EMOTIONS R US

Let’s talk about sexual encounters and our emotional templates. Binge on sex. Use sex the same way an alcoholic uses alcohol. Acting out in a sexual way that is against your values. How can sex be an addiction? How do you know if you have sex addiction? Is a sex addict a pedophile? Is a pedophile a sex addict? Can a sex addict ever have a healthy sex life after recovering from sex addiction? Hypersexual disorder is a proposed diagnosis for people who have an "excessive" amount of sex and feel distress as a result. There is debate, however, over whether sex addiction exists in the same way as other addictions. In Western psychiatry, "excessive" sexual behaviors have been documented since the 1700s and have been referred to as Don Juanism, satyriasis, nymphomania, excessive sexual drive, sexual addiction, and hypersexuality, among other things. These terms all refer to sexual behavior that includes limited control of excessive and problematic sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviors. Ava Profota, a licensed clinical social worker, certified sex addiction therapist, certified multiple addictions therapist and supervisor for all three credentials. She worked six years in residential substance use treatment managing clients with multi-addictions and co-occurring diagnoses and initiated a number of co-occurring addiction programs while there. In addition to CSAT training, she has trained with Pia Mellody from the Meadows in Arizona, in childhood relational trauma resolution. She founded Inner Loop Counseling in 2010, an outpatient treatment center with multi levels of care for sex and love addiction, attachment disorder, childhood relational trauma and financial disorders. In 2014, Ms. Profota was voted Addiction Counselor of the Year by the Houston regional Texas Association of Addiction Professionals and is writing a workbook for Love Addiction therapy. For Further Insight: - www.innerloopcounseling.com - www.loveaddiction.info - www.recoveryondemand.com

I realize that what my step-father was doing to me every night was not normal. I covered my secrets and shame by being ‘Little Ms. Perfect’. Why didn’t someone save me when my mother could not--as she felt helpless. It is the adults job to empower children and teach them language of ‘speaking out’. What happens to a child who was not protected as adult survivor of a toxic life? How do they recover? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live your life as the awesome person you used to be before child abuse and trauma shattered your world? If so, Releasing Your Authentic Self: A Daily Guide to Help Child Abuse and Trauma Survivors Rediscover Themselves is the tool you’ve been searching for. Child abuse teaches you to hide the real you (your authentic self). The exercises in this book were designed to help you release that incredible part of yourself and begin this amazing journey of rediscovery! Svava Brooks is a survivor of child sexual abuse and the co-founder of a nationwide child sexual abuse prevention and education organization in Iceland called “Blátt áfram.” She is also a certified instructor and facilitator for Darkness to Light Stewards of Children, as well as a certified Crisis Intervention Specialist, a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, a BellaNet Teen support group facilitator, a Certified TRE® Provider, and an Abuse Survivor Coach. The mother of three children, Svava has dedicated her life to ending the cycle of child sexual abuse through education, awareness, and by helping survivors heal and thrive. She is a certified facilitator for Advance! a program created by Connections to restore authentic identity. Every week she writes about healing after trauma on her blog, and also leads a discussion forum on Child Sexual Abuse Healing and Recovery online. BOOK: Releasing Your Authentic Self: A Daily Guide to Help Child Abuse and Trauma Survivors Rediscover Themselves For Further Insight: Web site and blog:  https://www.educate4change.com/blog1 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/educate4change/ Follow on Twitter:  https://twitter.com/SvavaBrooks Periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/svavas/follow Join me m-f  4pm pst. Free gift link: This is a 14 Day excerpt (pdf) from the Journey to the Heart: https://svava-brooks.mykajabi.com/p/FreeGuide

ALL I THOUGHT ABOUT WAS ENDING IT, I feel no hope. There is no more HOPE, only thoughts of when, where and how. I can’t stop these thoughts in my mind. My thinking is a never-ending song--a revolving door telling me to kill myself, I am no good, I am nothing, a nobody, everything and everyone would be better off if I wasn’t here. I can’t take the pain, suffering, agony, I don’t want to live anymore. Today I am going to do it. I can’t tolerate myself. I am over life, I am out of here. NOW. The risk for suicidal behavior is complex. Research suggests that people who attempt suicide differ from others in many aspects of how they think, react to events, and make decisions. There are differences in aspects of memory, attention, planning, and emotion, for example. These differences often occur along with disorders like depression, substance use, anxiety, and psychosis. Sometimes suicidal behavior is triggered by events such as personal loss or violence. In order to be able to detect those at risk and prevent suicide, it is crucial that we understand the role of both long-term factors—such as experiences in childhood—and more immediate factors like mental health and recent life events. Researchers are also looking at how genes can either increase risk or make someone more resilient to loss and hardships. Many people have some of these risk factors but do not attempt suicide. Suicide is not a normal response to stress. It is, however, a sign of extreme distress, not a harmless bid for attention. DAN PELLY Inspirational Speaker: 2 Suicide Attempts (1996) & (2010) my message to the world is “I Want to LIVE “Never Give Up! My Life Matters. Let’s Win Together. My mission is to have real dialogue for anyone who is dealing with Suicide Ideations or has attempted and survived. I want them to not attempt again, recover & live a Wonderful Life. Also for others who are grieving a loss. I hope that hearing my experience’s and what it feels like to live with Depression & Suicide ideations they begin to understand their own silent pain & isolation. I also, support those seeing love ones, friends or colleagues that are struggling with this horrible life snatching disease, Suicide. Together, let’s Save Lives. For Further Insight: Suicide Prevention: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Provides help to those in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Call 1-800-273-8255 1-800-273-8255 FREE Available 24 hours everyday NAMI 1-800-950-6264 YouTube Videos: Pain Suicide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Wn2GcH-7QA&list=PLx_AUwyoHgqGuMUaVqsT8i2DndfCr0VaD&index=1 Better off Without Me Suicide? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5xRH_Bhw7w&index=2&list=PLx_AUwyoHgqGuMUaVqsT8i2DndfCr0VaD Keep Moving Suicide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkD_FpyitMA&index=4&list=PLx_AUwyoHgqGuMUaVqsT8i2DndfCr0VaD

It’s our choice what we want to expect of ourselves… WANT TO be better than HAVE TO, WISH to be better… than SHOULD be better. It’s our choice how we look at things after the fact, what meaning we attach USA – Unconditional Self-Acceptance. If you are not doing USA than you are probably doing - SHAME- Shame is an important feeling to discuss for a number of reasons. It is often the primary emotional disturbance that people seek relief from by drinking or using and abusing drugs, or even attempting suicide. It can also be a secondary disturbance in that it brings you to Low Self-Esteem that is shame about past, Anxiety is about the future Rabbits (run), turtles (hide) and rattlesnakes (bite): 1)  It makes people want to keep what they think and feel, or even do a secret 2)  It makes deny there's anything wrong, and pretend there isn't a problem 3)  It makes people less likely to accept or ask for help that is available Ray Mathis is an Education Consultant, Speaker, Educator, Author, Advocate for Mental and Emotional Tool Kit and Tool Time group leader. For Further Insight: The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life #2: www.itsjustanevent.com Characteristics of Shame-Based Adults in Their Relationships — taken from Jane Middleton-Moz https://cryingoutforjustice.com/2012/05/05/characteristics-of-shame-based-adults-in-their-relationships-taken-from-jane-middleton-moz/ Top 100 Traits of people who suffer from Personality Disorders  http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/shame-shaming

THE SMILE MAN Edward Rodriguez is on a quest to collect 10 Million Smiles. From donning a rabbit costume to walking from Florida to New York in 277 days, Edward will go to any length to reach his smile quota. Edward has learned that: "Life is filled with challenges and they will always continue but, when passion is ignited, all obstacles can be conquered.” He learned to see every problem as a gift, wrapped in valuable lessons and experiences to be shared. Edward’s events to share happiness are: “Happiness in the Park” where he set the unofficial world record for the most people smiling and waving simultaneously. The Miami Dolphins hosted the first Smile and Wave America Day at Sun Life Stadium, during a live NFL football game. Edward is on a mission to help America smile again, and nothing will stop him. May your days be filled with joy, Eddy. “The Power of the Smile” opens doors to great opportunities and “The Power of laughter” releases stress and heals the heart!! Together they transform lives!!! For Further Insight: E-Mail: FromFLtToNY@gmail.com Website: http://www.smileandwaveamerica.com Videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFoL4nEzFvc and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eP32Fzxkkds

Can one recover from serious mental imbalance? How? These questions are increasingly important to emotionally disturbed people and the governments supporting them. It's crazy, but top research psychiatrists now admit "We still don't know the cause of most mental illness; indicators show it is not a ‘broken brain' that can be fixed by medications." There are many resources for Extraordinary Healing that exposes a new paradigm about the causes of mental disturbances and maps pathways to full recovery. An effective model of care from Brazil that has been developed since the 1930s is described in Dr. Bradgon’s book. The treatment addresses biological, psychosocial, and spiritual issues-- not separately, but together. In one of Brazil’s hospitals is a collaborating healthcare team made up of medical doctors, psychiatrists, medical intuitives and spiritual healers. Trained volunteers bring compassionate understanding and companionship. It is more cost-effective than our system. Emma Bragdon has a PhD in Transpersonal Psychology. She was licensed as a Marriage, Family, Child Therapist in 1988 and consults with individuals online. She is the Founder and current Executive Director of "Integrative Mental Health for You"--an online educational resource. She is Deeply involved with metaphysics, energy healing, spiritual healing and meditation since 1964. For Further Insight: Website: https://emmabragdon.com IMHU website: https://imhu.org BOOKS Spiritism and Mental Health: Practices from Spiritist Centers and Spiritist Psychiatric Hospitals in Brazil Resources for Extraordinary Healing: Schizophrenia, Bipolar and Other Serious Mental Illnesses

It’s happening to all of us at some point or another in our lives “We keep circling the emotional drain”. What is THINK-FEEL-DO thermostat and the connections between your thoughts, feelings and actions. Let’s connect the dots. DEMANDINGNESS is the first and most important type of irrational thinking identified by Dr. Ellis. When irrational thinking is recognized it equates with AWFULIZING, CAN'T STAND IT-ITIS, and LABELING AND DAMNING. None of which serves your purpose or happiness. Now, that you know and understand what got you where you are the question is how do you correct your irrational thinking? Ray Mathis taught health education for 33 years. To do that job better, he became certified in Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT). He developed a new approach to health and wellness “The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life". Ray represents the non-profit Chicago Institute for Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (and Education). He speaks to schools, universities, groups, businesses, and at state and national conventions for teachers, school counselors and mental health professionals about taking his "tool kit" approach to mental health, health, social, behavioral, academic and other societal problems. Further insights: Ray Mathis:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/ray-mathis-a8a61a10/ Control Issues:  http://www.monikahoyt.com/relationship-control-issues/ Shame-Based Issues:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201104/shame-concealed-contagious-and-dangerous-emotion How Distorted Thinking Increases Stress and Anxiety:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/turning-straw-gold/201409/how-distorted-thinking-increases-stress-and-anxiety?collection=166710

We all have a host of COGNITIVE CHOICES that really determine how we feel.  Our choices include: How we LOOK AT what happens What MEANING we attach to what happens What we FOCUS on about what happens What we COMPARE things to What we EXPECT of ourselves, others and lives What we REMEMBER about the past What we IMAGINE will happen next How much IMPORTANCE we attach to what happens What we spend our time THINKING about So much that goes wrong in the lives of individuals, families, schools and society is caused by people generating more emotion than is necessary or helpful in response to their life events, and what they do because of it, or to deal with it. That is why emotional management is the most important life skill. It Simply Means 1) There is always more than one way to look at anything 2) Whatever way we pick will be understandable given our unique life experiences 3) But some will make us feel better, others will make us feel worst 4) Some will make it easier to deal with things, others will make it harder 5) And we always have a choice as to how we want to look at things. "Life is MIND made" The way we choose often tends to be automatic. It's often the way we've made that choice many times before. That's why we tend to be relatively unaware that we've made a choice. However, the way we make these choices is not "cast in stone". We can learn to make them differently and better. With practice and rehearsal, making them in different ways can become as automatic as the old ways were for how to change what you think, feel, say and do) Ray Mathis is an Education Consultant, Speaker, Educator, Author, Advocate for Mental and Emotional Tool Kit, Tool Time group leader and Author of several books including:   It's Just an Event-It's Your Choice How You Want to Feel: The ABC System of Cognitive, Emotional and Behavioral Self-Management and Self-Improvement. For Further Insight: GoodReads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/list/672      917.Ray_Mathis The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life. A FREE resource for teachers, students, parents and professionals of all kinds from the Chicago Institute for Rational Emotive Behavioral Education. http://www.itsjustanevent.com/index.html Book: A Guide to Rational Living / Edition 3 https://www.barnesandnoble.com/p/a-guide-to-rational-living-albert-ellis/1122982034/2676972092893?st=PLA&sid=BNB_DRS_New+Marketplace+Shopping+Textbooks_00000000&2sid=Google_&sourceId=PLGoP164997&gclid=CjwKCAiA6qPRBRAkEiwAGw4Sdr9ZxIduBxZvwbr9iEBA9otOKm_Sbw9pp-V-nsrbTB45tMSxdKJSHBoC2q4QAvD_BwE

Veterans are not a problem needing to be solved. Veterans are the solution to employers’ problems. Companies will only truly understand this if they take the proper and necessary time to research their target audience. This may require going outside of the corporate walls to learn what drives Post 9/11 Veterans. If employers’ do not do this properly, well then, they are wasting the veteran’s time with recruitment efforts and within 18 months most likely the veteran will find another job anyway. Employers need to first establish ‘the why ‘to their marketing strategy. Why do they want to hire veterans? This is vital to properly executing any sort of recruitment plan that will bear fruit. Carin R. Sendra, USAF Post 9/11 Veteran. A veteran and former Department of Defense contractor, Carin R. Sendra is an enthusiastic writer and supporter of the military community. Her passions include discussing those topics that may get overlooked on veteran challenges. Carin writes thoughtful and informative material through her Ph.D. dissertation work; ‘Veteran turnover intention in the workplace’ as well as contributed to the following; Work of Honor, Veterans Voices Magazine, The Talent Economy, GotUrSix Radio, KSON Employment after Deployment and BRAVE radio. Her current endeavors include volunteering as a board member with a new nonprofit called VETFILMS.org which encourages therapeutic expression through screenplays and acting in veteran made films. Carin advocates authenticity in leadership and encourages veterans to assess their worth when moving into job opportunities post service. Veterans should not be discouraged if assessed as a poor fit within an organization-they should only seek an organization which appreciates them as they are. Further Insight: Connect here: www.linkedin.com/in/carin-r-sendra Website: www.vetfilms.org

She was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and domestic violence victim as an adult. All of which contributed to many years of suffering before being diagnosed with PTSD, Depression, and Anxiety. She was married 3 times and divorced her last husband in 2012. Prior to her last divorce she lost weight via consistent exercise, nutrition, and Psychotherapy. Her weight lost, a size 24 down to a size 14. Kimyetta Taylor is a walking testimony in how to turn the victim status into victor. Kimyetta Taylor was born in Brooklyn, New York, May 29th 1973. She is the second oldest of 6 siblings, with one daughter and four grandsons. At the age of 24 during one of her classes at the community college, she discovered she was a poet. Since then she has been writing non- stop. Writing is her way of releasing the pain. Her first book “Atrurose” was published October, 2015 and her second book “Poetry works of an insane heart- A fool for love” 05/2016. She served as a Guardian Ad Liteum Child advocate from 2015 until 2016. She was a member of Toastmasters where she held a role as Sergeant at arms and Area Director, 2013 - 2016. Kimyetta became a certified Zumba instructor October 2017 and a Life Coach Novembe r2017. In Oct 2015 she was a guest speaker at the Jacksonville Sherriff’s Domestic Violence Awareness Press Conference. She also appeared on the morning show and on NPR the same year. She will be publishing two children books before the end of the year 2017 “Who stole my Applesauce” and “Sometimes Chickens have purple feet”. For Further Insight: Am I in an Abusive Relationship – Quiz:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=to4PDbE_CSU 30 Shocking Domestic Violence Statistics That Remind Us It’s An Epidemic:  https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/23/domestic-violence-statistics_n_5959776.html Domestic Violence Hotline:  http://www.thehotline.org/help/help-for-survivors/ Tragic Tale of Teen Dating Violence:  http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Health/story?id=630874

The knowledge that you are responsible for your actions and attitudes does not need to be discouraging, because it also means that you are free to change your destiny. You are not in bondage to your past, which has shaped your feelings, to race, inheritance, and background. All this can be altered if you have the courage to examine how it formed you. You can alter your chemistry provided you have the courage to dissect your elements (Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 1: 1931-1934). “In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” Eleanor Roosevelt Sex, Drugs and Rock & Roll: There is a new STD superbug that experts say may be more deadly that AIDS and could cause an epidemic. Could be, could be not in America, but, in Japan (CDC). However, people do travel all over the world and Sex and Emotions are not separate entities. Add drugs such as in the present Opioid crisis and our Sexual Fluid culture. New STD Cases hit Record High in the United States of America. "That progress has since unraveled." Chlamydia was the most commonly reported STD, with women between the ages of 15 and 24 accounting for nearly half of those cases. But syphilis rates also rose nearly 18 percent between 2015 and 2016, and reported cases of gonorrhea rose among both men and women last year. (CDC) Sep 27, 2017. What? Take responsibility! What does that mean to you in your current day to day life? In DrBev’s World, Gestalt Principle, number four (GP4) the definition is “Take your ability to respond by word, thoughts, and or action.” In other words, taking the opportunity or ability to act independently and make decisions without authorization of another. “If you own your story you get to write the ending” (Brene Brown). For Further Insight: First lady Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962): http://www.history.com/topics/first-ladies/eleanor-roosevelt Lists of character traits or character qualities: http://www.character-training.com/blog/list-of-character-traits/ Learn if You're in a Relationship with Someone Who is a Victim: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201210/strategies-deal-victim-mentality 12 Reflections on Personal Responsibility – by Steve Brunkhorst. http://www.boxingscene.com/motivation/29761.php New STD Superbug That’s Deadlier Than AIDS? https://woldcnews.com/1481475/new-std-superbug-may-be-deadlier-than-aids-kills-within-days/

"I had no idea I'd try to take my own life in the morning, I was smiling and loved the way my hair looked hence my selfie placed on Instagram seemingly happy, smiling, made-up face. I had a good day that day. I took a walk and went out to eat with my family and genuinely enjoyed my time with them. But that night, I overdosed and was in the hospital for the next week." Often, when a story comes out about mental health, the image that accompanies it is of a sad, gloomy-looking woman. But that's not what people with mental illnesses always look like. Having Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) means that your mood can switch to suicidal in seconds over the slightest trigger. Suicidal isn't just crying, for those with a troubled life and long build ups to breaking point, it's also snap decisions made whilst your son sleeps in the same house and your loving partner kissed you goodnight hours before. BPD is a "serious mental disorder marked by a pattern of ongoing instability in moods, behavior, self-image, and functioning," according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Saturday Night Live star Pete Davidson was recently diagnosed with the same condition, and said that his mood swings caused him to black out. For many their diagnosis means that they can have suicidal thoughts over "the slightest trigger." These include: Intense fear of rejection, separation, or abandonment. Rapid changes between thinking someone is perfect to believing they are evil. Risky behaviors including unsafe sex, gambling, drug use, or accumulating credit card debt. Threats of suicide or self-harm. Difficulty empathizing with other people. For Further Insight: NAMI – National Association Mental Illness: https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Borderline-Personality-Disorder/Support Borderline Personality Disorder Support Group: https://borderline-personality-disorder.supportgroups.com/ BPD and Romantic Relationships: If You Really Loved Me: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/borderline/2014/06/if-you-really-loved-me-bpd-and-romantic-relationships/ 9 Tips on How to Recognize Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/carol-w-berman-md/9-tips-on-how-to-recogniz_b_5224432.html How a Borderline Relationship Evolves: https://bpdfamily.com/content/how-borderline-relationship-evolves

We may like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so. This is a powerful story of one man and his quest for COMMITMENT from the one person he truly loved. Problem is the other person is married. Further the other person was seeing a third person. Things get somewhat complicated as he finds himself in and out, and out and in again and again. In fact we would call this a TOXIC relationship. Sure - but doesn't LOVE conquer all? Life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. Today's show will provide knowledge and education on the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them; and the most common tactics they employ to gain attention for themselves. HAVE YOU ENCOUNTERED TOXIC PERSONALITIES? WHAT HAVE YOU DONE? Ask not WHY - ASK WHAT? WHAT! DrBev, what do these personalities have in common? For Further Insight: 13 Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship And It's Ruining Your Life:  https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/13-signs-youre-toxic-relationship-ruining-life/966801 Uh Oh: 9 Subtle Signs You’re In a Toxic Relationship: https://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/toxic-relationships/ 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal: https://markmanson.net/6-toxic-habits

Today we Honor victims of the pain patient genocide facing our country today. Our prayers are with the families of these needless victims. Reality facing every chronic pain patient around the country: LOSE YOUR PAIN MEDICATION, LOSE YOUR LIFE! With addictions and overdoses surging over the past two decades, recent CDC guidelines urge doctors to avoid or dramatically limit the use of legal painkillers. Let’s move on to another part of reality are us. What if today is the day? What would you do if your family member, soul mate, friend, child, husband, or wife asked you to help them kill themselves? Commit suicide “I can’t take the pain anymore, I have no life. I will not ever be the same again. I don't want to live anymore! You may think to yourself “I won't give up on them and I don’t want them to give up of life” If Chronic pain affects a love one you may hear a voice in your mind saying...unless they specifically say I don’t want to be here on earth anymore. I may assist. The most prevalent reason is they are “pain patients whose medications are yanked away quickly. Lastly, what if they have chronic pain and a major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder or another mental illness? It can seem that the world is stacked against them. For Further Insight: What Are Opiates?  https://goo.gl/1fVQXW America Chronic Pain Association  https://theacpa.org/Support-Groups Chronic Pain Support Groups  https://chronic-pain.supportgroups.com/ National Institute of Mental Health  https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/prevalence/major-depression-among-adults.shtml US National Library of Medicine National Institute of Health  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4912238/ Practical Pain Management  https://www.practicalpainmanagement.com/treatments/psychological/treatment-pain-bipolar-patients-clinical-challenges

What is the emotional impact of the returning soldiers to their children, wives, lovers, family, friends and society at large? “I cried in prayer to God, Come to me now!” Rodrigo Godoy, Soldier Pastor continues his life-story... "I have Chronic Multi-Syndrome Illness. The VA says that certain chronic, unexplained symptoms existing for six months or longer are related to the Gulf War service they say no matter what caused it. “God are you kidding me?” Reality, hit me hard when I realized my destiny. I cried in Prayer to God “Come to me now!!!” I served my country during the Gulf War. My doctors tell me that my health issues are likely caused during my Southwest Asia Theater (Yes, War is referred to as THEATER) of military operations. My illness includes Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Functional Gastrointestinal disorders and Undiagnosed Illnesses such as Muscle and Join Pain, Headaches, Neurological and Psychological Problems, Respiratory Disorders and Sleep Disturbances." For Further Insight: VA Department of Veterans Affairs https://www.publichealth.va.gov/exposures/gulfwar/medically-unexplained-illness.asp Is a Nightmare a Night Terror https://sleep.org/articles/what-is-a-night-terror/ Soldier Pastor endured two surgeries https://www.spine-health.com/video/anterior-cervical-discectomy-and-fusion-acdf-video Neurological disorders in Gulf War veterans https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1569625/ Spirit Animal Totem (Cricket) https://www.spirit-animals.com/cricket/

This K-9 called Mouse, changed his life for the better. Mouse gave Rodrigo the coping skills and security he needed to move forward from a war that left him with Night Terrors, Panic Attacks, PTSD, Physical Disabilities and a host of symptomology that is yet to be understood or labeled. "My position in the Army was a job where I was opening body bags from the WAR with human parts in them. These human parts had to be matched to each soldier, just like a jigsaw puzzle. My human self began to question God... Why place me in this position of service to my country? In search of answers, I prayed over every body-bag I opened and every human part I touched. I later asked myself how will I behave after military debriefing when I leave the service? Who will I be I when I get back home?” Rodrigo Godoy Rodrigo Godoy says that God answered his prayers again and again. He received a service dog called “Mouse”. Mouse was a boxer, a four-legged miracle, from Halley’s K-9 for Vets. Mouse gave Rodrigo the coping skills and security he needed to move forward from a war that left him a train wreck. Through it all his Faith in God continued to carry his spirit through the world with the support of others who may not have understood his unseen physical and mental scars. Somehow it will all be okay.... MESSAGE FROM RODRIGO GODOY: The Lord has been so great with me even in my darkest hours. My desire is to serve and minister to all who have physical, mental disabilities and unseen emotional scars. Yet find it is impossible to leave their home, bed or hospital, but have access to a computer or smart phone. I too found myself in that exact position due to spinal column and spinal cord surgery in 2017. I want to give back a service of excellence, bringing God’s word to where it is needed. I pray for all our military members and veterans to remember to count your blessings and fight for the blessing, today. For Further Insight: Click Video “Weapons of Mind Distraction” http://drbevmentalhealth.com/military/ Service Dogs Program https://www.k9sforwarriors.org/ Spiritual Fitness https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/one-among-many/201102/the-spiritual-soldier Find local support https://maketheconnection.net/events/spirituality

Live your life as if today or this moment is your last! None of us know the day or the hour in which our life will end. What would you do if you were told you have an incurable illness such as Lupus? How would you live knowing that your health may get worse before it gets better and eventually your death? Where would you find your “HAPPY” day to day? Continuing real, raw, authentic conversation with CEO Capri MaHaffey, who was recently diagnosed with Lupus. She shares her walk through this disease with such personal openness about her body and life-choices “I don’t want to die without living my best life.” Capri MaHaffey, CEO and founder of “Tha GLUE and caPri. Musical Motivational Movement!”, Capri believes that everyone has a divine purpose in life regardless to their station in life. Her work resonates with the lives of teens and young adults in the Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex and Asexual (LGBTQIA) community; Capri wholeheartedly believes in meeting everyone right where they are and “GLUE” them up! The acronym GLUE is God Loves Unconditionally Everyone. Capri believes it is our duty to Give Love Unto Everyone…leading to her signature saying “That’s GLUE Baby.!!!” Capri spent 7 years working in the mental and behavioral health field provided Capri with the capacity and insight to relate to those affected by mental illness. Capri served United States Air Force, four years of active duty two years in the Air Force Reserves and the Air National Guard. For Further Insight: Follow on Twitter: https://twitter.com/thatsgluebaby Holistic:  yumtum4life@gmail.com Yum-Tum Juicing Services, J. Nikki Mangum, Founder/Lead Juice-ologist for Recipes, Fasting Plans, including personal attention and instructions. Social Media Support Groups: Chronic Illness: https://twitter.com/ChronicIllness FightChronicIllness: https://twitter.com/HsSmith5 Chronic Pain Aust: https://twitter.com/ChronicPainAust Chronic pain support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/218098494907809/ Chronic Pain Sufferers Support Group "ORIGINALS": https://www.facebook.com/groups/174867649868/ Arthritis, Fibromyalgia and Chronic pain support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1682169292030591/

The Beginning of an incurable life that we call Chronic Illness. In lupus, something goes wrong with the immune system, which is the part of the body that fights off viruses, bacteria, and germs ("foreign invaders," like the flu). Normally our immune systems produce proteins called "antibodies" which protect the body from these invaders. These autoantibodies cause inflammation, pain, and damage in various parts of the body. Capri MaHaffey, CEO and founder of "Tha GLUE and caPri. Musical Motivational Movement!", Capri believes that everyone has a divine purpose in life regardless to their station in life. Her work resonates with the lives of teens and young adults in the Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex and Asexual (LGBTQIA) community; Capri wholeheartedly believes in meeting everyone right where they are and “GLUE” them up! The acronym GLUE is God Loves Unconditionally Everyone. Capri believes it is our duty to Give Love Unto Everyone...leading to her signature saying “That's GLUE Baby.!!!” Capri spent 7 years working in the mental and behavioral health field provided Capri with the capacity and insight to relate to those affected by mental illness. Capri served United States Air Force, four years of active duty two years in the Air Force Reserves and the Air National Guard. For Further Insight: Follow on Twitter: https://twitter.com/thatsgluebaby Resource, http://www.webmd.com/lupus/guide/understanding-lupus-basics Support Groups, http://resources.lupus.org/local-support

I remember the call like it was yesterday, yet it was more than a year ago. One of our very own; DrBev Beverly Jackson, a remarkable woman, an accomplished psychotherapist who has spent her life assisting people to look FEAR in the eyes and defeat it - was now in a spiral mode of shock and horror with the murder of her grandson. DrBev is a lover of life and one of the most absolutely beautiful human beings I have ever met. She has just launched her new weekend show on America Out Loud Talk Radio which will air on both Saturday and Sunday at 3pm EST. You will then find the show on our Podcast Network each Tuesday. Her enthusiasm and her message is worthy of your time and your ability to share it with your world. Thank you for listening... Malcolm Out Loud More on DrBev here DrBev's talk show Emotions R Us I LOST MY MIND I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN My 19 year old grandson was murdered the morning of January 1, 2016 by an AK47. He died on a sidewalk, a drive-by shooting. My grandson was the captain of his high school football team. He was in college, 1st year, home for his first holiday with family, during Christmas - when his life was cut short by a madman. You will never be who you were before the death of a beloved one or loss. Hopefully, you will adapt, change, and become a better you.... eventually!!! I am onward to becoming the best new ME possible.... and now my very personal story.... DrBev For Further Insight: - www.griefhaven.org/ - https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jul/05/can-parent-get-over-death-of-a-child - https://healgrief.org/grieving-the-death-of-a-child/ - https://abedformyheart.com/

Autism is a huge challenge, writes J.B. Handley. We all do the best we can… Some people’s “best” just happens to be better than other people’s “best” — and that’s the truth. Let me put it to you a different way. I’ve met a number of parents who recovered (be all they can be and more) to their children. They share many common traits, the same kinds of traits that employers tend to love: they think outside the box, they’re resourceful, they fight like hell. And, they never give up. Even, perhaps, when they should give up. To a person, they are fighters. To a person, they are outside the box thinkers. Fighting like hell and thinking outside the box and never giving up doesn’t mean your child will recover. But, it sure as heck raises the odds. It is estimated that pervasive development disorders occurs in about 5 to 15 children per 10,000 births. In general, PDDs are more common in boys than in girls, with the exception of Rett’s syndrome, which occurs almost always in girls. General symptoms that may be present to some degree in a child with a PDD include: Difficulty with verbal communication, including problems using and understanding language. Difficulty with non-verbal communication, such as gestures and facial expressions. Difficulty with social interaction, including relating to people and to his or her surroundings. Unusual ways of playing with toys and other objects. Difficulty adjusting to changes in routine or familiar surroundings. Repetitive body movements or patterns of behavior, such as hand flapping, spinning and, head banging. Changing response to sound. (The child may be very sensitive to some noises and seem to not hear others.) Temper tantrums Difficulty sleeping Aggressive behavior Fearfulness or anxiety (nervousness) There are five types of pervasive development disorders: Autism: Many (nearly 75%) of children with autism also have some degree of mental retardation. Asperger’s syndrome: children with Asperger’s have average or above average intelligence, and develop normally in the areas of language and cognition (the mental processes related to thinking and learning). Childhood disintegrative disorder: Children with this rare condition begin their development normally in all areas, physical and mental. Rett’s syndrome: This condition has been linked to a defect on the X chromosome, so it almost always affects girls. Sensory dysfunction: Certain qualities of touch, sound or movement are known to be distracting and unpleasant in some sufferers, while others may not even notice a particular sound or color, which can make everyday activities difficult. Plan for the care of your special-needs child 1. Set up a second trust 2. Ramp up savings 3. Plan for three retirements

It became obvious to me almost immediately that it wasn't the child who needed 'quick and responsive' help - it was the parent. As she sat there in the park with headphones on, occasionally yelling across the park at her child - this woman was in denial. Even I, a complete stranger realized that her child had 'special needs' - and that my friends would require a special focus and plan of action. I decided to reach out to the woman in the park in this way.... Emotions R Us takes a closer look at the families of 'Special Needs' children on the show today. The information, insight and guidance I'll share with you today is worthy of your complete focus. Have a pen and paper close by, make some notes, and remember you can reach out anytime with a question or idea by simply emailing me at DrBev@AmericaOutLoud.com. Here are a few tips for you to start the conversation off, but we'll dive into the topic today and discover alternate methods for you and your family. Be consistent Stick to a schedule Reward good behavior Create a home safety zone Look for nonverbal cues Find out the motivation behind the tantrum Make time for FUN Pay attention to your child's sensory sensitivities

Ever have one of those days where you just have to believe you'd been better off if you had just kept your head underneath the pillow? Sure you have, we all have. Life is full of cycles of ups and downs - you just have to know that when the down cycle has you down for an extended period of time - you have to dig down even more for that SUPER PEOPLE STRENGTH. Even worse... let's say you're in one of those moments and your dear friend Sally or Jack comes along and repeats the words “Well, everything happens for a reason!” or “You’ll just have to find the blessing in this.” Some of us might like to believe that things do have a reason for occurring, especially when the incident has caused us actual loss or psychological distress. Yet there may actually be no existential rhyme or deeper reason behind a specific event, beyond any logical or fact-based explanations. Accidents might happen because people are careless or because of miscommunication, just to name a few person-specific causes. Other causes might be due to machine error, poor planning, unexpected changes in the weather, and so on. Asserting that a bad thing happened to a good person because a life lesson needed to be learned does not seem fair to the “student” or the “teacher.” Not Every Setback in Life has a Divine Purpose Several decades ago, Rabbi Harold Kushner wrote a book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People, in which he explored the desire to comprehend the meaning of these types of events. Unfortunately, there is really no easy way to make sense of the “why,” but that does not preclude an individual’s efforts to find a “purpose” or “meaning” of an event in his life. After surviving imprisonment in a German concentration camp, Victor Frankl went on to write the bestselling book Man’s Search for Meaning. He noted that people can generally stand any “how” they encounter in life, if they can just determine the “why.” Believing that the misery we experience is a part of the process necessary to reach a goal can provide us with the strength necessary to keep moving forward. Frankl believed that individuals who gave up on their future were likely to die before freedom arrived. They were giving up the fight as if they had lost their reason to live. Today we will focus on turning that misery into hope, along with actionable steps you can take in your own life to thrive - when it seems at the moment you're lucky to survive. There is always HOPE my friends. Just make sure that you're not at the airport if your ship does arrive in port.... :) I'm wishing you the grandest of years with much success and happiness!

Seems we're all in search for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, or our plan to find the perfect mate and live happily ever after. Problem is when you get to the rainbow, it's storming and the pot is full of muddy water. And that perfect mate scenario - guess again!! So then what is happiness? People have agonized over this question for centuries, but only recently has science begun to weigh in on the debate, and today we will also weigh in on the debate. Let me start by telling you what happiness is not... - Happiness is Not: Being Rich or Affording Everything You Want - Happiness is Not: Feeling Good All The Time - Happiness is Not: A Final Destination So, Then What Is Happiness? Too many struggle with unhappiness, addiction, toxic relationships, and so on. Patricia Noll has discovered a unique approach to real happiness that can change the lives of many, including your own. We'll get the skinny on that and she'll tell us about the four attachments... Televised self-esteem expert, Patricia Noll, is a speaker, consultant and the author of Good With Me: A Simple Approach to Real Happiness from the Inside Out. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Addictions Professional, and an Acupuncture Physician, and founder of The Good With Me Grassroots Community Initiative and Focus One, an Outpatient Substance Abuse Treatment Program licensed by the state of Florida in 1989. For over 26 years she’s helped thousands of troubled individuals from all walks of life discover the secret to Real Happiness from the inside out instead of from the outside in. She knows first-hand that being Good With Me and happy for real is easier than you think. Dr. Noll’s addiction treatment manual has received endorsements from Deepak Chopra, Jacquelyn Small, Dr. Larry Dossey, and Jack Kornfield. For Further Insight: Buy the Book: Good With Me: A Simple Approach to Real Happiness from the Inside Out Dr. Patricia Noll’s Website ‘Good With Me’ Follow on Twitter Good With Me: A Simple Approach to Real Happiness from the Inside Out

The most divisive and unpredictable presidential race in modern memory reached its end. The harsh and bitter tones of anger and frustration overflowed like a lava-leak at Mount St. Helens. And now at college campuses across the nation - students are singing the election stress blues! The negativity from Election Stress keeps rolling on - and research tells us it's not going to get any better anytime soon. You see, emotions win elections. Though positive campaigning can heighten your feelings of enthusiasm and hope, it's fear, anger and anxiety that got you in the voting booth. You're more likely to make sure to get out and vote if you worry that you'll lose things in election times - or at least that is the theory. The reason the general public's mental health is challenged is because negative campaigning heightens stress. And when your body is faced with stress, particularly fear-based stress, the adrenal glands secrete glucocorticoid hormones to help you cope. Specifically, your body launches cortisol to help you get away from danger, where your heart rate increases, and blood flow goes to everything you need to run away or fight. This fight-flight response is meant for short term stress - and becomes frustrating if it's drawn-out.

Society and circumstances are changing faster than any of us can fully comprehend. If you blink - you'll find yourself ten steps behind and technologically out of date. Let's face it - it is a different playing field today and if you don't have the right tools and the proper mindset - you're lost! Just look at these numbers... The average teen sends close to 3,000 texts a month. Think about it for a minute, and you'll get a sense of how their world is changing. Where is the room for quiet personal time, a moment of privacy? 55% of teens have given out personal info to someone they don’t know, including photos and physical descriptions. 56% of teens say they have been the target of some type of online harassment. 41% have experienced some form of digital dating abuse — including checking in multiple times a day, reading messages without permission, pressuring others to respond to messages or spreading rumors. And it gets worse as 15% percent of young people surveyed say they have sent nude photos or videos of themselves. 21% say they've received nude photos or videos from others. About half of those involved say they felt pressured to do so. How did we get here? Donna C. Moss, MA, LCSW-R is a skilled adolescent, young adult and family therapist who writes about the Internet, relationships, technology, divorce and other issues in mental health. Moss has produced and managed large online communities for Disney, iVillage and Weightwatchers.com. She is an avid hiker, yoga practitioner and swimmer and is married with two children. With 25-plus years of experience in: infertility, cancer, health, stress, divorce mediation, and high conflict divorce and families, Donna has a broad understanding of many life transitions. She provides supportive, practical, cognitive/behavioral and proven methods for living an authentic, calm and accepting life. For Further Insight: Donna's Website, http://www.donnacmoss.com Follow on Twitter The Blog: PsychCentral

“No” is a lesson that we’ve carried from our earliest memories, and these memories are encapsulated in deep emotions. We have to negotiate around that little word “no” to be able to release some of our limitations that we have placed on ourselves. The key is to learn how to regain your personal power and positive self-esteem. When we experienced no’s early in childhood, it made us feel like we were flawed, not quite perfect, and that helped us place blame, shame, and guilt on ourselves. Many of us are still experiencing no’s from a point of emotion, not a point of reason. Beverly "DrBev" Jackson guides the listener through the possible root causes of why there may be relationship issues. Check out DrBev's small book discussing where these emotional issues originate, she then gives exercises to help work past "no" to a knowing of improved self-image and emotional health. For Further Insight: DrBev's Book: Just Say No! Recommended Book: When Misery is Company: End Self-Sabotage and Become Content

Relationships are kinda like the weather, just wait a few minutes and it might change. But what really constitutes a great relationship? What if your relationship is perfectly FINE? Of course that depends on how you define F.I.N.E. Frustrated, Irritated, Neurotic, and Erratic DrBev takes on a topic that impacts about every one of us RELATIONSHIPS. In a style like only she can, she will peel the onion on what it takes to enjoy a great relationship, and what the signs are for TROUBLE. Although different cultures have differing expectations for health and well-being, many of the following characteristics are likely to be present in individuals with good mental health: A sense of well-being and contentment A zest for living – the ability to enjoy life, to laugh and have fun Resiliency – being able to deal with life’s stresses and bounce back from adversity Self-realization – participating in life to the fullest extent possible, through meaningful activities and positive relationships Flexibility – the ability to change, grow, and experience a range of feelings, as life’s circumstances change A sense of balance in one’s life – between solitude and sociability, work and play, sleep and wakefulness, rest and exercise, etc. A sense of well-roundedness – with attention to mind, body, spirit, creativity, intellectual development, health, etc. The ability to care for oneself and for others Self-confidence and good self-esteem “Turn your adversity into a miracle, something bigger and better than we could ever believe," DrBev For Further Insight: Book that DrBev endorsed: Conscious Living: Finding Joy in the Real World 

The risk for suicidal behavior is complex. Research suggests that people who attempt suicide differ from others in many aspects of how they think, react to events, and make decisions. There are differences in aspects of memory, attention, planning, and emotion, for example. These differences often occur along with disorders like depression, substance use, anxiety, and psychosis. Sometimes suicidal behavior is triggered by events such as personal loss or violence. In order to be able to detect those at risk and prevent suicide, it is crucial that we understand the role of both long-term factors—such as experiences in childhood—and more immediate factors like mental health and recent life events. Researchers are also looking at how genes can either increase risk or make someone more resilient to loss and hardships. Many people have some of these risk factors but do not attempt suicide. Suicide is not a normal response to stress. It is, however, a sign of extreme distress, not a harmless bid for attention. Suicide does not discriminate. People of all genders, ages, and ethnicities can be at risk for suicide. But people most at risk tend to share certain characteristics. The main risk factors for suicide are: Depression, other mental disorders, or substance abuse disorder A prior suicide attempt Family history of a mental disorder or substance abuse Family history of suicide Family violence, including physical or sexual abuse Having guns or other firearms in the home Incarceration, being in prison or jail Being exposed to others’ suicidal behavior, such as that of family members, peers, or media figures * National Institute of Mental Health Men are more likely to die by suicide than women, but women are more likely to attempt suicide. Men are more likely to use deadlier methods, such as firearms or suffocation. Women are more likely than men to attempt suicide by poisoning. Children and young people are at risk for suicide. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for young people ages 15 to 34. Older adults are at risk for suicide, too.While older adults were the demographic group with the highest suicide rates for decades, suicide rates for middle-aged adults has increased to comparable levels (ages 24–62). Among those age 65+, white males comprise over 80 percent of all late-life suicides. How can suicide be prevented? Psychotherapy, or “talk therapy,” can effectively reduce suicide risk. One type is called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT can help people learn new ways of dealing with stressful experiences by training them to consider alternative actions when thoughts of suicide arise. For Further Insight: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Provides help to those in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Call 1-800-273-8255 1-800-273-8255 FREE Available 24 hours everyday Programs: Family smart for child and youth mental health Mind Check The Mighty American foundation for sucide

Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He or she may make you believe that you are the only person who can help them, that things will be different this time, and that they truly love you. However, the dangers of staying are very real. This is an emotional show today that is designed to get you to think - and think real hard on what happens next! General warning signs of domestic abuse Does your partner: have a bad and unpredictable temper? hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you? threaten to take your children away or harm them? threaten to commit suicide if you leave? force you to have sex? People who are being abused may: Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner Go along with everything their partner says and does Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what they’re doing Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness NATIONAL STATISTICS On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed. On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide. For Further Insight: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence The National Domestic Violence Hotline Domestic Violence .org

Think back to the schoolyard playground, or the neighborhood bully - or fast forward to the woman at work, the cashier at the supermarket, or a spouse even. Somebody, somewhere who just let loose and mentally abused you... BECAUSE YOU LET THEM! Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will... never hurt me. We've all heard these words at one time or another. For many people this sentence couldn't be further from the truth. Why? That's because you've internalized what some mean spirited fool said about or to you. In most cases these people haven't a clue of the harm they're doing - they just enjoy passing judgement and love to spread all that negative energy around. So what is real happiness all about? Is there a secret to finding it? And why is it so difficult to keep once you have it? Televised self-esteem expert, Patricia Noll, is a speaker, consultant and the author of Good With Me: A Simple Approach to Real Happiness from the Inside Out. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Addictions Professional, and an Acupuncture Physician, and founder of The Good With Me Grassroots Community Initiative and Focus One, an Outpatient Substance Abuse Treatment Program licensed by the state of Florida in 1989. For over 26 years she’s helped thousands of troubled individuals from all walks of life discover the secret to Real Happiness from the inside out instead of from the outside in. She knows first-hand that being Good With Me and happy for real is easier than you think. Dr. Noll’s addiction treatment manual has received endorsements from Deepak Chopra, Jacquelyn Small, Dr. Larry Dossey, and Jack Kornfield. For Further Insight: Buy the Book: Good With Me: A Simple Approach to Real Happiness from the Inside Out Dr. Patricia Noll's Website 'Good With Me' Follow on Twitter

The numbers are startling, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 100 men respond “YES,” that they have experienced 'Military Sexual Trauma' MST, when screened by their VA provider. However we know from research that the numbers are much much higher for both men and women in the military. Those men that are willing to talk about their personal experience is quite different than those that have actually suffered and experienced abuse. Research shows that the numbers are more over the 50% mark - that is a huge disparity. For many, SHAME, DISGUST, and ANGER, take over their lives and if left unchecked - it will destroy their future. This is the SILENT DESTROYER OF LIVES of both men and women in the United States Military! ... it doesn't have to be this way! Symptoms include issues of not being able to feel LOVE, HAPPINESS, OR TRUST. Any sexual activity in which one is involved against one’s will – he or she may have been pressured into sexual activities, may have been unable to consent to sexual activities (for example, when intoxicated), or may have been physically forced into sexual activities. Other experiences that fall into the category of MST include Hazing or “just something normal”, unwanted sexual touching or grabbing; threatening, offensive remarks about a person’s body or sexual activities; and/or threatening or unwelcome sexual advances. This is a very personal and powerful discussion today on EMOTIONS R US for DrBev and her guest, Yolanda Harper. OUR SENSE OF WORTHINESS --- THAT CRITICAL PIECE THAT GIVES US ACCESS TO LOVE AND BELONGING LIVES --- LIVES INSIDE OUR STORY.”  BRENE BROWN Yolanda Harper is a Master Accelerated Resolution Therapist and works in conjunction with the Lone Survivor Foundation, the University of South Florida College of Nursing, and Give an Hour to provide services to Veterans. For Further Insight: Yolanda's Website: http://www.harpertherapy.com Join the Conversation on our Facebook Page More information about Lone Survivor HERE More on Give an Hour HERE

Why are so many people losing their minds? And at a young age even. So let me paint you a picture. You work hard all your life. You struggle, you fall down, you pick yourself back up - dust yourself off and move on with it. You tell your brain - 'hey brain, let's retire at age 62.' Of course initially your brain loves the concept - sit back, lay on the sofa, play stupid, roll-over, do nothing. This retirement thing sounds pretty interesting - sure if you're a pincushion. I'm here to tell you that the rules have all changed. It's a whole new big world and baby, we are living longer - more than ever before. It's up over 80 years old now, in fact if you move to Monaco, the average is 90. Keep in mind these are averages. If you have a zest for life - avoid the 'pin-cushion disease' - hey you could live past a hundred. Let's have some fun today and learn something in the process. I'd like you to meet my guest today, Cate McCarty. Cate and I will tackle dementia on the show today. The question to ask yourself - What steps can I take to stave off dementia and give myself a fighting chance to enjoy my later years of life? Catherine McCarty, PhD, ADC - a dementia coach whose clinical experience includes over 35 years of creating quality of life for individuals with dementia. Starting as a nursing assistant Cate learned the value of personalized care when providing physical care - with a passion for creating opportunities for quality of life. Through years of nursing and activities care, Cate has spent many hours at the side of dying individuals. Cate McCarty was one of the first graduates of the Master’s of Thanatology program at Hood College. For Further Insight: Cate McCarty's Website on Dementia Follow Cate on Twitter Connect on Linkedin Book: Graceful Alzheimer's Care: Churches' Call to Action DR. BEV'S SIX TIPS TO STAVE OFF DEMENTIA Don't wait for a rainy day, start planning early - decide what you want your quality of life to be, and then go for it! Lifestyle choices are key as you mature. Make conscious decisions on what food goes into your mouth and exercise so it doesn't stick to your hips. Be authentically YOU! Be adventurist, do what you want to do - you have one life, at least here on earth that we know of - be sure to live it for all it's worth! Look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Love yourself first and foremost. If you don't love yourself - how do you expect anyone to love you. Time to let your radiance shine! Stay active throughout your life - don't retire. Your brain is a muscle, work it. Put up a sign in your mind that says - dementia go away - you're not welcome here! Take your Mental Health and Emotional Health seriously. Give yourself a break when you need it. Don't be so hard on yourself. Live and let live...

Parents, listen up! If your child is as important to you as I think they are - then stop believing everything the health profession is telling, selling and prescribing to you and your kid - and arm yourself with knowledge. We are officially raising a society full of zombies - and not the intellectual type either. I'm talking the type that are so over-medicated that they have no creativity or innovation left in them - but they can rollover and bark when asked! Okay perhaps you think I'm somewhat over-the-top with the last comment...? I don't think so. This is a multi-billion dollar money machine. The doctors, the pharmacies, the therapists, the hospitals, the entire flipping health care industry is ripping us off! And to make matters worse, they are destroying our kids in the process. The total excess cost of ADHD in the US in 2000 was $31.6 billion. Of this total, $1.6 billion was for the treatment of patients, $12.1 billion was for all other health care costs of persons with ADHD, $14.2 billion was for all other health care costs of family members with ADHD, and $3.7 billion was for the work loss cost of adults with ADHD and adult family members of persons with ADHD. We'll hit this topic head-on today on the show as Author Clarissa Star Crystal-Belle joins me so that we can help guide you in these difficult times. Clarissa Star Crystal-BelleAuthor Clarissa Star Crystal-Belle, LMHC, takes on the toughest, neediest kids and families in her role as a therapist for troubled children. In this fascinating glimpse into real-life case studies, Crystal-Belle seeks to “awaken the reader to a new way of looking at this population and a more effective way to address their needs.” She is the Co-Founder, Qualified Supervisor and Clinical Director of the Star Point Counseling Center. Crystal-Belle challenges the misuse of specific medications and behavior management techniques. She questions the practices of sentencing troubled kids to indefinite terms in special education. For further insight: Website: Reaching Troubled Kids Follow on Twitter The book is available on Amazon C. S. Belle, author of Therapy In Action with Troubled Kids

Adult children of narcissistic parents (ACoNs) know a special type of emotional abuse in being raised by narcissists. (Biological mothers, stepmothers, biological fathers, and stepfathers can be N parents.) Before we discuss the special case of narcissism, please note that not every emotionally abusive parent has the narcissistic personality disorder. In some circumstances, an emotionally abusive parent who is not a narcissist can change and improve his or her parenting. The same is not true for the narcissistic parent, however. Every narcissistic parent is an emotional abuser. Narcissistic personality disorder is one of a group of conditions called dramatic personality disorders. People with these disorders have intense, unstable emotions, and a distorted self-image. Narcissistic personality disorder is further characterized by an abnormal love of self, an exaggerated sense of superiority and importance, and a preoccupation with success and power.” - Cleveland Clinic Though people often refer to someone vain as a “narcissist,” NPD is far more destructive, sneaky, and layered than mere vanity. An exaggerated sense of one’s own abilities and achievements. A constant need for attention, affirmation and praise. A belief that he or she is unique or “special” and should only associate with other people of the same status. Persistent fantasies about attaining success and power. Exploiting other people for personal gain. A sense of entitlement and expectation of special treatment. A preoccupation with power or success. Feeling envious of others, or believing that others are envious of him or her. For Further Insight: National Parent Helpline Surviving the Narcissistic Parent: ACoNs Cleveland Clinic, Narcissistic Personality Disorder

When children aren’t given information, they fill in the blanks - something we've all experienced growing up. When children are lied to - they grow up thinking that lying is acceptable behavior. When children are misdiagnosed - it does irreparable damage to their psyche. When adults saddle children with unnecessary labels that often have nothing to do with what ails that child - they have limited that child's ability to be their true-self. Emotionally well-balanced adults are the product of years of nurturing, caring and informing your children. In fact, the biggest gift you can contribute to society today - is the gift of a well-balanced and emotionally developed child. It all has to start with knowledge - and today knowledge is what you'll find as DrBev talks to an industry professional and leader in Dr. Nekeshia Hammond. “Your kid is not bad, fruit goes bad, vegetables go bad, but the kid is not bad,” says DrBev. Talking with children about emotional feelings requires learning an entirely new set of parenting/educator/caregiver skills. It may push your limits at a time that is already challenging - but it is essential if you are to have that breakthrough moment with your child. Dr. Nekeshia Hammond is a licensed psychologist and founder of Hammond Psychology & Associates, P.A., a private practice serving children, teens, families, and adults. Her current focus is completing psychological evaluations (Gifted, learning disorders, ADHD, depression, anxiety, etc.). She is also a frequent professional contributor for major media outlets and news channels. Featured in numerous media channels, her most prestigious accolades are being one of the top psychologists in the country to receive the Early Career Achievement Award from the American Psychological Association. "Let us remember: One book, one pen, one child, and one teacher can change the world." Malala Yousafzai For Further Insight: The Practice Website can be found here Follow Dr. Hammond on Twitter Connect on Linkedin Dr. Hammond's book resulted from countless frequently asked questions she has received in her practice. She is a strong advocate for raising emotionally healthy children and this book will be a wonderful resource addressing several topics related to emotional health.

Mental illness affects one in five adults and one in 10 children in America. The numbers are indeed staggering. Even more alarming is that minorities are less likely to receive diagnosis and treatment for their mental illness, have less access to and availability of mental health services and often receive a poorer quality of mental health care - reports the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Office of Minority Health. Kaleesha S. Bent is a registered marriage and family therapist, a member of the AAMFT (American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy), and has earned a lifetime membership in Psi Chi, an international honor society in psychology. Her studies abroad, and her missionary work in countries like Israel, Uganda, Greece, and Jamaica confirm that she is a woman of service in the specialized field of counseling. Kaleesha’s therapeutic focus extends to Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), attention-deficit/hyperactive disorder (ADHD), anxiety, and depression. What lead Kaleesha into the counseling field is her gift to listen, which has allowed her to be a bridge for broken families so they may know the power of hope that leads to reconciliation. We're most excited to receiving her views and her vision on mental illness and to address the growing concern with minorities. For Further Insight: Follow on Twitter @SamBeutiful National Alliance on Mental Illness Here’s a useful guide explaining the link between addiction and anxiety

There is no denying that perception is reality - especially when it's viewed thru the eyes of a child. Their surroundings, and the reaction from those closest, all feed into their perceptions of what the world is or is not. Children are incredibly vulnerable, and that vulnerability is carried directly into their adulthood. Fast Forward to adulthood - and life can be one confusing jigsaw puzzle for some. Much of this can directly be blamed on LABELING. Seems everything and/or everyone has to have a label. If a person acts different, unusual if you will - then we label them as odd, strange, troubled, or having mental illness. But what is mental illness really? And what qualifies one to have this label of mental illness? Is this a catchall-phrase that society uses to toss people in because it's convenient? Furthermore, what does a parent do for their child when he or she has a diagnosis of mental illness? You'll find answers to these questions and much more on the show today with my guest, Rita Young. "Take charge of your life, because it's never too late to change," says Rita Young. Rita Young is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and Certified Addictions Professional (CAP), a highly skilled therapist with over 25 years experience. She has worked with children, teens and adults. Rita has worked at Drug and Alcohol Treatment Centers, Residential Treatment Centers, Group Homes, Psychiatric Wards, and Out Patient Clinics. She is accomplished in individual, couples, family and group therapy. Her talent is quickly pinpointing the cause of the distress. Then, partnering with the client and utilizing powerful therapies, she is able to resolve many issues in just a few sessions. For Further Insight: Website: DragonflyCounseling.com

In my professional career, I never thought I would see the day when people would be able to hide their crimes behind their stupidity and wallets. But it's happening right before our eyes, and I'm not so sure we can put this genie back in the proverbial bottle! Affluenza is a 'Coverup Crime' for rich snobs. affluenza - a psychological malaise supposedly affecting wealthy young people, symptoms of which include a lack of motivation, feelings of guilt, and a sense of isolation. As a legal or psychiatric term, “affluenza” has no standing. But there’s a growing body of research that “sometimes poor little rich kids really are poor little rich kids.” although former Stanford University student Brock Turner was convicted in March on three felony counts—assault with intent to commit rape of an intoxicated or unconscious person, sexual penetration of an intoxicated person, and sexual penetration of an unconscious person—it didn't end up being the justice his victim was hoping for. In total those charges carry a maximum ten-year sentence. Following impassioned pleas regarding Turner's character and his potential Olympic swimming career, now dashed, he was sentenced to six months in county jail. "A prison sentence would have a severe impact on him. I think he will not be a danger to others," Judge Aaron Persky said in his decision. In December 2013, State District Judge Jean Boyd sentenced a teenager from Texas, Ethan Couch to 10 years' probation for driving under the influence and killing (murdering) four pedestrians and injuring 11 after his attorneys successfully argued that the teen suffered from affluenza and needed rehabilitation, and not prison. The lawyers had argued that Couch was unable to understand the consequences of his actions because of his financial privilege. We are now starting to see this as not only a defense against light-way crimes like drunk driving and shop-lifting, but how about rape and murder! So now if you have a bulging wallet, you can also claim that you have a bulging ego that affords you all kinds of leeway to commit crimes. To say the least, I am a little hot on this one... as you'll see on the show today. My guest today, Author Clarissa Star Crystal-Belle, LMHC, takes on the toughest, neediest kids and families in her role as a therapist for troubled children. In this fascinating glimpse into real-life case studies, Crystal-Belle seeks to “awaken the reader to a new way of looking at this population and a more effective way to address their needs.” She is the Co-Founder, Qualified Supervisor and Clinical Director of the Star Point Counseling Center. Crystal-Belle challenges the misuse of specific medications and behavior management techniques. She questions the practices of sentencing troubled kids to indefinite terms in special education. For further insight: Website: Reaching Troubled Kids Follow on Twitter Email: reachingtroubledkids@gmail.com The book is available on Amazon Pen Name-C. S. Belle, Published Author of Therapy In Action with Troubled Kids

Mental Health is one of those topics that everyone wants to discuss directly after a terror attack or a major incident. Mental Health is also one of those topics where everyone claims to be an expert. Truth is America is experiencing a MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS at this very moment. Please don't nod your head and pretend you know what I'm talking about. You do that and you'll start to look like our political class - their head moves, their mouths open, yet nothing intelligent comes out! Okay perhaps I'm being a bit over zealous out of the gate, or perhaps you're being too sensitive. Either way what I need to talk to you about today is important - so I've asked Dr. Larry Richardson to join me on the show. “I’m responsible for what I say, but I’m not responsible for what you hear,” says Dr. Richardson. Why is mental health so important? And more importantly, why do many of our leaders bury their head in the sand and pretend that they have the answers for the next election? Mental Health impacts every single one of us. Not one of us get a free pass in this lifetime. We are a country divided and in many ways a country on the brink - and not a good brink friends! “America has always been divided, I don’t know why people are so surprised about the division - it’s always been divided along racial, cultural, and economic lines from the beginning,” says Dr. Richardson. Dr. Larry T. Richardson has over 27 years of experience in the fields of mental health and addictions treatment.  He currently operates a full time private practice behavioral health care business. He is currently a Mental Health Consultant for Jacksonville Job Corp and the Jacksonville Jaguars. Dr. Richardson has a Bachelor of Science Degree in Psychology and Biology from Florida A & M University, a Master of Arts Degree in Counseling Psychology from the University of North Florida, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from LaSalle University. He has conducted workshops, seminars, and training at numerous conferences all over the United States, Canada, and the Caribbean. When asked about the political ramifications of the election and mental health, Dr. Richardson said he would ask the following question to each of the political candidates. What type of plan do you envision in which every American would be assured of at least these 3 things: Can you insure the best possible healthcare and access to it without barriers - for everyone? Will everyone who desires have access to education that is in line with their potential and ambition? How would you insure that every American family or individual be entitled to safe and affordable housing? “This country was founded on a lie and hypocrisy,” as Dr. Richardson goes on to explain how the origins of America were less than pretty! Should be an interesting chat with DrBev and Dr. Richardson.

It’s easy to put depression into a box of symptoms, and though we as a society are constantly told mental illness comes in all shapes and sizes, we are stuck with a mental health stock image in our heads that many people don’t match. When we see depression and anxiety in adolescents, we see teens struggling to get by in their day-to-day lives. We see grades dropping. We see involvement replaced by isolation. People slip through the cracks. We are a nation grappling with mental health issues. Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses in the United States, with almost 15 million adults and one in eight teenagers affected by it every year. Most people who haven’t experienced depression may only know it as a stereotype — you know, the overly sad person sitting in a dark corner. In reality, depression doesn’t have one specific “look,” and it’s certainly more than feeling a bit down one day. http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/ If you or someone you know needs help, please visit the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can also reach the Crisis Text Line by texting “START” to 741-741. Head here for a list of crisis centers around the world. https://twitter.com/mentalhealtham https://www.nami.org/mentalhealthmonth National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK or by calling 1-800-662-HELP.

We are in a societal transition. The old is becoming - like real old and outdated, and the new has become the unknown and where do we go from here?!? Let me explain further. We don't grow as a society by continually turning to what worked in the past. It was far different then. The impact on families, relationships, jobs, our businesses, and how we related to each other was void of technical communications. There was no social media and internet, text, smart phones, smart watches that auto-read and measure your heartbeat. If you're lucky, you had a watch that kept the time, a phone in the house, and perhaps a few network channels on the family television - that's it! Fast forward to year of our Lord 2016 - and there is a small 'i' or 'e' in front of just about everything with the exception of your brain. But don't blink - that's coming soon! My point is, things have changed drastically - so you can't compare society back in 1950 or 1970 for that matter, to the struggles and frustrations of society today. My friends - we must focus on our MENTAL HEALTH if we are to be successful in answering society's call to correct itself - our else! Yes, there are many questions. How do we speak out on the shame and stigma around mental illness that hinders people who need it (which is most people) and move beyond it? How do we expand mental wellness in order to break free from the system that threatens to diagnose and label and limits the number of people comfortable, willing and able to access it? When do we stop blaming objects, theories, and strategies - and fess up to the fact that - people are delicate and complex creatures! America, pay attention. You want safe schools and movie theaters? You want to be able to walk down the road and return safely? Then perhaps we take a page from the new storyline that is coming from England. Seems the Royal Family is a step or two ahead of us... Prince William, Princess Kate and Prince Harry have launched a new joint initiative, The Heads Together Campaign to help tackle the stigma surrounding mental illness. "Mental health is just as important as physical health," Kate says in a video announcing the new initiative. The duchess has been an outspoken proponent of mental health awareness. Filmed in Kensington Palace, the video was released to tie in with the London Marathon today. Several of the royal trio's charities have gotten involved to support the initiative. "We can all play our part by talking and listening to each other and helping each other find support," said Harry, who is hoping to destigmatize the issue for current members of military and former service members. William summarized their mission: "Let's get our heads together and change the conversation on mental health." "It will be the biggest single project Their Royal Highnesses have undertaken together," read the statement from the Kensington Palace spokesman. "The Heads Together campaign aims to change the national conversation on mental wellbeing and will be a partnership with inspiring charities with decades of experience in tackling stigma, raising awareness, and providing vital help for people with mental health challenges." The Royal trio all wore blue Heads Together headbands with, Prince Harry keeping the atmosphere light with his brother and sister-in-law. With the support of their Royal Foundation, William, Kate and Harry will each draw attention to a different component of mental health. Prince Harry will focus on 'invisible injuries' many veterans face after they return from the battlefield. The Duchess of Cambridge will spearhead the initiative on 'challenges children and young people suffer'. Prince William, the Duke of Cambridge, will 'raise the profile on bullying, cyber bullying and suicide among young men'. I am joined today to tackle this most important topic with Jennifer Carey, Ed.S,

In this case, the numbers do add up. There is one death by suicide in the U.S. every 12.3 minutes. Suicide takes the lives of over 38,000 Americans every year. Every day, approximately 105 Americans die by suicide.* The numbers add up to a SUICIDE EPIDEMIC! Suicide crosses all the boundaries. Young and Old. Rich and Poor. Educated and Dropouts. Blonde and Brunette. Tall and Short. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death; homicide ranks 17th. Social status is not an indicator that confirms if one will take their own life. Social status does not discriminate. On today's show, DrBev will discuss this epidemic with a Suicide Survivor Tara Lee Hoover. They'll talk about the Poor & Poverty, the Miserable and Middle-class, the Problem & Privileged. Tara will talk intimately on how she took hundreds of pills at age 40 - in an attempt to end her own life. Her struggles growing up, the pressures of being a teenager, failed relationships all found her on death's doorstep. She came to realize that the answer was not in the drugs, but was much deeper than that. Her journey takes her full circle, as she not only discovers the cause and affect - but now she is on a mission to change the course for others before it is too late! "In a surprising switch, the offspring of the affluent today are more distressed than other youth. They show disturbingly high rates of substance use, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, cheating, and stealing. It gives a whole new meaning to having it all." Suniya S. Luthar Ph.D. The ease of accessibility of nonprescription drugs coupled with the high-risk behaviors among teenagers add to the growing concern for harm to the adolescent population. This population is most at risk for the consequences of indiscriminate drug use. “We have to see the signs, God has given us these children… we have to make sure they are emotionally healthy, and that they have the coping skills to deal with the pressures that come along with life,” Tara Lee Hoover. Pharming parties may also be referred to as "Skittles parties” or “skittling" by comparing the pill-popping behavior with the small hard candies that come in multiple colors and flavors. "Robo-tripping," referencing the cough suppressant Robitussin, is the abuse of cough medications containing dextromethorphan, in which the cough syrup, often left over from earlier illnesses, is drunk alone or in combination with other substances to obtain a high. Facing Those Fears Once you’ve identified exactly what you’re afraid of, the next step is facing your fears and unlearning them through fear extinction. This can be done in several ways. Learn About it- One of the biggest promoters of fear is uncertainty. If you’re scared of something, learn as much as you can about it. Start Small- Start taking small steps toward building familiarity with the thing you fear. Fears can sometimes seem insurmountable; by starting small, they will seem more manageable. Talk About it- You can only build confidence when fear is gone. By keeping it inside, you’re giving it more power over you. Talking about it with someone you trust will make it seem less daunting. Train Yourself- Conditioned fears are the result of our brains expecting a certain response when we’re placed in a situation. Take steps to retrain your brain so it develops a different response. For instance, if you want to become a veterinarian, but are afraid of dogs because one bit you as a child, retrain your brain by putting yourself in situations where dogs are present. It may seem scary and overwhelming initially, but when nothing happens, you brain will soon realize that the old response of fear isn’t needed. More from the TaraLeeHoover website. Follow Tara on Twitter. Also on Facebook. * Stats from the CDC

The look on her mother's face told the story. Without a moment to process, Jody uttered those words she began to regret - "dad committed suicide, didn't he?" Nineteen years after her father’s suicide, Jody found herself still desperately searching for ways to pick up the pieces of her life. She was a teenager at the time, and at 15 years old, she barely understood what had happened. “I started to yell out loud… How could you do this to me dad? How could this happen?" If you've ever experienced betrayal, grief, or loss, you know how difficult it is to climb your way out of those dark places. For many years Jody wished there was a “reset button” that would bring her more inner peace, love, success, and happiness. She wanted so desperately to let go of the past so she could confidently move forward. She was tired of fear, doubt and worry consuming her life. She wanted to stress less and smile more. She didn't know how she would do it, but she began her quest. Her quest continues today as she talks with DrBev to detail her journey; the pain, the sorrow, the tears, and then the moment it all changed. “I feel grateful for having gone through what I’ve gone through, as a result of my pain - I’ve been able to inspire and empower other people.” Jody Agard is the best-selling author of Let Love in 101; A Practical Guide to Love & Happiness, she is also a Suicide Survivor Coach, a Self-Love Coach and a speaker. In her book, Let Love in 101, Jody candidly shares her journey, allowing the reader an inside look at the steps she took to transform her inner and outer world as she began to pick up the pieces and improve her life. Jody shows the reader how to find happiness within themselves and restore balance in all areas of their life. Her work has inspired countless women to radically love themselves from the inside out. She provides practical advice and offers inspiration to anyone who has ever felt lost and needs help finding their way back. She’s also mom, a freelance writer and a lover of the outdoors. Find out more here: www.happyvibesonthego.com Buy the book on Amazon: Let Love in 101: A Practical Guide to Love and Happiness Connect with Jody on Twitter Also on Linkedin Like on Facebook

There are close to seven billion people living on the Earth. Why then does it hurt so badly for us to be rejected by just a few of them within our life-time? Doesn't it make sense that we would just say, "Oh well, I have billions of others who will love and value me," and go off seeking someone else to fill the void? That's the problem... human emotions don't always make sense. They are not cut and dried like that. As one person said, "Love does not play by the proper rules of moral society." "If you haven’t spent the time to really understand what’s motivating you; what’s driving you; and what’s causing you to make some of the decisions that you’re making; or not making; then you’re going to constantly make the same mistakes, and... ...Your goals, objectives, and dreams are always going to be just out of reach," says Ramonda Fields. You are a perfectionist. If only you get it right, you won't be rejected. Whether "it" is a work project, the way your home looks, how you dress or what your body looks like, perfectionism is a thief. It steals your happiness under the guise of preventing rejection. Even if you don't think of yourself as a perfectionist, try to notice where perfectionist tendencies show up in your life. Maybe you're driven at work, and maybe you're obsessive about your body. Both are perfectionist tendencies. Abandonment fears typically stem from childhood loss, such as the loss of a parent through death or divorce, but they can also result from inadequate physical or emotional care. These early-childhood experiences can lead to a fear of being abandoned by the significant people in one's adult life including work, love or family. The word "rejection" actually means to "throw something away." With that in mind, what is the term for something thrown away? Trash. No wonder rejection is such a painful experience! When someone rejects us, it leaves us feeling like we are ‘trash' in their eyes; something of no further value and that leaves us feeling extremely hurt. How could that ‘not' hurt? If you resonate with any of these, the first step is to be gentle with yourself. Abandonment will start whispering in your ear that you don't deserve anything better and that you don't deserve to be loved. That is a lie, intended to keep you small. Please meet Ramonda Fields, Entrepreneur, Real Estate Developer, Public Speaker, Coach and Life Enthusiast. Ramonda serves as a Commissioner on the city of Jacksonville’s Housing & Community Development Commission. She recently launched a Radio Show “The Black Dollar Radio Show.” Ramonda is in the process of developing an urban magazine, named The Urban Heart. Follow on Twitter @RoFields Email: victoryfieldsreig@gmail.com

Every 9 seconds in the US, a woman is assaulted or beaten. On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the U.S., more than 10 million women and men every single year. On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide. 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men in the United States has been raped in their lifetime. These are alarming numbers and trends that shape far too many relationships across the nation. This powerful story documents how Kimyetta Taylor went from being sexually abused at just three years old - to serving the community, by coming to the aide of others, as a Guardian Ad Litem Volunteer Child Advocate. “When a child is being abused, I’m there to make sure that child has a voice,” states Kimyetta Taylor. "I know victims of domestic abuse. I know what it takes for people to get out, and I also know why people stay. It's heartbreaking." Paddy Considine Kimyetta Taylor was a victim over many years from child and adult domestic violence. Her story tells about the sexual, physical and verbal abuse she experienced and how the scars from her past caused her to remain a victim for many years. Once she discovered the root causes of her behaviors she was able to become a survivor. She tells her story with the hopes that listeners will be inspired and know that they too can become a survivor - and thrive to a more fulfilling life. Atrurose is the compelling true story of Kimyetta Taylor, a victim of child abuse and adult domestic violence. Despite suffering abuse and domestic violence for over three decades, Kimyetta overcomes this victimization and becomes a survivor, protector, and spokesperson. Here is a link to Amazon for ATRUROSE. Find out more by visiting her website. Kimyetta documents her captivating story of how her innocence is stolen at the tender age of three years old. Labeled a liar, no one believes Kimyetta when she shares her horrible secret; this perpetuates continued abuse and Kimyetta’s silent suffering. Kimyetta’s mother, verbally and physically abuses Kimyetta over a seven-year period. Not only does Kimyetta’s mother abuse her, but she also fails to protect her young daughter from others’ abuse. Inaction by her father also allows Kimyetta to suffer repeated abuse as a child and later on, as an adult. Kimyetta includes poems she has written throughout her life and refers to the chapters in the book as the life cycle of a rose. The love of Kimyetta’s grandmother is what keeps her going along with the realization that God is who she needs to lean on in order for her life to change. Love does not hurt Kimyetta was a speaker at the Jacksonville Florida Sheriff’s Office and Hubbard House, Domestic Violence Press Conference on October 1, 2015, and she also appeared on News 4Jax Morning show on October 2, 2015. * Statistics provided by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

My name is Young Sane, I am songwriter, rapper, college student, and a student of the game. When I was eight years old I was hit by a car, I was in a coma for a month, my parents told me -doctors said I wouldn't make it, but I made a remarkable comeback. When I was little I had visions of going into the medical field, but as I got older, I had internal conflicts of what I wanted to become. At the age of fourteen I found music. I started rapping as a hobby, then it turned into a passion, now this passion is a dream that I want to make come true, I WILL GET signed to a HIGH FILE record label. Music saved my life from so many things. "Take advantage of every opportunity to practice your communication skills so that when important occasions arise, you will have the gift, the style, the sharpness, the clarity, and the emotions to affect other people." Jim Rohn Your emotional system can give you an advantage in decision making if you make proper use of it. Many people think of their emotions as something they have to manage or control rather than something upon which they could capitalize. Evolution has given you a particular information system that you can use--a summary of information about the environment and an aggregate of a huge amount of data about a situation. Emotions can tell you something about the world that you may not have accurately perceived in another way. They are something to interpret and use rather than an annoyance that you should ignore or control. Just like the thumb on your hand, emotions have evolved to help you, even though at times they may seem to get in the way. You will enjoy this incredible young man, and I promise you - you'll learn something! So sit back, relax and enjoy the show friends! Oh and by the way, if you know someone on 'music-lane' go ahead and forward them Young Sane's email address and tell them DrBev sent him... youngsane1195@gmail.com.

The emotional impact technology has had on our lives has unarguably transformed society. The current generation doesn't know a world without computers; yet for Doc Dave Dockery, there were no computers growing up, no internet, and technology.... well, let's just say it was still in it's infancy stage. Dockery talks glowingly about technology today! He is well aware that increases in technology often have a downside: but "we will adapt & adjust," he says. "Why I am optimistic about mankind's future: If you were to graph Mankind's improvement in any endeavor (medicine, science, biology, mathematics, logic, etc.) it's an exponential curve - looks like a hockey stick - simple explanation of what that means, and an example of decoding the human genome explains its significance. The exponential function: Most people use the "intuitive linear" view of history instead of the "historical exponential" view," explains Dockery. Doc Dave Dockery is the President of the Tampa Bay Computer Society, www.tampa-bay.org. TBCS: Free computer repair $50 per year 50+ tech classes each month. We hold at least one "Random Act of Kindness Free Computer Clinic" each year Recent act of kindness: We put Linux on almost a dozen laptops for a local church. The church makes the laptops available to some developmentally disabled people. Cool, eh?

Art is intended for people to challenge themselves and work through the emotions they see presented in the artistic message. Visionary, unique; art and the emotional connection will open up your mind to all the possibilities within your own life! DrBev takes you on a journey of how emotions play into the world of art - and why it matters? Ms. Meek is a writer, photographer, performance artist, spoken word artist, editor, spiritual guide, life coach mentor, painter, visionary, motivator, production, and activist. From her biography: My work is my Dharma. For me, the challenge is always to express the creativity that comes to me and through me. My art form is expression, try as we may to contain it, expression is pretty boundless. Am I a poet who paints a picture with more than words or a painter who counsels and encourages? Does it really have to be defined or limited? A student of life, I am on a constant journey to understand all that life has in store for me to grasp. I have a deeply rooted passion for understanding the world and humankind from a global perspective. In a nutshell. I am doing what my Creator has me on the planet to do and I'll do it until I have no more to offer. What are you doing with your life? I pray you are manifesting your goals and visions and that those goals serve yourself and others. ​​​​​Find out more at MsMeek.com. Art is a human activity consisting in this that one man consciously, by means of certain external signs hands on to others feelings he has lived through, and that other people are infected by these feelings and also experience them. Leo Tolstoy, What is Art? DrBev saves you time, pain and emotional suffering. Ready to do your work? DRBEV@AMERICAOUTLOUD.COM

How are you living your life today? What is your story? Are you living an intentional life - in the present? Today the focus needs to be on 'Living Your Life, Not Your Story'. The Synergy That Is Life Consciousness Awareness Of What Is Happening Now The Ability To Make New Choices & Start Creating A New History Right Now Your Now & Present What Is Happening In And Around You Now Your Story The Past And Your Selective Memory Of Your Past On the show today DrBev talks with Richard D Froilan-Davila Ph.D. to discuss his fascinating book, or you can email directly at Rick4shs@me.com. Live Your Life Not Your Story: A Guide for Helping the Helpers This book is an experience in getting back to living our life in the present and not being at effect of the stories that rise up out of our experiences of the past. The book comes from both a macro and a micro perspectives. The authors come together in this presentation from a history of knowing each other since they were seven years old. Each went there separate ways and touched base with each other two or three times in their adult lives. Here they are seventy years later talking about their lives now and not being stuck in the stories and their experiences of the past. They bring together their professional experiences in the helping professions to provide a guide for helping the helpers.

President Barack Obama said Tuesday that "vulgar and divisive" language was damaging America's reputation abroad and leading to violence at GOP frontrunner Donald Trump's rallies. In a thinly veiled shot at Trump, Obama said offensive rhetoric had been aimed at women, minorities, and Americans who "don't look like us or pray like us or vote like we do." Perhaps All This 'Political Chaos' Is Good For The Country ?! questions Malcolm. A Donald Trump rally in Chicago was cancelled this past week due to violence. Bernie Sanders has seen hecklers protesters and violence at his rallies. They’ve even grabbed the mic from the presidential candidates hands. Welcome to the world of Presidential Politics - where the game is rigged and the stakes are high! DrBev Beverly Jackson - www.drbevmentalhealth.com Psychotherapist, Author, DrBev Mental Health Counseling, Psychotherapist to real -people with regular lives, doing regular things, and experiencing real-time drama, trauma, and chaos in their life. Helps people strive for self-awareness and thrive for what will help them most in the long run. DrBev's book - KNOW THE WORD NO - available on Amazon. Malcolm has a boat-load of questions for DrBev on this one! It should be an interesting show!! But where were these same politicians when Baltimore was on fire and Ferguson got ugly?? Who did they blame it on then? I’ll tell you who - law enforcement, police officers on the front lines that risk their lives every day to protect you and I. Was that fair? How much responsibility should the current administration bear for this? Further what about the state of the country as a whole? Have politicians let us down? Has our country morphed from a free speech society into a politically correct environment?