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The episode, recorded live at Shoptalk in the Berns Communications Group media room, opens with Steve Dennis and Michael LeBlanc surveying a broad sweep of headline-grabbing developments in the retail world. They highlight continued uncertainty around recently imposed tariffs and resulting economic ripples, as major international trade disputes stoke inflationary concerns. Stock market volatility factors heavily into the conversation, with the co-hosts noting how certain retail sectors—particularly home furnishings and high-end goods—may feel the pinch as shoppers tighten budgets. Target's declining foot traffic draws focus as the hosts weigh whether brand controversies or stiff competition might be to blame. Next meet Barrie Scardina, President, Americas Retail Services at Cushman & Wakefield, who brings a fresh perspective born of decades in the retail industry. Her vantage point on commercial real estate challenges the traditional narrative of a “retail apocalypse.” She explains how, despite headlines about store closings, overall U.S. vacancy rates are incredibly low—largely because new construction has slowed and new types of tenants (from wellness providers to entertainment concepts) are snapping up available space. Barrie describes a rising tide of “experiential” retail, with everything from boutique fitness and medtail services to immersive brand pop-ups fueling a renewed sense of purpose in physical locations. She underscores how mixed-use developments and adaptive reuse—especially of outdated mall anchor spots—are revitalizing communities and increasing foot traffic. By blending residential, office, dining, and retail, these centers offer a lifestyle-oriented experience that resonates with modern shoppers. Ultimately, Barrie's insights challenge conventional wisdom, suggesting that success in retail real estate hinges on tapping into evolving consumer demands, fostering a community connection, and creating spaces that balance function with memorable experience. AboutBarrie Scardina joined global real estate solutions firm Cushman & Wakefield as Executive Managing Director and Head of Retail Services, Americas, in November of 2019, leading brokerage teams to deliver optimal solutions to retailers and brands. In 2022, Barrie was elevated to the role of Regional President, Northeast, leading brokerage and services across all service lines. In 2023, she took on the challenge of President of Americas Retail Services, Agency Leasing and Alliances, partnering across office, industrial and retail to provide nuanced client solutions. Barrie is consistently focused on delivering value to clients by serving as a trusted advisor and incorporating data, analytics, and business valuation as part of her strategies. This unique approach to client relationships ensures that the firm delivers against client goals, optimizing outcomes and mitigating risk. Barrie is results-oriented and remains focused on transforming the real estate landscape by strategically driving revenue, identifying operational efficiencies, and growing profitability. Prior to her appointment at Cushman & Wakefield, Barrie spent three decades leading vital retail initiatives across a variety of world-class organizations, including Polo Ralph Lauren, Liz Claiborne, The Children's Place and Tory Burch. She brings more than 15 years of executive experience to her current role with the firm, including expertise in creating long-range strategies, business forecasting, omni-channel inventory management, and system implementation and integration. Most recently, Barrie was with Calvin Klein, where she led the company's North American Retail Division as President, setting strategic direction for merchandising, consumer experience and operational improvements. Throughout her career, Barrie has focused on mentoring and developing talent and creating cultures that foster collaboration and equality. She is the executive sponsor for Cushman & Wakefield's Women's Integrated Network and serves on two diversity committees focused on improving the employee experience.AffiliationsGraduate of the Wharton School of Business' Philips Van Heusen Global Leadership Program (2017)Board Member of Safe Horizon (2017-2019)Member of Women's Retail Leadership Circle (WRLC)Member of the International Council for Shopping Centers (ICSC)Member of CHIEF Private Women's NetworkExecutive Sponsor of Cushman & Wakefield's Women's Integrated Network National ChapterMember of CREW NY; Participant at National levelRecognized by Globe St. as a Woman of Influence (2020) About UsSteve Dennis is a strategic advisor and keynote speaker focused on growth and innovation, who has also been named one of the world's top retail influencers. He is the bestselling authro of two books: Leaders Leap: Transforming Your Company at the Speed of Disruption and Remarkable Retail: How To Win & Keep Customers in the Age of Disruption. Steve regularly shares his insights in his role as a Forbes senior retail contributor and on social media.Michael LeBlanc is the president and founder of M.E. LeBlanc & Company Inc, a senior retail advisor, keynote speaker and now, media entrepreneur. He has been on the front lines of retail industry change for his entire career. Michael has delivered keynotes, hosted fire-side discussions and participated worldwide in thought leadership panels, most recently on the main stage in Toronto at Retail Council of Canada's Retail Marketing conference with leaders from Walmart & Google. He brings 25+ years of brand/retail/marketing & eCommerce leadership experience with Levi's, Black & Decker, Hudson's Bay, CanWest Media, Pandora Jewellery, The Shopping Channel and Retail Council of Canada to his advisory, speaking and media practice.Michael produces and hosts a network of leading retail trade podcasts, including the award-winning No.1 independent retail industry podcast in America, Remarkable Retail with his partner, Dallas-based best-selling author Steve Dennis; Canada's top retail industry podcast The Voice of Retail and Canada's top food industry and one of the top Canadian-produced management independent podcasts in the country, The Food Professor with Dr. Sylvain Charlebois from Dalhousie University in Halifax.Rethink Retail has recognized Michael as one of the top global retail experts for the fourth year in a row, Thinkers 360 has named him on of the Top 50 global thought leaders in retail, RTIH has named him a top 100 global though leader in retail technology and Coresight Research has named Michael a Retail AI Influencer. If you are a BBQ fan, you can tune into Michael's cooking show, Last Request BBQ, on YouTube, Instagram, X and yes, TikTok.Michael is available for keynote presentations helping retailers, brands and retail industry insiders explaining the current state and future of the retail industry in North America and around the world.
From Oakland, California with Mexican roots, Crystal Rosas has solidified herself as one of the top and sought after talents in radio and entertainment. Rosas hosts the coveted afternoon slot, weekdays from 2pm- 6pm on the World Famous Z100 in New York City. You can also catch her hosting the nationally syndicated show “The New Hitlist” every night on 150+ iHeart Radio stations. Ryan Seacrest invites her to celebrate Dick Clark's New Year's Rockin' Eve live from Times Square on ABC and she is frequently a feature on “Good Day New York” on Fox 5. Crystal has been recognized by the Gracie Women in Media Organization for making inspirational contributions as a woman in media. She also actively works with Safe Horizon, a nonprofit organization that provides social services for victims of abuse and violent crime throughout the five boroughs of New York City. Crystal's mission is to spread love, laughter, and realness. Her weekly podcast “Crystal's Nightcap” has over half a million downloads and you can stream it on the iHeartRadio app and all other audio sharing platforms. With over 250k followers on all platforms, see what she's up to everyday on all socials she's @LaCrystalRosas. https://www.instagram.com/lacrystalrosas/ https://linktr.ee/Lacrystalrosas?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAabttp8fb5SVik3j9RvwPpmHZwG7diJdzodfIrdsOqyDc7lful6H-PXLnxs_aem_j8tBGNJmAkqAATU-YuBQDw
What is Financial abuse? It's deeper than you think! It can look like: Giving an allowance to your partner with accountability for all of it. Not allowing your partner to have his/her name on any credit cards, banking, or loans. Not sharing decision making with your partner pertaining to financial issues. This and more in today's episode. After listening into today's broadcast, do you recognize any of these in your own life? Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindajkunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/international-domestic-violence-resources/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 National Center on Elder Abuse- https://ncea.acl.gov/suspectabuse#gsc.tab=0 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
I'm digging into Emotional abuse on today's episode! Here's what it can look like: Emotional abuse- The abuser's psychological or mental violence can include anything that impacts the mental health and well being of their partner. Examples- name calling, insults, put downs crazy making, blaming the victim for everything jealousy, unfounded accusations of cheating intimidation shaming, humiliation socially isolating the victim from friends and family getting angry if a victim does not immediately return calls needing to know where the victim is at all times following the victim without their knowledge stalking After listening into today's broadcast, do you recognize any of these in your own life? Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindajkunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/international-domestic-violence-resources/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
Abuse can happen between anyone. Whether this is between you and a family member, friend or intimate partner. Answer me this: Do you make excuses for this persons poor behavior? Do you dread seeing them or feel exhausted with them or after seeing them? Is there always the same excuse for why they hurt you? Does this person say that "they" are the victim? If this person makes you cry, intimidates you, or hurts your feeling more than once a month this is a RED flag. More in today's episode. Stay safe and God bless! After listening into today's broadcast, do you recognize any of these in your own life? Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindajkunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/international-domestic-violence-resources/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 National Center on Elder Abuse- https://ncea.acl.gov/suspectabuse#gsc.tab=0 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
With any one of these there can use the tactics of - isolating the victim, creating a dependency with the abuser, or may have other mental health issues. Can cause victim to become depressed, have a breakdown, or commit suicide. A proper diagnosis needs to be from a licensed Counselor or Therapist. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindajkunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/international-domestic-violence-resources/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 National Center on Elder Abuse- https://ncea.acl.gov/suspectabuse#gsc.tab=0 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
*Trigger warning!* Sexual abuse can be hard to talk about. Victims can experience a wide range of unwanted assaults. It may become difficult for a victim to develop trust with intimate partners. Here are a few examples of what it can look like. If you relate to any of these please contact a shelter, counselor, or law enforcement. If you need to talk I am happy to hold space for you. After listening into today's broadcast, do you recognize any of these in your own life? Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindajkunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/international-domestic-violence-resources/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 National Center on Elder Abuse- https://ncea.acl.gov/suspectabuse#gsc.tab=0 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
Send us a Text Message.Join the conversation as Angela Torregoza, a New York City-based immigration attorney with a personal immigration story, shares her expertise on the lifeline that is the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) and the intricacies of family petitions. Angela's own journey fuels her passion for guiding clients through the complexities of immigration law, and in this episode, she offers a beacon of hope for those feeling entrapped in abusive relationships. Discover how VAWA can be the key to a new beginning, enabling abused foreign nationals to seek permanent residency and escape the shadows of manipulation and control.The challenges facing immigrant individuals in abusive situations are daunting, but there are steps one can take and resources available that can make all the difference. Angela walks us through the process of safeguarding important documents and crafting a safety plan, while highlighting the sanctuary that embassies can provide. We also delve into the evidence required for successful immigration applications, from psychological evaluations to personal affidavits, and discuss how to navigate the system without re-traumatization. It's an eye-opening look at the victim-centered approach of the immigration system and the community support that can pave the way to independence.Empowerment and recovery are core themes as Angela underscores the importance of community resources like Safe Horizon and Legal Aid Society for those without financial means. Learn about the emotional support offered by support groups and therapy, and how documenting experiences of abuse can be approached with sensitivity and care. We wrap up with a call to action for raising awareness of VAWA's provisions, not only to aid victims but also to foster understanding and support within the community. This episode is not just an informative session, but a heartfelt guide through the path to recovery and autonomy for those most vulnerable.
Today on The Neil Haley Show, Neil "The Media Giant" Haley interviews Terry Crews. Terry Crews is the host of NBC's top-rated summer show “America's Got Talent,” currently in its 19th season. He also served as the host for franchise spinoffs “America's Got Talent: The Champions,” “America's Got Talent: All-Stars” and “America's Got Talent: Extreme, and is currently hosting the latest iteration, “America's Got Talent: Fantasy League.” Crews is an author, action-movie hero, sitcom star, children's book illustrator, talent show host and human rights activist. The three-time People magazine Sexiest Man Alive actor has starred as a series regular in three consecutive TV series that have surpassed the coveted 100-episode mark (the Golden Globe Award-winning series “Brooklyn Nine-Nine,” “Are We There Yet?” and “Everybody Hates Chris”). With a diverse film resume, Crews has co-starred in “White Chicks,” “The Expendables” franchise, “Sandy Wexler,” “The Ridiculous 6,” “Blended,” “Click,” “The Benchwarmers,” “The Longest Yard,” “Sorry to Bother You,” “Deadpool 2” and, most recently, “Rumble.” Crews recently launched Super Serious, a creative agency focused on providing entertainment through different mediums. As CEO and co-founder, Crews tapped Impossible Foods as his first branded partnership. Crews was named one of Time magazine's 2017 Person of the Year honorees as a Silence Breaker, speaking out against sexual harassment following the #MeToo movement. He released his memoir, “Tough: My Journey to True Power” in 2022 and added the title of children's book illustrator with the first-of-its-kind augmented reality book, “Come Find Me: Terry's Crew.” He dedicates his free time to keeping physically fit and works with several non-profit organizations, including Safe Horizon, Peace Over Violence and the Polaris Project. For his dedication in helping these organizations, he was awarded the UN Global Generation Award at the UN headquarters and continues to be honored by numerous organizations for his tireless advocacy in helping to combat sexual harassment and abuse, domestic violence and human trafficking. Crews has been married to his wife, Rebecca, for 30 years. The couple have five children. The Neil Haley Show is a captivating talk show hosted by the charismatic and engaging Neil Haley. The show airs on over 150 stations worldwide, reaching an impressive weekly audience of over 5 million listeners. Haley's infectious energy, insightful interviews, and ability to connect with his audience have earned him a loyal following across the globe.
In conversation with Tamala Edwards, anchor, 6abc Action News morning edition. Tamron Hall is the Emmy Award-winning host and executive producer of the eponymous program Tamron Hall, ABC Disney's second longest running nationally syndicated talk show. Also the host of Deadline: Crime with Tamron Hall on Investigation Discovery, she formerly served as an anchor for Today, the host of MSNBC Live with Tamron Hall, and a national news correspondent for NBC. While at NBC, she earned a 2015 Edward R. Murrow Award for her reportage on domestic abuse. Hall also partnered with Safe Horizon to launch The Tamron Renate Fund, which aids victims and families affected by domestic violence. A sequel to her 2022 bestselling crime fiction novel As the Wicked Watch, Watch Where They Hide follows intrepid journalist Jordan Manning as she uncovers the truth about a missing young mother. Because you love Author Events, please make a donation to keep our podcasts free for everyone. THANK YOU! The views expressed by the authors and moderators are strictly their own and do not represent the opinions of the Free Library of Philadelphia or its employees. (recorded 3/15/2024)
ABOUT TAMRON HALL AND HER BOOK WATCH WHERE THEY HIDE: A Jordan Manning NovelWATCH WHERE THEY HIDE is the upcoming new novel from Emmy Award-winning TV host and journalist, Tamron Hall.An impressive follow-up to her acclaimed 2021 debut, As the Wicked Watch, Hall's forthcoming novel follows the gripping journey of journalist, Jordan Manning, who delves into the case of a mother in danger and uncovers a sinister web of secrets that could lead right to the missing woman-or put Jordan in the crosshairs of her abductors. With over 20 years of journalism experience, years spent reporting on crime and tragedies across the country, and her own personal experiences, Tamron is in the perfect position to pen this page-turning thriller.ABOUT THE BOOK: After dropping her child off at preschool, Marla Hancock, a stay-at-home mother, disappears. She had recently left her verbally abusive husband in Kentucky and moved in with her sister, Shelly, who simply can't believe that her sister would ever willingly vanish without her children. But with limited support from the town's police department or media resources, Shelly fears that Marla's disappearance won't get the attention it deserves, or worse, will go unsolved. So, several weeks after filing a missing person's report, she reaches out to TV journalist Jordan Manning for help. After her investigative and reporting skills helped solve multiple murders, Jordan Manning's career in the newsroom is on the rise. She has gained a reputation as more than your typical news reporter: a "fixer" with a vigilante edge, dogged and undeterred to seek the truth. But even with this new status, Jordan still feels pressure to prove herself as a young Black professional. When Shelly reaches out, she feels compelled to do all she can to find Marla. Jordan's search twists and turns in ways she could never have imagined, illuminating scandals and secrets that place her own life in grave danger.TAMRON HALL BIOTwo-time Emmy Award-winning journalist and author Tamron Hall is Executive Producer and host of the nationally syndicated talk show Tamron Hall. Tamron Hall is currently the second longest-running Disney-produced syndicated talk show and continues to be one of television's highest-rated daytime shows. Tamron's extensive resume also includes hosting Deadline: Crime with Tamron Hall on Investigation Discovery, TODAY and MSNBC Live with Tamron Hall. She received the 2015 Edward R. Murrow Award for her segment on domestic violence as part of TODAY's Shine A Light series. An outspoken advocate for shedding light on domestic abuse, Hall has partnered with Safe Horizon to launch The Tamron ❤ Renate Fund in honor of her sister to help victims and families affected by domestic violence.Get her book today: https://a.co/d/a7DTSU4Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/i-am-refocused-radio--2671113/support.
EPISODE SUMMARY: Research consistently supports the value of taking a trauma-informed approach to reduce re-traumatization, improve outcomes, and foster trust and collaboration between professionals, children, and families. In this episode, Kristina Coleman, LMSW, MPA, joins co-hosts Tony DeVincenzo and Ilana Lezama-Beausejour to discuss the intergenerational trauma approach and working with families of color. Throughout their conversation, Kristina shares insights into some of the life experiences of past generations and their impact on the present day. The discussion explores ways professionals can shift their mindset and practices to better serve and support families of color. Topics in this episode: Definitions (4:04) Intergenerational trauma approach (9:02) Working with families of color (11:33) Life experiences and Intergenerational Trauma (17:00) Understanding history (20:30) Enhance professional skills (28:37) Recommendations (37:48) Organization support for workers of color (39:35) GUEST: Kristina Coleman LMSW, MPA, is the Vice President of Child Advocacy and Mental Health Programs at Safe Horizon the nation's largest victim service agency, and the Founder/CEO of youRmore counseling & services. She has served in the social services for over 14 years specializing in child welfare, family reunification, trauma treatment, mental health, program implementation, development, and non-profit leadership. Kristina holds a master's degree in social work leadership from Hunter College and a Master of Public Administration from Mercy University. She has held multiple roles at both the direct service and leadership level. Kristina provides training and consulting around engagement and mental health practices for families of color and the impact intergenerational trauma. Through her teachings she aims to reform systems and create true diversity, equity, and inclusion. She believes if people want to see real change, they must first understand history. Kristina serves as a board member for the National Association of Social Workers NYC Chapter, The New York State Children Alliances, Center for Safety and Change, and the YMCA OF Rockland. RECOMMENDED RESOURCES: Spare the Kids: Why Whupping Children Won't Save Black America by Stacey Patton: https://a.co/d/ajfCyNa Black Families in Therapy: Understanding the African American Experience by Nancy Boyd-Franklin: https://a.co/d/6oDQVZD My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem: https://a.co/d/aoKr01r Virtues and Values: The African and African American Experience by Peter J. Paris: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0800636619?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_JMZG1C5GGNV3M6Y1Y4G9 Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We're Not Hurting by Terrie M. Williams: https://a.co/d/21aQAaj Connect with Kristina Coleman at Kristina.Coleman@safehorizon.org Safe Horizon: https://www.safehorizon.org Northeast Regional Children's Advocacy Center: https://www.nrcac.org Regional Children's Advocacy Centers: https://www.regionalcacs.org Have an idea for a future Team Talk guest or topic? We want to hear from you! Email your suggestions to Tony DeVincenzo at tony@nrcac.org. Disclaimer: This project was sponsored by NRCAC from Grant Award Number 15PJDP-22-GK-03061-JJVO awarded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, OJJDP or NRCAC.
In this episode, we discuss DeepMind's proactive approach to AGI safety by establishing a specialized organization. We explore the significance of this move in the broader context of AI ethics and safety research. Invest in AI Box: https://Republic.com/ai-box Get on the AI Box Waitlist: https://AIBox.ai/
Feb. 7, 2024 - Child advocacy centers, which serve kids who are victims of abuse and neglect, have seen relatively flat funding for years, despite increased demand for services. Michael Polenberg, vice president of government affairs for Safe Horizon, explains what could be accomplished by doubling the governor's proposed investment.
December 4, 2023 - We discuss the impact of the Adult Survivors Act and consider whether the time for bringing old lawsuits from sexual abuse allegations should be extended, with Michael Polenberg, vice president of government affairs for Safe Horizon.
Replay- Tips for staying safe from domestic violence during the holidays!*I didn't mention the use of drugs or alcohol as an added factor for increased violence at this time as well! And by "exchanges" I meant visitation exchange.* Could you take a minute to visit and "Like" my page Hope when there was none or join The Survivors Cafe. Find help and info here-National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
*Trigger warning* October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I will be sharing stories from courageous Survivors to educate, empower, and inspire others to know they are not alone. Each of these stories is unique but the message is the same. Abuse is abuse no matter if someone lifts a hand, plays mental or emotional games, or calls you names. Abuse does not discriminate. This can happen to your family member, best friend, co-worker, or in another part of the world. Please listen in to Kelly's story. Find help and info here-National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
*Trigger warning and explicit conversation* October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I will be sharing stories from courageous Survivors to educate, empower, and inspire others to know they are not alone. Each of these stories is unique but the message is the same. Abuse is abuse no matter if someone lifts a hand, plays mental or emotional games, or calls you names. Abuse does not discriminate. This can happen to your family member, best friend, co-worker, or in another part of the world. Please listen in to Amanda's story. Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
Why does she stay?! One comment I see and hear often is, "Why Does She Stay?!" or "I would have left after the first punch!" There are many personal reasons a victim stays and these include in random order: 1) Fear- Of change or fear of the abuser 2) Guilty- Maybe she didn't try hard enough to work on the relationship 3) Lack of resources- No job, car, money, or even a lack of support There are these and many more that are included in this episode. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I will share my story and also stories of courage and healing from Survivors, Coaches, to Therapists/Counselors. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
*Trigger Warning* Survivor stories *Replay*October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I will be sharing stories from courageous Survivors to educate, empower, and inspire others to know they are not alone. Each of these stories is unique but the message is the same. Abuse is abuse no matter if someone lifts a hand, plays mental or emotional games, or calls you names. Abuse does not discriminate. This can happen to your family member, best friend, co-worker, or in another part of the world. Today's brave story comes from "Michelle".Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I will share my story and also stories of courage and healing from Survivors, Coaches, to Therapists/Counselors.Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunstFind help and info here-National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/https://www.domesticshelters.org/https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-helpSexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
*Trigger warning* October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I will be sharing stories from courageous Survivors to educate, empower, and inspire others to know they are not alone. Each of these stories is unique but the message is the same. Abuse is abuse no matter if someone lifts a hand, plays mental or emotional games, or calls you names. Abuse does not discriminate. This can happen to your family member, best friend, co-worker, or in another part of the world. Please listen in to April's story. Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
*TRIGGER WARNING* Please join me and Brianne Coleman as she shares her story of resilience. Brianne Coleman, MBA, M.S., is a well-versed administrative professional with a deep passion for change. She currently works as an IT Operations Specialist with The Chicago Community Trust, a nonprofit organization with a mission to close the racial and ethnic wealth gap in the Chicago region. Not only has this work been super rewarding for Brianne personally, but it has also brought great purpose to her life. Over the last four years, Brianne has leveraged the relationships she has developed through her work and continues to develop, to lean more into her life's purpose of ending familial cycles of domestic violence and trauma. As a survivor of childhood trauma, sexual assault, and domestic violence spanning over 42 years, Brianne tirelessly advocates for victims/survivors through her public speaking, peer support and volunteer work. Brianne was a 2020 fellow of Disability Lead's Advancing Leadership program and is now a member of that prestigious network of disability leaders. In addition, Brianne was a 2021 fellow of the Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence's Leadership Academy, which allowed her to strengthen her ties to the DV network in Illinois. In 2021, she began a multi-year journey to become a certified instructor of Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), a key component of a trauma rehab program she developed that addresses the gaps in services provided to victims of domestic violence to include their children. Brianne holds two master's degrees, including an MBA and a master's in human services from Purdue, and is the founder of Dimensions of Intersections, an upcoming nonprofit with a mission to stop generational cycles of domestic violence and trauma. Brianne's vulnerability and transparency, combined with a timely spiritual awakening, have put her on the path to finding full survivorship in her life. She embodies gratitude in every facet of her life and embraces her experiences openly as a way to inspire others. Brianne leans heavily on her relationship with God to guide her on her journey and push her closer to living in her life's purpose.“In some ways, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds meaning.” – Victor Frankl Find her here:https://youtu.be/sz_xcglYiRo?si=E1VM9e5-hFAG2juF https://www.facebook.com/gingersnaps816 Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I will share my story and also stories of courage and healing from Survivors, Coaches, to Therapists/Counselors. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/https://www.domesticshelters.org/https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-helphttps://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
*Trigger warning* October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and I will be featuring Survivor stories throughout the month. Today I am sharing Katrina's story. Thank you to the brave ladies that are courageously sharing in order to empower, educate, and inspire other victims/Survivors to know they are not alone!All of these stories are graphic and share a peek inside a victims world. There is no reason to sugar coat these stories or to edit the "bad parts" to skip to the happy ending. These impactful stories are raw and real. If you or someone you love is in an abusive situation please seek help and know you are not alone. Find help and info here-National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/https://www.domesticshelters.org/https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-helpSexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
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Using self-discovery questions can change your prospective and your healing journey. I know it sounds outlandish and you may be scratching your head on how but try this! Sit quietly with paper and pen and see what happens. If something doesn't happen right away go back and sit with the questions and jot down what comes to mind. I'd love to know how this works out for you! Feel free to message me privately! #soulfulsunday Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
Why does Cinco de Mayo have a impact on me? Find out in today's episode plus what does abuse look like? After leaving a toxic relationship over a decade ago I embraced a journey to share my story and help others that are healing from emotional traumas, learn about self-care, and find empowerment to re-invent themselves. Here you will hear about the journey of courageous Survivors and many experts that share a passion for helping and inspiring others to awaken the beauty of life without abuse. Thanks for tuning in! I hope your day is filled with blessings, magic, and miracles! Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I will share my story and also stories of courage and healing from Survivors, Coaches, to Therapists/Counselors. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
EPISODE SUMMARY: Child Advocacy Centers and Multidisciplinary teams are not immune from the race, power, and privilege that shapes the way we each experience the world. At Safe Horizon, the organization that operates the five CACs throughout New York City, the Racial Healing Response Team (RHRT) program has been implemented to address the racial harm that staff members may experience in the workplace. With the goal of offering staff support and healing, the RHRT responds in a variety of ways that center on respect, relationships, and community care. In this episode, Tony speaks with Dr. Lisa O'Connor and Dorcas Miller with Safe Horizon. They walk us through the planning and implementation of its Racial Healing Response Team – an intentional response to situations between staff that have caused racial harm and the facilitation of healing. GUESTS: Dr. Lisa A. O'Connor was promoted to the roles of Deputy CEO and Chief Program Officer as of March 2021. Lisa joined Safe Horizon in 2013 as the Deputy Chief Program Officer and was later promoted to Chief Program Officer. She is a psychologist by training and has spent most of her career in service to children and families impacted by violence. During her time at Safe Horizon, Lisa has led efforts to address the needs of young men of color who have been harmed by violence; implemented client-centered, trauma-informed practices that recognize the impact of racism in the lives of survivors; and led the successful fulfillment of a five-year strategic plan. Lisa is also the Co-Chair of the Racial Healing Response Team and a member of the Anti-Racism Steering Committee at Safe Horizon. Prior to Safe Horizon, Lisa spent almost a decade in child welfare developing and implementing new program models and policies, first as an Assistant Commission at the Administration for Children's Services and later as Vice President for Children and Family Services at the New York Foundling. In these roles, she designed innovative programs that brought evidence-based models to preventive services and for children in foster care and residential placement. She also developed policy and specialized foster care programming to help reduce child welfare's use of residential placements for young people approaching adulthood. Lisa has devoted most of her career to working on behalf of vulnerable populations. She has provided direct service to families in crisis: those experiencing family violence, impacted by poverty, and involved in systems. She received her PhD in Developmental Psychology from Columbia University and a BA in Psychology from Smith College. Dorcas Miller is the Senior Learning Specialist with Safe Horizon who develops and implements training to individual contributors and supervisory staff at Safe Horizon. Dorcas is also the Co-Chair of the Racial Healing Response Team and a member of the Anti-Racism Steering Committee at Safe Horizon. Dorcas' education includes a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary in New York, Clinical Pastor Education at Cornell Medical Center, and a BA in Business Administration from Pace University. RECOMMENDED RESOURCES: Safe Horizon: https://www.safehorizon.org Northeast Regional Children's Advocacy Center: https://www.nrcac.org Regional Children's Advocacy Centers: https://www.regionalcacs.org Have an idea for a future Team Talk guest or topic? We want to hear from you! Email your suggestions to Tony DeVincenzo at tony@nrcac.org. Disclaimer: This project was sponsored by NRCAC from Grant Award Number 15PJDP-22-GK-03061-JJVO awarded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, OJJDP or NRCAC.
Why does she stay?! One comment I see and hear often is, "Why Does She Stay?!" or "I would have left after the first punch!" There are many personal reasons a victim stays and these include in random order: 1) Fear- Of change or fear of the abuser 2) Guilty- Maybe she didn't try hard enough to work on the relationship 3) Lack of resources- No job, car, money, or even a lack of support There are these and many more that are included in this episode. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I will share my story and also stories of courage and healing from Survivors, Coaches, to Therapists/Counselors. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
At 10 mins in I share tips for going "No contact" as well as a making a simple list that will remind you why you shouldn't go back to your abuser. Plus you will hear my dreams, goals, and hopes for Hope when there was none. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I will share my story and also stories of courage and healing from Survivors, Coaches, to Therapists/Counselors. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Please do me a few favors could you rate (5⭐️). "Subscribe", "Follow", and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. These steps help my rankings so I'm able to reach more listeners and grow. AnchorFM- https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst Breaker- https://www.breaker.audio/hope-when-there-was-none Google Podcasts- https://www.google.com/podcasts... Apple- https://podcasts.apple.com/.../hope-when.../id1569599507 Pocket Casts-https://pca.st/1rgsddx7 RadioPublic- https://radiopublic.com/hope-when-there-was-none-WejA3L Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/show/0cp63ncYh8dr9ZuKcLi2Ar IheartRadio- https://www.iheart.com/.../269-hope-when-there-was-none.../ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
Are you settling in your relationships? Do you feel you just aren't good enough to find someone better? Let's dive into some tips to start reprogramming that mindset! Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/melinda-j-kunst/support
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Are you struggling with filling your cup do you know what that means? It can be really hard to make time for you. But you are so important and need to give yourself time to unwind. Tune in for today's tip on this motivational monday. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/support
A question I'm often asked is should I stay or should I go? What you do? Personally? I made lists of all the reasons I should stay and all the reasons I should leave. These both gave clarity to help me decide. Each situation is unique and only "you" can know when enough is enough. It could take something devastating to happen or to feel as though you are at rock bottom. If a domestic abuse situation contact your local shelter for help or with questions. They can also help you create a safety plan. Find help with National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org/ or for shelter info in your area DomesticShelters.org Stay safe! Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/support
Remember that your healing journey is yours and yours alone it's going to look different than mine or different than your neighbor or your best friend. Remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. Remember all healing might not fix everything. You don't have to relive your trauma to heal. Try not to push yourself. And remember you may not fully heal and that's all right. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalwomenshouse.org/get-help https://www.domesticshelters.org/.../national-global... Sexual Assault Hotline- https://www.rainn.org/ Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services (ADWAS) provides advocacy services for Deaf and DeafBlind survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. http://www.adwas.org/ Suicide prevention- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/melinda-j-kunst/support
A one-year "lookback" window, which will allow adult survivors of sexual assault to sue their abusers in civil court, opens up this week. Liz Roberts, CEO of Safe Horizon, explains what people need to know and what the impact of this new law in New York, the Adult Survivors Act (the “ASA”), might be.
Overcoming financial abuse starts with understanding what it is. Stacy Francis, certified divorce financial analyst at Francis Financial, says it comes in many different forms. But all of them can lead to physical abuse. Anyone needing help can call the Domestic Hotline at: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).Safe Horizon is another 24-hour hotline where you can seek help: 800-621-HOPE (4673).And Savvy Ladies is an organization formed by Stacy Francis dedicated to empowering women to take control of their finances by providing a professional network of support & guidance for FREE. You can follow this show on Instagram and on Facebook. And to see what Heather does when she's not talking money, go to her personal Twitter page. Be sure to email Heather your questions and request topics you'd like her to cover here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This week features Jimmy Meagher, a Policy Advocate at Safe Horizon. He discusses the numerous resources Safe Horizon offers to domestic violence survivors and the difference between domestic violence shelters run by the Human Resources Administration [HRA] and the Department of Homeless Services [DHS]. Safe Horizons is an organization created to offer Victim assistance. They currently Assist survivors of all forms of violence. They assist survivors of all forms of violence. Some programs include but are not limited to domestic violence shelters, support groups, safety planning, lock replacement, and legal assistance. https://www.safehorizon.org/our-services/what-we-do/ Safe Horizon's 24/7 Hotline: 1800-621-HOPE
(Recorded November 2021) Rosebud Baker can make anything funny. She has jokes about the tragic death of her sister, her own struggles with addiction, and why nurses seem to be a little too cocky. Mike and Rose kick around jokes about what to do when your Uber is filling up with water, how much urine is in a public pool, and why some of us marry our dads. All that, and a story about toasting a U.S. president when she was a kid.Please consider donating to Safe Horizon
@Alovethapoet speaks on how important mental health is after having a life changing experience.Instagram: instagram.com/cozymfboots/ https://www.instagram.com/a.lovethapoet/ https://www.instagram.com/deemobius/Facebook: facebook.com/CozyMFBoots205/Gmail: CozyMFBoots@gmail.comPodcast logo and AAA (awesome ass artiste): instagram.com/astralepitome/Notes:Suicide hotline 800-273-8255 https://pflag.org/hotlines1-800-422-4453, push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. (Call this number for help if you have been abused, suspect a child or teenager is being sexually abused, or if you are an abuser.) For hearing impaired, call 1-800-222-4523.• National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. Can be used to communicate information to the authorities about child pornography or child sex trafficking. Hotline: 1-800-THE-LOST (1800-843-5678) or make a cybertip• List of State Child Abuse and Neglect reporting numbersCrisis Hotlines (also scroll down to see Suicide Hotlines)• Crisis Text Line (U.S.A.): Text CONNECT to 741741. https://www.crisistextline.org/textline/• Crisis Text Line (Canada): Text HOME to 686868 to text with a trained Crisis Responder. https://www.crisistextline.ca/• IMAlive: virtual crisis online chat center https://www.imalive.org/Depression Hotlines• Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696Domestic Violence Hotlines• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) – Staffed 24 hours a day by trained counselors who can provide crisis assistance and information about shelters, legal advocacy, health care centers, and counseling.• Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women: 1-888-743-5754 DAHMW.org• STAND Against Domestic Violence Crisis Hotline: 1-888-215-5555Parents Hotlines:• Parent Hotline: 1-800-840-6537. Parent Hotline is a website dedicated to helping families who are in a crisis situation.Self-Injury Hotlines:• 1-800-DONT-CUT (366-8288)Stalking Hotlines:• Crime Victims Hotline: 1-866-689-HELP (4357)• Safe Horizon: 1-800-621-HOPE (4673)• LGBT Youth Suicide Hotline: 1-866-488-7386 OR text “Trevor” to 1-202-304-1200. (Available Tuesday-Friday between 3pm – 9pm EST/12pm – 6pm PT.)• National Youth Crisis Hotline: 1-800-448-4663• Teen Text Line: Text TEEN 839863 Daily from 6pm-9pm PST• Youthline: 1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454)• Youth Development International Crisis Hotline: 1-800-HIT-HOME (1800-448-4663)Warm LinesWarmlines are for when you need someone to talk to but are not in crisis: http://warmline.org/Cool Shit to check out:Street Fighter Mas by Kamasi Washington - https://youtu.be/LdyabrdFMC8
On this week's 51%, we speak with professors Shani Orgad and Rosalind Gill about their new book, Confidence Culture, examining the prominence of confidence and self-help discourse in modern-day marketing, workplaces, relationships — and well, everywhere else. We also discuss a bill in the New York legislature that would give adult survivors of sexual assault the opportunity to look back and sue their abusers. Guests: Dr. Shani Orgad and Dr. Rosalind Gill, authors of Confidence Culture 51% is a national production of WAMC Northeast Public Radio. It's produced by Jesse King. Our executive producer is Dr. Alan Chartock, and our theme is "Lolita" by the Albany-based artist Girl Blue. Follow Along You're listening to 51%, a WAMC production dedicated to women's issues and experiences. Thanks for tuning in, I'm Jesse King. Next week, we're kicking off a series on women in business, which personally I'm pretty excited for — but before we do that, I want to talk about confidence. Oftentimes, when we talk about women in business, there's a lot of focus on how women can better advocate for themselves and step up to the plate. We're supposed to lean in, push ourselves into new territory, break the glass ceiling. To paraphrase some advice Kim Kardashian recently got a lot of heat for — because I can't say the actual quote on the radio — we're supposed to get up and work. I feel that also applies to the way we look at ourselves in general, too. We're frequently told to love ourselves, work on ourselves, feel comfortable in the skin we're in — all great messages. But I have to be honest: it can be a lot of pressure, and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I look at other go-getters and I'm like, “Man, I wish I could be like that.” Sometimes I don't love the skin, or hair, or clothes that I'm in. It's a lot of work being confident. Our guests today have spent years looking into this phenomenon, which they call “confidence culture.” Dr. Shani Orgad is a professor of media and communications at the London School of Economics and Political Science, while Dr. Rosalind Gill teaches cultural and social analysis at the City University of London. Their new book — called Confidence Culture — interrogates the way we talk about confidence, and how, in some ways, self-help culture might hold us back. Why is confidence discourse so prevalent right now? Gill: Well, we talk about it in more depth in the book, and we kind of track it back through self-help literature and self-help culture and the expansion of that, and the way that that's kind of taken off on social media. But we also sort of track it in terms of the global financial crisis, the recession, austerity, the kinds of messages that were more and more individualistic and, at least, very noticeable in the UK – for women to be to be thrifty, to make do and mend, [to] work on themselves, to use what resources they have to kind of hustle, I guess, in culture, most broadly. But we also talk about how it's kind of related to the rise in visibility of feminism. From around sort of 2014, it's been documented that feminism has really become much more visible as a kind of popular movement, and as a discourse across media. And we very much feel that this visibility of feminism has kind of allowed a space for these discourses of confidence to flourish. But of course, it's a very specific kind of feminism. It's a very individualistic feminism, it's not a kind of collective, outward-facing, kind of “changing structures” kind of feminism. It's very much a sort of inward looking, working on yourself to improve your position, kind of an emphasis. How do you see confidence culture working? What are the different parts that come together to create this movement? Gill: I mean, one of the things that was really, really striking to us was that we were working across different areas – like very different areas: the workplace, advertising, you know, “love your body” imagery, sex and relationships. In academic fields, these are spread quite widely, yet, what we're encountering was the same messages, again and again. And it wasn't just that they were the same broad messages, it's actually the same words and phrases that were being used, repeatedly. You know, the sort of “Strike a pose,” “Feel comfortable in your own skin,” “Love yourself,” “Believe in yourself.” And it really felt as if this wasn't just something that was happening in individual areas. It was kind of more than the sum of the parts. Orgad: And so it works through discourse – but we also know that it's very, very important as a visual regime. And again, as Ros mentioned, often through very similar visual imagery. So we identified what we call the “confidence pose,” which is, you know, the kind of Wonder Woman pose where you stand with your feet wide apart, hands on your hips, and so on. And this has been popularized by people like American social psychologist Amy Cuddy, who gave her most popular TED talk about power poses, where she literally shows Wonder Woman as the exemplar of this pose. What we noted is that, visually, this is was a really important signifier of confidence – across advertisements, we looked across women's magazines, business journals, and reports. Again, in different domains and context, you will see the very same visual appearances that signified confidence. We also realized that it's not only discourse and not only kind of a visual regime, but confidence also, importantly, works through emotions, through the affective level. In other words, it's not just about telling women certain things and encouraging them to change the way they think, or the way they look, crucially, but also fundamentally the way they feel. We identified particular aspects, particular emotions that are very much associated with confidence: resilience, positive thinking, gratitude. But crucially, it's also about certain emotions that confidence is not aligned with. For instance, we found how the particular type of confidence that confidence culture encourages, which is very individualized and positive, also often comes and goes hand in hand with prohibiting anger, or prohibiting those feelings that are deemed supposedly “ugly” or “negative.” So don't be bitter, don't be angry – be confident. And finally, we identify the way that confidence culture works also through practices – through not just things that you say, or not just even things that you feel, but also literally through things that you do. So again, it's about how you write emails. In this context. Google launched their “Sorry, Not Sorry” plugin a few years ago, which was addressed, particularly to women, interestingly, not starting your email with, “I'm just writing to…,” “No worries if not,” all these kinds of edits that are particularly, again, addressed to women – because of this assumption that there is some kind of a deficit and this internal defect almost, or these self-inflicted wounds that we should somehow overcome. And partly, were encouraged to overcome through changing our practices, even through changing the way we breathe. We found a range of texts, to our astonishment, that are about how you should retrain, reeducate yourself, how to breathe, in order to become more assertive, to love yourself, and so on. So it's ubiquitous, and that's why we call it “culture,” across very distinct domains, but also across very different realms: the visual, the textual, the emotional, and also the lived practices that we are all kind of engaging in an everyday basis. Your book mentions the popularity of confidence workshops or classes for women in the workplace – which surprised me, I don't think that I have personally come across that yet. It kind of seems strange to me to have it company-sponsored. But can you tell me a little bit more about that? Orgad: Yeah. And I think that is partly what we try to bring through the book, this kind of strangeness to it. To pause, to question things that have become so normalized and accepted. I'm really glad for you that you haven't encountered it, we have encountered them ourselves. But also, since the book has been published, we've been receiving numerous emails and messages on social media from women, who say, “I was sent to one of these courses! Now I understand!” And evidently and importantly, beyond the anecdotal, these are also commercially viable programs that lots of workplaces are signing into. And, you know, sometimes they might not be explicitly called “confidence” – they are sometimes, for instance, under the guise of “leadership.” But then when you look at what they contain, they would be, often in very troublingly gendered ways, directed to encouraging women and trying to help women to build their confidence and so on. And I think it's important for us to say that we do recognize that these are often well-meaning programs, in the same way that we recognize that the body positivity movement and “love your body” messages are and may be well meaning – and indeed may help women, individual women, to feel better about themselves, or to negotiate a pay raise, or to be more assertive in a meeting at work. We don't want to dismiss this. But we are troubled by the way that these programs, confidence coaching and similar kind of programs, are very much individualizing both the problem and the responsibility for fixing the problem. Workplaces invest a lot of money in initiatives that ultimately individualize it to employees, and particularly to women employees, to find the problem, or their internal issues and psychological obstacles, as it were. There are programs, for instance – and these are women-only programs, so in workplaces that are mixed workplaces, women-only programs are designed to help only those women in the work through a range of techniques that they're being taught – it can include things like mindfulness and yoga, things that are to do with your physical kind of confidence, how you project confidence physically, through more kind of psychological work on yourself. Changing the ways you communicate, for instance, in written communication, and so on. One of the interesting things that we noticed during the pandemic is that we were both, like many other people, spending hours on Zoom. And one of the interesting things that flourished during the pandemic is “virtually confident” workshops, which were about teaching people – but again, especially women – how to project confidence on screen. It was found that women, much more than men, tend to touch themselves on screen, and so there were entire programs that Ros and I attended about making yourself aware and, again, how you use your voice and how you project confidence, how you occupy space on the screen, how you position yourself, what background you choose, and so on and so forth. So commercially, they're viable, and they're successful, which also suggests that it's something that there isn't just appetite for it, but a purchase to it. I don't know, if you want to add, Ros. Gill: I think I just wanted to add something about our own ambivalence. And it goes back to something that you said right at the start Jesse, about feeling that you receive a lot of these messages – and just to really, really kind of highlight that we are not critical of confidence messaging, and we're not critical of women who find that messaging productive, helpful in their lives or, you know, beneficial for them to feel better. We confess to having cried at our fair share of Dove adverts and to having kind of adopted many of the confidence practices – both on ourselves, having done these courses, but also trying to encourage our students. We always encourage them, “Take up more space in the room, be bold when speaking at a conference, don't write apologetically,” and everything. So just to really emphasize that our target isn't confidence itself, and it isn't the women that adopt those programs, but it's what the culture does, and the way that it's kind of been placed beyond debate. And it's almost become like a cult in the sense that it's kind of an article of faith that is unquestionable. What would you say are the side effects of the culture? What does it mask over, and what is the effect on those in it? Gill: I think the main things that it does are, first of all, it kind of places all the responsibility and all the blame on women themselves. So it treats it as if this is some kind of pathology, this is some kind of defect, it's some kind of internal deficit. It's something that women lack, and that they have to work on making up for. So it's very blaming as a discourse. There's an example in the book, The Confidence Code, which is, you know, a New York Times bestseller, a very celebrated book – but they talk about women scratching themselves, scratching themselves like babies do, and say that we need to put on the mittens so that we don't scratch ourselves. Which we found to be so troubling, because it's such a infantilizing metaphor. So there's that whole kind of element of blame that is really problematic. And then there's the flip side of that, of like, what's that doing when you kind of put all the responsibility for a lack of confidence, and for gender inequality, on women's shoulders. It's as if we're doing this to ourselves, we put ourselves in this position, rather than looking at the structures and institutions and barriers that actually are in place that are preventing women and other oppressed and marginalized groups from actually making progress. You mentioned earlier the kind of imagery you were noticing in the ads and campaigns you were studying. Did you notice a particular demographic or kind of women who were being targeted to be more confident, or who were most showcased and represented as “confident” in these ads? Gill: We've tried to be really, really attentive to differences across the entire book, and we hope that the book offers a really intersectional feminist analysis of what we're seeing. So we've looked across age, we've looked across race and ethnicity, we've looked across disability and sexuality. I think what we've really tried to problematize, and it comes out most visibly in relation to the advertising, is a kind of faux diversity, in a way, a sort of hollowing out of diversity. At first, we were kind of hopeful that this kind of advertising was going to actually open up space for many more different kinds of women to be shown, who aren't usually the kind of white, middle class, cisgender, able-bodied, women that dominate the visual habitat that we all live in. We did see more diversity, but then we immediately saw that being somehow undercut or undermined with a kind of “one size fits all.” So this sort of sense that, “Well, whatever the problem, whoever the group, there's just one solution” – and it's to be more confident, confidence training programs, something like that. So it's a kind of double-move of recognizing diversity, only to then kind of say, “Well, it doesn't matter.” So what do we do? I mean, how can we help women feel more confident without making them feel like there's pressure on them? Or that there's something wrong with them? Orgad: Yeah, I think it's a really good question. And I would really just reiterate what was said earlier, that we are not against confidence, and we want women to thrive and feel safer and happier and more confident. But we feel really strongly that, at the same time, we need (and by we, we mean not just with women, but crucially as a society) to really think critically about how not just to invest in demanding and encouraging and exhorting women to be more confident and fix the problem as it were themselves, but to think and nourish structural thinking. And so we ended the book, in our conclusion, we call it “Beyond Confidence.” And we're trying to look at examples that perhaps are not entirely outside confidence or against confidence –because again, we are not ourselves against confidence – but that do introduce those things that, as you mentioned before, Jesse, that confidence culture masks and perhaps minimizes or marginalizes. And we talked about what we call “confidence climate” – how can we think about nurturing and building a climate that enables and allows women and everybody and other disempowered groups to feel safer and feel more confident, rather than putting again the onus on individuals to do that work? In this context we bring Lizzo as an interesting example, because she's kind of the self-confidence queen, but at the same time, Lizzo is a really interesting kind of person and persona to think through about what we can do differently. Because she foregrounds, for instance, interdependence, she foregrounds the ways in which she herself, to become confident, is dependent on her family, on her network of friends, on the community who travels with her on her tour. So one way, for instance, that we would want to think about building a climate of confidence is a climate that encourages our dependence on each other, and doesn't deem being dependent on somebody abhorrent or ugly or undesirable. The [current] confidence culture is not about needing help from anybody else, it's about you caring for yourself, because nobody else will. So these are kind of ways that we feel that should come, and we would hope would come, alongside the more kind of individual work that perhaps women can do, or do do – and we would have liked to see workplaces investing more in structural changes that create places and workplaces that are confident workplaces, where employees can thrive as confident beings, rather than sending them on these courses that keep telling them the problem is you, you fix it. Drs. Shani Orgad and Rosalind Gill are the authors of Confidence Culture, out now on Duke University Press. Shani and Rosalind, thanks so much for taking the time. We're gonna switch gears before we head out to recognize Sexual Assault Awareness Month - and a warning to those who may be sensitive to the subject. On Thursday, New York state lawmakers joined survivors in Westchester County to call attention to a bill that would give some adult survivors the opportunity to sue their abusers in court. The Adult Survivors Act is similar to the Child Victims Act passed by the legislature in 2019, which gave survivors of childhood sexual abuse a one-year lookback window to sue their abusers, in some cases long after the state's statute of limitations expired. The one-year window was ultimately extended another year due to the coronavirus pandemic. This time, the Adult Survivors Act would open up that opportunity to those who were 18 years or older at the time of their abuse. The bill was passed by the State Senate last year, but it has so far stalled in the Assembly. It was a blustery Thursday in New York's Hudson Valley, but advocates with the victims assistance nonprofit Safe Horizon still gathered outside the Westchester County Court in White Plains to push for the bill's passage. State Senator Shelly Mayer, a Democrat from the 37th District, is a co-sponsor of the bill. "This is so basic to our system of laws. We're not talking about criminal penalties here, we're talking about the opportunity to confront your accuser and make a civil claim for damages," says Mayer. "And that is what our systems of laws is based on. The equality of opportunity to assert your claim." Safe Horizon Vice President of Government Affairs Michael Polenberg says more than 10,000 lawsuits were filed as a result of the Child Victims Act by the time its lookback window closed last August. Four of the state's eight Roman Catholic dioceses filed for bankruptcy, as did the Boy Scouts of America, at least partly due to a large number of lawsuits regarding sexual abuse. In 2019, lawmakers also expanded the civil and criminal statute of limitations for several felony sex offenses in the state. The criminal statute of limitations for second and third-degree rape increased from five years to 20 and 10 years, respectively, and Polenburg says the civil statute now stands at 20 years for both — but he notes those changes were made proactively, not retroactively. "Meaning certain survivors who were abused before 2019 still only have a few years to file a civil lawsuit," he adds. Polenberg says that, as child victims have been given the chance to look back, so should adults. For many survivors, coming to terms with what they went through can take years, even decades. Donna Hylton, activist and author of the memoir, A Little Piece of Light, says she's been surviving trauma and sexual abuse for the majority of her life – something she didn't really come to terms with until after her incarceration at age 20. Hylton says she was incarcerated for 27 years, and that people often misunderstand the sheer number of adult survivors in state prisons alone. “That 85 percent that we've been told for so long, of women, young women, and gender-expansive people that are in the system, that have been abused, is wrong. It's more like 97 percent. Closer to 98 percent. Why? Because people still don't talk. Why? Because people still don't listen," says Hylton. Assemblymember Amy Paulin, a Democrat from the 88th District, says she became a survivor at age 14, and it took years for her to say it out loud. “I buried it, it was something I was embarrassed about, it was something that I never told anyone about — and I don't know that that would have been different if I was four years older," says Paulin. "If you're 17, you're a minor, you're 18 and all of sudden you're not. And I don't know what shifts or changes in a young woman's mind…not that much. So we have not addressed the remedies for so many young women who likely have not or did not even come to grips with their own sexual assault. So this is a very important bill.” “For many years, it was the State Assembly that moved the Child Victims Act forward. We're now in the situation where it's the Senate who's moving on the Adult Survivors Act — they passed it last year unanimously, everyone voted in support. This year, the bill has already moved through the Judiciary Committee and the Finance Committee, and it's now heading to the floor, and it's the Assembly where the bill seems to be stuck," adds Polenberg. "So we're hopeful that, with the support of the assemblymembers here today, that we can finally move this bill forward this year." Fellow Democratic State Assemblymembers Chris Burdick and Tom Abinanti joined Paulin at the press conference Thursday. New York's legislative session wraps on June 2. Safe Horizon has operated a network of New York City programs helping survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence, human trafficking, homelessness and more since 1978. The nonprofit says it responds to roughly 250,000 New Yorkers a year who have experienced violence or abuse. 51% is a national production of WAMC Northeast Public Radio. It's produced by Jesse King. Our executive producer is Dr. Alan Chartock, and our theme is "Lolita" by the Albany-based artist Girl Blue.
On this week's 51%, we speak with professors Shani Orgad and Rosalind Gill about their new book, Confidence Culture, examining the prominence of confidence and self-help discourse in modern-day marketing, workplaces, relationships — and well, everywhere else. We also discuss a bill in the New York legislature that would give adult survivors of sexual assault the opportunity to look back and sue their abusers. Guests: Dr. Shani Orgad and Dr. Rosalind Gill, authors of Confidence Culture 51% is a national production of WAMC Northeast Public Radio. It's produced by Jesse King. Our executive producer is Dr. Alan Chartock, and our theme is "Lolita" by the Albany-based artist Girl Blue. Follow Along You're listening to 51%, a WAMC production dedicated to women's issues and experiences. Thanks for tuning in, I'm Jesse King. Next week, we're kicking off a series on women in business, which personally I'm pretty excited for — but before we do that, I want to talk about confidence. Oftentimes, when we talk about women in business, there's a lot of focus on how women can better advocate for themselves and step up to the plate. We're supposed to lean in, push ourselves into new territory, break the glass ceiling. To paraphrase some advice Kim Kardashian recently got a lot of heat for — because I can't say the actual quote on the radio — we're supposed to get up and work. I feel that also applies to the way we look at ourselves in general, too. We're frequently told to love ourselves, work on ourselves, feel comfortable in the skin we're in — all great messages. But I have to be honest: it can be a lot of pressure, and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I look at other go-getters and I'm like, “Man, I wish I could be like that.” Sometimes I don't love the skin, or hair, or clothes that I'm in. It's a lot of work being confident. Our guests today have spent years looking into this phenomenon, which they call “confidence culture.” Dr. Shani Orgad is a professor of media and communications at the London School of Economics and Political Science, while Dr. Rosalind Gill teaches cultural and social analysis at the City University of London. Their new book — called Confidence Culture — interrogates the way we talk about confidence, and how, in some ways, self-help culture might hold us back. Why is confidence discourse so prevalent right now? Gill: Well, we talk about it in more depth in the book, and we kind of track it back through self-help literature and self-help culture and the expansion of that, and the way that that's kind of taken off on social media. But we also sort of track it in terms of the global financial crisis, the recession, austerity, the kinds of messages that were more and more individualistic and, at least, very noticeable in the UK – for women to be to be thrifty, to make do and mend, [to] work on themselves, to use what resources they have to kind of hustle, I guess, in culture, most broadly. But we also talk about how it's kind of related to the rise in visibility of feminism. From around sort of 2014, it's been documented that feminism has really become much more visible as a kind of popular movement, and as a discourse across media. And we very much feel that this visibility of feminism has kind of allowed a space for these discourses of confidence to flourish. But of course, it's a very specific kind of feminism. It's a very individualistic feminism, it's not a kind of collective, outward-facing, kind of “changing structures” kind of feminism. It's very much a sort of inward looking, working on yourself to improve your position, kind of an emphasis. How do you see confidence culture working? What are the different parts that come together to create this movement? Gill: I mean, one of the things that was really, really striking to us was that we were working across different areas – like very different areas: the workplace, advertising, you know, “love your body” imagery, sex and relationships. In academic fields, these are spread quite widely, yet, what we're encountering was the same messages, again and again. And it wasn't just that they were the same broad messages, it's actually the same words and phrases that were being used, repeatedly. You know, the sort of “Strike a pose,” “Feel comfortable in your own skin,” “Love yourself,” “Believe in yourself.” And it really felt as if this wasn't just something that was happening in individual areas. It was kind of more than the sum of the parts. Orgad: And so it works through discourse – but we also know that it's very, very important as a visual regime. And again, as Ros mentioned, often through very similar visual imagery. So we identified what we call the “confidence pose,” which is, you know, the kind of Wonder Woman pose where you stand with your feet wide apart, hands on your hips, and so on. And this has been popularized by people like American social psychologist Amy Cuddy, who gave her most popular TED talk about power poses, where she literally shows Wonder Woman as the exemplar of this pose. What we noted is that, visually, this is was a really important signifier of confidence – across advertisements, we looked across women's magazines, business journals, and reports. Again, in different domains and context, you will see the very same visual appearances that signified confidence. We also realized that it's not only discourse and not only kind of a visual regime, but confidence also, importantly, works through emotions, through the affective level. In other words, it's not just about telling women certain things and encouraging them to change the way they think, or the way they look, crucially, but also fundamentally the way they feel. We identified particular aspects, particular emotions that are very much associated with confidence: resilience, positive thinking, gratitude. But crucially, it's also about certain emotions that confidence is not aligned with. For instance, we found how the particular type of confidence that confidence culture encourages, which is very individualized and positive, also often comes and goes hand in hand with prohibiting anger, or prohibiting those feelings that are deemed supposedly “ugly” or “negative.” So don't be bitter, don't be angry – be confident. And finally, we identify the way that confidence culture works also through practices – through not just things that you say, or not just even things that you feel, but also literally through things that you do. So again, it's about how you write emails. In this context. Google launched their “Sorry, Not Sorry” plugin a few years ago, which was addressed, particularly to women, interestingly, not starting your email with, “I'm just writing to…,” “No worries if not,” all these kinds of edits that are particularly, again, addressed to women – because of this assumption that there is some kind of a deficit and this internal defect almost, or these self-inflicted wounds that we should somehow overcome. And partly, were encouraged to overcome through changing our practices, even through changing the way we breathe. We found a range of texts, to our astonishment, that are about how you should retrain, reeducate yourself, how to breathe, in order to become more assertive, to love yourself, and so on. So it's ubiquitous, and that's why we call it “culture,” across very distinct domains, but also across very different realms: the visual, the textual, the emotional, and also the lived practices that we are all kind of engaging in an everyday basis. Your book mentions the popularity of confidence workshops or classes for women in the workplace – which surprised me, I don't think that I have personally come across that yet. It kind of seems strange to me to have it company-sponsored. But can you tell me a little bit more about that? Orgad: Yeah. And I think that is partly what we try to bring through the book, this kind of strangeness to it. To pause, to question things that have become so normalized and accepted. I'm really glad for you that you haven't encountered it, we have encountered them ourselves. But also, since the book has been published, we've been receiving numerous emails and messages on social media from women, who say, “I was sent to one of these courses! Now I understand!” And evidently and importantly, beyond the anecdotal, these are also commercially viable programs that lots of workplaces are signing into. And, you know, sometimes they might not be explicitly called “confidence” – they are sometimes, for instance, under the guise of “leadership.” But then when you look at what they contain, they would be, often in very troublingly gendered ways, directed to encouraging women and trying to help women to build their confidence and so on. And I think it's important for us to say that we do recognize that these are often well-meaning programs, in the same way that we recognize that the body positivity movement and “love your body” messages are and may be well meaning – and indeed may help women, individual women, to feel better about themselves, or to negotiate a pay raise, or to be more assertive in a meeting at work. We don't want to dismiss this. But we are troubled by the way that these programs, confidence coaching and similar kind of programs, are very much individualizing both the problem and the responsibility for fixing the problem. Workplaces invest a lot of money in initiatives that ultimately individualize it to employees, and particularly to women employees, to find the problem, or their internal issues and psychological obstacles, as it were. There are programs, for instance – and these are women-only programs, so in workplaces that are mixed workplaces, women-only programs are designed to help only those women in the work through a range of techniques that they're being taught – it can include things like mindfulness and yoga, things that are to do with your physical kind of confidence, how you project confidence physically, through more kind of psychological work on yourself. Changing the ways you communicate, for instance, in written communication, and so on. One of the interesting things that we noticed during the pandemic is that we were both, like many other people, spending hours on Zoom. And one of the interesting things that flourished during the pandemic is “virtually confident” workshops, which were about teaching people – but again, especially women – how to project confidence on screen. It was found that women, much more than men, tend to touch themselves on screen, and so there were entire programs that Ros and I attended about making yourself aware and, again, how you use your voice and how you project confidence, how you occupy space on the screen, how you position yourself, what background you choose, and so on and so forth. So commercially, they're viable, and they're successful, which also suggests that it's something that there isn't just appetite for it, but a purchase to it. I don't know, if you want to add, Ros. Gill: I think I just wanted to add something about our own ambivalence. And it goes back to something that you said right at the start Jesse, about feeling that you receive a lot of these messages – and just to really, really kind of highlight that we are not critical of confidence messaging, and we're not critical of women who find that messaging productive, helpful in their lives or, you know, beneficial for them to feel better. We confess to having cried at our fair share of Dove adverts and to having kind of adopted many of the confidence practices – both on ourselves, having done these courses, but also trying to encourage our students. We always encourage them, “Take up more space in the room, be bold when speaking at a conference, don't write apologetically,” and everything. So just to really emphasize that our target isn't confidence itself, and it isn't the women that adopt those programs, but it's what the culture does, and the way that it's kind of been placed beyond debate. And it's almost become like a cult in the sense that it's kind of an article of faith that is unquestionable. What would you say are the side effects of the culture? What does it mask over, and what is the effect on those in it? Gill: I think the main things that it does are, first of all, it kind of places all the responsibility and all the blame on women themselves. So it treats it as if this is some kind of pathology, this is some kind of defect, it's some kind of internal deficit. It's something that women lack, and that they have to work on making up for. So it's very blaming as a discourse. There's an example in the book, The Confidence Code, which is, you know, a New York Times bestseller, a very celebrated book – but they talk about women scratching themselves, scratching themselves like babies do, and say that we need to put on the mittens so that we don't scratch ourselves. Which we found to be so troubling, because it's such a infantilizing metaphor. So there's that whole kind of element of blame that is really problematic. And then there's the flip side of that, of like, what's that doing when you kind of put all the responsibility for a lack of confidence, and for gender inequality, on women's shoulders. It's as if we're doing this to ourselves, we put ourselves in this position, rather than looking at the structures and institutions and barriers that actually are in place that are preventing women and other oppressed and marginalized groups from actually making progress. You mentioned earlier the kind of imagery you were noticing in the ads and campaigns you were studying. Did you notice a particular demographic or kind of women who were being targeted to be more confident, or who were most showcased and represented as “confident” in these ads? Gill: We've tried to be really, really attentive to differences across the entire book, and we hope that the book offers a really intersectional feminist analysis of what we're seeing. So we've looked across age, we've looked across race and ethnicity, we've looked across disability and sexuality. I think what we've really tried to problematize, and it comes out most visibly in relation to the advertising, is a kind of faux diversity, in a way, a sort of hollowing out of diversity. At first, we were kind of hopeful that this kind of advertising was going to actually open up space for many more different kinds of women to be shown, who aren't usually the kind of white, middle class, cisgender, able-bodied, women that dominate the visual habitat that we all live in. We did see more diversity, but then we immediately saw that being somehow undercut or undermined with a kind of “one size fits all.” So this sort of sense that, “Well, whatever the problem, whoever the group, there's just one solution” – and it's to be more confident, confidence training programs, something like that. So it's a kind of double-move of recognizing diversity, only to then kind of say, “Well, it doesn't matter.” So what do we do? I mean, how can we help women feel more confident without making them feel like there's pressure on them? Or that there's something wrong with them? Orgad: Yeah, I think it's a really good question. And I would really just reiterate what was said earlier, that we are not against confidence, and we want women to thrive and feel safer and happier and more confident. But we feel really strongly that, at the same time, we need (and by we, we mean not just with women, but crucially as a society) to really think critically about how not just to invest in demanding and encouraging and exhorting women to be more confident and fix the problem as it were themselves, but to think and nourish structural thinking. And so we ended the book, in our conclusion, we call it “Beyond Confidence.” And we're trying to look at examples that perhaps are not entirely outside confidence or against confidence –because again, we are not ourselves against confidence – but that do introduce those things that, as you mentioned before, Jesse, that confidence culture masks and perhaps minimizes or marginalizes. And we talked about what we call “confidence climate” – how can we think about nurturing and building a climate that enables and allows women and everybody and other disempowered groups to feel safer and feel more confident, rather than putting again the onus on individuals to do that work? In this context we bring Lizzo as an interesting example, because she's kind of the self-confidence queen, but at the same time, Lizzo is a really interesting kind of person and persona to think through about what we can do differently. Because she foregrounds, for instance, interdependence, she foregrounds the ways in which she herself, to become confident, is dependent on her family, on her network of friends, on the community who travels with her on her tour. So one way, for instance, that we would want to think about building a climate of confidence is a climate that encourages our dependence on each other, and doesn't deem being dependent on somebody abhorrent or ugly or undesirable. The [current] confidence culture is not about needing help from anybody else, it's about you caring for yourself, because nobody else will. So these are kind of ways that we feel that should come, and we would hope would come, alongside the more kind of individual work that perhaps women can do, or do do – and we would have liked to see workplaces investing more in structural changes that create places and workplaces that are confident workplaces, where employees can thrive as confident beings, rather than sending them on these courses that keep telling them the problem is you, you fix it. Drs. Shani Orgad and Rosalind Gill are the authors of Confidence Culture, out now on Duke University Press. Shani and Rosalind, thanks so much for taking the time. We're gonna switch gears before we head out to recognize Sexual Assault Awareness Month - and a warning to those who may be sensitive to the subject. On Thursday, New York state lawmakers joined survivors in Westchester County to call attention to a bill that would give some adult survivors the opportunity to sue their abusers in court. The Adult Survivors Act is similar to the Child Victims Act passed by the legislature in 2019, which gave survivors of childhood sexual abuse a one-year lookback window to sue their abusers, in some cases long after the state's statute of limitations expired. The one-year window was ultimately extended another year due to the coronavirus pandemic. This time, the Adult Survivors Act would open up that opportunity to those who were 18 years or older at the time of their abuse. The bill was passed by the State Senate last year, but it has so far stalled in the Assembly. It was a blustery Thursday in New York's Hudson Valley, but advocates with the victims assistance nonprofit Safe Horizon still gathered outside the Westchester County Court in White Plains to push for the bill's passage. State Senator Shelly Mayer, a Democrat from the 37th District, is a co-sponsor of the bill. "This is so basic to our system of laws. We're not talking about criminal penalties here, we're talking about the opportunity to confront your accuser and make a civil claim for damages," says Mayer. "And that is what our systems of laws is based on. The equality of opportunity to assert your claim." Safe Horizon Vice President of Government Affairs Michael Polenberg says more than 10,000 lawsuits were filed as a result of the Child Victims Act by the time its lookback window closed last August. Four of the state's eight Roman Catholic dioceses filed for bankruptcy, as did the Boy Scouts of America, at least partly due to a large number of lawsuits regarding sexual abuse. In 2019, lawmakers also expanded the civil and criminal statute of limitations for several felony sex offenses in the state. The criminal statute of limitations for second and third-degree rape increased from five years to 20 and 10 years, respectively, and Polenburg says the civil statute now stands at 20 years for both — but he notes those changes were made proactively, not retroactively. "Meaning certain survivors who were abused before 2019 still only have a few years to file a civil lawsuit," he adds. Polenberg says that, as child victims have been given the chance to look back, so should adults. For many survivors, coming to terms with what they went through can take years, even decades. Donna Hylton, activist and author of the memoir, A Little Piece of Light, says she's been surviving trauma and sexual abuse for the majority of her life – something she didn't really come to terms with until after her incarceration at age 20. Hylton says she was incarcerated for 27 years, and that people often misunderstand the sheer number of adult survivors in state prisons alone. “That 85 percent that we've been told for so long, of women, young women, and gender-expansive people that are in the system, that have been abused, is wrong. It's more like 97 percent. Closer to 98 percent. Why? Because people still don't talk. Why? Because people still don't listen," says Hylton. Assemblymember Amy Paulin, a Democrat from the 88th District, says she became a survivor at age 14, and it took years for her to say it out loud. “I buried it, it was something I was embarrassed about, it was something that I never told anyone about — and I don't know that that would have been different if I was four years older," says Paulin. "If you're 17, you're a minor, you're 18 and all of sudden you're not. And I don't know what shifts or changes in a young woman's mind…not that much. So we have not addressed the remedies for so many young women who likely have not or did not even come to grips with their own sexual assault. So this is a very important bill.” “For many years, it was the State Assembly that moved the Child Victims Act forward. We're now in the situation where it's the Senate who's moving on the Adult Survivors Act — they passed it last year unanimously, everyone voted in support. This year, the bill has already moved through the Judiciary Committee and the Finance Committee, and it's now heading to the floor, and it's the Assembly where the bill seems to be stuck," adds Polenberg. "So we're hopeful that, with the support of the assemblymembers here today, that we can finally move this bill forward this year." Fellow Democratic State Assemblymembers Chris Burdick and Tom Abinanti joined Paulin at the press conference Thursday. New York's legislative session wraps on June 2. Safe Horizon has operated a network of New York City programs helping survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence, human trafficking, homelessness and more since 1978. The nonprofit says it responds to roughly 250,000 New Yorkers a year who have experienced violence or abuse. 51% is a national production of WAMC Northeast Public Radio. It's produced by Jesse King. Our executive producer is Dr. Alan Chartock, and our theme is "Lolita" by the Albany-based artist Girl Blue.
Leah and Deveter are back and better than ever. Check out this latest episode of Let's Chat as they talk about Teen Domestic Violence with guest Marq Brown!Teen dating violence is common. Data from CDC's Youth Risk Behavior Survey and the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey indicate that:Nearly 1 in 11 female and approximately 1 in 14 male high school students report having experienced physical dating violence in the last year.About 1 in 8 female and 1 in 26 male high school students report having experienced sexual dating violence in the last year.26% of women and 15% of men who were victims of contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime first experienced these or other forms of violence by that partner before age 18.If you or someone you know is dealing with DV there is help please reach out to Safe Horizon 1-800-612-HOPE (4673)Tune in next week for the continuation of this conversation.
It's yet another bonus episode with Chamar and Andrew. Thank you so much to Marvel Dice Throne for supporting today's episode. Please use the following link to check out their Kickstarter, support the campaign, and https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/dicethrone/marvel-dice-throne?ref=e4adag (reserve your copy)! In this episode, we provide a character profile on Wonder Woman. We're discussing her journey, her impact, and her mission. Yet Another DC Animated Podcast of Forgotten Entertainment is celebrating the 80th anniversary of Wonder Woman. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month and Wonder Woman's embodiment of strength, resilience and courage, we are fundraising in support of Safe Horizon's work empowering survivors through their healing. https://secure.givelively.org/donate/safe-horizon-inc/yet-another-dc-animated-podcast-wonder-woman-day-1941 (Make a gift on our page to directly support Safe Horizon) and to honor a mission that ties to the values that Wonder Woman has had since 1941. Join us as we stand in solidarity with domestic violence survivors. Be a Champion. #SafetyIsEssential #DVAM
TW: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS CONTENT ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND SEXUAL ABUSE She's BAAAACKKKKK!!!! Before Shawn gets into the episode, she get's into her life update -- she's talking how her trip to Syracuse was and some instagram tea. In light of recent events with Gabby Petito, Shawn discusses some of the warning signs of an abusive relationship. Safe Horizon has a 24 hour hotline if you feel you or a loved one needs help. Call 1-800-621-4673. Shawn is joined on this week's episode by Lilly Sparks, who is the founder and CEO of Afterglow, a porn and sexual wellness company. They talk all things porn-- how a porn video comes to life, ethical porn, and why it is important to pay for your porn. Lilly talks about the biggest misconceptions about porn and porn performers. The two dive into the most searched porn categories… some of the results may surprise you! For a 14 day free trial, use code: pleasure21 Email Shawn at toughtittiespod@gmail.com Follow on Instagram: @itsyourgirlshawn @thetoughtittiespodcast @xoafterglow Follow on Twitter: @toughtittiespod @xoafterglow Follow on Tik Tok: @shawn_jacobson https://linktr.ee/toughtitties https://xoafterglow.com
DJ Uch helps working professionals overcome their lack of knowledge about stocks and bitcoin by teaching them in simple, easy to understand lessons. He's the author of "10 Ways For You To Win the Stock Market", a book that makes being in the financial markets easy to understand. DJ Uch has been featured in the NY Post, Shortlist Dubai, and BBC Radio 1. Join us on this podcast to explore the mindset behind going from "broke to Benz". DJ Uch teaches others how to have liberty within their life. It was not an easy journey for DJ Uch and he tells us what it takes to go create the ability to have liberty to do what you want and when you want to. Visit DJ Uch on his Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/djuch/Grab your "10 Ways For You To Win the Stock Market"https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08WZFGF83%0Ahttps://kdp.amazon.com/en_US/bookshelf?ref_=kdp_kdp_TAC_TN_bsWork and Learn with DJ Uch:https://form.jotform.com/210175851114144Donate to Safe Horizon:https://www.gofundme.com/f/dj-uch-one-man-race-for-charity?utm_source=customer&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_campaign=p_cf+share-flow-1
The Wicked Ones Podcast Hosts…Jen & Tara discuss the murder of Connie Navarro and sadly, once again, find themselves talking about a domestic violence homicide.Connie was a gorgeous, blonde haired beauty who modeled occasionally and worked on a few of the game shows we remember watching as kids who grew up in the 80's.Dave Navarro, who is well known as the guitarist for Jane's Addiction, among many other creative undertakings, is Connie's son. Dave was only 15 when his mother was murdered and in a documentary he created in 2015, he talks about how losing her shaped every decision he ever made growing up…both good and bad. When we say bad…we're talking about a pretty dark spiral into a world of drugs & depression. He's very clear, however, that he does NOT blame his addiction on her murder, but rather, it gave him an excuse to continue down that dangerous road.It was Dave's hope that by telling his story from the point of view of a child who was left behind as a victim of domestic violence, he could bring about a different kind of awareness in this unique way. Statistics show that approximately 3 women A DAY are killed in domestic violence homicides, BUT we rarely hear from the point of view of the children who's lives continue to be deeply impacted by their great loss.We're big fans of Dave and his advocacy work on domestic violence only makes us love him more. He shared the story of his Mother's murder and it's personal impact on his life as a cautionary tale to help people recognize the signs of domestic violence before things escalate.Here at The Wicked Ones Podcast, we're hoping to do the same.________Join the Movement & Take a Stand Against DV: #putanailinitFrom their Website: One Small Statement Makes a Big DifferenceThe idea is simple: by painting your ring fingernail purple, you are showing the world your vow to help spread awareness of domestic violence and displaying your support for Safe Horizon, the country's largest organization helping victims of domestic violence get the crucial help they need in their darkest moments.
We did it live and we did it big for Safe Horizon, raising over $1K for the nation's largest victim services organization. For those who missed it, peep our very first live recording, featuring a comedy panel with Ariel Leaty, Minnie Scarlet, Rosa Escandon and Sarah Garner, music from Lexi Todd, an expert interview with Safe Horizon's Shanequa Holiday and the ridiculousness of your two favorite co-hosts. Plus, a birthday, some vibrators and a couple surprises. This episode was originally recorded on Friday, January 31, 2020 at Caveat in NYC. - - - - - - - - - - A podcast about domestic violence, dating, sex and sisterhood hosted by comedians and survivors Onika McLean (@divaofcomedy) and Brittany Brave (@brittanybrave.) Don't punch back-- punch up. New episodes every Tuesday! - - - - - - - - - - If you or someone you know is in a dangerous situation and you suspect there is abuse, please contact 9-1-1 or call 1-800-799-7233. - - - - - - - - - - Feel free to contact violentlyfunnypodcast@gmail.com or DM Onika (@divaofcomedy) or Britt (@brittanybrave) if you need help or have a story to share. We're open to our listeners 24/7.
Week 3, Onika and Britt are back on their bullshit! The pair welcome the incredible Lexi Todd to talk healing through art and introduce listeners to their future husbands Chad and Harold (a wild tale of white boys.) Everything Lexi does oozes authenticity and empowerment. In 2018, Lexi dropped MARIA, IMMURED. The EP chronicles abuse from the sidelines, but helped Lexi identify where it was in her life, too. As an extra treat, we're giving listeners a sneak peek to Lexi's new single "Window Shopping" out 10/30. Follow Lexi on social media: @lexitoddmusic! - - - - - - - - - - VIOLENTLY FUNNY (@violentlyfunnypodcast) is a podcast about domestic violence, dating, sex, sisterhood hosted by comedians and survivors Onika McLean (@divaofcomedy) and Brittany Brave (@brittanybrave.) Don't punch back--punch up. New episodes every Tuesday! - - - - - - - - - - RESOURCES: If you or someone you know is in dangerous situation and you suspect there is abuse, please contact 9-1-1 or call 1-800-799-7233. More info: www.thehotline.org If you're local to NYC, you can also contact Safe Horizon at 1-800-621-HOPE (4673). More info: www.safehorizon.org - - - - - - - - - - You can also feel free to reach out to Onika and Brittany at violentlyfunnypodcast@gmail.com or send us a DM on Instagram (@violentlyfunnypodcast.) We'll always keep both your stories and identity private. Our doors are open 24/7.
Onika and Brittany recap their summer, address the #10dicks rumor and welcome Yolanda Lawrence to talk about protecting your power. Yolanda is not only a domestic violence advocate, but an entrepreneur, who founded Ladies at Lunch 13 years ago. Yolanda's goal is to create an environment where women can bond over cocktails and important conversation. You can catch Onika and Brittany at the next installment in NYC on Monday, 10/21! - - - - - - - - - - ABOUT VIOLENTLY FUNNY: VIOLENTLY FUNNY (@violentlyfunnypodcast) is a podcast about domestic violence, dating, sex, sisterhood hosted by comedians and survivors Onika McLean (@divaofcomedy) and Brittany Brave (@brittanybrave.) Don't punch back--punch up. New episodes every Tuesday! - - - - - - - - - - RESOURCES: If you or someone you know is in dangerous situation and you suspect there is abuse, please contact 9-1-1 or call 1-800-799-7233. More info: www.thehotline.org If you're local to NYC, you can also contact Safe Horizon at 1-800-621-HOPE (4673). More info: www.safehorizon.org - - - - - - - - - - You can also feel free to reach out to Onika and Brittany at violentlyfunnypodcast@gmail.com or send us a DM on Instagram (@violentlyfunnypodcast.) We'll always keep both your stories and identity private. Our doors are open 24/7.
A podcast about domestic violence, dating, sex, sisterhood hosted by comedians and survivors Onika McLean (@divaofcomedy) and Brittany Brave (@brittanybrave.) Don't punch back, punch up. Follow on social media (@violentlyfunnypodcast.) - - - - - - - - - - RESOURCES: If you or someone you know is in dangerous situation and you suspect there is abuse, please contact 9-1-1 or call 1-800-799-7233. More info: www.thehotline.org If you're local to NYC, you can also contact Safe Horizon at 1-800-621-HOPE (4673). More info: www.safehorizon.org You can also feel free to reach out to Onika and Brittany at violentlyfunnypodcast@gmail.com or send us a DM on Instagram (@violentlyfunnypodcast.) We'll always keep both your stories and identity private. Our doors are open 24/7.
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