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Jamie Anderson said, “Grief is just love with no place to go.” Today we hear from three experts on grief in their chosen fields and discuss how it applies to the witchcraft community. Lulu- @thesalemplantwitch on TT. Runs a therapeutic group for witches in berevement. Mortellus @acrowandthedead on Insta. Author of 'Do I Have to Wear Black? Rituals, Customs and Funerary Etiquette for Modern Pagans' and 'The Bones Fall In a Spiral: a Necromantic Primer.' Courtney Weber @courtneyaweber on Insta. One of the hosts of That Witch Life podcast; author of the forthcoming 'Sacred Tears: A Witch's Guide to Grief.' Out June 2024. Books mentioned in this episode include: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine and Mark Nepo Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them): A Practical Perspective on Death and Dying by Sallie Tisdale The Worm at the Core: On the Role of Death in Life by Sheldon Solomon, Jeff Greenberg, et al. There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love by Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell For children dealing with grief: Death Is Stupid (Ordinary Terrible Things) by Anastasia Higginbotham --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackthorngrove/support
This episode is a tender exploration of how journaling can be a powerful tool in processing grief. Jenny guides you through practical ways to use journaling to express emotions, capture memories, and feel connected to lost loved ones. She offers poignant journal prompts to help navigate the complex emotions of grief and provides actionable steps to start your own grief journaling journey. Whether you're struggling with loss or know someone who is, this episode offers a compassionate perspective on how to find solace through the written word. Don't miss these insights on turning journaling into a healing practice. Subscribe to Journal with Jenny for more episodes like this, leave a five-star review if you find comfort in our conversations, and please, share this episode with friends who might be walking this path of grief alongside you. Curated List of Inspirational Books and Podcasts on Grief Journaling Admittedly, I haven't listened to or read all of these, but I wanted to start a list and share it with all of you. If you have more ideas I should add to this, please let me know! Inspirational Books on Grief Journaling and Coping with Loss The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion An intensely personal narrative of grief, exploring the year following the death of the author's husband. Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman Offers daily meditations that provide comfort and wisdom for those navigating through the stages of grief. It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine This book challenges common narratives about grief and offers a compassionate approach to healing. Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief by Joanne Cacciatore Focusing on the transformative power of grief, this book guides readers through the journey of mourning and healing. Grief Day By Day: Simple Practices and Daily Guidance for Living with Loss by Jan Warner A practical guide offering daily reflections and exercises to help navigate the rough waters of grief. Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death, and Surviving by Julia Samuel The author shares stories from her grief counseling practice, offering insights into how people can find their path through sorrow. Journaling Through: Unleashing the Power of the Pen in Grief Recovery by Sandy Peckinpah This book specifically focuses on how journaling can aid in the grieving process, with prompts and exercises. Podcasts on Grief, Loss, and Healing Terrible, Thanks for Asking hosted by Nora McInerny A podcast that talks honestly about pain, awkwardness, and humanness of loss and grief. Griefcast hosted by Cariad Lloyd Comedians share their experiences with grief, offering a mix of humor and poignancy. What's Your Grief Podcast hosted by Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams Provides a candid look at grief, with discussions about the realities and complexities of grieving. Coming Back: Conversations on Life After Loss hosted by Shelby Forsythia This podcast explores the journey of coming back from grief and offers tips and stories to help listeners. The Mindfulness & Grief Podcast hosted by Heather Stang Focuses on using mindfulness practices to cope with grief and find moments of peace and healing. Good Grief hosted by Sam Lamott Explores personal stories of grief and loss, shedding light on the universal experience of grieving. Let's connect! Come journal with me! Website: https://www.jennifertroester.com Instagram: @jennifertroesterwrites https://www.instagram.com/jennifertroesterwrites/ Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/jennifertroesterwrites/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jennifertroesterwrites Pinterst: https://www.pinterest.com/jtroesterwrites/ X: https://twitter.com/JournalHealGrow
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Losing a child isn't something any of us want to think about... However for some of us, we know that we don't have the luxury of putting off planning the logistics around the end of our child's life. But where do you even start? In today's episode, bereaved mother Leah Deason, pediatric hospice nurse Gina Thuene, and Tiffany Goodchild, a mother who has dealt with hospice care, share their experiences with us to offer a guide for parents who may find themselves preparing for the loss of their child. We talk about the hospice system, decisions that you can make ahead of time to make the end of your child's life smoother and more peaceful, and what the process of losing a child can look like. TW: This episode will discuss child loss and the logistics of planning for such an event in gentle but frank terms. If this topic is triggering for you, consider saving it to come back to or listening in smaller segments to give you time to digest this heavy material. Links: Listen to Ep 130 on Anticipatory Grief. Visit the website for Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep (end of life photography). Look at @adventuresofamelieandbros stories for information on her diamond ring made from ashes of daughter. Check out Leah's hospice memory making Amazon list. Follow Leah on Instagram @becauseofozzie! Follow Tiffany on Instagram @lifewithkourageouskarter! Follow us on Instagram @the_rare_life! Donate to the podcast or Contact me about sponsoring an episode. Fill out our contact form to get a reminder about upcoming discussion meetings and the Skype link to join! Follow the Facebook page. Join the Facebook group Parents of Children with Rare Conditions. Access the transcript on the website here. If you love this podcast, please leave us a rating or review in your favorite podcast app! And finally, here is Leah's list of books that helped her through the child loss process: Holding On to Hope: A Pathway through Suffering to the Heart of God Hearing Jesus Speak into Your Sorrow It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief Even in Darkness: A Guided Grief Journal and Daily Devotional to Uncover Raw Authenticity During Grief, Loss and Depression You Are the Mother of All Mothers - A Message of Hope for the Grieving Heart Born to Shine: Practical Tools to Help You SHINE, Even in Life's Darkest Moments I Am Here: The Journey from Fear to Freedom Hope in the Dark: Believing God Is Good When Life Is Not Gentle Willow: a story for children about dying (their own death or others) by Joyce C. Mills, PhD Little Tree: A Story for Children with Serious Medical Illness
Season 3 Episode 2- Difficult Conversation Series: Grief Part 2- Featuring Amanda Patrick, Founder/Owner of Scottsville Counseling Center, Marriage & Family Therapist Associate and Holistic Life Coach shares insight about grief. Amanda helps us understand the process and why it's so important. Episode Notes Bio: With a heart as wide as the world, and lived experience in the transformative power of therapy and coaching, Amanda's passion is deeply rooted in helping others find tools to build their healthiest selves. With an interest in integrative mental health counseling and holistic life coaching, Amanda returned to south central KY to establish a boutique private practice offering curated services to support the mind, body, and spirit...whether through counseling and/or wellness services, such as yoga, meditation, Reiki, and massage therapy. Amanda also offers holistic life coaching. When not working, Amanda can be found soaking up nature, listening to music, or further spoiling her two awesome cats, Hemingway and Gus. Episode Resources: Facebook: Scottsville Counseling Center Instagram: @scottsvillecounselingcenter Website: https://www.amandapatrickmft.com/, http://www.sccwellnessstudio.com/ Podcast: The Smalltown Therapist Books: Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brene Brown: https://a.co/d/4K9eA92 The Hero's Journey: Joseph Campbell: https://a.co/d/eZm8ts0 It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine : https://a.co/d/3DRK10o Show Resources: Get a taste of the Realign Patreon After Show by visiting pateron.com/realignvoicestudio. The after-show is where my guests share a little extra wisdom and things get silly. See you there!! Instagram: @realignlvoicestudio Facebook: realignvoicestudio Patreon: realignvoicestudio Website: realignvoicestudio.com Podcast Music: Brooke Galloway Podcast Sponsors: Christopher, Angela Jones-Coe, Martha Pratt, Scott McNeil, Sheryl Polk, Rebecca Loebe, Liz DeLuccia, Theresa Jean Kibby, Jade Ellis, Katie Volk, Tali Freed, Dan Tappan, Mandy Hieatt
Guest Info/Bio:This week I talk with New York Times best-selling author, Amy Bloom. Amy just released a deeply personal memoir about her journey with her husband after it was discovered he had Alzheimers and made the decision to end life on his own terms. Grief comes in many forms and those who have had loved ones with incurable diseases that slowly rob you of your loved one is one of them. Amy Bloom is the author of four novels: White Houses, Lucky Us, Away, and Love Invents Us; and three collections of short stories: Where the God Of Love Hangs Out, Come to Me (finalist for the National Book Award), and A Blind Man Can See How Much I Love You (finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award). Her first book of nonfiction, Normal: Transsexual CEOs, Crossdressing Cops and Hermaphrodites with Attitudes, is a staple of university sociology and biology courses. Her most recent book is the widely acclaimed NY Times bestselling memoir, In Love. She has written for magazines such as The New Yorker, The New York Times Magazine, Vogue, Elle, The Atlantic Monthly, Slate, and Salon, and her work has been translated into fifteen languages. She is the Director of the Shapiro Center at Wesleyan University.Guest (selected) Publications: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand” Guest Website/Social Media: www.amybloom.com Facebook: @amybloombooks Twitter: @amybloombooks Theme Music by: Forrest Clay found on the EP, Recover.You can find Forrest Clay's music on iTunes, Apple Music, Spotify, YouTube, or anywhere good music is found!This episode of the Deconstructionists Podcast was edited, mixed, and produced by John Williamson Stay on top of all of the latest at www.thedeconstructionists.com Go there to check out our blog, snag a t-shirt, or follow us on social mediaJoin our Patreon family here: www.patreon.com/deconstructionists Website by Ryan BattlesAll photos by Jared HevronLogos designed by Joseph Ernst & Stephen PfluigT-shirt designs by Joseph Ernst, Chad Flannigan, Colin Rigsby, and Jason Turner. Starting your own podcast? Try Riverside! https://riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_1&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=john-williamsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code deconstruct50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-deconstructionists/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
When faced with the enormity of grief and loss, not only do most people not know how to navigate it, they do so with little support. But in the sharing of our stories and the wisdom gained we find community and help. This roundtable of women have all experienced deep loss. Arlia Hoffman hosts these four professionals from finance, health and wellness, coaching and consulting to reflect on their own grief, the impact on their lives, the presence or lack of support, and how they now support others going through similar experiences. Our prayer is that it helps you feel less alone and find support for your healing. Resource Notes: Rachel mentioned the non-profit Love Not Lost as a resource. Arlia also mentioned the book, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand, by Megan Devine. Our roundtable guests: Amy Getz, IRC Wealth Amy Getz believes wealth and financial freedom are for everyone. She is a financial advisor with www.ircwealth.com, an SEC-registered boutique investment firm, a CPA, and a CDFA® (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst). Amy is on a mission to educate individuals about their finances and empower them to set big goals for their financial future. Letting go of limiting beliefs around money and facing the real numbers allows people to quiet the stress loop in their minds and elevate everyone around them. Wealth in the hands of good people changes the world. When she's not working, Amy loves to travel with her family, connect with friends or read a good book. Amy's website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram Rachel Donnelly, Black Dress Consultants After many experiences with loss, including the death of her parents, Rachel founded Black Dress Consultants, a consulting firm that offloads the administrative tasks that come with legacy planning and after loss, so clients can focus less on the logistics and more on creating space to live worryfree and grieve peacefully. Rachel is the co-founder of Professionals of After Loss Services (PALS), which is a training and support network for industry professionals who provide services to individuals and families after the loss of a loved one. Prior to starting Black Dress Consultants, Rachel had a career in higher education fundraising, working for institutions such as Agnes Scott College, Emory University and Georgia Institute of Technology. Rachel is a graduate of Agnes Scott College and serves on the Board of Directors on Love Not Lost, an Atlanta non-profit that provides grief tools and free photography sessions for families facing terminal diagnoses. She now lives in Atlanta with her husband Zack and their two amazing children. Rachel's website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram Susan Palace, Susan Palace Wellness Susan Palace is a health coach specializing in helping women reach their “happy weight” and enjoy a fulfilling relationship with food, their bodies and themselves. As a pioneer in mind/body wellness, she blends ancient wisdom with modern science to create simple practices and an uplifting approach to serve those who struggle with excess weight, low energy, and chronic stress. Overcoming her own challenges, she encourages women to embrace their obstacles as the way to grow personally and professionally. Susan received her BBA and MBA from the University of Texas at Austin and worked in the healthcare field for 10 years before founding her business, Susan Palace Wellness. She is a certified Integrative Yoga Therapist and received her Health Coach Certification from The McDonald Center for Obesity Prevention and Education (COPE) at Villanova University College of Nursing. Susan has numerous trainings and certifications in meditation, yoga, and nutrition and almost 30 years of experience in mind/body health. Susan's website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram Jinnie Lee Schmid, Change Navigators, LLC Jinnie's credentials include Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist from The Grief Recovery Institute (griefrecoverymethod.com) since 2014 Certified End-of-Life Coach from CoachingAtEndOfLife.com since 2016 Professional Certified Coach from International Coach Federation (ICF) since 2017 Her practice focuses on providing grief recovery coaching to high-achieving, high-performing women - owners, entrepreneurs, leaders in business, community, home - women who are used to getting LOTS of things done and making a big impact, and who are struggling with reduced performance (as well as happiness and satisfaction) due to a loss that has left them heartbroken. She teaches them to use The Grief Recovery Method (TGRM) to get really clear about the loss - what happened, how it impacted them - and then help them release those emotions and get any undelivered communications off their chest. This brings incredible lightness of being by releasing the heaviness they've been carrying in their hearts, minds, and bodies since the loss - whether it occurred a week ago, a few months, or many years ago. Her program is unique in that she focuses on making sure her clients really master TGRM by the time their engagement ends, so they both know it is now a part of their "life skills / resilience toolkit" and something they will continue to use over and over to heal themselves of future hurts, disappointments, change and loss. They will complete 3 losses during their engagement with Jinnie and be equipped to continue using it for the rest of their life. Jinnie's website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram The Women's Sanctuary Podcast is hosted by Arlia Hoffman and produced by The Women's Agency. The Women's Sanctuary provides counseling, sacred practice and community for women. Visit thewomenssanctuary.com for more information and all podcast episodes. Arlia Hoffman, The Women's Sanctuary and The Women's Agency Arlia Hoffman is founder of The Women's Agency. She is a podcast coach and producer, and an advocate for women in podcasting. After leaving the corporate world and having a spiritual awakening before the age of 40, Arlia created her own media company working in photography, social media and website design. After earning a Master's in Depth Psychology, she began coaching women and working in leadership development. Women seek her counsel to navigate the portals of change in their lives and to reclaim their power. Since 2020, Arlia has been a busy podcast producer and host of her own podcast, “The Women's Sanctuary.”. She recently founded The Women's Agency, a full-service coaching and production company designed to empower women's voices. Arlia has found her true passion combining her expertise as a podcast producer and her love for helping women step into their full selves. Arlia's website | LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram
We're on break, creating all new episodes for season 3. In the meantime, here's one of our favorite episodes from the past year. See you soon. If you've lived through horrific trauma or abuse, is it really fair of us to say that the ways you've learned to cope are “bad,” or to use clinical speak, “maladaptive”? This week on Here After, Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, joins me to talk about complex PTSD and the ways we pathologize human responses to trauma. You'll also hear how claiming your own messy, complex coping mechanisms can help you build a community that sees you and loves you. If you're haunted by any type of trauma, or know someone who is, this conversation is a great introduction to complex PTSD, and the work of survivorship. In this episode we cover: Why pretending to be a high-performing badass is maybe not in your best interest How storytelling can make you feel less freakish and alone The real problem with most books on trauma and C-PTSD Click here for the episode webpage. Notable quotes: “People are like, oh, you're so brave to have shared your story. And I was like, I burned down my whole life. There was nothing to lose anymore, so there was nothing to be brave about.” - Stephanie Foo About our guest: Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City with her husband. Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Find her at stephaniefoo.me and follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link Additional resources It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook) For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle) Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you. Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? Visit megandevine.co to get in touch. For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. All the info at this link. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Guest Info/Bio: Welcome back for part 2 of my conversation with Megan Devine in our series on grief and loss. Psychotherapist Megan Devine believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. She advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss – personally, professionally, and as a wider community.Megan is the author of the best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand, and her guided grief journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. Her animated “how to help a grieving friend” video distills a complex issue into simple, actionable steps in just over three (adorable) minutes. Gaining over 50 million views in its first few months, the animation is now used in training programs all around the world.Megan's work has been translated into 15 languages, and is featured widely in the media, including the New York Times, Marketplace, The Atlantic, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review, and Bitch magazine. She's a sought after expert when grief erupts in the public sphere. Her latest collaborative project, the PBS documentary Speaking Grief, is out now. Guest (selected) Publications: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand” Guest Website/Social Media: www.refugeingrief.com Facebook: @refugeingrief Twitter: @refugeingrief Instagram: @refugeingrief Theme Music by: Forrest Clay “Does God & Recover” found on the EP, Recover.You can find Forrest Clay's music on iTunes, Apple Music, Spotify, YouTube, or anywhere good music is found!This episode of the Deconstructionists Podcast was edited, mixed, and produced by John Williamson Stay on top of all of the latest at www.thedeconstructionists.com Go there to check out our blog, snag a t-shirt, or follow us on social mediaJoin our Patreon family here: www.patreon.com/deconstructionists Website by Ryan BattlesAll photos by Jared HevronLogos designed by Joseph Ernst & Stephen PfluigT-shirt designs by Joseph Ernst, Chad Flannigan, Colin Rigsby, and Jason Turner. Starting your own podcast? Try Riverside! https://riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_1&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=john-williamsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code deconstruct50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-deconstructionists/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Guest Info/Bio:Welcome to 2023! We're back! To kick off the year I welcome the amazing Megan Divine to kick off our series on grief and loss. Psychotherapist Megan Devine believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. She advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss – personally, professionally, and as a wider community.Megan is the author of the best-selling book, It's OK that You're Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand, and her guided grief journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. Her animated “how to help a grieving friend” video distills a complex issue into simple, actionable steps in just over three (adorable) minutes. Gaining over 50 million views in its first few months, the animation is now used in training programs all around the world.Megan's work has been translated into 15 languages, and is featured widely in the media, including the New York Times, Marketplace, The Atlantic, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review, and Bitch magazine. She's a sought after expert when grief erupts in the public sphere. Her latest collaborative project, the PBS documentary Speaking Grief, is out now. Guest (selected) Publications: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand” Guest Website/Social Media: www.refugeingrief.com Facebook: @refugeingrief Twitter: @refugeingrief Instagram: @refugeingrief Theme Music by: Forrest Clay “Does God & Recover” found on the EP, Recover.You can find Forrest Clay's music on iTunes, Apple Music, Spotify, YouTube, or anywhere good music is found!This episode of the Deconstructionists Podcast was edited, mixed, and produced by John Williamson Stay on top of all of the latest at www.thedeconstructionists.com Go there to check out our blog, snag a t-shirt, or follow us on social mediaJoin our Patreon family here: www.patreon.com/deconstructionists Website by Ryan BattlesAll photos by Jared HevronLogos designed by Joseph Ernst & Stephen PfluigT-shirt designs by Joseph Ernst, Chad Flannigan, Colin Rigsby, and Jason Turner. Starting your own podcast? Try Riverside! https://riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_1&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=john-williamsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code deconstruct50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-deconstructionists/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Grief is a part of all life, we cannot escape it. Communicating to people we love in their grief is challenging. We want our words to bring comfort, we need to get comfortable being uncomfortable and show up with love and words that connect or maybe silence is the answer. Listen for ideas of what to say and what not to in these uncomfortable moments. Episode Quotes and Links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "Grief is not a medical disorder to be cured. Grief is not spiritual crisis to be resolved. Grief is not a social woe to be addressed. Grief is, simply, a matter of the heart — to be felt.” “When we love deeply, we mourn deeply; extraordinary grief is an expression of extraordinary love. Grief and love mirror each other; one is not possible without the other.” “Others may tell us that it's time to “move on” or that this is “part of some bigger plan” — because our shattering makes them feel uneasy, vulnerable, at risk. Some may avoid us, others pity us. But this grief is ours. We have earned this grief, paying for it with love and steadfast devotion. We own this pain, even on days when we wish it weren't so. We needn't give it away or allow anything, or anyone, to pilfer it.” Joanne Cacciatore, Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief “We need to talk about the hierarchy of grief. You hear it all the time—no grief is worse than any other. I don't think that's one bit true. There is a hierarchy of grief. Divorce is not the same as the death of a partner. Death of a grandparent is not the same as the death of a child. Losing your job is not the same as losing a limb. Here's the thing: every loss is valid. And every loss is not the same. You can't flatten the landscape of grief and say that everything is equal. It isn't.” “There are losses that rearrange the world. Deaths that change the way you see everything, grief that tears everything down. Pain that transports you to an entirely different universe, even while everyone else thinks nothing has really changed.” “The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can't be cheered out of. You don't need solutions. You don't need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.” “There is not a reason for everything. Not every loss can be transformed into something useful. Things happen that do not have a silver lining.” Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand “Grief is a heart-wrenchingly painful problem for the brain to solve, and grieving necessitates learning to live in the world with the absence of someone you love deeply, who is ingrained in your understanding of the world. This means that for the brain, your loved one is simultaneously gone and also everlasting, and you are walking through two worlds at the same time. You are navigating your life despite the fact that they have been stolen from you, a premise that makes no sense, and that is both confusing and upsetting.” Mary-Frances O'Connor, The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss
Grief is just love with no place to go. Eve and Robin answer questions about how to talk to a parent who doesn't want to let go, how to deal with family grief, and getting over the fear of leaving a job. Follow Robin here and follow Eve here. Try the Headspace app free for 30 days here. To send us your question go to sayhi.chat/dearheadpace The book Eve mentioned:" It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand" by Megan Divine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
This week our special guest is Dr. Reka C. Barton (@thescholarlysewist) who discusses the topic of grief and loss during a doctoral program. Dr. Reka is a graduate of the Joint Doctoral Program with San Diego State University and Claremont Graduate University. She received her BA in Psychology and Master of Teaching in Elementary Education from the University of Virginia and served as an elementary school teacher for ten years. Dr. Reka recently began her role as Postdoctoral Faculty Fellow at the University of San Diego as she continues her work as a Black Girlhood Multimodal ResearcHER who examines educational experiences through linguistic and equity perspectives. In this episode we cover: - Dr. Reka shares her experience with grief after losing her brother, Greg, during her doctoral program - She emphasizes how there is no right or wrong way to grieve - She shares how therapy, family support, and an understanding program helped her - And she offers advice on what you can do to support yourself and your loved ones when dealing with grief Here's the book that Dr. Reka referenced: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine https://refugeingrief.com/book/ You can connect with Dr. Reka in the following ways: IG: TheScholarlySewist Twitter: ScholarlySewist FB: The ScholarlySewist Website: www.TheScholarlySewist.com Sign up for my newsletter to learn more about grad school, sustainable productivity, and personal development: https://creative-trailblazer-5062.ck.page/gradschoolfemtoring Get my free 15-page Grad School Femtoring Resource Kit here: https://gradschoolfemtoring.com/kit/ Check out my Etsy tiendita: https://www.etsy.com/shop/gradschoolfemtoring I'm currently accepting speaking invitations and 1:1 coaching clients. To learn more, go here: https://gradschoolfemtoring.com/services/ For this and more, go to: https://gradschoolfemtoring.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/gradschoolfemtoring/message
This week on STTT, KathyDan and Jess dive into the topic of grief and loss. KathyDan discusses the five stage of grief, that they aren't processed in a linear way, and describes how negative loops are created when people are trying to heal from grief. Jess gets personal with her own experiences of loss over the last few years and the ladies talk about how to begin coming out the other side from the grief. KathyDan also provides some recommendations for good books and journals that can be helpful for people during their healing process. They wrap up the episode with the Asked & Answered segment about the fear of coming out as gay to your family.*************************Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief – June 27, 2017 by Dr. Joanne CacciatoreIt's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand – October 1, 2017 by Megan DevineThe Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss-Mary-Frances O'ConnorNotes on Grief by Chimamanda Ngozi AdichieIn Love: A memoir of Love and Loss -by Amy Bloom*************************DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace the advice you may be receiving from a licensed therapist.This podcast and website represents the opinions of KathyDan Moore, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Co-Host Jess Lowe, and their guests to the show and website. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions.Views and opinions expressed in the podcast and website are our own. While we make every effort to ensure that the information we are sharing is accurate, we welcome any comments, suggestions, or correction of errors.Privacy is of utmost importance to us. All people, places, and scenarios mentioned in the podcast have been changed to protect patient confidentiality.This website or podcast should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever, including but not limited to establishing “standard of care” in a legal sense or as a basis for expert witness testimony. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on the podcast or website.In no way does listening, reading, emailing or interacting on social media with our content establish a doctor-patient relationship.If you find any errors in any of the content of these podcasts or blogs, please send a message to kdandjess@spillingthetheratea.com.Podcast Music by: Lemon Music StudioHave a question for our Asked and Answered Segment? Email Us!AskUs@spillingthetheratea.com************************* Have a question for our Asked and Answered Segment? Email Us!AskUs@spillingthetheratea.comFollow us on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/spillingthetherateapodcastFollow us on Facebook!https://www.facebook.com/Spilling-the-Thera-Tea-103883072393873/
ONCE UPON A GENE - EPISODE 173 Honoring a Husband's Legacy by Finishing His Work on a Documentary About Rare Disease Acute Flaccid Myelitis and Her Own Grief Along the Way with Sarah Potter Sarah Potter's husband Scott got sick and passed away while he was in the middle of creating a documentary about a rare disease called Acute Flaccid Myelitis and the families affected by it. Sarah has immersed herself into film making to finish Scott's documentary, all while working through her grief. The film is called When The Lotus Blooms and it will be released in Fall 2023. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS Can you tell us about your rare disease and grief journey? My husband was working on a film about a rare disease called Acute Flaccid Myelitis (AFM), sharing the stories of affected families not having answers about the cause or treatment. We experienced something similar when my husband had a medical event and was hospitalized for several months before we lost him in July 2020. Because he was so passionate, I knew the story had to continue to be told. It's been a wonderful way for me to honor his legacy and do the good in the rare disease community that he set out to do. What is your husband's connection to the AFM community? He was active in our local live storytelling community where there were monthly storytelling events and that's where he met a professor with an expertise in epidemiology. When she learned my husband was a filmmaker, she approached him with a story of a mom in her network who had a little boy with AFM and she asked for his thoughts on how to create a film to make an impact and create change around the disease. He was hooked and worked for the better part of a year to gain funding and do research before the filming began. How does your grief align with families in the rare disease community? There are a lot of parallels and I have the ability to connect with them, understanding what it's like to be going along with your day-to-day and suddenly something changes in a split second that your world is different. What advice do you have for families who want to make a film? If you have a desire to tell your story, think about your takeaway, audience, how you want them to feel and what you want them to do. Everyone in the rare disease community has two elements of a wonderful story-- something unique and something inspiring. If you have an engaged patient advocacy community, I would recommend crowdfunding to fund the film production. LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED Sarah Potter on Twitter https://mobile.twitter.com/storyofthelotus/with_replies How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief https://www.amazon.com/How-Carry-What-Cant-Fixed/dp/1683643704 It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand https://www.amazon.com/Its-That-Youre-Not-Understand/dp/1622039076/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Megan Devine on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/refugeingrief Megan Devine on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/refugeingrief/ Becky Sansbury on Twitter https://twitter.com/AftrTheShock After the Shock: Getting You Back On the Road to Resilience When Crisis Hits You Head On https://www.amazon.com/After-Shock-Getting-Resilience-Crisis/dp/0692447571 The Rare Disease Film Festival https://www.rarediseasefilmfestival.com/ Follow the AFM Documentary https://afmfilm.com CONNECT WITH EFFIE PARKS Website https://effieparks.com/ Twitter https://twitter.com/OnceUponAGene Instagram https://www.instagram.com/onceuponagene.podcast/?hl=en Built Ford Tough Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1877643259173346/ Interested in advertising on Once Upon a Gene? Email advertising@bloodstreammedia.com for more information!
Our fears for the future of this planet are part of an interwoven story of grief and hope. While it's easy to feel overwhelmed and defeated, author Stephanie Foo (What My Bones Know) has found one small consistent act that grounds her, and gives her a hope for the world: she volunteers with the urban parks system. If your climate anxiety has felt too big to tackle, don't miss this short bonus episode - you might just find a doorway to your own place in the woods. In this episode we cover: The difference between “good immigrant” plants and “bad immigrant” plants, and how that relates to the climate emergency How being a park steward has given Stephanie hope for the future AND a budding community (ok, pun intended) What trees teach us about weathering trauma Notable quotes: “My action is relatively small, but I think it's really important. I kill plants.” - Stephanie Foo About our guest: Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. She lives in New York City with her husband, where she is a Parks Department Super Steward. Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link Additional resources It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook) For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle) For a deep dive into the environmental activism of the 90s and early 2000s, check out the work of Joanna Macy. A lot of our current understanding of the mental health of activists comes from Macy's work. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you. Follow the show on TikTok @hereafterpod Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, & TT Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
If you've lived through horrific trauma or abuse, is it really fair of us to say that the ways you've learned to cope are “bad,” or to use clinical speak, “maladaptive”? This week on Here After, Stephanie Foo, author of What My Bones Know, joins me to talk about complex PTSD and the ways we pathologize human responses to trauma. You'll also hear how claiming your own messy, complex coping mechanisms can help you build a community that sees you and loves you. If you're haunted by any type of trauma, or know someone who is, this conversation is a great introduction to complex PTSD, and the work of survivorship. In this episode we cover: Why pretending to be a high-performing badass is maybe not in your best interest How storytelling can make you feel less freakish and alone The real problem with most books on trauma and C-PTSD Notable quotes: “People are like, oh, you're so brave to have shared your story. And I was like, I burned down my whole life. There was nothing to lose anymore, so there was nothing to be brave about.” - Stephanie Foo About our guest: Stephanie Foo is a C-PTSD survivor, writer, and radio producer, most recently for This American Life. Her work has aired on Snap Judgment, Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health. She lives in New York City with her husband. Read Stephanie's book, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma Find her at stephaniefoo.me and follow her on Instagram @foofoofoo and Twitter @imontheradio Find a great conversation about What My Bones Know on Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper at this link Additional resources It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. (available in paperback, e-book, & audiobook) For a collection of tools and coping skills related to grief and trauma, check out my illustrated guided journal, How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed. (available in paperback and for Kindle) Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Here After with Megan Devine. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, send in your questions, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Share the show on your social networks! Use #HereAfterPod so we can find you. Follow the show on TikTok @hereafterpod Have a question, comment, or a topic you'd like us to cover? call us at (323) 643-3768 or visit megandevine.co For more information, including clinical training and resources, visit us at www.Megandevine.co For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on IG, FB, TW, & TT Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's Okay That You're Not Okay and How to Carry What Can't Be FixedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We're back with a new season! To kick off, we're joined by best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate Megan Devine, whose partner Matt died in 2009. We chat about the cultural narrative to make ‘meaning' from loss (spoiler: you don't have to), coping with shock, why our self-esteem takes a hit, navigating relationships, and setting boundaries plus much more. Our sponsor for today's episode, Grief – a guided journal by Jo Betz can be purchased from www.jobetz.com.au. Listeners can use code GOODMOURNING10 for a 10% discount. Links It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine.How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief by Megan Devine. Listen to Here After with Megan Devine here, connect with Megan on social here, or find out more about her work here.Connect with us Follow us on Instagram at @goodmourningpodcastSign up for our newsletter or shop our affirmation cards at www.goodmourning.com.auJoin our private Facebook support group, Good Mourning Grief Community, hereSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/goodmourningpodcast. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.
PARENTS AS RARE - EPISODE 052 Lisa Weinberger - Be Your Own Advocate, Listen To Your Body, Take Control of Your Health, & Ask Questions Lisa Weinberger is a wife, mother, digital marketing professor and business owner with over 20 years of experience designing and leading corporate marketing programs. We talk in this episode about balancing work and family while living in the world of rare disease and chronic illness. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS When you were navigating a diagnosis, how did that affect your family at the time? I was diagnosed with a rare disease called Pemphigus Vulgaris in 2018 after 30 years of varying symptoms. My disease rarely showed physical symptoms and I wasn't open with my daughter or in-laws who lived just down the street. Around the same time that I began getting blisters and was concerned about hiding them from my daughter, my husband had a heart attack which captured her attention more. Afterwards, I spoke with her about what was going on, explaining my auto-immune disease and the symptoms I was experiencing. When things are especially challenging because of your disease, how do you push through the days? I have a glimmer of hope and I know I've been in similar situations before. I am a fighter and have a mentality to keep going. I push myself and I'll continue to push myself with time to rest as needed, but I do tend to overdo it and not pace myself during the times I feel the best. How do you adjust your life as a result of your circumstances and keep up with your family's activities? My husband did a lot when my daughter was younger, like going to birthday parties and after-school activities. My good hours are earlier in the day, so we'd go to the park and spend time with her during the earlier hours of the day. We didn't have help at the time, so my husband and I worked together to balance everything. Now that my daughter is a teenager, she's more settled and independent. What advice do you have for parents listening? Children observe and understand more than we sometimes think they can, especially if they're a little older and have access to the internet. If they do have the ability to research things on the internet, sit down with them and show them where to find good sources of information about your disease. If your child is able to talk about it, keep communication open with them. CONNECT WITH LISA Website https://pearlywrites.com/ Twitter @LisaWeinberger https://twitter.com/lisaweinberger Linkedin @pearlywrites https://www.linkedin.com/in/pearlywrites/ RESOURCES MENTIONED It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand https://www.amazon.com
How are you supposed to go on after suffering an unimaginable tragedy? Shortly after comedian Michael Cruz Kayne welcomed his identical twin boys into the world, his son Fisher suddenly passed away at only 34 days old. Michael and his wife were left trying to grieve their son while raising a newborn at the same time. This week, we talk about what helps in the face of loss and how to tell people that you're not ready to stop talking about your grief. Michael and Claire answer your questions on child loss, from how to cope with anxiety, to how to let go of what you dreamt for your child. Resources from the show Listen to Michael's podcast “A Good Cry” Read Claire's book, “Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief” Read “The 6th Stage of Grief: Making Meaning” by David Kessler Read “It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand” by Megan Devine Read “Grief Is Love: Living with Loss” by Marisa Renee Lee Read “Lincoln in the Bardo” by George Saunders Do you have a question about grief or other ways you can take care of your mental health? Send Claire a question to be featured on an upcoming episode www.bit.ly/newdayask Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/newdaypod Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors. Did you try one of these weekly practices? We want to hear about it! Call 833-4-LEMONADA (833-453-6662) or email us newday@lemonadamedia.com. To follow along with a transcript and/or take notes for friends and family, go to lemonadamedia.com/show/newday/ shortly after the air date. Follow Claire on IG and FB @clairebidwellsmith or Twitter @clairebidwell and visit her website: www.clairebidwellsmith.com. Stay up to date with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia. Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we'd face.Dr. Solomon and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss. Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Solomon:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine:https://bookshop.org/books/it-s-ok-that-you-re-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss-in-a-culture-that-doesn-t-understand-9781622039074/9781622039074How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal For Grief by Megan Devine:https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-carry-what-can-t-be-fixed-a-journal-for-grief/9781683643708Refuge in Grief: Megan's Online Community:https://refugeingrief.com/Connect with Megan:megandevine.coHere After, Megan's Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-after-with-megan-devine/id1595914505 See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
On this episode we explore what it means to have an existential crisis when one can imagine a limitless future as a limited person. We'll discuss the fear of time, the void and the afterlife, finding a reason to continue living, ageing, the pain of dying and much more. We'll also review the new album from Morte Psíquica and share some secret upcoming projects. Our guest this month is Sanctus Manium. If you enjoy the show, please consider supporting us on Patreon! Introductions What is a Death Doula 5:00 The Body 15:45 Loneliness 24:10 Time 27:38 Afterlife 47:11 Meaning 1:01:45 Aging 1:11:45 Suffering 1:27:00 Capitalism 1:36:36 Album Review: Camera Obscura - Morte Psíquica Sinister Suggestions:-Auxiliary Magazine -Terry Pratchett and Death -Parable of the Sower References: -The Butterfly Dream -Components of an Existential Crisis -Finding Purpose -Denial of Death -Working as a Death Doula Sanctus Manium's Book List: • The Art of Dying Well by Katy Butler • From Here to Eternity by Caitlin Doughty • The End of Something Wonder by Stephanie V.W. Lucianovic (I reccomend this one for parents and children) • When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi • Dying: A Memoir by Cory Taylor • All That Remains by Sue Black • The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker • Escape From Evil by Ernest Becker • Existential Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom • Gone from My Sight: The Dying Experience by Barbara Karnes, RN (AKA: The Little Blue Book) • On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross •On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler • Being Mortal by Atul Gawande • It's Ok That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine • The Good Death: An Exploration of Dying in America by Ann Neumann • Advice For Future Corpses (And Those Who Love Them): A Practical Perspective on Death and Dying by Sallie Tisdale • In the Slender Margin: The Intimate Strangeness of Death and Dying by Eve Johnson • How We Die: Reflections of Life's Final Chapter by Sherwin B. Nuland
On this episode we explore what it means to have an existential crisis when one can imagine a limitless future as a limited person. We'll discuss the fear of time, the void and the afterlife, finding a reason to continue living, ageing, the pain of dying and much more. We'll also review the new album from Morte Psíquica and share some secret upcoming projects. Our guest this month is Sanctus Manium. If you enjoy the show, please consider supporting us on Patreon! Introductions What is a Death Doula 5:00 The Body 15:45 Loneliness 24:10 Time 27:38 Afterlife 47:11 Meaning 1:01:45 Aging 1:11:45 Suffering 1:27:00 Capitalism 1:36:36 Album Review: Camera Obscura - Morte Psíquica Sinister Suggestions:-Auxiliary Magazine -Terry Pratchett and Death -Parable of the Sower References: -The Butterfly Dream -Components of an Existential Crisis -Finding Purpose -Denial of Death -Working as a Death Doula Sanctus Manium's Book List: • The Art of Dying Well by Katy Butler • From Here to Eternity by Caitlin Doughty • The End of Something Wonder by Stephanie V.W. Lucianovic (I reccomend this one for parents and children) • When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi • Dying: A Memoir by Cory Taylor • All That Remains by Sue Black • The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker • Escape From Evil by Ernest Becker • Existential Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom • Gone from My Sight: The Dying Experience by Barbara Karnes, RN (AKA: The Little Blue Book) • On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross •On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler • Being Mortal by Atul Gawande • It's Ok That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine • The Good Death: An Exploration of Dying in America by Ann Neumann • Advice For Future Corpses (And Those Who Love Them): A Practical Perspective on Death and Dying by Sallie Tisdale • In the Slender Margin: The Intimate Strangeness of Death and Dying by Eve Johnson • How We Die: Reflections of Life's Final Chapter by Sherwin B. Nuland
Every day, 316 people are shot in the United States. Of those, 106 are killed. But Americans aren't great at dealing with grief. As a result, major questions survivors of gun violence have -- "what is the "right" way to grieve after a shooting?"; "how can I best give support to those I love after a shooting?"; "how are communities supposed to put themselves back together after such a loss?" -- aren't even discussed, let alone answered. And because we don't talk about grief, we get trapped. As best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate Megan Devine puts it, "so we're stuck: friends and family want to help, grieving people want to feel supported, but no one gets what they want."To learn how to better have these conversations, and truly support the survivors in our lives, Megan joins Kelly and JJ for an illuminating discussion.Mentioned in this podcast:Refuge in Grief There is no “right” way to grieve (Speaking Grief)It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand (Megan Devine)How do you help a grieving friend during the holidays? 10 tips to help you help someone you love (Refuge in Grief)How to Provide Emotional Support for Survivors and People Impacted By Gun Violence (Brady)For more information on Brady, follow us on social media @Bradybuzz or visit our website at bradyunited.org.Full transcripts and bibliographies of this episode are available at bradyunited.org/podcast.National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255.Music provided by: David “Drumcrazie” CurbySpecial thanks to Hogan Lovells for their long-standing legal support℗&©2019 Red, Blue, and BradySupport the show (https://www.bradyunited.org/donate)
Join Nikki C as she sits down with Grief Coach Melissa Bottorff-Arey as we talk about how the loss of her son, pushed her to create a podcast as a way to connect people who suffered from suicide loss as they learn to rediscover, reimagine, and rebuild their lives after such a tragic loss.Guest BIOMelissa is podcast host ( The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations) & Master Grief Coach (The Leftover Pieces; Rebuilding You). She lost her 21 year old son Alex to suicide in 2016 & now her mission is to connect with, & offer help to, as many others in this loss space as she can. Guest Suggested Resources:Book(Print or Audio) It's OK That You're Not OK- Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand - By Megan Devine Shelby Forsythia - Permission to Grief: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of LossGuest Contact Info:IG: @theleftoverpiecesLIFE GOT IN THE WAYIG: @lgitw_podcast | FB: @lgitwpodcastWebsite: www.nikitacanderson.com/podcast
800,000 people lose their lives to suicide every year. Aside from its statistics and its increasing rate, suicide is personal for Mehran. In this episode, Mehran, the podcast host talks about her personal encounter with suicide, the pain of losing someone to suicide, and the 7 lessons she learned from the journey. Below are the promised links: https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/suicide-prevention https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/what-causes-depression https://www.reuters.com/article/us-immigrants-more-depressed-than-those/immigrants-more-depressed-than-those-who-stay-idUSTRE7335VJ20110404 https://www.today.com/specials/suicide-attempt-survivors/ https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2020/01/15/2019-28429/implementation-of-the-national-suicide-hotline-improvement-act-of-2018 Suicide hotline: 800-273-8255 Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis Books: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine Books: I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One by Brook Noel Books: Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig Shattering the silence: Youth suicide preventionhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sRo5Db_7yVI Lessons from the mental Hospital https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHHPNMIK-fY Brene brown on Vulnerability https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0 What I learned from my husband’s suicide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jb_1IklnhaU The bridge between suicide and life https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CIq4mtiamY&t=672s Subscribe to Empowering conversationZ podcast and hear immigrant stories and other issues important to immigrants on your favorite app by searching Empowering conversationZ or through our page https://www.mehrans.com/empowering-conversationz
Psychologists Off The Clock: A Psychology Podcast About The Science And Practice Of Living Well
Happiness is tricky. Poets, philosophers, and musicians have written about this emotion throughout history, yet most of us would struggle to define it if asked. In fact, psychologists and other mental health professionals often abandon the topic for pathology. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Tal Ben-Shahar, happiness expert and author of the best-selling book, Happier, discuss happiness and what it means to be happy in today's world. Pause a moment and take inventory of your emotions. What shows up? What's missing? Join us in this episode, and take a step toward embracing and making room for all of your emotions today! Listen and Learn: About how Debbie first came to know Tal Yael and Debbie's happiness hacks and the practices they use to build happiness in their busy livesHappiness expert Tal's definition of happinessThe differences between well-being and pleasureWhy it might be important to make room for all types of experiences (even the negative ones!)How Tal's life experiences have informed his work in the field of happinessPractical advice for teaching your kids how to embrace and make room for uncomfortable emotionsTal's wisdom for choosing your responses in uncomfortable situationsOn-the-ground practices you can use to build happiness into your busy lifeTal's evidence-based thoughts on perfectionists, optimists, and performance-based happinessAbout the most influential books Tal has read in the past year Resources: It's Okay That Your'e Not Ok (Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand) by Megan Devine The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less by Barry Schwartz The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does by Sonja LyubomirskyTal's personal book recommendations: Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Dr. Nathaniel Branden, and The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle About Tal Ben-Shahar: Tal Ben-Shahar is an author and lecturer. He taught two of the largest classes in Harvard University's history, Positive Psychology and The Psychology of Leadership. Today, Tal consults and lectures around the world to executives in multi-national corporations, the general public, and at-risk populations. The topics he lectures on include leadership, happiness, education, innovation, ethics, self-esteem, resilience, goal setting, and mindfulness. His books have been translated into more than twenty-five languages, and have appeared on best-sellers lists around the world. Tal is a serial entrepreneur, and is the co-founder and chief learning officer of Happiness Studies Academy, Potentialife, Maytiv, and Happier.TV. An avid sportsman, Tal won the U.S. Intercollegiate and Israeli National squash championships. Today, for exercise, he swims, dances, and practices Yoga. He obtained his PhD in Organizational Behavior and BA in Philosophy and Psychology from Harvard Book Giveaway! POTC is doing another book giveaway, this on e accompanying Yael's interview with happiness guru, Tal Ben-Shahar. You can enter the drawing for a free copy of his inspirational book, Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness, by: Going to Instagram and locate, like, and SAVE the giveaway postIf you don't yet follow us, please do!For an EXTRA entry, share the post to your Instagram story and tag @offtheclockpsych Related Episodes Episode 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy ConnectionEpisode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry SchwartzEpisode 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I head "Down The Rabbit Hole" to discuss some tangible "tools" that I would recommend taking a look at in the quest to find your own. This is a follow up to a previous episode, one of several to come, where I get more specific on some of the "tools" that have (or still do) serve me well in this suicide loss grief space I live in. Part 2 will be published in a few weeks! As with everything you hear on my podcasts, please take that which serves you & leave the rest. I hope you will find something of value & I am so sorry that you need to be here, but so honored you are here. Talk soon!The BOOKS I discussed are: Your Grief, Your Way: A Year of Practical Guidance and Comfort After Loss by Shelby ForsythiaDying to Be Free: A Healing Guide for Families After a SuicideThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der KolkThe Ultimate Guide to Chakras: The Beginner's Guide to Balancing, Healing, and Unblocking Your Chakras for Health and Positive Energy by Athena Perrakis PhDThe Audio books (on AUDIBLE) that I discussed: It's OK That You're Not OK Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan DevineNight Falls Fast Understanding Suicide by Kay Redfield JamisonCracked, Not Broken Surviving and Thriving After a Suicide Attempt by Kevin HinesInside Out A Memoir by Demi MooreThe APPS I recommended you take a peek at are: The Insight Timer The MightyAudible Instagram & Facebook (?) for grief communitySome PODCASTS to get you thinking or to let you zone out: The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss ConversationsThe Mindfulness & Grief Podcast with Heather Stang&l
Dr. Venus’s brother, Tory, went home to be with the Lord this Christmas Eve. She wanted to have a conversation this week to discuss grief, coping, and how it looks different for everyone. Needless to say, they are each coping with the loss of their beloved family member in the best and healthiest way they can at this time, but how? Tune in this week for an intimate and authentic conversation about strategies to cope, accept, nurture, and ultimately have faith after the death of a loved one due to COVID-19. Key Takeaways: [1:13] Dr. Venus shares the heartbreaking news that her brother Tory passed away from COVID-19. She discusses how it’s important to never judge a person by how they grieve. The process is different for everyone. [3:28] When someone you care about is grieving, of course you can send your sympathy and love, but don’t expect a back and forth conversation. They could not have the energy or bandwidth beyond seeing your message and acknowledging it. [5:02] Don’t tell someone that is grieving what to do, or what not to do. It’s a very personal process. [5:50] For Dr. Venus, a sense of normalcy and stability is what feels best. Keeping a routine helps her stay grounded during an intense time of grief. [9:05] The Five Stages of Grief are: Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance [12:50] If you are the one grieving right now, it’s okay not to talk to people if you feel numb. However you want to show up in the world is okay. [21:19] We can still be heartbroken and grief stricken but believe that God has an ultimate master plan and have Faith in surrendering to the bigger plan. It doesn’t mean you don’t mourn, but that you set aside your pride and ego to give everything over to God. [23:50] We have opinions and preferences about how things should be, but we don’t have a big enough view to understand God’s plan. [25:38] Find things you can spiritually connect with and grieve through. For Dr. Venus, writing and dancing are extremely healing and powerful. [28:58] Give others (or yourself) the grace of knowing that it’s okay to have delayed reactions in grief. That doesn’t mean you are suppressing, it comes out when it does. [29:50] Tory was a great brother, father, son, nephew, uncle, friend, provider, and so much more. He was funny, brilliant, entrepreneurial, loving, and kind, and Dr. Venus will always adore him. [32:49] A large part of COVID is preparation. Take it seriously and do your part. Quotes: “The things that have crushed me have turned into cathedrals.” “For all of us that have lost someone to COVID, know that you are loved, and you are not alone.” Mentioned: Dr. Venus Website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram “Hot Mess Millionaire” Amazon Pilot ”Hot Mess Millionaire” Complete Series (https://www.youtube.com/c/DrVenusOpalReese) Join the conversation! Hot Mess Millionaire Facebook Group Free Gift When You Join The Truth Tribe The Black Woman Millionaire Hot Mess Edition RESOURCES On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross It's OK That You're Not OK (Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand) by Megan Devine Grief One Day at a Time: 365 Meditations to Help You Heal After Loss COVID-19 may have arrived in US by December 2019
It's January 2021! As much as we want to celebrate a new year, many of us are still grieving 2020 and beyond. This month's theme is grief and loss. In this episode, Danellia speaks with Paulina Isabel Almarosa, LCSW of @latinxgrief. Paulina is a bilingual, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in the state of California. She was born in Morelos, Mexico and immigrated to the U.S at a young age. Paulina lived a significant period of her life in the U.S. undocumented. She holds a Master's degree in Social Welfare from UCLA and has over 10 years of experience in the mental health field. Paulina is the founder of Latinx Grief, a space dedicated to grief awareness & education via storytelling, music & art. Paulina is an avid writer, a mother and creative. Danellia and Paulina break down a few details about grief including what grief is, how different people experience different types of grief, how we can be there for people experiencing grief, and so much more. Connect with Paulina! On IG @latinxgrief Resources It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine Send your questions, requests, and concerns to hi@danelliaarechiga.com Music: Closure (What I Want) by Snake City The World Is A Smaller Place Now by Craft Case Enjoying this podcast? By the creator a coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Danellia
Katherine Allen and Lisa Evanylo have both experienced the heartache of losing a child and the journey of grief and healing that follows. A little over a year ago, the two women decided to openly share their pain and launch a support group for other bereaved parents. The monthly group, which is now meeting via Zoom, now has participation from not only Virginia’s New River Valley but even other parts of the country. In our conversation, Katherine and Lisa both recall the events surrounding the deaths of their sons: Katherine’s son, Matt, by suicide; and Lisa’s son, Dylan, from a drug overdose. The two also offer tips on how to cope with grief and warn against what not to say to a parent who has lost a child. Resources mentioned in this episode: Parent Bereavement Support Group meetings are the 2nd Monday of each month at 6 p.m. For more information, call Katherine (540-230-8154) or Lisa (540-257-3612) Grief Recovery After Substance Passing (GRASP) Facebook page – http://www.facebook.com/groups/grasphelp Bereaved Parents of the USA – http://www.bereavedparentsusa.org Compassionate Friends – http://www.compassionatefriends.org Recommended Books: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine (Amazon link) - https://www.amazon.com/Its-That-Youre-Not-Understand/dp/1622039076/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2H3O66BL51JO&dchild=1&keywords=it%27s+okay+that+you%27re+not+okay&qid=1606594509&sprefix=It%27s+Okay+%2Caps%2C193&sr=8-2 Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing after Loss by Pat Schwiebert (Amazon link) - https://www.amazon.com/Tear-Soup-Recipe-Healing-After/dp/0961519762/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=tear+soup&qid=1606594578&sr=8-2 The Courage to Grieve: The Classic Guide To Creative Living, Recovery, And Growth Through Grief by Judy Tatelbaum (Amazon link) - https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Grieve-Classic-Creative-Recovery/dp/0060911859/ref=sr_1_1dchild=1&keywords=The+Courage+to+Grieve&qid=1606594646&sr=8-1 My Son . . . My Son . . .: A Guide to Healing After Death, Loss, or Suicide by Iris Bolton (Amazon link) - https://www.amazon.com/My-Son-Guide-Healing-Suicide/dp/0961632607/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2R9O4Y30TDF3S&dchild=1&keywords=my+son%2C+my+son+by+iris+bolton&qid=1606594732&sprefix=My+Son%2C+My+Son+b%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 Sponsor Information: Teen Connections - https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-south-atlantic/education-programs/teen-connections Contact: Malinda Britt, PPSAT Community Health Educator Malinda.Britt@ppsat.org (540) 315-2130
ONCE UPON A GENE - EPISODE 052 Adam Johnson - Rare Disease Dad on Mitochondrial Myopathy and Owning Your Story Adam “DadVocate” Johnson is a dad, diagnosed with Mitochondrial Myopathy. He blogs about his rare disease story, grief and experience on his blog, Owning My Story. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS How did you come to be a part of the rare disease community? When I was thinking I was a typical, healthy 35 year old, I got the flu that turned into pneumonia and bronchitis. I wanted to get back into self-care and working out and feeling better after that and I made a good push. I noticed during my workouts that I was struggling to push on. I knew something wasn't quite right. I had my first fall and knew I couldn't ignore what was going on any longer and that began a series of appointments seeing doctors and specialists. No results were populating red flags, but I was extremely fatigued and kept falling. A doctor did a muscle biopsy and that turned up a diagnosis of Mitochondrial Myopathy. Why did it take so long to get the test needed to get diagnosed with Mitochondrial Myopathy? Mitochondrial disease is difficult to diagnose and can take some time. After I was diagnosed, I found a support group and shared my journey. So many others in the support group shared the same experience and even went years before receiving a diagnosis. It's such a rare disease that it's not widely known and doctors don't have experience with it. Have you found a lot of other parents that have a rare disease? I'm still looking, but I've appreciated the support I've received from so many in the rare disease community. I notice a lot of groups of rare disease patients of rare disease kids, but I haven't found a group of parents with rare disease. I'm continuing to branch out and make those connections in this very specific niche. I'd like to talk to others who have had similar experiences. I have pretty specific worries and concerns that I want to connect with others on. What are some of the moments that help you persevere when you're feeling defeated? My kids help me smile and push ahead. When I first received my diagnosis, my daughter was doing a science project in school on the human body. She wanted to choose mitochondria. I felt bad in the moment, but it was her moment to explore, learn, grieve and share with her classmates. That helped me push through and persevere because she made me feel like I had my own little advocate by my side. People in the rare disease community have been instrumental as well. I listened to the podcast episode with Taylor Kane and I connected with it so much. I'm appreciative of my family and others in the community that help me move forward. What has your family changed since you were diagnosed? It's changed a lot. It was a transition for me stepping back from work. The pandemic is adding an additional layer to things. It's a lot to go through for me and my family as I try to balance being home, being present and helping while taking care of myself. Before the pandemic, I was struggling to take care of myself and now it's an additional stress that's altered things quite a bit. A big thing is that I can't participate in things with the kids in a way that I could before. I found Brian Wallach on Twitter, was scrolling through and saw a tweet that read, "I just watched our girls roll down a hill giggling like crazy. A year ago I was rolling with them. A part of me seethed at the progression of my ALS and what it has taken away. Another smiled like a maniac, giggling as loud as our girls, grateful to be there." I felt that so much and I really connected with that. The paradox of balancing the loss and being present while trying to enjoy a moment is a challenge sometimes. What lessons have you learned that you can share with others who are feeling alone as a parent with a rare disease diagnosis? I wish I had known when I was diagnosed that I wasn't the only one. I wish I understood that there was more to come after the diagnosis. It's still difficult when I think of things in the past and miss doing things, or miss my job. These things remain true, but I can move forward and find new things to do. If you're newly diagnosed, you're not alone. Any disease or challenge that comes up doesn't define you and it's not the end of you. LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED Owning My Story Blog https://rarediseasedad.com/owning-my-story-blogs David Kessler and Brené on Grief and Finding Meaning https://brenebrown.com/podcast/david-kessler-and-brene-on-grief-and-finding-meaning/ Dr. Marc Brackett and Brené on "Permission to Feel" https://brenebrown.com/podcast/dr-marc-brackett-and-brene-on-permission-to-feel/ Permission to Feel Book https://www.amazon.com/Permission-Feel-Unlocking-Emotions-Ourselves/dp/1250212847 It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand https://www.amazon.com/Its-That-Youre-Not-Understand/dp/1622039076 Rare Like Us with Taylor Kane https://effieparks.com/podcast/episode-38-rare-like-us-with-taylor-kane Brian Wallach on Twitter https://twitter.com/bsw5020 CONNECT WITH ADAM JOHNSON Twitter @RareDiseaseDad Instagram @RareDiseaseDad Email RareDiseaseDad@gmail.com Website https://rarediseasedad.com/ TUNE INTO THE ONCE UPON A GENE PODCAST Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5Htr9lt5vXGG3ac6enxLQ7 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/once-upon-a-gene/id1485249347 Stitcher https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/once-upon-a-gene Overcast https://overcast.fm/itunes1485249347/once-upon-a-gene CONNECT WITH EFFIE PARKS Website https://effieparks.com/ Twitter https://twitter.com/OnceUponAGene Instagram https://www.instagram.com/onceuponagene.podcast/?hl=en Built Ford Tough Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1877643259173346/
Highlights: 1. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End 2. It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand 3. Signs From Pets In The Afterlife: Identifying Messages From Pets in Heaven 4. The Denial of Death 5. The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully 6. Grief & Loss: Will the pain ever end? 7. The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life Connect with host Edward Tay
Welcome Jacqueline Bassett to the podcast! Jacqueline owns Juelerye Fine Gifts and Art, a unique shopping destination in Cornelius. Jacqueline founded Juelerye in 2015 on the idea that a rewarding life is built with gratitude, purpose, and memorable moments. We discuss more about her inspiration for her small business, as well as how she and the artists she collaborates with have been able to successfully adapt to the current challenges facing small retail shops. This is a heartening interview with the owner of one of the Lake's loveliest small businesses - enjoy!From the Juelerye website:"MEET JACQUELINEPeople will stare, make it worth their while — Harry WinstonMy dream has always been to have a small business in the community that would impact & inspire others. A place that people would remember and want to come back and bring their family & friends. In 2016, I realized that there was a way to combine my love of one of a kind artist made treasures with the dream to open a small, independently owned business.Juelerye is a place where artist made and handcrafted are the standard. If you believe in supporting creativity and filling your home and life with something more meaningful, you've found the right place. . There's just something special about giving and receiving a gift that is made by individuals that have put their time and unique creativity into their work. I've had the opportunity to sit with many of them and watch as they create the pieces that allow me to bring their happiness to you."Juelerye location and links:THE SHOPPES AT HOME HEART & SOUL20901 CATAWBA AVENUECORNELIUS NC 280312ND FLOORWebsite: https://www.juelerye.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/juelerye/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juelerye/The local businesses we mentioned in this episode:Pho Me - Authentic Vietnamese Cuisine(704) 765-5201138 Village View Dr St 103Mooresville, NC 28117http://eatpho.me/Ferrucci's Old Tyme Italian Market(704) 896-3190Shops On The Green20910 Torrence Chapel RoadCornelius, NC 28031https://ferruccis.com/Josh's Farmers Market980-721-6316189 Williamson Rd. Mooresville, NC 28117https://www.joshsfarmersmarket.com/Dearness Gardens and Landscaping13501 South Old Statesville RoadHuntersville, NC 28078-7218https://www.dearnessgardens.net/The Pickled Peach - Davidson704-765-2190202 S. Main Street, Davidson, NC, 28036https://thepickledpeach.com/Books Jacqueline loves:The Simple Truths of Service - Inspired by Johnny the Bagger by Ken Blanchard and Barbara A. GlanzIt's OK That You're Not OK - Meeting Grief and Loss in A Culture That Doesn't Understandby Megan DevineTribes: We Need You To Lead Usby Seth GodinThe Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedomby Don Miguel RuizThis episode was recorded via Zoom in the private conference room at: Main Street Coffee and Coworking in Huntersville, NC. https://www.mainstreetcoffee.co/Thank you for listening to this podcast. Follow The Best of LKN on social media:Facebook: https:/Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/epicjourneymedia)
Kathryn interviews Executive Coach & Trainer John Futterknecht MEd, author of “Leading in the Global Matrix: Proven Skills and Strategies to Succeed in a Collaborative World.” He shows why leaders need to turn away from their instinct to sacrifice their health to ensure their organization's survival - and how to put their well-being first. Futterknecht has worked with leaders at some of the world's largest companies, including many Fortune 500s. Kathryn also interviews Psychotherapist & Founder, Refuge in Grief Megan Devine LCPC, author of “It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand.” She believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. Devine advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss - personally, professionally and as a wider community. Her work has been featured in NY Times, NPR, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review and Bitch Magazine.
Kathryn interviews Executive Coach & Trainer John Futterknecht MEd, author of “Leading in the Global Matrix: Proven Skills and Strategies to Succeed in a Collaborative World.” He shows why leaders need to turn away from their instinct to sacrifice their health to ensure their organization's survival - and how to put their well-being first. Futterknecht has worked with leaders at some of the world's largest companies, including many Fortune 500s. Kathryn also interviews Psychotherapist & Founder, Refuge in Grief Megan Devine LCPC, author of “It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand.” She believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. Devine advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss - personally, professionally and as a wider community. Her work has been featured in NY Times, NPR, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review and Bitch Magazine.
Kathryn interviews Executive Coach & Trainer John Futterknecht MEd, author of “Leading in the Global Matrix: Proven Skills and Strategies to Succeed in a Collaborative World.” He shows why leaders need to turn away from their instinct to sacrifice their health to ensure their organization's survival - and how to put their well-being first. Futterknecht has worked with leaders at some of the world's largest companies, including many Fortune 500s. Kathryn also interviews Psychotherapist & Founder, Refuge in Grief Megan Devine LCPC, author of “It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand.” She believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. Devine advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss - personally, professionally and as a wider community. Her work has been featured in NY Times, NPR, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review and Bitch Magazine.
Kathryn interviews Executive Coach & Trainer John Futterknecht MEd, author of “Leading in the Global Matrix: Proven Skills and Strategies to Succeed in a Collaborative World.” He shows why leaders need to turn away from their instinct to sacrifice their health to ensure their organization's survival - and how to put their well-being first. Futterknecht has worked with leaders at some of the world's largest companies, including many Fortune 500s. Kathryn also interviews Psychotherapist & Founder, Refuge in Grief Megan Devine LCPC, author of “It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand.” She believes that making the world a better place starts with acknowledging grief, rather than seeking to overcome it. Devine advocates for a revolution in how we discuss loss - personally, professionally and as a wider community. Her work has been featured in NY Times, NPR, Washington Post, GQ, Harvard Business Review and Bitch Magazine.
The belief behind the technique is when we are able to non judgmentally acknowledge and accept another person for where they are, it helps reduce intense emotions. By engaging in radical acceptance, the gentleman is able to reduce his level of frustration. Keep in mind that radical acceptance doesn’t equal agreement, it’s a mere way of acknowledging what is happening in a nonjudgmental fashion.That’s an excerpt from the show. Today, we’ll be discussing Insights from my most recent Managing My Grief Workshop, and, here’s the intro.IntroI’m glad you chose to join me for this discussion on Insights from Grief Workshop. As you already may know, I’m the Founder and Executive Director of Inspirational Hope. It’s a non profit organization that supports individuals who’ve experienced grief and sexual assault. We provide workshops and have a yearly fall conference. Last year at the conference, a young lady shared with me her desire to have a more hands on experience to be able to process the information that was shared. During the next few months, I created Managing My Grief Workshops that’s done through my LLC. Last week, I had my second all day Managing My Grief Workshop and was reminded of a key component of grief that is many times not discussed. The workshop begins with the typical ice breaker, then transitions into the nitty gritty of grief, the grieving process, how an individual’s family’s culture plays a role in the grieving process, we talk about coping skills, triggers, support systems, and space to even do a few role plays. Throughout each section of the workshop, I enjoy hearing how one navigates through their grief and them giving me and others attendees the opportunity to give support and guidance to navigate through the grief more efficiently. In this particular workshop, there was and overarching theme I heard throughout the day and it was lack of empathy from family and peers. In a previous podcast, I discussed disenfranchised grief. If you haven’t listened to the show, I encourage you to listen to Disenfranchised Grief after finishing this show to understand the diverse categories. To recap, disenfranchised grief is when someone experiences a loss and those around them minimize or don’t acknowledge the impact of the loss. In the workshop, we had individuals who were currently going through grief and others who provide support to those who are grieving whether it was through their work or volunteering. It was interesting to see how the conversation transpired. I opened up the discussion by sharing a quote from Megan Devine’s book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand. The quote is, “we aren’t’ here to fix our pain but to tend to it.” Due to the richness and her authentic perception on how grief is mishandled in the U.S. culture, Megan Devine’s book will be broken down in a future podcast. After sharing the quote on “fix our pain,” versus “tend to it,” we took a deeper dive into this concept and that’s where the intriguing part of the discussion occurred. A side note, all attendees sign a waiver giving me permission to share their stories and insights to help others, with the expectation that their identity will be kept confidential. I can’t help but be inspired by how authentic and eager the attendees were to talk about their experience related to getting support from others, or in many cases, lack of support. There was one gentleman in particular who enthusiastically shared how when his daughter died, he was tired of hearing people tell him, “I’m sorry for your loss.” He shared how every time someone made remarks similar to being sorry, anger would rise inside of him. There was a woman there who volunteers in giving others support who are grieving. She was becoming noticeably uncomfortable while the gentleman was passionately and almost on the verge of
Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandThat the way we deal with grief in our culture is brokenHow grief is a no-win situation for everyoneThe fact that we don’t like to talk about griefHow we carry losses with usThe myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrongThat some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carriedHow cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your realityOur limited tools for going through difficultyVictim blamingHow we can’t be 100% safeThat we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to thingsIf we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail usSadness isn’t a problem eitherHow you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and ValidatedThe power of listening and curiosityThinking of pain as an experience to be tendedThe things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escapeMaking these difficult things gentler on usDecreasing suffering inside of griefWellness vs. worsenessPaying attention to the cause and effect of thingsThe hierarchy of griefTreating compassion as the abundant resource that it isHopeMeeting people where they areAsking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from themThe importance of showing yourself kindnessMegan Devine LinksHomepageAnimation on GriefInstagramTwitter
The nature of grief and how it can turn your life upside down is one of the most charged and misunderstood subjects in Western culture. Grief, especially around death, has no rule book which is why most people encounter it unprepared when something tragic happens. Episode #108 of the podcast features Megan Devine the author of "It's Ok That You're Not Ok - Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand." Her expressive thoughtfulness and razor sharp opinions on the topic will leave you curious, softer and more accepting of how pain can and should work in ones life. Our conversation could have gone on for two hours - there are so many corners to explore. She is a fantastic soul. Enjoy. INTRO RANT - Ram Dass "A Letter to Rachel" This episode is sponsored by Belle Sante Beauty Megan Devine is a psychotherapist, writer, grief advocate, & communication expert dedicated to helping you live through things you never thought you’d face. I’m proud to have created an online community and resource that helps people survive some of the hardest experiences of their lives. Through my book, podcasts, and online courses, I help people learn the skills they need to love themselves – and each other – better. www.refugeingrief.com
Megan Devine is a mental health counselor who has become known as one of the most promising emerging voices in the field of grief therapy. With Sounds True, she has released the new book It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami speaks with Megan about It's OK That You're Not OK and the tragedy that inspired the book—the accidental drowning of her partner. With this in mind, Tami and Megan discuss "the wild howl at the center of grief," the challenge of shouldering things that only we can carry, and why "letting go" is a myth. They also talk about what you can do for someone enduring the grieving process and why it can be best simply to lend an understanding ear. Finally, Megan unravels the concept of "fixing" grief and why there is an intrinsic connection between grieving fully and loving well. (69 minutes)
Summary: In this episode I talk to Megan about grief. We discuss her personal experience with losing her partner and what followed. Teacher, speaker, and psychotherapist, Megan Devine, has been stirring up our culture’s ideas around grief and loss since 2009. She's the author of the book, It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand Megan is known for her practical, no-nonsense approach to grief, and for her ability to guide people inside some of the most devastating experiences of life and love. While her work is often focused on grief itself, her message is much wider: by acknowledging what hurts, we can all learn to love each other better - no matter what life brings. Links: Please click here to leave a review -http://getpodcast.reviews/id/1031117023 Megan's Site: http://www.refugeingrief.com/ Megan's book: https://www.amazon.com/Its-That-Youre-Not-Understand/dp/1622039076/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1506304974&sr=8-1&keywords=megan+devine Become an Anxiety Podcast supporter: https://patreon.com/anxietypodcast Subscribe to my Youtube Channel: https://youtube.com/timjpcollins?sub_confirmation=1 To get my Toolkit to Overcome Anxiety go to - http://timjpcollins.com/free In the USA text "LEANIN" to 44222
Megan Devine joins us again, this time talking about another shadow aspect of grief - anger. Anger shows up in many ways, including being angry at the person who died, at ourselves, and at someone or something we hold responsible for the death. Megan shares her personal and professional insight on the importance of acknowledging this anger and finding ways to navigate what can often be a very uncomfortable emotion. Megan is a teacher, speaker, psychotherapist, and also the author of the book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand, coming from Sounds True in September 2017. It's available for pre-order on Amazon and you can order it here. To learn more about Megan's practical, no-nonsense approach to grief, and her ability to guide people inside some of the most devastating experiences of life and love, check out her website. Want to listen to our first conversation with Megan about dating after the death of a partner? You can find it here.