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The State of "I've Got This" | Personal Development Techniques Want to unlock that confident feeling whenever life throws a challenge your way? In today's episode, I'm breaking down the powerful mindset of "I've Got This" – that extraordinary state where confidence and competence come together to help you tackle anything. What You'll Discover in This Episode: How to tap into unshakeable self-confidence using proven NLP anchoring techniques The neuroscience behind creating emotional states you can access on demand My personal journey with anchoring and how it's transformed my approach to challenging situations A practical, step-by-step process to create your own confidence anchor using just your thumb and little finger Why specific, vivid memories are the secret to building powerful anchors that last The Power of Anchoring Your Confidence "When you connect a physical gesture to a powerful emotional state, you create a shortcut to confidence that works even when your mind is trying to talk you out of it." - Paul Clough I share exactly how anchors are already working in your life (sometimes without you knowing it!) and how intentional anchoring can be a game-changer for your personal development journey. Your Confidence-Building Action Step Here's your challenge this week: Follow the simple thumb-and-finger exercise I demonstrate in the episode. Practice accessing your "I've Got This" state daily for the next 7 days. Notice how your approach to challenges begins to shift. Don't let another day pass letting self-doubt run the show. This simple technique has helped thousands of my clients and students transform their relationship with confidence. Did this episode help you? I'd love to hear about it! Share your experience with the anchoring technique on social media using #paulclough or drop me a comment. Your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear right now. Please share this content with all you know who may need it: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/444-the-state-of-ive-got-this-and-how-to-get-it Shine Brightly

Navigating Indecision: A Simple Process to Move Forward Hey there, amazing friend! Ever caught yourself going round and round in circles, totally stuck on making a decision? That feeling where your brain just won't settle on which path to take? I've been there too, and in today's episode, I'm sharing exactly how to break free from that frustrating loop! I open up about my own battles with confusion and that knot-in-your-stomach anxiety that shows up when we're faced with choices. But don't worry - I've got something special for you today: a super practical process that will help you cut through the mental fog and finally move forward. Together, we'll explore how to tap into your imagination (yes, it's way more powerful than you think!) and discover the symbolic representations of what's really going on. It's amazing how our minds can show us the answers when we know how to look! What You'll Learn Today: Why indecision feels so uncomfortable (and why that's actually useful!) My step-by-step visualization process that unlocks hidden insights How to tune into what your unconscious mind is trying to tell you Simple techniques to transform your new awareness into confident action Whether you're deciding what to have for dinner or contemplating a major life change, this episode has something valuable for you. Now it's your turn! Give yourself 10 minutes to try it. Find a quiet space, close your eyes, and follow along with the episode. Please take time to try this process for yourself. Find a quiet space, close your eyes, and follow along. Then come share your experience in our community group or tag me on social media - I'd absolutely LOVE to hear what insights came up for you! Then come share your experience in our community group or tag me on social media - I'd absolutely LOVE to hear what insights came up for you! Here's the link to help you share the whole episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/443-clearing-confusion-and-finding-direction-on-our-dreams Remember, you're not meant to stay stuck. Let's break free together! Shine Brightly

Personal Development Unplugged: You CAN Achieve Anything - Here's How to Overcome Overwhelm & Regret Are you feeling stuck with too many goals and dreams but accomplishing none of them? In this eye-opening episode, Paul Clough shares a powerful but simple strategy to transform overwhelm into focused action and achieve what truly matters to you. Episode Highlights: Why having multiple goals often leads to overwhelm and procrastination The connection between goal confusion and the feeling of regret Paul's proven method for breaking free from the cycle of starting and not finishing How to prioritize your goals to feel at peace with your choices The importance of handwriting your goals instead of typing them Visualization techniques to bring your goals to life and fuel your motivation The 3-Step Process to Achieve Anything: Get all your goals out of your head - Write down every single goal, dream, and aspiration without editing or judging Identify your ONE most important goal - Ask yourself: "If I could only have one, which would bring the richest experience to my life?" Visualize your success - Imagine having achieved this goal and experience the feelings, sights, sounds, and even smells of success Key Takeaway: "You can achieve anything you want but you have to work at it in a particular way." - Paul Clough Stop letting overwhelm hold you back from living the life you want. By focusing on what truly matters most, you can find peace with prioritizing and start building momentum through achievement. Don't forget to share, subscribe, and leave a review if this episode helped you take action toward your goals. Together, we can create ripples of positive change!  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/442-i-cant-achieve-anything-heres-how-you-can Connect With Paul: Have a success story to share? Questions about personal development? Email Paul directly at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com for a personal response!     Shine Brightly

Making Anxiety Your Friend Transforming Anxiety into Your Best Friend Hey beautiful souls! Paul here, and I'm SO excited to share this week's episode with you! Ever thought about what anxiety is REALLY trying to tell you? What if I told you that those anxious feelings aren't your enemy but actually your protector in disguise? In this episode, I'm taking you on a journey to completely flip how you view anxiety. This isn't just theory - we're diving into practical techniques I've used with hundreds of clients that ACTUALLY WORK. What You'll Discover: The surprising truth about anxiety's protective nature (this changed everything for me!) My step-by-step process for having a conversation WITH your anxiety How to transform this relationship from battle to partnership Real, actionable steps to move toward your dreams while feeling genuinely safe This isn't about pushing anxiety away or "managing" it - it's about bringing it closer and understanding what it's been trying to tell you all along! The transformation I've seen in clients who apply these principles is nothing short of amazing. If you're tired of fighting your feelings and ready for a completely different approach, this episode could be the game-changer you've been searching for. Share this with someone who might be struggling - sometimes the right message at the right time can change everything: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/441-making-anxiety-your-friend/ ‎ Give it a listen, and PLEASE let me know how these techniques work for you! I read and respond to every message at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Remember to shine your beautiful light today! ✨ Paul x Connect With Me: Got thoughts? Questions? Breakthroughs? Email me! feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube Deeper work: Visit PaulCloughOnline.com FREE GIFT: Download my hypnosis tracks at paulcloughonline.com/podcast Twitter: @pcloughie While I'm a qualified therapist, this podcast offers educational guidance, not personalized therapeutic advice. For individual concerns, please consult a healthcare professional. Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic (via Pixabay) Remember: Your anxiety has been trying to protect you all along - isn't it time you listened?   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough talks about letting go of anxiety to live the life you want     Hey, isn't it nice, just nice having friends? We all want friends, don't we? It's nice to have good friends, isn't it? So, maybe just distant friends, but it's just nice to have maybe someone closer that you can share with, share your thoughts and sometimes maybe just help support. It's nice helping people, isn't it? Helping friends succeed. Here's the thing. What's this podcast all about? Well, personal development, unplugged, we also call it from anxiety to confidence. Letting go of anxiety. Finding ways, ways and processes to allow you to be free of worries, fears, all other issues. and live the life you want. Imagine living the life you dream for yourself and it becomes your reality. Wouldn't that be nice? And then to be able to share it with people. Here's the thing, though. Here's what I want you to imagine. I want you to imagine your anxiety. Because we all have anxiety, whether it's big, small or whatever, but we all have anxiety of some kind. For some of us, it's just a little bit. Some of us it's panic. Some of it leads to overwhelm, impostor syndrome, all that stuff. It's all sort of an anxiety, a fear of something, isn't it? We all have it. Social anxiety, you know, ocd, it all has its core, I guess, with fear, anxiety. But here's the thing. I want you in a moment if it's okay. He. This is the thing to imagine. Anxiety is being a friend, a friend that's always with you. Well, it is, isn't it? You know, that fear, that anxiety, that panic or whatever it is for you, that imposter syndrome, things like that, that I shouldn't be here and I'm not good enough. It's all based around anxiety. Remember, that is one of your best friends is your best friend. It's hard, isn't it? It's hard. Hard as something like that. Something that scares a living bjeebas out of you. How can that be your friend? You know. It doesn't feel good, doesn't it? It doesn't feel good at all. When you re feeling anxious and those pictures in your mind, the voice is in your head. Because we all have voices, by the way. Everyone has a voice. Some of us have more. But how can that be your friend? Well, here's the thing, if you ever thought about it this way, the Thing that you're frightened about, it's never really happened, is it? I mean some people, are, are frightened of heights for an example. Never fallen off a curb. They haven't fallen off anything because their fear has protected them in some ways. It stopped them going near the edges of anything, anything that could harm, if you think of, if you have a fear of presenting things so many bad things would happen to you if you were to speak in public. Well, that fear has protected you because you've never had to speak in public at all. Because you just don't do it. You hide. But it feels horrible, doesn't it. But your best friend has kept you alive from public speaking or whatever your fear is, even if you don't know what it is exactly. Your best friend has been there 247 every day, every day, doing its best for you, trying to protect you in some way or other. And it's normally the other way, the fearful way. Using your imagination in reverse, as it were. Because we've got such a wonderful power of imagination where we could, if we wished, imagine, all wonderful things, the wonderful things that could happen and then we could learn from that. But because it's so powerful, your unconscious mind uses it as a powerful good, as it were, to make you think of all the things that could go wrong. So you don't do that thing and you don't do that thing and therefore it doesn't go wrong. It's protected you again. But it feels horrible, doesn't it? Not doing the thing that you really want to do. And what do we normally do? We don't listen to that little voice saying it's okay. But also we try to push away the voice that's telling you don't do that, don't do that, you're not good enough. We try to push it away, don't we? Because we don't like it. We don't like the feeling that goes with it. We don't like the emotion. And we really try to push hard. Those pictures in our mind that spin round the movies that keep going on in loops and loops. We try to turn them off, don't we? We push them away. Know if you're anything like me, I'll swear at myself. I'll give myself a right good telling. Enough. I don't want to be like this. God, this is no good. What are you trying to do to me? Blah bah, blahah. And I go on and on. And if that's your best friend, that's a tough gig to have, isn't it? You imagine trying to help somebody. Imagine this if you were, a best friend of somebody and you really wanted to help them and you started to help me and they just pushed you away. They kept telling you, oh, go away, stop it, I don't want this.     Your best friend gives you a little bit of fear to stop you doing things   Well, after a while you'd give up, wouldn't you? You'd give up on your best friend and that you said, well, it's up to you. But your best friend, anxiety, fear doesn't stop. It says, no, I am going to stay here 247 protecting you the only way I know how. Because in the past it worked when you were little and this thing came along and I give you a little bit of fear. Not a lot, just enough to stop you, it works. So I just keep doing it even more. See, if you go back years and years and years, you'd probably might be able to remember a time when it wasn't like as intense. It wasn't as intense as it is now. It's like a snowball coming downhill. It's got bigger and ah, more intense because that's what we do. We're going to keep doing this stuff. So your best friend doesn't really know at the moment what it could do differently. So it just does more of the same, but more intense. And when you think, think about the stuff that you really want to do, the stuff that you're frightened of doing, maybe frighten of meeting people, frightened of speaking up, maybe going for that career change, maybe doing something that's to going to make you better, maybe gives you better experiences. You really want that stuff, don't you? You really want. And you would give your eye teeth, if you teeth have eyes, to do that and be safe at the same time. If you Knew without doubt 100% that you could do whatever you wanted to do and be safe, you do it, wouldn't you? You would if you knew you could go and speak to people and you knew that you wouldn't be embarrassed, you wouldn't feel guilty, you wouldn't feel anything other than the good feelings that come with that and learn from it. You'd think, damn, this is good, that's what I want. And the thing is, this is where the conflict is. You've got your unconscious mind trying to keep you safe from the things that you're frightened of by making you frightened. And that's a direct conflict. You see, you're actually feeling the feelings that you don't want to feel in order to protect yourself. It's a direct conflict. But what, what about this? Have a. Just put everything to one side for the moment and think this. Maybe if you understood what that part of you, that part of you that's running, this anxiety, this fear, this I'm not good enough, or whatever, you fill in the blank. If you understood what it was trying to do, you'd probably be able to, maybe you have a little conversation. Couldn't you say, well, because if your best friend is doing something, well, actually I really appreciate what you're trying to do, but it's not quite working. If you did it this way, but you got a chance to understand why they were doing it, what they were trying to do for you. And in the same way as I said, if you were to have this chat with your best friend, this part of you, so they could understand what you think, what you want, how you want to be, wouldn't that be a way forward? Because that's the thing about negotiations, isn't it? You find out what you both parties really want. What is their highest intention? Well, and in this particular thing is you want to do stuff and be safe. And your unconscious mind wants to keep you safe. So the highest intention is to be safe. Well, if we start from that and work backwards, we could find ways to allow you to do stuff, couldn't we? And be safe. And your, unconscious mind, you're. That part of you that's running this little, this gig could actually use different things, couldn't it? But how is this part of you going to know? And that's where we come in here. So if you would like to do it now, I'm, not going toa explain what's going toa happen. This're going toa come with me. But all you need is a few things. The will to do wherever it takes. We've talked about that before. Just go with what we're doing can only make things better. And remember, I'm a therapist, but not your therapist. But this is just a lovely little process of understanding what's happening and make sure that it's going to be eyes closed. Probably you can do it with eyes open and move around in different, different, places in a room. But maybe you're going to do it in your head. But if you've got, you know, there's no one around, hey, let's use different spaces. But again, I'm being a bit mischievous because I'm not telling you what's going to happen. But here's what I want you to do, make sure that you're going to be undisturbed so you're not having to pay attention to anything. Nothing at all needs your attention. No person, no thing, no nothing. So, you know, certainly not driving, any acts of machinery, whatever type of machinery that could be. You know, if you listen to this, this is something that you could do on your own and in your own mind. So we don't want to be disturbed because it's fun to go inside.     Use hypnosis to ask your unconscious mind questions about safety   So here we go. If it's okay anyway. If it's okay, just ask in your. Ask inside with your internal voice. You can ask outside if you want. But this internal voice, give yourself permission to learn, to learn from this part of you. Notice you could ask, is it, okay with you, my unconscious mind? Just to see if we can find a better way to be safe. And as it's a prime directive of your unconscious mind to keep you safe in some ways, it has to listen, doesn't it? Has to listen to exploring ways to keep you safer, than it's doing at the moment. And then when you're ready, close your eyes and, breathe normally. Just breathe. It's not hypnosis, but it's a process of internal thoughts and dialogue. And I want you to imagine with your eyes closed, standing in front of you, maybe sitting, I don't know. But in front of you, just over there is this part of you that's running this. This process of anxiety, fear, I'm not good enough, all those things. And it's here to listen to you. So ask this part of you a question. And it could be as simple as, what are you trying to do for me? M Simple as that. And just ask that question, what are you trying to do for me? And listen with all your senses. Just listen to this part of you in front of you. And you can actually look at that part of it and notice the qualities of that part. Is it like a person? Is it just a shape? Is it just a color? Just notice not doing anything with it. Just want you to get a better feel, as it were, of this part of you. And just explain how it's making you feel. Because I'm sure it just wants to make you safe. But just explain how this attempt to make you safe is actually making you feel unsafe. And as you do that in your own internal voice, notice that part of you in front of you listens intently, takes it all in. And when you've finished that little statement, I want you to imagine now floating out of your Body out in front of you and into that part of you, that part of you that's running this fear, this anxiety. And you're looking back at you now, you can see yourself in front of you. And you hear those words again, how you, how it's making you feel. And from here, this part of you just notice the words this part of you wants to say to you over there of what it's trying to do for you, how much it's trying, to keep you safe. And then listen, because you might just find out right now what it's trying to do for you. And notice, if it fully understands your thoughts, your words. Because I'm sure if this part now knew exactly the way you felt, how much you want to feel safe, but not in this way because it doesn't feel safe. Maybe you could ask from here, suggesting better ways. Maybe this part of you could, begin to access all your skills, all the things in the past where you have done things and been safe, and begin to notice if it use those instead. But as it's doing that, I want you to float back into your own body again. Just float out and into your own body, looking back at that part of you that's running this anxiety and explain to it your dreams and how you want to be, how you want to be in the world, the things that you'd like to do and like to do them with that wonderful belief that you'll always be safe. Maybe m it is that career change. Maybe it is speaking to people. Maybe is finding and approaching somebody, whatever it is for you, just explain to that part of your exactly what you want. And then just notice as you say that, just float out of yourself and back into that, that part of you in front. And notice looking back at you now, does this part really understand what you want, how you want it? Because you'll want the same things. This part of you wants safety for you. And maybe up until now I didn't realize that there are so many better ways to be and didn't realise exactly what you wanted and how you wanted to be and what you wanted to achieve. And just notice from here how you can get a sense of understanding and then come back from that partner into you again. And listen, invite that part of you to explain or suggest new ways how the two of you could work together now to achieve the things that you want to be in harmony. Just notice that it fully understands how you want to be. And if it doesn't, just share it back. So you have this dialogue now. So this part of you knows exactly how you want to be and understands that it can now access all your skills. Maybe you need to learn a little bit more and it can find that for you. Maybe there's things you need to prepare for and it can help you with that, to do it in a way that is easy and effortless, comfortable. So you can be competent in your confidence and just notice has the two of you become one in your approach now, your direction, your aim? Notice how this part of you just notice if it changes at all in its appearance, maybe does it feel more comfortable with itself and you now being your best friend, but now helping you in ways that make you feel comfortable. And maybe you could just float out of your body again, but float higher and higher so you as if you were looking down on the two of you that you down there and that best friend, that part of you that used to run that old anxiety. And from here, way up here, this meta view, this dissociated view, you can access the learnings that you could bring back to those two down there. Because from here you can give advice. You can share what they've missed. Maybe it's intuitive, maybe it's in aha moment. But share with them now with your in internal voice. Just share to the two of them this information you're gleaming now, this feeling, this sense how they can work together to achieve what you want to achieve in the world. And for this part of you to be able to help you achieve it and be safe and comfortable to enjoy the process. And as you do that, just float back down, just for the moment, float into that part of you, pick it up and bring it back into you so you'll know now back into yourself or by your wonderful self, together now as one. And just for a moment, just for a moment. Begin to dream. Dream of how you want to be. Do the things you've always wanted to do and notice you could do them. And you're doing them in your mind now, imagineering how it could be to have fun, to enjoy, to learn, and to be so comfortable in this. Yes, you may stretch yourself a little bit, but each little stretch just expands your sense of competence and confidence to do other things in different areas of your life. Because this is just you doing the things that you want to do. So use this moment or two just to really imagine that you over there now doing the things you always wanted to do it to. Doing them easily, with ease, with comfort, comfortably, competently and confidently, and achieving the goals that you imagined you were going to do what you set out, what you intended to do, and, notice how the two of you feel so good together and then bring that. You. That confident, Confident you. That feels at ease and comfortable back into you. That's right. And m. When you're ready, you can open your eyes. Open your eyes, look at the world and notice. I don't know if you notice. When we do this type of work, you open your eyes and everything seems so clear, so vivid. Maybe things just appear a little lighter. Lighter in every sense of the word. Yeah. And, now all you have to do is to begin to plan those dreams, requesting, as it were, from your best friend the help that it's now here for you. And then as we do here, there's, so many resources here to help you set your goals, your aims in mind to do the things you want to do.     Allow your dreams to come into your imagination and then imagine how you'll achieve them   So go and just make. Allow your dreams to first of all come into your imagination and then imagine how you're going to take that first small step in achieving it and then the next small step and the next small step. Because that's how dreams and goals are made. Little steps that just get bigger and quicker and so wonderful to allow you to feel good, to do the stuff you want to do. And that's what it's like in personal development, unplugged. To do the things you want to do in such a wonderful way. And this process is such a simple process. But now you and your best friend, the whole of you, because that part of you is now integrated with all the rest of you. And now you can work towards living the life you want to live, experiencing all the experiences you want to experience and have fun. wallow in a wonderful life, the feelings of a wonderful life. Because look for feelings. If you can look for feelings, that's where. Because that's what goals are really for, aren't they? It's the feelings that they ultimately give you along the way, along the adventure, and at the end, so you can then create more goals, more dreams, and hopefully share those skills that you learn with the people around you. Be the change you want to see in others, and be the change you want to see in yourself. And they can't help but, get it. There you go. I hope you enjoyed that. There's another little process of making anxiety. Your friend. Hope you enjoyed it. Please do share it with people, because it is a good, lovely little Share this podcast, if you would. I know it takes a little bit of time just to press that share button, but if you were just share it to a few people, maybe all of everyone, so they too can get the benefit of being congruent in their life, being aligned with their goals and those goals and dreams becoming in their reality. Because wouldn't that be make it? Wouldn't that be make it? Wouldn't that be make it a wonderful world? It would. And you affect the people close to you. And you'd never know how far the ripples have changed go, because they just go so far and wide. And that's an awesome thing to know, knowing that you don't know how far the changes will go, but you know they will. Yeah. And if you haven't pressed, subscribe or follow, please do. Because that's what I want you to do. Because it'd be good to get these podcast episodes in your little, little podcast box. Whatever. You get a bid every week. And if there is anything you'd like to know from me, a process, how to deal with a particular issue, you know what to do. Email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com do. And there's so many other resources here. You know, you've got, I don't know, 65 plus or whatever it is, free with my compliments. Hypnosis tracks. No credit cards, no nothing like that. You just send me an email. Well, you don't send me an email. You just go to poolclfonline.com podcast, fill in the little bit and you get access, you get a link, your personal link to all those hypnosis tracks. If you want to know about that, I'll stick it in just at the end before we fly. So I'll probably say in a moment we're going to fly, but don't fly. Have 90 seconds of hypnosis information, okay. And then join me in my mind. Your mind Making changes, wonderful changes. There you go. It's time to go, my friend. It's time to fly. But remember, 90 seconds of hypnosis coming right now.   So the 90 seconds of hypnosis tracks. Why have I put hypnosis tracks on a separate website?   Well, it's so simple really.   I wanted you to have them all in one place so you can look through them all. You can find the particular one you want. I've even made them downloadable so you can put them on any of your playing devices that you prefer. You don't need wi fi, you don't need the itunes or whatever. You can put them anywhere you like.   You can even burn them onto diss if you want.   Where do you get them?   Well, There you go.   I told you. It's porclufonline.com podcast. If you're worried about your email address, please don't be, because they stay totally safe with me. I only use them to send you out that email and give you access. Simple as that. I send you a link, special link, so you and only you can access those hypnosis tracks. Because I want them just for you. And the other thing about this is you've taken responsibility. I don't want to make these open to everyone, just random. You have taken responsibility to listen and be part of this community of personal development.   And I want to help you.   I want to help you personally to get your dreams, your goals. And therefore, I'm giving you these tools, these protocols, these paradigms, whatever you want to call them, but in deep hypnosis. So just enjoy. Have more fun than you can stand with hypnosis.   Warning, you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

Feeling ANXIOUS? Transform It Into CALM! Personal Development Unplugged Hey, beautiful souls! This week on the podcast, I'm taking you on a transformative journey from anxiety to calm. Not just theory—we're diving into a PRACTICAL process you can use anytime those anxious feelings start creeping in. What You'll Discover in This Episode: The body-mind connection of anxiety and why identifying WHERE you feel it makes all the difference A powerful guided visualization that transforms anxiety into something completely different (and yes, it WORKS!) How specific colors can become your secret weapons against anxious thoughts My step-by-step approach to rewriting the stories that keep anxiety alive This episode isn't just about feeling better for a moment—it's about developing a TOOLBOX you can use whenever life gets overwhelming. I'll walk you through the entire process with the gentle guidance I'm known for, helping you access resources you already have within yourself (even if you don't realize it yet!). I've seen this technique change lives in my therapy practice, and now I'm bringing it directly to YOU. If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who might be struggling: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/440-imagine-anxiety-spinning-away/ Shine your light today! ✨ Paul Ready to Connect? Questions, thoughts, or breakthroughs to share? I LOVE hearing from you! Drop me a line at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com or leave a comment. Never Miss an Episode Subscribe on your favorite platform: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube Go Deeper Transform your life with my specialized programs at PaulCloughOnline.com: Supreme Inner Confidence Building Freedom from Anxiety Transformational Hypnosis Tracks FREE GIFT: Relaxation Hypnosis Tracks Download my complimentary hypnosis tracks at paulcloughonline.com/podcast Let's Connect Twitter: @pcloughie Important Note: While I'm a qualified therapist, this podcast is for educational purposes only. The hypnosis tracks aren't suitable while driving, operating machinery, or for those with epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare professional when needed. Music credits: Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others via Pixabay #PersonalDevelopment,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Imagine this. Imagine you're a client of mine, but you're not. But imagine this coming into my clinic, comes through the door and there we are. You've got this lovely seat, doesn't. It's not a lay down seat, but it's one of those reclining seats, really comfortable. And you've come in, talk about this negative emotion you've been feeling. This feeling is, you know, it's anxiety. Now anxiety as we know is really general. It just means so many different things to each and every different person, I guess, doesn't it? Everyone will experience anxiety in a different way and it will be caused by different things triggered in different ways. Because everyone, I guess, is unique, isn't it? Aren't they? Aren't you? And I'd ask, so if you had just two sentences, what do you really want from this session? And they'd say, something like, well, I just want to feel so less anxious. And I'd say, well, just less anxious, a little bit or a lot. And they go, well, of course I don't want to. I want. And then get stuttery because that's what happens sometimes because we're anxious. And I'll say, well, what would happen if we could change that feeling of anxiety to something really comfortable? So you could deal with different situations where you used to be anxious in the past and you could feel differently, what would that be like? And of course the obvious answer is, well, that'll be awesome, Paul. Can you, you know, can we do that? So I can't do it. I can for myself, but I can guide you to it. You see, I'd explain. I'd explain the feelings, you see, Think now, when you think back to that feeling of anxiety, where'd you feel it in your body? And people go, oh, I haven't really thought about. It's always in my head. no, no, no, no, no. It goes to your head and creates that internal dialogue, that internal voice, those that the internal movie that we make of all the worst things happening, but that comes from somewhere else. It starts from a feeling. That feeling is triggered by something. And that feeling comes and then it tends to spread to your head into your mind. So just think back if you had that feeling right now, not at a 10 out of 10 scale, 10 being the worst, but a 4, 4 out of 10. So we know what it is, but it's Something we can deal with easily and effortlessly. And then sit in that comfortable chair and go, well, actually just about here. Just about here. And I said, well, put your hand on it because I want to know exactly where it is. they put their hand on the place where that feeling is. And I say, I bet you didn't realize the emotions, good, bad, indifferent, negative, positive, all seem to move. They move in a circular motion. They start somewhere, they go somewhere and they come back. So if you can imagine it going round in a circle, and I take my finger and point to a similar place on my body, where there. And I just move my hand in a circular motion, like CL. Clockwise in front of me. And I say, it could go this way and then I'd reverse it the other way or this way, or back to front in a circle or reverse. But it just moves. And the thing is, when we find the direction of your anxiety, we can change it. And then look at me a bit puzzled, but I says, okay, all you have to do is follow my instructions. So what I want you to do is see. I'll explain what I'm going to do. I'm explain. I want you in a moment to close your eyes and imagine a big movie screen in front of you. And what I'm to ask you to do is bring to mind a memory, a specific memory, when you felt that feeling. Not a 10 out of 10, 4 of 4 out of 10. So we know we're on the right way. We know we're dealing with that specific feeling, but not at its intent. It's most intense. And I say what I'm going to do then is ask you to play a movie of that experience, that memory, as if you're looking at a movie of yourself. So you'd see yourself on that screen beginning to go through that memory. And as you do that, I'll say I want you then to float out into that movie. And then what I'll do is I'm going to ask you to point with your finger at, that place in your body when you feel that feeling and notice which way it turns. And I want you to turn that hand in front of your body in that circular motion. And if you don't quite get it, you can guess a little bit. It's all intuitive. And when you get it, I'm going to ask you to speed that up just a little bit. Not a lot. So you just speed it up, say 10%. And as we begin to speed it up, you'll find if we've got the right direction, it'll get a little bit more intense. Not a lot, just a little. And the you nod your head to say, yeah, I've got that. I'll say slow it down. And then I don't tell them what's going to happen next. It's really weird. And at the end of it, something quite marvellous happens. Hey, it's Paul from Personal Development Unplugged. Did you like that? Did you do a little bit of it? Did you think about it? Well, here's the thing. If it's okay with you, why don't we do that now properly, as if you were a client of mine. But remember you're not a client of mine and I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist and it has to be right to do so. And you have to make that decision that we're not doing a 10 out of 10 because that would just be silly because this is a process of changing anxiety. So we don't need full blown anxiety to do that, we just need a snippet of it as it were. So if you're up for that, I've told you the start of it. Remember we're going to make a movie.     Using visualization to get rid of anxiety is a fast process   You're going to. Well first of all you're got toa get that feeling. Then we're going toa have eyes closed movie screen, press play as it were, run the movie. You're going to float out of your body into that. You on the screen feel the feeling and begin to move your hand in that circle. Then not telling you what happens next, but I'll do it with you. So if you're up for that, make sure you don't need anything that needs your attention. No driving, no machinery involved or anything that needs your attention. You're not walking, not doing anything because it's eyes closed. You could do it with your eyes open but there's too many distractions. I like to do it eyes closed. So just get comfortable. So if you're up for this, find a comfortable place to sit, take a nice in breath with me, hold it for a second or two, and as you let it out, just let your eyes close. There you go. And remember a time, a specific time when you felt that anxiety. We'll call it anxiety for the moment. You might call it something else, you might call it scared, fear, whatever is'just for me. We'll call it anxiety and remember a specific time. A specific time. And it's only a four out of ten. Remember ten being the worst zero being not, don't feel it. And when you remember that specific time, imagine out in front of you a lovely big movie screen. And if you've got like a TV control, you press play and you begin to see that memory with you in that screen going through that memory, just about to experience that anxiety over there. But you're not in moment because you see, I want you now, as you see yourself on that movie screen, to flow out of your body into that you on the screen, see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel those feelings, those four out of 10 feelings. That's the intensity, four out of 10. And as you feel that feeling, just point your finger to the place on your body where you can feel it. And as you do that, let your unconscious mind and your conscious mind, but your unconscious mind begin to move that hand in that circular direction. That could be clockwise, anti clockwise, forward and back in a circular motion. But just imagine that you know which direction it is and allow your hand to move. Just let it move. Could be slowly, but don't do it fast. Not fast. This is not a fast process in the manner of. That is a fast process of getting rid of anxiety. And as you do that, you notice your hand begin to move. And if it isn't moving, just imagine that you do know and guess, because your guesses are pretty good. And as you begin to move that hand, just speed it up a little bit. Not a lot. I go mad. Just speed it up a little bit. And as you speed it up just a little bit, notice that feeling. Does it get more intense or not? If it gets more intense, you've got it. And slow it down. You now know the direction. If it doesn't get more intense, just go back to that feeling and begin to move your hand in a different way. Speed it up a little bit until you find. Until you find the direction where when you speed it up a little bit, that negative emotion of call anxiety gets a little bit more intense. Now you've got it. Yeah, slow it down. And I want to ask you the question. What colour is this feeling? It's weirdn't it? What color comes to mind? Just like that, what colour is anxiety? Yeah, you got it. Now here's what I want you to do. I want you to have the hand that's turning and turning to move out away from your body. So you're still turning, but you're effectively like pulling that feeling out of your body, still turning. And as you do that, 1, 2, 3, flip it and turn it the other way. Turn it the other way. And as you turn it the other way, begin to bring it your hand back towards your body with it turning the opposite direction. And then think what colour is calm? What colour is calm and make that turning that colour and bring it back into your body. And as you bring it back into your body, really make it that colour of car, your colour of carb. And as you do that, notice what happens inside your body. You're now spinning this feeling the opposite direction and you've giving it the color of calm. Where's the feeling going? It's disappearing, isn't it? I know it is. I know it is. Really visualize that feeling of calm and spin it maybe a little bit faster. I don't mind this one spinning a little bit faster because that just makes calm even more intense. And as you do that, and you've got this feeling of calm, imagine rewinding that movie with this feeling of calm. And now run that movie from just before it started, that event started. And have this feeling of calm and this feeling spinning the opposite direction of the old way a little bit faster. And now go through that memory and notice how different it could have been if you'd have had this feeling this way. Spinning this way round and feeling of calm. Yeah, just notice how different it could have been. How much easier it is to go through it now. And when you've done that, keep that hand turning by the way, turning the opposite way that it was at the beginning. And then if you want rewind that movie to the beginning again maybe 10 minutes before it even started. And now you know what that movie is. And knowing that calm is calm, what would you add to come as a most wonderful feeling that would enhance come and would have made that memory even more comfortable. And when you think of that emotion, you'd add to that. That feeling you'd add to that cup.     Use these techniques to help your unconscious mind learn new ways to process memories   What color is that? And that hand seal spinning and it's color of calm. And now add that new colour of that new wonderful positive emotion and allow them to blend together to crackle, to sparkle. Feel that feeling get even more empowering. And then as you do that 10 minutes before that movie, just run it now run that movie. And notice as you run that movie with these two resources now, two feelings, two emotions, how much easier it is now. How much easier is and go through that movie noticing how easy it is now, how more. So much more comfortable it is. Yeah. and Then slow it all down. Open your eyes and Say thank you. Cloughie. No. There you go. And the question is, I know the answer to this, but was it better the second time with calm than the first? And the answer is always yes. And the number four out, of ten could have gone down to zero. But when you add that other colour that you know would have been the best resource to have, you're making like a recipe now with calm and its foundation as you were, how much different that memory could have been. And we haven't changed the memory, but we've changed your learnings and we're changing the learnings of the unconscious mind. Because the unconscious mind did that, anxiety for a reason, to keep you safe. But we've now shown you unconscious mind two better ways. So out of the three ways, there's two better ways. And maybe if you said this or something better, there is a myriad of a cocktail of wonderful positive emotions that you could have a recipe, as it were, of wonderful feelings that would address any situation in the future. That where in the past you would have had those anxious feelings and you'd have acted anxiously. But now you can imagine going through anything in the future now that where it used to trigger in the past that old anxiety, now it would trigger one of the myriad wonderful ways, if nothing else would just trigger calm or trigger calm. And so your unconscious mind can learn because it has a prime directive to protect you. And we've just found better ways than anxiety to protect you. So again, say this and something better and just wonder what it be like. What would it be like at any time in the future, in the now, if you were to come to a thing that in the past where you would have been anxious in, what would it be like to access these wonderful feelings, what would that be like? And just let that go. I mean, you can do this as many times as, like, rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat. So you can't get that old way back. in fact, the old ways trigger the new ways. So you can go back over what we've just done, make it even faster in the wonderful different colors, because you know the direction now, don't you? You don't have to go back and find the old way and then take it out and bring it back, you know, the new way and just rinse and repeat. Think of a time in the past where you had that little bit of anxiety. Remember, four or five out of ten, no more. As you think of that time, spin it this new direction, the opposite direction, you know what you've got. Add the Most appropriate colour of calm and anything new which you feel would be great and just keep rinsing and repeating, rinse and repeating because it's like, I think we've said it before like if you had a cd, the old CDS that used to play music on and if you scratch them enough times they would never play the same and this is what you're doing to the memories. but you're learning each time by learning new ways.     Paul uses NLP to help clients access emotions and beliefs   And here's a question for you and this is a question I always ask my clients when they look at me in amazement with that feeling gune and they look at that old memory and they go o that memory is different now because I know how it could have been, how I could have used the resources I've got now and how I will in the future. And I'll ask them the question well, who did that? And initially they started to say well you did cluy they didn't call me cluy, they called me Paul. You did Paul. I'm thinking well did I know the feelings you were experiencing? Well, not really. I showed you where it were, pointed to him Paul but that's all. Did I know the movie, the content of that movie? No, not at all. Did I know anything about that second emotion? Not at all. So who did it? And it then just comes well of course I did it because you see when I say ay that's them m saying ay because you did it, didn't you? You did it. See, I was just a guide that's all guiding you through a wonderful easy process. And one thing about this process is it has no content, does it? No words. So you don't have to explain things, you don't have to try to describe things, you don't have to go through anything that is negative. Relive the past because you're not reliving it at all really. because we're just going through a process of 4 out of 10. But the more you think about these new ways times in the past that would have costused you a lot more than a 4 out of 10, 5 out of 10 if they came in the future now you know you're going to breathe through it by because you're going to access the most appropriate emotion, behaviors, thoughts, beliefs and your beliefs about how you're going to approach life are going to change now because beliefs change in a second in that little click they change there. you go and you think here's the real kicker because I love this process, I really love this process. I do it with every client just to show that they have the power, they have their own empowerment as it were, to change the way they feel, the way they act and what they believe in. Now a lot of people just think, well all these processes is a lovely NLP process. It's all about changing subm modalities if you want another technical bit. But I always say to my clients, well that's great because see my mum used to do this, bless her when she was alive, when she had to go to hospital a few times and they used to bring the doctor round or the doctor used to bring around all these learning doctors I guess you call them, studying doctors or whatever, doctors in practice, whatever. And she would get really anxious and I taught her this. Now bless her, she wanted to do it with a hand because she knew it worked so well. So every time they come round she'd ask them, before you say anything, could you just stop for a moment? Because I want to close my eyes, I have to get this feeling and I have to point my finger towards it and then I have to turn my hand around and then bring it out, turn it over, make it calm and bring it back in. And when my brought it back in I'll nod to you and you can start talking. And she would do it every time, bless her because it was like her anchor to calmness. She didn't need to because it, the sight of those doctors now would have turned on the calmness but she just loved doing it. Used to tell him, my son told me to do this so I've got to do it, bless. But the thing is, here's, as I said the kicker. A lot of people think that using these processes ah, are only used with negative emotions. And that's such Bs. That's just short sightedness, that's lack of creativity. You see. What about if you had a good feeling so you know you're going to say an event in the future and there's something where you want a little bit of confidence, not overconfidence but competence, where you've accessed all the information you want. Say you're doing a presentation so you go back at times when you've presented, doesn't have to be the same type of presentation but where you've talked to people and you've just been so comfortable being able to access the information you want to communicate and you go back into that feeling, notice which way it turns, notice what color it is. But this time instead of taking it out and reversing the spin. This is a good feeling. So spin it faster, spin it f and make the colors even brighter so you feel that feeling so intensely. And then imagine going through that future event with this feeling, spinning this fast, and learn from it. And maybe just play around with adding different feelings to it, spinning it even faster. And notice how you could go through that movie of a future event, feeling so comfortable, saying in the immortal words this or something better. And then just wonder with your internal voice what would be like to have access to all these wonderful feelings and even better ones when I actually do and go through the event I've been thinking about. And then you ll just let it gouse your unconscious mind will, as soon as it comes to that event, will trigger those feelings. You won't have to do it, but if you want to, just to get it. Because it's a great way to feeling good. And it becomes as if it's a memory. Because your unconscious mind find it very difficult to find the difference between the real thing that's happening and your visualizations. So it begins to think, well, we've done it this way before and it's good. And it can start to imagine doing things even better. There you go. That's something I do in my clinic. But do remember I'm a therapist. Not your therapist and all that stuff. And only ever do it for yourself. A four out of ten. Ten being the worst. But you can have fun with this. And this is the whole point about these processes. They are very simple. They do take a little bit of effort. You have to, I always say, have the will to do whatever it takes, but just do them and notice the difference it makes. And then play with the good feelings in the future. Cause you see if you keep playing with the good feelings when you have them thinking about things, it's a bit like planting flowers, isn't it? And pulling up the weeds. The more good feelings you spin in your life, the more energy you have. You. It's like that vibration. You are vibrating at a different energy or a different vibe. Frequency, I think they call it. I'm, not into that stuff in the technical thing, but I do know that once you start feeling good, good things happen to you. Synchronicity, you know, things just happened, are't they? Coincidence? No. This is you practicing to be good, feeling good, being successful in whatever you do and then having that successor. and good feelings being attracted, to you. And then all the new opportunities too. Because that's what it means. I hope, I always hope this that I communicated this in a way that made it easy to follow. If I didn't, please let me know because I need to improve my communication. So if there was anything that I didn't make clear, please email me feedback personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. and then I'll rectify that with another podcast. I'd love to hear about your experiences once you've done this. Just let me know.     Please share this podcast so we don't need anxiety in our lives   Same email address feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. and maybe if you got something out of this, it resonated, it makes sense. You did it and you just knocked it out of the park. Please share this with as many other people so they we don't need anxiety in our lives. There are better resources to use to deal with the events in our lives. Anxiety used to protect us. Now we've got so much, so many better ways to do it. Some of the best skills, emotions that we can access. So please do share this and maybe explain it to other other people too, so you get to learn it even more deeply. But please share the podcast and if you haven't done it already, which I'm sure you have, please of ###e follow whatever the button is on your on your thing of app of choice. So you get these podcasts weekly, okay? So have more good feelings than you can stand, more spinning the wonderful way, more brighter than you could ever imagine, and wallow in the success and the good feelings that you have and ah, will have in the future. Because it's now time to fly. I'll see ya. Bye bye now.     Paul Clough puts hypnosis tracks on a separate website   So the 90 seconds of hypnosis tracks why I put hypnosis tracks on a separate website. Well, it's so simple really. I wanted you to have them all in one place so you can look through them all. You can find the particular one you want. I've even made them downloadable so you can put them on any of your playing devices that you prefer. You don't need WI fi, you don't need the itunes or whatever. You can put HM them anywhere you like. You can even burn them onto dis if you want. Where'do you get them? Well, there you go. I told you, it's paulcloughonline.com podcast. If you're worried about your email address, please don't be because they stay totally safe with me. I only use them to send you out that email and give you access. Simple as that. I send you a link, a special link so you, and only you, can access those hypnosis tracks. Because I want them just for you. And the other thing about this is you've taken responsibility. I don't want to make these open to everyone, just random. You have taken responsibility to listen and be part of this community of personal development. And I want to help you. I want to help you personally to get your dreams, your goals. And therefore, I'm giving you these tools, these protocols, these paradigms, whatever you want to call them, but in deep hypnosis. So just enjoy. Have more fun than you can stand with hypnosis. Warning, you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. #AnxietyRelief, #MindsetShift, #NLP, #Hypnosis, #SelfImprovement, #MentalWellness Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

Healing From Emotional Wounds Healing Negative Emotions In this extended episode, Paul Clough tackles the persistent negative emotions that many of us struggle with - those emotional wounds from our past that seem to linger despite our best efforts to move on. Episode Highlights Paul introduces a gentle process for resolving emotional wounds that doesn't involve regression therapy Important safety note: For deep trauma or abuse issues, Paul strongly recommends working with a professional therapist Why negative emotions persist: Our unconscious mind is still running old protection programs from our younger self The goal: Teaching our unconscious mind that we have more resources and wisdom now than we did back then The Process Identify what resources you needed back then that you have now Confidence, calmness, curiosity, love, or simply knowing "this too shall pass" Connect with memories when you've felt these positive emotions The Inner Child Healing Exercise Identify when you first felt this negative emotion (often before age 10) Visualize your younger self on a stage in front of you Send the specific resources, emotions, and healing they needed Integrate your younger self with your current self, accessing all your wisdom and resources Additional Support If you're still experiencing negative emotions after trying this process, Paul suggests: Working with a therapist skilled in NLP, timeline therapy, and hypnosis Asking yourself: "What am I doing that I could stop?" or "What am I not doing that I could start?" Reaching out directly to Paul at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Remember, even subtle shifts can create profound change. The key is recognizing that you have access to all your experiences, wisdom, and positive emotions right now. And remember to share this episode because that would be really kind and most appreciated: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/439-healing-from-emotional-wounds/ Shine Brightly

Anxiety Toolbox: Your Roadmap to Inner Peace | Personal Development Unplugged Hey there, my brave souls. Let's talk about something we all experience but rarely discuss openly: anxiety. I know what it feels like to be stopped in your tracks by worry, panic, and those overwhelming moments that make you feel like you can't breathe. That's why today's episode is all about building your personal "Anxiety Toolbox"—real strategies that actually work. This isn't about quick band-aid solutions. We're diving deep into: The crucial difference between temporary relief and genuine healing Practical techniques you can use RIGHT NOW to shift your mental state How to create healthy distance from anxious thoughts Breathing exercises that rewire your nervous system Transforming your internal dialogue from fear to empowerment These aren't just theories. These are proven strategies I've used myself and seen work for countless individuals struggling with anxiety. By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit that gives you back control—not just coping, but truly thriving. If this resonates, please share it. Someone in your circle might desperately need these tools. And subscribe so you never miss an episode that could be a lifeline. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/438-anxiety-tool-box-quick-fixes-that-work Your journey to inner peace starts here. Are you ready? Shine Brightly

Boost Your Self Worth Finding Your True Self-Worth | Personal Development Unplugged Have you ever felt like you're just not enough? I've been there too. In today's episode of Personal Development Unplugged, I'm opening up about the journey to genuine self-worth and how it can transform every aspect of your life. I want to talk honestly about what it feels like to be truly comfortable in your own skin—to trust yourself, honour your achievements, and face life's challenges with quiet confidence. This isn't about perfection; it's about embracing who you really are. In our conversation today, I'm sharing: A simple visualization practice that helped me reconnect with my authentic self The finger-thumb technique I use daily to remind myself of my worth when doubts creep in How I identified the core fears holding me back (and how you can too) The exact questions I ask myself to challenge those limiting beliefs we all struggle with These aren't just concepts—they're real practices that have made a difference in my life, and I believe they can help you too. If something in this episode speaks to you, please share it with someone who might need to hear this message. We're all in this growth journey together. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/437-boost-your-self-worth/ If you'd like more conversations like this one, subscribe to Personal Development Unplugged. I'd love to connect with you weekly as we navigate this path to self-discovery together. What small step will you take today to honour your worth? I'd love to hear about it. Shine Brightly

Cultivating a Positive Mindset: Your Path to Empowerment Hey, you! Ever wonder how some people stay positive, even when life throws curveballs? It's not about ignoring problems—it's about tackling them with the right mindset. In this episode, we're cutting through the fluff and diving deep into real ways to shift from negativity to empowerment.

Beyond the Noise – Finding Inner Peace & Self-Therapy Hey, my friend… ever feel like life is just too loud? Social media, the news, work, responsibilities—it's like a constant buzz in the background, making it hard to think, let alone find peace. But here's the thing: you can create calm amidst the chaos. In this episode, I share my journey to finding inner peace—those little moments of self-therapy that help me recharge and reset. And trust me, it's not about escaping the world; it's about taking control of your inner one. What's Inside?

Unshakable Self-Confidence A Journey of Self-Discovery Welcome back to the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast! In this episode, we dive deep into unshakable confidence, exploring the idea that confidence is not something to be installed but rather reawakened. If you struggle with feelings of unconfidence, this episode is designed just for you. Join me, Paul Clough, as I share my journey from being an introvert who stumbled over words in front of small groups to confidently speaking in front of hundreds. You'll discover the transformative power of recognizing your competence and how it can lead to genuine self-confidence. In this episode, we will cover:   The importance of understanding the messages behind unconfidence and how they serve a purpose. How to change your emotional state and the impact it has on your physiology and behaviours. Identifying counterexamples of when you felt confident and competent. Practical exercises to anchor feelings of curiosity and learning. Steps to rekindle your inner confidence and take small, manageable actions toward your goals.   By the end of this episode, you'll have the tools to shift your mindset, embrace your skills, and take confident steps forward in your life. Remember, confidence is not about being overconfident; it's about being comfortable in your own competence. Ready to transform your unconfidence into unshakable confidence? Let's get started! And then please share what you learn - Confidently https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/433-unshakable-self-confidence/ Shine Brightly

Unshakeable You - Re-Building Low Self-Esteem Hey, hey! Fancy seeing you here again – welcome back! This is where the magic happens, the second leg of our adventure into reigniting that inner spark, your self-esteem. And no fluff here — just down-to-earth, practical stuff to help you step back into your personal power. So grab yourself a brew, maybe a notebook, because we're about to explore some game-changing strategies to reconnect with who you really are and get that confidence flowing again. Here's what we're diving into today:  Self-Compassion Over Empathy: How would life shift if you treated yourself like your best mate? Yeah, we're talking proper kindness – none of that harsh self-talk nonsense. Discovering What Matters: You know those core values lurking under the surface? Let's dig them up and see how they can guide your choices. Small, Doable Goals: Forget the overwhelming "must-change-everything-today" mindset. Let's take one tiny, meaningful step at a time. Redefining Criticism: Flip the script on those voices — whether they're your own or someone else's — and use them to grow instead of shrink. The Gratitude Hack: Bet you didn't know gratitude could turbocharge your self-esteem, did you? Let's tap into that. This isn't about becoming someone else — it's about reconnecting with you and owning your brilliance. No one's got time for fake transformations. We're doing the real deal, simple and effective. Sound good? Right then — let's dive in and make it happen. Listen now and start moving towards that unshakable you. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/432-unshakeable-you-re-building-low-self-esteem-part-2 Shine Brightly

Unshakeable You -Re-Building Self-Esteem Part 1 In this eye-opening episode, we're taking a good, hard look at self-esteem and the journey towards discovering your true worth. I'm your host, Paul Clough, and together we'll uncover what self-esteem really means and the far-reaching effects that low self-esteem can have on our lives. We'll dive into the dangers of low self-esteem, like the constant search for external validation and the crippling negative self-talk that often comes along for the ride. I'll also share a personal experience where my own self-esteem was put to the test, and how I managed to rebuild my confidence and find true self-acceptance. This episode is all about helping you reflect on your own moments of confidence and recognise the power of acknowledging your achievements, no matter how small. It's time to understand that you are worthy, even if you've forgotten it for a while. We'll be packing this episode with real insights and a bit of encouragement to remind you that you've got everything you need within you. It's about taking those small steps towards reigniting your inner flame and fully embracing who you are. And don't miss part two, where we'll dive even deeper into actionable steps to help you tap into your core self-esteem and make that inner light shine brighter than ever Please as always share and subscribe https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/432-unshakeable-you-rebuilding-self-esteem-part-1 Shine Brightly

Taming the Mind: Tools to Stop Worrying Hey there, friend! Do you ever feel like your mind is constantly racing with worries you can't quiet? Well, in this episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, we're going to take on that noisy “monkey mind” and discover how to transform those endless worries into clarity and peace. I'm going to walk you through what's really going on when that chatter takes over. We'll dig into why worry shows up in the first place and how you can acknowledge it without letting it control you. By the end of this episode, you'll have some super practical tools to break free from overthinking and start creating a mindset that's both calmer and more confident. Picture this: waking up tomorrow with a peaceful mind, ready to take on the day with ease. Sound good? Together, we'll explore how to make that a reality. I'll share simple but powerful techniques like practising gratitude and writing down your worries to help you regain control and move past the cycle of anxious thinking. Anxiety doesn't have to run the show. It's time to shift your perspective, break old patterns, and start finding healthier ways to navigate those swirling thoughts. This episode is packed with helpful insights and exercises to help you reconnect with your best self and truly enjoy the journey ahead. Ready to tame your mind? Let's dive in! I'd love to hear your thoughts—share what you learn and this episode with others https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/431-taming-the-mind-from-anxiety-and-worry Shine Brightly

The 3 Foundations of Self-Development and Change Three Pillars for Good Mental Health Or you could say Building the Best Version of You   Hey, my unplugged friends! Welcome back to another episode of the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast. Today, we're diving into the core of personal change work—the foundation that supports all your efforts to become the best version of yourself. Forget the complicated stuff; we're keeping it simple with three essential elements: sleep, food, and movement. These are the pillars that hold up your mental health and overall well-being. Whether you're dealing with anxiety, depression, or just looking to improve your life, getting these basics right is crucial. They're interconnected, and you can't focus on one without considering the others. What We'll Cover Here's what we'll explore in this episode: Sleep: Discover why a consistent sleep routine is vital and how small changes can make a big difference. Food: Learn how to fuel your body with the right nutrients and why hydration is key. Movement: Understand the importance of regular exercise and how it benefits your mind and body. These aren't just tips; they're actionable steps you can take today. No more excuses about time, energy, or resources. It's all about making small, sustainable changes that add up over time. Remember, I'm not a doctor or a nutritionist—just someone who's passionate about personal development and knows what works. So, let's get started on building a strong foundation for your mental health and personal growth. If you find this episode helpful, please share it with someone who might benefit. And don't forget to subscribe for more insights and practical advice. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/430-the-3-foundations-of-self-development Take care, shine brightly, and I'll see you on the other side. Shine Brightly

When Anxiety Whispers Or Listening to the Whisper of Anxiety Transform Fear into Insight Hey, my unplugged friends! Have you ever felt anxiety creeping in, like a whisper that grows louder until it's hard to ignore? If you've been there (and let's be honest, who hasn't?), this episode is for you. Today, we're turning the tables on anxiety, exploring how those whispers might actually be signals for change. What if anxiety isn't just random? What if it's your unconscious mind's way of keeping you safe and nudging you toward growth? Together, we're going to discover how to really listen to those whispers without letting them take over. Here's What You'll Learn Today: The Hidden Message of Anxiety Anxiety isn't just noise—it's your unconscious mind trying to send you a message. Let's uncover the positive intentions behind it. Breaking the Cycle Stop running from anxiety. With simple techniques like pausing, breathing, and acknowledging it, we'll learn how to face it head-on. Curiosity as a Superpower By staying curious, we can decode what our anxiety is trying to tell us, turning fear into actionable insights. Empowerment Through Awareness When we listen to these whispers, we can learn from past experiences, break unhelpful patterns, and align with what truly matters. This episode is all about shifting your perspective. Instead of dreading anxiety, let's celebrate it as a sign that you're ready to grow and learn. Yes, it might feel uncomfortable, but those whispers? They're here to guide you. Ready to transform anxiety into insight? Let's dive in together. Tune in, and if this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who might need a little encouragement today. Let's spread the word and help more people on their journey of personal development! Listen now: When Anxiety Whispers Until next time—stay curious and shine brightly, Paul Shine Brightly

New Year Resolution What A Dick I Was I'm Rethinking Resolutions – From Dickishness to Empowerment Hey, welcome back to the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast – your space to dive into the real stuff that makes life better. In today's episode, we're shaking things up and rethinking New Year's resolutions. Ever feel like you're being a total “dick” for ranting against the whole New Year's resolution thing? I know I have, and guess what – I'm here to apologize for it. I've always felt resolutions should be something we set any day of the year, not just on New Year's Eve. But hey, who am I to decide? For many, that quiet time between Christmas and New Year is the perfect chance to reflect and set goals. So let's embrace it! Now, here's the deal: Instead of falling into the trap of vague and painful resolutions (you know, stuff like “lose weight” or “quit bad habits”), how about we focus on the joy of change? Let's turn those “shoulds” into “wows” and set resolutions that excite us. How? By making them personal – focusing on what truly matters to you, not what everyone else thinks. Here's a quick exercise: Grab a notebook and jot down three things you'd like to change about yourself – physically, emotionally, or behaviorally. Now, take about ten minutes and brainstorm anything else you'd like to change or improve. Let your imagination run wild! When you're done, see if any of these new ideas replace the initial three you wrote down. Next, pick the one change that would make the biggest difference in your life. Ask yourself: What would this change allow me to do? How would it transform my life? What beliefs would support this change? Write those down and let yourself feel the excitement! Now comes the best part: What's the smallest step you can take toward this change? And, most importantly, schedule it. Small, consistent steps are what lead to the big transformations. Please share what you learn: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/428-new-year-resolution-what-a-dick-i-was And don't worry – I'm here to help. If you need any support or have questions, reach out to me anytime at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Let's make these resolutions stick – and let's make changes that really matter. Together, we can make the world a brighter place, one small step at a time. Subscribe, share, and keep growing. Shine Brightly

The Cycle Of Anxiety And Loneliness and How To Break It Breaking Free from Anxiety and Loneliness Simple Steps to Reconnect and Feel Whole Again Have you ever felt like anxiety and loneliness are teaming up against you? Like one just makes the other worse, and you're stuck in this cycle? Don't worry—you're not alone. In this episode, we're unpacking how these two sneaky emotions work together and, more importantly, how you can break the cycle. Think of this as a friendly chat with practical tips to help you reconnect with the world around you. We'll look at easy, doable steps to bring a bit more connection and calm into your life. It's not about overhauling everything at once; it's about small steps that make a big difference. Here's what we'll dive into: The Anxiety-Loneliness Loop: Why these feelings are so closely tied and how they can spiral out of control if you're not careful. Simple Wins: Easy ways to start reconnecting—like sending a text, smiling at someone, or chatting with your barista. Finding Your People: How doing things you love can naturally bring you closer to others. The Magic of Intention: How a little intention and a bit of action can open the door to meaningful change. This isn't just talk—this episode is packed with practical stuff you can try today. Whether you're feeling a little off or stuck in a tough spot, these steps can help you find your way back to connection, calm, and maybe even a little joy. The first step? Just listen in. Sometimes, that's all it takes to get things moving in the right direction. Oh, and if you know someone who could use this right now, feel free to share—it might just be the nudge they need. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/426-the-cycle-of-anxiety-and-loneliness-and-how-to-break-it Take care, shine brightly, and I'll see you on the other side. Warm wishes, Paul   Shine Brightly

Anxiety - Friend Or Foe Turning Anxiety Into Your Superpower  :O) Hello, my friend! Welcome back to the Personal Development Unplugged Podcast, where we strip away the fluff and get real about the things that matter most. Today, we're tackling something we've all felt—anxiety. But here's the twist: we're not here to fight it. We're here to flip it. Now, you might think of anxiety as this annoying, persistent foe, always getting in the way of your calm. But what if we've been looking at it all wrong? What if anxiety could actually be an ally—a messenger, even a bit of a guide? Stick with me, and I'll show you how to stop running from anxiety and start working with it. Here's the thing: anxiety's been part of the human experience for thousands of years. Back in caveman times, it helped us stay alive. Today? It's still trying to protect us, even if it sometimes comes off like an overzealous bodyguard who jumps at shadows. But what if you could take that energy and use it to fuel something amazing? We'll talk about how to spot when anxiety's being helpful versus when it's just getting in your way. And I'll share practical tools—simple techniques—to calm that overbearing voice and turn its energy into curiosity, focus, or even excitement. Whether it's work stress, social nerves, or just that daily hum of unease, I'm going to help you see anxiety for what it really is: a signal. A signal from your unconscious mind that something needs attention. Once we know that, we can redirect it—turn it into a stepping stone for growth, confidence, and momentum. So let's unplug from the chaos, tune into your true potential, and work together to transform anxiety into a superpower that helps you create the life you want. Let's get started. Subscribe - Press play - and share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/425-anxiety-friend-or-foe/ Shine Brightly

Pain or Pleasure - You Decide I'd Choose Pleasure Over Pain any day    :O) Let's start with a question: why does your mind so often seem to focus on pain? Those nagging worries, that endless loop of “what ifs”—sound familiar? It's like your unconscious mind has one job: to keep you safe. But sometimes, it gets a bit too cautious and pulls you into a cycle of discomfort or fear. In this unplugged episode, we explore how to break free from that pattern. What if, instead of pain, you could choose pleasure? Yes, really. By shifting your focus, getting curious, and asking the right questions, you can guide your mind to a place of joy, safety, and comfort—and it's simpler than you think. Here's what we'll uncover together: Understanding Pain's Purpose: Why your mind brings up pain and how to address it without getting stuck there. Moving Toward Pleasure: Spot those moments of joy and learn how to stretch them out into something truly fulfilling. Curiosity as a State-Changer: Flip the script on pain by using curiosity to shift your perspective and emotional state. The Power of Questions: Discover how the questions you ask yourself can change everything. Working with Your Unconscious Mind: Build a partnership with your inner mind to find solutions that feel good and keep you safe. Pain might be your mind's default setting, but you don't have to stay there. You can choose to move toward pleasure—little by little, moment by moment—and transform how you experience life. So, are you ready to ditch the pain and wallow in pleasure for a change? It's easier than you think, and trust me, it's so worth it. Enjoy the episode, and if it hits home, please share it with someone who could use a little more pleasure in their life too! https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/424-pain-or-pleasure-you-decide/   Shine Brightly

Healing Emotional Scars Because you can Have you ever found yourself stuck in the echoes of past pain, wondering if you're truly healing or just coping? In this episode, I'll unpack the difference between carrying emotional scars and genuinely healing from them. Together, we'll explore how our unconscious mind—the part of us that's always working in the background—signals the need for healing and how we can respond. Think of emotional scars like physical ones: they're reminders of what we've been through, but they don't have to define us. I'll share personal stories and practical steps I've used to move from pain toward genuine healing. You'll discover how to tell if your emotional wounds are still raw and how to guide yourself through the healing process. Whether it's through self-reflection, creative self-therapy, or reaching out for professional support, you'll learn ways to support your journey back to emotional wholeness. This isn't just for therapists—it's for anyone ready to face their past and take steps toward a brighter future. Let's tap into the wisdom of your unconscious mind, learn to listen to its messages, and use them to build a life of growth, self-compassion, and empowerment. So, take a moment, tune in, and let's explore this path together. Because healing isn't just possible—it's inevitable when we take the first step. Please enjoy and share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/423-healing-emotional-scars/ Shine brightly, Paul Shine Brightly

From Anxiety to Confidence Let's Make the Shift Together Let's get real for a minute. Have you ever felt that knot in your stomach at the thought of speaking up in front of a group—even if it's just a handful of people? You're not alone. I've been there too. I've felt that dread, the sweaty palms, the shaky voice. But here's the good news: it doesn't have to stay that way. In this episode, I'm going to share my own story—how I went from terrified to totally at ease, speaking to not just a few people but hundreds. And I'll let you in on a little secret: it didn't take a complicated process or years of effort. It was a simple, powerful shift. What We'll Dive Into: The magic of visualization—how imagining your success as if it's already happening can calm your fear and build real confidence. Fueling confidence with your passion and curiosity—because when you care about what you're saying, everything changes. Why simplicity is the ultimate tool—you don't need tricks or hype, just a new way to see yourself. Here's Your Challenge: There's a process in this episode too You will take a moment—just a few minutes. Close your eyes and picture yourself succeeding. Imagine standing there, calm, collected, and confident. Feel it. Step into that version of you and notice how good it feels. Practice it. Let it sink in. If you know someone who needs a little nudge to find their confidence—share this episode. You never know who might need to hear it. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/422-a-simple-process-to-overcome-fear-and-anxiety Let's keep shining brightly, Paul Shine Brightly

Overcoming the Fear of Failure – Let's Unplug This Together Hey, you. Yes, you. Have you ever felt stuck, frozen in the headlights of your own expectations? Like you've got to get it just right or not bother at all? That nagging fear of failure with that belief of "I'm not good enough"—it creeps in, doesn't it? It stops us before we even start. But guess what? Today, we're pulling the plug on all that. In this episode, we're diving deep into what's really behind that fear of failing. Spoiler alert: it's not about being perfect. It's about the stories we tell ourselves, the beliefs lurking in the shadows of our subconscious, and the ways we unknowingly keep ourselves stuck. But don't worry—we're not here to wallow. We're here to shift. What We'll Uncover: Why your unconscious mind stirs up all that anxiety—hint: it's trying to protect you, just not in the best way. The roots of perfectionism and how they keep you from living your best, most adventurous life. How to rewrite those old stories—yes, the ones that tell you “you're not good enough.” Tapping into your wins—those times you nailed it, even when you doubted yourself. Anchoring powerful, feel-good emotions to calm that inner critic and give you the courage to. There's loads of golden nuggets here along with the 'HOW' to change Please share so that others too can create the life they deserve - pay it forward https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/421-afraid-to-fail-lets-change-that Enjoy, shine and be well Paul Shine Brightly

Why You're Afraid to Fail How is it that fearing failure is actually doing something good for you. In effect protect you from failure. The issue is that it also generates those negative and limiting beliefs such as 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm not worthy' and so on. The thing is there is a direct conflict in this form of protection is to actual feel a failure and really believe I'm not good enough because I didn't do the stuff I want to do because of that ,now, inappropriate fear. So let's muse how we can change this, to stay protected and do the stuff I dream of. Come with me now for 5 or so minutes and hopefully we'll dive deeper in a longer episode please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-472-why-youre-afraid-to-fail/ And the video link https://youtu.be/sAWIz4mmuO0   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

The Secret Of Creating A Rich Life Ever felt like you had a brilliant idea, only to watch it slip through your fingers? It's frustrating, isn't it? But here's the thing: those fleeting thoughts are like the seeds of a rich life—if you plant them by writing them down, they can grow into something incredible. In this episode, I'm sharing why jotting things down isn't just about remembering stuff. It's about creating clarity, capturing creativity, and turning small moments into a richer, more fulfilling life. Here's what we'll explore together: Preserving the treasures of your mind – Why writing helps you hold on to the gold. Turning sparks into flames – How to transform fleeting ideas into bold actions. Finding clarity in the chaos – Use writing as a tool to sort through challenges and uncover solutions. Building richness every day – Discover how this small habit leads to a more creative, inspired, and meaningful life. Your Challenge: Write It Down For the next 10 days, I challenge you to write down your ideas, dreams, and even the little moments that make you smile. Don't overthink it—just capture them. You'll start to see how this simple act creates a ripple effect, adding layers of richness to your life. And to share this episode and the podcast to those you think could benefit (that's all of them - right?) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/419-the-secret-of-creating-a-rich-life Shine Brightly Paul Hey there! I'd love to hear from you—questions, feedback, requests—all welcome. Drop me a line or leave a comment. If you've enjoyed this episode or any other, please share and subscribe! You can reach me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. Subscribe to the Podcast Ready to subscribe? Click here to explore your options. Or, if you're on Apple Music or iTunes, you can go straight to subscribe or leave a review here. Special Programs for You For tools on developing Supreme Inner Confidence, finding Freedom from Anxiety, or specialized Hypnosis Tracks, visit PaulCloughOnline.com. Free Hypnosis Tracks Want access to my FREE hypnosis tracks? Head over to paulcloughonline.com/podcast. Connect with Me Follow me on Twitter: @pcloughie Remember: I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. This podcast and any of my online resources are for educational purposes only. Never use the hypnosis tracks or exercises if you're operating machinery, driving, or if you have epilepsy or psychiatric conditions. Always consult a healthcare provider if you're unsure. Find Us on Other Platforms Catch the podcast on Spotify, Castbox, iHeart Radio, YouTube, or on our Libsyn page. Stay tuned, and keep shining brightly. ✨ Music Credits Music by Wataboi, DreamHeaven, ccjmusic, and others from Pixabay. And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism So here we are at Personal Development Unplugged. So what do we do here? Just before we get into the meat and gravy of this, episode, what is the Personal Development Unplugged podcast about? Well, for me, it's about breaking down the complicated steps to create a life of richness, to create the hero in you and you to become your own hero, your best self, the best version of you. And we all have issues. We all have things that we need to let go of. And that's what we do here. We let go of issues right here. Don't have to have all that therapy, but you can, because I'm a therapist. Not your therapist, but I am a therapist. I'm bloody good hypnotist, I think. And I'll use hypnosis here, but we'll work out wonderful ways to create the life we deserve. setting up goals, dreams, wishes, making them all come into reality, breaking down those blocks, the things that stop us, clearing up issues and anything else, what comes along. So that's what it's all about. So let's jump into the real meat and gravy, as they say, or what? I said, let's jump in now.     How many times have you forgotten great ideas or great memories   Hey, I've got a real good question for you. And it's not, why do I always start with hey? But the real question is, how many times, if you're like me, I've had a great idea, something that just comes out of nowhere and you think, ah, that is awesome. Absolutely awesome. Yeah, I'll do something about that and you don't. Something else comes along and you've forgotten about it for a little while. In fact, you might have forgotten about it for a long time until. Until you see something and you go, that's exactly the thing I thought about. That was my idea. Why didn't you do anything about it at the time? And, I know someone actually said there's, like these ideas floating around the ether, the multiverse, the universe, and they're the same idea is falling on lots of different people, but it's only the people who take action on those ideas. They're the ones who do it. And all the other people go, oh, that could have been me. I had that type of idea. Oh, look at them. And you see, it all comes down to, I guess, the real basics of success and I guess the basics of personal development. Because personal development is easy, or it should be easy, should be made simple. And that's what we do here in personal development Unplugged. break down the complicated make into simple steps and then do it. But here's the thing. What happened to that idea? Why did it disappear? Why didn't you do anything about it? Well, it's simple. It is simple. And again, is a basic of your personal development that we can get so far. But there's this one key, it's another key. There's lots of keys, but this is one key that really does work. And I know you might go. When you hear about it, you're going to go, oh, cloughy, you talk about this so much. Okay, I do. But do you follow it? And that's the bit. You don't know what it is yet. You see, this was. I've, been doing it for a long time, but then it was reminded, or I was re reminded that to do it more on a number of occasions. One was way back, oh, four years ago now. Over four years ago. And I recorded something about it, and it was 190. That's how far back it is. July 2020, because I'd been listening to the old Joe Rogan podcast, and he uses a bit more colorful language than this, but he was talking about how he creates the things that he creates. And he says he doesn't just come to me and I just do it. I have to write that sucker down. Well, he didn't say sucker, but you can guess what he said. I have to write it down. And then when I write it down, I can work on it. And, why is it so important? Why is it so important over, and above for getting great ideas? Because you have forgotten great ideas. Well, I know I have. And then I've seen some bugger do them in my place. But I've also forgotten great memories. Yeah, because when you record great memories by writing that sucker down, you get it in all modalities because you have to describe the pictures in your mind. And it also helps with your visualization because you're remembering things. And if you can do it at the time you are recording great memories. So it's not like a diary. Oh, I had this great time with my friend. No, you can just go into your memory right now and describe the memory in the way that it feels, the way that it made you feel. Because it's a feeling, the feeling, the emotion, the wonderful positive emotion that when you describe it, you feel it again. And if you ever come back to it, and you would, because it's such a good thing, you'd read it again, that memory would pop into your mind's eye and you'd feel it in all senses. And that's the wonderful thing. Not just visual, because you can see things. But if you don't get the emotions, you don't get the internal voice, the really good one, the positive belief that goes with it. Memories disappear and yeah, we can vaguely remember them, but wouldn't it be nice to. It's like a photograph, I guess, isn't it? You know, we always look at photographs and come back, but that's what it is. But you're doing it yourself now. You can explore all different things as well. You can explore issues because I always say, you know, really get to think about your issue. Deep work, thinking. And it doesn't have to be long time, deep work, thinking, but to explore them. You can think about it. Sit there with your cup of coffee thinking away. Someone interrupts you and guess what? Oh, what was I thinking about? What the hell was it? And it's gone, isn't it? And what's happened? Well, it obviously wasn't that important, says your unconscious mind. Well, let that one go. But if you begin to explore an issue, you can mind map it. You can talk about and, express the emotions. You can look and think about the positive intention. Why, you know, what is important about this? What is the positive intention behind having this issue? You can ask yourself questions, and you know, I'm big on questions, but not just thinking about them, but writing them down and writing the answers. And you don't have to write the answer straight away. That's the whole point of writing that sucker down, because it's there for you. Come back when you've got another five minutes. Because when you do that, because you've left it open, your unconscious mind carries on, the thought process, it delves down deep inside your unconscious memories, your skills, the things, all sorts of experiences and wisdom. And we'll find answers for you. So when you go back, it's as if the switch goes on and things just come to your mind. Come to your pen, as it were. So that's memories, that's issues. But what about this? Say right now you're experiencing something really good.     Make notes when you come across something happening right now   What would happen if you made a note of that right now? Not just think about, oh, that's lovely, at the end of the day, which it is, and go through it again. But when you write it down, it's as if you're capturing the moment. And again, to write it down, you have to use that internal voice of yours to describe it. And when you describe it, you have to look at the pictures really deeply, the pictures in your mind. And when you see them and you describe them and you feel them again, it makes so much more. In fact, I think I've talked about this before. it was again, the name of the man has disappeared. It was doing storytelling and things like that. But he said, I just had that little book that you. You. When you come across something happening right now, you make a little note of it. He called it homework for Life. And that was to create stories. But for me, it was to create great memories in the now, so I don't have to try to remember a great memory. I'm recording it right in the moment. And all this does is either get your unconscious mind to recognize the feelings, the good ones, or delve deeper to find new ways so you can feel better in the future. What else is writing this sucker down? Do? Well, for me, when you. When you're looking at issues, it gives you clarity, it creates more clarity. You can tend to look at things from different perspectives, because when you do that, you know, if you look at something differently, what you look at appears different, and you get a different perspective on that issue. And as soon as you have that, it's like a reframe. Ah. it doesn't just mean this. It also could mean this. And, that's a positive. How can I use this as a positive? So you start to get more clarity. You get more options, as if you're doing projects and things like that, or your goals, your dreams, you know, you write that dream down. I know. I used to produce a little book called the Dream Book, where you went through this process, and it just brought those dreams into certainly more clarity, gave you more thought, and suddenly more options would appear in your mind. And it sets off this. I don't know what it is, but the more you do it, it's as if you're attracting more ideas, more options. Now, you don't have to take them all up, but you put them down. And when you come back sometimes you go, ah, I didn't think that was possible, but now it is. Because you're a different person when you come back to those notes again and you see they're all reviewable. You can adapt them. The things all this is impossible. What? Cluffy, you're saying it's impossible? Yes, impossible if you don't write that sucker down. Because I guarantee you one of the old personal development Claphy guarantees. Because I do it myself. I've done it myself and I still do it. Occasionally you forget that bugger. And why would you want to do that when you're not just developing yourself, but just you're learning? You imagine how many of us, when we read a book, actually make notes as we go along. I'm really guilty of not doing that. I'm trying to do better. Trying. I'm even set my intention now when I read then what can I wonder what I'm going to learn from this? Could I learn what's the most important thing to learn on, this next 10 minutes? And then write that sucker down because there's no point in setting intention of what you're going to learn. And then forget the fucker. Excuse me swearing, but that's what happens, isn't it? And I want you to have this richness, richness of memories that, as you look at a little book, boom, I just come, come to you. And you can do it in so many wonderful ways. I mean, you can just write them down. You can have little pictures, I mean, mind maps. I'm a, mind map freak. Mind maps. Tony Bazan developed the mind map. It's such a simple way, a simple way to remember things. It's such a simple way to create those options, to add more ideas, to park things, to put them back. And the thing is, they're never, ever forgotten. You can park them, but they're still there. And, if you ask questions about these things, you know, what can I learn from this? What am I not doing if I started doing now, would allow this issue to disappear. What am I doing that if I stopped doing would allow this issue to disappear? What would this be like if it was easy? You can't just think of those. You need to write them down. And to me, doing them on a bloody computer doesn't work. Get that? Muscle memory, the handwriting. I mean, there's a great thing and I talked about it on a five minute quickie. Again, can't remember how years ago. And I've called it, because in my mind I Can't remember what it was really called. I called it things Like Outer Limits thinking, where for 10 minutes, with one piece of paper, you write down every sort of idea, everything you'd like to do, get a theme, and go, what can I do to really create this? Or if it's just to have fun, what are all the things I could, do and have fun if it's in a relationship, how can I make this relationship richer? And, without editing 10 minutes, you. You just keep writing. Your pen doesn't come off the page. And I tell you what, it's like dumping everything in your mind. And you get through the first couple of minutes because you've all. That's all the conscious stuff. And when the unconscious stuff comes out, you go, shit, there's some good stuff here. Now, some of it is so wild, you might think, never going to happen. But, what will happen is even that wild shit will bring thoughts to you in the future because it'll always be there. Because if you think, oh, if I could do that, though, if I could, what would it feel like? Oh, now I'm getting the feeling of the wish fulfilled. And now your unconscious mind go, well, that's maybe too far a bridge too far a jump too far, but here's a step that gets us halfway there. Now, how can you do this? I mean, it's so bloody simple.     My challenge to you is do this for about a week   You need a pen, your pencil. I have what I call a puzzle book, which is a book of plain paper. I have my journal, and these, things come from my journal. Then I'll pop it in the puzzle book. Or you have these little things called a field book, and they're only tiny, tiny, tiny little books, but you can put them in your pocket. So when that moment happens or you see something, someone being kind over there, just make a note of it, because it made you feel good. And that also makes you think, I wonder if I could do something similar to be kind to somebody else, that type of thing. Or if you hear something and you go, that's wonderful. How many times that, if you like me, you hear something on a podcast and you go, you're on for me. It's generally on the treadmill. And I go, oh, that is awesome. Bloody word awesome again, that is such a good thing. I must remember that. I must remember that. And then you say to yourself with a great hypnotic bloody thing which says, don't forget it. And what do you do? You're telling yourself to forget it. But if you. Very quickly, as soon as you stop that running you go, ah, write it down. Take it, take it in your shorts. When you go into the gym, taking your little bag, it's awesome because it's so small. And the thing is, and the biggest takeaway from this is because you can return to it time and time again, it gets richer. And the more you do it, guess what? It gets easier. It's effortless. Effortless. And even looking at your puzzle book, your journal, the little field book, it acts as an anchor, an anchor for ideas. Say you just had an idea book and you write ideas on it with a big light bulb or something like that. Every time you see it, your unconscious mind will go around and go, oh, let's give him another one. Let's give her another one. And what happens? Our life becomes richer. We start trying to find even more ways to learn even more. And it's as if the more you do this, something richer comes along, something even gooder comes along. And what are we doing? We're taking responsibility for the richness of our life. And you could say, well, this is a bit like creating your reality, isn't it? You could say that because you're thinking of things, you're writing them down, you're getting that feeling, and that feeling is your motivation. It's your why. In some ways, you just haven't written out the why, but you could, because you've got a book to write out. Why is this so important to me now? What will it allow me to do? You could have a little page of stock questions. As you look at one, jumps out to you and go, that's going to give me the answer to something new. I think if you just did this a few minutes a day, carried a little field book, which costs you bugger all, a little notebook you can even buy. And I noticed this, I've bought them. You instead of. If you got like a Biro, you can buy Biro's now. There are, only about 3 inches long, 75 millimeters long. They fit. They're smaller than the bloody book. You have no excuses, because we've all got excuses, haven't we? Oh, I can't find a pen or. I could never do that. Try it. Do it. My challenge again, My challenge to you is do this for about a week. Do it, everyone could do something for a week. You can always do something for 10 days. Do it for 10 days and notice how different your life is. And the thing is, it's only got to be different by 5% to go. This is good. And I bet you it's going to be bigger than that. I bet you're going to have better ideas. I bet you're going to feel better. I bet things are just going to suddenly come your way. And if nothing else, you'll have a list of wonderful memories that you'll always be able to recall because you just read them. Because sometimes I can't remember. Now you've got this wonderful little tomb, tome, tome of memories. And they're not photographs. They're, as you read it, they're in your words describing the wonderful feelings you had. And then you get it back again. I'm harping on about this a bit, aren't I? But I do think, do think if you could just do this for a few days, you will find a difference. And even if you go, oh, I can't get a field book, I can't get a journal, I can't get a paper book, get a piece of paper, get a little card. I mean, the great one is you get these little cards and you stick them in a wallet, stick them in a purse, stick them in your pocket, stick them with your pen in your pocket. They'll fit. There is no excuses. And if you're here, and I know you are because you're listening here, you're in here, you're here for the long run. You're in here for creating a better life for yourself. You're in here for creating a life for other people, a better life for other people by being a better you finding your hero. Because each time you have that little thought, I'll make a note of that now. And then you can put it into different places, move forward.     If you don't write that sucker down, I'm after you   And if you're creative, a creative person, this is a boon, boon, boom, boom, whatever it is, it's a treasure trove that every time you open the page, it's like lifting the lid off that treasure trove. And it you can have all that creativity and then generate even more. Because that's what it will do. That's what it will do. Anyway, I've rabbited on enough. I think you get it. But if you don't write that sucker down, I'm going to be after you. I will. My unconscious mind will talk to your unconscious mind. They're going to have a few words. So, let's get it together, have fun. Now, take that little challenge for me. Go on a dare you. And then if you want another bit of writing, but this one's with a computer, send me some feedback how well it worked. Maybe there was a difficulty, maybe you noticed Something you're not doing. There was an issue behind that. Let me know what it is. Feedback atpersonal Development unplugged.com Do that for me. I will either celebrate with you. I will find something, a process or some something to get you through that block. Because we will. And then we'll share it with others. Because when we share it with others, well we get to learn things even better and we inspire other people. I love people celebrating and sharing their stuff. It's not big headed. When you share things with a wonderful intention to help people for no want of return, that old selfless service comes bubbling along and it just feels good. That's the worst that can happen. It feels good. Or the law of reciprocity will come and dump some really good ideas in your head as well to keep it going. So do that for me. That'd be brilliant.     Paul Clough: Write that sucker down today. It's going to take you at least three minutes   And talking of sharing, what are we going to do? Let's share this episode if you would share the old Personal Development Unplugged podcast to as many people because I really want to get this out to people. We're going to. This is a bit more tech, call it technical, but more hands on hardware type stuff, isn't it? And then we can do the software in the head as well. So we're going to do both. But today was write that sucker down. It just works. It just works. So do that. Oh, did you subscribe? Because if you haven't, come and have a word with you and have you signed up to Those hypnosis tracks paulcloughonline.com podcast that's it. There's so much for you to do. It's going to take you at least three minutes to do all those things and then 10 minutes a day to write that sucker down. Have fun, enjoy and create the life you deserve. Because I know you do. See you soon. Bye bye. It's time to fly. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave my friend. 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One Simple Step To Success Here's the one step that we miss out and when we do we create anxiety, overwhelm and everything else negative. And if you choose this step, and it's simple and easy but as always it takes effort. We all have ideas, intuitions that come to us unexpectedly and we always say to ourselves - AWESOME!!!! I'll remember that and..............we forget the blooming thing ..........gone forever. So what is this step that I bet you don't do and if you did greatness, excitement and success would follow And ......... there's no downside So have a listen for 5 minutes and then take the step and share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-471-one-simple-step-to-success/ And the video link id here too: https://youtu.be/VGs6hddAKgY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

How to Think Better for Success Are you ready to unleash the power of your own mind and turn those dreams into reality? This episode is all about learning how to think better—simple, down-to-earth strategies to shift your thoughts toward success. Through a mix of storytelling and practical tools, I'll share personal insights and experiences that have helped me along my journey. Together, we'll dive into the art of *intentional thinking* and explore ways to create your own “puzzle book” to spark creativity and keep your mind focused. You'll discover how dedicating even a little time each day to clear, intentional thinking can bring clarity, solve problems, and unlock fresh ideas. Writing, as you'll find, isn't just about putting words on paper; it's a way to expand your thinking and gain new perspectives. We'll also tackle some classic excuses we all have—“I don't have time!”—and explore why time isn't the barrier we think it is. Here's what's inside this episode: The Power of Intentional Thinking** – How setting a clear direction for your thoughts can lead to real breakthroughs. Creating a Puzzle Book** – A tool to help organize ideas, connect dots, and keep those creative juices flowing. Overcoming Excuses** – The “no time” myth, busted. I'll show you simple ways to make time for your own thinking sessions. Building a Thinking Habit** – Practical ways to make regular thinking a part of your life. What You'll Take Away: Clarity and Focus** – Get a handle on what's urgent vs. what's important, so you can move forward meaningfully. Confidence and Calm** – Experience that peace of mind that comes from having a clear direction. Inspiration to Act** – Feel ready to tackle new challenges and inspire others along the way. *Are you ready to think better?* Jump in and start your journey now. And hey, let's spread some good vibes—share this episode and let's create a wave of positive change. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/418-how-to-think-for-success/ Shine brightly, Paul Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism     Hey, how to think better for success. Who am I to tell you? But I've got a couple of things, just got a couple of things that I know that if you did them, you would create success for your life and those dreams and goals would become your reality. And it all starts with stories, because we love a story. I got two or three of those. So come and dive in with me and learn. Or just sample a few ways of thinking better.     How to think better for success. Thought about this and I made loads of notes. And then looking at my notes again, I thought, who the nearly swore. Who am I to tell people how to think better? Now I do think I've got some things to share and it's not the only way, but I do think I'm on the right track. If anyone's listening to Jordan Peterson, I really think he's got it when he thinks writing is thinking. Because if you think about it, if you didn't think when you wrote, you just have a mass of lines everywhere and that'd be crazy. And I know you're thinking now, oh, shit, he's talking about writing it down again. Well, bit. Bit more than that. A bit more than that. I want to tell you a couple of stories. Maybe three. Maybe three sort of little stories. They're not much, but they're a little bit, you see, not. Well, a few years ago, A few years ago, my eldest son came to me and said, hey, dad, do you want to go away for a couple of days? I want to hire a barn, one of those converted barns. Not a barn with. With animals in, you know, but a converted barn for a couple of days. So we could just think. You think in one end of the barn, I'll think in the other end of the barn and we'll have lunch and then you'll think again and then we'll go out for dinner, and, then maybe one afternoon we'll just have a little ride around and things like that, see the countryside. But we'll. It'll be nice to be together, but also nice to get into a thinking mode, to plan. And I thought, that's a hell of an idea. Because you see, before I used to prattle on about, about sort of thinking and setting intentions, but it didn't really do anything. But going there was really setting intention. As soon as you walked through the door, you knew what you're going to do. We had a great time, did lots of thinking, still got me in my books, my notes I made, and so did he. And it was lovely to be with one of my sons just for a couple of days by ourselves. Awesome. And in my, My other life, when I used to be in, like a business type thing, and my partner, Mike, and he would often say to me, hey, Paul, we got this thing happening. It's like an issue. We've got a problem. Go away for a little while and think of how you think we could tackle it. Now, I'm an options man. I love options. And I would do, option one, option two, option C, D, four, five, whatever. And I'd come back to him with these lovely options. I'd really spend a lot of time thinking of the, different things, mitigations and all that stuff. I was following all different processes, and it really worked well. So I used to go away quietly by myself and do it. And then I'd go through with Paul. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Just before we go. Too bad. We. Which one? Well, I like to go through it with you. No, no, just tell me which one. Because you've done a lot of thought on this. You know the answer. You done a lot of thinking. So I came up with, well, I think it's this one. So we'll do it then, because we're going to use your plan, and if there's something better comes along and we find that we can do it even better, we'll just change course, we'll be flexible. And that's exactly what I liked. And I think that type of thinking with options and mitigations got me into, when I started into this, getting deeper into personal development and trying to solve my own issues. Because as much as I do all this work and I do hypnotherapy and I work with clients, you know, we all have issues, we all have stuff. you know, if you want to get better at life, you want to enjoy life, create a better life for yourself, have dreams and goals, you know, this podcast was just a little idea at one time, then it became something into reality, but came through this like a thought process that I did. And I think with these type of things, I developed this thing I call my puzzle book because I used to have a lot of journaling and thinking in journaling, but I wanted something more specific. And what is a puzzle book? Well, a puzzle book to me is a book with plain paper in it. Plain sheets of paper. That's all. I don't like lines because they. They restrict Me, my lines restrict me. M dots are quite good sometimes but I really prefer plain sheet. A4 size if I can get it slightly, maybe a little bit smaller. But when I open it out I've got a nice big double sheet type thing. Anyway, enough about the puzzle book because you can buy them anywhere because it's literally just a book with pieces of paper. But for me when I sit down with that, it in itself and of itself, I love that thing. It fires off my intention when I sit down. It's like triggering my unconscious mind. Thinking is anchored to the puzzle book and because of that I changed my state. I'm sure I changed my state. Love my mind maps in there. But they just things seem to flow not always straight away but it allows me to be open, open to ideas sometimes strange and weird thoughts, creative thoughts that just might work. And I've done a little podcast on spending a few moments, a day or a week just doing the most weirdest thoughts you could have about what you want in life. Not just weird thoughts because that would be weird. And writing those suckers down. And that's the whole point about this puzzle book. You write them down when you just spend time. And I know I made a note that the previous longer podcast about thinking about your hero, becoming your hero.     Cloughie says most of his ideas come from either his puzzle book or journal   The best version of yourself getting more something you can get hold of, something you can see more clearly. That came from just someone mentioning something than me going into the puzzle book and it just exploded into thoughts and I got more clear. So if you look at be your superhero or be your hero, something like that, it's only a couple of podcast episodes back that came from that. But when I thought about it, virtually every, everything I've talked about seems to come from either in my puzzle book or my journal. And what are they? They're all sitting down thinking and writing. Writing is thinking and it's a wonderful habit to get into. And as I said, a lot of my writing can be just in the form of a mind map which explodes in my mind sometimes giving me all the different options, different thoughts that I can develop them. And I say it just allows me to see options taking time. But I know what you're going to say, well, not you personally because I know you're in there, in here for the, for the long haul. But there's, there'll be some who will say, oh, Cloughie, I haven't got enough time. I haven't got enough time to sit down and think. And that's Bollocks. It really is. It's a load of old balls. That's just a petty, flimsy excuse. It's for wimps. It is, it's an excuse. People think, I think they haven't got time. And you see if you believe that and you haven't got time to sit down and think about things, what happens? And I made two or three notes about this. You know, they just react. They react there and then. There's no thought at all. React without thought. There's no plan. There's no plan of any kind. In fact, it's just a reaction, isn't it? Just a reaction with no real intention. And what tends to happen is they might get lucky. They might get lucky and come up with something, but they end up doing something. The first thing that comes to mind, a knee jerk reaction and that goes wrong. And then they find something else and that goes wrong. Then they get overwhelmed and then they. It's just such a waste of fucking time. And it could have been stopped so easily if they'd have stopped and thought, did a little bit of thinking first. And this thing about time. We waste time every bloody way, don't we? Have a look, have a look of how much you do on the typical things. Social media, maybe gossiping, maybe just actually just bonky stuff walking around. I even started putting in my diary. Instead of planning, along with planning the things I wanted to do in the day, I actually wrote down what I actually did. And as soon as I started writing down what I did, it made me think of what I'm going to do next. And I started to get more things done just by looking at it going, no, I don't want to keep writing down. I spent 15, 20 minutes looking at bloody social media. I want to be writing down that I'm making changes, doing stuff. Even if it was sitting down thinking 15 minutes. And what else happens when people don't think? Well, they end up just doing the urgent things that keeps things giving the impression that they're busy. Oh, I'm so busy. I'm so busy now. You're fooling yourself if that's the case because you're doing those urgent things, you're not doing the important things, you're just doing stuff. And there's that knee jerk reaction again. Does this make sense? maybe, I'm talking about me time ago. Hopefully I didn't do a lot of this, but I'd seen it. I see it so much, people just doing, you know, these urgent things. Flitting and flopping to each different thing and not making any bloody difference in the world. Certainly not making no difference to their life and creating more problems. I see a lot of this when I deal with clients because they come in, certainly when they come from business and I'm doing my coaching course, maybe overwhelm, because there's so much going on. And if they just resolved one thing from a place of clarity, the world would change. And it does change when we get there.     Putting 10 minutes aside to think about a particular subject can make life better   So how long. Here's a question to you. How long does thinking actually take? I got you thinking now. How long did that take? I didn't. I didn't plan that. That just came out that way. But thinking can be as much as five minutes, where you just stop and, pause and you think to yourself, what am I going to do next? Is this going to make my life better or worse? What a wonderful question. Because then you can go, actually, I need to stop and think maybe a little bit deeper about this because I don't know, maybe you don't know the answer. I don't know if it's gonna make. It seems to think I'm gonna make my life better. But on the other hand, oh, but least that stopping and pausing has got you to think of all. What would make my m. Life better? If this is gonna be it, how can I do it? Lovely questions again, but you're writing these things down. Because if you just sit there and think about it, great start. But then someone goes, hey, did you want a coffee or did you want this? Oh, yeah, that's great. How you been? And it's all gone. Those thoughts are gone, and you're back to reacting, doing the urgent stuff. Now. You could actually just put 10 minutes aside, allowing yourself to be open with the intention of thinking about a particular subject. So you got that first one is, something happens. I just stopped before you react. Have a little field book in your pocket or something like that, or just a piece of paper, scrap of paper, just notes. But ten minutes to think about something more specific. So you're getting close to that puzzly book type thing, because that's the next one. I think sometimes it's. I love. Let's Talk about Me. I. I love sitting there for about 30 minutes with a puzzle book. And it's not every day. I don't do it every day. Do it at least once a week. I think, on things I find that are important to me. They haven't got urgent yet, but they are important. And I might sit down for 30 minutes might be less, but the mere fact I get that puzzle book out again and says it fires my unconscious mind because I have an intention. And you see, when you think about that 30 minutes, that's nothing compared to that bloody time that you waste on that social media, on gossip, on just simply doom scrolling all that stuff. And the thing is when you're not wasting that time and you're doing, it's just an investment in you and it's such a small investment that has such a high return, the return on your investment, the RII return on investment, I think that's what it was in business, is so high that you can't help but being more successful. And with that success comes, I want to say happiness, but it comes with maybe a calmness, maybe it comes with a little bit of peace of mind, maybe it comes with awareness, maybe it comes with conviction, maybe it comes with an expectation because you know what you're doing, you get from that, you get confidence. And when you do this, and here's a kicker, your unconscious mind can start to think, hey, this is a safer way to be because we are creating a world, a life for ourselves with less stress. We're dealing with stress before it becomes stressful, we're dealing with anxiety before it become anxious. We're planning our success, you and I are then planning our, our success and mitigating, I'm going to say failure, but mitigating where our results aren't what we want or what, what may come and blindside us or may come along. We can mitigate that as best we can. And therefore again we get more confident because we know what we're intending to happen and we know how we can, you know, mitigate things that aren't quite, may happen the other way. And again we've got it covered. And your unconscious mind goes, this is a great place to be. And it only took 30 minutes and we weren't going down the route of doom scrolling gossiping. That's great to have, great to communicate. But now think when you've got yourself in control as much as control is, but when you feel great about yourself and you feel like you've got purpose and you feel like you've got everything in hand, those conversations you have with other people are so, so much more richer.     So I've got a challenge for you. Get yourself a bloody puzzle book. Now am I going to get those excuses? I don't know   So I've got a challenge for you. Get yourself a bloody puzzle book. Now am I going to get those excuses? I don't know where to get one. you talk about a field book. What's a field, A Field book is just a small, little thin book. Have a look on places like Amazon or ebay or whatever, they're cheap. Or you can get a larger book and call it a puzzle book. How much are they then? They're peanuts. A few dollars, few pounds. When I say a few. One, two or three. You don't have to go mad because it's a plain book or, you know, I nearly swore. But just get a piece of paper, you know, print some out the copy machine, anything, piece of paper. Get a pen, pencil, whatever you bloody like. And I want you in your diary. Oh, I haven't got a diary. Well, get a bloody diary page, a day diary, that's all you need. I have one with times on it, so I can really block it out. But I want you to block out some five minutes and some 10 minutes for thinking time daily, every day, at least a, ah, five minute, or I would suggest a ten minute, because once you get into it, you'll want to spend longer than five minutes. But 10 minutes is something where you go, well, I can put 10 minutes aside because I'm going to have my cup of coffee, I want to just sit down the first thing in the morning. Sometime in the day, lunchtime, my break time, anytime on my commute, unless you're driving, of course. And, block it in your bloody diary. So before you start the week, you know roughly what you're going to be doing most days. So block it down. You can move them around a little bit, but once they're blocked in, you have to do it. And, block in 1:30 minutes time for yourself. Time to create success, time to think. Time to really get deeper into a specific issue, a specific thing, a project that you want to just solve, resolve, get better at, maybe learn it. Because they don't have to be all issues, do they? Things that you might want to learn. So how can I learn this? And when you sit down and think that's what one of the questions just jumped in. How can, what do I need to learn? You ask yourself questions. You write those questions down. What do I really want? Is it going to make my life better or worse? How can I make it better? What do I know already? What do I need to know more of all these wonderful questions? And questions go on forever. There are so many people now who have questions that are, so brilliant. Tim Ferriss has lots of questions and I love his questions and they're very closely aligned to the type of things that I would ask myself and what we could do. Because I Always threatened to write a book about just the questions you ask yourself, but I thought that was a bit pretentious. But we could do another podcast episode on the type of things you could do in that 30, minute session. The type of questions you could ask that would get your unconscious mind going in a direction to find the answers. Because it's. And again, it's because you write these down, your unconscious mind goes and finds the answers. And the beauty of this, you sit down for 30 minutes, you might not get everything done that you wanted to. They're open questions. You haven't maybe found the answer yet. You've thought of some options, but you're not quite sure. One of the old Cloughie guarantees is you'll go away. You'll close the book, you'll go away and you'll come back suddenly go, ah. And you'll have that aha, moment, where's my book? I must make that note down. And you can't find that, so you put it in a little piece of paper or your field book, and then you come back to your thinking book in that. And it. Just because it's written down, you can always go back to it. And it gets richer and it gets more inspiring, more intuitive and it gets you to start to dream and think without you really sitting down hard because you just go, ah, becomes a habit that, that ideas muscle starts to really get strong. You begin to resolve and solve what? whatever you need to solve and resolve. I hope a lot of this, I hope this has made sense because, to be honest, I try, I always try to think of the meta side of all of this. What am I trying to do? And I'm really just. It's a reminder that, to me anyway, that there's so much more that you can find and it's all in you and there's so much more of you to find and to keep it, put it on paper. And I think it just makes so much sense. I love you to think, well, that makes sense. I'm going to do that. Take up my bloody challenge. Take up my challenge and find out. You see, I believe this is where your dreams are formed. And then they're made and then you plan them and then you begin to schedule. We've got that bloody diary again, haven't we? And then we start scheduling for stuff and then we review the week and we review our plans and without that puzzle book, without that diary, without you consciously committing to this, your life might just say the same. And I don't Want that for you. I want your life to get so rich. Rich in every way, shape or form. So colorful, so exciting, so passionate with wonderful emotions. And I know you might thinking, yeah, you're bigging this one up, Cloughie. I don't think I am. I really don't think I am. It comes from these simple little things. In simplicity, there's fucking genius. And this is so simple. Take up my challenge.     Go on, I dare you. Go away and have a think about thinking   Go on, I dare you. And then when you do, let me know how you got on. Always love your feedback. Hey, your feedback might be claphy. You're not swearing enough. Sorry, I have started swearing a bit more in here. but that's because I'm getting more passionate about some of the stuff I'm talking about now, I think. And it's me, but hopefully that's okay. But do email me feedback@personaldevelopment unplugged.com if there's any of those questions. Well, I'm sitting down, but I'm getting a bit stuck. Let me know what you're getting stuck on. I'll find something that will take that unstuckiness, away or that stuck in us away. I promise I will. I can. That's what I do. Please do that. And maybe get somebody else on the challenge as well by sharing this episode. Let them know it's just a thinking thing. And it is only thinking better because that's what you do. You think. So we might as well use that skill of thinking and get it better. Get that muscle really pumping. And when you do that, people will see you and they'll go, shit, look at them. Look at them go. I can do that too. You inspire people and you'll never know how far the ripples of that change go. You really won't. But you know, you're creating that change in you and other people. What a wonderful thing to do. All because you listened to Cloughie and you did that seven day challenge and you continued listening and you continue to subscribe. Because if you haven't subscribed, why the not, please press that subscribe button. But the feedback is great. I'd much more prefer, much more prefer the feedback, but I'd like to subscribe too. Okay. Anyway, that's all there is. Go away and have a think about thinking and then take up the challenge. I dare you, dare you to create your dreams and the life that you really want.     Personal development unplugged. It's time to fly on your own   Time to fly. Bye. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul . It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. 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Who'll Remember You No One! The sad fact is a few years after we've left this mortal life very few will remember us and in a couple of generations most will not know who you were  and what you did. So in this 5-minute muse let's get positive and make the most of our lives for us and those around us NOW. If you're going to create a legacy create it in the present. This may be a short episode but I do believe it carries an important message. No more excuses - Let's live Please share so others can be reminded https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-470-wholl-remember-you/ and the video link to this this recording: https://youtu.be/fNJK7WMp-xw Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Be Your Own Hero – A Journey to Self-Discovery Unplugging Personal Development, Finding the Real You Hey there, Cloughie here! In today's episode of *Personal Development Unplugged*, we're breaking free from the usual self-improvement treadmill to explore something more authentic. Have you ever felt lost in the quest to become "the best version of yourself"? I have. That's why I'm here to propose a new direction: instead of chasing perfection, let's learn to **be our own hero**. The Gym Epiphany In a rare quiet moment at the gym, I had a realization that hit me like a ton of bricks. Being your own hero isn't about comparison or constant improvement; it's about identifying and embodying the unique qualities that *truly matter* to you. So, grab a pen and your "puzzle book" because we're diving deep into this together. Questions to Kickstart Your Journey We're getting hands-on with some powerful questions to help you craft your personal hero. Here's what to ask yourself: - What does my hero stand for? - What values do they hold, and what kind of life do they live? - How do they show up in service to others? - What dreams fuel their journey? aren't just “feel-good” questions; they're tools to uncover what really drives you and align with your own unique potential. This Episode is for YOU if: - You're tired of feeling pressured to be the “best” version of yourself - You want to reconnect with a sense of purpose that feels real - You're ready to visualize and live out the values that make you feel most alive Your Journey Starts Here By the end of our time together, I hope you'll walk away with a clearer picture of your hero and a renewed commitment to live in alignment with that vision—one small, powerful step at a time. Listen, Share, Shine So if this episode inspires you, please share it. Let's create a ripple of people who are ready to live with purpose and shine brightly as their own heroes. Catch the episode at:https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/417-how-to-be-a-hero/ Shine brightly, Paul Clough Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, in all these, bits of self development, self improvement and going to make the best version of yourself and all that. Constant never end improvement. My question is towards what and how and who? So I've delved into that in a special way. I think you find it interesting Hey, friend, I need your help. I need your help because. Are you puzzled as I am? Because I'm puzzled and I'm puzzled about bloody personal development, which is quite strange because I've been in that type of genre for bloody years. You know, helping people with hypnotherapy, hypnosis, timeline therapy, nlp. All about developing ourselves and to what end. So what is the direction of personal development? It's a lovely term, personal development, self development. But what we get these things. There's a lovely thing called Can I. Constant and, never ending improvement. Again, great thing. The actual concept of constant and never ending improvement is good, but to me it's slightly overwhelming. everyday constant, never ending improvement. Something I'd like to do, but I'm m confused. And then there's that one thing. Can we do 1% better each time we do it or 1% every day? Which is a bit like constant and never ending improvement, but you know, sounds good because they do. They're all like these wonderful memes. And I hate memes, by the way. Well, most of them. It just sounds good, you know, striving to be better. sounds m good too, doesn't it? Yeah. I'm in personal development because I want to be. I want to be better. What a generalization that is. I just want to be better, you see. Towards what? What we. Where are we heading in our personal development M why are we doing this? You know, where are we? What is the target? what is the aim? Towards what? Constant never ending improvement. Towards what? 1% more towards what? Striving to be better towards what? And that's why I'm getting confused. And I shouldn't be. I shouldn't be because this is part of my life sharing these type of things. And so this is why I'm opening up to you. Because I'm a little bit lost. Well, I was. I think. I think I was lost. You see, this thing just puzzled me, you know, what is the best version of ourselves? Because that's what I've been talking about as well. The aim is to become the best version of ourselves. But again, how general is that? The best version. What does it mean? What do you think of when you do that? I get a very fuzzy picture of myself sometimes. And it's the same bloody picture. Sometimes it's over and over again. Bit like the act of gratitude, you know, you can do it really well, but sometimes it's just by rote, isn't it? Same things. And when I think of that best version of myself, or a little while ago, it didn't inspire me anymore. And that was sad because this is my life. It's your life, isn't it? Are you confused? But I want you to help me. Well, help me as I just go through this. You see, a little while ago, not too long ago, I had an aha, moment again. I was in the bloody gym then. I was. It always seems to happen when I'm on that bloody walking machine. So I'm gonna go in there more often, I think. There I was walking away and I was listening to a podcast which included David Goggins. I love David Goggins. He's a bit way out there, but inspirational. And he swears a lot, which is, no mad, no bad thing, I don't think, anyway. And to his credit, I think, you know, don't be like me, don't be like me if you want, be inspired to think a little bit like me. But he did inspire me to think because he said this one. Well, how many? One, two, three, four words. Four words. And it was lost in a sentence because they carried on talking, but to me, suddenly, boom, it was there. Four words. Dramatic pause. What were those four?     Be your own hero is what I'm looking for in life   I'll tell you what those four words were. Be your own hero. I thought, fuck, yeah, that. That's what I'm looking for, be my own hero. Because I can. Well, it gives me something to work on, to flesh out, doesn't it? And what a way to live. Striving to be your own hero.     Imagine if you were living your life as your own hero   And before we go into that, just imagine, just for a moment, without visualizing anything at all, just think if you were living your life as your own hero, what'd it feel like? And to me, it gave me such a buzz. If I could only live like my own hero, that would be it. Now I've got something to strive for, because that is the best version of myself. That is what I would try to improve every day. Constant, never end improvement. To be that hero. If I only improve 1% a day to become my own hero, it would be there. If I just strived to be closer, not better, but to be closer to that version of My own hero. What a way to live. That's what I think. To me anyway. What do you think? Take a moment now just to think. If I was to be my own hero, living my life. Wow. Because that would be it, wouldn't it? But let's dive a little bit deeper. well, I did, you see. I did. I did with the help of my son's mastermind group because I asked them to help me to contribute to flesh it out, as it were. Now let's see if we can might even put this into a process. Later on I might put it into a hypnosis track, See where we go with that. But first of all, let's just think. And I got my puzzle book out for this by the way. Think about it. That's my puzzle book. I do, I can, I can sell the puzzle books to you. In fact, they are available in every good bookshop because they're just a plain, plain paper. You can get them lined, you can get them with little dots on what look like squares. But I love plain paper because it gives me the freedom. Or you can have, it's a piece of paper, it doesn't matter. But I use my puzzle book. And in the middle of my puzzle book, right in the middle, I open the, open up two pages so I've got the whole like all of it. And in the middle I put be your own hero. I thought, yeah, that's pretty good. But then I put after it, aspire to be your own hero. Cloughie. And I drew a little smiley face with a, with a halo over the top. I don't know why it made me laugh, but I, I started asking myself questions to flesh this out. And I want you to think if you could, which maybe helped me inspire myself to flesh it out, ask these questions. And I started to get some answers and answer the questions and I maybe just fill in some of the things I got which may get you consciously and unconsciously, because I want your unconscious mind to think about this. Because if you think about it unconsciously, if you're living your life as your superhero, you are living the best life you are the healthiest you have, or you're dealing with any stress and problems you're dealing with them. Therefore you're in the safest possible world of your own, which is where your unconscious you, the unconscious mind want them to be. Isn't it talking to your best friend now. So anyway, I'll come back to that. Yeah.     What are your highest values? What would your superhero stand for   So what is your best. So what would your hero Stand for what is. Stand for who? What would they stand for? Your best hero. You see, I wrote down fairness. if there is such a thing as fairness in an unfair world, because the world is unfair. And that's another. Another topic. But fairness, as best they could. But that was the first thing that came to mind, just to be fair, treating people with fairness. That's what my superhero would do. Superhero now, by the way. And what wouldn't your hero stand for? What wouldn't they accept? And for me, it jumped out and I was a bit harsh because I said, liars. I won't accept lies. People who don't tell the truth. My superhero wouldn't accept selfishness or rudeness or any of that. Just not acceptable. And that just got me to think, that's a. There's some stuff in there. Maybe I'll flesh that out again. But maybe you could think, what would your superhero not. Not accept? And what would they stand for? Firm. You, see in there, there's a set of values in there. So what is. Or what are is better word, the values of your superhero, the ones you despire to be. You see, I thought of mine. What are my highest values? And I've had these since I found them, basically when I did, a values exercise way, way, way back into a distant age. And it was always trusted honesty. And I wrote those down and ticked them again because I can't think of anything higher for me. So my hero, my superheroes, would have in his heart, trust and honesty. And then there was a side. Listening before talking. I don't know where that came from. That just slipped in. And, I know I have been thinking about that for a long time. In fact, there's. I think I've either have done or will do an episode on that. How to be heard. That's what it's called, how to be heard. In fact, I think that was the last one bit short because it muddled up in episodes in my head. But hey, listening before talking.     What would your superhero, your hero, believe in   Now, what would your superhero, your hero, believe in? What would their beliefs be? And I thought about this, and again, what I did was I wrote these questions down and then I came back to them because I wanted them to, I hoped, come from not my. Just my conscious mind, but from my unconscious mind and let my conscious mind, like, decipher what I was thinking inside. And the same type of beliefs that I try to have as best I can, I know they're right. Sometimes they get a little bit. They're bent or pushed against, but I'VE got this. I'm okay now. They're so subtle to me. They just give me that inner strength. I'm okay. And then I thought, well, that's fine, but is there anything else below that? And the belief I got was everyone can change if they want to. That just means leaving the door open, doesn't it? And I thought, well, that's again, come from all my work with therapy. People want to change. We can find a way because I've got this. And it just made sense to me. But what beliefs would your hero have? What would they have at their core along with those values? Because values and beliefs at identity level are, ah, so powerful. They're what set our direction. I think they're what, you know, inspire us, even though we don't know. Sometimes they could say below the surface. But this is like bringing them out into our conscious awareness. And we can go, yeah, yeah. And, I thought, keep going with this. Who does my hero look up to? Who does your hero look up to? And, I didn't have a person in mind. Nothing came up. But then I thought, well, anyone showing kindness, because that leaves it so open to looking for people who show kindness. And again, looking for anyone who is showing up to stand up and be prepared to stand up for what's right. And that's a little bit like the very beginning, isn't it? What would your hero stand for? And, not accept? And then this one that hit me a little bit, little bit in me. Well, a lot of it is in me. It's all me, isn't it? It's all about me. But this is all about you too. But the one thing that came along and then just like, knocked me between the eyes was someone who can say sorry when it's needed, when it's proper, when it's, when it's, when it's the right thing to do. Because I know I don't, I don't do that, don't do it always. I have to force myself sometimes. And I don't know why. And that's something I'll have to be working on. Maybe that's too much information, you know. And, I got a lot of stuff. I got a lot of stuff. Everyone's got stuff. I got good stuff to share and I got some stuff inside still to work on. Everyone's got stuff to work on. But again, if my superhero, and if I could aspire to be that, then I will be saying sorry if I need to, if it's needed. Because it can't be right all the time. Oh, we always want to make a mistake about loads, isn't it? and then I thought of this. What dreams does my hero have? Have a think now. What? What do you think? Your hero? If you could aspire to be that person, what dreams would they have? Because you sometimes think, well, maybe that hero would have everything. But no, they still have dreams. But, wow, what dreams would they be? Because they're coming from a foundation of absolute wonder. I haven't got an answer for this yet because I'm still dreaming to be my hero, and I find it hard to get hold of that. But they'll come. It'll come. I'll come back to this puzzle book. Look out, look at this. And suddenly I'll know I'll get the answer, because that's the whole. This is an aside now. this is a great thing about having things like a puzzle book and writing that sucker down. Because I did at least two to three efforts on this. First of all, I just wrote out one or two questions with that central theme, and then I began to flesh it out. Then I got a few more questions, and I know I'll flesh it out even more because it's a work in progress, isn't it? You know, I'm a work in progress. You're a bloody work in progress. We're all nearly swore. We're all work in progress, aren't we? I did swear so. Because it felt good.     How does your superhero provide service? What is selfless service   But maybe you want to think about that. What are your dreams? And are they the dreams that your superhero still, has? And then I thought, well, I got this lovely person now. My hero, the one I strive and aspire to be. How does my hero provide service? Because I do believe we. We should be giving. And I don't like the word should, but, you know, everyone should give service to somebody, to something. Doesn't be somebody. Could be something. Could be the land, could be. Could be animals, could be anything at all. But what is selfless service? You know, it's that one where you don't expect any repayment whatsoever. It's for free with my compliments, no charge. You know, you're welcome. That's the only thing I want to be able to say, you're welcome, and do it. I made this note again. It's sopy. And I even wrote sopy in brackets with love and a smile. That's how my hero provides service. I'm not sure what. What it would be in what. What genre, what type of thing, but I just know that my Superhero would be looking to do and give your welcome with love and a smile. And to do that I, made a note. Mastering becoming a master of emotions, becoming a master of actions, becoming master of beliefs, and becoming a master of skills. Because to give selfless service, you're giving your skills. So you need to be able to access all those skills and practice accessing those skills and practicing using those skills. Because just having them is no fucking good at all. If you know a lot but don't use it, what's the point of knowing it? That's just ego driven, isn't it? But if you can do what you know and know what you do and get and put it into the form of selfless service where you're welcome, he said with love and a smile, that's my hero. That's what I want to strive to be. And then, I put, how does a hero, my hero behave in the world? Because we have values, we have beliefs, we have skills. But it also ends up as a behavior, doesn't it? Everything is a behavior. And I've got. It's quite strange with integrity. But again, what does integrity mean? I got an idea, obviously, but then I wrote softly with inner pride and in capital letters, the last bit with the heart of a warrior and the warriors written in capital letters uppercase. Because if you can have inner pride, act and behave like a warrior inside with integrity and with everything else I've put together, I thought I've got the makings. I've got a recipe of a real hero that I can strive to be because it inspires me. And I wonder what yours does. How would your hero behave in the world? Here's the thing that I know that you see all these things and the more I'm going to flesh it out and the more you're going to flesh it out are, inside you anyway. Already you have all of these wonderful skills, traits, whatever you want to call it, they're in there because they would if you, you couldn't be able to bring them out on paper to think about them if they weren't in there somewhere. So you have all of these things. It's a matter of accessing them m and bringing them out in full to keep practicing, to keep striving to get that constant and never improvement of your, of everything you've got which starts inside with what you've got now and then improving it. One percent maybe. So there you go. I don't know if any of that made sense.     Paul: I hope this podcast inspires you to think of your superhero   This is a ramble I know it's a heartfelt ramble, by the way, because this is really important to me and I hope, one of my hopes is that I can inspire you to think of your hero, because it's what you deserve. It's what you deserve to live or how to live as your hero. But we need to have that direction. We need to have the thought about what it is to be specific, not just constant and never ending improvement. Now I know what I want. I want to constantly be improving. For now, I, know what, I'm 1% every day bringing this to mind. So I need some, something to bring it to mind every day, which is where we get visualizations and things like. But I can now visualize my superhero, my hero, me, the person I strive to be. That is the best version of me. And it gets better. The more I work on it, the better it'll be, the clearer it'll be. And when I look back, I'll be going, okay, Cloughie, we're doing it. Maybe not all of it. It won't be all of it because it's always more. Whatever you think you are, you're always more than that too. So you're closer. Maybe that's a bit weird language, but you are. So I hope you know I have inspired you just if nothing else to think about it. Please get a puzzle book, please get a piece of paper, pen, pencil, colored crayons, whatever, and maybe just right in the middle, my hero. Maybe be your hero. What is my hero? Whatever it is, whatever is right for you. And just with lines going away from the sender. Just begin to maybe think about what are the values, what are the beliefs, what will your hero stand for? Not accept, what type of service, what do they dream of, how do they behave, who do they look up to, all that stuff. I think I will be doing a hypnosis track on that just to help you flesh it out in your conscious and unconscious mind. Let's get them both going. So it becomes an unconscious target to the aim in mind to be that best version of yourself. A best version that we can now grasp, hold, feel, as it were. Because when you've. Even if you just took my hero, and I know it's not you, but if you took the elements that resonate within you and add your little bits, you could feel it. Can't you begin to feel what it would feel like? And it's that feeling of the wish fulfilled once we start working or working on us with that feeling first in mind, the feeling of the wish fulfilled and then be. Guess what? What would happen if we acted as if. Acted as if we were that superhero with all those wonderful traits, values, beliefs. Fuck it. We'd be there. Nearly there. Jesus. I'm sorry about all the swearing, but, I get emotional about this bloody stuff because a lot of this is just me pouring out the things I'm thinking about about me. And hopefully you can come along with me in parallel with your thoughts, your desires, your dreams, your goals. To be the very best person that enjoys life, the life you deserve. Anyway, I hope that made sense. Please, if there's anything that doesn't make sense or anything you want about that, more detail or whatever, something you didn't understand, maybe I didn't explain it right or something, you go, ah, Paul, what about this Cloughie? I thought about something. If there's anything like that, please do email me. I'd love to hear it. It'll inspire me to do more for myself and for other people too. How do you do that? Feedback at Personal Development Unplugged. dot com. And I'll be there for you. And we'll create even better lives for ourselves. Become. Get our superhero being even more. I wonder what our superheroes hero is. Oh, there's another concept. Let's go another level. So if you would email me and if you could share this episode and share the podcast, it would mean so much to me. It really would. It's a way of paying it forward. It's a way of selfless service. But it would mean, I think other people would get whatever golden nuggets I put out there, known and unknown, conscious and unconscious. I think it would be. That would be very kind. Very kind. And it's very kind of you to spend your time with me, listen to me prattle on about me and the things I'm thinking about. So have more fun than you can stand. And, find joy wherever you look.     Paul Clough advises you to leave personal development unplugged   It's time to fly, my friend. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

What Are You Putting Off? Achieving NOW A 5 minute muse that just might change the way you think. What do you really want in your life that you are putting off - achieving? Because we do, we are - putting off those things we want ad it's not a nice thought because we've put it off. But if you ask this question you might just begin to start the one thing that would make the difference. What's the QUESTION? Well you have to listen because it's a podcast And when you have share with at least on other so they get to be on their way to making the life the deserve and dream of: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-469-what-are-you-putting-off-achieving And the video of this is here: https://youtu.be/X8C3Ipwf4nc Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,         Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

How To Be Heard When No-one's Listening Listen to Be Heard: Transforming Conversations & Connections Hey, do you ever feel like you're just *not being heard*? It's that feeling that no matter how much you try to express yourself, it just doesn't seem to land. It's something we all face, because, deep down, we all crave that feeling of being listened to and understood. But here's the secret: it's not really about how loudly we speak; it's about how deeply we listen—starting with listening to ourselves. In today's episode, we're peeling back the layers on the art of communication and discovering how you can finally be heard by others in a way that resonates. I'll be sharing some personal insights and real-life moments that taught me just how powerful true listening can be. And we'll be looking at some of the biggest hurdles that get in our way—like that pesky inner voice that tells us we're not worth it, or that whispers doubt when we try to connect. But here's the thing: *we can change that.* Here's what we'll be diving into today: 1. **The Real Barrier to Being Heard: Your Own Inner Voice.** Sometimes, the biggest obstacle to being heard isn't the person in front of us but the voice in our own head. I'll walk you through some of the ways I've learned to quiet this inner chatter, and how you can start asking yourself better questions to shift your perspective. 2. **The Power of Questions in Communication.** Have you ever thought about how you phrase the questions in your mind? Not just questions to others, but the ones you ask yourself. We'll explore how asking the right questions can instantly improve how you connect with people, making them more receptive and engaged in the conversation . 3. **How Listening Is the Key to Being Heard.** Yep, you heard it right! The art of listening can make others listen to you, too. When you practice becoming an attentive listener, it opens the door for more meaningful exchanges—and in a way, they can't help but want to listen to you in return. **What You'll Walk Away With:** - **Practical Steps for Better Communication.** I'll give you the tools to ask yourself the right questions, so you can engage others without the strain of feeling unheard. - **The Role of Self-Reflection and Visualization.** By pausing to reflect on what you need out of a conversation and envisioning that outcome, you'll start noticing your words resonate more. - **How Vulnerability and Genuine Curiosity Create Stronger Connections.** It's amazing how, when you show a real interest in others, those walls between you start to fall, building the foundation for truly rich relationships. By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit to not only be heard but to hear others in a way that's deeply enriching. It's all about stepping out of your own way, letting go of those old barriers, and embracing a fresh, straightforward approach to communication. Ready to transform the way you connect with others? Let's dive in. Link to share, please pay it forward     https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/416-how-to-be-heard-when-no-ones-listening   Shine brightly, Paul *P.S. Remember, I'd love to hear from you! Drop a comment or email me with your thoughts, questions, or feedback at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. And if this episode resonates, please share it with others and subscribe to stay connected.* If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Do you ever feel that you're not being listened to   Do you ever feel that you're not listened to, that you're not being heard? And we all want to be heard, don't we? We all want to be listened to. Well, I've got some examples of what happens, and I've got some answers of how we can be heard, how we can be. How we can be listened, and how we can use it to become the best version of ourselves. Okay, that's of interest. Take a listen.   T his is Personal Development Unplugged, with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity, there is genius. Just want you to know this. The answers are always hiding in plain sight. And this is for me. Well, sort of the intention of this episode is to remind me to do something, to get out of my own way. M. Maybe. And I think, well, let me. Let me do this. Let me do this. Have you heard. Have these words ever come from your lips? You just don't get it. Are you listening to me? Are you actually listening to me? What is it about it? What don't you understand? What? Why? How many times does that get said? You know, have you said it? How have you said it? I don't know. Or is it just me? It can't just be me, can it? Is this episode just about the things that. Well, maybe, you see, maybe this is all about me. This is me sharing my personal stuff all the time. Now, I've decided to try to go that way more because I think what one person experiences, so many other people do too. So if, as I go through this, maybe it'll just resonate a little deeper with you. And then when we get to the solutions, because we're always going to find solutions somewhere, maybe they'll resonate too. You see, you say that out loud. You don't get it. No, you're not. You're not listening. But then there's that bloody inner voice that we have in there where we start commenting on this. A commentary. Well, I've never. They never listen to me. Why are they never listening? Why that? Why don't they. What? Why fuck, me? No one understands me. And, why don't they. To get that. Never had that again. Or that could just be me. Maybe you don't swear. And then we get to the next bit of that. That internal voice with again, where we start to share some limiting beliefs that, we've come up with because of this. The things like, well, I must be stupid. I must be stupid. You know, no one's. You know, and it's just not worth it not worth. Not worth it. And in fact, because of that, I'm not worth it. Now, that's so general, isn't it? They're all so general. Got nothing to do with this at all, really. Because guess what? None of that is actually true, is it? Because people do listen. You're not stupid. You are worth it. So it's not true. Now, here's the problem I have, and I think it's true. When you say those sort of things to yourself, said it before, there's only one person listening to you, and that's your unconscious mind. And, by saying those things, I'm never listened to. No one understands me. I'm stupid, not worth it. It's like you're reinforcing those bloody things and your unconscious mind, your best friend, your servant, no, not a servant, likes to serve you because it's you says, oh, if that's what you really think, I'll find you some examples to make it seem even truer. And, you do, and it just perpetuates. And, this keeps going on, doesn't it? And you see, all those things are just shit questions and shit statements. Why are they shit? Well, ask yourself, how good are they working for you right now? I'll ask myself. Well, that's what I ask myself. I'm not asking you, asking me how good are they working for me. When I say things like that, even on the outside, with my outside voice or that internal voice of mine. And it's not bloody working, is it? Because, again, I'm not communicating. I'm not sharing what I know. I'm not. It's just not helping. And it gets worse, doesn't it? I talk to myself, by the way. Yeah, it gets worse because of those type of things.     How do I get others to listen to me? I've got some questions   This was getting to me because I wanted to be able to be listened to, to be heard. So I sat down and had a little think. I want to share with you just a couple, a couple of ways how I'm overcoming this so I can be heard, so I can share the things that I feel are important. And, maybe people will. Well, if nothing, if they don't understand it, they might understand me better. And I'm going to do it in reverse order. What does that mean? Well, these bonky, shitty statements and questions we're asking ourselves, you see, we ask better questions, don't we? That would be the way. Stop asking bonky questions and be more intentional. What do you really want? Because if I'm going to say I'm never listened to, that's not really going to get me anywhere, is it? If I'm telling myself I'm stupid or not worth it, it's not going to get me anywhere. What do I really want? What's my intention? Well, if my intentions to be heard, maybe just ask myself, how can I get better, at communicating? What a question. How can I say or ask things differently? Now you can think those and you go, oh, well, maybe I could, you know, think about what I'm going to say first. Maybe just, I don't know, maybe contemplate, pause, breathe, all that stuff. But there are better questions. And the thing is, I believe, and this is what I try to do now is I get my little old puzzle book out. Me piece of paper, me pen, and it doesn't take long. I just quietly write these type of questions down. And I'll muse and I'll think, how, how can I say things differently? What do I want to communicate? There was my intention for communicating these things communic. What was my intention for saying these things? And it's because I want to get a better connection with people. I, know that. And I really do want to get that connection. I do really want to share what I feel and what I think. Now once I get that on paper, I can now really get my unconscious mind as well to think. Because having written it down, it's like my internal voice. I'm looking at the words I write, everything goes inside. And my unconscious mind can actually start to think about it too. You know, what do I do? How could I be listened to? How can I be listened to? What can I do to be listened differently? Is it my posture? Is it my voice? Is it my. You know, there's things which are going on which are, doing things. How can I just say things differently? Maybe it's a different set of words. Maybe I've got to think about that other person. And I don't like the word make. But what would make others listen to me? So how could I maybe. How could I get others to listen to me? I've got the answers to that and it's a bit weird. So that's the second part. But I'm not there yet. I'm still on my questions. So how can I say things differently and still and, be understood better? And I know I'm not stupid. So how, if I was to imagine it, how would I want those things to be? Those, those events to be? How would I like to be there? Maybe that's part of the answer in number two in a moment. But maybe I could learn something by just thinking how I want it to be One thing. What got me was I said, I wrote down. Is what I'm saying worth it? No, the obvious answer to that as well. It's obviously worth it to me. But then I turn it on its head. What's it worth to the other person? And, why should they listen? And then to get motivation, it hit me a little bit, said, well, what would it be like? I'll say that bit more clearly. What would it be like if I was understood? If I was seen and what. And I was heard? What would that be like? What opportunities would it give me? How would my connection grow? That gives me motivation to start thinking again. You know, how can I say things differently? How can I say. Say things in a way that it would be valuable to that other person to share something. Maybe it's just to share it with me, but to say it in a way that got them to feel what I feel, that they would actually listen to me. And that's the thing about this thing about listening to me. We go back to the second part that I thought of, which was like, number one of they're not listening to me. The first part I've dealt with all the internal voices, ish. Just got to come up with the answers. But the start is to think about it, to visualize it. But how do I get people to listen? And I, ask myself the question, what about you, Cluffy? What about you? Do you really listen to others? The old two ears and one mouth came to mind. Do I really listen? Got me. Because I was more interested in me, what I had to say.     To really listen to somebody is to. And, uh, when I say listen,   I wasn't thinking about the other person that much, was I? I mean. And, when I say listen, and I've talked about listening before in episodes, I can't remember which ones, but there's. To really listen to somebody is to. And there's a knot in here. Not listening with half a mind of what you're going to be saying next. You're knowing what you want to say and waiting for that gap. And you effectively disregard anything they've bloody said because you haven't listened to it. You just waited for a gap in their conversation to go, but, no, but this is what it should be. Now, that's not listening, is it? You're still listening to yourself, by the way. This is not you, me. I'm still listening to myself when I do that. So it's really a matter of getting out of your way. This is one of the notes I made. Step out of your way. Because if you really want to be heard, maybe you just have to listen more clearly, more openly. So stop that talking to yourself of what you want to say and really listen. Because I thought about this, and people say. And it makes sense to me now, if you want to be heard and, listened to. Become a good listener. Not to. No, no, fuck that. Not a good listener. Become. Become a great listener. Pay attention. Pay attention with only them, that person in mind. And what happens when you do that? Well, things happen, don't they? You begin to understand that person better. You may not agree, but at least you understand where they're coming from. Maybe because of your open mind and I think even more importantly, and this is what you want for you, this is what I want for myself. They will feel understood because I want to feel understood. And if I really listen to them and they feel understood, guess what happens in that wonderful act of rapport? They will respond. They will. They, will respond by listening to you. Just like you listen to them. Oh, blimey, isn't that the thing to do? Because it's that thing when you really listen to somebody. You. You somehow get to be in their shoes. If you're really open, with no thought of your own. Just a. I want to just say to yourself, I've got time. I want to understand you. And because of that, you will then talk to them in a different way. Now, here's the thing. Just a quick one. Just come to my mind. Listen to yourself sometimes. Get out of your way. Just listen to yourself, and maybe you'll understand yourself better. You'll talk to yourself better. You'll ask better questions. Oh, there we go. Get those questions again. And when you really listen to yourself better, who are you listening to? Your conscious mind and your unconscious mind. You know, you're maybe thinking about the better questions you can ask yourself now. Because you know what your intention is, what you want. When you listen to yourself. Maybe it's that personal issue that you're going through, and you need to listen to yourself openly, not have that one thing in mind. But no, I want to listen to myself. Set myself some good questions so I can find some bloody great answers. And then I can try them on. Try them on either with visualization, but when you visualize, try, on to see what it feels like. So see what you'll see, hear what you'll hear. And feel the bloody feelings. And if it feels good, you go, this m. Is something I can work on. And then maybe you'll share it with somebody and maybe when they talk or they share themselves with you, you'll listen better and you'll learn more. It's all about learning, isn't it? And then acting upon those learnings. And, when we do that, isn't it a wonderful thing to give time to people just to listen? And maybe we just use it as a skill to start off with, just want to listen, get myself out the bloody way. You know, it's counterintuitive. If you really want to be heard, you got to listen better yourself. And then you become a better you. That's the thing. What I thought is important about this. It's not important or as important. No, get the other way around, Cloughie. It's important to be heard, but it's not as important to be a better you. And that better you. You know, in some ways, listening is like a selfless service. But you are going to get something in return. You're going to understand people better. You're going to maybe find things that you will help you as well, because you're really listening. And you go, ah, I never thought about that. Now that is interesting. I'll take that away with me. Maybe I don't agree with it in total, but there's something in there. Because you've listened, really listened. So that's it, really.     Sometimes it's difficult to know what you do want in a podcast   That was me talking about me, because I don't get listened to enough. It's a weird thing for someone who does a podcast, but it's always a thing. These answers are hiding in plain sight. They are for me anyway. And I just miss them sometimes. And sometimes it's just sitting down and thinking, you know, what I want, what am m I or what don't I want to start off with? Well, I don't, because sometimes it's difficult to know what you do want. So let's find out what I don't want. And then, well, if I didn't have that, what would I have instead? So I don't want to be ignored. I want to be listened to. I want to be able to share the things that are important to me. Well, to do that, I don't get a right. It's not my right to be listened to. I have to listen first. I have to give first. Because the thing is with that act of selfless service, you say it before you do it for no want of return at all. But you get dolloped on, with wonderful things in return. It's wonderful that way. And these are just little things in life. Because what's it all about, you know, when we really communicate with people, Isn't it lovely when we really understand somebody? Isn't that lovely? You know, don't, know why I keep saying, you know. But I often think, and I've had it before, maybe you have. Does this resonate with you occasionally? It's not always, but I want to do it more. When I've really listened to somebody, I've suddenly found out something really special about them that I didn't know. And I thought, wow, you surprised me. You know, they tell you what they're interested in, what their hobbies or what they've experienced in the past, you go, wow, you did that. Oh, wow. And it inspires you to do more. And all you've done is listen and ask questions of them to get more to share. You know, maybe bloody, you know, again, I'm going to cut that out. I can't remember what I was going to say now, but just to be there, to share experiences. Oh, I know. I was going to say sometimes it means just being a little bit vulnerable, you know, that lovely word vulnerability. But it's not. It's just listening, isn't it? And then knowing that when you share, they'll listen. It's nice to be heard, but maybe. And the thing is, this is last thing. When you are communicating in a way that people can understand it, can understand you, can understand your intention, what you're trying to share. The thing is, you get to know it better, too. You do. It's always said that if you learn something, if you can share it with somebody verbally, you get to know how well you understand it. And, maybe where there's some gaps that you need to look further so you're never just blindly thinking, I know it all, you actually find, yeah, there's more to learn. Yeah, well, that was a ramble, my friend. it was all about me. That's what a lot of these podcast episodes have been about. And I think they'll be about more now. Something, again I'm thinking about to remind myself and hopefully in those reminders to re. Remind. I'll remind you of the skills that you've got, too. And one of them is how to be heard. Because you've got a lot to share. I hope it made perfect sense. Well, not perfect. I hope it made sense. If it didn't, please let me know. If there's something that it sparked in you. Maybe there's something that resonated. You go, ah, I'd love to hear about it. Feedback@personaldevelopment unplugged.com that's the email address. And he comes to me. I'm the only bugger here. And let's have a little dialogue, not a monologue. And maybe we could inspire each other and then use it to create an episode that inspires many. Wow, that is selfless service, isn't it? And we get the benefit. And the thing is, we get the result too. We get more. Enjoy. Please share this. Please do share this Again, as I said, just share what you know, but tell you know, if you would just tell it where you. Where you got the words out, where you got it from.     Do share the Personal Development Unplugged podcast on social media   Got it from Cloughie. There's a guy on the podcast, personaldevelopment unplugged.com you ought to subscribe like I have. You have subscribed, haven't you? But do share it. I mean, I know it's a big ask, and I do ask this, but what would happen if you just shared it on your social media? I heard a great episode. It's a personal development army. Personal Development Unplugged podcast. Yeah, you might just learn something that's a good thing to do. It'd be like a paying it forward bit of selfless service. Maybe you'll be heard. Okay, my friend, till next time. I'm gonna go and get my puzzle book out again. Okay, have fun. More fun than you can stand and be sharing in a kind way. Bye bye now. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal Development Unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

The Secret To Speeding Up The secret is, as usual, hiding in plain sight and is counterintuitive. And I'll start, in this 5-minute quickie episode start with a story, a metaphor and then muse. The story is about something you would never ever do yet in real life we do it all too much with disastrous results. Results such a: Burnout Overwhelm Anxiety Loss of Confidence and so much more AND......... There is a simple solution! please press play and have a listen. It would be really nice if you would pay this forward by sharing this episode and the podcast https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-468-the-secret-to-speeding-up/ ‎ And if you haven't already subscribe - it really makes a difference you wouldn't believe Oh! and if you want to see this being recorded https://youtu.be/29Vxav-Y7GY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

My Real Life Metaphor To See The World Clearly Seeing the World More Clearly: A Journey of Self-Investment Hey, welcome! Let's talk about clarity—what does it really mean to see the world clearly? And not just in the visual sense, but through the lens of your own personal development. In this episode, I (Paul Clough) share a personal story that might just give you that ‘aha' moment—a story that acts as a mirror for your own journey. Let's get into how investing in yourself can lead to clearer vision and, ultimately, a more fulfilling life. Here's the thing: personal growth isn't selfish. It's not about being self-centered; it's about being self-aware. It's about becoming the best version of you—not just for you, but for the people around you. Imagine this: when you see the world more clearly, you're able to show up as your true self—the real you—and that's a gift to everyone. So, what are we diving into today? Self-investment. Yep, that can sound scary. We often avoid it because, let's be real, the idea of change and improvement freaks us out. But that's exactly why it's so important! Getting over the fear of becoming your best self is like cleaning foggy glasses—you suddenly start to see the world differently, and things just… click. The ripple effect. Working on yourself isn't just about you. It's the most generous thing you can do for the world. When you grow, you naturally inspire others to grow too. It's contagious. Kindness as a power tool. Think of kindness as your superpower—not just being kind to others, but being kind to yourself. When you live with kindness and push yourself toward your full potential, life takes on a whole new meaning. What are you going to learn? How to recognize and create real, dynamic changes in your life. It's about small shifts that lead to massive transformations. The importance of regular self-reflection. It's not enough to grow once and call it a day—this is an ongoing journey, and guess what? You can tweak, adjust, and improve along the way. Acting “as if.” Want to be more confident, more compassionate, more successful? Start acting as if you already are. You'll be amazed at how quickly this simple mindset shift can turn into reality. This episode is about loving yourself, living kindly, and embracing continuous growth. You might just find that as you invest in yourself, the world becomes a brighter, clearer place, not just for you, but for everyone in your life. So, ready to see the world more clearly? Let's make that happen! Shine brightly, Paul Clough P.S. Share the episode and start the ripple effect: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/415-my-real-life-metaphor-to-see-the-world-clearly Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough talks about personal development in this podcast   Hey, I've got a simple, real life metaphor that really happened to me. And suddenly I found something else of how to see the world more clearly. Okay, please have a listen. Cause I think you'll enjoy it.   Some time ago, I decided to change the way I see the world   Hey. Some time ago, I decided to change the way that I see the world. Literally, how I see the world. You see, I had a lens. Well, both lens replacements, in my eyes. You see, before, in order to see sort of clearly, I had to wear glasses. And glasses for driving and long distance and things like that, and telly and that. But after a while, I didn't wear them so often. And, do you know what happens? Well, you just get used to the blur. It becomes normal. It becomes your normal. My normal. Well, it did became my normal. M so I decided I wanted to see a bit more clearly. I wanted to see the world clearly. So I literally had someone take out the lenses in my bloody eyes and, replace them with new ones. Yeah. And I am, not a brave little soldier, but I did it because I really wanted to see clearly. So was it expensive? Yeah, it was a little bit. It was. But it was important. So I found the money. It was important. It was important to see the world with more clarity, not just that blur where things, you know, the colors just faded into each other and the details just disappeared. Was I nervous? Yeah, I was. I told you, I'm not a brave little soldier. So was it uncomfortable? Yeah, it was a bit. It was uncomfortable. But when I think about it now, it wasn't very long. It was more uncomfortable thinking about it, I think. And then when it's done, it's gone. Did I have to do stuff? Did I have to have, like, a continuing thing? Was it just there and then? Yeah, I had to do bloody eye drops. I had to sleep with goggles on just in case I scratched myself and things like that. And did it turn out perfect? Well, not quite. Didn't turn out quite perfect. It was better. It was better. And, you see, it was only, this last week I went back because I wanted to see if I could tweak it, have one more little treatment. I had to keep working on it because I wasn't quite happy with the way I was. Was it pleasant? Well, not exactly. And then we're back to the bloody eye drops and back to the goggles. Yep, there. We're there again. So a little bit more uncomfortableness. But am I happy now? Oh yeah. Oh yeah. And when I think back, and this is what got me into this, this, this thought and this story, I invested in me, I m invested in me. And therefore, it's like a real life metaphor. And you see, I always tell my clients when they get embarrassed about working on themselves, paying for therapy, maybe they think that they should be spending their time and their money on their family not working on themselves, because that's selfish, isn't it? And I find that's the most, well, selfish thing to do, not, not to work on yourself. You see, who would the p. Who would the people that you love prefer to be around when we're talking about you? Would they prefer to be around you when you're feeling your true self? You know, when you're seeing the world more clearly. And when I say clearly in seeing, I'm talking about through the emotions and limiting beliefs and negative emotions. And those feelings, when they're gone and you're feeling good with yourself, wouldn't they prefer to be around you when you're feeling that way? Of course they would. Of course they would. But the thing is, when they're feeling good about feeling, about being around you because you feel good, what happens to you? Will you feel bloody even gooder, if that's a word, you feel even better and then they feel better. And, it's a lovely spiral of going upwards as opposed to downwards. That's the opposite, isn't it? But they just feel really good. Yeah. So, investing, you see, I, I do a lot of talking and thinking of being kinder. Talked about it quite a bit. So it's in my, it's in my mind and it's. This is about me, but I think it might resonate maybe if you just, just give it a time. Just give it a moment or two as I speak, you see, I wanted to be kinder and thinking about being kinder, using my skills to do that. Why? Why would I want to do that? Well, because I don't think I'm doing enough. I don't do it enough. I can be kind, but it's not at the forefront of my horizon, my thinking. And when I was thinking about it, I'm not happy to blindly put up with it, not living to my potential, because there is potential in being kind again. When you're kind to somebody, you feel good, they feel good. Win win. But when you feel good and you're kind, people just want more of you. I guess.     What would make the most dynamic change in you and affect everything else   So when we think about it, how kind of you, you know, are you living your life to your true potential? Are you? What might happen if you did? What might happen if you did live your life to your true potential? Now, I know you're here listening. So you're into this personal development malarkey where you want to get a little bit better in your life. Strive to be the best version of yourself. And, that's why I want to make it all about you, you see? It is all about you. You have to come first. The old aeroplane thing, you know, put on your. If the air masks come down, put them on you before you deal with somebody else, so you can deal with other people because you're in a better state. And that's what I said right at the beginning. When you're feeling good about yourself, maybe you still want to get better. Well, you will. But when you're feeling good about yourself, people get the best of you. They see the best of you. So it is all about investing in yourself, taking the time, because it does take time. Taking the effort, because it does take bloody effort, doesn't it? I know it's simple when we break it down like we do here, break down the complicated into simple steps. And it's pretty easy, those steps, because they're simple, they're easy. But it does take effort, doesn't it? Does take effort to see yourself clearly, not as you are now, but how you can be, how, you want to be. My son Joseph has a lovely saying. That's Joseph Clough. Search him on the Internet. He is massive. But he has this little saying. He says, what you want wants you. Yeah. Have a think about that. What you want wants you, because it does. And if you want the best for yourself, that's what's there for you. It wants you to be the best for yourself. The whole world, the whole multiverse universe wants you to be the best version of yourself. But again, you have to put yourself into number one. And it's not just kindness, is it? It's not, is it? It's a great place to start, I believe, but it's whatever change you want to make. To make. I love to say this, to make the most dynamic change in you and then affect everything else in that dynamic. Change. Love the word dynamic. It feels like there's motion, emotion in it, isn't it? What would make the most dynamic change in you and affect everything else? It's like saying, what is the one thing that if you change, that everything else would have to change too? Just have a think now. Just have a think. If you could. What would you change? for me, it was kindness. That was the thing on my horizon. To see clearly, to be kind, to see opportunities of kindness, to be kind. Maybe that's because I felt that was. Well, I did. It was not on, as I said, the highest part of my agenda. And I thought it should be, should be of a higher value to me. But this dynamic change, is it quick? Well, it could be. Could be. If you've got something that you really need to change and it's really, you know, bringing you down, maybe because it's anxiety, maybe there's fear, maybe there's guilt, maybe there's grief, maybe there's, oh, everything. But if it's affecting you, go and see a therapist. You know that talk about it so many times, go. from my experience, if you find a great master hypnotist who is a great master practitioner of NLP, who is a great master practitioner of timeline therapy, you will blow that out of the water so quickly. But you do have to make the effort, don't you? You do have to make the effort. And you know, I've got something. How to find or what to look for in a great, great therapist somewhere back in the ether of all these episodes. Just search, it, you'll find it. But working on yourself, because you don't have to be a graduate therapist, because we're always continually working on ourselves, aren't we? That's why you're here. So it takes time. And to work on yourself in that time, you could say, just look at the back catalogue of the episodes here. There's loads of them. And those hypnosis tracks, they're all there for you. Where'd you get them? Paulcloughonline.com podcast. And there's so many other great podcasts around. I'm going to do a little episode on the ones that I find so good for me, and hopefully they'll be good for you.     NLP is about learning from the past, not reliving it   So you have to put the effort in, you have to spend the time, you have to make that decision. And is it comfortable? Yeah, well, not always, is it? It's not always comfortable. Just like the eyes. But it doesn't have to hurt again. What do you mean? Cloughie. Because sometimes people think you have to go back into the pain again, go back into the past, into those places of bloody trauma or whatever they are, and go back and re experience them, which is a load of bollocks you can think of. It really is. You don't have to go back to the places that you thought were hurtful. To find out that they're still bloody hurtful. No, no, no, no. Not at all. My sons and I work completely different. And it's such a wonderful way. You learn from the past, not relive it. You get your unconscious mind to learn from the past and not relive it. That's what the hypnosis is about. That's what the NLP is about. It's everything I do here is about learning, not reliving. The only times you relive are the good bloody things. When you're having a fucking fantastic time and it's good for you, good for everyone else and good for planet Earth, then you do relive that part. You anchor those parts so you can fire them off in the future whenever you need them. And again, there's anchoring in. That is his hypnosis tracks bullcliffonline.com podcast just a little one. And they're all free, by the way. They're free, complimentary. You don't even have to put anything down, just your name and an email, because it's all about unconscious learning. And when you get the unconscious learning, sometimes you get the conscious learning. And when you do that thinking, that puzzle book thinking, yeah, you get some conscious learning as well. But you're directing your unconscious mind to learn. And you see, the learning frees us from the negative emotions and the negative limiting beliefs because they're only there because we haven't learned. We only have anxieties and fears and things like that because our, unconscious mind is still using those emotions because we haven't learned the lessons from those past experiences. So once the unconscious mind learns what it needs to know, and it can let go of those negative emotions, let go of those limiting beliefs, because they no longer serve you because you have the learnings, it's the whole basis of timeline therapy, which is a beautiful, beautiful process. Thanks to Tad James for that. Bless him. He's up in heaven now. But what a process he developed there.     When you're developing yourself, you have to have regular checkups   So going back to like, that metaphor of the eyes, you have to have regular checkups. But when you're developing yourself, isn't that like reviewing how far you've come, what needs to be refined? I. What needs to be tweaked? Maybe you discover something else that needs a little bit of work. Because as you move through, I'm not going to call it, a comfort zone, your familiar zone, because that's what it all it is. As you go through that imaginary boundary, you come to things, you go, oh, oh, I didn't that's giving me just a little bit of concern, or maybe I just thinking I'm bit of an imposter here and all that crap. So you just do some tweaking. But when you review, you go, hang on a minute. I have come so far. I have learned so much. I ain't an imposter. I deserve to be here. And you learn anyway.     You've got to be kind to yourself first before you can love others   Back to that kindness. Back to that thing about kindness. I like the theme of kindness here. You see, when we work on ourselves, we work with our self development, our, personal development, whatever you want to call it, is. We want to work with kindness, don't we? Be kind to ourselves, for God's sake. You know, going to get soppy now, but, you know, you got to love yourself first before you can love others. You've got to be kind to yourself first before you can be kind to others. Because if not, you're not in alignment, you're not congruent. That's a lovely word as well, congruent. But you're not living your true self. You can't try to love others. You cannot try to be kind to others. You cannot whatever you want to be if you're not being it yourself, truly. So you have to live the way you want to be, don't you? Live the way you want to be. How do you do that? Act as if. So if you act as if, for example, you're being kind and looking. and to do that, you'd have to look for opportunities to be kind, and then you have to act on those opportunities, and then all of a sudden, you're being kind. If you want to be confident, not over competent. So let's say competent. Act as if. How would somebody act as if. How would you act as if you had that right amount of confidence. Not overconfidence, but, the appropriate amount of confidence, how would you act? How would you breathe? How would you stand? And if you want to remember to remind yourself, get a sticky note and stick it everywhere. Act as if. And this really just starts from being kind and loving to yourself first. Yeah, soppy. I said that before. It's soppy, but it really is true. Taking time out just to be with yourself, but it's also being kind to yourself. And, loving to yourself is investing in you first. Now, this all sounds absolutely bloody wonderful, doesn't it? And, the metaphor here is to get you thinking, get your unconscious mind to go, oh, yeah. What can we do? Well, we'll probably dive in. Well, I will do some more, longer podcasts with the steps of how to be kind to yourself, how to love yourself, how to whatever, whatever, whatever. But if there's anything particular you want to know, bloody ask. Don't be bashful, don't be shy. Just ask. Email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. and that's all you have to do. I'll get back to you personally, and then we'll divide, divide, devise a process, or I'll remember one that I've learned. So that's why I said, this is a just simple truth through a real story, seeing the world more clearly, becoming, well, maybe just thoughtful for the moment because. And the reason I'm hanging in here with this one is because I feel it's so important, because it's the foundation to build upon. What's that, Paul? Being kind of to yourself. Being loving to yourself. And, from that foundation, you can develop yourself into anything you choose. You really can. And sometimes, as I say, it won't be better roses. It might, you know, might be just uncomfortable for a little while, but it always disappears. But I say, just, I want to reiterate this. It doesn't have to hurt again. Promise you, it's how you want to be. When you focus on how you want to be, what are the skills you need to be to be that way? How would you have to believe all of that stuff? Do you learn from the past? Yeah. so please do get in contact with me. Please, just. I'd love you to share this with, well, as many people as you could. I'd love you to share the podcast. You know, just. Maybe just share on your contacts, maybe put it on Facebook. This, this is a great podcast. Or this is a good podcast. This is an interesting podcast. Maybe do that and just put it into all your contacts.     Paul Clough: Personal development is about being the best version of yourself   That would be lovely if you did that big ask. I know, because it takes at least 30 seconds, but, you know, it's a big ask. I know, because even telling people that you're listening to personal development, oh, what are you doing that for? It's a bit like myself. When I first started, I was doing an awful lot of stuff, but then I really got into this and I went to, to learn hypnosis, and it was embarrassing to tell people, I'm going to a course on hypnosis and hypnotherapy, but by the way, I'm in big business. It was embarrassing, but I wanted to see the world more clearly. I wanted to live to my true potential. I'm nearly doing that. Nearly not enough, because we're all the same. I think we're in the same boat. We all want to get that little bit more. So let's put that ladder against the wall that we know is going to help us achieve what we want to achieve. There's another little metaphor. Don't put the ladder up against the wrong wall. Have a think first, get your intention and then go. all this stuff we can expand upon, promise you. But this is just a thoughtful. A thoughtful muse to get you thinking of how you can see the world more clearly, how you can find those emotions that you just really feel would help you be that person, the real you. The best version of yourself. I hope all of this made bloody sense. I really do. I've waffled on, but it's come from the heart. And just remember, the people who you love would rather be around you when you're in love with yourself and being kind to yourself and being the best striving person to be the best version of yourself. Yeah. Okay, my friend. Until the next time. I will see you, hear you, hear you, not hear you, speak to you. I'll speak to you then. Enjoy. But please remember, if you want anything, just email me. Okay. Bye bye now.   Warning.   You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development. Unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

One Life No Excuses You Choose No Excuses, Just Choices Hey, my unplugged friends! Welcome back to the *Personal Development Unplugged* podcast. I'm Paul, and today we're getting right into the nitty-gritty of life. No fluff, no excuses, just real, raw choices. Because here's the deal—you've only got *one* life, so let's stop blaming, stop explaining, and start owning it. Let me start with a little story, a personal one. It's all about a Christmas card… yeah, a Christmas card. Sounds innocent enough, right? But it taught me something huge about responsibility. You ever done something and then thought, "What was I thinking?" or "Why did I do that?" Well, this is one of those moments. So, let's break it down: ### First, why do we need to take responsibility? It's simple—because when you own your choices, you get to shape your life. Every action you take, every decision, has consequences, good or bad. But here's the magic—when you acknowledge them, you also get the power to learn, to grow, and to make better choices next time. ### Then, how do we actually do it? I'm sharing practical strategies for reflecting on past actions—whether they were brilliant or a complete mess—and extracting the golden lessons from them. That's how you build a richer life. Not by avoiding mistakes, but by learning from them. ### And here's a big one: I've got five keys to success, and one of the biggest is acting *as if* you've already achieved your goals. When you start to live as the person you want to become, your brain and body align. Your decisions start matching the future you're aiming for. This isn't about being perfect, it's about making choices with intention. It's about setting expectations for yourself and your life. And, my friends, it's about choosing to take responsibility—because when you do, you take control. So, are you ready to stop making excuses and start flying? That's what this episode is all about. It's about embracing your one and only life, and making it yours. No one else is going to do it for you. Take a listen, absorb it, and most importantly, act on it. You've got the power, and it's all within your choices. As always, please share, and let's keep spreading the word—because the more we all take responsibility, the higher we can all soar. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/414-one-life-no-excuses-you-choose/ That's it for now—let's unplug from excuses and plug into *you*. See you soon! Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Stop your excuses and learn to choose how to live your life   One life, you choose how to live it. No excuses, no excuses. You've got this. There's no one else to blame. Now you've got this. Stop your excuses and learn to choose how to live your life. If you want more when you do Cloughie says sometimes we don't think about consequences of our actions   M hey, welcome back to the longer podcast. One life. One life. And you choose it. And you choose how to live it. Here's a question to you. Have you ever said this to yourself? What the hell was I thinking about? Why did I do, what is going on? how could I have done just that? You see, a million years ago, in my other life, when I used to be a director of a business, each year we used to give out Christmas cards, send them to all, the local people who employed us and did this stuff and what have you. There's quite a few, quite a few. And one year I decided to do something different. I don't know why I did it at the time, the very second I did it, I thought it was such a brilliant idea, I wrote a cheeky note. Instead of just happy Christmas, Paul, I wrote something else. And what happened? Well, it was, they were seen and there was a big stack of these cards and someone said, what the hell are you doing, Cloughie? This is not it, you can't do this. This is so wrong, so wrong. We're going to have to take all the cards back, we're going to have to throw those ones away, order some more. The people who have already signed all these cards are going to sign them again, and so have you. What else have you got to do? And I did think then the only good thing to do, the right thing to do was apologize. So I don't know what I did, I don't know why. I've let people down badly, I let myself down badly. But at the time, I thought it was the best thing to do. I really did, I thought I was doing something. So I did apologize. And it didn't matter how good that intention was, that behaviour was absolutely crap, wasn't it? And it hurt, bloody hurt when I did it, when I had to go around to each person. So I'm really sorry, you know, I fucked up, but I did learn from it, I did learn because no one else to blame, no one else to blame. I could have argued, oh, it's such a good thing. No, it was wrong, just didn't think about it. What about you? What about you? Have you ever done something like that? Something that you. You've done, but it's quite painful when you think about it now, but at the time, you thought it was a good thing to do. You see, what I didn't do, and I think what we don't do is stop and think about the consequences of our actions. I think we do. Sometimes we get wrapped up in the moment. And you see, this is a little bit like following on from one of the, short five minute quickie podcasts about taking responsibility. No excuses, you see, because you're here right now, listening to me prattle on, and that's your choice. It's a good choice, by the way. Fucking good choice. Yeah. It's a really good choice. In fact, wherever you are in life right now, at this very moment, this very moment in time, whatever you do, where you listen to me now, but whenever you listen to me, or, whenever you're doing right now, is your achievements. This point in time has been created by your achievements, by your cock ups, by your relationships. Basically, everything has been your choice. You have chosen every step of the way. And yeah, you can say, oh, no, no, I didn't, Paul, I didn't clavy, I didn't do that. People made me do that. Things made me do that. The weather made me the weather. The business. Business world, the crash on the Internet, all that stuff that made me. Can you think about that? Just think about it now, really? You're going to blame other people for your choices? Things that happened, for your choices? Yeah, they happened. But you chose to do something when it happened, didn't it? I want to take you back. Take you back in time. I want to take you right, right. All the way back in time to your birth. Really. Yeah. You see, when you were born, you came into this world like a clean slate. You didn't have any beliefs, you didn't have any behaviors other than cry, shit, eat all that stuff. But that's all you did, isn't it? That's all you did. And, from that very moment on, that very moment on, you chose. You chose what you did. You chose at that very moment what to believe, what to do, how to behave. Yeah, I know. There's one caveat. Well, there is. There is one caveat to this. You didn't do it consciously. It was your unconscious mind. Your unconscious mind made these choices, made these learnings. But you had to choose who to believe. Yeah, I know. We've got. When we were born, we had these people around us who, we took on their beliefs almost uncritically, most of them, it's big generalization, but most of them, we took on their beliefs. But even those, even when we chose to take on beliefs uncritical, they weren't even their beliefs, because they could have been other generations and generations and time changes. But we still chose. We still chose to do the things we did and we might even give excuses to.     NLP is all about taking time to learn from the past   Well, in my childhood wasn't that good. I had some negative experiences. I had trauma. There was bullies, there was this. There was that. Nah You know, you might say I didn't have a chance and I didn't have a choice. Yeah, you did. We all did. Because, you see, there's always that counterexample. People from similar backgrounds had similar opportunities or similar things happening to them in life, but they chose a different outcome because they didn't. They're not the same as you, or they're not the same as me, and they're not the same as anybody else. You see these people who will just lay off all those bloody excuses because it wasn't their fault. But the thing is, when you live in this world of lie, I call them lies because they're just reasons. They're excuses. We chose to live that life and they didn't. And they took their opportunities. They made different choices. They did the things that, well, they just made different choices. So where am I going with this? You see, I want to get us into this place where we're not living in the land of what we think are, excuses, but. Or reasons. They're reasons, really. We go, oh, this is the reason. And sometimes we bloody believe it. But the thing is, this reason is just a bloody excuse. I can't even say the word. It's an excuse. We're not taking responsibility. And you see, when we acknowledge that we chose, and we albeit chose unconsciously, and when we go back to NLP, neuro linguistic programming training, that there's some presuppositions, useful assumptions, the presuppositions of NLP. And one of them is everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have at that moment, their unconscious resources, their skills, their experiences in life. So we do the best we can, we try to make the best choice, just like I did when I did those bloody Christmas cards. But it was a fuck up. Sometimes we don't make the right choice. We don't think of the consequences. But, hey, that's life. But the thing is, if we take and acknowledge responsibility for that we become a cause, becoming empowered. And we can learn from them, can't we? We can learn from the results because they're not failures. They might see me at the time because they bloody hurt. but they're just results. We didn't realize what the result we're going to get. And what we got is what we got. We didn't like it. So no excuses. Yeah, I did it. That was me I chose. Don't know why. Something inside me, hey, I want to learn from it. Because when I do that, I can take control, control of my life, control of not necessarily what happens because you're not always certain what's going to happen, but we can be as certain as we can be, can't we? So it's all about taking time to learn from the past. And, it's not just learning about those so called failures, because the things that didn't happen, which didn't happen so good. We might call them failure, but they're just, as I say, they're just a result that we didn't expect to have happen. But we can learn from those, can't we? Because when we learn from them, any negative emotion around those events in our past disappears. Because we don't need the emotion. Because we've learned from them. We can now take that learning into the future. But hey, don't forget about the good stuff. You remember the good stuff. You remember and go, what can I learn from that? Don't just take it blindly. Oh, it was great. Now, what did I do to create that good stuff? What was my thoughts? What were my beliefs? What my emotions? What behaviors did I do? Because you can take that and take them into the future, too. So you've learning from both, not so good, but learning from the good stuff. Don't let the good stuff disappear because the golden nuggets strewn everywhere in your life. And, the thing is, when you do that, you just have to take time. It's about taking time to refresh both, I guess all those different memories. Quiet reflection. Now, you know me, I'm going to say, write that. Nearly swore that sucker down. Write it down. Make notes. Because if you don't, what happens is one comes in one ear and then it pisses off at the other because the other something else is coming in and something else is coming in. So write them down. Because when you write them down, you can really. Or you can come back to them for a start because they're always there. So you can improve. Not improve. Yeah, you can improve upon their thoughts. You can think we don't spend enough time thinking. I think. I think that. But you can ask yourself questions in those notes. What can I learn from this? And you don't have to relive it, because it will never be the same. Think about it. Every memory you have now is not true. It's not true. The emotion you're in right now will change that bloody memory.     You have a choice to make about your life, Paul Cloughie says   If you're happy and you think of a bit of a shitty time in the past, it's not that bad. Well, it wasn't that bad yet. If you're feeling down today, that same memory was absolutely worse than that. So bad. And, it's never the same. Never really, what happened. So we don't want to revisit them as such. Not the memory. But what can I learn from it? How can I do it different? How can I use these learnings to create, betterment in my life? Better experiences, a richer life, the good times. How can I use those emotions and skills to influence more things, to make life richer? And you see, when we do this, we're acknowledging that you have a choice, and you have a choice, and you've always had that choice. And you see, even if you said, well, I'm going to do nothing, I ain't going to do nothing about this. Cloughie, you just made a choice. What's the effect of that, that choice? The choice of doing something, learning something, putting it out there, using new skills, new experience, using those experiences to make a richer life in the future, or do nothing. Still choosing. No excuse. No excuse. You're responsible for this. Take it. And, when you're in that responsibility mode, you are empowered. I tell you that. You think about it and you see, why is this such a good thing? And I know it seems a little bit like hard work, but it isn't. You're here. You're here in personal development mode. And nothing I've said to you is complicated because I broke it. Not me. I'm just telling you in simple terms. Now, this is easy. Takes a bit of resilience, takes some bit of bottle, takes a bit of oomph. Gumption. I love that word, gumption, to do this. But it's so much worth it. You see? Why is this so good, to know this and do this? Because you shape tomorrow what you do now, what you choose now. Well, we said everything you chose in the past has led to now. So what you choose now leads to tomorrow and the next tomorrow, which becomes the now you created. That's all you have to do every time, if you're going to do something, just stop. I've talked so many times on the five minute quickie podcast, there's little episodes just to stop for a moment, take a pause, take a breath before you sign anything, and just think while you're just in this moment. And it doesn't take hours. It's just a few seconds, a few, just a minute or so, maybe. What's my intention for doing this? What is my intention? You know, what's my expectation? Same thing. What do I expect to have happened when I do this? What do I intend? what will be the consequences of my actions? What will be the consequences of my intentions, my expectations? Simple thing is what I'm going to do next, going to make my life better or worse. And if it's a big decision, as I said, write that sucker down. Write it down and look for, you know, if it's going to make my life, mostly better. But there's a few not so good bits in think and write, because writing is thinking. How can I mitigate this? How can I change this? And, when you've got that, decide, decide to take action. Now, here's the thing. And, if you look on, well, if you go to the hypnosis tracks, I have@paulcluffonline.com podcast, there is a thing or a track, and I've talked about it in five minute quickly. So I think you can think of longer, longer podcasts.     The five keys to success start with knowing your goal. So you've decided what to do   The five keys to success. One is know your goal. So you, now you've decided, you've chosen what to do, your intention. So you've decided what to do, and now you're going to take intuitive, massive, and the big thing, continuous action. So you're going to move in that direction because you've thought about it now, you've decided, you've intended, you have an expectation, you take this continuous action. And the thing is, as you do that, you become aware, become aware of what's happening now, not just blindly accepting what happens, but if something happens and it's not quite, quite right, the next step is to become flexible. You change your approach, you do something different. You make sure that you're on target or even, sometimes even better still, you notice there's even a better way. So you don't blindly keep going the same way because you've got a better goal. Now that goal has become richer because you're taking intuitive, massive continuous action and you're aware of what's happening. You're flexible. And guess what? When you think of your intention, what you want, the last, the fifth key to success, and, I think one of the most important ones, well, they're all important, they're all linked together, is act as if. Act as if you've got that result already. It's calling acting as if from a psychology and physiology of excellence, as if you've got it already. Acting as if you've got the wish fulfilled, that feeling of the wish fulfilled, the behaviours of the wish fulfilled. What would you. How would you be? And this is not faking it, because this is you. How would you be if you'd achieved this goal already? How would you act? How do you breathe? How would you think? What pitches would you make in your mind? What behaviors and skills would you either do or learn? because you might need to learn a few as you go along and you just keep cycling around and it means everything you do, you could now take full responsibility for, because you've got to anyway. So you might as well take full responsibility of creating this wonderful life that you're going to create. Say, go to Paul Clough online and I think I've put it on a hypnosis track so you can listen to the. The, previous episode all about that. But the five keys to success, get it even deeper done. Goal setting and things like that. They're all intertwined. And now have the hypnosis track just go there. It's free. Bloody free. Goodness me. All you have to do is press buttons and you get it and then take time and you can choose. That's a choice to make. A choice to improve your life by listening to stuff which is done specifically to make your life richer. I hope I haven't garbled on too quickly. I hope I've made things as clear as. Well possibly I can. I know I swore a little bit. And that's me. Take it or leave it. If it upsets you, I'm really sorry, but just take it. This is me trying to be as. Well, not trying. I'm, being as true to myself as I can be and sharing what I know with you, because I want you to have the life that you really deserve, because you're here. One life. Let's make it brilliant by taking responsibility. Grasp it. I'm gonna make this suck of mine. Easy day. You've got this. And having said all of that, you might go. Actually, Paul Cloughie. When I think about some of the stuff I've got to learn from, it's a bit hard because, you know, it's all very well saying you don't go into the memory, but I do. And, send me an email, tell me a little bit about it. Don't want all the content. Just give me the process of what's happening to you. Feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. i will certainly send you a personal reply. I will guide you, and I'll probably make an episode just for you that everyone gets a benefit on. it'll be anonymous, of course, but do that and we'll just keep enriching our lives, your life, everyone's lives. Because that's what it is. It's ecological, it's good for you, it's good for me, it's good for everyone around us, and it's good for little old planet Earth, because everyone is just getting a little bit better and life becomes good. So please do that. Just let me know and subscribe. If you haven't subscribed, please do. No, don't. Please do. Just do it. Do it. One button. Choose. Take responsibility and choose to subscribe and listen to us much as you can. I, know not everybody episode will resonate with you. Maybe there's one little golden nugget, but if you keep doing it, keep listening. I know when I listen to other podcasts, I go, that one's good, that one's good. And then the next one you go, shit, that was so good. I've learned something that is going to change me completely, and I hope to try to find those golden nuggets for you. So please do that and enjoy life, because it's time to fly. I'll see you, my friend. Bye. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development, unplugged.     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Deciding For Success Today Choosing what you succeed in tomorrow Where you are today, what you are achieving, or not, is a result of every decision you have made. This can be a bitter pill to swallow OR When you acknowledge it you become the chooser of you destiny and reality - Whoa Cloughie! Let's take 5 or so minutes to muse and juggle this in our head. It's the ultimate being at cause and not being at the whim of others or excuses I'm sure we'll head to a longer episode but for now enjoy and..... Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-466-deciding-for-success-today/ Oh! There's a video of this episode too https://youtu.be/n0xOQSc-4Jw Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Life Balance Doesn't Exist It's not a Thing and you don't want it Embracing Harmony Over Balance In this longer episode, we dive deep into the myth of life balance and why striving for it might be holding you back. Paul Clough passionately argues that life shouldn't be a flat line of balance but a harmonious flow of ups and downs, much like a jazz band. This episode is a wake-up call to embrace the dynamic nature of life, leaning in and out as needed to create a truly fulfilling existence. We'll explore:   Why the concept of life balance is flawed and often leads to a mundane existence. The importance of setting intentions and understanding your core values. How to lean into different aspects of your life harmoniously, just like the members of a jazz band.   You'll learn:   How to identify and resolve conflicts between your values to achieve a harmonious life. Practical steps to lean in and out of different life areas without losing sight of what's important. Why communication and setting clear intentions are key to living a fulfilling life.   By the end of this episode, you'll be inspired to rethink the way you approach life, focusing on harmony rather than balance. Ready to embrace the ups and downs? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/413-life-balance-doesnt-exist/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism       This is personal development unplugged with Paul Clough   Hey, here's your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about throwing away life balance because it's not a bloody thing. And yes, there's some f bombs in it, but hey, have a listen, because it's all about coming back to basics. Because harmony rules, ups and downs, leaning in, leaning out. This is important. Please listen. This is personal development unplugged, with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity, there is genius.   Warning, warning, warning. Hey, just a quick warning to you. There's a few f bombs in this one, so hopefully that doesn't offend you. It's just me getting excited and showing a bit more of me maybe.     Okay, hey, we're back, we're back and, well, striving for life balance, maybe people call it, I don't know, work life balance. Now, the thing is, do you really want to strive for balance? Do you really want to strive for a work life balance? Well, the word is fuck. No, because balance is absolutely. Well, think about it. It's just flat, isn't it? It's not up, it's not down, it is bloody horizontal. And to me it just doesn't work. Imagine this. Imagine this, living your life with no ups or downs. Imagine it now, think, just for the moment, a whole life, not a little bit of a life, but a whole life living with no ups or downs. It would be so boring, wouldn't it? So boring. To me. In my weird, weird mind, it looks like, well, I'm dead, you know, because you hear beep, beep and that little thing going up and down. But bz or a beep, a straight line death, dead. Imagine this again, another imagination thing. Imagine. And, don't think about it too much, but imagine being on your deathbed, the last breath you're about to take. And you think to yourself, when you've strove and strived and had this life of balance, that flat line, and you think, oh, what did I do in life? And, you know what answer you'll come up with? Fuck all. I just existed. Now, would you wish that on yourself? Would you wish that on a child, a friend, anybody? Absolutely no. So what I want for you is something different. If it's not a balanced life, then what? Got some more imagination for you? More imagination? Think of this. Imagine. Imagine you're watching, just for a moment, a, ah, jazz band. And if you've never seen a jazz band, imagine a jazz band, because it doesn't matter. And they're all playing at the same time and they're all playing at the same volume. No, they wouldn't, would they? They wouldn't do that. They don't do that because it would be an absolute mess. In fact it would be booze m a line of noise, of balance. But they don't do that because a jazz band would be. Maybe the singer would just for the moment take the front stage. And then as they sing for a little bit, then they step back and maybe that piano, the pianist or pianist, that's a better word, Paula starts to play and he becomes a spotlight. And as he's playing, suddenly the guitarist comes to the fore and that pianist just disappears. And the guitarist comes in and plays that wonderful jazz. And then maybe the trumpet player or saxophonist, I think it's a word, just eases themselves into the front. And then maybe the drummer comes in then. Well, who knows? You see, even that's not the way, is it? It's sort of the way. Because they don't just come in one after the other after the other. They jamdeze the lead is natural. And why and how it's called harmony. They are playing in perfect. Well, not perfect because it's just jamming harmony, but they're creating the ups and the downs, the crescendos, the softness, the quietness, the fast, the slow. And each one creates more harmony. And it's exciting and it's relaxing. It's a bit of everything, isn't it? That's what it is.     How do we get harmony then, Paul? How do we become harmonious   So let's go back to life. Our life, your life, my life. How do we get this harmony then, Paul? That's what you're saying, aren't you? You come up with all this stuff. You're great at that. And I am. I wouldn't say great at that. But I do come up with this stuff. But I also think of the answers, if I can, my answers. Because I never leave you hanging. There's nothing to get later. It's right now. So how do we get harmony? How do we become harmonious? I love that word. Harmonious. Well, there's a golden rule. A golden bloody rule. First of all, what is that golden rule? Think about it. Think for the moment. If you've been here for a little while, you may just get a little inkling. But if you haven't, it doesn't matter. Because the first thing ever, ever, ever we should do with anything we're ever going to do is set our intention, understand our values. So we set our intention and we begin to understand what's important to us. Because when you know what's important to you. You'll set your intention and choose what you're going to do, what you expect to have happen, how you want to live, what you want to achieve in your life. Now, some people might call that personal development, like personal development unplugged, self improvement. And we talked about it before. It means leaning in. Well, I've talked about it, on other platforms, I think about leaning in, taking actions towards those goals, towards those dreams which proposes or presupposes, I guess you have to lean away from other things, other things in your life, because if you're leaning in, you can't, lean into everything. So you lean in just like those lead singers, and that's it. You just put all your effort, but you put a majority, the higher percentage of your effort into that particular thing that really is important right now that's going to create this life of harmony. And something has to take a little backseat, doesn't it? Just for the moment. So what do we do when we lean in? You see, it's how you lean in and how you lean out harmoniously. Here's an example. You know, some people have great family values. Family is a real high value in one section of their life, but on the other section of their life, work is important because work might give you that stimulus, but it also supports the family. Now, life doesn't let you work equally on your family life and work equally on your work life. Your career life doesn't happen, does it? Because there are times when you have to put your family on the back seat just a little bit so you can lean into your success at work. Maybe you're an entrepreneur and there's something important that you have to really lean into, put your effort into and you lean in and your family just takes that little bit of a backseat. But the thing is, this is where the harmony comes into or comes, comes into effect, because then we lean back out and we lean back into the family because we've put our efforts into that important part of work, maybe. And now we're putting our, we're replenishing, as it were, I guess, our, family. And that's where the harmony comes in, where the spotlight goes. You see, we've all seen the examples of people when they don't have that harmony. It's sort of like a, sort of a flat line thing where they put all their efforts into work, making everything such as a success, I'll say that, clearly a success. And they push and they push and they push 25 hours a day, 8 hours a week, and the family doesn't take a backseat. Disappears, isn't it? And it goes on too long and it becomes disharmonious. And the marriage breaks up, or the partnership breaks up, the family break up because it's not in harmony anymore. And the thing is, because of that, the work, the stress of that family breaking up suddenly affects the work. So what do we do? Well, we go back to that bloody golden rule again, don't we? Before you get there, or if you find it's starting to happen to you, think of the golden rule, what's important to me. And you've got to remember both. Then if there's a conflict, because that's what it would be. It would be a conflict, and harmoniously. And harmony will deal with that conflict. Because not doing either. If you do that flat line and don't put enough, effort into the one and then come back to the other, both just disappear, don't they? Because you're not putting. You wouldn't be satisfied either. So what's important to you, set your intention to what you want to do, but be mindful that that other part of your life is important too. And you see, that's why you're here, I think. Certainly that's why I'm here. Trying to.     Paul wants you to think about how to live your life harmoniously   Well, a lot of this stuff is going through my own personal junk, as it were. Me thinking about the things that I'm going to try to strive to get better at the harmony in this particular instance of my life. And I'm thinking out loud, as it were. and hopefully that me sharing some of my concerns, my thoughts, my action plans will resonate with you. Because that's why we're here, isn't it? Because we want to find that best version of ourselves. I've got a great thing coming up about that in the next couple, of, episodes, about finding that best version of yourself. But to learn processes, processes to be able to deal with those stresses and strains of those conflicts, ways to. Well, a way to live our life harmoniously. But dealing with the anxieties, maybe the fears, the stresses, getting those goals, getting those values in order, reducing conflict. Because once that conflict disappears, life becomes fucking good. In fact, it becomes fucking great. And that's what I believe, what we're striving for, isn't it? Apologies for all that f bombs and things like that. But it just. Sometimes I. You know, I've just said, sometimes, sod it. If that's the way I feel, that's the way I'm going to express myself. And hopefully that's okay. I'll give you a warning before. But hey, I'd just love you to think about that. And if there's something somewhere in that that you go, oh, great, Paul, you know, you've come up with, I'll just set your intention, get your values, but I don't understand how to, nearly swore again, how to do that. Then let me bloody know. Send me that little email. Feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com. you know you're going to be anonymous anyway. Not anonymous on the email, hopefully, but I'd like to reply to you to discuss that with you, maybe, but to be able to create even more, because I'm sure what you give me as a question would affect me anyway. So I'll go into it. We'll create another episode with specifics then, because I know not only will it help you, but it will help the other listener, although the other three, because we said, we've got four now, we've, we've doubled. So please do that. Because I know sometimes when I go through 20 or 30 minutes or so, not going to hit everything, but it's enough, I think, to get you to think, am I living my life at, fucking balance, straight line, or am I living my life in conflict, which is leaning in too much and forgetting about leaning back into the other things have I lost sight of my values? Are my values in conflict with each other? Because that's where a lot of the issues come from in life, when our values, the things that are important to us, clash. I want to do this, but I want to do that. But I also want to do this. Oh, I want to do that. Setting goals and dreams that we can create, not just put them out there and hope and wish, actually create them in our life. Because as I've told you before, I want to support you in your dreams. I want to support you to get them. I want to support you through those naysayers who, you know, try to throw stones at your bloody dreams, because we're going to not leave them behind. We're going to encourage them to follow us when the time's right, when they are in the right place, they can see us, see you as an example of what can be done. So have a little think. Where am I straight m lining? Where am I? My conflicts? Where are my values? A little bit askew? Maybe not aligned, because once they're aligned, that's when leaning in and leaning out becomes easy. Because you're doing it for the right reasons, but you're doing it at the right level. Not too much in, not too much out, or making sure you can mitigate. You know, it's. Communication to sometimes is sometimes just the key. Being able to explain why and what you're doing and ask for advice. You know, if I get too mad, if I'm leaning in too much, let me know. Things like that. Little simple communication can be the beauty, the golden nugget that actually stops you and goes, hey, maybe you just got to reassess things. And that's where I'm here to help. So please do ask me, please share this, this episode. I ask you every time to share it. If you would share it to one person, if you could just do that, share to one person, maybe get them to subscribe. Because you've subscribed, you've pressed that button, maybe get them to subscribe so we can build this community. That would be awesome. Anyway, it's enough of me, enough of my f bombs, and I'm gonna have a little lay down and see and think, what does a harmonious life look like? What would it feel like being able to lean in and lean out and be successful in life? So if I was to take my last breath, sitting there on, my deathbed, and I thought to myself, what m have I done? What have I done in my life? I'd be able to say, fuck, I've done a lot. I've made a difference. That's all I wanted to do. There you go. Anyways, time to fly. Enjoy. See you next time. Bye, Warren. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. 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The Secret Of Getting Things Done If you suffer from overwhelm, too much on the to do list which generally leads to procrastination look no further. The answer my friend is hiding in plain sight and is so, so easy. Simply follow the instructions and you will win the day! Share this little golden nugget with all who is  in a twist https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-465-the-secr…ting-things-done/fmq-465-the-secret-of-getting-things-done And to see the video of this recording  https://youtu.be/XIvFMLV2joc Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

From "I Can't" to "I Won't": Reframing Your Mindset Empower Yourself to Achieve What You Want Ever found yourself saying, "I can't do that"? This episode dives into the power of reframing that statement to "I won't," and how this simple shift can empower you to take control and achieve your goals. Discover how to break free from limiting beliefs and self-doubt, and learn to embrace new challenges with confidence. We'll explore:   Why saying "I can't" can limit your opportunities and how others perceive you. The origins of limiting beliefs and how to question their validity. The empowering effect of choosing to say "I won't" instead of "I can't."   You'll learn:   How to take responsibility for your actions and decisions. Practical steps to reframe negative thoughts and emotions. How to build confidence by acknowledging your fears and taking small steps towards your goals.   By the end of this episode, you'll have a new perspective on how to tackle challenges and turn your "can'ts" into "wills." Ready to transform your mindset? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/412-never-let-cant-stop-you/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism It's all about saying I can't do things and changing it   Hey, your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about saying I can't do things and changing it, reframing in a way that you will, and then getting that buzz, becoming powered to be able to do the things you want to do. But you've had the excuse and said I can't, but now you can. Please have a listen because it makes so much difference to your life. Okay? Enjoy . Hey, welcome to the longer podcast. And it's amazing, isn't it? It's amazing where you can learn stuff. Stuff. Just stuff. Learning stuff. Because I learned something from a place where you would not expect it. I was in the gym, you see, and you know, I love going to the gym. I don't always love, well, I love leaving the gym. That's what I love most of all. Because leaving the gym means you've done your work and it feels good. But the thing is, I love to listen to podcasts. That's where I listen to most of my podcasts. I'm in the gym. I'm on the walking machine. I don't call it a running machine because I don't run on it. Walk uphill, do my bit, my vo two s or whatever it's called. I don't know. And I was listening, and it's amazing what you can find. Amazing what you can find when you, you're not expecting it. And that's what I love about it. You see, there was I listening to, well, a weird thing outside my comfort zone. It was a spiritual podcast. And, there I was, walking away, panting, as it were. And what happened was this lovely lady, a lovely lady called Eileen Foster. She said, we often say, oh, I can't do that. Now, we often say that to ourselves, don't we? Do you? I know I do. I can't do that. no, no, no, I can't do that. Yeah. And sometimes, you see, you say it out loud, you say it out loud to others, and that's even worse. Why is that worse? Well, they, you might believe that you can't, but it's belief. But if you say outside, with your outside voice, your external voice, your auditory, out there, just like me now, and you say it to somebody else, they've got nothing else to other than, believe you. And if they believe you can't do something because you say, oh, I can't do that, guess what, guess what? They'll never bloody ask you again. That's it. That opportunity is gone. Wow. You see, why? Why would you do that? But we do, don't we? And it's probably, probably something that you might even like to do. That's the thing, isn't it? Because it's out there. Oh, I'd love to do that. I'd love to. Oh, but I can't. I really want to do, No, I can't. You got all those bloody can'ts. And the thing is, ask yourself this question. Ask yourself this question. Where the bloody hell did that belief come from? Where, where did it come from now? I don't know. Think about it now. Think of something in the past where you said, no, I can't do that. And you never have. But you really want to. But m, you know, you've said, I can't do that. Whether you've said it inside, whether you've said it outside, whether you said it to yourself outside. You know, I speak to myself like that all the time. People think I'm a bit of a loon that way, but I do. I talk out loud to myself, where do they come from? Because the thing about it is, there's no bloody facts, is there? No facts. Because there might be some limiting beliefs in there. Because you think, you know, I'm not good enough. Where did that voice come from? I'm not good enough or I'm stupid, or, you know that one going back to the dark ages where people say I'm not worthy. When do people say that, really, I'm not worthy? Other than when they go to the therapist? I don't know. They do. They do. They say that I'm not worthy. And when I'm, working with clients, I actually laugh. Do people talk like that? But, yeah, it's a belief. No facts. No facts whatsoever to those beliefs. Because you haven't done it yet and you get that yet. That's what you need to be in the yet.     There are things that you say you can't do and you actually do them   I think there's also those bloody emotions that go around, isn't there? What are they? Cloughie. Well, you've got things like scared. Fear. I'm scared now. what am I scared of? Well, it could be scared of failing. It could be scared of making the right ass of yourself in front of people. I, laugh now. I laugh now. But there's things that I'm still saying I can't do and I'm scared of doing it. Making a fool of myself, maybe feeling a failure, proving to myself I'm a bloody failure over and over again, doing thing. Oh, I'm not going to do it anymore. Because my unconscious, mind says, I'm going to protect you, Cloughie. And it probably say, if your name was Cloughie, it would say the same to you, but it'll say in your own right, I'm going to protect you from that feeling of. Feeling of failure, that feeling of feeling stupid, embarrassed. So I'm going to scare you a little bit, give you that anxiety, give you that bit of stress, then you won't bloody do it. And with that limiting belief of, you know, you're not good enough anyway, stupid, hey, you never do it. And, you know, the weird thing is sometimes those things that you say you can't do are, the things, first of all, you want to do. But you've never done them before, have you? Never done them before. So you don't even know. You do not even know whether you can do it, because you haven't done that step, done that one thing. So here's the thing. Good old Eileen. And this is where it blew my mind, because I was listening to this and going, yeah, it all makes sense. Well, in fact, I've padded a lot of that out because she did. She just said this thing about saying people. People say they can't do that. And the bit about, you know, people believing, which is dead right, if you say it out loud and somebody hears it, they believe you and they don't ask you. And I thought, that's bloody awesome. That is a real effect of saying, I can't do this out loud. But then she said, and it was a massive, massive reframe. I don't know. She realized that, but she reframed it so well, because she said, instead of all that, I can't just say, well, I won't, I won't do that. And, the thing is, you see, when you say, I won't do that, in some ways it's sort of empowering because you've taken. Taken ownership of it. And the thing is, and, what would be the good thing if I missed out on doing it, if I don't do it? Because, you know, you say, I won't do it. Now, isn't that weird? When you say, you know, that thing that I, really want to do, I'd love to do it. I'd love to learn how to do it. I'd love to experience it. I'd love to be with those people. And whatever it is, maybe just in speaking up within your group, I'm a bloody introvert. Well, some of the time. And I sit back in my group, and sometimes I can't contribute. Now, as soon as I say I won't contribute, so why not? Why won't you Cloughie? Why don't you? Oh, because I've chosen not to. And if I've chosen not to, guess what? I can choose the other way, can't I? I can choose the other way.     What would happen if you did do it successfully or enjoyed it   And, what, here's one of the questions you come from. I learnt it in NLP and it's, a meta question. They call it a meta question. And what it says is, well, what would happen if you didn't? What would happen if you did do it? What would happen if you did it successfully? What would happen if you enjoyed it? Now, when you say those things, what would happen if you did do it? You have to think about it. Well, if I did do it, oh, maybe I'd feel this. What would have did it successfully? Presupposing now you're gonna do it. Well, as opposed to, I'm a failure. I can't do it. All that stuff. Oh, what if I could do it successfully that would make me so good and the opportunities that would come from that. Or I'd just be a better. I'd just feel better in myself. And what if I enjoyed it as well? Enjoyed the process. Well, if I enjoyed that type of thing, maybe I would do more of it. Maybe I. This would be the stepping stone to do other things. So if you say won't instead of can't, you're really taking responsibility, aren't you? You're taking responsibility for your decisions. There's no more excuses now because I, can't do that. It's just a bloody excuse, isn't it? Because you don't bloody know. For a start, you've again imagined all the feelings of failure, everything bloody negative around that. And what a wonderful way to look at life. I mean, I don't know if you've got children. I have. I got three beautiful children. They're my babies, but they're big, big boys now. But what would happen if I gave them that type of instruction? Oh, you can't do that. You can't do that. No, you'd encourage them, wouldn't you? You'd encourage them. And that's what we want to do inside. Get our best friend now, our unconscious mind, to encourage us to say, well, I won't do it now, but maybe I'm, going to do it, now I'm going to do it now. I am. I'm choosing because if you choose not to, by the way, if you choose not to do something, you're taking responsibility too, by saying won't. I am taking responsibility for my decisions to say, no, I'm not doing it. I'm not doing it. Simple as that. I'm nothing. I'm not doing it at all. But the thing is, now you can choose whether you do or whether you don't. Before, when you said I can't, you were, living on the effect side of life, thinking of all the negative crap. Everything that could go wrong might go wrong, the worst it could ever be. And, think about this. Let's just go before we start to choose that we're going to do these type of things. If it's a new thing, you're gonna bloody be crap at it anyway. Of course you are. We're all gonna fall over when we start learning new skills. Unless you're one of these bloody wonder kids who just happen to pick it up straight away. And if you do, great. But once you take that one step towards doing it, well, I'm going to do this. I'm going to learn how to do it. Because if you think about everything that you're good at now, everything you're good at now, when you first started it, you were crap at it. Probably. Probably not very good. Don't like crap. But yeah, I do. That's why I speak. But I haven't sworn in this one. I'm pretty good now. Pretty good. But you weren't very good. I know the things that I am reasonably good at now. When I first started, I was hopeless, but I had that little speck inside me, that little desire to get better, to learn. Which is why we're here under personal development, self improvement, all that stuff, unplugged. Making things simple. So let's break those things down that we're trying to learn to, into simple things. And then we get better at them. Doing stuff, doing your stuff and getting better and better. And guess what? Doing the stuff that you're going to be good at in the future. Learning. Because that's what we're all here for. To learn and enjoy creating new stuff. Become that creative. Let that creative part of you excel to thrive, to be so good and make a life. Make a life for yourself. M that's what it's all about, isn't it?     Paul Clough: Breaking down limiting beliefs is easy. It takes effort, by the way   Now we're going to dive into this deeper. We will. We will dive into this deeper. Because I wanted to set that reframe of can't to won't. And then get you to take responsibility. But we'll dive into those negative beliefs, those limiting beliefs, how we can change them, we'll dive into those emotions, how we can let them go. And, notice how they're protecting us, but they're not working anymore, how it's setting up those conflicts. We're going to do that in longer podcasts, because that's what personal development, unplugged is all about. Breaking down those, those negative things in our life, the things that are stopping us, holding us back. But to do it in a simple, easy way, it is easy. It takes effort, by the way, just because they're easy takes effort. And then you can be able to apply them day by day and get better and better, and then it just boils down to, well, if I've never done it before, I'm going to start now. And doesn't that apply to everything you've ever done? You never did it before and, now you are. And I'm going to support you in that. All the way, by the way. All the way. So do have a think. Maybe there's some limiting beliefs that you'd like to get rid of? Send me an email. Personal development unplugged. No, it isn't at all. Cloughie it is. Feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. send me that email. Tell me the type of limiting beliefs you like to get rid of. We'll work on that. Maybe there's some emotions that I haven't mentioned or something new. We can work on that. We'll get a longer podcast, we'll have a process, maybe even a hypnosis track to go with it. Go and test me. Push me. Let me stretch myself to help you. To help me. That would be great if you did. And also if you haven't subscribed, please press that subscribe button, please. That'd be good, because we're gonna, you get though these podcasts all the time now, twice a week. And I know it would help. Not every podcast will, will resonate. There'll be golden nuggets in everyone. But with that one, that really does resonate. Really does. You're gonna, you're gonna smack yourself for not listening, but you won't, because you wouldn't listen, but you will, you'll get it. And then you let me know too. So please do that. Share this. Like hell if you could. I mean, I say like how, but if you can share it to one person and get them to subscribe, that would be awesome. Yeah, so there you go. Hope you enjoyed it. Thank you so much for your time. I so much. I really did appreciate it. I do appreciate it. There's more to come. Have fun, my friend, because it's time to fly. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Hopes And Wishes What's the difference between hopes and wishes and how strong is your belief in a wish or hope. How can we make hopes and wishes turn our dreams and goals come true? It's all around intention and equally important expectation - YOUR intention YOUR expectation! when you hold this that;s when things start changing. Please take 5 minutes to learn my take on this and how we can effect our unconscious mind - you goal getter and taking conscious responsibility for the action you intuitively now know what to take. Please share : https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-464-hopes-and-wishes/ And the video link https://youtu.be/ZsQICMc4HF4 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

HYPNOSIS RELEASE Learning from our life stories If you want the straight hypnosis track from #411 without the chat before and after here it is. All you have to do is go to https://paulcloughonline.com/podcast It's downloadable so it's yours forever with my compliments. Please remember it is hypnosis and you should have nothing needing your attention whilst listening - it's your time Paul I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Learning From Our Life Stories - Part 2 Let's put this within a HYPNOSIS process Unlocking Deep Learnings from Life's Experiences Welcome to a special hypnosis session designed to help you extract profound learnings from your life's aha moments and even your negative experiences. This track is a companion to the longer podcast episode on learning from our life stories. Prepare to delve deep into your unconscious mind and bring forth valuable insights that will enrich your life. Following on from #410 Learning From Our Life Stories we put the metaphor into practice within a hypnosis process and let's learn from our stories of the past and put that learning available to our future.] Please listen to the previous episode so you get the full intention of the process and the full benefit of the result.] And......] REMEMBER It is a hypnosis track in this episode so if you have anything to attend to, that needs your conscious attention like driving etc. don't press play and wait till you can find a comfortable place where you will be undisturbed and get the best for yourself. Treat yourself !!!!!!!] There's lots of things going in each ear so just relax and let it in  :O)] Please share:] https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/411-learning-from-our-life-stories-part-2-hypnosis   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Personal development track based on learning from our life stories   Here's your heads up to this, this accompanying hypnosis track.   It's from the longer podcast, learning from our life stories. And I think you're going to find it really, really deeply.   Well, deeply learning, if that's a word.   I think you'll find you'll learn something deeply.   Anyway, do have a listen.   I think you'll find it deeply learning.     hey, welcome back. And this is the following on from learning from our life stories, learning from.   Our aha, moments and sometimes the slightest negative times in our life, but.   To make sure that we take those learnings with us, the learnings of our life, as it were. So they're going to be available to us whenever we need them because they're unconscious, unconscious learnings. And when we have them available to us, well, they're not wasted, are they? And we can use them without consciously being aware of it. We can review it consciously and go, thank you, have all that gratitude. So here's a hypnosis track. If you remember, it's based on that.   Ah, story, story of someone who, well.   He had his pausing an aha moment and it's going to be, well, this is downloadable anyway, but you've also got this chat on it. So I'm also going to put just the hypnosis track, just without this. This waffle Clough is waffle at the beginning to to the separate website I have, which is called paulcloughonline.com and it's forward slash podcast because that's where I keep 60 plus nearly 70 now. Hypnosis tracks and NLP processes where you can listen to them uniquely and download them, and they come with my compliments. You can keep them forever and use them. So that's where they're going to be. And I'll give you a little bit of a note about that. So please, if you haven't gone there before, please go to paulcloughonline.com podcast sign up so you can have this and all the other hypnosis tracks just for you. So, but knowing this is hypnosis, you need to have nothing to do other than give yourself permission to enter into hypnosis. So nothing other to focus on other than yourself. So you're not driving, you're not looking after machinery, you're not doing anything that needs your attention. Your eyes will be closed, remember? So you want to find a comfortable place where you'll be undisturbed, where you can sit down, lay down, lie down and just enjoy the process and notice.   What you learn at the end.   So if you've got that safe place, get ready and we'll begin in about three to 5 seconds. Okay, get ready. Now.   If it's okay, and it has to be okay with you to give yourself consciously and unconsciously permission to explore this. And all we're doing is exploring with the intention of our unconscious mind taking all the goodness and finding ways that we can create a richer life. And if that's okay, close your eyes. And by closing your eyes that means and implies permission is given for the both of you. Every one of each and every one of you, inside and out.     Okay, so it's time to enter, uh, hypnosis. This is to sleep in trance imagination   Okay, so it's time time to enter, hypnosis. So you found that comfortable place somewhere where you'll be undisturbed for the next few minutes.  Hey you really need to go to the track nd experience the real ting  :O) Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Unlocking the Power of Aha Moments Stories, Metaphors, and Hypnosis In this longer episode, we delve into the transformative power of stories and the hidden metaphors they hold. Join me as I share a poignant story from a recent webinar for my son's Mind Mastery group, which helps people overcome anxiety and find their life purpose. This story resonated deeply with me, revealing a hidden metaphor that can be harnessed through hypnosis. We'll explore:   The concept of finding your "North Star" and aligning with your life purpose. A touching story about self-discovery and living authentically. How to identify and utilize your own aha moments for future growth.   You'll learn:   How to reflect on past aha moments to unlock hidden strengths. Ways to use these moments to overcome self-doubt and excuses. A unique hypnosis process to integrate these insights into your daily life.   By the end of this episode, you'll be inspired to revisit your own life stories and aha moments, using them as powerful tools for personal development. Ready to dive in? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/410-learning-from-our-life-stories/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,     And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Paul Clough shares a story that has a hidden metaphor for hypnosis   Here's your heads up to this longer podcast. It's all about stories or a particular story that is that. It just got me. It just got me. It had a hidden m, a, hidden metaphor for me that I just wanted to use. So I want to share it with you and follow it with a hypnosis process just for you. So have a listen, and then we'll dive all the way in to the unconscious mind Hey, welcome to the longer podcast. And I'm going to guess, if you're like me, you like stories. Stories bring us in, don't they? They teach us things. And when you find a story that has a, hidden metaphor within it, something you can learn from and use, it's awesome. So that's what I'm going to share with you today. And it's via a webinar I did for my son's mind mastery group, which is a group that, that he set up to help people get rid of anxiety, confidence, and get rid of their core issue and live a meaningful life. And twice a month, I give a q and a, live q and a. And in this particular one, I share a story, a story that evokes something in me and also got me to think of how I could use that metaphor in hypnosis, to use what we've learned. Use aha moments of the past so we can use the learnings from those in the future. Because I don't like aha moments to just be a one off, a five second ah And then they're gone. I thought to myself, let's use them. Use them in the future so we can have the benefit of everything. So if that's of interest to you, I hope it is. Have a listen, and then we'll follow on with, a hypnosis track of a process that I don't know has ever been done before, but it's really interesting. And that will be on a separate track, that'll be in a separate episode, which will come out probably tomorrow. Okay? So have a listen and just enjoy the stories.     I've been thinking about finding my north star, finding your passion   So here we go. So the pause. Now the pause. And I'll tell you for why I'm pausing, because I'm not sure about this next bit. I'll tell you that now. I'm not sure because I, I did say it was serendipitous, because I've been doing a lot of thinking, a lot of writing as I, you know, I think about loads of bloody stuffs. Load of it. Loads of it may be called twaddle and it just goes in and out and, and gets me a little bit confused and then I get a little bit of clarity. But thinking about one of the things I've been reading lately is about, it's called, it's calling, find your calling for finding your, your passion. And someone's the person I'm reading now is calling it their north star, finding your north star. And I guess that's, you know, the direction you're heading in, where you're going, being pulled, using your life purpose and okay, and different missions will go in their different ways, but all heading towards that north Star. And I quite like that analogy. so I've been thinking about my north star. I'm always confused about where I'm going and am I doing the right thing. And then this morning I was in, I was in the gym and instead of listening to a normal podcast and doing all that stuff, I listened to a different one, had it on there for a little while. And it's mainly based in America where they have these story competitions and people get up and tell a story and they get the story of the month and the week and the whatever. And it's called the Moth, I believe it's called the Moth. Lovely web, Lovely podcast. And I thought, well, I'll listen to a few stories instead of going too deep. I don't want to go deep today. I'm just going to go on my old treadmill and do my stuff and I just want to listen to some stories. And the first story came up and it was, it was okay, it was just a story. But the, and again, where I got this from was a guy, I think I've, I have spoken about him before and I can't remember his name. He was a guy who did the homework for life with a little book, just making a note of all the good things that happened to, and he, and in his book he said there are stories that people tell which are basically just, well, they're just tales. They're nice, nice things to reminisce about, but there's maybe nothing too deep into them. They're just something you would tell and oh look, this is what happened to me on the way to work. I saw this and did that or whatever, but he said, a real story, a real story is something that has a five second aha, moment, a five second change in your life and it doesn't always come in the middle. It might come at the end of that story where just suddenly something happens and it's not normally the thing you think about. I'll give you a little example, Joe. And I'm. Excuse me for some. I'm not going to tell the whole story because this is Joe's story but some of you might have heard it. He was, he was having a bit of a time when he was young because he was going through changing careers, as it were. He was only 17 changing careers looking 18, 1718 going towards hypnosis and things like that. And to go to hypnosis, this is a weird thing I had. I got him to go to a hypnosis, class, or it was a week's workshop purely to find out where he would like to work, find his vocation. Certainly didn't think it was going to be in hypnosis because that's what it happened. Suddenly hypnosis became the thing. But that sparked his, deeper thoughts, I think. And it was on his birthday and I'll tell just very briefly he was on his birthday and he's coming home quite late because he's obviously just been celebrating with his friends and he's back in Cambridge. And I love this story because I can be there with him because he said I was standing out my, outside our front door and I can remember how the front door went and the lobby and things like that. And he said it was so, so dark and then it got really quiet and then I could hear a few birds but not many. And then it got quieter and he said, because I've been searching for this thing inside me or I've been searching for this thing, I've been looking at things like a bit of YouTube, I guess was around. I've been looking online, been reading books. There was a lot of recordings at those days, you know, how to improve your life, find your passion, find your missions. He said, I couldn't find anything. I couldn't find anything at all. But then in the quiet just before, I came inside I was just by myself and I stopped and he went really quiet. He said, then I suddenly realized there is nothing outside that's going to teach me to lead me because suddenly I went inside and found that everything I have is inside me now. And he goes into much deeper than that and it's a lovely story and it's a true story but that was that little aha, moment that suddenly he'd been searching and searching for and it could have had aha, moments all over the place. And there probably were, but not the real personal one.     A man tells two stories about being gay and proms in his family   So I'm listening to this story, and the first story, as I said, was pretty good. And then the second story came up. And, this guy's talking, and he's telling the story of how he'd been going out with this girl. And he was going. They arranged to go to their prom. And he said proms were really important in my family. I said, on a particular wall we have. We have photographs of all the proms that have been around. I got my mum and dad's prom. There was my sister's prom. There was my uncle and aunties. And every relation you can think of. We had pictures of the prom. and now it was mine. He said, I was going out with this girl. But he said something wasn't quite right. I didn't know what it was. And I started to do things, to organize things. He said, in as much as I was designing my suit to go. And I also designed the girlfriend's dress that she was going to wear. And, it was really quite strange because I had to go and draw them, and I can't draw. And I had to go and design them, and I can't design. And I was doing all of this, and it all felt quite strange. He said, now, as I started to do this, this girl suddenly decided this isn't right either. So she said she dumped me just like that. But he said I had, about 50 yards of silk. So I could make anything I liked, which is quite weird. But he said, there's still this funny feeling inside of me. He said, obviously my parents weren't quite so happy. Because they were looking for this blooming picture on the wall. And now this prom had disappeared. Couldn't go. He said, I did go, but it wasn't what they were looking for. So whatever photograph they took, it was not going up on that wall. And he said, I kept pushing those feelings away from me, pushing them down, but they were weird feelings. And he said, then I went through a few years, and I met other people. And he said, I think to them it was totally obvious of what was happening to me. What was changing. But what I wasn't recognizing, maybe I wasn't prepared to recognize, he said, because they all knew I was gay, and I didn't. And this isn't, that isn't the aha moment you all think that's the ha ha moment, he said, and I've been pushing that canis down. If you could do that. But he said, I just. I was trying to. It wasn't what I wanted to do, and I wasn't sure and I wasn't doing this, and I was going through my life and I was meeting friends and that, and they all knew. The weird thing was he never mentioned his parents about that, but he said, I did, actually, a few, couple of years later, the old girlfriend who dumped me, she got in contact and we met up and she said, there's a dance over there. It's a bit like a prom. Shall we go? And he said, yeah, we'll go. But she kept smiling at me in a funny way, as if to say, you know, you do know, don't you? And he said, but I hadn't really said anything, hadn't done anything. And then he said, we went. We had some weird photographs because I was dressed the way I dress, and it wasn't as most people, lads would, dress. And she was a bit weird as well. So she was out there and we had some photographs and it was like a prom photograph. And he said, that never went on a wall either. Mum and dad didn't want that at all. He said, but here's the thing. Here's the thing. I'm married now. And, everyone started clapping in this room and said, yeah, I've got a husband because we love each other. You know, we're both gay and we love it. I've come, I'm there. I'm living my life now. Still not the aha. Moment yet. And he said, we. We're married. I'm living my life the way I want to live it. So we've actually got two children. Still not the aha. Moment. And he said, none of these pictures are on the wall in my mum and dad's house. And everything went quiet. There's a little bit of sadness still. No aha moment. He said, but here's the thing. In my home with my family, of a wall, and on my wall I put every bloody picture that means so much to me. Children, my husband. Everything I do is on my wall because it's my wall and my life. And that was just a little thing that he knew with his wall. Now he's now living a true life, something that he hadn't been doing. And I felt I was really touching and it was nice. And, I was thinking, well, why has that come into. Why is this story touching me in a way that normally it's a nice story. There's a learning there and what have you. But I thought to myself, how can we learn from that type of story. Because, you see, I'm just looking at my notes a little bit. We have our own life story, don't we? And I wondered, thinking back to that very first bit we were talking about, where are the wonderful aha, moments in our lives from the past? Maybe we could reflect on them, to find them again. Because I was thinking to myself, I think I mentioned this on the last one, trying to find memories from my past, my childhood, because you can think of one or two, but the more you think about them, the more another memory might just slip in. And you go, ah, do it. And it's like they build from each other.     Think of the times in your life that have changed you   Well, if we look for aha moments now, think of the times in our life that have changed us. And I had a little think about this, and it's only today. And thinking, yeah, I can remember that time, and we can all go into our darkest time sometimes. But there was a five second aha, moment there, positive. In the darkness, there's a five second aha, moment that suddenly changes your life completely. And mine was something like, well, you're strong enough to do anything you want. Because five minutes before, I didn't feel strong, but suddenly I thought, hey, that's right. There was that aha, moment. Can't quite place it, but I know it happened. And I was thinking of other times in my life where I maybe was doing something. I can remember doing things in with a client and getting an aha moment. I've told you this. I'm sure I've spoken about this before. When I was stumped. I was completely stumped with a client. Didn't know what to do. Was going to say, do you know what? Hands up. Let's call it a day. But then something inside just said, shut up. Get out of the way. We've got it. And something came out. The question came out of my mouth. And even I was, like, looking at myself going, what a damn good. I actually said, I said swear words, but I said, what a damn good question. That was Cloughie. And that was an aha moment just to get out of your way, to trust yourself. And what I'm thinking about here is in those aha moments to remember them so we can use them again in the future. So it's a little bit like the going to sleep, the things we enjoyed, what can we learn from? But on those aha, are we still learning from them in times when we. For me, when times when I maybe don't feel as strong as I want to going back to that aha, that back then was a lot more dark, than it is now. And I was strong enough then. I'm more than capable now. excuse me, getting out of your way. There's so many times I've used that aha moment, but that's with clients. But I'd like to do that with other people, maybe as I'm talking, just to really concentrate and let's let things happen. Connection.     Joseph: Sometimes we give ourselves excuses about things we would like to do   So I was thinking about what aha, moments have you, maybe you went through and just thought to yourself, what was one aha, moment in your life that really was maybe that small in its timing, 2 seconds, 5 seconds, but was so empowering, so life shattering, changing that you experienced? And then think of, Maybe I can explore it. Not explore the bit behind it, but explore the bit that comes after. How can I use this? How can I use it more? Why? Because I'm very conscious now about wasting them, wasting the good things that have gone on in our lives. And these aha moments, are something that we've suddenly become, I know, congruent, aligned. And it's maybe not just with us, but might be, I say with us, me and my unconscious mind, but it could be with the multiverse universe or whatever our belief is up there, where suddenly we're in the moment with everything. It's a bit deep, isn't it? A bit deep, but I think it's there from and all from this one bloody story this morning, even though I've been thinking about these things before. And it's like, as I say, serendipitous things just coming together to allow us to explore and how we can have more of these, why waste them? To me, if we can have an aha moment, how can we use the learnings from that? Or how can we remind ourselves to keep using them? In times of, negativity, maybe things aren't going quite right for us. And how could we latch onto something which is so much more powerful? And then I thought to myself, I did a lot of thinking today, by the way, that's the aha moments. That's the wonderful times. Now, that person telling the story was not acknowledging the feelings he had. As I said, he was like pushing them down, pushing them away, trying to ignore them, and in effect, not living his true life. And certainly the difference between then and how he finished the story, there was a massive difference in the quality and the richness of his life. So I thought about maybe there's things in our past that we've put off, and we've talked about it before in where people have said, oh, you can't do that, you're not good enough, competition's too high. Who are you to think you are? And ah, we give up. And I say give up by saying, I'm going to put that to one side. We sort of park it, but in our heart we sort of know we'd like to unpark it. But we've got this belief, maybe that's given to us, that on that particular context, I'm not going to be there, not going to be good enough, not going to be able to achieve. Other people will put me down. The old imposter syndrome, which doesn't exist other than up in your head, comes to light. And then I thought again, that's one thing, but what about the excuses of things that we would like to do and we don't acknowledge? Maybe they're similar, but maybe they're things that we give our own excuses. So instead of somebody else saying, you can't do that, you're not good enough, maybe there's things in our life that are inside here that we'd really like to do, but we give ourselves an excuses when we'll say to ourselves, we're not good enough, or who do we think we are? I've got a family. I've got this, I've got that. Who am I to spend time on that particular thing? Who am I to think I'm sometimes better than the rest of my family doing this type of thing because they don't do it. Maybe they think, or maybe we think to ourselves and give this wonderful excuse. Well, I'm too old. I know. Joseph nearly gave this excuse when he first started. I'm too young. How am I going to work with, you know, I'm 18. How am I going to work with. Most of the clients that we had were 40 plus, they're double my age. They have double my experience, and I'm the one to help them. And he could have given himself the excuse. Well, I'll wait 20 years. Well, at least that aha. moment said no. this is your calling. This is your passion. Just go do it. It wasn't one again. Wasn't what's on the outside. It was what was on the inside that people connected to. But maybe we say we're too, say too old, too young. Maybe we say we're not fit enough, we're too fat, we're too, too malnourished. We have my knees ache. I, can't do this. I wonder what we have that if we dare to dream it now, we might not be able to do them all. But if we filtered them into what would give us the most pleasure. If we were brave enough, brave enough to look at our hopes and dreams that we've pushed to one side, I wonder what would happen. I wonder how rich our life would be. Everyone's got a decreasing Runway, but it doesn't matter how long the Runway is. It's how rich that Runway can be in experiences, in sharing and giving and helping other people on their runways. But we have to be brave to do the things that we love and more. And I thought, well, how is this all coming together? Wouldn't it be nice to, Once you expect something of yourself, you expect a result. You've got the confidence to do it, but it's up to you. And, no other bugger can put you off it unless one person lets them. And that's you. So it is you who determines what you're going to do. But can you be that brave now? I think we can be that brave. It just takes a little bit of time.     Paul Clough uses hypnosis to help people discover their aha moments   So here's the thing. I wonder, just for a few minutes. We've got 15 odds or so minutes left. If we went through a process, just a gentle one, just to get our, unconscious mind, like, as we go to sleep. But this time we're in a waking life. Just to get, your conscious mind to think of things as well. To think of things like our aha moments and get our unconscious mind to hook onto those and say, yes, more of this. Let's build upon this. But also the things that we've made excuses for. We've let ourselves off the hook. And for no, I don't know for what reason, but things we'd love to do that we haven't given ourselves permission to do. And let's just let our unconscious mind go through and find how richer, our life would be if we chose just one of those, let alone others. Because when we choose one, others will come along, or the one we choose will generalize into different areas of our life and spontaneously create more ideas, more creativity. So if it's okay with you to explore these type of things, and we're not going to go into the darkness, like I did for a little while, just to find out, I just want to know those aha moments. What. What was that aha, moment? What did I learn from it? So we're not going into. We're going into the past to look for the goodness, nothing else. Just so everyone's clear about that. So if it's okay for you to close your eyes just for the next few minutes, and that's where we're going to just call a short halt for this. So let your thoughts and musings go into your unconscious mind of wondering, how are we going to use this? How is Paul, how's my mate Cloughie going to put this into a hypnosis process and you won't have to wait too long. It'll be there with you on a separate track. And then put onto my hypnosis website page, which is paulCloughonline.com podcast. So they're all downloadable without the pre chat and the post chat. Okay. Because obviously the next episode will have a little reminder where we are and what to do next.     Well, thank you first of all for your company   Okay. So I hope you've enjoyed the stories where we're going and, hopefully are, a little intrigued, maybe curious, curious to see where we go next. So I hope. Well, thank you first of all for your company right now. And also I hope for your company on the accompanying, lots of accompanying, hypnosis track that will come out real soon. Okay. Have fun and fly. 000-0000 just before you fly, just before you fly. If, if you would like to find out a little bit more about my younger son's work, Joseph Clough, have a look at josephlough.com. you'll find all the things he does, all he does. Masses of hypnosis as well. Got a brilliant app for hypnosis and you can get everything you want, thousands of hypnosis tracks. And if you want to find about that, mind mastery, to let go of things, well, core issues, things of, you know, really deep stuff, do get on that josephClough.com and, send him an email. Anyway, that's my little thing for him. And now you can fly. Warning, you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Set Your World On Fire Two simple steps to learn We're told to learn from the past so we can make the future without regret and doing the same things and expect a different result. When we learn from our actions of the past we also release all the negative emotions we carry around and let them keep on effecting us. So I have a simple process that takes about a minute and just works. Come with me a find out what to do and please share with others so their life can become richer too Please share   https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-463-set-your-world-on-fire And the video of this episode https://youtu.be/390shUQPW2o Shine brightly Paul  Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,

The Magical Question: Unlocking Your Success How One Question Can Transform Your Outcomes Ever wondered how a simple question could change the way you approach your goals and interactions? This episode introduces you to a powerful question that Paul uses to set himself up for success in various aspects of his life. Get ready to dive into a world of imagination and visualization that will help you unlock your full potential. We'll explore: The concept of the magical question and how it prepares you for success. Why it's crucial to know your stuff and trust your skills. How to flip your fears and focus on how good things could be. You'll learn: How to use the magical question before meetings, coaching calls, and other important events. Why enjoying the process is key to achieving better results. Practical steps to integrate this question into your daily routine for enhanced performance and confidence. By the end of this episode, you'll have a new tool to help you approach challenges with a positive mindset and achieve outcomes beyond your expectations. Ready to discover the magic? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/409-my-magical-question-for-success   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Hey, your heads up to this longer, longer podcast. It's all, it's not a miracle question, it's not a magical question, but it is to me, it's a magical question that just produces magic and allows me to do all the things I want to do and be successful in it and enjoy those times. But you gotta come with me because there's some imagination to do, some visualization to do, which is great fun, imagining me doing something weird and then learning from it. Have a listen.     I ask myself a magical question before I see a client   Okay, okay. We're in the longer podcast, and I'm feeling good, I'm feeling really good today. So I wanted to share something with you, which is something quite special, but in order to share it with you, what I'm going to do is I want you to do some m imagination first. I, want you to imagine seeing me. You can see me now, but you can, well, if you're on the video, you can see me now, but I want you to imagine me over there, because I'm just about to see a client. And if you were to see me just before I saw a client, maybe ten minutes before, you would notice me standing there and I'd be like whispering to myself, you'd see my mouth. Mouth would be moving, but it would be like a magical incantation. But it's not, it's not an incantation. It is a magical question. And it's my own personal magical question, because I ask myself this one thing before I see a client, and I'll explain other areas too, where I use it. But the thing is, I ask that question, let it go. And then I see my client, and then you could see me again, if you could imagine this. Imagine seeing me after my client, walking around, patting myself on the back, because I've had such a good time, because it just works now, you might say, al Cloughie, you're weird. Magical incantations, which they aren't. Patting yourself on the back, being happy with yourself. But the thing is, I do this with every client, I do it before every podcast, I do it before every coaching call, I do every webinar, I do every training I do, and I've done it for bloody years. It's really strange to, and if you think about it, this is what I do. I just like to ask myself a question, a special question of what would it be like? What would it be like to do something special and then celebrate with yourself when it happens, because it just does. Just happens, by the way. And I don't know when I created this, if I did create it, I know I use it so many times because I just know it works. Because, you see, what generally happens is, you know, if we've got something to do, we're going to see somebody. We've got maybe a Zoom call, maybe a coaching call, maybe a meeting. Maybe you're just going to meet somebody that you're a little bit nervous about. And what happens is we scare the shit out of ourselves, don't we? Sometimes we make up all those wonderful pictures of all the things that could go wrong, the worst of the worst. And that's all b's, isn't it? It is B's because it's all up here. But we do it for a wonderful reason. Our, unconscious mind says, let's be safe. Let's go through all of the things that may go wrong and more, even the things that could even go wronger. Wronger. And then what happens to that? Well, it's overwhelm, it's fear, it's panic. Sometimes people even put themselves into a panic attack. And we're really good at it. We're really good at seeing, hearing and feeling the worst that could happen. And this is where this question absolutely annihilates that. You see the question. and I'll go through the question with you in a minute, because it's so simple and in simplicity, there is genius. We turn it on its head now you can just have a little think about maybe what is the worst that could happen, but no worse than it could be reality. What is the real worse? You know, I've seen a client, it might not go right. We might not get on. I might not get the result. But I know better than that. I do know better than that, because one thing about this little thing is I, know what I can do. And that's a, that's a great starting point. You've got to know your stuff. You see? You got to know your stuff. If you're going to ask a question, this particular question, you've got to know your stuff, and I know you do. So if you're going to a meeting, you know your stuff. You're going to be talking about you make sure. Just know your stuff again, not scaring yourself to bits, just getting comfortable with what you, what you're going to share, you know, if you're going to meet somebody, just be comfortable in yourself. But, the thing is, it's not how you don't want it to be. And that's, again, even looking at this, at the sort of worst it could happen, that. But how good could it be? Let's flip it really on its head. How good could it be? Because that's what you really want, isn't it? So, if you knew you were going to do something, could you just think of the skills you might need, the things, your intention, what you want to achieve, how you want to be, maybe even how long. in my question, I ask even how long and I'll go through it in a minute. But it's everything that you want to have happen in that particular event, the way you want it to be and the successful outcome. So that's why I say you need to know your stuff, because if you don't know your stuff, you probably won't get the outcome you want anyway because you can't fudge it. You can't fake it till you make fake it till you make it really gets on my. Well, it does, because the whole thing, we've talked about it so many times, fake it till you make it is faking it. And you can't fake it because there's one person you can't fake. Guess who? You. Of course it's you. So you have to know what you're going to do and do what you're going to know, and that's mastery, think mastery. So you're not going to go beyond your level of skills, but remember, whatever you think you are, you're more than that, because we're going to access all your skills with this question.     Ask yourself what would it be like to work with a client   Am I? Is it enticing you to know what it is yet? Are you curious? You see, you're going to have a specific context. You've got to know how you want to do, how you want to be, behave, connect in that context. So here's the type of question I would ask myself with a client. I'd ask, what would it be like? I always start with, what would it be like? What it'd be like to work with. And I named the client's name to use all my skills, all my hypnosis or my NLP, all and everything I've ever learned, timeline, theory, everything that could be needed will be at, ah, my fingertips and at my lips. My words, to connect, to get rapport and to get the greatest result way better than they could imagine to learn from it. So maybe something new and have that learning available to me whenever I need it. And to do all this within 1 hour 1 minute, and I change the time. I go 1 hour, five minutes, 57 minutes. And the amazing thing is, you see, you let it go. By the way, you might even say the immortal words, this or something better. What happens is you let it go. You see, I see my client, and the amazing thing is I just trust. I, know I've got some skills. I've, now asked my unconscious mind. That's where the question's going. Ask my unconscious mind to do and allow me to access all that I need and even more things I don't even know I know, but I just know I've got them. And what happens is those sessions go absolutely bloody brilliant. I astound myself sometimes. I will listen to the words I'm using and say to myself with an internal voice. Cluffy. That was brilliant. Where did that come from? Or a process will come to mind, one I hadn't thought of, and you go, this is it. Where did that come from? We do it, and the client is one. It gets a wonderful result. And then I, look at the clock, and it's always within minutes of the time I set. How does that happen? I don't know how it happens, by the way. All I know is it bloody happens 99.99% of the time. Sometimes there's that 1%. Or maybe I didn't quite ask the right question. I think I put it down to me, see if I'm doing a live q and a for my son's mind mastery call or mind mastery class, and I'm going to be talking just about a subject. Just before we press play or open the zoom lines, I'll just say to myself, what would it be like to just. To be charismatic, to be able to communicate, to be able to lead and change people's minds with something wonderful, to use all my skills, have them all available to me to learn more, have them available to me whenever I need them in the future, and to do it all within. And, we always do an hour, so I'll do an hour. And guess what? I have a few notes. Don't have a lot, but things come to mind as I'm talking. Things and little stories and little snippets come to mind to make it even, even richer. And I'm saying to myself as I'm talking these little things going, where are all these things coming from? But I do connect. I, do connect. And, I always, and I just remembered one thing I like to put at the end and where I started to, but I remember it now. Anyway, is the words. And enjoy the process. Because the one thing about this is if you're going to do something that you really want to do, you have to enjoy the process. You have to enjoy what you're going to do because it's bloody rubbish. Doing stuff to your best ability and not enjoying it. So always say this or something better and enjoy the process. This just works. Believe me, it just works. So maybe you might need to make some notes. Maybe you need to rewind it. Maybe I'll put some in the show notes. I don't know. We'll have to see. Maybe you'll remind me by email me. I'll say that more clearly, emailing me at feedbackersaldevelopmentunplug, um.com. and I'll send you a little note. And it's always, what will it be like?     The magical question, a miracle question. What would it be like to communicate effectively   The magical question, a miracle question. It's magical to me because of the results I get. I, know it's not magic, but I feel magical. I, pat myself on the back and these things just bloody work. And how simple is that? Easy steps. How do I want to feel? What skills do I. And I don't even mention the type of skills or the specific skills. I just want to be able to access everything I know with my hypnosis, my NLP, my timeline therapy, my communication skills, the words I use, the rapport. And it just, well, it blows my mind how simple and how powerful this is. And the thing is, sometimes when things with a client end up going quite the way I wanted, somehow just trusting in that I find a way. And sometimes it's even better. Cause I've learned something, but sometimes it stretches me and I have an even better time. Cause I do. Then enjoy the process. So you may think I'm absolutely mad to have this little question. And I have to say, when I first did this, I had it on like a six by three cardinal, all typed out with little dots in for the gaps that I wanted to fill in. And I would literally read it. And I'm reading, I feel some emotion, but I'd read it. And, now I, well, it's some 20 years now, and if something doesn't work, I'd have given it up by then, but it does work. So the. What will it mean? Magical question. No, not what will it mean at all. What would it be like? That's what you're asking your unconscious mind, what would you like to do? Be, have and enjoy the process. If you're going to a meeting, what would it be like? To be able to communicate all that, I need to communicate in such a charismatic way to get my words into such a good order, to be able to communicate so well and do it all succinctly within x amount of minutes and so people really get the gist of it. What would that be like? And for me to enjoy the process. There you go. I didn't have to read that. I just made that up as it goes on. And so can you. So do make some notes, do just jot them down. And even if you think it's silly, try it. Well, don't try it, do it. It's trying, you know, trying is failing or whatever, but do it. Do it for a few times. And you'll notice when you review what's just happened. Bloody hell. Cloughy. It, bloody works. There you go. And if you wanted to, you could share this with everyone because if everybody gets to, to enjoy their times of, you know, because this is sometimes in a stressful situation, for be able to go through stressful situations and really just enjoy those times because that's when you've got in a nice emotional state, you learn more and you share more because people, you'll be that example of how do they do that? And you'll shine. And, that's what I want for you. I want you to, to shoot a lot of tutors in there. I want you to shine. Shine in front of everybody and shine in front of yourself to give yourself, well, to realize the confidence that you have not given. Your confidence, not making you more confidence, but you're accessing the confidence that you have naturally in your abilities, competency. And this is how you're going to really crush it. Knock it out the park. And you start to then enjoy everything. You look forward to things like that. You look forward to the unknown because you're gonna, you set yourself up to succeed through the unknown because you didn't say how you want to be. So please do share that. Share the podcast, do everything you can if you could. It'll be great. And press the subscribe button. That's lovely if you could. And let's just make this a little bigger for everybody, if you would. Thank you so much for your time. I appreciate it so, so much. Speak to me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com for all your needs. See if I can help. But until you do, email me. I'll, speak to you all and see you on the next one. It's time to fly, my friend. Have fun.   Warning you are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.   Personal development unplugged. Personal development [Unplugged] [podcast][NLP][Hypnosis][self development]self improvement][awareness]

The Secret Of Practicing For Perfection is that there isn't one   :O) Starting from the false statement that practice makes perfect in this 5-Minute Quickie episode we'll explore what practice actually makes and how to use that to improve anything you want. We have to remember if we practice badly, whether it's in our mind or in real life, we will do it badly and no matter what, if we practice the same way our results will only get worse. So with that held firmly in mind let me share some ways we can ensure what we practice improves. Please share and subscribe: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-462-the-secret-of-practicing-for-perfection Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

In Search Of An Easy Life Simplifying Complexity Ever feel overwhelmed by complicated processes and information overload? This episode is your guide to breaking down complexity into simple, manageable steps. Join me as I share a transformative story about mind mapping and how it can make learning and remembering easier. We'll explore: The concept of mind mapping and how it simplifies learning. How to break down complicated information into simple, memorable steps. Why some people overcomplicate things and how to see through the complexity. You'll learn: How to use mind mapping for meetings, learning, and problem-solving. Ways to avoid being fooled by complexity and appreciate the genius in simplicity. Practical steps to integrate mind mapping into your daily life for better clarity and efficiency. By the end of this episode, you'll have the tools to clear out confusion, simplify your learning process, and achieve mastery in various aspects of your life. Ready to make life easier? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/408-in-search-of-an-easy-life/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay,   And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism Hey, my friends. The longer podcast and the title in search for an easy life. Don't be fooled. It's a bit abstract, isn't it? You see, there's a. I can remember way, way, way back, years ago. It is years ago. I remember going to this little workshop, little workshop here. It was in an evening. So that's how it is. Like an hour's workshop at, this little thing. I don't know, can't even remember what the organization was, but this guy stood up in front of us, and there's only, say, 20 of us there. He stood up and told this story. But it wasn't a story story. It was a story of. I can see the pictures in my mind, but I can't remember what the story was about, but it was how something was produced, how it started, how it got to be made, then how it was transported, moved around and done that. And, after about ten minutes, he said, there you go, what did I tell you? And we go, well, you told us a story about making something. I remember something about carrots, that was weird because they were all very abstract, but I just didn't get it. And he said, do you want to know how to remember things easier to be able to go through what I've told you in that story of mine, and to remember it without having to make masses of notes. So I said, well, I was there in my head, I'm with you, Mandez. So he went through this thing called mind mapping. And our mind mapping is not new. Well, it can't be new, because it was years and years and years ago. And he showed us a way to break things down, or what appeared to be complicated things into simple little pictures and lines from a middle, from a middle circle of what the title was, and then broke each one down into little steps. And, even the steps had only a couple of words on, maybe keywords and, ah, a little picture. So he said, I'm telling you the story again. Let's just make m those those pictures together. And, we did it. He said, go for a cup of coffee. And we had a coffee, a little break. He said, right blank. The board's been blank. Now let's go through the story again. And every one of us could go through that story just by remembering the pictures. We hadn't even written an awful lot down, but we could remember the pictures in our head. We could remember the mind map in our head. And that blew me away, because if I could remember something that's so abstract like that, just remembering it without actually writing it down, and when I found, when I wrote these things down in a, lovely. I love mind maps, but in a way that, just a word, a little symbol, a picture of something that just really represented that story, I found I could do anything with it. I could take notes at meetings, as when I was in business, I'd go to meetings and people would be furiously writing notes. And I just have this page of little pictures and lines and they go, can you remember this book? yeah, because you said this and that and this and that. And we go to there, then we're going to do this. It's amazing. Amazing. You see, remembering steps to follow can be complicated, can't it? If you don't know mind mapping and things like that. But, and it's not, this is not just about mind mapping, by the way. That's just, an example being how you can break down the complicated into simple steps. And when you, because you see, if you have too many steps, complicated steps, things disappear out your brain. Anything over five, between five and nine little steps, if you get directions to go somewhere after the fifth one, the first, second and third have disappeared out your brain. You get it a little bit longer than that. And the whole, you're even thinking to yourself, oh, what a lovely holiday I had, because you just wandered away, you cannot remember a thing. And that is such a, a natural phenomenon to just let these things go because they just get totally confusing in your brain. We use it as a hypnotic process to overwhelm the conscious mind to allow us to go into the unconscious mind. People love to make things complicated, but breaking things down into manageable steps works And you see some people, I don't know, I'm not going to say any names, but you see them all over the place in all the social medias, love to make things complicated. And, I wonder why, I really wonder why when things are so much easier, when you break things down into manageable, understandable steps. Now, I think I, know why. Because it makes them look bloody good in their mind, by the way, in their mind. When people have got this really complicated thing off pack because they've taken years to learn the bloody thing and make it more complicated, it just makes them look better than you. It's their showreel. Behind the showreel, they've got nothing, doesn't work. And so I now look for the simple steps amongst that, that B's, because you can still find it even when people try to overcomplicate things. If you really look for those simple steps, and mind mapping is a great way to do it, you can find out anything. It's how I learned the processes of hypnosis and NLP to using therapy to break what appeared to me initially, complicated processes into manageable steps that I could understand. And once I understood them, I could understand why the next step came along. There's so many things I've modeled, from listening to people speak and be able to teach it, to share it. I remember a great thing where people were advertising the 101 in business and they were going on and on. It was so complicated. They were going to, they were selling a course, basically. But what they didn't realize was if you listened and you could throw away the fluff, as it were, and get those simple steps. I modeled their whole course from what they were saying, and I've shared that with people in businesses, and it just makes sense and it works. And in things like processes of hypnosis, NLP therapy, especially therapy, people make things so bloody complicated there, too. They really do. And, in fact, there's such a simple thing. It's called present state, desired state. This is a state you don't like because it's present. The desired state is how you want to be. And all we've got to do is change the. And there's a model called the tote model to help you with that. Tote. What's that? Test, operate, test, exit. So the test is tell me what your present state is, how you do it. The t at the end is your desired state. Have we got there? This is what I want. The o is operate, do something that's going to transfer or transform present state to desired state. Once you've got that desired state, exit, get out of it. Get out of your way. Do it. And you can break so many things down into a simple little tote. Test, operate, test, exit. Because if you do too many things, you don't know which one worked, which ones didn't work. But most people don't start with their desired state or, their present state or their desired state. They've just got this big goal. They're not looking at what they've got already. They just complicate things too, too much. And, that's where I think I know. I quote Albert Einstein for in simplicity, there is genius. And I don't know how that hooked up with me, because when, I started the, personal development unplugged podcast, it was all about getting so frustrated with people over complicated things. I wanted to break things down into simple ways that we can make fantastic changes, knowing what we're doing, doing what we know, but be able to do it without that confusion. Don't let complicated things impress you, says Mark Devine So let's have a think. I know I've talked about mind mapping, and if you get into mind mapping, I will do it. I can remember one little story, one little side story. I was in my trainer's training, and this guy beside me, we stayed in the same dormitory, as it were, and we sat pretty close together. But he was a mind mapping genius. His mind maps were a work of art. in fact, I went and paid for a photocopy of his mind maps because they were that good. And as I saw each one, I could follow each day, he did one for every day's training, and they were brilliant. And he enjoyed doing it. I enjoyed watching him. It was a work of art, breaking down a whole day into one, a four sheet of paper that we could all follow. That's how breaking the complicated into simple really just works. So, what's the learning here? Well, don't let complicated impress you. That's one of these things for me. Don't let people who complicate things. Well, this is so complicated, and they're so good, and they're so charismatic about it. Look for the bullshit. Are they just out there to impress you? Is it a mask to impress? And that mask just fails because you can't do it. They just try to suck you in. But there's a reverse of that. And the reverse is, don't let simplicity fool you. Because sometimes you look at something and says, oh, that's so simple. That is so simple. No, in simplicity, there is genius, as long as it's not too simple and it misses the important points. But don't let simplicity fool you. And I think that's more important. So you get rid of the bullshit and look for simple, simple ways. But the thing is about things being simple doesn't mean they're easy. Oh, no, they're easy to follow. Yes, you have easy to follow steps. They're easy to understand. But the trouble with those bloody steps are they're going to take effort, they're going to take resilience, determination, intention. But those simple steps make it so doable. And you see, with simple steps and you take that confusion away and we do get confused now and again, by the way, because your unconscious mind will try to get to a point where it's a little bit overloaded but don't give up. Then that's a side thing. But, you know, we get a little bit confused. But then you look at the next step and you go, ah. I've just integrated the learning so I can move on to, to the next little step. But you get success with every step. I understand it, I understand what I need to do. I've just got to keep practicing. I've got to have the determination to carry on, keep doing it. I've got the intention. I, know where we're going and these steps are going to make it for me, because when I get it, you're going to be a master of it. And that's the thing, mastery. Knowing what you do and, doing what you know well, you'll know it so easily, you'll see it in your mind. I often wonder when people, Richard Baddley used to say, I see things, out there and I just read them to people or tell people, and I go, that's ridiculous. Until I've done it myself. I can see my mind maps in my head and I just follow them. And the thing about this simplicity thing, I've got three little examples. Two of them are from my own family, and it's not me. My youngest son, Joseph, has a program called mind mastery, where he looks to help people get rid of anxiety, unconfidence, all manner of problems by finding the root cause of their issue and then with simple steps to overcome it. And they are really simple steps, each one. And I always think it's like a domino rally. Each simple step, it's a little bit. Next one's a bit bigger, and the next one's a bit bigger. But as you tip the first one over, the second one gets easier, the third one gets easier. And by the end of that program, the changes people make are, amazing. It's not magic, but it's certainly magical to the people who get those changes. There's another one, here's another little example. There's, a podcast and a book I'm just, just reading by a guy called Mark Devine. He is, Alex, Navy SeAl, and now he has a podcast, the Mark Devine show. And he's written a book about being uncommon, and we love being, you know, that title, be an uncommon person in a group of uncommon people. That's really m being who you really are, isn't it? Because you're unique. Be uncommon in that group. Breaking anything down into simple steps can help you achieve anything But he is giving you, in his book, five Mountains. He calls them five mountains, and they're five different parts of your life to improve, building one upon the other, one step. And then as you get into that step, you move on to the next step, and with that, you begin to, as he puts it, really follow your north star, your passion, your purpose. But he's broken it down into simple steps. Again, simple, easy to follow. Got to take effort, though. And the last one for the moment is my eldest son, Daniel, who is. He does that little podcast. He's into his health, and he's broken down what he considers being able to be healthy. And I think he's broken it down to just seven areas of life. One of them is maybe just drinking water. Now you're even drinking water, you go, oh, that's so easy. Do it every day. Simple step, easy to understand, but to do it every day at a certain amount, but perfect health into seven steps. What an awesome thing to do. Because if you think you listen to other people about their health and how they're going to guide you through it, they're talking about all these complicated words, or they're complicated processes with complicated words, all sorts of things I have to, when I listen to them, m I've got a bloody dictionary trying to work out what they're doing. In fact, I've getting in touch with Daniel and say, what does that mean? What does this mean? But with, breaking anything down into a simple step means or steps, you are going to achieve things and you get more motivated, you get more confident in everything otherwise. I said confident like that. You get more confident. Confidence grows, especially when you have your intention. Confidence is there, and that confidence is then doubling with every step. So here's a sort of thing to finish ish. If something appears simple, rejoice, say yay, and, look at it. Does it make sense? Does it really work? Will those simple steps get you from here to there? A, b, c, d, e, whatever. One, two, CDE, throw them around, mix them up a little bit. If it's complicated or it may not be thought, thought through, just ask. This is, you know, if it's important to you and you think this thing that is complicated in front of you, been explained to you is, is valuable, but just not being communicated in a way that it is easy to understand and follow. Maybe just ask yourself, how could I? Or what would make this simpler? What would this be like? If it was in simple steps, what would those simple steps be? You may even ask the question, if this was simple, what would it look like? What would it feel like? What would I hear? Get all the modalities going and get your unconscious mind to start searching for those simple ways. Or you could, if you wanted to ask, Cloughie. Yeah, ask me. Send me an email. Say, look, this process is a bit complicated. Can you break it down for us? Can we get it into a simple process that would work? Maybe into a hypnotic process as well, or certainly something I can visualize to make it happen. So that's why I entitled this in search for an easy life. It's to create a life easily, effortlessly, and enjoy it. See, life doesn't have to be complicated. You just have to, you know, if you want to make it as complicated as you want, fine, but only make it as complicated as you need to. Which is a weird saying. But it doesn't have to be complicated, does it? And the thing is, when you, you look for things within things, I think you'll find them. So if something is complicated, break it down. Learn mind mapping. For me, that's the easiest thing to do. Tony Buzan, I think, was the creator of, mind mapping. But you find, find it online, ideally. I mean, you see them, you can get them on the Internet now and they're on your screen. But handwritten drawings are so much more personal. Again, you know, when you write things down, it's coming from your brain. Not tippy tappy or just copying a bloody picture. But when you look for an answer, and this is what it really comes down to, it's a little aha. Momentous when you look for the answer and you ask yourself a real question, how can I make this simple? How can I make it easier so I can succeed? If it was simple, what would it look like? You'll find it. Your unconscious mind will find a way. It'll find a way either to do itself, or it will find people who can do it for you. I said, send me an email, feedbackers um.com. or you'll find things on YouTube or whatever. But you'll look and, you'll find it in a way that you weren't necessarily searching for it. But it just comes up now. I always make a little note to myself. How do I want you to feel when you listen to all of this? And what I'd love you to feel. Maybe if I've done it, I've done my little thing and it's curious. That's all. That's all. I want you to be curious. Is that possible? Cloughie? Could I just do that if I learnt a bit of mind mapping or if I just ask those questions? If I just thought, get a paper and pencil, by the way, you could make notes because as we said, you get over five steps. The 6th one comes in and the first one drops out your head. So make those notes, but just get curious of what you want to learn and then look to how you can model it and model it in a way that model it into simple steps. And why is this important? Why is this important at all? Well, if you could be motivated, and, I say you. I mean me as well, if you could be motivated by the little success you get in each step, you're going to get the results you want. Not by being confused and overwhelmed by people making things more complicated than they need to be. I really hope, and I've rambled, hopefully. That story, that story has stuck with me for years. It's been with me. Paul Clough: Clarification is wonderful. I have my puzzle book It comes away every time I look at my books on that and my notes. I have my puzzle book, by the way, just as an aside, just came to my head, my puzzle book, the one I work out. I sit and think about all bloody mind maps because I get a problem in the center. And then I look for simple steps to find a solution to the problem. And, maybe one mind map will meet to another mind map, but it just makes things so clear for me. Clarification is wonderful. Yes. Just as a reminder, sometimes we do get confused, but that confusion is just your unconscious mind integrating all the knowledge you've just picked up. And then in an hour or so, that little aha, moment comes. And it's not really an aha moment, it's just that clarity comes and you can see the next step. And it all starts with curiosity. And, for me, it was the magic of that guy giving me something that made me curious, made me feel, I'm gonna go for that. I'm gonna look for it, I'm gonna find it. And the things I have found and created all from that one guy, man, that was awesome. And the thing was, he wasn't even selling anything. He just wanted to share what he's learned. Now, if that's selfless service in a t, if that's the word, how you say it, in a t, add a t, who knows? Don't care. But it was awesome. So I thank him from the bottom of my heart and the heart of my bottom. Anyway, shouldn't have said that. It's just a little uk joke. Anyway, please share this, to anybody you know, everyone you know, if you would press that bloomin old subscribe button, let's don't miss any of these. Because the thing is, not every episode will maybe hit it hit its mark. You'll think, well, that's not that interesting. But every now and again you'll get that golden nugget. And that's the important thing. That's why I listen to so many other things. I'll get golden nuggets. Sometimes you have to sift through a little bit, but hopefully here at, ah, personal development, unplugged, you'll find hopefully it's into simple steps. That's my aim. To share with you simple things and for us all to grow and have a rich life. Have fun, joy, find love everywhere. So please do that. Please share and share your thoughts with me. And again, that personal, feedbackersonaldevelopmentunplugged.com email. Please share what you've learned. Please share your ex, your, the things that you've achieved, you've experienced, or if there's anything that you feel I can improve upon or add to this. All welcome. All welcome. Thank you so much for your time. I, know time is valuable, but if we found one little thing, it's been totally valuable. Until the next time, my friend. Have so much fun. More fun than you can stand. Bye bye. Time to fly. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. 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Getting Rid Of Niggling Negative Emotions I think we've all experience feeling off, sad, down or just a little bit strange in a negative sort of way. It's not big enough to want therapy or dive into a hypnosis track (see below where you can find them) but it would be nice if it just wasn't there. Well here's how to get rid and let it go because if you try to force it away it'll just get stronger. Come with me on this 5-minute episode and learn how Then you'll be wanting to share it too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-461-getting-rid-of-niggling-negative-emotions And the video link is https://youtu.be/Ewi6H2N9GmM Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

I'm Invisible and not heard - The Antidote Be Seen, Be Heard: Overcoming Invisibility Ever felt invisible, overlooked, or unheard? This episode is your antidote. Discover how to break free from the feelings of invisibility and be noticed for who you truly are. I'll dive deep into the power of self-awareness and the importance of recognizing your own value. We'll explore: The impact of negative self-talk and how it shapes your reality. Why writing down your positive traits and intentions is crucial. How to shift from negative affirmations to empowering statements of fact. Practical steps to reinforce your self-belief and project your true self to the world. You'll learn: How to identify and articulate your skills, kindness, and positive attributes. The importance of acting “as if” to reinforce your new self-image. Ways to practice and make these positive changes permanent. By the end of this episode, you will have the tools to be seen and heard, to shine brightly and confidently in all areas of your life. Ready to transform your sense of self? Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/407-im-invisible-and-not-heard-the-antidote   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com   If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie  I'm a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Why not look for me and the podcast on  SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugged.libsyn.com tunein, learnoutloud, Google Play Music Music by Wataboi from Pixabay, Music by DreamHeaven from Pixabay, Music by ccjmusic from Pixabay, >, Music by freegroove pixabay seduction-jazz-112149 from Pixabay, Music by prazkhanal Pixaby ventura-117073 from Pixabay, And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism   Hey, this longer podcast, what it's all about, have you ever felt invisible? Have you ever felt overlooked? Have you ever felt, if you can feel it, that you're not being listened to? Well, here is the antidote. And it's so easy, so simple, just takes a little bit of effort. Okay, have a listen after this.   Have you ever experienced times when you think no one's taken notice   Hey, here's a question for you. Oh, by the way, welcome, welcome, welcome back. Or welcome newly. But anyway, here's a question. Have you ever experienced times when you think, no one's taken any notice of me? Yeah. Or sometimes, and I've had this myself sometimes you think, I must be bloody invisible, I'm being overlooked, not being seen, so no one's taking any notice. I'm not being heard. And it doesn't matter what I say. It's as if no one is listening to me. No one at all. At times m like that because they're bloody bad, aren't they? They are bad. And we can fall into this, this pattern of negative emotions around that, and then we'll come up with this wonderful effect, and, it's called cause and effect, and we're going to come up with the effect of, well, it's all their fault. It's all their fault. Not me, because they're not listening. They're not seeing me. Hey, wakey, wakey. It's not their fault because when we put reasons and excuses out there, that's like playing the poor me syndrome. And I don't know if that's an actual thing, by the way, the poor, I might make that one up. The poor. Maybe it's just me. Oh, dear. But you see, there's always one person taking notice of you. There's only one person who's always seeing you. There's only one person who is really taking notice. Do you know who that is? Yeah. You do, don't you? One person. You see, Deepak Chopra, have I got his name right wrote once. Your unconscious mind is always ear dropping on you. What you're saying, what you're thinking, and you see, that means you. You are. And, if there was only one person that listens to you, that sees you, that takes notice of you, it's you. You know, sometimes consciously, that internal voice of yours, we speak, and, sometimes we speak out loud. And again, we might be talking about myself because I will talk out loud about things that are happening. Am I totally. What is happening? Why is this why is that? I might think it, inside, I might make some pictures up. But from those words and those pictures, I always get that negative feeling that I'm not being taken notice of, I'm not being listened to. But I bloody am. Because I am. M the person who's listening, who's taking notice, who's seeing me. And then when you put it all together, we come up with a belief. A belief like, well, I'm invisible. That's a great one. Worked with that before clients with who really had that. I'm invisible so much, and we got rid of that. But we get beliefs of things like, I'm not good enough. I'm unworthy, I don't belong here. And all of that is b's, isn't it?     Your unconscious mind and conscious mind are trying to keep you invisible   And I'll ask you. I'll ask you the question. When you think like that, when you make those pitches in your mind, when you speak out loud, you speak inside with that inner voice, you get those beliefs, those feelings. How is it bloody working for you? I, know how it's working for me. And that is. It bloody ain't, is it? Ah, it ain't working. It's not working at all. I know he's trying to do something for me. I know my unconscious mind and my conscious mind, you know, trying to. Trying to make an excuse sometimes. Or trying to save me and keep me safe from doing something. To keep me invisible. Sometimes the positive intention of keeping me invisible is to save me from any hurt, embarrassment. Doing things and not doing them right, that can stem from something way back then. We can get that. But you see, however you do all of that, and this is where the, complete clash comes from. Whatever you think you are, you're right. Whatever you think you are, you're right. Think about that. Because if you're. When, we say what you think you are, what you say you are, you're right. Because if you start saying to yourself, oh, I'm lazy. Yeah, you'll be lazy, oh, I'm fat. This is not fat shaming. Because we're talking to ourselves, I'm fat. I've got tumour. Then you will be. I, can't do this. Then you won't. No one loves me. You're not lovable because you're telling yourself and they're your thoughts, and your unconscious mind goes, okay, well, that's what it is. I'll protect you from that. I won't let you do anything. Because you're right. Whatever you think you are, you're right. And the solution to that. Oh, that's pretty down, isn't it? Cloughy, that is down. But no, no, there's a solution to all of this and the solutions. Hiding in plain bloody sight. It always is, by the way. You got that direct conflict that trying to help you and it's not working. You know, if you're trying to be protected by your best friend, your unconscious mind, it don't feel good, doesn't it? It doesn't feel good at all. Now, what is this solution that's hiding in plain bloody sight? Well, part of this solution is going to be, and I'm going to say some words that, I'm sure the majority of the four of you listening, because, yeah, we've, we've got an extra listener now, up to four. Those words are, write this sucker down. Write the sucker down. And I know. Oh, Paul, I just want to think about it. I just want it to. I want you to let the words come in and then I'll make. It doesn't do it, does it? Because you forget it and you can't work on it. And if your unconscious mind is always listening, let's give it some clarity to listen to. And clarity, you see, when you write things down, it means you're thinking and you can think properly and, positively. So let's give it something really to listen to and, write things down. Now, what we're going to write how you want to be, not what you don't want. That's what everyone always tells me when they come to me as a client. Oh. I don't want to feel anxious anymore. I don't want to feel unconfident. I don't want to feel frightened. I don't want to feel scared. Well, what do you want? Well, I just told you, Paul, I don't want to feel frightened. Scared. You keep reinforcing listening. But how do you want to be? And you see some people, if you took invisible, for example, the opposite to invisible is not to be seen. Really, Clavy? Are you sure? Yeah. Because if you think about it, everyone can see you. You're not physically invisible. Not possible. Everyone can see you. But the opposite to the invisible for you may be something like, how do you want to be noticed? Oh, that's different, isn't it? How do I want to be noticed? Maybe it's for your skills. Maybe it's for things like being kind, your kindness. Maybe it's just that pleasant personality of yours with that lovely smile. Maybe it's your actions, the, things that you actually do, your behaviours. Maybe it's that vibration that you give off because you're feeling so good about yourself and you're projecting it out there. Because we all know when I. People come in who feel all that rubbish I've been talking about. Not the rubbish I've been talking about, the things that we used to say to ourselves, that is rubbish. We know when they come into a room, they bring the whole room down. Well, if you can come into that room to be noticed for your skills, your kindness, your happy disposition, your smile, your actions, your beliefs, you begin to light up the room. So we need to be specific. I say we write that sucker down. Why?     You need to write down what you want to be noticed for   And I'll repeat it. Why? We want to write it. Because what writing does is make you think first, because you have to think of what you want. You have to visualize it. And when you visualize it, guess what happens? You get to feel the bloody thing that you want, and then you have to describe it in words. And then those words have to come out onto the page. And, when you do that, you look at those words and you go, yeah, that's the way I feel. And I want to be seen. I want to be heard. And, the thing is, it's not just because you've written it down, it's not cast in stone, but it will always be there for you to come and reflect on. Whereas if you just think it, oh, I'd like to be this, this and that. Next thing, something comes along, distracts you, and guess what happens? Yeah, you forget all about it. And the thing is, these aren't, affirmations of what you're not, you know, I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy. Every day is getting better and better and better and better. Because they're not necessarily the truth, are they? And your unconscious mind knows, you know, if you're not feeling, I'm being seen every day, I'm being. You're not if you don't feel you're being seen, if you feel you're invisible or I'm being listened to, and if you don't feel you're being listened to or heard, then again, there's another clash, isn't there? A direct conflict from what you're saying to what you feel? And your unconscious mind goes, make up your bloody mind, because what you're saying doesn't have that real truth behind it. But if you go and say, this is who I am, and this is what I want to be noticed for, because I have these skills and, I'm going to get better at them. Now I can. A lovely affirmation is I'm striving to better these skills. I'm striving to be kinder, but I have kindness in me. I have this lovely disposition and I have a lovely smile. I have great actions, great behaviours, but you have to describe them. They're not just actions. I do this, I do that, I show kindness in this particular way. These are the skills I've learned and I bring to the table. And they are what you are. So they're not phony affirmations. These are statements of facts. So you. Well, you need to read them. Now, I'm going to suggest you go through this. You make them into really succinct, powerful notes or maybe just a small card that you can put in your. Your wallet, you can put in your pocket, you can put in your purse, your handbag, or whatever you have. And you read them every time or as many times as you can, because how long is it going to take you to read a card of how you want to be noticed, how you want to be heard, your skills, your emotions, your demeanour and your actions and your beliefs? How long? 30 seconds. But when you read it, you'll get that feeling again and you'll keep doing it every time you think, you've got a moment or two. Let's get that card out. Yeah. That's what I am. That's who I am. Now, when you start to say, this is who I am, it becomes a belief about your identity. And you're noticing your skills and you're rejoicing in them in some ways because it feels so bloody good. And your unconscious mind is going to say, well, damn, this is good. If we had these, we'd be a lot safer out there. And, ah, we have got these skills, we have got these beliefs, we have got these emotions. Let's use them. And the thing is, it's not just I want to be noticed, because, again, that's so general, isn't it so? And it's not I want to be noticed. I will be noticed. I will be noticed for my skills, my kindness, my disposition, my accent, my actions, my beliefs. Or I am being noticed because you will be when you do it. You will be noticed for your skills, your kindness, your happy disposition, your smile, your actions, your behaviours, your beliefs, those wonderful emotions. I have a friendly smile because you have. I have these skills and all you do is rinse and repeat that's what I always say, rinse and repeat. Just keep reading it. And the more you read it, you can then begin to act as if, and you're acting as if you are who you are, who you am. And then you can practise getting better at it. And there's a five minute quicker, there's more than one, I'm sure, on practice not being perfect, but making things permanent. And if you can make things permanent and even better than that of how you want to be and appear in the world, be the change you want to see in others, be the change you want to see in yourself. And you see, it's a natural process to say those first things. I used to say that, you know, talking to yourself, but now we're talking to ourself in a positive way. So really it's just a natural phenomenon that works and we've just tweaked it into a more positive way that's going to protect you even more. And the thing is, some people say, yeah, well, you know, am I allowed to think of myself as who I am? That's not bullshit, by the way, not b's to think of who you are, who you really are. And when you think it, you know it, you don't bullshit yourself. Maybe you have to improve, we all have to improve our skills. Get better at what we're at life. Because that's what makes life better, just making it better, richer for ourselves, people around us. A little old planet earth, I hope you feel. Yes, that's me. Not the first bit, the second bit. I am. And list your skills. List all the positive things about yourself. It's like my qualities and my qualities. If you ever want to go to there, I've got at least one longer podcast on my qualities and a hypnosis track on, accessing all the wonderful qualities that you have and getting your unconscious mind to find even more. Where'd you get that from? You go to paulcliffonline.com podcast, get your link and look for that one out of the 60 odd. Download it, it's yours forever, my compliments. And you'll find those wonderful qualities. Then you can start saying, well, in this context, these are my qualities that are really going to shine because that's who I am. And you'll be noticed for who you am, who you're going to be even better, and how rich you're going to make life for yourself and others. Because that's what it's all about. Because I know you're more than whatever you think you are and whatever you think you are, you're even more than that. And if you wanted to be invisible, as I do, sometimes you can choose to be invisible because that's what you want to do, because it's a choice of sometimes I'm a little introvert and I like to sit in the background, but on, other days, different contexts, I'll come and voice myself, I'll be seen, I'll be heard, because I'll do it with a wonderful intention, because I know who I am and what I'm contributing and so will you. So wakey, wakey, to the world of who you really am.     When you get positive beliefs about your identity, everything else changes in your life   I love that thing, that sentence, who you really am, your identity. And when you really start to get those positive beliefs about your identity, everything else changes in your life. Your emotions become more positive. You begin to access the skills because you're confident now in those skills. And you start behaving in a way that uses those skills because, again, you're confident in yourself, confident and competent because you believe who you am. And you have wonderful beliefs and values because it's important to you to be who you am. I think I've said that enough, haven't I? I hope in some way, in this random way I've been talking, that I've made some sense, that I've got you to think of who you really am, said it again. And that you enjoyed just making life richer for yourself, finding joy in who you are and bringing joy to the world. Because remember, whatever you think you are, you're more than that. Please enjoy. Please share this with anybody else who you don't think is being seen is being overlooked, who's not being heard. Because let's get everyone to be seen. Let's get everyone to be looked at in a nice way and to be listened to in a nice way. Let's wake the world up. Please do that. Please. If you haven't done and you're new here, you know, maybe you'll be the fifth person to subscribe to this podcast. It'd be great if you did. Let's get these subscriptions rocketing into double figures. And please enjoy those hypnosis tracks. I do. Those with as much love and intention that I can bring to them, and they're yours with my compliments. So enjoy every heartbeat and go out there and be noticed for who you am. Time to fly, my friend. See you soon. Oh, oh, oh. Just before you fly to. I think it's so important that you do get access to the hypnosis track. So here's a quick 90 seconds, it's only 90 seconds long of telling you all about those hypnosis tracks. And, then you can fly, really fly. So the, 90 seconds of hypnosis tracks. Why have I put hypnosis tracks on a separate website? Well, it's so simple, really. I wanted you to have them all in one place so you can look through them all. You can find the particular one you want. I've even made them downloadable so you can put them on any of your playing devices that you prefer. You don't need Wi Fi, you don't need the itunes or whatever, you can put them anywhere you like. You can even burn them onto disks if you want. Where do you get them? Well, there you go. I told you. It's paulcluffonline.com podcast, if you want, about your email address, please don't be. Because they stay totally safe with me. I only use them to send you out that email and give you access. Simple as that. I send you a link, a special link, so you and only you can access those hypnosis tracks, because I want them just for you. And the other thing about this is you've taken responsibility. I don't want to make these open to everyone, just random. You have taken responsibility to listen and be part of this community of personal development. And I want to help you. I want to help you personally to get your dreams, your goals, and therefore, I'm m giving you these tools, these protocols, these paradigms, whatever you want to call them, but in deep hypnosis. So just enjoy, have more fun than you can stand with. Hypnosis. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged. Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

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