The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by Christopher Gillard, chef and writer, to discuss how cooking can help rebuild your life post-divorce. About the episode: The episode starts with Chris opening up about his separation story and the unexpected discoveries like pet-sitting and newfound love for cooking that inspired him to write his book ‘The Divorced Man's Kitchen Survival Guide'. He also explains how visiting different kitchens led him to formulate a ‘recipe' of essential tools & ingredients that everyone needs to cook up a fresh start post-divorce. Kate and Chris discuss why his self-care book and practical guidance are particularly important for men, and how nutritious cooking can help you get through a tough time and come out better than ever. They finish off by giving some actionable tips on how to improve your cooking habits, like planning smarter food shops and choosing to embrace imperfection when things don't go as planned.About our guest:Christopher H Gillard is a qualified chef, professional writer, photographic artist, filmmaker and a tech entrepreneur with over two decades experience in communications and innovative technology development. He also happens to be a divorcee who suddenly had to rebuild his life from the ground up in 2019 - no job, no money, no home and two little girls to look after. Chris's background as a professional chef combined with over 20 years in creative communications and tech innovation provided him with crucial skills and experience needed to successfully navigate the hardest period of his life. It led him to his accidental recipe for renewal and the subsequent creation of his book. In The Divorced Man's Kitchen Survival Guide, Chris is sharing his story and learnings in the hope of helping others, everywhere.More resources:You can get in touch with Chris on LinkedIn and you can buy his book The Divorced Man's Kitchen Survival Guide on AmazonYou can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!#LifeAfterDivorce

In the previous episode of The Divorce Podcast, Kate spoke to Cate Campbell about navigating intimacy when living together post-separation. In this episode, Kate wanted to delve deeper into another common challenge when it comes to sex and relationships – infidelity. What is it, why does it happen, and what can we do afterwards? About the episode:Kate begins by explaining what ‘infidelity' is and why there is no clear definition for it. She also shares some fascinating statistics on how often adultery causes marriages to end and gives us three main reasons as to why that happens. She finishes off with some advice for forgiveness, moving on and getting closure if the infidelity has occurred. Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references, so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children.More resources:We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable's advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

In this episode, I am joined by an award-winning author, Cate Campbell, to discuss intimacy, whether trial separations are a good idea, and boundaries while living together post-separation. About the episode:Kate and Cate begin by discussing what intimacy might look like for ex-partners, especially for those who have separated but are still living together. We also explore how boundaries might be set in those situations. We then move on to discussing break-up sex, its causes and consequences, and how to have a mature conversation about it afterwards. We also touch upon ‘trial separations' and why they might be unhealthy for you and your ex-partner. We finish by exploring boundaries with your family and friends after a split, and how little daily rituals can help you get through a tough time. Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children.About our guests:Cate Campbell is a psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer specialising in relationships and trauma, working with individuals, couples and families. She is accredited by the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), College of Sexual & Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and is an EMDR Europe. consultant. She is the author of The Relate Guide to Sex & Intimacy, Love & Sex in a New Relationship, Contemporary Sex Therapy and Sex Therapy: The Basics.More resources:You can learn more about Cate on her website and you can get in touch with her via email - cate.campbell@btopenworld.com We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today#LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by Dr Sarah Foley, a Lecturer in Developmental Psychology at the University of Edinburgh. They explore her current research on children's relationships with their parents in different post-separation child arrangements. Sarah talks about why this research is important and how you can get involved.About our guests:Dr Sarah Foley is a Lecturer in Developmental Psychology at the University of Edinburgh. Her research explores parent-child relationships and the psychological wellbeing of family members across diverse family forms (e.g., elective co-parents, those created through assisted reproductive technologies, LGBTQIA+ parent-headed families) and transitions (e.g., becoming a parent, separation or divorce). Her current research is exploring children's relationships with their parents, adjustment and experiences of different post-separation child arrangements in England and Scotland. This is funded by an Economic and Social Research Council (ESRC) New Investigators Grant. She completed her PhD at the Centre for Family Research, University of Cambridge.More resources:You can register to take part in Sarah's study here, and you can learn a bit more about this study on the University of Edinburgh's website. For more support with co-parenting, amicable offer Separating With Children Service as well as an app for all your childcare arrangements and communications. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable's advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by Andrew Keefe, a Psychodynamic Psychotherapist and Pilates Teacher, to discuss how Pilates can support you during divorce and aid your recovery afterward. Andrew shares the science of trauma, how the nervous system functions under stress and why Pilates is an effective tool to help with the emotional aftermath of a relationship breakdown. About the episode:Kate and Andrew begin by exploring what trauma means in the context of divorce and the physical and mental symptoms it can trigger. Andrew explains the biological responses that often occur during and after a traumatic event like separation and how the controlled movements and breathing techniques at the core of Pilates can help soothe these reactions. He also shares other practical strategies for coping with divorce and separation, including simple breathing exercises, the importance of releasing tension in the body and how to build a supportive network.About our guest:Andrew Keefe is a Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist, Pilates Teacher and Personal Trainer (Level 4, Lower Back Pain Specialist.) He works with mind and body to help people recover from trauma and trauma / stress-related Chronic Lower Back Pain. Andrew has been a therapist for twenty-five years, including sixteen years of clinical work with traumatised refugees and survivors of torture. He now works in private practice in Holborn and East London, specialising in working with people living with the traumatic effects of childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence, abusive relationships, birth trauma, violence and chronic lower back pain. He also uses fitness sessions and Pilates to help people recover their mental wellbeing.More resources:You can learn more about Andrew and his work on his websiteWe'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#LifeAfterDivorce

As part of Mental Health Awareness week, today Kate answers a listener's question all about ‘divorce anxiety'. Divorce and separation are never easy, whether amicable or not. As a relationship counsellor and a divorcee herself, Kate shares some tips to help you cope when you feel overwhelmed by worry during this time.    About the episode:Kate begins by explaining what ‘divorce anxiety' is and how fear of the unknown is often at the root of common worries and concerns, especially at the beginning of the divorce process. She then shares four top tips to help you protect your mental health during this tricky time – and start the divorce process on the right foot.More resources:Struggling emotionally? Explore our partners at Betterhelp for therapy or counselling support. You can also reach out to your GP or mental health charities like Mind or Samaritans.  We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable's advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

In this episode, host Kate is joined by Dr Samantha Gaines, Head of the RSPCA's Companion Animals Science and Policy department, and Carol Harte, Divorce Specialist at amicable, to debunk some common myths about separating with pets.About the episode:Kate, Carol and Samantha break down common myths about pet ownership during separation or divorce. They explain the legal realities, the emotional impact on pets – whether it's a dog, cat or even a hamster – and share practical tips to help pets adjust to new routines. You'll also learn how to spot signs your pet might be struggling, and what to do if neither you nor your ex can care for them after your divorce or separation.About our guests:Dr Samantha Gaines is Head of the RSPCA's Companion Animals Science and Policy department. She leads a specialist team who use evidence to advocate for good lives for companion, working and sporting animals through corporate and government policy change and human behaviour change. She is the lead on a variety of issues including dog control, racing greyhounds and dogs kept for working purposes. Prior to working at the RSPCA, Sam worked as a research scientist for the Defence Science and Technology Laboratory. She managed various projects studying the behaviour, performance and welfare of working dogs. She has an MSc in applied animal behaviour and welfare as well as a PhD from Bristol University, where she studied the effects of housing and husbandry on the welfare of kennelled dogs.Carol Harte is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and holds decades of experience in global change management, project negotiation and training. Having embarked on a career change to become an accredited family mediator, Carol aims to support separating parents and pet parents in their transition to being successful co-parents.More resources:You can find more advice on how to improve your pet's welfare on the RSPCA website. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Pets

This week, Kate is going behind the headlines of Manchester City manager Pep Guardiola and his ex-partner Cristina Serra's divorce. Reports claim they're using the ‘one lawyer, one couple' approach to end their marriage while staying on good terms.About the episode:Kate breaks down the top three benefits of a collaborative divorce, using Pep Guardiola's separation as an example. She explains who this approach works best for, and explores whether amicable divorces really are as rare as the media makes out  – or if they're becoming the norm.More resources:We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by author and speaker Emma Campbell, better known to her Instagram followers as Limitless Em, to discuss her separation stories, cancer diagnosis and passion for running.About the episode:Emma starts by telling Kate how her parents' marriage and her relationship with her dad shaped her own romantic life. They go on to discuss her relationship with the father of her four children (including triplets!) and her difficult fertility journey. Emma shares her very personal take on how she found separation more difficult than her cancer diagnosis around the same time.Kate and Emma then talk about Emma's subsequent marriage and the trials and tribulations of a blended family, what made it special and how it ultimately ended in divorce. Emma tells Kate why taking the time to feel the pain and sadness is vital after a separation. Ever the optimist, she finishes by discussing her passion for running and why she believes that physical activity can help you get through anything, from cancer to a breakup. About our guest:Emma Campbell is an author, speaker and podcast host known to her 66K followers on Instagram as Limitless Em, where she shares aspects of the incredible journey she's been on as a cancer survivor, single mum of teenage triplets and so much more. She is known for her honesty, vulnerability and open-hearted approach to life and passionately believes that we all have limitless potential despite the challenges we may face. Emma offers hope to thousands of women in the breast cancer community. She has learnt to celebrate a body that has been through so much, whilst accepting that she will remain on cancer treatment for life.Emma has completed two Virgin London Marathons, the Great South Run, the Vitality 10K, takes part in CRUK's Race for Life every year and has a media place in the 2025 TCS London Marathon where she'll be running as part of Team Bowelbabe, raising vital funds for cancer research. More resources:Find more about Emma Campbell on Instagram and on her website.Donate to Emma's London Marathon fundraiser for Bowelbabe Fund here.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate is joined by the founder of Restored Lives Erik Castenskiold to discuss how to thrive as a child of separated parents, even as an adult.About the episode:Erik starts off by sharing his own experience of divorce and how it ultimately led him to found Restored Lives, a UK-based charity that provides resources and support for individuals and families affected by relationship breakdown. He then goes on to talk about Your Direction, a course that offers tools and skills for 12-30-year-old children of divorce to help them find future happiness and success. Kate and Erik explore why the course was created and what the sessions cover. They also address common concerns that parents may have about the initiative. Finally, they discuss the types of conversations that 12-17-year-old and 18-30-year-old children of divorce might be having during the sessions and how both age groups can benefit from this kind of support.About our guest:Erik Castenskiold is the founder of the charity Restored Lives which helps adults and children navigate the impact of divorce and separation. In the last 23 years, over 3,000 adults have been supported across 10 different countries with multiple resources, including an eight-week course, a book, and countless videos. Restored Lives has partnered with Spurgeons, a children's charity, to launch Your Direction, a series of workshops for children of separated parents aged 12-17 and 18-30 years old. Your Direction helps to break the silence surrounding divorce and separation and helps children to build resilience, improve their wellbeing and enhance their relationships with their parents, as well as their friends and future partners. More resources:You can learn more about Restored Lives and Your Direction on their website. You can also follow Your Direction on Instagram for helpful tips and testimonials.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by the founder of Divorce Recovery Seminars, author, former barrister, and family court judge Christopher Compston to discuss his personal experience of divorce through his unique professional legal lens.About the episode:Kate and Christopher start by discussing Christopher's parents' divorce and how this formed his view of marriage. He shares an invaluable insider perspective on the legal process having worked as a barrister and a judge. Christopher then goes on to explore his own experience of adultery and divorce. Kate and Christopher finish off by sharing some tips on how to recover, move on and lead a happy life after divorce, as well as some hard-hitting truths about how painful the experience can truly be.About our guest:Christopher Compston is a former barrister and was a Circuit Judge for nearly thirty years, dealing with everything from criminal to family matters. He retired in 2013. Twice married, he has had six children. For many years he and his current wife, Caroline, attended Holy Trinity Church in Brompton where he started and ran Divorce Recovery seminars for ten years. Christopher has written two books on the subject: ‘Recovering from Divorce' (1993) and ‘Breaking Up Without Cracking Up' (2011).More resources:You can learn more about Restored Lives on their website, and you can purchase Christopher's book ‘Breaking Up Without Cracking Up' on Amazon.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning author Laura Pritchett to discuss how a lack of communication led to the end of her marriage – and how journalling and writing helped her understand the truth and ultimately move on.About the episodeKate and Laura begin by discussing Laura's essay, ‘No sound, no fury, no marriage', and her divorce experience, which inspired her to write the piece. Laura explains how a lack of easy banter and general communication barriers ultimately led to the end of her marriage – and how journalling and writing her latest novel, ‘Three Keys', helped her understand the truth and move on. Finally, Laura reflects on her 22-year marriage and what she's learned about the part she played in the divorce. She shares how she eventually told her kids the news and the lessons she's taking forward into her next chapter…About our guestLaura Pritchett is an award-winning author of seven novels, two nonfiction books and editor of three anthologies. Her essay ‘No sound, no fury, no marriage' was featured in the Modern Love column of The New York Times, and her latest fiction book. ‘Three Keys' is based on her own experience of divorce. All her work is rooted in the natural world, celebrating the people who live close to it. When not writing or teaching, she's generally found exploring the mountains of her home state of Colorado, particularly those near the ranch where she was raised.More resourcesDiscover Laura Prichett's work on her website.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#SeparationStories

In this episode, Kate is joined by a multi-award-winning Financial Coach and international author Catherine Morgan to discuss pensions and other financial aspects of divorce. About the episode:Kate and Catherine begin by discussing Catherine's journey to becoming a financial coach and how personal life trauma shapes her relationship with money. They consider how money trauma may affect thoughts and actions during a divorce or separation. The conversation moves on to discuss pensions and why many people have such a strong emotional attachment to them. Catherine gives advice on how to avoid unfair pension arrangements during a divorce and what steps can be taken to improve your financial situation post-divorce. Finally, Catherine shares her top tips on how to get on top of your finances through scheduling ‘money dates' with yourself and much more. About our guest:Catherine Morgan is a Financial Wellbeing Speaker, multi-award-winning Financial Coach and international author. Her Amazon #1 best-selling book, It's Not About the Money, presents a trauma-informed psychological approach to money. As the founder of The Money Panel®, Catherine trains financial professionals through her acclaimed Financial Coach Certification programme and works with consumers under her personal brand by running courses and retreats. After 15 years as a regulated financial adviser, Catherine created her current business focussed on the psychology of money. Recognised as one of the top 32 female entrepreneurs by Business Leader, her expertise has been featured in Forbes, Grazia, Meta, Amazon, The Telegraph and more. Her podcast ‘It's not about the money' is in the top 0.5% in the world. More resources:Learn more about Catherine on her website. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#Finances

In this episode, Kate is joined by therapist, author and former divorce lawyer Joanna Harrison to share expert tips on how to have a healthy argument in relationships, as parents and post-separation. About the episode:Kate and Joanna begin by discussing Joanna's book, Five Arguments All Couples (Need To) Have And Why The Washing Up Matters (Souvenir Press, £9.99). Joanna explains how key couple differences when it comes to communication, in-laws, daily chores, personal space and sex can all lead to arguments in relationships. Kate and Joanna also explore how these conflicts can manifest between ex-partners and co-parents. Throughout the conversation, they consider each sticking point and give expert tips on how to have healthier, more constructive disagreements. The episode ends with Joanna's communication tips for co-parents, including creating space and time for important decisions and encouraging curiosity about your ex-partner. About our guest:Joanna Harrison is an experienced couple therapist, former divorce lawyer and author of Five Arguments All Couples (Need To) Have And Why The Washing Up Matters (Souvenir Press, £9.99). She regularly speaks and writes about relationship issues in the media and specialises in supporting couples who are considering separation or going through it. More resources:Learn more about Joanna on her website or purchase her book in your local bookstore or online. You can also read our blog ‘Is it over? Should I leave?' on our website.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, amicable co-founder Kate is joined by Life Coach Katie Lloyd to talk about emotional regulation, maturity and how to get your mojo back following a relationship breakdown. About the episode:Kate and Katie begin by exploring her personal divorce story as a new mum and how this impacted her life outlook and career. They then look at the importance of emotional regulation and maturity during the separation process and subsequent co-parenting journey. Katie explains how different people's perspectives can influence negotiations during a separation. They also discuss the role of friends and family, how community can be a wonderful support during and after separation and finish with Katie's top tips on how to get through a rocky period and come out stronger.About our guest:Katie is a life coach, certified NLP practitioner and mental health first aider and enjoys helping clients get their mojo back after midlife wobbles. She is a metaphorical handhold through mid-life ups and downs – she knows becoming a parent or a relationship breakdown can be a tricky time. If you throw co-parenting into the mix, there's a lot to navigate! Customers go to Katie for help regulating their emotions and getting their sparkle back. More resources:You can follow Katie on Instagram.Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#EmotionalJourney 

In this episode, amicable co-founder Kate is joined by Relationship & Divorce Coach Sonia Gupta to talk about her arranged marriage, separation story and why she joined a growing number of people hosting divorce celebration parties. About the episode:Kate and Sonia begin the episode by exploring Sonia's arranged marriage, relationship and parenting journey. Sonia speaks candidly about how she struggled emotionally before making the decision to divorce. They also discuss the lack of family support Sonia experienced at the time. Sonia finishes by exploring the freedom she feels post-divorce and why she hosted a divorce party for her friends and family to celebrate the beginning of a new chapter. About our guest:Sonia is a mum of two who became a relationship and divorce coach following her own divorce. Sonia's journey serves as a beacon of hope, encouraging others to break free from stigma and judgment and embrace the promise of a fulfilling life post-divorce. More resources:Learn more about Sonia on her website, and follow her on Instagram for inspirational content. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#LifeAfterDivorce

In this episode, Kate is joined by Paul Richardson, an amicable Divorce Specialist, and Carlie Norris, an Accredited Family Mediator, to discuss how the voice of the child can be heard during the divorce and separation process.About the episode:Kate and her guests begin by discussing how child arrangements were made historically, and what are the current options available to separating parents. Paul then goes on to explain how amicable's services help with child arrangements, and Carlie talks about the process and benefits of child-inclusive mediation. They also talk about how transparent conversations can reduce the overall level of conflict and strengthen relationships between both co-parents and children. Paul and Carlie finish off by giving tips on how to navigate the emotional side of the process for you and your children. About our guests: Paul is a Divorce Specialist with amicable and has been in family law for 20 years, qualifying as a family solicitor in 2010. He is also an Accredited Family Mediator with vast experience of working with couples to arrive at mutually agreed to prioritise any children of the family. Paul stepped away from his role as solicitor to join amicable in 2024 to help those going through separation work together to resolve issues regarding divorce, finances and children. He understands the emotions couples are going through and is able to adopt a sensitive, yet professional approach, to help guide them through the process.Carlie Norris is an Accredited Family Mediator and is Child-Inclusive Mediation trained. As the founder of Circle Mediation, Carlie has a particular passion in considering the child's voice in family separation and in November 2023 co-authored the Family Solutions Group Report ‘A Child's Right to Matter'. With more than a decade of dedicated experience in Restorative Justice, Restorative Practice, Family Group Conferencing, and Safeguarding within Children's Services, Carlie's enthusiasm for these fields shines through in her work. She is deeply committed to facilitating processes that empower participants to create meaningful, lasting solutions. Beyond her mediation practice, Carlie's passion extends to education, as she continues to deliver training in restorative interventions and conflict resolution to organisations across both the public and private sectors.More resources:Get in touch with Carlie Norris through Circle Mediation or through Family Mediators Association. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by amicable's Divorce Specialists, Anthony Syder and Bec Jones, to share tips on coping with not being with your children.Perhaps your child is with their other parent, and you may be listening to this on Christmas or another special occasion. About the episode:This episode looks at tips and advice to help you get through. Kate and her guests begin by describing common arrangements for children and focus on typical holiday arrangements and the effects they might have on you as a parent if you don't get to spend this time with your kids. They explore how arrangements might affect children's feelings, and what steps you can take to ensure that everyone has a great Christmas day without feeling guilty or worried. Anthony and Bec also share tips on how to approach talking about Christmas or other holiday arrangements with your co-parent and planning the festive season in advance. They finish off by sharing some tips about self-care if you're spending this Christmas without your children.About our guests:Anthony is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 8 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families.Having had over 10 years of experience as a divorce lawyer, Bec leads amicable's Negotiation team. Bec played a vital role in developing the amicable process and is renowned for her empathetic approach. With expertise in child arrangements, blended families, and complex finances, she is a fountain of knowledge.More resources:We understand that special occasions can be hard to cope with if you're not spending them with your children. If you feel that you need some professional help with mental health or simply an unbiased person to talk about your situation with, please visit BetterHelp via this link to get 20% off the first month for amicable customers.Mind is a mental health charity that is always here to provide you with the help and support that you might need. Alternatively, please get in touch with your GP or call 111 to get mental health help and advice.Please get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by parenting team, Dan and Rosie, to talk about blended families.About the episode:Kate and her guests begin by exploring Dan and Rosie's very different separations with Rosie's being more amicable then Dan's. They talk about the value of prioritising collaborating with your ex-partner. They also describe how they introduced each other to their children and how they approached conversations with ex-partners. Dan and Rosie look at common challenges like disciplining each others children and navigating boundaries. They finish by talking about unexpected joys and working alongside their ex-partners new relationships and families.   About our guests:Dan is a 34-year-old Dad from Hampshire, and co-parent to his beautiful eight-year-old daughter Evie. Evie's mum and Dan separated just over five years ago when she was two and have since been navigating the ups and downs of a co-parenting life which as we know can be tough. Dan started to share their journey together on social media in an honest, no-frills and candid way, to show other co-parents who are struggling with parental separation that they aren't alone. He now has a substantial online following and is known as The Breaking Dad. Rosie is the loving mother to Tilly, 9, and Liza, 5. After meeting Dan, they began the rewarding but sometimes challenging journey of blending their families and now expect a baby girl together later this year. More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#Coparenting

In this episode, Kate is joined by Farhana Hussain, the UK's first Divorce Doula, to discuss the healing journey post-divorce.About the episode:Kate and Farhana start the episode by talking about her journey to becoming a ‘divorce doula', including her own struggles of finding support in the emotional journey of divorce. Farhana shares her own take on cooperative parenting and unique nesting arrangements. they then look at how she helps others through separation and how to get creative with deciding arrangements for children. Kate was fascinated by Farhana's process of helping people their ‘why' which they can use as as a guiding light throughout the separation and co-parenting process.About our guest:Farhana is on a mission to revolutionise divorce support. As a British Bangladeshi and devoted mother to three teenagers, she combines practical advice with deep emotional and spiritual healing, streamlining the cost of divorce on your finances, mind, and body. She has been featured as a divorce expert in magazines, broadsheets, and national papers, including the BBC, Evening Standard & Good Housekeeping. More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#Coparenting

In this episode Kate is joined by Louise Oliver, a Certified Financial Planner, to discuss the recent budget announcement and how it will affect divorcing couples at different stages of the process.About the episode:Kate and Louise start by summarising the main headlines from the announcement. Then they go on to explore in detail how CGT, increased stamp duty on 2nd homes, tax on the sale of businesses, increased VAT on private schools and changes to the rules on inheriting pensions affect divorcing couples and their children. They finish off by giving tips on how to manage the anxiety that comes with financial changes by seeking timely advice as well as having important conversations about these changes at every stage of the divorce process. About our guest:Louise Oliver is a Certified Financial Planner with over 30 years of experience. She's often a go-to expert for commentary for the National and local media. Louise is also a member of Resolution, a community of family justice professionals who work with families and individuals to resolve issues involving the breakdown of your marriage in a constructive way.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#Finances 

In this episode, Kate is joined by Paul Roseby OBE to talk about his separation and divorce story.About the episodeIn this episode, Paul opens up about his divorce, sharing the sudden shift in his long-term marriage when his ex-husband decided to end their relationship. He describes the emotional challenges of navigating the separation and how he coped with the pain. Kate and Paul explore the valuable lessons he gained from the experience, including the three G's. They end the episode by discussing his current relationship and the growth that came from his journey. About our guests:Paul is a broadcaster and CEO and Artistic Director of the National Youth Theatre. In over a decade at the helm of the world's leading youth arts charity he has commissioned over 150 plays, pioneered the NYT REP Company, led a ground-breaking international cultural exchange programme and directed many hit productions. They include the London 2012 Team Welcome Ceremonies, Handel & Hendrix at Somerset House, Generation Sext for Sky Arts, When Romeo Met Juliet for BBC2, and Tom Stoppard's abridgement of Shakespeare's The Merchant of Venice at the Royal Opera House and the National Centre for Performing Arts in Beijing. More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#SeparationStories

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jamie Cole, the co-founder of Sail Homes and Sail Legal, and Edwina Homfray-Davies, a Licensed Conveyancer with over 20 years of experience and part of Sail Legal, to discuss the most common property and divorce FAQs. About the episodeThe discussion starts by exploring the impact property ownership has during divorce and separation. Jamie and Edwina look at how property is treated in a divorce including options such as buying-out your ex-partner, joint ownership or selling and splitting the proceeds. They consider the various professionals you may need to use, such as conveyancers, mortgage brokers, estate agents and your bank, and which documents you need for buying and selling property during a divorce. Edwina and Jamie give great tips on Stamp duty land tax and how to ‘ensure you're exempt from the additional 3% levy. They also discuss the customer journey in a transaction between ex-spouses, and how a Separation Agreement can speed up the process. Jamie and Edwina share the most common pitfalls and a few top tips for selling a property and explain how their expertise in dealing with transfers post-divorce can make the whole process a lot smoother and quicker. About our guests:Jamie Cole, co-founder of Sail Homes, has been involved in property since 2017, specialising in probate and conveyancing. He has successfully exited two businesses, and prior to his property career, worked in fitness software. Jamie now focuses on helping clients navigate property sales during life transitions, such as divorce, with a strong track record of delivering results. Edwina Homfray-Davies is a Licensed Conveyancer and Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Legal Executives (FCILEx) with over 20 years of experience in conveyancing. She brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to every property transaction, having successfully navigated clients through countless sales, purchases, and property law complexities.For the past three years, Edwina has been at the helm of Sail Legal, which offers a modern, client-focused approach to conveyancing. Known for her meticulous attention to detail and commitment to smooth, transparent property transactions, Edwina is passionate about delivering excellence in legal services.More resources:Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.#Finances

In this episode, Kate is joined by Dr. Angharad Rudkin and Anthony Syder to talk about neurodiversity, divorce and separation.About the episode:In this episode, we look at what neurodiversity is and explore how it impacts both neurodivergent adults and children during family separation. Angharad and Anthony share their tips on navigating specific issues, such as the negotiation process, legal process and cooperative parenting. About our guests:Angharad is a Clinical Psychologist with over 20 years of experience working with children and their families and lecturing on child psychology at the University of Southampton. In collaboration with OnlyMums and OnlyDads Angharad designed and runs the popular "What About Henry?" course for family law professionals. Angharad has co-authored parenting books and children's books and was the Consultant Editor for the divorce guide “101 Questions about Separation and Divorce with Children”. Angharad is the author of “The Split Survival Kit” which she wrote with children's author Ruth Fitzgerald. Angharad regularly appears on TV and radio as an expert on child and family issues and has recently been shortlisted for the Resolution Children's Champion Award.Anthony is a divorce specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 8 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families.Angharad is running a one-hour session titled ‘Neurodiversity – What does it mean?'. For more details and to book, please click here.

In this episode, Kate was joined by Joe & Kate Sharp, two amicable customers, to share their divorce story. About the guests: Joe & Kate Sharp are two amicable customers who appear on the podcast to talk about their divorce journey and experience with amicable. About the episode: In this episode, host Kate Daly was joined by two amicable customers, Kate and Joe, to talk about their amicable divorce and unique co-parenting arrangements. Kate is a home-educating parent and Joe works in IT, having given up he's teaching career during the divorce process, to be able to provide more income to the family. In this episode, they talk about Kate & Joe's relationship, the early stages of their separation, how they navigated the divorce process and negotiating a financial agreement using amicable's services and their unique co-parenting setup.

In this episode, Kate was joined by psychotherapist Lulu Sunnucks to explore trauma during relationships, separation and divorce. About the episode:Lulu Sunnucks is a psychotherapist who joins Kate to explore trauma. In the episode, they look at the varying degrees of trauma during and after a relationship breakdown. Lulu gives some great tips and advice about navigating trauma and how to break patterns when moving on to new relationships to healthy and happy relationships.  About our guest: Lulu worked as a Lifestyle Strategist and Personal Coach to some of the world's most powerful individuals for twenty years before retraining as a Trauma Psychotherapist.  She completed her clinical placement in a Women's refuge, working with survivors of rape, domestic violence, sex trafficking and sexual violence. Lulu now runs her own busy private practice in the Cotswolds and she is currently working towards registration as a clinical sexologist and couples therapist.Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing, including abuse, sexual violence and poor mental health.Organisations who can help:Women's aidRefuge ManKind Initiative Men's advice lineDads UnlimitedYour local GPMind - mental health charitySamaritans - dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19Is your life in danger? - dial 999Outside of the UK? Search for help here

In this episode, Kate was joined by the Founder and Managing Director of NameSwitch, Cécile Mazuet-Eller, to discuss navigating name changes in relationships, separation, and divorce. About the episodeKate and Cécile focus on why people choose to change their name following a change in relationship status, including the practical and emotional factors. Cécile deep-dives into what happens during a separation or divorce. She provides her tips and advice around when's the best time to do this, as well as common pitfalls.   About the guestHaving experienced first-hand the pain and frustration of navigating through the name-change maze after getting divorced, Cecile set up NameSwitch to help others blitz through their name-change and embrace their next life chapter with simple, affordable packages. NameSwitch is the first and only service in the UK to offer name-change notification as well as deed poll packages.You can download NameSwitch's free name change checklist here and can find them on all social media channels, including; TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and YouTube. To order a certified copy of your original decree absolute or final order, click here.

In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning comedian, writer, and actress Harriet Kemsley to discuss her divorce.About the episodeIn part two, Kate is joined by comedian Harriet Kemsley to talk about her marriage, separation, and divorce from fellow comedian Bobby Mair. Harriet talks about why Bobby and her separated, how they have managed to achieve an amicable separation, their child-centred co-parenting arrangements, and how they have navigated challenges during the process. About the guestHarriet is an award-winning comedian, writer and actress. She has starred in the Viceland reality sitcom Bobby and Harriet: Get Married, which she co-created and co-wrote with her ex-husband, Bobby Mair, to huge critical acclaim. She can also be seen on Dave's Hypothetical, ITV's Hey Tracey, Comedy Central's Roast Battle, and is a recurring guest on 8 out of 10 Cats Does Countdown and 8 Out of 10 Cats. Her other credits include hosting the BBC Radio 4 Comedy Club, The Radio 1 Comedy Lounge, BBC3's Comedy Marathon, The One Show (Edinburgh Special) and Kevin's Hart's LOL Live. Harriet's awards include the Leicester Mercury New Act of the Year Finalist, Funny's Funny Winner, Up The Creek New Act of the Year Winning and Leicester Square New Act of the Year Finalist.  She has been described by Time Out as ‘a very funny rising star' and as one of Rhod Gilbert's ‘Ten Comics to See' in the Mail on Sunday.

In this episode, Kate is joined by comedian Bobby Mair to talk about his divorce.About the episode:In this first of two episodes, Kate is joined by comedian Bobby Mair to talk about his marriage, separation, and divorce from fellow comedian Harriet Kemlsey. Bobby talks about how they have managed to achieve an amicable separation, created child-centred co-parenting arrangements, and the role of their friends and family during their separation. Kate and Bobby explore some challenges, and Bobby shares his tips on separating amicably. About the guest:  Bobby Mair is a Canadian stand-up comedian based in London. He starred in his own sitcom with his wife on Vice and Comedy Central called Bobby and Harriet: Get Married, he has appeared multiple times on Comedy Central's Roast Battle including appearing in a battle with his wife that got millions of hits online. His other credits include 8 Out of 10 Cats (Channel 4), and Never Mind the Buzzcocks (BBC2). He's opened for Doug Stanhope, Bill Burr and Bill Maher and appeared three times at Just For Laughs in Montreal. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by Coach and Author Ali Mortimer to discuss navigating difficult moments in relationships and how finding joy can help in this journey. About the episodeKate and Ali begin the episode by looking at Ali's separation story, where she talks about how her relationship was taken to the brink following her husband's infidelity and how they were able to repair their relationship following Ali's journey of self-discovery and their joint relationship work. Ali then dives into the idea of 'finding joy' and how it is created on the foundations of holistic health and peace of mind, something Kate and Ali explore in navigating rocky patches in relationships. They also look at the idea that although Ali is still married to her husband, they both identify with being in their second marriage, having grieved the loss of their first. This is a fantastic episode for listeners in any stage of a relationship, whether you're looking for tools to create a healthy, happy relationship or whether you want to understand if you're relationship is past the point of repair. Meet our guestAli is a Mentor, Coach, Speaker and Author who focuses on experiencing joy in life. Ali believes that to die happy is to have lived a joyous life, one of pure abundance, prosperity, generosity and fun.Ali has endeavoured to embody this philosophy after her own loss and trauma, finding her way out of darkness into light, overcoming and embracing obstacles of health, life, work and love, and creating her own business from her motivations.Ali believes Joy is created on the foundations of holistic health and peace of mind; amplified with love and dreams. She knows now that all paths lead to Joy when walked with love. Have the courage to take those first tentative steps towards joy.

In this episode, Kate is joined by the founder of Octopus Legacy, Sam Grice to discuss death and divorce.Meet our guestSam Grice is the founder of Octopus Legacy. In 2017, Sam's Mum died suddenly in a car accident, the process that followed was overwhelming, and the grief was made much harder by the tedious hours of paperwork, and legal admin that comes after a loss.Sam founded Octopus Legacy to make life easier for the people who are left behind after someone dies.Octopus Legacy has since helped over 300,000 people plan for death and find support after a loss. They offer a range of estate planning services from wills to life insurance, as well as probate and bereavement support. When people think about planning for death they think about writing a will, sorting a funeral plan, and taking out life insurance. Octopus Legacy aims to take these cold processes and turn them into something much more human, inviting you to share more than money.About the episodeKate and Sam begin this episode by looking at Sam's story. They explore the concept of grief and how it connects with the loss felt during a divorce or separation, as well as other aspects of the emotional journey. They look at the legal steps required after loss and the idea that you need to update your will whenever there's a life change, like a divorce or separation. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by Professor Richard Susskind OBE KC (Hon) to discuss the future of family law and legal services.About the episodeThis episode is focused on technology, the future of family law and legal services. Richard explains how the landscape has changed and what we, as consumers, can expect for the future. Especially when it comes to AI, alternative dispute resolution delivered remotely and things that haven't even been imagined yet.  Meet our guestRichard is the world's most cited author on the future of legal services. He is President of The Society for Computers and Law and he served as Technology Adviser to the Lord Chief Justice of England and Wales. His main area of expertise is the future of professional services and the way that AI and other technologies are changing the work of lawyers. He advises leading professional firms, in-house legal departments, and governments and judiciaries around the world. Richard has authored ten books, including The Future of Law and Tomorrow's Lawyers. He has also contributed more than 150 columns to The Times. In 2000, he was made an OBE, and In 2022, the King approved Richard's appointment as an Honorary King's Counsel. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning magazine writer Lotte Jeffs and amicable Divorce Specialist, Anthony Syder to discuss queer parenting and different family structures.Meet the guestsLotte is an award-winning magazine writer, an author and podcaster. They are a contributing editor for Grazia and have hosted the award-winning podcast ‘Some Families' as well as ‘Grazia Life Advice' and most recently ‘From Gay To Ze'. Lotte writes for broadsheet newspapers, and international magazines and was previously Deputy Editor of ELLE. Lotte lives in London with their wife, daughter and two cats.Anthony is a divorce specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 10 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child, as well as diverse and inclusive families.About the episodeKate and Lotte begin the episode by exploring Lotte's story and current family dynamics. They then move on to look at the topic of LGBTQ+ families and the unique challenges they face during a divorce or parental separation. Later, they explore the dynamics children create in blended families and the different communities and support structures available in the face of separation.

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jodie Cariss, Founder of the online therapy platform Self Space to discuss the emotional journey of separation and the role of forgiveness in the healing process.Meet our guestsJodie is a therapist with over twenty years of experience in the field and a Tavistock-trained executive coach. Jodie has fast become a leading voice advocating for accessible mental health support.Jodie is the co-author of 'How to Grow Through What You Go Through', published by Penguin in 2022, and regularly contributes to panel talks, podcasts and media titles such as Stylist Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Vogue and The Times.  About the episodeKate and Jodie begin this episode by discussing Jodie's background, and how she got into her profession and ended up founding Self Space, including Jodie's individual experience with divorce. Throughout the episode, they discuss topics such as forgiveness, moving past and overcoming resentment, and replacing it with compassion, especially when it comes to co-parenting.

In this episode, Kate is joined by Founder of the Bristol Grandparents Support Group, Jane Jackson, and amicable Divorce Specialist, Anthony Syder to discuss role of grandparents during parental separation and divorce.About the episode Kate, Jane and Anthony touch on a variety of topics including what can happen during an acrimonious separation, especially how grandparents can lose touch with their grandchildren, as well as the rights they may have and the more amicable ways of regaining contact. This episode is full of tips and highlights the importance of putting the children first, as well as the value grandparents can bring to children's upbringing.  Meet the guestsJane founded the Bristol Grandparents Support Group in 2007 when she lost contact with her granddaughter due to her sons' divorce.The support group aims to inform people of the issues surrounding Grandparents and their rights to see their Grandchildren when contact has been denied.Jane holds bi-monthly support groups remotely to help grandparents deal with estrangement, an issue affecting one in seven.Anthony is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 10  years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families.

In this episode, Kate is joined by former family barrister turned therapist and author, Charlotte Friedman. About the episodeThe focus of this episode is loneliness. Kate and Charlotte begin by exploring what loneliness is, whether it's a physical or mental feeling or both, and how loneliness links to grief, as well as the emotional journey of divorce and separation. They discuss seeking professional help and how children and other family members can sense and react to loneliness. Finally, Charlotte and Kate discuss coping mechanisms for loneliness, especially post-separation.About the guestCharlotte decided to move from the courtroom to the therapist's chair to help people manage the emotional journey of divorce. In her book, Breaking Upwards, Charlotte offers calm, therapeutic advice on everything from managing loneliness to letting go of grievance. Charlotte is a trained Psychodynamic Psychotherapist registered with the British Psychoanalytic Council and the Tavistock Society. She is also the founder of the Divorce Support Group which has provided a community for people trying to manage the emotional impact of divorce and separation.

In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical psychologist, Angharad Rudkin, and solicitor, mediator, and campaigner Helen Adam. About the episode Kate and Helen begin the episode by discussing the Family Solutions Group (FSG) and explaining the Right to Matter report. They move on to discuss who in Government currently takes responsibility for children when parents separate. Helen explores some of the consultations' findings as well as the common questions that emerged from the UK Youth Parliament. Later on in the episode, Kate and Angharad discuss how children and families are impacted during parental separation, whether divorce or separation impacts children's mental health and to what extent. Also, they explore what this can look like day-to-day and what the key factors are that lead to significant impact. Finally, Helen and Adam give their recommendations for further help and advice and the next steps for future reports and actions on the level of government.About the guestsHelen Adam started her work with separating families as a solicitor in London. Following a career break, she retrained as a mediator and founded Wells Family Mediation. Helen is also chair of the Family Solutions Group (FSG). The FSG presses for coordinated political oversight and funding for separated families. We've previously recorded an episode on language with Helen, so make sure to have a listen. Dr Angharad Rudkin is a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce and separation from the perspective of children.Angharad is also an expert for the Metro's relationship column, offers training and consultation for family lawyers and worked as a lecturer on the Clinical Psychology doctorate at the University of Southampton for 12 years.Angharad was a consulting editor for ‘101 Questions Answered about Separating with Children' and has recently published a book for children on how to cope with their parent's divorce, The Split Survival Kit, written with children's author Ruth Fitzgerald. We've also recorded an episode with Angharad in the past which is number 57 if you would like to have a listen.For help and advice with divorce, separation, co-parenting or anything related to these, please visit: amicable.co.uk

In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical therapist and manager, Julie Cooper, to discuss the reality of co-parenting across the varying stages of childhood.About the guestJulie is a lead provider of mental health services at Honey for Moms, in Ferndale, Michigan. She is a Co-parenting specialist and single mum of two and has dedicated her career to helping parents throughout their co-parenting journey. As a mother moving through divorce, Julie's personal experience of co-parenting highlighted the need for a stronger support system, clearer information and dependable resources. Her journey along this path drove her to believe that, regardless of marital status, raising secure children who feel seen, heard, and loved by both parents, is possible with the right tools and support. Julie's tenured work in mental health has led her to become a strong clinician, leader, and advocate for mental health. She also has a passion for helping individuals with trauma, anxiety, depression, and low self-worth. As team lead in her practice, Julie is deeply committed to providing professional guidance and furthering education in this field.About the episodeThroughout this episode, Kate and Julie move through the different stages of childhood, highlighting the most important considerations when moving into a co-parenting family structure. They look at separating when children are babies, toddlers, young children, teenagers and finally, children as they grow up and the signs and changes you may have to look out for, as well as signposting the available help. 

In this episode, Kate was joined by Professor Lisa Doodson and Rebecca Jones from amicable to discuss introducing new partners and navigating blended families. Meet our guestsLisa is a chartered psychologist and founder of HappySteps, a consultancy providing training and advice to professionals and families directly.  As an expert in the field, Lisa frequently contributes to TV documentaries and comments in the press. Rebecca, or Bec, is a divorce specialist at amicable and was previously a family solicitor. Bec has also been through her own divorce and now has a blended family. About this episodeThis episode is full of tips about introducing new partners and general advice on blended families. We look at some of the unique challenges that each presents, as well as the potential benefits of growing up in a blended family. Lisa provides insightful advice about coping with different parenting styles, as well as tips on establishing house rules. Bec gives many tips on practical things families can do to make the journey smoother, based on her experience. This episode is a real homage to the idea that families come in all shapes and sizes and there's no ‘right' way to parent your kids, highlighting the fact that respect and communication are the foundations for a happy blended family.  

In this episode, Kate was joined by Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist and founder of 'Create the Love', to discuss co-dependency in relationships, separation and divorce.  About the guestMark's separation from his ex-partner sparked his journey to turn his experiences into an impactful message. Mark founded Create The Love, a platform that guides people to design the life and love they long for, following on from his rock bottom when his relationship ended. He hosts The Mark Groves Podcast and has a significant following on social media where he shares his insight into relationships. Today, Mark is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.  Mark is a friend of the podcast and this is his second appearance; you can check out Mark's previous episode here.Kate and Mark begin the episode by exploring how co-dependency can manifest in romantic and other personal relationships. They look at the link between codependency and addiction, as well as whether a codependent relationship can ever be healthy. During the episode, they talk about ending a codependent relationship and how fear is a driver for couples staying together in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. Finally, Mark and Kate end the episode by discussing the role of boundaries in healing co-dependency and co-parenting. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by founder and Master Divorce Coach, Louise Neville, to discuss surviving the family court.Louise founded the company Family Court Survival and supports people emotionally, practically and strategically through the Family Court System In England and Wales. She is a Master Divorce Coach and Professional McKenzie Friend who works in children's welfare and is at the forefront of everything she does. Kate and Louise begin this episode by exploring what we mean by the family court. Louise explains how she ended up there after separating from her husband over unresolved financial and child arrangement issues. This episode is focused on helping people navigate the family court when they have no other choice.   Louise's detailed explanation of the process for Children Act proceedings is useful in understanding what's involved if you end up in a dispute when you separate.Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing including poor mental health and abuse.Organisations who can help:Dads UnlimitedYour local GPMind - mental health charitySamaritans - dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19Is your life in danger? - dial 999Outside of the UK? Search for help here

In this episode, Kate was joined by Ella Kenion to talk about her experience of divorce and co-parenting. Ella spoke candidly about her two divorces, the first being the pinnacle of ‘amicable' and the second being far from it. They also explore her co-parenting journey. About the guest: Ella has enjoyed a long and varied career as an actress, working successfully across both stage and screen for many years., with highlights including the BBC's The Outlaws, Doctors, and The Detectorists, ITV's Midsomer Murders and the feature film The Night before Christmas. Television credits include: Beyond Paradise (BritBox), So Awkward: Kids Camp (BBC), The Outlaws (BBC), Honour (ITV), The Barking Murders (ITV), The Duchess (Netflix), Shakespeare & Hathaway (BBC), Doctors (BBC), Pure (Channel 4), Warren (BBC), Kiss of Death (Discovery), Midsomer Murders (ITV), The Detectorists (BBC), Episodes (Showtime), Swashbuckle (CBBC), New Tricks (BBC), Justin's House (CBBC), Big Bad World (Comedy Central), Law & Order UK (Kudos), Cuckoo (BBC), Heading Out (BBC), Hollyoaks (Channel 4), Doctor Who (BBC), Fun Police (Channel 4), Gates (Sky), Criminal Justice (BBC), Gayle Tuesday: The Comeback (Living TV), Holby City (BBC). Theatre credits include: Dusty (Theatre Royal Bath), Ghosting the Party (NT Company), Emil & The Detectives (National Theatre), The School for Scandal (The Comedians Theatre Company), Shooting Star (Chester Gateway Theatre), Private Lives (Watford Palace Theatre), Gift of the Gorgon (Royal Shakespeare Company) Film credits include: The Offenders (Big Talk), The Knight Before Christmas (HP Christmas Knight Productions), Stan & Ollie (Fable Pictures). TW: This episode mentions abusive behaviour. Some listeners may find the information and topics discussed distressing. Useful links/ charities:Surviving Economic AbuseDashRefugeMen's Advice Line

To celebrate this special occasion, we're taking a trip down memory lane and bringing you the absolute best bits from our most impactful and insightful episodes. Tune in as we delve into various topics including the emotional journey, co-parenting and children, and finances on divorce. We'll touch on finding your inner strength, co-parenting with grace, rebuilding your life, and embracing personal growth. Our guests will share their expertise, stories, and advice, creating a space for understanding and support.About the guests (In order of appearance):Jessica Fostekew: comedian, actor and writerIn 2019, Jess was nominated for The Dave Edinburgh Comedy Award ‘Best Show' for her show Wench. She's the co-writer and co-star of the forthcoming Sky special 'Real Friends' and her series 'Sturdy Girl Club' is now on BBC Sounds. Ed Bassett: well-being entrepreneur, Dad, and rugby fanFather of two, Ed is involved in several not-for-profit companies, an Ambassador for Staffordshire, a start-up mentor and a passionate believer in finding your voice and speaking your truth.The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James DavisClaire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning well-being company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors. Dr Angharad Rudkin: clinical psychologist Dr Angharad Rudkin a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce from the perspective of children.  Marcie Shaoul: Director of The Co-Parent WayMarcie is the Director of The Co-Parent Way, the UK's only Co-Parent Coaching Practice. She is responsible for developing a unique coaching methodology that enables parents to co-parent together effectively after separation.Christina McGhee: internationally recognised divorce parenting expertWith over 25 years of experience, Christina has been featured across television, radio and podcasts including The Times, Channel 4 and the BBC.Louise Oliver: financial plannerLouise has worked in the financial services sector for over 30 years and is a Certified Financial Planner and a Chartered Wealth Manager.Daniel Copley: consumer expert at ZooplaDan is an editor with over 10 years of experience in the property, lifestyle and fashion sectors.Shreepali Chauhan-Tufail: Divorce Specialist at amicableShreepali is a former Solicitor with over 20 years of experience in Dispute Resolution, Family and Commercial law. Joshua Rozenberg: the UK's most experienced legal commentatorJoshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa. David Hodson: solicitor, mediator, arbitratorProf David Hodson OBE KC(Hons) MCIArb is a co-founder partner of The International Family Law Group, which works with international families and their children.

In this episode, Kate was joined by Dr. Charlotte Fox Weber to talk about boundaries, relationships, and separation. This episode focuses on what we mean by boundaries and explores how we can use them in the context of relationships, separation, and divorce.   About the guest:Charlotte is a psychotherapist and writer. She co-founded ‘Examined Life' and is the founding head of ‘The School of Life Psychotherapy'. She grew up in Connecticut and Paris and now lives in London with her husband and two young children and ‘Tell Me What You Want' is her first book. She's writing her second book about why we hold onto hurtful relationships.She is registered and accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and a registered member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (MBACP). Charlotte founded The School of Life Psychotherapy in 2015, and now works in private practice. She is also a trustee on the board of the Josef and Anni Albers Foundation and works with Le Korsa, running educational programs with women in Senegal. 

In this episode, Kate was joined by Zoë Desmond and Rebecca Cox to talk about their brand new book ‘How to be a happy single parent'. They start the episode by talking about why Zoë created Frolo and how she got to know Rebecca in the process. Zoë and Rebecca discuss their stories of becoming single parents and the challenges associated with raising children on your own. They explore their new book as well as some of the chapters, including those that focus on boundaries, the emotional side, and what it means to be a single parentAbout the guests: Rebecca Cox is a single mother and founder of The Single Mother Edit. She is a journalist whose writing has been published by Elle, Glamour, Country & Town House, Vogue.com and more. Her pieces on single motherhood have been featured in publications, including The Evening Standard, Grazia and Harper's Bazaar.Zoë Desmond is a single mum and the Founder of Frolo, the award-winning app and community for single parents. Both Zoe and Rebecca are the author's of the brand new book, ‘How to be a happy single parent'.You can buy a copy of  ‘How to be a happy single parent' by clicking on the link. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by Relationship & Family Coach, Nichole Farrow to discuss professional help during a separation or divorce. Episode summary:In this episode, Kate and Nichole look at the different professionals who can help you navigate a separation. They discuss the various organisations and charities in this space as well as which parts of the process you can do yourself. Nichole explains how to access support, and where to find free information and low-cost options to help if you're on a budget. About the guest:Nichole Farrow is a relationship and family coach. Her distinctive blueprint for fostering thriving relationships and families is shaped by her own journey, as well as a profound grasp of human psychology and relationship dynamics. She is an expert in guiding complex family dynamics and divorce cases to a harmonious outcome.Nichole is a certified Robbins Madanes coach, NLP practitioner, and Resolution member, so she is well-placed in guiding complex family and divorce matters to a harmonious outcome. She is one of the UK's leading mindset coaches, specialising in supporting divorcing parents and blended families, and is regularly featured across the media, with a monthly slot on BBC Radio 5 Live. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by Liz Hancock to discuss EFT coaching and how it can help in the context of divorce or separation.Liz has over 10 years of experience as an EFT Coach. EFT coaching is one of the therapeutic ways you can manage the emotional journey of a divorce or separation. In this episode, Kate and Liz explore what EFT is and how it can help separating couples navigate their divorce and negotiate through the emotional trauma which a divorce or separation can cause. Liz chose to specialise in the divorce and financial space following her own divorce, which started off amicable but then went on to be very toxic with threats over finances which affected not just her, but her children too.

In this episode, Kate is joined by The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James Davis, to discuss building self-confidence post-separation & divorce.Claire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning wellbeing company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors. The couple have a successful midlife health podcast; The Midlife and their passion is helping ‘midlifers' achieve the body, mind, and lifestyle they deserve.Kate, Claire and James begin the episode by discussing their own journeys and how it led to the creation of 'The Midlife Mentors', as well as '38 Degrees North'. They discuss building self-confidence after a divorce or separation, nutrition and its impact on confidence, the role of friends and family and much more.More about the guests:Using their backgrounds and qualifications in psychology, coaching, hormones, nutrition, personal training, stress management, menopause and NLP, their evidence-based approach empowers individuals with the practical tools and knowledge they need to make positive lifestyle changes.Claire & James are incredibly passionate about offering an anti-fad approach to the health and wellness narrative. You'll find no fancy diets or pseudo-science - just authentic, balanced information based on years of professional and personal experience.They also work with corporations providing coaching and wellness programmes for individuals and teams and are regular media commentators. They have featured in The New York Times, The Daily Telegraph, The Sunday Times, The Observer, The Daily Mail, Conde Nast Traveller, The Evening Standard and more.

In this episode, Kate is joined by Mustafa Faruqi from Tesco, James Hayhurst, founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and The Parents Promise and Jimi Odel from OneplusOne to discuss separation and the workplace.Kate, Mustafa, James, and Jimi begin by looking at what employers can do to support their employees during a separation, especially in the wake of the movement to ‘bring your whole self to work'. Jimi and Mustafa touch on how employees can tell work about a separation and how managers can navigate these conversations. They explore the different policies and practices that might be in place, as well as how employers can create a culture that opens communication about life events which may impact work performance or work patterns. This is a brilliant episode for those going through a separation and people more generally, as it gives great tips about talking to and supporting colleagues. You can find OnePlusOne's tips for employers and the OLPAC approach by following this link. For more information and to sign up for and download The Parents Promise HR initiative resources, click here. About the guests:Mustafa Faruqi is Head of Reward and Workplace Relations at Tesco. Tesco, a leading multinational retailer with over 330,000 employees, is among the major employers committed to a new initiative to support staff going through separation. Before this, he worked for several prominent companies in the private and public sectors, including British Airways, Heathrow Airport and Network Rail. His career in human resources has specialised in negotiating with trade unions, implementing workplace change, developing HR policies and managing employee casework, including employment tribunals.Jimi Odell is the content manager at OnePlusOne, a relationship support charity with more than fifty years of experience in creating evidence-based early intervention resources to help people build and maintain healthy relationships. James Hayhurst is the founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of The Parents Promise.  He set up The Positive Parenting Alliance, having seen up close the many issues in the family courts and the scale and numbers of children affected. In May 2021, the Parents Promise was launched after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations. 

In this episode, Kate is joined by Daniel Copley from Zoopla and Shreepali Chauhan-Tufail from amicable to talk about property and divorce.Throughout the episode, Kate, Dan and Shreepali cover a wide range of topics including living together post-separation; how to value property for divorce; how to obtain financial protection; and alternative living arrangements post-divorce. More about the guests:Zoopla is a property portal website and app and Daniel (Dan) is a consumer expert at Zoopla. Dan is an editor with over 10 years of experience in the property, lifestyle and fashion sectors. Having worked for brands such as M&S and Uber – and contributed to publications such as The Telegraph and GQ – Daniel champions readers' interests in various subject areas. Shreepali is a Divorce Specialist at amicable helping couples navigate the emotional and legal aspects of relationship breakdown. Shreepali is a former Solicitor with over 20 years of experience in Dispute Resolution, Family and Commercial law. Her personable approach enables her to work empathetically applying emotional support with a balanced style allowing couples to separate in a fairer, kinder more amicable way

In this episode, Kate is joined by Joshua Rozenberg and David Hodson to discuss whether 50/50 is a fair way to divide money and property during a divorce or separation. Joshua Rozenberg is the UK's most experienced legal commentator. David Hodson is an English solicitor, mediator, arbitrator, and part-time (deputy) family court judge specialising in complex financial family law cases. In April 2023, the Law Commission of England and Wales launched a review of the laws determining how finances are divided between couples when they divorce or end a civil partnership. This is the backdrop of the episode; Kate, Joshua and David explore ‘fairness' and whether 50/50 is consistently fair in the Law Commission's Review of rules around how money and property should be divided.Kate, Joshua and David look at the current law and the potential reforms being considered. They discuss the 'sharing principle', whether 50/50 should be the default for how finances are divided between couples and how the court deals with 'needs' cases.  More about the guests: Joshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa. He is an honorary Master of the Bench (bencher) of Gray's Inn and a non-executive board member of the Law Commission. His most recent book is Enemies of the People? How Judges Shape Society.  After taking a law degree at Oxford, he trained as a solicitor, qualifying in 1976. Since 2008, he has written for the Law Society Gazette, the Guardian and The Critic magazine. Joshua was the BBC's legal correspondent for 15 years before moving in 2000 to The Daily Telegraph. After resigning as legal editor in the summer of 2007 he continued to write a weekly column until the end of 2008. Joshua returned to the BBC in 2010 to present the Radio 4 series Law in Action. In 2012, he was included by The Times in its independently-judged list of the UK's 100 most influential lawyers, the only journalist to feature. Joshua is known for his independence, authority, and ability to explain complicated legal issues with simplicity, clarity, and wit.  He appears regularly on Sky News, on the BBC's various news outlets and other news networks in the UK and abroad. Prof David Hodson OBE KC(Hons) MCIArb is a co-founder partner of The International Family Law Group, which works with international families and their children.  He is an English solicitor, mediator, arbitrator, Australian (NSW) solicitor and a deputy (part-time) family court judge at the Central Family Court (DDJ in the FRC at the CFC) in London and Western Circuit.  He is a member of the English Law Society Family Law Committee, a Fellow of the International Academy of Family Lawyers, a member of LawAsia, the Family Law Section of the Law Council of Australia and a similar contributor to many family law organisations worldwide.  He is a regular speaker at international family law conferences around the world.  He was awarded the OBE for services to international family law.  He was appointed the (now) KC (Hons) in March 2022 by virtue of making a significant impact on the law of England and Wales.  He is the editor and primary author of the LexisNexis textbook ‘The International Family Law Practice' (6th ed).  He is a Visiting Professor at the University of Law and an Honorary Professor of Law at Leicester University.