Advice Not Given

We're finally going to wrap season ONE and take a short sabbatical. Here's a quick check in and thoughts on that, and some suggestions on how to not miss us too hard while we're away from the mic. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Join us as we gear up for the approaching holidays. They look quite a bit different than last year, but we're going do our best to heed our own advice here. How are you planning to celebrate all of the upcoming holidays (safely)? Fresh Market Thanksgiving meals - for real, y'all. The Accusation Audit - Chris Voss EJ's video on talking about issues instead of the candidates if the election comes upLiturgies for ParentsEvery Moment HolyThe Sarcastic LutheranSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

This week we're decompressing from the Election on our latest monthly State of the Union episode. First up we're tackling local news (our own personal "happies"), State (what's new with Milspo Gurus), and Federal (election, duh..). Never Split the DifferenceJenny Colgan Bookshttps://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/17/books/review/let-the-people-pick-the-president-jesse-wegman.htmlhttps://fairfight.com/about-stacey-abrams/https://securefamiliesinitiative.org/Parlerhttps://www.cnn.com/2020/11/08/us/arkansas-police-chief-violence-parler-invs/https://www.instagram.com/mosheh/https://news3lv.com/news/local/military-spouse-accused-in-gop-claim-of-voter-fraud-speaks-outhttps://www.ncsl.org/research/elections-and-campaigns/after-the-voting-ends-the-steps-to-complete-an-election.aspxSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Ew, David! We have been waiting a long time for this: we are talking all about the Rose family and Schitt's Creek. More specifically, we are putting our own spin on how the story arc of Schitt's Creek has a lot of similarities to what military life is like. We dive deep into being a fish out of water, new in town, roles different family members take on, self-discovery and awareness, personal growth, and for good measure we give a rundown on all of the characters' Enneagram types. Mentions: Schitt's Creek on NetflixBest Wishes, Warmest RegardsReddit thread of SC Enneagram typesSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Are you considering jumping into a job search? Recently PCS'd and settled and ready to begin looking? About to PCS and wondering what the job market may look like at your next duty station? Or has a global pandemic caused you to consider rejoining the workforce until economic times are more steady? Join us this week as we unpack Deloitte's Insights findings on "Military Spouse Unemployment," where they explore solutions to a local problem of national importance. Mentions: ANG EP 007: PaychecksANG EP 011: Knowing When to Lay Low, and When to ShineANG EP 013: Generalists and Specialists Want to hear more about our Enneagram Webinar November 12 at 2:00 EST? Sign up here. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Levity? Yes, please! Let's debate PSL (pumpkin spice lattes) instead of two other "P-words" we're purposefully avoiding this week. We want to know what your This or That votes are for our three categories: Fall FeelsWarm and FuzziesHalloween TraditionsSo, listen in and then head over to our Instagram account for your own This or That story tile to share your pair of pennies. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Join us for our monthly State of the Union address. We are tackling the Local, State and Federal levels of updates we think you'll love. Local:Kellie and her daughter Hannah have had a HUGE week with Dr. Jill Biden, including a social media shoutoutClaire gives an update on reactivating her Tennessee Teaching License, the process of working with a workplace initiative grant, and facing rejection throughout the employment processState:Milspo Gurus updateMilspo Gurus Patreon community Federal:Deep dive discussion of the nuance of social media influencers, their #thisiswhy2020 posts, what we think about their boundaries and motivations for sharing political views, how and why we choose to trust them, and how their monetization of their online communities impacts what they share"Dirty Delete" Caste, by Isabel WilkersonThe Social Dilemma on NetflixSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Happy Six Month Pandemi-versary! Join us as we share our insights on some of the commentary and observations of real experts at this half-year mark of pandemic life. We offer some of our tips and tricks for making sure your resilience bank account is full as well as some practical things we are doing to care for ourselves physically and emotionally as the shorter days of fall and winter approach. Mentions: Shoutout to Patron-only live "Group Therapy" video call we had with our pals. Join us as a Podcast Pal for the next one here. Brene' Brown's podcastMedium articleANG episode "Undone in Ennui" Pauline Boss, Ambiguous LossMichael Maddaus, Resilience Bank AccountANG episode "Mindset and Mindfulness"Life Kit NPR: Making a Pandemic Winter EasierClaire's End-the-Year-Strong ListMichael Hyatt Full Focus PlannerSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Hey! We are NOT throwing away our shot! We decided to do a Hamilton deep dive and break the first rule of Enneagram typing. Listen in to see if you agree or disagree with what numbers we've assigned to Alexander Hamilton, George Washington, Eliza Schuyler, Aaron Burr, and more! Mentions: ANG episode 28: Enneagram and relationshipsSweet Tea Shakespeare and the Enneagram Personality types of the Founding FathersRelevant Mag: "The Enneagram Type of Every Hamilton Character"My Dear HamiltonLeann + Michelle: "Enneagram Types + Hamilton"The Bible Binge, Faith Adjacent: Hamilton (Erin Moon)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Today's main conversation and its tangents stem from a listener who tagged us in an article on MarieClaire.com titled, "Your Spouse is Your Glass Ceiling." It's a thought provoking interview with author Caitlin Moran (More Than a Woman) that tackles the idea that you are only as successful as your spouse is supportive. We think there are several more layers to peel back - especially in military marriages - so tune in to hear our take. Fortune: COVID-19 is causing a backslide in workplace gender equality. Here’s how to stop itMarie Claire: Warning Working Moms: Your Partner Is Your Glass CeilingNew Mommy Juice MemesANG Episode 21: Drink LessHuge Thanks to Hana R. (@ semperagblog) for tagging us in her IG stories and prompting this convo! We love hearing what you want to talk about, so don't be shy. Tag, DM, (@milspogurus) or email us (kellie or claire@milspogurus.com) with show topic ideas and contribute to the conversation! Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Welcome to our new monthly series: The State of the Union! We are kicking around some of the topics that you are writing in about AND the state of many current affairs. Today’s topics include Paige’s email question about the Payroll Tax Deferral’s impact on military families, the increasing need (and how) to be more aware of social media use during an election year, Kellie’s call to action to military spouses to volunteer to work at the polls, and finally a look at the physical symptoms of longterm pandemic life. Mentions: 2020 Payroll Tax Deferral This Is Not Free CashMilitary Personnel Can’t Opt OutTables based on rank, how much you need to set asideEpisode 42: Actual Advice with Lacey LangfordLacey Langford, The Military Money ExpertEpisode 06: Social MediaSecure Families InitiativeSign on Letter for Poll WorkingOther ways to volunteer: party liaison, work for the voter protection team, a poll observer, voter hotline, legal boiler room volunteer, phone banking, observe a board of elections meeting, and chase calls. “A Dentist Sees More Cracked Teeth. What’s Going On?” The New York TimesTricare Open EnrollmentFind an MTF (Military Treatment Facility)Tricare Retirement Coverage and EnrollmentFACT CHECK: A PCS IS a “Qualifying Event” for a Tricare ChangeBy the Numbers Update: We are up to 10,000 downloads for the Advice Not Given Podcast! THANK YOU!!! Another huge milestone: We are at 12/20 Patrons for our 2020 goal. We appreciate the financial support more than you know!Have an idea or topic for a future episode? Email us at claire@milspogurus.com or kellie@milspogurus.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Apparently, MLMs are a hot topic with listeners and we felt it prudent to release a follow up episode to reveal what feedback we received from EP 55: Triangle of Opportunity. We've heard from many of you how you've been burned, and how you've prospered under this business model. We've also learned a thing or two about what goes on behind the scenes. We also brought in a guest who is a successful distributor/brand rep for a MLM to add her perspective to the conversation - and you might be surprised by what she has to say.Meet our GuestSuzy Goodwin is a military spouse, triplet Mom + 1, and former Guinness World Record Holder. As Host of Run Lift Mom podcast, she explores running, lifting, and motherhood topics with guest interviews and the occasional solo rant. MLM skeptic turned ZYIA Active rep, she prides herself on “breaking the direct sales mold” and encourages those in the industry to serve, then sell.Suzy lives in Fayetteville NC while her Husband wraps up 20 years of service at Fort Bragg. Though she’s done things like marathons in 47 of the 50 states and a 100 mile race, she’s most challenged by homeschooling 4 kids under age 6 and is currently on a caffeine IV. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

You're in for a treat today, listeners! Tune in for a sneak peek at a brand new bonus podcast series, The Teacher's Lounge. Our own resident education guru, Claire Wood, is going to be encouraging us twice a month with insights, tips, best practices, and support for those of us with students still in the home. No matter what your school situation is right now, we're all now faced with taking on at least some teacher-like duties - so why not create our own Teacher's Lounge for support? For more information on how to subscribe to these bonus episodes, head over to patreon.com/milspogurus. We have lots of exciting new initiatives planned to build community and provide resources for our people, so join us in making that happen! Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Yep. We're going there. You ask - we answer! This week we're responding to a Patreon supporter's topic request and tackling MLMs. Multi-level marketing, network marketing, direct sales, etc..., are a few names for a hugely popular business "opportunity" amidst the military spouse community. You know the drill (and may even be involved with some/several) of these companies. Start your morning with Herbalife supplements or Shakeology smoothies, work out with P90X (is that still a thing?) wearing your Zyia, get ready with a your Monat/Rodan + Fields/Beauty Counter/Younique, clean up with Norwex, pull leftover pizza out for lunch from a Tupperware (maybe an old reference, lol), reheat it with your Pampered Chef stone, melt some Scentsy for ambiance, and drop some oils in the diffuser to relax... I could go on and on. Many of these products Claire and I actually own from supporting other folks on their entrepreneur journey, but we have thoughts on the corporate structures. Tune in to see what those thoughts are and if you agree or disagree! "The fundamental flaw in MLM is the endless chainof recruitment of participants as primary customers.MLM pay plans assume infinite markets and virginmarkets – neither of which exists in the real world."- Jon M. Taylor, The Case (for and) against Multi-level MarketingLINKS:Schitt's Creek Clip: Allez Voux and You The Office: Michael's Pyramid SchemeLast Week Tonight with John Oliver (fun fact: he's a milspo!): Multilevel Marketing Pros and Cons of Network Marketing: https://brandongaille.com/12-pros-and-cons-of-network-marketing/Advice and Guidelines from the Federal Trade CommissionHow MLMs are Hurting Female Friendships (Jan. 2019): https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2019/01/21/how-mlms-are-hurting-female-friendships/And we didn't even talk about the Netflix docu-series (Un)Well or the HBO series out now about NXIVM... So, what'd we miss? Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Change is the one constant, but in this season does it feel to you that we're being bombarded with change? How can we flex that resiliency muscle to roll with the tumultuous world we're experiencing? How important is it to find perspective? How do the stories we tell ourselves about how we handle change affect our ability to navigate changes in your life? And what about our memories... how reliable are they? Join us for a discussion about accepting change and moving forward through tough times. Because goodness knows we're likely all in the same boat here. Links: Laura Tremaine's 10 Things to Tell You podcast https://www.10thingstotellyou.com/Fun rabbit hole on Cognitive Offloading - ie. taking pictures to preserve memories and relying on them actually hinders your ability to recall details and store memories other than the photos themselves. Fascinating. Episode title inspo: Claire's latest mantra and the amazing Michelle Obama's speech during the DNC. Check out our revamped enneagram ecourse: Becoming Your Own GuruAnd please consider joining us for some Group "Therapy" ;) Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Listen in to hear what Kellie and Claire have been up to over the summer (while you were hard at work uncovering your Enneagram type with our Summer of Self-Awareness!), and what the plans look like going forward! Oh, and we low-key relaunched our ECOURSE - Becoming Your Own Guru. It's got a fresh new look, some added content, and a cool new price tag... If you enjoyed our enneagram episodes, you'll LOVE this deeper dive into how the enneagram can be used as a tool for navigating the complexities of the military spouse lifestyle, interpersonal relationships, parenting, marriage, and more! https://milspogurus.thinkific.com/courses/becoming-your-own-guruSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Finally! The Enneagram Nine. We've reached the end of our Summer of Self Awareness series uncovering the nine Enneagram types, and we finally arrive at the Type 9, Peacemaker. The Peacemaker needs to avoid conflict. Nines are laid back, accommodating, and generally unaffected by life. A deep desire to keep the peace can cause Nines to lose themselves and merge into the opinions and feelings of others. They can struggle to make decisions and can be frustratingly ambivalent, often feeling torn by even the simplest of choices. Nines in health are highly empathic, diplomatic, and flexible.Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships (w/ Sarajane Case)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Brace yourself for a powerful discussion about the Type Eight - Challenger. Jk, we know they're big teddy bears deep down. Often stereotyped as bullies or "too much", let's work through why they're perceived as such and explore how to embrace them for exactly what they are! The Challenger, or Asserter, needs to avoid feeling weak or vulnerable. Eights are intense, reliable, and mighty. Sometimes confrontational, they don’t necessarily have an urge to lead but will jump in if a vacuum presents itself. Dualistic and absolute in their thinking, grey areas are unacceptable and defied. Relationships can be challenging because of their preoccupation with betrayal, but when healthy, Eights are empowering, passionate, and dedicated.Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships (w/ Sarajane Case)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

"What's the worst that could happen?"... said no Enneagram 6, EVER. They already know. And have already prepared for it! Join us for a candid discussion on what's it's like to be a Loyalist on the Enneagram from our resident six, Claire, and our guest contributor, Jen McDonald. The Loyalist needs to feel secure. Sixes are likely the most common Enneagram type and are devoted, cooperative, and warmhearted. Their thoughts are often dominated with planning for worst-case scenarios, and they can exhibit anxiety and even paranoia when in the lower levels of health. Doubt and suspicion can pose an obstacle to relationships for Sixes, but once trust is established they can be loyal to a fault. Community is of utmost importance -- there’s safety in numbers. Healthy Sixes are committed to the common good, and are steadfast, reliable, and honest.Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Join us on a journey into the depths of the Enneagram 5 mind on today's conversation about The Observer. Co-host, Kellie, and contributor, Lala, provide insight on what it's like to take up residence in the thinking center. The Observer, or Investigator, needs to perceive. They are objective, rational, and have a lust for acquiring knowledge. They fear being incompetent and avoid depending on others. Fives can withdraw from social interaction and often escape to their minds. In relationships, they can seem detached and are often mis-understood due to their analytical nature. It takes a lot of energy (that they so desperately try to conserve) to get in touch with their feelings. Healthy Fives are calm in a crisis, capable of true neutrality in a conflict, and are fantastic confidants.Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships (w/ Sarajane Case)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Ready for the most special unicorn type of all time?? Well, it's the Four, but don't tell them there are more than one of them! Jk. We love our Individualists! The Romantic, or Individualist, needs to be special. They’re in touch with ALL the feels and have an impressive emotional range. They can be melancholic and moody, and their basic fear is of being perceived as ordinary. Fours are creative and uber-expressive. In relationships, they can be melodramatic and high-maintenance, but also incredibly empathic and comfortable dealing with hard stuff. If you need someone just to sit and hold space for you, call a healthy Four.Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships (w/ Sarajane Case)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Today we're going to do the BEST job of explaining the Enneagram Three... Or at least we would if either of us were type three. Listen in to insights from our resident THREE, Jessica Bertsch of Powerhouse Planning. The Achiever, or Performer, needs to succeed. They’re charismatic, image-conscious, and highly driven. They seek admiration and acceptance and can paint themselves with any brush to pull it off. They avoid failure at all costs, and fear being exposed as a fraud. Threes seek undemanding relationships, and tend to do feelings rather than feel them. Healthy Threes selflessly accomplish amazing things, are highly optimistic, and support others in pursuit of their goals.Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships (w/ Sarajane Case)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

"I get by with a little help from my friends!" Don't we all? Well, that's exactly what we're talking about today - the Helper. The Helper needs to be needed. They care deeply and have the heart to help. Twos can instinctively identify and provide comfort to those in need, but sometimes their generosity can be self-serving. Maintaining and recognizing healthy boundaries can be a challenge for Twos in a relationship, and they often avoid acknowledging their own needs. Healthy Twos are loving, warm, and make wonderful friends.Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and RelationshipsEnneagram and IdentityBecoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

We're kicking off our Enneagram Summer of Self-Awareness with a conversation about Reformers and our friend Kim's insights about what it's like to live life dominant in Type One. The core motivation, or need, for an Enneagram Type One is to be perfect. Idealistic, ethical, and self-controlled, Ones are constantly looking to improve or “set-to-rights” their surroundings. They are sometimes seen as hypercritical and fixated and seek to avoid fault or blame. Relationships are difficult when they resist the vulnerability essential for intimacy. Criticism is unbearable for Ones, and the fear of failure can be paralyzing. In health, they are responsible, dependable, methodical, and they can truly make the world a better place.MentionsBrené Brown's interview with Chris HeuertzMarilyn Vancil's Self to Lose, Self to FindJust in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships (w/ Sarajane Case)Enneagram and Identity (w/ Chris Heuertz)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started:Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Buckle up for a trip down the self-awareness highway! This summer we're launching a stay-cation of discovery of our inner landscapes using the Enneagram of Personality. Over the course of the next nine weeks, we'll introduce listeners of each type, and dive a little deeper into what makes us tick. This particular series will be geared toward anyone with a curious interest in the system all the way to those who have a good grasp on their numbers. Also, what we say to folks who are reticent to embracing the Enneagram as a self-discovery tool (and we swear it's compassionate!). Just in case you may have missed some of our other discussions or want to refresh your memory, check out this list of episodes: The Enneagram (overview)Enneagram and Relationships (w/ Sarajane Case)Enneagram and Identity (w/ Chris Heuertz)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course audio files (Patreon)Prefer to read? Here are a few places to get started: Recommended Reading (all the books we love)"What is the Enneagram" (Legacy Vol. II, article)Milspo Snapshots (Nine Types-free download)Becoming Your Own Guru e-course workbook (digital download)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

We took a pause this week to listen, engage, and evaluate the ways in which our platform and podcast can stand in solidarity with the Black community, and are sharing those commitments with you today. We also invite you, listeners, to explore your own hearts to confront bias, challenge your own comfortable silence, stand with us as we affirm that Black Lives Matter. I am the Problem by Kellie ArtisAnti-Racism Resources75 Things White People Can Do for Racial JusticeThe Diversity MovementBe the Bridge to Racial UnitySupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Mindfulness with MoneyThis week we are joined by The Military Money Expert, Lacey Langford and our convo is all about the benjamins. And yes, please brace yourselves for bad hip hop puns. Why do we have such a personal attachment to our financial situations? Why is there such a stigma around money? And what can we do better? All this and more on this episode of Advice Not Given. Mentions: Financial Peace University (FPU)Money and Happiness Threshold ($105K)Mo’ Money, Mo’ Problems“Paychecks” episode of ANGFinancial Readiness (ACS)Army Emergency ReliefVA Cracks Down on GI Bill Installments Special Guest: Lacey Langford, The Military Money ExpertThrift Savings Plan (TSP) Servicemembers’ Group Life Insurance (SGLI)Compound InterestThe Military Money Show (Lacey’s podcast)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

What can the Enneagram teach us as military spouses about our struggle with a sense of lost identity, coping with shifting environments and stress, navigating transitions? A lot, actually. Author, speaker, teacher, and mentor, Chris Heuertz joins the podcast for an entrancing conversation about the Enneagram. We also get a preview to new concepts and practices appearing in his new book, The Enneagram of Belonging: A Compassionate Journey of Self-Acceptance. Learn more about the ABC's - Affirmations we need to make, Beliefs we have to correct, and Confessions that free us - of each type (you know we love some acronyms!). The simplicity of this framework actually makes this complex system so graspable. Listen in and see what you think! Mentions: The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual GrowthThe Enneagram of Belonging: A Compassionate Journey of Self-AcceptanceGravity: a Center for Contemplative Activism The Enneagram Mapmakers (Chris’s podcast)Claudio NaranjoMichael J. Goldberg, Travels with OdysseusSince the in-person workshops he mentioned are on hold, Chris is offering a livestream Enneagram workshop (and yes, Kellie is already registered - join in!). Find Chris Heuretz online hereChris spent nearly three decades in community organizing, international humanitarian work, and anti-human trafficking efforts, and was first introduced to the Enneagram in the slums of Cambodia. Since then he has trained under some of the great living Enneagram masters, and now teaches the Enneagram in workshops around the world as an International Enneagram Association Accredited Professional. Host of the Enneagram Mapmakers podcast, Chris is also featured in the new documentary NINE: The Enneagram Documentary, a journey across America to introduce the essence of the nine profile types. He is the author of seven books, including the award-winning bestseller The Sacred Enneagram and his latest work The Enneagram of Belonging; both are compassionate guides for those who want to incorporate personal growth and development with their Enneagram type. Chris and Phileena, and their puppy Basil, live in Omaha. You can follow Chris’ work at gravitycenter.com and chrisheuertz.com.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Advice Not Given “Intolerance of Uncertainty”Advice Not Given Interview with Kelsy TimasFacebook Will Now Offer to Hide Your Exes from You“Closing the Restaurant That Was My Life for 20 Years” (NYT Daily)Advice Not Given Interview with Tara BremerWant to hear the content of our Becoming Your Own Guru Course? Join us on Patreon for all access!Have something to say about your Enneagram type for our upcoming Summer of Self-Awareness? Record a short voice memo and email us at kellie@milspogurus.com or claire@milspogurus.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

As we transition out of spring and into summer, what are we expecting? Claire and Kellie check in with listeners, discuss the "re-opening" of the country, and wonder what boundaries others are observing since there's mostly radio silence on social media. Mentions: The Daily: The Governor and The ProtestorFocaccia GardensWho you should let into your Coronavirus quarantine orbit? Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

This week we're discussing the stages, cycles, and stasis of this pandemic and isolation. "Life creates itself in delirium and is undone in ennui" - Emil Cioran, Romanian philosopher with a penchant for nihilism. You, know... Just keeping it light today. ;)Mentions:Intuitive EatingKübler-Ross Model: 5 Stages of GriefThe Liturgists, “Grief”“Ennui”- /änˈwē/ a feeling of being bored and mentally tired caused by having nothing interesting or exciting to doForbes: Flatten, Fight, Emerge“How Brands Are Shifting Ad Campaigns Amid the COVID-19 Outbreak”Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

And why Claire is pressing shower curtains. Mentions:Cape Fear Regional TheaterSavanna Kaye PhotographyScience Mike’s Book: You’re a Miracle (and a Pain in the Ass)The Office: The Untold Story of the Greatest Sitcom of the 2000sSome Good NewsMelatonin Wine Monitor VideoSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Mentions: April 12 Weather + Easter tornadoesGrief during social distancingEnneagram types in stressMilspo Gurus Enneagram Milspo SnapshotsBrené Brown’s podcast, Unlocking Us: Anxiety, Calm, + Over/Under-functioningApple, Google, and the Coronavirus HBO’s Westworld“Prepare for the Ultimate Gaslighting”Kellie’s favorite 1990s iconSend us your Welfare Check to kellie@milspogurus.com or claire@milspogurus.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

We're back for another Welfare Check episode, and this time we brought friends! Listen in to our check in with each other, and hear how some of our listeners are also doing. Mentions:Kanban Method (Project Management System)“That Discomfort You’re Feeling is Grief”Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreLori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneANG, Drink Less (Episode 21) Drinker’s Helper appMilspouse Matters, Temporary Homeschooling During the Coronavirus Pandemic#alonetogetherPlausible DeniabilityThe Big ThreeGet to Work BookFocus on What You Can ControlSend us YOUR UPDATESupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

It's time for another Corona Virus Welfare Check, and lucky for you we've had time to binge everyone's obsession -- The Tiger King on Netflix. As we enter week three (for most of us) of quarantine/shelter-in-place/social distancing, Claire and Kellie check in with each other and compare what coping strategies, impulse purchases, and nonsense distractions are helping pass the time and alleviate anxiety. We actually packed a lot into this conversation, as well as featuring some advice and checkins with a couple of listeners! MentionsThe Berkey Water Purifier Can you still get takeout without risking contracting coronavirus? Yes. The Theory of Information Processing: Cataloguing experiences while you sleep. Find Your Local Farmers - They Might Be Delivering! Brief synopsis and all the memes you can handle for The Tiger King. "I Saw a Tiger" cover by Kellie's high school classmate. Amazing. The Late Show at HomeEnneagram Mapmakers PodcastThe Daily by New York Times: A Kid's Guide to CoronavirusSome Kind of Crazy by Terry WardleDave Barnes' Instagram feed with Corona CharactersSo Many Thoughts by Elizabeth HolmesEscape or Stick it through? What do you think? Hot take on an insta influencer's reaction to Stay Home orders. If you would like to share your Covid Check-in with us - please head over to the episode page for directions. We'd love to hear from you and add your voice to the show! Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

We decided to break format to make space for the events of the world and honor the emotions we're experiencing during the Coronavirus outbreak. So, we'll be doing weekly "Welfare Checks" with each other and with all of you for the foreseeable future. These episodes will be short and sweet, and we'll strive to bring you something to smile about and appreciate as together we navigate complex feelings, anxiety, lack of focus, and who knows what else. Also, we want to hear from you! What advice do you have for others? How are you faring this storm? What are you doing to carry on? What are the good things in your life and day that you'd like to share? Send us a recording using your phone's Voice Recorder app (to kellie@milspogurus.com or claire@milspogurus.com) and we'll air your message on the following week's episode. Report back to us how you're doing on a scale of 1-to-Cray. Seriously. We need to know. ;) Remember, we're in this together and together we'll thrive. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

**BONUS EPISODE**Our "No Advice | Just Opinions" podcast is typically reserved for our Patreon Subscribers, but we recorded this one as a departure from our regularly scheduled content on Advice Not Given. We wanted to add some thoughts to what's going on in the world to hopefully provide some solace for those making the unpopular and uncomfortable choice to follow extreme social distancing (as Claire and I both are). Enjoy! And stay home. ;) We mixed things up today and hosted a Facebook livestream of our recording of this episode, and we'll also release this one publicly for our entire community (normally these episodes are reserved for Patrons only). Today we discussed all things COVID and Claire dropped wisdom on how to "school from home."To watch the Facebook Live: https://business.facebook.com/milspogurus/videos/207028890608652/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

What areas of your life do you need to recognize where you need to “quit forcing it?” Learn how mindfulness and recognizing natural life patterns may help you give yourself the patience, grace, and love you need to relinquish that need for control.Mentions: Kelsey Timas of Guiding Wellnessseven year cycles of lifeshadow sideRichard Rohr, Universal ChristKellie and Claire’s conversation (starts at 42:50)The number seven in the BibleShakespeare’s Seven Ages of ManYou are not a human doing. You are a human being!Actual Advice Guest: Kelsey Timas Kelsy Timas is a Board Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Author, Speaker/Coach and Wellness Educator assisting the world in discovering and recovering a life in balance. A lifelong yoga practitioner with a professional background in quality management and emergency medicine, Kelsy is on a mission to serve humanity in their journey and return to holism. Recognized as an industry leader and sought after as a subject matter expert, Kelsy invests her time and talents in people, organizations and communities looking for wellness solutions that move us toward a more productive and integrative world. Her 20+ years of clinical experience, evidence based holistic strategies and vision for the future of collaborative health care is the driving force behind the growth and development of her national Health and Wellness company, Guiding Wellness Institute Inc. Kelsy’s drive and success can be attributed to her deep desire and commitment to creating accessible and sustainable solutions that serve performance, resilience and recovery; pillars of support that allow people to create and live their best life. A natural entrepreneur and pioneering spirit that has never been afraid to create solutions needed in order to find “a better way”, and the sincere belief that she is in service of her life’s calling, Kelsy has blazed a trail that will support many generations to discover, recover and maintain their balance in an ever changing world. Kelsy is the Program/QM Director and Lead Faculty for Warriors at Ease (WAE), 2019 Outstanding Entrepreneur of the Year by Reeves Business school and the Author or LIVE WELL Magazine and BE WELL Podcast.Devoted to her role as a military spouse and her military family, Kelsy serves, directs and advises many non-profit organizations serving those who serve and their families that sacrifice so much. When she is not teaching or at work running her national operation, Kelsy spends time with her six dogs, her family and close friends, living the message of “Be well” she shares with the world. She loves cooking from her home potager and taking time for regular sunshine and the outdoors, her favorite people call her “naynay”. Kelsy also enjoys reading, writing, pottery and house projects along with her deepest passions of yoga, meditation and mindfulness. Guiding WellnessFacebookInstagramSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

How are you maximizing your personal productivity? Join us as we share some of our favorite productivity hacks to help manage time and most of all set us up to be living out our priorities. Mentions: Keep a digital profile for each of your own “personas” (Chrome extensions) Time BlockingLast Pass password keeperKeep a portable version of hard copies of vital documents Turbo Scan and Genius ScanWunderlist“The Sunday Night Meeting” Write the vision and make it plainApple PayLaunch Notebook (transcripts, ACT scores, test scores, online account passwords)Seasons of My Military StudentFill out one copy and then ask the admin person to photocopy it in multiples before you personalize it with each child’s informationAdam GrantActual Advice Guest: Lauren RothlisbergerLauren Rothlisberger is a Mom to four kids and milspouse minivan driver. She focuses on mindful productivity and project management. She is interested in being productive not for the sake of being productive, but as a way to be creative, useful, valuable, and fruitful.Lauren believes in building out the week and curating targets for each day in order to navigate the interwoven timelines of work and life. You can find her resources at www.laurenrothlisberger.com.IG: @lauren_rothlisbergerSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

There is so much to consider when you have to relocate. We share some practical steps to free up your physical and mental bandwidth by being mindful in your planning and solutions to this major life change.Mentions:Episode 25 Settling Your Space with Tara BremerKellie’s day job (MILLIE)Already--But Not Yet (Claire’s personal blog post about moving)Recovery From RelocationJordan Jean blog (Air Force spouse selling fully furnished house)PCSing With KidsPCS BrainThe Organized MomActual Advice Guest: Christa Curtis Web: Permanent Change of Storing IG: @permanentchangeofstoringFB: facebook.com/PermanentChangeofStoringSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Have you ever connected intimacy disconnects to how connected you are to your body? Join us for a grown up “sex talk” as we tackle common intimacy blocks and why we think we sometimes can’t quite get there… And be sure to stick around for Actual Advice from Dr. Laurel Proulx, PT, DPT, OCS. She's here to talk all things from the "nipples to the knees." Mentions:Grace and Frankie on NetflixThe goop lab with Gwyneth Paltrow on Netflix (NSFW)Great thought piece on Purity Culture and shameAdvice from Corie Weathers from Episode 27 on eye gazingPsychArmor resource: Online courses on intimacy issues10 Practical Intimacy Tips for Couples Experiencing DeploymentActual Advice Guest:Laurel Proulx is a Doctor of Physical Therapy and an Orthopedic Certified Specialist who has advanced training and experience in Women’s Health and Pelvic Health Physical Therapy care. Her professional experience has taken her from working with high level athletes, helping moms get back to feeling like themselves, amputee rehabilitation and leads research with the department of defense to improve diagnosis and treatment of pelvic pain within the active duty population.She also has a vested interest in improving overall awareness and health literacy of women’s issues for her patients, other physical therapists, and all health professionals.https://femunfolding.com/https://www.instagram.com/fem.unfoldingSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Do you know your Enneagram number? If so, now what? Listen in to see how knowing your Hornevian and Harmonic Grouping can help you get your needs met in relationships with others as well as serve you in conflict resolution. And stick around for our conversation with Sarajane Case of Enneagram and Coffee for her input on the importance of knowing your enneagram type in relationships. Mentions:Why the Enneagram? (ANG Episode 4)Milspo Gurus Becoming Your Own Guru eCourseEnneagram Hornevian Groups (Compliant 1-2-6; Assertive 3-7-8; Withdrawn 4-5-9)Enneagram Harmonic Groups (Positive Outlook 7-9-2; Competency 1-3-5; Reactive 4-6-8)The Enneagram Institute RHETI (paid test)Milspo Gurus websiteMilspo Gurus download of BYOG course workbook Milspo Gurus Military Spouse Enneagram SnapshotsEnneagram Recommended Reading ListEnneagram Summer of Virtues: Want to help. Contact us here.“The Memeification of the Enneagram”Sarajane’s book, The Honest Enneagram Enneagram Summit InformationActual Advice Guest:Sarahjane Case of Enneagram and CoffeeSarajane Case is a speaker, author and podcaster working with the enneagram as a tool for self-compassion and creative expression. She runs the Instagram account and podcast - Enneagram and Coffee. Her book, The Honest Enneagram is available for life-order now wherever books are sold. Instagram: @enneagramandcoffee and @sarajanecaseSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Dealing with and loving extended family members and parenting can be challenging. Give yourself the same grace and benefit of the doubt you’d give your best friend. Mentions:Parent or Friend?Play the long gameTristen WatsonEmoji your people in your phoneSacred Spaces (Corie’s book) Corie’s podcast interview with Kim Weathers (her mother in law)InDependent Wellness Summit 2020Actual Advice Guest:Corie Weathers, LPC2015 AFI Military Spouse of the Year, & Author.Website: corieweathers.com All social media: @CorieLPC.Schedule your next session with Corie: https://lifegiver.as.meSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

In honor of their SIX Oscar nominations, and take home win for Best Costume Design, we're releasing our bonus (patron only) episode of No Advice, Just Opinions for our chat about Little Women. Enjoy! We're jumping in QUICK with this month's Patron only podcast episode so buckle up and let's get to all the things we're watching, reading, and listening to (and our takes on all)! We’re also breaking down our takeaways from the movie, Little Women by Greta Gerwig. Links below to ease your Googling.ReadingClaire: Furious Hours: Murder, Fraud, and the Last Trial of Harper Lee by Casey CepClaire is committing to read more fiction this year! Yay, brain break.Kellie: Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng Random: Kellie’s leading a virtual book club on The Road Back to You! Listening ToKellie: The Spouse Angle Podcast by Natalie GrossDon’t forget to leave reviews for the shows you enjoy! It means the world… Claire: Office Ladies Podcast by Jenna Fischer and Angela KinseyDave Ramsey Podcast, Monday, December 30: Hour Two “Are you a Viking or a Victim?” WatchingKellie: The Witcher (swoon) on NetflixThe Politician also on NetflixClaire: Friends binge on Netflix - Hubby had never seen themThe Crown, Season 3 on NetflixDerry Girls & Schitt's Creek (earmuff shows) on NetflixAnd Kellie’s Rose Apothecary ShirtI couldn’t find a clean clip of my FAVORITE scene, but here’s a quick little transcript for your enjoyment. Infer ALL the sarcasm you can muster. :) Patrick: Here’s an easy one, “Brief description of the business.” David: It’s a general store, but it’s also a very specific store. And it’s also not just a store, it’s also a place where people can come and get coffee, or drinks, but it’s not a coffee shop nor is it a bar.Patrick: Ok, so we’re pretty clear on what it’s not. David: Yeah, it’s an environment. And yes, we will be selling things, but it’s more like a branded immersive experience. Patrick: Right, I love the buzzwords, David, but I do need to put something down here. David: You can use anything I just said. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

What does a successful marriage look like? Listen in as we discuss trust, integrity, communication, and commitment. Mentions:Email sign-up for our monthly Guru Greetings Newsletter20 for 2020 Patreon CampaignJulie Benson (Handmade Quilts)Richard Rohr Universal Christ The Five Love LanguagesLeaving and CleavingActual Advice Guest: Ryan Wood - Nice Try! He's a ghost online so you'll have to just contact Claire. :) VISIT The Full Episode PageSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

How do you feel about all of your belongings and how do you manage or arrange them in your space? Do you find a correlation between peace, calm, and order or do you find your creativity with just a little chaos? Mentions: Outer Order, Inner CalmMarie KondoA Perfect Mess“Stressed Out” Washington Post article11 Benefits of an Organized HomeActual Advice Guest: Tara Bremer (29:00) House Peace, @house.peaceTara’s Mentions: “Just in Case” The Minimalists + The 20/20 RuleBed, Bath, & BeyondDyno Letra Tag Label MakerRemodelista: The Organized HomeTara’s Online Consults For the full show notes and more info about our guest, please visit the EPISODE PAGE. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Are you an early bird, a night owl, or something in between? Science tells us that there may be reasons why your productivity surges and wanes throughout the day based on your answer. Mentions: When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing (Daniel H. Pink)iPhone Bedtime FeatureHeadspaceDon’t Make Important Decisions Late in the AfternoonBe Focused AppPomodo TechniqueNappucciosGoals + Resolutions (Episode 23)Know Your Value-- Paychecks (Episode 7)Surviving Sarah PodcastGet to Work BookActual Advice Guests:Amy Harvey (31:00)Amy Bushatz (47:00) Military.com, Humans Outside, AmyBushatz.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Do You Make and Keep New Year’s Resolutions? Do you make New Years Resolutions? If you do, what is your motivation for doing so? If not, why not? Kellie is Team No and Claire is definitely Camp Yes and has the vision board to prove it. ⠀⠀In Episode 23 we tackle the science behind why people make and break resolutions, share some of why we do or don’t do them, and look at how self-awareness impacts the process.Complete Show NotesSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Quick recap of our December series: Move More, Eat Better, Drink LessQuick recap of our own Christmas celebrations and mini check-ins from Claire about her "baggage" she didn't take home; Kellie's plan of going home backfired--but it ended up being a great breakWhat lessons or reflections from 2019 are we taking with us into the new year? Claire learned that being an elementary teacher is not her jam--she can still be a teacher but it doesn't have to be in a full-time traditional classroom for her to feel fulfilled; she is leaning in to her creativity on how teaching can look in 2020Kellie looks back at our podcast launch and all of our other endeavors (website, course, launch camp, etc.) and feels really proud that we did it! We have a podcast!Claire wants to reiterate that dueling opinions, viewpoints, and values CAN co-exist--you can still be respectful, inquisitive, and engaged without being hurtful--don't alienate others but be a bridge builderWhat are we looking ahead to for 2020?A NEW PODCAST SEASON!Great bonus content on our PatreonMonthly themes and topicsAdded segments of "Actual Advice" where we will be featuring real subject matter experts who can speak about our themes/topicsThemes: Fresh Starts (January), Relationships (February), Mindfulness (March), Values (April), Mentorship (May), Summer of Self-Awareness/Enneagram Virtues (July + July)Want to be featured on a future episode? Contact us here. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

As we finish up part three of our three part series, we open up a HUGE can of worms with a conversation about alcohol. We know it’s a doozy (or maybe a boozy) of a topic. Kellie and Claire come at this issue from vastly different perspectives but as always hope to find common understanding as they look at some of the dangers of the mommy wine culture, how alcohol impacts military families, and what others’ motivations for drinking are. They close out the episode with some practical tips on how to drink less alcohol. Advice Not Given:After having several personal conversations about the topic and drama associated with alcohol we just kept avoiding this as an episode topic. However, in looking ahead to 2020 and rounding out some good personal habits with moving more and eating better, we felt this idea of drinking less fit perfectly with this theme.Earlier this month Military Families Magazine published a story of a military spouse, Allison Evans, who has celebrated 1,000 days sober after a difficult time in her life involving drinking to excess. Kellie and Claire are a little gun shy about this discussion because they come at the issue from very different sides of the issue: Kellie loves a good glass of wine but wants to be conscious that everyone’s use of alcohol may be very different, she drinks socially but she understands the struggle that people face with moderation. Claire is a complete tee-totaler and abstainer. We read research that claims that the military ranks as the number one job where people drink the most days during a given year. The military also tops the list for the highest binge drinking career. We wonder if this is true due to deployments? Due to small-talk/nerves in social situations? Is there simply a correlation to blowing off steam? There are also events where there is ceremonial drinking within the celebration culture (military balls, “pouring one out…”)--is this unique to the military profession? How do we call awareness to this issue and its related problems? How do you begin to put healthy boundaries in place? How do you know and control your personal limits? What about service member SPOUSES and the drinking culture of military spouses and the pervasive use of alcohol? How do we tie relaxation and self care to a giant glass of wine? Does “military life” stress exacerbate the use of alcohol? Is there a behavioral relaxation that comes with even a non-alcoholic mocktail? It has been embraced as the norm. There is a problem when we don’t embrace the non-drinker and also when alcohol becomes a crutch. Any compulsive behavior can lead to a shame cycle--why are you doing this thing and can you ask yourself how can you curb it, clean it up, and take back control over it…Claire names reasons she thinks most people drink alcohol: for fun, for relaxation, to take the edge off, to numb pain or discomfort. Kellie adds: the epicure-aspect. Advice Not Given: We share the 11 tips from Harvard Health on how to curb your drinking-- no personal advice on drinking but we share that small, daily changes can impact your longterm wellness…We leave you with Happy New Year wishes for 2020 and a thank you for helping us make 2019 such a fantastic year!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)

Merry Christmas Eve! Claire and Kellie keep this episode light and entertaining as they share how they each “do” Christmas. They each give a yes or no (and plenty of opinions) on Christmas magic, Christmas trees (real or fake), Elf on the Shelf, crafts, and many other traditions and expectations they place upon themselves. > This episode is not for little ears who still believe in Christmas magic.Advice Not Given:Christmas is a wonderful holiday but there are many issues that people are either PRO or CON. Kellie and Claire share about how it can be stressful. As moms we feel pressure to be the memory maker and the creator of the magic. When do you put your tree up? Do you have a rule or tradition or do you tend to just roll with it? In your house, does Santa bring all of the gifts or do the parents get any credit?Do you travel for Christmas? If so, do you ship all of your gifts to grandparents?What is your take on Santa? Do your kids still believe? Any convictions about feeding your kids the “lie”/magic of Santa? Does he get too much of mama’s credit? Do you have any parameters for gift-giving or limits/rules? Do you procrastinate or get stressed about keeping gifts “fair” between siblings? What is “enough?” Do you have to help grandma think of meaningful gifts for your kids in addition to your own lists?Have you ever asked grandparents for experiences or movie tickets in lieu of traditional packaged gifts? If you do want/need/wear/read gifts how do you make it meaningful or creative? Do you have any gift opening rituals on Christmas morning to make it more meaningful or ceremonial? Do your kids buy, make, or give each other sibling gifts? Do kids buy parents gifts? If so do you facilitate this? Do you and your spouse exchange gifts? Do you have a system? Ever had a year where one person bought the other a gift and one did not? Ever not really liked something your spouse bought you? Every just bought your own gift?Do you do a real or fake tree? Pre-lit? If it’s a real one, do you have a Christmas tree farm shopping ritual or tradition? As a military family, are there any things that make Christmas difficult? How is your present tradition different or the same as your childhood? How do you divide time between extended families? How do you convey plans to non-military extended family members? How do plans change with a deployed spouse? Do you typically wake up in your own home? How do you budget for travel? Do you bring pets along? Do people come stay with you? Claire has the realization that the magic of Christmas it isn’t Santa--it’s mom! HUGE Hat Tip to Claire’s mom Teresa and Kellie’s mom Teresa.Do you have any Christmas movies you love or traditions for watching them? Do you do Christmas crafts? Are you a Pinterest mom? Kellie’s protip: You don’t have to be the craftiest/coolest mom on the block--you just have to be friends with her.Do you do Elf on the Shelf? Does it make you crazy? Is it simply another pressured expectation and more work for mom to do in order to make Christmas happen? Finally, do you consider yourself (overall) naughty or nice at Christmas? Attitude? Does the stuff of Christmas wear you down? Does the “doing” exhaust you? Are you just surviving Christmas? Are we more orchestrators or participators of/in Christmas? The answer is balance!We wonder if the sweet spot is when you move beyond “mom” to “grandma,” but maybe not? NO ADVICE THIS WEEK: HAVE A VERY MERRY CHRISTMASSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)