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Hi everyone, welcome back to TV Reload! I truly appreciate you tuning in for today’s episode, featuring two powerhouse content creators at the top of their game in scripted drama—John Polson and Bruna Papandrea. They join me to discuss their latest project, The Last Anniversary. Bruna Papandrea is an acclaimed Australian film and television producer and the founder of Made Up Stories. Before that, she co-founded Pacific Standard with Reese Witherspoon. Her impressive resume speaks for itself, with hits like Big Little Lies, Nine Perfect Strangers etc. The list goes on. Plus the feature film, The Dry, and the sequel to that, Force of Nature. It’s an absolute honour to have her here to discuss this exciting new TV series, now streaming on Binge and Foxtel. Joining her is John Polson, the director of The Last Anniversary. I’ve been a huge fan of his work since the ’90s, ever since I saw him in The Sum of Us alongside Russell Crowe. Over the years, John has made a remarkable transition behind the camera, working out of New York and making a significant impact in film and television. He’s also the creative force behind Tropfest, the world’s largest short film festival, which has supported countless emerging filmmakers. In this episode: • Bruna shares her favourite Liane Moriarty book and the three key elements she looks for when choosing a story. • John explains how directing a TV series differs from filmmaking and what unique challenges come with signing onto a project like this. • We uncover some fascinating behind-the-scenes details—Did Liane Moriarty want a role in the series? Has Bruna ever considered acting herself? • Plus, we’ll discuss the stellar cast, including Miranda Richardson, why this series has a broader appeal than some of Bruna’s past projects, and an update on Big Little Lies Season 3 (which Liane just finished writing this week!). There’s so much to dive into, with plenty of exclusive insights. So sit back, relax, and enjoy as we explore the incredible world of The Last Anniversary, streaming weekly on Binge and Foxtel!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Only a few weeks into his second term, Donald Trump and his billionaire buddies are doing their best to dismantle the federal government's regulatory agencies. So today, we're revisiting a compelling conversation we had in 2020 with journalist and podcast host Michael Hobbes about a piece he wrote in HuffPost titled "The Golden Age of White-Collar Crime." Initially reported against the backdrop of Trump's first presidency and its alarming erosion of regulatory oversight, Hobbes breaks down the staggering prevalence of elite deviance—where the wealthy evade accountability for crimes that cause immense social harm—and also offers insight into why white-collar crime often goes unchecked. It's a timely reminder of the consequences of allowing the ultra-wealthy to operate above the law. This episode originally aired on March 10, 2020. Michael Hobbes is a journalist, podcaster, and former senior reporter for HuffPost, known for his in-depth investigations into social issues, economics, and media narratives. He is the co-host of If Books Could Kill and Maintenance Phase, and previously co-hosted You're Wrong About, where he debunked cultural myths and misconceptions. Hobbes has also contributed to outlets like The New Republic, Pacific Standard and Slate covering topics ranging from housing policy to moral panics. Social Media: @michaelhobbes.bsky.social Further reading:  The Golden Age of White Collar Crime Website: http://pitchforkeconomics.com Instagram: @pitchforkeconomics Threads: pitchforkeconomics Bluesky: @pitchforkeconomics.bsky.social Twitter: @PitchforkEcon, @NickHanauer, @civicaction YouTube: @pitchforkeconomics LinkedIn: Pitchfork Economics Substack: The Pitch

Ben Goldfab is an independent conservation journalist. He's the  author of Crossings: How Road Ecology Is Shaping The Future of Our Planet, named one of the best books of 2023 by the New York Times, and Eager: The Surprising, Secret Life of Beavers and Why They Matter, winner of the 2019 PEN/E.O. Wilson Literary Science Writing Award. Ben's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Science, The New York Times, The Washington Post, National Geographic, Orion Magazine, Mother Jones, The Guardian, High Country News, Outside Magazine, Smithsonian, bioGraphic, Pacific Standard, Audubon Magazine, Scientific American, Vox, OnEarth, Yale Environment 360, Grantland, The Nation, Hakai Magazine, VICE News, and other publications.His fiction has appeared in publications including Motherboard, Moss, Bellevue Literary Review, and The Hopper, which nominated me for a Pushcart Prize. My non-fiction has been anthologized in The Best American Science & Nature Writing and Cosmic Outlaws: Coming of Age at the End of Nature. I live in Colorado with his wife, Elise, and his dog, Kit — which is, of course, what you call a baby beaver.In this episode, Mark and Ben speak about beavers and their importance in balancing the ecosystems in which they live, animal migration patterns and how humans have impacted these routes and much more.  To read some of Ben's works, see the links below:Crossings: How Road Ecology Is Shaping the Future of Our PlanetEager: The Surprising, Secret Life of Beavers and Why They MatterArticles Save What You Love with Mark Titus:⁣Produced: Emilie FirnEdited: Patrick Troll⁣Music: Whiskey Class⁣Instagram: @savewhatyoulovepodcastWebsite: savewhatyoulove.evaswild.comSupport wild salmon at evaswild.com

Le homard ça coûte vraiment pas cher, pis en plus c't'une nourriture de pauvre. Heille, ça ne vaut tellement rien qu'on en trouve un peu partout sur les côtes, on peut en pêcher à main nue dans l'eau peu profonde. Ceux qui en mangent ont même honte, et avec les restes, on fait de l'engrais. Avouez qu'on dirait qu'on est dans une réalité parallèle. Pourtant, c'est bien comme ça qu'on considérait le homard il n'y a pas si longtemps que ça. Alors, la question qu'on peut se poser c'est, comment se fait-il qu'aujourd'hui, le homard est associé à un mets gastronomique ? ERRATUM: 4:57, le viandier de Taillevent et non le vivandier! Merci à un fidèle abonné @manflame321 . A NOTER: Aussi la fresque de Pompéi représente une langouste et non un homard, une espèce à part. La langouste commune en France est la langouste rouge ou langouste commune, Palinurus elephas, de la famille des Palinuridae (langoustes) variété bien distincte des homards. Adhérez à cette chaîne pour obtenir des avantages : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCN4TCCaX-gqBNkrUqXdgGRA/join Images de drone par L'Île Imagin'air: https://www.tourismeilesdelamadeleine.com/fr/l-ile-imagin-air/photographie-et-videos/ Lieux visités: Interprétation pêche en mer https://www.tourismeilesdelamadeleine.com/fr/interpretation-peche-en-mer/peche/ Cap Dauphin - Coopérative des Pêcheurs https://www.tourismeilesdelamadeleine.com/fr/fish-shack/visite-industrielle/ Un grand merci aux pêcheurs Maxime Poirier, Daniel LeBlanc, et Éric Langlois, à Tourisme Iles de la Madeleine et Madame Ruth Taker-Thibodeau de la Coopérative des Pêcheurs. Un grand merci aussi à Robin-Joël Cool (https://agenceduchesne.com/288--robin-joel-cool) Voici le lien vers sa chanson: https://45tours.ca/single/jveux-du-homard-avec-la-recette-des-iles   Pour soutenir la chaîne, au choix: 1. Cliquez sur le bouton « Adhérer » sous la vidéo. 2. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/hndl Musique issue du site : epidemicsound.com Images provenant de https://www.storyblocks.com Abonnez-vous à la chaine: https://www.youtube.com/c/LHistoirenousledira Les vidéos sont utilisées à des fins éducatives selon l'article 107 du Copyright Act de 1976 sur le Fair-Use. Sources et pour aller plus loin: Elisabeth Townsend, Lobster. A Global History, London, Reaktion Books, 2011. Trevor Corson, The Secret life of Lobster, New York, 2004. Ehud Spanier et al. « A concise review of lobster utilization by worldwide human populations from prehistory to the modern era », ICES Journal of Marine Science, 72, 2015, p. i7-i21. doi:10.1093/icesjms/fsv066 Ehud Spanier, « The Utilization of Lobsters by Humans in the Mediterranean Basin from the Prehistoric Era to the Modern Era – An Interdisciplinary Short Review », Athens Journal of Mediterranean Studies, Volume 1, Issue 3, 2015, p. 223-234. Éric de Benedictis, « La folle histoire du homard, des origines à nos tables », Vice, 23 décembre 2015. https://www.vice.com/fr/article/xy7vzw/la-folle-histoire-du-homard-des-origines-a-nos-tables Daniel Luzer, « How Lobster got Fancy », Pacific Standard, 14 juin 2017. https://psmag.com/economics/how-lobster-got-fancy-59440 Eliane Bourque, « Les humbles origines du homard, d'aliment snobé à plat de luxe », Mordu, Radio-Canada, 6 mai 2021. https://ici.radio-canada.ca/mordu/2418/histoire-homard-canada-gaspesie Bref historique de la pêche du homard dans le sud du golfe du Saint-Laurent : Fs149-6/2012F-PDF ; Ottawa - Ontario : Pêches et Océans Canada. c2012 Véronique Leduc, « 8 choses que vous ne savez (peut-être) pas sur le homard », Avenue.ca, 22 mai 2018. https://avenues.ca/savourer/saveur/8-choses-sur-le-homard-du-quebec/ Marina Santos, « Lobster Lore », 11 mai 2021. https://seagrant.mit.edu/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Lobster_Lore_Print.pdf « Homard », Wikipédia. https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homard Hélène Raymond, Portraits du Saint-Laurent. Histoire des pêches et récits maritimes, Montréal, Multimondes, 2024. Autres références disponibles sur demande. #histoire #documentaire #homard #lobster #ilesdelamadeleine #pêche #Robinjoelcool

On this dive into the archives of Cocktail College, we're joined by Jeffrey Morgenthaler of Portland, Ore.'s Pacific Standard to discuss one of the world's most iconic cocktails: the Negroni. Morgenthaler schools us on how to perfect this classic and explains how his barrel-aged-Negroni became a national — and international — phenomenon. Listen on to learn Morgenthaler's spec — and don't forget to leave a rating, review, and subscribe! Jeffrey Morgenthalers' Negroni Recipe Ingredients - 1 ounce Beefeater gin - 1 ounce Cinzano Rosso vermouth - 1 ounce Campari - Garnish: orange twist or wedge Directions 1. Add all ingredients to a chilled rocks glass with ice. 2. Stir until chilled. 3. Garnish with an orange twist or wedge.

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Jamal Hassan is a seasoned beverage consultant and the owner of Ice Cold Co., a Portland-based company specializing in clear craft cocktail ice. With over 20 years of experience in the beverage and hospitality industry, Jamal has developed and overseen bar programs at award-winning restaurants such as Ox, Tasty N' Alder, and Mediterranean Exploration Company. A founding member of Sesame Collective Restaurant Group, he served as their Chief Marketing and Beverage Officer before transitioning to consulting full-time.   Jamal Hassan - @ironsheikh  Ice Cold Co.-  @icecoldpdx  Beverage Business Consulting - @beveragebusinessconsulting   Fav. places mentioned in this episode: Ox - @oxpdx Scotch Lodge - @scotchlodge Palomar @palomarpdx Pacific Standard - @pacificstandardpdx Bellwether - @bellwetherbarco Kachka - @kachkapdx   Right at the Fork is supported by:  Zupan's Markets: www.Zupans.com  RingSide Steakhouse:  www.RingSideSteakhouse.com  Portland Food Adventures: www.PortlandFoodAdventures.com

On this week's Terra Verde episode, host and producer Hannah Wilton interviews author Manjula Martin about her recently-published memoir, The Last Fire Season; A Personal and Pyronatural History, out now from Pantheon Books. Set during the catastrophic 2020 wildfire season and the compounding crises of the pandemic and political upheaval, Martin tells the story of evacuating from her home in West Sonoma County and her journey of healing from a personal health crisis. Tracing the contours of hope, healing, and despair, The Last Fire Season explores what it means to live on a dynamic, changing planet and how we might shift our relationship to the keystone process of fire. Manjula Martin is coauthor, with her father, Orin Martin, of Fruit Trees for Every Garden, which won the 2020 American Horticultural Society Book Award. Her nonfiction has appeared in The New Yorker, Virginia Quarterly Review, The Cut, Pacific Standard, Modern Farmer, and Hazlitt. She edited the anthology Scratch: Writers, Money, and the Art of Making a Living; was managing editor of Francis Ford Coppola's literary magazine, Zoetrope: All-Story; and has worked in varied editorial capacities in the nonprofit and publishing sectors. She lives in West Sonoma County, California. The post A Personal Chronicle of California's Wildfire Crisis appeared first on KPFA.

There seems to be a persistence of wrongful suspicion, and more of us will be hiring a stunt double to stay safe. However, most of the time, you're wrong. We often feel unlovable, but, in most cases, we are loved by someone, somewhere. Some leave with a sound as light as the very first snow, but there will always be a way. So, why the big pause? It's time to head off to live in pacific standard time for a few days.

Today we discuss a new and provocatively titled book written by Southwestern Law School professor Andrea Freeman, an expert on issues of race, food policy, and health from both legal and policy perspectives. The book's title, Ruin Their Crops on the Ground, the Politics of Food in the United States from the Trail of Tears to School Lunch, has been called the first and definitive history of the use of food in the United States law and politics as a weapon of conquest and control. Freeman argues that the U. S. food law and policy process has both created and maintained racial and social inequity. She documents governmental policies from colonization to slavery; to the commodities supplied to Native American reservations. She argues that the long-standing alliance between government and the food industry has produced racial health disparities to this day. Interview Summary Let's talk about the title of your book. What are you trying to communicate? So 'ruin their crops on the ground' is a paraphrase of what George Washington ordered his troops to do, to try to displace Indigenous people and take over their land. That's a pretty powerful image to think about that. So, in your book, you use the term food oppression. Can you explain what you mean? Yes. So I originally started writing about food oppression as the alliance between corporations, the food and agricultural industries, and the government that [00:02:00] create stark health disparities on a racial basis, sometimes gender and class. And as I've come through thinking about this over the years, I'm also using it to describe the way that food has always been used as a tool of subordination by the U.S. Government in history. An interaction between the industry and government isn't inherently oppressive. How does it come to be that way? I mean, it could be good, good for the public, it could be bad, but why does it, how does it become oppressive?​ Yeah, I agree that the problem with the food industry is that the desire to make profits is in conflict with the nutritional needs of people that the U.S., Government programs focus on nutrition are supposed to be serving. Let's go back to some of the earlier times. You've written about the role that food played in slavery. Could you explain? Absolutely. So, enslavers were very careful about the portions and the type of food that they gave to people. the people that they enslaved. And they would write pamphlets and advise each other. Hoping to find a balance to give enslaved people enough food to be able to work and be alive, but not enough to give them the energy to revolt or perform acts of resistance that they inevitably did. And then food was used to create hierarchies within enslaved peoples. It was used to, I don't know, take away pleasure, really, from life to oppress people in so many ways. And so, not just from the content of the food, but even the way that food was delivered. So, instead of eating on plates, food might be poured into a pig trough or scattered on the ground, right? There are so many ways that enslavers used food to try to degrade and subordinate people through either the portions or the content or the delivery. Food is such a fundamental and kind of elementary form of reinforcement. You could imagine it being used to punish particular individuals and reward others. Absolutely. And the law backed up the way that enslavers used food. And even when enslaved people wanted to grow their own food, and perhaps sell it to gain some advantage, the law prevented that. Enslavers might just take over those gardens. Steal the food. Use it for their own purposes. That was all perfectly legal. And the law tried to protect other enslavers from having enslaved people come and steal their food by having some laws in place that said, you must give adequate provisions, which looked like something that might protect enslaved people, but in fact was only to protect other enslavers. Going back to the title of your book, it makes reference to the Trail of Tears. And people have highly varying levels of knowledge of what the Trail of Tears refers to. In North Carolina, it's a really important and tragic part of the state's history for the native individuals living in the western part of the state. But could you tell us more about how food figured into this, what it was and how food figured in? Of course. So the United States wanted the land that Indigenous people were living on. And they designated a part of the country that covers Oklahoma and some states around there and called it the Indian Country or Indian Territory. And to try to force indigenous people to move to that land and to make a journey across the country that was so dangerous, and ended up killing maybe half of the people who made that journey, they destroyed the food sources of people. They had no choice at all. They were starving. They either had to go or die there with no food. And food played into the promises that were made by the United States government of rations that would be given along the way and when people arrived. However, in reality, the rations were gone by the time many people arrived. Or they were bad meat or they were just inedible. And so, they caused not only people to move, but then once they arrived, caused many more deaths. Either along the way or once they were there. A lot of it was unfamiliar food that couldn't be cooked or digested. Food played a major role in the Trail of Tears and what happened both before and after that journey. And the quality of the land for agriculture that they were forced to settle on was part of the picture too, wasn't it?  Yes. Some of it was good and some of it was absolutely terrible. And people were given no choice about where they were going to end up. Let's fast forward to more current times. The U. S. Department of Agriculture has created several very important nutrition programs with the stated aim of improving nutrition. But you've raised some concerns. Please tell us why? Yes. If we just think about that journey that began with the Trail of Tears and with George Washington's order. And then the role that food rations have played in the relationship between the United States and Indigenous people. The rations that were first introduced in trying to force that move, then played a role in many elements of this policy. For example, rations were taken away if parents would not give up their children to the federal Indian boarding schools. They were taken away as a punishment if Indigenous people engage in their own cultural and kinship practices under the Code of Indian Offences. And so, rations played a huge role, and they continue to do so. They have now transformed into what is the food distribution program for Indian reservations. Which is another system whereby the United States is providing food to Indigenous people who are living on reservations, do not have access to many food sources at all, and so, are in need of nutrition. But the contents of the food that are given out through this program don't reflect the needs of the people who are receiving it. They reflect the needs of the agricultural industries and the surpluses that the USDA is responsible for getting rid of because of federal subsidies through the Farm Bill. You've written as well about food marketing. Tell us what your thoughts are on that? Food marketing is so important because it really defines in our society who eats what. It tells us a story that is rife with racial stereotypes and kind of propaganda about food. And it also determines the food landscape in many ways. When I think about race and marketing, marketing first of food really just employed a lot of racist tropes. Because marketing was directed only to white people. And, you know, racism was something that sold. We've seen that change and become more subtle over the years to the present where we even see food marketing taking on anti-racism as a form of what's called woke washing, to try to gain consumer dollars by adopting a certain political position. The issue of who is targeted by marketing is enormously interesting, complex, and highly important. I'm glad to see you addressing that in your book. Let me ask one final question before we wrap up. How is the U. S. Constitution involved in this? I have a theory as a constitutional law professor that the way that the United States has dealt with food in a way that creates racially disparate outcomes violates both the 13th amendment and the 14th amendment. So, let me explain. The 13th Amendment says that anything that comes out of slavery as a vestige, or a badge or a marker of slavery is not allowed. And that means that policies that began back then, that continued today with discriminatory harm are prohibited under the13th Amendment. I talked a little bit about how during slavery food was used to oppress and subordinate. And that caused health problems. Very racially disparate health problems where enslaved people suffered from illnesses and conditions and deaths associated with food and malnutrition at much higher rates than white people. That was explained away by constitution and genetics, but that was all lies. In the present, we still have those disparities and they're still due to deliberate policies that create this oppression, the food oppression that I talked about in the beginning. The 13th amendment should not allow that kind of food discrimination in the same way that it doesn't allow housing discrimination. Now, under the 14th amendment, all people should be treated equally by the government. But what we have is food policy that treats people differently based on their race. In the case of the Food Distribution Program on Indian Reservations (FDPIR), that's quite clear. In some other cases, like public school lunches, you have to kind of take a step back to understand how there are racially disparate effects. But the same commodities that the USDA is responsible for getting rid of, that they do through the Indian reservation program are being sent to schools. And these are public schools where in many districts, there are many more Black, Latina, indigenous students than white students. For example, where I am in LA, that's 94 percent of the public-school population. And the government is using that program to get rid of very unhealthy food that is making kids who go to public schools sick. And that is unequal treatment under the law. It should violate the 14th Amendment. You know, I'm not an expert on constitutional law, but this is the first time I've heard this argument made and it's really an interesting one. Do you think there would be a day when we would see legal action based on this theory? I think it's possible. I don't think that legal action would be successful in our present moment of jurisprudence. But I think that framing is really important for people to think about and to understand what is happening. And I think that sometimes thinking about things as unconstitutional can provoke social action. Social movement. It can allow people to think about injustice in a certain way that creates resistance. So, I think it's important, even if we can't bring a case today, on that basis. BIO Andrea Freeman is a law professor at Southwestern Law School in Los Angeles. She is a national and international expert on the intersections between critical race theory and food policy, health, and consumer credit. She is the author of Ruin Their Crops on the Ground: The Politics of Food in the United States, from the Trail of Tears to School Lunch (Metropolitan 2024) and Skimmed: Breastfeeding, Race, and Injustice (Stanford University Press 2019), in addition to book chapters, law review articles, and op-eds. Skimmed is currently in development for a documentary with Topic Pictures. Her work has been featured in publications including the Washington Post, New Yorker, Los Angeles Times, Salon, Huffington Post, USA Today, The Root, Yahoo! News, The Atlantic, NPR Shots Blog, Pacific Standard, The Conversation, Medium, Atlanta Journal-Constitution, and National Library of Medicine, and she has done interviews with news outlets and programs including CBS News, PBS News Hour, The Takeaway, Here & Now, Point of Origin, Newstalk Irish National Radio, Heritage Radio Network, The Electorette, Hawaii Public Radio. She studied food inequality in the UK as the 2020-21 Fulbright King's College London U.S. Scholar. 

Maggie Mertens www.MaggieMertens.com) is a writer, journalist, and editor located in Seattle. Her essays and reporting have appeared in The Atlantic, NPR, Sports Illustrated, ESPNw, Deadspin, VICE, The Cut, Glamour, Pacific Standard, Refinery29, and Creative Nonfiction, among others. Her work has also appeared in The Year's Best Sports Writing 2021 (Triumph Books), Women and Sports in the United States (The University of Chicago Press), and has been nominated for the 2021 Dan Jenkins Medal for Excellence in Sportswriting. She earned a B.A. in English Literature and Italian Studies from Smith College, and an M.F.A. in Creative-Nonfiction Writing from The New School. Today we discuss her new book Better, faster, Farther: How Running Changed Everything we Know About Women. Maggie is a greta story teller and her book/interview discuss the earliest stages of women's running, from the 1896 Olympic marathon, the myth of women collapsing on the track in the 1928 Olympics that set women's sport back decades, to Paula Radcliff, Caitlin Clark and modern day women in sport. Connect with Maggie at www.MaggieMertens.com.  NEW WOC MASTERMIND AND CERTIFICATION PROGRAM As you may have heard, we decided to cancel our 2024 Way of Champions Conference, which opens up the opportunity for us to begin a year long mastermind and coach certification program in the Way of Champions and CTGP materials. If you want to simply take a deeper dive then ever offered before into your coaching and personal development, or work within your school or club improving coaching or transforming the culture, or you want to hit the road as a speaker and presenter working with teams and youth sports organizations, we will give you the tools and support to do so. We are collecting names who are interested at this moment in learning more, you can do so by clicking here and adding your name and email to the list. PUT IN YOUR BULK BOOK ORDERS FOR OUR BESTSELLING BOOKS! Programs such as UNC soccer and lacrosse, Syracuse lacrosse, Stanford Lacrosse, Middlebury College, Colby College, Rutgers University, and many other champions are using THE CHAMPION TEAMMATE book with their athletes. Schools and clubs are using EVERY MOMENT MATTERS for staff development and book clubs. Are you?  We have been fulfilling numerous bulk orders for some of the top high school and collegiate sports programs in the country, will your team be next? Click here to visit John's author page on Amazon Click here to visit Jerry's author page on Amazon Please email John@ChangingTheGameProject.com if you want discounted pricing on 10 or more books on any of our books. Thanks everyone. This week's podcast is brought to you by our friends at Sprocket Sports.  Sprocket Sports is a new software platform for youth sports clubs.  There are a lot of these systems out there, but Sprocket provides the full enchilada. They give you all the cool front-end stuff to make your club look good– like websites and marketing tools – AND all the back-end transactions and services to run your business better so you can focus on what really matters – your players and your teams. Sprocket is built for those clubs looking to thrive, not just survive, in the competitive world of youth sports clubs.  So if you've been looking for a true business partner – not just another app – check them out today at https://sprocketsports.me/CTG. Become a Podcast Champion! This weeks podcast is also sponsored by our Patreon Podcast Champions. Help Support the Podcast and get FREE access to our most popular online courses, a $300 value. If you love the podcast, we would love for you to become a Podcast Champion, (https://www.patreon.com/wayofchampions) for as little as a cup of coffee per month (OK, its a Venti Mocha), to help us up the ante and provide even better interviews, better sound, and an overall enhanced experience. Plus, as a $10 per month Podcast Super-Champion, you will have access to never before released and bonus material, including: Downloadable transcripts of our best podcasts, so you don't have to crash your car trying to take notes! A code to get free access to our online course called “Coaching Mastery,” usually a $97 course, plus four other courses worth over $100, all yours for free for becoming a patron. Other special bonus opportunities that come up time to time Access to an online community of coaches like you who are dedicated listeners of the podcast, and will be able to answer your questions and share their coaching experiences

We just went through the hottest stretch of Portland weather since 2021, and there's still months of summer to go. So today on City Cast Portland we're bringing back an interview with Eden Dawn, author of “The Portland Book of Dates” and co-host of the “We Can't Print This” podcast. She's going to share some creative ways to escape the summer heat. This episode first aired on August 2, 2023 Picks from today's episode: Get comfy at Cinemark Century Eastport Plaza 16. Order a shaken dirty martini at Pacific Standard. Wave to cuties at the Lloyd Center. Spend the day at Keeler Estate Vineyard. Play Fascination at the Funland Arcade in Seaside. Get tropical at Island Cafe. Take a cold plunge at The Society Hotel in Bingen, Wash. Travel the Hood River Fruit Loop. Become a member of City Cast Portland today! Get all the details and sign up here.  Who would you like to hear on City Cast Portland? Shoot us an email at portland@citycast.fm, or leave us a voicemail at 503-208-5448. Want more Portland news? Then make sure to sign up for our morning newsletter, Hey Portland, and be sure to follow us on Instagram.  Looking to advertise on City Cast Portland? Check out our options for podcast and newsletter ads at citycast.fm/advertise. Learn more about the sponsor of this July 15th episode: City of Portland Senior Care Authority Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's flashback, an outtake from Episode 774, my conversation with Kathryn Miles. It first aired on May 25, 2022. Miles is an award-winning journalist and science writer. She received a Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy from Saint Louis University and took both her Master of Arts and Doctorate in English from the University of Delaware. The long-time editor of Hawk & Handsaw, Miles served as professor of environmental studies and writing at Unity College from 2001-2015 and has since taught in several graduate schools and low residency-MFA programs. Miles is the author of five books: Adventures with Ari, All Standing, Superstorm, Quakeland, and Trailed: One Woman's Quest to Solve the Shenandoah Murders. Her essays and articles have appeared in publications including Audubon, Best American Essays, The Boston Globe, Down East, Ecotone, History, National Geographic, The New York Times, Outside, Pacific Standard, Politico, Popular Mechanics, and Time. She currently serves as a scholar-in-residence for the Maine Humanities Council, a visiting professor at Colby College, and a member of the Eastern Oregon University MFA faculty. She is also a private consultant available for emerging and established writers. Kathryn lives in Portland, Maine. *** Otherppl with Brad Listi is a weekly literary podcast featuring in-depth interviews with today's leading writers. Available where podcasts are available: Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, etc. Subscribe to Brad Listi's email newsletter. Support the show on Patreon Merch @otherppl Instagram  TikTok Email the show: letters [at] otherppl [dot] com The podcast is a proud affiliate partner of Bookshop, working to support local, independent bookstores. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1. What connections can be made between Robert Anton Wilson's study of quantum physics and the ways in which we find fault within our partners? 2. Is your perception of your partner tainted by a neurotic yearning to uncover undesirable qualities that exist within you? How does this relate to “get back” and maintaining control in a relationship dynamic? 3. Are there any upsides to being petty in a relationship? 4. In what ways can couples reach a sense of homeostasis after experiencing a period of adversarial conflict resulting from a lack of communication and petty behaviors? 5. Does pettiness ensure eventual stagnation within a relationship? Are you choosing to create a relationship stalemate in order to avoid relinquishing a certain level of perceived power? 6. How does Dr. David R Hawkins's concept of “letting go” relate to the idea of releasing the need for fault finding and control within a relationship? 7. Can pettiness be a defense mechanism rooted in insecurities and fear of vulnerability? How can one overcome this barrier to intimacy and connection? 8. Is there a correlation between childhood experiences of criticism and fault finding and the propensity to engage in petty behaviors in adult relationships? 9. How does societal conditioning and gender roles play a role in the manifestation of pettiness within relationships? 10. Can practicing gratitude and mindfulness help combat the impulse to engage in fault finding and control tactics within a relationship? 11. What role does ego play in the need to constantly seek out faults in our partners? How can one transcend the ego to foster healthier relationship dynamics? 12. How can the concept of “slight collecting” as discussed by Dr. David R Hawkins impact the level of pettiness within a relationship? 13. Is there a difference between constructive criticism and petty fault finding? How can one discern between the two in order to promote growth and understanding within a relationship? 14. How does the fear of losing control manifest in the form of pettiness within a relationship? What steps can be taken to relinquish this fear and embrace vulnerability? 15. Can pettiness be a symptom of deeper emotional wounds that have not been addressed or healed? How can one work towards healing these wounds to foster healthier relationships? 16. Is there a cultural component to the prevalence of pettiness within relationships? How can cultural awareness and sensitivity help mitigate the impact of pettiness on relationship dynamics? 17. Can therapy and counseling be effective tools in addressing and overcoming patterns of pettiness within relationships? How can professionals help individuals navigate this issue? 18. How do power dynamics within a relationship contribute to the manifestation of pettiness? Is there a way to establish a more equitable balance of power to reduce the need for fault finding and control? 19. Is there a connection between the need for perfectionism and the tendency towards pettiness within a relationship? How can one embrace imperfection and vulnerability to foster deeper connection? 20. How does the concept of forgiveness play a role in overcoming pettiness within a relationship? Can forgiveness lead to a shift in perspective and a more harmonious partnership? Zo's Talking Points: Pettiness Mechanics: A Deeper Look at Fault Finding as a Means for Control In the intricate dance of human relationships, the dynamics of fault finding can often serve as a mechanism for control, a subconscious tool wielded to maintain a semblance of power and dominance. This behavior, rooted in deep-seated insecurities and fears, can manifest in subtle ways that may go unnoticed by the untrained eye. By delving into the realm of metaphysics, theoretical physics, and psychology, we can unravel the complexities of pettiness within relationships and explore its implications on our emotional well-being and connection with others. Robert Anton Wilson, a pioneer in the study of quantum physics, presents us with a unique perspective on reality and perception. In his exploration of multiple realities and the fluid nature of existence, we can draw parallels to the ways in which we perceive our partners. Our perception of others is often colored by our own inner turmoil and insecurities, leading us to project our fears and shortcomings onto them. This distorted lens through which we view our partners can fuel a neurotic yearning to uncover their faults, a subconscious attempt to deflect attention away from our own perceived flaws. This phenomenon, known as "get back," serves as a defense mechanism to shield ourselves from vulnerability and maintain a facade of control in the relationship dynamic. However, what are the upsides of indulging in pettiness within a relationship? Is there a hidden benefit to nitpicking and fault finding? Some may argue that it serves as a form of self-preservation, a way to protect oneself from emotional harm and disappointment. By meticulously dissecting our partner's actions and words, we create a sense of security and validation, albeit a fragile one built on the shaky foundation of control. This illusion of power can provide a false sense of superiority and righteousness, momentarily masking our own insecurities and fears. Yet, the aftermath of a period of adversarial conflict resulting from petty behaviors can leave a relationship in disarray. The lack of communication and understanding breeds resentment and animosity, pushing the couple further apart. How then can couples reach a sense of homeostasis after such turmoil? Dr. David R. Hawkins, in his seminal work "Letting Go," introduces the concept of "slight collecting" as a means to release the grip of pettiness and control. By acknowledging our tendency to hold onto minor grievances and resentments, we can begin the process of letting go and fostering a more harmonious relationship dynamic. Pettiness, if left unchecked, can lead to stagnation within a relationship. The constant need to find fault and exert control creates a toxic environment where growth and intimacy are stifled. Are we, in our pursuit of power and dominance, inadvertently sabotaging the very connection we seek to maintain? By perpetuating a cycle of blame and resentment, we create a relationship stalemate, a deadlock where neither party is willing to relinquish their perceived power for the sake of harmony. In conclusion, the exploration of pettiness mechanics within relationships unveils a complex interplay of insecurities, control, and vulnerability. Through a multidisciplinary lens encompassing metaphysics, theoretical physics, and psychology, we can begin to unravel the intricate tapestry of human behavior and emotion. By embracing the teachings of Dr. David R. Hawkins and his insights on letting go, we can transcend the grip of pettiness and cultivate a deeper, more authentic connection with ourselves and our partners. It is only through self-awareness and introspection that we can break free from the chains of fault finding and control, paving the way for a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship dynamic. Pettiness Mechanics: Unveiling the Layers of Fault Finding in Relationship Dynamics In the intricate tapestry of human relationships, the concept of pettiness often emerges as a nuanced and multifaceted mechanism for control. Rooted in insecurities, fear of vulnerability, and societal conditioning, pettiness manifests in subtle ways that can erode the foundation of intimacy and connection. By delving into the realms of psychology, spirituality, and relationship dynamics, we embark on a journey to unravel the layers of pettiness and explore its impact on our emotional well-being and interpersonal dynamics. At its core, pettiness can be seen as a defense mechanism, a shield erected to guard against the perceived threats of rejection and inadequacy. Driven by deep-seated insecurities and a fear of vulnerability, individuals may resort to fault finding as a means of exerting control and protecting themselves from emotional harm. However, this defensive posture ultimately hinders genuine intimacy and stifles authentic connection. Overcoming the barrier of pettiness requires a willingness to confront and heal the underlying wounds that fuel this behavior, fostering a space for vulnerability and emotional authenticity to flourish. Childhood experiences of criticism and fault finding can leave lasting imprints on our psyche, shaping our relational patterns in adulthood. The propensity to engage in petty behaviors within relationships may stem from internalized criticism and a subconscious need to replicate familiar dynamics. By recognizing the impact of past experiences on our present behavior, we can begin to untangle the threads of pettiness and cultivate healthier relational habits. Societal conditioning and gender roles also play a significant role in the manifestation of pettiness within relationships. Cultural norms and expectations often dictate how individuals express and interpret emotions, influencing the dynamics of fault finding and control. By fostering cultural awareness and sensitivity, we can mitigate the impact of societal conditioning on relationship dynamics, creating space for authentic communication and understanding to thrive. Practicing gratitude and mindfulness can serve as powerful antidotes to the impulse to engage in fault finding and control tactics within relationships. By cultivating a mindset of appreciation and present-moment awareness, individuals can shift their focus from criticism to compassion, fostering a more harmonious and empathetic connection with their partners. The role of ego in perpetuating pettiness cannot be overlooked. The constant need to seek out faults in our partners often stems from a place of insecurity and a desire to assert dominance. Transcending the ego requires a willingness to relinquish the need for control and embrace vulnerability, laying the groundwork for healthier and more authentic relationship dynamics. Dr. David R. Hawkins's concept of "slight collecting" offers valuable insights into the nature of pettiness within relationships. By acknowledging and releasing minor grievances and resentments, individuals can dismantle the barriers to intimacy and connection, fostering a deeper sense of understanding and compassion within their relationships. Is there a distinction between constructive criticism and petty fault finding? Indeed, the former aims to promote growth and understanding, while the latter serves as a tool for control and manipulation. Learning to discern between the two is essential for fostering healthy communication and relational dynamics. The fear of losing control often underpins the manifestation of pettiness within relationships. This fear, rooted in a reluctance to embrace vulnerability, can lead to a cycle of blame and resentment that undermines the foundation of trust and intimacy. By taking steps to relinquish this fear and cultivate a sense of openness and vulnerability, individuals can pave the way for deeper connection and emotional authenticity. Pettiness can also be a symptom of deeper emotional wounds that have not been addressed or healed. By embarking on a journey of self-discovery and healing, individuals can work towards resolving these underlying traumas and fostering healthier relationships based on mutual respect and understanding. Cultural components can significantly influence the prevalence of pettiness within relationships. Cultural norms and expectations around power dynamics and communication styles can shape the ways in which individuals navigate conflict and express their emotions. By cultivating cultural awareness and sensitivity, individuals can bridge cultural divides and foster more empathetic and inclusive relationship dynamics. Therapy and counseling can serve as effective tools in addressing and overcoming patterns of pettiness within relationships. Skilled professionals can provide individuals with the support and guidance needed to navigate the complexities of relational dynamics, fostering a deeper understanding of self and others. Power dynamics within a relationship can contribute to the manifestation of pettiness, creating imbalances that fuel control and fault finding. Establishing a more equitable balance of power requires open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to collaborate rather than compete. By dismantling hierarchical structures and fostering a sense of partnership and equality, individuals can reduce the need for fault finding and control, creating space for genuine connection and intimacy to thrive. The connection between perfectionism and pettiness within relationships is a poignant one. The relentless pursuit of perfection often fuels a tendency towards fault finding and criticism, creating an environment where vulnerability and imperfection are viewed as weaknesses. Embracing imperfection and vulnerability is essential for fostering deeper connection and intimacy, as it allows individuals to show up authentically and be met with compassion and understanding. Forgiveness plays a pivotal role in overcoming pettiness within relationships. By letting go of past grievances and resentments, individuals can shift their perspective and cultivate a sense of empathy and compassion towards their partners. Forgiveness paves the way for healing and growth, fostering a more harmonious and resilient partnership built on mutual respect and understanding. In conclusion, the exploration of pettiness mechanics within relationships uncovers a labyrinth of complexities and nuances that shape our relational dynamics. By delving into the realms of metaphysics, theoretical physics, cosmology, shamanism, spirituality, and psychology, we gain a deeper understanding of the underlying mechanisms that drive fault finding and control. Through introspection, cultural awareness, and a commitment to vulnerability and authenticity, individuals can transcend the grip of pettiness and cultivate relationships grounded in trust, compassion, and mutual respect. It is through this journey of self-discovery and healing that we pave the way for deeper connection and emotional intimacy in our relationships.

Questions: Is there a connection between trauma bonding and victim blaming dynamics? Is there a cultural component to victim blaming? How does societal power dynamics play a role in victim blaming? Is victim blaming a form of psychological self-protection for the offender? Can victim blaming perpetuate cycles of abuse? How does the media contribute to victim blaming? Is there a connection between victim blaming and victim shaming? Can victims internalize victim blaming and shame themselves? What role does empathy play in understanding victimhood and accountability? Is there a correlation between victim blaming and lack of education or awareness? How does intersectionality play a role in victim blaming? Can therapy help victims navigate feelings of guilt and shame associated with victim blaming? Is there a way to hold both the victim and offender accountable simultaneously? How do societal norms and expectations contribute to victim blaming? Is there a way to shift the narrative from victim blaming to offender accountability in relationships? Can forgiveness play a role in addressing victim blaming? How does trauma impact one's ability to hold themselves accountable as a victim? Is there a difference in accountability depending on the type of offense or harm caused? How can restorative justice practices be used to address victim blaming? Can victim blaming be a form of gaslighting? How do power dynamics in relationships impact accountability for both the victim and the offender? Is there a connection between victim blaming and victimization mentality? Can self-love and self-compassion help victims navigate feelings of shame and blame? What role does societal stigma play in victim blaming? Is there a way to prevent victim blaming from occurring in the first place? How can education and awareness help combat victim blaming? Is there a cultural shift needed to address victim blaming on a larger scale? Can spiritual practices help victims heal from the effects of victim blaming? How do beliefs about personal responsibility influence victim blaming attitudes? Is there a connection between trauma bonding and victim blaming? How does the criminal justice system contribute to victim blaming? Can language and communication styles influence victim blaming tendencies? What role does power and control play in victim blaming dynamics? Is there a way to address victim blaming without perpetuating shame? ***How can victims set boundaries to protect themselves from further victim blaming? Is there a way to shift the focus from the victim to the offender in conversations about accountability? How do gender roles and expectations impact victim blaming attitudes? Can victim blaming be a form of denial of personal responsibility? What role does societal privilege play in victim blaming attitudes? Is there a connection between victim blaming and mental health stigma? How can victims advocate for themselves in the face of victim blaming attitudes? Are there systemic changes needed to address victim blaming in society? What's the difference between always playing the victim, and actually being one? Why do many people seem to blame the victims? What are some examples of victim blaming? Can you be a victim and simultaneously be accountable? What is the psychology of victim blaming? Does the phrase “it's not your fault” or the acknowledgment of a seemly “greater” offense cancel out accountability? What are the negative effects of victim blaming? What are good questions to ask a victim? Can definitions regarding what accountability truly looks like, vary? Is accountability an internal process of the offender, an external “act” that brings balance to the dynamic, both or neither? How do you reconcile being an “imperfect” victim with trauma? Zo's Talking Points: Victim blaming is a pervasive issue in society, particularly in cases of relationship conflict where individuals are quick to point fingers at the victim rather than holding the offender accountable. Sandy Hein's book, “Why Aren't We Shaming Offenders Instead of Blaming Victims?” delves into the complex dynamics of victim blaming and raises important questions about the accountability of victims in relationship conflicts. In exploring this topic, it is essential to understand the nuances of victimhood, accountability, and the psychology behind victim blaming. One crucial distinction to make is the difference between always playing the victim and actually being one. Playing the victim often involves a pattern of seeking sympathy or avoiding responsibility by portraying oneself as a perpetual victim in various situations. On the other hand, genuine victimhood stems from experiencing harm or injustice at the hands of others, leading to feelings of powerlessness and trauma. It is essential to recognize this distinction to avoid invalidating the experiences of true victims. So, why do many people resort to blaming the victims instead of holding offenders accountable? This phenomenon can be attributed to various factors, including societal norms, cognitive biases, and the need to maintain a sense of control and security. Victim blaming may serve as a defense mechanism for individuals who struggle to confront uncomfortable truths or acknowledge their role in perpetuating harm. Examples of victim blaming are prevalent in various contexts, from victim blaming in cases of sexual assault, where survivors are scrutinized for their clothing choices or behavior, to blaming victims of domestic violence for not leaving their abusers sooner. These examples highlight the harmful consequences of shifting blame onto the victims rather than addressing the root causes of the offenses. One thought-provoking question that arises is whether a victim can be simultaneously accountable for their experiences. While victims may bear some responsibility for their actions or decisions, it is crucial to differentiate between accountability and culpability. Victims should not be held responsible for the harm inflicted upon them, but they can play a role in their healing and recovery process by taking agency over their well-being. The psychology of victim blaming is complex and multifaceted, involving cognitive distortions, moral judgments, and social influences. Individuals may engage in victim blaming to distance themselves from feelings of vulnerability or guilt, perpetuating harmful narratives that undermine the experiences of victims. Understanding the psychological mechanisms behind victim blaming is essential in challenging and dismantling these harmful attitudes. One common misconception is that acknowledging a greater offense or expressing sympathy with the phrase “it's not your fault” absolves victims of any accountability. While it is crucial to validate victims' experiences and hold offenders accountable, acknowledging the complexities of victimhood does not negate the importance of promoting accountability and healing for all parties involved. The negative effects of victim blaming are far-reaching, leading to feelings of shame, self-blame, and isolation among victims. When individuals are met with judgment and scrutiny instead of support and understanding, the trauma of their experiences is compounded, hindering their ability to heal and move forward. It is essential to recognize the harmful impact of victim blaming on individuals' mental health and well-being. In navigating conversations with victims, asking good questions can pave the way for healing and empowerment. Instead of interrogating victims or doubting their experiences, it is essential to approach them with empathy, compassion, and a willingness to listen. By creating a safe and supportive space for victims to share their stories, we can foster healing and understanding in the aftermath of trauma. The concept of accountability in relationship conflicts is multifaceted and can vary depending on the circumstances and dynamics at play. While offenders bear primary responsibility for their harmful actions, victims may also have a role in setting boundaries, seeking support, and advocating for their needs. Accountability can be both an internal process of reflection and growth for offenders and an external act that promotes healing and justice in the relationship dynamic. In reconciling being an “imperfect” victim with trauma, it is essential to embrace self-compassion, acceptance, and resilience. Trauma can leave lasting scars and vulnerabilities, but it does not define victims' worth or agency. By acknowledging their experiences, seeking support, and engaging in healing practices, victims can navigate the complexities of trauma and reclaim their power and autonomy. In conclusion, the issue of victim blaming in relationship conflicts raises critical questions about accountability, empathy, and healing. By challenging harmful attitudes, promoting understanding, and fostering a culture of support and empowerment, we can work towards creating a more just and compassionate society for all individuals impacted by trauma and injustice. It is time to shift the focus from blaming victims to shaming offenders and holding them accountable for their actions, thereby promoting healing, justice, and reconciliation in relationships and communities. Some common examples of victim blaming in society include: 1. Blaming sexual assault victims for their clothing choices or behavior. 2. Blaming domestic violence victims for not leaving their abusers sooner. 3. Blaming victims of racial discrimination for not working hard enough to overcome systemic barriers. 4. Blaming victims of cyberbullying for not protecting their online privacy. 5. Blaming victims of natural disasters for not being adequately prepared. 6. Blaming victims of robbery for not being more vigilant or cautious. 7. Blaming victims of medical malpractice for not researching their healthcare providers. 8. Blaming victims of bullying for not standing up for themselves. 9. Blaming victims of hate crimes for provoking their attackers. 10. Blaming victims of financial fraud for being too trusting. ****** In Sandy Hein's thought-provoking book, "Why Aren't We Shaming Offenders Instead of Blaming Victims?", the issue of victim blaming is brought to the forefront of our collective consciousness. The concept of victim blaming is a pervasive and insidious societal phenomenon that often goes unnoticed or unchallenged. It shifts the focus away from the actions of the offender and places the responsibility on the victim, ultimately perpetuating a cycle of harm and injustice. But what exactly is the victim accountable for in relationship conflict? Victims of any form of harm should not be held accountable for the actions of their offenders. It is crucial for victims to set boundaries to protect themselves from further victim blaming. By establishing clear boundaries and asserting their rights, victims can assert their autonomy and resist the harmful narratives that seek to diminish their agency. Setting boundaries is a form of self-care and self-preservation that empowers victims to reclaim their power and assert their worth. In conversations about accountability, there is a need to shift the focus from the victim to the offender. By centering the conversation on the actions and behaviors of the offender, we can challenge the narratives that seek to blame and shame victims. It is important to hold offenders accountable for their actions and to challenge the systems of power and privilege that enable and perpetuate harm. Gender roles and expectations play a significant role in victim blaming attitudes. Society often places unrealistic expectations on victims, particularly women, to be perfect and blameless. This can lead to victim blaming attitudes that seek to diminish the agency and autonomy of victims. By challenging gender norms and expectations, we can create a more inclusive and equitable society that values the experiences and perspectives of all individuals. Victim blaming can be a form of denial of personal responsibility. By shifting the blame onto the victim, offenders can avoid taking responsibility for their actions and behaviors. This can perpetuate a cycle of harm and injustice that further marginalizes and harms victims. It is important to challenge victim blaming attitudes and hold offenders accountable for their actions. Societal privilege also plays a significant role in victim blaming attitudes. Those who hold power and privilege in society are often able to avoid accountability for their actions and behaviors. This can perpetuate a cycle of harm and injustice that further marginalizes and harms victims. By challenging systems of power and privilege, we can create a more just and equitable society that values the experiences and perspectives of all individuals. In conclusion, victim blaming is a harmful and pervasive societal phenomenon that must be challenged and dismantled. By centering the conversation on the actions and behaviors of offenders, we can shift the focus away from the victim and hold perpetrators accountable for their actions. It is crucial for victims to set boundaries, advocate for themselves, and challenge victim blaming attitudes in order to reclaim their power and agency. Only by challenging systems of power and privilege, and creating a more just and equitable society, can we truly address and eradicate victim blaming in all its forms. ****** There are several practical ways victims can advocate for themselves in the face of victim blaming attitudes: 1. Seek support: It is important for victims to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can provide emotional support and validation. Having a support system can help victims feel empowered and less isolated in the face of victim blaming attitudes. 2. Educate themselves: Victims can educate themselves about the dynamics of victim blaming and the impact it can have on their mental health and well-being. By understanding the root causes of victim blaming attitudes, victims can better navigate and challenge harmful narratives. 3. Assert boundaries: Victims can assert their boundaries and communicate their needs and boundaries to others. By setting clear boundaries, victims can protect themselves from further victim blaming and assert their autonomy and agency. 4. Practice self-care: It is important for victims to prioritize self-care and prioritize their own well-being. Engaging in activities that promote self-care, such as exercise, meditation, or therapy, can help victims cope with the emotional toll of victim blaming attitudes. 5. Challenge victim blaming narratives: Victims can challenge victim blaming attitudes by speaking out against harmful narratives and stereotypes. By sharing their stories and advocating for themselves, victims can raise awareness about the impact of victim blaming and work towards dismantling harmful attitudes. 6. Seek professional help: Victims can seek support from mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors, who can provide guidance and support in navigating victim blaming attitudes. Therapy can help victims process their experiences, build resilience, and develop coping strategies for dealing with victim blaming attitudes. 7. Engage in activism: Victims can engage in activism and advocacy work to raise awareness about victim blaming attitudes and work towards systemic change. By joining advocacy groups or participating in awareness campaigns, victims can amplify their voices and advocate for justice and accountability. 8. Practice self-compassion: It is important for victims to practice self-compassion and treat themselves with kindness and understanding. By practicing self-compassion, victims can cultivate a sense of worthiness and self-acceptance that can help them navigate victim blaming attitudes with resilience and strength. By implementing these practical strategies, victims can advocate for themselves in the face of victim blaming attitudes and reclaim their power and agency. It is essential for victims to prioritize their well-being, seek support, and challenge harmful narratives in order to assert their autonomy and assert their worth.**** *** Victim blaming is a complex and pervasive issue that permeates many aspects of society, particularly in the realm of relationship conflicts. Sandy Hein's book, "Why Aren't We Shaming Offenders Instead of Blaming Victims?", challenges the prevailing narrative that places the burden of accountability on victims rather than offenders. In exploring the dynamics of victim blaming, it becomes essential to delve into the nuanced questions that surround the accountability of victims in relationship conflicts. One crucial aspect to consider is whether there is a difference in accountability depending on the type of offense or harm caused. It is important to recognize that the accountability of victims should not be contingent on the severity or nature of the offense. Victims should not be held responsible for the actions of their offenders, regardless of the circumstances. Restorative justice practices offer a promising approach to addressing victim blaming. By focusing on repairing the harm caused by offenses and promoting healing for both victims and offenders, restorative justice can shift the emphasis from blame to accountability. Through open dialogue, empathy, and reconciliation, restorative justice practices can help challenge victim blaming attitudes and foster a more compassionate and understanding approach to conflict resolution. Victim blaming can indeed be a form of gaslighting, a manipulative tactic used to undermine the victim's sense of reality and agency. By shifting blame onto the victim and invalidating their experiences, offenders perpetuate a cycle of harm and control that further diminishes the victim's autonomy and self-worth. Power dynamics in relationships play a significant role in shaping accountability for both victims and offenders. In relationships where power differentials exist, victims may feel constrained or pressured to take on undue responsibility for the actions of their offenders. It is essential to address and challenge power imbalances in relationships to promote accountability and equity. Victim blaming attitudes can be closely intertwined with a victimization mentality, where individuals internalize feelings of helplessness and self-blame. By promoting self-love and self-compassion, victims can navigate feelings of shame and blame with resilience and strength. Cultivating self-empowerment and self-care practices can help victims reclaim their agency and assert their worth. Societal stigma plays a significant role in perpetuating victim blaming attitudes. By challenging harmful stereotypes and narratives that blame victims for their own victimization, we can work towards creating a more inclusive and empathetic society that values the experiences and perspectives of all individuals. Education and awareness are powerful tools in combating victim blaming. By raising awareness about the impact of victim blaming attitudes and promoting empathy and understanding, we can challenge harmful beliefs and promote accountability and justice. A cultural shift is indeed needed to address victim blaming on a larger scale. By fostering a culture of accountability, empathy, and respect for all individuals, we can create a society that values justice and compassion over blame and shame. Spiritual practices can offer healing and solace to victims who have experienced the effects of victim blaming. By tapping into spiritual resources and practices, victims can find strength, resilience, and inner peace in the face of adversity. Beliefs about personal responsibility can influence victim blaming attitudes. By promoting a nuanced understanding of personal responsibility that acknowledges the complexities of interpersonal dynamics and power structures, we can challenge harmful narratives that place undue burden on victims. Trauma bonding, a phenomenon where victims form strong emotional attachments to their abusers, can contribute to victim blaming dynamics. By addressing the underlying trauma and promoting healing and support for victims, we can break the cycle of victimization and empower individuals to seek healthy and nurturing relationships. The criminal justice system often perpetuates victim blaming attitudes through its focus on punitive measures rather than restorative justice practices. By advocating for systemic reforms that prioritize healing and accountability, we can create a more just and compassionate approach to addressing harm and conflict. Language and communication styles can indeed influence victim blaming tendencies. By promoting empathetic and non-judgmental language, we can create a more supportive and understanding environment for victims to share their experiences and seek help. Power and control dynamics play a significant role in shaping victim blaming attitudes. By challenging power imbalances and promoting equity and respect in relationships, we can create a more inclusive and empowering environment for all individuals. Addressing victim blaming without perpetuating shame requires a delicate balance of promoting accountability and healing while also fostering empathy and understanding. By centering the needs and experiences of victims, we can create a more compassionate and just society that values the dignity and worth of all individuals. In conclusion, the accountability of victims in relationship conflicts is a complex and multifaceted issue that requires a nuanced and compassionate approach. By challenging victim blaming attitudes, promoting restorative justice practices, and fostering a culture of empathy and respect, we can work towards creating a society that values justice, healing, and accountability for all individuals involved. ******* There is indeed a connection between trauma bonding and victim blaming dynamics, as both phenomena can intertwine to create complex and harmful dynamics in relationships. Trauma bonding refers to a psychological phenomenon where victims of abuse develop strong emotional attachments to their abusers. This bond is often characterized by a cycle of abuse, followed by periods of kindness or affection from the abuser, which creates confusion and dependency in the victim. In the context of trauma bonding, victims may internalize feelings of guilt, shame, and self-blame, which can contribute to victim blaming dynamics. Victims may struggle to recognize the abusive nature of the relationship and may rationalize or justify the behavior of their abuser. This internalization of blame can perpetuate a cycle of self-blame and disempowerment, leading to a reluctance to seek help or hold the abuser accountable. Moreover, trauma bonding can create a sense of loyalty and attachment to the abuser, making it difficult for victims to break free from the cycle of abuse. This loyalty may be reinforced by feelings of fear, guilt, or a distorted sense of love and attachment to the abuser. As a result, victims may be more susceptible to internalizing blame and minimizing their own experiences of harm, which can further perpetuate victim blaming dynamics. In addition, trauma bonding can create barriers to seeking help or support from others, as victims may feel a deep sense of loyalty or attachment to their abuser. This can further isolate victims and prevent them from accessing the resources and support they need to break free from the cycle of abuse. It is important to recognize the complex interplay between trauma bonding and victim blaming dynamics and to approach these issues with empathy, understanding, and a trauma-informed perspective. By providing support and resources to victims of trauma bonding, we can help empower individuals to break free from abusive relationships, challenge victim blaming attitudes, and promote healing and recovery

Questions: how does PTSLAVEDISORDER AFFECT BLACK RELATIONSHIPS? Because African-Americans live in a hostile/ toxic environment, a.k.a. America, do we still use the slave tactic of “appropriate adaptation”through the denigration of each other? Has this hating on each other? 1. In what ways do our current relationship dynamics mirror the plantation hierarchy? 2. Has your partner become the overseer of your shadow work or vice versa? 3. How is your relationship “resale value” connected to the dissolution of your worthiness wounds? 4. What parallels can be drawn between our shared history as chattel slaves and the propensity to remain in spiritually, mentally and emotionally abusive patterns with ourselves? 5. How do we remedy the collective desire for validation that builds attraction to “Keeping up with the Joneses” ? Furthermore, is the desire for validation a byproduct of spiritual poverty and epigenetic trauma? 6. Can the concept of generational curses be seen as a form of collective trauma that manifests in our relationships? 7. How can we break free from the cycle of generational curses and create healthy, loving relationships? 8. Are we unconsciously repeating the patterns of our ancestors in our relationships, or are we actively choosing a different path? 9. How can we heal the wounds of our ancestors and break free from the chains of the past in order to create a more authentic and fulfilling relationship dynamic? 10. Is it possible to transcend the limitations of our past and create a relationship based on mutual respect, love, and equality, rather than power dynamics and control? 11. How can we integrate the teachings of shamanism and spirituality into our relationships in order to create a deeper sense of connection and understanding? 12. Are we allowing societal norms and expectations to dictate the nature of our relationships, or are we consciously choosing to create a relationship based on our own values and beliefs? 13. How can we navigate the complexities of power dynamics in relationships and ensure that both partners feel empowered and valued? 14. Is it possible to create a relationship that transcends the limitations of our physical bodies and connects us on a deeper spiritual level? 15. How can we honor the ancestors who have come before us and learn from their struggles in order to create a more conscious and loving relationship dynamic? 16. Are we truly capable of breaking free from the chains of the past and creating a relationship that is based on love, respect, and equality? 17. How can we use the principles of metaphysics and theoretical physics to understand the energetic dynamics of our relationships and create a more harmonious connection with our partners? 18. Are we allowing fear and insecurity to dictate the nature of our relationships, or are we actively choosing to cultivate trust, vulnerability, and authenticity in our connections with others? 19. How can we shift our perspective on relationships from a transactional mindset to one of mutual growth and evolution? 20. Is it possible to create a relationship that is free from the constraints of societal norms and expectations, and instead is based on the principles of love, respect, and spiritual connection? Zo's Talking Points: ### “Chattle Love”: Are Our Relationships Transactional Because We Were Once Someone's Property? The concept of "Chattle Love" interrogates the ways in which our historical experiences as chattel slaves continue to influence contemporary relationship dynamics. This essay explores whether the transactional nature of our relationships today is a direct legacy of a past where human beings were commodified and treated as property. Drawing on Dr. Mariel Bouquet's work on generational curses, we delve into the following provocative questions to understand the psychological and spiritual ramifications of our shared history. #### 1. In What Ways Do Our Current Relationship Dynamics Mirror the Plantation Hierarchy? The hierarchical structure of plantation society, with its clear delineation between masters, overseers, and slaves, established a precedent for relationships defined by power imbalances and control. Today, similar dynamics can be observed in relationships where one partner assumes a dominant role, exerting control over the other's autonomy and self-worth. The legacy of slavery has embedded a psychological script that normalizes dominance and submission, often manifesting in relationships where power is unequally distributed and control is subtly or overtly exercised. #### 2. Has Your Partner Become the Overseer of Your Shadow Work or Vice Versa? Shadow work involves the introspective process of uncovering and integrating suppressed parts of the psyche. In relationships, partners often unwittingly take on the role of overseer, scrutinizing and managing each other's psychological and emotional labor. This dynamic can replicate the overseer-slave relationship from the plantation era, where one partner supervises and critiques the other's efforts at self-improvement and healing. The question arises: does this dynamic foster genuine growth, or does it reinforce a cycle of control and subjugation? #### 3. How Is Your Relationship “Resale Value” Connected to the Dissolution of Your Worthiness Wounds? The concept of “resale value” in relationships refers to the perceived worth of a partner in the social marketplace. This notion is tied to deeply ingrained worthiness wounds stemming from historical dehumanization. On plantations, slaves were valued based on their physical attributes and labor potential, a commodification that persists in the way individuals assess their and their partner's value in relationships. Healing these worthiness wounds involves dismantling the internalized belief that one's value is contingent on external validation and instead fostering intrinsic self-worth. #### 4. What Parallels Can Be Drawn Between Our Shared History as Chattel Slaves and the Propensity to Remain in Spiritually, Mentally, and Emotionally Abusive Patterns with Ourselves? The trauma of slavery has left a psychological imprint that predisposes individuals to internalize abuse and self-neglect. Just as slaves were conditioned to accept abuse as a norm, many people today remain in destructive patterns due to a deep-seated belief that they do not deserve better. This self-perpetuating cycle of abuse can be seen as a generational curse, where the unprocessed trauma of ancestors continues to manifest in the form of self-sabotage and toxic relationship patterns. Breaking free from these patterns requires a conscious effort to heal and reclaim one's sense of self-worth and autonomy. #### 5. How Do We Remedy the Collective Desire for Validation That Builds Attraction to “Keeping up with the Joneses”? Furthermore, Is the Desire for Validation a Byproduct of Spiritual Poverty and Epigenetic Trauma? The collective desire for validation and social comparison, epitomized by the idiom “Keeping up with the Joneses,” can be traced back to a spiritual and emotional void inherited from our ancestors. This desire is often a manifestation of spiritual poverty, a lack of inner fulfillment, and a need for external affirmation. The epigenetic transmission of trauma means that the pain and suffering of previous generations can influence our behaviors and desires. To remedy this, it is crucial to cultivate a sense of inner peace and contentment that is independent of external validation. This involves spiritual practices, therapy, and community support aimed at healing generational wounds and fostering a sense of inherent worthiness. ### Conclusion Exploring the concept of "Chattle Love" through the lens of generational curses reveals profound insights into the ways our history of slavery continues to shape contemporary relationship dynamics. By understanding and addressing these deeply rooted patterns, we can begin to heal the wounds of the past and create healthier, more equitable relationships. This journey requires a commitment to introspection, healing, and the reclamation of our intrinsic worth. Title: Unpacking the Legacy of Chattle Love: Healing Generational Curses in Relationship Dynamics In the complex tapestry of human relationships, there exists an intricate interplay of power dynamics, historical legacies, and individual traumas that shape the way we connect with others. Dr. Mariel Bouquet's work on generational curses provides a thought-provoking lens through which we can examine the roots of our relationship patterns and dynamics. One particular aspect that warrants exploration is the notion of "Chattle Love" - the idea that our relationships may be inherently transactional in nature due to our historical experiences of being considered property. The echoes of the plantation hierarchy can still be heard in the way we navigate relationships today. Just as slaves were once owned and controlled by their masters, are we unconsciously replicating power imbalances in our partnerships? Do we find ourselves either playing the role of overseer in our relationships, imposing our expectations and demands on our partners, or conversely, submitting to the authority of our significant others, allowing them to dictate our worth and value? The concept of "resale value" in relationships raises a poignant question about how our sense of self-worth is intertwined with the dynamics of our partnerships. Are we seeking validation and validation from external sources, measuring our value based on societal standards and expectations? Could this desire for validation stem from a deeper place of spiritual poverty and epigenetic trauma, echoing the wounds of our ancestors who were stripped of their humanity and dignity? In examining the parallels between our shared history as chattel slaves and our propensity to remain in spiritually, mentally, and emotionally abusive patterns with ourselves, we confront uncomfortable truths about the ways in which generational curses manifest in our relationships. Are we perpetuating cycles of trauma and abuse, unknowingly passing on the pain of our ancestors to future generations through our relational dynamics? Breaking free from the shackles of generational curses requires a conscious effort to heal the wounds of our past and forge a new path towards healthy, loving relationships. This journey towards liberation involves both individual and collective healing, as we confront the patterns of our ancestors and actively choose a different path for ourselves and future generations. Integrating the wisdom of shamanism and spirituality into our relationships can offer a transformative approach to deepening our connections with others. By cultivating a deeper sense of connection and understanding, we can transcend the limitations of our past and create relationships based on mutual respect, love, and equality. In navigating the complexities of power dynamics in relationships, it is essential to ensure that both partners feel empowered and valued. By honoring the struggles of our ancestors and learning from their experiences, we can create a more conscious and loving relationship dynamic that is rooted in authenticity and healing. By utilizing the principles of metaphysics and theoretical physics, we can gain a deeper understanding of the energetic dynamics at play in our relationships. By transcending the constraints of societal norms and expectations, we can create relationships that are grounded in love, respect, and equality, ultimately breaking free from the chains of the past and forging a new path towards healing and whole

Questions: Is there such a thing as cognitive or performative validation? Where does the desire to be validated by others come from? Is validation the new opioid intimate relationships? 1. What are some components needed for authentic reciprocity and validation within a relationship? 2. In the context of intimate relationships, what are some communication cues that indicate inauthentic validation versus reciprocal/authentic validation? 3. Can your wounds become a false validation echo chamber? Furthermore, how do your wounds enlist the help of enablers to keep you entrapped in connections based on inauthentic validation? 4. What parallels can be drawn between “get back” and validation entitlement? 5. How can “religious” mindsets and black & white thinking be an impediment to reciprocal validation? 1. How does the concept of reciprocity differ in various types of relationships, such as romantic, familial, and professional relationships? 2. What role does vulnerability play in the process of giving and receiving validation in relationships? 3. How can one differentiate between genuine appreciation and validation versus superficial gratitude and flattery? 4. In what ways can societal norms and cultural expectations influence the dynamics of reciprocal validation in relationships? 5. Is there a connection between one's self-worth and their ability to give and receive validation from others? 6. How do power dynamics within a relationship impact the exchange of validation between individuals? 7. Can validation be used as a tool for manipulation and control in relationships? 8. How does the concept of reciprocity in validation intersect with the principles of emotional intelligence and empathy? 9. What role does self-awareness and introspection play in fostering authentic validation in relationships? 10. How do past experiences of validation (or lack thereof) shape one's ability to engage in reciprocal validation in the present? 11. Is there a difference between seeking validation for validation's sake versus seeking validation as a means of building connection and understanding? 12. How do societal expectations of gender roles influence the way validation is expressed and received in relationships? 13. Can validation be given without the expectation of receiving validation in return? What are the implications of this asymmetry in validation dynamics? 14. How does the concept of validation intersect with the idea of boundaries and self-respect in relationships? 15. What role does emotional intimacy play in the exchange of validation between partners? 16. How do issues of trust and betrayal impact the ability to engage in reciprocal validation within a relationship? 17. Can validation be a form of emotional labor, and if so, how does this affect the power dynamics between individuals? 18. How does the digital age and social media influence the way validation is sought and received in modern relationships? 19. What are some strategies for cultivating a healthy balance between giving and receiving validation in relationships? 20. How does the concept of reciprocal validation align with the principles of mindfulness and present moment awareness? 21. Is there a correlation between one's attachment style and their approach to seeking validation in relationships? 22. How does the concept of validation relate to the idea of unconditional love and acceptance in relationships? 23. Can validation be a form of self-care, and if so, how does this practice contribute to overall well-being and mental health? 24. What are the ethical considerations involved in providing validation to others, especially in cases where honesty and authenticity are at odds with the desire to be supportive? 25. How does the concept of reciprocal validation intersect with the principles of social justice and equity in interpersonal relationships? 26. In what ways can past traumas impact one's ability to give and receive validation in healthy and constructive ways? 27. How does the concept of validation intersect with the idea of forgiveness and reconciliation in relationships that have experienced conflict and discord? 28. Can validation be a form of validation be a form of emotional validation, and if so, how does this practice contribute to overall well-being and mental health? 29. How do different cultural perspectives influence the way validation is understood and practiced in relationships? 30. What are some common misconceptions about validation, and how can these misconceptions hinder the development of healthy and fulfilling relationships? 31. Can validation be a form of validation be a form of emotional validation, and if so, how does this practice contribute to overall well-being and mental health? 32. How do different cultural perspectives influence the way validation is understood and practiced in relationships? 33. What are some common misconceptions about validation, and how can these misconceptions hinder the development of healthy and fulfilling relationships? 34. How can the concept of validation be integrated into therapeutic approaches aimed at improving communication and emotional intimacy in relationships? 35. Is there a relationship between the ability to give and receive validation and one's capacity for resilience and coping with life's challenges? 36. How does the concept of reciprocal validation intersect with the principles of authenticity and self-expression in relationships? 37. Can validation be a form of validation be a form of emotional validation, and if so, how does this practice contribute to overall well-being and mental health? 38. How do different cultural perspectives influence the way validation is understood and practiced in relationships? 39. What are some common misconceptions about validation, and how can these misconceptions hinder the development of healthy and fulfilling relationships? 40. How can the concept of validation be integrated into therapeutic approaches aimed at improving communication and emotional intimacy in relationships? 41. Is there a relationship between the ability to give and receive validation and one's capacity for resilience and coping with life's challenges? 42. How does the concept of reciprocal validation intersect with the principles of authenticity and self-expression in relationships? 43. Can validation be a form of validation be a form of emotional validation, and if so, how does this practice contribute to overall well-being and mental health? 44. How do different cultural perspectives influence the way validation is understood and practiced in relationships? 45. What are some common misconceptions about validation, and how can these misconceptions hinder the development of healthy and fulfilling relationships? 46. How can the concept of validation be integrated into therapeutic approaches aimed at improving communication and emotional intimacy in relationships? 47. Is there a relationship between the ability to give and receive validation and one's capacity for resilience and coping with life's challenges? Zo's talking points: Title: The Complex Dynamics of Reciprocal Validation in Relationships In a world where seeking validation from others has become almost second nature, the implications of this behavior on mental health cannot be overlooked. The desire for validation stems from a deep-seated need for acceptance, approval, and affirmation from external sources. Individuals often seek validation as a means of bolstering their self-esteem and reinforcing their sense of self-worth. However, this reliance on external validation can have detrimental effects, leading to feelings of insecurity, self-doubt, and dependency on others' opinions. This craving for validation can be likened to a powerful drug, akin to opioids, that provides a temporary sense of euphoria and relief but ultimately leaves individuals craving more. In intimate relationships, where the need for validation is often heightened, the dynamics of validation can become even more complex. Authentic reciprocity and validation within a relationship require a delicate balance of give and take, where both partners feel seen, heard, and understood. In the context of intimate relationships, distinguishing between authentic validation and inauthentic validation can be challenging. Communication cues play a crucial role in discerning between genuine appreciation and superficial flattery. Inauthentic validation often stems from a place of manipulation, where one partner may seek to control or influence the other through insincere praise or validation. This can create an unhealthy dynamic of power imbalance and emotional manipulation within the relationship. Moreover, past wounds and traumas can often serve as a breeding ground for false validation. Individuals may find themselves trapped in a cycle of seeking validation to fill a void left by past experiences of rejection or neglect. Enablers, knowingly or unknowingly, may perpetuate this cycle by reinforcing inauthentic validation, further entrenching individuals in connections based on false pretenses. The concept of reciprocity in validation extends beyond intimate relationships and encompasses various types of connections, including romantic, familial, and professional relationships. The dynamics of validation are influenced by societal norms, cultural expectations, and individual self-worth. The ability to give and receive validation is deeply intertwined with one's sense of self-esteem and emotional intelligence. In exploring the complexities of reciprocal validation, it is essential to consider the role of vulnerability, trust, and emotional intimacy in fostering authentic connections. Boundaries and self-respect play a crucial role in maintaining a healthy balance between giving and receiving validation. Mindfulness and self-awareness are key in navigating the intricate web of validation dynamics, allowing individuals to cultivate genuine connections based on mutual respect and understanding. As we delve deeper into the true meaning of reciprocal validation, it is evident that the quest for validation is both a universal longing and a deeply personal journey. By examining the nuances of validation entitlement, emotional labor, and power dynamics within relationships, we can begin to unravel the complexities of human connection and the enduring quest for authenticity and self-acceptance. Title: The Complex Dynamics of Reciprocal Validation in Interpersonal Relationships Validation, the act of recognizing and affirming another person's thoughts, feelings, or experiences, is a fundamental aspect of human interaction. However, the quest for validation can sometimes veer into treacherous territory, leading to a myriad of psychological and emotional challenges. Seeking validation from external sources can have detrimental effects on mental health, fostering low self-esteem, self-doubt, and a dangerous reliance on others' opinions. This vulnerability to external validation can also make individuals susceptible to manipulation, as they may compromise their values and beliefs in search of approval. In the digital age, where social media platforms reign supreme, the landscape of validation has undergone a significant transformation. The instantaneous nature of social media can amplify the desire for validation, as individuals seek likes, comments, and shares as markers of approval and acceptance. The virtual realm has blurred the lines between authentic validation and performance, leading to a culture of comparison and validation-seeking behavior. This shift in validation dynamics begs the question: how can individuals cultivate a healthy balance between giving and receiving validation in their relationships? Mindfulness and present-moment awareness offer a powerful framework for navigating the complexities of reciprocal validation. By cultivating a sense of self-awareness and attunement to one's inner experiences, individuals can develop a deeper understanding of their validation-seeking behaviors. Mindfulness practices can help individuals discern between genuine validation and superficial praise, fostering a more authentic and connected form of validation in their relationships. Attachment styles, rooted in early childhood experiences with caregivers, can also shape one's approach to seeking validation in relationships. Individuals with secure attachment styles may feel more comfortable giving and receiving validation, while those with anxious or avoidant attachment styles may struggle with validation-seeking behaviors. Understanding one's attachment style can provide valuable insights into how validation dynamics play out in interpersonal relationships. The concept of validation intersects with the principles of unconditional love and acceptance in relationships. Genuine validation involves affirming an individual's inherent worth and dignity, irrespective of their actions or behaviors. This form of validation fosters a sense of belonging and security, nurturing a deep bond of trust and mutual respect between individuals. Furthermore, validation can be a powerful form of self-care, contributing to overall well-being and mental health. By validating one's own thoughts, feelings, and experiences, individuals can cultivate a sense of self-compassion and self-acceptance. This practice of self-validation can serve as a protective shield against external validation-seeking behaviors, empowering individuals to navigate relationships from a place of inner strength and authenticity. Ethical considerations also come into play when providing validation to others, especially in cases where honesty and authenticity may conflict with the desire to be supportive. Balancing the need for validation with the principles of integrity and ethical conduct requires a nuanced approach, where individuals strive to offer genuine validation while also upholding their values and boundaries. In conclusion, the concept of reciprocal validation is a multifaceted and intricate phenomenon that shapes the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. By exploring the intersections of validation with mindfulness, attachment styles, self-care, and ethical considerations, individuals can cultivate a deeper understanding of the complexities of validation dynamics. Ultimately, fostering a culture of authentic and reciprocal validation can nurture healthy and fulfilling relationships, grounded in trust, empathy, and mutual respect. Title: The Transformative Power of Reciprocal Validation in Interpersonal Relationships In the intricate web of human connections, the exchange of validation plays a pivotal role in shaping the dynamics of relationships. The quest for validation from others, while a natural and universal longing, can sometimes lead individuals down a path fraught with psychological and emotional challenges. Seeking external validation can be a double-edged sword, with the potential to cultivate feelings of low self-esteem, self-doubt, and a dangerous dependency on others' opinions. This vulnerability to external validation can render individuals susceptible to manipulation, as they may compromise their values and authenticity in pursuit of approval. The ability to give and receive validation is intricately linked to one's capacity for resilience and coping with life's challenges. Reciprocal validation serves as a powerful tool for fostering emotional resilience and fortitude, providing individuals with a sense of validation and support in times of adversity. By cultivating a culture of mutual validation in relationships, individuals can bolster their emotional well-being and navigate life's obstacles with greater strength and resilience. The concept of reciprocal validation intersects with the principles of authenticity and self-expression in relationships. Authentic validation involves affirming and honoring an individual's genuine thoughts, feelings, and experiences, creating a space for open and honest communication. By embracing authenticity and self-expression in the validation process, individuals can cultivate deeper connections built on trust, vulnerability, and mutual understanding. Validation, when approached as a form of emotional validation, can have profound effects on overall well-being and mental health. By offering genuine validation, individuals can validate and acknowledge their emotions, experiences, and struggles, promoting a sense of self-compassion and self-acceptance. This practice of emotional validation can serve as a healing balm for the soul, fostering a greater sense of inner peace and well-being. Cultural perspectives play a significant role in shaping the way validation is understood and practiced in relationships. Different cultures may have varying norms and expectations regarding validation, influencing the ways in which individuals seek and receive validation from others. By exploring and honoring cultural differences in the validation process, individuals can foster deeper connections and mutual respect in their relationships. Common misconceptions about validation can hinder the development of healthy and fulfilling relationships. One prevalent misconception is the belief that validation equates to agreement or approval. In reality, validation involves acknowledging and affirming an individual's feelings and experiences, irrespective of agreement. By dispelling these misconceptions and embracing the true essence of validation, individuals can cultivate more authentic and meaningful connections with others. The integration of validation into therapeutic approaches can enhance communication and emotional intimacy in relationships. Therapists and mental health professionals can incorporate validation techniques into their practice to create a safe and validating space for clients to explore their emotions and experiences. By validating clients' feelings and perspectives, therapists can foster a sense of trust and empathy, facilitating deeper emotional connections and growth. In essence, the ability to give and receive validation is a cornerstone of healthy and fulfilling relationships. By embracing the transformative power of reciprocal validation, individuals can cultivate resilience, authenticity, and emotional well-being in their interactions with others. Through the practice of genuine validation, individuals can forge deeper connections, foster mutual understanding, and navigate life's challenges with grace and strength.

VOR Hot Topic: “Love Line Call In Show”: “Relationship Hot Seat with the Voice of Reason!” Questions: 1. How would you describe your most recent relationship? 2. What do you believe is your biggest issue in relationships? 3. Would you date you? Why or why not? 4. Are you a relationship pessimist, optimist or realist? 5. What is one trait that your current or former partner has that you feel enhances you?

Questions: How to fight healthy in a relationship? What are the signs of unhealthy fighting in a relationship? How often do healthy couples fight? How does one have a healthy argument with a dismissive avoidant significant other? How does one have a healthy argument/disagreement with an anxious, preoccupied significant other? How does one have a healthy argument/fight with a fearful, avoidant significant other? What is emotional neglect in a relationship? How do you break the cycle of fighting in a relationship? How to pick your battles in a relationship? What is gaslighting in a relationship? What does a healthy argument look like? What is stonewalling in relationships? How to argue with your covert narcissist significant other? Do you use non-verbal communication to convey disrespect that you're unwilling to speak out loud? What are some patterns couples engage in to curtail conflict? How can avoiding conflict to “keep the peace” contribute to relationship obsolescence and erode vulnerability within the relationship? What connections can be made between attachment styles, defense mechanisms and relational problem solving? Is being conflict averse correlated with a lack of inner peace and/or enlightenment? If so, how does this contribute to relationship dynamics and overall satisfaction within? Is “keeping the peace” an extension of the external control that you lack inwardly? How does the fear of confrontation impact the level of intimacy and authenticity within a relationship? Is conflict resolution a skill that can be learned and developed over time, or is it inherent in one's personality? Can healthy conflict actually deepen emotional intimacy and trust within a relationship? How does one navigate power dynamics in a healthy argument within a relationship? ***What role does empathy play in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it possible for conflict to be a form of emotional intimacy and vulnerability in a relationship? How do cultural and societal norms influence the way we perceive and engage in conflict within relationships? Can unresolved conflicts from past relationships impact the way we approach conflict in current relationships? Is it healthy to have differing communication styles when engaging in conflict within a relationship? How does the concept of forgiveness play a role in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Can conflict be a catalyst for personal growth and self-awareness within a relationship? How does the fear of abandonment or rejection impact the way we approach conflict within relationships? Is there a difference between healthy conflict and toxic conflict within a relationship? If so, how can one distinguish between the two? What role does self-esteem and self-worth play in the way we handle conflict within intimate relationships? Is it possible for conflict to be a means of reinforcing boundaries and asserting one's needs within a relationship? How can mindfulness and self-awareness aid in navigating conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it healthy to seek professional help or therapy to address recurring conflicts within a relationship? How can one cultivate a sense of emotional safety and security within a relationship to facilitate healthy conflict resolution? What impact does unresolved trauma have on the way we engage in conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it possible for conflict to be a form of emotional expression and release within a relationship? How does the concept of fairness and equality play a role in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Can conflict be a form of emotional bonding and intimacy within a relationship? What role does vulnerability and transparency play in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it possible to have a healthy relationship without engaging in any form of conflict or disagreement? How does the concept of mutual respect and understanding impact the way we approach conflict within relationships? ***Can unresolved conflicts lead to long-term resentment and dissatisfaction within a relationship? What role does active listening and validation play in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it possible for conflict to be a form of growth and evolution within a relationship? How does the concept of compromise and negotiation impact the way we approach conflict within relationships? Can unresolved conflicts be a source of unresolved trauma within a relationship? What role does emotional intelligence and communication skills play in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it possible for conflict to be a form of emotional release and catharsis within a relationship? How does the concept of emotional regulation and self-control impact the way we handle conflict within relationships? Can unresolved conflicts lead to a breakdown in trust and intimacy within a relationship? What role does transparency and honesty play in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it possible for conflict to be a form of building resilience and strength within a relationship? How does the concept of empathy and compassion impact the way we approach conflict within relationships? Can unresolved conflicts be a source of growth and transformation within a relationship? What role does self-reflection and introspection play in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships? Is it possible for conflict to be a form of deepening emotional connection and intimacy within a relationship? How does the concept of forgiveness and acceptance impact the way we handle conflict within relationships? True or false? Just because someone's tone is pleasant doesn't necessarily mean they are fighting Fairley? Zo's Talking Points: In the realm of intimate relationships, conflict is often seen as a sign of trouble, a red flag signaling potential discord and disharmony. However, what if we were to challenge this conventional wisdom and propose that healthy discord, disagreement, and conflict should have a useful and beneficial place in every healthy relationship? This essay delves into the complexities of conflict within intimate relationships, exploring the notion that engaging in healthy conflict can actually be a catalyst for growth, intimacy, and self-awareness. To fight healthy in a relationship is to navigate the tumultuous waters of disagreement with respect, empathy, and a willingness to listen and understand the other person's perspective. It involves setting boundaries, expressing emotions constructively, and seeking resolutions that are mutually beneficial. Healthy conflict is characterized by open communication, active listening, and a genuine desire to find common ground and reach a deeper understanding of each other. Recognizing the signs of unhealthy fighting in a relationship is crucial in order to address and rectify destructive patterns. These signs may include name-calling, belittling, invalidating the other person's feelings, and resorting to manipulation or emotional blackmail. Unhealthy fighting often escalates into a power struggle, where the goal is not resolution but rather domination or control. The frequency of conflict in healthy couples varies, but what distinguishes them is their ability to navigate these conflicts in a constructive and respectful manner. Healthy couples see conflict as an opportunity for growth and learning, rather than a threat to the relationship itself. They understand that differences are inevitable and that resolving conflicts can strengthen their bond. Navigating conflict with different attachment styles, such as dismissive avoidant, anxious preoccupied, or fearful avoidant, requires a nuanced approach. Understanding each other's attachment styles can provide insights into how to communicate effectively and address underlying insecurities or fears that may be fueling the conflict. Emotional neglect in a relationship can manifest as a lack of emotional responsiveness, empathy, or support from one or both partners. Breaking the cycle of fighting in a relationship involves identifying the root causes of conflict, addressing unresolved issues, and developing healthy communication and conflict resolution skills. Picking your battles in a relationship is about discerning which issues are worth addressing and which ones are better left unspoken. It involves prioritizing the well-being of the relationship over the need to be right or to win an argument. Gaslighting, a form of manipulation where one person distorts reality to make the other doubt their own perceptions, can severely damage trust and intimacy in a relationship. Stonewalling, on the other hand, is a passive-aggressive behavior where one person shuts down or withdraws from the conflict, refusing to engage or communicate. Patterns that couples engage in to curtail conflict may include avoidance, defensiveness, or aggression, all of which can hinder the resolution of underlying issues. Avoiding conflict to "keep the peace" may seem like a noble endeavor, but it can actually contribute to relationship obsolescence and erode vulnerability within the relationship. By avoiding conflict, partners may suppress their true feelings and needs, leading to resentment, dissatisfaction, and a lack of emotional intimacy. Attachment styles, defense mechanisms, and relational problem solving are intricately intertwined, shaping the way individuals approach and engage in conflict within relationships. Being conflict-averse may indeed be correlated with a lack of inner peace and enlightenment, as conflict can be a mirror reflecting our deepest fears, insecurities, and unresolved traumas. "Keeping the peace" may be an extension of the external control that one lacks inwardly, a way to maintain a façade of harmony while ignoring the underlying tensions and dissonance within. True peace and enlightenment, however, may require a willingness to confront these conflicts, embrace vulnerability, and engage in healthy discord as a path to growth and self-discovery. In conclusion, healthy conflict within intimate relationships can be a transformative and enriching experience, fostering deeper connections, emotional intimacy, and personal growth. By embracing conflict as an opportunity for learning, understanding, and growth, couples can navigate the complexities of relationships with grace, empathy, and resilience. Conflict, when approached with mindfulness and compassion, can be a powerful tool for building stronger, more authentic, and more fulfilling relationships. In the intricate dance of intimate relationships, conflict often emerges as a formidable adversary, threatening the delicate balance and harmony that partners strive to maintain. However, what if we were to challenge the notion that conflict is inherently destructive and instead view it as a catalyst for growth, evolution, and deeper connection within a relationship? This essay embarks on a thought-provoking exploration of the benefits of healthy conflict within intimate relationships, shedding light on the transformative power of discord and disagreement when approached with mindfulness, empathy, and a commitment to growth. Unresolved conflicts, left festering beneath the surface, have the insidious power to breed long-term resentment and dissatisfaction within a relationship. When grievances go unaddressed, they can create a rift between partners, eroding trust, intimacy, and emotional connection. It is through open communication, active listening, and a willingness to address underlying issues that partners can navigate conflicts and prevent them from becoming sources of lasting discontent. Active listening and validation are essential components in the resolution of conflicts within intimate relationships. By actively listening to each other's perspectives, acknowledging feelings, and validating emotions, partners can foster understanding, empathy, and mutual respect. This practice of validation creates a safe space for open dialogue and paves the way for productive conflict resolution. Conflict, when approached with intention and mindfulness, has the potential to be a powerful catalyst for growth and evolution within a relationship. By engaging in healthy conflict, partners have the opportunity to challenge assumptions, expand perspectives, and deepen their understanding of each other. Through conflict, individuals can confront their fears, insecurities, and vulnerabilities, leading to personal growth and relational transformation. The concept of compromise and negotiation plays a pivotal role in the way partners approach conflict within relationships. By seeking mutually beneficial solutions, compromising on differences, and engaging in open, honest negotiation, partners can navigate conflicts with grace and respect. Compromise fosters a spirit of collaboration and cooperation, strengthening the foundation of the relationship. Unresolved conflicts within a relationship can indeed become sources of unresolved trauma, triggering deep-seated emotional wounds and insecurities. It is through introspection, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence that partners can identify and address these unresolved traumas, paving the way for healing and growth. Communication skills, such as active listening, empathy, and assertiveness, are essential tools in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships. Conflict, when approached with emotional regulation and self-control, can be a form of emotional release and catharsis within a relationship. By expressing emotions authentically, setting boundaries, and managing conflicts constructively, partners can release pent-up emotions and foster emotional catharsis. Emotional regulation allows partners to navigate conflicts with composure and grace, fostering understanding and empathy. Unresolved conflicts have the potential to lead to a breakdown in trust and intimacy within a relationship, creating distance and barriers between partners. Transparency and honesty are critical in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships, as they build trust, foster connection, and deepen emotional intimacy. By embracing vulnerability, honesty, and transparency, partners can navigate conflicts with authenticity and integrity. Conflict, when approached with empathy and compassion, has the power to deepen emotional connection and intimacy within a relationship. By empathizing with each other's perspectives, showing compassion for feelings, and approaching conflict with a spirit of understanding, partners can forge deeper emotional bonds and strengthen their connection. Empathy and compassion create a foundation of emotional intimacy and trust, fostering a sense of security and closeness within the relationship. Self-reflection and introspection are essential components in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships. By reflecting on one's own emotions, triggers, and reactions, partners can gain insight into their own behaviors and patterns. Self-reflection allows partners to take responsibility for their actions, communicate effectively, and navigate conflicts with intention and mindfulness. Conflict, when approached with forgiveness and acceptance, can be a powerful tool for healing and growth within a relationship. By practicing forgiveness, letting go of grudges, and accepting each other's imperfections, partners can move past conflicts and embrace a spirit of reconciliation. Forgiveness and acceptance create a foundation of trust, empathy, and understanding, fostering a sense of unity and connection within the relationship. In conclusion, conflict within intimate relationships, when approached with mindfulness, empathy, and a commitment to growth, has the potential to be a transformative and enriching experience. By embracing conflict as an opportunity for learning, understanding, and connection, partners can navigate the complexities of relationships with grace, authenticity, and resilience. Conflict, when handled with empathy, compassion, and emotional intelligence, can be a powerful catalyst for personal and relational growth, leading to deeper emotional connections and a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. Regarding the question of whether someone's pleasant tone necessarily indicates fair fighting, it is essential to recognize that tone alone does not determine the fairness of conflict. Fair fighting encompasses a range of factors, including active listening, respect, empathy, and a commitment to resolution. A pleasant tone may mask underlying issues of manipulation, passive-aggression, or invalidation. True fair fighting requires a genuine effort to understand, validate, and respect each other's perspectives, regardless of tone or demeanor. Fair fighting is rooted in a spirit of collaboration, honesty, and integrity, fostering mutual growth, understanding, and connection within a relationship. In the realm of intimate relationships, conflict is often viewed as a negative force that should be avoided at all costs. However, what if we were to shift our perspective and consider the idea that healthy discord, disagreement, and conflict actually have a useful and beneficial place within every healthy relationship? This notion challenges the traditional belief that conflict is inherently harmful and instead suggests that it can be a means of fostering growth, self-awareness, and intimacy within a partnership. Empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of another, plays a crucial role in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships. By practicing empathy, partners can better understand each other's perspectives and emotions, leading to more effective communication and conflict resolution. Conflict can also serve as a form of emotional intimacy and vulnerability in a relationship, as it allows partners to express their true thoughts and feelings in a safe and open space. Cultural and societal norms heavily influence the way we perceive and engage in conflict within relationships. In some cultures, conflict may be seen as a sign of strength and assertiveness, while in others, it may be viewed as disruptive and damaging. These beliefs can shape our approach to conflict and impact the way we navigate disagreements with our partners. Unresolved conflicts from past relationships can also impact the way we approach conflict in current relationships. If we have experienced trauma or unresolved issues in the past, we may bring those negative patterns into our current relationships, causing conflict to escalate and become more difficult to resolve. Differing communication styles can also play a role in how conflict is handled within a relationship. It is healthy to acknowledge and respect these differences, as they can lead to a more productive and understanding resolution of conflicts. Forgiveness is another key aspect of resolving conflicts within intimate relationships. By practicing forgiveness, partners can let go of past grievances and move forward in a more positive and constructive way. Conflict can serve as a catalyst for personal growth and self-awareness within a relationship. By confronting and working through conflicts, partners can learn more about themselves and each other, leading to a deeper understanding and connection. Fear of abandonment or rejection can impact the way we approach conflict within relationships. By addressing these fears and insecurities, partners can create a more secure and trusting environment in which conflicts can be resolved more effectively. There is a clear distinction between healthy conflict and toxic conflict within a relationship. Healthy conflict involves open communication, mutual respect, and a focus on finding a resolution, while toxic conflict is characterized by manipulation, blame, and emotional abuse. It is important to recognize the difference and seek help if conflicts become toxic. Self-esteem and self-worth play a significant role in how we handle conflict within intimate relationships. By valuing and respecting ourselves, we are better able to assert our needs and boundaries in a healthy and productive way. Conflict can also be a means of reinforcing boundaries and asserting one's needs within a relationship. By addressing conflicts and setting boundaries, partners can create a more balanced and respectful dynamic. Mindfulness and self-awareness can aid in navigating conflicts within intimate relationships. By staying present and aware of our thoughts and emotions during conflicts, we can better understand ourselves and our partners, leading to more effective communication and resolution. Seeking professional help or therapy to address recurring conflicts within a relationship can be a beneficial step towards resolution. A therapist can provide valuable insight and guidance in navigating conflicts and fostering a healthier relationship dynamic. Cultivating emotional safety and security within a relationship is essential for facilitating healthy conflict resolution. By creating a safe space for open communication and vulnerability, partners can address conflicts in a more constructive and supportive manner. Unresolved trauma can have a significant impact on the way we engage in conflicts within intimate relationships. By addressing and healing from past trauma, partners can approach conflicts with a clearer mind and a more open heart. Conflict can also be a form of emotional expression and release within a relationship. By expressing our thoughts and feelings through conflict, partners can release pent-up emotions and find catharsis in the resolution process. Fairness and equality are important principles in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships. By approaching conflicts with a sense of fairness and equality, partners can ensure that both parties feel heard and respected in the resolution process. Conflict can serve as a form of emotional bonding and intimacy within a relationship. By working through conflicts together, partners can deepen their connection and strengthen their bond, leading to a more resilient and fulfilling partnership. Vulnerability and transparency are key components in resolving conflicts within intimate relationships. By being open and honest with our thoughts and feelings, partners can build trust and understanding, leading to more effective conflict resolution. While conflict is often seen as a negative aspect of relationships, it is possible to have a healthy relationship without engaging in any form of conflict or disagreement. By fostering open communication, mutual respect, and understanding, partners can navigate disagreements in a constructive and respectful manner. Mutual respect and understanding are essential in how we approach conflict within relationships. By valuing each other's perspectives and emotions, partners can create a more supportive and empathetic environment in which conflicts can be resolved with care and consideration. In conclusion, healthy discord, disagreement, and conflict can have a useful and beneficial place within every healthy relationship. By approaching conflicts with empathy, communication, and self-awareness, partners can foster growth, intimacy, and understanding in their partnership. Conflict may be challenging, but when navigated with care and respect, it can lead to a more resilient and fulfilling relationship dynamic. Let's embrace the idea of a "healthy fight" and see where it leads us on the path to deeper connection and personal growth within our intimate relationships.

Questions: 1. In what ways do worthiness wounds dictate devaluation from others, thereby prompting discard? Furthermore, how does the feeling and/or experience of being discarded lead to “get back” entitlement? 2. How can one differentiate between petty “get back” and valid justice/retribution? 3. Can consistent emotional neglect and worthiness wounds be the driving force behind pettiness and “get back”? What other factors need to be considered when addressing these issues? 4. Does making amends eliminate the need for “get back”? Is the continuation of seeking to be paid back, after amends have been made, an indicator of spiritual immaturity and/or poverty? 5. Would developing a more secure attachment style lessen the desire to be paid back? Is obsession with fairness an extension of having an insecure attachment style? 6. How does the concept of karma play a role in the desire for payback in relationships? Is the idea of “what goes around, comes around” a driving force behind seeking retribution? 7. Can the desire for payback be seen as a form of seeking validation and acknowledgment of one's pain and suffering? How does this tie into the need for external validation in relationships? 8. Is the need for payback rooted in a fear of being vulnerable and open to further hurt? How does this fear impact the ability to heal and move forward in relationships? 9. How does the concept of forgiveness play a role in the desire for payback? Can forgiveness coexist with the need for justice and retribution? 10. Is the desire for payback a reflection of unresolved trauma and past hurts? How can addressing these underlying issues help in overcoming the need for vengeance in relationships? 11. How does societal conditioning and cultural beliefs contribute to the desire for payback in relationships? Are we influenced by external factors in seeking retribution? 12. Can the concept of “an eye for an eye” be seen as a valid approach to dealing with hurt and betrayal in relationships? How does this mindset impact the cycle of pain and suffering? 13. How does the ego play a role in the desire for payback? Is the need for revenge a manifestation of the ego's need to protect itself from further harm? 14. Is there a difference between seeking payback as a form of closure and seeking payback as a form of retaliation? How can one differentiate between these motivations in relationships? 15. How does the concept of self-love and self-worth impact the desire for payback in relationships? Can a strong sense of self-worth lessen the need for retribution and vengeance? 6. Is the desire for payback rooted in a deep-seated need for validation and acknowledgment of pain, or is it simply a reaction to feeling slighted and wounded? 7. How does the cultural and societal context influence our perception of justice and the desire for payback in relationships? 8. Can forgiveness coexist with the desire for payback, or are they mutually exclusive concepts? 9. To what extent does the desire for payback stem from unresolved past traumas and emotional baggage brought into the relationship? 10. Is the urge for payback a form of emotional self-defense mechanism, aimed at restoring a sense of power and control in the aftermath of hurt? 11. How does the concept of karma intersect with the desire for payback in relationships? Is seeking payback a way of attempting to balance cosmic scales? 12. Can the desire for payback be transformed into a constructive force for personal growth and healing, rather than perpetuating a cycle of hurt and retaliation? 13. What role does empathy play in either fueling the desire for payback or facilitating forgiveness and understanding? 14. Is the impulse for payback inherently destructive, or are there instances where it can lead to positive outcomes or resolution in relationships? 15. How does the dynamic of power imbalance within a relationship influence the manifestation of the desire for payback? 16. Is there a correlation between the intensity of the perceived hurt and the intensity of the desire for payback? 17. Can the desire for payback ever be truly satisfied, or does it perpetuate a cycle of vengeance and retribution? 18. How do cultural narratives and media portrayals shape our understanding and response to the desire for payback in relationships? 19. Is the desire for payback a reflection of unresolved anger and resentment, or can it also stem from a genuine need for accountability and justice? 20. How does the language we use to describe our experiences of hurt and betrayal influence the way we navigate the desire for payback in relationships? 21. Is there a distinction between seeking payback as a form of self-protection and seeking it as a means of inflicting pain on the other person? 22. Can the desire for payback ever be truly rationalized, or is it inherently driven by emotions and impulses? 23. How do societal norms and expectations regarding forgiveness and retaliation shape our individual responses to the desire for payback? 24. Is there a point at which the desire for payback becomes pathological or harmful to one's own well-being? 25. How does the concept of trust factor into the desire for payback? Can betrayal amplify the intensity of the urge for retribution? 26. Is the desire for payback primarily an ego-driven response, or does it have deeper psychological and emotional roots? 27. Can the desire for payback be redirected towards self-healing and personal empowerment, rather than external retribution? 28. How do gender dynamics influence the expression and reception of the desire for payback in relationships? 29. Is there a difference between seeking payback for perceived injustices and seeking restitution for actual harm inflicted? 30. How does the perception of fairness and equity within a relationship impact the likelihood and intensity of the desire for payback? 31. Is there a moral imperative to forgive and move on, or is it acceptable to pursue payback as a form of justice and closure? 32. Can the desire for payback be transcended through spiritual practices and mindfulness, or is it an inherent aspect of human nature? 33. How do personality traits such as impulsivity, empathy, and vindictiveness influence the likelihood and expression of the desire for payback? 34. Is there a difference between seeking payback as a form of punishment and seeking it as a way of reclaiming one's sense of dignity and self-worth? 35. How does the experience of being gaslighted or manipulated impact the desire for payback in relationships? 36. Can the desire for payback ever lead to genuine reconciliation and healing, or does it always perpetuate conflict and animosity? 37. How does the cultural narrative of 'an eye for an eye' versus 'turning the other cheek' influence our approach to the desire for payback in relationships? 38. Is there a distinction between seeking payback for personal grievances and seeking it for the sake of upholding societal norms and values? 39. How does the presence of unresolved trauma from childhood affect the intensity and expression of the desire for payback in adult relationships? 40. Is there a correlation between the level of emotional intelligence and the propensity to seek payback in response to relationship conflicts? 41. Can the desire for payback serve as a catalyst for deeper introspection and personal growth, or does it perpetuate a cycle of victimhood and resentment? 42. How does the fear of being perceived as weak or passive influence one's willingness to pursue payback in relationships? 43. Is there a relationship between the desire for payback and the need for closure and resolution in relationships? 44. Can the desire for payback be a subconscious attempt to restore a sense of justice and equilibrium in the aftermath of betrayal and hurt? 45. How does the concept of 'an eye for an eye' intersect with the principles of forgiveness and compassion in the context of the desire for payback? 46. Is there a difference between seeking payback as a means of restoring personal dignity and seeking it as a form of revenge and retaliation? 47. Can the desire for payback ever be transcended, or is it an inherent aspect of human nature that must be acknowledged and navigated in relationships? Zo's Talking Points: The desire for payback after being hurt by a significant other is a complex and multifaceted phenomenon that delves into the depths of human emotions, relationships, and spirituality. It is a reflection of the intricate interplay between our inner wounds, external experiences, and the mirroring effect of relationships in our lives. The concept of "Until You Do Right By Me! - Uncovering the Desire to be Paid Back" encapsulates the deep-seated need for retribution and justice when one feels wronged or betrayed by a loved one. This desire for payback is often fueled by feelings of worthiness wounds, emotional neglect, and attachment styles that shape our interactions with others. Worthiness wounds, stemming from past traumas, rejections, or feelings of inadequacy, can dictate how we perceive ourselves and how we allow others to treat us. When these wounds are triggered in a relationship, they can lead to feelings of devaluation and discard, prompting a sense of entitlement to "get back" at the other person. The experience of being discarded or invalidated can stir up deep-seated emotions of anger, hurt, and betrayal, fueling the desire for payback as a means of reclaiming one's sense of worth and power in the relationship. It is crucial to differentiate between petty "get back" actions driven by ego and insecurity, and valid justice or retribution rooted in a genuine need for accountability and closure. While seeking payback may provide temporary relief or satisfaction, true healing and growth come from addressing the underlying issues that contribute to these desires. Consistent emotional neglect and worthiness wounds can indeed be driving forces behind pettiness and the need for payback, but it is essential to consider other factors such as communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in navigating these complex emotions. Making amends in a relationship can be a transformative step towards healing and reconciliation, but it may not always eliminate the need for payback. The continuation of seeking retribution after amends have been made may indicate unresolved emotional wounds, spiritual immaturity, or a sense of poverty in one's inner landscape. This ongoing desire for payback can become a barrier to true forgiveness, growth, and the ability to move forward in a relationship with grace and compassion. Developing a more secure attachment style, based on trust, communication, and emotional regulation, can lessen the desire for payback by fostering healthier relationships and a sense of inner security. The obsession with fairness and justice in relationships may indeed be an extension of having an insecure attachment style, where past experiences of abandonment or betrayal fuel a need for control and retribution. By cultivating self-love, self-awareness, and empathy towards oneself and others, we can transcend the cycle of hurt and payback, and embrace the transformative power of forgiveness and healing in our relationships. The desire for seeking payback after being hurt by a significant other is a deeply ingrained aspect of human nature that speaks to our innate need for justice, validation, and closure in relationships. The concept of "Until You Do Right By Me! - Uncovering the Desire to be Paid Back" delves into the intricate dynamics of hurt, betrayal, and the mirroring effect of relationships as a means of healing deep-seated wounds and slights. This desire for payback is often fueled by a complex interplay of emotions, personality traits, cultural narratives, and unresolved trauma that shape our responses to perceived injustices. The perception of fairness and equity within a relationship plays a pivotal role in determining the intensity and likelihood of the desire for payback. When one feels wronged or mistreated, the need for retribution stems from a sense of imbalance and injustice that disrupts the harmony and reciprocity of the relationship. The desire for payback can be seen as a natural response to restore equilibrium and reclaim one's sense of agency and self-worth in the face of perceived slights. There is a moral imperative to forgive and move on, but the acceptability of pursuing payback as a form of justice and closure is a nuanced and subjective matter. While forgiveness is often touted as a virtue that promotes healing and growth, the desire for payback can be a legitimate expression of one's need for accountability and resolution in relationships. It is essential to strike a balance between forgiveness and seeking justice, acknowledging that both paths can lead to personal transformation and reconciliation. Spiritual practices and mindfulness can indeed help transcend the desire for payback by fostering compassion, empathy, and inner peace. By cultivating a deeper awareness of our emotions, thoughts, and actions, we can navigate conflicts and hurts in relationships with grace and wisdom. However, the desire for payback is deeply rooted in human nature and may resurface in moments of vulnerability, insecurity, or perceived injustice. Personality traits such as impulsivity, empathy, and vindictiveness can significantly influence the likelihood and expression of the desire for payback. Individuals who lean towards impulsivity may act on their desire for revenge without considering the consequences, while those high in empathy may struggle with the conflicting emotions of forgiveness and retribution. Vindictiveness, stemming from past hurts and betrayals, can fuel a relentless pursuit of payback as a form of self-protection and validation. The experience of being gaslighted or manipulated in a relationship can intensify the desire for payback, as it undermines one's sense of reality, trust, and self-worth. Gaslighting, a form of psychological manipulation that distorts the truth and invalidates one's experiences, can evoke feelings of anger, betrayal, and the need for retribution. The desire for payback in such situations may serve as a means of reclaiming one's truth and asserting boundaries in the face of manipulation and deceit. The cultural narrative of 'an eye for an eye' versus 'turning the other cheek' shapes our approach to the desire for payback in relationships, reflecting societal values, norms, and beliefs about justice and retribution. While some cultures prioritize reciprocity and retaliation as a means of restoring balance and order, others emphasize forgiveness and compassion as pathways to healing and reconciliation. The tension between these contrasting narratives influences how individuals navigate conflicts, hurts, and the desire for payback in their relationships. Unresolved trauma from childhood can profoundly impact the intensity and expression of the desire for payback in adult relationships, as past wounds and betrayals resurface in moments of vulnerability and conflict. Childhood experiences of neglect, abuse, or abandonment can create deep-seated insecurities, fears, and attachment wounds that manifest in adult relationships as a need for validation, justice, and payback. It is crucial to address these underlying traumas with compassion, therapy, and self-reflection to break free from the cycle of hurt and retribution. Emotional intelligence, characterized by self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation, can mitigate the propensity to seek payback in response to relationship conflicts. Individuals with high emotional intelligence are better equipped to navigate conflicts, communicate effectively, and empathize with others' perspectives, reducing the need for retribution and vindictiveness. By cultivating emotional intelligence through self-reflection, therapy, and mindfulness practices, we can enhance our capacity for forgiveness, empathy, and conflict resolution in relationships. The desire for payback can serve as a catalyst for deeper introspection and personal growth, prompting individuals to confront their inner wounds, fears, and insecurities in relationships. While the pursuit of payback may temporarily alleviate feelings of hurt and betrayal, it can also perpetuate a cycle of victimhood, resentment, and conflict if left unchecked. By harnessing the transformative power of self-awareness, therapy, and spiritual practices, we can transcend the desire for payback and embrace forgiveness, compassion, and healing in our relationships. The fear of being perceived as weak or passive can influence one's willingness to pursue payback in relationships, as the need for validation and respect may overshadow the path of forgiveness and reconciliation. Society often glorifies strength, assertiveness, and retaliation as signs of power and agency, reinforcing the belief that seeking payback is a form of self-protection and empowerment. However, true strength lies in vulnerability, empathy, and the ability to forgive and let go of past hurts in relationships. Seeking payback for personal grievances versus upholding societal norms and values can be a complex moral dilemma, as individuals grapple with their personal sense of justice, fairness, and integrity in relationships. While seeking payback for personal grievances may stem from a need for validation and closure, seeking it for the sake of upholding societal norms and values can be a form of moral duty and accountability. It is essential to discern between personal vendettas and collective justice, balancing individual needs with societal expectations and values in navigating conflicts and hurts in relationships. The desire for payback can be a subconscious attempt to restore a sense of justice and equilibrium in the aftermath of betrayal and hurt, as individuals seek validation, closure, and resolution in relationships. When one feels wronged or mistreated, the need for payback arises from a deep-seated longing for accountability, validation, and reparation. By acknowledging and addressing these underlying emotions and wounds with compassion, empathy, and self-awareness, we can transcend the cycle of hurt and retribution and embrace forgiveness, healing, and growth in our relationships. The concept of 'an eye for an eye' intersects with the principles of forgiveness and compassion in the context of the desire for payback, highlighting the delicate balance between justice and mercy in relationships. While seeking payback may offer a sense of closure and vindication, forgiveness and compassion pave the way for healing, reconciliation, and transformation. By embodying the virtues of forgiveness, empathy, and understanding, we can break free from the cycle of hurt and retribution and cultivate deeper connections, trust, and love in our relationships. There is a difference between seeking payback as a means of restoring personal dignity and seeking it as a form of revenge and retaliation, as the former stems from a desire for justice and closure, while the latter arises from a place of anger, hurt, and vindictiveness. Seeking payback to reclaim one's sense of dignity and self-worth can be a legitimate response to perceived slights and injustices, empowering individuals to assert boundaries, communicate needs, and seek accountability in relationships. However, seeking payback as a form of revenge and retaliation perpetuates a cycle of conflict, animosity, and resentment, undermining the possibility of healing and reconciliation. The desire for payback can indeed lead to genuine reconciliation and healing in relationships, as it serves as a catalyst for honest communication, self-reflection, and transformation. When approached with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to forgive, the desire for payback can become a pathway to deeper intimacy, trust, and mutual growth in relationships. By embracing the transformative power of vulnerability, empathy, and forgiveness, we can transcend the cycle of hurt and retribution and cultivate harmonious, authentic connections with ourselves and others. The desire for payback can be transcended through self-awareness, therapy, and spiritual practices that foster compassion, forgiveness, and inner peace. While the impulse for retribution may arise from past hurts, insecurities, and attachment wounds, it can be transformed into a catalyst for personal growth, healing, and reconciliation in relationships. By embracing the principles of forgiveness, empathy, and understanding, we can break free from the cycle of hurt and retribution, and cultivate deeper connections, trust, and love in our relationships

On this episode of The Response, we're joined by Arvind Dilawar, an independent journalist who has recently written a piece for Shareable about the union supplying Palestinian journalists with safety gear amid the ongoing Israeli genocide. His articles, interviews, and essays on everything from the spacesuits of the future to love in the time of visas have appeared in The New York Times, Time Magazine, The Daily Beast, and elsewhere. He was also formerly a columnist at Pacific Standard. In the following conversation, Arvind illuminates the dire situation in Gaza and the challenges journalists face amid the turmoil. Arvind reports back on his conversations with journalists on the ground in the West Bank and shares the story of the protective equipment library that has been set up by the Palestinian Journalist Syndicate (PJS) to provide journalists with the essential tools they need. Arvind also highlights how journalists face increasing repression for covering Palestine, both in the US and abroad, and the impact of media censorship and biased narratives on the perception of the Israeli occupation of Palestine, particularly among Western outlets. Join us as we uncover the crucial role of independent journalism in times of crisis and how we can collectively support those documenting the reality of the frontlines. Resources: Life-Saving lending library: Union supplies Palestinian journalists with safety gear amid ongoing Israeli genocide If you would like to support journalists in Gaza so that they can continue their work, please make a contribution to the IFJ's International Safety Fund with the comment “For the Palestinian Journalists Syndicate.” Episode credits: Co-hosted and executive produced by Tom Llewellyn Co-hosted, produced, and edited by Paige Kelly Theme Music by Cultivate Beats Follow The Response on Twitter and Instagram for updates, memes, and more. Our entire catalog of documentaries and interviews can be found at theresponsepodcast.org — or wherever you get your podcasts. The Response is an award-winning podcast series produced by Shareable exploring how communities respond to disaster — from hurricanes to wildfires to reactionary politics and more. Want to help spread the word? Please rate and review us on Apple Podcasts and Spotify — it makes a huge difference in reaching new people who may otherwise not hear about this show.

Questions: are we all neurodivergent to some degree? What is Quiet BPD? True or false? Neurotypical partners tend to feel like their partner isn't willing to try harder or doesn't care enough. Neurodivergent partners tend to feel like their partner doesn't have enough patience and/or is difficult to please. Can two different brain configurations, i.e. Neurotypical and neurodivergent find common ground within intimate relationships? What are the problems with Neurodiverse relationships? Are people who are Neurotypical, and neurodivergent compatible in intimate relationships? What are some of the challenges for Neurotypical couples who are with neurodivergent partners? How to deal with neurodivergent partners? What are some of the challenges of dating someone who is neurologically diverse? 1. In what way do the dating struggles of neurotypicals and neurodivergents intersect? What are the struggles of neurodivergent dating? 2. What is “masking” and how can it help neurodiverse people navigate dating? 3. How are neurodivergent struggles within dating linked to the spiritual masks of neurotypicals? 4. How does someone's placement on the spectrum affect their dateability? What is the tragic dance of the neurodiverse couple? 5. Are dating standards for neurodivergent people higher or lower than those of neurotypicals and how do they connect to one's mental condition and/or social awareness? Agree or Disagree? Neurodiverse relationships have specific challenges which make the couple more vulnerable to misinterpretations in each other's social and emotional cueing. When reactions to distress occur, negative feedback loops (fight-flight, avoid modes) escalate rapidly. 1. How do the dynamics of neurodiverse relationships differ from neurotypical relationships in terms of communication and understanding?

Questions: What is the inner critic, and where does it originate from? What does your inner critic have to consistently say about you? How has negative self talk become a self fulfilling prophecy in your relationships? What are the spiritual implications of engaging in negative self talk and how does it frame our view of the outside world? Can any connections be drawn between the acceptance of the victim role within conflicts and the inner struggles faced due to adverse relationship experiences? If so, what role does the inner critic play in this dynamic? Are people who have a strong inner critic more or less likely to utilize toxic word spells on their partners? Furthermore, does the use of toxic word spells occur primarily during conflicts, and if so, what would be the purpose of utilizing them? 1. How does the concept of "toxic spells" align with the idea of inner criticism during relational conflicts? 2. In what ways do acquittals and condemnations manifest within the context of the victim complex and the inner critic? 3. How can one differentiate between healthy self-reflection and the detrimental effects of the inner critic during relational conflicts? 4. What role does the inner critic play in perpetuating the victim complex, and how does this impact the resolution of conflicts? 5. Can the inner critic be transformed into a tool for self-awareness and growth in relationships? 6. How do cultural and societal norms influence the development of the inner critic and the victim complex in individuals? 7. What are the psychological mechanisms behind the formation of toxic word spells and their impact on relational dynamics? 8. How do relational conflicts serve as mirrors for the inner critic and the victim complex within individuals? 9. What strategies can be employed to challenge and reframe toxic word spells during conflicts? 10. How does the concept of acquittal and condemnation relate to the power dynamics in relationships? 11. In what ways can spirituality and shamanic practices be integrated to heal the wounds caused by the inner critic in relationships? 12. How do past traumas contribute to the amplification of the inner critic and the victim complex in relational conflicts? 13. What are the ethical considerations when addressing the inner critic and toxic behaviors in relationships? 14. How can an individual differentiate between constructive criticism and toxic word spells in communication? 15. What role does forgiveness play in breaking the cycle of the victim complex and toxic behaviors in relationships? 16. How do power imbalances in relationships influence the prevalence of toxic word spells and condemnations? 17. Can the inner critic be transformed into a source of empathy and understanding in relational conflicts? 18. How do gender roles and societal expectations shape the manifestation of the inner critic and victim complex in relationships? 19. What insights can be gained from the intersection of metaphysics and psychology in understanding the inner critic during conflicts? 20. How can the principles of quantum physics shed light on the interconnectedness of thoughts, words, and relational dynamics? 21. How do attachment styles impact the vulnerability to toxic word spells and condemnations in relationships? 22. What role does mindfulness and self-awareness play in mitigating the effects of the inner critic during relational conflicts? 23. How can the concept of acquittal be redefined in the context of self-compassion and self-forgiveness? 24. What are the implications of the inner critic on the perception of reality and the external world? 25. How do spiritual practices such as meditation and prayer influence the transformation of toxic behaviors in relationships? 26. What insights can be gained from the integration of LMFT psychiatry and shamanic healing practices in addressing the inner critic in relationships? 27. How does the inner critic contribute to the creation of narratives and belief systems that perpetuate relational conflicts? 28. What role does trauma bonding play in the reinforcement of toxic word spells and condemnations in relationships? 29. How can the concept of acquittal be applied to the process of healing and reconciliation in relationships? 30. How do cultural myths and archetypes influence the inner critic and victim complex in relational dynamics? 31. In what ways can the practice of self-compassion and self-love counteract the effects of toxic word spells and condemnations? 32. How do systemic issues such as oppression and discrimination contribute to the internalization of the inner critic in individuals? 33. What are the neurobiological mechanisms underlying the formation of the inner critic and its impact on relational conflicts? 34. How can the principles of cosmology and interconnectedness inform our understanding of the inner critic in the context of relationships? 35. How does the inner critic influence the perception of power dynamics and control in relationships? 36. What role does the shadow self play in the manifestation of toxic word spells and condemnations during conflicts? 37. How can the integration of spirituality and psychology facilitate the healing of the inner critic and the victim complex in relationships? 38. How do psychoanalytic theories of defense mechanisms apply to the behavior patterns associated with the inner critic in relational conflicts? 39. What insights can be gained from the study of consciousness and self-awareness in addressing the root causes of the inner critic? 40. How does the inner critic impact the ability to empathize and connect with others in relationships? 41. What role does language and communication style play in the reinforcement of toxic word spells and condemnations? 42. How can the practice of radical acceptance and non-judgmental awareness transform the inner critic in relational conflicts? 43. In what ways can the integration of psychotherapy and spiritual practices facilitate the resolution of conflicts rooted in the inner critic? 44. How does the concept of intergenerational trauma contribute to the perpetuation of the inner critic and victim complex in relationships? 45. What are the implications of quantum entanglement and non-locality on the interconnectedness of thoughts and emotions in relational conflicts? 46. How can the inner critic be harnessed as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation in relationships? 47. What ethical considerations should be taken into account when exploring the depths of the inner critic and its impact on relational dynamics? Zo's Talking Points: In the realm of multidisciplinary expertise encompassing metaphysics, theoretical physics, cosmology, shamanism, spirituality, LMFT psychiatry, LCSW, Psy.D, and psychology, the exploration of the intricate dynamics of the inner critic during relational conflicts unveils a profound journey into the depths of human consciousness and interpersonal relationships. Inspired by the reference verse "For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned" (Matthew 12:37), a tapestry of thought-provoking, controversial, and intellectually stimulating questions emerges to challenge conventional paradigms and delve into the essence of toxic spells, acquittals, and condemnations within the context of the victim complex. 1. The Origin and Nature of the Inner Critic: What is the essence of the inner critic, and how does its genesis intertwine with the intricate tapestry of metaphysical, spiritual, and psychological realms? 2. The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Negative Self-Talk: In what ways does negative self-talk manifest as a self-fulfilling prophecy within the intricate web of relationships, shaping the dynamics of interaction and perception? 3. Spiritual Ramifications of Negative Self-Talk: How do the spiritual dimensions of engaging in negative self-talk shape our perception of the external world and influence the vibrational frequencies we emit into the universe? 4. The Victim Role and Inner Struggles: Can a symbiotic relationship be discerned between embracing the victim role in conflicts and the internal battles stemming from adverse relational experiences? How does the inner critic perpetuate this dynamic? 5. Toxic Word Spells and Inner Criticism: Are individuals harboring a potent inner critic more inclined to wield toxic word spells against their partners? Do these corrosive spells predominantly emerge during conflicts, and if so, what underlying motives propel their utilization? 6. Interplay of Toxic Spells and Inner Criticism: How do the notions of "toxic spells" resonate with the concept of inner criticism during relational conflicts, and what insights can be gleaned from this intricate interplay? 7. Acquittals, Condemnations, and the Victim Complex: In what manifestations do acquittals and condemnations manifest within the realm of the victim complex and the inner critic, shaping the narrative of conflicts and resolutions? 8. Navigating Healthy Self-Reflection: How can one navigate the thin line between healthy self-reflection and the insidious effects of the inner critic during relational conflicts, fostering growth and understanding amidst adversities? 9. Transformative Potential of the Inner Critic: Can the inner critic be transmuted into a catalyst for self-awareness and personal evolution within the intricate tapestry of relationships, illuminating paths to healing and growth? 10. Cultural Influences and Inner Dynamics: To what extent do cultural and societal norms sculpt the contours of the inner critic and the victim complex, influencing the interpersonal dynamics and conflict resolutions of individuals? 11. Integration of Spirituality and Healing: How can the realms of spirituality and shamanic practices be harnessed to mend the wounds inflicted by the inner critic, fostering profound healing and transformation within relationships? 12. Trauma, Inner Critic, and Relational Conflicts: In what ways do past traumas amplify the resonance of the inner critic and the victim complex in the tapestry of relational conflicts, shaping the narrative of interactions and resolutions? 13. Ethics and Inner Critic Exploration: What ethical considerations must be contemplated when delving into the labyrinthine depths of the inner critic and addressing toxic behaviors within the intricate fabric of relationships? 14. Distinguishing Constructive Criticism from Toxicity: How can individuals discern between constructive criticism and venomous word spells within the realm of communication, fostering clarity and understanding amidst conflicts? 15. Forgiveness and Liberation from Toxic Cycles: What transformative role does forgiveness play in breaking the cyclic patterns of the victim complex and toxic behaviors, paving the path towards liberation and healing within relationships? As we embark on this intellectual odyssey, may these questions serve as beacons of contemplation and catalysts for transformative insights into the enigmatic realms of the inner critic and relational dynamics. In the vast expanse of multidisciplinary expertise spanning metaphysics, theoretical physics, cosmology, shamanism, spirituality, LMFT psychiatry, LCSW, Psy.D, and psychology, the exploration of toxic spells, acquittals, and condemnations within the intricate tapestry of the victim complex during relational conflicts unveils a kaleidoscope of thought-provoking and intellectually stimulating questions. Anchored by the profound verse "For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned" (Matthew 12:37), let us embark on a scholarly odyssey delving into the depths of human consciousness and relational dynamics. 16. Power Dynamics and Toxicity: How do power imbalances within relationships shape the prevalence of toxic word spells and condemnations, influencing the narrative of conflicts and resolutions? 17. Transformative Potential of the Inner Critic: Can the inner critic metamorphose into a wellspring of empathy and understanding, fostering profound connections and healing amidst relational conflicts? 18. Gender Roles and Societal Constructs: In what ways do gender roles and societal expectations sculpt the expressions of the inner critic and victim complex, shaping the tapestry of relationships and conflicts? 19. Metaphysics and Psychology Interplay: What revelations emerge from the convergence of metaphysical principles and psychological insights in unraveling the enigma of the inner critic during conflicts? 20. Quantum Physics and Relational Dynamics: How can the tenets of quantum physics illuminate the interconnectedness of thoughts, words, and relational dynamics, offering a new lens to perceive the essence of conflicts? 21. Attachment Styles and Vulnerability: How do diverse attachment styles influence the susceptibility to toxic word spells and condemnations, shaping the dynamics of relationships and conflict resolutions? 22. Mindfulness and Self-Awareness: What transformative role does mindfulness and self-awareness play in attenuating the impact of the inner critic during relational conflicts, fostering clarity and growth? 23. Redefining Acquittal and Self-Compassion: In what ways can the notion of acquittal be redefined through the prisms of self-compassion and self-forgiveness, nurturing profound healing and reconciliation within relationships? 24. Inner Critic and Perception of Reality: What are the profound implications of the inner critic on the construction of reality and the lens through which individuals perceive the external world and their relationships? 25. Spiritual Practices and Transformation: How do contemplative practices such as meditation and prayer catalyze the metamorphosis of toxic behaviors, paving the path towards healing and harmony in relationships? 26. Integration of Healing Modalities: What insights emerge from the fusion of LMFT psychiatry and shamanic healing practices in addressing the labyrinthine manifestations of the inner critic within the intricate tapestry of relationships? 27. Narrative Construction and Belief Systems: How does the inner critic contribute to the crafting of narratives and belief systems that perpetuate relational conflicts, shaping the trajectory of interactions and resolutions? 28. Trauma Bonding and Toxicity: In what ways does trauma bonding reinforce the patterns of toxic word spells and condemnations within relationships, perpetuating cycles of pain and conflict? 29. Healing Through Acquittal: How can the concept of acquittal be harnessed as a transformative force in the process of healing and reconciliation within relationships, fostering growth and understanding? 30. Cultural Influences and Archetypal Myths: How do cultural myths and archetypes influence the formation of the inner critic and victim complex within the intricate web of relational dynamics, shaping the narrative of conflicts and resolutions? In this exploration, may these questions serve as catalysts for profound introspection, transformative insights, and scholarly discourse into the intricate interplay of toxic spells, acquittals, and condemnations within the enigmatic realms of the inner critic during relational conflicts. In the vast landscape of multidisciplinary expertise spanning metaphysics, theoretical physics, cosmology, shamanism, spirituality, LMFT psychiatry, LCSW, Psy.D, and psychology, the exploration of toxic spells, acquittals, and condemnations within the intricate fabric of the victim complex during relational conflicts beckons us to delve into a realm of profound thought and scholarly inquiry. Anchored by the profound verse "For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned" (Matthew 12:37), let us embark on an odyssey of contemplation and exploration, guided by thought-provoking and intellectually stimulating questions. 31. The Healing Power of Self-Compassion: In what transformative ways can the practices of self-compassion and self-love serve as antidotes to the corrosive effects of toxic word spells and condemnations within relationships? 32. Systemic Influences and Inner Critic: How do systemic issues such as oppression and discrimination inscribe the internal dialogue of the inner critic within individuals, shaping the narrative of relational conflicts and self-perception? 33. Neurobiological Foundations of the Inner Critic: What are the intricate neurobiological mechanisms underpinning the genesis of the inner critic and its reverberations on the tapestry of relational dynamics and conflicts? 34. Cosmological Insights and Inner Critic: How can the principles of cosmology and interconnectedness illuminate our understanding of the inner critic within the intricate web of relationships, offering new vistas of perception and insight? 35. Inner Critic and Power Dynamics: In what ways does the inner critic color the perception of power dynamics and control within relationships, influencing the narrative of conflicts and resolutions? 36. Shadow Self and Toxicity: What enigmatic role does the shadow self play in the manifestation of toxic word spells and condemnations during conflicts, shaping the contours of interpersonal interactions and perceptions? 37. Integration of Spirituality and Psychology: How can the harmonious integration of spirituality and psychology engender profound healing and transformation, unraveling the intricacies of the inner critic and victim complex within relationships? 38. Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Defense Mechanisms: How do psychoanalytic theories of defense mechanisms shed light on the behavioral patterns associated with the inner critic in relational conflicts, illuminating pathways to understanding and resolution? 39. Consciousness and Self-Awareness: What profound insights can be gleaned from the study of consciousness and self-awareness in excavating the root causes of the inner critic, fostering growth and self-realization within relationships? 40. Empathy and Connection: How does the inner critic impede the capacity for empathy and authentic connection with others within relationships, shaping the dynamics of communication and understanding? 41. Language and Communication Dynamics: In what ways do language and communication styles serve as conduits for the reinforcement of toxic word spells and condemnations, shaping the narrative of conflicts and resolutions within relationships? 42. Radical Acceptance and Transformation: How can the practices of radical acceptance and non-judgmental awareness serve as transformative tools in reshaping the inner critic within relational conflicts, fostering healing and growth? 43. Psychotherapy and Spiritual Integration: In what ways can the fusion of psychotherapy and spiritual practices catalyze the resolution of conflicts rooted in the inner critic, fostering profound healing and understanding within relationships? 44. Intergenerational Trauma and Inner Critic: How does the concept of intergenerational trauma contribute to the perpetuation of the inner critic and victim complex within relationships, shaping the narrative of conflicts and resolutions across generations? 45. Quantum Entanglement and Emotional Connectivity: What are the profound implications of quantum entanglement and non-locality on the interconnectedness of thoughts and emotions within relational conflicts, offering new lenses to perceive the essence of human connections? 46. Harnessing the Inner Critic for Transformation: How can the inner critic be transmuted into a catalyst for personal growth and metamorphosis within relationships, fostering profound insights and self-realization? 47. Ethical Considerations in Inner Critic Exploration: What ethical considerations should guide our exploration of the inner critic and its reverberations on relational dynamics, ensuring integrity, empathy, and respect in the pursuit of knowledge and healing? In this intellectual odyssey, may these questions ignite flames of contemplation, provoke transformative insights, and pave the path towards deeper understanding and healing within the intricate tapestry of toxic spells, acquittals, and condemnations in the realm of the inner critic during relational conflicts.

Questions: What Does It Mean to be “Triggered”? Is the state of being triggered a spiritual precursor to being awakened? What are Twin Flame Triggers, and The deep pain and healing of Divine Counterpart mirroring? Agree, disagree? Triggers can make someone lash out or treat you poorly. If meeting someone triggers spiritual awakening in you, is the person necessarily your twin flame? Why do twin flames trigger you? 1. What are some indicators that you have been triggered? 2. How can we utilize triggers to our advantage when seeking healing from CPTSD and other adverse experiences? How spiritual awakening affects relationships? 3. Can triggers be indicative of kinks in our attachment armor? 4. How do we examine which emotional wounds are activated within us when we become triggered? 5. Can your triggers become your personality? (In other words, do your triggers dictate the actions you take or don't take, the ways you respond, etc.?) 6. How do the triggers you experience from your partner play a role in the dysfunction you refuse to acknowledge and accept within yourself? Is the cognitive dissonance associated with these experiences mutual between both parties? 1. Can triggers serve as gateways to deeper self-awareness and spiritual growth, or are they merely obstacles to overcome? 2. Is there a distinction between external triggers that stem from interpersonal interactions and internal triggers that arise from unresolved inner conflicts? 3. How do triggers from past lives or ancestral trauma influence our present experiences of being triggered? 4. Are triggers a reflection of our unhealed wounds, or do they also reveal hidden strengths and virtues within us? 5. Can triggers be seen as invitations for inner alchemy, transforming pain into wisdom and growth? 6. How do societal norms and expectations shape our understanding and expression of triggers in personal relationships? 7. Do triggers hold the potential to deepen our empathy and understanding of others' pain and struggles? 8. Is there a difference between triggers that arise from our ego's need for validation and triggers that stem from our soul's longing for growth and evolution? 9. How do cultural differences and diverse belief systems influence the way we perceive and respond to triggers? 10. Can triggers be viewed as catalysts for breaking free from outdated patterns and belief systems that no longer serve our highest good? 11. In what ways do triggers challenge our sense of identity and self-concept, pushing us to redefine who we are and what we stand for? 12. How can mindful awareness and self-compassion help us navigate triggers with grace and resilience? 13. Are triggers a form of divine intervention, guiding us towards greater self-realization and alignment with our true purpose? 14. How do triggers in intimate relationships mirror our deepest fears, desires, and vulnerabilities? 15. Can triggers be transmuted into sources of creativity, inspiration, and innovation in our personal and professional endeavors? 16. What role do forgiveness and acceptance play in the process of healing and releasing triggers from our psyche? 17. How do spiritual practices such as meditation, yoga, and energy healing help us dissolve triggers and restore inner harmony? 18. Is there a connection between the collective unconscious and the triggering events that shape our individual experiences of reality? 19. How do power dynamics and social inequalities contribute to the triggering of marginalized communities and individuals? 20. Can triggers be reframed as opportunities for radical self-empowerment and liberation from limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors? Zo's Talking Points: Title: Exploring the Spiritual Alchemy of Trigger Fingers: A Multidisciplinary Perspective Introduction: In the intricate tapestry of human connections, there exists a profound paradox – the power of triggering. The meeting of souls entwined in a cosmic dance can evoke deep-seated emotions and illuminate hidden wounds. This essay embarks on a journey into the enigmatic realm of "Trigger Fingers," delving into the spiritual design that ignites transformative sparks within us. Through the lens of metaphysics, theoretical physics, cosmology, shamanism, spirituality, psychology, and relationship dynamics, we unravel the intricate web of triggers that shape our personal and spiritual evolution. Defining Triggers: At the heart of our exploration lies the question: What does it mean to be "triggered"? In the realm of psychology, triggers are stimuli that evoke intense emotional responses linked to past experiences. However, from a spiritual perspective, triggers go beyond mere psychological reactions; they serve as catalysts for profound inner shifts and growth. Is the state of being triggered a spiritual precursor to awakening, as it shakes us from our slumber and propels us towards self-realization? Twin Flame Triggers and Divine Counterpart Mirroring: The concept of Twin Flame Triggers and Divine Counterpart mirroring introduces a complex interplay of pain and healing. Do triggers in relationships with our soulmates and divine counterparts serve as mirrors reflecting our deepest wounds and unhealed aspects? Can the deep pain of triggering lead to transformative healing and spiritual growth, or does it merely perpetuate cycles of suffering and turmoil? Utilizing Triggers for Healing: Exploring the utilization of triggers for healing, we confront the shadowy realms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) and adverse experiences. How can we harness the power of triggers to unravel the knots of our past traumas and embark on a journey of profound healing and self-discovery? Can triggers be seen as signposts guiding us towards the path of liberation and wholeness? The Impact of Spiritual Awakening on Relationships: As spiritual awakening unfolds, its ripple effects are felt in the intricate tapestry of relationships. Can triggers be indicative of vulnerabilities in our attachment armor, exposing the cracks in our emotional foundations? How do triggers redefine the dynamics of relationships and pave the way for deeper emotional intimacy and understanding? The Personality of Triggers: Delving into the provocative question of whether triggers shape our personality, we confront the notion that our reactions and responses are governed by the wounds that lie dormant within us. Can triggers become the driving force behind our actions, dictating the ways we navigate the world and interact with others? Acknowledging Dysfunction and Cognitive Dissonance: In the realm of intimate relationships, triggers often serve as mirrors reflecting the dysfunction we refuse to acknowledge within ourselves. How do the triggers we experience from our partners illuminate the shadows of our psyche, exposing the cognitive dissonance that exists within both parties? Are triggers invitations for mutual growth and transformation, or do they deepen the chasms of misunderstanding and discord? Conclusion: In conclusion, the exploration of "Trigger Fingers" unveils the intricate dance of pain and healing, transformation and growth that unfolds when souls collide. As multidisciplinary experts, we are called to embrace the paradox of triggers, to navigate the labyrinthine paths of our inner landscapes, and to unravel the mysteries that lie at the core of our being. Through introspection, compassion, and a willingness to confront our shadows, we embark on a journey of self-discovery and spiritual evolution, guided by the transformative power of triggers. Title: Unveiling the Alchemical Power of Triggers: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Transformation Introduction: In the enigmatic tapestry of human existence, triggers stand as potent gateways to the depths of our psyche, unveiling hidden truths and stirring profound transformations. The phenomenon of "Trigger Fingers" delves into the spiritual design that orchestrates encounters that provoke intense emotional responses within us. Drawing on insights from metaphysics, theoretical physics, cosmology, shamanism, spirituality, psychology, and relationship dynamics, we embark on an exploratory quest to unravel the intricate nature and causes of triggers that shape our inner landscapes. Exploring the Multifaceted Nature of Triggers: Triggers, often perceived as obstacles to overcome, possess a dual nature that transcends mere challenges. Can triggers serve as gateways to deeper self-awareness and spiritual growth, inviting us to confront our inner shadows and embark on a journey of self-discovery? Delving deeper, we ponder the distinction between external triggers rooted in interpersonal interactions and internal triggers stemming from unresolved inner conflicts. How do triggers from past lives or ancestral trauma weave themselves into the tapestry of our present experiences, shaping our responses and emotional landscapes? The Transformative Power of Triggers: As we navigate the labyrinth of triggers, we uncover their profound capacity to catalyze inner alchemy and transmute pain into wisdom and growth. Are triggers not only reflections of our unhealed wounds but also gateways to unveil hidden strengths and virtues within us? Can triggers, viewed through the lens of inner alchemy, be seen as invitations for profound transformation and evolution, guiding us towards a deeper understanding of our true selves? Navigating Triggers in Relationships: In the realm of personal relationships, triggers play a pivotal role in mirroring our deepest fears, desires, and vulnerabilities. How do triggers challenge our sense of identity and self-concept, prompting us to redefine our beliefs and values? Through mindful awareness and self-compassion, we learn to navigate triggers with grace and resilience, embracing them as opportunities for growth and healing. Moreover, triggers in intimate relationships hold the potential to deepen empathy and understanding, fostering emotional intimacy and connection. Healing and Liberation Through Triggers: Forgiveness and acceptance emerge as essential tools in the process of healing and releasing triggers from our psyche, paving the way for inner harmony and emotional liberation. Spiritual practices such as meditation, yoga, and energy healing offer pathways to dissolve triggers, restore balance, and align with our true purpose. Furthermore, triggers can serve as catalysts for breaking free from outdated patterns and belief systems, empowering us to embrace radical self-empowerment and liberation from self-limiting behaviors. Conclusion: In conclusion, the exploration of "Trigger Fingers" unveils the transformative power inherent in moments of emotional upheaval and introspection. Through a multidisciplinary lens, we have delved into the intricate nature of triggers, illuminating their potential to catalyze profound self-discovery, growth, and transformation. As we navigate the complex terrain of triggers, may we embrace them as sacred invitations for inner alchemy, healing, and liberation, guiding us towards a deeper connection with ourselves and the world around us.

“I'm upset with myself because I gave parts of myself with nothing to show for it.” “If only I had…” “But what if I hadn't…?” “Why didn't I just…?” “If only I knew…” “Why didn't I know…?” “I should have realized…” “Our action is based on belief, dependence, sex, ambition, achievement, success. Is there an action so complete it does not leave a single shadow of pain or regret? I want to find out if there is an action which is really whole.” Krishnamuti- Questions: True or False? Regret is the experience of feeling disappointed, embarrassed, ashamed, sad, or remorse over something that happened in the past. True or false the only regret that exist is the regret of making a different choice for oneself? Is the regret of losing another becoming extinct? In a world driven by transactions and superficial interactions, is it necessary for the concept of regret to be elevated to a level that rivals the profound depths of the soul's darkness by a divine intervention? Should you create and save the best activities and subsequent relationship memories for the most suitable person? How to Develop a Healthy Relationship with Regret? True or False? Regrets after a breakup often center around wishing you'd made different choices during your relationship. What does it mean if you regret a relationship? Is it possible to create a healthy relationship with regret? Agree or Disagree? Leaving during a fight, staying too long, or losing your sense of self are common regrets after a breakup. 1. How does the concept of being an "Intimate Indian giver" resonate with your experiences in relationships? 2. What aspects of yourself do you regret giving in your past relationships?

Stand Up is a daily podcast. I book,host,edit, post and promote new episodes with brilliant guests every day. Please subscribe now for as little as 5$ and gain access to a community of over 700 awesome, curious, kind, funny, brilliant, generous souls From Helaine Olen Website I'm thrilled to announce I'm going to be a 2024 Reporter in Residence with the Omidyar Network. My work on politics, economics, workplace culture and women's issues has also been published in numerous other print and on-line publications, including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Atlantic, Salon, Pacific Standard, and The Los Angeles Times, where I wrote and edited the popular “Money Makeover” feature. I'm the author of the critically acclaimed book Pound Foolish: Exposing the Dark Side of the Personal Finance Industry, and The Index Card: Why Personal Finance Doesn't Have to be so Complicated, which I co-wrote with Harold Pollack. Pete On Threads Pete on YouTube Check out all things Jon Carroll Follow and Support Pete Coe Pete on Twitter Pete On Instagram Pete Personal FB page Stand Up with Pete FB page

How can we continue to keep students engaged and motivated? If we're being honest, the traditional education system falls short in meeting everyone's needs. In today's episode, join me and the brilliant Chantel Prat, a professor with a vast background in psychology, neuroscience, and linguistics as we explore why it's crucial for teachers like you to understand the brain's workings to connect better with students and create a classroom that brings out the best in every student. Discover how to foster meaningful connections and effective learning environments. Chantel breaks down the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and tailoring educational strategies to suit individual needs.We'll talk about how stress is a major factor, affecting learning more than you realize, and what you can do about it. Learn why taking care of yourself is key to being a great educator. Choice can be a powerful thing in the classroom, and we'll discuss how giving your students more of it can transform their learning experience.Tune in and join the conversation to make a positive change in our education.Stay empowered,JenLet's keep the conversation going! Find me at:Jen Rafferty | Instagram, YouTube, Facebook | LinktreeInstagram: @jenrafferty_Facebook: Empowered Educator Faculty RoomAbout Chantel:Chantel Prat is a Professor at the University of Washington with appointments in the Departments of Psychology, Neuroscience, and Linguistics, and at the Institute for Learning and Brain Sciences, the Center for Neurotechnology, and the Institute for Neuroengineering. A cognitive neuroscientist by training, her interdisciplinary research investigates the biological basis of individual differences in cognition, with an emphasis on understanding the shared neural mechanisms underpinning language and higher-level executive functions. She is a recipient of the Tom Trabasso Young Investigator Award from the Society of Text and Discourse and a Pathway to Independence Award from the National Institute of Health. Her work has been supported by the National Institute of Health, the Office of Naval Research, and the Keck Foundation. Prat speaks internationally at events like The World Science Festival. She is featured in the documentary, I Am Human. Her studies have been profiled in media ranging from Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Science Daily to Rolling Stone, Popular Mechanics, Pacific Standard, Travel + Leisure, and National Public Radio. Connect with Chantel:Website: https://www.chantelprat.com/IG: @chantelpratphdX: @ChantelPratPhDLinkedIn: Chantel Prat

Chantel Prat is a Professor at the University of Washington with appointments in the Departments of Psychology, Neuroscience, and Linguistics, and at the Institute for Learning and Brain Sciences, the Center for Neurotechnology, and the Institute for Neuroengineering. A cognitive neuroscientist by training, her interdisciplinary research investigates the biological basis of individual differences in cognition, with an emphasis on understanding the shared neural mechanisms underpinning language and higher-level executive functions. She is a recipient of the Tom Trabasso Young Investigator Award from the Society of Text and Discourse and a Pathway to Independence Award from the National Institute of Health. Her work has been supported by the National Institute of Health, the Office of Naval Research, and the Keck Foundation. Prat speaks internationally at events like The World Science Festival. She is featured in the documentary, I Am Human. Her studies have been profiled in media ranging from Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Science Daily to Rolling Stone, Popular Mechanics, Pacific Standard, Travel + Leisure, and National Public Radio.

Most who write about politics focus on the horse-race of elections or the specifics of policies.  But Joanna Weiss says we should view American politics—especially current American politics—through a pop-culture lens. Weiss is the executive director of the AI Literacy Lab at Northeastern University, a project to connect journalists and technologists. She is a contributing writer at POLITICO Magazine and is a former columnist, television critic, and political reporter at the Boston Globe; and the founding editor of Experience magazine, published by Northeastern University. She started her career covering Louisiana politics for the Times-Picayune of New Orleans. Her writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Slate, The Economist, Pacific Standard, and Boston Magazine, and was anthologized in the book “Nasty Women and Bad Hombres: Gender and Race in the 2016 Presidential Election.” She has appeared on local, national and international television and radio.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

5pm - Washington is one step closer to staying on Pacific Standard Time all year round // Costco in Issaquah is among the first in the country to test out membership card scanning // Trump teases ‘big role’ for Ramaswamy // University chancellor who was fired for his porn making side hustle speaks out // A reporter in Tampa Bay goes viral for asking Buc’s coach Todd Bowles a very dumb question to // Topic:  What’s the dumbest question you’ve ever asked in an interview?  The one you still think about decades later… // LETTERS

Join us for a virtual launch event celebrating the release of Let This Radicalize You by Kelly Hayes and Mariame Kaba. This event took place on May 16, 2023. What fuels and sustains activism and organizing when it feels like our worlds are collapsing? Let This Radicalize You: Organizing and the Revolution of Reciprocal Care is a practical and imaginative resource for activists and organizers building power in an era of destabilization and catastrophe. Longtime organizers and movement educators Mariame Kaba and Kelly Hayes examine some of the political lessons of the COVID-19 pandemic, including the convergence of mass protest and mass formations of mutual aid, and consider what this confluence of power can teach us about a future that will require mass acts of care, rescue and defense, in the face of both state violence and environmental disaster. Get a copy of Let This Radicalize You for 30% off here: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/... Speakers include Kelly Hayes, Mariame Kaba, Tony Alvarado Rivera , Ejeris Dixon, Aly Wane and Ruth Wilson Gilmore. Mariame Kaba is an organizer, educator and curator who is active in movements for racial, gender, and transformative justice. She is the founder and director of Project NIA, a grassroots organization with a vision to end youth incarceration. Mariame is currently a researcher at Interrupting Criminalization: Research in Action at the Barnard Center for Research on Women, a project she co-founded with Andrea Ritchie in 2018. Kelly Hayes is the host of Truthout's podcast “Movement Memos” and a contributing writer at Truthout. Kelly's written work can also be found in Teen Vogue, Bustle, Yes! Magazine, Pacific Standard, NBC Think, her blog Transformative Spaces, The Appeal, the anthology The Solidarity Struggle: How People of Color Succeed and Fail At Showing Up For Each Other In the Fight For Freedom and Truthout's anthology on movements against state violence, Who Do You Serve, Who Do You Protect? Kelly is also a direct action trainer and a co-founder of the direct action collective Lifted Voices. Watch the live event recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSTMC0QhZbg Buy books from Haymarket: www.haymarketbooks.org Follow us on Soundcloud: soundcloud.com/haymarketbooks

No holiday season is complete without festive drinks, and among the seasonal standards is eggnog. Jeffrey Morgenthaler is an eggnog evangelist, serving his signature Tequila and Sherry Eggnog to guests at his bar, Pacific Standard, in Portland, Oregon. For this episode, Morgenthaler reflects on how he arrived at his recipe, and he shares some tips for making excellent eggnog at home.Radio Imbibe is the audio home of Imbibe magazine. In each episode, we dive into liquid culture, exploring the people, places, and flavors of the drinkscape through conversations about cocktails, coffee, beer, spirits, and wine. Keep up with us at imbibemagazine.com, and on Instagram, Threads, and Facebook, and if you're not already a subscriber, we'd love to have you join us—click here to subscribe. 

This week on the show, you'll hear an interview with Lala an anarchafeminist in the Azerbaijani group Feminist Peace Collective about the recent war against and expulsion of ethnic Armenians from Nagorno-Karabakh, about the Aliyev regime and patriotic elements in Azerbaijan's reaction against anti-militarist voices, conspiracy theories and real critiques of non-profit NGO's versus grassroots lgbtq+ and feminist organizing, and other topics. You can learn more about Lala's group at FeministPeaceCollective.Com. On December 19th at 8pm Caucasus time / UTC+4 (or 11am Eastern Standard or 8am Pacific Standard time) Feminist Peace Collective is hosting an online discussion with Dr. Chiara Bottici via zoom called “Anarchafeminism in troubled times” and with a focus on antifeminist and anti-queer backlash and war in the South Caucasus, central Asia, Turkey and Russia. There's a registration link here. Sean Swain Sean's segment starts at [ 01:06:24 ] Announcements Fundraiser for Emergency Committee for Rojava There's a GoFundMe fundraiser for the guests of our October 15th interview, the Emergency Committee for Rojava including some thank-you gifts. More details at https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-emergency-committee-for-rojava-2023 . ... . .. Featured Track: Down 4 Life (instrumental) by DJ Muggs

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit andrewsullivan.substack.comGraeme is a foreign correspondent, and one of the most brilliant men I've ever met. He's been a staff writer at The Atlantic since 2006 and a lecturer in political science at Yale since 2014. He's also been a contributing editor to The New Republic and books editor of Pacific Standard, and he's the author of The Way of the Strangers: Encounters with the Islamic State. Graeme was in Israel when we spoke earlier this week. It's — shall we say — a lively conversation, covering every taboo in the Israel/Palestine question.You can listen to the episode right away in the audio player above (or on the right side of the player, click “Listen On” to add the Dishcast feed to your favorite podcast app). For two clips of our convo — on the ways Hamas is more evil than even ISIS, and on the ethnic cleansing in the West Bank — pop over to our YouTube page.Other topics: growing up in an upper-middle-class home in Dallas; how his parents gave him the travel bug, which he took to the extreme; why the challenges of travel are often the best parts; how time slows down abroad; Paul Theroux and Emerson on travel; going to Afghanistan in 2001 at age 21; why ISIS hated the Taliban and considered them non-Muslims; the caliphate; the easy divisibility of Islamists because of doctrinal differences; Israelis leaving Gaza in 2005; a Nakba in the West Bank; Bibi opposing a two-state solution; the savagery and evil glee of 10/7; the rank corruption and greed of the Hamas government; the dismal economy of Gaza; the terrible conundrum of killing Hamas among human shields; Fallujah vs. Gaza; the fanatical settlers; how the Orthodox right doesn't start tech companies or join the military; Kushner funding the settlements; Trump and the Abraham Accords; Graeme disagreeing with me over the Accords; the protests over judicial reform; the Israelis who oppose settlements; AIPAC and the dearth of US pushback on Israel; the Dem rift over the Gaza war; far-left denialism over 10/7; destroying the posters of hostages; and the upcoming mass protest in London on 11/11.Browse the Dishcast archive for another convo you might enjoy (the first 102 episodes are free in their entirety — subscribe to get everything else). Coming up: David Leonhardt on his new book about the American Dream, John Judis and Ruy Teixeira on Where Have All the Democrats Gone?, Cat Bohannon on Eve: How the Female Body Drove 200 Million Years of Human Evolution, Matthew Crawford, and Jennifer Burns. Please send any guest recs, dissent and other comments to dish@andrewsullivan.com.

 Show NotesSalty: Lessons on Eating, Drinking, and Living from Revolutionary WomenCreative non-fiction and “essays” as a genre“I guess what I was trying to do was come up with ways into the lives of these women who I find interesting. That would also be compelling to someone who had never heard of them.”Dinner partyHannah Arendt and her cocktail partiesA subversive feast among friendsArguing in order to find out what you thinkThinking as a conversation with the selfLove in the specificity of relationshipAmor mundi—love of the world“Loving the world means working on two specific tasks. The first is to doggedly, insist on seeing the world just as it is with its disappointments and horrors and committing to it all the same. The second is to encounter people in the world and embrace their alterity, or difference.”Arendt's “banality of evil”The importance of letter-writing for sharing the self and inhabiting a years-long friendshipEdna Lewis, Freetown, Virginia, and “The Taste of Southern Cooking”Farm-to-table cooking used to be out of economic necessity, not a hip or high fine dining experienceEdna Lewis's Southern identity: "Lewis defines Southern as the experience of an emancipated people and their descendants, a cultural and culinary heritage to be proud of a distinctly American culture. And as she offers definitions, readers are reminded, she's refusing to be defined by anyone but herself.”“What Is Southern?” Gourmet Magazine—reclaiming Southern cooking for Black SouthernersThe Los Padres National Forest Supper ClubBabette's Feast (1987)The menu from Babette's FeastThe place of joy and pleasure in a flourishing spiritual lifeRobert Farrar Capon, The Supper of the LambFood and recognition“Learning how to taste”“Every dinner party is an act of hope.”About Alissa WilkinsonAlissa Wilkinson is a Brooklyn-based critic, journalist, and author. She is a senior correspondent and critic at Vox.com, writing about film, TV, and culture. She is currently writing We Tell Ourselves Stories, a cultural history of American myth-making in Hollywood through the life and work of Joan Didion, which will be published by Liveright.She's contributed essays, features, and criticism to a wide variety of publications, including Rolling Stone, Vulture, Bon Appetit, Eater, RogerEbert.com, Pacific Standard, The Dallas Morning News, The Washington Post, The Atlantic, The Los Angeles Review of Books, Books & Culture, Christianity Today, and others. I'm a member of the New York Film Critics Circle, the National Society of Film Critics, and the Writers Guild of America, East, and was an inaugural writing fellow with the Sundance Institute's Art of Nonfiction initiative. She's served on juries at the Sundance Film Festival, DOC NYC, Sheffield Doc/Fest, the Hamptons International Film Festival, and others, and selection committees for groups including the Gotham Awards and the Sundance Documentary Film Program.In June 2022, her book Salty: Lessons on Eating, Drinking, and Living from Revolutionary Women was published by Broadleaf Books. In 2016, her book How to Survive the Apocalypse: Zombies, Cylons, and Politics at the End of the World was released, co-written with Robert Joustra.I frequently pop up as a commentator and guest host on radio, TV, and podcasts. Some recent appearances include CBS News; PBS Newshour; CNN International Newsroom; BBC America's Talking Movies; NPR's Morning Edition, All Things Considered, On Point, and 1A; HBO's Allen v. Farrow; AMC's James Cameron's Story of Science Fiction; WNYC's The Takeaway; ABC's Religion & Ethics and The Drum; CBC Eyeopener, Vox's Today, Explained and The Gray Area; and many more. For 14 years, until the college ceased offering classes in 2023, she was also an associate professor of English and humanities at The King's College in New York City, and taught courses in criticism, cinema studies, literature, and cultural theory. She earned an M.F.A in creative nonfiction from Seattle Pacific University, an M.A. in humanities and social thought from New York University, and a B.S. in information technology from Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute.You can read my most up-to-date work on my Vox author page, or subscribe to my mostly-weekly newsletter. Production NotesThis podcast featured Alissa WilkinsonEdited and Produced by Evan RosaHosted by Evan RosaProduction Assistance by Liz Vukovic, Macie Bridge, and Kaylen YunA Production of the Yale Center for Faith & Culture at Yale Divinity School https://faith.yale.edu/aboutSupport For the Life of the World podcast by giving to the Yale Center for Faith & Culture: https://faith.yale.edu/give 

We were very fortunate to have Christian Gisborne from Velvet Starlings on the podcast to talk about their new album, "Pacific Standard Time". Enjoy! Velvet Starlings Socials: Twitter: https://twitter.com/velvetstarlings Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetstarlings/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VelvetStarlings TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetstarlings YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsWqc-eMlHqO1zVYVBrMQ5A Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/velvet-starlings/1419888095 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/3lgAmzSWqn0EwH8lyoJ17Q Website: https://velvetstarlings.com/ Good Noise Podcast Socials: Twitter: https://twitter.com/good_noise_cast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goodnoisepodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/goodnoisepod Discord: https://discord.gg/nDAQKwT YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFHKPdUxxe1MaGNWoFtjoJA Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/04IMtdIrCIvbIr7g6ttZHi All other streaming platforms: http://hyperurl.co/GoodNoisePodcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/goodnoisepodcast Bandcamp: https://goodnoiserecords.bandcamp.com/

The Portland area has already had another hot, dry summer, and we still have a month to go. So today on City Cast Portland we're talking with Eden Dawn, author of “The Portland Book of Dates” and co-host of the “We Can't Print This” podcast. She's going to share some creative ways to escape the summer heat. Picks from today's episode: Get comfy at Cinemark Century Eastport Plaza 16. Order a shaken dirty martini at Pacific Standard. Wave to cuties at the Lloyd Center. Spend the day at Keeler Estate Vineyard. Play Fascination at the Funland Arcade in Seaside Get tropical at Island Cafe. Take a cold plunge at The Society Hotel in Bingen, Wash. Travel the Hood River Fruit Loop. For further reading: The Land Beyond the Drug War [Esquire] Who would you like to hear on City Cast Portland? Shoot us an email at portland@citycast.fm, or leave us a voicemail at 503-208-5448. Want more Portland news? Then make sure to sign up for our morning newsletter, Hey Portland, and be sure to follow us on Twitter and Instagram.  Looking to advertise on City Cast Portland? Check out our options for podcast and newsletter ads at citycast.fm/advertise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Access this entire 102 minute episode (and additional monthly bonus episodes) by becoming a Junk Filter patron! Over 30% of episodes are exclusively available to patrons of the show. https://www.patreon.com/posts/136-miami-vice-85397729 Our Miami Vice series continues with Sarah Kurchak, a Toronto-based writer whose work has appeared in Time and Hazlitt, to discuss one of the greatest tv characters of all time, the commander of the Metro-Dade Organized Crime Bureau, Vice Division, Lt. Martin “Marty” Castillo. Edward James Olmos, who won the Best Supporting Actor Emmy for his work in season one, had a unique agreement with executive producer Michael Mann to play the part, including a non-exclusive contract and full creative control of his character, and over the course of the five episodes featured on this show we discover increasingly incredible facts about Castillo's life history and skill sets that climax midway through season two in a mind-blowing episode Olmos also directed, Bushido. We discuss Olmos' fascinating process to build and expand upon his character, the only episode of the show Mann ever wrote, and Sarah's regard for Castillo in her autistic headcanon. Miami Vice is currently available to watch for free on Tubi. Episodes discussed on this show: One-Eyed Jack - Season 1, Ep 6 Golden Triangle Parts 1 & 2 - Season 1, Ep 13 & 14 Whatever Works - Season 2, Ep 2 Bushido - Season 2, Ep 8 Follow Sarah Kurchak on Twitter. Sarah has two books! I Overcame My Autism and All I Got Was This Lousy Anxiety Disorder: A Memoir Work It Out: A Mood-Boosting Exercise Guide for People Who Just Want to Lie Down “Imagining A Fuller Spectrum of Autism on TV”, by Sarah Kurchak, for Pacific Standard, Feb 22, 2018

In this episode, we talk about emotional resilience and how to ditch toxic positivity. How can you turn around your thoughts and brain and focus on something different? P.s. I have something extra for you: If you are ready to stop overworking, join me in my LIVE training: I have three times Wednesday the 29th at 10 AM Arizona time, which is Pacific Standard time, 1 30 PM and then on Thursday also 1 30 pm. Join my free training to stop overworking: https://www.brittnyking.com/startliving Book a call: https://brittnyking.as.me/discovery-call Website: www.brittnyking.comInstagram: @brittnyking_ & for any inquiries email me at: hello@brittnyking.com

Brew Crime is now moving to Crimes of Rock Music. JT tells the case of Ian Watkins the horrific Pedophile. Sources:Anderson, R. (2015, August 6). The evolutionary advantage of being a rock star. Psychology Today. Retrieved February 21, 2023, fromhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mating-game/201508/the-evolutionary-advantage-being-rock-starBBC. (2013, December 18). Lostprophets' Ian Watkins sentenced to 35 years over child sex offences. BBC News. Retrieved February 22, 2023, from https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-wales-25412675 BBC. (2013, December 18). Profile: Lostprophets singer Ian Watkins. BBC News. Retrieved February 22, 2023, from https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-25106114Boyd, M. (2019, August 19). Paedo Ian Watkins begged for porn pics from mum in letters sent from prison. mirror. Retrieved February 22, 2023, fromhttps://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/paedo-ian-watkins-begged-porn-18964294Cambridge, E., & Christodoulou, H. (2019, August 9). Who is Ian Watkins? former Lostprophets frontman and convicted paedophile. The Sun. Retrieved February 22, 2023, from https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2262854/ian-watkins-lostprophets-paedophile-rape-victims/Jones, C. (2013, December 10). Ian Watkins: The Webchats that show Lostprophets Rock Star asking to abuse fan's child. WalesOnline. Retrieved February 22, 2023, from https://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/wales-news/ian-watkins-webchats-show-lostprophets-6379422Palmer, T. (2023, January 10). The untold truth about Lostprophets singer Ian Watkins - in jail. The Biography. Retrieved February 22, 2023, fromhttps://thebiography.org/the-untold-truth-about-lostprophets-singer-ian-watkins-in-jail/Perry, K. E. G. (2017, October 16). Why one of the world's biggest rockstars got away with child abuse. VICE. Retrieved February 22, 2023, fromhttps://www.vice.com/en/article/43ajmg/why-one-of-the-worlds-biggest-rockstars-got-away-with-child-abuse-for-so-longPress Association. (2013, December 18). Convicted paedophile Ian Watkins told fan: 'it was Mega Lolz'. The Guardian. Retrieved February 22, 2023, fromhttps://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2013/dec/18/ian-watkins-transcriptPress Association. (2019, August 9). Ex-lostprophets singer Ian Watkins found guilty of cellphone possession; time added to his sentence. Metal Injection. Retrieved February 22, 2023, from https://metalinjection.net/metal-crimes/ex-lostprophets-singer-ian-watkins-found-guilty-of-cellphone-possession-time-added-to-his-sentenceTHE QUEEN - v - IAN WATKINS AND B AND P (The Law Courts, Cathays Park, Cardiff December 18, 2013). Quig, J. (1981, October 3). He killed 23 people to murder his wife. The Gazette, pp. 4–4. Robinson, A. (2022, November 28). Rise and fall of evil rock star paedo holed up in 'Monster Mansion'. YorkshireLive. Retrieved February 22, 2023, from https://www.examinerlive.co.uk/news/west-yorkshire-news/rise-fall-evil-rock-star-19968736 VanDyke, B. (2014, December 4). The fault in our rock stars - pacific standard. Pacific Standard. Retrieved February 21, 2023, from https://psmag.com/social-justice/the-fault-in-our-rock-stars-stardom-psychology-sociology-satisfaction-celebrity-95386Wheatstone, R. (2019, August 19). Paedo Ian Watkins begged young mum for explicit pics from behind bars. The Sun. Retrieved February 22, 2023, from https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/9712354/ian-watkins-lostprophets-paedophile-prison-letters/Wikimedia Foundation. (2023, February 16). Ian Watkins (Lostprophets Singer). Wikipedia. Retrieved February 22, 2023, fromhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ian_Watkins_(Lostprophets_singer) Brew CrimeWebsite, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Facebook Group, Youtube, patreon

EPISODE 1399: In this KEEN ON show, Andrew talks to the Stanford Business School professor and author of SELFLESS, Brian Lowery, about the American mythology of rugged individualism and how we should be recognize the social dimensions of our selves BRIAN LOWERY, PhD, is the Walter Kenneth Kilpatrick Professor of Organizational Behavior at Stanford University's Graduate School of Business. Lowery's research has been published in major scholarly journals and has been covered by media outlets such as the Washington Post, GQ, Psychology Today, Pacific Standard, Quartz, the Huffington Post, and NPR's All Things Considered. He also hosts the podcast Know What You See. His latest book is Selfless: The Social Creation of “You” (2023) Named as one of the "100 most connected men" by GQ magazine, Andrew Keen is amongst the world's best known broadcasters and commentators. In addition to presenting KEEN ON, he is the host of the long-running How To Fix Democracy show. He is also the author of four prescient books about digital technology: CULT OF THE AMATEUR, DIGITAL VERTIGO, THE INTERNET IS NOT THE ANSWER and HOW TO FIX THE FUTURE. Andrew lives in San Francisco, is married to Cassandra Knight, Google's VP of Litigation & Discovery, and has two grown children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do most of the institutions of higher education in the United States participate in a rankings system? What do the rankings do? And what does it mean when some schools refuse to participate in rankings? This episode explores: How and why the ranking system got started. Who creates the ranking. Why the statics and data collected for it aren't neutral or even necessarily accurate. What the rankings mean to prospective students, their families, and even alumni. Why some schools might have to stay in the ranking system, even as more schools are refusing to participate. Our guest is: Francie Diep, who is a senior reporter covering money in higher education for The Chronicle of Higher Education. She joined The Chronicle in 2019. Previously, she spent a decade covering health and science, including funding for academic labs, for publications including Pacific Standard, Popular Science, Scientific American, and The New York Times. She received her bachelor's degree in English from the University of California at Los Angeles and her master's in journalism from New York University. Our host is: Dr. Christina Gessler, a historian of women and gender. Listeners to this episode may also be interested in: "A Third Top 10 Law School Pulls out of US News Rankings" by Francie Diep in The Chronicle of Higher Education "Is This The Beginning of the End of the US News Rankings Dominance?" by Francie Diep in The Chronicle of Higher Education The Truth about College Admission: A Family Guide to Getting In and Staying Together, by Brennan Barnard and Rick Clark The Merit Myth: How Our Colleges Favor the Rich and Divide America, by Anthony Carnevale et al Breaking Ranks: How the Rankings Industry Rules Higher Education and What to Do About It, by Colin Diver This article in the Guardian about the Columbia University rankings whistleblower This podcast on the book about admissions entitled Get Real and Get In Welcome to the Academic Life! On the Academic Life channel we are inspired and informed by today's knowledge-producers, working inside and outside the academy. Missed any of our episodes? You'll find more than 100 of the Academic Life podcast episodes archived and freely available to you on the New Books Network website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Reading Christopher's story in the Pacific Standard, The Fallacy of Endless Economic Growth What economists around the world get wrong about the future, made me contact him. It was one of the only reviews of criticism of our culture's attempting to grow the economy and population forever that didn't prioritize growth dogma over understanding. The article centered on the book Limits to Growth, its analysis, and the unhinged criticism of it.I had to look up his other work too. I recommend following up at his page, which links to his writing and Denatured, his journalism nonprofit.From the moment he starts talking in this conversation, he lays down basic, common sense understanding of our culture's fundamental tenets, which he calls growthism. To my ears, it sounds like what we see in front of our noses all the time, yet few to no one with prominent voices will say it.He talks about how we got this way, how things could be different, how he came to write for such prominent magazines, and more. He is at times serious, funny, calm, exasperated, and always authentic, genuine, and honest.I hope you know people who understand things as Christopher does and is as outspoken with what they've learned. I believe everyone should hear messages like his periodically. Our culture tries to drown such voices out, but what he says is too clear and makes too much sense to remain silenced.Chris's journalism nonprofit: DenaturedHis site Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of THE COCKTAIL GURU PODCAST, we go west—Pacific Northwest, that is—with Jeffrey Morgenthaler, owner of Portland, Oregon's Pacific Standard and The Sunset Room and creator of Ninkasi Canned Cocktails. Watch and listen as the author of The Bar Book and Drinking Distilled shares tales of a singularly focused journey from bartender to bar owner and more, including serving as head judge at the gold-standard San Francisco World Spirits Competition, with hosts Jonathan & Jeffrey Pogash. All brought to you by Glenmorangie X Single Malt Scotch Whisky, Marie Brizard Peach Liqueur, Monin Premium Gourmet Hot Honey Syrup, and Sobieski Vodka. THE COCKTAIL GURU PODCAST is produced by 1st Reel Entertainment and distributed by EatsDrinksTV, a service of the Center for Culinary Culture—Home of The Cocktail Collection, and is available wherever fine podcasts can be heard. The Center for Culinary Culture—Telling the Story of Food & Drink…One Taste at a Time. To see the full show notes for this episode visit TheCocktailGuruPodcast.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thecocktailgurupodcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thecocktailgurupodcast/support

Examining another branch of the sour cocktail family, we're joined today by friend of the show Jeffrey Morgenthaler of Portland's Pacific Standard to talk about his self-proclaimed “Best Amaretto Sour In the World.” We will also look at the evolution of sour mix, the subtle art of beating egg whites, and the exciting resurgence of liqueurs in the cocktail space. Listen on to discover Morgenthaler's Amaretto Sour recipe — and don't forget to like, review, and subscribe! Jeffrey Morgenthaler's Amaretto Sour Recipe Ingredients 1 teaspoon of rich simple syrup (2:1) ½ ounce lightly beaten egg white 1 ounce of lemon juice ¾ ounce of cask-strength bourbon 1 ½ ounces of Amaretto Garnish: Lemon peel, brandied cherry DirectionsAdd all ingredients to a shaker with several large ice cubes. Shake until chilled. Strain into a 10-ounce Old Fashioned glass. Top with ice and garnish with a lemon twist and a brandied cherry on a toothpick, tucked into the lemon peel. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

About Ben Ben Goldfarb (@ben_a_goldfarb) is an award-winning environmental writer whose journalism has appeared in Mother Jones, Science, The Guardian, Orion Magazine, High Country News, Outside, Audubon Magazine, Pacific Standard, Hakai Magazine, VICE News, Yale Environment 360, and many other publications. His fiction has appeared in the Bellevue Literary Review, Motherboard, and The Hopper. He […] Read full article: Episode 97: On Re-watering The West With Beavers And Decommissioning Forest Service Roads With Ben Goldfarb

Chantel Prat is a Professor at the University of Washington with appointments in the Departments of Psychology, Neuroscience, and Linguistics, and at the Institute for Learning and Brain Sciences, the Center for Neurotechnology, and the Institute for Neuroengineering. A cognitive neuroscientist by training, her interdisciplinary research investigates the biological basis of individual differences in cognition, with an emphasis on understanding the shared neural mechanisms underpinning language and higher-level executive functions. She is a recipient of the Tom Trabasso Young Investigator Award from the Society of Text and Discourse and a Pathway to Independence Award from the National Institute of Health. Her work has been supported by over three million dollars of funding from agencies such as the National Institute of Health, the Office of Naval Research, and the Keck Foundation. Prat speaks internationally at events like The World Science Festival. She is featured in the upcoming documentary, I Am Human. Her studies have been profiled in media ranging from Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Science Daily to Rolling Stone, Popular Mechanics, Pacific Standard, Travel + Leisure, and National Public Radio. Topics covered in this episode: Studying the Brain Brain and Human Behaviors Neuroscience Neuro Connectivity To Be Different Brain Structures Neuroseduction Successes and Struggles Due To The Brain Cortisol for Stress Situations Adaptation Dopamine Carrot & Stick Learning Individuality Referenced in the episode: The Lindsey Elmore Show Ep | To learn more about Guest and her/his work, head over to https://www.chantelprat.com/ IG @chantelpratphd __________________________________________________________ If you're looking for fast acting in long lasting pain relief that helps with sports recovery, joint discomfort and stiffness, as well as being able to enjoy all of your favorite activities, my favorite supplement that I use to support the bodies natural pain responses help us to balance amatory function and use a special technology that helps to ensure efficient absorption and faster Relief Plus. Relief Plus from Amari have been scientifically shown to help improve sports recovery and joint health specifically, reduce join stiffness within three days, reduced joint discomfort within five days and an increase range of motion within seven days simply take one to three capsules ounces of water and if you are having a particularly bad day you can use up to four doses of three capsules each. Head to www.lindseyelmore.com/amari grab some Happy Juice and then bundle with Relief Plus to get all of the cortisol lowering benefits, the serotonin raising benefits and the dopamine modulating benefits of Happy Juice along side the fast acting and long long lasting pain relief of Relief Plus. Head to www.lindseyelmore.com/amari and get $10 dollars off of your first order. __________________________________________________________ Primal Life Organics skincare addresses the 5 pillars that help your skin to look healthy, bounce back and have a vibrant complexion. Skin needs to stay hydrated, have good blood flow, good collagen, good elastin and maintain muscle tone. Head to www.lindseyelmore.com/primallife to get the Glow package today and try out Lindsey's new favorite skincare. __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ We hope you enjoyed this episode. Come check us out at www.lindseyelmore.com/podcast.

[Explicit Language] Buzz's big 69th birthday weekend and the National Comedy Hall of Fame. Trump confessed to stealing TS/SCI documents because he's daring the grand jury to indict him. Fact checks on previous presidents and their records. Trump kept documents as leverage against NARA. Trump might have documents stashed at other properties. Buh-bye Tulsi Gabbard. Tim Ryan destroyed JD Vance in this week's debate. Trump also dared the DOJ to indict him for January 6th. Buzz's voter guide for downballot races. With Buzz Burbank, music by Pacific Standard, Mr. Grossman, and more!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As Appalachian Mysteria finished covering the story of Julie and Lollie, author Kathryn Miles completed her own book about the murders. In this episode, Kathryn uses her total access to Dierdre Enright's evidence to bring to light new information — including how we've been wrong about a key piece of evidence. Trailed: One Woman's Quest to Solve the Shenandoah Murders — Purchase Kathryn's book here.  Interviewees: Kathryn Miles — Kathryn Miles is an award-winning journalist and science writer. She received a Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy from Saint Louis University and took both her Master of Arts and Doctorate in English from the University of Delaware. Miles is the author of five books: Adventures with Ari, All Standing, Superstorm, Quakeland, and Trailed: One Woman's Quest to Solve the Shenandoah Murders. Her essays and articles have appeared in publications including Audubon, Best American Essays, The Boston Globe, Down East, Ecotone, History, The New York Times, Outside, Pacific Standard, Politico, Popular Mechanics, and Time.

Author Mike Mariani joins Tim to talk about what he learned about how people move on in their lives after enduring a life-changing trauma or catastrophe. He's the author of the new book called, “What Doesn't Kill Us Makes Us: Who we become after tragedy and trauma.” In this episode, Mike uses the famous saying that inspired the title of his book as a launching point to tell a story that doesn't sugar-coat how people respond to adversity, while providing hope and inspiration. https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/shapingopinion/Life_After_Catastrophe_auphonic.mp3 Friedrich Nietzsche was a late 19th Century German philosopher who had a great deal of influence on society at a pivotal time in history. His writings and his voice came along at a time when society itself was undergoing a transformation in both Europe and America, relying less on the agrarian economies of nations, and increasingly on an emerging industrial economy. Leaders and peoples were starting to question the status quo, and Nietzsche offered up some of the answers.  Yet there is one quote of his that has embedded itself into our culture, particularly in America, that is so ubiquitous that it is almost never questioned even to this day.  Nietzsche is the one who said, “What doesn't kill me makes me stronger.” This saying was the inspiration for a new book by Mike Mariani that states, “What doesn't kill us makes us,” but he doesn't finish the sentence. Does he believe it or not? Actually, it's not that simple. Mike has had his own share of troubles in life, things that didn't kill him, and for the longest time, he lived by that mantra, “What doesn't kill me makes me stronger.” But in the past ten years – Mike is only 36 years old now – he sensed that life isn't so black and white. Maybe the issue isn't whether something that doesn't kill us should make us stronger or weaker, just different. That was the starting point for his research and his book. If tragedy and trauma don't make us stronger, for better or worse, how they change us? To imagine the kinds of trauma Mike was thinking of, think of someone who lost the ability to walk, or someone who has been sent to prison for a long time and lost their freedom, or someone with a condition that prevents them from living the life they once knew. Mike asks, how does a person go about reconstructing their existence in the wake of calamity after much of that existence has been irretrievably lost? What do those whose lives have been knocked off their orbits have in common? How do we make sense of and find meaning in a life where suffering and misfortune go uncompensated? Before we talked about the stories or the themes of the book, I wanted to know how he researched it. Who did he talk to? How does he know? Links What Doesn't Kill Us Makes Us: Who we become after tragedy and trauma, by Mike Mariani (Penguin/Random House) Mike Mariani Website Review: 'What Doesn't Kill Us Makes Us,' Wall Street Journal The Curious Afterlife of a Brain Trauma Survivor, Wired Magazine About this Episode's Guest Mike Mariani Mike Mariani, Photo Credit: Diana Jahns Since graduating with his MA in literature, Mike Mariani has worked as an English professor and freelance journalist, writing feature articles for The New Yorker, The Atlantic, The Guardian, T: The New York Times Style Magazine, Newsweek, GQ, Vanity Fair, Mother Jones, and The Atavist and essays for The Believer, Slate, The Los Angeles Review of Books, Pacific Standard, The Nation, and Hazlitt. Some of the topics Mariani has written about include the history of medical gaslighting, criminal cases involving mental illness, the opioid crisis, and the neuroscience of inequality. Mariani currently resides with his wife in Northern California.