Podcasts about keeping commitments

Season 4, Episode 6 | "Do you wanna look perfect or be perfect?" This episode of Strong & Awake challenges the notion of perfectionism and its impact on personal growth. Mitch and Dane explore how the pursuit of perfection often becomes a barrier, preventing us from taking action and learning from our experiences. They discuss the importance of embracing wholeheartedness—bringing your full self to every endeavor, even when failure is a possibility. By sharing personal stories and community practices, they highlight the value of vulnerability, accountability, and authenticity in overcoming perfectionism. This episode invites listeners to reflect on their own lives, encouraging them to tell truer stories and pursue growth through voluntary discomfort.Chapters:00:00 Introduction02:27 Perfectionism as a Thief06:44 The Myth of Being Perfect09:22 Living Wholeheartedly16:40 The Vanity of Perfectionism19:04 Keeping Commitments to Yourself24:57 Humility and Honest Storytelling32:00 Closing & InvitationMentions:Carol Dweck - Known for her work on mindset, particularly the concepts of "fixed mindset" and "growth mindset."Gregory Benedict - Mentioned in relation to a TEDx talk and helping a world record setting weightlifter.Steph Curry - Professional basketball player, often cited as the greatest shooter in NBA history.TEDx - A program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience.Turkish Getup - A complex exercise typically done with a kettlebell, mentioned here being performed with a barbell.Anchor Actions:Reframe Your Stories: In the next 24 hours, identify a moment where you told a story to justify breaking a commitment. Approach the person involved and share a more honest account of what happened. This practice not only builds integrity but also moves you closer to wholehearted living.Quarterly Self-Assessment: Schedule a quarterly review of your life. Reflect on whether your actions are aligned with trying to appear perfect or being genuinely committed. Plan the next 90 days to focus on projects and practices that move you towards authenticity rather than maintaining an image.Embrace Community: Engage with a community that encourages you to account for your actions. Whether through formal check-ins or informal conversations, use these interactions to hear your own justifications and recalibrate towards genuine commitments.Never Settle Promo Join Us:Our Membership Community (MWOD) is where we embrace discomfort as a path to personal development. Remember, it's probably not for you... but if we're wrong about that, or if you want to find out for yourself, visit us at MWOD.io

Taking a close look at our schedules can reveal a lot about what we truly prioritize in our workday. You likely have time set aside for vision casting, meetings, or even lunch—but have you scheduled time to build relationships and extend trust within your team? Prioritizing this can strengthen your team and create a culture of trust within your community.In this episode, host Dustin Odham dives into the final three behaviors of "The Speed of Trust." Whether it's listening first, keeping commitments, or extending trust, these behaviors require time but ultimately enable your team to move faster and more effectively. Dustin is joined by Ashley Carranco, an Educational Coach & Consultant at FranklinCovey and a former educator. Ashley brings valuable insights from her experience, discussing how these trust-building behaviors benefit leaders and school districts alike. She shares practical advice on scheduling, accountability, and her top tips for improving trust. Don't miss this impactful episodeBe sure to like, subscribe, and turn on bell notifications to ensure you don't miss our next episode. Download the episode resource to learn more about the 13 Trust Behaviorshttps://resources.franklincovey.com/c/behavior_htrust_lead?x=q82nhAIf you want to learn more about FranklinCovey, visit us at https://www.franklincovey.com/solutions/education/Host: Dustin Odham, Managing Director at FranklinCovey EducationGuest: Ashley Carranco, Educational Coach & Consultant at FranklinCovey, Former Educator Timestamps:(00:00 - 00:27) Introduction(00:28 - 02:53) Listen First (02:54 - 04:36) Keeping Commitments(04:37 - 06:12) Extend Trust(06:13 - 07:51) Build and Maintain Trust(07:52 - 09:17) Ashley Carranco(09:18 - 13:12) Prioritizing Listening(13:13 - 15:51) Transforming Relationships(15:52 - 18:11) Stop Taking All the Monkeys(18:12 - 21:19) Schedule Time for Commitments(21:20 - 24:27) Trust and Accountability(24:28 - 26:06) Key Takeaway(26:07 - 26:44) Closing

Taking a close look at our schedules can reveal a lot about what we truly prioritize in our workday. You likely have time set aside for vision casting, meetings, or even lunch—but have you scheduled time to build relationships and extend trust within your team? Prioritizing this can strengthen your team and create a culture of trust within your community.In this episode, host Dustin Odham dives into the final three behaviors of "The Speed of Trust." Whether it's listening first, keeping commitments, or extending trust, these behaviors require time but ultimately enable your team to move faster and more effectively. Dustin is joined by Ashley Carranco, an Educational Coach & Consultant at FranklinCovey and a former educator. Ashley brings valuable insights from her experience, discussing how these trust-building behaviors benefit leaders and school districts alike. She shares practical advice on scheduling, accountability, and her top tips for improving trust. Don't miss this impactful episodeBe sure to like, subscribe, and turn on bell notifications to ensure you don't miss our next episode. Download the episode resource to learn more about the 13 Trust Behaviorshttps://resources.franklincovey.com/c/behavior_htrust_lead?x=q82nhAIf you want to learn more about FranklinCovey, visit us at https://www.franklincovey.com/solutions/education/Host: Dustin Odham, Managing Director at FranklinCovey EducationGuest: Ashley Carranco, Educational Coach & Consultant at FranklinCovey, Former Educator Timestamps:(00:00 - 00:27) Introduction(00:28 - 02:53) Listen First (02:54 - 04:36) Keeping Commitments(04:37 - 06:12) Extend Trust(06:13 - 07:51) Build and Maintain Trust(07:52 - 09:17) Ashley Carranco(09:18 - 13:12) Prioritizing Listening(13:13 - 15:51) Transforming Relationships(15:52 - 18:11) Stop Taking All the Monkeys(18:12 - 21:19) Schedule Time for Commitments(21:20 - 24:27) Trust and Accountability(24:28 - 26:06) Key Takeaway(26:07 - 26:44) Closing

If you have been struggling to build self-confidence or wondering how to build self-confidence then this episode is for you. In this episode of the Permission to Love podcast we explode the concept of self-confidence, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. My hope is that you will find insights and practical steps on how to rebuild or build self-confidence for the first time. This episode emphasizes that self-confidence is not merely a feeling but a core belief that must be nurtured and developed through consistent actions and trust in oneself.Key Topics:Self-Confidence Defined:- Self-confidence is the ability to trust oneself.- It's a core belief, not just a feeling.Building Trust with Yourself:- Importance of showing up for yourself consistently:- Keeping promises to yourself to build self-trust.Practical Steps to Build Self-Confidence:- Start with small, achievable commitments.- Ensure consistency in actions.- Use corrective experiences to reinforce positive behaviors.Challenges for Trauma Survivors:- How trauma can dismantle self-confidence.- Strategies to rebuild trust in oneself.Action Steps:- Choose one small commitment to yourself this week and follow through.- Reflect on past experiences and look for ways to create corrective experiences.- Keep a journal of your commitments and track your follow-through.Chapters:00:00 - Introduction: Defining Self-Confidence03:17 - Common Challenges with Self-Confidence05:24 - What Self-Confidence Truly Is06:39 - Confiding in Yourself: Building Trust08:29 - The Impact of Trauma on Self-Confidence10:55 - Building Self-Confidence Through Experiences12:09 - My Journey with Self-Confidence and Starting a Podcast14:15 - Execution: The Key to Building Self-Confidence16:56 - New and Corrective Experiences18:02 - Consistency and Repeated Experiences20:15 - Keeping Promises to Yourself21:02 - Trusting Yourself: A Core Belief23:34 - Self-Betrayal and Its Impact on Self-Confidence25:36 - Making and Keeping Commitments to Yourself28:14 - Practical Steps to Start Building Self-Confidence TodayYou are worthy of your own love,JerryMy New Book:Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and HealingTransformational Coaching:Learn More Here!Support the Show:My Patreon PageHow is your relationship with yourself going?Get your free-self assessment guideWatch On YoutubeWebsite:www.jerryhenderson.orgSupport the Show:My Patreon PageTrouble Sleeping?Sleep ResetGet Your Free Weekly Healing Tips!Free Guided Self-Love Meditation:Get it Here!Website:www.jerryhenderson.orgInstagram: ...

This week Pastor Will explores summer vacation challenges, using "National Lampoon's Vacation" as a metaphor for family chaos. He introduces a five-week series, "Family Vacation," offering Biblical strategies to strengthen family bonds and grow in faith. Families come in many forms, and the sermon emphasizes the importance of choosing to serve the Lord together. The acrostic "FAMILY" outlines key points: Faith in Jesus, Asking for and Offering Forgiveness, Making and Keeping Commitments, Investing in Each Other, Listening to Each Other, and Yielding in Love. Pastor Will encourages families to commit to serving the Lord and join the series for more insights.

I'm committed to the Bible. I'm committed to the Gospel and saved by grace through faith plus nothing. Broadcast #6783To help support this podcast, please visit walkwiththeking.org/donate and select "Podcast" from the dropdown menu.A transcript of this broadcast is available on our website here. To hear more from Bob Cook, you can find Walk With The King on Facebook or Instagram.

In this episode of The Brainy Business podcast, you'll join host Melina Palmer as she delves into the fascinating world of the four DOSE brain chemicals: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. Melina's passion for understanding the inner workings of the brain led her to explore how these chemicals impact our emotional well-being and motivation.  As she breaks down each chemical and its role, you'll gain valuable insights into how they influence your daily life. Melina dispels the myth that we should always be happy and instead explains how these chemicals are designed to promote survival. By understanding the power of these chemicals, you'll be equipped to optimize your own emotional well-being and motivation. So, if you're looking to increase your fulfillment and success by harnessing the power of your brain, this episode is definitely worth a listen. Get ready to uncover the secrets behind your brain's chemical reactions and discover how to leverage them for a more fulfilling life. In this episode, you will: Understand the role of dopamine in motivation and unlock the key to sustainable drive and achievement. Discover how building trust and connection through oxytocin can enhance your relationships and improve overall well-being. Boost your confidence and belief with serotonin, and unlock your true potential. Learn how to harness the power of endorphins for emotional well-being and experience increased happiness and fulfillment. Gain valuable insights on how to optimize your brain chemicals for increased motivation, success, and overall well-being. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Introduction, Melina introduces the topic of the episode, which is a deep dive into the four happy chemicals in the brain known as the dose brain chemicals: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. She also mentions her upcoming conversation with Dr. Ian Robertson about dopamine and confidence. 00:02:18 - The Purpose of the Dose Brain Chemicals The brain chemicals dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins are not naturally there to make us feel good, but rather to promote survival. They have become more easily accessible in our modern world, leading to tolerance and the need for more stimulation. 00:04:27 - Dopamine and Anticipation Dopamine is released in the brain during anticipation and motivation. It is not the item or reward itself that gives us dopamine, but the drive to obtain it. Unnatural levels of dopamine from things like sugar and social media can lead to addiction and decreased satisfaction with natural rewards. 00:07:36 - The Impact of Unnatural Dopamine Levels Our modern lives are flooded with unnatural levels of dopamine from various sources, such as junk food, social media, and video games. This can lead to a decrease in motivation for natural rewards. Detoxing from these unnatural sources can help reset our brain's dopamine expectations. 00:10:59 - Training Your Brain for Natural Rewards By cutting out unnatural sources of dopamine and embracing new goals, we can help train our brains to find rewards in more natural ways. 00:16:33 - Building Trust and Oxytocin Opening yourself up to trust is key for survival and critical for the release of oxytocin. Start small, set realistic expectations, and build trust through successful commitments. 00:18:03 - Serotonin and the Need for Respect Serotonin is about confidence, social status, and belief in your own abilities. Embrace the need for respect without becoming a narcissist. Focus on the positive feedback from others and believe in your own value. 00:21:51 - Endorphins and the Importance of Pain Endorphins are released in response to pain. While exercise is a common way to release endorphins, laughter and stretching can also trigger their release. Be cautious not to chase the endorphin high and put yourself in harm's way. 00:26:10 - Cortisol and Managing Stress Cortisol is released in response to threats or fears. Constantly masking cortisol with positive experiences can lead to increased production. Allow yourself to feel cortisol and accept the natural ebb and flow of brain chemicals. 00:27:41 - Conclusion, Melina's top insights from the conversation. What stuck with you while listening to the episode? What are you going to try? Come share it with Melina on social media -- you'll find her as @thebrainybiz everywhere and as Melina Palmer on LinkedIn. Thanks for listening. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Android. If you like what you heard, please leave a review on iTunes and share what you liked about the show.  I hope you love everything recommended via The Brainy Business! Everything was independently reviewed and selected by me, Melina Palmer. So you know, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. That means if you decide to shop from the links on this page (via Amazon or others), The Brainy Business may collect a share of sales or other compensation. Let's connect: Melina@TheBrainyBusiness.com The Brainy Business® on Facebook The Brainy Business on Twitter The Brainy Business on Instagram The Brainy Business on LinkedIn Melina on LinkedIn The Brainy Business on Youtube Learn and Support The Brainy Business: Check out and get your copies of Melina's Books.  Get the Books Mentioned on (or related to) this Episode: How Confidence Works, by Ian Robertson Indistractable, by Nir Eyal The Truth About Pricing, by Melina Palmer Good Habits, Bad Habits, by Wendy Wood Blindsight, by Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman Top Recommended Next Episode: Wendy Wood Interview (Ep 127) Already Heard That One? 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Ever find yourself abandoning health goals faster than a New Year's resolution? Join us, Kevin and Bekah, as we unravel the secrets to committing to your health and sticking to it. In today's episode, we share personal coaching tales and the exhilaration that comes from honoring our commitments, both to ourselves and our loved ones. We address the often-overlooked influence of our actions on others and provide real strategies for thriving in the face of societal pressures. With us, you'll learn not just to dream of a supportive community, but to actively craft one, and why your community might just be the missing piece to your health puzzle.We also talk about tracking progress in ways that extend beyond the scale, digging into the details of your overall well-being. It's more than just a discussion; it's a call to keep your commitments and uphold the freedom we believe in so deeply. So gear up for a healthier, more fulfilling 2024 and join our conversation on living up to your potential and unlocking Uncommon Freedom!Subscribe and tell a friend!Get my new book "The Seven Disciplines of Uncommon Freedom" on Amazon! Visit bekandkev.com today to sign up for our email newsletter.Access our Free health assessment HERE

Anyone else tired of the "New Year, New Me" energy every January? Well in today's episode, instead of launching into another goal-based new years episode, we're going to be focusing on in what really matters: who we're wanting to become. We'll dig into how this shift in focus can make all the difference and provide you a roadmap to allow you to become the person you dream of by the end of 2024! This is a gooder! CONNECT WITH MEL: ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ 1:1 Private Coaching -⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply today⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠melissakehbareham@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ *GIVEAWAY* - If you ⁠⁠⁠⁠leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠ about the pod and send a screenshot (before you hit submit!) to @iammelissakeh or email ⁠⁠⁠⁠melissakehbareham@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠, you'll receive a free 1:1 rapid coaching session! 00:27 Reflections on the New Year and Numerology 04:06 Personal Life Update and Holiday Recap 05:56 Setting Intentions for 2024 12:43 The Importance of Changing Your Identity 21:26 Overcoming Discomfort and Creating Motivation 29:19 The Power of Habit Stacking 32:03 Following Your Joy and Doing What Feels Good 34:58 Keeping Commitments to Boost Confidence 39:03 The Importance of Confidence in Achieving Goals TRANSCRIPT: View Here In case you missed my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠last episode!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dont forget to rate, review and share with all your friends and your dog. This podcast is free and reviews/ratings and shares are what keeps it going.

In this episode of The Brainy Business podcast, you'll join host Melina Palmer as she dives into the fascinating topic of cognitive overload and its impact on decision-making. Melina's expertise in behavioral economics and decision science makes her the perfect guide to help you understand how an overwhelmed brain can hinder your ability to make rational choices. She shares insightful strategies for reducing cognitive load, allowing you to improve your decision-making skills and make better choices in all aspects of life. With her engaging storytelling and relatable examples, Melina will captivate your attention and leave you with practical tools to overcome cognitive overload. Whether you're seeking personal growth or professional development, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their decision-making abilities and reduce cognitive overwhelm. In this episode, you will: Gain a clear understanding of how cognitive overload impacts your decision-making, so you can make more informed choices and avoid costly mistakes. Explore effective strategies for reducing cognitive load, enabling you to think more clearly and efficiently, leading to improved decision-making and increased productivity. Discover practical ways to overcome overwhelm and improve your overall productivity, so you can achieve your goals with a focused and calm mindset. Recognize the importance of clear communication and goal setting in decision-making, empowering you to align your actions with your objectives for more successful outcomes. Learn how to address post-completion error and reduce overwhelm, ensuring that you can navigate complex tasks and projects without feeling overwhelmed or making avoidable mistakes. Understand the power of prioritization and effective time management in decision-making, enabling you to allocate your resources wisely and make quality choices that align with your long-term objectives. Uncover the impact of information overload on decision-making and explore strategies to filter and prioritize information, allowing you to make better decisions in today's fast-paced world. Gain insights into decision-making biases and learn techniques to overcome them, helping you minimize the influence of cognitive biases on your choices and improve your rational decision-making abilities. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Introduction, Melina introduces the episode on the overwhelmed brain and its impact on decision-making. She highlights the importance of reducing cognitive load and provides insights on how show notes and videos can help alleviate overwhelm. 00:02:26 - The Power of Show Notes Melina explains the significance of show notes in helping listeners retain information. She emphasizes that having access to detailed show notes and videos allows the brain to relax and focus on the content, leading to better decision-making. 00:06:29 - The Chocolate Cake Study Melina discusses a study where participants were asked to remember either a two-digit or seven-digit number. The results showed that those with the higher cognitive load were more likely to choose chocolate cake as a snack. This highlights how overwhelm can influence decision-making towards instant gratification. 00:09:36 - Ignoring Complexity Melina explains how our brains tend to ignore tasks that are deemed too complex or overwhelming. She discusses the brain's preference for simplicity and how it relies on subconscious rules of thumb to make decisions. This has implications for understanding why our brains get overwhelmed and how it affects decision-making. 00:11:25 - Overwhelm and Performance Melina explores how overwhelm can negatively impact performance. She references Dan Ariely's book, The Upside of Irrationality, which highlights how the weight of high stakes and pressure can impair cognitive function and lead to worse performance. This underscores the importance of managing overwhelm to optimize decision-making. 00:16:01 - Introduction and Traveling Checklist Melina introduces herself and discusses her packing routine for important trips, highlighting the tendency to obsessively run through lists in her head. She emphasizes the importance of relieving overwhelm from the conscious brain and shares her personal experience of forgetting to close the garage door. 00:17:48 - Post-completion Error and Overwhelming Tasks Melina explains the concept of post-completion error, where the brain marks a task as complete when only some or most of it has been done. She relates this to personal examples such as leaving clothes in the washing machine all day. She encourages the use of checklists and sticky notes to combat overwhelm. 00:20:17 - Relieving Overwhelm in Work and Personal Life Melina urges listeners to find ways to relieve overwhelm in both their work and personal lives. She suggests simple strategies like using sticky notes and establishing routines to help manage tasks effectively. She also emphasizes the importance of being a resource to customers by helping them alleviate overwhelm. 00:20:58 - Overwhelming Customers Melina prompts listeners to reflect on whether they are overwhelming their current or potential customers. She advises considering the amount of information being presented and the order in which it is presented. If customers feel overwhelmed, they may hesitate or delay making decisions. 00:32:15 - Overcoming Constant Updates Constantly checking for updates can make the whole experience feel jaded. Instead, lenders can provide proactive updates to make customers feel valued and informed, while also avoiding unnecessary interruptions. 00:33:17 - Bringing Value and Endearment Proactive updates not only benefit customers but also help lenders prioritize their tasks and avoid wasting time. It creates a sense of reciprocity, which can be beneficial when asking for referrals or reviews. 00:34:14 - Tips to Overcome Overwhelm The five tips to overcome overwhelm are: write things down, focus on one task at a time, create patterns or habits, set goals, and incorporate breathing room and checkpoints. 00:35:03 - Getting Things Out of Your Head Getting things out of your head is crucial to avoid overwhelm. Don't rely on your memory and limit your focus and goals to reduce stress. 00:37:45 -  Conclusion, Melina's top insights from the conversation. What stuck with you while listening to the episode? What are you going to try? Come share it with Melina on social media -- you'll find her as @thebrainybiz everywhere and as Melina Palmer on LinkedIn. Thanks for listening. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Android. If you like what you heard, please leave a review on iTunes and share what you liked about the show.  I hope you love everything recommended via The Brainy Business! Everything was independently reviewed and selected by me, Melina Palmer. So you know, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. That means if you decide to shop from the links on this page (via Amazon or others), The Brainy Business may collect a share of sales or other compensation. Let's connect: Melina@TheBrainyBusiness.com The Brainy Business® on Facebook The Brainy Business on Twitter The Brainy Business on Instagram The Brainy Business on LinkedIn Melina on LinkedIn The Brainy Business on Youtube Learn and Support The Brainy Business: Check out and get your copies of Melina's Books.  Get the Books Mentioned on (or related to) this Episode: The Anatomy of a Breakthrough, by Adam Alter Fierce Conversations, by Susan Scott Happier Hour, by Cassie Holmes Work Well. Play More! by Marcey Rader Come Up For Air, by Nick Sonnenberg Top Recommended Next Episode: Expect Error: The “E” in NUDGES (ep 362) Already Heard That One? 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In this episode, Cameron and Marc describe why it is so important for you to keep commitments to yourself. This is especially true during the holidays and as new years resolutions come into play. Thanks for listening!

Ever felt torn between your empathy and your responsibilities? I've been there! The key is to remember your past decisions, and your intentions behind them, and align them with your future actions. Stick to clarity, and don't dwell in the gray zone of indecision. It's a tough, but necessary, balance to strike. #SticktoClarity #EmpathyorExcuse In this episode of the Crown Yourself podcast, Kimberly Spencer, the founder and mindset coach, discusses the difference between empathy and using it as an excuse. She shares personal experiences, highlighting the importance of recognizing feelings as somatic experiences and not attaching too much meaning to them. Kimberly also talks about the significance of keeping commitments, prioritizing values, and not letting feelings dictate actions. She encourages listeners to examine their boundaries and use empathy as a tool for action, not an excuse for inaction. Enjoy, sovereigns! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, or your favorite podcast listening platform. You can also watch the episode on YouTube. Moments of Note: Feeling Empathy vs. Using it as an Excuse [00:00:00] Exploring the difference between genuine empathy and using it as a justification for avoiding challenges. Leaving for a Conference and Feeling Guilt [00:02:51] Discussing the emotional experience of leaving loved ones behind for a conference and dealing with guilt. Facing Introversion and Stepping Out of Comfort Zone [00:08:42] Sharing personal experiences of being introverted and the courage it takes to engage with others at a conference. Recognizing Intuition [00:12:15] Kimberly discusses the process of recognizing whether her intuition is guiding her to make a decision or if she is using empathy as an excuse. Choosing to Serve [00:13:25] Kimberly talks about how she chose to prioritize serving by producing content and implementing strategies instead of going out and building relationships. Keeping Commitments [00:21:53] The importance of keeping commitments and staying in integrity is discussed, emphasizing the correlation between success and the commitments one makes to oneself and others. The commitment to finishing a run [00:24:01] Kimberly talks about the commitment she made to herself to finish a 60-minute run. Keeping commitments and showing up [00:24:55] Kimberly discusses the importance of keeping commitments, even when not feeling like it, and shares personal experiences. Using empathy as an excuse [00:28:48] Kimberly talks about the danger of using empathy as an excuse for not showing up and doing what needs to be done. The Crowned Cliffnotes Version of the Podcast (aka Bullet Points): Empathy versus using it as an excuse Recognizing feelings as a somatic experience Belief systems around empathy and excuses Struggle of being an introvert and connecting with others Checking in with oneself to gain clarity Muscle testing decisions for alignment and fulfillment Recharging and managing emotions Keeping commitments and staying true to values Treating the calendar as sacred Using empathy as a tool for action and serving others ____________

In this episode of The Brainy Business podcast, you'll hear an insightful conversation between host Melina Palmer and guest Ayelet Fishbach, a professor and researcher in behavioral science at the University of Chicago. The episode focuses on the topic of goal setting and motivation. Ayelet shares her expertise in understanding the psychology behind setting and achieving goals, emphasizing the importance of intrinsic motivation and finding joy in the journey.  She provides practical strategies for overcoming obstacles, reframing goals, and maintaining motivation over time. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their goal-setting skills and increase their chances of successfully achieving their goals. Ayelet's research-backed insights will inspire you to approach goal setting in a more thoughtful and effective way. So, if you're looking to enhance your motivation and achieve your goals, tune in to this episode. In this episode: Explore the science behind goal setting and motivation to uncover strategies for increased success. Overcome obstacles and anticipate temptations in order to stay focused on achieving your goals. Discover the importance of intrinsic motivation and how it can drive you towards sustainable success. Learn the power of reframing goals and shifting your focus to the process, rather than just the end result. Gain insights into planning for long-term goals and developing a more thoughtful approach to achieving them. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Episode Melina introduces the purpose of refreshing this episode and mentions the upcoming conversation with Vishal George, who references Ayelet's work. 00:02:04 - Setting Goals and Motivation Listeners are encouraged to think about their goals, especially related to money and financial stability. Melina teases the upcoming conversation with Ayelet Fishbach and encourages listeners to keep their goals in mind during the discussion. 00:02:53 - Interview with Ayelet Fishbach Ayelet Fishbach discusses her background in motivation science and goal setting. She explains how she became interested in studying motivation and self-control and discusses her early research on anticipating temptation. The importance of planning and thinking about obstacles is highlighted. 00:09:19 - Overcoming Fantasies and Intuition Ayelet emphasizes the importance of thinking beyond fantasies and focusing on potential obstacles. She discusses how fantasies are less effective than considering the challenges that may arise. The importance of questioning intuition and challenging common beliefs is also mentioned. 00:11:18 - Intuition and Counterintuitive Findings Ayelet discusses the importance of questioning intuition and presents examples of counterintuitive findings. She highlights the need to challenge common beliefs and assumptions, such as opposites attract or consistent reinforcement for behavior. 00:16:50 - The Power of Goals, The conversation begins by discussing the power of setting goals and the inspiration they provide. The example of Mount Everest is used to highlight the allure and intrinsic motivation behind achieving a specific goal. 00:19:33 - Choosing the Right Goal, The discussion emphasizes the importance of choosing the right goal, as not all goals are in our best interest. The example of climbers on Mount Everest who persist despite dangerous conditions is used to illustrate the potential pitfalls of misguided goals. 00:22:20 - Increasing Goal Adherence, The conversation addresses the issue of people giving up on their New Year's resolutions. The key factor in goal adherence is intrinsically motivating resolutions that provide immediate pleasure or growth. The importance of enjoying the path towards the goal is emphasized. 00:24:35 - Setting Pleasurable Goals, The discussion highlights the significance of setting goals that are pleasurable to pursue. Examples include enjoying healthier foods, finding fun ways to exercise, and creating rewarding work tasks. Emphasis is placed on the need to find pleasure in the process rather than solely focusing on the end result. 00:29:10 - Mistakes in Goal Setting, The conversation explores the common mistake of setting resolutions based on an idealized version of oneself. The concept of hyperbolic time discounting is mentioned as a factor that hinders long-term commitment. The speaker advises setting goals based on one's present self, acknowledging personal limitations, and planning accordingly. 00:34:52 - The Problem with Avoidance Goals, Avoidance goals, such as not being a couch potato or not eating junk food, are less likely to be successful because they bring to mind the very thing we are trying to avoid. Approach goals, on the other hand, like catching Pokemon, are more exciting and motivating. 00:36:10 - Why Avoidance Goals Don't Work, Avoidance goals may seem urgent in the short term, but they are not effective for long-term success. Instead of focusing on what not to do, it is more productive to think about what we should do. For example, setting a goal to have healthy snacks instead of avoiding junk food. 00:37:07 - Reframing Avoidance Goals, Reframing avoidance goals involves shifting the focus from what we should not do to what we should do. For example, instead of setting a goal to stop eating junk food, we can set a goal to eat healthy snacks. This reframing makes the goal more positive and motivating. 00:39:24 - Changing Perceptions of Healthy Food, Many people have a negative perception of healthy food, associating it with being tasteless. However, this perception can be changed by framing healthy food in a more positive and tasty way. When healthy food is seen as delicious, people are more likely to choose and enjoy it. 00:51:22 - Reaching Goals and Making Little Changes, Melina discusses the importance of regularly taking action towards goals instead of only focusing on the long term. Little changes and choices made today can have a significant impact in the future, such as planning for retirement. Being thoughtful and proactive is key. 00:52:03 -  Conclusion, Melina's top insights from the conversation. What stuck with you while listening to the episode? What are you going to try? Come share it with Melina on social media -- you'll find her as @thebrainybiz everywhere and as Melina Palmer on LinkedIn. Thanks for listening. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Android. If you like what you heard, please leave a review on iTunes and share what you liked about the show.  I hope you love everything recommended via The Brainy Business! Everything was independently reviewed and selected by me, Melina Palmer. So you know, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. That means if you decide to shop from the links on this page (via Amazon or others), The Brainy Business may collect a share of sales or other compensation. Let's connect: Melina@TheBrainyBusiness.com The Brainy Business® on Facebook The Brainy Business on Twitter The Brainy Business on Instagram The Brainy Business on LinkedIn Melina on LinkedIn The Brainy Business on Youtube Connect with Ayelet: AYELET'S WEBSITE AYELET ON TWITTER AYELET ON LINKEDIN Learn and Support The Brainy Business: Check out and get your copies of Melina's Books.  Get the Books Mentioned on (or related to) this Episode: Get It Done, by Ayelet Fishbach How To Change, by Katy Milkman The Power of Us, by Dominic Packer and Jay Van Bavel Good Habits, Bad Habits, by Wendy Wood Mixed Signals, by Uri Gneezy Top Recommended Next Episode: Have Your Best Year Ever, with Cassie Holmes and Ayelet Fishbach (ep 249) Already Heard That One? Try These:  Temptation Bundling (ep 250) Priming (ep 252) D.O.S.E. Brain Chemicals (ep 123) How To Change, with Katy Milkman (ep 151) The Power of Us with Dominic Packer (ep 304) Framing (ep 296) How to Set, Achieve & Exceed Brainy Goals (ep 70) Good Habits, Bad Habits, with Wendy Wood (ep 127) Expect Error: The “E” in NUDGES (ep 39) Give Feedback: The “G” in NUDGES (ep 40) Resolutions and Keeping Commitments (ep 29) Time Discounting (ep 328) The Overwhelmed Brain and Its Impact on Decision Making (ep 32) How to Get (and Stay) Motivated (ep 67) Secrets of Motivation and Incentives, with Tim Houlihan (ep 109) Motivation and Incentives at Work, with Kurt Nelson (ep 187) Happier Hour, with Cassie Holmes (ep 257) Changing Health with the EATS Model (ep 217) 5 Years. 299 episodes. Here Are Your Favorites. (ep 299) Other Important Links:  Brainy Bites - Melina's LinkedIn Newsletter Texas A&M Self-Control Research Could Help You Stick With Your New Year's Resolutions University of Chicago, Chicago Booth School of Business Faculty Directory: Ayelet Fishbach

God has made a lot of promises to us. And he keeps them. It's important for us to do the same with the people who know us - our families, friends, neighbors, co-workers - even the stranger. Being truthful and keeping promises is something we can rightfully expect - and then people will expect the same from us.

Dr. Tom and Kari Curran reflect on their family summer goals and discuss which commitments they will keep into the new school year. Tom talks about several unexpected people he prays for every day, the situations will surprise you!

Today's Friday Four episode includes: - KEEPING COMMITMENTS: Perspective on how you can change your mindset around commitments, and be more consistent in keeping them. - FAT LOSS: My targets for this fat loss phase - HAWAII WILDFIRES: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hawaiian-electric-knew-of-wildfire-threat-but-waited/id1469394914?i=1000625308617 - LIFTING, RUNNING, & LIVING PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/6-hype-or-helpful-morning-routines-ai-in-fitness/id1692936724?i=1000624856534 --- To connect with me (JK), find me on IG at @coachjkmcleod  To learn more about POP nutrition coaching & training programs: https://neurotypetraining.com/coaching-tiers/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jk-mcleod7/message

Join us as Pastor Tim continues the sermon series on 2 Corinthians. This sermon is from 2 Corinthians 9:1-5 and is titled Keeping Commitments and Saving Face.

Ok another week of a throwback - this one is from Feb. 2021 which was part of a self-love series - about the importance of keeping commitments to ourselves.  I think this one is so important.  I use this idea and have been making my bed ever since.   So here is the intro from that episode.  Enjoy all!“Self-love is dynamic; it grows through actions that mature us.”  For the rest of the month of February I am going to explore this idea of self love.  In this episode I talk about developing more self - love and trust through keeping commitments we make to ourselves.  I share some ideas on ways we can take small steps and really decide what we want, not what we think we should be doing. Finally at the end making sure we put our own twist on the commitment, goal or habit so we can really take ownership of what we want to accomplish.  It's amazing how the little things can make all the difference. For all the shownotes and references - go to www.findingthefloor.com/ep39Interested in my newsletter - send me an email Camille@findingthefloor.com or message me on Facebook or Instagramor just come and say hi - I am on Facebook or Instagram @findingthefloor.Thanks to Seth Johnson for my intro and outro original music. I love it so much!

You find it easy to keep your commitments to others. But how good are you at keeping commitments to yourself? When you're striving to become a woman who can take it or leave it when it comes to alcohol, food, or any other struggle you're facing, keeping commitments to yourself becomes a vital piece of the puzzle.   Of course, there will be times when you need to break commitments. However, if you consistently say you're going to do something, like drinking less, but fail to keep that commitment to yourself and follow through, this episode is for you.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://epicyou.com/143

Dealing with distractions is a common challenge that many professionals face in their everyday lives. Traction (the opposite of distraction) is the force that drives us towards our goals and objectives, keeping us focused on the tasks that really matter. In order to combat distractions, it's vital to create a plan that outlines the necessary steps for achieving success. This includes setting clear objectives and breaking down goals into manageable tasks, while also allocating specific time for relaxation or personal enjoyment.  By doing so, individuals can achieve a balanced life that fosters productivity and happiness. During this conversation with host Melina Palmer, Nir Eyal emphasized the importance of distinguishing between distraction and traction. Contrary to popular belief, the opposite of distraction isn't focus, but rather traction. Eyal explained that distractions are anything that pulls us away from our true goals, while traction is any action that brings us closer to achieving them. He urged listeners to create schedules that align with their values and to stick with them, ensuring that they devote the necessary time and focus to what truly matters. Enhance concentration through gaining traction and structured planning to mitigate distractions. Utilize technology with intention for peak productivity and enriching personal experiences. Overcome internal triggers by comprehending the nature of discomfort and controlling urges. Create value-driven schedules to bolster time management and sharpen focus. Employ tactical tools and approaches to curb the influence of digital distractions. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Introduction, Melina Palmer introduces the episode and the guest, Nir Eyal, who is a behavioral designer. She talks about how Nir's book, Indistractable, helps people overcome distractions and become more productive. 00:04:30 - Personal Reason for Writing Indistractable, Nir Eyal shares his personal reason for writing Indistractable. He talks about how he was distracted by his phone while spending time with his daughter. Research and personal testing made him realize the problem was much deeper than just technology. He decided to explore the root cause of distraction and find an answer that actually worked. 00:09:40 - Distraction is an Old Problem, Nir talks about how distraction is not a new problem and has been with us for at least the past 2500 years. He explains how people have always blamed various forms of entertainment and technology for distracting them, and how it's lazy thinking to blame technology for distraction without understanding the root cause. 00:11:14 - The Opposite of Distraction is Traction, Nir Eyal explains that the opposite of distraction is not focus, but traction. He defines traction as any action that pulls you towards what you want to do, and distraction as any action that pulls you away from what you plan to do. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the difference between the two. 00:12:27 - Tools for Finding Balance, Nir Eyal talks about the importance of finding balance when it comes to using technology. He shares some tips and tricks anyone can use to help with this (a tiny sample of all the resources in his book). 00:13:47 - Understanding Distractions and Traction, Nir Eyal explains that distraction is anything that pulls us away from what we planned to do and anything can be a distraction. Conversely, anything can be traction if we make time for it and plan it according to our values. Becoming indistractable means living with personal integrity and knowing why we got distracted. 00:18:28 - The Root Cause of Distraction, Eyal identifies the root cause of distraction as our inability to deal with discomfort in a healthy manner. We use distraction as psychological pacification and escape uncomfortable emotions. To become indistractable, we must first learn to deal with the discomfort in a healthy way by fixing the source of discomfort or finding ways to cope. 00:19:48 - Human Motivation, Nir explains that human motivation is not about the pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain but rather spurred by discomfort. We have two neural circuits, the liking system and the wanting system. The purpose of the wanting system is to create discomfort to get us to act. Time management is pain management, and to master distractions, we must first master internal triggers. 00:22:21 - Time Management and Addiction, Addiction isn't just about substances or behaviors but is more about our need to escape from discomfort. We must fix the source of discomfort or learn to deal with it in a healthier way. Eyal shares the story of Dr. Zoe Chance, who became temporarily addicted to her pedometer as she was using it to escape her life. 00:27:21 - The Evolution of Internal Triggers, Evolution has made us perpetually perturbed and hardwired for things like hedonic adaptation, rumination, and boredom to keep us searching for more. We are not designed by evolution to be satisfied, but to strive, search, want, and crave, which helped our species progress. The idea is to channel these uncomfortable sensations towards traction rather than distraction. 00:29:21 - Mindset and Reimagining Temptation, Our brains are wired for mindset issues, and we need to reimagine our temperament to become indistractable. If we have an issue, we need to understand the root cause and channel our mindset towards traction instead of distraction. We can reimagine the task, trigger, or our temperament to master the internal triggers, which is crucial to becoming indistractable. 00:32:00 - The Nuances of Technological Distraction, Our relationship with technology and other distractions is a nuanced discussion. Everything has unintended benefits and harms, and it is crucial to take a deeper look. We need to understand the good stuff that's happened and not just the negatives. If something is not serving us, we should disconnect and use what we want with intent. 00:35:23 - The Story Behind the Moral Panic, Every moral panic throughout the years has had a scapegoat, and this time, it's technological distraction. It's dangerous to believe in scientifically unsupported theories, which leads to learned helplessness. The evidence is scant, and the story is much more nuanced. 00:41:33 - Why We Need to Become Indistractable, Nir Eyal talks about how constant interruptions from Facebook and the news distract us and how hacking back our phones and offices can help us become indistractable. 00:42:14 - How Distractions Come from Colleagues, Eyal discusses how distractions from colleagues in open-office plans can impede work progress and how a simple explicit message can help. 00:43:10 - The Role of Pre-Commitments, Eyal explains how pre-commitments can help prevent distraction and promote personal integrity. 00:48:29 - The Antidote to Impulsiveness, Eyal emphasizes that the antidote to impulsiveness is forethought and how we should use our ability to see into the future to plan ahead. 00:50:08 - Conclusion, Melina's top insights from the conversation. What stuck with you while listening to the episode? What are you going to try? Come share it with Melina on social media -- you'll find her as @thebrainybiz everywhere and as Melina Palmer on LinkedIn. Thanks for listening. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Android. If you like what you heard, please leave a review on iTunes and share what you liked about the show.  I hope you love everything recommended via The Brainy Business! Everything was independently reviewed and selected by me, Melina Palmer. So you know, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. That means if you decide to shop from the links on this page (via Amazon or others), The Brainy Business may collect a share of sales or other compensation. Let's connect: Melina@TheBrainyBusiness.com The Brainy Business® on Facebook The Brainy Business on Twitter The Brainy Business on Instagram The Brainy Business on LinkedIn Melina on LinkedIn The Brainy Business on Youtube Join the BE Thoughtful Revolution – our free behavioral economics community, and keep the conversation going! Learn and Support The Brainy Business: Check out and get your copies of Melina's Books.  Get the Books Mentioned on (or related to) this Episode: Indistractable, by Nir Eyal Hooked, by Nir Eyal Influence is Your Superpower, by Zoe Chance What Your Customer Wants and Can't Tell You, by Melina Palmer What Your Employees Need and Can't Tell You, by Melina Palmer Connect with Nir:  Nirandfar.com Nir on Twitter Nir on LinkedIn Top Recommended Next Episode: Influence is Your Superpower, by Zoe Chance Already Heard That One? Try These:  Availability (ep 15) Habits (ep 256) The Power of Habit (ep 22) How to Set, Achieve & Exceed Brainy Goals (ep 70) Tips To Overcome Imposter Syndrome (ep 13) How to Get (and Stay) Motivated (ep 67) Resolutions and Keeping Commitments (ep 29) Sense of Hearing (ep 27) How To Organize Your Brain with Behavioral Economics (ep 83) Bikeshedding (ep 99) Planning Fallacy (ep 114) Temptation Bundling (ep 250) Other Important Links:  Brainy Bites - Melina's LinkedIn Newsletter 3 Ways You Can Limit Everyday Distractions How This Year's Nobel Prize Winning Research in Economics Can Help Your Business

In this week's episode of the I Heart My Life Show, I am off in baby world (yayyy!) so I leave you in the hands of one of my favorite people in the world (if not my favorite), my brilliant, loving husband, the amazing James Williams! James is a certified high performance coach, and today he's jumping in to discuss everything you need to know about resilience, self-love, and how to keep commitments to yourself! You see, many of us forget to foster the most important relationship there is, the one we have with ourselves. We can't neglect that relationship and expect to be happy or fulfilled in our lives.  Just like everything that matters, we need to put in the work and make the efforts needed to foster and grow that bond we have with our inner selves. “Easier said than done,” you might think. And the truth is, you might actually be right… Which is why James will be sharing his tips with you today so you can learn to build that relationship and nurture it through self-love and resilience. Are you ready? Let's dive in!   In This Episode: [00:00] Introduction [01:02] We should always strive to be better, and here's how we can achieve that [04:27] The one person who matters most is… [05:33] It's time to reflect back on your past mentors who have changed your life [11:32] Why self-belief matters! [17:11] Sharing practical tips you can use to learn to believe in yourself more [25:40] There's no such thing as a “too small” step forward, so keep moving forward!   Quotes: “Life is full of obstacles, right? There will be plenty of obstacles as you work towards your goals, so don't be one of them.” – James Williams “We want to always try and improve upon what we've been doing. And one way to do that is to really look back and figure out what worked before and what we can improve now.”  – James Williams “As we go forward in our life, there's one voice that we are going to be hearing every day. There's one person that we're going to spend more time with than anyone else. There's one person and only one person that actually has control over what we do next, why we do it, and whether we stick to it or not. And that one person is us.” – James Williams  “The way that we mentor ourselves has a huge huge impact on the direction of our life.” – James Williams  “If I think about the mentors that inspired me, the teachers, the old bosses that I had, even some of the friends that I had, one thing that they didn't do was make me feel obliged to succeed.” – James Williams  “If you look at all human history, if your only motivation is fear of what might happen if you don't act, the moment that you see an opportunity to escape, you will.” – James Williams    Links & Resources: Ready to Uplevel Your Life? Join here: https://www.iheartmylife.com/membership Follow the I Heart My Life Show on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-heart-my-life-show/id1569047758 Subscribe to the I Heart My Life Show on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/1Zw6fI37FrfVjZMXlMiZZ6   Connect with Emily: Emily Williams Website https://emilywilliams.com/ Emily on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/emilywilliams/   I Heart My Life Website https://www.iheartmylife.com/ I Heart My Life on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/iheartmylife/ I Heart My Life on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/iheartmylifenow I Heart My Life on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/company/i-heart-my-life/   Join the IHML community to receive exclusive announcements and tips. https://www.iheartmylife.com/newsletter Email: info@iheartmylife.com

In this week's episode, I'm talking about keeping commitments to yourself and how that simple practice improves all of your relationships. I give you 3 tips for forming healthy habits and suggest you join us for the 21-Day Lose Weight and Love Yourself Challenge. Experts say it takes 21 days to form a habit, so why not join us and let us encourage you to do just that. Join the LadyBoss Lose Weight and Love Yourself Challenge here:  https://monicatanner.ladyboss.io/challenge

Happy (almost) New Year! This is the last episode of 2022, coming out on December 30 – and what a year it has been! My second book, What Your Employees Need and Can't Tell You came out in October, and I got to do a book signing at the Sam's Club Auditorium which was amazing! I also got to speak at some amazing conferences, including travel to Amsterdam and for multiple groups in Latin America, had students from around the world in the certificate program at Texas A&M, got to work with amazing clients and so much more. I can't wait to see what 2023 has in store. One of the things I am most excited about is speaking at SXSW in Austin in March.  Well, speaking of 2023 being an amazing year, that's what this episode is all about. I've done something a little bit different in this episode by bringing on two guests to do a panel of sorts. One of them you have met before, Ayelet Fishbach, Professor of Behavioral Science and Marketing at the University of Chicago and author of Get It Done, which came out earlier this year. Our other panelist, Cassie Holmes, is a professor at UCLA who wrote the new book Happier Hour, which is so beyond fantastic. She specializes in the science of happiness and talks about time poverty and so many other amazing things. (Don't worry, we have a full interview that is all about Cassie and her work coming out in early 2023.) In today's episode, that topic is having the best, happiest year by understanding the science of motivation, goals, achievement, happiness, mindset, and more. Listen in to find out how you can make 2023 your best year yet!  Show Notes: [00:06] In today's episode, I am excited to welcome Ayelet Fishbach and Cassie Holmes to discuss how you can have the best year ever.  [01:15] Forty-six different guests have joined me on the show this year including those in today's interview. We also started testing out releasing two episodes a week.  [04:51] Today I have brought together two people from different universities studying somewhat different (but arguably related) topics to have a discussion about how their work compliments (or contradicts) one another. Today's topic is having the best happiest year by understanding the science of motivation, goals, achievement, happiness, mindset, our thoughts towards time, and more.   [06:21] Ayelet shares about herself, her background, and what she does. She is a motivational scientist.  [07:47] Cassie shares about herself, her background, and what she does. She is a professor that studies happiness and life satisfaction.  [10:25] We are talking about how to help people have better, more successful years in 2023.  [11:24] Around the time the year ends and the new year begins, people are thinking about what they want to achieve. However, there is a likelihood that you will forget about your resolution.  [13:27] You have a wonderful opportunity to reflect back on the prior year.  [16:08] When we feel like we are constantly rushing or hurrying, we are more reactive in how we invest our time instead of proactive and investing in those things that really matter.  [19:02] Looking back is often a way to reaffirm your commitment.  [21:58] Set goals that you can see yourself doing right now and what will make you feel good right now.  [22:41] A year is not the right time frame for many goals. A year has a very long middle. Often weekly and monthly goals are better.    [24:57] Folks who take a broader perspective of time report greater meaning and satisfaction and are happier in their days.  [26:44] Invest time in ways that are worthwhile. The particular activity you are engaging in and also how you are engaging in that activity are what makes the activity worthwhile.  [28:37] You constantly need to navigate the motivation and priorities of your goals.   [30:42] We often get stuck on the little stuff that doesn't really matter instead of focusing on the most important things that help us to move forward on a bigger goal. A to-do list can be a distraction from our higher-value goals.  [32:56] Melina shares four things that work against us: optimism bias, time discounting, planning fallacy, and bikeshedding.  [34:12] Progress is motivating – progress feels good – which is why we often love our to-do lists.  [36:18] You want to ask why you are doing the thing you are doing. You also want to ask how questions.   [39:29] Those who treated their weekend like a vacation were significantly happier when they returned to work and enjoyed the weekend more. Our weekends are meant to be breaks so we can return feeling refreshed and motivated.  [41:26] We need to be intentional and carve out spaces for true breaks during the week – at least once, ideally more.  [46:20] It is important to create the right balance between our goals and the activities that help us achieve the goals.   [49:31] Restructure your day in a way that makes more sense for the goals that you have for yourself for the week and year.  [51:32] It is often harder to learn when you are working from home and not with other people you can learn from. Connection and friendship have suffered between colleagues working from home during the pandemic.  [54:17] Developing friendships with colleagues can be so hard through Zoom, but figuring out ways to bring people together to foster those relationships is so important.  [57:16] Do our panelists set resolutions? Melina and Cassie say no (listen in on her upcoming episode to find out why). Ayelet sets New Year's resolutions because it is an opportunity to think about what she wants to achieve and where she wants to go.  [58:35] Melina's closing thoughts [59:54] Melina chooses a word annually. It is a theme to guide her and keep her centered throughout the year on what she wants to accomplish.  [61:36] Thank you for supporting The Brainy Business! I appreciate you more than I can ever say!  Thanks for listening. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Android. If you like what you heard, please leave a review on iTunes and share what you liked about the show.  I hope you love everything recommended via The Brainy Business! Everything was independently reviewed and selected by me, Melina Palmer. So you know, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. That means if you decide to shop from the links on this page (via Amazon or others), The Brainy Business may collect a share of sales or other compensation. Let's connect: Melina@TheBrainyBusiness.com The Brainy Business® on Facebook The Brainy Business on Twitter The Brainy Business on Instagram The Brainy Business on LinkedIn Melina on LinkedIn The Brainy Business on Youtube Join the BE Thoughtful Revolution – our free behavioral economics community, and keep the conversation going! Learn and Support The Brainy Business: Check out and get your copies of Melina's Books.  Get the Books Mentioned on (or related to) this Episode: Happier Hour, by Cassie Holmes Get It Done, by Ayelet Fishbach How to Change, by Katy Milkman Power of Regret, by Dan Pink Good Habits, Bad Habits, by Wendy Wood Connect with Ayelet & Cassie:  Ayelet on LinkedIn Cassie on LinkedIn Ayelet on Twitter Top Recommended Next Episode: Get It Done: Surprising Lessons from the Science of Motivation with Ayelet Fishbach (ep 186) Already Heard That One? Try These:  Resolutions and Keeping Commitments (ep 29) How to Set, Achieve & Exceed Brainy Goals (ep 248) Temptation Bundling (ep 136) Motivation and Incentives at Work with Kurt Nelson (ep 187) Secrets of Motivation and Incentives, Tim Houlihan Interview (ep 109) The Brainy Benefits of Gratitude (ep 236) The Power of Regret with Daniel Pink (ep 214) Time Discounting (ep 51) Bikeshedding (ep 99) Optimism Bias (ep 34) Planning Fallacy (ep 114) Good Habits, Bad Habits, with Dr. Wendy Wood (ep 127) Other Important Links:  Brainy Bites - Melina's LinkedIn Newsletter Get it Done Happier Hour Ayelet Fishbach - University of Chicago Cassie Holmes - UCLA

Today's episode is all about brainy goals — how to set them and think about them to put you on a path to success, instead of inadvertently setting yourself up to fail. Now, you would never intentionally set up goals that won't work out, but our brains are programmed in a way that makes it so we consistently stack the cards against ourselves. We try to do too much, spread ourselves too thin, rely on willpower to get us through, and don't understand the importance that tiny habits play in our ability to accomplish big things.  At this time of year (this is the second to last episode before we close out 2022) most people are thinking about planning and what the next year will bring for them. How things will be different, what they want to accomplish, what habits they want to change if they will plan resolutions (and if so...what they are), and the like. That's why I decided to refresh this episode from 2019 right now. It felt like the perfect way to end the year, especially in light of this coming Friday's topic! That episode is a panel of sorts that incorporates expert advice on how to have a happier 2023 and set your year up for success.  So to get you in the right mindset preparing for that, and just because it is probably something you are already thinking about right now, it felt like the right time to talk about goals. I get a lot done — two podcast episodes a week, a weekly newsletter, two books in less than two years, teaching and creating my courses for Texas A&M, speaking, consulting, and still having time for an enjoyable life with my family. The only way that is possible is by tackling and thinking about goals in a brainy way. Listen in to hear all my tips and tricks.  Show Notes: [00:23] Today's episode is all about brainy goals — how to set them and think about them to put you on a path to success, instead of inadvertently setting yourself up to fail. [05:17] We all have goals and are all optimistic that we will achieve them someday. The truth is that if you don't set your goals up correctly there is a good chance life will move too fast and you won't achieve what you are capable of.  [05:52] There are three main tips for setting and achieving brainy goals. Define your goals and limit them to know more than three. Break down the path to achieving those goals into small steps. Say no to everything else.   [07:11] The opposite of distraction is traction.   [09:55] Step one is to limit and set your goals. You first need to list out every goal you would like to accomplish in the next 5, 10, or 50 years. [10:48] Now you have to pick three. If they make sense to combine and make the goal a little more amazing that's okay but make sure it's logical.  [12:07] Your brain doesn't like change. It is scared of it. Keeping you stuck and dwelling on making things perfect or being really sure are tactics by your brain to delay change.  [14:06] It is important to declare and own those top goals so that everyone in your life knows what is most important and is on board with that.  [16:47] Melina shares a story about her taking a walk with her husband to the mailbox and Puerto Vallarta. [19:25] We are sticking with goals and priorities we set in a cold state because they are what matter in our life.  [20:53] Once you know what those top three are the next step is to break each of those three goals into the small steps it will take to get there.   [22:54] You can't do it all at once. There are a few ways you can break those down. One way I recommend is breaking the big lifetime into subgoals for the year.   [24:33] Start small with the thing that is impossible to justify not doing. [26:17] Every goal is reached in lots of small steps. Goals are the sum of all the effort it took to get there. If you don't plan for the small steps they won't happen.  [26:49] Remind your brain of the top three as much as possible in as many different ways as you possibly can.   [28:17] You need to be incredibly particular about what you surround yourself with in your life, in your life, and everywhere.  [30:49] Reminding your subconscious of your goals as often as possible will help keep you on track.  [31:14] Determine what three things are really important to you. Shout them from the rooftops and put every single egg in their baskets.   [27:41] Melina's closing thoughts Thanks for listening. Don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Android. If you like what you heard, please leave a review on iTunes and share what you liked about the show.  I hope you love everything recommended via The Brainy Business! Everything was independently reviewed and selected by me, Melina Palmer. So you know, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. That means if you decide to shop from the links on this page (via Amazon or others), The Brainy Business may collect a share of sales or other compensation. Let's connect: Melina@TheBrainyBusiness.com The Brainy Business® on Facebook The Brainy Business on Twitter The Brainy Business on Instagram The Brainy Business on LinkedIn Melina on LinkedIn The Brainy Business on Youtube Join the BE Thoughtful Revolution – our free behavioral economics community, and keep the conversation going! Learn and Support The Brainy Business: Check out and get your copies of Melina's Books.  Get the Books Mentioned on (or related to) this Episode: Get It Done, by Ayelet Fishbach Happier Hour, by Cassie Holmes Indistractable, by Nir Eyal How To Change, by Katy Milkman Atomic Habits, by James Clear Top Recommended Next Episode: Get It Done: Surprising Lessons from the Science of Motivation with Ayelet Fishbach (ep 186) Already Heard That One? 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What do we want? Community! How do we want it? Supportive, motivational, and willing to give an occasional kick in the pants! On today's episode, I chat with my dear friend & podcast counterpart Ryan Michler. Ryan and I dig into the power of building community, how rare staying committed is in society now, the importance of motivational conversation, and the specific roles of men and women in the home. Ryan also shares about his upbringing, his own proud parenting moments, and his new book “The Masculinity Manifesto” out September 27! Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and host/founder of Order of Man. Ryan's podcast, Order of Man has been downloaded millions of times by men looking to be inspired & motivated to be better husbands, fathers, businessmen and community leaders. It's his life mission to help men around the world step more fully into their roles as protectors, providers, and presiders over themselves, their families, their businesses, and their communities. Follow him on IG at @ryanmichler and @orderofman!

Mike Martin joins me this week to talk about how keeping commitments has changed his life. It's restored the relationship with his daughter and others in his life. He shares that carrying through on our commitments builds a pattern of trust. Whereas Mike's anxiety had been crippling, to the point of struggling to make dinner decisions, he fought through the process to discover some freedom from it. Learn how even in the face of Mike's current situation, he is excelling in his life and purpose. . Connect with Mike Martin Website: http://Projectmindfullyoutdoors.Wordpress.com (Projectmindfullyoutdoors.Wordpress.com) . Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/projectmindfullyoutdoors (https://www.facebook.com/ProjectMindfullyOutdoors/) . Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ProjectMindfullyOutdoors/ (https://www.instagram.com/ProjectMindfullyOutdoors/) . . Connect with Mike Forrester https://linktr.ee/hicoachmike (https://linktr.ee/hicoachmike)

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We discuss in this episode the power of making and keeping commitments, setting a goal and then working towards it. The reservoirs of internal strength that come from doing so are immense and powerful.

We discuss in this episode the power of making and keeping commitments, setting a goal and then working towards it. The reservoirs of internal strength that come from doing so are immense and powerful.

Controlling the controllables and pointing yourself towards Progress.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffrey-gonzales/ (Jeffrey Gonzales) --The Human Capital Management Guru at Pay Entry--listens as http://www.sakline.com (Lindsay Kline) tells her story of a day full of broken commitments. Together they discuss the importance of keeping your commitments to others.   When you fail to keep a commitment, you are basically telling your client that they don't matter much to you. Contact Lindsay: info@sakline.com / 214-785-8489 (Dallas),  210-964-8414 (San Antonio) & 866-266-5738 (toll-free) / https://sakline.com/ (sakline.com)    

Today I am very excited to introduce you to Dr. Ayelet Fishbach. She is the Jeffrey Breakenridge Keller Professor of Behavioral Science and Marketing at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, and the past president of the Society for the Study of Motivation and the International Social Cognition Network (ISCON). She is an expert on motivation and decision making and the author of the brand new book, which just released this week called Get it Done: Surprising Lessons from the Science of Motivation.   Of course, Ayelet's insights are valuable all year round, but it is very much intentional to have this as the first episode of the year. This really is the time of year where people are thinking about goals and motivation. Your New Year's resolutions are still hopefully intact, and you can increase your chances of meeting and exceeding them with these insights from Ayelet. Regardless of when you listen, it's always a good opportunity to set and achieve a new goal. After all, tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life.

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When we don't keep the commitments we make to ourselves, we may stop trusting ourselves, which can have devastating consequences. In this episode, Shannon and Janine discuss some strategies for keeping the commitments we make and trusting ourselves again. Discussion topics include: • Feeling icky when we let ourselves down • Case in point: Janine's daily yoga practice, which has been faltering • Shannon's sage advice: Get in touch with why the commitment is important • Thinking about the easiest thing you can do to get some of the good feeling you're seeking • How it can feel harder to restart when you've broken a commitment to yourself • Acknowledging the hard feeling and restarting anyway • The disappointment of not living up to the identity you set for yourself • Ignoring that disappointment and instead embracing the identity you seek • Following an impulse to do something, even if it's imperfect • Making it easy to act on those impulses • How a daily practice makes acting imperfectly easier • Another case in point: Shannon's daily illustrating-her-day creativity practice • Making your commitment to yourself easy enough you actually do it • Shannon's amazing Duolingo streak: 599 days in a row of learning Portuguese! • A self-reinforcing benefit of keeping your commitments to yourself: You start to trust yourself Visit the show notes at www.gettingtogoodenough.com for an update.

This is my first episode where I just started talking from my heart without thinking through exactly what I was going to say and I'll show you inside some of my own personal battles with self-confidence and how I am working to overcome them.⁠⁠Seriously...why do I share this stuff?⁠Show NotesCamp Connection Wait List

My first time putting on tefillin was my bat mitzvah and since then I have not been consistent. In this episode, I speak with Gabe who took on the challenge of doing it every day and documenting it on Instagram. We talk about the emotional and spiritual change it has caused in him. Share your thoughts with us and if this episode has helped you, we would love to hear from you. You can also join our community at https://web.facebook.com/groups/tribesmen.official Chazak ve'Ematz!

This week, Gen and Bryan discuss what's happened with them over the last week, then they discuss how to keep commitments to yourself. Article by Catherine Beard (theblissfulmind.com) https://theblissfulmind.com/keeping-commitments/. Please subscribe and share!    Helpful links https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ https://www.crisistextline.org/ Text HOME to 741741 for help    Ways to contact the show: Website: Thecrazylifepodcast.weebly.com E-mail: thecrazylifepodcast@outlook.com Show Twitter: @thecrazylifepod Gen's Twitter: @genscrazylife  Bryan's Twitter: @stewnami or @salty_language Henno's Twitter: @idahenno Henno's other podcast @MTNPod Bryan's Other Podcast: saltylanguage.com Bryan's Blog: https://stewnami.wordpress.com/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/crazylifepodcast/ iHeart Radio: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-Crazy-Life/ Google Play: http://thecrazylife.libsyn.com/gpm Blubrry: https://www.blubrry.com/the_crazy_life/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2irC3XxOJMEuzKtWliHiBM tangentboundnetwork.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-crazy-life/id1008617039 Stitcher: http://goo.gl/BDeUCZ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrj15dasmUUfzZz3Oeu_9uA TuneIn:  https://tunein.com/podcasts/Mental/The-Crazy-Life-p1149126/   Intro Music is "Life Sux" by Henno  

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“Self-love is dynamic; it grows through actions that mature us.” For the rest of the month of February I am going to explore this idea of self love. In this episode I talk about developing more self - love and trust through keeping commitments we make to ourselves. I share some ideas on ways we can take small steps and really decide what we want, not what we think we should be doing. Finally at the end making sure we put our own twist on the commitment, goal or habit so we can really take ownership of what we want to accomplish. It's amazing how the little things can make all the difference. For more info visit www.findingthefloor.com/039

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This is part 1 in a series that will upload monthly! Keeping commitments you make to yourself is the starting point in building confidence. The proof is in the pudding. You just have to try it for yourself. This week I will give you examples and tips in how to stay consistent in your commitments which ultimately lead into trusting yourself and believing you can do anything you set your mind to achieving. Happy Friday, my loves!

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Today, we are talking about precommitment and how it can be used in life and business. As far as concepts go, I’m guessing this is one of those you’ve heard of and think you know everything about, so I’m going to challenge that belief and hopefully teach you some new insights and ways to use precommitment on today’s show by sharing a personal example. Precommitment is very closely related to time discounting, as well as loss aversion, habits, and several other concepts. As a side note, can I just say that I can hardly believe we’ve made it to 120 episodes of the podcast already? And, there is another exciting milestone that is going to be hitting as this episode comes out. I’m not sure exactly when it will happen, but sometime between recording and the release of the episode we will hit a quarter of a million downloads! A quarter-million you guys! From 160 countries around the world and 120 episodes downloaded 250,000 times.  Precommitment is a big reason this has all been made possible. Because of my vow to have new episodes every single Friday no matter what – a precommitment I made to the void when launching the show, we always have new content come out. In 120 episodes I’ve never missed, and I hope I never will. It seems very fitting that today’s episode on precommitment is marking this exciting quarter-million milestone.  But precommitment can be used for a lot more than keeping to a content schedule. In today’s show, I’ll share an example of how I am using it to be more in alignment with the person I want to be, tips to overcome cognitive dissonance in a positive way (and what that means), some great apps to help with precommitment, behavioral scientists using this in practice, and more! Show Notes: [01:01] Precommitment is very closely related to time discounting, as well as loss aversion, habits, and several other concepts that will be linked for you in the show notes. [03:02] When I started The Brainy Business, I made a commitment to do a weekly show for one full year before evaluating if it was a fit for my business or a waste of time. I’m so thankful to say, it was clearly worth its weight in time gold (far before hitting that one year mark) and The Brainy Business is here to stay. [06:11] Precommitments can be external like throwing all the junk food out of the house or dumping soda down the drain. They can also be internal, like a promise to yourself that you will not break. And a combination. [07:20] Cognitive dissonance is essentially the discomfort we feel when our perception of ourselves doesn’t line up with our actions. (This concept will have its own episode soon.) [08:28] Our brains write off a story that doesn’t align with how we want to see ourselves surprisingly quickly. [10:02] We can use some precommitment tactics while in a cold state to help set us up for success when the moment comes. [11:53] The thing about precommitment is, while it does help us stick to the right stuff, we can also be way too good at ignoring our own best intentions (so it doesn’t always work). The best way to combat this? Narrow focus. [13:23] We need to own that past to have a better future. If we don’t (and instead let the distaste for cognitive dissonance explain it away) it will never change—we will never change—and no amount of precommitment trick will do it for us.  [14:17] As with all applied behavioral science, there is a bigger problem at the root, and it is important to take a step back to make sure you are addressing the whole thing when you put your precommitment devices in place. [16:00] Finding the most important thing to work on and dedicating all your willpower to that one thing is much more likely to be successful.  [16:48] Depending on the goal you choose to use precommitment tactics to help with, there are some cool apps, like Stickk. [18:26] Forest is an app that can be used if you want to be more productive and especially if you have a hard time not getting distracted by your phone. [21:13] When Nikki Rausch was on the show we talked about making it easy to do business with you and scheduling your circle back calls in the moment someone is interested. Making that precommitment is so much more effective in continuing conversations moving forward. [21:41] Get the appointment on the calendar in that moment. It is a precommitment that is a lot harder to push off than a theoretical conversation that may happen someday.  [23:08] Set the expectations upfront to help everyone be on the same page and comfortable with the commitment. [24:09] I want to close out this episode with one of my favorite precommitment tactics, the loss aversion jar. [26:42] Seeing the money in the jar and knowing it all goes away if you miss, can help you keep on track especially if you have a buddy who you know will hold you to it (the threat needs to be real!). [27:34] You can celebrate your wins and achieve those goals by using precommitment in a responsible way. [28:31] If you can’t commit to having the “extremely bad thing” as your consequence if you don’t meet the goal...ask yourself why. If you’re not willing to commit to it fully, don’t work on it right now. Is there something else that is more important to work on first? [29:32] What will your goal be? When will you achieve it? Make the commitment by sharing it with me on social media. Find me as @thebrainybiz everywhere (links below!)  Thanks for listening. Don’t forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Android. If you like what you heard, please leave a review on iTunes and share what you liked about the show.  Let’s connect: Melina@TheBrainyBusiness.com The Brainy Business® on Facebook The Brainy Business on Twitter The Brainy Business on Instagram The Brainy Business on LinkedIn Melina on LinkedIn The Brainy Business on Youtube More from The Brainy Business: Master Your Mindset Mini-Course BE Thoughtful Revolution - use code BRAINY to save 10% Get Your FREE ebook Melina’s John Mayer Pandora Station! Listen to what she listens to while working. Past Episodes and Other Important Links: Don’t Let Me Do That! – Models of Precommitment The Power of Precommitment Precommitment Precommitment and Procrastination: Behavioral Tools for Students Forest App Stickk App Time Discounting Loss Aversion Interview with Bec Weeks Interview with Dr. Gleb Tsipursky Interview with Dan Ariely Interview with Dr. Julie O’Brien Interview with Nikki Rausch Fundamental Attribution Error How to Finally Change Your Behavior (So it Sticks) Interview With Author Nir Eyal How to Set, Achieve & Exceed Brainy Goals How to Get (and Stay) Motivated Present Versus Future Biases Optimism Bias Resolutions and Keeping Commitments

Erin talks about Joshua and his interaction with the Gibeonites. She talks about the need to stop, look, and listen in making a decision and the importance of keeping commitments. September 7, 2017 

Do you make commitments and then regret it? Do you say things like, "I'll try it", or "I'll give it my best shot?" There's lots of need for help with family, friends, jobs and what always seems to come last, yourself. Host and What's Next for Women Like Us coach Linda Rendleman shares how to think through your commitments and keep your pledge.And meet Jedidah Karanja, founder of Gapmuse, when we talk about her insightful and motivational lifestyle website including our conversation on BLMWhat's Next Women Like Us Radio Show is broadcast live at 3pm ET Thursdays on W4WN Radio – The Women 4 Women Network (www.w4wn.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com). This podcast is also available on Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com).

In this episode I dive in to why we keep all the commitments to everyone else but then we find it difficult to honor our own commitments to ourselves. Why do we so easily let ourselves down?

How becoming healthy on the inside can change everything on the outsideThis week’s episode is one I have been wanting to do for a while. If you have followed my journey you may have heard me talk about my struggle with disordered eating and body image. I use this episode to dig into my relationship with eating, my road to recovery, and how, although I still care about how I look on the outside, it was time to focus on the inside. Listen to this episode to hear about the program, process, and road I have been on since October 2019, the resistance I had to starting it, and how much my life has ultimately changed and improved since I made the commitment to myself to follow through with it. Listen nowFeeling good on the outside starts on the insideI start this episode by digging into my history of disordered eating, the different and many forms it took throughout my life, and my ability to manipulate my mind and body to bring the outcome I wanted. I share the terrifying turn my health took three years ago, how my body shut down and how I literally began planning my own funeral. When I finally uncovered the truth, I promised myself that I would honor and appreciate this gift of my body from then on out.Keeping commitments to yourselfI discuss how I finally found the program that has changed my life, and how the scariest part was making a commitment to myself and following through. I outline the 5 things this program has you do every single day, and how the things I thought I would dislike the most became the very things that helped me evolve and thrive, the things that brought me into my healthiest self. The power of healthyI talk about the different enneagram types and how they react to obstacles and challenges, and the things that hold each of us back. When you are healthy and happy inside, it impacts how you show up in your spiritual and emotional life, and when you are showing up for yourself every day, beautiful things happen.Quotes:“I know especially because we’re in quarantine and have been now for over 6 weeks that some of these [eating/body image] habits have come to the surface.” 1:06“I remember when I stopped drinking that the food stuff was the justifiable addiction that I had.” 1:20“Even though a lot of us attack a health journey for the outside, it really is an inside job, and that’s why most diets and health journeys don’t work because we’re doing it for what shows up on the outside.” 2:16“I was completely sobbing because it was this harsh realization that keeping commitments to myself was something I’ve never done.” 17:25“How you do anything is how you do everything.” 20:42“Number 1 is to follow a diet or a nutritional program.” 21:06“Number 2: you must complete two 45-minute workouts a day. One of those must be outside.” 22:11“Number 3 on the list for 75 Hard was absolutely no alcohol and no cheat meals.” 23:21“Number 4 is taking a progress picture every day.” 24:30“The other thing on the list is drinking a gallon of water every day.” 25:20“That gallon of water is so important for how you feel.” 26:08“The last thing on the list was reading 10 pages of a book a day, and audiobooks did not count.” 26:17“Once I remove sugar from my body, I can do anything.” 28:43“By about day 10, I knew that this was going to be something that I would do for the rest of my life.” 31:06 “5’s, they want to study, they can have analysis paralysis that will keep them from doing self-honoring things.” 33:45“7’s they just get bored and want to move on to the next thing.” 34:06“This doesn’t end at day 75 for me; this is the greatest self-honoring thing I’ve ever done.” 39:14

If you don't keep a commitment to yourself, how can you keep it to others? What do you need to be more committed to? How do we stay committed?  How do you keep your commitment to yourself and not let yourself down? In this episode, I talk about this and more! 

The Importance of Keeping Commitments Do You want grow trust in yourself and your business? Are you struggling with keeping commitments you make? Join me to talk about The Importance of Keeping Commitments . See how it can help you deliver results. Check out the video at https://youtu.be/2tPeXlekGIM Isn’t it time to start getting the results you deserve! Why not email Garry to see how he can help you with your business problems. Drop him an email at garry@nextactions.com.au. Alternatively contact Garry on your social platform of choice. FaceBook - https://www.facebook.com/nextactions Twitter - https://twitter.com/garryeves LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/next-actions Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/garryeves Check out nextactions.com.au where you can book a free introductory call.

In this blog update I talk about renewal and keeping commitments to myself.

How to write the rules to win and what to do when you break a commitment!

One of the golden keys to success and happiness is keeping your commitments; I’ve kept mine, how about you?

I would like to wish you all a Happy New Year! This is the first behavioral economics podcast episode of 2019. Like so many of you, December is a time of reflection for me, and planning for the year ahead. I do like the “fresh start” that comes with a new year, new quarter, new month, new client or new project…but what happens when the newness wears off? Why is it so hard to keep our resolutions even when we have the best of intentions? That is what this episode is all about. I am going to dig into 5 ways we have all been approaching resolutions wrong, and give you the strategy you need to change that in 2019 once and for all. CLICK HERE FOR YOUR FREE DOWNLOAD! Show Notes [07:38] What do you think about resolutions? Personally, I have never been a big fan. [08:18] I have never enjoyed investing time in things that will fail. The subconscious brain makes 99% of your decisions. It makes those decisions based on proven rules of thumb which it has found to work over your lifetime or our genetic evolution as a species. [08:44] When you say you want to change something you can have the best of intentions, but there’s a reason resolutions are easier said than done. [09:28] Our brains are constantly looking for rewards and many of the things that we find rewarding are the things that we want to change. [10:32] TIME DISCOUNTING - I call this the “Monday effect.” Have you ever said you would start something “on Monday”? Then…in what seems like minutes instead of hours…the alarm goes off. Where did the motivation go? Why do you feel like a completely different person today than you did last night? [13:07] Maybe tomorrow is a better day to start. Then tomorrow never really comes either. This is time discounting. [13:31] Studies have found that when you talk or think about your future self…the brain lights up as if it were talking about a completely different person! [14:20] “Future you” is actually a different person than you. [14:37] The problem comes when I wake up on Monday morning and it is time to face the music. “Oh, you mean I need to do that stuff?” [15:02] Time discounting compounds with overconfidence and optimism to make a perfect storm against change. We overestimate how good we will be at something. We also underestimate how long it will take to accomplish something. And overestimate how our outcomes will be compared to other people's outcomes. [15:50] Making your future self “real” to you so that you see yourself in the commitment can make a difference. [16:21] People saved more for retirement if they were shown a picture of themselves that looked like they had aged 10 or 20 years. [16:55] 1. When you are making the commitments, ask yourself if the plan is realistic. Think about this in terms of yourself right now. [17:19] 2. When you feel like you want to hit the proverbial snooze button (and you will) remember the commitment you made and why it is important. [17:43] 3. When making your commitment, make it something you can turn into an “I don’t” statement. [18:20] ANTICIPATED REGRET/COUNTERFACTUAL THINKING [18:25] Anticipation of regret is a huge reason people delay taking an action. [19:11] One reason regret is so powerful is because of counterfactual thinking. This is easier known as “what if” or “if only” thinking. [20:28] Your brain will combine the best features of unselected (and heavily evaluated) items into a “super choice” (which doesn’t really exist) to make you feel even worse. In this example, your brain creates a super safe, awesomely stylish car that you “could have had if only you hadn’t picked the stupid good deal” car. [20:41] Our brains want the immediate gains and benefits of “now” instead of waiting for something that is good for us in the future. [21:32] To make your resolutions stick, watch out for anticipated regret and all the times you start to think about “what ifs” and “if only’s” that aren’t leading to your goal. [21:52] Before you pick your resolution, be sure it is something you really want and are willing to make a change for. Think about why it matters and come to terms with the things you are going to give up in order to get it. [22:33] WILLPOWER (BATTERY VERSUS SNOWBALL) [22:40] There has been debate over the years as to how willpower and self control are created and maintained over time. [23:05] New research out of Texas A&M University’s Human Behavior Lab has found that it is actually BOTH – a battery and a snowball. [26:59] When you try to commit to too much and come in too hard and too fast, you are setting yourself up to fail. [27:27] Setting yourself up with too many goals and tasks is also a recipe for failure. You can’t focus on so many things at once. [27:48] What is the one thing that will change your business next year, and how can you put all your effort toward meeting that one goal? [28:40] Advice from Warren Buffett: Write down your top 25 goals for your life and business. Circle the top 5 most important goals. What happens to 6-25? They become your “avoid at all costs” list. [30:30] Not having a clear focus and narrowing down your purpose is why we lack self-control and have a hard time making changes. [31:18] You have to learn to say no. You need to make sacrifices. It will be hard, but it will be worth it if you pick the right things to focus on. [31:29] SMALL STEPS AND NUDGES [31:44] You only get to move one step at a time. All change – from weight loss to massive business success – comes one small step at a time. [32:06] If you make your list of 25 and narrow it down to a top 5, I am telling you to bring that down to a top 1 to 3 MAX for your resolution or big business goal for 2019. [35:42] You will not have a flawless path, there is trial and error. You may expect a snowball and get a battery. [36:10] Expecting error (part of Richard Thaler’s acronym NUDGES) is why the car dings at you when you forget to put on your seatbelt. [36:41] Make a list of all the spots where you might be likely to slip for those top three goals you have set – your 2019 resolutions. [37:54] If you have a resolution around more effective networking, set goals before you go for how many connections you are going to make - and schedule time in advance to follow up. [38:20] BE THOUGHTFUL [38:47] If you focus on something, and everyone else knows it is important to you, if it is the thing you live and breathe and are 100% of the time, you will move forward. [39:30] You need to limit the focus and think about the small steps you can take to BE thoughtful about this one thing (or three things). 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Dr. Jim Bankhead preaches from Joshua 24:1-5, 14-28.

In this episode, we talk about why keeping commitments matter for followers of Jesus.

In this episode, we talk about why keeping commitments matter for followers of Jesus.

In this episode, we talk about why keeping commitments matter for followers of Jesus.

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June 10 | CE Hour | Keeping Commitments

This week we continue to turn the pages of these wonderful love letters from God. As we read from chapter seven Paul begins to answer a question the the Corinthian believers have asked him. “To marry or not to marry, that is the question,” that might have been a good title for the sermon as well. In this passage we will discover what it means to keep the commitments that we have made.

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One of the traits of all the truly successful people in the world. On this episode Russell talks about why he has a new coach and how he let himself and that coach down last week by not keeping a commitment. Here are some awesome things to listen for on this episode: Why Russell is so coachable, and how that usually leads to success. Why all people who make and keep commitments are successful. And why Russell failed on one commitment last week and is going to try even harder this week to keep all of his commitments and be successful. So listen here if you want to know how to be coachable and be able to succeed. ---Transcript--- What’s up everybody? This is Russell Brunson, welcome back to the Marketing Secrets podcast. I hope you guys are ready for some fun. Alright everyone, I just dropped something off at my kids school because yes, once again, they forgot something. They sound kind of like their dad. Anyway, I just want to jump on today because I, if you’ve been listening you know that I recently hired another coach in my life. I try to have at least one, if not multiple coaches at any given time to coach me through different stuff. Because I’ve found that, in fact I was telling my kids this last night. I said, if you want to be successful at whatever it is, pick the thing you want to be successful at first, it could be school, basketball, trombone, whatever it is and then number two is find a coach to actually coach you through it. So that is what I told them last night when I put them to bed. And I told them I practice what I preach. I figure out stuff that I want to be better at in my life and then I go find a coach to coach me through the whole process and hold me accountable. A little while ago I was listening to a podcast from Ryan Moran and Jeff Woods talking about the one thing and loved it. So I called Jeff and hired him and he’s my coach through things. So I had my second coaching call today and I wanted to post this, make this video to walk you guys how to be coachable. Because it’s shocking to me how uncoachable most people are. In fact, I did a Periscope about this 2 years ago or something like that. It’s funny because I remember when I was wrestling I started doing Freestyle and Greco and that kind of happens during the off season. I had this coach named Greg Williams, who is now the coach at UVU, he would go and teach me stuff and I remember between matches he’d pull me aside, he’s like, “Hey, you need to level change better, you gotta lower your whatever….” And just walk me through what I needed to do and then I’d walk back out and I’d just do the thing he told me. And I remember because he told me afterwards, after I’d been in the program for a year or so, he said, “You’re one of the most coachable athletes that I’ve ever had. You’re not the most talented, but one of the most coachable.” I was like, “I don’t even…what does that mean, coachable?” he’s like, “Most people I tell them what to do and they listen, nod their head and then they don’t do it. With you, I tell you what to do and with the next match you go and do that thing. That’s not normal. Most people don’t do that. You’re really, really coachable.” I was like, “Huh, I assumed everyone just did that. If they have a coach that they believe in why wouldn’t they just listen to what they say and then do it.” In fact, I had a podcast a couple of weeks ago talking about pick a mentor, listen and then do. Same thing. I look at, It was funny, Dan Henry, if you know Dan, he’s one of our inner circle members who bought the Dotcom Secrets book, read the chapter on Perfect Webinar, did a Perfect Webinar and within 5 months made a million bucks. So he went into the Clickfunnels group this weekend, he’s like, “Hey guys, Russell taught the Perfect Webinar, I did it and made a million bucks. Why aren’t you guys all just doing that?” He was very confused. Dan’s very coachable. Then there’s like, as of this morning, 170 comments from people and it was basically 170 excuses of why people hadn’t done it yet. “Well I’m still working on my slides. Well, I’m not really a pitch person. Well, I can’t figure out my offer.” Just thing after thing. And he’s like, “Dude, just freaking do it. You’ve got the best coach in the world telling you….” And it was funny, because even one guy who was a coach was like, “Well I’ve coached my people and it doesn’t work for everyone.” Dan’s comment was like, “Well you must not be a very good coach then.” Which was awesome. But again, the point of this is being coachable is just doing what the coach says. It’s been fun because I’ve had one coach for the last year that I’m working with on one aspect of my life and she’s been awesome. I’m not perfect at doing what she says, but I think I’m pretty good at doing that. And I assumed that I was with most people, but Jeff’s been coaching me and it’s funny because this was our second coaching call this morning and one of the things he wanted me to do, I didn’t have time to do it. And instead of letting me off the hook, “Oh, it’s okay. You can do it next week.” He was like, I wish you could hear it, it was in the first 30 seconds of the thing. He was like, something like, “What happened?” and I was like, “Oh, I’m actually doing it this week because Todd’s flying in today from Atlanta. Todd’s my partner in Clickfunnels and we’re doing a lot of planning and stuff like that.” And he’s like, “How do you think your planning would have been better if you would have actually finished this?” And I was like, “Oh crap. Probably better.” Anyway, so it helped put my feet to the fire and then at the end of the call he was basically like, “Okay, next week these are the things you have to have done by…when are you going to have these done?” I was like, “Friday.”  He’s like, “That’s not specific enough for me.” “Friday at 4:30 my time.” He’s like, “Cool, if you don’t get them done what happens?” I was like, “You’re going to punish me maybe?”  he was like, “If you don’t have it done by Friday at 4:30 we’re cancelling the call for next Monday.” I was like, “Oh crap.” He’s holding my feet to the fire. So many things I could walk you through from a coaching standpoint what I’m enjoying about being coached by him. But it was just making me make sure I do it. And I think one of the problems a lot of us have is we let ourselves off the hook. In fact, I did it and again, I’m a very, very coachable person. Even with that, this week I let myself off the hook. I don’t need to finish part of it because of this, yet I had committed to getting that part done. It’s just interesting. It’s funny because throughout the week I was proud. We kind of picked out the one thing I was going to focus on for the week. And from that, I had found the roll I was looking for, I found the person doing the interview process, going through the whole thing, and I was impressed by how fast I was moving, yet I hadn’t followed through on all my commitments. I had done most of them but not all of them. And it was just like crap, I gotta remember that. I gotta make and keep commitments. People that succeed in life, there’s one really strange commonality between all of them, they’re good at not just making commitments, everyone can make commitments, “I’m going to do this. I’m going to lose weight. I’m going to make money. I’m going to blah, blah, blah.” Everyone’s good at making commitments, but people who are successful are good at making and keeping commitments. I failed at one of my commitments for this week and it sucks. It’s frustrated me because I know better than that, I’m someone who makes and keeps commitments and I didn’t on one thing. I did on most of them, but I didn’t keep this one. So for those of you guys who want to be coachable and want to have success, understand that the big commonality is that successful people are making and keeping commitments. So again, find a coach or whatever it is and then make a commitment and keep that commitment and just do it. And don’t give it all excuses. Alex Hermosi at the last inner circle meeting said that every sales call you’re on someone’s getting sold. Either you’re selling them on the product or service that they need, or they’re selling you on an excuse of why of they can’t get it. And it’s just like, dang, it’s so interesting. You’re either buying the excuse or they’re buying the product. And it’s the same thing for us. I just look at that thread of 170+ people, they each have their excuse of why they hadn’t done it yet. And Dan was like, “Dude, I did it and within 5 months was a millionaire. Why don’t you guys just do it.” And they’re selling themselves on excuses as opposed to just making a commitment and then keeping a commitment. So that is my message for today. Make and keep commitments. All successful people do, they’re good at making them and good at keeping them. I failed this week. I made a bunch of commitments and I kept almost all of them but I did not keep all of them. So this week, I’m going to be better. I’m going to make and keep commitments to myself, to my coaches, and to the people that I love and care about, and that I work with and work for and that I serve, and all that kind of stuff. So that’s my goal and game plan, make and keep commitments this week.  I’m going to be very specific, going to write down all the commitments I make, I’m going to make sure that I keep each and every one of them and that is the path of success. So there you go guys. I hope that helps. Make and keep commitments, write them down and make sure you do them and don’t let yourself off the hook, otherwise you’ll just keep making excuses and again, if you’re buying that success then you didn’t buy the thing you actually gotta do. So that’s all I got you guys. I’m heading in for the day. It’s going to be a fun week, I get to work all week. Todd’s in town, we’re going to plan, we’re going to plot, we’re going to scheme, we’re going to make Clickfunnels even better if that’s possible for all of you guys and try to figure out how to serve you guys better at a higher level. So I appreciate you all, thanks for listening and we’ll see you guys on the next episode of the Marketing Secrets podcast.

One of the traits of all the truly successful people in the world. On this episode Russell talks about why he has a new coach and how he let himself and that coach down last week by not keeping a commitment. Here are some awesome things to listen for on this episode: Why Russell is so coachable, and how that usually leads to success. Why all people who make and keep commitments are successful. And why Russell failed on one commitment last week and is going to try even harder this week to keep all of his commitments and be successful. So listen here if you want to know how to be coachable and be able to succeed. ---Transcript--- What’s up everybody? This is Russell Brunson, welcome back to the Marketing Secrets podcast. I hope you guys are ready for some fun. Alright everyone, I just dropped something off at my kids school because yes, once again, they forgot something. They sound kind of like their dad. Anyway, I just want to jump on today because I, if you’ve been listening you know that I recently hired another coach in my life. I try to have at least one, if not multiple coaches at any given time to coach me through different stuff. Because I’ve found that, in fact I was telling my kids this last night. I said, if you want to be successful at whatever it is, pick the thing you want to be successful at first, it could be school, basketball, trombone, whatever it is and then number two is find a coach to actually coach you through it. So that is what I told them last night when I put them to bed. And I told them I practice what I preach. I figure out stuff that I want to be better at in my life and then I go find a coach to coach me through the whole process and hold me accountable. A little while ago I was listening to a podcast from Ryan Moran and Jeff Woods talking about the one thing and loved it. So I called Jeff and hired him and he’s my coach through things. So I had my second coaching call today and I wanted to post this, make this video to walk you guys how to be coachable. Because it’s shocking to me how uncoachable most people are. In fact, I did a Periscope about this 2 years ago or something like that. It’s funny because I remember when I was wrestling I started doing Freestyle and Greco and that kind of happens during the off season. I had this coach named Greg Williams, who is now the coach at UVU, he would go and teach me stuff and I remember between matches he’d pull me aside, he’s like, “Hey, you need to level change better, you gotta lower your whatever….” And just walk me through what I needed to do and then I’d walk back out and I’d just do the thing he told me. And I remember because he told me afterwards, after I’d been in the program for a year or so, he said, “You’re one of the most coachable athletes that I’ve ever had. You’re not the most talented, but one of the most coachable.” I was like, “I don’t even…what does that mean, coachable?” he’s like, “Most people I tell them what to do and they listen, nod their head and then they don’t do it. With you, I tell you what to do and with the next match you go and do that thing. That’s not normal. Most people don’t do that. You’re really, really coachable.” I was like, “Huh, I assumed everyone just did that. If they have a coach that they believe in why wouldn’t they just listen to what they say and then do it.” In fact, I had a podcast a couple of weeks ago talking about pick a mentor, listen and then do. Same thing. I look at, It was funny, Dan Henry, if you know Dan, he’s one of our inner circle members who bought the Dotcom Secrets book, read the chapter on Perfect Webinar, did a Perfect Webinar and within 5 months made a million bucks. So he went into the Clickfunnels group this weekend, he’s like, “Hey guys, Russell taught the Perfect Webinar, I did it and made a million bucks. Why aren’t you guys all just doing that?” He was very confused. Dan’s very coachable. Then there’s like, as of this morning, 170 comments from people and it was basically 170 excuses of why people hadn’t done it yet. “Well I’m still working on my slides. Well, I’m not really a pitch person. Well, I can’t figure out my offer.” Just thing after thing. And he’s like, “Dude, just freaking do it. You’ve got the best coach in the world telling you….” And it was funny, because even one guy who was a coach was like, “Well I’ve coached my people and it doesn’t work for everyone.” Dan’s comment was like, “Well you must not be a very good coach then.” Which was awesome. But again, the point of this is being coachable is just doing what the coach says. It’s been fun because I’ve had one coach for the last year that I’m working with on one aspect of my life and she’s been awesome. I’m not perfect at doing what she says, but I think I’m pretty good at doing that. And I assumed that I was with most people, but Jeff’s been coaching me and it’s funny because this was our second coaching call this morning and one of the things he wanted me to do, I didn’t have time to do it. And instead of letting me off the hook, “Oh, it’s okay. You can do it next week.” He was like, I wish you could hear it, it was in the first 30 seconds of the thing. He was like, something like, “What happened?” and I was like, “Oh, I’m actually doing it this week because Todd’s flying in today from Atlanta. Todd’s my partner in Clickfunnels and we’re doing a lot of planning and stuff like that.” And he’s like, “How do you think your planning would have been better if you would have actually finished this?” And I was like, “Oh crap. Probably better.” Anyway, so it helped put my feet to the fire and then at the end of the call he was basically like, “Okay, next week these are the things you have to have done by…when are you going to have these done?” I was like, “Friday.”  He’s like, “That’s not specific enough for me.” “Friday at 4:30 my time.” He’s like, “Cool, if you don’t get them done what happens?” I was like, “You’re going to punish me maybe?”  he was like, “If you don’t have it done by Friday at 4:30 we’re cancelling the call for next Monday.” I was like, “Oh crap.” He’s holding my feet to the fire. So many things I could walk you through from a coaching standpoint what I’m enjoying about being coached by him. But it was just making me make sure I do it. And I think one of the problems a lot of us have is we let ourselves off the hook. In fact, I did it and again, I’m a very, very coachable person. Even with that, this week I let myself off the hook. I don’t need to finish part of it because of this, yet I had committed to getting that part done. It’s just interesting. It’s funny because throughout the week I was proud. We kind of picked out the one thing I was going to focus on for the week. And from that, I had found the roll I was looking for, I found the person doing the interview process, going through the whole thing, and I was impressed by how fast I was moving, yet I hadn’t followed through on all my commitments. I had done most of them but not all of them. And it was just like crap, I gotta remember that. I gotta make and keep commitments. People that succeed in life, there’s one really strange commonality between all of them, they’re good at not just making commitments, everyone can make commitments, “I’m going to do this. I’m going to lose weight. I’m going to make money. I’m going to blah, blah, blah.” Everyone’s good at making commitments, but people who are successful are good at making and keeping commitments. I failed at one of my commitments for this week and it sucks. It’s frustrated me because I know better than that, I’m someone who makes and keeps commitments and I didn’t on one thing. I did on most of them, but I didn’t keep this one. So for those of you guys who want to be coachable and want to have success, understand that the big commonality is that successful people are making and keeping commitments. So again, find a coach or whatever it is and then make a commitment and keep that commitment and just do it. And don’t give it all excuses. Alex Hermosi at the last inner circle meeting said that every sales call you’re on someone’s getting sold. Either you’re selling them on the product or service that they need, or they’re selling you on an excuse of why of they can’t get it. And it’s just like, dang, it’s so interesting. You’re either buying the excuse or they’re buying the product. And it’s the same thing for us. I just look at that thread of 170+ people, they each have their excuse of why they hadn’t done it yet. And Dan was like, “Dude, I did it and within 5 months was a millionaire. Why don’t you guys just do it.” And they’re selling themselves on excuses as opposed to just making a commitment and then keeping a commitment. So that is my message for today. Make and keep commitments. All successful people do, they’re good at making them and good at keeping them. I failed this week. I made a bunch of commitments and I kept almost all of them but I did not keep all of them. So this week, I’m going to be better. I’m going to make and keep commitments to myself, to my coaches, and to the people that I love and care about, and that I work with and work for and that I serve, and all that kind of stuff. So that’s my goal and game plan, make and keep commitments this week.  I’m going to be very specific, going to write down all the commitments I make, I’m going to make sure that I keep each and every one of them and that is the path of success. So there you go guys. I hope that helps. Make and keep commitments, write them down and make sure you do them and don’t let yourself off the hook, otherwise you’ll just keep making excuses and again, if you’re buying that success then you didn’t buy the thing you actually gotta do. So that’s all I got you guys. I’m heading in for the day. It’s going to be a fun week, I get to work all week. Todd’s in town, we’re going to plan, we’re going to plot, we’re going to scheme, we’re going to make Clickfunnels even better if that’s possible for all of you guys and try to figure out how to serve you guys better at a higher level. So I appreciate you all, thanks for listening and we’ll see you guys on the next episode of the Marketing Secrets podcast.

One of the traits of all the truly successful people in the world. On this episode Russell talks about why he has a new coach and how he let himself and that coach down last week by not keeping a commitment. Here are some awesome things to listen for on this episode: Why Russell is so coachable, and how that usually leads to success. Why all people who make and keep commitments are successful. And why Russell failed on one commitment last week and is going to try even harder this week to keep all of his commitments and be successful. So listen here if you want to know how to be coachable and be able to succeed.

Danny discusses the importance of making and keeping commitments to God, with reference both to our ongoing study of Nehemiah and our modern lives.

Keeping Commitments Nehemiah 10:28-39 Series: Let's Build Something Dr. Danny Forshee Great Hills Baptist Church August 13, 2017

If you choose to give up and quit, what does that say to those who are counting on you? Your lack of dedication is an insult to those who believe in you. What comes up for you when you read that? Who do you think of? What are you committed to in your life?

We live in a generation that has the "It's no big deal" mentality. Our word is no longer important to us. Conner talks about how we need to keep to our commitments and uses the story of Jephthah, from Judges 11, to dive into how God says we need to keep our commitments. (inspired by The Porch)

With the recent Presidential elections over and after a nasty and ugly campaign, one thing is pretty obvious; regardless of which candidate you supported - the character and integrity of a candidate no longer matters to a majority of Americans. Both candidates trustable rankings were in the low 30 % meaning that over 70% of America did not trust or believe the word of either candidate and yet the same people who said they did not trust or believe a candidate went on to support and vote for that same candidate. We make excuses like "someone's private life" shouldn't effect their "public life" and yet that is the exact same argument Jesus was dispelling in his Sermon on the Mount! The religious leaders came to believe that as long as everything looked good publically, as long as you followed the prescribed rules - you were spiritual/righteous; Jesus came along and said they had missed the point! Here in Matthew 5:33-37 He argues that it is our private lives - the condition of our hearts that holds the key to everything we do and His followers cannot separate their private faith from their public lives. He does so by explaining why integrity and truthfulness are so important; why character matters, why our words, our promises and commitments matter! It was a counter cultural message in His day, and even more so today!

Our caller today is Sha who is a millennial. Millennials are today’s 20 and early 30 somethings. Many millennials are unjustly thought to be narcissistic, entitled and said to have no work ethic. Sha is experiencing residue from having many of her decisions made for her during her adolescence. And it’s not just Sha who is confronting these issues; many millennials feel the effects of over-parenting and the accompanying pressures that linger from missing out on important developmental stages. Sha and I uncover her validation issues and examine her inability to stick to a routine. She becomes aware of her past programming and I offer her tools to assist her in reprogramming herself. One important tool is to understand that what she wants to hear from others is what she actually wants to hear from herself. We also explore ways to relieve anxiety and self-trust issues through being in the present. After the coaching session, I offer a special guided meditation; so go to a quiet place where you can close your eyes and get serene with me. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have trouble making decisions? Do you consult multiple people before you make a choice? Is it hard for you to stick with a routine or stay disciplined? Do you have a hard time quieting your mind? Sha’s Question: Sha finds it hard to make decisions and is having trouble relaxing. Sha’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She was peacocking all the time ● She wasn’t seeing herself ● She may have missed out on fundamental developmental stages ● She has difficulty with discipline and routines ● She doesn’t trust herself How to get over it and on with it: ● Practice telling yourself “be here now” ● Repair yourself by giving yourself the developmental stages you didn’t have ● Take actions to support autonomy and decision making ● Add some routines to your life ● Start making decisions Tools and Takeaways: ● Validation seekers should write a list of everything they want to hear from others and say these things to themselves ● Make a solo decision making challenge ● Write out a routine for yourself. Have one commitment every morning and one commitment every evening ● Start a meditation practice Resources: Christine Hassler The Solo-Decision Making Challenge Christine's Meditation Rx CD @christinhassler

We all hate when commitments aren’t kept. Especially when they're the ones we break. Like anything though, we can get better at keeping commitments. Here's how.

We all hate when commitments aren’t kept. Especially when they're the ones we break. Like anything though, we can get better at keeping commitments. Here's how.

Do you know the difference between "making" a promise or commitment and "keeping" that promise or commitment? Many in the church today seem to have a "keeping" problem. We easily and readily "make" promises, even to God; but when it comes to "keeping" those promises and commitments - the struggles come. Find out how the people in Nehemiah's day found a solution to this problem!