Life = Choices; Choices = Life

In this episode, Kim talks about how to distinguish between a coach and counselors, teachers, mentors and consultants. She talks about things clients can do to protect themselves from unqualified coaches and the three things coaches need to do with their clients. Finally, she wraps up by discussing clients as Hope Warriors. If you are interested in hiring or becoming a coach, you can email Kim at kim@olverinternational.com or schedule a time to discuss what you want here.

In this episode, I interview Dr. Terry Lynch, author of Beyond Prozac, Selfhood and Depression Delusion. Dr. Lynch began his career as a medical doctor and later became a counselor/psychotherapist working with people who have psychiatric responses to their life events. Dr. Lynch talks about what each of his books mean to him, the idea of trauma in one's life and the illusion of chemical imbalances that psychiatry and Big Pharma say cause psychiatric illness. Dr. Lynch says this is a lie! I was enjoying our conversation so much and had other questions to ask him, that I decided to do a two-part podcast with him. If you like this podcast, be sure to tune in to next week's podcast for the answers to the questions posed at the end of this show. To reach Dr. Lynch, you may email him at terry@doctorterrylynch.com.

In this episode, I continue my interview Dr. Terry Lynch, author of Beyond Prozac, Selfhood and Depression Delusion. Dr. Lynch began his career as a medical doctor and later became a counselor/psychotherapist working with people who have psychiatric responses to their life events. Dr. Lynch and I talk about the role of trauma in mental health challenges and why psychiatry doesn't want to acknowledge it. We also look at so-called "mental illnesses" as coping skills or responses to whatever they have encountered in their life. Those coping skills should be validated and valued, rather than be called disorders. If you missed last week's podcast, be sure to go back and listen. It's gold. If you are a therapist interested in Dr. Lynch's work, you can see the online courses he's developed at www.doctorterrylynch.com and if you'd like to contact him, he can be reached at terry@doctorterrylynch.com.

In this episode, I interview Dr. Evisha Ford, a colleague and fellow member of the Professional Women's Network in Chicago's south suburbs. Evisha has an inspiring story of seeing the need for special education for high school students and her school district decided it wasn't the right time for the program she developed. That didn't stop Dr. Evisha! She left her job and started her own non-profit to provide the desperately needed services to approximately 100 students a year. Their educational center is much more than just education, though. It's called, I Can Dream Center, and she screens her new hires for their capacity for compassion. Dr. Evisha is a magnanimous leader, who inspires those around to dream through her vision of hope. Her new book, Benches in the Bathroom, is available to preorder. To get involved with the I Can Dream Center, go to https://icandreamcenter.com or to contact Dr. Evisha Ford, go to https://drevisha.com.

In this episode, I interview therapist and partner in Citron Hennessey Therapy, Leonard Citron. I met Leonard after he had received his certification in Choice Theory and Reality Therapy and instantly knew he had a lot to offer. Leonard is from Ireland and has made a life for himself in New York City as an adjunct professor at NYU, a fellow at The Albert Ellis Institute and a partner in a therapy practice employing approximately 35 therapists in the greater NYC area. In this conversation, we talk about why he offers Choice Theory training to all his therapists and the benefits they derive from that. Should you want to take advantage of their Mindfulness Group offering, write to info@privatetherapy.comfor details. If you'd like to contact Leonard directly, he can be reached at Leonard@privatetherapy.com.

In this episode, I interview Nkechi Oyegwe, the Parenting Coach from Nigeria. I had read a social media post she wrote on Instagram that I agreed with 100% and decided I wanted my audience to hear from her. We talk about discipline, parental attention and being your child's buddy. Nkechi's insights are insightful and line up with parenting from a Choice Theory perspective, even though she is unfamiliar with Glasser's work. She taught me something that I hadn't considered before and I just love when that happens. Listen in to learn what that is. Her parenting page is Nkechi Oyegwe Parenting Coach on Instagram and FaceBook and should you want to contact her, her email is nkechioye9@gmail.com.

In this episode, I interview author and college admission consultant, Irena Smith about helping parents and students complete their college admissions process but she also shares her chasm between her personal and professional life and the profound lessons she learned that helped her in both places. Her biggest advice to parents is to listen to your children and meet them where they are, rather than where you'd hope they'd be. If you'd like to talk with Irena about her book, The Golden Ticket: A Life in College Admissions Essays, check out her website at www.irenasmith.com. To hire her to help with your child's college admission process, check out Irena and the team at www.sierraadmissions.com.

In this episode, I interview Shaker Fajer Al-Khalifa about how learning Choice Theory changed her life. We talked about what she learned, how it affected her adult relationships and how it changed the way she parented. She also shares a beautiful, miraculous moment in her work with people who have Downs Syndrome. She is about to teach the very first Choice Theory basic intensive training in Bahrain in November or December. If you would like to contact her, you can direct message her on her Instagram profile at Fajer bint Ali Al-Khalifa (@fajer_al_khalifa) | Instagram or contact her through WhatsApp at +973-38219556.

In today's episode, I interview Dr. Deb Gilman, a psychologist who works with parents and children throughout the collaborative divorce process. Dr. Gilman describes an alternative to ugly court battles where couples communicate their own needs, while considering the needs of their children during the divorce process. We discuss the difference between a child specialist and a parent evaluation and the role of conflict resolution in the process. Dr. Deb also recounts the many benefits of the collaborative process. Dr. Gilman describes this rewarding work and offers anyone interested in becoming a collaborative divorce specialist can email her at deb@drdebgilman.com or contact her through her LinkedIn profile.

In this session, I had the pleasure of interviewing Mama Mindy Green, a delightful mother of four, who is currently a Parenting Coach. She not only raised four children but she also homeschooled all but one from Kindergarten to 12th grade! Her oldest daughter wanted to graduate from the public school so she attended her junior and senior years there. Mindy has a special parenting program that assists parents and children alike to learn their DiSC profiles, which provides them with insights about their personalities, where there may be conflict and what to do about it. Mindy is neuro-trained, which helps her explain to parents realistic developmental expectations. She is offering any listener of this podcast 10% off her parenting program. You just set up a complimentary consultation with her to see if you will be a good match and let her know you heard her on this podcast and she will give you 10% off her parenting blueprint program. If you want to check out her website, it's https://mindygreencoafching.com and you can email her at mindy@mindygreencoaching.com.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Jarie Bolander, a man who has experienced loving his wife through leukemia and her eventual death. Those of you who know my story, know this is quite similar to my own story. We talk about how things are different for men and how important it was for Jarie and his beloved to Ride or Die till the end. Jarie also battled his dependence on alcohol and talks about finding love again. All of this you will find in his memoir titled, Ride or Die: Love through Tragedy. You will find love, loss, resilience and more love in this podcast. Look for his book due to be released on September 3 but it's currently available for preorder on Amazon. Jarie's website is https://jariebolander.com and you can also find him on Twitter and Facebook.

In this episode, I had the pleasure to speak to a great friend of mine, best orator I know and excellent coach and counselor, Marcus "Dr. Respect" Gentry, about the questions he likes to ask couples when they come to him for his sage advice. We discussed three critical elements to a successful relationship, Marcus' advice for couples considering marriage, a big challenge for today's couples and how to make one's relationship stronger and more successful. If you would like to learn more about Marcus and his music and message, please visit his website at https://marcusgentry.com and you may contact him by email at respect@marcusgentry.com.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Carolina Perez Sans, a co-active coach who works with couples and business leaders on the same types of skills, mainly communication and negotiation. I have known other co-active coaches but never really knew what co-active coaching is. Carolina explains the meaning of co-active coaching and what it means in relationship coaching. We discuss the overlap between couples and team leaders and the skills it takes to work with both. Carolina reveals the number one rule for relationships and how to make sure you are a good partner in your relationship.Carolina offers a free sample session for teams, couples, or individuals. https://co-luminacoaching-booking.as.me/BKTconvo and 15% off any package to the listeners of this podcast. Email: carolina@co-luminacoaching.com for leaders and teams; info@couplescoach.info for couples.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Sarah Swenson, a psychotherapist in Seattle, WA who specializes in working with neurodiverse couples. She defines this as working with couples where one person is neurotypical and the other has autism. Sarah shares the specific challenges neurodiverse couples face that are different from other couples, as well as the goals for therapy and the skills and strategies they need to learn to make their relationships work. To reach her for more information or to take one of her online courses, you can find her here: wwww.theneurodiversecouple.com.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Lyndsay Dowd, a Top 10 Coach featured on Apple news, with a top 10% globally ranked podcast. Lyndsay and I covered a lot of ground in this podcast. We talked about soft skills and why they are so critical to a leader's and company's success. Lyndsay advocated for why leaders should make healthy culture a part of their strategy. She shared the things that contribute to poor culture, as well as what leaders can do to start building trust with their team. To round it all out, Lyndsay discussed the importance of personal branding and letting customers know what you stand for.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jaime Butler, a coach and consultant who says she does consultative coaching. We talked about that, brand and thought leadership, women in business, and the challenges and opportunities that grew out of Covid. Jaime discusses why working with a coach can really benefit C-suite executive and entrepreneurs. She also shares how she pivoted to help corporate leaders build their personal brand and some personal choices that positively impacted her career and personal life. Jaime offers a one-hour complimentary coaching session by contacting her on LinkedIn here: (9) Jaime Butler | LinkedIn.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Katherine Lazaruk, a professional presence expert, who helps women in leadership accelerate their progress. We discuss the value of her work to the people she serves. Katherine talks about the new paradigm for leadership, the way it is shifting and what that means for people who want it to stay the way it used to be. We talked about the system and whose responsibility it is to change it. (Hint: it's everyone's.) She talks about executive presence and why it's "dead." Katherine rounds out the interview with a preview of what's next for her personally and professionally. Connect with Katherine on LinkedIn at (17) Katherine Lazaruk, AICI CIP, PCC | LinkedIn and get on her newsletter to hear the news about her forthcoming book or register for her upcoming micro learning webinars at lazarukconsulting.com.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing a productivity expert, Leslie Shreve, on how to have a productive day. Leslie talks about the consequences when people, especially leaders, aren't having a productive day and time is lost. She even talks about how poor productivity steals a person's mental freedom and how to gain it back. She names the number one tool for increasing productivity (Hint: It isn't Google). Finally, we wrapped up with three of the biggest myths about productivity. Leslie's Productive Day website features a quiz on your own personal #1 blindspot when it comes to productivity and offers some ideas for what to do about it. I learned I am a Giver (no big surprise there) but she also provides further insight into the blindspot, how it robs me of time and how to address it. I learned quite a bit from this guest and I bet you can, too! If you would like to contact Leslie for more information or to take her program, you can reach her at leslie@productiveday.com.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing an Academy of Choice graduate, Patrick Jinks, about his brand of leadership coaching. Patrick worked in the non-profit world for over two decades before parlaying his success into coaching other not-for-profits leaders. He has an impressive resumé, including a Ph.D. in Organizational Leadership, board-certification as an executive leadership coach, being recently recognized globally as one of the 10 Most Influential People in Leadership Coaching for 2022 by CIO Views Magazine, serving as a guest writer for Forbes.com, a multi-best-selling author and recognition as a two-time award winner through the Association for Talent Development. We talked about the process of coaching with a non-profit and leadership frame, rather than a corporate and business frame. Patrick says, "Coaching is coaching." The process doesn't really change, even though the environment may be different. Patrick shared his company's definition of leadership and his fidelity to the coaching process, rather than crossing over into the consulting arena. He dropped many pearls of wisdom, and this topped the list for me: "Every aspect of leadership, if it's done effectively, is through the lens of relationship." Finally, Patrick talks about the importance of coaches having a coach themselves. Check out this interview with an impressive leadership coach.

In this episode, I had the honor to interview a high school friend and author of From Within: My Path of Hope and Healing from Sexual Abuse. One in three girls and one in six boys will be sexually abused by the time they reach 18 years of age. Gigi Kilroe not only survived repressed sexual trauma from a very early age, she experienced dating violence, rape in college and another rape in her early 20s. How does one survive that, let alone come out the other side in a triumph position. Listen to this podcast to find out how Gigi went from abuse to a suicide attempt and more ideation to writing a book and being on the speaking circuit to help other survivors learn to find that light within and shine it brightly like she has learned to do. You can find Gigi at www.gigikilroe.com or connect with her on her on FaceBook as Gigi Kilroe.

In this episode, I had the distinct pleasure of interviewing Jonathan Robinson, the New York Times bestselling author of The Enlightenment Project and co-host of the popular podcast Awareness Explorers. This man has made a career out of befriending some of the greatest spiritual leaders of our time. From Oprah to Advashanti, he has interviewed over 100 notable people to get their take on how to live a happy, peaceful and meaningful life. He has learned from the Dalai Lama, Byron Katie, Deepak Chopra, Mother Teresa and Ram Dass. He shares some of what he learned in this episode, while saving a lot of what is in his book for you to read for more details. It is amazing when he discloses that he was a suicidal teenager. Look at him now! Dr. Robinson trains therapists in MDMA Treatment. You can learn more at www.mdmatraining.net. You'll find his podcast, where he interviews other gurus at www.awareness explorers.com. You can find his book, The Enlightenment Project on Amazon or his website, www.theenlightenmentproject.net. To reach Jonathan for more information, please use the contact form on either of the two last mentioned websites.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing my friend and fellow Yellow Ribbon speaker, Sporty King. Sporty and I have been working together since 2011 and enjoying every minute of it. He shares an acronym that Sporty calls an "act-ronym" for the word Life, that begins the title of my podcast. We spent the majority of the time talking about how important listening is to relationships. I have been known to call it listening for understanding, while Sporty calls it listening for the period. He also speaks of an internal conflict he had working for the military without ever serving in the Armed Forces and how he resolved that conflict. Finally, Sporty shares a choice he made that had a significant, positive impact on his life. If you'd like to reach out to Sporty, you can do so through his website at www.SportyKing.com.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing author, Beth Romero about her upcoming book, Happy AF. In 2020, Beth had what she describes as the perfect storm, with a multitude of events culminating in the loss of any happiness she had. Being a naturally happy person before these events, Beth went on a search to discover how to get that happiness back. It was a long-fought road. She tried tons of recommendations, some that worked really well, some with average results and some that just didn't work for her. She has put it all together in her book and shares some of it with the audience. One of the quotes I loved was, "Your life shouldn't be defined by your fall; it should be defined by your bounce back." I love that! For more information or to order the book when it publishes on November 14, visit https://bethromeroauthor.com.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Gwendolyn Tucker, a coach working in the area of DEI, specifically in the specialization of helping women get paid equitably for the work they do. Did you know women earn 82 cents to a man's dollar, on average, in the United States, and for women of color, it's even less? Because of the individual differences about money, Gwendolyn prefers working with women in one-on-one coaching sessions to address the specific areas they need to close the gap between what they are getting paid and what they are worth, and then coach them to develop the skills they need to scale their pay. Tune in to her podcast "Zap the Gender Pay Gap" and if you'd like to reach out, you will find her at gwendolynjtucker.com or on LinkedIn.Note: Incorrect statistics stated in episode. The Gender Pay Gap is 18% and the Female/Male Earnings Ratio is 82%

In this episode, I interview Ralph Brandt, who has built a highly successful business around the topic of DEI. The RDR Group specializes in helping people communicate in a meaningful way, naturally forming connections and fostering inclusiveness organically. Ralph begins by talking about how long he's been in the DEI space and how much it's changed, and stayed the same, over those years. He shares how RDR Group does DEI differently than most and includes some success stories. He makes a strong business case for inclusion and why diversity should not be politicized. The need is for cool heads to prevail and for people to understand that difference enhances business outcomes, which he backs up with some impressive statistics. He rounds out our conversation by sharing an impactful choice he made that changed his life. You can contact Ralph at ralph.brandt@rdrgroup.com or check out their website.

In this episode, I interview my friend and colleague, Gloria Cissé. Gloria is a faculty member of William Glasser International and the co-owner, founder, CEO and Lead Therapist at the Southern Center for Choice Theory, LLC in Macon, Georgia. Gloria has been successfully hosting the Difficult Discussions in Diversity for the Glasser Institute for Choice Theory - US. In this episode we talk about why DEI is such an important topic for discussion, even after all these years, and how to make these conversations more palatable. She talks about how embracing difference has improved the quality of her life, and how it can for others, too. She, like me, believes having an understanding of Choice Theory aids the curiosity, understanding and appreciation of difference. She also shares two important choices she made that positively impacted her life.

In this episode, I had the honor of interviewing Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold, a wonderful gift in the field of DEIB. We discussed what being an ally really means, what the journey looks like for white people grappling with topics of diversity, how to care for oneself while doing this work and strategies for dealing with people and organizations that are resistors to the DEIB message. Shaunna also shared an important choice she made that had a significant positive impact on her life. Check out her website here: Home | Gold Enterprises, LLC (goldenterprisesllc.com). You can contact her via email at info@goldenterprisesllc.com or through LinkedIn or Instagram by searching for Gold Enterprises LLC or Shaunna Payne Gold. Watch for her new podcast, Unphased Unedited to be released on November 14, 2023. It will be sure to have some excellent content.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with a returning guest, Dr. Don Parker. Don is the real deal who has paid his dues in the trenches. He started working in the school system as a PE teacher and coach, then became the Dean of Students, and later became a principal and is now on the speaking circuit to help educators understand the importance of building relationships with students and how to develop cultures of inclusiveness and equity. In fact, he's written two books to about those subjects: Building Bridges and Be the Driving Force. You can visit his website at NOW BOOKING » Dr. Don Parker (drdonparker.com) and follow him on Facebook and X.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Patricia Robey, Full Professor in Psychology and Counseling at Governors State University in Illinois. In this conversation Dr. Robey talks about the values, beliefs and practices she considers as she plans for a new academic year. She discusses how she fosters an interest in learning for her students who may be resistant to taking certain required courses. She also shares her process for working with students who may be struggling academically. Pat shares her joy of being back in the classroom again and a choice she made that had a significant positive impact on her life. If you would like to reach out to Dr. Robey, you may do so through me at kim@olverinterntional.com.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing my friend and colleague, Dr. Ed Dunkelblau, who is the International Coordinator for the Academy for SEL in schools to discuss social & emotional learning. I was, of course, previously aware of EQ, or emotional quotient, but wasn't up-to-date with SEL and Ed brought the receipts. We talked about what SEL is, the skills that comprise it and the benefits of implementing it in schools. Ed had a great response to the question, "When should we be teaching kids SEL skills in school?" and he said, "When their parents are in kindergarten." The benefits of SEL are astounding and everything educators and parents would want. In addition, research shows greater SEL skills lead to better academic grades. It's not an extra, fluffy thing; SEL actually is something that enhances learning. Ed also shared the choice he made to get involved with aath.org as a significantly positive choice he made. He found his home at the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor. To reach him for more information, email ed@teacheq.com. If you are interested in certification in SEL, there are two online certification course series at Rutgers University that lead to certification. There are two strands, one for educators to learn SEL in the classroom and the other for administrators to apply SEL in their school setting. You will find both programs here.

In this episode, I got to interview the newly retired, Steve Hammond, about the passion that's driving him these days. Steve has created a program he calls, Intentional Total Formation. Students are trusted with their own learning and are given weekly precepts to ponder with the ultimate goal being a student who truly knows themself when they are leaving the school at graduation. Steve also shared a choice he regrets that changed his behavior forever. If you would like to contact Steve, he can be reached through email at claritycom100@gmail.com or by phone at 757-374-9548.

In this episode I interview Heather Harrison and Amy Reid, both of whom are internal control psychology teachers, coaches and college professors helping students navigate the stressful world of adulting while attending and studying for classes. We talk about the connection between coaches and educators, stress on students, and how they incorporate wellness activities into their respective classes. To learn more, visit their website at shiftone.ca.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing some coaches and counselors, who have been certified in Mental Freedom® and used it with clients in the research phase and continue to use it in their practices now. They share how powerful Mental Freedom was for themselves and for their clients. It speaks to the power of these ideas and their ability to impact people, no matter the challenge they are experiencing. Mental Freedom is more a tool of resilience and strength to grow people to be bigger than anything that has happened, or ever will happen, to them. If you are interested in exploring Mental Freedom yourself, it begins with watching our complimentary Mental Freedom Masterclass.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing my friend and colleague, Sylvester Baugh. Sylvester has been using Mental Freedom in his life since 2020 and he talked with me about its effectiveness, not only in his own life personally, but also with his clients. If you would like to reach out to him for more information or to join his men's group on Mental Freedom, his virtual group on Mental Freedom or for coaching in general, you may email him at sylbaugh@gmail.com or baughtraining@onebox.com.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing a friend and colleague, Rachel McElroy. When I first met Rachel, she was the Director of Special Ed services in the largest school district in the state of Virginia. She is currently working in the private sector as she transitions into the field of coaching and consulting. She is a strong, confident professional woman, who speaks about how learning the Mental Freedom principles helped her personally, as well as with clients she is working with.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing a friend and colleague, Dr. Ruby Powell. Dr. Powell is both a counselor and coach, who is certified in Mental Freedom. She has found Mental Freedom to be extremely helpful with both sets of clients, but particularly with counseling clients. She talks about how Mental Freedom helped her work through some things she had not yet tackled. You can check her out at her website, www.rubyepowell.com, where she works with her clients or explore her not-for-profit, www.oasisempowermentzone.com, where she provides single mothers encouragement and life coaching. This woman is a true powerhouse.

In this episode, Teresa Greco and I interview each other about our collective experiences with Mental Freedom principles and tools. Teresa is one of our Mental Freedom practitioners who helps us with our research in 2023 so she shared some of that, as well as how it helped one of her specific clients and what she loves about The Mental Freedom experience. I talk about some of the benefits of Mental Freedom, its history and our hopes for the future. This is part one of the interview. If you are interested in reading a complimentary chapter of Mental Freedom in advance of its publication in June, you can download that here.

In this episode, Teresa Greco and I interview each other about our collective experiences with Mental Freedom principles and tools. Teresa is one of our Mental Freedom practitioners who shared how Mental Freedom helped one of her specific clients and what she loves about The Mental Freedom Experience. I talk about some of the benefits of Mental Freedom, its history and our hopes for the future. This is part two of the interview. If you are interested in reading a complimentary chapter of Mental Freedom in advance of its publication in July, you can download that here. For your own Mental Freedom Experience, sign up for our Masterclass.

In this episode, I get to interview a school administrator, Lois D'Silva-Knapton, about her experience with Mental Freedom. We talk about her own personal Mental Freedom Experience and the way she is using it with people at work and others in her life. I am always surprised by its wide applicability.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing another of our aspiring Mental Freedom practitioners, Mary Rothwell. We discuss her experiences with her own Mental Freedom Experience, as well as the exciting things that are happening with the people she is facilitating through their own Mental Freedom Experience. I just love talking about Mental Freedom and if you, or anyone you know, is interested in having your own Mental Freedom Experience, the first step is to take our complimentary Mental Freedom Masterclass.

In this episode, I interview one of our soon-to-be Mental Freedom certified coach, Dr. Tina Lee Odinsky-Zec. Tina is a skilled learning & development expert with 20 years experience. She has a stellar track record coaching entrepreneurs, corporate leaders and social impact project managers. She is passionate about creativity, design thinking and discovering others' hidden potential. We spoke about Tina's personal and professional experience with Mental Freedom. She talked about the impact it had on her when she was going through a critical time and how she used it with others. She speaks of the future she sees for Mental Freedom, really helping people navigate the post-Covid world.

In this episode, I interview a fantastic coach and leader, Marcie Stern. We discuss leadership trends and current challenges, as well as Marcie's biggest leadership lesson, which came from a personal experience. Listen to learn more. You can reach Marcie through her website for further information and her book, So Long Inner Critic, Hello Inner Champion: 25 Tips to Master Your Mindset, is available on Amazon.--

In today's episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing coach, Mary Meduna-Gross. Mary and I have reconnected after meeting several years ago through a mutual Choice Theory enthusiast. It was such a joy to talk to Mary again after all these years and find out we have so much in common. As I launch Mental Freedom, Mary is also launching a program of her own dedicated, not only to walk along her clients, but to actually teach them the skills they need to lead themselves, and then by extension, develop the skills necessary to lead others. Not a fan of the command-and-control brand of leadership, Mary offers a softer, more effective, leadership style. You can discover more about Mary on her website, Plena Vita |, particularly at her blog. She also hosts a podcast where she interviews other leaders at her Fully Alive podcast, which can be found wherever you listen to your podcasts.

Effective leaders know how to build relational influence with their direct reports. As John Maxwell states, "Leadership is not about titles, positions or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another." As a leader, you are trying to influence your people to buy into your, or your company's, agenda and vision. From my experience, I understand that relationships are the root of all influence. Therefore, having the ability to influence your people will be directly proportional to the strength of the relationships you form with the people you work with. I have created a checklist to help you evaluate how you are doing with each individual employee. It begins with creating a need-satisfying environment for yourself and your people. Next, is taking the time to explain the usefulness of what you want your people to do. And finally, you ask your employees to evaluate their own work, after you help them develop a successful structure for doing sot. You can download the checklist here: https://olverinternational.com/leadership

In this episode, I interview Judy Whalen, an entrepreneur who has been working with leaders of healthcare and educational organizations, service businesses, foundations, government agencies, manufacturing companies, chambers of commerce, entrepreneurs and solopreneurs since 1992. She helps leaders manage strategic change by clarifying their vision and their values. Judy defines mindset, and more specifically, the entrepreneurial mindset, and distinguishes between fixed and growth mindsets. Find out which one is more amenable to entrepreneurial pursuits. Judy was also generous enough to gift you, the listeners, a complimentary download of her eBook, The Big List of Core Values. You can email her at judy@centerforstrategicchange.com, for more information.

We spoke of intersectionality, how sexual orientation is not a choice and at what age many people know they are gay, and TRUTH. Nona Lee is an openly gay, Black female, who worked many years in men's sports as an attorney for the Phoenix Suns and the Arizona DiamondBacks. But she left that work behind when she discovered her true passion. She knew watching younger people putting their lives on the line protesting for racial equity, that she had to do everything she could to support them, so she started her speaking and consulting business, Truth DEI. Truth is important because Lee preaches that everyone needs to be authentic and be in environments that prioritize people's open expressions of who they are. Listen in to how she also uses TRUTH as an acronym for the framework she teaches. She also shares about some experiential, life-changing Truth Retreats she does in Montgomery and Selma, Alabama. Watch for her forthcoming book, The Truth about Us, to be released later in the year. Should you want to reach out for more information or to hire Nona, you can do so at info@truthdei.com.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Lacey Glueckert about her experiences in working in her local jail with people experiencing the intersectionality of incarceration, substance use disorders and often, homelessness. It is definitely a population without a lot of support and encouragement, something Lacey provides whenever she can. She is now part of the sheriff's budget rather than having her work funded through a grant. She exposes people to Choice Theory psychology and helps them make better choices that more effectively meet their needs. She would like to be able to train the correctional officers at the jail in Choice Theory, as well, so the jail could become an internal, rather than an external control environment. If you would like to contact Lacey, please use the contact form on her website at Home (choicerecoverycounseling.com). Please note that the sound on this podcast is not the best, but the content is great, particularly if you work in the correctional system.

In this episode, I get to interview a trailblazer in the sport of girls wrestling, my granddaughter, Saige Olver. According to the National Wrestling Hall of Fame, in 1990, there were 112 girls who participated in high school wrestling. Since then, the sport has grown exponentially. Last season, '22-'23, there were 49,127 girls wrestling in the sport. The '23-'24 season was the first sanctioned season for girls in the state of Pennsylvania where today's guest, my granddaughter Saige Olver, lives. She was not only on that team this year, but she was the team member that went the farthest in competition by winning district competition, winning regional competition, and earning 3rd place in the state competition. In this episode, we talk about what it means to her to wrestle, how she comes by it naturally, and what her ambitious goals are for the future.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing my friend, colleague and frequent guest of this podcast, Sylvester Baugh, about the men's group he has created. Following his life-saving kidney transplant, he says he felt called to create a safe space for men to be able to share and heal, and thus the Inside Out Job Community was born. Currently, he runs two groups--one that is in person with a group of unhoused individuals in the Chicago suburbs and the other that is virtual with ment from around the globe, who come together monthly to hear Sylvester's topic of the month and discuss the meaning for them. These groups are open to any male interested in joining but we discuss how a female's presence in the group would be detrimental to the purpose of creating a safe safe and helping men focus on internally looking at how they can improve themselves without adding the distraction of women in the group. By popular request, Sylvester is considering expanding what he offers by increasing the frequency and even adding a new group. If you are interested in either joining or learning more about this group, he can be reached at. baughtraining@onebox.com

In this episode, we delve into the crucial topic of supporting counselors and therapists in processing the challenging traumas they encounter while aiding clients. Individuals grappling with mental health issues, incarceration, or substance use disorders often carry significant trauma burdens. As professionals, we can't ignore the impact of absorbing our clients' experiences, potentially leading to vicarious trauma and its symptoms affecting us. It's imperative to prioritize our well-being by seeking support from supervisors, mentors, coaches, support groups, trusted friends or our own counselor. By having an effective debriefing strategy in place, we can safeguard against internalizing hopelessness and maintain our capacity to serve with empathy and resilience.

In this episode, I had the great pleasure of interviewing Ben Eberhart, a man I met when he took Choice Theory training during the early stages of his recovery. Ben has moved on from the job he had when I met him to create a beautiful life for himself. He is a well-known local professional musician and family man. Ben is married with two young daughters at home and has found a career he truly loves as the Community Outreach for Arkview Recovery Center, a program he can really get behind. Join me to hear about this great place that helps people overcome their addiction and hear some of the wisdom Ben has accumulated over the years and how he credits AA, showing up, doing the work and Choice Theory as instrumental in his recovery. If you are struggling with an addiction or are a professional in the field who would like to check out Arkview, call 717-500-1111.

In this episode, I have the distinct pleasure of interviewing Melanie Smith for the second time. Melanie has a book, Unfinished Business, that takes trauma--the big, the small and everything in between--and helps the reader do the work so they can first, figure out who they are and then second, become intentional about building the life they want to live. Listen for Melanie's mic drop statement starting at marker 29:48. It holds an important message for everyone. To work with Melanie, visit her website, https://workwithmelaniesmith.com. You can also connect with her on social media. You'll find her on Facebook as Melanie Smith and on Instagram, she's melaniesmithoffical. Melanie generously offers listeners her Unfinished Business worksheets, which you can get by clicking here.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jeannette Markle, a former prosecutor turned parenting coach, among other things. Jeannette talked with me about her vast experience with a Canadian organization called the Association of Parent Support Groups in Ontario (APSGO), of which she is currently the president. Jeannette first encountered APSGO as a desperate parent looking for some sort of solution to "fix" her child who was displaying some scary, problematic behaviors as a 13 year old. After trying the traditional routes, Jeannette found what she was looking for and more with APSGO. She got the help she needed to repair the relationship with her daughter and she actually found herself. That was more than two decades ago and now she is the president of that organization and serves as a parent coach there. If you are struggling with difficult behaviors with your child, you may also find just what you need at APSGO via Zoom. Check them out at https://apsgo.ca.

In this episode, I was fortunate to interview Silva Badalian about Conscious Parenting, a parenting method developed by Dr. Shefali Tsabary and practiced and taught by Silva, a is a therapist and parenting coach I discovered on LinkedIn. I loved some of the nuggets Silva dropped: "parenting with connection before correction" and the difference between stone and sand boundaries in parenting. She has some great questions for parents, also, such as "Would you treat your best friend the way you treat your child?" and "Has your parenting been working to get the results you want?" Pure gold! Listen in and should you wish to contact Silva for more information, you cam visit her website at Counseling | Glendale, CA | My Inner Healing Therapy, email her at info@myinnerhealingtherapy.com or phone her at 818-748-9977.

In this episode, I had the opportunity and pleasure to interview two guests from last season, Amy Reid and Heather Harrison. Heather and Amy are a modern-day, queer couple attempting to navigate the nuances of life with four kids in a blended family, with other co-parents, thriving careers in college teaching, side hustles in coaching, and a burgeoning real estate investment portfolio. In this episode, we talk about how they navigate their high-paced life, while also discussing the beautiful gift of surrogacy they gave to a very good friend, that then, gave back to them, formed a community and added to the love that's in the world.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking a second time to the author of The Golden Ticket, Irena Smith. Irena was on the show last month to talk about her new book and I wanted her to return to talk about parenting, particularly parenting neurodiverse kids; she has three of them! We talk about the importance of realizing that going to an Ivy League School isn't what's best for everyone and isn't the "Golden Ticket" many parents have come to believe it is. She implores parents to think about the stress added to a child's life by their parents' unwaveringly high expectations for their child's academic achievements. There are other ways to have a great life other than attending a top-20 school. Irena also shares a major life change she made since the last time I interviewed her that has allowed her to live more authentically in alignment with her values. She is a serious writer, maintaining not one, but two, Substacks. You can check them out here: Personal Statements and The Golden Ticket (is not what you think). You can also have the opportunity to hear her speak about navigating the college entrance process with your child at her virtual August presentation through the Library Speakers Consortium. You will find the information you need, as well as being able to register, here.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Priyanka Venkataraman, who gave up a thriving OBGYN practice to be the best mom she could be for her son. She is not looking back! When Priyanka's wonderful nanny had to leave after 1.5 years, she realized something had to give and she knew she wanted to be there for her family. She spent a year working on herself with her own parenting coach before becoming a parenting coach herself. She specializes in working with busy, professional moms like herself who might be looking for some answers about navigating this things called parenting that no one is ever prepared for. You can find her at Wayfinding Moms, where she offers an initial 30-minute free session, to discover what she can offer you.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Kelvin Troy Johnson, founder of Love Coach Atlanta and author of Secrets of the Mind of a Man. Given that much of my audience is female, I thought you might be interested in the information Kelvin shares. I noticed him on TicToc and liked what he was saying so I was honored when he was brave enough to say "yes" to being interviewed by a total stranger. The conversation was entirely fun and enjoyable for me. I found we agree on many things and just say it differently. What I particularly loved is that he isn't that dating coach out there trying to help men scam women into dating without commitment. Kelvin is the coach who works with women to understand what men want and how you can know, and benefit from, that yourself. Men are simple; men are visual. What they say is usually what they mean and they are attracted with their eyes first, and then their brain. Listento the end to hear the compettling offer he made for our audience members. Then, if you want to learn more from Kelvin, you can look him up at By Kelvin | Love Coach Atlanta, follow him on TicToc or order his book here.

In this episode, I was fortunate to be able to interview a colleague and fellow coach, Elizabeth Overstreet. Elizabeth functions primarily as a coach for couples. We had a great conversation talking about attachment styles and how they affect relationships, the evolution of relationships, and why we often resist healthy relationships. Listen to the end to hear two "secrets" Elizabeth shares that can enhance relationships. If you'd like to reach out to her, you will find her at her website: https://elizabethoverstreet.com. You can also read her book, Love Can Be Messy But You Don't Have to Be.

In this episode, Kim talks about the challenge experienced by couples when one person is upset about something the other person does. They miscategorize the problem as the other person's instead of their own. The problem lies with the person who is most upset by it. If you own the problem, then it's your responsibility to fix it. This puts you in the driver's seat. Otherwise, you are powerless to fix it while waiting for your partner to change. Additionally, Kim discusses not staying in relationships where you are not receiving even the bare minimum you want. More of Kim's views on couples can be found in her book, Secrets of Happy Couples.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of talking with Dr. Kiley Callaway about his work with couples in his congregation. As a pastor with a degree in pastoral counseling, Kiley is a certified Mental Freedom practitioner who uses that and Choice Theory psychology with those who come to him for help. He shares how he does that, along with some successes his clients have achieved. We also talk about how both Choice Theory and Mental Freedom, while not associated with any religion, can be supported by biblical scriptures. Kiley's counseling license allows him to work across all states so if you are interested in pastoral counseling that is underpinned by Choice Theory and Mental Freedom, you can contact him through his website, Christian Counselor | Be Transformed Christian Counseling | Gering (betransformedcounseling.org).

In this episode, I get to chat with Nichole Meade about her creation, Mindful Self-Intelligence. Nichole created her concepts from a variety of disciplines, including quantum physics, Shamanism, Buddhism, science, and mathematics, of all things. Nichole describes herself as a rainbow unicorn in a ones-and-zeroes world, which makes her a breath of fresh air for me. Listen in to discover Mindful Self-Intelligence and how to solve for the f(me) or the function of me. Nichole also shares her thoughts about discovering oneself so people can be the best and most aligned version of themselves for themselves, but also, for "all the things." She discusses finding ways that work for her that start as a way, become a transitional the way, on the way to simply being her way. This is not your regular conversion. If you want to take a dive into a converstion you probably won't have in your everyday life, have a listen. Should you want to reach out to Nichole to continue the conversation, the best way to do that is on LinkedIn.

In this episode, I was delighted to speak with Kate Varness, a Clarity Coach who helps women find their path through life's transitions. She does this with an astrological tool called Human Design. Learning your Human Design assists you to understand yourself better and figure out the best ways to respond during transitions based on your specific traits and strengths. It was fascinating to me, especially when Kate delved into an example of some work she did with a consultant who was struggling with overwhelm. Kate offers our listeners a free video called How to Find Your Way In. It's a 2-part method to identify where you are and where you're going. You'll also learn why it's so important to intentionally shift during life transitions, and how to prepare for your next adventure with confidence and support. You can reach Kate for more information at kate@katevarness.com.

In this 2-part episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Charles Dent, an educator, counselor, coach, and pastor. Charles utilizes Choice Theory and Reality Therapy in his work and has penned several books: When a Woman Gives Up Her Heart, 42 Days: Becoming a Powerful Person of Patience, How to Overcome the Predator of Your Faith, Date Rape at 11 AM Sunday, and 42 Habits of Successful Parents. Charles is a Black man living in the south committed to creating bridges between faith-based communities and mental health clinics to better serve the African American population who has been disenfranchised by the medical system. We discuss the unique mental health challenges Black men face and how systemic issues and economic disparities contribute to these challenge, how mental health professionals can better understand and address the culture stima surrounding mental health particularly among Black men and how the community, family, and faith can strengthen their support systems. You can reach Dr. Dent through his website, Max Out Coaching. Tune in next week for part 2.

In this episode, I continue the conversation with Dr. Charles Dent about how mental health interventions can be tailored to resonate more deeply with Black men, considering the intersection of masculinity, cultural identity, and mental well-being. We discuss how to advocate for great access to culturally competent mental health services for Black men and what steps people can take to break down the barriers to seeking help. You can reach Dr. Dent through his website, Max Out Coaching for more information.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Alison Schmidt, PhD, BCC. Among other things, Alison is the CEO of unconvention™, and a graduate of the Academy of Choice's Board Certified Coaching program. I recently became aware of Alison's rebrand to unconvention and wanted to have her on the show to talk about it. Alison most definitely has some interesting unconvention qualities. In this episode, we discuss how she decided on her rebranding, what unconvention means to her, her use of "un" words in coaching, my personal unwords, her podcast "unconversations," and how she works with her clients to help them discover what is unique about themselves, often the very things they have gotten criticized for in the past. Once discovered, a person learns to lean into those qualities and lives a life filled with passion, purpose, and authenticity. To contact her for more information or for coaching yourself, check out her website at unconventionllc.com info@unconventionllc.com.

In this episode, I had the joy of interviewing Kealah "Coach Kiki" Parkinson. Coach Kiki is a master at her craft of emotionally intelligent communications coaching. We talked about conquering one's fear, as Kealah went from being painfully shy to becoming a public speaker! We discussed developing your key mantra and your BMT Index, both trademarks held by Kealah. She defined what a communication coach is and what they do. We talked about the fight-or-flight response and how that affects communication. Kealah shared her favorite tools for processing feelings and distinguished between processing and managing feelings. The BMT Index stands for body, moods, and thoughts. Coach Kiki is also working on her pilot program called, "The Four Corners of Feelings" and she's looking for some people willing to go through her beta program to co-create with her what this program will look like. She knows how important emotions are in communications, both in one's personal and professional life. You can follow her on Substack at We Build Better Humans | Coach Kiki Kealah Parkinson | Substack, or visit her website to sign up for the Four Corners of Feelings pilot program, take her coaching eligibility quiz, or contact her about her expertise or services.

In this episode, I had the distinct pleasure to interview Dr. Susan Jackson, a close collaborator with Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, founder of the flow concept. With a PhD in Sport and Exercise Psychology, Sue has extensive experience in the sports, performance, and health industries. In this conversation, we talk about what flow is and why it's an important experience to understand. Sue covers the characteristics of being in flow and some things we can do to make flow more likely to occur for us in our lives and performance tasks. Sue has written the recently released Amazon #1 bestselling book, Experiencing Flow: Life Beyond Boredom and Anxiety, and shares her motivation for writing it and what you'll get when you read it. I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and know you will, too. If you'd like to learn more about Sue and her work or contact her for more information, you can do that here,

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing a very pregnant Genesis Amaris Kemp. Genesis was someone working in the gas industry in corporate America, when she realized the industry wasn't holding up to the principles of DEIB. Yes, she was a woman of color in a predominantly white men's world and she had a seat at the table but she was the only one and she didn't feel like her contributions were taken very seriously. So what did she do? She wrote the book, Chocolate Drop in Corporate America, to call attention to the issue. Genesis is a deeply spiritual person who has suffered four major losses in the past four years, including a child. She shares how she is still smiling and how her faith helps her withstand those losses with selflessness rather than selfishness. Check out her Gems podcast and visit her website at https://genesisamariskemp.net. You can, of course, contact her there, but give her some time to respond because she is about to give birth to her second child any day now.

In this episode, I'm thrilled to interview the authors of Little Learners, Big Hearts: A Teacher's Guide to Nurturing Empathy and Equity in Early Childhood—Christine Mason, PhD, Orinthia Harris, PhD, Randy Ross, and Jill Flanders. These remarkable women are leaders in their fields and together contribute to the Center for Educational Improvement (CEI), founded by Dr. Mason, with Jill Flanders serving as Executive Director. Their book equips teachers with tools to nurture empathy and equity in the classroom, emphasizing the importance of raising a new generation of anti-racist children to achieve true equity. If you're curious about your own implicit biases, explore Harvard's Implicit Bias Assessments. We all have biases—recognizing and reducing their impact is key to fostering change in ourselves and those around us.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Ari Gerzon-Kessler, whose passion lies in uniting teachers and students' families in a meaningful, collaborative way. It will be no surprise to Choice Theory advocates that he aguides schools to foster understanding by actively listening to what families want and need from educators and providing that support. His approach focuses on letting go of judgment and cultivating curiosity, ensuring both educators and families work together to benefit students. Ari's research-backed method has shown remarkable ripple effects, including reigniting teachers' passion for teaching and improving retention in schools that adopt these practices. His book, On the Same Team, is available on Amazon, and you can connect with Ari on LinkedIn or via email at arigerzon@gmail.com.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Angie Freese, author of Meant for More: Real Talk about Classrooms Built on Dignity, Authenticity, and Connection. Angie's passion for transforming education is undeniable, and her book offers a powerful roadmap for addressing educational inequity while fostering meaningful, relevant learning experiences. We dive into what inspired her to write Meant for More, explore the brave steps educators can take to create lasting change, and discuss how those outside the education system can support teachers while challenging faulty narratives. Angie also shares what "dignity" truly means in the context of her work. Whether you're an educator, leader, or someone invested in the future of education, this conversation is filled with actionable insights and hope. You can also join Angie's virtual book study on skillsforce.com. Connect with her on LinkedIn or follow her on Instagram. This is a must-listen for anyone passionate about creating classrooms where every student thrives!

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Coach Carlos Johnson, author of Power Engage, a transformative book that guides teachers on how to teach like a coach, blending compassion with accountability for their students. We discussed Carlos' unique definition of engagement, which he views as a deeper, more committed process than mere involvement. He also shared the inspiration behind his concept of "performance-based relationships" and his creation of the Future Man Success Prep course. Carlos explained how he helps teachers develop a "classroom coach" model, recognizing how coaches earn the admiration of their players through strong relationships and positive expectations. By adopting this coaching mindset, teachers can unlock greater potential in their students. Carlos also reflected on his time as a principal, where he achieved remarkable goals through a focus on compassion and accountability. We wrapped up with his advice to educators and school leaders looking to transform their school culture. To connect with Coach Carlos, visit his website: https://carlosjohnson.org.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Daman Harris, author of The Antiracist School Leader, a guide for school and organizational leaders to develop cultural competence and responsiveness through practical, everyday actions. We explore Daman's inspiration for the book and the strategies he suggests for leaders who face resistance when introducing antiracist policies from staff, parents, or the wider community. Dr. Harris shares insights on fostering meaningful conversations about race and equity among educators, even those hesitant to engage.Throughout our discussion, Daman emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and provides guidance for leaders embarking on an antiracism journey. He explains the concept of homophily and its impact on diversity work, underscoring why understanding this dynamic is essential. Daman also discusses the value of continuous professional development in sustaining an antiracist school culture and shares advice for keeping staff motivated in this ongoing effort. For school leaders dedicated to integrating antiracist practices in their schools or districts, Daman's book is a must-read.To learn more, visit https://damanharris.com or reach out to Daman directly at daman@damanharris.com.

In this episode, I talk about Mental Freedom, how it began and the first prinicple of Responsibility vs. Response-ability. I offered a webinar to the Southland Development Authority and this is the audio version of that broken up into three parts. This is part 1. If you like it, you can come back on Dec 12 and 19 for parts 2 and 3. If you want to learn more about taking a Mental Freedom Experience, you can learn more here. There is an advertisement at the end for our Writers Group if you are interested in writing your book in 2025. We have an intimate group of self-publishing writers who are discovering how to turn their manuscript into a book that sells.

In this episode of Mental Freedom at Work, you will hear the part of the webinar I did for the Southland Development Authority about using Mental Freedom at Work. This part takes a deep dive into the Unconditional Trust Challenge and your responsibility once you gain the clarity resulting from trusting people for the right thing. You will find Part 1 of Mental Freedom at Work here. Part 3 will be dropping on December 19.

In this episode, I talk about the only thing everyone has to do and how everything else is done because we want to, rewriting the painful stories we've fabricated in our heads, and how to turn the painful events in our lives into GLOW, the acronym for gifts, lessons, opportunities, and wisdom. These are tools to use throughout life to minimize the experience of pain. You may also want to listen to Part 1 and Part 2. Finally, you can register for the Relationship Recharge Retreat here.

In this episode, I have the opportunity to interview my colleague and friend, Tony Lamar2. Tony is the Visionary Architect for Reintegration and Mental Freedom® who has overcome systemic barriers to inspire others to reclaim their strength and potential. With years of lived experience and professional leadership, Tony has shaped criminal justice reform in Georgia, influenced initiatives nationwide, and dedicated his life to helping those impacted by incarceration redefine reintegration. In part 1 of this episode, we discuss Tony's inspiration for creating ReEntry Plus, the difference between Reentry and Reintegration, and why reintegration is crucial to the initial reentry process. Tony also underscores the difference between a journey and becoming. Next week we'll conclude this topic by explaining how Mental Freedom is a cornerstone of Reentry Plus. Tony will share his ReZilient Builders Network and its role in supporting justice-involved and justice-impacted individuals. The interview will conclude with Tony's takeaway message. Finally, you can register for the Relationship Recharge Zoom retreat here.

In this final segment of our conversation with Tony Lamar2, we explore the transformative work of Reentry+ and its role in helping formerly incarcerated individuals reintegrate into society. Tony clarifies the distinction between justice-involved and justice-impacted individuals, explaining how Reentry+ provides critical support for both. We wrap up with Tony's powerful message of transformation and evolution for everyone touched by the justice system. You can hear Part 1 here. Be sure to register for Tony's Rezilience Builders Network event on March 4, 2025, at ReentryPlus to secure a free copy of their eBook, Rezilient Mind. Finally, you can register for the Relationship Recharge Zoom retreat here.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Gary Sanchez—better known as Dr. Why—to explore the nine core “WHYs” and the revolutionary WHY operating system (WHY.os). Dr. Sanchez boldly claims he can help anyone find their “WHY” in just five minutes, and he once did exactly that in Florida with every audience member over a remarkable 14-hour span!Beyond revealing what truly drives us, Dr. Sanchez also guides people in creating a powerful personal brand that truly reflects their deepest motivations—something I can personally attest to as nothing short of miraculous. In this Part 1, we discuss the nine “WHYs,” how Dr. Sanchez discovered them, and why uncovering yours and helping others discover theirs is so crucial. Be sure to tune in next week for Part 2, where we dive even deeper into “Discovering Your Why.”You can find Dr. Gary Sanchez at whyinstitute.com.Additional ResourcesInterested in writing and publishing your book this year? Join our Writers Group.Looking to recharge your relationship around Valentine's Day? Join our Relationship Recharge Experience on February 15!

In this episode, I wrap up my conversation with Dr. Gary Sanchez about his WHY.os system—an innovative tool to uncover your operating system: your why, what, and how. It has proven 100% accurate for me and for thousands of people Dr. Sanchez has worked with.In Part 2 of our interview, we dive into what might be even more powerful than your WHY alone, how to leverage your WHY.os personally and professionally, and whether it's better to build a team of like-minded people or those who complement your strengths. If you haven't already, be sure to check out Part 1 first.Dr. Sanchez is also offering listeners a 50% discount on his transformative WHY.os system, which includes a personalized marketing message to help your customers recognize exactly who you are. Listen until the end to grab your discount code and discover your why!If you're planning to write a book in 2025, join our monthly virtual Writers Group. And if you and your partner are looking to strengthen your bond this Valentine's Day, don't miss our Relationship Recharge Experience on Zoom, happening February 15, 2025. Enjoy the episode!

In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Utecht, a transformational life coach and intuitive guide who empowers others to discover their voice and reclaim their rightful place in the world. Alyssa believes that healing our relationships—whether with food, finances, family, or ourselves—enables us to show up authentically and unapologetically, opening the door to greater joy, ease, and abundance.In Part 1 of our interview, we discuss the biggest obstacle people face when making decisions, practical strategies to overcome it, and how our past experiences and relationships shape the way we choose today.To learn more about Alyssa and download her gift, “7 Simple Ways to Soothe Your System and Shift Your Mood,” visit her website at https://www.alyssautecht.com. Scroll down to just above the testimonials and click the teal bar labeled “Download 7 Simple Ways.” Enjoy the episode!

In this episode, I continue my fascinating conversation with Alyssa Utecht, a transformational life coach and intuitive guide on a mission to help others find their voice, reclaim their space, and step fully into the life they love. Alyssa believes that healing our relationships—with food, finances, family, and ourselves—creates the foundation for living authentically and unapologetically, leading to more joy, ease, and abundance.We dive into the powerful tools Alyssa shares with her clients to help them move forward with confidence, as well as her take on "living in alignment"—what it really means and how she helps people recognize when they're on their true path.If you missed Part 1, you can catch up here. And don't forget to visit Alyssa's website to grab her free gift: "7 Simple Ways to Soothe Your System and Shift Your Mood."

In this episode, we dive into the transformative "Alone Stage"—that often challenging period between relationships. Instead of rushing into a new romance, I explore how embracing solitude can help you heal, gain clarity, and learn invaluable lessons about what you truly want (and don't want) in love. Discover why this time of grieving and reflection might just be the secret ingredient to creating a happier, healthier relationship next time around. For more insights, check out my book, Secrets of Happy Couples.

Join me in this engaging episode as I explore the art of negotiating in intimate relationships. Unlike typical negotiations focused on individual gain, true success in your most personal interactions requires a collaborative mindset—one where both partners embrace, “I want to win, and I want you to win too.” Discover how shifting your perspective, practicing empathy, and unleashing your creativity can lead to win/win/win outcomes that benefit you, your partner, and the strength of your relationship.Drawing from the insights in my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I share practical strategies for transforming conflicts into opportunities for growth and connection.Ready to experience true mental freedom? Watch our Masterclass and schedule your call with Kim to take the next step on your journey.

In this episode, Kim explores how to navigate the painful transition when an intimate relationship comes to an end. Whether it's due to divorce, distance, or a conscious decision, the loss can leave you wondering how to move forward. Kim breaks down Kübler-Ross's stages of grief—reminding us that the process is uniquely personal—and shares practical strategies to help you let go with grace, rediscover balance in your pain, and step confidently into the next chapter of your life.If you're ready to deepen your journey toward healing and growth, start by watching our Mental Freedom® Masterclass and then schedule your complimentary Mental Freedom Strategy session with Kim.

In this episode, I interview Paul Cline about progressive leadership—what it is, why it's important, and the transformational mindset behind it. As you listen, evaluate for yourself whether you have what it takes to lead with true transformation. If you enjoy this conversation, be sure to return next week for part 2 of our interview with Paul Cline. You can register for our Basic Intensive Training in Choice Theory and Reality Therapy here, or if you'd rather get your questions answered, set up a Zoom meeting with Kim here.

In this episode, Paul Cline and I continue our deep dive into Transformational Leadership. We explore how ongoing training empowers leaders to cultivate employees that grow beyond their starting point—and how investing in your staff can elevate your entire organization. If you'd like to learn more from Paul, visit advancedideas.com or whop.com/life-transformation. Missed part 1 of our conversation? Click here to listen. And if you're ready to level up your coaching skills, explore our 60-hour coaching program by clicking here.

In this episode, I sit down with Hussein Paymozd to explore his leadership journey and the profound impact Choice Theory psychology had on his approach. Hussein shares how his early experiences with mentors influenced his leadership style and reveals the pivotal "aha moment" that inspired him to rethink his methods. He dives into the powerful shift from an external control approach to a more effective strategy — one that prioritizes his employees' five basic needs and emphasizes internal motivation. Tune in to discover how embracing Choice Theory transformed Hussein's leadership, fostering greater trust, engagement, and team success.

In this powerful conclusion to my conversation with Hussein Paymozd, we continue exploring his transformational leadership journey. Hussein shares how he evolved from a more authoritarian, top-down style to a leader committed to helping his team meet their basic psychological needs at work.He explains how his communication shifted when he adopted an internal control mindset, moving away from external motivators like rewards and punishments and toward a more inclusive, inspiring approach. Hussein also reflects on the profound impact of translating my book, Mental Freedom, into Farsi—both personally and professionally.For leaders still relying on control-based tactics, Hussein offers wise advice—and leaves us with a memorable quote that sums up his philosophy: "Even if you win the rat race, you're still a rat." I couldn't agree more.If you missed Part 1, be sure to check it out for the full picture of Hussein's transformation.Interested in becoming a Board Certified Coach (BCC) through Academy of Choice? Our next cohort for the 60- or 120-hour programs begins April 1. Click here to learn more and register.

In this episode, I dive into one of the most important—and challenging—topics of our time: how to have respectful, meaningful conversations with people who hold different political beliefs.I share my personal reflections on the growing polarization in our country, the danger of misinformation, and the importance of listening with the intent to understand—not to change someone's mind.Then, I sit down with Mike Cory, a high school aquaintance who reached out during a tense political time, genuinely wanting to understand my perspective. Over the next three episodes, you can hear that although we come from different sides of the political spectrum, our conversation is proof that it's possible to talk across differences without yelling, name-calling, or canceling each other.Whether you lean left, right, or somewhere in between, this episode is an invitation to open your heart and your mind. If you've ever lost a friend, strained a family relationship, or just felt overwhelmed by the political divide, this conversation is for you.Let's model what respectful political discourse can look like—because our relationships and our democracy depend on it.The full URL for the article I quoted is https://www.mic.com/articles/90621/why-america-is-no-longer-no-1-in-9-charts.If you are interested in exploring our board certified coaching programs, you can check them out here.

In this episode, I am joined by a high school acquaintance and thoughtful conservative voice, Mike Cory, for an honest and respectful conversation about the political divide between Democrats and Republicans.Rather than aiming to debate or “win,” Mike and I model how to listen for understanding, even when we disagree. With topics ranging from gun laws and media mistrust to Medicaid, Christian values, and government corruption, this conversation explores the values beneath the views—and reveals how much more we have in common when we take time to truly hear each other. This is Part 1 of a three-part series. Return right here next week Part 2.If you are interested in our coaching program at Olver International, you'll find more information and registration links here.

In Part 2 of this candid conversation, Kim Olver reconnects with childhood acquaintance Mike Cory to explore the widening political divide in the U.S. — not to change each other's minds but to model what respectful political discourse can look like.From energy policy and healthcare to abortion, transgender athletes, and diversity in education, Kim and Mike openly share their opposing views while holding space for mutual respect. This episode offers a rare glimpse into what's possible when people disagree without hostility — and listen with curiosity instead of judgment.Whether you lean left or right, you'll find insights, questions, and perhaps even some common ground in this important conversation.Be sure to catch Part 1 for context — and don't miss Part 3 next week as the discussion concludes.Our next 30-hour coaching cohort begins May 8. If you are interested, then click here to get the details and to register.

In this powerful conclusion to her three-part series, Kim Olver continues her candid conversation with Republican guest Mike Corey, modeling what it looks like to engage in respectful political discourse amidst deep national division. Together, they explore the complex dynamics of DEIB (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging), systemic inequality, white privilege, and the legacy of racism in America—all without shouting or shutting down.With curiosity and compassion, Kim and Mike discuss controversial topics like affirmative action, police history, socioeconomic disparity, the media's role in polarization, and the need for a viable third political party. While their worldviews differ, their shared desire to understand, rather than attack, shines through.This episode is a masterclass in how to agree to disagree with grace, demonstrating that healing our country starts at the kitchen table, not the Capitol building. If you've ever struggled to talk politics with loved ones, this conversation offers a hopeful path forward.Stick around to the end for a heartfelt reflection from Kim on what it really means to be united as Americans.If this is your first listen to this series, be sure to backtrack to listen to Part 1 and Part 2 of Kim's conversation with Mike Cory

In this two-part episode, Kim welcomes author, coach, and parenting visionary Biljana "Bia" Dimovski to explore her unique approach to raising children in the modern age—what she calls Agile Parenting. Drawing from her own decade-long journey through infertility and her experience as an agile coach, Bia shares how she intentionally shaped her parenting philosophy to emphasize presence, connection, and mutual learning with her daughter.Rather than following conventional parenting labels like "helicopter" or "snowplow," Bia reframes what it means to be deeply engaged. From modeling adult conversations to rediscovering creativity through shared art projects, she illustrates how parenting can be a reciprocal growth journey. This heartwarming conversation offers fresh perspective, especially for parents seeking to nurture strong bonds while navigating the distractions of technology and social pressure.If you like this conversation, don't forget to return next week for part 2.And if you're a counselor with a master's degree looking to elevate your impact, Kim invites you to join the next Academy of Choice 30-hour coaching program starting May 8, 2025. This board-certified coach training is ideal for professionals ready to empower their clients through mindset shifts, accountability, and practical coaching strategies. Learn more and register at https://olverinternational.com/academy-of-choice.

In this episode, Kim Olver welcomes back author and Agile coach Bia Demofsky in a powerful continuation of last week's conversation to explore how she applies professional Agile principles to parenting in an intentional, iterative way. In Agile Parenting, Bia shares how her decade-long struggle with infertility shaped her reverence for parenting—and how that perspective led her to reject mainstream trends in favor of meaningful connection, structure, and flexibility with her daughter.Together, Kim and Bia unpack:Why Agile methodology isn't just for software teams—it can be a powerful framework for raising childrenHow to parent "against the grain" with confidence, even when it goes against public opinionThe critical role of parent-to-parent communities in supporting intentional parentingPractical ways to limit technology use early—and why it mattersThe importance of modeling emotional intelligence, accountability, and collaboration for kidsThis episode is a must-listen for parents craving deeper relationships with their children and the courage to raise them with purpose in today's chaotic world.To listen to part 1 of this interview, click here. Grab Bia's book Agile Parenting on Amazon and explore her parenting workbook and framework. You can also connect with Bia at https://agileparenting.org.Next week, Kim continues the parenting conversation with Ashley Patrick to discuss raising neurodivergent children. Subscribe so you don't miss it!

In this heartfelt and empowering episode of Life Equals Choices; Choices Equal Life, Kim Olver sits down with Ashley Patrick—devoted mom, fierce advocate, and full-time probation officer—to explore the beautiful complexity of parenting in a neurodiverse family. Ashley shares her real-life experience raising her daughter Gabby, who was diagnosed with autism at age two, along with a blended household of seven children ranging from ages 3 to 23.Ashley opens up about the balancing act of motherhood and career, the isolation that can come with parenting a neurodiverse child, and the deep transformation that led her to build a new, inclusive community. From grief and growth to advocacy and action, Ashley speaks candidly about creating spaces where every child—and every parent—feels seen and supported.Tune in to hear:How Ashley navigates mom guilt and gives herself graceThe challenges and beauty of parenting a child with autismHow she created inclusion-focused events and built a network of supportHer journey toward launching a nonprofit to uplift families like hersWhether you're a parent, an educator, or someone passionate about inclusion, this episode will speak to your heart. Don't miss part two of this powerful conversation in next week's episode!If this conversation resonates, please leave a review and share it on social media—tag @OlverInternational so we can thank you personally.Listen now on your favorite podcast platform or at lifeequalschoices.com.

In this episode, Kim has a heartfelt continuation of her conversation with Ashley Patrick, a devoted mom and parenting educator, as we explore what it really means to build inclusive communities for families with neurodiverse children. Ashley shares the inspiration behind her mom-and-me craft events, designed to be calm, understanding, and welcoming to all—especially those who often feel excluded from traditional activities.We also discuss the emotional reality of receiving an autism diagnosis as a parent, the importance of community support, and the grieving process of letting go of the future you imagined for your child so you can embrace the beautiful, unique individual they are.Ashley offers practical advice on how to:Find or create inclusive spaces in your communityConnect with others who understand the neurodiverse parenting journeySupport your child while navigating your own emotional landscapeThis episode is for any parent, educator, or ally who wants to better understand the power of inclusion and what it truly means to say: It's going to be okay. Listen to Part 1 of Kim's interview with Ashley Learn more about Ashley's work through the Infinite Inclusion Foundation on Facebook.

In this episode of Life Equals Choices, Choices Equal Life, Kim Olver sits down with Angela Acosta—visionary entrepreneur, photographer, and founder of The Gal Project and Angela Atelier. Angela shares the deeply personal story behind her mission to help women over 40 reclaim visibility, confidence, and self-worth. Through her judgment-free photography studio and her online community, Angela is transforming how women see themselves—one portrait and one voice at a time. Learn how setting an intention for your own visibility can be an act of radical self-love and legacy-building. This conversation is part one of a two-part series that will leave you inspired to see yourself—and your story—through a more empowering lens. Don't forget to return next week for part 2.Check out The Gal Project and Angela Atelier.

In Part 2 of this inspiring conversation, Kim Olver sits down again with photographer, coach, and visibility advocate Angela Acosta to explore how women can reclaim self-worth, confidence, and empowerment—both personally and professionally. Angela shares how her photo sessions become transformational experiences, helping women release decades of self-doubt and redefine beauty on their own terms.Angela also introduces her newest project, Startup Stories, where she's on a mission to raise the visibility of 100 female entrepreneurs through branding photo shoots and done-for-you media support. Learn more about Startup Stories at: startupstories.space Follow Angela on Instagram: @a.atelier.photography Connect with Angela on LinkedIn: Angela AcostaThis is a powerful conversation for any woman navigating beauty standards, visibility, entrepreneurship, and personal growth.