Podcasts about shanenn

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you're nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, insecurity, or control—and what to do instead. From revealing instead of blaming, to communicating needs without making your partner defensive, this episode is packed with powerful reframes and tools to shift from criticism to connection.Key Moments:·       2:00 – Why criticism is often an attempt to control, not connect·       6:00 – How to tell the difference between a complaint an emotional need·       12:20 – What your criticism is actually trying to say·       20:40 – How to turn a complaint into a “reveal or request”·       29:00 – The neuroscience behind why we misread our partner's silence·       38:00 – A hilarious hot tub story that'll test your jealousy triggersGolden Episode Nuggets:

In this eye-opening episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Shanenn Bryant, pattern transformation expert and founder of Top Self, who reveals the hidden connections between childhood experiences and adult relationship patterns. Guest's Info Shanenn Bryant helps women demolish their patterns and dominate their future. As a Pattern Transformation Expert and founder of Top Self, she bridges the gap between attachment theory and real-world transformation, showing women how to recognize and transform patterns that limit both their personal and professional lives. Combining her certification in Integrated Attachment Theory with nearly a decade of corporate Learning and Development experience, Shanenn demonstrates why "conscious seeing leads to conscious being." Host of the 2.5% globally ranked podcast Top Self, she's helped thousands of women transform their relationship with themselves and others by understanding the science behind their stories. Shanenn brings a unique blend of professional expertise and personal insight to her work. She demonstrates how the same patterns that show up in relationships often appear in professional settings, helping women create lasting transformation in all areas of life. Through speaking engagements, workshops, and her podcast, she's on a mission to help women move from old patterns to personal power. Highlights The shocking truth about why anxious and avoidant people fall in love– and the unconscious dance that keeps them locked in painful cycles The "relationship land mine" hiding in children of alcoholics – why growing up with addiction creates a dangerous attachment style that sabotages love just when it starts feeling safe Why "trying harder" never works – Shanenn's personal revelation about why willpower alone couldn't stop her jealousy (and why addicts can't just "stop using") The hidden "core wounds" driving your relationships– uncover what's really happening when you keep choosing partners who can't love you back The surprising reason secure relationships often feel "boring" – and how your brain creates chaos when things get too calm The BTEA method– a powerful technique to trace your triggered behaviors back to their original childhood wounds How Shanenn overcame crippling jealousy – the turning point that saved her marriage after 8 years of struggle Why your brain is designed to confirm your worst beliefs – and the simple reprogramming technique that can permanently change your patterns The unexpected way Shanenn healed her relationship with her alcoholic father – after decades of estrangement Listen as Christopher and Shanenn share personal experiences and professional insights that will transform how you understand both yourself and the addicted loved ones in your life. Links and Resources from this Episode https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/ Connect with Shanenn Bryant https://www.topself.com/   Call to Action Schedule a Call Free Resources Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Make sure you're subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Subscribe with RSS

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom.From his concept of "the house of your heart" to practical techniques like "embrace the digs," Dr. Stewart offers a refreshing perspective on emotional intelligence that can transform how you experience your relationships.Golden Nuggets:

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nurture lasting love and embrace conflict as an opportunity for growth.Golden Episode Nuggets:

In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance.Episode HighlightsThe development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skillHow childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systemsWhy hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuitionThe physical and emotional toll of maintaining constant vigilanceKey Insights70% of children from alcoholic homes develop hypervigilant traits that persist into adulthoodOur body's stress response system gets programmed in childhoodEmotional threats are processed by our bodies the same way as physical threatsHypervigilance can create false beliefs and misinterpretation of neutral situationsReferences Mentioned"The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk - Purchase BookPlease note, I am an Amazon affiliate and I may receive a commission if you purchase this book from this linkBehind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp - Register hereAny issues with registration reach out to support@topself.comCall to ActionJoin the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp for:- Access to the Overthinkers Toolkit- 21 days of core wound reprogramming- Daily check-ins and support- Private session included- Workbook and guided meditation resourcesTime Stamps[00:00:00] Introduction and welcome[00:01:22] Personal story about childhood trauma[00:05:04] Development of hypervigilance as a survival skill[00:06:21] Scientific explanation of threat detection systems[00:09:15] Research on childhood trauma and relationship hypervigilance[00:15:07] Difference between curiosity and hypervigilance[00:17:06] Body tension awareness exercise[00:21:12] Reference to "The Body Keeps the Score" exercises[00:22:18] Information about the bootcamp program[00:25:52] Closing thoughts and practical steps forward

In this episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, Avik Chakraborty sits down with Shanenn Bryant, a transformational coach and advocate for personal empowerment. Shanenn shares her incredible journey of overcoming adversity and building a life of resilience and fulfillment. From navigating challenges to discovering tools for personal growth, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you thrive. About Shanenn Bryant: Shanenn Bryant is a transformational coach who specializes in helping individuals overcome obstacles and achieve their true potential. With a wealth of experience in personal development and coaching, Shanenn brings a unique perspective on how to navigate life's ups and downs with grace and grit. Reach: https://www.topself.com/    Key Takeaways: The power of resilience and how to cultivate it in daily life. Practical strategies to overcome life's challenges and setbacks. How to harness personal empowerment for lasting success and happiness. Shanenn's top tools and techniques for self-improvement and growth.   Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM me on PodMatch: Send me a message Subscribe to the Newsletter: Sign up here Join the Community: Join now Stay Tuned and Follow Us! YouTube: Subscribe Instagram: Follow Threads: Follow us Facebook: Like our page LinkedIn: Connect here

Imagine navigating the turbulent waters of jealousy and insecurity in relationships with newfound clarity and confidence. Shanenn Bryant, our insightful guest and a pattern transformation expert, shares her deeply personal journey from feeling unlovable due to a chaotic childhood and parental divorce to understanding the roots of her own jealousy and insecurity. Shanenn is passionate about breaking the stigma around these emotions and creating a safe space where they can be openly discussed. Her story and expertise promise to guide us toward managing these complex feelings with grace and self-awareness.Join us as we dissect the intricate dance of jealousy and envy, differentiating between the fear of losing what we cherish and the longing for what others have. Our discussion sheds light on how the brain's past experiences with betrayal or neglect can amplify these emotions, often making them difficult to express, especially for men. We explore effective strategies for communicating vulnerabilities with a partner, emphasising the power of supportive relationships and honest dialogue. Our conversation strives to equip listeners with tools for managing anxiety and nurturing self-care practices within their relationships. Childhood experiences leave lasting imprints that shape adult attachment styles and relationship dynamics. In this episode, we unpack how early life events can program insecurities and jealousy, influencing attachment strategies. The journey toward healthier connections involves understanding and altering these unconscious patterns, a transformative process that Shanenn guides us through thoughtfully. We touch upon the importance of community and support systems, inviting listeners to connect with Shannon for further insights. Her work with "signature pattern rope" techniques and involvement in support networks offers a pathway to healing old wounds and fostering secure, fulfilling relationships.To check out more of Shanenn Bryant's work and how to conect with her, visit:https://www.topselfpodcast.com/Or check out her instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/topselfcoach?igsh=MTBiNWJscTMwcGVibQ==Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe.Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challengeIf you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

This episode is fire!

Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities.What We're Diving Into:The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfolio, showing up everywhere in your life from dating, to work, to relationships... all of itWhat Top Self is currently offering so you can make this your year of change.The fascinating discovery that our defense mechanisms are surprisingly consistent performers across all life domainsNotable Moments:"Our programming isn't compartmentalized" – which explains why some people lead the way they do, why some people react the way they do, why some people take things so personally.  our patterns are everywhere and we are on autopilot unaware of most of them.  What's Available For You Now:Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp: Six weeks of methodical pattern disruption ($397)One-on-one coaching: For those ready to conduct a thorough investigation of their life patternsCIS Membership: A collective of women examining their shared experiences with refreshing candorEpisode Breakdown: 00:00 - Embracing 2025 01:00 - The Paradigm Shift 03:00 - Origins and Evolution 05:00 - Pattern Recognition 08:00 - Strategic Next Steps 12:00 - Closing ThoughtsRemember: You're part of a community navigating these waters together.For your next steps in pattern recognition and reformation, visit topself.com/bootcamp.

What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now?Will it be the same thoughts you're having today?  Will you're focus be on the same things?In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" or better known as a thought spiral and suggests you could try to do the opposite.What?Shanenn shares:How your thoughts have likely been your biggest enemy this year and the physical impact of negative thought spirals on your body and emotions

Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time?  Do you feel like you use your time wisely?  When I am insecure and jealous, I don't!  When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache.In this episode, Shanenn and Dr. Adam Dorsay talk about the concept of connection in our modern world. Despite being more technologically connected than ever, many people struggle with loneliness and disconnection. Dr. Dorsay shares insights from his new book, Super Psyched about authentic connection and how to find it in various aspects of life.Key Topics Discussed:The paradox of being technologically connected yet feeling disconnectedThe four dimensions of connection: self, others, world, and something greaterHow social media comparison affects our relationships and self-imagePractical tips for maintaining long-distance friendshipsCreating novel experiences with your partner to strengthen connectionThe importance of investing time in activities that truly energize usNotable Quotes: "We're more connected technologically than ever before... And yet, we are less connected than ever before." - Dr. Adam DorsayResources Mentioned:Dr. Dorsay's Book Super PsychedSuper Psyched PodcastDr. Pat Love's "Hot Monogamy"Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay:Website: www.dradamdorsay.comTEDx Talks: "Friendship in Adulthood" and "Men and Emotions" Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode.Key Takeaways:A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-opening fact)Only 20-23% of men cheat in relationships (Sorry to ruin your trust issues with actual statistics)Married people cheat less than unmarried folks (Apparently, putting a ring on it does mean something to both men and women)The divorce rate isn't all about cheating (Turns out money problems are the real home-wrecker)Shanenn shares a mind-blowing exercise that will make you question EVERYTHING you thought you knew about your dating history. Spoiler alert: her "everyone cheats on me" narrative turned out to be more like "25% of people cheated on me." Talk about a plot twist!The Episode Breakdown:✓ The relationship audit: A step-by-step guide to analyzing your dating history (grab your pen and tissues)✓ The truth behind the numbers: Why your "everyone cheats" story might be as reliable as your ex's excusesCrucial Reality Checks:Your partner's cheating probably has more to do with their issues than your worthYoung relationships, unstable backgrounds, and core wounds all play a role in infidelityIf your "yes" list is above 50%, you might not have a cheating problem – you might have a "picking partners" problemWant to dive deeper? Shanenn mentions her "Behind Your Jealous Mind Boot Camp" coming up in January for those ready to break free from their trust issues and core wounds.Contact: sbryant@topself.com to share your own percentage or insights from this exercise.Remember: Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean your math is right. Time to crunch those numbers and maybe, just maybe, give trust a fighting chance. Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious.THE HEART OF ITThe moment your logical brain offers the truth (and why we often ignore it)Why we feel the need to prove we're "not stupid" in relationshipsThe protective pattern of "just so you know I know" statementsHow choosing trust over proof can completely change your relationshipHave you ever noticed that quiet moment before you launch into relationship detective mode? That split second where your mind offers up a perfectly reasonable explanation, yet something pushes you to prove you're not easily fooled? Shanenn breaks down this fascinating pattern and reveals why our need to appear "aware" might actually be working against us.Through real-life examples, she shows us how these small moments of choice can shift our entire relationship dynamic. Learn why phrases like "just so you know, I know" might be hurting your relationship.  Other topics covered in this episode are:The split second when your rational brain offers the logical explanationWhy proving you're "aware" actually creates more anxietyThe freedom in choosing not to voice every suspicionHow tiny choices to trust can lead to massive relationship shiftsTRUTH BOMBS "Your life will be so much calmer, so much happier, and with less anxiety if you make the choice of saying, 'You know what, I'm going to go with this logical explanation.'"MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE[Coming Soon] "Triggered to Transformation" CourseEmail: sbryant@topself.com (Share your moments of choosing trust over suspicion!)YOUR NEXT STEPS (Choose Your Own Adventure)Notice when you're about to launch into "just so you know" modePause when your brain offers the logical explanationTry sitting with the peaceful explanation (just for 5 minutes!)Share your experience with Shanenn at sbryant@topself.comDid this episode hit home? Share it with someone who's ready to choose peace over proof.Remember: Choosing not to say "just so you know" doesn't make you naive - it makes you brave.00:00 Introduction to Top Self Podcast00:49 A Teenage Adventure: Sneaking Out04:41 The Consequen Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Wanna feel more supported? Join other women just like you who understand what you're going through and are there to support you. Join the SIS Membership today.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears.Key Moments:- 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living a fulfilling life- 9:00 - Dr. Warren shares a vulnerable story about her college relationship- 21:00 - The Three A's of Authenticity framework revealed- 31:00 - Why your friends might not understand your jealousy (and that's okay)- 37:00 - Small changes that lead to massive transformationGolden Episode Nuggets:

Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread?  Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship?  I was there too but you can turn things around.  Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference.  It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over.  Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.In fact:Research shows couples who recover quickly from disputes have higher relationship satisfactionOne partner's ability to recover quickly can positively impact the other partnerQuick recovery helps prevent conflict spillover into other areas of the relationshipHere are some common things to avoid but there's so much more packed in this episode:Getting defensive when partner isn't ready to accept apologiesSeeking excessive reassuranceEngaging in catastrophic thinking   Shanenn also shares some recovery strategies like:Use "I" statements when explaining your perspectiveFocus on impact rather than intentGive partner space to process their emotionsReturn to normal daily routinesAvoid forcing immediate reconciliation   ## Resources Mentioned- Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp- Individual coaching options- ForYourMarriage.com- PsychologicalScience.comSomething to highlight from the episode: "As bad as it gets, if you start making the changes, remember, you can make big changes with small steps."---## Social Media Posts### Post 1

In this very personal and candid conversation Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert shares what most people won't say out loud. This is a needed conversation and I invite you to listen and share this out.Shanenn discusses the issue of jealousy in relationships suggesting that it is often a symptom of deeper personal issues rather than a direct result of a partner's actions. Shanenn said that as relationships become more serious, the stakes are higher and jealousy can intensify. She likened jealousy to an addiction, noting that the constant need for reassurance from a partner can lead to frustration for both parties. Our Thoughts Are Relentless Those little monsters taking up space in our heads love to work overtime concocting new ways to convince us that we're not good "enough".  Telling us we're not: Smart enoughLovable enoughAttractive enoughFunny enoughSkilled enoughWorthy enoughor any other soul-crushing blows they can lob your way.Jealousy is not the problem itself, but rather a solution to an underlying issue. Shanenn and Sharon also touched on the idea that jealousy often stems from beliefs and the need to examine one's own thoughts and feelings. Shanenn and Sharon discussed the societal pressure on women to be self-sufficient and its impact on their confidence and performance at work and emphasized the importance of focusing on the subconscious mind for lasting change.Take the FREE attachment quiz and discover if you have something you need to address. Connect with Shanenn Bryant at TopSelf.com   Thank you for being a part of my community.Interested in personal development? Check out my Kingdom Confidence Method Membership.Connect with me here: https://sharonhughes.netGrab your FREE Confidence workbook

In this episode of Referrals Done Right, Scott Grates is joined by certified life coach and podcast host Shanenn Bryant. Together, they dive deep into how limiting beliefs and lack of self-confidence can hinder personal and professional growth, and how to reprogram your mindset for success.Key Takeaways:Self-confidence & Sales: Shanenn shares how low self-confidence can impact sales performance and why addressing deep-rooted insecurities is key to achieving success.Subconscious vs. Conscious Mind: Learn how 95% of your actions stem from your subconscious mind and how reprogramming limiting beliefs can unlock your potential.Overcoming Rejection & Jealousy: Explore how to handle rejection and use jealousy as a tool for personal growth, turning these emotions into opportunities to rewrite your narrative.Tune in to learn actionable steps to increase your confidence, reprogram your mindset, and achieve your goals!---Episode Markers:(0:00) - Introduction & Overview(1:15) - Show Start & Shanenn's Background(3:15) - Impact of Lack of Self Confidence on Performance(4:40) - Self Awareness(5:30) - Subconscious vs. Conscious Mind(7:15) - Addressing Subconscious Thoughts(9:55) - Rewriting Subconscious Programming(10:30) - Taking Immediate Action(11:20) - BTEA(12:20) - What is the Worst Case Scenario?(14:00) - Silence That Voice (TEDx Talk)(14:45) - Methods in Reprogramming(17:00) - Visualizations(18:30) - Fear of Rejection(19:45) - Dealing with Rejection(23:30) - Comparison(25:30) - Jealousy vs. Envy(29:20) - Solution Not the Problem(31:15) - Confidence(32:00) - Learning New Things & Brain Plasticity---Scott Grates Links:Referrals Done Right Book Pre Sales - https://www.referralsdonerightbook.comReferrals Done Right FB Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/296359076662332Insurance Agency Optimization - https://www.agencyoptimization.comScott Grates Website - https://www.scottgrates.comLove Living Local  - https://www.instagram.com/lovelivinglocal315Scott's FB - https://www.facebook.com/scott.grates.1Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/scottgratesShanenn's Links:Top Self Website - https://www.topself.com/IG - https://www.instagram.com/topselfcoach/---The Referrals Done Right Podcast is sharing the secrets to creating infinite opportunities to grow your small business. Hosted by Scott Grates.

Feeling needy?  Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better?It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self.  In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs.She shares the importance of becoming the captain of your own ship to maintain emotional balance and independence. Shannen invites you to take small steps towards self-sufficiency and happiness. Don't miss this lighthearted take on serious topics, as she promises cracking the code on meeting your own needs could be a game-changing, life-altering experience. 00:00  Welcome and Introduction00:19  Understanding Limiting Beliefs01:03  Today's Topic: Meeting Your Own Needs01:41  The Acronym SELF05:49  Identifying Your Needs14:46  Steps to Identify and Meet Your Needs28:27  Conclusion and ChallengeRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

How we attach in relationships is everything!  That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss.  This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva. Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed all four types: anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment. If you are wondering why you're friends are quite like you and could give a flying fruit loop about their husbands traveling out of town with a young co-worker, than slap on those earbuds and turn up the volume because Jessica's here to tell you why that is.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:44 Understanding Attachment Styles02:17 Personal Journey with Fearful Avoidant Attachment04:04 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships04:51 Path to Becoming a Therapist07:49 Exploring Anxious Attachment12:48 Navigating Relationship Needs and Communication15:05 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Dynamics17:44 Fearful Avoidant Attachment and Jealousy22:02 Strategies for Developing Secure Attachment31:13 Conclusion and Podcast PromotionRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it.  That's not why so stop beating yourself up.  You may just being going about it in the wrong way.In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite trying various self-help techniques. She shares personal stories, including recent disruptions preventing new episodes, freeing a groundhog, dealing with a trapped skunk, and the misadventures of her skunk-sprayed German Shepherd BUT.... that's not even the good stuff you came here for. She shares the importance of addressing subconscious programming and introduces her upcoming 'Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp' for those feeling stuck in their emotional battles.00:00  Introduction to Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity01:37  Personal Updates and Apologies02:48  The Groundhog and Skunk Saga10:39  The Main Topic: Addressing Jealousy and Insecurity13:35  The Turning Point: Therapy and Self-Discovery18:00  Understanding the Subconscious Mind23:22  Invitation to Join the Bootcamp25:08  Conclusion and Upcoming EpisodesRegister for the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" today! Seats are limited.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

What if your deepest insecurities could be transformed into opportunities for emotional growth and stronger relationships? Join us on the Lift One Self podcast as we welcome Shanenn Bryant, coach and host of the Top Self podcast, to unravel the complexities of insecurity and jealousy in our romantic lives. We kick off with a calming grounding meditation before diving into Shanenn's enlightening distinctions between envy—yearning for what others have—and jealousy, which stems from the fear of losing what we already cherish. Shanenn's personal anecdotes shine a light on the significance of self-awareness, helping you understand jealousy as an internal struggle rather than a blame game.Unearthing the core wounds from childhood, like feeling unworthy of love due to a parent's absence, we explore how these old scars shape our present relationships and behaviors. Through candid stories, we illustrate how recognizing harmful patterns—born from past traumas or betrayals—can disrupt your nervous system and lead to unhealthy habits. We introduce the concept of "sitting in the suck," emphasizing the vital role of experiencing and processing painful emotions for personal growth. Viewing emotions as data, not directives, becomes a powerful tool in managing responses and enhancing self-awareness.Our heartfelt discussion emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in forging stronger emotional connections. By delving into emotional intelligence and validating personal experiences, we provide actionable insights on building trust and open communication. Trusting oneself emerges as a pivotal theme, crucial for navigating the inevitable uncertainties and potential pains of relationships. As we wrap up, we encourage you to share these valuable insights with your loved ones, connect with us on social media, and remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. Tune in for an episode brimming with practical tools and profound wisdom on navigating insecurities and fostering emotional healing.To connect with Shanenn Bryant:https://www.topself.com/Remember, the strongest thing you can do for yourself is to ask for help.Please help us grow by subscribing to and sharing the Lift OneSelf podcast with others.The podcast intends to dissolve the stigmas around Mental Health and create healing spaces.I appreciate you, the listener, for tuning in and my guest for sharing.Our websiteHttps://.LiftOneself.comFind more conversations on our Social Media pageswww.facebook.com/liftoneselfwww.instagram.com/liftoneselfMusic by prazkhanalRemember to be kind to yourself.Always do your own research before taking action.Remember, the strongest thing you can do for yourself is to ask for help.Please help us grow by subscribing to and sharing the Lift OneSelf podcast with others.The podcast intends to dissolve the stigmas around Mental Health and create healing spaces.I appreciate you, the listener, for tuning in and my guest for sharing.Our websiteLiftOneself.comFind more conversations on our Social Media pageswww.facebook.com/liftoneselfwww.instagram.com/liftoneselfMusic by prazkhanal

“Jealousy is not the problem, it's a solution” - Shanenn Bryant Shanenn Bryant is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low-self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship.  As a relationship confidence expert with a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the confidence code, and overhaul their insecure habits.  Shanenn is on a mission to empower women, dispelling the stigma around self-esteem challenges and empowering them to embrace their intrinsic value, finding strength to relax and thrive in life and relationships. You Don't Want to Miss: The top 3 things to do to overcome extreme jealousy How to know what “too much jealousy” looks like How jealousy imact our self-confidence and relationships AND SO MUCH MORE!! Links And Resources: Follow Shanenn at https://www.topself.com/ Grab Your FREE Self-Love Activation Meditation and Self-Care List at: http://theabundancealchemist.com/ The Abundance Alchemist Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theabundancealchemisttribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitlyn.theabundancealchemist/ Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on any transformational thoughts, ideas, or inspiration! And, if you enjoyed this episode, please leave me a rating and a review! Sending you so much love and gratitude!  

Jealousy is an emotion pushed away and not often discussed. But, its real. It doesn't feel good. It can strain or ruin relationships - so we dive into how to overcome it, build confidence and actually improve your relationships. This episode includes: The differences between envy and jealousy Signals of jealousy (Protection, Projection & Competion) Building trust in partnerships Not reacting from fear Boundaries Shanenn Bryant, Relationship Confidence Coach, is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low-self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship.    As a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits.  https://www.topself.com/ Learn more about coaching with Kristen Odegaard: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.coachwithkristen.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/coachwithkristen⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/kristen.odegaard.coaching/⁠⁠⁠⁠

Jealousy is a complex emotional response often triggered by feelings of insecurity and fear of loss, and can profoundly impact personal relationships. It typically arises when an individual perceives a threat to a valued relationship, whether the threat is real or imagined. This emotion can lead to behaviors aimed at preventing loss, such as excessive monitoring or controlling tendencies, yet these actions often exacerbate the fears driving the jealousy. In this episode, we delve into pervasive issues surrounding jealousy, uncovering their origins rooted in individual past experiences and amplified by today's social media-driven culture. The discussion offers valuable insights into the psychological patterns contributing to jealous behaviors. You'll discover practical tips and methods for self-regulation, including breathing exercises and strategies for improving communication with partners. Emphasizing self-awareness and the conscious choice in responding to relationship stressors, this episode aims to transform approaches to trust and connection, empowering individuals to cultivate healthier, more secure emotional bonds. Shanenn Bryant is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship. Using her instructional design certification Shanenn has developed many sales, systems, and development skills courses and delivered more than 400 training classes. As a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:41 Shannon Bryant's mission to combat relationship insecurities. 08:51 Understanding the roots and impact of jealousy on relationships. 13:43 The interconnectedness of jealousy, anxiety, and insecurity, relating them to past experiences of relational trauma and insecure attachments. 26:01 The tendency to be attracted to unavailable partners as a means of avoiding self-reflection and confronting personal issues. 27:13 The role of technology in exacerbating jealousy and practical steps to address it. 34:37 Balancing trust and vigilance: Navigating the fine line in relationships. 37:51 Strategies for overcoming jealousy addiction. 41:03 The concept of jealousy as a symptom rather than the problem itself, emphasizing its role as a solution signaling underlying issues. 47:38 Coaching, resources, and trust-building programs for overcoming jealousy. Mentioned Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Shanenn Bryant Websites: topself.com Instagram: instagram.com/topselfcoach Podcast: topself.com/podcast — TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy in Relationships, Anxiety, and Insecurity Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Extreme jealousy is toxic and can damage your relationships and your life.  Shanenn Bryant is a relationship confidence expert, educator, podcast host, coach, and the founder and CEO of Top Self.  You can reach Shanenn at her website www.topself.com.   Some highlights Shanenn shares:What is the difference between "normal" levels of jealousy and "toxic" jealousy?Extreme jealousy usually comes from a lack of self worthPeople suffering from toxic jealousy often experienced dysfunctional relationships growing upExtreme jealousy comes from extreme fearToxic jealousy is not rationalYou can't "prove" fidelity - you can only prove infidelityWhat are the stories you tell yourself?What is the root?What is the insecure reassurance loop? and why is it never satisfied?Jealousy is a sign of a deeper issue that needs to be resolvedWe have to admit that we are the problem (or at least part of the problem)How a "think, do, say" journal can help people overcome toxic jealousyHow jealousy takes over your lifeStart with one small thingWhy you have more control when you overcome the habit cycle of anxietyYou are not aloneLet's dig in and turn down jealousyImprove your happinessAnd morePlease share, subscribe, leave a rating and review, visit the Linda's Corner website at lindascornerpodcast.com and/or follow on youtube, facebook, instagram, and pinterest @lindascornerpodcast. Thanks!Also please visit the Hope for Healing website at hopeforhealingfoundation.org for free resources to increase happiness, build confidence and self esteem, improve relationships, manage stress, and calm feelings of depression and anxiety.   Become the champion of your own story as you overcome your challenges.  

Marni welcomes Shanenn Bryant to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to crack the control code and transform the way we view jealousy. Shanenn is a jealousy and relationship confidence expert. She's also the host of the Top Self podcast and founder of self-development company, Top Self. It's not just about eradicating jealousy but understanding that this feeling isn't the problem, but rather a symptom of it. And the answers can be found by examining yourself.    *         Focus on yourself *         Lengthen the space between trigger and response *         How to foster self-awareness   What's Jealousy Got to Do With it? [05:35]   Jealous stems from somewhere internal, from a place of insecurity. And that could either be because of some type of dysfunction in your childhood or because you went through a bad experience in a romantic relationship. Either way, to understand the feeling itself, you need to look at yourself and ask the right questions.   It doesn't necessarily have to always be that it was a cheating incident. I felt like I was insecure and jealous before that ever happened.   Make Room for Accountability [14:49]   While it may be difficult to do so in certain situations, it's important to take responsibility rather than blame your partner straight away. Self-awareness is key.   You cannot change something that is blocking you, unless you really take a look at what you think, do, and say.   Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries [21:10]   Before getting into a relationship, it's important to have an open and honest conversation about boundaries, particularly those regarding interactions with exes. It allows both partners to understand each other's expectations.   Have that conversation to figure out what that relationship is like beforehand and then you make the decision if that's a relationship you want to be in.   Make a Connection: ·         3 Secrets Men Wish You Knew *Free Download* ·          Are You Making These Unconscious Mistakes With Men? *Free Training* ·          Ready To Take Control Of Your Dating Life?  Book A Call With Us ·          Live A Life Of Confidence- TOP SELF (Book a Call)

This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships. Shanenn shares her personal journey with jealousy and how she discovered that she was not alone in experiencing these feelings. She explains that jealousy is often rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth.  The conversation provides practical steps for moving forward and overcoming jealousy, including identifying and changing insecure habits. We also discuss the difference between fear and intuition. Learn more about Shanenn here https://www.topselfpodcast.com/ Takeaways Jealousy is a common emotion that can be rooted in past experiences and a lack of self-worth. Overcoming jealousy requires self-awareness and a willingness to change insecure habits. Differentiating between fear and intuition is crucial in addressing jealousy. Open communication and trust are essential for building healthy relationships. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, Pam and I discuss how the topic of jealousy and insecurity has played out in our life, as well as what can be done about it.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Jealousy and Insecurity | Shanenn Bryant #670 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Shanenn Bryant is the founder and CEO of Top Self, a self-development company offering coaching, courses, and community to those with feelings of low self-worth, insecurity, and jealousy in their relationship.    Using her instructional design certification and nearly a decade of experience in Learning and Development, Shanenn has developed many sales, systems, and development skills courses and delivered more than 400 training classes.    As a relationship confidence expert and the host of the Top Self podcast, Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits.    Shanenn has been featured in top-rated podcasts like The Love Machine, hosted by UK's top dating coach, Date Forever, and Toxic Person Proof, sharing her self-regulation recipe and how to overhaul their habits through awareness to help audiences relax their mind, achieve change, be more present, and live a life of confidence.  3 Top Tips  The 3 underlying factors that contribute to jealousy in a relationship How the power of O.N.E can change your mindset for a different result Creating your individual self-regulation recipe while in and outside of a jealous meltdown  Social Media  https://www.topself.com http://Instagram.com/topselfcoach https://urlgeni.us/facebook/JealousyJunkie

Is jealousy dismantling your relationships and self-worth? Join Alison as she sits down with Shanenn Bryant, host of the Top Self podcast, to unravel the complex emotion of jealousy and how it can stem from childhood experiences. Shannon opens up about her personal journey, transitioning from a past filled with anxiety and jealousy to a present of calm and confidence. She tackles the often-hidden feelings of shame and secrecy that surround jealousy, aiming to shift the perception of this emotion from a flaw to a common human challenge. This candid conversation is a call for compassion and understanding, as Shanenn and Alison navigate the murky waters of fear and insecurity that lie beneath jealousy.Exploring the deep-seated insecurities that can sabotage our relationships, Shanenn delves into the strategies for overcoming these destructive patterns. She shares her own story of hitting a low point and the path she took to self-awareness and change, from breaking negative habits to understanding the neuroscience of our responses. Shanenn also talks about the importance of altering our reactions to improve our relationships and our own well-being, celebrating the small victories along the way. Trusting ourselves and questioning our deeper feelings are key themes, as we strive to combat negative self-perceptions and build trust in our relationships.The journey doesn't end with self-recognition; it's about ongoing growth and embracing our insecurities as parts of our journey, not definitions of our character. Shanenn also invites you to join the Trust Building Bootcamp, a transformative group coaching experience that fosters connection and truth-telling among participants. The healing that comes from being understood and the support that arises from shared experiences are significant reminders of our interconnectedness. Tune in as we collectively pursue a greater understanding of ourselves and those around us.Key highlights:Exploring the Root of JealousyOvercoming Jealousy and InsecurityExploring Threats and InsecuritiesExploring Emotional Healing Connect with Shanenn Bryant:Website: topself.comInstagram: @topselfcoachTikTok: @topselfcoachPodcast: Top SelfConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison's book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE

Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about: -How jealousy can manifest in your relationships. -How to change your relationship to jealousy. -Viewing jealousy as a symptom and solution to your underlying attachment wounds. -Steps to navigate jealousy in a healthy, secure way. ——— Find Shanenn: Website- www.topself.com Instagram- @topselfcoach ——— Find Jessica: Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram- @thejessicadasilva

Today we are joined with Shanenn Bryant discussing insecurity, jealousy & low self worth. Shanenn not only shares her story of being a former obsessive insecure girlie and how she got to the place she is today; but also give us strategies to implement to be more present and aware of how we operate in jealousy. Todays listener questions include a man who has fallen in love with a married woman and is tired of being the side-piece..he feels he deserves more, I had many thoughts. Another listener shares his wife is questioning his solo pleasure time- she found lube in the office, and noticed he browse's under private...the husband feels his solo pleasure time is his private time and doesn't equate to how "into" is wife he is- he would like her to be curious in her questions not accusatory. How can they see eye to eye? To learn more about today guest go to : www.topself.com Listen to Top Self Podcast here. VIIA Hemp: Go to www.VIIAhemp.com to get 15% off your order + sample pack of sleepy time Dreams THC + CBN gummies using code 'HOUSEWIFE' at checkout. BlueChew: Use code "housewife" at checkout at bluechew.com to get your first month supply FREE. Uberlube: Get 10% off + FREE shipping using code "housewife" at www.uberlube.com Advertising: admin@pleasurepodcasts.com SHOP THH MERCH @ www.THHmerch.com Follow me on instagram @_thehornyhousewifepodcast

Jealous Minds - Interview with Shanenn BryantToday, our guest is Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert and one of the select few who focus on jealousy in relationships. Many people have daily anxiety and mistrust of their partners, even without evidence of infidelity. This fear runs so deep from either childhood dysfunction or past infidelity that they've now developed insecure habits like checking their partner's phone, text messages, and social media accounts for any signs of infidelity. Shanenn is here on Calming the Chaos Podcast to discuss jealousy, how it can hurt relationships, and how people can move past jealousy and into trusting relationships with themselves and others. Key points and Timestamps:2:42: Shanenn's story of chaos and how she became a Jealousy Relationship Expert4:50: Shannen – “If my own father doesn't love me, then why would anyone else?”5:50 Shannen – Jealousy is shameful for people to admit. “There's a lot of time wasted when your attention is focused on your partner 90% of the time.”Jealousy affects all major life domains: Home, work, family, etc.7:27: Shanenn - The difference between jealousy and envy9:07 Shannen - How Jealousy shows up (3 ways)1. Projection – Have YOU cheated in the past, so jealousy is projected onto another person2. Protection – Were YOU in a relationship before where you were cheated on, so jealousy is protective3. Competition – Were YOU in a friend group where you were excluded or uninvited to events, so jealousy is competitive in nature. 11:46: Tracy asks Shanenn to describe some situations where people are jealousTwo buckets:1. Family of origin is unstable2. The adult experience of infidelity on you helped you to develop insecure habits of protection“Jealousy isn't a problem, it's a solution.” “What is the jealousy trying to solve?”13:47 Tracy presents Hypothetical Jealousy Situation #1 to Shannen and she responds about what she would do1. No cheating is happening, but jealousy is happening.Shanenn: The first step is you need to get self-aware of what you are doing. Then, realize that it probably has nothing to do with what your partner is doing, but how YOU are perceiving what is going on. Then, asking yourself, “Why do you have so much fear about this?” Look at the beliefs and thoughts and check the facts.18:27 Tracy presents Hypothetical Jealousy Situation #2 to Shanenn and she responds about what she would do2. Cheating has happened in the pastShanenn: It's important for the offender to come clean about the whole story of the infidelity one time, preferably in the presence of a professional. It's also important to give the offended partner time to process it, and consider the information they REALLY want to know, and what information might hurt them.21:46: Tracy – Do you work with the person who ISN'T the jealous person? Setting boundaries and limits to questions and requests for reassurance. Work toward not providing reinforcement to the jealous partner24:40 Tracy – When is there manageable jealousy and toxic jealousy? How can we figure that out and take action? Consider whether the jealous person is seeking help or working on the problem, how much love they have for the jealous partner. Seek out therapy or coaching from someone like Shanenn.27:38 – Tracy describes how she works with couples who struggle with actual infidelity“I don't know whether this couple will stay together or break it off, but I do know this is that through the process we will gain some clarity either way. Shanenn describes getting “kicked out” of couples therapyTracy – Some therapists admit they are beyond their expertise, so they do need to refer couples on30:38: We tour Shanenn's website and the products and services she has to offer www.topself.comFree resources from...

Shanenn Bryant is a relationship jealousy expert and educator helping anxious people relax their mind, achieve change and live their healthier more present self. Shanenn spent decades struggling with anxiety and jealousy causing her to ruin good relationships with her jealousy and stay way too long in bad ones because of her insecurities. Today she helps people overcome their jealousy and insecurity. We're talking today about why jealousy occurs in relationships, how you can change your mindset, and how you can learn from your jealousy. If you have ever felt like you keep repeating the same mistakes in your relationships, or you have trouble being open and vulnerable, then you won't want to miss today's episode.  Contact Shanenn: www.topself.com Contact me: Purchase show merchandise https://awaken-your-inner-awesomeness.creator-spring.com/ Join my Patreon (get a free 7 day trial): https://www.patreon.com/moatman?fan_landing=true https://melissaoatman.com melissaoatman77@gmail 636-748-4943   Download my free eBook on Manifesting  https://mailchi.mp/240e02dfadcf/ebook Download my free checklist Habits of Highly Successful People https://mailchi.mp/b8078533248a/habits-of-highly-successful-people   Free Heart Chakra Healing Guided Meditation https://www.melissaoatman.com/landing-page   Purchase my book Beautifully Broken: https://www.audiobooks.com/audiobook/beautifully-broken-the-spiritual-womans-guide-to-thriving-not-simply-surviving-after-a-breakup-or-divorce/459896   https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/beautifully-broken-melissa-oatman/1136174371?ean=9781989579060 https://www.amazon.com/Beautifully-Broken-Spiritual-Thriving-Surviving/dp/198957906X https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50977070-beautifully-broken   Purchase my book Mindfulness Matters   https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08HDSKGGH/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=melissa+oatman&qid=1599159677&sr=8-2   Follow me on social media: tiktok.com/@melissaoatman https://www.facebook.com/groups/awakenyourhearttopurpose/ https://www.facebook.com/reikiwithlissa/  http://www.instagram.com/melissaoatman222 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQPtU9hPeEWjbHr62LxuEXA  https://www.twitter.com/MelissaOatman   Your energetic gifts are very much appreciated! Donations can be made to my channel through Venmo or PayPal,  Venmo @Melissa-Ann-161 PayPal: melissaoatman77@gmail.com  

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to Shanenn Bryant, host of the podcast Top Self, Jealousy and Insecurity expert and coach, and leader of the Facebook group Jealousy Junkies. We dive into how insecure attachment develops into unhealthy behavior patterns that threaten to destroy your relationships. Shanenn shares with us how to differentiate between trusting your gut versus acting out old trauma and creating the abandonment or betrayal you fear the most. Tune in to find out how to take back control over the insecurity and jealousy that might be hijacking the trust in your relationship.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson77This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

Welcome to the SYNC Your Life podcast episode #211! In this episode, I interview Shanenn Bryant, relationship confidence coach, on the subject of jealousy and insecurity in relationships. Shanenn is a relationship jealousy expert and educator helping anxious people relax their mind, achieve change and live their healthier more present self. She spent decades struggling with anxiety and jealousy causing her to ruin good relationships with her jealousy and stay way too long in bad ones because of her insecurities. Shanenn is dedicated to helping you feel confident in their relationship and feel present again in their own life. In this episode, we dive into jealousy in relationships and how to become aware that it's an issue, how to take tangible steps to overcome it, and how to communicate clearly with your spouse if it becomes an issue.  You can find her on Instagram here or via her website: https://www.topself.com/.  If you feel like something is "off" with your hormones, check out the FREE hormone imbalance quiz at sync.jennyswisher.com.  To learn more about the SYNC Digital Course, check out jennyswisher.com. 

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/shanenn-bryant/. Our guest today, Shanenn Bryant, describes herself as  “a former insecure girl turned relationship confidence expert.” Through her own experiences of healing from toxic jealousy, Shanenn has developed resources to help her clients make the changes they need to gain confidence and improve their relationships. Shanenn's website is https://www.topself.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.

Join me for this inspiring conversation with my friend and colleague Shanenn Bryant about all things jealousy. Shanenn is the founder of Top Self and the Top Self Podcast and she is an expert at helping people break the cycle of jealous habits, so it stops affecting their relationships. We discuss what jealousy is, when it becomes a problem and some of the crucial first steps to take in order to get your control back. Come check it out, Shanenn is amazing! And if you want more of her, here is where you can find her: Website Instagram: @topselfcoach  Top Self Podcast  *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: mail@martinabooth.com Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@freedomandconnection⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

Ever found yourself stuck at crossroads, unable to decide which path to take? The reality is, every day we are faced with decisions - some small, some life-altering. But here's the catch, the pain of indecision often surpasses the pain of making the 'wrong' decision. You may be held hostage by your own fear and doubt. Turns out, the 'wrong' decision made with the information and emotions at the time, can be the 'right' decision after all. In this episode, you'll discover how to tackle the daunting task of decision-making with newfound confidence. Shanenn shares an exercise you can do to quickly get your out of indecision. Plus, we'll delve into how to take command of decisions in your relationships, keeping the fear of abandonment at bay. So, let's start making some decisions quickly, confidently, and fearlessly!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramClick here to record your message. Tell me your favorite episode and why you love it and I just might put it on the show. Say your name or don't, either is fine just know, you may hear your voice on the podcast!DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

You know when you feel like you can't control your actions?  Your in a massive jealous rant and it seems like some one or some thing has taken over your body.  You're saying things and doing things on autopilot as if you cant help what's happening.Shanenn sits down with Dr. Catherine Pittman, author of Rewire Your Anxious Brain, Taming Your Amygdala, and Rewire Your OCD Brain  to uncover why this happening and you might be right, you don't have control over it.But, the great news is, she gives you some insight into what's going on, gives a great explanation of why you need to be aware of it, AND.... answers the burning question of what you can do about it in the future.Highlights from this episode:The amygdala is a part of your brain responsible for putting into action the fight, flight or freeze response.The amygdala gets activated as it associates the present with things that look "similar" to negative things in your past as a way to protect youThe amygdala's partner in crime, the cortex is the part of your brain that sees things a little more clearly and is better suited to sort out the raw information coming from the amygdalaUnfortunately, both the amgydala and the cortex and give us wrong information at times.Your thoughts do matter and the amygdala is watching "cortex tv" as Dr. Pittman likes to call it so if you think it, you feel it.Grab Dr. Pittmans Fight, Freeze or Flee Survey here.Purchase any of Dr. Pittman's books below: *Product Disclaimer - This page contains affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission if you decide to make a purchase through my links, at no cost to you.Rewire Your Anxious BrainTaming Your AmygdalaRewire Your OCD BrainLeave me a message telling me what your favorite episode is and why you love it and I just might play it on the podcast! Cant wait to hear your voice on the show.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy Connect with ShanennTop Self WebsiteShanenn on InstagramClick here to record your message. Tell me your favorite episode and why you love it and I just might put it on the show. Say your name or don't, either is fine just know, you may hear your voice on the podcast!DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Sometimes to get out of a rut, you have to shake things up a bit and changing your perspective on the way you think and communicate about your jealousy might be just what you need.In this episode, Shanenn discusses 3 different areas you could shake things up as it pertains to jealousy.Reframe your approach in both your communication to your partner and your thoughts about how big it is and acknowledge that jealousy may always be present in you to some degree, so you will start by just focusing on instances when it heavily impacts your relationship. Many people are embarrassed to even talk about their jealousy.  She encourages you to consider how you are talking about your jealousy to your friends and be intentional about what you want from your friend out of the conversation about your jealousy.  And if you really want to step outside the box and take the first step to open up, engage with others in the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group. Keep in mind jealousy is not all of you. It is just a small part of you and there is so many other positive things you bring to the relationship.  Shanenn encourages you to write those things down as a reminder to yourself that jealousy is not all of you.  It's not who you are, it's just something you need to manage.Ultimately, this episode aims to empower individuals to reframe their perspective on jealousy, understand their own worth beyond this emotion, and seek support and understanding from like-minded individuals in their journey toward overcoming jealousy.If you're ready to relax your mind, achieve change and be a healthier more present you, book your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call today. Start living a life of confidence!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Top Self WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Dr. Joli Hamilton, a relationship coach and research psychologist, known for her expertise in the field of jealousy joins the show today.Her research explores the archetypal nature of emotions and their purpose, with a focus on jealousy in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.If you still feel embarrassed about your jealousy or continuously ask yourself "Is this normal or is this my jealousy?" then today's episode will mot likely hit the spot.Dr. Hamilton and Shanenn discuss:reframing your perspective on jealousy and recognizing its wisdom, to develop a healthier relationship with this emotion.discuss Dr. Hamilton's qualitative research that supports many participants reported feelings of shame and embarrassment related to their experiences of jealousy.the concept of the psychological shadow, where aspects we reject or suppress become a source of embarrassment.the importance of connecting with others who also experience jealousy, as it helps individuals feel understood and validated.Dr. Hamilton also shared something that blew my mind that I hadn't previously considered that non-monogamous individuals are more likely to anticipate and normalize jealousy as a potential outcome of multiple partners, fostering open conversations about it.She encourages individuals in monogamous relationships to reevaluate their perspectives on jealousy and recognize its presence as an opportunity for growth and self-reflection.Get Dr. Hamilton's Free 5-Step Resource. If you're ready to relax your mind, achieve change and be a healthier more present you, book your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call today. Start living a life of confidence!Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Top Self WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Today's episode is all about change and I have an exciting announcement of changes coming to the podcast for you.In this episode, I talk about  the topic of change and its role in personal growth and transformation.  Since your brain is wired for comfort,  change can be both fearful and uncomfortable, as it often requires letting go of familiarity. We have a strong desire for certainty which can keep us stuck and afraid to embrace change.Stick through this episode to hear the exciting changes coming to the podcast as well as the 4 steps to create transformational change in your lifeEpisode highlights:Self-belief and confidence in one's abilities can help navigate through change and adapt as needed. Change is fundamental for personal growth and breaking free from stagnant perspectives.Embracing change opens doors to new experiences and broadens one's perspective.  Individuals themselves holds the power to make incredible things happen and create positive change.Email your rating to sbryant@yourtopself.com on a scale of 1-10 on the following:CareerRomantic RelationshipSelf-Worthand let me know what you think would make it a 10.  I'd love to hear from you!For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Guest Reneau Peurifoy shares a fascinating look at emotions, exploring their nature and impact on our lives which he has been researching for over the past 50 years which lead to his most recent book "Why You Feel They Way You Do" which I know we ALL want the answer to.In this episode he: explores what emotions are and the exciting new findings emerging from affective neurobiology that will blow your mind!explains that memory and behavior function more like a muscle that needs exercise rather than a program that can be deleted.highlights two categories of affects: sensory affects, such as heat and cold, and homeostatic affects, which drive actions to maintain balance in your life.reveals that there are 7 basic affects or emotions shared by all animals, including humans.  Pssst... one is called Seeking and is particularly important o understand as a Jealousy Junkie.shares that boundary-setting and learning appropriate limits can vary due to individual experiences and upbringing.discuss the danger circuit, which triggers the feeling of threat, leading to anger and fear responses. By exploring emotions and understanding their origins, individuals can gain insights into their own emotional responses and work towards managing them effectivelyThe importance of practice, self-reflection, and experiencing positive outcomes in changing negative patterns and developing healthier behaviors and Peurifoy doesn't disappoint and provides listeners with a deeper understanding of emotions, their role in human behavior, and practical insights into fostering happiness.For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

You are so consumed with trying to figure out if your partner is telling you the truth, you are ignoring the lies you're saying about your partner and to yourself.Self-awareness is the key to growth so if you want transformation, if you want to make changes to your life, you have to become more aware of your habits.Unfortunately, your habits possibly 5 lies I see jealousy junkie tell themselves all the time.In this episode I will:Discusses the importance of being mindful of the lies we tell ourselvesEmphasize the need for honest self-reflection and accurate informationExplain how blanket statements hinder decision-making and confuse the mindtalk about getting honest about the effort you're putting in to changeIt's time to stop worrying if your partner is lying, take a hard look at the lies you're telling and start prioritizing the truthFor one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Are you embarrassed and ashamed of where you came from?  Where you grew up?  How you grew up?  I certainly was and for most of my life I lead with that shame.  it made me think everyone was better than me.  I made me feel that I couldn't ever be more than I was.You may feel that way too and some of it may feel like its coming true.  Maybe you're having a hard time getting a better paying job or you think your dream home is just that... will always be a dream or you just feel bad about the WAY YOU FEEL.Today's episode is about letting go of that shame and embarrassment.  How you were raised means nothing about how worthy you are. For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Have you joined the Dump the Junk Program yet?  What are you waiting for?  The doors are closing VERY soon.Today's episode is so exciting for me because not only did I get to interview two women who are listeners of this podcast, but they were beta testers for me for the Dump the Junk Program.  Most importantly though, after spending 6 weeks with them going through the program, they have a very special place in my heart.Hear the struggles they've gone through in their relationship, what their experience was like in the program, and how things are going for them now.Join the Dump the Junk Program today.  Doors close Tuesday, April 25th at 9:00 PM Eastern Time.For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Book your complimentary Leadership Assessment Call Learn more about the Future Leaders Program Follow the Jealousy Junkie Podcast hosted by Shanenn Bryant Nichole and Shannon discuss ways to improve communication in the workplace. One way is to ask questions separately in bullet points instead of in long paragraphs within an email, allowing the other person to answer each question next to it. Another way is to present information and requests in a table format to allow for more detailed responses and easier communication.  These methods help make communication more concise and prevent misunderstandings. Additionally, Shanenn encourages people to ask for what they need in a clear and direct manner. Nichole and Shannon discuss how to approach a conversation with a supervisor who is not a good communicator. They recommend making a list of questions, including when the task is due, who needs to be involved, and if there are any specific instructions. It is also recommended to set up one-on-ones with the supervisor and discuss expectations and how to communicate better. Additionally, they suggest proactively communicating what type of learner you are and how the supervisor can accommodate that. In meetings, women get interrupted more often than men. To prevent interruptions, a woman can politely say a couple of phrases like "I have just another point to make and then I'd love to hear your feedback," or "As soon as I'm finished, I'm gonna open it up, and we'll be able to hear everyone's feedback." Women can practice these phrases to feel more comfortable in the moment. If interrupted, a woman can use visual cues like putting her finger up or reaching out physically to get the speaker's attention and say that she wasn't done speaking yet. People interrupt because they're thinking of their response and not because they're rude.

When it comes to jealousy and our insecurities, oftentimes, the first thought your brain serves up to you in wrong.  It's a default thought.  One your brain has been serving up to you for years.So long in fact, you consider it to be law, to be 100% factual when in reality, it may not be.  Our initial thoughts tend to be smaller, weaker thoughts that could use a little help from time to time.An important skilled that can be learned through consistent practice is questioning your initial thought and brining in a stronger, more powerful thought.  One that will help you move forward in a positive direction.  One that has you stretching and thinking past your initial first-degree thought or default thought.Make sure to stay until the end of the episode as I have a new program announcement called Dump the Junk that I know you will want to be a part of.Click the link here to enroll in the Dump the Junk program.  For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

He's been on the Larry King Now show, Dr. Drew, Fox and Friends and now the Jealousy Junkie podcast!This episode's guest is transformational speaker and best selling author, Kute Blackson and he's here to help you understand and move closer to the magic of surrender.As jealousy junkies, we have a strong feeling to control.  Control our environment, and our partner's environment in an attempt to protect ourselves.As you'll hear from Kute, when we control, we actually give up our power.  We feel more insecure, more afraid, more in a scarcity mindset.I think this beautiful line from his book sums it up:  "Surrender is the invitation to take all limits off of life so magic can happen. More than you can imagine, more than you could ever plan, more than you could ever fathom".That is what I want for you.  More than you could ever plan and more than you could ever fathom.For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can help.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Join Karaleigh for an interview with the amazing Shanenn Bryant. Shanenn is an ACA (an adult child of an alcoholic) and understands the adult challenges that come from growing up in that environment. After many years suffering from jealousy and insecurity in relationships, she is now a life coach and the host of the Jealousy Junkie podcast, helping others overcome jealousy, build confidence and reclaim their self-worth. Favorite takeaways: 1. We underestimate how much we can grow and what the future looks like. We think we are stuck in this moment and that what we already know is it- but we have so much potential for growth! 2. The things that we carry for years and years and years without taking inventory on them, all of those beliefs that we have- we need to go back and inventory that and go, is this still true? Is this still right? 3. The power of ONE: Open to a New Explanation, Experience, Evidence. 4. We can find evidence for whatever we think is true. You have a thought, you have a belief, you can find evidence that it's true. So you have to flip the script and say, what if something else was true? And start teaching your brain to look for the evidence of the good things, of the joy. 5. The more that you talk about it and the more that you share your story and your pain, the more other people around you feel like they can do that too. 6. We need to come to our relationships with this understanding that we are both broken people- we are both not whole. The way we make this relationship work is by working on ourselves and making ourselves as whole and healed as we can and then being forgiving when we see the broken parts of our spouse. 7. The things that you're going through, the thoughts that you have, as wild as they may seem- the chances are very high that there are other people out there that are experiencing what you're experiencing and what you're going through, so you're really never alone. 8. Taking something I struggled with for decades and being able to turn that around and help other people short cut some of the things and help them to not feel so alone and understand their self worth- there's nothing better in this world. That's the sunshine. Find more from Shanenn at http://Jealousyjunkie.com and more from Karaleigh at karaleighgarrison.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/seekingsunshine/support

Is the attractive person sitting next to your partner at the dinner table a tiger?  No, of course not.  But yet, you respond with fight or flight mode as if it's life or death.You hate being uncomfortable and probably have never learned or practiced how to sit with uncomfortable.When you feel jealous, you want that feeling to go away as quickly as possible, and by any means possible, often leaving your partner and anyone around with the uncomfortableness of your actions as you try to relieve yourself of those jealous feelings.This episode give you a couple things to incorporate and practice to learn to create more space between when you feel jealous and when you act jealous.  Open that space to create some time to calm down so you can respond properly to how you are feeling and why.For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can helpFor further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Our obsessions seem so magnified, so big and out of control and we let that become "who" and "what" we think we are.Because we're so focused on our jealousy, we begin to believe it's the only thing we bring to a relationship; insecurity and jealousy. Have you ever considered accepting that jealousy and knowing that it's just a part of you.  It's not all of you. I even guide you to pick the jealous part of you.I along with many others will be a guest speaker at the Healing Family Trauma FREE virtual event.  Grab your seat hereFor one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can helpFor further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Have you ever been more curious than you should be about your partner's past lovers? Where one question about their past turned into five, which turned into ten, then felt that very uncomfortable pang of jealousy? This type of jealousy is called retroactive jealousy. One of the more insidious types of jealousy because it is referring to the past, which no one can undo. Retroactive jealousy can not only ruin an otherwise healthy relationship, it can also be detrimental to your mental health going forward. So on today's episode, we have invited retroactive jealousy expert Zachary Stockill to fill us in on everything we need to know about this type of jealousy. Zachary Stockill is the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook and The Breakup Recovery Workbook. He is also a podcaster and educator creating programs around raising awareness and educating people about retroactive jealousy, and has founded www.retroactivejealousy.com. Needless to say, he is the ultimate expert in this field and he wants to share his knowledge with all of you.In this episode you will learn about what retroactive jealousy is, how to identify if you are suffering from retroactive jealousy, actionable tips on how to remedy retroactive jealousy, and practical tools to help create a healthy dynamic in your relationship when feeling retroactive jealousy, and much more!This episode is packed with juicy knowledge and advice, so you don't want to miss this one!Topics discussed in this episode:What is retroactive jealousy?How Zachary discovered retroactive jealousyWhy retroactive jealousy isn't reserved for straight white menThe shame around retroactive jealousyHow retroactive jealousy can come off as normalThe myth around jealousyWhen is walking away the right choice?Honoring your higher self vs. your egoAdvice for those who are aroused by a partner's sexual pastThe Madonna-Whore Complex in Freudian psychologyWhat to expect from Zachary's program Get Over Your Partner's Past FastActionable tips for anyone suffering from retroactive jealousyTools on how to trust your partner's desire for youHow to learn about your partner's past in a safe and healthy wayFor one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can helpFor further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Did you know you're being rude when you shrug off a compliment?  After blowing off a compliment my husband gave me, he asked "Why can't you just absorb a compliment"?  That made me wonder... why can't I?  What's behind that?  What I learned was much more than I expected and realized we're actually being rude when we don't respond appropriately to a compliment.I also have a challenge for you and give you some science behind why it's hard to give compliments and why you should practice absorbing and believing the compliment you're being given.For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can helpFor further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Recently, my husband and I traveled to Costa Rica for a conference.  We stayed in a beautiful hotel overlooking the beach and had a ton of fun experiences BUT day 4 would send me into a tailspin I haven't been in for a very, very long time.In today's episode, I'm sharing lessons learned and why my mini meltdown is important to you.For one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can helpFor further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

You learn so much in childhood.  How to walk, how to talk, how to do multiplication and division.Unfortuantely, for some though, you also learn to be fearful, to not trust.  We learn not to get too happy because any minute, the other shoe will fall.Today's guest, Reneau Peurifoy, author of 4 different books on anxiety, anger, and emotions, shares his knowledge from over 20 years as an MFT working with anxiety and other related disorders, shares why although not healthy, dysfunction can feel really comfortable to you.In this episode, we discussed:Why you unconsciously seek unhealthy partnersHow jealous people have a lot of should/must rules that keeps reality foggy4 questions to ask yourself to start to tame your jealousWhat the treatment of EMDR is all about and how it works to begin desensitizing childhood traumaTips for how to move to a place of feeling comfortable without all the dramaConnect with Reneau at whyemotionsFor one-on-one coaching with me, schedule your FREE, 30-minute Clarity Call to see how I can helpFor further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupGrab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome JealousyWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Trauma leaves a chemical mark on a persons genes that is passed down to the next generation according to today's guest Dr. Galit Atlas.  It's about family secrets and the secrets we keep from ourselves that also keep us from living to our full potential. Dr. Atlas is a psychoanalyst exploring the unconscious of her patients and shares how the emotional inheritance and the legacy of trauma is passed down from generation to generation in her book titled Emotional Inheritance:  A Therapist, Her Patients, and the Legacy of Trauma.In this episode, we discuss how therapy is like detective work and it comes down to uncovering the gap between what people want to have and what they can toleration having.She shares that the trauma healing process starts with the decision to search and to be curious.            •          What do I not know about myself?            •          What can I not emotionally handle?            •          Why does the gap between what I want and what I can tolerate exist?It is also important to treat defenses with respect and if you are not ready to do the healing work that is ok.  It is also acceptable to feel upset that we have to do the work of the past traumatized (our parents or our grandparents) because they were perhaps not strong enough.  Dr. Atlas says if we are only aware of what we want to have (a relationship, a career, money etc.) but we're not fully aware of what it is that doesn't allow us to have what we want... that is more powerful than what we want".The book, Emotional Inheritance is a must read but give yourself some recovery time and know it can be triggering.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In today's quick dump episode, I share 5 statements I decided to stop making to my partner that changed the dynamic of our relationship.Most of the time, you don't even realize how the words you choose can come across.  Even when you feel like you're being really clear or you mean what you're saying in the moment, these 5 statements are usually a signal to disaster.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Did you know that toxic stress decreases the size and impairs the function of different regions of the brain that are actually responsible for our learning, our executive functioning, our memory ?Candace Alley, a five time internationally certified coach and the founder and CEO of Trauma Resource Network shares that: trauma is not a particular event, but rather how the brain processes that event every persons healing journey is as individual and unique as your fingerprintstrauma doesn't mean that you're broken or that you've done anything wrong. rather, it's a very normal response to an abnormal situationthose who score a 4 or higher on the ACES test stand a far greater chance of struggling with mental health issues and or some form of addiction in their lifetimeconsistent practice and dedication is key to healing Available resources:988 - for those dealing with mental health crisis (In the United States)211 - provides local resourcesTake the ACEs TestConnect with Candace via her website, on Facebook, or Instagram For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Shanenn is the host of the Jealousy Junkie podcast and one of the few who focus on anxiety and jealousy in relationships.  As an ACA (adult child of an alcoholic) she understands the insecurities that can develop from growing up in that environment and that challenge your confidence in your romantic relationships.Quiz - What Is Your Attachment Style?  https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/624e1a8010570600189fc627Join the jealousy Junkie Facebook Group:  https://urlgeni.us/facebook/JealousyJunkieAbout Sarah K. RamseyJoin Sarah's FREE Facebook Group “Finding Love & Success After A Toxic Relationship” Before trying Sarah K Ramsey's programs her clients were super embarrassed because on the outside these women appeared to have it all. However, these women had a secret...they still felt mentally chained down by their toxic partner or parent. Most women think talk therapy is the only way to heal! Unfortunately, these women waste years trying to figure out how codependency works or rehashing their past in an office week after week trying to pick apart their childhoods. But, Sarah's clients aren't “most people.” They know overachievers aren't just looking to talk about their problem, they are looking for an action plan to SOLVE their problems! Check out this FREE Presentation where Sarah reveals how she does it! Check out what others have said about Sarah Contact Sarah

One of the reasons it took me so long to overcome my jealousy is because I kept getting stuck or there would be long periods of time I wasn't working to improve it.I started to notice a pattern of these times and today I am sharing 3 things that could be slowing down your progress of becoming more confident and overcoming jealousy in your relationship.Here are the 3a makeupa breakupa hiccupbut I dive deep into each one and give you some examples I experienced so you know what to look out for.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Did you know when your brain is operating under duress, all of the "parts" are not coordinating which can ramp up your jealous mind.Our brains have a negative bias because it wants to save us.  It wants to keep us safe from danger.  But overload causes the brain to get out of symphony.Leader in the field of stress mastery, Dr. Cindi Ackrill shares what stress and comparison does to your brain and the intersection between how grounded you are and when you start to compare.Cindi also shares:how your brain loves to create meaning out of things and how to check-in and question that meaninghow a stressed brain will keep you in automatic thinking and in our same patterns which can keep you in the jealousy loo.what it means to be stress smart, stress strong and stress wiseSchedule a FREE 30-minute Clarity Call with ShanennFor further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

It all feels like its falling apart when you screw up and show your jealous side... AGAIN.  But, there is an important mindset to have when you are trying to tame your jealousy and in today's episode, I'm sharing the importance of practicing, not mastering.For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on InstagramDisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or Jealousy Junkie is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Life strategist, relationship specialist, creative solution finder, and heart-centered problem solver, Sarah Ramsey lets a surprisingly simple philosophy guide her: indecision is the enemy of success.Viewing clear decision-making as the ultimate form of self-care, Sarah brings life-changing clarity to formulating solutions for those pesky problems that often seem impenetrable on the surface. Her book, Problem Solved, provides readers with a system for breaking down complex issues into simple, approachable steps so that you can experience life with fewer barriers and greater prosperity.Today, Sarah offers some insight into the tools and strategies you need to transform how you make decisions, what it might look like to apply these techniques to your issues with jealousy, and what it means to “waffle down,” plus so much more. If you want to empower yourself to make your problems smaller so that you can not only create a legacy of successful outcomes but live a happier (and less jealous) life, this episode is for you!Topics discussed in this episode:How Sarah's book transforms your mindset, not your problemsApplying these problem-solving techniques to jealousyDifferentiating between practical problems and emotional onesWays to empower yourself as a problem solverTips for navigating ‘spaghetti thinking'How to define your problem-solving strategyTaking ownership of your problems, not others'Magic questions to help you get unstuckUsing 7-level problem solving to find the root issueFind episodes of Sarah's podcast, get your copy of her new book, and register for her coaching program by visiting sarahkramsey.com.You can also connect with Sarah on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram!For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on Instagram

In this quick dump episode, I'm sharing O.N.E. thing I did to break my negative mindset and take off the green lense I saw life through.Our adult brain can be lazy and it wants to refer back to old patterns of information we learned in the past.  If those patterns are negative, they stand out even more and shapes the way we view life and approach situations we interpret as similar.To shift these pattens, its all about being open because often its our mindset that keeps us stuck with repeating habits and thoughts.O.N.E - Open to New.... Explanations, Examples, Experiments, Evidence etc.  Fill in the blank with the "E word" that fits the situation.  For further support, join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook GroupWhat's your attachment style? Take the FREE Quiz to find out Jealousy Junkie WebsiteConnect with your host, Shanenn on Instagram

Do You Have Extreme Jealousy, Feelings Of Low Self-worth And Want To Build Confidence? If jealousy has ever gone in the way of any of your relationships - you'll love this new Love Machine Episode. James speaks with Shanenn Bryant, a corporate trainer, certified life coach, and podcast host helping her clients regain their self-worth, gain confidence and overcome extreme jealousy. She is an ACA (an adult child of an alcoholic) and understands the behaviour, characteristics and challenges that come from growing up in that environment. She spent many years with feelings of low-self esteem and confidence until she realised she didn't have to let her past dictate my future. You'll hear her story and how she now helps other deal with better ways to handle jealousy. Shanenn is also host of the Jealousy Junkie Podcast https://www.jealousyjunkiepodcast.com/

In this episode, Shanenn walks through an exercise she did to stop her jealous actions.  She breaks these action habits into two categoriesUndercover Action HabitsDirect Action HabitsDownload the Action Habits Worksheet to follow along to identify and tame your jealous actions.Connect with Shanenn: WebsiteInstagram

“We need to understand that being kind to ourselves has nothing to do with stuffing down our feelings or burying them, or smothering them with consumerism or addiction. It's really about looking inward. Seeing what feelings and what needs are there and trying to find realistic and compassionate solutions.” - Dr. Marcia SirotaBeing kind in our society is unfortunately very rare. Not just kindness to others, but kindness to ourselves as well. There seems to be a common theme among society, which is that we experience a lot of negative self-talk which causes us to not be compassionate with ourselves, or others. This can become an issue, especially in intimate relationships, because a lot of the mistrust and jealousy comes from innate negative self-talk where we filter the world through that perception.  What would happen if you became aware of those filters, and decided to change your perspective to have ruthless compassion for yourself and others? What would your life and relationships look like?  Forgiving yourself for the past is the first step, and resetting to do better in each moment is the key. You will never be ‘perfect'. This is an impossible standard that we need to do away with. What we can do is improve in every moment with kindness as our anchor. On today's episode, we have invited Dr. Marcia Sirota who is a board certified psychiatrist and host of the ‘Ruthless Compassion' podcast. Who better to help us uncover what it means to be ruthlessly compassionate and cultivate kindness within yourself and others! Marcia is on a mission to create an army of kindness warriors, because the world is in desperate need of this. Also, having this compassion for yourself could be the turning point for your jealousy in relationships.  So for all the jealousy junkies out there, we have a challenge for you. Listen in to hear what it is and let us know if it helped you!  Topics discussed in this episode: ●      What does it mean to be a kindness warrior●      Two ways we can have jealousy●      Importance of a reality check when differentiating jealousy●      When you need to use ruthless compassion ●      Importance of slowing down and relaxing to conjure a reality check●      Difference between being self indulgent, lenient, and kind●      Importance of having reasonable expectations of yourself●      Perception through the filter of our past vs. the truth●      Importance of mindfulness as a tool to cut through our filters●      The ruthless piece of ruthless compassion●      The importance of mental flexibility●      Take every opportunity to be kind●      A challenge for all the jealousy junkies out there!  To learn how to be ruthlessly compassionate, head to Apple Podcasts to listen to Dr. Marcia Sirota's podcast ‘Ruthless Compassion'! Connect with host Shanenn:  https://www.instagram.com/jealousyjunkiecoach 

Jealousy can be insidious. It can cause us to unravel and mistrust ourselves to the point of exhaustion. Also, what feels like a deep knowing can oftentimes come across as a possible fear because of how activated our nervous system is at the thought of a partner cheating. Intuition is real and it can be trusted. As long as you know how to differentiate your intuition from anxiety and fear, it can be used as a powerful tool to help guide you in all areas of your life, especially when experiencing jealousy with your partner. If you are unsure whether you can differentiate the two, there are ways you can fine tune your intuition to use it to your advantage.To learn how to differentiate the two, we have invited mentor and mindset coach who also has a PhD in psychology, Ashley Greer, to give us practical exercises to anchor our intuition. She also teaches us how to know when you are feeling fear and anxiety, and how that manifests in the body and mind. These are practical tools that can be used in all areas of life, but are so important for the highly emotional parts, such as intimate relationships.Tune in to hear how you can start to fine tune your intuition and understand fear and anxiety from a different lens.Topics discussed in this episode:Differentiation between intuition and fearThe bodily sensations of fear vs. intuitionWhen do we get intuitive thoughts?An exercise on how to anchor in to your intuitionHow the quality of the questions are important to understanding intuitionDoes the strength of feeling determine intuition accuracy?Importance of leaving expectations at the doorThe importance of self trustTo connect with Ashlee, head to her website here!Schedule your free Clarity Call with Shanenn

Shanenn is an ACA (adult child of an alcoholic) survivor and understands the behavior challenges that come with growing up in that environment. After many years of working to overcome jealousy in her own relationships, she is now one of the few who specialize in jealousy (a topic often ignored but many suffer from) and is the host of Jealousy Junkie podcast. You can find Shanenn Bryant online... Website Instagram Facebook Originally published 08/11/22

The truth is, we are hardwired as humans to not want to apologize. It is one of the most difficult things to do on a cultural and neurological level. Feeling as though we did something wrong and that we hurt someone is not the way we want to feel about ourselves, so in an instant our brain chooses to protect itself. However, what if apologizing was looked at through a different lens? What if we used apologies as a way to create better connections with a partner and make big changes that could help elevate relationships.There are so many misconceptions about apologizing, such as,  apologizing is a sign of weakness, when it is actually the total opposite and we want to tackle this issue on today's podcast. Joining us today is Harvard trained clinical psychologist and author of ‘A Good Apology: Four Steps to Make Things Right', Molly Howes. Molly walks us through why people don't like to apologize and how we can overcome that by using her four steps to apologizing. She is here to educate us on the psychology behind apologizing, and how we can become better apologizers for us and our partners.Apologizing isn't about who is right and who is wrong, it's about building better connections and working as a team. With some introspection and the right tools, apologizing in a way that will help your relationship is possible. Tune in to hear how!Topics discussed in this episode:Why is it so hard to apologize?How to better understand your partner's point of viewWhy is it easier to see other people's mistakes rather than our own?What is forgiveness inflation?Why guilt is actually a good thingWhat is confirmation bias?Does being open help your partner open up?The need for responsibility and empathy in an apologyCreating a system to ensure to not hurt the otherBecoming a team with your partner for a mutually beneficial outcomeMyths about apologiesQuestions to ask to help your partner open upPurchase Molly's Book:  https://www.grandcentralpublishing.com/titles/molly-howes-phd/a-good-apology/9781538701317/Join the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group:  http://www.facebook.com/groups/jealousyjunkie/Schedule your FREE Clarity Call with Shanenn:  https://calendly.com/jealousyjunkie/free-clarity-call

Have you ever considered what your jealousy trying to accomplish?  If you flip jealousy on it's head and think of it in the best possible way, could it be the solution?Dr. Susan Heilter wrote about this in Psychology Today and it really changed the way I viewed my jealousy.  This lead to a super cool exercise that I am sharing with you on today's episode.   as well as what I discovered from it.  Connect with Shanenn:https://www.jealousyjunkie.com/https://www.instagram.com/jealousyjunkiecoach

The aftermath of a betrayal can be devastating.  So many questions, heartache and challenges that come when there is an affair in a relationship.  Could you, should you try to rebuild the relationship?In today's episode, clinical psychologist, Ruth Ann Harpur who specializes in relationships, discusses the delicate work of rebuilding the relationship after a betrayal.Dr. Harpur says often the offender will "drip" information to the offended causing additional trauma with each unveiling of a new detail.She warns being too eager to ask for all the details of the affair but instead focusing on the details of what the affair meant to the offender and what it means to you.This episode is not intended as therapy and could contain potentially distressing material.  Free Compassion Focused Meditation from Dr. Harpur:  https://ruth-ann-harpur.mykajabi.com/pl/2147603458Connect with Dr. Harpur on IG and TikTok @drruthannharpur  Connect with Shanenn:  https://www.jealousyjunkie.com/On Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/jealousyjunkiecoachJoin the Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group today!

What can you do when you're on the verge of a jealous meltdown or anxiety meltdown?  Just need 1 thing you can do differently to allow you to respond versus react? I'm chatting it up with stress management coach Jessica Harrington and she gives you several 1 things you can do in those times you're feeling a little out of control of your emotions.Help Jessica support the American Foundation for Suicide Preventionhttps://supporting.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=donorDrive.participant&participantID=2611403Schedule a FREE clarity session with Shanenn https://calendly.com/jealousyjunkie/free-clarity-call

After experiencing the loss of her daughter, Mercy Joan, my guest began helping people and organizations survive, stabilize, and thrive through pain.Most of us think we are saying and doing the right thing, being empathetic to people in their time of need.  Some feel the uncomfortableness of not knowing at all what the best thing is to do or say to support someone in their time of need.Liesel Mertes, acclaimed empathy expert and founder of Handle with Care Consulting, talks about empathy and having the skills necessary to meet people where they are.In this episode she:introduces you to her empathy avatars.  Do you see yourself in any of these?  Find out!Buck Up BobbySilent SamCheer Up CherylCommiserating Candice explains why empathy is so important in both your personal life and in the workplaceshares the Stop Light Check.  A quick easy way to gauge where others are, their energy and how they are feelingcovers how telling someone to let them know how you can help is not the best way to support someone who is sufferinggives tips for working your curiosity muscleexplains when to share your similar story and when to be silent when trying to connect and support someonehow to learn to decide what to keep and what to let go of when you have a disagreement with someoneso much more! Liesel's website: http://www.lieselmertes.com/  Connect with Shanenn from Top Self:Website:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the free quiz:  https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/62386043c8178a0018d74390Support the show

Izolda Trakhtenberg worked as a NASA Master Trainer for 20 + years and now speaks, coaches and educates at organizations and universities on mindful creativity and innovation.  In this episode, she shares the 3 C's framework (Creativity, Compassion, and Collaboration) to an innovative mindset to help transform your perspective and achieve greater success.Success requires ingenuity by tapping into your creativityCollaboration pushes us forward in our work and in our relationshipsHow curiosity about others makes you more compassionate and a better collaboratorTelling your story how other people need to hear it in their way improves your communication Digging deeper when practicing mindfulness How to fire up the creative part of your brainBooks and information discussed in this episode:Chris Voss :"Never Split the Difference"Tamsen Webster:  "Find Your Red Thread"Izolda Trakhtenberg:  "Speak From Within"  and podcast "The Innovative Mindset"Connect with Izolda:Website:  https://Izoldat.comConnect with Shanenn at Top Self:Website:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Support the show

Most of us either focus on the past, like decisions we made, things we wish we would have done differently, reliving exciting moments of the past.OR we are thinking about the future; how to make more money, where we would like to live when we retire, starting a new relationship, getting married, having children.  But, how often do you think about the present?Top Self guest Aga Lawrynovicz of choose clarity at chooseclarity.io is here to help youreconnect withinreclaim your timelearn to be presentuse mindfulness to see people for who they areget off the auto-pilot of life notice the thoughts in your head without giving into the urge to act on those thoughtslisten to the signs your body is telling youShe tells us how mindfulness can save your marriage, relationships and build better connections with your children.  Through mindfulness and meditation, she was able to "see" her children and step children for who they are and connect on a much deeper level of understanding.In this episode she gives incredible examples of how we are missing those moments to really connect with people and to get off auto-pilot.She also shared these two videos to get your started with meditation and encourages you to start small, maybe only two minutes at first.How to Meditate VideoLoving Kindness MeditationConnect with Shanenn at Top SelfWebsite:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfSupport the show

There are stigmas surrounding substance abuse. And there are even stigmas surrounding traits such as jealousy…. which means we need to be having the conversations - not avoiding them! Joining me on today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show is Shanenn Bryant. Shanenn is a certified life coach focused on self-worth, confidence and one of the few who helps others overcome extreme jealousy in relationships. She is also the host of a self-improvement podcast called Top Self, helping childhood trauma survivors by providing tips, tools and resources from experts in their field, to turn their struggles into successes. Tune in to hear our conversation now: samantharuth.com/podcast and to connect with Shannen, visit https://www.yourtopself.com/

Trauma leaves a chemical mark on a persons genes that is passed down to the next generation according to today's guest Dr. Galit Atlas.  It's about family secrets and the secrets we keep from ourselves that also keep us from living to our full potential. Dr. Atlas is a psychoanalyst exploring the unconscious of her patients and shares how the emotional inheritance and the legacy of trauma is passed down from generation to generation in her book titled Emotional Inheritance:  A Therapist, Her Patients, and the Legacy of Trauma.In this episode, we discuss how therapy is like detective work and it comes down to uncovering the gap between what people want to have and what they can toleration having.She shares that the trauma healing process starts with the decision to search and to be curious.What do I not know about myself?What can I not emotionally handle?Why does the gap between what I want and what I can tolerate exist?It is also important to treat defenses with respect and if you are not ready to do the healing work that is ok.  It is also acceptable to feel upset that we have to do the work of the past traumatized (our parents or our grandparents) because they were perhaps not strong enough.  Dr. Atlas says if we are only aware of what  we want to have (a relationship, a career, money etc.) but we're not fully aware of what it is that doesn't allow us to have what we want... that is more powerful than what we want".The book, Emotional Inheritance is a must read but give yourself some recovery time and know it can be triggering. What Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz:https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/62386043c8178a0018d74390Connect with Dr. AtlasWebsite:  https://www.galitatlas.comInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/galit_atlasConnect with Shanenn at Top Self:Website:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Support the show

If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, chances are you have wondered many times what your life would be like if things would have been "normal." You can't change the hand you were dealt, but you can look to see if you have any cards you can play to your advantage that may give you the win in the end.And thankfully, there are.  Yes, there are many more than 5 however, Shanenn will discuss 5 strengths you most likely possess if you grew up in a dysfunctional family and ways you can use them to your personal and professional advantage.Much love to my fellow ACA (adult children of alcoholics). Take the quiz to see which emotion you lead with: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/62386043c8178a0018d74390 Connect with Shanenn at Top Self:Website:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Facebook Group:  http://www.Facebook.com/groups/jealousyjunkieSupport the show

On today's episode, Matt Ruttenberg talks about F.I.R.E. - Financial Independence Retire Early, a fast growing community of financial like minded people.Matt discusses ways to create financial independence and how to spend your money intentionally.  We also talk about:Covering your expense through your assetsWhy keeping up with the Joneses is such a toxic mindsetHow passive income can set you up for early retirementUsing a bucket mindset strategy to plan for early retirementHe also explains the 4% rule or 25x rule to determine what is needed for your financial freedom and plants the seed to consider building a sellable business rather than just a lifelong business.Matt offers up some additional resources to further your research to gain financial independence such as mrmoneymustach.com and the book Simple Path to Wealth.Connect with Matt:  Fire Friendly Life Insurance http://sureli.co/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/matt_ruttenbergConnect with Shanenn at Top Self:Website:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Facebook Group for Jealousy Junkies:  http://www.Facebook.com/groups/jealousyjunkieSupport the show

Are you a jealousy junkie?  If so, you wont want to miss this special solo, 10th episode from the host on the affects and effects of jealousy.I discuss why there was a need for extreme jealousy back in the day but is not serving you in your modern times.  Unfortunately some still struggle with extreme jealousy that causes damage in a relationship.  After many years of struggling with my own jealousy in relationships,, I've done the hard work, research, tested practices and a lot of self-discovery to help you short-cut the process and start living free again.I share how to turn your jealousy triggers into prompts as a stepping stone to overcoming jealousy.Explain how jealousy is a solution and the importance of doing the work to get to the root of the problem you're trying to solve.The 3 reasons for jealousy are discussed.  Projection, Protection and Competition.My door is always open to help you understand the cause of your jealousy, guide you through your own self-discovery work, help determine your triggers and create custom prompts for those triggers.If you think you might be a jealousy junkie, take a deep breath, know you CAN overcome it, and schedule a clarity call by using the link below.Schedule a Clarity Call with Shanenn: https://calendly.com/topself/free-discovery-coaching-sessionTop Self Website:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Quiz:  Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/62386043c8178a0018d74390Connect on Socials:Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)

Retired Navy Seal commander and human performance expert, Rich Diviney, shares the 25 attributes for optimal performance, while sprinkling in some seriously cool stories of his time as a Navy SEAL.  During his 20 + year career, Rich completed more than 13 overseas deployments.  As an officer in charge of training for a specialized command, he was involved in an extremely specialized SEAL selection process, weeding out extraordinary individuals down to just the elite few.  During this process, he discovered what set the chosen SEALs apart and what makes a person more successful and thrive in life, comes down to attributes.  True optimal performance goes beyond just skill.In his book, The Attributes:  25 Hidden Drivers of Optimal Performance, Diviney explains that skills are different than attributes.  Skills direct our behavior in known and specific environment.  They tell us how and when to do something but they're not inherent in us.  Skills do not tell us how we're going to show up in times of stress, challenge, and uncertainty.  It is in those times that we lean on our attributes.  Attributes dictate how we behave, react, and perform; how we are going to show up in life.  We are all born with all the attributes, but the difference in each one of us is the level of which we have each attribute.  The idea is to understand where you show up with the attributes and then understand inside of what context of life you're trying to operate or succeed.Since retiring from the Navy, Rich has worked as a speaker, facilitator, and consultant with the Chapman & Co Leadership Institute, Simon Sinek Inc., and is now founder and CEO of The Attributes Inc.  Currently Rich speaks and consults on leadership, high performing teams, assessment & selection, and optimal performance.  Rich has worked with thousands of businesses, athletic, and military leaders from organizations such as American Airlines, Meijer Inc., the San Francisco 49ers, Pegasystems, Zoom, and Deloitte.To Rich and all the brave men and women who serve or have served our country, THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE.Take the attribute assessments or connect with Rich:https://theattributes.com/Connect with Shanenn at Top Self:Website:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)

Jealousy can be annoying to others, but for the person experiencing it, it's an internal world of suffering, created by themselves.  In a romantic relationship, jealousy can be all consuming and smothering, leaving very little room for an abundance of joy and fulfilment. Identifying that this pattern of behaviour is driven by the fear of losing someone or getting hurt, can be the first step to freeing yourself from the all-consuming feeling of jealousy. A relationship needs security, trust and love to truly thrive. Shanenn is the host of Top Self podcast and a certified life coach helping those struggling with jealousy in their relationship take the O.N.E step towards a better relationship and improving their mental health.   We chat  The lessons from an Adult Child of an Alcoholic Jealousy, it's devastating impacts and how to overcome it Making a life map to create self awareness of toxic behaviours   Better Relationships We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them   Better World Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.   Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger  Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/fuel_collective Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuel.collective/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/   Connect with Shanenn Bryant Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/yourtopself Website - https://www.yourtopself.com/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/

In this week's episode of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast Patrick is joined by Shanenn Bryant. Shanenn is a certified Life Coach and host of the podcast: Your Top Self. As an adult child of an alcoholic, she has a unique experience to share with us during this episode. During this episode, Shanenn shares her experience of growing up in a household where her father was an alcoholic and how it impacted her as she got older. Some of the other topics we covered during this call are: - How as children we can internalise traumatic events in our lives, as a way to keep us safe. - How feeling abandoned as a child led to jealousy in relationships and low self-worth - The laundry list - The power of inner child work in therapy - How the habit of alcohol misuse can get passed from one generation to the next - The unconscious conditioning of alcohol approval through clothing - Whatever happens in our lives happens for a reason - The influence we have on our children - drinking or not - The stories we tell ourselves - How to reframe our past for our future Connect with Shanenn: Instagram Website Podcast Clarity Call Connect with Patrick: To find out how Patrick can help you stop drinking and create a life you love, book a free one hour consultation to discover how his 6 month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling frustrated and f*cked off, to sober, clear-headed and doing more of the shit you love in life. Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consult alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It's a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in here. You can also join The Alcohol ReThink Project, a 30 day email mindset-reset series to support you in stopping drinking Website: https://www.patrickjfox.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholrethinkproject/ Facebook Group: Alcohol ReThink Project & Sober Men

Stop pulling yourself out of the race because of your fear of failure.  Do you think you have a high sense of self worth?  Most say yes but your actions may not represent or reflect that of someone who has a healthy sense of worth.Diving into my favorite topics, of course, self-worth and self-confidence with Dr. Jomana.  She is a TEDx speaker, a mindset coach and NLP practitioner and she is dishing out the misconceptions we have about self-worth, practical tips to increase your feelings of self-worth and explaining the competence confidence cycle.The first step in the competence confidence cycle is courage.  Most people wait until they feel confident to do something but confidence comes from taking action first, and having the courage to take that action.Your brain will try to trick you into staying in your comfort zone.  It wants you to feel safe and comfortable.  The feeling of incompetence when trying something new is often when we give up.  Comfort is the enemy of growth.You must accept that you are imperfect to increase your feels of self-worth.  We all make mistakes and giving yourself grace will give you a boost in your feelings of self worth.Boundaries are hard to set, especially in the beginning, but the discomfort you will feel communicating those boundaries is so much better than the resentment you will feel from say yes, yes, yes to everything and everyone.How many times have you based your own worth on what others think of you?  How many times have you done something you didn't want to do, just because you didn't want the other person to be upset?  If you're a people pleaser, this episode will speak directly to you.  Dr. Jomana and I share the same passion for awareness.  It is awareness + action that creates change.  Become aware of your inner critical and negative thoughts and change the way you speak to yourself.  Helping others reclaim their self-worth and increase their confidence, changing their mindset to change their life, is why I started this podcast.  I don't want you to wait as long as I did to see that YOU ARE WORTHY.  Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereConnect with Dr. JomanaWebsite:  https://www.dr.jomana.comInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/drjomana_mindsetcoachConnect with Shanenn at Top SelfSchedule a clarity coaching call:  https://calendly.com/topself/free-discovery-coaching-sessionWebsite:  https://www.yourtopself.com/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)

No matter what your childhood might have looked like, it's possible to gain confidence as an adult. Today's guest, Shanenn Bryant, knows what it's like to overcome the challenges and behaviors from growing up in an alcoholic family. Never feeling "good enough or pretty enough" was a result of the chaotic, broken family she experienced as a child. Her struggles ultimately led to her own journey of personal growth.  In this episode, she discusses how changing your mindset can lead to both self awareness and self-management of your behaviors. Shanenn is a certified life coach and host of Top Self podcast. As an ACA, (Adult Children of an Alcoholic) she understands the challenges from growing up in that environment and started the podcast to share social, physical and mental growth topics for those on a personal development journey. +Sound advice Shanenn learned from her grandpa, "Never stop learning and improving." +The Laundry List-14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic https://adultchildren.org/literature/laundry-list/ Follow us on Instagram. Connect with Trisha on Instagram. Connect with Estelle on Instagram. Connect with Shanenn Bryant here:  https://linktr.ee/yourtopself https://www.instagram.com/yourtopself/?hl=en https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself

Shanenn Bryant is a speaker, a certified life coach, and the host of Top Self podcast. As an ACA (adult child of an alcoholic) she understands the challenges from growing up in that environment and started the podcast to share social, physical and mental growth topics for those on a personal development journey. Shanenn can be reached at https://www.yourtopself.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ryan-lockee/message

Patrick Fox, founder of Rethink Alcohol Project, grew up in an environment where drinking alcohol at a young age was the norm.  His weekends with dad consisted of waiting outside pubs or being sent off  to buy CDs and sweets to keep him occupied while his dad drank inside the pub.In this episode, Patrick discussing how reading the book "This Naked Mind", by Annie Grace  helped him understand how alcohol affects your brain and that put the seed in his head to quit drinking.  But, it wasn't until after an alcohol and drug fueled Christmas that he finally set down the bottle for good.After coming to terms with his addition to alcohol, Patrick wanted to share the process and his wisdom with other men so he created a 12-week program called the Alcohol Rethink Project for those who want to stop drinking and started a podcast with the same name as another resource.The steps in the program are simple, the struggle of course, is much more difficult but these three steps have changed the lives of many.Step 1 is Self-Awareness.  Patrick says self awareness is the start to understanding the belief systems we have about ourselves.  For some alcoholics, they have a "fear" of quitting drinking and not having it in their lives.Step 2 is Choice.  Once you are aware, you now get to decide what you are going to think, and how to prepare yourself when the temptation is there or what situations to remove yourself from.Step 3 is all about the transformation.  This is a magical part of the process where people figure out what other interests they have, what to do instead of drinking, what are other things you want to accomplish and focus on.  AND, the interesting part is, these same steps ring true for any self-improvement goal.  Even if you don't have a problem with alcohol but wanting to make changes, this episode provides valuable tips and a process you can use on your own journey.Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereConnect with PatrickWebsite:  https://www.patrickjfox.comInstagram:  https://www.instragram.com/alcoholrethinkprojectPodcast: The Alcohol Rethink PodcastConnect with Shanenn at Top SelfSchedule a Top Self Coaching Session: https://calendly.com/topself/free-discovery-coaching-sessionInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfTop Self Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Do you have issues with jealousy in your relationships?  Join my Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/jealousyjunkie/Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)

Your mindset often shows in your kitchen, office, car or other areas of your home.  Today's guest, Productivity and Organizing Coach and host of the Positively Living podcast, Lisa Zawrotny reveals that clutter both effects and reflects whats going on with you.  In this episode, we discuss:Lisa's framework, "The Simple System" , for how to deal with the overwhelmWhy it's important to identify what self-care means to you for good energy managementThe 80/20 rule of productivity when choosing what to focus onImproving your energy flow by theming and batching your tasksCreating harmony with each category of your life to ensure your needs are representedI've already put Lisa's tips into practice in my own life and am excited to share some of her productivity hacks with you as well.Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereConnect with Shanenn at Top Self:Schedule a  Free Clarity Call:  https://calendly.com/topself/free-discovery-coaching-sessionWebsite: https://www.yourtopself.com/ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Connect with Lisa:Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/positively_LisaWebsite:  https://positivelyproductive.comPodcast:  Positively LivingSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)

Podcast host, life coach, and self awareness guru, Shanenn Bryant is here sharing a part of her journey with self awareness.    Growing up Shanenn had a chaotic childhood with an alcoholic father. She always knew she wanted more in life, but didn't necessarily have the confidence to achieve her dreams. Can you relate?     Noticing patterns in our behaviors is important in order to achieve everything we want to. Tune into this episode of The Unstuck Podcast for practical tools to begin practicing self awareness.    DID YOU ENJOY THIS EPISODE?  If you did, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss a thing! Also, make sure to let us know what you think in a review!   JOIN THE COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thebetterclub/    CONNECT WITH ME & GET ALL THE GOODIES: msha.ke/lachellewieme    MY SOCIAL CONTENT PLANNING COURSE: https://lachellewieme.com/donewithyousocial    CONNECT WITH SHANENN BRYANT: FB: Shanenn Bryant   IG: @yourtopself Website: https://linktr.ee/yourtopself     WANT TO BE A GUEST? APPLY HERE: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfnkR2O5dFeReeZP-qbuBP5kyOUGr5APOENfUQR5sgTHQr0mA/viewform 

Shanenn is a certified life coach and host of the Top Self podcast supporting the personal growth and transformation of childhood trauma survivors. Shanenn shares her personal story as the now-adult child of an alcoholic and her journey to help herself and create a community for others to share, work through, let go, and move forward from their past. She is inspirational in her vulnerability, self-awareness, and self-management. Connect with Shanenn! email: sbryant@yourtopself.com Website : www.yourtopself.com Social Media - Instagram, Facebook

In this episode, Dr. Balkanski and I discuss the self-sabotage loop and how to get to the root cause.As a child, you take in information on how to relate in life with relationships, events or situations and often repeat patterns or behaviors we learned as a child.Many times, you may not pick up on the patterns you're creating but will notice that some things feel harder than they should, or you have certain behaviors that you would like to improve.  Ann Marie explains how to recognize if there is a limiting belief that is standing in your way of success. Relationships and/or events create our basic beliefs we have about ourselves.  Dr. Balkanski explains how this is the start of a self-sabotage loop. The first step to break the loop is an awareness that there is something going on and understanding there is a pattern we are repeating.  Listen as she:talks through ways to identify if you have a limiting belief holding you back from successdescribes how the self-sabotage loop is createdexplains how to work from your behaviors to the root cause of the limiting beliefIf you feel stuck or the same thing keeps happening in your life, you don't want to miss this episode!Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereConnect with Dr. BalkanskiFacebook:   https://www.facebook.com/annmariemindcoachInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/annbalanskiSchedule a Top Self Coaching Session:https://www.yourtopself.com/Connect with Shanenn at Top Self on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfTop Self Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Support the Show:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topselfSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)

The new year is here and you've set big health and fitness goals.  Are you still motivated?  In this episode, lifestyle and health coach, Tiffany Mendelson, shares the reasons your "why" may be preventing you from achieving your goals and how to set yourself up for success.  She's giving you a strategy for digging deep and what to do when the new years resolution motivation starts to wear off.  Motivation doesn't matter if your mind is straight!If you want to make changes to your health and fitness, connect with Tiffany on social media. Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/tiffanymendelsonInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffanymendelson Top Self Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Connect with Shanenn on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfCoaching / Website:https://www.yourtopself.com/Much love to my fellow ACA (adult children of alcoholics)!  Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)

Today's guest is Dr. Allie Funk, a Postdoctoral Fellow at the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy.  She has extensive training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.  You may desire an apology from a family member who caused you hurt, anger and / or sadness due to addiction, alcoholism or other forms of trauma.  Often, that apology never comes.In this episode, Dr. Funk explains how to navigate this situation when the outcome you were looking for falls flat.  In any interaction, we can only control 50%.   We can use it in the most effective way and not get the response we want, but still heal and be proud of the way we showed up.This is jammed packed with tools you can load in your coping kit such as perspective taking and radical acceptance.Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereAmerican Institute of Cognitive Therapy:https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/Top Self Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/yourtopself/Connect on with Shanenn on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/yourtopselfCoaching / Website:https://www.yourtopself.comMuch love to my fellow ACA (adult children of alcoholics)!  Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/topself)