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Welcome to the Radically Loved Radio Podcast! In a world where we are bombarded with information, and overwhelming stress, we have forgotten what it’s like to truly connect to ourselves. In this podcast we discuss different ways of achieving the mind/body/spirit connection, learning to create more…

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    Episode 405. Understand Emotions and the Consequences of Transference with Long time Listener Nicky Sciortino

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2021 46:10


    Understand Emotions and the Consequences of Transference with long time listener Nicky Sciortino Have you ever been mad at someone who hadn't done anything to you? Or perhaps felt that someone was upset at you for no reason? Everyone handles negative emotions differently — some people respond with forgiveness and mindfulness. However, sometimes we hold those negative emotions inside us. If we don't  , we pass them onto others and get angry at people who don't deserve it. This phenomenon is called transference.   In this episode, Nicky Sciortino discusses transference and its significance in our lives. She also encourages us to examine our emotions and acknowledge if we have committed transference before. Accepting ourselves is only half of the battle. Nicky guides us into finding solutions to avoid redirecting our negative emotions and feelings to others.   If you want to understand emotions, and reconnect with your authentic self, stay tuned to this episode!   This episode is brought to you by... OSEA  Get 10% OFF with code LOVED go to OSEAmalibu.com Blenders Eyewear www.blenderseyewear.com enter promo code: LOVEDVIP to get 15% off your Blenders purchase!  Everywell You get 20% off an at-home lab test at www.everlywell.com/loved Prose www.prose.com/loved for your FREE in-depth hair consultation and 15% OFF your supplements!   Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:   Discover the meaning of transference. Uncover ways to avoid redirecting our negative emotions to others. Learn why it helps to understand emotions and find our authentic selves.   Resources Join the Free 10-Day Radically Loved Summit here! Get a copy of Finding Yourself in the World by Nicky Sciortino Connect with Nicky through Facebook The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz The Work by Bryon Katie Know more about Warriors at Ease Send an email to info@radicallyloved.com to recommend topics on Wisdom Wednesday!   Episode Highlights Nicky, an Avid Listener of Radically Loved Nicky incorporated the lessons she learned on the Radically Loved podcast in her yoga classes. She loved listening to the podcast, especially during the pandemic, where she couldn't talk to her friends as much. Listening to the show was like getting to have girl talk with her friends. About Transference Transference refers to redirecting the feelings you have from one person to another individual. You know you're on the receiving end because you can't find a reasonable explanation for the other person's behavior. Nicky experienced transference when she joined a yoga class led by an upset instructor. Tune in to the full episode to hear the story! Nicky went back to what she learned from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements. One of these lessons is don't take anything personally. Projecting is different from transference. It refers to attributing your negative emotions and qualities to another person. Nicky's Experience of Committing Transference Nicky had a student who kept getting under her skin. She can't figure out why. After Nicky's yoga class, a student roughly 30 years her senior would frequently ask her basic questions about the class, or for personal advice. Instead of reacting negatively, Nicky took the time to examine herself and understand emotions. When you lash out at someone, you're expressing your pent-up negative emotions. It's your responsibility to understand why you react the way you do. Not Everyone Can Be a Teacher People practice yoga to feel nourished, filled, and connected to their bodies and community. It's not a space to be criticized or dismissed. Yoga teachers wield a lot of power and influence. Therefore, they carry a lot of responsibility. We should focus on quality instead of the number of yoga instructors. Yoga teachers must actively pursue their yogic path to teach a more profound type of practice. Understand Emotions, Be Aware of Transference The topic of transference reminded Tessa of Ram Dass's quote: "I would like my life to be a statement of love and compassion—and where it isn't, that's where my work lies.” Examining ourselves if we committed transference is difficult and scary because it makes us vulnerable. Yoga teachers should be aware when they redirect negative emotions to others. Many tools can help you avoid transference. Peel back the layers of the onion, understand emotions, and scrub yourself! When you're a recipient of transference, remember that it's the other person's issue and not yours. Continue Reflecting on Ourselves It's crucial to continue examining ourselves and help others do the same. Take accountability and invite in that compassion and self-study all at once. There may not be a pot at the end of the rainbow, but it's beautiful to see ourselves evolve through time. Working on ourselves allows us to live an authentic life. In unraveling our embedded thoughts and beliefs, we become fully present.   5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode   [13:35] “...we're all works in progress. We all make mistakes — and how do you learn from it?”   [21:43] “When you're able to take care of your own demons, they don't become triggers anymore.”   [22:34] “Whenever somebody makes you angry, remember that they're an empty boat. That anger exists inside of you. It's your job to understand those triggers. It's your job to not be the reactor.”   [24:42] “If people were more conscious and awake about their own personal experience, we wouldn't have as many unfavorable interactions with other people.”   [37:46] “The whole purpose of doing all of this is to unravel all of those embedded thoughts and beliefs and transform them into exactly what is present.”   About Nicky   Nicky Sciortino is an author, illustrator, and yoga instructor. She wrote the book Finding Yourself in the World that follows one puzzle piece's journey to find its unique gifts and talents.   Nicky first tried yoga to prevent injury as she was training for the marathon. She later fell in love with the practice as it complimented every aspect of her life. It helped her prepare mentally during jiu-jitsu competitions and made her know her body better.   She became a Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT) in 2017. Since then, she has taught yoga in different venues, from studios to military bases! Nicki is also passionate about applying sports medicine and yoga philosophy during class to help her students feel mentally and physically better. You can connect with Nicky through Facebook.   Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! By sharing, you can help people understand emotions and how they influence how we think and act.   Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved.   Do you want to help people find their direction again in their career and personal life? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media.   Don't forget to send us messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Thanks for listening!   To feeling radically loved, Rosie      


    Episode 404. A Guide To Pregnancy Options And Fertility Alternatives With Dr. Jessie Rubin

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2021 37:10

    A Guide To Pregnancy Options And Fertility Alternatives With Dr. Jessie Rubin Having children is a lifelong dream for many women. For some, they see it as their purpose and calling in life. However, pregnancy is not something that comes easy for all women. The journey looks different for every individual, and various factors affect how it goes. Fortunately, there are various pregnancy options  for women who are having a hard time getting pregnant naturally. And these alternatives are all valid ways to build a family. In this episode, Dr. Jessie Rubin joins us to talk about fertility struggles and pregnancy options. She discusses the process of IVF, how to optimize its success, and its cost. She also touches on the different treatments and options for female and male infertility. Dr. Jessie then lays down some critical tips in optimizing women's chances of pregnancy. She imparts how to make the initial consult and the importance of seeing a fertility specialist. Tune in to this episode to learn the different alternatives for natural pregnancy.       This Episode is brought to you by.. Story Worth Get $10 off your first order by going to www.storyworth.com/loved     Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand the different processes of infertility treatment. Learn why both female and male fertility testing are critical in the pregnancy journey. Find out how to optimize women's chances of getting pregnant. Resources Reproductive Biology Associates American Society for Reproductive Medicine Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Reason for Increasing Women's Fertility Struggles Women are delaying when to have children. They make sure we feel professionally, personally, and spiritually ready before deciding to have children. Women are becoming more open and vocal about their fertility journey. It used to be taboo to talk about fertility struggles. But now, it's becoming a common thing to talk about. Pregnant at 35 or Geriatric There's a notion that women need to have kids before 35. Otherwise, they will be considered geriatric. Reaching 35 increases the risk of high blood pressure, diabetes, and pregnancy complications. Health is more critical in increasing the chance of a successful pregnancy at any age. In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) IVF is an excellent option for women struggling with natural pregnancy or who have a fallopian tube problem. One branch of IVF is freezing eggs and doing fertility preservation. The IVF process takes about two weeks. It involves taking medication to have the body get overstimulated and grow more than one egg. Egg retrieval happens after two weeks of daily medication. The process only involves around three to four doctor's visits. It's often a successful option depending on a woman's personal fertility journey. Embryo Banking Embryo banking involves doing multiple IVF cycles in a row. An embryo is a fertilized egg. Many women in their mid to late-30s who want to have multiple children take part in this process. We also refer to the fertilized eggs collected in this process as “embryos for the future.” Optimizing IVF Success It becomes hard to be successful with IVF as women get older. Changes in both the health and number of eggs start in the mid-30s. IVF becomes a challenge for women in their early 40s because of the diminishing egg number and quality. It's best to make an appointment with a fertility doctor for assessment sooner rather than later. IVF Cycle Success Rate Younger women are more likely to undergo fewer IVF cycles and find success. Ovarian reserve involves undergoing blood tests and ultrasound to check for the egg count. The higher the egg count is, the better. Not everybody's IVF journey is the same. The individual woman and the results of their partner's screening are matters of consideration. Male Fertility Testing Men's fertility doesn't get affected as much as women get by age. However, reaching the age of 45 may show some increased risk for future offspring. About 20 to 25% of infertility cases involve a male factor component. It's crucial to have the male partner assessed as well from the initial visit. Men can make sperm every couple of months. However, it also takes some time to treat abnormalities once they get detected. Options for Male Infertility The treatment can include taking multivitamins, hormone medication, and surgery like a testicular biopsy to extract sperm. The field of male infertility has developed significantly over the last years. Men doing semen analysis is just as important as women doing fertility testing. Initial Steps for Women's Infertility Treatment Fertility assessment becomes necessary for women under 35 who have been trying to get pregnant for over a year. There's a 20% chance to get pregnant every month if everything's healthy and normal. Doctors recommend doing a fertility evaluation for women in their mid-30s who have been trying for six months. Fallopian tube issues, fibroids, polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), and irregular menstrual cycles should be addressed by a fertility doctor. How to Optimize Women's Chance of Pregnancy Know whether you fit under normal parameters or infertility. Check with a fertility doctor for baseline testing if there's anything you're worried about. Make sure to take prenatal vitamins and lead a healthy lifestyle. Pregnancy puts stress on the body. Being healthy helps ensure a successful and uncomplicated pregnancy and postpartum course. Options for Women with Low Egg Count Having very low egg counts can mean not growing enough eggs for a successful IVF cycle. The first option is to try and see how you will respond with IVF. Another option is taking oral medications and combining them with insemination. It tries to get you to grow only two or three eggs. The third alternative is donor egg therapy or treatment. It involves using eggs from a woman donor who's typically in her 20s. Women can purchase donor eggs, fertilize them with a partner donor sperm, and carry on with the pregnancy. It works for women of different ages. Fertility Treatment Financial Options Jessie's clinic Reproductive Biology Associates (RBA) is part of the Prelude Fertility Network. The Prelude Fertility Network offers discounted rates for egg freezing ranging from $9000 to $11,000 per cycle. RBA also offers discounted rates for multiple IVF cycle packages. Patients can also apply for loan programs and other financing options. There are many fertility treatment grants for women diagnosed with cancer. How Dr. Jessie Became a Fertility Specialist Jessie wanted to be a physician from a young age. She came from a family of doctors. She used to joke that she doesn't want to be an OB-GYN because she doesn't want to deal with hormonal women. She immediately realized it was where she wanted to be during her infertility rotation during medical school. Her job is to figure out how to take the stress off the patient's journey and get them pregnant. Tune in to the full episode to hear more about Dr. Jessie's job! She doesn't feel she's working because she's having fun helping women create babies. 5 Powerful Quotes [19:32] “Remember that even though there are traditional statistics of how women's egg number declines with time, not everybody is exactly like the statistic.” [20:02] "I think the biggest message overall is although it can be really intimidating to sit down with a fertility doctor and hear what might be wrong, or what might not be a normal result, it's really helpful because there's a lot of different options that are out there." [29:08] “While it's such a hard journey, I think it's really called a journey for a reason because for most women, it's not an easy thing. And there are bumps along the way but most of the time we are able to achieve that success at the end..” [33:50] “The universe works for us and not against us. And I think we see that by looking around in the world, in the environment, all the support of friends and family, especially for people going through fertility journeys.” [34:00] “We don't operate as independent beings, I think we are so shaped by the environment we were raised in and the community that's around us.” About Dr. Jessie Dr. Jessica Rubin is a board-certified Obstetrics & Gynecology Specialist and Reproductive Endocrinologist. Dr. Jessie's clinical interests include fertility preservation, in vitro fertilization, third-party reproduction, PCOS, and diminished ovarian reserve. Furthermore, she focuses on fertility preservation for women undergoing cancer therapy. Dr. Jessie is known as a passionate patient advocate providing an individualized approach to fertility medicine. She has received several awards for her scholastic achievements and research endeavors. She has also co-authored book chapters on ways to preserve fertility for cancer patients. If you wish to connect with Dr. Jessie, you may visit Reproductive Biology Associates. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help others reap the benefits of connecting with people? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 403. Discover Your True Mentor in Integrating Wisdom

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2021 52:01


    Discover Your True Mentor in Integrating Wisdom The unpleasant reality of growth may bury our dreams into the depths of despair. Along the way, we might stumble upon multiple failures that hinder us from moving forward. Misunderstandings often arise because we fail to transform errors into our own learning process. In this episode, Tessa and Rosie exchanged ideas on the essence of encapsulating knowledge before relaying them to others. They define the traits of a good mentor and the reasons why we need their guidance. To keep the podcast exciting, Rosie shares her harsh experience and encounters with unexpected people before becoming the person she is now. If you desire to embody your wisdom and search for your true mentorship, this episode is definitely for you!        This Episode is brought to you by... BiOptimizers www.bioptimizers.com/radicallyloved Use Code: radicallyloved10 for 10% OFF your first purchase ISSUU Get started with ISSUU for FREE or if you sign up for a Premium account get 50% OFF using my code below www.issuu.com/podcast Promo Code: ROSIE Tru Niagen www.truniagen.com/rosie 10% OFF your First Purchase Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover ways to integrate wisdom into your experiences. Learn how to assess and search for your right mentor. Find out how Rosie and Tessa feel radically loved by listening to the full episode! Resources Subscribe to Tessa Tovar's Newsletter. Integrate your mind, body, and spirit with the Radically Loved Summit. Episode Highlights Integrating Wisdom and Experience Embodying knowledge is key when imparting it to another. Mere pieces of training are inadequate in compensating experiences. Wisdom comes in lived experience. Without the experience, a person would encounter more issues than necessary. We have to be a ‘seasoned captain' with an ‘equipped vessel' to survive the tide. Becoming an expert at something is a ‘marathon', not a ‘sprint'. Process of Applying Knowledge Imitate, integrate, and then innovate from your mentors' learnings. Have a mentor to mimic their teachings. Integrate the knowledge and put it into practice. Lastly, apply the teachings and practices of your own accord when you pursue something. Searching for the Right Mentor When finding your mentor, assess it with the way they integrate their teachings. Utilize your instinct when choosing the right mentor for you. Embody and integrate the teachings of your mentor. First-time Experiences Perfectionism shouldn't stop us from delving into our pursuit. Being uncomfortable when attempting a new vocation is part of the process. First attempts are always the hardest. Some people are born with it, while others need to work harder to catch up. Wearing the beginner's hat is a humbling, yet important experience to have. Signs of a Good Mentor A good teacher tells you the difficulty of being in the learning process. Someone handing you your career on a silver platter won't last you long in the industry. Achieving something substantial in life needs to stand the test of time. Rosie's Meeting with Her Book-Writing Agents Her psychic advised her to participate in a writer's conference. During the conference, she proceeded to book pitch meeting sessions with three different agents. At first, she was unaware that a book proposal was required for the pitch sessions. Immediately, she created the proposal consisting of two pages through Google Docs. Her first rejection left her devastated. An agent told her that the meeting was a waste of both of their respective times. However, she met a person who granted her hope after the embarrassment. Listen to the podcast to find out how finding the right person guided Rosie through her book-writing journey. Rosie's Lessons from Harsh Realities She wouldn't have changed the interaction she had with her first agent. The harshness was exactly what she needed to fuel her passion and proceed. The reality is that people would usually judge a person by their outward success instead of analyzing the work that has led to their current standing. Once you've accomplished your dream, external validation suddenly doesn't even matter anymore. Rosie's Meeting with the Right Mentor You meet mentors at unexpected places. If it wasn't because of her psychic's advice, she wouldn't be who she is right now. The late Michael Stone was also the reason she started her own podcast. Tessa's Closing Thoughts It's never too late to delve into a new pursuit and learn something from it despite the failure. Transform the negative criticisms into a learning experience. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [10:14] “A captain with a well-equipped vessel that's not been seasoned, is dangerous.”   [20:41] “I feel like when we're not having those moments of discomfort, we're getting really settled in our little cozy blanket of staying the same.”   [28:32] “Google is your best friend when you have no idea where to start.”   [45:57] “We encourage you to utilize your own internal experience, use your wisdom, find the people in your life that are going to help you get there.”   [47:51] “What I guess I would say is how I'm feeling is that it's never too late to try again, to pick it up to fail again, and learn something new.” Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help others who are grieving a loss in their lives? Then trust your instinct and share what you've learned today on social media! Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie  


    Episode 402. Navigating Life on a Wing and a Prayer: Having a Spiritual Practice with Kushal M. Choksi

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2021 29:14

    Navigating Life on a Wing and a Prayer: Having a Spiritual Practice with Kushal M. Choksi Life is not a race. We've heard it countless times before. But with how our society is right now, it's not easy to unsee it as such. Many people are deep into the hustle culture. We're wired to grind, grind, grind without stopping. But if we pause and look at the greater scheme of things, is it really all worth it? Is running a rat race all there is to life? No—and it doesn't have to take a momentous event for us to wake up and start truly living our lives. In this episode, Kushal M. Choksi joins us to talk about his life-changing spiritual practice  and meditation journey. He writes about this story in his book On A Wing And A Prayer. Kushal lets us in on the deeper meaning behind the book and its title. He also shares his definition of spirituality and how everyone can acquire this state of being. Kushal says that we are never too busy to meditate. It's a matter of little time commitment and finding your modality. Tune in to this episode to learn how to achieve a naturally still state of mind with a spiritual practice!     This episode is brought to you by... Tonal: www.tonal.comTry tonal for 30 days risk free! Get $100 OFF all smart accessories with promo code: ROSIE   Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Reflect on the rat race we call life. Discover how having a spiritual practice can help you navigate life better. Find out two things that will help you get unstuck. Resources Connect with Kushal: Website | LinkedIn | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram On a Wing and a Prayer: Spirituality for the reluctant, the curious and the seeker by Kushal Choksi Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for more episodes of Radically Loved. Stay updated on Rosie's upcoming book launch and 2022 international retreats by subscribing to the newsletter! Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights What Led Kushal to Write a Book It took Kushal almost 20 years to tell On a Wing and a Prayer's story. Prior to 9/11, Kushal was deep into the rat race of wanting to live the American dream. He worked in Wall Street and had a type-A personality. His miraculous 9/11 escape woke him up. At that moment, he began questioning the status quo. Kushal stumbled upon the journey of breathwork and meditation, which changed his life. He believes it's worthwhile to share what he has experienced with the world. Going through the Motions of Life Going through the motions of our careers is a strange self-fulfilling prophecy. The more you succeed, the faster the currents drag you along. You'll wake up one day, and 20 or 30 years of your life have gone past. As humans, it is supposedly in our nature to evolve. Yet, it often takes a momentous event for us to drop the monotonous, mundane rat race and aspire for something bigger. On a Wing and a Prayer The book title's double meaning roots from Kushal's interest in aviation. WWII pilot Hugh Ashcraft Jr. came back from the enemy war-front while operating a damaged plane. He radioed the tower: "I'm coming into land on a wing and a prayer." Kushal thought that Hugh Ashcraft Jr.'s experience was analogous to his story. Being a First-Time Author The feedback on his book has been very encouraging. He wanted to put himself out there with no filters and tinted glasses. Kushal calls it “open kimono” writing. He had no process in writing the book; the book wrote itself. Digging through the memories of 9/11 was the most challenging part of writing. Kushal also had difficulty with the chronology of events. Overall, he enjoyed the book writing process. Kushal's Definition of Spirituality To Kushal, being spiritual is being natural in any circumstances. A spiritual practice, in essence, is about being in touch with yourself. Life becomes so natural and in a flow state when you're in touch with yourself effortlessly. The Impact of the Pandemic The pandemic evoked very similar emotions from that of Kushal's 9/11 experience. It was the same familiar walls narrowing in. But his response to it was very different from the first time around. It was much more effortless and seamless to go through without bogging him down completely. Having a Spiritual Practice The pursuit of joy, desires, and ambitions is not mutually exclusive to meditation and spiritual practice. Kushal previously had a wrong notion that meditation was anti-progress. He thought he had to give up everything to meditate. Even taking 20 minutes out of the day for your spiritual practice can make everything much more vibrant. What He Wants Readers to Feel After Reading the Book Kushal wants readers to feel that if he can do it, anyone can. Getting into a still state of mind is not something that requires years of practice. We all have it; it's only a matter of uncovering it through a little time commitment for your spiritual practice. He wants every soul on the planet to experience a thoughtless state of mind, as it is a source of creativity, productivity, and liveliness. How to Get Unstuck First, look at life as a game. Perceive it as something you go through without emotions. Second, adopt a practice—anything that will get you out of it. Unpleasant things in life will always happen. How you go through it will depend on the conditioning of your mind. It's the patterns of our minds that keep us stuck to something. You will move without feeling stuck if you remove the grip of that conditioning in your system. Figure out your own modality. What worked for Kushal is the SKY breath technique. SKY Breath-Based Technique SKY is a breathing technique that makes use of the rhythms of our breath. It introduces coherence and harmony within ourselves. Our physical, cognitive, perception, memory, intellect, and ego functions go out of whack as life happens to us. A few minutes of SKY breath meditation brings them into a rhythm. Naturally feeling in the moment is feeling unstuck for Kushal. Feeling unstuck becomes natural even after just a few days of practicing the technique. No Such Thing as “Too Busy” for Meditation We have a lot of time on our hands. We're never too busy to meditate. For an arrow to tear forward, you have to pull it back. Taking a few minutes out of the day to connect with yourself is key to effectively showing up in life. Mental hygiene is also just as important as physical hygiene. The information we used to consume in 30 years, we now consume in 3 months. The world demands more of us, so we need to take more care of our mental health. It's critical to keep our vital force and energy up. Breathing and a calm state of mind are crucial yet ignored sources of energy. How Kushal Feels Radically Loved Being in the moment is how Kushal feels radically loved. It's being grateful that the universe is loving us unconditionally in every moment. Feeling grateful and being aware of it brings that love. 5 Powerful Quotes [03:23] “If our nature is to evolve, we're all moving, step-by-step evolving towards a higher purpose, then why does it take a momentous event, maybe a loss or a 9/11, for us to wake up and ask that bigger question that actually moves us toward our goal?” [09:36] “To me, being spiritual is being natural in any circumstances, being yourself no matter what.” [10:17] “When you're in touch with that delicate space within you, I think everything that you do in life just becomes so natural and normal. It just flows.” [14:27] “Even wanting to enjoy the world, wanting to enjoy life and the pursuits, desires, and ambitions, they're not mutually exclusive to your practice of meditation.” [22:12] “For an arrow to tear forward, you have to pull it back a little bit.” About Kushal Kushal M. Choksi is an entrepreneur, author, and former Wall Street trader. Narrowly surviving the 9/11 attacks and escaping death made him realize that that life was too short to be playing safe. Since then, he became the founder and CEO of Clavileno Capital. Together with his wife, they co-founded Elements Truffles, an artisanal chocolate company. Kushal also wrote the book On a Wing and a Prayer. It tells his account of narrowly escaping death during the 9/11 attacks. He shares his journey of spiritual practice, shadowing the spiritual leader Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar. If you wish to connect with Kushal, you may visit his website, LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want others to understand how crucial a spiritual practice is, and how meditation can help make life more vibrant? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 401. #WisdomWednesday — What's Meant to Be: Discerning Ego And Dharma With Gerardo Gonzalez

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2021 54:47

    #WisdomWednesday — What's Meant to Be: Discerning Ego And Dharma With Gerardo Gonzalez As the saying goes, the ego is the enemy. We all have to battle with our egos as we try to understand ourselves. It's also challenging to discover our dharma — our path to becoming what we're meant to be . It can be a challenging quest to complete as we face external pressure and worldly desires. Becoming aware of our ego is key to keeping ourselves grounded and balanced as we search for our divine purpose. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa sit down with their first-ever guest on Wisdom Wednesday, Gerardo Gonzalez. Gerardo shares his story and seeks to find wisdom about his ego-driven struggle to follow his dharma. They answer the question, “How do you differentiate ego and dharma?” Rosie and Tessa also share their insights on dealing with the ego without allowing it to take over your dharma. They leave pieces of advice for Gerardo's quest to unfold his path while staying balanced and grounded. Tune in to this episode and discover how to fulfill your dharma without letting your ego take over!       This episode is brought to you by... MyFitnessPal Get a one month premium subscription today! loved.myfitnesspal.com use the code: loved   Wondery: Uncommon Ground https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/uncommon-ground-with-van-jones/id1589218971   Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand the difference between operating from the ego and fulfilling your dharma. Hear Gerardo's story about his ego-driven struggle to fulfill his dharma.  Learn from Rosie and Tessa's pieces of advice for Gerardo about becoming what you're meant to be. Resources Connect with Gerardo: Instagram Watch Wisdom Wednesday videos on YouTube We'd love to get a listener on board the Wisdom Wednesday Podcast! Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com with the subject “Wisdom Wednesday Guest” and tell us your name, contact information, and any topic or question you'd want to discuss.   Episode Highlights A Little About Gerardo Gerardo is a yoga teacher with almost 300 hours of training. He also has an engineering job. Yoga is his passion. He dreams of opening a yoga studio but is unsure if getting a studio is his dharma or would be nothing more than fueling his ego. Defining Ego The ego is a klesha — one of the five afflictions of the mind. It's a desire for more pleasure. The other four are ignorance, attachment, aversion, and fear of death. When you operate from any of these states, it's going to cause suffering. The ego is a part of us that desires validation. It's an insatiable type of energetic or power-driven acquisition. When we feed our ego, we feed a part of ourselves that isn't serving our highest good. Defining Dharma Your dharma is your path, journey, destination, or unique pathway to achieving enlightenment or happiness. It is a predetermined path that you instinctively acquire. Straying away from your path can cause unhappiness. Ego vs. Dharma Operating from the ego is very self-serving. Meanwhile, following your dharma is self-serving while also being in the service of others. When you follow your dharma, you do act without any expectations. Your ego serves your worldly or fleeting desires. Your dharma serves your spiritual desires. Differentiating Ego and Dharma Ask yourself, "would I do this if I wasn't getting paid?" or, "would I do this if I knew nobody would ever see it?" If you answer yes, then it's a higher calling. It's your dharma — it's meant to be. Play the whole thing in your mind. Imagine doing something without money, recognition, or attention. There's always going to be ego. What matters is how you utilize your ego to fuel what your purpose is meant to be. The ego and dharma can work together in harmony if the ego does not take the reins. Following The Path to What You're Meant to Be It's challenging to follow a path that can't pay your bills. Rosie diversified her yoga career and stabilized the path she wanted to take. For Rosie, once you find the gravitas, there is just you and success. Rosie's advice is: dive in. Gerardo's Story His yoga teacher training experience allowed him to discover that he has a well-developed ego and wanted to work on it. He acknowledges that his ego helped him get to where he is, but it also hampers him. Gerardo shares that he worries about anything that feeds his ego — he thinks it's dangerous. He gets vulnerable when his students acknowledge his work as a yoga teacher. Rosie's Response To Gerardo Awareness of the ego is a step in the right direction to what's meant to be. There is a difference between being confident and being egocentric. It's okay to be recognized for helping others. What's important is you don't allow your ego to take over and prevent you from what's meant to be. Allow yourself to have the confidence to say you're a good teacher. Be proud that you can help other people. It's still important to have the confidence to do something well. That confidence can inspire someone else to be confident too. Tessa's Response To Gerardo It's a matter of knowing how to stay balanced and grounded even if our ego is getting fed. The practices in your life that keep you grounded are your safety net. We need our checks and balances to keep us honest. When it comes to jumping into a new venture, practice the worst-case scenario in your head to see if you are open to failure and capable of adjusting. Rosie's Writing Journey Rosie opens up about her journey of writing a book and dealing with final edits. She shares how her ego made her feel that her work could be better due to her perfectionist tendencies. She explains to Gerardo that expectations coming from the desire to be perfect are premeditated resentment. Those come from the ego. Rosie assures Gerardo that it is a challenge to follow your path without getting the ego involved. Awareness is critical. 5 Powerful Quotes [18:14] “There's always going to be ego in whatever you do, right? But how are you going to utilize it to fuel what your purpose is? As opposed to, ‘allow the ego to take over and let the ego take the reins.'” [22:14] "If we let the ego drive — like if the ego is in the driver's seat with the reins — we can become these people that are so far separated from our Dharma and our self that we don't even recognize that maybe we take a wrong turn, and it becomes very dark and scary and lonely." [23:06] “Your character is a result of you living your Dharma.” [29:44] “I think it's ego [that] has helped me get there, but I can't rely on that. It's also hampering me.” [35:00] “I think it's really important to have confidence but to not let it become egocentric.” About the Guest Gerardo Gonzalez is a yoga teacher, engineer, father of three, and the first-ever guest on Wisdom Wednesday. He is passionate about experiencing a well-lived life through yoga, books, travel, food, and experiences. He currently has an engineering job but seeks to venture into a path living out his passion for yoga. For him, yoga is a tool that enables him to live a good life. You can connect with Gerardo via Instagram.

    Episode 400. The Importance of Self-Care and Freedom for Woman Empowerment with Amina AlTai

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2021 35:20

    Society has a lot to say about what women can and can't do. Historically, women have always been more subject to absurd rules, constraints, and restrictions—things we're still unlearning today. To reach true freedom, we have to heal from these decades of societal trauma fully. That's why woman empowerment  is a phrase that carries a lot of weight. In this episode, Amina AlTai talks about her mission of helping women reconnect and come home to themselves. She shares how she healed from crashing and burning and how it led her to become a coach. Amina delves into woman empowerment, purpose, wisdom, community, faith, freedom, and self-care. She also discusses women's relationship with money and guilt in attaining financial success. Tune in to this episode if you want to reconnect with yourself as a woman and be a vehicle for woman empowerment!   This episode is brought to you by... BiOptimizerswww.bioptimizers.com/radicallyloved Use Code: radicallyloved10 for 10% OFF your first purchase Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Find out the difference between wisdom and knowledge. Discovery why women should perpetually choose faith and freedom for woman empowerment. Learn more about a woman's relationship with money and financial success. Resources Connect with Amina: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook TED Talk: How to build your confidence -- and spark it in others | Brittany Packnett JARS System of Money Management Amina's Authentic Passion and Purpose Worksheet Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights The Power of Names It's worth mentioning that in honoring how people want to be addressed, we should be considerate of their pronouns and names. We lose some of our identity when people mispronounce our names. A lot of whitewashing happens around the names of people of color. People mispronounce Amina's first name more than her last name. Tune in to the full episode to hear about Rosie's childhood struggle with her name! How Amina Became a Coach Amina started her career in marketing and brand management. She worked in Corporate America for a while before putting up her own agency. In her late 20s, she was deeply codependent. Leading big teams and clients at her own expense led to a crash and burn. Amina developed two autoimmune diseases; that became her "stop" moment. It made her conscious of the choices she had been making. She then went on an "Eat, Pray, Love" year. She went back to school and studied coaching, nutrition, movement, and meditation to heal herself. She realized she had to figure out how to teach the things she learned. So, Amina went on to create a corporate wellness company. Learning How to Teach from the Fullness of Herself After starting the company, Amina realized she was teaching only from a part of herself. Amina started to reflect on how she could teach from the fullness of herself. She had a series of conversations with God about her purpose and mission. Her curriculum is for female leaders and women of color who want to step into their purpose. The work she has been doing is about woman empowerment and inviting women to come home to themselves. Serving from the place of cultural, familial, and societal programming creates a disconnect. Amina's work is about reconnection. Getting Invited to Look at Her Life We always get invitations to look at ourselves in different ways. But sometimes, we don't go deeper because we take it to mean something else. Amina's invitation came during her late 20s in the form of autoimmune diseases. The pivot in her early 30s was feeling depressed from an inner resistance. The Biggest Issue with Connecting with Our Sense of Woman Empowerment A barrier to connecting with woman empowerment is having full permission and feeling safe to show up in the fullness of your being. Brittany Packnett Cunningham's TED talk says we need community, curiosity, and permission to build confidence. Woman empowerment requires that we permit ourselves to feel our own greatness. We practice permission in the community through the lens of curiosity. Then, we take it to bigger stages and expressions. Building a Community During a Pandemic Amina is optimistic about seeing people again physically. Currently, she's living in a hybrid world where she meets with her clients and friends via Zoom and in-person. She loves being in a community and is ready for more. Amina hopes that the world will be supportive of that soon. What Wisdom Means to Amina Wisdom, for Amina, is the connection, trust, and collaboration with our Godself. She was disconnected from her Godself when she was starting her journey. Empirical data and information do not equal wisdom. Wisdom is measured by our soul and our relationship with spirituality and a higher power. The most transformational experiences for Amina in the last decade were her relationships with God, Godself, and wisdom versus knowledge. The Lessons Amina Teaches We teach the lessons we need most. The lessons that remain part of Amina's transformative process are choosing faith over fear and reaching freedom. Many women don't feel free. And this feeling interrupts our expression and success. Amina knows it's time to “do the work all over again” when she feels the lack of freedom stifling. She reflects on the areas she still needs to work around. Nourishing and Taking Care of Ourselves Many women feel like they have to give away everything they have. Amina thinks holistically about nourishing herself. It involves spirituality, food, movement, boundaries, finances, community, and more. The hours before 11 am is Amina's non-negotiable God time. It's part of her spiritual practice when she's cultivating her godliness. On Our Relationship with Money Money is deeply spiritual. It connects to everywhere, including our relationship with energy and food. Money isn't just about money; it's about what we can do and who we can help with it. We have to understand our lineage of belief around money. Then, we have to identify the relationship we want to create with it moving forward. Integrity with money is different for everyone. Amina is inviting people to get conscious of it. Women reinvest up to 80% of their money into communities and families. Meanwhile, men reinvest only around 30%. Amina's Practice with Money Amina's money practice is spiritual. The JARS system encourages you to have different jars for the valuable areas of your life. Then, you will redirect the percentages of money you earn into those jars. Through this system, you see the energy of growth and momentum. On a Woman's Guilt Around Attaining Financial Success Historically, it's new for women to have autonomy around money. We're healing decades of women's trauma around money in our generation. Women are still trying to figure out money, its energy, and what it looks like for them. What's Next for Amina It's always a joy and honor for Amina to meet women she's meant to work with. She is launching a corporate offering for men on how to support women in leadership. We need to educate the people around women so they can invest in women and in woman empowerment. Amina's Advice to Women Who are Figuring Things Out Start with the self. How can you support yourself? You can establish your relationship with yourself through journaling practice. We need to be on our own team first before reaching out to the community. How Amina Feels Radically Loved Amina feels radically loved every day, knowing that God has invited her every single step of the way. She knows that everything has been in service to her growth and the people she gets to teach. 5 Powerful Quotes [06:23] “Careers and expressions aren't linear. We get to follow the footprint of our soul and come home to ourselves. It doesn't have to look one way.”   [13:00] “To build confidence, specifically for women, women of color, and marginalized communities, we need community, curiosity, and permission.”   [16:24] “Our soul has so much wisdom. Our relationship to spirituality and a higher power, there's so much wisdom in there that we can carry forward.”   [18:09] “If I were to synthesize my work into sound bites, it would be perpetually teaching to choose faith over fear, and how all of this work really is a conduit to freedom.”   [31:59] “Establishing a connection with yourself first and foremost is one of the most powerful, loving, generous things we can do.” About Amina Amina AlTai is a leadership coach, holistic mindset and business coach, and corporate trainer. She is the first social entrepreneur to create a methodology supporting both business and people's health. She has worked on numerous brands and has helped launch over 30 startups throughout her marketing career. During her struggle with burnout, Amina sought out training in nutrition, mindfulness, and fitness. It became her goal to teach other women to balance a successful career, body, and mind. She has coached hundreds of leaders and entrepreneurs using her proprietary methodology. Amina also writes for major publications, including Entrepreneur Magazine, Thrive Global, The Observer, MindbodyGreen, Bustle, Byrdie, Yahoo, and more. If you wish to connect with Amina, you may visit her website, LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Would you like to strive toward woman empowerment? Do you want to help women and people of color reach true freedom and success? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 399. Breaking the Good Girl Myth with Majo Molfino

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2021 36:32


    From a young age, girls are taught to follow a certain set of rules — rules that can rob us of our creative power. Furthermore, conforming to the “good girl” label haunts us until adulthood, becoming wired in our mindset and in how we present ourselves. But we are more than what the good girl myth  tells us to be. We are bold, powerful, and confident, and it's time to break free from this and be our best selves. In today's episode, Majo Molfino joins us to talk about dismantling the good girl myth. She shares the tools that have helped her deprogram the good girl archetype and the epiphanies that led her there. Majo also imparts her book writing process and the best routine for sinking into deep creative work. If you're struggling to break the good girl archetype, this episode will help you learn what you need to do!   This episode is brought to you by.. Manscaped www.manscaped.com/radicallyloved 20% off from Radically Loved will be applied at checkout Candid.CO Go to www.candidco.com/loved And use code: loved take advantage of the limited time offer for a $15 starter kit! Wondery Uncommon Ground with Van Jones https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/uncommon-ground-with-van-jones/id1589218971   Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover the tools you can use to work on sustainable changes. Learn about the five good girl myths and how to dismantle them. Explore self-inquiry tips that can help you see your counterproductive patterns. Resources Connect with Majo: Website | Instagram Heroine Podcast Break the Good Girl Myth by Majo Molfino Burning Man Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies atcom! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away. Episode Highlights Majo's Background Her family immigrated to the U.S. from Argentina when she was young. Being an immigrant shaped her life. She feared that her parents would feel like leaving their country was a waste. So, she worked hard at school to make them proud and happy. When she graduated, she had an existential spiritual crisis and felt lost after not having any more rules to follow. Big Catalyst Moment Majo scored a 9 to 5 research job in Washington, D.C., which her father was happy about. Upon seeing herself in the mirror wearing a black blazer and pants, she felt like she was wearing a costume. That moment of disidentification became a big “aha” for Majo. It was when her consciousness started to shift. Many epiphanies happened and stacked up in her twenties that allowed her to find her own path. Yoga and meditation played significant roles in her awakening. Working on Sustainable Change She spent a decade trying to deprogram the good girl archetype that she built up until she was 20 years old. The tools that helped her were breathwork, meditation, mindfulness, psychedelics, and design thinking. Psychedelics enormously helped her see that she was caged in a hypermasculine capitalistic orientation. She learned about the process of tinkering and prototyping while finishing her Master's in Learning, Design, and Technology. Majo brings together all these tools in her unique method of coaching. On Psychedelics At first, Majo thought that psychedelics equate to drugs and bad stuff. After quitting her second job, she decided to go to Burning Man, a social experiment event in the desert. Burning Man's counterculture environment helped her as someone who was always in a system. It revolved around radical self-expression, gift economy, and spirituality. There, a man in his 50s offered her “medicine and sacrament.” Being in a safe and sacred context, she trusted her intuition and took it. This experience made her realize how much suppressed creativity she had. It became one of her biggest epiphanies. Dismantling the Good Girl Archetype For Majo, the process happened in many instances. However, what accelerated the journey for her was understanding the five good girl myths. Seeing these patterns in herself, her clients, listeners, friends, and family inspired her to write the book. Majo believes that we are born into a patriarchal society with a very defined idea of what a girl and woman should be. Good Girl Myths We each all have our own dominant good girl myth. For Majo, it's the myth of perfection: having impossibly high standards for herself and other people. Tune in to the full episode to learn more about the other good girl myths! Journaling has helped Majo a great deal. Specifically, she tracks her menstrual cycle to see patterns. She's a huge proponent of taking action. It helps her see her other blind spots and continue to lean into her edges. Writing the Book A well-thought-out proposal and structure will help you keep the flow when working on manuscripts. It was challenging for her to get her core argument down and reach conceptual clarity. The highlight for her was the research part, going down from one rabbit hole to another. She worked on writing only around three to four hours a day because of the required attentional focus. Tune in to the full episode to learn about Majo's writing schedule! Advice on Creative Work and Going Through a Hard Time Eliminate making as many choices as possible to prevent decision fatigue. Creatives have the most boring routine. They adhere to this to focus on deep creative work. It's a good thing to be at a low point. It's a sign that you're undergoing a powerful transformation. Be patient with yourself and have a lot of self-compassion. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [3:17] “Our engrainment was to follow the rules, keep your nose, you know, keep your nose to the grindstone, like, just don't ask questions, just do what you need to do.” [8:02] “One of the things that I learned that blew my head off was the process of tinkering, and prototyping and that really helped me build a lot of creative confidence, and helped me undo a lot of perfectionism that I had somehow picked up.” [18:10] “We're born into a patriarchal society that has a very defined idea of how a girl and a woman should be…but it's up to us to choose if that actually feels integrated, or actually feels right for us.” [19:13] “My dominant good girl myth is the myth of perfection. So for me, it's having impossibly high standards for myself and other people, and not being able to sort of accept the messiness of life and the way things are.” [30:49] “If you are going through a hard time right now... it's a good thing to be there and that you are most likely undergoing a powerful transformation. And there is light at the end of this tunnel.” About Majo Majo Molfino is a Woman's Leadership Coach who guides multi-passionate professional women to design their creative purpose. She is the host of the Heroine Podcast, a show featuring women creative leaders and visionaries in innovative fields. Majo supports women through her inspirational content and programs. Majo is the author of the #1 Amazon New Release Break the Good Girl Myth. She has been featured in various media platforms, including Harper's Bazaar, Forbes, FastCoDesign, and more. If you want to connect with Majo, visit her website or follow her on Instagram. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help women dismantle good girl myths? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie


    Episode 398. Opening Books, Opening Worlds and Shared Realities with Uli Beutter Cohen

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2021 37:24

    Books are a totally different medium from television shows, movies, and podcasts. They're unique in the way that they require us to truly be immersed in the worlds they contain. We can't multitask while reading and opening books . As a result, the ideas on every page infiltrate our DNA in a profound manner. So if you have any kind of question, there is probably a book out there that can provide the answers. In this episode, Uli Beutter Cohen joins us to talk about books, and how they shape ourselves and allow us to peer into others' realities. We also talk about how the universe finds ways to converse with us amid the loss of a loved one. She discusses her book, Between the Lines: Stories from the Underground, which was inspired by hundreds of subway conversations. Uli also highlights the importance of empathy in a world of othering. If you want to know more about the power of opening books in finding answers, tune in to this episode! This episode is brought to you by.. Acorn TV Try Acorn TV for 30 days free with the promo code: loved But you HAVE to enter the code in all lowercase letters. www.acorntv.com ISSUU Get started with ISSUU for FREE or if you sign up for a Premium account get 50% OFF using my code below www.issuu.com/podcast Promo Code: ROSIE Olive & June Get your first mani system for 20% off! www.oliveandjune.com/loved     Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn the power of just being and letting miracles come our way. Discover how we are meant to equally receive all the love and radical acceptance available in the world. Understand the profoundness of reading and opening books. Resources Check out these related Radically Loved Episodes What Intuition Means and Using It to Connect with Animals with Nikki Cuthbertson The Power of Interacting and Connecting with People with Joe Keohane Connect with Uli: Website | Instagram Grab a copy of Uli's latest book, Between the Lines: Stories from the Underground! Check out more of Subway Book Review: Website | Twitter | Instagram Pachinko by Min Jin Lee LinkNYC Kiosks FREE workbook! Check out our website for more details. Episode Highlights Ray's Passing Uli shared her recent heartbreak of bidding farewell to her 18-year-old cat, Ray. Despite preparing a lot of things for her cat, it was still an unpleasant experience. Knowing beforehand that her cat would soon pass away didn't make it easier. She shares that you can't escape losing someone, and so you just have to surrender. A few days after Ray's passing, Uli found a blue parakeet on the ground. She believes that he gave the bird as a gift. This experience taught Uli that we must be ready for miracles that come our way. Despite our loved ones passing, their love for us never disappears. Their love is alive. Tune in to the full episode to hear what other gifts Ray has been leaving Uli! Subway Book Review Uli started Subway Book Review seven years ago when she had just moved to New York City. She thought this space could help her understand why the city is so magical. She chose the subway because the underground movements are the birthplace of so many human rights and artistic movements. In addition, Uli finds the subway phenomenal for only moving forward. It's also very democratic—everyone takes the subway. What stood out to her was how many people were reading books on the subway. Books and Accessing Others' Minds A lot of people read and start opening books mostly to escape into another world. But for Uli, she used her book as a way to begin conversations with strangers on the subway and to know their thoughts. Her interviews point out one thing: we are meant to equally receive all the love and radical acceptance available in the world. The book contains conversations from people who are reinventing the status quo and dreaming up what can be. She believes these are the people we must listen to. Listen to the full episode to hear more stories about these conversations! Empathy and Othering Othering refers to the separation of oneself from others. This concept is deeply interrelated with empathy. You must start accepting and empathizing with yourself first so that othering can be a foreign concept to you. Only after you start figuring out your relationship with yourself can you work out your place in the world. People are meant to be a wonder for you. They should not be seen as separate entities. Separating from Oneself Most people live their lives preparing themselves for whatever the world brings their way. In fact, productivity and self-help tools can sometimes get in the way of being still. But because we don't have an unstructured time where we can just be still and be present, we miss out on what the world has to offer. Sometimes, divergence from our set paths is not coincidental but actually comes at the perfect time. Books and Multitasking There's a lot of connection in social media. But opening books and reading them is one of the few things you cannot multitask. It requires your entire being to be present. Books infiltrate and shape you profoundly in a way that other forms of media can't. And if you have any kind of questions, there are books out there meant to give answers. Thus, reading is for people who really seek answers to their questions. Our Shared Realities There are as many realities as there are people. Throughout the years, it is through books that we're able to share these realities. Uli wants to create a space for healing, opening our hearts, and exploring the mind. Her book is a book of answers and possibilities. How Uli Feels Radically Loved Uli feels radically loved when, despite the chaos and a lack of control, she still shows up for herself and remains honest with herself. She welcomes all emotions and difficulties, and she'll take one day, one step at a time. 5 Powerful Quotes [4:18] “When you know [death is] coming, it does not make it easier. It makes it crazier because you see it approaching, and there's no escape. There's no control in it, right? You have to just surrender. It's the ultimate surrender of all surrenders” [10:18] “There is no end to the love … Human loss, pet loss, the love is still very much alive. Focus on that, as opposed to the grief of losing something because the love is not lost, the love is there.” [11:14] “The entire universe wants to converse with us… And I think that it's very easy for humans to feel and actually to forget that we're part of nature and that we are part of the eternal universe.” [18:16] “It starts with the relationship with yourself first. And then from there, you can figure out what your place in the world is.” [22:15] “A book is one of the last things if not the only thing that you cannot multitask… Therefore, [it] infiltrates your DNA in a profound way. That is why books stay with us totally differently than… anything else we consume that is media.” About the Guest Uli Beutter Cohen is an artist and documentarian, and the creator of Subway Book Review. Her interviews and stories involving human connection and belonging have been published in numerous journals and magazines, such as The Washington Post, Here Magazine, The Creative Independent, and HuffPost. If she's not looking for people to talk to in the subway, she creates creative content for companies like Nike and Warby Parker. She now resides in New York with her husband and Poppy Pete the Parakeet.  Check out her book Between the Lines: Stories from the Underground, and connect with her via Instagram or her website! Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people learn the value of connection and reading and opening books? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to send us messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Thanks for listening! To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 397. #WisdomWednesdays: On the Human Temper and Management of Emotions

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2021 47:43

    Nobody likes getting irritated, frustrated, or overwhelmed. But it's part of life. After all, we're all just humans. However, when we don't get to process and overcome these kinds of emotions, we tend to lash out or hurt others unintentionally. This is why we could all put conscious effort into our management of emotions . Being mindful protects our peace of mind and those of the people around us. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa reflect on experiences where they felt irritated, frustrated, or overwhelmed. They try to find wisdom in these experiences and share how they dealt with such instances. They get real about times they faltered and share insights on how to show up when you're about to snap out of it. Feeling irritated is inevitable at times, so they emphasize why it's a very human thing to feel and how it can be handled. If you find yourself always feeling irritated or overwhelmed and want to know more about the management of emotions, then this episode is for you! Here are the three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand the wisdom behind feeling irritated, frustrated, and overwhelmed. Discover the importance of leaving space and being mindful when things get irritating. Gain insights on the management of emotions and how to show up when something throws you off. This Episode is brought to you by.. Blenders Eyewearwww.blenderseyewear.com enter promo code: LOVEDVIP to get 15% off your Blenders purchase! Everywell You get 20% off an at-home lab test at www.everlywell.com/loved OSEA Get 10% OFF with code LOVED go to OSEAmalibu.com Prose www.prose.com/loved for your FREE in-depth hair consultation and 15% OFF your supplements!   Resources Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesdays. Have a nugget of wisdom you want to be discussed on Wisdom Wednesdays? Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com. FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away!   Episode Highlights Dropping the F-Bomb Some moments just make you go “fuck.” For Tessa, it is a way for her to speak her mind freely. It is part of the process of expressing herself emotionally. Sometimes, there are just no other words to express how we're feeling that we end up cussing. Rosie recalls a conversation with a friend and mentor about utilizing language efficiently in the full episode! Being frustrated and irritated is a very human moment. No amount of training or experience can help you in the management of emotions when you're feeling these. Drawing Wisdom From Rosie and Tessa's Photoshoot Rosie and Tessa did a photoshoot recently for the podcast. Tessa felt awkward in front of the camera and asked Rosie for advice. However, Rosie wasn't always a natural in front of the camera. She actually doesn't like being in the spotlight. However, she does it in service of being in service. When she needs to be the center of attention, Rosie channels her dad, who was a vocalist. Conveying someone else's energy, like someone we look up to, is a way to think with more clarity, especially when we get stuck in our thoughts and feelings. Channeling someone else allows us to draw wisdom from them and to zoom out from our narrow-mindedness at the moment. The Feeling of Pressure and Overwhelm Pressure is self-inflicted. Being aware of the pressure you're putting on yourself is key to moving out of the overwhelm. We tend to put so much weight into what other people think about us. It throws us into feeling overwhelmed and compressed. Sometimes, all you have to do is pause for a moment and step away before you take it out on others or lash out. Management of Emotions through Actions Rosie's solution is to list down all things you have to do, then classify them according to urgency, difficulty, and fear of doing it. When you restructure your list and do things one by one, you can accomplish tasks sooner. Notifications and reminder alerts can also cause pressure. When these get overwhelming, take a moment to step away. Most of the time, things aren't actually that big of a deal. Dealing with Frustration It's a matter of perspective. Rosie shares how reminding herself of the important things helps her deal with frustration. Listening to music is one way to shift your energy and move into a space that allows you to tune in with yourself and be more present. It helps to be mindful about your own energy before interacting with other people, so you don't inevitably interrupt somebody else's space. Tune in to the full episode to hear about Rosie's altercation with a yoga teacher. That story is a reminder that we falter, and that's just being human. But we should always try to be mindful of our energy, so we don't end up hurting other people. 5 Powerful Quotes [04:36] “Utilizing your language in a more efficient way allows you to rise to your highest.” [07:08] “I think it's important for us to be able to talk about [feeling overwhelmed and irritated], and to try and find the wisdom in that experience, and not make ourselves feel bad for being human.” [17:02] “The perspective of the outside wisdom, the outside person, the teacher, whoever it is that you look to as a point of reference, it's not always assuming that we're stepping into their shoes, but we're drawing from their wisdom.” [21:19] “We put so much weight into what other people think about us, our worth, and our work that we utilize that to compound our own feelings of not feeling enough, not feeling like we're doing enough, not feeling like we're accomplishing enough.” [37:53] “Be mindful of your energy, especially when you're feeling overwhelmed. That's the wisdom.”

    Episode 396. Food for a Healthy Diet: Why Plants are Health-Promoting with Simon Hill

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2021 57:10


    Food is critical to life. Just like oxygen and water, it sustains us, gives us energy, and keeps our bodies moving. But how do you choose the right food for a healthy diet ? Over the years, we've discovered that there are many factors to consider. In this episode, Simon Hill shares his knowledge on the importance of having a healthy diet. He goes into the science of the microbiome, which keeps the body systems healthy. In particular, he shares his research on plants and their importance in food for a healthy diet. Simon shows how plants can help a person stay healthy: from reducing the risk for developing diseases to slowing down aging. Your health is in your control. If you want to know how to eat healthier, listen to Simon's discussion on microbiomes and plants as food for a healthy diet. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Find out how you can introduce fiber-rich plants to your food for a healthy diet. Discover the mechanisms of the gut and how keeping it healthy is beneficial to you. Learn about how eating plants can be the key to reducing diseases and p health. This Episode is brought to you by.. Magic Mindwww.magicmind.co/loved Use code: loved20 for 20% off Resources The Proof is in the Plants by Simon Hill Plant Proof Podcast with Simon Hill Learn more about food for a healthy diet with this Study on Fermented Food's Effect on the Human Microbiome! ZOE Connect with Simon: ​​Website Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights About Simon Hill Simon lives near the beach in Bondi, Sydney. Australia may seem scary and dangerous. But most of the dangers are overhyped. Simon's partner, Tanya, also fears shark attacks despite their low probability of appearance. The Beginnings of Simon's Journey Simon's father was a professor. So, Simon grew up with a passion for science and scientific research. At 15 years old, he almost lost his father to a severe heart attack. It turns out that Simon's family has a history of cardiovascular disease. This experience and a lack of knowledge made him feel disempowered. He felt like cardiovascular disease is determined solely by genetics. Later on, Simon learned that lifestyle and environment play a more significant factor than genetics when looking at chronic diseases. How Food Environments Affect Nutrition Most people's food choices are dictated by their food environment. Malnutrition and food scarcity are a burden for many developing countries. As these countries develop, you can see a noticeable increase in obesity and diabetes. Transnational food companies prioritize profits over health. They market ultra-processed foods towards the impressionable parts of society. The government, then, must regulate the food market for a healthier society. Convenience, cost, taste, and education also affect how people manage their diets. Education is most important in learning how to eat healthily. Food for a Healthy Diet The labels on commercially-available foods do not define food for a healthy diet. Different studies show that healthy diets follow a consistent theme regarding how much fat, fiber, and protein a person should consume. Various diets can reach this consistent theme and deliver optimal health. Plants can replace animal products and processed food for a healthy diet. Tune in to the full episode to hear about the health benefits of swapping calories from animal protein to plant protein! The Gut Microbiome There are trillions of microbes that live within the body. A diversity in microbes is a sign of a healthy microbiome. It promotes a higher number of healthy bacteria and a more resilient ecosystem. A diet rich in fiber can promote a healthy microbiome, because the soluble component of fiber is a prebiotic and serves as food for good bacteria. In turn, these good bacteria produce different types of metabolites that affect the body. For example, short-chain fatty acids such as butyrate keep your gut lining intact. Alternatively, you're at risk for a leaky gut if your microbiome is not diverse. On Prebiotics vs. Probiotics Probiotics are live bacteria that have beneficial effects on their host. However, the bacteria and their effects are transient. It's much better to focus on having a diverse fiber-rich diet first before looking into consuming probiotic supplements. Prebiotic substances are already in your gut. Having a good amount of them ensures that your digestive system is producing metabolites. Increasing your fiber intake isn't automatically beneficial. If your gut microbiome is on the weaker side, suddenly increasing your fiber intake may cause inflammation. Simon recommends introducing fermented foods first to increase your microbiome diversity. Then, look at gradually increasing your fiber intake. Dairy vs. Non-Dairy Products Debates surrounding dairy consumption are far more nuanced than what we think. The media often chooses engagement and popularity over a detailed, contextual discussion. Dairy isn't an essential food group. However, there's no problem with having a little dairy in your diet. Typical Western diets consume dairy products that are very high in saturated fats. In this case, it's best to cut back on consumption. If you're able to, consider the ecological footprint that comes with dairy consumption. Simon believes that this is the strongest argument to reduce or avoid dairy products. Low-Fat vs. Full Fat Simon recommends low-fat when you have high levels of saturated fats. It's also best to ensure that the low-fat option you're choosing is not processed, flavored, or sweetened. On Planetary Health The world as we know it is on the verge of the sixth mass extinction. Currently, the species extinction rate is 165 times faster than during the end of dinosaurs. This rapid extinction rate is a result of humanity's choices and living our lives. How Simon Feels Radically Loved Simon feels radically loved by the relationships and connections he has cultivated throughout his life. Nature is also something that he greatly values. It deserves respect and love. The environmental problems we see around us are reflective of our relationships with each other. If we can learn to be loving and compassionate, we can solve climate change. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [19:40] “Most people's food choices are dictated by the food environment… The system's broken in many ways.” [25:44] “We see pretty consistently across the board when you are swapping calories from animal protein for plant protein, you're getting better health outcomes: lower risk of heart attack, stroke, lower risk of certain types of cancer, etcetera.” [29:14] “The problem is, today, we're seeing a lot of people with various conditions lose the diversity in their microbiome. And in many ways, it's a micro sort of mirror of what's happening on a macro level; we're losing biodiversity on the outside world as well at the same time.” [41:58] “You really need to listen to your body. If you're increasing the plant diversity in your diet, and you're noticing that perhaps you are feeling bloated or feeling like you have less energy, then it might be that you're dialing it up too quickly.” [51:28] “Compared to the mass extinction that wiped out dinosaurs 65 million years ago, we are seeing species extinction at a rate of 165 times faster. And that is absolutely a result of the way that we're living our lives.” About Simon Simon Hill is a physiotherapist and nutritionist. He aims to make nutritional education understandable and available to the public. Having realized the importance of lifestyle in health, he encourages everyone to make informed decisions about picking food for a healthy diet. Initially a physiotherapist, Simon developed an interest in nutrition as he delved into research on its impact on health. Now, he is the host of the podcast Plant Proof. Here, he gives a platform for world-renowned doctors, nutritionists, and experts to share their knowledge and advice with the public. His rich experience and knowledge have also led him to write his new book, The Proof is in the Plants. Curious about Simon and his passion for nutrition? You can learn more on his website.


    Episode 395. Starting Your Day Right with a Healthy Hearty Breakfast with Elyse Kopecky

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2021 35:43

    Starting Your Day Right with a Healthy Hearty Breakfast with Elyse Kopecky When you talk about meals, it's not uncommon to hear about breakfast being the most critical meal of your day. A healthy hearty breakfast  can give you the boost of energy you need to get going for the rest of the day. It can also sharpen your focus and increase your productivity. Of course, other than breaking fast, your morning routine can start your day right and keep it going well. This is something we learn from this episode's guest, Elyse Kopecky. Elyse joins us to talk about the importance of mindfulness and wellness in your morning routine. In addition to knowing why you need a healthy hearty breakfast, you'll learn the importance of movement and sunlight. She also talks about her upcoming book and her experiences writing it amid the pandemic. Mother, chef, and author, Elyse gives us a wonderful peek into food, writing, and her beautiful mornings. Tune in to discover simple ways to have better mornings! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Prepare a healthy hearty breakfast for you and your family with Elyse's tips. Get to know how Elyse Kopecky makes the most out of her day as a busy mom. Peek into Elyse's bestselling books and her upcoming release, Rise and Run. This Episode is brought to you by.. OSEA Get 10% OFF with code LOVED go to OSEAmalibu.com Tru Niagen www.truniagen.com/rosie 10% OFF your First Purchase Native Deo www.nativedeo.com/loved 20% OFF your first purchase Promo code: LOVED ISSUU Get started with ISSUU for FREE or if you sign up for a Premium account get 50% OFF using my code below www.issuu.com/podcast Promo Code: ROSIE Resources Elyse's first two New York Times bestselling books: Run Fast, Cook Fast Eat Slow, and Run Fast Eat Slow. Pre-order Elyse's new and upcoming book, Rise and Run. Learn more about Elyse Kopecky and Shalane Flanagan. Check out Radically Loved's retreats with Elyse Kopecky. Visit Elyse's website to learn more about her and her books! Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Rise and Run In the Making Rise and Run is much more than just a cookbook. In addition to healthy hearty breakfast recipes, the book includes tips about mindfulness and wellness. It was inspired by and written for athletes who need a full breakfast but are often too busy. The Challenges of Writing The unexpected start of the pandemic posed a significant challenge in finishing the book. Elyse's pandemic writing routine included writing in the early morning during quiet hours. Halfway through the writing, her publisher decided to move up the deadline by six months. To help Elyse finish the book, her husband left his job to be a full-time stay-at-home dad. He quickly realized how challenging the role was. Elyse advises working moms to do the most difficult tasks first as our brains are freshest in the morning. Getting the Recipe Right Elyse has an assistant who has been her recipe tester for seven years and all three cookbooks. In addition, she has a team of recipe testers who are beginner cooks. Each recipe in the book gets tested multiple times to ensure that they are easy to follow — even for beginners. Easy-to-Make Healthy Hearty Breakfast Meal Superhero muffins are a staple at Elyse's house. These grab-and-go meals are full of fruits, vegetables, complex carbs, and proteins — perfect for a healthy hearty breakfast, lunch, or snack. You can find 24 variations of superhero muffins in Rise and Run. Getting Kids to Eat Healthily Elyse uses the same recipes that she's sure her kids will eat and are familiar with. Her youngest is picky about food, so Elyse has had to find ways to sneak in healthy ingredients. For example, she makes smoothies with frozen steamed cauliflower, banana, and strawberries. On the Book Tours She recently had a book tour in Chicago where she met great fans even amidst the difficulty of the pandemic. It's still difficult to organize an elaborate book tour because of the COVID restrictions. So, most of their events are going to be virtual. What's In Store for the Rest of the Year Elyse is turning 40 and will be training for her first-ever marathon. She's also looking forward to her book launch in New York this November, alongside celebrating 21 years of friendship with Shalane Flanagan. Her First Marathon Long-distance running isn't Elyse's forte. Health, professional, and familial priorities led to her taking a break from running. She feels great about training for the marathon, as it keeps her accountable. Elyse's Writing Process Elyse writes first thing in the morning when her motivation is at its peak. She makes it a practice to stay away from noise and other distractions such as her phone to increase her focus. She warms up by writing the easier parts first before doing sections that take the most brainpower. Her youngest is still in part-time preschool, so she only has a short window for writing. Having limited time helps her increase her focus and productivity. Food for Creativity A guiding principle of Run Fast, Eat Slow is the benefit of healthy fats for the brain. Athletes often quickly deplete their food fuel, so they need nutrient-dense and heavy meals. Elyse writes best with a healthy hearty breakfast with protein and good fats for brainpower. Little kids especially need a good, high-fat diet for their development. Elyse's Morning Recommendations Caffeine from either coffee or green tea is essential for Elyse. She recommends walking or running in the morning. The sunlight exposure wakes up the body. Even simply standing and getting sunlight can help wake you up and improve focus. The Next Nourish + Escape Retreat Elyse hopes to have the next retreat in close quarters. However, she's not too optimistic about the COVID situation. What Makes Elyse Feel Radically Loved? Elyse didn't know someone could love like her youngest, Rylan. He makes her feel radically loved through his actions and words every day. 5 Powerful Quotes [04:25] “The only way to have good energy the whole day is to eat a nutrient-dense, delicious nourishing breakfast." [09:54] "Your brain is freshest in the morning so stay off social media stay off email and just get the hardest thing done first." [22:50] "I think having a really short window time helps because it forces you to focus. You can't drag it out through the whole day." [24:04] “A big part of the belief behind Run Fast Eat Slow is all of the healthy fats. And that is so important for brainpower. Our brain needs those good healthy fats to function optimally.” [26:53] “Even on days, when I don't have time to run, I'll just get outside and get that sunlight because that helps wake me up so that I can focus better.” About Elyse Elyse Kopecky is an author, nutrition coach, and inspirational speaker, passionate about encouraging others to live and eat healthily. Alongside Olympic medallist and marathon runner Shalane Flanagan, she co-authored two New York Times bestselling cookbooks: Run Fast Eat Slow and Run Fast Cook Fast Eat Slow. Now, Elyse spreads a healthy lifestyle and good food through their upcoming book, Rise and Run, and many other works. Elyse learned to create healthy, hearty meals for herself and her family of four. Her travels across the world introduced her to many amazing recipes to control and improve her health. Now, Elyse is happier and healthier and helps others to be the same. Interested in getting to know more about Elyse Kopecky? Visit her website. Check out her inspiring cookbooks and follow her on Instagram.

    Episode 394. Practice Your Psychic Ability By Trusting Your Intuition

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2021 36:26

    Practice Your Psychic Ability By Trusting Your Intuition We've all heard and read fairy tales, legends, and folklore. Whether passed on by word of mouth or read from worn pages of old books, we are aware of the concepts of magic and  . Witchcraft, tarot readings, rituals, and spells — people often view these practices as something to be feared and avoided. But we will learn that there is untapped power within each of us that we can use to create connections and guide us to answers. With Alex Naranjo and Marlene Vargas, we look into the world of intuition. As founders of the House of Intuition, they share how their intuition led them to the lives they enjoy today. Amidst stereotypes and negative experiences, they use their voice to show the side of magic often ignored.  Are you interested in unlocking your psychic ability, magic, and intuition? Listen in to Rosie, Alex, and Marlene as they share their fresh perspective on the world of magic. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Explore your psychic ability, and be confident in your power! Discover what's beyond the box with magic. Don't let yourself be constrained. Find out how intuition can lead you to answers and give you a deeper connection. Resources Your Intuition Led You Here, by Alex Naranjo and Marlene Vargas Order your book “Your Intuition Led You Here” on presale here! Participate in the book's launch on October 20, 2021, in Los Angeles! More about the psychic Suzanne Jauchius Visit any of the House of Intuition's store locations or their website! Connect with Rosie Acosta on Instagram and Twitter. Check out Rosie's YouTube channel. Subscribe and leave a review on iTunes for Radically Loved. Episode Highlights About the House of Intuition The House of Intuition (HOI) came from Alex and Marlene's experimentation and their journeys alone and together. The book is an attempt to change people's negative perceptions of spirituality and psychics. Despite being seen as taboo, Alex and Marlene want to show that this is not the case. The two met in 2007 during the start of the Great Recession. It was a time when people lost their businesses and much of their property. With their material world shaken, they wanted to look beyond religion for answers. A Different Perspective on Magic Through an enlightening experience with tarot readings, Marlene realized the power of intuition. Tune in to the full episode to hear how Marlene found hope! Alex grew up in a religious household but felt constrained by religion. She reached beyond the limits to find what felt right for her. Writing the book was important to them because it gave them a voice to share people can do magic beyond the box society placed it in. Everything about HOI's design and how it's run has an intention. HOI wants people to learn that you don't have to believe what everyone tells you to. Marlene shares her father's experience with limpia (traditional Latino cleansing) and how it ended up not helping him in the full episode. Being in a Vulnerable State Looking for guidance when in a bad situation can leave you vulnerable and open. Some readers will only tell you what you want to hear and not what you truly need to hear. Being vulnerable allows you to fall into a trap that often costs much but helps very little. Though most readers often start with good intentions, humans can fall to the temptation of taking advantage of their popularity. Readers should be a medium of communication, not the ones giving the message to the people. The House of Intuition's Purpose HOI wants to encourage people to be confident in their power to determine truth from lies. The shop is a place for authentic readers and teaching others how to tap into their power and control, especially during a reading. A reader wants to connect you to what you truly need. If a reading isn't resonating with you, it's better to stop and perhaps find someone else who can better connect you. But also consider that a message that isn't true may yet come true in the future. Marlene and Rosie share their experiences with readings that came true in the full episode. Practicing Your Psychic Ability Everyone has a psychic ability that they can strengthen through use and practice. Alex and Marlene's psychic nights include practicing the ability by trying to connect with your partner's thoughts. One of their practices is the little psychic circle. This practice involves sitting in a circle and using breathing techniques and meditation to practice the psychic ability. The psychic ability is also built on confidence and knowing that you have a connection. Exploring Your Intuition Manifesting your intentions into the material world can happen with asking and focusing. Thoughts are powerful. When you spend time cultivating what you want in your mind, you can manifest it into reality. You can develop your intuition to understand if something you want will serve your highest good. Practicing your ability helps you understand the communication spirit has with you. Marlene and Alex give more examples of practices to build your strength in your intuition in the full episode. On Writing Their Book Society often viewed magical concepts with fear and avoidance. They wanted to write in a way that encourages readers to explore and strengthen their psychic ability. We all can use magic as a tool to use as we want to. Don't be afraid of it and what you can do with it. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [11:13] “Magic shouldn't be put in a box either. Just like religion, you shouldn't have to follow a recipe that's 300 years old when we're in modern times.” [14:00] “You don't have to believe what everybody tells you. You have to empower yourself enough to know whether what somebody is telling you is true or not. If it resonates, great. If it doesn't, then it doesn't.” [14:49] "Most of the time, when you go seeking for answers, you are already in a vulnerable place. Not only are you in a vulnerable place, if you're going to get guidance. . . you're not only vulnerable, you're open." [18:35] “If the message isn't true, just put it in your back pocket. Don't chuck it yet, because it might come true in three months.” [21:41] “Remember, your psychic ability is just a muscle that needs to be strengthened. We all have it, and it's like going to the psychic gym.” About Marlene and Alex Alex Naranjo and Marlene Vargas are the founders of the House of Intuition, which aims to bring hope, guidance, and power to those who feel lost and lacking. Established in 2010, the House of Intuition has only grown and become a source of knowledge for spiritual seekers. Open to all, they offer an array of magical items and services. They also hold classes and events for those who want to learn. Alex and Marlene have also written their first book, Your Intuition Led You Here. Their own experiences and practice with magic have truly changed their lives for the better. Using their voice, they want to encourage many more to explore their spirituality just like they have. If you want to learn more about Marlene, Alex, and the House of Intuition, you can visit their website. The House of Intuition is in Los Angeles, with more branches in locations all over the country. This episode brought to you by Uprising Foods $10 OFF the starter bundle!  www.uprisingfood.com/loved    This episode brought to you by Magic Mind www.magicmind.co/loved Use code: loved20 for 20% off   Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Magic isn't all curses and voodoo. It is also intuition and seeking guidance. Do you want to encourage others to discover the wonders of magic? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to send us messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Thanks for listening! To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 393. #WisdomWednesdays: Letting Go Of Relationships When Love Is No Longer Served

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2021 44:38


    #WisdomWednesdays: Letting Go Of Relationships When Love Is No Longer Served We value our relationships, romantic, platonic, or otherwise. So we find ways to make them work no matter the differences we have with the other person. But sometimes, some relationships are just not worth fighting for anymore. Letting go of relationships  is difficult, but it may be the right thing to do. You have to know when enough is enough. You have to find the courage to leave when love and happiness are no longer served on the table. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about leaving and letting go of relationships when there's no longer love in them. Part of feeling radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when it's time to move on. They discuss the importance of gaining awareness about the situation and your emotions. They also speak about the nuances of leaving a relationship and facing the discomfort in making that conversation. Tune in to discover the proper actions in letting go of relationships that are no longer serving you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how to recognize when love is no longer in a relationship. Understand the dynamics of a relationship as a two-way street. Find out how to manage your emotions and control your reaction in confrontational conversations. Resources Ōura Ring Apple Watch Feeding the Soul (Because It's My Business) by Tabitha Brown The Beautiful No by Sheri Salata Stay updated on my upcoming book launch and 2022 international retreats by subscribing to the newsletter! Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. We'd love to get a listener on board for #WisdomWednesdays! Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com with the subject “Wisdom Wednesday Guest” and tell us your name, where you're from, how you heard of the podcast, your favorite episode, and what you'd like to discuss. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights When Life Throws a Curveball Nature is the world's best teacher. A bird flew into Rosie's slider door when she was about to start a breathing practice while recording. Luckily, the bird is safe for now. The metaphor here is, sometimes, life throws us a curveball when we want to gather ourselves. The Anxiety of Failure Tessa has been busy the whole week. But taking a break makes her feel anxious and fearful of failure. The anxiety of failure has been disrupting her sleep. Tessa is learning about the idea of “less is more.” The big lesson for her is learning to say “no” and trusting her intuition. Tracking Your Sleep Rosie owns an Ōura Ring. It's an accurate sleep readiness and activity monitor. How well the Ōura Ring aids you with getting quality sleep will depend on the type of person you are. Rosie hoped to get one for her partner Tory but seeing the data stresses him out. If acquiring the data about your sleep distresses you, it may be better not to get one. Contracting COVID-19 messed up Rosie's sleep. Not getting a good night's sleep impacts her focus and overall function. For the past year, Rosie has been working hard to restore herself and balance her hormones. The Ōura Ring has helped Rosie be militant about her sleep. A Placebo Effect Tessa wonders about the margin of error in technologies like sleep trackers. But she says that what matters is it's working for Rosie. A placebo effect doesn't challenge the efficacy of something working or not working. Meditation can also count as an ancient technology for decreasing anxiety. When Love is No Longer Served in a Relationship Rosie is reading the book Feeding the Soul by Tabitha Brown. The book includes a Nina Simone quote: “You've got to learn to leave the table when love's no longer being served.” The quote is an ethos for Radically Loved. Part of being radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when love is no longer there. Loving Yourself We're quick to blame ourselves for things that might or do go wrong. Learning when to leave the table when there's no longer any love comes back to our relationship with ourselves. Sheri Salata's book The Beautiful No speaks about dealing with the narrator in your brain. Tell the narrator in your brain, "No, thank you—not helpful," instead of indulging a negative thought pattern. A Relationship is a Two-Way Street It's hard to discern when love is no longer present in a relationship that's going well. It becomes a “you” problem when nothing changes with how you feel after years. Have a conversation with the other person and figure out why you feel love is no longer present. A relationship is a two-way street; if you're not contributing to it, you're contaminating it. Being in a relationship is a practice. It's a matter of recognition and what you do with that awareness. On Codependency Tessa's first long-term monogamous relationship was codependent. She felt there was potential if only the other person would do X, Y, and Z. It took Tessa six years to learn the lesson in that relationship. A lesson gets repeated until you learn it. At times, she still feels parts of that way of thinking. Letting Go of Relationships That No Longer Serve You Leaving a relationship that's not serving you anymore also applies to friendships, work, and family. There are nuances in letting go of relationships. Sometimes, it's necessary to leave the person; sometimes, you only need to set boundaries. It's a matter of mutual respect, acknowledgment, and expression of feelings. There's no one answer. But you'll need to know your values and what you need to do, and remain open-minded to understanding yourself and the other person. Feeling Discomfort in Confrontations You don't have to lack compassion or empathy; you only need to pay attention mindfully. Most of us want to hit the fast-forward button any time we feel discomfort. But sitting through the feeling becomes easier if you do it over time. It takes a lot of courage for people to speak their truth. Another nuance that comes into play in the discomfort of having the conversation is powerful emotions. Not everyone has strong role models in showing up with their emotions healthily when faced with this conversation. Controlling Your Reaction You can't control the other party's reaction; what you can control is your own. Rosie recommends going straight to the source when you can't control your reactivity. You have to look at how you're living your life as a whole. Practice, sleep, stress, women's hormones, and other things can compound into reactivity. How you express yourself would also depend on the type of dynamic you have with the other person. You don't necessarily have to let out negative feelings directly to another person. You can direct it to the air, on paper, a voice note, etc. Allowing the Cycle of Emotion to Move Through Allow the cycle of emotion to have its full revolution. Pause before you let a negative part of yourself take over. Still, your reaction would depend on where you're at as a whole in your life. It's all valid and part of the human experience. An emotional explosion is a build. Your mind will corroborate what the body feels. Rosie's bio-hack for emotional explosions: relax your shoulders and take big deep breaths. It will dissipate your emotional charge by at least 30%. Ways To Manage Emotions on Your Own Write a letter, and let the rage out on paper. Go on a drive, and scream at the top of your lungs Toss an old chair or a journal in a backyard bonfire. The liver is associated with the emotion of anger. What you eat or drink can also affect how you're feeling as well. You can also do Yoga Nidra, listen to binaural beats, or do rapid eye therapy. These practices balance the brain and bring you into the present moment. The Body as a Miracle Conduit The body is a miracle conduit for moving forward. Reverse engineering is critical in achieving the results you want during teacher training. We will continue to repeat the same cycles unless we find what works for us. Therefore, we practice building a reservoir of awareness, wisdom, and knowledge. Coming from a place of acknowledgment and awareness will allow us to hold each other up as equals.   5 Powerful Quotes [07:14] “The metaphor is that just when we want to gather ourselves, sometimes, life just throws a curveball or sometimes a bird… We can learn so much from nature.” [19:04] “Part of being radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when love is no longer being served and having the courage or the empowerment to get up from that table and move on.” [26:50] “We don't just throw people away. I think that's where the nuance comes in. Just because I'm leaving the table, doesn't mean I'm leaving the room.” [33:27] "Sometimes those feelings need to come out. You need to be able to be angry." [42:02] “We're in the school of being a human. Unless we can find what works for us and different ways to establish new neurological pathways, new patterns, new habits, we're going to continue to repeat the same cycles over and over.” This episode is sponsored by: Audible Visit Audible.com/loved or TEXT LOVED to 500-500 to get your 30 day free trial.   Uncommon Goods Visit uncommongoods.com/loved for 15% off your next order.   My Fitness Pal Visit loved.myfitnesspal.com and use code LOVED for a free one month premium membership.     Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Did you learn valuable insights on letting go of relationships? Do you want to extend this knowledge to people struggling with leaving the table? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie


    Episode 393. #WisdomWednesdays: Letting Go Of Relationships When Love Is No Longer Served

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2021 51:53


    #WisdomWednesdays: Letting Go Of Relationships When Love Is No Longer Served We value our relationships, romantic, platonic, or otherwise. So we find ways to make them work no matter the differences we have with the other person. But sometimes, some relationships are just not worth fighting for anymore. Letting go of relationships  is difficult, but it may be the right thing to do. You have to know when enough is enough. You have to find the courage to leave when love and happiness are no longer served on the table. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about leaving and letting go of relationships when there's no longer love in them. Part of feeling radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when it's time to move on. They discuss the importance of gaining awareness about the situation and your emotions. They also speak about the nuances of leaving a relationship and facing the discomfort in making that conversation. Tune in to discover the proper actions in letting go of relationships that are no longer serving you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how to recognize when love is no longer in a relationship. Understand the dynamics of a relationship as a two-way street. Find out how to manage your emotions and control your reaction in confrontational conversations. Resources Ōura Ring Apple Watch Feeding the Soul (Because It's My Business) by Tabitha Brown The Beautiful No by Sheri Salata Stay updated on my upcoming book launch and 2022 international retreats by subscribing to the newsletter! Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. We'd love to get a listener on board for #WisdomWednesdays! Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com with the subject “Wisdom Wednesday Guest” and tell us your name, where you're from, how you heard of the podcast, your favorite episode, and what you'd like to discuss. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights When Life Throws a Curveball Nature is the world's best teacher. A bird flew into Rosie's slider door when she was about to start a breathing practice while recording. Luckily, the bird is safe for now. The metaphor here is, sometimes, life throws us a curveball when we want to gather ourselves. The Anxiety of Failure Tessa has been busy the whole week. But taking a break makes her feel anxious and fearful of failure. The anxiety of failure has been disrupting her sleep. Tessa is learning about the idea of “less is more.” The big lesson for her is learning to say “no” and trusting her intuition. Tracking Your Sleep Rosie owns an Ōura Ring. It's an accurate sleep readiness and activity monitor. How well the Ōura Ring aids you with getting quality sleep will depend on the type of person you are. Rosie hoped to get one for her partner Tory but seeing the data stresses him out. If acquiring the data about your sleep distresses you, it may be better not to get one. Contracting COVID-19 messed up Rosie's sleep. Not getting a good night's sleep impacts her focus and overall function. For the past year, Rosie has been working hard to restore herself and balance her hormones. The Ōura Ring has helped Rosie be militant about her sleep. A Placebo Effect Tessa wonders about the margin of error in technologies like sleep trackers. But she says that what matters is it's working for Rosie. A placebo effect doesn't challenge the efficacy of something working or not working. Meditation can also count as an ancient technology for decreasing anxiety. When Love is No Longer Served in a Relationship Rosie is reading the book Feeding the Soul by Tabitha Brown. The book includes a Nina Simone quote: “You've got to learn to leave the table when love's no longer being served.” The quote is an ethos for Radically Loved. Part of being radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when love is no longer there. Loving Yourself We're quick to blame ourselves for things that might or do go wrong. Learning when to leave the table when there's no longer any love comes back to our relationship with ourselves. Sheri Salata's book The Beautiful No speaks about dealing with the narrator in your brain. Tell the narrator in your brain, "No, thank you—not helpful," instead of indulging a negative thought pattern. A Relationship is a Two-Way Street It's hard to discern when love is no longer present in a relationship that's going well. It becomes a “you” problem when nothing changes with how you feel after years. Have a conversation with the other person and figure out why you feel love is no longer present. A relationship is a two-way street; if you're not contributing to it, you're contaminating it. Being in a relationship is a practice. It's a matter of recognition and what you do with that awareness. On Codependency Tessa's first long-term monogamous relationship was codependent. She felt there was potential if only the other person would do X, Y, and Z. It took Tessa six years to learn the lesson in that relationship. A lesson gets repeated until you learn it. At times, she still feels parts of that way of thinking. Letting Go of Relationships That No Longer Serve You Leaving a relationship that's not serving you anymore also applies to friendships, work, and family. There are nuances in letting go of relationships. Sometimes, it's necessary to leave the person; sometimes, you only need to set boundaries. It's a matter of mutual respect, acknowledgment, and expression of feelings. There's no one answer. But you'll need to know your values and what you need to do, and remain open-minded to understanding yourself and the other person. Feeling Discomfort in Confrontations You don't have to lack compassion or empathy; you only need to pay attention mindfully. Most of us want to hit the fast-forward button any time we feel discomfort. But sitting through the feeling becomes easier if you do it over time. It takes a lot of courage for people to speak their truth. Another nuance that comes into play in the discomfort of having the conversation is powerful emotions. Not everyone has strong role models in showing up with their emotions healthily when faced with this conversation. Controlling Your Reaction You can't control the other party's reaction; what you can control is your own. Rosie recommends going straight to the source when you can't control your reactivity. You have to look at how you're living your life as a whole. Practice, sleep, stress, women's hormones, and other things can compound into reactivity. How you express yourself would also depend on the type of dynamic you have with the other person. You don't necessarily have to let out negative feelings directly to another person. You can direct it to the air, on paper, a voice note, etc. Allowing the Cycle of Emotion to Move Through Allow the cycle of emotion to have its full revolution. Pause before you let a negative part of yourself take over. Still, your reaction would depend on where you're at as a whole in your life. It's all valid and part of the human experience. An emotional explosion is a build. Your mind will corroborate what the body feels. Rosie's bio-hack for emotional explosions: relax your shoulders and take big deep breaths. It will dissipate your emotional charge by at least 30%. Ways To Manage Emotions on Your Own Write a letter, and let the rage out on paper. Go on a drive, and scream at the top of your lungs Toss an old chair or a journal in a backyard bonfire. The liver is associated with the emotion of anger. What you eat or drink can also affect how you're feeling as well. You can also do Yoga Nidra, listen to binaural beats, or do rapid eye therapy. These practices balance the brain and bring you into the present moment. The Body as a Miracle Conduit The body is a miracle conduit for moving forward. Reverse engineering is critical in achieving the results you want during teacher training. We will continue to repeat the same cycles unless we find what works for us. Therefore, we practice building a reservoir of awareness, wisdom, and knowledge. Coming from a place of acknowledgment and awareness will allow us to hold each other up as equals.   5 Powerful Quotes [07:14] “The metaphor is that just when we want to gather ourselves, sometimes, life just throws a curveball or sometimes a bird… We can learn so much from nature.” [19:04] “Part of being radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when love is no longer being served and having the courage or the empowerment to get up from that table and move on.” [26:50] “We don't just throw people away. I think that's where the nuance comes in. Just because I'm leaving the table, doesn't mean I'm leaving the room.” [33:27] "Sometimes those feelings need to come out. You need to be able to be angry." [42:02] “We're in the school of being a human. Unless we can find what works for us and different ways to establish new neurological pathways, new patterns, new habits, we're going to continue to repeat the same cycles over and over.” This episode brought to you by: www.oliveandjune.com/loved Promo code LOVED   This episode brought to you by: Get 20% your at home lab test http://www.Everlywell.com/loved   This episode brought to you by: https://wondery.com/plus/   This episode brought to you by: ACORN Try for 30 days free acorn.tv USE CODE:  loved (lower case)               Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Did you learn valuable insights on letting go of relationships? Do you want to extend this knowledge to people struggling with leaving the table? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie


    Episode 392. Manifesting through Meditation with Cassandra Bodzak

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2021 39:56


    Manifesting through Meditation with Cassandra Bodzak We all have something we truly desire. It might be sharing a message to the world, or creating something to be admired by generations to come. In your journey towards your goals, you've probably stumbled upon the term ‘manifestation'. While it does work, it requires a lot more work than people realize. Without the right manifestation methods , whatever you're doing is most likely a lost cause. In this episode, Cassandra Bodzak joins us to discuss her book Manifestation through Meditation. She explains why meditation is a key component of manifesting. Most importantly, she details the four steps you need to go through to manifest your dreams into reality. Cassandra also shares inspiring stories of how she did the work to attract the things she wanted. If you want to learn the right manifestation methods, then tune in to this episode! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover the difference between human desires and our souls' desires. Learn the four steps of manifestation through meditation. Find out how Cassandra published a book through manifesting. Resources Manifesting through Meditation by Cassandra Bodzak Get book bonuses: a free guided meditation, extended versions of the book, and a free bonus workshop on utilizing it. Connect with Cassandra: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Website Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! This Episode brought to you by Cerebral www.getcerebral.com/loved Get 65% OFF your first month! Aurate www.AurateNewYork.com/loved For 20% off your first Aurate purchase! Use promo code: loved   Episode Highlights Cassandra's Book-Writing Process The whole writing process was fast for her, as she felt that it channeled through her. She started writing in March of 2021. She is an embodiment of the results of manifestation, as she manifested the book on her birthday this year. Manifesting Her Grandmother's Gift Cassandra's grandmother, who she considers her best friend and go-to person, passed away recently. On her first birthday without her grandmother, Cassandra expressed that she expected a gift undeniably from her. She joined a meditation retreat wherein she was able to plug into source and divine energy. She took it as a gift from her grandmother. On that same day, she got an email from a publisher. She has been trying to pitch the book in different ways, but it just wasn't ever right. Cassandra believes that her grandmother pulled some strings for her to make that happen. Because of that, she was able to finish the book in a week and a half. Manifesting through Meditation From working with clients, Cassandra noticed how most people are skipping meditation when attempting manifestation methods. Due to the manifestation catchphrase culture, many believe that manifestation methods without spiritual work are enough. In her book, she provided a four-step process to guide readers to grow in meditation when manifesting. She details 100 different meditations to guide you in this process. Listen to the full episode to hear more! The First Step: Remembering Yourself People tend to skip this step, not realizing that without it, the process won't work. The primary purpose of meditation is for you to remember who you are. When you do, you remember that you are a divine creator, have infinite potential, and limitless possibilities for your life. This step is crucial because we manifest from the infinite within us, not from our human personality. Tune in to the full episode to hear how Cassandra practices this step! The Second Step: Connecting to Your Soul Once you remember who you are, you connect to your soul's desires. These are different from your human desires, which are usually swayed by peer pressure. Our desires are like divine seeds planted in our souls that we are meant to grow. You can find your soul's desires through meditation, where you bare yourself of external pressures and go into your heart and essence. We also have to be careful of getting attached to how we want a desire to happen. The Third Step: Reflection This step involves looking at your wounds and limiting beliefs. You have to sit down with yourself and why you have yet to have what you manifest. A lot of people hate this step because it makes them evaluate and reassess their life and decisions. Cassandra's book has a whole process on how to help you do fear inventory, work through them, and heal. When you start shifting your mindset, you get to see the other side of everything, where more things are available to you. The limiting beliefs we put on ourselves keep us from manifesting more abundance. The Last Step: Quantum Embodiment Quantum embodiment is the step wherein you believe that the thing you're manifesting has already happened. To get to this level, you should not be restrained by your own beliefs. You don't have to wait for it to happen. Act like you already got it, and you will attract it even faster. In this step, you have to ask yourself: How would the next-level version of me do life? Cassandra's Personal Experience of Quantum Embodiment One of the biggest things that Cassandra manifested was being in a cooking show on ABC. She used to post amateur videos of herself cooking on YouTube because she enjoyed it. That is how a producer of the show found her. She also manifested her books. She was already talking about it to her friends even if the writing had not started yet. Cassandra only started writing the book when she got the deal. But, it didn't matter because she was energetically sending the message that she was willing to show up. Whenever she wants something to happen, she acts as if it happened already. That's what she did when she set up a home studio, which paved the way for her acting career. Rosie's Manifestation Before, Rosie wanted to do public speaking. However, she didn't really enjoy being on camera. She enrolled herself in a monologue acting class where she read a poetry book in front of everyone. She was terrified, which speaks to how manifesting takes hard work and not just feeling your fantasy. The class helped her feel more confident and empowered in all areas of her personal and professional life. Looking back, Rosie thinks that class was what she needed to create the podcast. Everything Happens for a Reason Cassandra suggests that we should be open and intuitive about other people's suggestions. We think that our journey to our desire is linear. Sometimes we have to trust that the dots are going to connect. Our desires may be guiding us to another thing which we have yet to conceive. How Cassandra Feels Radically Loved She feels radically loved through meditation, which allows her to have a dialogue with her ‘divine support squad'. She ends up seeing and feeling their support as she moves through every day. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [07:29] “I believe that manifestation is something that you have to not only cultivate in a spiritual sense, but also, it's something that you think. It's something that you say. It's something that you do.” [08:55] “There's this illusion that you can snap your fingers, manifest stuff without actually doing the spiritual work that requires.” [11:56] “When you remember who we are, then we remember that we're divine creators; we remember that we have infinite potential, that we have limitless possibilities for our life.” [12:18] “We don't manifest from our human personality, right? We manifest from the infinite within us.” [32:15] “It could be the journey that having that desire brings us on actually leads us to something that we couldn't even conceive at that moment because it wasn't even available in our consciousness yet.” About Cassandra Cassandra Bodzak is a thought leader and global meditation and wellness teacher. She devotes her life to helping wonder women make peace with their bodies, quiet their minds, and reconnect with their souls. That's why she founded an online community about mind-soul-body support. She is the author of the bestselling book, Eat with Intention: Recipes and Meditations for a Life that Lights You Up. Her latest book guides individuals through manifestation methods involving meditation. Cassandra is also known as the happy, healthy living guru on ABC's The Taste with Anthony Bourdain. If you want to connect with Cassandra, you can visit her website, Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter. Or join her online mind-body-soul support community Aprecity. You can also subscribe to her YouTube channel for new episodes of her mindful cooking show! Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people learn manifestation methods? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to send us messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Thanks for listening!    


    391. #WisdomWednesdays: Generating Luck and Maximizing Opportunities for a Successful Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2021 51:53

    #WisdomWednesdays: Generating Luck and Maximizing Opportunities for a Successful Life For sure, there have been situations in your life when you felt lucky. You may have been able to get to your appointment just in time or made a decision that led you away from harm. Most of the time, these things just happen, without rhyme or reason. But did you know that you can also invite luck for you to have a happy and successful life ?  In this episode, Rosie and Tessa discuss the ways luck plays into our lives. They share how manifesting what you want also involves hard work and grit. When you want to generate more luck for a successful life, you need to make sure you're committed and know why you do what you do. By staying optimistic and patient, you'll get there someday too.  Tune in to discover how to generate opportunities and luck for a happy and successful life! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Get insights on how luck affects us and keeps us on the path towards a successful life. Understand that for you to achieve success, your actions must follow your thoughts. Know the importance of being able to afford the successful life that you want. this episode is sponsored by: WonderyListen to EVEN THE RICH on Apple podcasts, Amazon Music, or you can listen ad-free by joining Wondery Plus in the Wondery App https://apps.apple.com/us/app/wondery-premium-podcast-app/id1485913772 Everywell You get 20% off an at-home lab test at www.everlywell.com/loved Olive & June Get your first mani system for 20% off! www.oliveandjune.com/loved Acorn TV Try Acorn TV for 30 days free with the promo code: loved But you HAVE to enter the code in all lowercase letters. www.acorntv.com   Resources BioMat Stay updated on Rosie's upcoming book launch and international retreats by subscribing to the newsletter! Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights How to Define Luck Luck can be seen as a way for people to cope with events beyond their control. It helps people stay optimistic. However, there may be times when there is a synchronicity of events happening in perfect unison with outcomes that can only be possible through divine intervention. In the full episode, Rosie and Tessa share stories where luck saved them from traumatic events. Luck and How It Directs People People can view luck negatively. For example, some would say how it's lucky for others to have certain things. Remember that achieving certain goals also involves hard work and commitment. Thus, we should view luck with more nuance. Rosie believes in an unseen force, a divine intervention, guiding us to make the right decisions. Manifesting and Acting Towards a Successful Life Manifestation is all about action that follows thought. Nothing happens when you don't act on it. In the same way, you can foster more luck in your life by working for it. There will be times, however, when you won't see results. This lack of success could be because it's not yet time or perhaps the thing you're trying to do is not serving your highest good. Knowing Your Inner Compass Whenever you find yourself stuck, ask yourself these two questions: Who are you doing this for? Why are you doing what you're doing? Beyond this, you need to ask yourself: Can you afford the career you want? That is, are you putting in the effort and investment necessary to actively live your career path? A successful life doesn't happen overnight. You need to keep generating luck and optimizing your opportunities. Moving Forward from Loss and Challenges You may face challenges along the way, but you need to keep moving forward and stay motivated. A successful life takes time and effort to achieve. Rosie shares that her status in life took around 15 years to build. If you know what you want and you're committed to putting in the work to achieve it, you can build a successful life. Finding Your Happiness Rosie and Tessa share in the full episode how their entrepreneurial journey was full of challenges, but they knew they were in the right place. Not everyone is suited for entrepreneurship. What's important is that you're happy and content where you are. Remember to keep yourself open to possibilities and opportunities so luck can come into your life. 5 Powerful Quotes [07:55] “There's so much synchronicity in certain things that happen that it's hard to believe that a whole slew of events happens so perfectly in perfect unison that create an outcome that couldn't have happened for any other reason than a divine intervention.” [28:44] “Energy follows thought. Whatever it is you're thinking and whatever it is you're working towards, it's not just magically manifested out of thin air; there's action behind it.” [36:14] “[Sucess] does not happen overnight. You need to be able to put yourself in a pathway where you are generating luck, but you're also maximizing your opportunities when you do get that luck.” [40:54] “If you are committed and you know in your heart that this is what you want to do, it works 100% of the time.” [48:07] “When you open yourself up to [luck] and proactively begin the movements and strategies and dreaming towards it, I believe that that's when things come into sync, and your life begins to unravel in a way that maybe it's meant to.” Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Did you learn valuable insights on how you can generate more luck and maximize opportunities for a happy and successful life? Would you want more people to be inspired?  A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 390. How to Find Life's Purpose and Keep Your Spark Alive During the Pandemic with Jonathan Fields

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2021 46:25


    How to Find Life's Purpose and Keep Your Spark Alive During the Pandemic with Jonathan Fields How has the pandemic changed you? Being thrust into a situation where everything is uncertain would make anyone feel frustrated, stressed, and uneasy. Some may have overcome the challenges and begun thriving despite — or because of — the new normal we live in. But it's not everyone. Some people have lost their jobs or loved ones. Still, the world continues to turn; there's nowhere for us to go but forward. So how can you figure out how to find life's purpose  amid this global crisis? Jonathan Fields has one answer to doing exactly that. In today's episode, he describes one method for coping with the ongoing pandemic. He'll also discuss and share insights from his latest book, Sparked. If you want to know how to find life's purpose and keep your spark alive, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Get insights on how to find life's purpose and reignite your passion for your work even during the pandemic. Understand why it's crucial to allow yourself to be vulnerable and let others into your experience. Discover how to expand your potential, both in work and life, even with the current situation. Resources Connect with Jonathan: Website Good Life Project Podcast Take the Sparketype now! Pre-order Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive by Jonathan Fields and get big bonuses! FREE workbook! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Enter your email below, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Jonathan the Good Life Guy Jonathan also hosts The Good Life Podcast, which inspired Rosie to start Radically Loved. You can always learn something – whether big or small – from the people that you meet. Jonathan's Yoga History Before venturing into writing and podcasts, Jonathan wanted to open a yoga center in New York. Then, the 9/11 incident occurred, spurring him on to continue the center. Jonathan believed people needed a place for healing and community. Jonathan taught yoga for seven years before moving into his current work. Human Relationships and Going Analog The pandemic pushed most of our social interactions into the digital space. Jonathan recently prefers going analog when it comes to relationships since we have lost that physical aspect of socializing. Physical objects, like letters, transmit a level of intentionality and love that can emotionally connect us. Writing “Sparked” During the Pandemic Jonathan already had the idea of the book in his head even before the pandemic started. The book is about seeing and understanding yourself clearly, as well as having hope and possibility. As the pandemic progressed, the intention of the book began to change. Jonathan wishes that his book helps other people meaningfully reflect on themselves during this pandemic. The Writing Process The core of the book is about "sparketypes" — a tool for you to understand what work makes you feel excited and alive. Jonathan identifies himself as a “maker” — a person that focuses on manifesting ideas. During the pandemic, he had the chance to delve deep into this “creation mode” and just do his own thing. Doing things that satisfy your innate impulses can help you feel more grounded despite the anxiety and unease this global crisis brings. Jonathan hopes to delve deeper into how to access this feeling of equanimity. How to Find Life's Purpose with the Sparketypes? As a maker, Jonathan wanted to do more than just replicate other bodies of work. He would not have continued working on the sparketypes if this were the case. This project started with many people asking him how to find life's purpose and feel more alive. Jonathan posits that there are a set of mappable impulses for work. These impulses have a set of common tendencies or archetypes, which he calls sparketypes. He wanted to validate this idea, so he built an assessment tool that over half a million people have completed. Many individuals have found this tool valuable in answering how to find life's purpose. How Jonathan Continues to Practice Yoga Even if he is no longer teaching yoga per se, he still considers his work on exploring the human condition and finding ways to reduce suffering as a part of his practice. To All Who Have Lost Their Light An experience like the pandemic can change you forever, and there is no going back to the person you were before. Allow yourself to feel a painful moment thoroughly rather than forcing yourself to get out of this space. It's okay to be sad. Many people have felt a sense of isolation; know that you are not alone.  Give yourself permission to feel vulnerable and allow others to share the experience with you. Your feelings and experiences are valid. Acknowledge the truth in them and how they have affected you.  How to Find Life's Purpose in the Pandemic Inequity is more palpable now than ever since plenty of people have lost their jobs because of COVID-19. Not everyone is adequately equipped with resources to live a comfortable life in this pandemic.  Look into what is accessible and available to you and find ways to work with it. Reflect on what you truly value and think of how you can achieve it.  Life is fleeting, so do things not only for security but also for their meaning. Keeping the Spark Burning Search for activities, tools, and processes that you regularly use, then investigate how they can make your work more meaningful. There will always be ways that enable you to express your sparketype in the work you do. Once you do, you will feel much more fulfilled. We can't ignore and address hard truths. However, we need to create a healthy boundary in what we let in. How Jonathan Feels Radically Loved Jonathan feels radically loved in every possible way – by his family, friends, and everyone around him. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [12:20] “When you actually can allocate more of your energy to doing the work that aligns with this innate impulse, it gives you this sense of grounding.” [23:11] “Give yourself permission to be vulnerable and open to inviting other people into your life who you trust and who, you know, were there to support you.” [23:31] “The starting point, is to own the truth of this experience, to own the truth of how you're feeling, to know that it's actually okay to feel those things, and to allow people into the experience with you to help.” [27:57] “Life is tender, and sometimes short and fleeting.” [39:20] "We are addicted to the noise of everything falling apart...You can acknowledge those but at the same time, create both healthy boundaries in what you let in and what you don't let in.” About Jonathan Jonathan Fields is an award-winning author, Webby-nominated producer, and business innovator. He has dedicated his life to creating things that can inspire people and teach them how to find life's purpose. He continues to impart his experiences that spark the 3P's: purpose, possibility, and potential. Jonathan is known as the Good Life Guy, as he hosts one of the most well-known podcasts called Good Life Project. In addition to writing bestsellers like How to Live a Good Life and Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance, Jonathan also founded several notable companies. Spark Endeavors, which hosts Sparketypes—a powerful tool for generating global data set and insight-based solutions—is his most recent.  If you wish to know more about Jonathan or if you want to connect with him, you can visit his website.    This Episode brought to you by Tonal Visit:  https://www.tonal.com/   Try tonal for 30 days risk free!  Get $100 OFF all smart accessories with promo code: ROSIE     Uprising Foods $10 OFF the starter bundle!  www.uprisingfood.com/loved   Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people know how to find life's purpose and keep their spark alive? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie


    Episode 389. #WisdomWednesdays: How to Let Go of Resentment

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2021 39:23

    #WisdomWednesdays: How to Let Go of Resentment We're all different people with different belief systems, communication styles, and experiences in life. As such, disagreements in relationships are inevitable. But, when you come from a place of love and compassion, you can move past it and learn how to let go of resentment . It can be tricky, but it is necessary for a healthy relationship. The secret is taking a step back to check in with yourself and hold space for others. In today's episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about the importance of holding space in relationships. They recall some personal experiences that have proven the beauty of holding space for and honoring each other amidst disagreements and budding resentment. They also break down the feeling of resentment to better understand its root and how to turn it down. Tune in to this episode to discover the transformative power of holding space and releasing resentment in shaping a healthier relationship with yourself and others. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Find out a new approach in dealing with disagreements in relationships. Discover the beauty and importance of holding space for yourself and others. Learn how to let go of resentment. Resources Fierce Love: A Bold Path To Ferocious Courage And Rule-Breaking Kindness That Can Heal The World by Dr. Jacqui Lewis Maybe It's You: Cut The Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. by Lauren Zander We'd love to get a listener on board the Wisdom Wednesday Podcast! Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com with the subject “Wisdom Wednesday” and tell us your name, contact information, and any topic or question you'd want to discuss. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Tessa's Recent Trip to Germany Tessa just got back from a trip to Germany to visit her best friend. According to her, spending time with her best friend feels like home. What she loves about their friendship is the way it is radically honest and supportive. On Friendships Friendships are like romantic relationships in many ways. It's crucial to share openly, honor each other, and give some space for each other to grow. After getting sick from COVID, Rosie started to bring more intention to making time for her friends. She finds importance in nourishing her innermost circle of friends and family consistently. For this, voice notes come in handy. It can help you stay connected with friends and be an outlet for your feelings. Dealing with Disagreements There are instances when we're not ready to hear what someone has to tell us; we need to learn how to move past those. Tessa recalls her falling out with her best friend. She suddenly stopped talking to Tessa for two years. When they reconciled, it was hard for Tessa to accept how her best friend felt towards her. But she had to respect her experience and give her some space and time. For Tessa, leaving space for others and herself helps her deal with such mishaps. We all have different belief systems and processes. When it comes to disagreements, the best thing you can do is honor and respect someone's boundary out of love. In-Person Conversations vs. Text Conversations In-person conversations can better portray reactions and feelings. Conversing through text can be a challenge because things might get taken the wrong way. Regardless if it's a face-to-face or text conversation, Rosie reminds us that other people do not communicate the same way you do. You have to be open to receive how other people communicate so you can meet eye to eye. Communication Styles Tessa shares that she appreciates and finds safety in her partner's direct communication style. It is possible to be direct and compassionate at the same time. You can speak your truth from a place of love and compassion. How to Let Go of Resentment Rosie talks about her interview with Dr. Jacqui Lewis about speaking your truth but feeling resentment afterward. You might find discomfort in the space between what you want the outcome to be and what the outcome is, and this may draw resentment. Your resentment can come from premeditated expectations that are not met by someone else, and that's on you. There is so much give and take in a relationship. Discerning your expectations and being mindful of them can help you learn how to let go of resentment. Final Thoughts Resentment or disappointment in a relationship can come from a lost connection with yourself. Take a moment to see what's happening. We can be experts at finger-pointing at others. We also have to point fingers back at ourselves to see if we're the ones with a problem. Holding space for and honoring each other is essential in any relationship.     5 Powerful Quotes [10:51] “I lean towards giving the person space, and I approach that across the board with grieving someone's loss, or betrayal, or things with that nature.” [12:25] “One of the best definitions of loving someone to me is the whole concept of accepting all of who they are.” [24:07] “We have certain people in our lives that fulfill a certain role. And if they're not filling that role exactly how you want it, that's not on them. That's on you.” [25:23] “Expectations are premeditated resentments because you've lost sight of the connection with yourself.” [29:03] “If you don't leave room for the other, where does the light come in?”   This episode is brought to you by Betterhelp:   https://www.betterhelp.com/loved/ Get 10% OFF your first month (discount will be automatically applied with this link)     BiOptimizers  bioptimizers.com/radicallyloved Use Code: radicallyloved10 for 10% OFF your first purchase     Blenders Eyewear www.blenderseyewear.com enter promo code: LOVEDVIP to get 15% off your Blenders purchase!    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help others learn how to let go of resentment to have healthy relationships? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 388. The Power of Interacting and Connecting with People with Joe Keohane

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2021 43:11

    The Power of Interacting and Connecting with People with Joe Keohane From a young age, our elders teach us to distrust people we don't know. One of the most popular children's stories revolves around this idea. Little Red Riding Hood goes out to her grandma. She talks to a stranger in the form of a sly fox. She arrives at her grandma's house only to find out she's been tricked. The moral of the story is singular—strangers have wicked intentions, so you have to be wary of them. But is there credence to this?  In today's episode, we're joined by Joe Keohane, a journalist, parallel parker, and a firm believer of the goodness in humanity and strangers. He debunks the stranger danger propaganda and explains the benefits of connecting with people . Cooperation and connection are part of our nature, and also our secret to success. Joe teaches us to overcome our fear of talking to strangers and how to have more meaningful interactions with them. Tune in to the full episode to tap into the power of connecting with strangers for self-expansion! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover the benefits of engaging and connecting with people. Understand, on a deeper level, your fear of talking to others. Gain some inspiration and insights into how you can connect with strangers comfortably. Resources Connect with Joe: Twitter | LinkedIn Joe's book, The Power of Strangers Theory of Self-Expansion Mistakenly Seeking Solitude, a report on connecting with strangers conducted by Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder University of Essex social psychologist Gillian Sandstrom Duke evolutionary psychologist Michael Tomasello University of Michigan psychologist Oscar Ybarra Braver Angels organization Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Behind Joe's Book and the Current Social Climate Joe's parents like talking to strangers. Now, even in their 70s, they still make new friends. He found this trait interesting. Although he is not as confident as his parents, he went into journalism, which involves a lot of talking to strangers as well. After having a moving conversation with a cab driver, Joe realized he hasn't been connecting with people as much as he did. Joe thinks two factors contribute to this decrease in engagement with others: stress from work and the advent of smartphones. Wanting to know more, Joe spent a few years researching how we connect with people. This was the genesis of his book. The Effects of Connecting with People Connecting with people is akin to self-expansion. When you talk to someone and have a profound connection with them, you can gain new perspectives on the world. Talking to someone different from you can also help you expand your viewpoints and reconsider your opinions about their race or country. These connections challenge preconceived ideas of the world and the people in it, which in turn alleviates prejudice and political polarization. The Fear of Talking to Strangers As a child, Joe was bombarded with stranger danger propaganda. Research shows that this belief eroded an entire generation's trust in other people. However, the claim that strangers pose a mortal threat is statistically baseless. In reality, more crimes are committed by people already close to the victim. Things like inequality, gender, race, and political orientation can make it harder to initiate connecting with people. People fear interacting with strangers because they don't know how to do it. Listen to the full episode to hear more about the research behind this anxiety! But once you begin conversing with others, it tends to go much better than you expect. Flipping the Scripts When asked how we're doing, we usually respond to others' questions by rote. These answers are called scripts. Joe challenged himself to break these scripts when he interacts with others. To his surprise, this led to more meaningful interactions, however short. Connecting with people this way can make us feel more optimistic and trusting. We tend to overestimate the rejection we will experience when starting conversations with strangers. Tune in to the episode to find out about the research on the topic! Interactions In-Person vs. On Social Media Social media allows you to be anonymous. You can also plan what you'll say ahead of replying. Meanwhile, talking to people in person is more cognitively challenging. However, you get mentally stronger as you start connecting with people more. In addition, it is our nature to communicate and collaborate with others. It is a trait that set us apart from other mammals and allowed us to form civilizations. Dangers of Disconnecting from People Lack of interaction and connection is poison to society. The polarization that it causes further leads to entrenchment and dehumanization of other people and groups. Online, it's much easier to dismiss people based on their opinions. Whereas in person, we are driven to seek commonality with others. You can have a conversation with people with opposing views. You just have to go out there seeking to understand. Media platforms give us a negative perception of other people. By going out into the world and connecting with others, you can correct this pessimism. Connecting with People in the Current Political Climate Joe recently spent time with an organization that helps Democrats and Republicans connect with each other. Being from Boston and living in New York, Joe identifies as a moderate liberal. His research and experiences made him less dismissive of people from the other side. He's hopeful that while it will take time, we can achieve political rebuilding. If you hear something you don't like, don't be quick to dismiss or respond contemptuously. Instead, pause for a second and try to understand the other view. The Problem with Today's Society Humans are hypersocial creatures. Cooperation is in our basic human nature and the secret to success. But due to various factors, we have become smaller and angrier beings. Now that we're not fulfilling our social needs, rates of depression and loneliness are skyrocketing. To combat this, we need to try interacting and connecting with people. How Joe Feels Radically Loved Joe's 5-year old recently described her love for him as something that makes her heart explode. That's what makes Joe radically loved. 5 Powerful Quotes [12:28] “The main fear that people had was just a fear that they didn't know how to [interact with others].” [16:31] “There's a raft of benefits to even having like kind of high-quality small talk with somebody. You just have to actually do it.” [21:07] “It comes pretty natural to people once they do it. Once they get past the anxiety and once they work those muscles a little bit, it becomes second nature. [31:01] “Instead of being reactive, act more wisely.” [33:38] “We're wired for connection. That's the secret to the success of the species.” About Joe Joe Keohane is a veteran journalist who's held high-level positions in publications like Esquire, The New Yorker, Wired, and Boston Magazine. He has also contributed to writing several textbooks and a screenplay. His life revolves around talking to people he barely knows and reporting facts and data. Fueled by curiosity, he decided to intensively research connecting with people and their value for self-expansion. This work resulted in his book, The Power of Strangers. You can learn more about Joe on his website or connect with him through Twitter and LinkedIn.   This episode brought to you by  LinkedIn LinkedIN Join us for the LinkedIn Accelerator Program www.linkedin.com/creators      This episode brought to you by    MyFitnessPal    MyFitnessPal Get a one month premium subscription today! loved.myfitnesspal.com use the code: loved    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help others reap the benefits of connecting with people? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 387. Promoting Diversity and Inclusiveness in the Wellness Space with Maygen Nicholson

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2021 44:17

    Promoting Diversity and Inclusiveness in the Wellness Space with Maygen Nicholson Yoga and meditation are crucial tools we use in an increasingly busy and stressful world. But, did you know some people are being excluded in these spaces? The 2SLGBTQIA+ community has long withstood discrimination in society, and the wellness space is no exemption. It's already difficult to manage stress, what more for those who are marginalized. In today's episode, Maygen Nicholson breaks down how we can promote diversity and inclusiveness  in the wellness spaces and everywhere you go. The first step is understanding. Furthermore, it is a lifelong process that involves continuously educating ourselves and learning from others. The journey will be uncomfortable, but that is part of the work that we need to do. If you want to learn how to create safe spaces for the non-gender-conforming people in your community, this episode is for you!      Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand why it's crucial to honor people's identities. Learn how you can embrace diversity and inclusiveness. Know how to educate yourself and others on the topic. Resources Check out the incredible work of theTrans Yoga Project! Tristan Katz' website Maygen and Tristan Katz' Public Statement regarding J Brown's podcast interview Want to learn more from Maygen? Sign up for theirworkshops! Connect with Maygen:Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | Email Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Honoring Pronouns and Names Affirming someone in their identity drastically decreases mental health risks. Misgendering others can cause them to have gender dysphoria, a state of psychological distress. Doing this also equates to gaslighting the person you are misgendering. Practice asking how people want to be called. The Need for Diversity and Inclusiveness in Healing Spaces Maygen used to hold queer and trans-only yoga classes. Most of their attendees only felt comfortable practicing yoga with them. Yoga and meditation are important tools for the marginalized. Yet, many queer and trans people experience harm and discrimination in these wellness spaces. The main issue is a lack of understanding. So, it's everybody's responsibility to learn and do better. Even the origin of yoga accepts and honors gender-nonconforming people, so why isn't our modern practice able to do the same? Educating Ourselves We all need to educate ourselves on the matter. It is not a gender non-conforming person's job to teach you. You will always have a blind spot, so it's crucial to keep learning from others and your mistakes. The first step is dismantling your biases around gender, and then learning about what you don't know. Promoting diversity and inclusivity is less about knowing the right language and more about making other people feel seen and heard. Divestment and Support There are still a lot of important conversations to have. For instance, the number of black trans people being murdered is increasing every year. It's not possible to cancel people with immense privilege. What you can do instead is to divest or pull away from them. It's exhausting for people in the community to constantly speak about their marginalization. As an ally, you can show your support for diversity and inclusiveness by talking to the people in your life. Embracing Diversity and Inclusiveness We have to graduate from tokenism and confront our biases within ourselves. Even if you come from a place of privilege, there are still ways the dominant culture inhibits you from being who you truly are. It's going to take a while before spaces created by cis white people become safe for everyone. In the meantime, you can create these spaces yourself. Hire people from the community to create a more diverse workspace. Advocating for diversity and inclusiveness will benefit you too, as it will make your space richer. Taking Action Ideas are not helpful if they only live in your head. You need to put your knowledge into action. Different identities have long existed before colonization. As such, promoting diversity and inclusiveness is also a process of reclamation. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [09:53] “I think that that's the biggest problem. It's like so because you don't want to offend, you just don't say anything. That's not the point either.” [17:41] “It's every person's responsibility to do the work, whether or not you have somebody in your life. It's also really important to know that it is not a trans or non-binary or gender nonconforming person's job to educate you.” [19:17] “The first step is dismantling all your biases around gender or learning what you don't know about it.” [20:24] ”Let go of any need to assume in the first place, that we look at somebody and we just know who they are.” [36:44] “Since the beginning of time, these identities have existed and a multitude of cultures all over the world. So this is a reclamation process.” About Maygen Maygen Nicholson is an LGBTQIA+ Inclusion and Validation Educator, Changemaker, Truthteller, and Wellness Leader. They are passionate about helping to liberate hearts and minds free of beliefs and biases that hold us back from our true, authentic selves. To do this, Maygen facilitates safe spaces for LGBTQIA+ inclusion and validation education with an intersectional lens rooted in wellness. Maygen trained as a professional dancer and became a yoga teacher. They saw the inherent queer and trans exclusion and discrimination within these two industries. These experiences led them to hold queer and trans-specific yoga sessions and reach out to the greater public through education workshops and learning sessions. Learn more about Maygen's work on their website. You can also reach out to them via Instagram, Linkedin, Facebook, and email.       Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help promote diversity and inclusiveness in your spaces? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 386. Building Resilience To Find Peace From Anxiety With Hala Khouri

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2021 38:31

    Building Resilience To Find Peace From Anxiety With Hala Khouri We live in a time when our lives can be overwhelmed by stress and anxiety. Being in this constant state can perpetuate a feeling of helplessness. But at one point, we have to face all these negative feelings inside us to free ourselves from them by building resilience . Acknowledging that both positive and negative things can co-exist is the only way we can feel more at peace. In this episode, Hala Khouri joins us to share the essential tools in her book, Peace from Anxiety. She talks about developing the concept of “tend and befriend” as a stress response and interoception as a self-regulation technique. Hala also discusses why she chose the theme of building resilience. Tune in to the episode to learn how you can find peace from anxiety and transform your life. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn about the three different aspects that might be keeping you from finding peace. Find out helpful tips on what to do when you're unable to regulate your nervous system during high-stress states. Discover the concepts of self-regulation, interoception, and building resilience in transforming yourself. Resources Connect with Hala: Website | Facebook | Instagram Off the Mat, Into the World Peace from Anxiety by Hala Khouri Shambhala Publications Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Writing Peace from Anxiety Hala always knew the book was inside her. Many of her students and clients were requesting for the information to be more widely available. The book-writing process was a seamless experience for Hala. She was ready and merely wrote every smart thing she has said. The book is divided into three different parts. What will impact readers most depends on what's missing in their lives. The First Part: Physiological Aspects This part is about grounding techniques, self-regulation, and understanding our nervous system. It's often the easiest for people to grasp and has the most immediate impact. These tools are the things people remember, implement, and do all the time. The Second Part: Relationships We can't be well alone. While we can have all the tools for our bodies to run smoothly, we still need to build relationships. This part is not something you can do right away. It involves working on prioritizing relationships, asking for help, and letting yourself need other people. The Third Part: The Global Heart It's about feeling like we're contributing towards a better world. For some people, the missing piece is the sense of making meaning and taking accountability. We all need to have a larger feeling of purpose and meaning. Relationship Divisions on Social Media Our thinking is very binary when we're in a high-stress state. Separation can be a stress reaction. The disembodied relationships and biased algorithms of social media make it worse. Social media is the perfect storm to our massive division and intolerance for difference. Before judging other people in a black-and-white manner, remember that we all have different levels of access to information and education. On Unhappiness, Forgiveness, and Giving Care Unhappy people tend to focus on their unhappiness because of the hypervigilance of figuring out how to be happy. Hala has worked with people with anxiety and depression. The “cure” they found was extending their care beyond themselves. We need to transform our stress response from “fight or flight” to “tend and befriend.” Tend and befriend is about seeing that our well-being is bound and extending ourselves to care for others when we're stressed. With the coronavirus, nobody can be well until everybody is well. Getting vaccinated is more of thinking about the sake of other people than yourself. What to Do When You're Unable to Regulate Your Nervous System Sometimes, we need somebody or something else to hold us. It can be another person or a spiritual belief that is bigger than us. Connecting to the suffering of others intentionally makes us feel less alone in our suffering. If you have COVID-19, think about all the other millions of people who also have COVID-19 at the exact moment. Allow your heart to open and feel that you're not alone in your suffering. Tune in to the full episode to hear about Rosie's experience on contracting COVID-19! Launching a Book Hala still feels surreal that her book is out. She hopes the book becomes a tool to support and impact people, especially at this high-anxiety time. One of her critiques about self-help books is their overly individualistic paradigm. Her book encourages people to need each other and allows them not to do everything right by themselves. Parenting at the Time of COVID-19 Her children understand how lucky they are to not be affected as badly as others. The issues her children experience are around missing milestones that allow them to feel themselves growing. Sometimes parents want to make their children's bad feelings go away. Doing that is a disservice to your child. Instead, Hala teaches her children how to face difficult feelings while also acknowledging what is positive. Self-Regulating When You're Hyperfocused on Negative Feelings We tend to hyperfocus on negative feelings when we're anxious, depressed, or scared. Numbing or denying the negative feelings don't work. Allow yourself to notice what else is in your body that feels good. Build the capacity in your brain to hold something that feels pleasant along with what's uncomfortable. The goal is not to get overwhelmed by anxiety or depression. Then, they can become just a part of who we are while we're still able to focus on the good. Interoception and Trauma Interoception is our capacity to sense what's happening inside us. Since we live in a disembodied culture, most of us have to learn it. This process is even harder for people who have had a lot of trauma in their formative years. You have to understand that you can't just stop being anxious instantly. But you can work on being more grounded. It would be helpful to have support, such as being in a yoga class or working with a therapist. You have to go slow. Otherwise, you will keep yourself in a high anxiety cycle. Slowing Down We get used to moving at a particular pace that's comfortably uncomfortable. Slowing down is scary, but it is okay. Hala decided not to go for her doctorate. It was a tough decision, but she realized she doesn't have to do that right now. We don't always have to strive to be amazing; mediocrity can be satisfying as well. Building Resilience in the Book Hala focused on building resilience because it doesn't pathologize. Her favorite definition of resilience is allowing difficulties to transform us. It's having this feeling that we can handle life. Resilience is a word that is more nuanced than some other positive words. It's about our capacity to imagine things being better than they were. We're all living in an imagined future. Trauma is a loss of imagination; reclaiming that capacity gives us hope. How Hala Feels Radically Loved Hala feels radically loved in every moment by being surrounded by blessings, opportunities, and supportive relationships. 5 Powerful Quotes [11:11] “The thing that ‘cured' [people with anxiety and depression] was actually extending their care beyond themselves, making it about something bigger than themselves.”   [11:23] “I think what our planet needs is for us to transform our stress response from a fight or flight to a tend and befriend.”   [11:51] “Until everybody is well, nobody can be well.”   [23:33] “Maybe the goal is to not be overwhelmed by our anxiety or to feel like we're bigger than our depression so that those things become just a part of who we are.”   [33:31] “Trauma is a loss of imagination. And when we reclaim our capacity to imagine, then that gives us hope.”   About Hala Hala Khouri is the co-founder of Off the Mat Into the World, an organization dedicated to bridging yoga and activism. She is a yoga and movement teacher with over 25 years of experience and training in Somatic Experiencing. Hala is also a well-recognized speaker and trainer on yoga, social justice, and trauma. She has been doing clinical work and training for more than 15 years. The focus of her work is leading trauma-informed yoga training for individuals and groups. She trains educators and service providers on how to be trauma-informed and culturally responsive. If you want to connect with Hala, you may visit her website, Facebook, and Instagram. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people in building resilience? Do you want to know how to find peace from anxiety? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 385. #WisdomWednesdays: How to Stop Putting People on a Pedestal and Comparing Yourself with Others

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2021 51:13

    #WisdomWednesdays: How to Stop Putting People on a Pedestal and Comparing Yourself with Others If you're like most people, you probably begin comparing yourself with others  at the sight of greener pastures. However, what others choose to show us often does not include their struggles and flaws. In addition, everyone has a unique life path. Thus, it's best to refrain from putting others on pedestals. Instead, look inwards. Ask yourself — how can you bring joy into your life? Can you be the sun in someone else's? In this episode, Rosie and Tessa discuss the pitfalls of putting others on a pedestal and comparing yourself with others. They also touch on our humanness, making mistakes, and how everyone can change if we allow them to do so. Rosie also talks about choosing value-adding friendships and shares a personal experience about setting boundaries. Tune in to discover simple ways to be more in tune with yourself and combat the lack mentality! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand why you shouldn't put people on a pedestal and stop comparing yourself with others. Discover the need to look beyond people's mistakes and allow them to change. Know the importance of choosing what kind of friendships to keep in your life.  Resources The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo The Dharma of The Princess Bride: What the Coolest Fairy Tale of Our Time Can Teach Us About Buddhism and Relationships by Ethan Nichtern Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. We'd love to get a listener on board for #WisdomWednesdays! Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com with the subject “Wisdom Wednesday Guest” and tell us your name, where you're from, how you heard of the podcast, your favorite episode, and what you'd like to discuss. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Why We Shouldn't Put Other People on a Pedestal We're all humans who make mistakes. So, putting others on a pedestal only sets you up for disappointment. We're all flawed, but we tend to hide those parts of ourselves from the world. Instead, we only show our highlight reels. Instead of comparing yourself with others, you can direct your energy and attention inward, toward things that bring you joy. More often than not, we admire people not because they have something that we don't, but because they live more freely than us. Looking at someone carrying out their purpose can either spur us into action or make us feel defeated. How to Stop Comparing Yourself with Others We need to pause and consider that other people's lives are their own. We never know what someone else is going through. So, the best we can do is wish them well on their journey. Also, recognize that you have a lot to be grateful for in your life. Doing so can help distance yourself from a ‘lack' mentality. Ask yourself, what are the things you've done that make you feel proud? Acting on Inspiration It's not entirely wrong to put others on a pedestal because these people can inspire us to excel. The issue comes with being addicted to the inspiration and not doing anything in return. We have to create an outlet for this inspiration, or it becomes corrosive. Looking Beyond Mistakes  People make mistakes. What's important is how we process and learn from them. Sometimes, it's difficult to own up to our own mistakes due to fear of rejection. We must give ourselves and others room to make mistakes and learn from them. People can change, and we should give them that space to grow. If people are acting out, it's often because they come from a place of pain. On Friendships There are three types of friends—high maintenance, low maintenance, and no maintenance. There is a correct balance of friends for you. You can only give and take so much. Keep friendships that are value-adding to your life. It's okay to let go of friends. Asymmetrical relationships can be harmful to both of you. The key to navigating friendships is clear boundaries. Listen to the full episode to hear Rosie's story about a person who wanted to be friends with her. Final Thoughts To become better friends, we can reflect on this question: How do we show up as the sun in other people's lives? It is essential to cultivate your sense of self through meditation or alone time. Through mindfulness, you can know yourself instead of focusing your attention on how people perceive you. Knowing who you truly are can help you navigate life without being clouded by others' judgments. 5 Powerful Quotes [04:36] “Instead of comparing somebody else's outsides to our insides, we can reflect and put our attention and energy into the things that make us happy and bring us joy.” [11:33] “If we are just beings that want to consume inspiration and never do something in return, it's going to eventually create a void.” [22:18] “Somebody that maybe you admire or that you see that might have this outwardly wonderful-looking life could be going through a lot. So I always say, don't put people on pedestals.” [37:01] “It's time to release that relationship out into the world because it's not serving you. And I do believe that you outgrow people.” [41:52] “Without mindfulness, you will always be constructing your sense of self based on others' perceptions.”   This episode is brought to you by Thrive Causemetics  Get 15% OFF your first order thrivecausemetics.com/loved    This episode is brought to you by FAHERTY Go to www.fahertybrand.com Use Code: LOVED for 20% OFF   This episode brought to you by  ReadySlim Tea   www.readyslim.com/loved To save 25% off your first order of Ready Slim's 28 Day Detox Tea Kit  plus a FREE collapsable water bottle.      Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Did you learn valuable insights on how to stop comparing yourself with others? Do you want to extend this knowledge to people struggling with self-doubt? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 384. Achieving Enlightenment through Self-Acceptance with Wade Lightheart

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2021 52:31

    Achieving Enlightenment through Self-Acceptance with Wade Lightheart Do you have to be completely calm and serene to achieve enlightenment? The answer is, in a nutshell: no. You don't have to box in the different traits of yourself. Enlightenment is a journey by which you learn to accept yourself and your experiences. By continuously practicing yoga, you realize that the negative aspects go away by themselves. In today's episode, Wade Lightheart shares how we can embrace the transcendent experience to enlightenment. Here, he talks about his personal journey in his spiritual practice. We also glean some wisdom from his stories of near death experiences. Wade further enlightens us on how we can immerse yoga with the human experience. His story reminds us that we can always go through all aspects of human emotions and experiences and still thrive and live. If you want to find inspiration in your spiritual journey, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover how you can cultivate your practice towards enlightenment. Learn how Wade accepted and managed the nefarious characters within himself. Get insights from Wade's stories of near death experiences. Resources Connect with Wade: Instagram | Facebook Visit BiOptimizers and use the code RadicallyLoved10. Check out their awesome Health Course! Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramhansa Yogananda Common Sense About Yoga and Raja-Yoga by Swami Vivekananda Super-Learning by Sheila Ostrander and Lynn Schroeder Awake: The Life of Yogananda Map of Consciousness by David Hawkins Jordan Peterson Radically Loved Ep 331: Rising Above Digital Tribalism through Self-transcendence with Wade Lightheart Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Events that Led to Wade's Spiritual Practice Wade shares that his journey to spiritual practices has been through a series of miracles. He had a near death experience when he was 22. This event gave him clarity about faith, divinity, and a deeper exploration of the self. Wade also shares how he went through a series of past lives. He was given the book by a former workmate, Autobiography of a Yogi, which resolved his issues with organized religion. The Turning Point Life had a different turn of events for Wade. He had several experiences in the underground scene, some of which he shares in the episode. He soon came across a brother and sister who gave him three books on yoga. It was from one of these books that he realized he needed a mentor in his practice. Yogananda appeared in his room, and through silent transmission, advised him to do Kriya Yoga. Managing the Nefarious Character Wade shares that although he cultivated his meditation and spiritual practice, he didn't fully extricate himself from the party lifestyle. With self-realization, he recognized the nefarious parts of him. He learned that acceptance was the answer and not resolution. If you go deeper into your spiritual, internal realm, the less frequent the nefarious characters emerge. If they do, they come out in a more wholesome way. Accepting versus Resolving In meditation and yoga practice, there's often the notion that you have to tone down your "wild side," or that you have to look or behave a certain way. But Wade clarifies that yoga is not a way of restriction; yoga is all-encompassing and accepting. By practicing yoga and being inspired by divinity, the negative aspects of oneself go away on their own. Enlightenment versus Sainthood Sainthood is glorified in the West, while the East aims for Buddhahood or enlightenment. The former is the perfection of the personality, while the latter is the transcendence of it. Stories of Near Death Experiences Wade shares that he had two more near death experiences, one of which was the ultimate death experience. Listen to the full episode to hear more about these near death experiences! This death is not only of the physical body but of the ego itself. David Hawkins refers to this as the "final door." Death is an opening up to something far more than our lives and experiences. A lot of Eastern practices are preparations for death, which is something that we have to transcend. Navigating Daily Life For Wade, not relying on faith puts things in perspective for him. When you feel like you lack something, it's easy to get ensnared by sensory experiences instead of enjoying them. Something that can help you avoid ensnarement is yoga, a practice you have to remember to do. Recognizing Ensnarements It could take years to escape sensory ensnarements. Samsara is the karmic seeds that lie in one's consciousness. Karmic seeds need to be undone, realized, or unrealized as your level of awareness moves up. You need to harness spiritual company—people you can give honest feedback and with whom you can be transparent. You may experience separation from divinity after your practice and still choose to continue without looking for an outcome. Dark Nights of the Soul After Wade's experience of the dissolution of the ego, it was hard for him to come to terms with the feeling that his body would leave at any second. To deal with this, Wade focuses on love. Through this, he can pursue his mission to end physical suffering and biologically optimize health. To stabilize energies and stay on this planet, Wade holds on to the idea of his future children. When he becomes a parent, he wants to cultivate a life of engaged non-attachment. How Wade Feels Radically Loved For Wade, existence is proof that we're radically loved. Only love could create something magnificent, unusual, and unique. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [11:23] “I don't think the nefarious characters ever dropped away. I'm not so sure that you actually resolve those things; I think you learn how to manage those things.” [13:15] “There's a nefarious character within all of us. [There needs] to be an acceptance and recognition of that, and recognize that that's innately part of me and will never drop away.” [21:22] “Maybe I can just bypass sainthood and become enlightened and just let the body and my personality and my ego do whatever it is because I'm in charge of those anyway.” [24:54] “Every time you go further into the truth, there's a part of you that has to die.” [26:09] “Death is what enlightenment is. Death of what you think you are into that which has always been.” About Wade Wade Lightheart is a three-time Canadian National Natural Bodybuilding Champion and world-renowned authority in nutrition and training methods. He is the president of BiOptimizers, a company that aims to help others better their health. Wade is also the author of several books on health, exercise, and nutrition. His works have been sold in over 80 countries. If you want to connect with Wade, visit him on Instagram or Facebook. You can also check out his company website, BiOptimizers. This episode is brought to you by TONAL www.tonal.com Use promo code ROSIE for $100 off smart accessories    This episode is brought to you by AURATE www,AURATENEWYORK.COM/LOVED to get 15% off your first purchase   This episode is brought to you by CEREBRAL Go to https://getcerebral.com/loved to get 65% off your first month off of medication management and care counseling.    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help inspire people to go on their spiritual journeys with practical advice and stories of near death experiences? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie                      

    Episode 383. #WisdomWednesdays: The Power Of Actively Listening And Connecting With Others

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2021 50:17

    #WisdomWednesdays: The Power Of Actively Listening And Connecting With Others We are constantly creating connections in everything we do. And the relationship we have with ourselves and other people—family, friends, and strangers alike—hone us in many ways. That's why fostering deep interpersonal and intrapersonal connections is a life-long pursuit for many of us. It allows us to be at our highest selves and always come from a place of compassion and kindness. At the universal level, it creates a chain of positive reciprocity. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about three topics that would allow us to nurture our relationships with ourselves and others. First, they discuss what it means to be a mother and the concept of mothering yourself. Then, they delve into the practice of actively listening  to others and how it helps foster trust and genuine connection. Finally, they share personal stranger encounters that show how powerful and life-changing interactions with strangers could be. Tune in and be inspired to start connecting deeply with yourself and other people! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover how Rosie and Tessa view being a mother and what self-mothering is. Learn the essence of actively listening and how to become an active listener. Understand the power of strangers. Resources Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from the Radically Loved website! #WisdomWednesdays / Spreading Hope and Overcoming COVID-19 Through Love and Compassion #WisdomWednesdays: How to Deal with Anger #WisdomWednesdays: Pressing Pause, Mindful Speaking, and Powerful Ideas for Self-Care The Power of Strangers by Joe Keohane com FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights On Aging and the Decision to Have or Not Have Children Tessa feels a little nervous about aging sometimes because she has chosen not to have children. One of the reasons why Rosie wanted to have kids is she wanted somebody to take care of her. It's what has happened historically and culturally. But there's no guarantee your children will take care of you and not put you in a home when you age. Tessa's parents decided to put her grandmother in a home. Meanwhile, Rosie's grandmother is living with her aunt and has always been living with family. Becoming a Parent Rosie's path has not been linear. She still desires a family, but it's decreasing as she gets older. She believes that it will happen if it's designed for her life. If it doesn't, the desire will diminish and go away. People without children cannot imagine what it's like to have kids. Meanwhile, people with children cannot imagine life without their children. Tessa's Relationship with Her Grandmother A grandparent's love is different from that of a parent. Tessa's parents' decision to put her grandmother in a home shocked her. There was a chasm that grew between her and her mother that took some time to heal. It was tough because Tessa wants to protect and make her grandmother feel loved. She understands that there are many reasons why a home for her grandma was the better choice. It's a full-time job to take care of aging parents. Rosie's Relationships with Her Grandmother Rosie's grandmother raised her and her sister. Both of her parents worked full-time. She yearns for her grandmother whenever she doesn't feel well. She was yearning for her mom when she had COVID. But she also wanted her grandmother to take care of her. What Being a Mother Means Self-mothering is a self-care process for Tessa; it's unconditional love. Rosie's idea of mothering means being aggressively protective yet all-encompassing in the most loving way. Rosie pondered some questions in her journey of becoming a parent: What is the definition of a mother? What does mothering mean to you? How do you mother yourself? The process of re-parenting and learning to mother yourself is a crucial part of adulthood. Tessa's mother now wants a friendship with Tessa because she feels like she did her job as a mother. The Job of a Mother We constantly need to revisit our job of ensuring we feel loved and cared for as mothers to ourselves. The more we tune into mothering ourselves, the more we can feel safe in navigating our lives. Sometimes, we need to feel mothering from other people. You can utilize communities if you don't have a mother or lack a good relationship with yours. There are many “mothers” in tribal communities waiting to fill chasms with love. The world needs more of this feminine energy that comes from a place of compassion and kindness. Active Listening We garner more connection if we start actively listening to each other. Active listening is a practice. Having a dialogue in your head while someone else is talking is not active listening. Active listening is witnessing someone telling a story without judgment. The whole concept behind actively listening is to establish not only a connection but also rapport and trust. Tune in to the full episode to learn the seven ways to becoming an active listener! Practicing Active Listening in Teacher Training Rosie asks people to face each other, with one person speaking and another listening without interruption. Sometimes, we're quick to reply to someone because we want to validate and reassure them. But it can stop the flow of emotion of the person speaking. After the person speaking stops sharing, the other person would paraphrase for them. Then, they switch positions. This practice builds a sense of trust that is important in building a community. Teacher training is a great way to create a safe space for yourself and build life-long relationships. Listening vs. Hearing Hearing is different from listening. Listening requires you to go beneath the words, observe on an intuitive level, and connect from that place. If you pay attention, sometimes, nobody's actually having a conversation in a room full of people. Tessa never practiced actively listening as a child because there was no model for it. 80% of the time in couples coaching, both parties want the same result. Often, the reason for the problem is they don't feel seen. All it takes to connect with someone profoundly is to step back and listen. The Importance of Eye Contact Practicing eye contact is valuable. An exercise Rosie learned in training is to make eye contact without saying anything. Being in the presence of another actively while eye gazing is hard, even for a short time. The exercise involved the following: eye gaze, maintaining eye contact for 30 seconds, and complimenting the other person after the time's up. It was uncomfortable for Tessa and Christopher on the first two tries. On the third try, they transcended the silliness and started to see a deeper level of emotion. Connecting with Strangers Next week's guest is the author of the book The Power of Strangers. He says that constant distraction from our phones hinders us from making conversations. Rosie's rule when traveling is she cannot be on her phone. She has to engage with the Uber and Lyft drivers she books. Tune in to the full episode to hear about Rosie's most memorable travel conversation with a driver and how he is alive now because of the power of strangers! We have the power as people to change somebody else's day. The Power of Strangers The power of strangers shows up in Tessa's life in the form of angels. She had a serendipitous experience with a stranger. At the line for her favorite coffee shop, she started to get impatient because the man before her was taking forever. It turned out that he wanted to pay for her coffee. Tessa paid it forward to the person behind her. It became a chain of reciprocity of generosity with the people in line. On another note, the new artwork in one of Tessa's favorite parks says, "Smile at five strangers today." But once you smile at one person, you won't stop at five. Tessa hopes to spread more positivity by smiling more at others and making smiles contagious. 5 Powerful Quotes [12:01] “[Self-mothering] is very much a self-care process. It's very much a way that I speak to myself. It's very much a way that I say, ‘I love you unconditionally'.” [17:31] “If we listened to each other, we would garner more connection, we would be more inclined to engage with other people, we would feel more confident, more grounded, more able to express ourselves fully.” [19:50] “[Active listening] is really an act of witnessing and letting someone else do the speaking and holding space for them while they're speaking.” [26:59] “Listening requires you to go beneath the words and to observe on a heart level, on an intuitive level to try and see what's underneath the words… Then, try to connect with them from that place.” [43:22] “Let's make smiles contagious. Let's have a smile pandemic.” This episode brought to you by  Betterhelp Enjoy 10% off your first month by using code Discount code LOVED will be automatically applied. https://www.betterhelp.com/loved   This episode brought to you by  Audible Get a free 30 trail by going to www.audible.com/loved or text LOVED to 500-500   This episode is brought to you by OSEA    Get 10% OFF with code LOVED go to OSEAmalibu.com     Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Would you like to start spreading hope and love? Do you want to extend compassion and empathy to people who are going through rough times? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 382. Becoming Better by Shifting Your Mindset and Taking Control of Your Life with Bricia Lopez

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2021 37:27

    Becoming Better by Shifting Your Mindset and Taking Control of Your Life with Bricia Lopez Growing up, our parents tell us what to do and what not to do. Thus, even as we grow into our unique selves, we still feel restricted in doing and pursuing what we want. We base our decisions as adults on the things we learned and heard growing up. But becoming better  does not happen this way. You should shift your mindset and start taking control of your life. That's when freedom, contentment, and fulfillment come in. In this episode, Bricia Lopez talks about the most valuable lessons she learned from motherhood and running a family business. She shares the experience of being pregnant and giving birth during the pandemic, along with navigating the new normal as an entrepreneur. Bricia also lets us take a peek at what it's like working with her family in their business. She discusses how understanding you're in control is crucial in decision-making and becoming better as a person. If you're stuck in a mindset that keeps you from moving forward, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover how motherhood pushed Bricia to become a better person. Find out what generational wealth is and what it does for families. Learn how resilience pushes you to move forward no matter the adversities. Resources Connect with Bricia: Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn | Facebook. Oaxaca: Home Cooking from the Heart of Mexico by Bricia Lopez and Javier Cabral Guelaguetza Restaurant Mole and More I Love Micheladas Super Mamás Podcast Regarding Her Food The W.I.S.E. Podcast Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights How Bricia Handled the Pandemic She was 20 weeks pregnant in March last year and gave birth in July. The experience of carrying her baby through the pandemic was grounding for Bricia. The pandemic put things into perspective. At the end of the day, it's all about taking care of her children. Because she was high-risk, she had to stay home and let her team manage her restaurant. Becoming Better for Her Children For Bricia, giving birth to a girl was a completely different experience from giving birth to a boy. After she gave birth to her baby girl, felt the urge of becoming better. She took care of her body during the first few weeks after her pregnancy and dropped her bad habits. Bricia admits that she did not take care of her body after giving birth to her firstborn. This time around, becoming better at this aspect of motherhood was her priority. Being pregnant during the pandemic made it easier for Bricia to slow down. Navigating the New Normal Bricia is now back to the grind 100%. She has someone who helps take care of her daughter. Despite being busy again, she feels at peace because she loves what she does. She doesn't feel guilty leaving her daughter behind because she got to spend so much time with her one-on-one. With the economy opening up, it feels like the roaring 20s again for businesses. Guelaguetza Restaurant Their website is now called ilovemole.com. It's easier to remember than the previous guelaguetza.com. The restaurant is in Koreatown in Los Angeles. They specialize in Oaxacan cooking. Building Generational Wealth Bricia loves working with her family. She runs the family business with her brother and sister. They're building something that will last for the next generation. They are also becoming better at handling their finances than their parents. For Bricia, generational wealth allows you to be in control of your time. As a result, you can be more creative. You are also more at peace and present. By building generational wealth, she is allowing her children to explore what they want without having to worry about money. Mental Graduation We are continuously graduate mentally to another state of mind. We go through mental high school and mental college. Then, we get to the place where we open doors to new dimensions of financial knowledge. Becoming better means you have to keep learning. It's important to remember that age doesn't define your capacity to learn new things. Taking Chances Bricia didn't realize how big of a hold her parents had on her life until they retired. She always wanted to be a graphic designer, but her father was against it. Bricia wished she didn't listen and just went for it. She realized she could do anything when her parents retired and moved away. She and her siblings bought the restaurant from their parents and took over. Making a decision and following through it is the hardest skill to learn and lean on. No one has control of your life but you. Understanding this will make you realize that you can do anything you want. How Resilience Impacted Bricia's Decision-Making Adversities will always happen in life and business; it's the way the world works. You can decide to stop and backtrack, or you can stop, learn, and move forward. Once you understand why something happened, you'll realize it's not that big of a deal and develop a new perspective. Opportunities come when you're not scared. You keep becoming better as you face and deal with issues and adversities. Becoming better at self-compassion is one of the hardest things to learn in life. Yet, it's one of the most useful tools you can have. The Most Important Value Bricia Wants Her Children to Have For Bricia, it's confidence. If you're innately confident, you can make anything happen no matter what the world tells you. Innate confidence is different from given confidence or fake confidence that makes a person delusional. Instead of giving her son fake confidence, she builds his self-esteem by letting him fail, explore, and do things for himself. How Bricia Feels Radically Love Working in the hospitality industry, her life revolves around serving people. And so, Bricia feels radically loved when people listen to her and give their time, compassion, and energy without taking. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [06:14] “I just need to become a better woman. I need to become even a better version of me for [my daughter].” [15:16] “Generational wealth means having more control of your time, without the stress of other things.” [18:51] “No one's too old to learn anything.” [22:37] “Getting used to the fact that making a decision and following through that decision is probably the hardest skill to learn and lean on.” [29:27] “[Confidence is] something that you have to innately understand. They have to fail and then learn that they can do it themselves.” About Bricia Bricia Lopez is a restaurant owner, entrepreneur, and best-selling author. She is the co-owner of an Oaxacan restaurant, Guelaguetza. Additionally, Bricia is a co-founder of Mole and More, together with her siblings. They sell proprietary cocktail mix, I Love Micheladas, and mole paste. Beyond this, Bricia is also the co-founder and co-host of the Super Mamás Podcast. As one of the foremost proponents of Oaxacan culture and cuisine in the United States, Bricia is the author of the best-selling cookbook, Oaxaca. In 2015, the James Beard Award Foundation awarded her restaurant the American Classics award. The L.A. Times also granted her the Latinos de Hoy Cultural Ambassador Award. Bricia has been featured in various publications, including The L.A. Times, Forbes, The New Yorker, and GQ Magazine. If you want to connect with Bricia, you may visit her Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Facebook accounts. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people in becoming better by shifting their mindset and taking control of their lives? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 381. #WisdomWednesdays: Pressing Pause, Mindful Speaking, and Powerful Ideas for Self-Care

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2021 41:11

    #WisdomWednesdays: Pressing Pause, Mindful Speaking, and Powerful Ideas for Self-Care Our ideas for self-care  often consist of getting a relaxing massage, dipping into bubble baths, and splurging on new stuff. This perception makes it seem like self-care is sold in bottles — in bath bombs, in beauty and wellness products, in art materials, and the list goes on. But the highest forms of self-care actually cost nothing and can also extend to your relationships and interactions with others. In today's episode, Rosie and Tessa discuss self-care practices that will nourish you and your relationship with your loved ones. Fostering good relationships is equally essential to your well-being as pampering yourself every once in a while. Learning how to express yourself kindly, embracing change, and pause and reflection are self-care practices that improve your life overall. If you want to learn valuable ideas for self-care to nurture yourself and your relationships, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn about the “feel, felt, found” technique and how to use it in situations filled with stress and frustration. Discover the importance of choosing your words and how you say them wisely. Find out how pressing pause and expressing yourself compassionately are the ultimate practices of self-care. Resources Wanderlust Citizen App Register for Tuesday Night's Yoga for Sleep with Rosie Acosta. Subscribe to Rosie's newsletter. Check out Rosie's Youtube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights How to Calm Someone Down Telling someone to calm down usually elicits the opposite response. Be mindful of the language you use with others and yourself. Every time you find the urge to tell someone to calm down or react negatively to being told this line, try using the “feel, felt, found” technique. It's about what you “feel” the person is feeling at the moment, what you “felt” about it, and what actions you “found” you can both take to assess and solve the situation. Listen to the full episode to find out how the technique worked for Rosie and Torry! Expressing Yourself with Compassion When you're frustrated, it's difficult to respond to situations compassionately. We aggressively react most of the time because of the underlying fear, which may prevent us from acting wisely. For Rosie, one of the ultimate ideas for self-care is expressing yourself fully. Suppressing your feelings due to fear of losing control or exhaustion is harmful because you might develop an unhealthy relationship with self-expression. Acknowledging someone's feelings immediately diffuses the situation. The Danger of “But” When you use ”but” in a sentence, you negate everything that came before that. Try changing “but” into a different word, such as “and”. Be a part of the solution, not the problem. Use your words mindfully instead of lashing out at people. Responding with Empathy When Tessa notices someone getting upset, she tries to respond with empathy and acknowledgment. Try putting yourself in another person's shoes. It's easy to simply attack someone for not sharing the same opinions and beliefs, but it's necessary to work on bettering our relationships to create a ripple effect. Changing the world starts from home. It's where we learn how to form relationships. Moving On and Embracing Change Moving forward and not being stuck in the past is one of the best ideas for self-care. Living in the present allows you to create new habits and improve yourself and your relationships. In relationships, don't use the words “never” and “always”. These trap people in their past selves and creates an obstacle for change. We're all constantly changing, and accepting change comes with treasuring your people. Choosing What To Say and How To Say Them Be more conscious of the language and communication style you use with others. Though it might be unintentional, using “never” and “always” can come off as dismissive and judgmental. Also, remember that it's not always necessarily about what you're saying, but how you're saying it. So, pay attention to your body language and non-verbal communication. Choosing to speak mindfully can help you become a better communicator. Remember to Press Pause Stepping away from a situation can diffuse it and help you calm down. It's best to do something else to collect yourself and return to a charged conversation at a later time. Not many people realize this, but pausing and reflecting are the greatest acts and ideas for self-care. Misconceptions About Self-Care Tessa's friend thinks that self-care is something she has to do. Self-care is somehow commercialized as though it could be bottled up into products. But self-care isn't something that you can buy; it is something you already are, and you are capable of attaining on your own. Crucial Ideas for Self-Care It's essential to be consistent in caring for yourself because no one else is going to do it for you. Build self-care into your day and take a pause. Also, express yourself clearly and compassionately. Remember that being passionate doesn't give you a pass to express yourself rudely. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [18:41] “One of the ultimate practices of self-care is to be able to express yourself fully, to be able, to tell the truth as best as you can, and to not push it down.” [22:12] “If we have the capacity to express our anger, we should have the capacity to use our words mindfully and use our words kindly instead of just lashing out at people. [26:22] “Start now. You can create a new habit every day. Every moment, every second, you have the opportunity to not be that person.” [26:47] “We are who we are. But we also are who we are going to be.” [36:18] “Build [self-care] into your day. Take those breaths, take those pauses, have conversations, express yourself in a very clear and concise way that doesn't involve an aggressive tone.” This episode is brought to you by Hooked on Phonics www.hookedonphonics.com/loved Get your first month for just $1.00   Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people redefine their ideas for self-care? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 380. How to Heal Trauma Through Movement with Tracy Lynn

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2021 41:37

    How to Heal Trauma Through Movement with Tracy Lynn There is freedom in moving our bodies. Movement can be a catalyst to better understand your body and yourself. Through moving, you can feel, heal, and express. Whichever modality of movement you choose—yoga, dance, or even martial arts—you can connect with your body and allow yourself to be who you want to be. These can even help you learn how to heal trauma. In today's episode, Tracy Lynn shares with us her experience with dance, yoga, and movement. She explains how movement has allowed her to gain more freedom, hold more space, and express herself better. She also shares with us the value of permitting ourselves to feel the emotions that come up within us. Doing so allows us to break out of the boundaries set by the systems of capitalism, patriarchy, and perfectionism. Tracy reminds us that we can show up for ourselves through movement and other tools that can help us feel and do better. Listen to this episode if you want to know more about how to heal trauma  by connecting with your body and self through movement! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand why movement can help you connect deeper with yourself. Learn why movement can teach you how to heal trauma. Understand the importance of letting go of perfection and allowing yourself to feel different emotions. Resources Connect with Tracy: Website | Email | Instagram |  Facebook | Tiktok When The Body Says No by Gabor Maté M.D. Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Tracy's History with Movement Movement has always been a part of Tracy's life. It took time for her to transform it into what she now refers to as ‘an act of self-love.' She shares the pressure she felt and the experience of growing up as a child of Olympic-level swimmers. Tracy says that what she does now is a ritual; it's a mash-up of different movement styles as a means of healing. Re-learning to Connect with the Body Tracy used to have zero regard for her body. But after getting sober, Tracy developed a new connection with her body through dance and movement. She used to have an all-or-nothing mentality. After going through extremes, she realized she does not have to settle in one place or live her life in perfection. Healing does not have to be done the way it's shown on social media; the process is different for everyone. Showing Up for Yourself Movement can be used as a modality for healing. It can help if you're looking for a way on how to heal trauma. However, being knowledgeable about what you can do does not make you immune to feeling down. It's important to create an ecosystem in your life where you can show up for yourself and do the things that make you feel better. Emotions Amidst the Pandemic The pandemic has left us to collectively feel overwhelmed. Others have also felt a sort of absence. Many have also experienced existential crises because of the pandemic. We should allow ourselves to feel all our feelings and emotions. Otherwise, we may succumb to sickness. Creating Space for What Matters to You For many, the pandemic has certainly been a catalyst to re-examine and change aspects of their lives. Similarly for Tracy, the pandemic has allowed her to learn how to hold people accountable for the trauma she's experienced. She was able to create space for the incredible reality she's experiencing now. Tune in to the podcast to hear more about the experiences and changes Tracy made in her life. How to Heal Trauma Tracy goes by her gut and intuition once she feels she is no longer in a safe space. Remember that as we look for ways on how to heal trauma, there is no one correct way. Tracy realized she can learn how to heal trauma by trying different means to dig into her untapped feelings and emotions. The past few months have taught Tracy that there's a lot of freedom in change, and anything and everything is subject to change. Movement through Yoga Tracy's favorite thing about being a teacher is watching people unapologetically become themselves. Yoga helps people become healthier, create better coping mechanisms, and gain more trust in themselves. Yoga and movement enabled Tracy to be who she wanted to be. Part of yoga is cultivating discernment to know what to do when you're not on the safety of your mat or cushion. Permit Yourself to Mess Up Tracy emphasizes the importance of letting go of perfectionism. Explore the tools that can help you discover more about how your body communicates with you. Doing so helps you gain a deeper understanding of yourself by going beyond the body layer and trappings of the ego. Allow yourself to feel even the uncomfortable. Reflections on Yoga Tracy notes that yoga is presented differently in the West. She wants people to understand that the yoga and movements she teaches are not hers. These are borrowed movements that she alchemizes in her body and uses to gain more freedom, self, breath, and space. Committing to the Recovery Process It's important to embody what you preach and be yourself through the tools that help you align with your highest self. It's also crucial to constantly practice introspection and reflection. Make an inventory of how, what, and why you're doing the things you're doing. Be open to your authentic self. How Tracy Feels Radically Loved Tracy's partner reminds her that no matter what she wants to do, she just has to start, to just be, and to just learn in the process. Tracy sees the ultimate act of self-love as accepting herself as she's doing this. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [07:41] “I can dance between both areas; I can vacillate; I can be here or there; I can fall apart and pick myself back up. And that's kind of been my most healing transition. It's realizing that I don't need to look at [healing] through the lenses of perfection.” [12:05] “Illness happens in us when we don't let ourselves feel [or] when we suppress emotion.” [22:22] “You can change; you can shift. And there's a lot of freedom in that.” [23:38] “Doing this yoga or this movement enables me to be who I wanted to be—who I suppressed, who I silenced, who I was afraid of putting out there. Because I honestly feel  like our ultimate motivation for a lot of things is to actually just be connected to people.” [30:38] “The way that I've alchemized [the movements] in my body as a traumatized person, as a person that's been drug-addicted, as a person that's been sexually abused and assaulted, and how it helped me just get a little bit freer, and get a little more fucking space, to breathe and be myself. To be the weirdo that I am.” About Tracy Tracy Lynn is a teacher, mover, and body explorer. She teaches and performs different styles of movement from modern dancing to martial arts, yoga, and more. For her, movement allows her to feel and connect with herself and with other people. Through the movements she teaches and shares, she hopes others can unapologetically be themselves. Visit Tracy's website to know more about her and what she does. You can also check her out on various social media platforms seen in the Resources section.  Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people prioritize their health and wellness during this global pandemic? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to send us messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Thanks for listening! To feeling radically loved, Rosie          

    Episode 379. #WisdomWednesday: How to Deal with Anger

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2021 48:43


    #WisdomWednesday: How to Deal with Anger with Rosie and Tessa Are you ready to take a deeper look at the emotion of anger? Anger is often perceived as a scary or unsafe emotion to have and exhibit as a human being. In today's episode, Rosie and Tessa share how we can embrace the emotion of anger, in a safe way. Here, we talk about our personal journeys with this highly charged emotion. We also share some wisdom about how to harness anger as a tool that can be managed to protect oneself and create deeper connections. Wade further enlightens us on how we can immerse yoga with the human experience. This episode is a call to remember that we are all a part of the greater good and understand that all emotions are allowed. The call to action isn't to stifle your emotions, but rather to pause and consider a helpful and healthy response in the face of your emotions. If you want to find helpful ways to understand and befriend your anger, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover how you can connect with your anger in a healthy way. Learn why anger serves a purpose and how it can be a tool that you can manage. Get insights on allowing emotions to run their course, and how to practice the pause between stimulus and response. Resources “On Anger” excerpt, as read by Tessa Tovar, comes from Tim Westfeldt, founder of the Emotional Hygiene Method and the Westfeldt Institute, summarized from the book “Emotional Hygiene” (yet to be published) | Connect with the Westfeldt Institute: Website | Instagram | Facebook Daily Meditations quote from Buddha, as read by Rosie | The Daily Meditations Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [03:16] “You will not be punished for your anger. You will be punished by your anger.” - Buddha, read by Rosie Acosta [10:21] “First, before we talk about anger specifically, I want to share the idea that emotions are tools we can use to increase safety.” - Tim Westfeldt, read by Tessa Tovar [11:05] “When we aren't able to manage our anger tool, then it can become destructive, hurtful, and prevent connection. Anger that's well mastered is controlled, generative, and inviting because it creates safety for us and the people around us.” - Tim Westfeldt, read by Tessa Tovar [14:22] “Emotions are like rolling waves. You have to let them run their course and have the experience.” - Rosie Acosta [21:10] “We can actually harness anger, and we can look at it, and treat it like a friend as opposed to treating it like something that is bad, or something that we want to push down, or we want to let go of. It's an emotion we have, it's natural.” - Rosie Acosta   This episode brought to you by  BiOptimizers Go to www.bloodsugarbreakthrough.health/radicallyloved Use Code: radicallyloved10 for 10% OFF your first purchase   This episode is brought to you by SAKARA Get 20% off your first order.  https://www.sakara.com/pages/radicallyloved   This episode is brought to you by FAHERTY Go to www.fahertybrand.com Use Code: LOVED for 20% OFF    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help inspire people to go on their spiritual journeys with practical advice and stories of near death experiences? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie  


    Episode 378. Overcome Your Fear of Taking Risks and Learn to Make Choices with Sukhinder Singh Cassidy

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2021 46:38

    Overcome Your Fear of Taking Risks and Learn to Make Choices with Sukhinder Singh Cassidy Are you afraid to make choices ? Many of us get wrapped up in the fear that a single decision can make or break our entire lives. Choosing to go to one school over another, or taking a job and turning down an offer—these may seem like the sole determinants of our future. However, success and failure are often an accumulation of decisions and not something that stems from only one choice. In today's episode, Sukhinder Singh Cassidy joins us to talk about how to bravely own your decisions. Every time we make choices, we also take on some risks. However, you can grow to become more discerning and calculated. Sukhinder also shares how you can change your perspective around making decisions, embracing changes, and recovering from failure. We also talk about seeking truth at work so that you can be your most authentic self. If you want to stop agonizing about making choices, this episode is for you!           Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover why you become unable to make choices and how you can begin to act. Learn the ways you can foster truth-telling at work so you can live as your truest self. Understand how success is a cycle and an accumulation of choices over time. Resources Connect with Sukhinder: LinkedIn I Twitter Choose Possibility Understand the way you take risks here! Choose Possibility by Sukhinder Singh Cassidy Books by Kim Scott Radical Candor Just Work Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights The Myth of the Single Choice Sukhinder's book aims to debunk myths surrounding risk-taking. Society often celebrates big risk-takers, leading many to think that success is all about one big choice. When we put such pressure on a single choice, we become paralyzed and unable to act. The relationship between risk and reward is not linear. It's not about the first choice; it's about continuing to make choices. Tune in to the full episode to hear Sukhinder's view on the cyclical journey of making choices. Change Your Mindset Surrounding Choice We accept that companies need to pivot to become successful. Take, for example, Uber and Amazon. However, we tend to think our careers need to be linear. Our careers can have multiple cycles of change, success, and even failure. Remember that you can still make choices to recover after a failure. Make Choices, Expect Risks, and Be Patient Risk accompanies each decision, but having a system can help you stop agonizing whenever you make choices. While we should act on our agency to make choices, remember that some results may not be in your control. Take time to sort through your options before you make choices. Be a calculated risk-taker. You can't force success, as it is the result of your circumstances. However, you can control how you respond to these things. Spirituality and Risk-Taking Sukhinder's parents were doctors, and they believed that their work was how they gave back to the world. Her parents' beliefs largely influenced her thinking. For Sukhinder, who you are at work is part of who you are. Work can give you joy and purpose if you choose the right workplace for you. Sukhinder also shares that her father's entrepreneurship and creativity inspired how she sees her work. Find Where You Can Fit In Your full self can only be realized in the right environment and workplace. Put yourself in places that align with your values and celebrate your strengths. Fitting in also means being in the right culture that helps you feel included. When we don't show ourselves fully, that may be because we are afraid of taking risks. However, we can make choices and take small risks to express ourselves more. Being a Truth Teller We've all been taught that speaking up will make people dislike us. Have more agency at work by asking questions that will help reveal the truth. Seeking the truth will help not only you but everyone around you. Bosses should learn how to foster truth-telling in their workplaces, as it helps everyone learn faster. Listen to the full episode to hear Sukhinder's experiences of being a truth-teller at work! Lessons from the Pandemic Sukhinder likens the pandemic to a coconut event. It is something that showed us how flexible and resilient we can be. Embrace change. Exercise your risk-taking ability and develop it like a muscle. Make choices about what you want to change today. If you're intimidated by big decisions, start with smaller ones. You just need to take the first step and keep going until you start seeing results. Success is an Accumulation of Choices Sukhinder shares how she chose to quit Google and become CEO of Polyvore. However, she was outed after only six months. To an outsider, this situation might have seemed like a failure. However, 10 years later, those choices led her to become a board member in various e-commerce and lifestyle companies. There is a rhythm to how we make choices and unlock results. Sometimes, these are just not the ones we are conditioned to expect. Don't let your failures cripple you. The more you make choices, the more you'll encounter failure, but the more you'll accumulate successes too. Have the Courage to Ask Learn to negotiate to help balance your life, whether for work or personal matters. Sukhinder shares how she was able to negotiate with Google to take her daughter on international trips. Don't treat your professional and personal life in an entitled way. Rather, try to balance everyone's needs. Acknowledge that in a negotiation, something will be sacrificed. So it's important to be open and communicative. If you don't ask, you'll never know what's possible. Being Imperfect We can't have everything perfect and balanced in every single moment in time, and that's okay. It's more important to look at things over a longer period. How Sukhinder Feels Radically Loved Sukhinder feels radically loved by the support and appreciation she has gotten from her family and colleagues. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [07:53] “When you fail, you still have a choice to make about what to do next. And once you've lived those cycles enough, another dawn will rise if you fail again.” [11:29] “You can't force everything; you can't force success.” [23:23] “Whether you seek out change or change seeks you out, your opportunity is to embrace change and become calculated and think of it as a muscle you can exercise.” [24:31] “You're not one choice away from success. Success is often many unfolding choices, and they're imperfect. All you really need to do is make the first one.” [29:48] “People who choose frequently may encounter more failure; they're likely to accumulate more success as well.” About Sukhinder Sukhinder Singh Cassidy is a top digital CEO and entrepreneur with over 25 years of experience in leading, advising, and scaling companies including StubHub, Google, Amazon, Yodlee, and Polyvore. She is the founder and chairman of theBoardlist, a talent marketplace for leaders who are seeking executive opportunities. Sukhinder is also a multi-time board member and angel investor for several companies including TripAdvisor, Urban Outfitters, Reformation, and Ericsson! In her upcoming book, Choose Possibility, Sukhinder talks about taking risks and thriving even when you fail.   Interested in connecting with Sukhinder? You can reach her on LinkedIn and Twitter. This episode is brought to you by CEREBRAL Go to https://getcerebral.com/loved to get 65% off your first month off of medication management and care counseling.    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people stop agonizing about making choices and seek possibilities instead? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 377. #WisdomWednesdays / Spreading Hope and Overcoming COVID-19 Through Love and Compassion

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2021 36:16

    #WisdomWednesdays: Spreading Hope and Overcoming COVID-19 Through Love and Compassion COVID-19 has impacted the lives of everyone across the globe, making the world seem like a terrifying place. After more than a year, there are still surges in cases despite all our progress. While it may be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel, we should stay positive. There is a silver lining to the pandemic. We will all get through this if we keep spreading hope  and extending a helping hand. In this episode, Rosie shares her experience of contracting COVID-19. She talks about how she and Torry pulled through, with the help of their friends and loving dogs. Getting the virus made her realize just how crucial it is to have a community that can support you in these trying times. Rosie and Tessa also emphasize the importance of prioritizing collective welfare over individual concerns. By pushing for the greater good, we can all move forward from this pandemic. Tune in and be inspired to start spreading hope and acting from a place of love and compassion. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Hear about Rosie's firsthand experience with COVID-19 and how she was able to overcome the virus. Know about the importance of emotional support, compassion, and responsibility. Find out how you can continue spreading hope in these difficult times. Resources Check out Rosie's YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from theRadically Loved website! Check out the Radically Loved episode with Mary Beth LaRue. FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Contracting the Virus Rosie recently contracted the virus and is still recovering. She was yet to be vaccinated. However, she is not anti-vax. Her doctor advised her to wait for 90 days for her body to recover before getting inoculated against the virus. She regrets postponing her vaccination because she was afraid of missing a day of work. When she got the virus, she ended up having to rest for two and a half weeks. Interacting with Gentleness After contracting the virus, Rosie had more compassion for people who had gone through the same experience. Many emailed her, asking about her vaccination status. While she recognizes that they come from a good place, she reminds everyone that it's also important to be gentle. She hopes that we can tune into compassion and empathy instead of attacking and blaming each other. On Vaccination There's a difference between not being vaccinated yet and being anti-vax. Tessa expresses how the United States is fortunate for having so many vaccines to choose from and the ability to make a conscious decision. How Rosie Survived the Virus Rosie is thankful for our medical professionals who helped her when she got sick. Many of them contracted the virus during the start of the outbreak. Since she lives in a big city, she was able to get their meals and groceries delivered. She also got comfort from talking to her friends who also contracted and survived the virus. Post-COVID-19 Rosie fell into a slump after getting the virus. She thinks that lack of movement and human touch contributed to this depression. Once she started feeling better, Rosie did minimal restorative yoga and cleaned their house. However, she had to stop halfway through because she began to feel ill again. She then realized that she barely ate anything in the past days since she lost her sense of taste. How Their Dogs Helped Rosie and Torry have three pit bulls: Chowder, Rosie, and Brinks. They slept in separate rooms and split up the dogs; Rosie got the two boys. During that time, Chowder was very attentive to her. He seems to sense that something was wrong. The dogs helped Rosie stay sane during the whole ordeal. Spreading Hope and Compassion We are all figuring things out together. Remember how important it is to take care of each other. Be compassionate, empathetic, and responsible. One of the ways you can do this is by wearing a mask. Emphasize taking care of the whole, as opposed to focusing on the individual. Keep reaching out to others and letting people know you're here for the greater good. Coming From a Place of Love We are currently balancing between a scary, difficult time and a hopeful, transitional one. So, it's important to remember that we are all humans going through human experiences. Rather than coming from a place of judgment, try to be more curious. Doing so allows for learning and deeper connections. Mindfulness, yoga, and meditation can help you practice acting from a place of love and compassion. Rosie's Advice Trust that the situation will improve. Rosie and Torry are feeling better by the day. Turn off your phone and be in the moment. Talk to people, and focus on the positive. Find time to be grateful every day. 5 Powerful Quotes [06:24] “I ended up losing way more than I would have had I just gone to get vaccinated.” [23:13] “It's such a terrible virus. But for the people that made it through, we're here; we all need to be here for each other.” [24:36] “We have to remember that we're all human, and we're all having this human experience.” [26:30] “You need to focus. You need to tune in and let yourself be in the present moment.” [27:27] “I know that things will get better. And we have to just focus on the good and the things that we're grateful for every morning.” This episode brought to you by  Betterhelp Enjoy 10% off your first month by using code Discount code LOVED will be automatically applied. https://www.betterhelp.com/loved   This episode brought to you by  ReadySlim Tea   www.readyslim.com/loved To save 25% off your first order of Ready Slim's 28 Day Detox Tea Kit  plus a FREE collapsable water bottle.    This episode brought to you by    Native Deo www.nativedeo.com/loved  20% OFF your first purchase  Promo code: LOVED   This episode is brought to you by Tru Niagen   www.truniagen.com/loved use code LOVED to get 10% off your first purchase!        Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Would you like to to start spreading hope and love? Do you want to extend compassion and empathy to people who are going through rough times? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 376. From Addiction and Felony to Transforming Life Through Health and Fitness with Doug Bopst

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2021 56:11

    From Addiction and Felony to Transforming Life  Through Health and Fitness with Doug Bopst Everyone has a burden to carry. Everyone has pain or trauma. But not everyone handles it the same way — sometimes, the weight is too great for someone, and they look for anything to numb their pain. Chasing numbness leads them down a rabbit hole of slow self-destruction and disregarding the important things in life. But there's a light that you can reach, no matter how deep the pit you're in. The path to transforming life may take some time, but it's never too late. In today's episode, fitness trainer Doug Bopst joins us to share his journey in transforming his life from addiction and a felony conviction. He discusses the negative mentalities stacked up in his mind that made him turn to drugs at a young age. Doug also talks about how addiction affected his life and relationships and the catalyst that sparked his recovery journey. He imparts the lessons he has learned from his life story and how he uses it to help others. If you want to learn what it takes for you to go through the process of transforming your life, this episode is for you!     Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover the importance of establishing an identity for yourself through how you see yourself and show up. Find out the role of having a mentor and people who guide, motivate, and hold you accountable throughout your recovery. Learn the most critical aspects of the addiction recovery journey and transforming life. Resources The Wire (TV Series) The Adversity Advantage Podcast with Doug Bopst Check out these books by Doug Bopst! Faith Family Fitness The Heart of Recovery From Felony to Fitness to Free Connect with Doug: website | Instagram Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Doug's Last Name Doug had no confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth growing up. People have been mispronouncing his last name throughout his life, but he couldn't stand up for himself. It wasn't until he gained self-confidence that he dared to correct people. Your name is your identity. You'll be sacrificing your identity in other ways if you can't stay true to that part. Doug's Background Doug was born and raised in the suburbs of Baltimore, Maryland. He has been a trainer for over ten years. Doug also hosts the Adversity Advantage Podcast, wrote multiple books, and spoke at various events. Growing up, Doug used adversity at his complete disadvantage. He ended up incarcerated on felony drug charges. Turning to drugs and ending up incarcerated was him mismanaging pain, stress, and his identity. Stacking Negative Mentalities Inside Your Head Doug's "What's wrong with me?" mentality is rooted in two things: his parents' divorce and loving sports yet being unathletic. The first thing he used to numb the pain was food. Doug also blamed his genetics for his athletic ability. This mentality stacks limiting beliefs and creates a massive balloon of anxiety, fear, and worry. Doug turned to drugs at 14 and found that he could pop this balloon and numb his pain. Addiction keeps you chasing that same numbing feeling. Because he couldn't afford to buy pot every day, Doug started selling it himself. How Addiction Affected Doug's Relationships If you don't establish an identity for yourself, you will use other people to create it for you. Doing what he needed to do to fit in with a certain crowd created tension at home. Doug's mother kicked him out of the house at 16 and sent him to live with his dad full time. He transferred to another school and ended up meeting different people doing more drugs. Doug barely graduated high school. Despite being a decent student and having dreams, he was only worried about fitting in. The Catalyst Moment He started to sell more drugs for money after graduating high school and met more people doing it. Doug eventually started doing cocaine every day, which affected his anxiety. But ending up in the ER because of his panic attacks didn't change anything for him. He went from taking five milligrams to hundreds of milligrams of Percocet every day to maintain his lifestyle. On May 5, 2008, Doug got arrested for felony drug charges. A cop pulled him over before a drug deal for a busted headlight and searched the car. Doug's Conviction The judge convicted Doug of felony drug charges. He initially got a 5-year sentence in jail but was put under a 90-day suspension. He then received a 5-year probation, 200 hours of community service, and fines. The judge offered to take the felony conviction off his record if he completes the probation without any problem. Doug cried when he walked into the gates of the detention center at 21. He also cried when he left because he didn't want to leave. Transforming Life and Beginning Recovery Doug had to go through detox while in jail. A detox from drugs is like having the worst case of the flu for three weeks straight. Doug's transformation started when his cellmate asked him how he landed in jail. When he told his cellmate his story, his cellmate told him to quit being a victim. It's not what Doug wanted to hear, but it was what he needed to hear. His cellmate told him to own his choices. These words empowered Doug. Starting to Workout After asking his cellmate why he couldn't do push-ups, he replied it's because he was fat. Not wanting to remain fat drove and motivated Doug. During this time, Doug was fat physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. That is, he was carrying a lot of weight with him. His cellmate trained, motivated, and held Doug accountable. As a result, he successfully reached his fitness goal after his sentence. A light bulb went off in his head; he was finally going to change his life. The only repayment his cellmate asked of him was not to mess up and pay it forward. Changing and Paying it Forward Doug stuck to his word. He got to a place where he wanted to help people use fitness to change their lives. He became a personal trainer, wrote several books, and has shared his story on various platforms since then. While changing, he had to earn back the trust of his family. Doug's Recovery Journey He didn't have a clear-cut recovery program. Fitness became his catalyst for getting out of jail. Through that, he decided to change his friends, eat better, go back to school, become a trainer, and pay it forward. His grandparents took him in when he got out of jail. They gave him the sense of love and accountability he needed. When you're in the process of transforming life, you need to take responsibility for yourself. Accepting His Relationship with His Family Part of recovery and life is accepting that some family dynamics will not be perfect. The key is to continue working on yourself. Doug is unsure if there was anything his parents could have done differently to help him with his addiction. But he wished his mother asked him “Why?” instead of “What?” On Addiction and Battling It When we look at the “what,” we come down on the person instead of the underlying trauma. Addiction is an internal battle displayed externally. There's no blueprint in handling this situation. Transforming Life through Faith Doug was at a point in his life wherein he achieved what he previously wanted. Still, there were moments when he felt unhappy. One of Doug's clients, who is a pastor, invited him to church. Though resistant at first, Doug finally tried it out. After praying, he felt the monkey on his back come off — the same monkey that would come off when he was doing drugs. Doug's Final Advice You may be in a place of darkness now, but things will get better. You just need to keep moving forward. If you make choices aligned with your highest self and take one small step every day, you'll get to the light. How Doug Feels Radically Loved Doug experiences radical love when he's making choices aligned to his truest self and who he wants to be in the future. Self-love means that you hold yourself accountable even when life is tough. 5 Powerful Quotes [11:43] “Because I didn't establish who I really was, I didn't stand up for myself. I was just looking to fit in. I always say to people, if you don't establish your identity for yourself, you will end up using other people to create that identity for you.” [28:20] “[My cellmate said,] ‘You can be a man, and own your choices, and know that you got yourself here. And it's up to you to get yourself out.'” [31:34] “What drives me is just being able to share my story, not to, for the notoriety of it, but to help other people get inspired, to help other people get motivated, to not go down the same path that I did, or if they're going down that same path to course correct, if you will.” [35:43] “I believe in having a safety net. But I also believe in doing the work and taking responsibility for yourself. Because no one's coming to save you.” [45:04] “Just know that if you just put one foot in front of the other and make choices that are aligned with your highest self, and in your future, and where you want to go one small step every single day, you'll get to the light. I promise you. There's no guarantee when or how it's gonna happen. But you'll get there; you just got to keep moving forward.” About Doug Doug Bopst is the founder of Doug Bopst Fitness. He is also an award-winning personal trainer, bestselling author, and public speaker who has worked with various companies, organizations, and schools. The books he has written reflect his personal story of transforming his life from addiction. His purpose is to inspire people to get into recovery and improve their overall health and wellness. Doug is also the host of the Adversity Advantage Podcast, where he interviews people about their trial-to-triumph stories. He has been featured on various national media platforms and podcasts. In 2015, The Baltimore Sun voted him as one of the "12 Fitness Heroes" in Baltimore. If you want to connect with Doug, you can his website and follow him on Instagram.   This episode is brought to you by LovEvery   Take the guess work out of child's play!  Play-kits for brain development. Lovevery.com/loved for free shipping   This episode is brought to you by Thrive Causemetics  Get 15% OFF your first order thrivecausemetics.com/loved      This episode is brought to you by OSEA  Get 10% OFF with code LOVED go to OSEAmalibu.com   Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people in your life! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people get inspired by transforming life through fitness, persistence, and faith? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 374. Advocating Women's Health: The Impact of an Endometriosis Diagnosis with Jessica Murnane

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2021 41:55

    Advocating Women's Health: The Impact of an Endometriosis Diagnosis with Jessica Murnane If there's one thing women dread, it's their periods. They're a big hassle, especially for activities and schedules. We hesitate to attend beach or pool parties. We even avoid sports activities. Periods also cause so much pain that sometimes we refuse to get out of bed. But do periods really have to hurt so much? How do you know if the pain you're experiencing is already beyond normal? In this episode, Jessica Murnane talks about endometriosis and its effects on women. As someone with this condition, Jessica discusses the facts and misconceptions of the disease. She also talks about the daily struggles of having endometriosis and how to handle these challenges. Despite how common it is, there is not enough conversation on women's health and navigating life after an endometriosis diagnosis . It's time to change this. Empower yourself to know more about your body and advocate for the care you deserve! Tune in to learn more about endometriosis and the importance of conversations on women's health. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Distinguish facts from misconceptions regarding endometriosis. Know why it's important to have conversations about women's health issues. Learn how to live a positive life even with an endometriosis diagnosis. Resources Jessica's books: One Part Plant: A Simple Guide to Eating Real, One Meal at a Time ○     Know Your Endo: An Empowering Guide to Health and Hope With Endometriosis Jessica'sOne Part Podcast Know Your Endo: Website | Instagram Connect with Jessica:Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter The W.I.S.E. Podcast — Women Inspiring Success and Empowerment We Need to Talk by Celeste Headlee Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights On Podcasts and Guesting Jessica only interviews people she cares about or whoever sparks her curiosity. When it comes to podcast guesting, Jessica can automatically rule out inauthenticity. If you're thinking of pitching yourself as a guest, you should do research before reaching out to the host. If you're still building your show, make sure your guests are proud and interested in what they do. If you want to bring in people from other backgrounds, do it later. Jessica's Podcasting Jessica recently ended her podcast that ran for 7 years. She stopped because she's already tackled many topics and decided she can use her energy for other projects. Jessica found it difficult to leave the people she collaborated with, many of whom became good friends. Jessica's Books Jessica got a hysterectomy due to her endometriosis diagnosis years ago. To control her symptoms, Jessica took on diet and lifestyle changes. These changes then led to her writing a cookbook with plant-based recipes. Jessica's cookbook had a whole page dedicated to endo and she received a lot of positive feedback from it. From here, she set up a website to help women identify the symptoms of endometriosis. This eventually turned into a book. Facing Women's Health Issues Some women are ashamed of their body's dysfunctions. People still have so many incorrect views, especially towards those with an endometriosis diagnosis. Your doctor can also give you misinformation about your condition. So you need to take matters into your hands and learn more about your body. Then, take your time to implement changes in your lifestyle. Do it for your own sake and overall wellness. Misinformation on Endometriosis Endometriosis is when tissue lining grows outside of your uterus instead of on the inside. This condition can cause fatigue, painful periods, and painful sex. However, some people who have endo don't necessarily experience painful periods. Pregnancy is not a treatment for endo. What's unfortunate and disturbing is how some doctors still suggest this treatment and some people buy into it. During pregnancy, symptoms may seem manageable, but the root causes still exist. Getting an Endometriosis Diagnosis MRIs and blood tests aren't good enough for an endometriosis diagnosis. The only true diagnostic test for this condition is a laparoscopy. Most women get an endometriosis diagnosis only during their late 20s or 30s. The average period to get an endometriosis diagnosis is 8-10 years. Around 90% of women with endometriosis also have GI issues. Jessica's Relationship with Her Condition Jessica admits that writing her book on endo drained her. It brought back her bad experience and trauma with her endometriosis diagnosis. Now she takes care of herself by jumping on trampolines, watching TV, and spending time with her family. She also makes sure that she has some alone time to practice self-care. Advice for Women with Endo An endometriosis diagnosis does not mean the end. Don't be ashamed of your symptoms, no matter how embarrassing you may think they may be. Know that you aren't alone. Seek support from someone who also has a chronic illness. Practice true empathy. How Jessica Feels Radically Loved Jessica feels radically loved when she takes an hour to be by herself. She reminds those with endometriosis to make themselves a priority. When you take care of yourself, you can show up for people better. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [15:43]] “I started Know Your Endo as a really just an informational website where people could go, and just have, you know, these are the symptoms of endometriosis. This is what it is. And then that really turned into the book. ” [18:17] “And I think what presents a problem for so many people with endo is you might share with your doctor and then you're told misinformation.” [22:10] “It took some time to say, ‘Alright, I'm ready to do this.' Like it's okay if you're not ready to like, upend your entire life to make change.” [26:52] “I think, you know, a huge thing is, is I think, going to my website, picking up the book and looking at the list of symptoms. Because the list of symptoms are so shocking to so many people because they're not necessarily related to what you would think is a ‘period' issue.” [33:52] “But truly, that you are not alone in this and that there is someone else that has peed their pants before. There is someone else that has bled through their pants. There is someone else that has not been able to get up off the bathroom floor like this.” About Jessica Jessica Murnane is an author, creative consultant, speaker, and a woman with endo. Her endometriosis diagnosis and resulting diet changes sparked the creation of Know Your Endo. She has written two books, hosted a podcast, and has built a community for raising awareness for this life-long condition. Her endo awareness campaigns shed light on what endometriosis really is. Aside from raising awareness, Jessica also helps women seek a proper endometriosis diagnosis. Jessica's website also contains some helpful lifestyle and diet tools to help women with endo. You can check out tools and additional information about endometriosis through Know Your Endo's website and Instagram account. If you want to learn more about Jessica, you can check out her personal website, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter.   This episode is brought to you by Tonal Go to www.tonal.com and use promo code ROSIE for $100 off Smart Accessories.      Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people learn more about what it means to have endometriosis? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 373. Empowering Women Through Fashion & Styling with Char Roxborough

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2021 41:22

    Empowering Women Through Fashion & Styling with Char Roxborough Fashion is so much more than glamor and celebrities. It showcases your personality and attitude in life. It can bring you confidence and encourage you to step out of your comfort zone, which changes the way you live entirely. Fashion can transform and empower you to become the woman you're always meant to be—strong and beautiful inside and out. In this episode, Char Roxborough discusses the influence of fashion and styling in changing people's lives. She also shares the biggest and inspiring lessons she received from the women she looks up to. As a mother and a successful fashion stylist, Char gives advice not only about fashion but also about career. If you want to know more about the power of fashion in women's lives, listen to the full episode. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover how fashion and style transform women's lives. Learn encouraging advice Char received from other women and the impactful lessons she acquired in her career as a fashion stylist. Char will share her definition of wisdom, the importance of surrounding yourself with good people, and why she doesn't like the word “no.” Resources MODEbyCRK website Are you overwhelmingly stressed and wanting to truly connect to yourself? Listen to Radically Loved if you want to learn how to achieve mind/body/spirit connection, create more sustainable relationships, and find your life's passion. Be sure to share your favorite episodes and leave a review! FREE workbook! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Enter your email below, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights The Modern Styling World Everyone has their own journey. Thus, aspiring stylists should find the niche they want to be a part of. Char started her styling career in the music industry. There, she learned how to multitask, become more patient, and hustle without being stressed out. For Char, it's all about doing what you love to do. They have to work with different personalities in the fashion world. It's the job of the stylists not to change their clients' identity but instead enhance it through fashion. The Role of Styling in Transforming People Styling says a lot about an individual's personality and identity. It is much more than putting articles of clothing that compliment one another to look good. Stylists take a little bit of everything and incorporate different elements to form one feeling or mood. Char doesn't want to be a trendsetter. She focuses on highlighting her and her clients' vibe through fashion. Char's Styling Ethos Char has always loved fashion. When she was young, her mother would buy vintage and secondhand clothes for her because they can't afford to buy branded items. Char's styling ethos revolves around timeless, effortless, modern pieces. She encourages everyone to buy clothes that make sense for them. Char's two-second rule — If you put something on and can't figure out how to make it happen or combine it with your other clothes, it's not the piece for you. On Buying Clothes Online When buying clothes online, your familiarity with the brand, designer, texture, and fabric will help you ensure you're going to purchase quality items. On Char's Collection, CRK X VIMMIA Having collaborated with different designers before, Char now wants to create an activewear lifestyle brand. Designing comes easily to Char. She knows her exact vision for the collection: to create unique and functional pieces of clothing. The collection is also for all mothers who are always on the go and don't have much time to figure out what pieces of clothing go well with each other. Char's Biggest Lesson in Life According to Char, life is all about timing and patience. Focus on yourself and avoid comparing your life to the people around you. Char knows what works for her and her workspace. She is organized and thrives on multitasking. She likes to enjoy each day, especially with everything that's been going on with the world. On Wisdom & Surrounding Yourself with Good People For Char, wisdom involves awareness of your surroundings, the people you bring into your life, listening to your intuition, and making wise decisions. The people you surround yourself with say a lot about you as a person. Friendships are all about quality, not quantity. To know if you have the right people in your life, you have to trust your intuition, just like when you're choosing the right outfit. The Best Piece of Advice Char Had Ever Received When it's the right time for you, it will happen. Don't force things to come your way. Her mom always reminds her that everything is all about timing and encourages her to pray for the things she wants to receive. In her work, there's no such thing as, “How can I make this happen?” As a stylist, her job is to make things happen and get the job done. Char's Rule of Not Saying “No” For Char, saying no sounds so aggressive. She avoids saying no to her daughter. Instead, she explains why she can't do something and redirects her to other things. Inspiring Women in Char's Life She has always been inspired by her mom, from whom she got her fashion sense. Her best friend, Anastasia, also inspires Char. She has a make-up business and likes to help others. Char loves being inspired by women who can teach her new things. Biggest Lessons Char Will Teach Her Daughter Char wants her daughter to love herself and never allow anyone to say she can't do something. She wants her daughter to listen to her instincts and believe in herself. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode “It (styling) says a lot about your personality, who you are, where you came from, your background, what you love. It's just like you're creating basically your own movie.” “I'm not a trendsetter because I'm not into setting trends. I just believe that you set your own vibe and you set your own mood of how you like to look, how you like to feel, what you want to shape your ideas and thoughts.” “I always believe that when you buy things, buy things that make sense.” “If you surround your lifestyle with people that just want to be there for the wrong reasons, then how could you build a proper relationship or friendship in that type of environment?” “I have a daughter, and I want her to be inspired by powerful strong women, and make her own space and path in life, and help others.” About Char Char Roxborough is a celebrity fashion stylist, designer, fashion expert, and a mother. If you want to learn more about Char and her collection, you may visit her website. You can connect with her through Instagram or Twitter.   This episode is brought to you by SAKARA Get 20% off your first order.  https://www.sakara.com/pages/radicallyloved   This episode is brought to you by Hooked on Phonics www.hookedonphonics.com/loved Get your first month for just $1.00   Enjoy The Podcast? If you felt empowered from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach, inspire, and empower more women! Do you want to help empower women through fashion? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to send us messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Thanks for listening! To inspiring success and empowerment, Rosie

    Episode 372. How to Find Your Daily Inspiration with Light Watkins

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2021 46:22

    How to Find Your Daily Inspiration with Light Watkins When you feel stuck, how do you move forward? Where do you find the inner strength to be open and present to moments of daily inspiration ? Most of the time, the answer already lies within yourself. Once you stop worrying about the future or going over the past, you become immersed in the present and discover that inspiration is everywhere. In this episode, we have Light Watkins, the author of Knowing Where To Look: 108 Daily Doses of Inspiration. He teaches us how to find our daily inspiration in the most mundane of experiences. When we take that first step into the unknown, creativity becomes a little bit easier to unlock. Light encourages us to embrace discomfort and build habits until they become reflex.  If you want to learn how to conquer your inner doubts and find that lightbulb moment, this episode is for you. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how to stay present and pay attention to avoid missing your moment of daily inspiration. Discover and apply Light's tricks to get unstuck. Develop a healthier relationship with social media. Resources Connect with Light: Website | Instagram | Twitter The Happiness Insiders Knowing Where to Look: 108 Daily Doses of Inspiration by Light Watkins Bliss More: How to Succeed in Meditation Without Really Trying by Light Watkins Light's TED Talk: Debunking the 5 Most Common Meditation Myths Malcolm Gladwell's TED Talk: Choice, happiness, and spaghetti sauce I've had the privilege of talking to Light before on Radically Loved Radio: Episode 159: How to Bliss More Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Moments of Daily Inspiration Light recalled meeting a friend who only had a blurry picture of his dog to remember it by. It was then that he realized that what's insignificant to him can be a meaningful memory to another. Everyone has a story. When you peel back the layers and go beyond the surface, you can find a deeper and beautiful meaning. To prepare for his book, Light practiced writing short stories every day. But when he runs out of topics, he meditates, and inspiration strikes. It's impossible to run out of creativity because creativity generates further creativity. The simple act of showing up can give you that lightbulb moment. Getting Unstuck Through Daily Inspiration A powerful way to get inspired is to practice gratitude. Identify five to ten things that you're grateful for at the moment. If you can't find anything you're thankful for, move your body and be aware of the physical sensations. Try to embed this habit. When you stay grounded in the present instead of regretting your past or worrying about the future, you become more receptive to the richness of the human experience. Staying grounded in the present allows you to discover the world is screaming to be noticed by you. Building the Habit It's essential to cultivate the habit of showing up for yourself. The real challenge starts when other obligations get in the way, and it's no longer convenient to stick to your original plan. Through pure repetition, Light learned how to build habits. Start now, and even finding daily inspiration will become second nature to you in no time. In the face of setbacks, Light pressed on and ended up producing your own masterpiece. Being nervous and afraid are prerequisites for inspiration. Don't run away, but lean into that. Seeing Through Social media is a highlight reel of other people's carefully curated lives. It's not real. In modeling, he discovered that stylists go to great lengths to make the clothes look tailored to the person in the catalog. There's no point in comparing ourselves to someone else's highlight reel. It prevents us from living in the present moment and appreciating the good things we have. The Right Balance Social media platforms like Instagram embody society's narcissistic tendencies. The first step to cultivate a healthier relationship with social media is to be fully honest with yourself. Identify what part of you is attracted to that platform and what you can do about it. It may not be possible to quit social media completely, but you can learn to pick your poison and choose your battles. Making Art We have a choice to pit ourselves endlessly against other people on social media or focus our energies on making art. Hip-hop culture is an example of people converting difficult life experiences into beautiful and artistic expressions. If you have something in your life to complain about, try and ask yourself, "What's beautiful about this experience, and how can I express it?" If we are willing to take a moment to reflect, it becomes easier to identify the feeling that we're called to express within our lived experience. Our Inner Child We want to grow up into someone that is the full expression of ourselves. But we usually lose our way and suppress that part of ourselves when we grow up. In Light's podcast, he asks guests their favorite childhood activity and discovers that their calling as an adult is linked to that formative experience. When we lose our early purpose, it is our job as adults to peel back the layers and find our true selves. The confluence of areas in your life where you're not honest with yourself and where you are authentic is where you find your true purpose. Freedom in Choice-lessness The scariest part is just before you start. But once you take that first step, the fear gives way to strategy and logistics. There's freedom in lack of choice. When we have too many options, we tend to get paralyzed. But when you're pushed into a corner and only have one choice, you focus your energy and resources on that. Whatever your version of “the opposite” is, lean into that. Explore what makes you uncomfortable or fearful. Only then will you find yourself. Taking a leap of faith is not a single act but a lifestyle. Tune in to the full episode to discover how Light feels radically loved! 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode [12:28] “When you're not in the present, you're going to miss so much richness, so much of the sentience of just everything all around you all the time that is transmitting messages and communicating with you and really just screaming to be noticed by you.” [16:21] “The real commitment doesn't even start until the original plan goes out the window. And that's when you really start to see what you're made of.” [20:39] “I think nervousness and being afraid, in a good way, is one of the prerequisites for inspiration. So don't talk yourself out of it because you're nervous. Lean into that.” [34:09] “Whatever is going to expose how you're lying to yourself, the areas of your life where you're not being honest with yourself, and where you can be more authentic. The confluence of those two areas is where you're going to find your purpose.” [39:55] “Through exploring those areas that make you uncomfortable, you'll find comfort and discomfort and then you'll find that fear that tends to stop most of us most of the time, it won't be an issue for you anymore. And you'll find yourself.” About Light Light Watkins is an accomplished meditation teacher and bestselling author of Knowing Where to Look. A highly sought-after keynote speaker, he has delivered more than 500 wellness themed-talks since 2007. Light founded and hosted the sober social event, The Shine. In The Shine spotlights individuals that have overcome the odds to start movements for social good. He is also the host of "At the End of the Tunnel,” a weekly inspirational podcast. To learn more about Light, visit his website or connect with him on Instagram and Twitter. Make sure to check out the newly launched “The Happiness Insiders” community.    This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers Go to magbreakthrough.com/radicallyloved Code radicallyloved10   This episode brought to you by  Betterhelp Enjoy 10% off your first month by using code Discount code LOVED will be automatically applied. https://www.betterhelp.com/loved Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people, make them feel loved, and find their daily inspiration. Do you want to help more people find inspiration in their lives? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 370. Creating Space, Resting Well, and Moving Toward Consciousness with Rod Stryker

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2021 52:47

    Creating Space, Resting Well, and Moving Toward Consciousness with Rod Stryker We're so used to being busy all the time because we live in a fast-paced world. When we do find time for ourselves, it's frequently filled with noise from technology. More often than not, we are not resting well , reflecting, and connecting with ourselves. It is only through relishing in silence and creating spaciousness that our body, mind, and soul will be truly restored. Rod Stryker joins us once again to talk about the importance of creating spaciousness in our lives. As a yoga and meditation teacher, Rod explains the significance of honoring our human need for resting well. And for those who feel like they're too busy to be resting well, Rod shares some workarounds and bio-hacks to conquer that challenge. Lastly, we talk about how we can deal with life's pains and difficulties. If you want to know the secrets to resting well and feeling more connected with yourself, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn bio-hacks to resting well and creating spaciousness in your busy life. Find out why we seem to forget all our pain and suffering when we sleep. Discover how to deal with pain upon waking up from a delightful sleep. Resources Pre-order Rod's book, Enlightened Sleep. Pre-order my book, You Are Radically Loved. Connect with Rod: Facebook | YouTube | Instagram ParaYoga Sanctuary with Rod Stryker: The Meditation & Yoga Nidra App Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights How Spaciousness Allows for Resting Well Life in the industrial world, especially with technology, isn't conducive to the nervous system. We have disconnected from the body's four basic rhythms: the circadian rhythm, sleep-wake cycles, and rest and activity cycles. Every 90 minutes, our bodies are meant to rest. When we slow down, we also become bored. Boredom is critical to autobiographical planning, which is when our brains slowly begin to unwind and self-reflect. This process creates spaciousness in our minds, and allows us to be more present and embodied. Creating Spaciousness in a Busy Life Using bio-hacks, you can create spaciousness even in your busy life. Simply shifting from a narrow to a wide view can trigger your parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for rest. You can also follow the Pomodoro method. When you take short breaks, you allow your brain to go into exploratory mode. You'll find it easier to work afterward. In resting well, it also helps to watch what you do in the last 30 minutes before you go to sleep. You need to be willing to step away from your responsibilities in your waking state and step into the mystery that is sleep. What Happens When You Sleep Rod explains sleep in terms of Yoga. As we extract ourselves from the physical, mental, intellectual dimensions, we move towards consciousness. Consciousness is self-organizing, which means that as you approach it, you start to heal on all other levels. Rod says that in sleep, we're on the precipice of consciousness. We experience what Yogis call a floating delight. In sleep, the body also enters a self-organizing state where it repairs and regenerates. However, when we wake up, we have to reconstruct who we were before sleep. Unlike sleep, meditation offers an opportunity to choose how much of the “old you” you want to keep. How to Deal with Pain in the Waking State We humans prefer the familiar as opposed to the unfamiliar. We'd often prefer familiar pain to the unfamiliar cure. When we sleep or meditate, life seems harsher because we compare it to the peace and spaciousness that sleep and meditation provides. The solution to this challenge is creating spaciousness and separation, and interrupting cycles of hyperarousal. During the pandemic, teenagers experienced mental health problems the most. That's because they haven't experienced enough difficulties to know that they'll be okay. Stepping away from your grief or loss reminds you that other things continue to endure. Becoming More Conscious When you're focused on yourself, you're in subject referral. Object referral is when you pay attention to things outside of yourself. We switch between subject and object referral all the time, but neither depict reality. To smooth out the harshness of reality and achieve clarity, try to walk the line between subject and object referral. Consciousness is in subject and in object, but is transcendent to both. The Power and Grace of Present Moment Perception Rod recounted how years ago, his two children got very sick and were brought to a hospital by a life flight. He thought that if he wanted to be of service to his family, he needed to tap into the power and grace of moment perception by moving towards his consciousness. Although it was a difficult process, Rob was able to access spaciousness and handle the situation well. Parting Words Rod recounted how years ago, his two children got very sick and were brought to a hospital by a life flight. He thought that if he wanted to be of service to his family, he needed to tap into the power and grace of moment perception by moving towards his consciousness. Although it was a difficult process, Rob was able to access spaciousness and handle the situation well. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [04:12] “[The industrial world] is not a construct that's conducive to your nervous system to the human nervous system.” [14:18] “Step away and shift the rhythm. And then we begin to work more in sync with the nervous system and what it really does want.” [24:28] “We don't give ourselves the opportunity to have that patience because we've been so desensitized to being bored, to being patient because everything happens so quickly. We've sort of primed ourselves to having this instant gratification.” [27:23] “We prefer the familiar, as opposed to the unfamiliar. And we would actually, in most cases, prefer the familiar even if it's painful than the unfamiliar even if it has the promise of being less painful.” [35:13] “The idea is you practice awareness through the course of your life. You remember that you're neither your feelings and your thoughts, nor are you what the world seems to be doing.” About Rod Rod Stryker is a world-renowned yoga and meditation teacher and the founder of ParaYogaⓇ. He has been sharing his wisdom and guiding his students for over 40 years and has authored The Four Desires: Creating a Life of Purpose, Happiness, Prosperity, and Freedom. Rod has also recently developed the app, Sanctuary, for those who want to experience the life-changing practices of meditation and yoga Nidra. Rod is known for his capacity to make ancient wisdom and practices accessible to modern people. He guides different kinds of students and audiences. He helps individuals wanting to improve their well-being and those seeking to apply time-tested methods to meet the demands of modern life. If you want to know more about Rod and his work, you may visit his website. You may also follow him on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram. This episode is brought to you by FLEX  Go to flexfits.com/loved and use code loved for 20% off Flex Disc Starts — or 10$ off your first Flex Cup—plus free U.S. shipping!    This episode is brought to you by SAKARA Go to Sakara.com/loved for 20% off your first order. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you also want others to rest well and have more spaciousness in their lives? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Special Episode: Living Life on Life's Terms with Elizabeth Gilbert Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2021 40:13


    Elizabeth Gilbert is best known for her best-selling memoir Eat Pray Love, chronicling her journey across three cultures as she moves on from a difficult divorce. The book sold millions of copies worldwide and was made into a film in 2010. Time Magazine named Elizabeth one of the 100 most influential people in the world for her work. Visit https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/ for more information.   This episode is brought to you by Thrive Causemetics   Visit www.thrivecausemetics.com/loved for 15% OFF your first order   This episode is brought to you by Audible With an Audible membership, you can download titles and listen offline, anytime, anywhere. www.audible.com/loved or text loved to 500-500       


    Special Episode: Living Life on Life's Terms with Elizabeth Gilbert Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 14, 2021 41:50


     Elizabeth Gilbert is best known for her best-selling memoir Eat Pray Love, chronicling her journey across three cultures as she moves on from a difficult divorce. The book sold millions of copies worldwide and was made into a film in 2010. Time Magazine named Elizabeth one of the 100 most influential people in the world for her work. Visit https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/ for more information.   This episode is brought to you by LovEvery   Take the guess work out of child's play!  Play-kits for brain development. Lovevery.com/loved for free shipping     This episode brought to you by  Betterhelp Enjoy 10% off your first month by using code Discount code LOVED will be automatically applied. https://www.betterhelp.com/loved


    Episode 368. What Intuition Means and Using It to Connect with Animals with Nikki Cuthbertson

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 9, 2021 49:49

    What Intuition Means and Using It to Connect with Animals with Nikki Cuthbertson Many of us consider our pets as part of the family. They are not just animals but true companions for life. We grow with them, learn from them, and at times create connections that go deeper than our physical selves. Yet humans, with all that our brains do, can sometimes fall out of connection with all that is around us. It is through animals that we can listen and find the connection again. In this episode of Radically Loved Radio, Nikki Cuthbertson shares with us the deep emotional and spiritual connections we can create with animals and life all around us. She talks about what intuition means  and how we can hone it. We also discuss the importance of heart-mind coherence and tips to help us connect with the energy around us. The world around us is communicating with us and Nikki shares how we can dive deep within ourselves to hear it. If you want to know what intuition means and how you can use this in your life, then this episode is for you!            Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Find out what intuition means and how to develop yours. Learn about different practices and techniques to hone your animal communication skills. Discover your connection to all life and the energy within and around us. Resources Connect with Nikki: Website | Facebook Joe Dispenza Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Nikki's Moments of Connection with Energy As a critical care nurse for 20 years, Nikki felt energy during heightened states before a patient passes away. Nikki also felt beings welcoming these patients as they passed on. As you let go of someone, it's better to send them off with forgiveness than with a grudge. Trauma locks down and disconnects the heart-mind coherence. You need to leave this trauma behind to reach absolute coherence. The heart-mind coherence is how you can understand and connect with energy. How to be a Better Communicator First, you need a quiet mind to listen to your spiritual heart. Through this, you can find the place that unifies all of life. Then, you need to know yourself as an energetic being. Nikki uses movement-based practices to help connect to being embodied. Meanwhile, meditation helps you become self-aware of your frequency. After this, you can let go of being human and merge with the consciousness of other energies. In this state, we are all connected with the energetic world. The Main Message of Animals Animals show us love without conditions or boundaries. Nikki's biggest goal is to love the way animals love. Their love can manifest in many different ways and through all kinds of messages. Nikki has had deeply emotional readings with animals showing their concern for their humans who are not mentally well. Why We're Conditioned to be Closed Since we were young, we've been conditioned to fit into society and culture. However, we also need to find a place to express ourselves freely and work through the layer of shame. Humans have the power of words and language. Use this gift to uplift others. Listening is a lost art. Sometimes we need only to listen to reach the universal emotion we can all relate to. To do this, we should learn to slow down and pay attention. Connecting with Your Inner Self Many of us crave to have an overstimulated mind and this can lead to an addictive cycle. It's best to have emotional and primal tools to release energy. We need to understand what intuition means and listen to it. Empathic people tend to have self-doubt. Through animal communication, you can develop confidence and connection. How to Avoid Seeking Validation We may feel that we need affirmation that what our intuition is telling us is correct. We all have different dominant ways of communicating. You have to reach the same wavelength to communicate effectively with others. Communicating with animals requires imagination. Nikki recommends that you write without stopping to open the language unique to you and your animal. It's hard to practice with your animal because you already know them. When you practice with other animals, you can have their human validate your communication. Over time, you can recognize what intuition means to you and how you can get to that point. What Intuition Means and Getting in Touch with Yours Recognize the tangible feeling of being captured and mesmerized. Stay present in that feeling. This is the liminal state or the in-between of worlds that has a soft and diffused quality. Practice heart breathing by going through the three layers of the heart: the physical, emotional, and spiritual. A heart-centered practice gives you access to a language that's vibrational. Listen to the full episode to know more about this process. How Can You Practice? Consistent and regular practice helps. Choose one of your animals that you feel is open to having that kind of connection with you. There is no set time limit of practice. Stay in it as long as it feels good to stay. There will be a sense of completion when you're done. Cultivate presence in the present. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [08:05] “It's your spiritual heart. That place of thought, mind, and soul that we're constantly trying to polish to get through the layers of our being, and listen from that place. That place is the same place that unifies all of life.”   [15:40] “So there's these really beautiful ways that are so poignant of working with the animals in the way love can manifest in so many different kinds of concerns and messages, but the root in the essence of it is always love.”   [23:01] “Your intuition is kind of like your internal GPS, and your animals are pretty much dialed into that.”   [43:33] “When you're cultivating presence, and I think that that's what the gift of communicating with the animals is— in presence, you're not in the future, and you're not in the past.”   [46:01] “For me, feeling radically loved means that I can see purpose in everything that I have lived to make me who I am… taking me out of anything that was my victimhood into really trusting in the divine plan.” About Nikki Nikki Cuthbertson is a Registered Nurse, intuitive guru, and professional animal communicator. After 20 years as a critical care nurse, she founded One with Nature to help people attain wholeness and understanding within themselves and with nature. Through her business, she nurtures and promotes each individual's growth and connection with animals and nature. Nikki is also a Reiki Master and Yoga Instructor. She teaches at the Petaluma Academy of Martial Arts which she and her husband own. In her journey as a nurse and a Reiki Master, she has become proficient in connecting with energy. If you want to connect with Nikki, visit her website. You can also check out her Facebook page to know more. This episode is brought to you by Tonal  https://www.tonal.com/ Try tonal for 30 days risk free!  Get $100 OFF all smart accessories with promo code: ROSIE      Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people learn what intuition means so they can form deeper connections with life all around them? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 367. #WisdomWednesdays / Serving the Highest Good by Learning to Manage Emotions and Helping Our Environment

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2021 33:24

    #WisdomWednesdays: Serving the Highest Good by Learning to Manage Emotions and Helping Our Environment Throughout our lifetimes, we will undoubtedly face emotions that don't make us feel good. As human beings, we are designed to empathize with others who are also feeling these heavy emotions. But where do we draw the line? At what point should you start to prioritize your feelings? How do we manage emotions  like these so we can serve the highest good? In this episode, Rosie and Tessa discuss emotions and why it's normal for us to shy away from negative ones. However, when we do so, we make decisions from a place of unconsciousness. Instead, we need to learn to manage emotions. Acknowledge the existence of your feelings and how they drive you to do certain things. In the second part of the podcast, we examine the idea of the human race as one. We are all in this together. All of our actions affect the environment. So, we need to be conscious of how our behaviors are serving the highest good. It isn't the time to bury our heads in the sand. One small step from you may be the catalyst of change amongst others. Tune in to learn how to manage emotions so that you come from a place of conscious action to create change. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Hear inspiring passages from Unlearn by Humble the Poet and One Thousand White Women by Jim Fergus. Gain insights about how to prioritize and manage emotions. Know what you can do to contribute to the betterment of our environment. Resources Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths for a Better Life by Humble the Poet The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo Knowing Where to Look by Light Watkins One Thousand White Women by Jim Fergus Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert Eat, Pray, Love (2010) Check out Rosie's Youtube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday. Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on theRadically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights Discussing Emotions Rosie shares a passage from the book, Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths for a Better Life by Humble the Poet. It's so easy to be swept away by big emotions because you want to empathize with people. At what point do you draw the line between others' emotions and your own? Feeding an emotion that is not serving your highest good will bleed into other areas of your life. Experiencing an emotion is like an automatic knee-jerk response. You could operate from a place of unconsciousness where your emotions drive your decisions. How We Deal with Emotions For Tessa, these emotions make her spend money on stuff like clothes. However, she admits that she wants to make purchases that provide a lasting experience of pleasure. We know when we are doing things to avoid unpleasant emotions; it's instinctual for all of us. This is also because we have this fear of people not understanding our emotions. Learning How to Manage Emotions Instead of shying away, learn how to manage emotions by acknowledging and recognizing their existence. Ask yourself: what is driving your decision to do something? What need is this decision filling? What aren't you feeling? Instead of being reactive in situations, know that you can manage emotions instead. Make a conscious decision on how you want to proceed. In the process, you're teaching others how they should treat you. The Premise of One Thousand White Women Tessa's favorite genre is historical fiction. She reads a passage from the book she's currently reading. Its story is set in 1874 in the United States when Europeans were colonizing the Native Americans. During this time, the Cheyenne tribe's chief demanded 1000 white brides from US President Grant. The story revolves around what could have happened if President Grant agreed to this demand. The Takeaway Tessa sees this passage as an analogy of the unity of the human race. We should ask ourselves what we do as a collective. How can we contribute to bettering our environment? You can also create actionable change over time. How can you, as an individual, contribute? A Global Environmental Problem Rosie shares that she always wanted to go diving in the Great Barrier Reef. But when she got there, she was devastated by the water pollution and bleached corals. We are quick to ravage the earth and its resources without acknowledging that it supports us. We fail to see that what's happening around us is caused by our negligence. It's high time that we educate ourselves and do our part. Ask yourself: where are you allocating your resources? Are they serving the planet? Having a Catastrophizing Mindset It is a challenge to stay in the present and also remain conscious enough to make actionable decisions. We see trash, particularly plastic, littering the beaches and oceans we visit. These scenarios make the problems we face in terms of environmental degradation seem overwhelming at times. However, all it takes is just one person to start picking up trash for others to follow. 5 Powerful Quotes [04:58] “Accepting fear, confusion, anxiety, and whatever other unpleasantness simply means to understand it's part of us.” [09:52] “When we feel an unsavory feeling, it's instinctual for us to want to not feel it. We don't crave unsavory moments; we want to feel good.” [12:49] “You got to teach people how to treat you.” [21:12] “How are we supposed to integrate with making a change if we don't believe that the Earth can support us?” [24:27] “It's a challenge to stay in the present, but also to remain conscious enough to make those actionable decisions.” This episode is brought to you by Tru Niagen www.truniagen.com/loved use code LOVED to get 10% off your first purchase!    This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers Go to magbreakthrough.com/radicallyloved Code radicallyloved10       Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people to learn what it takes to manage emotions? Do you want to influence others to make a positive impact on the environment? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 366. Change Your Life with Ayurvedic Medicine with Dr. Avanti Kumar-Singh

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2021 44:26

    Change Your Life with Ayurvedic Medicine with Dr. Avanti Kumar-Singh We turn to Western medicine whenever we feel any symptom of illness. Our automatic response is that something is wrong with our physical bodies. But if you take a moment to reflect, you'll find that these symptoms are often due to your lifestyle and environment. After all, we are connected to everything in nature. Thus, we need to live in harmony with it to achieve optimal wellness. Connection and balance are the core of the practice of Ayurveda. In today's episode, medical doctor and Ayurvedic practitioner Dr. Avanti Kumar-Singh joins us to discuss questions around Ayurvedic medicine ? She shares her realizations after shifting from Western medicine to Ayurvedic medicine. She also discusses Ayurveda's principles, qualities, and elements. Finally, Dr. Avanti gives practical tips on how people can start applying it in their lives. If you want to know just what Ayurvedic medicine is and how it can help you, you will find great value from this episode!           Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: What is Ayurvedic medicine, and how is it different from Western medicine? Learn the three areas of remedies that will help you easily apply Ayurveda in your life. Find out how you can start making small but profound changes in your life through Ayurveda. Resources Connect with Dr. Avanti: Website | Instagram The Health Catalyst: How To Harness the Power of Ayurveda To Self-Heal and Achieve Optimal Wellness by Dr. Avanti Kumar-Singh The Healing Catalyst Podcast Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights The Health Catalyst Avanti self-published this book amid the pandemic because she wanted to have it out without delay. The idea came out as people constantly asked Dr. Avanti if she had a book from her teaching experience around Ayurveda. In the book, she talks about how to apply Ayurveda along with her background around the practice. Avanti shares that the book is part memoir and is meant to be a primer on Ayurveda. The Shift from Western Medicine to Ayurvedic Medicine Avanti had a health crisis during her medical training. This experience urged her to take a hard look at her lifestyle. Avanti questioned why she had no health issues in the first 20 years of her life when she lived at home. She realized that, as the daughter of Indian immigrants, she grew up with Ayurveda. After setting her sights on medical school, Dr. Avanti didn't look back on the practice until her health crisis. What Is Ayurvedic Medicine? Ayurveda's basic principle says that we can access and have optimal health and wellness when we live in harmony with nature. It can get complicated because human beings connect to everything in nature. Avanti is not a proponent of the doshas when starting with Ayurveda because they're nuanced. You first need to understand what imbalance is going on for you presently so you can get back into balance. Ayurveda is a qualitative science. It's crucial to describe the qualities of what you're trying to heal. Understanding the Qualities of Ayurveda Everything in nature, including us, consists of five elements: air, space, fire, water, and earth. Every element has certain qualities. There are 20 qualities or 10 pairs of qualities in Ayurveda. You can apply qualities not only to people, animals, and plants but also to symptoms. The golden principle of Ayurveda is like increases like, and opposites reduce. The Counterbalance Solution Step one: Identify what is the challenge you're having and what are its qualities. Step two: Apply the golden principle. Listen to the full episode to learn the application of the counterbalance solution to anxiety! There are three areas of remedies you can explore for self-healing. These include routines or daily rhythms, diets, and the tools of yoga. You can easily apply Ayurveda to your life once you shift your mindset and understand that Ayurveda is qualitative. Tips for Someone with a Stressful Routine The most important thing is to create a schedule. Have some touchstones throughout the day where your body and mind can go into relaxation. Start your touchstones with sleep, wake, and meal times; these times are the most important. Eating warm cooked foods and fluids helps ground you and is particularly helpful for people with anxiety. Applying the Tools of Yoga The three main yoga tools are breath, meditation or stillness, and movement or posture. If you have anxiety, it's better to visualize a mountain versus a flowing river because mountains are solid and grounding. Lengthen your exhale. Through this, you can calm the nervous system down. If you want to ground yourself more, slow down your pace. How Dr. Avanti Moved through Hectic Situations Avanti admits she didn't do it very well in the beginning. She went through many challenges and even got sick. She was juggling being newly married, having two young children, and being in medical school. After stopping and taking a good look at the situation, she started to incorporate the Ayurveda principles back into her life. Ayurveda is about awareness and living consciously. Collective Stillness from the Pandemic Toxins create an imbalance within us, leading to symptoms, illness, and chronic diseases without remedy. These toxins come from every aspect of life. The pandemic allowed us to take a look at the different areas of our life. As we're reemerging from the pandemic, reflect on what you want to keep and get rid of. Start Simply Western culture tends to try and complicate everything. Yet, the most powerful answers are simple. Adding something small can be life-changing. Tune in to the full episode to learn some examples of small but profound changes you can apply to your life! 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [04:44] “Storytelling and journeys that, especially for those of us in the healing professions, in the helping professions, it has a lot of power to it when you explain why you're doing what you're doing. And it is it really inspires other people too.” [09:10] “The basic principle of Ayurveda is that when we live in harmony with nature, we can access and have optimal health and wellness. Full stop.” [15:20] “In Ayurveda, there's a basic principle I call the golden principle, which is like increases like, and opposites reduce. Literally, if you just remember that, you can apply Ayurveda to your life right now. Then, it's just a matter of practicing these concepts.” [25:28] “Ayurveda, this way of living is really, at its basic level, about awareness. It's about living consciously, about being aware of why you're making the choices you're making, or you know, what's showing up for you. And then taking a look and saying, ‘Well, why is this showing up?'” [30:46] “We tend, in our culture, in Western culture to try and complicate everything. And honestly, the most powerful answers are simple ones.” About Dr. Avanti Dr. Avanti Kumar-Singh is a physician with more than 20 years of experience. She began her career as an ER doctor. Later, she recognized the limitations of Western medicine. Dr. Avanti then pursued the practice of Ayurveda. Today, she is a well-recognized and sought-after expert in integrative wellness and thought leader in Ayurveda. Aside from that, Dr. Avanti is a certified yoga therapist and a plant-based professional. She is also the host of the Healing Catalyst Podcast. She has been featured on various media platforms, including Google, goop, The Huffington Post, Good Life Project, and more. If you wish to connect with Dr. Avanti, visit her website and follow her on Instagram. This episode is brought to you by Magic Spoon magicspoon.com/loved Use code LOVED at checkout to save $5.00 off your order.   This episode is brought to you by Manly Bands www.manlybands.com/loved to get 21% off plus a free silicone ring!    This episode is brought to you by FLEX  Go to flexfits.com/loved and use code loved for 20% off Flex Disc Starts — or 10$ off your first Flex Cup—plus free U.S. shipping!  Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want more people to learn what ayurvedic medicine is and benefit from it? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 365. #WisdomWednesdays: Put Yourself First by Practicing Introspection and Connecting with Your Inner Child

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2021 38:58

    #WisdomWednesdays: Put Yourself First by Practicing Introspection and Connecting with Your Inner Child Sometimes we get stuck in relationships where we give, give, and give but don't receive anything in return. We lose ourselves in the struggle to feel loved and appreciated. Thus, to find fulfillment in any relationship, sometimes it helps to put yourself first . You need to develop a healthy and understanding relationship with yourself proactively. After all, how you see and treat yourself mirrors how you show up with other people. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa delve into self-inquiry in different aspects of our lives and relationships. They discuss the importance of introspection in understanding repetitive mistakes and cycles. They also talk about how developing a relationship with yourself is the foundation of any relationship. Furthermore, Rosie and Tessa tackle the power of thought and connecting to your inner child. Do you find yourself stuck in the same repetitive cycles of relationships and mistakes that do not serve you? This episode will shed some light on the actions and changes you need to make! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand the role of self-inquiry in addressing repetitive cycles. Learn why you need to put yourself first before you can show up for others. Discover why you should connect with your inner child. Resources Light on Yoga by B.K.S. Iyengar The Gift by Hafiz The Untethered Soul by Michael Alan Singer The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo Radically Loved Podcast Episode 362 Building a Successful Health and Wellness Business with MaryRuth Ghiyam Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights The Difficulty of Applying Acquired Wisdom in Life Part of the human experience is to make mistakes. Making mistakes is how we learn. We have to reprioritize and change our perspective to give ourselves the space to do things efficiently. Repetitive mistakes, experiences, and relationships are invitations to introspect and determine if there is an unconscious pattern operating. Self-Inquiry It's a matter of spending time reflecting on these repetitive cycles. Sometimes repeating the same mistakes over and over may be an operator error. Instead of blaming somebody else, it could help to do some self-inquiry. Spending Your Energy on the Right People Relationships with friends are very similar to romantic relationships. An asymmetrical relationship takes a lot of energy from the person who keeps giving but not taking. It's a conscious choice to spend your time with the people you can depend on. There's only a finite amount of time in a day. Put yourself first by paying attention to where you're putting your energy. Your relationships should give you energy, not take it away from you. Put Yourself First You don't have to give up your strength to connect with others; you have to care for yourself to care for others. Developing a relationship with yourself is the foundation of any relationship. Relationships are the highest form of spiritual practice. Being fully present, investing time and energy to give and receive creates a deep reservoir for our vitality. Sometimes, the desire to feel loved and accepted makes us willing to lose ourselves in the process. But you need to put yourself first and prioritize what you need before you can give. Interpreting Poetry Poetry is interpretive of you and your experience; there is no right or wrong answer. Listen to the full episode as Tessa reads the poem To Build a Swing by Hafiz! Your interpretation of the poem depends on where you are in your life and what you are going through. To Build a Swing compels you to reminisce on your childhood. Our Childhood Dreams and How They Evolve We go through a process of trying to find the thread of joy and figuring out our purpose. Our passion doesn't necessarily need to become our purpose. While it can be, it's vital to tell the difference. Bringing back our inner child is important for finding fulfillment. Taking Control Over Our Minds Our minds are powerful; they're constantly creating and narrating. Everything we want to do is right at our fingertips, yet we create excuses not to do them. The things we end up doing and spending our energy on are all a matter of how we redirect our thoughts. Connecting to Your Inner Child Repeatedly performing the same draining activity may be a sign of your inner child needing attention. Instead of doing what feeds our soul, what we often do is seek love outside of ourselves. Think about the ways you connect with your inner child. This inner child is the part of yourself that still needs love and nourishment. Listen to the full episode to hear a guided meditation that helps you connect with your inner child! 5 Powerful Quotes [16:14] “We utilize all of those resources to share our strength. But it doesn't say that we have to give up our strength in order to connect with others, in order to be the example to help our community, to help our friends, to help the people in our lives.” [17:03] “You have to understand the relationship that you have with yourself. You have to understand how you talk to yourself. And in that way, like you were saying, by example, you're teaching others, how to treat you, how to be around you, how to treat themselves, and how to treat others as well.” [18:30] “We're willing to run ourselves into the ground so that we are loved, and appreciated, and feel needed. When that work needs to come within. We need to do that work ourselves.” [23:56] “The whole idea of bringing back that inner child to have that novelty play in our lives is I think, so important. It's all those little things that accumulate to make us feel fulfilled.” [29:17] “What we've learned how to do, whether it's like environmental or in society, is seek our love and adoration outside of ourselves, which isn't lasting; it doesn't last forever. So we forget how to fill ourselves up on our own with those things that are creative and soulful to yourself like you were talking about.” Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Developing a relationship with yourself and learning to put yourself first can help you break repetitive cycles that aren't serving you. Do you want others to get inspired to put themselves first and connect with their inner child? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 364. Why Self-Care Is Important in Attracting the Life You Want with Dawn Aurora Hunt

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2021 57:45

    Why Self-Care Is Important in Attracting the Life You Want with Dawn Aurora Hunt Do you feel lost and disconnected with yourself? Are feelings of self-doubt prevalent in your life right now? You're not alone. The pandemic is still ongoing, and things continue to change as we all try to get back up. Getting yourself out of this uncertainty and into the life you want can be tricky. To get off your train of negative patterns, you first have to understand why self-care is important . In today's episode, Dawn Aurora Hunt joins us to talk about why self-care is important in practicing self-love and gaining confidence. We are who we attract, so it's crucial to work on ourselves. Dawn also shares the different ways she practices self-love, such as harnessing energy from food. If you're struggling with feeling lost and want to know why self-care is important in your journey, this episode is for you!            Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover why self-care is important in attracting the things you desire. Understand the ways we can harness the power of food. Learn how to take care of yourself and practice radical forgiveness. Resources ●     Connect with Dawn: Facebook | Instagram | Youtube ●     Tastes from the Temple: Kitchen Witchery from the Temple of Witchcraft by Dawn Aurora Hunt The Cucina Aurora Kitchen Witchery Podcast Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies atcom! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away. Episode Highlights [05:19] Accepting Praise It's normal to have discomfort after receiving praise because we're put in the spotlight. However, you have to learn how to hold praise and criticism equally. [08:20] How to Attract Love and Find Confidence The pandemic has caused us to feel disconnected from ourselves and other people. Many of us have tied our identities to the way we connect to the outside world, and we are left feeling lost when that is taken away. To attract people of a certain type, you need to be that certain type. That's one of the reasons why self-care is important. Think about how the world would be if everyone else was just like you. Let this guide the type of person that you should be. [13:45] Reconcile Relationships We all have complex relationships with ourselves. At the same time, we have loaded relationships with things like food and money. All these relationships affect who you attract. For Dawn, the first step to getting out of that hamster wheel of self-doubt is to get clear about these relationships. [20:03] Start Practicing Radical Forgiveness Radical forgiveness involves taking yourself out of the equation whenever someone hurts your feelings or does something terrible. Sometimes, we're not meant to learn from these situations. Instead, we may be the lesson for other people. The things that you want in your life may be different from what the universe has planned for you. Don't hesitate to put out there what you're seeking, but be open to however the universe answers. [22:53] Harness Energy from Food Dawn shares how certain foods have energies. For example, when she feels afraid, she tends to use a lot of garlic, which has protective energy. She also shares how masculine and confident energies can be found in foods like zucchini and bananas. Meanwhile, nurturing and feminine energies can be harnessed from eggplants and watermelons. Dawn also eats with intention. She visualizes what she wants to attract as she draws energy from her food. [27:46] Go Back to the Basics Be in the space of love and acceptance so you can attract the same. Anytime you're feeling stressed or out of balance, go back to the basics. Assess what you're eating and check if you've been moving your body. Don't become complacent and put it off for tomorrow. Fix it now. Do not reaffirm the same mentality that got you in this state. [31:55] Don't Beat Yourself Up It's okay not to be perfect. You can give yourself the grace to seek comfort. However, once you promise yourself something, do not go back on your word. Breaking your promises reaffirms the negative thought patterns in your head. Be honest with what you want and where you want to go. Become responsible for these wants and take action. [35:18] Why Self Care Is Important If you keep attracting the same type of person, it's a clue that maybe you need to look inward at yourself. We tend to attract things that make us comfortable, even if that is bad for us. Remember that your grass will only be green when you water it. Pay attention to yourself and you will attract the life you want! Create a self-care routine to help you calm down. Take breaks and find what helps you become relaxed. Self-care sometimes hurts and is uncomfortable, but that is part of the healing process. [43:24] Take Control of Your Life To attract what you want in life, you have to be a person deserving of those things. Things don't happen to you, but for you. We can take control of our lives by taking control of our thoughts. Nurture yourself with food, water, air, and movement. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [12:23] “We are what we attract, or we attract what we are. If our thoughts become our reality, then our outer world is a direct reflection of our inner world.” [21:01] “Sometimes things aren't about what we need to learn. We are facilitators of lessons in other people's lives.” [26:25] “Attraction isn't just about new relationships, it can be about deepening relationships.” [39:04] “The grass is greener where you water it. Put your attention in your own damn yard, and your grass will be green too.” [42:56] “If you want to attract the things in life that you want to have, you have to become the person that deserves those things.” About Dawn Dawn Aurora Hunt is the owner and CEO of Cucina Aurora. She's been teaching and writing about kitchen and spiritual nutrition since 2010. She is incredibly passionate about cooking and starts every recipe with love and positive intentions. All her Cucina Aurora recipes are tested for all kinds of people, including discerning chefs, busy meal makers, and the picky eater. Cucina Aurora prides itself in its signature olive oil infusions, which Dawn personally tested with many types of oil from Spain to California, and even as far as Greece. Her infusions are fresh and authentic, using 100% olive oil which is not common in the market. Her latest book, A Kitchen Witch's Guide to Recipes for Love & Romance is all about celebrating and rekindling love of all forms with amazing recipes! Interested in Dawn's work and products? Check out Cucina Aurora and listen to her podcast, The Recipes for Romance!   You can also reach out to her on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube. This episode is brought to you by Ettitude: Get 20% off your order, plus free shipping. www.ettitude.com/loved  Promo code: LOVED   This episode is brought to you by Feals www.feals.com/loved and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping!    This episode is brought to you by Seed.com/loved Use code LOVED for 20% off your order.        Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved.0 Do you want to help people realize why self-care is important to lead an abundant life? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie    

    Episode 363. #WisdomWednesdays: Reducing Your Cognitive Load and Creating Ripples of Kindness

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2021 33:53

    #WisdomWednesdays: Reducing Your Cognitive Load and Creating Ripples of Kindness In a society that gives so much value to material possessions, we tend to get lost in all the clutter. Presented with many options every day, we stress out even on simple things like what to eat or what to wear. We unknowingly get bogged down by these choices, trapped in the mindset that more is better. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about ways to lighten your cognitive load. They discuss why having a simple routine can help us allocate our energy to the things that truly matter. They also touch on the ripple effects of kindness. If we uplift one person, they will then pass on the positivity to those around them. Furthermore, Rosie and Tessa tackle the importance of being kind to yourself and how this affects our attitude toward other people. Do you think you're spending too much time and energy on making decisions? Do you want to live your life being kind to everyone  and yourself? If you answered yes to these questions, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how to lighten your cognitive load. Understand the far-reaching effects of being kind to everyone. Discover ways to be more kind to yourself. Resources Knowing Where to Look: 108 Daily Doses of Inspiration by Light Watkins TED Talk: The Paradox of Choice with Barry Schwartz Daily Rituals: How Artists Work by Mason Currey Succulent Wild Woman by Sark Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights What Is Cognitive Load? The things we carry increase our cognitive load. What to wear and what to eat—these decisions exhaust our mental energy. It's overwhelming for us to have so many choices. Instead of making our lives easier, choices make them more difficult. We make decisions all day long, but not all of them are equally important. The Importance of Routine Having a strict, simple routine allows writers and artists to preserve their energy for creativity. Needing to make many small decisions during the day pulls us away from the work we need to focus on. When you want to create something, plan ahead so you can dedicate most of your time and energy to it. Once you develop a habit, you expend less energetic output towards doing that task. Find the balance between variety and routine. Being Kind to Everyone Light Watkins' book tells the story of a child who was on the brink of starvation. A Nazi soldier snuck him a rotten potato. The child credits this act of kindness as the thing that helped him survive the holocaust. The child passed this story on to his son and instilled in him the importance of being kind to everyone. To immortalize his father's lesson on the importance of being kind to everyone, the son created the KIND Bar. The Ripple Effects of Kindness Listen to the full episode to hear about Tessa and Rosie's incredible stories of a ripple effect that started with one kind gesture. Kindness is about allowing the ripple effect to begin. The smallest kindness can change the course of someone's day or even their life. Make it a goal to do one random act of kindness every day. Being Kind to Ourselves Being kind to everyone starts with how kind we are with ourselves. Start building a relationship with yourself by taking yourself out on a date. You can do this by having a long scenic drive, going out to dinner with a book, or planning a solitary retreat. Cultivating a relationship with yourself may help diminish your feeling that something is lacking. When you enjoy being by yourself, you won't need to seek as much validation from others. 5 Powerful Quotes [06:19] “We think that having so much choice is better. But in fact, it's actually a lot more difficult.” [08:51] “How we (feel) make ourselves feel beautiful, and how we express our confidence and how we express our personality. There's definite value in it. [11:30] “We are such creatures of habit, and there's comfort in that.” [21:19] “Just the smallest kindness can change the course of somebody's day, somebody's life.” [25:01] “One of the reasons we depend on others for entertainment is because we don't trust ourselves to provide it or maybe we just haven't practiced it yet.” This episode brought to you by  Betterhelp Enjoy 10% off your first month by using code Discount code LOVED will be automatically applied. https://www.betterhelp.com/loved     Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people lessen their cognitive load and start ripples of kindness? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta/ Twitter: https::twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 362. Building a Successful Health and Wellness Business with MaryRuth Ghiyam

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2021 56:43

    Building a Successful Health and Wellness  Business with MaryRuth Ghiyam Health and wellness should be a priority for everybody. This also applies to the workplace, where employers should be mindful of their employees' health and wellness. Running a business is about hard work, but it's also about valuing your team and your work together. After all, a business cannot succeed without a solid group of employees. The grind is important, but being humble and empathetic toward everyone on your team is a step in the right path. In today's episode, MaryRuth Ghiyam shares her health and wellness journey that led to her successful business, MaryRuth Organics. She also talks about the importance of empathy in building a successful team and the inspiration behind her new book. If you want to know more about building a strong company culture and team, this episode is for you!       Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Gain valuable insights from MaryRuth's health and wellness journey. Learn the importance of self-care and how it can affect your employees and customers. Discover the two key qualities of a good team. Resources Connect with MaryRuth: MaryRuth Organics | Instagram Liquids Till Lunch by MaryRuth Ghiyam Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Episode Highlights MaryRuth's Journey to Health and Wellness MaryRuth's father and brother suddenly passed away. Her mother developed two brain tumors, which people believed were connected to her losses. In the process of her mother getting better, MaryRuth became excited to learn about health and wellness to help her mother thrive. MaryRuth believes that each person has an entrepreneurial spirit. MaryRuth used to be an athlete. The competitive spirit of doing difficult things merged into her business. How MaryRuth Kept Her Positive Mindset MaryRuth enjoyed being with her team and is passionate about being a team builder. Take care of yourself first, then your employees. Eventually, extend that to your customers. Build a strong company culture. A healthy and mission-driven company has authentic customer interactions. MaryRuth decided to get herself out of debt first before hiring an employee. What Prompted Her to Write Her Book MaryRuth has been teaching the contents of the book for quite a while. She finally started writing it during COVID. MaryRuth is passionate about the book because she believes that health and wellness should be free and accessible to everyone. She noticed that very successful people have the money but are always too busy working to take care of themselves. On the other hand, there are people with no money that need to be mindful of their health and The book is composed of 12 free and accessible actions that anyone can do, regardless if they have money or not. Dealing with the Pandemic It made MaryRuth feel even more empathy for every single person. The pandemic created so much loss, like the loss of going out or meeting your friends. Collectively, everyone is more interested in health and wellness now. MaryRuth went through pregnancy and gave birth to twins during COVID. The Key to Building a Good Team There are two qualities that MaryRuth values in a team: hard work and empathy. MaryRuth also wants her team to be humble. Beyond this, she makes sure to get direct feedback from her employees. MaryRuth conducted an anonymous culture survey among her employees. The results serve as a metric for MaryRuth to measure what's working and what needs to be improved on. On Self-Esteem Self-esteem comes from having a relationship with yourself. Asking people about their self-esteem allows you to reflect on your self-esteem. On Travelling and the Pandemic The first couple of months of the pandemic was great because people were able to rest. After a few months, we began to miss what was. Everything that was going on in the world added to the anxiety and stress of life. How MaryRuth Feels Radically Loved MaryRuth believes that the universe is pushing her forward and everything that is happening is for her ultimate good. She and her family believe that the universe only wants the best for them. 5 Powerful Quotes [8:15] “Once you give yourself a lot of energy through self-care, through wellness, then you can give that energy to your employees.” [13:10] “Sometimes the pain point in people's lives has so much to do with their gifts, and their purpose, and the things that will make them happy in the end.” [34:14] “If you want to be on the team, you got to be hard working but you got to have human dignity and empathy.” [38:01] “Our bodies are a direct feedback to what we're putting in and how we're treating it, and the things that we're doing.” [46:55] “Part of our ability to be present and to be mindful is to just appreciate what is.” About MaryRuth MaryRuth Ghiyam is the founder of MaryRuth Organics. She is a certified health educator, nutritional consultant, and culinary chef. She graduated from Fairfield University in Connecticut in 2006, and received certification as a health educator and nutritional consultant from Hippocrates Health Institute. She also attended and graduated from the Institute of Culinary Education (ICE) chef school, as well as the Institute for Professional Excellence (iPEC) as a Certified Professional Coach (CPC). MaryRuth has a passion for helping others take control of their health, and thinks that by doing so, everyone can move forward every day with their own health and wellness goals. Know more about MaryRuth and what she does! Connect with her through her website and Instagram.   This episode is brought to you by OUAI Go to: THEOUAI.COM  Enter code LOVED for 15% off your entire purchase   This episode is brought to you by UNCOMMONGOODS Go to: www.uncommongoods.com/loved to get 15% your purchase   This episode is brought to you by AURATE www,AURATENEWYORK.COM/LOVED to get 15% off your first purchase   Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people build a good team? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 361. #WisdomWednesdays: Achieving Self-Mastery and Learning How to Slow Down

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2021 33:56

    #WisdomWednesdays: Achieving Self-Mastery  and Learning How to Slow Down Modern society thrives on productivity. From the moment we wake up, we're already on our phones, preparing for our daily routines and ticking off a long list of tasks to accomplish. This busy lifestyle can steal time for people to contemplate and figure out what they truly want in their lives. While it's easy to give in to the demands of the world, we should always take time to pause and reconnect with our inner selves. In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about the importance of achieving self-mastery. They discuss how to deal with distractions and resist the pressure of becoming hyper-aware all the time. They also talk about how the pandemic is the perfect time to slow down and practice mindfulness. How can we use this opportunity to practice self-mastery? How do we keep reminding ourselves that we do not have to be busy all the time? What should we do to avoid feeling overwhelmed? If you want to know more, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Know the importance of slowing down and taking time to connect with your inner self. Learn why going through the pain of boredom is a rite of passage in learning. Avoid giving in to the demands of a hyper-productive society. Resources The W.I.S.E. Podcast — Women Inspiring Success and Empowerment Episode 4: Honoring Women's Journey to Self-Empowerment with Tererai Trent Episode 9: Living Life on Life's Terms with Elizabeth Gilbert (Part 1) Episode 10: Living Life on Life's Terms with Elizabeth Gilbert (Part 2) Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell The Little Book of Sloth Philosophy by Jennifer McCartney Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies on the Radically Loved website! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away! Do you want to become a yoga teacher or just want to learn more about yoga? Sign up for the free info session on 200hr YTT Teacher Training Program on Saturday, June 19th at 12pm via Zoom! Episode Highlights The Process of Self-Mastery Wisdom has something to do with experience or knowledge. Part of this is the quality of being wise or exercising good judgment. Like mastery, earning wisdom takes time. Learning a lesson involves the people and the experiences you had with them. The more familiar you are with the process, the easier it is for you to find alignment within yourself. Choose self-mastery in a society that values instant gratification. The Pain of Boredom as a Rite of Passage When you are learning something new, it can be painful and agonizing. But it's through this pain that you recognize your ability to be resilient. How can you focus on the parts of yourself that need attention? How can you focus on creating openness to feed the part of you that needs filling? Avoid feeding the pleasure zone in your brain tempts you to distract yourself. Remember, you need focus, dedication, and time to learn something new. The Cardinal Sin of Appearing Lazy Being lazy is viewed negatively in our modern world. We always need to appear productive. We now live in a time where apps tell people when to breathe and take a rest. We live in a world where we need to track everything. Gone are the days when we ask ourselves, “What do I want to be doing with my life?” And so we need to slow down and take stock. We can learn from the sloths who are relaxed, contemplative, and focused. Knowing When to Slow Down Working from our homes allows us to have the chance to pause and recognize our autonomy. Unless we use our discernment, we will fall prey to the demands of life. Practices are important because they need us to pay full attention and be present. The greatest challenge would be carrying this practice even as the world reopens. S.L.O.W.: Four Tips from the Little Book of Sloth Philosophy S: Sleep in. This can be hard for most people because we feel rewarded when we wake up early and get everything done. L: Leave your phone at home. Find a weekend where you can choose to let go of your phone. O: Opt-out. Change your attitude by thinking that you do not have to constantly be busy or engaged. W: What's the rush? When you feel overwhelmed, take time to pause and check-in with yourself. Falling Back on the Same Demands Regardless of all the mindfulness tools we have, we all still fall into the same demands of the world. A hyper-aware state can keep you busy, but at the end of the day, you will still feel depleted. It's important to take things more slowly, easily, and do them one step at a time. Give yourself space. Make sure that you're free from distractions to connect deeper with yourself. 5 Powerful Quotes [04:23] “So wisdom... Has to do so much with experience or knowledge. And I believe part of the definition is exercising good judgment. Or it's the quality of being wise.” [09:08] “If you're constantly feeding that pleasure zone within your brain– the circuits that are making you feel good– then you're going to become really good at that you're going to become really good at getting distracted.” [14:26] “There's the wisdom in knowing when to slow down and take a day off. And so the reason behind the sloths is their mindfulness and action. They're contemplating, they're deliberate, they're relaxed, and they're focused.” [17:18] “I feel that unless we can make friends with the time that we have, and if we can utilize it in a way that's going to serve our highest good, we're going to continue to fall prey to the busyness, the ungrounded frenetic energy that life can sometimes bring us.” [23:43] “For me, it's easier to take things one step at a time, to do things little by little, to incorporate one thing at a time so that I feel like I'm still doing something for myself, doing something for my highest good. But at the same time not overwhelming myself in the process.” This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market  Get 25% OFF of your first order AND a FREE gift! www.thrivemarket.com/radicallyloved   This episode is brought to you by LOVEVERY Designed by experts for your child's developing brain, For free shipping off your first order visit:   www.lovevery.com/loved    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people understand how to acquire wisdom and the importance of slowing down? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 360. Finding Healing Through Spiritual Practices and Community with Millana Snow

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2021 46:06

    Finding Healing Through Spiritual Practices and Community with Millana Snow The global health situation today makes it challenging for us to establish a sense of community and connectivity. Our guest this week has personally struggled with this ever since she was a child. How did she survive? The answer is through spiritual practices  and healing. Joining us on this week's episode is Millana Snow, a healer and wellness expert, to tell us how spiritual practices helped her survive and get through life. She shares how she got into healing and her journey to overcome her childhood traumas, sense of self-victimization, and difficulties in life. Millana also imparts ways we can cultivate self-compassion for us to create change. In addition, we also discuss generational trauma and toxic positivity. If you want to get started on the road to healing, then tune in to this episode! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how having integrity and being honest with yourself will help you get through the hard times. Find out what the usual hindrances to healing and spiritual practices are and how to overcome them. Discover how we can spark change in ourselves and be transformed. Resources Connect with Millana: Website | Instagram Head over to Wellness Official to know more about Millana's training sessions and courses. Radically Loved Radio Episode 222: Connection with Ashley Turner Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away!   Episode Highlights The Catalyst That Brought Millana Where She Is Today When Millana was growing up, she had to move almost every year of her life until she was 14. She wasn't able to keep in touch with a lot of her friends. Because of that, she formed a deep relationship with her inner spiritual connection to God, the universe, and other different spiritual practices. Most of her childhood was spent looking for a connection to something real and wanting to have fun. Spirituality helped Millana survive her youth. Healing her childhood traumas helped Millana realize that other people also enjoy an authentic community to heal. To Those Intimidated by Spiritual Practices and Healing Millana believes that every person is a healer. It's just that we all have different ways of healing. Often, we aren't aware of the gifts inside of us that can heal us. By healing ourselves, we then heal others. If you think you don't have the personality to be a healer, remember that it's not about being like other healers. It's simply about being the healer you came to be. Only you can cultivate, discover, and allow that to be the impact within your own life first, and that then becomes the overflow for other people to benefit from. Millana's Most Important Teacher Growing Up Millana's grandmother taught her how to meditate and astral project at the age of four. These spiritual practices taught Millana to find what was possible outside of her body. In learning to see more than just her body, she explored other realms. Her mom was the breadwinner of the family. From her, Millana got to see what hard work looks like and how it's like to start from absolutely nothing and build a strong career. Experience with Ancestral and Generational Trauma From an earthly perspective, you have two parents who brought you into the physical realm. At the same time, there is parenthood greater than that: Mother Earth and the universal God force. When Millana started getting deeper into her healing path, she had to have a lot of compassion for her family. She had a very mixed family and didn't get to meet her dad until she was 25. If we're open to go beyond the constraints of what culture says parents should be, we can look at them as humans, not parents we have to obey. Cultivating Self-Compassion to Create Change When Millana experienced one of the hardest years of her life, she realized no one ever wants to look inside themselves because it hurts. The first thing we need to do is have the integrity and honesty with ourselves about how we are creating our lives. We're usually in denial about ourselves, and we go easy on ourselves. Instead of blaming others or circumstances, we need to see how our actions and decisions affect our lives. Love can come in once we sit down with ourselves and come face-to-face with our ugly parts. Toxic Positivity Denial is one of the biggest hindrances to our healing. When you allow yourself to see where you are at with yourself, you can unlock the healing potential of the godliness within that. But when we bypass it because we don't want to feel bad, we miss out on all the wisdom found in the pain we try to avoid. If you can get into the depths of what your bad experiences do to you as a human being, you overcome it and start to see it as a gift. However, if we just tell ourselves to get over it, we cannot be transformed. What Millana Is Currently Working On Millana is looking forward to their first in-person healing of 2021. She enjoys seeing the transformation that happens to people after a healing session. Millana believes that we have everything we need within us. She wants the world to know that you heal yourself. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [6:39] “I truly, truly believe that every single person is a healer. Every single person. And I think the way that we heal is different; it's as unique as we each are individually.” [8:00] “Whatever your gift is, whether you're a singer or you're a writer or you just love to cook, that gift was actually meant for you to enjoy. And then from that overflow, then that's the gift for the world to enjoy and to be healed by.” [15:25] “For the first time, possibly in at least a few thousand years, we have actually had the consciousness and awareness that the way that things have been doesn't mean that they need to continue, that we can change them, that traditions are actually meant to be broken.” [20:38] “We got to really, really have the integrity and the honesty with ourselves about how we are creating our lives and why we have the kind of relationships we have, the jobs we have, the money ,or lack of money, or whatever that is.”  [22:47] “Real self-compassion [and] real self-love can only come out of that darker place.” About Millana Practicing and studying all things holistic health and spirituality for over 20 years, Millana Snow has built an energy healing business that serves thousands of clients worldwide. Millana is the CEO and founder of Wellness Official, an online marketplace of practitioners and brands for the global wellness community. She is also the host and executive producer of The Wellness Official Radio show on Dash Radio. This weekly show pushes the boundaries of wellness with 10 million listeners a month. To learn more about Millana and connect with her, you may visit her website. You may also reach out to her on her Instagram. To know more about her events and courses, head over to Wellness Official! This episode is brought to you by Hello Fresh www.hellofresh.com/loved12 and use code: loved12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping!     This episode is brought to you by Tonal  https://www.tonal.com/ Try tonal for 30 days risk free!  Get $100 OFF all smart accessories with promo code: ROSIE    This episode is brought to you by Storyworth: Mother's Day with Storyworth www.storyworth.com/loved You'll get $10 off your first purchase!    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people learn about spiritual practices to help them survive and get through life during this global pandemic? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie  

    Episode 359. Introducing Wisdom Wednesday's with Rosie Acosta and Tessa Tovar

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2021 45:50

    Introducing #WisdomWednesdays with Rosie Acosta and Tessa Tovar Welcome to the first episode of Wisdom Wednesdays!!! Wisdom Wednesdays is about sharing our experience, growth and transformation. How do you feel you experience wisdom in your life? How do you define wisdom in your life? How do you know when to go deep into shadow work and when you are ready to emerge into the light? In today's episode, Rosie introduces us to Wisdom Wednesdays! In this series Rosie and Tessa will each share a passage, poem or reading that inspires a deeper awareness or inquiry.  They will each pose questions for you to think about and respond to as well! If you want to know more about emotions and the full breadth of your ability to express them, this episode is for you!            Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Inquire about what is valuable in the shadow and lightness of our emotions. Learn the importance of experiencing sorrow and joy, and how to balance the two opposing energies. Discover the cycles of emotion and how to express them without depressing them. Resources The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo | Rosie read from page 52 dated February 13 The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran | Tessa read from page 29 Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I'll send it right away!   5 Powerful Quotes [02:09] “It's the opposition of being reactive. Wisdom is coming from a place of knowing and a place of deep knowledge.” [06:32] “How everything is in constant motion, and if you're not moving towards transformation it's only going to inwardly grow, you know, what is not being brought to light is going to dwell in the darkness.” [13:43] “When do we ever give ourselves the opportunity to find that spaciousness where we can then process those things, or we can then be bored and allow new ideas to come in.” [14:57] “Anger is a tool, just like every emotion is a tool, that is useful in times when it is needed.” [32:48] “The best way for me to understand emotion and cycles and even phases in life are like the ocean. They have a building, they have a climax and then they have a moving downward, a slowing down, a building of energy so it's like a building of energy, an expression and then a lull.” This episode is brought to you by Ancient Nutrition Ancient Nutrition Visit www.ancientnutrition.com use promo code LOVED for 20% OFF your first order    This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers Go to magbreakthrough.com/radicallyloved Code radicallyloved10   This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market  Get 25% OFF of your first order AND a FREE gift! www.thrivemarket.com/radicallyloved     Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help people build a good team? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie

    Episode 358. Getting to the Heart of Meditation and Yoga Practice with Linda Sparrowe

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2021 47:48

    Getting to the Heart of Meditation and Yoga Practice with Linda Sparrowe Meditation and yoga  can help you connect deeply with yourself. However, some people doubt how their practice helps them at first because it’s unfamiliar and new. You may think you’re doing it the wrong way, so you bury that voice at the back of your mind. But if you don't let go of your doubts, you won't be able to get to the heart-centered healing place that you seek. In this episode, special host Tessa Tovar joins Radically Loved Radio to interview yoga teacher and author Linda Sparrowe. Linda talks about her journey toward discovering meditation and yoga and merging her yoga path and writing career. She also shares her daily rituals and some eye-opening spiritual practice wisdom. If you want to get to the heart of meditation and yoga practice, this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn about the marriage of writing and spiritual practice. Discover what it means to be radically loved. Understand the importance of our agency and the practice of letting go of attachments. Resources The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Radiant Rest by Tracee Stanley Yoga At Home by Linda Sparrowe Read Linda’s articles on Yoga Journal Connect with Linda: Website | Email Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I’ll send it right away! Episode Highlights Linda’s Meditation and Yoga Journey Linda’s yoga path started with meditation. She previously had many body image issues and had a worsening disconnect between herself and her body. Linda met a professor who told her stories about Indian mythology and the Vedas. Because of this encounter, she ended up going through transcendental meditation. What spoke to her, in particular, was mantra meditation. After her divorce and ending up in Berkeley, she met a Tibetan teacher who told her to stop with the mantra. She eventually came back to her breath and furthered her path. How the Writing and Yoga Path Intersected for Linda Linda went to Yoga Journal and got a job as a managing editor. She was already writing before this. She started doing asana because of an offer, but she hated it. She then met a teacher who was so soulful. Her body instantly responded when she trusted her teacher's touch, presence, and wisdom—it became a lifelong practice. In the midst of that, her writing started to connect more with her heart, wisdom, and what spoke to her. She started writing books and left Yoga Journal to write more. Linda became known as the “book doula.” The Marriage of Writing and Spiritual Practice Linda loves helping people move their passion, ideas, and wonderment and what they want to amplify out into the world. We all have a story, and we're the only ones who know how to tell it. But sometimes, we get in our own way when we try to say it. There’s a deep connection between moving inward in our spiritual practice and emerging from the inner wisdom onto the page. It’s a process of listening to what wants to be known and bringing forth what needs to be told. Linda’s Practices and Daily Ritual Linda went on to study with many teachers whose teachings she has absorbed into her being along the way. Her yoga practice begins in the morning when she wakes up. Her inquiry is “How am I doing?” and “What do I need?” She tries to separate her life from her work. Between those two things, she does at least one thing for herself in yoga. Part of the yogic practice is to be fully present and finish one thing before beginning another. She tries to do a short Yoga Nidra practice before going to bed to remind her body what it means to prepare for sleep. Setting Boundaries Around Work Setting boundaries is hard to do for Linda because of two things. One is because opportunities don't always come to a freelancer. Second is there are a lot of exciting things that she wants to be a part of. What Being Radically Loved Means for Linda The concept of radical self-love is fundamental. It's part of the trio of Tapas, Svadhyaya, and Ishvara Pranidhana. Tapas refers to the willpower and engagement to show up and commit to our work. It also means simplicity and releasing things to look at the essence of who we are. Svadhyaya refers to self-reflection and self-awareness. Being radically loved means that connecting to something bigger than yourself. It helps you understand you're worthy of love and connect with yourself. We are sometimes not aware of how our voices can potentially cause harm. Controlling Our Thoughts We can’t control how we feel, but we can control our actions, speech, and emotion. People can sin not just through actions and speech but also through thoughts. We can control our thoughts, but we can't predict them. Our minds do what our minds do; they carry on, move things around, and bring them up. Without agency around your thoughts, it can end up as a speech or action that causes irreparable harm. Aparigraha It is the practice of letting go of attachments. Staying in svadhyaya can become self-absorption. We don’t understand how we cause pain or bring joy. It's the idea of surrendering and letting go of the judgment you hold on too tightly. Linda’s mantra: “Isn’t that interesting?” One of the things meditation teaches about grasping is that you can cut ties to a thought. The Meditation Practice Don’t ever think that you’ve failed at your practice. The moment you notice something within yourself, it’s already a meditation practice. Just sit down. It’s what meditation practice is about. There’s no judgment in meditation; it’s just practice. Being Kind The kinder we can be to ourselves, the more freedom we have to be kind, gentle, and generous to others. It also works vice versa. Tonglen is the ancient practice of taking in others' suffering and outwardly expanding the gift you have to give. We have an infinite capacity to do this. Yoga Nidra allows us to dive deeply and help us realize our capacity to love and receive love. Getting to a Heart-Centered Healing Place It's an individual matter. One thing that yoga allows us to do is to experiment and freely come in and come out. When someone is deeply in trauma, there is no relationship with the body, or the relationship is triggered. Thus, even the slightest sense of agency can be empowering. Yoga allows us to test our relationship with our body both on a physical and emotional level. Yoga is not yoga until it’s personal, and it’s never personal until you take it home. Within a safe community, yoga can help you connect and create a deeper, loving relationship with your body, mind, and heart. Final Words We can’t separate our practice from our life. Our practice allows us to accept and allow things that we’ve never thought about before. Return to the idea of love. 5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode [06:51] “We all have a story to tell, and we're the only ones that know how to tell it. And sometimes we get stuck in our, ‘Am I worthy? Do I have anything to say?’ And sometimes we get in our own way, when we try to say it.” [14:34] “Tapas means not just the willpower to show up and the work that we have to do in the engagement that we commit to, but it also means simplicity. It means paring down, pulling apart, releasing things so that we're looking at the essence of who we are.” [18:27] What it is truly is that I can imagine the pain and suffering of others. I don't have their same experience, and I will never have that experience as a cis, white, privileged, elder woman. I won't, but in my practice, I have the space and the capacity of infinite love. [24:19] “Everybody who works with me, or who studied with me, know that I have this mantra. That is, ‘Isn't that interesting?’ I know, because then I don't judge myself so much. So I can let things come up and go, ‘Oh, here you are, again. Me and you. Wow. Isn't that interesting?’” [32:06] “If you take in the suffering of someone, and then you exhale, a sense of joy, or connection, or groundedness, or love, or whatever it is that you have in that moment to give. That's a beautiful exchange, isn't it? And we have an infinite capacity to do that.” About Linda Linda Sparrow is a yoga teacher, author, editor, mentor, and speaker on women's health and holistic healing. She is the former managing editor of Yoga Journal and the former editor-in-chief of Yoga International Magazine. She has been highly instrumental in introducing and bringing out yoga's authentic voice to practitioners through her works. Linda has authored numerous books on yoga, including Yoga At Home: Inspiration for Creating Your Own Personal Practice. She also wrote the highly-acclaimed Yoga: A Yoga Journal Book. If you want to connect with Linda, you may visit her website. You may also send her an email at linda@lindasparrowe.com.   This episode is brought to you by Organifi www.organifi.com/loved @organifi #organifi  Go to www.organifi.com and use code loved for 15% off any item in the store!    This episode is brought to you by Manly Bands www.manlybands.com/loved to get 21% off plus a free silicone ring!    Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want others to see the benefits of yoga practice and meditation? A simple way is to share what you've learned today on social media. Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie  

    Episode 357. Be the catalyst for Change with Gina Stryker (from episode 234)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2021 54:42

    Be the Catalyst for Change with Gina Stryker (from episode 234) Gina Stryker is the founder of Gina Cucina, a renowned Chef and a champion of the real food movement. Gina Cucina is committed to solving one of the largest problems in the world, ending human trafficking. She has been featured in Parayoga, Lead With Love, Trust Women, USA Today, and more.   In this episode, Gina talks about her program “Kids Are Not For Sale” and how we can be a part of ending this global problem.   Radically Vibrant Gina   It was a personal experience where I was able to potentially dodge a bad situation that connected me to the human trafficking problem There is no trace of trafficking in our products and we ensure this through every part of our product process You don’t have to fail for me to succeed, and I don’t have to fail for you to succeed—we can succeed together   Radically Inspired Clarity   We all have a voice and we can leverage it to raise awareness for causes that must be solved We live in a society that hides the worst of us—we don’t want to believe that people are selling children, so we have to talk about these problems The more you give, the more you live   Gina Answers…   How did your passion to solve the human trafficking problem come about? Why don’t we know more about human trafficking? Why isn’t it all over the news? What advice would you give to people who think their voice doesn’t make a difference?   Radically Loved Quotes   “I believe it’s all about giving it your best always because even if you fail, you’re always moving forward.”   “People are afraid to discuss human trafficking because it’s an ugly truth. Last year 250,000-300,000 American children were trafficked.”   “Find what you love and speak to it. Every single voice matters.”   More About Our Guest   Gina Stryker is a recipe artists and the founder of Gina Cucina, a soup and stew kitchen that doesn’t use preservatives, gluten, added sugars, GMOs, or excessive sodium. You can learn more about Gina and her fight against human trafficking at ginacucina.com.   This episode is brought to you by INDEED Get started now! With a $75 Dollar sponsored job credit to upgrade your job post at www.indeed.com/loved   This episode brought to you by  Betterhelp Enjoy 10% off your first month by using code Discount code LOVED will be automatically applied. https://www.betterhelp.com/loved   This episode is brought to you by Upstart www.upstart.com/loved to lower your monthly payments today! 

    Episode 356. Lessons Learned From Grieving a Loss with Henry Ammar

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2021 66:41

    Lessons Learned from Grieving a Loss with Henry Ammar Loss is an inevitable part of life, as is the ensuing grief that follows. However, knowing that it’s coming doesn't mean we're prepared for it when it gets here. When we lose someone important, it throws us off course. It may even lead us to having unhealthy responses to loss, like isolation. These unhealthy responses get us through the pain of grieving a loss , but they numb our feelings and prevent us from finding true healing. In this episode, Henry Ammar teaches us how to make sense of grieving a loss. Instead of letting our emotions overwhelm us or sweeping them under the rug, he encourages us to embrace uncomfortable feelings. If we listen close enough, our emotions carry valuable wisdom and guidance. Only when we allow ourselves to feel the fullness of our emotions can we start healing. Tune in to the full episode to learn how you can find meaning in grieving a loss. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn to define your circle of control after going through a loss. Find wisdom and guidance as you go through grieving a loss. Discover the three things you need to do to deal with grief healthily. Resources Connect with Henry: Website | Instagram | Youtube | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Life Making It Happen podcast Henry Ammar’s TED Talk: Freedom From Fear The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Singer Let It Go by James Bay Get the help you need withBetterHelp. Use my discount code “loved” to get 10% off on your first month. I’ve had the privilege of talking to Henry Ammar before on Radically Loved Radio. Check out our conversations here: Episode 53: Radically Guided Episode 95: Radically Invested Episode 241: Life Lessons Episode 353: Adapting to Change Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies at com! FREE Podcast Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I’ll send it right away! Episode Highlights On Grieving a Loss Remember that we all go through grieving a loss. As you relate with others, you understand that you will get better. When we go through grieving a loss, we tend to isolate ourselves and feel as if our sadness will last forever. But loss can also be a catalyst for growth. Henry shared how several deaths in his family taught him to approach life differently. When his mother was diagnosed with cancer, he made a conscious choice to deal with grief healthily. He chose to focus on what he could control and how he showed up for his mother during her last days. There are healthy ways to work through grief and come out the other end. The Intensity of Grieving a Loss When you’re grieving, it helps to have a safe space of connection. When we experience trauma, we react not only to the situation but also to past traumas that haven't healed. It’s easy to block these intense emotions. But remember that feeling is part of healing. Healing by Listening to Your Emotions Emotional regulation is not about ignoring your feelings or letting them swallow you whole. It means embracing the depth of your feelings with intention, compassion, and love. Once you tune into your emotions, the next step is to get honest with yourself and ask, “What do I need to heal? What meaning can I give to this situation?” Instead of letting your emotions take over, let them guide you. Become friends with them. True healing doesn't mean you forget. It's giving new meaning to the situation, which will allow you to move forward with purpose and honor the memory of the one you lost. Riding the Emotional Wave Henry identifies three things that can help you along your healing journey. First, find a support system that gives you the space to grieve. Don't isolate yourself, but also recognize and acknowledge if you need time alone. Second, be lovingly honest with yourself. Make peace with the fact that there are things outside of your control. Let your emotions serve as guideposts. Lastly, find a strong “why,” a reason to move forward and live on. Grief should not make you hard nor weak. Like a tea bag in boiling water, it’s possible to come out of this experience stronger and wiser. The Importance of Love True healing cannot occur without love, so do not put up walls around your heart. As you think about the person or pet you’ve lost, you can feel their presence through the love you shared. We all go through grieving a loss differently. Whatever you’re feeling is valid. Just remember, don’t close yourself off from love because of fear. Commit to having magic moments and to being mindful and intentional about not closing your heart. Radical Love For Henry, the supreme ethic of life is love. It’s who we are and who we ought to become. Don’t let the death of a loved one mean the death of the love inside you. Death does not just take something or someone away; it also gives meaning. Instead of going through the motions, learn to love with all your heart and appreciate the here and now. In life, you have a choice to make the best out of your limited time. Whether it’s yoga, mindfulness, or mediation, find something that allows you to move past grief and choose life every day. 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode [26:37] “Co-regulation is a real thing, like regulating our emotions and it's not hiding it. It's not ignoring it. It's not allowing it to take over. It's lovingly looking at it with an intention as if it is a child crying out for help and you embrace with compassion and love.” [32:26] “I'm not going to become enslaved by my emotions or let my emotions dictate me. I'm gonna let them counsel me and I think there's beauty in allowing our emotions, becoming friends with them instead of getting upset that they're there.” [44:04] “I couldn't control the situation…I knew the only thing I could control is the meaning I'm giving my life going forward.” [47:28] “Do not build a wall to love… I would much rather experience love in my life and lose it than isolate my heart from experiencing these moments again and creating magic moments in my life. So instead of building a wall, I committed to making magic moments more regularly.” [55:17] “I think the supreme ethic of life is love. It's who we're becoming. It’s who we are, right, but peeling the layers off and stepping into that love for ourselves, love for others. And I think I didn't want the death of those I love, become the death of the love inside of me and the death of who I am.” About Henry Henry Ammar is the founder and CEO of MakeItHappen.Life, where he delivers inspiring content and shares empowering experiences to help people lead confident and fulfilling lives. Henry is also the host of the “Making It Happen” podcast, where he provides real-world insights aimed at creating an empowered life that you can wake up excited for. In his professional music career, Henry performed on a Grammy Award-winning album and shared the stage with music legends. But it was in leadership and coaching that Henry found his true calling. Today, he leverages his success in music and business to empower individuals, businesses, and communities. To learn more about Henry, visit his website or connect with him on Instagram, Youtube, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Enjoy the Podcast? If you felt radically loved from listening to this podcast, subscribe and share it with the people you love! Love to give us 5 stars? If you do, we'd love a review from you. Help us reach more people and make them feel loved. Do you want to help others who are grieving a loss in their lives? Then trust your instinct and share what you've learned today on social media! Don't forget to follow and message us on these platforms! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosieacosta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rosieacosta Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radicallylovedrosie TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsrosieacosta To feeling radically loved, Rosie   This episode is brought to you by Organifi www.organifi.com/loved @organifi #organifi  Go to www.organifi.com and use code loved for 15% off any item in the store!    This episode is brought to you by Seed.com/loved Use code LOVED for 20% off your order.    This episode is brought to you by STAMPS.COM https://www.stamps.com/loved  Use promo code: LOVED to get a special offer! 4 week trial plus FREE postage and a digital scale. No long-term commitments. 

    Episode 355. The Keys to Health (Episode 167)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2021 62:24


    Marco Borges is a renowned Exercise Physiologist and New York Times Bestseller teaching individuals to transform their lives and bodies through his innovative exercise and nutrition programs. With his latest cookbook, The 22-Day Revolution, you’ll easily understand clear Marco became the man responsible for converting Jay-Z and Beyonce to veganism. This interview is one of my absolute favorites. Marco is one of the most inspiring people in my life. I am so eternally grateful for his work and how it’s helped people (including me) create a happier, more sustainable life. In this conversation, Marco gets into what’s really behind the problems we have with our bodies, how habits make up our lives and what we can do to change them, why a plant-based diet doesn’t have to be so difficult, and more. Radically Innovative Marco Uncovering the truths of what’s hurting our bodies and sharing that with the world Recognizing we are the sum of our habits and how they determine well-being Living by the Japanese practice of continuous self-improvement in every way Radically Inspired Clarity One good action begets another good action. To start a new habit, take it one good action at a time. It’s more important to understand what you’re doing to be healthy than figure out what to do when you’re sick. Marco Borges Answers… What’s the driving force behind your career in health? How do we change our non-constructive habits at home? What would you say to people who feel stuck? Radically Loved Quotes “We have the answer to most of the problems that ail us and it lies within what you’re putting into your body.” “We think that the phone in our hands is the greatest super computer of all time, but the reality is that nothing compares to our beautiful bodies.” “I was tired of hearing that disease was hereditary. I knew enough to know that wasn’t true.” “We tend to be so focused on perfection, that we give up when we don’t achieve it.” A Little More About Our Guest Marco Borges is passionate about guiding people on the path to developing a healthy lifestyle. As an author and one of the most sought after fitness & plant-based nutrition experts in the country, Marco lives by the simple mantra, “I am committed to making a difference everyday.” Learn more about Marco at www.22daysnutrition.com/ and on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. This episode is brought to you by Upstart www.upstart.com/loved to lower your monthly payments today!    This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market  Get 25% OFF of your first order AND a FREE gift! www.thrivemarket.com/radicallyloved   This episode is brought to you by Tru Niagen www.truniagen.com/loved use code LOVED to get 10% off your first purchase! 


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