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Do you worry you're coming off as too needy—in dating, friendships, or business? In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz breaks down what “neediness” really is, why it's often just fear in disguise, and how to shift from anxious grasping to calm confidence. You'll learn how to spot the difference between healthy desire and emotional urgency—and what to do when you feel that panicky “I need this to go right” energy.

Ducko cops it from the fashion police, Jess has a proposition for Producer Babs and we talk to the President of the Enhanced Games!Subscribe on LiSTNR: https://play.listnr.com/podcast/nick-jess-and-duckoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this eye-opening episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz introduces what might be the most underrated yet transformational key to building confidence and reducing social anxiety: expanding your capacity. It might not sound glamorous, but this principle is the real “magic juice” for lasting confidence. Dr. Aziz explains that every person has an emotional and psychological threshold for discomfort—whether it's rejection, conflict, criticism, or awkwardness—and those with social anxiety often have a lower capacity in these areas. The breakthrough? Confidence grows not by avoiding discomfort, but by intentionally leaning into it. By reframing your experiences as opportunities to expand your capacity rather than threats to avoid, you open the door to extraordinary growth. Whether it's speaking up at work, handling rejection in dating, or saying what you really think in a group—these are not scary “failures” to avoid but moments to train your emotional muscles. Dr. Aziz shares stories from real client breakthroughs, including one man who concluded after a single awkward phone call that he should “never talk to a woman on the phone again.” Through humor and insight, Dr. Aziz reveals how easily we draw limiting conclusions and how much power we reclaim when we choose to stay in the discomfort zone just long enough to grow.

In this refreshing episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives into a deceptively simple question with massive implications: “Are you apologizing too much?” Most people don't even realize how often they say “sorry”—not just in words, but in their tone, posture, and energy. If you constantly feel responsible for other people's reactions, discomfort, or expectations—even when you didn't do anything wrong—you're likely trapped in a loop of unconscious over-apologizing. And that loop isn't just exhausting—it's eroding your confidence and subtly reshaping your relationships. Dr. Aziz breaks down how unnecessary apologies stem from overactive guilt systems and people-pleasing conditioning, often developed in childhood. You'll discover how to recognize the difference between healthy, empathy-based apologies and guilt-driven ones that actually weaken connection. Plus, you'll learn a simple internal filter: before apologizing, pause and ask yourself, “Did I actually do something wrong?” Then, try this bonus lens—what would I tell a friend to do in this situation?

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Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz — and today we're going straight into one of the most common, painful, and persistent feelings that quietly runs so many lives:

Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz! If you've ever felt stuck, procrastinated, or told yourself “I should…” but still didn't follow through — this episode is for you. Dr. Aziz reveals the three powerful secrets to breaking out of avoidance and finally taking the action you know will move your life forward. Whether it's social confidence, career growth, health habits, or daily routines — it all comes back to one key truth: Confidence is a byproduct of action. In this episode, you'll discover: Why resistance, groaning, and procrastination are totally normal (and how to break through them) The surprising way your identity story might be keeping you stuck How to use pain as powerful leverage (yes, really!) The missing piece that makes it way easier to follow through Why pleasure in the future is the key to taking action today Dr. Aziz also shares his personal story of emotional pain, transformation, and how one pivotal night in his 20s changed everything. If you're ready to overcome avoidance and create a life that energizes and fulfills you, this episode will give you both the mindset and momentum to start now. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Do you often find yourself stuck in the cycle of procrastination, avoiding tasks that you know could improve your life? Whether it's taking social risks, having difficult conversations, or simply getting things done, we all face moments when it feels impossible to take action. In this post, I'm going to reveal the three secrets to breaking free from inaction and boosting your confidence. Secret #1: Recognize the Pattern The first step in overcoming procrastination and avoidance is to recognize the cycle you're in. It often starts with the feeling of fear—fear of failure, fear of judgment, or fear of discomfort. You know you should act, but instead, you avoid the task. You tell yourself “I should,” but you don't follow through. This internal tension leads to resistance, and eventually, you may find yourself stuck in a negative identity—thinking of yourself as someone who just can't follow through or is too scared to act. The first secret is to notice this pattern. Acknowledge that you're caught in it and make the decision to do something different. The more you notice it, the more you can break free from it and start acting from a place of empowerment, not fear. "Confidence is a byproduct of action. You won't feel confident until you take action." — Dr. Aziz Secret #2: Use Pain as Leverage Pain is one of the most powerful motivators for action. In fact, research shows that we are twice as motivated by pain as we are by pleasure. The key is to leverage pain in a constructive way. Ask yourself: What is the cost of inaction? If you keep avoiding something, where will it take you? In the case of social anxiety, it might be loneliness or missed career opportunities. By focusing on the pain of staying stuck, you can create a sense of urgency and motivate yourself to act. However, it's essential to not get lost in despair when reflecting on this pain. Instead, take ownership of the situation and realize that you can change things. When the pain of staying where you are exceeds the fear of the unknown, you'll finally take the leap. Secret #3: Focus on the Pleasure of Action While pain can push you to act, pleasure is what will keep you going. We often resist action because we focus on the discomfort of getting started, but if you shift your focus to the benefits of taking action, you'll find yourself motivated. For example, if you're avoiding a workout because it feels hard to start, remind yourself of how good you'll feel afterward—the energy, the sense of accomplishment, the pride in doing something for yourself. By training your mind to see the pleasure on the other side, you'll feel more compelled to take action. "Are you willing to be uncomfortable now to experience the extraordinary in your life?" — Dr. Aziz Taking Action: Your Next Step Now that you know the three secrets to taking action, it's time to put them into practice. Start by recognizing the patterns that hold you back, use pain and pleasure to motivate yourself, and take action even when it feels uncomfortable. If you want to make real progress in your life, the key is consistent action. The more you act, the more confidence you'll build. It's time to break free from the cycle of procrastination and start living boldly. Remember, confidence comes from doing—not waiting for the perfect moment or feeling ready. Take action today, and watch your confidence grow! You are capable of so much more than you realize. Keep going, and you'll soon be amazed at how far you can go. 4o mini

Is there a similarity between F1 driver Oscar Piastri and our very own Shy Guy? We find out if your relationship started with fast food and Morgans tasked Ducko in creating a push playlist and we need your help!Subscribe on LiSTNR: https://play.listnr.com/podcast/nick-jess-and-duckoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Producer Babs takes over from Shy Guy this week taking a look back on the week that was with Jess & Ducko! Follow on the socials @jessandducko for more!Subscribe on LiSTNR: https://play.listnr.com/podcast/nick-jess-and-duckoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week's episode takes a little breather from the KRZ playthrough as people catch up with Acts II & III. There's a good reason for that: Steam Next Fest happened last week, and a lot of people dived right into the ocean of demos. In fact, the GITW patron community played over 150 demos collectively then voted on their favourites. So this episode we have some honourable mentions, the community's top five, and then my own top five best of the fest. (You can watch the video version of the main segment here: https://youtu.be/nVfZDZIbq3A.)I also discuss the channel's recent little patron influx, and talk about trying to make podcasting and video-making into a part time job. If you're up for supporting me on that road, thank you so much — head here: https://www.patreon.com/gaminginthewild. And big thanks to boss tier patrons Shy Guy and Hollow, and new patrons Paolo, Rob, Gerudo, Bayleafu, Noah, Ethan, Dom, Brandon, Jeremy, and Toph. And all the veteran patrons too!In the roundup: AC Shadows, Everhood 2, Wanderstop, Monster Hunter Wilds.Follow the show on Bluesky here: https://tinyurl.com/gitw-blueskyAnd elsewhere on social media: http://gaminginthewild.carrd.coAnd as always, thanks for listening, enjoy the show!

How is Jess trying to trick the universe, Ducko got a DM from a brand and Shy Guy wraps up the week in his diary!Subscribe on LiSTNR: https://play.listnr.com/podcast/nick-jess-and-duckoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

FIRST 33:00: Spoiler-Free Review with our See It/Skip It Verdict AFTER 33:00: Full Spoiler Review This week's See It or Skip It has us exploring this year's Oscar field a little deeper by diving into the mind-bending The Substance (2024), now playing on MUBI (in the US/UK). Directed by Coralie Fargeat and starring Demi Moore, Margaret Qualley, and Dennis Quaid, this psychological body horror promises to push boundaries and challenge audiences with its bold, unsettling vision. Join Ian and Shai as we step into the eerie world of The Substance to see if it delivers a chilling, thought-provoking experience or if it crumbles under the weight of its ambition. Does it bring a fresh perspective to horror while exploring deeper themes, or does it lean too heavily on shock value without enough... substance? We'll examine the film's storytelling—What larger themes and ideologies does this lean into or is it just a straight up horror film? How does Demi Moore's performance anchor the film, and does she reinvent herself in this daring role? And how does Margaret Qualley complement or contrast her, adding to the film's psychological intensity?  And do you know whose kid she is?  Ian couldn't believe it. We'll also break down the film's striking visuals and grotesque horror elements.  Did the film's themes of identity and transformation resonate, or did they get lost in the chaos? And how does the film's score heighten the unsettling atmosphere?  And how was this film snubbed in the cinematography category? Shai couldn't believe it. Finally, we'll debate whether The Substance can overcome some questions in its own internal logic. Does it deliver a profound, lasting impact, or does it leave you more confused than captivated?  We'll tackle all these questions as we dissect the movie and tell you if we think you should SEE IT or SKIP IT!

Jess has a baby shower idea to run past Ducko, we talk protective pets and Shy Guy runs us through the sexiest places in Australia!Subscribe on LiSTNR: https://play.listnr.com/podcast/nick-jess-and-duckoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? We've all heard the phrase, nice guys finish last, but is it really true? In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives into the hidden costs of being too nice—how people-pleasing can hold you back in relationships, career, and life. But don't worry, the solution isn't to become a jerk. Instead, you'll discover the real opposite of nice: authenticity. Learn how to express yourself boldly, set boundaries without guilt, and step out of the nice cage so you can stop finishing last and start living fully. If you're ready to break free from the fear of upsetting others and claim your confidence, tune in now! --------------------------------------------------------------- You've probably heard the phrase, “Nice guys finish last.” But is it really true? What does it mean for you? Are you doomed if you're too nice? Isn't being nice a good thing? If you've ever wondered about the impact of people-pleasing on your life, you're in the right place. In today's post, we'll dive deep into the origins of this phrase and, more importantly, how being overly nice may actually be holding you back in life. I'll share with you some powerful insights and actionable steps to stop pleasing others at the expense of your own happiness, so you can start living more boldly and authentically. The Real Cost of Being "Nice" Being nice might sound like a virtue, but when it's rooted in fear of rejection and disapproval, it can actually harm your relationships, career, and even your health. Niceness isn't the same as kindness. Kindness is about genuinely caring for others, but niceness is driven by a desire to avoid conflict or rejection at any cost. This people-pleasing behavior can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself, burned out, and ultimately, overlooked by others. “Niceness is not kindness; it's fear. Fear of being rejected, judged, or abandoned. When you live in fear, you end up losing yourself.” If you've ever said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no,” you know exactly what I mean. This habit of putting others' needs above your own comes at a price — one that often leads to frustration, resentment, and even physical symptoms like burnout. The Myth of "Nice Guys Finish Last" The phrase “nice guys finish last” originated in the world of sports, when Leo Durocher, a baseball manager, claimed that being overly nice was detrimental to success. The idea was simple: in competitive environments, the nicest person is often the one who gets passed over or overlooked. But what does that mean for you in your everyday life? Being nice out of fear doesn't just hurt you in sports; it's a pattern that shows up in every part of life. Whether it's at work, in relationships, or in social situations, excessive niceness can make you feel like you're finishing last. You might be overlooked, undervalued, or even taken advantage of because you haven't learned to assert your needs, wants, and boundaries. Breaking Free from the "Nice" Cage Here's the good news: You can break free. The opposite of being nice isn't about becoming a jerk or a narcissist; it's about being authentically you. It's about expressing your true thoughts, setting boundaries, and confidently saying “no” when you need to. “The opposite of being nice isn't being mean, it's being authentic. You don't need to please everyone to win in life. You need to please yourself first.” In my upcoming event, Not Nice Live, we'll dive into how you can shed the pattern of people-pleasing and start living in alignment with who you truly are. We'll explore powerful tools and practices to help you break free from the cage of niceness. You'll gain clarity on why you've fallen into this pattern, how it impacts you, and most importantly, how to start shifting it during the event — and carry those changes forward into your life. The Permission to Be Bold Imagine a life where you confidently say no when you need to, ask for what you truly want, and express your feelings without fear of judgment. That's the power of reclaiming your authenticity. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but with consistent practice and the right support, you'll start to feel a sense of freedom and empowerment. “The true cost of staying nice is the regret of not living fully. The cost is a life that's out of alignment with who you are meant to be.” I know it may sound like a far-off dream, but this is within your reach. You can step out of the shadows of people-pleasing and step into the light of being unapologetically yourself. The best part? You don't have to do it alone. Action Step: Start Reclaiming Your Rights Today As a first step, start by giving yourself permission to do one thing you've been holding back on. Maybe it's saying “no” to an invitation you don't want to accept, or expressing your true feelings about something that's been bothering you. Write it down, say it aloud, and practice it every day until it feels natural. The more you practice, the more you'll internalize this new way of being. And I promise you, it will change your life. Remember, it's not about being rude or inconsiderate; it's about showing up as your true self, without fear of judgment. If you're ready to take your boldness to the next level, I invite you to join me for Not Nice Live in March. The event is virtual, so you can attend from anywhere in the world, and we're offering a special early-bird price right now. Don't miss out — this is your chance to step into the life you truly want, without the guilt.

How much influence do you really have over your life? More than you think. In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz explores the direct connection between your confidence and the results you create. Whether it's in social interactions, your career, or personal growth, hesitation and fear hold you back while boldness and self-trust open doors. Through a powerful real-life example, you'll see how the way you think shapes your experiences and the hidden ways self-doubt limits your success. Are you playing to win, or just trying not to fail? Tune in to discover how shifting your mindset can radically change your results. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What if I told you that the key to changing your life, whether it's in your career, relationships, or personal goals, lies in how you show up with confidence? No, I'm not suggesting that you can control everything or that if you just get your confidence “right,” you'll always get what you want. But here's the truth: Your confidence has more power over your outcomes than you realize. Let's break down why this is, how it works, and how you can start taking control of your life right now. The Fear That Holds You Back Here's what most people don't want to admit: Confidence is a choice, and often, we choose to avoid it. Why? Because of fear. We fear that we're not enough—not smart enough, not capable enough, not lovable enough. And when we operate from this place of fear, we avoid the things that challenge us, we make excuses, and we often stay stuck in our comfort zones. You may have told yourself stories like, “I don't want to talk to that person; they probably won't like me anyway,” or “I shouldn't try that because I might fail and look stupid.” These stories might feel real, but they're just that—stories. And they keep you from stepping into your true power and potential. How Confidence Shapes Your Actions Let me share a story to illustrate this. Recently, I watched my son play his first basketball game of the season. He's a tall, scrappy 11-year-old who loves the game and plays with enthusiasm at home. But when he got to the game, he froze. His body language said it all—his shoulders were slumped, his arms hung low, and he wasn't trying to make plays. He was paralyzed by the fear of missing shots or messing up. I asked him what was going on, and through tears, he admitted, “No one passes to me.” The truth was, his inner critic—his own “Poopy Coach”—was running the show. His body was unconsciously signaling that he wasn't ready to play, and as a result, his teammates avoided passing him the ball. This is the same pattern that happens in life when we let our inner critic take over. When you play it safe and avoid risk, you're not just holding back in one area of life—you're restricting yourself in every area. The more you fear judgment, failure, or rejection, the more you limit the outcomes you could achieve. The Key to Transforming Your Confidence Now, here's where things get interesting: confidence isn't about eliminating fear—it's about being willing to take action despite it. It's about saying, “Yes, I'm scared. But I'm still going to try.” For my son, I helped him see that missing a shot doesn't define him. I suggested that he try to take more shots in the next game, even if they didn't go in. The goal wasn't to make every shot; the goal was to get comfortable with failure—because each time he takes a shot, win or lose, his confidence grows. This is where you can start to make the same shift in your life. Stop focusing on avoiding failure and start focusing on making progress. It's not about perfection—it's about showing up and doing your best. Take More Shots in Your Life So, here's your action step: What shots can you take this week? What risks are you avoiding? Is it speaking up in a meeting? Is it reaching out to someone you've been afraid to talk to? Is it stepping up and taking charge of your career or relationships? The next time you feel the urge to hold back, ask yourself, “What would I do if I had the confidence to act?” Then, take that action—even if it's uncomfortable. Your confidence grows each time you act despite fear. And most importantly, remember: If you don't succeed, it doesn't mean you're a failure. It means you're learning. Confidence isn't about being perfect—it's about embracing the journey and trusting that with each step, you're getting better, stronger, and more capable. Final Thoughts: It's Time to Take Control The truth is that your confidence is the key to your success. It's not a magic fix, and it's not about avoiding discomfort. But if you're willing to show up, take the shots, and keep going, you'll find that the outcomes you want in life are closer than you think. So, step up. Own your confidence. And watch as you start to control the outcomes in your life. Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are, and to know deep down, that you are awesome.

Have you ever felt trapped by self-doubt or overwhelmed by negative thoughts about yourself? In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz explores how our minds play tricks on us, creating distorted beliefs that undermine our confidence. But what if you could flip the script? Learn why these mental patterns exist, how they hold you back, and what you can do to reclaim your confidence. Whether you're navigating social anxiety, professional insecurity, or just want to feel more self-assured in your day-to-day life, this episode offers insights that will shift your perspective and help you step into your best self. Tune in now!---------------------------------------------------- Confidence can seem elusive at times, especially when you're constantly battling inner doubts and self-criticism. But what if I told you that you can trick yourself into feeling high confidence? Now, I know this might sound strange at first. "Tricking yourself?" you might wonder. Isn't that just being fake? Well, let's take a deeper look at how this actually works—and how it can help you break free from the cycle of self-doubt. The Power of "Tricking" Yourself The concept of "tricking yourself" isn't about being dishonest or pretending to be something you're not. Instead, it's about flipping the negative, distorted thoughts you have about yourself and intentionally replacing them with a more positive, empowering narrative. Think of it as a fun little game, where you reprogram your brain to believe in your capabilities, even when your inner critic tells you otherwise. If you're skeptical about this approach, consider this: We're already tricking ourselves every day. Most of us are walking around with an internal narrative that tells us we're inadequate, unlikable, or just not good enough. These thoughts aren't grounded in reality—they're just distorted beliefs we've bought into. So why not "trick" yourself into the opposite? Why We Do It: The Safety Police There's a part of us that keeps us safe from discomfort—the "safety police" inside. It wants to protect us from potential pain and failure, so it distorts our reality to prevent us from taking risks. This is why we might assume that we're awkward, unworthy, or destined to fail in social situations. The safety police uses this distorted thinking to keep us from putting ourselves out there. But by tricking ourselves into believing that we are worthy and capable, we bypass this fear and begin to act with confidence. Real-Life Example: The Power of Perception Let me share a story from one of my clients. He and his friends were at a club, dancing, and he felt extremely self-conscious. He imagined that everyone around him thought he was awkward and uncomfortable. But after the night ended, he casually asked someone he had danced with if they thought it was awkward. To his surprise, she said it was great! That moment clicked for him. All the negative thoughts he'd had were simply made-up stories, and once he let go of those fears, he could enjoy the moment without the burden of self-doubt. This is how our minds work: we create stories, usually negative ones, about our abilities and how others perceive us. The trick is to flip the script and start making up positive, empowering stories instead. How to Put It Into Action Identify a Negative Story: Think about a situation where you typically feel insecure or self-conscious—maybe it's speaking up at meetings, going on a date, or trying something new. Flip the Script: Now, reframe that situation. Instead of imagining how awkward or unlikable you are, make up a story where everything goes smoothly. For example, instead of thinking, "I'll probably mess this up," tell yourself, "I'm confident and capable. I'm going to do great!" Practice It Regularly: The more you practice this technique, the easier it will become to automatically think in a positive, empowering way. Eventually, you'll find that these new beliefs start to feel just as true as the old, negative ones. The Takeaway: It's All Made Up Anyway Here's the thing: We are always telling ourselves stories—about ourselves and the world around us. Most of the time, those stories are negative, but there's no rule saying they have to be. You have the power to reframe your inner narrative and make up something that serves you, not something that holds you back. So next time you're faced with a situation that triggers your self-doubt, remember: It's all made up anyway. Why not make up a story that helps you feel confident, capable, and worthy of success? You might be surprised at how powerful this simple shift in thinking can be. You can start today. Trick yourself into believing that you are awesome—and watch how quickly your confidence follows.

Feeling self-conscious or insecure often feels like an unavoidable part of life, but it doesn't have to be. In today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz reveals the surprising way to feel less insecure and unlock your confidence: shift your focus outward. When you're insecure, your attention collapses inward, creating a loop of self-criticism and hyper-awareness. Instead of helping, this fixation often amplifies discomfort and reduces your ability to connect or perform. The secret? Focus less on yourself and more on others. Observe their actions, ask questions, or notice details like their interests or even their clothing. This simple practice can break the cycle of self-focus, reducing anxiety and creating natural, authentic connection. "Confidence isn't about being perfect—it's about being present," says Dr. Aziz. By shifting your attention from "me" to "we," you'll not only feel more grounded, but you'll also realize how little your perceived flaws matter. Start small today: pick one thing to notice about the people you interact with, such as their eye color or what excites them. The more you practice this, the more your insecurities fade into the background, leaving room for true confidence to grow. --------------------------------------------- Do you often find yourself feeling insecure or overly self-conscious? You're not alone. In fact, many people, even the most successful, capable, and attractive individuals, experience these feelings. But what if I told you that your insecurity might not have anything to do with your actual abilities or how others see you? Instead, it could be about where your focus is going. Let's explore how you can feel less insecure by simply shifting your attention. Insecurity Doesn't Reflect Your Value Most people think insecurity comes from a place of lack—that something is missing in their personality, appearance, or skills. Maybe you've felt this way too. You might think, “I'm not smart enough, attractive enough, or worthy enough for this situation.” But here's the liberating truth: insecurity and self-consciousness are often completely disconnected from how others perceive you. They're more about your own internal narrative. "Your insecurity doesn't equal others looking down on you. It's all an internal experience, often not visible to those around you." So, when you feel insecure or self-conscious, remember—it's a feeling you're having, not a reflection of how others see you. You might be assuming others are thinking something negative about you when, in reality, they may not even be paying attention to you the way you think they are. The Focus of Insecurity: It's All About You When you're feeling insecure, where does your attention go? That's right—you start hyper-focusing on yourself. “Am I doing this right? Did I say the wrong thing? Does my voice sound shaky? Are they judging me?” Insecurity creates a loop where you become obsessed with how others perceive you. The more you focus on yourself, the more you feel anxious. In fact, the more you try to control or perfect every aspect of yourself to avoid judgment, the worse it gets. Ironically, this self-obsession often leads to performance anxiety and stress, making your presentation, conversation, or interaction even less effective. "The more you try to perfect yourself, the more you create performance anxiety, which decreases your effectiveness and amplifies insecurity." The Secret to Freedom: Focus on Others Here's the twist: The solution to your insecurity is to stop focusing on yourself. When you expand your focus outward, you release the pressure to be perfect and open yourself up to real, meaningful connections. This shift from self-absorption to genuine curiosity about others is the key to overcoming self-consciousness. I worked with a client who often felt insecure in social situations. His self-focus was so intense that he couldn't fully engage with others. So, I suggested he try something different: observe and focus on other people, particularly on their clothing choices, their body language, and their interests. The more he did this, the less he focused on himself and the more relaxed he felt. "When you focus on others, you free yourself from self-judgment and open up to deeper connections." Putting It Into Action: Your Step Toward Confidence Here's your action step for today: Practice focusing on others. Whether it's noticing the details of people's clothing or listening deeply to their stories, consciously direct your attention outward. This simple shift will make you feel less self-conscious and more connected. The more you practice, the more your insecurities will fade into the background. Remember, you don't need to be perfect. You just need to be present with others. As you do this, your self-consciousness will shrink, and your confidence will grow. "By focusing on others, you can stop policing yourself and start living authentically." Try this out today and see how it feels. You'll be amazed at how much more relaxed and confident you can be when you stop obsessing over yourself and start connecting with others

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True self-confidence doesn't come from looking perfect, saying the right things, or playing a role—it comes from letting yourself be truly seen. In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz reveals the surprising magic ingredient to building lasting confidence: authentic sharing. When you allow yourself to share what's real—your thoughts, feelings, and experiences—you break down the barriers of fear and self-doubt. Instead of hiding behind a mask, you show up as your true self, and in doing so, you create genuine connection and trust with others. This level of vulnerability isn't always easy, but it's where real confidence lives. Start small: share 5% more of your authentic self in your next conversation and notice the difference. If you're ready to claim 2025 as the year you show up fully and boldly, tune in and discover how unveiling yourself can transform your confidence forever. ---------------------------------------------------------- Are you struggling with self-confidence? It might surprise you to know that the magic ingredient isn't about changing your appearance, gaining more knowledge, or getting a perfect track record. In fact, it's something far more powerful—and it's not about you at all. I'm Dr. Aziz, and in today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, I'll reveal the counterintuitive secret to building true self-confidence in 2025. The best part? You can start practicing it right now. The Key to True Confidence: Letting Yourself Be Seen The secret to true self-confidence isn't more self-help tools or tricks. It's about one thing: sharing. Not just sharing your favorite hobbies or where you're from, but allowing yourself to be seen and known as you are right now. This means being authentically yourself, even in moments when it feels uncomfortable. I call it “unveiling yourself,” and it's the key to breaking down barriers in your social life and relationships. When you let others see who you really are, the magic of confidence starts to build, because confidence is not about pretending to be someone else—it's about fully showing up as the person you truly are. “Intimacy is not about sex. It's about being seen for who you truly are.” Why We Hide Ourselves—and How to Stop For many, opening up and sharing who we truly are can feel risky. We worry that we'll be judged, rejected, or misunderstood. Maybe you've tried to fit in by playing a role or saying the things you think people want to hear. But here's the truth: playing a role doesn't build confidence—it breeds anxiety. True confidence comes from showing up authentically and letting people see the real you. When you “unveil” yourself, it's about being honest about what you're feeling in the moment. Whether it's vulnerability, anxiety, or joy, when you share that openly, you invite deeper connection. And that's the essence of confidence. Intimacy is Key A common misconception about intimacy is that it's tied only to romantic relationships. But intimacy is about true connection, whether it's with your partner, a friend, or even a stranger. Intimacy comes when you allow someone to see into you, and you do the same for them. Most people aren't comfortable with this level of intimacy. It's risky, and it's not always easy. But the beauty of intimacy is that it strengthens relationships and deepens bonds in a way that surface-level small talk never can. “The more you share, the stronger your connection becomes, and your self-confidence builds with every real interaction.” The Power of Vulnerability When I met my wife Candace, I decided to do things differently. I didn't want to hide behind any role or act. I wanted to be real, even if it meant feeling vulnerable. Instead of asking what I should say to impress her, I focused on what was true for me and shared that. What I found was shocking: Being vulnerable didn't push her away. Instead, it drew us closer and built a deeper connection. And, as a bonus, it boosted my confidence because I no longer had to pretend to be someone I wasn't. Your Action Step for Today It's time for you to practice unveiling yourself. Start small—pick one relationship in your life and share a little bit more than you normally would. Let yourself be seen and known for who you really are, even if it's just 5% more than usual. As you practice, you'll notice something amazing: Not only will your relationships deepen, but your confidence will grow. And the best part? You're going to feel more authentic and connected than ever before. “When you let go of the need to hide and share your true self, you unlock a powerful, unshakable confidence.” So, are you ready to claim 2025 as the year you step into your authentic self? Practice unveiling yourself, and watch your self-confidence soar. Let me know how it goes!

SCP: The Mason Blackwood Saga - A Complete RecapA compilation of all previous SCP Foundation episodes (Episodes 85-133), following former Navy SEAL Mason Blackwood's journey from his first encounter with the supernatural to the growing conflict between the SCP Foundation and the mysterious Redwood Bureau. In the shadows of our world, a secret organization known as the SCP Foundation works tirelessly to contain supernatural threats - creatures and objects that defy the laws of reality. But what happens when the lines between protector and threat begin to blur? Join us for this special compilation episode as we follow the harrowing journey of Mason Blackwood, from decorated Navy SEAL to something far more complex. After a fatal encounter with SCP-096 (The Shy Guy), Blackwood is mysteriously resurrected by the enigmatic Redwood Bureau, gaining inexplicable abilities but also drawing himself into a dangerous web of secrets. Together with his partner Chen, Blackwood faces off against some of the Foundation's most terrifying entities: SCP-049, a plague doctor with a deadly touch; SCP-4666, the nightmarish Yule Man who targeted Chen's family during Christmas; and finally, the catastrophic release of SCP-610, The Flesh That Hates, within the Foundation's own walls. As Blackwood uncovers the Redwood Bureau's sinister plans to weaponize these anomalies, he must confront an impossible question: in a world where monsters are real, who are the true heroes and villains? This special compilation includes all previous SCP episodes, providing essential background for new listeners and a comprehensive refresher for longtime fans before we dive into the next chapter of this chilling saga. Remember - in this world of anomalies and secrets, nothing is ever quite what it seems.   Follow Carman Carrion!    https://www.instagram.com/carmancarrion/?hl=en   https://twitter.com/CarmanCarrion   Subscribe to Spotify! https://open.spotify.com/show/0uiX155WEJnN7QVRfo3aQY   Please Review Us on iTunes! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/freaky-folklore/id1550361184   Music and sound effects used in the Freaky Folklore Podcast have or may have been provided/created by:  CO.AG: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcavSftXHgxLBWwLDm_bNvA Myuu: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiSKnkKCKAQVxMUWpZQobuQ Jinglepunks: https://jinglepunks.com/ Epidemic Sound: https://www.epidemicsound.com/ Kevin MacLeod: http://incompetech.com/ Dark Music: https://soundcloud.com/darknessprevailspodcast Soundstripe: https:// Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This reflective holiday episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy dives into the idea of giving yourself a profound, transformative gift this season—the gift of being on your own side. Dr. Aziz begins by acknowledging the universal concept of gift-giving during this time of year and how it ties into deeper self-reflection. Whether you celebrate Christmas, another holiday, or simply embrace the season as a time for rest and connection, this episode explores a different kind of gift—a gift that directly impacts your confidence and sense of self-worth. Dr. Aziz shares a touching client story to illustrate how distorted self-perceptions often hold people back, despite external evidence of their worth and capabilities. He emphasizes that confidence is an inside job, urging listeners to shift their internal dialogue and challenge toxic self-perceptions. Through practical advice, he highlights the importance of offering yourself the love, praise, and acknowledgment you may have been withholding. With humor and insight, Dr. Aziz leaves listeners with a powerful action step: identify the praise and recognition you long to hear from others and begin to offer it to yourself. This holiday season, take the opportunity to become your own biggest supporter and transform your confidence from within.-------------------------------------------------------------------- The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself This Holiday Season It's the season for giving, and if you celebrate Christmas, you're probably thinking about what gifts to give others. Whether it's the perfect present for a loved one or a thoughtful gesture, giving is a big part of this time of year. But here's the twist: What if the best gift you could give isn't something you wrap up for someone else—it's something you give yourself? In this episode, we're not talking about bubble baths or new gadgets (though those are nice, too). We're diving into the profound gift of self-love and self-acceptance—the gift that can transform your confidence and your entire experience of life. The Inside Job: Confidence Comes From Within One of the most powerful insights I've learned in my 20 years of personal growth is that confidence is an inside job. It's never about the external circumstances—your paycheck, appearance, or recognition from others. Sure, those things can give you a temporary boost, but real, lasting confidence comes from how you see yourself on the inside. And yet, so many people struggle with this. I recently spoke with a client, a beautiful and capable woman, who scored incredibly low on a confidence assessment I use. Despite her many strengths, she couldn't see herself the way others did. She felt unworthy, unattractive, and not enough. And even though she intellectually acknowledged that her perception was distorted, it still felt true. This is where the gift comes in. If you can begin to shift your perception of yourself, that's the real transformation. But how? Stop Starving Yourself of Self-Love What if you stopped waiting for external validation? What if you gave yourself the gift of love, approval, and acceptance right now, without needing anyone else's permission? For years, my client had been withholding these gifts from herself. She had been stuck in a pattern of self-criticism, not allowing herself to feel worthy or confident. And this had created a painful, long-standing “starvation” of self-love. But here's the thing: You don't have to wait another decade to feel good about yourself. You can start today by choosing to be on your own side. Instead of looking to others for validation, start practicing self-acknowledgment. See the beauty, strength, and positive qualities in yourself. Challenge the negative stories you've been telling yourself. When you realize that confidence comes from within, you stop relying on external sources to tell you who you are. You get to define it. Your Action Step: Give Yourself the Gift of Praise Here's a powerful action step to help you give yourself this gift: Think about the kind of praise or recognition you crave. What would you love to hear from someone important in your life? A loved one, a boss, a friend—what would make your heart swell if they said, “You're amazing because….” Write down those things. Don't just let this exercise pass by. If you feel resistance, take note of it. That's your inner critic trying to stop you from feeling good about yourself. Instead, sit with it and write out five things you would love to hear. These are the words that you need to give yourself, today. Confidence is Yours for the Taking Confidence is not something you have to wait for. It's something you can choose to cultivate. It's about stepping into your own power, taking ownership of how you see yourself, and practicing the gift of self-love, every single day. So this holiday season, give yourself the gift of being on your own side. Stop starving yourself of love and approval, and instead, fill yourself up with positive affirmations, praise, and belief in your own worth. It will change everything. Happy holidays, and may 2025 be the year you step into the most confident, bold, and authentic version of yourself!

A massive thanks to RED for helping research this video (especially that SCP-6237-J bit)! https://www.patreon.com/isyanderandkoda You already know how to please the Machine Gods at this point so thank you so much. And make your voices heard for which faction you would like to see next! -Isyander P.s for those of you who want to send stuff our way. Thank you in advance. Po BoxIsyander & Koda Po Box 1196, Tacoma, Wa, 98402, USAAnything below is made for (and by) the omnissiah. You can read it though, just a summary of the banger of a video you're watching.Welcome to your crash course on the SCP Foundation, a clandestine organization tasked with securing, containing, and protecting anomalies beyond human comprehension. In this orientation, we'll break down the Foundation's labyrinthine procedures, secret containment sites, and the bizarre cast of eldritch horrors, helpful blobs, infinite furniture stores, and towering oceanic eels lurking in the shadows. From the early days on internet forums to its evolution into a sprawling Wiki of cosmic-scale apocalypses, weird cognitohazards, and dark comedy, the SCP Universe offers endless rabbit holes to explore.We'll begin by covering the SCP format itself—those clinical containment logs and redacted data that heighten the tension. Then we'll dive into the Foundation's internal hierarchy: from hapless D-Class “volunteers” and veteran Level-2 researchers to the shadowy O5 Council. You'll learn how anomalies are categorized—Safe, Euclid, Keter, and beyond—and discover some of the most iconic examples, like the unstoppable Shy Guy (SCP-096), the lethal Hard-to-Destroy Reptile (SCP-682), the heartwarming Tickle Monster (SCP-999), the mind-bending Infinite IKEA (SCP-3008), and the horrifying Flesh That Hates (SCP-610). We'll discuss how the Foundation deploys Mobile Task Forces, distributes amnestics, and occasionally weaponizes anomalies themselves (looking at you, Thaumiel Class).In addition, we'll delve into overarching threats, including the ominous Scarlet King, who may (or may not) herald the end of everything. Finally, we'll crack open a few fan-favorite stories, highlight the comedic side with joke SCPs, and mention the bizarre corners of the Wiki—like 3,000+ images of a certain fur-favorite entity. Whether you're brand-new to the SCP fandom or someone who just discovered the horrifying brilliance of Procedure 110-Montauk, this orientation is your perfect primer on what makes the SCP Foundation such a vast, chilling, and darkly entertaining phenomenon. Prepare to step into a world where a “friendly gelatin blob” might be the last bastion of sanity in a cosmos of unstoppable beasts, and remember—Knowledge is a privilege… but it can also kill.———TAGSSCP Foundation, Secure Contain Protect, SCP orientation, SCP Wiki, eldritch horror, cosmic horror, SCP 096 Shy Guy, SCP 999 Tickle Monster, SCP 682 Hard-to-Destroy Reptile, SCP 610 The Flesh That Hates, SCP 1981 Ronald Reagan, Infinite IKEA SCP 3008, Scarlet King, containment procedures, O5 Council, D-Class, cognitohazards, memetic hazards, anomalous objects, Keter-class SCP, Euclid-class SCP, Safe-class SCP, Thaumiel, dark fiction, creepypasta, internet horror, horror stories, science fiction, patreon support, bonus episodes, fandom exploration, storytelling.————————————Opinions expressed in this video are solely those of Isyander & Koda and in no way reflect the views or opinions of Games Workshop Ltd.Artwork throughout this video is used for educational purposes. if you see your artwork and would like an art credit, message me.Support the show

n this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz delves into a universal and thought-provoking question: Do you talk yourself out of being authentic? Spoiler alert—most of us do. He explores how fear, doubt, and social conditioning can often lead us to hold back who we truly are, whether it's in how we express ourselves, the choices we make, or how we connect with others. Authenticity, as Dr. Aziz explains, isn't just a feel-good buzzword; it's a dynamic and evolving practice of aligning with who you are in the minutiae of daily life, in interpersonal relationships, and on a larger, soul-level path. Dr. Aziz shares personal stories, including how he confronted his own hesitations and fears, such as being vulnerable with his father or owning his unique interests and quirks. Through relatable examples, he illustrates the subtle ways we can hold ourselves back—whether by worrying about what others might think, fearing conflict, or simply dismissing the value of sharing ourselves. With warmth and humor, Dr. Aziz offers practical insights into identifying and defying these inner stories, encouraging listeners to step into their authentic selves and take bold, liberating actions that lead to greater self-connection and fulfillment.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- How to Stop Talking Yourself Out of Being Authentic Do you talk yourself out of being authentic? Do you often hold back what you really think, feel, or want to say? If so, you're not alone. Most of us have been there at one point or another. In fact, for many of us, it can become a habitual response to avoid discomfort or judgment from others. But here's the thing: living authentically is one of the most empowering things you can do. And yet, it's something we often talk ourselves out of. In this post, I'm going to share the common ways we talk ourselves out of authenticity, and how you can shift that habit to step into a more powerful, true version of yourself. Why Authenticity Feels So Good (But Also Scary) Being authentic sounds great in theory, right? The idea of showing up as your true self, without pretending to be something you're not, is incredibly freeing. When you're truly authentic, you don't have to hide or put on a mask to gain approval. There's a sense of freedom that comes with just being you. But authenticity isn't always easy. Sometimes, it feels like a massive risk. It's not just about the small things—like how you dress or what you say. Authenticity also involves living in alignment with your values, making bold decisions in your career or relationships, and even letting go of things that no longer serve you. And to do that, you have to confront your fears head-on. How We Talk Ourselves Out of Being Authentic We all have those moments where we pull back from being our true selves. And it's often driven by the fear of judgment. Here are a few ways we talk ourselves out of authenticity: Fear of What Others Will Think This is the biggest one. Whether it's a conversation with friends, coworkers, or family, the question often lingers: What will they think of me if I say this or do that? You might want to wear a certain outfit, express a unique opinion, or share a vulnerable moment, but the fear of judgment holds you back. In some cases, it might even be about people from your past—friends from high school, or a critical family member who still influences your decisions, even though they're not in your life anymore. Worrying About Disapproval Another way we talk ourselves out of authenticity is by worrying about how we'll affect others. Maybe you want to share a disagreement, voice a different opinion, or express your true feelings, but you worry it will upset the other person. You might fear that you'll destabilize the relationship, so you choose to stay quiet instead. This fear of conflict or disapproval can keep you trapped in inauthenticity. Believing It's Not Worth It Sometimes, we talk ourselves out of authenticity because we think there's no point. For example, maybe you want to have a deeper conversation with a loved one about your feelings, but you tell yourself, What's the point? Maybe they won't understand, or it might cause unnecessary stress. It's easy to hold back because you don't think it will make a difference. But this is often just a defense mechanism to avoid vulnerability. The Power of Defying These Stories Here's the thing: when you challenge these fears, when you defy the stories you tell yourself, you reclaim your power. It's about recognizing when you're holding yourself back and deciding to do the opposite—whether that's wearing what you want to wear, sharing an authentic opinion, or stepping into a decision that scares you. Action Step: Start by identifying when you're talking yourself out of being authentic. Pay attention to the moments when you hold back—whether it's in a conversation, with a friend, or in your day-to-day choices. Then, choose to defy those stories. Take the risk. You might feel vulnerable at first, but over time, you'll discover the strength that comes with being fully yourself. It's Worth It: Even if someone judges you or the outcome is uncomfortable, living authentically will always feel better in the long run. You'll feel more alive, more empowered, and more at peace with who you are. And that's a life worth living. You Can Be Authentic You don't have to be perfect at it, and it doesn't happen overnight. But if you consistently choose to live authentically, you will experience a deeper connection to yourself and others. Start with small steps. Express your opinions. Wear what you want. Share your feelings. And as you do, you'll step into your full potential. Remember, authenticity is a moving target—it evolves with you as you grow. So, keep embracing it, and trust that each step you take is bringing you closer to the real, powerful version of yourself.

In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives deep into the concept of social freedom—the ability to be your most authentic self in social situations without fear or inhibition. Social freedom isn't about achieving one final destination but embracing an ongoing journey of self-expression and courage. Dr. Aziz highlights how shedding the "cage" of social anxiety or niceness allows you to fully express your thoughts, feelings, and individuality in every interaction, from casual conversations to meaningful connections. Dr. Aziz breaks down two distinct paths to achieve social freedom: the 3% Path and the Jump-In Path. The 3% Path focuses on incremental, manageable growth—leaning into your edge by making small, consistent changes, like sharing one more authentic sentence or showing a bit more boldness in each interaction. On the other hand, the Jump-In Path is for those ready to dive headfirst into risk, shedding personas and embracing full authenticity in a powerful leap. Both methods, whether gradual or transformative, guide you toward becoming more expressive, authentic, and unapologetically you. Listen in to discover which approach resonates with your journey and how to set actionable steps to implement these transformative practices in your life. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Are you ready to break free from the grip of fear, self-doubt, and social anxiety? Imagine waking up tomorrow with the confidence to be completely yourself, no matter who you're around. It's not just a dream—it's something you can achieve, and today, I'm going to share two powerful paths to get you there. In this episode, we're diving into social freedom—the ability to express who you truly are in any situation without fear of judgment or rejection. Whether it's speaking your truth at work, sharing your thoughts with friends, or simply wearing what feels good to you, social freedom means you get to be you, unapologetically. What Is Social Freedom? Social freedom is all about being yourself in any social context. It's about feeling free to express your thoughts, your ideas, and even your emotions without the constant worry of being judged or rejected. It's not just about “acting” confident—social freedom comes from truly owning who you are. To give you a simple example, my son, who was nervous about reading his story aloud, almost held back his creativity out of fear. But after a little support and encouragement, he shared his story, and it was a beautiful moment of connection. That's what social freedom looks like: letting yourself share and fully express who you are. Two Paths to Achieving Social Freedom Now that you know what social freedom is, how do you get there? There are two distinct paths, and each offers a different approach to help you break free from the shackles of social anxiety. 1. The 3% Path: Small but Powerful Steps The 3% path is about gradually expanding your comfort zone by committing to just 3% more authenticity each time you interact. This could mean sharing one more thought, asking for something you normally wouldn't, or letting your true feelings show in a conversation. The beauty of this path is that it's manageable and gradual. A 3% shift is small enough to be manageable but impactful enough to create change over time. It's the power of consistent, incremental progress. Imagine making one small change in every social interaction—over time, these changes will compound, and before you know it, you'll be in a totally different place socially. 2. The Jump-Off-the-Dock Path: Dive Right In The second path is more drastic—just dive in. This is the “eff it” path. You decide to fully express yourself without holding back, even if it feels uncomfortable. Instead of approaching each interaction with caution and calculation, you just let go and say what's on your mind. You stop worrying about pleasing everyone and simply focus on being true to yourself. This path requires boldness. It's like jumping off a dock into the unknown. The first few jumps will be terrifying, but the rewards are immense: freedom, authenticity, and a sense of relief from constantly holding yourself back. You'll experience more of your true self, and the social anxiety that once held you back will begin to melt away. Which Path Is Right for You? Both paths will lead you to social freedom, but the key is choosing which one resonates most with you right now. The 3% path is great for those who want a slow and steady approach, while the “jump off the dock” path works best for those ready to make a big shift in a shorter time frame. Remember, there's no wrong way to go about this. What matters most is your willingness to take action, whether it's small steps or bold leaps. Take Action Now So, which path will you choose? If you're ready to take action, set a clear intention for how you want to move forward. Will you start small with the 3% path, or are you ready to dive in headfirst? The most important thing is to start. Lean into the discomfort. That's where the magic happens. If you're looking for more support on your journey to social freedom, be sure to check out my Mastermind program coming in early 2025. But until then, embrace who you are and know that your true self is enough. You've got this!

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In this episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz delves into the fourth principle of sanity and victory: Almost Always On My Own Side (AMOS). Building on the previous principles—taking ownership, surrendering to life's flow, and embracing the process—AMOS introduces the idea of being consistently compassionate and supportive toward yourself. Dr. Aziz explores the concept of self-compassion as a transformative tool, helping you to let go of self-criticism and cultivate a nurturing relationship with yourself. He draws on both personal experience and years of clinical research, illustrating how shifting from self-attack to self-support can profoundly impact your confidence and overall well-being. Dr. Aziz emphasizes that being on your own side is not just about boosting self-esteem or acknowledging your worth when things go well. Instead, it's about offering yourself kindness and empathy, especially when you face setbacks or challenges. He provides actionable steps to practice AMOS in daily life, including simple yet powerful questions like, “What would I do or say if I were truly on my own side right now?” Whether you're new to the concept or already practicing it, this episode offers fresh insights and practical tools to deepen your self-compassion and unlock greater confidence. Tune in to discover how to step into a more aligned and supportive relationship with yourself.------------------------------------------------------------------------- Welcome to today's episode, where we dive deep into the fourth principle of sanity and victory—a concept that can truly transform your confidence. If you've been following along, you already know the first three principles: I am the captain of my ship—taking full ownership of your life. Surrender is the ultimate life skill—accepting that you can't control everything, but you can control how you respond. The process is the purpose—embracing the journey rather than obsessing over the end goal. If you're feeling intrigued, then the next principle will change the way you see yourself, forever. It's called Almost Always On My Own Side (OMOS). What Does "Almost Always" Mean? At its core, this principle is about learning to be on your own side. It's about treating yourself as you would a close friend—compassionately, with understanding, and without judgment. You're probably familiar with the term "self-esteem," which refers to how much you value yourself. High self-esteem is about believing you bring value to the world; low self-esteem, on the other hand, is when you feel like you have nothing to offer. But what happens when you don't feel valuable, especially after making a mistake or when you're in the process of learning something new? This is where self-compassion comes in. Unlike self-esteem, which is dependent on how well you perform, self-compassion is unconditional. It's not about being perfect or achieving greatness; it's about acknowledging your struggles and treating yourself with kindness, regardless of the outcome. What Happens When You're Not On Your Own Side? Imagine being constantly followed around by someone who critiques everything you do. They point out every mistake, call you stupid, and tell you that you're not good enough. You wouldn't tolerate this behavior from someone else, so why do we allow this internal critic to rule our lives? For many of us, this critic becomes our default mode. We spend our days beating ourselves up, never allowing room for compassion or understanding. The truth is, this is insanity—it's a toxic pattern that drains our energy and holds us back from living fully. But when we practice being on our own side, we begin to shift from self-attack to self-support. We stop judging ourselves harshly and start lifting ourselves up with compassion, understanding that we are enough just as we are. The Power of Practicing OMOS When you begin to practice being on your own side, something amazing happens: You start to shift how you approach life's challenges. Instead of hiding from difficulties, you embrace them as opportunities for growth. This change in perspective is incredibly freeing, and it can radically alter your confidence. Why This Principle Is Key to Your Confidence So why is being on your own side so essential for building confidence? Because confidence isn't about being perfect; it's about embracing your humanity, mistakes and all. You need the courage to face your fears and take risks, even when things don't go perfectly. When you're on your own side, you develop the strength to keep moving forward—no matter how many setbacks you face. Take Action Today Now that you understand the power of being on your own side, it's time to put this principle into action. Start by asking yourself: How on my own side am I today? Can you treat yourself with kindness and compassion, even in moments of struggle? To take it a step further, think about one area of your life where you've been critical of yourself. Maybe it's your work, your appearance, or your relationships. Now, instead of criticizing yourself, show compassion. Acknowledge your struggles, give yourself some grace, and move forward with kindness. If you're ready for more transformation and support in this journey, check out my Unstoppable Confidence Mastermind, where we take principles like OMOS and apply them to real-life challenges, helping you build lasting, unshakable confidence. Remember, you're awesome, and you deserve to be on your own side. Start practicing today, and watch how your life begins to transform.

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Welcome back to Shrink for the Shy Guy! In today's episode, we dive into the third principle of sanity and victory: The Process is the Purpose. We often chase outcomes, believing they'll bring lasting happiness, but what if the true magic lies in the journey itself? Whether it's fitness goals, career achievements, or personal growth, embracing the process can transform your life. In this episode, I'll share personal stories of striving and thriving, and reveal how shifting your focus from results to growth can lead to greater joy, peace, and success. Discover how to reframe your goals, find purpose in the present, and become the person you're meant to be—one step at a time. Let's reclaim sanity and achieve victory together.-------------------------------------------------------------------------- Welcome to Today's Episode: The Process is the Purpose Hey there! I'm excited to continue our exploration of the eight principles of sanity and victory. Today, we're diving into the third principle: The Process is the Purpose. Recap of Previous Principles Before we get into this principle, let's quickly recap the first two: I Am the Captain of My Ship: This principle emphasizes taking ownership of your life and choices instead of feeling like a victim of circumstances. Surrender is the Ultimate Life Skill: This is about letting go of control and aligning with the flow of life, accepting that while we can take action, we don't control everything. The Process is the Purpose Now, let's unpack the third principle. Here's the little text I wrote to remind myself about this principle: The outcome is the carrot the divine uses to inspire. It is not the true purpose and it will not bring the permanent happiness you imbue it with. Withdraw the glamour from that fantasy and fully embrace the process. The process is the magic alchemy that transforms you into the next version you're meant to be. Seek out the discomfort, savor the victories, and feast on your life today. Understanding the Principle At its core, this principle is about shifting your focus from outcomes to the experiences and lessons found in the process. While we all have goals—be it personal, professional, or relational—focusing solely on the end result can lead to frustration, anxiety, and a sense of unfulfillment. The Pitfalls of Outcome Obsession When we become too fixated on the results we want, we risk losing sight of the joy and growth available in our day-to-day experiences. This can lead to stress, overwhelm, and even burnout. You may find yourself striving for a particular outcome, believing that once you achieve it, you will feel permanently happy. However, this is often an illusion. A Personal Example Let me illustrate this with my own experiences. In 2018, after overcoming chronic pain, I got back into physical fitness and strength training. I set a goal to get a specific physique, thinking that achieving a certain look would bring me happiness. I meticulously tracked my calories and macros, constantly worrying about whether I was on track. This mindset led me to a place of tension and stress. I labeled that time in my life “The Summer of Striving.” I was so fixated on the outcome that I missed out on the joy of the process. Conversely, during a recent training period, I shifted my perspective. I realized that the joy of working out wasn't just in the end result but in how strong and capable I felt each day. I focused on the process of becoming fitter and stronger rather than obsessing over the specific outcome. This mindset transformed my experience into something enjoyable and rewarding. The Importance of Embracing the Process So how can you apply this principle in your life? It starts by recognizing that the process itself—everything you learn and experience along the way—is the true reward. Embrace the discomfort and challenges that come with growth. Instead of rushing towards the finish line, find ways to appreciate the journey. Action Step: Shift Your Focus Your action step for this week is to identify an area in your life where you're overly focused on the outcome. Take a moment to reflect on what you can appreciate about the process itself. Whether it's a hobby, a personal project, or a fitness goal, find joy in the everyday actions that lead you toward your aspirations. Remember, life is about the journey, not just the destination. Embrace the process, savor the victories, and recognize that who you become along the way is just as important, if not more so, than the results you achieve. Thank you for joining me today! I'm looking forward to exploring the next principle with you in our upcoming episodes. Until next time, embrace the journey and trust in the process!

In this compelling conversation with Dr. Aziz Gazipura, we unpack the risk factors for, symptoms of and remedies for social anxiety. Dr. Aziz offers a creative, multi-faceted approach to supporting folks in breaking harmful patterns. We discuss his techniques and how they can help anyone who is on the path to becoming more true to themselves and more honest in their relationships. This conversation addresses the ways all of us are programmed and how the pressure to conform gets in the way of our deeper desire to be loved and accepted for who we are. You will learn about: Assertiveness Training Authenticity as a Moving Target Surviving verses Thriving How Anxiety and Avoidance Work Together How to Determine how much Social Interaction is Right for You Questioning Norms and Breaking Patterns How to become Skilled at Hard Conversations Dr. Aziz Gazipura is a clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and host of the popular podcast Shrink for the Shy Guy. With over 20 years of experience, he specializes in helping people overcome social anxiety, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. His best-selling books, including Not Nice and Less Nice More You, provide actionable tools to build confidence and express one's true self. Through his programs like Confidence University and his mastermind groups, Dr. Aziz has empowered thousands to break free from fear and live boldly, both socially and professionally. As the founder of the Social Confidence Center, Dr. Aziz has developed coaching programs, courses, and books that help individuals eliminate their fear of rejection and develop lasting self-esteem. His approach blends psychology with practical tools, creating transformative results in the lives of his clients. His dynamic and supportive style allows people to cultivate boldness, connect authentically, and thrive in their relationships and careers. Dr. Aziz is known for his insightful and transformative messages. Whether through his podcast or programs, he inspires audiences to overcome social anxiety, break through self-limiting beliefs, and live with more confidence and authenticity. His work, including Confidence University and mastermind programs, has become a beacon of hope for those looking to break free from self-doubt and live life on their terms. Social and Web Links: Website: https://www.socialconfidencecenter.com/ Podcast: https://www.socialconfidencecenter.com/podcasts/shrink-for-the-shy-guy Books: https://www.socialconfidencecenter.com/books Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@GetMoreConfidence Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drazizconfidencecoach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrAzizGazipura/ -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Your support is deeply appreciated! Find me, Lara, on my Website / Instagram You can support this podcast with any level of donation here. Order The Essential Guide to Trauma Sensitive Yoga: How to Create Safer Spaces for All Opening and Closing music: Other People's Photographs courtesy of Daniel Zaitchik. Follow Daniel on Spotify.

Remember Shy Guy that reached out to Rocky & Lissa last week? He wanted advice on how to approach his crush at an area coffee shop.  Find out what happened this weekend!

A listener calling himself "Shy Guy" reached out to Rocky & Lissa for advice.  He wants to know how to approach a cute girl that he occasionally sees at an area coffee shop.

Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy! You are brave for clicking on this one because today we're tackling the gruesome three—failure, rejection, and not-enoughness. As we approach Halloween, it's time for some real horror stories—those emotions we avoid like the plague, yet they shape so much of our lives. Forget the bat-like creatures from horror movies; the fear of failure, rejection, and feeling like you're not enough are way scarier and far more avoided. But you're here, and that's already a bold step. This episode will shed light on these dreaded feelings, helping you realize that you're not alone and that the experience isn't as terrible as it seems when we look at it together. We're diving deep into how personalizing these feelings makes them so much worse and how to shift your perspective to make them more manageable. These emotions—failure, rejection, and not-enoughness—are what hold so many of us back from living the life we truly want. The good news? They don't have to. Let's dig into these feelings, challenge them, and see what's really going on beneath the surface. Thanks for joining me on this brave journey! Visit DrAziz.com to learn more and register for my upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now. ------------------------------------------------ You're brave. You clicked on this episode, even though the title probably made you wince: Failure, Rejection, and Not Enoughness. These aren't just abstract concepts; they're feelings we all try to avoid. But if you're listening today, that means you're ready to face them, and that takes courage.Halloween might be around the corner, but forget about spooky movies with bat-like creatures jumping out to scare you. The real horror? Facing failure, rejection, and that sinking feeling of not being enough. People will line up to watch a horror movie, but when it comes to willingly diving into their fears of failure or rejection, that's a different story.So, let's dive into these “Gruesome Three.” By the end of this post, you'll not only understand why they have such a hold over you, but also how to soften their grip and start living more freely. When Was the Last Time You Felt One of These? For many, it's probably quite recent. Maybe it's happening right now as you're reading this. These feelings don't need dramatic events to show up. You can feel like a failure just by not checking off everything on your to-do list. Rejection can come from someone taking too long to text you back. And not enoughness? That can hit just from looking in the mirror.For some, these feelings come and go, but for others, they can be a constant, suffocating presence. I know, because I lived there. When I had severe social anxiety, it was like living in a soup of failure, rejection, and not enoughness. And the worst part? The more I avoided those feelings, the more power they gained. The Insanity of Avoidance Most people's unspoken life plan is to avoid failure, rejection, and the feeling of not being enough. Seems logical, right? But here's the catch: these feelings find a way to creep back in. Even if you don't get rejected by someone because you avoid social situations, that feeling of not being enough might sneak in when you see someone else confidently talking to others.So we think, “Well, if I avoid these feelings, I'll be fine.” But avoidance isn't freedom. It's a life lived in fear. The Insane Setup We Create We've set ourselves up with impossible expectations: Every action I take should go exactly as I want. Every person I interact with should respond the way I want them to. If not, I'm a failure and I need to feel awful about myself.It's an insane setup. We're demanding perfection from ourselves and others, and when that doesn't happen, we slide down into a pit of shame and self-criticism. But here's the key: it doesn't have to be that way. A New Way Forward Instead of avoiding these feelings or allowing them to tear us down, what if we approached them differently? What if we didn't personalize every failure, rejection, or moment of not enoughness? What if we saw them as part of the human experience, something that doesn't define our worth?Here's a shift you can start making today: the action is the win. The fact that you're putting yourself out there, trying something, speaking up—that's the victory. Whether or not it turns out the way you want doesn't define your success.Zoom out. Look at the bigger picture of your life. Failure, rejection, and not enoughness are momentary blips in a much larger process of growth and learning. Your Action Step: Who's Making You Feel Not Enough? Here's the big question for today: Who's making you feel not enough?We tend to think these feelings just happen to us, like rain falling from the sky. But that's not true. These feelings come from patterns of thinking that we've been practicing, often without even realizing it. You have the power to change those patterns.So the next time you feel that sting of not being enough, ask yourself: Who's doing this? How am I creating this feeling?This simple awareness can start to unravel the grip these feelings have over you. Reclaim Your Power Failure, rejection, and not enoughness don't have to be terrifying, all-consuming monsters. By understanding them, seeing their roots, and changing your perspective, you can reclaim your power and live more freely.Until we speak again, remember: you are enough, just as you are. And you have the courage to create the life you want.If you want to dive deeper into breaking free from these patterns, join me for my upcoming virtual event. We're going to deconstruct rejection and give you tools to handle it in a whole new way. Head over to draziz.com to register. Let's replace that acid pit with a trampoline that bounces you right back into life!

Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy! Are you ready to discover the one obstacle standing between you and extraordinary confidence? It might feel like there's a mountain of things in your way, but today, we're breaking it down to just one. Once you understand this obstacle, you'll see how to overcome it and create the confidence you've always wanted. In this episode, Dr. Aziz explores the root of what's truly holding you back—your own perception of what's possible for you. He'll help you challenge the beliefs and feelings that make confidence seem out of reach, and guide you towards taking the actions that will transform your life. Plus, learn more about the upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now, where you can immerse yourself in powerful strategies to accelerate your confidence journey. If you're ready to break free from discouragement and build the bold, confident life you deserve, this episode is for you. Let's dive in and uncover what's really possible for you! Visit DrAziz.com to learn more and register for the virtual event. ----------------------------------------------------- I'm excited to share something that might surprise you: there's only one obstacle standing in the way of you building an extraordinary level of confidence. That's right, just one. While it might seem like there are countless reasons preventing you from feeling confident, the truth is, they all boil down to this one key thing. Stick with me, and by the end of this post, you'll feel energized and empowered, ready to create the confidence you've always wanted. The Root of Your Confidence Struggles "Do you feel full, freely confident in every aspect of your life?" I'm talking about work, relationships, social situations, and dating. If your answer is anything less than "hell yes," it's time to ask why. Often, when we ask ourselves this question, we don't get a clear answer in words. Instead, it's more of a feeling—a heavy, discouraged, or hopeless feeling. In psychology, this is known as learned helplessness. It's the belief that no matter what you do, nothing will change, so you might as well give up. This hopelessness doesn't have to be extreme to hold you back. Even a small amount can zap your energy, prevent you from taking action, and make every step toward confidence feel like an uphill battle. The Real Obstacle: Your Perception of What's Possible The only thing truly blocking your confidence is your perception of what's possible for you. If you believe that building confidence is impossible, or that it will take too long, you'll inevitably undermine your efforts. Every setback will feel like proof that you're incapable, and every rejection will reinforce the idea that you're just not good enough. But here's the truth: the issue isn't your appearance, your social skills, your upbringing, or your personality. The real problem is your belief that those things define what's possible for you. As long as you hold onto that limiting belief, you'll be stuck in a cycle of inaction and discouragement. Shifting Your Perspective to Unlock Your Confidence To break free from learned helplessness, you must change your perception. Start by asking yourself: Do I believe that it's possible for me to create an extraordinary level of confidence? Not just in theory, but for you. This isn't about whether others can do it—can you?If your honest answer is no, it's time to challenge that belief. There's someone out there with your exact challenges who has achieved what you desire. Someone with your height, your upbringing, your experience level, or whatever other limitation you think is holding you back. So why not you? The secret to building confidence is simple: take action, even if it's uncomfortable. Confidence isn't something that appears out of thin air—it's built through doing. Lean into those small, uncomfortable actions. Whether it's saying hi to a stranger, sharing your thoughts in a meeting, or putting yourself out there in any way, every step you take builds the muscle of confidence. Reclaim Your Power Today "Do you really want to change your perception of yourself?" This is a crucial question because holding onto your limiting beliefs comes with hidden benefits. It might allow you to avoid rejection, escape discomfort, or protect yourself from potential failure. But in reality, those are just excuses that keep you stuck. You have the power to choose a different perspective. Reclaim your belief in yourself and be willing to take the necessary actions, even if they're challenging. Confidence is possible for you, and you can create it—one step at a time. Take Action Now Think about an area in your life where you feel discouraged or hopeless. Bring your attention to that feeling, and start questioning it. Do I want something different here? What benefits am I getting from keeping things as they are? Once you identify these patterns, you can begin to challenge them. Remember, you're not alone on this journey. Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are, and to know, on a deep level, that you're truly awesome.

In today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, we dive deep into the origins of social anxiety and why understanding its roots is crucial for breaking free. Have you ever wondered when and why your social fears started? Whether it began in middle school or as a teenager, this episode unpacks how key moments from the past shape our present behaviors and anxieties. Dr. Aziz also shares personal insights on his journey with social anxiety and offers guidance on how to shift those limiting beliefs that may be holding you back. Plus, you're invited to a special free masterclass, Three Golden Keys to Solve Social Anxiety, where you can discover practical steps to overcome these fears and start creating a radically different 2025. If you're ready to stop letting social anxiety define you, this episode is for you! Don't forget to visit DrAziz.com to sign up for the masterclass and continue your journey to confidence.------------------------------------------------------------------ Yes, it's absolutely possible to build your confidence quickly if you approach it the right way. But most people trying to boost their confidence on their own often make a few common mistakes that end up holding them back. As a result, they conclude: “I guess confidence just isn't for me” or “I'm hopeless.” This leads to them shelving their dreams of being confident and settling for a life of discomfort and self-doubt. As someone who spent 15 years struggling with low confidence, I'm here to show you the way out. Let's dive into the three biggest mistakes you might be making—and how to fix them. 1. Avoiding Discomfort One of the most common mistakes is avoiding discomfort. Many people think that building confidence is just about positive thinking or motivational talk. While that can help, there's only one surefire way to grow your confidence—facing discomfort head-on. Confidence grows through action, particularly the kind of action that feels uncomfortable. It's like building physical fitness: just as lifting heavier weights challenges your muscles to grow stronger, doing things that make you nervous will expand your comfort zone and your confidence. “Avoiding discomfort shrinks your confidence, while taking action—no matter how small—builds it.” If you avoid taking risks, like speaking up in a meeting or introducing yourself to someone new, your confidence will stagnate. But by embracing gradual exposure to these challenges, you can grow stronger bit by bit. 2. Relying on Harsh Self-Criticism The second major mistake people make is trying to motivate themselves through harsh self-talk. You may be familiar with the inner critic, the voice that tells you things like “That wasn't good enough” or “You're going to fail.” Many people mistakenly believe that berating themselves will somehow push them to be better. But the truth is, you can't beat yourself into confidence. Harsh criticism leads to avoidance and demotivation. Instead, you need to motivate yourself through self-compassion and celebration of small wins. Even if a conversation or task doesn't go perfectly, it's essential to acknowledge the effort you put in and the progress you've made. “You can't beat yourself into confidence. Celebrate your wins, even the small ones.” 3. Lack of Consistency The final mistake is expecting instant results and then giving up when things don't change overnight. Confidence isn't a one-time thing—it's a skill you need to practice consistently. Just like you wouldn't expect to get fit after one or two workouts, you can't expect lasting confidence after a few attempts. Aim to lean into discomfort at least three times a week. Whether it's starting a conversation, sharing your ideas, or speaking up at work, taking regular action over time will make all the difference. “Consistency is key. You don't need extreme efforts—just a little progress, again and again.” A Path Forward: Embrace Gradual, Sustainable Growth The key to lasting confidence is to be patient with yourself and stick with it over time. Make gradual exposure part of your routine, motivate yourself with self-compassion, and remain consistent in taking small, courageous steps toward growth. If you want to dive deeper into this process and have a proven roadmap, check out Confidence University. It provides a step-by-step guide, action plans, and support to help you build the confidence you deserve. Remember: you are not alone on this journey. Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you are truly awesome.

Are you stuck in a cycle of social anxiety, feeling like it's just part of who you are? In today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, we dive deep into the concept of your "social anxiety identity." How much of your identity is wrapped up in social anxiety? Dr. Aziz breaks down how this hidden identity can control your interactions, limit your relationships, and ultimately hold you back in life. Through real-life examples and actionable steps, you'll learn how to uncover the stories you've been telling yourself and begin to rewrite your identity into one of confidence and ease. Social anxiety doesn't have to define you or your future. Also, Dr. Aziz shares details about his upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now (November 1-3), where you can dive deeper into breaking free from the grip of social anxiety and set yourself up for a radically different 2025. Don't miss out on early bird pricing! Listen in, and get ready to challenge your identity and take action toward lasting change.

Jeff and Christian welcome Brendon Bigley from Into the Aether back to the show this week to discuss Sony's $700 Playstation 5 Pro, mass walk-outs at Annapurna, Microsoft firing 650 more, and Tony Hawk hinting at a new game. The Playlist: Brendon: Warhammer 40,000: Space Marine 2, Shy Guy Surfing, Shogun Showdown, Age of Mythology Retold Christian: Warhammer 40,000: Space Marine 2 Jeff: Warhammer 40,000: Space Marine 2, Shroom and Gloom Parting Gifts!

In this empowering episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz tackles one of the most challenging emotions—discouragement. Whether you're feeling stuck, hopeless, or weighed down by anxiety and pessimism, this episode is your guide to transforming those heavy emotions instantly. Dr. Aziz shares practical tools to shift your perspective and move from a place of helplessness to one of action and empowerment. Discover how to turn your discouragement into motivation, why taking action is the key to finding hope, and how you can start seeing the possibilities in your life right now. Plus, get a sneak peek into Dr. Aziz's upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now, where you'll dive deeper into these strategies and more. This episode is packed with actionable steps to help you break free from negative thinking and take control of your life. Tune in and start your journey towards a more confident, empowered you. -------------------------------- Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or hopeless? You're not alone. For many, these feelings of discouragement can spiral into anxiety or depression, making it seem like nothing will ever change. But what if I told you that you could shift this feeling instantly? In this blog post, we'll dive into how you can start turning things around today. Breaking the Cycle of Hopelessness Hopelessness isn't just a feeling—it's a perspective, a story you've convinced yourself is true. Thoughts like, "I can't change this" or "It's too hard" hold you back. Over time, these thoughts grow stronger, creating a mental prison of discouragement. You may find yourself thinking, Why even try? Nothing will change. "The perspective that creates discouragement and hopelessness is one that tells you ‘I can't change this,' but that's just a story you're telling yourself. It's not the truth." But the truth is, you can change things. The key to breaking free from hopelessness is to stop waiting for motivation and instead take action first. You see, action generates motivation, not the other way around. It's a simple concept but one that many overlook when they feel stuck. Take Action First, Motivation Follows Most people wait until they feel motivated to act. They think, Once I feel ready, I'll take that first step. But when you're feeling hopeless or discouraged, waiting for motivation is the last thing you should do. The secret to shifting your perspective is by going on offense in your life. This means taking proactive steps, even when you don't feel like it. Action brings clarity, momentum, and the confidence to keep moving forward. Waiting for motivation? That's backward. You need to create motivation through action. "You have to go on offense in your life. Action generates motivation, just like confidence is a byproduct of action." The Instant Shift: A Simple Process Here's a step-by-step process to instantly shift your mindset from hopelessness to empowerment: Acknowledge the Situation: Write down what's happening in your life. Instead of letting thoughts swirl in your head, put them on paper. This helps you see things as they are, without the emotional weight attached to them. Set a Clear Goal: What do you want to change? Be specific. Maybe you want to overcome social anxiety, build meaningful relationships, or simply feel more confident. Make sure your goal is clear and resonates with you. Connect to Your Why: Why is this goal important? What will achieving it bring you? Be honest with yourself. The deeper you connect with your why, the more emotional energy you'll have to move forward. Brainstorm Actions: Write down 10 things you could do to achieve your goal. Don't overthink it—just brainstorm. The more ideas, the better. Take Immediate Action: Pick one simple thing from your list and do it right away. This breaks the cycle of inaction and sets the stage for momentum. Why This Works When you're in a state of discouragement, your brain convinces you that change is impossible. The more time you spend in this state, the deeper you sink. But when you take action, even small steps, you start to see opportunities rather than roadblocks. "That story in your head about what's impossible is not true." By shifting your perspective through action, you're actively moving yourself out of the hopeless mindset and into one of possibility. You'll start to feel more empowered, and before you know it, your outlook on life will begin to shift. Final Thoughts: Every Problem Has a Solution The path to overcoming social anxiety, low confidence, or any challenge in your life isn't easy, but it's absolutely possible. It starts with shifting your mindset, taking action, and building momentum. No matter how long you've felt stuck, change is within your reach. If you're ready to dive deeper into these strategies and take bold steps to end social anxiety, join me for the End Social Anxiety Now virtual event from November 1st-3rd. It's designed to give you the tools, support, and immersion needed to make real progress. And remember, every problem has a solution. You just need to take the first step. Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you are awesome.

In this empowering episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz tackles one of the most challenging emotions—discouragement. Whether you're feeling stuck, hopeless, or weighed down by anxiety and pessimism, this episode is your guide to transforming those heavy emotions instantly. Dr. Aziz shares practical tools to shift your perspective and move from a place of helplessness to one of action and empowerment. Discover how to turn your discouragement into motivation, why taking action is the key to finding hope, and how you can start seeing the possibilities in your life right now. Plus, get a sneak peek into Dr. Aziz's upcoming virtual event, End Social Anxiety Now, where you'll dive deeper into these strategies and more. This episode is packed with actionable steps to help you break free from negative thinking and take control of your life. Tune in and start your journey towards a more confident, empowered you. ----------------------------------------------------------------- Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like nothing will ever change? You're not alone. Many people battling social anxiety, low self-esteem, and people-pleasing habits experience discouragement and even hopelessness. These feelings can manifest as chronic anxiety or a heavy sense of pessimism, making it seem like there's no way out. But what if I told you that these feelings can be transformed instantly? Yes, it's possible, and in this post, I'm going to show you how. The Burden of Discouragement When discouragement sets in, it often brings along a companion: a negative story about your life. You might think, “I'll never overcome this,” or “What's the point of trying?” These thoughts don't just create a bleak outlook on the future—they also reflect a dismal view of yourself. This mindset can spiral into shame, anxiety, or even depression, leaving you feeling stuck and powerless. “The perspective that creates discouragement and hopelessness is one that tells you ‘I can't change this,' but that's just a story you're telling yourself. It's not the truth.” The Instant Shift The good news is that these feelings are not permanent. In fact, they can be shifted instantly because they're rooted in perspective, not reality. Unlike physical wounds that take time to heal, the mental and emotional states of discouragement and hopelessness are based on how you're choosing to see your situation. And the best part? You can change that perspective in a moment. Take Action, Generate Motivation One of the biggest mistakes people make when they're feeling down is waiting for motivation to strike before taking action. But as Dr. Aziz points out, this approach is backward. Motivation isn't a prerequisite for action—it's a byproduct of it. When you take action, no matter how small, you begin to generate the motivation and confidence you need to keep moving forward. “You have to go on offense in your life. Action generates motivation, just like confidence is a byproduct of action.” A Simple Process to Break Free Here's a step-by-step process to transform your state of discouragement into one of hope and possibility: Acknowledge the Situation: Start by writing down what's really happening in your life. This helps you see things as they are, not through the dramatic lens of your mind. Identify What You Want: Set a clear, specific goal. It could be something like “I want to feel more comfortable in social situations” or “I want to make new friends.” Make sure it's something that truly resonates with you. Connect to Your Why: Ask yourself why this goal is important to you. What will achieving it bring into your life? This is where you tap into the emotional energy that will drive you forward. Brainstorm Actions: Force yourself to come up with 10 actions you could take to move towards your goal. Don't worry about whether they're perfect or doable—just get them down on paper. Take Immediate Action: Choose one of the easiest actions on your list and do it right away. This will kickstart your momentum and begin to shift your perspective. Moving Forward with Confidence By following this process, you'll notice an immediate change in how you feel. You'll start to see possibilities where there were none, and you'll begin to believe in your ability to create change in your life. The key is to keep moving forward, taking one action at a time, and allowing that momentum to build. “If you follow this process, you'll find that you naturally start to sit taller, breathe deeper, and feel more empowered. That's what offense feels like in your life.” An Invitation to Go Deeper If you're ready to take your journey even further, consider joining Dr. Aziz for his upcoming virtual event, “End Social Anxiety Now,” happening November 1-3. This immersive experience will dive deep into the strategies and tools you need to transform your social anxiety into social confidence. You'll learn how to free yourself from the burdens of discouragement and step into a life of connection, authenticity, and freedom. Remember, every problem has a solution. Your feelings of hopelessness are not the end of the road—they're just the beginning of a new chapter where you can write your own story. Until next time, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you are awesome.

In today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz invites his good friend and colleague, Ben Gibson, for a deep and insightful conversation about a different kind of confidence: spiritual confidence, or divine confidence. While we often discuss self-confidence and overcoming personal doubts, this episode dives into something deeper—trusting in life, the universe, or something bigger than ourselves. Together, Dr. Aziz and Ben explore what it means to have faith in the unknown, to trust that there's a solution to every problem, even when the path is unclear. Whether you come from a religious background, consider yourself spiritual, or identify as an atheist, this episode is for you. It's about embracing faith and trust, not in a prescribed way, but in a way that feels accessible to everyone. Join them as they share personal stories, practical insights, and real experiences to help you cultivate faith in yourself, others, and life itself. If you're looking for a way to build both self-confidence and a deeper spiritual connection, this episode offers powerful tools to guide you. Tune in, reflect, and start cultivating your divine confidence today! -------------------------- Unlocking Spiritual Confidence: Trusting in Life Beyond Self Are you struggling with social anxiety, people-pleasing, or a crippling fear of rejection? Perhaps you're longing to live more authentically, to speak up boldly, and to not be paralyzed by what others might think. If so, you're not alone—and there's a powerful shift you can make today that goes beyond simply “working on your confidence.” In a recent episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz Gazipura dives deep into a dimension of confidence that is often overlooked but is crucial for true inner freedom: spiritual confidence. Joined by his colleague Ben Gibson, Dr. Aziz explores how trusting in something bigger than yourself—whether you call it life, the universe, or the divine—can elevate your confidence to new heights. The Limitations of Self-Confidence Self-confidence is important. It's about believing in your ability to handle whatever life throws at you, to step into the unknown, and to take courageous actions. But, as Dr. Aziz points out, self-confidence alone has its limits. No matter how much you build yourself up, there will always be moments where life feels overwhelming, uncertain, or even terrifying. This is where spiritual confidence comes into play. “There's always something in the unknown that can make it seem threatening or scary until we develop this other side of things—spiritual confidence.” What Is Spiritual Confidence? Spiritual confidence is the trust in something beyond yourself. It's the faith that, even when things don't go according to plan or when life throws unexpected challenges your way, there is a larger process at work. This isn't about subscribing to a particular religion; it's about finding a deep, personal connection to something bigger. Ben Gibson shares how, in his journey, this trust has become a crucial part of navigating life's trials. “Faith is the belief in something that I don't see. It's not just a hope; it's a deep inner knowing.” The Role of Faith in Handling Life's Challenges Faith doesn't mean you'll be shielded from all pain or that life will always be smooth. In fact, it's often through life's most challenging moments that our faith—and by extension, our spiritual confidence—is forged. Ben and Dr. Aziz discuss how pain, loss, and uncertainty are not just obstacles to be avoided, but essential experiences that help us grow and ultimately, trust more deeply. Embrace the Process, Not Just the Outcome One of the key takeaways from this conversation is the importance of embracing the process. Just like an apple tree must go through the phases of blossoming, growing, and ripening, we too must trust the journey of our own growth—even when it feels uncomfortable or uncertain. “There's something beyond the thing that might have been great and even functional up until this point. When it falls away, it just means there's a bigger process happening.” Action Step: Examine Your Perspective As you go about your day, pause and ask yourself: How am I perceiving myself, life, and whatever you might consider divine? Just observing your current lens can be the first step toward shifting it. This simple awareness can open up a pathway to greater spiritual confidence, helping you to face life's challenges with a deeper sense of peace and trust. Remember, every moment of your life is a new one, and with the right perspective, you can move forward with confidence—not just in yourself, but in the life that unfolds before you.

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In today's episode, titled "Social Anxiety Equals Obsessive Control," we dive into a surprising aspect of social anxiety: the obsessive need for control. Have you ever thought of yourself as a control freak? Probably not if you're shy or socially anxious. But what if social anxiety is a different type of controlling behavior? What if the constant worry about how others perceive you, the fear of saying the wrong thing, or the hesitation to approach new people is actually an attempt to control others' thoughts and feelings about you? In this episode, we'll explore how this obsessive need for control manifests in social anxiety and why it's so exhausting and counterproductive. We'll also discuss the deeper fears driving this need for control and how to begin letting go, allowing yourself to feel more relaxed and confident in social interactions. Join me as we uncover the root causes of this obsessive control, and learn practical steps to release it, freeing yourself from the chains of social anxiety. By the end of this episode, you'll have new insights and tools to start living more freely and boldly. Ready to transform your social anxiety? Let's get started! -------------------------- Are You a Control Freak? How Obsessive Control Fuels Social Anxiety Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy. This is the show for you if you're sick and tired of being held back by fear, self-doubt, social anxiety, or anything that stops you from being your authentic self. I'm Dr. Aziz, and today we're diving into a topic that might surprise you: control. Are you a control freak? Unmasking the Quiet Control Freak When you think of a control freak, you might picture someone loud, bossy, and domineering. But what if control manifests differently in those of us with social anxiety? What if it's a quiet, obsessive need for control that fuels our anxiety? Imagine this scenario: You're in a social interaction, feeling tight and restricted. You're worried about what to say, how others perceive you, and whether you're doing it all wrong. This isn't just fear—it's an obsessive need to control the outcome. You want to control how others see you, how they feel about you, and ensure you don't make any mistakes. The Exhausting Reality of Social Anxiety Consider how exhausting it is to try to control every social interaction. If you're speaking in front of a group, you might feel the need to manage the thoughts and feelings of every person in the room. This obsessive thinking leads to withdrawal, avoidance, and increased anxiety. "We obsessively try to control everything because we're terrified of feeling unworthy or unlovable." The need for control stems from a deeper fear of rejection and a desperate need for approval. We fear that if someone doesn't like us, we'll feel unworthy and unlovable. This fear drives the obsessive thinking and behavior that characterizes social anxiety. Breaking Free: Embrace Uncertainty The key to overcoming this obsessive need for control is to embrace uncertainty and the possibility of rejection. It's about realizing that you can't control everything and that's okay. This shift requires both internal work—feeling and processing your emotions—and external action—exposing yourself to situations that challenge your fears. "The real danger is the feelings we are terrified to face. But feeling those emotions is the path to freedom." Action Steps to Let Go of Control Acknowledge Your Patterns: Recognize when you're trying to control others' perceptions of you. Notice the obsessive thoughts and behaviors that arise in social situations. Feel Your Feelings: Allow yourself to feel the emotions you're avoiding. This might include fear, shame, or unworthiness. Practice staying with these feelings instead of running from them. Take Bold Action: Challenge yourself to step into situations that scare you. This could be speaking up in a meeting, starting a conversation, or sharing your opinion. Observe what happens without trying to control the outcome. By practicing these steps, you can begin to dismantle the cage of social anxiety and live more freely and authentically. A Message of Hope Breaking free from social anxiety is a journey that starts with recognizing the need for control and challenging it. You have the power to change your story and embrace uncertainty. Remember, you don't have to do this alone. There are resources and support available to help you on your path to liberation. Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know, on a deep level, that you are awesome. Thanks for listening to Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz. If you know anyone who can benefit from what you've just heard, please let them know and send them a link to shrinkfortheshyguy.com. For free blogs, e-books, and training videos related to overcoming shyness and increasing confidence, visit socialconfidencecenter.com.

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy, where we tackle the fears, self-doubt, social anxiety, and shyness that hold you back from being your true self. In today's episode, "Healing Toxic Shame," we're diving deep into a topic that's often hidden away but profoundly impacts us all. Do you ever feel an intense sense of badness, as if you're not worthy of love or connection? That's shame, and for some, it's a constant, toxic presence. Today, we'll explore what toxic shame is, where it comes from, and most importantly, how to heal from it. I'll share powerful insights and practical steps to help you start transforming this toxic narrative into one of self-compassion and empowerment. This episode will guide you in recognizing the internalized messages of shame and how to replace them with messages of love and acceptance. By the end, you'll have actionable steps to begin your journey toward healing and self-worth. So, join me and discover how to liberate yourself from the grips of toxic shame, step into your true power, and become the most free, bold, and authentic version of yourself. Let's get started! ------------------------- Breaking Free from Toxic Shame: Reclaim Your Self-Worth Have you ever felt paralyzed by a deep sense of shame that seems to pervade every aspect of your life? It's a feeling many professionals struggle with, impacting their relationships, careers, and overall well-being. In today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives into the pervasive issue of toxic shame, offering profound insights and actionable steps to help you break free from its grip. Understanding Toxic Shame "Toxic shame is the feeling of badness that permeates your existence," Dr. Aziz explains. Unlike situational shame, which arises from specific events, toxic shame is a constant sense of being flawed or unworthy. This feeling often stems from early childhood experiences where negative messages from parents or caregivers were internalized. "It's like poison to a young nervous system," says Dr. Aziz, highlighting the profound impact of these early interactions. The Cycle of Self-Perpetuated Shame Many people continue to carry these negative perceptions into adulthood, often without realizing it. "You are shaming you," Dr. Aziz emphasizes. This internalized voice of disapproval can make you feel perpetually inadequate. However, the good news is that this cycle can be broken. "Toxic shame is not permanent," reassures Dr. Aziz. Recognizing that you are the one perpetuating these feelings is the first step toward liberation. Steps to Overcome Toxic Shame **1. Acknowledge the Source: Understanding that your feelings of shame are not an inherent part of you, but rather learned behaviors, is crucial. "These messages were not about you; they were about the people who projected them," says Dr. Aziz. **2. Challenge the Internalized Voice: Begin by questioning the truth of these negative perceptions. Dr. Aziz advises, "Why are you continuing to hold that perspective? Why are you advocating for your own awfulness?" Shifting your internal dialogue from one of criticism to one of compassion can be transformative. **3. Consciously Reframe Your Self-Perception: Imagine how you would talk to someone you love, especially a child. "What are the top three messages you would want to convey to them?" Dr. Aziz asks. Use these positive affirmations to start reshaping how you talk to yourself. Embracing a New Reality The journey to overcoming toxic shame involves consciously choosing to see yourself differently. "It's like learning a new language," Dr. Aziz explains. It might feel foreign at first, but with practice, it becomes second nature. The key is to step into your life without the armoring of shame, allowing yourself to connect deeply with others and live more fully. A Message of Hope Breaking free from toxic shame is not just possible; it's within your reach. By taking deliberate steps to challenge and change your internal narrative, you can reclaim your sense of worth and live a life filled with confidence and authenticity. If you're ready to dive deeper and transform your life, explore Dr. Aziz's resources at DrAziz.com. From free mini-courses to comprehensive programs, there are tools available to support you on your journey. Until next time, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you are awesome. Thanks for listening to Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz. If you know anyone who can benefit from what you've just heard, please let them know and send them a link to shrinkfortheshyguy.com. For free blogs, e-books, and training videos related to overcoming shyness and increasing confidence, go to socialconfidencecenter.com.

Hey, welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy! It's Dr. Aziz and I'm excited to be with you. How are you doing today? Are you feeling free? Self-confident? On your own side? Capable? Inherently worthy? Or maybe not? Wherever you are today, that's okay. Sometimes people think that if they've been listening to this show, reading my books, or practicing these concepts for a while, they're supposed to feel confident all the time. And if they don't, it feels like a personal failing. Let's clear that up right now—there is no perfection here. Even after all these years of teaching this stuff, I can still experience self-criticism, anxiety, or worry. But I can also not run those patterns. The key is to have the potential for liberation where you can sometimes run those social anxiety patterns and sometimes not. So today's episode is titled "What If Their Thoughts About You Don't Matter?" This isn't about forcing yourself to not care about what people think. Instead, we're going to soften the clinging worry about others' thoughts and judgments. If you find this show helpful, would you consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen? Those reviews help the show reach more people who might benefit from it, spreading liberation. Imagine if you could feel free even if people have negative thoughts about you. What if their judgments don't matter so much? Today, we're exploring that idea. Judgments often meet needs for certainty and significance. If we can see this with compassion and curiosity, we can start to liberate ourselves from the weight of others' thoughts. Stay tuned as we dive deeper into this topic and, as always, thank you for being with me today. Until next time, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome. -------- Have you ever found yourself paralyzed by the fear of what others think about you? The constant worry about their judgments can be suffocating. But what if their thoughts about you don't matter? Imagine the freedom you'd feel if you could let go of that fear. In today's episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz dives into this very topic, offering insights that could transform your life. The Trap of Social Anxiety "Social anxiety patterns often involve hyper-focusing on yourself, imagining others are judging you, and trying to control the outcome to make sure people like you." This is a common experience for many professionals. The fear of judgment can lead to avoiding social interactions, which in turn increases feelings of isolation and disconnection. Understanding Judgment People's judgments are often more about them than you. Dr. Aziz explains, "When someone judges you, they might be trying to meet their own needs for certainty or significance." Recognizing this can help you see that their thoughts don't hold as much power as you might believe. Think about an elderly relative who criticizes someone's outfit. Do those judgments really matter? Probably not. Similarly, the negative thoughts others might have about you are often fleeting and inconsequential. Shifting Your Perspective To overcome the fear of judgment, Dr. Aziz suggests a shift in perspective: Identify Your Fears: Write down the judgments you fear the most. This could be fears of being seen as awkward, stupid, or desperate. Reflect on These Judgments: Consider if these are judgments you frequently place on yourself. Understand that others' judgments often stem from their insecurities. Practice Exposure: Look at these fears and challenge their power over you. Recognize that everyone has judgments and that they don't define you. Embrace the Journey Building confidence is a journey, not a destination. It involves taking consistent action, facing fears, and practicing self-compassion. Remember, the goal isn't to eliminate fear but to learn to live with it and not let it control you. Final Thoughts What if their thoughts about you don't matter? Imagine the freedom and confidence you'd feel. Start small, practice these steps, and gradually build your resilience. For more resources, visit www.socialconfidencecenter.com, where you can find free courses and tools to help you on your journey to confidence. Until next time, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you are awesome. Thanks for listening to Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz. If you know anyone who can benefit from what you've just heard, please let them know and send them a link to shrinkfortheshyguy.com. For free blogs, e-books, and training videos on overcoming shyness and increasing confidence, go to socialconfidencecenter.com.

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy! Are fear, self-doubt, and social anxiety stopping you from being your true self? In this episode, Dr. Aziz shares the ultimate path to confidence: doing what scares you. Drawing from thousands of personal experiences and clinical cases, Dr. Aziz explains why facing your fears is the key to unlocking confidence. You'll learn how to move from merely understanding this concept to actually living it. Dr. Aziz shares his own journey from deep social anxiety to extraordinary confidence, emphasizing immediate and consistent action. Whether it's a casual greeting or a major life decision, taking steps towards what scares you is transformative. You'll also hear about practical examples, like how reading "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" led to a life-changing moment for Dr. Aziz, and how embracing fear continues to shape his life today. Ready to take action? Start small or go big—just do something that scares you today. This episode will equip you with the tools and inspiration to turn fear into your guiding star. Tune in now and discover how you can build unshakable confidence! The Path to Confidence: Overcome Your Fears and Unleash Your Potential The Journey Begins with a Single Step Ever felt trapped by your own fears? Imagine a life where confidence flows effortlessly, where social anxiety, self-criticism, and the fear of rejection no longer hold you back. Dr. Aziz, a renowned psychologist and coach, reveals the secret to achieving this in his latest video. Let's dive into the essence of his transformative message and discover the practical steps you can take to begin your journey to unwavering confidence. The Universal Path to Confidence Dr. Aziz opens with a powerful declaration: "This is always the path to confidence." Backed by years of personal and professional experience, he emphasizes that the way to build confidence is not just a theory but a proven method observed in thousands of cases. The foundation? Doing what scares you. Embrace the Fear: Feel It, Do It Anyway It's a simple yet profound truth: to grow, you must step out of your comfort zone. Dr. Aziz reminds us that while many understand this concept intellectually, few practice it in their daily lives. "Most people know it intellectually, but do not know it in their own experience of life." Fear is a natural reaction to expanding your boundaries. But, instead of waiting for the fear to disappear, Dr. Aziz urges you to take action despite it. This, he explains, is the true test of courage and the key to unlocking your potential. Real-Life Applications: From Social Anxiety to Extraordinary Confidence Dr. Aziz shares his own story of overcoming deep-seated social anxiety. Afraid of talking to people, particularly women, and speaking up in groups, he reached a turning point with the help of Susan Jeffers' book, "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway." This pivotal moment led him to realize that waiting for fear to vanish was futile. Instead, he began taking immediate and consistent actions to confront his fears head-on. Key Steps to Build Confidence Immediate Action: When you learn something new, act on it right away. The quicker you take action, the more you reinforce your courage. Consistent Action: Confidence is built over time. Regularly face your fears to steadily expand your comfort zone. "Fear is an invitation. It's a guiding star, your compass to set your navigation." Practical Exercises: Start Small, Think Big Not sure where to start? Dr. Aziz suggests simple yet impactful exercises. For instance, greet a stranger or take a cold shower to push your boundaries. These small steps can have a significant impact on your confidence over time. A Message of Hope: You Can Succeed Building confidence is a continuous journey. Dr. Aziz encourages you to be kind to yourself throughout the process. Replace self-criticism with self-compassion and celebrate each victory, no matter how small. The path to confidence is clear: face your fears, take immediate and consistent action, and embrace the discomfort as a natural part of growth. Dr. Aziz's approach is not about eliminating fear but transforming it into a powerful ally on your journey to self-discovery and empowerment. Are you ready to take the first step today?

In today's episode, we're diving into one crucial question: Discomfort When? We'll explore why embracing discomfort is essential for meaningful growth and how most people shy away from it, resulting in minimal changes in their lives. Do you know that edge where you hesitate because of fear or uncertainty? Today, you'll learn why leaning into that discomfort is the key to radical transformation. It's not just about knowing the theory; it's about living it. You'll hear why small, consistent steps towards discomfort can build the confidence muscle and lead to extraordinary changes. Are you avoiding risks because you're afraid of rejection or failure? We'll tackle these fears head-on and provide strategies to face them. Whether it's asking someone out, speaking up for yourself, or taking a bold step in your career, today's episode will inspire you to take action now, not later. Tune in to discover practical action steps that will help you break free from the cage of niceness and people-pleasing. Let's make discomfort your ally, and 2024 will be the year of your boldest self.

Welcome to a groundbreaking episode of "Shrink for the Shy Guy" with your host, Dr. Aziz. Today, we're diving into a transformative guided process that Dr. Aziz has perfected through his extensive work with individual clients, mastermind programs, and virtual events. Now, he's bringing this powerful practice directly to you. Introducing the Five Channels to Confidence and Freedom. This episode is more than just a listening experience; it's an interactive guide designed to be integrated into your daily life—whether you're at the gym, commuting, or taking a moment of stillness at home. Dr. Aziz will walk you through the five channels where you can direct your focus to significantly impact how you experience life and interact with the world around you. What You'll Discover: The Essence of Focus: Learn how your focus shapes your experiences and how shifting it can transform your reality.Practical Guidance: Dr. Aziz offers a hands-on practice to navigate through the five channels of focus, including breath, thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, and sounds, to cultivate peace and freedom in your life.Empowerment for Change: This episode is designed to be revisited, allowing you to deepen your understanding and mastery over your focus with each listen.This episode is an invitation to break free from the cycles of anxiety, distraction, and disconnection. By exploring and applying the five channels to your life, you'll discover a newfound sense of confidence and freedom. It's a journey to living more fully, embracing the present, and unlocking your true potential. No matter where you are in your journey toward self-improvement, "5 Channels to Confidence and Freedom" is your guide to a more peaceful, empowered, and confident life. Join Dr. Aziz as he helps you navigate the complexities of your inner world, offering tools and insights that promise to shift not just how you view yourself, but how you engage with the world around you. Tune in now and embark on a journey to a more confident and free you. This is your moment to transform how you live, love, and connect.