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Why You're Afraid to Fail How is it that fearing failure is actually doing something good for you. In effect protect you from failure. The issue is that it also generates those negative and limiting beliefs such as 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm not worthy' and so on. The thing is there is a direct conflict in this form of protection is to actual feel a failure and really believe I'm not good enough because I didn't do the stuff I want to do because of that ,now, inappropriate fear. So let's muse how we can change this, to stay protected and do the stuff I dream of. Come with me now for 5 or so minutes and hopefully we'll dive deeper in a longer episode please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-472-why-youre-afraid-to-fail/ And the video link https://youtu.be/sAWIz4mmuO0   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

One Simple Step To Success Here's the one step that we miss out and when we do we create anxiety, overwhelm and everything else negative. And if you choose this step, and it's simple and easy but as always it takes effort. We all have ideas, intuitions that come to us unexpectedly and we always say to ourselves - AWESOME!!!! I'll remember that and..............we forget the blooming thing ..........gone forever. So what is this step that I bet you don't do and if you did greatness, excitement and success would follow And ......... there's no downside So have a listen for 5 minutes and then take the step and share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-471-one-simple-step-to-success/ And the video link id here too: https://youtu.be/VGs6hddAKgY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

How to Think Better for Success Are you ready to unleash the power of your own mind and turn those dreams into reality? This episode is all about learning how to think better—simple, down-to-earth strategies to shift your thoughts toward success. Through a mix of storytelling and practical tools, I'll share personal insights and experiences that have helped me along my journey. Together, we'll dive into the art of *intentional thinking* and explore ways to create your own “puzzle book” to spark creativity and keep your mind focused. You'll discover how dedicating even a little time each day to clear, intentional thinking can bring clarity, solve problems, and unlock fresh ideas. Writing, as you'll find, isn't just about putting words on paper; it's a way to expand your thinking and gain new perspectives. We'll also tackle some classic excuses we all have—“I don't have time!”—and explore why time isn't the barrier we think it is. Here's what's inside this episode: The Power of Intentional Thinking** – How setting a clear direction for your thoughts can lead to real breakthroughs. Creating a Puzzle Book** – A tool to help organize ideas, connect dots, and keep those creative juices flowing. Overcoming Excuses** – The “no time” myth, busted. I'll show you simple ways to make time for your own thinking sessions. Building a Thinking Habit** – Practical ways to make regular thinking a part of your life. What You'll Take Away: Clarity and Focus** – Get a handle on what's urgent vs. what's important, so you can move forward meaningfully. Confidence and Calm** – Experience that peace of mind that comes from having a clear direction. Inspiration to Act** – Feel ready to tackle new challenges and inspire others along the way. *Are you ready to think better?* Jump in and start your journey now. And hey, let's spread some good vibes—share this episode and let's create a wave of positive change. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/418-how-to-think-for-success/ Shine brightly, Paul Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism     Hey, how to think better for success. Who am I to tell you? But I've got a couple of things, just got a couple of things that I know that if you did them, you would create success for your life and those dreams and goals would become your reality. And it all starts with stories, because we love a story. I got two or three of those. So come and dive in with me and learn. Or just sample a few ways of thinking better.     How to think better for success. Thought about this and I made loads of notes. And then looking at my notes again, I thought, who the nearly swore. Who am I to tell people how to think better? Now I do think I've got some things to share and it's not the only way, but I do think I'm on the right track. If anyone's listening to Jordan Peterson, I really think he's got it when he thinks writing is thinking. Because if you think about it, if you didn't think when you wrote, you just have a mass of lines everywhere and that'd be crazy. And I know you're thinking now, oh, shit, he's talking about writing it down again. Well, bit. Bit more than that. A bit more than that. I want to tell you a couple of stories. Maybe three. Maybe three sort of little stories. They're not much, but they're a little bit, you see, not. Well, a few years ago, A few years ago, my eldest son came to me and said, hey, dad, do you want to go away for a couple of days? I want to hire a barn, one of those converted barns. Not a barn with. With animals in, you know, but a converted barn for a couple of days. So we could just think. You think in one end of the barn, I'll think in the other end of the barn and we'll have lunch and then you'll think again and then we'll go out for dinner, and, then maybe one afternoon we'll just have a little ride around and things like that, see the countryside. But we'll. It'll be nice to be together, but also nice to get into a thinking mode, to plan. And I thought, that's a hell of an idea. Because you see, before I used to prattle on about, about sort of thinking and setting intentions, but it didn't really do anything. But going there was really setting intention. As soon as you walked through the door, you knew what you're going to do. We had a great time, did lots of thinking, still got me in my books, my notes I made, and so did he. And it was lovely to be with one of my sons just for a couple of days by ourselves. Awesome. And in my, My other life, when I used to be in, like a business type thing, and my partner, Mike, and he would often say to me, hey, Paul, we got this thing happening. It's like an issue. We've got a problem. Go away for a little while and think of how you think we could tackle it. Now, I'm an options man. I love options. And I would do, option one, option two, option C, D, four, five, whatever. And I'd come back to him with these lovely options. I'd really spend a lot of time thinking of the, different things, mitigations and all that stuff. I was following all different processes, and it really worked well. So I used to go away quietly by myself and do it. And then I'd go through with Paul. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Just before we go. Too bad. We. Which one? Well, I like to go through it with you. No, no, just tell me which one. Because you've done a lot of thought on this. You know the answer. You done a lot of thinking. So I came up with, well, I think it's this one. So we'll do it then, because we're going to use your plan, and if there's something better comes along and we find that we can do it even better, we'll just change course, we'll be flexible. And that's exactly what I liked. And I think that type of thinking with options and mitigations got me into, when I started into this, getting deeper into personal development and trying to solve my own issues. Because as much as I do all this work and I do hypnotherapy and I work with clients, you know, we all have issues, we all have stuff. you know, if you want to get better at life, you want to enjoy life, create a better life for yourself, have dreams and goals, you know, this podcast was just a little idea at one time, then it became something into reality, but came through this like a thought process that I did. And I think with these type of things, I developed this thing I call my puzzle book because I used to have a lot of journaling and thinking in journaling, but I wanted something more specific. And what is a puzzle book? Well, a puzzle book to me is a book with plain paper in it. Plain sheets of paper. That's all. I don't like lines because they. They restrict Me, my lines restrict me. M dots are quite good sometimes but I really prefer plain sheet. A4 size if I can get it slightly, maybe a little bit smaller. But when I open it out I've got a nice big double sheet type thing. Anyway, enough about the puzzle book because you can buy them anywhere because it's literally just a book with pieces of paper. But for me when I sit down with that, it in itself and of itself, I love that thing. It fires off my intention when I sit down. It's like triggering my unconscious mind. Thinking is anchored to the puzzle book and because of that I changed my state. I'm sure I changed my state. Love my mind maps in there. But they just things seem to flow not always straight away but it allows me to be open, open to ideas sometimes strange and weird thoughts, creative thoughts that just might work. And I've done a little podcast on spending a few moments, a day or a week just doing the most weirdest thoughts you could have about what you want in life. Not just weird thoughts because that would be weird. And writing those suckers down. And that's the whole point about this puzzle book. You write them down when you just spend time. And I know I made a note that the previous longer podcast about thinking about your hero, becoming your hero.     Cloughie says most of his ideas come from either his puzzle book or journal   The best version of yourself getting more something you can get hold of, something you can see more clearly. That came from just someone mentioning something than me going into the puzzle book and it just exploded into thoughts and I got more clear. So if you look at be your superhero or be your hero, something like that, it's only a couple of podcast episodes back that came from that. But when I thought about it, virtually every, everything I've talked about seems to come from either in my puzzle book or my journal. And what are they? They're all sitting down thinking and writing. Writing is thinking and it's a wonderful habit to get into. And as I said, a lot of my writing can be just in the form of a mind map which explodes in my mind sometimes giving me all the different options, different thoughts that I can develop them. And I say it just allows me to see options taking time. But I know what you're going to say, well, not you personally because I know you're in there, in here for the, for the long haul. But there's, there'll be some who will say, oh, Cloughie, I haven't got enough time. I haven't got enough time to sit down and think. And that's Bollocks. It really is. It's a load of old balls. That's just a petty, flimsy excuse. It's for wimps. It is, it's an excuse. People think, I think they haven't got time. And you see if you believe that and you haven't got time to sit down and think about things, what happens? And I made two or three notes about this. You know, they just react. They react there and then. There's no thought at all. React without thought. There's no plan. There's no plan of any kind. In fact, it's just a reaction, isn't it? Just a reaction with no real intention. And what tends to happen is they might get lucky. They might get lucky and come up with something, but they end up doing something. The first thing that comes to mind, a knee jerk reaction and that goes wrong. And then they find something else and that goes wrong. Then they get overwhelmed and then they. It's just such a waste of fucking time. And it could have been stopped so easily if they'd have stopped and thought, did a little bit of thinking first. And this thing about time. We waste time every bloody way, don't we? Have a look, have a look of how much you do on the typical things. Social media, maybe gossiping, maybe just actually just bonky stuff walking around. I even started putting in my diary. Instead of planning, along with planning the things I wanted to do in the day, I actually wrote down what I actually did. And as soon as I started writing down what I did, it made me think of what I'm going to do next. And I started to get more things done just by looking at it going, no, I don't want to keep writing down. I spent 15, 20 minutes looking at bloody social media. I want to be writing down that I'm making changes, doing stuff. Even if it was sitting down thinking 15 minutes. And what else happens when people don't think? Well, they end up just doing the urgent things that keeps things giving the impression that they're busy. Oh, I'm so busy. I'm so busy now. You're fooling yourself if that's the case because you're doing those urgent things, you're not doing the important things, you're just doing stuff. And there's that knee jerk reaction again. Does this make sense? maybe, I'm talking about me time ago. Hopefully I didn't do a lot of this, but I'd seen it. I see it so much, people just doing, you know, these urgent things. Flitting and flopping to each different thing and not making any bloody difference in the world. Certainly not making no difference to their life and creating more problems. I see a lot of this when I deal with clients because they come in, certainly when they come from business and I'm doing my coaching course, maybe overwhelm, because there's so much going on. And if they just resolved one thing from a place of clarity, the world would change. And it does change when we get there.     Putting 10 minutes aside to think about a particular subject can make life better   So how long. Here's a question to you. How long does thinking actually take? I got you thinking now. How long did that take? I didn't. I didn't plan that. That just came out that way. But thinking can be as much as five minutes, where you just stop and, pause and you think to yourself, what am I going to do next? Is this going to make my life better or worse? What a wonderful question. Because then you can go, actually, I need to stop and think maybe a little bit deeper about this because I don't know, maybe you don't know the answer. I don't know if it's gonna make. It seems to think I'm gonna make my life better. But on the other hand, oh, but least that stopping and pausing has got you to think of all. What would make my m. Life better? If this is gonna be it, how can I do it? Lovely questions again, but you're writing these things down. Because if you just sit there and think about it, great start. But then someone goes, hey, did you want a coffee or did you want this? Oh, yeah, that's great. How you been? And it's all gone. Those thoughts are gone, and you're back to reacting, doing the urgent stuff. Now. You could actually just put 10 minutes aside, allowing yourself to be open with the intention of thinking about a particular subject. So you got that first one is, something happens. I just stopped before you react. Have a little field book in your pocket or something like that, or just a piece of paper, scrap of paper, just notes. But ten minutes to think about something more specific. So you're getting close to that puzzly book type thing, because that's the next one. I think sometimes it's. I love. Let's Talk about Me. I. I love sitting there for about 30 minutes with a puzzle book. And it's not every day. I don't do it every day. Do it at least once a week. I think, on things I find that are important to me. They haven't got urgent yet, but they are important. And I might sit down for 30 minutes might be less, but the mere fact I get that puzzle book out again and says it fires my unconscious mind because I have an intention. And you see, when you think about that 30 minutes, that's nothing compared to that bloody time that you waste on that social media, on gossip, on just simply doom scrolling all that stuff. And the thing is when you're not wasting that time and you're doing, it's just an investment in you and it's such a small investment that has such a high return, the return on your investment, the RII return on investment, I think that's what it was in business, is so high that you can't help but being more successful. And with that success comes, I want to say happiness, but it comes with maybe a calmness, maybe it comes with a little bit of peace of mind, maybe it comes with awareness, maybe it comes with conviction, maybe it comes with an expectation because you know what you're doing, you get from that, you get confidence. And when you do this, and here's a kicker, your unconscious mind can start to think, hey, this is a safer way to be because we are creating a world, a life for ourselves with less stress. We're dealing with stress before it becomes stressful, we're dealing with anxiety before it become anxious. We're planning our success, you and I are then planning our, our success and mitigating, I'm going to say failure, but mitigating where our results aren't what we want or what, what may come and blindside us or may come along. We can mitigate that as best we can. And therefore again we get more confident because we know what we're intending to happen and we know how we can, you know, mitigate things that aren't quite, may happen the other way. And again we've got it covered. And your unconscious mind goes, this is a great place to be. And it only took 30 minutes and we weren't going down the route of doom scrolling gossiping. That's great to have, great to communicate. But now think when you've got yourself in control as much as control is, but when you feel great about yourself and you feel like you've got purpose and you feel like you've got everything in hand, those conversations you have with other people are so, so much more richer.     So I've got a challenge for you. Get yourself a bloody puzzle book. Now am I going to get those excuses? I don't know   So I've got a challenge for you. Get yourself a bloody puzzle book. Now am I going to get those excuses? I don't know where to get one. you talk about a field book. What's a field, A Field book is just a small, little thin book. Have a look on places like Amazon or ebay or whatever, they're cheap. Or you can get a larger book and call it a puzzle book. How much are they then? They're peanuts. A few dollars, few pounds. When I say a few. One, two or three. You don't have to go mad because it's a plain book or, you know, I nearly swore. But just get a piece of paper, you know, print some out the copy machine, anything, piece of paper. Get a pen, pencil, whatever you bloody like. And I want you in your diary. Oh, I haven't got a diary. Well, get a bloody diary page, a day diary, that's all you need. I have one with times on it, so I can really block it out. But I want you to block out some five minutes and some 10 minutes for thinking time daily, every day, at least a, ah, five minute, or I would suggest a ten minute, because once you get into it, you'll want to spend longer than five minutes. But 10 minutes is something where you go, well, I can put 10 minutes aside because I'm going to have my cup of coffee, I want to just sit down the first thing in the morning. Sometime in the day, lunchtime, my break time, anytime on my commute, unless you're driving, of course. And, block it in your bloody diary. So before you start the week, you know roughly what you're going to be doing most days. So block it down. You can move them around a little bit, but once they're blocked in, you have to do it. And, block in 1:30 minutes time for yourself. Time to create success, time to think. Time to really get deeper into a specific issue, a specific thing, a project that you want to just solve, resolve, get better at, maybe learn it. Because they don't have to be all issues, do they? Things that you might want to learn. So how can I learn this? And when you sit down and think that's what one of the questions just jumped in. How can, what do I need to learn? You ask yourself questions. You write those questions down. What do I really want? Is it going to make my life better or worse? How can I make it better? What do I know already? What do I need to know more of all these wonderful questions? And questions go on forever. There are so many people now who have questions that are, so brilliant. Tim Ferriss has lots of questions and I love his questions and they're very closely aligned to the type of things that I would ask myself and what we could do. Because I Always threatened to write a book about just the questions you ask yourself, but I thought that was a bit pretentious. But we could do another podcast episode on the type of things you could do in that 30, minute session. The type of questions you could ask that would get your unconscious mind going in a direction to find the answers. Because it's. And again, it's because you write these down, your unconscious mind goes and finds the answers. And the beauty of this, you sit down for 30 minutes, you might not get everything done that you wanted to. They're open questions. You haven't maybe found the answer yet. You've thought of some options, but you're not quite sure. One of the old Cloughie guarantees is you'll go away. You'll close the book, you'll go away and you'll come back suddenly go, ah. And you'll have that aha, moment, where's my book? I must make that note down. And you can't find that, so you put it in a little piece of paper or your field book, and then you come back to your thinking book in that. And it. Just because it's written down, you can always go back to it. And it gets richer and it gets more inspiring, more intuitive and it gets you to start to dream and think without you really sitting down hard because you just go, ah, becomes a habit that, that ideas muscle starts to really get strong. You begin to resolve and solve what? whatever you need to solve and resolve. I hope a lot of this, I hope this has made sense because, to be honest, I try, I always try to think of the meta side of all of this. What am I trying to do? And I'm really just. It's a reminder that, to me anyway, that there's so much more that you can find and it's all in you and there's so much more of you to find and to keep it, put it on paper. And I think it just makes so much sense. I love you to think, well, that makes sense. I'm going to do that. Take up my bloody challenge. Take up my challenge and find out. You see, I believe this is where your dreams are formed. And then they're made and then you plan them and then you begin to schedule. We've got that bloody diary again, haven't we? And then we start scheduling for stuff and then we review the week and we review our plans and without that puzzle book, without that diary, without you consciously committing to this, your life might just say the same. And I don't Want that for you. I want your life to get so rich. Rich in every way, shape or form. So colorful, so exciting, so passionate with wonderful emotions. And I know you might thinking, yeah, you're bigging this one up, Cloughie. I don't think I am. I really don't think I am. It comes from these simple little things. In simplicity, there's fucking genius. And this is so simple. Take up my challenge.     Go on, I dare you. Go away and have a think about thinking   Go on, I dare you. And then when you do, let me know how you got on. Always love your feedback. Hey, your feedback might be claphy. You're not swearing enough. Sorry, I have started swearing a bit more in here. but that's because I'm getting more passionate about some of the stuff I'm talking about now, I think. And it's me, but hopefully that's okay. But do email me feedback@personaldevelopment unplugged.com if there's any of those questions. Well, I'm sitting down, but I'm getting a bit stuck. Let me know what you're getting stuck on. I'll find something that will take that unstuckiness, away or that stuck in us away. I promise I will. I can. That's what I do. Please do that. And maybe get somebody else on the challenge as well by sharing this episode. Let them know it's just a thinking thing. And it is only thinking better because that's what you do. You think. So we might as well use that skill of thinking and get it better. Get that muscle really pumping. And when you do that, people will see you and they'll go, shit, look at them. Look at them go. I can do that too. You inspire people and you'll never know how far the ripples of that change go. You really won't. But you know, you're creating that change in you and other people. What a wonderful thing to do. All because you listened to Cloughie and you did that seven day challenge and you continued listening and you continue to subscribe. Because if you haven't subscribed, why the not, please press that subscribe button. But the feedback is great. I'd much more prefer, much more prefer the feedback, but I'd like to subscribe too. Okay. Anyway, that's all there is. Go away and have a think about thinking and then take up the challenge. I dare you, dare you to create your dreams and the life that you really want.     Personal development unplugged. It's time to fly on your own   Time to fly. Bye. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul . It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. 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Who'll Remember You No One! The sad fact is a few years after we've left this mortal life very few will remember us and in a couple of generations most will not know who you were  and what you did. So in this 5-minute muse let's get positive and make the most of our lives for us and those around us NOW. If you're going to create a legacy create it in the present. This may be a short episode but I do believe it carries an important message. No more excuses - Let's live Please share so others can be reminded https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-470-wholl-remember-you/ and the video link to this this recording: https://youtu.be/fNJK7WMp-xw Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

What Are You Putting Off? Achieving NOW A 5 minute muse that just might change the way you think. What do you really want in your life that you are putting off - achieving? Because we do, we are - putting off those things we want ad it's not a nice thought because we've put it off. But if you ask this question you might just begin to start the one thing that would make the difference. What's the QUESTION? Well you have to listen because it's a podcast And when you have share with at least on other so they get to be on their way to making the life the deserve and dream of: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-469-what-are-you-putting-off-achieving And the video of this is here: https://youtu.be/X8C3Ipwf4nc Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,         Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

The Secret To Speeding Up The secret is, as usual, hiding in plain sight and is counterintuitive. And I'll start, in this 5-minute quickie episode start with a story, a metaphor and then muse. The story is about something you would never ever do yet in real life we do it all too much with disastrous results. Results such a: Burnout Overwhelm Anxiety Loss of Confidence and so much more AND......... There is a simple solution! please press play and have a listen. It would be really nice if you would pay this forward by sharing this episode and the podcast https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-468-the-secret-to-speeding-up/ ‎ And if you haven't already subscribe - it really makes a difference you wouldn't believe Oh! and if you want to see this being recorded https://youtu.be/29Vxav-Y7GY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

One Life No Excuses You Choose No Excuses, Just Choices Hey, my unplugged friends! Welcome back to the *Personal Development Unplugged* podcast. I'm Paul, and today we're getting right into the nitty-gritty of life. No fluff, no excuses, just real, raw choices. Because here's the deal—you've only got *one* life, so let's stop blaming, stop explaining, and start owning it. Let me start with a little story, a personal one. It's all about a Christmas card… yeah, a Christmas card. Sounds innocent enough, right? But it taught me something huge about responsibility. You ever done something and then thought, "What was I thinking?" or "Why did I do that?" Well, this is one of those moments. So, let's break it down: ### First, why do we need to take responsibility? It's simple—because when you own your choices, you get to shape your life. Every action you take, every decision, has consequences, good or bad. But here's the magic—when you acknowledge them, you also get the power to learn, to grow, and to make better choices next time. ### Then, how do we actually do it? I'm sharing practical strategies for reflecting on past actions—whether they were brilliant or a complete mess—and extracting the golden lessons from them. That's how you build a richer life. Not by avoiding mistakes, but by learning from them. ### And here's a big one: I've got five keys to success, and one of the biggest is acting *as if* you've already achieved your goals. When you start to live as the person you want to become, your brain and body align. Your decisions start matching the future you're aiming for. This isn't about being perfect, it's about making choices with intention. It's about setting expectations for yourself and your life. And, my friends, it's about choosing to take responsibility—because when you do, you take control. So, are you ready to stop making excuses and start flying? That's what this episode is all about. It's about embracing your one and only life, and making it yours. No one else is going to do it for you. Take a listen, absorb it, and most importantly, act on it. You've got the power, and it's all within your choices. As always, please share, and let's keep spreading the word—because the more we all take responsibility, the higher we can all soar. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/414-one-life-no-excuses-you-choose/ That's it for now—let's unplug from excuses and plug into *you*. See you soon! Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Stop your excuses and learn to choose how to live your life   One life, you choose how to live it. No excuses, no excuses. You've got this. There's no one else to blame. Now you've got this. Stop your excuses and learn to choose how to live your life. If you want more when you do Cloughie says sometimes we don't think about consequences of our actions   M hey, welcome back to the longer podcast. One life. One life. And you choose it. And you choose how to live it. Here's a question to you. Have you ever said this to yourself? What the hell was I thinking about? Why did I do, what is going on? how could I have done just that? You see, a million years ago, in my other life, when I used to be a director of a business, each year we used to give out Christmas cards, send them to all, the local people who employed us and did this stuff and what have you. There's quite a few, quite a few. And one year I decided to do something different. I don't know why I did it at the time, the very second I did it, I thought it was such a brilliant idea, I wrote a cheeky note. Instead of just happy Christmas, Paul, I wrote something else. And what happened? Well, it was, they were seen and there was a big stack of these cards and someone said, what the hell are you doing, Cloughie? This is not it, you can't do this. This is so wrong, so wrong. We're going to have to take all the cards back, we're going to have to throw those ones away, order some more. The people who have already signed all these cards are going to sign them again, and so have you. What else have you got to do? And I did think then the only good thing to do, the right thing to do was apologize. So I don't know what I did, I don't know why. I've let people down badly, I let myself down badly. But at the time, I thought it was the best thing to do. I really did, I thought I was doing something. So I did apologize. And it didn't matter how good that intention was, that behaviour was absolutely crap, wasn't it? And it hurt, bloody hurt when I did it, when I had to go around to each person. So I'm really sorry, you know, I fucked up, but I did learn from it, I did learn because no one else to blame, no one else to blame. I could have argued, oh, it's such a good thing. No, it was wrong, just didn't think about it. What about you? What about you? Have you ever done something like that? Something that you. You've done, but it's quite painful when you think about it now, but at the time, you thought it was a good thing to do. You see, what I didn't do, and I think what we don't do is stop and think about the consequences of our actions. I think we do. Sometimes we get wrapped up in the moment. And you see, this is a little bit like following on from one of the, short five minute quickie podcasts about taking responsibility. No excuses, you see, because you're here right now, listening to me prattle on, and that's your choice. It's a good choice, by the way. Fucking good choice. Yeah. It's a really good choice. In fact, wherever you are in life right now, at this very moment, this very moment in time, whatever you do, where you listen to me now, but whenever you listen to me, or, whenever you're doing right now, is your achievements. This point in time has been created by your achievements, by your cock ups, by your relationships. Basically, everything has been your choice. You have chosen every step of the way. And yeah, you can say, oh, no, no, I didn't, Paul, I didn't clavy, I didn't do that. People made me do that. Things made me do that. The weather made me the weather. The business. Business world, the crash on the Internet, all that stuff that made me. Can you think about that? Just think about it now, really? You're going to blame other people for your choices? Things that happened, for your choices? Yeah, they happened. But you chose to do something when it happened, didn't it? I want to take you back. Take you back in time. I want to take you right, right. All the way back in time to your birth. Really. Yeah. You see, when you were born, you came into this world like a clean slate. You didn't have any beliefs, you didn't have any behaviors other than cry, shit, eat all that stuff. But that's all you did, isn't it? That's all you did. And, from that very moment on, that very moment on, you chose. You chose what you did. You chose at that very moment what to believe, what to do, how to behave. Yeah, I know. There's one caveat. Well, there is. There is one caveat to this. You didn't do it consciously. It was your unconscious mind. Your unconscious mind made these choices, made these learnings. But you had to choose who to believe. Yeah, I know. We've got. When we were born, we had these people around us who, we took on their beliefs almost uncritically, most of them, it's big generalization, but most of them, we took on their beliefs. But even those, even when we chose to take on beliefs uncritical, they weren't even their beliefs, because they could have been other generations and generations and time changes. But we still chose. We still chose to do the things we did and we might even give excuses to.     NLP is all about taking time to learn from the past   Well, in my childhood wasn't that good. I had some negative experiences. I had trauma. There was bullies, there was this. There was that. Nah You know, you might say I didn't have a chance and I didn't have a choice. Yeah, you did. We all did. Because, you see, there's always that counterexample. People from similar backgrounds had similar opportunities or similar things happening to them in life, but they chose a different outcome because they didn't. They're not the same as you, or they're not the same as me, and they're not the same as anybody else. You see these people who will just lay off all those bloody excuses because it wasn't their fault. But the thing is, when you live in this world of lie, I call them lies because they're just reasons. They're excuses. We chose to live that life and they didn't. And they took their opportunities. They made different choices. They did the things that, well, they just made different choices. So where am I going with this? You see, I want to get us into this place where we're not living in the land of what we think are, excuses, but. Or reasons. They're reasons, really. We go, oh, this is the reason. And sometimes we bloody believe it. But the thing is, this reason is just a bloody excuse. I can't even say the word. It's an excuse. We're not taking responsibility. And you see, when we acknowledge that we chose, and we albeit chose unconsciously, and when we go back to NLP, neuro linguistic programming training, that there's some presuppositions, useful assumptions, the presuppositions of NLP. And one of them is everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have at that moment, their unconscious resources, their skills, their experiences in life. So we do the best we can, we try to make the best choice, just like I did when I did those bloody Christmas cards. But it was a fuck up. Sometimes we don't make the right choice. We don't think of the consequences. But, hey, that's life. But the thing is, if we take and acknowledge responsibility for that we become a cause, becoming empowered. And we can learn from them, can't we? We can learn from the results because they're not failures. They might see me at the time because they bloody hurt. but they're just results. We didn't realize what the result we're going to get. And what we got is what we got. We didn't like it. So no excuses. Yeah, I did it. That was me I chose. Don't know why. Something inside me, hey, I want to learn from it. Because when I do that, I can take control, control of my life, control of not necessarily what happens because you're not always certain what's going to happen, but we can be as certain as we can be, can't we? So it's all about taking time to learn from the past. And, it's not just learning about those so called failures, because the things that didn't happen, which didn't happen so good. We might call them failure, but they're just, as I say, they're just a result that we didn't expect to have happen. But we can learn from those, can't we? Because when we learn from them, any negative emotion around those events in our past disappears. Because we don't need the emotion. Because we've learned from them. We can now take that learning into the future. But hey, don't forget about the good stuff. You remember the good stuff. You remember and go, what can I learn from that? Don't just take it blindly. Oh, it was great. Now, what did I do to create that good stuff? What was my thoughts? What were my beliefs? What my emotions? What behaviors did I do? Because you can take that and take them into the future, too. So you've learning from both, not so good, but learning from the good stuff. Don't let the good stuff disappear because the golden nuggets strewn everywhere in your life. And, the thing is, when you do that, you just have to take time. It's about taking time to refresh both, I guess all those different memories. Quiet reflection. Now, you know me, I'm going to say, write that. Nearly swore that sucker down. Write it down. Make notes. Because if you don't, what happens is one comes in one ear and then it pisses off at the other because the other something else is coming in and something else is coming in. So write them down. Because when you write them down, you can really. Or you can come back to them for a start because they're always there. So you can improve. Not improve. Yeah, you can improve upon their thoughts. You can think we don't spend enough time thinking. I think. I think that. But you can ask yourself questions in those notes. What can I learn from this? And you don't have to relive it, because it will never be the same. Think about it. Every memory you have now is not true. It's not true. The emotion you're in right now will change that bloody memory.     You have a choice to make about your life, Paul Cloughie says   If you're happy and you think of a bit of a shitty time in the past, it's not that bad. Well, it wasn't that bad yet. If you're feeling down today, that same memory was absolutely worse than that. So bad. And, it's never the same. Never really, what happened. So we don't want to revisit them as such. Not the memory. But what can I learn from it? How can I do it different? How can I use these learnings to create, betterment in my life? Better experiences, a richer life, the good times. How can I use those emotions and skills to influence more things, to make life richer? And you see, when we do this, we're acknowledging that you have a choice, and you have a choice, and you've always had that choice. And you see, even if you said, well, I'm going to do nothing, I ain't going to do nothing about this. Cloughie, you just made a choice. What's the effect of that, that choice? The choice of doing something, learning something, putting it out there, using new skills, new experience, using those experiences to make a richer life in the future, or do nothing. Still choosing. No excuse. No excuse. You're responsible for this. Take it. And, when you're in that responsibility mode, you are empowered. I tell you that. You think about it and you see, why is this such a good thing? And I know it seems a little bit like hard work, but it isn't. You're here. You're here in personal development mode. And nothing I've said to you is complicated because I broke it. Not me. I'm just telling you in simple terms. Now, this is easy. Takes a bit of resilience, takes some bit of bottle, takes a bit of oomph. Gumption. I love that word, gumption, to do this. But it's so much worth it. You see? Why is this so good, to know this and do this? Because you shape tomorrow what you do now, what you choose now. Well, we said everything you chose in the past has led to now. So what you choose now leads to tomorrow and the next tomorrow, which becomes the now you created. That's all you have to do every time, if you're going to do something, just stop. I've talked so many times on the five minute quickie podcast, there's little episodes just to stop for a moment, take a pause, take a breath before you sign anything, and just think while you're just in this moment. And it doesn't take hours. It's just a few seconds, a few, just a minute or so, maybe. What's my intention for doing this? What is my intention? You know, what's my expectation? Same thing. What do I expect to have happened when I do this? What do I intend? what will be the consequences of my actions? What will be the consequences of my intentions, my expectations? Simple thing is what I'm going to do next, going to make my life better or worse. And if it's a big decision, as I said, write that sucker down. Write it down and look for, you know, if it's going to make my life, mostly better. But there's a few not so good bits in think and write, because writing is thinking. How can I mitigate this? How can I change this? And, when you've got that, decide, decide to take action. Now, here's the thing. And, if you look on, well, if you go to the hypnosis tracks, I have@paulcluffonline.com podcast, there is a thing or a track, and I've talked about it in five minute quickly. So I think you can think of longer, longer podcasts.     The five keys to success start with knowing your goal. So you've decided what to do   The five keys to success. One is know your goal. So you, now you've decided, you've chosen what to do, your intention. So you've decided what to do, and now you're going to take intuitive, massive, and the big thing, continuous action. So you're going to move in that direction because you've thought about it now, you've decided, you've intended, you have an expectation, you take this continuous action. And the thing is, as you do that, you become aware, become aware of what's happening now, not just blindly accepting what happens, but if something happens and it's not quite, quite right, the next step is to become flexible. You change your approach, you do something different. You make sure that you're on target or even, sometimes even better still, you notice there's even a better way. So you don't blindly keep going the same way because you've got a better goal. Now that goal has become richer because you're taking intuitive, massive continuous action and you're aware of what's happening. You're flexible. And guess what? When you think of your intention, what you want, the last, the fifth key to success, and, I think one of the most important ones, well, they're all important, they're all linked together, is act as if. Act as if you've got that result already. It's calling acting as if from a psychology and physiology of excellence, as if you've got it already. Acting as if you've got the wish fulfilled, that feeling of the wish fulfilled, the behaviours of the wish fulfilled. What would you. How would you be? And this is not faking it, because this is you. How would you be if you'd achieved this goal already? How would you act? How do you breathe? How would you think? What pitches would you make in your mind? What behaviors and skills would you either do or learn? because you might need to learn a few as you go along and you just keep cycling around and it means everything you do, you could now take full responsibility for, because you've got to anyway. So you might as well take full responsibility of creating this wonderful life that you're going to create. Say, go to Paul Clough online and I think I've put it on a hypnosis track so you can listen to the. The, previous episode all about that. But the five keys to success, get it even deeper done. Goal setting and things like that. They're all intertwined. And now have the hypnosis track just go there. It's free. Bloody free. Goodness me. All you have to do is press buttons and you get it and then take time and you can choose. That's a choice to make. A choice to improve your life by listening to stuff which is done specifically to make your life richer. I hope I haven't garbled on too quickly. I hope I've made things as clear as. Well possibly I can. I know I swore a little bit. And that's me. Take it or leave it. If it upsets you, I'm really sorry, but just take it. This is me trying to be as. Well, not trying. I'm, being as true to myself as I can be and sharing what I know with you, because I want you to have the life that you really deserve, because you're here. One life. Let's make it brilliant by taking responsibility. Grasp it. I'm gonna make this suck of mine. Easy day. You've got this. And having said all of that, you might go. Actually, Paul Cloughie. When I think about some of the stuff I've got to learn from, it's a bit hard because, you know, it's all very well saying you don't go into the memory, but I do. And, send me an email, tell me a little bit about it. Don't want all the content. Just give me the process of what's happening to you. Feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. i will certainly send you a personal reply. I will guide you, and I'll probably make an episode just for you that everyone gets a benefit on. it'll be anonymous, of course, but do that and we'll just keep enriching our lives, your life, everyone's lives. Because that's what it is. It's ecological, it's good for you, it's good for me, it's good for everyone around us, and it's good for little old planet Earth, because everyone is just getting a little bit better and life becomes good. So please do that. Just let me know and subscribe. If you haven't subscribed, please do. No, don't. Please do. Just do it. Do it. One button. Choose. Take responsibility and choose to subscribe and listen to us much as you can. I, know not everybody episode will resonate with you. Maybe there's one little golden nugget, but if you keep doing it, keep listening. I know when I listen to other podcasts, I go, that one's good, that one's good. And then the next one you go, shit, that was so good. I've learned something that is going to change me completely, and I hope to try to find those golden nuggets for you. So please do that and enjoy life, because it's time to fly. I'll see you, my friend. Bye. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development, unplugged.     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Deciding For Success Today Choosing what you succeed in tomorrow Where you are today, what you are achieving, or not, is a result of every decision you have made. This can be a bitter pill to swallow OR When you acknowledge it you become the chooser of you destiny and reality - Whoa Cloughie! Let's take 5 or so minutes to muse and juggle this in our head. It's the ultimate being at cause and not being at the whim of others or excuses I'm sure we'll head to a longer episode but for now enjoy and..... Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-466-deciding-for-success-today/ Oh! There's a video of this episode too https://youtu.be/n0xOQSc-4Jw Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Life Balance Doesn't Exist It's not a Thing and you don't want it Embracing Harmony Over Balance In this longer episode, we dive deep into the myth of life balance and why striving for it might be holding you back. Paul Clough passionately argues that life shouldn't be a flat line of balance but a harmonious flow of ups and downs, much like a jazz band. This episode is a wake-up call to embrace the dynamic nature of life, leaning in and out as needed to create a truly fulfilling existence. We'll explore:   Why the concept of life balance is flawed and often leads to a mundane existence. The importance of setting intentions and understanding your core values. How to lean into different aspects of your life harmoniously, just like the members of a jazz band.   You'll learn:   How to identify and resolve conflicts between your values to achieve a harmonious life. Practical steps to lean in and out of different life areas without losing sight of what's important. Why communication and setting clear intentions are key to living a fulfilling life.   By the end of this episode, you'll be inspired to rethink the way you approach life, focusing on harmony rather than balance. Ready to embrace the ups and downs? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/413-life-balance-doesnt-exist/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism       This is personal development unplugged with Paul Clough   Hey, here's your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about throwing away life balance because it's not a bloody thing. And yes, there's some f bombs in it, but hey, have a listen, because it's all about coming back to basics. Because harmony rules, ups and downs, leaning in, leaning out. This is important. Please listen. This is personal development unplugged, with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity, there is genius.   Warning, warning, warning. Hey, just a quick warning to you. There's a few f bombs in this one, so hopefully that doesn't offend you. It's just me getting excited and showing a bit more of me maybe.     Okay, hey, we're back, we're back and, well, striving for life balance, maybe people call it, I don't know, work life balance. Now, the thing is, do you really want to strive for balance? Do you really want to strive for a work life balance? Well, the word is fuck. No, because balance is absolutely. Well, think about it. It's just flat, isn't it? It's not up, it's not down, it is bloody horizontal. And to me it just doesn't work. Imagine this. Imagine this, living your life with no ups or downs. Imagine it now, think, just for the moment, a whole life, not a little bit of a life, but a whole life living with no ups or downs. It would be so boring, wouldn't it? So boring. To me. In my weird, weird mind, it looks like, well, I'm dead, you know, because you hear beep, beep and that little thing going up and down. But bz or a beep, a straight line death, dead. Imagine this again, another imagination thing. Imagine. And, don't think about it too much, but imagine being on your deathbed, the last breath you're about to take. And you think to yourself, when you've strove and strived and had this life of balance, that flat line, and you think, oh, what did I do in life? And, you know what answer you'll come up with? Fuck all. I just existed. Now, would you wish that on yourself? Would you wish that on a child, a friend, anybody? Absolutely no. So what I want for you is something different. If it's not a balanced life, then what? Got some more imagination for you? More imagination? Think of this. Imagine. Imagine you're watching, just for a moment, a, ah, jazz band. And if you've never seen a jazz band, imagine a jazz band, because it doesn't matter. And they're all playing at the same time and they're all playing at the same volume. No, they wouldn't, would they? They wouldn't do that. They don't do that because it would be an absolute mess. In fact it would be booze m a line of noise, of balance. But they don't do that because a jazz band would be. Maybe the singer would just for the moment take the front stage. And then as they sing for a little bit, then they step back and maybe that piano, the pianist or pianist, that's a better word, Paula starts to play and he becomes a spotlight. And as he's playing, suddenly the guitarist comes to the fore and that pianist just disappears. And the guitarist comes in and plays that wonderful jazz. And then maybe the trumpet player or saxophonist, I think it's a word, just eases themselves into the front. And then maybe the drummer comes in then. Well, who knows? You see, even that's not the way, is it? It's sort of the way. Because they don't just come in one after the other after the other. They jamdeze the lead is natural. And why and how it's called harmony. They are playing in perfect. Well, not perfect because it's just jamming harmony, but they're creating the ups and the downs, the crescendos, the softness, the quietness, the fast, the slow. And each one creates more harmony. And it's exciting and it's relaxing. It's a bit of everything, isn't it? That's what it is.     How do we get harmony then, Paul? How do we become harmonious   So let's go back to life. Our life, your life, my life. How do we get this harmony then, Paul? That's what you're saying, aren't you? You come up with all this stuff. You're great at that. And I am. I wouldn't say great at that. But I do come up with this stuff. But I also think of the answers, if I can, my answers. Because I never leave you hanging. There's nothing to get later. It's right now. So how do we get harmony? How do we become harmonious? I love that word. Harmonious. Well, there's a golden rule. A golden bloody rule. First of all, what is that golden rule? Think about it. Think for the moment. If you've been here for a little while, you may just get a little inkling. But if you haven't, it doesn't matter. Because the first thing ever, ever, ever we should do with anything we're ever going to do is set our intention, understand our values. So we set our intention and we begin to understand what's important to us. Because when you know what's important to you. You'll set your intention and choose what you're going to do, what you expect to have happen, how you want to live, what you want to achieve in your life. Now, some people might call that personal development, like personal development unplugged, self improvement. And we talked about it before. It means leaning in. Well, I've talked about it, on other platforms, I think about leaning in, taking actions towards those goals, towards those dreams which proposes or presupposes, I guess you have to lean away from other things, other things in your life, because if you're leaning in, you can't, lean into everything. So you lean in just like those lead singers, and that's it. You just put all your effort, but you put a majority, the higher percentage of your effort into that particular thing that really is important right now that's going to create this life of harmony. And something has to take a little backseat, doesn't it? Just for the moment. So what do we do when we lean in? You see, it's how you lean in and how you lean out harmoniously. Here's an example. You know, some people have great family values. Family is a real high value in one section of their life, but on the other section of their life, work is important because work might give you that stimulus, but it also supports the family. Now, life doesn't let you work equally on your family life and work equally on your work life. Your career life doesn't happen, does it? Because there are times when you have to put your family on the back seat just a little bit so you can lean into your success at work. Maybe you're an entrepreneur and there's something important that you have to really lean into, put your effort into and you lean in and your family just takes that little bit of a backseat. But the thing is, this is where the harmony comes into or comes, comes into effect, because then we lean back out and we lean back into the family because we've put our efforts into that important part of work, maybe. And now we're putting our, we're replenishing, as it were, I guess, our, family. And that's where the harmony comes in, where the spotlight goes. You see, we've all seen the examples of people when they don't have that harmony. It's sort of like a, sort of a flat line thing where they put all their efforts into work, making everything such as a success, I'll say that, clearly a success. And they push and they push and they push 25 hours a day, 8 hours a week, and the family doesn't take a backseat. Disappears, isn't it? And it goes on too long and it becomes disharmonious. And the marriage breaks up, or the partnership breaks up, the family break up because it's not in harmony anymore. And the thing is, because of that, the work, the stress of that family breaking up suddenly affects the work. So what do we do? Well, we go back to that bloody golden rule again, don't we? Before you get there, or if you find it's starting to happen to you, think of the golden rule, what's important to me. And you've got to remember both. Then if there's a conflict, because that's what it would be. It would be a conflict, and harmoniously. And harmony will deal with that conflict. Because not doing either. If you do that flat line and don't put enough, effort into the one and then come back to the other, both just disappear, don't they? Because you're not putting. You wouldn't be satisfied either. So what's important to you, set your intention to what you want to do, but be mindful that that other part of your life is important too. And you see, that's why you're here, I think. Certainly that's why I'm here. Trying to.     Paul wants you to think about how to live your life harmoniously   Well, a lot of this stuff is going through my own personal junk, as it were. Me thinking about the things that I'm going to try to strive to get better at the harmony in this particular instance of my life. And I'm thinking out loud, as it were. and hopefully that me sharing some of my concerns, my thoughts, my action plans will resonate with you. Because that's why we're here, isn't it? Because we want to find that best version of ourselves. I've got a great thing coming up about that in the next couple, of, episodes, about finding that best version of yourself. But to learn processes, processes to be able to deal with those stresses and strains of those conflicts, ways to. Well, a way to live our life harmoniously. But dealing with the anxieties, maybe the fears, the stresses, getting those goals, getting those values in order, reducing conflict. Because once that conflict disappears, life becomes fucking good. In fact, it becomes fucking great. And that's what I believe, what we're striving for, isn't it? Apologies for all that f bombs and things like that. But it just. Sometimes I. You know, I've just said, sometimes, sod it. If that's the way I feel, that's the way I'm going to express myself. And hopefully that's okay. I'll give you a warning before. But hey, I'd just love you to think about that. And if there's something somewhere in that that you go, oh, great, Paul, you know, you've come up with, I'll just set your intention, get your values, but I don't understand how to, nearly swore again, how to do that. Then let me bloody know. Send me that little email. Feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com. you know you're going to be anonymous anyway. Not anonymous on the email, hopefully, but I'd like to reply to you to discuss that with you, maybe, but to be able to create even more, because I'm sure what you give me as a question would affect me anyway. So I'll go into it. We'll create another episode with specifics then, because I know not only will it help you, but it will help the other listener, although the other three, because we said, we've got four now, we've, we've doubled. So please do that. Because I know sometimes when I go through 20 or 30 minutes or so, not going to hit everything, but it's enough, I think, to get you to think, am I living my life at, fucking balance, straight line, or am I living my life in conflict, which is leaning in too much and forgetting about leaning back into the other things have I lost sight of my values? Are my values in conflict with each other? Because that's where a lot of the issues come from in life, when our values, the things that are important to us, clash. I want to do this, but I want to do that. But I also want to do this. Oh, I want to do that. Setting goals and dreams that we can create, not just put them out there and hope and wish, actually create them in our life. Because as I've told you before, I want to support you in your dreams. I want to support you to get them. I want to support you through those naysayers who, you know, try to throw stones at your bloody dreams, because we're going to not leave them behind. We're going to encourage them to follow us when the time's right, when they are in the right place, they can see us, see you as an example of what can be done. So have a little think. Where am I straight m lining? Where am I? My conflicts? Where are my values? A little bit askew? Maybe not aligned, because once they're aligned, that's when leaning in and leaning out becomes easy. Because you're doing it for the right reasons, but you're doing it at the right level. Not too much in, not too much out, or making sure you can mitigate. You know, it's. Communication to sometimes is sometimes just the key. Being able to explain why and what you're doing and ask for advice. You know, if I get too mad, if I'm leaning in too much, let me know. Things like that. Little simple communication can be the beauty, the golden nugget that actually stops you and goes, hey, maybe you just got to reassess things. And that's where I'm here to help. So please do ask me, please share this, this episode. I ask you every time to share it. If you would share it to one person, if you could just do that, share to one person, maybe get them to subscribe. Because you've subscribed, you've pressed that button, maybe get them to subscribe so we can build this community. That would be awesome. Anyway, it's enough of me, enough of my f bombs, and I'm gonna have a little lay down and see and think, what does a harmonious life look like? What would it feel like being able to lean in and lean out and be successful in life? So if I was to take my last breath, sitting there on, my deathbed, and I thought to myself, what m have I done? What have I done in my life? I'd be able to say, fuck, I've done a lot. I've made a difference. That's all I wanted to do. There you go. Anyways, time to fly. Enjoy. See you next time. Bye, Warren. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. 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The Secret Of Getting Things Done If you suffer from overwhelm, too much on the to do list which generally leads to procrastination look no further. The answer my friend is hiding in plain sight and is so, so easy. Simply follow the instructions and you will win the day! Share this little golden nugget with all who is  in a twist https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-465-the-secr…ting-things-done/fmq-465-the-secret-of-getting-things-done And to see the video of this recording  https://youtu.be/XIvFMLV2joc Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

From "I Can't" to "I Won't": Reframing Your Mindset Empower Yourself to Achieve What You Want Ever found yourself saying, "I can't do that"? This episode dives into the power of reframing that statement to "I won't," and how this simple shift can empower you to take control and achieve your goals. Discover how to break free from limiting beliefs and self-doubt, and learn to embrace new challenges with confidence. We'll explore:   Why saying "I can't" can limit your opportunities and how others perceive you. The origins of limiting beliefs and how to question their validity. The empowering effect of choosing to say "I won't" instead of "I can't."   You'll learn:   How to take responsibility for your actions and decisions. Practical steps to reframe negative thoughts and emotions. How to build confidence by acknowledging your fears and taking small steps towards your goals.   By the end of this episode, you'll have a new perspective on how to tackle challenges and turn your "can'ts" into "wills." Ready to transform your mindset? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/412-never-let-cant-stop-you/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism It's all about saying I can't do things and changing it   Hey, your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about saying I can't do things and changing it, reframing in a way that you will, and then getting that buzz, becoming powered to be able to do the things you want to do. But you've had the excuse and said I can't, but now you can. Please have a listen because it makes so much difference to your life. Okay? Enjoy . Hey, welcome to the longer podcast. And it's amazing, isn't it? It's amazing where you can learn stuff. Stuff. Just stuff. Learning stuff. Because I learned something from a place where you would not expect it. I was in the gym, you see, and you know, I love going to the gym. I don't always love, well, I love leaving the gym. That's what I love most of all. Because leaving the gym means you've done your work and it feels good. But the thing is, I love to listen to podcasts. That's where I listen to most of my podcasts. I'm in the gym. I'm on the walking machine. I don't call it a running machine because I don't run on it. Walk uphill, do my bit, my vo two s or whatever it's called. I don't know. And I was listening, and it's amazing what you can find. Amazing what you can find when you, you're not expecting it. And that's what I love about it. You see, there was I listening to, well, a weird thing outside my comfort zone. It was a spiritual podcast. And, there I was, walking away, panting, as it were. And what happened was this lovely lady, a lovely lady called Eileen Foster. She said, we often say, oh, I can't do that. Now, we often say that to ourselves, don't we? Do you? I know I do. I can't do that. no, no, no, I can't do that. Yeah. And sometimes, you see, you say it out loud, you say it out loud to others, and that's even worse. Why is that worse? Well, they, you might believe that you can't, but it's belief. But if you say outside, with your outside voice, your external voice, your auditory, out there, just like me now, and you say it to somebody else, they've got nothing else to other than, believe you. And if they believe you can't do something because you say, oh, I can't do that, guess what, guess what? They'll never bloody ask you again. That's it. That opportunity is gone. Wow. You see, why? Why would you do that? But we do, don't we? And it's probably, probably something that you might even like to do. That's the thing, isn't it? Because it's out there. Oh, I'd love to do that. I'd love to. Oh, but I can't. I really want to do, No, I can't. You got all those bloody can'ts. And the thing is, ask yourself this question. Ask yourself this question. Where the bloody hell did that belief come from? Where, where did it come from now? I don't know. Think about it now. Think of something in the past where you said, no, I can't do that. And you never have. But you really want to. But m, you know, you've said, I can't do that. Whether you've said it inside, whether you've said it outside, whether you said it to yourself outside. You know, I speak to myself like that all the time. People think I'm a bit of a loon that way, but I do. I talk out loud to myself, where do they come from? Because the thing about it is, there's no bloody facts, is there? No facts. Because there might be some limiting beliefs in there. Because you think, you know, I'm not good enough. Where did that voice come from? I'm not good enough or I'm stupid, or, you know that one going back to the dark ages where people say I'm not worthy. When do people say that, really, I'm not worthy? Other than when they go to the therapist? I don't know. They do. They do. They say that I'm not worthy. And when I'm, working with clients, I actually laugh. Do people talk like that? But, yeah, it's a belief. No facts. No facts whatsoever to those beliefs. Because you haven't done it yet and you get that yet. That's what you need to be in the yet.     There are things that you say you can't do and you actually do them   I think there's also those bloody emotions that go around, isn't there? What are they? Cloughie. Well, you've got things like scared. Fear. I'm scared now. what am I scared of? Well, it could be scared of failing. It could be scared of making the right ass of yourself in front of people. I, laugh now. I laugh now. But there's things that I'm still saying I can't do and I'm scared of doing it. Making a fool of myself, maybe feeling a failure, proving to myself I'm a bloody failure over and over again, doing thing. Oh, I'm not going to do it anymore. Because my unconscious, mind says, I'm going to protect you, Cloughie. And it probably say, if your name was Cloughie, it would say the same to you, but it'll say in your own right, I'm going to protect you from that feeling of. Feeling of failure, that feeling of feeling stupid, embarrassed. So I'm going to scare you a little bit, give you that anxiety, give you that bit of stress, then you won't bloody do it. And with that limiting belief of, you know, you're not good enough anyway, stupid, hey, you never do it. And, you know, the weird thing is sometimes those things that you say you can't do are, the things, first of all, you want to do. But you've never done them before, have you? Never done them before. So you don't even know. You do not even know whether you can do it, because you haven't done that step, done that one thing. So here's the thing. Good old Eileen. And this is where it blew my mind, because I was listening to this and going, yeah, it all makes sense. Well, in fact, I've padded a lot of that out because she did. She just said this thing about saying people. People say they can't do that. And the bit about, you know, people believing, which is dead right, if you say it out loud and somebody hears it, they believe you and they don't ask you. And I thought, that's bloody awesome. That is a real effect of saying, I can't do this out loud. But then she said, and it was a massive, massive reframe. I don't know. She realized that, but she reframed it so well, because she said, instead of all that, I can't just say, well, I won't, I won't do that. And, the thing is, you see, when you say, I won't do that, in some ways it's sort of empowering because you've taken. Taken ownership of it. And the thing is, and, what would be the good thing if I missed out on doing it, if I don't do it? Because, you know, you say, I won't do it. Now, isn't that weird? When you say, you know, that thing that I, really want to do, I'd love to do it. I'd love to learn how to do it. I'd love to experience it. I'd love to be with those people. And whatever it is, maybe just in speaking up within your group, I'm a bloody introvert. Well, some of the time. And I sit back in my group, and sometimes I can't contribute. Now, as soon as I say I won't contribute, so why not? Why won't you Cloughie? Why don't you? Oh, because I've chosen not to. And if I've chosen not to, guess what? I can choose the other way, can't I? I can choose the other way.     What would happen if you did do it successfully or enjoyed it   And, what, here's one of the questions you come from. I learnt it in NLP and it's, a meta question. They call it a meta question. And what it says is, well, what would happen if you didn't? What would happen if you did do it? What would happen if you did it successfully? What would happen if you enjoyed it? Now, when you say those things, what would happen if you did do it? You have to think about it. Well, if I did do it, oh, maybe I'd feel this. What would have did it successfully? Presupposing now you're gonna do it. Well, as opposed to, I'm a failure. I can't do it. All that stuff. Oh, what if I could do it successfully that would make me so good and the opportunities that would come from that. Or I'd just be a better. I'd just feel better in myself. And what if I enjoyed it as well? Enjoyed the process. Well, if I enjoyed that type of thing, maybe I would do more of it. Maybe I. This would be the stepping stone to do other things. So if you say won't instead of can't, you're really taking responsibility, aren't you? You're taking responsibility for your decisions. There's no more excuses now because I, can't do that. It's just a bloody excuse, isn't it? Because you don't bloody know. For a start, you've again imagined all the feelings of failure, everything bloody negative around that. And what a wonderful way to look at life. I mean, I don't know if you've got children. I have. I got three beautiful children. They're my babies, but they're big, big boys now. But what would happen if I gave them that type of instruction? Oh, you can't do that. You can't do that. No, you'd encourage them, wouldn't you? You'd encourage them. And that's what we want to do inside. Get our best friend now, our unconscious mind, to encourage us to say, well, I won't do it now, but maybe I'm, going to do it, now I'm going to do it now. I am. I'm choosing because if you choose not to, by the way, if you choose not to do something, you're taking responsibility too, by saying won't. I am taking responsibility for my decisions to say, no, I'm not doing it. I'm not doing it. Simple as that. I'm nothing. I'm not doing it at all. But the thing is, now you can choose whether you do or whether you don't. Before, when you said I can't, you were, living on the effect side of life, thinking of all the negative crap. Everything that could go wrong might go wrong, the worst it could ever be. And, think about this. Let's just go before we start to choose that we're going to do these type of things. If it's a new thing, you're gonna bloody be crap at it anyway. Of course you are. We're all gonna fall over when we start learning new skills. Unless you're one of these bloody wonder kids who just happen to pick it up straight away. And if you do, great. But once you take that one step towards doing it, well, I'm going to do this. I'm going to learn how to do it. Because if you think about everything that you're good at now, everything you're good at now, when you first started it, you were crap at it. Probably. Probably not very good. Don't like crap. But yeah, I do. That's why I speak. But I haven't sworn in this one. I'm pretty good now. Pretty good. But you weren't very good. I know the things that I am reasonably good at now. When I first started, I was hopeless, but I had that little speck inside me, that little desire to get better, to learn. Which is why we're here under personal development, self improvement, all that stuff, unplugged. Making things simple. So let's break those things down that we're trying to learn to, into simple things. And then we get better at them. Doing stuff, doing your stuff and getting better and better. And guess what? Doing the stuff that you're going to be good at in the future. Learning. Because that's what we're all here for. To learn and enjoy creating new stuff. Become that creative. Let that creative part of you excel to thrive, to be so good and make a life. Make a life for yourself. M that's what it's all about, isn't it?     Paul Clough: Breaking down limiting beliefs is easy. It takes effort, by the way   Now we're going to dive into this deeper. We will. We will dive into this deeper. Because I wanted to set that reframe of can't to won't. And then get you to take responsibility. But we'll dive into those negative beliefs, those limiting beliefs, how we can change them, we'll dive into those emotions, how we can let them go. And, notice how they're protecting us, but they're not working anymore, how it's setting up those conflicts. We're going to do that in longer podcasts, because that's what personal development, unplugged is all about. Breaking down those, those negative things in our life, the things that are stopping us, holding us back. But to do it in a simple, easy way, it is easy. It takes effort, by the way, just because they're easy takes effort. And then you can be able to apply them day by day and get better and better, and then it just boils down to, well, if I've never done it before, I'm going to start now. And doesn't that apply to everything you've ever done? You never did it before and, now you are. And I'm going to support you in that. All the way, by the way. All the way. So do have a think. Maybe there's some limiting beliefs that you'd like to get rid of? Send me an email. Personal development unplugged. No, it isn't at all. Cloughie it is. Feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. send me that email. Tell me the type of limiting beliefs you like to get rid of. We'll work on that. Maybe there's some emotions that I haven't mentioned or something new. We can work on that. We'll get a longer podcast, we'll have a process, maybe even a hypnosis track to go with it. Go and test me. Push me. Let me stretch myself to help you. To help me. That would be great if you did. And also if you haven't subscribed, please press that subscribe button, please. That'd be good, because we're gonna, you get though these podcasts all the time now, twice a week. And I know it would help. Not every podcast will, will resonate. There'll be golden nuggets in everyone. But with that one, that really does resonate. Really does. You're gonna, you're gonna smack yourself for not listening, but you won't, because you wouldn't listen, but you will, you'll get it. And then you let me know too. So please do that. Share this. Like hell if you could. I mean, I say like how, but if you can share it to one person and get them to subscribe, that would be awesome. Yeah, so there you go. Hope you enjoyed it. Thank you so much for your time. I so much. I really did appreciate it. I do appreciate it. There's more to come. Have fun, my friend, because it's time to fly. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. 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Hopes And Wishes What's the difference between hopes and wishes and how strong is your belief in a wish or hope. How can we make hopes and wishes turn our dreams and goals come true? It's all around intention and equally important expectation - YOUR intention YOUR expectation! when you hold this that;s when things start changing. Please take 5 minutes to learn my take on this and how we can effect our unconscious mind - you goal getter and taking conscious responsibility for the action you intuitively now know what to take. Please share : https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-464-hopes-and-wishes/ And the video link https://youtu.be/ZsQICMc4HF4 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Learning From Our Life Stories - Part 2 Let's put this within a HYPNOSIS process Unlocking Deep Learnings from Life's Experiences Welcome to a special hypnosis session designed to help you extract profound learnings from your life's aha moments and even your negative experiences. This track is a companion to the longer podcast episode on learning from our life stories. Prepare to delve deep into your unconscious mind and bring forth valuable insights that will enrich your life. Following on from #410 Learning From Our Life Stories we put the metaphor into practice within a hypnosis process and let's learn from our stories of the past and put that learning available to our future.] Please listen to the previous episode so you get the full intention of the process and the full benefit of the result.] And......] REMEMBER It is a hypnosis track in this episode so if you have anything to attend to, that needs your conscious attention like driving etc. don't press play and wait till you can find a comfortable place where you will be undisturbed and get the best for yourself. Treat yourself !!!!!!!] There's lots of things going in each ear so just relax and let it in  :O)] Please share:] https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/411-learning-from-our-life-stories-part-2-hypnosis   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Personal development track based on learning from our life stories   Here's your heads up to this, this accompanying hypnosis track.   It's from the longer podcast, learning from our life stories. And I think you're going to find it really, really deeply.   Well, deeply learning, if that's a word.   I think you'll find you'll learn something deeply.   Anyway, do have a listen.   I think you'll find it deeply learning.     hey, welcome back. And this is the following on from learning from our life stories, learning from.   Our aha, moments and sometimes the slightest negative times in our life, but.   To make sure that we take those learnings with us, the learnings of our life, as it were. So they're going to be available to us whenever we need them because they're unconscious, unconscious learnings. And when we have them available to us, well, they're not wasted, are they? And we can use them without consciously being aware of it. We can review it consciously and go, thank you, have all that gratitude. So here's a hypnosis track. If you remember, it's based on that.   Ah, story, story of someone who, well.   He had his pausing an aha moment and it's going to be, well, this is downloadable anyway, but you've also got this chat on it. So I'm also going to put just the hypnosis track, just without this. This waffle Clough is waffle at the beginning to to the separate website I have, which is called paulcloughonline.com and it's forward slash podcast because that's where I keep 60 plus nearly 70 now. Hypnosis tracks and NLP processes where you can listen to them uniquely and download them, and they come with my compliments. You can keep them forever and use them. So that's where they're going to be. And I'll give you a little bit of a note about that. So please, if you haven't gone there before, please go to paulcloughonline.com podcast sign up so you can have this and all the other hypnosis tracks just for you. So, but knowing this is hypnosis, you need to have nothing to do other than give yourself permission to enter into hypnosis. So nothing other to focus on other than yourself. So you're not driving, you're not looking after machinery, you're not doing anything that needs your attention. Your eyes will be closed, remember? So you want to find a comfortable place where you'll be undisturbed, where you can sit down, lay down, lie down and just enjoy the process and notice.   What you learn at the end.   So if you've got that safe place, get ready and we'll begin in about three to 5 seconds. Okay, get ready. Now.   If it's okay, and it has to be okay with you to give yourself consciously and unconsciously permission to explore this. And all we're doing is exploring with the intention of our unconscious mind taking all the goodness and finding ways that we can create a richer life. And if that's okay, close your eyes. And by closing your eyes that means and implies permission is given for the both of you. Every one of each and every one of you, inside and out.     Okay, so it's time to enter, uh, hypnosis. This is to sleep in trance imagination   Okay, so it's time time to enter, hypnosis. So you found that comfortable place somewhere where you'll be undisturbed for the next few minutes.  Hey you really need to go to the track nd experience the real ting  :O) Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Unlocking the Power of Aha Moments Stories, Metaphors, and Hypnosis In this longer episode, we delve into the transformative power of stories and the hidden metaphors they hold. Join me as I share a poignant story from a recent webinar for my son's Mind Mastery group, which helps people overcome anxiety and find their life purpose. This story resonated deeply with me, revealing a hidden metaphor that can be harnessed through hypnosis. We'll explore:   The concept of finding your "North Star" and aligning with your life purpose. A touching story about self-discovery and living authentically. How to identify and utilize your own aha moments for future growth.   You'll learn:   How to reflect on past aha moments to unlock hidden strengths. Ways to use these moments to overcome self-doubt and excuses. A unique hypnosis process to integrate these insights into your daily life.   By the end of this episode, you'll be inspired to revisit your own life stories and aha moments, using them as powerful tools for personal development. Ready to dive in? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/410-learning-from-our-life-stories/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough shares a story that has a hidden metaphor for hypnosis   Here's your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about stories or a particular story that is that. It just got me. It just got me. It had a hidden m, a, hidden metaphor for me that I just wanted to use. So I want to share it with you and follow it with a hypnosis process just for you. So have a listen, and then we'll dive all the way in to the unconscious mind Hey, welcome to the longer podcast. And I'm going to guess, if you're like me, you like stories. Stories bring us in, don't they? They teach us things. And when you find a story that has a, hidden metaphor within it, something you can learn from and use, it's awesome. So that's what I'm going to share with you today. And it's via a webinar I did for my son's mind mastery group, which is a group that, that he set up to help people get rid of anxiety, confidence, and get rid of their core issue and live a meaningful life. And twice a month, I give a q and a, live q and a. And in this particular one, I share a story, a story that evokes something in me and also got me to think of how I could use that metaphor in hypnosis, to use what we've learned. Use aha moments of the past so we can use the learnings from those in the future. Because I don't like aha moments to just be a one off, a five second ah And then they're gone. I thought to myself, let's use them. Use them in the future so we can have the benefit of everything. So if that's of interest to you, I hope it is. Have a listen, and then we'll follow on with, a hypnosis track of a process that I don't know has ever been done before, but it's really interesting. And that will be on a separate track, that'll be in a separate episode, which will come out probably tomorrow. Okay? So have a listen and just enjoy the stories.     I've been thinking about finding my north star, finding your passion   So here we go. So the pause. Now the pause. And I'll tell you for why I'm pausing, because I'm not sure about this next bit. I'll tell you that now. I'm not sure because I, I did say it was serendipitous, because I've been doing a lot of thinking, a lot of writing as I, you know, I think about loads of bloody stuffs. Load of it. Loads of it may be called twaddle and it just goes in and out and, and gets me a little bit confused and then I get a little bit of clarity. But thinking about one of the things I've been reading lately is about, it's called, it's calling, find your calling for finding your, your passion. And someone's the person I'm reading now is calling it their north star, finding your north star. And I guess that's, you know, the direction you're heading in, where you're going, being pulled, using your life purpose and okay, and different missions will go in their different ways, but all heading towards that north Star. And I quite like that analogy. so I've been thinking about my north star. I'm always confused about where I'm going and am I doing the right thing. And then this morning I was in, I was in the gym and instead of listening to a normal podcast and doing all that stuff, I listened to a different one, had it on there for a little while. And it's mainly based in America where they have these story competitions and people get up and tell a story and they get the story of the month and the week and the whatever. And it's called the Moth, I believe it's called the Moth. Lovely web, Lovely podcast. And I thought, well, I'll listen to a few stories instead of going too deep. I don't want to go deep today. I'm just going to go on my old treadmill and do my stuff and I just want to listen to some stories. And the first story came up and it was, it was okay, it was just a story. But the, and again, where I got this from was a guy, I think I've, I have spoken about him before and I can't remember his name. He was a guy who did the homework for life with a little book, just making a note of all the good things that happened to, and he, and in his book he said there are stories that people tell which are basically just, well, they're just tales. They're nice, nice things to reminisce about, but there's maybe nothing too deep into them. They're just something you would tell and oh look, this is what happened to me on the way to work. I saw this and did that or whatever, but he said, a real story, a real story is something that has a five second aha, moment, a five second change in your life and it doesn't always come in the middle. It might come at the end of that story where just suddenly something happens and it's not normally the thing you think about. I'll give you a little example, Joe. And I'm. Excuse me for some. I'm not going to tell the whole story because this is Joe's story but some of you might have heard it. He was, he was having a bit of a time when he was young because he was going through changing careers, as it were. He was only 17 changing careers looking 18, 1718 going towards hypnosis and things like that. And to go to hypnosis, this is a weird thing I had. I got him to go to a hypnosis, class, or it was a week's workshop purely to find out where he would like to work, find his vocation. Certainly didn't think it was going to be in hypnosis because that's what it happened. Suddenly hypnosis became the thing. But that sparked his, deeper thoughts, I think. And it was on his birthday and I'll tell just very briefly he was on his birthday and he's coming home quite late because he's obviously just been celebrating with his friends and he's back in Cambridge. And I love this story because I can be there with him because he said I was standing out my, outside our front door and I can remember how the front door went and the lobby and things like that. And he said it was so, so dark and then it got really quiet and then I could hear a few birds but not many. And then it got quieter and he said, because I've been searching for this thing inside me or I've been searching for this thing, I've been looking at things like a bit of YouTube, I guess was around. I've been looking online, been reading books. There was a lot of recordings at those days, you know, how to improve your life, find your passion, find your missions. He said, I couldn't find anything. I couldn't find anything at all. But then in the quiet just before, I came inside I was just by myself and I stopped and he went really quiet. He said, then I suddenly realized there is nothing outside that's going to teach me to lead me because suddenly I went inside and found that everything I have is inside me now. And he goes into much deeper than that and it's a lovely story and it's a true story but that was that little aha, moment that suddenly he'd been searching and searching for and it could have had aha, moments all over the place. And there probably were, but not the real personal one.     A man tells two stories about being gay and proms in his family   So I'm listening to this story, and the first story, as I said, was pretty good. And then the second story came up. And, this guy's talking, and he's telling the story of how he'd been going out with this girl. And he was going. They arranged to go to their prom. And he said proms were really important in my family. I said, on a particular wall we have. We have photographs of all the proms that have been around. I got my mum and dad's prom. There was my sister's prom. There was my uncle and aunties. And every relation you can think of. We had pictures of the prom. and now it was mine. He said, I was going out with this girl. But he said something wasn't quite right. I didn't know what it was. And I started to do things, to organize things. He said, in as much as I was designing my suit to go. And I also designed the girlfriend's dress that she was going to wear. And, it was really quite strange because I had to go and draw them, and I can't draw. And I had to go and design them, and I can't design. And I was doing all of this, and it all felt quite strange. He said, now, as I started to do this, this girl suddenly decided this isn't right either. So she said she dumped me just like that. But he said I had, about 50 yards of silk. So I could make anything I liked, which is quite weird. But he said, there's still this funny feeling inside of me. He said, obviously my parents weren't quite so happy. Because they were looking for this blooming picture on the wall. And now this prom had disappeared. Couldn't go. He said, I did go, but it wasn't what they were looking for. So whatever photograph they took, it was not going up on that wall. And he said, I kept pushing those feelings away from me, pushing them down, but they were weird feelings. And he said, then I went through a few years, and I met other people. And he said, I think to them it was totally obvious of what was happening to me. What was changing. But what I wasn't recognizing, maybe I wasn't prepared to recognize, he said, because they all knew I was gay, and I didn't. And this isn't, that isn't the aha moment you all think that's the ha ha moment, he said, and I've been pushing that canis down. If you could do that. But he said, I just. I was trying to. It wasn't what I wanted to do, and I wasn't sure and I wasn't doing this, and I was going through my life and I was meeting friends and that, and they all knew. The weird thing was he never mentioned his parents about that, but he said, I did, actually, a few, couple of years later, the old girlfriend who dumped me, she got in contact and we met up and she said, there's a dance over there. It's a bit like a prom. Shall we go? And he said, yeah, we'll go. But she kept smiling at me in a funny way, as if to say, you know, you do know, don't you? And he said, but I hadn't really said anything, hadn't done anything. And then he said, we went. We had some weird photographs because I was dressed the way I dress, and it wasn't as most people, lads would, dress. And she was a bit weird as well. So she was out there and we had some photographs and it was like a prom photograph. And he said, that never went on a wall either. Mum and dad didn't want that at all. He said, but here's the thing. Here's the thing. I'm married now. And, everyone started clapping in this room and said, yeah, I've got a husband because we love each other. You know, we're both gay and we love it. I've come, I'm there. I'm living my life now. Still not the aha. Moment yet. And he said, we. We're married. I'm living my life the way I want to live it. So we've actually got two children. Still not the aha. Moment. And he said, none of these pictures are on the wall in my mum and dad's house. And everything went quiet. There's a little bit of sadness still. No aha moment. He said, but here's the thing. In my home with my family, of a wall, and on my wall I put every bloody picture that means so much to me. Children, my husband. Everything I do is on my wall because it's my wall and my life. And that was just a little thing that he knew with his wall. Now he's now living a true life, something that he hadn't been doing. And I felt I was really touching and it was nice. And, I was thinking, well, why has that come into. Why is this story touching me in a way that normally it's a nice story. There's a learning there and what have you. But I thought to myself, how can we learn from that type of story. Because, you see, I'm just looking at my notes a little bit. We have our own life story, don't we? And I wondered, thinking back to that very first bit we were talking about, where are the wonderful aha, moments in our lives from the past? Maybe we could reflect on them, to find them again. Because I was thinking to myself, I think I mentioned this on the last one, trying to find memories from my past, my childhood, because you can think of one or two, but the more you think about them, the more another memory might just slip in. And you go, ah, do it. And it's like they build from each other.     Think of the times in your life that have changed you   Well, if we look for aha moments now, think of the times in our life that have changed us. And I had a little think about this, and it's only today. And thinking, yeah, I can remember that time, and we can all go into our darkest time sometimes. But there was a five second aha, moment there, positive. In the darkness, there's a five second aha, moment that suddenly changes your life completely. And mine was something like, well, you're strong enough to do anything you want. Because five minutes before, I didn't feel strong, but suddenly I thought, hey, that's right. There was that aha, moment. Can't quite place it, but I know it happened. And I was thinking of other times in my life where I maybe was doing something. I can remember doing things in with a client and getting an aha moment. I've told you this. I'm sure I've spoken about this before. When I was stumped. I was completely stumped with a client. Didn't know what to do. Was going to say, do you know what? Hands up. Let's call it a day. But then something inside just said, shut up. Get out of the way. We've got it. And something came out. The question came out of my mouth. And even I was, like, looking at myself going, what a damn good. I actually said, I said swear words, but I said, what a damn good question. That was Cloughie. And that was an aha moment just to get out of your way, to trust yourself. And what I'm thinking about here is in those aha moments to remember them so we can use them again in the future. So it's a little bit like the going to sleep, the things we enjoyed, what can we learn from? But on those aha, are we still learning from them in times when we. For me, when times when I maybe don't feel as strong as I want to going back to that aha, that back then was a lot more dark, than it is now. And I was strong enough then. I'm more than capable now. excuse me, getting out of your way. There's so many times I've used that aha moment, but that's with clients. But I'd like to do that with other people, maybe as I'm talking, just to really concentrate and let's let things happen. Connection.     Joseph: Sometimes we give ourselves excuses about things we would like to do   So I was thinking about what aha, moments have you, maybe you went through and just thought to yourself, what was one aha, moment in your life that really was maybe that small in its timing, 2 seconds, 5 seconds, but was so empowering, so life shattering, changing that you experienced? And then think of, Maybe I can explore it. Not explore the bit behind it, but explore the bit that comes after. How can I use this? How can I use it more? Why? Because I'm very conscious now about wasting them, wasting the good things that have gone on in our lives. And these aha moments, are something that we've suddenly become, I know, congruent, aligned. And it's maybe not just with us, but might be, I say with us, me and my unconscious mind, but it could be with the multiverse universe or whatever our belief is up there, where suddenly we're in the moment with everything. It's a bit deep, isn't it? A bit deep, but I think it's there from and all from this one bloody story this morning, even though I've been thinking about these things before. And it's like, as I say, serendipitous things just coming together to allow us to explore and how we can have more of these, why waste them? To me, if we can have an aha moment, how can we use the learnings from that? Or how can we remind ourselves to keep using them? In times of, negativity, maybe things aren't going quite right for us. And how could we latch onto something which is so much more powerful? And then I thought to myself, I did a lot of thinking today, by the way, that's the aha moments. That's the wonderful times. Now, that person telling the story was not acknowledging the feelings he had. As I said, he was like pushing them down, pushing them away, trying to ignore them, and in effect, not living his true life. And certainly the difference between then and how he finished the story, there was a massive difference in the quality and the richness of his life. So I thought about maybe there's things in our past that we've put off, and we've talked about it before in where people have said, oh, you can't do that, you're not good enough, competition's too high. Who are you to think you are? And ah, we give up. And I say give up by saying, I'm going to put that to one side. We sort of park it, but in our heart we sort of know we'd like to unpark it. But we've got this belief, maybe that's given to us, that on that particular context, I'm not going to be there, not going to be good enough, not going to be able to achieve. Other people will put me down. The old imposter syndrome, which doesn't exist other than up in your head, comes to light. And then I thought again, that's one thing, but what about the excuses of things that we would like to do and we don't acknowledge? Maybe they're similar, but maybe they're things that we give our own excuses. So instead of somebody else saying, you can't do that, you're not good enough, maybe there's things in our life that are inside here that we'd really like to do, but we give ourselves an excuses when we'll say to ourselves, we're not good enough, or who do we think we are? I've got a family. I've got this, I've got that. Who am I to spend time on that particular thing? Who am I to think I'm sometimes better than the rest of my family doing this type of thing because they don't do it. Maybe they think, or maybe we think to ourselves and give this wonderful excuse. Well, I'm too old. I know. Joseph nearly gave this excuse when he first started. I'm too young. How am I going to work with, you know, I'm 18. How am I going to work with. Most of the clients that we had were 40 plus, they're double my age. They have double my experience, and I'm the one to help them. And he could have given himself the excuse. Well, I'll wait 20 years. Well, at least that aha. moment said no. this is your calling. This is your passion. Just go do it. It wasn't one again. Wasn't what's on the outside. It was what was on the inside that people connected to. But maybe we say we're too, say too old, too young. Maybe we say we're not fit enough, we're too fat, we're too, too malnourished. We have my knees ache. I, can't do this. I wonder what we have that if we dare to dream it now, we might not be able to do them all. But if we filtered them into what would give us the most pleasure. If we were brave enough, brave enough to look at our hopes and dreams that we've pushed to one side, I wonder what would happen. I wonder how rich our life would be. Everyone's got a decreasing Runway, but it doesn't matter how long the Runway is. It's how rich that Runway can be in experiences, in sharing and giving and helping other people on their runways. But we have to be brave to do the things that we love and more. And I thought, well, how is this all coming together? Wouldn't it be nice to, Once you expect something of yourself, you expect a result. You've got the confidence to do it, but it's up to you. And, no other bugger can put you off it unless one person lets them. And that's you. So it is you who determines what you're going to do. But can you be that brave now? I think we can be that brave. It just takes a little bit of time.     Paul Clough uses hypnosis to help people discover their aha moments   So here's the thing. I wonder, just for a few minutes. We've got 15 odds or so minutes left. If we went through a process, just a gentle one, just to get our, unconscious mind, like, as we go to sleep. But this time we're in a waking life. Just to get, your conscious mind to think of things as well. To think of things like our aha moments and get our unconscious mind to hook onto those and say, yes, more of this. Let's build upon this. But also the things that we've made excuses for. We've let ourselves off the hook. And for no, I don't know for what reason, but things we'd love to do that we haven't given ourselves permission to do. And let's just let our unconscious mind go through and find how richer, our life would be if we chose just one of those, let alone others. Because when we choose one, others will come along, or the one we choose will generalize into different areas of our life and spontaneously create more ideas, more creativity. So if it's okay with you to explore these type of things, and we're not going to go into the darkness, like I did for a little while, just to find out, I just want to know those aha moments. What. What was that aha, moment? What did I learn from it? So we're not going into. We're going into the past to look for the goodness, nothing else. Just so everyone's clear about that. So if it's okay for you to close your eyes just for the next few minutes, and that's where we're going to just call a short halt for this. So let your thoughts and musings go into your unconscious mind of wondering, how are we going to use this? How is Paul, how's my mate Cloughie going to put this into a hypnosis process and you won't have to wait too long. It'll be there with you on a separate track. And then put onto my hypnosis website page, which is paulCloughonline.com podcast. So they're all downloadable without the pre chat and the post chat. Okay. Because obviously the next episode will have a little reminder where we are and what to do next.     Well, thank you first of all for your company   Okay. So I hope you've enjoyed the stories where we're going and, hopefully are, a little intrigued, maybe curious, curious to see where we go next. So I hope. Well, thank you first of all for your company right now. And also I hope for your company on the accompanying, lots of accompanying, hypnosis track that will come out real soon. Okay. Have fun and fly. 000-0000 just before you fly, just before you fly. If, if you would like to find out a little bit more about my younger son's work, Joseph Clough, have a look at josephlough.com. you'll find all the things he does, all he does. Masses of hypnosis as well. Got a brilliant app for hypnosis and you can get everything you want, thousands of hypnosis tracks. And if you want to find about that, mind mastery, to let go of things, well, core issues, things of, you know, really deep stuff, do get on that josephClough.com and, send him an email. Anyway, that's my little thing for him. And now you can fly. Warning, you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Set Your World On Fire Two simple steps to learn We're told to learn from the past so we can make the future without regret and doing the same things and expect a different result. When we learn from our actions of the past we also release all the negative emotions we carry around and let them keep on effecting us. So I have a simple process that takes about a minute and just works. Come with me a find out what to do and please share with others so their life can become richer too Please share   https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-463-set-your-world-on-fire And the video of this episode https://youtu.be/390shUQPW2o Shine brightly Paul  Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,

The Magical Question: Unlocking Your Success How One Question Can Transform Your Outcomes Ever wondered how a simple question could change the way you approach your goals and interactions? This episode introduces you to a powerful question that Paul uses to set himself up for success in various aspects of his life. Get ready to dive into a world of imagination and visualization that will help you unlock your full potential. We'll explore: The concept of the magical question and how it prepares you for success. Why it's crucial to know your stuff and trust your skills. How to flip your fears and focus on how good things could be. You'll learn: How to use the magical question before meetings, coaching calls, and other important events. Why enjoying the process is key to achieving better results. Practical steps to integrate this question into your daily routine for enhanced performance and confidence. By the end of this episode, you'll have a new tool to help you approach challenges with a positive mindset and achieve outcomes beyond your expectations. Ready to discover the magic? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/409-my-magical-question-for-success   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Hey, your heads up to this longer, longer podcast. It's all, it's not a miracle question, it's not a magical question, but it is to me, it's a magical question that just produces magic and allows me to do all the things I want to do and be successful in it and enjoy those times. But you gotta come with me because there's some imagination to do, some visualization to do, which is great fun, imagining me doing something weird and then learning from it. Have a listen.     I ask myself a magical question before I see a client   Okay, okay. We're in the longer podcast, and I'm feeling good, I'm feeling really good today. So I wanted to share something with you, which is something quite special, but in order to share it with you, what I'm going to do is I want you to do some m imagination first. I, want you to imagine seeing me. You can see me now, but you can, well, if you're on the video, you can see me now, but I want you to imagine me over there, because I'm just about to see a client. And if you were to see me just before I saw a client, maybe ten minutes before, you would notice me standing there and I'd be like whispering to myself, you'd see my mouth. Mouth would be moving, but it would be like a magical incantation. But it's not, it's not an incantation. It is a magical question. And it's my own personal magical question, because I ask myself this one thing before I see a client, and I'll explain other areas too, where I use it. But the thing is, I ask that question, let it go. And then I see my client, and then you could see me again, if you could imagine this. Imagine seeing me after my client, walking around, patting myself on the back, because I've had such a good time, because it just works now, you might say, al Cloughie, you're weird. Magical incantations, which they aren't. Patting yourself on the back, being happy with yourself. But the thing is, I do this with every client, I do it before every podcast, I do it before every coaching call, I do every webinar, I do every training I do, and I've done it for bloody years. It's really strange to, and if you think about it, this is what I do. I just like to ask myself a question, a special question of what would it be like? What would it be like to do something special and then celebrate with yourself when it happens, because it just does. Just happens, by the way. And I don't know when I created this, if I did create it, I know I use it so many times because I just know it works. Because, you see, what generally happens is, you know, if we've got something to do, we're going to see somebody. We've got maybe a Zoom call, maybe a coaching call, maybe a meeting. Maybe you're just going to meet somebody that you're a little bit nervous about. And what happens is we scare the shit out of ourselves, don't we? Sometimes we make up all those wonderful pictures of all the things that could go wrong, the worst of the worst. And that's all b's, isn't it? It is B's because it's all up here. But we do it for a wonderful reason. Our, unconscious mind says, let's be safe. Let's go through all of the things that may go wrong and more, even the things that could even go wronger. Wronger. And then what happens to that? Well, it's overwhelm, it's fear, it's panic. Sometimes people even put themselves into a panic attack. And we're really good at it. We're really good at seeing, hearing and feeling the worst that could happen. And this is where this question absolutely annihilates that. You see the question. and I'll go through the question with you in a minute, because it's so simple and in simplicity, there is genius. We turn it on its head now you can just have a little think about maybe what is the worst that could happen, but no worse than it could be reality. What is the real worse? You know, I've seen a client, it might not go right. We might not get on. I might not get the result. But I know better than that. I do know better than that, because one thing about this little thing is I, know what I can do. And that's a, that's a great starting point. You've got to know your stuff. You see? You got to know your stuff. If you're going to ask a question, this particular question, you've got to know your stuff, and I know you do. So if you're going to a meeting, you know your stuff. You're going to be talking about you make sure. Just know your stuff again, not scaring yourself to bits, just getting comfortable with what you, what you're going to share, you know, if you're going to meet somebody, just be comfortable in yourself. But, the thing is, it's not how you don't want it to be. And that's, again, even looking at this, at the sort of worst it could happen, that. But how good could it be? Let's flip it really on its head. How good could it be? Because that's what you really want, isn't it? So, if you knew you were going to do something, could you just think of the skills you might need, the things, your intention, what you want to achieve, how you want to be, maybe even how long. in my question, I ask even how long and I'll go through it in a minute. But it's everything that you want to have happen in that particular event, the way you want it to be and the successful outcome. So that's why I say you need to know your stuff, because if you don't know your stuff, you probably won't get the outcome you want anyway because you can't fudge it. You can't fake it till you make fake it till you make it really gets on my. Well, it does, because the whole thing, we've talked about it so many times, fake it till you make it is faking it. And you can't fake it because there's one person you can't fake. Guess who? You. Of course it's you. So you have to know what you're going to do and do what you're going to know, and that's mastery, think mastery. So you're not going to go beyond your level of skills, but remember, whatever you think you are, you're more than that, because we're going to access all your skills with this question.     Ask yourself what would it be like to work with a client   Am I? Is it enticing you to know what it is yet? Are you curious? You see, you're going to have a specific context. You've got to know how you want to do, how you want to be, behave, connect in that context. So here's the type of question I would ask myself with a client. I'd ask, what would it be like? I always start with, what would it be like? What it'd be like to work with. And I named the client's name to use all my skills, all my hypnosis or my NLP, all and everything I've ever learned, timeline, theory, everything that could be needed will be at, ah, my fingertips and at my lips. My words, to connect, to get rapport and to get the greatest result way better than they could imagine to learn from it. So maybe something new and have that learning available to me whenever I need it. And to do all this within 1 hour 1 minute, and I change the time. I go 1 hour, five minutes, 57 minutes. And the amazing thing is, you see, you let it go. By the way, you might even say the immortal words, this or something better. What happens is you let it go. You see, I see my client, and the amazing thing is I just trust. I, know I've got some skills. I've, now asked my unconscious mind. That's where the question's going. Ask my unconscious mind to do and allow me to access all that I need and even more things I don't even know I know, but I just know I've got them. And what happens is those sessions go absolutely bloody brilliant. I astound myself sometimes. I will listen to the words I'm using and say to myself with an internal voice. Cluffy. That was brilliant. Where did that come from? Or a process will come to mind, one I hadn't thought of, and you go, this is it. Where did that come from? We do it, and the client is one. It gets a wonderful result. And then I, look at the clock, and it's always within minutes of the time I set. How does that happen? I don't know how it happens, by the way. All I know is it bloody happens 99.99% of the time. Sometimes there's that 1%. Or maybe I didn't quite ask the right question. I think I put it down to me, see if I'm doing a live q and a for my son's mind mastery call or mind mastery class, and I'm going to be talking just about a subject. Just before we press play or open the zoom lines, I'll just say to myself, what would it be like to just. To be charismatic, to be able to communicate, to be able to lead and change people's minds with something wonderful, to use all my skills, have them all available to me to learn more, have them available to me whenever I need them in the future, and to do it all within. And, we always do an hour, so I'll do an hour. And guess what? I have a few notes. Don't have a lot, but things come to mind as I'm talking. Things and little stories and little snippets come to mind to make it even, even richer. And I'm saying to myself as I'm talking these little things going, where are all these things coming from? But I do connect. I, do connect. And, I always, and I just remembered one thing I like to put at the end and where I started to, but I remember it now. Anyway, is the words. And enjoy the process. Because the one thing about this is if you're going to do something that you really want to do, you have to enjoy the process. You have to enjoy what you're going to do because it's bloody rubbish. Doing stuff to your best ability and not enjoying it. So always say this or something better and enjoy the process. This just works. Believe me, it just works. So maybe you might need to make some notes. Maybe you need to rewind it. Maybe I'll put some in the show notes. I don't know. We'll have to see. Maybe you'll remind me by email me. I'll say that more clearly, emailing me at feedbackersaldevelopmentunplug, um.com. and I'll send you a little note. And it's always, what will it be like?     The magical question, a miracle question. What would it be like to communicate effectively   The magical question, a miracle question. It's magical to me because of the results I get. I, know it's not magic, but I feel magical. I, pat myself on the back and these things just bloody work. And how simple is that? Easy steps. How do I want to feel? What skills do I. And I don't even mention the type of skills or the specific skills. I just want to be able to access everything I know with my hypnosis, my NLP, my timeline therapy, my communication skills, the words I use, the rapport. And it just, well, it blows my mind how simple and how powerful this is. And the thing is, sometimes when things with a client end up going quite the way I wanted, somehow just trusting in that I find a way. And sometimes it's even better. Cause I've learned something, but sometimes it stretches me and I have an even better time. Cause I do. Then enjoy the process. So you may think I'm absolutely mad to have this little question. And I have to say, when I first did this, I had it on like a six by three cardinal, all typed out with little dots in for the gaps that I wanted to fill in. And I would literally read it. And I'm reading, I feel some emotion, but I'd read it. And, now I, well, it's some 20 years now, and if something doesn't work, I'd have given it up by then, but it does work. So the. What will it mean? Magical question. No, not what will it mean at all. What would it be like? That's what you're asking your unconscious mind, what would you like to do? Be, have and enjoy the process. If you're going to a meeting, what would it be like? To be able to communicate all that, I need to communicate in such a charismatic way to get my words into such a good order, to be able to communicate so well and do it all succinctly within x amount of minutes and so people really get the gist of it. What would that be like? And for me to enjoy the process. There you go. I didn't have to read that. I just made that up as it goes on. And so can you. So do make some notes, do just jot them down. And even if you think it's silly, try it. Well, don't try it, do it. It's trying, you know, trying is failing or whatever, but do it. Do it for a few times. And you'll notice when you review what's just happened. Bloody hell. Cloughy. It, bloody works. There you go. And if you wanted to, you could share this with everyone because if everybody gets to, to enjoy their times of, you know, because this is sometimes in a stressful situation, for be able to go through stressful situations and really just enjoy those times because that's when you've got in a nice emotional state, you learn more and you share more because people, you'll be that example of how do they do that? And you'll shine. And, that's what I want for you. I want you to, to shoot a lot of tutors in there. I want you to shine. Shine in front of everybody and shine in front of yourself to give yourself, well, to realize the confidence that you have not given. Your confidence, not making you more confidence, but you're accessing the confidence that you have naturally in your abilities, competency. And this is how you're going to really crush it. Knock it out the park. And you start to then enjoy everything. You look forward to things like that. You look forward to the unknown because you're gonna, you set yourself up to succeed through the unknown because you didn't say how you want to be. So please do share that. Share the podcast, do everything you can if you could. It'll be great. And press the subscribe button. That's lovely if you could. And let's just make this a little bigger for everybody, if you would. Thank you so much for your time. I appreciate it so, so much. Speak to me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com for all your needs. See if I can help. But until you do, email me. I'll, speak to you all and see you on the next one. It's time to fly, my friend. Have fun.   Warning you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

The Secret Of Practicing For Perfection is that there isn't one   :O) Starting from the false statement that practice makes perfect in this 5-Minute Quickie episode we'll explore what practice actually makes and how to use that to improve anything you want. We have to remember if we practice badly, whether it's in our mind or in real life, we will do it badly and no matter what, if we practice the same way our results will only get worse. So with that held firmly in mind let me share some ways we can ensure what we practice improves. Please share and subscribe: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-462-the-secret-of-practicing-for-perfection Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

In Search Of An Easy Life Simplifying Complexity Ever feel overwhelmed by complicated processes and information overload? This episode is your guide to breaking down complexity into simple, manageable steps. Join me as I share a transformative story about mind mapping and how it can make learning and remembering easier. We'll explore: The concept of mind mapping and how it simplifies learning. How to break down complicated information into simple, memorable steps. Why some people overcomplicate things and how to see through the complexity. You'll learn: How to use mind mapping for meetings, learning, and problem-solving. Ways to avoid being fooled by complexity and appreciate the genius in simplicity. Practical steps to integrate mind mapping into your daily life for better clarity and efficiency. By the end of this episode, you'll have the tools to clear out confusion, simplify your learning process, and achieve mastery in various aspects of your life. Ready to make life easier? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/408-in-search-of-an-easy-life/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, my friends. The longer podcast and the title in search for an easy life. Don't be fooled. It's a bit abstract, isn't it? You see, there's a. I can remember way, way, way back, years ago. It is years ago. I remember going to this little workshop, little workshop here. It was in an evening. So that's how it is. Like an hour's workshop at, this little thing. I don't know, can't even remember what the organization was, but this guy stood up in front of us, and there's only, say, 20 of us there. He stood up and told this story. But it wasn't a story story. It was a story of. I can see the pictures in my mind, but I can't remember what the story was about, but it was how something was produced, how it started, how it got to be made, then how it was transported, moved around and done that. And, after about ten minutes, he said, there you go, what did I tell you? And we go, well, you told us a story about making something. I remember something about carrots, that was weird because they were all very abstract, but I just didn't get it. And he said, do you want to know how to remember things easier to be able to go through what I've told you in that story of mine, and to remember it without having to make masses of notes. So I said, well, I was there in my head, I'm with you, Mandez. So he went through this thing called mind mapping. And our mind mapping is not new. Well, it can't be new, because it was years and years and years ago. And he showed us a way to break things down, or what appeared to be complicated things into simple little pictures and lines from a middle, from a middle circle of what the title was, and then broke each one down into little steps. And, even the steps had only a couple of words on, maybe keywords and, ah, a little picture. So he said, I'm telling you the story again. Let's just make m those those pictures together. And, we did it. He said, go for a cup of coffee. And we had a coffee, a little break. He said, right blank. The board's been blank. Now let's go through the story again. And every one of us could go through that story just by remembering the pictures. We hadn't even written an awful lot down, but we could remember the pictures in our head. We could remember the mind map in our head. And that blew me away, because if I could remember something that's so abstract like that, just remembering it without actually writing it down, and when I found, when I wrote these things down in a, lovely. I love mind maps, but in a way that, just a word, a little symbol, a picture of something that just really represented that story, I found I could do anything with it. I could take notes at meetings, as when I was in business, I'd go to meetings and people would be furiously writing notes. And I just have this page of little pictures and lines and they go, can you remember this book? yeah, because you said this and that and this and that. And we go to there, then we're going to do this. It's amazing. Amazing. You see, remembering steps to follow can be complicated, can't it? If you don't know mind mapping and things like that. But, and it's not, this is not just about mind mapping, by the way. That's just, an example being how you can break down the complicated into simple steps. And when you, because you see, if you have too many steps, complicated steps, things disappear out your brain. Anything over five, between five and nine little steps, if you get directions to go somewhere after the fifth one, the first, second and third have disappeared out your brain. You get it a little bit longer than that. And the whole, you're even thinking to yourself, oh, what a lovely holiday I had, because you just wandered away, you cannot remember a thing. And that is such a, a natural phenomenon to just let these things go because they just get totally confusing in your brain. We use it as a hypnotic process to overwhelm the conscious mind to allow us to go into the unconscious mind. People love to make things complicated, but breaking things down into manageable steps works And you see some people, I don't know, I'm not going to say any names, but you see them all over the place in all the social medias, love to make things complicated. And, I wonder why, I really wonder why when things are so much easier, when you break things down into manageable, understandable steps. Now, I think I, know why. Because it makes them look bloody good in their mind, by the way, in their mind. When people have got this really complicated thing off pack because they've taken years to learn the bloody thing and make it more complicated, it just makes them look better than you. It's their showreel. Behind the showreel, they've got nothing, doesn't work. And so I now look for the simple steps amongst that, that B's, because you can still find it even when people try to overcomplicate things. If you really look for those simple steps, and mind mapping is a great way to do it, you can find out anything. It's how I learned the processes of hypnosis and NLP to using therapy to break what appeared to me initially, complicated processes into manageable steps that I could understand. And once I understood them, I could understand why the next step came along. There's so many things I've modeled, from listening to people speak and be able to teach it, to share it. I remember a great thing where people were advertising the 101 in business and they were going on and on. It was so complicated. They were going to, they were selling a course, basically. But what they didn't realize was if you listened and you could throw away the fluff, as it were, and get those simple steps. I modeled their whole course from what they were saying, and I've shared that with people in businesses, and it just makes sense and it works. And in things like processes of hypnosis, NLP therapy, especially therapy, people make things so bloody complicated there, too. They really do. And, in fact, there's such a simple thing. It's called present state, desired state. This is a state you don't like because it's present. The desired state is how you want to be. And all we've got to do is change the. And there's a model called the tote model to help you with that. Tote. What's that? Test, operate, test, exit. So the test is tell me what your present state is, how you do it. The t at the end is your desired state. Have we got there? This is what I want. The o is operate, do something that's going to transfer or transform present state to desired state. Once you've got that desired state, exit, get out of it. Get out of your way. Do it. And you can break so many things down into a simple little tote. Test, operate, test, exit. Because if you do too many things, you don't know which one worked, which ones didn't work. But most people don't start with their desired state or, their present state or their desired state. They've just got this big goal. They're not looking at what they've got already. They just complicate things too, too much. And, that's where I think I know. I quote Albert Einstein for in simplicity, there is genius. And I don't know how that hooked up with me, because when, I started the, personal development unplugged podcast, it was all about getting so frustrated with people over complicated things. I wanted to break things down into simple ways that we can make fantastic changes, knowing what we're doing, doing what we know, but be able to do it without that confusion. Don't let complicated things impress you, says Mark Devine So let's have a think. I know I've talked about mind mapping, and if you get into mind mapping, I will do it. I can remember one little story, one little side story. I was in my trainer's training, and this guy beside me, we stayed in the same dormitory, as it were, and we sat pretty close together. But he was a mind mapping genius. His mind maps were a work of art. in fact, I went and paid for a photocopy of his mind maps because they were that good. And as I saw each one, I could follow each day, he did one for every day's training, and they were brilliant. And he enjoyed doing it. I enjoyed watching him. It was a work of art, breaking down a whole day into one, a four sheet of paper that we could all follow. That's how breaking the complicated into simple really just works. So, what's the learning here? Well, don't let complicated impress you. That's one of these things for me. Don't let people who complicate things. Well, this is so complicated, and they're so good, and they're so charismatic about it. Look for the bullshit. Are they just out there to impress you? Is it a mask to impress? And that mask just fails because you can't do it. They just try to suck you in. But there's a reverse of that. And the reverse is, don't let simplicity fool you. Because sometimes you look at something and says, oh, that's so simple. That is so simple. No, in simplicity, there is genius, as long as it's not too simple and it misses the important points. But don't let simplicity fool you. And I think that's more important. So you get rid of the bullshit and look for simple, simple ways. But the thing is about things being simple doesn't mean they're easy. Oh, no, they're easy to follow. Yes, you have easy to follow steps. They're easy to understand. But the trouble with those bloody steps are they're going to take effort, they're going to take resilience, determination, intention. But those simple steps make it so doable. And you see, with simple steps and you take that confusion away and we do get confused now and again, by the way, because your unconscious mind will try to get to a point where it's a little bit overloaded but don't give up. Then that's a side thing. But, you know, we get a little bit confused. But then you look at the next step and you go, ah. I've just integrated the learning so I can move on to, to the next little step. But you get success with every step. I understand it, I understand what I need to do. I've just got to keep practicing. I've got to have the determination to carry on, keep doing it. I've got the intention. I, know where we're going and these steps are going to make it for me, because when I get it, you're going to be a master of it. And that's the thing, mastery. Knowing what you do and, doing what you know well, you'll know it so easily, you'll see it in your mind. I often wonder when people, Richard Baddley used to say, I see things, out there and I just read them to people or tell people, and I go, that's ridiculous. Until I've done it myself. I can see my mind maps in my head and I just follow them. And the thing about this simplicity thing, I've got three little examples. Two of them are from my own family, and it's not me. My youngest son, Joseph, has a program called mind mastery, where he looks to help people get rid of anxiety, unconfidence, all manner of problems by finding the root cause of their issue and then with simple steps to overcome it. And they are really simple steps, each one. And I always think it's like a domino rally. Each simple step, it's a little bit. Next one's a bit bigger, and the next one's a bit bigger. But as you tip the first one over, the second one gets easier, the third one gets easier. And by the end of that program, the changes people make are, amazing. It's not magic, but it's certainly magical to the people who get those changes. There's another one, here's another little example. There's, a podcast and a book I'm just, just reading by a guy called Mark Devine. He is, Alex, Navy SeAl, and now he has a podcast, the Mark Devine show. And he's written a book about being uncommon, and we love being, you know, that title, be an uncommon person in a group of uncommon people. That's really m being who you really are, isn't it? Because you're unique. Be uncommon in that group. Breaking anything down into simple steps can help you achieve anything But he is giving you, in his book, five Mountains. He calls them five mountains, and they're five different parts of your life to improve, building one upon the other, one step. And then as you get into that step, you move on to the next step, and with that, you begin to, as he puts it, really follow your north star, your passion, your purpose. But he's broken it down into simple steps. Again, simple, easy to follow. Got to take effort, though. And the last one for the moment is my eldest son, Daniel, who is. He does that little podcast. He's into his health, and he's broken down what he considers being able to be healthy. And I think he's broken it down to just seven areas of life. One of them is maybe just drinking water. Now you're even drinking water, you go, oh, that's so easy. Do it every day. Simple step, easy to understand, but to do it every day at a certain amount, but perfect health into seven steps. What an awesome thing to do. Because if you think you listen to other people about their health and how they're going to guide you through it, they're talking about all these complicated words, or they're complicated processes with complicated words, all sorts of things I have to, when I listen to them, m I've got a bloody dictionary trying to work out what they're doing. In fact, I've getting in touch with Daniel and say, what does that mean? What does this mean? But with, breaking anything down into a simple step means or steps, you are going to achieve things and you get more motivated, you get more confident in everything otherwise. I said confident like that. You get more confident. Confidence grows, especially when you have your intention. Confidence is there, and that confidence is then doubling with every step. So here's a sort of thing to finish ish. If something appears simple, rejoice, say yay, and, look at it. Does it make sense? Does it really work? Will those simple steps get you from here to there? A, b, c, d, e, whatever. One, two, CDE, throw them around, mix them up a little bit. If it's complicated or it may not be thought, thought through, just ask. This is, you know, if it's important to you and you think this thing that is complicated in front of you, been explained to you is, is valuable, but just not being communicated in a way that it is easy to understand and follow. Maybe just ask yourself, how could I? Or what would make this simpler? What would this be like? If it was in simple steps, what would those simple steps be? You may even ask the question, if this was simple, what would it look like? What would it feel like? What would I hear? Get all the modalities going and get your unconscious mind to start searching for those simple ways. Or you could, if you wanted to ask, Cloughie. Yeah, ask me. Send me an email. Say, look, this process is a bit complicated. Can you break it down for us? Can we get it into a simple process that would work? Maybe into a hypnotic process as well, or certainly something I can visualize to make it happen. So that's why I entitled this in search for an easy life. It's to create a life easily, effortlessly, and enjoy it. See, life doesn't have to be complicated. You just have to, you know, if you want to make it as complicated as you want, fine, but only make it as complicated as you need to. Which is a weird saying. But it doesn't have to be complicated, does it? And the thing is, when you, you look for things within things, I think you'll find them. So if something is complicated, break it down. Learn mind mapping. For me, that's the easiest thing to do. Tony Buzan, I think, was the creator of, mind mapping. But you find, find it online, ideally. I mean, you see them, you can get them on the Internet now and they're on your screen. But handwritten drawings are so much more personal. Again, you know, when you write things down, it's coming from your brain. Not tippy tappy or just copying a bloody picture. But when you look for an answer, and this is what it really comes down to, it's a little aha. Momentous when you look for the answer and you ask yourself a real question, how can I make this simple? How can I make it easier so I can succeed? If it was simple, what would it look like? You'll find it. Your unconscious mind will find a way. It'll find a way either to do itself, or it will find people who can do it for you. I said, send me an email, feedbackers um.com. or you'll find things on YouTube or whatever. But you'll look and, you'll find it in a way that you weren't necessarily searching for it. But it just comes up now. I always make a little note to myself. How do I want you to feel when you listen to all of this? And what I'd love you to feel. Maybe if I've done it, I've done my little thing and it's curious. That's all. That's all. I want you to be curious. Is that possible? Cloughie? Could I just do that if I learnt a bit of mind mapping or if I just ask those questions? If I just thought, get a paper and pencil, by the way, you could make notes because as we said, you get over five steps. The 6th one comes in and the first one drops out your head. So make those notes, but just get curious of what you want to learn and then look to how you can model it and model it in a way that model it into simple steps. And why is this important? Why is this important at all? Well, if you could be motivated, and, I say you. I mean me as well, if you could be motivated by the little success you get in each step, you're going to get the results you want. Not by being confused and overwhelmed by people making things more complicated than they need to be. I really hope, and I've rambled, hopefully. That story, that story has stuck with me for years. It's been with me. Paul Clough: Clarification is wonderful. I have my puzzle book It comes away every time I look at my books on that and my notes. I have my puzzle book, by the way, just as an aside, just came to my head, my puzzle book, the one I work out. I sit and think about all bloody mind maps because I get a problem in the center. And then I look for simple steps to find a solution to the problem. And, maybe one mind map will meet to another mind map, but it just makes things so clear for me. Clarification is wonderful. Yes. Just as a reminder, sometimes we do get confused, but that confusion is just your unconscious mind integrating all the knowledge you've just picked up. And then in an hour or so, that little aha, moment comes. And it's not really an aha moment, it's just that clarity comes and you can see the next step. And it all starts with curiosity. And, for me, it was the magic of that guy giving me something that made me curious, made me feel, I'm gonna go for that. I'm gonna look for it, I'm gonna find it. And the things I have found and created all from that one guy, man, that was awesome. And the thing was, he wasn't even selling anything. He just wanted to share what he's learned. Now, if that's selfless service in a t, if that's the word, how you say it, in a t, add a t, who knows? Don't care. But it was awesome. So I thank him from the bottom of my heart and the heart of my bottom. Anyway, shouldn't have said that. It's just a little uk joke. Anyway, please share this, to anybody you know, everyone you know, if you would press that bloomin old subscribe button, let's don't miss any of these. Because the thing is, not every episode will maybe hit it hit its mark. You'll think, well, that's not that interesting. But every now and again you'll get that golden nugget. And that's the important thing. That's why I listen to so many other things. I'll get golden nuggets. Sometimes you have to sift through a little bit, but hopefully here at, ah, personal development, unplugged, you'll find hopefully it's into simple steps. That's my aim. To share with you simple things and for us all to grow and have a rich life. Have fun, joy, find love everywhere. So please do that. Please share and share your thoughts with me. And again, that personal, feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com email. Please share what you've learned. Please share your ex, your, the things that you've achieved, you've experienced, or if there's anything that you feel I can improve upon or add to this. All welcome. All welcome. Thank you so much for your time. I, know time is valuable, but if we found one little thing, it's been totally valuable. Until the next time, my friend. Have so much fun. More fun than you can stand. Bye bye. Time to fly. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. 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Getting Rid Of Niggling Negative Emotions I think we've all experience feeling off, sad, down or just a little bit strange in a negative sort of way. It's not big enough to want therapy or dive into a hypnosis track (see below where you can find them) but it would be nice if it just wasn't there. Well here's how to get rid and let it go because if you try to force it away it'll just get stronger. Come with me on this 5-minute episode and learn how Then you'll be wanting to share it too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-461-getting-rid-of-niggling-negative-emotions And the video link is https://youtu.be/Ewi6H2N9GmM Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

I'm Invisible and not heard - The Antidote Be Seen, Be Heard: Overcoming Invisibility Ever felt invisible, overlooked, or unheard? This episode is your antidote. Discover how to break free from the feelings of invisibility and be noticed for who you truly are. I'll dive deep into the power of self-awareness and the importance of recognizing your own value. We'll explore: The impact of negative self-talk and how it shapes your reality. Why writing down your positive traits and intentions is crucial. How to shift from negative affirmations to empowering statements of fact. Practical steps to reinforce your self-belief and project your true self to the world. You'll learn: How to identify and articulate your skills, kindness, and positive attributes. The importance of acting “as if” to reinforce your new self-image. Ways to practice and make these positive changes permanent. By the end of this episode, you will have the tools to be seen and heard, to shine brightly and confidently in all areas of your life. Ready to transform your sense of self? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/407-im-invisible-and-not-heard-the-antidote   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Hey, this longer podcast, what it's all about, have you ever felt invisible? Have you ever felt overlooked? Have you ever felt, if you can feel it, that you're not being listened to? Well, here is the antidote. And it's so easy, so simple, just takes a little bit of effort. Okay, have a listen after this.   Have you ever experienced times when you think no one's taken notice   Hey, here's a question for you. Oh, by the way, welcome, welcome, welcome back. Or welcome newly. But anyway, here's a question. Have you ever experienced times when you think, no one's taken any notice of me? Yeah. Or sometimes, and I've had this myself sometimes you think, I must be bloody invisible, I'm being overlooked, not being seen, so no one's taking any notice. I'm not being heard. And it doesn't matter what I say. It's as if no one is listening to me. No one at all. At times m like that because they're bloody bad, aren't they? They are bad. And we can fall into this, this pattern of negative emotions around that, and then we'll come up with this wonderful effect, and, it's called cause and effect, and we're going to come up with the effect of, well, it's all their fault. It's all their fault. Not me, because they're not listening. They're not seeing me. Hey, wakey, wakey. It's not their fault because when we put reasons and excuses out there, that's like playing the poor me syndrome. And I don't know if that's an actual thing, by the way, the poor, I might make that one up. The poor. Maybe it's just me. Oh, dear. But you see, there's always one person taking notice of you. There's only one person who's always seeing you. There's only one person who is really taking notice. Do you know who that is? Yeah. You do, don't you? One person. You see, Deepak Chopra, have I got his name right wrote once. Your unconscious mind is always ear dropping on you. What you're saying, what you're thinking, and you see, that means you. You are. And, if there was only one person that listens to you, that sees you, that takes notice of you, it's you. You know, sometimes consciously, that internal voice of yours, we speak, and, sometimes we speak out loud. And again, we might be talking about myself because I will talk out loud about things that are happening. Am I totally. What is happening? Why is this why is that? I might think it, inside, I might make some pictures up. But from those words and those pictures, I always get that negative feeling that I'm not being taken notice of, I'm not being listened to. But I bloody am. Because I am. M the person who's listening, who's taking notice, who's seeing me. And then when you put it all together, we come up with a belief. A belief like, well, I'm invisible. That's a great one. Worked with that before clients with who really had that. I'm invisible so much, and we got rid of that. But we get beliefs of things like, I'm not good enough. I'm unworthy, I don't belong here. And all of that is b's, isn't it?     Your unconscious mind and conscious mind are trying to keep you invisible   And I'll ask you. I'll ask you the question. When you think like that, when you make those pitches in your mind, when you speak out loud, you speak inside with that inner voice, you get those beliefs, those feelings. How is it bloody working for you? I, know how it's working for me. And that is. It bloody ain't, is it? Ah, it ain't working. It's not working at all. I know he's trying to do something for me. I know my unconscious mind and my conscious mind, you know, trying to. Trying to make an excuse sometimes. Or trying to save me and keep me safe from doing something. To keep me invisible. Sometimes the positive intention of keeping me invisible is to save me from any hurt, embarrassment. Doing things and not doing them right, that can stem from something way back then. We can get that. But you see, however you do all of that, and this is where the, complete clash comes from. Whatever you think you are, you're right. Whatever you think you are, you're right. Think about that. Because if you're. When, we say what you think you are, what you say you are, you're right. Because if you start saying to yourself, oh, I'm lazy. Yeah, you'll be lazy, oh, I'm fat. This is not fat shaming. Because we're talking to ourselves, I'm fat. I've got tumour. Then you will be. I, can't do this. Then you won't. No one loves me. You're not lovable because you're telling yourself and they're your thoughts, and your unconscious mind goes, okay, well, that's what it is. I'll protect you from that. I won't let you do anything. Because you're right. Whatever you think you are, you're right. And the solution to that. Oh, that's pretty down, isn't it? Cloughy, that is down. But no, no, there's a solution to all of this and the solutions. Hiding in plain bloody sight. It always is, by the way. You got that direct conflict that trying to help you and it's not working. You know, if you're trying to be protected by your best friend, your unconscious mind, it don't feel good, doesn't it? It doesn't feel good at all. Now, what is this solution that's hiding in plain bloody sight? Well, part of this solution is going to be, and I'm going to say some words that, I'm sure the majority of the four of you listening, because, yeah, we've, we've got an extra listener now, up to four. Those words are, write this sucker down. Write the sucker down. And I know. Oh, Paul, I just want to think about it. I just want it to. I want you to let the words come in and then I'll make. It doesn't do it, does it? Because you forget it and you can't work on it. And if your unconscious mind is always listening, let's give it some clarity to listen to. And clarity, you see, when you write things down, it means you're thinking and you can think properly and, positively. So let's give it something really to listen to and, write things down. Now, what we're going to write how you want to be, not what you don't want. That's what everyone always tells me when they come to me as a client. Oh. I don't want to feel anxious anymore. I don't want to feel unconfident. I don't want to feel frightened. I don't want to feel scared. Well, what do you want? Well, I just told you, Paul, I don't want to feel frightened. Scared. You keep reinforcing listening. But how do you want to be? And you see some people, if you took invisible, for example, the opposite to invisible is not to be seen. Really, Clavy? Are you sure? Yeah. Because if you think about it, everyone can see you. You're not physically invisible. Not possible. Everyone can see you. But the opposite to the invisible for you may be something like, how do you want to be noticed? Oh, that's different, isn't it? How do I want to be noticed? Maybe it's for your skills. Maybe it's for things like being kind, your kindness. Maybe it's just that pleasant personality of yours with that lovely smile. Maybe it's your actions, the, things that you actually do, your behaviours. Maybe it's that vibration that you give off because you're feeling so good about yourself and you're projecting it out there. Because we all know when I. People come in who feel all that rubbish I've been talking about. Not the rubbish I've been talking about, the things that we used to say to ourselves, that is rubbish. We know when they come into a room, they bring the whole room down. Well, if you can come into that room to be noticed for your skills, your kindness, your happy disposition, your smile, your actions, your beliefs, you begin to light up the room. So we need to be specific. I say we write that sucker down. Why?     You need to write down what you want to be noticed for   And I'll repeat it. Why? We want to write it. Because what writing does is make you think first, because you have to think of what you want. You have to visualize it. And when you visualize it, guess what happens? You get to feel the bloody thing that you want, and then you have to describe it in words. And then those words have to come out onto the page. And, when you do that, you look at those words and you go, yeah, that's the way I feel. And I want to be seen. I want to be heard. And, the thing is, it's not just because you've written it down, it's not cast in stone, but it will always be there for you to come and reflect on. Whereas if you just think it, oh, I'd like to be this, this and that. Next thing, something comes along, distracts you, and guess what happens? Yeah, you forget all about it. And the thing is, these aren't, affirmations of what you're not, you know, I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy. Every day is getting better and better and better and better. Because they're not necessarily the truth, are they? And your unconscious mind knows, you know, if you're not feeling, I'm being seen every day, I'm being. You're not if you don't feel you're being seen, if you feel you're invisible or I'm being listened to, and if you don't feel you're being listened to or heard, then again, there's another clash, isn't there? A direct conflict from what you're saying to what you feel? And your unconscious mind goes, make up your bloody mind, because what you're saying doesn't have that real truth behind it. But if you go and say, this is who I am, and this is what I want to be noticed for, because I have these skills and, I'm going to get better at them. Now I can. A lovely affirmation is I'm striving to better these skills. I'm striving to be kinder, but I have kindness in me. I have this lovely disposition and I have a lovely smile. I have great actions, great behaviours, but you have to describe them. They're not just actions. I do this, I do that, I show kindness in this particular way. These are the skills I've learned and I bring to the table. And they are what you are. So they're not phony affirmations. These are statements of facts. So you. Well, you need to read them. Now, I'm going to suggest you go through this. You make them into really succinct, powerful notes or maybe just a small card that you can put in your. Your wallet, you can put in your pocket, you can put in your purse, your handbag, or whatever you have. And you read them every time or as many times as you can, because how long is it going to take you to read a card of how you want to be noticed, how you want to be heard, your skills, your emotions, your demeanour and your actions and your beliefs? How long? 30 seconds. But when you read it, you'll get that feeling again and you'll keep doing it every time you think, you've got a moment or two. Let's get that card out. Yeah. That's what I am. That's who I am. Now, when you start to say, this is who I am, it becomes a belief about your identity. And you're noticing your skills and you're rejoicing in them in some ways because it feels so bloody good. And your unconscious mind is going to say, well, damn, this is good. If we had these, we'd be a lot safer out there. And, ah, we have got these skills, we have got these beliefs, we have got these emotions. Let's use them. And the thing is, it's not just I want to be noticed, because, again, that's so general, isn't it so? And it's not I want to be noticed. I will be noticed. I will be noticed for my skills, my kindness, my disposition, my accent, my actions, my beliefs. Or I am being noticed because you will be when you do it. You will be noticed for your skills, your kindness, your happy disposition, your smile, your actions, your behaviours, your beliefs, those wonderful emotions. I have a friendly smile because you have. I have these skills and all you do is rinse and repeat that's what I always say, rinse and repeat. Just keep reading it. And the more you read it, you can then begin to act as if, and you're acting as if you are who you are, who you am. And then you can practise getting better at it. And there's a five minute quicker, there's more than one, I'm sure, on practice not being perfect, but making things permanent. And if you can make things permanent and even better than that of how you want to be and appear in the world, be the change you want to see in others, be the change you want to see in yourself. And you see, it's a natural process to say those first things. I used to say that, you know, talking to yourself, but now we're talking to ourself in a positive way. So really it's just a natural phenomenon that works and we've just tweaked it into a more positive way that's going to protect you even more. And the thing is, some people say, yeah, well, you know, am I allowed to think of myself as who I am? That's not bullshit, by the way, not b's to think of who you are, who you really are. And when you think it, you know it, you don't bullshit yourself. Maybe you have to improve, we all have to improve our skills. Get better at what we're at life. Because that's what makes life better, just making it better, richer for ourselves, people around us. A little old planet earth, I hope you feel. Yes, that's me. Not the first bit, the second bit. I am. And list your skills. List all the positive things about yourself. It's like my qualities and my qualities. If you ever want to go to there, I've got at least one longer podcast on my qualities and a hypnosis track on, accessing all the wonderful qualities that you have and getting your unconscious mind to find even more. Where'd you get that from? You go to paulcliffonline.com podcast, get your link and look for that one out of the 60 odd. Download it, it's yours forever, my compliments. And you'll find those wonderful qualities. Then you can start saying, well, in this context, these are my qualities that are really going to shine because that's who I am. And you'll be noticed for who you am, who you're going to be even better, and how rich you're going to make life for yourself and others. Because that's what it's all about. Because I know you're more than whatever you think you are and whatever you think you are, you're even more than that. And if you wanted to be invisible, as I do, sometimes you can choose to be invisible because that's what you want to do, because it's a choice of sometimes I'm a little introvert and I like to sit in the background, but on, other days, different contexts, I'll come and voice myself, I'll be seen, I'll be heard, because I'll do it with a wonderful intention, because I know who I am and what I'm contributing and so will you. So wakey, wakey, to the world of who you really am.     When you get positive beliefs about your identity, everything else changes in your life   I love that thing, that sentence, who you really am, your identity. And when you really start to get those positive beliefs about your identity, everything else changes in your life. Your emotions become more positive. You begin to access the skills because you're confident now in those skills. And you start behaving in a way that uses those skills because, again, you're confident in yourself, confident and competent because you believe who you am. And you have wonderful beliefs and values because it's important to you to be who you am. I think I've said that enough, haven't I? I hope in some way, in this random way I've been talking, that I've made some sense, that I've got you to think of who you really am, said it again. And that you enjoyed just making life richer for yourself, finding joy in who you are and bringing joy to the world. Because remember, whatever you think you are, you're more than that. Please enjoy. Please share this with anybody else who you don't think is being seen is being overlooked, who's not being heard. Because let's get everyone to be seen. Let's get everyone to be looked at in a nice way and to be listened to in a nice way. Let's wake the world up. Please do that. Please. If you haven't done and you're new here, you know, maybe you'll be the fifth person to subscribe to this podcast. It'd be great if you did. Let's get these subscriptions rocketing into double figures. And please enjoy those hypnosis tracks. I do. Those with as much love and intention that I can bring to them, and they're yours with my compliments. So enjoy every heartbeat and go out there and be noticed for who you am. Time to fly, my friend. See you soon. Oh, oh, oh. Just before you fly to. I think it's so important that you do get access to the hypnosis track. So here's a quick 90 seconds, it's only 90 seconds long of telling you all about those hypnosis tracks. And, then you can fly, really fly. So the, 90 seconds of hypnosis tracks. Why have I put hypnosis tracks on a separate website? Well, it's so simple, really. I wanted you to have them all in one place so you can look through them all. You can find the particular one you want. I've even made them downloadable so you can put them on any of your playing devices that you prefer. You don't need Wi Fi, you don't need the itunes or whatever, you can put them anywhere you like. You can even burn them onto disks if you want. Where do you get them? Well, there you go. I told you. It's paulcluffonline.com podcast, if you want, about your email address, please don't be. Because they stay totally safe with me. I only use them to send you out that email and give you access. Simple as that. I send you a link, a special link, so you and only you can access those hypnosis tracks, because I want them just for you. And the other thing about this is you've taken responsibility. I don't want to make these open to everyone, just random. You have taken responsibility to listen and be part of this community of personal development. And I want to help you. I want to help you personally to get your dreams, your goals, and therefore, I'm m giving you these tools, these protocols, these paradigms, whatever you want to call them, but in deep hypnosis. So just enjoy, have more fun than you can stand with. Hypnosis. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Choose How You WANT To Feel Instantly Nothing dictates how you feel. Not the weather, not that person, not the situation - not nothing! They are all excuses., excuse we use to let ourselves off the hook from taking responsibility So who chooses? There's only one person -  YUP YOU! And if we choose then we can choose to feel HOW we WANT to feel. And I'll share with just how to choose and then FEEL IT Become the diver of your bus not the passenger Please share this 5-minute quickie: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-460-choose-how-you-want-to-feel-instantly And See this on video: https://youtu.be/Rch-5nvTAMo Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Creating Great Relationships Building Great Relationships: A Recipe for Connection Wouldn't it be wonderful to have great relationships and connections in all areas of your life? Whether you're feeling lonely, struggling with a relationship, or seeking to improve relationships at work, socially, or that special one-to-one connection, this episode is for you. Join us as we form a recipe for great relationships. We'll cover: The importance of identifying the type of relationship you want. How to learn from past relationships—good, bad, and everything in between. Creating a personalized recipe for the relationship that brings you joy.   You'll learn: How to identify what you truly want in a relationship. Steps to manifest the relationships you desire by focusing on the feelings and qualities that matter to you. How to attract people who match your relationship recipe and let go of those who don't.   By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear process to follow and the mindset to attract, create and nurture fulfilling relationships in your life. Ready to dive in? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/406-creating-great-relationships/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

 See Hear and Feel The World Differently A 5 second process to bring you straight into the now, the present. In this world of noise and distractions we need this to bring us back into ourselves and the world. You'll close your eyes so no driving or if you need your attention to be safe, you can always come back. So any time, from standing in line, waiting in a busy room,maybe that stuck feeling creating and even in boredom this will make you see, hear and feel your world right now. Please share this little gem: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq459-see-hear-and-feel-the-world-differently   And as always now the video: https://youtu.be/0CmEmHHTzxg Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

 You're More Than you Think You Are A Simple Understanding to Change Your Life Ever wondered how your past decisions still influence your present life? In this episode, we explore the simple yet profound understanding that when we adopted our current issues, we lacked the wisdom, experience, and learnings we now possess. By tapping into our present skills and knowledge, we can transform our lives for the better. Join me as we discuss:   Reflecting on your earliest memories and the limited wisdom you had back then. Understanding how inherited beliefs and values shape our behaviors and emotions. Recognizing the abundance of skills, experiences, and wisdom you now have. How to access and utilize your current resources to overcome old limiting beliefs and negative emotions.   You'll learn:   A simple process to connect with your younger self and send positive emotions and wisdom back in time. How to identify and replace old, inappropriate programs with your current, empowering beliefs and behaviors. Practical steps to integrate your abundant skills and wisdom into your daily life for lasting positive change.   By the end of this episode, you'll realize that you are more than what you thought, and you have everything you need to create a life full of happiness, joy, and success. Ready to access your inner abundance? Share this episode and help others discover their true potential: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/405-a-simple-understanding-youre-more-than-you-think-you-are   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism A simple understanding to change your life is what this podcast is about   How far back can you remember? How far back   Hey, I want to ask you a question. I want, to ask you a question to get you thinking. Because it got me thinking. How far back can you remember? How far back? For me, I think it was about when I was about two, two or three. And it was way back when, obviously, I was at, ickle boy, and it was in Yorkshire, in the north of England. But I'm really not sure. Not sure whether I've been told about it, but there's one memory that sticks to my mind, but I'm also told that wasn't true. So I'm not sure. And then about three ish, living with my gran, because we didn't have a house in Cambridge, we'd moved from Yorkshire to Cambridge, and we didn't have a house yet or somewhere to live, so we stay with my gran because I think that's what you did. And I have little fleeting bits of memories around that time. And then I can also remember, and I think it must have been light four. And I think, again, it's not really clear. I think I remember watching a boy. Boy with my name. His name is Paul, too. We became friends. But he was crying the very first day at school. You know that when you all go, something brand new, for some, it's exciting, for some, As for Paul, it was fearful and he was crying. At least I think it was. I seem to remember that. And the more I did this thinking about what I can remember, it was like I was opening up a door. A door into my memories. Little flashes. Because I'm very. I've just got into this thing. I want to start to. To remember things better. What about you? Nice ones, that is. We're not about to stir up the pot of trauma and things like that. No, just the nice ones. What's your earliest nice memories? What can you think of?     We may be still living by some of those decisions at our present age   Because when we're there, I want to ask you another question, when you think about those times, how much experience did you have? How much life experience did you have? What beliefs did you have? What values? What wisdom? Well I can think, I can say safely for myself, nada, nothing at all. That was okay. There might, we might have some beliefs, little beliefs, little values, maybe some behaviours, some emotional responses. But we learned, didn't we? We learned those. We were given them and we chose. And it is our choice, again, choice to take on those beliefs, those values, those behaviours, those emotional responses. Or we tried out some emotional responses. We've all seen little children who can cry at the drop of a hat and then in a similar amount of time beam into a big smile. And they are learning, aren't they? But it's so small m, isn't it? And you see in those years we can learn some great family values, can't we? Things like honesty, truth, look after each other, they're really great. And then there's some not so great. And where do they come from? Where do they come from? Well, we all, I think we all know we chose to take them on, but we got them from our parents, our significant or the significant people in our lives. People acted like parents, I guess, or siblings and things like that. But where did they get them from? Because it was siblings, they probably got them from the same significant others. And where do those significant others get their beliefs from? Well they got them probably from their parents or significant. And where did they get. It goes back generations, isn't it? So now, right now, in the present, at our present age, we may be still living by some of those decisions. Might we? Yeah, some of those decisions that Really, when we question them, we have to say, well, whose beliefs? Whose values were they? Whose behaviour and emotional response were we copying and where do they come from? Yeah, and maybe we're living by somebody else's decisions and we've taken them on. Isn't it weird to think that we are living somebody else's beliefs? Dreams. Not m maybe dreams. It may be dreams, beliefs, values. And as I say, some, are absolutely brilliant. But this is the whole thing about this particular episode. It's that simple understanding. And when you have a simple understanding, you can change things. You can ask about the data, can't you ask about where it came from? You see, obviously sometimes when we have negative responses, negative emotions, negative beliefs, limiting beliefs, like I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy, I'm stupid, all those emotions to be anxious around things, fearful around things, maybe there's grief, sadness, behaviours of all kinds. Because I think beliefs and emotions are In some way, well they're just behaviours. In fact, absolutely anything. That's what I believe. They come from everywhere, don't they? And we can change them because we can change them in therapy, if they're too much, we can change them. And that's what I do. When people come to see me, they have an issue and we look to see whether it's a, Well, we look for what I do. I look for that one thing, the one thing that's disappeared. When disappeared. All the other issues in their life connected to this will disappear too. And it always seems to be around an emotion, a negative emotion, and intertwined with a limiting belief. And sometimes just understanding that limiting belief and where it came from way back then can be the one thing that goes ah, I can understand back then, back then why I took on this way, this behavior, this reaction, this emotion, because I didn't have any wisdom back then, did I? I didn't have any life experience. You know, we were running, running programs on other people's experiences, other people's learnings, other people's values, beliefs. I was taking them on uncritically. A lot of the time when you're that young, you take them on uncritically because those people are the ones who you look up to sometimes without knowing it. And we're running these programs and sometimes just, again, just understanding the wisdom that we had back then, it was the only thing we could do. It was anything our unconscious mind could do to protect us is to take on those beliefs, values, behaviours and reactions and things like that. But the thing is, if we're still feeling those emotions, if we're still following those or being affected by those limiting beliefs of I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy, I'm stupid, because back then it did protect us. Back then it really did protect us. But it's no longer appropriate anymore. Because there's one thing what we're missing. We're missing out on all the experiences, everything we've learned, everything that we've come to believe as now being true. Right now we're not using those, we're not using those learnings, those skills, those beliefs, those values. I mean, if you think about it, most people who I work with, who come through, I'm not good enough and I'm stupid. And those type of limiting beliefs have created a life that totally belies that, if that's a word, because they couldn't have been stupid. They couldn't have been not good enough to get where they are. But I can see that that was like their motivating force. And the unconscious mind is trying to help them by keeping that belief going because it's pushing them harder and harder. But we're missing out all those wonderful experiences we've got, which would make it easier. So here's the thing. I wonder if you want to play with me in a metaphorical term, that is play. Yeah. I'm going to tell you something, ask you a process, a little process of just understanding these things. And, it's not to do with anything big, by the way. We're not doing it with the big things. But you can think about it a little bit, just a little bit, because we're not actually working on an issue. We're not working on an issue. We're just going to think about our younger self. And I'm going to do this in a hypnosis track as well. I've got so many projects of hypnosis tracks. All you have to do is tell me if you want them. How do you do that? Feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplug. Um.com. that's the email only. I get it.     Paul wants you to listen to a hypnosis track right now   The only bugger here, really. But you'll get that reply. But I just want to know whether you want me to spend all my time doing hypnosis tracks. I love it. But anyway, here's what I want you to do, and if it's okay to do it right now, I would like you to close your eyes. But obviously that means it's got to be totally, totally, 110% safe for you to do. So. You're not driving. you're not looking after machinery. Do people still look after machinery today? Don't know. But anyway. Oh, you could have a drill and things like that. You might be listening to it while you're working. Yeah, yeah, Paul, you got that? So as long as it's safe to do so. If not, just have just listen with open eyes, but concentrate and focus on what you're doing. But if it's okay to do it now, well, you can just do it with me. Maybe just close your eyes and take a nice breath. Because when we take a nice breath and we breathe out, it just means you, it's like a signal, signal to our body, our unconscious mind. This is time to relax. So breathe in, hold it for a moment or two and sigh it out, giving our unconscious, mind that signal. This is just time to relax.     If you flow down wisdom down to younger you, you just get more   And I want you to imagine, imagine a younger you over there. And as you notice that younger you, just, I want you to think about the wisdom that you have now, the learnings that you've gathered all the way from then right to this present moment. Everything you've learned, all the wonderful, powerful, positive experiences, all the wonderful, positive, powerful, empowering beliefs that you have about yourself now. They're the ones when you were, doing the things you loved and it was just in the flow and in the moment, what belief would you have had then? And just think to yourself, what did that younger you need back then that I have now in abundance? And it could be just simple things like, well, I've got an awareness. I've learned to become aware. And if you wanted to, you can imagine sending it to that younger you. But just be aware that you are aware. You have that skill of awareness. Maybe you could think, well, I've gained a lot of wisdom just by the things I've done in my life, the adventures I've had, the things I've done. I've got a lot of experience. And what is that? How does that experience make you feel? And if you were, if you wanted to, you could send that feeling of having experience, excitement. The excitement. What are the exciting things you've done in that feeling of excitement? Maybe you could just send that to that younger you. What else? Sometimes people just want to send love to their younger you. They're younger than their younger selves because it's a nice thing to do because you've got so much more love. And the thing is, what I'm really saying about this is everything we're talking about now. The things you have right now you have in abundance. You didn't have it back then, but you have it now in abundance. So if you take from abundance, do you know what happens to abundance? It just gets bigger. So if you take love and you flow it through to that younger you, you just gain more. If you flow down wisdom down to that young you, you just get more maybe sometimes. And this is what I advise my clients do, just send that younger you. The knowing that everything's going to be okay because you're here right now, you've had all those years of experience, you've gained all that wisdom, and it will be okay because it always is. And maybe you just want to send a sense of, going to be okay. What else? What else have you got now? What skills learnings? Wonderful, positive, empowering, empowering beliefs. Empowering positive emotions. Maybe some wonderful, healthy behaviors that you've learned along the way. Maybe it's determination, maybe it's resilience. Maybe it's that inner confidence. Just imagine sending them all together now as if there was a wonderful beam of light coming through your head. This is a weird one. This is a lovely one. Just imagine above you, there's like a lovely. I think of it like a lovely wind of light, love and healing coming through the top of your head, filling your whole body, and then sending it through your heart to that younger you. What a lovely thing to do. And then just notice, as you do all of that, you might notice that young are you, changing and smiling and doing all that, doing all those lovely things to appreciate it. But as it just disappears to where they belong in the past, I want you to realize the things that you're doing, those old programs that you're doing, you're using, you're running, you know, that old belief of I'm not good enough, I'm, not worthy, I'm stupid. Those fears, those anxieties, that sadness, that grief, anything like that. They're old programs. And you have now, just realized you have so much more right now in abundance than you did back then. All you have to do is access it, and your unconscious mind now can realize. Can realize how much more wisdom you have right now because you had sod all back then. Bless. And, even if it was something just a few years ago, you've still grown since then. But we're working on an old program, an old trigger. And just imagine, what would it be like just to access all the wonderful skills you have in abundance right now. How would life be so much different? And then do it. Then do it right now. You see, this is that simple understanding now, to change your life, that you are more than what you thought, that what you act or how you behave and what you believe, you're so much more, and you have so much more in abundance of every emotion, every wonderful, positive, powerful belief, supportive emotions, healthy behaviors that your unconscious mind and your conscious mind can access right now to anything you want to do. What would life be like if you were to, access now all the things you need to be able to do, the things you want to do? It would be awesome, wouldn't it? So do it. Just think of the skill you need. Act as if, or learn it. Hone it. Hone it down into a wonderful fine art. Because you're more than what you think you are. Whatever you think you are, you're more than that. Now, the only thing I really want to do, is to the importance of this episode is just for you to know that change is so possible because it's already there for you to take. You don't have to work at it. You have all the resources you need. Just think of the resources you need right now and then find times in the past when you've had them before. And then you'll realize, well, if I had them before, I can have them now. Think of a time when you needed that confidence and you had that confidence in the past. And as you feel that confidence, then keep it, use it. And you'll notice that every day just gets better and better. Especially as you. If you review the day and go, do you know what? I was worried about that thing I was going to do. But I accessed that confidence. I needed that awareness and I knocked it out the puck. Feel what it felt like again and feel so grateful. And you're just going to set up a new pattern now because the patterns work, patterns just cut. And the programs you've been using are always there. So we're just going to put in new, or just access the skills that we have. And the skills are, emotions, beliefs, values, emotions, behaviours, all that stuff. And the thing is, this is simple, isn't it? Now, simple doesn't mean easy. Well, does it? Simple is easy, but easy takes effort. something like that. It's not complicated. That's what I'm trying to say. It's not complicated. But it does take effort.     Paul Clifford: Think of what you have now that you didn't have then   But not a lot of effort, does it? Just to think of what you have now that you didn't have then. Because if you just think of a simple thing like, I want to get anxious, well, I used to be anxious a long time ago and I don't care what it was about, but I don't have the skills I've got now. So if I use the skills and I'm not using those skills because I'm feeling anxious, I'm feeling the same way as I did a long time ago. So if I just use the skills I know I've got now, that anxiety will disappear because it's safer. Your unconscious mind will realize that its prime directive is to keep you safe. And the emotions, beliefs and values and behaviours that it's using right now are inappropriate. And you have more skills, so get it to access those by just guiding it to show how in times in the past, when you felt the way you wanted to feel right now, you did because you were both there and it felt safe. Just something to think about now. So my little challenge to you is if ever you feel a little bit of anxiety or a little bit of I'm not good enough or I'm stupid or I'm not worthy, just imagine, well, way back then, where did it come from? It must have come back from when I was really young. So what didn't I have then that I have now that I'm not using? Ah. And ask the question, well, what would happen if I use those skills, use those beliefs, values, behaviours, emotions, those responses, these new responses that I know would work? What would happen? Would it be different? Wouldn't it? It would be so different. What would happen if you just did that? Oh, because there's nothing stopping you. Nothing stopping you whatsoever. Only one person? Yeah, you. Me. Just decide. Because when you decide, do it. That's all there is to it. I, hope that's got you thinking. I, hope I've put it in a way that has created some curiosity in you and that you can see that you have so much more than you ever knew or remembered. Maybe I'm getting you to re remember I love that word, remember. And then use, use their skills and notice that life could be so much more pleasant, easier, comfortable, full of happiness and joy and love and laughter and all that stuff. If I didn't make myself quite clear, please do again. Let me know. Give me some feedback. Feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged. com. that's the email address. As I said before, if you need a little bit of help, you can also go to paulcloughonline.co/ podcast, sign up there, get 60 odd hypnosis processes. Because if I do a hypnosis process on this, that's where it'll end up. Do that. Let me know if there's anything you want, anything you would like to work on. maybe this has just ignited a little question in your mind that you need a little bit help with. Let me know. This is what it's all about. This is what I want to do. This is my little path at the moment, my little mission to help people. I want to help you. So if I can, I will. But I need to know. I need, I need to understand what you need anyway. Do all of that. And also, if this has made some type of sense to you or made you curious, maybe you just share this with other people, because we're all, this is consistent with everybody. I know it's a generality, but everyone's got this. Everyone is reacting and acting from times of the past where we have now more wisdom now than we did back then, and we're just not using it. So do share it. Share the podcast, if you would. Until next time, my friend, guess what? Have more fun than you can stand and go fly. Warning.   You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Finding Good Vibrations No - Not the Beach Boys Just a quick story of finding a place not where I expected to find it and I felt what it had to give. Our Hypnotherapy rooms are the same, they hold the feeling of good change and of safety and comfort because of all that's been created in them. And guess what? You can find the same where ever you are. Take a 5-Minute  Quickie listen to find out how Then share what you learn: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq458-finding-good-vibrations/ ‎ Oh! nearly forgot the YouTube video of this episode https://youtu.be/ixqBBmJgo2w Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Overcoming Naysayers: Your Path to Success Ever felt held back by those who say you can't achieve your dreams? In this episode, we tackle how to deal with naysayers and turn their negativity into your driving force. Through two compelling personal stories—one from my own life and one from my son's—you'll discover how to transform your dreams into reality and live the successful, rich life you deserve. We'll cover:   How to recognize and push past the negative influences in your life. Personal anecdotes illustrating the impact of naysayers and how to overcome them. Practical steps to maintain your focus and motivation despite external negativity.   You'll learn:   How to decide for yourself and not let others dictate your success. The importance of surrounding yourself with supportive individuals. Techniques to anchor positive feelings and use them to propel you forward.   By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with the mindset and tools to ignore the naysayers and achieve your goals. Ready to take control of your destiny? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/404-how-to-remove-the-nay-sayers/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   So. So, hey, welcome to the longer podcast. Who decides, who decides what we can do? And how do you avoid the old naysayers? Hey, nay, you can't do that.     I'm going to tell you a couple of stories first about comics   I'm going to tell you a couple of stories first, because I think it's really important that we are, able to do the things we love, create our dreams without people bringing us down, not supporting us, in fact, trying to change our mind. So here's the thing. Two stories. The first one, it's, about me. You see, I used to love Saturday mornings because Saturday mornings, this is when I was, I don't know, eight or nine year old about that. And I love Saturday mornings because on Saturday mornings, my mum and dad used to take me to the local market. It's a little way away, but sort of local. And it had one store that I loved going to. And it's all about Marvel comics, you know, the Superman comics, DC Comics, because I wanted to be an artist. An artist for the. The Marvel comics, to draw with them, to do things. And I really so desperately wanted to. I used to draw at home. I remember even when I had one called the Cloverman with a hat with a big clover on the front. it was so good. Well, the drawing wasn't, but I was only eight. Be fair. I really wanted to do it. And you see, I even got to being first in my senior school for art. I was so pleased with myself. And then it suddenly disappeared. I went from first to nowhere.     Joseph became a master hypnotist at the age of 18   Second story, about my son, my youngest son, Joseph. See, Joseph again, very young, youngish, certainly before senior school. And his school teacher, I asked him to stand up in front of the whole class and asked him a question and said, and he started to get embarrassed. If you don't know the answer this, you will do no good at school, no good at senior school, and you won't learn anything. And he didn't know the answer. And his schoolwork just dropped off everything. He just seemed to go through the motions of going through school and he went to a bit of further education and things like that, but not really pushing himself. But then someone believed in him. Then he got an opportunity, and from that opportunity he became a master hypnotist. At, the age of 18, he became one of the youngest trainers of NLP in the UK. He now has millions of downloads, millions. And we are talking about millions of downloads on the Internet for his, podcasts and all the stuff he does on personal development and mind mastery, mastering your own mind, getting rid of anxiety and that. He also has probably one of the biggest collections of hypnosis tracks online. Now, how did that happen? What changed from this little lad who was so unconfident to be able to speak in front of hundreds of thousands of people, to create all this stuff, to go live, do live podcasts three times a week live. It's incredible. I'll tell you what happened. And this is one of his stories, his true stories, that, he, I won't give you the whole story because he loves the story and he loves telling it. But one night he was coming home on his birthday and everything was very, very quiet. And he got that message, got something inside, a feeling, because he'd been looking for something for so long. He'd been looking on the Internet, looking in books, looking in recordings, looking at, everywhere, and he still didn't make a difference. But then on that quiet night, something happened deep inside and it was like an aha moment, saying, you decide, you decide what you want to do and go for it, because you've got what it takes, you've got what you need, no one else, no one can stop you. And from there, that's where it all took off. And it wasn't overnight, but he got on. He did his hypnosis, he did a hypnotherapy practice with me. He got on, primetime tv, and now he does all this other work. You see, a bit like myself, I was told, and I know the difference, I was told, you're never going to make it, you're not good enough, competition is too high. Get a sensible job. Now, who told me? Well, there's a lot, too many people telling me things, but they're not me. But it stopped me for years and years and years, and I've getting back into it now, getting my passion a side passion, hypnosis. And this podcast and working with clients is my real passion. Helping change people's lives. But I've got my side passions now. And one of those is trying to get, not trying, getting back into art, slowly getting my confidence back, feeling the passion I had back then. Now you see the question we should ask ourselves, who created those realities, those years of not doing the things we wanted? Well, initially you could say it was those other people, the people who advise me not to do anything, you're not good enough. Or it could be that teacher who, told Joseph, if you don't answer this, don't know the answer, you won't get on. And we were impressionable, and it does go in, but they didn't cause that reality. They didn't create it. Because if they did, I would have to wait for the people who told me I'm not good enough to do all the stuff I wanted to do. And Joseph would have to wait for that teacher. Find them now and go, tell me I'm okay. So who decided? Well, we did. We both did. And I'm sure everyone else, everything you do, you decide. We don't think about it sometimes, but we do. And, you know, those negative beliefs, we can't blame those people for taking on those negative beliefs and negative emotions around that because ultimately we decided. We decided. But the thing is, what are we going to do about that? And a bit like Joe's aha, moment from that, that message, I think from his unconscious mind saying, now you've got what it takes. Just do give yourself a measure to do what you want. You see, you could put it, those naysayers, they're not you. They're not me. They're not you. They don't know you. They don't have your experience. They don't have your, you know, the similar paths. They don't have your dreams. They don't have your experience. They don't have your desire. So how the bloody hell can they give you advice? Because probably they haven't done it either. A lot of people who haven't done it, and they're generally the people who would have liked to have done what you do or you're planning to do, but they didn't do it. And it's like tall poppy syndrome. Cut that tall poppy off, bring everyone back in two. But it's your dreams, not their dreams. The dreams that they didn't get. The dreams that they didn't decide to do. And you see, when, if they had your experiences, they had your goals, your beliefs, they'd change. So if someone does give you that advice, you say, hell, no, I'm doing myself. So how do we deal with them? How do we deal with these naysayers? Because a lot of them, I guess, can be family and friends, can't they? M. Now, some advice you get is, well, cut these people out of your life forever. Well, some people you can cut out forever, but would you want to? Because it's another context, isn't it? It's just a context of your dreams, but there's other social interactions, connections, and I don't think you do. And certainly with family members, if you cut them out of your life, it can be so. But so terrible, I think. And you just need space, you see? You need space. So I want you to imagine this. Imagine that you have this circle and you have a circle of friends, and the ones at the edge of that circle are the ones you see now and again, the ones you wouldn't nod to. Yeah. Yeah. How you doing? And then as you come closer to you, they're your closer friends. The people you are with, you connect with, and this is connect with and take advice and things like that. And the closer they get, the more you respect them for that advice they give you. So instead of just cutting these people out your life, just think, I'm going to push you to the edge of that circle. so I will see you, but I'll see you on my terms. I'll see you. I will decide whereabouts I let you into my life because I'm not going to let you affect the decisions, my goals, my dreams, my success, creating a wonderful richness of experiences that I can carry on and just do whatever I want in that ecological way that it's good for you, good for others, and good for other, good for the world. And, even those naysayers, it can be good for the naysayers in as much as they get to see you as an example of what can be done, of what putting effort into dreams.     Goals can create a wonderful reality. So the thing is, what are you going to do   Goals can create a wonderful reality. So you do not let them have that place in the close proximity of you, but you push them out to the boundaries. You see, remember, they're not you and you are not them. So you don't need them in this close thing. And, the further they go away, the emotions disappear. The further they go away, their opinions just get quieter, and they don't count. So the thing is, what are you going to do once you've decided, and it's all about decisions, once you've decided to push those naysayers to the furthest boundaries, you decide what you really want. That's right. What you really want. and think, why is this so important to me? Why is this so important? You have a goal. Why is it so important to you to achieve that goal? Now, sometimes that can be quite difficult. I like you to write it down, but if you didn't write it down, you could think about it. But write it down first, if you could. So if it's really important to you, you really should be looking, really. I, suggest you write it down because it's always there. You can develop it. It evolves. You come away, you come back, you'll see, you'll get other insights. You learn things and you let it develop into something really rich. But each time you do that, this is the part. Just keep feeling. What would it feel like to having achieved it? And if it feels really good, you go, this is what I really want, then. Because if I got this feeling, life will be good. But if you think about, I want to do that. Well, actually, it's pretty balanced. Well, maybe you want to park it for a little while and, put your effort and your passion into the things that are going to give you that feeling. So what would it be like to have it right now? Imagine it now. Think of a goal that you're planning on doing, or think of a goal that you're right in now. And as you think and bring that to mind, think having just achieved the last step, what would it feel like? What would success feel like? And, what belief about myself would I have now? Right now, I've achieved this goal. I'm looking out of all the new opportunities that this. Having achieved the successful completion of this goal, what new opportunities? What new people would I meet? What would it allow me to do to express and feel that feeling? Think of the words you say to yourself, the belief you have about yourself. And as you feel that feeling, you could even squeeze a finger and thumb together to anchor it, anchor that feeling. So the next time you go to that project, you squeeze that same finger and thumb together and you fire off that feeling. And that will then pull you through. It will motivate you. You'll just want to get through it. You're not being pushed. You're being pulled by the wonderful feeling of success. And with that feeling, you can start to make a real plan. A real plan, you know? And it doesn't really matter if these goals are for your career or simply a, pastime, a hobby that you just got to enjoy for yourself, because you decide, because each one of these is going to bring you joyous, different qualities of joy, but it will bring you joy. The successful completion, the confidence you'll get. And the confidence comes when you have that feeling, because that's your intention. Once you know the feeling you're going to achieve or you're going to feel when you've finished and you've achieved the successful outcome, that's, in effect, your outcome. I intend to have that feeling. And you have that feeling through the whole project. Why have it just at the end? How better, would it be to, as you go through achieving your goals, creating your reality, that you feel that wonderful feeling of success all the way through? Wouldn't it make it richer? Wouldn't it make it better? Wouldn't you see different opportunities? Of course I think you would. But then, as you make those plans, make those little steps, what do I need to do? What's the smallest step I can do? We come back to the same thing. Start with small steps, and you fire off the anger. You feel, that feeling of the wish fulfilled, and then you commit to that small step, and then you do it, and you feel good for doing it. And then you commit to the next step. And the next step. Put it into your calendar, put it into a schedule, and notice how good each one feels. And when you do that, when you notice how good it feels, hey, you can feel gratitude. And, when you feel gratitude, it's like a connection directly into your unconscious mind saying, this is where we're going. This is what I want to feel. This is how good it is, how safe I am. Because when you're like that, you are totally safe. And your unconscious mind says, let's find more. Let's find so much more of the same. And by that time, where do those naysayers go? Well, they either came with you or you find they tend to disappear from your life. If they're like people who are maybe not your family, just at the end, they, disappear, but you just don't see them quite so often. Or if you do, you talk about other things because you don't give them permission to chip away. And so a lot of this is just giving yourself permission to go for it, isn't it? Decide, I'm going to go for this. This is my life. No one else can decide for me. That's the whole thing, isn't it? It's taking responsibility for everything you do. But especially when it comes to goals, especially when it comes to dreams of no one else can do it for you, and no one else can make you decide only you, you may have had experiences like myself and Joseph. Let's let them go and decide. If you still want that type of thing. You go do it. Go do it with fun. but imagine having already done it. What would that feeling be?     Go find people who have done it before. That's the best thing. Can you give me some advice   And then use that as your foundation. You see, you have that inner belief. I will never let anyone stop me again, not stop me from achieving. They're not going to stop me from striving for what I dream for. And then you'll start to. When you do that, I believe you start to attract the people that support you. And you feel good and they feel good. Little planet earth feels good, and then you do more. And you never know quite where it's going to go now, because we've talked about that little submarine with that tiny little blip blip where you're now seeing so much more. You're taking those opportunities that come your way because you now know as they come along, you go, that's going to enhance this feeling. And therefore I'm going to take it. That's what we're going to do. Hey, I hope that inspires you to ignore, unless someone has actually done it before and says, when I did this, I crashed and burned because of this. You can take that experience and mitigate it because they're giving you advice, but generally advice you want to ask for. I, know you've done this before. Can you give me some advice? Not the old naysayers saying, well, you'll never be able to do that. And if you just said to them, well, you know, where, what data? What are you saying? What are you basing that on? They're going to have no basis. Oh, well, that's just what I think. Well, go think somewhere else. Go find people who have done it before. That's the best thing. Find people who've done it before, because they'll tell you the things that didn't quite work and how they got over them. M and you utilize all their experience to, over the years to put it into a tiny little step in your timeline. So you learn from their mistakes as well as learning from your own mistakes because, and they're not really mistakes, they're just results. Results that what you weren't expecting, they weren't what you planned for. But we use those as stepping stones from learning.     Please share this episode, if you would. It'll make things so much better for everyone   I do hope I've, somehow, in this garbled little episode, given you some, hopefully some confidence to go out and achieve. Go out and show the world what you're made of from the inside. I'd love to hear your stories. So if you would let me know of either the things you're really succeeding at now because you took a decision, or if you're having problems and you want a little bit of help to get over that, you know, I've made a decision, but I need a bit of help because I'm maybe a little bit unconfident. I'm a little bit anxiety. Let me know that too, and we'll come up with an episode or a process for you. How do you do that? Well, just email me. Suddenly comes to me. It's feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com, and you'll get a personal answer from me, as everyone else does, and it doesn't go anywhere else other, than me and back to you. That'll be great. And if you would, if you do see people being affected by the old naysayers, have a positive word for them. share this episode, if you would. Share what you've learned, share your experiences, the positive ones. So we affirm that they can, they can strive to get what they dream of. Yeah. Oh, you can subscribe as well if you want to, but please do share this, this episode or the podcast. It'll make things so much better for everyone. Thank you for your time, my friend. It's valuable, I know. but hopefully by sharing what we know together, we're going to make our lives richer and lives of other people richer. You have fun. Just enjoy every heartbeat, because it's time to fly.     Paul Clough advises leaving personal development unplugged   Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Change Your Emotion In A Heartbeat If Your feeling down, sad or simply not just quite right how would it be if you could change that? right now? The problem is that when we do feel down, sad or simply not just quite right we just want to feel say, happy. We say to ourselves 'If only I could feel happy' and we don't and there is a reason why. Simply, its a jump too much, it's too bigger leap. In this 5-Minute Quickie episode I'll share with you a way to be able to do this. It's simple when you know how, and we do love simplicity here. So invest just a little time with me and learn how to change your emotions, step by simple step. Please share this episode so others may learn of what we do here: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-457-change-your-emotion-in-a-heartbeat And the YouTube link is here: https://youtu.be/MUg6WF8iUL8   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Unlocking the Power of the Miracle Question Ever wondered if miracles are real? In this episode, we delve deep into the concept of the "Miracle Question" and how it can transform your life by eliminating anxiety, boosting confidence, and alleviating sadness and grief. Join me as we explore:   The importance of recognizing changes to celebrate progress. How to envision life without your issues through the Miracle Question. Steps to identify how you would feel, behave, and believe once your problems are resolved.   You'll learn:   How to use the Miracle Question to gain clarity on your goals and dreams. Ways to visualize a future free from your current struggles. How to leverage this technique to create new opportunities and ideas.   By the end of this episode, you'll have a powerful tool to help you imagine and realize a richer, more fulfilling life. Ready to experience your own miracles? Share this episode and help others unlock the power of the Miracle Question: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/403-the-miracle-question/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So the miracle question. But we're not going to. Well, we're not going to find out what it is yet, because I want to. Well, see if you can resonate with this. You see, we have issues. I think everybody has an issue of some kind. And in, this lovely world of personal development, we want to get rid of those issues and then move on. And guess what? We find more issues. Cause we're always striving, aren't we, to find that little bit more richer life that we're here. And it's what we're here for, basically, isn't it? To have a richer life, enjoy it.     The miracle question asks how will you know when an issue has disappeared   Now, here's a typical client situation. You see, I always ask, and you should be asking this yourself, where you should sort of, if you've got an issue, I like to ask them a few questions about the issue, and then I'll go, well, hang on a minute. How will you know? How will you know when the problem's gone? How will you know when the issue's gone? And I go, ooh, haven't thought about that. I don't really know. And, the thing is, if you don't know what it will be like, ish. Because you never know quite exactly what it is. But if you don't know quite how it's going to be when the issue is gone or you've changed and made the changes, how will you know you've changed? Because I think it's really good to recognize the changes that we make. We can celebrate them. Now, I've talked about that before, celebrating the things that we do that are, good for us and make us feel good. Because I think that just spreads outside and inside. But the thing is, if you don't know you changed, you might continue to keep trying to change. Why would you do that? Waste your time? But I do get it. I do get it, because sometimes we've got these issues and they're a little bit deeper, or we've been struggling with them for a little bit of a longer time than we'd want to. And, because we're in the issue, we don't really know what it would be like to be outside it. I know I've worked with some people with real chronic depression who actually say, what would it be like? how do you know it's gone? They go, I really don't know. I said, well, maybe just a little bit happy. Maybe that might help a little bit. Maybe an effect of getting rid of the issue. They go, I've never been happy. And because they're so deeply in that issue, they can't see the outside. And that's where the miracle question comes in. And, basically the miracle question goes like this, and we've got to do it again. And I think we might even do it as a little process here with you. But the miracle question goes like this. And I don't know who created it. It certainly wasn't me. But it's a lovely thing to just think out, think about. So you've got your issue today, and tonight you go to sleep, a dream. And during the night, this miracle happens. All the work you've done, all the change work, all the processes, all the thoughts you've had, suddenly the, issue disappears. It's gone forever. The emotions, the behaviors, the limiting beliefs, all that stuff has disappeared because a miracle, a miracle has happened overnight. Yay. Yay. I don't do that with my clients, but I do say a miracle has happened and your issue has completely disappeared. How will you know? And guess what? Sometimes, well, they don't tend to say, I don't know now, because I got them thinking, well, if it had gone, and they go, well, I wouldn't feel anxious anymore, and I wouldn't feel nervous, and I wouldn't have that negative self talk, or I wouldn't talk to myself in a bad way, and I wouldn't, and I go, what? Listen. In, a gentle way, I say, just listen for a minute. The question was, how would you feel? And you've just told me how, you wouldn't feel. I wouldn't feel anxious. And we know that because the miracles happened over bloody night, and virtually most people do this straight away. So I say, let's just go back again, rewind. You wake up in the morning, the miracle's happened. Boom, everything has changed. How would you feel? How would you feel? And they go, ah, well. And they start to tell me the type of things that they would feel. And then I would say something like, well, say in a couple of days time from this session, and you woke up in the morning and you felt, and I just repeat the way they'd feel then, you know, the user has disappeared, wouldn't you? And some people need three times convinces, so they might have to wake up three days on the run or over a week. I'm a one time convince. If I can do. If I can't do one thing now and then I ended up being able to do it once. To me, that's not a fluke. I could now do it. I just wasn't doing it properly the last time. Now I can do it. But some people tend to think, well, the first one is. May have been a fluke, just happened. The second one, I'm not. Still not sure. But the third one, yeah, we're there, so that's where we go.     Let's start with a specific issue and then work on the specifics   And, that's why I want to talk to you about this. You see, you see, that's a general thing. And I do get more specific with my clients, because they're generally saying, I've got this issue where I feel anxious all the time, and they don't. But it's generalized, so they are feeling more anxious about things in general, because it's in different contexts. But it started in one context, and it's generalized. We know that. So then I want to work on the specifics, and then notice how that would change everything. And you see, if you only go for a general result or work on a the general issue, you only get that general result. And who wants a general result? Wouldn't you like that specific result, that specific change in that one thing that really affected everything, that then let that generalize into all your other, areas of your life, just like the problem started. Started small, then generalized. So I like to think we can get really specific, that old world. Specific old world, that lovely word, specificity. So if you have, let's, just go through it together. Because sometimes just even knowing what it would be like when the issue's gone, so you could recognize it, because this is only a convincer, by the way. This convinces you that the issue is gone. And when you're convinced, man, you can expect wonderful things after that, can't you? Because the issue has gone. You've convinced yourself three times, one times, whatever convince you you want, as long as it's not a long time, convince you, because then you'll never, ever, ever be convinced. And I want you to be convinced right now. So let's just play a game. Let's play a little game together. And if you have something, an issue, and it doesn't have to be the biggest one in the world, goodness me, no. Just a little one. There's something that just really just pees you off a little bit and it just happens. And it has maybe generalized a little bit because, you know, maybe I get a little bit ratty anger about this and then also get, take my anger out on that. Or maybe we're just talking about me, Clothy. Ooh. Okay, let's wind that one back in. But let's just think of a specific issue. So it's not just. I generally get angry. No, in that specific, we're talking about me again, in that particular contextualized time era of my life, things happen and I get, x. So it could be at work, it could be with a social event, maybe a meeting, a presentation, maybe just being triggered, triggered at a particular time with a voice or whatever. But here's the thing, just think, well, if there was just one issue there that is really just a little bit more than I want, pick it and bring it to mind just for the moment, because I need you to get to feel it for a moment, just for a moment, so we can tell our unconscious mind this is the issue we're working at. We're not just talking about it, we want to feel it. So bring that little issue to mind. Be specific. Bring a specific memory to mind. Maybe so. Actually, yeah, do that. Do that. And as you do that, notice the emotion that it brings up. Notice that emotion. And you don't have to do anything with it. Just notice the feeling. You don't have to put a label on it if you don't want to. You just go, I can feel it. Now, this is the feeling that I have in that context, in that, that particular specific issue. Oh, I can notice how I behave, and it could be the way I talk, could be the way I move around, anything. Just notice your behaviours. Maybe there's some little bit of sulking, maybe there's, you know, that passive aggression. And if you could, when you get that thought of your beliefs, plus, if you get that thought and feeling, what is the belief that's going on here? If you could, it's nice to know the belief, but if you can't get it, don't worry about it. But just notice the emotion, your behaviors, maybe the way you talked yourself inside as well, the things you think about, the pitches you make in your mind. Now, before we find out that better way, because we will. We can use a miracle question. And you see, as you think of that, imagine just knowing the answer to this question will start to allow you to be different now. So bring that thought to mind again. And then you just imagine this or think, consider. You go to sleep tonight, and you have a lovely sleep, and you dream the dreams. But over that period of sleep, natural, normal sleep, that miracle happens. There's some adjustments, there's some integrations, there's some learnings. Your unconscious mind does all the things it needs to do in order to let go of that issue. Because it's not working, is it? We know it's not working. Your unconscious mind is not working, and we're working on a more appropriate solution. So you wake up in the morning, you wake up a little stretch, and you realize the miracle has happened. The miracle has happened, and that issue has completely disappeared. So how would you be different? How would you feel differently? What are the pictures you make in your mind as you look forward to the day, the week ahead? What type of belief would you have about yourself if you did know that belief? Even if you just have to imagine? Well, I'd believe this about myself. Remember, these are all in the positive now. Nothing to do with the issue. How would you feel? What type of behaviors would you start to have? Now, this miracle has happened overnight. I just notice maybe what you'd think. What you'd see it now. Maybe you'll just notice the way you. You could think about acting that. Acting as if. But the acting as if wouldn't be a bad idea, would it? to act as if the miracle has happened. How would you act? How would you be? Because when you're acting that way and how you believing that way and with those emotions that way, then there couldn't be the issue, could there? And guess what? You've got all those inside you now, because if you didn't, you wouldn't be able to think about and feel them right now. You won't be able to think about and see yourself acting as if. We've talked about that so many times now, here's the thing. Now you've got an idea what it would be like, haven't you? What it will be like nearly when that issue completely disappears right now as you sleep and dream.     A question I use a lot with my clients is to imagine future possibilities   And, now let's just take it even further because this is where the miracle question doesn't go or doesn't go any further. And I, use it in with a client, but in a different way. But same thing. We're going to start to think, well, if the issues disappeared and I'm going to act in these different ways, believe in these different, have these self beliefs about myself differently, acting as if having those emotions, behaviours, I wonder, and this is a great thing to do, just wonder now, wonder and wonder in your mind, wonder. Imagine with this new way, what new opportunities would come my way, maybe what new ideas would be free to come to me now for me to access what new dreams, would bubble up now I'm free to be this way now. Maybe you could just imagine the feeling, the emotion of having those opportunities, having those new ideas come your way, having those new dreams bubble up and acting upon them because you can, how would that really make or how would they really make you feel and feel it. And as you feel it, I don't know where the direction of your future is. And if you were to know, just imagine a direction of your future. Imagine that feeling being sent into your future. Just imagine it just dropping into your future, all those wonderful opportunities. How would it colour and enrich the timeline of your future? And notice as you do that, how you feel now. Feel it now, feel it right now. And now having done that, we can just get on with our lives, can't we? No, we're going to get on with our lives, but we're going to start those dreams, those opportunities, those ideas, those creations, those just being a better version of ourselves, the better version of ourselves, stretching to be even better than that, to enrich our lives, to make our lives so rich. And here's the thing. If you ever, in the future, if you do, and I'm sure weak things come along, if you ever feel a little anxious in the future, or maybe a little unconfident about a thing, a person, an event that's causing you those things are just causing you to feel a little nervous, a little unconfident about life, or take any negative emotion, maybe grief, maybe jealousy, maybe sadness, maybe a little bit of fear, you can do this again. And it probably take about five minutes. Remember, just imagine noticing what the feelings are right now in the present. Then imagine if you went to bed, go to sleep, the natural sleep. Your unconscious mind integrates all the new learnings to find a better way or better ways, because, you need better ways of flexibility. And then noticing what it would be like now that issue's gone. How, ah, you be different, be different now and all in five minutes. So the thing is, instead of just like preparing for the worst, as we do sometimes when we get those little feelings, and we let them run out of control with those pictures in our minds, the voice in our head and all that shit that goes on. And then normally something like that, well, it doesn't happen in a good way, does it? We can now, as soon as it comes, we can prepare to succeed and feel good. There you go. I just thought I'd share that with you. It's a question I use a lot with my clients and I learned this years and years ago. Sure, the guy who wrote it in a book is called Rubin, but I don't know if his surname is Rubin or his first or second name. It's Rubin something and it came from, some ericksonian hypnotherapy, supposedly. I don't know whether it is, but I don't care, do we? But the one thing I do care about is so simple. So simple. As we know, in simplicity there is genius.   In simplicity there is genius.   In simplicity there is genius. And everything we're doing is thinking about how it will be in the future when things are gone, and then that will bring it into the now, because we're saying overnight, because I want you to feel, ah, I mean, cloughy. I can get this now. Yeah, that's how I want you to feel. Ah, I, can get this now. And this is where it's so important that you catch yourself. You catch yourself. If you find your thinking about what you don't want, change it immediately. Think of what you do want and feel the difference. Feel what it would be like to have what you do want. Because that feeling goes a long way, it goes a long way inside, and your unconscious mind now knows the direction to go to help you find that way. And again, I'm, saying this more and more and more and more, more. If the only thing, the worst, the worst that could happen, the most negative effect of this can be you feel good. I, ah, just like feeling good, don't you? Feeling good's good and it spreads, it radiates, it's good for you, it makes other people around you feel good. And when that happens, little old planet earth gets those good vibrations again. I hope you enjoyed that. I really do. It's so simple. I'd love you to just, think about that. Maybe again I might even do a hypnosis process. I've got a lot of might do's, haven't I? But I do need to know from you if you do, because, I don't want to spend my time doing stuff that no one's going to listen to. If you do, just email me feedbackersonaldevelopment unplugged. And as a favour to me, your old cluffy young mate, your, mucker, as we, as some people call it in, this southern part of England. If you could share this episode, just share your thoughts, and tell people about the personal development unplugged podcast to just let it grow just a little bit so more and more people can get infected and affected by good stuff, good vibes, good intentions. And we all know when we put out good stuff for no reason, share stuff for no. No reason at all, other than to share, obviously. No, no reason. I mean, no, no wanting payback for anything. That's the reason I'm thinking there's no reason you don't want anything in return. The old law of reciprocity will come and dump goodness and richness on you. And what a lovely thing to be dumped upon or be dumped with. So let's go back dumping stuff, shall we? Until the next time, my friend, have more fun than you can stand.     Paul Clough advises you to leave personal development unplugged   Because it's time to fly.   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Check Your Batteries A true life metaphor Because some steps in life are simple it doesn't mean they can be overlooked - because they are also the most important. The thing is we don't know this until we miss them out. This is true story of mine that shows this to so painfully true. And like all 'mishaps' when we learn from we learn BIG! And the effect spreads far and wide. Have a listen. It'll only take about 5 minutes and you can learn from my 'mishap'  :O) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-456-check-your-batteries/   And the YouTube Video of this is here https://youtu.be/L6Up2-an9GU Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Unlocking Hidden Potential: The Power of Intense Feelings Are You Intelligent Enough to Know What You Want? In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of understanding your true desires and how to manifest them into reality. Join me as we explore why none of us are fully capable of understanding our deepest desires and how we can overcome this limitation. We'll discuss: The intriguing metaphor of a submarine and its radar screen as a way to understand our limited focus. Why focusing on what you want is just the beginning and not enough for achieving your dreams. How to tap into the vast potential outside your current awareness by intensifying your feelings and emotions. You'll learn: The importance of visualizing your goals and dreams with intense emotions. How to use the feeling of the wish fulfilled to guide your unconscious mind. Practical steps to amplify these feelings and let your unconscious mind do the heavy lifting. By the end of this episode, you'll have a simple yet powerful step to turn your goals and dreams into an even richer reality than you ever imagined. Ready to unlock your hidden potential? Share this episode and help others discover their true desires:   https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/402-youre-not-intelligent-enough-to-know-what-you-want Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough helps you transform your goals and dreams into intense feelings   What a title, eh? What a title. You're not intelligent enough. In a moment.     Focus on what you want and you'll get it, Cloughie says   In a moment, I want to talk to you about a submarine. What? Yeah, a submarine. It's a great sort of story. Sort of. You'll m get it. It's a great metaphor, but I want to call you out first. I want to call you out. You see, I know you're here. I, know you're here to find ways to create your dreams. And you're everywhere else, by the way. I'm sure there's lots of other things you're looking at and learning from. To create your dreams, your goals. To learn, to experience a rich life, everything that makes up a rich life and more. And I want to support you in that. And we imagine that the things that we would like to have as goals just imagine it will make it happen. But the thing is, great as those goals are, and we're going to come back to them, those dreams, the things you want to learn, that rich life. The thing is, and here's the real kicker, you don't know what you want. What? What? Cloughie you say? Yeah, you don't know what you want because you're not intelligent enough. Bit of a slap in the face, isn't it? You see, I don't care about your iq. I don't care what you've learned in the past, all your certificates, all your life's experiences. I just know that you're not capable of knowing what you want. I'm going to explain why in a minute. But by the way, by the way, this is not just me pointing at you, it's me pointing at me and everyone else. Because none of us, none of us are, intelligent enough, know enough to know what we want. Although we think we do, we don't now, you could say, well, if that's you, me and everyone else, Cloughie, not quite so bad. It is, but it isn't. And we're nearly at that submarine story, that metaphor. You see. I know, and I do believe this. We're told to focus on what we want. It's very difficult sometimes, isn't it, when we're, you know, we're in the alligator pit and you've got to get out and, thinking about training. We want to. Whatever. Whatever metaphor that was. We know that when we focus on the negative things, either they don't necessarily happen, but life is full of those negative emotions. Things just come along and keep creating that negative emotion. Yet if we focus on the positive things, things like synchronicity, coincidences, getting lucky, we just tend to get what we want, or more. And there's a reason for that. And I think this is where we're going. Well, I know that's where we're going. You see, it is all about focus, but that's not enough. We're told, focus on what you want and you'll get it. But to me, it's not enough. Because we're now still focusing on those dreams from up here, those goals, the things that we want. And now, you know, you're not intelligent enough. You don't know enough to know what you want. Now, you know, just by focusing on those things. Well, maybe that's still not enough. But the thing is, it's a great. It's a great start. Honestly. Let's not go too negative. It is a great start because without those, you wouldn't know the direction to head in. And that's the thing. But if we really, really, really want, and there's a lot of reallys in there. If you really want what you really want, we need to do one more little thing. One more little thing. And it is tiny, tiny, tiny. It's one more little step. Okay, so imagine. Imagine this. We're in a submarine. It's a nice submarine, by the way. It's comfortable. You know, it's nice and airy. There's a few people around, but we're wandering around that submarine and we hear a pip and more. And as we look where that noise is coming from, we can see the radar screen. You know, those circular things? I think they're circular. Anyway. They seemed circular in my mind. And it's got that line that goes round like a clock, like a second hand. Go round and round and every time it sees something, beep. There's a little dot on there or a shape or something. Now, that, to me, those little dots and the pip pip on, that little screen are your goals, the things you want, things you dream of. And that's what you're focused on. And you go, Paul, that's what we wanted. Focus on that thing. But here's the thing, and it is that one little thing. When you think of that radar screen, how much or how big is the area that it's checking for, your dreams, your goals? Not very big. You know, if you compare that, that little area compared to the whole sea or the whole universe multiverse, it's tiny. So tiny. And there's so much more outside that we're not aware of. Can you see that? And if we were, if we were to see everything, just imagine on that, you know, go back to that, radar screen. If that was to cover the whole world, whole world, sea, sea, world, it would be bipping all over the blooming place, wouldn't it? And we'd be overwhelmed with so much information coming to us, and we couldn't even focus on the little thing, let alone the big thing, because it'd be too much. Which is why we need to focus, focus on what we want. Because that's the start, that's where we begin, in that little radar screen of planning and looking for opportunities for our goals.     We can tap into everything outside by knowing what we want on the inside   But the thing is, if you, if you just think about it now, if we don't know all the things outside that little area, and there could be one. And what we know, I know there's wonderful things out there that we're not aware of. Wonderful things. And again, if we become aware of all those opportunities, we wouldn't even do the little things because we'd be in overwhelm. But I believe we can tap into that. We can tap into everything outside by knowing what we want on the inside. Your dreams, your goals, the things that you want to experience, the opportunities you want to have, the things you think about, that's the start. But how do we tap into that? Do you know? I do. I do. Well, I think I do. There's nothing, nothing ever, 100%. But to me, this really works. I'm going to tell you just how to do that. Now, that extra step. You see, you see, there's every dream and goal that you have. If you imagine the last step to start off with the big picture I've got there, I've achieved my goal. I've achieved my dream. I'm living the life. That last step of that particular goal, that dream you have the thing that you want, if you were to see it now in your mind's eye, achieving it, being there, seeing all the things you'd see, hearing all the things you'd hear, but you'd be feeling that feeling of, that wonderful feeling of achievement, success, maybe gratitude in there, love, joy, ah, all sorts of wonderful emotions. Be brilliant, wouldn't it? Now, when you feel that feeling, that's the thing that your unconscious mind recognises more than the pictures. The pictures are great, it gets that, the sounds are great, it gets that. But the feeling is like an arrow into pointing to the direction that you want. And that emotion is the motion for your unconscious mind to begin to look while you're focusing on the things that you want, because you're accessing the feeling and the feeling comes, we call it the feeling of the wish fulfilled. And that was, I think, first termed by a guy called Neville Goddard back in the early 19 hundreds. I think he was that far away, but he really got into it in the way that the feeling of the wish fulfilled, as if you've got it now, is a feeling that goes to your unconscious mind to say, this is what I want to experience. Now you're focusing on this little bit, but your unconscious mind says this and more, not this or that. This is an and, and that's the extra step. It's that simple, that simple. Visualize that goal, that dream. Get really specific again. We don't want general results. I don't want to be generally happy, generally rich life. I want a really rich life. I want to be really happy, full of joy, full of love. And, they're going to be made up of these dreams and goals, the things you want to have and experience. And, they all come from a good intention, they all come because they're important to you. So you pick that one goal, that one dream, the thing that you want to have happen, that part of the adventure, the adventure of life. Imagine that last step, the last step that I've got, this I've achieved, and it will look like this, it will sound like this, and feel the feeling. Let everything else disappear. Once you've got it, just concentrate on that feeling, intensify it. Imagine you could just double it. Imagine if you had a button, you could press it, go ten times that feeling. Maybe it's like a feeling control, like a volume control. You just keep turning it up and up so that feeling is so intense, you can wallow in that feeling, go. This would be absolutely awesome because now you've gone beyond that little circle of the radar. You immerse yourself in it, wallow in it, intensify it. And then what happens? Your unconscious mind gets it. And because it gets it, it starts to look not only within that small area of your focused attention, and you have to have that, by the way, and I, pooh poohed it a bit at the beginning, but you have to have that focus of attention because where attention goes, your energy flows. That's it. That's the one, I think. And you've got all that motion, energy, motion, lotion, lotion, motion, emotion. And your unconscious mind starts looking for opportunities to add to this, this or something better. They're the famous words that I love. No, they're famous. I think they come from, a lady called Shakti Gawain, great visualization person. I learnt this years and years and years ago and I didn't know that I got this little sentence from her, but it's this or something better. So you're saying to your unconscious mind, well, it's got to be lysis, but I don't mind it being better, this or something better, and then just let it go. Let it go into that multiverse universe. Let your unconscious mind start to look for those things for you. But the only thing you have to do, and it's a bit like the old secret, if you sit in your arse and just have the feelings and don't do anything, if you get the opportunities, you'll miss them because else goes sailing by as that opportunity comes, as your unconscious mind notices and shows it to you, that intuition, that opportunity. You then, like in the first or the second step or the key to success. The second key, use massive, intuitive, continuous action to get that goal. Follow your, heart, follow your intuition and follow that intention. And then reap an even richer reward. And again, if you. How long does it take to do, I don't know, a minute, two minutes? What happens if you did that three times a day? Oh, it might be six minutes of my day gone. That's six minutes of scrolling you don't want to do and you feel even better. Wouldn't that be brilliant? And that's it. Let your unconscious mind do the work and then you just reap the benefits. So I want to go back to the very beginning. What I'm saying is, we know what we want, but we don't know that there's more. There's more available to us and we can tap into that wonderful, rich life, the things that we don't know about, by just intensifying the feeling of the things that we're focusing on. So you are intelligent enough, you do know what you want, because you know what that feeling is. And you know, those goals and dreams you have are, steps along the way to achieving that, having even better, richer life. And then because of that, you're going to get more confidence in yourself, competent in your skills, you're going to learn more, meet more people, communicate, connect, and create even more opportunities.     Paul Warn: Start planning your goals and dreams now   So this life no longer is a journey. It's a series of adventures, step by step following your mission to become that ultimate vision of yourself and your ultimate vision of life. So at the, you know, you are now living great life. And because you're living a great life for a, wonderful attention, spreading those wonderful feelings and doing those wonderful things, you're assisting everyone else, everyone around you gets to feel that good because it's just infectious. They also see you as inspiration, as I can do. If they can do that, I can do that. So you're now an example of what can be done. You're an example of way, of the way you are and can do and be. You're being and seeing the change you want for yourself and helping others to do the same. And in that way, you are affecting the world. Little old planet earth gets to get richer. And that's my little test. My little test. Is that okay? Is it good for you? Is it good for others? Is it good for little old planet, earth and the rest of the multiverse universe? And everyone ticks as you've got that wonderful intention. So please, I hope you weren't offended because I wanted to just get that little shock, that pattern interrupt to go, hang on, there's one more little step. And when we add it in, things just get so much richer. So I hope you enjoyed that. I hope you'll bring to mind as you think about your goals, that little, little circle that radar, knowing there's so much more outside that you can tap into and even set your intentions. I'm going to feel this so much, this feeling of the wish fulfilled feeling as if I had it now, it would be like this and more so I can tap into all those resources outside my conscious awareness. And that's all it is. It's outside your conscious awareness right now. And getting your unconscious mind to bring it into your conscious awareness so you can have more fun than you can stand. Every heartbeat. There you go. That's it. Hope I made perfect sense. Not perfect, I hope I make sense. I hope I communicated it in a way that, that you get it. It's the best way I could do it at the moment. Maybe I'll change it another day. But to me, it's so important just to give that one more little bit, the little oomph, the difference that makes a difference. And that's all it is, the little difference that makes a huge difference. The tiny step that makes, leaps and bounds on your goals and dreams. And you start to create the reality for yourself just, well, even more, even more than you think you could, even more than you think you could enjoy even more. So now it's time to really start planning, really start getting into your goals and your dreams to make them so rich that you can expand even further. if you enjoyed that, please let me know. I'd love your feedback. Love your feedback. So if you could email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplug.com I'd love to know just what you felt about it, what happened when you did it. What are your goals and dreams? Maybe so I can help by finding even better processes. If you'd like this on a hypnosis track, let me know then. Maybe I'll produce this as a hypnosis. I've got loads, haven't I, that I may produce, but I need your feedback. I need your thoughts. Maybe there's some ways I can improve this even more. This being the podcast that is, and the way I present it, the way I connect with you, do it to my best. But I can always get better. And my intention is to, to, for all of us to get our dreams and goals and more. So please enjoy, please share, share this with everyone you, you come across. if you want to, please. No, all you have to do is just do it and hopefully more people will get to experience a rich life. Till next time, my friend. Have a richer life than you could ever imagine and enjoy every heartbeat. Till the next time. This is your mate, Paul Cloughie, and I'll speak and hear with you soon. Bye bye. Now.   Warn me you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged.     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Lower The Bar And Achieve Success And we all want success and the confidence that it brings with it. That confidence also tends to spread to other areas of our lives and that's go to be great too Seems daft when I hear myself say that Lower The Bar And Achieve Success but..... it's true if you want continued and comfortable success even if there is a little stretching involved - It wouldn't be personal development without a stretch   :O) And we all know counter intuitive is nearly always right so bear with me in this 5-minute quickie and I think you'll get it, it took me a little time but when I did BOOM! Dive in and press play and then share what you learn: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-455-lower-the-bar-and-achieve-success And the all important YouTube video link    https://youtu.be/HdrREohWS6g   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Transforming Limiting Beliefs From Self-Doubt to Self-Worth Have you ever felt, "I'm not good enough," "I can't do this," or "I don't deserve thiss"? These limiting beliefs can be overwhelming, but what if I told you they have a positive intention? In this enlightening episode, we explore why these negative feelings can actually be a protective mechanism and how you can transform them into feelings of safety, comfort, and self-worth. In this episode, I'll discuss: The positive intention behind limiting beliefs. How these beliefs develop and generalize over time. You'll learn: Why your unconscious mind creates these beliefs to protect you. How to reframe these beliefs to feel good enough and worthy. Through a guided process, you'll discover: How to identify the emotions, behaviors, and beliefs you need to feel safe and confident. A simple yet effective visualization exercise to reprogram your unconscious mind. Join me as we delve into this transformative journey, providing you with the tools to change your self-perception and embrace the belief that you are good enough, capable, and deserving. This episode includes a practical exercise to help you implement these changes immediately. And...... After maybe you will want to share this episode with others: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/401-changing-im-not-good-enough-to-yes-i-am Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Have you ever felt negative about yourself? Well, this podcast can help Hey, heads up. Your heads up to this longer podcast. Have you ever felt, I'm not good enough, I can't do this, I'm not worthy, I don't deserve this. And think that it's not positive, really? Well, I'm going to explain why it is such a positive thing to feel this negative thing and then how we can change it to feel safe, comfortable, to feel good enough, to feel worthy, to feel that you do deserve, this and to feel you can do this. Now, if that's important, please take the time to have a listen. And there's a little process in this too. Again, something to help you really do. Something simple, easy, but is really effective. Okay, have a listen after this. Hello, and I'm here by duty and honor of my country to warn you you're entering into the, personal space of personal development unplugged. And it may seriously. Yes, seriously, make your life so much better. Better. Thank you. Clavi says limiting beliefs are positive because they form you, they give protection Hey, welcome back to the longer podcast. And have you ever felt this? And I got an idea that I know the answer. I'm not good enough. Have you ever felt that belief? And it's really weird that you can feel beliefs, but you just feel I'm not good enough. You might even say it with that internal voice in your head or something like I'm not worthy, which is a weird thing to say in this day and age, but we do say that to ourselves. I hear it so many times in my clinic with my clients. Or maybe there's another side of that. I don't deserve this. I can't do this. And you see, I think we can all relate to that and to these limiting beliefs, because that's what they are. They're just limiting beliefs. They have an emotion and doesn't feel good. And to be honest, it stinks, doesn't it? They stink, and it doesn't happen all the time. I know it's not a continuous belief, but just sometimes this thing comes and gets us. And I think if you look back over time, it's probably grown. And I'm going to tell you why shortly. You see, these limiting beliefs are positive. And you're going to say, clavi, what? How can, how can a limiting belief be positive now? How can they? Well, I'm going to tell you they're positive because they form you, they give you protection. And you're going to go, how can a limiting belief that makes me feel like I'm not good enough, I m can't do this, I'm not worthy. I don't deserve it. They don't feel good. So how can that protect me? There you go. I'm going to tell you, you see, let's just take that I'm not good enough. You see, if you have this belief of I'm not good enough, what you going to do? Well, you're going to do one of two things. One is you're either going to prepare like hell, prepare for that thing that you feel you're not good enough for. And you prepare and you prepare. And you basically, you know, if you prepare well enough, then you're going to succeed. But the unfortunate thing is when it grows and grows, you get into overwhelm, you get fearful because you keep thinking about that thing that if you do fail, because you're not good enough. And the more you prepare, the more sometimes that intensifies that fear and anxiety, does that relate? And you see, that also adds into the emotions that come from that, such as guilt, sadness. You've got the anxiety and fear, maybe fear of failure, fear of embarrassment. Had them so many times. Me personally and also with my clients, I think we can all relate to that, you know, what it feels like, and it just doesn't work anymore, does it? You see, but that protects you. The other thing, the other option you have is, well, because I don't feel good enough, because I'm, not worthy, because I don't deserve this, because I can't do this. Guess what I'm going to do? I'm not going to prepare because I just know it's not worth it. So you're going to give up. You're going to give up on that one thing. That could be the difference, but you give up. And then when you give up and you don't do it, what do you feel? Same bloody emotions, isn't it? Sadness, guilt, fear of what happens again in, the future. Anxious because, you know, other people, it might affect other people, it might affect your job, your career, your relationships, but it's a positive thing, by the way. I don't think I've convinced you of that. But it is, if you just take the logic of it, it sort of works. And, because it sort of works, your unconscious mind keeps doing it because I think sometimes it hasn't. Well, we haven't educated it enough to find a better way. You see, let me explain. Let me explain just a little bit how I think this has happened. You see, I think sometime in your past, generally, I think it's recognized that within the first seven years of our life, we experience things that, aren't, quite. Sometimes they might give us a bit of anxiety, they might give us a little bit, it's only a tiny little bit of fear, tiny little bit of anxiety, tiny little bit of sadness, tiny negative emotions. And our unconscious mind says, do you know what? I don't want this for them, so I'm going to protect them. So if anything happens like this again, I'm going to give them this little, little belief that I'm sort of not good enough. I give you that little bit of emotion around that maybe I give you that little belief that maybe you, you can't do this because you'll either prepare and succeed or you won't do it. And because it's only small, small, it doesn't really hurt that much. And you don't do it. So you don't get that embarrassment, you don't get that sadness, you don't get all that grief about what you were frightened of. But the thing is, it doesn't stop there because that was just once, one small time, but your unconscious mind goes, oh, here comes another event just like the one we had before, but it's a bit bigger now. So I'm going to increase that feeling, increase that thought about, you're not good enough, increase, you're not worthy, can't do this, I don't deserve, I don't deserve this. And you get that slightly m more, more deeper emotion, more, more intense, I guess is the word, more intense emotion. And you either prepare and succeed, but it was a little bit harder this time because it was a l not quite overwhelming because you did it or you definitely didn't do it, but you started to feel that little bit of grief, a little bit of sadness. And, what happens again, I think your uncle's mind keeps doing this a little bit more, a little bit more. But also, and this is the thing, it generalizes this type of behavior because something else comes along and it goes, well, this event coming along is not the same as those other ones, but it's similar. And if it's similar, I'm going to do the same thing. So where you were, having an issue with one small type of event, now, over time, it expands and expands and expands. So more and more different events, such only similar, not the same. You tend to feel, I'm not good enough, don't deserve this, I can't do this. And the thing is, it gets more and more intense because it has to get more and more intense because you might just push through it. And if you just push through it, you might not be safe. So the presupposition in an LP, which are just useful assumptions, every behavior has a positive intention. So the positive intention is, I'm trying to keep you safe. But in doing that, your unconscious mind doesn't realize the conflict that it's setting, because all the time it's trying to make you be safe in all different contexts now, not just that bloody one, but all of them. It's generalized into all different areas of your life. It doesn't make you feel safe. And there's a conflict, I'm trying to make you feel safe, to keep you safe. And the one thing I'm doing is not doing that, it feels unsafe. So you've got a direct conflict going on now. And the thing is, because it starts so small, we didn't realize it. We only realize it when it gets bigger and starts affecting all areas of our life. Now, if it's really big and it is affecting all areas of your life, you know, I always say, go and see a therapist. And I know that's the thing that everyone says, oh, go and see a therapist, but go and see a therapist to get it sorted one to one. And I'm now banging my head, or banging the drum, rather, go and see a brilliant hypnotist who has NLP master pracket, NLP master pranker, timeline therapy, a, master hypnotist. You get those three qualities, and that anxiety, that feeling of I'm not good enough, that feeling of I'm not worthy, don't deserve this, I can't do this. Will disappear really, really quickly. Hypnosis helps your unconscious mind to learn from small problems Don't talk about years of therapy, we've talked about that so many times. But get it done. Because you see, when I do this, when I do it in therapy, I get the unconscious mind to learn, to learn from that root cause, that one small thing. Remember that one small thing. If you can learn from that small thing and take away the emotion, because it's learned from that event now, and it doesn't need the emotion of I'm not good enough, not worthy, and all the behaviors that attach to that and the emotions attached to that, because it's learned, it's noticed a conflict. And when it notices a conflict, learning from the root cause and says, do you know what? Because it's not working, and I have to keep you safe. It's one of the prime directors of your unconscious mind. It has to keep your bloody safe, then it has to find a better way. And that's where the therapy comes in. The hypnosis working with your unconscious mind to go through all the resources you have now. Cause you've got a massive resources. Back then, when you were boy or girl, you had little experience, you had very little wisdom. So your unconscious mind could only do what it could do with the wisdom and experiences you had. But unfortunately, over this period of time, when it's generalized into all different stuff, it hasn't accessed and realized you have so much more life's experiences, all your learnings, all your wonderful values and beliefs that you've developed, the positive ones, the really good ones. So we help it to keep that protection. And here's the thing in doing that, the one thing we're not doing, which a lot of therapists forget, is we don't take away that positive intention. We don't say to your unconscious mind, m oh, just do this. No, we say, keep the intention to keep this person safe, to keep you safe, but find a better way. Now, I hope that makes sense. But the thing is, you might be saying, well, great, fluffy, but it's not that big at the moment. You know, sometimes I don't feel good enough. It's not affected my whole life, but it is not just in one area of my life, but maybe a couple of little bits, but it's a smaller thing. So this, I'm going to go through smaller things, which will certainly help you, if you do go to one to one therapy. But this is something you can do for yourself because I like to give you options and I like to give you processes, you know that. So this is for like mild anxiety, a little bit of worry, things that just repeat a little bit. And so we want to break that down, break it down into simple, a simple process. And if you think about it, just if you were to think about that issue, that problem, that problem that's giving you the feeling and the negative belief of, I'm not good enough, I don't deserve it, can't do it, you know, I'm not worthy, not good enough, all that stuff. Just think if you, we're not going to go to the root cause, but just imagine it was a younger you where it probably started, and you were very ickle, as I said, what do you think you would be, would have missed you didn't, what resources and skills and beliefs and values didn't you have? And there'll be a mass of them, so maybe too overwhelming to think, well, I can't think of all the things that my younger you needed, so let's just hone that down into something more simple then. So we go to the other side of the the issue. Well, I know in the issue I don't feel good enough. I have this emotion, maybe a little bit of fear, maybe a little bit of, you know, I've had some guilt and sadness and all that stuff. So how would I like to feel? How would I like to behave? And what would I believe instead? Are you going to make this up? Sort of make it up, because you can imagine, but when you imagine it's coming from you, it's not coming from anybody else. So think to yourself just for the moment. If I was to go through that type of event and be the way I want to be, achieve what I want to achieve, be able to go through it, feeling comfortable, what, maybe just top three, top three emotions would I need to have? And it could be just calmness, we've done it before, calmness, being comfortable, aware. Maybe it's a little bit of excitement, maybe it's curious, maybe it's connection, that feeling of connecting, being connected, being able to think of the behaviors. Maybe I want to behave in a way that I can just access the information I want or maybe I can act as if I'm calm, collected. Think about that. Just three emotions, maybe a couple of behaviours. You know, I want to just be able to use my body smoothly and effortlessly. And What belief would you have about yourself if you were to go through that event really successfully? Maybe it's a belief of I believe in myself. I'm okay, I've got this. So you've got an idea now. So we haven't gone back to the root course and tried to go through all the emotions that, that younger you didn't have. Because I guarantee you now, those three emotions that younger, you didn't have, those behaviors, younger, you didn't have, that belief and value you're younger, you didn't have. But you have them all because you've taken them just by thinking about them. They've come from that wealth of experience and learnings and wisdom that you've achieved and grown and had and accessed through all the years now. So you might want to write those down, but just think about them and then just imagine. Here's the thing now, if you've got a little bit of time and it is going to only be a couple of minutes and you are able to just sort of close your eyes, you don't have to close your eyes, but if you did, if you did, then you could just focus, focus on what you want. Now, I, just make sure you do not need. It's not hypnosis, by the way, but you do not need to be doing anything at all. Nothing to take your attention. Nothing. Your attention needs to be on you inside in this imagineering. And it's simple. All I want you to do is this. So, if it's okay, nothing's going to take your attention. You can close your eyes. If not, come back to this, you could just listen to it and then come back to it because you're going to have a. Like you've had a run through, and then you're going to come and do it properly. Just close your eyes and imagine. Imagine a younger you, just a younger you, maybe between the ages of 345678, 910, that time, that younger you. Maybe they're standing or sitting on a stage just in front of you and below you, and they're just there. Now, some people like to, or they have the intuition, the feeling that they have some words they want to say to this younger. And you could say them right now just how much you care for them, how much you thank them. You're so grateful for them trying to do all this thing for you, but now it's your turn. And as you do that, however you want to do it, just imagine sending them those three emotions one at a time. Just imagine being beaming them out from your heart to that younger you. Then imagine you could beam out those behaviors that they didn't have, that you have now in abundance to them. And imagine sending those wonderful values and that one belief. I've got this, it's okay. Sending it to that younger you. And you might even notice that they just change. The vision of them just changes slightly. Maybe they'll smile. Maybe they look at you just in that special way because you're sending all the resources that they didn't have back then, things that they needed back then that you have in abundance. And you might just want to tell them one more thing. This is the thing I love to send to a younger you, that, awareness that it's going to be okay. Because back then they didn't, they weren't aware that it'd be okay. And then as you just let them go, let them go in your. Imagine in the future that you go through one of those scenes Because it's only imagination, remember? I, want you to imagine going through one of those things again now, having learned all the learnings you need to learn because we're keeping that intention to keep you safe. And now you're even safer. And to know that I want you to imagine a scene just the way you want it. Imagine in the future that you go through one of those scenes that in the past used to cause you that little bit of fear, a little bit of worry, and see yourself going through it with those skills, with those emotions, with that belief and values, and going through it just the way you want it. And, notice how good it feels. You might even notice if you really thought about it, hey, this feels really safe. Because the thing about it is, you only ever feel unsafe. You never, when you feel safe, you just, you're just doing the things you want to do. So you just sometimes have to take a moment and go, do you know what? I feel comfortable. I feel good. You might even say to your unconscious mind, do you realize now this is even a better way, keeping the intention, and, now we've changed our behaviors, our beliefs, our emotions into a way that works even better, more appropriate, and just imagine in that future just getting better and better, this or something better. Then open your eyes and boom. And let it go. Let it go, because that's all you need to do. And then just go through, and then when you've gone through one of those events, notice how different you are. You may have to do this a couple of times. You may, as I said, if it's a little bit more deeper than that, you may need one to one therapy, but there's nothing wrong with that. It's great to do one to one therapy. I love doing it. But the thing is, all we're doing, whether it's in therapy or right now, and in the personal development unplugged podcast, all we're doing is educating your unconscious mind. Not this, but this. This is better. Keep your intention and change your behavior to the things that make it make life great, keep you safe. And, when your unconscious mind understands that conflict, not this, but this, this is better. We've kept the intention, I just believe it just takes it on. Because you have what you need right now, you're just not accessing them. Your unconscious mind is not accessing those resources, and now we're guiding it to those new resources. Now you might say, well, Cluffy, that's really simple, that's really easy. Well, as you know, in simplicity there is genius. And, why make things more difficult than we need to? If there's a simple way, and it's just imagination. But your imagineering is so powerful. It's so powerful. When you feel those wonderful good feelings, you're sending a message to your unconscious mind. This is the way. This is the way. And one of the reasons I thought this was important to start off with is because when you realize that you can do this thing without and, let go of having worry, a little bit of fear, a little bit anxiety, all the big stuff. When you see a therapist, you then realize you did it. No therapist did it for you. They are just a guide. They just have the processes that you don't know because they've learned them. But they help to guide you to find what you need to learn and let it go. And you do the work. You just have the will to do whatever it takes. And the will to do whatever it takes is something that you can even apply to all different things in life, like sharing this podcast. If you've got the will to do that and have fun with sharing this podcast, feel good about sharing this podcast. Even look back just before you go to sleep and say, oh, I'm so grateful that I feel so good about sharing this podcast. I think I've ran that enough. But have fun, do sit down and maybe just think about this even more. Just even if you don't, you know, we do this process, but just think about the things, how I'd like things to be. If we can get a habit of doing that before we start getting those negative emotions, we start to show our unconscious mind. Let's access the skills we've got. Let's change the way we behave and feel and, believe into the things that make. Make us feel good, make us feel joy, make us give love, make us, well, feel safe, and create the dreams we want to create. Create our reality, as it were. Because I want to support you in getting each and every dream that you believe you just dream of. That's what dreams are. They're dreams. And you dream of them, but make them bigger, brighter, and feel that you deserve it. Feel you're good enough to have this. That's what we're all about. Because you can. I love to know. I'd love to know. I ask this every episode. I'd love to have your feedback to how did you get on with this little process or what I've, shared with you, Shaun, with you. Because by doing that, it helps me to develop even more. It helps me develop processes, maybe, and fine tune them. because sometimes one thing doesn't quite go in, but then there's that little bit. We just shave it, we just move it slightly, adapt it, mold it, and boom, we hit the sweet spot. And that's what I want for you the sweet spot of creating your dreams and living them. Not just dreaming dreams, but creating them in the moment. Living those dreams and then allowing ourselves to dream bigger and brighter. Bit sloppy, Cloughie. But that's what I want for you. So do email me any feedback. It's feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. hope you really enjoyed that. I hope you enjoyed it. Anyway, have more fun than you can stand and fly into the now and the present with all that future right now. Confusing, isn't it? Anyway, you go fly. Warning. 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When You Don't Need Your Why To Succeed Simon Sinek wrote 'Find Your Why' and finding your values is really important but this is not that. We've all done it, or is it just me? When thing aren't going the way we want - Asked ourselves questions like: 'Why is this always happening to me?' 'Why can't I do this?' 'Why does it keep going wrong?' 'Why am I such an Idiot?' And we'll answer with every excuse or reason, and they're all negative and dis-empowering and in effect let us off the hook - Every EXCUSE or even BLAME other people. So what better questions can we ask that will be empowering and get us away from negative beliefs, negative emotions or limiting beliefs? Well........................... It's a podcast so press play and I'll explain all and in around 5-10 minutes!  :O) And please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-454-when-you-dont-need-your-why-to-succeed Plus there's now a video of this too: https://youtu.be/Nufn2ySeiE0 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Remove Anxiety And Be Successful My Journey and How You Can Do It Too In this episode, I share a personal story from my early days as an NLP trainer, facing overwhelming anxiety before a major solo training event. Through this experience, I discovered a simple yet powerful method to overcome anxiety and achieve success. In this episode, I'll discuss: A true story of my struggle with anxiety and how I overcame it. The five keys to success and how they can help you. How to act "as if" to change your physiology and psychology. You'll learn: How to push away negative thoughts and visualize a successful outcome. How to prepare mentally and physically for anxiety-inducing situations. The importance of taking action and being flexible in your approach.   Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, you'll discover: The power of acting "as if" to transform your mindset and behavior. How to use the five keys to success to achieve your goals. Why it's crucial to focus on what you want rather than what you fear Join me as I share these valuable insights and techniques to help you overcome anxiety and live a more confident, successful life. And...... After maybe you will want to share this episode with others: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/400-remove-anxiety-and-be-successful   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough talks about removing anxiety and becoming successful   Hey, heads up. Longer podcast. Removing anxiety, becoming successful. I've got a way, and I've got a story that, a true story of my own. When I was first in training, what happened when I was, I had so much anxiety and how I changed it and the effects, and I'm going to share with you exactly what I did. And it is so simple, so simple, but so effective, so powerful. If that's important to you. I know, it is. Keep listening. This is personal development unplugged with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity, there is genius. Hey, my friend. We're back and again talking about just removing anxiety, but removing anxiety and feeling good about yourself, becoming successful. And what I mean by successful is feeling successful in the things that you do. So you feel, yeah, I did a good job because a long time ago, quite a long time ago, in my very, very early days of being a trainer, trainer of NLP, things like that, I did my very first solo training and I wasn't confident, but I was sort of confident. I felt okay because talking to the people who were running it, they'd asked me to come along to share what I know about this particular subject and they said, you know, there's only 16 people coming, so it'll be fine. And I thought to myself, 16? I can do 16 people. 16 is okay. Nice tight little number. So I was getting together and I was feeling pretty good. Feeling pretty good. You know how it feels when you look forward to something like that because you feel you got it. So what happened a few days before, just wanted to check up because I was having to travel abroad to do this as well. So it wasn't only my first solo training because I used to do a lot of trainings with my son before and after all my trainings were with my son and we used to stand on the stage together and we had a group, but we do have a great rapport and it was so good on stage. We just bounced off each other, supported each other and it was really good. I think there's not many father and sons who are doing that. And we just loved it, loved each other, loved doing what we did. But this was my first solo. 16 people, I can imagine Joseph beside me, maybe, and I'd be cool with that, but hen this phone call, because I just about to get on the, get packing and taking all my stuff with me. And what happened? Well, that phone call was, hey, Paul, we've done it. We've got them all booked in. Oh, great, 16 people. And I said, what? Da da da da. You didn't hear, Paul? It's 60. 60 people. I hadn't talked to 60 people in a training before, and it was massive for me. Absolutely massive. And my heart started pounding. I could see, oh, my physiology went to pits. I felt dread. I had those pictures in my mind that I am going to absolutely fail. I'm just going to fail completely. I'm going to be a mess, and it's going to be so embarrassing, so embarrassing for me, so embarrassing for the people who've asked me to come along. And, everything I did was made more pictures in my mind. How difficult it was going to be, how horrible it's going to be. And was I looking forward to it now? Not a bloody thing. Oh, no. But I couldn't. I really wanted to say, actually, can we stop now? Can we? Can we, you know, just call it off? Because I'd wanted to really call it off. It just wasn't fun anymore. But I obviously couldn't do that. I couldn't. And committed, committed to sharing what I know. And the thing is, when I push that stuff away, we talked about pushing the pictures away. When I pushed that picture away, just for a bit, I thought to myself, do I actually know the stuff I want to share? And I did, of course I did. Although I felt an imposter. Who am I to come and share all this with all these people? And in fact, I also knew there were other trainers going to be in the group, other, bloody trainers listening to me, learning from me, people who've been trainers for a lot longer than I had been. But you see, I did know what I had to share was good. I also know, I think, well, I did know those people wanted to learn what I had. They didn't want to come along to see me fail. Why would anybody pay money to see someone fail, especially when they knew I had, and they've been told I had something different to share with them. So I had to do something. I had to do something. So what did I do? I thought to the basics. One of the most simplest things that we talk about here at personal development, unplugged, where Joseph and I talk about this thing. It's called the five keys to success. And you'll see, I've done so many that's been mentioned so many times in podcasts. I've even done a hypnosis track on it. Where'd you get those? Paulcliffonline.com, whichever way that goes. Okay. But anyway, I thought about the five keys to success. So what's the first one? My goal, what was my goal? Well, my goal was to share and enjoy it, not just share and go, oh, that was horrible. But no, I wanted to share and enjoy this moment. I wanted to give, I wanted to make the people who asked me to come and share this proud, proud of what they've done and proud of me. So I had to take action. That's the next step. Take action. Intuitive, massive action. So I knew what I was going to do. I got all my stuff together, but I also knew what was coming at. The end of this. Five keys to success. And I knew what action, I had to take and had to be aware, aware of what I was going to do, aware of how I wanted to be aware of if things weren't going quite right, what did I need as a backup plan? And I had loads of those in my pocket because these people liked hypnosis too, and they didn't know how to do it. So I knew I had lots of hypnosis, I could teach, do some hypnosis processes as well, give them even more than they paid for. So I've got that and flexibility. Knowing with that awareness, I could be that flexible because I've got more tools. And I started to feel a little bit better, but then I thought, hey, this is the main thing, this is the thing I really got to start doing. I've got to act as if, act as if with a psychology and physiology of excellence, an excellent trainer, someone who knows their stuff, someone who's hopefully a little bit charismatic, someone who can communicate, someone who can do the demos, get the results without any doubt. And I must admit, before I had doubt of doing those demonstrations in front of all those people. No, if I'm going to act as if I don't have any doubt, things are going to happen, things are going to change. So I started, I thought, well, thinking about the trainers that I'd worked with, I was going to change my body to act as if you see these people. I wanted to act as if I should be there, I deserve to be there, because I did act as if they want to learn, because they wanted to learn. Just moving my body made change the pictures in my mind They wanted to learn what I wanted so I could act as if that was in my head, that was in my beliefs. And I thought, well, what experience do I have? Well, I've been with so many trainers, so many brilliant trainers, and I knew how they performed and, perform is not the right word, but how they acted in front of me when they did their, they shared what they knew did their demonstrations. I knew how they walked, I knew how they talked, I knew how they smiled, how they connected. I'd modeled them and I was modeling them again. I knew how they breathed, how they gave that impression of being relaxed because I knew when I talked to them, sometimes they were a little bit jumpy inside, but did they give that impression? No, they believed in themselves. So I was going to have to believe in myself. And just by starting to move like that, because I practiced just a little bit, but I saw it in my head as well. Saw me over there acting as if I was them of a sore, taking on, their qualities, but being me and allowing those qualities to like, evolve in me in my own style. It wasn't a copy, but just imagining it. And it seemed to make a difference because I knew it would. And it made me believe again, just moving my body made change the pictures in my mind in the way that I knew I could do this. I just could. So I changed my physiology and it changed my psychology, as it were, my psychology of excellence. It gave me the belief that I'm going to do this. I got this. Yeah, there's going to be a little bit of nervousness, but that's to be expected. Cluffy, go out and do this because you're not backing out. You're going to make a success of this. I've got this. And you'll do whatever it takes, you know, and you'll be taking action when you're there. You'll be intuitive, you'll be aware, you're going to be flexible. You've got more tools than you need, and you know what you're going to teach. And the thing is, because I did that, and if you remember from the last, the last weeks or the last, longer podcast, you know, by pushing that picture away, that picture of the frightened me, that gave me room, it gave me space, just gave me space to start to think about my psychology and physiology, to act as if, act as if I deserved to be there, because I did act as if I was that trainer, because I was act as if I could not command the stage but connect with people in the way I wanted to connect as cluffy nothing trainer mode. I want it to be me and share what I had in my way. And it just made the difference because that space, it just gave me space. And the thing is, when you change your physiology, you can just notice what happens. It just happens. It's like boom, it changes that, completely. Now, you could, if you wanted to change your psychology. Now, how would someone who isn't anxious, who isn't fearful, how would they behave? How would they move? What would they think about? What would they believe? And you see, when you get into that mindset, that, mindset of who you want to be, who would, what would be the best way to think? What would be the best way to believe, what would be the best emotions, you know, calmness. Because sometimes, I used to think people would have to get into a trainer mode and be, no, didn't have to be someone they're not. You act as if you have all the skills, and when you do that, you actually, I've actually got them. I can see myself over there doing it. I can access all the stuff because I'm now calm and I'm aware they're the type of emotions I want. And when you start to change and access those emotions, because all you have to do is think of a time, think of a time in the past when you had the emotion. And when you find that time, you can go back into that memory, see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel the emotions. And when you feel them, you go, yeah, that's right. That's exactly how I want to be. Or maybe even see a picture, a movie of the person that you know does it just the way you want to do it. Now, it won't be, you won't be your style completely, but it's the way you feel the most comfortable, or you, you think you'd feel the most comfortable, see them over there doing it, and then float into their body, as it were, but then start to take it on as yourself. Let your skills, let your emotions, let everything happen. And notice when you do that, you change the emotions. Pictures in your mind change that. fear and anxiety disappears because you're now looking through your eyes of a bigger, successful person, a competent person, someone who is going to do this. And then you do, well, just think, what beliefs do I have? Well, I'm like this, and those beliefs are supportive. Now. Now, you can do this every time a little bit of anxiety comes along, because when you do that, not wait till it gets so bad, but if you get a little bit of anxiety, you then go, what do I need to do? Do I need to change my physiology? Do I need to act as if and really behave? Or do I just change my mindset and my emotions? Because either one will work, because you change one, the other one has to change, or maybe do both together. And as soon as you do that, just like that it means you're going to start putting in a pattern interrupt, as we call it in NLP. So that little bit of anxiety is going to cause you to think of a better way, and your unconscious mind is going to start going, do you know what this better way is? A better way, why? Which is going to keep them the safest, the fear and anxiety in those horrible pictures that are just overwhelming. And we talked about that before, in the past. Well, before is the past, I guess, but we've talked about it before where you get that overwhelm and you just freeze, fight and fly. You know, it's not working. When you're in control of yourself, using the right emotions, using the most supportive beliefs, your physiology is in tune. You're aligned now. You're aligned to be the best version of yourself at that moment. And your unconscious mind is going to go, well, is this safer than the old way? Of course it is. And if you keep doing it, that, pattern interrupt is just going to be a natural thing now. And so you're now using any anxiety to fire off all the good stuff, and your unconscious mind will then why would it need the anxiety after a while? Because it just works. So that's acting as if you're not copying, you're not pretending, you're not faking it till you make it. That's bollocks. Excuse me swearing, but it is. You're acting as if taking the skills and, noticing how you would act as if you had those skills, how you would act as if you had that physiology. And when you put the two together with the beliefs, supportive, positive beliefs, you'll crush it. And then when you actually do it, do the thing you used to be frightened of. It may not go 100% the way you thought, but to go a damn sight better, and you'll say, well, I can learn from that because I just need to just change a few things, maybe just do a little bit of this or a little bit less of that, but you'll learn from it. And even if you say, when you review, what can I learn from this to make it even better? Because you can. Five keys to success are important for overcoming anxiety during hypnosis sessions So what happened to me? What happened to me? Well, I packed up my gear, had my, had my little laptop and I had all my stuff on it. and I went away, got on this little stage, 60 people. And you know what? I put myself in state just beforehand, had, ah, a little bit of music in my ears. I felt absolutely unstoppable in a good way. And I went through, yeah, there was a few ups and downs. But I coped. I managed, and I was supported by people because they wanted me to succeed. That wasn't just in my head saying, they're coming here and they want me to succeed. I felt it from them. They told me they really want me to teach them even more. And I had one test, the litmus test, for me, if that training was a success and, it wasn't a very big one, I put it into my mind that I wanted a standing ovation at the end of it. Now, that's not big, is it? And do you know what? To the 60th person, everyone stood up and cried and smiled. And you know what? I'm. That felt awesome. So worth doing. And I got so good a feedback from it. So many new things happened. And, literally, it was that simple. Five keys to success. And the fifth one, acting as if so simple, because, you know, here in simplicity, there's genius, good old. It just works. And because it's simple, it doesn't mean to say it's easy. You have to put effort in. You have to make sure that you really put the work in. You really want to do that visualization. You really want to feel the feelings. You want to think of how you want to be. You have to push that old anxiety pictures away, those movies away, give yourself space, and you have to see your goal, what you want. And, when you're prepared to do whatever it takes and your goal, your intention is so good, because my intention was to share. Yeah. I wanted to come away feeling good about it and have people, you know, impressed with the way I did things. Of course I did. But the intention was to share what I had so other therapists could use what I knew, and they did. And I got feedback of the results they were getting with their clients. And, more trainings were to come. So it just works. It just works. So think about it yourself, if you would, if you ever feeling anxious and you hypnosis tracker, just stop. Whoa. Push the pitches away. What are those? Five keys to success. What do I really want to have happen? Not what I don't want to have happen, because that's what anxiety does. Here's all the bad things. Here's all the things and how worse it will get. It's even worse than that. No, no. That's what you don't want. Trouble is, when you don't want something and you think about what you don't want, your unconscious mind seems to think that's what you do want. That's what you're focused on what you focus on is what you get. That's where your attention goes. So start to give yourself some space and just decide for a moment, how do I want to be? What do I want to achieve? What is my intention? And to get that intention, how do I need to think? What emotions do I have to have? How will my body be? How will I breathe? How will I move? How will I talk? How will I connect? How will I be aware of all the information? How will I just share what you have and then go do it? Do and have the will to do whatever it takes? Because you will and you'll enjoy. You'll be so surprised when you look back and you go, that was awesome. But when you look back further in time, you'll notice all the new opportunities that have happened because you just did that simple little thing. You didn't bottle it, you didn't give any excuses. You stood up and were the best version of yourself at that time. And then you just got better. And that's why I say, you know, removing anxiety and becoming successful, it's the success that you want from your intention. Simple as that. I hope you enjoyed that. I really do. If you did enjoy it, I'd love you to share it. I'd love some feedback as well. So maybe share this episode. Just talk about it. Talk about acting as if. Do it and share it. But if you can share this episode, that'd be awesome, too. And give me some feedback. Paul Cloughy: Knowing something and doing it is completely different Because sometimes it seems, oh, either I know this and we've talked about it before. Knowing it and doing it is completely different. If you know it and don't do it, what's the point of knowing it? You got to do what you know and then you become that master. But if sometimes you, well, I do. I'm going to do this. I've missed a bit. Yeah, you can listen to this, but if it doesn't quite resonate with you, let me know. Feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com. that's my email address. Give me an idea where things may be. Not quite going the way you wanted. Not quite going the way I want for you. That's my communication issue, and I'll communicate in a better way. Maybe we find another step or just something to get around that obstacle, because it's a hero's journey and you're the hero. So, please do that and just have fun with it. Acting as if is so much fun because when you're you, acting as if you want to be the real you, that's all you have to do. Act as if you're going to be the real you, not the old you, but the real you that you can shine. And that's all I want for you to shine. So I'll support you in every, every way. So I want your dreams to come true. I want them to get bigger, brighter, quicker, and then I want you to tell me about them because I love that. So do that. Have more fun than you can stand while you're doing it, because that makes you know when you're having fun, you know you can have serious fun. But when you have fun doing this as well, you will shine brighter than you'd ever think. And you'll connect deeper, than you'd ever know. And the ripples of change go further and wider than you'd ever know. So you never know all the effects you're going to set out there just by doing this little, little pattern interrupt, push it away. Find those five steps. Act as if psychology, physiology of excellence, being the real you. Have more fun than you can say, my friend, I'm going to see you next time. Hope you enjoyed it. Thank you so much for your time. I know it's valuable, but hopefully I've added something to it, to your life. It's your friend, Paul Cloughy. See you next time. It's time to fly.   Just before you do fly, we're talking.   About anxiety and confidence.   I'm just going to give you the 90 seconds of my supreme inner confidence course and some information about it.   It is at a rock bottom price at the moment.   I've discounted it so heavily and forgot.   To put it back to the real price.   So if you go to paulcliffonline.com, that's where you'll find it. And if you sign up to the hypnosis tracks@paulcliffonline.com podcast, you get even a little bit more discount. Anyway, have a quick listen.   If it's for you, it's for you.   And there's a money back guarantee, by the way, so you've got nothing ever to lose.     This program is for anyone who experiences anxiety, self doubt and fear   Okay, have a listen and then fly your six steps to achieving supreme inner confidence. Who's this program for? This is for anyone who experiences anxiety, self doubt and fear. But deep down, they know they have something within them just craving to be free. It's for people who want to achieve their ambitions, to achieve their dreams with total confidence and self belief. So in the next five or so minutes, we're going to realize your lack of self confidence is not the problem. It's by letting go of the fear that's holding you back and stopping that constant worrying, what others think of you, we're going to let go of nagging fear of not being good enough and being found out. So you wake up and feel good about yourself and what that day holds. To be excited about the future and what that holds for you. Want to find the old you and.   Then the real you.   How to dream the dreams you want for yourself and have those dreams become real. So I promise to you, is a step by step program to supreme inner confidence. But let's be honest, this is not magic. I don't promise to wave a magic wand and say, hey, presto, everything's changed. If you really want this, you're gonna have to do some work to do whatever it takes. Hey, does this sound like you? Are you constantly in fear of not being in control? Do you overthink everything? Do you question everything and everybody? Do you wonder, will this ever end? And what if it doesn't? See the real problem? You haven't taken the steps to deal with the true cause of all your issues.   It's okay.   You're about to discover them now. And once you take them, you're going to feel so excited to see the world and the opportunities in it, to have fun and laughter again, joy and happiness. Wake up in the morning with a buzz of energy. Now that heavy load has been lifted to feel calm, content, empowered, you'll feel free. The real sense of freedom, effortlessly, to be in control again, and to simply be the real you. So who am I? I'm a master hypnotist, trainer of NLP, and hypnotherapist. I help people to be who they really are and, let go of all their insecurities and enjoy their life again. In fact, for the past 18 years plus, I've simply been helping clients to let go, of their issues and get their real results. That's me, Paul Clough. Let's discover those six steps. There are six key steps you must take and make to let go of your anxiety and self doubt fully, completely, while unleashing your untapped, undiscovered self core confidence. I'm going to walk you through all this. All six steps. Step one. Don't fight it, but honor it. You see, this program is not a bandage or a plaster. They simply don't work. We need to understand what your own, confidence and low self esteem is doing for you. That's right. It's doing something positive for you. The mind shift. They're not the enemy. If you fight them, fight it, push against it, the snowball just gets bigger and bigger. You know that. And if you fight it and push against it, it just spreads in other areas of your life. You know that. The mind shift. Work with your best friend, your unconscious mind. You see, it's all about unconscious learning. Not consciously learning. Because you see, you didn't learn to be this way consciously, so why would you try to solve it consciously?   It rarely works and probably makes it even worse.   So what does work and make things better? You see, it's all about learning at the unconscious level to truly understand what it will mean to you to be competent and confident in all areas of your life. To have your unconscious mind learn what it needs to. That, once learned, will let go of all your negative feelings and debilitating and paralysing self talk. That was the old way. People used to have many sessions with little or no change.   You'd be guided to lovely places and.   Feel so relaxed now but not later. They'd make you relive those past memories when things felt really uncomfortable and low. And they'd tell you to be confident this way, using installing their own generic way.   That's not you, that's not yours.   The secret, you see, you don't need someone telling you how to be or how how long it will take. You just need the will to do whatever it takes to follow this program. Because we're going to unconsciously learn from the past and keep the intention of your unconscious mind to create an empowering and confident present. And then with all of that, the future you want. You see, together we're going to learn to change old beliefs. Together we're going to find new behaviors and new ways to feel confident. See, it's not my way of being confident. Free, excited, happy, calm, content and joyful. It's your way. And together we're going to create a recipe in all your senses of how you want to be in all areas of your life. You see, take your time and feel comfortable. But time doesn't really have to take that long. Some people change in a second. How long have you got? I like to work really fast and it doesn't have to be scary or uncomfortable. Why would you want to struggle and make it difficult? I like to work in an easy, simple, and comfortable and lasting way. And let's make it easy and invest in you. See, invest in you with my help. Self help books and hypnosis cds are good, but not good enough. You better pray and spray if you're going that direction. There's no gain without pain. And that's B's. The pleasure that comes from being confident in being you is immeasurable. Because when you achieve success in your competence, confidence and high self esteem, you're going to feel empowered. What else couldn't you do right now? You will never know how far the ripples of this change will go.     Paul Clough promises you a step by step program to regain your confidence   Today, I promised you a step by step program to regain your supreme inner confidence. The secret. My secret. To unconsciously learn from the past and keep that intention. That unconscious intention. Create an empowering and confident present. And then create the future. Each of these three steps has two specialized hypnosis processes and a video for each one, making the full six steps to your supreme inner confidence. But the final piece of the puzzle. You have a choice.   Your responsibility.   You can join me in this unique program and let me guide you to rediscover your supreme inner confidence, high self esteem, and ultimately, your freedom. So let's remind ourselves, who's this for? If you've finally had enough, you're saying to yourself, I'm, prepared to do and have whatever it takes. This feels right. And you see, it's the right thing to do. It's finally time to take action and reclaim your confidence, your self esteem, and to be the real you. If that's you, hey, come and join me on this supreme inner confidence program. You have nothing to lose but your low self esteem and unconfidence. There's a 30 day money back guarantee. That's it. Come and join me, Paul Clough. We'll have fun and regain that supreme inner, confidence.     Paul Clough advises leaving personal development unplugged   Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough.   It's time to fly on your own.   Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Why Celebrating Leads To Success Plus it feels good! We all like to feel good, you know that feeling when you've done something you wanted to achieve. It's a nice feeling of inner satisfaction. Well, that's the worst that can happen if you follow this 5-Minute Quickie musing. When you do what I share and suggest it'll guide your  unconscious mind to find more of what gives you pleasure and that inner satisfaction, plus you'll probably end up achieving more too  :O) Big claim for a 5-Minute podcast episode which actually lasts 9 minute but who's counting - more for your buck. You may also want to celebrate your sharing of the podcast too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-453-why-celebrating-leads-to-success and feel that inner satisfaction now Or even watch the video of the recording and see me https://youtu.be/VGvKdcBwtMY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Removing Anxiety in Real Life Overcoming Fear In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the realm of anxiety and fear, sharing a personal story of how overwhelming anxiety can be and how it can be managed effectively. This episode is designed to provide you with practical tools to combat anxiety and regain control of your emotions. In this episode I'll discuss:   A real-life story of dealing with anxiety and fear. Two powerful processes to remove anxiety and feel good.   You'll learn:   How to push away negative thoughts and visualize a successful outcome. How to prepare mentally for upcoming anxiety-inducing situations.   Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, you'll discover:   The importance of acknowledging your anxiety and finding a better way to handle it. How to use visualization techniques to see yourself succeeding in stressful situations.   Join me as I share these valuable insights and techniques to help you overcome anxiety and live a more confident life. 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Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, my friend, we're back. We're back. And I promised you, I promised you from last, the last longer podcast, having had my little. Not a rant, but just a little thing about what anxiety is trying to do for us. And maybe we're just telling you and hopefully, supporting you in knowing that it's going to go really easily. It can do. So here's, I've got a couple of processes here, because knowing that anxiety hasn't happened, it's not real. But the thing is, I want to go back into a real life story, because anxiety is weird, isn't it? So weird. And we've all suffered from it, and we all suffer in different ways, I guess. Sometimes with panic attacks, sometimes with our heart just starting to race just a little bit, maybe our breath gets a little bit. I don't know. It just. And we get. I don't know. Well, you do know. We do know. It just overwhelms us sometimes, doesn't it? And there's nothing else that we can think of other than that bloody thing. Here's a story, and it's true, by the way. It is a true one. Happened a little while ago. See, I remember this time when I was thinking about this processes, when I was really worried about something. And it's quite weird, because I wasn't even in the bloody same country as this thing was supposed to happen in. It was like a sort of confrontation with somebody, or someone was threatening to confrontation with me about something, and I wasn't even there, so it couldn't happen at all. I was in a different bloody country. But, and there was a but it made no bloody difference. It didn't make any difference at all. And, even knowing what I know, I still felt, I still fell for it. In other words, what the fuck comes to mind. But, at that time, it didn't and as I thought about it, miles away from the scene, was it ever going to happen? I made that picture, that movie, in my head so bad. And I couldn't stop thinking about it. It spawned my every day, because as I'd be walking around thinking about other things, it would come into my mind if I stopped and paused to see the beauty came into my bloody mind. And it worried me. I could see it so clearly in my mind what was going to happen. I could hear the words. I could feel that feeling in my stomach getting tighter and tighter, feeling even a little bit sick, even smell it, taste it. And it was going over and over like a reel that wouldn't bloody stop. But the thing is, that reel got worse and, worse. That's really weird when you look at it back now, that's really weird because I wasn't anywhere near it. Have you had something like that too? Maybe you're a bit closer. But, you know, it is something that just happens in our mind. And we do, don't we? We make up the very worst scenarios that will never, ever, ever, ever, ever happen in the world. But they're so clear, so real in our mind, because our imagination is absolutely bloody brilliant. We have the most wonderful skill of imagination, imagineering, yet we tend to use it in the wrong bloody way, don't we? To scare the shit out of ourselves. And, I had to do something. I knew I had to do something. There's one thing I did have to do. First of all, I wanted. Well, we all know. Well, do we all know, Paul, we can surmise the positive intention, because behind every behaviour and a behaviour is a thought, an emotion behind that positive intention, or the positive behaviour behind that behaviour is to be prepared if something's going to happen. My unconscious mind, my best friend, was going to prepare me like hell. It was going to give me so much preparation, so many different scenarios, so many different things to do. So, And, it span out of control. And I couldn't be prepared because I was in overwhelm, because I was just now worried, anxious, thinking of every. When I think about it now, stupid thing that could have happened. But here's the first process I knew. I knew. I knew from all my experiences, all my learners, I had to get some respite. And I could, you see, it was in my face, literally in my head. The movie in my head was actually right out in front of me, right suffocating me as it was. I couldn't see anything. So what do I have to do? Well, I'm too close to it. So I decided with all my skills, and you didn't need any, really, to push it away, to push that picture away, push it away from me. And you can, when you think about it, and all you have to do is go push it away. And as you push it away, guess what happens when things go to the distance? They get smaller. They begin to shrink. And if they don't shrink it fast enough, you can actually, in your mind, I'm gonna shrink that even smaller and smaller. And as it gets smaller and darker and further away, it actually gets darker. Jumped in there. As you push it further away, it gets smaller, and you shrink it, and it gets darker, it gets out of focus, the sound. You can turn it off if you want to. And this is what I did occasionally, when it kept coming, I changed the voices into, like, a sexy voice. So this, person had this sexy voice who was confrontational. And it just gave me time to breathe because I knew now it was over there. And, when you push it over there, out of your vision or, out to the side of your vision, way out there, smaller and darker, even with the sound off or just weird, it gave me time to think.     The next time anything starts to give you anxiety, acknowledge it   And, one of the thoughts I had was what, in reality was the worst that could happen. And I thought about it and I thought, well, I wouldn't let everything I've thought about happen. I just wouldn't let it happen. I'd keep a distance. I decided how I'd wanted to feel, to act. So I'd act calm. I might have to match and mirror a little bit, but bring it back to calmness and just notice what happened. And I noticed when I did that I could see a successful ending. I could see it just petering out because really, it wasn't going to happen anyway. And if it did, I knew in my heart, really, that I'd blown it out of all proportion. And there might have been a few words, but in the end of the day, there were just going to be words. Nothing more than that. Especially if I stayed calm, aware, and just that's it, really standing my ground, being confident in myself. That's all I needed to be me. And as I did that, I'm, seeing that successful ending of it just disappearing. And it was just, well, it gave me that respite. And so whenever I was walking along or doing something and that picture came along, I just pushed it away, saw that successful ending again, how I wanted to feel. And I got, on it gave me that time. It was like a pattern interrupt. Because every time it came, I pushed it away, and it interrupted that blooming pattern, turned it off, interrupted that pattern. Great thing to do. And in the end, your unconscious mind goes, actually, he's thinking of a better thing. He's actually safer over there so that he's prepared. I'm trying to get him prepared, but he's actually prepared, and it will disappear. And guess what? Guess what? And yours most probably will be the same as mine. It never happened. It really never happened. That situation never happened. It didn't come anywhere. It just never, never, never happened. Actually, right in my nose. Ff's you can m make that. You know what that means, if you know what it means, because it just never happened. And that when you do, that gives you more confidence. The next time. The next time anything starts to give you the anxiety, maybe starts to give you panic, fear, you can acknowledge, just acknowledge it saying, okay, I know what you're trying to do for me, but let's just get a bit of space, because this overwhelm isn't protecting me. Let's find a better way and, push it away. Turn the sound off. Make it dark, small over there. And just how would you like it to be? What's, in reality, the worst that could happen? And how would you like it to be? Because then you can mitigate, because don't make it any worse than it is, because this is now you've got space, the likelihood, and then mitigate m it by how you'd like to be, how you're going to change it. See the successful ending. You do that enough times, and you don't have to do it many, your unconscious mind will choose to say, well, actually, this is better for me. This is better for him or you. Her, she, your best friend, will help you. Now, that's amazing, because that's all I did for that particular thing. Didn't do anything else. I felt better. It didn't bother me anymore. And, when I returned to, to my home, as I said, it didn't even happen. So what a waste of worry that could have been. I could have been worrying for weeks, because it was about two or three weeks before I got back. I could have been worrying and anxious and making it worse and worse. And what would that do? It would just make everything, it wouldn't be good for me. It wouldn't be good for the people around me, and probably wouldn't be good for little old planet Earth, pushing out all that anxiety. But the change was so good, so good for me. Therefore it was so good for other people around me because we got to enjoy each other and little old planet Earth got to have those vibrations. But that's only one way. That's only one way.     Abe: Having social anxiety can lead to anxiety in social settings   And I know I pack a lot in and I want to pack a lot in, but I want to show you one more way, share with you one other way. Because that was like a fictitious one. It wasn't fictitious in my mind at the time. It was, it could have been a reality, but it didn't. I prepared for it. But there are some things that you know are going to happen. You know, you might have in your diary that at a certain period in the day next week, this week sometime, you're going to have a meeting. It's in the schedule, it's in your diary. Or you could have an interview maybe, or you're going to meet somebody. It doesn't have to be confrontational, by the way. This could be slight social anxiety. Haven't heard that word for a long time, have we? a few years ago, that was the buzzword. Hey, I've got social anxiety. But it might be social anxiety. Having anxiety in social settings. Now you know it's going to happen. You're going to meet those people this evening, you're going to have that interview, you're going to meet that person, you're going to have whatever, it's a meeting. You gotta stand up and prepare something or present something you prepared. And guess what? We can end up doing the same thing, can't we do the same thing in our bloody head, make it as worse than it could ever be and then double that, Cause that's what we do. And then we scare the shit out of ourselves. All in that wonderful intention, positive intention to prepare. But because of all that anxiety, that fear, now we can't prepare properly, can we? Because if we prepared properly for that situation, it wouldn't be a problem, would there? Because we would be prepared. We'd able to know all the resources we wanted, we'd able to access them, we'd know what's going to happen. Maybe a little practice, but sometimes practice, You could just get to see the bullet points, the final things. That doesn't happen or it may not happen. So if it did happen, not the worst scenario, but if you did have this thing to do, you know it's going to happen. It's a definite, the only way it's not going to happen is if you go sick. You call a sickie, you swerve it, and we're not going to do that because we don't need to do that because we're better than that. I, know you're better than that if you have this type of thing. So again, let's just acknowledge and thank our unconscious mind, our best friend, not for scaring the shit out of us, but for trying to protect us, trying to prepare us for the worst. But let's just acknowledge that this feeling we have, this maybe overwhelm, this worry, this anxiety, this panic, maybe the sleepless nights, just acknowledge to your unconscious mind, I know you're trying to do something for me, to help me, to protect me, but it's not working. This is not appropriate. So let's change that. Just ask your unconscious mind, you could do if you want to, Abe, do you want to look for something better that would help me better, that would say that keep me safe, better, maybe produce a really good outcome. And, if you've got a best friend like that, it's going to say, yeah, I'm going to listen. Because if something I'm doing for you is not working, and I'm your best friend, and I really got to keep you safe, I've got to listen, haven't I? So this is what we do. So first of all, and if you could write this out, it does help, but you don't have to, you could do it on the fly if you haven't got time. But if you're thinking about it and it's something that's going to happen in the next day or two or a week or so, write it down, because it will get, once you get it out on paper, you're getting that dissociation, you're getting it out there. It's out of you into onto that paper. So how do you want to feel in that situation? How do you really want to feel? Just think about it. You know what would be the most appropriate emotion for some people? It might be just, I want to be calm. I want to be aware of what's happening. Awareness is a great thing to have, because if you're aware, then you can access the skills that you need. Because you're aware. You're not jumping here, there. I'm just aware. Maybe you just, well, those times when I've been really in control of myself and I have been able to access all that I need, say there's some information there, I want to communicate something with somebody. Maybe there's times when I just want to be able to communicate, find that connection. And you see, when you start to do that you write it down, you will think of times in the past when you've been maybe calm. You've been, you've had that awareness, you've had that control in yourself. You've been able to connect and you see as you do that and you just remember it visually or become aware of that. Memory doesn't have to be visual sometimes it generally is. But if it doesn't, it's just an awareness. Your unconscious mind has to connect to that feeling too, doesn't it? Can't not. And it's going to start comparing, well, calmness, awareness, control, connection, and compare that to overwhelm, worry, anxiety, panic. Well, it's now going to say, well, I can actually see which one's going to work, isn't it? But I say on the fly, you could just go through that and feel it.     Some of it is just, uh, breathing. Because breathing always helps   How would you like to behave now when I say that, what behaviors would you like? Some of it is just, breathing. Because breathing always helps. So I'd like to breathe easily, effortlessly, just be there. Because when we panic, we breathe up high, don't we? And everything gets faster. The pitches in our mind go faster. We can't. And that's sometimes why we can't explain ourselves to people, because we're trying to, to explain the pictures in our mind, but they're going so bloody quickly that we can't. But when we just relax and become, we can then become aware. So we breathe just a little bit, just a little bit more deeply. And you can practice that sometimes. But just think about it now. How would you like to breathe? Now, some people say, I want to be relaxed, but sometimes relaxed is too much. So maybe you just want to be relaxed and alert, which is that awareness, I guess, as well. Now, the other behavior I want is that access to all that I need to know. Because I know you have a myriad of experiences, a myriad of skills, a myriad of everything you need. Maybe you just want to behave in the way that how you talk, talk easily, comfortably, eloquently, accessing all the words you need to have so it's smooth. You're not stumbling over your words. So we're not going to talk about what we don't want, though. We're going to say, I don't want to stumble, I don't want to do this. No, I want to talk easily. I want to talk smoothly, eloquently. I want to talk at a pitch. I want to change my pitch, my tone, so it gives it life, gives it a melody. I've been listening to, I can't remember the guy's name now, but he talks about speaking with a melody, and it sounds brilliant. So you start to think about those. And as you think about those, if you think about just thinking about how you would talk with a memo, with a melody, automatically you start to think of your voice moving and creating wonderful resonance. You can't help but do it. You have to do it. And your unconscious mind is going, bloody hell. These are all skills that are going to make things so much better. And then you think, well, what belief, I don't know why I said it like that. What belief would be best to support you? Things like, I've got this, I'm good enough. I'm good enough to be here. I deserve to be here. I'm going to share what I've got because it's good. So you can think about that. You might want to write those down, too, because they're great. Now, here's the thing. You may have been doing that with me right now. Maybe you've got something you're thinking of in, it's going to happen in the next day or so. So you've probably been thinking about this scenario and these type of things. So here's the thing. If it's okay with you and you've got nothing else to do, nothing's gonna, you know, nothing needs your attention. Because basically, I want you to close your eyes in a minute because I want to go through this with you just gently. So if you weren't thinking of a situation, well, think of a situation now, and it could be one in the past that you want to change. Okay? So, so we can learn from it. Because if there's a situation, say, well, I haven't got a situation right now, but if this situation that happened in the past was to happen again, I'd, like it to be different because I know I was doing it again. I'd start to worry because it didn't work well. Don't know why I whispered then, either. So here's what I want you to do again. If nothing needs your attention, I'm gonna ask you to close your eyes. It's just visualization of a sort. Visualization is either 2020 vision or just an awareness and everything in between. So you can't, you can't not visualize. So here's the thing. Think of that situation you're, you want to be able to be successful at, or a situation in the past where you'd like to change it. So for if it happens in the future. It'll be perfect. Not perfect, it'll be great. Bring it to mind. And close your eyes. And as you close your eyes, take a nice breath. Let's think about that breathing. Let it out. And gently. Just breathe. And I want you to see that scene, the scene that's either going to happen or the scene that did happen, but I want you to see it dissociated, which means it's over there. You're seeing yourself over there in that scene through your own eyes now. So it's like you're watching a movie of yourself, of that thing that happened or you imagined to happen, how you want it to be. And I, want you to see it exactly how you want it to be. Remember if you wrote it down, but how. See yourself feeling the way you want to feel. Calm, aware, controlled, connected. See yourself over there behaving the way you want to behave. Breathing, relaxed and alert. Having access to all you need to know to be able to talk easily, effortlessly, eloquently, and having that wonderful just way of talking. Now just remember. And that belief, see yourself over that being just the way. Because that belief that you've got this, this is yours, you have a right to be here, to do this. See yourself with all those skills, all those resources, being just the way you want it to be. And maybe as you do that, you can be able to feel those inside yourself. Now, as you look at yourself over there and notice how those, if there's other people involved, notice how they act to react in accordance with the way you want it to be. Because of the way you are over there. And when you think it's about right, it doesn't have to take a long time. We're probably nearly there already because it's the essence that we want for your unconscious, mind.     Imagineering that you could flow out of your body right now into that   So now I want you to imagine another imagineering on top of this. Imagineering that you could flow out of your body right now into that. You over there, you're in that city, looking through your own eyes. Being there, you're fully associated. You're associated to those emotions, that calmness, that awareness, being control, connecting, or whatever you, you want to have. Remember those behaviors. You're now feeling them. Now you're breathing. Feel that breathing. Feeling how relaxed you feel, how you are alerted, accessing all you need to know, being able to talk so easily, eloquently, changing your tone. Notice that belief you have. Feel that belief right now. So you'll see what you'll see, hear what you'll hear, feel everything about that you might even have the spell and taste of success. And, as you're there, say, with your inner voice as you float back to yourself, this or something better, because we always float back into ourselves because this is where we live in ourselves. And imagine that scene floating off into the multiverse of universe exactly the way you want it, maybe just dropping itself into the future just when it's about to happen and it just dissolves into your future timeline. And notice if you do that, you could probably feel the time of your future realigning itself with all these wonderful changes. And literally, you can look forward to it now, forward to your future. And if there's any preparation you need to do to make sure you've got everything you need, you can now prepare, prepare with that belief. I deserve this. I'm going to do this. And then open your eyes and think of what you need to do. What are the few steps? Because there will only be a few steps because you've got this. You wouldn't be going to do it if you didn't have this. Maybe there's nothing other than to do then maybe just imagine it again or just feel those feelings again. Maybe think of times in the past when you've had those skills, those resources. And guess what? The whole point of this is. It's not complicated, it's simple. Doesn't mean to say it's always really, really easy, but it's as difficult as you want to make it, and it's as easy as you want to make it. And, then there, you say to your unconscious mind, the choice is made, we're going to do this and we're going to do it well. Allow, them to be so, and you might even just think, and here's a real good kicker, just come to my mind. You might just want to think when I go through that event in the future, when I actually go through it and it becomes the now and it's that successful, just wonder what new opportunities will come my way. What new opportunities could you, my unconscious mind, notice for me so they become the focus of my attention there. Was that good? I hope it was good. I hope you enjoyed that. You never know. Might do a hypnosis one of this, I hope hypnosis track. Where do you get them from? Paulcloughonline.com podcast. There you go. We've got loads of them. Might add to the list with something like this. Have to let me know. Let me know if you, if that would be appropriate. Not appropriate if, that was something you you'd like to have. Now, you see, this is, as I say, following on from a little bit from the last podcast, because this is in some ways the antidote to fear and anxiety. It's not the only two. There's more, there's so many more things we can do, but these two just work really well. And that was a true story, by the way. It's exactly what I did. And now you can just go, well, now I'm ready to act. I did think that you might feel relieved, but I didn't want you to feel relieved. I just want you to feel confidence, confidence, your competence. We'll always learn more. And the most important thing about this, and I had to think about this, what is important about these two processes? What is important about the things I wanted to share with you? And the most important thing is it just simply works. Because it just works. They work, and it doesn't take years. You don't have to go back to the root cause of all your anxiety. You do sometimes if it keeps coming up, and we all do, you know, you do therapy on this stuff and it doesn't have to be long therapy, by the way. We can do therapy and, we do more processes, get our unconscious mind to learn, learn from the root cause of it. But on these things, what come up and just blindside you sometimes? Well, you've now got, another set of resources. So bookmark this, listen to it again, get it in there, make a few notes. Not many notes to make, really, is there? So you can remove anxiety, fear, all that blooming stuff, overwhelm, panic. Because m the thing is, everything we've talked about, the things you were thinking about were not real because they haven't happened. And now, because if you do this, it won't, it'll happen in a different way. There you go. I hope you enjoyed that. I really do. I enjoyed saying it or saying it. Sharing it made me relive a few things, and I didn't relive the, the panic because it's no longer there. I relived what I did and how it, how it felt to be able to do that. And that's a good feeling too, by the way, knowing that you've just learned another skill. But, the thing is, let's go back to skills. You might even say, some people might even say, oh, I know all about this, Cloughie. I know it. Okay, if you know it a bit like me, I knew it, but I didn't always apply it. And mastery is the application of what you know, and, knowing what you're applying, that's a weird way of saying it. Clavy is knowing what you do and doing what you know so you don't have to know a lot, but do what you know and then know you're doing what you know and then learn a bit more. And as you learn a bit more, do what you know and know what you do and keep it going. Increase that skill set. Life gets so much better that way. And it's a great adventure to keep learning, keep finding these new ways. I love it. I love it. I'll keep sharing with you. I'd love your feedback on this or any, of the other episodes. Just please, just please email me m feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com.     let me know your thoughts. Can I improve it? I'd love to improve everything I do   let me know your thoughts. Can I improve it? I'd love to improve everything I do. Hopefully, if you go back to the very first one, you'll notice a huge difference. But if there's anything I can improve or anything you'd like to like me to share, find a process, explore with you ways to change, because we're going to do it easily, effortlessly and comfortably quickly, because that's what we do and making it permanent. So there you go. If you see anybody who you know has talked about being anxious about things, worrying about things, hey, share this episode with them if you can. Share it verbally. When I say share it verbally, share what you know, because if you can explain this, you'll realize that how ah much you've learned. If there's a gap in your learning and you can't quite explain it well, then you can come back and learn that a little bit more to get it in the muscle. But also share them the episode, if you would. And if you're new here, you enjoyed it. I'd love you to subscribe if you want to leave a little feedback, but I found out lately it's very hard giving reviews. 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Making Life Richer at a Pace When we rush and tear, hurry and hustle. always moving on to the next big thing we miss out on something very special. There's another way to get there, probably quicker, certainly easier and guess what? we get to experience that SPECIAL.. I'll explain it all in a short story and you can make us your own mind, I think I know which way YOU will choose..   Please share so everybody else get to experience it too https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-452-making-life-richer/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Mental Health - It's All In The Mind Let's take control In this thought-provoking episode, we delve deep into the realm of mental health, exploring the nuances of anxiety and fear. This episode is designed to challenge those who may be stuck in a cycle of anxiety and victim-hood, while offering genuine solutions for those who are ready to take control and make a change. I address: The difference between genuine anxiety and those who use it as an excuse. How to break free from the cycle of fear and anxiety. The importance of not wallowing in past traumas and instead focusing on the present and future. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, you'll discover: Why acknowledging your fears is the first step to overcoming them. How to visualize a positive future and use that vision to propel yourself forward. The power of small, actionable steps in transforming your mental health. I'll also emphasize the importance of seeking one-on-one help if needed and offer resources like my 65 NLP and hypnosis tracks to assist you on your journey. Join me as we explore how to reclaim your mental health and become the person you truly want to be. Remember, it's all in the mind, and with the right mindset and tools, you can overcome any obstacle. And...... After maybe you will want to share this episode with others: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/398-mental-health-its-all-in-the-mind Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism This episode is about mental health. Have a listen after this   Hey, what's this longer podcast about mental health. It's in the mind. Well, for one thing, it might upset a few people. Those are the ones who claim to be the victim of fear and anxiety and get other people to run around with them years and years and years and years, and everything's against them. It's also for the people who genuinely fear, have, ah, fear of anxieties and how we can get rid of it. Okay? Because it's all, in the mind. If it's in the mind, we can change it. Have a listen after this.   Hey, my friends, this is about mental health. This episode is about mental health. And it's all in the mind. And it may, it may just upset some people. And if it does upset some people, then good, because they might just change their bloody mind. Because I see, I see genuine, genuine anxiety. People having real fear and doing something about it. And my hat goes off to them. I, support them in everything they do. But I also see people who want to be a, victim of bloody anxiety. They love it, they wear it with a badge of pride. I hear of people being off work for a year because of anxiety. Bloody year. What have you done in that year to relieve yourself of anxiety and get yourself into a comfortable, proper place? Because it doesn't take a bloody year to fix anxiety unless you wallow in it or you use it as a badge, an excuse. And I think there are people who do that. I think we've all heard about them, read about them, and I really question that, and I hope you do too. So if this offends you or offends some people, I don't think it'll offend you because you're listening. And we're going to go into this really deeply. I don't know what to do about it because you don't have to, you don't have to live in those dark times. We've all had dark times. Well, I know I've had dark times, real ones. And they're the pits. They ache. You constantly keep thinking and thinking and thinking. You've got that worry going on. You, you just keep mulling over. It's in a loop. The sounds and the. You make up voices. It feels terrible. You even smell and taste everything that's likely to go wrong. But the thing is, it goes, it goes, those immortal words. This too will pass, because everyone who's had a bad time, but generally everyone can look back and go, well, it was a bad time then, but I've got over it. I'm sure if you look back now, you've had some bad times, but you're here now. Sometimes you have to deal with those bad times a little bit more because they haven't quite gone. The echo is still there. And that's what we're here for in personal development, unplugged to give you strategies, processes to help that. And for some, for some, those dark times, those anxious times, those unconfident, fearful times can be their greatest story. And yes, you could use that if you wanted to. And if you wanted to, there is a case for exploring, exploring that darkness. Because when you explore it, you get to understand the light, but m you explore it at a distance, you don't let it go back there again and relive the sun again. What's the point of doing that if you do that? Reliving it as you were in the past back there again, seeing what you saw here and what you heard. Yeah, just feeling it again and just reinforcing it. And that's balls. But if you can look at it at a distance, which is what we do in hypnosis, get your unconscious mind to look at that, that event at a distance, to learn from it, to shed light upon it. And, when the light comes, you can see what you need to learn to, because that's all it is. You need to learn. But the main thing is it doesn't take long. Talked about that so many times and I've talked about how long does it take? Does it take years and years and years of therapy? Oh, forgive me, a break, for goodness sake. You see, when you do that, when you take years and years and years and years and years, and I've talked about it, I think at least three times in the past. That is living in the past. It's spending time reliving the past. It's looking bloody backwards all the time. and if you're looking backwards all the time, which direction are you going to go? Well, it ain't bloody forwards, is it? It's not even stationary. Because you're looking backwards, you're reliving all that crap, that shit, that horribleness. We don't need to. We can very sensibly acknowledge how bad it was. How bad it was. And when you do that and when you start thinking about those anxiety daydreams that you have, when you're making up scenarios, if you're going to make up scenarios, just make it as it is no worse than it is, because that's what we do. And I'm going to talk about this in another podcast, because I've got another podcast in mind that's going to help you actually deal with your anxiety really quickly. And I'm going to do quite a number of those.     Hypnosis helps you visualize how you want your anxiety to be   I think I just wanted to have this thing about people living in their anxiety. You see, if you do acknowledge, only acknowledge how bad it is, or, how bad it was, then you can use that to know what the light would be. The opposite. What would the opposite look like? What would it sound like, what it would feel like, so, you know, what it was in the past, or how would you like it to be now? That if you've got the skill to make up a hundred million worse scenarios than it ever was and ever will be, you've got the skill, m to imagine, to visualize how you want it to be and pour light on that, give that the brightest light, how you want it to be. And when you do that, you will get that feeling of being prepared to do whatever it takes, because that's all you need, that gumption. I love the word gumption. The gumption, the commitment, the resilience to do whatever it bloody takes. Because you're in charge, you're in control, you are there, right, right in the moment, and there's no secondary gain, which, if you go back to those other examples, sort of examples I gave, there's a load of secondary gain. Oh, look at me. I don't have to work anymore. Everyone else has got to come rushing around me, and I'm not to blame. Everyone else is to blame. Oh, look, everybody does things for me because I've got anxiety. I've got mental health issues. There's, so much bollocks, really is. I'm sorry for swearing, but it really is. No one should live with secondary gain because you're making everyone else look after you. Stand up. Stand up. Look to be to the way you want it to be. Shine the light of the opposite. Might not be exactly the opposite, but start off with the opposite of how it was to how you want it to be and say to yourself, fuck em, I've got this. Remember, we've done a podcast on motherfuckitude, and that's the type of attitude you want because you are now at. Cause you're taking responsibility. Yeah, you might still have anxiety, obviously, you've still got anxiety about things, but you've now decided, yeah, my unconscious mind is trying to protect me by giving me all this fear, anxiety to really make me prepare and protect myself and things like that, but it's overwhelming, and I'm not protecting myself. So when you visualize how you want it to be, you're saying to, your unconscious mind, your best friend, not this, but that, or not that, but this. And the thing is, when you have those scenarios, those ones you've been making up, the worst of the worst of the worst, well, guess what? The worst hasn't happened. And with a, very odd exception, especially in our, in normal, normal, normal, normal things, not the exceptional parts of the world, but normal, normal, normal, normal things, it'll never happen because it's just in your mind. And if you can picture the worst and exaggerate the worst, as I said before, you've got the skill. You've got a skill of visualization and an imagination, and no one can change that. No one can control that for you. So if no one controls your imagination but you, then picture what you want. So, but think about it. which would you rather choose to think about? The shit that's not happened, that's making you feel bad, or the stuff that you'd like to have and imagine doing it right now, which one would you choose? That was a little pause. That was a pause because I know which one you're going to choose. But when you do that enough times, imagining, visualizing the way you want to be, it's a great start. As I said, I'm going to do some more episodes on real processes. But that's just one great start to tell your unconscious mind which one feels more comfortable, which one is safer. And that's what it's trying to do, is keep you safe. Well, it's got to choose the safest, most comfortable option out of the two. All we have to do then, is find a few processes to help you get there. But that's the first process. Who can help? Told you before in a number of podcasts, get one to one. If it's really that bad, get one to one. Help. Go and see someone, preferably, in my opinion, a master hypnotist, someone who's bloody good at hypnosis, who's a master practitioner of NLP and timeline therapy. They will knock it out of the park for you, and they'll do it quickly, and they'll do it comfortably, and it's easy and effortless. One small step at a time. But that would knock it out of the park. You've got some hypno here. Where'd you get that? I'm sure you know, but if you're new here, we have 65 tracks of NLP and hypnosis processes, all on a separate webpage that you can access and download. All you got to do is go to paulcliffonline.com podcast and I'll send you an access, an access code and off your toddle. And just pick one, because you'll pick one and it will do something for you. It has to when you set the right intention. And that's just one small step. And if you just take, if you imagine that picture of how you want to be instead of that other old crap, how you want to be, and said to yourself, how quick would I like to have this to happen? How could this be better? I'd suggest that you write those suckers down because when you write them down, you feel them. So how could this be better? Well, if I was more comfortable, it would feel like this and, I'd have to imagine and feel it. And if I was more aware or maybe I was more relaxed or maybe I was more control and you could feel it. And, when you feel all that stuff and you say, I suggest you write it down because it's a good foundation, gets you to think, gets your unconscious mind attached to this new outcome to make you safe and, safer than it was. And then just decide if there was one. Stop. Well, I'll say that again, if there was just one small step I could do right now. One small step. Maybe it should just breathe gently for 30 seconds. Five in, five out. Maybe box breathing. Breathe in for five. Hold for five. Breathe out for five. Hold for five. And just do that for a few moments. That's one small step to centre your body, to get you just to relax, be in the moment. And then think of the following day. Next. One small step. And that's all you have to start to do.     Two simple steps can help you get rid of anxiety   And I want to tell you now, tell you now, I expect you to stumble because we all do. We all with the best intentions. Sometimes we stumble. We try to do a little bit too big a step or maybe get confused, or when we do too many steps and we stumble, and all we have to say is, fuck it. I'm getting back on. I'm getting back up. Because, here's the thing. Just say, I want me back, the real me, and I'm going to get my real me back. I'm going to do that. And when you do that, as I said before, you are taking control. You have become a cause. You are, now committed at cause to be the you you want to be. And that's it. So decide who you want to be and what would you need to be there, and just keep thinking of that and then decide. You can decide one of two things. You can decide to wallow in that pity or shine in the light and shine a little light on that anxiety, that fear, a little more each day, because as you do that, it disappears. And if you want to know what it would feel like, imagine this. Imagine going to bed tonight to sleep. And this night you have such a wonderful, wonderful, deep sleep. And as you sleep deeply, a miracle happens overnight. Just imagine that. Now that you've gone to sleep and you've woken up in the morning and it's such a wonderful, deep sleep, you're so. I, feel so good. And you realize a miracle's happened. What? Yeah, miracles happened. A, miracle's happened that all those fears, that anxiety has disappeared. How would you feel and feel that now? Feel it and, throw and push it into the future and say, that's what I want. That's the way I'm going to feel. Really feel it. Imagine that every day. Imagine that before you go to sleep. And, keep making those small steps because you've got this, my friend. You really have got this. And as I say, I've already got in mind what the next episode will be, will be a real simple, I think it's two simple processes to get rid of anxiety. So keep it like this. But I just want to get your mind totally fixated, as it were, focused on, now who you want to be, how you want to be in this world, how you want to enjoy things. Think of when you're in that way, what it would be like, what it would be like for the people around you, what would it be like for planet Earth, what opportunities will you get? What experiences will you have, what adventures will you go on when you have all that, whatever you want. I hope my intention was to one thing, say, fuck it, I'm sorry about that. And to say to yourself, I'm gonna do this. I want me. I want the real me back. And I have to say, the reason I wrote that down is because that was what I wanted when I was in the dark time. And I decided I didn't want the old me back because the old me was part of the problem. I wanted the real me, the real me with the values and all those wonderful skills and emotions and positive stuff, because I knew when I get that and got that, it'd be great. And the thing is, this is so important because no one else can bloody do it for you. So you can choose to be the victim or choose to be your own saviour, your own salvation, as it were, your own hero on your own hero's journey. Because it's not about where you've been and it's not about where you are right now. It's where and how you want to be. So I just want to tell you, you can do this. You can do this right now and you can keep doing it. And you can have and create that own reality where you are feeling absolutely wonderful with and doing all the things you want. And I know sometimes just, you know, in the past when you had that anxiety, you didn't think it was true, but it is. You can do all of this. So I hope that my intention has filtered through to you just a little bit. Maybe it's gone into your unconscious mind just a little bit to say, choose a better way. Choose a better way and start when? Now. That's right now. I hope I didn't offend you if I did. And that victim thing is there. Well, tough, because you can come onto this side. You can start taking responsibility for yourself and changing. Changing right now. Look forward to the next episode where there's a couple of processes, but I do hope that this has done a little bit for you, give you that little bit of inspiration, that little bit of courage. I've got you back. I, know you can do this. And if you know of anybody else's, you know, not anybody else, but if you know anybody who is suffering from anxieties and fears, please just share this episode with them or talk to them about it. Then let them find their way here so they, too can decide. Enough's enough. I'm gonna find a good way. I'm gonna get my real self back. so please do share, you know, and if you haven't pressed that subscribe button, why the hell not? Goodness me. Have fun with it. Only press it once. I think if you press it twice, you unsubscribe and that would be silly. But if you were to press it now, well, I think you might feel so good about that. Anyway, please do enjoy. Keep getting those five minute quickies in to give you something in the week, just to keep pushing you along, pulling you along, even have a look at the videos if you like. But please do send me some feedback, if you would. You know, if you are suffering from anxiety, if you are suffering from fear, just send me a little email feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com and I'll see what I can do for you cause I might able to tailor a process because if you're suffering, other people suffer from the same things. So please do send me that email. Just a short short email. Don't need loads and loads of content, just the salient points, the key points of what you're experiencing and how you would like to be. I need any more information, I'll email you back anyway on that. I'll email you back anyway. But if I might ask questions, you never know. It'll be good. 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The Red Pen Of Fear Or how to demotivate and the antidote In this 5-Minute Quickie episode you may be regressed back to school, I was when I recorded it and remembering what it felt like to receive back my homework slashed to bits with a red pen. I can remember how it felt and how I hated doing the next piece of homework knowing what was to come. Can you relate to this? THEN..... I remembered how my son Luke was encouraged to do well and he did. I'll share that with you and you may just see how we can motivate others and ourselves to do well and feel great! Please share so others may have the same experience: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-451-the-red-pen-of-fear/ Or if you want the video of this: https://youtu.be/v2LCcSX7AHA Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Selfless Service What It Really Costs The True Meaning of Selfless Service In this heartfelt episode, I delve into the concept of selfless service and its profound impact on our lives. What does it truly mean to serve without expecting anything in return? I'll share personal anecdotes and insights that highlight the essence of selfless service, from helping a stranger in need to the simple act of sharing a smile. You'll discover The real value of selfless service and how it enriches our lives. Why acts of kindness, big or small, can create ripples of positive change. How to cultivate a habit of kindness and make it a part of your daily life. Join me as I explores how these acts of kindness not only benefit others but also bring unexpected rewards to ourselves. This episode encourages you to reflect on your own experiences of giving and receiving kindness and to spread that positivity in your everyday interactions. Listen in and discover how embracing selfless service can transform your life and the lives of those around you. Please share as an example of our selfless service https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/397-selfless-service-what-it-really-costs   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough writes about selfless service in his new podcast   Here's your heads up to the longer podcast. It costs you nothing. What is it? It's all about selfless service and diving deeply into what it really is, what it really means, and how it can affect you and your life. I heard something about it and it just made me want to dive deeper into it. And I hope you'll come with me too. Okay. I get a little bit soppy, but hey, once in a while ain't bad, is it? So please have a listen after this. Come dive with me. Warning.   Too late. Personal development unplugged.   So how much does it cost? If it costs nothing, would that be of value to you? Funny story. I used to have a website for free hypnosis. Free hypnotherapy. And you'd have thought that would have get loads of attention, wouldn't it, in the area, because it was free hypnosis in, I think it was bournemouth or free hypnotherapy in Bournemouth. And guess what? For over two years, I got nothing. I think I had two inquiries. And, one of those inquiries, there was a guy there, he was so proud. He said, but I can't accept it for nothing. I can't afford a lot, but I will pay you what I can afford. Because it was then of value to him, because he wasn't paying nothing for it, or it wasn't free. That's weird. But that's like an aside, because a little while ago, it was quite some time ago, this story jumped into my head. And it's a story about me. I was doing some shopping and I'd parked my car into a multi story car park. And as I'm going back to the car, I'm walking up these steps to get to the top, and I saw this fella, young lad, sitting on the stairs, looking a bit down. He didn't really say much to me. He didn't beg, but he just really down on his luck. And I just said, and I don't know why, I never really do this, but I just said, are you okay? Just asked if I could help him. Are you okay? And he told me a story. Story how he was having problems. He was about to move into a new. A new, like, hostel. So it's just like a room. But he was really struggling because some of his money that he was doing hadn't come in and is having problems. And, you know, you get that feeling sometimes that this isn't just a story trying to get money. It was a true story. He seemed pretty genuine. Mind you, I get. I can get taken in quite easily, have done in the past, and, normally I just let it pass. I just go, okay, talk about it. But something got me. There was the look on his face, the. Either he was a very good storyteller, or he was telling the truth. And, I got that feeling. The feeling that this guy's pretty genuine. Pretty genuine, and he's down on his luck. And he said, I'm really struggling, mate, so I know you stopped by, but if there's anything you can do to help me, you know, I'm struggling, for that cash. And, for once, I never have cash on me. I never have cash on me, very rarely. But for once, I had five pounds on me. A five pound note, five dollar note, that type of thing. Five pounds. And I just felt compelled. I said, look, you don't do drugs, do you? Because, of course I can't. I can't afford drugs. But he said, no, I don't do drugs. I'm trying to get my job going. I'm trying to do this. I need that. So I said, look, here's fiver. Please use it wisely. And he thanked me, and I went on my way. And I didn't really feel I'd done anything special. It was just nice. And there's a little side note to that. I've been in that car park a number of times since then in that area, and I've never seen him again there. So hopefully that means he's not. That wasn't his pitch. But the question I was asking myself is, is that an example of selfless service? Maybe. Maybe. But selfless service doesn't necessarily mean giving money, does it? M. But certainly I wasn't getting anything out of return for that. He wasn't giving me anything. He wasn't doing anything. I got nothing in return. The only thing I got in return was feeling a little bit of hope inside me that I'd done something good. And the hope was that good would actually be real good. And there's nothing to do about bigging me up, because I very rarely do that. I don't like getting caught. But something changed that day, certainly for that man, that boy, or a young lad.     Cloughie: Selfless service is doing something for no return   But the other day, I heard another definition of selfless service, which really, really, I think, put it into real simple terms for me. And this person was saying, well, selfless service, you know, we talk about selfless service, is doing something for no want of return. But sometimes people do it saying, well, I don't want anything return. But maybe down the line like that, the work they do with creating connections, creating. I get the words right, Cloughie? Creating connections for your career. So you do something now. Do something now. I don't want anything. I don't want anything. But, you know, at the end of the day, you might get something back. There'll be some reciprocation, in, in that workplace. But this, this person was saying, well, imagine helping a child. Maybe they're in distress and you're comfort. You, you comfort them, you protect them. You just do something for that child. And it may be your child, it may be just a child that you see and forget all the things that go on about that horrible stuff. But if that child needs help, you would do that, wouldn't you? What about a friend? What about a friend? Maybe there's one down on their luck. Maybe if you asked and said, you know, how you doing? Are you really okay? And they finally open up and say, no, actually, I'm having a bit of a problem. I'm having a hard time. I didn't like to say anything, but, you know, if I could share. And you listen and maybe you're simply just giving that support. You're not giving them anything in physical terms other than support an ear, just to listen to them, allow them to speak, to be heard again, what are you in return for that? And again, both of those things that cost you nothing other than maybe time. What about a smile? Okay, Cloughie you're getting. But this is what. No, this is what this person, I think, I don't know if the person said this or I've taken it a bit further now. Just notice how that makes another person respond. It's infectious, isn't it? If you're walking along, very rarely, if you smile at somebody, they'll just smile back, even if it's not the biggest smile in the world. But if you make your smile big and you know that makes them feel good, doesn't matter whether they're down, whether they're feeling good, they will just feel good. And I know that because the other day I was wandering, wandering, wandering down the beach. And this lovely lady, she was riding a bike, and she's actually just come past me. She beamed at me. Just a lovely smile. And then she'd gone. Didn't even have a chance to say anything at all. She just smiled and drove on or rode on. It cost her nothing, but made me feel good, made me just feel. Oh, the world's a lovely place. That's a good feeling, isn't it? Or for some of us. What about, seeing an animal in distress or maybe lost, you know, panicking because it can't find its owner? We'd help it, wouldn't we, if we could? And again, that, animal can give you nothing back. Can't give you anything back. It cannot repay you. Well, they do, because with love. But you know what I mean. But we're not looking for anything. For our, a bit of kindness, I guess, for each one of those, you know, helping a child, helping a friend, a smile, helping an animal in distress. For each one of those, do you expect anything in return? Nada, isn't it? It's nada. Nothing at all. Yet you do it in a heartbeat, and it costs you nothing other than a little bit of time. And so what does that feel like? What does that feel like when you do things? Imagine, I know you've all done this. I know you, particularly. You specifically in the past. If you go back through your past, you've done acts of kindness. And I think acts of kindness are, this selfless service. Remember one. Now, just cast your mind back over the future. Back over the future. Cloughie. Come on, get it right back over your past. And as you maybe just bring one to mind, if you bring one to mind, you suddenly find others will start to not necessarily flood in, but you tend to just come in more easily. And as you find one, just remember that feeling. So remember that memory. Go back into that memory. Let it. Let it come into your mind and be there again, just for a moment. It was okay to do this, by the way. You know, if your attention is needed elsewhere, please go and do whatever needed. Come back. But just at the moment, just remember that act of kindness. And it may be you could always turn this around when you've been shown an act of kindness. So either one, and as you remember it, go back then to that time right now. See what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel that feeling. Feel that feeling. And as you feel that feeling. It's nice, isn't it? And have that nice feeling. Imagine taking your index finger, that's the one next to your pinky and your thumb, and just gently squeeze them together. That's all. As you feel that feeling of kindness, either kindness shown to you or kindness that you've given for no one in return. And as you feel that feeling, squeeze that index finger, the one next to your pinky and your thumb.     Imagine sending a feeling and a symbol out into your future   together. And as you do this, just for a moment, imagine what symbol, what symbol would pop into your mind right now to represent this feeling? Just let that happen. And a symbol could be anything, could be a color, could be a picture of something, could be maybe a memory of a friend, be anything, could be a word that just comes in. And as you think of that and that index finger and thumb are squeezing together, just gently, this symbol is getting attached and anchored to this anger. And I wonder, as you hold those two, that finger and thumb, together, imagine sending this feeling and that symbol out into your future. Don't know how you do that, but you can just imagine the timeline of your future that stretches way over there. And just imagine sending that symbol, this feeling, through every day of your future. Because wouldn't it be nice if every day you were, able to give an act of kindness, maybe receive an act of kindness, but have this feeling? That's all you'd want in return, isn't it? This feeling? isn't that interesting? You can do it so easily and then come back to yourself. Look through your own eyes now in your own body. See the world as it is right now. Because if you want to, you know, if you spelt your surname backwards for a moment and blink twice, maybe three times, and then squeeze that index finger, the one near your pinky and your thumb together, you get that feeling again, and that symbol will come to mind, and it just radiates out into the future. So what's the point of all this clavy? That's what I'm saying. Well, the point of this is imagine. Imagine your life with that feeling and the effects of it. What do you mean, the effects of it Cloughie? Well, you see, having that feeling will affect you, obviously, emotionally, because that's the feeling, a nice feeling. And emotions affect your physiology, because if you're feeling down, you feel down. The words are there, but if you're feeling kind, don't you feel for me it's fuzzy. A nice, fuzzy feeling. The world is good. That's me. Imagine the pitches you make in your mind. The world just gets nicer, doesn't it? Brighter. And then there's. That's the effects in you. In me. And maybe my behaviors are going to keep changing, and I'm going to make more memories and have more experiences. And the more experiences I have, the more I enjoy it, the more that feeling grows and the more I do it. But the more I do that, selfless service has actions that cost me nothing but affect other people too. The people I help, the people I smile at, the people I just take care of. Maybe just a kind word, a moment or two to listen, maybe just to ask, hey, how you doing? You never know. Whenever you want to, if you ever want to speak, I'm, here. Hey, how can I help? Opening a door. Open. I say that word. Maybe it's, opening a door for somebody or lifting something because they're having a bit of trouble. Just kind actions. You're never going to get anything back, but what a feeling. And in effect, you're just quietly going about your day, being kind to others. And the thing is, there's something else that happens when you do this. Because you tend to be known as that kind person. And that kind person is an example to others, and that's infectious. You infect. Infect? Yeah, you infect others and affect others with your kindness. And if that was to happen, and people saw that as an example, and it was infected, infectious, they might start each, day or in their day, going quietly about their business and being kind to others too, and infecting the whole world with kindness, we never know how far the ripples of change would go. And so that kindness will just keep spreading, multiplying, like pay it forward. You pay it forward to two people, and those two people pay two people. Pay it to those another two people. So you get another four, you got six, and then eight and six. It goes on and on really quickly, doesn't it? Exponentially, I think they call it. And, what a wonderful thing to do. It costs you nothing. You got nothing in return. Well, here's a kicker with that. The, law of reciprocity. Reciprocation, that's the thing. That's a kicker now, because when you're kind and you have this selfless service and you just go about your business, being kind, lending an earth selfless service, doing things for others for no one in return. The law of reciprocity comes and dollops and dumps a wonderful, great kite feeling on you. And you just get things back in return that you didn't really want, but you get it anyway, and they're all good stuff. Synchronicity seems to come along and go, here's something nice. Well, that's a coincidence, because there's another thing over here which is nice. Oh, I just seem to get lucky. I just feel good most of my days. And, even when problems come, some people come and help me. Maybe that's what happens. So even if you do it for no want of return. And that's what we do for selfless service. The law of reciprocity comes and dumps good stuff on you anyway. And hopefully this is something that we could all either lean into or learn to do more of. I know I need to practice it more. And the thing is, when you practice this type of thing, you get it in the muscle. And when you get things in the muscle, they become habits. And when you get this muscle memory, this habit of just being kind, isn't that a nice place to be? Now, squeeze that index finger and thumb together. You know that one near your pinky? And as you think about it, have that feeling. Come again, see that symbol, and know that your future, your future days are going to be blessed in kindness. There you go. Now, I, know, I know that maybe seem to be a little bit soppy or heard of being a little bit soppy, and I am a little bit soppy sometimes, but I think it's worth taking that effort because it just works. Take the effort to be kind. I know they say I've got to practice it more and more and get it in my muscle, but that change in me cost me nothing too, and creates so much more value. That change in you costs nothing and will create so much value in your world.     Paul Clough: Practice makes perfect, so practice makes muscle memory   Now, what did I want you to feel through listening to all this? Ideally, in my mind, I wanted to just create some thoughts, allow you to be thoughtful, maybe. And, as that seems to just go inside, you'd start to take action now, you might say, and I know you are, you're such a kind person. But we could always be a little bit more kindly, can't we? So it's practicing, because practice does not make perfect. Practice makes permanent that, muscle memory. And the more we practice this wonderful act of kindness, a little bit of soppiness now and again, I think it just gives us a real foundation of becoming that person we really want to be in the world, becoming the change we want to see in ourselves and others. And we go back to that ecological check. Is it good for me? Yeah, absolutely. Because it costs me nothing. I get that really good feeling. Is it good for others? Yeah, because I'm helping others, helping, the world, hoping little old planet work earth, just by being kind, by selfless service. So, going back to the end, how much does it cost? Well, it costs bugger all, doesn't it? So there you go, soppy Cloughie. Hope I've got you thinking. It got me thinking about this because I used to say things like, let's have selfless service. And it always got to me a little bit, a little bit glib, a little bit by rote, the thing that people say. And, we have to think about it, what it really is and how can I really do it. And there's not a lot to do, is there? You don't have to plan it, you don't have to have all these things in place. No, you just do it. You be it doing. And, being this wonderful person that you are, I've built you up so much now. That's enough. It's enough. Come on, let's get on. I hope you enjoyed that. It's a different type of, longer podcast, a longer episode. Maybe you want more. Maybe there's other things you'd like me to discuss. If there is, you know what I always say, please email me feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com do that comes to me and I'll answer you and we'll see if we can get things going with another episode or a process. I love creating processes or developing existing ones to match your needs. So, if you do that, that would be kind. Wouldn't cost you anything to email me, would it? A little bit of time and then we could help others doing the same thing. What else would be kind? Well, you know, doesn't cost much to share, does it? That would be kind, sharing this podcast. That would be nice. And if you did, because, and you don't have to share it, you can share it physically by pressing that share button, but just by talking about it, talk about what you knew, what you know, what you've learnt, maybe what you've been reminded of. Because this is like a big reminder to me. Cloughie. Get yourself in gear. You know what to do. Let's get going. Let's start doing it and be kind to yourself. Good place to start. I think that's about it. I know you've pressed that bloody subscribe button. You have, haven't you? Because that would make a big difference. It really would. So I'm going to be kind to you. In as much as I'm going to stop talking, I'm going to stop talking. Let's get on and, and let's give some selfless service to anyone who needs it and especially yourself. Okay? So until the next time, my friend, you go fly. M.   Warning you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

Connecting With Your Unconscious Mind I'd love to share with you a few ways I've found to connect with your unconscious mind. I've been struggling with this because I just want to get closer to me. It all came to me when I realised I just wasn't listening and just as the universe/multiverse kept telling me and I was missing it. And then it came to me or I finally listened to me but listened in a different way and that's what I'm sharing with you, in this 5-minute Quickie, all that I heard, felt and saw. I hope you find this interesting and try out the different ways we can connect and learn. If you do please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-450-connecting-with-your-unconscious-mind Don't forget or even remember if you want to see me in this recording catch it on YouTube here https://youtu.be/NdFCZAxE5iE Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

The Ikigai of Stretch: A New Process for Change In this special, longer episode, we're diving into an extract from a Q&A Zoom call with my son, Joseph Clough. Joseph runs a program that helps people let go of their core issues like anxiety and negative beliefs. We each host two live Q&A calls a month, where we answer questions and introduce new concepts to the program. This particular session focuses on what I call the "Ikigai of Stretch." We explore the concept of Ikigai, which means finding your purpose, and how it can be adapted to help you change behaviors and emotions you don't like. This episode includes a detailed explanation of the Ikigai model, a new fourth circle, and a process I've developed to help you move from your present state to your desired state. The episode concludes with an eight-minute hypnosis process designed to facilitate this change. Make sure you're in a safe, distraction-free environment before you start, especially for the hypnosis segment. Enjoy the journey! 00:00:00" This is an extract from a Q and a Zoom call I did for my son 00:02:20" Paul Clough says finding your purpose in life is key to success 00:09:16" I call it the ikigia of stretch because each one is a 00:12:31" How do I want to be? And, uh, you'll notice 00:18:23" Write down what you want in the world. What is that desired state 00:24:28" You could go to any stationery store and buy a plain book 00:24:49" Ask your unconscious mind what you would like to change about yourself 00:28:44" I ask you to describe what you want to change about yourself 00:38:18" Paul Clough says it's time to fly on your own https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/396-the-ikigia-of-stretch Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism This is an extract from a Q and a Zoom call I did for my son Hey, this is a different, longer podcast because it's an extract. It's an extract from a Q and a Zoom call I did for my son. My son, Joseph. Joseph Clough. He has a program that helps people let go of their core issues, anxiety, those negative beliefs. And he. He and I do a 1 hour long, at least 1 hour long q and a live call twice what? Twice each a month, where we answer questions and also bring in new stuff to the program. And one I did a little while ago was all about. I've called it the ikigaia of stretch. And I explained Nikki guy about that in the, q and a recording. But it's all about how I think with this new. This new. It's not a new process. I don't think so, but a process that I've sort of developed helping you to change from a behavior you don't like to something you do like, or a behavior you're not doing, and you want to do something stopping you and how to get on, to doing it. So this is an extract. The recording is a little bit wavy. I've cleaned up as best I can, so it's not too bad, but I think you'll really enjoy it because it's just another way, another process of being able to change easily and effortlessly. And at the end, I actually do. It's around about an eight minute, eight minute sort of hypnosis process. So if you're up for that carry on right to the end, just make sure you're. You're not driving. You're not needed. Needed anywhere. your attention is needed elsewhere is not a thing. Okay. Didn't make sense. But basically, you can only focus on this. If you need something else, you must go away and do that, because here's sort of hypnosis, so please enjoy. And at the end of it, I'll quickly wrap up. Paul Clough says finding your purpose in life is key to success This is personal development unplugged, with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity, there is genius. If I haven't spoken about it before, and I think I have, but I'm going to explain it again. There's a thing called ikigaya, which is, like, intersecting circles. An ikigaya came from, I believe. I'm sure I'm getting it wrong, but some type of japanese island somewhere where these people live for millions of years. Well, hundreds of years, no, 100 years ago. Linglo live long lives, and they live wonderful lives because they have this thing called ikigaia, which means following your purpose, finding your purpose. And when you find your purpose, you find exactly the thing that gives you the most zing in life, as it were. And the way I learned it, was there's three intersecting circles. So if you can imagine, and I can't do it on these screens, but if you can imagine three circles intersecting. So one, two, and one down there. The first circle is called the things I like to do. So these are just things I like to do. The next circle, beside that, is entitled the things I'm good at. Because sometimes the things we like to do, we can really like it, but we're no bloody good at it, but we just like doing it. But there's other things that we do that come, so sometimes they just come so naturally. We've worked so hard to make them come so naturally. They're really good at it. And we work so hard because you bloody like to do it. So you've got then the join between the two are the things what you like to do and what you're good at. The third circle is. And this is more about finding your purpose in life as maybe a business or, the way of making it in life is what are people prepared to pay you for? So the bit in the middle that puts them all together, the sweet spot is the things you're good at, the things you love doing and people will pay you for that is where your passion comes, or is. And when you find that, you get that. I don't believe it. You know, oh, I haven't worked a day in my life. You know, I just do the things I love. Now, you have worked. You work bloody hard to get there, but that's a sweet spot. But then this is the thing. I made a note yesterday, because I was talking to Joe about this, and we just having a little chat, and I said, this is what I'm thinking about talking about tomorrow. And he didn't know much about it. I said, oh, here we go. This is what it is. Within about a minute of us closing the call, he sent me a little note. Oh, look what I found. I found another step to your ikigaia. And the third step is a fourth circle. Yeah. Fourth circle is your fourth step. And the fourth circle is what the world needs now. Thought, wow. I put in my little book. So I was so pleased that Joe suddenly found something and felt so compelled to tell me about it, which made my life a little better, because I felt I've learned something from my son. He wanted to share it with me, which is my little bit of beauty in the world, but also it made so much more sense to me because I always got hung up with. This is really about finding your passion in business. But when you add what the world needs, you can even let that bit about what the world will pay you for get smaller. Because isn't that like the selfless service? Liking what you do, being really good at what you like and what the world needs. And, by the way, now and again you might even get paid for it. But you could get paid for it. Maybe in that law of reciprocity, reciprocal action, karma, you put out something good, you do something. What the world needs, you do something for no one to return. And Bam. The world will pay you for it. The universe will pay you for it without you wanting it. So that was Igaia. Now, I wanted to change that a little bit because I like thinking of how I can change things that work into something else. Because if they work, how can we adapt it, mould, it model it. So I started to think of, Well, I want to change. Maybe I want to change an emotion. Maybe I want to change it in a behavior. Maybe I want to change the way I think. Because if you something new. There's a thing called the communication model in NLP. Basically an event happens out there and you take it through your eyes and all your sight. I'll do it again. Your sight, your ears, your feelings, all your senses, smell and taste. You take these things in and you filter it. You filter it. Deletions, distortions and generalizations. And then all your values and your beliefs. And you got all these wonderful filters going on so you can understand what's happening in the world. And then they have, or they affect and become an internal representation in your mind. Such as having that little picture in your mind that you don't always know you've got because you're in it. And that internal representation has a little voice. And we've all got a little voice. And sometimes we don't realize we've got a little voice because we're talking to that little voice. Well, that little voice is talking to us. We're so wrapped up into it we don't realise it. But that's connected to your emotions, your state. And That's connected to your physiology. And When you get all those three together, there's your behaviours. So whatever you affect, if you change your behaviour, you will change your physiology, you will change the state you're in and you'll change the pictures and the voice in your head. But if you change the pictures in your mind, you will change the feelings and you'll change your physiology and your behaviours. They're just interlinked. Everything happens. And I thought, how can we use that? How can we use it in maybe just wanting to. I call it the ikigai of stretch, because each one is a I call it the ikigai of stretch, because sometimes, and I know this happens when people come to mind mastery, sometimes they're looking for that magic aha, moment, that big shift, the thing that knocks your socks off and what have you. Generally it isn't because it's like evolving. You're learning and learning and learning and changing and changing and changing until you effectively you're out the other side without knowing that you've having gone through it and you're in your new normal, because each one is a little stretch and a little more stretch and a little more stretch. So it's things that you can. Yes, sometimes it can be a little difficult, but you know that you're going to get through to the next one and the next one and you feel so good. So I started to think if I could put three circles together and use it as a change machine and the first circle would be the thing I want to change, call it our present state, as it were. So it could be maybe being triggered by something and you fire off an emotion, could be a habit you've got, or maybe it's a skill that you want to learn, maybe it's the emotion you want to get better at. It's like confidence, competence. Or maybe it's like fear that you want to get rid of. And it's not the big fear that we attach to all these core, core issues, it's those little fears, the little things that just maybe just put hold on you, hold you back for a bit. And so that was the first circle, where am I? What is the thing I want to change? The next circle, which is interacting with that one, is, well, some people just want to change. I just don't want this fear anymore, I don't want this anxiety anymore. I want to be confident, I want to be competent, all this thing, I just want to be. But we don't really go into any detail. So how do I want to be, in what context and think about, well, if this thing is triggering me to have fear, how would I like to be? Because sometimes you have to think about what would be the most appropriate resource, emotion and behaviour and skills to have instead. and it could well be, instead of being courageous, it could be something like being aware, just being aware, being able to connect, being able to be in the worlds of every person lately is be vulnerable. But how could be just a little bit vulnerable? Share a little bit. because once I've shared a little bit, because sharing a big bit was too much. But sharing a little bit, maybe that's just a way to start getting that more confident in ourselves, understanding ourselves and getting connection with others. How do I want to be? And, uh, you'll notice So we've got another circle now. So we've got to say, and it's more specific, how do I want to be? And, you'll notice in all of this, there's no why. There's no why do I act this way? Why have I got this fear? Why have I got this anxiety? Why am I getting angry about things? Why I've got these thoughts in my head? Because we don't want to know the why. Why just bring up all those excuses and beliefs that are just there to try to support. We don't want to know. We just want to know. Acknowledging. Acknowledging how we are. We're not accepting it, by the way, because if we accept it, to me, we accept it as being the truth. And it's okay. Well, actually it's not okay because we want to change, but we're acknowledging, well, that's how I am at this moment. At this moment because that's how I want to be. And this will be the effect. So it's not just saying I want to be less fearful. I now want to be more comfortable in this environment, this particular context. And this will allow me to be this and this and this. Maybe it'll allow us, in a career. Maybe this allows us to find a connection with people that we wouldn't have done before. So now we've got the two present state desired state and the effect of that desired state. And again, we're not even talking about the too much of the effects of where we are right now. We just know we want to change it. We know exactly what we want to change. The third one, that interlinks is the things I can do to change. And this is why I call it the stretch, because the stretch is how smaller steps can I make this change to be. So what are all the steps I could make? All the different things and resources. I've got all my resources. What are the things that are going to help me make this change and then finding the smallest one? Because again, we can have this wonderful acknowledgement of, yep, this is, an hour of my life I'm going to change. This is not serving me. And I want to change. And I know exactly how I want to be. I give an example of I'm totally unfit, totally unhealthy. Therefore I know the negativity of all of that. How do I want to be? I want to be fit, I want to be lean. I want to be doing this. And what opportunities are going to give me? Will I be out with friends? I'll be able to do this. I'll be able to join other groups. I've got all these wonderful things that are going to happen. What am I going to do then? What I'm going to do is starve myself and go to the gym 6 hours a day, every day. And the first day I'm going to run 6 miles on a treadmill. And I'm also going to row for 5 miles. And the next day you give up because it's too hard, too big, too far. Because we hadn't taken into account the number of steps it would take. We've just jumped to the end resource. But we need that end picture. That's the big picture. The big picture that we keep in mind while we're doing the smaller steps. Because that big picture, when you dive into it, if you could metaphorically dive into that, you in that desired state, that wonderful place, it would feel bloody awesome. And when you were there, looking through your own eyes, having got there, you'll be able to see all the effects it's had on that change, all the wonderful opportunities you're going to get. And so you've got a wonderful feeling. And we all know what we call that feeling. It's called the feeling of the wish fulfilled. And it feels bloody awesome. And that's why we tend to want to make that big jump. We get confused. We either get overwhelmed or we just get injured. And it feels horrible. It's too much. So we give up. And the worst thing about that is we can create a habit of doing that. And then we get a belief about ourselves, which is a totally bonky belief of, well, you know, I was never meant to be, I'm not good enough for that. People found me out and I suck at it, which is totally wrong. The only thing you sucked at is you made too big a jump. And it was just a, you know. And if we look at that, that's not failure. The first thing you look at, there's I got a result. It was the worst result I could think of. It wasn't the one I wanted. But I know what I can learn from that, which is take bloody smaller steps. Think about it. But holding that big picture in mind, the ultimate vision of that. So what I thought was, well, you can put all your resources in there, but now we could, now you could do this. And I do suggest if you want to do this as a process, you do it in handwriting. To start off with. To start off with. Because it's good to describe your present state. Because I like to get present states to be the most horrible present state you can get. Because that means you are going to move heaven and earth to change. Especially. The only thing about this is once you describe the present state as being probably the worst you can think of. Don't make it sillily worse. If that's a word, make it factual, but don't hide it. Let's be truthful about ourselves. For me, those things I've done, and, I've called myself a dick, and I know I was at that time, and that's something I've got to change. So I would write that down. Write down what you want in the world. What is that desired state But also you have to do the second part of this, which is how you want to be. What is that desired state, that desired behavior, that desired way of being in the world. You have to do both together. Because if you only do the negative side, life's worth not living. Oh, that's just it. Ah. Everything. I just carry on. Now we do the other one, you go, ah. Now I know what I want in the world, but I haven't. I've thought about it, but I've never written it down. Because, again, when you write it down, because if you write the negatives down, knowing you're going to change, you can realize how crappy they are, how silly they are, how they are no longer appropriate, that anger or whatever, or that fear is no longer getting what you want. It's not supporting you. And one thing, is it comfortable? Is it safe? Is it helping little old planet Earth? and is it helping other people? All the ecology. And the answer is going to be no, no, no, no. So now you know you got to change, and then you know which direction you're going to change. And it feels bloody good because when you write it down, you have to describe what it'll feel like. And when you describe what things feel like, you have to feel them because you can't describe them m any other way. You can't go, oh, yeah, I'll be happy. No, I will feel this way. I'll have this wonderful sensation in my heart. And I want to be, it's got to be beating. I'm going to be smiling. And it's going to be painful in my bloody cheeks because I'm going to be smiling so often. I'm going to be loving this bit of world. You have to. That means you relive it now you've got the motivation, the value. This is why it's so important to me. You get a top value. This is why it's so important to me. It's going to make me feel so good, so safe. It is going to be good for me. It is going to be good for other people. It's good going to be good for a little old, planet Earth because I'm going to do good stuff in the world. See how all ecology comes back in. Then you'd write down the things that you have available to you to change. So it could be here if we're changing behaviours or emotions, you go, well, I've got Joseph's, hypnosis tracks. I've got some of the modules for people who've gone through all the modules. You've got all the modules as tools now to be able to change. You've got q and a's here that you can keep asking people exactly what you want. So even though it may not be exactly to do with mind mastery, it is, because it's about you and what you want to do and how you can do it. You may have friends to support you, you may have books. You've got there's maybe old courses that you've been on that you can remember that. Ah, now it makes sense. It didn't make sense then. Now it does. Maybe you've got things like, I don't know where this came from in my head just then, but you've got the beautiful moments in life. You go, that's a great resource. If I start with the state of all the beautiful moments in life, and life is beautiful, life is wonderful, I'm going to be able to get to my desired state, a lot quicker than if I think life's a pail of crap or anything like that. So now I've got a direction, I know where I want, I've got the pull. All I have to do then is begin to think. Out of all of those, I now know where I want to go, I know where I'm leaving. I also know if I jump that far, I'm going to end up with a result, which is what I don't want. So Paul has said, pick the smallest, pick the smallest thing and you pick something. And then you ask yourself, is there a smaller step? Because we always, I'll tell you now, you will always pick the step which is two or three too big, even when you try to pick the smallest one, because we have this thing that we. Oh, well, let's. We have this thing. We have to make it tough on ourselves. Let's make it bloody hard. And, why would you want to make things bloody hard? If there's an easy way or a simple way, work it easy. Sometimes even those little steps take willpower, take a little bit of push, take a bit of looking at that desired state, getting that pull from that motivation, that value. But you find the smallest step and you put it in your diary, you put it in your day, I'm going to do it today. You're even going to record some of it, maybe in one of these saying, that was a beautiful moment when I did that one little step to move towards that goal, that change. It was a beautiful moment because I'm congratulating, the beautiful moment is congratulating yourself for carrying it out. And then you work out the next and the next and the next. And what happens is those small steps don't stay that small. This small step gets bigger and bigger. and you start, it's like when you go to the gym, you, can start to lift heavier weights. You can't in the beginning, or you can run further, run faster, you can walk faster, row faster, you can do anything. You can focus for longer because you're now training yourself towards that goal and what you might find. And here's the kicker. You're going towards that desired state and something comes along and goes, here's something better. Because what do we always tend to say, this or something better? Good old shakti Gawain comes, slaps you on the back of the head and goes, no, you can have something better. So as you're going along towards that goal, something comes a little bit better and you go, oh, I'm allowed to turn a little bit off because now I know I want to go over here because it's going to get a better result. Because if you've done a big, big jump, got overwhelmed and let it go, you've missed it completely. And what a shame you'd have to start again, but now we can do that. So that's something I would do, and I do do on, my puzzle book. I call them puzzle books, which is a book that I have that is all just my little problems or my little things I want to work out in my life. So I have this thing called a puzzle book. I actually sell them, by the way, if anybody wants to buy a puzzle book, I will sell them to you. You could go to any stationery store and buy a plain book But the thing is you could go to any stationery store and buy a book, a plain book. That's it. That's your puzzle book. Don't need anything fancy. You need to have a little one like this. So I don't sell them, by the way, you just buy them. But what we can also do, once you've done all of that, you've got all those things. We can actually just think about it before we jump in, just to make sure. Ask your unconscious mind what you would like to change about yourself And that's what I wanted to do today, really, to finish off with a little bit, a little bit of a process. So, and it's more, the process might, it might resolve something for you straight away. It might give you an idea what your smallest step is or it might hone, in on the desired state, your goal that you want to be, how you want to be. But it's more of a process just to get your unconscious mind and your conscious mind to get thinking of the steps along the way. So what is the thing I want to change? How do I want to be? What are the resources I've got and, what are the smaller steps I can take to get there? So I wonder if you have, if it's okay, something you like to change and it could be something really, really big, not the core issue you're on, in mind mastery because we've got that process and you're going to crack that. You're going to knock that out of the park. You're going to feel so good and you're going to keep telling us, but something that you'd like to either improve upon to change something could be big, could be small. And I want you just to, go inside for a moment and just notice and ask your unconscious mind. Now I've thought about this thing I would like to change. Just ask. And it's always good to ask this question before you do anything. Is it okay with you, my unconscious mind, to make these changes today and have an undeniable experience of it consciously and notice what you get and the answers you'll get is either yes, no, or maybe if you get a note, then you want to explore it further. Before you jump in, you're going to say, well, okay, what's the intention? And just work out, make sure it's the best thing you want. If you get a maybe, that's brilliant. I love maybes in all of this because a maybe says, I'm going to do it. But if I don't find it's a better way, then I'm not changing. And, why would you want to change if it's not a better way? But the thing is, we know it's going to be a better way anyway because it's a desired state you don't want and you're uncomfortable with, and the desired state is something you're going to be really good with and comfortable with. So it's a no brainer for me. The unconscious mind is going to, but it's not going to jump to it, which is what I like. I don't like unconscious minds. Goes, yeah, give it to me. Give it to me. Now, I want you to assess it. Just think about it unconsciously and then move forward. So once you ask that question, if you get a yes and a maybe, fine. If you get a no, pick another one for the moment and that will work out. And when you've got that little thing that you want to change or big thing, just get a different impression. What I'd like you to do, if it's okay, is to close your eyes because we're going to do this eyes closed. You don't have to, but it's nice to have your eyes closed because you've got nothing to distract you. And as I like to always do, I want you to take a nice in breath with me for the count of four. Hold it for the count of four. And then breathe out gently for the count of eight, all the way down. And feel yourself being drawn down. And then breathe normally, but in my normal way, making every in breath more gentle than the one before and feeling every out breath, drawing you deep inside, just a little deep inside where you connect with your unconscious mind. And because this is not true. Well, it is hypnosis, but it's not deep hypnosis because it doesn't need to be. You can go as deep as you want, or you can just be aware of everything. You're going to be aware of everything that's going to happen anyway because you are, consciously leading this. Now, this is where we're going to get conscious and unconscious. integration, guiding, setting your goal, the conscious mind being the goal setter. your unconscious mind being the gold getter. Joseph asks you to describe what you want to change about yourself and I want you to think just now of that first circle, the thing you want to change. And, just in your mind, you could maybe describe it, the way you feel, the way it makes you feel after the effect of it. For me, when I work with bits of anger, I get a little bit of grief after it, I feel sad after. So maybe there's the things that you feel after the event, the effects, but also in the moment. And Just describe to yourself how uncomfortable maybe it is or how it's not healthy because the negative emotion and negative belief is. Well it is unhealthy. Maybe you can acknowledge the positive intention, your unconscious mind trying its very best. Trying its very best. But the behaviours, beliefs and emotions are no longer appropriate because it no longer feels comfortable and its not what you want. So maybe just in your mind describe it to yourself, describe it to your best friend, how it makes you feel in the moment, post moment, the physical feelings. And then let it stay in that circle, that metaphorical circle. Leave all that description in that metaphorical circle and head on to the next one. How you want to be. So it's completely different now. The other one's over there. You are completely cut off from that. You've done your bit there. You're now in the desired state. How do you want to be when you've made the changes? So it's not how you're going to make the changes, why you're going to make the changes, but you've made the changes already. You might see yourself first, over there being the way that you desire. Maybe you're seeing yourself walking, talking, maybe in with people, communicating with people, doing that thing with ease as if you've been doing it forever. so natural now. And you may just then flow into that you and describe everything that you want, how you want to be. Maybe you want to be more calmer, maybe you want to be more aware. Maybe you just want to have more energy. Maybe you want to be more creative. Whatever comes to mind of you, choose. And please do not be an adult. Have that childlike quality of imagination and creativity where anything and everything is possible. Have it the way you choose now. And as you do that, notice how it feels. But also notice from this point onwards what will allow you to do that's even more better. Maybe you'll make better acquaintances, connect with more people. Maybe you'll serve the world better. Maybe your contribution will just go up, and up. Because when you do that it just feels even more better. Feels bloody awesome. Maybe m you see the effects on your family, your friends, your loved ones. And then notice how it affects yourself, your reaction to yourself, how much better you feel about yourself, maybe even how much you love yourself. That's maybe a big jump, but it's a big jump to make because you're here, you're in your desired state, how you want to be. So you're going to have that love, yourself and everybody else giving and receiving love, making a difference to you and the world and everyone else and feel that feeling. And now I want you to hold on to that feeling, just the feeling. And as you move away from that circle, we're going to move into that circle, which we call, the circle of stretch because each step will be a stretch because you're starting from that desired, from that present state, the state you want to change from. And you're moving towards, this feeling. Now, maybe just consider for a moment the skills that you have, skills maybe you're not using at the moment, but you've certainly got those skills. And those skills can actually be emotional skills too, because you've been, if it's calmness, you've been calm before. If you've been connected, you've been connect. If it's connection, you've been connected before. You've made a difference before, you've made people laugh before, you made people feel comfortable before. A bit like my qualities, all those wonderful things. You've got mind mastery here, you've got Joseph, you've got myself all as your support and knowing you've got all those skills, all those resources, you've got that wonderful set of positive beliefs about yourself, holding that wonderful feeling, that wonderful feeling of that desired state, the feeling of the wish fulfilled. Ask your unconscious mind what is the smallest step I can take today that will move me towards this wonderful feeling, this or something better? What is a smaller step, something that's so small that might even seem insignificant to me, but knowing as I build upon it, like a domino rally, getting bigger, faster, quicker, where the steps will get bigger. but what is the smallest step that I can take so when I do it, I can even record it so I can remember it forever and build upon it and just sit quietly for a moment and notice what comes to mind and take any judgment from it. Don't edit it, because this is your best friend. They're going to make this wonderful change with you and have an undeniable experience of it changing consciously and knowing that every step you take, this feeling of the wish fulfilled will get stronger and stronger because it's being triggered by the steps that you take and this feeling is triggering the steps that you take. So it's a wonderful loop. And when you have that little thing, that one step, I'd like you to commit to it. Think of a time when you can do it comfortably and commit to making that step. And then think about recording it later. And then when you've got that, you can open your eyes, come back into the room, m as they say, and notice everything around and just notice how you feel now, how you feel about that old state that you want to change that behavior and how you feel about the steps you're going to take. Okay, so I did. I do hope you enjoy that and you use that process. If you want to learn more about the, program that Joseph runs, it's josephcluff.com and it's called mind mastery. And it's a lovely program. And it's a program where you become what we call part of the mind mastery family, where you get supported along the way by both Joseph and I and everybody in the program. It's such a supportive place to be. We celebrate, we support each other, and people make magical m changes. It's not magic, but they make magical changes. So if you're interested, just hook up with josephcluff.com and have a chat with Joseph. But that's not the push for this. The push is for you to be able to make changes easily and effortlessly. And this is a nice little process to begin to do that. I do hope you enjoyed it. Please do. Share. Share everything you've learned here, if you would, and let me know if there's anything else you need, email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com and we'll see if we can get some more processes. We can either develop them, find new ones, get some old ones back out, and find ways that we can really change ourselves in wonderful ways. Okay? Paul clough says it's time to fly on your own So until the next time, my friend, it is time to fly. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged.

Simply Being Present In balance, centered and connected. Get these three things together we can be truly present. And if you could get them all in one simple way how good would that be? This follows on from a FMQ of about 4 years ago 'Making Perfect Footprints In The Sand' and I'll share this again with a little bit more that put you perfectly in the moment. It takes less than a minute and you can just be. I find this is a way to get into a 'no mind State', the 'Void' and if you were to be in nature when you do this you will feel being connected to everything. I really hope you enjoy this and maybe you'll find ways to make this even more deeper. Please share this special yet simple way that would be kind https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-449-simply-being-present/ Oh! And if you want to see the video here is the YouTube link: https://youtu.be/HyDjWksTHdY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Who Creates Your Reality If it isn't you - Then who? We hear so often that we, YOU, create your reality but id that really the case? Can you really create your own reality? That's what this 5-minute quickie episode is about, a simple muse at first to consider all the possibilities and maybe a few suggestions. Then maybe a longer episode to find processes to be in control of the effects we see, hear and feel. So come with me and sit down for a SPELL  'O) Please share:  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-448-who-creates-your-reality/ ‎ And if you want to join me on video: https://youtu.be/QIusLi6X5j4 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

How to Deal with Being Attacked: Part Two Welcome back to the second part of our series on handling verbal attacks. In this episode, we dive into a powerful yet simple process that can be done in minutes to help you respond to triggers more harmoniously. This technique, known as the Swish Pattern from NLP, will transform how you react to those triggering moments, making you calmer and more collected. In this episode, you'll learn:   How to identify the visual or auditory triggers that set you off. The steps to use the Swish Pattern to replace negative reactions with positive ones. How to practice this technique to make it a natural response in your daily life.   Follow along and practice with me, and soon you'll find yourself reacting in a way that is healthier and more beneficial for you and those around you. Please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/395-how-to-deal-with-being-attacked-part-2 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough: It's all about protecting yourself. In simplicity there is genius   Here's your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about protecting yourself. We don't want to get hurt, huh? We don't want to feel guilty. Our unconscious mind is going to protect us from all things and we get triggered to fight back. And what does it do? We feel hurt. we feel guilty. It's not appropriate. I've got two processes here which will help you change that triggered reaction of defending yourself and protecting yourself at all costs. And it's so much better. Have a dive into this. You'll really enjoy, I'm sure. Okay, have a listen after the next 10 seconds. This is personal development unplugged, with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity there is genius.     This episode is just with one process and it's so, so good   Okay, so as usual, I've been accused of putting too much into one episode and it being overwhelming. And because there are, two processes here, I've decided to split this episode into two. So we've got part one and part two. The second part will include a second process, and then you've got time to practice the first one, see how it works. Part of your, another part of your toolbox. And then in the next episode or the next part two, you'll have another process that you could do as well. You may choose one, you may choose another, or you can use either or both. That'll be real fun. So this episode is just with that one process and it's so, so good. And then I won't keep you hanging because shortly afterwards I'll issue the next episode, part two and we'll go into that second episode. Okay? So really enjoy and make a difference. Make a difference. The difference. That makes a difference.     Cloughie talks about how to deal with being attacked   So here we go. Hey, friend. Another, I don't know how long it'll be. A bit of a muse, a bit of a little honesty thing going here or talking about me a little bit maybe, I don't know. But it's all about how to deal with being attacked. You see it like boxing rings. They say, protect yourself at all times. And I think that's what our unconscious mind does, protects ourselves at, all times. Have you ever had this experience? You're going about your day, oblivious of what is happening around you. You're just getting on with stuff. And then you hear that voice in the background. Did you forget to do so and so? Why do you do that? Oh, look at this. And you think, is that a comment? No, you don't think that at all. You think that's an accusation, that's an attack. Someone's attacking me for stuff. And, I'm gonna hit back with a couple of randoms of my own. Yeah, well, and you and this. And what about. Ow. Have you had that before? When you see things and all of a sudden you snap, you're triggered, you fire. And it is that, not, what's that thing where you have to look, aim, fire. Or is it. Was it a steady aim, fire. Steady aim, fire. But this is, this is fire, fire, fire. Oh, there's no aim, is there? And there's certainly no steady. Already ready. whatever that is, whatever it is, there's none of those other two. It's just firing randomly. First of all, I have to ask a question and I ask this of myself. How's that working for you? Cloughie, and you go, well, I did fight back and I didn't get hurt, huh? Yes, you did, because it wasn't nice, was it? It wasn't nice because things spiral out of control, don't they? You know, you get tone of voice sometimes, okay? That tone of voice is saying something about me, about what I've done, about what I haven't done. Or it's that look. Whoa. Oi. Don't look at me like that. I haven't done anything. Attack back. Attack back. So you always got to remember that line I started with. Remember, defend yourself at, all times. Sometimes it's like that. Hit first, don't wait. And then guess what happens now, have you been here where you. Someone says something. When you look back at it now, pretty innocuous. It's pretty, it's about something very, very mundane. Maybe, you left something on the side or you didn't quite do that, you forgot to do something. It isn't a big deal when you look back now, but at the time, it was an attack. It wasn't a front on you personally. And that argument, because you hit back to protect yourself, to give you that defence, and you carried on hitting back to make sure you never got hit, that argument spiraled to m all parts of the globe, you know? And if you think about. If you took each one of those individually, you'd notice that had nothing to do with it. It wasn't anything to do with that comment in any way, shape or form.     Your unconscious mind has to protect you in all ways, shapes or forms   Now, have you had that situation or is that just me? I hope it's not just me. Well, I do hope it's just me, but I know it isn't. I think I've seen it so many times and I've been in it so many bloody times. This is one of my pet things that I work on. And I know why and I know how. And I. You know, when I say I know why I don't want to. It's not the why that I get up with some limiting belief of, People have always attacked me. I've got to look after myself. I can't do this. I can't do that. Just in case there's a positive intention. That's the why you've got a best friend inside your unconscious mind that has to protect you in all ways, shapes or forms. Doesn't want to get you hurt. Doesn't want you have that feeling of guilt, maybe. And it uses all forms of defenses. But the thing is, as an intention, what a wonderful thing to have your best friend looking. Has got your back, hasn't it? Got your back, front, sides, up and down. Protecting you every moment of the day. And that's so honourable. And I like to honour my best friend. I like to honour your best friend, your unconscious mind for doing what it's doing. Trying its best to look after us, look after you, look after me. But the thing is, that behavior now is no longer appropriate. Because if you think about it, if someone says something, were they really trying to attack you? Really, honestly, truly? Come on. It was a stupid thing to do, Stu. But you try to defend yourself. But the thing is, it. This is so totally inappropriate. I'm, going to tell you how we're going to get out of that. And how you're going to check for that. But you see, what happens is there's a thing called the communication model in NLP. And it's how we communicate. Or how we filter the outside world to our inside world. How we perceive reality as it were. And, make it our reality of a reality out there. Because each of us, as we look at an event that's happening will have a different connotation, a different view, literally a different view of that event going on. Because what happens is we see that event through. And, we filter it through all our. All our senses, our sight, our hearing, our feelings, smell and taste. We also filter it through deletions, distortions and generalizations. In order to make sense of that reality outside. Because there's so much information bombarding us. And we have to filter it out. Because if not, we'd go pop. And there's also our attitudes and our experiences, values and beliefs. And you see, if you have got experiences in the past where you have been hurt, maybe you have been made to feel guilty. No, I'll change that. Where you chose to feel guilty, it's different. No one makes you feel anything. You choose. That's a hard one to accept sometimes because you've heard it before. You made me do that. And when you say very directly now, you chose to feel that way. That hurts sometimes because it's true. And then we fight back against that. But if we've had experiences of the past where we've chosen to feel hurt and we've chosen to feel guilty and things like that, then it's like an anchor. And, our unconscious mind goes, I know how to defend against this. Fight back. And it worked. Maybe a long time ago when you was a ickle lickle person, your unconscious mind, with very little wisdom, very little experience in the world, fought back. Maybe you just said something nasty and the other person just went away. And your unconscious mind goes, ah, that stops me feeling guilty. That stops me, you know, getting hurt. And it does it more and more. And it even looks for sounds. The look, as I said, the sound of a voice might trigger that response. The look of someone's face may trigger that defunct, might trigger that response. And you get defensive straight away before someone's even said anything. That look makes you defensive. Have you had that before? And I think, as we say, thank you to our unconscious mind for doing this. But hey ho, think about this, mister, and misses unconscious mind. It's no longer, it's no longer inapp, it's no longer appropriate. These are inappropriate responses. There are so many better ways. And I believe when we show our unconscious mind that there are better ways, it has to, without shadow of a doubt, 100%. It has to choose a better way. Why wouldn't it? If it's, if it is geared up, to protect you, that's its role. To keep you safe, to protect you and keep you healthy. How can it choose something that's less than the alternative? It can't, can it? But what we have to do is, first of all, honour that intention so we don't just beat ourselves up. I got a lovely story about that. And this morning, I decided I would give myself a good old beating up. In my journal, I'm going to talk about on a five minute quickie. Because it made me. It's like beating myself up and making myself laugh at the same time.     Sometimes we speak harshly to our best friend inside   And I did. I really tore into myself. I think I'll do that on a five minute quickie. And you can see everything. But the thing is that sometimes we even speak to our best friend inside so much more harshly than we would a best friend outside. We'd actually say thank you. Thank you for helping me, thank you for trying to find a better way, but we'll do that. And then I'm going to show you in a moment a couple of processes, how we can just guide our unconscious mind to find better ways.     I'd suggest that you go to one to one therapy   Now, before we go into those processes, what I'd like to say is, if this is really getting on your nerves, if this is something that is happening over and over again, and it is making your relationships really bad, it's making your life feel, hurt and guilty, because that's a conflict, isn't it? That's a massive direct conflict. I'm going to protect you as your unconscious mind from being hurt and guilty. You have one of those stupid bloody arguments that spiral out of control. You get passive aggressive, they get passive aggressive, you both pee off into different directions for a day or two. And in all that time, I protected you from feeling hurt and guilty. And what do you do? You feel hurt and guilty all that time until you go and make up. And sometimes I've seen it in some family situations and that there is no makeup. That's it forever. And, what a waste that is through this. So if it is something that is maybe you feel getting slightly out of control, what I'm going to share with you will help. But I'd also suggest that you go to one to one therapy. Now, there's a lot of adverts on, on the Internet about therapy. I have some real issues with that because I don't know, understand how you do therapy by text. I mean, that is crazy. Have you ever tried to understand anybody on a text? The emotion doesn't come through, does it? No, it's absolutely b's, I think. I believe. I find it difficult to do on the phone because you can't see facial expressions because people can say things. And, you know, if you were looking at them, that's not quite what they meant. They have unconscious communication. Their unconscious mind is saying one thing and their conscious mind is saying something else. And that's where the conflict is. You can't see that over telephone. So I like one to one, you can do it online, like with, to see your therapist and let them to see you. Ideally one to one in the same room so they are with you, so they can see the whole of your body, the whole body language. I don't like body language, but the whole unconscious communication, and they can jump in there and then. Now, if that's the thing, do look for this one I prefer, I would suggest, I'd recommend is find someone who's a master hypnotist. And in that role of a master hypnotist, they also have maybe certainly a practitioner of NLP. But I'd like to see a master practical of NLP. I'd also like to see a master prac or master practitioner of timeline therapy. You put those three together, you have got someone who's got some absolutely awesome skills. And also because I know the way they've been trained, they will look to make this the change in you and you to change in you. they won't do it for you. You will change with their guidance, their help, but you'll do it quickly, you'll do it easily and you'll do it effortlessly. It does not have to be hurtful, it does not have to be painful. You don't have to keep going back to old experiences. You don't. You get your unconscious mind to learn anyway. That's another subject. If you look back to what to expect, I think it's, I don't know, I did it in a five minute quickie or something like that a long time ago. And I think it's called what to expect in a therapist, something like that. Search for that, tell you all about it. And if you go to one to one therapy, you will really hammer at home. and what I'm going to share with you now will also help. Cannot do any harm at m all on that. So there, that's my advice. If that is really peeing you off and you think this is, you know, really creating a relationship that's going to maybe no longer be a relationship and that would be such a shame, get your therapy in. But here's the thing, let's go on to these processes are, ah, you with me for that? Because this will work on all sorts of responses you have, the things you're triggered about. So now what we can do is, well, we have to learn from past events, because if we don't learn from past events, then our unconscious mind carries on doing that same inappropriate response, one of an intention, and we're never going to change that intention because I want that your best friend to keep the intention from you getting hurt, huh? From feeling guilty, from feeling anything negative, only want positive things for you, safety for you comfortable. Feeling comfortable is the wonderful, safest place you could be in my mind. So here's what you could do. You can just reflect on, say there was that silly argument that got out of control. So we can reflect on it. But the way to reflect on it is not to go back into it. Because if you go back into it and see through your own eyes what you saw, then hear what you heard then. So you're seeing the look on the face, you're hearing that, you're hearing the tone of the voice, and you're getting those feelings, and you're hearing those words and you're getting those old feelings again. You're back to where you were again. And you can't learn, you can't read the label from inside the bottle or the jar. You know that. So we're going to dissociate for a little while because that's a lovely filter. Because when we dissociate, we can see things from a dispassionate perspective. It's literally seeing the whole thing without the emotion. And without that emotion, we can then learn and decide of different ways. So you could just imagine a movie in front of you of that memory, and the memory will never be the same, but it doesn't matter because we're going to do something really good. You run through that memory and just let it run through in your mind over there on that movie screen. And you're seeing yourself, by the way, in that movie. So you're watching yourself and the other person, maybe you're on the phone or whatever it is, but you're just, you're seeing a picture, a movie of yourself from over here. You can see yourself over there. That's called dissociation. And you just watch it go through. And your unconscious mind can do this quite quickly. So if it was a, it went on for half an hour, you're not going to watch it for half an hour. You could just get some snippets of it. Because your unconscious mind can relive a memory in seconds. And then what we're going to say to our unconscious mind is, let's just cut out the crap. Sorry about that, but let's just. The fluff. Let's call it the fluff. I said that because sometimes it's emotional, but let's take out all the fluff. The things that people said, the things that you may have said which were totally irrelevant to what was the aim of that first comment. And you take that away and you then replay that movie with just, I call it the facts, the truth, none of the stuff you made up, and you filter through your experiences. Let's just have the truth. They said this, and this is what happened. So maybe you were late and they accused you of oh, you're late. So you don't respect me anymore? And you go, oh, don't you have a go at me? I respect, what about you? The last time you, now you go, okay, let's take the fluff all out of that. What actually happened? I had agreed to be back on a particular time and I didn't. I did turn up late.     Steve: Imagine your unconscious mind looking at different ways of dealing with situations   And what they said was true. That's it. They're the facts. I had agreed to do something and I didn't do what I agreed. And they have just pointed that out to me now. They're the facts. That's what really is the nub of all of this. So how can I learn to do that better? And if you imagine another movie screen beside that one, you say, well, let's play a movie of how I could have reacted differently. And it could be that I see myself going in and someone saying, oh, you're late. You don't respect me. And you go, look, I'm really sorry. I respect you immensely and I have maybe done it wrong. I was actually trying to do something else and I forgot and it's totally my fault and I apologize profusely. And m they might say something else. I don't know. I apologize. I'm really sorry. I'm going to do my best to never let that happen again. That might be way, that might be a way another one could be. They say, you're late, you don't respect me. And you say, I respect you so much that I had to deal with something. And in my head I knew if I didn't deal with it when I come and saw you and be with you, I couldn't give you my full attention. Now I, know I should have let you know and I didn't, and that's my bad. Notice what reaction you would get and you can run through a few of these and you get your unconscious mind and go, you know, I can do this consciously, like I did those two. What would you do? Unconscious mind in a different way. Knowing I've got so many other skills, I've learned so many different things, I have positive experiences. How could I could have just rung earlier and said, I'm really sorry, I'm going to be late. I have an issue. Is that, okay? Explain the issue. Hey, that would work. They go, okay, thank you so much for letting me know. Now I can go do something and I'll be back later. Oh, now I've got three alternatives and, what I like to do is in front of those alternatives I like to imagine me, another me, looking at those screens of a me doing all that stuff. So it's got. So that me in front of me is looking at those three screens, as it were. And I want that me out there to go, what else could I do? As if I was looking into the future and making sure that I've got all different, different ways of, ah, approaching that similar event in the future. And, because it's doing that, my unconscious mind is actually me over there doing that for me. And, when it does that more and more, it actually feels it's actually happening in the real world. It cannot tell the difference between reality, what's happening in the now, and, what's happening in your mind. And so we've done it. And you say to yourself, which one of those would have had a better result? Which one of those would have stopped me feeling and, protected me from hurt? Which one of those would protect me from feeling guilty? Ah, And then you just go, sorry, just say this or something better. And imagine your unconscious mind going through all your experiences, all your skills to work, to, have a repertoire, to have, like a recipe. And if you want, you know, maybe it doesn't work straight away. Maybe you have to take one or two times to do this. Sometimes it works absolutely straight away, but something happens. And so as soon as you can just replay it, you might find halfway through, you're triggered, and, halfway through you go, actually, can we just stop? And you then go into one of those processes, one of those reactions, one of those ways of dealing with that situation. And then, you know, you're learning. You know, you're doing the stuff. So that's a wonderful. That process, by the way, that's like a process of responding to criticism. And that process was created by a wonderful man, a, wonderful man called Steve Andreas. He's no longer in this, this world now, unfortunately, he's gone to the multiverse, universe, heaven, wherever you want to go, whatever you want to think. And I love that process. I love all the work that he did. So if you're interested in NLP, do look for works by Steve Andreas.     Paul Clough: Please do give this process a real go play with it   Okay, so that's where we're going to split this episode. I hope you enjoyed it. Please do give that process a real go play with it. Because when you set your intention and have that childlike quality of play, curiosity, you will make this so good. You'll find out new ways and your unconscious mind will take them on, because that's what your unconscious mind does. It finds when you find better ways, it has to take them on because it knows your comfort is where safety is. And the more comfortable you are in responding to other people's communication, because that's all we're doing. 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How To Deal With Being Attacked Part 1 Protecting Yourself from Triggered Reactions In this episode, we dive into the mechanisms our unconscious mind uses to protect us from feeling hurt or guilty. Often, these protective reactions are triggered and lead to unnecessary conflict. I'll introduce two powerful processes to help you change these triggered reactions and respond more appropriately. This episode is split into two parts to give you time to practice the first process before moving on to the second. In part one, you'll learn a method to reflect on past conflicts and discover better ways to respond, helping you build a more effective toolbox for personal development. In this first part I dive into the what and the why and all things south and end up with one process that really can have a huge impact on resolving this issue. The process is all about training your unconscious mind to hear and see what's really happening and responding in the the most appropriate way and not just straight int Fight mode. By understanding and honoring the positive intentions of your unconscious mind, you can guide it to choose better ways to protect you, leading to more harmonious relationships and a more comfortable life. Listen in and start making a difference in how you handle conflicts and protect yourself in a healthier way. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/protecting-yourself-from-triggered-reactions-part-1   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. 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In simplicity there is genius   Here's your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about protecting yourself. We don't want to get hurt, huh? We don't want to feel guilty. Our unconscious mind is going to protect us from all things and we get triggered to fight back. And what does it do? We feel hurt. we feel guilty. It's not appropriate. I've got two processes here which will help you change that triggered reaction of defending yourself and protecting yourself at all costs. And it's so much better. Have a dive into this. You'll really enjoy, I'm sure. Okay, have a listen after the next 10 seconds. This is personal development unplugged, with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity there is genius.     This episode is just with one process and it's so, so good   Okay, so as usual, I've been accused of putting too much into one episode and it being overwhelming. And because there are, two processes here, I've decided to split this episode into two. So we've got part one and part two. The second part will include a second process, and then you've got time to practice the first one, see how it works. Part of your, another part of your toolbox. And then in the next episode or the next part two, you'll have another process that you could do as well. You may choose one, you may choose another, or you can use either or both. That'll be real fun. So this episode is just with that one process and it's so, so good. And then I won't keep you hanging because shortly afterwards I'll issue the next episode, part two and we'll go into that second episode. Okay? So really enjoy and make a difference. Make a difference. The difference. That makes a difference.     Cloughie talks about how to deal with being attacked   So here we go. Hey, friend. Another, I don't know how long it'll be. A bit of a muse, a bit of a little honesty thing going here or talking about me a little bit maybe, I don't know. But it's all about how to deal with being attacked. You see it like boxing rings. They say, protect yourself at all times. And I think that's what our unconscious mind does, protects ourselves at, all times. Have you ever had this experience? You're going about your day, oblivious of what is happening around you. You're just getting on with stuff. And then you hear that voice in the background. Did you forget to do so and so? Why do you do that? Oh, look at this. And you think, is that a comment? No, you don't think that at all. You think that's an accusation, that's an attack. Someone's attacking me for stuff. And, I'm gonna hit back with a couple of randoms of my own. Yeah, well, and you and this. And what about. Ow. Have you had that before? When you see things and all of a sudden you snap, you're triggered, you fire. And it is that, not, what's that thing where you have to look, aim, fire. Or is it. Was it a steady aim, fire. Steady aim, fire. But this is, this is fire, fire, fire. Oh, there's no aim, is there? And there's certainly no steady. Already ready. whatever that is, whatever it is, there's none of those other two. It's just firing randomly. First of all, I have to ask a question and I ask this of myself. How's that working for you? Cloughie, and you go, well, I did fight back and I didn't get hurt, huh? Yes, you did, because it wasn't nice, was it? It wasn't nice because things spiral out of control, don't they? You know, you get tone of voice sometimes, okay? That tone of voice is saying something about me, about what I've done, about what I haven't done. Or it's that look. Whoa. Oi. Don't look at me like that. I haven't done anything. Attack back. Attack back. So you always got to remember that line I started with. Remember, defend yourself at, all times. Sometimes it's like that. Hit first, don't wait. And then guess what happens now, have you been here where you. Someone says something. When you look back at it now, pretty innocuous. It's pretty, it's about something very, very mundane. Maybe, you left something on the side or you didn't quite do that, you forgot to do something. It isn't a big deal when you look back now, but at the time, it was an attack. It wasn't a front on you personally. And that argument, because you hit back to protect yourself, to give you that defence, and you carried on hitting back to make sure you never got hit, that argument spiraled to m all parts of the globe, you know? And if you think about. If you took each one of those individually, you'd notice that had nothing to do with it. It wasn't anything to do with that comment in any way, shape or form.     Your unconscious mind has to protect you in all ways, shapes or forms   Now, have you had that situation or is that just me? I hope it's not just me. Well, I do hope it's just me, but I know it isn't. I think I've seen it so many times and I've been in it so many bloody times. This is one of my pet things that I work on. And I know why and I know how. And I. You know, when I say I know why I don't want to. It's not the why that I get up with some limiting belief of, People have always attacked me. I've got to look after myself. I can't do this. I can't do that. Just in case there's a positive intention. That's the why you've got a best friend inside your unconscious mind that has to protect you in all ways, shapes or forms. Doesn't want to get you hurt. Doesn't want you have that feeling of guilt, maybe. And it uses all forms of defenses. But the thing is, as an intention, what a wonderful thing to have your best friend looking. Has got your back, hasn't it? Got your back, front, sides, up and down. Protecting you every moment of the day. And that's so honourable. And I like to honour my best friend. I like to honour your best friend, your unconscious mind for doing what it's doing. Trying its best to look after us, look after you, look after me. But the thing is, that behavior now is no longer appropriate. Because if you think about it, if someone says something, were they really trying to attack you? Really, honestly, truly? Come on. It was a stupid thing to do, Stu. But you try to defend yourself. But the thing is, it. This is so totally inappropriate. I'm, going to tell you how we're going to get out of that. And how you're going to check for that. But you see, what happens is there's a thing called the communication model in NLP. And it's how we communicate. Or how we filter the outside world to our inside world. How we perceive reality as it were. And, make it our reality of a reality out there. Because each of us, as we look at an event that's happening will have a different connotation, a different view, literally a different view of that event going on. Because what happens is we see that event through. And, we filter it through all our. All our senses, our sight, our hearing, our feelings, smell and taste. We also filter it through deletions, distortions and generalizations. In order to make sense of that reality outside. Because there's so much information bombarding us. And we have to filter it out. Because if not, we'd go pop. And there's also our attitudes and our experiences, values and beliefs. And you see, if you have got experiences in the past where you have been hurt, maybe you have been made to feel guilty. No, I'll change that. Where you chose to feel guilty, it's different. No one makes you feel anything. You choose. That's a hard one to accept sometimes because you've heard it before. You made me do that. And when you say very directly now, you chose to feel that way. That hurts sometimes because it's true. And then we fight back against that. But if we've had experiences of the past where we've chosen to feel hurt and we've chosen to feel guilty and things like that, then it's like an anchor. And, our unconscious mind goes, I know how to defend against this. Fight back. And it worked. Maybe a long time ago when you was a ickle lickle person, your unconscious mind, with very little wisdom, very little experience in the world, fought back. Maybe you just said something nasty and the other person just went away. And your unconscious mind goes, ah, that stops me feeling guilty. That stops me, you know, getting hurt. And it does it more and more. And it even looks for sounds. The look, as I said, the sound of a voice might trigger that response. The look of someone's face may trigger that defunct, might trigger that response. And you get defensive straight away before someone's even said anything. That look makes you defensive. Have you had that before? And I think, as we say, thank you to our unconscious mind for doing this. But hey ho, think about this, mister, and misses unconscious mind. It's no longer, it's no longer inapp, it's no longer appropriate. These are inappropriate responses. There are so many better ways. And I believe when we show our unconscious mind that there are better ways, it has to, without shadow of a doubt, 100%. It has to choose a better way. Why wouldn't it? If it's, if it is geared up, to protect you, that's its role. To keep you safe, to protect you and keep you healthy. How can it choose something that's less than the alternative? It can't, can it? But what we have to do is, first of all, honour that intention so we don't just beat ourselves up. I got a lovely story about that. And this morning, I decided I would give myself a good old beating up. In my journal, I'm going to talk about on a five minute quickie. Because it made me. It's like beating myself up and making myself laugh at the same time.     Sometimes we speak harshly to our best friend inside   And I did. I really tore into myself. I think I'll do that on a five minute quickie. And you can see everything. But the thing is that sometimes we even speak to our best friend inside so much more harshly than we would a best friend outside. We'd actually say thank you. Thank you for helping me, thank you for trying to find a better way, but we'll do that. And then I'm going to show you in a moment a couple of processes, how we can just guide our unconscious mind to find better ways.     I'd suggest that you go to one to one therapy   Now, before we go into those processes, what I'd like to say is, if this is really getting on your nerves, if this is something that is happening over and over again, and it is making your relationships really bad, it's making your life feel, hurt and guilty, because that's a conflict, isn't it? That's a massive direct conflict. I'm going to protect you as your unconscious mind from being hurt and guilty. You have one of those stupid bloody arguments that spiral out of control. You get passive aggressive, they get passive aggressive, you both pee off into different directions for a day or two. And in all that time, I protected you from feeling hurt and guilty. And what do you do? You feel hurt and guilty all that time until you go and make up. And sometimes I've seen it in some family situations and that there is no makeup. That's it forever. And, what a waste that is through this. So if it is something that is maybe you feel getting slightly out of control, what I'm going to share with you will help. But I'd also suggest that you go to one to one therapy. Now, there's a lot of adverts on, on the Internet about therapy. I have some real issues with that because I don't know, understand how you do therapy by text. I mean, that is crazy. Have you ever tried to understand anybody on a text? The emotion doesn't come through, does it? No, it's absolutely b's, I think. I believe. I find it difficult to do on the phone because you can't see facial expressions because people can say things. And, you know, if you were looking at them, that's not quite what they meant. They have unconscious communication. Their unconscious mind is saying one thing and their conscious mind is saying something else. And that's where the conflict is. You can't see that over telephone. So I like one to one, you can do it online, like with, to see your therapist and let them to see you. Ideally one to one in the same room so they are with you, so they can see the whole of your body, the whole body language. I don't like body language, but the whole unconscious communication, and they can jump in there and then. Now, if that's the thing, do look for this one I prefer, I would suggest, I'd recommend is find someone who's a master hypnotist. And in that role of a master hypnotist, they also have maybe certainly a practitioner of NLP. But I'd like to see a master practical of NLP. I'd also like to see a master prac or master practitioner of timeline therapy. You put those three together, you have got someone who's got some absolutely awesome skills. And also because I know the way they've been trained, they will look to make this the change in you and you to change in you. they won't do it for you. You will change with their guidance, their help, but you'll do it quickly, you'll do it easily and you'll do it effortlessly. It does not have to be hurtful, it does not have to be painful. You don't have to keep going back to old experiences. You don't. You get your unconscious mind to learn anyway. That's another subject. If you look back to what to expect, I think it's, I don't know, I did it in a five minute quickie or something like that a long time ago. And I think it's called what to expect in a therapist, something like that. Search for that, tell you all about it. And if you go to one to one therapy, you will really hammer at home. and what I'm going to share with you now will also help. Cannot do any harm at m all on that. So there, that's my advice. If that is really peeing you off and you think this is, you know, really creating a relationship that's going to maybe no longer be a relationship and that would be such a shame, get your therapy in. But here's the thing, let's go on to these processes are, ah, you with me for that? Because this will work on all sorts of responses you have, the things you're triggered about. So now what we can do is, well, we have to learn from past events, because if we don't learn from past events, then our unconscious mind carries on doing that same inappropriate response, one of an intention, and we're never going to change that intention because I want that your best friend to keep the intention from you getting hurt, huh? From feeling guilty, from feeling anything negative, only want positive things for you, safety for you comfortable. Feeling comfortable is the wonderful, safest place you could be in my mind. So here's what you could do. You can just reflect on, say there was that silly argument that got out of control. So we can reflect on it. But the way to reflect on it is not to go back into it. Because if you go back into it and see through your own eyes what you saw, then hear what you heard then. So you're seeing the look on the face, you're hearing that, you're hearing the tone of the voice, and you're getting those feelings, and you're hearing those words and you're getting those old feelings again. You're back to where you were again. And you can't learn, you can't read the label from inside the bottle or the jar. You know that. So we're going to dissociate for a little while because that's a lovely filter. Because when we dissociate, we can see things from a dispassionate perspective. It's literally seeing the whole thing without the emotion. And without that emotion, we can then learn and decide of different ways. So you could just imagine a movie in front of you of that memory, and the memory will never be the same, but it doesn't matter because we're going to do something really good. You run through that memory and just let it run through in your mind over there on that movie screen. And you're seeing yourself, by the way, in that movie. So you're watching yourself and the other person, maybe you're on the phone or whatever it is, but you're just, you're seeing a picture, a movie of yourself from over here. You can see yourself over there. That's called dissociation. And you just watch it go through. And your unconscious mind can do this quite quickly. So if it was a, it went on for half an hour, you're not going to watch it for half an hour. You could just get some snippets of it. Because your unconscious mind can relive a memory in seconds. And then what we're going to say to our unconscious mind is, let's just cut out the crap. Sorry about that, but let's just. The fluff. Let's call it the fluff. I said that because sometimes it's emotional, but let's take out all the fluff. The things that people said, the things that you may have said which were totally irrelevant to what was the aim of that first comment. And you take that away and you then replay that movie with just, I call it the facts, the truth, none of the stuff you made up, and you filter through your experiences. Let's just have the truth. They said this, and this is what happened. So maybe you were late and they accused you of oh, you're late. So you don't respect me anymore? And you go, oh, don't you have a go at me? I respect, what about you? The last time you, now you go, okay, let's take the fluff all out of that. What actually happened? I had agreed to be back on a particular time and I didn't. I did turn up late.     Steve: Imagine your unconscious mind looking at different ways of dealing with situations   And what they said was true. That's it. They're the facts. I had agreed to do something and I didn't do what I agreed. And they have just pointed that out to me now. They're the facts. That's what really is the nub of all of this. So how can I learn to do that better? And if you imagine another movie screen beside that one, you say, well, let's play a movie of how I could have reacted differently. And it could be that I see myself going in and someone saying, oh, you're late. You don't respect me. And you go, look, I'm really sorry. I respect you immensely and I have maybe done it wrong. I was actually trying to do something else and I forgot and it's totally my fault and I apologize profusely. And m they might say something else. I don't know. I apologize. I'm really sorry. I'm going to do my best to never let that happen again. That might be way, that might be a way another one could be. They say, you're late, you don't respect me. And you say, I respect you so much that I had to deal with something. And in my head I knew if I didn't deal with it when I come and saw you and be with you, I couldn't give you my full attention. Now I, know I should have let you know and I didn't, and that's my bad. Notice what reaction you would get and you can run through a few of these and you get your unconscious mind and go, you know, I can do this consciously, like I did those two. What would you do? Unconscious mind in a different way. Knowing I've got so many other skills, I've learned so many different things, I have positive experiences. How could I could have just rung earlier and said, I'm really sorry, I'm going to be late. I have an issue. Is that, okay? Explain the issue. Hey, that would work. They go, okay, thank you so much for letting me know. Now I can go do something and I'll be back later. Oh, now I've got three alternatives and, what I like to do is in front of those alternatives I like to imagine me, another me, looking at those screens of a me doing all that stuff. So it's got. So that me in front of me is looking at those three screens, as it were. And I want that me out there to go, what else could I do? As if I was looking into the future and making sure that I've got all different, different ways of, ah, approaching that similar event in the future. And, because it's doing that, my unconscious mind is actually me over there doing that for me. And, when it does that more and more, it actually feels it's actually happening in the real world. It cannot tell the difference between reality, what's happening in the now, and, what's happening in your mind. And so we've done it. And you say to yourself, which one of those would have had a better result? Which one of those would have stopped me feeling and, protected me from hurt? Which one of those would protect me from feeling guilty? Ah, And then you just go, sorry, just say this or something better. And imagine your unconscious mind going through all your experiences, all your skills to work, to, have a repertoire, to have, like a recipe. And if you want, you know, maybe it doesn't work straight away. Maybe you have to take one or two times to do this. Sometimes it works absolutely straight away, but something happens. And so as soon as you can just replay it, you might find halfway through, you're triggered, and, halfway through you go, actually, can we just stop? And you then go into one of those processes, one of those reactions, one of those ways of dealing with that situation. And then, you know, you're learning. You know, you're doing the stuff. So that's a wonderful. That process, by the way, that's like a process of responding to criticism. And that process was created by a wonderful man, a, wonderful man called Steve Andreas. He's no longer in this, this world now, unfortunately, he's gone to the multiverse, universe, heaven, wherever you want to go, whatever you want to think. And I love that process. I love all the work that he did. So if you're interested in NLP, do look for works by Steve Andreas.     Paul Clough: Please do give this process a real go play with it   Okay, so that's where we're going to split this episode. I hope you enjoyed it. Please do give that process a real go play with it. Because when you set your intention and have that childlike quality of play, curiosity, you will make this so good. You'll find out new ways and your unconscious mind will take them on, because that's what your unconscious mind does. It finds when you find better ways, it has to take them on because it knows your comfort is where safety is. And the more comfortable you are in responding to other people's communication, because that's all we're doing. We're using all our skills and enjoying life, dealing with things that come, come and maybe side blind us, if that's the right word, I don't know. But that's what we're going to do. So I'm not going to leave you hanging. As I said, I will issue the next part, part two in the next few days. So keep an eye out for that and we'll just move around an FMq instead. Okay. And so have fun. Let me know if you want to let me know of how it worked or if it was, maybe it was a little bit confusing. I hope it wasn't. But if there was any confusion, please do let me know by email. Feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged. Let me know. Or maybe there's a scenario that you think, would this work or won't it work? Ask me the question. I'll either adapt it, give you an idea, or maybe there's another process that's even more applicable, more appropriate. So there's my offer to you to come and test me. And, let's see where we can go. So, my friend, have more fun than you can stand. 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Can You? Do You Keep A Secret? I get very cross when I hear about various people in the Personal Development and hypnosis world that do not share what they have learned or created, in effect keeping it a secret from others. Yet what about us? when we find something interesting, new to us how often do we immediately find people to share it with? Maybe something you hear that creates an idea in your head do you share that with others too? Come with me for a few minutes and I'll share a simple metaphor that might make us all think differently about sharing. vAnd of course maybe you would share this episode so others will get it too  'O)   https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-447-can-you-do-you-keep-a-secret       Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Victory Speech and A View From The Balcony This episode is about how to achieve success. Sometimes I hear something and go YES! Someone's using the thing I was also taught because it works. And this episode is developed from listening to master negotiator William Ure and how what he said could be used to create change at the belief, emotional and behavior levels . Writing out a victory speech can help you solve problems, and formulate how you are going to achieve success and looking out from the balcony gives you a different perspective on where you're aiming for. So I've taken these separate thoughts and put them into one process which I thonk you will not only enjoy but find another way to achieve your goals and dreams. I'd love your feed back Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/393-victory-speech-and-a-view-from-the-balcony     Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, the longer podcast again. And what a weird title. A victory speech from the balcony. What the hell does that mean? Cloughie. That's what you're thinking. I know you are. Well, here's the thing. Did you ever listen to someone, hear what they say and, think, yes, yes, that's exactly it. I've been using that. It's like a validation of what you've been taught or what you've learned. And that's what I got. See, I was listening to this podcast, and it was by the guy, a button, or by a guy called get it right Cloughie. William Ure. I think that's how you pronounce his, surname. It's ure. So ure or ure, but William. And he's a chief negotiator, and he's negotiated in every different level you can think of. So political countries, all sorts of things going on at, really, really high levels. And he did this thing he was talking about, instead of trying to look at a problem, like negotiating between two parties and what's a problem? And all the steps that you're going to take to get to the solution, what you want. He said what he used to do was literally write out a victory speech. Now, what a wonderful way to solve a problem. You go to the end, having already got the solution, and you write it down. And why do we write it down? You know why we write it down? Because it goes into your brain in so many different ways. Those neural pathways are going to start firing together, wiring together, because you have to describe it in such a way. We call it vacog. What a weird thing. V a k o g in NLP terms. You describe it visually, you'll see it with your internal representation, your imagination in your mind. So you'll see it whether you see it in 2020, vision or just glimpses, it doesn't matter. You're aware, but you can describe it. You describe what you'll see having got the result you want. So this is your victory speech. You'll describe all the sights, maybe even the pictures in your mind, then the things you'll hear, the auditory side. How will the words sound? How will they resonate with not just yourself but with other people? Because that's the thing about a victory speech, isn't it? It's going to resonate with other people to get them to not only feel it in the words, but be able to see it. And the other thing is, okay, the kinesthetic is the feelings. What will it feel like making this victory speech, having achieved what you want achieved, solve the problem and have the result, the success. There may even be a smell and maybe a taste of success. We call it the taste of success, don't we? The sweet smell of success. And you write that thing out, and it doesn't have to be pages and pages, but you just to go through the process of writing out even bullet points to give you an idea what it would look like, sound like, feel like, smell and taste, having resolved that problem. And then from there, starting from that success is a bit like the end of a hero's journey, coming home, describing what that would be like, noticing all your victories, noticing all the hurdles that you got over, got round, got under, dismantled, negotiated. Because that's the thing. From here you get a glimpse of what you must have had to do to get there. And you see, this is all in the first person, isn't it? This is you looking through your own eyes, giving this victory speech. And that was one thing he said, this is how I teach a team to solve the problem. Let's go to the end. But he also said he likes to go to the balcony. See, when he was having real problems with either getting to that victory speech or looking and, understanding the problem and understanding maybe the views of the opposing fractious people or things in this problem, then he would go to what he would say, the balcony, as if he was looking down at the problem to get a better view. What are we doing? Well, in LLP terms, you're going to third person that metaview. You see when you look down at a problem from up here and you see yourself or, you see the different parties that have the issues, you get to see them with a dissociated view, which means you're unattached, detached, you're unemotional about it and you're seeing it sometimes for what it really is because you're not in it. Because when you're in it, you can't read the label. You're in the bottle, in the jar. You can't read the label. When you're out, though, you can see different things and you get a different perspective on the whole issue. So now you've got that view of the balcony. And maybe here, this is what I thought, maybe you could just see that victory speech from here, too. So you could just see that unemotionally to get another check on it, to get an idea what it's all about. And you might even from here, this dissociated view, this unemotional view, like a director of a movie from just on the outside, this meta view, you maybe ask yourself questions, well, how can I make it even better? Let's imagine what steps I must have made to get here, or what steps I need to make in order to achieve that victory speech. Because there will be like, that hero's journey. There will be things along the way that, are going to trip you up. Maybe some issues you may not have foreseen. Well, if you could see them from here, you mitigate them, you do something about them, or you just have a second 2nd path, maybe then I think that victory speech becomes so much more plausible, so much more firm in your, in your grasp. You can hold it, you can see it, you can feel it, which means you've done it. Then I thought to myself, you see, and I was thinking about this. What wonderful, this was a wonderful description of how to negotiate two frictions to, two sides in opposition. Yes, I know, really, when you've got two sides, you really need to find their intention, an intention they can agree, which is part of that success as well. But then, you see, I was thinking, how could we use this or these two? Because they're slightly detached in their own thing. They weren't one, then the other or this or that. It was just two different parts of a conversation where he's explaining different ways. I thought, how could we use this for change? I want to change the way I behave, feel, or do something, or I want to get better at it. Maybe I could use this so maybe I could create a victory speech for achieving what I want to achieve, my desired state, as it were, my success, my outcome, my dream. And, I can also do this as well by looking from a balcony at the journey, the success, or, the things that I need to mitigate, things that may come along. And I'd have some questions in my mind as I do this. And, what type of questions might there be, do you think? Well, I thought there's always a critical step, the one thing, like a tipping point. I wonder what that would be. What would be the one thing that has to happen? Because, you know, some things will be fluid. Maybe it could be this or that or this and that. But there's normally something that has to happen, just the one thing. Without it, it wouldn't work. Or you could ask yourself, while I'm doing this thought process, I wonder how I can make this success even better. You see, I've got this idea what I want, but could I make it even better? Let's get that childlike quality of creativity and really think what I really want, not what I'm prepared to accept.     Think of something that you'd like to achieve. What do you specifically want   What would I really want? There's another question. It's one like ecology. And does this help other people? Does it hinder them? Is it positive? Is it negative? It's got to be positive for me, obviously. But if it's an ecological solution and an ecological desire or dream, it really needs to be positive for other people in the world, your family, your friends, people, maybe colleagues, people around you. And could it be even more? Could it help them? Now you have to think, well, how could it help them? Maybe by your experience, or giving them the experience of showing. Showing them how. How it can be done, how it can be achieved. So you become that example, the example of what can be done, the example of how you want to be in the world. Then you can, you see, that's the ecological side of it. But there's another thing about this to consider. I think, when I achieve this, and then we're talking about that success, speech, you know, that victory speech. When I get that success, that dream, that achievement, that thing that I want to change, that thing I want to be, do or have, what new opportunities will come from this, what will allow me to do? That's even more. You see, when you notice what extra things are going to happen, what new opportunities, what new goals, what wonderful things can happen, because you achieve that wonderful success is going to make it even more motivating, isn't it? So just have those questions in mind. So here's the thing. Why don't we do this right now? I might make a, hypnosis track of this as well. I've got one or two in mind now, but maybe we just do a little process right now. Oh, something small. It could be big, but just something small to get your mind into this process. So when you come to do it again and again, because these are the type of things that you can do again and again, it becomes a program of success. So I want you to think if it's okay, by the way, if you want to close your eyes, you close your eyes. You don't have to. You might a little bit later, but in this process, but initially you don't have to. But just make sure you've got times to focus on this. Only going to be about five or ten minutes, that's all at, the most. So just making sure nothing's going to take your attention. Now, if you're going to do this fully, nothing will take your attention. You're not going to be driving or anything like that. Come on, you've got to get real about this. This is something for you. So take some time out for yourself. Give yourself permission to explore this, explore your dreams and achieving your dreams, your goals, the things you want to do. Okay, so let's do this. I want you to bring to mind, think of something that you'd like to achieve. It can be big, can be small, doesn't matter. Something you want to be able to do better. Maybe you have a dream, maybe you're going to meet somebody, maybe it's in your career. Just something, don't make it huge, huge, huge, because that's too general. You're going to be specific and just think about that, bring that to mind. What do you specifically want? What do you specifically want to have happen and achieve? And I want you to imagine if you were to float out into the future to a time and a place, when you've achieved it, you've achieved that desired state, you've achieved that desired outcome, you've achieved that desired goal, that belief, maybe some behavior, a skill, go right out into the future in your mind and straight into it. I'm here, I've got it right now. And when you've got it right now, just as if you were looking through your own eyes, just notice what you'll see because it'll be different. You'll be seeing the world differently, having gone through the process all the way to here to make this a success. So as you see the world through your own eyes differently now, things will appear differently because they always do. What are the things you're saying to yourself, your internal voice, having already achieved this goal? And how will you speak on the outside to your, to the people who it affects? Maybe you'll be encouraging or maybe you're just have more skills that you'll be able to talk in more detail, to share, to learn, to maybe teach in some way. And what will it feel like. Feel the feelings of having achieved a success. Maybe there's that smell and taste and then put it all together, how you will be with all your senses having achieved this. And just notice from here, just notice what new opportunities, maybe new goals that you have are here for you right now, having achieved this success. Now, I would ask you, but we're not going to at the moment, but I would have asked you to write some this down because now you've got it. So you'd open your eyes, just write these down, maybe close them and open them and just write a few bullet points of what it feels like, what you'll see, what you'll hear, what are these opportunities? But at the moment, we're just going to keep this consciously and unconsciously, because your unconscious mind is beginning to get it now and then I want you to imagine floating just away up here, a little bit higher, as if you were looking down at you in that successful, having already achieved that desire, that goal, that dream, the thing that you wanted to have happen. And you could see way back to the now. So you may not see all the steps in a row, but you've got. Your unconscious mind can now become aware there was a process that got you from the now into here, this new future now, where you've got that success. And, maybe as you look from this dissociated, you see the you down there going through all the different things, all the different things you had to do, the steps along the way, even if you can't see them clearly, you know they're there. You knew you would have to hold that big picture in mind, this, that success speech that we've already done. You'd have to hold that in mind to keep the motivation going, because occasionally there'll be some issues you need to resolve or mitigate. But just ask your unconscious mind, what was the critical step that made this successful so great? And have your unconscious mind just notice what were the criticals, the critical step, the one step that has to be achieved. And then ask your unconscious mind, if I could make this better, if I could make it quicker, better, brighter, more effective, more pleasurable, so I can enjoy the process. I wonder what I would have done from the now right up to the success down there. What could I have done differently to make it even better? And then maybe just think. And sometimes you'll get the answers, and sometimes you just know your unconscious mind is working on this. But just notice how you've affected other people along the way and how those opportunities of reaching the success will help others, too. And, then just notice down there that you having that feeling of success along every step of the way, you and your unconscious mind working on this change together, overcoming obstacles, having fun along the way. And then when you've done all that, just open your eyes. And, when you open your eyes now, you can look around the world, you can give a little pat on the back, do something that just changed your state for a moment. Maybe just spell your name backwards in your mind out loud, say hello to somebody, notice a little bit of beauty, notice something. And as you do that and you feel differently, I know you, you know, you've now come out of that stage. Just notice how you feel about going towards that success, how you feel about writing that success speech, how you feel about taking the next step, how you feel about working on this project, this new change, this dream, this desire of yours. Because I think you'll feel different. I think you're going to feel maybe more motivated, more encouraged, or just a different belief that this is so doable and it means so much more to you now. I don't know. That's what I think. I'd be really interested to know just on that little bit of a process, because it wasn't hypnosis. It was a little bit of, you know, imagery guided imagery. You might call it visualization, but I know it's gone inside in a good way.     Every process will do something for you, and this one does   So I'd love to know what you did. I'll say that again more clearly. I'd love to know how you felt about that little process and how you feel now about it. You can email me feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged, um.com, just to give me an idea. Because what I'd like to do, I'm thinking about it, is to do a, hypnotic or hypnosis track to guide you through that more deeply. But I need to know and, have some feedback. Maybe there's things that I miss, maybe there's things I can improve. Maybe there's things that really work well that I can make even better. So I'd love your feedback on that. I'd love you to share this because I think it's important that everybody gets to find different ways. Because sometimes this is going to resonate with you 100% and you're going to go Cloughie. Best thing since sliced bread. Maybe it's going to be, well, that's not really quite working for me because not every process is going to hit the mark. I do believe it's in your desired and your intention. When you have that full, I'm, prepared to do whatever it takes intention, and I know what I want and I'm going to get it. But see, every process will do something for you, and this is one of them. You'll solve problems without knowing they were problems. But if you share this with people, you give them the opportunity to do the same, but you also get to know it better. We talk about that. As you share things and you talk about it, you get to know a little deeper, about the process of what you want. Or you might just learn more about what you want and go, oh, no, actually I found something else I want to add to it. And the more you add to it, the richer it gets. And the more you do this, that feeling inside grows. And when it grows, your unconscious mind goes, I know what you want, now let's go there, let's get it. And if you say those immortal words, this or something better, well, guess what? Your unconscious mind goes, I think, anyway, hey, hang on, buckle up, let's get going because I'm going to show you, and you'll be surprised, I think, when you look back and go, wow, I'm doing all this, all this stuff, I'm achieving all this stuff, and it becomes a habit. Success becomes a habit. Having fun becomes a habit. Finding new things to do and achieve them becomes a habit. Synchronicity becomes a habit and slaps you on the face with good stuff. Suddenly you become lucky. I'll say that again, you become lucky, and luck becomes a habit because you are creating it. You're on the cause side, you're creating all of this.     Please share, please give me the feedback. I really hope you enjoyed this podcast   So there's loads more we're gonna be talking about, loads more we can use. But isn't it interesting? well, to me it's interesting that somebody can say something which was nothing to do with what we've just done, but it created something in my mind that now has created something in your mind. And the ripples of change go so far, we never know. I know William ur, if he, he didn't realize that he was going to be talking to y through a podcast, and I'd take two dissociating things, or unrelated things and put them together, but we did, and maybe this will inspire you to do other things too. So please share, please give me the feedback. It would be awesome if you did. I'd look forward to it. I really hope you enjoyed this. And if you want that hypnosis track, you want me to do something again, I need to know because I don't want to spend all my time having a wonderful time processing and doing all this stuff and no one listened to it. But if one person listens to it and one person changes, my job's done. I'm a happy bunny. I'm a happy Cloughie. So please let me know. Email address is always the same. Feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplug.com we've seen it in the past when other people, when people have listeners have asked for things, changed things and we've created stuff for them and it's made such a difference. I'm going to do maybe an episode one day of just the feedback I get and the results that people are getting. It's awesome.     Paul  says it's time to fly on your own   Anyway, till next time my friend. Have more fun in creating success than you can stand because it's time to fly.   Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul . Time to fly on your own. Be brave my friend.   Personal development unplugged.         William Ure: Writing out a victory speech can help you solve problems   Hey, the longer podcast again. And what a weird title. A victory speech from the balcony. What the hell does that mean? Cloughie. That's what you're thinking. I know you are. Well, here's the thing. Did you ever listen to someone, hear what they say and, think, yes, yes, that's exactly it. I've been using that. It's like a validation of what you've been taught or what you've learned. And that's what I got. See, I was listening to this podcast, and it was by the guy, a button, or by a guy called get it right Cloughie. William ure. I think that's how you pronounce his, surname. It's ur. So ur or ur, but William. And he's a chief negotiator, and he's negotiated in every different level you can think of. So political countries, all sorts of things going on at, really, really high levels. And he did this thing he was talking about, instead of trying to look at a problem, like negotiating between two parties and what's a problem? And all the steps that you're going to take to get to the solution, what you want. He said what he used to do was literally write out a victory speech. Now, what a wonderful way to solve a problem. You go to the end, having already got the solution, and you write it down. And why do we write it down? You know why we write it down? Because it goes into your brain in so many different ways. Those neural pathways are going to start firing together, wiring together, because you have to describe it in such a way. We call it vacog. What a weird thing. V a k o g in NLP terms. You describe it visually, you'll see it with your internal representation, your imagination in your mind. So you'll see it whether you see it in 2020, vision or just glimpses, it doesn't matter. You're aware, but you can describe it. You describe what you'll see having got the result you want. So this is your victory speech. You'll describe all the sights, maybe even the pictures in your mind, then the things you'll hear, the auditory side. How will the words sound? How will they resonate with not just yourself but with other people? Because that's the thing about a victory speech, isn't it? It's going to resonate with other people to get them to not only feel it in the words, but be able to see it. And the other thing is, okay, the kinesthetic is the feelings. What will it feel like making this victory speech, having achieved what you want achieved, solve the problem and have the result, the success. There may even be a smell and maybe a taste of success. We call it the taste of success, don't we? The sweet smell of success. And you write that thing out, and it doesn't have to be pages and pages, but you just to go through the process of writing out even bullet points to give you an idea what it would look like, sound like, feel like, smell and taste, having resolved that problem. And then from there, starting from that success is a bit like the end of a hero's journey, coming home, describing what that would be like, noticing all your victories, noticing all the hurdles that you got over, got round, got under, dismantled, negotiated. Because that's the thing. From here you get a glimpse of what you must have had to do to get there. And you see, this is all in the first person, isn't it? This is you looking through your own eyes, giving this victory speech. And that was one thing he said, this is how I teach a team to solve the problem. Let's go to the end. But he also said he likes to go to the balcony. See, when he was having real problems with either getting to that victory speech or looking and, understanding the problem and understanding maybe the views of the opposing fractious people or things in this problem, then he would go to what he would say, the balcony, as if he was looking down at the problem to get a better view. What are we doing? Well, in LLP terms, you're going to third person that metaview. You see when you look down at a problem from up here and you see yourself or, you see the different parties that have the issues, you get to see them with a dissociated view, which means you're unattached, detached, you're unemotional about it and you're seeing it sometimes for what it really is because you're not in it. Because when you're in it, you can't read the label. You're in the bottle, in the jar. You can't read the label. When you're out, though, you can see different things and you get a different perspective on the whole issue. So now you've got that view of the balcony. And maybe here, this is what I thought, maybe you could just see that victory speech from here, too. So you could just see that unemotionally to get another check on it, to get an idea what it's all about. And you might even from here, this dissociated view, this unemotional view, like a director of a movie from just on the outside, this meta view, you maybe ask yourself questions, well, how can I make it even better? Let's imagine what steps I must have made to get here, or what steps I need to make in order to achieve that victory speech. Because there will be like, that hero's journey. There will be things along the way that, are going to trip you up. Maybe some issues you may not have foreseen. Well, if you could see them from here, you mitigate them, you do something about them, or you just have a second 2nd path, maybe then I think that victory speech becomes so much more plausible, so much more firm in your, in your grasp. You can hold it, you can see it, you can feel it, which means you've done it. Then I thought to myself, you see, and I was thinking about this. What wonderful, this was a wonderful description of how to negotiate two frictions to, two sides in opposition. Yes, I know, really, when you've got two sides, you really need to find their intention, an intention they can agree, which is part of that success as well. But then, you see, I was thinking, how could we use this or these two? Because they're slightly detached in their own thing. They weren't one, then the other or this or that. It was just two different parts of a conversation where he's explaining different ways. I thought, how could we use this for change? I want to change the way I behave, feel, or do something, or I want to get better at it. Maybe I could use this so maybe I could create a victory speech for achieving what I want to achieve, my desired state, as it were, my success, my outcome, my dream. And, I can also do this as well by looking from a balcony at the journey, the success, or, the things that I need to mitigate, things that may come along. And I'd have some questions in my mind as I do this. And, what type of questions might there be, do you think? Well, I thought there's always a critical step, the one thing, like a tipping point. I wonder what that would be. What would be the one thing that has to happen? Because, you know, some things will be fluid. Maybe it could be this or that or this and that. But there's normally something that has to happen, just the one thing. Without it, it wouldn't work. Or you could ask yourself, while I'm doing this thought process, I wonder how I can make this success even better. You see, I've got this idea what I want, but could I make it even better? Let's get that childlike quality of creativity and really think what I really want, not what I'm prepared to accept.     Think of something that you'd like to achieve. What do you specifically want   What would I really want? There's another question. It's one like ecology. And does this help other people? Does it hinder them? Is it positive? Is it negative? It's got to be positive for me, obviously. But if it's an ecological solution and an ecological desire or dream, it really needs to be positive for other people in the world, your family, your friends, people, maybe colleagues, people around you. And could it be even more? Could it help them? Now you have to think, well, how could it help them? Maybe by your experience, or giving them the experience of showing. Showing them how. How it can be done, how it can be achieved. So you become that example, the example of what can be done, the example of how you want to be in the world. Then you can, you see, that's the ecological side of it. But there's another thing about this to consider. I think, when I achieve this, and then we're talking about that success, speech, you know, that victory speech. When I get that success, that dream, that achievement, that thing that I want to change, that thing I want to be, do or have, what new opportunities will come from this, what will allow me to do? That's even more. You see, when you notice what extra things are going to happen, what new opportunities, what new goals, what wonderful things can happen, because you achieve that wonderful success is going to make it even more motivating, isn't it? So just have those questions in mind. So here's the thing. Why don't we do this right now? I might make a, hypnosis track of this as well. I've got one or two in mind now, but maybe we just do a little process right now. Oh, something small. It could be big, but just something small to get your mind into this process. So when you come to do it again and again, because these are the type of things that you can do again and again, it becomes a program of success. So I want you to think if it's okay, by the way, if you want to close your eyes, you close your eyes. You don't have to. You might a little bit later, but in this process, but initially you don't have to. But just make sure you've got times to focus on this. Only going to be about five or ten minutes, that's all at, the most. So just making sure nothing's going to take your attention. Now, if you're going to do this fully, nothing will take your attention. You're not going to be driving or anything like that. Come on, you've got to get real about this. This is something for you. So take some time out for yourself. Give yourself permission to explore this, explore your dreams and achieving your dreams, your goals, the things you want to do. Okay, so let's do this. I want you to bring to mind, think of something that you'd like to achieve. It can be big, can be small, doesn't matter. Something you want to be able to do better. Maybe you have a dream, maybe you're going to meet somebody, maybe it's in your career. Just something, don't make it huge, huge, huge, because that's too general. You're going to be specific and just think about that, bring that to mind. What do you specifically want? What do you specifically want to have happen and achieve? And I want you to imagine if you were to float out into the future to a time and a place, when you've achieved it, you've achieved that desired state, you've achieved that desired outcome, you've achieved that desired goal, that belief, maybe some behavior, a skill, go right out into the future in your mind and straight into it. I'm here, I've got it right now. And when you've got it right now, just as if you were looking through your own eyes, just notice what you'll see because it'll be different. You'll be seeing the world differently, having gone through the process all the way to here to make this a success. So as you see the world through your own eyes differently now, things will appear differently because they always do. What are the things you're saying to yourself, your internal voice, having already achieved this goal? And how will you speak on the outside to your, to the people who it affects? Maybe you'll be encouraging or maybe you're just have more skills that you'll be able to talk in more detail, to share, to learn, to maybe teach in some way. And what will it feel like. Feel the feelings of having achieved a success. Maybe there's that smell and taste and then put it all together, how you will be with all your senses having achieved this. And just notice from here, just notice what new opportunities, maybe new goals that you have are here for you right now, having achieved this success. Now, I would ask you, but we're not going to at the moment, but I would have asked you to write some this down because now you've got it. So you'd open your eyes, just write these down, maybe close them and open them and just write a few bullet points of what it feels like, what you'll see, what you'll hear, what are these opportunities? But at the moment, we're just going to keep this consciously and unconsciously, because your unconscious mind is beginning to get it now and then I want you to imagine floating just away up here, a little bit higher, as if you were looking down at you in that successful, having already achieved that desire, that goal, that dream, the thing that you wanted to have happen. And you could see way back to the now. So you may not see all the steps in a row, but you've got. Your unconscious mind can now become aware there was a process that got you from the now into here, this new future now, where you've got that success. And, maybe as you look from this dissociated, you see the you down there going through all the different things, all the different things you had to do, the steps along the way, even if you can't see them clearly, you know they're there. You knew you would have to hold that big picture in mind, this, that success speech that we've already done. You'd have to hold that in mind to keep the motivation going, because occasionally there'll be some issues you need to resolve or mitigate. But just ask your unconscious mind, what was the critical step that made this successful so great? And have your unconscious mind just notice what were the criticals, the critical step, the one step that has to be achieved. And then ask your unconscious mind, if I could make this better, if I could make it quicker, better, brighter, more effective, more pleasurable, so I can enjoy the process. I wonder what I would have done from the now right up to the success down there. What could I have done differently to make it even better? And then maybe just think. And sometimes you'll get the answers, and sometimes you just know your unconscious mind is working on this. But just notice how you've affected other people along the way and how those opportunities of reaching the success will help others, too. And, then just notice down there that you having that feeling of success along every step of the way, you and your unconscious mind working on this change together, overcoming obstacles, having fun along the way. And then when you've done all that, just open your eyes. And, when you open your eyes now, you can look around the world, you can give a little pat on the back, do something that just changed your state for a moment. Maybe just spell your name backwards in your mind out loud, say hello to somebody, notice a little bit of beauty, notice something. And as you do that and you feel differently, I know you, you know, you've now come out of that stage. Just notice how you feel about going towards that success, how you feel about writing that success speech, how you feel about taking the next step, how you feel about working on this project, this new change, this dream, this desire of yours. Because I think you'll feel different. I think you're going to feel maybe more motivated, more encouraged, or just a different belief that this is so doable and it means so much more to you now. I don't know. That's what I think. I'd be really interested to know just on that little bit of a process, because it wasn't hypnosis. It was a little bit of, you know, imagery guided imagery. You might call it visualization, but I know it's gone inside in a good way.     Every process will do something for you, and this one does   So I'd love to know what you did. I'll say that again more clearly. I'd love to know how you felt about that little process and how you feel now about it. You can email me feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged, um.com, just to give me an idea. Because what I'd like to do, I'm thinking about it, is to do a, hypnotic or hypnosis track to guide you through that more deeply. But I need to know and, have some feedback. Maybe there's things that I miss, maybe there's things I can improve. Maybe there's things that really work well that I can make even better. So I'd love your feedback on that. I'd love you to share this because I think it's important that everybody gets to find different ways. Because sometimes this is going to resonate with you 100% and you're going to go Cloughie. Best thing since sliced bread. Maybe it's going to be, well, that's not really quite working for me because not every process is going to hit the mark. I do believe it's in your desired and your intention. When you have that full, I'm, prepared to do whatever it takes intention, and I know what I want and I'm going to get it. But see, every process will do something for you, and this is one of them. You'll solve problems without knowing they were problems. But if you share this with people, you give them the opportunity to do the same, but you also get to know it better. We talk about that. As you share things and you talk about it, you get to know a little deeper, about the process of what you want. Or you might just learn more about what you want and go, oh, no, actually I found something else I want to add to it. And the more you add to it, the richer it gets. And the more you do this, that feeling inside grows. And when it grows, your unconscious mind goes, I know what you want, now let's go there, let's get it. And if you say those immortal words, this or something better, well, guess what? Your unconscious mind goes, I think, anyway, hey, hang on, buckle up, let's get going because I'm going to show you, and you'll be surprised, I think, when you look back and go, wow, I'm doing all this, all this stuff, I'm achieving all this stuff, and it becomes a habit. Success becomes a habit. Having fun becomes a habit. Finding new things to do and achieve them becomes a habit. Synchronicity becomes a habit and slaps you on the face with good stuff. Suddenly you become lucky. I'll say that again, you become lucky, and luck becomes a habit because you are creating it. You're on the cause side, you're creating all of this.     Please share, please give me the feedback. I really hope you enjoyed this podcast   So there's loads more we're gonna be talking about, loads more we can use. But isn't it interesting? well, to me it's interesting that somebody can say something which was nothing to do with what we've just done, but it created something in my mind that now has created something in your mind. And the ripples of change go so far, we never know. I know William ur, if he, he didn't realize that he was going to be talking to y through a podcast, and I'd take two dissociating things, or unrelated things and put them together, but we did, and maybe this will inspire you to do other things too. So please share, please give me the feedback. It would be awesome if you did. I'd look forward to it. I really hope you enjoyed this. And if you want that hypnosis track, you want me to do something again, I need to know because I don't want to spend all my time having a wonderful time processing and doing all this stuff and no one listened to it. But if one person listens to it and one person changes, my job's done. I'm a happy bunny. I'm a happy Cloughie. So please let me know. Email address is always the same. Feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplug.com we've seen it in the past when other people, when people have listeners have asked for things, changed things and we've created stuff for them and it's made such a difference. I'm going to do maybe an episode one day of just the feedback I get and the results that people are getting. It's awesome.     Paul  says it's time to fly on your own   Anyway, till next time my friend. Have more fun in creating success than you can stand because it's time to fly.   Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul . Time to fly on your own. Be brave my friend.   Personal development unplugged.               Hey, the longer podcast again. And what a weird title. A victory speech from the balcony. What the hell does that mean? Cloughie. That's what you're thinking. I know you are. Well, here's the thing. Did you ever listen to someone, hear what they say and, think, yes, yes, that's exactly it. I've been using that. It's like a validation of what you've been taught or what you've learned. And that's what I got. See, I was listening to this podcast, and it was by the guy, a button, or by a guy called get it right Cloughie. William ure. I think that's how you pronounce his, surname. It's ur. So ur or ur, but William. And he's a chief negotiator, and he's negotiated in every different level you can think of. So political countries, all sorts of things going on at, really, really high levels. And he did this thing he was talking about, instead of trying to look at a problem, like negotiating between two parties and what's a problem? And all the steps that you're going to take to get to the solution, what you want. He said what he used to do was literally write out a victory speech. Now, what a wonderful way to solve a problem. You go to the end, having already got the solution, and you write it down. And why do we write it down? You know why we write it down? Because it goes into your brain in so many different ways. Those neural pathways are going to start firing together, wiring together, because you have to describe it in such a way. We call it vacog. What a weird thing. V a k o g in NLP terms. You describe it visually, you'll see it with your internal representation, your imagination in your mind. So you'll see it whether you see it in 2020, vision or just glimpses, it doesn't matter. You're aware, but you can describe it. You describe what you'll see having got the result you want. So this is your victory speech. You'll describe all the sights, maybe even the pictures in your mind, then the things you'll hear, the auditory side. How will the words sound? How will they resonate with not just yourself but with other people? Because that's the thing about a victory speech, isn't it? It's going to resonate with other people to get them to not only feel it in the words, but be able to see it. And the other thing is, okay, the kinesthetic is the feelings. What will it feel like making this victory speech, having achieved what you want achieved, solve the problem and have the result, the success. There may even be a smell and maybe a taste of success. We call it the taste of success, don't we? The sweet smell of success. And you write that thing out, and it doesn't have to be pages and pages, but you just to go through the process of writing out even bullet points to give you an idea what it would look like, sound like, feel like, smell and taste, having resolved that problem. And then from there, starting from that success is a bit like the end of a hero's journey, coming home, describing what that would be like, noticing all your victories, noticing all the hurdles that you got over, got round, got under, dismantled, negotiated. Because that's the thing. From here you get a glimpse of what you must have had to do to get there. And you see, this is all in the first person, isn't it? This is you looking through your own eyes, giving this victory speech. And that was one thing he said, this is how I teach a team to solve the problem. Let's go to the end. But he also said he likes to go to the balcony. See, when he was having real problems with either getting to that victory speech or looking and, understanding the problem and understanding maybe the views of the opposing fractious people or things in this problem, then he would go to what he would say, the balcony, as if he was looking down at the problem to get a better view. What are we doing? Well, in LLP terms, you're going to third person that metaview. You see when you look down at a problem from up here and you see yourself or, you see the different parties that have the issues, you get to see them with a dissociated view, which means you're unattached, detached, you're unemotional about it and you're seeing it sometimes for what it really is because you're not in it. Because when you're in it, you can't read the label. You're in the bottle, in the jar. You can't read the label. When you're out, though, you can see different things and you get a different perspective on the whole issue. So now you've got that view of the balcony. And maybe here, this is what I thought, maybe you could just see that victory speech from here, too. So you could just see that unemotionally to get another check on it, to get an idea what it's all about. And you might even from here, this dissociated view, this unemotional view, like a director of a movie from just on the outside, this meta view, you maybe ask yourself questions, well, how can I make it even better? Let's imagine what steps I must have made to get here, or what steps I need to make in order to achieve that victory speech. Because there will be like, that hero's journey. There will be things along the way that, are going to trip you up. Maybe some issues you may not have foreseen. Well, if you could see them from here, you mitigate them, you do something about them, or you just have a second 2nd path, maybe then I think that victory speech becomes so much more plausible, so much more firm in your, in your grasp. You can hold it, you can see it, you can feel it, which means you've done it. Then I thought to myself, you see, and I was thinking about this. What wonderful, this was a wonderful description of how to negotiate two frictions to, two sides in opposition. Yes, I know, really, when you've got two sides, you really need to find their intention, an intention they can agree, which is part of that success as well. But then, you see, I was thinking, how could we use this or these two? Because they're slightly detached in their own thing. They weren't one, then the other or this or that. It was just two different parts of a conversation where he's explaining different ways. I thought, how could we use this for change? I want to change the way I behave, feel, or do something, or I want to get better at it. Maybe I could use this so maybe I could create a victory speech for achieving what I want to achieve, my desired state, as it were, my success, my outcome, my dream. And, I can also do this as well by looking from a balcony at the journey, the success, or, the things that I need to mitigate, things that may come along. And I'd have some questions in my mind as I do this. And, what type of questions might there be, do you think? Well, I thought there's always a critical step, the one thing, like a tipping point. I wonder what that would be. What would be the one thing that has to happen? Because, you know, some things will be fluid. Maybe it could be this or that or this and that. But there's normally something that has to happen, just the one thing. Without it, it wouldn't work. Or you could ask yourself, while I'm doing this thought process, I wonder how I can make this success even better. You see, I've got this idea what I want, but could I make it even better? Let's get that childlike quality of creativity and really think what I really want, not what I'm prepared to accept.     Think of something that you'd like to achieve. What do you specifically want   What would I really want? There's another question. It's one like ecology. And does this help other people? Does it hinder them? Is it positive? Is it negative? It's got to be positive for me, obviously. But if it's an ecological solution and an ecological desire or dream, it really needs to be positive for other people in the world, your family, your friends, people, maybe colleagues, people around you. And could it be even more? Could it help them? Now you have to think, well, how could it help them? Maybe by your experience, or giving them the experience of showing. Showing them how. How it can be done, how it can be achieved. So you become that example, the example of what can be done, the example of how you want to be in the world. Then you can, you see, that's the ecological side of it. But there's another thing about this to consider. I think, when I achieve this, and then we're talking about that success, speech, you know, that victory speech. When I get that success, that dream, that achievement, that thing that I want to change, that thing I want to be, do or have, what new opportunities will come from this, what will allow me to do? That's even more. You see, when you notice what extra things are going to happen, what new opportunities, what new goals, what wonderful things can happen, because you achieve that wonderful success is going to make it even more motivating, isn't it? So just have those questions in mind. So here's the thing. Why don't we do this right now? I might make a, hypnosis track of this as well. I've got one or two in mind now, but maybe we just do a little process right now. Oh, something small. It could be big, but just something small to get your mind into this process. So when you come to do it again and again, because these are the type of things that you can do again and again, it becomes a program of success. So I want you to think if it's okay, by the way, if you want to close your eyes, you close your eyes. You don't have to. You might a little bit later, but in this process, but initially you don't have to. But just make sure you've got times to focus on this. Only going to be about five or ten minutes, that's all at, the most. So just making sure nothing's going to take your attention. Now, if you're going to do this fully, nothing will take your attention. You're not going to be driving or anything like that. Come on, you've got to get real about this. This is something for you. So take some time out for yourself. Give yourself permission to explore this, explore your dreams and achieving your dreams, your goals, the things you want to do. Okay, so let's do this. I want you to bring to mind, think of something that you'd like to achieve. It can be big, can be small, doesn't matter. Something you want to be able to do better. Maybe you have a dream, maybe you're going to meet somebody, maybe it's in your career. Just something, don't make it huge, huge, huge, because that's too general. You're going to be specific and just think about that, bring that to mind. What do you specifically want? What do you specifically want to have happen and achieve? And I want you to imagine if you were to float out into the future to a time and a place, when you've achieved it, you've achieved that desired state, you've achieved that desired outcome, you've achieved that desired goal, that belief, maybe some behavior, a skill, go right out into the future in your mind and straight into it. I'm here, I've got it right now. And when you've got it right now, just as if you were looking through your own eyes, just notice what you'll see because it'll be different. You'll be seeing the world differently, having gone through the process all the way to here to make this a success. So as you see the world through your own eyes differently now, things will appear differently because they always do. What are the things you're saying to yourself, your internal voice, having already achieved this goal? And how will you speak on the outside to your, to the people who it affects? Maybe you'll be encouraging or maybe you're just have more skills that you'll be able to talk in more detail, to share, to learn, to maybe teach in some way. And what will it feel like. Feel the feelings of having achieved a success. Maybe there's that smell and taste and then put it all together, how you will be with all your senses having achieved this. And just notice from here, just notice what new opportunities, maybe new goals that you have are here for you right now, having achieved this success. Now, I would ask you, but we're not going to at the moment, but I would have asked you to write some this down because now you've got it. So you'd open your eyes, just write these down, maybe close them and open them and just write a few bullet points of what it feels like, what you'll see, what you'll hear, what are these opportunities? But at the moment, we're just going to keep this consciously and unconsciously, because your unconscious mind is beginning to get it now and then I want you to imagine floating just away up here, a little bit higher, as if you were looking down at you in that successful, having already achieved that desire, that goal, that dream, the thing that you wanted to have happen. And you could see way back to the now. So you may not see all the steps in a row, but you've got. Your unconscious mind can now become aware there was a process that got you from the now into here, this new future now, where you've got that success. And, maybe as you look from this dissociated, you see the you down there going through all the different things, all the different things you had to do, the steps along the way, even if you can't see them clearly, you know they're there. You knew you would have to hold that big picture in mind, this, that success speech that we've already done. You'd have to hold that in mind to keep the motivation going, because occasionally there'll be some issues you need to resolve or mitigate. But just ask your unconscious mind, what was the critical step that made this successful so great? And have your unconscious mind just notice what were the criticals, the critical step, the one step that has to be achieved. And then ask your unconscious mind, if I could make this better, if I could make it quicker, better, brighter, more effective, more pleasurable, so I can enjoy the process. I wonder what I would have done from the now right up to the success down there. What could I have done differently to make it even better? And then maybe just think. And sometimes you'll get the answers, and sometimes you just know your unconscious mind is working on this. But just notice how you've affected other people along the way and how those opportunities of reaching the success will help others, too. And, then just notice down there that you having that feeling of success along every step of the way, you and your unconscious mind working on this change together, overcoming obstacles, having fun along the way. And then when you've done all that, just open your eyes. And, when you open your eyes now, you can look around the world, you can give a little pat on the back, do something that just changed your state for a moment. Maybe just spell your name backwards in your mind out loud, say hello to somebody, notice a little bit of beauty, notice something. And as you do that and you feel differently, I know you, you know, you've now come out of that stage. Just notice how you feel about going towards that success, how you feel about writing that success speech, how you feel about taking the next step, how you feel about working on this project, this new change, this dream, this desire of yours. Because I think you'll feel different. I think you're going to feel maybe more motivated, more encouraged, or just a different belief that this is so doable and it means so much more to you now. I don't know. That's what I think. I'd be really interested to know just on that little bit of a process, because it wasn't hypnosis. It was a little bit of, you know, imagery guided imagery. You might call it visualization, but I know it's gone inside in a good way.     Every process will do something for you, and this one does   So I'd love to know what you did. I'll say that again more clearly. I'd love to know how you felt about that little process and how you feel now about it. You can email me feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged, um.com, just to give me an idea. Because what I'd like to do, I'm thinking about it, is to do a, hypnotic or hypnosis track to guide you through that more deeply. But I need to know and, have some feedback. Maybe there's things that I miss, maybe there's things I can improve. Maybe there's things that really work well that I can make even better. So I'd love your feedback on that. I'd love you to share this because I think it's important that everybody gets to find different ways. Because sometimes this is going to resonate with you 100% and you're going to go Cloughie. Best thing since sliced bread. Maybe it's going to be, well, that's not really quite working for me because not every process is going to hit the mark. I do believe it's in your desired and your intention. When you have that full, I'm, prepared to do whatever it takes intention, and I know what I want and I'm going to get it. But see, every process will do something for you, and this is one of them. You'll solve problems without knowing they were problems. But if you share this with people, you give them the opportunity to do the same, but you also get to know it better. We talk about that. As you share things and you talk about it, you get to know a little deeper, about the process of what you want. Or you might just learn more about what you want and go, oh, no, actually I found something else I want to add to it. And the more you add to it, the richer it gets. And the more you do this, that feeling inside grows. And when it grows, your unconscious mind goes, I know what you want, now let's go there, let's get it. And if you say those immortal words, this or something better, well, guess what? Your unconscious mind goes, I think, anyway, hey, hang on, buckle up, let's get going because I'm going to show you, and you'll be surprised, I think, when you look back and go, wow, I'm doing all this, all this stuff, I'm achieving all this stuff, and it becomes a habit. Success becomes a habit. Having fun becomes a habit. Finding new things to do and achieve them becomes a habit. Synchronicity becomes a habit and slaps you on the face with good stuff. Suddenly you become lucky. I'll say that again, you become lucky, and luck becomes a habit because you are creating it. You're on the cause side, you're creating all of this.     Please share, please give me the feedback. I really hope you enjoyed this podcast   So there's loads more we're gonna be talking about, loads more we can use. But isn't it interesting? well, to me it's interesting that somebody can say something which was nothing to do with what we've just done, but it created something in my mind that now has created something in your mind. And the ripples of change go so far, we never know. I know William ur, if he, he didn't realize that he was going to be talking to y through a podcast, and I'd take two dissociating things, or unrelated things and put them together, but we did, and maybe this will inspire you to do other things too. So please share, please give me the feedback. It would be awesome if you did. I'd look forward to it. I really hope you enjoyed this. And if you want that hypnosis track, you want me to do something again, I need to know because I don't want to spend all my time having a wonderful time processing and doing all this stuff and no one listened to it. But if one person listens to it and one person changes, my job's done. I'm a happy bunny. I'm a happy Cloughie. So please let me know. Email address is always the same. Feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplug.com we've seen it in the past when other people, when people have listeners have asked for things, changed things and we've created stuff for them and it's made such a difference. I'm going to do maybe an episode one day of just the feedback I get and the results that people are getting. It's awesome.     Paul  says it's time to fly on your own   Anyway, till next time my friend. Have more fun in creating success than you can stand because it's time to fly.   Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul . Time to fly on your own. 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