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This week on Glow Brighter with Toni, I'm sharing a story about returning to the gym—and the unexpected lesson I found there.After deciding it was time to reconnect with movement and take care of myself, I signed up for a class and showed up ready to begin again. There was just one problem…No one else was there.I paced outside the classroom, walked laps around the gym, and debated leaving altogether. The thought of being the only student felt uncomfortable and embarrassing. Part of me wanted to slip out the door and try again another day.But then I remembered something important: I had made a commitment to myself.So I walked back into the room.What followed wasn't just a workout. It was a reminder that showing up doesn't have to be perfect. It doesn't have to be graceful. Sometimes it simply means honoring the promises you make to yourself.Later, I opened Journey to the Heart by Melody Beattie and found the day's passage: Be Gentle and Loving.The message couldn't have arrived at a better time.This episode is about learning to extend the same compassion to ourselves that we so freely give to others, trusting that even when life feels difficult, there is still a gentle and loving energy supporting us.✨ Sometimes showing up is enough.

APEX Express is a weekly magazine-style radio show featuring the voices and stories of Asians and Pacific Islanders from all corners of our community. The show is produced by a collective of media makers, deejays, and activists. APEX Express and Lavender Phoenix are both members of Asian Americans for Civil Rights and Equality (AACRE). AACRE focuses on long-term movement building, capacity infrastructure, and leadership support for Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders committed to social justice. Important Links: Lavender Phoenix  Dragon Fruit Project – Podcast Series Transcript: Miata Tan: ​[00:00:00] Hello and welcome. You are tuning into Apex Express, a weekly radio show, uplifting the voices and stories of Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders. I'm your host Miata Tan. Tonight we have two incredible guests. From Lavender Phoenix. They're a Bay area based organization supporting queer and transgender Asian American and Pacific Islander [00:01:00] youth. I really enjoyed my conversations with both of these folks, and I'm sure you will as well. This episode is a rerun from December, 2025 when Lavender Phoenix was at a transitional moment in their leadership.  Tonight, you'll hear from the outgoing executive director as she passes the torch along to the new director stepping into the role, uh, we're bringing this episode back in honor of the transgender day of visibility. That's just around the corner Tuesday, March 31st. It felt like the perfect time to revisit these conversations. A quick note throughout both interviews, you'll hear us refer to the organization as both Lavender Phoenix and its very cute nickname. LavNix. Without further ado, here's my conversation with Yuan Wang, the outgoing executive director of Lavender Phoenix.   Miata Tan: Yuan, thank you so much for joining us today. , Would you be able to share a little bit about yourself with [00:02:00] our listeners to get started?  Yuan Wang: Yeah. I'm so excited to be here. , My name is Huan. My pronouns are she, and they, and I'm actually the outgoing executive director of Lavender Phoenix. You're catching me on my second to last week in this role after about four years as the executive director, and more years on our staff team as an organizer and also as a part of our youth summer organizer program. So this is a really exciting and special time and I'm really excited to reflect about it with you.  Miata Tan: Yay. I'm so excited. I'd love for you to give us an overview of Lavender Phoenix and the work that y'all do, what communities you support,  Yuan Wang: Lavender Phoenix was founded about 21 years ago, and we are based in the Bay Area. We're a grassroots organization that builds the power of transgender non-binary and queer Asian and Pacific Islander communities right here in the Bay. Right now our work focuses on three major [00:03:00] Areas. The first is around fighting for true community safety. There are so, so many ways that queer, trans, and more broadly, uh, working class communities in the San Francisco Bay Area. Are needing ways to keep ourselves and each other safe, that don't rely on things like policing, that don't rely on things like incarceration that are actually taking people out of our communities and making us less safe. The second big pillar of our work is around healing justice. We know that a lot of folks in our community. Struggle with violence, struggle with trauma, struggle with isolation, and that a lot of the systems that exist aren't actually really designed for queer and trans API people, to thrive and feel connected. And so, we've been leading programs and campaigns around healing justice. And the last thing is we're trying to build a really principled, high integrity leaderful movement. So we do a ton of base building work, which just [00:04:00] means that, everyday queer and trans API people in our community can come to Lavender Phoenix, who want to be involved in organizing and political work. And we train folks to become organizers. Miata Tan: And you yourself came into Lavender Phoenix through one of those programs, is that right?  Yuan Wang: Yeah. Um, that is so true. I came into Lavender Phoenix about seven or eight years ago through the Summer organizer program, which is kind of our flagship youth organizing fellowship. And I was super lucky to be a part of that.  Miata Tan: How has that felt coming into Lavender Phoenix? Like as a participant of one of those programs? Yeah. And now, uh, over the past few years, being able to lead the organization?  Yuan Wang: Yeah. It feels like the most incredible gift. I share this a lot, but you know, when I had come into Lavender Phoenix through the summer organizer program, I had already had some experience, doing [00:05:00] organizing work, you know, doing door knocking, working on campaigns. but I really wanted to be in a space where I felt like I could be all of myself, and that included being trans, you know, that included. Being in a really vulnerable part of my gender transition journey and wanting to feel like I was around people all the time who maybe were in a similar journey or could understand that in a really intimate way. I really found that at Lavender Phoenix. It was pretty unbelievable, to be honest. I remember, uh, the first day that I walked in. There were members and volunteers leading a two hour long political education that was just about the histories of trans and non-binary people in different Asian and Pacific Islander communities. So just being in a room full of people who shared my identities and where, where we were prioritizing these histories was really, really exciting. I think for the years it's just been so amazing to see Lavender Phoenix grow. The time when I joined, we had a totally different name. It was [00:06:00] API equality, Northern California, or we called ourselves a pink and we were really focused on projects like the Dragon Fruit Project, which was a, a series of more than a hundred oral histories that we did with elders and other members members of our community. Things like the Trans Justice Initiative, which were our first efforts at really building a community that was trans centered and that was, was building trans leaders. And now those things are so deeply integrated into our work that they've allowed us to be focused on some more, I think what we call like issue based work, and that that is that community safety, healing justice work. That I mentioned earlier. So, it's just been amazing to witness multiple generations of the organization that has shaped me so much as a person.  Miata Tan: That's really nice. Seven, eight years that, that whole  Yuan Wang: Yeah, I joined in 2018 in June, so you can maybe do, I think that's about seven and a half years. Yeah. I'm bad at [00:07:00] math though.  Miata Tan: Me too. So you've been executive director since late 2021 then? This, these few years since then we've seen a lot of shifts and changes in our I guess global political culture and the way conversations around racial solidarity issues mm-hmm. as you've navigated being executive director, what, what has changed in your approach maybe from 2021 till this year? 2025?  Yuan Wang: Wow, that's such an interesting question. You're so right to say that. I think for anyone who's listening, I, I imagine this resonates that the last four years have been. Really a period of extraordinary violence and brutality and grief in our world. And that's definitely true for a lot of folks in Lavender Phoenix. You mentioned that we've been living through, [00:08:00] you know, continued pandemic that our government is providing so little support and recognition for. We've seen multiple uprisings, uh, in the movement for black lives to defend, you know, and, and bring dignity to the lives of people who were killed and are police. And obviously we're still facing this immense genocide in Gaza and Palestine bombings that continue. So I think if there's, if there's anything that I could say to your question about how my approach has changed. I would say that we as a whole, as an organization have had to continue to grow stronger and stronger in balancing our long-term vision. Intensifying urgent needs of right now and balancing doing the work that it takes to defend our people and try to change institutions with the incredible and at times overwhelming grief of living in this moment. Yeah, you know, in this [00:09:00] past year, um. Have been members of our community and, and our larger community who have passed away. Uh, I'm sure there are some listeners who know, Alice Wong, Patty by architects of the disability justice movement that Lavender Phoenix has learned so much from who have passed away. And we've had to balance, you know. Like one week there's threats that the National Guard and that ICE will be deployed and even higher numbers to San Francisco and, and across the Bay Area. And oh my gosh, so many of us are sitting with an incredible personal grief that we're trying to hold too. So, I think that's been one of the biggest challenges of the last few years is, is finding that balance. Yeah. I can say that some of the things that I feel proudest of are, you know, just as an example, in our healing justice work, over the past four years, our members have been architecting a, a trans, API peer counseling program. And, through that program they've been able to provide, [00:10:00] first of all, train up. So many trans API, people as skilled, as attentive, as loving peer counselors who are then able to provide that. Free, uh, accessible peer mental health support to other people who need it. So I think that's just one example. Something that gives me a lot of hope is seeing the way that our members are still finding ways to defend and love and support each other even in a time of really immense grief.  Miata Tan: That's really beautiful and it's important that you are listening to your community members at this time. How do you, this is kind of specific, but how do you all gather together? Yeah, Yuan Wang: yeah. You know, I feel really lucky 'cause I think for the last 10 years we, Lavender Phoenix as a whole, even before I was a part of it, has been building towards a model of really collective governance. Um, and, and I don't wanna make it sound like it. You know, it's perfect. It's very challenging. It's very hard. But I think like our comrades at Movement generation often say, if we're not prepared to govern, then [00:11:00] we're not prepared to win. And we try to take that, that practice really seriously here. So, you know, I think that, that getting together. That making decisions with each other, that making sure that members and staff are both included. That happens at like a really high strategic level. You know, the three pillars of our theory of change that I mentioned earlier, those were all set through a year of strategy retreats between our staff, but also a. 10 to 15 of our most experienced and most involved members who are at that decision making. The same comes for our name, uh, Lavender Phoenix. You know, it was, it was really our core committee, our, our member leaders who helped decide on that name. And then we invited some of our elders to speak about what it meant for them, for us to choose Lavender Phoenix, because it was an homage to the work so many of our elders did in the eighties and nineties. It also looks like the day-to-day, because a lot of our work happens through specific committees, whether it's our community safety committee or healing justice committee. Um, and those are all [00:12:00] committees where there's one staff person, but it's really a room of 5, 10, 15 members who are leading community safety trainings. The peer counseling program, training new members through our rise up onboarding, um, and setting new goals, new strategic targets every single year. So, it's always in progress. We're in fact right now working on some challenges and getting better at it, but we're really trying to practice what governing and self-determination together looks like right in our own organization. Miata Tan: And a lot of these people are volunteers too.  Yuan Wang: yeah, so when I joined the organization there were two staff, two mighty staff people at the time. We've grown to nine full-time staff people, but most of our organization is volunteers. Yeah. And we call those folks members, you know, committed volunteers who are participants in one of our committees or projects. Um, and I believe right now there's about 80 members in Lavender Phoenix.  Miata Tan: Wow. It's wonderful to hear so much growth has happened [00:13:00] in, um, this period that you've been with Lavender Phoenix. The idea of empowering youth, I think is core to a lot of Lavender Phoenix's work. What has that looked like specifically in the last few years, especially this year? Yuan Wang: Yeah, the  Miata Tan: challenges.  Yuan Wang: That's a great question. I think, um, you know, one of those ways is, is really specifically targeted towards young people, right? It's the summer organizer program, which I went through many years ago, and our previous executive director was also an alumnus of the summer organizer program, but that's, you know, an eight to 10 week fellowship. It's paid, it's designed specifically for young trans and queer API people who are working class, who grew up in the Bay to organize with us and, and really. Hopefully be empowered with tools that they'll use for the next decade or for the rest of their life. But I'll also say, you know, you mentioned that Lavender Phoenix has grown so much in the last few years, and that is such a [00:14:00] credit to folks who were here 10 years ago, even 15 years ago, you know, because, the intergenerational parts of our work started years before I was involved. You know, I mentioned earlier the Dragon Fruit Project where we were able to connect so, so many elders in our community with a lot of younger folks in our community who were craving relationships and conversations and like, what happened in the eighties? What happened in the nineties, what did it feel like? Why are you still organizing? Why does this matter to you? And we're actually able to have those conversations with folks in, in our community who. Have lived and fought and organized for decades already. So I think that was like one early way we started to establish that like intergenerational in our work. And a lot of those folks have stayed on as volunteers, as supporters, some as members, and as donors or advisors. So I feel really lucky that we're still benefiting in terms of building the leadership of young people, but [00:15:00] also intergenerational reality overall because of work that folks did 10 years ago. Miata Tan: That's really important. Having those, those ties that go back. Queer history is so rich, especially in the, in the Bay Area. And there's a lot to honor.  With the intersection between queer and immigrant histories here, I wonder if you have anything that comes to mind. Yuan Wang: I think that queer and immigrant histories intersect in the lives of so many of our, our members and, and the people who are inspiration too. You know, I'm not sure that. I think a lot of listeners may not know that Lavender Phoenix is as a name. It's an homage to Lavender, Godzilla, and Phoenix Rising, which were two of the first publications. They were newsletters launched back in the eighties by groups of. Uh, trans and queer API, folks who are now elders [00:16:00] and who were looking around, you know, learning from the Black Power movement, learning from solidarity movements in the Bay Area, and saying we really need to create spaces where. Trans and queer Asian Pacific Islanders can talk about our journeys of migration, our family's journeys as refugees, our experiences with war, and then also about love and joy and finding friendship and putting out advertisements so that people could get together for potlucks. So yeah, I think, um, there's so much about the intersection of immigrant and queer and trans journeys that have been. Just even at the root of how we name ourselves and how we think of ourselves as an or as an organization today.  Miata Tan: I think today, more than ever all of these communities feel a little more than a little under threat,  Yuan Wang: we could say so much about that. I think one thing that we're really paying attention to is, uh, we're seeing in different communities across the country, the ways in which the [00:17:00] right wing is. Uh, kind of wielding the idea of trans people, uh,  the perceived threat that trans people pose. As a wedge issue to try to build more more power, more influence, more connections in immigrant communities and in the process like really invisiblizing or really amplifying the harm that immigrant, trans and queer. People experience every single day. So I think something that we're thinking about on the horizon, you know, whether it's, uh, partnering with organizations in California or in the Bay Area or across the country who are doing that really critical base building work, power building work in immigrant communities is trying to ask, you know. How do we actually proactively as progressives, as people on the left, how do we proactively have conversations with immigrant communities about trans and queer issues, about the, uh, incredibly overlapping needs that trans and queer people in all people who are marginalized [00:18:00] right now have in these political conditions? Um, how can we be proactive about those combinations and making those connections so that, we can kind of inoculate folks against the way that the right wing is targeting trans people, is fear mongering about trans people and trying to make inroads in immigrant communities. Yeah. That's one thing on our radar for the future. Miata Tan: That's so important. Kind of, breaking down those, those stereotypes Yuan Wang: totally breaking down stereotypes, breaking down misinformation. And yeah, it reminds me of a few years ago Lavender Phoenix held a few conversations with a partner organization of ours where there were some younger folks from our organization who are talking to some older immigrant members of that organization and we're just connecting about, the sacred importance of, parenting trans and queer kids right now of, you know, and, and just having conversations that actually humanize all of us rather than buying into narratives and stories [00:19:00] that that dehumanize and, and that flatten us. Yeah. Um, so that we can defend ourselves from the way that the right wing is trying to hurt immigrant communities and trans and queer communities. Miata Tan: the youth that you work directly with each week. Is there anything as you reflect back on your, your time with Laxs that really stand out, things that folks have said or led conversations in?  Yuan Wang: Oh my gosh. Yeah. I mean, I, I could, I could celebrate things that I've witnessed every single year. You know, we the young people in the summer organizer program experience so, so much in, in many ways it's kind of like the faucets, like all the way on, you know, like there's, they're learning so much about skills and values and projects and, you know, just as some examples this last summer, we had a team of summer organizers who helped lead an event that was about COVID safety and disability justice, where people [00:20:00] actually got together to build DIY air filters that could hopefully, you know, make them feel safer in their own homes. And, um, in previous years we've had summer organizers work on the peer counseling program. There's so much that folks have done. I think what I actually hear year after year is oftentimes the thing that sticks out the most, it isn't necessarily just the project, it isn't necessarily like the hard skill training. It's people saying every single week during our team check-ins, someone shared an affirmation with me. I felt more seen. It's people saying, you know, I didn't expect that we were gonna do a three hour training. That was just about why it's so important to ask for help and why that can be so, so difficult for, um, for queer and trans young folks. It's folks saying, you know, even speaking for myself actually. I remember being a summer organizer and one of, uh, [00:21:00] my close friends now one of our elders, Vince spoke on a panel for us and, talked about what it was like to be young during the height of the hiv aids crisis, you know, when the government was neglecting to care for folks and so many members of our community were dying without care, were, were passing away without support. And all of the lessons that Vince took from that time holds now, decades later that still make him feel more hopeful, more committed, more full as a person. Um, that meant so much to me to hear when I was 21 and, still feeling really scared and really lonely, about the future. So I think it's those, I, I wouldn't even call them like softer skills, but the incredible st. Sturdiness and resilience that building long-term relationships creates that seeing people who show you a potential path, if it's been hard to imagine the future. And that building the [00:22:00] skills that make relationships more resilient. I feel like it's those things that always stand out the most to a lot of our young people. And then to me, I see them grow in it and be challenged by those things every single year. I feel really good. 'cause I know that at the end of the summer organizer program, there's a group of young, queer and trans API rising leaders who are gonna bring that level of rigorous kindness, attentive attentiveness to emotions, um, of vulnerability that creates more honesty and interdependence. They're gonna be taking that to an another organization, to another environment, to another year in our movement. That makes me feel really happy and hopeful.  Miata Tan: Yes. Community.  Yuan Wang: Yeah.  Miata Tan: . Looking towards that bright future that you, you shared just now Tina Shelf is coming on as the executive director. What are your hopes for 2026 Yuan Wang: [00:23:00] yeah. You know, I'm, I'm so excited that we're welcoming Tina and we're really lucky because Tina joined us in August of this year. So we've had a good, like five months to overlap with each other and to really, um, for all of us, not just me, but our staff, our members, to really welcome and support Tina in onboarding to the role. I feel incredibly excited for Lavender Phoenix's future. I think that in this next year, on one hand, our Care Knock Cops campaign, which has been a huge focus of the organization where uh, we've been rallying other organizations and people across San Francisco to fight to direct funding from policing to. To protect funding that's being threatened every year for housing, for healthcare, for human services that people really need. I think we're gonna see that campaign grow and there are so many members and staff who are rigorously working on that every single day. And on the other hand, I think that this is a time for Lavender Phoenix to really sturdy [00:24:00] itself. We are in we're approaching, the next stage of an authoritarian era that we've been getting ready for many years and is in other ways as so many folks are saying new and unprecedented. So I think, um, a lot of our work in this next year is actually making sure that our members' relationships to each other are stronger, making sure that, responsibility, is shared in, in, in greater ways that encourage more and more leadership and growth throughout our membership so that we are more resilient and less res reliant on smaller and smaller groups of people. I think you're gonna see our program and campaign work continue to be impactful. And I'm really hopeful that when we talk again, maybe in two years, three years, five years, we're gonna be looking at an organization that's even more resilient and even more connected internally.  Miata Tan: It's really important that y'all are thinking so long term, I guess, and have been preparing for this moment in many ways. On a personal [00:25:00] note, as you are coming to an end as executive director, what's what's next for you? I'd love to know.  Yuan Wang: Yeah, that's such a sweet question. I'm going to, I'm gonna rest for a little bit. Yeah. I haven't taken a sustained break from organizing since I was 18 or so. So it's been a while and I'm really looking forward to some rest and reflection. I think from there. I'm gonna figure out, what makes sense for me in terms of being involved with movement and I'm, I'm certain that one of those things will be staying involved. Lavender Phoenix as a member. Really excited to keep supporting our campaign work. Really excited to keep supporting the organization as a whole just from a role that I've never had as a volunteer member. So, I'm just psyched for that and I can't wait to be a part of Lavender Phoenix's future in this different way.  Miata Tan: Have fun. You'll be like on the other side almost. Yeah,  Yuan Wang: totally. Totally. And, and getting to see and support our incredible staff team just in a different way.  Miata Tan: One final [00:26:00] question As you are sort of moving into this next stage, and this idea of community and base building being so incredibly important to your work and time with Lavender Phoenix, is there anything you'd like to say, I guess for someone who might be considering. Joining in some way or Yeah. Where they could get involved, but they're not, not quite sure. Yuan Wang: Yeah, absolutely. Um, I think that if you are a queer and trans, API person who is looking for community, um, looking to channel what you care about into action, looking to be with other people who care about you Lavender Phoenix is here. And I think that there is no more critical time. Than the one we're in to get activated and to try to organize. ‘Cause our world really needs us right now. The world needs all of us and it also really needs the [00:27:00] wisdom, the experience, and the love of queer and trans people. So, I will be rejoining our membership at some point and I'd really like to meet you and I hope that we get to, to grow in this work and to, um, to fight for our freedom together. Miata Tan: Thank you so much. We, this was a really lovely conversation.  Yuan Wang: Yeah, thank you so much And also welcome Tina. Good luck.   Miata Tan: that was my conversation with Yuan Wang, the outgoing executive director at Lavender Phoenix. You may have heard Yuan mention the Dragon Fruit Project. This is an intergenerational oral storytelling podcast series and online project that explores the stories of queer and trans Asian and Pacific Islanders around love, activism and community. For links to the Dragon Fruit Project and everything else from tonight's show, please head to our show notes at [00:28:00] kpfa.org/program/apex-express. Now here's a little taste of the Dragon Fruit Project.   Amy Sueyoshi: Hi, my name's Amy Swei. I'm the Dean of the College of Ethnic Studies at San Francisco State University. I am a historian by training, um, and my specialties are in Asian American history and history of sexuality. I use she or they pronouns. I usually do turn of the century history, which is 1890s to 1920, and I decided to start, you know, doing some oral histories in the early two thousands. Um, at the time, history wasn't super sexy. Very few nonprofits were engaging in historical projects. Very few artists were also using history as a site of inspiration. So I was really skeptical about whether people would wanna join me, but, you know, people were excited to do it, which I was surprised about. API queer [00:29:00] history is also clearly on the margins in both the history field as well as in Asian American studies. And so, you know, I could scream it from the rooftop, tell lots of people, and most people wouldn't care. They'd be like, yeah. And so there's a way in which I think that what's more important to me is that for the few people that it did matter. It, it really mattered. But generally speaking, I feel like the world doesn't care, which is even more reason why we should care, right? If, if we don't take care of ourselves, then. Other people aren't gonna do it for us. Being a historian, I know that a lot of queer history generally gets lost because queer genders, queer sexualities are stigmatized. And if you're Asian, you probably don't wanna talk about it even more a, because you've probably been socialized to not talk about sexuality. Because of your ethnicity. And then B, if you were assigned female at birth and you know, socialized as a woman, you probably [00:30:00] wouldn't think your life was valuable enough to save anything about it. Right. In terms of historical knowledge. You don't have to be the George Washington of gay people. You can just be a regular person. And so I wanted, um, the older Asian lesbians who are still around to save their stuff, to be able to know how to save it, not throw it in the garbage, so that when they passed or when they were ready to give up their materials, we could deposit. At the Historical society and some younger dyke or young, younger queer pup could come along and do research on them.  ,   Miata Tan: That was a short snippet from the Dragon Fruit Project. You can learn more about this intergenerational storytelling series and lavender Phoenix who produces it at our website. That's kpfa.org/program/apex-express. Now after a short break, we are sitting down with the new executive director of [00:31:00] Lavender Phoenix. Stay with us. ? ​ Miata Tan: [00:32:00] [00:33:00] That was, remember me by Tao. You are tuned into Apex Express on 94.1 KPFA, a weekly radio show uplifting the voices and stories of Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders. I'm your host, Miata Tan, and tonight we are joining the Lavender Phoenix team at a transitional [00:34:00] point in the organization's history. Our next guest is Tina Sho Baha, the incoming director of this local organization supporting queer and trans Asian American and Pacific Islander Youth. As a reminder, throughout this conversation, you'll hear us referring to the org as both Lavender, Phoenix, and Laxs Nicks.   Miata Tan: Tina. Tina Shauf-Bajar: Hi Miata.  Miata Tan: How you going today? Tina Shauf-Bajar: I'm doing well, thank you. How are you? Miata Tan: Yeah, not so bad. Just excited to speak with you. tell me more about yourself what's bringing you into Lavender Phoenix. Tina Shauf-Bajar: Sure, sure. Well I am the incoming executive director of Lavender Phoenix. Prior to this, I was working at the California Domestic Workers Coalition and had also worked at the Filipino Community Center and, um, have done some grassroots organizing, building, working class [00:35:00] power, um, over the last 20 years, of my time in the Bay Area. And I've been alongside Lavender Phoenix as an organization that I've admired for a long time. Um, and now at the beginning of this year, I was I had the opportunity to apply for this executive director position and talked with un, um, had a series of conversations with UN about, um, what this role looks like and I got really excited about being a part of this organization. Miata Tan: That's super cool. So you, you, you weren't quite in the space with Lavender Phoenix, but moving alongside them through your work, like what were what were the organizations that you were part of when you were, were working in tandem, I guess. Tina Shauf-Bajar: Well the organization that I feel like is most, most closely, relates with Lavender. Phoenix is, um, Gabriela, which is a Filipino organization. It's a Filipino organization that's a part of a national democratic movement of the Philippines. [00:36:00] And we advance national democracy in the Philippines. And, liberation for our people and our homeland. Sovereignty for our homeland. And Gabriela here in the US does organizing with other multi-sectoral organizations, including like migrant organizations, like Ante and youth organizations like Naan and we organize in diaspora. And the reason for that is because many of our families actually leave the Philippines due to, um, corrupt government governance, um, also like foreign domination and exploitation and plunder of our resources. And so many of us actually have to leave our countries to, to survive. And so we're still very connected. Gabriela is still very connected to, um, the movement in the Philippines. And yeah, so we're advancing liberation for our people and have been alongside Lavender Phoenix for many [00:37:00] years. And here we are. Miata Tan: That's beautiful. I love hearing about, all of these partnerships and, and colLavoration works that happen in the San Francisco Bay Area and, and beyond as well. it sounds like you're speaking from a personal place when you talk about, um, a lot of these immigrant communities. Could you speak more to your family background and what brings you into this? Tina Shauf-Bajar: The, the fight for immigrant justice? So I was born in the Philippines and um, I spent my childhood and adolescent since the, in the South Bay of LA and then came here to the Bay Area in the year 2000. Flashing back to when my parents immigrated here, my dad's family first came to the US um, by way of the Bay Area in the late sixties and early seventies. My dad actually was a few years after he had arrived, was uh, drafted into the military so that they can send him [00:38:00] to Vietnam, but instead of going to Vietnam, he took the test to go into the Air Force and traveled everywhere in the Air Force and ended up in the Philippines and met my, met my mom there. And so. That became like they got married and they had me, I was born in the Philippines. I have a younger sibling. And, um, and I think, um, growing up in, in a working class immigrant neighborhood black and brown neighborhood, um, it was always important to me to like find solidarity between. Between communities. I actually grew up in a neighborhood that didn't have a lot of Filipinos in it, but I, I felt that solidarity knowing that we were an immigrant family, immigrant, working class family. And when I was in college, when I went to college up in, in Berkeley, um, that was the time when the war on Iraq was waged by the US. I got [00:39:00] really I got really curious and interested in understanding why war happens and during that time I, I feel like I, I studied a lot in like ethnic studies classes, Asian American studies classes and also, got involved in like off campus organizing and um, during that time it was with the Filipinos for Global Justice Not War Coalition. I would mobilize in the streets, in the anti-war movement during that time. Um, and from there I met a lot of the folks in the national democratic movement of the Philippines and eventually joined an organization which is now known as Gabriela. And so. That was my first political home that allowed me to understand my family's experience as immigrants and why it's important to, to advance our rights and defend our, defend our people. And [00:40:00] also with what's happening now with the escalated violence on our communities it. It's our duty to help people understand that immigrants are not criminals and our people work really hard to, to provide for our families and that it's our human right to be able to work and live in dignity, uh, just like anyone else. Miata Tan: You are speaking to something really powerful there. The different communities that you've been involved with, within the Filipino diaspora, but who are some other immigrant folks that you feel like have really helped shape your political awakening and, and coming into this space, and also how that leads into your work with Lav Nix today?  Tina Shauf-Bajar: When I was working at the Filipino community center that gave me a, gave me a chance to learn to work with other organizations that were also advancing, like workers' rights and immigrant [00:41:00] rights. Many centers in San Francisco that, um, work with immigrant workers who. Wouldn't typically like fall into the category of union unionized workers. They were like workers who are work in the domestic work industry who are caregivers, house cleaners and also we worked with organizations that also have organized restaurant workers, hotel workers. In like non-union, in a non-union setting. And so to me I in integrating in community like that, it helped me really understand that there were many workers who were experiencing exploitation at really high levels. And that reregulate like regulation of, um, Lavor laws and things like that, it's like really. Unregulated industries that really set up immigrant workers in, in really poor working conditions. [00:42:00] Sometimes abusive conditions and also experiencing wage theft. And for me, that really moved me and in my work with Gabriela and the community and the Filipino Community Center, we were able to work with, um. Teachers who actually were trafficked from the Philippines. These teachers actually, they did everything right to try to get to the, the US to get teaching jobs. And then they ended up really paying exorbitant amount of, of money to like just get processed and make it to the us. To only find themselves in no teaching jobs and then also working domestic work jobs just to like survive. And so during that time, it really like raised my consciousness to understand that there was something bigger that wa that was happening. The, the export of our people and exploitation of our people was happening, not just at a small scale, but I learned over [00:43:00] time that. Thousands of Filipinos actually leave the Philippines every day just to find work and send money back to their families. And to me that just was like throughout my time being an activist and organizer it was important to me to like continue to, to like advance poor, working class power. And that I see that as a through line between many communities. And I know that like with my work in Lav Nix that the folks who experience it the most and who are most impacted by right-wing attacks and authoritarianism are people who are at the fringes. And born working class trans and queer people. Within our sector. So yeah. Being rooted in this, in this principle of advancing foreign working class power is really core [00:44:00] to my to my values in any work that I do. Miata Tan: What are some other key issue Areas you see that are facing this community and especially queer folks within Asian American communities today? Tina Shauf-Bajar: The administration that we're under right now works really hard to drive wedges between. All of us and, um, sewing division is one of the t tactics to continue to hoard power. And with Lavender Phoenix being a trans and queer API organization that's building power, it's important for us to understand that solidarity is a thing that that's gonna strengthen us. That that trans and queer folks are used as wedges in, in conservative thinking. I'm not saying that like it's just conservatives, but there's conservative thinking in many of our cultures to think that trans and queer folks are not, [00:45:00] are not human, and that we deserve less and we don't deserve to be recognized as. As fully human and deserve to live dignified lives in our full selves. I also know that locally in San Francisco, the API community is used as a wedge to be pitted against other communities. Let's say the black commun the black community. And, um, it's important for us as an organization to recognize that that we, we can position ourselves to like wield more solidarity and be in solidarity with, with communities that are experiencing the impacts of a system that continues to exploit our people and continues to view our people as not fully deserving. Not fully human and that our people [00:46:00] deserve to be detained, abducted, and deported. That our people deserve to not be taken care of and resourced and not have our basic needs like housing and food and healthcare and it impacts all of us. And so, I see our responsibility as Lavender Phoenix, and, and in the other organizing spaces that I'm a part of that it, it is our responsibility to expose that we are not each other's enemies. Hmm. And that we are stronger in fighting for our needs and our dignity together. Miata Tan: Community. Community and strength. I'm thinking about what you said in terms of this, the API solidarity alongside [00:47:00] queer folks, alongside black and brown folks. Do you have a, perhaps like a nice memory of that, that coming together? Tina Shauf-Bajar: So one of the most consistent, things that I would go to, that's, that Lavender Phoenix would, would lead year after year in the last 10 years is Trans March. And my partner and I always make sure that we mobilize out there and be with Laxs. And it's important to us to be out there. in more recent trans marches. Just with a lot of the escalation of violence in Gaza and ongoing genocide and also just the escalated attacks on on immigrants and increased right and increased ice raids. And and also the, we can't forget the police, the Police killings of black people. And I feel like at [00:48:00] Trans March with Lavender Phoenix, it's also a way for us to come together and you know, put those messages out there and show that we are standing with all these different communities that are fighting, repression, And it's always so joyful at Trans March too. We're like chanting and we're holding up our signs. We're also out there with or you know, people, individuals, and organizations that might not be politically aligned with us, but that's also a chance for us to be in community and, and show demonstrate this solidarity between communities. Miata Tan: It's so beautiful to see. It's, it's just like what a colorful event in so many ways. Uh, as you now step into the director role at Lav Nix, Lavender Phoenix, what are you most excited about? What is 2026 gonna look like for you? Tina Shauf-Bajar: I am most [00:49:00] excited about integrating into this organization fully as the executive director and I feel so grateful that this organization is trusting me to lead alongside them. I've had the chance to have conversations with lots of conversations since, since my time onboarding in August through our meetings and also like strategy sessions where I've been able to connect with staff and members and understand what they care about, how they're thinking about. Our our strategy, how we can make our strategy sharper and more coordinated, um, so that we can show up in, in a more unified way, um, not just as an organization, but, but as a part of a larger movement ecosystem that we're a part of and that we're in solidarity with other organizations in. So I am looking forward to like really embodying that.  it takes a lot [00:50:00] of trust for an organization to be like, look, you, you weren't one of our members. You weren't a part of our staff prior to this, but we are trusting you because we've been in community and relationship with you and we have seen you. And so I just feel really grateful for that. Miata Tan: For an organization like Lav Nix, which with such a rich history in, in the Bay Area is there anything from. That history that you are now taking into 2026 with you? Tina Shauf-Bajar: Yeah, I mean, I think in seeing how Lavender Phoenix has transformed over the last 10 years is really not being afraid to transform. Not being afraid to step even more fully into our power. The organization is really well positioned to yeah, well positioned to build power in, in a [00:51:00] larger community. And so I, I feel like I've seen that transformation and I get to also, I get to also continue that legacy after UN and also the previous leaders before that and previous members and staff, um, we stand on the, on their shoulders. I stand on their shoulders. it's so beautiful, like such a nice image. Everyone together, yeah, no, totally. I mean, just in the last few weeks, I, I've connected with the three executive directors before me. And so when I say. I stand on their shoulders and like I'm a part of this lineage I still have access to. And then I've also been able to connect with, you know with a movement elder just last week where I was like, wow, you know, I get to be a part of this because I'm now the executive director of this organization. Like, I also get to inherit. Those connections and [00:52:00] I get to inherit the work that has been done up to this point. And I feel really grateful and fortunate to be inheriting that and now being asked to take care of it so. and I know I'm not alone. I think that's what people keep saying. It's like, you're not, you know, you're not alone. Right. I'm like, yeah. I keep telling myself that. It's true. It's true, it's true. Miata Tan: Latinx has a strong core team and a whole range of volunteers that also aid in, in, in your work, and I'm sure everyone will, everyone will be there to make sure that you don't like the, the, the shoulders are stable that you're standing on. Tina Shauf-Bajar: Totally, totally. I mean, even the conversations that I've been a part of, I'm like, I'm the newest one here. Like, I wanna hear from you, like, what, how are you thinking about this? There is so much desire to see change and be a part of it. And also so [00:53:00] much brilliance like and experience to being a part of this organization. So yeah, absolutely. I'm not alone. Miata Tan: One final question as with youth really being at the center of, of Lav Nix's work. Is there something about that that you're excited just, just to get into next year and, and thinking about those, those young people today that are you know, maybe not quite sure what's going on, the world looks a little scary. Like what, what can, what are you excited about in terms of helping those, those folks? Tina Shauf-Bajar: Well, for a long time I, I worked with youth years ago before I before I found myself in like workers justice and workers' rights building working class power. I also worked with working class youth at one point, and I, I was one of those youth like 20 years ago. And so, I know what my [00:54:00] energy was like during that time. I also know how I also remember how idealistic I was and I remember how bright-eyed it was. And like really just there wasn't openness to learn and understand how I could also be an agent of change and that I didn't have to do that alone. That I could be a part of something bigger than myself. And so so yeah, I think that like wielding the power of the youth in our communities and the different sectors is I think in a lot of ways they're the ones leaving us, they know, they know what issues speak to, to them. This is also the world they're inheriting. they have the energy to be able to like and lived experience to be able to like, see through change in their lifetime. And you know, I'm, I'm older than them. I'm older than a lot of them, but, I also can remember, like I, I can look back to that time and I know, I know that I had the energy to be able [00:55:00] to like, you know, organize and build movement and, and really see myself as, as a, as someone who could be a part of that. My first week here in, in August I actually was able to, to meet the, the, um, summer organizer, the summer organizers from our program. And I was, it just warms my heart because I remember being that young and I remember, remember being that like determined to like figure out like, what is my place in, in organizing spaces. So they were the ones who really like, radically welcomed me at first. You know, like I came into the office and like we were co-working and they were the ones who radically welcomed me and like showed me how they show up in, in, um, Lav Nix Spaces. I learned from them how to fundraise, like how Lavender Phoenix does it, how we fundraise. And [00:56:00] um, one of them fundraised me and I was like, I was like, how can I say no? Like they yeah. That we need that type of energy to keep it fresh. Miata Tan: something about that that, um. It is exciting to think about when thinking about the future. Thank you so much for joining us, Tina. This was such a beautiful conversation. I'm so excited for all of your work. Tina Shauf-Bajar: Thank you so much.  Miata Tan: That was Tina Sho Baha, the new executive director at Lavender Phoenix. You can learn more about the organization and their fantastic work at lavenderphoenix.org. Tonight's show was a rerun and originally aired on December 25th, 2025. Tina is now several months into her new role, and we are super excited for what comes next. If these conversations tonight moved you, please check out our show notes [00:57:00] at kpfa.org/program/apex-express. We've added some links to previous Apex Express episodes featuring the Lavender Phoenix crew, as well as their Dragon Fruit Project, which is an intergenerational podcast series that you don't wanna miss. Make sure to check it out. A huge thank you to all of our listeners out there. And in the words of Keiko Fukuda, a Japanese American judoka and Bay Area legend, “Be Strong, Be Gentle, Be Beautiful.”  A little reminder for these trying times. APEX Express is produced by Ayame Keane-Lee, Anuj Vaidya, Cheryl Truong, Isabel Li, Jalena Keane-Lee, Miko Lee, Miata Tan, Preeti Mangala Shekar and Swati Rayasam. Tonight's show was produced by me, Miata Tan. Get some rest y'all.   The post APEX Express – 3.26.26 – A Conversation with Lavender Phoenix: The Next Chapter appeared first on KPFA.

Send us Fan MailHow can you be gentle with yourself today?In this episode, Spencer shares practical ways to respond instead of reacting, pause instead of rush, and treat yourself with the care and compassion you deserve. Small moments of self-kindness can make a big difference.

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What happens when the life you planned completely unravels—and you're forced to decide who you really are without the “shoulds”? In this episode of the Wild & Waking podcast, I'm joined by Jessica Frew, author of Shove Your Shoulds: Become a Decision-Making Badass to Live the Bold Life You Deserve. Jessica's story of walking through divorce after her husband came out as gay, rebuilding her life, and ultimately creating a beautiful co-parenting dynamic is raw, courageous, and deeply inspiring. Her journey shows us what's possible when we stop outsourcing our worth, release expectations, and start trusting ourselves again.This conversation is packed with real-life wisdom, practical tools, and soul-level permission to choose yourself. Jessica and I talk about what it looks like to silence other people's opinions, move beyond shame and judgment, and finally trust the quiet knowing inside you. Whether you're navigating a major life transition, feeling paralyzed by indecision, or simply craving more confidence in your daily choices, this episode will remind you that you are safe to trust yourself and worthy of a life that feels aligned and expansive.If you've ever felt stuck in people-pleasing, terrified of making the “wrong” choice, or burned out from living by everyone else's expectations, this episode is for you.In this episode, we explore:Jessica's powerful personal story of navigating divorce, co-parenting, and remarriage—and how she learned to trust herself again after betrayal.The Be Gentle, Be Humble, Be Bold framework for decision-making and how to apply it in everyday life.How to identify the “shoulds” that keep you stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and comparison.The role of micro-decisions (what you wear, what you eat, how you spend your time) in rebuilding self-trust and confidence.Why waiting for external proof keeps women paralyzed in indecision—and how to learn to trust your intuition instead.How to release shame, judgment, and outdated conditioning that disconnect you from your authentic self.The connection between decision-making, self-trust, and living a bold, aligned, and joyful life.Tangible next steps for starting your own “should challenge” to notice, reframe, and release the expectations that no longer serve you.Be sure to hit subscribe so you never miss the latest episode!Connect with Jessica:Instagram: @heyjessicafrewWebsite: www.heyjessicafrew.comOrder the Book: Shove Your Shoulds: Become a Decision-Making Badass to Live the Bold Life You DeserveConnect with Emily:Website: www.EmilyReuschel.comInstagram: @emilyreuschelFacebook: Emily ReuschelLinkedIn: Emily ReuschelJoin my Book Insiders List: Sign up here!Resources and Links:Sign up here to get the inside scoop to my book writing journey!Book me as a speaker for your next...

Susan Guthrie welcomes Jessica Frew back to Divorce and Beyond for a powerful conversation about releasing the “shoulds” that may box you in after divorce and reclaiming your decision-making power. Jessica is a wife, ex-wife, mom, stepmom, founder of The Bold Logic, and author of the upcoming book Shove the Shoulds: Become a Decision-Making Badass to Live the Bold Life You Deserve. If you've ever felt weighed down by guilt, judgment, or that pesky inner voice telling you what you “should” be doing, this episode will help you break free. Plus, one lucky listener will win a free copy of Jessica's new book, listen through to the end for details! Stop living a life of “shoulds” and start today. Jessica shows you how to shove them right out the door and step confidently into your next chapter after divorce.  What You'll Discover in This Episode: How “shoulds” are often just judgment in disguise and why recognizing them is the first step to freedom The role conditioning and past relationships play in breaking down self-trust Why true post-divorce freedom comes from reclaiming your decision-making power Jessica's Be, Be, Be formula: Be Gentle, Be Humble, Be Bold, and how it can transform your life Practical ways to start rebuilding trust in yourself, one small decision at a time More About Our Special Guest, Jessica Frew:  Jessica Frew is a wife, ex-wife, mom, stepmom, and BOLD action taker. She's the founder of The BOLD Logic, a company devoted to helping women understand their decision making patterns to take back their voice. 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This week, guest speaker Elliot Moor takes us through 1 Thessalonians 2, unpacking Paul's heart for the church and five ways we can live the gospel every day—Be Genuine, Be Bold, Be Gentle, Be an Encourager, and Be the Good News. A timely reminder that people are our “pride and joy” in God's Kingdom.

Send us a text Exhausted parent, this one's for you. After a day of endless decisions, mental checklists, and carrying the invisible load of family life, your mind deserves to rest. This sleep meditation is specifically designed for parents who struggle to "turn off" at bedtime.What you'll find in this meditation:✨ Recognition of the unique mental load parents carry✨ Permission to stop being "on" and just BE✨ Gentle body relaxation to release physical tension✨ Mindful techniques to quiet your planning mind✨ Loving reminders of your worth beyond parenting✨ Peaceful imagery to guide you into restorative sleepPerfect for when you're:Mentally reviewing tomorrow's schedule at bedtimeCarrying worry about your childrenFeeling overwhelmed by the invisible labor of parentingStruggling to transition from "parent mode" to sleepExhausted but your mind won't stop racingFeeling like you're never doing enoughThis meditation honors the reality of modern parenting - the beautiful chaos, the constant giving, and the deep love that sometimes keeps us awake with worry. Tonight, give yourself permission to rest knowing you've done enough today.Tips for best results:Use headphones for a more immersive experienceListen after your bedtime routine is completeKeep your phone on Do Not DisturbAllow yourself to drift off during the meditationYou are enough. You have given your family what they needed today. Now it's time to give yourself the gift of peaceful sleep.

Are your unresolved childhood wounds hijacking your relationships and keeping you stuck in depression or anxiety?Neuro-Rewiring Expert Mike Zeller joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 748, to share how healing your protector parts can transform conflict into deeper connection and trust, why psychedelics can reopen critical social learning periods and give you access to the hidden programming of your mind, and how to move from fear-driven protector parts into authentic flow state."Our core longing as human beings is connection and love. We think that the wounded, victim, angry self is who we are because that part is in the driver's seat, and we're identified with that feeling. When we do the neuro-rewiring work, we separate that enmeshment. And because of that separation, we can now recognize the patterns and awareness instead of being in it so much that we can't see." - Mike ZellerIn This Episode, Mike Zeller Uncovers:(00:55) The Yearning Connection(09:55) Access Your Programming with Psychedelics(14:35) From Mind to Emotions(20:50) Your Psyche Has Different Parts(26:40) Creating a Harmony Between The Different Parts of Us(30:35) Be Gentle with Your Protector Parts(35:50) Become a Master of Repair(41:05) Inner Child Healing for Men(45:00) From Anxiety to Flow State(54:20) Couples Therapy? Yes or No?(59:25) How to Recognize The Pattern(01:07:00) Rewiring Your Neurology(01:13:40) Future Pacing + Asking The Right Questions(01:20:30) Emotional Epigenetics(01:25:40) 9 Pillars to Thriving

Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 748 Are your unresolved childhood wounds hijacking your relationships and keeping you stuck in depression or anxiety? Neuro-Rewiring Expert Mike Zeller joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 748, to share how healing your protector parts can transform conflict into deeper connection and trust, why psychedelics can reopen critical social learning periods and give you access to the hidden programming of your mind, and how to move from fear-driven protector parts into authentic flow state. "Our core longing as human beings is connection and love. We think that the wounded, victim, angry self is who we are because that part is in the driver's seat, and we're identified with that feeling. When we do the neuro-rewiring work, we separate that enmeshment. And because of that separation, we can now recognize the patterns and awareness instead of being in it so much that we can't see." - Mike Zeller

In this podcast episode, Geneva Robins and Angela Hoogeveen chat about how sensitive people can be affected by world events and protect their energy without shutting down or becoming overwhelmed. Learn some handy tools to stay centred and strong even when the world is changing.Be Gentle with YourselfThere is a lot of turmoil in the world right now; sometimes, we can forget just how Sensitive we actually are. Often, sensitive people can pick up on the energy in the room if even one person is off. Now imagine the collective impact of 8 billion people reacting to something they read on the news.That collective ripple of energy can be extremely loud for sensitive folks, like a jackhammer outside your window all day and all night. But, because that energy is invisible to most people and it looks like everyone else is just carrying on with their day, we can forget that the energy levels are high and noisy. Sometimes, we even think the discomfort we feel is Only because we are " too Sensitive."The truth is that once you notice the energy level in the collective, and trust us, it is very high and loud right now, then you can begin to be gentle with your reactions and protect your amazing superpower of empathy.Think of Superman being able to hear Lois Lane cry out for help.  You are able to hear the whole world cry out. If this were a movie, Superman would be incapacitated, but you are far stronger, you can walk around and work and have conversations with others and help.But before you start helping, you need to first protect your energy. This podcast episode will help you do just that!Book a SessionNeed more help clearing out the noise? Book a Reiki or wellness session with us. Ground and Aura Up!The two primary tools to protect yourself are grounding, connecting to the earth, and boosting your aura, the energy field around your body. When you combine these two energetic techniques you gain a powerful way to stay sensitive, keeping your intuitive gifts sharp, and yet also feel well supported and protected when the energetic noise is loud.The Grounding Meditation and Tree Meditation are wonderful fools to begin balancing your energy and getting grounded and clear. You can also spend time in Nature, which is the ultimate source of this nurturing and protective energy.The AuraFlame Meditation and the Lightworker Activation Meditation have a positive and clarifying effect on your aura. When there is more light and energy around your body, it acts as a protective filter. You are still able to perceive any energy that is relevant to you, but it just doesn't hit you full-on. Any external energies have to go through the aura, and it gives you much-needed space between you and the world.Reiki also helps to clear your aura and bring that gentle presence and grounding into your energy. Try the Self- healing Meditation to give a lift to your frequency. Or book in for a session or Reiki course to get a big boost. Mainly though, remember that you can clear your energy and feel better just by intending that you are connected and in a clear, bright energy bubble.Your Ability to Feel is Your StrengthSometimes, we are so sensitive that it can feel like an overwhelming liability. We might even be criticized for being too empathetic and told to toughen up. But toughening up and becoming insensitive isn't the solution either.Often, when highly sensitive folks try to be less sensitive all that happens is that they start numbing. This can be a slippery slope and lead to addictive behaviours, out-of-alignment choices, or a total freeze shutdown.It might seem counterintuitive, but your ability to feel is your strength. Indeed, it is a hidden superpower! You have in abundance exactly what the world needs right now. The heroic task before all of us now is to share that gift in ways that are most nurturing for us and for others.What if you have courage equal to the fear?This reframing tool is remarkable how quickly it can shift your state. First, simply notice the feeling you are in. Pay particular attention to the physical sensations in the body. Instead of trying to suppress the feeling, allow the feeling space and honour it. Celebrate your capacity to feel and know this is part of your strength.Say to yourself: I feel, and that means I am strong. The more I feel, the stronger I am.Then, gently bring in this thought: what if there is an equal amount of this feeling's positive opposite feeling already inside of you? If you are feeling fear or anxiety, what if there is an equal amount of courage and strength? If it is anger what if there is also a source of Wise calm?Spend a few minutes connecting to this equal amount of courage, strength, and calm. Just simply imagining the feeling will begin to activate it. We're not suppressing the original feelings but instead seeing them as an indicator of the inner reserves of calm, wise, clear energy. It gives you a moment to tap into your ancient and soulful wisdom and power.You are not weak because you feel you are powerful beyond measure.The truth is that your internal courage and strength are far greater than you can even imagine. When you make space for your feelings and honour them, you begin to tap into a deep spiritual truth. You are a being of great light and energy temporarily housed in a physical body. You remember who you truly are.Empathy and Compassion Change the WorldThroughout history, great and lasting change has always had the energy of empathy and compassion. This is something you know well. The key is to treat yourself with as much kindness as you naturally offer others. Even tiny bits of self-care and kindness can heal. First, start with yourself and then branch out to others.As you connect to the flow of kindness, you may be inspired to make tiny changes or do positive and creative things that may help others. This is truly how the world changes, one tiny act of compassion after another!

Alright now, let's talk about it—y'all out here screaming “New Year, New Me” like you ain't said the same thing last year… and the year before that. But let me guess, the treadmill already got dust on it, huh? In this episode of Talkin' Crazy, I'm breaking down why your resolutions always flop and how to finally get it right this year. You want success? It's gonna take discipline, not vibes. So grab a pen and some honesty, and let's figure this thing out before 2026 sneaks up on you. Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

et these tested Stoic strategies pull you out of bed and back into life's beauty. Michael and Caleb explore ancient wisdom for reconnecting with meaning through nature, duty, and proper thinking.(00:47) Set Up(04:33) Crisis in Thinking(10:29) Finding Purpose(19:18) Beauty(26:59) Play With Time(38:43) Be Gentle(42:08) Summary *** Download the Stoa app (free): https://stoameditation.com/podFor those who find the app valuable but face financial constraints, email us for a free account.Listen to more episodes and learn more here: https://stoameditation.com/blog/stoa-conversations/Thanks to Michael Levy for graciously letting us use his music: https://ancientlyre.com/

In the final episode of 2024, Meech reflects on a year marked by challenges, growth, and unwavering resilience. From moments of pain to breakthroughs of progress, this raw and unfiltered episode dives deep into the lessons learned, the battles fought, and the power it takes to keep moving forward. As we close the chapter on 2024, Meech speaks to the importance of embracing both struggle and triumph, setting the stage for an even stronger 2025. This is more than reflection—it's a call to action. Tune in for one last dose of motivation and real talk to end the year right.Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

You are to give a reason for your hope in Christ.I. HAVE FAITH UNDER TRIALII. GIVE A REASON FOR YOUR FAITHIII. BE GENTLE, FEARING GOD

Its the last month of the year, but we're not last on the list when it comes to putting ourselves first. This episode I'm talking about making ourselves the priority and what it looks like when that doesn't happenLet our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Well it's that time of year again. Our yearly Thanksgiving episode is out and this time we have a special guest to help navigate through the holidaysLet our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Habits are like a snowball rolling downhill. They start small, but over time, they pick up momentum. The question is: Are you building a snowball that's leading to success, or one that's going to crush you under its weight?Today, we're diving into something that shapes every aspect of our lives—our habits. Whether they're lifting you up or pulling you down, habits are the building blocks of who you are.Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Welcome back to another episode of Talkin Crazy, the podcast where we dive deep into extraordinary thoughts and everyday experiences.  In today's episode, we tackle the theme of being the "strong friend" — the person everyone relies on for support but often feels overwhelmed and isolated in the process. We'll discuss the weight of constantly wearing a mask of strength, the importance of seeking help, and practical ways to find healthy outlets for stress. Plus, a special shout-out to our sponsor, BetterHelp, for helping us navigate through life's toughest challenges. So, sit back, relax, and get ready to explore what it truly means to be strong in a world that never stops demanding it. Don't forget to leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and follow me on TikTok and Instagram at Meech Speaks. Stay motivated, stay healthy, and let's get into it!Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

In today's episode, we're diving deep into the importance of work-life balance and effective scheduling, especially for those of us in high-pressure environments like military service. I'm opening up about my own challenges and revelations from the past month, where I found myself overworking and ultimately burning out. By reflecting on my experiences as a top-tier performer with a relentless work ethic, I'm sharing invaluable insights and strategies on setting clear objectives, maintaining flexible yet solid schedules, and emphasizing the necessity of downtime for overall well-being. Whether you're a busy professional or someone striving for better balance in life, this episode is packed with practical advice to help you recharge and refocus. So grab your headphones and let's get started on building a healthier, more balanced approach to life and work!Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

welcome back to another episode of the Talkin Crazy podcast! In today's episode, I  dive deep into the world of maintaining and building a solid personal reputation. I open up about my own experiences on recruiting duty and celebrate 15 years in the Marine Corps. This episode is filled with powerful lessons on consistency, character, and holding oneself to high standards. Whether you're interested in the military or just personal development, this episode is packed with insights you won't want to miss. Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

On this episode I bring back a previous guest @gysgtparhm_usmc to talk about my 3 months on recruiting duty. This is probably one of my favorite episodes and I hope everyone enjoys itLet our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Today, we're diving into a crucial topic—speaking up and speaking your mind.- Many of us hold back our thoughts or opinions, whether in personal relationships, at work, or even within ourselves. But today, I want to remind you that your voice matters, and silence can sometimes be your biggest enemy.- Let's talk about why it's so important to express yourself and how to do it in ways that feel authentic and empowering.Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

In this episode of Sunburnt Souls, Dave discusses how to help a friend who might be struggling with mental illness but doesn't believe they are. He shares seven practical steps that can be taken to offer support with love, patience, and wisdom.Key Points:Build Trust and ListenStart by approaching your friend with empathy, not judgement, and listen to their concerns, as many people don't recognise mental health issues because they fear judgement.Be Gentle, Not ConfrontationalAvoid labelling your friend as "mentally ill" and instead gently point out specific behaviour or feelings that concern you, creating a non-defensive conversation.Offer Support, Not SolutionsRather than pushing solutions, offer emotional support by being there for your friend and walking with them on their journey toward potential help.Highlight the Benefits of Professional SupportEmphasise that talking to a GP can help them begin the process toward further support with Psychologists, counsellors or other allied health professionals. Give Them Space to ProcessGive your friend time to reflect on the conversation. While they may not seek help immediately, your continued support can encourage them to take steps when they're ready.Pray for Guidance and HealingAs a believer, pray for wisdom in approaching your friend and for their healing, trusting that God can guide both of you through this difficult time.Set Boundaries if NecessaryIf their refusal to seek help begins to affect your own mental health, it's okay to set boundaries while continuing to offer love and support from a distance.Closing:In this episode, we explored how to navigate a sensitive situation with love and grace. Remember, offering support is about patience, empathy, and trusting that God is present in the journey. Thanks for tuning in to Sunburnt Souls!CONNECT Sunburnt Souls Facebook YouTube PARTNERS Podcast Produced by Pretty Podcasts

Today, we're diving deep. I share advice inspired by a conversation about hope, discuss the impact of having an addict in the family, and relive my journey from an uncertain high school graduate to a 14-year veteran of the United States Marine Corps.We'll explore how sometimes, the best advice comes from unexpected places, the importance of not giving up hope, and how the military shaped a better future for me. Plus, I'll be answering listener questions about life before and after joining the Marines.So, whether you're at a crossroads or just looking for a dose of inspiration, stay tuned. Don't forget to leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Now, let's get into it!Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Today we're diving deep into the roots of negativity and how it can stem from our work environment, stress, and the pressures we face. We'll explore the profound impact that mindset has on our interpretation of events—transforming negative scenarios into manageable ones with just a shift in perspective. I'll share how seeking input from trusted individuals, like my own mother, can offer alternative, positive viewpoints that ground us during tough times.In this episode, we'll unpack practical strategies to combat a negative headspace, especially for those in demanding roles such as the military, including the importance of physical activity and social connections. You'll hear about my personal struggles with high expectations and the pressures that led me to a breaking point, which ultimately guided me to seek therapy through Betterhelp.Join me as we address how to step back and challenge those imaginary scenarios that cause unnecessary stress. We'll also emphasize the power of self-compassion on challenging days and the significance of surrounding ourselves with uplifting people. Plus, I'll be sharing updates on my recent contemplation of stepping away from podcasting due to feeling overwhelmed and the incredible support from all of you.So, whether you're feeling stuck in a negative headspace or just need some encouragement to recalibrate your mindset, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice to help you through. Don't forget to connect  on social media and share your own tips for managing negativity. Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

JB, a First Sergeant in the United States Marine Corps who is close to retirement after a distinguished career of service.In this candid and insightful conversation, JB shares his wisdom on leadership, accountability, and the importance of adapting and evolving in order to genuinely connect with and mentor the younger generation. We dive into the challenges of bridging the generational gap when it comes to mental resilience and mindset.JB emphasizes how critical it is for leaders to maintain perspective, be transparent, and offer real solutions rather than just harkening back to how things were done in the past. We discuss the risk of leaders becoming obsolete or even toxic if they fail to understand and value the unique experiences of junior members.This episode is all about building authentic relationships, engaging in active listening, and taking the time to see things from others' point of view. JB shares powerful examples from his own leadership journey of the impact our actions and words can have.Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

 In today's episode, Meech dives deep into the frustration and challenges of dealing with unsolicited advice. He shares personal anecdotes and experiences from his own life and military career, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and valuing advice from trusted sources. Meech also highlights different types of people who often give unwanted advice and offers practical tips on how to handle such situations gracefully. Whether you're navigating relationships, careers, or personal growth, this episode is packed with insights that resonate deeply. TLet our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

In todays episode, I share my journey through mental health challenges, military service, and the impactful moments that shaped me, including my fight to stay in the Marine Corps and the lessons learned from constant roadblocks. Whether you're facing your own obstacles or just need some motivational insight, this episode promises to deliver. Remember to leave us an honest review on your favorite streaming platform and stay tuned for an extraordinary conversation.Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Welcome back to another episode of the Talkin' Crazy podcast!  Today we're diving deep into a topic that hits close to home for many of us—prioritizing your dreams and goals amidst life's everyday demands. We also get real about the excuses we make that prevent us from chasing our passions. From personal anecdotes about overcoming resistance to stark reminders that time waits for no one, this episode is a wake-up call to get off your ass and make things happen. Whether you're winding down from a long weekend or gearing up for the next big step in life, this is the motivation you need to start taking action today. Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Welcome back to another episode of "Talkin Crazy." This week, we're diving deep into the gritty reality behind Marine Corps recruiting with your host Meech, and special guest Gunnery Sergeant Parhm. In this episode Meech shares his frustrations about common misconceptions surrounding their roles, and both he and Peezy discuss the true value—and inherent challenges—of social media influencers in recruitment.They'll touch on the demanding nature of recruiting duty, revealing the importance of genuine real-life engagement over polished online personas. Listen as Meech reflects on his own struggles, the importance of patience, and the harsh realities of guiding potential recruits—often facing unrealistic plans from hopeful students, and delusional expectations from parents.Join us for a candid conversation about the summer recruitment challenges, the pitfalls of public misconceptions about the military, and the critical need for authentic community involvement and trust-building. Plus, Meech opens up about his personal journey with mental health and therapy. Don't miss this insightful episode packed with humor, practical advice, and gritty truths about what it takes to serve and recruit in today's military. Be sure to leave a review and follow us on social media. Let's get into it!Instagram @gysgtparhm_usmcLet our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Welcome back to another episode of the Talkin Crazy podcast! I'm your host, Meech, and today we're diving deep into a topic that hits close to home for many of us: the journey of self-improvement and the mental battles we often face along the way. In this episode, I'll be sharing my personal experiences with therapy and the surprising revelations I've encountered. We'll explore the ways we unknowingly beat ourselves up, from fearing failure to relentless perfectionism, and how these habits impact our mental health. But don't worry, it's not all heavy—I'll also provide practical tips on how to break free from these self-destructive patterns and start treating ourselves with the grace we deserve. Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/meechspeaks and enjoy a special discount on your first month. Grab a “Be Gentle to Your Mental” T-Shirt at https://rarebandy.com/products/be-gentle-to-your-mental-x-meech-speaks

Today I dive into the power of fatherhood and its impact on my life, celebrating every moment with my kids despite the challenges. I also share the exciting milestone of hitting a million views and the journey from humble beginnings to where we are now. Plus, a crucial reminder: be gentle to your mental. Own your space, believe in yourself, and never stop showing up. Don't forget to check out our new "Be Gentle to Your Mental" shirts at rarebandy.com, supporting Men's Mental Health Awareness. Keep grinding, stay extraordinary!

Desire and Guard your Usefulness to the Lord . . . I. There are some things to Run After and Run From! (20-22) II. Discern what's worth Engaging in and what's just Distracting! (23) III. Remember the Redemptive Power of Relationships! (Mal 4) IV. Be Gentle, yet Committed to Correction (and Being Corrected)! (24-26) Practical Implications o What priorities of my life might God want to flip right side up? o Do you tend to avoid or engage correcting? What might God want to grow in these areas? o Do you engage people more with hope or reservation?

"Change can happen incrementally, and oftentimes it's better that it does. We've heard the cliche 'trust the process.' Oftentimes the process is the most important thing." - David Bohl Join relinquishee/adoptee recovery coach David Bohl as he confronts the paradox of finding trust and healing in the intersection of adoption and addiction. He guides individuals towards healthy coping mechanisms and support in the face of deep-rooted trauma. In this episode, you will be able to: Understand the possible impacts of adoption trauma on mental health and addiction. Embrace TRUST as a key component in the journey to recovery. Explore the unique challenges of addiction for adopted people. Find safe and supportive communities for healing and growth. My special guest is David Bohl Meet David B. Bohl, an expert in addiction and adoption, whose personal journey through addiction recovery and exploration of the complex intersection between adoption and addiction brings a unique blend of empathy and expertise to our conversation. With a background that includes serving on the boards of prominent addiction and adoption organizations and receiving credentials from esteemed organizations like the Hazelton Betty Ford Graduate School of Addiction Studies, David's insights are informed, compassionate, and relatable. His memoir, Parallel Universes, and nonfiction book, Relinquishment and Addiction: What Trauma Has to Do with It, not only solidify his expertise but also highlight his commitment to providing support for individuals affected by adoption and addiction. David's balanced approach to destigmatizing addiction and promoting recovery reflects his genuine passion for helping others navigate their healing journey.

In the latest episode of the Diaries of a Six Figure Coach podcast, I had the pleasure of interviewing Kehla, a spiritual mindset coach for entrepreneurs. Trust me, you don't want to miss this conversation!Kehla is not only a powerhouse as a 6'2 sacral generator, but she also empowers beautiful souls to embrace their human design and gene keys to unlock confidence and presence in their businesses. She's a no-fluff girl, which means we had a real and authentic conversation about her journey and the lessons she's learned along the way.During our chat, we dove into:The importance of embracing our unique human design and how it can empower us to live authentically. From exploring different centers and gates to understanding the mutative nature of human design, this conversation is filled with juicy insights and practical tips. Plus, Kehla has a special free gift for you, get your hands on a 14-episode podcast series on embodying the Gene Keys in business. CLICK HEREEmbracing Your Humanity: Kehla reminds us that we are all human beings, and it's perfectly okay for things to look the way they do. Instead of wasting time worrying about appearances, she encourages us to come back home to ourselves and tap into our incredible inner resources. Such a powerful reminder to prioritize self-acceptance and authenticity in our journeys.Be Gentle with Yourself: She emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, especially in the world of entrepreneurship. As business owners, we often find ourselves beating ourselves up for not getting it right the first time. But Kehla urges us to let go of self-judgment and remember that we started our businesses to create freedom, make an impact, and support others. So let's be kinder to ourselves as we navigate the ups and downs of entrepreneurship.Sustainable Growth: Kehla and I dive deep into ways to grow a business sustainably. She highlights the significance of balancing energetics and strategy right from the start. Her insights challenge the common narrative of pushing ourselves to the limit and instead encourage us to find a more harmonious approach to success.I hope these takeaways resonate with you as much as they did with me. If you're eager to dive deeper into these topics, make sure to tune in to the full episode.If you're interested in learning more about Kehla and her work, I encourage you to listen to the full episode. I've also included all the relevant links and information below.I truly believe that this conversation has the power to inspire and motivate you on your own entrepreneurial journey. So grab a cup of coffee, find a cozy spot, and join me for this incredible episode.Thank you for being a part of my podcast community. Your support means the world to me.Sending you love and light, T xxABOUT THE GUEST:Living life on the edge in Victoria, BC, Kehla is a 6/2 Sacral Generator and Spiritual Mindset Coach for Entrepreneurs. She empowers beautiful souls to embody their Human Design and Gene Keys, unleashing bold confidence and impactful presence in business. She's a no-fluff gal that's all about the real talk for demystifying the online world to fuel courageous journeys. Tune in to "Living in Fierce Alignment," her electrifying podcast with 350+ episodes and 95+ interviews to date! Get ready for eye-opening insights and impactful guests.Free Gift:This is a 14-episode podcast series that shows people how they can embody the Gene Keys in their business as an entrepreneur! https://www.kehlag.com/genekeysseries Connect with...

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Enjoy this episode on When to Push Yourself & When to Be Gentle. Being to gentle can make us stay small and in our comfort zone and pushing yourself through being too hard on yourself will cause you to self-sabotage. So how do we solve it? Tune in to discover how :-) Get an ad FREE experience, 4 hour sleep hypnosis sessions, audio programs, morning meditations, playlists, BONUS sleeps hypnosis sessions each week and so much more. https://www.freehypnosis.app 

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Chil-Lax with Playing For Change - What's Going On, James Taylor & Carole King - Machine Gun Kelly (live), Ziggy Marley - Changes (live), Paloma Faith & John Legend - I'll Be Gentle, Earth Wind & Fire - Love Music, Cyndi Lauper - Until You Come Back To Me, Nelly Furtado - Turn Off The Light, Diana Krall - Temptation, Quncy Jones - Is It Love That Were Missin', Allen Stone - Naturally, Bobby Caldwell - What You Won't Do For Love and Tiffany Austin - Stardust. (relax take a chill pill and enjoy)

A lot of us hold on to our past mistakes because we think we deserve the torment of our memories. But what if I told you that The basis for forgiving ourselves is the kindness and compassion of God for us in Christ Jesus. Ephesians 4:32 says “and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you.” God needs you to forgive yourself so that others may experience the grace of His forgiveness through the example of your freedom. Of your testimony. Thanks for scooping in....share the bowl! Read more online: www.morningcerealscoop.com Follow on IG: @morningcereal8

This is Part 6 of Ronnie's latest series of talks entitled: "Simplify. Simplify." The subject is stress, and how to lighten our emotional and spiritual burdens in this ill-managed, tumultuous world. Based on Philippians 4, Ronnie follows the Apostle Paul's advice: "Be Glad. Be Gentle. Say Grace. Seek the Good." This is no silver bullet, no magic formula or elixir. It is a way of living, and it takes practice.

Christine Valters Paintner is joined by author Claudia Love Mair for a series of video conversations. Each month they take up a new book by or about a voice of color. The community is invited to purchase and read the books in advance and participate actively in this journey of deepening, discovery, and transformation. This month we are reading Soul Talk: How to Have the Most Important Conversation of All by Kirk Byron Jones. “Though your soul may be more mystery to you than familiar reality, you are not a stranger to soul moments. When you smile for no reason, know something for sure without having learned it, or feel peace amid broken pieces, your soul is manifesting itself. Your soul is your pool of deep wisdom, peace, and joy within. Your soul is the part of you God held last as God released your free flight into the world.” ~ from Soul Talk: How to Have the Most Important Conversation of All Too often, the most difficult person to speak with honestly and deeply is yourself. And yet, if you are to live your finest, freshest, and fullest life, it is essential to maintain an empowering inner dialogue. Soul Talk presents 7 enlivening steps for creating and continuing soulfully satisfying self-communication:1. Be Still.2. Lay Burdens Down.3. Listen Deeply.4. Don't Run Away.5. Be Honest.6. Be Gentle.7. Welcome New Truth.To Connect With Your Soul is to take Advantage of the Supreme Empowerment Opportunity of a Lifetime. AbbeyoftheArt.com/Lift-Every-Voice    

THIS IS A POWERFUL ONE! Are you looking to improve communication and resolve conflict in your relationships? Whether you are looking to diffuse tension with a roommate or rebuild a relationship with a long-term partner this is the episode for you! Ms. Samantha Hardy, an Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with the Chicago Center for Relationship Counseling, is on the podcast this week giving us 5 TIPS to resolve conflict! In this episode, Sam explains why it's important to: - Be Gentle with Yourself and your Partner - Understand what "Flips your Lid" using Dan Siegel's Hand Model of the Brain -The Time-Out Technique and why it's Okay! -Validate vs. Problem Solve -Go to Therapy as soon as your Partner requests it. As a newlywed, I found this episode so impactful and powerful because Sam's tips can be implemented in any relationship starting TODAY! She really lays out a step-by-step method to fine-tune your behaviors and show up to your relationship stronger than ever. Tune in to hear how you can take better control of your relationships and start resolving the conflict in your life! ________ Full Bio: Sam Hardy is an Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with the Chicago Center for Relationship Counseling. Originally born and raised in sunny Los Angeles, she graduated from the University of Southern California in 2020 with a major in Psychology and a double minor in Forensics and Criminality & Individuals, Societies, and Aging. While studying as a graduate student in Northwestern's Marriage and Family Therapy program, she loved working as a Graduate Assistant to her professional role model, Dr. Alexandra Solomon. After her graduation this past June, she has so enjoyed being in the therapeutic space with individuals, couples, and adult families facing a variety of challenges including anxiety, life transitions, difficult family relationships, communication concerns, aging difficulties, and trauma. When she isn't meeting with her therapy clients, she has also worked for the past six years as a portrait photographer. _________ Sam's Therapy Profile at CCRC: https://chicagocenterforrelationshipcounseling.com/sam-hardy Sam Hardy Portraits: https://www.samhardyportraits.com/ & @samhardyportraits More About Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ — Love this episode? — Follow @missunderstood.podcast + @kellie.sbrocchi on Instagram for episode updates + more. Special thank you to USEHATCH.FM for producing this episode.

Note: This is my opinion only. I have Ehlers-Danlos, POTS, MCAD, and Fibromyalgia.If you just want a quick answer: Subaru Outback 2023Hi everyone!Welcome to the new series: Disabled Tech ReviewsThe list of “special” and “luxury” items are not so for those of us in chronic pain. I have a budget that for my personal sit-in gets laughed out of existence.The general list used to be:SafetyMPGEnough space for kidsA CD playerAh, the simple life that at the time I thought was untenable. Now with Ehlers dances so advanced I must at the very least have my power wheelchair available I have found sedans are just crossed off the list. They might have the ability with a master's thesis in Jenga to be able to fit the wheelchair but even if this was possible my cane will not fit as well in case I have a wild flight of optimism that I might be able to walk. Those of you in the know please feel free to roll your eyes or laugh the knowing laugh of those of us who will absolutely have the cause of death written optimism she knew better but thought she could anyway.Ok so even without the wheelchair I might have the body of a middle age woman but my ligaments are more that fossilized posits not you found at the bottom of a bag covered in debris. What I am saying is sedans are low to the ground. Getting in and out of them is my Everest.So sedans and sports cars are out. Minivans while intriguing do not have the space without a massive amount of engineering. Trucks! I LOVE trucks I have wanted one my entire life but the securing in the bed and walking around let's just say I was too worn out after a quick try to even think of driving. But the electric trucks have frunks! Ah yes, the frunk. I LOVE the lightning. The F150 is the car I dream of as I remember the boys in high school dreamed of having a Lamborghini, and for the cost, it is just as likely I will ever own one. If you can afford it please let me know how amazing it is as a wheelchair user. I promise no dark jealous thoughts will be cast your way only slightly simmering resentment.So an SUV it is. This should not have been limiting but let me give you my list if I am ever to consider driving:SafetySpace for wheelchair, child, canes, GIANT BEASTIE wolf, a small but active hamster disguised as a pug, and groceriesA door that opens wide enough I do not have to pivotBlind spot AI to help me stop if my leg seizes and lane departure warning. Basically, any safety feature that will save me if my body decides to just not (this is where luxury gets redefined. I have no issue paying extra for sunroofs, seat material, or sound systems. These are in fact LUXURY. Back in the day, Volvo invented a 3-point seat belt. It saves lives. They gave the plans away. For safety. The ability to survive should not be a luxury. This is my hill it has a pre-dug grave and a soap box I am not moving from it.)This started with plug-ins or PHEV there were 3 on the market I wanted none to exist in real life despite the company's best advertising efforts. Thank you all. We probably won't be on the cutting edge of any tech but we will do our best to review what we have to make our lives as autonomous as possible from kids care (fluff feather and human) to feeding yourself, to self-care apps, to VR, to the tech we use to run Invisible Not Broken. Please feel free to reach out.Head over to www.invisiblenotbroken.com for more podcasts and blogs about life while disabled.Remember to Be Kind. Be Gentle. And of course, be a Bad Ass. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are Prone to Wander James 5:19 – My brothers and sisters, if one of you should wander from the truth We are One Another's Best Chance James 5:19 – and someone should bring that person back Galatians 6:1-3 – Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, 1. Be Godly - you who are godly 2. Be Gentle - should gently and 3. Be Humble - humbly help that person back onto the right path. 4. Be Careful - And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. 5. Be Giving - 2 Share each other's burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. 6. Be Sober - 3 If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. We are Saving from Death James 5:20 – remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death Ephesians 4:14-15 1. Recognize the importance of immaturity & maturity - 14 Then we will no longer be immature like children. 2. Recognize goofyness from authenticity - We won't be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teaching. 3. Recognize the power of unfluence - We will not be influenced when people try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth. 4. Recognize the importance of TRUTH - 15 Instead, we will speak the truth 5. Recognize the power of LOVE - in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church. We Have All Received Mercy James 5:20 – and cover over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8-9 1. Continue to See the End Coming - 7 The end of the world is coming soon 2. Continue in earnest & disciplined prayer life - Therefore, be earnest and disciplined in your prayers 3. Continue in SHOWING Love - 8 Most important of all, continue to show love 4. Continue in DEEPENING Love – continue deep love for each other 5. Continue in Continual Forgiveness - for love covers a multitude of sins

Gentleness doesn't come naturally to us. That's why we tell Toddlers holding a Newborn to “Be Gentle”. You might even say it's a ‘super' natural characteristic of God, Himself. Jesus came to teach us about Him. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/marysvillechristian/message

— Grief continues to give me opportunities to learn and grow. It teaches me to live with a heart full of gratitude and to learn to love others and myself more. It allows me to live my purpose, which is to help you on your journey. Do you realize that you change every day of your life? Each thought, experience, choice, and response creates change in you. In other words, you will either evolve or devolve in your daily existence. You have the opportunity to change for your good. How? By making conscious choices to enhance your body, mind, and soul. Realize you are always in a state of “becoming what you think.” So what are you thinking? Even in the midst of difficult times and grief, there is always something beautiful to be found. – Says Robin  Valeria interviews Robin Chodak — the author of “Ten Grief Lessons from Golf.” Robin left her job after 20 years as a computer software systems analyst following the suicide of her husband Steve in 2005.  In the midst of grief, she started a spiritual journey of self-discovery, which ultimately led to her transformation. After the suicide she started to write. At first it was personal letters to Steve. It helped her stay connected and at the same time it was therapeutic. She also began to write stories about grief, which are published in various grief and suicide journals.  In 2017 she published, "Be Gentle with Me, I'm Grieving" which won a book excellence award and also published "Moving to Excellence, A Pathway to Transformation After Grief." Grief continued to enter Robin's life.  On September 28, 2019 she lost her beloved husband Dr. Gerald Chodak unexpectedly in their home.  It was another sudden death, which caused grief trauma.  It led her to publish a 3rd book that she had written 3 years prior regarding inner peace entitled, "3 Must Have Connections for Inner Peace." In 2021 Robin launched her new online program that teaches and certifies you to become a Grief Coach. Robin's expertise is in coaching clients, speaking, writing books and teaching through online grief courses. Robin is a trained facilitator for AFSP (American Foundation for Suicide Prevention), The founder of Facebook Suicide Recovery, owner of Robin Chodak Coaching and Grief Healing LLC, Certified Grief, Life, Spiritual Coach, Certified Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, International Speaker, Certified Reiki Practitioner, Certified Master NLP Practitioner, Author of 4 books and Creator of Online courses available on Udemy.com. To learn more about Robin Chodak and her work, please visit: robinchodak.com               — This podcast is a quest for well-being, a quest for a meaningful life through the exploration of fundamental truths, enlightening ideas, insights on physical, mental, and spiritual health. The inspiration is Love. The aspiration is to awaken new ways of thinking that can lead us to a new way of being, being well.

Jocelyn, Alyssa, and Branden talk about preconceived notions, dying wishes, and the three loves of your life. Tying in prenups, the different types of dating and some exciting news about upcoming things.  Instagram Post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CSZYEfsI1Jc/NEW Instagram: tablestalks.podcastInstagram: jocelynhuftalenInstagram: alyssalynne12Instagram: waliedarus

Cautious Strategic Planning: Episode 19 - Astrological Events of Dec 27 2020 - Jan 2 2021 The sky is relatively calm this week. Our primary focus will be illuminated by the Full Moon in Cancer. This full moon is a great chance for emotional release and self-nurturing, providing a balm for the pain of the last year and an assist in letting go. We are offered a preview of how we will be required to shift and pivot with flexibility in the coming year. Take note and incorporate these insights into your intentions for the immediate and long term future. This is a week of gentle release and subtle preparation. The transition into 2021 is the perfect time to create resolutions and actually have them stick. Changes begun now will require continual commitment, but this year, more than other years, we understand that all things worth doing take time. The Wallpaper: Full Moon in Cancer The Week: Monday December 28: Putting Strategies in Place Pallas in Aquarius square Uranus in Taurus Tuesday December 29: Projections Exposed Moon enters Cancer Full Moon in Cancer 7:30pm PST Wednesday December 30: A Time for Release Venus in Sagittarius square Neptune in Pisces Venus conjunct South Node in Sagittarius Thursday December 31: Exuberant Goodbyes to 2020 Moon enters Leo Friday January 1: A Peaceful Day Mercury sextile Neptune Saturday January 2: Be Gentle with Criticisms Moon enters Virgo The Supports: Working with the Planets: Flower Essence: Scleranthus for poise and decisive action as we begin to work with the fixed squares. Crab Apple to help in the release and cleansing of the past year. Stone: Moonstone for calming and soothing of the emotional body, identification and mastery of emotional patterns stored in the subconscious Essential Oil: Laurel for overcoming self-doubt and lack of confidence, embracing commitment without fear or success, releases self-sabotaging tendencies Herb: Bay Leaf for cooking in winter soups for perseverance and support for long term aspirations Book a reading with Rebecca: https://www.venusrisingastrology.com/schedule-a-reading Bronwyn's Year Ahead Workshop, immediate access: https://astrologygoddess.mykajabi.com/pl/229409