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Ever wonder what doctors say about their patients when they think no one can hear? Dr. Rana Awdish doesn't have to wonder - as a patient, she overheard a lot of distressing things. Her experience led her to change how medical providers speak about - and to - their patients, spreading compassion through communication (which we know is a mission dear to my heart). Listen in to hear Dr. Awdish's take on the pressure on healthcare workers, too. Content note: mention of life-threatening illness, pregnancy loss, medical industry In this episode we cover: The “two educations” of Dr. Awdish - med school and a life threatening illness Why miscommunication is such a dangerous medical practice Being present is only the first step - validation is where the real healing begins Why compassionate communication helps doctors - maybe even more than it helps patients The very cool CLEAR program - using trained actors to help doctors & medical providers learn how to connect with patients going through some of the hardest times of their lives We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2022. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. About our guest: Dr. Rana Awdish is a critical care physician operating on the front lines during COVID-19 at Henry Ford Hospital in Detroit, MI. Her own serious illness in 2008 has informed her belief in the power of compassion, sacred listening, and community. As medical director of the Care Experience for the Henry Ford Healthcare System, she is training staff to practice empathy in critical care. Find her at ranaawdishmd.com About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Read Dr. Awdish's book - In Shock: My journey from death to recovery and the redemptive power of hope Read “Restoration in the Aftermath” and ”The Shape of the Shore” from Dr. Awdish Creative Writing as a Medical Instrument - paper by Jay Baruch, cited by Dr. Awdish Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's no secret that healthcare professionals and caregivers of all kinds are stretched beyond their limits. We can't look to healthcare systems themselves to give us the care and attention we need, so where CAN we go for support (and answers)? Don't miss this week's episode with guests Koshin Paley Ellison and Chodo Robert Campbell of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care. In this episode we cover: Why it's important to look beyond the identified patient to the invisible web of caregivers The realities of caregiver burnout and stress The one practice you can do even - and especially - when you have no time to care for yourself Do you stay or do you go? Making decisions for yourself inside this healthcare system catastrophe We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2022. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. About our guests: Sensei Chodo Robert Campbell is co-founder of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care. His passion lies in bereavement counseling and advocating for change in the way our healthcare institutions work with the dying. Find Chodo and the NYZC @newyorkzencenter on IG, and online at zencare.org Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison is an author, Zen teacher, Jungian psychotherapist, and Certified Chaplaincy Educator. He is the author of Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up and the co-editor of Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life Care. Find him on IG @koshinpaleyellison About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: If you work in healthcare, I very strongly recommend you check out New York Zen Center's Contemplative Medicine Fellowship. To hear one of my favorite passages of all time, read by Chodo Robert Campbell, check out the first video at this link. All of the Zen Center's offerings, from books to support groups to ongoing educational opportunities can be found at zencare.org. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The world can feel like such a lonely place sometimes. You ever feel like there's not enough love and support to go around? Like, there's a severe shortage of compassion in the world, both for you and well, everyone? Me too, friends. To get us into this topic, this week on It's OK, we cover grief comparisons, like whether divorce and death should be compared, or if the death of anyone should be compared to the loss of a pet. Of course the short answer is no: grief comparisons are never useful. For the long answer though - listen to the show. This episode is basically my TED talk, if I had one, on how we create that support-filled world we all want (and deserve). It's my personal favorite episode of season one, brought to you again for this Valentine's day. In this episode we cover: Why comparing divorce to death, or pet loss to child loss, is a Very. Bad. Idea. (usually) Is it ok to be sad about a musician or actor's death, even if you never met them? How to treat compassion like an abundant resource AND have good boundaries all at the same The path to the love-filled, support-rich world we all want (it's not easy, but it's worth it) Terminology update: in this episode I use the term gender-fluid, but the term gender-expansive is more accurate. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Notable quote: “It sounds pretty woo but compassion really is an expandable resource. Practicing inclusion and validation means people feel heard, and heard people hear people, which means the whole culture starts to change from one of vindictive “how dare you feel that way!” to at worst, a neutral, impartial kindness, and at best - well, being generous like this creates a world built and sustained by love.” - Megan Devine Resources: Love in action! Check out this exceptionally non-extensive list of people to learn from as we grow the love-filled world we all want: Rachel Cargle, Alok Menon, Alice Wong, Free Mom Hugs, Farmer Veteran Coalition, Natalie Weaver, & Resting Waters Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Tembi Locke lived an amazing love story: she met a handsome chef during a study abroad year in Italy when she was just 20 years old. They moved to LA to pursue Tembi's acting career, and built a life around their love of food, family, and each other. And then leiomyosarcoma arrived. Is it still a Hollywood love story if it doesn't have a happy ending? In this episode we cover: Who's the real couple behind the hit Netflix series, From Scratch? Why Tembi made sure From Scratch was an honest guide to profound loss How the sleeper hit show Eureka taught Tembi that it's ok to let people help How Tembi Locke learned about the grief in Never Have I Ever only after the show came out We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2023. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses Related episodes : Live Each Day Like It's Your First: with Alua Arthur Grief In Fiction, Grief In Life, with Best-Selling Author, Emily X.R. Pan About our guest: Tembi Locke is a writer, executive producer, and an accomplished actor. Her best-selling book, From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Finding Home was the basis for the hit Netflix series, From Scratch. Find her @tembilocke About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Read Tembi Locke's book - From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Finding Home Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Did anyone teach you that understanding your grief is the key to being (or becoming) a healthy human being? Probably not. In this expansive episode, Megan speaks with world-renowned author and physician Gabor Maté about the role of trauma and grief in our personal lives and in society at large. Dr. Gabor Maté on grief, this week on It's OK that You're Not OK. In this episode we cover: What is “personal agency” and why does losing personal agency create disease? Why calling grief a disorder has social, relational and political ramifications How do elephants grieve? Is it really so different from humans? Women as the emotional shock absorbers for the rest of the world Dr. Gabor Maté's conversation with Prince Harry (!) We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2023. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and author, with expertise in trauma, stress, addiction, and child development. He's the NYT best-selling author of The Myth of Normal, Scattered Minds, the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, and many other books. Find him at drgabormate.com About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Watch the documentary The Wisdom of Trauma exploring Gabor Maté's work to understand the connection between illness, addiction, trauma, and society. Read Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Can you heal pain by focusing on joy? Baratunde Thurston gave what's been called “the greatest TED talk of all time.” He's written about being Black in America, he's got a podcast about community involvement called How to Citizen, and he's got a PBS television show that explores the beauty and diversity of America. There's a duality running through all of this work, and in Baratunde's personal life: mourning and celebration. From the early death of a parent, to men's emotional health, to violence against Black men and boys, to the healing power of play and community, this week's episode is a fascinating discussion of both grief and celebration - and why you don't get one without the other. In this episode we cover: Baratunde says he's “wired for optimism” - which makes identifying his own grief… complicated How you can lose a parent at a young age and not recognize the impact until you're an adult Why seeing other people be good parents can bring up grief Black joy and men's community (plus the hashtag #BlackMenFrolicking) Why is it hard to play as an adult - and find other adults to play with? We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2023. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. About our guest: Baratunde Thurston is an Emmy-nominated, multi-platform storyteller and producer operating at the intersection of race, tech, democracy, and climate. He is the host of the PBS television series America Outdoors with Baratunde Thurston, creator and host of How To Citizen with Baratunde, and a founding partner of the new media startup Puck. His comedic memoir, How To Be Black, is a New York Times best-seller. Baratunde serves on the boards of BUILD.org and the Brooklyn Public Library. Find him at baratunde.com and follow him on social media @baratunde About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Read Baratunde's book - How to be Black Baratunde's TED talk How to Deconstruct Racism, One Headline at a Time ‘America is addicted to watching me die…' - Baratunde's Puck article "Thoughts & Tears For Tyre" Baratunde mentioned Valarie Kaur - get her book, See No Stranger, and listen to her episode on It's OK that You're Not OK Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Have you ever wanted to just SMASH things? Leanne Pedante and her husband Miles' relationship was built on bravery and communication - they worked so hard to reach the next step together, excited to explore the edges of possibility in love and in life. On his way back to see Leanne after several months away, Miles' car veered off the road, and he was killed. In the just under three years since, Leanne has continued to grow the virtual reality fitness community, Supernatural. As a late-comer to fitness, Leanne is no stranger to using movement as a way to process and express pain. Today on It's OK, we discuss the ways grief has upended her life, and the ways that both movement and community have kept her alive - willing, at least most days, to lean into the full experience of life. In this episode we cover: Punk-style relationships: how Leanne & Miles created a marriage that suited them What one friend told Leanne, and how those words kept her tethered to the world Why grief-informed fitness should really be a thing The weird world of encouraging others to do things you're not comfortable doing yourself We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Leanne Pedante is a trainer and trauma + resiliency coach, whose work focuses on connecting people to their bodies and to their full potential. She works as both coach and the Head of Fitness for Supernatural, the VR fitness platform. Her own workouts let her celebrate her physical and mental strength and she wants to show others how to access the pride and power within joyful movement. Follow her on IG at @leannepedante About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Sign up for Leanne's newsletter and check out the other community-building things she's created at her website leannepedante.com Try Supernatural with a free trial (VR headset required) Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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The holidays are over - you made it. By the looks of our inbox, the season wasn't easy. This week, a holiday debrief, including bad behavior from therapists, why religion is not the answer to grief, and some true facts about dating after loss. In this episode we cover: How to say “I can't work with you” without accidentally shaming your patients or clients Why “but your (dead relative) is all around you, just in a new form!” maybe isn't the most supportive thing to say Questions to ask yourself when faced with a surprise romantic breakup (and what that has to do with grief) And as always - fun talk about boundaries. We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2022. Want to become a more grief-informed, human-centered therapist or provider? Registration is open now for Megan Devine's 6 month online Grief Care Professional Certificate Program. Details at this link. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Is acceptance overrated? What happens when you have to face a new year without your person in it (or without the health you used to have!)? In this special two-part episode, we face the new year together - with special guest, historian, author, and queen of awkward conversations, Kate Bowler. In part 2 of this episode we cover How do you have hope for the year to come when right now maybe isn't so great? Acceptance, moving forward, and ferocious self-advocacy The Math of Suffering: this year, last year, and measuring love Why social bonds matter, and what happens when no one sees you We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2021. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. About our guest: Kate Bowler, PhD, is an associate professor of the history of Christianity in North America at Duke Divinity School. Author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I've Loved). Her latest book, No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear), grapples with her diagnosis, her ambition, and her faith as she tries to come to terms with limitations in a culture that says anything is possible. Find her at katebowler.com and follow her on social media @katecbowler About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Read Kate Bowler's memoir Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I've Loved) Read Kate's latest book No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear) Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Is acceptance overrated? What happens when you have to face a new year without your person in it (or without the health you used to have!)? In this special two-part episode, we face the new year together - with special guest, historian, author, and queen of awkward conversations, Kate Bowler. In this episode we cover: How do you have hope for the year to come when right now maybe isn't so great? Acceptance, moving forward, and ferocious self-advocacy The Math of Suffering: this year, last year, and measuring love Why social bonds matter, and what happens when no one sees you We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2021. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. About our guest: Kate Bowler, PhD, is an associate professor of the history of Christianity in North America at Duke Divinity School. Author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I've Loved). Her latest book, No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear), grapples with her diagnosis, her ambition, and her faith as she tries to come to terms with limitations in a culture that says anything is possible. Find her at katebowler.com and follow her on social media @katecbowler About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Read Kate Bowler's memoir Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I've Loved) Read Kate's latest book No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear) Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
My dad used to read ‘‘Twas the Night Before Christmas” every Christmas Eve when I was a kid, after dinner and before we opened our Christmas pjs. So many of you are missing your dads, or grandparents, or the father of your kids. This year, I asked my dad to record the Christmas Eve classic for the show. I wanted you to have a stand-in grandpa, in case you were missing one of your own. From my family to yours, may you have the best holiday season available to you. (‘Twas the Night Before Christmas by Clement Clarke Moore was first published in 1823) Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The holiday season is sometimes joyful, sometimes stressful - and to be honest, it's usually a mix of both. Between external pressures and family dynamics, we figure everyone can use some tips on making it through the season. In this episode we cover: How to bring up your loved one's absence when no one else will Making a good enough holiday for your family when you're not in the holiday spirit Tips for navigating intrusive personal questions (like “when will you have kids?” or “don't you think it's time you moved on?”) Why consensus is a terrible holiday goal, but collaboration might just be the best thing possible We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What if there's nothing to fix? What if you could just, you know, be yourself - whatever that looks like today? When I told people that this week's guest was none other than adrienne maree brown - the excitement level was off the charts. adrienne maree brown is the author of Emergent Strategy and Pleasure Activism, among other works, and she's instrumental in opening conversations about bodies, power, grief, and change (personal and collective). This week, it's all grief - and it's all love. There is nothing to fix, and there is plenty to change. In this episode we cover: How self-sabotaging behaviors become addictive The freedom of being yourself (and why that pisses other people off) How can you make this day worthy of your grief? Why humor sometimes fits “the shape of grief” and sometimes it does not Feelings are your body's way of communicating needs We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Related episodes: Book bans, grief, and love: what do these have to do with social movements? Malkia Devich-Cyril Is There Any Good News on Climate Change? With Bill McKibben Coming Home to Yourself with Alex Elle About our guest: adrienne maree brown is the author of wildly influential books including Emergent Strategy, We Will Not Cancel Us and Pleasure Activism, plus the novellas Grievers and Maroons. She is a social media meme queen, writer, podcaster, musician, and movement facilitator based in Durham, NC. Find her at adriennemareebrown.net and on Instagram and Facebook. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Boundaried in Love with Prentis Hemphill and adrienne maree brown “The Pleasure Dome” by adrienne maree brown, Bitch Media Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Look, there are some things in life - a LOT of things in life - that just can't be fixed or made better, you have to figure out how you're going to live with them. Sarah Ramey spent DECADES trying to find answers for why her body was falling apart. Her book, The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness, describes the complex, convoluted path through conventional and alternative medicines, her frustrations with being deemed a liar and hypochondriac, and the overlapping issues of misogyny, ableism, and well meaning but unhelpful support. If you've ever felt othered and invisible because of an illness or disability - this episode is for you. If you've ever loved someone with a chronic illness, or you're a medical provider in any capacity, this episode is 3000% for you. And if you're grieving some other loss or hardship, you'll recognize so much of yourself in this conversation: that human desire to be seen, loved, and supported, exactly as you are. In this episode we cover: What it's really like having a chronic, invisible illness (and if you have one, you'll feel seen!) How truly messed up the medical system is: Sarah's years' long efforts to be believed by doctors, and at a minimum: not be overtly harmed while seeking care How does being in a female body shift your odds of being believed - for ANYTHING, but especially mysterious, chronic illnesses? Sarah's music was featured in the hit show Wednesday, on Netflix. Can you be a successful musician and have a disability? Why hope is a complex concept when your life is constrained by illness or disability (and why hope is still REALLY important) We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Sarah Ramey is a writer and musician (known as Wolf Larsen). Her work has been featured in The Paris Review, NPR, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Ms. Magazine, and the Netflix show, Wednesday. Her book, The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness was a starred selection for Publisher's Weekly, Kirkus Reviews, and Booklist. Learn more at sarahmarieramey.com and wolflarsenmusic.com. Sarah has been living with serious chronic pain and illness for seventeen years. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: To join the next embodied writing course mentioned in the show, sign up at roottherapymaine.com Read Sarah's memoir: The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness Listen to Sarah's solo album: Quiet at the Kitchen Door Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Life is hard enough so don't make it harder by going at it alone. Connection is OK. Telling someone you're not ok is OK. Reach out for help when you need it. Don't starve yourself of connection to try to prove society's point of “only the strong survive”. Love is light and people are love. I challenge you to be vulnerable. Vulnerability = Freedom --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/des14/message
Our early childhood experiences of grief - and how our family systems dealt with loss - have a huge impact on our adult behaviors and relationships. This week, author Allyson Dinneen (@notesfromyourtherapist) joins me to discuss generational grief stories, and your number one most asked question: how does a grieving therapist (or another healthcare provider) go back to work? We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. About our guest: Allyson Dinneen is a marriage and family therapist, author, and the creator of the immensely popular Instagram account, Notes from Your Therapist - which is also the name of her recent book. Allyson's work has been featured in Forbes, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, and more. Find her on IG @notesfromyourtherapist and at allysondinneen.com. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Allyson's book - Notes from Your Therapist Megan and Allyson discuss a question from a previous episode that aired on January 3rd, 2022. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Recently The Washington Post released graphic images, videos, and audio recordings from mass shootings, in a report called “Terror on Repeat.” Should news outlets attempt to push awareness through the use of graphic imagery? If so, do survivor families have the right to refuse to let photos of their friends or family members be released? The answer, of course, is complicated. Complexity and nuance can be hard to find in the news and social media. Like so many things, the real answer comes down to sovereignty: the rights of the people directly involved to make choices about what actions are taken, and to what end. In this special encore episode, Sandy Hook parent survivor Nelba Márquez-Greene and I discuss what cries of “release the photos!” means to survivors who have already had their private lives invaded, and their peoples' images co-opted for others' use. That's just part of our conversation, and all of it is timely: we discuss what it's like to live such a public grief, and what it means to find joy - and hope - in an often violent world. Don't miss it. In this episode we cover: The importance of telling your own story in the ways you want to tell it (no matter who demands a soundbite) Supporting each other: the difference between an “inside the house” friend and an “on the porch” friend. Why no single form of advocacy for survivors is right for all survivors Where your money goes when you donate funds in the wake of a tragedy What to do when the next act of gun violence happens Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses. About our guest: Nelba Márquez-Greene is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in grief, loss, trauma and their impact on individuals and systems. What her official bio doesn't say is that her child was murdered at Sandy Hook Elementary. Find her at thisgrievinglife.com. Follow her on Instagram and Facebook @anagraceproject About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: There are many organizations fighting to end gun violence. Here are just a few: Moms Demand Action, Change the Ref, and Brady United. As Nelba suggested, if you want to support survivors of gun violence, find ways to support survivors in underserved communities, especially if their tragedy didn't make the national news. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What if you were just about to get divorced, but your partner gets sick? Like really sick? Rebecca Woolf was just about to leave an unhappy marriage when her husband got sick and died. What followed was a crash course in performative grief, and the dismantling of one life in order to build the next. This week on It's OK, we cover love, sex, marriage, divorce, grief, shame, assumptions (both internal and external), and personal agency - it's QUITE the conversation. Sensitivity note: this episode contains the F word, and references sex. In this episode we cover: The conventions of marriage and grief that trap people in inauthentic versions of themselves How you can love someone AND be relieved they're dead Why everyone has an opinion about how soon is too soon to date, have sex, or otherwise live your life after someone dies Grieving the time you lost living someone else's life Building your own “house of hope,” according to your own desires Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Rebecca Woolf has worked as a writer since her teens - it's the way she understands both herself and the world. Her essays have appeared on Refinery29, HuffPost, Parenting, and more. She currently authors the bi-weekly column Sex & the Single Mom on romper.com. Her latest book is All of This: a Memoir of Death and Desire. Find her on IG @rebeccawooolf (with three o's) and at rebeccawoolf.com About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Everybody knows the stages of grief. Even if you didn't go to grad school, I bet you can rattle them off. Thing is - those stages don't help anyone: not the pros trying to support patients or clients, not the person trying to survive an impossible situation. Tune in for the inside scoop on the stages of grief and what we should be doing instead, with a special shout-out to the tv shows getting grief right. In this episode we cover: Where the stages of grief came from, and why their creator was Less Than Pleased with what happened next Whether an “innocent” mention of the stages of grief really matters in a movie or tv show (shout out to Netflix: HMU!) What to do if your boss asks you to support your co-workers through a death in the company And much more, because I have a lot to say on these stages, apparently We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons of It's OK that You're Not OK. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How do we live in a world that's at least half terrible, and that is a conservative estimate?If you recognize that line, you already know Maggie Smith. This week on the show, we're talking about writing, marriage, divorce, and why you didn't need whatever happened to you in order to become who you're meant to be: as Maggie says, “trauma does not give you a “glow up.”” If you've ever wanted to write the story of your life - including the messy, difficult parts like divorce, miscarriage, and the loss of identity - this episode is for you. In this episode we cover: Why it's ok if your story doesn't have a happy ending (or even a happy middle) Do kids really need to learn about resilience? Does anything remain after devastating loss? What's it like having your personal story out in the world for other people to talk about? Divorce, miscarriage, and why sometimes the lemonade isn't worth the lemons We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons of It's OK that You're Not OK. Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Related episodes: Kate Bowler on the difference between transactional hope and functional hope Aubrey Hirsch on the power of storytelling David Ambroz on “A Place Called Home” Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Maggie Smith is the award-winning author of You Could Make This Place Beautiful, Good Bones, The Well Speaks of Its Own Poison, Lamp of the Body, and the national bestsellers Goldenrod and Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change. She has been widely published, appearing in The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Paris Review, The Nation, The Best American Poetry, and more. You can follow her on social media @MaggieSmithPoet About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Get the best-selling Writing Your Grief course and join over 15,000 people who've explored their grief - and their identity - through writing. All the details here. Maggie Smith's website Maggie's memoir - You Could Make This Place Beautiful “What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? / The world would split open.” - feminist poet Muriel Rukeyser Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
“Wonder is the root of love, the lack of wonder is the root of violence.” Valarie Kaur is no stranger to violence. As a Sikh, as a woman, as a person of color, violence has shaped both her activism and her deep sense of community care. Her Revolutionary Love Project is the blueprint for organizers, activists, and really - anyone in love with the world and what it could be. This week, the activist, and best-selling author of See No Stranger joins me to talk about love, action, and the power of wonder in the face of impossible things. In this episode we cover: How do you continue to work on behalf of EVERYONE for a more just and beautiful world, when some of those people cause great harm? Getting outside of unbearable pain so you can survive Do you have to suffer in order to be of service? Being an activist for the long haul “Squad care” and what it means for activists and anyone alive in the world Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. “I spent the last 20 years organizing my life around hate and I want to spend the next 20 years organizing around love. The pain of the world is the pain of the world, regardless.” - Valarie Kaur Starting this week we're releasing some of our favorite episodes from all three seasons of the show - some you may have missed, and some you need to listen to again and again just to absorb even more of their goodness. Want grief support with Megan? Apply for 1:1 sessions here, or join the monthly Q&A here. Related episodes: The Love-Filled World A Place Called Home: a conversation with child welfare advocate, David Ambroz Connection is the best medicine: with Dr. Rana Awdish Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Valarie Kaur is a renowned civil rights leader, lawyer, award-winning filmmaker, educator, author of the #1 LA Times Bestseller See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love, and founder of the Revolutionary Love Project. A daughter of Punjabi Sikh farmers in California, her work has ignited a national movement to reclaim love as a force for justice. Find her on IG @valariekaur. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Valarie Kaur's website The Revolutionary Love Learning Hub Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
You're Normal if You're Not Ok - Saly Glassman How do horses help with therapy? Today, I talk with Saly Glassman, founder and President of the Kindle Hill Foundation. We talk about her non-profit that helps first responders deal with the traumas they have experienced. ABOUT SALY GLASSMAN Saly Glassman was employed by Merrill Lynch (now Bank of America) for 39 years. In addition to her financial advisory skills, Saly has been known as an instructor, innovator, author, and problem solver. When her younger partners acquired her business, Saly had the opportunity to integrate her 60 year passion for horses with her goals of contributing to the mental health needs of Southeastern Pennsylvania. As a graduate of Cornell University, majoring in psychology, Saly has been driven to make a difference in the mental health world by developing a unique equine assisted therapy, learning and training program that offers an alternative approach to traditional mental health services. Driven by her passion to address the stigma of seeking help in the law enforcement community, she has vigorously advocated for constructive mental health protocols within the first responder community. Saly is an Associate Member of the Pennsylvania Chiefs of Police Association, and is certified in the following law enforcement trainings: ABLE (Active Bystandership for Law Enforcement), ICAT (Integrating Communications, Assessments and Tactics), Resiliency Training for Law Enforcement, and CISM (Critical Incident Stress Management). Connect with Saly: https://facebook.com/KindleHillFoundation LinkedIn Instagram +++++ First Responder Wellness Podcast Patreon Channel: https://www.patreon.com/FirstResponderWellnessPodcast PTSD911 Documentary: https://ptsd911movie.com/ Purchase the PTSD911 film for your public safety agency or organization: https://ptsd911.myshopify.com/products/ptsd911-digital-toolkit-pre-orders-only
Being fabulous can save your life. The Old Gays are a social media sensation: flamboyant outfits, lip synched dance parties, and risque theatrics you might not expect of men in their 70s and 80s. A lot of their media attention focuses on the joy they bring to all of us. But in their new book, The Old Gays' Guide to the Good Life, they share a deeper story. This week on It's OK, Bill, Bob, Mick, and Jessay talk about the missing generation of gay elders, and how being “discovered” late in life saved them. In this episode we cover: Finding beauty inside immense suffering Why is it so hard to talk about devastating collective events - like AIDS and COVID - once the initial danger is over? The role of luck in surviving when so many did not Learning to love yourself first - at any age Chosen family and the power of being truly seen for who you are - in good times and bad Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Related episode: What's It All For? Loss and Meaning In Midlife with Chip Conley Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guests: The Old Gays are best friends Mick Peterson, Bill Lyons, Robert Reeves, and Jessay Martin. Flamboyant social media celebrities - @oldgays - they've also become educators, teaching people about the strides that have been made over the last five decades in the LGBTQIA+ community. Get their new tell-all group memoir, The Old Gays Guide to the Good Life: Lessons Learned about Love and Death, Sex and Sin, and Saving the Best for Last Find them on IG at @theoldgays and on TikTok at @oldgays. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: The San Francisco AIDS Foundation and UCSF house a lot of queer history related to the AIDS epidemic. National AIDS Memorial Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The scene is 1990's New York City. Young David Ambroz and his two siblings are homeless, sleeping in bus shelters and bathing in public restrooms, under the care of his mentally ill mother. The child he was is still evident in the person he grew up to be: a nationally recognized expert on child welfare, and a staunch supporter of the foster care system. This week on It's OK that You're Not OK, we discuss both the horror and the joy of his childhood, landing on a vision of hope for the future that everyone (yes, you!) can help bring into fruition. Sensitivity note: this episode explores the realities of being a homeless child, including brief examples of cruelty and non-graphic mention of sexual assault. In this episode we cover: The terrifying, liberating power of putting your personal story out into the world for everyone to see “Occasional angels” and how they helped young David survive the cruelty of his upbringing The intersections of mental illness, homelessness, and poverty Beyond fostering: how anyone can take action to create the kind of world where kids are safe and loved and cared for Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: David Ambroz is a national poverty and child welfare expert and advocate. He currently serves as the Head of Community Engagement (West) for Amazon, coordinating with non-profits and community leaders for social good. David's memoir, A Place Called Home, is a heart-wrenching yet inspiring story, depicting childhood poverty and homelessness as it is experienced by so many young people. Find him at davidambroz.com, on IG @hjdambroz, and on LinkedIn. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Just talking about foster care can help foster care. Check out FosterMore, the foundation David co-founded with his sister, Jennifer Perry. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Lots of smart, high achieving people learned to greet pain with stoicism: by being mature and responsible, even as kids. But what happens when you can't maintain the facade of having your sh*t entirely together? Do you ever get to be less than Super Human? In this episode we cover: Perfectionism as a coping mechanism for all kinds of emotional wounds Is distraction bad for you? When the worst has already happened, how do you control your anxiety? Is there any good way to tell kids that someone they love is dying? Working within systems where vulnerability is punished (looking at you, medicine & law) How medical aid in dying has changed over the years Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. “I live with a constant fear of liking anyone or anything too much lest I lose it.” - Laurel Braitman Related episodes: Connection Is the Best Medicine: with Dr. Rana Awdish Elise Loehnen: The 7 Deadly Sins and the Crown of Sadness Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Laurel Braitman is a New York Times bestselling author - her new book, What Looks Like Bravery: An Epic Journey Through Loss to Love, is out now. She's the founder of Writing Medicine, a global community of writing healthcare professionals, and the Director of Writing and Storytelling at the Medical Humanities and the Arts Program at the Stanford University School of Medicine. Find her at laurelbraitman.com and on IG @laurel_braitman. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Writing Medicine - Laurel Braitman's global writing community for healthcare workers Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dementia means losing your person over and over again. Margo Timmins and her siblings watched their father lose pieces of himself for years. They processed all that loss the way they always have: through music. The Cowboy Junkies vocalist joins us this week to talk about love, memory, and the ferocious beauty of turning towards what hurts. *not sure who the Cowboy Junkies are? Google “cowboy junkies sweet jane” - I bet you'll instantly recognize her voice. In this episode we cover: The endless “interpretation” of music - each song means something completely different to the writer and the vocalist and the audience Why helping someone not be scared of dying isn't the goal Everybody's hell is the correct hell for them, and everyone's hell is valid. (huh?) How a neutral, logical approach to emotions helps you navigate truly impossible things (sometimes) Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. “Beauty contains death and suffering and outcomes you did not want.” - Margo Timmins Related episodes: The Love-Filled World The Grief of Getting What You Want: with Chase Jarvis Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Margo Timmins is the lead vocalist of the Cowboy Junkies, an iconic Canadian alternative country/blues/folk rock band. Find their new album, Such Ferocious Beauty, wherever you get your music. And get into their oldies, too. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: For dementia support, we love Dr. Natali Edmonds (@dementia_careblazers) Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We fight hard for the things we believe in. But HOW we fight for those things causes more damage than we realize. Jameela Jamil is a lightning rod for criticism, but it's not just how people treat her that she's concerned about. “The most punk thing I can do is move towards love and unity.” - Jameela Jamil In this episode we cover: Our odd habit of dehumanizing each other in the name of “progress” Do we believe, fundamentally, that human beings are allowed to change and grow? What kids learn when we attack each other on social media (or in the news) Why vengeance - aka: cancel culture - isn't going to help us get the world we want Why you should try to make more mistakes Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. “Most of our behavior on all political sides is coming from trauma and fear - it's not all just ignorance. We have to listen for that pain if we're going to be effective.” - Jameela Jamil Related episodes: Book Bans, Grief, and Love: What Do These Have to Do With Social Movements? with Malkia Devich-Cyril Why Do We Celebrate Trauma (aka: Resilience)? with Dr. Gabor Maté Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Jameela Jamil is an actress, advocate, and podcast host. You've seen her in The Good Place, She-Hulk: Attorney at Law, and Legendary, and all over social media commenting on the odd things we do to ourselves and each other. Follow her on IG @jameelajamil, and listen to her podcast I Weigh. About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Did anyone teach you that understanding your grief is the key to being (or becoming) a healthy human being? Probably not. In this expansive episode, Megan speaks with world-renowned author and physician Gabor Maté about the role of trauma and grief in our personal lives and in society at large. Dr. Gabor Maté on grief, this week on It's OK that You're Not OK, the podcast. In this episode we cover: What is “personal agency” and why does losing personal agency create disease? Why calling grief a disorder has social, relational and political ramifications How do elephants grieve? Is it really so different from humans? Women as the emotional shock absorbers for the rest of the world Why we often ignore other peoples' pain to make ourselves comfortable Does taking pain seriously make you more hopeful? Dr. Gabor Maté's conversation with Prince Harry (!) Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About the guest: Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and author, with expertise in trauma, stress, addiction, and child development. He's the NYT best-selling author of The Myth of Normal, the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, and many other books. Find him at drgabormate.com About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Find her @refugeingrief Additional resources: Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and research mentioned in this episode The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté Scattered Minds by Gabor Maté The Wisdom of Trauma - documentary exploring Gabor Maté's work to understand the connection between illness, addiction, trauma, and society. Jaak Panksepp researched connections between human emotion processing and other mammals Hold Onto Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté Research on early trauma in elephants The Washington Post article about Megan's loss NYT Mothers are The ‘Shock Absorbers' Of Our Society Article on Hillary Clinton's traumatic family history NYT Fighting Maternal Mortality Among Black Women Books and resources may contain affiliate links. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What happens when mental health suffers in the workplace? What are we supposed to do? It seems like the obvious answer would be to simply ask for help. But some workplaces don't allow for it. Also, some of our own minds don't allow for it. As James Pickles says, “You've got to know you have a problem to ask for help.” In this episode, Priscilla McKinney, our CEO of Little Bird Marketing, engages in a compelling conversation with James Pickles, Certified Performance Coach and award-winning Wellbeing Consultant. Together, they explore James's remarkable journey from the depths of a mental health crisis to becoming a sought-after keynote speaker and coach. His story began in the fast-paced world of corporate sales, where he excelled in a high-pressure role. However, beneath the façade of success, James was silently battling stress and burnout, not unlike many professionals today. It wasn't until a candid moment of vulnerability that his journey took an unexpected turn. Have you experienced the emotional turmoil of stress and burnout in the workplace? Opening up in a work environment can feel like risking your livelihood. People often avoid initiating difficult conversations about mental health due to fear or discomfort. James has a goal to openly share his story to create a safe environment for others to share their struggles. It's never too late to rediscover our true selves, reclaim our authenticity, and inspire others to do the same. Listen in to learn more about the path to mental wellness in the workplace with Priscilla and James. SPONSORS Want to know the real intentions of survey-takers? Join CloudResearch on October 12th for their upcoming presentation, "A Deeper Dive Inside the Click Farm: What 'LIES' Behind Your Data PART II." Following their groundbreaking webinar on survey fraud, CloudResearch returns to reveal the hidden truths behind survey-taker motivations and address the presence of fraudulent participants, inattentive responders, and bots. Gain insights into the latest findings and discover new strategies to combat fraud in the market research industry. Register now at SurveyFraud.com for this invaluable event, which also includes free access to the Fraud Detection Tool to quantify fraud in your surveys. Don't miss out on securing trust in your data! Are you looking for experts and tools to collect research data worldwide? Global sampling, field management and data collection are just some of the services that Gazelle Global provides. Visit gazelleglobal.com to learn more about how our expertise can help you unearth quality data that drives meaningful insights. Get your research done anywhere around the world quickly and efficiently. Visit gazelleglobal.com today.
How do you turn the worst thing that's ever happened to you into a comedy show? Comedian Michael Cruz Kayne went viral for a tweet he posted on the 10th anniversary of his newborn son's death. What followed was an outpouring of support, but also: of storytelling, with thousands of people sharing their own experiences of loss. His one man show, Sorry for Your Loss, and his podcast, A Good Cry, have made the topic of child loss a little bit easier to approach. He'd like you to know you should ask your sad friend about the sad thing that happened to them: it's ok to not know what to say. In this episode we cover: Can you make comedy about tragedy? How telling the truth can make you less lonely Is it okay to say “sorry for your loss”? If family members would be upset by what you say on stage, should you say it anyway? Does everything happen for a reason? (spoiler: no. but maybe yes.) Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. “Having half of infinity is also infinity. I got more than you could ever possibly get, and I thought I was gonna get twice that.” - Michael Cruz Kayne, on the enduring grief of his son's death. Related episodes: Tembi Locke - From Scratch Can We Make This Place Beautiful? with Maggie Smith Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Comedian and writer Michael Cruz Kayne is the host of A Good Cry, and creator of the one man show, Sorry For Your Loss, from Audible theater. He's an Emmy nominated, Peabody award winning writer on the Late Show with Stephen Colbert. Find him at michaelcruzkayne.com and on Instagram and Twitter @cruzkayne About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Find her @refugeingrief Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Should you stop being “good”? According to the 7 deadly sins, a “good person” needs no rest, has no appetite, has no desires, puts themselves last, and is never upset. NYT best-selling author Elise Loehnen says we spend most of our energy denying the needs and instincts that make us human - like our needs for love, connection, success, and rest. It's hard to be “ok” when you've spent a lifetime denying your own needs. In this episode we cover: How the 7 deadly sins morphed into a rulebook for everyday life Who does she think she is?! Is the sin of greed keeping you from making friends? Why the most harmful thing you can do to a woman is destroy her reputation Why don't we allow men to be sad? (it's not what you think) The grief in how much time you've lost trying to be good Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here. “You can't interrupt the status quo alone. This is communal work.” - Elise Loehnen Related episodes: Horse Barbie & Cultivating Trans Joy with Geena Rocero Book Bans, Grief, and Love: What Do These Have to Do With Social Movements? with Malkia Devich-Cyril Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Elise Loehnen is the author of the New York Times bestseller, On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. She's written for The Oprah Magazine, Stylist, and The New York Times, and hosts the podcast, Pulling the Thread. Find her @eliseloehnen About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Find her @refugeingrief Additional resources: Elise's NYT best seller: On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Who do you call when it feels like your world is falling apart? Do you share your struggles with trusted friends or is it hard to open up about what is going on in your life? Toward the end of her first marriage Kristen Glass broke a habit she'd had for years - struggling silently. For years she suffered alone, carrying shame for her actions and circumstances that left her feeling condemned and isolated. All that changed one weekend in Utah when she found the courage to tell a friend her story. That simple act of speaking up freed her to see the truth of who God made her to be and His great love for her. Join me for her story that has dark times and places but is also filled with the hope of redemption and restoration that only God can bring. Connect with Kristen Glass: Email: gypsysoulinteriors@gmail.com Related Episodes: Walking Through Divorce :: Lara Williams [Ep 324] Forgiving What You Can't Forget :: Lysa TerKeurst [Ep 304] Good Boundaries and Goodbyes :: Lysa TerKeurst [Ep 387] Coping Mechanisms, Recovery, and Codependency :: Taylor Bashta [Ep 275] Sinners Married to Sinners - How God Refines Us :: Cheryl Scruggs and Jae Carpenter [Ep 195] Rebuilding From an Abusive Marriage :: Jeni B [Ep 246] Featured Sponsors: Find links to this week's sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.
Tembi Locke lived an amazing love story: she met a handsome chef during a study abroad year in Italy when she was just 20 years old. They moved to LA to pursue Tembi's acting career, and built a life around their love of food, family, and each other. And then leiomyosarcoma arrived. Is it still a Hollywood love story if it doesn't have a happy ending? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.Train with Megan here: next course begins 9/04 In this episode we cover: Who's the real couple behind the hit Netflix series, From Scratch? Why Tembi made sure From Scratch was an honest guide to profound loss How the sleeper hit show Eureka taught Tembi that it's ok to let people help How Tembi Locke learned about the grief in Never Have I Ever only after the show came out Why you don't have to know how it all works out before you get started. Related episodes: Live Each Day Like It's Your First: with Alua Arthur Grief In Fiction, Grief In Life, with Best-Selling Author, Emily X.R. Pan Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses About our guest: Tembi Locke is a writer, executive producer, and an accomplished actor. Her best-selling book, From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Finding Home was the basis for the hit Netflix series, From Scratch. Find her @tembilocke About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Find her @refugeingrief Additional resources: Read Tembi Locke's book - From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Finding Home Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Sam Sanders is a well known and well loved radio and podcast host. He went a little extra-viral for a recent episode of his show, Vibe Check, in which he and his co-hosts openly discussed grief. This week on It's OK, Sam joins us to talk about being open with his grief, and the ongoing relationships we have even after death. In this episode we cover: What happens if you give grief a voice? The double-edged sword of church communities Why understanding context helps you treat yourself more kindly How men speaking honestly about grief helps everyone Throwing out the rule book on grief Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.Train with Megan here: next course begins 9/04 Related episodes: A Renaissance of our Own: Rachel Cargle Coming Home to Yourself with Alex Elle Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok Notable quotes: “I wish churches would say, “Every emotion you feel is allowed and is in fact, holy, because God made them all.” - Sam Sanders About our guest: Sam Sanders is the host of Into It, the flagship culture podcast from Vulture, and the co-host of Vibe Check on Stitcher. He covered electoral politics for NPR, and was one of the original co-hosts of The NPR Politics Podcast. Sam also created and hosted the NPR news & culture podcast, It's Been a Minute. Find him on social @samsanders About Megan: Psychotherapist Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Find her @refugeingrief Additional resources: Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
When life feels hard, does “peak performance” mean anything? Steven Kotler is known as the NYT best selling author of books like Stealing Fire and The Rise of Superman, but can the science of stretching limits apply to grief of any kind? If you look beyond the slick language of bio-hacking and extreme sports typically found in discussions on peak performance, it turns out there's something here for all of us. In this episode we cover: How peak performance applies to your life - even if you're not an athlete Why gratitude tends to work better than affirmations The scientific reason why play is good for you - and important for healthy aging The first three days of grief: what loss is like inside a hospice-based dog rescue How a change in mindset can extend your life by eight years (but that's not the same as toxic positivity) Related episodes: What's It All For? Loss and Meaning in Midlife with Chip Conley Pet Loss and Veterinarians Who Cry: with Veterinary Oncologist and Author Dr. Renee Alsarraf Connection is the Best Medicine: with Dr. Rana Adwish Notable quotes: “Limits are liberating.” – Steven Kotler “Hope is about the collaborative effort.” – Steven Kotler About our guest: Steven Kotler is one of the world's most renowned experts on human performance. His NYT best selling books include The Art of Impossible and The Rise of Superman. He's the co-founder of Planet Home and the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective. Steven's work has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes, and appears in over 100 publications, including the Wall Street Journal, TIME, and the Harvard Business Review. His latest book, Gnar Country: Growing Old, Staying Rad, details the application of peak performance tenets on an aging body. Find him at stevenkotler.com About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: The Art of Impossible: a Peak Performance Primer Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work The Future Is Faster Than You Think by Peter H. Diamandis and Steven Kotler The Rise of Superman: Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance A Small Furry Prayer: Dog Rescue and the Meaning of Life Rancho de Chihuahua - Joy and Steven's non-profit dog sanctuary Want to become a more grief-informed, human-centered therapist or provider? Registration is open now for Megan Devine's 6 month online Grief Care Professional Certificate Program. Details at this link. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for an inexpensive monthly open video Q&A clinic for grieving people. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What if there's nothing to fix? What if you could just, you know, be yourself - whatever that looks like today? When I told people that this week's guest was none other than adrienne maree brown - the excitement level was off the charts. adrienne maree brown is the author of Emergent Strategy and Pleasure Activism, among other works, and she's instrumental in opening conversations about bodies, power, grief, and change (personal and collective). This week, it's all grief - and it's all love. There is nothing to fix, and there is plenty to change. In this episode we cover: How self-sabotaging behaviors become addictive The freedom of being yourself (and why that pisses other people off) How can you make this day worthy of your grief? Why humor sometimes fits “the shape of grief” and sometimes it does not Feelings are your body's way of communicating needs What mycelium and mushrooms can teach us about death adrienne's vision of the future - including aliens, education, poetry, and love Want to learn the skills you need to work with grief? Join Megan's grief intensive training right here. Related episodes: Book bans, grief, and love: what do these have to do with social movements? Malkia Devich-Cyril Is There Any Good News on Climate Change? With Bill McKibben Coming Home to Yourself with Alex Elle Notable quotes: “The same Goddess of the ocean and stars and everything magnificent, is also the god of mosquitoes and bug bites and cancer.” - adrienne maree brown “People are so angry about all the ways that we're just being ourselves. And I'm like, you're only angry because you haven't given yourself permission to do it too.” - adrienne maree brown About our guest: adrienne maree brown is the author of wildly influential books including Emergent Strategy, We Will Not Cancel Us and Pleasure Activism, plus the novellas Grievers and Maroons. She is a social media meme queen, writer, podcaster, musician, and movement facilitator based in Durham, NC. Find her at adriennemareebrown.net, and on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Boundaried in Love with Prentis Hemphill and adrienne maree brown “The Pleasure Dome” by adrienne maree brown, Bitch Media Want to become a more grief-informed, human-centered therapist or provider? Registration is open now for Megan Devine's 6 month online Grief Care Professional Certificate Program. Details at this link. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for an inexpensive monthly open video Q&A clinic for grieving people. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Can you hide in plain sight? From trans beauty pageants in the Philippines, to the catwalks of New York City fashion week, to the Ted Talk mainstage – Filipina-American model Geena Rocero has lived an astounding life. This week on It's OK that You're Not OK, the author of Horse Barbie: A Memoir shares what it costs to suppress your true self in order to find safety and success, and why joy is powerful medicine. Geena Rocero is a trans advocate, speaker, and author of the new book, Horse Barbie. In this episode we cover: Why do we have to talk about gender all the time anyway? How can parents support trans children? The history of trans beauty pageants in the Philippines The grief involved in hiding your true self in order to stay safe Why joy - and a sense of humor - are real survival tools Related episodes: Coming Home to Yourself with Alex Elle If I Survived, You Can Too! Author Emi Nietfeld on the Hollowness of the Transformation Narrative Over and Over Again: Illustrator Aubrey Hirsch on the Power of Storytelling Notable quotes: “Surviving means feeling a sense of a life well lived.” - Geena Rocero “Live your most unapologetic self. Tell that story, in the only way you know. And live that life, in the only way you know… because that's really the only way we'll get through this.” - Geena Rocero About our guest: Geena Rocero is a Filipina-American model, public speaker, author, and trans rights advocate. Ms. Rocero made history as the first trans woman ambassador for Miss Universe Nepal, and the first trans Asian Playboy Playmate of the Year. Her TED Talk, “Why I Must Come Out,” has been viewed over 3.7 million times. She's an advisory board member of SeeHer, a global coalition working to increase representation and accurate portrayal of all women and girls in marketing, media, and entertainment. She's spoken at the White House and United Nations, and has been featured on CNN, MSNBC, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Vanity Fair, and Variety. Her book Horse Barbie: A Memoir was named one of the Best Memoirs of 2023 by Elle Magazine. Find her @geenarocero on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Watch Geena's TED Talk “Why I Must Come Out” Read Geena's book - Horse Barbie: A Memoir SeeHer Want to become a more grief-informed, human-centered therapist or provider? Registration is open now for Megan Devine's 6 month online Grief Care Professional Certificate Program. Details at this link. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: your questions, answered. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. For a collection of all the books mentioned in the history of the show (plus other things we think are interesting or helpful), visit the affiliate store. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Whether you're interested in social justice or not, there's no denying the grief simmering beneath the surface of daily life. It's in our personal lives, it's in the news, it's in our communities. The thing is - we never really talk about it: just how much grief connects us. If we learn to lean into that grief together, we might really create the beautiful world we all long for. Malkia Devich-Cyril knows grief from the inside out. They grew up knowing their mom would die of her illness. They grew up immersed in the grief that is endemic to being Black in America. And they cared for their wife, comedian Alana Devich-Cyril through her death in 2018. Malkia is a poet and media activist. They are the executive director of the MediaJustice, and a co-founder of the Media Action Grassroots Network. Their writings on media, race, justice, and grief frequently appear in national publications such as Politico, The Guardian, and The Atlantic, and in the Oscar nominated documentary film, 13th. This episode is STUNNING. It has gifts for everyone, whether you're grieving a personal loss, or you're an activist of any kind. If you ARE an activist or organizer, you need to hear what Malkia has to say about our narrative strategies, and what it really takes to make change happen. In this episode we cover: The difference between sorrow and grief How “feelings aren't facts” relates to grief Is it normal to feel like you failed to keep someone alive? Why do narrative strategists (aka: activists) need to understand grief? Are book bans a form of grief? (spoiler: yes, but maybe not for the reasons you think) Why death is “the ultimate boundary” - and how to find hope in that Related episodes: Rage Becomes Her (and by “her” I mean US) with Soraya Chemaly Collective Grief and Communal Joy: with Baratunde Thurston Wonder in an Age of Violence: Valarie Kaur & See No Stranger For more on the shortage of compassion, see The Love Filled World: is there enough love to go around? Notable quotes: “Sadness is a critical, crucial part of acknowledging the reality of our conditions. So I believe in sorrow. The point is not to exclude sorrow, it's to include joy. It's to include anger. It's to allow ourselves the full range of what acknowledging loss means.” - Malkia Devich-Cyril “A hurting person wants to bond with other hurting people, but they're also not gonna stay in a movement that is only dealing with pain.” - Malkia Devich-Cyril About our guest: Malkia Devich-Cyril is an activist, writer and public speaker on issues of digital rights, narrative power, Black liberation and collective grief. They are also the founding and former Executive Director of MediaJustice — a national hub boldly advancing racial justice, rights and dignity in a digital age. Their writing has appeared in publications like Politico, Motherboard, Essence Magazine, and three documentary films including the Oscar nominated 13th. Find them @culturejedi on Twitter and Instagram. Read Grief Belongs in Social Movements: We Embrace it? About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: “The Antidote to Authoritarianism” by Malkia Devich-Cyril, The Atlantic MediaJustice Media Action Grassroots Network Want to become a more grief-informed, human-centered therapist or provider? Registration is open now for Megan Devine's 6 month online Grief Care Professional Certificate Program. Details at this link. Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Have you ever put on a face mask, expecting it to solve all your mental health problems? That seems… unrealistic, but that's what self-care marketing tells us: get your self care right, and all your difficulties will evaporate. This week, Dr. Pooja Lakshmin breaks down what “self-care” actually means when we're living in a complex, capitalistic world. It's an exploration of grief, burnout, and exhaustion, and what it takes to care for yourself inside systems that repeatedly ignore their part in your suffering. After leaving med school to join a wellness group that turned out more cult-like than liberating, Dr. Lakshmin went on a journey to heal herself. Along the way, she founded Gemma, a women's mental health organization, and wrote a book called Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (warning: crystals, cleanses, and bubble baths not included). In this episode we cover: Why self-care doesn't work Does looking for your own answers mean you have to do things alone? Accepting help as a bid for connection How Dr. Lakshmin's definition of boundaries can help you practice real self-care The difference between eudaimonic and hedonic well-being How hope is different than optimism Related episodes: For more on systems that fail us and what to do about it: Rage Becomes Her (and by “her” I mean US) with Soraya Chemaly A fantastic discussion of the “wellness movement” and what it means for chronically ill folks: Living with Chronic Illness: A Conversation for Everyone with a Body with Sarah Ramey. Notable quotes: “Hope is different than optimism… Hope is something you can build. It's a practice. It's a skill.” - Dr. Pooja Lakshmin About our guest: Dr. Pooja Lakshmin MD is a psychiatrist, a clinical assistant professor at George Washington University School of Medicine, and the founder and CEO of Gemma, the women's mental health community centering impact and equity. She has spent thousands of hours taking care of women struggling with burnout, despair, depression, and anxiety in her clinical practice. Her debut non-fiction book, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included), is out now and available in e-book, hardcover, and audiobook narrated by Pooja. About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: More from Pooja Lakshmin: Gemma Women's Mental Health Community “Hope is Not a Thing to Have – It's a Skill to Practice” Oprah Daily “How Society Has Turned Its Back on Mothers” NY Times “Saying ‘No' Is Self-Care for Parents” NY Times Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We're in a massive climate crisis, but it's hard to think about it, isn't it? It's a great temptation to shut our eyes to climate change. It's overwhelming. This week on the show, climate activist and author Bill McKibben on facing the reality of the climate crisis, understanding what needs to change, and what you can do - not just to change the course of humanity and the planet, but to feel more hopeful and connected as this all unfolds. In this episode we cover: Is halting climate change really dependent on personal recycling and whether we use plastic straws? Why don't we take action when the evidence of the climate crisis is literally everywhere? Is it okay to have intense emotional responses to wildfires, floods, and the inaction of those “in charge”? How the boomer generation is using their experience and their wealth to revisit the activism of their youth (and supporting younger activists at the same time) Why the “will to act” is so important to sustained change How talking about our fears and our ecological grief gives us common ground to fight for our future - and our present. Related episodes: For more on activism in the face of impossible odds: Women, Life, Freedom: Grief and Power In Iran, with Nazanin Nour Wonder in an Age of Violence with Valarie Kaur & See No Stranger Notable quotes: The climate crisis is a really interesting test of whether or not (our) big brain was a good adaptation or not. It can get us into a lot of trouble, but can it get us out? My intuition is that it's actually going to be less the size of the brain that matters than the size of the heart that it's attached to. - Bill McKibben About our guest: Bill McKibben is an American environmentalist, author, and journalist who has written extensively on the impact of global warming. His books include The End of Nature, about climate change, and Falter: Has the Human Game Begun to Play Itself Out?, about the state of the environmental challenges facing humanity. He's a contributing writer to The New Yorker (read his latest piece here), and founder of Third Act, which organizes people over the age of sixty for progressive change. About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Read Bill latest piece in The New Yorker - “To Save the Planet, Should We Really Be Moving Slower?” Check out Bill's Third Act community - Elders working together for a fair and stable planet. Terry Tempest Williams' book Refuge: An Unnatural History of Family and Place, and her recent NYT article on Utah's great Salt Lake (gift link, no subscription needed) Explore Joanna Macy's work on the intersection of grief and activism at her website, or her books, including Coming Back to Life: The Updated Guide to the Work That Reconnects, World as Lover, World as Self, and Widening Circles: A Memoir Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
“Wonder is the root of love, the lack of wonder is the root of violence.” Is there a way to create boundaries with someone who wishes to cause harm? Can you love them and hold them accountable? Do you have to fight for a just world for everyone? Valarie Kaur is no stranger to violence. As a Sikh, as a woman, as a person of color, violence has shaped both her activism and her deep sense of community care. Her Revolutionary Love Project is the blueprint for organizers, activists, and really - anyone in love with the world and what it could be. This week, the activist, and best-selling author of See No Stranger joins me to talk about love, action, and the power of wonder in the face of impossible things. We cover activism, wonder, horror, grief, acts of violence, acts of justice, parenting in an age of rampant school violence, healing family wounds, building true community - and why fighting for love and pleasure is always going to be more sustainable than fighting against hate. “I spent the last 20 years organizing my life around hate and I want to spend the next 20 years organizing around love. The pain of the world is the pain of the world, regardless.” - Valarie Kaur * One brief content note, Valarie's neighborhood had some construction going on, so there's more background noise in this episode than usual. Listen for the goodness, though - it's all around you. In this episode we cover: How do you continue to work on behalf of EVERYONE for a more just and beautiful world, when some of those people cause great harm? Getting outside of unbearable pain so you can survive Do you have to suffer in order to be of service? Being an activist for the long haul “Squad care” and what it means for activists and anyone alive in the world What do you want future generations to inherit from your time here? Want grief support with Megan? Apply for 1:1 sessions here, or join the monthly Q&A here. Related episodes: The Love-Filled World A Place Called Home: a conversation with child welfare advocate, David Ambroz Connection is the best medicine: with Dr. Rana Awdish Notable quotes: “We're living in a time where we have to metabolize grief on a scale that no other generation before us has had to.” - Valarie Kaur “Our solidarity is only as deep as our ability to love one another, and our ability to love one another is only as deep as our ability to weep with one another.” - Valarie Kaur About our guest: Valarie Kaur is a renowned civil rights leader, lawyer, award-winning filmmaker, educator, author of the #1 LA Times Bestseller SEE NO STRANGER, and founder of the Revolutionary Love Project. A daughter of Punjabi Sikh farmers in California, her work has ignited a national movement to reclaim love as a force for justice. See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love. About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Valarie Kaur's websiteThe Revolutionary Love Learning Hub Want to talk with Megan directly? Two options: apply for one of her 1:1 sessions through the contact form at megandevine.co, or join our Patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. Either way, it's your questions, answered. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.co See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Can grief be an opportunity for growth and self-understanding? The answer, of course, is yes: but it's a bit more complex than that. This week, author, philanthropist, activist Rachel Cargle on survival optimism, the resilience narrative, and why questioning the stories you tell yourself - with curiosity and kindness - is a powerful path of healing. In this episode we cover: How was grief modeled for you growing up, and how does that affect later grief? Can your memory of childhood grief be…. entirely wrong? (or at least, inaccurate) Can you do grief wrong? The difference between curiosity and judgment Is it ok to feel relieved when a sick person dies? Rachel's new book, A Renaissance of Our Own Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: your questions, answered. Related episodes: Gabor Mate on why we celebrate trauma, aka: resilience Illustrator Aubrey Hirsch on the power of storytelling as an act of healing Notable quotes: “It's a practice of kindness to ourselves when we acknowledge and lean into the both/and… So when I feel shame about the relief I feel because I no longer have this sick mother to worry about, I can actually rest with that relief because I know that probably in about 2.5 days I'm going to be on the floor crying about the fact that she's not here. It's both/and.” - Rachel Cargle “(As) I really look at my childhood and have to dust some things off, (I'm) also cleaning off the spaces where good things are. You're not just going to the box of bones and figuring out all the hard, terrible things that happened in your childhood.” - Rachel Cargle About our guest: Rachel Cargle is a writer, entrepreneur and philanthropic innovator. Her new memoir, A Renaissance of Our Own, centers the reimagining of womanhood, solidarity and self. In 2018 she founded The Loveland Foundation, Inc., a non-profit offering free therapy to Black women and girls. She's also the founder of Elizabeth's Bookshop & Writing Centre – a literacy space designed to amplify, celebrate and honor the work of writers who are often excluded from traditional cultural, social and academic canons. For more on her many endeavors, visit rachelcargle.com. About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Rachel's book - A Renaissance of Our Own The Loveland Foundation, Inc. - houses a collection of Rachel's social ventures The Great Unlearn, a self-paced, donation-based learning community The Great Unlearn for Young Learners – an online learning space for young folks launching in 2022 Elizabeth's Bookshop & Writing Centre - an innovative literacy space designed to amplify, celebrate and honor the work of writers who are often excluded from traditional cultural, social and academic canons. Want to talk with Megan directly? Apply for one of her limited 1:1 consultations here Or join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: your questions, answered. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How do we live in a world that's at least half terrible, and that is a conservative estimate?If you recognize that line, you already know Maggie Smith. This week on the show, we're talking about writing, marriage, divorce, and why you didn't need whatever happened to you in order to become who you're meant to be: as Maggie says, “trauma does not give you a “glow up.”” If you've ever wanted to write the story of your life - including the messy, difficult parts like divorce, miscarriage, and the loss of identity - this episode is for you. In this episode we cover: Why it's ok if your story doesn't have a happy ending (or even a happy middle) Do kids really need to learn about resilience? Does anything remain after devastating loss? What's it like having your personal story out in the world for other people to talk about? Divorce, miscarriage, and why sometimes the lemonade isn't worth the lemons Get the best selling Writing Your Grief course and join over 15,000 people who've explored their grief - and their identity - through writing. All the details here. Related episodes: Kate Bowler on the difference between transactional hope and functional hope Aubrey Hirsch on the power of storytelling David Ambroz on “A Place Called Home” About our guest: Maggie Smith is the award-winning author of You Could Make This Place Beautiful, Good Bones, The Well Speaks of Its Own Poison, Lamp of the Body, and the national bestsellers Goldenrod and Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change. A 2011 recipient of a Creative Writing Fellowship from the National Endowment for the Arts, Smith has also received several Individual Excellence Awards from the Ohio Arts Council, two Academy of American Poets Prizes, a Pushcart Prize, and fellowships from the Sustainable Arts Foundation and the Virginia Center for the Creative Arts. She has been widely published, appearing in The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Paris Review, The Nation, The Best American Poetry, and more. You can follow her on social media @MaggieSmithPoet. About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Get the best selling Writing Your Grief course and join over 15,000 people who've explored their grief - and their identity - through writing. All the details here. Maggie Smith's website Maggie's memoir - You Could Make This Place Beautiful “What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? / The world would split open.” - feminist poet Muriel Rukeyser Want to talk with Megan directly? Two options: apply for one of her 1:1 sessions through the contact form at megandevine.co, or join our Patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. Either way, it's your questions, answered. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
“Wonder is the root of love, the lack of wonder is the root of violence.” Is there a way to create boundaries with someone who wishes to cause harm? Can you love them and hold them accountable? Do you have to fight for a just world for everyone? Valarie Kaur is no stranger to violence. As a Sikh, as a woman, as a person of color, violence has shaped both her activism and her deep sense of community care. Her Revolutionary Love Project is the blueprint for organizers, activists, and really - anyone in love with the world and what it could be. This week, the activist, and best-selling author of See No Stranger joins me to talk about love, action, and the power of wonder in the face of impossible things. We cover activism, wonder, horror, grief, acts of violence, acts of justice, parenting in an age of rampant school violence, healing family wounds, building true community - and why fighting for love and pleasure is always going to be more sustainable than fighting against hate. “I spent the last 20 years organizing my life around hate and I want to spend the next 20 years organizing around love. The pain of the world is the pain of the world, regardless.” - Valarie Kaur * One brief content note, Valarie's neighborhood had some construction going on, so there's more background noise in this episode than usual. Listen for the goodness, though - it's all around you. In this episode we cover: How do you continue to work on behalf of EVERYONE for a more just and beautiful world, when some of those people cause great harm? Getting outside of unbearable pain so you can survive Do you have to suffer in order to be of service? Being an activist for the long haul “Squad care” and what it means for activists and anyone alive in the world What do you want future generations to inherit from your time here? Want grief support with Megan? Apply for 1:1 sessions here, or join the monthly Q&A here. Related episodes: The Love-Filled World A Place Called Home: a conversation with child welfare advocate, David Ambroz Connection is the best medicine: with Dr. Rana Awdish Notable quotes: “We're living in a time where we have to metabolize grief on a scale that no other generation before us has had to.” - Valarie Kaur “Our solidarity is only as deep as our ability to love one another, and our ability to love one another is only as deep as our ability to weep with one another.” - Valarie Kaur About our guest: Valarie Kaur is a renowned civil rights leader, lawyer, award-winning filmmaker, educator, author of the #1 LA Times Bestseller SEE NO STRANGER, and founder of the Revolutionary Love Project. A daughter of Punjabi Sikh farmers in California, her work has ignited a national movement to reclaim love as a force for justice. See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love. About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Valarie Kaur's websiteThe Revolutionary Love Learning Hub Want to talk with Megan directly? Two options: apply for one of her 1:1 sessions through the contact form at megandevine.co, or join our Patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions. Either way, it's your questions, answered. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.co See omny.fm/listener for privacy information.
If you try to not let something define you, can it define you anyway? You might know Chase Jarvis as an Emmy nominated photographer, founder of Creative Live, and angel investor. The world of venture capital and billion dollar deals isn't exactly known for its human side, but Chase's kindness and vulnerability are legendary. In part two of our conversation, we get into a deep discussion over whether a successful person is allowed to feel intense grief, or if success disqualifies you. We unpack an accident that could have killed him - and how that experience shaped his life even as he tried to ignore it. Chase's willingness to explore personal, emotional territory in real time in this episode is really special. We make a lot of invisible things visible in this episode, from the creativity of every day, to the grief of getting what you want, to how a near-death experience can both shape your entire life AND be something you refuse to think about. Content note: this episode contains a lot of swearing. *Need to talk to Megan? apply for a 1:1 grief consultation with Megan Devine here* In this episode we cover: How to break the habit of dismissing your feelings before you even get to feel them Do successful people get to identify as grieving? Can you revisit old issues with kindness? What happens if you decide something MAJOR is “no big deal”? Related episodes: Listen to part one of Chase Jarvis here Chip Conley on the dark night of the soul, near death experiences, and finding community About our guest: Chase Jarvis is an award-winning artist, entrepreneur, best-selling author, and one of the most influential photographers of the past 20 years. His expansive work ranges from shooting advertising campaigns for companies like Apple, Nike, and Red Bull; to working with athletes like Serena Williams and Tony Hawk, to collaborating with renowned icons like Lady Gaga and Richard Branson. He is the Founder of CreativeLive, where more than 10 million students learn from the world's top creators and entrepreneurs; CreativeLive was acquired by Fiverr in 2021. His recent book Creative Calling debuted as an instant National Best Seller. More at chasejarvis.com About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: Get Chase Jarvis' latest book, Creative Calling, here Want to talk with Megan directly? Apply for one of her limited 1:1 consultations here, or Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: either way, it's your questions, answered. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms. For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn. For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Have you ever felt something, then immediately “disqualified” yourself from feeling it? As if you don't have the right to feel what you're feeling? Chase Jarvis is a very successful man. He's also kind, and thoughtful, and actively exploring his own ideas of himself. If you've heard Chase speak before, this is a very different kind of conversation. We make a lot of invisible things visible in this episode, from the creativity of every day, to the grief of getting what you want, to how a near-death experience can both shape your entire life AND be something you refuse to think about. 5 things you'll learn in this episode (at least 5!) The difference between Big C Creativity and little c creativity (and how it relates to hard times) How the roles we're “allowed” to inhabit get fed to us, starting in childhood Is there a grief spectrum? If so, where do you land on it? Are you allowed to feel grief, when objectively speaking, other people have it a lot worse? If someone sobs in your presence, that might be a very good thing. Content note: this episode contains a lot of swearing. Notable quotes: “Am I worthy of becoming the person that I want to become?” - Chase Jarvis About our guest: Chase Jarvis is an award-winning artist, entrepreneur, best-selling author, and one of the most influential photographers of the past 20 years. His expansive work ranges from shooting advertising campaigns for companies like Apple, Nike, and Red Bull; to working with athletes like Serena Williams and Tony Hawk, to collaborating with renowned icons like Lady Gaga and Richard Branson. He is the Founder of CreativeLive, where more than 10 million students learn from the world's top creators and entrepreneurs; CreativeLive was acquired by Fiverr in 2021. His recent book Creative Calling debuted as an instant National Best Seller. More at chasejarvis.com About Megan: Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries. The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan's It's Ok that You're Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world. Additional resources: The long dark night of the soul is commonly understood as a time of spiritual dryness and existential doubt and loneliness. For more on the “long dark night of the soul,” Check the wiki page. Chase's book - Creative Calling Chase references Ram Dass, and the quote, “We're all just walking each other home.” Want to talk with Megan directly? Apply for one of her limited 1:1 consultations here, or join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A sessions: either way, it's your questions, answered. Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links. Get in touch: Thanks for listening to this week's episode of It's OK that You're Not OK. Tune in, subscribe, leave a review, tag us on social with your thoughts, and share the show with everyone you know. Together, we can make things better, even when they can't be made right. Follow the show on TikTok @itsokpod and use the hashtag #ItsOkPod on all social platforms. For grief support & education, follow us at @refugeingrief on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok, and follow Megan on LinkedIn. For more information, including clinical training and consulting and to share your thoughts, visit us at megandevine.coSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Grief comes in many forms - it's a universal experience. But, do you really know how to handle it? Psychotherapist and grief expert, Megan Devine joins Call Her Daddy to discuss her own journey with grief after the sudden loss of her partner. Megan provides tangible advice to support yourself and others managing grief. She shares exactly what NOT to do when it comes to supporting a grieving friend and offers the best ways to show up and support someone. Megan speaks about the importance of setting boundaries while grieving and shares some personal boundaries she created in the aftermath of losing her partner. She talks about the feelings associated with grieving a toxic person, and has advice for navigating the mix of feelings that come with that experience. Megan challenges the idea that grief is something to overcome and normalizes - it's okay to be really fucking sad. Whether you are recently grieving, years out or looking to support someone who recently experienced loss, Megan provides the insight we all need to hear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Themes: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Pain, Mental Health Summary: Join me for a thoughtful conversation with Megan Devine: best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate. With over 20 years in the field - and deep personal experience of grief - she is the go-to authority for grievers, supporters, and industry professionals. Her pioneering work provides a professional, inclusive, and realistic approach to grief, one that goes beyond pathology-based, reductive models. If you're currently feeling the deep pain of loss or are looking for ways to support someone who is, this episode is for you. Megan's book It's OK that You're Not OK has sold over 250K copies and is available in 16 languages. New York magazine's The Strategist named the book in their “Top 16 Grief Books Recommended by Psychologists in 2021.” Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” has been viewed over 70 million times and is used in training programs worldwide. She's been published in Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets, including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief. Discover: Megan's personal experience with grief What not to say to someone who is grieving and how to be truly supportive instead The problematic way society responds to pain and grief and how this contributes to rising loneliness, substance abuse and suicide rates Why looking for the silver lining in a painful experience, while well-intentioned, isn't helpful 00:00 Intro 01:20 Megan's story 07:09 How society responds to grief 09:11 You don't need to find the silver lining 13:03 Movies modeling the happy ending 15:17 The fallacy of suffering as punishment 20:25 The “nobility” of suffering 24:33 The history of dealing with pain 31:21 How medicine handles grief 36:43 Timeline of grief 38:16 Why do we avoid sadness? 43:54 How to actually support someone who's grieving 47:46 Expanding your idea of what grief is Links: Website | refugeingrief.com & megandevine.co Instagram | @refugeingrief Facebook | @refugeingrief Book | It's OK That You're Not OK Podcast | Here After with Megan Devine Sponsors: LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT sample pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.