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Dr. Rob and Dr. Johanna O'Flaherty explore witnesses – the people who have seen your experiences and are ready to help you move forward. When you begin questioning whether your experience was real, why you acted out the way you did, or what really happened, a witness can offer direction and healing as you move forward, without the demonization and destigmatization that often faces addicts. Johanna is passionate about helping individuals heal from incident trauma, ancestral trauma, prolonged trauma and more, and she cautions listeners against marginalizing the damaging effects of true trauma in favor of everyday difficult life experiences.   TAKEAWAYS: [3:27] What does recovery mean?  [6:15] Who do you want to take with, and who do you want to leave behind?  [7:55] A witness will help shape your experience.  [10:10] Pain and shame makes more sense with a witness's perspective.  [12:40] Where are the hospices for the addicted?  [13:50] Overcoming prejudice against addicts in the recovering community.  [20:58] Sex addiction and porn addiction garner very little support.  [25:54] Education on healthy sexuality in recovery.  [32:15] Reembracing sexuality in recovery.  [34:47] Revealing trauma, then moving forward.    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Johanna O'Flaherty Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “A witness helps shape who we become and how we walk through life.”  “Where are the hospices for the addicted?”  “In the journey of healing, we need to give people hope.”  “What we long for in a relationship is intimacy, and then sexuality.”

Dr. Rob and Dr. Johanna O'Flaherty consider the role of a therapist as a witness – one that supports with empathy and compassion. They share the questions to ask a therapist before the first session, and how to identify the right trauma therapist that will lead you to recovery and healing. Healing is meant to happen in communities, and together Dr. Rob and O'Flaherty inspire and encourage listeners to connect with those that can be a witness to healing.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:25] The place for empathy and compassion.  [3:25] Finding the right trauma therapist.  [5:10] Questions to ask therapists before the first session. [8:25] A good therapist is the first medicine in healing.  [11:53] Dr. O'Flaherty's book Flight with Weighted Wings.  [15:45] Healing happens in community.  [19:29] Connecting with Dr. O'Flaherty.   RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Johanna O'Flaherty Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “If you have wounded me, it may not be my job initially to have empathy for you.”  “How do you feel when you sit with a therapist?”  “The best therapy is not about the work, it's about the relationship.”  “Healing happens in community.” 

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Tami and Erin Snow answer participant questions about sex, intimacy, addiction, betrayal, and more. They consider timelines in recovery, what full disclosure entails, and how to know if your partner is an addict or just a full-blown jerk, or both.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Is this seminar only for partners experiencing betrayal?  [3:55] How do I know if my partner is an addict or just an a**hole?  [7:25] How should I define my inner circle behaviors after chem sex recovery?  [12:09] My wife can't get over my affair, it's already been 10 months.  [19:50] Can I trust that my husband suddenly has no urges to act out?  [27:10] My husband says he'll tell me anything that I ask him about. Was his disclosure incomplete?  [31:52] Do you suggest a 12-Step program for the betrayed partner? It's not my fault!  [35:55] Can you clarify between a porn addict and a sex/love addict?  [44:10 How long does recovery take on average?  [49:19] Can recovery happen without a formal 12-Step program?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “She's not going to believe that you're not sexually attracted to them when she doesn't believe anything you say right now.”  “The action that it takes to rebuild trust takes time.”  “You may not be enmeshed in your partner's behavior, but you are deeply involved.”  “What matters most is the quality of the time that you are spending on your own individual work to heal and to rebuild trust.” 

Dr. Keith McCormick is a board certified chiropractic physician, athlete, founder of OsteoNaturals, and author of Great Bones: Taking Control of Your Osteoporosis, which delves deeper into the science of osteoporosis, providing both patients and healthcare professionals with the latest insights and strategies for achieving optimal bone health. He takes a functional and integrative approach to bone health when treating patients.   On this episode of Conversations for Health, Dr. McCormick and I discuss bone density, bone quality, lab tests, scans and markers, medicines, exercise and dietary recommendations for optimal bone health. He highlights power foods and tocotrienol dosing, the connection between the endothelial glycocalyx and bone health, warnings for Vitamin K recommendations for patients on blood thinners, the value of DEXA scans and lab marker recommendations. Whether you are treating patients with osteopenia or osteoporosis or simply looking to expand your protocols and learn more, this conversation is filled with clinical pearls about optimizing bone health.    I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. Keith McCormick - https://www.osteonaturals.com/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:47 Dr. McCormick views the skeletal system as the core of our entire existence.  3:09 12 fractured bones led Dr. McCormick to study osteoporosis.  5:29 Dr. McCormick's definition of osteoporosis.  10:04 Lab tests, scans and markers that accurately asses bone quality.  15:01 Is a combination of medications, nutrition and strength training enough to improve bone quality?  17:48 The role of AI in standardizing bone quality testing.  19:00 Risks and benefits of medications used to treat osteoporosis and osteopenia.  24:48 Diet recommendations for optimal bone health.  28:00 The importance of vitamin K in bone health.  31:10 Power foods and tocotrienol dosing for bone health. 40:07 The connection between the endothelial glycocalyx and bone health. 42:05 Vitamin K recommendations for patients on blood thinners. 42:50 DEXA rescan and lab marker recommendations. 45:42 The exercise component of bone health. 47:40 The role of bioidentical hormone replacement therapy within bone health. 52:29 Additional nutrients for optimal bone health. 53:21 Dr. McCormick's favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and the idea about doctors that he wishes he could change his mind about.

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about sex, intimacy, addiction, betrayal, and more. They offer resources for therapeutic separation, communication at every stage of recovery and reconciliation, and tools for practicing empathy with betrayed partners.    TAKEAWAYS: [:24] Does my partner need to see a psychoanalyst first to get honest about his past?  [4:28] What resources are available for communication building in the later stages of recovery and reconciliation?  [9:17] How can I work to regain trust after recent relapses?  [13:35] How do I start the amends process with my betrayed spouse?  [17:43] Why do betrayers have to go to Porn Addiction 101 through Seeking Integrity?  [22:10] How can I handle my ex's new girlfriend joining the family?  [24:30] What does loving detachment really look like?  [30:51] Can addicts and their partners heal outside the therapeutic setting?  [34:20] What is the correlation between sex addiction and OCD?  [36:41] How can I feel safe even though I have forgiven my partner?  [41:05] What tools can an addict use to practice empathy with their partner?  [42:25] What resources are available to get CSAT couples on the same page regarding key terms?  [47:00] My partner's blameshifting and defensiveness is escalating in therapeutic separation, what should I do next?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Stop the problematic behavior first, then address the underlying issues.”  “I'm never in the later stages of recovery. Recovery is something I will do for my whole life.”  “Your living amends happens when you act differently.”  “If the worst thing happens, what are you going to do to take care of you?” 

Doctor Aly Cohen is a triple board-certified physician in rheumatology, internal medicine, and integrative medicine, and one of the country's leading medical and legal experts in environmental health. She's on the faculty of the Academy of Integrative Health and Medicine, Southern California University of Health Sciences, and the University of California, Irvine. She is the author of the new book Detoxify: The Everyday Toxins Harming Your Immune System and How to Defend Against Them, a coauthor of Nontoxic: Guide to Living Healthy in a Chemical World, co-editor of the textbook Integrative Environmental Medicine, has collaborated with the environmental working group Cancer, Schmancer, and other disease prevention organizations, and has received countless awards for her work in health education. She hosts the Smart Human podcast and sees patients in her medical practice in Princeton, New Jersey.   Aly joins me on Conversations for Health for a discussion about the connection between immune-disrupting chemicals and chronic conditions, including autoimmune disease. She underscores the epidemic of autoimmune disease cases that practitioners are facing today, and offers tactics for supporting patients in making healthier lifestyle choices and managing kidney and liver function and lymphatic systems in a very toxic world.    I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. Aly Cohen - https://alycohenmd.com/ The Smart Human - https://thesmarthuman.com/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library, which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:30 Dr. Aly Cohen feels lit up by her son's acceptance into college. 02:35 Aly's journey into rheumatology and environmental chemicals. 07:03 The effects of immune-disrupting chemicals, including BPA and PFAS. 11:00 The impact of forever chemicals on the immune system? 16:45 The body has not evolved to detoxify the current level of chemical exposure. 19:35 Questions to ask patients to determine toxic exposure. 24:25 Stories of exposures to toxic chemicals. 28:55 Conventional lab testing that is generally covered by insurance. 31:51 How to implement the Four A's framework with patients. 36:57 Practical first steps for patients when making lifestyle changes. 41:26 The importance of reverse osmosis filtered water. 45:45 Findings from studies regarding sweating out toxins. 48:42 Key differences between sauna and exercising for sweat. 51:30 Advancements that made the biggest difference over the course of Aly's career as a rheumatologist. 54:05 Improvements that are being made as a result of increased awareness. 57:40: Measuring minerals and other vitamin status with rheumatology patients. 1:02:14 Dr. Cohen's personal favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and her disillusioned and reinvigorated take on medicine.

Adam Nisenson and Dr. Rob continue their conversation about betrayed men. They share the worst advice a betrayed man can hear, how to determine if reconciliation is the right next step, and the reality that being cheated on does not justify cheating. Adam shares resources, including The ManKind Project, that have helped him through his own healing and how to engage men who have no interest in therapy.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:44] Reconciling is possible, but not always preferred.  [3:40] Therapy for the men who have no interest in therapy.  [7:20] 12-Step programs for betrayed men.  [9:55] She cheated, should I have sex with someone else?  [11:45] The worst advice a betrayed man can hear.  [14:51] Determining if reconciliation is the right next step.  [17:36] My needs aren't being met. Does that justify cheating?  [19:39] The ManKind Project.  [24:02] Does age affect a man's ability to heal from betrayal?    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Adam Nisenson Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “She might have done this to you, but it's also happening to you. What do you want to do about it?” “If you need help, ask for help!”  “Even if your partner cheated on you, that doesn't give you permission to cheat.” 

Troy Love and Tami answer participant questions about attachment wounds, shame, healthy boundaries, and the reality that an addict is always going to be an addict. It's only how they chose to move forward in recovery that will change their life for better.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My partner betrayed me and now we live like roommates. How can I refine myself whether I stay or go?  [6:27] How can I stop judging myself for staying?  [10:01] My wife doesn't think I'm working hard enough in recovery. Is there a timeline we should know about?  [17:09] Will I ever be able to live my life without triggers?  [21:55] Are men and women meant to be in marital couples? It appears to be societal not biological.  [24:40] How can I engage in healthy sexual activity, without blurring the lines between the patterns of my unhealthy sexual behavior?  [30:16] I'm not sure my spouse is even sober, which treatment group is right for him?  [34:03] How can I address the pain of recovery preemptively before I move to soothe by acting out?  [38:42] My partner is still acting out and even harming others. How can I move forward?  [41:19] My avoidant attachment style is making connection feel non-exisistent.  [45:54] Has Seeking Integrity considered having a moderator who is a betrayed partner?  [47:51] If relationships are so painful, why don't we tell people that relationships aren't for everyone?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Wounds need to be healed regardless of what choice you make about staying in a relationship.”  “Every partner wants it to be all better right now, and that's just not reality. You will always be an addict.”  “Shame is going to unravel connection faster than anything else.”  “We all have attachment wounds, and they are going to get bumped.” 

Dr. Sam Shay is a functional medicine expert who has dedicated his career to understanding addiction, brain health, and personalized recovery strategies. He solves health puzzles for busy, health-conscious parents, entrepreneurs, and professionals, women, and adults on the spectrum so they can exit survival mode and reenter community by improving resilience, energy, and brain health through personalized, data-driven genetics and lab testing. He has an extensive academic and clinical background, including three bachelor's degrees, a Doctorate in Chiropractic, a Post Graduate Diploma in Acupuncture, and eight years as a functional neurologist with the Carrick Institute before switching full-time to virtual practice in functional medicine. He is certified with the Institute for Functional Medicine and studied with Dr. Kailash of the Kailash Institute for 4 years. He has studied nutrition for over 25 years and has an extensive background in mind-body medicine.   On this episode of Conversations for Health, Dr. Shay and I explore the neurobiology of addiction, the role of functional genetics, and how lab testing can provide deeper insights. We discuss Sam's 5-phase model of addiction and the power of looking at this through a functional medicine lens. Our conversation is filled with valuable tips on clinical applications, testing, and treatment strategies for patients with any level of addiction.   I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. Sam Shay - https://drsamshay.com/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library, which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:48 Dr. Sam Shay is lit up about his upcoming stand-up comedy performance. 02:55 Sam's journey into health and comedy started with tragedy. 09:13 Defining addiction and the 9 official signs of addiction. 14:04 Bulletproof red flags in addiction of any kind. 15:16 Tame the BEAST framework and the 5 phases of addiction. 21:39 7 types of consequences that addicts experience. 28:20 The role of functional medicine in the second phase of addiction. 34:10 Dangers in the anesthesia phase of addiction. 36:01 Conceptualizing boredom, children, and screens within the model. 41:30 Examples of solutions and overcoming addiction from Sam's practice. 46:04 The critical role of community in overcoming addiction. 48:00 Prioritizing genetic testing and SNPs in lab testing. 53:25 COMT genes, magnesium threonate, and inflammatory genes warnings and recommendations. 58:47 Dr. Shay's top recommendation for patients in active addiction. 1:00:33 Dr. Shay's favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and his evolved perspective on addiction.

Adam Nisenson, also known as The Betrayal Shrink, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. Together with Dr. Rob he highlights the need for betrayed men to have support and healing just as much as women do. He shares his own healing journey, the support that he offers men who have been betrayed, and why he believes that his own betrayal experience was actually worth it.    TAKEAWAYS: [2:25] The depth of Adam's betrayal as a man.  [6:20] Adam recalls his feelings on D-Day.  [8:52] The importance of having a safe, supportive place to grieve. [9:50] Rediscovering self-worth when reconciling or separating.  [13:53] Projecting unhealthy anger on others gives them the power. [17:55] Navigating betrayal from a child's perspective.  [20:02] Adam's decision to support other betrayed men.  [22:45] Key differences between betrayed men and women.  [26:44] Is it just sex? Or is it love?    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Adam Nisenson Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “Having a safe, healthy place to grieve and be seen was a game-changer for me.”  “Projecting unhealthy anger on others gives them the power.”  “I wanted to make therapy cool for men.”  “Emotional betrayal is just as painful as physical betrayal, and they both destroy trust.”  “It was through my pain that I discovered who I really was.” 

Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about rebuilding trust through intimate conversations, ideas for setting healthy boundaries after betrayal, and the danger of an addict swearing that they're done acting out for the rest of their life.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:15] Current and upcoming resources at Seeking Integrity.  [3:20] Do sponsees pay upfront or make monthly payments?  [4:45] Are there agnostic 12 Step programs?  [8:22] Ideas for connection activities that rebuild trust?  [16:01] My husband is attending groups to placate me but is not participating. Is this normal?  [20:04] Setting healthy boundaries after betrayal.  [21:35] What are the statistics surrounding porn sobriety?  [24:15] The danger of swearing that you'll never act out ever again.  [31:39] You are the only person that can take care of you. [33:30] Don't believe an addict when they are love-bombing you. [36:41] Are 30% of men on dating sites really already married?  [40:32] Recommended sources for healing the shame of my partner's betrayal?  [49:52] Is there a way to engage in self sexuality that would not be considered acting out?  [53:40] What is the recommended protocol for moving through fallout from a therapeutic disclosure?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “When people come together and try to support each other and find a way to heal as a group, to me, that is a spiritual experience.”  “To understand what I'm going through and really listen to me, that is intimacy.”  “The only thing I can guarantee is that I'm consistently working on this and I'm committed to it.”  “You are the only person that can take care of you.”   

Dr. Deanna Minich is a nutrition scientist, lecturer, educator, and author. She has over 20 years of experience in academia and the food and dietary supplement industries. She has been active as a functional medicine clinician in clinical trials and her own practice. She's the author of seven books on wellness topics for book chapters and over 50 scientific publications.    On this episode of Conversations for Health, Dr. Minich and I explore the possibilities of phytochemicals, chronobiotic agents, circadian nutrients, and food supplements. She highlights the importance of honoring circadian rhythms and whole-health healing with rainbows and rhythms. She offers a variety of tips for practitioners who want to encourage patients and clients to eat more seasonally, to slow down and honor circadian rhythms, and to customize their diet template based on an evening or morning chronotype to foster a better gut milieu and functionally, biochemically and physiologically better biomarkers of health.    I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. Deanna Minich - https://deannaminich.com/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:40 Dr. Deanna Minich is lit up about light, seasons and our food supply.  03:18 Phytochemicals and nutrition captured Dr. Minich's attention in grad school.  07:25 Definitions of circadian biology, chronobiology, and chrononutrition.  10:14 Timing supplements for optimal gut health.  13:34 Is the out-of-sync circadian rhythm to blame for our unhealthy population?  16:33 Practical tips for encouraging patients and clients to eat more seasonally.  25:12 Considerations of antinutrients and phytochemicals in gut health.  32:20 Strategies for timing food intake with ideal rhythms.  38:09 Customizing the template based on an evening or morning chronotype.  40:50 Tips for irregular shift workers and travel disruptions.  48:10 How can practitioners encourage patients to slow down and honor circadian rhythms?  51:08 Hormonal rhythms, month of birth and disease connection, and seasonal influxes in autoimmune disease. 54:10 Maximizing the benefits of fruit and vegetable intake.  59:55 Dr. Minich's favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and her refined perspective on nutrition as art. 

Erin Snow is the Clinical Director at Seeking Integrity, CSAT, and a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She and Dr. Rob discuss a week-by-week overview of residential treatment, the key points of trauma work and treatment, and the hope that she regularly sees as addicts encounter consequences, confront early trauma, and what it really takes to heal individuals and their loved ones from addiction.    TAKEAWAYS: [2:08] Erin's journey toward Seeking Integrity.  [4:50] The healing at Seeking Integrity focuses on much more than sex addiction.  [7:41] Key points of trauma work and treatment.  [12:15] Why is my partner connecting to their therapist but not me?  [13:43] A week-by-week overview of residential treatment.  [20:29] Attachment and connection are not what a spouse is thinking about.  [26:28] Why isn't our relationship enough to make him change?  [31:00] What is it like for Erin being a woman working with addict men?    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Erin Snow Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “I can see an opportunity for my clients to find meaning in living again.”  “In trauma work, you can lose yourself in the why and never move to the place of how to move on from this.”  “Healing happens the way it's supposed to as long as you're doing the next right thing.” 

Debbie McRae and Tami tackle ‘betrayal brain', the intrusive thoughts, and emotional flooding that often accompany betrayal. When the brain is in survival mode, neurological and psychological effects are out of the betrayed partner's control. They discuss tactics to regain control when the brain is hijacked.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:26] When betrayal occurs, the architecture of the brain is reshaped.  [4:50] Warning signs of betrayal brain.  [5:46] Four areas of the brain are affected by betrayal.  [10:45] Triggers can occur even when the relationship feels safe.  [12:07] Regaining control when the brain is hijacked.  [25:37] Self-compassion practices and therapy after betrayal.  [27:30] The betrayed partner has no control over how the brain is going to react. [31:41] Keeping regulation expectations simple. [33:54] Does my PTSD and anxiety make it harder to overcome betrayal brain?  [40:12] What boundaries can I enact with a sex addict who is breaking the law? [46:17] Handling abandonment to create safety.  [49:10] How can I increase my functionality to what it was before PTSD?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “When betrayal occurs, it shatters trust in an instant.” “Even neutral interactions that the betrayed partner is experiencing can be triggering.”  “The betrayed partner has no control over how the brain is going to react when it senses threat.”  “Self care is brain care.”   

Dr. Rob and Tami tackle hard questions about sex and intimacy in the wake of betrayal. They cover the role of a spouse in supporting their partner ‘for better and for worse”, how to set boundaries that take care of you first, and addressing the trauma and intrusive thoughts that often come after disclosure.    TAKEAWAYS: [:20] Where do personal responsibility and societal norms come into play?  [7:27] A spouse's job is to take care of themselves. [12:30] How can I deal with my trauma and intrusive thoughts about my partner's acting out?  [18:56] Acknowledging the level of troubled your partner really is.  [23:07] How can we connect through non-sexual intimacy? [30:02] Is it common for people with addictions to seek out others with similar problems?  [38:42] Does our marriage counselor also need to be a CSAT?  [41:42] My spouse is refusing a polygraph test. How can I ever trust him?  [46:50] Should I address porn viewing or obsessive masturbation first?  [49:47] My partner has been with underage girls. How do I handle this?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “As an addict, I need people to support me and relate to me, but as a spouse, that's not your job.”  “Addicts are not bad people. They're broken people.”  “If I fight my addict, I'm going to lose every time.”  “The more questions you ask, the more questions it will bring up.”  ‘Express what you need but don't blame if you're not getting it.”   

Therapist Erin Snow shares insights into addiction, betrayal, boundaries and healing. She underscores the impact of addiction in the workplace, the importance of setting boundaries after betrayal, the realities of weaponizing sex in a partnership, and why betrayed partners often pursue safety seeking behaviors during healing.    TAKEAWAYS: [2:05] How addiction manifests in the workplace.  [5:17] My husband is SA genetic – is nature or nurture going to win out?  [9:45] The intimacy disorder underneath compulsive sexual behavior.  [11:32] Healthy goals for a successful separation from an addicted partner.  [17:18] The benefits of a period of separation in the healing journey.  [19:00] Can married sex addicts use their spouses to act out even if they don't have extramarital affairs?  [24:45] My partner threatens to leave me if I don't give her what she wants. What should I do?  [25:30] My partner doesn't like to talk about consequences if he acts out. What can I do?  [29:45] How can I turn away from shame and toward growth and healing?  [33:14] Should I report my ex to help keep women safe? [39:17] Is lying an inner circle behavior? [45:20] Should I hire a polygraph test to help me heal from my partner's lying behavior?  [50:49] My partner is not being fully honest in therapy. What should I tell her CSAT to help us both?  [52:34] Should I stop snooping even though I continually uncover my partner's lies?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Our willingness to change dramatically shifts when the consequences are more painful than continuing is.”  “The person who is willing to stop and turn around and stare that generational pattern in the face and is willing to do the work can break the cycle for generations to come.”  “Let each other go, or get a really solid plan together for the time that you're separated.”  “Your boundaries are about what you are going to do, and they require your partner to do nothing.”  “I don't have to have some kind of proof that something is dramatically off to set a boundary so that I feel safer.”   

Dr. Rob and Dr. Erika Schwartz continue their discussion about the connection between intimacy and sex. She highlights the role of hormones in sex addiction and betrayal, addresses the myths of monogamy, and counters the dangerous statement that too many betraying partners tell themselves, because what you don't know actually will hurt you, will hurt your partner, and will hurt everyone around you.     TAKEAWAYS: [1:22] Coming to peace with the trauma that happens in betrayal.  [4:25] Who were you before you came into this relationship?  [6:02] The power of opening up when overcoming betrayal trauma.  [9:08] The role of hormones in sex addiction and betrayal.  [11:10] What does monogamy look like in humans?  [14:28] The deeper hurt that comes when love appears while cheating.  [19:15] What you don't know won't hurt you, or will it?  [21:20] Connect with Dr. Erika Schwartz.    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Dr. Geoff Goodman Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Dr. Erika Schwartz Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “If humans are monogamous, why are we all having affairs? It's because monogamy is a choice.” “Sexuality and intimacy are not the same. That's when we start behaving differently.”  “Love is the core of everything. If it's love, move out of the way.”  “What you don't know will hurt me, will hurt you, and will hurt everyone around you.” 

Today, Corey Coates, CEO and Co-Founder of Podfly Productions, LLC, joins Dots Oyebolu to talk about high-level, B2B brand marketing. Corey shares his decade-plus journey helping executives and brands embrace podcasting as a vital component of their content marketing strategies. In this episode, Corey explains how executive-level podcasting often begins in unexpected ways, the importance of kindness in navigating complex B2B structures, and why treating podcast content as purpose-built — rather than simply repurposed — leads to deeper audience engagement. Key Takeaways:(01:18) Podfly — a support system for executives and brands looking to incorporate podcasting into their media mix.(03:27) Many B2B podcast initiatives begin with a junior executive being “handed the podcast folder,” often without clear strategic direction.(05:59) Early discussions with clients help define podcast KPIs.(09:23) Podcasting has evolved from a side project to a core component.(09:56) Instead of "repurposing" content, create platform-specific assets from rich podcast interviews.(13:16) Specialized teams for branded shows allow for scalable, expert-driven content creation.(15:08) Unique collaborations spark executive partnerships.Resources Mentioned:Corey Coates -https://www.linkedin.com/in/corey-coates-2a3aba34/Podfly Productions, LLC -https://www.linkedin.com/company/podfly-productions/Podfly | Website -https://www.podfly.net/In the Hot Seat Podcast -https://enfuce.com/in-the-hot-seat-podcast/ Insightful Links:https://www.desantisbreindel.com/insights/unlocking-c-suite-executives-content/ https://www.marketingprofs.com/articles/2021/44825/best-practices-for-reaching-and-marketing-to-the-c-suite-audience https://longitude.ft.com/campaigns-hook-c-suite/ https://www.mckinsey.com/capabilities/growth-marketing-and-sales/our-insights/marketings-moment-is-now-the-c-suite-partnership-to-deliver-on-growthThanks for listening to the “Marketing Leadership” podcast, brought to you by Listen Network. If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review to help get the word out about the show. And be sure to subscribe so you never miss another insightful conversation.#PodcastMarketing #PerformanceMarketing #BrandMarketing #MarketingStrategy #MarketingIntelligence #GTM #B2BMarketing #D2CMarketing #PodcastAds

Therapist Debbie McRae discusses options for the betrayed partner when the betraying partner is stalling or not fully in recovery. She offers tactics for partners who are stuck in the cycle of fear and uncertainty and are ready to regain control in healthy ways while seeking safety after betrayal.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:05] Common recovery limbo scenarios and what each one means.  [4:33] Recovery limbo happens when the betraying partner won't take responsibility for their behavior.  [7:25] Seven signs that your addict partner is struggling with recovery.  [9:23] Six strategies for regaining healthy control after betrayal. [13:14] Setting boundaries for effectively reestablishing safety.  [21:06] The importance of a healthy support group and self-care in recovery.  [25:26] Betrayed partners need therapy too.  [29:21] What to do after you've tried unhealthy safety seeking.  [31:42] The thought of physical intimacy gives me the ick feeling. How can I begin to heal?  [37:13] Connecting with your spouse about physical intimacy outside the bedroom.  [39:04] At what in point in recovery is couples counseling recommended?  [45:05] The value of releasing information in couples therapy.  [46:11] My CSAT wants to bring my betraying partner into our session. Is that odd?  [50:45] My partner is an avoidant porn addict, is psychoanalysis recommended?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “True recovery requires that the addict partner have that intrinsic motivation to heal their addiction.”  “You have to be, as a betrayed partner, really open and honest and authentic about your boundaries.”  “The goal of a boundary consequence is not punishment, it's creating safety.”  “Don't just identify as a betrayed partner. You have to hold onto you as well.”   

Dr. Rob and Dr. Erika Schwartz discuss the connection between intimacy and sex – what it is, how it varies based on age, gender, and culture, and what a partner's betrayal really means about the relationship. The author of The Intimacy Solution, Dr. Erika explores the connection between sex and intimacy at all stages of life and answers the question that so many betrayed partners grapple with – “If you really loved me, why would you do this?”    TAKEAWAYS: [2:28] Dr. Erica defines the key differences between sex and intimacy. [4:45] Gender and cultural insights into sex and intimacy.  [7:48] The link between the pathology of addicts and lack of communication in relationships.  [10:27] “If you really loved me, you wouldn't do this.”  [14:42] The reasons partners choose to leave or to stay.  [16:15] The danger of trying to hold on to the intensity of the 18-year-old life.  [17:34] Oxytocin is a key component of intimacy and connection.  [21:52] Does “in sickness and in health” apply to betrayal and addiction?  [27:15] Your partner's addiction isn't about you, but it is about honoring the truth.    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Dr. Geoff Goodman Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Dr. Erika Schwartz Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “You can live a much easier life if you see how the other side views sexuality and intimacy.”  “There is a lot in sexuality that we don't talk about that we should be talking about.”  “You have to figure out how to fix your problem. Your partner can't do it for you.”  “If they are everything to you, then you are nothing to yourself.” 

Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about the importance of combining sex and drug addictions in treatment and recovery, the danger of staying stuck in the rage phase, and who you have control over in healing and recovery (it's you and only you!).    TAKEAWAYS: [:55] Does ‘vanilla' porn really affect our relationship? I don't believe it's hurting my partner. [5:53] What are the major differences between sex addiction treatment/recovery and drug addiction treatment/recovery?  [12:25] The importance of tackling both sex and drugs in addiction treatment and recovery.  [15:40] I'm stuck in the rage phase - how can I decide to heal or leave?  [23:05] You cannot drag someone else into healing, but you can heal YOU.  [27:18] My partner is so ill that I can't help him anymore. What do I do now?  [35:24] Why do so many CSATs coddle their patients?  [41:11] My partner recently uncovered childhood sexual trauma. What should come first - couples therapy or CSAT work?  [46:48] Can my partner pray his way out of addiction? [49:35] Write this down - there is nothing I have ever done or am currently doing or will ever do to make my partner act out.    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “If you have a sex addiction, I don't want you to stop having sex. I want you to do it in a way that's healthy and honest.” “Addiction is not about the behavior, it's about the function it serves.”  “You have the opportunity to choose. You don't have to stay stuck in this.”  “Give yourself the gift of getting the help you need.”   

Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about the challenges of rebuilding trust in a betrayed relationship and the importance of focusing on what you can do as a betrayed partner instead of focusing on what your addict partner can't or shouldn't do.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:40] My reluctant, betrayed spouse has been gone for a year. How can I approach them about my behavior?  [6:43] I feel like I'm seeing the world through a different lens in recovery. Is this typical?  [10:33] How can I better understand my partner's damage and betrayal trauma?  [14:04] I think my spouse is lying about his recovery and he failed his porn addiction test. Now what?  [22:45] What resources are available to learn more about addiction so I can better understand my loved one?  [27:02] I don't trust my partner's CSAT because of my history with unhelpful counselors. What can I do to improve our dynamic all around?  [33:25] What are some actionable ways I can rebuild trust with my betrayed partner?  [39:25] What is the best 12-Step recovery program for me?  [44:05] I can't stop lying to my betrayed spouse. Is this a slippery slope back into addiction?  [51:16] My partner has multiple addictions and is compartmentalizing recovery. Is this the best approach?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “If you choose to leave your partner, you don't do it to make them do something differently.”  “While in recovery, we have to look at the world through a different lens.”  “Getting sober is not about not doing things.”  “If we're not in recovery, we are not living in integrity. But if we're willing to change, we can have an amazing life.”  “You cannot fix a problem with intimacy and connection and loneliness while the person is still acting out.”  “A spouses job is to take care of themselves, their self-care and their boundaries, not to focus on you.”  “Being honest takes practice if you've been lying forever.”  

Dr.Andy Franklyn-Miller is a world-leading specialist in sport and exercise medicine and the Chief Medical Officer at Nuritas. He is a highly accomplished physician with expertise in physiology, clinical design, and science communication, has a Ph.D. in Biomechanics, and served in the Royal Navy and Royal Marines for 16 years. Dr. Franklyn-Miller has extensive experience in working with high-profile sports teams and elite performers, has published more than 60 peer-reviewed papers, is an editor of the British Journal of Sports Medicine, and has authored a textbook and an IOC Handbook. With his expertise in machine learning, clinical trials, and end-user analysis, he oversees several departments at Nuritas, including software engineering, data curation, data science, proteomics, lab, and regulatory departments. Together, Dr. Franklyn-Miller and I explore the science behind PeptiStrong, a groundbreaking peptide developed by Nuritas, and discuss its clinical applications and research. If you have patients who are concerned with muscle retention as they age, who aren't recovering as quickly as they would like after exercise, or who are on GLP-1 medications and need to retain lean muscle mass, this conversation will be particularly engaging to you. Together, we cover the latest peptides data and studies and what it all means for healthcare practitioners.    I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. Andy Franklyn-Miller - https://www.nuritas.com/team/dr-andy-franklyn-miller/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library, which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 02:28 Dr. Franklyn-Miller is feeling lit up by his current data analyses. 3:00 The ability to increase health in millions of people drew Dr. Franklyn-Miller to Nuritas. 4:02 What are peptides, and what are their function and benefits related to athletic performance? 7:33 Does PeptiStrong negatively impact those with a G6-PD deficiency? 8:52 Why don't PeptiStrong peptides break down as amino acids? 11:33 Three human clinical studies and their results and mechanisms of action. 14:09 The importance and controversy of the mTOR 1 and 2 pathways. 17:19 Key findings about muscular energy from the second human study. 20:58 Factors that effectively inhibit pathways that lead to sarcopenia. 22:22 The third study examines the impact of PeptiStrong on both men and women. 24:59 The impact of PeptiStrong on reducing inflammation and the effect on TNF-Alpha and on ATP production. 28:12 Prioritizing creatine, HMB, and leucine benefits with peptides in a synergistic way. 30:27 Creating optimal impact of PeptiStrong on various patient outcomes. 33:04 Studies that will address muscle mass at each stage of a woman's life. 38:52 Clinical guidelines for taking peptides to maximize effectiveness. 40:09 Observations from Dr. Franklyn-Miller's personal experience with taking PeptiStrong. 43:36 Optimal designs for future clinical trials and the role of peptides in shaping the future of healthcare. 55:35 Dr. Franklyn-Miller's personal favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and his evolved perspective on what food and medicine are really about.

This week's conversation features The Shoeless Therapist Matt Wheeler. He answers questions about needs and wants, the role of sex in meeting relationship needs, and what partners can do to feel more securely attached to each other.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:24] Is disclosure always necessary?  [3:43] People in recovery often aren't aware of what their needs truly are.  [6:42] What happens when we neglect our own needs in favor of others?  [9:36] Babies understand that making demands develops love. [11:05] The danger of ignoring your needs during recovery.  [13:55] Is sex a need or is it a tool?  [17:40] Slow down and figure out how to communicate your needs to your partner. [22:53] Only one of the four categories of needs can be met in a partnership.  [27:10] The importance of relational agreements.  [30:08] Who holds all the cards in our relationship?  [35:57] I'm doing all the heavy lifting in our relationship, why should I meet his needs?  [42:10] The underlying needs behind sexual advancements.  [45:55] What do we need to explore that will feel fulfilling for both of us?  [49:50] How can I better receive my partner's bids for attachment?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Wants and needs are ultimately synonymous.”  “Both partners deserve to express and meet needs within the relationship.”  “Boundaries give the other person an opportunity to treat me to my needs.”  “Slow down and figure out how to communicate your needs to your partner better.”  “The only category of needs that you can meet as a couple is relational.”  “Without trust in a relationship, you're going to have a hard time with attachment.”   

Dr. Anthony Youn is a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon, anti-aging expert, and the award-winning author of The Age Fix, In Stitches, and Playing God. Known as ‘America's Holistic Plastic Surgeon', Dr. Youn is recognized as a leader in his field. He is the host of the public television special “The Age Fix”, and also hosts the podcast The Dr. Youn Show, He is the most followed plastic surgeon on social media with close to 15 million followers, and his new book Younger For Life is a bestseller and holistic guide to turning back the clock using the process of auto-juvenation. Dr. Youn is also the founder of The Youn beauty product line. Dr. Youn and I discuss the intersection of aesthetic medicine and wellness, nutrition for beauty, and his experience with business and social media. He shares supplement protocol recommendations to limit post-surgery complications, recommendations for nutrition integration in plastic surgery practices, and key lifestyle factors that affect accelerated skin aging. Dr. Youn also underscores the importance of helping patients avoid surgery and find self-acceptance in the face of aging.    I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. Anthony Youn - https://www.dryoun.com/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:24 Dr. Youn lights up when he interacts with foster dogs.  4:04 The decision to become a plastic surgeon didn't come immediately for Dr. Youn.  6:18 Growing a social media following required Dr. Youn to think outside the influencer box.  10:10 Creating high-quality, engaging content is a critical component of a successful social media platform.  13:31 The importance of authenticity for social media success.  15:22 Dr. Youn's weekly schedule reflects his attempt at a healthy work-life balance.  20:15 Forming relationships is a critical component of whole-life success.  23:05 Dr. Youn's trailblazing approach to combining nutrition with procedures.  29:05 Supplement protocol recommendations to limit post-surgery complications.  32:46 Recommendations for nutrition integration in plastic surgery practices.  35:20 Key lifestyle factors that affect accelerated skin aging.  38:10 Supplement recommendations to support collagen.  43:05 Additional key supplements to support healthy aging including Vitamin C, Vitamin D, and zinc.  45:08 Incorporating nutrition supplementation for each patient's post-surgery protocol. 47:05 The hottest trends in aesthetics and plastic surgery and the ones Dr. Youn wishes would disappear.  51:50 The importance of avoiding surgery and finding self-acceptance in the face of aging.  55:35 Dr. Youn's favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and his evolved opinion of chiropractors. 

In this week's Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob Weiss answers participant questions about spectrum disorders, personality disorders, honest therapeutic disclosure, and the importance of involving qualified professionals in diagnosis and recovery.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:08] What are the key differences between the compulsion of a sex addict and OCD?  [6:08] The danger of self-diagnosing personality and mood disorders.  [11:51] Is the treatment the same for hypersexuality and sex addiction?  [16:50] How can my partner have an honest therapeutic disclosure if he doesn't remember what he did?  [20:23] The importance of involving qualified professionals in recovery.  [24:46] Am I dealing with a sex addiction or chronic cheating?  [31:36] How does an addict come to recognize lying and omission of details?  [37:46] Is it dangerous for my addicted partner to only communicate with their support group via text?  [39:42] Key differences between addiction and co-occurring mental health issues.  [42:00] Are all CSATs trained in therapeutic disclosure? [44:56] How can I support my friend on the spectrum with their addiction?  [50:06] Is my partner ready for disclosure if he still has active accounts on sex and dating websites?  [53:23] How can I set healthy boundaries against my partner's rage?  [54:42] Can my addict partner stay separated from other addicts so they can't act out together?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “At the end of the day, even people with obsessive compulsive disorders can get help.”  “Often the behavior looks manic, but it's really addiction.”  “Having one positive experience isn't going to drive long-term change.”  “There is zero downside to doing recovery work.”  “Stopping problematic behavior is just abstinence, it doesn't change your life.” “Recovery isn't about stopping behavior. It's about integrity and doing the right thing.”   

Stella Lizotte Talkie is an Experienced Functional Medicine Consultant and Certified Pregnancy Health Coach who supports women and families through trying to conceive, pregnancy, and the postpartum period. She has a Bachelor's degree in Food & Nutrition Science from Florida State University and works to help women optimize their nutrition, find solutions to health problems, prepare for birth, build their dream birth team, and achieve overall wellness in body, mind, and spirit. Together Stella and I discuss pregnancy complication prevention strategies including metabolomics and acid testing, addressing gaps in traditional OB care, and how functional medicine practitioners can step in to provide better support. We also discuss prenatal and other supplements to support women at each stage of pregnancy, as well as Stella's unique experience of growing up with parents who started Designs for Health. I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Stella Lizotte Talkie - https://www.stellarosewellness.com/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:44 Stella is feeling full of love and family as the new year begins. 2:22 Stella's personal and professional path was shaped from childhood by parents who started Designs for Health. 05:15 The decision to work at Designs for Health wasn't an obvious one for Stella. 06:26 As a certified pregnancy health coach, Stella once was terrified of pregnancy and birth. 09:40 Stella's services as a pregnancy health coach aim to optimize women's health. 11:43 Patterns of the findings from the Designs for Health metabolomics spotlight test. 15:40 Prenatal vitamins that Stella uses and recommends. 21:52 Probiotics timing and strains and considerations for preeclampsia and gestational diabetes. 26:04 Examples of supplements that have successfully addressed pregnancy insomnia and other sleep problems. 31:30 The optimal timeline for preparing for pregnancy for both men and women. 34:27 Addressing the gaps in traditional OB care and assembling a dream birth team. 38:02 Tools that aid in implementing the advice of a pregnancy health coach. 40:27 Postpartum care and support from a health coach. 46:07 Stella's personal favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and the changing fad diets that she has changed her mind about in her childbearing years.  

In this final episode of the podcast before beginning his research sabbatical, your host Dr. Nathan Reiger welcomes high performing teams expert and scholar Amy Edmonson. She is a Professor of Leadership at Harvard Business School, author, and pioneer in the role of psychological safety in high performing teams. This conversation explores the science of failure and insights from Amy's new book Right Kind of Wrong: The Science of Failing Well, including the empowering components of compassion, vulnerability, and intelligent failure.    Key Takeaways: [3:05] What piqued Amy's interest in the topic of failure?  [4:15] The three main kinds of failure.  [6:12] What role does psychological safety play in failing well?  [9:56] Compassionate accountability is essential in conflict.  [11:32] The relationship between trust and conflict.  [12:02] Compassion mindset is essential in failing well.  [15:55] High performing teams don't always make more errors, but they report them quickly.  [17:55] What makes a failure intelligent?  [21:36] Failure is an option, not trying is not an option.  [22:44] Why should we acknowledge vulnerability to self and others?   [28:03] Amy's favorite visuals and tales of failure from Right Kind of Wrong: The Science of Failing Well.  [32:45] The potential role of AI in the face of complex failure.  [36:48] Amy's response to massive failure, such as plane crashes.  [38:30] Amy is a coping role model for failing well.    Mentioned in this episode: The Compassion Mindset Compassionate Accountability: How Leaders Build Connection and Get Results, Nate Regier Visit Next-Element   Right Kind of Wrong: The Science of Failing Well by Amy Edmonson  Amy Edmondson on LinkedIn   The Compassionate Accountability Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.   

In this webinar, CSAT therapist Jon Taylor offers a high-level overview of Attachment Theory, how it manifests as maturity in a relationship, and how it impacts sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery. Jon and Tami then answer questions about attachment theory's role in creating strong relationships.   TAKEAWAYS: [:55] The role of attachment theory in addiction recovery.  [1:58] The history and research of attachment theory.  [7:02] Emotions and comfort are not a luxury, they are a necessity. [8:20] Maturity in a relationship is not making one another responsible for your attachment deficits. [9:35] Patterns in baseline attachment styles. [13:20] Recent findings in attachment theory.  [15:50] What does attachment theory teach about maturity in relationships?  [19:20] How does attachment style apply to couples in recovery?  [23:18] Contemplating real loss and forgiveness in recovery.  [27:40] How can I navigate trauma in a way that doesn't traumatize my children?  [29:55] Attachment and personality grow out of temperament, but presentation can change over time.  [35:04] Attachment explains everything, but it's not the answer to everything. [36:10] As a partner, how can I preserve our progress and disengage early in the negative cycle?  [39:22] How can I overcome my attachment style to create a stronger marriage?  [43:51] How long should an SA be in treatment before making a long term relationship decision?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “It's one of the most annoying parts of therapy, but it really does all come back to mom and dad.”  “Part of attachment theory is understanding that emotions and comfort are not a luxury, they are a necessity.”  “Maturity in a relationship is not making one another responsible for your attachment deficits.” “Attachment theory is important but it does not totally dictate how we can and must show up in our relationships.”  “For maturity to take place, we have to learn how to control our impulses.”  “Attachment explains everything, but it's not the answer to everything.”   

Jenna Hilton is a Certified Physician Assistant, specializing in Family, Internal Medicine, and Medical Aesthetics. She co-founded Vibrant EDU courses at Vibrant Skin Bar and regularly performs one-on-one training with fellow injectors. She teaches Aesthetic and Advanced Injectable Courses at the National Laser Institute, has been named Preceptor of the Year, and is an Adjunct Faculty Member at Midwestern University. In our conversation, Jenna and I discussed all things aesthetics, from detox and gut health to the importance of nutrient therapy in aesthetics. Jenna shares nutrients and supplements for treating acne, her systemic approach to patient healing, and the protein, nutrient deficiencies, and hormonal changes that affect aging patients. She also covers topical and stimulating treatments for hair loss patients, menopause-induced hormone imbalance changes that can be treated with bioidentical hormones, and the critical role of functional medicine in the constant evolution of the aesthetics industry. I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Jenna Hilton - https://vibrantskinbar.com/meet-the-staff/jenna-hilton/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:32 Detox and gut health conversations are lighting Jenna up in the new year. 1:56 Jenna's skin health journey as a passionate PA began in college with a roommate's fatal rash.  5:02 The importance of nutrient therapy in aesthetics.  6:18 Nutrients and supplements for treating acne at different stages of a patient's life.  9:21 Liposomal glutathione dosing for skin brightening and insights into melasma treatments and procedures. 14:00 Jenna's systemic approach to patient healing.  16:12 The ‘skintelligent' patient wants to age gracefully and focuses on gut and hormonal health in addition to outer aesthetics.  18:38 Protein, nutrient deficiencies, and hormonal changes that affect aging patients.  22:52 Lifestyle coaching in Jenna's office is supported in-house.  24:54 Post-procedure nutrient standard protocol for biostimulation and hair loss patients.  27:49 Topical and stimulating treatments for hair loss patients.  29:13 Hormone imbalance changes that are common in perimenopause and menopause that can be treated with bioidentical hormones.  32:25 Jenna's success story of pairing an aesthetic treatment with supplements for an incredible outcome.  33:51 The role of functional medicine in the constant evolution of the aesthetics industry.  35:50 Jenna's personal favorite supplements, current health practices, and the gut health/skin link that she has changed her mind about. 

In this episode, Scott Brassart discusses the addictive nature of sex and pornography, and how these addictions create dysregulation in the dopamine rewards system. Scott and Tami also answer participant questions about the difference between habits and addictions and timelines in recovery.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:10] The dopamine system craves rewards and pleasure.  [3:41] The danger of manipulating the dopamine system with addictions. [6:13] Sexual fantasy delivers a high that is much cheaper than drugs, but just as dangerous. [6:47] As a self-adjusting and self-healing organ, the brain senses when things are going wrong, but addicts respond by consuming even more. [10:15] The downregulated brain will always win when chasing a higher high.  [15:26] How long does it take to reset a dysregulated dopamine system?  [16:12] Rerouting the pathways that addiction creates in our brains. [19:05] Addicts are so focused on acting out that they aren't paying attention to what they're missing out on. [21:51] People who pass the one year mark are much likelier to stay sober for the rest of their lives. [23:18] Does the brain magically reset?  [24:01] Can sex addicts actually change?  [27:01] My addict husband doesn't have any problem performing multiple times a day, how is that even possible?  [27:53] Why do I continue to lie to my partner when I know it's causing her pain? [32:35] My addictions and ADHD medication have dysregulated my system. What are my options?  [34:11] How can my partner keep relapsing when he promises me he won't?  [39:36] How can I help my partner who is on the spectrum?  [40:25] How long does someone need sobriety before they can work on trauma?  [44:26] Can we incorporate specific sex acts into our relationship during recovery?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “There's a reason we have a dopamine system. It's part of our survival.”  “The problem with addictions is that we can manipulate the dopamine system.”  “For addicts, it's much more about the hunt than the actual sex act.” “We have created a chemical imbalance in our brain through our addictions.”  “Addicts are so focused on acting out that we're not paying attention to what we're missing out on.”  “Once my brain reset I had no interest in going back to the misery.” “Addicts chase pleasure as a way of really avoiding pain.”   

Dr. David Brady is the Chief Medical Officer for Designs for Health, Inc. and Diagnostic Solutions Labs, LLC and an expert consultant for nutritional supplements and clinical laboratory industries. He has over 30 years of experience as an integrative practitioner and more than 25 years in health sciences academia. He is a licensed naturopathic medical physician in Connecticut and Vermont; he is board certified in functional medicine and clinical nutrition; and he is a Fellow of the American College of Nutrition. He held the long-time position as Vice President for Health Sciences and Director of the Human Nutrition Institute at the University of Bridgeport in Connecticut, where he continues to serve as an Associate Professor of Clinical Sciences, and he maintains a private practice, Whole Body Medicine, in Fairfield, CT, USA. Dr. Brady has returned to the podcast for a discussion about fibromyalgia and offers a variety of clinical pearls throughout our conversation. He highlights the differentiating features between fibro and pseudo-fibromyalgia, explains the evolution of our understanding of fibro diagnostic markers and subsequent treatments, and details the environmental triggers, predisposition and trauma that tend to lead to the onset of fibromyalgia. He also offers potential solutions that utilize supplements for mitochondrial support and deficiencies and offers an update on long COVID and increased autoimmunity in the population at large. I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. David Brady - https://dss.designsforhealth.com/blogs/faculty-member/david-m-brady Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:50 Dr. Brady is looking forward to the future of Designs for Health. 3:00 A definition of fibromyalgia and the parts of the body that are widely affected by it. 7:33 Differentiating features between fibro and pseudo-fibromyalgia. 9:32 The evolution of our understanding of fibro diagnostic markers and subsequent treatments. 15:25 Common nervous system set up that leads to fibromyalgia later in life. 18:25 Findings and actions resulting from cytokine testing, heightened neural inflammation, and glial cell activation. 23:00 Updates on the link between fibromyalgia and long-haul COVID 19. 26:14 The use of 5-HTP in regulating limbic system dysfunction, neurotransmitters and heightened pain receptors. 31:55 Utilizing botanicals in calming adaptogens and those that are not stimulating. 33:05 5-HTP use for those with SNPs in MAO-A or -B for brain retraining in calming and relaxation. 36:36 Fibromyalgia pain is presented in constant and regular symptomatology. 38:45 Environmental triggers that bring on fibromyalgia, in addition to the intersection of predisposition and trauma. 44:06 Gender and hormonal differences in the onset and presentation of fibromyalgia. 45:50 Potential solutions that utilize supplements for mitochondrial support and deficiencies.  51:56 Managing inflammatory and joint pain in fibromyalgia. 54:42 Dietary patterns and food sensitivities that are common in patients with fibromyalgia. 56:48 Peptide therapy options for patients with fibromyalgia. 59:29 An update on long Covid and increased autoimmunity in the population at large. 1:02:48 Dr. Brady's latest intrigue supplements, current health practices, and the need to be right all of the time that he has changed his mind about.

Mark Anthony Lord joins Tami to discuss the value of building a better Higher Power relationship, and why that can be a key to lasting recovery.  He shares his personal addiction recovery experience, the joy he feels from being alive today, and how he was led to create the 12-Step Church.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:32] Sex and drugs recovery was the impetus for Mark's spiritual path.  [4:47] Learning how to forgive is a critical component of effective healing.  [6:45] Church can be a place of gathering, healing and community. [12:55] 12-Step Church offers connection and celebration in recovery.  [16:45] Recovering addicts deserve more than just being sober, we deserve to be happy and alive on purpose. [22:48] Details for joining a weekly meeting with 12-Step Church.  [27:01] Addictions of all kinds are addressed at 12-Step Church.  [31:03] How am I still alive? The miracle of life after addiction.    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “My entire life took a completely different path because of one little moment.”  “There's always a number of people in recovery in the room at church, but the room wasn't always designed for them.”  “Wherever you are on this journey, that's exactly where you're supposed to be.”  “We all deserve not only to be sober but to be happy.”   

Dr. Pedi Mirdamadi is a Licensed Naturopathic Doctor and Holistic Nutritionist specializing in Functional Medicine, practicing at Oasis Health and Medicine in San Diego. After earning his undergraduate degree from the University of Toronto, Dr. Pedi earned his Master of Science in Kinesiology at York University and became a Registered Holistic Nutritionist (RHN) at the Canadian School of Natural Nutrition. He graduated as a Naturopathic Doctor at Bastyr University California and has received training from leaders in functional medicine, the Institute of Functional Medicine and is an Institute of Functional Medicine Certified Practitioner. In our discussion, Dr. Pedi and I explore gut health, cardiometabolic health, and some business talk about his large social media following. He highlights common stress patterns that are negatively impacting digestive health, the connection between cardiovascular health and GI health, and tests, lab markers, and other considerations for Dr. Pedi's personalized nutrition plans. He answers some of the questions he hears most frequently, including what makes a good diet, why people are sicker than ever, and the biggest overlooked issues in cardiovascular health.  He also highlights the power of social media in educating the public and reaching millions of potential patients and clients daily.    I'm your host, Evelyne Lambrecht, thank you for designing a well world with us.   Episode Resources: Dr. Pedi Mirdamadi - https://drpedinaturalhealth.com/about/ Design for Health Resources: Designs for Health - https://www.designsforhealth.com/ Designs for Health Practitioner Exclusive Drug Nutrient Depletion and Interaction Checker - https://www.designsforhealth.com/drug-nutrient-interaction/ Visit the Designs for Health Research and Education Library which houses medical journals, protocols, webinars, and our blog. https://www.designsforhealth.com/research-and-education/education The Designs for Health Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions. Chapters: 00:00 Intro. 01:24 Rebuilding his health has been lighting Dr. Pedi up in the new year.  2:32 Pedi journey toward practicing functional medicine began as a personal trainer.  4:41 Common stress patterns that are negatively impacting digestive health.  5:46 Lab findings regularly show an increasing presence of H. pylori. Dr. Pedi offers natural treatment options. 9:27 People seem to be sicker than ever before. Is it caused by a weakened GI or weakened immune issues?  11:15 Dr. Pedi's favorite gut health nutrients to target whole health and healing.  13:50 Applications for post biotics including addressing leaky gut.  14:30 The connection between cardiovascular health and GI health, and TMAO considerations.  19:20 What does a good diet include? The answer can be both personalized and generalized.  22:07 Lab markers and other considerations for Dr. Pedi's personalized nutrition plans. 24:36 Addressing histamine intolerance and stabilizing mast cell response.  26:55 Dr. Pedi's interactions with Dr. Mimi Guarneri greatly shaped his journey as a doctor. 33:15 Clinical patterns that are found in stool testing for the GI and cardiology connection.  34:05 Sleep apnea is one of the biggest overlooked issues in cardiovascular health.  40:43 The connection between oral health and cardiovascular health.  41:46 Supplement recommendations for increased cardiovascular health.  42:16 Dr. Pedi highlights all that social media has allowed naturopathic doctors to accomplish.  46:00 The power of consistently posting helpful marketing information on social media.  50:08 Key lessons learned in building a business.  52:25 Pedi's personal favorite supplements, favorite health practices, and the approach to healing that he has changed his mind about in recent years.

In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Erin Snow answers participant questions about fetishes and triggers – what they are, where they come from, and what they really mean about a person's sexuality and the likelihood of successful recovery. She also offers resources and actions betrayed partners can employ to empower themselves while they offer support to their addicted partner.    TAKEAWAYS: [:56] My husband's fantasy about my sister underlines his addiction to non-consenting victims. [4:00] All humans fantasize. That doesn't make all behaviors acceptable.  [8:00] Do fetishes get more intense from watching porn?  [10:01] Can we incorporate healthy fetishes into our sex life?  [12:47] Is my fetish a sex addiction?  [15:13] What happened in my childhood that led to my fetish?  [20:20] My husband is defensive about watching teen porn. How can I keep myself and our children safe? [26:29] I think my partner is protecting his addiction, he says I'm crazy. How can I protect myself?  [32:10] I'm going crazy waiting for my partner's disclosure. What can I do to empower myself in this process? [38:25] My partner is watching barely-legal porn. What does his fantasy say about our reality?  [45:13] What actions reduce intimacy? My partner doesn't recognize all of the ways that I'm trying to connect with her. [50:13] My partner has been lying about his recovery group. How can I reset clear boundaries?  [52:02] My partner never follows through with his safety plan and is relapsing again. I think I'm done, but where do I go from here?  [57:10] My partner's CSAT causally diagnosed me in their session. Now what?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Fetishes are not going anywhere. It's part of your arousal template.”  “Fetishes are neither good nor bad. It's just a question of whether you can incorporate it into your sex life.”  “Knowing the fantasty and the why behind it is not going to solve the problem.”  “For most of us, recovery is literally learning a new language.”  “Fantasy life and reality are two very different things that shouldn't be compared at all.”  “We are not going to judge you for staying or for going. But that decision has to be yours.”  

In this episode, Scott Brassart discusses the addictive nature of pornography, and why it's such a hard "drug" to quit. Scott and Tami then answer participant questions about porn addiction and recovery support for both the addict and the partner.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Porn, written porn, and ‘not porn' – all from a porn addict's perspective.  [2:47] What makes so appealing porn to addicts?  [4:20] The two elements of pornography that make it highly addictive.  [12:45] What is happening inside your brain while watching porn?  [13:51] Porn, cocaine, and orgasm payoffs, ranked by pleasure levels.  [16:20] Why do some addicts have a physical library collection of porn?  [19:38] By escaping, porn addicts miss out on the good as well as the bad.  [24:48] Should I start using video editing apps to take away erotic content?  [27:20] What is the difference between porn addiction and compulsive porn usage? [28:23] Is there anything healthy about sexualizing myself in a performative way?  [31:07] Is any element of porn usage healthy? [34:12] As a sex and porn addict, is there any scenario where I could view porn in a healthy manner?  [38:30] Is sex itself ever going to be satisfying enough for my porn addict partner?  [42:13] How do I protect myself from rewiring my brain into an addict's brain?  [45:30] Is my addict partner trying to escape our marriage?  [48:58] If we have sex every night will my partner stop cheating?  [50:47] How can I be the best cheerleader to my partner through recovery?  [52:01] Is watching porn considered cheating?  [55:10] Resources that focus on grief and loss of porn addiction.    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “If I'm looking at an image to get a physical arousal, it's porn, whether somebody else would classify it as porn or not.”  “Porn addict brains and cocaine addict brains are indistinguishable.  The parts that are over and under developed look exactly the same.”  “Addictions are not about pleasure.  They're about escape.”  “There is nothing in a TV show that is worth me losing my recovery.”  “There is no ‘just one' for addicts.”  “There is not a partner on the planet that can make their addict not act out if they're ultimately going to.”   

Dr. Eddie Capparucci and Tami discuss and answer questions about building confidence in recovery. They describe the coping strategies and layers of hurt that can be found on the pain field, and the four things that have to happen in order for a partner to successfully stay on the pain field in order to work toward recovery and healing. This session was live via SexandRelationshipHealing.com on February 21, 2024.   TAKEAWAYS: [:30] The pain field is a place where both partners are speaking a different language.  [5:03] Emotional dysregulation happens when either partner leaves the pain field.  [7:25] Where does a partner go when they leave the pain field?  [9:10] Why should a partner want to stay on the pain field?  [11:30] Slowing everything down is the starting point for staying on the field.  [13:52] Quiet down the inner child to engage as an adult.  [15:32] Stay present and engaged, then identify the pain point.  [20:32] If you see your spouse moving off the pain field, tell them.  [24:00] The ultimate goal is reconciliation. Getting there will be a process. [27:36] If a man is getting flooded, he needs to take a break.  [32:41] My spouse has a pattern of accidentally physically hurting me or my possessions, is this unconscious resentment?  [37:04] If my spouse needs to take a break, why doesn't he just say so?  [38:12] We just got back together and now I'm experiencing abandonment trauma.  What should I be focusing on to feel healthy?  [41:43] How can I be more attune to my wife's wishes?  [45:20] How important is it that the betrayer be on the pain field? [48:00] What does Dr. Eddie which he had known early in his recovery?  [49:34] My wife gets triggered when I don't check in with her.  Is this normal in recovery?  [51:45] How can I quiet my inner child if I don't believe it's real?  [53:45] My husband doesn't think he's dealing with addiction. How can we navigate recovery?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “We're not going to do anything perfectly, but if we're willing, we stand a chance.”  “You have to quiet the inner child before the emotions begin to ramp up.”  “If you're not engaged you may as well be on another field.”  “Your infidelity is the cause, but not the core of your spouse's pain.”  “If your partner is totally deflated and depleted, you're not going to get what you're looking for.  You're going to get just the opposite.”  

Debbie McRae takes on a word that she hears daily in her practice – gaslighting.  Why do sex and porn addicts gaslight, and what can their partners do about it? This webinar covers what exactly gaslighting is, what purpose it serves, what it might sound like, and what you can do about it.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Gaslighting is a term that Debbie McRae hears every single day in her practice.  [1:21] Simple and clinical definitions of gaslighting and common dialogue used in gaslighting.  [5:13] Acknowledgement of the seriousness of an addiction means the addict would have to do something about it.  [6:19] Gaslighting partners are trying to avoid facing reality and avoid confrontation.  [8:01] Increased defensiveness and denial are common signs of gaslighting.  [9:10] Addicts often believe they are the exception to the rules. [10:09] Shame and extended periods of getting away with gaslighting are common reasons addicts continue to gaslight.  [11:25] Gaslighters have a style – the intimidator, the good guy, and the glamor gaslighter. [15:24] DARVO – deny, attack, reverse the victim and offender – aims to shift the blame off the addict.  [16:35] The danger of minimizing rather than validating, withholding, countering, diverting and discrediting, deflection and distraction, and stereotypical labeling. [22:49] Using loving words and rewriting history are confusing ways to manipulate a hurt partner. [24:30] How can you stop the gaslighting as an addict?  [28:18] What can the betrayed partner do about gaslighting?  [34:50] The importance of focusing on your own recovery.  [38:01] Is it normal that my spouse won't even talk to me about his porn addiction?  [44:21] How much responsibility do I need to take for my addict partner's behavior?  [48:35] Why does my partner blame me when I am blindsided by his behavior?  [52:44] How can I identify real abuse versus the mental illness that is adding to the issues?  [55:00] How can I handle my partner's passive aggressive behavior?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Gaslighting is a power trip. People gaslight because it gives them power.”  “Gaslighting keeps the betrayed partner constantly on their toes and on high alert.”  “Gaslighting can be really hard for the betrayed partner to identify.”  “Betrayed partners have superior memories because they are connected to the prefrontal cortex.” “If you are a liar, know that you are a gaslighter and you have to be honest with yourself.” 

Dr. Rob and Dr. Johanna O'Flaherty continue their discussion about trauma. How can recovering addicts find the healing that they need when trauma is still unknown? How can you gather the right team to support you in your recovery work? How can you find peace following big ‘T' and little ‘t' trauma? They answer these questions and consider the gift of working on yourself and the power of standing on your own two feet and finding your voice as you navigate your recovery journey.   TAKEAWAYS: [1:27] How can I find the right therapist to help with my trauma work?  [5:25] The importance of gathering the right team to support you in recovery work.  [7:20] Seeking Integrity resources that are available when finances are limited.  [9:28] Differences between big ‘T' and little ‘t' trauma.  [12:35] Facing the haunting vision that triggers you.  [19:10] How can I come to peace following such major violations?  [24:02] Approaching brokenness and filling the void that once came with betrayal.  [26:06] The focus of the Seeking Integrity women's intensives is not on the spouse.  [28:17] Are you ready to accept the consequences of doing whatever you want?    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Dr. Geoff Goodman Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Dr. Johanna O'Flaherty Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “Interview your therapist and find out what experience they have in trauma.”  “The beginning of trauma work is awareness.”  “I want you to discover the power of standing on your own two feet and finding your own voice.”  “For every piece of work you can do on yourself, you are offering a gift to someone else.” 

Dr. Nathan Regier, your host, welcomes returning podcast guest Massimo Backus, a distinguished executive coach and leadership development consultant. He is the host of the Leadership Mind podcast and a documentary filmmaker who captures the essence of the human experience and an empathetic and holistic approach to leadership.    In today's conversation, Massimo shares wisdom from his new book Human First, Leader Second: How Self Compassion Outperforms Self Criticism, underscores the importance of loving ourselves first, and offers insights into today's leadership.    Key Takeaways: [2:15] Massimo's book started off as a dream and became a reality because the message matters.  [4:21] What surprised Massimo most about the book writing process?  [5:45] The main message of Human First, Leader Second: How Self Compassion Outperforms Self Criticism is that our humanness is what connects us all together.  [8:04] Massimo's journey is living proof of the humanness of the life journey and the importance of self-compassion.  [11:31] How Massimo designed the book and how he hopes it will be used. [14:08] Research suggests you will be more successful if you practice self-compassion.  [15:05] The unique perspective on self-compassion that Massimo wants to shine a brighter light on.  [16:36] WIMPS are well-intentioned, misinformed protectors that we have to learn to live with.  [18:35] The three steps that are an on-ramp into the practice of self-compassion.  [19:40] Without accountability, there is no self-compassion.  [20:35] Massimo unpacks the importance of awareness, acceptance and accountability.  [22:02] Feelings are for feeling, and feelings are just data points.  [24:05] Action items that will lead to accountability.  [26:06] Massimo explains how to feel feelings without losing control.  [28:25] Emotions are a language that we all need to learn to speak with fluency.  [29:28] Massimo's word model covers awareness, acceptance and accountability.  [32:05] Becoming comfortable in your own skin is about more than just acting authentically.  [34:24] Massimo's Declaration captures the key lessons from his book.  [37:57] Massimo's invitation to pause and ask yourself how to employ self-compassion.   Mentioned in this episode: The Compassion Mindset Compassionate Accountability: How Leaders Build Connection and Get Results, Nate Regier Visit Next-Element On Compassion Podcast Episode 037: Self-compassion: The Key to Effective Leadership with Massimo Backus  Human First, Leader Second: How Self Compassion Outperforms Self Criticism, Massimo Backus  Massimo Backus on LinkedIn   The Compassionate Accountability Podcast is produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    Tweetables: “The idea for this book hit me over the head and I just couldn't let it go.” #oncompassion   “Self-compassion is the practice that allows us to accept our humanity.” #oncompassion   “We don't need to control or be perfect all the time. That's actually getting in our way.”  #oncompassion   “When we're internally resourced by self-compassion, we don't need validation from others.” #oncompassion   “I can be the author of my story, rather than the victim of it.” #oncompassion

Dr. Rob and Dr. Johanna O'Flaherty explore trauma – what exactly is it, how does it come about, and what can you do about it? They consider the wounded healer, the importance of integrating all lived experiences to become whole again, and the role of self-forgiveness in overcoming trauma. Johanna is passionate about helping individuals heal from incident trauma, ancestral trauma, prolonged trauma, and more, and she cautions listeners against marginalizing the damaging effects of true trauma in favor of everyday difficult life experiences.   TAKEAWAYS: [1:21] A little bit about Dr. O'Flaherty and her passion for trauma recovery.  [3:54] Dr. O'Flaherty is celebrating 47 years of personal recovery.  [5:40] The archetype of the wounded healer.  [7:31] Integrating all of our experiences is an essential part of becoming whole.  [9:18] Trauma happens outside an individual's coping skills.  [11:20] Trauma will not leave you alone until you do trauma work. [12:31] Self forgiveness is an essential first step to overcoming reenacting.  [16:44] Ancestral trauma can impact you and the next generation.  [20:42] My husband has been cheating on me. Why does ancestral trauma matter? [22:50] Incident trauma happens when an event changes a person's entire life.  [25:45] The impact of combat trauma and prolonged trauma.  [28:02] The concept of trauma has been overutilized. What can you do to heal?    RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101  Seeking Integrity Dr. Geoff Goodman Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Dr. Johanna O'Flaherty Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES: “We're all wounded in some form or another.”  “We have to take back those wounded parts of us that we want to banish out of our minds.”  “A traumatic event is so extraordinary that it is outside the individual's coping abilities.”  “Trauma will not leave you alone. It continues to raise it's ugly head.”  “We go into the vortex of the pain to take the power out of the memory.”  “That which is not transformed is transmitted to the next generation.” 

Dr. Rob and Tami discuss some of the most common questions about relapse, including triggers, timing, and mental health considerations. They also address questions about fairness in affairs, the role of grief in recovery and healing, and when it's time to stop worrying about your partner and start loving yourself.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My partner started dating after our divorce, and now we are back together. Was she cheating?  [8:15] Resources for couples who don't know how to move beyond the pain.  [11:10] Useful tools for those facing relapse. [13:20] Handling the triggers that are associated with relapse and entitlement.  [18:24] If I am constantly objectifying or moving into fantasy about someone else, does that mean I'm slipping?  [24:17] Learning to function in reality is the work of recovery. [26:24] Create a plan when you find yourself headed back toward acting out.  [30:28] The four most dangerous words for an addict – “I can handle it.”  [30:50] Am I stuck in victim mode like my spouse says I am?  [37:00] Empathy and compassion is central to recovery.  When that is lacking there is a great chance that the addicted partner is relapsing.  [38:50] My husband has been plotting his back-ups, including with my sister. Where do I go from here?  [42:25] My husband is attracted to my female therapist. What should I do about it?  [48:05] My partner had an eight-year affair. Does he love her more than me?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “What your wife did while you were divorced is not your problem.  Your problem is how can we have clarity and new commitments moving forward.”  “Relapse doesn't just happen at the moment that the action happen. It happens when you gave yourself permission along the way.”  “It's much easier to make the right decisions when you have a plan.”  “Learning to live in reality is the work of recovery.”  “The four most dangerous words for an addict – ‘I can handle it'.”

Every recovering addict has to face their triggers at some point. Triggers that are handled in a healthy way don't result in regrettable behaviors, while unmanaged triggers can lead to additional pain and loss of trust. Seeking Integrity's Scott Brassart joins Tami for a conversation about the nature of triggers and the options that addicts have when dealing with them. This session was live via SexandRelationshipHealing.com on December 20, 2023.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] What are triggers? What happens when they are set off?  [2:04] Internal triggers relate to feelings such as fear, shame, loneliness, and boredom.  [4:06] External triggers include arguments, visual stimuli, unstructured free time and more.  [6:04] Not all triggers are negative, but all triggers elicit a response. [7:04] Betrayed partners are often dealing with post-traumatic triggers.  [8:10] Step number one when feeling triggered – pause and figure out what you're feeling.  [12:05] Triggers are simply data that you can use intentionally.  [15:23] Your partner is not always the best support person to turn to.  [18:13] The importance of gratitude when facing triggers. [19:00] Being triggered can be considered a gift.  [24:37] People trigger me – am I even fit to be a partner?  [27:15] My sleep is affected by my trauma and pain.  What can I do?  [36:25] Intimacy and anger avoidance both point to trauma and underlying pain.  [43:06] How can I manage my triggered feelings about the other addicts in my husband's recovery group?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Triggers spin us into a cycle of something that we don't want to be in.”  “Triggers are normal for addicts, they're normal for betrayed partners, they're normal for people whose lives are perfect!”  “All feelings are driven by needs – good feelings are met needs, bad feelings are unmet needs.”  “Triggers lose power when they're not rewarded.” 

Boundaries can be one of the hardest areas in recovery for both the addict and their partner. Addicts and their partners only have one thing in their control during recovery – themselves.  Setting up both internal and external boundaries is key to a successful recovery journey. In this online webinar, therapist Debbie McRae discusses internal boundaries.    TAKEAWAYS: [:25] Common boundary mistakes that are setting recovering couples up to fail.  [2:10] What safety boundaries are (and aren't).  [4:05] Internal boundaries define what you will and won't tolerate from your partner. [6:28] ‘Thinking' boundaries allow us to challenge our negative thoughts.  [12:47] ‘Emotion and feeling' boundaries allow us to decide if and how to move forward. [15:35] Choosing to respond rather than react. [20:11] Internal boundaries that focus on healthy actions and behaviors.  [27:15] Appropriate boundaries around betrayal details.  [31:40] The best place to start is with yourself.  [36:40] If the goal is connection, boundaries are essential.  [37:15] My partner doesn't even know what they're feeling. Where do we start?  [44:01] My partner refuses to put in the work. Now what?  [47:52] How does neurodiversity affect our relationship and recovery?  [52:35] My partner lied about his therapist. Where do I go from here?  [56:08] I need help setting reasonable boundaries.    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES “Boundaries are about keeping the good in and the bad out.”  “Internal boundaries allow you to question the facts without getting triggered into distressing emotions.”  “I can approach my feelings as opportunities to learn about myself and my partner.”  “The more time we spend getting to know our internal boundaries around our actions and behaviors, the better the outcome is going to be.”

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Sound WavesThe focus of this second season is sound as art, music, protest, and violence.An exploration of how sounds shape our experience of the world requires a study of music, but also that of the less explored sonic landscapes that exist outside of the anthropomorphic auditory register.Sounds of MiamiA mixtape of Miami unicity, History, future, culture, losses and rebuildings.Time Stamps + Takeaways[1:33] Your Miami mixtape.[2:13] Ashley Solage describes her Miami, humid days, mangoes in mom's backyard and island music in the streets.[3:00] Alexandra Vazquez, 305 or die, talks about her book The Florida Room and why this architectural feature is used in her work.[5:49] Tiger Tiger cover of Patti Smith's Because the Night. Alexandra talks about the Miccosukee.[9:27] Etapp Kyle and Tarra Remix Moscow by Danny Daze (Danny From Miami). Ashley shares her experience as the venue manager and founder of ‘The Void' at LMNT.[15:20] DJ Uncle AL and Felix Sama Mega Mix. Alexandra explains the Miami (Liberty City and Overtown) crosses and losses and rebuildings that this song underscores.[22:35] Rocking Chair by Gwen McCray. Alexandra and Ashley's hopes for the future and for Miami's music.[27:34] Bonus Track: The Institute at Midnight by Matthew Evan Taylor, as well as his own words on what Miami music is.[29:21] Episode 7 is next: Sounds of Jazz as Critique.Contributors + GuestsAshley Solage / Artist, Community Organizer.Alexandra T. Vazquez / Associate Professor.Donna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Jocelyn Arem and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMIPodflyJunk, by Bruno Hunger and Gregor HuberThe Florida Room, by Alexandra VazquezBuffalo Tiger, Miccosukee LeaderTiger Tiger Because The NightEtapp Kyle and Tarra Remix, MoscowDJ Uncle AL and Felix Sama, Mega MixGwen McCrae, Rockin' ChairMatthew Evan Taylor, The Institute at MidnightGean MorenoQuotes + Social“Part of what happens, especially around Miami music history, is that it kind of mimics some of the apartheids of the city itself, where it keeps people and music in these separate camps … That's not the truth of the music.”“In that moment, none of us had any care in the world. We weren't thinking about bills, jobs, about homophobia, nothing. I think about that day and how it is possible for marginalized or oppressed communities to actually come together and support each other and experience freedom.”

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Sound WavesThe focus of this second season is sound as art, music, protest, and violence.An exploration of how sounds shape our experience of the world requires a study of music, but also that of the less explored sonic landscapes that exist outside of the anthropomorphic auditory register.Deep SoundsThe somatic experience of sound is inspected from its potential for violence and torture to the transcendence of healing, by way of its actual physical form.A discussion on the ambiguity of the human relationship with sound through science, technology, and spirituality.Time Stamps + Takeaways[0:00] Sound as a physical phenomenon and an ambiguous dance-fight.[3:44] Kode 9 speaks to the somatic experience of sound, whereby the whole body is a listening device in a kind of tactile phenomenon.[5:42] From military sounds to music by way of sonic branding, Steve Goodman talks about the blurred relationship between coercive and aestheticized sounds.[7:13] Jill Linz touches on the differences in the understanding of sound in physics and psychoacoustics disciplines.[9:05] Sound as a weapon has more to do with atmosphere according to Steve, he offers a few choice metaphors to illustrate this idea.[11:23] On the inaudible sounds we can see Jill's work with Atom Music.[16:50] With the understanding of sound as a physical force, Steve's thoughts on sonic warfare take on a more ominous practical aspect, from the Havana Syndrome to LRAD cannons.[21:55] As civilians, the acoustic experience of a battlefield — say from a bomb shelter — is often the only one. Besides sonic fear, and on a smaller scale, sonic torture can take place.[23:20] From nightclub to nightmare, how context, agency and affect impact perception.[25:58] Sound as violence also has its counterpart in medicine, Guadalupe Maravilla talks about his healing practice.[29:00] More than frequencies, Guadalupe shares the extent of the work required to prepare for a sound bath.[30:00] Beyond the sound is our capacity to receive it.[30:49] Episode 6 is next: Sounds of Miami.Contributors + GuestsSteve Goodman / Sound Artist.Jill A. Linz / Physics Instructor.Guadalupe Maravilla / Healer, Artist, Choreographer.Donna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Isabelle Lee and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMIPodflyJunk, by Bruno Hunger and Gregor HuberSonic Warfare: Sound, Affect and the Ecology of Fear, by Steve GoodmanThe Last Angel of History, by John AkomfraThe Black Audio CollectiveNotting Hill CarnivalAtom MusicHavana SyndromeLRADSound BathQuotes + Social“The whole body becomes an eardrum.” — Steve Goodman“So in the psychology or psychoacoustics camp, sound does not exist until it enters into your ear. But from a physics perspective, sound occurs whenever you have the motion of particles.” — Jill Linz

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Sound WavesThe focus of this second season is sound as art, music, protest, and violence.An exploration of how sounds shape our experience of the world requires a study of music, but also that of the less explored sonic landscapes that exist outside of the anthropomorphic auditory register.Jazz as a Critical Way of LifeImprovisation is the shaping force of jazz, but as it shapes jazz it also structures community, and enables resistance.Today's episode explores where jazz finds its roots and how far it sends its shoots.Time Stamps + Takeaways[0:00] Prose — poetry, improvisation, and the world — as shaped by jazz. [2:49] The structure of jazz in opposition to the discourse that jazz has no design. Donna shares her thoughts on the expansive musical genre.[4:47] Farah Jasmine Griffin on how the U.S. was using jazz as a tool to showcase democratic equality on the world stage, while many jazz artists continued to critique American racial politics and colonialism.[7:03] The meaning of jazz and improvisation through the eyes and hands of Endea Owens, Juilliard graduate and house bassist for the Late Show with Steven Colbert alongside.[11:45] Farah shares her experience of jazz in New York — especially on a random weekday.[17:40] How improvisation shapes more than jazz — more than art — a community.[21:00] Writing as a question to be answered and its relationship to jazz and improvisation, according to Farah.[24:23] Endea speaks of her community involvement and the impacts of music, and especially live music, on neighborhoods.[26:47] Before jazz became a myth, Farrah recounts the History.[30:56] The pandemic may have launched a new-found need for natural, free, unique sounds of improvisational jazz. Endea shares Solange's ask, as well as her own hopes for the future of jazz, and women in jazz.[34:35] Episode 8 is next: Sounds Silence (Listening).Contributors + GuestsFarah Jasmine Griffin / Professor.Endea Owens / Musician.Donna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Jocelyn Arem and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMIPodflyJunk, by Bruno Hunger and Gregor HuberTony MorrisonNathaniel MackeyFred Moten poetic workCharles GainesTerry AtkinsMaya Konfeld, Structure in the Moment, Rhythm Section ResponsivityJelly Roll MortonLouis ArmstrongDuke EllingtonBillie HolidayElla FizgeraldBlue NoteEsperanza SpaldingRobert GlassperAmiri BarakaDizzy GillespieJon BaptisteGeri AllenBrandee YoungerJoyce JonesCassandra WilsonThe Community CookoutSolangeQuotes + Social“I think that that's one of the great difficulties of being a minority group in the United States that has suffered at the hands of the government, but then also being used by the government.” — Farah Jasmine Griffin“Jazz to me is freedom of expression. Of course, it's Black freedom of expression … It morphed into something that was so free and so just such a breath of fresh air that it is now an inclusive art that's for everyone.” — Endea Owens“I sometimes start writing because I don't know the answer … for me, writing starts with a question.” — Farah Jasmine Griffin

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Sound WavesThe focus of this second season is sound as art, music, protest, and violence.An exploration of how sounds shape our experience of the world requires a study of music, but also that of the less explored sonic landscapes that exist outside of the anthropomorphic auditory register.On Listening as an Ethical PracticeFor our season finale we offer hot, crunchy, gooey sounds!We discuss the ethics of sound and how the old lexicons of sound have trained our cognitive biases to hear in racialized, gendered,and classist terms.Time Stamps + Takeaways[0:00] Hearing versus listening, passivity and intentionality. A reading of Claudia Rankine's Citizen.[3:40] Nina Eidsheim talks about the intermaterial vibrational quality of sound as well as the implicated nature of the listener — the receptor as an integral part of sound itself.[7:45] “Figures of sound” — like figures of speech — are susceptible to cognitive biases. Nina explains what this looks like, and how to challenge this in ourselves.[12:02] Hot, cold, crunchy, gooey, explosive sounds? Nina invites us to disrupt our patterns and revisit long-established lexicons.[14:35] Jana Winderen speaks to the sounds of the seas, and while they are quiet, they are by no means silent — and neither are humans — as well as how she records her work.[18:43] We weren't always this loud. Jana shares the destructive impacts of human noise pollution.[22:54] Tina Campt on quiet photographs and the inexistence of silence in the world.[26:43] Black Germans and their relationship to sounds of war was a path to a new sonic modality for Tina. She also speaks to the power of photographs as a tool for control and propaganda.[30:46] Tina reads a photograph, which leads to thoughts on how we consume media.[30:47] Season 2 closes with a quiet encouragement to be intentional in our listening practice and invites listeners to tune in for season 3.Contributors + GuestsNina Sun Eidsheim / Scholar + Professor.Jana Winderen / Artist.Tina Campt / Professor.Donna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Isabelle Lee and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMIPodflyJunk, by Bruno Hunger and Gregor HuberPauline OliverosCitizen: An American Lyric, by Claudia RankineThe Race of Sound: Listening, Timbre, and Vocality in African American Music, by Nina Sun EidsheimQuotes + Social“If we believe that something like gender exists, then we will hear gender in people's voices, if we believe that something like class, or race exists, then we will hear that as well, even when we listen to music.” — Nina Sun Eidsheim“Humans are around most of the planet all the time. So when you start recording with hydrophones, you will realize how loud we are with engines, with ferries, shipping traffic. All this kind of seismic testing, air guns, sonars, military sonar…” — Jana Winderen“What we mistake for quiet is an assumption that silence actually exists in the world. So quiet to me is a profoundly overlooked sonic modality. It is overlooked because we think of it as an absence when in fact it is a really subtle presence. “ — Tina Campt

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Oceanic Ways of KnowingThe focus of this first season is the ocean as a source of knowledge. Understanding identity and history inevitably requires a study of the seas, the communities it affects, and the secrets it was made to hold in the deep.The Sea Is HistoryExamine the sea as a collective memory of violence, an underwater keeper of often obscured identity and meaning.Archaeologists Ayana Flewellen and Justin Dunnavant probe the relationship between the sea and human history alongside Master Diver and Marine Biology Ph.D. student Kelsey Sapp.From sunken slave ships to coral preservation as an act of trauma healing, listen in to this deep dive on the historical and symbolic meaning of our physical oceans.Time Stamps + Takeaways[0:00] The Guerrero — a short intro of humans and History lost to the sea.[4:22] Ayana Flewellen paints a portrait of the slave trade's monumental and poorly accounted for human losses — 1.8 million African lives, names, family lines, and stories were lost to the sea.[6:05] Diving With a Purpose is tasked with surveying maritime wrecks to document and preserve this History.[7:37] Justin Dunnavant shares his work uncovering traces of the African diaspora kept in the material record if not the written one.[9:43] Marcus Garvey's entrepreneurial spirit offers Justin an opportunity to reinvigorate a historical narrative that explores Black History and the relationship to the sea outside of the discussion of slavery.[11:13] Justin touches on the idiosyncrasies of underwater archaeology and the debate against western and colonialist practices on how we are meant to interact with objects of history, if at all.[14:56] On the undoing of norms in academia opening up exploration and the possibilities in a space — like the sea — that can never be fully owned.[18:23] Ethical commemoration as a goal can also be an environmental statement. Justin shares his and Ayana's idea on how to counter the Black death narrative with an underwater memorial garden.[19:30] Kelsey Sapp touches on her work in assisted coral migration and how she is participating in Justin and Ayana's vision for a living museum.[22:46] On the intersection of cultural and environmental preservation. Ayana fleshes out the underwater trans-Atlantic living monument project, moving it away from the spectacle of Black death and towards a meditative healing experience.[25:00] The somatic experience of Black divers recovering this History helps facilitate the transition of the narrative of the ocean as a space of Black death to one Black life.[29:00] Episode 2 is next: The Sea Is Future.Contributors + GuestsDonna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.Ayana Flewellen / Black Feminist, Archaeologist, Storyteller, and Artist.Justin Dunnavant / Anthropologist, Archaeologist, and Historian.Kelsey Sapp / Ph.D. Student (Marine Biology) and Master Diver.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Isabelle Lee and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMISlave Voyages DatabaseDiving With a PurposeSociety of Black ArchaeologistsPodflyQuotes“Imagine the magnitude of it: 12.5 million Africans were forced to make this voyage across the Atlantic Ocean, and out of that, you have about 1.8 million that were lost at sea.” — Ayana Flewellen“We've come to an understanding that there are certain sites that don't necessarily need to be explored, studied or excavated in part because actually uncovering them would damage the integrity of what they are meant to do.” — Justin Dunnavant“There is a wide variety and spectrum of Florida coral reefs and you realize that you have entered an alien world, a place that only about 1% of people in the world will ever see, and that is a great privilege and a great responsibility.” — Kelsey Sapp

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Oceanic Ways of KnowingThe focus of this first season is the ocean as a source of knowledge. Understanding identity and history inevitably requires a study of the seas, the communities it affects, and the secrets it was made to hold in the deep.The Sea Is FutureThe sea isn't the exclusive domain of History, it also nourishes the ebbs and flows of the futures we could build.The wordless work of Drexciya provided a new means to explore racialized narratives and reappropriate cultural works, join our guests as they explore the 3 decades of communal world-building.Time stamps + Takeaways[0:00] A visit to Drexciya: the underwater bubble metropolis of the future made alive by aquatic warriors, a free people whose roots can be traced back to Africa.[4:16] Abu Qadim Haqq shares the genesis of Drexciya, the sinking of trans-Atlantic slave ships carrying pregnant mothers… and what a day in the life of modern day Drexciyans might look like.[8:45] The deeply unexplored oceans gave rise to the possibilities of a strong counter-narrative when it comes to the fate of the 2 million black lives lost to the horrors of the middle passage.[12:07] DeForrest Brown Jr. shares his involvement in the great 3 decade long communal world-building exercise of Drexciya and touches on how the duo inspired his upcoming book.[16:08] DeForrest explains how the remains of the great music industrial complex left behind by MoTown enabled the birthing of Drexciya and free jazz techno as a black musical genre.[18:50] European techno has come to be what is known as “techno” DeForrest touches on his Make Techno Black Again project.[20:06] Katherine Mckittrick frames music's — and Drexciya's — relationship to non-linear narrative, to the unknown and unbound, in opposition to the European need to know and acquire knowledge. She also talks about the importance of adding creative works to archival memory.[23:02] Katherine speaks to works like The Black Atlantic and Drexciya as a metaphor and a geography for navigating the diaspora as well as its relationship to water.[25:00] Drexciya's lyricless story provides a different way to enter a discussion about race, Katherine explains how this openness takes us elsewhere without any map at all.[27:00] Katherine shares her thoughts on the possibilities of “belonging” to the sea, as opposed to the land, as well as how Afro-Futurism can think the world no-linearly — like Drexciya's alternate present narrative.[32:30] Episode 3 is next: Transoceanic Relations.Contributors + GuestsDonna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.Abu Qadim Haqq / Illustrator and Artist.DeForrest Brown Jr. / Rythmanalyst, Media Theorist, and Curator.Katherine Mckittrick / Professor (Gender Studies) and Writer.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Isabelle Lee and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMIPodflyDrexciyaWatery Ecstatic, by Ellen GhallagerMatthew Angelo HarrisonBinti Trilogy, by Nnedi OkoraforBlack Atlantis, by Ayesha HameedAssembling a Black Counter-Culture, by DeForrest Brown Jr.Make Techno Black AgainThe Black Atlantic: Modernity And Double Consciousness, by Paul GilroyQuotes“There is an estimate of 2 million people that were thrown overboard during the trans-atlantic slave trade. So those are millions of people we'll never know who are human beings, had families… and that is a dark void in itself.” Abu Qadim Haqq“You have the Ford Motors Company which was financing many black people, building neighborhoods and kind of paternalistically building an economy for freed black people up north while working with George Washington Carver in Georgia to finance plantations.” DeForrest Brown Jr.“Our preoccupation with optics — to see each other and the racialized body and to know what that racialized body means — instead Drexciya provides us with this lyricless soundtrack that asks us to enter into a conversation about race in a different way.” Katherine Mckittrick

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Oceanic Ways of KnowingThe focus of this first season is the ocean as a source of knowledge. Understanding identity and history inevitably requires a study of the seas, the communities it affects, and the secrets it was made to hold in the deep.Transoceanic RelationsWhether firmly grounded in the geographical idea of “place” or that of placelessness, the diasporic experience across oceans manages to keep historical notions of connectivity.Our guests ponder the crisis or borders in voluntary and forced migrations across borderless oceans.Timestamps + Takeaways[0:00] Drexciya provides one perception of Afro-Futurism, but not all agree…The Mundane Afro-Futurist Manifesto by Martine Syms sets the tone.[4:12] The world's deadliest border was born of a crisis of European identity. SA Smythe breaks down how this identity also defines the “other” and the ways shifting ocean borders have enabled the abandonment of black bodies.[7:11] The Black Mediterranean enables framing of the current migrant crisis by recentering African participation in the historical building of Europe and the intersecting aspects of black culture throughout the diaspora.[10:00] A migrant crisis or a crisis of border treatment of migrants? Racial issues are not the trope of America, the European treatment of Ukrainians, as opposed to racialized migrants, has shed a stark light on this.[12:57] Edwidge Danticat speaks to the highly transient nature of Miami as well as her obsession with the ocean's borderless connectivity.[18:38] On the other side of the water in Haitian Kreyol can mean migration or death, Edwidge shares her understanding of continued ancestry, culture and History through — and despite — the middle passage break.[21:16] There tends to be an assumption that Europe is a place of whiteness. SA talking openly about black activism in Italy and around the Mediterranean raises the major point that black people in Europe exist.[22:40] Both historically and currently, migration and the precarity it bears is central to the diasporic experience as Edwidge sees it.[25:00] Mapping the overlapping, historical, and connective sea.[26:04] Episode 4 is next: Rising Tides.Contributors + GuestsDonna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.SA Smythe / Writer, Translator, Performer, and Scholar.Edwidge Danticat / Novelist and Writer.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Isabelle Lee and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMIPodflyThe Mundane Afro-Futurist Manifesto, by Martine SymsQuotes“What if the migrant crisis as we heard about it in the media isn't a crisis of migrants, but a crisis of how migrants are treated at the border.” Donna Honarpisheh“The race problem comes from Europe itself. It's a crisis of European white supremacist identity because the ships that went to the African continent and brought black people across the Atlantic were European ships. They exported race and racecraft.” SA Smythe“They didn't take everything away from us, they didn't divide us completely with languages and locations. There is still something that is unbreakable in our ties and even if it's a small thing like gesturing, movements that we make, some things are unerasable.” Edwidge Danticat

Tomorrow Is The Problem PodcastWelcome to the ICA Miami Podcast. Each season, we'll explore familiar concepts from everyday life that we often take for granted.We'll expand these concepts to understand their critical historical and cultural underpinnings and forever change the way you view them.Oceanic Ways of KnowingThe focus of this first season is the ocean as a source of knowledge. Understanding identity and history inevitably requires a study of the seas, the communities it affects, and the secrets it was made to hold in the deep.Rising TidesFrom Miami's Tequesta to Hawaii's Kanaka Maoli, indigenous peoples everywhere are living memory of what the water has already taught us.Today's guests discuss the effects of handing stewardship back to native peoples to stem the tides of climate change.Timestamps + Takeaways[0:00] The Oahu Water Protectors versus the U.S. Navy, an exercise in indigenous rights and demands.[3:37] Land stewardship in Hawai'i is an issue best tackled by Kanaka Maoli whose methods of systematic observation resemble science but without the drastic excision of spirituality. Candace Fujikane shares some of the 4000 deities that describe natural and elemental processes.[7:09] Candace speaks to the importance of indigenous knowledge and methods — Hawaiian and otherwise — for combating climate change through restoration.[15:11] ICA Miami sits on Tequesta land, an extinct people whose stewardship duties have been transferred to the Miccosukee tribe.[17:41] Dina Gilio-Whitaker explains the significance, for the Colville Confederated Tribes, of the now flooded Kettle Falls along the Columbia river as well as the fracture and cultural wound the damming created.[21:53] Mending her connection to water by way of surfing, Dina embraced humility. She speaks about her work correcting false narratives and reclaiming surfing as a spiritual practice.[25:44] Climate change is a philosophical problem brought about by a commodified relationship to the land, and incidentally to water which can be directly countered with indigenous principles, knowledge, and practices.[31:22] Season 1 of Tomorrow Is The Problem podcast closes with a quiet reminder to reconnect the middle passage with the Afro-Futures seas of Drexciya, the healing waters of Hawaii, and the indigenous knowledge we all need to sail forward through unknown waters.Tune in for season 2.Contributors + GuestsDonna Honarpisheh / Assistant Curator and Host.Candace Fujikane / Professor and Activist.Dina Gilio-Whitaker / Journalist, Author, and Activist.This podcast was made in partnership with Podfly Productions. This episode was written by Isabelle Lee and Donna Honarpisheh, and edited by Frances Harlow. Our showrunner is Jocelyn Arem, and our Sound Designer and Audio Mixer is Nina Pollock. Links + LearnICA MIAMIPodflyThe Oahu Water ProtectorsCartographies of Kanaloa, Inundation and Restoration, by Candace FujikaneAs Long As Grass Grows, by Dina Gilio-WhitakerQuotes“I think that's what these restoration projects give us, not just physical manifestations of restoration, but it also restores our mental health and wellbeing. It provides a kind of spirituality that you don't see in many discussions of anthropogenic climate change.” Candace Fujikane“It's not a catastrophic event causing panic and anxiety but rather a practical question: Kanaloa is rising, how are we to greet him?” Candace Fujikane“It's the values of understanding how to live in relationship to the earth and the natural elements, that's what needs to be restored and that's why indigenous knowledge is so critically important to how we imagine a response to climate change, how we adapt to it or even how we mitigate it.” Dina Gilio-Whitaker

Overview NCSL’s Our American States podcast presents a special six-part series, “Building Democracy: The Story of Legislatures.” This new mini-series covers the history, characters and stories of state legislatures in America, from the beginnings in Jamestown, to the present day and into the future. Each episode in the series will contain interviews with experts from inside and outside the legislative world to provide a comprehensive view of historical events and their legacy in today’s legislatures. Extras will include extended guest interview clips, articles in NCSL’s State Legislatures magazine, blogs and resources for those who want to dive deeper into topics covered in the podcast. Episode 2 The second episode tells the story of how a handful of colonial possessions became the first American states. How did deliberative bodies make the transition from colonial assemblies, to provincial congresses during the conflict, and then to democratically elected legislatures in a tumultuous time of uncertainty? It wasn’t easy and conflict arose in the hallowed halls of deliberative bodies, across geographic regions and even within families.  Join expert guests, including legal counsel with the South Carolina House Clerk’s office, Richard Pearce; Professor Peverill Squire; and Professor Alexander Keyssar for an inside look at representative democracy amid the American Revolution. Hosts Megan McClure John Mahoney Nicholas Birdsong General Thanks To the NCSL Legislative Staff Coordinating Committee for the idea which led to the creation of Building Democracy and who’s support keeps it going. To Podfly Productions for production and editing To the House of Pod for recording and studio space

Overview NCSL’s Our American States podcast presents a special six-part series, “Building Democracy: The Story of Legislatures.” This new mini-series covers the history, characters and stories of state legislatures in America, from the beginnings in Jamestown, to the present day and into the future. Each episode in the series will contain interviews with experts from inside and outside the legislative world to provide a comprehensive view of historical events and their legacy in today’s legislatures. Extras will include extended guest interview clips, articles in NCSL’s State Legislatures magazine, blogs and resources for those who want to dive deeper into topics covered in the podcast. Episode 1 "First Assembly – Virginia 1619" examines life on the Jamestown colony, which has been called the first American startup, and introduces Sir Edwyn Sandys (pronounced "Sands"), "one of hte most influential characters in the history of the American colonies that no one ever heard of." A businessman charged with establishing a successful colony in America, Sandys' aspiration was to establish a society that was fairer than society in England. He helped write The Great Charter, which called for the election of representatives or “burgesses” to serve alongside appointed officials in a “General Assembly”, a direct DNA ancestor of today's legislatures. Life in the colony was challenging and messy, chock full of scandals, corruption and infighting. Human beings became an early commodity through slave trade from Africa. Join NCSL staffers and "Building Democracy" hosts John Mahoney and Megan McClure along with their expert guests, former Virginia clerk of the House, G. Paul Nardo; curator of American Slavery at the Smithsonian National Museum of African American History and Culture, Mary Elliott; and Jim Horn, president of the Jamestown Rediscovery Foundation, as they explore this history—the good and the bad—and how the first meeting of these colonial representatives was the starting point in the story of America’s state legislatures. Episodes will be released every other month through the end of 2020.  Building Democracy Podcast Homepage   Hosts Megan McClure John Mahoney Nicholas Birdsong Guests G. Paul Nardo, former clerk of the house and keeper of the roles of the Commonwealth of Virginia Jim Horn, president, Jamestown Rediscovery Foundation Mary Elliott, curator of American Slavery, Smithsonian National Museum of African American History and Culture General Thanks To the NCSL Legislative Staff Coordinating Committee for the idea which led to the creation of Building Democracy and who’s support keeps it going. To Podfly Productions for production and editing To the House of Pod for recording and studio space Additional Resources Building Democracy: Episode 1 | Transcript Building Democracy: Episode 1 | Show Notes Building Democracy: Episode 1 | Resources and Reading List

As a career coach, author, and speaker, John supports individuals and teams in making more effective career choices and more sustainable career plans. John works across generations, from graduate students looking to land their first jobs, to GenX and Boomer workers over fifty looking to redefine and sustain their careers beyond traditional retirement. Starting with the notion that our ideal career is already inside us, John advocates a more personal-growth approach to career development, vs the traditional HR skills-based paradigm.John has a new LinkedIn Learning course, Connecting with Your Millennial Manager. Marc and John discuss the inevitability of your working for a Millennial as you age in the workplace and how you can make it a positive growth experience.Marc is asking for your financial support for the Repurpose Your Career podcast. Please donate at Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer to support this Podcast.   Key Takeaways: [1:38] Marc welcomes you to Episode 154 of the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [1:51] If you are enjoying this podcast, please share it with other like-minded souls. Subscribe on CareerPivot.com, iTunes, or any of the other apps that supply podcasts. Share it on social media or just tell your neighbors and colleagues. The more people Marc reaches, the more people he can help. [2:10] Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the 2nd Half of Life Third Edition is available at Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com, Powells.com, BooksaMillion.com and many other fine online retailers. The book has 30 reviews on Amazon platforms. Marc thanks everyone who has taken the time to review it. [2:36] After three years of doing the Repurpose Your Career podcast it is time for a change. Marc talks about the financial concerns around the podcast and Marc’s Career Pivot business. Marc’s business now focuses on the Career Pivot online membership community to help the most people at a lower cost to the people he helps. [3:15] 2018 was the year the Millers became expats living in Ajijic, Mexico, which greatly reduced their living expenses and helped finance the restructuring of the business. Career Pivot needed to be financially viable. [3:33] In 2019 the Career Pivot website was attacked. For the first time, the website traffic for the year declined from the previous year, though very slightly. [3:47] Marc recently posted about “A Redesigned and Refocused Career Pivot After Attack.” He discussed the website and why he recently changed it. [3:58] Because the business no longer supports the costs of production, Marc is making changes starting with the next episode. Marc will eliminate the time-stamped podcast show notes with a detailed write-up of the show. About half of Marc’s listeners read the show notes. Marc will provide dramatically reduced notes. [4:30] Marc acknowledges the production work of Podfly Productions, as he transitions the Repurpose Your Career podcast to in-house production. Marc recommends using the Podfly.net team if you want to start your own podcast! [4:54] Marc will move to scheduling an episode every other week instead of the weekly schedule he has kept for three years. If Marc gets ahead on episodes over the next few months, he may revert to a weekly schedule. [5:07] Marc will not publish an episode the week of the U.S. Thanksgiving and will produce two episodes in December. On January 6th, 2020 Marc will start the regular biweekly schedule. [5:22] If you would like to financially support this show, please go to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer/ to give. This link will be at the top and bottom of the show notes at CareerPivot.com/episode-154. [5:34] Next week’s episode will be an interview with Teresa Ferguson, Executive Director of AustinUP, a community alliance committed to making Central Texas a place where older adults live full and engaged lives. Teresa has a unique view of the fifty-plus employment world. [5:57] This week, Marc interviews returning guest, John Tarnoff. John just published a LinkedIn Learning Online course, Connecting With Your Millennial Manager. Marc thinks it is incredibly well-done. We may all work at some time for a Millennial Manager. Marc hopes you enjoy this episode. [6:24] Marc welcomes John Tarnoff to the Repurpose Your Career podcast and introduces John to the listening audience. [6:33] John has a new course on LinkedIn Learning, called Connecting with Your Millennial Manager. Marc comments on how well-done this course is. It is divided into short modules with a quiz after each one. If you miss a question it tells you how to find the right answer. [7:13] John gives credit to LinkedIn for ushering him through the process of designing an instructional course. [7:28] LinkedIn approached John a year ago about setting up a course on age-related issues. Managing Someone Older Than You came out in February 2019. John asked them about the “companion piece” of an older worker needing to relate to a younger, probably Millennial boss, and they agreed. That course came out in October 2019. [9:13] The first module is “Everyone’s Getting Younger.” John explains that means in the workplace. If we have children, they are probably Millennials. Boomers often perceive Millennials as entitled slackers. They change jobs often. However, this is also related to the economy being much different than the economy in which Boomers started working. [12:02] Statisticians are finding that by the time a Millennial is promoted to a managerial position, it’s because they are very committed, on top of their job and their responsibilities, and are likely a top contender to work for. [12:28] Millennials are working in a very different economic climate, with colossal student debt and depressed wages. Home ownership is harder for them to achieve than it was for Boomers. They don’t see getting to the American Dream. [13:29] In Marc’s Multi-Generational Workplace workshop, he talks about the Millennials being the echoes of the Boomers. [13:52] Ashton Applewhite was a guest on this podcast. She talked about our natural tendency to self-segregate by age group. [14:30] Marc gave a talk on ageism last year. Afterward, a Boomer walked up to him and said he had volunteered for the Beto O’Rourke for Senate Campaign. He said, “Boy, did my attitude change about the Millennials!” [15:09] John’s course covers common-sense business relationship-building practice. Look at working for a Millennial as an opportunity to be of service. Be ready to mentor; support the work that they do. You will have a lot more fun in your job, find your ‘fit,’ and inspire a closer working relationship with this younger person. [16:32] The course section, “Working for a Millennial Boss,” discusses being of service. One of the keys to mentoring is that it’s not teaching. It’s listening openly and offering suggestions for how that person can figure out how to do it for themselves in their own way. [17:13] As a mentor, you don’t want to tell someone how you did it; you want to listen to what they are going through and have them list the specific problems and tactically offer up possibilities for them to consider. Give them alternatives, perspective, and context. Let them come to the conclusion. [17:54] When you first come to your Millennial boss, be a really good listener. John quotes Steven Covey: “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” Be humble. The world is really different. Younger people have an understanding of how the pace of change is affecting business and technology is affecting management communication. [19:03] Stuff still gets done but now we talk of lean process, agile management, and design thinking. These are new trends in the past decade. A diligent Millennial Manager is going to be working overtime to understand how these processes can benefit their team. There’s a lot we have to learn to be part of that team. We also have a lot to offer. [19:57] Marc takes a break from the interview with John to talk about the Career Pivot Membership Community, which continues to help the approximately 50 members who are participating in the beta phase of this project to grow and thrive. [20:10] Marc reads a member testimonial from community member Scott: “There are multiple online Mastermind groups each week as well as experts speaking to the group on a regular basis. Better yet, the content is recorded in case you have other plans that day. If you are debating LinkedIn Premium or Career Pivot, go with Career Pivot. [20:33] “You get tons of access to Marc and the wisdom of the tribe. You’ll be glad you joined.” Marc hopes you liked what Scott had to say. Marc would like to highlight that the key piece is the wisdom of the tribe. [20:48] This is a paid membership community where Marc offers group coaching, special content, mastermind groups, branding sessions, Slack channels, and more importantly, it’s a community where you can seek help. Please go to CareerPivot.com/Community to sign up to learn more. [21:13] What makes us in the second half of life an asset to today’s workforce? John says it’s the wisdom and experience. We come up with methods that just work, based on what we already have done. Our neural pathways have become well-worn in this area and we come up with answers quickly. It’s not just experience but also context. [23:14] Don’t tell people how to do it, or what worked “in my day.” Never say, “in my day”! Always be in the present. Don’t invoke your experience. Talk about your suggestion on its merits. Justify your solution based on present conditions. [24:04] Marc shares an anecdote from his days at IBM in the 1990s, when he was training technical support people. They found that when you solve a problem in a specific domain, the next time you see a similar problem in a similar domain, you will solve it sooner. [24:32] Marc gave the technical support people opportunities to work with technology when the product was still immature, so they would encounter more problems quicker. Marc has things he learned in college as an engineer apply today when he fixes his car. [25:05] John warns to be careful about invoking past solutions just because they worked once in a different domain. The solution can be offered as an approach if it will work today. If it works, and your manager asks where the idea came from you can then admit that you’ve been doing it that way for years. Millennials are suspicious of the past. [26:14] The past is not relevant. Think about the solution in terms of what’s going to work today. Don’t use past success as your authority for a current application. [26:43] John wants the course to give people confidence about reporting to a younger person. Almost 60% of people over 55 are reporting to someone younger. As Millennials age into these positions of responsibility, someone two generations below you will manage you. [27:37] John also says we need to spread the word that reporting to someone younger can be very enriching and liberating. If you develop a good working relationship with someone who is 30 years younger think of how that will enrich your perspective and cultural influences. We stay young by the diversity of connections we make. [28:39] The more we spend time with people of varied backgrounds and ages, the more our lives are enriched and the more we discover inside ourselves we never knew was there, or that we had lost. It enriches our lives. Put aside the nostalgia and embrace new experiences. Continue contributing to work, life, and culture. [30:25] Boomers and Millennials are very compatible. They have the same activist tendencies for meaning, purpose, and social justice. There is a lot to be gained by forming close relationships with Millennials, especially in the context of work. [30:59] From developing these courses, John learned that his initial hypothesis was correct that the more time Boomers and Millennials spend together, the more they get from each other. All the research points in that direction. [31:43] John cites a study by Dr. Karl Pillemer at Cornell that says the more generations spend time together, the more age bias withers away. Familiarity breeds harmony, cooperation, and understanding. We just need to spend more time hanging out with, working with, people of different generations. That is the future. [32:27] Marc talks about the multi-generational families where he lives in Mexico. Marc notes that in all the ‘Blue Zones’ where there are more centenarians, a common trait is that there are multi-generational families. [32:53] Multi-generational family living keeps your brain growing because you are constantly learning and experiencing life with people that are not ‘like you.’ [33:23] You can take John’s course on LinkedIn Learning (originally, Lynda.com). Find him at JohnTarnoff.com. Find John on LinkedIn, or Facebook. A Google search brings up some of his links on the first page. [34:25] Marc thanks John for being on the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [34:37] Marc hopes you enjoyed that episode. Marc was impressed with this thought-provoking interview. [34:50] The career Pivot Membership Community continues to help the approximately 50 members who are participating in the Beta phase of this project to grow and thrive. This is a community where everyone is there to help everyone else. Marc is recruiting new members for the next cohort. [35:05] If you are interested in the Career Pivot Membership Community and would like to be put on a waiting list, please go to CareerPivot.com/Community. [35:20] Marc invites you to connect with him on LinkedIn.com/in/mrmiller. Just include in the connection request that you listen to this podcast. You can look for Career Pivot on Facebook, LinkedIn, or @CareerPivot on Twitter. [35:35] Please come back next week when Marc will interview Teresa Ferguson, Executive Director of AustinUp! [35:43] Please support the Repurpose Your Career podcast by going to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer. This link is also at the top of the show notes. [35:58] You will find the show notes for this episode at CareerPivot.com/episode-154. [36:08] Please hop over to CareerPivot.com and subscribe to get updates on this podcast and all the other happenings at Career Pivot. You can also subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, the Google Podcasts app, Podbean, the Overcast app, or the Spotify app and soon to be on Pandora!

Jayne Mattson is a career management expert and author with deep experience in corporate and private business sectors and accomplished facilitator, trainer, and coach. Jayne is known for inspiring and motivating individuals to explore career options and to help them build sustainable confidence. Jayne helps with mid-career professionals, providing guidance and services that help them take charge of their careers. She partners with the Boston Young Professional Association, writing articles for their blog on career-related topics. She is a frequent writer/contributor on career-related topics to CareerBuilder, Monster, CIO, Mashable, and other sites as well as print publications, including The Wall Street Journal, and The New York Times.   Jayne recently published a book, You, You, Me, You: The Art of Talking to People, Networking and Building Relationships. A strong believer in giving back, Jayne volunteers as a confidence coach with the Budget Buddies, a Massachusetts-based non-profit organization, focused on improving the financial literacy of low-income women.Marc is asking for your financial support for the Repurpose Your Career podcast. Please donate at Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer to support this Podcast.   Key Takeaways: [1:14] Marc welcomes you to Episode 153 of the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [1:28] If you are enjoying this podcast, please share it with other like-minded souls. Subscribe on CareerPivot.com, iTunes, or any of the other apps that supply podcasts. Share it on social media or just tell your neighbors and colleagues. The more people Marc reaches, the more people he can help. [1:47] After three years of doing the Repurpose Your Career podcast it is time for a change. Marc talks about the financial concerns around the podcast and Marc’s Career Pivot business. [3:04] A couple of weeks ago, Marc posted about “A Redesigned and Refocused Career Pivot After Attack.” He discussed the website and why he recently changed it. [3:17] Because the business no longer supports the costs of production, Marc is making changes. Marc will eliminate the time-stamped podcast show notes with a detailed write-up of the show. About half of Marc’s listeners read the show notes. Marc will provide dramatically reduced notes. [3:43] Marc acknowledges the production work of Podfly Productions, as he transitions the Repurpose Your Career podcast to in-house production. Marc recommends using the Podfly team if you want to start your own podcast! [4:04] Marc will move to scheduling an episode every other week instead of the weekly schedule he has kept for three years. If Marc gets ahead on episodes over the next few months, he may revert to a weekly schedule. [4:27] Marc will not publish an episode the week of U.S. Thanksgiving and will probably produce two episodes in December. On January 6th, 2020 Marc will start the regular biweekly schedule. [4:44] If you would like to financially support this show, please go to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer/ to give. This link will be at the top of the show notes at CareerPivot.com/episode-153. Marc received the first donation this week — a one-time donation of $60.00 that will cover three months of podcast hosting services. Thank you! [5:13] Next week’s episode will be an interview with returning guest John Tarnoff. John just published a LinkedIn Learning Online course, Connecting With Your Millennial Manager. Marc thinks it is incredibly well-done. We may all work sometime for a Millennial Manager. [5:43] In this week’s episode, Marc interviews Jayne Mattson. Marc shares her bio. Marc hopes you enjoy this episode. [7:06] Marc welcomes Jayne Mattson to the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [7:47] Jayne gives the background on how she decided to write You, You, Me, You. As a career management consultant, she determined that she needed to focus on teaching people how to build relationships rather than how to network. People were not learning about the other person. She started to teach the principles of you, you, me, and you. [9:25] People who are in transition or looking for another job need relationships. Relationships are more about the other person. Also, in the world of selfies, Jayne suggests you focus away from yourself and focus more on other people. These concerns provided Jayne the impetus to write a book about them. [10:21] Marc’s networking goal is to start with the attitude, ‘How can I help other people?’ If he can help them, that’s great. He expects nothing in return. Jayne notes that people often expect networking to provide contacts, but contacts are earned, not given carelessly. There are many aspects of true relationship-building. [11:16] Marc also notes that when you focus on the other person, you are more likable. In her book, Jayne refers to a couple of individuals who were influential in her career: Dale Carnegie and her father. Jayne’s father gave her Dale Carnegie’s book when she was 15. He told her, “If you read this book, you will always be successful.” [11:55] Because of her father, Jayne read How to Win Friends & Influence People every year. Dale Carnegie’s principles are all about making the other person feel more special than you. Jayne has practiced that throughout her life and she has been successful. [12:27] Jayne explains and role-plays the ‘you, you, me, you’ conversation in a networking situation. The point is to show that you are more interested in the other person than in your own interest. Show appreciation of their time, say why you are there, then close by thanking them for their time and looking forward to staying in touch. [14:30] Networking is about soliciting help from other people along the way who are going to help you in your career endeavor. You want to be memorable to them when they think about a job opening. [15:05] Most people in Austin have moved there. Marc would always ask “How did you get to Austin?” Everyone had a story. Marc would keep digging down with questions until he found something they had in common. Marc used standard questions that revealed a pattern. [15:53] Jayne shares a networking experience she had with an introvert who read Jayne’s book before meeting her and came prepared with questions about what she had read in the book so she showed her interest. Always be curious and genuine. Don’t sound like you’re checking questions off a list. It will show. [16:52] As you ask questions you will find commonality and ease your way into the conversation. If you show you are willing to help them, they will also be willing to help you. [17:20] The ‘you, you, me, you’ concept is about building relationships. Jayne talks about the different stages of relationship-building in the book: Initiating it, developing rapport, and establishing the relationship. The most important concept is sustainability. Stay informed and connected to them, through LinkedIn or even hand-written notes. [18:49] As you build relationships, practice the steps in the book with people with whom you are already comfortable. Eventually, it will become a habit and you will see people reacting to you in a more genuine collaborative way. It will be a connection of the heart. [19:30] Marc’s friend, Thom Singer, a public speaker, suggests writing a hand-written card and sticking your business card in it. [20:03] Jayne recommends, especially to young people, to get personalized stationery. When you send a note, your name will always be at the top, to remind them who you are and how you met. You want them to remember your name. [21:32] Jayne says, no matter how bad your handwriting is, people will notice that you took the thought and effort to send a personal note. [22:36] Jayne makes a point of explaining the ‘y’ in her name. It makes her memorable. [23:13] Marc takes a break from the interview to talk about the Career Pivot Membership Community, which continues to help the approximately 50 members who are participating in the beta phase of this project to grow and thrive. [23:27] Marc reads a member testimonial from community member Cleo: “I joined the Career Pivot Community as a frustrated over-60 job seeker looking for some support and I did find that in this group. [23:40] “Marc is wise in the ways of self-analysis, job search, and small business and is able to help encourage and poke group members to find meaningful work. I have improved my online presence and reputation, found freelance work, established a path to future employment that makes sense. [24:00] “You get out of the community what you put into it. If you engage regularly, you will find people with a wide range of skills who are more than willing to support and advise other community members and you can gain inspiration seeing what they achieve.” Marc wants you to see that it’s not just Marc, it’s the community. [24:25] This is a paid membership community where Marc offers group coaching, special content, mastermind groups, branding sessions, Slack channels, and more importantly, it’s a community where you can seek help. Please go to CareerPivot.com/Community to sign up to learn more. [24:45] Marc asks Jayne about sticky situations, such as not knowing how to extract yourself from a conversation. Work with how you feel about people, in general. If you look at them unfavorably, you may unthinkingly dismiss someone rudely. If you remember that everyone has a story to tell, you may be more gentle breaking it off. [25:54] Jayne suggests a positive script for bringing a long conversation to a close when you need to move on. Treat people with respect and dignity. Make sure not to offend. You never know how this person will come into your life again. [27:08] Jayne gives an example of a person who needs to develop a rapport with a client but also needs to let the client know that what they did was inappropriate. You need good communication skills while developing and maintaining a relationship. [27:51] Jayne talks about the reach of social media. Practice the same principles on social media. On LinkedIn, you can like someone’s post, comment on it, and share it. That is giving back to the person with whom you want to build a relationship. [28:35] Jayne talks about how she connected with Kerry Hannon on LinkedIn and is maintaining a great online relationship with her after first hearing and admiring her on Marc’s podcast. [29:05] On Facebook or Instagram, as you connect with people, don’t make it just pitches about you. Make sure you have something valuable to say. Jayne also encourages people to spend less time on social media and pick up your phone for a conversation with someone. When you post on social media, help others. [30:06] If you live near someone, invite them offline to meet in person. [30:22] On LinkedIn, Jayne answers requests for connections with a request first to know more about what that person does. Jayne does not want clicks, she wants a personal introduction that can start more of a relationship. [30:54] Marc talks about his book team. His co-author, Susan Lahey, now lives in Porto, Portugal. His book cover designer, MamiSerwaa, now lives in Ghana. They do most of their talking over the phone through Facebook Messenger. Marc calls them from Mexico. [31:32] Younger generations may not know what to say on the phone. You start by finding common interests. Jayne is planning a local “Conversation Saturday” for middle schoolers of how to have conversations over the phone or in person, instead of by text. We are human and we need socialization. [33:21] Marc includes some advice from his Multigenerational Workplace talk. If I want you to listen to me, I have to adapt to your preferred communication style. Boomers liked to be talked to. Millennials like to be texted. [34:30] Jayne follows Lindsey Pollak on LinkedIn. Lindsey Pollak wrote Remix: How to Lead and Succeed in the Multigenerational Workplace on this topic. It is important to be adaptable and resilient. The ‘you, you, me, you’ concept is memorable and easy to use for any generation. [35:39] Jayne’s closing advice to the audience is we, collectively, have a responsibility to each other, to the people around us, not to use our cell phones while we are with someone. Be with the person in front of you. Jayne wrote this into her book, and she recommends that you buy the book for young people. Don’t lose the human touch. [36:55] Jayne wants us to come back to face-to-face conversations. Use the ‘you, you, me, you’ concept to build relationships. Look people in the eye. Say, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.” [37:45] You can reach Jayne Mattson on LinkedIn. She doesn’t connect with people who just send a request. Tell her why you want to connect with her and tell her about your relationship-building skills. You can follow Jayne Mattson on Instagram. [38:16] You can order You, You, Me, You: The Art of Talking to People, Networking and Building Relationships on Amazon in paperback, ebook, and in 2020, in Audible. [38:37] Marc shares that he is about to produce the third edition of Repurpose Your Career in audiobook. Marc thanks Jayne for being on the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [38:56] Marc hopes you enjoyed that episode. Marc has known Jayne for a number of years. Jayne is passionate about networking and helping people. [39:08] The career Pivot Membership Community continues to help the approximately 50 members who are participating in the Beta phase of this project to grow and thrive. This is a community where everyone is there to help everyone else. Marc has just brought in a cohort and he is recruiting new members for the next cohort. [39:23] If you are interested in the Career Pivot Membership Community and would like to be put on a waiting list, please go to CareerPivot.com/Community. [39:36] Marc invites you to connect with him on LinkedIn.com/in/mrmiller. Just include in the connection request that you listen to this podcast. You can look for Career Pivot on Facebook, LinkedIn, or @CareerPivot on Twitter. [39:48] Please come back next week when Marc will interview John Tarnoff, author of the LinkedIn Learning course Connecting with Your Millennial Manager! [39:47] Please support the Repurpose Your Career podcast by going to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer. This link is also at the top of the show notes. [40:13] You will find the show notes for this episode at CareerPivot.com/episode-153. [40:21] Please hop over to CareerPivot.com and subscribe to get updates on this podcast and all the other happenings at Career Pivot. You can also subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, the Google Podcasts app, Podbean, the Overcast app, or the Spotify app and soon to be on Pandora!

This episode is a replay of Marc’s visit to the Second Act Stories podcast. Andy Levine and Marc explore Marc’s many career pivots, and how they led to the publication of the third edition of Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the 2nd Half of Life. Marc tells of the impact of his nearly fatal bicycle accident on his career choices. Marc shares information about the various ventures he runs, from the Career Pivot website, the blog, the podcast, the books, and the online community.Before the interview, Marc also makes an important announcement. Please listen in for all the details.Marc is asking for your financial support for the Repurpose Your Career podcast. Please donate at Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer to support this Podcast.   Key Takeaways: [1:09] Marc welcomes you to Episode 152 of the Repurpose Your Career podcast. [1:21] If you are enjoying this podcast, please share it with other like-minded souls. Subscribe on CareerPivot.com, iTunes, or any of the other apps that supply podcasts. Share it on social media or just tell your neighbors and colleagues. The more people Marc reaches, the more people he can help. [1:39] Marc reviews the three-year history of the Repurpose Your Career podcast and announces a big change. The time-stamped show notes with a detailed write-up of the show will be eliminated. Marc will provide dramatically simplified and reduced notes. [3:10] Marc acknowledges the production work of Podfly Productions, as he transitions the Repurpose Your Career podcast to in-house production. Marc recommends using the Podfly team if you want to start your own podcast! You can find more information about Podfly at Podfly.net. [3:39] Marc will produce an episode every other week instead of the weekly schedule he has kept for three years. If Marc gets ahead on episodes over the next few months, he may revert to a weekly schedule. In December, Marc will record his audiobook. [4:00] Marc has a lot of people lined up to interview and is looking to partner with other podcasts, including Second Act Stories with Andy Levine, as featured in this episode. [4:11] Marc will not publish an episode the week of U.S. Thanksgiving and will only publish one episode in December. On January 6th, 2020 Marc will start the regular biweekly schedule. [4:28] Marc does not like giving things up or ending relationships. He recommends reading Necessary Endings, by Dr. Henry Cloud. Marc decided to leave his home city of 40 years, Austin, Texas, and move to Ajijic, Mexico after reading this book. [4:57] If you would like to financially support this show, please go to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer/ to give. This link will be at the top of the show notes at CareerPivot.com/episode-152. [5:13] Next week’s episode is still up in the air. Marc has several interviews scheduled this week that he thinks you will enjoy. Stay tuned! [5:22] This week’s episode will be a replay of Marc’s interview on the Second Act Stories podcast. The host, Andy Levine, is a great guy with a very big heart. He is a podcaster with whom Marc wants to partner in the coming year. Marc hopes you enjoy this episode. [5:48] Andy shares a few moments from the interview when Marc answers the question, “What should you do if you are really unhappy in your current work?” [6:32] Andy Levine welcomes you to the Second Act Stories podcast and introduces Marc Miller. They are meeting at the Princeton Public Library in New Jersey. [8:11] Marc is a multipotentialite. He gets bored after three years of doing something. When he worked at IBM, he was happy to change positions often. At the time, IBM wanted to develop generalists. That world has changed. When Marc left IBM in 2000, he started a journey of half-step career changes aided by relationships. [9:03] Marc explains the term Multipotentialite. There is a TEDx talk on it. Multipotentialites have lots of interests and are not driven by one thing. [9:30] Marc talks about his head-on bike vs. car accident and how it changed his life’s path. At the time, he was at a fading startup and his job was ranking people to layoff. He began to question his career choice. [11:15] Most of us act in roles in our careers. Marc wanted to stop playing a role that was not natural for him. While he was on bed-rest, he had a lot of time to ask himself why he was doing what he was doing. [12:47] Marc shares the beginning and history of Career Pivot, starting with his joining Launchpad Job Club. Marc started at LifeSize Communications as the Great Recession was starting. At that time the meetings “exploded” at Launchpad Job Club up to 400 people every Friday, all older workers. [13:48] In 2009, Marc asked who was caring about folks of this age who were looking for work? He found the book Don’t Retire, Rewire! by Jeri Sedlar and Rick Miners. The stories featured people who had pensions to cushion their time to return to work. [14:24] In Mexico, Marc sees a lot of economic refugees, who can’t afford to live in the U.S. Marc wanted to help that class of individual who wants to keep working and make an income, but probably not in a traditional job. That’s a hard mind-shift to make. [15:01] How is a pivot different than a change? A lawyer won’t go directly to be a pastry chef. What kinds of incremental changes are needed? Think of a basketball pivot. [16:23] A successful career pivot takes flexibility, openness. Changes never turn out quite the way you expect them. Walk down that path and be willing to be surprised. [17:01] Marc has a person in his Online Community who started driving for Lyft and through her contacts, got several contract gigs. Marc wrote about it in a blog post, “Synchronicity and Serendipity Can Be Essential in Life”. You have to put yourself out there for good stuff to happen. Find support people to get you outside of your head. [18:05] We have belief systems that are made up. Get out and talk with people about your plans and get feedback on your idea. Marc tells how he explored the idea of something like Career Pivot with career specialists. Overwhelmingly, they persuaded him not to get a coaching certification. [19:06] Marc asks people in his career assessment process to consider when they were the most miserable in their career and when they were the most fulfilled in their career. This is to help them understand what makes them happy and what makes them miserable. The environment and the team are more important than the job they do. [20:09] It is important to know yourself and what you want before a job search. Find a position that doesn’t require you to play a character strange to you. Know how to take care of yourself in a job where you have to act out a role. Marc recommends reading Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, by Susan Cain. [21:22] We’re paid more to be extroverts but half the world are introverts. Marc is a really good public speaker and an introvert. When he’s done, he’s exhausted. Marc doesn’t get energy from speaking. He learned to be a geek than can speak. Susan Cain speaks of restorative niches in her book. Schedule things in your day that restore you. [22:23] Gallup polls show that a lot of people are unhappy in their jobs. Marc shares his advice to them on the first thing they should do before changing jobs. Marc says don’t run away from your current job, run to what you want to do. Marc shares how he invited Elizabeth Rabaey just to go try different random things before choosing. [24:31] Marc often asks people what they couldn’t get enough of doing as a kid. Kids don’t have filters. Marc used to love to do jigsaw puzzles. He learned that he is a pattern matcher. [25:11] Marc has just released the third edition of Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the 2nd Half of Life. Marc talks about the evolution of the book from 2011 to 2019. The third edition is more aspirational than tactical. Marc talks about creative destruction. AI and robotics are going to affect you! There is a chapter on ageism. [26:27] If you want to work into your 70s, you have to plan for it in your 50s. It’s a mindset shift. Many will need to work for the money and it won’t look like a full-time job. One of the common themes of Marc’s online community is that everyone wants freedom to work on what they want when they want, and how hard they want to work. [27:17] We don’t want to conform anymore. When Marc worked as a teacher, he found that schools don’t want people like Marc, because they don’t do what they’re told. [27:52] Marc shares his contact information: go to Careerpivot.com, sign up for Marc’s Career Pivot Insights email, check out the CareerPivot.com/Community, find the book, Repurpose Your Career on Amazon and other fine online sellers. Find the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, Podbean, or at Careerpivot.com/podcast. Andy is a big fan of it! [29:39] Marc hopes you enjoyed that episode. Andy does a great job with the Second Act Stories podcast and Marc highly recommends that you subscribe to it. [29:50] The career Pivot Membership Community continues to help the approximately 50 members who are participating in the Beta phase of this project to grow and thrive. This is a community where everyone is there to help everyone else. Marc has just brought in a cohort and he is recruiting new members for the next cohort. [30:12] If you are interested in the Career Pivot Membership Community and would like to be put on a waiting list, please go to CareerPivot.com/Community. [30:25] Marc invites you to connect with him on LinkedIn.com/in/mrmiller. Just include in the connection request that you listen to this podcast. You can look for Career Pivot on Facebook, LinkedIn, or @CareerPivot on Twitter. [30:42] Please come back next week when Marc will have another great interview! [30:48] Please support the Repurpose Your Career podcast by going to Glow.fm/repurposeyourcareer. This link is also at the top of the show notes. [31:00] You will find the show notes for this episode at CareerPivot.com/episode-152. [31:07] Please hop over to CareerPivot.com and subscribe to get updates on this podcast and all the other happenings at Career Pivot. You can also subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, the Google Podcasts app, Podbean, the Overcast app, or the Spotify app!

In this episode, Jennifer interviews on-air morning radio show host, podcaster, writer and performer Meryl Klemow. By mornings, she is the co-host of San Diego’s The Cantore Show on 100.7 with radio legend Chris Cantore, and afternoons she spends writing for more than 9 different podcasts through Podfly Productions and working on her own podcast, Campfire Sht Show with co-host Beau Hufford. This episode illuminates the reality of radio and the future of podcasts. Jennifer and Meryl discuss how these mediums play an important role in the marketing and media landscape and best practices for public relations professionals.

Tyler Basu is a professional Content Marketer, Author and Podcast Host. Like many others before him, Tyler’s interest in business was sparked by the book Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki. Driven mostly by ambition (and lots of trial and error!), he spent his early twenties working in several different industries including financial planning, promoting seminars, direct sales, and selling real estate. Tyler launched his first podcast, Chatting With Champions, while working as a real estate agent in 2013. In the process of interviewing over 100 successful entrepreneurs for his show, he developed a fascination for content marketing and online entrepreneurship. By 2015, Tyler had written and published several books on Amazon, including the Amazon bestseller Lifestyle Business Blueprint. He left the real estate industry that same year to focus exclusively working with other entrepreneurs to create content and help build their brands online. This led to becoming the Content Marketing Manager for Thinkific, the most trusted platform for creating and selling online courses, in 2016. In addition to creating content for Thinkific to help people and companies create and sell online courses successfully, Tyler is also is Publisher & Editor of Lifestyle Business Magazine, a digital magazine for lifestyle entrepreneurs, and the host of the Lifestyle Business Magazine Podcast. http://www.tylerbasu.com Sponsors of this episode: Credit Suite http://www.creditsuite.com/cool Podfly Productions http://www.podfly.net/coolthings

Adam Schaeuble and his transformation team specialize in helping people that are interested in transforming their bodies, habits, and lifestyles. Adam helps his clients rehabilitate their lifestyles through specific strategic thinking concepts so that they can shorten their learning curve and experience greater results from any exercise or nutrition regimen. Adam is passionate about doing this because of his own experience with losing over 100lbs. He had a rock bottom moment in his mid twenties as he weighed 327lbs and was unhappy with where he was heading in life. He made a decision to start thinking strategically about his own health and this had such a profound impact on him that he became motivated to create specific systems to teach others what he had learned. Adam created the Meltdown Fat Loss Bootcamp in 2009 and over the next six years he was able to impact over 1,000 clients with over 35,000 LBS of weight loss results…..just in his home town of Bloomington, Indiana. In 2016 Adam launched his new website http://www.TransformationCoach.Me in order to expand his ability to make a positive impact. He is also the author of the book The Third Component. Adam obsessively pursues solutions to his client’s danger zones so that they can reach new levels of personal achievement with their health and fitness. http://www.TransformationCoach.me Sponsors of this episode: Credit Suite - http://www.creditsuite.com/cool Podfly Productions - http://www.podfly.net/coolthings

Today's Flash Back Friday comes from Episode 191, originally published in March 2015. Jason Hartman invites Jessica Rhodes on to the show to talk about how to book better guests and how to be a better guest as well. Jessica is the founder of Interview Connections and has booked some big names in the industry. She talks about how persistence and follow up are key to booking bigger names, how to properly pitch yourself to a podcaster, her latest project with Corey Coates titled The Podcast Producers, and much, much more on today's show.  Key Takeaways: 1:20 – Jessica has added a lot of value to Jason's show with the types of guest she's brought on.  5:30 – There are quite a few podcasters who want fresh people on their show who haven't done the podcasting circuit yet.  14:50 – At the end of the day, you want to be both a podcast host and also a guest.  22:20 – Be specific as possible on what you can bring to the table when you're pitching to a host.  27:10 – There are so many different types of entrepreneurs that you can cater to, so don't worry about excluding people.  28:40 – Jessica is doing a 10 episode series with Corey Coates from Podfly Productions about podcasting. It launches on April 6th. 29:30 – Final thoughts? Do not be afraid to start. There's never a perfect time, so just do it now.  Mentioned In This Episode: www.InterviewConnections.com @JessRhodesESS www.InterviewConnections.TV

Dorie Clark is a marketing strategy consultant, professional speaker, and frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review. Recognized as a “branding expert” by the Associated Press, Fortune, and Inc. magazine, she is the author of Entrepreneurial You (Harvard Business Review Press,), Reinventing You, and Stand Out, which was named the #1 Leadership Book of 2015 by Inc. magazine and one of the Top 10 Business Books of the Year by Forbes. It was also a Washington Post bestseller. Her books have been translated into Russian, Chinese, Arabic, French, Polish, Korean, and Thai. Clark, whom the New York Times described as an “expert at self-reinvention and helping others make changes in their lives,” consults and speaks for a diverse range of clients, including Google, the World Bank, Microsoft, Morgan Stanley, the Ford Foundation, the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, and Yale University. A former presidential campaign spokeswoman, Clark is an adjunct professor of business administration at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business and a Visiting Professor for IE Business School in Madrid, Spain. She has guest lectured at universities including Harvard Business School, the Harvard Kennedy School, Stanford University’s Graduate School of Business, the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School of Business, the University of California-Berkeley’s Haas School of Business, Georgetown, NYU, the MIT Sloan School of Management, and the University of Michigan. Her work has been published in the Harvard Business Review Guide to Getting the Right Job and the Harvard Business Review Guide to Networking, and she is quoted frequently in the worldwide media, including NPR, the BBC, and MSNBC. She is also a regular commentator on Canada’s CTV and was named one of Inc. magazine’s “100 Great Leadership Speakers for Your Next Conference.” A former New England Press Association award-winning journalist, Clark directed the environmental documentary film The Work of 1000, and was a producer for a multiple-Grammy-winning jazz album.  At age 14, Clark entered Mary Baldwin College’s Program for the Exceptionally Gifted. At 18, she graduated Phi Beta Kappa from Smith College, and two years later received a Master of Theological Studies from Harvard Divinity School. You can download her Entrepreneurial You self-assessment at dorieclark.com/entrepreneur. http://www.dorieclark.com Sponsors: Open Sky Fitness -http://www.openskyfitness.com Podfly Productions - http://www.podfly.net/coolthings

Leo Ramirez has launched and managed social ventures, lead multi-disciplinary teams, and built solid relationships with civic and corporate leaders. But he is best known as someone who is passionate about connecting people and inspiring philanthropy. His 23-year career has spanned executive management, business development, consulting, nonprofit management, technical support and engineering positions with Southwest Key Programs, Oracle, Sun Microsystems, Coremetrics, Trilogy and Apple. Leo co-founded his first non-profit, EDCO Ventures, in 2005 to address job creation in economically underprivileged regions through high-growth, entrepreneurial ventures. I he co-founded MiniDonations, whose mission was to make social impact, through micro-donations, a part of everyday life. He also co-founded Copán, LLC, which provided NextDooring services from Latin America. In addition to being a serial entrepreneur, he is a Board Member at CASA of Travis County, Board Advisor and former VP of Memberships on Mexic-Arte Museum's Board of Directors, Board Advisor for Dance International, and Entrepreneur Mentor for CleanTech Open. He was formerly VP of Development for MexNet Alliance Board of Directors Leo was a Deacon, Choir Member and 2 & 3 year old Sunday School Teacher at First Presbyterian Church of Austin and has volunteered for many other non-profit organizations. He created “Cliff’s Notes for Dads,” Austin’s first childbirth prep class for new fathers. Leo grew up in McAllen, Texas and went on to attended Stanford University’s Computer Systems Engineering Program from 1992–1996. http://www.encast.gives  Sponsors- Potential Mastermind Group - http://www.PotentialMastermind.com Podfly Productions - http://www.podfly.net/coolthings

Maura Thomas is an award-winning productivity and time management speaker, author of two books, founder of Regain Your Time, and nationally recognized expert delivering her unique message that the key to productivity and effectiveness is attention management. She is a TEDx Speaker, a regular contributor to the Harvard Business Review, and was invited by one of the largest publishers in the world to literally “write the book” on productivity (Personal Productivity Secrets was her first book.) Her work has appeared in hundreds of national media outlets including the Wall Street Journal, Fast Company, Entrepreneur, Inc. and the Huffington Post, to name a few. Maura Thomas developed the acclaimed Empowered Productivity™ System, a process for successfully managing the details of life and work with less stress. She has delivered inspiring and motivational speeches and training to audiences both nationally and internationally for over a decade to clients such as the American Heart Association, Dell, Honeywell, and Old Navy. Maura earned an MBA from the University of Massachusetts and has studied the field of productivity all over the world for more than two decades. She was awarded the 2015 Communication Achievement Award by Austin Toastmasters, joining the likes of Governor Ann Richards, Molly Ivins, and Congressman Lloyd Doggett. Her work has been featured in hundreds of national media outlets, and she is very active in her local community of Austin, Texas, where she has held volunteer leadership positions in a variety of different community organizations and charities. Maura was chosen from almost 7000 applicants to be a Climate Project speaker, and was personally trained on the subject by former Vice President and Nobel Laureate Al Gore and his team of leading climate scientists. Maura offers pro-bono presentations quarterly to local nonprofits and donates a percentage to charity of all fees received. Maura’s latest book is Work Without Walls: An Executive’s Guide to Attention Management in the Age of Distraction. http://www.MauraThomas.com Sponsors: Open Sky Fitness - http://www.OpenSkyFitness.com Podfly Productions - http://www.Podfly.net/coolthings

Randy Pekowski is the second generation in his family business, The Expo Group, which was founded by his father, Ray Pekowski. The Pekowski's have worked hard to make sure that the business is about more the visionalry founder, and have created a growing company while establishing healthy boundaries between work and family life.  This episode of "Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do" is all about the realities of working with your family. Many business owners dream of having their children join the company, but it is not easy. If you (or someone you know) has a family business - they need to hear the advice that Randy shares. With over 20 years of experience in trade shows and events, Randy was promoted in 2016 to President of The Expo Group. He has been heavily involved in both strategic planning and operational execution throughout his career. His insight and leadership in process and technology management led him to become an inventor-of-record for The Expo Group's Automated Convention Processing System and Method (U.S. Pats. 6,557,007 and 6,721,763), that enables the company to deliver its renowned Single Source Solution®. Since that time he has continued to work to push innovation across the enterprise.  Randy is involved with IAEE, PCMA and ESCA. He holds a bachelor’s degree in business administration, management from Texas A&M University and has studied at Harvard Business School. http://www.TheExpoGroup.com Sponsors: Open Sky Fitness - http://www.openskyfitness.com Podfly Productions - http://www.podfly.net/coolthings

Sandeep Gupta is the Managing Partner, Co-Founder and CTO at Calavista. He began his career in technology by earning degrees in Cognitive Sciences and Electrical Engineering from Rice University, and a master’s in Computer Science from MIT. His academic research at these institutions focused on parallel and distributed operating systems, and shared memory architectures. Throughout his career Sandeep has worked at large companies such as IBM and Texas Instruments, and private start-up companies such as Trilogy Software and Aviri in various development and consulting management roles. In 2001 Sandeep founded Calavista Software with his business partner, Lawrence Waugh. Since the company’s inception, a keen focus on driving successful customer deployments along with a proprietary and patented Hyper-Agile® software delivery methodology has taken the company to an unparalleled customer success rate of 90%. Sandeep is passionate about providing children with an opportunity to spark their interest in technology development. He volunteers as a Robotics Coach at his local elementary school and has presented at the school’s Science and Engineering Day. Sandeep is also a Sunday school teacher for a high school group. He, his wife, and two kids have called Austin home for 20 years. http://www.Calavista.com Sponsors: Potential Mastermind Group - http://www.Potential Mastermind.com Podfly Productions - http://www.podfly.net/coolthings

Marc thanks his listeners, and invites you to take an audience survey about the podcast, so he can provide more of what you want in the coming year. He discusses his interest in podcasts and books, and how he decided to launch the Repurpose Your Career podcast in support of his book, Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the 2nd Half of Life, by Marc Miller and Susan Lahey. Marc goes on to describe how the show has evolved once the book launched, and finally, what he plans for 2018 and beyond. Listen in for a look at Marc’s processes of launching and running a podcast and making it appeal to you. Key Takeaways: [1:22] Marc thanks you, the listeners. Please fill out an audience survey to help guide how Marc can continue to serve his audience with helpful content. Marc also invites you to give your honest review of this podcast on iTunes. [3:00] In August of 2016, Marc had the idea of the Repurpose Your Career podcast, to support the launch of the next edition of his book, Repurpose Your Career. The idea largely came from listening to podcasts. Thom Singer’s, Ryan Rhoten’s, and Roger Whitney’s podcasts were his motivation. He wanted to blend their features in one show. [3:40] Marc found Podfly Productions through Thom Singer. Podfly sponsor’s Thom’s show and does his production work. Marc had the ability to produce and edit his own show, but all the production details were more than he wanted to handle. [4:00] Marc contacted Corey Coates, the owner of Podfly, and bought one of their launch packages. Corey and the Podfly team walked Marc through selecting music, creating artwork, creating an intro with a professional voice artist, and everything else to get his show launched. Marc knew he had no artistic talents, so he needed help. [4:30] Marc talks about the recording process. First, he had trouble with cable hum. So Corey suggested recording on his Mac with Piezo for Mac software. Marc decided next on a series approach where he would, over four weeks, interview an expert, interview a late-career pivoter, read a chapter from his book, and then do a Q&A session. [5:03] Marc discovered he was much better as an interviewee than an interviewer. Marc was used to speaking on topics he enjoyed as a public speaker. When he has to interact with someone on an interview that is off script, it is not a smooth process. Marc is his harshest critic when he listens to a recording of himself, but he edits out mistakes. [5:51] Marc has made a lot of refinements in this year. Marc can tell the difference between the early episodes to what he is producing today. The most important improvement in his technique is recording standing up in a closet with the microphone and pop filter attached to a shelf. [6:47] Marc tells how the production week goes with Podfly, from Marc’s raw file to audio edit, show notes, proofing, tagging, and uploading to LibSyn. From LibSyn, they show up on iTunes, Stitcher and Google Play. On Monday afternoon, Marc’s VA creates the blog post, which contains the show notes, for Tuesday morning publication. [7:28] Marc lists some expert guests: Kerry Hannon, who writes on Boomer issues, Chris Farrell, author of Unretirement, Retirement Answer Man podcaster Roger Whitney, Taylor Pearson, author of End of Jobs, and John Tarnoff, author of Boomer Reinvention. [7:49] For the career pivoter episodes, Marc had a group of career changers in his network. At episode 20, Marc had to invite someone from his post clients to be interviewed. Marc’s first pivoter interview was with Dr. Joel Dobbs, who had volunteered to tell his great story in episode three. [8:14] Marc started recording episodes from his book and knew he had episodes for about a year. The book launched in April of 2017 and the original reason for the podcast had kind of come to an end. Marc introduced solo episodes, like this one, and found out it was really hard. Marc starts with a script, but ad-libs as he goes along. [8:55] Marc admires podcasters who do solo episodes and make it sound great. Roger Whitney does most of his Retirement Answer Man podcasts solo, and they are well-produced. [9:15] The last episode in the series is the Q&A episode, which Marc first named the Mailbag episode. The idea was to answer three listener questions. If Marc did not receive enough questions, he reflected back on his past clients’ questions. Marc recorded these with Elizabeth Rabaey, Marc’s long-time client and intern. [9:57] One thing Marc learned from recording is that shuffling pages is noisy. He reads from an iPad. Elizabeth rewrites in her own words a script Marc provides. Marc writes his points and then adlibs answers to the questions. Marc and Elizabeth can knock out an episode in just over 30 minutes. These have become the easiest episodes, by far. [10:44] By watching download stats on LibSyn, Marc saw that downloads dropped when the name Mailbag was in the title, so Mar dropped the name. By the middle of the year, Marc was editing more of his own audio. He likes to make it sound good. A 20-minute podcast takes a couple of hours to edit. By forgetting breath sounds, his edits got faster. [11:19] The book was launched about six months in, but there were a lot of other things going on. In October 2016 he noticed his health insurance premiums were about to explode, and they did. In November after the presidential election, Marc’s phones quieted for a few months. Business was off 60% for the first half of 2017. [12:07] This downtime gave Marc time to finish his book, and he was interviewed on different podcasts almost weekly promoting the book. He was using a podcast booking service to get the interviews booked. The book launched, has sold well, and continues to sell. Marc’s email list continues to grow. [12:33] Marc and his wife started exploring the possibility of becoming expats and living in another country. Next month, Marc will have an episode on their experience. In May they visited Ecuador, and returned early. Marc’s wife ended up in the hospital. The high altitude uncovered a condition that is now being resolved, at some expense. [13:05] Marc recorded episode 29 from his wife’s hospital bedside in Austin after they returned. 2017 has been an interesting year. Business started picking up again in June, perhaps when people became unfrozen from the uncertainty. Marc is glad that the AHCA failed, as it could have raised his insurance premiums. [13:43] At the same time, Marc began the CareerPivot Community website concept. Being so busy has made getting this podcast produced on time more difficult. Marc is now on a week-to-week basis. The second half of the year Marc turned over the blog post to his virtual assistant. The interview audio quality has improved, as has the flow. [14:30] Marc heard Roger Whitney’s podcast series, “Can Carl Retire?” It helped Marc create a series, just concluded, called, “Can Tim Repurpose His Career?” This series finished off the first year of podcasting. Please listen to episodes 48-51 for this series. This has delayed Marc’s audio recording of Repurpose Your Career. [15:22] It costs about $4,000 annually to produce this podcast. Starting in 2018, Marc will have a Patreon page for people to donate money on a recurring basis to support a cause. Patreon has become popular with podcasters. Podcasts are rarely profitable on their own. Marc would like to do a Repurpose Your Career series per year. [16:14] In 2018, Marc will be shifting his business away from individual coaching to group coaching and the community website. Marc has the initial cohort of about 10 individuals that he is onboarding onto a trial platform. Once he has feedback, he will create a more final product and open the community up to small groups of 10 to 15. [16:40] This will be a pod membership community, but Marc wants to keep the fees affordable to help more people. To learn more, you can sign up for the waiting list at CareerPivot.com/Community. [17:01] Now that the podcast is a year old, Marc wants to survey the audience on what you like, and what you would like in the future. Please take the survey at CareerPivot.com/Podcast-Survey. Marc will be sending an email to the entire subscriber list about the time this episode goes up. This will help Marc shape what comes next. [17:47] This podcast is a success because of you, the listener. Marc wants to thank everyone who’s been listening and supporting the cause. Onto a second year of the Repurpose Your Career podcast! Next week, Marc will interview author Thea Kelly.   Mentioned in This Episode: Careerpivot.com CareerPivot.com/Podcast-Survey or CareerPivot.com/PodcastSurvey Survey Monkey Please take a moment — go to iTunes, Stitcher, or Google Play. Give this podcast an honest review and subscribe! If you’re not sure how to leave a review, please go to CareerPivot.com/review, and read the detailed instructions there. Thom Singer’s Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do podcast Ryan Rhoten’s The BRAND New You Show Roger Whitney’s Retirement Answer Man Show Podfly Productions, LLC Piezo for Mac LibSyn Kerry Hannon Unretirement: How Baby Boomers are Changing the Way We Think About Work, Community, and the Good Life, by Chris Farrell The End of Jobs: Money, Meaning and Freedom Without the 9-to-5, by Taylor Pearson  Boomer Reinvention: How to Create Your Dream Career Over 50, by John Tarnoff CareerPivot.com/Episode-20 with Elizabeth Rabaey CareerPivot.com/Episode-48 “Can Tim Repurpose His Career? Part 1” CareerPivot.com/Episode-49 “Can Tim Repurpose His Career? Part 2” CareerPivot.com/Episode-50 “Can Tim Repurpose His Career? Part 3” CareerPivot.com/Episode-51 “Can Tim Repurpose His Career? Part 4” Patreon CareerPivot.com/Community Get That Job: The Quick and Complete Guide to a Winning Interview, by Thea Kelley Please pick up a copy of Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the 2nd Half of Life, by Marc Miller and Susan Lahey The paperback and ebook formats are available now. When you have completed reading the book, Marc would very much appreciate your leaving an honest review on Amazon.com. Marc is recording the audio version of the book, and he plans to have it available in late November 2017. Marc is taking on new clients. Contact Marc, and ask questions at Careerpivot.com/contact-me or call at 512-693-9132, and leave a message with your email address. Marc will respond with a link to his calendar, to find a time to talk. CareerPivot.com/Episode-52 Show Notes for this episode. You can find Show Notes at Careerpivot.com/repurpose-career-podcast.

Are we filling humans up like a pail or lighting a fire in them? “The most important attitude that can be formed is that of desire to go on learning.” - John Dewey Digging into what it means to learn and grow in the grassroots movement of education. Featuring perspectives from Stef, a mom in Ann Arbor, Michigan who’s studying for her MA in progressive education at Prescott College, along with Omar, a Syrian doctor now seeking refuge in Germany because of the Syrian Civil War. Definition of “community” from episode guest Stef: “Being in a group of people that hold themselves accountable, and also you accountable, for the harmony of the whole.” Additional quotes from inventor Nikola Tesla (https://www.britannica.com/biography/Nikola-Tesla), Jeff Salaway (contributing founder of Hayground School-http://www.hayground.org/), and marketing guru Seth Godin (http://www.sethgodin.typepad.com) are featured in the episode. Learning tool mentioned by Stef: a "Kanban Board" (originally invented in Japan) Learning source (The Alliance for Self-Directed Education) mentioned by Stef: https://www.self-directed.org/ Music in this episode from AJ Bihn, Honey Monsoon (https://www.facebook.com/honeymonsoon/) and The Harmony Collective. Produced by Corey Coates of Podfly Productions (http://www.podfly.net/). --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/unifiedthreads/message

For the U.S. Labor Day holiday, Marc provides a brief episode for shout outs and an announcement of a special series of four podcasts for October, where he will take a client through his assessment process, to know themselves, before committing to a new position. Marc refers listeners to Episode 041, “What Is Your Personal Operating System?” Listen in for what to expect in this special series.   Key Takeaways: [:56] This episode is releasing on the U.S. Labor Day holiday, so Marc is keeping it short. Marc gives a shout-out to Podfly Productions, LLC, and those who help produce this podcast: Eric Begay, Ryan Morrison, and Tim McGowan. These folks edit the podcast, create the show notes, and make sure it’s on iTunes. [1:24] Marc gives a shout-out to his virtual assistant, Stephanie Brodt, who creates the podcast post, the Boomer Job Tips post, Marc’s Career Insights email, and a lot of other stuff, to make all of this work. [1:38] Marc announces that starting on the first Monday of October, he will be podcasting a four-part series, called, “Can Tim Repurpose His Career?” [1:48] Episode 41 was the chapter, “What Is Your Personal Operating System?” from Marc’s upcoming audio book, Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the Second Half of Life. In Episode 41, Marc describes the process he uses to help his clients understand themselves. Marc will take Tim (not his real name) through this process. [2:05] Tim is a 50-year-old male who has been stair-stepping himself out of his current career. He has been building a business on the side. Tim was laid off from his regular paycheck last month, and now has the “kick in the butt” to complete his career pivot. Listen to this case study of what it takes to “know thyself.” [2:25] Marc’s final thoughts: See episode show notes at CareerPivot.com/episode-44. Go to CareerPivot.com to subscribe and get updates to this podcast and all the other happenings at CareerPivot.com. Subscribe to the CareerPivot Blog, and receive the CareerPivot Insights email every Sunday, with a link to this podcast.   Mentioned in This Episode: Careerpivot.com/episode-44 Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for the Second Half of Life, by Marc Miller and Susan Lahey (Now available online) Contact Marc, and ask questions at: Careerpivot.com/contact-me Call Marc at 512-693-9132 and leave a message and email address. Please take a moment — go to iTunes, Stitcher, or Google Play. Give this podcast a review and subscribe! If you’re not sure how to leave a review, please go to CareerPivot.com/review, and read the detailed instructions there.  

“There’s something that led us to share and exist with each other.”-Sarah Ann from Rythmic Synergy, featured musician on this episode.    Discussing community, land bases, and driving with your values. Perspectives about Belonging from Ypsilanti, Michigan native Grace Yoder of Pollywog Farms followed by a song called ‘Blip’ from Sarah Ann of Rythmic Synergy.   Additional music mastery provided by Ana Gomulka and Taylor Greenshields of the band Honey Monsoon.   Produced by Corey Coates of Podfly Productions.   www.unifiedthreads.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/unifiedthreads/message

Today’s guest is Jessica Rhodes from The Podcast Producers. Reasons to do narrative style Jessica explains that putting on a narrative podcast is going to make you a thought leader in that industry. It brings you a lot of credibility because of the amount of work that goes into it, the production and high quality of the style of podcasts. It makes you come across as a lot more serious about what you’re doing. Interview style podcasts are great but when you put out a narrative show, you are putting out a quality of show that is so much higher than the majority of shows out there so it really does set you apart from the crowd. There is a lot of work both in preparation and post production. There are so many podcasts now. People want to podcast because they want to make money and be famous and they want the easiest way to do it. Well, the reality is if you want to be super famous or successful or make a lot of money, you have to put in the hard work. There is no fast path to a lot of success. A narrative style podcast is a lot of work but you will get a lot of recognition and exposure with a really quality show. Planning and Preparation for a Series You need to know and have a good understanding of who your audience and target listener is. You also need to know what the story arc is. The difference between a narrative and another type of podcast show is that there’s a story arc; there’s a beginning, a middle and an end. When preparing for their show, Jessica and Corey were thinking about the fact that they were talking to podcasters. What are the questions that podcasters have? What do podcasters think and talk a lot about? They brain dumped all the different topics that came to mind and then on a Google spreadsheet moved them around in a different order and thought strategically about what the right order would be and how that story would be told. Jessica’s advice is to think about who your target listener is and what the goal of the show is. What is the story that you’re trying to tell? The interviews When you’re thinking about what types of interviews to have on, remember that your guests ARE the show. When you have a narrative based podcast featuring a lot of different guests, you need to be ok with not being the front and center spotlight. The creators are the puppeteers, asking the right questions to allow the guests to tell the story. Jessica was strategic about having guests on from a variety of different categories of podcast, different experience levels, some well known and some not super successful. A good podcast in Jessica’s opinion is not one with just a big name, but one with good content, good production quality, good sound quality and a host who really, really digs their show. She would advise against hosting a narrative show and only trying to get the big names. A narrative show is beautiful because it’s bringing voices to so many different people that you don’t hear on every other podcast. Tips for having a good interview The difference in doing a narrative style podcast is that the interviews are not meant to be heard just raw and uncut, so it’s not just this flowing conversation. It feels a little choppy because it will get cut and pasted into different episodes. The best tip Jessica ever heard and the best advice that she can give is actually a tip from Mark Maron at Podcast Movement: listen. When you’re interviewing, really listen and let your guest do as much of the talking as possible, especially in a narrative based podcast. Corey also taught her this: the best part of the interview, the best stuff, is going to come after at least 15 minutes. So if you can, have your interviews go for a minimum of 30 minutes. Sometimes you can only get guests for 30 minutes but if you can have someone on with you for an hour, the stuff that comes after that 15-20 minute mark is going to be the best. You’re just breaking the ice after those first few minutes. The editing process It’s important to have a team. Doing a narrative-based podcast by yourself is going to be a really big challenge. It’s not impossible but Corey and Jessica each brought very different skill-sets to the table, which allowed them to have a really good show. She highly recommends that if you want to do a narrative-based podcast to really make sure you have the right partners to help you do it really well. Jessica has a nice voice on the microphone, can interview well and knows how to get guests. So she was the main booker for the show and obviously contributed along with Corey to the ideas. She thinks more like a marketer and an entrepreneur than Corey does. He is the artist, he is the editor, he is the producer and the one that listens to all the interviews and takes the pieces and puts them together. Having a partner and knowing what your skillsets are helps, but also get as much content as you can. They brainstormed what the story would be but what they realised is they ended up talking to the guests about a lot more than what they booked them to talk about. So they ended up being able to use their interviews in a lot more of the episodes than first thought. You don’t want to pre-edit, you want to just talk to the guests and try to get as much great information. A lot will get left on the cutting room floor, but you want to get as much great audio as possible so you have plenty to work with. Strategic Elements of the Stories and Transitions In the narrative-based podcast, you want to have a variety of feels to the show. For Podcast Producers they had three different kinds of audio: interviews, solo segments and conversations between Cory and Jessica. And there was also music. A person’s voice when they do a solo show is different to when they interview, and again to when they have a conversation. It sounds so different. In a narrative based-podcast, one of the things you can do to hook listeners, is to have those different kinds of vocals. The music is HUGE as well. They actually contracted a musician to write the music for the show. The high quality of the music is a big part of creating the high quality show. You can find musicians to compose a song for you. The production quality and the sound, high quality music, will really set you apart. Sponsorship Getting sponsorship comes back to that high quality content and production, and the launch. They didn’t do that much around marketing but Jessica thinks because all of their energy was into the production of the show, it marketed itself. She thinks the mistake a lot of podcasters make is they go into podcasting thinking about sponsors and have dollar signs in their eyes. But if you think about the story and the listeners, and focus on the quality of the show, then you can definitely attract sponsors. In the iTunes show there is a part about podcasting and it has other shows in there like Podcast Answerman. She emailed iTunes and said that they should feature her show in that category. It took a couple of months but now their podcast is listed in the ‘How to Podcast’ section of iTunes because they had a very clear target market, a highly produced show and they went for it, they made it happen. Repurposing the interview content that didn’t make it Podcast Producers is a show for podcasters, so the audience will respect and value that unedited aspect. Also showing the unedited interviews is a lesson in and of itself. Also Jessica and Corey wanted a way to create buzz. She was pregnant and he is very busy, so they knew they weren’t going to be able to come back and produce another season for a while, and it was a way to fill that space. They chose to not build an email list together. So on the PodcastProducers.com you can find Jessica’s bio and a link to her website, and a link to Corey’s bio and his website. They wanted a way to keep people engaged in between seasons so they wanted to keep having episodes come out so people stayed in touch. This was about getting content out, it isn’t a list builder, it isn’t a way to make money, it was about making Jessica and Corey authority figures. They were both behind the scenes people in podcasting, working really hard in their businesses but not internet celebrities. They wanted to show that they knew a lot about podcasting. Jessica did not want this to be a business podcast where it just sounds like everyone’s pitching what they do. She says maybe if they had talked more about their businesses they would have seen more people visit their websites. But the original goal was to produce a high quality show and create amazing value for podcasters. When you do that, you will attract people. Quality leads will seek you out. Resources Jessica recommends people use Podfly Productions, Interview Connections or Josh Rivers’ services. She also highly recommends honing your communication skills on the mic. You just have to do a lot of podcasting and do a lot of interviews and listen to yourself after the fact to hear how you sound and to improve. Listen to people like Terry Gross from Fresh Air and Mark Maron host of WTF, or other high quality podcasts. Listen to them as a way to learn how to be a better host and a better interviewer. Also check out Jessica’s WebTV show Interview Connections.TV which is a weekly show with tips for podcasters because that will be helpful too.

Welcome to Rock the Podcast! Hosts Jessica and Margy welcome Corey Coates, Chief Expectations Manager at Podfly Productions, to discuss these 3 questions… ● What’s the difference between a rebrand and a tune-up? ● What does it mean to rebrand? ● How do I rebrand my podcast?   Missed Connections This week’s missed connection is a ‘big whup’ from Corey who had never seen the moon before. Welcome to the Northeast, you wide-eyed Canadian.   What is Rebranding? Rebranding is a complete overhaul of your podcast. The only thing you keep in place is the underlying architecture, i.e., the RSS feed, iTunes account, and your fans. ● Survey your audience and ask them what they like about your existing show. ● Consult with a professional. ● Cut out the crap. ● Do a sunset episode. ● Produce a few demo episodes before launching your new show.   What is a Tune-Up? A tune-up generally happens at about six months in, or whenever your gut tells you your podcast is getting stale. It’s a review to figure out where some adjustments need to be made, to give your listeners the best content you can provide. ● Find someone with an objective ear who knows what they are doing. ● Pay attention to details. ● Consider if marketing is hindering your show. ● Be the best, most entertaining host you can be.   Resources Mentioned: Interview Connections Interview Connections TV @InterviewConnections on Instagram Podfly Audio Jungle

The Rhodes to Success podcast is for entrepreneurs, podcasters, and people who leverage the power of content marketing, or use podcast interviews to grow their business. This weekly podcast is an important tool of many listeners who use the content, tips, and real life experiences to add value to their business, and their client's businesses. That is why today's podcast includes a special guest appearance from Nathan, a robot-loving, food-gnawing three-year-old with pink eye.   Jessica Rhodes Shares Her Content Schedule: Jessica is more than a mom, a podcast host and an author. She is a content creator who strategically delegates and outsources many functions of her business so she can consistently provide content for: ● The Rhodes to Success Weekly Podcast ○ Content must be provided one week in advance of publishing so audio editing and show notes can be completed by Podfly Productions.   ● Interview Connections TV, Weekly Videos ○ Jessica saved three hours a month outsourcing the video editing to Traffic and Leads.   ● Blog, Ezine and Print Newsletter ○ Fresh, written content is important because Google doesn't listen to podcasts. ○ Writing a good blog post takes time. ○ Jessica outsources this task to her VA/Ghost Writer Angela. ○ Important information is shared through the walkie-talkie app, Voxer.   ● Interview Connections: How to Rock the Podcast from Both Sides of the Mic Book ○ Re-purposing the book's contents is another task which can be outsourced.   So, when life gets in the way of an important podcast interview but you still want to maintain your content schedule, don't complain about how hard life is, adopt a problem-solving mindset and consider the pain points of your clients; then help them solve their problems with your content. Get clear on who your listeners are, and then create episodes that address their pain points. One of the great things about the Dream Business Academy Live event is learning about problem-solving through marketing, videos, and podcast episodes. The event also features speakers who can help you become a good speaker, or write a book. There are a lot of sessions and tactical how-to's, that inspire you to think like an entrepreneur.  *To get $100 off your ticket, use the coupon code ‘Podcast' at checkout. You will learn how to be identified as an expert and to create a celebrity persona, and build a million dollar platform.   Throw in the towel or get creative? Everyone has challenges. It's how you deal with the challenges, that makes you the best entrepreneur you can be. If, like Jessica, you have to cancel a podcast interview or deal with any of life's other curveballs: ● Be open and authentic about what is going on. ● Be honest about why you canceled. ● Ask for help. ● Know that people will understand. ● People get to know you on a deeper, more personal level.   Think about how you can make the experience valuable for yourself and those around you.   This is what it is like to create a ton of content, this is how it gets done, and much like Nathan munching into the microphone, it doesn't always sound pretty.   Speakers at the Dream Business Academy Live Event: Bob Burg - The Go-Giver Melanie Benson Michelle Prince Gary George Jim Palmer   Resources Mentioned: Dream Business Academy Interview Connections Interview Connections: How to Rock the Podcast from Both Sides of the Mic Fincast Podfly Productions Traffic and Leads Voxer   *The music in today's episode was written by The Danger Os and produced by Nick Palmer. Check them out at https://www.facebook.com/thedangerosmakemusic

CS 307: Enticing Your Listeners   Welcome to the Creative Studio podcast where we conduct experiments with podcasting. We have been delving into the world of creating a narrative podcast, whether that is a journalistic, fiction, or NPR style. This is our seventh episode in this 10-part series, so if you haven’t listened to the first six, it would probably be best to do that first. I’d like to start by giving a special thanks to today’s guests: Rye Taylor, Bryan Orr, Jessica Abel, Daniel J. Lewis, Geoff Woods, The Dave Jackson, Corey Coates, Jessica Rhodes, and Elsie Escobar. We’re going to explore the peaks and valleys, the stakes, loops, emotions, and more.   1 – [Rye’s story about wrestling the gator]   We just heard from Rye Taylor sharing his story and leaving it on a cliff hanger and go into some kind of a transition.   12 – Foreshadowing (Rye)   I guess this is where Paul Harvey should come in. But, we have Bryan Orr to continue this thought.   3 – What is at stake? (Bryan) [music] 10 – Raise a question (Jessica Abel)   That was Jessica Abel. I mentioned this several times, but you really need to listen to her podcast and buy her book, “Out on the Wire” by going to CreativeStudio.Academy/wire. Not only do you need start with an intriguing teaser by foreshadowing, determine what is at stake, and figure out how to raise a question in your listener’s mind, you need to look at the overall story you’re telling. You need to see the ups and downs. Daniel J. Lewis calls these peaks and valleys.   14 – Start with a peak (Daniel)   Not just should you start and end with a peak, Bryann Orr adds to this by suggesting that you start with your best tape first to draw them in.   4 – Best tape first (Bryan) 18 – Set the stage (Geoff)   Geoff Woods of the Mentee Podcast states this well. As the host or narrator, it’s important for us to set the stage by giving the context and necessary information to understand what’s about to come. He continues by talking about loops.   19 – Open loops (Geoff)   We are driven a lot by our emotions. Really think about the decisions you make. There are certainly some that you make after logically thinking through the matter, but there are a lot of times that our emotions direct what we do. Emotions draw us into TV show, movies, and other forms of story. Dave Jackson defines some specific aspects of emotion that apply here.   11 – Emotion (Dave) 6 – Emotional markers (Corey)   That was Corey Coates of Podfly Productions and the Podcast Producers podcast. Bryan Orr and Daniel J. Lewis bring the conversation back to those peaks and valleys, or emotional bounce.   2 – Emotional bounce/balance (Bryan) 13 – Ups and downs (Daniel)   Else Escobar joins us again to blend her experience as an actress and podcaster by talking about pacing and breaking the rhythm.   15 – Pacing/break the rhythm (Elsie)   Jessica Rhodes is the co-host of the Podcast Producers with Corey. She mentions differing the vocals to change the pace as well as using music as a hook.   8 – Different vocals (Jessica Rhodes) 9 – Music as a hook (Jessica Rhodes) 16 – Music (Elsie) 17 – Driving forward (Elsie)   Some narration is usually necessary to be able to make transitions, to move the story forward, or fill in missing information. But Corey shares the ideal way to craft the story.   7 – Guest-created story (Corey)   Just like we should start with a bang, we need to end it well, too. What do you want to leave the listener with?   5 – The ending (Bryan)    As we wrap up this episode, we need to remember that this is all more of an art than a science. Yes, we have mentioned frameworks and best practices, but this is just where we should start.   [Elsie quote – “break the mold”]   When it comes to enticing your listener to keep listening, you may have to play around with different things to see what works best. The specific style you are using or the message you are trying to convey may change how you want to do this. A great thing you can do to help yourself is try to pay more attention to TV shows and movies. How do they tease upcoming shows? How do they start the show? How to they end things before going to a commercial? What do they do at the end to try to bring you back next time? As you pay attention to these and try to dissect what they do, it will help you learn how to apply that to your podcast. If you have found this series helpful, please share this with others. I want to help as many people as possible. In fact, one way I’d like to help people is by delving deeper into this through a course. If you’d be interested in a course where you’ll not only get more about creating a narrative, but you’ll also get one-on-one time with me and collaborative experience with others, go to MasterPodcasting.com. It’ll give you a little more information and you can sign up to talk with me about how I can help you more with this. Come back next time and we’ll talk about making transitions between clips and part of the narrative. Thank you again and God bless.

Welcome back to the Creative Studio, where we conduct experiments with podcasting. In this fourth season, we are talking about narrative podcasting. This is episode 6, and we’ll be discussing the editing process. In the previous episodes, we discussed various things regarding planning, preparation, and recording for a narrative podcast. If you missed those, you’ll definitely want to go back and listen to those. In this episode, we’ll be hearing from: Bryan Orr Corey Coates Doc Kennedy Dave Jackson Erik K. Johnson Rye Taylor Elsie Escobar There is a lot involved in the editing process. As we discussed in episode 402, editing shows up many times throughout the narrative workflow. Here’s a quick review of that workflow or roadmap: Idea Research enough to pitch idea to group Research more Conduct pre-interviews Adjust story concept Pick interview subjects Interview Transcribe Write first draft of script Edit Second draft Edit Third draft Full cuts “Read to tape” as group Group edits Fourth draft Tracking Rough mix Listen to the rough as a group Another group edit Rough sound design Listen as a group Edit Fix sound design Pass off your final master Final mix Send out Get notes Fix based on notes Review again Green light Publish This workflow is roughly based on the process that Roman Mars shared during his keynote presentation at Podcast Movement 2015. There are at least 5 edits mentioned in this process – some are individual and others are group edits. There are a couple ways that editing can be approached. Each has its benefits and drawbacks, and I think that each one is helpful, if not needed, in the workflow. One way to edit is in written form and the other is in audio form. There may be other approaches and various combinations of these forms, but these are the two that I will focus on for this episode. It is good to start by getting a transcript of the tape you recorded. I didn’t do this for the first several episodes of this series because it costs either time or money – and I didn’t want to give up either at first. I finally gave in and paid someone on Fiverr.com to transcribe some for me. Here’s what I did. I had already listened to all of the audio after the interviews and separated the clips based on the overall topic of the section. There were some sections that I copied and put into a couple topics. In the end, I had anywhere between 10 minutes to 60 minutes of audio for each topic. I put the clips for one topic together on one track and mixed it down to a single mp3 file. I sent that off to the person on Fiverr. There were one or two episodes where I trimmed out my side of the conversation to made the file shorter because I was paying by the minute. I also wasn’t using any of my side of the conversation in the end. When I got the transcript back five or six days later, I would read through it and mark out things that I knew I wanted to cut out. This would include my side of the conversation if I didn’t already take it out. Sometimes the guest would cover a couple topics together, so I would take out parts of the guests’ answers that didn’t pertain to that particular topic. Sometimes the guest would go into stories that were related to the topic, but weren’t necessary to make the episode work. There were also several times when multiple guests would basically give the same answer or perspective, so I would usually cut someone’s answer. The decision could have been made depending on clear they gave the answer or even how much I was already using from that particular guest. I don’t try to give equal time, per se, but I do like incorporating different voices. I would also look for short clips that I could use in a teaser or opener for the episode and highlight the different spots. So, I would end up with a document that had a bunch of stuff crossed out. I would usually do some of this on my break at work, so I would actually print out the transcript and mark it with a pen and highlighter. I would then translate that to the document in Microsoft Word and save it as a new file. I would do this so I could make changes but still have the original work. Here’s a quick side note. If I was working on this with a team, I would probably have been using Google Docs instead of Word to make it easier to collaborate. I know I haven’t gotten to any of the guests yet, but be’ll get to our guests after I finish explaining this writing part. So I would take the edited document and then I would try to organize the remaining clips into a logical order. I would look through each guests answers and label it as a certain subtopic. I would then be able to create a form of an outline. In a couple cases, I actually numbered each clip so I could rearrange them using just numbers instead of copying and pasting a bunch of text. After I had the order of the clips, I would look at what I needed to do to create the narration in between the clips. Sometimes the guests’ answers could stand alone without much introduction or transition, but other times I needed to set it up a little more. In some cases, I would summarize a 2-minute explanation the guest gives in 20 seconds to make it more concise, and then let them finish with the pertinent details. We’ll actually be talking more about transitions in a couple episodes, but it is part of the editing process. Then I would be able to record the narration part. I would often find places where it didn’t sound right, so I would have to rephrase and rerecord. This is another editing step. I would then take my narration clips and the guests’ clips and move onto the audio editing part of the process. I personally use Adobe Audition, but before that I used Audacity. Bryan Orr, host of the Podcast Movement Sessions podcast has his own workflow. Bryan Orr – his workflow Doc Kennedy, host of the Filmmakers Focus podcast, continues to share his perspective from video creation. He also makes reference back to an old program that we can learn from. Doc – War of the Worlds Doc – take notes, what works Doc – hire someone And if you’re looking to hire someone, Corey Coates is the co-founder of Podfly Productions and is an excellent editor. But I wouldn’t be opposed to talking with you about working with my company, Podcast Guy Media, LLC, especially if you’re interested in creating a narrative podcast. Erik – Let the guest tell the story That was Erik K. Johnson, who has some great resources at Podcast Talent Coach. Erik – only use what you need Dave Jackson has been podcasting since 2005 and has helped a lot of people with their podcasts, everything from getting started to growing the podcast. Over the years, he has seen a lot of things and has developed some pet peeves in the mean time. Dave – answer the question Rye Taylor joins us again to share some thoughts about the difficulty that podcasters can have cutting things out, especially when there is something more personal involved. Rye – cut the extras, even when it’s personal Rye – one central character Corey Coates also talks about the difficulty podcasters can have trying to edit their own show. Corey – perspective and objectivity One suggestion from Elsie Escobar is to reach out to your audience for some perspective. Elsie – mini-focus group In the discussion with Elsie, I realized a connection between editing and our brain. The right side of our brain is the hub for creativity while the left side is the more logical side. When it comes to creating a podcast, we are using both sides of our brain, but it’s difficult to keep switching back and forth between creating and editing. Because of this issue, I’ve heard many people recommend batching your work so that you focus solely on creating, and then you focus solely on editing. If you have a team, this process can be improved. You can have some people on the team work on the creative aspect while others focus on the editing. Elsie – creating vs. editing I’ve mentioned the book, ‘Out on the Wire,” by Jessica Abel several times throughout this series. It really is a great book to help with many of these aspects of creating a narrative. In the section about editing, she speaks with several different companies that create narrative audio, such as This American Life. An edit was revealed to be a single session of basically tearing apart the script to make it better. It was brought out that sometimes a single edit could take several hours to a full day of work. And this would be with a team of people. And that would be just one of the several edits on a single piece. Did we mention that creating a narrative takes a lot of work? Dave Jackson actually talks about his experience of working on a project in his podcast, The School of Podcasting. He actually gave a shout out to me and this podcast. Thanks, Dave. Yes, I did a little happy dance when I heard that. Anyway, he said that a 20-minute piece he worked on for TheMessengersDoc.com took 4 hours. That’s a ratio of 12 minutes of work for 1 minute of audio. No, Dave is not slow. This just takes a lot of work, and the editing portion is a large part of that. Rye talked earlier about focusing on one central character and have this as a guide during the editing process. When you’re reading the script or listening to the audio, ask yourself if it is vital to build the story around that central character. Now, the character could be a person. It could be an animal. It could be a place. It could be a topic or idea. Whatever that central character is, try to keep the story centered on that. As was also mentioned, make sure to keep your audience in mind. Where are they coming from? What is their experience or knowledge? What do they need to know? What do they need to feel? How can you help them? One last thing to consider when editing and cutting your audio, consider your overall purpose and goal. What is it that you are aiming for? What is the call to action that you want your listener to take? How will this move the podcast forward? Maybe the podcast is designed to move your business forward. Whatever it is, ask yourself if it contributes to this overarching goal as well. In the next episode, we are going to talk about how to entice your audience. This includes how to capture their attention at the beginning and keep them listening. After that we will look at another aspect of the editing process we haven’t really talked about, and that is making transitions between clips and narration. In other words how to make the narrative flow better. I haven’t really assigned you anything so far in this series. I’ve mentioned resources to help you. I’ve mentioned the website and the email list you can join for additional information and notices. But I haven’t really given you an assignment for you to work on and take action on. So here is your mission, should you choose to accept it. Go to CreativeStudio.Academy and sign up for the email list. If you’ve already done this, great! You’ll be sent some resources I’ve created. One thing is a guide on creating a website. Another is the roadmap for narrative podcasting that I created earlier in this series. You will also get a sample of my editing processes. I’m including copies of each stage in the written portion of the process. So you’ll see the transcript with parts crossed out. You’ll see how I organized the remaining clips. You’ll see the narration I wrote and put the script together. This will give you an example that you can see, as opposed to just listening to the process here. The next step in your homework is to e-mail me, joshua@podcastguy.co. Or you can just reply to the e-mail with the resources. Let me know what your plan is for creating a narrative podcast, or at least what ideas you have. I would love to talk with you about this. I am also willing to have a Skype conversation with you to answer any questions you may have and share a little more of my process, including sharing my screen to show you what I did in the audio part of the editing. So again, your mission is to go to CreativeStudio.Academy and join the email list to get started. This message will…well, no, it won’t self-destruct. I want this to reach more people as well.   The Creative Studio podcast is brought to you by Podcast Guy Media, LLC. Through this business, I help people with several aspects of their podcasts. I recently helped one podcasters launch his first podcast. I am the podcast manager for another podcast, where I help oversee all aspects of the podcast production from planning and scheduling guests to editing and publishing. What I do most of the time with clients, is the editing of their audio. If you need any help or have questions, please let me know at PodcastGuyMedia.com. If you couldn’t tell, I’m really getting into narrative podcasting, so I’m especially interested in helping you if you want to dive into this awesome world. Again, the website is PodcastGuyMedia.com.

Spreaker Live Show #52 for March 30th, 2016Our Topics This Week: Deep diving into the great features of the FREE "Spreaker Studio for Mobile iOS/Android apps" and guest interview with Podfly's and The Podcast Producer series host Corey Coates. We have a new "Spreaker How-To" segment co-host on the show and his name is Alex Exum @AlexExum and he is based in LA and hosts "The Exum Experience" and the "Spreaker Studio Review" show. Show Duration: 33 minutesHost: Rob Greenlee, Head of Content, Spreaker @robgreenlee - rob(at)spreaker(dotcom)Co-Host: Alex Exum, Spreaker Host of "The Exum Experience" and the "Spreaker Studio Review" shows at @AlexExumGuest Interview: Corey Coates, Founder, http://Podfly.net and host of http://ThePodcastProducers.com seriesTwitter: http://twitter.com/coreyryancoatesDetailed Show Notes:- Spreaker Studio for iOS and Android focus - Why should a podcaster use it? Free, Free to Rec (128K), Easy, Supports Mobile Recording- Plus: Live Episode Streams with FREE or “Pro Station” Plans- Auto-Ducking or Turn Mic Off - Then “Push To Talk”- Access to your Spreaker Account - Metrics, Likes, Sources, Demo, Geolocation- Supports 1 Microphone - Phone Mic or Higher Quality Lightening Port, Adapter to USB to USB hubs for iPhone, iPads. Android mini-USB adapter- Playlists, Tracks, Effects all customizable with your pre-recorded audio- Integrated Interactive Chat Window to view and enter- Replace audio - Spreaker - Does not Update iHeartRadio - Record and Export to Spreaker via public or private upload to get for editing, then republishing- Shure MV88 iOS Digital Stereo Condenser Microphone - $149 (small iOS microphone)- Apple compatible with all iOS devices equipped with Lightning connector- Matched cardioid and bi-directional- Automatically adjusts EQ, compression and limiting for optimal results- Innovative hinge/rotation design supports multiple recording angles- iRig MIC Cast - Ultra-compact microphone for iPhone, iPod touch, iPad and Android - $39.99Corey Coates joins me to explore the amazing “The Podcast Producers Series” that has wrapped a 10-part season 1 focused on the art and business of podcasting. This series speaks with some of the leaders in the podcasting space today to tell a detailed story about the unique area called “Podcasts”. The series is hosted by Jessica Rhodes and Corey Coates. Corey Coates has been podcasting since 2006. He is an audio engineer who has worked on countless podcast projects with his production company, Podfly Productions. He is the former host of This Week in Costa Rica, Five Gallon Podcast, and was the program director for the Overseas Radio Network. Corey now focuses his attention fully on producing content for clients worldwide.Topics Discussed in the 10-part series:- What are “The Podcast Producers” series topics? - Is There Anybody Out There?- Podcasting for a Hobby or Business?- The Podcasting Community- The Psychology of Podcasting- The Stats Conversation- Is Podcasting Another Form of Isolation?- Do It Yourself or Outsource?- The Network Effect- Monetize a Podcast with Advertising- Will Podcasts Kill the Radio Star?Questions Discussed in the Interview:- What was it trying to accomplish or need you saw? - You spoke with some very smart people in the space! - What surprised you about the process of making the series? Learned from it?- Can you give us some teases around the topics of Season 2?To listen visit: http://ThePodcastProducers.comShow Links: - Alex's Spreaker Studio Review Show - https://www.spreaker.com/show/new-spreaker-studio-prototype-windows- Spreaker Studio for iOS - https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/spreaker-studio/id585625596?mt=8- Spreaker Studio for Android - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.spreaker.android.studio&hl=en- Spreaker Studio for Desktop - Win/MAC - https://www.spreaker.com/desktop-studio/download- Audio-Technica ATR-2100-USB Cardioid Dynamic USB/XLR Microphone - http://amzn.to/1iwSB8E- #iLovePodcasting T-Shirt - https://twitter.com/robgreenlee/status/706320283599183872- Free "Levelator" for Win/MAC - http://www.conversationsnetwork.org/levelator- Sony SoundForge Audio Studio 10 - http://www.sonycreativesoftware.com/audiostudio Spreaker Links:http://Adore.fmhttp://blog.spreaker.comhttp://SpreakerLiveShow.comhttps://Spreaker.comSend Questions and Comments to:Twitter: http://twitter.com/spreaker using #SpreakerLiveTwitter: http://twitter.com/robgreenleeTwitter: http://twitter.com/alexeum Tech Support: support at spreaker.com

Spreaker Live Show #52 for March 30th, 2016Our Topics This Week: Deep diving into the great features of the FREE "Spreaker Studio for Mobile iOS/Android apps" and guest interview with Podfly's and The Podcast Producer series host Corey Coates. We have a new "Spreaker How-To" segment co-host on the show and his name is Alex Exum @AlexExum and he is based in LA and hosts "The Exum Experience" and the "Spreaker Studio Review" show. Show Duration: 33 minutesHost: Rob Greenlee, Head of Content, Spreaker @robgreenlee - rob(at)spreaker(dotcom)Co-Host: Alex Exum, Spreaker Host of "The Exum Experience" and the "Spreaker Studio Review" shows at @AlexExumGuest Interview: Corey Coates, Founder, http://Podfly.net and host of http://ThePodcastProducers.com seriesTwitter: http://twitter.com/coreyryancoatesDetailed Show Notes:- Spreaker Studio for iOS and Android focus - Why should a podcaster use it? Free, Free to Rec (128K), Easy, Supports Mobile Recording- Plus: Live Episode Streams with FREE or “Pro Station” Plans- Auto-Ducking or Turn Mic Off - Then “Push To Talk”- Access to your Spreaker Account - Metrics, Likes, Sources, Demo, Geolocation- Supports 1 Microphone - Phone Mic or Higher Quality Lightening Port, Adapter to USB to USB hubs for iPhone, iPads. Android mini-USB adapter- Playlists, Tracks, Effects all customizable with your pre-recorded audio- Integrated Interactive Chat Window to view and enter- Replace audio - Spreaker - Does not Update iHeartRadio - Record and Export to Spreaker via public or private upload to get for editing, then republishing- Shure MV88 iOS Digital Stereo Condenser Microphone - $149 (small iOS microphone)- Apple compatible with all iOS devices equipped with Lightning connector- Matched cardioid and bi-directional- Automatically adjusts EQ, compression and limiting for optimal results- Innovative hinge/rotation design supports multiple recording angles- iRig MIC Cast - Ultra-compact microphone for iPhone, iPod touch, iPad and Android - $39.99Corey Coates joins me to explore the amazing “The Podcast Producers Series” that has wrapped a 10-part season 1 focused on the art and business of podcasting. This series speaks with some of the leaders in the podcasting space today to tell a detailed story about the unique area called “Podcasts”. The series is hosted by Jessica Rhodes and Corey Coates. Corey Coates has been podcasting since 2006. He is an audio engineer who has worked on countless podcast projects with his production company, Podfly Productions. He is the former host of This Week in Costa Rica, Five Gallon Podcast, and was the program director for the Overseas Radio Network. Corey now focuses his attention fully on producing content for clients worldwide.Topics Discussed in the 10-part series:- What are “The Podcast Producers” series topics? - Is There Anybody Out There?- Podcasting for a Hobby or Business?- The Podcasting Community- The Psychology of Podcasting- The Stats Conversation- Is Podcasting Another Form of Isolation?- Do It Yourself or Outsource?- The Network Effect- Monetize a Podcast with Advertising- Will Podcasts Kill the Radio Star?Questions Discussed in the Interview:- What was it trying to accomplish or need you saw? - You spoke with some very smart people in the space! - What surprised you about the process of making the series? Learned from it?- Can you give us some teases around the topics of Season 2?To listen visit: http://ThePodcastProducers.comShow Links: - Alex's Spreaker Studio Review Show - https://www.spreaker.com/show/new-spreaker-studio-prototype-windows- Spreaker Studio for iOS - https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/spreaker-studio/id585625596?mt=8- Spreaker Studio for Android - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.spreaker.android.studio&hl=en- Spreaker Studio for Desktop - Win/MAC - https://www.spreaker.com/desktop-studio/download- Audio-Technica ATR-2100-USB Cardioid Dynamic USB/XLR Microphone - http://amzn.to/1iwSB8E- #iLovePodcasting T-Shirt - https://twitter.com/robgreenlee/status/706320283599183872- Free "Levelator" for Win/MAC - http://www.conversationsnetwork.org/levelator- Sony SoundForge Audio Studio 10 - http://www.sonycreativesoftware.com/audiostudio Spreaker Links:http://Adore.fmhttp://blog.spreaker.comhttp://SpreakerLiveShow.comhttps://Spreaker.comSend Questions and Comments to:Twitter: http://twitter.com/spreaker using #SpreakerLiveTwitter: http://twitter.com/robgreenleeTwitter: http://twitter.com/alexeum Tech Support: support at spreaker.com

Corey Coates is the co-founder of Podfly Productions. In less than two years he has grown Podfly into one of the most successful podcast production companies in the world. He started his career as a professional musician and became passionate about sound productions. Now in the crazy world of podcasting, Corey has hands on experience of leading a fast growing company in a hot industry.Thom Singer met with Corey in a coffee shop in Montreal to talk about his business, entrepreneurship, and to share ideas on growing a company. www.podfly.net

On this episode of Rhodes to Success, I explore the art and business of podcasting with Corey Coates, the co-founder of PodFly Productions. During the show, Corey and I have a conversation about the Podcast Producer series. We'll discuss how and why we created the series, the topics covered, and what we came to learn about podcasting.   Key Lessons Learned:   Origin of Podcast Producers -       The aim was for a chaptered approach and covering the bigger topics on podcasting. -       Rather than interviewing a person on their opinion on a single topic, Corey wanted to have a topic and interview multiple people on it. -       There are so many opinions and approaches to podcasting that there is no right or wrong way to podcast and use podcasting. -       Corey was looking for a way to ‘soften' the information, especially for rookies entering as new podcasters. -       The long form of the series is a reminder to people of what podcasting is.   10 Hours of Podcast in 2 Months -       Corey sent Jessica a one-sheet proposal of the show of what he wanted it to sound like along with a sample pilot. -       The goal was to have open ended conversations about the industry as a whole, what people are doing within the space, brainstorm topics and ideas, then start arranging them in a story. -       The constraint was set around the project before work started. -       When parameters are decided, then a timeline can be built around that. -       When you are overwhelmed by a project, it is easy to shut down, but if you have a timeline, it is much easier to trust in the system.   Establishing A Launch Date -       Establish your launch date fast and stick to it. -       Having a pre-determined launch date helped with the Podcast Producers workflow. -       There was a chart that laid out the workflow so it was clear on when activities such as brainstorming, recording, and editing were going to happen. -       A launch date is critical for being accountable to yourself, your team, and your listeners. -       Knowing you have an end date is motivation for you to finish.   Passion & Power of No -       The overarching theme has to be an enjoyment of the process. -       If the process itself isn't a reward, you might want to consider not launching a podcast. -       It's so easy to say yes to opportunities, but there is a lot of power in saying no. -       Ask yourself what the ROI is and how making a podcast will improve your business. -       Podcasts are evergreen and will continue to be discovered on a daily basis by new people. -       The more interviews you do, the more you improve as an interviewer and host.   The Podcast Producers' Ten Topics   1. Is anybody out there? -       This episode is about podcasting from the perspective of the listener. -       Who is actually out there listening to these shows?   2. Hobby or Business? -       John Lee Dumas sparked a surge of entrepreneurs in podcasting.   3. The Podcasting Community -       How open and friendly the community is in sharing information.   4. The Psychology of Podcasting -       Why are we doing this in the first place? -       What happens psychologically with the audience when people listen to a podcast? -       Should people stop listening to experts? -       If you become an expert, should you worry about the imposter syndrome?   5. Stats -       Experts explain the facts about stats.   6. Isolation   7. DIY or Outsource -       More people are entering the space and providing services to podcasters.   8. Podcast Networks  -       What goes into being in a network?   9. Monetization -       The Dumas affect. -       Do you understand what it means to make money in a podcast? -       Knowing the expectation of advertisers. -       Is it a viable source of income for you? -       The CPM model.   10. Radio Migration   Subscribe to the show in iTunes or Stitcher Radio!   The music in today's episode was written by The Danger Os and produced by Nick Palmer. Check them out at https://www.facebook.com/thedangerosmakemusic    Links to Resources Mentioned Corey's previous episode The Podcast Producers PodFly Productions Interview Connections This American Life

Jessica Rhodes is the founder and President of Entrepreneur Support Services Inc. (ESS), a virtual assistant firm offering a variety of client support and graphic design services to busy entrepreneurs. ESS is the parent company to the wildly popular podcast guest booking firm, InterviewConnections.com. Jessica is the host of the hit weekly web TV show, Interview Connections TV where she brings expert tips and advice to podcasters and great guest experts. Her podcast, Rhodes to Success publishes weekly interviews with content and relationship marketers. Corey Coates has been podcasting since 2006. He is an audio engineer who has worked on countless podcast projects with his production company, Podfly Productions. Corey now focuses his attention fully on producing content for clients worldwide, and is the proud co-host of The Podcast Producers.     THE PODCAST PRODUCERS – A SERIES ON THE ART AND BUSINESS OF PODCASTING! The series explores topics including: Podcasting for hobby or business, the podcast community, statistics and demographics, advertising on podcasts, podcast networks, the psychology of podcasting, outsourcing production or doing it yourself, the reaction of broadcast radio, and much more. Please connect with me Subscribe, rate, and review in iTunes Follow @ErikJFisher Check out more Noodle.mx Network showsThe Audacity to Podcast: "How-to" podcast about podcastingBeyond the To-Do List: Personal and professional productivityThe Productive Woman: Productivity for busy womenONCE: Once Upon a Time podcastWelcome to Level Seven: Agents of SHIELD and Marvel’s cinematic universe podcastAre You Just Watching?: Movie reviews with Christian critical thinkingthe Ramen Noodle: Family-friendly clean comedy

Jason Hartman invites Jessica Rhodes on to the show to talk about how to book better guests and how to be a better guest as well. Jessica is the founder of Interview Connections and has booked some big names in the industry. She talks about how persistence and follow up are key to booking bigger names, how to properly pitch yourself to a podcaster, her latest project with Corey Coates titled The Podcast Producers, and much, much more on today's show.    Key Takeaways: 1:20 – Jessica has added a lot of value to Jason's show with the types of guest she's brought on.  5:30 – There are quite a few podcasters who want fresh people on their show who haven't done the podcasting circuit yet.  14:50 – At the end of the day, you want to be both a podcast host and also a guest.  22:20 – Be specific as possible on what you can bring to the table when you're pitching to a host.  27:10 – There are so many different types of entrepreneurs that you can cater to, so don't worry about excluding people.  28:40 – Jessica is doing a 10 episode series with Corey Coates from Podfly Productions about podcasting. It launches on April 6th. 29:30 – Final thoughts? Do not be afraid to start. There's never a perfect time, so just do it now.    Mentioned In This Episode: InterviewConnections.com @JessRhodesESS InterviewConnections.TV

Corey began his career in broadcast media, music production, performance and instruction. He became a pioneer in podcasting, an in-demand freelance guitarist for countless recordings and tours, and an audio editor for terrestrial radio production houses. He is the proud host of the popular radio program This Week In Costa Rica on the Overseas Radio Network, a fervent blogger, podcaster, magazine contributor, public speaker, and co-founder of Podfly Productions, LLC. Inside this FREE “First Millionaire Manifesto”, J V reveals the seven steps to seven figures and how to put more money in the bank, enjoy a richly rewarding life, and make a big difference. Subscribe in iTunes Like this Podcast? Help spread the word. Subscribing and leaving a review helps other business owners and entrepreneurs find our podcast…and make their big difference. They will thank you for it.   Watch this FREE Video to discover the Secrets to getting in your zone, achieving fast results, and building a high-profit conscious business.  Conscious Millionaire Podcast: On his free podcast, Monday through Friday, J V interviews top successful entrepreneurs and business owners who reveal their business solutions and business opportunities on topics such as: conscious business, social entrepreneurship, business online marketing, internet business solutions, internet marketing, team building and culture, goal setting, how to become a wealthy entrepreneur, and developing a high-profit business plan that will change lives and the world.    

Corey began his career in broadcast media, music production, performance and instruction. He became a pioneer in podcasting, an in-demand freelance guitarist for countless recordings and tours, and an audio editor for terrestrial radio production houses. He is the proud host of the popular radio program This Week In Costa Rica on the Overseas Radio Network, a fervent blogger, podcaster, magazine contributor, public speaker, and co-founder of Podfly Productions, LLC. Inside this FREE “First Millionaire Manifesto”, J V reveals the seven steps to seven figures and how to put more money in the bank, enjoy a richly rewarding life, and make a big difference. Subscribe in iTunes Like this Podcast? Help spread the word. Subscribing and leaving a review helps other business owners and entrepreneurs find our podcast…and make their big difference. They will thank you for it.   Watch this FREE Video to discover the Secrets to getting in your zone, achieving fast results, and building a high-profit conscious business.  Conscious Millionaire Podcast: On his free podcast, Monday through Friday, J V interviews top successful entrepreneurs and business owners who reveal their business solutions and business opportunities on topics such as: conscious business, social entrepreneurship, business online marketing, internet business solutions, internet marketing, team building and culture, goal setting, how to become a wealthy entrepreneur, and developing a high-profit business plan that will change lives and the world.