Strong & Awake

Season 4, Episode 2 | "Are you chasing fool's gold or real confidence?" In this Strong & Awake episode, Dane and Mitch dismantle the myth of flashy confidence to reveal that true confidence is forged in quiet, disciplined practice. Through Craig's roof-and-ladder challenge and examples from The Millionaire Next Door, Steph Curry, and Kobe Bryant, they show that confidence isn't innate or a performance—it's the sum of small, deliberate reps taken in the face of discomfort. By rejecting victim stories, counting down “3, 2, 1” to act, and focusing on the work over the reward, listeners learn to build authentic confidence in any arena. If you're ready to move beyond shortcuts and cultivate lasting self-assurance, this conversation lights the path.Never Settle Promo Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:15 Member Story - Craig part 102:28 Gold vs. Fool's Gold Confidence06:31 Misconceptions About Confidence13:05 Member Story - Craig part 216:12 Courage as the Virtue that Hinges Confidence25:16 Building Confidence Through CommunityMentions:The Millionaire Next Door - A book mentioned by Dane, which discusses the habits and characteristics of actual millionaires, emphasizing frugality and understated wealth.The Growth Equation - Referenced by Dane, this likely refers to the work of authors Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness, who write about performance and well-being.Steph Curry - NBA player mentioned by Dane as an example of someone who has built confidence through extensive practice and overcoming perceived limitations.Kobe Bryant - Late NBA player mentioned by Dane, known for his work ethic and dedication to improving his skills, even in areas outside of basketball.Ryan Holiday - Author mentioned by Dane, known for his writings on Stoicism and virtues, including courage.Mark Brewer - A member of the Men and Women of Discomfort community, highlighted by Dane for his confidence and ability to handle stressful situations effectively.Anchor Actions:Use “3, 2, 1” – when resistance arises, count down and take one small action toward the discomfort you're avoiding Practice a daily discomfort rep – choose one micro-challenge (e.g., one push-up, one breath hold, one exposure) and follow through every day Log your reps, not results – track one instance daily where you put in work without seeking recognition, and repeat tomorrow Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 4, Episode 1 “What is the thing you don't want to do that you know you'll be better for if you do?” In this Strong & Awake episode, Dane and Mitch strip away the myths of time scarcity and willpower to expose procrastination as a misguided fight-or-flight response. They reveal how a simple “3, 2, 1” countdown or one small action—one push‑up, one breath, one piece of macaroni—can shatter inertia. Learn to calibrate your body and mind, ban the “I don't have time” story, and build a daily practice around strength, awareness, and doing it all for love's sake. If you're ready to trade comfort for momentum and live purposefully awake, this conversation will point the way.Chapters:00:00 Introduction 01:28 Community Story (Avery S.): Macaroni Momentum 05:17 Embodied Procrastination Explained 12:09 The 3‑2‑1 Countdown 18:34 Negotiating Your Priorities 25:29 Building a Daily Practice 31:29 Community Invitation Mentions:Amygdala vs. Frontal Cortex – the tension between survival-driven fight-or-flight responses and higher-order executive function CrossFit warm-up – analog for immediate action through a clear “go” signal to bypass procrastination Mel Robbins' 5 Second Rule – using a countdown to break inertia and force action Seth Godin's writer's block debunking – reframing writing as uninterrupted thinking to overcome excuses Ryan Holiday's The Obstacle Is the Way – embracing obstacles as the path forward James Clear's habit rule from Atomic Habits – recommending minimal actions like “just put your shoes on” to build consistency Anchor Actions:3, 2, 1 Countdown – when you feel resistance, count down and take one tiny action to ignite momentum One-Minute Rule – commit to working on your most resisting task for just one minute to break paralysis Daily Trio Practice – each day, choose one action for strength, one to awaken, and one for love's sake to build a sustainable habit Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 4 TrailerWelcome to Season 4 of Strong & Awake by Men & Women Of Discomfort.In this special kickoff episode, Mitch introduces the theme of the season: overcoming the everyday obstacles that trip us up—like procrastination, perfectionism, overwhelm, and worry. But rather than avoiding them, MWOD invites you to face them head-on through voluntary discomfort.Get a glimpse of what's ahead this season, hear how real stories from our community will guide the way, and start reframing the obstacles in your life as opportunities for growth.If you're ready to stop reacting and start responding, this season is for you.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 3, Episode 8 | "What if your dream vacation isn't a destination—but a skill?"Most people chase travel and adventure as a way to escape the grind, but what if the life you're craving isn't found out there—it's forged right here, in your daily choices? In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the lie that adventure requires a plane ticket and show how the way we relate to the ordinary shapes everything. When you build a life of voluntary discomfort—choosing hard things on purpose—you don't just prepare for the next trip, you wake up to the adventure already available in your day-to-day. This conversation reframes travel as a reflection of who you're becoming, not what you're booking, and offers a practical invitation to stop waiting and start living awake—wherever you are.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:14 The Illusion of Comfort03:56 The Art of Adventure06:23 Peaks, Valleys, and the Problem with “More”08:00 Travel as a False Fix13:22 From Vacation to Daily Adventure21:03 Anticipation and Preparation34:55 First Steps Toward Daily DiscomfortMentions:Chase Reeves – Expert on minimalist travel gear and creator of in-depth backpack reviewsSeth Godin – Referenced for his TED Talk analogy about mastery and clarinet practiceKierkegaard – Quoted for his insight: “Man finds a level of despair he can tolerate and calls it happiness”Disneyland – Used as an example of how adventure and joy don't automatically come from locationMWOD Future Round – The structured 12-week initiation into voluntary discomfort for new membersShabbat – Cited as a model for intentional rest and presenceAnchor Actions:1. Embrace Daily Discomfort: Choose one small, uncomfortable action that you can commit to every day for 90 days. Whether it's a physical challenge like a daily run or a lifestyle change such as reducing screen time, the key is consistency and embodied action. This practice will build resilience and transform your everyday life into an adventure.2. Cultivate a Mindset of Adventure: Shift your perspective to see your daily life as an opportunity for exploration and growth. Identify areas where you can inject novelty or challenge, such as taking a new route to work or learning a new skill. This approach will help you find joy and fulfillment in the mundane.3. Engage with Community: Consider joining a group or community that supports voluntary discomfort and personal growth. Being part of a supportive network can provide accountability, inspiration, and shared experiences that enhance your journey. If you choose to go solo, ensure you have a plan to track your progress and reflect on your experiences.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 3, Episode 7 | "Is peace available in the midst of your chaos?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the notion that balance and comfort are the ultimate goals in life. They argue that living in perpetual comfort leaves us weak and asleep, and that true fulfillment comes from embracing voluntary discomfort. Through candid discussions, they explore how the pursuit of balance often masks a deeper desire for relief from stress, and how this pursuit can lead to a life of settling for less. They encourage listeners to confront the reality of life's challenges and to choose discomfort as a path to growth and resilience. By adopting practices that build resilience, individuals can transform their relationship with stress and unlock a life of greater agency and fulfillment. This episode is a call to action to redefine what it means to live a strong and awake life, and to find peace not in the absence of chaos, but through it.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:16 The Illusion of Balance05:30 Comfort is an Idol10:23 Embracing Life's Hardships16:00 Voluntary Discomfort as Growth and Peace22:48 Machine or Garden30:26 Building Resilience Through HabitsMentions:Brene Brown - Mentioned in the context of people wearing stress and busyness as a badge of honor.David Allen's GTD (Getting Things Done) - Referenced as a productivity system that some people use to manage their time and tasks.Kierkegaard - Quoted for his comment about man finding the level of despair he can tolerate and calling it happiness.James Clear's "Atomic Habits" - Mentioned as a resourceful guide for building good habits and breaking bad ones.Anchor Actions:1. Embrace Voluntary Discomfort: Start incorporating small, manageable discomforts into your daily routine. This could be as simple as taking a cold shower, fasting until noon, or doing a daily workout. The goal is to build resilience and strength by choosing challenges that push you out of your comfort zone. These small acts can lead to significant personal growth and prepare you for larger challenges.2. Reevaluate Your Relationship with Stress: Instead of seeking constant relief or balance, begin to see stress as a natural part of life that can be navigated and even embraced. When stress arises, take a moment to assess how you're interpreting it. Are you viewing it as a burden or as an opportunity for growth? Shifting your mindset from avoidance to acceptance can transform how you handle life's challenges.3. Simplify and Focus: Take immediate action by decluttering your environment of things that don't serve your goals. For instance, clear out unhealthy foods from your pantry or eliminate distractions from your workspace. By reducing unnecessary clutter, you create space for more intentional living, making it easier to focus on what truly matters and aligns with your values.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 3, Episode 6 | "Don't let cultural norms rob you or trap you into a false sense of what is possible and isn't possible." In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the pervasive myth that extraordinary achievements can be reached without extraordinary effort. They explore the allure of shortcuts and the cultural obsession with instant results, urging listeners to embrace the discomfort of the process as the true path to personal growth. Through candid discussions and personal anecdotes, they highlight the transformative power of voluntary discomfort and the joy found in the journey itself. Whether it's learning a new skill or pursuing a lifelong dream, this episode invites you to flip the script on comfort and engage deeply with the process of becoming. Join the conversation and discover how to cultivate resilience, humility, and authentic mastery in your own life.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:06 The Illusion of Mastery03:39 The Aspiration to Learn06:06 Pre-mortem: Why Resolutions Fail10:28 The Trap of Cultural Norms17:01 The Reality: It Takes More Time and Costs More20:38 Having Respect for Masters23:40 Singing at the Talent Show32:44 The Value of Humility in Learning35:41 Gaining More Than Skills40:05 On the HookMentions:Steven Pressfield - Mentioned in the context of his commentary on the difficulty of becoming a professional athlete compared to other professions. Ryan Holiday - Referenced for his book *The Obstacle Is the Way*, which discusses how obstacles can be beneficial. Courtney Dauwalter - Mentioned for her concept of "remodeling your pain cave," related to endurance running. Dude Perfect - Referenced as an example of extraordinary feats that can create unrealistic expectations. Zach King - Mentioned for his clever video edits that depict the impossible. Forrest Gump - Referenced in relation to table tennis, highlighting the unrealistic expectations some people have about mastering sports. Von Trapp Family - Mentioned in the context of families that can sing and perform together, from *The Sound of Music*. American Idol and The Voice - Mentioned in the context of people critiquing performers without understanding the effort involved. Anchor Actions:1. Embrace the Process: Commit to engaging fully with the journey of learning or improving a skill, rather than fixating solely on the end goal. This means accepting the discomfort of being a beginner and finding joy in the daily practice and effort. Reflect on how you can shift your mindset to appreciate the process as much as the outcome.2. Set Realistic Expectations: Recognize that achieving mastery or significant improvement will take more time and effort than you might initially expect. Use this understanding to set realistic goals and timelines for your personal growth endeavors. Consider what resources, such as time or mentorship, you'll need to allocate to support your journey.3. Cultivate Humility and Respect for Mastery: Develop a healthy respect for those who have achieved excellence in any field. Use this as motivation to approach your own goals with humility and a willingness to learn. Reflect on how you can apply this perspective to your current aspirations, acknowledging the effort required and respecting the journey of others.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at

Season 3, Episode 5 | "Are you ready to confront the comfort that's keeping you asleep?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge listeners to step into the realm of voluntary discomfort to unlock a life of true freedom. "Freedom from" is a journey from the familiar to the unknown. Comfort, while enticing, often leaves us stagnant and unfulfilled. Through personal anecdotes and thought-provoking insights, they invite you to identify the habits and choices that hold you back, offering a pathway to break free from the cycle of short-term pleasure and long-term dissatisfaction. Whether it's a toxic relationship, a bad habit, or the allure of convenience, this episode is a call to action to embrace the hard choices that lead to an empowered, awake life. Join the conversation and discover how voluntary discomfort can be the key to accessing the treasure room of possibilities in your life.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:21 The Hard Choice Key05:13 The Comfort Trap07:44 Balance and Bondage10:56 The Trove of Trials15:27 Getting Real about the ReelMentions:Søren Kierkegaard: Mentioned in the context of a quote about despair and happiness.Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for saying, "Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life."Jesse Itzler: Referenced for his idea of having one Herculean Misogi a year and other periodic healthy habits.Men and Women of Discomfort (MWOD): A community focused on voluntary discomfort to achieve personal growth.Anchor Actions:1. Identify and Embrace Your Hard Choice: Reflect on the area of your life where you feel stuck or unsatisfied. Identify the hard choice you need to make to move forward—whether it's having a difficult conversation, clearing out temptations from your environment, or setting boundaries with technology. Take a tangible step today to confront this discomfort head-on.2. Create a Vision for Change: Clearly define what you are moving towards, not just what you want to leave behind. Spend time visualizing your desired future state, whether it's a healthier lifestyle, more meaningful relationships, or greater personal fulfillment. Write down specific goals that align with this vision and review them regularly to maintain focus.3. Commit to Voluntary Discomfort: Integrate small acts of voluntary discomfort into your daily routine to build resilience and confidence. This could be as simple as taking a cold shower, skipping a habitual indulgence, or engaging in a challenging physical activity. Use these moments to remind yourself of your capacity to endure and thrive beyond temporary discomfort.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 3, Episode 4 | "Does it have to be this way?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the profound impact of voluntary discomfort on mental health. They challenge the cultural norm of seeking comfort and immediate gratification, arguing that it leads to anxiety, depression, and a sense of unrest. By embracing discomfort intentionally, individuals can achieve a deeper, more satisfying comfort that fosters mental well-being. Through personal anecdotes and community experiences, they highlight the transformative power of daily practices like cold showers and mindful reactions, which cultivate resilience and peace. This episode invites listeners to reconsider their relationship with discomfort and to explore how small, intentional acts can lead to significant mental health improvements. Join the conversation and discover the unlikely path to the life you truly want.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:12 The Culture of Mental Health07:02 Voluntary Discomfort and Mental Health12:27 The Practice Over the End19:48 Practical Steps for Mental Health25:00 Embracing Discomfort in Everyday Life28:04 Invitation to the MWOD CommunityMentions:"The Year of Magical Thinking": A memoir by Joan Didion that explores her experiences with grief and mental health after her husband's death.75 Hard: A mental toughness program that involves strict daily tasks over 75 days, mentioned in the context of short-term challenges and their sustainability.Winter Arc: An online phenomenon involving a 90-day challenge to drink less, work out more, and be mindful about eating, mentioned in the context of short-term health initiatives.Anchor Actions:1. Embrace Delayed Gratification: This act of delayed gratification can shift your mindset from seeking immediate comfort to finding deeper satisfaction. Commit to a habit that cultivates and necessitates delayed gratification for seven days and observe how it impacts your mental health and resilience.2. Identify and Challenge Automatic Reactions: Throughout your day, consciously notice moments when you typically react with frustration or anger. Instead of responding automatically, choose to pause and sit with the discomfort. This practice not only alters your interactions with others but also transforms your internal dialogue, fostering a sense of calm and control.3. Integrate Daily Discomfort: Incorporate small, voluntary discomforts into your daily routine, like opting for the less convenient option or placing yourself in a physically uncomfortable situation (e.g., sitting in the least desirable seat during a group outing). These intentional choices build mental fortitude and prepare you to handle life's involuntary discomforts more effectively.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 3, Episode 3 | "Are you treating your relationships like a project?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the common misconception of equating productivity with relationship success. They explore the discomfort of choosing presence over efficiency, sharing personal stories that highlight the tension between productivity and genuine connection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of developing a daily practice that prioritizes relationships, even when it feels inefficient. Through voluntary discomfort, they argue, we can cultivate a life that is truly strong and awake. Join them as they offer insights and practical steps to shift from transactional interactions to meaningful connections, inviting listeners to embrace the unlikely path to the life they truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:27 Productivity and Relationships04:49 Being Present11:55 Common Failures and Misconceptions20:47 Practice vs. Projects32:59 Final Thoughts and Community InvitationMentions:Ryan Holiday: Referenced for his advice on imagining each goodnight with your children as if it might be the last, to avoid taking moments for granted.Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for his saying, "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 3, Episode 2 | Comfort is Costly. In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the often daunting topic of personal finance, exploring how voluntary discomfort can lead to financial freedom. They share personal stories of overcoming debt and the transformative power of making uncomfortable financial decisions. From budgeting to tackling debt, the conversation offers a fresh perspective on how embracing discomfort can lead to lasting change. Listeners are encouraged to identify their own financial discomforts and take actionable steps towards a healthier financial future. Whether it's cutting unnecessary expenses, starting a budget, or simply acknowledging financial realities, this episode is an invitation to take control and find freedom in the unlikely path of voluntary discomfort. Chapters:00:00 Introduction00:53 The Comfort Trap06:13 Breaking Financial Myths09:46 Personal Finance Journeys17:24 Common Financial Pitfalls21:19 The Power of One Thing28:56 Ratcheting Up for Growth33:33 Community and Financial FreedomMentions:Dave Ramsey - Mentioned as a prominent figure in personal finance, known for helping people get out of debt through principles and strategies.James Clear - Referenced for his concept of making votes for your future self, likely from his book "Atomic Habits."Ryan Holiday - Mentioned for his idea that "the obstacle is the way," a concept from his book "The Obstacle Is the Way."Marcus Aurelius - Referenced indirectly through Ryan Holiday, known for his Stoic philosophy.Financial Peace University - A program by Dave Ramsey aimed at helping people manage their finances.Mike Michalowicz - Mentioned as someone who helps businesses with financial strategies.Sallie Mae - Mentioned in the context of student loans.Ramit Sethi - Mentioned as another financial advisor known for his work in personal finance.Anchor Actions:Start with One Uncomfortable Financial Action: Identify the financial action that makes you most uncomfortable—whether it's creating a basic budget, freezing unnecessary spending, or paying off a specific debt. Commit to doing this one action consistently, rather than overwhelming yourself with multiple changes. This will help you build momentum and confidence in managing your finances.Embrace Community Support and Challenge: Seek out a supportive community, such as a local Financial Peace University group or the MWOD community, to share your financial journey. Engaging with others who are also working towards financial freedom can provide encouragement, accountability, and practical insights that make the process less isolating and more manageable.Limit Cognitive Load with Simple Practices: Reduce decision fatigue by implementing straightforward financial practices. For example, use cash envelopes for budgeting or set a moratorium on non-essential purchases to simplify your financial decisions. This approach minimizes stress and helps you focus on making progress with the resources you have.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 3, Episode 1 | "Why do we crave change yet struggle to achieve it?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the perennial challenge of New Year's resolutions and why they often fail. They explore the common pitfalls of quick fixes and the allure of comfort, offering a compelling argument for embracing voluntary discomfort as a path to genuine transformation. Through personal anecdotes and community stories, they reveal how sustainable change requires a shift in mindset and a commitment to enduring discomfort. This episode serves as a call to action to reframe resolutions as the starting point for deeper, lasting change, urging listeners to embrace discomfort as a catalyst for personal growth. Join the conversation and discover how to navigate the resistance that stands between you and the life you truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction 03:16 The Folly of Resolutions 05:50 The Desire for Transformation 11:27 Realizing Potential 18:08 Why Resolutions Fail 28:10 The Power of Community 37:16 Embracing DiscomfortMentions:Seth Godin - Mentioned by Dane in the context of a blog post about Zambonis.C.S. Lewis - Quoted by Dane, specifically his thoughts on human desires and joy.Soren Kierkegaard - Quoted by Dane, particularly his views on despair and happiness.Jerzy Gregorek - Referenced by Dane, known for the quote "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."75Hard - A fitness program mentioned by Dane.Ozempic - A diabetes drug mentioned by Dane, often used for weight loss.Steve Pressfield - Referenced by Dane, known for his thoughts on resistance and dreams.Anchor Actions:Commit to Consistency Over Quick Fixes: Instead of relying on temporary solutions like fad diets or short-term exercise programs, focus on building sustainable habits. Start small by integrating daily practices that contribute to long-term goals, such as a 15-minute walk every day or replacing one unhealthy meal with a nutritious option. This approach aligns with the MWOD philosophy of voluntary discomfort, encouraging you to embrace the challenge of consistent effort over time.Anticipate and Plan for Resistance: Recognize that resistance is a natural part of any significant change. Prepare for moments of doubt or temptation by having strategies in place, such as accountability partners or specific actions to take when motivation wanes. This proactive stance transforms resistance into an opportunity for growth, reinforcing your commitment to personal transformation.Engage with Community Support: Leverage the power of community to stay motivated and accountable. Join a group or find a partner who shares similar goals, and regularly check in to share progress and challenges. The collective encouragement and shared experiences can provide the support needed to push through difficult times, making the journey less isolating and more rewarding.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

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Season 3 Teaser: A Season of ChangeYour future self sent a message—it's time for change! Whether it's a New Year's resolution or just a long-overdue shift, this season of Strong & Awake is dedicated to helping you make it happen. We're tackling the top resolutions and life changes that people chase year after year, but with a twist—no more strategies that don't work. This season is all about getting to the root of the problem/opportunity, giving you real hope and practical steps to become who you want to be.Subscribe now so you don't miss an episode, and if you're ready for more right now, check out Seasons 1 and 2 at MWOD.io/podcastJoin Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 9 | "Without some version of these six words, the change you seek is going to be determined by something other than you." In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge listeners to confront the drift of life and the allure of comfort that keeps us asleep. They introduce a powerful six-word mantra: "Up until now, from now on," as a tool for personal transformation. This episode invites you to draw a line in the sand (or mud), acknowledge past patterns, and consciously choose a new path forward. Through personal anecdotes and practical insights, they explore the discomfort of change and the agency required to live a life of intention. Whether you're stuck in a rut or ready to break free, this conversation is a call to action to embrace voluntary discomfort and redefine your reality. Join the journey from passive existence to active participation in the life you truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:42 The Drift and Comfort02:39 Six Words That Change Everything11:30 Understanding the Drift15:40 Anchors and Correcting Course20:44 Taking Responsibility for Solutions24:05 The Fulcrum Moment: Honest to Hopeful29:33 The Nature of Change: Embracing Discomfort34:49 Invitation to Participate: Join the Journey40:56 Final Thoughts and Next StepsMentions:M. Scott Peck: Mentioned in the context of people either taking too much responsibility or not enough responsibility. Known for his books "The Road Less Traveled" and "People of the Lie."Dan Tocchini: Credited with introducing the six-word phrase "up until now, from now on."Nassim Taleb: Referenced for his concept of "antifragility," which suggests that systems can become stronger through stress and adversity. Known for his book "Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder."Psalm 40: Mentioned metaphorically in reference to being stuck in the mire and needing to draw a line in the mud.Jerzy Gregorek: Referenced for his saying, "Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life." Anchor Actions:1. Reflect on Your Default State: Identify whether you tend to take too much responsibility or not enough in your life situations. Use this awareness to expand your perspective. If you usually blame yourself for everything, consider what solutions you could uniquely offer. If you often see yourself as a victim, explore ways you might take responsibility for your actions and outcomes.2. Practice the Six-Word Pivot: Implement the "Up until now, from now on" exercise in your daily life. When you encounter a situation where you feel stuck or dissatisfied, acknowledge it honestly by saying, "Up until now," and then create a hopeful vision for change with "From now on." This practice helps shift your mindset from being reactive to proactive.3. Engage in Community and Hold Account: If you're feeling ready to take a step towards change but need support, consider joining a community that aligns with your goals. Engage in conversations that challenge you and hold you accountable. This could be through MWOD or another group that encourages growth through discomfort and intentional living.Listen to the end of the episode for a bonus!Contact us: hello@mwod.ioJoin Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 8 | "Action means action. Now means now, stand now." In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the illusion of progress that comes from merely thinking about change rather than taking action. They explore the concept of "Stand Now," urging listeners to break free from the comfort traps that keep them stagnant. They emphasize the importance of immediate action and the power of community in achieving personal growth. Whether it's the allure of buying an online course or the satisfaction of planning without executing, they dismantle the myths that hold us back. This episode is a call to arms for those ready to stop dreaming and start doing, highlighting the transformative journey of becoming strong and awake for love's sake. Join the conversation and discover how to take the first step toward the life you truly desire.Chapters:00:00 Introduction: The Trap of Inaction01:18 The Illusion of Accomplishment05:58 We Have What We Do10:05 A Practice Biased Towards Action15:39 Practical Examples of Standing Now24:25 The Drift of Decision Making 35:40 The Power of Community and GuidanceMentions:Eric Tonjes: Mentioned as a theologian and former professional football player who shared a story about a yard sale.Seth Godin: Referenced for popularizing the phrase "let's get real or let's not play."Brene Brown: Mentioned in the context of her discussions about being "in the arena," a concept originally from Teddy Roosevelt in his famous "in the arena" speech.Dan Tocchini: Mentioned as Dane's mentor who taught him "six little words that will change your life forever.""Family Feud": Mentioned as a game show where the strategy to win involves hitting the button before knowing the answer.Anchor Actions:Stand Now: The core message of this episode is about taking immediate action. Identify one area in your life where you've been procrastinating or overthinking. Today, take a single, tangible step towards it. Whether it's starting a new workout, initiating a difficult conversation, or beginning a project you've been putting off, the key is to act now, not later. Remember, action means action, and now means now.Daily Practice: Establish a daily routine that incorporates an element of voluntary discomfort. This could be a cold shower, a challenging workout, or a period of focused work without distractions. The idea is to build resilience and discipline by consistently doing something that pushes you out of your comfort zone. This practice will help you become the kind of person who doesn't miss a day and continuously grows stronger and more awake.Community Engagement: Consider joining a community or group that support and challenges you, providing a context for you to stand and hold account. Engaging with others who are on a similar journey can reduce cognitive load and provide the guidance needed to stay on track. If you're interested, explore communities like MWOD, where you can find structured support and a shared commitment to personal growth through discomfort.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 7 | "If I wasn't concerned with the outcome, but was more concerned with being in the experience, what would that open up for me?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the concept of playing infinite games versus finite games in life. They challenge the traditional mindset of winning and losing, urging listeners to focus on growth rather than just the end result. Through engaging anecdotes and thought-provoking discussions, they highlight how adopting an infinite game perspective can transform relationships, careers, and personal well-being. By embracing voluntary discomfort and consistent practices, they argue, we can cultivate resilience and a richer, more fulfilling life. This episode invites you to rethink your goals and the games you play, offering a fresh lens to view life's challenges and opportunities.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:23 Playing Infinite Games04:54 Finite vs. Infinite Goals10:06 Embracing Presence15:38 Practical Steps to Play Infinite19:08 Building a Practice27:35 The Bigger GameMentions:James Carse: Mentioned as the author of "Finite and Infinite Games," which introduces the concept of finite games (with winners and losers) and infinite games (which continue indefinitely).Simon Sinek: Referenced for his book "The Infinite Game," which builds on Carse's ideas and applies them to business and personal development.James Clear: Cited for his work on habits, particularly the idea that identity-based habits (e.g., becoming a runner) are more sustainable than goal-based habits.Peter Attia: Referenced for his book "Outlive," which discusses living a better life in terms of both quality and quantity.Tim Gallwey: Mentioned for his book "The Inner Game of Tennis," which discusses the concept of "relaxed focus" and being present in the moment.Anchor Actions:Shift Your Perspective on Goals: Reflect on the areas of your life where you might be playing a finite game with a win-lose mindset. Consider how you can reframe these areas into infinite games focused on ongoing growth and connection. For example, in relationships, aim to nurture and perpetuate the bond rather than "winning" arguments or gaining leverage.Practice Daily Rituals for Identity Building: Establish daily habits that align with the person you want to become, not just tasks to complete. Focus on who you are becoming through your daily practice, reinforcing your identity through action and playing the infinite game of personal growth.Embrace Presence in Every Moment: Cultivate the habit of being fully present in your daily interactions and tasks. Whether in a conversation, a work task, or a personal challenge, practice relaxed focus and engage deeply with the moment. This presence not only enhances your immediate experience but also contributes to a richer, more fulfilling life as you play the infinite game of becoming.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 6 | “Course correction isn't bad news—it's the work. It's the ongoing practice of staying awake and adjusting along the way.”In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the concept of course-correction and the inner dialogue that often holds us back. They discuss the importance of waking up, practicing with intention, and knowing your purpose. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they emphasize the necessity of voluntary discomfort in achieving a fulfilling life. The conversation examines the critical role of self-awareness, the pitfalls of perfectionism, and the value of community in personal growth. Tune in to learn how to quiet your inner critic, embrace the process, and correct course towards becoming strong and awake for love's sake.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:25 Managing Inner Voices04:32 The Importance of Course Correction06:37 Embodied Practice and Reps12:05 Navigating Life's Complexities24:49 Course Correction in Work and Life31:29 The Power of CommunityMentions:Tim Gallwey: Author of "The Inner Game of Tennis," which discusses the concept of two selves, self number one (the ego self) and self number two (the doing self).Scott Peck: Mentioned for his quote "Life is hard," highlighting the challenges of navigating life.Roger Federer: Used as an example of a professional athlete who maintains composure and presence in the game.Vincent van Gogh: Referenced for his dedication to his work despite only selling one painting in his lifetime.Plato's Cave: Mentioned in the context of people being unaware of the broader reality outside their immediate experience.Anchor Actions:Morning Rituals for Awakening: Start your day with intentional activities that ground you and set a positive tone. Consider incorporating practices like cold showers, breath work, journaling, or prayer. Avoid checking messages or social media first thing in the morning to maintain control over your day.Midday Recalibration: Identify a time in your day, such as mid-afternoon, when you typically feel tired or distracted. Use this time to engage in activities that wake you up and refocus your energy. This could be a quick walk, stretching, or even a brief meditation session.End-of-Day Reflection: Establish a nightly routine that helps you wind down and reflect on your day. This could include activities like stretching, journaling about your day's accomplishments and learnings, or practicing gratitude. Aim to create a consistent sleep routine that ensures you get enough rest for the next day.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 5 | "Are You Prioritizing Comfort Over Profit in Your Life?"In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the insidious nature of comfort and its impact on our lives. They explore how our craving for convenience often leads to unprofitable decisions and how prioritizing voluntary discomfort can yield significant returns. Using the metaphor of profit in business, they discuss the importance of making hard choices and embracing discomfort to achieve a more fulfilling life. From personal anecdotes about financial decisions to practical advice on fitness and nutrition, this episode is a call to action to prioritize profit in every aspect of life. Join the conversation and learn how to make the uncomfortable choices that lead to true growth and satisfaction.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:31 Prioritizing Profit in Life05:17 Avoiding Common Pitfalls09:15 The Role of Discipline and Consistency18:24 Embracing Discomfort for Growth25:06 Auditing Our LifeMentions:Dave Ramsey: Mentioned in the context of financial advice, particularly about paying off debt and making profitable financial decisions.Annie Duke: Referenced for her ideas on decision-making, specifically viewing decisions as bets to increase the likelihood of success.Mark Page: Dane's pastor, acknowledged for his influence and modeling of the principles discussed in the podcast.CrossFit: Mentioned in the context of physical discomfort and the benefits of shared suffering in building strong relationships.Anchor Actions:Audit Your Life for Profit: Start by auditing different categories of your life such as friends, family, finances, and habits. Identify which relationships and activities leave you feeling enriched and which ones drain you. Aim to increase the former and reduce the latter. This is about making conscious choices that prioritize a profitable return on your life.Set a Minimal Viable Practice: Whether it's in the gym or the kitchen, begin with a minimal viable practice that you can sustain over the long haul. Focus on consistency rather than intensity. For example, commit to a daily 10-minute workout or a simple, healthy meal plan. The key is to build a foundation that you can grow from, ensuring you don't miss a day.Simplify and Reduce Optionality: Just like businesses simplify their menu to reduce complexity and improve focus, do the same in your life. Eliminate unnecessary choices and distractions. This could mean cutting down on subscriptions, decluttering your living space, or streamlining your daily routines. The goal is to create more mental and physical space for what truly matters, making it easier to prioritize profit in every decision.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 4 | "We're so used to being consumers, we're consumed, and we think it's normal. Freedom is to release."In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the concept of "Traveling Light". They discuss how overpacking—whether it's physical items for a trip or emotional and mental burdens—can weigh us down and distract us from what truly matters. They emphasize the importance of making conscious choices to carry only what you need and the profound freedom that comes from letting go of excess of all kinds. By front-loading the effort to decide what is essential, you can engage more fully with your reality and experience a more fulfilling life. Join the conversation to learn practical steps for decluttering your life and mind, and discover the power of voluntary discomfort in achieving true freedom.Chapters:00:00 Introduction04:02 Anchors to Reality09:43 Have What You Need12:36 The Burden of Mental and Emotional Weight21:32 Backwards Strategies24:56 Limiting Optionality for Greater Freedom31:23 Action Steps for Traveling Light35:49 The Importance of CommunityMentions:Second Law of Thermodynamics: Mentioned in the context of entropy and energy dissipation.Stoicism: Referenced in relation to controlling one's response to events.Parkinson's Law: The adage that "work expands to fill the time available for its completion."Marie Kondo: Referenced for her method of decluttering Annie Leonard: Creator of the documentary "The Story of Stuff," which discusses consumerism and its environmental impact.Amazon: Mentioned in the context of consumer habits and the ease of acquiring goods.Greg McKeown: Author of "Essentialism," a book about focusing on what is truly essential.Ryan O'Neal (Sleeping at Last): Musician known for using creative constraints in his work.Anchor Actions:1. Simplify Your Environment: Start with one area of your life, such as your workspace or a junk drawer. Remove everything from that space, and only put back what you absolutely need. Donate, recycle, or throw away the rest. This physical act of decluttering can lead to mental clarity and a sense of freedom.2. Identify and Release Mental Burdens: Take a "mental inventory" while on a walk or during a quiet moment. Identify unresolved issues or relationships weighing you down. Commit to one action to address each burden, such as making a phone call, writing a letter, or having a necessary conversation.3. Adopt an Essentialist Approach to Daily Decisions: For the next week, consciously limit your choices. Use a smaller bag, reduce your wardrobe to a capsule collection, or set strict limits on daily tasks. Notice how fewer options can lead to greater focus and satisfaction.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 3 | "Fueling first is not just a nice-to-have thing, it's mission critical."In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the myth of invincibility and the dangers of running on empty. They explore the critical importance of "fueling first" in our daily lives. Just as we maintain and fuel our cars, we must consider how our lack of fuel is impacting our own energy and well-being. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they emphasize the necessity of proactive self-care and the pitfalls of waiting until the last minute to refuel. This episode is a call to action to adopt daily habits that make up a practice, ensuring we are operating at our best, reducing anxiety, and enhancing overall performance. Tune in to discover how small, consistent actions (often uncomfortable) can lead to significant, long-term benefits.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:27 Fueling Your Car and The Cost of Running on Empty07:28 The Advantage of Fueling First09:10 Performance Benefits of Fueling First15:45 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset19:13 Shifting from Reactive to Proactive Living24:17 Practical Tips for Fueling First Daily27:14 Expanding Beyond Daily Routines31:26 Reflecting and Adjusting Your Fueling Habits33:08 Embracing Curiosity and Taking ActionMentions:James Clear: Author of "Atomic Habits," mentioned for his idea that every action is a vote for who you are becoming.Kobe Bryant: Late basketball player, mentioned for his shift in professional nutrition and overall approach to being a professional athlete.Anchor Actions:1. Fuel First Every Day:Commit to starting each day by fueling yourself both physically and mentally. This includes getting enough sleep (aim for 7+ hours), hydrating (96 ounces of water daily), and engaging in morning routines that wake you up and ground you, such as cold showers or breath work. Make this a non-negotiable part of your daily practice.2. Proactively Manage Your Energy:Identify key moments in your day when your energy typically dips and plan proactive measures to refuel. This could involve movement breaks, breath work, or adjusting the timing of your workouts. Ensure you sustain your energy throughout the day by integrating these practices consistently.3. Reflect and Plan Nightly:Establish a nightly routine where you reflect on your day, assess your performance, and plan for the next day. This could include journaling, setting goals, and coordinating with family or household members to ensure a smooth transition into the next day. This practice helps maintain a full tank and reduces anxiety.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 2 | "Are you playing the role, or is the role playing you?"In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the four archetypical roles we all play in life: victim, hero, guide, and rescuer. They discuss how recognizing and choosing these roles can transform your life. From pickleball to the literature we consume, this episode challenges you to wake up to the roles you're playing and choose the path of voluntary discomfort to achieve true transformation. Join us as we explore the second anchor of the series, Choose Your Role.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:22 Pickleball and the Roles We Play10:12 The Four Roles15:38 Symptoms of the Role We are Playing17:50 Moving Beyond Victimhood26:39 Invitation & Identification32:02 Transformation is HardMentions:Donald Miller: Mentioned in the context of his work with StoryBrand and his book "Hero on a Mission".Joseph Campbell: Referenced for his work "The Hero with a Thousand Faces" and the concept of the hero's journey.Matthew Dicks: Mentioned for his storytelling principles.Dan Allender: Psychologist known for his work with adults who were sexually molested as children. Mentioned for his unique therapeutic approach.Tim Krueger: Co-founder of MWOD and mentioned in a story about his parenting approach.Seth Godin: Referenced for his quote, "People like us do things like this."Luke Skywalker, Obi Wan Kenobi, Yoda: Characters from "Star Wars" used to illustrate the hero's journey and the roles of victim, guide, and hero.Anchor Actions:Identify Your Role: Take a moment to reflect on the role you're currently playing in different aspects of your life in any given moment. Are you acting as a victim, hero, guide, or rescuer? Acknowledge this without judgment and ask yourself if this is the role you want to play or if it's the role your future self would be proud of.Seek Voluntary Discomfort: Challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone purposefully. Whether it's taking on a new sport like pickleball, tackling a difficult project at work, or having a tough conversation, choose the harder path that requires effort and growth. Remember, transformation happens through overcoming challenges, not by drifting in comfort.Ask for Constructive Guidance: If you find yourself stuck in a victim or rescuer role, reach out to someone who has navigated similar challenges. Instead of seeking someone to solve your problems, look for a guide who can offer insights and direction while allowing you to do the work. This approach fosters personal growth and self-reliance.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Season 2, Episode 1 | Introducing Season 2: AnchorsIn this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the pervasive mindset of "have to" and invite listeners to trade that for "get to." They explore how reframing daily chores and responsibilities as opportunities can radically shift your perspective and enhance your life. From parenting and marriage to work and mundane tasks, this simple yet profound shift can turn burdens into opportunities. Through personal anecdotes and practical examples, they invite you to experiment with this mindset and discover its potential to ground you in the present and align you with your true self. Tune in to learn how to anchor yourself amidst life's storms and embrace the power of voluntary discomfort.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:24 Season Overview12:07 Get To vs. Have To vs. Want To 16:55 Not Just a Mindset Shift… It's Reality19:32 Relating with Difficult Experiences23:40 The Gift of “Get To”26:23 OpportunityMentions:Dan Tocchini: Mentioned as a mentor of Dane Sanders in transformational work and the first person Dane heard the concept of "get to" from.Seth Godin: Mentioned as another person who has referenced the concept of "get to".Tim Krueger (Co-founder of Men and Women of Discomfort): Mentioned as Dane's co-founder who passed away from stomach cancer and used the "get to" mindset during his treatment.Proverb about Pushing Rocks: Used as a metaphor to illustrate the difference between seeing tasks as a burden ("have to") versus an opportunity ("get to").Anchor Actions:Reframe “Chores” as Opportunities: Experiment with viewing everything from the mundane tasks to important roles in your life—parenting, marriage, work, and domestic chores—as opportunities rather than burdens. Use 'Get To' Instead of 'Have To': Simply replace the phrase "I have to" with "I get to" in your daily language. For example, instead of saying, "I have to take out the trash," say, "I get to take out the trash, which keeps my home clean and pleasant." This subtle change can significantly alter your mindset and anchor you to the reality of your situation.Anchor in the Present Moment: When you feel overwhelmed or angry, use the concept of anchors to ground yourself. Acknowledge your current emotions and use them as a signal to slow down and regain perspective. This practice can help you navigate through challenging moments more effectively.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 19 | Are you stuck in a decision-making paralysis, afraid to make the wrong move?In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the universal struggle of making tough decisions. They break down a practical process to help you move from indecision to action, whether it's about your job, relationships, or any significant life choice. Discover how to identify your current status quo, evaluate past attempts, and assess new opportunities with clarity. By embracing voluntary discomfort and making informed bets, you can break free from the cycle of hesitation and step confidently into becoming the person you want to be. Join us and learn how to make decisions that propel you forward, even if it means taking the uncomfortable path.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:23 The Weight of Decision Fatigue06:49 Establishing Your Current Reality09:22 Envisioning a New Reality13:54 What Have You Tried Before Now?16:34 Why didn't it Work? How is this Different?21:50 Make a DecisionMentions:Annie Duke: Mentioned as a professional poker player who discusses decision-making as bets with incomplete data.Søren Kierkegaard: Referenced for his quote, "Man finds the level of despair he can tolerate and calls it happiness."Derek Sivers: Mentioned for popularizing the idea that decisions should be a "hell yeah or no."Billy Broas and Tiago Forte: Mentioned for their book "Simple Marketing for Smart People," which discusses the contrast between the current situation and desired outcomes.Anchor Actions:1. Clarify Your Status Quo: Take a piece of paper and write down your current situation in detail. Whether it's your job, relationship, or any other aspect of your life, list out what you have right now. This exercise will help you understand your starting point and what exactly you might want to change.2. Evaluate Past Efforts: Reflect on what you have tried before to address your dissatisfaction. Identify why those efforts didn't work. Was it a lack of commitment, wrong strategy, or external factors? Understanding this will help you avoid repeating the same mistakes and recognize patterns in your behavior.3. Justify the New Option: Clearly articulate what is different about the new option you are considering. Why do you believe this will succeed where previous attempts have failed? This step is crucial to ensure that you are not just moving the furniture around on the deck of the Titanic but making a meaningful change.4. Make a DecisionJoin Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 18 | Humans who don't have the ability to delay gratification are stunted in their growth for the rest of their life.In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the pervasive allure of "shiny and new" distractions that derail our focus and growth. They share personal stories and practical strategies to combat the constant pull of immediate gratification. By acknowledging the ever-present temptations, setting up our environments for success, and leveraging community support, we can make deliberate choices that align with our long-term goals. Chapters:00:00 Introduction03:33 The Trap of Shiny and New15:08 Signals and Surges18:50 Decisive Action Against Distractions26:54 Perspective: The Nature of Things28:53 People: The Power of Community31:01 Practice: Building Your Rule of Life34:19 Patience: Playing the Long Game38:51 True Ease and Deep ComfortMentions:Eugene Peterson: Christian writer known for "The Message," a contemporary translation of the Bible.Marcus Aurelius: Roman Emperor and Stoic philosopher, author of "Meditations."Russell Brand: Comedian and author of many books on recovery and addiction.Andy Crouch: Author who discusses putting things in their proper place.Seth Godin: Author and speaker, mentioned for his talk on human potential and the concept of "people like us do things like this."M. Scott Peck: Psychiatrist and author of "The Road Less Traveled" and "People of the Lie," known for his insights on delayed gratification.The Eisenhower Matrix: A time management tool that categorizes tasks into four quadrants based on urgency and importance.Anchor Actions:1. Anticipate and Acknowledge Temptations:Before starting your day, acknowledge that distractions and temptations will arise. Recognize the "shiny and new" items and interruptions that will try to pull you away from your goals. By anticipating these distractions, you prepare yourself mentally to resist them.2. Create a Delay Gratification Strategy:Implement strategies to delay gratification. For example, set specific times to check emails or open packages. Place notifications on silent or use apps that temporarily block distracting websites. This helps you stay focused on tasks that align with your long-term goals.3. Community:Surround yourself with a community that shares your values and goals. Engage with people who care and hold the tension of support and challenge. Whether it's through a group like MWOD or a close-knit circle of friends, having a community helps reinforce your commitment to choosing the hard but rewarding path.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 17 | The Leaky Bucket of AccountabilityIn this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the conventional wisdom around accountability. They argue that relying on others to hold us accountable is a way to dodge responsibility and set ourselves up for failure. Instead, they advocate for a practice of self-accountability that starts with creating and holding space for self-reflection— which can be done in community. They outline a process of committing to new behaviors, releasing old habits, and embracing the discomfort that leads to real change. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they invite listeners to take ownership of their growth and transformation. Don't just listen—take action and start holding yourself accountable today.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:23 The Accountability Partner Myth04:08 Why Isn't it Working?07:11 Creating and Holding Space13:29 Daily Practices for Grounding18:20 True Repentance and Commitment21:04 The CREDO Framework25:04 Accountability in Community32:37 Taking ActionMentions:Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for the saying "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.""The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg: Referenced in the context of understanding habits."Atomic Habits" by James Clear: Referenced in the context of understanding habits.Accountability: Discussed extensively, particularly the idea that self-accountability is more effective than relying on others to hold you accountable.Creating and Holding Space: The practice of creating a mental and emotional space to reflect and account for one's actions.Repentance: Described as a model for course correction, involving stopping, turning around, and moving in a new direction.Fess Up Fridays: A practice within MWOD where members reflect on their commitments, hold account for where they missed the mark, what they learned, and what they will do differently.CREDO Framework: A model for personal change involving Commit, Release, Embrace, Define, and Own stages.Ownership and Agency: Emphasized as critical for personal development and accountability.ItsProbablyNotForYou.com - Check it out!Anchor Actions:Self-Accountability Check-In: Every week, take a moment to reflect on three key points: What goal did you set, and where did you fall short?What did you learn about yourself in the process?What specific action will you take to correct your course and move forward?Create and Hold Space for Reflection:Dedicate a daily practice to create and hold space for yourself. This could involve a cold shower to wake up, a few minutes of breath-holding to center yourself, and journaling to process your thoughts. This routine helps you slow down, reflect on your actions, and prepare for the day with clarity.Commit to a New Direction:When you identify a behavior or habit you want to change, make a clear commitment to a new course of action. Understand that you will face resistance and the urge to revert to old habits. Embrace the discomfort, release your preferences, and consistently practice the new behavior until it becomes a natural part of your routine.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 16 | "Is taking care of yourself selfish?" This episode of Strong & Awake challenges the conventional wisdom around self-care and personal growth. Dane and Mitch explore the paradox of self-improvement, questioning whether focusing on oneself is inherently selfish or if it can serve a greater purpose. They discuss the tension between self-care and serving others, emphasizing that true growth often comes from voluntary discomfort. Through real-life examples and community insights, they reveal how building a personal practice not only benefits the individual but also strengthens their ability to support and uplift those around them. Join the conversation and discover how to navigate the complexities of personal development in a way that enriches both your life and the lives of others.Chapters:00:00 Introduction02:14 The Nurturer's Dilemma05:17 Impact on Others: Both Sides07:20 Two Motivations09:31 The Paradox of Self-Care14:19 Tensions to be Managed16:47 Navigating Social Discomfort19:53 We All Have a Practice23:00 Change is Disruptive25:58 When They Need Us27:37 Commitment in CommunityMentions:Soren Kierkegaard: Quoted with "Man finds a level of despair he can tolerate and he calls it happiness."Alex Honnold: Mentioned as an example of someone with a rigorous practice, known for his free solo climbing.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 15 | Move from reacting to responding, from a routine to a practice.In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the conventional wisdom around routines and explore the power of building a personal practice. They discuss how our fight-or-flight responses are deeply wired and why it's beneficial to have these triggers. The conversation gets into the importance of voluntary discomfort and how it can lead to a more fulfilling life. They also address the misconception that feelings should be suppressed, suggesting instead that feelings can be valuable cues for growth. Through practical steps and relatable examples, they offer insights on how to wake up to our triggers, assess our safety, and move toward discomfort for personal growth. Join us as we share strategies for leveraging feelings and building sustainable practices that help us become more resilient and present in our daily lives.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:06 Redeeming Feelings02:41 George Costanza's Opposite Approach05:46 Leveraging Emotions09:23 Building a Personal Practice17:46 Practical Steps to Handle Emotions23:33 Persisting Through the MundaneMentions:George Costanza: A character from the TV show "Seinfeld," used as a metaphor for decision-making by doing the opposite of one's initial instinct.James Clear: Author of "Atomic Habits," mentioned in the context of building habits and routines.Seth Godin: Referenced for his ideas on the rarity of actual danger in modern life compared to historical threats like saber-tooth tigers.Hypothalamus Hijack: Mentioned as a physiological response during heightened emotional states.Anchor Actions:Practice Awareness and Safety Check: When you feel a strong emotional surge, take a moment to recognize it. Ask yourself, "Am I actually in danger?" If not, use this awareness to pause and prevent a reactive response. This step helps to break the automatic cycle of fight, flight, or freeze.Lean into Discomfort: Once you've established that you're safe, intentionally move toward the thing you're resisting. Whether it's listening more intently, asking a clarifying question, or engaging in a challenging conversation, taking this step helps build resilience and adaptability.Build a Personal Practice: Develop and maintain a personal practice that includes small, consistent habits of voluntary discomfort, such as cold showers or fasting. These practices train your mind and body to handle stress better, making it easier to stay present and composed in challenging situations.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 14 | "What happens when you let emotions drive your life?" In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the pitfalls of letting emotions take the wheel. They share personal stories and practical insights on how to shift from a reactive, comfort-seeking mindset to one of intentional, voluntary discomfort. Using the analogy of a misbehaving puppy and the rigorous training of professional athletes, they illustrate the importance of developing cognitive control over emotional impulses. This episode challenges listeners to embrace discomfort as a training ground for becoming more fully human and achieving a life of strength and awareness. Join the conversation and discover how to lead your life instead of being led by your emotions.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:05 The Path of Least Resistance04:08 The Wrong Boss in Charge08:21 De-Signifying Emotions14:25 Strong and Awake for Love's Sake19:29 Leveraging Life's Difficulties22:04 Getting in the Reps27:00 Practicing Under Duress33:33 Doing Something About ItMentions:Søren Kierkegaard: Mentioned for his quote “People settle for a level of despair they can tolerate and call it happiness.”Michael Hyatt: Referenced for his saying, "Well then tell your face that," in relation to emotions.Steve Nash, Steph Curry, and Klay Thompson: NBA players mentioned for their rigorous practice and shot accuracy.Taylor Holiday: Mentioned as "Man Of Discomfort #1" and CEO of Common Thread Collective.Anchor Actions:Practice Voluntary Discomfort Regularly: Integrate activities like cold showers, breathwork, or intermittent fasting into your daily routine. These practices will help you become more aware of your emotions and improve your ability to manage them, thus enhancing your resilience and cognitive functioning.Engage in Reflective Practices: Dedicate time each week to reflect on your actions and decisions. Journaling or discussing with a trusted friend or mentor can help you gain insights into how emotions influence your behavior and how you can better manage them in the future.Choose Hard Conversations: Commit to addressing difficult topics and conflicts directly rather than avoiding them. Set a rule for yourself, such as not letting more than two days pass before responding to a challenging message or having a tough conversation. This practice will help you build emotional resilience and improve your relationships.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 13 | "What do you do when you're just not feeling it?"In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch tackle the universal struggle of pushing through when motivation is nowhere to be found. They explore the physiological and emotional barriers that often lead us to give up on ourselves and offer actionable strategies to counteract these moments of weakness. From the power of daily practices to the surprising benefits of voluntary discomfort, they share personal stories and practical tips to help you stand up and take control, even when every part of you wants to crumble. Tune in to discover how to flip the script on comfort and build a life of resilience and purpose.Chapters:00:00 Introduction00:56 Facing the Slog03:46 Empathy in Crisis06:31 The Power of Daily Practice08:19 Gaining Traction15:29 The Slog: Drift, Whirlwind, and Comfort23:14 Rightly Ordered Feelings33:16 From External to Internal MotivationMentions:Andrew Huberman: Mentioned in the context of scientific reasons for the benefits of cold water exposure.George Costanza: Referenced humorously in relation to doing the opposite of what one feels like doing.Tim Krueger: Mentioned as a co-founder of Men and Women of Discomfort who had stomach cancer.Marshall McLuhan: Referenced for his phrase "the medium is the message" and his insights into media and technology's impact on society.James Clear: Author of "Atomic Habits," mentioned for his concept of habit stacking and his new habit creation app, Adams.Self-Determination Theory: Psychological theory mentioned in the context of intrinsic motivation, focusing on agency, mastery, and belonging.Anchor Actions:Embrace Cold Showers: Start your day with a cold shower, particularly on days when you feel least motivated. The initial discomfort will shock your system, but it will also help you gain control over your physiological responses, waking you up to a bigger reality and setting a resilient tone for the day.Commit to a Simple Daily Practice: Identify a small, non-negotiable daily habit that you can commit to, such as flossing your teeth or a brief morning exercise. This practice should be something you can rely on even in challenging times, providing a sense of stability and accomplishment.Minimize Comfort Crutches: Challenge yourself to remove small comforts that you rely on, such as listening to music while grocery shopping or adding creamer to your coffee. This will build your capacity to handle discomfort and increase your resilience, making you stronger and more self-reliant.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 12 | "Hard choices, easy life; easy choices, hard life." — Jerzy GregorekIn this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the trifecta of challenges that every human faces: the drift, the whirlwind, and the comfort crisis (our response). They reveal how our natural inclination towards comfort can lead to a life of mediocrity and despair. Through personal anecdotes and metaphors to act as anchors, they illustrate the importance of choosing voluntary discomfort to achieve a life of flourishing and strength. Join them as they challenge you to flip the script and embrace the unlikely path to a better existence.Chapters:00:00 Introduction02:38 The Drift05:05 The Whirlwind06:56 The Comfort Crisis12:52 Personal Whirlwinds28:07 Our Response32:26 Building a PracticeMentions:Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for saying, "hard choices, easy life, easy choices, hard life."Second Law of Thermodynamics (Entropy): Mentioned as the scientific concept of energy dissipation.Talking Heads: Referenced for their song with the lyric "how did I get here?"Krista Tippett: Host of On Being, the podcast which contained the original reference to "the whirlwind of being human".Michael Easter: Author of "The Comfort Crisis," a book discussing the modern world's comfort issues.Kierkegaard: Quoted for saying, "man finds the level of despair he can tolerate and he calls it happiness."James Clear: Author of "Atomic Habits," mentioned for his new habit-tracking app called Atoms.Tim Krueger (Co-founder): Mentioned as the co-founder of Men and Women of Discomfort who passed away from stomach cancer.Book "A Grace Disguised": Mentioned as a book about grief by an author who lost his family in a car accident.Buffalo and Cows: Mentioned in the context of buffaloes running toward storms and cows running away, leading to their demise.Anchor Actions:1. Shift the Drift:Identify areas in your life where you feel your energy dissipating. This could be your health, relationships, or personal goals.Implement small, consistent habits to counteract this drift. For example, if you notice a decline in physical health, commit to a daily 10-minute exercise routine. Track your progress and adjust as needed to ensure you're infusing energy back into these areas regularly.2. Face the Whirlwind with Preparedness:Acknowledge the unpredictable storms in your life—whether they are health issues, financial stress, or unexpected responsibilities.Prepare for these by creating a contingency plan. This could include setting aside an emergency fund, developing a mental health routine (like meditation or journaling), or building a support network. The key is to have a proactive approach to manage these challenges when they arise.3. Reject the Comfort Crisis by Choosing Hard Paths:Identify moments when you are tempted to choose comfort over growth. This could be opting to watch TV instead of working on a personal project or avoiding a difficult conversation.Commit to making at least one hard choice daily. This could mean starting your day with a cold shower, taking the stairs instead of the elevator, or having that tough conversation you've been avoiding. Track these choices and reflect on the benefits you experience as a result.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if...

Episode 11 | "People would rather have the short-term comfort than the long-term benefit."In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the comfort-driven lifestyle that leaves many feeling weak and unfulfilled. They discuss how our preference for convenience and ease often sabotages our long-term goals, leading to a cycle of daily dissatisfaction. Learn how foundational aspects like food, drink, sleep, and fitness, revealing how small, consistent changes can lead to radical transformation. Through the MWOD community, they illustrate how accountability, community, and structured discomfort can help you break free from the traps of modern convenience. If you're ready to trade short-term comfort for long-term fulfillment, this episode is your roadmap. Join Dane and Mitch as they unpack the principles that can help you become strong and awake for love's sake… If you are leaning in, then MWOD might just be for you.Chapters:00:00 Introduction00:25 The Comfort Trap01:18 The Illusion of Options05:37 Short-Term Goals vs. Long-Term Vision08:48 The Path to Flourishing12:22 The Power of Community33:31 Why MWOD Might Not Be for YouMentions:MWOD (Men & Women Of Discomfort): The community and program discussed throughout the podcast, which focuses on voluntary discomfort to achieve personal growth.Hemingway's Pencil: Referenced metaphorically to illustrate the futility of relying on tools or gear alone for success.Dan Tocchini and Jean-Marie Jobs: Mentioned as mentors who introduced the concept of "get to" versus "have to".Seth Godin: Referenced for his idea that "people like us do things like this".Viktor Frankl: Mentioned in the context of creating a life of meaning, drawing from his existential philosophy.Mark Brewer: A member of the MWOD community mentioned as an example of forming strong bonds through the program.Anchor Actions:Embrace Voluntary Discomfort: Identify one area in your life where you consistently choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. Start small by committing to a daily practice of voluntary discomfort, such as taking a cold shower or eliminating a comfort food. This will build resilience and set the stage for larger changes.Set Up for Success: Prepare for the next day each evening. Lay out your workout clothes, plan your meals, and set a bedtime that ensures at least seven hours of sleep. By setting yourself up for success, you remove barriers that lead to daily setbacks and ensure each day starts ahead of the curve.Community: Join a community or create a small group with friends or colleagues where you can check in daily. Share your goals, progress, and setbacks. This place to hold account will help you stay committed and provide support when challenges arise. If you think MWOD sounds like the community for you, apply at mwod.ioJoin Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 10 | How are you doing with your New Year's Resolutions? In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the pitfalls of comfort-centric living and the myths surrounding New Year's Resolutions and past efforts to change. They break down the common options and promises many rely on hoping for personal growth: big leaps and hyper-challenge, hyper-support, the "I just need..." mentality, and wishful thinking. Why do these quick fixes fail to deliver lasting results? Tune in and learn why embracing voluntary discomfort and sustainable, intentional actions might just be the unlikely path to flourishing.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:19 Options and Promises04:26 Beyond Resolutions08:23 Big Leaps and Hyper Challenge13:35 Hyper Support23:26 I Just Need...19:32 Wishful ThinkingMentions:Planet Fitness: Mentioned as an example of a gym marketing heavily during New Year's resolutions.Whole30: Referenced as a popular 30-day diet challenge often used as a reset.75 Hard: A rigorous 75-day challenge program compared to MWOD's approach.James Clear: Cited for his work on habit development, particularly in his book "Atomic Habits".Super Mario: Used as an analogy for the concept of big leaps and the subsequent fall.Anchor Actions:Conduct an honest audit of your current reality: List what you've tried in the past, the results, and what you truly want to achieve.Develop a strategy for sustainable change: Create a plan that includes not just the big leap but also ongoing actions for after the initial challenge period.Establish healthy tension: Introduce manageable challenges into your routine to foster growth while avoiding hyper-support and wishful thinking.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 9 | "Why do so many people fail to change, even when they say they want to?"In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the critical stages of transformation and why true change often eludes us. They challenge listeners to examine their commitments and confront the unconscious preferences that keep them stuck in comfort. By understanding and navigating the five stages of CREDO—commit, release, embrace, define, and own—you can break free from the cycle of failed resolutions and build a practice for lasting transformation. Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:06 The Illusion of Commitment03:10 Stages of Change07:59 The Real Starting Line: Release15:47 Embracing Discomfort29:20 Defining37:33 Owning & How the Stages RelateMentions:James Clear: Author of "Atomic Habits," referenced for his idea of building a life one small habit at a time.Brené Brown: Mentioned in the context of embracing discomfort and vulnerability.Alex Honnold: Renowned for his free solo climbing.Alex Hormozi: Referenced for his saying, "This is what hard feels like.Anchor Actions:Identify and Commit: Reflect on a specific area in your life where you want to see change. Write down your commitment and declare it to someone you trust. This first step is crucial in moving from intention to action.Release Preferences: When you face resistance or obstacles, consciously choose to release your preference for comfort. Embrace the challenge and prioritize your commitment over convenience, even when it feels difficult.Embrace and Persist: Wholeheartedly embrace the actions required to achieve your goal. Stay committed through discomfort and practice consistently. This stage is where true transformation happens, as you integrate new habits into your life.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 8 | "Your job is not to get rid of fear. Your job is to learn how to dance with it."In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the transformative power of tension and discomfort. They discuss how the pursuit of balance often masks a deeper desire for relief from life's pressures, and why embracing tension is crucial for genuine growth. Drawing on insights from Seth Godin and personal anecdotes, they highlight the importance of leveraging fear and stress as tools for strength and awakening. This conversation challenges listeners to redefine their relationship with discomfort and to see tension as a pathway to becoming their most authentic selves. Join Dane and Mitch as they explore the dynamics of voluntary discomfort as the unlikely path to true comfort.Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:12 The Gift of Tension03:19 Dancing with Fear07:42 Craving Relief, Not Balance08:49 Painting the Bullseye Around the Dart11:29 Becoming the Genuine Article15:04 Individual vs. Collective GrowthMentions:Seth Godin: Mentioned for his insights on fear and the importance of learning to "dance with it" instead of trying to eliminate it.75 Hard: Referenced in the context of tension and growth, highlighting the importance of sustained effort and challenge.Searching for Bobby Fischer: Mentioned in a story about chess and the development of skills, illustrating the value of early training and community support.Adam Grant's Hidden Possibilities: Mentioned regarding cultural norms and inequalities, emphasizing the role of community and opportunity in personal growth.Anchor Actions:Embrace Tension: Identify areas in your life where you feel discomfort or stress and view them as opportunities for growth. Instead of seeking relief, lean into these tensions and use them as training grounds to develop resilience and strength.Dance with Fear: Recognize that fear is a constant companion. Rather than trying to eliminate it, learn to work with it. Find ways to create productive tension with your fears, using them as pivot points to achieve your goals and enhance your personal growth.Be Honest: Commit to integrity. Avoid shortcuts and the temptation to "paint the bullseye around the dart." Start with recognizing that you might be "cheating" and in the process cheating yourself from the growth that starts with that radical candor.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 7 | Are you building a cathedral, or are you just pushing rocks?In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch explore the crucial interplay between the present moment and long-term vision. Using vivid analogies like the parable of two rock-pushers - one building a cathedral, the other aimlessly toiling, pushing rocks - they underscore the necessity of connecting daily actions to a greater purpose. Through frank self-examination of symptoms, both positive and negative, listeners are challenged to identify (with radical candor) their current reality and preferred future. With authenticity and specificity, they guide listeners in painting a nuanced, multi-sensory vision to fuel sustained motivation amidst life's inevitable discomforts. For those feeling demoralized by past failed attempts, this episode offers a radical reframing: charting an unconventional path aligned with ancient wisdom, not fleeting fads promising shortcuts to fulfillment.Key Moments:00:00 Introduction 00:54 What is now, what is not yet?03:48 Name the symptoms, reveal the vision17:38 What do you want?21:28 Mastering the mundane24:22 Crystallize the cathedralMentioned in this Episode:Dan Tocchini - Dane's mentor who originally shared the rock pusher parable exemplifying purposeful living. Dan is a seasoned leadership coach and co-founder of Take New Ground, known for his innovative approaches to conflict resolution and transformative leadership development.Matthew Perry - Dane references the tragic trajectory of the Friends actor, who achieved fame but then struggled with deeper dissatisfaction.David (from the Psalms) - Dane quotes this "Jewish dude" counseling to desire neither poverty nor wealth, just one's "daily bread."The parable of the two rock pushers - Dane uses this metaphor, where one laborer builds a cathedral while the other toils aimlessly, to illustrate the power of vision.Anchor Actions:Ruthlessly list the bothersome "symptoms" manifesting in your current reality, then vividly depict the alternative reality you crave - paint it with nuanced textures, sights, sounds, and feelings.Radically question whether your stated goals and visions align with your deepest values and the person you wish to become. Are wealth, fame, or comfort truly "worth wanting"?Regularly reconnect with and update your crystallized "cathedral" vision, fueling sustained motivation by viscerally visualizing the purposeful life you're striving toward amidst inevitable daily discomforts.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 6 | This episode is all about failure and the complex relationship we all have with it. Dane Sanders and Mitch Dong discuss how perceptions of failure influence our behaviors and emphasize the importance of embracing failure and discomfort as avenues for personal growth. The hosts argue that facing challenges helps build resilience and strength, and they provide practical tips for starting small with new habits that foster significant personal development. The episode encourages listeners to move away from seeking comfort, promoting a life enriched by voluntarily facing discomfort, thereby redefining one's relationship with failure and discomfort.Key Moments:00:00 Introduction01:00 Triggers & Relating to Failure07:35 Embracing Reality11:20 Stages for Embracing Discomfort19:01 Starting Small with Practical First Steps24:53 Enjoy Your LifeMentioned in this Episode:Kobe Bryant and Michael Jordan: They mention memes and quotes from these athletes to highlight how they turned their failures into learning experiences and success stories.Thomas Edison: Referenced in relation to his numerous failures before successfully inventing the light bulb, illustrating perseverance and iteration.James Clear: His concept of "habit stacking" from his work on forming new habits is discussed as a practical approach to personal development.Anchor Actions:Commit to Reality: Start by acknowledging and committing to the reality of your current situation. Whether it's an uncomfortable emotion, a failure, or a triggering event, make a conscious decision to face it head-on rather than avoiding it. This could be as simple as spending a few minutes each day reflecting on your feelings and experiences without judgment.Establish Mini Habits: Begin with small, manageable habits that you can commit to daily. Choose something that slightly stretches your comfort zone, like flossing your teeth, drinking an extra glass of water, or doing a short exercise routine. Use habit stacking to integrate these new habits into your existing routines—pair them with activities you already do consistently.Don't Go It Alone: Engage with a community that shares your commitment to personal growth. This could be joining a local fitness class, a group like MWOD, or simply connecting with friends who have similar goals. Sharing your journey with others provides a place to hold account, a place for support, and a place for challenge— making it easier to stay committed.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 5 | In this episode of Strong & Awake, hosts Dane and Mitchell explore the often misunderstood aspects of learning and personal growth. They challenge the common belief that outcomes can be easily bought and stress that real growth demands active engagement with challenges and discomfort. The discussion covers the misconceptions about learning, the importance of active participation over mere consumption, and the transformative effects of voluntarily facing discomfort. The episode delves into the differences between merely wanting something and being willing to endure necessary hardships for its achievement, highlighting the essential role of discomfort in development. Featuring personal stories and a philosophical look at commitment and learning stages within the MWOD CREDO framework, the episode concludes by encouraging listeners to accept discomfort as a key to unlocking their fullest potential.Key Moments:00:00 Desire vs. Commitment01:09 Unpacking the True Nature of Learning13:00 Difference Between Consumption and Learning17:36 How To Shift From Wanting to Actual Learning22:06 Embracing the Process 24:28 The CRE of CREDO32:51 Learning to Read vs Reading to LearnMentioned in this Episode:Socrates: Referenced in the context of acknowledging the limits of one's knowledge.Brene Brown: Credited with popularizing the phrase "hugging the cactus," although not the originator.Courtney Dauwalter: Highlighted for her achievements and mindset in endurance trail running.Seth Godin: Recommended for his book "The Dip," which discusses the importance of knowing when to quit.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 4 | In this episode, Dane and Mitch discuss the importance of honesty and humility in personal growth. They explore the nature of truth, the philosophical inquiries surrounding reality, and the importance of having a humble disposition towards what we think we know. The episode encourages you to practice intellectual honesty, engage in difficult conversations, and acknowledge your role in conflicts to navigate towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. The episode also touches on the value of grace in overcoming shame and the practical steps one can take towards cultivating honesty and humility in daily life. Key Moments:00:00 Introduction01:13 Diving Deep into Truth and Honesty04:00 Exploring the Concept of 'My Truth'06:43 Navigating Moral Failures and Grace12:26 Shame-Free Challenge18:21 Cultivating Honesty in Daily Life24:54 Lying to Ourselves, Playing a Role26:19 Closing Thoughts and Invitation to Join MWODMentioned in this Episode:Simulation Theory: The concept that reality might be simulated, akin to ideas discussed by philosophers and scientists.René Magritte: Specifically, his famous painting "The Treachery of Images" which features the line "Ceci n'est pas une pipe" ("This is not a pipe"). This painting is used as a metaphor in the discussion."What It's Like to Be a Bat": An article by philosopher Thomas Nagel that discusses the subjective experience of a bat and the philosophical implications of understanding another creature's consciousness.Pascal: Blaise Pascal, a French philosopher, referenced in relation to his thoughts on human difficulties with solitude and the importance of sitting alone in a room.Henri Nouwen: Mentioned in the context of solitude and its importance for personal growth.Simon Sinek: Referenced for his ideas on company culture and values, and the practical application of honesty in organizational settings.James Clear: Mentioned in relation to habit formation techniques, specifically "habit stacking."Anchor Actions:To cultivate more honesty, consider implementing a practice of solitude and self-reflection, recognizing the powerful role of being alone with your thoughts. This can lead to greater self-awareness and honesty in relationships as well. Additionally, embrace small daily practices that challenge your comfort, such as habit stacking, where you incorporate new habits before established ones. This approach not only builds new habits but also strengthens personal discipline and resilience, making you more capable of facing larger challenges. Such practices can significantly enhance your ability to engage honestly and constructively in all areas of life.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 3 | In this third episode of Strong & Awake, hosts Dane Sanders and Mitch Dong explore the paradox of choice and how an abundance of options can lead to decision paralysis, effectively limiting our freedom. They discuss the concept of true freedom and how it is tied not to the plethora of choices but to the ability to commit and move forward with decisions. The episode highlights that comfort and an overload of options can be inhibiting rather than liberating. Through personal anecdotes and discussions on human behavior, the episode delves into reducing options and embracing discomfort to foster growth, strength, and a sense of purpose. The conversation also emphasizes the importance of knowing who you want to become and taking small, discomforting actions towards that goal.Key Moments:00:00 Introduction01:05 Options are bad news08:48 Freedom in Commitments15:56 Comfort is the curse18:50 Higher Order Thinking33:48 Anchor ActionMentioned in this Episode:“Atomic Habits” by James Clear“The Paradox of Choice” by Barry SchwartzAnchor Actions:Identify people in your close circle who excel in different aspects of life - from handling challenges to maintaining a positive outlook. Note down their specific strengths and observe their daily actions rather than just their words. Over the next few months, incorporate one or two of their behaviors into your routine each day. Embrace discomfort and push yourself to undertake challenging actions like your mentors, even if they seem difficult at first. Remember, facing discomfort is the key to achieving the freedoms and success they enjoy. By adopting their habits, you'll steadily progress towards personal growth and enjoy the benefits it brings.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 2 | This podcast episode, hosted by Dane Sanders and Mitchell Dong, explores the concept of enrolling oneself into seeking personal growth and living a fulfilled life. It references ideas on Stoicism, emphasizing the importance of self-discipline and individual effort in personal development. The discussion delves into the societal craving for comfort and how it leads to weakness. Dane also discusses the concept of 'enrollment,' or committing to personal growth, and contrasts it with being persuaded or enrolled by others. Through various examples, including a powerful personal encounter, the episode conveys the message that true growth and learning come from embracing discomfort and making hard choices. It concludes by encouraging listeners to commit to a small, uncomfortable act for love's sake and share their commitment with someone within ten minutes, emphasizing the importance of taking action towards personal growth.Key Moments:00:00 Introduction00:58 Stoicism and Self-Discipline03:17 The Power of Voluntary Discomfort07:43 Self-Enrollment13:10 Self-Negotiation18:35 Commitment, Action, and Growth22:06 Anchor Action: For Love's SakeMentioned in this Episode:Ryan Holiday's Daily Stoic and Read to Lead programDallas WillardElevated SpacesAnchor Actions:After reflecting on the theme of "for love's sake" discussed in the episode, consider individuals in your life whom you love or wish to love more deeply, whether it's yourself or others. From there, think about an action that aligns with the notion of expressing love through your deeds. It could be something as mundane as completing household chores or engaging in a thoughtful gesture towards someone significant to you. The key is to choose a commitment that might initially seem unappealing but holds potential for meaningful impact. Once you've identified your commitment, make it concrete by setting a minimal viable goal and committing to it. Within the next ten minutes, inform someone close to you about your commitment, emphasizing the significance of this decision. Don't procrastinate; set a timer and ensure you follow through promptly. Once you've shared your commitment, allow it to serve as a starting point for further growth and action. Embrace the discomfort that may accompany this commitment, recognizing it as a catalyst for personal development.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Episode 1 | In this first episode of the Strong & Awake: The Unlikely Path podcast, Dane and Mitchell discuss the foundational principles of the community, Men & Women Of Discomfort. They delve into the core concepts of being "strong" and "awake," exploring how these attributes are intertwined and crucial for leading a flourishing life. Drawing from their experiences and insights, they explain why voluntary discomfort is essential for personal growth and resilience. Throughout the conversation, they contrast voluntary discomfort with the avoidance of discomfort prevalent in modern culture, emphasizing the importance of embracing challenges as opportunities for growth as a way to show up for ourselves and those we love.Key Moments:00:00 Introduction01:07 Strong & Awake for Love's Sake 06:26 Breaking down “For Love's Sake” 14:57 The “Why” of Discomfort 21:22 The “How” of MWOD Mentioned in this Episode:Anthony DeMello: A Catholic priest known for his teachings on spirituality and self-awareness, particularly the concept of being awake versus asleep. Sam Harris: Mentioned for his discussions on waking up to reality, part of the new atheist tradition. Tim Keller: A theologian known for his writings on Christianity. Mentioned for his booklet on self-forgetfulness. Book: "The Freedom of Self Forgetfulness"Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus: Philosophers known for their writings on Stoicism. Mentioned in relation to Ryan Holiday's popularity. Books: "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius, "Letters from a Stoic" by Seneca, "Discourses" by Epictetus.Michael Easter: Author of "The Comfort Crisis," mentioned for his exploration of discomfort and its absence in modern society. Book: "The Comfort Crisis" Scott Peck: Author of "The Road Less Traveled," mentioned for his ideas on embracing difficulty and delayed gratification. Book: "The Road Less Traveled" Peter Attia: Mentioned for his discussions on health and the four horsemen of health-related issues.Jersey Gregoric: Mentioned for his quote, "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."Whole30, 75 Hard: Both mentioned as challenges focused on health and lifestyle changes.Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Welcome to Strong & Awake, a podcast production of Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD). Join us as we embrace voluntary discomfort as an unlikely path to flourishing in life. Hosted by Dane Sanders and Mitch DongJoin Us:Join us at MWOD, where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at www.mwod.io Connect With Us:Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | X (Twitter)Disclaimer:The information shared on this podcast and any related materials from Men & Women Of Discomfort or Flying S Incorporated are for general informational purposes only. You should not use this information as a basis for making decisions without consulting your own medical and legal professionals. We aim to provide accurate and up-to-date information, but we make no guarantees about the completeness, accuracy, reliability, suitability, or comprehensiveness of the content.At Men & Women Of Discomfort, we promote agency and encourage you to carefully consider the input we offer. If you find it helpful, we invite you to take advantage of it, but do so with the understanding that you bear the responsibility of due diligence. By using our content, you acknowledge that you are taking opportunities at your own risk. Thank you for understanding.Music Credit: Desolation by Wastelander CM2Z2BXIOOH7KU3EMen & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD.io) Copyright 2024 Men & Women Of Discomfort (MWOD.io)