Podcast appearances and mentions of nicholas epley

Ironically, while the core mission of HMB is to enhance communication between generations, there's yet to be an episode dedicated to the “science” of communication. Until now. Aidan & Ash welcome to the show one of the country's leading minds on the topic of why smart people routinely misunderstand each other. Dr. Nicholas Epley is the author of Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want, and the Director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, where he studies and teaches social cognition. There's nothing intuitive about this episode - which will have you rethinking everything. Who was more convincing: Aidan or Ash? Vote at HoldMeBack.com

How psychologist Dan Gilbert went from high school dropout to Harvard professor, found the secret of joy, and inspired Steve Levitt's divorce. SOURCE:Daniel Gilbert, professor of psychology at Harvard University. RESOURCES:"What the Data Says (and Doesn't Say) About Crime in the United States," by John Gramlich (Pew Research Center, 2020).Enlightenment Now: The Case for Reason, Science, Humanism, and Progress, by Stephen Pinker (2018)."Mistakenly Seeking Solitude," by Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder (Journal of Experimental Psychology, 2014)."Just Think: The Challenges of the Disengaged Mind," by Timothy D. Wilson, David A. Reinhard, Erin C. Westgate, Daniel T. Gilbert, Nicole Ellerbeck, Cheryl Hahn, Casey L. Brown, and Adi Shaked (Science, 2013)."The End of History Illusion," by Jordi Quoidbach, Daniel T. Gilbert, and Timothy D. Wilson (Science, 2013).Happy Money: The Science of Smarter Spending, by Elizabeth Dunn (2013)."If Money Doesn't Make You Happy Then You Probably Aren't Spending It Right," by Elizabeth W. Dunn, Daniel T. Gilbert, and Timothy D. Wilson (Journal of Consumer Psychology, 2011).This Emotional Life, by Daniel Gilbert (2010).Stumbling on Happiness, by Dan Gilbert (2006)."Affective Forecasting," by Timothy D. Wilson and Daniel T. Gilbert (Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 2003). EXTRAS:"Drawing from Life (and Death)," by People I (Mostly) Admire (2023)."Who Gives the Worst Advice?" by People I (Mostly) Admire (2021)."Sendhil Mullainathan Thinks Messing Around Is the Best Use of Your Time," by People I (Mostly) Admire (2021)."Am I Boring You?" by Freakonomics Radio (2015).

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Watch a couple hold hands as they stroll own the road. It often seems cute and quaint. But it is more than that. Holding hands has some real benefits. Even monkeys know this. Listen as I explain. https://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/05/fashion/05hands.html You probably like to think you are pretty good at reading people – right? As you talk with someone, you probably think you can generally tell what they are thinking or where their head is at. Well, what if I told you were not as good as you think you are? What if it turns out that reading body language or trying to "put yourself in someone else's shoes" are actually pretty lousy strategies? What if there is a much better – almost full-proof technique to know what someone is thinking? This is what Nicholas Epley is here to discuss. He is a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business and author of the book, Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want (https://amzn.to/3BuU6SY) Who hasn't played with LEGO bricks? They have been around for decades. So, how does a low-tech, simple LEGO brick compete in the world of high-tech video games and other electronic distractions? The answer is: VERY WELL! Lego is a phenomenon that started from a transatlantic phone call in 1954 to a cultural phenomenon today. And the story of LEGO is truly a fascinating one. Joining me to tell it is Daniel Konstanski, the US Editor for Blocks Magazine (https://blocksmag.com/) and author of a book The Secret Life of LEGO® Bricks: The Story of a Design Icon (https://amzn.to/3Y8E8qE). When you are sad, it can affect your vision. You may not see things the same as you would if you were happy. That may sound odd, but listen as I explain. https://scienceblogs.com/neurophilosophy/2010/07/22/feeling-blue-seeing-gray#google_vignette Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you someone who strikes up a conversation with the person next to you on the train? Or do you keep your eyes fixed on your phone? Do you offer gratitude to friends and family? Or do you assume that they already know how you feel? This week, in the kickoff to our annual You 2.0 series, we talk with psychologist Nicholas Epley about our interactions with other people, and how we can make them more rewarding.If you enjoy today's episode, check out these classic Hidden Brain episodes: A Secret Source of ConnectionHow Others See You Relationships 2.0: An Antidote to Loneliness

Read our book, The Score That Matters https://amzn.to/3XxHi7p Full show notes at www.LearningLeader.com  This episode is supported by Insight Global. Insight Global is a staffing company dedicated to empowering people. Please CLICK HERE for premier staffing and talent. Ask deep questions – A deep question asks about someone's values, beliefs, judgments, or experiences, rather than just facts. A deep question asks people to talk about how they feel. Asking a deep question should feel like sharing. NASA listened to how people laughed and if they possessed a genuine matching quality. Not performative or inauthentic, but people who connect with others by matching their energy. The 4 Rules of a learning conversation: Pay attention to what type of conversation is occurring Share your goals, ask what others are seeking Ask about others' feelings and share your own Explore if identities are important to this discussion The How Do We Feel conversation: What can we learn about listening from Nicholas Epley? (Psychology Professor). (Everyone knows how to listen deeply. If a podcast or something is interesting, nobody struggles to listen). Epley didn't teach them how to listen. He urged them to have more interesting and meaningful conversations. To talk about feelings. When we talk about feelings, something magical happens. Other people can't help but listen to us. Practical actions to take: Ask Deep Questions: Instead of sticking to surface-level topics, ask questions that invite people to share their values, beliefs, or significant experiences. For instance, if someone mentions they are a doctor, ask them what inspired them to pursue medicine. Prove You're Listening: Demonstrate that you are actively listening by asking follow-up questions or repeating back what the other person has said to ensure understanding. Match Emotional Tone: Pay attention to the other person's emotional state and match it appropriately. If someone is sharing something emotional, respond with empathy rather than attempting to offer solutions immediately. Understand the Social Identity: Be mindful of the social identities that might be important in a conversation. This awareness can enhance understanding and connection by showing respect for the experiences and viewpoints shaped by those identities. Charles shared that understanding whether a conversation is emotional, social, or practical is crucial, especially in leadership and educational settings. Teachers, for instance, are taught to ask students if they want to be helped, heard, or hugged—a reminder that recognizing the intent behind communications is key to providing appropriate support and connection. Time Stamps 01:06 Educational Choices and Parental Guidance 02:03 Reporting from Iraq: A Journalist's Perspective 03:41 The Bike Messenger Experience 05:47 The Harvard Study and Its Impact 09:23 Felix Sagala: The Art of Deep Communication 13:30 Mastering the Skills of Super Communication 20:25 Connecting with Strangers: Nicholas Epley's Experiment 21:20 Emotional Intelligence in Space: NASA's Challenge 24:51 The Matching Principle: Authentic vs. Fake 32:27 Insights from The Big Bang Theory Writers 35:36 The Art of Learning Conversations

Chris Fenning shares how to master the first minute of conversation for clearer, more concise, and more persuasive communication. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How to capture your audience's attention in 15 seconds2) Why meetings feel like a waste—and how to fix that 3) The one question that's ruining your reputation Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep951 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT CHRIS — Chris Fenning makes it easier for us to communicate at work. He helps experts talk to non-experts, teams talk to executives, and much more. Chris's practical methods are used in organizations like Google and NATO, and have appeared in the Harvard Business Review. He is also the author of multiple award-winning books on communication and training that have been translated into 16 languages. Find out how Chris can help you at www.chrisfenning.com • Book: "The First Minute: How to Start Conversations That Get Results (Business Communication Skills Books)" • LinkedIn: Chris Fenning • Website: ChrisFenning.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Article: Egocentrism over e-mail: "Can we communicate as well as we think?" by Justin Kruger, Nicholas Epley, Jason Parker, and Zhi-Wen Ng • Book: "Thinking 101: How to Reason Better to Live Better" by Woo-kyoung AhnSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, we tackle attachment with Nicholas Epley. Nick is an expert on human behavior and decision making, a professor of behavioral science and faculty director for decision research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, the author of the highly acclaimed book Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want.  Ever wonder why some people excel in social situations while others struggle? How can understanding the biases that lead us to believe we're effective mind readers of friends and strangers alike transform our interactions? And what simple strategies can we employ to build real connections quickly? Join us as Nick Epley sheds light on these intriguing questions, offering insights from his acclaimed book "Mindwise" and revealing the secret to truly understanding what others think, believe, feel, and want. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is the biggest problem that stops us from being able to better understand and predict what other people think? How well do we really know what others think and feel? Dispelling the biggest myth about our brains – 13:36 Why does the biggest myth about how we use our brains continue to persist and why is it wrong? How does perspective drastically change one person's understanding of a situation and what can you do to alleviate the inevitable friction that difference in perspective causes? The biggest hurdles most people struggle with when reading minds – 18:55 What are the dangers of typing vs. talking in our ability to convey sarcasm and understand each other? How does our prediction of future behaviors or reactions in extreme situations often mislead us? When are stereotypes useful and when are they harmful? Dispelling the biggest myth about political polarization – 35:47 Is the country actually becoming more polarized politically or is something else going on that makes us think we're becoming more polarized? The importance of direct communication most people miss – 41:59 What is the best way to make any interaction with a stranger into a positive one that can lead to friendship or romance?  Most people won't do this to create deeper relationships in their lives – 58:40 What do most people avoid doing even though it's the best way to create the deep relationships they want in their lives? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever considered the transformative power of a simple hello or the profound effect of asking someone about their day? Why might our attempts at perspective-taking be inadequate compared to  the straightforward solution of ‘just ask.'Nicholas Epley is the John Templeton Keller Distinguished Service Professor of Behavioral Science, and Director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research, at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He is also the author of a book titled, Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want.Nicholas and Greg discuss how social nuances influence every aspect of our lives. Nicholas's expertise, combined with Greg's teaching experiences, bring to light the nuanced dance of cross-cultural social engagement and the impact of technology on our interactions. This episode isn't just about making more friends or being likable—it's about harnessing the often overlooked science of social cognition to enrich every interaction you have. Discover why the 'superpower' of social cognition might be the most underutilized tool in your personal and professional arsenal.*unSILOed Podcast is produced by University FM.*Episode Quotes:Conversation is an entirely cooperative process 16:25: Conversation itself is just an entirely cooperative process that tends to pull us together with somebody else. So, for us to have a conversation, we have to start by establishing some common ground with each other, figure out what we're going to talk about.That's inherently cooperative. We're going back and forth. We're taking turns. We're cooperating, right? And cooperation tends to pull people together. Reciprocity is, without question, the dominant social norm in social interaction. So, if I were to punch you in the face, you would probably punch me in the face back, right? That'd be a bad interaction. But if I reach out and say hello to you with sort of authentic kindness, you tend to respond back in the same way. And, it's those iterative social processes—those complicated social processes—that people tend to really underestimate the power of.Deep talk is better than small talk, but small talk is better than no talk25:43: Small talk is better than no talk in a given moment; deep talks are a little better, or not as bad as you might think it is. But when you see people reporting that having a really deep conversation with somebody is better than a shallow one, it's typically when they have both and can compare them on their own; the small talk is actually pretty good. How our social thinking keeps us from getting feedback07:50: I think a bigger problem with a lot of our social thinking is that it can create reality, which then keeps us from getting the feedback we need. So Greg, if I thought you wanted to talk to me, I'd have a conversation with you, and I'd figure out if that assessment was right. So I'd get feedback on that because I would approach you and would find out if we're in a coffee shop, I didn't think you want to talk to me or didn't look very interesting, whatever. I decided, nah, I'm not going to have this conversation. Notice I wouldn't have anything to learn from. So when it comes to social thought, sometimes, particularly when it's about whether doing engage with somebody to connect with somebody or not, our beliefs are self-fulfilling, and they can keep us from getting the feedback we need.The truth about our fear of social engagement28:05: Our fears about how social engagement is going to go, particularly when it's positive, just tend to be a little off, a little overly pessimistic, in part because we don't seem to fully appreciate that when you reach out positively to others, they tend to reach out positively to you in return, and people are happier to be seen and have somebody take some notice of them. That's just very powerful—surprisingly powerful.Show Links:Recommended Resources:Juliana SchroederEinfühlungLiz Dunn - UBC Cell Phone ResearchGuest Profile:NicholasEpley.comFaculty Profile at the University of Chicago Booth School of BusinessLinkedIn ProfileHis Work:Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and WantGoogle Scholar Page

The ways supercommunicators operate and how to emulate their techniques.Across more than 130 episodes, Think Fast, Talk Smart has touched a lot on what it takes to be a good communicator. But what about reaching that next level? What about being a “supercommunicator”? Supercommunicator is a term used by Pulitzer Prize winning journalist and author Charles Duhigg in his latest book, Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection. In this podcast episode, Abrahams and Duhigg explore the precise techniques that distinguish a good communicator from a “supercommunicator:” traits such as active listening; looping for understanding to demonstrate genuine engagement; and identifying what someone is truly feeling, underneath what they actually say.Episode Reference Links:Charles Duhigg: WebsiteCharles Duhigg: BooksDuhigg's New Yorker articleThalia Wheatley's research study: The Repurposed Social Brain Nicholas Epley's research paper: Overly Shallow?: Miscalibrated Expectations Create a Barrier to Deeper ConversationAlison Wood Brooks' research paper: The Conversational Circumplex: Identifying, Prioritizing, and Pursuing Informational and Relational Motives in ConversationMichael Yeomans' research paper: It Helps to Ask: The Cumulative Benefits of Asking Follow-Up QuestionsSheila Heen's research project: Harvard Negotiation ProjectEp.92 - No Regrets: How to Take Risks: YouTube / Website Ep.82 - It's Not About You: Why Effective Communicators Put Others First: YouTube / Website Ep.103 - Simple is a Superpower: How to Communicate Any Idea to an Audience: YouTube / WebsiteConnect:Email Questions & Feedback >>> thinkfast@stanford.eduEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn Page, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInStanford GSB >>> LinkedIn & TwitterChapters:(00:00:00) IntroductionHost Matt Abrahams introduces guest Charles Duhigg and his new book Super Communicators.(00:01:26) Transition from Habits to CommunicationDuhigg shares how personal experiences and a desire to understand human interactions motivated him to explore communication.(00:02:51) The Neuroscience of Connection The neuroscience behind successful communication and the role of neural entrainment in establishing connection and understanding.(00:04:21) Storytelling as a Powerful Communication ToolThe importance of storytelling in communication and how stories foster empathy and engagement.(00:06:16) Identifying and Aligning Conversation Types Three types of conversations (practical, emotional, social) and the necessity of aligning conversation types for effective communication.(00:08:07) Practices of Super Communicators Insights into the habits of super communicators, including their approach to recognizing conversation types and the importance of deep listening.(00:15:02) Navigating Conflict Through Effective Communication Managing conflictual conversations with a focus on listening, understanding, and managing control dynamics.(00:20:50) Challenges of Online Communication Challenges and strategies for communicating in online and virtual settings.(00:25:04) The Craft and Impact of StorytellingApproaches to storytelling and its significance in making complex ideas memorable and engaging.(00:29:06) Developing New Communication Habits New communication habits developed from Duhigg's research and their impact on personal and professional interactions.(00:31:02) The Final Three QuestionsCharles Duhigg discusses the importance of deep questions, the communicator he most admires, and his recipe for successful communication.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We live in a world constantly bombarding us with messages about who we are, what the good life looks like, and how we can obtain it. In a culture carried by the whims of personal desire and comfort, we hear values like “follow your heart;” in a culture where we are constantly divided from one another, we start to believe that our spite is justified; in a culture that is constantly blaming others, we jump into the blame game. Yet each of these notions lead us not to life, freedom, or peace, but further into death, captivity, and anxiety. In Jesus' ministry, He regularly spoke against all sorts of notions that we consider commonplace today, and in listening and applying His words together, we will find a lasting, peaceful, joyous life in the midst of a culture mired in anxiety, division, and hatred. Listen as Pastor Clint examines Jesus' parable on examining the log in our own eye, the way that refutes our culture's tendency to blame or damn others, and how Jesus' process can lead us to true transformation in the midst of our difficulties with others. Sermon Notes: 1. Study entitled "Less Evil Than You" at the University of Chicago: https://www.chicagobooth.edu/media-relations-and-communications/press-releases/holier-than-thou-or-less-evil-than-you-the-true-nature-of-self-righteousness 2. “People evaluate themselves by adopting an ‘inside perspective' focused heavily on evaluations of mental states such as intentions and motives, but evaluate others based on an ‘outside perspective' that focuses on observed behavior for which intentions and motives are then assumed.” -Nicholas Epley and Nadav Klein, "Less Evil Than You" 3. Barna study on the perception of Christians by non-Christians: https://www.barna.com/research/a-new-generation-expresses-its-skepticism-and-frustration-with-christianity/ 4. “No person knows the strength of another person's temptations. The person with the placid and equable temperament knows nothing of the temptations of the person whose blood is afire and whose passions are on a hair-trigger. The person brought up in a good home and in Christian surroundings knows nothing of the temptation of the person brought up in a slum, or in a place where evil stalks abroad. The person blessed with fine parents knows nothing of the temptations of the person who has the load of a bad heredity upon his back. The fact is that if we realized what some people have to go through, so far from condemning them, we would be amazed that they have succeeded in being as good as they are.” -William Barclay, Commentary on Matthew 5. "The Wounded Healer," by Henri Nouwen

Nick Epley is a Professor at the University of Chicago where he teaches one of the most popular MBA classes: Designing a Good Life.

Nicholas Epley is the John Templeton Keller Distinguished Service Professor of Behavioral Science, and Director of the Center for Decision Research, at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He studies social cognition—how thinking people think about other thinking people—to understand why smart people so routinely misunderstand each other. He teaches an ethics and happiness course to MBA students called Designing a Good Life. His research has appeared in more than two dozen empirical journals, been featured by the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, CNN, Wired, and National Public Radio, among many others, and has been funded by the National Science Foundation and the Templeton Foundation. He has been awarded the 2008 Theoretical Innovation Award from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, the 2011 Distinguished Scientific Award for Early Career Contribution to Psychology from the American Psychological Association, the 2015 Book Prize for the Promotion of Social and Personality Science, and the 2018 Career Trajectory Award from the Society for Experimental Social Psychology. Epley was named a “professor to watch” by the Financial Times, one of the “World's Best 40 under 40 Business School Professors” by Poets and Quants, and one of the 100 Most Influential in Business Ethics in 2015 by Ethisphere. He is the author of Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want.Support the show

If you could have any superpower, what would it be? Most people say they'd want to read minds. But Prof. Nicholas Epley of the University of Chicago Booth School of Business says you already have that power: You just need to use it. We took some time off to enjoy the holiday and our families. And, like many of you here in the vaccine phase of the pandemic, we really cherished speaking to and connecting with people in person again. Which reminded us of an episode we did years ago about a simple but powerful idea…that talking to strangers can make you healthier. We want to reshare that episode with you this week, and we'll be back with a brand new episode next week! Thanks for listening!

The Power of Interacting and Connecting with People with Joe Keohane From a young age, our elders teach us to distrust people we don't know. One of the most popular children's stories revolves around this idea. Little Red Riding Hood goes out to her grandma. She talks to a stranger in the form of a sly fox. She arrives at her grandma's house only to find out she's been tricked. The moral of the story is singular—strangers have wicked intentions, so you have to be wary of them. But is there credence to this?  In today's episode, we're joined by Joe Keohane, a journalist, parallel parker, and a firm believer of the goodness in humanity and strangers. He debunks the stranger danger propaganda and explains the benefits of connecting with people . Cooperation and connection are part of our nature, and also our secret to success. Joe teaches us to overcome our fear of talking to strangers and how to have more meaningful interactions with them. Tune in to the full episode to tap into the power of connecting with strangers for self-expansion! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover the benefits of engaging and connecting with people. Understand, on a deeper level, your fear of talking to others. Gain some inspiration and insights into how you can connect with strangers comfortably. Resources Connect with Joe: Twitter | LinkedIn Joe's book, The Power of Strangers Theory of Self-Expansion Mistakenly Seeking Solitude, a report on connecting with strangers conducted by Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder University of Essex social psychologist Gillian Sandstrom Duke evolutionary psychologist Michael Tomasello University of Michigan psychologist Oscar Ybarra Braver Angels organization Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Behind Joe's Book and the Current Social Climate Joe's parents like talking to strangers. Now, even in their 70s, they still make new friends. He found this trait interesting. Although he is not as confident as his parents, he went into journalism, which involves a lot of talking to strangers as well. After having a moving conversation with a cab driver, Joe realized he hasn't been connecting with people as much as he did. Joe thinks two factors contribute to this decrease in engagement with others: stress from work and the advent of smartphones. Wanting to know more, Joe spent a few years researching how we connect with people. This was the genesis of his book. The Effects of Connecting with People Connecting with people is akin to self-expansion. When you talk to someone and have a profound connection with them, you can gain new perspectives on the world. Talking to someone different from you can also help you expand your viewpoints and reconsider your opinions about their race or country. These connections challenge preconceived ideas of the world and the people in it, which in turn alleviates prejudice and political polarization. The Fear of Talking to Strangers As a child, Joe was bombarded with stranger danger propaganda. Research shows that this belief eroded an entire generation's trust in other people. However, the claim that strangers pose a mortal threat is statistically baseless. In reality, more crimes are committed by people already close to the victim. Things like inequality, gender, race, and political orientation can make it harder to initiate connecting with people. People fear interacting with strangers because they don't know how to do it. Listen to the full episode to hear more about the research behind this anxiety! But once you begin conversing with others, it tends to go much better than you expect. Flipping the Scripts When asked how we're doing, we usually respond to others' questions by rote. These answers are called scripts. Joe challenged himself to break these scripts when he interacts with others. To his surprise, this led to more meaningful interactions, however short. Connecting with people this way can make us feel more optimistic and trusting. We tend to overestimate the rejection we will experience when starting conversations with strangers. Tune in to the episode to find out about the research on the topic! Interactions In-Person vs. On Social Media Social media allows you to be anonymous. You can also plan what you'll say ahead of replying. Meanwhile, talking to people in person is more cognitively challenging. However, you get mentally stronger as you start connecting with people more. In addition, it is our nature to communicate and collaborate with others. It is a trait that set us apart from other mammals and allowed us to form civilizations. Dangers of Disconnecting from People Lack of interaction and connection is poison to society. The polarization that it causes further leads to entrenchment and dehumanization of other people and groups. Online, it's much easier to dismiss people based on their opinions. Whereas in person, we are driven to seek commonality with others. You can have a conversation with people with opposing views. You just have to go out there seeking to understand. Media platforms give us a negative perception of other people. By going out into the world and connecting with others, you can correct this pessimism. Connecting with People in the Current Political Climate Joe recently spent time with an organization that helps Democrats and Republicans connect with each other. Being from Boston and living in New York, Joe identifies as a moderate liberal. His research and experiences made him less dismissive of people from the other side. He's hopeful that while it will take time, we can achieve political rebuilding. If you hear something you don't like, don't be quick to dismiss or respond contemptuously. Instead, pause for a second and try to understand the other view. The Problem with Today's Society Humans are hypersocial creatures. Cooperation is in our basic human nature and the secret to success. But due to various factors, we have become smaller and angrier beings. Now that we're not fulfilling our social needs, rates of depression and loneliness are skyrocketing. To combat this, we need to try interacting and connecting with people. How Joe Feels Radically Loved Joe's 5-year old recently described her love for him as something that makes her heart explode. That's what makes Joe radically loved. 5 Powerful Quotes [12:28] “The main fear that people had was just a fear that they didn't know how to [interact with others].” [16:31] “There's a raft of benefits to even having like kind of high-quality small talk with somebody. You just have to actually do it.” [21:07] “It comes pretty natural to people once they do it. Once they get past the anxiety and once they work those muscles a little bit, it becomes second nature. [31:01] “Instead of being reactive, act more wisely.” [33:38] “We're wired for connection. That's the secret to the success of the species.” About Joe Joe Keohane is a veteran journalist who's held high-level positions in publications like Esquire, The New Yorker, Wired, and Boston Magazine. He has also contributed to writing several textbooks and a screenplay. His life revolves around talking to people he barely knows and reporting facts and data. Fueled by curiosity, he decided to intensively research connecting with people and their value for self-expansion. This work resulted in his book, The Power of Strangers. You can learn more about Joe on his website or connect with him through Twitter and LinkedIn.   This episode brought to you by  LinkedIn LinkedIN Join us for the LinkedIn Accelerator Program www.linkedin.com/creators      This episode brought to you by    MyFitnessPal    MyFitnessPal Get a one month premium subscription today! loved.myfitnesspal.com use the code: loved    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help others reap the benefits of connecting with people? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! 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Coincidences can feel like magic. When we realize that a co-worker shares our birthday or run into a college roommate while on vacation, it can give us a surge of delight. Today, we revisit a favorite episode about these moments of serendipity. Mathematician Joseph Mazur explains why coincidences aren't as unlikely as we think they are, and psychologist Nicholas Epley tells us why we can't help but find meaning in them anyway. 

In this installment of a series on liberalism, Benjamin Klutsey, the director of academic outreach at the Mercatus Center at George Mason University, sits down with Juliana Schroeder to discuss the psychology underlying how trust and distrust are generated as well as practical ways to better facilitate productive interactions, even across severe cultural, ideological, or other divides. Dr. Schroeder is a professor in the Management of Organizations group at the Haas School of Business and a faculty affiliate in the Social Psychology Department, the Cognition Department, and the Center for Human-Compatible AI at UC Berkeley. She also co-founded and directs the Psychology of Technology Institute, which supports and advances scientific research studying the psychological consequences and antecedents of technological advancements. Her research examines the psychological processes underlying how people think about the minds of those around them, and how their judgments then influence their social judgments, decisions, and interactions. She has received funding from the National Science Foundation and awards from the Association for Psychological Science and the American Psychological Association. Want more? Check out Discourse Magazine for more pieces on classical liberalism, politics, economics, and culture. Resources Shannon White, Juliana Schroeder, and Jane L. Risen, When Enemies become Close, https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c171ac1710699e060ed3d94/t/5f6a300a0c80ed485d74a75b/1600794637679/White%2C+Schroeder%2C+%26+Risen+2020+JPSP.pdf Juliana Schroeder and Jane L. Risen, Befriending the enemy: Outgroup friendship longitudinally predicts intergroup attitudes in a coexistence program for Israelis and Palestinians, https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c171ac1710699e060ed3d94/t/5c7b0015b208fcd4071df492/1551564822844/befriending-the-enemy.pdf Seeds of Peace, https://www.seedsofpeace.org/ Braver Angels, https://braverangels.org/ Living Room Conversations, https://livingroomconversations.org/ Psychology of Technology Institute, https://www.psychoftech.org/ Juliana Schroeder, Michael Kardas, and Nicholas Epley, The Humanizing Voice: Speech Reveals, and Text Conceals, a More Thoughtful Mind in the Midst of Disagreement, https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c171ac1710699e060ed3d94/t/5c7aff6ae4966b9aba01f4d6/1551564652086/the-humanizing-voice.pdf Alicea Lieberman and Juliana Schroeder, Two social lives: How differences between online and offline interaction influence social outcomes, https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c171ac1710699e060ed3d94/t/5d5acd294a8ef600016e778a/1566231850150/TwoSocialLives_LiebermanSchroeder.pdf Jamie E. Guillory PhD Jeffrey T. Hancock PhD Christopher Woodruff MD, FRCPC, and Jeffrey Keilman MD, Text Messaging Reduces Analgesic Requirements During Surgery, https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/pme.12610 The Flipside, https://www.theflipside.io/ The Factual, https://www.thefactual.com/ All Sides, https://www.allsides.com/unbiased-balanced-news Daniel H. Stein, Juliana Schroeder, Nicholas M. Hobson, Francesca Gino, and Michael I. Norton, When Alterations Are Violations: Moral Outrage and Punishment in Response to (Even Minor) Alterations to Rituals, https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c171ac1710699e060ed3d94/t/5fda6b470917ce2aa86a82d8/1608149834372/When+alterations+are+violations+-+proofs.pdf Juliana Schroeder, Jane L. Risen, Francesca Gino, and Michael I. Norton, Handshaking Promotes Deal-Making by Signaling Cooperative Intent, https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5c171ac1710699e060ed3d94/t/5c7aff16e2c4834c1a2bee7c/1551564567399/handshaking-promotes-deal-making-by-signaling-cooperative-intent.pdf James A. Coan, Hillary S. Schaefer, Richard J. Davidson, Lending a Hand: Social Regulation of the Neural Response to Threat, https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01832.x Robert Talisse, Too Much of a Good Thing, https://www.discoursemagazine.com/politics/2020/11/06/too-much-of-a-good-thing/ Danielle Allen, A Matter of Trust, https://www.discoursemagazine.com/culture-and-society/2020/12/04/a-matter-of-trust/

Ponerse en los zapatos del otro confiando solamente en tu intuición no es una buena estrategia para saber qué puede estar pensando o sintiendo una persona. Va a ser necesario algo más por tu parte… si de verdad quieres conseguirlo. Referencia: Tal Eyal, Mary Steffel, Nicholas Epley. Perspective mistaking: Accurately understanding the mind of another requires getting perspective, not taking perspective.. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2018; 114 (4): 547 DOI: 10.1037/pspa0000115

Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want - by Nicholas Epley provided by the sivers.org site as a book notes article. This time a fucked a tiny bit up this is why the half of the video is black or whatever I have decided to put in place…but still a few very very important and interesting thoughts and things. I like it! —————————————————————

Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want - by Nicholas Epley provided by the sivers.org site as a book notes article. Really cool and interesting book so far! Looking forward to going through it today! It might help with overcoming biases and even, I guess, could help you upgrade your emotional intelligence. —————————————————————

Judy Gold is Funny For Fido Comedian Judy Gold joins us to talk about her burning desire to own a dog. She wants a big dog that sleeps with her and looks her in the eye. She minces no words when it comes to dressing up the dog. Listen Now Steven Applebaum is our guest. A former dog-trainer, he now heads up the Animal Behavior College. This institution trains humans for the pet industry. He wants to tell us about his new program training people to train cats. Oh, and yes, they are trainable. Listen Now Richest Acquisition in Internet History Chewy, the online pet product retailer that rocketed to nearly $1 billion in reported sales in only five years, has more than likely set a record for the richest acquisition in Internet history after Chewy was bought by the PetSmart pet store chain. Sources familiar with the deal say the price is $3.35 BILLION dollars. For PetSmart, it is all part of the company's transformational journey. Chewy's founder Ryan Cohen will remain CEO and Chewy will operate largely as an independent subsidiary. Listen Now Drone is a Game Changer for Lost Pets Hobbyist Kenneth Hendrick specifically bought his flying camera drone to look for lost pets in Florida. Teaming up with a Loxahatchee Lost and Found Pets Inc, they search for up to 95 animals a month. He says he reunites pet parents with cats, dogs, pigs, turtles and even calves. Listen Now Anthropomorphizing Your Pet Is Not "Stupid" Dr. Nicholas Epley, a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago says, "Historically, anthropomorphizing has been treated as a sign of childishness or stupidity." But, he claims it actually makes humans smarter and no other species has this tendency. Listen Now Read more about this week's show.

Laura shares some surprising and delightful research from social psychologist Nicholas Epley, and reflects on the kindnesses that have made a big difference in her own life during times of grief and loss. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Nick Epley is the John Templeton Keller Professor of Behavior Science at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He is the author of the book "Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want." In this episode, Cody talks to Nick about the value of true liberal arts education, the advantages of getting married young, learning the craft of psychology, Nick's crazy proposal to his wife (which didn't go as planned), having kids during grad school, the biggest differences between working in psych departments versus business schools, and what it means to design a good life. More info available at codykommers.com/podcast.

What if the very tech that connects us is taking away our need to interact? Technology connects us to more people than ever before. Yet, as Adam Waytz, author of the book, The Power of Human: How Our Shared Humanity Can Help Us Create a Better World, points out, the data shows we're interacting with one another a whole lot less. We can turn to our apps for restaurant recommendations and our social media platforms for insights into our friends' lives. And we can do all this without ever having to directly communicate with anyone. Adam believes this lack of human interaction is taking its toll. He contends that, "...people are becoming less engaged with each other, which then manifests in things like income inequality, political polarization...treating people as more members of a market economy...versus members of a community." To counter these tendencies, he believes we need to bring more meaning to work. In particular, he recommends, "Getting people to think about the way their work impacts other people..." Doing so helps people "...feel like their work matters and ultimately make[s] them feel more human, even as we see automation creeping around us."  Adam is an Associate Professor of Management and Organizations and a social psychologist at Northwestern University's Kellogg School of Management.  The Host You can learn more about Curious Minds' Host and Creator, Gayle Allen, and Producer, Rob Mancabelli, by clicking here. Episode Links adamwaytz.com What Money Can't Buy: The Moral Limit of Markets by Michael J. Sandel Social Empathy: The Art of Understanding Others by Elizabeth Segal Mistakenly Seeking Solitude by Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder Simple Ways to Support the Podcast If you enjoy the podcast, there are three simple ways you can support our work. First, subscribe so you'll never miss an episode. Second, tell a friend or family member. You'll always have someone to talk to about the interview. Third, rate and review the podcast wherever you subscribe. You'll be helping listeners find their next podcast. Look for Curious Minds podcast on: Spotify iTunes Tunein Stitcher Google Play Overcast

If you could have any superpower, what would it be? Most people say they’d want to read minds. But Prof. Nicholas Epley of the University of Chicago Booth School of Business says you already have that power: You just need to use it. Epley’s research has focused on the ways our minds understand, or fail to understand each other. Now, he’s expanded that research to look into why talking to strangers may be the key to better well-being, even if it’s difficult. Subscribe to Big Brains on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher and Spotify.

Expressing gratitude has scientifically proven benefits, both for expressor and recipient, and seems like an all-round good thing to do. So why aren’t we doing this more often? Turns out there’s some very good reasons, and those reasons can be overcome. - Research Paper: 'Undervaluing Gratitude: Expressers Misunderstand the Consequences of Showing Appreciation' by Amit Kumar and Nicholas Epley

Nicholas Epley is the John Templeton Keller Professor of Behavior Science at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He is the author of Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want. He studies social cognition—how thinking people think about other thinking people—to understand why smart people so routinely misunderstand each other. We cover a wide range of topics including why we guess and make inferences so often, why our intuition about others is often incorrect, and how to remedy our incorrect assumptions. Links Nicholas' Website Nicholas' Book: Mindwise Mindful Communication website Mindful Communication Facebook Mindful Communication Instagram

How do we walk through life and hardships, with our hearts open? This question is something that today's guest, Nicholas Epley, has learned through his own parenthood journey and beyond. As a professor of Behavioral Science, Nicholas researches how we think and why we make the decisions that we do, all of which has influenced ... The post Adoption, Loss, and Parenthood with Nicholas Epley appeared first on Expectful.

  Today we’re talking to Nicholas Epley, a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business whose research explores social cognition, and how people think about other people, to understand why smart people so routinely misunderstand each other. His research has appeared in more than two dozen empirical journals, has been featured by the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal among many other media outlets and he’s the author of Mindwise, How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel and Want. In this episode, we discuss how your brain’s ability to understand what others think, believe, feel and want helps you to connect with others.  Nick also explains how this often goes wrong at work due to over-confidence that results in interpersonal misunderstandings and what you can do to improve your ability to mind read when it comes to your relationships. Connect with Nick: Website:  http://faculty.chicagobooth.edu/nicholas.epley/   You’ll Learn: [01:57] - Nick explains how we all have a sixth sense that can help us to read each other’s minds. [03:28] - Nick shares why our ability to read the minds of others is vital for our ability to thrive in the world. [05:08] - Nick explains how our ability to read each other’s minds can often go wrong at work. [07:48] - Nick shares what his research has found about how our tendencies for social interpersonal misunderstandings can shape our relationships and our actions at work. [09:57] - Nick explains why interpreting people’s intent in our relationships can be so challenging. [11:31] - Nick explores how our ability to mind read at work could impact people’s levels of psychological safety. [13:15] - Nick shares what his research has found can help us to mind read more effectively. [18:09] - Nick explores how staying out of judgment, and sitting in curiosity might help us to get perspective and be better mindreaders. [19:33] - Nick outlines the findings from his recent research on why people are often reluctant to express gratitude to each other. [23:53] - Nick completes the lightning round. Your Resources: MPPW Podcast on Facebook Nudge by Richard H. Thaler The Wisest One in the Room by Tom Gilovitch Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for joining me again this week.  If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see at the bottom of this post. Please leave an honest review for the Making Positive Psychology Work Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them.  And don’t forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to get automatic updates. It’s free! You can also listen to all the episodes of Making Positive Psychology Work streamed directly to your smartphone or iPad through stitcher. No need for downloading or syncing. Until next time, take care!  Thank you Nick!

We discuss how to have better conversations with award-winning journalist, host of "On Second Thought" and author of "We Need To Talk", Celeste Headlee. Show Notes 1:35— Ian, Darren, and March introduce Celeste and share how we became familiar with her work. 4:24— Celeste talks about how the ability to communicate effectively is a unique human advantage and how losing the ability to communicate constructively can be the difference between life and death. 6:39— The difference between simply tolerating someone and truly understanding their perspective. 8:49— Ian is curious about whether cooperation is a universal human trait. 10:40— Celeste discusses the traits common to all humans; especially the strong need we all have to feel like we “belong”.” 13:56— Sympathy vs. empathy  17:43— Celeste helps Darren identify public role models who demonstrate constructive disagreement and references Brian Cox's response to the question about his spirituality (or lack thereof). 20:03— We discuss why mainstream media's excuse that they simply “give people what they want” is cop out. 22:33— Darren compares “click-bait” to empty calories in a food diet. 23:40— Celeste notes that “there is no replacement for the human voice as an effective tool for communication.” 24:25— Celeste shares how she became interested in the topic of constructive communication. 27:25— Darren shares an experience he had with a roommate in college that enlightened him about the power of giving others the benefit of the doubt. 28:35— March shares his thoughts about why constructive communication is critical for a healthy marriage. 30:20— Ian shares how a sales job early in his career taught him about the importance of making meaningful connections with others. 33:02— Ian asks Celeste how to maintain one's authenticity while trying to empathize with others and Celeste talks about how people regularly “code switch.” 34:15— “A great conversation is like a game of catch.” — Celeste Headlee 36:10— March asks Celeste for advice on how can each of us can make a contribution to a better public dialog; and Celeste shares new research with us on “The Liking Gap. 38:39— “Nobody waves, but almost everyone waves back.” — Celeste quoting from Nicholas Epley's book, Mindwise 39:34— Celeste shares a powerful tip for how we can help ourselves and others avoid falling into an “us vs them” mindset. 41:55— Ian shares how the human genome proves scientifically how much we have in common with one another. 42:50— We discuss social media as a tool that can be used constructively or destructively and the importance of being intentional with one's use of social media. 51:00— Why there is a reason to be optimistic for the future.  54:20— Ian does some spot research to reveal that the term “conversations” is on an upward trend on Google. Mentions

Do we know what others think? What about our partners or closest friends? Nick Epley, author of the book, Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want, explains that we can read the minds of others, but not nearly as well as we think. In fact, we can barely read our own minds.  Nicholas Epley is Professor of Behavioral Science at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. His research has appeared in more than two dozen journals, including the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology and the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, and his work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Wired, NPR, and on CNN. In this interview we discuss: The fact that we aren’t as good at understanding others -- even those closest to us -- as we think we are How our predictions of what a group thinks of us is are, on average, more accurate than what we think any one individual in that group thinks of us Why our confidence in how well we understand people we spend a lot of time with outstrips the accuracy with which we actually do understand them How the faster we decide what another person thinks can cause us to be that much more confident in our assessment, even if we’re wrong The gap between what we think we’ll do in a particular situation and the ways we behave when we’re actually in that situation How we’re really making up stories or guessing when we attempt to explain why we feel a certain way or take a particular action Why a surefire way to ensure we won’t understand others is to dismiss their capabilities, dehumanize them and, in general, distance ourselves from them How we can misunderstand others just by paying attention to different things or focusing on something else Why interpreting information differently from others -- seeing the same situation in a different way -- makes it difficult to understand their perspective How body language reveals much less than we assume when it comes to understanding what others are thinking The importance of perspective getting over perspective taking -- how we need to test out our understanding by asking the other person what their experience was like, listen to what they have to say and then repeat it back to ensure our understanding, rather than work from the stories we’ve made up in our minds How we’re happier connecting with strangers on trains, buses, and in cabs, though we predict we’d be happier if we kept to ourselves Links to Topics Mentioned in the Podcast Nicholas Epley at Chicago Booth Richard LaPiere The Influential Mind by Tali Sharot If you enjoy the podcast, please rate and review it on iTunes - your ratings make all the difference. For automatic delivery of new episodes, be sure to subscribe. As always, thanks for listening! Thank you to Emmy-award-winning Creative Director Vanida Vae for designing the Curious Minds logo, and thank you to Rob Mancabelli for all of his production expertise! www.gayleallen.net LinkedIn @GAllenTC

Judy Gold is Funny For Fido Comedian Judy Gold joins us to talk about her burning desire to own a dog. She wants a big dog that sleeps with her and looks her in the eye. She minces no words when it comes to dressing up the dog. Earl Holliman Dedicating His Life To Animals From stage and screen, actor Earl Holliman is back on Animal Radio to tell us about Fritz Coleman's Comedy Show to benefit Actors and Others for Animals spay and neuter programs. Richest Acquisition in Internet History Chewy, the online pet product retailer that rocketed to nearly $1 billion in reported sales in only five years, has more than likely set a record for the richest acquisition in Internet history after Chewy was bought by the PetSmart pet store chain. Sources familiar with the deal say the price is $3.35 BILLION dollars. For PetSmart, it is all part of the company's transformational journey. Chewy's founder Ryan Cohen will remain CEO and Chewy will operate largely as an independent subsidiary. Training Cats - Yep! Steven Applebaum is our guest. A former dog-trainer, he now heads up the Animal Behavior College. This institution trains humans for the pet industry. He wants to tell us about his new program training people to train cats. Oh, and yes, they are trainable. Anthropomorphizing Your Pet Is Not "Stupid" Dr. Nicholas Epley, a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago says, "Historically, anthropomorphizing has been treated as a sign of childishness or stupidity." But, he claims it actually makes humans smarter and no other species has this tendency. PETCO Wins Lawsuit After Rat Bite Fever Death A San Diego jury has sided with Petco in a lawsuit brought by the family of a 10-year-old boy who died after contracting an illness from a rat purchased at a Petco store. The jury found Petco was not negligent or liable in the death of Aidan Pankey four years ago. The boy's father filed a 20 million-dollar lawsuit saying that Petco knows the rats it sells are likely to carry rat-bite fever. Read more about this week's show.

Nicholas Epley, professor of behavioral science, debunks some dangerous myths about gender differences. Prof. Epley is the author of "Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want". This talk kicked off the Annual CWiB (Chicago Women in Business) Open House event.

Nicholas Epley, professor of behavioral science, debunks some dangerous myths about gender differences. Prof. Epley is the author of "Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want". This talk kicked off the Annual CWiB (Chicago Women in Business) Open House event.

with Nicholas Epley.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We constantly making inferences about the thoughts and beliefs of others but how often do we get it right? On this episode, Dr. Nicholas Epley, professor at the University of Chicago's Booth School of Business discusses Mindwise.

Interview with Nicholas Epley, professor of Behavioral Science at the University of Chicago, about our intuition and decision making. Learn more about Dr. Epley at www.msichicago.org/podcast.