Podcasts about stepfamilies

Codependency can be tricky to recognize because it often looks like love, generosity, or “just trying to help.” But when our giving turns into fixing, rescuing, controlling, or sacrificing ourselves to earn love and approval, it can quietly create tension in our marriage, parenting, co-parenting, and stepfamily relationships.In this episode, we're joined by therapist Michelle Farris for a practical and hope-filled conversation about how codependency shows up in blended families and how to heal it. Michelle is a psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management specialist with a passion for helping people break free from toxic relationships. Her YouTube channel has over 3 million viewers, where she's known for her practical tips and expertise. She's written several ebooks and courses for creating relationships that work. Michelle helps us understand the difference between healthy care and over-functioning, why some parents struggle when their kids are hurting or moving between homes, and how our desire to protect or please can sometimes blur important relational boundaries.We also talk honestly about how codependency can impact the parenting partnership in a blended family. When a bio-parent feels caught between their child and spouse, the pressure can intensify. When a stepparent feels responsible for things they don't have authority over, resentment sets in.  But there is a healthier way forward. Michelle shares how couples can take small steps toward clearer boundaries, stronger self-awareness, and more secure connection without becoming rigid, reactive, or disconnected.If you've ever felt responsible for keeping everyone okay, struggled to set limits with your kids or ex, or wondered why you feel resentful after “helping,” this conversation will give you language, clarity, and hope.You'll Discover:The difference between being kind and being codependent How codependency can show up with your children, with an ex, or inside your marriage How over-functioning, fixing, rescuing, controlling, and people-pleasing can create ongoing resentment and disable others How to identify your non-negotiable boundaries without becoming rigid or reactive Three key areas of codependency and how you can move toward relational health and wellnessResources from this Episode:To connect with Michelle Farris, CLICK HERE Michelle's free guide: 7 Steps to Healing One Sided RelationshipsRelationships That Work with Michelle Farris (YouTube)Episode 138. How Relational Dysfunction Plagued our Marriage and How We Finally Broke FreeReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionYou don't need to navigate blended family life alone.  Join our supportive community where you'll connect directly with us and other couples just like you who are intentionally investing in healthy blending strategies.  Click the link to find out how to join: https://learning.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogetherSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

What should a stepmom do when her stepkids are disrespectful?Few things trigger a stepmom faster than being ignored, talked back to, rolled eyes at, or treated like she doesn't matter. When you're already questioning your role in the family, disrespect from a stepchild can feel deeply personal—and it can quickly create resentment, frustration, and conflict in your marriage.In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia dives into one of the most common challenges stepmoms face: dealing with disrespectful stepkids. She explains why disrespect from stepkids often hurts more than people realize, how feelings of uncertainty and lack of belonging can amplify those interactions, and what stepmoms can do instead of reacting from anger or hurt.Whether you're dealing with eye rolls, backtalk, being ignored, or feeling completely unsupported, this episode will help you respond with confidence instead of resentment.If you've ever found yourself wondering whether your stepkids respect you—or if you've questioned whether you even belong in your family—this episode is for you.Support the showWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list,  get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

ResourcesEpisode 50. How to Openly Communicate What You Really Want Episode 179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and Clarity Episode 98. Is fear of being vulnerable keeping you from loving your spouse wholeheartedly?Episode 180. Break Free from Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and SecurityEpisode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 237. Communication Frustration?  Gain Powerful Tools & Insight to Help Reduce Conflict & Stay ConnectedSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callYou don't need to navigate blended family life alone.  Join our supportive community where you'll connect directly with us and other couples just like you who are intentionally investing in healthy blending strategies.  Click the link to find out how to join: https://learning.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogetherSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Co-parenting conversations can escalate fast, especially when an ex is reactive, manipulative, dismissive, or unreasonable. It's tempting to defend yourself, fire back, or make a quick decision just to escape the pressure. But that kind of response rarely moves things forward, and it can leave kids carrying the emotional weight of adult conflict.In this episode, we share practical tools to help you communicate with an ex in a way that is calm, clear, and solution-focused. You'll learn our 5 A's Framework for navigating hard co-parenting conversations, along with strategies for handling pressure, staying grounded, and setting healthy boundaries with confidence.We also open up about a painful moment in our own blended family story, when Kim felt pressured by her ex into making a major decision before she had time to think clearly or consult with Mike. From that experience, we share what we wish we had known then, and how these tools can help you protect your marriage, create greater stability for your kids, and build more peace in your home.Be sure to grab the free downloadable worksheet for this episode to help you plan your next hard conversation and put these tools into practice.You'll Discover:Why reactive communication with an ex often fuels ongoing conflict How to use the 5 A's Framework for clearer, more cooperative co-parenting conversations Three strategies for handling pressure-filled moments with greater steadiness A simple tool for setting healthy boundaries with an ex How consistency can build trust, influence, and greater stability for your kidsResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to grab your free co-parenting communication worksheetEpisode 211. 8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindEpisode 218. How to Positively Influence You Kids' Character When Your Ex Undermines Your Values Episode 207.  4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex Has Different Rules and How to Build Consistency  Episode 232. 5 Principles to Manage Contact Between Homes and Promote Your Child's WellbeingEpisode 229. The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry: Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance and How to HelpEpisode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [ with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 42. Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - and 6 Tips For YouEpisode 91. Is Your Husband's Hostile Ex-Wife Invading Your Life, Stealing Your Joy and Confidence?Episode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [with Amy J.L. Baker]Episode 226. How Two Homes Raise Kids That Thrive:  A Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

If there's one thing we've learned in our 25 years of marriage, parenting, and blended family life, it's this: communication problems aren't about bad intentions more often, they're about lacking the right tools. In this episode, we share the painful, unproductive patterns we got stuck in and the communication shifts that changed everything for us, helping us strengthen our marriage and build a healthier parenting partnership.We unpack a simple communication styles model, then share two practical frameworks that help couples handle sensitive issues with more wisdom and less reactivity.  We also share about the impact of emotional dysregulation (one of the biggest obstacles to healthy communication), and touch on four of the most common unhealthy patterns that keep couples stuck.This episode will offer practical tools to build trust and connection, reduce conflict, and communicate more like a united team.  Even when you each have different perspectives.  If we can do it, you can too!  Listen in and learn these pivotal tools so you can break free from unhealthy communication patterns and make a real difference in your relationship!You'll Discover:How different communication styles can quietly create friction, even when both of you mean well A simple framework for talking about sensitive issues, especially conversations about each other's kids How to use the FAQ approach to start hard conversations without blame or escalation Why emotional dysregulation can quickly derail communication How to recognize Gottman's Four Horsemen and replace them with healthier patterns that build connection and teamworkResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to schedule your free call and learn more about our Relate Strong coaching focused on regulating painful emotions when it matters most.FREE DOWNLOAD: Communication Toolkit WorksheetEpisode 202.  How to Break Free from Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron & Nan Deal]Episode 203. How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United TeamCrucial Conversations by K. Patterson, J. Grenny, R. McMilan, A. Switzler Leave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

ResourcesEpisode 236. Does it Ever Get Easier? How to Stay Hopeful by Playing the Long Game [with Gayla Grace]Episode 157. 3 Seasoned Stepmoms Share How They've Survived and Thrived in Their Blended Family JourneyWomen & Blended Families: Mother's Day/Stepmother's Day  (Gayla's interview with Laura Petherbridge)CLICK HERE  Mother's Day Tips for HusbandsSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callYou don't need to navigate blended family life alone.  Join our supportive community where you'll connect directly with us and other couples just like you who are intentionally investing in healthy blending strategies.  Click the link to find out how to join: https://learning.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogetherSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

In this episode, we sit down with our friend Gayla Grace for a deeply encouraging conversation about what it really takes to build a strong blended family over time. Gayla candidly shares about the challenges she and her husband faced while blending "hers", "his", and "ours". From parenting conflict to grief and unexpected setbacks, Gayla shares how those hard seasons pushed them to seek help, grow in humility, and fight for unity in their marriage.Gayla is an author and international speaker with the FamilyLife Blended® team, where she encourages and equips blended families. She has a master's degree in Psychology and Counseling, and she hosts the livestream Women & Blended Families.Throughout our conversation, we explore three powerful truths that every blended couple needs to hear: expect challenges, expect the process to take longer than you want, and commit to playing the long game. Gayla offers practical wisdom, hopeful mindset shifts, and a refreshing reminder that your efforts matter, even when you don't see immediate results.  Listen in and be encouraged as our guest Gayla Grace shares from more than 30 years of personal experience, and reminds us that blended family life is rarely easy or quick, but it can absolutely be worth it. You'll Discover:Why blended family couples need to expect challenges and meet them with both grit and grace Why playing the long game can lead to deep rewards in your marriage and step relationships How community and the right kind of support can help you move forward when you feel stuck Why making your marriage the foundation of your home creates greater stability for the whole familyResources from this Episode:Beautifully Blended: 101 Devotions to Encourage Couples in Blended Families by Gayla GraceCLICK HERE to connect with GaylaWomen & Blended Families: Mother's Day/Stepmother's DayReady for some extra support: We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionYou don't need to navigate blended family life alone.  Join our supportive community where you'll connect directly with us and other couples just like you who are intentionally investing in healthy blending strategies.  Click the link to find out how to join: https://learning.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogetherSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsGive a review over on Apple Podcasts .  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” .  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Resources from this episodeEpisode 235. Stepparenting Takes Two: How to Build Connection and Avoid Common Wrong TurnsEpisode 103. 4 Revealing Myths About 1 on 1 Time Between Parents and their Bio-Kids (Part 1 of 2)Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

When we got married, we stepped into blended family life with a lot of hope, but also a lot of unrealistic expectations. We thought connection would come quickly, parenting would feel natural, and our new family would settle into place easily. Instead, we ran into disappointment, resistance, and the painful realization that blended family life does not work like a first family experience.  In this episode, we share one of the most important truths that changed everything for us: stepparenting is a two-person job. That shift helped us stop putting pressure in the wrong places and start building with more wisdom, patience, and teamwork. Our hope is that this conversation helps you let go of unrealistic expectations and take wise next steps toward real trust, genuine connection, and healthier family dynamics. Resources from this Episode:Strategy #1:   Encourage relational growth in wise, helpful ways and reduce pressure:Episode 213. Discover How to Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce [with Lauren Reitsema]Episode 72. The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded RelationshipsEpisode 130. How to Build Trust that Nurtures Bonds with Your Kids and Stepkids Episode 37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent?Strategy #2:  Help a resistant child bring down walls in ways they can receive:Episode 229 The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry:  Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance, and How to Help Episode 222. Step-by-Step Guide:  Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse (Part 1 of 2)Episode 132. How do loss and grief impact blended family integration?Episode 159. How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and HurtEpisode 92. At a loss and feeling defeated because the kids stubbornly refuse to blend?Strategy #3:  Build your parenting partnership and reduce negative interactions:Episode 219. From Chaos to Clarity: A Proven Strategy for Leading Your Blended FamilyEpisode 204. 4 Facets of Stepparenting:  Defining Appropriate Roles and ResponsibilitiesEpisode 208. The Transfer of Power: A Smart Strategy for Stepparents Left in ChargeEpisode 205. 4 Facets of Parenting:  What Bio Parents Need to Know to Achieve Best Outcomes Episode 230. Everyday Decisions, Big Tension:  The Hurtful Patterns That Create Blended Family DivisionReady for some extra support? CLICK HERE to schedule your free coaching sessionCLICK HERE to join the Blending Together Community

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia is joined by Monica Tanner to talk about how to reignite connection and intimacy in blended families, why stepfamily myths can damage marriages, and what couples can do to create a stronger, healthier relationship.They dive into one of the most controversial but important ideas in blended family life: why the couple relationship has to be the priority. Monica explains what that actually looks like in real life, how to support your partner without making it a competition with the kids, and why children benefit from seeing a healthy relationship modeled in the home.One of the most powerful parts of this episode is Monica's explanation of repair in relationships. She breaks down what repair means, how couples can come back together after conflict, and why healthy relationships are not conflict-free—they are built through harmony, disharmony, and repair.If you are a stepmom feeling disconnected in your marriage, exhausted by blended family stress, or unsure how to rebuild closeness with your partner, this episode will remind you that healthy relationships are built, not found.In this episode:How to rebuild connection and intimacy in blended familiesThe myth that kids should always come before the marriageWhat it means to make the relationship the priority without neglecting the childrenWhy stepfamily structure and united parenting matterConnect with Monica:www.monicatanner.comOn InstagramOn YouTubeSupport the showRegister here for StepmomCon Want a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list,  get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

ResourcesEpisode 234. Caught in the Negative?  How to Reframe Painful Moments and Regain Hope Episode 106. How to Avoid "Outlaw Words" [with Mark Warren]Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Discover crucial insights into estate planning, divorce mediation, and the complexities of blended families in this heartfelt episode featuring attorney Tamara Arnold. Learn why preparing legal documents for life's unexpected turns is one of the greatest gifts you can give your family. Listeners will hear Tamara's powerful personal story that led her to a career in estate planning, from her mother's tragedy to her mission of helping families ensure their voices and wishes are honored. She delves into why healthcare directives matter, how trusts work (especially for stepfamilies), and the importance of clear communication to avoid family conflict over inheritance. Tamara also explains her compassionate approach to divorce mediation, helping couples navigate separation without escalating hostile battles. Highlights include: The real-life impact of a lack of estate planning and healthcare directives How to set up trusts and wills that honor everyone, especially in blended families The pitfalls of probate and how to avoid them Tips on guardianship decisions for children in stepfamily situations How mediation offers healthier outcomes in divorce and custody disputes Tamara's practical advice for step-parents seeking balance, trust, and clarity Her story of integrating into a blended family, earning stepchild trust, and finding harmony Special guest: Tamara Arnold, founder of Truce Resolutions and creator of the Divorce Wave app. Follow her on Instagram @tamaraesq.

The reality is, blended family life gives us plenty of painful moments to get caught up in: tension with an ex, a hard interaction with a stepchild, a family activity that goes sideways, or marital conflict. And it is easy for one negative moment to become the headline.In this episode, we unpack negativity bias, our tendency to notice the negative faster, feel it deeper, and replay it longer. When it goes unchecked, it can shape how we make decisions and relate to the people we love.  And it can steal your joy and leave you feeling hopeless.This conversation is personal for us. As we reflected on our own journey, we were reminded how easy it would have been to let negativity define our marriage and our family years ago. But real (imperfect) progress became possible when we chose to refocus on the small wins along the way and hold onto hope.  That made all the difference for us, and we want to equip you to do the same. You'll Discover:What negativity bias is and why it can make one hard moment feel louder than all the good ones combined How negativity bias impacts your marriage, your connection with step kids, and even relationships between homes Practical ways to reframe painful moments, interrupt negative self-talk, and move toward a growth mindset How to capture the good and cultivate belief so you can protect your emotional wellness and lead your family with greater hope and courageCLICK HERE to join the Blending Together CommunityResources on this topic:Soundtracks:  The Surprising Solution to Overthinking by Jon AcuffEpisode 117. Harness the Power of Positive Affirmation with Your Kids and Step-KidsEpisode 105.  What powerful traits do you need to successfully blend and stay united?Episode 220. From Marginalized to Mainstream:  How to Reclaim Confidence for Your Blended FamilyEpisode 165.  How important is your mindset when it comes to blended family life? Episode 156. The 3 Super Strengths of a Blended Family MarriageEpisode 187.  Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 136. How to Intentionally Create Positive Family Time and Reduce Relational TensionEpisode 219. From Chaos to Clarity: A Proven Strategy for Leading Your Blended FamilyEpisode 225. Gratitude Superpower:  How to Boost Hope and Connection Through Challenging SeasonsEpisode 159. How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and HurtEpisode 231.  When Your Ex Starts Dating:  How to Handle Their New Partner and Protect Your Kids

Blending families isn't easy and you can feel alone in the struggle. But did you know there are several prominent step-families found in the Bible? Smart stepmom, author Laura Petherbridge offers heartfelt insights and solutions for navigating big emotions in complex homes. Her new book is Stepfamilies of the Bible: Timeless Wisdom for Blended Families. God's people have always included families with complex configurations, strained dynamics, and serious problems. The fact that complex, imperfect families have always been part of God's family is good news! In today's conversation, you'll learn: 3:00 53 percent of kids come from complex families, going between two homes 9:00 When my dad got remarried and I got a step-mom... 14:15 When children feel they lost dad to the new stepmom/stepfamily 18:00 When you feel offended by your step-kids 22:15 If a child senses you look down on the other family, he will side with the other family as the underdog 25:00 You don't see two women who hate each other more (Sarah and Hagar) Connect with Laura and get her book, Stepfamilies of the Bible at thesmartstepmom.com. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this conversation, Lawrence Joss sits down alongside Stephanie Sternes, a specialist in two-family systems, to explore the often-overlooked realities of blended families and the emotional complexity of navigating life across two homes. Together, they unpack how attachment, shifting roles, and stepfamily dynamics shape both parent and child experiences, especially in the presence of parental alienation and high-conflict family environments.With both professional and personal perspective, Stephanie brings awareness to the emotional layers within stepfamily dynamics, inviting greater understanding and compassion for what blended families and two-home systems hold. This episode offers a deeper lens into parental alienation and blended family dynamics, providing clarity and a more grounded way of understanding the complexity many families navigate.Key TakeawaysTwo-family systems and their impact on childrenAttachment, grief, and loss in blended familiesLoyalty binds and the love-loyalty paradoxHigh conflict, oppositional parenting, and abuse spectrumClinical training gaps and systemic understanding in therapy Chapters00:00 - Understanding Two-family Systems02:47 - The Impact of Grief and Loss on Family Dynamics05:49 - Navigating Attachment and Regulation in Two-family Homes08:48 - Misconceptions in Therapy for Two-family Systems12:03 - The Spectrum of Parenting Styles: Co-parenting vs. Oppositional Parenting14:46 - The Loyalty Bind: Navigating Love and Loyalty in Divided Families18:06 - The Role of Therapy in Healing Family DynamicsIf you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:  Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)Please donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom partSupport & Community:Parental Alienation Anonymous (PAA): Join our free 12-step support group with 16 online meetings weekly for parents, grandparents, family members, and previously alienated individuals seeking healing and recovery.PA-A.org: Parental Alienation Advocates is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit dedicated to fostering education, advocacy, and support for individuals grappling with the distressing impact of parental alienation, estrangement, erasure, and family disconnection.All our services are free and sustained by grants and community donations. Your support helps us continue offering these vital resources.Donate here: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/donations-for-the-12-step-programThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email-         familydisappeared@gmail.com

Curious how blended families navigate the tricky question of paying for college? Lori and David tackle financial planning, family dynamics, and the reality of college costs in stepfamilies with honesty and humor. In this episode, you'll hear candid discussions about college expenses, scholarships, military paths, and what happens when one parent or stepparent has set aside funds for their child. Lori and David share their own experiences, like how military service and scholarships shaped their children's education, and what tough conversations arise if only one child has college savings. They dive deep into blended family finances, including inheritance, trusts, and what "fairness" really means when handling money for kids and stepkids. You'll also get practical advice on when to start talking about finances, why it's essential to plan early, and how to manage uncomfortable conversations (with tips for mediators and financial advisors). The hosts read comments from their Facebook group, providing real-life perspectives on who pays for college. Want more Nacho Kids wisdom? Visit https://nachokids.com for resources, join their Facebook group, and stay connected on social media. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and catch upcoming episodes for support and advice on stepfamily life! Subscribe & Review: Help us grow and serve more stepfamilies!

ResourcesGet your FREE copy of Blended Family Finances (limited offer) by Brian K. PetersonTo connect with Brian, CLICK HERE (Endurance Financial Group / Blended Family Financial)Episode 233.Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Money is a hard topic for any couple, but in a blended family, it often carries even more weight. It's rarely just about numbers. It's about history, protection, prior commitments, loyalty, fear, values, and the future you're trying to build together.In this episode, we sit down with Brian K. Peterson to unpack why money conversations feel so loaded in stepfamilies, and how couples can approach them with more wisdom and unity. Instead of treating money like a scoreboard, Brian invites couples to ask a better question: What are we trying to build together? That shift can move you from conflict and anxiety toward collaboration and peace.You'll also hear why a unified financial vision matters, especially with child support, co-parenting stress, legal battles, and shifting seasons that can make stability feel fragile. Join us as we explore why unity isn't sameness, it's honoring each person's story while intentionally building a shared future. Brian is a husband, dad, and stepdad, and the founder of Blended Family Financial. He created the Planning Built for Life® process to help stepfamily couples move from financial tension to shared clarity and direction. He and his wife, Cara, are passionate about building strong blended families, and he's the upcoming author of Blended Family Finances: How to Talk About Money, Plan for the Future, and Build a Life You Love.If money has become a source of stress, silence, or disconnection in your relationship, this episode will help you slow down, get honest, and start moving toward a more intentional and united path.You'll Discover:Why money conversations feel more complicated in blended familiesHow fear, protection, guilt, and past experiences quietly shape financial decisionsWhat a unified financial vision is, and how it helps couples move from conflict to collaborationHow to think about legacy as something you live now, not just something you leave laterResources from this Episode:Get your FREE copy of Blended Family Finances (limited offer) by Brian K. PetersonTo connect with Brian, CLICK HEREReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

We're back with The Smart Stepmom, Laura Petherbridge! We continue our discussion about stepfamily life by picking up where we left off in part 1.Specifically, Laura and I discuss the following: Current trends with stepfamilies.For example, the term “bonus mom” is now commonly used instead of “stepmother.” Is this helpful or hurtful?Custody changes—moving from mothers having full custody to 50/50 arrangements.Why children tend to have a harder time connecting with stepmothers as opposed to stepfathers.The many stepfamilies in the Bible and how Laura believes God views stepfamilies.Whether you're personally part of a stepfamily or not, you'll be blessed by Laura's warmth, wit, and wisdom. Please join us! Laura Petherbridge, The Smart StepmomWebsite: https://www.thesmartstepmom.com/Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott AndersonWebsite: http://loveandlifemedia.com/Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBookInstagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

ResourcesEpisode 232.  5 Principles to Manage Contact Between Homes and Promote Your Child's WellbeingArticle from Navesink Wellness Center:  When Your Child Becomes Your Confidant:  The Trap of Emotional SafetyEpisode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 229. The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry: Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance, and How to Help  Episode 84. How to Cope with Sadness, Anxiety, and Longing While Your Kids are GoneSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

I'm so pleased to introduce my personal stepmom coach, Laura Petherbridge, to the Love & Life family! Laura is an author, speaker, and coach. She specializes in supporting clients as they navigate the complexities of modern relationships. She works with couples, women, and single adults sharing with them what God has taught her as a childless stepmom. Laura shares truth fromScripture, along with wisdom from personal challenges. In part one of our conversation, Laura and I discuss all things stepfamily. Specifically, we tackle the following:• Expectations—those we realize we have and those that surprise us.• How bio parents perceive their children vs. how stepparents see their children. • The most important thing stepparents can do to help the family gel.• What bio parents need to understand about their spouse's experience as a stepmother or stepfather.Join us for part 1 of our deep dive into stepfamily life!Laura Petherbridge, The Smart StepmomWebsite: https://www.thesmartstepmom.com/Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott AndersonWebsite: http://loveandlifemedia.com/Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBookInstagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

If you've ever wrestled with the question, “How often should my child be in contact with their other parent during my time?”, you've probably realized this isn't really about phone calls. It's about the invisible pressure kids feel to stay emotionally connected to both homes simultaneously and the tension it creates for everyone.If you want your home to be a place of peace and predictability, but you keep getting derailed by “just one more check-in", this episode is for you. The problem isn't a lack of love. The problem is that frequent, parent-driven contact can quietly create loyalty binds, disrupt routines, and place adult anxiety on a child's shoulders.We'll share five principles for healthy cross-home communication, so your child can feel settled, your home can have stability, and you and your spouse can stay united instead of stuck in the same argument about how the other home seems to be intruding on ours.You'll walk away with helpful insight that'll help you decide what's best for your kids: prioritize child-driven connection when possible, create respectful boundaries when needed, protect household rhythms, evaluate your unique co-parenting context, and choose quality over quantity.Because the win isn't “constant access.” The win is a child who feels lighter and freer to love everyone without feeling responsible for meeting unrealistic expectations and managing two homes simultaneously. You'll Discover:How “well-meaning” check-ins can unintentionally create pressure, guilt, or loyalty binds for kidsThe 5 guiding principles to create stability and reduce emotional burden across two homesPractical boundary ideas that protect routines without cutting off connectionA 2-question filter to decide whether your current communication pattern is helping or harmingWhy “quality over quantity” is often the best path to a stronger connection (especially for teens)Resources from this Episode:Episode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 229. The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry: Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance, and How to Help Article from Navesink Wellness Center:  When Your Child Becomes Your Confidant:  The Trap of Emotional SafetyIn Their Shoes - Helping Parents Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce by Lauren ReitsemaEpisode 212.  3 Negotiation Strategies to Increase Collaboration and Influence in Your Co-Parenting Relationship Episode 113.   How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former Spouse  Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession 

ResourcesEpisode 231. When Your Ex Starts Dating: How to Handle their New Partner and Protect Your KidsEpisode 170. Co-Parenting Pitfalls for Bio and Step Parents: How to Avoid "Milestone Mishaps"Episode 135. How to Set Appropriate Boundaries and Negotiate Well with Your Ex-SpouseEpisode 226. How Two Homes Raise Kids that Thrive:  A Co-Parenting Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics that Can Destroy Co-Parenting - and Hurt the KidsEpisode 212. 3 Negotiation Strategies to Increase Collaboration and Influence in Your Co-Parenting RelationshipEpisode 188. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 2 of 2)Episode 20. 4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex Has Different RulesSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

If you've ever felt that jolt of panic when your child shares that they've been spending time with "daddy's new girlfriend" or "mommy's new boyfriend"……you're not alone. That moment can trigger fear, jealousy, grief, and of course, a protective instinct that makes you want to react fast.  And sometimes that turns into a moment we later regret.In this episode, we'll help you slow down and respond with wisdom instead of emotion. You'll learn how to make a helpful first impression (even if you don't feel ready), how to reduce tension that fuels loyalty binds, and move toward a healthier co-parenting dynamic without just pretending everything is “fine.” You'll DiscoverWhat to do when you feel unsettled by your ex's “recoupling” How to protect your kids from getting stuck in the middle and stay focused on their well-being How to set a healthy tone with the new partner (and your ex), so you can  avoid common missteps that often strain co-parenting  Resources from this Episode:Episode 229.  The Heavy Burdens Kids Carry:  Loyalty Binds, Parental Allegiance, and How to HelpEpisode 226. How Two Homes Raise Kids that Thrive:  A Co-Parenting Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]Episode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 162. How to Healthy Step-Parent/Step-Child Dynamics Avoid the Pitfalls of Step-Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]For Stepparents:Episode 44:  Why does my Husband's Ex Think I'm the Enemy?Episode 45:  How to Cooperate More with Your Spouse's Uncooperative ExEpisode 91:  Is Your Husband's Hostile Ex-Wife Invading Your Life, Stealing Your Joy and Confidence? Episode 170. Co-Parenting Pitfalls for Bio and Step Parents:  How to Avoid "Milestone Mishaps"Ready for some extra support?We're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

ResourcesEpisode 230.  Everyday Decisions, Big Tension: The Hurtful Patterns That Create Blended Family DivisionEpisode 203.  How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United TeamEpisode 49. Should Your Highest Priority be Your Marriage…or Your Kids?Episode 103.  4 Revealing Myths About 1 on 1 Time Between Parent and Their Bio-Kids (Part 1 of 2) Episode 147. Do Sensitive Conversations End up Creating Conflict in Your Relationship?Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Ever tried to make a seemingly straightforward family decision (something that should be easy) only to feel the tension rise, opinions harden, and lines get drawn? You're not imagining it. In blended families, decisions can feel like loyalty tests.In this episode, we walk through a realistic scenario with a blended couple facing a decision dilemma: Do we prioritize a new experience that one side of the family is excited about… or protect a familiar tradition the other side values deeply? And that's where things get complicated. Because it's often not really about the decision itself. It's about what the decision represents: loyalty and priority.That's when a hurtful pattern shows up that we call a Tenuous Triad:One parent becomes the Trapped Teammate (torn between spouse and kids),Their spouse becomes the Stranded Stranger (feeling unheard, powerless, devalued, overlooked),And the children become Confounded Kiddos (confused, unsettled, and often emotionally loud as they express what they want).And once that triad forms, couples can get stuck in predictable traps:Impatience (“Why can't we just move forward?”)Fear and guilt (“My kids are hurting and I'm to blame if they're disappointed.”)Lack of empathy (“You don't get what this means to them.”)Lack of unity (“We aren't leading together.”)Parent-child allegiance (“I have to side with my kids.”)Our goal is to help you name what's happening so you can stop reacting to surface-level conflict and start leading from a place of clarity and unity.You'll DiscoverWhat a Tenuous Triad is and why it often forms around everyday decisionsHow the Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger / Confounded Kiddos dynamic can quickly create biological “sides” in the home and ongoing disconnection, resentment, and hurtHow to shift from reaction and contention to calm, united leadership as a coupleResources from this Episode:Simple Step Episode: Managing Loyalties & Priorities in Your HomeEpisode 59. Why Are You Stuck in a Parent-Child Allegiance? (Part 1 of 2)Episode 179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and ClarityEpisode 180. Break Free from Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and SecurityEpisode 119.  6 Tips to Grow Empathy and Create More Connection in Your MarriageEpisode 72.  The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded RelationshipsEpisode 50.  How to Openly Communicate What You Really WantEpisode 203.  How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United TeamEpisode 49. Should Your Highest Priority be Your Marriage…or Your Kids?Episode 103.  4 Revealing Myths About 1 on 1 Time Between Parent and Their Bio-Kids (Part 1 of 2) Ready for some extra support?Connect with us to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

ResourcesEpisode 167. Achievable Strategies to Make Your Marriage the Foundation of Your Blended FamilyEpisode 206. Avoid These 5 Common Pitfalls to Ensure a Successful PartnershipEpisode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger dynamic)Episode 77. 3 Unique Differences That Make a Blended Family Marriage ChallengingEpisode 160.  A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them OutEpisode 130. How to Build Trust that Nurtures Bonds with Your Kids and StepkidsEpisode 214. Does Permissive Parenting Help or Hurt?  Discover How to Know and GrowEpisode 37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent?Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

If you've ever watched your child's mood shift the moment they step into a handoff…Or felt the sting of being kept at arm's length for reasons you can't explain… You're not imagining it. In blended families, kids often carry emotional burdens they were never meant to hold.In this episode, we name two of the most common “under-the-surface” struggles: loyalty binds (when a child feels torn between a bio parent and a stepparent) and parental allegiance (when a child feels pressure to align with one parent over the other). We share real-life stories, including the quiet pain behind the rejection of a stepparent's sweet gesture, and the way a joyful moment can suddenly collapse into guilt after a call with the other parent.But we don't stop at awareness. We give you a plan. We'll help you slow down, step into your child's shoes, and create emotional safety. We'll help step-parents stay hopeful and keep expectations realistic. And we'll challenge bio parents to protect their kids from adult tension by choosing the neutral zone (where curiosity lowers the temperature and kids are freed to love without feeling responsible for anyone's emotions).The win isn't perfect co-parenting or flawless moments.  It's this: kids get out of the middle, pressure starts to lift, and your home has room for trust, connection, and peace to grow. You'll Discover:The difference between a loyalty bind and parental allegiance, and how each one shows up in real life. How emotion coaching helps your child process hard feelings without forcing apologies or rushing an unrealistic "fix".  What step-parents can do to cope with rejection (and why “crockpot bonding” protects your heart and builds trust over time). The subtle ways parents accidentally tighten the bind and what to say/do instead to keep kids free to love everyone in both homes. How to find and stay in the neutral zone when insecurity, fear, jealousy, or discomfort hits.  Resources from this Episode:Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Patricia PapernowEpisode 222.  Step-by-Step Guide:  Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse (part 1 of 2)Episode 72. The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded RelationshipsEpisode 159. How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and HurtEpisode 161.  How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]  Episode 210.  Is your child pulling away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveEpisode 211.  8 Warning Signs Your Ex Is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

ResourcesLast week's episode :Episode 228. How 4 Simple Steps Can Transform Your Family's Struggles into Amazing Wins This Year Moving Beyond Fear:Episode 50: How to Openly Communicate What You Really Want Episode 147: Do Sensitive Conversations end up creating conflict in your relationship?Episode 179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and ClarityEpisode 98. Is fear of being vulnerable keeping you from loving your spouse wholeheartedly?Coping with Impatience:Episode 105. What powerful traits do you need to successfully blend and stay united?Episode 89. Feeling Stuck in the Change Process?  Change Isn't the Issue - Transition IsEpisode 72. The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded RelationshipsEpisode 159.  How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and HurtOvercoming Limiting Beliefs & Excuses:Episode 120. 3 Valuable Lessons That Saved Our Marriage and Blended FamilyEpisode 165. How important is your mindset when it comes to blended family life?Episode 217. Feeling Overwhelmed and Powerless?  How to Regain Hope with Tools that Heal [with EJ & Tarah Kerwin]Episode 51. Overcoming DiscouragementManaging Emotional Pain:Episode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and DistressEpisode 202. How to Break Free from Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron & Nan Deal]Episode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple ExperiencesEpisode 107. 3 Disheartening Realities That No Couple Want To Go Through - But We all Have ToEmbracing the Lone Ranger position:Episode 209. Breaking Free from Self-Doubt: 5 Habits to Build Confidence and Trust in YourselfEpisode 215. Does Your Relationship Feel Hopeless?  Why Giving Up Might Not Be the AnswerEpisode 65. 6 Simple Steps for Inviting Your Spouse to Get Help With YouEpisode 138. How Relational Dysfunction Plagued Our Marriage and How We Finally Broke FreeReady for some extra support?Schedule your FREE coaching call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-call

Those of us facing the common challenges of blending often feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or discouraged. It's easy to drift into survival mode and settle for “not that bad.”In this episode, we'll share a clear plan to move forward in a simple way that's not about the pressure of big, dramatic New Year's resolutions.  Here's the truth: transformation doesn't happen overnight, and there are no easy fixes to the complex dynamics stepfamilies face. But change can happen with small, faithful shifts practiced over time. You'll Discover:The difference between information vs. transformation and why “insight without action” keeps couples stuck How to set process goals (not vague intentions), and capture the “gold nuggets” you want to apply to your family's current struggles How to “work your plan” and experience real WINS in 2026!Resources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to schedule your FREE coaching call with usCLICK HERE to learn more about the Blending Together CommunityFind your Focus & Choose your Path:Bonding:For specific episodes on building healthy Bonds, CLICK HEREBuilding Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanUnderstanding Kids' Perspectives:For specific episodes to gain insight & support your kids, CLICK HEREIn Their Shoes: Helping Parents Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce by Lauren ReitsemaSafeguarding your Relationship / Marriage:For specific episodes to grow a deeper connection and reduce conflict, CLICK HERESaving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts: Nine Questions to Ask Before -- and After -- You Remarry by Drs. Les & Leslie ParrotParenting  & Stepparenting:For specific episodes to develop your parenting partnership and align family expectations, CLICK HEREStepparenting:  Keeping It Sane by Dr. Charles FayParenting Under Fire: How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant Child by Dr. Amy J.L. BakerEffective Co-Parenting:For specific episodes to discover best practices and improve cooperation between homes, CLICK HERECoParenting Works!  Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce By Tammy Daughtry

What if stepfamilies are not in the best interest of your child?What if you as a stepparent are the real problem?Studies show that children brought up in stepfamilies are more prone to delinquent behavior than children raised by their biological parents, a fact that is overlooked and deserves more attention to reverse this trend that contributes to unsafe communities. Yet, data also show that one of three Americans is now a stepparent, a stepchild, a stepsibling, or some other member of a stepfamily.In The Art of Stepparenting—How to Blend Families Without Tearing Them Apart, Author Richard R. Ramos provides insight and wisdom for navigating the many challenges and pitfalls stepparents face with the blending of children from different biological parents into a new family unit.He offers valuable principles on parental personal growth in emotional maturity that is the key to improving your capacity to connect with your stepchildren. He will show you how to reconcile strained and/or broken stepparent-child relationships, share how to win loyalty and earn respect for your authority as a single parent or stepparent, and provide wisdom from the lessons learned by other single parents and stepparents.The Art of Stepparenting—How to Blend Families Without Tearing Them Apart will empower the single parent, stepparent, and foster parent to create a blended family experience that provides you with the richness of restoration, reconciliation, and harmony all families deserve to enjoy.He is the author of "The Art of Stepparenting: How to Blend Families Without Tearing Them Apart." https://www.richardrramos.com/http://www.yourlotandparcel.org

Kick off 2026 with laughter and real talk! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David explore the powerful topic of expectations—why they trip us up, how to let go of what others "should" do, and how to build more peace and happiness in your blended family life. In this episode: Why expecting others to change (especially as a New Year's resolution!) sets you up for disappointment How your personal stories, judgments, and baggage shape what you expect from others—and how to rewrite those scripts Practical advice on shifting your mindset, spotting unrealistic expectations, and finding the positive even in tough times The importance of controlling your own reactions and embracing ownership of your actions and mistakes Why social media and Hallmark movies might be sabotaging your happiness Exciting news about donated Nacho Kids Academy scholarships, courtesy of the amazing Sylvia Krakauer Nacho Testimony: "If it wasn't for Nacho Parenting, I'd be divorced... again!" ~ L.W., Canton, OH, USA

Looking for real talk on blended family challenges, New Year's resolutions, and actionable strategies for stepfamilies? In this episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into stepfamily dynamics and why things can change in an instant. Whether you're a stepparent, parent in a blended family, or just seeking practical advice on setting and achieving goals, this episode delivers with wit, wisdom, and warmth. Episode Highlights: New Year's Resolutions & Why Most Fail: Learn why breaking goals into 90-day cycles (instead of year-long ambitions) leads to success. Psychology of Quick Wins: How seeing progress motivates stepfamilies, with lessons drawn from money management and video games. Realistic Blended Family Goals: Concrete ideas like reducing negativity and celebrating incremental progress. Building Relationships: Candid confessions on communication styles and maintaining healthy family or friendship connections. Acts of Kindness: The episode honors the memory of Ryan Webb by encouraging random acts of kindness in stepfamilies and communities. Tune in for practical strategies, relatable stories, and the trademark Nacho Kids humor as David and Lori help you navigate life's curveballs in a blended family. From paying off your car to learning how to "Nacho" the negatives, this episode is packed with inspiration to start your year strong - one bite-sized step at a time! Nacho Testimony: "The whole Nacho thing made no sense to me years ago when I heard about it. Now, years later, I am so thankful for this method and Lori & David! They saved my marriage!" ~ E.J., Pittsburgh, PA, USA

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed to or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Episode 86: Building Trust in Blended Families with Jen & Hope DeBrot This document outlines the content and key takeaways from Episode 86 of the 1M Project podcast, featuring Jen DeBrot and her step-daughter, Hope DeBrot. The episode delves into the complexities of building trust within blended families, drawing insights from Jen's book, "In the Stillness." It explores practical strategies for fostering safety and trust when introducing new individuals into a family dynamic, offering valuable advice for blended families and emphasizing the importance of trusting in the Lord throughout the process. Key Discussion Points The episode covers several crucial aspects of building trust in blended families: Feeling Safe to Trust: Jen and Hope discuss the initial hesitations and anxieties that often accompany the introduction of a new person into a blended family. They emphasize the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment where everyone feels comfortable expressing their feelings and concerns. Establishing Trust: The conversation explores practical steps for establishing trust, such as open communication, active listening, and consistent behavior. Jen and Hope share personal anecdotes and strategies they used to build their strong and trusting relationship. Tips for Blended Families: The episode provides actionable tips for blended families navigating the challenges of building trust. These tips include: * Patience and Understanding:** Recognizing that building trust takes time and requires patience and understanding from all parties involved. * Clear Communication:** Establishing clear and open communication channels to address concerns and resolve conflicts. * Respecting Boundaries:** Respecting individual boundaries and creating a space where everyone feels valued and heard. * Shared Activities:** Engaging in shared activities that foster connection and create positive memories Trusting the Lord: Jen and Hope emphasize the importance of trusting in the Lord throughout the process of building trust in a blended family. They share how their faith has guided them and provided them with strength and resilience. Quotes "Open communication is key." - Jen DeBrot "You felt like a Mentor to me which is what we needed at that time." - Hope DeBrot "Hard conversations are going to come up because we all come with different experiences and have our own stories." - Hope DeBrot #BlendedFamily, #Stepfamily, #Trust, #FamilyRelationships, #FaithBased, #InTheStillness #JenDeBrot, #Podcast, #FamilyPodcast, #RelationshipAdvice, #BuildingTrust, #HopeDeBrot, #1MProject, #FamilyFirst, #ChristianPodcast

Do you ever spend time reminiscing?We seem to think back a lot from our current empty next vantage point.  It can be great to recall some of those funny moments in our history.  And it's meaningful when we recount the tough seasons we've endured together as well.As we head into the holidays, we thought it would be fun to pull an interview with our kids out of the archives. So, in this episode, you'll listen in on a conversation with our family reminiscing over some of the ups and downs of our Holiday experiences over the past 20+ years. We wonder if it might stir up a bit of hope for your own future as you hear the authenticity straight from all three of our adult children.  We've experienced some high points and low points as a family over the years — and your family will too.  But as you navigate it together, we believe you can experience closeness, gratitude, and joy as a family.  We hope our discussion blesses you this season.In this episode, you'll discover how our kids answered these questions as they share their holiday experiences living in our blended family:What are your favorite memories (including funny ones)?What might have been a negative experience for you?What things made you feel sad, annoyed, or frustrated?What are you grateful for?What do you wish we (as parents) might have done differently?PLUS you'll catch some of their encouragements for YOU!Resources from this Episode:Episodes that focus on Kid's Perspectives:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/podcast/category/Kid%27s+Perspectives/#filterEpisode 71: How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday DisappointmentEpisode 10. 8 Practical Tips for a Successful Holiday SeasonEpisode 149. How to "Blend" Holiday Traditions and Create Meaningful Connection this Season Episode 151. What Has The Potential to Steal Your Joy - And How You Can Hold Onto It  (Part 1)Episode 171.  How to Experience More Fun, Connection, and Joy this Holiday Season [with Rich and Stacy] Episode 173. Expert Guidance for Holiday Success [with Lauren Reitsema & Joneen Mackenzie]Episode 222. Step-by-Step Guide:  Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things WorseEpisode 224. Holiday Negotiations That Work:  5 Tips to Reduce Tension and Disappointment  Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

Questions to Ask YourselfAm I continuing to engage in “first-family” activities with my ex (even though we're divorced), mainly because I'm trying to guard my children from experiencing any disappointment or discomfort?Have I noticed any confusion or resentment from my children when they observe our Perfect Pal relationship and compare it to what's actually happened in their lives?Do I feel compelled to continue as Perfect Pals because I'm worried that if I don't, my ex will react poorly, possibly lash out, turn the kids against me, or punish me in some way?  And so I keep showing up as a close friend and confidant just to avoid retribution? Because of our Perfect Pal dynamic, do I sometimes abdicate or agree with my ex, even when I have a different opinion?Do you (or your new partner) harbor resentment toward your ex because they seem to have a lot of power and control over parenting decisions? Do you end up feeling unheard, devalued, or dismissed?  Does maintaining your Perfect Pal relationship seem like it's more important than having an equal voice in your children's lives?What's your next step in moving toward 'Cooperative Colleagues'?ResourcesEpisode 226.  How Two Homes Raise Kids that Thrive:  A Co-Parenting Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]Episode 71. Helping Kids Cope with Painful Holiday DisappointmentCo-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce by Tammy DaughtryConnect directly with Jay and Tammy:  CoParenting InternationalCLICK HERE to get FREE resources from CoParenting InternationalCLICK HERE for more Episodes on Healthy Co-ParentingSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then s

If you're co-parenting between two homes, you already know: your kids are watching everything.  How you talk about their other parent, handle handoffs, respond to schedule changes, and react when the ex sends that text.  These everyday issues impact and shape your children's well-being.In this episode, we sit down with co-parenting experts Jay & Tammy Daughtry, who are both adult children of divorce and co-parents themselves. They share their TEAMM mindset: The End Adult Matters Most.  It's a powerful reminder that your co-parenting relationship today is shaping the adult your child will become tomorrow.As marriage and family therapists, Jay and Tammy deeply understand the long-term impact of post-divorce dynamics on kids.  They offer compassionate guidance to help you move from feeling stuck, reactive, or alone and instead adopt a calm, intentional, “business partner” approach to co-parenting.  You'll walk away with hopeful, real-life tools to steady your own emotions, protect your kids from unnecessary emotional burdens, and take small, intentional steps toward a healthier co-parenting partnership so your kids experience stability, security, and are free to love both of their parents.You'll Discover:Practical ideas for building alignment, handling hand-offs, and honoring your child's divided heartWhy “The End Adult Matters Most” changes everythingWhy “emotionally baby-proofing” is essential for children of divorce The benefits of a business-meeting approach to co-parenting (TEAMM meetings)How to approach an uncooperative exResources from this Episode:Co-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce by Tammy DaughtryConnect directly with Jay and Tammy:  Co-Parenting InternationalCLICK HERE to get FREE resources from Co-Parenting InternationalEpisode 84. How to Cope with Sadness, Anxiety and Longing While Your Kids Are GoneCLICK HERE for more Episodes on Healthy Co-ParentingReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Darren and I share some hilarious (and embarrassing) stories from the last 12 years.  Like the time I hid behind a fence from the ex, meeting the kids, dressing the same as the ex, the proposal story, and more about those early stepmom days. We also share more BTS from the "no kids in the bedroom" rule that made the internet go wild. Subscribe to my Substack  ⁠https://substack.com/@jamiescrimgeour Get The Disengaging Without Disconnecting Masterclass www.jamiescrimgeour.com/disengaging  Work With Me.www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching  Get My Ebook -  120 Ways To Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom www.jamiescrimgeour.com/ebook  Episode Sponsors:  Val Fleury Skin | My favourite LED light therapy mask. Go to ⁠www.valfleuryskin.com⁠ JAMIE20 for 20% off your purchase LMNT | My Go To Electrolyte Drink. Head to www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom to get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase. OSEA | Clean skincare that actually works.  Shop OSEA:https://bit.ly/47jvKIj OSEA Ocean Body Glow Set: https://bit.ly/4h16E59 Use code KICKASSSTEPMOM10 for 10% off your first order

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

You want this season to feel special for your blended family. But instead of joy, you're feeling grumpy, anxious, or even a little hopeless. Schedule changes, empty chairs at the table, tension with an ex, and slow bonding in step-relationships can make gratitude feel out of reach. Deep down you might be wondering, “How am I supposed to be thankful when life really hurts?”In this episode, we'll sit with you in that question. And we'll introduce three simple “gratitude lenses” that will help you focus on what's good without denying what's hard. Through honest stories from our personal journey, including Kim's long season of walking with Annika through addiction and into recovery, you'll see how gratitude can keep you anchored so that you can show up well as you face tough realities.   You'll also learn how to hold grief and gratitude at the same time while guarding against three common negativity traps that quietly drain hope and resilience. By the end, you'll have one small, clear next step to begin practicing gratitude in real life, right where you are, in this season and beyond.You'll Discover:Three gratitude lenses tailored for real life, you can start using todaySimple gratitude habits that can make a positive difference How to hold grief and gratitude simultaneously - without having to pretendThe 3 “P” traps that crush resilience—and how you can resist themResources from this Episode:Episode 42. Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - And 6 Tips for YouEpisode 84. Coping with Sadness, Anxiety, and Longing when the Kids are GoneEpisode 154. What practical and Emotional Shifts Can You Expect as You Blend a Family? Episode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your 'Perfectionist' Ideals and Disappointments Episode 202. How to Break Free From Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron and Nan Deal] Episode 189.  Bringing Hope to the Realities of Grief:  A Path to Understanding and Healing [with Krista St-Germain]Episode 187.  Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 51. Overcoming Discouragement (Part 1 of  3)Episode 99. Moving Beyond Painful Guilt and RegretEpisode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them OutEpisode 220. From Marginalized to Mainstream:  How to Reclaim Confidence Episode 215. Does your Relationship Feel Hopeless?  Why Giving Up Might Not be the Answer?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

The holidays can turn magical… …or messy!  This is especially true when two households, multiple calendars, and big expectations collide. You want peace, memories, and connection; the problem is last-minute schedule changes, mixed emotions, and the pressure to please everyone. We've been there. In this conversation, we'll offer practical guidance with a simple plan: five respectful negotiation tips for working with the other home and a kid-centered framework to navigate disappointment when plans don't line up. This year, choose to take a proactive approach so that you can lower tension, avoid drama, and model resilience. The stakes are high. Painful interactions, confusion, guilt, and your kid's sense of stability are all on the line. What does success look like? A calmer season where your family can experience peace and memorable moments, even when things aren't “perfect". You'll Discover:Five negotiation tips for co-parenting that lead to better opportunities for healthy cooperation.Why predictability matters for kids moving between homes, and how early, respectful communication increases collaboration and peace. How to prevent heartbreak by finalizing plans with the other home before sharing exciting news with children. The "Five A's" framework for helping kids manage disappointmentA mindset reframe: missed activities and events aren't failed parenting, they're an opportunity to build emotional resilience and solid character. Resources from this Episode:Episode 67. The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already KnowEpisode 222.  Step-by-Step Guide:  Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse (Part 1 of 2)Episode 33.  How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your ExEpisode 112.  3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt The KidsEpisode 113.  How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 188. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 2 of 2)Ready for some extra support? We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

You're the parent, or stepparent, who wants less conflict and more connection. But a child's resistance, sarcasm, isolation, or hurtful words, such as: “you're not my dad,” can derail plans and result in hurtful interactions. We've been there.In part 2 of this mini-series, you'll discover how to respond well in tough moments of pushback by using John Gottman's 5 steps of Emotion Coaching. You'll hear us role-play around real-life pushback when a child is competing for a parent's love, making accusations and threats, and behaving oppositionally toward a stepparent.We'll offer a better way to manage those moments with words that help kids feel seen, heard, and understood.  We'll also show you the best approach for addressing poor behavior and setting boundaries. The plan is simple: notice the emotion, treat it as an opportunity, listen and validate, help label feelings, then set limits while exploring solutions. Practice this, and you'll be surprised at how you can lower the tension, build relational safety, and strengthen your connection with a struggling child. When pushback hits, it is possible to move away from reacting in ways that don't help and instead, create an atmosphere of mutual trust, respect,  and real connection in your home.You'll Discover:The 5 Emotion Coaching steps from John Gottman (with wording you can steal) and why each step matters. How to decode what's going on underneath pushback and respond in a way that helps your child move through pain, loss, anger, sadness, and confusion. When and how to set behavioral boundaries so that kids are more open to receiving and responding well. A simple script for stepparents to defuse “You're not my dad/mom” moments while building mutual respect and understanding. When and how to engage in problem-solving with your child and foster real buy-in, confidence, and trust.Resources from this Episode:Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John GottmanEpisode 222. Step-by-Step Guide: Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse [Part 1]Episode 194.  Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Episode 195.  Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental AlienationEpisode 210.  Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveEpisode 211. 8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindEpisode 92.  At a loss and feeling defeated because the kids stubbornly refuse to blend?Episode 132. How do loss and grief impact blended family integration?Episode 189. Bringing Hope to the Realities of Grief:  A Path to Understanding and Healing [with Krista St-Germain]Ready for some extra support?   Schedule your free coaching call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

We know that pushback moments can sting. Eye rolls, refusals, accusations, or shutting down are all things kids in blended families can tend to do. It's easy for parents and stepparents to appease, minimize, deflect, control, try to 'fix-it' or simply avoid pushback (we've done it too). In this two-part series, we act as your guides and name the real struggle beneath kids' hurtful behavior: loss, grief, and fear that come with blending. Then we introduce a clear plan: Emotion Coaching. You'll hear real-life scenarios, why common reactions backfire, and what to do instead to help your child feel seen and supported. The win? A calmer home,  stronger bonds, and practical steps forward. The risk of doing nothing? Escalating conflict, shutdown, resentment, and power struggles. If you're ready to respond to your child's pushback with calm, clarity, and care, this conversation is for you.You'll Discover:The four common Pushback Predicaments: competing for love, accusations/threats, oppositional attitude, and loss & grief. And what's really going on underneath. Why appeasing, minimizing, deflecting, defending, controlling, or avoiding often makes things worse, and what kids hear when we react in those ways. How Emotion Coaching helps kids identify and name big feelings, regulate their emotions, and become receptive to changing their behavior.  Plus, the blended-family benefits (safety, trust, and respect). A simple reflection challenge to build awareness around your typical reaction patterns and your child's reactions to your reactions, so that you can choose a better way to respond next time. Continued Learning on this Topic:Episode 154. What practical and emotional shifts can you expect as you blend your family?Episode 213. Discover How to Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce [with Lauren Reitsema]Episode 159.  How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and HurtEpisode 37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent?Episode 039. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant StepkidsReady for some extra supportWe all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback! 

ResourcesEpisode 221.Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Blended families don't just merge households—they merge bank accounts, bills, and very different money expectations. And while stepfamilies are becoming more and more common, the financial playbook for them is far from simple. Every dollar spent can feel loaded: is it going to your kids, your spouse's kids, or the kids you're now raising together?My guest today, Cameron Normand, is one of the country's leading stepfamily experts and the founder of Stepfamily Solutions. She knows firsthand how money and emotional labor intersect in blended families, and she's built a career helping stepparents navigate the financial and emotional landmines that come with the role.In our conversation, Cameron breaks down why finances in stepfamilies are about so much more than dollars and cents, the “insider-outsider” syndrome that many stepparents face, and what it really takes to create a household where everyone feels seen, supported, and financially secure.Learn more about Cameron at stepfamilysolutions.com. And check out her 10 Essential Stepmom Scripts, which helps stepmoms with some of the most challenging conversations in blended family life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.