Podcasts about codependent no more

Send us a textThe term codependency began being discussed in the late 1980s, with the first Codependency Conference being held in Scottsdale, AZ, in 1986. The terms have been used, banished, and used again. Dr. Tim Cermak tried to get the terms included in the 4th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, but so far, the term has not been included. One of the first books, Codependent No More, was written by Melody Beattie. Regardless of what the over-giver behavior is called, there are symptoms that are discussed in this episode.Support the showWe're eager to hear from you! Feel free to share your thoughts through our anonymous form or simply write to info@freshouttaplans.com with your topic requests or any burning questions you'd like us to explore on the podcast. https://linktr.ee/freshouttaplans

Today, John and Vanessa speak with the best selling author of Codependent No More, Melody Beattie. They define codependency, its roots in childhood experiences, practical steps for recovery, emphasizing the significance of understanding one's feelings and setting boundaries, and more. Melody Beattie is the best selling author of Codependent No More. Since its first publication 36 years ago, it has helped heal over seven million readers and continues to sell 100,000+ copies a year. Updated for the first time, with a new chapter on trauma and anxiety, and Melody's personal story revealed for the first time, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. You can find her book HERE Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John's new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did your parents "throw tantrums", play the victim, or act more immature and childish than you?  In this revealing episode, I break down the 5 telltale signs that you had "emotionally immature parents" so that you can begin healing from your childhood!  I also structure some guidance on how to set boundaries with immature or narcissistic parents using the Feel, Heal, Attract framework.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Emotionally Immature Parents  04:32 Signs of Emotionally Immature Parents  12:32 Impact on Adult Relationships  21:58 Healing and Moving Forward  28:48 Setting Boundaries with Emotionally Immature Parents  32:03 Conclusion and Call to Action________________________________________MENTIONED IN PODCAST:

1. The Mother of Codependence shares the difference between healthy and unhealthy helping.  2. The daily practice that helps Melody stop controlling others and “Let Life Happen.” 3. Why no one is able to gaslight you more than you.  4. The one area of life where Codependence is necessary. 5. All four of us surrender to the truth that we will never be Codependent No More. About Melody: A pioneering voice in self-help literature, Melody Beattie is the author of many bestselling books, including Codependent No More – a #1 New York Times bestseller, which has sold over 7 million copies – as well as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, and Beyond Codependency. An updated edition of the bestselling, modern classic, Codependent No More, is available now. Melody lives in Southern California. TW: @MelodyBeattie IG: @authormelodybeattie To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hi, creative cutie, as you know, I've been very open and honest about my journey with codependency on the show: my struggles with it, my healing from it, my trying to understand it...In 2022, I was lucky enough to have Melody Beattie author of Codependent No More on the podcast. A couple days ago, Melody's daughter Nichole Beattie posted on her socials sharing that her mother had passed away on February 27th at 10pm. So today, in memory of Melody, and her world-altering and life-changing work, I am resharing our episode. Thank you, Melody, your work changed my life, It helped so many people heal....And it's going to continue to do that for years to come. May you rest in peace and may your work live on forever--teaching all of us to release our shame and to love ourselves at least as much as we love others. Original Description:Today's guest is Melody Beattie. She's a New York Times Best Selling Author known for titles such as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, Beyond Codependency, and her most famous book, Codependent No More-which just came out with a revised and updated edition that you should check out! Codependent No More, has sold over 7 million copies since its release in 1986. Melody is a true pioneer in this field and has helped millions find healing. Her work has changed my life, and it might just change yours, too!From our chat you'll learn:-The true meaning of codependency and whether you might be codependent-How to heal codependency through creativity-What it REALLY even means to love yourself -How to not turn on yourself when you're disappointed-How to trust the creative process--even if it takes YEARS!-Why Codependent No More IS Actually a romance novel-Plus never-before-heard insight into Melody's creative process and how she birthed the original Codependent No More!-And More! Check out Melody's work and get her new edition of Codependent No More here: https://melodybeattie.com/ -Remember to subscribe/follow the show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your pods. Please leave us a rating and review- it helps SO much in getting the show out there. And tell a friend about the show- podcasts are very personal and tend to be spread person to person. If this show helped you or made you smile, share the love :)  Follow the show: @unleashyourinnercreative  Follow me: @LaurenLoGrassoHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Is codependency secretly sabotaging your life and relationships? Are you losing yourself while desperately trying to fix someone else? Mayim and Jonathan explore how to spot the telltale signs of codependent behavior and distinguish it from a healthy relationship, romantic or otherwise. Using the book, “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” by Melody Bettle as their guide, Mayim and Jonathan break down how trauma and family dynamics can create codependency and how to break those codependent patterns. Learn why pressuring others to change never works, the physiological toll of codependency, and how to set powerful boundaries to protect yourself. They share tips on how to overcome codependency, such as how to increase emotional resilience, build your self-esteem, recognize your needs, and practice healthy detachment—without losing yourself. Plus, see how Jonathan did on Mayim's codependency quiz! Check out CODEPENDENT NO MORE: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself: https://www.melodybeattie.com/codependentnomore BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik 

Do you often feel exhausted, resentful, or underappreciated in your relationships? In this episode, Gabe Howard and licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole explore the complexities of codependency, including its less-talked-about form: “high functioning codependency.” Terri shares practical tools like the “resentment inventory” to identify unhealthy relational patterns and explains how overgiving can be an unconscious attempt to control chaos. You'll also learn how societal pressures, especially on women, play a role in this dynamic and how setting boundaries can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Whether you're managing relationships with friends, family, or colleagues, this episode will help you understand the line between healthy care and codependent behaviors. If you're tired of saying yes when you want to say no or struggling to let others help you, this is a must-listen conversation. “I coined the phrase high functioning codependency because my clients were these highly capable women, in particular, who did not identify with sort of the old school, Melody Beattie, “Codependent No More,” it's enabling an addict. That's all it is, basically. They're like dependent? I'm not dependent on squat. Everyone's dependent on me. I'm making all the money. I'm making all the decisions. I'm kind of the boss around here, so I can't be codependent, which is not true.” ~Terri Cole To learn more -- or read the transcript -- visit the official episode page. Our guest, Terri Cole, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of “Boundary Boss” and “Too Much.” For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kimberlyn and Leilani share their reactions to seeing Wicked and their thoughts about what is really going on behind the curtain.Their check-ins:  Kimberlyn loves the expansive feel at the beginning of her winter break, though the ‘slow time' between semesters goes too quickly; Leilani has rediscovered her love of audiobooks, particularly the way in which they make reading more accessible for so many people.Mentioned in the episode:  Melody Beattie's Codependent No More; Gregory Maguire's Wicked: The Life and Times of the Wicked Witch of the West;  the musicals Chicago and The Color Purple; Amanda Gorman's Do Us Good.Get exclusive content and support us on Patreon:http://www.patreon.com/WitchyWit  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/WitchyWitPodcast  Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/Witchy_Wit  Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/3azUkFVlECTlTZQVX5jl1X?si=8WufnXueQrugGDIYWbgc3A  Apple Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/witchy-wit/id1533482466  Pandora:https://pandora.app.link/nNsuNrSKneb  Google Podcast:Witchy Wit (google.com)

Hi loves! Since it's the Holiday season, I thought, what better episode to reshare with you than this one with Melody Beattie (Author of Codependent No More) on how to release and heal from codependency. Check out the original description below and Happy Thanksgiving!Original Description: Today's guest is Melody Beattie. She's a New York Times Best Selling Author known for titles such as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, Beyond Codependency, and her most famous book, Codependent No More-which just came out with a revised and updated edition that you should check out! Codependent No More, has sold over 7 million copies since its release in 1986. Melody is a true pioneer in this field and has helped millions find healing. Her work has changed my life, and it might just change yours, too!From our chat you'll learn:-The true meaning of codependency and whether you might be codependent-How to heal codependency through creativity-What it REALLY even means to love yourself -How to not turn on yourself when you're disappointed-How to trust the creative process--even if it takes YEARS!-Why Codependent No More IS Actually a romance novel-Plus never-before-heard insight into Melody's creative process and how she birthed the original Codependent No More!-And More! Check out Melody's work and get her new edition of Codependent No More here: https://melodybeattie.com/ -Remember to subscribe/follow the show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your pods. Please leave us a rating and review- it helps SO much in getting the show out there. And tell a friend about the show- podcasts are very personal and tend to be spread person to person. If this show helped you or made you smile, share the love :) Follow the show: @unleashyourinnercreative  Follow me: @LaurenLoGrassoHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Melody Beattie shares the difference between healthy and unhealthy helping:   - The daily practice that helps Melody stop controlling others and “Let Life Happen.” - Why no one is able to gaslight you more than you.  - The one area of life where Codependence is necessary. - All four of us surrender to the truth that we will never be Codependent No More. About Melody A pioneering voice in self-help literature, Melody Beattie is the author of many bestselling books, including Codependent No More – a #1 New York Times bestseller, which has sold over 7 million copies – as well as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, and Beyond Codependency. An updated edition of the bestselling, modern classic, Codependent No More, is available now. Melody lives in Southern California. TW: @MelodyBeattie IG: @authormelodybeattie To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you feeling burned out by the dating process or struggling to show up in your relationships? In this episode, I talk with Rebecca Marcus, LCSW about going at your own pace and: • Caring for yourself when starting new relationships just as you would in every other part of your life  • Not comparing yourself to others when dating and choosing the right pace for you • Slowing down to process and reflect throughout the dating process to understand how you feel about the other person  • The importance of honoring and speaking your needs with the other people in your life, even if they're also highly sensitive  Rebecca is a social worker in NYC who helps Millennial women chill out, get confident, and trust themselves and their dating process, so they can find and keep the love they want. Growing up on Disney movies, rom coms, and fairy tales about Prince Charming that showed unrealistic expectations of relationships, dating, and love only led to chaos and confusion when she started dating. So for a decade, she's helped millennial women navigate the confusing NYC dating scene, break toxic patterns, and create relationships and a life filled with meaning and joy. Keep in touch with Rebecca: • Website: https://rmpsychotherapy.com  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rm.psychotherapy  Resources Mentioned: • Free Meditation: https://rmpsychotherapy.com/subscribe  • Dating Groups: https://rmpsychotherapy.com/group  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781954118157   • Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9780553062182  • The Empath's Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff: https://bookshop.org/a/63892/9781683642114  Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

Chapter 1:Summary of Codependent No More"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie is a self-help book that addresses the concept of codependency, particularly how it affects individuals in relationships. Key Themes and Concepts:1. Definition of Codependency: Beattie defines codependency as a pattern of behavior where individuals prioritize the needs and feelings of others over their own, often at the expense of their own well-being.2. Characteristics of Codependent Individuals: The book outlines typical traits of codependent people, including low self-esteem, a tendency to take responsibility for others' feelings, difficulty in setting boundaries, and an overwhelming desire to please others.3. Impact of Codependency: Beattie explores how codependency can be rooted in family dynamics, particularly in homes with addiction or dysfunction, and how it can perpetuate unhealthy relationships and cycles.4. Breaking the Cycle: The author emphasizes that codependent individuals can reclaim their lives by recognizing their patterns, setting boundaries, and learning to take care of themselves. This requires self-reflection, developing self-esteem, and practicing self-care.5. Practical Tools and Strategies: The book offers practical advice, exercises, and affirmations for readers to identify their codependent behaviors and work towards healthier relationships. Techniques include journaling, engaging in therapy, and creating a support system.6. Empowerment and Growth: Beattie promotes the idea that healing from codependency is possible. Readers are encouraged to pursue personal growth, cultivate independence, and recognize that it's okay to prioritize their own needs and feelings.Overall, "Codependent No More" serves as a guide for individuals seeking to understand codependency, foster healthier relationships, and nurture their own emotional well-being.Chapter 2:The Theme of Codependent No More"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie is a seminal work in the field of self-help and recovery for individuals dealing with codependency, particularly in relationships affected by addiction or dysfunction. Here are the key plot points, character development, and thematic ideas in the book: Key Plot Points1. Understanding Codependency: Beattie introduces the concept of codependency, describing it as a dysfunctional relationship pattern characterized by excessive reliance on others for self-worth and emotional regulation.2. Identifying Symptoms: The author outlines various symptoms and behaviors common in codependent individuals, such as people-pleasing, enabling, and emotional numbness.3. Personal Stories and Anecdotes: Throughout the book, Beattie shares personal stories and anecdotes from her own life and from others in recovery, illustrating the impact of codependency on relationships and personal well-being.4. The Cycle of Codependency: She discusses the cyclical nature of codependency, detailing how it perpetuates unhealthy relationships and keeps individuals trapped in a pattern of care-taking that undermines their self-esteem.5. Steps Toward Recovery: Beattie provides practical strategies and steps for readers to break free from codependent patterns, encouraging self-care, boundary-setting, and self-reflection.6. The Importance of Support: The author emphasizes the value of support groups, such as Al-Anon and Codependents Anonymous, as essential resources for recovery and healing. Character Development- Melody Beattie as a Guide: As the author, Beattie acts as both a mentor and a confidante, drawing on her own experiences with codependency and addiction. Her journey from codependency to self-acceptance serves as a source of...

You are only as happy as your happiest kid, the saying goes–this quote came up in this conversation and we discussed why this is a terrible quote! Today we have Maggie Burchill with us from Caron Treatment Centers to discuss strategies to be ok when we have a partner, child or other family member or friend going through a difficult time like substance use disorder or mental health challenges. Maggie shares with us what family recovery is and looks like, and how addiction is a disease and every family member plays a role–whether they realize it or not. We also discuss how recovery for everyone is not a “one and done” thing and this work is lifelong. We also discuss ways to find peace and ease–our collective favorite mantra. Join us! Things we mentioned in this episode:   The book Codependent No More by Melody Beattie   Peaceful Barb on instagram - a great follow!   The book The Craving Mind by Dr. Jud Brewer   The book Atomic Habits by James Clear   Alanon Support Groups Caron has free support groups for Parents   CTC has monthly in person parent group meetings - Parent to Parent Building Connections   Caron's mission is to transform lives impacted by drug and alcohol addiction through proven, evidence-based, comprehensive, and personalized behavioral healthcare. Caron also offers prevention and education programs for schools and communities.    Parent to Parent: Building Connections Groups are meeting monthly! Join parents with similar-aged students and a trained facilitator to discover techniques, tips, and tricks to tackle common challenges and strengthen connections. Most importantly we'll interact with other parents who are in the same stage or who have been there and can offer advice. Bring a friend and join the conversation!   You can now follow Chrissie on Instagram @ctc_chrissie or on Facebook /@Chrissie.CTC for info from each episode, Parent to Parent blog updates, and other parent resources. You can also email Chrissie at cdziembowski@dtownctc.org We would love to hear from you!   Communities that Care has a Parent to Parent Blog and many online resources. Please follow us on socials for more tips, resources and support!: Instagram @downingtownctc  Facebook @DowningtownAreaCTC  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeok9Z1R_xkbYmMFlcXjOZw Be sure to Subscribe/Follow us to get new episodes.    Find the episode webpage and previous episodes HERE. 

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In this episode of the Mom on Purpose book club, we're going to dive into the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. I think so much of us as Christian women, as mothers, we can find and see ourselves a lot in this definition she lists as being a codependent or struggling with codependency. So, listen in as we recognize and overcome the traits of codependency, focusing on how caretaking and low self-esteem play significant roles.We also address the emotional journey of detaching from adult children, the importance of setting boundaries, and fostering independence. Through this book, I share strategies for mothers transitioning from being deeply involved in their children's lives to allowing them more independence. Reclaim your self-worth and emotional healing, as we discuss the effects of self-criticism and the path to self-acceptance.What you'll learn:How codependency can manifest even in the absence of substance abuseHow to step out of the drama triangle and foster healthier interactionsStrategies for mothers to transition from controlling to guiding as their children grow more independentShifting focus from fixing others to managing one's own emotionsSigns of being codependent based on the book "Codependent No More" by Melody BeattieFeatured on the Show: Codependent No More by Melody BeattieHonoring the Self: Self-Esteem and Personal Transformation by Nathaniel BrandenOn Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-RossClick HERE to watch this video to learn The 3 Things to Avoid When Reading Self-Help BooksHow to Connect with Lara: Web: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/j.lara.johnson/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/larajohnsoncoaching Work with Lara: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com/work-with-me/

Welcome back to The Integrated Man Project! I'm your host, Travis Goodman, and today we have a truly transformative episode lined up for you. We're diving deep into personal growth, healing, and the journey to reconnect with our true selves. Joining us is the incredible Sam Powers—a personal development coach, custom home builder, and dedicated father of three.In this heartfelt conversation, Sam opens up about his struggles with shame, feelings of inadequacy, and how these led to alcohol abuse and an emotional breakdown in 2020. We'll hear about the life-changing impact of his six-day intensive therapy workshop at On Site and his journey of rebuilding both his home and his emotional life.Together, we'll explore the pressures of evangelical and purity culture, the challenges of codependency, and the importance of empathy, vulnerability, and intentionality in the process of healing. Sam shares profound insights from his work on "primal questions" and offers practical advice on how men can embrace their emotional healing.HIGHLIGHTS: The Breaking Point and Redemption: Sam opens up about his emotional breakdown in June 2020, driven by shame and feelings of inadequacy, leading him to alcohol abuse. His turning point came through his wife's encouragement and attending a six-day intensive therapy workshop called On-Site. Codependency Unraveled: Reflecting on his past, Sam discusses how he discovered his codependent tendencies and worked diligently to address them. He credits Melody Beattie's book, "Codependent No More," as a critical resource during his recovery, allowing him to break free from unhealthy patterns and find authentic ways to cope. Primal Questions and Personal Growth: Sam introduces the concept of "primal questions" – core emotional needs stemming from childhood – and how asking these questions has transformed his approach to coaching and personal development. What's one question you need to answer about yourself to start your journey toward emotional healing and personal growth? Reflect on this and consider what steps you can take to seek the answers you need.So, sit back, relax, and get ready for a powerful and enlightening conversation that promises to inspire and empower you on your own journey to integration.SUPPORT THE SHOW:CLICK HERE!JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!CLICK HERE: MAILING LISTWATCH ON YOUTUBE:WATCH HEREConnect and Support Sam:Instagram: swamipowersWeb: www.sampowerscoaching.comConnect and Support Travis:YouTube: Travis GoodmanInstagram: @integratedmanprojectCheck out the Website: IntegratedManProject.com

Susan Knower, my therapist mom, joins us today for an Ask Me Anything, therapist style! She is a licensed professional counselor with a substance abuse specialization and is here today to answer the most common questions you submitted on Instagram.  We'll talk about the challenge of convincing a loved one to stop drinking, if trauma can be healed without a professional therapist, how the ‘stages of change' apply to alcohol, the role of a therapist in a person's healing journey, our thoughts on rehab, and tips for redirecting your negative internal thoughts.  The following books were mentioned in today's episode:  Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Buy Yourself the F*cking Lillies by Tara Schuster Join us in the The Sober Mom Life Cafe! For just $25/month, you get access to 8 weekly peer support meetings, the exclusive Cafe social feed (like Facebook, but better!), our monthly book club, the monthly Q+A, the ability to join the retreat, and the chance to share your story on The Real Sober Moms, and merch discounts! For a limited time, get one week free!  We also have The Sober Mom Life Community for just $5.95/month - In the Community, you'll receive access to the exclusive Community social feed (like Facebook, but better!), the exclusive community chat, our monthly book club, and one free weekly meeting.  My mocktail recipe book, ‘No Ethanol Needed' is finally here! Grab your copy here:  https://mykindofsweet.com/2024/01/the-no-ethanol-needed-mocktail-ebook-is-here/ Click here to follow The Sober Mom Life on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's go deeper! It's one thing to know you need better boundaries. It's another to know how to create them. In this new episode of Unfollow, Master-Certified Life Coach Melissa Wiggins is back with the first part of 13 questions to help you have better boundaries. Hear what they are, and the difference they've made in her own life and the lives of her clients.Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let's get started today. Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UNFOLLOW: Question Everything with Excitement, and download theFREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out One.Life today! Read Melody Beattie's book, Codependent No More - How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself Questions? Email Melissa: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeFollow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to “Unfollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins#boundaries #settingboundaries

What is your relationship with exercise? Do you ever feel tied down by it, like it's a burden? Do you experience emotions like resentment, frustration, or anger when it comes to exercise? Well guess what? You absolutely do not have to exercise to lose weight! I am here today to challenge the common belief that exercise is essential for weight loss. I will be sharing my personal journey of dropping 50 pounds without relying on traditional workout routines. I discuss the impact of exercising out of love rather than obligation and propose alternative methods to incorporate gentle movement into your daily life. There are many negative effects of exercising out of obligation, so I encourage you to reassess your mindset towards exercise, diet, and self-image.  Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Julie Upton If you are ready to lose weight and change the way you think, sign up for the lifetime access membership for Love Yourself Thin! You can find all the information by clicking here. Get the full show notes and information here: https://daratomasson.com/140 Download the worksheet HERE!

This is a topic that's been requested many times and one that affects many households.  Michelle and Sandy have a raw conversation about how addiction touched their lives and how they participated in their own happiness when circumstances were out of their control. They share resources that were instrumental in their healing in the hopes it can be helpful for anyone who is listening that might be going through it.   Dr. Gabor Maté - https://drgabormate.com https://beyondaddiction.ca  Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself https://a.co/d/2JcVFuh Codependent No More Workbook https://a.co/d/4JX9qKT Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time https://a.co/d/604Tig1 Courage to Change: One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II https://a.co/d /aiYdaxr https://al-anon.org (https://al-anon.org) Enrich Course (USE 40%OFF CODE: PODCAST): https://sheisliberated.com/enrich Huge thank you to our amazing Audio Engineer for the podcast Terry Robertson!! SCREENSHOT & TAG US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Liberated:  https://instagram.com/sheisliberated?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Liberated Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sheisliberated1    

Tawny and Lisa talk codependency, something many folks in recovery grapple with. Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More, defines codependency as, “The concept of losing one's self while taking care of another.” Anticipating other people's needs all the time leads to anxiety, projection, and manipulation. The answer is to stop trying to control others, set firm boundaries, and figure out how to handle people who sap your energy and pull you into chaos. Music Minute features Gin Blossoms, Madonna and Stone Temple Pilots Check out Codependent No More  Reach out to Codependents Anonymous  Check out Al-Anon  Read about Energy Vampires and Chaotic Friends   Order Tawny's book, DRY HUMPING: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze Sign up for "Beyond Liquid Courage" Order Tawny's new NA drink, (parentheses) Purchase Lisa's memoir, Girl Walks Out of a Bar   Order Tawny's book,DRY HUMPING: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze Sign up for "Beyond Liquid Courage" Purchase Lisa's memoir, Girl Walks Out of a Bar

Have you ever found yourself constantly prioritizing the needs of others while neglecting your own? Do you get anxious when those you care about are anxious or angry? Do you find arguments leave you contorted, desperately seeking forgiveness and acceptance from your partner? If this sounds like you or someone you love, its time to confront the possibility that you may be trapped in the clutches of codependency.  This Language of Love Bite, I dive into the complex world of codependency, its roots, its effects on our relationships, and the path to healing. The origin of codependency can be traced back to traumatic childhood experiences, such as being raised by an addict, a narcissist, or enduring emotional or physical abuse. These early life challenges often lead to "parentification," where children assume the emotional and sometimes physical responsibilities of caring for their parents, setting the stage for codependent behaviors later in life. Despite the challenges, I acknowledge the positive aspects of codependency, such as the innate desire to give and receive love. Join me in exploring these insights further and taking the steps toward healing and growth. In this Bite, I explain: Codependency as an addiction and a lifetime of recovery The role of traumatic childhood experiences in developing codependency Codependents' fear of abandonment and susceptibility to toxic partners The struggle to discern authentic love from manipulation The positive and manipulative elements of codependency How to heal from codependency through inner child work and setting boundaries The challenges codependents may face when setting boundaries and standing up for themselves Remember, if you're looking to enhance both your love life and sex life, whether you're in a relationship or not, I highly recommend checking out my free course on Quantum Sex.  Additionally, if you're seeking to break free from codependency, there are some valuable resources I suggest exploring. Co-dependents Anonymous is a great program that can provide the guidance you need. Another excellent resource is Melodie Beattie's influential book, "Codependent No More."  These resources can offer invaluable insights and support on your journey towards personal growth and independence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As moms, making time to prioritize friendship can feel difficult or downright impossible depending on your situation. In today's episode, Karen answers questions about friendship from the new mom in town, working moms, introverted moms, and the mom who feels out of place with others in her peer group.  Episode Recap: 4:17 - The Loneliness of Motherhood 7:15 - Finding New Friends After Moving 9:15 - The Challenge of Making Friends as an Introvert 10:45 - Balancing Work & Friendship 13:43 - Dealing with Past Hurt from Mom Cliques Resources: Want to start a group? Learn more: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/start-a-group Codependent No More book: https://amzn.to/4bmmrs4 Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite  Check out Christian Parenting's Discipleship Simplifed Guide: https://www.christianparenting.org/product/discipleship-simplified/ Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms  and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

There's just never enough hot dogs in Todd Haynes' brilliant “May December”! Julianne Moore and Natalie Portman are both monsters in sunglasses, and Charles Melton's broken DILF makes us want to re-read Codependent No More immediately. Join us for The Best Supporting Aftershow and early access to main episodes on Patreon: www.patreon.com/bsapod Email: thebsapod@gmail.com Instagram: @bsapod Colin Drucker - Instagram: @colindrucker_ Nick Kochanov - Instagram: @nickkochanov

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3009: Dr. Margaret Rutherford's article delves into the complexities of codependent relationships, guiding readers to discern their own relationship dynamics. She explores the transformation of codependency from its initial association with substance abuse enabling to a broader understanding of enmeshed partnerships. Through relatable examples and probing questions, Rutherford encourages self-reflection on personal roles within relationships, urging a shift towards healthy interdependence. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/10-questions-to-ask-if-youre-in-a-codependent-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: "When you say, 'I'm codependent,' or, 'We're codependent,' you're often describing a loss of feeling responsible as individuals and/or that your lives are too tightly interwoven." Episode references: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie: Codependent No More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3009: Dr. Margaret Rutherford's article delves into the complexities of codependent relationships, guiding readers to discern their own relationship dynamics. She explores the transformation of codependency from its initial association with substance abuse enabling to a broader understanding of enmeshed partnerships. Through relatable examples and probing questions, Rutherford encourages self-reflection on personal roles within relationships, urging a shift towards healthy interdependence. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/10-questions-to-ask-if-youre-in-a-codependent-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: "When you say, 'I'm codependent,' or, 'We're codependent,' you're often describing a loss of feeling responsible as individuals and/or that your lives are too tightly interwoven." Episode references: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie: Codependent No More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3009: Dr. Margaret Rutherford's article delves into the complexities of codependent relationships, guiding readers to discern their own relationship dynamics. She explores the transformation of codependency from its initial association with substance abuse enabling to a broader understanding of enmeshed partnerships. Through relatable examples and probing questions, Rutherford encourages self-reflection on personal roles within relationships, urging a shift towards healthy interdependence. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/10-questions-to-ask-if-youre-in-a-codependent-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: "When you say, 'I'm codependent,' or, 'We're codependent,' you're often describing a loss of feeling responsible as individuals and/or that your lives are too tightly interwoven." Episode references: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie: Codependent No More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode #80: "Neediness" has come up in plenty of episodes, but this is the first one dedicated to that loaded word. The episode was inspired by a letter from a listener--author, Sally Vardaman, who found herself reacting to my mom's story in episode #72 about her decision to end a friendship over what she called, "neediness." Sally's letter was so reflective and insightful that I asked her to come on the show. We covered: feeling drained by a friend's needs.worrying you're overtaxing friends with your needs.eliminating the shame of having needs in the first place. We all have needs! They just rarely cannot be met by one particular friend.MEET SALLY VARDAMANSally Vardaman is a writer who believes in the power of stories to make us think, question our assumptions, and connect with each other despite our differences. She is the author of Shoot the Arrows, a new book of essays to her three teenage children on why honesty and self-reflection are the keys to a healthy and meaningful life. You can find more about her work at sallyvardaman.com. As well as on Facebook, Instagram, and Goodreads.The Books Sally has found helpful on the topic of neediness:Sally wrote, "There are no quick fixes and we need all the education we can get.  The great thing about books and learning is we always have the opportunity to understand ourselves better and change."Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, a great assessment on attachment issues with lots of practical suggestions for all attachment types.Platonic by Marisa Franco, a look at attachment specifically in friendships (pretty sure I heard about this one through Dear Nina :)How to Be Your Own Best Friend by Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz (first published in 1971, thank you Nora Ephron!)Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melodie Beattie (first published in 1986)Lying by Sam Harris Let's connect over all things friendship! Here's my Substack newsletter about friendship & more Dear Nina website with show notes and a guide to pitching yourself as a guest Instagram & TikTok Twitter JOIN the Dear Nina Facebook group Ask an anonymous question

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Welcome back to another Language of Love Session! In this episode, I chat with a caller from Australia, Fatima, who is currently going through a tough divorce and grappling with a challenging relationship with her narcissistic mother. Fatima opens up about her struggles with codependency and anger regulation, which she believes are deeply rooted in her traumatic upbringing. I offer her guidance on setting clear boundaries with toxic individuals, including her mother, to protect her emotional well-being and create a healthier environment. Additionally, I discuss the importance of seeking therapy to address unresolved trauma, gain a deeper understanding of herself, and develop effective strategies for managing codependency and anger.  We discuss: How unresolved childhood trauma can affect an individual's parenting style The importance of self-preservation and creating distance from toxic individuals The “splitting” behavior and manipulation tactics used by borderlines How to use somatic experiencing for trauma recovery Remember, if you're going through a difficult time, it's important to seek help and support. You don't have to face these challenges alone. Reach out to a therapist, counselor, or trusted friend who can provide guidance and a listening ear. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life, and with the right support, you can achieve it. I also recommend you check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back with some more therapeutic goodness as we approach the tail end of our therapy series with another fire episode! Awareness around mental health, trauma, dysfunctional family systems and more has been coming into the national awareness on a bigger level over the last 10 years. But back in 1986, the concept of codependency was really new. And unless you were deep into studying sociology or psychology or seeing a therapist yourself back then (also something that wasn't as widely accepted), Melody Beattie's book, Codependent No More, gave words to the masses who never had a way to describe these types of relationships in their lives. Codependency can worm its way into our lives—the definition being; those imbalanced relationships in our lives where one person enables another person's self-destructive behavior (like addiction, immaturity, or even irresponsibility). It's a bit insidious for those who don't know what it looks like, and for so many, Melody's book was a resource to help free themselves from something they may not have even recognized in their own lives. 35 years later, it's still shining a light on those situations. Melody comes in with a scalpel to cut away to this very precise way of behaving and relating to another that is cloaked in good intentions and self-righteousness but is actually ruining our relationships. And fun fact, we were the very first podcast Melody has ever been on! Last year, she celebrated a new edition of her book honoring 35 years of its impact. Melody and Jen walk through how to recognize what codependency is and how it might be a part of your life and your relationships—which are the first important steps toward making an enormous change for the better.  * * * Thank you to our sponsors! BetterHelp | Visit betterhelp.com/forthelove to save 10% on your first month!  FOCL | Visit https://focl.com/ and use code FORTHELOVE at checkout for 20% off of your purchase Jen Hatmaker BookClub | Visit jenhatmakerbookclub.com and use code READ at checkout $5 off your purchase!   Thought-Provoking Quotes: “Until I understood my codependency, I didn't really feel like I had a life. I was just responding to others wherever I went.” - Melody Beattie “Codependency is being so obsessed with other people that that's all we can see and so out of touch with ourselves that we don't even see that anymore.” - Melody Beattie “Seeing ourselves is probably the bravest yet most painful thing we're ever asked to do in this  lifetime. Seeing ourselves every day for the rest of our lives, instead of focusing on the other person and figuring out what they need to do to be better, to make them  happier, to live better lives, all the things that we really  should be doing for ourselves, but nobody ever ever told  us.”- Melody Beattie “The key to codependency is the victim story. Somewhere underneath everything, there is a victim story and we're just simply writing the next page or the next chapter of it every time we interact with someone.” - Melody Beattie “When we take care of a person in a way that we feel victimized by it, that is just keeping our victim story going. And that doesn't feel good. Although for many of us, it feels so comfortable.” - Melody Beattie  “Is it important to me to enjoy my life–not your life, not his life, not her life–to enjoy my life today and to love myself, at least as much as I love others?” - Melody Beattie   Melody's Links: Website: https://melodybeattie.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/authormelodybeattie/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/writermelodybeattie/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/melodybeattie    Resources Mentioned in This Episode: For the Love episode with Dr. Brene Brown: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/getting-vulnerable-with-dr-bren%C3%A9-brown/id1258388821?i=1000391341377  Earnie Larson Books: https://www.hazelden.org/store/author/626?Earnie-Larsen  Sharon Stone's biography: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-beauty-of-living-twice-sharon-stone/1137456964    Connect with Jen! Jen's website: http://jenhatmaker.com/  Jen's Instagram: https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker Jen's Twitter: https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/  Jen's Facebook: https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker Jen's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker?sub_confirmation=1  *original episode broadcast previously on the For the Love Apple Premium Podcast Channel

If the holidays make you nervous, anxious, or stressed because of any kind of FAMILY dynamic, then today's episode is specifically just for you. We're going to talk through some of the ways you can avoid having drama, stressing yourself out about people pleasing, and instead hold really good, healthy holiday boundaries to make 2023 your most codafree holiday season ever. I also have a download for you if you feel like you could use a little help with some examples of healthy holiday boundaries! Go to my profile on Instagram @corrinestokoe and DM me the word HOLIDAYS, and I'lI send you my list of healthy holiday boundary examples that you can keep in your back pocket and brush up on before all your family holiday gatherings or as those conversations pop up in your family group texts or when you see your in-laws phone calls come through. ALSO if you find today's episode helpful to you, make sure you're following me @corrinestokoe on Instagram because we're going to be doing a LIVE series every day next week, November 13-17, at 10am pacific time, where we'll talk about having codafree holidays this year in way more depth, we'll be answering more questions that people submit and giving lots of tips on this topic. Time Stamps: [01:22] - Corinne and Neil recall one of the worst fights in their relationship, which happened around the holidays. [10:26] - What does codependency look like during the holidays? [15:32] - “What would it look like if _____?” [22:31] - Corinne and Neil give examples of how to have a Codafree Healthy Holiday. [30:31] - Do you find it tricky to balance time between families during holidays? [41:16] - Do you have an overbearing family member disrupting your holiday? [47:57] - Are you close to family members who don't get along with each other? [54:36] - How do you communicate your holiday non-negotiables? Supporting Resources: If you're curious at all about how codependent you might be, go to mintarrow.com/quiz to take our free "how codependent are you" quiz to find out! Get our list of Codafree Healthy Holiday Boundaries by DMing me the word HOLIDAYS on instagram.com/corrinestokoe "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" Book by Melody Beattie  "Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If You Life Depended On It" Book by Chris Voss "Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less" Book by Greg Mckeown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to SEX ED FOR YOU with Lauren & Holland: Where Research Meets Reality! On our fourth episode, Lauren and I lean heavily into the reality aspect of this podcast. The day we recorded this episode was the day we launched this podcast, and boy were we exhausted!  Not only were we overwhelmed with the details of launching, but we both were facing hardships in our personal lives as well. We discuss the aftermath of a triggering event, the therapeutic effect, and being torn between emotions and logic.  Like Lauren's shirt? Us too. Buy it here on our website! Here are the authors + books we mentioned throughout the episode: adrienne marie brown, Cassandra Speaks by Elizabeth Lesser and Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It's all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠

Grace Based Families Podcast October 25, 2023 Episode #110 Host: Karis Murray, Michelle Broek Michelle delves into the personal experience of growing up in a family plagued by codependency. Primarily revolving around the struggles of her brother's mental illness, she shares her journey of misunderstanding the concept of codependency, often confusing it with mere neediness. Michelle describes how she adopted a posture of self-sufficiency and people-pleasing to alleviate her family's turmoil. Michelle's personal narrative aims to highlight the roots of codependency in fear and deep concern for others, ultimately demystifying its manifestations in various relationships. The conversation transitions into the importance of setting boundaries, stressing that it is not an act of selfishness but a necessity for personal well-being. Karis & Michelle discuss common misconceptions about boundaries and address the pressure of being constantly available for others. They emphasize the importance of establishing boundaries not just with others but also with oneself. The discussion leads into the exploration of false beliefs, fear-based emotions, and the need to please others, identifying these as potent drivers behind unhealthy codependent patterns. The episode concludes on a hopeful note, underscoring the power of taking small moments of autonomy for self-care and discovering one's identity outside the context of relationships. Putting Jesus in the center of one's life can lead to healthier thinking and behavior. This episode presents an enlightening discussion on navigating codependency and setting boundaries, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding of these complex concepts and their importance in maintaining personal well-being. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Celebrate Recovery: https://www.celebraterecovery.com/resources/issue-pamphlets?view=article&id=303:ip-co-dependency&catid=117/ Parents of Addicted Loved Ones: https://palgroup.org/ Send your question, comment and prayer requests to: family@gracebasedfamilies.com Make a donation at the Grace Based Families website

Welcome to Sex Ed For You: Where Research Meets Reality. The theme of episode 3 is communication; the main idea-- who are you, what do you want, where have you been, and where do you want to go? Lauren and I briefly discuss substance use and how it can effect partnership and compatibility. We agree that substance use and abuse are one of the most important things to discuss when considering partnership with someone! For information on codependency, we recommend: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. We also talk about how Lauren and I react when digesting information or difficult conversations. Typically, people will deeply desire one of three things: solitude, silence, or stillness. This conversation leads us to consider what it's like dating though a trauma-informed lens, as some people struggle to understand another's inherent need for one of those three things: solitude, silence, and stillness. Then, H gives Lauren and the audience 20 questions to ask a potential partner. Here's the link to download that list for free (valid until Nov 1)! We also discuss what it looks like to shift your perspective on dating for fulfillment and dating to add to an already joyful and fulfilled life: a life where you love yourself enough to not depend on the love of another. Lastly, Lauren and I lament the feeling of being "too much" for people, both romantically and platonically. Lauren shares that her partner and husband, Trey, is the first to truly affirm her "too much-ness." For more information on doing power differently, we recommend Cassandra Speaks by Elizabeth Lesser.

-What does codependency look like in 12-step programs (even in Codependents Anonymous)? -What are common vulnerabilities of codependents in 12-step programs? -How can codependents avoid their common pitfalls in 12-step programs to get the most out of them? Welcome to Episode 149! This week, Natalie Friedman is back to discuss codependency in 12-step programs. You'll hear about the history of 12-step programs and how the principles that helped alcoholics get sober also helped their loved ones with their relationships. Natalie describes what codependency looks like in 12-step programs and how members can be vulnerable to codependency due to an emphasis on giving service, helping others, etc. We conclude with suggestions from Natalie on how codependents can participate in 12-step programs while avoiding our common pitfalls like people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and poor boundaries. It's a must-listen! Links for the show: Sign up for the newsletter to receive all things codependummy: https://keap.app/contact-us/2302598426037497  Journal! The Confiding Codependummy: 30 Days of Journaling Prompts for a Less-Codependent and More-Conscious YOU for just $1 a day. www.codependummy.com/toolsforhealing FREEBIE! The Self-Validation Challenge: Learn to validate your GD self: www.codependummy.com/challenge  Money! Funds! Help support the show via a one-time donation via secure Paypal link: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=RJ3PSNZ4AF7QC Work with me! Email marissa@codependummy.com to inquire about psychotherapy, coaching, or coming on the show! More on this week's guest: Natalie Friedman is a licensed marriage family therapist in private practice in Santa Monica CA. She has been in practice for about 10 years and is currently seeing people online and in person (prefers in person). Natalie loves working with highly sensitive folks who grew up in addicted/dysfunctional families. www.natalietherapy.com  Natalie's initial interview on the podcast: https://codependummy.com/addicted-and-dysfunctional-families-with-natalie-friedman-lmft/  More deets on this week's episode:  We revisit Natalie's definition of codependency and she adds what she's found on Google: that it is described as a pattern, a condition, a set of behaviors, and an addiction.  Natalie opens up about her codependent relationship with her mother, reflecting how “we were too close.” She shares how she merged her identity with her mother, was always about to “save” her mother, and felt she was the best caretaker/loyal daughter/needs-anticipator for her mom.  We shift focus to codependency in 12-step programs. Natlaie provides some history on Alcoholics Anonymous and how a program for the loved ones of alcoholics, known as Al-Anon, began soon after since there was a recognition that they needed help too. In AA, alcoholics are powerless over alcohol, while in Al-Anon, members are powerless over people.  Natalie describes what codependency can look like in 12-step meetings: people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, a need to control, and having high expectations from the program. She discusses the vulnerability of participants in these programs since they are often newly sober, emotionally raw, and susceptible due to their fragile state. This can lead to over-helping, strict adherence to the principles, and neglecting other areas of one's life.  Without addressing codependency in 12-step programs, participants are likely to end up feeling out of control, lost, frustrated, resentful, and dissatisfied in their relationships. In order to avoid these pitfalls, Natalie suggests practicing awareness, starting to read about the program (books like Melody Beattie's Codependent No More), and putting language to what is happening.  Thanks for coming on Natalie! And thank you for being here, dear listener! PLEASE: Rate.  Review. Subscribe.  Share. We need more ratings on Spotify! TY! -The Self-Validation Challenge - free 30-day guide to providing yourself with all the validation you seek: www.codependummy.com/challenge -Get your copy of the Confiding Codependummy: 30 days of journaling prompts for a less-codependent and more-conscious you! www.codependummy.com/toolsforhealing  -If you are wanting to dive into your codependency deeper one-on-one, please email marissa@codependumy.com to work with me! -Sign up for the newsletter: https://keap.app/contact-us/2302598426037497  -Support the show via a one-time secure donation: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=RJ3PSNZ4AF7QC  See you next week! 

I have been in a disempowered fearful place. And that's what I'm here to help you do on this episode. To be in healthy thriving relationships. To feel empowered. To have confidence. To trust that we can feel our feeling and to believe in those with whom we're in relationship with, that they can too! Faith over fear. I am here with you on this journey. Lets go warrior! The post Codependent No More appeared first on Susie Pettit.

High Vibe Self-Help Book Recommendation of: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Join host Liz Gracia in this enlightening episode of "Your Weekly Dose of Higher Consciousness" as we explore the transformative power of "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself." In this episode, we'll delve into:The proven energy of the content  of the book to help you heal and the consciousness calibration of this self-help book.The concept of "neutral" energy on the Map of Consciousness (MOC 250) and its potential to change your life.A deep dive into the remarkable author, Melody Beattie, and her own journey of resilience and healing.An overview of the book's empowering message, including how it helps you break free from old patterns.Insights into setting healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships.Why this book's wisdom is more relevant than ever in today's world.  If you've ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationships, this episode guides you to a brighter future. Tune in and embark on a self-care and personal growth journey with us.Links I promised:Discover Why Being NEUTRAL Is a Power Play in ConsciousnessBooks by Dr. David R. Hawkins:The Map of Consciousness ExplainedLetting Go The Pathway to SurrenderLearn to elevate your emotional state in the moment, become aware of, and release accumulated stress so you feel better and think more clearly. It's a significant next step toward unlocking the transformational power of our hearts.Support the showIf you like what's going on here, you can join me on social media here: Facebook Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TheMindBodySpiritNetwork.com

You've always wanted a VIP invite to the coolest party, right? Then you want to be an Instagram Insider. You will get all the current algorithm hacks and tips to grow your following, bring in new potential clients (and friends), and make some MONEY with the GRAM Here's your invitation to the VIP INSTAGRAM INSIDER SCOOP INVITE!Connect with Emmy on the GRAM  @theheyheyemmy or hang out on Facebook.Let's talk about how alcohol affects individuals and society and some resources to help you overcome addiction. I think it's an important topic as many people struggle with alcohol abuse. I know it's possible to recover. The first thing you need is to develop a relationship with God to beat alcohol addiction. Having Christ as our partner will give us guidance and support. It's also important to find a mentor or therapist. Help from a professional can make a big difference, and it's safe to ask for support. My depression and heavy drinking led me to seek counseling after college. I got a lot of help from a counselor with a Christ-centered perspective.Additionally, I found that joining a supportive group was invaluable. Participating in a Bible study or a church group provides guidance, encouragement, and accountability. We need to surround ourselves with people who can bring us upliftment. I was lucky that I was given permission from the courts to spend time with my church group in addition to AA. During that as I was able to deepen my connection to the Lord and I think made me the person I am today. I'm grateful for God's help in overcoming my alcohol addiction and becoming a better mother. Addressing the negative culture of "mommy drinking" is a priority for me. We must reconsider our relationship with alcohol and find healthier coping mechanisms and sources of fun. My journey towards enjoy life without relying on alcohol is ongoing but with Jesus as my partner I know that I can have success over this disease. For continued conversation and support, connect with me on Instagram. Let's support one another as we pursue freedom and breakthroughs. With God's help, we can overcome anything. So let's turn to Him, pray for strength, and live life to the fullest.Resources Mentioned: I highly recommend the book "Codependent No More." It fosters personal growth and understanding of codependent relationships. It enlightened me and could benefit many on their recovery journey.Connect with Emmy on the GRAM @theheyheyemmy or hang out on Facebook.

In today's episode, Gina discusses codependency and how it is often associated with chronic anxiety. Codependency can easily lead to anxiety and a number of reasons why are shared. The characteristics of codependency are included as are questions you can ask yourself to know if you are codependent. Resources for learning more about codependency are also shared in this podcast. Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. Codependent No More by Melody Beattie https://amzn.to/3MSSnZH Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! To learn more go to: https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program  Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Quote: Codependents have such a strong tendency to put others before themselves they often have difficulty recognizing their own needs and desires. – Melody Beattie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 7 out of every 10 adults have experienced a traumatic event, and whether you are aware of it or not, you are most likely interacting with trauma survivors both personally and professionally on a daily basis. Tune into today's episode to learn one of two tips that will help you be more informed, supportive and safe for those survivors in your life.  ----------  Free Resources:   ·   The Body Keeps the Score: Brian, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. ·   No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with The Internal Family Systems Model by  Richard C. Schwartz, PhD ·   Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky ·   The A-to-Z Self Care Handbook for Social Workers and Other Helping Professionals by  Erlene Grise-Owens ·   Help for the Helper: Self-Care Strategies for Managing Burnout and Stress by  Babette Rothschild ·   Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia & Emiy Nagoski, PhD ·   Eastern Body-Western Mind: Psychology and the Chakra System as a Path to the Self by Anodea Judith ·   Running on Empty: Overcoming your Childhood Neglect by  Jonice Webb, PhD ·   Attached: The New Science on Adult Attachment and How It Can Help you Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel Heller, M.A. ·   My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Mending of Our Bodies and Hearts by  Resmaa Menakem, MSW ·   Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time by Laura Khoudari ·   Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Controlling Yourself by Melody Beattie ·   Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma- Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Daily Life by Jamie Marich, PhD ·   Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD ·   The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz ·   The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control & Becoming Whole by Arielle Schwartz, PhD & Jim Knipe, PhD ----------  Stay Connected  Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com

Themes: Codependency, Addiction, Relationships, Boundaries, Technology, Social Media, Spirituality, Self- Love, Healing, Authenticity, Belonging, Transformation, Mental Health, Grief Summary:  Today I am jamming with self-help pioneer, Melody Beattie! Melody is the author of many bestselling books—including The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, Beyond Codependency, and The Codependent No More Workbook. In 2009, Codependent No More was named one of the four essential self-help books of all time by Newsweek.  Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has guided millions toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. Join us today as we jam about the ins and outs of codependency in relationships, the challenges faced by those stuck in addictive or enabling cycles, the importance of setting boundaries, and how to break free.    Discover: Melody's incredible journey of overcoming codependency and how she turned her life around, finding freedom and happiness along the way What codependency actually means, and how people can unknowingly fall into its trap The importance of setting boundaries with technology and social media, and why connecting with real people is where it's at for our well-being Tips and tricks to break free from addictive and enabling cycles, empowering yourself to make positive changes and embark on a journey of personal growth and healing 00:00 Intro  00:33 The fine line between being human and a codependent 04:06 How writing ‘Codependent No More' saved her life 12:31 The role of men and women in relationships 17:58 Healing the division 24:00 Choose your own circumstance 28:21 Boundaries for tech and social media 32:42 Unveiling collective codependency 38:02 Trauma reflecting in present-day anxiety 40:22 How to break free 46:38 Learn to love yourself unconditionally 49:26 There's nothing human about technology   Links: Book: Codependent No More (2022 updated edition!) https://melodybeattie.com/books/codependent-no-stop-controlling-others-start-caring/ Website: https://melodybeattie.com/   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

7 out of every 10 adults have experienced a traumatic event, and whether you are aware of it or not, you are most likely interacting with trauma survivors both personally and professionally on a daily basis. Tune into today's episode to learn one of two tips that will help you be more informed, supportive and safe for those survivors in your life.  ----------  Free Resources:   ·   The Body Keeps the Score: Brian, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. ·   No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with The Internal Family Systems Model by  Richard C. Schwartz, PhD ·   Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky ·   The A-to-Z Self Care Handbook for Social Workers and Other Helping Professionals by  Erlene Grise-Owens ·   Help for the Helper: Self-Care Strategies for Managing Burnout and Stress by  Babette Rothschild ·   Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia & Emiy Nagoski, PhD ·   Eastern Body-Western Mind: Psychology and the Chakra System as a Path to the Self by Anodea Judith ·   Running on Empty: Overcoming your Childhood Neglect by  Jonice Webb, PhD ·   Attached: The New Science on Adult Attachment and How It Can Help you Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel Heller, M.A. ·   My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Mending of Our Bodies and Hearts by  Resmaa Menakem, MSW ·   Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at a Time by Laura Khoudari ·   Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Controlling Yourself by Melody Beattie ·   Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma- Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Daily Life by Jamie Marich, PhD ·   Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD ·   The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz ·   The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control & Becoming Whole by Arielle Schwartz, PhD & Jim Knipe, PhD ----------  Stay Connected  Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com  

Dr. Solomon is joined by Melody Beattie, a legendary self-help author. A revised edition of Melody's 1986 book "Codependent No More" was recently published, and she and Dr. Solomon discuss the topics it delves into and answer a listener question about losing oneself in relationships.Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie:https://bookshop.org/p/books/codependent-no-more-how-to-stop-controlling-others-and-start-caring-for-yourself-melody-beattie/9158976?ean=9781954118157Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Solomon's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Codependency is the existence of unhealthy relationship where one person fixates on taking care of or even controlling the other, forgetting their own needs and letting boundaries fade away. These relationships might stem from childhood but have impacts in our adult lives, especially at work. In fact, many types of high stress jobs seem to be built for people who struggle with these issues. In this episode, host Morra Aarons-Mele speaks to a leading expert on codependency, Melody Beattie, about her recently re-released classic book Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, and how to learn if you or your boss might have codependent tendencies.

We will learn: The psychological reasons why we try to control. Why detachment is necessary for a healthy life and how to practice it. How to break free from the cycle of codependency so you can start caring for yourself. Do you feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving? Or maybe you feel like you're always the one doing and never being. So how do we break the cycle of codependency? How do we stop trying too hard to control others so we can finally take care of ourselves? That's what we're talking about today, and I'm really excited about our guest because she wrote the book that helped me get my life back over 15 years ago. Her name is Melanie Beattie, and she's the author of “Codependent No More,” as well as “The Language of Letting Go,” “The Grief Club,” and “Beyond Codependency.” Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/274 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We will learn: The psychological reasons why we try to control. Why detachment is necessary for a healthy life and how to practice it. How to break free from the cycle of codependency so you can start caring for yourself. Do you feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving? Or maybe you feel like you're always the one doing and never being. You may not realize it, but these are signs of a codependent relationship. And if you resonate with these statements, your dependency may be around feeling in control. The thing is, we can't control other people.  All we can do is control ourselves. And when we try to control others, we are really just causing more problems. So how do we break the cycle of codependency? How do we stop trying too hard to control others so we can finally take care of ourselves? That's what we're talking about today, and I'm really excited about our guest because she wrote the book that helped me get my life back over 15 years ago. Her name is Melanie Beattie, and she's the author of “Codependent No More,” as well as “The Language of Letting Go,” “The Grief Club,” and “Beyond Codependency.” Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/274 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors

Going without close relationships is like going without water. It dehydrates our life and ultimately we'll die. A slow death of the soul. Yet when we rely on those relationships for our self worth we endure a similar death of the soul. It's like needing water for life, but drowning in it. This is part 3 of my focus on Melody Beattie, legendary author of Codependent No More. Here I'm with my frequent co-host and dear friend, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we get real with how to grapple with this tension in our actual lives. A common perspective in close relationships, especially marriages and significant others, is a literal joining of lives. Where “two become one.” But how do we translate this? Is it two separate lives joining to live a new life together, or do the individuals disappear and all that exists are the lives in union? That's one issue. Another is our self-worth, and the health and necessity to have it in and of ourselves. We naturally look to others to tell us of our worth, starting with our parents and early caregivers, then on to schoolmates, teachers and authority figures, but ultimately most of us land with a significant otherwise devote to and unfortunately, often rely on to give us all the affirmations, acceptance and approval we desire. And this is a recipe for failure. Then there is the issue of loving others. We all valiantly strive to serve and love others, yet generally miss loving ourselves. Can we truly love others more and beyond loving ourselves? It doesn't generally pan out. This is our discussion and grappling today. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you could choose right now what tomorrow would look like, if you had complete freedom, would you rather be consumed with something you are interested in, or be entertained? Really think about it. And you can take it further if you feel exhausted and would just love a day of entertainment. For how long? Two days? A week? A month? I ask because I'm back for part 2 with Melodie Beattie, legendary self-help pioneer and famed author of Codependent No More and we're talking through her personal Values, Motives & Habits. In regards to spirituality and her overall ethos and purpose of life she said, “My job is to make life interesting, not have life entertained.” Now, I like some good entertainment as much as anyone. I love getting into a great story in a fiction book or movie. Yet I'm aware that when I'm highly interested in something I have little time for entertainment, and when I do read or watch something entertaining, it's generally about people who are completely interested in something…a cause or mission or purpose. So would you rather voyeuristically watch people interested in something, or be the person interested in something? On a similar note, Melody shared how she keeps a barometer on herself regarding service to others and said, “If I get too selfish my life stops working well” and it showcases her primary interest in…people. I also appreciated her quip to me, saying, “You want the truth or want me to make something up?” She's as real as they come. Which is why at age 74 one of her personal joys is listening to the Rolling Stones. You can get her newly revised and updated Codependent No More book…anywhere, as it's currently at the  top of the bestseller charts. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1. The Mother of Codependence shares the difference between healthy and unhealthy helping.  2. The daily practice that helps Melody stop controlling others and “Let Life Happen.” 3. Why no one is able to gaslight you more than you.  4. The one area of life where Codependence is necessary. 5. All four of us surrender to the truth that we will never be Codependent No More. About Melody: A pioneering voice in self-help literature, Melody Beattie is the author of many bestselling books, including Codependent No More – a #1 New York Times bestseller, which has sold over 7 million copies – as well as The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, and Beyond Codependency. An updated edition of the bestselling, modern classic, Codependent No More, is available now. Melody lives in Southern California. TW: @MelodyBeattie IG: @authormelodybeattie To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices