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Life = Choices; Choices = Life is about learning to replace external control psychology with radical responsibility and appreciation so you can make better choices to create the life you want to have. Kim Olver is a leading expert in Choice Theory™ psychology and will share what she has gleaned from…

Kim Olver


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    Inclusive Parenting: Finding Strength on the Autism Journey

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2025 12:44


    In this episode, Kim has a heartfelt continuation of her conversation with Ashley Patrick, a devoted mom and parenting educator, as we explore what it really means to build inclusive communities for families with neurodiverse children. Ashley shares the inspiration behind her mom-and-me craft events, designed to be calm, understanding, and welcoming to all—especially those who often feel excluded from traditional activities.We also discuss the emotional reality of receiving an autism diagnosis as a parent, the importance of community support, and the grieving process of letting go of the future you imagined for your child so you can embrace the beautiful, unique individual they are.Ashley offers practical advice on how to:Find or create inclusive spaces in your communityConnect with others who understand the neurodiverse parenting journeySupport your child while navigating your own emotional landscapeThis episode is for any parent, educator, or ally who wants to better understand the power of inclusion and what it truly means to say: It's going to be okay. Listen to Part 1 of Kim's interview with Ashley Learn more about Ashley's work through the Infinite Inclusion Foundation on Facebook.

    Parenting, Neurodiversity & the Power of Inclusion with Ashley Patrick (Part 1)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2025 13:31


    In this heartfelt and empowering episode of Life Equals Choices; Choices Equal Life, Kim Olver sits down with Ashley Patrick—devoted mom, fierce advocate, and full-time probation officer—to explore the beautiful complexity of parenting in a neurodiverse family. Ashley shares her real-life experience raising her daughter Gabby, who was diagnosed with autism at age two, along with a blended household of seven children ranging from ages 3 to 23.Ashley opens up about the balancing act of motherhood and career, the isolation that can come with parenting a neurodiverse child, and the deep transformation that led her to build a new, inclusive community. From grief and growth to advocacy and action, Ashley speaks candidly about creating spaces where every child—and every parent—feels seen and supported.Tune in to hear:How Ashley navigates mom guilt and gives herself graceThe challenges and beauty of parenting a child with autismHow she created inclusion-focused events and built a network of supportHer journey toward launching a nonprofit to uplift families like hersWhether you're a parent, an educator, or someone passionate about inclusion, this episode will speak to your heart. Don't miss part two of this powerful conversation in next week's episode!If this conversation resonates, please leave a review and share it on social media—tag @OlverInternational so we can thank you personally.Listen now on your favorite podcast platform or at lifeequalschoices.com.

    Parenting Against the Grain: The Agile Approach with Bia Demofsky (Part 2)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 17:14


    In this episode, Kim Olver welcomes back author and Agile coach Bia Demofsky in a powerful continuation of last week's conversation to explore how she applies professional Agile principles to parenting in an intentional, iterative way. In Agile Parenting, Bia shares how her decade-long struggle with infertility shaped her reverence for parenting—and how that perspective led her to reject mainstream trends in favor of meaningful connection, structure, and flexibility with her daughter.Together, Kim and Bia unpack:Why Agile methodology isn't just for software teams—it can be a powerful framework for raising childrenHow to parent "against the grain" with confidence, even when it goes against public opinionThe critical role of parent-to-parent communities in supporting intentional parentingPractical ways to limit technology use early—and why it mattersThe importance of modeling emotional intelligence, accountability, and collaboration for kidsThis episode is a must-listen for parents craving deeper relationships with their children and the courage to raise them with purpose in today's chaotic world.To listen to part 1 of this interview, click here. Grab Bia's book Agile Parenting on Amazon and explore her parenting workbook and framework. You can also connect with Bia at https://agileparenting.org.Next week, Kim continues the parenting conversation with Ashley Patrick to discuss raising neurodivergent children. Subscribe so you don't miss it!

    Title: Agile Parenting™: Intentional Connection in a Fast-Paced World

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 16:50


    In this two-part episode, Kim welcomes author, coach, and parenting visionary Biljana "Bia" Dimovski to explore her unique approach to raising children in the modern age—what she calls Agile Parenting. Drawing from her own decade-long journey through infertility and her experience as an agile coach, Bia shares how she intentionally shaped her parenting philosophy to emphasize presence, connection, and mutual learning with her daughter.Rather than following conventional parenting labels like "helicopter" or "snowplow," Bia reframes what it means to be deeply engaged. From modeling adult conversations to rediscovering creativity through shared art projects, she illustrates how parenting can be a reciprocal growth journey. This heartwarming conversation offers fresh perspective, especially for parents seeking to nurture strong bonds while navigating the distractions of technology and social pressure.If you like this conversation, don't forget to return next week for part 2.And if you're a counselor with a master's degree looking to elevate your impact, Kim invites you to join the next Academy of Choice 30-hour coaching program starting May 8, 2025. This board-certified coach training is ideal for professionals ready to empower their clients through mindset shifts, accountability, and practical coaching strategies. Learn more and register at https://olverinternational.com/academy-of-choice.

    Bridging the Divide: A Courageous Conversation Across the Aisle

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 25:59


    In this powerful conclusion to her three-part series, Kim Olver continues her candid conversation with Republican guest Mike Corey, modeling what it looks like to engage in respectful political discourse amidst deep national division. Together, they explore the complex dynamics of DEIB (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging), systemic inequality, white privilege, and the legacy of racism in America—all without shouting or shutting down.With curiosity and compassion, Kim and Mike discuss controversial topics like affirmative action, police history, socioeconomic disparity, the media's role in polarization, and the need for a viable third political party. While their worldviews differ, their shared desire to understand, rather than attack, shines through.This episode is a masterclass in how to agree to disagree with grace, demonstrating that healing our country starts at the kitchen table, not the Capitol building. If you've ever struggled to talk politics with loved ones, this conversation offers a hopeful path forward.Stick around to the end for a heartfelt reflection from Kim on what it really means to be united as Americans.If this is your first listen to this series, be sure to backtrack to listen to Part 1 and Part 2 of Kim's conversation with Mike Cory

    Respectful Disagreement: A Democrat and Republican Talk Politics, Abortion, and Equity

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 24:16


    In Part 2 of this candid conversation, Kim Olver reconnects with childhood acquaintance Mike Cory to explore the widening political divide in the U.S. — not to change each other's minds but to model what respectful political discourse can look like.From energy policy and healthcare to abortion, transgender athletes, and diversity in education, Kim and Mike openly share their opposing views while holding space for mutual respect. This episode offers a rare glimpse into what's possible when people disagree without hostility — and listen with curiosity instead of judgment.Whether you lean left or right, you'll find insights, questions, and perhaps even some common ground in this important conversation.Be sure to catch Part 1 for context — and don't miss Part 3 next week as the discussion concludes.Our next 30-hour coaching cohort begins May 8. If you are interested, then click here to get the details and to register.

    Can We Talk? Bridging Political Divides with Respect and Curiosity

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 23:21


    In this episode, I am joined by a high school acquaintance and thoughtful conservative voice, Mike Cory, for an honest and respectful conversation about the political divide between Democrats and Republicans.Rather than aiming to debate or “win,” Mike and I model how to listen for understanding, even when we disagree. With topics ranging from gun laws and media mistrust to Medicaid, Christian values, and government corruption, this conversation explores the values beneath the views—and reveals how much more we have in common when we take time to truly hear each other. This is Part 1 of a three-part series. Return right here next week Part 2.If you are interested in our coaching program at Olver International, you'll find more information and registration links here.

    Bridging the Divide: A Real Conversation Across Political Lines

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 13:37


    In this episode, I dive into one of the most important—and challenging—topics of our time: how to have respectful, meaningful conversations with people who hold different political beliefs.I share my personal reflections on the growing polarization in our country, the danger of misinformation, and the importance of listening with the intent to understand—not to change someone's mind.Then, I sit down with Mike Cory, a high school aquaintance who reached out during a tense political time, genuinely wanting to understand my perspective. Over the next three episodes, you can hear that although we come from different sides of the political spectrum, our conversation is proof that it's possible to talk across differences without yelling, name-calling, or canceling each other.Whether you lean left, right, or somewhere in between, this episode is an invitation to open your heart and your mind. If you've ever lost a friend, strained a family relationship, or just felt overwhelmed by the political divide, this conversation is for you.Let's model what respectful political discourse can look like—because our relationships and our democracy depend on it.The full URL for the article I quoted is https://www.mic.com/articles/90621/why-america-is-no-longer-no-1-in-9-charts.If you are interested in exploring our board certified coaching programs, you can check them out here.

    Unlocking Leadership Transformation with Choice Theory Psychology – Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2025 15:55


    In this powerful conclusion to my conversation with Hussein Paymozd, we continue exploring his transformational leadership journey. Hussein shares how he evolved from a more authoritarian, top-down style to a leader committed to helping his team meet their basic psychological needs at work.He explains how his communication shifted when he adopted an internal control mindset, moving away from external motivators like rewards and punishments and toward a more inclusive, inspiring approach. Hussein also reflects on the profound impact of translating my book, Mental Freedom, into Farsi—both personally and professionally.For leaders still relying on control-based tactics, Hussein offers wise advice—and leaves us with a memorable quote that sums up his philosophy: "Even if you win the rat race, you're still a rat." I couldn't agree more.If you missed Part 1, be sure to check it out for the full picture of Hussein's transformation.Interested in becoming a Board Certified Coach (BCC) through Academy of Choice? Our next cohort for the 60- or 120-hour programs begins April 1. Click here to learn more and register.

    Unlocking Leadership Transformation with Choice Theory Psychology

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 13:43


    In this episode, I sit down with Hussein Paymozd to explore his leadership journey and the profound impact Choice Theory psychology had on his approach. Hussein shares how his early experiences with mentors influenced his leadership style and reveals the pivotal "aha moment" that inspired him to rethink his methods. He dives into the powerful shift from an external control approach to a more effective strategy — one that prioritizes his employees' five basic needs and emphasizes internal motivation. Tune in to discover how embracing Choice Theory transformed Hussein's leadership, fostering greater trust, engagement, and team success.

    Transformational Leadership part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2025 18:25


    In this episode, Paul Cline and I continue our deep dive into Transformational Leadership. We explore how ongoing training empowers leaders to cultivate employees that grow beyond their starting point—and how investing in your staff can elevate your entire organization. If you'd like to learn more from Paul, visit advancedideas.com or whop.com/life-transformation. Missed part 1 of our conversation? Click here to listen. And if you're ready to level up your coaching skills, explore our 60-hour coaching program by clicking here.

    Transformational Leadership part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2025 16:48


    In this episode, I interview Paul Cline about progressive leadership—what it is, why it's important, and the transformational mindset behind it. As you listen, evaluate for yourself whether you have what it takes to lead with true transformation. If you enjoy this conversation, be sure to return next week for part 2 of our interview with Paul Cline. You can register for our Basic Intensive Training in Choice Theory and Reality Therapy here, or if you'd rather get your questions answered, set up a Zoom meeting with Kim here.

    When Relationships End

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2025 22:49


    In this episode, Kim explores how to navigate the painful transition when an intimate relationship comes to an end. Whether it's due to divorce, distance, or a conscious decision, the loss can leave you wondering how to move forward. Kim breaks down Kübler-Ross's stages of grief—reminding us that the process is uniquely personal—and shares practical strategies to help you let go with grace, rediscover balance in your pain, and step confidently into the next chapter of your life.If you're ready to deepen your journey toward healing and growth, start by watching our Mental Freedom® Masterclass and then schedule your complimentary Mental Freedom Strategy session with Kim.

    Intimate Negotiations for the Win/Win/Win

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 24:28


    Join me in this engaging episode as I explore the art of negotiating in intimate relationships. Unlike typical negotiations focused on individual gain, true success in your most personal interactions requires a collaborative mindset—one where both partners embrace, “I want to win, and I want you to win too.” Discover how shifting your perspective, practicing empathy, and unleashing your creativity can lead to win/win/win outcomes that benefit you, your partner, and the strength of your relationship.Drawing from the insights in my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I share practical strategies for transforming conflicts into opportunities for growth and connection.Ready to experience true mental freedom? Watch our Masterclass and schedule your call with Kim to take the next step on your journey.

    The Alone Stage of the Relationship Cycle

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2025 19:07


    In this episode, we dive into the transformative "Alone Stage"—that often challenging period between relationships. Instead of rushing into a new romance, I explore how embracing solitude can help you heal, gain clarity, and learn invaluable lessons about what you truly want (and don't want) in love. Discover why this time of grieving and reflection might just be the secret ingredient to creating a happier, healthier relationship next time around. For more insights, check out my book, Secrets of Happy Couples.

    Decision-Making with Values, Beliefs, and Purpose part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 16:44


    In this episode, I continue my fascinating conversation with Alyssa Utecht, a transformational life coach and intuitive guide on a mission to help others find their voice, reclaim their space, and step fully into the life they love. Alyssa believes that healing our relationships—with food, finances, family, and ourselves—creates the foundation for living authentically and unapologetically, leading to more joy, ease, and abundance.We dive into the powerful tools Alyssa shares with her clients to help them move forward with confidence, as well as her take on "living in alignment"—what it really means and how she helps people recognize when they're on their true path.If you missed Part 1, you can catch up here. And don't forget to visit Alyssa's website to grab her free gift: "7 Simple Ways to Soothe Your System and Shift Your Mood."

    Decision-Making with Values, Beliefs, and Purpose

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2025 19:47


    In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Utecht, a transformational life coach and intuitive guide who empowers others to discover their voice and reclaim their rightful place in the world. Alyssa believes that healing our relationships—whether with food, finances, family, or ourselves—enables us to show up authentically and unapologetically, opening the door to greater joy, ease, and abundance.In Part 1 of our interview, we discuss the biggest obstacle people face when making decisions, practical strategies to overcome it, and how our past experiences and relationships shape the way we choose today.To learn more about Alyssa and download her gift, “7 Simple Ways to Soothe Your System and Shift Your Mood,” visit her website at https://www.alyssautecht.com. Scroll down to just above the testimonials and click the teal bar labeled “Download 7 Simple Ways.” Enjoy the episode!

    Uncovering Your "Why" with Dr. Gary Sanchez - part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2025 29:02


    In this episode, I wrap up my conversation with Dr. Gary Sanchez about his WHY.os system—an innovative tool to uncover your operating system: your why, what, and how. It has proven 100% accurate for me and for thousands of people Dr. Sanchez has worked with.In Part 2 of our interview, we dive into what might be even more powerful than your WHY alone, how to leverage your WHY.os personally and professionally, and whether it's better to build a team of like-minded people or those who complement your strengths. If you haven't already, be sure to check out Part 1 first.Dr. Sanchez is also offering listeners a 50% discount on his transformative WHY.os system, which includes a personalized marketing message to help your customers recognize exactly who you are. Listen until the end to grab your discount code and discover your why!If you're planning to write a book in 2025, join our monthly virtual Writers Group. And if you and your partner are looking to strengthen your bond this Valentine's Day, don't miss our Relationship Recharge Experience on Zoom, happening February 15, 2025. Enjoy the episode!

    Uncovering Your ‘Why' with Dr. Gary Sanchez

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2025 24:16


    In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Gary Sanchez—better known as Dr. Why—to explore the nine core “WHYs” and the revolutionary WHY operating system (WHY.os). Dr. Sanchez boldly claims he can help anyone find their “WHY” in just five minutes, and he once did exactly that in Florida with every audience member over a remarkable 14-hour span!Beyond revealing what truly drives us, Dr. Sanchez also guides people in creating a powerful personal brand that truly reflects their deepest motivations—something I can personally attest to as nothing short of miraculous. In this Part 1, we discuss the nine “WHYs,” how Dr. Sanchez discovered them, and why uncovering yours and helping others discover theirs is so crucial. Be sure to tune in next week for Part 2, where we dive even deeper into “Discovering Your Why.”You can find Dr. Gary Sanchez at whyinstitute.com.Additional ResourcesInterested in writing and publishing your book this year? Join our Writers Group.Looking to recharge your relationship around Valentine's Day? Join our Relationship Recharge Experience on February 15!

    Reentry+ part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2025 14:42


    In this final segment of our conversation with Tony Lamar2, we explore the transformative work of Reentry+ and its role in helping formerly incarcerated individuals reintegrate into society. Tony clarifies the distinction between justice-involved and justice-impacted individuals, explaining how Reentry+ provides critical support for both. We wrap up with Tony's powerful message of transformation and evolution for everyone touched by the justice system. You can hear Part 1 here. Be sure to register for Tony's Rezilience Builders Network event on March 4, 2025, at ReentryPlus to secure a free copy of their eBook, Rezilient Mind. Finally, you can register for the Relationship Recharge Zoom retreat here.

    ReEntry+ Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2024 17:36


    In this episode, I have the opportunity to interview my colleague and friend, Tony Lamar2. Tony is the Visionary Architect for Reintegration and Mental Freedom® who has overcome systemic barriers to inspire others to reclaim their strength and potential. With years of lived experience and professional leadership, Tony has shaped criminal justice reform in Georgia, influenced initiatives nationwide, and dedicated his life to helping those impacted by incarceration redefine reintegration. In part 1 of this episode, we discuss Tony's inspiration for creating ReEntry Plus, the difference between Reentry and Reintegration, and why reintegration is crucial to the initial reentry process. Tony also underscores the difference between a journey and becoming. Next week we'll conclude this topic by explaining how Mental Freedom is a cornerstone of Reentry Plus. Tony will share his ReZilient Builders Network and its role in supporting justice-involved and justice-impacted individuals. The interview will conclude with Tony's takeaway message. Finally, you can register for the Relationship Recharge Zoom retreat here.

    Mental Freedom at Work - Part 3

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 15:43


    In this episode, I talk about the only thing everyone has to do and how everything else is done because we want to, rewriting the painful stories we've fabricated in our heads, and how to turn the painful events in our lives into GLOW, the acronym for gifts, lessons, opportunities, and wisdom. These are tools to use throughout life to minimize the experience of pain. You may also want to listen to Part 1 and Part 2. Finally, you can register for the Relationship Recharge Retreat here.

    Mental Freedom at Work - part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2024 16:15


    In this episode of Mental Freedom at Work, you will hear the part of the webinar I did for the Southland Development Authority about using Mental Freedom at Work. This part takes a deep dive into the Unconditional Trust Challenge and your responsibility once you gain the clarity resulting from trusting people for the right thing. You will find Part 1 of Mental Freedom at Work here. Part 3 will be dropping on December 19.

    Mental Freedom at Work - part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2024 17:40


    In this episode, I talk about Mental Freedom, how it began and the first prinicple of Responsibility vs. Response-ability. I offered a webinar to the Southland Development Authority and this is the audio version of that broken up into three parts. This is part 1. If you like it, you can come back on Dec 12 and 19 for parts 2 and 3. If you want to learn more about taking a Mental Freedom Experience, you can learn more here. There is an advertisement at the end for our Writers Group if you are interested in writing your book in 2025. We have an intimate group of self-publishing writers who are discovering how to turn their manuscript into a book that sells.

    The Antiracist School Leader

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2024 39:22


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Daman Harris, author of The Antiracist School Leader, a guide for school and organizational leaders to develop cultural competence and responsiveness through practical, everyday actions. We explore Daman's inspiration for the book and the strategies he suggests for leaders who face resistance when introducing antiracist policies from staff, parents, or the wider community. Dr. Harris shares insights on fostering meaningful conversations about race and equity among educators, even those hesitant to engage.Throughout our discussion, Daman emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and provides guidance for leaders embarking on an antiracism journey. He explains the concept of homophily and its impact on diversity work, underscoring why understanding this dynamic is essential. Daman also discusses the value of continuous professional development in sustaining an antiracist school culture and shares advice for keeping staff motivated in this ongoing effort. For school leaders dedicated to integrating antiracist practices in their schools or districts, Daman's book is a must-read.To learn more, visit https://damanharris.com or reach out to Daman directly at daman@damanharris.com.

    Teacher Building Relationship, Compassion, and Accountability

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2024 25:54


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Coach Carlos Johnson, author of Power Engage, a transformative book that guides teachers on how to teach like a coach, blending compassion with accountability for their students. We discussed Carlos' unique definition of engagement, which he views as a deeper, more committed process than mere involvement. He also shared the inspiration behind his concept of "performance-based relationships" and his creation of the Future Man Success Prep course. Carlos explained how he helps teachers develop a "classroom coach" model, recognizing how coaches earn the admiration of their players through strong relationships and positive expectations. By adopting this coaching mindset, teachers can unlock greater potential in their students. Carlos also reflected on his time as a principal, where he achieved remarkable goals through a focus on compassion and accountability. We wrapped up with his advice to educators and school leaders looking to transform their school culture. To connect with Coach Carlos, visit his website: https://carlosjohnson.org.

    Creating Meant for More Classrooms with Angie Freese

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2024 32:28


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Angie Freese, author of Meant for More: Real Talk about Classrooms Built on Dignity, Authenticity, and Connection. Angie's passion for transforming education is undeniable, and her book offers a powerful roadmap for addressing educational inequity while fostering meaningful, relevant learning experiences. We dive into what inspired her to write Meant for More, explore the brave steps educators can take to create lasting change, and discuss how those outside the education system can support teachers while challenging faulty narratives. Angie also shares what "dignity" truly means in the context of her work. Whether you're an educator, leader, or someone invested in the future of education, this conversation is filled with actionable insights and hope. You can also join Angie's virtual book study on skillsforce.com. Connect with her on LinkedIn or follow her on Instagram. This is a must-listen for anyone passionate about creating classrooms where every student thrives!

    Family and Educator Together Teams

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2024 29:06


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Ari Gerzon-Kessler, whose passion lies in uniting teachers and students' families in a meaningful, collaborative way. It will be no surprise to Choice Theory advocates that he aguides schools to foster understanding by actively listening to what families want and need from educators and providing that support. His approach focuses on letting go of judgment and cultivating curiosity, ensuring both educators and families work together to benefit students. Ari's research-backed method has shown remarkable ripple effects, including reigniting teachers' passion for teaching and improving retention in schools that adopt these practices. His book, On the Same Team, is available on Amazon, and you can connect with Ari on LinkedIn or via email at arigerzon@gmail.com.

    Empathy, Equity, and Anti-racism in the Classroom

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2024 37:48


    In this episode, I'm thrilled to interview the authors of Little Learners, Big Hearts: A Teacher's Guide to Nurturing Empathy and Equity in Early Childhood—Christine Mason, PhD, Orinthia Harris, PhD, Randy Ross, and Jill Flanders. These remarkable women are leaders in their fields and together contribute to the Center for Educational Improvement (CEI), founded by Dr. Mason, with Jill Flanders serving as Executive Director. Their book equips teachers with tools to nurture empathy and equity in the classroom, emphasizing the importance of raising a new generation of anti-racist children to achieve true equity. If you're curious about your own implicit biases, explore Harvard's Implicit Bias Assessments. We all have biases—recognizing and reducing their impact is key to fostering change in ourselves and those around us.

    Gems with Genesis Amaris Kemp

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2024 23:27


    In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing a very pregnant Genesis Amaris Kemp. Genesis was someone working in the gas industry in corporate America, when she realized the industry wasn't holding up to the principles of DEIB. Yes, she was a woman of color in a predominantly white men's world and she had a seat at the table but she was the only one and she didn't feel like her contributions were taken very seriously. So what did she do? She wrote the book, Chocolate Drop in Corporate America, to call attention to the issue. Genesis is a deeply spiritual person who has suffered four major losses in the past four years, including a child. She shares how she is still smiling and how her faith helps her withstand those losses with selflessness rather than selfishness. Check out her Gems podcast and visit her website at https://genesisamariskemp.net. You can, of course, contact her there, but give her some time to respond because she is about to give birth to her second child any day now.

    Achieving Flow with Dr. Susan Jackson

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2024 26:20


    In this episode, I had the distinct pleasure to interview Dr. Susan Jackson, a close collaborator with Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, founder of the flow concept. With a PhD in Sport and Exercise Psychology, Sue has extensive experience in the sports, performance, and health industries. In this conversation, we talk about what flow is and why it's an important experience to understand. Sue covers the characteristics of being in flow and some things we can do to make flow more likely to occur for us in our lives and performance tasks. Sue has written the recently released Amazon #1 bestselling book, Experiencing Flow: Life Beyond Boredom and Anxiety, and shares her motivation for writing it and what you'll get when you read it. I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and know you will, too. If you'd like to learn more about Sue and her work or contact her for more information, you can do that here,

    Emotions in the Workplace

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2024 32:39


    In this episode, I had the joy of interviewing Kealah "Coach Kiki" Parkinson. Coach Kiki is a master at her craft of emotionally intelligent communications coaching. We talked about conquering one's fear, as Kealah went from being painfully shy to becoming a public speaker! We discussed developing your key mantra and your BMT Index, both trademarks held by Kealah. She defined what a communication coach is and what they do. We talked about the fight-or-flight response and how that affects communication. Kealah shared her favorite tools for processing feelings and distinguished between processing and managing feelings. The BMT Index stands for body, moods, and thoughts. Coach Kiki is also working on her pilot program called, "The Four Corners of Feelings" and she's looking for some people willing to go through her beta program to co-create with her what this program will look like. She knows how important emotions are in communications, both in one's personal and professional life. You can follow her on Substack at We Build Better Humans | Coach Kiki Kealah Parkinson | Substack, or visit her website to sign up for the Four Corners of Feelings pilot program, take her coaching eligibility quiz, or contact her about her expertise or services.

    Unconvention in Every Way

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2024 31:21


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Alison Schmidt, PhD, BCC. Among other things, Alison is the CEO of unconvention™, and a graduate of the Academy of Choice's Board Certified Coaching program. I recently became aware of Alison's rebrand to unconvention and wanted to have her on the show to talk about it. Alison most definitely has some interesting unconvention qualities. In this episode, we discuss how she decided on her rebranding, what unconvention means to her, her use of "un" words in coaching, my personal unwords, her podcast "unconversations," and how she works with her clients to help them discover what is unique about themselves, often the very things they have gotten criticized for in the past. Once discovered, a person learns to lean into those qualities and lives a life filled with passion, purpose, and authenticity. To contact her for more information or for coaching yourself, check out her website at unconventionllc.com info@unconventionllc.com.

    Bridging the Gap between Spirituality and Mental Health part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2024 23:22


    In this episode, I continue the conversation with Dr. Charles Dent about how mental health interventions can be tailored to resonate more deeply with Black men, considering the intersection of masculinity, cultural identity, and mental well-being. We discuss how to advocate for great access to culturally competent mental health services for Black men and what steps people can take to break down the barriers to seeking help. You can reach Dr. Dent through his website, Max Out Coaching for more information.

    Bridging the Gap between Spirituality and Mental Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2024 22:02


    In this 2-part episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Charles Dent, an educator, counselor, coach, and pastor. Charles utilizes Choice Theory and Reality Therapy in his work and has penned several books: When a Woman Gives Up Her Heart, 42 Days: Becoming a Powerful Person of Patience, How to Overcome the Predator of Your Faith, Date Rape at 11 AM Sunday, and 42 Habits of Successful Parents. Charles is a Black man living in the south committed to creating bridges between faith-based communities and mental health clinics to better serve the African American population who has been disenfranchised by the medical system. We discuss the unique mental health challenges Black men face and how systemic issues and economic disparities contribute to these challenge, how mental health professionals can better understand and address the culture stima surrounding mental health particularly among Black men and how the community, family, and faith can strengthen their support systems. You can reach Dr. Dent through his website, Max Out Coaching. Tune in next week for part 2.

    Human Design with Kate Varness

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2024 27:42


    In this episode, I was delighted to speak with Kate Varness, a Clarity Coach who helps women find their path through life's transitions. She does this with an astrological tool called Human Design. Learning your Human Design assists you to understand yourself better and figure out the best ways to respond during transitions based on your specific traits and strengths. It was fascinating to me, especially when Kate delved into an example of some work she did with a consultant who was struggling with overwhelm. Kate offers our listeners a free video called How to Find Your Way In. It's a 2-part method to identify where you are and where you're going. You'll also learn why it's so important to intentionally shift during life transitions, and how to prepare for your next adventure with confidence and support. You can reach Kate for more information at kate@katevarness.com.

    Mindful Self-Intelligence

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2024 31:08


    In this episode, I get to chat with Nichole Meade about her creation, Mindful Self-Intelligence. Nichole created her concepts from a variety of disciplines, including quantum physics, Shamanism, Buddhism, science, and mathematics, of all things. Nichole describes herself as a rainbow unicorn in a ones-and-zeroes world, which makes her a breath of fresh air for me. Listen in to discover Mindful Self-Intelligence and how to solve for the f(me) or the function of me. Nichole also shares her thoughts about discovering oneself so people can be the best and most aligned version of themselves for themselves, but also, for "all the things." She discusses finding ways that work for her that start as a way, become a transitional the way, on the way to simply being her way. This is not your regular conversion. If you want to take a dive into a converstion you probably won't have in your everyday life, have a listen. Should you want to reach out to Nichole to continue the conversation, the best way to do that is on LinkedIn.

    Couples and Mental Freedom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2024 25:18


    In this episode, I have the pleasure of talking with Dr. Kiley Callaway about his work with couples in his congregation. As a pastor with a degree in pastoral counseling, Kiley is a certified Mental Freedom practitioner who uses that and Choice Theory psychology with those who come to him for help. He shares how he does that, along with some successes his clients have achieved. We also talk about how both Choice Theory and Mental Freedom, while not associated with any religion, can be supported by biblical scriptures. Kiley's counseling license allows him to work across all states so if you are interested in pastoral counseling that is underpinned by Choice Theory and Mental Freedom, you can contact him through his website, Christian Counselor | Be Transformed Christian Counseling | Gering (betransformedcounseling.org).

    Proper Problem Assignment

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2024 20:29


    In this episode, Kim talks about the challenge experienced by couples when one person is upset about something the other person does. They miscategorize the problem as the other person's instead of their own. The problem lies with the person who is most upset by it. If you own the problem, then it's your responsibility to fix it. This puts you in the driver's seat. Otherwise, you are powerless to fix it while waiting for your partner to change. Additionally, Kim discusses not staying in relationships where you are not receiving even the bare minimum you want. More of Kim's views on couples can be found in her book, Secrets of Happy Couples.

    Couples Coaching with Elizabeth Overstreet

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2024 30:31


    In this episode, I was fortunate to be able to interview a colleague and fellow coach, Elizabeth Overstreet. Elizabeth functions primarily as a coach for couples. We had a great conversation talking about attachment styles and how they affect relationships, the evolution of relationships, and why we often resist healthy relationships. Listen to the end to hear two "secrets" Elizabeth shares that can enhance relationships. If you'd like to reach out to her, you will find her at her website: https://elizabethoverstreet.com. You can also read her book, Love Can Be Messy But You Don't Have to Be.

    Love Coach Atlanta

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2024 30:04


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Kelvin Troy Johnson, founder of Love Coach Atlanta and author of Secrets of the Mind of a Man. Given that much of my audience is female, I thought you might be interested in the information Kelvin shares. I noticed him on TicToc and liked what he was saying so I was honored when he was brave enough to say "yes" to being interviewed by a total stranger. The conversation was entirely fun and enjoyable for me. I found we agree on many things and just say it differently. What I particularly loved is that he isn't that dating coach out there trying to help men scam women into dating without commitment. Kelvin is the coach who works with women to understand what men want and how you can know, and benefit from, that yourself. Men are simple; men are visual. What they say is usually what they mean and they are attracted with their eyes first, and then their brain. Listento the end to hear the compettling offer he made for our audience members. Then, if you want to learn more from Kelvin, you can look him up at By Kelvin | Love Coach Atlanta, follow him on TicToc or order his book here.

    Taking Care of Your Past so You Can Be the Best Parent for Your Children

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2024 25:50


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Priyanka Venkataraman, who gave up a thriving OBGYN practice to be the best mom she could be for her son. She is not looking back! When Priyanka's wonderful nanny had to leave after 1.5 years, she realized something had to give and she knew she wanted to be there for her family. She spent a year working on herself with her own parenting coach before becoming a parenting coach herself. She specializes in working with busy, professional moms like herself who might be looking for some answers about navigating this things called parenting that no one is ever prepared for. You can find her at Wayfinding Moms, where she offers an initial 30-minute free session, to discover what she can offer you.

    Adjusting Great Expectations: Parent Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2024 32:49


    In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking a second time to the author of The Golden Ticket, Irena Smith. Irena was on the show last month to talk about her new book and I wanted her to return to talk about parenting, particularly parenting neurodiverse kids; she has three of them! We talk about the importance of realizing that going to an Ivy League School isn't what's best for everyone and isn't the "Golden Ticket" many parents have come to believe it is. She implores parents to think about the stress added to a child's life by their parents' unwaveringly high expectations for their child's academic achievements. There are other ways to have a great life other than attending a top-20 school. Irena also shares a major life change she made since the last time I interviewed her that has allowed her to live more authentically in alignment with her values. She is a serious writer, maintaining not one, but two, Substacks. You can check them out here: Personal Statements and The Golden Ticket (is not what you think). You can also have the opportunity to hear her speak about navigating the college entrance process with your child at her virtual August presentation through the Library Speakers Consortium. You will find the information you need, as well as being able to register, here.

    Many Ways to Form a Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2024 33:24


    In this episode, I had the opportunity and pleasure to interview two guests from last season, Amy Reid and Heather Harrison. Heather and Amy are a modern-day, queer couple attempting to navigate the nuances of life with four kids in a blended family, with other co-parents, thriving careers in college teaching, side hustles in coaching, and a burgeoning real estate investment portfolio. In this episode, we talk about how they navigate their high-paced life, while also discussing the beautiful gift of surrogacy they gave to a very good friend, that then, gave back to them, formed a community and added to the love that's in the world.

    Conscious Parenting

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2024 20:30


    In this episode, I was fortunate to interview Silva Badalian about Conscious Parenting, a parenting method developed by Dr. Shefali Tsabary and practiced and taught by Silva, a is a therapist and parenting coach I discovered on LinkedIn. I loved some of the nuggets Silva dropped: "parenting with connection before correction" and the difference between stone and sand boundaries in parenting. She has some great questions for parents, also, such as "Would you treat your best friend the way you treat your child?" and "Has your parenting been working to get the results you want?" Pure gold! Listen in and should you wish to contact Silva for more information, you cam visit her website at Counseling | Glendale, CA | My Inner Healing Therapy, email her at info@myinnerhealingtherapy.com or phone her at 818-748-9977.

    Parenting with Choice Theory

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2024 22:46


    In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jeannette Markle, a former prosecutor turned parenting coach, among other things. Jeannette talked with me about her vast experience with a Canadian organization called the Association of Parent Support Groups in Ontario (APSGO), of which she is currently the president. Jeannette first encountered APSGO as a desperate parent looking for some sort of solution to "fix" her child who was displaying some scary, problematic behaviors as a 13 year old. After trying the traditional routes, Jeannette found what she was looking for and more with APSGO. She got the help she needed to repair the relationship with her daughter and she actually found herself. That was more than two decades ago and now she is the president of that organization and serves as a parent coach there. If you are struggling with difficult behaviors with your child, you may also find just what you need at APSGO via Zoom. Check them out at https://apsgo.ca.

    Unfinished Business with Melanie Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2024 32:55


    In this episode, I have the distinct pleasure of interviewing Melanie Smith for the second time. Melanie has a book, Unfinished Business, that takes trauma--the big, the small and everything in between--and helps the reader do the work so they can first, figure out who they are and then second, become intentional about building the life they want to live. Listen for Melanie's mic drop statement starting at marker 29:48. It holds an important message for everyone. To work with Melanie, visit her website, https://workwithmelaniesmith.com. You can also connect with her on social media. You'll find her on Facebook as Melanie Smith and on Instagram, she's melaniesmithoffical. Melanie generously offers listeners her Unfinished Business worksheets, which you can get by clicking here.

    Choice Theory in Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2024 21:49


    In this episode, I had the great pleasure of interviewing Ben Eberhart, a man I met when he took Choice Theory training during the early stages of his recovery. Ben has moved on from the job he had when I met him to create a beautiful life for himself. He is a well-known local professional musician and family man. Ben is married with two young daughters at home and has found a career he truly loves as the Community Outreach for Arkview Recovery Center, a program he can really get behind. Join me to hear about this great place that helps people overcome their addiction and hear some of the wisdom Ben has accumulated over the years and how he credits AA, showing up, doing the work and Choice Theory as instrumental in his recovery. If you are struggling with an addiction or are a professional in the field who would like to check out Arkview, call 717-500-1111.

    Help for the Helpers

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2024 26:52


    In this episode, we delve into the crucial topic of supporting counselors and therapists in processing the challenging traumas they encounter while aiding clients. Individuals grappling with mental health issues, incarceration, or substance use disorders often carry significant trauma burdens. As professionals, we can't ignore the impact of absorbing our clients' experiences, potentially leading to vicarious trauma and its symptoms affecting us. It's imperative to prioritize our well-being by seeking support from supervisors, mentors, coaches, support groups, trusted friends or our own counselor. By having an effective debriefing strategy in place, we can safeguard against internalizing hopelessness and maintain our capacity to serve with empathy and resilience.

    Inside Out Job Men's Community

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2024 32:33


    In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing my friend, colleague and frequent guest of this podcast, Sylvester Baugh, about the men's group he has created. Following his life-saving kidney transplant, he says he felt called to create a safe space for men to be able to share and heal, and thus the Inside Out Job Community was born. Currently, he runs two groups--one that is in person with a group of unhoused individuals in the Chicago suburbs and the other that is virtual with ment from around the globe, who come together monthly to hear Sylvester's topic of the month and discuss the meaning for them. These groups are open to any male interested in joining but we discuss how a female's presence in the group would be detrimental to the purpose of creating a safe safe and helping men focus on internally looking at how they can improve themselves without adding the distraction of women in the group. By popular request, Sylvester is considering expanding what he offers by increasing the frequency and even adding a new group. If you are interested in either joining or learning more about this group, he can be reached at. baughtraining@onebox.com

    Diversity of Girls High School Wrestling

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2024 14:15


    In this episode, I get to interview a trailblazer in the sport of girls wrestling, my granddaughter, Saige Olver. According to the National Wrestling Hall of Fame, in 1990, there were 112 girls who participated in high school wrestling. Since then, the sport has grown exponentially. Last season, '22-'23, there were 49,127 girls wrestling in the sport. The '23-'24 season was the first sanctioned season for girls in the state of Pennsylvania where today's guest, my granddaughter Saige Olver, lives. She was not only on that team this year, but she was the team member that went the farthest in competition by winning district competition, winning regional competition, and earning 3rd place in the state competition. In this episode, we talk about what it means to her to wrestle, how she comes by it naturally, and what her ambitious goals are for the future.

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