Choosing Happy

IntroWhy does knowing your "why" feel like trying to bake a soufflé without a recipe? Because simply having that big ol' why isn't enough to get your life puffed up and soaring! Join me, Heather Masters, as we dive into the myth-busting world of self-development this week. We'll explore why your identity really needs to come first, or else your why is just a pretty motivational poster on your wall! I'll share my own lightbulb moments that made me realise my why was stuck in the past, while I was busy trying to drag it into my fabulous future. So grab a cuppa, get comfy, and let's uncover how to align who you are with what you want, because life's too short to be living someone else's script!Diving straight into the heart of the matter, we tackle the popular self-help mantra that insists knowing your 'why' is the golden ticket to fulfillment. But hold your horses, folks! We're here to bust that myth wide open! Picture this: you're armed with a shiny, inspirational ‘why' but—plot twist!—it's just sitting there like a motivational poster gathering dust if you don't believe in yourself to make it happen. It's like having a beautifully wrapped gift but no one to unwrap it! We explore how our identity is the real bedrock that gives our ‘why' the sturdy legs it needs to stand tall. If you don't trust that you're the person who can achieve your aspirations, you might as well be trying to put together IKEA furniture without the instructions—frustrating and likely to end in tears!The Details:I had a big wake-up call this week, you guys! I was totally vibing with this story about a woman shedding her old self like a snake sheds its skin. She realized she didn't want to be the savior or hold onto her past mistakes anymore. But then, uh-oh! She hit an identity crisis—who was she now? That moment resonated with me like a deep bass drop in a club. It made me realize I was also dragging around old ‘why's' from a version of me that doesn't even exist anymore. Life has a way of throwing curveballs, and if we don't adjust our identity, we're going to feel lost and stuck.So, we're laying out some myth-busting truths this week: First, knowing your ‘why' is not enough; identity comes first! Next up, your ‘why' should be believable—if it feels like a stretch, you're not going to chase it. And lastly, don't expect your ‘why' to magically motivate you; it's your identity that needs to fuel that fire. Let's flip the script and start acting like the version of ourselves that knows our ‘why' is achievable. This week's challenge is called ‘Identity Before Inspiration'—it's all about envisioning the version of you that owns their ‘why'. Trust me, once you start shifting your identity, the rest will fall into place. So let's get out there and keep choosing happy, one fabulous step at a time!Takeaways: Knowing your why is just the tip of the iceberg; it's all about believing in yourself! Your identity shapes your motivation, so focus on who you are becoming to live your why. If your why isn't believable, it's like a motivational screensaver—it might look pretty, but it's not real! Your why only activates when your identity says, 'Yes, that's me!'—embrace the messy journey! To truly thrive, we need to let go of outdated identities and step into our true selves. Tiny actions lead to big changes; even a 1% shift in identity can align your why with your reality! Chapters:00:17 - Busting the Myth of Finding Your Why01:03 - Understanding Your True Self04:05 - Facing the Truth of Identity Change04:35 - Revisiting My Why: A Journey of Identity05:56 - Identity Before Inspiration07:31 - Wrapping Up and Looking AheadLinks referenced in this episode:

Get ready for a heart-to-heart that might just make you grab a tissue and a cup of tea! This week, I'm diving into the nitty-gritty of my relationship with my dad – a rollercoaster ride of expectations, sarcasm, and a whole bucket load of love. We're chatting about how growing up with a dominant figure can twist your view of yourself, always chasing that elusive “enough-ness.” But wait, plot twist! Life flipped the script, and suddenly, I found myself caring for him instead. We'll explore how that experience led to a powerful moment of acceptance, and how sometimes, just letting go of the need for approval can pave the way for real connection. So, come along for this vulnerable journey, and let's unpack what love looks like when we stop performing and start being real!The Details:Ever had that moment when you realise you've been living in someone else's shadow? Heather Masters dives into her personal history with her dad, a man whose strong personality shaped her upbringing. But don't grab your tissues just yet! The story takes a heartfelt turn when Heather finds herself in the caregiver role, helping the man who once seemed invincible. Through laughter, tears, and a sprinkle of sarcasm, she shares how this shift forced her to confront her own insecurities and need for approval. What's truly magical is how she learned to love unconditionally, accepting both herself and her father in their vulnerable states. It's a beautiful reminder that love doesn't require perfection – it thrives in acceptance. So, grab a cuppa, sit back, and let Heather guide you through this poignant tale of growth, resilience, and the importance of being present.Takeaways: Life has a funny way of flipping the script, like when Heather became her dad's caregiver. Acceptance is a game changer; letting go of the need for approval unlocks real connections. Sometimes the healing happens when you meet someone as they are, not who you expect. True love means dropping the performance; both people in a relationship are already enough. Caring for someone can reveal your own vulnerabilities, turning the tables on past dynamics. When you stop trying to change others, peace and acceptance flow in like a gentle breeze. Chapters:00:34 - Embracing Vulnerability01:20 - The Role Reversed: A Shift in Care02:00 - Facing Vulnerability and Acceptance03:40 - The Power of Acceptance04:16 - Lessons on Acceptance and Connection05:48 - Ending and Transition to Next EpisodeStandout Quotes“Real peace means dropping the need to change anyone else…or yourself.”“Sometimes healing starts when you meet someone in the now, not the old script.”“It didn't fix the past. It brought peace to the present.”Reflective PromptWho would you become if you stopped chasing approval—and started accepting what's here now?Share your thoughts or story at @ChoosingHappyPodcast, or drop me an email and join our journey of messy, beautiful family healing.How You Can Connect with Heather and Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation:

Episode SummaryWhat happens when there's no safety net—no Plan B, no escape hatch, no “maybe next time”? In this raw, unfiltered episode of the Choosing Happy podcast, Heather gets brutally honest about the moments in life where quitting simply wasn't possible.Through two powerful stories—caring for her parents during the darkest hours, and pushing through make-or-break feedback in an unforgiving NLP Trainers Training on the other side of the world—Heather shares what happens when you're forced to become someone new just to survive.But here's the secret: those “no way out” moments aren't punishment—they're invitations to transformation. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stretched beyond what you think you can handle, or terrified you'll crack under the weight, this is the episode for you.What You'll LearnWhy life's “no escape” moments hold the power for your greatest transformationThe surprising gift found when your only option is to keep goingHow to use pain, commitment, and pressure to reveal your real strengthsThe gritty truth about resilience, comfort zones, and what “success” really meansActionable takeaways to apply—right now—whenever you feel at breaking pointHow to step into your next level, before the year endsChapters:00:19 - Transforming Under Pressure00:56 - Caring for My Parents: A Journey of Resilience03:34 - Embracing Transformation Through Challenges05:24 - Choosing Happiness Amidst Adversity06:58 - Embracing Grit and Journey07:41 - Embracing the Journey of HappinessStandout Quotes"Diamonds aren't made in comfort—they're forged under unthinkable pressure.""You don't meet your real self in the easy times. You meet them in the crisis.""Sometimes the only way out is through. And who you become in the ‘through' part? That's the whole point."Call to ActionHave you ever been so cornered you had to dig deeper than you knew was possible? Or are you there now? Share your story with Heather @ChoosingHappyPodcast or on ChoosingHappy.space.Ready to stop treating your dreams like suggestions and start treating them as non-negotiables? Join “Raising the Stakes on Happy”—a transformative course built to close your year with courage and clarity.Call to Action:Feeling like your mind's been running ahead of your soul?Join Heather for The Power Pause Weekend—a two-part online retreat to rest, reset, and rebuild your creative rhythm.Reserve your space at ChoosingHappy.space/powerpauseHow You Can Connect with Heather and Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | https://buymeacoffee.com/choosinghappy

Summary:In this heartfelt episode, Heather shares the inspiring story of David Holmes, Daniel Radcliffe's stunt double in the Harry Potter films, who was left paralysed following a tragic accident. More than just surviving, David rebuilt his life by borrowing strength and resilience, showing us how we too can model the qualities we admire when facing adversity.Heather reflects on her personal moment of vulnerability during a trip to Sydney for training with Dr Tad James, channeling his mindset to find calm strength amidst chaos.Discover practical NLP-inspired tips to begin building your own resilience toolkit today and why resilience, like choosing happiness, is a moment-by-moment choice rooted in mindset and perspective.What You'll Learn:Who David Holmes is and why his story mattersHow resilience can be a skill you borrow and embody, not a fixed traitHeather's personal story of finding inner strength when everything felt against herThree fun, practical NLP modeling exercises to boost your resilience nowWhy purpose and resilience come from the choices you make in each momentReflective Thought:When faced with challenges, who or what strength have you borrowed from? How might borrowing resilience help you now?Chapters:00:12 - The Resilience of David Holmes02:18 - From Resilience to Transformation03:41 - A New Beginning: Embracing Change in a Foreign Land04:23 - The Power of NLP: Modeling Resilience07:25 - The Power of Resilience08:06 - The Power of ResilienceCall to Action:Feeling like your mind's been running ahead of your soul?Join Heather for The Power Pause Weekend—a two-part online retreat to rest, reset, and rebuild your creative rhythm.Reserve your space at ChoosingHappy.space/powerpauseHow You Can Connect with Heather and Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | https://buymeacoffee.com/choosinghappy

This Monday on Choosing Happy, Heather busts open a gratitude myth few dare to speak about: that being grateful sometimes comes with hidden costs, like lowering your standards or tolerating less than you deserve.Drawing from personal experience, she shares how gratitude journals and “just be thankful” messaging nearly trapped her in survival mode, dimming her confidence and stifling her true calling.But gratitude's real power lies beyond the present moment—it's about being radically thankful for what's coming as though it's already yours, a concept Heather unpacks with insight inspired by Greg Braden.Learn how to spot and release toxic gratitude, embrace abundant possibility, and reframe gratitude as a vibrant fuel for growth and manifestation—not a cage for complacency.What You'll Learn:Why “just be grateful” can become a grift that limits and suppresses ambition.How to recognise when gratitude hides lowered standards or unsafe tolerance.Powerful personal stories of gratitude gone wrong—and how to reclaim its golden essence.Manifestation insights: why gratitude for what you haven't yet received is the true secret to creating more.Actionable practices to shift into expansive, future-focused gratitude.Chapters:00:11 - Introduction to Gratitude01:05 - The Hidden Trap of Gratitude02:26 - Understanding Gratitude and Manifestation04:56 - Cultivating a Future Grateful Mindset06:08 - The Power of GratitudePerfect For:Anyone tired of forced positivity, ready to honour what they deserve, and eager to align gratitude with real growth.Bonus Challenge:Tonight, write down three things you want but haven't yet received. Say aloud or internally:"I'm deeply grateful this is already mine. I trust the process."Notice the shift in energy.Call to Action:Feeling like your mind's been running ahead of your soul?Join Heather for The Power Pause Weekend—a two-part online retreat to rest, reset, and rebuild your creative rhythm.Reserve your space at ChoosingHappy.space/powerpauseHow You Can Connect with Heather and Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | https://buymeacoffee.com/choosinghappy

When Things Fall Apart: Courage, Intuition, and the Power of New BeginningsWhat if the moments when everything crumbles are actually the doorway to something better?In this week's episode, Heather shares the raw truth behind those times life fell apart—and how intuition, courage, and unpopular choices led to growth she could never have planned.Through real-life stories, you'll explore:How the “worst thing” can shift everything and invite renewalThe importance of acknowledging what you've already overcomeLessons from making hard, unpopular choices and trusting your instinctsThe difference between making courageous decisions and falling into old habitsTakeaways:Sometimes when life crumbles, it's just making room for something even better, trust me!Choosing the tough path often means you're listening to that little voice inside, so don't ignore it!Endings can feel like a total disaster, but they're really just fresh starts in disguise!Remember, you've survived 100% of your worst days, so give yourself some serious credit!Courage means boldly choosing what's right for you, even when everyone else is raising eyebrows.Ask yourself, is this choice for growth or just old fear trying to sneak back in?Chapters:00:08 - Life's Uncertainties00:25 - Embracing Change and New Beginnings02:52 - Navigating Change and Courage03:48 - Lessons on Courage and Choice04:39 - Sharing Personal Stories of ResilienceJoin us for a heartfelt, honest conversation about finding light in dark days, owning your wins, and leaning into change—even when doubt and fear surround you.If this episode speaks to you, share it and tag @ChoosingHappyPodcast, or send Heather your own story of transformation via email. heather@heathervmasters.comLet's keep choosing happy—even when it's hardest.Call to Action:Feeling like your mind's been running ahead of your soul?Join Heather for The Power Pause Weekend—a two-part online retreat to rest, reset, and rebuild your creative rhythm.Reserve your space at ChoosingHappy.space/powerpauseHow You Can Connect with Heather and Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | https://buymeacoffee.com/choosinghappy

Today, we're diving headfirst into the delightful myth that unless your purpose is grand and booming, it's not worth pursuing. Spoiler alert: that's a big ol' pile of poppycock! Your purpose doesn't need to be the loudest voice in the room; sometimes, it just needs to make a gentle ripple. We're chatting about how those little acts of kindness and presence can change the world in ways we might not even notice—like scattering joy confetti everywhere! So grab your cuppa, settle in, and let's explore how the small, everyday moments can transform lives in the most unexpectedly lovely ways. Remember, it's all about those tiny ripples that can spark a wave of happiness! “Pebbles of Purpose”This week on Myth Busting Monday, we're flipping one of the biggest lies about purpose: that it has to be grand to make a difference.What if the smallest acts — a conversation, a smile, a moment of presence — are the ones that shift the world the most?In this episode, Heather shares personal stories that prove quiet, everyday intentions often carry the loudest echoes. From a single afternoon spent comforting a stranger, to sparking smiles on her London commute, to rekindling her parents' joy one Christmas — these are pebbles of purpose dropped along the path of an ordinary life that turned out to create extraordinary ripples.You'll learn to:Recognise the small, invisible ways you already create impactLet go of the “go big or go home” pressure and reconnect with purpose through compassionRedefine what it means to live meaningfully in your own, gentle wayAnd you'll be invited to notice your own pebbles of purpose — the quiet sparks of kindness you've sprinkled without realising.Because the myth says you have to change the world.The truth is, you already are.Listen now and remember — small purposes often wear quieter shoes.Takeaways:Your purpose doesn't have to be a roaring lion; sometimes it just needs to ripple like a gentle wave.Small acts of kindness can change the world more than we think, one smile at a time.Living your purpose often happens quietly in the background, without needing a spotlight.Finding purpose is less about searching high and low and more about noticing the little things we do every day.Chapters:00:18 - Introduction to Today's Myth01:08 - The Impact of Small Acts of Purpose03:02 - Finding Purpose in Connection and Celebration04:32 - Recognizing Small Purposes07:11 - Embracing Small Acts of KindnessCall to Action:Feeling like your mind's been running ahead of your soul?Join Heather for The Power Pause Weekend—a two-part online retreat to rest, reset, and rebuild your creative rhythm.Reserve your space at ChoosingHappy.space/powerpauseHow You Can Connect with Heather and Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation:

Have you ever sat in that head-spinning zone of doubt, thinking, “Should I keep going—or call it a day?”This week, Heather shares her real-time fail forward moment: the hard choice of whether to continue The Choosing Happy Podcast after 340 episodes.With data showing the podcast is already in the top 50% globally, she unpacks what indecision really teaches us—and how to use it as an unexpected doorway to clarity.Listen in as she reframes stuckness, inspired by Joe Hudson's perspective on emotional intelligence: that indecision is not confusion—it's your inner wisdom waiting for words.What's Inside:The hidden gift inside moments of “I don't know.”How indecision exposes emotional truth, not weakness.The story behind Heather's near-decision to quit Choosing Happy—and the surprising analytics turning point.Why your body often knows when your passion is calling you back.The simplest reframe to turn hesitation into alignment.Invitation to the Power Pause Weekend: a live experience for finding clarity and rhythm again.Chapters:00:17 - Indecision and Consequences01:25 - The Inner Tug of War02:42 - Embracing Indecision: An Invitation to Evolve03:59 - Exploring Doubt and Indecision04:41 - Embracing Change: The Power of Redirection05:58 - The Power of Perspective: Leveling Up in LifeThree Core Lessons:1. Indecision is Intelligence.That hesitation you hate is often your system saying, “Something needs space to realign.”2. Doubt Doesn't Mean Stop – It Means Shift.Redefine doubt as an energy recalibration—not an ending.3. Data Is Feedback, Not Identity.Numbers reflect progress, not your worth.Heather's Reflection:“340 episodes means over 1,000 hours of energy poured out. When I paused long enough to listen, the question wasn't ‘Is it worth it?' It became, ‘How can I serve smarter?' That's when clarity walked in.”The Takeaway:Failure doesn't always mean dropping the ball—it can be redefining the game.When you're stuck, you're not broken. You're breaking open.This Week's Challenge:Where are you sitting in indecision right now?Instead of forcing a move, give yourself 48 hours to pause, breathe, and ask: “What's the truth I'm not ready to speak yet?”That single question can turn confusion into clarity.Call to Action:Feeling like your mind's been running ahead of your soul?Join Heather for The Power Pause Weekend—a two-part online retreat to rest, reset, and rebuild your creative rhythm.Reserve your space at ChoosingHappy.space/powerpauseHow You Can Connect with Heather and Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | https://buymeacoffee.com/choosinghappy

Ever felt like life's moving too fast to catch your breath? In this deeply honest episode, Heather shares how taking a complete break from “doing” transformed her energy, creativity, and inner dialogue. You'll hear what really happens when you stop forcing progress — and how the words you use can become the gateway to alignment, clarity, and calm.It's not just about mindset; it's about linguistics, energy, and the unconscious power of how you talk to yourself.This is your permission to pause.What's Inside:The surprising truth about overdoing and emotional avoidanceHow to hear your own voice again after burnoutWhy words carry the energy that shapes your entire experienceThree big lessons about slowing down with intentionA personal “Power Pause” challenge you can try this weekA calm invitation to join The Power Pause Weekend — a two-part online retreat that'll help you reset completelyChapters:00:04 - The Power of Pausing01:18 - Finding Clarity Through Pause02:48 - The Power of Words03:38 - Key Lessons on Personal Empowerment05:34 - Introducing the Power Pause Weekend06:25 - Preparing for a New SeasonThe Details:Life can feel like a never-ending race, can't it? But what if I told you that sometimes the best way to move forward is to pause? This week, we're diving headfirst into the concept of the Power Pause – yes, that's right, I said ‘pause', not ‘push'! I recently took a much-needed break, and it opened my eyes to how essential it is to step back and realign our thoughts and energy. When I stopped, I discovered that ‘overdoing' often masquerades as productivity, and boy, did I have a lot of that going on! In this episode, I share my journey of how the simple act of slowing down allowed me to reconnect with my inner voice. I talk about the shifts in language that can transform our mindset from survival mode to thriving mode. How about ditching ‘I have to' for ‘I get to'? It's a small shift that can make a world of difference! We'll also explore how aligning our language with our intentions can enhance not just our personal lives but our professional ones too. So, if you're feeling burnt out or just plain overwhelmed, let's embark on this Power Pause journey together and rediscover what truly matters. Trust me, the clarity you gain will be worth every minute of that pause!Three Core Lessons:Overdoing is avoidance. Constant doing numbs your intuition and blocks flow.Words carry energy. Swap “I have to” for “I choose to” and feel your body shift.Slow is strategic. Align your energy first; results follow naturally.Pause Challenge:Choose an evening — or a full day — and step away from noise, screens, and to‑do lists. Sit in the silence and listen to the language of your self‑talk. Then swap one pressuring phrase for a kinder one. Your nervous system will thank you.The Invitation:If you loved this episode, join Heather for The Power Pause Weekend — a two‑part online experience designed to help you rest, reflect, and realign before stepping into your next creative season.Reserve your space at ChoosingHappy.space/powerpauseMemorable Moments:“The

IntroWhat if the beliefs that feel most true about who you are—the "I'm not…" statements you've carried for years—are just choices you made in the past? In this raw Real Wednesday episode, Heather V Masters shares the story of how she transformed a 20-year identity as "not a runner" in just three weeks, from finishing a traumatic 2000 half-marathon alone and wrapped in foil to discovering joy in a 2011 charity 10k. Through visceral storytelling and uncomfortable vulnerability, she reveals how beliefs are choices we can always remake—and why she's still catching those old permission-seeking voices this very morning.What's Inside:The desolate 2000 half-marathon finish: alone, injured, wrapped in foil like a baked potato, vowing never to run againThe 2011 invitation that changed everything: a small charity supporting child-trafficking survivorsThe terrifying Richmond Park moment: realizing she could come last in a tiny race where everyone would noticeHow parental doubt ("Aren't you too old?") planted seeds of limiting beliefsThe visualization that created certainty: seeing herself cross the finish line with people behind herThree weeks of training with a dog who eventually ran home in protestThe friend's voice cutting through the noise at the finish line: healing the 2000 woundRace day revelation: coming third-last was absolutely perfectThis morning's business planning moment: catching dad's voice and choosing againThe NLP anchoring technique: using memorable moments to model future transformationThree Lessons:1. A Belief Is Just a Choice You Made—And You Can Choose AgainReality: That "truth" about yourself might just be a decision you made in a moment of pain twenty years ago. When you recognize it as a choice, not a fact, you reclaim your power to choose differently.2. Big Identity Shifts Don't Require Years—They Require a Moment of CertaintyReality: Transformation doesn't need months of therapy. It needs a single moment of 110% commitment where you decide with absolute certainty who you're becoming. Then the actions follow naturally.3. Old Stories Have Smaller Beliefs Hanging Off Them—Let Them Go TogetherReality: "I'm not a runner" came with "I'm too old," "I'm not a completer," and "I'll embarrass myself." Outgrowing the main story means consciously releasing all the supporting stories too. They don't get to come along for the ride.The Uncomfortable TruthThe stories we tell ourselves about who we are—I'm not creative, I'm terrible with money, I'm just not that kind of person—aren't truths carved in stone. They're choices we made, often years ago, often in moments of pain or failure. And we can choose again. Right now. Today.This Week's Story Rewrite ExerciseRIGHT NOW: Pause and write down three "I can't" statements. The ones you don't say out loud. The ones that feel embarrassing to admit. Those are the ones holding the most power.THEN GO DEEPER: Pick the one holding you back most and ask:When did I first choose to believe this?What was happening when I made this choice?Does it still serve me today?If I could choose again, what would I choose instead?Then visualize yourself living from that new belief with certainty—and take one small action this week that proves the new story is true.Memorable Moments That Will Stick:"Wrapped in foil like a baked potato, utterly desolate""I could come last. Everyone will know.""A blood oath with myself: I would never run again""Even my dog ran home by herself—just had enough""I could hear her voice cutting through all the other noise—'Come on, Heather!'""For the first time in a race, I wasn't alone at the finish...

IntroGet ready to ditch those bubble baths and face masks because we're diving headfirst into the real deal of self-care! In this episode, I'm busting the myth that self-care is all about indulgence and pampering – spoiler alert: it's not! Real self-care is often about having those tough conversations, setting boundaries that might make people squirm, and saying no when you really want to say yes. We'll chat about how it's the nitty-gritty, uncomfortable stuff that transforms you, not just a cheeky spa day. So grab your cuppa, kick back, and let's explore how to truly care for ourselves in a way that actually serves our future happiness!Summary:What if everything you've been told about self-care is actually keeping you stuck? In this powerful Monday Myth Busting episode, Heather dismantles the wellness industry's most damaging myth—that self-care is about bubble baths, face masks, and spa days. Through raw personal stories (including caring for her parents and pulling off an intensive AI sprint weekend while managing a full life), she reveals what real self-care actually looks like: the uncomfortable conversations, the brutal boundary-setting, and the moment-by-moment internal dialogue work that nobody wants to talk about.What's Inside:Why the wellness industry's version of self-care is potentially harmfulHow Heather managed an intensive 3pm-midnight AI sprint both days while doing housework, writing her newsletter, and starting appointments at 9am Monday—without burning outThe brutal truth she learned while caring for parents running on absolute emptyHow NLP training taught her to reframe the relentless internal voice saying "I can't do this"Why standing in the garden for five minutes saved her more than any spa day couldThe raincoat metaphor that's better than the overused oxygen mask analogyThree Game-Changing Myth Busters:Self-Care Feels Good → Reality: Real self-care often feels uncomfortable (it's discipline disguised as kindness to your future self)Self-Care Is Indulgence → Reality: It's strategic energy management so you can actually help peopleSelf-Care Is Selfish → Reality: It protects your capacity to serve—it's not about you, it's about everyone you're meant to helpChapters:00:14 - The Reality of Self Care02:01 - The Real Work of Self Care06:25 - Understanding Real Self Care08:10 - Exploring Real Self Care10:43 - The Essence of Self-CareThis Week's Challenge: The "Uncomfortable Self-Care" ExperimentIdentify one act of real self-care you've been avoiding because it feels hard. Do it. Notice how different it feels from a bubble bath—and how much more it serves your future self.Connect & Share:Share your "uncomfortable self-care" moments with us @ChoosingHappyPodcastTag someone who needs to hear this messageLeave a review sharing what version of self-care you're ready to let go ofVisit www.choosinghappy.space for more truth-telling episodesSubscribe so you never miss an episode that challenges the status quoHow You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program:

Ever had one of those weeks where you just throw all your routines out the window and dive into a pile of chocolate digestives and romance novels? Well, that's exactly what happened to our fabulous host, Heather Masters! On this Fail Forward Friday, she shares how trading her usual productivity guru habits for some good ol' escapism led to a surprising transformation in her life. Spoiler alert: embracing chaos and letting go of the rigid routines turned out to be a path to creativity and self-discovery she never saw coming! So, grab your biscuits and settle in as we explore how sometimes, breaking the rules can actually break us through to new possibilities. Get ready for a wild ride through the messiness of life, because who knew a billionaire CEO could teach us about abundance and joy?What's Inside:The "unconscious unravelling": from morning meditations to chocolate digestives for breakfast and 2am romance novel bingesHow her perfect 18-month routine had become automatic motion without presence or awarenessThe moment "something just snapped" and she walked away from all the musts, shoulds, and have-tosFive romance novels in one week: "proper escapist rubbish" about billionaire CEOs and their secret babiesThe unexpected discovery: how billionaire fantasy lifestyles expanded her limited financial worldviewSecret philanthropist heroes reprogramming her relationship with wealth—from survival to service and impactDay 12 breakdown: scattered, brain fog, questioning every decision since 2020The plot twist realization: trying to run a 2025 business with 2023 systemsThree Life-Changing Lessons:Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stop doing powerful things—when discipline becomes comfortable complacency, it's time to consciously deconstructYour system knows what it needs before your mind does—the chocolate digestives weren't self-sabotage, they were her system saying "this version of discipline has become a prison"Strategic unconsciousness beats forced consciousness—while everyone else maintained yesterday's routines, she was discovering tomorrow's possibilitiesThis Week's Challenge: The Deliberate Dropout ExerciseChoose one routine that feels automatic rather than intentional. Give yourself complete permission to ignore it for seven days. Notice what wants to emerge in that space instead. Ask yourself: "What would I choose if I weren't trying to be good at this?"Chapters:00:23 - The Unraveling of Routines01:04 - The Unexpected Transformation05:02 - The Transformation of Wealth and Impact06:51 - Lessons from Reset: Embracing Change and Discovery09:32 - Trusting the Process of ChangeTakeaways: Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is just stop doing powerful things. When your routine becomes too automatic, it's a sign you've stopped growing. Trust your body's signals, even if they seem like self-sabotage; they might be wisdom. The mess in your life could actually be the key to your greatest transformation! Dropping your usual habits can lead to unexpected insights and creative breakthroughs. Sometimes chocolate digestives are exactly what your soul ordered—who knew? Connect & Share:Share your own discipline-gone-wrong stories with us @ChoosingHappyPodcastTag someone who needs to discover churn vs. flowLeave a review about what "prison discipline" you're ready to abandonVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more stories that choose

What happens when the discipline that's supposed to set you free becomes the very prison that traps you? In this powerfully vulnerable Wednesday Real Stories episode, Heather shares her brutally honest journey from being the self-proclaimed "queen of content challenges" to discovering the life-changing difference between churn and flow. Through visceral storytelling—from needing matchsticks to keep her eyes open at 11:30pm to posting on Christmas Day as her "alternative to the Queen's speech"—she reveals how blind adherence to productivity culture nearly destroyed her love for the work she was meant to do. This isn't just about content creation; it's about recognising when your discipline has become self-punishment and choosing authentic alignment over arbitrary metrics.What's Inside:Heather's confession as the "queen of content challenges" who completed every marathon while others "dropped like flies"The breaking point: 11:30pm, day 73, exhausted from caring for parents, puppy destroying shoes, forcing another post by lamplightHer desperate plea to the challenge organiser for just one pass (denied with cheerful "whoop whoop!")The paradox: writing from "some unearthly plane" in complete exhaustion and creating her most popular post everThe cruel irony of being the only one to finish 100 days yet getting the worst resultsChristmas Day posting as "alternative to the Queen's speech" and other signs discipline had gone wrongThe brutal realisation: each post got 15 seconds of exposure before dying to the algorithm despite all that grindingTwo types of discipline: prison vs. freedom, churn vs. flowThe transformational moment when she chose alignment over grinding and everything changedThe Uncomfortable Truth:Sometimes we get so addicted to being "disciplined" that we never pause to ask if what we're doing is actually working. We confuse motion with progress, activity with effectiveness—we're too busy grinding to be smart about our strategy or authentic in our approach.Three Life-Changing Lessons:The Prison of Arbitrary Metrics: When discipline becomes about hitting numbers rather than serving purpose, it stops being discipline and starts being self-punishmentThe Addiction to Busy: We optimize for the wrong things—quantity over quality, consistency over authenticity, grinding over strategyThe Discipline That Actually Works: True discipline is getting yourself right first—your energy, intention, and genuine desire to serve—so when you show up, people can feel itThe Game-Changing Realisation:"I'd been so busy churning out content that I had no time to market it properly, no time to create proper strategy, no time to build systems that would actually work. That's when I learned the difference between churn and flow."This Week's Liberation Practice:Examine one area where your "discipline" might have become prison. Where are you grinding through something that isn't working just because you think you "should"? Ask yourself: Am I optimizing for the right metrics? What would happen if I stopped churning and started flowing?Perfect For:Content creators trapped in daily posting obligationsEntrepreneurs exhausted by productivity culture demandsAnyone who's forced themselves to "show up" with nothing authentic to givePeople addicted to being busy but not seeing proportional resultsThose ready to choose alignment over grindingAnyone needing permission to stop optimising for the wrong metricsMemorable Moments That Will Stick:"Could have done with matchsticks to keep my eyes open""Words flowing from some...

What if chasing someone else's "perfect routine" is the very thing sabotaging your success? In this disruptive Monday Myth Busting episode, Heather takes on one of the biggest lies in productivity culture: that there's a magical morning routine that will transform your life if you just follow it exactly. Through hilarious personal failures (hello, 5 am challenge disaster) and hard-won wisdom, she exposes why guru worship is keeping you stuck and how your natural rhythms might be your secret weapon. This isn't just about morning routines—it's about the courage to trust yourself over the latest productivity trend.What's Inside:Heather's brutal 10-day 5 am challenge that nearly broke her (spoiler: she works until 10 pm naturally)The Christmas product launch disaster that followed all the "perfect" marketing rules but still floppedThe brilliant baking metaphor: why she can make the same Victoria sponge recipe and get wildly different results based on stress levelsThree myth-busting truths about why nothing works for everyone and nothing stays the sameThe uncomfortable reality that energy and belief trump technique every single timeWhy honest self-awareness beats guru worship (and saves your sanity)Permission to trust your natural rhythms instead of fighting themThe Uncomfortable Truth:You're not broken if the 5 am routine doesn't work for you. You're not failing if meditation makes you anxious or cold plunges make you miserable. Sometimes the "perfect" formula is missing the most important ingredient: YOU.Key Takeaways:Nothing stays the same, and nothing works for everyone—that Silicon Valley CEO's routine might be perfect for him but self-sabotage for youEnergy and belief trump technique every time—you can have the perfect strategy, but if your energy is off, "the flour takes it personally"Honest self-awareness beats guru worship—ask what you already excel at rather than copying someone else's blueprintTrust your natural rhythms instead of forcing yourself into someone else's optimal performance windowThis Week's Awareness Experiment:Instead of forcing yourself into another guru's "perfect" routine, pay attention to when you naturally feel most energized, creative, and productive. Notice what conditions help you thrive. Maybe you're a 9 pm powerhouse, not a 5 am warrior. Maybe your perfect morning involves sleeping until 8 am. Trust that wisdom.Perfect For:Anyone exhausted by trying to copy other people's success formulasSerial routine-starters who always burn out after a few weeksPeople who feel guilty for not being "morning people"Entrepreneurs tired of one-size-fits-all business adviceAnyone ready to rebel against productivity guru cultureThose seeking permission to honor their natural rhythmsConnect & Share:Share your own routine experiment failures and unexpected discoveries with us @ChoosingHappyPodcast or email heather@heathervmasters.comTag someone who needs permission to quit the 5 am clubLeave a review sharing what "perfect routine" nearly broke youVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more myth-busting wisdom that actually sets you freeSubscribe for weekly episodes that choose authenticity over guru worshipRemember: The only perfect routine is the one that actually works for you, your energy, your life, and your natural rhythms. Everything else is just expensive self-sabotage.How You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the...

Ready to dive into the wild world of “Fail Forward Friday”? This week, I'm spilling the beans on my epic journey through job rejection land—where I got turned down not once, not twice, but a whopping four times for the same job! You'd think after acing all the tests, I'd be the golden child, but nope! Turns out, sometimes the universe has a funny way of preparing us for the big moments, and I finally cracked the code on the fifth try. Join me as I dish out some juicy lessons on resilience, turning rejection into motivation, and how clarity can catapult you towards your goals faster than you can say “job interview”! So grab your cuppa, and let's get this party started!The Details:What happens when you know exactly what you're meant to do, but the world seems determined to tell you otherwise? In this powerful Fail Forward Friday episode, Heather shares her raw journey through four job rejections in 1980's Britain—a time when unemployment was so high that career training included lessons on applying for social security. With burning determination to become a computer programmer despite lacking university qualifications, she applied for the same IT role four times, getting rejected each time despite having the highest test scores. This isn't just a story about persistence—it's about the difference between knowing your path and hoping for it, and how sometimes what looks like failure is just the universe preparing you for perfect timing.What's Inside:Heather's emotional journey from an 18-year-old temp clerk to trainee programmer in 1980's northeast EnglandThe brutal reality of economic hardship and limited opportunities that shaped her generationA detailed breakdown of each rejection: from initial disappointment to colleagues' sarcasm to genuine angerThe shocking revelation that she'd scored highest on every test but was somehow "overlooked" for four attemptsHow she used each setback as information: getting coding certificates, sharpening logic skills, building resilienceThree transformational lessons about clarity, using rejection as education, and trusting perfect timingThe moment everything changed when a new HR team asked the right questionThe Uncomfortable Truth:Sometimes the system is broken, but your vision isn't. When you absolutely know what you're meant to do, rejection becomes information rather than identity—data about what needs to change, not proof that you're not enough.Key Takeaways:Absolute clarity about your path creates unstoppable momentum—when you know (not hope) you're meant for something, setbacks become stepping stonesUse rejection as information, not identity—each "no" can educate you about what to improve or what's wrong with the systemPerfect timing includes the preparation period—those delays aren't punishment, they're the universe building exactly the qualities you'll need for successIf you're excelling but not getting opportunities, that's information about their system, not your potentialChapters:00:08 - Facing Rejection: A Personal Story02:02 - Overcoming Rejection on the Path to IT03:52 - The Turning Point: Discovering My True Potential04:46 - Lessons from Rejection06:25 - Taking Action Towards Your CallingThis Week's Persistence Practice:Identify something you absolutely know you're meant to do—that calling that won't leave you alone despite obstacles. Take one specific action this week: send one application, make one phone call, research one company, or enroll in one course. Remember: your breakthrough might be just one application away.Perfect For:Anyone facing repeated rejection while pursuing their...

What if your overwhelming to-do list isn't about poor time management—but about fear management? In this brutally honest Wednesday Real Stories episode, Heather shares a real-time breakthrough that happened this very morning. Caught in the act of planning seven major initiatives simultaneously (100 interviews, daily content, new programs, spiritual content, and more), she had to face an uncomfortable truth: she wasn't overwhelmed by accident, but by design. This episode exposes how we use busyness as protection from our own potential and why scattering ourselves thin is the ultimate self-sabotage disguised as productivity.What's Inside:Heather's raw confession about planning seven major projects for the next 100 daysThe exact moment someone held up a mirror and asked "Are you asking too much of yourself?"Why she keeps diluting her core expertise (AI for transformational practitioners) with scattered initiativesThe uncomfortable realisation that overwhelm is often protection, not poor planningHow fear of focusing on one thing keeps us from discovering if we're actually good enoughThe self-sabotage cycle: pile on everything so nothing gets done brilliantly (and you always have an excuse)Three powerful lessons about pattern recognition, trust issues, and the vulnerability of going all-inThe Uncomfortable Truth:Sometimes we don't trust ourselves enough to succeed at the thing that matters most. So we scatter our energy across multiple projects, ensuring we never have to face the vulnerability of truly succeeding or failing at something important.Chapters:00:12 - The Dangers of Overcommitment00:49 - The Power of One02:54 - Facing the Truth About Overwhelm04:36 - The Cycle of Self-Sabotage06:11 - Embracing the Power of Focus06:55 - Embracing Growth and PotentialKey Takeaways:Overwhelm is often about fear management, not time management—we pile on more because we're terrified of putting all our eggs in one basketBy trying to do everything, we guarantee nothing gets done brilliantly, protecting us from the vulnerability of real success or failureThe scattering isn't productivity—it's protection from finding out if we're actually good enough at the thing that matters mostYou don't need seven backup plans if you trust yourself with the first oneThe Real-Time Element:This episode captures a breakthrough as it happens—Heather shares the exact conversation and realisation that occurred just hours before recording, making this one of her most authentic and vulnerable stories yet.This Week's Courageous Challenge:Look at your overwhelming to-do list and ask: "What am I protecting myself from by spreading so thin?" Then choose one thing—the thing that scares you most because it matters most—and give it the focus it deserves. Not as one item among many, but as THE thing.Perfect For:Entrepreneurs drowning in their own ambitious plansAnyone who feels constantly overwhelmed but can't figure out whyPeople who suspect their busyness might be self-sabotage in disguiseThose ready to stop protecting themselves from their own potentialConnect & Share:What's the one thing you're avoiding by staying overwhelmingly busy? Share with us @ChoosingHappyPodcastTag someone who might be protecting themselves with scattered focusVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more uncomfortable truths about choosing happinessDrop me an email:

Summary:In this powerful Monday Myth Busting episode, Heather dismantles one of the most damaging myths in personal development: that you need to be "enough." Through brutally honest storytelling, she reveals her years as the "poster child" for this myth—breaking records on major projects, working ungodly hours, all while teaching time management workshops despite feeling like a complete fraud. From corporate success that felt hollow to caring for her parents while battling the relentless voice saying "you're not enough," Heather exposes the psychological trap that keeps us chasing an impossible standard. This episode offers radical liberation: what if the freedom comes from accepting you're not enough—and showing up anyway?What's Inside:Heather's raw confession about teaching productivity while barely keeping her head above waterThe "corporate greyhound" years: chasing moving goalposts and never celebrating winsThe painful reality of caring for parents while feeling inadequate despite giving everythingWhy the pursuit of "enough" actually reinstalls the belief that you're not enoughThree liberating lessons about psychological traps, human design, and the power of presencePermission to stop measuring yourself against impossible standards and embrace being beautifully, imperfectly humanChapters:00:06 - Debunking the Myth of 'Enough' in Personal Development01:00 - The Illusion of Productivity02:58 - The Pursuit of Enough04:16 - Embracing the Journey of Growth05:39 - Conclusion and FarewellKey Takeaways:The pursuit of "enough" is a psychological trap that proves you believe you're not enoughNobody is ever going to be 100% enough for anything—we're designed to grow and evolveFreedom comes when you accept you're not enough and show up anyway, focusing on presence over proofThe Liberation Message:This episode arrives when perfectionism and hustle culture have left people exhausted from trying to prove their worth. Heather's message is revolutionary: you don't need to be enough—you just need to be you, beautifully, imperfectly, gloriously human.This Week's Liberation Practice:Every time you catch yourself in the "not enough" spiral, pause. Take three breaths and ask: "What if I'm exactly enough to take just the next step?" Not the whole staircase—just the next step. Notice how that feels different. Lighter. More possible.Connect & Share:Share your own "enough" stories—the good, messy, and everything in between with us @ChoosingHappyPodcast and heather@heathervmasters.comTag someone trapped on the "enough" hamster wheel who needs to hear thisVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more myth-busting that actually sets you freeSubscribe for weekly wisdom that chooses authenticity over perfectionHow You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation:

Ever felt terrible about not showing up for something, only to discover it was the best thing that could have happened? In this thought-provoking Fail Forward Friday episode, Heather V Masters challenges our obsession with consistency and explores the radical idea that sometimes "failing" to show up is actually the universe's way of protecting and guiding us. Through two raw personal stories—a technical nightmare that led to a client breakthrough and a countryside delay that saved her from a serious accident—Heather reveals how divine timing often trumps our best-laid plans.What's Inside:Heather's vulnerable story of technical failures that felt like professional incompetence but created space for deeper client transformationThe tale of the slowest tractor in Northumberland and how it became unexpected protection from a serious road accidentWhy consistency is good, but intuition and trust in timing can be even betterThree powerful lessons about surrendering control and trusting the bigger pictureA week-long "trust experiment" to help you reframe delays and setbacksKey Takeaways:Sometimes the universe has far better timing than our carefully planned schedulesConsistency is brilliant, but learning to trust when things aren't flowing is equally importantPerfect timing isn't your timing—it's the right timing for what you truly need"Failures" to show up can actually be course corrections protecting you from harm or preparing you for something betterThe Bigger Picture:This episode arrives at a time when many people are burnt out from trying to be perfectly consistent and always "on." Heather's message offers a refreshing alternative: what if we could trust the process, even when it doesn't match our plans?This Week's Trust Experiment:When something goes "wrong" this week—delays, tech failures, cancelled plans—pause before the self-blame kicks in. Ask yourself: "What if this timing is actually perfect? What might this be protecting me from or preparing me for?" Notice what shifts when you trust rather than fight the process.Chapters:00:10 - Embracing Failure as a Step to Growth00:49 - Transformative Lessons in Timing and Failure03:17 - Lessons on Timing and Intuition04:14 - The Power of Perfect Timing05:55 - Closing Thoughts and Future EpisodesConnect & Share:Share your own stories of "failures" that turned out to be blessings with us @ChoosingHappyPodcast or heather@heathervmasters.comVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more episodes about trusting life's unexpected turnsSubscribe for weekly doses of wisdom about choosing happiness through life's plot twistsHow You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to...

Episode: Wednesday Real Stories – "The Loneliness Lie"In this deeply vulnerable and timely episode, Heather shares her raw journey through profound loneliness following the loss of her parents and her move to the most remote village in England. With no mobile signal and knowing no one, she experienced isolation that "seeped to the bone." Through honest storytelling, Heather reveals how loneliness isn't really about being alone—it's about feeling unseen and unheard. Most importantly, she challenges the loneliness lie and shares how tiny acts of connection can transform everything, especially when we stop believing we're bothering others and start seeing ourselves as gifts in someone's day.What's Inside:Heather's personal story of deep isolation after profound loss and geographic upheavalThe physical and emotional reality of loneliness—from grey mornings to conversations with dogsHow Storm Arwen revealed unexpected community connections in the darkest momentsThe shocking global rise of loneliness and why your reach-out might be exactly what someone needsThree practical lessons about connection being a choice, even when it feels impossibleA powerful perspective shift: from "I'm bothering them" to "I'm offering a gift"The difference between isolation and loneliness—and why it mattersKey Takeaways:Loneliness lies to us about our worth and tells us we're bothering othersConnection is always a choice, especially when it feels most impossibleIn a world where 1 in 6 people feel lonely, your simple message could be someone's lifelineSmall routines and companions (even dogs!) can be bridges back to hopeChapters:00:10 - Understanding the Loneliness Lie00:41 - Finding Resilience in Isolation03:21 - The Power of Connection in Isolation04:27 - The Importance of Connection06:15 - The Power of Connection07:20 - Closing Remarks and Future EngagementThe Global Context:This episode arrives as loneliness reaches epidemic proportions globally, affecting 1 in 6 people worldwide and causing more than 871,000 deaths annually. With 72% of young people saying loneliness negatively affects their mental health, Heather's story offers both solidarity and practical hope.This Week's Gentle Challenge:Try one tiny act of connection—send that text you've been putting off, smile at someone in the shop queue, or join an online community. Do it with this new belief: you're not imposing, you're offering exactly what someone might need right now.Connect & Share:Share your loneliness and connection stories with us @ChoosingHappyPodcastTag someone who needs to hear they're not as alone as they feelVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more authentic conversations about real human strugglesSubscribe for weekly episodes that choose vulnerability over perfectionHow You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation:

Episode: Monday Myth Busting – "The Myth of Work-Life Balance"In this timely and liberating episode, Heather V Masters tackles one of the most pervasive myths in modern life: the idea that we should achieve perfect work-life balance. With raw honesty and gentle humour, she shares her own "whirling dervish" days of managing multi-million pound projects, pursuing an MBA, and raising a one-year-old—all while training others on the very time management techniques she couldn't make work for herself. This episode gives listeners permission to stop chasing an impossible ideal and start embracing integration over separation.What's Inside:Why the 50/50 work-life split is a harmful myth that's making us miserableHeather's honest confession about training time management while living in chaosThe "whirling dervish" years: juggling millions, MBA studies, and a babyThree transformational lessons about moving targets, integration, and embracing imperfectionPermission to wobble, drop balls, and say "not today" without guiltA simple weekly challenge to celebrate blended moments instead of perfect balanceKey Takeaways:Balance isn't something you achieve—it's a constantly moving targetIntegration beats separation: let work and life blur naturallyImperfection is freedom—give yourself permission to wobbleChapters:00:07 - The Pursuit of Balance01:40 - The Juggling Act of Life and Work03:05 - Finding Balance in Life04:55 - Embracing Imperfection in Work-Life Balance05:54 - Embracing Self-Kindness: A Radical Shift07:37 - Closing Thoughts and Next StepsPerfect Timing:This episode arrives as work-life balance has just overtaken salary as the #1 priority for workers globally, while experts simultaneously debunk it as an obsolete concept. Heather offers the perspective shift everyone needs right now.Weekly Challenge:Ditch the scales. Notice one place where work and life blend together beautifully for YOU—maybe it's taking calls while walking, having coffee with colleagues, or choosing a nap over laundry. Celebrate those integrated moments instead of chasing impossible ideals.Connect & Share:Tag @ChoosingHappyPodcast with your "balance fails" or best wobble-saving tricksShare this with friends stuck in the plate-spinning OlympicsVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more myth-busting wisdomSubscribe for weekly doses of messy, human truth-tellingHow You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:Support this Podcast Your support is so appreciated! Thank you!

Episode: Fail Forward Friday – "The Wrong Answer, Right Solution"Sometimes the best thing that can happen to your plan is for it to fail completely—it might just be making room for something even better. In this delightfully engaging episode, Heather Masters shares the hilarious and inspiring stories of two spectacular "failures" that became household names: WD-40 and Bubble Wrap. With her signature wit and warmth, she explores how persistence, curiosity, and a willingness to reimagine our flops can turn disasters into discoveries.What's Inside:The story of WD-40: how 39 failed attempts led to the 40th formula that changed everythingBubble Wrap's journey from rejected wallpaper to packaging revolution (and stress relief!)Heather's dad's brilliant "fix anything" philosophy: WD-40, a hammer, and super glueWhy failure is often just misdirected success waiting for the right problemThree practical lessons about persistence, curiosity, and reimagining setbacksA fun challenge to look at your own "flops" with fresh eyesKey Takeaways:Failure isn't final—it's just misdirected success looking for the right problemPersistence beats perfection every time (imagine if they'd stopped at attempt 39!)Get curious about your failures—ask what else they could becomeChapters:00:16 - Embracing Failure as a Path to Success01:15 - The Birth of WD4002:39 - The Birth of Bubble Wrap03:21 - Lessons from Failure04:08 - Reimagining Failures as Opportunities05:14 - Closing Thoughts and Future EpisodesListener Challenge:This week, identify something in your life that feels like a failure and ask: "Could this be my WD-40 or Bubble Wrap moment? What if it's just waiting to be reimagined?"Join the Fun:Share the most unusual thing you've ever used WD-40 or Bubble Wrap for! Heather confesses to using bubble wrap as emergency wall insulation—what's your creative re-purposing story?Connect & Share:Tag us @ChoosingHappyPodcast with your fail-to-win momentsShare your funny, surprising, or bizarre repurposing storiesVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for more real talk about choosing happiness through life's plot twistsHow You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:Support this Podcast Your support is so appreciated! Thank you!

Episode: Wednesday Real Stories – "Unimaginable Choices"Summary:In one of her most vulnerable episodes yet, Heather V Masters opens her heart about the impossible decisions life sometimes asks us to make. With raw honesty and gentle wisdom, she shares the story of caring for both parents while facing unthinkable choices about end-of-life care—and the guilt that followed. This isn't just about loss; it's about finding courage in our darkest moments and learning to forgive ourselves when there are no perfect answers.What's Inside:The reality of caring for loved ones when there are no good optionsHeather's deeply personal story of holding her father's hand through his final momentsThe weight of making decisions for someone you love—and living with the aftermathThree gentle lessons about courage, peace, and resilience in impossible circumstancesA reminder that choosing with love is always enough, even when it doesn't feel like itPermission to feel the grief, guilt, and healing that comes with unimaginable choicesChapters:00:13 - Facing Tough Decisions02:31 - Navigating Tough Choices in Caregiving04:01 - A Turning Point in Grief05:22 - Navigating Difficult Decisions in Love and Loss07:44 - Embracing Difficult ChoicesKey Takeaways:Choose courage over shame when facing impossible decisionsMake peace and allow yourself to let go of guiltSurviving the unimaginable builds quiet strength for everything that followsFor Listeners:If you're carrying your own impossible choice—past or present—this episode offers gentle company, understanding, and permission to be human in your hardest moments.Connect & Share:Your stories matter—share them with us @ChoosingHappyPodcast or email heather@heathervmasters.com Subscribe for more real, honest conversations about choosing happiness through life's challengesVisit www.choosinghappypodcast.com for additional support and communityHow You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:Support this Podcast Your support is so appreciated! Thank you!

This week on this Monday's Choosing Happy Podcast, Heather V Masters busts one of the trickiest myths in personal growth and entrepreneurship: the idea that “experts,” authority figures, or even well-meaning loved ones know what's best for us. With warmth, vulnerability, and her trademark British wit (yes, there's a bit about the dog's pension!), Heather shares how taking someone else's advice once landed her in court—and why, when things go pear-shaped, it's always you left picking up the pieces.What's Inside:The problem with outsourcing our decision-making—even to “experts,” officials, or familyHeather's honest story about following her father's advice (and living with the fallout)Lessons in discernment, boundaries, and listening to your own gutThe ultimate truth: we are responsible for our own choices and resultsA gentle, practical challenge to help you trust your instincts this weekBonus: Relatable laughs, the chaos of village fêtes, and—of course—the fate of the dog's pensionTakeaway:Next time someone tries to steer your ship (no matter their title or relationship), pause. Is this right for you, or just comfortable for them? Remember: you're the captain. Own your choices—and your results.In a world full of advice, remember that your life's path is uniquely yours, not a group project.Every so-called expert is just a human navigating their own challenges, so trust your instincts first.When advice makes your stomach twist, that's your inner wisdom nudging you to pause and reflect.It's perfectly okay to listen to others, but your choices should always be driven by your own heart.The choices we make and the results that follow are ours alone, so embrace that responsibility.Next time someone tries to steer your ship, ask if their advice fits you or just makes their life easier.Chapters:00:12 - The Challenge of Trusting Others01:06 - Navigating Advice and Personal Decisions03:34 - The Turning Point: Reclaiming Control04:00 - Lessons on Personal Empowerment05:49 - Taking Control of Your Choices07:12 - Closing Remarks and Next StepsLet's Connect:Subscribe, rate, and review the show. Every little helps in spreading the word about my podcast.Share your own “trust me…” stories or worst advice moments (tag @ChoosingHappyPodcast)For more honest real-life reflection, visit www.choosinghappypodcast.comResourcesConnect with Heather for transformation workNew LinkedIn AI newsletter for transformational practitionersNext EpisodeJoin us next Monday for another Myth Busting episode where we flip the narrative on some common "truths".How You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a...

Episode SummaryIn this raw and revealing Fail Forward Friday episode, Heather shares two contrasting stories from her own business journey: why she persisted with her Sunday newsletter after two years of declining engagement, and why she completely pivoted away from YouTube after a controversial interview led to algorithmic exile. Through these parallel experiences, she explores the crucial difference between productive persistence and digital self-harm.The StoriesThe Newsletter Journey: After 88 editions over two years, spending 4+ hours every Sunday writing, Heather watched her email bounce rates rise and open rates plummet. On the verge of quitting, she asked the universe for a sign - and got a response after edition 86 that led to new business. She persisted.The YouTube Pivot: Following a controversial interview, Heather's YouTube channel went from hundreds of views to literally zero - not just new videos, but even older content was algorithmically suppressed. Recognising the need to niche down in today's landscape, she pivoted completely to LinkedIn, launching an AI-focused newsletter for transformational practitioners.Key Topics CoveredRecognising the difference between productive persistence and stubborn repetitionReading micro-signals versus macro-resultsHow algorithms can completely reshape your digital strategyThe importance of niching down in today's content landscapeWhen to trust your energy levels as crucial business dataPivoting your method while maintaining your missionChapters:00:32 - The Balance of Persistence and Letting Go02:21 - A Tale of Two Journeys03:39 - The Pivot Decision: Learning from YouTube's Founders05:19 - Navigating Persistence and Pivoting06:45 - The Signals of ChangeThree Core LessonsLook for micro-signals, not just macro-results - Small signs of engagement matter more than vanity metricsTrust your energy - Generative challenge feels different from soul-crushing strugglePivot your method, not your mission - Stay true to your purpose while being flexible about your platformThis Week's Reality CheckStrip away all the "shoulds" and "I've already invested so much time" and ask: What does your gut tell you about your current path? Trust your intuition - it's been collecting data this whole time.Community ChallengeShare your current persistence vs pivot dilemma in one sentence @ChoosingHappyPodcast - your story might help someone else navigate their crossroads.ResourcesConnect with Heather for transformation workNew LinkedIn AI newsletter for transformational practitionersNext EpisodeJoin us next Friday for another Fail Forward episode where we continue turning setbacks into comebacks.How You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community |

Episode DescriptionIn this heartfelt episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast, Heather V Masters shares a touching story from her remote village about how slowing down to truly see and connect with others transforms even the most frustrating moments into acts of kindness and community.From an inefficient, twice-weekly community bus ride where strangers become a small travelling family, to a simple act of buying a sun hat for someone in need, Heather uncovers the profound beauty and power of presence, care, and kindness.What You'll Discover:How choosing presence over efficiency reveals hidden moments of joyThe transformative power of truly seeing the people around youWhy some of life's most precious gifts—connection, care, community—can't be rushedSimple ways to bring more mindfulness and kindness into your daily routineKey Takeaways:Sometimes the most beautiful connections happen at the speed of care, not the speed of convenience. This episode is a gentle reminder that when we slow down enough to truly see the souls around us, we discover that love is happening everywhere.Chapters:00:18 - The Beauty of Slowing Down00:59 - Life in a Remote Village04:52 - The Heart of the Community06:55 - The Beauty of Connection08:21 - Embracing Presence in Everyday Life10:14 - Connecting Through KindnessYour Weekly Challenge:Choose one regular activity where you usually rush or zone out—your commute, grocery shopping, walking somewhere—and instead of trying to get through it, try to get present in it. Notice the people around you, really see them, and look for small acts of kindness you could offer.If this story touched your heart, please share your own moments of unexpected community and kindness with us on social media or via email for a chance to be featured in future Wednesday Real Stories episodes.Remember to subscribe so you never miss these heartwarming stories, and if this episode moved you, please leave a review to help these stories of human kindness reach more people who need reminding that love is happening everywhere.Connect with Heather and the Choosing Happy Community:Instagram: @ChoosingHappyPodcastX: @ChoosingHappyPodcastFacebook: Choosing Happy PodcastLinkedIn: Heather V MastersWebsite: choosinghappypodcast.comIf this episode resonates, share it with your tribe and leave a review — your voice helps us reach others who need this message.ResourcesWebsite: www.choosinghappypodcast.comConnect with Heather for transformation workHeather Masters How You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:

In this empowering episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast, Heather V Masters busts the damaging myth that being hard on yourself leads to better results. Drawing on the latest psychological research, Heather reveals why harsh self-criticism actually fuels anxiety, depression, burnout, and procrastination — and how self-compassion is the real key to sustainable motivation and success.Join Heather as she shares candid reflections on battling her inner critic and practical tools like the 'Inner Mentor Switch' to transform destructive self-talk into empowering, kind guidance. You'll learn why treating yourself with the empathy you'd offer a friend ignites resilience, courage, and lasting growth instead of self-doubt and exhaustion.Key Takeaways:Why your inner critic is sabotaging your success, not motivating itThe science behind self-compassion and improved performanceHow to identify and transform harsh self-talk patternsThe 7-day "Inner Mentor Switch" exercise to rewire your mindsetWhy high standards and self-kindness work better togetherReady to ditch toxic self-judgment, embrace compassionate growth, and truly level up? Tune in for breakthrough lessons you don't want to miss.Chapters:00:12 - Dismantling the Tough Love Myth00:36 - Understanding the Inner Critic01:46 - The Power of Self-Compassion03:12 - Understanding the Inner Critic04:55 - Embracing Compassionate GrowthConnect with Heather:Follow @ChoosingHappyPodcast on Instagram, X, and Facebook for daily doses of authentic inspiration and join our community of people choosing happiness over hustle.If this episode resonates, share it with your tribe and leave a review — your voice helps us reach others who need this message.ResourcesWebsite: www.choosinghappypodcast.comConnect with Heather for transformation workHeather Masters How You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:Support this Podcast Your support is so appreciated! Thank you!

What if the worst day of your life turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to you? Today, I'm diving into my own story of getting fired from a job I adored, and how that seemingly devastating moment became the catalyst for my wild adventure into coaching and transformation. Trust me, I didn't see it coming either! We're chatting about the three Rs of radical trust: resisting the urge to find immediate meaning, releasing our attachment to how life “should” be, and receiving those unexpected gifts that come from chaos. So grab your favourite snack and get comfy, because we're about to turn those plot twists into pure magic!Episode SummaryIn this deeply vulnerable and transformative Fail Forward Friday episode, Heather shares the devastating moment 23 years ago when she was made redundant from a job she loved and excelled at. What seemed like the worst day of her life became the catalyst that launched her into coaching, NLP, hypnosis, and transformational work - creating a life beyond her wildest dreams.The StoryTwenty-three years ago, Heather sat in a sterile meeting room hearing the words "we're making you redundant" from a job she absolutely loved. The devastating blow shattered her fundamental belief that doing your best would keep you safe. Through tears and sleepless nights, she wrestled with questions about her worth and future. What she couldn't see then was that this wasn't the end of her story - it was life's greatest plot twist, pushing her from corporate safety into the wild, uncertain path of transformation work.Key Topics CoveredHow devastating setbacks can be life's way of redirecting usThe difference between falling and learning to flyWhy some gifts only reveal themselves in hindsightReleasing attachment to how life "should" beFinding the unexpected gifts hidden in chaos and uncertaintyTransforming endings into extraordinary beginningsChapters:00:08 - Transforming Devastation into Magic02:01 - From Redundancy to Reinvention02:49 - Embracing the Unexpected: Plot Twists in Life04:47 - Embracing Transformation: The Power of Plot Twists06:31 - Embracing Uncertainty and Choosing HappinessThe 3 R's of Radical TrustResist the urge to force immediate meaning - Some gifts only reveal themselves in hindsight; trust that clarity comes when you're readyRelease attachment to how your life 'should' be - Let go of your script and make space for something better than you could imagineReceive the unexpected gifts trying to emerge - Stay open to what wants to come through, even if it looks nothing like what you expectedThis Week's Transformational ExerciseWrite down your devastating plot twist - Capture every raw emotion and fear from a major setbackLetter from your future self - Write from the wiser version of you who has embraced the 3 R'sAsk the powerful question - "What new story am I willing to step into?"Community ChallengeShare your biggest plot twist moment using #PlotTwist and tag @ChoosingHappyPodcast - let's redefine failure as the beautiful beginning of magic.ResourcesWebsite: www.choosinghappypodcast.comConnect with Heather for transformation workHeather Masters Next Fail Forward Friday EpisodeJoin us next Friday as we continue failing forward and turning setbacks into comebacks.How You Can Support This Independent Podcast:Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review

Episode 122: Wednesday Real Stories - "When Fear Almost Stole My Magic"Duration: Approximately 6-8 minutesHost: Heather V MastersShow: Choosing Happy PodcastEpisode SummaryIn this deeply moving Wednesday Real Stories episode, Heather shares a powerful late-night tube encounter that transformed her understanding of fear, trust, and human kindness. Through vulnerable storytelling about a moment when choosing openness over fear led to an unforgettable act of spontaneous kindness from strangers, she explores how our assumptions can rob us of magical moments.The StoryLate one evening on the London Underground, Heather found herself alone when a group of energetic students filled the carriage around her. Despite her initial fear and impulse to shut down, she chose to stay open when one student noticed her anxiety and tried to ease her nerves. What happened next - an impromptu performance of her favourite Queen song by the entire group - became one of the most beautiful moments of human connection she's ever experienced.Key Topics CoveredDistinguishing between real danger and fear-based storiesThe magic that can happen when we choose openness over retreatHow vulnerability creates space for genuine human connectionThe power of staying present in uncomfortable momentsRecognising when fear is protecting us vs. limiting usChapters:00:18 - Choosing Courage Over Comfort01:16 - Overcoming Anxiety on the Tube02:55 - A Magical Moment on the Tube04:18 - Embracing Vulnerability and Overcoming Fear05:48 - Choosing Openness Over Fear06:14 - Closing Remarks and Future EngagementThree Core LessonsTrust your instincts, but know the difference between real danger and fear-based assumptionsLean into safe discomfort - sometimes magic and genuine kindness wait on the other side of uncomfortable feelingsVulnerability invites vulnerability - honest openness creates space for others to respond with joy and connectionThis Week's ChallengeReflect on a recent moment when fear made you want to shut down or avoid someone. Ask yourself: Was this fear based on real danger or just a story your mind created? Then identify one small, safe way you could stay open next time that familiar fear creeps in.Connect with the ShowWebsite: www.choosinghappypodcast.comSocial: @ChoosingHappyPodcastShare your own stories of choosing openness over fearNext EpisodeJoin us next Wednesday for another Real Stories episode. where we explore the moments that teach us most about choosing courage over comfort.Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:

Monday Myth Busting - The "Do More, Take Massive Action" LieIn this raw and honest Monday Myth Busting episode, Heather tackles one of the biggest lies in entrepreneurship and personal development: that "massive action" equals success. Through vulnerable storytelling about her own addiction to doing, she reveals why frantic activity often masks deeper identity issues and keeps us stuck in cycles of exhaustion and self-sabotage.Key Topics CoveredThe psychology behind "doing addiction" and why it becomes unconsciousHow the need to constantly fix, learn, and figure things out is actually avoidanceThe role of AI in helping us avoid showing up authenticallyWhy identity-level beliefs determine success more than strategyThe power of vulnerable humanness in an increasingly artificial worldThe difference between "trying" and actually making things happenHow to check your energy before taking any actionMain TakeawaysYou can't out-hustle your identity - if you believe you're meant to fail, you'll prove yourself rightYour identity is your operating system - strategies are just apps that won't work on faulty softwareVulnerable humanness is your competitive advantage - especially in our AI-dominated worldEnergy matters more than activity - one aligned action beats a hundred desperate onesThe antidote is simple - check your energy before you actChapters:00:10 - Reflecting on Your Progress00:43 - The Cost of Hustle Culture03:08 - Understanding the Roots of Failure05:31 - The Power of Identity in Achieving Success06:01 - Embracing Strategic ActionThis Week's Action StepBefore taking any business action this week, pause and ask: "What energy am I bringing to this?" If it feels desperate or forced, stop and align your inner game first.Please like, share, subscribe and leave me a review. This is a self funded podcast and every small action helps me build the podcast.Resources MentionedChoosing Happy Podcast: www.choosinghappypodcast.comConnect with Heather V Masters for transformation workNext EpisodeTune in next Monday for another myth-busting session where we challenge conventional wisdom in personal development and entrepreneurship.Please like, share with someone who may need to hear this today, and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it.Tired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:Support this Podcast Stop getting ready to get ready, and just... start.

Episode SummaryIn this deeply personal Friday Fail Forward episode, Heather shares her journey through one of her darkest periods - when suicidal thoughts felt overwhelming and her dog's broken leg pushed her to breaking point. Discover how personal anthems became her lifeline and learn practical ways to use music and movement as tools for mental health recovery.Content Warning: This episode discusses suicidal ideation and mental health struggles. Please listen with care and seek professional support if needed.Key TakeawaysWhy "personal anthems" can be powerful tools for mental health recoveryThe science behind how music reduces stress hormones and increases happiness chemicalsThree practical strategies for using music to shift your emotional stateHow movement amplifies the neurological benefits of musicThe importance of creating an "emergency anthem" for your darkest momentsChapters:00:22 - Introduction to Mental Health Awareness01:07 - Overcoming Darkness: A Personal Journey04:12 - Finding Strength Through Music07:02 - Using Personal Anthems to Empower Yourself08:59 - The Power of Personal Anthems10:26 - Choosing Happy: The Power of Music and MovementSupport the PodcastPlease like, subscribe, leave a review and share the podcast with someone who might need to hear this today.Support the podcast by donating: Support this Podcast Practical Tools MentionedEmergency Anthem - One song that makes you feel unstoppableDaily Soundtrack - Morning, focus, and reset anthems for different needsMovement + Music - Combining physical movement with music for maximum impactThe 3-Minute Reset - Using your anthem with movement for just 3 minutes when strugglingResources & SupportIf you're struggling with your mental health:Contact your GP or local mental health servicesUK: Samaritans 116 123 (free, 24/7)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 85258Mind: 0300 123 3393Connect & ShareShare your personal anthem using #ChoosingHappyAnthemTag @ChoosingHappyPodcast on social mediaJoin the Choosing Happy community to connect with othersMentioned Songs"Don't Stop Me Now" by Queen"Love My Life" by Robbie WilliamsMore Takeaways:In this episode, we dive deep into the heavy stuff, discussing mental health and the darkness of suicidal thoughts, so buckle up!We all have dark days, but remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness—you're not alone, my friend!Music can be a powerful lifeline; it can literally change your brain chemistry and lift your spirits—let's get moving and grooving!Creating a personal anthem can turn your mood around—find that one song that makes you feel unstoppable, and dance like nobody's watching!The journey through mental health struggles can feel isolating, but sharing our stories connects us—we're all in this together, folks!Sometimes, all it takes to shift from despair to hope is three minutes of music and movement—let's keep choosing happy, one beat at a time!

"From Fear to Freedom: My Journey Through Decision Making in a Crisis"In today's Wednesday Real Stories episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast, Heather V Masters shares a deeply personal journey through the paralysing uncertainty faced while caring for her parents in crisis. With raw honesty and warmth, Heather explores the grip of decision paralysis and reveals how finding courage in the midst of chaos can create momentum and clarity—even when the path forward seems blocked by fear and doubt.Through a powerful storm-crossroads metaphor, Heather illustrates why waiting for perfect clarity keeps us stuck and how taking even the smallest, most imperfect step forward can change everything. Listeners will discover that movement itself breaks paralysis, creates momentum, and reveals the path ahead.This episode is a heartfelt reminder that joy and positivity aren't about perfect circumstances but about rising above reality and embracing hope and resilience as daily practices. Heather's story demonstrates that you don't need to have it all figured out to deserve happiness—you just need the courage to take one brave step forward.Key Takeaways:Why decision paralysis happens during crisis and uncertaintyHow to find courage when you can't see the path clearlyThe power of imperfect action over perfect planningWhy joy is a choice you make daily, not a destinationPractical ways to move forward when everything feels overwhelmingIf you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed by what comes next, or paralysed by uncertainty in your business, relationships, or life decisions, this episode is for you. Tune in, grab your favourite cuppa, and let Heather's authentic story guide you toward choosing happy in every messy, beautiful moment.Chapters:00:12 - Facing Uncertainty: Embracing Change01:10 - Facing Decision Paralysis03:15 - Facing Decision Paralysis: The Storm of Uncertainty05:17 - Embracing Courage in Uncertainty06:37 - Choosing Happiness in Uncertain Times08:31 - Conclusion and Community Engagement

In this week's Myth Busting Monday episode, Heather unpacks the exhausting and toxic myth that we must constantly prove ourselves to be worthy and successful. Through personal stories and hard truths, Heather reveals how the relentless chase to prove yourself fuels anxiety, imposter syndrome, and that nagging ‘not enough' feeling.Listeners will hear about the self-development hamster wheel—endless courses and gurus promising to fix what isn't broken—and why these often mask the real issue: lack of authentic self-acceptance. Heather offers practical insights on how to recognize this pattern and shares a tiny experiment designed to help you start breaking free and embrace the power of simply being yourself.This episode is essential listening for anyone trapped in the validation loop who wants to reclaim their inner peace, power, and joy. Tune in and start choosing happy today!Takeaways: Proving yourself is like running on a hamster wheel, exhausting and unproductive, so stop it! Feeling the need to prove your worth often leads to chronic anxiety and stress, yikes! The chase for self-improvement programs can distract you from realizing you're already enough. Authenticity is your superpower; being yourself is way more powerful than performing for approval. When you stop trying to prove yourself, you unlock your real strengths and abilities. Remember, you don't need to earn your place here; you already belong just as you are. Chapters:00:13 - Dismantling the Myth of Proving Yourself00:29 - The Exhausting Cycle of Proving Yourself04:10 - The Shift from Proving to Accepting07:14 - Embracing Authenticity: The Power of Acceptance09:41 - Choosing to Be: The Journey of Self-AcceptancePlease share, like and/or leave a review and support the podcast. I really appreciate it!Ready for more uncomfortable truths?Join my Sunday Newsletter where we're redefining what it means to thrive without the fluff: Sunday NewsletterTired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:Support this Podcast Stop getting ready to get ready, and just... start.

Ever feel like a productivity failure because you can't get through your daily to-do list? You're not broken - you're just human. In this episode, Heather breaks down the science behind why we're terrible at estimating time and shares practical strategies to stop the self-sabotage cycle.What You'll LearnWhy we overestimate what we can do in a day but underestimate what we can achieve in a yearThe "planning fallacy" and how it's sabotaging your productivityHow to audit your persistent tasks: delegate, schedule, or deleteThe 3-3-3 rule for realistic daily planningHow to stop negative self-talk about productivityChapters:00:07 - Introduction to Fail Forward Friday00:58 - The To Do List Trap05:27 - Reassessing Your Daily Tasks08:43 - The Importance of Small Wins10:55 - Embracing Productivity and Self-KindnessKey TakeawaysThe Planning Fallacy: We consistently underestimate task completion time by 25-50%, even with previous experience of similar tasks taking longer.The Compound Effect: Small, consistent actions over time create massive results, but we can't see it day-to-day.The 3-3-3 Rule: Each day, pick 3 important tasks, 3 admin tasks, and 3 small wins to celebrate.Your Friday ChallengeLook at your current to-do list and pick the 3 things that have been there the longest. For each one, make a decision:Delegate it - Can someone else do this?Schedule it properly - Give it realistic time allocationDelete it entirely - Does this actually need doing?Practical Tools MentionedThe Sunday Audit: Weekly review of your ongoing to-do listThe Delegation Detector: If it's been on your list for more than a month, it needs actionThe Compound Tracker: Keep a weekly wins list to see your actual progressQuote of the Episode"Productivity isn't about doing more things. It's about doing the right things. And sometimes the rightest thing is to stop beating yourself up for being human."Resources ReferencedDaniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky's research on the planning fallacyThe compound effect of small consistent actionsConnect with HeatherWebsite: www.choosinghappypodcast.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heatherbond/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hvmasters/ About the Choosing Happy PodcastThe Choosing Happy Podcast is for transformational practitioners - coaches, consultants, NLP practitioners, hypnotherapists, and energy workers - who are ready for uncomfortable truths and real transformation. New episodes drop three times a week: Monday myth-busting, Wednesday real wins, and Friday fail forward sessions.Subscribe & ReviewIf this episode resonated with you, please:Subscribe on your favourite podcast platformLeave a 5-star reviewShare with someone who needs to hear this messageAvailable on: Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and all major podcast platforms.Episode Length: 12-15 minutesRelease Date: 15 August 2025Tags: Productivity, Time Management, Personal Development, Coaching, NLP, Self-Compassion, Planning FallacySupport the Podcast with a donation: Support this Podcast Companies mentioned in this episode: Daniel Kaneman ...

Alright, folks! Buckle up because today, we're diving into the wild world of the invisible stories that run our lives, and trust me, they can get a little wacky! I'm talking about those assumptions we cling to like a child to a teddy bear, thinking they're keeping us safe when really, they're just holding us back. Remember that time I dressed like I was about to conquer Mount Everest, only to step outside and melt faster than an ice cream cone on a summer day? Yeah, that's a perfect metaphor for how we overthink our decisions! Today, I'm sharing some honest-to-goodness wisdom about how these pesky little narratives are costing us not just our sanity but also opportunities galore. So, grab your favourite beverage and let's unravel these tales together—because the world needs your brilliance, and it's time to break free from those self-imposed chains!The Details:In a world where our brains are busy crafting elaborate tales about why we can't do something, it's time to flip the script! This Wednesday on the Choosing Happy Podcast, I took a hilarious yet enlightening trip down memory lane, well - yesterday, sharing the tale of my ill-fated dog walk that turned into a life lesson. We often get trapped in our own narratives, believing that our assumptions are facts. But guess what? They're just stories! And like bad sitcoms, they need to be cancelled! From thinking that following up is annoying to believing our pricing is too high for clients, we're unravelling these myths like a ball of yarn tangled in a cat's paws. Join me as I challenge you to audit your stories and take a leap of faith into evidence-based decision-making. Because let's be real, the only drama we need in our lives is the one on Netflix!Takeaways: Our internal stories often lead us to make assumptions that limit our potential, just like my dog walk saga! Don't let your mental narratives dictate your reality; test your assumptions and see what happens! Every assumption you haven't tested is a decision you're making on behalf of others—let them decide! Reality rarely matches our dramatic imaginations, so take action instead of getting stuck in your head! Challenge yourself to a little 'story audit' and find out which beliefs are holding you back from greatness! The world is waiting for what you have to offer, so stop hiding behind those old, untested stories! Chapters:00:01 - Introduction to Wednesday Wisdom02:22 - The Invisible Stories That Shape Our Lives06:03 - The Story Audit: Overcoming Assumptions08:07 - Challenging Assumptions: A 24-Hour Experiment10:00 - Challenging Your AssumptionsWhere you can find out more:Join my Sunday Newsletter where we're redefining what it means to thrive without the fluff: Sunday NewsletterTired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:

Right, grab your brew because I'm about to ruin Monday motivation for you forever.Today we're tackling three uncomfortable truths about why all that "Monday motivation" content is actually keeping you more stuck than a pair of skinny jeans after Christmas dinner. And honestly? You'll thank me for it.I'm sharing my own Monday morning disaster - where I spent more time consuming motivation than actually doing anything that mattered. Because here's the thing about running a podcast called "Choosing Happy" - people expect you to have your life sorted. Spoiler alert: I absolutely don't.By the end of this chat, you'll understand why motivation is basically emotional chocolate - feels amazing in the moment, gives you a proper high, then leaves you crashed out wondering why you feel worse than when you started.What you'll discover:Why motivation isn't fuel - it's a drug that keeps you coming back for more hitsHow "getting motivated" is actually procrastination wearing a fancy outfitWhy the motivation industry needs you to stay dependent (and how to break free)What to do instead when Sunday night dread hitsThe uncomfortable truth? The most productive people I know are often the least motivated. They just do the work whether they feel like it or not.So if you're tired of that cycle of Sunday night planning, Monday morning panic, and Wednesday "where did my week go?" - this one's for you.Next week: Why your weekend habits reveal everything about your real priorities. Trust me, you're not going to like it. But you'll probably need to hear it.Key Moments:00:01 - Why I'm ruining Monday motivation forever01:00 - My actual Monday morning disaster (not some made-up client story)04:48 - Truth #1: Motivation is a drug, not fuel07:04 - Truth #2: Monday motivation = procrastination in disguise09:00 - Truth #3: The motivation industry keeps you dependent11:27 - What to do instead of getting motivatedYour challenge: Next Monday, skip the motivational content entirely. Pick one thing - one actual thing - and do it before you allow yourself to consume any "motivation." Watch what happens.Ready for more uncomfortable truths?Join my Sunday Newsletter where we're redefining what it means to thrive without the fluff: Sunday NewsletterTired of the same patterns keeping you stuck?Check out the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program: www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breakerWant to dive deeper? Drop me an email: heather@heathervmasters.comJoin the conversation: Community | Buy me a coffeeIf you would like to support the podcast you can drop a donation here:Support this Podcast Stop getting ready to get ready, and just... start.

Your Fear Is Fake - Here's What's Really Stopping YouLet's dive into the good stuff right off the bat: this week, we're tackling the sneaky shame monster lurking in the corners of our minds and how it's been running the show more than we'd like to admit.I'm Heather Masters, and trust me, if you've ever felt like you're not good enough or you've sabotaged your own success, you're not alone—this is the kind of chat we all need! We're peeling back the layers on why shame is often the real culprit behind our fears, and spoiler alert: it's not just about the fear of failure, it's way more personal. So, grab your favourite drink, get cosy, and let's unpack how we can kick shame to the curb with some practical tips that'll have you strutting into your greatness like the fabulous human you are! Plus, I've got some exciting news about our new thrice-weekly schedule coming up, because let's face it, we all need more joy and less shame in our lives!The Details:Ready for some real talk that might just bust your brain wide open? Heather Masters is back with a fiery episode that's as enlightening as it is entertaining. She tackles the oh-so-awkward topic of shame, which, let's be honest, can feel like that one friend who always shows up at the worst times—like when you're about to crush it and then suddenly think maybe you should just hide under a rock instead. Heather shares her own battle with shame, showing us that it's not about running from fear but rather recognising shame for what it is: the sneaky little gremlin that keeps us small. With humour and heart, she breaks down the shame spiral, complete with the steps that lead us from feeling bad about ourselves to self-sabotage city. But fear not! Heather arms us with five actionable strategies to confront and dismantle our shame, from having a heart-to-heart with a trusted friend to keeping a wins jar to celebrate all those glorious little victories we often overlook. If you're ready to flip the script on how you see yourself and embrace the beautiful mess that is being human, this episode is your golden ticket to a happier you!Takeaways: Shame often masquerades as motivation, but it actually paralyses us instead of propelling us forward. The difference between fear and shame is crucial; fear looks to the future, while shame attacks our present worth. Practicing self-compassion can counteract the harsh judgments that shame imposes on us, so treat yourself like your best friend. Recognising and celebrating even the smallest wins nurtures a positive self-image and helps combat shame's negative narratives. Links referenced in this episode:tamingyourgremlin.comlinkedin.comfacebook.comChapters:00:17 - The Shame Game05:01 - Understanding the Shame Spiral07:39 - Understanding and Overcoming Shame10:18 - Embracing Self-Compassion to Combat Shame14:14 - Celebrating Wins and Overcoming ShameLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter and Join our community who are redefining what it means to thrive in the NEW world. Click here to subscribe:

Intro:Ever felt like throwing in the towel on something you love? Well, this week, I'm sharing my own wild ride of contemplating quitting the podcast! Spoiler alert: it's not just me feeling like I'm whistling into the void—many of us are grappling with the shifts happening around us, and it's time to explore the big ol' “why.” But hold onto your hats, because we're diving deeper than just the “whys” of our struggles. I'll chat about how getting stuck in the why can be a fancy form of procrastination, and why it's way more productive to focus on the present moment and what we can do right now. So grab your coffee, kick back, and let's unravel this together—because sometimes, the magic happens when we stop analysing and just start living!The Details:If you've ever found yourself in a spiral of self-doubt, feeling like you're stuck in a loop, Heather Masters has the antidote! In this lively episode, she tackles the age-old question of ‘why' we feel the way we do, particularly when it comes to creative endeavours like podcasting. Through her own contemplations about quitting the podcast she loves, Heather brings humour and warmth to the discussion, gently poking fun at our human tendency to overanalyse everything. She reminds us that while understanding our ‘whys' can be enlightening, it can also become a trap that keeps us from taking action. Instead of getting lost in the past, she calls on listeners to embrace the present and make conscious choices. With relatable anecdotes and practical tips, Heather highlights the power of ‘what is' over the ‘why,' leading us to a more authentic and fulfilling way of engaging with our emotions and decisions. By the end of this episode, you'll feel inspired to stop digging for answers and start living in the moment, making choices that resonate with who you are right now. So grab your headphones and join her on this journey to self-acceptance and action!Takeaways: Heather reflects on her podcast journey and the temptation to quit it after three years of hard work. The episode dives into the concept of why we often get stuck and how it can lead to negative spirals. Heather emphasizes the importance of focusing on the present moment rather than getting lost in the endless quest for understanding the 'why'. Listeners are encouraged to embrace emotions like weather patterns, acknowledging them without needing to analyze their origins too deeply. The podcast introduces practical tools for interrupting negative patterns and shifting focus towards actionable steps in the present. In the end, Heather reminds us that we don't need to have it all figured out to move forward in life. Chapters:00:16 - Reflections on Podcasting05:25 - The Why and Its Consequences08:15 - Understanding Patterns and Moving Forward15:49 - The Power of the Present Moment20:21 - Embracing Uncertainty: Practical Steps Towards Acceptance21:45 - Embracing the Present MomentLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter and Join our community who are redefining what it means to thrive in the NEW world. Click here to subscribe:

IntroWelcome to this weeks episode!Let's dive into the good stuff, shall we? This week, we're all about the magic of community and how it supercharges our happiness! Yup, you heard it right—building those connections isn't just nice; it's essential for our mental and physical well-being. Heather Masters is here to sprinkle some wisdom on why reaching out to others can transform our lives from lonely to lively! We'll be chatting about practical tips to forge those bonds—think rituals, shared passions, and even a little something called deep listening. So grab your favourite snack (seriously, coffee and snacks make everything better) and let's explore ways to create a world bursting with joy and connection!The Details:Heather Masters delivers a powerful reminder that in a world that sometimes feels like it's coming apart at the seams, the glue that holds us together is our community. She dives into the importance of connection, sharing that it's not just a nice-to-have, but a real necessity for our happiness and health. With an upbeat and playful tone, she discusses how reaching out to others, even if it's just a quick text to an old friend, can dramatically shift our mood and outlook. Heather encourages us to embrace this connection through simple acts like volunteering together or organising gatherings based on shared passions. Imagine hosting a dinner party where everyone brings their best recipe to share—now that's what I call a recipe for happiness! And let's not forget the magic of celebrating together, whether it's big milestones or just surviving another week! By embracing diversity and being present in conversations, we're not just building connections; we're creating a vibrant community that thrives on joy and support. So, let's take Heather's challenge: reach out to someone you haven't spoken to in a while and share a positive memory. It's a little act that can spark a whole lot of happiness!Takeaways: Community is like the bread and butter of happiness; without it, we feel crummy! Stronger relationships are the secret sauce to a longer, happier life—who knew? Building a community of happiness means reaching out and making connections that truly matter. Intentionality is key! Be purposeful in how you connect and create spaces for joy. Celebrate everything, from promotions to movie nights—it's all about the good vibes! Embrace diversity in your community; different perspectives make life way more interesting! Chapters:00:05 - The Importance of Connection01:57 - The Importance of Community in Building Happiness04:08 - Building Community Through Intentionality08:38 - Celebrating Connections and Diversity10:23 - Building Community and ConnectionShort and sweet yet packed with value!Let me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter and Join our community who are redefining what it means to thrive in the NEW world. Click here to subscribe:https://www.heathervmasters.com/sundaynewsletterYou can find the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program:www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breaker Podcast...

IntroThis week I go free flow on a topic that I believe is important right now - recognising and knowing that you matter, your contribution matters, your work matters, your life matters...Feeling a bit lost or like your life doesn't matter? Well, buckle up, because we're diving deep into the big questions today! I'm Heather Masters, and in this episode, we're tackling the essentials of life: Did you live? Did you love? Did you matter? It's a stream of consciousness kinda vibe as we explore the chaos of our world and how it's affecting our sense of value and connection. Whether you're feeling isolated or just need a little pep talk to remind you that you absolutely matter, this episode is packed with reflections and insights that'll help you shine a light on your own worth. So grab your favourite cuppa and snack, kick back, and let's get contemplative.The Details:Ever felt like you're just going through the motions of life? Like, did I even really live today? Well, Heather Masters sure knows that feeling all too well! In this enlightening episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast, she opens up a can of contemplative worms—asking all the juicy questions about our existence. It's not just a casual chit-chat; it's a heartfelt exploration that nudges listeners to reflect on their lives. Heather's stream of consciousness takes us through her own journeys of love, loss, and the quest for meaning. She expertly weaves in her experiences of being a caregiver, a traveller, and a mom, making it relatable to anyone who's ever paused and wondered, “What's the point?” Throughout the episode, we are reminded that life can sometimes throw us curveballs that make us feel isolated, especially during tough times. It's a wild world out there, and Heather captures the essence of that chaos while also shining a light on the importance of self-worth. She digs into the idea that while the world seems to reward the wrong things, we need to flip the script on how we view our value. With her playful humour, she encourages us to take an honest inventory of our lives, to see where we have lived, loved, and truly mattered. And guess what? It doesn't take a grand gesture to make a difference—sometimes it's the little things that count! As we wrap up this thought-provoking chat, Heather leaves us with a powerful message: we matter! Your existence is a beautiful miracle, and it's time to celebrate that. So if you're ready to feel uplifted and inspired, tune in for a dose of positivity and laughter that will remind you to cherish your journey and choose happiness every single day. Trust me, you won't want to miss it!Takeaways: In a world where chaos reigns, remember that your life has value and purpose. Feeling isolated is a common challenge, but you are not alone in this struggle. Contemplate your existence: have you lived, loved, and truly mattered to others? It's crucial to audit where you give your energy; keep your cup full, my friend! Value yourself first, because you can only help others when you're at your best. Life is a wild ride; embrace the journey and find joy in your unique experiences. Chapters:00:10 - Contemplating Value and Connection01:45 - Navigating Life's Challenges04:38 - Reflections on Love and Loss11:00 - The Importance of Self-Value13:16 - Finding Your Energy and Purpose16:40 - Finding Value in Your LifeLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter...

Get ready to dive into the wonderful world of relationships, because today, we're uncovering the truth that relationships are everything! I'm your host, Heather Masters, and we're chatting about how our connections – not just with people but with ourselves, nature, money, and even the wild ride of change – shape our happiness and the way our lives unfold. (please excuse my dog joining in with this episode)Think of it as a cosmic dance where sometimes we're twirling gracefully and other times, well, we're stepping on toes like it's a dance-off! We've got a playful little exercise called the Relationship Reset coming your way to help sprinkle some joy into your connections. So grab your favourite drink, get comfy, and let's make some magic happen as we explore how nurturing these relationships can turn your life into a delightful adventure!The Details:Ever felt like your happiness is just a little out of reach? Maybe it's time to look at the relationships in your life! In this week's episode of Choosing Happy, Heather dives into the magical world of connections and how they shape our happiness. We're talking about everything from the inner dialogue we have with ourselves to our relationships with nature, money, and even social media. Heather kicks things off by sharing her personal journey of transforming her self-talk from a harsh critic to a supportive cheerleader. It's all about nurturing that relationship with yourself first because, let's be honest, that's where it all begins! Next, we explore how connecting with nature can be a game-changer for our mental health. Imagine taking a moment to just breathe and soak in the beauty around you; it's like hitting the reset button on your soul! But wait, there's more! We also dive into some tricky relationships, like with money and the outside influences that can dampen our spirits. Heather shares her lightbulb moment of seeing money as a friend rather than a foe, and how curating our media diet can keep our happiness levels intact. So grab your headphones, kick back, and join us for this insightful conversation filled with humour, warmth, and practical tips to nurture those vital relationships. Let's choose to dance our way to happiness together!Takeaways: Relationships are the key to happiness, shaping how we connect with ourselves and others. Nurturing your relationship with yourself is foundational; treat yourself like your best friend. Life is a cosmic dance with nature, money, and change—how we relate shapes our joy. Being intentional about your relationships can transform chaos into a joyful boogie with life. To shift your perspective, ask yourself: how am I relating to this and how would I like to? Embracing curiosity and presence in life can turn mundane moments into joyful adventures. Chapters:00:18 - The Power of Relationships04:14 - Choosing Kindness: Transforming the Relationship with Yourself10:41 - Understanding Our Relationship with Life and Money13:48 - Navigating Evolutionary Change18:29 - Nurturing Relationships for a Happier LifeLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter and Join our community who are redefining what it means to thrive in the NEW world. Click here to subscribe:

Welcome to Happiness Snacks!For the remainder of June and July I am going to be posting Happiness snacks - 5 minute Joy-sets to help you find the fun in an otherwise distracting world (and maybe it might be that daily spark that keeps you going through this jiggly time).Let's dive into the joy pool! Today, we're all about *Choosing Happy*, and I'm inviting you on a delightful journey to sprinkle some happiness into your daily grind. We kick things off with a super fun relationship inventory challenge where you'll identify your five joy superstars—those fabulous folks who light up your life like a disco ball at a dance party!

Welcome to this weeks Choosing Happy PodcastGet ready to dive into a wisdom packed episode as Heather Masters chats with the fabulous Michelle J. Raymond! This episode kicks off with Michelle's journey from corporate life to becoming a two-time bestselling author and a LinkedIn guru. She shares her no-nonsense approach to B2B marketing and how to sustainably grow a business, all while keeping it real. We'll explore the importance of knowing your worth as an entrepreneur, the magic of combining personal and company branding, and why being your authentic self is the secret sauce for connection in this digital age. So, stay tuned for a fun ride filled with laughs, learning, and plenty of “aha” moments that'll leave you feeling inspired to choose happy in your own entrepreneurial journey!The Details:Michelle J. Raymond brings a breath of fresh air and a wealth of insights to the Choosing Happy Podcast, as she and Heather dive into the realities of entrepreneurship with a hefty sprinkle of joy and laughter. From her unexpected leap into business after a corporate shake-up to her mastery of LinkedIn, Michelle's journey is anything but ordinary. She shares her early struggles, including the infamous struggle of pricing her services and learning the ropes of self-worth in a market that often undervalues creativity and expertise. The conversation is peppered with relatable anecdotes and practical advice, especially for budding entrepreneurs who find themselves in the same boat. Michelle emphasises the importance of authenticity, encouraging listeners to show up as their true selves in a world that often pressures them to conform. This refreshing take is not just about business; it's about cultivating connections and fostering genuine relationships, especially in the fast-paced digital landscape. Through her vibrant storytelling, listeners will find encouragement to engage authentically on platforms like LinkedIn, ultimately leading to more meaningful professional relationships.Michelle shares her unique approach to marketing on LinkedIn and why it is an important platform for solo-entrepreneurs as well as B2B businesses.As the episode unfolds, Michelle and Heather explore the impact of AI on social interactions and marketing, pondering the balance between automation and genuine human connection. With humour and humility, Michelle navigates the complexities of leveraging technology while maintaining the essence of what makes business truly thrive: people. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a marketer, or just someone navigating the wild world of social media, this episode serves up a hearty portion of wisdom and inspiration, all wrapped in Michelle's bubbly personality. Tune in for laughter, practical tips, relatable struggles, and a treasure trove of actionable advice that will leave you feeling motivated to choose joy in your own entrepreneurial journey.Takeaways: Michelle J. Raymond shares her unexpected journey into entrepreneurship, which began with a dramatic career twist during the tumultuous year of 2020. One key lesson from Michelle's experience is the importance of knowing your worth as an entrepreneur, especially when it comes to setting your prices. The conversation highlights the significance of authenticity in marketing and social media, encouraging individuals to show up as their true selves. Michelle emphasises that nurturing relationships and connecting with clients personally is more effective than relying solely on AI or automated outreach. The episode discusses the evolving landscape of LinkedIn, stressing the balance between personal branding and company pages for maximum visibility. Lastly, Michelle encourages listeners to embrace their unique journey, stating that sharing personal stories...

Ready to spark some serious joy in your brain? Today, we're diving into the exhilarating world of lifelong learning! I'm Heather Masters, and let me tell you, I'm a bit of a learning junkie—like, if learning were a sport, I'd be getting gold medals! We're chatting about how discovering new things can turn that frown upside down and crank up your happiness meter. We'll explore how to pick topics that light you up, using some fun questions that'll guide you like a treasure map to your own learning adventure. Plus, I'll throw in some classic blunders to dodge while you're on your journey, because who doesn't love a good ol' learning misstep story? So grab your cosy drink, settle in, and let's get curious together!The Details:Have you ever felt that magical spark when you learn something new? That's the vibe Heather Masters captures in this episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast! We're all about the joy of lifelong learning, and Heather spills the beans on how it can truly transform our lives. She dives into the science behind learning and happiness, revealing how keeping our brains active can lead to a more fulfilling life. It's like giving your spirit a workout! And let's be honest, who doesn't want to feel that rush of excitement when mastering a new skill? Whether it's photography, coding, or even the art of making the perfect cup of coffee, learning keeps our lives vibrant!But wait, there's more! Heather shares her own learning journey, and trust me, it's as inspiring as it gets. She talks about her obsession with tech and how she's currently exploring the fascinating world of AI. It's contagious, really! And if you're wondering how to find what you should learn next, she's got a nifty set of questions to guide you on your quest for knowledge. From what excites you to where you can learn it, these questions are your compass on the adventure of lifelong learning.Oh, and let's not forget the five mistakes to avoid when diving into new learning topics! Heather breaks it down with her signature charm, reminding us to follow our passions, set realistic goals, and always have a plan. It's all about making learning a joyful experience rather than a chore. So let's embrace the challenge, keep our hearts open, and embark on this incredible learning journey together. Because let's face it, life's too short to stop learning!Takeaways: Lifelong learning is like a happiness spark for your brain, keeping it sharp and your heart full. Choosing a learning topic should ignite your passion, not just follow trends that bore you to tears. Ask yourself six key questions to discover what you truly want to learn and why it matters to you. Avoid common mistakes like setting unrealistic goals or diving into learning without a solid plan. Learning is a journey, not a race—embrace the process and remember, there's no failing, only feedback. Pick something that excites you and commit to it, because that's where the real joy lies. Chapters:00:10 - The Joy of Lifelong Learning03:29 - Exploring Lifelong Learning09:18 - Making the Decision to Learn10:47 - Avoiding Common Learning Mistakes16:02 - Homework for Lifelong LearningLinks referenced in this episode:choosinghappypodcast.comCompanies mentioned in this episode: Grant Cardone Harvard Business Review Coursera ResearchGate Academia Edu YouTube Substack Let me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please...

Welcome and IntroChoosing to be obsessed with your life and happiness is the star of today's show, and trust me, it's a game-changer! We're diving deep into what it means to embrace a healthy obsession that fuels your potential and lights up your soul, inspired by Grant Cardone's electrifying book, *Be Obsessed or Be Average*. Heather challenges you to kick mediocrity to the curb and get fired up about living your best life! We'll explore how being truly passionate about your dreams can propel you toward a life that makes your heart sing. Plus, hang tight because I'll share a quick exercise that'll get you started on this obsession journey today! So, grab your favourite drink, settle in, and let's get obsessed!The DetailsGet ready as we crank up the energy and take a deep dive into a topic that could change your life—obsession! And no, I'm not talking about the kind that drives your friends up a wall or leads to awkward conversations at parties. I'm talking about the good kind—the kind that fuels your happiness and helps you chase your dreams like a puppy on a leash! Host Heather Masters is here to help you flip the script on mediocrity and embrace the fire that comes from being truly obsessed with what you love. Inspired by Grant Cardone's book, "Be Obsessed or Be Average," we're diving into how choosing obsession can be the key to unlocking a life filled with joy, purpose, and passion.Throughout the podcast episode, Heather opens up about her own journey and the struggles she's faced in committing to her happiness. She shares how, in a world that often encourages us to play it safe, we need to shake things up and get a little *extra* with our goals. If you've ever felt stuck or comfortable in a box of your own making, this episode is for you! We'll explore how to cultivate an obsession with the things that light you up and why that's not only okay but necessary for a fulfilling life. Plus, there's a golden nugget of wisdom waiting for you in the form of the "Obsession Blueprint," a practical exercise that will help you clarify your purpose and take massive action towards your dreams. As we journey through the episode, we tackle three key ideas that will help you break free from the chains of average and step into your greatness. First up is owning your purpose with absolute obsession. We'll discuss how knowing your *why* can transform your daily life and give you the energy to wake up excited every day. Next, we'll dive into the importance of rejecting mediocrity and raising your standards. After all, why settle for “just okay” when you can aim for extraordinary? And finally, we'll emphasise the power of taking massive action—because dreams don't work unless you do! So, are you ready to embrace your obsession and live your best life? Let's do this!Takeaways: Choosing to be obsessed with your life means taking relentless action towards your happiness. Obsession isn't about one thing; it's about being all in for what truly fuels your passion. Happiness is a by-product of aligning your daily actions with your deepest desires and potential. Average is the real danger in life; embrace your drive and refuse to settle for mediocrity. Setting intimidating goals can push you to grow; don't fear the big dreams, chase them! Taking small actions consistently can lead to massive changes in your happiness and fulfilment. Links referenced in this episode:heather@choosinghappy.co.ukchoosinghappy.co.ukCompanies mentioned in this episode: Grant Cardone...

Final Day!Ready to shake things up and break those pesky patterns? Well, we're wrapping up our week of transformation on the Choosing Happy Podcast with some serious action-taking vibes! Today, we're diving into how to keep that momentum rolling and celebrate all the awesome changes you've made. Whether you've knocked down those stubborn barriers or just loosened them up a bit, this episode is all about committing to your new, fabulous self. I'll be sharing tips on reflecting on your journey and the importance of celebrating even the tiniest wins—because let's be real, every step counts! So grab your dance shoes (or at least your comfy socks) because we're going to have a blast as we choose happy together!As we tie a bow on our week of breaking patterns, we've got some serious action plans in store. We've delved into the nitty-gritty of our behaviours, and now it's time to hoist that victory flag! Each of us has taken brave steps—whether it's acknowledging a pattern or visualising our dream selves—and today we're committing to keep that momentum alive. We'll explore how to celebrate our progress, no matter how tiny it seems, because every little victory is worth a shout-out! Plus, I've been on this journey with you, and let me tell you, I've had my own lightbulb moments—who knew decision-making could be so liberating? So, let's put our dancing shoes on, take those small steps daily, and continue to embrace the amazing changes we've made together. Remember, our subconscious loves a good celebration, so let's give it a reason to keep looking for more wins!Takeaways: This week was all about breaking stubborn patterns, and boy, did we dig deep! We learned the importance of reflecting on our progress and celebrating every little win, even the tiny ones! Taking action and committing to your new identity is crucial for lasting transformation, so let's keep that energy flowing! Remember, celebrating your achievements helps your unconscious mind to recognize and seek out more success in the future! It's not just about breaking patterns, it's about nurturing the new you with daily actions and positive affirmations! Join our 3 Month Pattern Breaker program to dive deeper into personal growth with personalised coaching and a supportive community! Chapters:00:50 - Taking Action and Celebrating Progress02:01 - Reflecting on Changes and Celebrating Wins04:30 - Celebrating Commitment to Change05:42 - Celebrating Achievements06:14 - Introducing Personalized Coaching Programs08:07 - Closing Thoughts and Future EngagementLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter and Join our community who are redefining what it means to thrive in the NEW world. Click here to subscribe:https://www.heathervmasters.com/sundaynewsletterYou can find the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program:www.choosinghappy.co.uk/pattern-breaker Podcast Details and LinksHeather Masters Copyright 2025 Heather Masters If you are enjoying the podcast and would like to...

Today, we're diving deep into the magic of hypnotic visualisation to help you kick those pesky old patterns to the curb!

Hey there, fabulous friends! Today, we're diving deep into the magical world of parts integration, a super nifty NLP technique that helps resolve those pesky inner conflicts that keep us stuck in our old patterns. You know, the ones that make us feel like we're riding a rollercoaster of indecision? Yep, that's the stuff! So far in our week-long pattern-breaking journey, we've identified and interrupted those patterns, and now it's time to merge the parts of ourselves that want to change with the parts that are holding us back. Think of it like getting your two feuding friends to finally hug it out—so they can cheer you on instead of dragging you down! Buckle up for some fun, laughter, and a sprinkle of magic as we explore how to align our inner selves and step into a brighter, pattern-free future! Let's get this party started, shall we?The DetailsIf you've ever felt like you're in a tug-of-war with yourself, you're not alone—Heather Masters is here to help you unravel those knots in the latest episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast! Day five of the Breaking Patterns mini-series is all about using the NLP technique called parts integration to align the conflicting parts of your mind. Heather really knows how to bring the fun into personal development, and today is no exception! In this episode, she dives headfirst into what it means to have different parts of ourselves vying for attention. Maybe you've got a part that wants to hit the snooze button one more time (I feel you!) while another part is ready to conquer the day. Heather's technique helps us bring these inner voices together so they can work as a cohesive team, rather than a chaotic mob. She shares her personal experience of naming her anxiety ‘Alan,' and suddenly, the weight of that inner critic feels lighter and way more manageable. It's all about taking the power back from those pesky thoughts that try to hold us hostage! As she walks us through a guided exercise, Heather encourages listeners to find a quiet space, tune into their conflicts, and visualise their conflicting parts standing on their hands—literally! This playful approach makes the process feel less daunting and more like a fun game of self-discovery. By the end of the episode, you'll not only understand the beauty of parts integration but also feel empowered to apply it in your own life. With Heather's upbeat energy and practical advice, you'll be ready to break free from your patterns and embrace the joyful, aligned life that's waiting for you. Tune in, laugh a little, and let's get to work on those inner dialogues!Takeaways: In this episode, we dove deep into the magical world of NLP, specifically parts integration, and how it helps resolve inner conflicts that keep us stuck in our patterns. Have you ever felt torn between wanting to break free from a pattern and an inner voice holding you back? You're not alone, and today we explored that! We discussed how naming our inner voices—like calling my anxiety Alan—can totally shift our perspective and lighten the weight of those pesky thoughts. Remember, breaking patterns isn't a one-time deal! It's all about creating habits and nurturing your mindset consistently for long-term happiness and resilience. Chapters:00:23 - Breaking Free from Patterns02:45 - Understanding Inner Conflicts in Neuro-Linguistic Programming04:57 - Introduction to Parts Integration08:16 - Exploring the Highest Positive Intentions13:04 - Consistency in Mental Health Practices15:10 - Transitioning to New PatternsLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!...

Ready to shake off those pesky patterns and problems? Well, grab your favourite snack and buckle up because today, we're diving deep into the art of breaking free! In this episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast, we're on our fourth day of the Breaking Patterns series, and trust me, you're gonna want to stick around for this one. We're exploring some seriously fun and practical pattern interrupts that'll help you kick those annoying habits to the curb! Whether you're a tech wizard, a creative genius, or just someone who feels a bit stuck, we've got the tools to help you choose joy and unleash your inner happiness ninja. So, let's get this party started, shall we?What happens when you combine a sprinkle of humour with some serious self-improvement techniques? You get this delightful episode of the Choosing Happy Podcast with Heather Masters! Today, we're on a journey to break free from those stubborn patterns that can sometimes feel like an anchor weighing us down. Heather's got the perfect blend of insight and playfulness to guide us through this transformative process, all while keeping the atmosphere light and fun. As we kick off this session, Heather emphasises the importance of awareness, encouraging us to take a moment to breathe and assess our readiness to let go of unhelpful patterns. It's like a mini therapy session with a twist! With relatable examples and a few chuckles along the way, she dives deep into the concept of pattern interrupts—those clever tricks we can use to shake things up when we find ourselves stuck in a loop of negativity. From physical movements that get our bodies grooving to verbal disruptions that catch our minds off guard, Heather showcases how we can all bring a little spontaneity into our lives to break free from the mundane. Throughout the episode, Heather's passion is infectious. She shares practical tips that are not only easy to implement but also fun! Imagine snapping your fingers while repeating positive affirmations or envisioning a cartoon character slipping on a banana peel to shift your mindset. The hilarity of it all reminds us that self-improvement doesn't have to be serious business; it can be a joyful and engaging experience. Heather wraps up by encouraging us to take small steps each day, reinforcing the idea that change doesn't happen overnight but through consistent effort and a sprinkle of joy. So, let's grab our pens, unleash our creativity, and commit to choosing happy in our everyday lives!Takeaways: Today, we dug deep into the art of breaking patterns to unleash your joy and happiness! Feeling stuck? This episode is packed with fun and effective techniques to shake things up! We explored the magic of pattern interrupts – simple tricks to disrupt negative loops and create new vibes! Remember, awareness is key, but it's the action that truly makes the magic happen, so let's get moving! Physical movement, verbal disruptions, and mental imagery are the secret weapons against those pesky patterns! Reframing your beliefs can transform procrastination into opportunities to learn and grow – how cool is that? Chapters:00:11 - Breaking Free: Shifting Patterns to Choose Joy02:49 - Understanding Pattern Interrupts04:26 - Exploring Pattern Interrupts in NLP09:15 - Pattern Interrupt Techniques11:25 - Choosing Happiness and Next StepsLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter and Join our community who are redefining what it means to...

Ready to break some patterns and shake things up? This episode of the Choosing Happy podcast is all about diving deeper into those pesky beliefs and patterns that trip us up! We're embracing day three of our Breaking Patterns week, and I'm bringing you some super powerful questions that might just turn your world upside down—in a good way, of course! Grab your pen and paper because we're not just talking about change; we're talking about major breakthroughs. So, if you've ever wondered what life would look like without those nagging problems, I'm here to help you explore that wild, wonderful possibility. Let's get to it and discover how we can loosen those patterns and make room for a little more happiness!The Detail:Self-discovery is like an adventure, and in this episode, we're explorers seeking to break free from the patterns that keep us stuck in a rut! I kick things off with an invitation for you to join me in some real soul-searching during our Breaking Patterns week. It's all about shaking off those old patterns that feel as comforting as a well-worn couch but are doing more harm than good. I toss aside the script because sometimes the best conversations come from the heart, and I want you to feel the energy of spontaneity in our discussion. We dive into some deep questions that'll make you think twice about why you hold onto those patterns. Each question is like a little key unlocking a door to a new perspective. Sure, it's a bit uncomfortable—like trying on a pair of jeans two sizes too small—but it's absolutely necessary if you want to grow! We explore the benefits your patterns might be providing, even if they're not serving you anymore. I mean, let's be real: some of these beliefs are like that old T-shirt you never wore but can't seem to throw away. Together, we'll challenge these beliefs and see if they're really worth keeping around. Towards the end of our chat, I emphasise the importance of living in the moment—an essential skill if you want to break free from the past and stop worrying about the future. I share some fun techniques to help you stay grounded, like naming things you love in your environment. It's all about shifting your focus from anxiety to appreciation. So grab notepad and pen, get comfy, and let's dive into this transformative journey together! I promise it's going to be a wild ride, and who knows? You might just discover a happier, lighter version of yourself by the end of it!Takeaways: In this episode, we dive deep into understanding the patterns that hold us back and how to break free from them, like a superhero escaping a villain's lair! Heather encourages us to ask ourselves tough questions about the benefits of our patterns, because knowing what we're clinging to is half the battle, right? We explore the idea that our thoughts and feelings aren't always real; it's like they're just playing dress-up and we can change the costume anytime! The importance of being present is highlighted, reminding us that worries are just time travellers trying to ruin our current vibe. Heather urges us to visualise life without our problems — it's like dreaming of a vacation while stuck in traffic, but with more joy and less honking! We learn the significance of checking in with our unconscious mind and understanding how it keeps us safe, even when it's being a little overprotective, like a mom with a bubble wrap obsession! Chapters:00:03 - Breaking Patterns: A New Approach to Happiness00:20 - Breaking Patterns: A Journey to Self-Discovery06:12 - Understanding Coaching Readiness08:49 - Letting Go of Patterns and Problems12:25 - Imagining a Problem-Free...

Ready to get your groove on with some self-discovery? Today, we're diving deep into those pesky patterns that keep popping up in our lives like unwanted pop-up ads! I'm Heather Masters, and I'm super pumped to celebrate our 300th episode (whoa, can you believe it?) while we tackle the roots of those habits that just won't quit. Yesterday, we named the pattern we want to break, and now it's time to get curious about why it keeps crashing our party. So grab your favourite drink, get comfy, and let's put on our detective hats as we ask some juicy questions that'll help us unearth those beliefs lurking in the shadows. Trust me, by the end of this episode, you'll be feeling like a pattern-busting superhero!So grab that pen and paper, and let's get to work! We'll be reflecting on those moments when our patterns make their grand entrance. What emotions are lurking beneath the surface? What beliefs are pulling the strings? It's like a detective show, but instead of solving crimes, we're solving the mystery of our own minds! I encourage you to be curious and compassionate with yourself because understanding these roots is the first step to uprooting them. And don't worry, tomorrow we'll introduce some NLP magic to help reframe those pesky beliefs. Let's keep this train of happiness rolling!Takeaways: This episode celebrates the 300th recording of the Choosing Happy Podcast, and it's a big deal! Heather dives deep into understanding the patterns that keep showing up in our lives, and why they might be there. Listeners are encouraged to visualize their patterns, dig into their feelings, and ask important questions about their beliefs. The episode features an exercise to reflect on personal patterns, helping listeners uncover their triggers and emotions. Heather emphasizes the need for compassion and clarity as we explore our patterns and beliefs without judgment. Tomorrow, we'll use a cool NLP technique to start shifting those pesky patterns for good! Chapters:00:17 - Celebrating Milestones in Podcasting00:44 - Uncovering Patterns: A Journey of Self-Discovery02:12 - Understanding Personal Patterns02:46 - Exploring Inner Beliefs and Responses03:55 - Reflecting and Moving Forward04:34 - Closing Remarks and Future InsightsLet me know your biggest takeaways from this episode!Share on social and please like, share and subscribe. It really helps the podcast, and I so appreciate it!----------------------------------------------------------------------If you would like more content like this sign up for my Sunday Newsletter and Join our community who are redefining what it means to thrive in the NEW world. Click here to subscribe:https://www.heathervmasters.com/sundaynewsletterPodcast Details and LinksHeather Masters Copyright 2025 Heather Masters If you are enjoying the podcast and would like to donate you can do so here: (Thank you in advance)Support this Podcastwww.choosinghappypodcast.comLinks referenced in this episode:Drop me an email if you would like to explore bespoke mindset and happiness coaching. heather@heathervmasters.comYou can find the Pattern Breaker Coaching Program:

Ready to kick off a week of transformation? Today, we're diving into a super fun and enlightening coaching journey right here on the Choosing Happy Podcast!