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A podcast where young people can find information about emotional regulation that will change their lives. This podcast will help teens to be more emotionally intelligent and help them to be the best individuals they can be.

Better Regulate Than Never


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    E 247 How Overachieving Teens Hide Anxiety

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2025 43:30 Transcription Available


    E 246 Why Your Community Needs Youth Voices At Decision Making Tables

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2025 27:38 Transcription Available


    Send us a text What if we celebrated teens the same way we celebrate celebrities? ✨In this inspiring episode of The Teen Anxiety Maze, I talk with Orlana Darkins Drewery, founder of The Shyne Awards, a red-carpet ceremony that honors young people (ages 13–24) doing incredible things in academics, arts, community service, and more.We discuss:

    E 245 How To Create Inner Peace Now

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2025 26:29


    Send us a textIn this powerful episode, I sit down with Sid McNairy — bestselling author, spiritual coach, and 2024 World Peace Award recipient — to explore how we can transform anxiety, fear, and inner chaos into peace, clarity, and purpose.Sid shares his journey from football coach to global peace leader and breaks down “The Practice,” a life-changing framework anyone can use to raise their frequency, create inner harmony, and live with intention.

    Bonus Graduation Episode

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2025 23:35 Transcription Available


    Send us a textI gave a Baccalaureate speech this year to my hometown high school, and I wanted you to hear my message as well!Please share it with anyone that could use a hopeful message for the future!!I am sending much love to all graduates and their families! Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 244 Why Your Teen Is Not Listening and What Actually Works

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2025 27:48 Transcription Available


    Send us a textIs your teen constantly overwhelmed, anxious, or shutting down? In this episode, we explore practical, research-backed ways to help them regain calm and confidence, without forcing or fixing.Join me, Cynthia Coufal, teen anxiety coach, as I sit down with Dr. Matthew Berstein, psychologist, educator, and mindfulness expert, for a refreshing conversation about how anxiety shows up in teens and what actually helps.You'll learn:Why typical adult responses can backfire with anxious teensHow mindfulness can be accessible and effective—even for skeptical teensWhat self-awareness looks like in real life (not just theory)Simple ways you can support your teen without increasing tensionWhether you're a parent, educator, or coach, this episode is packed with takeaways you can use today.

    E 243 Top Mistakes Parents Make Before Sending Teens to College

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 33:58 Transcription Available


    Send us a textIs your anxious teen really ready for college? In this episode of The Teen Anxiety Maze, I'm joined by college success coach Alexandra Holt, founder of Campus Thrive Coaching, to tackle one of the most common and stressful questions parents face: What if my child isn't ready for college?We talk about: ✅ How anxiety impacts college readiness✅ What skills your teen needs before they leave home✅ How parents can start building independence now✅ When to consider a gap year or alternative paths✅ Navigating accommodations and mental health services in collegeWhether your teen is preparing for college or still unsure about their path, this conversation is packed with practical advice, encouragement, and next steps to help them move forward with confidence.

    E 242 How to Help Your Child Overcome Math Anxiety and Build Confidence

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 19:58 Transcription Available


    Send us a text Is your child struggling with math anxiety? Avoiding homework, saying “I'm not a math person,” or feeling frustrated by numbers?In this episode, I talk with Mina Neuberg, CEO of Wonder Math, the only math program designed to build confidence and reduce anxiety through storytelling, adventure, and a growth mindset.You'll learn: ✅ Why math anxiety affects nearly 60% of students✅ How Wonder Math makes math fun, engaging, and stress-free✅ The link between math confidence and future success✅ How to support your child emotionally and academically

    E 241 Why Hope Is the Missing Link in Helping Kids with Anxiety

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 28:24 Transcription Available


    Send us a text Is your teen's anxiety just normal stress — or something more? In this powerful episode, we unpack the science of hope and how it can be a game-changer for kids struggling with anxiety.I'm joined by Sara Stockwell, a longtime educator, school psychologist, and mental health advocate who brings deep insight and personal experience to the conversation. We talk about:✅ The real difference between normal anxiety and a deeper issue✅ How to help kids who are paralyzed by fear and panic✅ Why hope is more than wishful thinking — it's a science-backed strategy✅ Tools for parents, educators, and anyone who supports youth✅ What to do if your child refuses therapy or won't open upSara shares her own story of growing up with OCD and panic attacks — and how she's now helping families and schools support kids through anxiety, trauma, and stress with practical, proven methods.

    E 240 Empty Nest Begins in High School

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 30:31 Transcription Available


    Send us a text Jodi Silverman, empty nest coach, reveals how the journey of letting go starts when teens gain independence - not when they leave home. Learn to shift from "fixer" to "coach," empowering both yourself and your teen while reducing parental anxiety.Discover practical strategies for:Reclaiming your identity while parenting teensHelping teens build confidence through supported failureFinding balance between motherhood and self-fulfillmentTaking small "dares" to rediscover your passionsConnect with Jodi:WebsiteFacebookEmail: jodi@momswhodare.com#EmptyNest #ParentingTeens #MotherhoodJourney #SelfDiscovery  Struggling with anxiety in your family? If anxiety is causing tension, fights, or disconnect in your home, you don't have to face it alone. I help parents bring more peace, confidence, and connection to their families. Let's talk—schedule a free consultation today or email me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.com Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 239 Parenting Adopted and Foster Kids While Managing Anxiety and Trauma

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 34:22 Transcription Available


    Send us a text Are you a foster or adoptive parent struggling to support your child through anxiety and trauma? In this episode, I sit down with Bonnie Butler, a certified life coach and mother of ten—six of whom she adopted after fostering them. Bonnie shares her powerful journey, the challenges of parenting children who have experienced trauma, and practical strategies for helping kids navigate anxiety.

    E 238 Building Teen Confidence with Powerlifting

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 22:59 Transcription Available


    Send us a text How Strength Training Helps Teens Manage Anxiety and Build ConfidenceAnxiety and stress are on the rise for teens, but what if there was a powerful, science-backed way to help? In this episode, I talk with Jensi Shaw, founder of Vessel Initiative, LLC, about how resistance training and movement can transform mental health.Jensi shares her personal journey—from believing she wasn't an athlete to discovering how strength training helped her heal from grief and build confidence. Now, she's on a mission to help teens harness the power of movement to develop resilience, manage anxiety, and step into leadership.

    E 237 The iPhone 16 Mind Trapped In iPhone 4 Programming

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 24:46 Transcription Available


    Send us a text In this episode of Teen Anxiety Maze, I welcome the extraordinary Dr. Tara Perry, a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Doctor of Chinese Medicine whose approach to anxiety has transformed celebrities, Olympians, and thousands of everyday people struggling with invisible burdens.Have you ever wondered why your teen's anxiety persists despite their best efforts? Dr. Perry reveals the profound truth: we're often operating on outdated internal programming installed between ages 2-10, carrying invisible 100-pound backpacks of emotional weight we don't even realize we're bearing.This conversation unveils the magnificent power of your subconscious mind - processing an astounding 40 MILLION bits of information per second compared to just 40 bits consciously. Dr. Perry shares breathtaking stories of transformation, including her 89-year-old mother healing a shattered kneecap through subconscious work, and a military veteran finding peace after years of maximum-level PTSD.What touched me deeply was realizing how we unknowingly pass anxiety through generations, modeling for our children what we learned from our parents. But here's the beautiful truth - this cycle can be broken, often more quickly than you'd imagine.Dr. Perry offers practical wisdom for immediate implementation:The "puppy dog" approach to retraining your nervous systemWhy celebrating small wins rewires your brain for successHow diet, breath work, and connection create the foundation for lasting changeThis episode isn't just information—it's an invitation to transformation for both you and your teen. As Dr. Perry says, "I feel like I get paid to let people out of prison, and that thrills me."Connect with Dr. TaraInstagramFacebookLinkedInFree meditation gift: Go to the bottom of Dr. Tara Perry's website Home Page#TeenAnxiety #SubconsciousHealing #ParentingSupport #MentalWellness #AnxietyRelief  Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 236 The Mindset Shift That Can Break Your Teen's Negativity Cycle

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 23:37 Transcription Available


    Send us a textThe Mindset Shift That Can Break Your Teen's Negativity CycleStruggling with a teen who's trapped in negativity? In this episode, discover powerful mindset tools to help both you and your teen break free from negative thinking patterns. Learn the crucial difference between fixed and growth mindsets, and how simple shifts in language and perspective can transform your teen's approach to challenges.I share practical strategies you can implement today, including:How to model positive mindset techniques for your teenThe power of adding "yet" to limiting beliefsWays to reframe setbacks as opportunities for growthSimple daily practices like gratitude journaling and celebrating small winsWhether your teen seems resistant to everything you say or you're caught in your own negativity cycle, these evidence-based techniques can help create lasting change. Learn how mindset work is fundamental to anxiety management and how these shifts can improve communication and resilience for the whole family.Subscribe for more strategies to help teens and parents thrive through life's challenges!  Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 234 The Hidden Danger of Overprotecting Your Anxious Child

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2025 14:14 Transcription Available


    Send us a text As parents, our instinct is to shield our kids from discomfort—but what if removing challenges is actually increasing their anxiety? In this episode, I dive into a powerful story from The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt that perfectly illustrates why kids need struggle to grow stronger.I share the surprising science behind resilience, the dangers of overprotection, and practical ways to help your child develop the confidence and skills they need to face life's challenges. Plus, I'll give you actionable steps to start fostering independence in your child today—no matter their age!What You'll Learn in This Episode:✅ How overprotecting kids leads to increased anxiety✅ The science behind stress wood and what trees teach us about resilience✅ Practical ways to introduce healthy challenges to your child's life✅ How to help your child develop problem-solving skills and independence✅ Small, everyday actions that build emotional strength and confidenceResources & Links:

    E 233 Is Your Child's Diet Making Their Anxiety Worse? Here's the Truth

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 28:41 Transcription Available


    Send us a textStruggling with Teen Anxiety? Discover Detective Ev's Functional Medicine SecretsIs your teen battling anxiety? You're not alone. In this episode, we talk with Evan Transue, aka Detective Ev, who's helped over 50,000 students overcome anxiety and thrive.Here's what you'll discover:Evan's incredible story of healing himself & others using functional medicineActionable tips to help your teen manage stress & improve their mental wellnessThe surprising link between sleep deprivation & teen anxietyWhy nutrition & gut health are crucial for mental clarityHow environmental factors impact our kids' mental healthMy audience gets a free course with 5 screening tests.Free CourseAbout Evan Transue:Host of the Health Detective PodcastOwner of Bucks County Light Therapy & Functional Medicine CenterFunctional Diagnostic NutritionistResources:PodcastFunctional Medicine CenterBookBucks County Life TherapyDon't let anxiety control your teen's life. Tune in for practical solutions and real hope! Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    Special Bonus-Supporting a Loved One with a Terminal Illness: What to Do (and What Not to Do)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 30:50 Transcription Available


    Send us a textFinding Purpose in Grief: A Conversation with Amy Shaw | Teen Anxiety Maze PodcastIn this powerful episode of Teen Anxiety Maze, I speak with Amy Shaw, a mother of ten who transformed her grief into purpose after her husband's terminal diagnosis. Amy shares her remarkable journey of raising four biological and six adopted children, navigating profound loss, and ultimately creating the "Walk the Red" program to help others face terminal illness with dignity and meaning.Amy opens up about the stillbirth of her child at 39 weeks, facing her husband's terminal brain cancer diagnosis while raising children ages 3-18, and how these experiences shaped her approach to grief. Rather than becoming bitter, she chose growth and created practical resources for others going through similar situations.Key moments in this episode:00:45 Amy's journey to mothering ten children, including international adoptions05:20 The profound impact of early losses and her decision to not let grief define her10:35 How her family approached her husband's terminal diagnosis14:50 Creating the "Navigating Goodbye" guide for those blindsided by terminal illness19:30 How teenagers vs. young children process grief differently23:15 The powerful mindset shift that helped her family "cheer on" her husbandWhether you're a parent, educator, or someone facing loss, Amy's perspective on how we can all "walk the red carpet" of life offers profound wisdom on making the most of every moment we have.

    E 232 Break Free from Procrastination: Get Moving Today!

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2025 23:05


    E 231 Parenting an Anxious Teen? Here's What Works

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 26:14 Transcription Available


    Send us a textParenting an Anxious Teen: What You Need to KnowIs your teen struggling with anxiety? Do you feel unsure about how to help them without making things worse? In this episode of The Teen Anxiety Maze, I'll break down what every parent needs to know about supporting an anxious teen—without overstepping or adding more stress.You'll learn:✅ The key signs of anxiety in teens (and what they really mean)✅ How to respond in a way that helps, not hurts✅ The #1 mistake parents make when trying to "fix" anxiety✅ Simple, effective strategies to help your teen build resilienceParenting an anxious teen is challenging, but you don't have to navigate it alone. Watch now to gain the tools and confidence to support your teen's mental health.Follow Duygu Balan:Website:  https://www.duygubalan.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/duygubalanFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/duygu.balan.5LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/duygubalan/

    Bonus Episode: Prepare Your Teen for an AI-Driven World with These Essential Skills

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2025 35:32 Transcription Available


    E 230 Leaving the Nest: How to Face the Anxiety of Life After High School

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 22:23 Transcription Available


    Send us a textTransitioning from high school into adulthood—whether it's college, the workforce, or the military—can be overwhelming for teens and their families. In this episode, we tackle the anxiety that comes with these life-changing moments and provide practical strategies to move forward with confidence and resilience.

    E 229 Breaking the Binge: Rewire Your Brain and Overcome Emotional Eating

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2025 20:52 Transcription Available


    Send us a textDo you find yourself stuck in a cycle of emotional or binge eating? You're not alone. In this episode, we uncover how anxiety, habits, and emotions fuel eating struggles—and, more importantly, how you can take control. Learn powerful strategies to rewire your brain, regain confidence, and shift from chaotic eating to mindful, empowered choices.

    E 228 Stop Waiting to Succeed: Your 5-Step Future Self Action Plan

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2025 26:10 Transcription Available


    E 227 Helping Teens Cope with Grief: Practical Strategies and Tips

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2025 32:37 Transcription Available


    Send us a textFormer School Counselor & Teen Anxiety Expert Cynthia Coufal explores teen grief with author Clarissa Moll, who lost her husband in a hiking accident and co-wrote "Hurt, Help, Hope" with her grieving teenage daughter. Learn why euphemisms hurt more than help, what grieving teens actually want from friends and family, and how to prepare children for discussions about death. Moll shares research showing 50% of teen grief support drops after 3 months and offers practical ways to maintain meaningful connections with grieving students.Key Topics:0:00 Introduction2:15 Clarissa's personal loss4:30 How to talk honestly about death with kids8:45 Why teens need normal treatment while grieving12:20 Supporting grieving students in school15:40 Preparing for grief at milestones18:55 Building grief companionshipResources mentioned:Beyond the Darkness: A Gentle Guide for Living with GriefHurt, Help, Hope: A Real Conversation About Teen GriefChristianity Today's Surprised by Grief podcastClarissa's Website Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 225 The 5 Levels of Parenting: Discover Where You Stand and How to Improve

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 31, 2024 27:01 Transcription Available


    Send us a textIn this episode, I sit down with parent coach Mary Kay Garrett, whose mission is to help parents create meaningful, lasting connections with their teens. If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of guilt, frustration, or control as a parent, this conversation will inspire you to make a change.Mary shares her personal transformation story and reveals practical strategies to help parents:Understand how their mindset impacts their teen's reality.Navigate the 5 levels of parenting to become an empowered parent.Handle conflict with compassion and build trust in their relationships.She also introduces her free resource, Empowering Conversations: 10 Powerful Scripts to Connect with Your Teen, a must-have tool for creating deeper, more impactful relationships.

    E 224 Why Coaching Could Be Your Teen's Turning Point

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2024 26:40 Transcription Available


    E223 Cracking the Teen Code: Tools Every Parent Needs Today

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 17, 2024 34:08 Transcription Available


    Send us a textJoin host Cynthia Coufal and expert Isla Reddin as they dive deep into the science of teen brain development and transform how parents understand and connect with their teenagers.Key Insights:Why teenage behavior isn't about rebellionHow brain development continues until age 25Strategies for building stronger parent-teen relationshipsNavigating social media and independence challengesIsla Reddin, founder of Crack the Teen Code, shares her expertise from 18 years of working with young people and studying psychology, brain development, and communication theory.

    Bonus Episode: Unlock Debt-Free College Strategies Today!

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2024 41:22 Transcription Available


    E 222 Stress-Proofing the Holidays: A Teen's Survival Guide

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2024 19:49 Transcription Available


    Bonus Episode How Teens Really Date: Secrets from a 16-Year-Old Insider

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2024 26:47 Transcription Available


    Send us a textI just had an eye-opening conversation with Elle Kristine, a 16-year-old TikTok influencer who's on a mission to help teens navigate the wildly complex world of dating in the social media era. And trust me, it's nothing like dating was when we were teenagers.Here are the critical takeaways that every parent and teen should understand:Dating Today is Completely Different75% of teens text their romantic partner DAILYSocial media has transformed dating into a minefield of "talking stages" and "situationships" Snapchat is now the primary dating platform (and it was literally designed for sexting)The Biggest Red Flags:Teens are experiencing unprecedented social isolationMany young men are avoiding in-person dating entirelyNude photo requests have become a disturbing "social status" issueMost Shocking Statistic: 45% of men ages 18-25 have NEVER asked someone out in person, while 70% of women want to be asked out more.The Good News: ​Elle has created an app called "Ask Elle​" specifically to help teens get safe, vetted dating advice. It's not just for teens - parents can use it to understand modern dating terminology and dynamics.https://apps.apple.com/us/app/askelle-ai/id6471620444Her #1 Recommendation for Parents: Don't completely ban social media. Instead, have open conversations and create a monitoring approach that helps teens develop their own moral compass.P.S. ​Download the AskElle app​. It could be an essential tool for understanding teen dating in 2024.https://apps.apple.com/us/app/askelle-ai/id6471620444 Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 221 When Thoughts Attack: Understanding OCD's Real Impact on Daily Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 3, 2024 31:32 Transcription Available


    Send us a textI just had an eye-opening conversation with OCD specialist Amanda Petrik-Gardner that I can't wait to share with you.Most of us think we understand OCD – neat freaks who love cleaning, right? WRONG. Amanda completely shattered those myths and revealed how complex and misunderstood this disorder really is.

    E 220 Tackle Test Anxiety: Prepare, Calm Down, and Conquer Your Exams

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2024 23:01 Transcription Available


    Send us a textWith finals approaching, I know many of you (or your teens) are feeling the weight of test anxiety. Whether it's high school finals, AP exams, the ACT/SAT, or even career-defining certifications, the pressure is real. But here's the truth: it's not the test itself that causes anxiety—it's your thoughts about the test.This week on The Teen Anxiety Maze, we're tackling test anxiety head-on:1️⃣ What is test anxiety?2️⃣ Why do we experience it?3️⃣ How can you break free from its grip?You'll walk away with practical tips to prepare for exams, manage your thoughts, and keep your body calm and focused when it matters most. Plus, I've included a special free bonus:

    E 219 The "Soft Skills" Myth: Why Emotional Intelligence is the Key to Success

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2024 31:07 Transcription Available


    Send us a text Hey everyone,Get ready for an inspiring episode of the podcast! I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with my good friend and former colleague, Damon Parker.  Damon and I worked together for years as educators, and I was so excited to reconnect with him and hear about his incredible journey since then. Now, if you're thinking, "Another podcast episode about education?", think again! This conversation went far beyond the classroom. We talked about Damon's transition from teaching to becoming a mental health advocate, a sought-after speaker, and even a championship-winning wrestling coach!  Talk about wearing many hats!Damon's work with teens and mental health is particularly close to my heart. He shared some powerful insights on how he helps young people navigate the challenges they face today, including the importance of:Shifting focus from outcomes to relationships and being present. This resonated so much with me, as it aligns with my own approach to counseling.Investing in relationship building with people outside of their usual social circles. This is something I think we could all benefit from! Learning conflict resolution skills and understanding that healthy coexistence doesn't require loving everyone. This is such a crucial skill for young people (and adults too!). Damon also shared how he applies these principles to coaching, which has led to remarkable success for his wrestling team. We also had a candid discussion about the pressures facing teens today, from the overwhelming demands of academics and extracurriculars to the constant presence of technology.I know you'll find Damon's story and his practical advice as inspiring and thought-provoking as I did. I highly encourage you to listen to the full episode for all the gems he shared.Don't forget to check below for more information about Damon's work, including his free mental health talks for schools in Kansas and surrounding states, as well as his professional speaking engagements for businesses and corporations across the US. I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this powerful episode!More about my guest, Damon Parker:Damon Parker has forged a unique career path as a professional speaker, nonprofit leader, and championship coach. He delivers keynotes on mental health, high-performance leadership, and DEI, helping organizations and individuals thrive. As Executive Director of The Jones Project, Damon has reached over 60,000 students with messages of hope and resilience. Additionally, he leads the nation's largest all-female wrestling team at Washburn Rural High School, guiding them to multiple state championships, including a historic double title win in 2021. Damon's work inspires transformation across industries, communities, and sports. Get in contact with Damon:https://dot.cards/damonparkerhttps://www.damonparkerspeaks.com/https://thejonesproject.org/damon@thejonesproject.orgInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejonesprojectksFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejonesproject2023/Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejonesprojectks  Brilliant Beaver Guidebook - Audio VersionEngage kids aged 6-9 with fun, screen-free activities from the world of scoutingFind my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 218 Why Your Anxiety Coping Strategy Might Be Inside Out

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2024 24:41


    Send us a textI just recorded a fascinating episode about anxiety that I had to share with you. I've been diving into this incredible book called "​Anxiety Rx" by Dr. Russell Kennedy​, and it's completely shifted how I think about anxiety management.Here's what blew my mind: We've been approaching anxiety backward!Instead of trying to think our way out of anxiety, we need to start with our bodies first. You see, when we experience trauma (and yes, that includes things like rejection or feeling shame – stuff we've all been through), those emotions get stored in our body as "alarms." Sometimes these alarms go off and we don't even know why.What happens next? Our brain tries to "help" by creating what Dr. Kennedy hilariously calls "brain droppings" – all those worrying thoughts that are really just distractions from what we're feeling in our body.The solution? Feel, don't think. I know, I know – easier said than done! But there's this beautiful practice Dr. Kennedy suggests:Place your hand on your heart (or wherever you feel the anxiety)Take slow, deep breathsSimply say to yourself: "I am safe in this moment"It's about treating that anxious part of yourself like you would a scared child – with compassion and understanding, not judgment.In this episode, I break down:The ALARMS system (what creates anxiety in the first place)Why worry is just a distractionPractical tools to work with your body instead of your mindThe ABCDE method for anxiety managementWant to learn more? Listen to or Watch the full episode below. And if you're struggling with anxiety right now, remember – I offer ​free anxiety audits ​where we can talk about what's going on and create a plan just for you, even if we never work together formally.Your anxiety doesn't have to be a life sentence. There are tools, there is hope, and there is a community here ready to support you.P.S. If you found this helpful, please share it with someone who might need it. We're all in this together.

    Special Episode: Your Daughter's Superpower Years: A Positive Guide to Puberty

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2024 38:07


    Send us a textEver thought about puberty as something amazing rather than awkward? Well, get ready to have your mind blown!I just had the most fascinating conversation with Kimberly Grustas, who's been dubbed the "OG of tween skincare" - and wow, did she change my perspective on what's happening during those transformative years!Here's a sneak peek of what we discussed:Why modern puberty is literally different from what your grandma experiencedThe surprising first signs that changes are coming (hint: it's not what you think!)How your body is basically becoming a superhero command center

    E 217 Desk-Side Calm: Simple Stress Relief You Can Do Anywhere

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2024 39:59


    Send us a textI'm so excited to share this week's episode with you! I had an amazing conversation with Marie Young, who taught me some incredible techniques for finding calm and peace - even when you're stuck at your desk all day.You know those moments when anxiety starts creeping in, but you can't exactly drop everything and do a full yoga session? Marie shows us some genius "any chair, anywhere" exercises that literally changed how I feel. During our chat, I was getting those wonderful relaxation tingles (fellow ASMR fans, you know what I'm talking about!

    E 216 Empower Your Child: Creating an Anxiety Plan

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2024 26:58 Transcription Available


    Send us a text Today, we're wrapping up the book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. If this is your first time with me, I recommend checking out the last eight solo episodes. Each one covers important strategies from the book for managing anxiety. But don't worry if you're new—today, we're pulling it all together into one cohesive plan.Here's what we'll be focusing on:Putting the puzzle pieces together: We've covered seven puzzle pieces over the past episodes. Today, it's all about combining them into an actionable plan for managing anxiety.Expect the worry: Your brain might tell you that making an anxiety plan is overwhelming. That's normal! Worry will show up—expect it, acknowledge it, and move forward anyway.Embrace discomfort: We're practicing moving forward even when we feel uncomfortable. This is a key part of managing anxiety, for both you and your child.Involve your child: If this is for your child, the plan is theirs to own. You can support them, but they have to do the work themselves.Here's how to create your plan:Review the puzzle pieces – Use index cards for each step. Write the name of the puzzle piece on one side and some reminders or strategies on the other.Discuss success stories – Talk about moments when you or your child successfully handled anxiety. What worked? How did the puzzle pieces help?Practice with a fictional scenario – Start with an imaginary worry to walk through the steps and get familiar with the process.Use past experiences – Once comfortable with the process, talk through a past anxiety issue that's now resolved.Tackle current anxiety – Finally, apply the plan to something happening right now. Set small, manageable goals and keep moving forward, no matter how uncomfortable.This process is all about helping your child feel confident they can manage their anxiety, and that they have the tools they need.Let's work together to support them in creating a solid plan that empowers them to take control. As always, I'm here to help along the way!Let's do an Anxiety Audit together. You will find out more about your specific anxiety and leave the call with a plan to use right away!https://calendly.com/ccoufal/60-minute-consult  Screen DeepA podcast decoding young brains and behavior in a digital world.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifyFind my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    Special Bonus Episode: Trust the Process: How Teen Coaching Helped My Client Find Her Strengths

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 18:30 Transcription Available


    E 215 Surviving the Unthinkable

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2024 40:34 Transcription Available


    Send us a textThis week's episode takes a heavy but vital turn as we delve into the aftermath of a school shooting. Brandy Samuell, a seasoned educator with a background in counseling, special ed, and leadership, shares her chilling experience guiding crisis response in Roswell, New Mexico back in 2014.This episode is a must-listen for everyone in the education ecosystem – educators, families, and students alike. Here's what you'll gain:Being Prepared for the Unthinkable: Brandy emphasizes the importance of robust crisis plans and trained teams. Even if a shooting seems far-fetched, preparation is vital to navigate any emergency. Caring for the Helpers: Beyond student well-being, Brandy underlines the crucial support for staff dealing with trauma. She pushes for school cultures that encourage open communication and vulnerability, allowing staff to seek help without judgment. Building Strength & Resilience: Brandy's approach focuses on fostering resilience in both students and staff by identifying and leveraging their strengths. This aligns closely with initiatives like Sources of Strength and strengths-based assessments like CliftonStrengths.Bridging Gaps with Virtual Support: Brandy's current work with eluma Therapy showcases the power of virtual services in filling staffing gaps and providing access to specialized expertise. Their services include virtual counseling, curriculum delivery, and data-driven support for social-emotional learning.Brandy's story is a stark reminder of the challenges educators face, but also a powerful testament to human resilience. Her insights on crisis management, staff well-being, and strength-based approaches offer invaluable guidance for anyone committed to creating safe and supportive learning environments.Want to connect with Brandy? Reach out at contact@elumatherapy.com or visit eluma Therapy's website (​ElumaTherapy.com​) to learn more about their services.https://eluma.com/Hope this episode resonates with you as deeply as it did with me. Screen DeepA podcast decoding young brains and behavior in a digital world.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifyFind my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 214 The Power of Past Successes

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2024 11:45 Transcription Available


    Send us a textIn this eye-opening episode of Teen Anxiety Maze, I dive deep into a fascinating phenomenon: how worry can give you amnesia. Discover how anxiety tricks your brain into forgetting your capabilities and learn powerful strategies to overcome this mental roadblock.Key topics covered:How worry makes you forget your skills and experiencesUsing past successes to tackle new challengesBridging techniques from known situations to unfamiliar onesPractical tips for parents to support anxious teensBuilding self-sufficiency in managing anxietyWhether you're a teen navigating life's challenges or a parent looking to support your child, this episode offers invaluable insights and actionable advice. Learn how to tap into your inner strength and past experiences to conquer anxiety and face new situations with confidence.Don't let worry-induced amnesia hold you back. Tune in now and unlock the power of your past successes!Sign up for an anxiety audit and get a plan to start working on that day! Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 213 Empowering Teens: The Confident Teen Blueprint

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2024 23:10 Transcription Available


    Send us a textIn this episode, I'm joined by Kristi Simons, a transformational coach dedicated to helping teens unlock their true potential. We dive deep into Kristi's unique approach to empowering teenagers who struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, and low confidence.Learn how Kristi works with teens to help them develop a strong sense of self, embrace their inner strengths, and build the resilience they need to navigate life's challenges. Whether you're a parent, educator, or teen, this episode offers actionable insights on how to support and empower young people on their journey to confidence and personal growth.Key topics:Overcoming anxiety and self-doubtBuilding confidence in teensFostering resilience and self-awarenessHow parents can support their anxious teensIf you're passionate about helping teens thrive, this episode is for you!

    E 212 Overcoming Avoidance: Choose Your Path to Success

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2024 27:50 Transcription Available


    Send us a textYou know that thing on your to-do list that keeps getting pushed to tomorrow? Yeah, that one. We talked about why we do that and how it might be linked to anxiety.Here's the scoop:We all avoid stuff. It's not just you.Avoiding things feels good... for about five minutes. Then it usually makes us feel worse.Try this: Instead of "I have to do this," say "I choose to do this." It's a small change, but it can make a big difference.Doing uncomfortable things is how we grow. It's not fun, but it's worth it.Parents: It's tempting to shield our kids from discomfort, but learning to handle it is crucial for their future.Figure out what you really want, then be willing to do the not-so-fun stuff to get there.I'll be honest - I still struggle with this sometimes. Remember how I mentioned painting the house? Still haven't done it. But I'm working on it, just like you're working on your stuff.If you're finding it tough to put these ideas into practice, don't beat yourself up. This stuff is hard. If you want some support, remember I'm here. We could set up an anxiety audit call and tackle this together.I'm curious - what's one thing you've been avoiding? And how might you reframe it as a choice? Hit reply and let me know. I always love hearing from you. Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 211 "You're on Fire, It's Fine": Decoding Teen Emotions

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2024 24:51


    Send us a textIn this powerful episode, I sit down with Katie May, licensed therapist and author of "You're on Fire, It's Fine." Katie shares her expertise on helping teens struggling with depression, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts - topics that are often overlooked but critically important.Key highlights:Why some teens experience emotions so intensely it feels like they're "on fire"The importance of parent self-regulation in supporting troubled teensHow unilateral change can improve family dynamics, even if only the parent seeks helpInsights into Creative Healing's unique approach of working with both teens and parentsTips for parents whose teens may be showing early signs of emotional strugglesWhether you're a parent, educator, or simply someone who cares about teen mental health, this episode offers valuable insights and practical strategies. Katie's compassionate approach and years of experience shine through as she discusses how to better understand and support the teenagers in our lives.Don't forget to check out Katie's book and parent membership program for more in-depth resources!#TeenMentalHealth #ParentingTips #TherapyForTeens #EmotionalRegulation #SelfHarm #depressionawareness Timestamps:00:00 Introduction03:45 Understanding intense teen emotions08:30 The importance of parent self-regulation12:15 Creative Healing's approach to teen therapy17:20 Unilateral change in family dynamics22:40 Tips for parents noticing early signs of struggle28:55 Resources and closing thoughtsLinks:Katie May's bookParent Membership ProgramCreative Healing website7 Truths for Stopping Teens Destructive BehaviorsSubscribe for more interviews with experts on teen mental health and parenting strategies! Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 210 Taming Anxiety: How to Reset Your Body's Alarm System

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2024 17:15 Transcription Available


    Send us a textIn this episode, we're diving deep into practical techniques for managing anxiety when it feels overwhelming.

    E 209 Beyond College: Unconventional Paths to Adulthood

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2024 30:41 Transcription Available


    Send us a textThis week, I had the pleasure of chatting with Joanna Lilly, a consultant who specializes in helping young adults (18+) navigate that tricky period between high school and, well, the rest of their lives.You know how we always hear that there's only one path to success? High school, college, job, family, rinse and repeat? Well, Joanna's here to shake things up a bit. Her approach is all about recognizing that success looks different for everyone, and that's okay!Here are some highlights from our conversation:Joanna works as a sort of "matchmaker" for young adults, helping them find the right fit - whether that's outpatient treatment, residential programs, gap year experiences, or just figuring out next steps.We talked about my own non-traditional college experience (spoiler alert: I may have ghosted my roommate and left college without telling anyone... oops!).Joanna shared some great insights about the growing acceptance of gap years and alternative paths, especially since the pandemic.We discussed how parents can support their kids during this transition, even when things don't go according to plan.Joanna has a podcast called "Success is Subjective" where she interviews people about their non-linear paths to success. Guess what? I was a guest!https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/success-is-subjective-helping-parents-of-college/id1499891712If you're a parent of a teen or young adult, or if you work with this age group, I really think you'll find this episode valuable. And hey, even if you're just curious about different life paths, give it a listen!You can find all the links to Joanna's website, podcast, and resources below. Oh, and she has this super helpful freebie on her site - a list of the top six forms parents should have their kids fill out before college. Trust me, it's gold!

    E 208 Beyond Your Comfort Zone: Navigating Uncertainty and Anxiety

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2024 19:30 Transcription Available


    Send us a textI'm diving deep into the concept of embracing uncertainty and discomfort. It's a tough one, I know, but it's a crucial step towards personal growth and overcoming anxiety.I've talked about the importance of expecting worry and the power of talking to your anxiety like a person. This week, I focused on the idea that life is full of unknowns. It's okay to feel uncertain about the future. In fact, it's normal!The key is to be willing to step outside your comfort zone and take risks. It's okay to feel uncomfortable. It's okay to not know what's going to happen. The important thing is to keep moving forward.Remember, I'm not talking about taking dangerous risks. I'm talking about emotional risks. Things like trying new hobbies, asking someone out, or pursuing a new career path. These can be scary, but they're also incredibly rewarding.I've personally learned a lot from taking emotional risks. It's helped me grow as a person and achieve my goals. I believe it can do the same for you.So, what are you waiting for? Start small. Take a deep breath and step outside your comfort zone. You might be surprised at what you're capable of.Join my Free Parenting Anxious Teens Master Class on Sept. 9, 2024!https://cheerful-writer-462.ck.page/05ec8bc99d Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 207 Navigating Disability Accommodations in Higher Education

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2024 33:09 Transcription Available


    Send us a Text Message.Transitioning from high school to college can be challenging, especially for students with anxiety or disabilities. In this episode, we sit down with Dan Jordan, a college accessibility expert with 15 years of experience, to discuss essential strategies for success in higher education.Key topics covered:Understanding the differences between high school and college accommodationsDeveloping crucial self-advocacy skillsPractical tips for managing anxiety on campusHow to request and utilize college disability servicesThe importance of sleep, nutrition, and exercise for academic successWhether you're a student preparing for college, a parent supporting your child's transition, or an educator guiding students, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice. Learn how to navigate the challenges of college life and set yourself up for success.Don't miss Dan's book recommendation and free checklist for requesting college accommodations!Dan's Bio and Links:Dan Jordan has worked as the Accessibility Coordinator and a counselor in higher education for over ten years and is just completing his 15th year. With over 25 years combined in community mental health and in higher education, Dan has a passion for student success and wellness, advocacy, and ensuring students have the access they need. As a father of a son with dyslexia, dysgraphia, and dyscalculia, he also understands a parent's perspective and concerns about accommodations in high school and college and the critical importance of self-advocacy and mental wellness. Email addressaccessingcollege@gmail.comWebsiteFacebookInstagramCollege Accommodations ChecklistDan's Podcast: After the IEPDan's Book: Self-Advocacy for Higher Education (on Amazon)Subscribe for more tips on mental health, education, and personal growth. Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2024 11:15


    Send us a Text Message.Thanks to my listener, Branson, Missouri, who asked for a bedtime prompt for an anxious teen.Here is a sleep meditation that you can listen to anytime you need help falling asleep.Let me know how it goes.Enjoy! Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 206 Overcoming Anxiety: Conversations with Your Worry

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2024 23:02 Transcription Available


    Send us a Text Message.Remember a couple weeks back when we talked about expecting worry? Well, this time we're taking it a step further. We're learning how to actually talk to our worries! I know, it sounds a bit odd at first, but stick with me here.The idea is to personify our anxiety - give it a character, a face, maybe even a silly voice. For me, it's Mrs. Crawley from Downton Abbey (if you know, you know!). By doing this, we can separate ourselves from our anxiety and have a conversation with it.I shared some examples of how to chat with your worry:Acknowledge it: "Hey there, Worry. I knew you'd show up for the first day of school."Be friendly: "Come along for the ride, but you'll see there's nothing to fear."Boss it around (in a playful way): "Knock it off! This isn't an emergency."The cool thing is, this technique works for all ages. I even had a 59-year-old client use it successfully!For parents, I emphasized the importance of modeling this behavior and then coaching our kids to do it themselves. It's all about helping them become independent anxiety-managers.Oh, and exciting news! I'm starting a parent book study group where we can dive deeper into these concepts together. ​If you're interested, sign up HERE!​I'd love to hear how this technique works for you or your kids. Give it a try and let me know! Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

    E 205 Overcoming Parental Rejection: Strategies That Work

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2024 32:37 Transcription Available


    Send us a Text Message.In my latest episode, I dive deep into the complex issue of parent-child rejection, especially in the context of divorce and custody disputes. My guest, Cathy Himlin, brings over 25 years of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist to shed light on this challenging topic.Cathy shares valuable insights on:​The various reasons children might reject a parent, beyond the usual assumptions​How parental anxiety and emotional states can influence children's behaviorsEffective techniques for reconnecting with children, including emotion coachingPractical advice for maintaining contact during separationWhether you're personally dealing with family law issues or work in a related field, this episode offers a fresh perspective on parent-child relationships during difficult times.Cathy also ​discusses her specialized parenting class​ and ​upcoming book,​ both designed to help parents navigate these complex situations.I found this conversation enlightening and believe many of you will too. It's a must-listen for anyone interested in family dynamics, divorce impacts, or child psychology.Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this episode.Join my Parent Book Study Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@cynthiacoufalcoaching.comText me: 785-380-2064More information

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