Wilde About Wellbeing

As we continue our tour de force through the classical elements, we’re diving (!) into the WATER element…   I’m a water sign (Scorpio), so this one resonates a lot for me.   I’ve been called all the type al ‘too water-y’ things…. “Too serious…” “Too deep…” “Too intimate…” “Too trusting…” “Too emotional…”   Basically, all the “toos”!!!

One of the most destructive forces in the world is also one we cannot live without.   The fire element represents passion, drive, and ambition. It's a symbol of life force, energy, power, and creativity.   We depend on warmth, cooked food, light - all fire-based!   BUT…   At the same time, it’s destructive and can be deadly…   It’s easy to only associate fire with its negative aspects. This is especially easy now that we (mostly) don’t see the flames that heat us, or cook our food.   Even the ‘fiery language’ we use is negative… “Flaming” for bullying… “Getting burned” when we are scammed…   The fire element is a powerful force in the natural world.   In today’s podcast, we explore all aspects of the fire element: what it means symbolically, how you use it in your everyday life, and some tips for increasing the fire element in your spiritual life!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

The air element is the most common of all natural elements. It surrounds us, we breathe it to survive. We use it to regulate temperature by either heating or cooling the air around us. Life giving and life preserving.   It is omnipresent, and yet for a long time I didn’t realise how much Air infuses (pun intended

In the western world, we live in a culture that is deeply rooted with our five natural elements. The earth element is one of these and it has been present for all of human history. We stand on the ground which provides us with stability and support. We create structures out of concrete, brick or wood to protect ourselves from the weather outside while also providing us shelter and comfort inside. In essence, this episode will explore how the earth element shows up in our lives, and ways we can increase it.  If you're an earth sign, you might think you've heard all this before - BUT you need to listen, as maybe you've become TOO earth-bound in your behaviour. Find out the symptoms of that in today's episode!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Earth, Air, Fire, and Water. The four elements have been a part of human understanding for centuries.   And we use every single one of them every day of our lives.   Just this morning, I’ve stood on earth, breathed in air, benefitted from the warmth of fire, and hydrated with water.   The Ancient Greeks believed all things came from one of the four elements, and that they were eternal and unchanging. The Sumerians, the Maya, the Babylonians, and many other cultures and religions believed the same.   You are made up of these elements, and they surround you. But what happens if they’re out of balance?   When they get out of balance in the world at large, we see Mass Extinction Events, sudden and dramatic events that caused the death of many different species at one point in time. Looking through the history of these, they are all related to one of the elements getting out of sync with the others.   Destructive fires. Deluges and floods (mentioned some 500 times in historical texts!). Earthquakes. Asteroid collisions.   It's not a secret that ancient civilizations worshipped the elements and gods that represented them. After all, if these elements were what could kill you, why would you not?!   People also realised that we are made up of these four elements, and the more we incorporate all four into our own lives, the better we will feel.   We’ve now got out of touch with the elements, and that’s why my podcast today is all about their history. I’ll be sharing the plan for this series of episodes, where we’ll deep dive into each element in a dedicated episode.   If you ever feel out of balance, you don’t want to miss out on listening!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Spirituality is not religion. It's the practice of being in touch with oneself and finding a connection to one's soul, or self. When you are in tune with yourself, it can be easier to feel connected to those around you. With this podcast guide to spirituality, you'll find ways to explore what it means for you personally and learn how to integrate your spiritual needs into your everyday life. Your spiritual journey is an exploration into the deepest parts of your being. It's a journey that can be difficult, but one that will pay off with new insights and understanding. There are many different paths to take on this journey depending on where you're starting from, which makes it even more important to explore what will work best for you before getting started. In this episode I'll share my tips for how to get started exploring your spiritual side so you can find what works best for you!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Wilde About Wellbeing is now Wilde About Woo! I'm excited to introduce you to my new name, and share with you the reasons I've made this change. In this podcast I cover: What woo-woo means, why it's important for me to make a name change, and what you can expect from me in the future. [Spoiler alert - Not much different!] In this episode, I'm also talking about animal Medicine, particularly spiders and hyenas! I focus on two animals in particular, the Spider and the Hyena. Spiders represent patience and persistence to me - they're always there waiting for you to get caught in their web, but is that for your own good? They also teach us how to spin our own webs and create situations that will benefit us. Hyenas have similar qualities as well - they too are focussed on creativity, but in a fun-seeking, laugh-a-minute way! Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

The first step to transformation is SELF AWARENESS…   I was CONVINCED that I knew myself. I would’ve told you that I was 100% certain I was FULLY aware of every story I had.   That was such RUBBISH. I had managed to deceive myself into believing I knew myself.   It wasn’t until I developed my skills at self awareness that I was able to TRANSFORM.   In this episode, I’m sharing the top FIVE things I did to begin my transformational process. They’re all easy things you can start to slip into everyday life.   Before you know it, you’ll be well on your way to transforming yourself and your life!!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Would you like a MAGIC WAND? It’s called TRANSFORMATION…   What if, just like a magic spell, you could cast dreams with your wand… And have them come true?   What would be YOUR transformational spell?   In today’s podcast, I’m talking about exactly what transformation is. I share with you how we get to the point where we NEED to transform our lives… And why transformation is more necessary than ever in our current world.   Full disclosure… I DO dig into telling you about how I can coach YOU, BUT that’s a small part of the episode. This episode isn’t about what I can do for you, but about what YOU can do for YOURSELF!   There’s plenty of meat there to get going with on your own - I’m excited you get to hear this info!!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Do you worry that being grateful for what you have NOW is complacency? I used to…   I mean, it makes some logical sense, right? I say ‘thank you’ for, say, 1lb of weight release. My subconscious / the Universe thinks, “Oh right, you’re happy with a 1lb?” I never lose more than 1lb.   But that’s simply NOT TRUE.   My experience is more like this… “Wow, subconscious, universe, body, thank you for the 1lb of weight release. You RAAAAAWK!!” “Yay, so glad you’re pleased! Now we know how much you like weigh release, we’ll give you more!” “Gee, 2lb released this week!? Thanks so much! I’m like a weight release MAGNET!”   In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking about how we can be grateful WITHOUT blocking ‘more, more, more’!!

You’re wishing and hoping in the WRONG DIRECTION.   “I hope I pass the exam!” “I wish I could visit Aruba!” “I hope I become a millionaire!” “I wish… I hope… I wish!”   Hoping for something entails DOUBT. If I HOPE for a certain outcome, I’m acknowledging that an alternative is possible.   “I hope I pass the exam” is NOT the same as “I will pass the exam!” The hoping implies there’s a possibility of not passing.   The energy we put out when we hope for something is DOUBTFUL. You’re not telling the Universe what you want to happen, love, if you’re giving the option of not passing that exam!   I now commit to the “I will pass this exam” comment… But I know this might be hard for you, love - it was a leap for me to get to the point of disallowing doubt!   So in today’s podcast episode, I talk about the FIRST STEP to moving away from hope to reality! That is being grateful for what you currently have. That was the first secret, for me, to stopping the doubt that pervaded my thoughts.   If I could become grateful, I was telling the universe what I wanted more of. I was indirectly informing the universe of what I knew (based on previous experience) could happen.   Gratitude over hope. You will not regret it.

What are you putting off - and why?   I HATED phone calls… I’m still not someone who is on the phone regularly.   I would procrastinate about every call I had to make. Or I would delegate it to someone else.   Having to handle accounting queries at work did MAKE me confront the fear of phones. I was being called multiple times a day.   It was only by analysing the stories in my life that I saw where this fear of the phone came from.   My dad was an incredibly hard working vet. In the early years of my life, he was on call most nights. I came to associate the phone ringing with him and my mum having to leave for a veterinary emergency. Dinners interrupted. Film nights cut short. Board games folded away early.   I associated the phone with an end to ‘playtime’. BOOM! There was the reason I didn’t like the phone. There was the reason I put off phone calls.   Only by acknowledging this story was I able to see how unhelpful it was to me. In today’s podcast, I share how to get over the stories from your past - AND four other tips for confronting your to do list!   Let’s stop putting things off for good!

⁣My reptilian brain isn’t my best friend.  It’s not yours either.  Unless you’re being chased by a leopard, in which case it’s gonna save your life.  The most primal part of the brain is designed for 4 vital functions… feeding, fleeing, fighting, and… reproduction!  It has always been vital to our survival (it’s also fundamental for things like breathing and heart rate), BUT…⠀ ⠀ The reptilian brain is not as useful in everyday situations as it was thousands of years ago. ⠀ ⠀ Just imagine: you’re a scantily clad early human. ⠀ You’re part of a tribe, made up of multiple ‘families’.⠀ In terms of protection, you have rudimentary weapons - and, most importantly, the protection of your fellow tribe members.⠀ ⠀ The primal brain would ensure that you emerged unscathed from hunting for food. ⠀ It would ensure that you remained part of your tribe (since separation from them could spell death). ⠀ ⠀ It was essentially a DEATH warrant, if the primal brain didn’t kick in when it needed to. ⠀ ⠀ But now, what’s your wild boar hunt threat equivalent, love?⠀ Sitting at a boardroom table, arguing with your boss?!  Putting off opening that email from your mother?!  Working out how to tell your BFF you want a cosy night in front of Netflix, rather than an evening out?!  ⠀ NONE of those are life or death threats, right?⠀ It doesn’t matter if your boss agrees with you…⠀ That email from your mother is not going to kill you…⠀ It’s pretty unlikely your girlfriend is going to disown you for turning her down…⠀ ⠀ That’s the problem with the reptilian part of the brain - we don’t know how to manage it.⠀ Once we work on managing the situations that trigger it, we can live our lives with more HAPPINESS and less FIGHT OR FLIGHT. ⠀ ⠀ In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking about CONFRONTATION….⠀ Not necessarily with people, but maybe…⠀ More about the reasons we avoid things on our to do lists…⠀ The reasons why we procrastinate, instead of action…⠀ ⠀ And, of course, the reasons why confronting your fears is the best way to live your life. ⠀ ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

ARE YOU MAKING YOUR JOURNEY CHOPPIER THAN IT NEEDS TO BE?   I was ADDICTED to the struggle of swimming against my intuition. I lived on ‘shoulds’ - always based on what I believed that others wanted for/from me.   Then I’d MOAN… “Oh, poor me, life is so HARD.” “Why do others have it easier than me?” “The world hates me.”   Are any of those feelings familiar, love? They began to feel comfortable for me… They were what I used as an excuse to keep FIGHTING against listening to my INNER VOICE.   Don’t get me wrong, even now, life can feel choppy! And it’s then that I have to ask myself two super important questions…   Am I making this journey choppy? Do I NEED this choppiness for my growth?   You see, the Universe sends us obstacles and difficulties to overcome so that we GROW.   Life is not about avoiding choppiness entirely.   Life is about recognising WHO / WHAT is causing that choppiness… If it’s your ego, then all you’re achieving is yet more pain / annoyance. If it’s the universe, then you’re experiencing profound growth.   In today’s podcast episode, I discuss this, and four other things to think about when trying to fall into FLOW. Alignment with your goals means you travel faster - can you afford to miss these five tips to get what you want quicker?! ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

HOW IS YOUR FLOW? YOUR ALIGNMENT? And I’m not talking yoga here….   When I feel in flow, I am floating along the river of the universe, trusting I am where I am supposed to be. When I stray out of this alignment, I feel like I’m FIGHTING against everything. Life feels difficult.   I know that when I am out of alignment, I’m letting my EGO row the boat… That’s ALWAYS a bad idea, since my ego wants to push against the tide. It looks at what OTHERS think is right for me… It holds me back from being in the flow of doing what I want to do.   When I choose to be in flow, life feels EASY. I feel like I am seeing progress.   If our growth is summed up by experiences, imagine how far you travel when in flow… Versus swimming AGAINST the current. The only experience in a state of resistance is one of not getting anywhere. You cannot grow, unless you allow yourself to float, to be in alignment, to FLOW. ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Ayni, ubuntu and karma are not just about helping others - they’re about your SELF-LOVE too… Mind-blowing, right? Hear me out…   When I go for a run, or a cycle, or do one of my MMA workouts, there are two words I use. “Thank you.” And I say them to my body…

Ayni… Ubuntu… Karma… They’re all more or less the same thing, with the same route: The Law of Reciprocity.   Whatever joy / help / love I give to others, I will receive gifts that I need (not always what I WANT, ha!) in return.   Everything is connected by ENERGY - I am connected to you, and we are all connected to the world’s community, the Earth herself, and all the dimensions beyond this one…   It is a privilege that we get to support each other, and ourselves through the law of reciprocity. Individual acts of giving literally change the world’s energy, in a butterfly effect.   Karma is a beautiful thing - and should be a way of life for all of us.   I talk more about this in the podcast episode today because it’s really important in my own life. Every action that I perform in this world can be one that embraces the concept of ayni. I choose to live a lifestyle of generosity to result in a life of reciprocal abundance. ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I KEPT MYSELF FEELING STUCK BY USING REALLLLLY UNHELPFUL LANGUAGE!   I know we’ve all heard the stuff about ‘self talk’ - and, if you’re anything like me, love, you probably shrug your shoulders.. Like that could help you, right?   Wrong.   You see, I was always using language that kept me POWERLESS. “I don’t have enough [time / money / knowledge / strength / understanding / etc / etc / etc]” “I’m not the right person for this.” “I’ll never succeed at reaching my [goal weight / ideal salary / vision board ambitions / etc / etc / etc]”   Even when I write podcast notes and Instagram posts, I can go to one of those “not enough” type thoughts. “Maybe they don’t want to hear from me.” “There’ll be other people out there to voice this more eloquently than ME.”   But now I know that language is what HOLDS ME BACK. I am, literally, telling the Universe that my focus is on failure / no success / not being able to get anywhere   I’m NOT a victim of my circumstances, and nor are you. Once we realise this, we can stop feeling ‘STUCK’.   This language tip is just one of those I share in today’s podcast!! ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN STUCK.   We’ve all said it, right, love? “I’m STUCK!” “I can’t do ANYTHING about XYZ!” “It’s so unfair!”   That used to be me ALL. THE. TIME.   The reason you FEEL stuck is simple: it’s down to your PERSPECTIVE.   You get to CHOOSE how to approach any situation. You get to CHOOSE whether to see yourself as INCAPABLE. You get to CHOOSE the steps to take to MOVE away from your current situation.   You are IN CONTROL.   In today’s podcast, I share my thoughts on this idea of ‘STUCKNESS’. I get how it feels - because I’ve been there, and share lots of examples from my own life.   I started ALLOWING myself to feel FREEDOM to be who I want to. I stopped LETTING MYSELF get caught up in feelings that I couldn’t move forward. I started TAKING choices that made me GROW.   I was never stuck, or nor were / are you. ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

DID YOU KNOW THAT WATER DOES MORE THAN HYDRATE YOUR CELLS?   In today’s podcast, I’m sharing five ways that water can increase your power and abundance in the world.   For example, did you know closing your loo seat can help maintain the flow of positive energy AND prevent abundance being, quite literally, flushed away?!

WATER IS POWERFUL.   A few days ago, I pulled the Animal Medicine Oracle Card of FROG. It represents, amongst other things, a need to cleanse, with the obvious connection to washing / bathing in water.   In this podcast episode, I share all sorts of ways in which we use water in everyday life and in our spirituality.   Do you find water hypnotic, love? I do. Staring at a waterfall, or listening to the rain.   It’s also a playful substance - when did you last jump in the puddles of a rainy day?!?   I felt called to share my musings on water with you… Perhaps it’s a call for you, like the frog, to cleanse… Or hop between puddles… Or allow the grounding water of the shower to generate creative ideas… ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I’VE STRUGGLED A LOT WITH BEING AN EMPATH WITH BOUNDARIES!   I’ve even been told by others that my boundaries mean I’m NOT an empath. What rubbish!!   Just because you are an empath, love, it doesn’t mean that you have to condone everything others do.   You get to have BOUNDARIES!   You get to say, “I love you, but that’s not an acceptable behaviour.”   I’ve done this with a few people recently. It feels GOOD.   If someone doesn’t wish to turn up as their best self, that’s on THEM… But I don’t have to put up with it.   I get to be an empath AND value myself.   In today’s podcast, I’m talking about how we get to be both empathetic and people who condemn things like The Capitol insurrection… ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

HOW TO UNDERSTAND THE CAPITOL RIOTERS’ ACTIONS, WHILST CONDEMNING THEM.   I’ve found it hard to reconcile my feelings about the insurrection at The Capitol.   I see each and every one of those rioters as gaslit, misled by a desperate man out of his depth. When any of us are lied to, we become VICTIMS of those lies.   If we act heinously on those lies, do we remain victims? This was the question I kept asking myself.    I believe that the rioters were victims of Trump’s hate speech and lies… HOWEVER… The violent acts they committed - the theft, the bloodshed, the murder, those cannot be condoned.   We each have FREE WILL.   Whilst we can be manipulated to believe lies, we still get to CHOOSE our reactions. Those rioters may have believed VP Pence could overturn Biden becoming president (he couldn’t)… They may have believed in the ‘election fraud’ (of which there’s no evidence)… Those things would understandably piss them off.   But they chose to take their anger and turn it into violence.   I have to remind myself that being an empath is about understanding, not condoning.   I understand why those rioters felt the need to commit violent acts. But I DO NOT condone it.   I get to understand people, but also have boundaries around acceptable behaviour.   This is what I’m discussing on today’s podcast - maybe it’s controversial, but it’s important! ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

HATE IS NEVER WARRANTED - NO MATTER WHO IT’S FOR.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ Today’s pod and blog offer you five ways you can begin to create HARMONY in your relationships, and the WORLD at large, love.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ The primary thing you need to know is that hate only begets hate.⠀⁠ Every time you say you hate someone, the energy you create is just that of more hatred. ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ We can dislike people’s opinions and their actions. ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ BUT… we can STILL empathise with them. ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠  Empathy isn’t about condoning, it’s about UNDERSTANDING.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ So I understand where the Capitol rioters desires for violence came from. ⠀⁠ I do not condone them.⠀⁠ I condemn their actions, but I don’t write them off as humans.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ It is UNACCEPTABLE behaviour, but that doesn’t mean the person is so totally irredeemable that we should hate them. ⠀⁠ After all, that only plays into their hands - their “us and them” viewpoint.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ Hate is not the way forward. From ANY of us. ⠀⁠⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

⁣FREE SPEECH IS WAY MORE EXPENSIVE THAN WE MIGHT THINK.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ In today’s podcast, I’m talking about the PAIN of freedom of speech.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ With Donald Trump’s very public banning from Twitter, many questions are coming up.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ Where does freedom of speech stop, and hate speech start?⠀⁠ Are we even ALLOWED to hate anymore?⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ What’s my DUTY as a poster?⠀⁠ What’s my DUTY as a reader?⠀⁠ Where does the user’s role stop, and the social media companies’ role start?⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ So. Many. Questions.⠀⁠ So. Many. Grey. Areas.⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ I also, perhaps controversially look at HYPOCRITICAL behaviour…  Those who say, “I hate Trump because of his attitude towards [insert any minority ever here]” are as bad as Trump himself. ⠀⁠ ⠀⁠ Hatred of ANYONE is never going to foster harmony… or is it?!⠀⁠   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Are you struggling to get started in the new year? I am, and that's why I'm putting out an episode all about goals for 2021. I KNOW that when I have a goal in mind, it's easier to motivate myself to DO stuff... rather than sit and eat leftover mince pies and chocolate (doing that too!).  When you know the steps you can take (always break goals down!), there's ALWAYS something you can do towards your ambitions and dreams.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

So I've spent several days painting my spare room...  Who'd have thought it could teach me life lessons?! Have a listen to find out exactly what I learned along the way... No coveralls or masking tape required!!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

2020's been hard as NAILS. I know that, you know that, we all know that. Spending time apart from our loved ones has been painful. But is Christmas really the time to let our guard down? Today, I share my thoughts and a reminder that we all will get through this. 2021 can only get better, one must hope, right?!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

December is an important time. Many religions have December festivals of some kind, but I think even if you're not religious or your religion isn't one that is celebrating in December, it’s a month when we all tend to come together. 2020 has obviously thrown a curveball in terms of celebrations this year, but that doesn’t detract from this time of year. The trees are still up, the menorahs still lit, only this year’s reminder feels like one of reflection, rather than fun. None of this means that the holidays feel any less stressful, though – we still care about showing up in the right way for relatives. This year, arguably, it’s more stressful than ever, having to make decisions about who we see and how we protect them. And that’s on top of the usual Christmas stresses. I’m resharing last year's holiday episode because the content is still relevant, even in the midst of a global pandemic. Just because we’ve all realised how we usually take spending time with others for granted, it doesn’t mean that the holidays will be a walk in the park. Holidays stress is a real thing, every year. Many people simply don't like Christmas - and that's perfectly okay. No one should judge you for that. Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

ONE POTATO, TWO POTATO, THREE POTATO, FOUR. I SAT COUNTING THE CALORIES IN MY HEAD.   I didn’t notice the pretty table centres, the scent of pine needles on the air, or the crackling of the log fire. All I noticed was what was on my plate.   That’s how previous Christmas meals have often looked for me. I was judging myself from the second I sat down to eat, intensely focussed on each roast potato, every carrot, every bite of turkey.   In today’s blog and podcast, I’m sharing FIVE super important things I’ve learned in my self love journey. I realised that I needed to stop the judgment, to let my body dictate what she wants to eat, and to love her regardless of her weight.   My weight does not define me. My [outer] body does not define me. I define myself by who I am, not what I am! Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I SHAMED WOMEN IN THE BODY POSITIVITY MOVEMENT. This is my most confessional / vulnerable / emotional blog and pod yet!    I wasn’t one of those people who trolled their threads, love. My opinions were in my own head.   But I was still a BODY SHAMER.   I didn’t understand what body positivity was. I believed that women involved in the movement were condoning the extremes of obesity and anorexia. I thought it was promotion of the most unhealthy type.   Then I realised that these women weren’t judging their WEIGHT. To them, they were appreciative of their bodies, accepting themselves whatever the number of the scale. They were showing that a body was about a LOT more than just weight.   In my own weight release journey, I’ve come to realise that without body positivity, I simply don’t release weight.   If someone was bullying me, then asked for a favour, I’d tell them to eff off. I was doing that by asking my body to release weight, while berating her for being too big / ugly etc.   Hit up the link in my bio to understand more about the journey I’ve been on with accepting my body. Gratitude for this body I’m in has made a world of difference to me. Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I CAN BE THE WORST KIND OF ADVICE GIVER.   What bugs you about advice givers most of all, love?   I bet your first answer will be: the givers of UNSOLICITED advice. No matter how well-meaning that advice is.   GUILTY. As. Charged.   I realised the other day that I often give unsolicited advice. It’s resulted in me getting it thrown back in my face A LOT. And it SUCKS when people hate your advice, right?!   Now I’ve noticed, I’ve adopted two new advice-giving methods:  Blog or pod it instead of offering advice directly - who KNOWS how many more people I’ll help doing that?! Drop. The. Mic. [or pen, I guess, for a blog… or keyboard key…] I OFFER advice [I know, mind-blowing, right?!] - “wanna hear the advice I’ve got on this, let me know!!”   In today’s BLOG AND POD, I share 5 top tips for advice-giving… It’s not easy, eh, love?! I’m sharing my experience and… oh… yeah…. ADVICE!!!           Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

If you get upset when someone rejects your help / advice, you need to listen!   You are CHOOSING to get upset, love. You are CHOOSING to feel frustrated. You are CHOOSING to give meaning to someone else’s opinion. Nothing means anything except the meaning you give to it.  And I do all of those things too, but now I see that there are ways to avoid the PAIN. I was letting myself feel discomfort when my advice didn’t HIT HOME… Then I realised two important things: We are all on a different journey - some of us take longer than others to be ready to accept advice… I have ZERO CONTROL over how others receive the GIFT of my advice.. I KNOW my stuff. I have faith in myself to help others. I am AWESOME at coaching others, if they’re ready and willing to accept the help. The GIFT of my help - bc that’s exactly what it is. I have a gift from the universe - to be able to assimilate all my experience and knowledge with my strong intuition and empathy. That gift is one I pass on to others.    It’s not my job to judge how the gift is received. My purpose is simply to put the information out into the world. I share it, not knowing who will receive it, or how.   SHARING is my job, controlling the response of others is not.           Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

It's time to start trusting ourselves more.... and here are 10 ways to start doing this!!       Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

“What will it take for you to trust yourself?” I’m in a transformation programme (TCP by @iamjimfortin ) right now, and one of the coaches asked me that question.   I get stuck in not trusting myself and the universe. When I don’t trust, I not only feel bad, I also feel STUCK. I can SEE that, and yet I still struggle with self-trust.   Today, I’m admitting that this podcast is as much (more?!) for me as you, love. And it is FASCINATING some of the benefits that having self-trust can give us (altruistic volunteering, anyone?!)   I’m sharing this because I hope that you’ll learn as much as I did. Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Why don’t you have a bucket list? It’s not as if you’re not dying…   We’re all dying. You, me, and everyone we’re surrounded by.   Death is the ultimate fact of life.   In today’s pod, I’m outlining how to go about drawing up a living bucket list.  They’re SUPER speedy to read / listen to, and will give you lots of ideas for the FIVE key areas I think need to be considered for your bucket list!   Given that we’re all dying, why don’t we compile our bucket list NOW?   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

If You Die Tomorrow, Will You Have Regrets?  So it’s a macabre question, I know, but will you? I’m pretty sure your answer will be “yes”. Mine was too, love. You see, we get so busy with LIVING that we let ourselves FORGET that we’re dying. And what happens then? We stop prioritising things - we let our lives fill with busy-ness that doesn’t serve us.   Think about terminally ill people who compile a bucket list. The only reason they NEED a bucket list is because they didn’t remember they were dying, until someone told them. If they had remembered they were dying every day of their lives, they’d have had no regrets. There would be no bucket list because they’d have fulfilled all those dreams and wishes.   I know it’s SCARY to look death in the face. But it is the greatest TEACHER we could ever ask for. The guillotine is falling as soon as we’re CONCEIVED, before we’re even born. And yet we refuse to talk about death, like we’re somehow going to outrun it by doing so.   When my mother-in-law was terminal, no one would talk with her about her death, her funeral. Except me. I was seen as macabre for this, but it was important to her - and me.   I’ve seen many people close to me die around 70. Yes, that’s ‘too young’. But it’s made me realise that we never know when will be our last day.   So now what am I doing? I’m trying to make every day count. I am dying, and so are you. It’s time to realise that death is what makes life worth living to the max.   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I WAS CLUELESS ABOUT WHAT MY HABITS EVEN WERE…. HOW COULD I CHANGE THE ‘BAD’ ONES, IF I DIDN’T EVEN SEE THEM?!   In today’s podcast, I’m sharing 5 steps to change your habits. The first step, to me, was the MOST IMPORTANT.   I had to go through an exercise that highlighted what habits I had. It sounds stupid to say I didn’t know my habits. Of course, I knew some of them, but until I undertook the activity I describe in step one of this process, I didn’t know exactly what they were.   It’s not stupid to not know all your habits, love. Unless we’re really diligent, it’s REALLY easy to miss them…   That’s why I had to put together the guidance in today’s pod and blog about exactly how to go about CHANGING YOUR HABITS!   Can’t wait to hear how you get on with this, love!!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

NO ONE EVER PICKED UP A DRINK THINKING “I’M GOING TO GET ADDICTED TO THIS.”   We don’t always make our decisions about our habits consciously. The ones that end up not serving us are, indeed, the most unlikely to been stepped into knowingly.   Maybe you took a drink to steel your nerves for a first date, love? Or found that you were ‘lucky’ when you won a bet? Perhaps you were feeling lonely in your relationship, and porn filled the intimacy gap?   The problem is that EVERY HABIT is on a SEESAW. It starts out serving you - you’re less shy; you feel lucky; you don’t feel so lonely, etc.   Gradually you move towards the seesaw’s pivot point, and that’s where the trouble starts. After the pivot, comes the ‘downhill’.  The habit has become UNSERVING.   The drinks mean you’re at work with a hangover. The bets mean you’re scared to look at your bank account. The porn means you feel constant shame.   YOU DIDN’T KNOW THAT WOULD HAPPEN.   People say BS like “Oh alcohol is always a slippery slope - (s)he must’ve known that.”    Why MUST you have known that, love? Especially for yourself…    You see, our habits can be MANIPULATIVE - they make us believe that we’ll be in the vast majority of the world… That vast majority that don’t let drinking, gambling, porn become unserving to them.   NEVER BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR THE 1ST OR 101ST TIME YOU PICKED UP. YOU CANNOT CHANGE THE PAST.     But you CAN change the future.    In today’s pod, I’m talking all sorts of habits - not just addiction.    I believe in you, love.

Have you ever started tracking something, then stopped? Why?   I’m pretty sure your answer will be something to do with it not offering you enough information. You might say you got bored, or you forgot, but would you have felt that way, if the data you were getting from it was useful?   I started – and stopped – tracking many things, many times until I found a five-step process. I have not stopped tracking anything, except when I’ve hit a goal, since I came up with this method.   I hope that the principles I’m sharing in today’s pod and blog will give you everything you need to reach your goals!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I WAS CONVINCED I WAS A WEIGHT LOSS SCIENTIFIC ANOMALY. I wasn’t.  And you’re probably not either, love: you’re just UNIQUE. How often do people tell you to do this to release weight, or do that, or do the other? How often have you see things touting GUARANTEES?!  Yup, a lot, right?! And nothing’s working for you either, love? Well. Here’s what worked for me. TRACKING. It sounds boring, doesn’t it? Calories in. Calories out. Weight. Full disclosure: I also track my macros and hours in keto (through intermittent fasting). You learn what to track - calories in vs calories out didn’t work for me, so then I started tracking macros (carbs, protein, fat). That was the breakthrough for me. Every habit is a SCIENCE. Figure out what makes it better, and do more of that. Figure out what makes it worse, and do less of that. ⛔️ This latest podcast is all about how tracking has worked for me - and some of the pitfalls to avoid!     ⠀ Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

HELLO, I’M KELLER AND I’M AN ALTER EGO… ⠀ I’ve worked for a long time at manifesting material things into my life - cars, houses, investment value increases, and so on…⠀ BUT I’ve never really worked on manifesting an IDENTITY that fits with how I want my life to look. That’s where my ALTER EGO comes in… Keller… She’s pretty badass and 100 times more awesome than my old identity!⠀ When I’m stuck, I remind myself of my future identity, and ask one important question:⠀“What would Keller do?” The answers aren’t always cut and dried, but they are useful…Talking of answers, wanna know how I came up with her name, love?⠀ Well, overthinker that I am [most people just pick any name], I decided to ask my subconscious.⠀ I asked before bed, and then had a dream in which the name Keller came to me.⠀ I laughed as the only thing I knew Keller to mean was “cellar” in German - I giggled that even my subconscious had noticed I like a glass of wine!⠀ I don’t know why, but a few days later, I felt drawn to hit up name meanings on Google.And, lo and behold, there was the name.⠀ In Gaelic, Keller means ‘LITTLE CHAMPION’….⠀ The universe speaks to us in mysterious ways - and she has a sense of humour, clearly!!⠀ I’m even more delighted with my alter ego now I know she has such an empowering name!⠀ In today’s pod and blog, I’m sharing Keller’s whole biography, as an example for you to find your own!⠀ And the 11 POWERFUL questions I asked myself to dream up my alter ego.   ⠀ Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

YOU NEED AN ALTER EGO - here's why! Do you remember as a kid you aspired to be the popstar of the moment? The way we'd copy exactly what they did. Alter egos in adult life are kinda similar.  You see, if you don't have what you want already, love, you're not going to get it unless you start thinking about your identity. For example, if you see yourself as "overweight person" (this is a biggie, pun intended, for me), you can't be normal weight. Your identity matters. It's how you see yourself, and what you believe - in your subconscious - that you're capable of. How many people do you know who flip between overweight and slim? I know plenty - myself included. Why do you think they can't keep up the weight loss? It's all about their identity. They have the "fat person" belief.  The people who release weight and keep it off? They've changed their internal identity. They now believe in themselves as "slim person".  Changing your identity is HARD. That's why I'm sharing a little technique to help you on your way: the alter ego.  It's amazing how you can look at the traits that are aligned with what you want and turn the volume up on them. Then you'll instantly start attracting everything you want in life... Sustained weight... Consistent bank account... Growing abundance... Stable relationships... AND MORE!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

⁣EVEN JOYOUS EVENTS CAN TEACH US SOMETHING! How often do you experience something AMAZING, scream about it on social media and then….⠀FORGET about it?  Yup, me too!  Have you heard the quote that “Success always leaves footprints” (Booker T Washington), love?⠀ If you’re anything like me, you let the footprints of negative events stay imprinted on your fragile heart FOREVER. You let them pain you whenever you think about them, and assume they’ll always be there, right?  But the footprints from successful experiences?Maybe like me, they pass as quickly as those made in sand once the tide comes in…  I’ve heard LOTS about how we should always look for the positive in negative situations…⠀And I’ve always tried to do that: find the learning points, so that it doesn’t happen again.⠀ Yet, I’ve heard very few people talking about learning from the experiences that we ADORE! ⠀ It’s the same, though, right? ⠀ Just instead of looking for the learning to teach us to avoid these things in future, we want to know how to get MORE of them.  In today’s BLOG and PODCAST, I’m sharing a FIVE STEP PROCESS that works for both enjoyable and painful experiences! ⠀ I want you to get All. The. Learning, love… good and bad…      Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

DON’T “MAKE THE BEST OF WHAT YOU HAVE” - that’s doing yourself a disservice! Here’s why…  Who already has what you want? Do you think they sat around waiting for it to happen, love? Or do you think they turned the volume up on their personality traits that would most help them get the things they desired? I’m pretty confident the characteristics came first. If you can emulate the characteristics of someone who already has what you want, you are WINNING. It is this modelling that will help you to call in everything you’ve ever wanted.     Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I TRIPLED MY PODCAST DOWNLOADS IN 2 MONTHS… Here’s how you can win your dreams too! My manifestation game is strong. The universe is always on my side. So I was kinda surprised at the long-standing nature of one of my manifestation desires. The desire is to hit 1m podcast downloads - and, no, I’m not there yet… but the months after committing to this didn’t show much growth AT ALL. I kept asking myself what I’d done wrong - as I KNOW when manifestation isn’t working, it’s because there’s a boo-boo in the process somewhere. It IS an exact science - it’s as much a universal law as gravity is. That was when I realised that I didn’t FEEL like a one-million plus podcaster. I didn’t feel worthy of that honour. I wasn’t BEING the one-million podcaster BEFORE I got there. I looked at the personality traits of those who already had what I wanted. I started to emulate their behaviours, and that’s when my podcast downloads tripled in two months. The universe finally recognised that I was worthy of being set on the 1m download journey. In today’s podcast, I’m talking about how we have to STOP ASPIRING and START BEING   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I KNOW WHY YOU CAN’T MANIFEST ANYTHING. Yes, I darned well do!!  There are VERY few things in life that I 100% trust myself helping others with, but fixing manifestation? Hell, YES! I’m sharing my five QUICK START manifestation tips - these are GOLD DUST. Do you feel like you can’t get anything you want in life, love? Or maybe you think you’re doing EVERYTHING to manifest and IT’S. NOT. WORKING? Or perhaps you love the IDEA of manifestation, but have no clue to start? [Heck, that was me!] Frankly I am EXCITED - as I KNOW these tips are going to get you things you want from life. I don’t say that often, do I, love? I often CAVEAT to the HILT - “This MIGHT help”… “MAYBE this will work for you”…. “PERHAPS you might wanna try this”… Well, I’m not caveating these tips - RUN, don’t walk… unless you’re carrying scissors...!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

⁣GETTING EVERYTHING YOU WANT IS POSSIBLE - BUT THERE ARE TRAPS TO AVOID!  And I’m here to be your guide to avoid those downfalls!⠀ In today’s podcast episode, I’m excited to share answers to a question I get asked a lot:⠀ “Does manifestation really exist? I’ve tried it a couple times, but it doesn’t work for me.”⠀ Have you ever asked that, love? I have!  I didn’t realise that manifestation was my responsibility, as well as the universe’s. ⠀ I thought that things would “just happen.”  Imagine this…⠀ If as a kid, you’d had that same attitude to learning to walk, you’d still be crawling.  Kids do not give up - they appreciate things are a learning curve. ⠀ They seem to get that while practice may not make perfect, it does make things a hell of a lot easier.⠀ If you’re failing to manifest anything right now, and feel like you’re doing ALL. The. Things, you need to listen to today’s pod. I PROMISE you that there is no reason why it doesn’t work for you that can’t be solved.⠀ I’m proof that it works.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

MY BRAIN IS NOT AS RELIABLE AS I’D LIKE TO THINK  I pretty much trusted my brain for YEARS. I believed everything it told me. That was a terrible idea.    I had a Stockholm Syndrome type relationship with my brain.  It had caught me so hard that I no longer believed it was anything other than my friend.   It was not my friend. You know why? Because *I* was not my friend.   I was not my friend.   And I was saying things in passing, wondering maybe whether saying the labels aloud made them fit… “I’m stupid…” “I’m ugly…” “I’m too fat…”   I was just trying them for size the first few times, but my brain was LISTENING.  And that’s how those awful labels ended up in my subconscious. Lying in wait to trip me up frequently.    As @igntd.me ’s #OnceAnAddict campaign is proving: these labels can alter our lives. Someone who labels themselves an “addict” is WAY more than that, even if they don’t see it. But what label do they carry with them? The stigma of the ‘addict’ label…   These negative and judgmental labels are not good for us.   My latest episode has a FIVE STEP PROCESS to shake up your brain! Start using your brain for good - learn to drop the labels and replace them with healthier ones.       Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I LABELLED MYSELF AS "FAT AND UGLY". Do you know what happens when you put a label like that on yourself? You believe it. Your brain doesn’t analyse the stuff you’re telling it - it just accepts it. Then what happens when you’re next making a decision? Your brain jumps to a conclusion for you, based on all those labels you hold within your identity.   Me: “Hmmm, do I want another cake?” Subconscious: “I’m fat” Decision: “Might as well, I’m fat already”   Me: “Should I go live on Instagram?” Subconscious: “I’m ugly” Decision: “No way, I’m not cute enough for that!”   Me: “Should I start coaching others?” Subconscious: “I’m not good enough” Decision: “Nope - you’re not good enough.”   We let ourselves live our lives by these subconscious beliefs and labels that sit in the depths of our being. Things from years ago are dictating everything you do. But we can drop the labels - that’s what’s so exciting!! This was inspired by Dr Adi Jaffe / IGNTD's #OnceAnAddict campaign - check it out at igntd.com/oaa It’s time to drop the stigma and labels around addiction.       Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

IT’S NOT EASY TO TRUST THE UNIVERSE. (Or God, Source, Quantum Field, or who/whatever you see as the Creator). We live in such a noisy, chaotic world that it feels like we have to be constantly in control. I used to feel that if I left anything up to the Universe, it may not happen as I wanted it to. So I CLUNG to what I thought I could control, dismissing the Universe’s role as unhelpful. And then I got outcomes I didn’t want. And - get this! - I blamed the Universe, despite having dismissed it thinking I knew better! Now, I know better… well… I know the Universe knows better… And I’m sharing 5 things the Universe would want me to share with you… These are five things I wish I’d known!       Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website