I have never felt more motivated and vibrant and free because of all the healing work I've done.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Sherry Walling is a clinical psychologist, speaker, podcaster, author, and mental health advocate. Her company, ZenFounder, helps entrepreneurs and leaders navigate complex human experience. She hosts the ZenFounder podcast, which has been called a “must listen” by both Forbes and Entrepreneur Magazine. She is also the host of Mind Curious, a podcast exploring innovations in mental health care via psychedelics. She is the author of two books: The Entrepreneur's Guide to Keeping Your Shit Together and Touching Two Worlds: a guide for finding hope in the aftermath of loss. Sherry and her husband, Rob, reside in Minneapolis where they spend their time driving their children to music lessons. She has also been known to occasionally perform as a circus aerialist.Social Media Handle: Instagram: @sherrywallingPublications: Touching Two Worlds: a guide to finding hope in the landscape of lossMemorable Moments: 2:24 Any kind of human that's under a state of stress is dysregulated. Their body is elevated trying to react to a stressor.  2:32 To help someone feel better in the midst of stress is to reregulate or bring their body and their mind down to homeostasis. Thoughts go slower, the heart beats slower, and breath is slower. If we can turn the slow-motion dial on that often helps stress feel much more manageable and accessible.3:22 When we can feel that sense of agency over our bodies and our lives, that feels so much better than feeling stuck on the tilt-a-whirl at the fair. And we're just moving so fast and we're like, ‘Yeah, I wanna get off.'4:47 Being in my own grief after the losses (of my dad and brother), one of the things that were so helpful to me was I really connected with my own body.  6:13 When we get into some kind of emotional expression, we can breathe again. It's a big exhale. It's like putting down the heaviness of all that we are carrying and being present with a different experience.6:27 Emotional expression allows you to have a little lightness, a little levity, or really express some of those negative emotions. Feel into your anger. Feel into your fear, but not in a way that feels like it's going to be overwhelming for you.6:52 Our society is kind of set up to move quickly through grief. Like policies related to bereavement leave. You might go to your mom's funeral on Saturday and on Tuesday, you're supposed to be back at work. There's not a lot of space for grief.7:09 A lot of us feel like we gotta muscle through hard things when we're in pain or suffering. But the tendency is to just keep going, just keep moving, just be gritty. And those aren't bad messages. I just think they may be out of balance.7:30 Don't go around pain or suffering. Don't avoid it. Don't skip over it. Talk about it. Feel it. Express it. Move toward the heart of what's difficult, knowing that that's where all the growth lies. That's where all the lessons are.  8:03  When you go in and through something - for instance, grief - there's no part of you that you don't have access to. There's no part of you that you feel like you have to hide from.8:56 Writing can be helpful for people who like to journal. Writing about your own experience can be a really powerful way to do some of that in and through work.9:13 If you feel like you want the presence of another human, it will help to be in therapy or go to a support group where you can begin to tell the stories to give life and words to the things that feel painful.  9:33 You can also try expressive movement such as a five rhythms dance practice where you pair different kinds of movement with different kinds of emotion. It can be a yoga session. There's something really can be quite healing about holding a warrior position and lingering there and letting your body do the work to breathe through and to hold that position.10:55 Doing grief better means talking about grief. It's naming those that we've lost. Naming the hopes that we had that never came to be.11:12 Doing grief better means we're collectively comfortable moving in and out of tender spaces, knowing that we can do that with gentleness and with some graciousness and not feel like we have to, again, skip over it and just get back to work and get back to normal life. That is quite damaging to people who are in any kind of grief.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips. This podcast is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Lindsay Bettis, Miss Florida 2022, a Summa Cum Laude graduate of the University of Central Florida and is currently pursuing her MBA from Louisiana State University Shreveport's accelerated online program. Her social impact initiative, “Prescription for Change: Addiction Prevention, Treatment and Recovery” was crafted from the responsibility she felt to reverse the addiction crisis after growing up in a family with substance use. As Miss Florida 2022 she will continue her partnership and employment with Advanced Recovery Systems, a leader in behavioral healthcare, which allows her the opportunity to repair lives, restore families and revive communities. Through her advocacy, she has saved over 315 lives and impacted over 975 lives. She recently became a nationally Certified Event Interventionist (CEI) and serves as an ambassador for two substance abuse prevention programs, Natural High and Real Talk.Social Media Handle: Instagram: @missamericaflMemorable Moments: 3:08  I grew up in a family with substance use. And it was something that was really associated with the dark parts of my life. So I really never saw it becoming a career because it was something that I always looked at and frowned upon...something that my family always swept under the rug and tried to keep hush hush. And as we grew and progressed through this journey, we realized that that was the worst possible thing that we could have done. And what we needed to do was reach out and get the resources that were needed in order to get my loved one healthy, and back on track and recovery.7:00  I remember the first time that I saw a real talk presentation, I was in college, and I will be the first to admit, I was naive about what was going on in the world related to drugs and alcohol. I didn't know all the science and the facts. And I'm glad that this program laid it out straight, because it's something that students need to hear. Because there are a lot of people like me that don't necessarily know what happens if you choose to experiment. 14:52 I think that that will forever be a part of my story, the fact that I persevered through something that could have been where I easily decided to just give up, bow out. But instead, we decided to go full force and go down kicking and screaming in the process. 19:36 My dad is my biggest supporter and always gives me his full okay to bring these stories to the stage and to bring them out to the public and I could not be more thankful for that because I know that our story is similar to a lot of other individuals that could really benefit from hearing this.20:05 What matters most to me at this point is that I have been handed this incredible opportunity. So what matters most is making the most out of that opportunity and making a difference.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips. This podcast is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Originally from Germany, Mari Stracke is a London-based writer, occasional stand-up comedian and mental health advocate who blogs about mental health to her engaged 50k following on Instagram. After a close family member tried to commit suicide in 2013, she began to speak publicly about the importance of de-stigmatising mental illness. Today, she openly shares her own struggles with anxiety and PTSD, which she was diagnosed with after witnessing a graphic knife crime in London.   With a background in filmmaking, Mari particularly loves working on stories that raise awareness. She believes that making the extremely personal experience of living with a mental illness widely accessible through storytelling can be a lifeline - not only to those who suffer in silence but also for loved ones who find it difficult to relate. She is currently working on her first book and in her free time she enjoys watching the colourful houseboats on the canal in her home borough of Hackney.Social Media Handle:Instagram: @maristrackeMemorable Moments: 2:38 You cannot sweep mental health issues under the carpet. It just comes back and it comes back bigger and worse.4:48  So often I think people who struggle mentally with things assume that “well that's just life.” 9:58  I initially just thought if I just talk about it the way I truly feel it without trying to think about the likes that you will get, or if it resonates with people, then I can, I can just, it's out out of my heart in a way, the negative stuff.10:54 But we are getting there, where we understand that we all have vulnerable sides. That's what makes us human. And you have such a bigger shot at building a stronger connection with people, if you actually show your vulnerability. And if you go beyond the surface.12:49 And so I had meaningful conversations. And sometimes it's just like an exchange of two sentences. And that's all I or the other person need in that moment. It snaps you out of that, that loneliness that I think fuels so many of the mental illnesses that we have.14:48  I feel like what else are we really here for if not making real connections? It's the most beautiful thing. And I think when you're younger, that might not be on the forefront of your thoughts. And the older you get, or at least for me, it's like, oh, well, of course, that's what I'm here to do, the enjoyment of the dialogue with other people and to share a little bit of their experience and the way they see their world. Yeah, it's very powerful.17:10 I often have to remind myself that I now live in a very nice bubble, of people who are advocating and who I have conversations with and where it's very open and where everybody is proud to be vulnerable. But that is a bubble, in the grander scheme of society that is not there yet at all. 18:15 Don't let anybody invalidate your pain.21:22 If you feel it, it's there. Pain is pain is pain is pain. There is no “oh, no, this pain is different than that.” And if you feel it, you have it. You have that pain inside you, and you're suffering from it. And so therefore, you deserve to be heard, and listened to and taken seriously. And to receive, ultimately, help.27:04 So that's the first thing I say to people. I'm absolutely open to listen, and I'm interested if you want to share it. But it's not for me to measure whether your pain is valid enough to now say, maybe try some therapy, maybe try some tools about breathing exercises, those kinds of things. Because you know that no one else is an expert on how you feel, but you. No one else, there's no other authority than you. 29:22 I think that's a big one for me at the moment to try and live fully. And by that I mean, go for the connection. Say yes to things.29:53 Life is about the dialogue with other people, understanding how other people see the world and understanding that my viewpoint is just one of very many. And we all have this experience on this planet. So living life to the fullest, for me, personally, is something [that] has become a mantra recently.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips. This podcast is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle:Instagram: www.instagram.com/c_hurst10/?hl=enLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/catherine-hurst-6564b416/Twitter: https://twitter.com/cathy_hurst10Memorable Moments: 6:39 If we had learned early on, just like you learn math skills or science or spelling or whatever, if we had learned more about our emotions, and where did it come from in the brain and the neurological system and how can we go: "okay, I'm gonna get myself out of this emotional mindset." Take a deep breath, walk away from a situation and be able to come back and face it better, because maybe I was angry, maybe I was frustrated. And if I continue staying in that headspace, it's going to consume me. 8:00 That's what's important for us, to really get these kids to think about that tomorrow can be a better day, and that it's okay not to be okay. And nobody, nobody in this world is perfect. And we all have our own issues and situations.11:15 We need to get back to allowing children to be vulnerable and have these feelings and say, you know, I'm learning [too] at my age...and instead, if I say, "Wow, I can't believe you felt that way. Let's talk about it or share with me, why do you think you have those feelings?", it makes it into a totally different conversation. And so at my age, I'm still learning how to work with people and my children, especially.14:15 We're so used to just going "well, I'm sorry, that happened." You know, let's just move on. And we've got to stop doing that because children are more sensitive today. They want so much to feel accepted...and so we've got to let them be the individuals that they are, but encourage them and you know, and help them through the rough times. 17:08 That's how we can help people figure out ways to handle this with their kids, [by] getting more and better resources out there at their fingertips.19:36 I get up every day and just want to make a difference and help that next child realize that life is important and to be resilient and not give up hope.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/upnadotnet/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/upnCoaching/Memorable Moments: 5:10 There's a road to anything that we want to do in life. Right? No matter what it is, there's a road. The road may be long, the road may be short, but there's a road. 5:20 And so when we talk about self efficacy, we talk about goal setting, and we talk about self confidence, what I see is a lot of people don't realize that they have to set these small, tangible goals and build to their big goal. 8:06 So self efficacy is “I am able to.” [It's] what you believe you are able to do. 11:53 There is no one way to make yourself happy. There just isn't. There's a bunch of things that you can try that are out there. 13:16 The better physical condition you are in, the more likely you will be happy and healthy and productive and do the things in your life that you want to do, that you deserve to do. 14:28 There's some grit to it at the beginning. And the grit part is to make it a habit. That's grit. Like, there's some tricks to making things a habit, but when it comes down to it, it's going to just take you going “this is what I'm going to do.” 17:16 Before one seeks a mentor or to be around people that they would like to emulate or positive influences in their lives, they need to recognize the negative influences in their lives. Wow, I want to say that one more time. If someone is bad for you, get them out of your life.19:43 A lot of people want to succeed in their lives, they want to be happier, they want to be in a better place, yet they keep the negative influences in their lives, and they can't for the life of them figure out why they keep the negative things or people in their lives. 20:25 So cutting off our negative or limiting if we have to, our negatives, in our environment is just as important as looking at what we can do to surround ourselves with the positives and the people that we need to surround ourselves with.22:20  I want to have an impact in the world, continue to help people, continue to inspire people and really make a difference in people's lives.24:14 But no matter who you are, you're going to have setbacks, you're going to have difficulties, you're going to have losses, you're going to have breakups, you're going to have you know, grandparents and parents pass away…these things will happen to us, I don't care who you are. And we can choose to let those experiences define us. Or, we can let those experiences help us move on to better places in our lives.27:39 And if you're in a good place, then I would offer up your services to help others. And this book will inspire you to not just help at-risk youth, but seek to give, because we are all connected, and we can be so much more connected. And when we're in good places, we can do amazing things for people that we don't know.28:33 I wake up in the morning and say, How can I leave a positive impression? How can I help someone, how can I do something to make someone realize that they have some amazing abilities and beauty inside them that they can unleash? 29:12 But I guarantee you, once you make that initial step, everything will get easier. It just takes you showing up for yourself.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Jenna Kutcher guides millions of listeners each week in chasing their dreams on the #1 Marketing podcast in the country, The Goal Digger.A born-and-raised Minnesota wife, mother, and entrepreneur, Jenna has helped women all over the world redefine success and wake up to their lives through her decade-long work as a leading online educator.Social Media Handle: @jennakutcherMemorable Moments: 2:38  I feel like we're in a very unique time right now, where a lot of us are kind of experiencing this push and pull of like, Where do I belong? And I feel like we're in such a polarizing world in so many different ways. But one of the ways is, especially as ambitious people, ambitious women, we're feeling like we have to pick between hustle culture; this idea, this notion of like “work harder, do more, just keep going” and the other idea, the other side of the coin is the manifesting, like, you know, just hold this vision and speak it out and it'll happen. And I feel like I live in this gray area in so many places in my life, but specifically in how can we hold these visions of what we really deeply desire for our life but also, how can we take even micro action towards them?5:03 I think that there are, a lot of times, two different people: there's the "jump and then the net will appear" and then there's the people that are like, "I'm gonna weave this net so that I know with security and safety, I can make the leap."5:44 But for me, sometimes learning what I don't want or what I will not take or what I don't feel is in alignment with me is a better indicator of how I can start moving in the right direction.  5:57 I felt like I was riding two Clydesdales going in opposite directions because the life I was living did not showcase what I really wanted, what my values were, what I was heading towards. And in order to figure out how to jump from one horse to the other, I had to just take these micro actions and start working towards that vision of something else.7:45 I know so many people who start the degree for the dream job and halfway through the degree, they know that they don't want that job anymore. But they feel like they've already spent two years, why would they waste that? And it's like, Wait, we're wasting our future, knowing we're moving in a direction that's not going to serve us? And so for me, what's been so fascinating is working through this process of figuring out who am I? But not just who am I today, but who do I want to become? And I think a lot of times we put so much pressure on like, what sounds impressive, what sounds good, instead of saying what feels good in my life, how do I want to feel?  8:58 Our identities aren't fixed. We are constantly changing and growing and evolving. And I want us to continue becoming.  9:13  And a changed mind, I think, is like one of the most beautiful things that we can gift ourselves and in doing that, invite other people to maybe consider different things so that we can continue changing our identities, as we should as students in this thing called Life School and as people who can have their mind changed and become something different.11:18 Being a mom to a toddler, I've learned that you can tell a kid a stove is hot, but sometimes they need to touch it to experience it. And I think that a lot of people are that way; they have to experience something to really know that they don't want to do that again. But I think that the way that we are perpetuating this hustle mentality, it is only going to lead us there. And we have become people who have tuned out those check engine lights so long that something has to suffer for us to wake up to the fact that we're not doing something that's sustainable, whether it's relational or health-related.12:20 One of the things that I think is really important, is to talk about boundaries. I feel like balance was the word for a long time. And I feel like boundaries is the new word.  12:53 But boundaries, to me, have been my saving grace. They have been the thing that has kept me in my life...And so, when we think about burnout, what I want to come coupling alongside of that is boundaries, and how can we invite them into our lives, to really preserve our lives so that the lives that we're living feel good, but that we're enjoying them that we're not faking to enjoy them, or that we're not spending the whole journey in pursuit of the thing, missing the point.17:45 Strategy can get you really far. But when you really start to invest in who you are and who you're becoming, as a human being, that's when things really skyrocket.  18:08 If you don't have community in that way, find ways to invite it because it can be a really lonely journey, no matter what you're doing, when you don't have somebody who's in that similar life stage.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Williams is an Assistant Professor within the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and the Director of the Stanford Brain Stimulation Lab. Dr. Williams has a broad background in clinical neuroscience and is triple board-certified in general neurology, general psychiatry, as well as behavioral neurology & neuropsychiatry. In addition, he has specific training and clinical expertise in the development of brain stimulation methodologies under Mark George, MD. Themes of his work include (a) examining the use of spaced learning theory in the application of neurostimulation techniques, (b) development and mechanistic understanding of rapid-acting antidepressants, and (c) identifying objective biomarkers that predict neuromodulation responses in treatment-resistant neuropsychiatric conditions. He has published papers in high impact peer-reviewed journals including Brain, American Journal of Psychiatry, and the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science. Results from his studies have gained widespread attention in journals such as Science and New England Journal of Medicine Journal Watch as well as in the popular press and have been featured in various news sources including Time, Smithsonian, and Newsweek. Dr. Williams received two NARSAD Young Investigator Awards in 2016 and 2018 along with the 2019 Gerald R. Klerman Award. Dr. Williams received the National Institute of Mental Health Biobehavioral Research Award for Innovative New Scientists in 2020.Social Media Handle: NolanRyWilliamsPublications: https://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/appi.ajp.2021.20101429Memorable Moments: 4:17  I've been very focused on specifically trying to help develop rapid acting interventions with you know, with a lot of a lot of work in the, in the kind of emergence emerging psychedelic space with some, you know, with with drugs like Ibogaine and ketamine being explored in the lab. And that's, that's part of it. And those studies are definitely important in trying to understand the mechanism of those drugs and trying to understand what we can use those drugs for. Where we've been very focused is using and kind of engineering a rapid acting form of for repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation.5:47 So we've been very focused on trying to develop rTMS and kind of re-engineer rTMS into an approach that allows for us to treat people over a very short period of time.  7:25 The idea there is this is a way of treating rapidly by rearranging the stimulation in space, and time and dose.13:25 The highest risk of completed suicide is in the period right after psychiatric hospital discharge. [That's] rate of the whole lifetime. So we were very interested in that particular population, because we wanted to be able to treat people in these high emergency settings.  22:42 To me, the problem of really getting TMS in particular out there has been an educational problem.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Megan is an International Life & Energy Coach. For the past 6 years, she's supported women to tap into their magic and confidently lead their life. Through transformative coaching sessions and discovering their unique Human Design, she takes women from overwhelmed and stuck to crystal clear, confident, and purposeful. Megan is passionate about working with female business owners, change-makers, and leaders to reawaken their full authentic selves. So they can create the impact they were born to make without fear, doubt, or people pleasing standing in the way.Social Media Handle: https://www.instagram.com/meganseamans and https://www.facebook.com/MeganSeamansCoaching/Publications: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/moving-through-grief-im-strong-because-i-feel-it-all/ -- https://podcasts.apple.com/il/podcast/turning-30-and-getting-out-of-your-comfort-zone/id1526149550?i=1000493311891Memorable Moments: 2:31 I felt like I was doing it all wrong, even though I was following all of the steps that everyone said you should be following. 3:31 And I just started saying yes to all of these things that before felt so scary or so out of reach, and I built this really beautiful life.4:24 Because no matter what the chapter is and no matter what you build outside of yourself, there you are. You're coming along for the journey.6:39 The more we can discover our own unique energy and the more we can uncover how we actually want to operate, the more we can show up in relationships and in our career and on teams from a space of “I'm me, you're you, let's do that together.” And really honor that we all show up differently. And I just think it's such a gift to learn that, know that and express that to the world.8:12 That first step for having that reset is getting to know yourself and more importantly, beginning to shed the stories that aren't you. Because so often with our energy, like we're trying to run our energy as if we were someone else. 8:46 Getting to know what actually feels good for you instead of how you think you should be showing up, I think, is the first step for that reset.13:47 To me, balance is actually about noticing when your scales are tipping too far to one side, when you're getting really heavy in one area of your life, and then to be able to take yourself back to center. And that doesn't mean it's going to stay permanently.16:03 Human design brings these contrasts together, and shows you how you can use these different traits and energy and ways of showing up with the least amount of resistance.20:13 At this point in my life, what matters most to me right now is connection.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Whitney Goodman is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, the author of Toxic Positivity, and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a private therapy practice in Miami, FL. She helps people who want to improve their relationships and emotional awareness.Social Media Handle: @sitwithwhitMemorable Moments: 2:04 Toxic positivity is really this just unrelenting pressure to be happy and positive, and be pursuing that at all costs, no matter what the circumstances are. And I find that it's something that we use against ourselves and other people. The reason that positivity can become toxic or so damaging is that it ultimately becomes dismissive, causing people to shut down their emotions to dismiss what they're feeling and thinking. It also causes us to feel really isolated. 4:49 I feel like lately, especially over the last two years, we've all become a little bit more isolated. We've all kind of had these moments of like, what is important to me in life and trying to figure that out. But it's caused a lot of confusion for people. 6:28 Teaching people how to help us when we're struggling, I think, is a lot of our own responsibility.  I think if we can empower people to be more vocal about that, we can also stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to always know the exact perfect thing to say to someone. And that's when that toxic positivity usually comes up, is when we're just trying to figure out something to say or do about a problem that we don't know how to fix.9:29 Manifestation sort of proposes that like, if you think positively, visualize what you want, put it out there, you're going to get it back and that people get what is meant for them. “What's meant for you will never miss you,” like, we hear a lot of these, these phrases. And the problem I have with that is that I work with a lot of people who have had really unfortunate things happen to them. And I think you can get into this place where it's like, “okay, so that was supposed to happen to me. I deserved it in some way or it was meant to happen to me, it's going to have meaning later in my life.” 10:10 And it's an unfortunate reality that I think we have to remember when it comes to manifestation, all of these types of practices, that it's okay to use that line of thinking for good, positive things. But when you use it for everything about your life, it can be really damaging.13:00 And in that book, I tried to tackle a lot of the things that we think are negative. So like,  complaining, certain types of “negative emotions”, you know, even just feeling your feelings, talking to people about them. And then also giving people scripts or different things to say in situations where I think positivity really doesn't fit as a form of comfort or motivation.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Duke Rumely is the Founder and Executive Director of Sober AF Entertainment, SAFE. This nonprofit creates and manages sober support events and sober sections at music festivals, concerts and sporting events. SAFE has hosted 100 events and had over 5,200 people join in person and another 44,000 join virtually on their Twitch Channel. Before SAFE, Duke founded National Recovery Skiathon. Duke worked on Wall Street for 20 years and then worked as a interventionist and community liaison for treatment centers for 10 years. Duke has a 20 year old son, Ben, and 24 year old daughter.Social Media Handle: Sober AF Entertainment on Facebook and LinkedIn Memorable Moments: 3:07 You know, it's ridiculous there's no secondary culture. As far as, if you don't want to drink or do drugs, you don't need to feel like the weirdo. Plus, I've had this long term sobriety and just kind of knew, like, the first year sobriety is so hard and so awkward. But if you had a sober wingman to kind of show you how to have fun sober, it kind of takes away this self pity card that we're all walking around with. Just that, you know, oh my god, I can have fun sober. 6:50 I think we're like a little nudge, a little poke to people like, “hey, you can host your own sober support events.” Like, it's okay. Just because you're in recovery, [it] doesn't mean you can't put your hand up, [it] doesn't mean you can't like, protect your own community. 7:48 You know, there's a community out there that to drink is to die. And how do we kind of help those people feel comfortable at these different events, because their life doesn't have to be over. Just because you're not drinking or doing drugs, you don't have to be like, you're the weirdo.10:38 We had a woman in long term recovery, who 25 years earlier, [at the] inaugural season, was asked to sing the national anthem at the Rockies. And she was so drunk, she couldn't leave the house. So she was so embarrassed, she left Colorado. A year later, she gets sober. So now she's 24 years sober, gets to come back to Colorado, sing the national anthem, and slay that dragon of that guilt and remorse that she had about it. And she got to tell that story at our sober tailgate beforehand.14:39 Then that one day came where the idea of life might be okay without alcohol. That's as much as I could kind of give with this first little, like step zero. Like somehow you gotta get a buy in to that life might be okay without alcohol.17:05 It was this big thing in my head. And people don't care. But it was the first time walking through that. And the second time you go through, it's still awkward, but not as awkward. And the third time, it's still awkward, but not as awkward and it just gets so much easier. But that first year, there's so many new experiences. So I think that's kind of why Sober AF is so important.19:47 I think we all need to give ourselves a little bit of a break, and just try to get back into whatever that groove was before. 20:50 I think we're in an unprecedented time that we won't realize how disruptive COVID was to the recovery community. So that being said, you're still alive, you got a chance to kind of get back on whatever that beam was before.23:29 I think as a guy who's 32 years sober, who goes back to meetings, I almost need to like, forget what I've learned before. Right? What worked in 1989 and the 90s, may not work in 22.  24:42 I think that is where we need to understand that's what the generation wants. How do we support people virtually, if that's kind of what the future is going to look like?Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Allison Walsh is the Vice President of Business Development and Branding for Advanced Recovery Systems, a national provider and industry leader in behavioral healthcare. She has over 15 years of organizational leadership, mentorship, and coaching experience and has shared her story with over 100,000 live audience members. Dedicated mental health and female empowerment advocate,  she is the co-host of the Dear Mind You Matter podcast, as well as the host of The She Believed She Could podcast.Angela Phillips, Ph.D., LICSW is a licensed therapist, clinical researcher, telehealth director, podcast cohost, content creator, and partner to a firefighter paramedic. She has worked in the mental health field for over 15 years and specializes in tech-based mental health and wellness support and treatment.Social Media Handles: @allisonwalsh @humorist.therapist @therecoveryvillage @nobuapp Publications:Allison WalshHarvard Business ReviewForbesEntrepreneurDr. Angela Phillips Stanford Accelerated Intelligent Neuromodulation Therapy for Treatment-Resistant DepressionrTMS effects in patients with co-morbid somatic pain and depressive mood disordersMemorable Moments: 4:21 Being a leader, you learn so many things, but nobody prepared any leader for leading through COVID and leading through a pandemic.4:31 There was just so much that I put on my shoulders because I wanted to, right? I wanted to help my team, I wanted to help the company, I wanted to help all the people that we serve. But what I wasn't noticing is that as I was slowly or quickly putting on more responsibility, or just trying to get us through, I was chipping away or neglecting some of the things I needed to do for myself to keep myself in an optimal well being status or really taking care of myself.5:08 I've been in the mental health industry for like 20 years, literally. And I was even struggling to recognize some of the warning signs, because they had never presented themselves the way that they were at that point.6:03  I reached out for help immediately when I really recognized like, this isn't good. But it took me, that was probably a year of building or nine months, and really like building and building and building and building and I wasn't realizing it. 6:23 I also realized that there was a deeper situation and something that needed to be addressed. And that was just where I'm at, in this stage and phase of my life and, things needed to look different and feel different. And I needed to show up differently in order to be the best mom and wife and boss and colleague and everything else that I could possibly be. And ultimately, that meant that I needed to have some really brave conversations. 6:50 I had been advised on so many different occasions, well, if you're feeling this way or you're not doing well, maybe you should just quit, maybe this is time for you to start something different, right? Like, from professionals in this space saying this. You know, oftentimes, some people need to do that when they're struggling with burnout. But I was not subscribing to that. I love it here, I'm not ready to move on.7:49 And the farther I get away from that really brave conversation, the more grateful I still become, because, you know, it could have been different, but it wasn't. And now I'm happier, they're happier. I feel like I can show up as my full self again. I've continued to heal from burnout, I've continued to do the work I needed to do and really be mindful of prioritizing myself first, because I can't pour into the cups of anybody else if I'm not taking care of myself first.8:28 You know, it wasn't my first battle with burnout, but it was the first battle that looked like this. And I think that's the other thing to recognize is it's not always going to show up the same way every time.11:42 Because if you're listening to this, and you think it doesn't impact you from that systemic or organizational piece, you're wrong. If you are in the workforce, you know someone who's in the workforce, you plan to become someone in the workforce...all of this impacts us and how we carry and interpret the weight of and burden of what burnout could look like for us.12:13 I found myself in a position where I was not really seeing it. I was kind of blinded to that, and I was just crunching through everything. And then finally had to really take a step back and say, if I want my future to look like x, I cannot continue to do y. It's not going to happen. And like what really are my goals here? Is this the environment? I want to continue in? Why? And so it's asking all of those questions. 13:13 I'm so glad that we're talking about this again, just so that we can have these conversations and really make folks more aware and support one another. Because this isn't anything to be ashamed of. We're not weaker because we need to have a personal life or because we can't, you know? Everyone has a limit, every individual, every team, every organization.15:46 There wasn't just like, one thing, right? It was a lot of different things. It was a lot of different things at different times that helped me. And, you know, ultimately, I had to trust that everything was going to work out too, on the job front side of it, and be okay with things looking different. 16:06  I knew I couldn't sustain at the pace that I was on, and I couldn't continue to take on more. And so being able to really define what was a healthy life gonna look like for me? And what could it look like and still accomplish the goals that we have, and you know, personally and professionally, was really important too. And really being honest and clear about what I can and can't handle.16:47 I had to learn about which are the right yeses, right? And putting up some boundaries for myself and protecting my time and energy and not just saying yes to say yes, but saying yes to make a huge impact, when it's the right time to be able to do so. 20:06 We know people are expecting more support, they're expecting that their employer is going to support their employees, whether it's offering mental health days or just being aware of what's actually contributing towards burnout, and how they can support their employees through whatever it is, EAP other support systems. 23:33 I love the fact that employers are starting to pay attention to this in a more significant way. There's always been, you know, the ones that are leading the pack, but now people are realizing, “wow, I have good people. I don't want to lose them because we're not doing what we need to do to take care of them.” And I think there's just so many more businesses that are finally prioritizing mental wellness.30:57 I think that we have to prioritize our children's mental health just as much as we're prioritizing everybody else's. Because this pandemic impacted us all in so many ways the last couple of years, but I think it's we're just seeing the tip of the iceberg when it comes to, you know, what has it really done to our kids? What is it done to us emotionally and mentally and so I'm very concerned about making sure that they're okay, making sure that I'm okay. And that I'm able to show up for them as the best possible mom that I can be. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducationRegister today for the June 21st Continuing Education Event by Dr. Berenstain on Burnout! ____Laura is a pediatric cardiac anesthesiologist who is now the CEO of Berenstain Coaching and Consulting and works primarily coaching women for personal well-being, along with professional success and leadership. She's a wife, mom to three daughters, author, speaker, and determined agent for change. Experiencing burnout herself led to her passion for working with other women to help them determine their best life and how to achieve it without sacrificing their own authenticity along the way. In addition to coaching Laura works on national initiatives on physician well-being, gender equity and DEI, and professional development. She is active on committees for well-being and leadership through the American Society of Anesthesiologists and the Society for Pediatric Anesthesia's Women's Empowerment Leadership Initiative (WELI).Social Media Handle: Twitter @LBerenstainLinkedin.com/in/laura-berenstainFacebook Laura BerenstainPublications:Berenstain LK, Markowitz SD, Byerly SI. Physician Coaching. Anesthesiology Clinics 2022.. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.anclin.2022.01.007Berenstain LK. A sense of belonging. Pediatric Anesthesia 2021. DOL: 10.1111/pan.14070Berenstain LK. A physician's new rules for time management. KevinMD, January 22, 2022.Memorable Moments: 3:00  I think what most of us think about when we think about wellbeing is something that encompasses all the parts that make us human; our physical, our emotional, or social, even our financial status, are all the parts of us working the way they need to and the way we would like them to so that we really feel that we're fully fledged human beings, and we're moving as close to our real potential as we can.4:32 I think when I think about burnout, I think about going back to wellbeing and am I operating really on all cylinders, in all the parts of my life? Sadly, the answer for a lot of us, especially post COVID is no, because we're under stress all the time.4:58 So I think when I think about burnout, I like to couple it with resiliency. And with the resiliency part is some thoughtful work about what is your resiliency reservoir? And what does that look like? How deep is it? And that comes back to how are those parts of your life working together? And if they're not, what needs to happen then and what restores you, and what brings you energy?6:33 I really want to emphasize that this takes a little bit of exploration, because one size doesn't fit all. And so I think sometimes we actually make ourselves feel even worse, if we take things that seem to work for other people and if that's not what gives us resilience, or sustains us.7:51 So I think when people begin to visualize their resiliency reservoir, it's really helpful to think about what are the things that are little rivers that feed your reservoir. And that could be exercising, or sometimes getting enough sleep. It could for some people be yoga, it could be anything, but what feeds you? And then also being conscious of what are the rivers out of that reservoir? And maybe that's a job that's stressful. Maybe it's a family situation, that's really hard to deal with right now. But whatever those things are, are they balancing? Because if they're not balancing, and there's more outflow from that reservoir than input, then over time, we know where that's going to head. That's going to head toward burnout. 11:00 Dr. Kamya Seraph, who teaches a course on trauma coaching [says] connection mitigates trauma. And that's important, because another thing she says that I believe she's actually correct about is that right now, the penetrance of trauma in our society is 100%. Because we've all lived through COVID. We've all had our own challenges to deal with on top of COVID. And trauma can be an event, but it can also be a lived experience, it can be cumulative stress that becomes too much. And so, yes, connection is the thing that mitigates that.12:00 Something that I realized over the course of years is, especially for women, that takes the form of all the things that are challenges to you, whether it's work life integration or being the sole breadwinner for your family, worrying about your next promotion, whatever your challenges are, we come to believe that we're the only people facing those battles and somehow we're not doing a good enough job. And the beauty of connection is that, at the moment, we are able to be just vulnerable enough to leave our silo and connect with other people, we realize that these are very common things and we're actually all working through varieties of those things. And just normalizing that is so validating that you almost can just take a deep breath and relax, just thinking about the fact that it's not my struggle. We're in this together, it's everyone's struggle. 15:22 Connection comes at the point where you feel seen and heard and valued. It comes when there's trust. 18:06 Toxic altruism is when you're almost shamed into not taking care of yourself, because you should be taking care of other people. So you wouldn't take a lunch break between cases, or you wouldn't go get some water or even go to the bathroom because you're busy taking care of other people. And so I think for health care workers, it often gets bred into us that somehow it's wrong or selfish to have needs of our own.19:10 I think self compassion is a tough one, because part of any problem is raising awareness. But even after we're aware that we do that, it still takes a concerted effort to say, I'm going to choose to be kind to myself. I'm going to give myself grace. I am not going to beat myself up over this. Or even, what do I need right now?21:33 It feels so terrifically important to me to try to make a difference for the better in any way that I can. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Becca Powers is an award-winning Fortune 500 hi-tech sales executive, best-selling author, speaker, and Founder and CEO of Powers Peak Potential. In her 20+ year career in sales, she's worked for large companies including Cisco, Dell, and Office Depot, achieving President's Club 7 times while leading teams of 110+ and hitting $500 million in annual revenue.   Becca intimately knows the struggles that have come as a cost to her high achievements. Through nearly losing it all, she was forced to discover a more supportive and sustainable path to success that she now teaches to others. She founded her consulting and coaching agency to help high achievers and high-performance sales teams obtain skyrocketing success without sacrifice. Through workshops, seminars and her signature coaching program, Becca works with individuals and organizations to create sustainable change by training them to thrive from the inside out without the cost of compromise.Social Media Handle: @beccapowers1313 on LinkedIn, Instagram, and FacebookPublications: Harness Your Inner CEO Memorable Moments: 4:49 I'm my biggest cheerleader. I've been in sales a long time. You know, “I know, I can do this.” And so that mantra, that attitude, is something that is one of my strengths. But it also became my greatest weakness because I powered through situations that were actually breaking me down. And I ignored lots of what I call signs and symptoms of burnout. 7:57 Burnout really starts in what I call the unders and overs...what I found is that 88% of the 1000s surveyed are feeling the Unders while they're working. And the top five unders would be undervalued, underappreciated, underpaid, underestimated, and under[recognized]. And when our unders are triggered, we go into overcompensation, which is why I call it the overs. And there's five primary overs as well. We overwork, we over stress, we overwhelm, we overextend as I mentioned in my personal story, and we overcommit, those are the five primary things.9:40 When someone's feeling undervalued, what's really happening, the root cause of burnout is, they're feeling unsafe, you know, the core feelings, I'm not safe, I'm not worthy, I'm not valuable. You know, something's wrong with me, those feelings are triggered, which is why we try to hide them by overcompensating.12:14 Our choices either serve us or they sabotage us.14:41 If I was to give a tip or a tool, it would be prioritize. Give yourself permission to prioritize your wellbeing amongst all the other things you're prioritizing. 15:45 As I've interviewed people on burnout is the things that matter, most of them, their top priorities are often shifted down to levels 3-4-5-6. And so my answer to that is permission to prioritize your wellbeing and the things that are important, in addition to prioritizing the yeses and the work. So it's a movement towards both.16:53 When I was first coming out of burnout, I call it one big boundary, but it was like, if saying yes to something else meant that I was saying no to myself, then I had to say no. And that was really hard because I hadn't yet turned inward enough where my validation came from within and my confidence came from within, like all of that I was still seeking outside me.21:25 When someone's feeling under-something and then they're overcompensating, they're longing for belonging. 26:36 It's not a game of perfection. It's a game of progress.28:44 I think that the biggest misconception [about workplace burnout] is that there's something wrong with us, there's something wrong with the individual. What I would say in the space of workplace burnout specifically, which is where I really spend majority of my study time, we have never and I say this we as a leader, have never really been taught the skills to help someone who doesn't feel valued or who is struggling with their self worth. There's not a coaching model for that in the workplace. And I feel like the biggest misconception is that it's the employees problem. It's everyone's problem.31:51 What matters most to me right now is my health and wellbeing. I love being a mom. I love my husband and my projects and all that stuff, and I don't get to do any of it if I don't take care of myself.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Nikki Starr is a medical doctor turned Transformational Life Coach and Spiritual Healer, and was born into a lineage of Colombian Healers and Shaman. After medical school she had a spiritual awakening traveling the world touching every continent except Antarctica by age 25. She is now based in Malibu where she works with people worldwide via her online coaching and healing programs that empower us to live our ultimate lives. She stands for ultimate health, wealth, embodiment and love for all of humanity.Instagram: @drnikkistarrWebsites: Awakenyourspiritualpower.com and ultimatewomanuprising.com Memorable Moments:4:27 We're in the realm beyond health and into ultimate embodiment, like being your best ultimate self in every aspect.4:41 A lot of people are like, I know my life can be better, and I want to live my best life. And that's really exciting. And I like to say it's like an energy makeover. It's like a makeover in every aspect of our lives and how we're being and how we see the world.5:44 We really are making lemonade out of every lemon that life throws our way. And I think that's the beauty of this work is that our life is what we make of it. It is how we choose to see things that happen. And it is how we're choosing to live our life every day with our lifestyle and our habits and how we seek, and how we see our relationships and really allowing everything to work for us.7:35 Imagine that we're computers and we have software systems, and we can just delete the programs that are not serving us anymore. And we outgrow programs. 9:00 We live in an energetic universe. If we clear the energy charge, then we have a different experience moving forward.11:20 If we are choosing the belief system that everything is happening for our greatest becoming, then we can trust that every single thing that happens is for our greatest becoming and find the silver lining.12:33 I feel that when we want to manifest something, the universe is conspiring to make it happen for us. 13:52 Really [choose] how we're focusing energy, because what we focus on expands.15:02 I believe that we are co-creating a new paradigm. So we are in a time period on the earth where a lot of change needs to happen, especially if we want to create. So I believe that we can create a reality where there's abundance and love and peace and harmony for everyone. In order for that to happen, the systems that are not in alignment with that need to break down...So I look at a lot of these disasters, whether they're social disasters or even actual natural disasters, as opportunities for rebuilding.18:51 So energy is contagious. And it changes form and it can transmute other energy, right? So it's like it pick up the energy of the sun, it can start to heat other things up. So if you could be that kindness, that when you go to the store or you're in your relationships, and you'd be that love and kindness, that is the opposite of the thing you're seeing that you want to complain about. It's like, you be the solution. How can you take whatever's happening and be the solution and literally take an action that is in alignment with the opposite of the thing that's bothering you?19:31 Be mindful of the conversations you have. I like to tell my clients reserve time to talk about what is going wrong, and putting in quotation marks “what's wrong”, and what's going wrong or what's not going right. Reserve that for healing time. Not really just to vent because you're putting, it's like you're spewing that out into the universe and the universe is like, “Oh, they want more of that. Look. They love talking about it. Let's just give them more of that challenge.” And so really being mindful and finding the things or the conversations to be had that are serving you...So the best thing you could do is take an inspired action, that is some sort of self care or some sort of energy that is the opposite of the thing that you're wanting to complain about or be in victimhood about.22:29 I feel for me, it's so important to keep in my environment, be it people, places, things, where I live, how I live, that everything is in alignment with my truth and what feels really good for me and really putting myself first because I feel like that's how I can then share my mission with the world in a bigger way and show up for my relationships in a better way. 23:01 I do think it's so important, like, saying no to the things that are a no. Saying yes to the things that are yes, and heeding that.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Selena is an International Yoga Teacher and Radiant Life Coach. She helps people embody the principles of health and wellness so that they can live fully integrated, embodied, lit up lives. She has taught students and coached clients across the globe and has consulted and created digital mindfulness content for yoga brands and mental health apps.Social Media: @selena.maisonpierre ; www.selenamaisonpierre.comMemorable Moments: 2:20 I started noticing that there was a real disconnect between the way people would show up on the yoga mat and how they would show up in the rest of their lives.2:35 I just felt like the wellness industry was doing it wrong and was really doing a disservice to a lot of people. And what it was really promoting was kind of a compartmentalization of practices. So people would show up to yoga, almost like a check mark, like, yup, I did it. Or like, yeah, I meditated. And yet they would go into the rest of their life back to the exact same way that they had been doing it. And I was like, we're missing something, something's missing. 3:08 I really connected with this idea of like radiance, where, when you really are connected to yourself and you're really embodying and integrating all these aspects of you, you radiate.4:18 Everyone comes to yoga at some point in their life when they really need it. And everyone comes to it for such a different reason. And it's really special to talk with people and hear, you know, what was that thing that led you into it? And usually it's not a very happy moment in your life that takes you there, but once you sort of tap into something and you attach to something within...wellness. You just sort of expand in these ways that you never could expect. And so I think that whether it's yoga, whether it's meditation, whether it's seeing a therapist, like whatever it is on a mental health level, just attaching to that one thing that feels personal to you and then being really open to the journey of where it takes you, I think is so special.10:34 The yoga is the bodywork, the coaching is the thought work, but it's all leading us to the same place.11:06 If you want to pick up a yoga practice or you want to start prioritizing your mindfulness, I always say, just start really small. Like, five minutes is better than nothing. And I also really encourage students and clients to really ask yourself why. So, don't just set some goal like "I want to do 15 minutes of yoga a day." Ask not only why, but what do you want to feel in doing that? 12:02 When you're connected to your intention and you let that lead everything, all of a sudden it's fun.13:30 For so many years, the word "help" to me felt so negative, like a weakness of needing help, and I really want to encourage people to reframe help as support and community. And it's not that you can't do it alone, it's that it's so much easier with somebody else, whether that's a coach or a therapist or a yoga studio or an app that pings you and reminds you, you know, don't forget to log in for your meditation. But reach out and create this powerful force of support for yourself. You don't have to do it alone.15:37 One thing that I work with clients on is planning ahead. So some people come to me on a coaching sphere, knowing that I'm a yoga teacher and one of their goals of coaching is they want to incorporate more yoga or movement into their life. So we look at your calendar on a weekly basis, look at your calendar and fit in where are you going to do 20, 30 minutes, an hour of yoga and put it into your calendar so that it's just already there. And it's almost like a meeting with yourself. It's non-negotiable. 17:00  I also think that finding little triggers in your day that lead you into doing something.So what I mean is like, if you want to incorporate more meditation, pick a time of day. Is it right after you drink your coffee? Is it right before you go to bed? Is it right before you take a shower? I don't know, something that already exists in your daily routine and you just add on a little bit of extra time for whatever it is that you're trying to do. So you're not trying to totally reinvent your daily habits. You're just sort of tacking in a little bit more onto something that you already do.17:50 I think really having this mindset when you go into building a new habit of like, you might not get it perfect every time and rather than beat yourself up for it, just know that there's always another day. There's always another opportunity to do it again. And you can just sort of like clean slate it, you know? Start over. 20:03 I really recommend journaling when you have a problem or when you have a moment where you think you kind of need to shift your mindset about something, to just start journaling and really ask yourself why. And just kind of like go down, why, why, why, why, why? And that's how I use journaling as little prompts just to take you deeper into yourself. 21:37 Until you journal, you kind of just loop around this mindset of frustration or whatever the feeling is. And then when you start journaling and you're like, okay, well, why am I mad about this? Okay. Why, why is that actually why I'm mad? Like why is this? And then you just kind of just go down these levels and I think it frees up your mental space so much because you can just move, move on from stuff that before felt like it was just totally heavy. 22:45 I'm at a point in my life right now, in this moment, where I just want gentle. I want warmth and I want support and so I need to give that to myself first.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Alex Holmes is a London-based writer and existential mental health coach. In 2021, he won the Creative Impact Award for Best Mental Health Awareness, for his writing and conversations on mental health. He was also featured among Positive.News ‘20 Mental Health Leaders Supporting The Nation's Wellbeing', and won the Creative Impact Co Awards For Mental Health Awareness in 2021. His debut book Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging, and Connection (Welbeck/Trigger). He writes weekly notes on his Heart-To-Heart Letters, exploring love, belonging and connection, He is also the founder and creator of the leading podcast Time To Talk with Alex Holmes, highly commended by British GQ as a top podcast for 2020 and 2021.Social Handles:instagram.com/byalexholmes alexholmes.substack.com alexholmes.coMemorable Moments: 3:29  We are here on earth with our purpose and we are driven by our purpose and it's based on four tenants of responsibility, authenticity, consequences and freedom.6:36 There's a whole phenomenon that happens inside us. When we go through particular things in life, we experience so much, and it does mess with the way that we think about the world and the way we see the world, especially when there's somebody who feels that they are absolutely powerless in a situation. That is one of the most crippling things.6:54 I can attest to that personally and it's not until you find your personal power that you can then become different and make a step and change things that you want to change. 8:06 What does it mean for men to be men today? What kind of, what element of masculinity do we bring forward? And as you see it across the world and in the cultural zeitgeist of the West right now, we're having a huge resurgence of what masculinity does for the world, what it does for us. So I'm asking all these questions and I feel like I owe it to myself to ask these questions.11:15 I had to write down all the things I believed about myself, that were inherently told to me, taught to me, expressed to me, whether that be directly or indirectly. And then how that has shown up in my life as an adult man. Right. And in doing all of that, I've really sat down and thought, “wow, all of these beliefs are not mine.” None of this is mine and I'm holding all of these things that so many people have put to me and said to me, and act it out towards me. So I had to go about trying to undo those beliefs. 12:47 I think that it's important to really think about those things. And that's where I would say to people, to really be able to look at really just kind of go and do, go and examine where these things come from and to spend time really having that honest conversation with yourself.16:53 Like we are taught to mask a lot of stuff, to hide a lot of stuff, to keep things inside. A progressive stance, say a protest around, for men would probably, a progressive one, would look like men being able to really fight for paternal rights or to really fight for emotional intelligence among boys, or to really fight for…those are the things that would really center in around men's progress. But, the kind of established network and structures of patriarchy and you know, I hate using this term, but the toxic side of masculinity inhibits us from being able to fight for that. So we move all of that energy away from ourselves and put it into things that are external to us. 18:08 So, the question for me is, where and when will we be able to, as men, really want to stand up for our own fight and healing, as men, and be able to allow and create this progress to then move forward together with everybody? Because obviously we intersect, we're human beings. We're on this earth together. 20:31 We have to have those conversations about consent. We have to have those conversations about safety and safe spaces. We have to have those conversations about oppressive language. Things that men are not taught to be careful about.21:52 We've had all these conversations but the real conversation that is upholding a lot of this and holding, trying to hold onto that oppressive night together, is masculinity and we're not having that conversation. And it's very difficult to some people, a lot of people don't want to have it.23:22 What's important to me is that we have, we have these conversations, we continue to have these conversations. And it's not about this whole thing, where you go in with one set of ideas and you should, and you hold onto these ideas for the rest of your time and having conversations. I'm open to knowing more and changing my mind and knowing different, right? I'm open to all of those perspectives and all these different things. Not everybody's going to agree that everyone's going to have the same perspective and same view, but that's the joy of a school being able to learn together and move together.23:57 my hope is that, and the one thing that matters most to me is that we get to a place where we can actually sit down and have a conversation that is progressive and can actually really push us, push us in a direction that is to change.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit https://arsnobu.page.link/arsevents. 

Subscribe for more: https://arsnobu.page.link/arseventsFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Have you heard about ARS University? Enroll today: www.arsuniversity.com______________________________________KD is a Stanford environmental engineer, burnout prevention coach, creator of The Reset Deck, a card game with 45 ways to make stress suck less, and the CEO of Bask + Being — a company that builds workplace wellness strategies, that well, work. After experiencing her own case of burnout, KD left her role as a brand director and sustainability manager for a Fortune 500 company to become a TEDx speaker and a burnout consultant for companies like Salesforce, Apple's Media Arts Lab, Kaiser Permanente, and more. Committed to (re)building an economic ecosystem (not an empire) that's inclusive, just, and equitable for people and the planet. KD weaves accessible science, relatable stories, and practical tools to shift the way people experience stress and sustainability.KD is a TEDx speaker, B.S. Environmental Engineering, Stanford University M.S. Civil Engineering, Stanford University Licensed Professional Engineer, California Certified Health Coach, Health Coach Institute 500-Hour Experienced Yoga Teacher. Social Media: IG @curiouslykasey @theresetdeck @baskandbeing LI: @kaseyhurlbuttPublications: - TEDx: https://youtu.be/t8UcRjBJJ0A- https://medium.com/authority-magazine/beating-burnout-kd-hurlbutt-on-the-5-things-you-should-do-if-you-are-experiencing-work-burnout-305e78aaaaedMemorable Moments: 4:16 According to the World Health Organization, [burnout is] chronic workplace stress that has been unsuccessfully managed. And usually the ways that you can tell that you are burnt out is there's a decrease in professional efficacy, in energy, chronic exhaustion, increase in irritability, and/or decrease in engagement, just to name a few. 5:01 Most importantly, what burnout is, it's chronic stress that has been unsuccessfully managed. And the reason that's so important is because it takes, I think, an often hard to define, hard to recognize, hard to wrap your hands around concept of burnout, and it makes it that much more tangible. Plus, it makes it actually something you can tackle and do something about because there's a lot of ways that we can go about handling our own stress levels and how we interact with the stressors in our life.7:07 I was high functioning. So to the rest of the world, they perceived me as she's got her stuff together. She is on the track. She's checking off the boxes. But on the interior, I felt like everything was falling apart. I had a handle on nothing and it felt debilitating. So I quit my corporate gig and I started to try to heal my own nervous system.7:48 What I started to figure out is that all health and wellbeing, including our mental wellbeing, if it's a house, it sits on top of a foundation that is a healthy, nervous system that we know how to regulate. 10:53 Because when you actually know what stress is, it's not a good or bad thing. It's a neutral thing. Stress has let us evolve into the creatures that we are today. And it's one of the reasons that human beings have been able to survive. Like, there's a very important role that it plays in our lives and keeping us safe and in, honestly, helping us to activate a lot of our systems that get us energized to have productivity and creativity.11:21 Stress in and of itself isn't bad. Where it gets to be a challenge any why the goal is to make it suck less, is because too much of it too often actually drives, clinically proven, health consequences. Everything from inflammation, digestive disorders, intercepting our endocrine system, which means we can have fertility and reproductive challenges, to high blood pressure, clogged arteries, like the list goes on and on and on, in my opinion, all disease is either caused by or correlated to our stress levels. So, too much of it is the problem. The other problem is there are too many stressors and the number of stressors that we're exposed to now versus what our brains, our amygdala in particular, were adapted to be able to filter for us and interpret for us are no longer aligned.12:26 So to try to eliminate stress, even to try to eliminate all negative stress is just like, it's a fool's errand. Let's not even try it. So then the question becomes okay, if we're not trying to eliminate stress, but we are trying to eliminate burnout because maybe we don't have to be chronically stressed, and if we're trying to make it suck less, how do we do that? 17:05 How [your body] speaks to you is through the three B's, which are breath, body, and brain.19:13 Boundaries are value-based, energetic limits on where you wanna invest your time and talent.19:19 The reason I think the mental health crisis, the burnout crisis and the climate crisis are all connected is because they're all rooted in a fundamentally faulty assumption, which is that you can take energy and resources from people or the planet with no limits or boundaries and no respect for rest or restoration and not have consequences. That just actually defies physics and the law of conservation of energy.19:51 Ownership is about staying accountable to those boundaries that we are, or are not, setting and communicating them because nobody is a mind reader. So even though we want people to be mind readers, they're not, and they often need help understanding where our boundaries are and why.20:33 Support is two-fold. It's what is in your support system of your self-care tools and the ways that your daily habits that you're using and leaning into to help reduce the total amount of stress and create resilience when triggers come up. But it's also about how are we asking for help? 21:16 Self-compassion is, in its simplest state, is learning how to not judge ourselves. That doesn't mean we're not holding ourselves accountable. That's why ownership is there. We definitely hold ourselves accountable, but we can do it in a way that's loving in a way that supports our growth and our learning.22:11 And when we pause and ask ourselves, okay, but what's your purpose? Why are you here? What brings you joy? How do you wanna show up and serve this world? What is the most daring vision of your life and this world that we're all in, that you want to invest your talent and energy in? It helps to flip the script on like, okay, I see that the problem is not that I am driven.The problem is not that I like to work hard or to contribute, but that maybe the why that underpins all of that is unfulfilling and/or just not for me and that's okay. 24:25 I think the biggest thing that we get wrong is that we assume it's the problem of the individual. And so I'm so elated and excited for the amount, the increase in investment and emergence of apps and technologies and tools that help individuals support their own wellbeing. It's an incredibly important part of the systemic solution and it's insufficient because the environments and cultures that are creating those challenges and/or making it impossible for somebody to set a boundary or to have a courageous conversation because they don't feel psychologically safe or other systemic challenges that they're facing, they can't solve, they actually don't have the agency or control to do anything about. And so it is amazing that we have these solutions and it's not enough. 25:55 The same kind of self-compassion you can extend that to organizations for organizational compassion. You can have, you can assume positive intent. You can assume that everyone's doing their best inside of an economic system. That makes it really hard to change and to, it's fundamentally not designed to prioritize people's wellbeing, but you can have compassion for all of that and say we can do better and we can do differently. And how do we do that in conjunction with supporting the individual so that they converge, and then you have this amplified ripple impact. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit https://arsnobu.page.link/arsevents. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Have you heard about ARS University? Enroll today: www.arsuniversity.com____Patrick Dossett currently serves as CEO of Madefor, working alongside a team of subject matter experts in health and wellness to deliver world-class programming designed to help individuals be their best.  Prior to Madefor, Dossett served in various leadership roles, first as an officer in the US Navy SEAL teams and later in the fields of technology and non-profit to create positive change at scale.   Dossett holds a bachelor of science degree in Oceanography from the U.S. Naval Academy, a master's in business administration from the Wharton School of Business and is the recipient of numerous awards and commendations for his service and leadership.Social Media: @Madefor_Pat Website: www.fastcompany.comMemorable Moments:  2:49 We really believe that if we can help individuals show up better in their lives for themselves, then they are by proxy gonna lift everyone else up around them.3:11 We're talking just a couple of minutes each day, but around some very foundational areas of wellness, things like hydration, gratitude, movement, nature, rests, social connection. Maybe what we might say are the macronutrients of wellness, [it's] things that our grandparents told us, Hey, go outside, drink more water, you know, do these things. These are good for you. But for whatever reason, we've maybe grown disconnected from our capacity to engage them in such a way that really is meaningful and transformational.5:48 You might be doing something as simple as drinking water and thinking you're working on hydration, but you're also working on what happens when you pay attention to a small thing you do every day and how it affects you and the knock-on effects of that are you start to have awareness around "well, what are the other ways that I'm directing my attention and effort? Am I being present to my family? Am I being, how am I moving my body throughout the day? What am I putting in my body? How is it making me feel?"10:39 Oftentimes when we're under the greatest amount of stress or we find ourselves navigating particularly challenging circumstances, that is the time when we have to pay even more attention to self care. Because if we stop caring for ourselves, we can't really progress and care for anything else [or] do anything else that we care about.11:05 At the end of the day, you've got to be your own best teammate. You've got to be kind to yourself. You've got to extend yourself grace and recognize that you're human and that life is hard. But no matter what you're facing, there's still an opportunity to move closer to the things you care about. 12:31 We walk our members through the science of setting an intention and how to set an intention for what is it you hope to achieve as a result of going through this program. Where do you want to be in a year's time? And if you achieve that, why does that matter to you? Why is that going to inspire you to do the work between today and tomorrow and the end of this program? And, if you do that and you achieve it, what happens? What's different? How is it going to make your life better? But how also, is it going to make the lives of those around you better?13:50 I can't overstate the importance of intentionality and really, look, there is no one way to achieve optimal wellness. There are some overarching principles and you all, you all are familiar with these. But there's no one way.16:18 Past the age of about 25, there are really only two ways to change the brain. One is through a short, intense experience. It could be positive or negative. So birth of a child, loss of a loved one, car accident, food poisoning, getting married, but by definition, these are the peak experiences. These are things that they're either really high or they're really low, but they are the exception. The norm is what happens throughout. Between the peak and the trough, right? This is where most of our life is lived. And there is this, the second model for brain change really is around small, consistent actions done with awareness of cause and effect. 17:52 When you take time to pause and reflect on like, "wow, today was really hard. And even though it was really hard, I was able to do X, Y, and Z." And sometimes X, Y, and Z aren't going to be big things. Maybe they're small things, but I think the small things that we do in the face of challenge or adversity are sometimes the most impressive things. 18:12 And so taking time to register those wins and affirm them and celebrate them helps build a robust circuitry in your brain to recognize these wins more. And those wins can serve as fuel to help you build positive momentum. It's going to only increase your ability to get progress towards what you care about and give you that confidence and almost buffer you against uncertainty or setbacks that are bound to come.18:44 The great thing about registering these wins or recognizing them is much like the practice [of] gratitude. The more you practice it, the easier it gets and the more attuned you're going to be to, "oh, these are things that I'm doing really well." These are things we're celebrating or these are things worth being grateful for and it can fundamentally change and alter the way you move through your day and the way you experience life.22:41 I think the most powerful intentions recognize that we are social beings, right. That when we're serving causes outside of ourself, when we're recognizing that we're connected to something greater than ourselves, that is when we feel our best. 23:05 I find for our members, is that once they start engaging in self care and start [what we] like to say is “elevating their baselines” or feeling like they are improving their own mental and physical health, then they have more capacity to engage others around them. 24:53 Something that if you're in service for any length of time or in uniform for any length of time, that sense of mission and service, and again, serving causes that are bigger than yourself, just become a part of the fabric of who you are and so I knew when I left the military that I wanted to do something big and continue to serve big missions and I didn't have to carry a gun to do that.26:56 You can focus on the negative and downside risk and harm reduction, or you can focus on what are the things that bring out the best in you and being in pursuit of whether they're it's habits or mindsets or things in your environment that are in line with the way that the brain and body are designed.29:01 I think the thing that matters most to me is that I continue to find every opportunity I can to move closer towards the things that I care most about...making sure that I am taking every chance that I have to to move closer towards those things every day and when I don't and when I fall short, to be kind to myself and to re-engage as quickly as possible.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Peter Walters is a student of life and a teacher of yoga. He teaches classes online and in person, and also leads retreats and teaches at festivals around the world. His practices can be found on Audible, Headspace and Nobu. In his free time Peter loves mountain biking, teaching yoga to incarcerated individuals at San Quentin Prison, adventuring with his dog, Huckleberry and exploring the world! Find people on Instagram at @peterwaltersyoga Memorable Moments: 4:13 It was like the more I did [yoga], the more layers were being peeled away of, who I was and who I thought I was. And it continues to get richer every, every practice really.8:30 Yoga and meditation and so many of these practices are really enormous, valuable tools to help us come to the uncertainty and the unknown moments of life that will be earth shattering and shaking and painful and distressing.10:42  I'm seeing tons of people struggling with stress, of just being on computers all day, and anxiety about showing up like this and not being used to seeing people in person, and depression for feeling isolated and lonely. And I felt that myself, you know, and the one saving grace for me and I think a lot of students that I get to support, is having a regular daily practice of self inquiry, whether that's through meditation, through mindful walking, through yoga asana, through, you know, a fitness class. But it's just to show up regularly, in community with other people that you get to see. 11:47 I love yoga practice because it's always here and it's always available. You don't need to get all sweaty. You don't need to put on a yoga costume. You know, you can just move and breathe with intentionality and we can switch from fight or flight to rest and reset. 13:47 If you win the morning, you can win the day. So, the very first thing I do and I always try to suggest people do is like, it's so silly, but make your bed. You know, start with a positive, simple action that anybody can do...it takes all of 20 seconds to just put the cover over that you feel like, okay, I took one positive, intentional step to make my space and my mind feel organized. 17:10 It can be hugely simple. And I want to really reinforce that. Like, it does not need to be a complicated process or practice to sit, breathe, close your eyes for a moment. That's it. 18:50 The practices that I teach are timeless and they've been, they've been happening for thousands of years. And they've always been there and they always will be here, you know, and they'll be remixed by the modern practitioner and teacher, but, in the end, it's just like whenever you're ready to pick them up, they're here. You know, we all know that if we sit and breathe, we'll feel better.19:27 We set ourselves up for failure by front-loading everything to create this perfect idealized version of ourselves, you know? Once all this is complete, then I'll be done. But, the truth is...start really small, two minutes a day. And if you can do that for a week at a few minutes of sitting, movement, anything with intention with presence is a practice. And that could be mindfully walking, mindfully eating, mindfully doing the dishes, you know, it's just bringing full presence into whatever it is that you need to do.20:04 That's why I say the practice begins on the cushion or on the yoga mat. And then, if you're doing it right, it follows you out into your life. Everywhere you go.20:28 I don't think we should take what the internet is saying [or] is being more loud about as the thing we should be doing, you know? I think the practices that are worthwhile are timeless and we just need to do them. We all know what they are. We all know that if we eat the apple over the buttery sugary thing, we'll feel better, you know? So I think we all know what to do. It's just doing it. It's having the courage to pick the right option. 23:32 So I keep on circling back [to] how do I want to live out my days? You know, what could I do with my remaining breaths that feel significant and feel important and feel of service to other people? You know, I can live for me all my life. And I think we come to realize that's not very satisfying and fulfilling. You know, once you've made the money and done that, you're kind of like, okay, well, what now? That's an empty trap. 24:04 The spiritual teachers, the wisdom holders that came before us keep pointing to being of service when you don't know what to do, help somebody else.24:41 When we can't find the well of self motivation to uplift ourselves, I just look and say, how can I serve you? That's always been my tool to feel better, is just get out of my own way, get out of my own head, get out of my own narrative and drama and try to support somebody I care about.25:30 It's a sneak attack. We think helping somebody else is for them, but the truth is it's really for us, maybe more than it is for the other person. I think it's okay to be selfish in that, realizing that as much as I'm giving this to you, it's equally giving back to me.27:24 So what's important to me is just to keep diving in, you know, like you think you reach a layer with your partner or with a friend of connection and understanding, and then you say, no, no, no, clear that away. Let's go deeper. 27:17 One more thing [that] is really important to me is to keep setting down my stories and assumptions about myself, about life, about other people, about the political party I don't agree with. It's just to keep being a total beginner, to keep emptying myself, to keep letting go of all my associations of who I am or what my name is, what my gender is and what I like and what I don't like and just keep letting go, which is to say, keep accepting the moment as it arrives for me. And that's been such a cool, powerful, practice. Because you go into every moment being like, okay, well what's, what am I going to learn here? 29:02 We come into everything with our big backpack full of stuff, like, these are my opinions, these are my beliefs and, and we're closed off to other possibilities, you know? So just to arrive at each moment as empty as possible, almost childlike, big eyes and ready to learn and to be wrong and to have our minds changed.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducationAfter completing undergraduates degrees in Biology and Women's Studies at UC Irvine, Dr. Adamson completed a PhD in Neuroscience at the University of Southern California, followed by a Postdoctoral Fellowship in Psychiatry at the VAPAHCS & Stanford University School of Medicine. Dr. Adamson is a neuroscientist and neuroimaging expert, whose research interests include the neurological impact of traumatic brain injury, pain, and Alzheimer's disease. She's a leader in healthcare innovation, entrepreneurship, and translational neuroscience. A passionate advocate for healthcare gender equality and policy change committed to the development of novel therapeutic approaches such as brain stimulation and virtual reality. Social: Instagram: @AdamsMausoofLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maheenmadamson/Website: https://med.stanford.edu/adamson-lab.htmlRecent Publicatoin: https://med.stanford.edu/adamson-lab.html Sources and articles mentioned in todays episode: https://med.stanford.edu/adamson-lab.htmlMy lab website and contact informationhttps://www.pinkconcussions.com/Non-profit organization for women with brain injuryhttps://www.biausa.org/National association for brain injury with lots of resourceshttps://www.healthquality.va.gov/guidelines/rehab/mtbi/VA/DOD TBI guidelineshttps://stanmed.stanford.edu/2021issue2/brain-injury-recovery-more-difficult-women-than-men.htmlMy article in Stanford magazine about sex differences in the brain. The video is very moving.Memorbale Moments: 5:50 So that's why I think one of the most important things to realize is that a lot of people don't even go to the hospital when they fall or they get hit. They're like, “I'll be fine.” So that's one of the biggest things that gets misdiagnosed [around traumatic brain injuries].8:50 There's a lot of changes that were actually made in sports as well as in the military. So we had to come up with TBI guidelines. We had to come up with specific ways of diagnosing these three different categories. So there's three, right? There's mild, moderate, and severe.10:10 All this really came about because of awareness, because we found out that this is something we have to pay attention to because [it's] leading into all these other problems. And they can appear six months after an injury. And some of the patients that I see, those symptoms have been there for 10 years. 14:27 What's different about it is that in symptoms, we would go ahead and look at data that we already have, and we will see all these differences, all these disparities between men and women in just symptom reporting. The women were reporting more cognitive problems. After brain injury, women were reporting more psychiatric problems.15:36 Cortex can be a certain thickness and it's a variable that changes throughout life, but it's pretty stable in your adult stage. And usually the cortex of the brain is thicker in women than it is in men. That's just what the data shows. After brain injury, we compared cortical thickness between men and women after adjusting for age and, you know, skull size because men have bigger skulls, right? And so we were like, okay, are there any differences? It turns out that women who have brain injury somehow don't end up recuperating in terms of the mass of the cortex, as much as men. So men go back to their size, women don't. 18:37 I think it's mind blowing because we, you know, we have hormones, we bear our children. We have very different external stimuli that are coming to us. And somehow the treatments that are offered to men are supposed to be completely fine as-is for us. And they're not. I also just did another study in which I've found that the models that are created, machine learning models that are created for men do not fit the women. They fit, but not as well as they do for men.19:17 We know for a fact that our bodies, our stomachs digest medicine, different from men. We, our brains respond differently to medication than men. Our skull is smaller. We have less blood in our body. Our neck is thinner, which is one of the reasons why, and we have what's called when you jerk your head back in a motor vehicle accident, it's called whiplash. One of the reasons that women report more vertical and more balance problems is because we have a thinner neck. And it moves back. So there's all these tiny differences that can actually get really accentuated later on in life, if they're not treated.20:36 One of the base things really learned in the past 10, 15 years is asking somebody if you've had a TBI, that's not going to give you the answer. You have to really be interactive about it and assertive about it. In fact, a lot of academic centers have developed what's called TBI questionnaires, traumatic brain injury questionnaires, and this goes for a lot of different things, right? It can also go for depression. It can go for a lot of different things.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Rebecca Williams is an award-winning author, psychologist, and wellness expert specializing in healthy recovery from mental illness, addiction, and life's challenges. For the past 25 years, her work has focused on building resilience and embracing emotional well-being. She has been a program director at the VA San Diego Healthcare System and an associate clinical professor at The University of California, San Diego School of Medicine. A life-long yoga enthusiast, Rebecca has also been a yoga instructor. She was able to combine the ancient wisdom of yoga and mindfulness with compassionate recovery from addiction in her books. Rebecca has collaborated for over ten years with marriage and family therapist, Julie Kraft. Their first book together, The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with the Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors is popular with both therapists and recovering clients. Their workbook is used in virtual counseling, group therapy, and addiction recovery centers across the country. The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction has been translated into Korean, Japanese, Hungarian, and coming soon in Russian! Continuing their writing journey together, Rebecca and Julie created a new book, The Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction. The Gift of Recovery is like a pocket coach offering lots of in-the-moment mindfulness skills and adds powerful daily affirmations as clients continue on their personal healing journey.The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with the Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors (winner of the San Diego Book Award) and The Gift of Recovery 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction (Gold Winner of the Living Now Book Award and Silver Winner of the Nautilus Book Award)Memorable Moments: 4: 32 So being mindful means to stay, it's to center yourself in the present moment, which a lot of us can do, if we really focus on it and we learn the skill.5: 43 Mindfulness is a way to slow down the ability to react to craving. So if you have a craving for drugs or alcohol, for example, even during the pandemic, it's been a little bit out of control, of course. We'll talk about that I hope. You know mindfulness just tells you to be in the present moment, slow down, breathe.9: 40 This is an ongoing practice of continually taking the negative thoughts that are agitating you, affecting you negatively and moving them through. Thoughts aren't permanent. Feelings aren't permanent.16:00 In fact, addiction in the justice system is between 50 and 80% of folks who are incarcerated, have a substance abuse problem. So any clinician out there you're going to be dealing with folks who've been in the justice system if you're dealing with addiction. 17: 46 Usually there's softer emotions underneath that are being kind of protected, like feeling sad, hurt some of these softer emotions. Along with bringing it into the room, we also want you to bring patients into the room. My feeling is that stuck emotions really need your attention and they also need to have that kind of, that yin yang of self-compassion and patience.22:20 A lapse is not a relapse. So if someone lapses to a substance I would recommend that they remind themselves that a lapse is a one-time, you know, falling off the wagon kind of thing, where you'd use a drug or alcohol, and then you realize, oh my god, let me get back on the horse. Let me, let me get back on track.21:30 I would just want to convey to folks your listeners that call it a lapse, move into the lapse. If you have a lapse and get, go back to your wellness basket and return to the things that make you feel the strongest.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical psychologist, has practiced for twenty-eight years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. After winning an Arkansas Psychological Association award in 2009 for her community volunteering, she began blogging in 2012, and podcasting in 2016, extending the walls of her practice so that the general public could hear more about what therapy has to offer. Her writing can be found at https://DrMargaretRutherford.com, as well as Psychology Today, Psych Central, Psyche, the Gottman Blog and others. She hosts a highly popular podcast, The SelfWork Podcast, which is consistently ranked in the top 50 of US mental health podcasts, and a monthly FBLive presentation for The Mighty. Her new book Perfectly Hidden Depression (New Harbinger, 2019) focuses a much-needed light on the dangerous link between destructive perfectionism and depression.Website: https://drmargaretrutherford.com Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-selfwork-podcast/id1166015598 Book on Amazon: Author of Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free From the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression  Memorable Moments: 5:49 But there's a thing called destructive perfectionism, which is all about accomplishment, task, task orientation. You constantly have to meet the expectations of others around you. And I mean, all expectations. 6:13 That kind of perfectionism actually can be a camouflage for emotional pain that actually you may have suppressed that pain for so long that you're not even conscious of it anymore. 11:56 If you're aware that when perfectionism is present, when some of these, what I call the 10 traits of perfectly hidden depression, when those things are present, it's a syndrome of behaviors and beliefs that [hang] together.13:07 People with high functioning depression know they're depressed. They know they're depressed. They're in treatment, they're on medication. They make sure they get lots of exercise, so they don't get sad. They have seasonal affective disorder. They've learned how to cope. They're not so depressed that they can't get to work or take care of their kids. But this is different. 13:30 This is truly something that is...camouflage. You know, it's something you, you strap on every day and you really don't do it consciously. It's just who you have become. And the wonderful, incredible work that these people can do in therapy when they begin to let down that camouflage, it is amazing and it takes a lot of courage.  15:54 To convince someone that their thinness is really about an eating disorder is very difficult because that eating disorder has become their best friend. Perfectionism is very much the same way. 18:03 It is hard to admit that something you counted on as much as, you know, you being the person who's always the go-to, who always gets things done. And to begin to shift that thinking into something that's a little more human is hard. And so it takes a lot of honesty with yourself. 20:14 There could have been something that was in their family environment, in their cultural environment that caused them to adapt this way. And the very thing that helped them live through that and survive that is the thing that now has grown into this. And it's become their task master. 23:26 You really want to look at the absolutes in your life, the rules you're following: the musts, the shoulds, the have tos, the aughts, the nevers and begin to say, well, which one of these does still work for me, but which does not? 23:51 There's that work that's more cognitive behavioral and then there's the work of really going back and looking at your childhood, the family, the culture, the region, whatever, the country, and to see how the events of your life, both good and beneficial and painful and harmful, began to form patterns in your behavior. Going back and acknowledging with compassion.23:53 What is it that was hard for me and that I began covering up by just being highly achieving and caring about others and focusing on others, not on myself and counting my blessings to the point where it's toxic? You know, there's a toxic positivity that's out there. 25:54 These steps, they're hard because it really does turn some of what you believe upside down. But I have had people say to me, I, I feel so much more free than I did before. 26:00 To me, self-acceptance is really claiming that your strengths nor your vulnerabilities define you, that they both exist and they are facts about your life. And neither one of them define you. I think that's where people, in fact, I say in the book, self acceptance is the antidote to perfectly hidden depression. 27:17 During the pandemic people have used the strategy that has best worked for them [in the past] as their lives have gotten more and more ambiguous, more out of control, financial issues, obviously health issues, fear for your children, fear for your parents or grandparents, you know, our environment. I mean, it's just been chaos. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Chelsi and Audra are two fire wives hosting no BS convos about loving and supporting first responders. Their podcast is called Dear Chiefs and can be found at @dearchiefspodcast Memorable Moments: 7:38 What we've discovered through just recording Dear Chiefs is that there is a significant difference between station life and home life.7:43 A lot of people think that they are leaving their work at home when really they're bringing it with them home to the family.8:02 So they may be keeping in all their emotions and all of these things going on outside of home. But when they come home, it's "safe" to let all those emotions out. And so I think that's why we see firefighters, first responders coming home grouchy because this is a safe place to let that all go.And so I think commonly that's what we're hearing the most of is overtimes a problem and they're coming home being a completely different person than they are at the station. 12:43 For me, I think Audra agrees with this, finding support, knowing who you can go to for support, knowing if you have an employee assistance program, knowing how to access the employee assistance program, actually accessing it, going to counseling. These are things that we've both done and our relationships that we are big, big proponents of. If you don't know if you have an employee assistance program, go ask someone and don't hesitate to use it. That's what it's there for. 13:25 My number one thing is when you need help, know where to find it.13:57 We really are trying to break the stigma of going to counseling and how necessary it is, and really finding support and finding somebody to help you. 14:06 When you enter into marriage, you don't know what is going to happen. You have this crazy idea in your mind, but it's very rare that it actually comes true. You know, the fairytale Disney story is not reality.15:33 First, the first rule of being married is to communicate with each other. Right. You have to be open and honest and, you know  I think we've said it before, kind, compassionate, and curious.18:30 Within the structure of the family, I think it's really important, we call it the handoff when he comes home from work. I tell him, "this is what we have planned this week. This is what's going on. What are your plans? What are you thinking? What do you want to do?" And so then there's no miscommunication over what his plans were or what my plans were or what the kids are doing or, or anything like that. 18:56 I also prep my children for when he comes home. If I know there's been, you know, he's been gone for a long time or there's been a bad call, or there's been a line of duty death or something, something that I know is going to impact him, I sit my kids down before he comes home and say, "Hey, dad kind of had a rough week at work. Let's give him some grace." So we're constantly having those conversations in our home. 20:05 It can be, "Hey, we're going to set aside 30 minutes every night. When the kids go to bed and have a chat." We do it when he's not at work. We get our five minutes in...[if] we're not setting aside the time to communicate, we're not going to do it. Nobody wants to sit down and have tough conversations. It's just not a thing. As a human, I don't want to be uncomfortable. But it's necessary because that's where the growth happens.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation___Dr. Keita Joy, EdD, M.S., The Success Maximizer and Motivational Teacher offers a safe space for leaders, influencers, and athletes to maximize their greatest potential through powerful coaching experiences.Social Handles: @Thedrkeitajoy, @successuncensoredBook Link: Success Uncensored Book and the Success Uncensored PodcastMemorable Moments: 1:47 It's a journey. So I think once you understand that, then you can accept all the ebbs and the flows in the little bumpy parts of the ride and accept all of it as, it's this one big adventure.2:19 I think purpose first comes from the power of self-awareness and I realized that sometimes I was scared to get to know myself. Because I was scared of what I was going to find, cause I'm also going to find traumatic experiences. If I keep digging a little further, I may find some insecurities. But I realized not to shy away from it. Embrace all of it, because it all makes me who I am. 2:42 In regards to just purpose, it was really getting reflective, getting still, and then just [asking]: "What are my talents? What are my skills? What do I know? What do I enjoy doing? Who are the people in my life that I want to make the greatest impact in?" And that could be from a global standpoint, national standpoint, and even just right in my own house with my eight and 10 year old, you know? And then once you kind of merge it together, you're like, okay, well, what's the best capacity for me to be able to make a difference with everything that I possess for the people that I care about the most, and it sounds really simple, but that's like a whole life journey.5:04 You need that positive reinforcement in your life because that helps you to have a healthy self concept of yourself. So if you didn't receive that when you were younger, then you have to be intentional about creating a success circle around you that can help you to see who you are. Sometimes we need help to see who we are.5:24 I think one of the ways that I was able to learn more about myself and accept myself, was to also open myself up to safe people in my life. People that I can trust people who will tell me the truth. I don't need you to be a yes person either, but people that really truly love me and think the best of me and want the best for me.6:02 Therapy helped me so much to open my eyes to understanding who I am and a lot of the baggage that was a barrier into me seeing exactly just how amazing I am.9:14 [Don't] be afraid to discontinue some of those relationships that no longer serve you. I had to, in a sense, kind of cut a friend off cause they just didn't understand where I was going and I had to lay it out for them: "This is the capacity that I have. This is what I can offer. And if this is not enough, then I'm probably not the right person to be in your space."9:37 You know, so it's important for you to know what you need so that you're able to articulate that to any type of relationship that you're involved in. Not just intimate, but friendships, business relationships. I think clarity is so key in healthy relationships. 10:37 Something that I've noticed, I think we're having conversations about mental health, but people still don't raise their hand and say, "Hey, that's me. I'm that person."10:54 I think we kind of have to get out of that teaching mode and be more vulnerable with our experiences and share them with people around us. But I just think that balance, especially for high achieving women, we still act like we've got everything figured out. And I think when it comes to the area of depression, I still think that's something that's like a big silent killer.12:24 You need a lifeline and it's okay to grab a lifeline when you need it. 17:16 Here you are. You are still here. That is your proof that there is so much more purpose for you to fulfill just that simple truth of being alive. And so I always tell my clients, start from there, start from the beating heart. Your heart is beating. Start from the fact that you have breath in your lungs.17:47 Because the truth of the matter is, I don't have yesterday. I don't have tomorrow, but I know I have today.18:06 Oftentimes what I've noticed, people have ideas with what they want to do. So a lot of people don't really have a blank slate. People got ideas. They're just scared as hell. They're just scared to step out because they think they don't have the resources or people are going to tell them no, or they're not going to believe in them. 19:48 So that's what I've learned, to have healthy dialogue. And inside my mind, [I say] "fear I appreciate you. Thank you for warning me, but faith has got this. Courage has got this. Strategy has got this. Creativity has got this. But I appreciate you alerting me and letting me know we're doing something new."22:55 I truly believe in getting up early.  I love to pray before I get up in the morning. And I also liked to recite the things that I'm grateful for. So that helps me to set my intentions for the day.25:11 So I think a lot of self-love equals discipline and setting your intentions for the day. It takes discipline to do that.25:37  I don't want it if it doesn't bring me fulfillment. There's no price tag that I can swap for fulfillment. That's what I want. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw (LMFT) has become one of today's most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she works to make relational wellness mainstream and accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, supporting clinicians who are helping couples every day. Out on November 30, 2021, Elizabeth's debut book, I WANT THIS TO WORK, is a trustworthy, inclusive guide to navigating the most challenging relationship issues we face. Couples will learn to work with three challenges they must tackle to repair and strengthen their relationships: conflict, healing, and connection. Culturally inclusive, LGBTQIA+ friendly, and written for both married and unmarried couples, this book brings an accessible guide to healing relationships and creating enduring intimacy. For more information, please visit www.elizabethearnshaw.com. Elizabeth's social media handles are: @lizlistens and @abetterlifetherapy.Memorable Moments:3:02 The mental load is that work that we have to do that's not physical, but that keeps a life, a relationship, a family running. So anything from having to remember, having to delegate, having to pay attention to dynamics, you know, noticing how people are feeling, if they're getting along, if they're happy in a situation, those are all things that are in the mental load. 3:41 The problem becomes when only one person is shouldering that mental load and they didn't fully agree to do that. 4:30 One thing when I'm working with premarital couples that we talk about a lot is for them to explore this idea of mental load, because it often doesn't really feel problematic until there's a lot of layered responsibilities. 7:16 If you are suffocating under the mental load, you have to be willing to let your partner do it in their way, as long as it gets done. And that might mean that you come home and you cringe because the way that the person they chose to do landscaping didn't do it the right way. But you have to take a deep breath and recognize that the bigger picture is that you're getting a break. 8:55 So my job in this situation is to keep expressing that I'm frustrated, let my partner know that I'm really looking forward to the way that they're resolving this and all of that kind of stuff, but like allowing him to truly deal with it. Which is really hard, and when I work with couples, a lot of people will be like, “but it means that our house isn't going to look right.” And I'm like, “yes, I totally get that.” And it takes a period of time to readjust, to giving some of this up and seeing that most of the time, it truly does work out.9:52 Couples get themselves in really messy spots when they start getting into this, it's almost like a stubbornness, where they're saying, I'm not going to talk about it because they should. I'm not going to bring that up because they should know better. I'm not going to go to their parents house anymore because their parents shouldn't act that way. I'm not going to let my partner know that they bummed me out because they should already know that; who wouldn't know that?10:18 The second you start to get to that place, you get into a place that I call willfulness. Where you have put your feet in the ground, you're digging your heels in and you're saying, I'm just going to sit still here until you please me. The problem is, if your partner truly knew, if they did, most of the time they would do the right thing. So if, if they really did know about the mental load, most of the time they'll want to talk to you about it. If they do know, and they still don't care to do it, then that's actually really important information for you to hear. 12:02 And when we start thinking in the shoulds, what we do is we really block out communication and we also tend to then shame the other person. Because if you should know something or you should do something, then it means that you've made a mistake, right? Because you didn't do it or you didn't know it. 13:19 So difficult conversations are going to be everywhere during the holiday season. I think they always are, but especially now, because people have to decide what they're thinking about their health, what they feel comfortable with, what they feel disappointed by and adding that on to the layers of disappointment, discomfort, sadness, grief, all of that, that has already happened over the past year and some, right? So it's a lot. Something that is really, really important for people to be able to do when they're approaching a difficult conversation is to know how to enter it gently. And to enter it from a space where you want your partner to be your ally. You're not entering it immediately seeing them as the opposition.14:09 What happens with really tough conversations sometimes is that we feel so anxious. We feel so overwhelmed, so worried that we're not going to get what we need, that we already address the other person like they're our enemy. 14:49 So if we start from an offensive position, we can not expect the other person to be in a neutral position. But we often act really surprised when they're defensive.15:58 Let the other person talk first, because as soon as you let the other person talk, their defenses are down.17:51 It takes the ability to have other awareness and self-awareness to be gentle and firm. If you don't have both of those awarenesses, what happens is you are too far on one side or the other. 18:42 But when you're having a tough conversation with your partner, you want to try to stay in this place of: I still see you as a human being with feelings, with needs, with thoughts. I'm still curious about you. I want to understand where you're coming from. And, I see myself as a person with thoughts and needs. And I want you to be curious about me.21:04 Human beings are wired to connect with other people, but we're also really wired for aggression too. So we are nuanced, we like to fight people and we like to love people. Neither one is actually the more dominant trait, they're both there. 24:10 So in our everyday interactions, we want to increase the amount that we're turning towards, because what research has shown us is that when people are turning towards their relationships, and I think this is pretty obvious, tend to be happier. 24:56 In the big picture with our communities, we want to create connection, not isolation and distance. In our intimate partnerships, obviously you want connection. So you want to really look for the ways in which you can turn towards. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Elise Museles holds four certificates in holistic health and integrative healing. She is on the Environmental Working Group board of directors and has been a National Institutes of Health (NIH) grant recipient for five years in a row. A sought-after speaker, she is also host of the popular Once Upon a Food Story podcast. Her work has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Health, Self, ELLE, Well+Good, The Chalkboard, mindbodygreen, and other outlets. Elise's new book Food Story: Rewrite the Way You Eat, Think, and Live will be released on October 26th. https://elisemuseles.comhttps://www.instagram.com/kaleandchocolate/ https://www.facebook.com/kaleandchocolate/Memorable Moments: 2:49 Everyone has a food story. So your food story is a big swirl of many things. It's the way you were raised. It's the messages about food you received from your family and other influential people in your life. It's the advertisements that you absorbed from the media. It's your positive memories of food and your painful memories of food, and all of that comes together to create a story, which I call your food story, your beliefs about food and the words you say to yourself about food, either inside your own mind privately or out loud. 5:29 And the further I got into conversations and the more I got into looking at it as a story, the more that I could see that people could understand where some of their behaviors came from or their patterns. And it released a lot of that guilt and shame and blame even.7:22 If a listener is going back and finding a painful moment, and it could be from a parent or a caretaker who might've said something that stuck with them for a long time or had a behavior that you know, or made you clean your plate or whatever it might be, that we have to always remember that they were well-intentioned and doing what they knew. You know, like nobody wants to impart a negative or traumatic relationship with food. And so I want to make sure that there's not that like, you know, that we, we realize we can forgive and people, they had good intentions and didn't know better.9:13 Identifying what are some of the major themes will just get you started thinking about your food story. What was the culture like growing up? What was it like at your dinner table? What was your, for many people the mom plays a big role in their food story. So what was your mom's relationship with food and how did she talk about it? Or your dad or whoever your caregiver, your main, the main person in your life who, you know, cooked for you or provided for you. What did they talk about when it came to food and their bodies? What did you observe as a child? Because oftentimes that affects you. 15:38 So what happens when you're stressed, as you release more cortisol and then your digestion isn't as efficient, your metabolism slows down. It goes way back into you know that original flight or fight mode, and then you don't assimilate all your nutrients as well. In addition to that, I mean, how much pleasure could you possibly be getting from your food, which I think is an important part of the eating experience, when you're constantly thinking those thoughts?16:28 I realized, oh, just because I'm the poster child of kale, quinoa and superfood smoothies, I'm actually thinking thoughts that are like creating this [negative] response. So, you know, this stress is acting as an anti nutrient. So that's when I realized that, what I said at the beginning, what's in your mind is just as important as what's on your plate.18:46 Remember there's no such thing as good or bad foods. So that's why I'm saying it like that, but it doesn't matter what you're eating because when you're, whatever it is you're eating, you're choosing to eat that and that your body deserves the same respect. 19:15 I like to tell people is that, this is going to sound so ridiculously simple, but at the same time, it's so great that it's simple because you could do it right now, the next time you sit down to eat and that is to take three deep breaths before you eat. And that just automatically puts your body into more of a relaxed state. 20:26  I like to recite a mantra. There's a whole bunch of science behind how a mantra works, but it's just something to kind of, to bring you back into your body, you know, to, to have your head stop with the spiraling thoughts, you know? And so a mantra can be as simple as, “I'm nourishing my body.” It doesn't matter what you say. You can pick, keep it short though so you can say it over and over. 24:36 So if people are like, I don't even know what to eat? You know, I would say that you want to try to eat food as close to mother nature as possible. So the least amount of processing, the more whole it is, the better off you are. And so even just thinking about having all the colors represented throughout the day is a wonderful place to start and it's visually exciting too, you know, to be able to nourish your body. The more colors do eat, the more nutrients you're putting into your body.26:00 And also I'm going to add here not to vilify food groups because we need them all. I've been there before and cut out different food groups and that just doesn't work as well. That's not the way that our bodies were built.28:34 The thing about the food story, you're born into a food story and you pass on a food story and not to put any pressure on parents or people who are around, you know, extended family members, but it really is true.29:25  I also learned what doesn't matter. And I know that probably sounds really negative, but when you can filter out what doesn't matter, all the little things I used to stress about, all the material things that I thought I had to have, you know, all of those things that kind of weigh you down and cloud your life. This has been an opportunity for more clarity on that.  And so when I realized what doesn't matter, it created more space for what does matter. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Caroline Leaf is a communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist with a Masters and PhD in Communication Pathology and a BSc Logopaedics, specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health, and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input. During her years in clinical practice and her work with thousands of underprivileged teachers and students in her home country of South Africa and in the USA, she developed her theory (called the Geodesic Information Processing theory) of how we think, build memory, and learn, into tools and processes that have transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of individuals with Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy (CTE), learning disabilities (ADD, ADHD), autism, dementias and mental ill-health issues like anxiety and depression. She has helped hundreds of thousands of students and adults learn how to use their mind to detox and grow their brain to succeed in every area of their lives, including school, university, and the workplace.Dr. Leaf is also the bestselling author of Switch on Your Brain, Think Learn Succeed, Think and Eat Yourself Smart, and many more. She teaches at academic, medical and neuroscience conferences, churches, and to various audiences around the world. Dr. Leaf is also involved in the global ECHO movement, which trains physicians worldwide on the mind-brain-body connection, mental health and how to avoid physician burnout. Dr. Leaf is currently conducting clinical trials using the 5-step program she developed while in private practice to further demonstrate the effectiveness of mind-directed techniques to help relieve mental ill-health problems such as anxiety, depression and intrusive thoughts. The primary aim of these trials is to make mental health care more affordable, applicable, and accessible worldwide, and to reduce the stigma around mental health. @drcarolineleaf on all platforms (FB, IG, Twitter, Youtube) Memorable Moments: 3:48 The conversation is mind and brain are the same thing and people think it is, but they're worlds apart. The brain is not the mind. You are not your brain.  You are your mind and you use your brain and that's a very distinctive difference.5:27 Your mind, on a psychological level, can be understood as how you think, feel and choose. Those three go together. You can't think without feeling. You can't think and feel without choosing. 7:11 So in other words, it's agency. So this, you choosing is you with your wise mind having agency over your decisions, over how you think, how you feel and how you choose. And that agency is something that we need to be empowered to develop and understand. And if you don't understand this connection, you kind of just bamboozle through life, sometimes making a mess and sometimes fixing up the mess, and lot of times, staying in the mess. And the messier you are, the more extreme the state becomes. And then you end up with quite extreme mental health challenges, like severe depression and all the things that go along with that.9:04 So mind-brain-body is kind of all of this and we can actually, with our mind, look at our behaviors, look at our emotions and everything, look at the signals, become thought detectors and deconstruct down to this, and find this thought and all its memories and be constructed and reconstructed.10:15 The first thing is to accept that mess is inevitable and mess is okay. So that's the first thing: you're human, you're alive, you're a mess. And that's just part of it. And it's actually normal.10:37 In other words life, life is just circumstances and events that are not things that we can control. So the only thing we actually have agency over is our reactions to the uncertainties of life.11:41 We've got to stop beating ourselves up about being messy. It is so part of our psycho neurobiology. We are wired and designed, whatever you want to say, for mess.11:52 The messiness is part of this experimentation that our mind/brain/body's doing all the time. What we're meant to do is observe how we are doing it. We're meant to stand back and self-regulate, so there's self-regulation is the second part of the answer. The first part is that it's okay to be a mess...And the second part is self-regulation.14:02 You know, so it's become about this, there's something wrong with you at your core and you're not supposed to be a mess. Actually, that's completely wrong. You are supposed to be a mess. That's how you can grow, repair, and grow. You cannot grow if you cannot repair. And if you don't miss, you can't repeat. You have to miss, to repeat, to grow. And that's the philosophy that helps mental health. 24:51 But if your brain and body are not functioning well, if they physically, the material, the substance is not healthy, then that's going to impact how well your mind can actually use your brain and your body, because your mind uses your brain and your body. And so that's why nutrition is important. 26:05 Nutrition for your brain is important. If you're going to put a lot of processed chemicals in your brain, you are going to have a problem. 26:56 The nervous system in the gut is made from the same material as the brain, [they] come from the same fetal tissue. It has as many neurons. There are many neurons in the gut as there are in the spinal cord, and even a few more.27:38 Everything in your body is vulnerable to toxic thoughts, and to life, everything in your body's vulnerable to life. Therefore if you, cumulatively over time, are living a very unmanaged life, your body is weakening daily and increasing your vulnerability to disease. So over time, the vulnerability is there, so that's why mind management is an absolutely critical factor when it comes to day-to-day living. 28:56 So we see over time, stress that is not dealt with, toxic stress, in other words, stress that has an effect, stuff that's not dealt with, will put you into a chronic state of toxic stress and toxic stress manifests with all these signals32:57 We see that the brain and body are literally wired for love and where we regulate our mind. If you're operating in love, we actually drive a healthy regulation on our mind. And when you have a healthy, a person who's managing their mess in this love way, they become a human that's contributing to society in a healthy, loving way. And it's core to humanity. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____For the safety of our listeners, we want to note that the following episode may contain information that some may find triggering and/or may not be suitable for younger audiences. Listening discretion is advised.  Robb Kelly, PhD is a renowned addiction consultant who believes in treating the problem of addiction, not the symptoms. He has worked for many years helping addicts and alcoholics to recover their lives from the disease of addiction. Based on his own experiences working with addicts and alcoholics over the last 20 years, a PhD in Psychology from Oxford University and as a recovered alcoholic himself – he is a triple threat against the disease of addiction. Dr. Kelly was the CEO of a thriving telecommunications company when the walls came crashing down on him due to alcoholism. He ended up homeless and broken on the streets of Manchester, England until he found the courage to save himself.   He has lectured on the subject of addiction at many high-profile universities, national conferences, treatment facilities, public schools, churches, business organizations and hospitals, and is recognized as a leading authority on addiction recovery methods that are changing lives all around the world. Dr. Kelly is currently the CEO of the Robb Kelly Recovery Group, an addiction recovery coaching company he created based on extensive research and behaviour studies that he conducted over the last 20 years. Dr. Kelly's methods may seem unconventional leading some people to refer to him as "The Gordon Ramsay of the Addiction World" because of his direct, no-nonsense, and candid approach to treating addiction. Dr. Kelly works to "make the road of recovery less of a mystery tour."www.facebook.com/drrobbkellytwitter.com/RobbKellyGrouplinkedin.com/in/dr-robb-kelly-07718133https://www.instagram.com/robbkellyrecoverygroup/Memorable Moments: 7:12:  I want to say off the bat is alcohol has nothing to do or hardly nothing to do with alcoholism and the same with drugs. It's not the alcohol. It's actually a predisposition with alcoholics and of course the trauma. Everyone asks me what the gateway drug is Dr. Robb? I say trauma, forget about marijuana. It's trauma. We need to get back and look at trauma. 12:24: Anything less than nurturing, as a child, is child abuse. So think about that for a second, because we have to be careful what our children are exposed to, how they eat, how they act around others. 15:34: The understanding of all this brings us to the fact that you can fully recover from alcoholism and addiction. You just know, knowledge is the game here. It's all knowledge. The more you know about brain science, the more you recover from the disease and get on with your life.16:39: Most of the traumas we forget and we hide away. And we disassociate with that traumatic effect. But where it'll come out is in your relationships. 17:19: So if you're looking at your behavior [and] you have certain traits that you get to a certain point in self-sabotage, there's trauma behind that. 20:22: And I'm guaranteeing you, and I mean guarantee, that if you do this and readdress your trauma, and you go back to the scene of the crime and you clear all that up, you will have a life beyond your wildest dreams.20:49: Everybody has trauma. It's just like everybody knows somebody who's an alcoholic or addict. And if you don't, then it's probably you. This is what I tell people, because the disease and the thought pattern and the depression is rife, but nobody's talking about it.21:18: It's about bringing people out and actually acknowledging that if you tell people you have a problem and you've recovered from it, it gives other people hope.23:53: If you're in that position, if you don't think you're good enough, if you don't think you're going to amount to anything, I want to apologize to you. Because somebody's put that there. We are born with million dollar minds. Stop hanging around 10 cent minds, guys. You can do anything that you want to do. 24:24:  Life's for living guys. Don't think this is your lot. You know, if you're homeless or sat in a one bedroom apartment and you can't afford food, this isn't your lot. This is training. This is your training. So when you go on, because it's all about helping the next human being along.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is a clinical psychologist. She is the CEO and founder of the online divorce course and membership Afterglow: The Light at the Other Side of Divorce. Dr. Cohen is the CEO of the Center for CBT in NYC. Dr. Cohen's online course teaches women how to heal, grow and thrive after divorce no matter how difficult the process has been. Dr. Cohen received her PhD in clinical psychology from Boston University. She was the recipient of the prestigious American Psychological Foundation Research Award for her research on the emotional effects of 9/11. She has been featured on the Tamron Hall Show, the Wall Street Journal, NBC News, Women's Health, Huff Post, Thrive Global, Daily Beast and Good Housekeeping. Dr. Cohen is a weekly contributor to Psychology Today with her “Divorce Course” column. Dr. Cohen hosts the Divorce Doctor podcast where she interviews people about their divorce experiences. Dr. Cohen is the author of, Light at The Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You which debuted at #1 on Amazon in popular psychology.You can find Dr. Cohen at @thedivorcedoctor on Facebook. Memorable Moments: 2:46: One of the things that I really think impacts relationships most profoundly is communication. And before COVID, lots of people found ways to avoid communication with their partner. 7:15: Women have been taught if they do anything for themselves, that it's something selfish. You know, I talk about deciding that you want a divorce or accepting that the person you're with wants a divorce is the bravest move you can make, because you're essentially saying I'm going to accept the reality. 7:50: Not only is there no shame, there's bravery, there's a resilience and there's strength in saying when something isn't working for you anymore and that you need to continue to grow. And some marriages grow with you and some don't. 10:09: Also know that doubting yourself is part of making a really big decision. I'm sure it's the same with getting sober. You know, it's this feeling of not being...I think there's a sense of you're supposed to be happy or unhappy, you know? And a lot of what we do psychologically, I think what we get into so much trouble [with], is we try to create a narrative for ourselves, like what we're going to tell a friend, how we're going to tell our kids what our story's going to be. And life is not a narrative. Life is so much messier than that.17:12: If you're in recovery and going through a divorce, I mean, you just have to beef up your self-care. You know, I would say as if you were in the beginning, like, I would tell my clients 30 meetings in 30 days. This is no joke. This is a huge stressor. We know that recovery is challenged by stressors. Lean into the tools that work for you. Share about the divorce in the rooms. You know, don't hide.20:53: I really want to recommend that people get support from the people who can support them.22:31: In divorce, the ones that I like to use, really shift how we think about divorces as a whole. So my favorite one is, instead of thinking like “my marriage is over, I'm a failure” to think “my marriage came to its perfect completion. My partner and I got exactly what we needed from it. And now it's time to release it.” Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Gina Ryan is the host and head coach of the top 50 Mental Health show on Apple Podcast -The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. Gina also struggled with stress, anxiety, and panic for over 20 years. Before the internet, she was able to climb out of her fear and panic to peace, calm, and wellbeing by finding what did and what didn't work. She now teaches thousands of others how to do the same in a fraction of the time. After moving to Maui in 2005, Gina spent 12 years as a nutritionist/consultant for both the Intensive Outpatient Eating Disorder Center and the only Residential ED Facility in Hawaii sharing her compassion along with her knowledge and wisdom of the mind-body and spirit connection helping clients clear their food-related anxiety, obsessions, and compulsions. Gina is currently dedicated full-time to anxiety-clearing coaching, writing, and teaching clients around the world. She considers her work her calling and lives a mindful and compassionate life.Memorable Moments:8:08: Unless we can cultivate that [gratitude and meditation] in our relationship, that understanding that we are with our mind 24/7 and we have to build a relationship with it, not just keep pushing it away or not just keep adding things to it or being afraid of it. Because as we cultivate that, we begin to realize that we are not our thoughts. We have thoughts. 15:34: Exercise is so important and it gets left out a lot, when we're talking about mental health. A lot of times people just think it's about thinking, and again, we bring the body in. A healthy body is where a healthy mind can reside and we have to pay attention to ourselves as a whole.18:04: And we don't need to go into perfection with our food either. Doesn't need to go one way or the other, but we can begin to make friends with our eating and to take things out such as sugar.18:53: But when you are struggling with your nervous system being jacked up all day because of what you are thinking, the last thing you want to do is sip on something that releases those same stress hormones.22:32: It's not about the food, but it's not not about the food. 25:12: I think women were much more, at least in my experience, much more open to talking about it and getting help for it. So I think there's a lot of men out there not receiving the help that they need.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____For the safety of our listeners, we want to note that the following episode may contain information that some may find triggering and/or may not be suitable for younger audiences. Listening discretion is advised.  In this episode, we talk to Mike Veny about meditation, corporate wellness, transforming shame through self-care and the difference between self-care and escape activities. Mike Veny was determined to overcome a lifetime of serious mental health challenges to become a professional drummer and a Certified Corporate Wellness Specialist. He's the author of the best selling book, Transforming Stigma: How to Become a Mental Wellness Superhero. His expertise and life experience have been featured on ABC, NBC, and CBS news. As a 2017 PM360 ELITE Award Winner, our next guest was recognized as one of the 100 most influential people in the healthcare industry. In addition to the MikeVeny.com, his insightful writing is published in Corporate Wellness Magazine and on HealthCentral.com. His captivating presentations are popular with companies, including Microsoft, CVS Health, T-Mobile, Heineken, Salesforce and The Wounded Warrior Project. Between delivering a TEDx talk, maintaining a lively YouTube channel and teaching continuing education courses, you can feel confident knowing that you will have an enjoyable experience in this presentation.In his spare time, he enjoys weight training, meditating for 20 minutes twice a day, and eating a good bone-in ribeye steak cooked medium-rare. He lives in New York City and is ADDICTED to buying luggage, along with watching YouTube videos on how to pack a suitcase. His packing checklist for business trips is one of his most prized possessions. You can find Mike at @mikeveny on every channel. Interview With My Depression - Mike VenyMemorable Moments: 7:29: When we talk about the stigma, as we do with mental health, it's actually a three part process.You transform shame through self care. When you take care of yourself, for some oddball reason, you start to feel better about yourself. You transform silence through conversation. You transform the sabotage social injustice, self destructive behavior, and suicide through connecting with others at a deeper level, which is something we are so lacking in this world.14:20: When we think about our businesses, we think about being productive and profitable and there's so many studies that show in a mentally healthy work environment, the company is more productive and profitable. So addressing it is a win for everyone.15:43: And that's what I have been seeing when I've been speaking in workplaces, is that people are slowly starting to embrace that we can't put it [mental wellness] into a box. We can't just get some breathing exercises and you're going to be okay. It's dirty. It's messy, but it's also beautiful and there's gold on the other side.16:29: If you made that courageous step of getting help, first of all, it's important to realize that it's a process to find the right treatment for yourself.18:38: We confuse escape activities and self-care. There's nothing wrong with escape activities, but it's important to distinguish the two. And when you do, you start getting on the road to a mentally healthier life. 24:01: When you participate in art activity, whether it's drawing, painting or anything, you get to have a conversation with yourself. That's all art is, a conversation with yourself and it allows you to express things that maybe you can't express in words. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____For the safety of our listeners, we want to note that the following episode may contain information that some may find triggering and/or may not be suitable for younger audiences. Listening discretion is advised. Lisa is a recognized expert in the strengths-based, de-pathologized treatment of trauma and has been in private practice for over 36 years. She presents workshops and keynote addresses nationally and internationally and is a clinical consultant to practitioners and mental health agencies in the United States, Canada, the UK and Ireland. She has been an Adjunct Faculty member at several Universities, and is the Founder of “The Ferentz Institute,” now in its fourteenth year of providing continuing education to mental health professionals Lisa also hosted a weekly radio talk show, writes blogs and articles for websites on trauma, attachment, self-harm and self-care, teaches on many webinars, and is a contributor to Psychologytoday.com. You can follow Lisa's work on her website, theferentzinstitute.com, Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter.Lisa is the author of “Treating Self-Destructive Behaviors in Trauma Survivors: A Clinician's Guide,” now in its second edition, “Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors: A Workbook of Hope and Healing,” and “Finding Your Ruby Slippers: Transformative Life Lessons From the Therapist's Couch.”  In 2009 voted the “Social Worker of Year” by the Maryland Society for Clinical Social Work.  Memorable Moments: 4:12: I realized how inspiring traumatized clients actually are because of their resiliency and their refusal to give up and the creative coping strategies that they actually tap into in order to navigate their challenges and their suffering. They have been the teachers of my heart for all these years.5:08: It [trauma] is unbelievably prevalent. If you look at the research, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 men by the time they're 18 have experienced some form of sexual trauma. We know millions of people walk around having lived in families where there perhaps was addiction or mental illness,   physical violence, witnessing domestic violence, neglect. Unfortunately, it touches millions of people.6:52: Anything that is subjectively experienced as threatening; anything that subjectively leaves you feeling like your privacy, your boundaries, your body in some way are being violated; anything that feels to you subjectively like a profound a breach of trust, that's in part how we would define what traumatizes a person.8:12: It's very common for people to not connect the dots between past experiences and the current symptoms or struggles that have manifested for them.9:01: Unfortunately, there are many many ways that people can creatively self-medicate.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____For the safety of our listeners, we want to note that the following episode may contain information that some may find triggering and/or may not be suitable for younger audiences. Listening discretion is advised. Amber Anderson is a Southern Region Prevention Specialist with Prevent Child Abuse Illinois. She is a seasoned foster/adoptive parent who loves researching and learning more about trauma, Adverse Childhood Experiences, and Positive Childhood Experiences. She is a strong believer in helping children and meeting them where they are at to get them the help and services they need. She is an avid camper and lover of the outdoors and works hard to pass that love on to the kiddos in her care. She's married with one biological child, two children adopted from foster care, and currently one foster child. For more information please visit, preventchildabuseillinois.org.Memorable Moments: 8:44: One of the coping skills that we teach our kiddos, when we see them maybe getting too hyper or maybe emotions are coming out...we take them out to the tree. They can beat up the tree, they can run around the tree, they can yell at the tree, whatever it is that they need to do. And that's one of my favorite coping skills that I see with my kiddos because it gives them a place where, maybe they're not ready to talk to an adult or they're not ready to talk to someone about what they've been through but they know that tree isn't going to tell someone else.9:56: One [coping skill] we use a lot is a positive outlook. Higher ACE scores tend to have very negative outlooks on life. On the way to daycare, my husband will have the kids say “good morning, it's a beautiful day”. They started saying that to the cows, to trees, whatever they see on the way to daycare.14:04: Like I said, it takes one caring adult to make all the difference. That could be a teacher that's just willing to say “hey, let me help you on that homework.” You don't know what's going on in these kiddos' households, so having just somebody that's willing to step up and say “hey, I got you. Let me help you with this.” 15:34: There are so many different resources out there right now. “Self care” is such a buzz word right now. We're coming out of a pandemic, we've all been trapped in our houses with 4 kids and trying not to lose our minds and trying to work from home, we've all got stuff going on. We tried Frozen-themed yoga. It's laugh therapy mixed in with yoga and it's fantastic. Just finding something that you like to do. That's what works for us.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____What do top organisations-- the Institute Of Directors (London), Mother digital agency and London Business School-- have in common? DrP. Dr Perpetua Neo (DClinPsy, UCL; MPhil, Cambridge) coaches Type A+++ overachievers with demanding lives to be in-control of their heads, time and relationships, so they perform and lead at their best always. And, they sleep like a cat.  DrP tailors strategies to her clients' personalities and lifestyles, building lasting systems and structures, so they achieve multiple personal and professional goals. She specialises in The Big 3 we mistakenly tolerate— high-functioning anxiety, toxic relationships and panic attacks— blending cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology and ancient wisdom.  DrP is an insider expert on Forbes, Business Insider and Vogue; consults for media campaigns; and writes for The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen and Thrive Global. Her work is in 37 languages. She advises on Stanford Business School's Neurodiversity Project, and is the University of Cambridge's 50 Women in 50 Years. She is also MindBodyGreen's 20 cutting-edge mental health leaders alongside Drs Deepak Chopra and Daniel Amen. DrP works in English and Mandarin-Chinese across 6 continents. She flies globally or works via Facetime/Skype, for 1-1 work, workshops and speaking gigs. Websites:https://www.mindbodygreen.com/wc/dr-perpetua-neo/page/1www.perpetuaneo.comMemorable Moments: 5:30: It's really important to figure out what stands in the way [of what we want].6:15: A lot of times, our mindsets are actually stored in our body; they're linked to an emotion or they're linked to trauma.6:52: Trauma is actually a lot more common than we think.8:36: "No" isn't always a no forever. No can also mean "how do we make this work for both of us?"16:50: When we get stuck in our heads, it's a tornado. During these times we make the worst decisions...we get stuck in tactical hell.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Brooke Stuart is the founder and active president of Let Go & Grow® International and a holistic doctor in private practice, where she specializes in taking a holistic approach to mental health and high performance- assisting her patients in unlocking their own, intrinsic power to heal. Over the past twelve years, Dr. Stuart has worked with thousands of people through her online platform, speaking engagements, and one on one in private practice. Holding degrees in medical anthropology, psychology, and integrative medicine, Dr. Stuart uses a unique combination of holistic counseling and functional medicine to personalize and tailor treatments for her patients, locally, in Orlando, FL, and virtually, around the world. As a physician, she is deeply committed to her patient's personal growth and development as she uses solution-oriented methods to clear issues, create health, and assist them in realizing and actualizing their true potential. Follow Dr. Stuart at @drbrookestuart & @letgoandgrow. Websites: drbrookestuart.com & letgoandgrow.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/drbrookestuart LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-brooke-stuart-6aa61446/Memorable Moments: 3:10: We want to shift our mindset, diet, and lifestyle into a healing mode.8:30: As a society, we've decided to blame our genes, look for a quick fix and paint the plant green rather than putting in the work to change the landscape.11:39: Just taking a breath of fresh air, being outside, going on a walk can change your entire state, uplift your mood, get everything processed and flowing.12:15: If we place ourselves first if we build ourselves up, we have so much more to give to everyone and we can actually have more capacity to receive as well.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Laura Gallaher is an Organizational Psychologist, Speaker, Author and Leadership Coach.  She began her career at NASA Kennedy Space Center. After the Space Shuttle Columbia exploded upon re-entry in 2003, killing everybody aboard, Kennedy Space Center hired Laura and a team of organizational psychologists to change the cultural influences that were deemed to play a role in the tragedy. She worked for 8 years with NASA to positively influence culture, develop leadership capacity, and improve organizational performance at Kennedy Space Center. Laura's company, Gallaher Edge, applies the science of human behavior to organizations so they can get their edge, achieve together, and enjoy the journey. Follow Dr. Gallaher at @drlauragallaher (twitter and IG) and @gallaheredge (IG). Memorable Moments: 6:40: The more I can be okay with my own imperfections, the more effective I end up being. 18:35: You're never responding to the world around you, you're only responding to the story you're telling yourself about what it means. 19:57: Becoming more self-aware by surfacing the story inside your head is really powerful because you can really check the story you're telling yourself and explore where that's coming from. 27:00: The more I'd ask my inner critic, "Is there anything else you'd like me to know?", she started to change her tone. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Minaa B. is a writer, wellness coach, and licensed therapist based in NYC. Through speaking and workshop engagements, she teaches people how to cultivate self-care through the lens of boundaries and community care. You can learn more about Minaa by visiting www.minaab.com and following her on Instagram (@minaa_b).Memorable Moments: 12:16: Boundaries are about recognizing that we can't be everything to everyone. It's about realizing that we all live in this house and if we don't put up some sort of fence, then we're allowing people to just walk all over our property with no safeguard, with no rules in place. We have to identify how we want to interact. We all have our own value systems and own beliefs. 18:46: We first have to do the work of really sitting with ourselves and doing the healing, because remember what happened to you is not your fault, but you are responsible for your healing.22:07:  Experience is always your greatest teacher, but you have to be willing to look at the experience and say "What do want to take away from this? What do I want to change moving forward?"Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Amy Morin, LCSW is a psychotherapist and the editor-in-chief of Verywell Mind. She's the host of The Verywell Mind Podcast and an international bestselling author of 4 books on mental strength. Memorable Moments: 4:57: Mental strength is all about the way you think, the way you feel, and the way you behave...It's not just I need this because I'm going to go through tragedy someday, it's about saying how do I reach my greatest potential?5:49: Mentally strong people don't feel sorry for themselves. Self-pity is different from sadness. Sadness is healing - that part of the process is really good for us. Sometimes, allowing us to be sad helps us honor something that we lost. The best antidote to self-pity is gratitude. If you start doing that in life, it trains your brain to focus on the good.7:58: Don't give away your power. I'm in charge of how I think, how I feel, how I behave. Switching that language makes a huge difference. It's a powerful shift to change the dynamic of the day.  Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter. 

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Introducing Dear Mind, You Matter, a new podcast from Advanced Recovery Systems. Our mission is to put addiction and mental health resources into the hands of as many people as possible so that everyone is empowered to take good care of their own mental health. Join hosts Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips as they interview mental health experts, specialists, and influencers to help uncover tips, advice, and other resources on the most pressing mental health topics today.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you're interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.