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David DeSteno visits Google to discuss his book “Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride.” Grit, the ability to persevere against all odds, is often recognized as the key to success. But how can grit be cultivated and sustained? In this book, David DeSteno reveals that the most powerful tools we can draw upon to achieve our toughest goals are not willpower or self-denial, but our prosocial emotions—gratitude, compassion, and pride. This undervalued toolkit evolved specifically to help us resist immediate temptations in favor of long-term gains. DeSteno breaks down the long-overlooked mechanisms of perseverance built into our brains and shows how we can work with our emotions, instead of denying them, to achieve our goals. And he shows how we can do it with greater ease and deeper satisfaction than we would have thought possible. Originally published in February of 2018. Visit http://youtube.com/TalksAtGoogle/ to watch the video.
What if you could get more done in less time? That would sure come in handy around the holidays – or any time. This episode begins with a simple strategy that works great even though only one in five people do it. http://www.balancetime.com/ Every culture on the planet has some sort of religion. Why? What is it that religion does for people that makes it so popular? For one thing, people who practice a religion – any religion – report some real benefits to their life, health and longevity according to David DeSteno author of the book How God Works: The Science Behind the Benefits of Religion (https://amzn.to/3AWs2Vx) and host of the podcast How God Works (https://www.howgodworks.org). Listen as David reveals the scientific findings that explain why religion is so important to people, what the benefits are and how anyone can reap those benefits regardless of what religion you believe in. Would you want to live in outer space? What would happen to your body and mind living miles above the earth? When you think about it, we humans aren't built to live without gravity. We've always had it. So, what happens if you go for long periods of time without it? Here to address all of this is someone who has actually lived in space for a long time – TWICE! Dave Williams is an astronaut, pilot, ER physician, former Director of Space & Life Sciences at NASA's Johnson Space Center and author of the book, Why Am I Taller?: What Happens to an Astronaut's Body in Space (https://amzn.to/3FoI5xK). Listen as he reveals the challenges of living, sleeping, eating, and everything else in zero gravity. I'm sure you have heard the phrase, “That's a whole nother story…” But wait a second! Is nother really a word? Listen as I discuss what the “nother” in “a whole nother story” is all about. PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! INDEED: Get a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to get your jobs more visibility at https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING Support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on this podcast. Terms & conditions apply. AURA: Save on the perfect gift by visiting https://AuraFrames.com to get $35-off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SOMETHING at checkout! SHOPIFY: Sign up for a $1 per-month trial period at https://Shopify.com/sysk . Go to SHOPIFY.com/sysk to grow your business – no matter what stage you're in! MINT MOBILE: Cut your wireless bill to $15 a month at https://MintMobile.com/something! $45 upfront payment required (equivalent to $15/mo.). New customers on first 3 month plan only. Additional taxes, fees, & restrictions apply. HERS: Hers is changing women's healthcare by providing access to GLP-1 weekly injections with the same active ingredient as Ozempic and Wegovy, as well as oral medication kits. Start your free online visit today at https://forhers.com/sysk DELL: Dell Technologies' Cyber Monday event is live and if you've been waiting for an AI-ready PC, this is their biggest sale of the year! Shop now at https://Dell.com/deals Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Conor Conway is a coffee connoisseur, top notch trumpeter, and spiritual conversationalist. Since he is a co-owner of Epoch Coffee in downtown Moncton, I have known of Conor for years now, but this in-depth conversation was long overdue. We dip into his early days with Canadian pop music sensation The Weeknd, drink three marvelously prepared cups of coffee, and dive DEEP into not only his own experiences of God in general and Judaism in particular, but also some of the (good and less-good) ways Judaism & Christianity have historically interacted.I learned a lot in this conversation, not least about Sistema and Reconstructionist Judaism. I also learned (hopefully) how to do a better job recording a pod in-person rather than online… next time. Please, your patience for the audio-quality is requested! Most importantly, though, I learned that while it is obviously difficult to talk about difficult things, it can be worth doing so with safe people, even if you stumble pretty hard over your own words. I truly appreciated Conor's grace to me throughout our chat, but especially in the back quarter when we get into one of the hottest of the hot topics (in my world, at least). During this episode I referenced Carmen Joy Imes' books. Here's a link to the podcast I recorded with her: Episode 31I also referenced my love for David Desteno's “How God Works” podcast. Here's a review I wrote of his book: How God WorksIf I had thought about it, I would have referenced this previous podcast I recorded with Dr Matt Friedman, who is himself both Jewish & Christian: Episode 36Chapters:04:47 // Gesha Village Coffee08:07 // Multicultural Upbringing and Tasting Differences13:12 // From Music to Coffee: Conor's Journey18:50 // Conor's Experience with The Weeknd30:04 // Religious Identity and Reconstructionist Judaism37:47 // Coffee Tasting and Cultural Exploration38:26 // Walking through an Orthodox Jewish neighborhood39:49 // Orthodox Judaism and the Importance of Community41:18 // Observing Shabbat and Jewish Law42:48 // Reconstructionism: Individual Interpretation of Jewish Practices43:18 // Questioning and Wrestling with Faith54:53 // The Power of Participating in Ritual1:07:15 // The Book of Job: Wrestling with Suffering and Seeking Truth1:14:08 // The Exclusivity of Christianity and the Benefits of Applying Oneself to a Religion1:24:15 // Navigating the Complexities of Supporting Israelis and Palestinians1:35:49 // The Rise of Anti-Semitism and the Importance of Difficult ConversationsKeywords: coffee, flavor, coffee industry, music industry, multicultural, religion, Reconstructionist Judaism, community, religion, Orthodox Judaism, reconstructionism, language, beliefs, questioning, wrestling with faith, book of Job, religion, Christianity, exclusivity, truth claims, applying oneself, benefits, Israel, theological viewpoints, support, Palestinians, anti-Semitism, Jewish community Get full access to Marc Jolicoeur (aka Jolly Thoughts) at marcjolicoeur.substack.com/subscribe
Faith has always been a strong force in human history – but in modern times, it may feel antiquated to have it. Psychology professor and author David DeSteno has conducted research exploring questions about the benefits of faith, and in this episode he shares his findings, and why he believes even in the age of science, we shouldn't leave spiritual wisdom behind. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts.
¿Qué te hace feliz? ¿Qué te motiva a cambiar tus hábitos y mejorar tu vida? Muchas veces pensamos que la felicidad depende de lograr nuestros objetivos, de tener éxito, de ser reconocidos. Pero la ciencia nos dice que hay un factor mucho más importante y poderoso: la gratitud. La gratitud es el sentimiento de aprecio y reconocimiento por lo que tenemos y por lo que recibimos de los demás; nos hace sentir más felices, más conectados, más generosos y más resilientes. También nos ayuda a crear una relación positiva con nuestro futuro yo, es decir, con la persona que queremos ser mañana. En este episodio, Dayanara Torres nos invita a descubrir los beneficios de la gratitud y cómo podemos cultivarla en nuestro día a día. Para ello, conversa con el profesor David DeSteno, de la Universidad Northeastern, autor del libro Éxito emocional: el poder de la gratitud, la compasión y el orgullo. Él nos explica cómo la gratitud influye en nuestro comportamiento, en nuestra salud y en nuestro bienestar. También nos da algunos consejos prácticos para expresar nuestra gratitud a los demás y a nosotros mismos. No te pierdas este episodio y aprende cómo la gratitud puede transformar tu vida.
We're pleased on occasion to share with you an episode from other podcasts which we find important and helpful. You may have heard our episode with renowned psychologist David DeSteno, on his book How God Works. I very much enjoyed my conversation with Dave, and found his approach helpful and refreshing. On his podcast, by the same name—How God Works—Dave talks with religious leaders, scientists, and intellectuals from various fields and explores the overlap between scientific research and the teachings of various wisdom and faith traditions. The episode we share today I find particularly helpful: one on hope, and the cultivation of hopefulness in a world marred by seemingly intractable violence and hostility. Dave interviews Pulitzer-prize winning journalist Nicholas Kristof, who discusses ways he's learned to maintain hopefulness even while covering some of the most horrific instances of violence and war-making; and Roshi Joan Halifax, founder of Upaya Zen Center in Santa Fe, NM, about the notion of wise hope, the equanimity it can bring, and the fierce compassion it can unleash. We hope you enjoy this episode of How God Works and consider subscribing. -Lee C. Camp Subscribe to episodes: Apple | Spotify | Amazon | Stitcher | Google | YouTube Follow Us: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTube Follow Lee: Instagram | Twitter Join our Email List: nosmallendeavor.com Become a Member: Virtual Only | Standard | Premium See Privacy Policy: Privacy Policy Shop No Small Endeavor Merch: Scandalous Witness Course | Scandalous Witness Book | Joy & the Good Life Course Amazon Affiliate Disclosure: Tokens Media, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.
The third episode in a 4-part series titled “The Bible, the Body, & the Brain”------------------------Episode Summary/For Further ExplorationThese are lessons and recordings from our Young Adult Ministry-wide "Summer Bible Study Series" in the summer of 2023. In this episode, join our Young Adult Minister, John Lemons, along with special guests Christina Hearne, Kristin Prasad, and John Holloway as they talk about what the Bible has to say about aging and why it is an important part of how we follow Jesus.*If you have thoughts or questions, we'd love to talk with you! Email your questions to youngadults@fbchav.org or john@fbchsv.org*------------------------Items Referenced in the Episode:Book: How God WorksQuotes from book referenced in episode:“Data from across the world shows the effects of that storm. Wherever you look, people's happiness across the life span follows a U-shaped curve, with its nadir occurring right around age fifty. Happiness starts to decline in the late thirties and early forties, bottoming out between the late forties and early fifties, before beginning to rise again from the late fifties into the seventies and eighties. At that point, people's happiness tracks show a good deal of variability that depends on whether and when serious health issues arise….“...A similar pattern is revealed by antidepressant use. Data from twenty-seven European nations documenting the consumption of these drugs shows an [hill-shaped] pattern across the same ages. Antidepressant use starts increasing in the mid-twenties, peaks in the late forties, and then drops through the sixties and seventies. In fact, the data make clear that people are three times more likely to take antidepressants around the age of fifty than around the ages of twenty or eighty.”David DeSteno, How God WorksScriptures Referenced:Psalm 90:3-6, 103 You turn people back to dust, saying, “Return to dust, you mortals.” 4 A thousand years in your sight are like a day that has just gone by, or like a watch in the night. 5 Yet you sweep people away in the sleep of death—they are like the new grass of the morning: 6 In the morning it springs up new, but by evening it is dry and withered... 10 Our days may come to seventy years, or eighty, if our strength endures; yet the best of them are but trouble and sorrow, for they quickly pass, and we fly away.Ecclesiastes 12:1-81 Don't let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.” 2 Remember him before the light of the sun, moon, and stars is dim to your old eyes, and rain clouds continually darken your sky. 3 Remember him before your legs—the guards of your house—start to tremble; and before your shoulders—the strong men—stoop. Remember him before your teeth—your few remaining servants—stop grinding; and before your eyes—the women looking through the windows—see dimly. 4 Remember him before the door to life's opportunities is closed and the sound of work fades. Now you rise at the first chirping of the birds, but then all their sounds will grow faint. 5 Remember him before you become fearful of falling and worry about danger in the streets; before your hair turns white like an almond tree in bloom, and you drag along without energy like a dying grasshopper, and the caperberry no longer inspires sexual desire. Remember him before you near the grave, your everlasting home, when the mourners will weep at your funeral. 6 Yes,...
This morning we discuss being traumatized by hearing the Nesaneh Tokef prayer on Rosh Hashana (who will live and who will die...), obsessing whether each moment is their last. We present two explanations of the genuine meaning of this prayer, from Rabbi Yosef Rimon, and Dr. David DeSteno, who explain the prayer can actually have (and is meant to have) the opposite effect, of increasing the happiness in our lives. Michael Whitman is the senior rabbi of ADATH Congregation in Hampstead, Quebec, and an adjunct professor at McGill University Faculty of Law. ADATH is a modern orthodox synagogue community in suburban Montreal, providing Judaism for the next generation. We take great pleasure in welcoming everyone with a warm smile, while sharing inspiration through prayer, study, and friendship. Rabbi Whitman shares his thoughts and inspirations through online lectures and shiurim, which are available on: YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/adathyoutube Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adathmichael/ Podcast - Mining the Riches of the Parsha: Apple Podcasts - https://tinyurl.com/miningtheriches1 Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/miningtheriches3 Please contact Rabbi Whitman (rabbi@adath.ca) with any questions for feedback, or to receive a daily email, "Study with Rabbi Whitman Today," with current and past insights for that day, video, and audio, all in one short email sent directly to your inbox.
This is our unabridged interview with David Desteno. Does religion make you happier? These days, many of us are prone to see religion as an artifact of pre-scientific humanity, full of non-scientific claims. For that reason, religion often gets written off as having no measurable value for everyday life. But what if the so-called goods of religion could be studied? In his most recent book How God Works, psychologist David DeSteno, suggests that religion has indeed been studied in this way, and that the results could change the way religion is viewed in the public sphere. In this episode, we hear from David as he discusses the ways the world's great religious traditions line up with cutting-edge psychological and neuroscientific findings - in other words, the ways in which religion leads to a longer, happier, healthier life. Show Notes: Similar episodes The Power of Being Known: Curt Thompson What Hath Christianity to do with Psychology?: Mark McMinn The Power of Sabbath Rest: Judith Shulevitz Seven Ways to Ruin Your Life: Rebecca DeYoung Resources mentioned this episode How God Works by David Desteno How God Works Podcast PDF of Lee's Interview Notes Transcription Link Subscribe to episodes: Apple | Spotify | Amazon | Google | YouTube Follow Us: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTube Follow Lee: Instagram | Twitter Join our Email List: nosmallendeavor.com Become a Member: Virtual Only | Standard | Premium See Privacy Policy: Privacy Policy Shop No Small Endeavor Merch: Scandalous Witness Course | Scandalous Witness Book | Joy & the Good Life Course Amazon Affiliate Disclosure: Tokens Media, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.
Does religion make you happier? These days, many of us are prone to see religion as an artifact of pre-scientific humanity, full of non-scientific claims. For that reason, religion often gets written off as having no measurable value for everyday life. But what if the so-called goods of religion could be studied? In his most recent book How God Works, psychologist David DeSteno, suggests that religion has indeed been studied in this way, and that the results could change the way religion is viewed in the public sphere. In this episode, we hear from David as he discusses the ways the world's great religious traditions line up with cutting-edge psychological and neuroscientific findings - in other words, the ways in which religion leads to a longer, happier, healthier life. Show Notes: Similar episodes The Power of Being Known: Curt Thompson What Hath Christianity to do with Psychology?: Mark McMinn The Power of Sabbath Rest: Judith Shulevitz Seven Ways to Ruin Your Life: Rebecca DeYoung Resources mentioned this episode How God Works by David Desteno How God Works Podcast PDF of Lee's Interview Notes Transcription Link Subscribe to episodes: Apple | Spotify | Amazon | Google | YouTube Follow Us: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | YouTube Follow Lee: Instagram | Twitter Join our Email List: nosmallendeavor.com Become a Member: Virtual Only | Standard | Premium See Privacy Policy: Privacy Policy Shop No Small Endeavor Merch: Scandalous Witness Course | Scandalous Witness Book | Joy & the Good Life Course Amazon Affiliate Disclosure: Tokens Media, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.
“The data shows that engagement in spiritual practices leads people to be healthier and live longer, happier lives," says David DeSteno, Ph.D. David, a psychologist and professor at Northeastern University, joins us to discuss the science behind spiritual practices and how they can benefit our well-being, plus: - How David defines spirituality (~03:07) - The science-backed health benefits of spirituality (~06:27) - The power of believing in something bigger than yourself (~09:54) - Why spirituality is just as important as exercise & nutrition (~12:49) - How organized prayer benefits your health (~14:52) - Why organized religion is declining (~18:57) - Why church should be more like Burning Man (~22:35) - Are fitness classes the new faith institutions? (~25:45) - Do fitness instructors have a greater responsibility? (~31:46) - Where spirituality meets AI technology (~34:06) - How to assess your spiritual health (~41:05) - Easy ways to flex your “soul muscles” (~43:00) - How meditation makes you nicer (~48:51) - Exciting research on psychedelics & spirituality (~52:14) - A spiritual lesson in grief (~55:35) - What to say to someone who rejects spirituality (~01:01:56) Referenced in the episode: - David's podcast, How God Works. - David's piece in the Wall Street Journal. - "Church Should Be More Like Burning Man." - mbg Podcast episode #344, with Lisa Miller, Ph.D. & her research. - David's study on motor synchrony. - Molly Crockett's research on Burning Man. - Casper te Kuile's research on fitness spaces fulfilling spiritual needs. - David's meditation & compassion study. - David's meditation & aggression study. - David's ongoing gratitude study. - Sign up for The Long Game. We hope you enjoy this episode, and feel free to watch the full video onYouTube! Whether it's an article or podcast, we want to know what we can do to help here at mindbodygreen. Let us know at: podcast@mindbodygreen.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. David DeSteno is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, where he also runs the Social Emotions Group. Throughout his career, Dave has studied the ways in which emotions guide decisions and behaviors fundamental to social living. On his podcast, How God Works, Dave explores the science behind spirituality, specifically considering what we can learn from the careful study of spiritual practices. Dave joins the podcast to discuss how religion “scooped” his scientific findings by thousands of years, why religious rituals are so effective, and what he believes we can gain by talking about science and religion together.
In this episode of Stories of Impact, we're listening to a session from the Templeton World Charity Foundation's Global Scientific Conference on Human Flourishing, which took place last fall. The conference aimed to showcase the latest and most meaningful scientific advances in understanding how humans flourish across cultures and alongside innovative new tools and strategies. Today's session is a discussion on climate change and other global challenges to human flourishing, featuring moderator Dr. Philip Ball, Dr. Katharine Hayhoe, Dr. David DeSteno and Dekila Chungyalpa. Read the transcript of this episode Subscribe to Stories of Impact wherever you listen to podcasts Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and YouTube Share your comments, questions and suggestions at info@storiesofimpact.org Supported by Templeton World Charity Foundation
Especially around the holidays, wouldn't it be great if you could get more done in less time? Listen as I explain a simple strategy that works amazingly well yet only 1 in five people bother to do it. http://www.balancetime.com/ Throughout human history and in every culture there has been religion. People are drawn to religion. Why? What does religion really do for people? That is a fascinating question. And it turns out that people who practice religion get some wonderful benefits according to David DeSteno author of the book How God Works: The Science Behind the Benefits of Religion (https://amzn.to/3AWs2Vx) and host of the podcast How God Works https://davedesteno.com/podcast . Listen as he explores the scientific findings that help explain why religion is so important, how it benefits people and how anyone can reap those benefits regardless of what you believe. What would it really be like to live in outer space? What would it do to your body and your mind. After all, humans know nothing but living with gravity. So what happens if you go for long periods of time without it? To answer that and more is someone who has actually travelled to space and lived there for a long time – TWICE! Dave Williams is an astronaut, pilot, ER physician, former Director of Space & Life Sciences at NASA's Johnson Space Center and author of the book, Why Am I Taller?: What Happens to an Astronaut's Body in Space (https://amzn.to/3FoI5xK). Listen as he explains the challenges as well as the benefits of living in space. If you've ever wondered how people sleep or eat in zero gravity, tis will be a fun conversation to listen to. “That's a whole nother story…” It is a common phrase yet it contains a word that isn't really a word – or is it? Listen as I explain what the “nother” in “a whole nother story” is all about. PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Go to https://CozyEarth.com/SOMETHING to SAVE 40% now! All backed by a 100-Night Sleep Guarantee. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world! Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts.https://www.npr.org/sections/money/ Cancel unnecessary subscriptions with Rocket Money today. Go to https://RocketMoney.com/something - Seriously, it could save you HUNDREDS of dollars per year! Shopify grows with your business anywhere. Thanks to their endless list of integrations and third-party apps - everything you need to customize your business to your needs is already in your hands. Sign up for a FREE trial at https://Shopify.com/sysk ! Did you know you could reduce the number of unwanted calls & emails with Online Privacy Protection from Discover? - And it's FREE! Just activate it in the Discover App. See terms & learn more at https://Discover.com/Online Drive Sober or Get Pulled Over. If you feel different, you drive different. Drive high, get a DUI. Paid for by NHTSA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Does religion make us happier? David Desteno discusses his book How God Works, in which he makes the argument, backed by research, that the wisdom of the world's great religious traditions lines up with recent psychological and neuroscientific findings about what constitutes a good, flourishing life.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This episode of the podcast is more monologue than dialogue, though I am in dialogue with David Desteno (in a sense). For full notes and links and essentially the text of what you hear here, check out this link:David Desteno's "How God Works" // Religioprospecting, considering the source, and minding the hackTell me: Do you see any downside to religioprospecting, or am I being an overly reactionary weirdo? (those aren't necessarily the only two options…) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit marcjolicoeur.substack.com
On this episode of the podcast I finally land a solid excuse to chat with friend and thought-wizard Jeremy MacDonald. Since he has lots of history working directly with students and now pours out his life working with people who themselves work with students, his perspective on rites of passage for young people and how they learn to “adult” in our current contexts is worth mining. We open things off by taking a cursory look at the third chapter of David Desteno's book (How God Works), then riff from there. We talk about bullet ants, bar mitzvahs, and we even have a surprise reveal near the end of the conversation from Jeremy about his future plans (unbeknownst to his wife & kids), so stay tuned!Some links for things mentioned (and unmentioned):Christian Service Brigade: https://christianservicebrigade.ca/Champion Tribes: https://www.championtribes.comYouth Worker Community: https://youthworker.community/How God Works Podcast: https://beta.prx.org/stories/401370Renegotiating Faith Report: https://p2c.com/renegotiating-faith/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit marcjolicoeur.substack.com
In a culture that values self-improvement, we can easily get caught up in the idea that we should strive to eliminate all of our negative traits. However, Kabbalah teaches that the duality of our good and bad characteristics is necessary. For without these two forces, we wouldn't have the power to choose between the two. Our consciousness awakens one or the other, and the more positive actions we do, the more goodness we create in the world. Tune in as Monica and Michael discuss the balance of darkness and Light in our lives.“The purpose of our lives is to go into the dark places and find the sparks of Light and elevate them. That is what fuels our blessings, growth, and happiness.” – Michael BergFurther Readings:Out of Character: Surprising Truths About the Liar, Cheat, Sinner (and Saint) Lurking in All of Us by David DeSteno & Piercarlo Valdesolo
How do we live longer, healthier, happier lives? That is the question David DeSteno, psychology professor at Northeastern University, explores in his new book - How God Works: the science behind the benefit of religion. In this latest episode of Into The Magic Shop, David shows how inextricably linked religion and psychology is, and the rewards that a religious life can bring: “Religions tell people: you should be good, you should be kind, you should be honest. But within the practices they're also giving people the tools to make that so .... Saying you believe in God doesn't predict anything, but engagement in spiritual practices, people who do that live longer, healthier, and happier lives.”While religious practices around the world demonstrably improve emotional and physical well being, David says you don't have to be religious to benefit from the wisdom of religion: “If you look at religious rituals, things like Ash Wednesday, it's a reminder that death may come sooner for any of us. And when that happens people turn toward the things that bring true happiness in life: social connection, care, and service toward others.”So, if you're looking for a way to live a more meaningful, fulfilled life, don't miss David share how to incorporate religious rituals into your life, in a non-religious manner. On today's podcast: What techniques actually improve people's lives How religion helps us deal with life's challenges Why faith practices increase people's health The benefits of practicing gratitude Links:How God Works
David DeSteno joins Mark Bauerlein to discuss his new book, How God Works: The Science Behind the Benefits of Religion.”
On this episode, David DeSteno joins Mark Bauerlein to discuss his new book, How God Works: The Science Behind the Benefits of Religion."
Why do people kiss under the mistletoe? When did that all start? This episode begins with a brief history of the mistletoe-kissing tradition. https://ourcommunitynow.com/local-culture/the-myth-behind-the-mistletoe You have never heard a discussion about pride, gratitude and compassion like this one. Psychology professor David Desteno of Northeastern University joins me to explain how these three emotions can fuel your personal and business success as well as create better relationships. We seldom talk about emotions as tools for success but you will find this discussion fascinating and useful for your own life. David is author of the book Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride (https://amzn.to/3FFW3sI). And he has a TED Talk about pride you can watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VML4VmSlCc&t=1190s There are always a few people on you Christmas holiday gift list who are hard to shop for. Listen as I explain a few very easy yet thoughtful gift ideas that are sure to be appreciated. We've likely all gone to the internet to look up health information or try and diagnose some symptom we're experiencing. After all there is a lot of great health information online that could be useful. However, how you use that information you find is really crucial according to cardiologist Dr. Kapil Parakh author of the book Searching for Health: The Smart Way to Find Information Online (https://amzn.to/3CORNVP). Listen as he offers some great strategies to help you better navigate the internet for the right information and then how to use it to improve your health and give you peace of mind. PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Grab NordVPN's Cyber Month Deal! Go to https://nordvpn.com/SOMETHING or use code SOMETHING to get up to 73% off your NordVPN Plan + a bonus gift! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen! Design like a pro with Canva Pro! Get a FREE 45-day extended trial. Visit https://canva.com/something Go to https://FarewayMeatMarket.com promo code: SYSK to get $100 off The Butcher's Holiday Collection and site wide free shipping! Go to https://backcountry.com/sysk to get 15% OFF your first full-priced purchase! Discover offers "Live Customer Service" with US based representatives available 24/7! Learn more at https://discover.com Visit https://ferguson.com for the best in all of your plumping supply needs! https://www.geico.com Bundle your policies and save! It's Geico easy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In celebration of the paperback book release of Sharon's latest book, Real Change, in November of 2021, the Metta Hour is releasing an anthology of interviews exploring the themes from the book.These interviews originally aired on the podcast in 2020, with Sharon speaking to various folks about the intersection of mindfulness and lovingkindness practice with social action. For Episode Two of the Real Change Anthology, the Metta Hour Podcast explores the theme of "Grief to Resilience" with interview clips featuring David DeSteno, Ellen Agler, Jack Kornfield, Jana Kiser, Sensei Joshin Byrnes, Marc Solomon, and Sebene Selassie.Sharon hosts an 8-Day Real Change Challenge Dec 6-13th, featuring daily lessons, meditations, & calls to action. Register at SharonSalzberg.comThe paperback edition of Real Change is available Nov 30th: Preorder HereSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
For thousands of years, people have turned to religion to answer questions about how to lead a happy, moral and fulfilling life. David DeSteno, PhD, a psychology professor at Northeastern University and author of the book “How God Works,” discusses how the structures and traditions of religion contribute to people's well-being, what behavioral scientists can learn from studying religion, and how those lessons can be applied outside the context of religious belief.
Dr. David DeSteno has embarked on a project he calls “religio-prospecting.” In other words, he has been looking at the scientific evidence that many ancient religious traditions can confer all sorts of benefits, whether you're a believer or not. He points out that many secular people practice mindfulness, even if they're not Buddhists. His question is - what's the next mindfulness?David DeSteno is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, where he directs the Social Emotions Group, and the author of a new book called How God Works: The Science Behind the Benefits of Religion, and is the host of a new podcast on PRX, also called “How God Works.” This episode explores David's desire to study the benefits of religious practice in a scientific way and the evidence behind such practices as: sitting shiva, gratitude, the Apache sunrise ceremony, and Japanese Shinto rituals around childbirth. Subscribe by December 1 to get 40% off a Ten Percent Happier subscription! Click here for your discount.Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/david-desteno-397See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Tyranny of Merit: What's Become of the Common Good? by: Michael J. Sandel Quick Fix: Why Fad Psychology Can't Cure Our Social Ills by: Jesse Singal Kingsport: (The Weird of Hali #2) by: John Michael Greer The General vs. the President: MacArthur and Truman at the Brink of Nuclear War by: H. W. Brands Based on a True Story: Not a Memoir by: Norm Macdonald Silmarillion by: J. R. R. Tolkien The Basic Laws of Human Stupidity by: Carlo M. Cipolla The Last Place on Earth: Scott and Amundsen's Race to the South Pole by: Roland Huntford How God Works: The Science Behind the Benefits of Religion by: David DeSteno
David DeSteno, author of How God Works, talks with What Matters Most podcast host Paul Samuel Dolman about the science of religion. The post David DeSteno #910 appeared first on Paul Samuel Dolman.
Johana Peña was a medical student at the same hospital where her mother worked as a custodian. A photo of the two of them in 2019 has gone viral. A study from David DeSteno finds that religious practices are beneficial for individuals, whether or not the individual holds any religious beliefs. In The Daily Article for October 19, 2021, Dr. Jim Denison reminds us that the gospel's validity and goodness rests in the Author, not secular studies. The Daily Article is written by Dr. Jim Denison and narrated by Chris Nichter. Subscribe to the newsletter at denisonforum.org/subscribe.
David DeSteno, Professor of psychology at Northeastern University discusses his new book, “How God Works: The Science Behind the Benefits of Religion.”
Episode Notes What can atheists learn from world religions? Today's guest is a psychology professor and researcher David DeSteno. David researches the psychology of how we can improve our well-being and has written some phenomenal books. His newest book dives into the psychology and science behind how religious practices and rituals benefit people and how we can use this research to improve our daily lives. Follow David on Twitter @daviddesteno Get a copy of How God Works Visit DavidDeSteno.com For the interview transcript visit www.TheRewiredSoul.com/interviews Follow @TheRewiredSoul on Twitter and Instagram Subscribe to The Rewired Soul Substack for free! Support The Rewired Soul: Get books by Chris Support on Patreon Try BetterHelp Online Therapy (affiliate) Donate
Podcast: Hidden Brain (LS 85 · TOP 0.01% what is this?)Episode: Where Gratitude Gets YouPub date: 2020-11-23Many of us struggle with self-control. And we assume willpower is the key to achieving our goals. But there's a simple and often overlooked mental habit that can improve our health and well-being. This week on Hidden Brain, we talk with psychologist David DeSteno about that habit — the practice of gratitude. The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Hidden Brain Media, which is the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Listen Notes, Inc.
For episode 138 of the Metta Hour, Sharon speaks with David DeSteno.David is a Psychologist who studies the ways in which emotions guide decisions and behaviors fundamental to social living. David is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, where he directs the Social Emotions Group. At the broadest level, his work examines the mechanisms of the mind that shape vice and virtue. Studying hypocrisy and compassion, pride and punishment, cheating and trust, his work continually reveals that human moral behavior is much more variable than most would predict. The National Science Foundation has repeatedly funded his work and he is the author of several book, “Emotional Success,” “The Truth About Trust,” and co-author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Out of Character.”This recording is the eleventh episode of the Real Change Podcast series. In this conversation, David and Sharon speak about how David became interested in his career as a researcher exploring how emotions shapes our lives. They discuss several studies that explore the ways meditation can affect how we respond to others with greater compassion and inclusivity, and how that does or does not translate to the systemic injustices around us. They also discuss resilience through the lens of David’s work, and what leads different people to have greater resilience and joy, regardless of their life circumstances.
College student Liam Elkind studied happiness in the class taught by Dr Laurie Santos. When the Covid 19 crisis hit, he knew exactly what to do to fight the negative emotions this pandemic arouses in us all - he helped set up a volunteer group called Invisible Hands to support vulnerable neighbors. Compassion expert David DeSteno explains why helping others can improve our own wellbeing while protecting us from emotional burnout. And with a guided meditation Dr Santos shows that compassion is thing we can nurture and develop. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
David DeSteno is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, where he directs the Social Emotions Group. David is a fellow of the Association for Psychological Science and the American Psychological Association, for which he served as editor-in-chief of the journal Emotion. His work has been repeatedly funded by the National Science Foundation and has been regularly featured in the media, including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CBS Sunday Morning, NPR's Radiolab and On Point, and USA Today. In this episode of Line Edit, he speaks with New York Times opinion editor James Ryerson about a piece titled "What Science Can Learn from Religion", the process of interviewing other scholars for his writing, and his advice for scholars looking to balance research with popular writing.Supported by the John Templeton FoundationHosting and production by James RyersonEditing and executive production by Joseph FridmanTheme composition by Stephen LaRosa of Wonder Boy AudioLogo design by Jacob Feldman and Joseph FridmanSpecial thanks to Lisa Feldman Barrett, Yvonne Malcolm and the Department of Psychology at Northeastern University, the New York Times audio team (specifically, Annie Brown, Brad Fisher, Daniel Powell, and Lisa Tobin), Mia Lobel at Pushkin Industries, and Jennifer Dale and her team at CUNY Newmark School of Journalism.
David DeSteno is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, where he directs the Social Emotions Group. He has published many books, including "Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride." In this episode, Cody talks to David about the difference between academic and popular writing, balancing your true interests with pragmatic considerations, how to be optimally interdisciplinary, and debating core beliefs versus trying to learn from one another. More info available at codykommers.com/podcast.
It takes more than drive to reach your goals.Grit and perseverance can drive you to success. But, many resolutions and goals peter out when willpower alone can’t do it. Emotions like gratitude, compassion and genuine pride help you invest in other people and yourself. You have to forego some pleasure in the moment for future gains. Emotions are a powerful part of motivation. These three emotions lead to connection with others. They make it all worthwhile. As a bonus, social relationships support you as you pursue your dreams. Self-control is easier when you use gratitude, compassion and pride to help you. Listen as Dr. David DeSteno joins Dr. Pamela Peeke to share how you can harness these emotions to achieve success. Sponsor: Smarty Pants Vitamins
It takes more than drive to reach your goals.Grit and perseverance can drive you to success. But, many resolutions and goals peter out when willpower alone can’t do it. Emotions like gratitude, compassion and genuine pride help you invest in other people and yourself. You have to forego some pleasure in the moment for future gains. Emotions are a powerful part of motivation. These three emotions lead to connection with others. They make it all worthwhile. As a bonus, social relationships support you as you pursue your dreams. Self-control is easier when you use gratitude, compassion and pride to help you. Listen as Dr. David DeSteno joins Dr. Pamela Peeke to share how you can harness these emotions to achieve success. Sponsor: Smarty Pants Vitamins
It takes more than drive to reach your goals.Grit and perseverance can drive you to success. But, many resolutions and goals peter out when willpower alone can’t do it. Emotions like gratitude, compassion and genuine pride help you invest in other people and yourself. You have to forego some pleasure in the moment for future gains. Emotions are a powerful part of motivation. These three emotions lead to connection with others. They make it all worthwhile. As a bonus, social relationships support you as you pursue your dreams. Self-control is easier when you use gratitude, compassion and pride to help you. Listen as Dr. David DeSteno joins Dr. Pamela Peeke to share how you can harness these emotions to achieve success. Sponsor: Smarty Pants Vitamins
La velocidad a la que vivimos en nuestra sociedad, hablamos de occidente, está volviendo loco a nuestro reloj interno. Nuestra sociedad es cada vez más impulsiva e impaciente. Repaso algunas de las claves sobre el fenómeno de la impaciencia e incluso me atrevo a adelantaros algunas estrategias que pueden ser útiles para recuperar algo de paciencia.La escala de Leon James. Marc Wittmann y su libro de 2016 sobre la percepción del tiempo. James Moore y uno de sus artículos sobre tiempo y emoción. Robert Levine en un excepcional trabajo sobre nuestro ritmo de vida acelerado, y el estudio mencionado sobre peatones andando en la calle. Aquí un metanálisis sobre meditación y otro. David DeSteno y uno de sus trabajos sobre la gratitud.Dejadme vuestros comentarios y sugerencias en mis redes sociales (facebook, twitter, linkedin e instagram) o en mi correo. Más acerca de mí en la web. Si queréis ayudarme a que este podcast llegue a más personas, dejadme una valoración en iTunes.
What if achieving our goals is not about willpower but about gratitude, compassion and pride? It’s natural to experience negative emotions, like discouragement, frustration, and even fear when we’re working on something hard. And every time these feelings arise, we may be tempted to overcome them with willpower. But rather than dismissing our emotions, what if we put them to work on our behalf? In this interview, David DeSteno, author of the book, Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride, explains: “Emotions push people to do hard things. And if we’re not utilizing those tools in the right way, we’re kind of fighting this battle with one hand tied behind our back.” In particular, the three emotions David champions are gratitude, compassion and pride. He explains that they not only fuel perseverance, but also “…reduce people’s blood pressure. There’s evidence they will help you sleep better at night. They will increase immune responses. In general, they basically act to destress the body.” David is a Professor of Psychology at Northeastern University and a Fellow of the American Psychological Association where he served as editor in chief of the journal, Emotion. His work has appeared in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Atlantic. The Host You can learn more about Curious Minds Host and Creator, Gayle Allen, and Producer, Rob Mancabelli, by visiting @CuriousGayle and www.gayleallen.net. Episode Links @daviddesteno http://www.davedesteno.com/ and his Social Emotions Lab at Northeastern University Psychologist Walter Mischel The Grateful Don’t Cheat: Gratitude as a Fount of Virtue by David DeSteno, Fred Duong, Daniel Lim, and Shanyu Kates Hal Hershfield Episode 124 with Liz Fosslien on Emotions at Work on her book Tom Denson, Professor at UNSW in Sydney; he studies aggression David Brooks and resume vs eulogy virtues When Students Feel They Belong, They Thrive by G. M. Walton and G. L. Cohen Classroom Belonging and Student Performance in the Introductory Engineering Classroom Nilanjana Dasgupta, Social Psychologist at UMass Amherst Simple Ways to Support the Podcast If you enjoy the podcast, there are three simple ways you can support our work. First, subscribe so you’ll never miss an episode. Second, tell a friend or family member. You’ll always have someone to talk to about the interview. Third, rate and review the podcast wherever you subscribe. You’ll be helping listeners find their next podcast. Some Places Where You Can Find Curious Minds Spotify iTunes Tunein Stitcher Google Play Overcast
During this first of three podcasts, I discuss the power of gratitude within a workplace and how a culture of gratitude helps build a solid culture and environment for employees. I will be using the framework used by David deSteno in his book, “Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride”. The link of the article is: https://hbr.org/2019/04/when-employees-feel-grateful-theyre-less-likely-to-be-dishonest
LA CONFIANZA NO SE GANA CON PROMESAS Y APARIENCIAS, SINO, CON ACCIONES; CONFIAR EN ALGUIEN IMPLICA LÓGICA, INSTINTO Y UN POCO DE FE EN LOS DEMÁS Esta idea sobre Relaciones Remarcables fue extraída de “La Verdad sobre la Confianza” (The Truth About Trust) por David DeSteno. Este título ofrece un nuevo paradigma sobre la confianza y muestra que para tener éxito en cualquier aspecto de la vida, debemos aprender a ser confiables. Recomendamos todas las ideas de este libro a cualquier persona con el deseo de mejorar y líderes con la intención de desarrollar más confianza entre los miembros de su equipo. Algo útil para dialogar ¿Cómo hago saber que soy de fiar? ¿Te sirvió esta idea? Propágala para que más personas descubran por qué es tan difícil confiar en otros y lograr que confíen en uno mismo, suscríbete en ideasinfalibles.com si aún no lo has hecho o visita ideasinfalibles.com/premium para conseguir todos los conceptos y principios de este y muchos más libros en tu vida y el trabajo.
Do you ruminate endlessly on difficult work situations? Dan and Alison answer your questions with the help of David DeSteno, a psychologist at Northeastern University. They talk through what to do when your boss constantly criticizes you, you’ve been fired unexpectedly, or your coworkers complain about you to your boss.
Which emotions are built to make us succeed? David Desteno, author of Emotional Success, asserts that when it comes to accomplishing tasks and moving forward,…
Hi there folks! Creatives Meet Business is an event and podcast series based out of Austin, Texas for artists and creatives to learn the ropes of entrepreneurship. This episode features Maggie Gentry Miller, Founder of MaggieGentry.com, who joined us in February during our roundtable event on Goal Planning. This episode uncovers the values behind goal planning and how you can create more meaningful goals for yourself. Without further ado, let's hop in and hear what she has to say! Notes: 0:00 to 1:06 - Ashland Opening Remarks and Intro of Maggie Miller 1:11 to 2:42 - Introduction of Self and Topic Mindful Moments 2:43 to 9:12 - David DeSteno Research - Power of Gratitude Delaying gratification study in the 1970s with a marshmallow and children Kids who could wait for second marshmallow had "grit" Further studies of those same children who waited for a second marshmallow hit every success marker (good grades, good colleges, good work), but they weren't living as long. Deprivation of what we want now and the pleasure of the present moment increases our stress hormones. A prolonged period of that shaves off years of life. David DeSteno says the problem is that our goals are self-serving, it doesn't rely on strengthening social bonds and community (historically what we've done) Three values that allows us to work as a collective to achieve goals: Gratitude - Look at what you're grateful for on a daily basis. Gratitude increases our threshold for patience which then increases our self control Compassion - Giving ourselves a healthy perspective of what the overall environment is Pride - Take an honest pride in your work, in your strengths, and in what you do really well Enjoy the process 9:13 to 10:30 - Danielle LaPorte - Desire Map - Create goals with soul Creating goals that make you feel the way you want to feel Looking at values (gratitude, compassion, pride) and understanding how you want to feel in pursuit of that goal, then you're finally ready to create a vision board 10:31 to 14:11 - Vision boarding Maggie does her board once a year How do I want to feel? - that's the question she uses when creating a board. Start with a central image (start in the very middle) - that's the focal point and everything builds around it After creation, post it in a place that's visible every day Gratitude journal / journaling - create a gratitude practice To accommodate pride and the process in pursuit of the goal, Maggie has a piece of paper on the wall with blank slots for the number of client spaces she has available. It's about physically creating space. 14:12 to 15:48 - Visualization Two kinds of visualization - Guided Meditation and Visualization (Power of Habit / Michael Phelps example) Michael Phelps strategy with visualization 15:51 to 20:01 - Ashland Closing Remarks Mindset by Carol Dweck // Carol Dweck TedTalk Like this podcast? Great! A rating and review is so helpful! Stay in touch, email us (ashland@cmbatx.com) or connect with us on social (@createmeetbiz on Instagram and Twitter // Creatives Meet Business on Facebook). Big thanks to Jamal Knox (audio engineer) and Chris James (composer)! If you like what you hear, share the podcast with your friends, and rate and review. To stay in the loop - follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook or subscribe to the newsletter. More Goal Planning to come, so stay tuned! Thanks! Ashland, Creatives Meet Business
Why do 92% of New Years' Resolutions fail, one year on? Why has the current cultural obsession with grit and willpower failed to move the needle on our behaviors? And why do long-time Buddhist monks demonstrate more self-control than the rest of us? Today's guest, David DeSteno, PhD, has been studying these and related issues for a long time.
Dette er den tredje episoden fra en fagdag i Mandal i mai 2018. Tema for dagen var «recovery», altså ulike perspektiver på hvordan mennesker blir friske fra sykdom, utvikler seg og lever mest mulig tilfredsstillende liv. I dagens episode snakker jeg mye om «Flokken» og hvordan gode grupper med mennesker kan skape vekst og utvikling, mens dårlig grupper kan gjøre folk syke.I denne perioden var jeg spesielt interessert i den nyeste boken til David DeSteno (2018) som heter «Emotional success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride», og før jeg tar deg med til Mandal, skal jeg begynne med en kort oppsummering av boken til DeSteno. Jeg har vært inne på den i en tidligere episode, men dette er så viktig at vi må se litt mer på hva DeSteno kan fortelle oss om den overraskende veien til suksess.Når man dykker ned i litteraturen som omhandler medfølelse og takknemlighet, finner man samstemte og oppsiktsvekkende resultater. Den nye boken til psykologiprofessor David DeSteno (2018) ved Northeastern University i Boston tar for seg hvordan prososiale følelser utviklet seg for at vi skulle klare å motstå umiddelbare fristelser til fordel for langsiktig måloppnåelse. Det er ikke uvanlig å anta at mye viljestyrke er viktig for å lykkes. Vi kan tilstrebe viljestyrke gjennom selvfornektelse, men de fleste av oss gir opp nyttårsforsettet før vi ser enden av januar. Viljestyrke er med andre ord et svakt og ustabilt utgangspunkt for å lykkes. DeSteno viser oss derimot at motivasjon og selvdisiplin for å nå langsiktige mål i bunn og grunn er knyttet til prososiale følelser.DeSteno setter sin hypotese inn i en evolusjonspsykologisk kontekst. Han argumenterer for at mennesket er et sosialt vesen som overlever i kraft av sin tilhørighet i flokken. For at flokken skal fungere, må den enkelte være villig til å ofre noe for gruppas ve og vel. En gruppe fungerer dårlig dersom den består av en haug med egoister. Dermed har vi utviklet evnen til å utsette umiddelbare impulser og behov for å sikre gruppa som helhet på litt lengre sikt. Denne egenskapen er altså noe vi har tilegnet oss fordi sosial samhandling gagner oss som rase. Vår evne til å tenke mer langsiktig, utsette umiddelbare behov, utøve selvdisiplin og ofre egne goder for å vinne noe i en tenkt fremtid, er altså egenskaper tett forbundet med våre sosiale forpliktelser, og dermed vil de samme egenskapene ha langt mindre kraft dersom de brukes kun for vår egen del. På et slikt grunnlag, supplert av en haug med underfundige eksperimenter, konkluderer DeSteno med at prososiale følelser knytter oss til fellesskapet og sørger for at vi lykkes med de målene vi setter oss. Når vi forsøker å nå våre mål alene, med viljestyrke som våpen, har vi langt mindre suksess. Dermed er du bedre tjent med å kultivere medfølelse, takknemlighet og omsorg for dine omgivelser dersom du vil lykkes i livet. Når jeg leser boken til DeSteno, tenker jeg på Dalai Lama som stadig forteller oss at vi bør meditere på kjærlighet og medfølelse, noe som gir mening i denne konteksten. Det er vel heller ikke uten grunn at Jesus var så opptatt av å være raus, kjærlig og medfølende.Det neste spørsmålet er hvordan vi skal kultivere medfølelse og takknemlighet i et samfunn som ikke praktiserer buddhisme eller tenker så mye på Jesus. I denne sammenhengen nevner DeSteno spesielt to disipliner som kan vise til gode resultater. Blant annet viser flere studier at meditasjon eller mindfulness er en øvelse som kan stimulerer prososiale følelser. Evnen til å hvile som en observatør til et ego som kjemper «livets kamp», demper stresset forbundet med hverdagslivets jag, og det er en viktig nøkkel til mental overskudd. I overskudd har vi mer å gi til andre, og vi kan løfte oss litt ut av et egosentrisk fokus til fordel for en mer altruistisk holdning, noe som altså er forbudet med det DeSteno kaller følelsesmessig suksess.Dernest nevner DeSteno takknemlighetsdagbok som en øvelse med gode meritter. De fleste av oss er disponert for å tenke negativt, og vi er flinke til å se for oss hva som kan gå galt. Tross alt er det mye mer som kan gå galt enn motsatt. Hvis du ber noen beskrive hva som kan skje i løpet av dagen for at dagen skal bli mye bedre, så kommer de ofte på to eller tre ting, men så er det stopp. Dersom du ber dem tenke over hva som kan gå galt før mørket senker seg, kan de holde på i timevis. Det er greit å være på vakt mot mulige farer, og det sørger for overlevelse. Men det betyr også at mye av vårt fokus er farget av tenkning som grenser mot krisemaksimering. Et slikt fokus skaper stress og en mild panikk for å mangle noe hvis ulykken inntreffer. Det er ikke det beste utgangspunktet for raushet, medfølelse og omtanke for andre. For å endre fokus, kan man med viten og vilje sørge for å legge merke til alt som er godt og alt man er takknemlig for. Dette er noe vi kan praktisere hver kveld i en dagbok, men det er også et fokus vi kan tilstrebe å ta med oss inn i hverdagen. Hver gang vi kjenner en «varm» følelse eller en form for takknemlighet og godhet for andre, kan vi legge merke til det. Hvis vi legger merke til det, kan det hende at følelsen blir værende i 10 sekunder istedenfor 5, og det er tross alt dobbelt så lenge. Mange vil oppleve at fokus på takknemlighet vil endre livet dramatisk.I dagens episode begynner jeg altså med DeSteno, ettersom denne boken inspirerte meg mye da den kom i januar 2018. Deretter springer jeg ut i mange retninger, og noen vil kanskje mene at dette er fri assosiasjon på ville veier. Hvis det finnes en rød tråd i dette, så er det helse og tilfrisking. Jeg snakker om forholdet mellom kropp og psyke, trening, psykoterapi, mindfulness og det som kalles “recoverey”, ettersom det er overskriften på fagdagen i Mandal. Jeg snakker også litt om den siste boken jeg har skrevet som heter Psykologens journal. Den kan selvfølgelig bestilles fra WebPsykolon.no, og den handler om livets store spørsmål. Det er en bok hvor jeg er mer personlig til stede i samtaler om psykologi, filosofi og religion. Det er vanskelig å snakke om de store spørsmålene uten å forholde seg til menneskets religiøse overbevisninger. Med andre ord er tematikk for dagens episode ganske omfangsrik, og du som følger SinnSyn vil ha hørt en del av dette i tidligere episoder. Før vi tar turen til Mandal, klarer jeg ikke å fri meg fra å spille et lite klipp hvor George tar for seg flere av teamene som dukker opp i dagens episode. Den kjente karakteren fra Seinfeld går til psykolog og snakker om suksess, fiasko, Gud og helseangst.Hør episoden i spilleren øverst i denne artikkelen! TAKK FOR AT DU HØRER PÅ OG TAKK FOR DIN STØTTESondre Risholm Liverød har skrevet tre bøker om psykologi og selvutvikling for fagfolk og folk flest, og de kan anskaffes fra WebPsykologens bokhandel. Her får man bøkene til best pris med gratis frakt og rask levering. WebPsykologen ønsker å spre kunnskap om psykisk helse til så mange som mulig, og det skal være gratis og lett tilgjengelig. Vi er opptatt av å formidle psykologi, filosofi og nye redskaper for å tenke annerledes. Vi håper at det vi gjør kan stimulere alle som er litt interessert i psykologi og menneskets muligheter for vekst og utvikling. Det er imidlertid mye jobb å holde liv i nettsiden og podcasten, og dersom du setter pris på dette arbeidet, kan du først og fremst støtte prosjektet ved å kjøpe bøkene mine fra WebPsykologen.no. Du kan også støtte prosjektet ved å dele det i sosiale medier, anbefale SinnSyn til venner og bekjente, skrive om tematikk fra SinnSyn i din egen blogg eller nevne webpsykologen på din egen podcast. Det er også veldig verdifullt med tilbakemeldinger i iTunes. Stjerner i iTunes forteller at podcasten faller i smak, og da vil iTunes holde den synlig på sine topplister og anbefalinger. Jeg er veldig takknemlig for all den støtte vi allerede har fått, og vil takke på forhånd til dere som har til hensikt å anbefale oss til flere. TAKK! KildeDeSteno, David (2018). Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride. USA: Eamon Dolan/Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.Av Sondre Risholm LiverødPsykologspesialistWebPsykologen.no Få tilgang til ALT ekstramateriale som medlem på SinnSyns Mentale Helsestudio via SinnSyn-appen her: https://www.webpsykologen.no/et-mentalt-helsestudio-i-lomma/ eller som Patreon-Medlem her: https://www.patreon.com/sinnsyn. 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Dette er den tredje episoden fra en fagdag i Mandal i mai 2018. Tema for dagen var «recovery», altså ulike perspektiver på hvordan mennesker blir friske fra sykdom, utvikler seg og lever mest mulig tilfredsstillende liv. I dagens episode snakker jeg mye om «Flokken» og hvordan gode grupper med mennesker kan skape vekst og utvikling, mens dårlig grupper kan gjøre folk syke.I denne perioden var jeg spesielt interessert i den nyeste boken til David DeSteno (2018) som heter «Emotional success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride», og før jeg tar deg med til Mandal, skal jeg begynne med en kort oppsummering av boken til DeSteno. Jeg har vært inne på den i en tidligere episode, men dette er så viktig at vi må se litt mer på hva DeSteno kan fortelle oss om den overraskende veien til suksess.Når man dykker ned i litteraturen som omhandler medfølelse og takknemlighet, finner man samstemte og oppsiktsvekkende resultater. Den nye boken til psykologiprofessor David DeSteno (2018) ved Northeastern University i Boston tar for seg hvordan prososiale følelser utviklet seg for at vi skulle klare å motstå umiddelbare fristelser til fordel for langsiktig måloppnåelse. Det er ikke uvanlig å anta at mye viljestyrke er viktig for å lykkes. Vi kan tilstrebe viljestyrke gjennom selvfornektelse, men de fleste av oss gir opp nyttårsforsettet før vi ser enden av januar. Viljestyrke er med andre ord et svakt og ustabilt utgangspunkt for å lykkes. DeSteno viser oss derimot at motivasjon og selvdisiplin for å nå langsiktige mål i bunn og grunn er knyttet til prososiale følelser.DeSteno setter sin hypotese inn i en evolusjonspsykologisk kontekst. Han argumenterer for at mennesket er et sosialt vesen som overlever i kraft av sin tilhørighet i flokken. For at flokken skal fungere, må den enkelte være villig til å ofre noe for gruppas ve og vel. En gruppe fungerer dårlig dersom den består av en haug med egoister. Dermed har vi utviklet evnen til å utsette umiddelbare impulser og behov for å sikre gruppa som helhet på litt lengre sikt. Denne egenskapen er altså noe vi har tilegnet oss fordi sosial samhandling gagner oss som rase. Vår evne til å tenke mer langsiktig, utsette umiddelbare behov, utøve selvdisiplin og ofre egne goder for å vinne noe i en tenkt fremtid, er altså egenskaper tett forbundet med våre sosiale forpliktelser, og dermed vil de samme egenskapene ha langt mindre kraft dersom de brukes kun for vår egen del. På et slikt grunnlag, supplert av en haug med underfundige eksperimenter, konkluderer DeSteno med at prososiale følelser knytter oss til fellesskapet og sørger for at vi lykkes med de målene vi setter oss. Når vi forsøker å nå våre mål alene, med viljestyrke som våpen, har vi langt mindre suksess. Dermed er du bedre tjent med å kultivere medfølelse, takknemlighet og omsorg for dine omgivelser dersom du vil lykkes i livet. Når jeg leser boken til DeSteno, tenker jeg på Dalai Lama som stadig forteller oss at vi bør meditere på kjærlighet og medfølelse, noe som gir mening i denne konteksten. Det er vel heller ikke uten grunn at Jesus var så opptatt av å være raus, kjærlig og medfølende.Det neste spørsmålet er hvordan vi skal kultivere medfølelse og takknemlighet i et samfunn som ikke praktiserer buddhisme eller tenker så mye på Jesus. I denne sammenhengen nevner DeSteno spesielt to disipliner som kan vise til gode resultater. Blant annet viser flere studier at meditasjon eller mindfulness er en øvelse som kan stimulerer prososiale følelser. Evnen til å hvile som en observatør til et ego som kjemper «livets kamp», demper stresset forbundet med hverdagslivets jag, og det er en viktig nøkkel til mental overskudd. I overskudd har vi mer å gi til andre, og vi kan løfte oss litt ut av et egosentrisk fokus til fordel for en mer altruistisk holdning, noe som altså er forbudet med det DeSteno kaller følelsesmessig suksess.Dernest nevner DeSteno takknemlighetsdagbok som en øvelse med gode meritter. De fleste av oss er disponert for å tenke negativt, og vi er flinke til å se for oss hva som kan gå galt. Tross alt er det mye mer som kan gå galt enn motsatt. Hvis du ber noen beskrive hva som kan skje i løpet av dagen for at dagen skal bli mye bedre, så kommer de ofte på to eller tre ting, men så er det stopp. Dersom du ber dem tenke over hva som kan gå galt før mørket senker seg, kan de holde på i timevis. Det er greit å være på vakt mot mulige farer, og det sørger for overlevelse. Men det betyr også at mye av vårt fokus er farget av tenkning som grenser mot krisemaksimering. Et slikt fokus skaper stress og en mild panikk for å mangle noe hvis ulykken inntreffer. Det er ikke det beste utgangspunktet for raushet, medfølelse og omtanke for andre. For å endre fokus, kan man med viten og vilje sørge for å legge merke til alt som er godt og alt man er takknemlig for. Dette er noe vi kan praktisere hver kveld i en dagbok, men det er også et fokus vi kan tilstrebe å ta med oss inn i hverdagen. Hver gang vi kjenner en «varm» følelse eller en form for takknemlighet og godhet for andre, kan vi legge merke til det. Hvis vi legger merke til det, kan det hende at følelsen blir værende i 10 sekunder istedenfor 5, og det er tross alt dobbelt så lenge. Mange vil oppleve at fokus på takknemlighet vil endre livet dramatisk.I dagens episode begynner jeg altså med DeSteno, ettersom denne boken inspirerte meg mye da den kom i januar 2018. Deretter springer jeg ut i mange retninger, og noen vil kanskje mene at dette er fri assosiasjon på ville veier. Hvis det finnes en rød tråd i dette, så er det helse og tilfrisking. Jeg snakker om forholdet mellom kropp og psyke, trening, psykoterapi, mindfulness og det som kalles “recoverey”, ettersom det er overskriften på fagdagen i Mandal. Jeg snakker også litt om den siste boken jeg har skrevet som heter Psykologens journal. Den kan selvfølgelig bestilles fra WebPsykolon.no, og den handler om livets store spørsmål. Det er en bok hvor jeg er mer personlig til stede i samtaler om psykologi, filosofi og religion. Det er vanskelig å snakke om de store spørsmålene uten å forholde seg til menneskets religiøse overbevisninger. Med andre ord er tematikk for dagens episode ganske omfangsrik, og du som følger SinnSyn vil ha hørt en del av dette i tidligere episoder. Før vi tar turen til Mandal, klarer jeg ikke å fri meg fra å spille et lite klipp hvor George tar for seg flere av teamene som dukker opp i dagens episode. Den kjente karakteren fra Seinfeld går til psykolog og snakker om suksess, fiasko, Gud og helseangst.Hør episoden i spilleren øverst i denne artikkelen! TAKK FOR AT DU HØRER PÅ OG TAKK FOR DIN STØTTESondre Risholm Liverød har skrevet tre bøker om psykologi og selvutvikling for fagfolk og folk flest, og de kan anskaffes fra WebPsykologens bokhandel. Her får man bøkene til best pris med gratis frakt og rask levering. WebPsykologen ønsker å spre kunnskap om psykisk helse til så mange som mulig, og det skal være gratis og lett tilgjengelig. Vi er opptatt av å formidle psykologi, filosofi og nye redskaper for å tenke annerledes. Vi håper at det vi gjør kan stimulere alle som er litt interessert i psykologi og menneskets muligheter for vekst og utvikling. Det er imidlertid mye jobb å holde liv i nettsiden og podcasten, og dersom du setter pris på dette arbeidet, kan du først og fremst støtte prosjektet ved å kjøpe bøkene mine fra WebPsykologen.no. Du kan også støtte prosjektet ved å dele det i sosiale medier, anbefale SinnSyn til venner og bekjente, skrive om tematikk fra SinnSyn i din egen blogg eller nevne webpsykologen på din egen podcast. Det er også veldig verdifullt med tilbakemeldinger i iTunes. Stjerner i iTunes forteller at podcasten faller i smak, og da vil iTunes holde den synlig på sine topplister og anbefalinger. Jeg er veldig takknemlig for all den støtte vi allerede har fått, og vil takke på forhånd til dere som har til hensikt å anbefale oss til flere. TAKK! KildeDeSteno, David (2018). Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride. USA: Eamon Dolan/Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.Av Sondre Risholm LiverødPsykologspesialistWebPsykologen.no See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Dette er den tredje episoden fra en fagdag i Mandal i mai 2018. Tema for dagen var «recovery», altså ulike perspektiver på hvordan mennesker blir friske fra sykdom, utvikler seg og lever mest mulig tilfredsstillende liv. I dagens episode snakker jeg mye om «Flokken» og hvordan gode grupper med mennesker kan skape vekst og utvikling, mens dårlig grupper kan gjøre folk syke.I denne perioden var jeg spesielt interessert i den nyeste boken til David DeSteno (2018) som heter «Emotional success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride», og før jeg tar deg med til Mandal, skal jeg begynne med en kort oppsummering av boken til DeSteno. Jeg har vært inne på den i en tidligere episode, men dette er så viktig at vi må se litt mer på hva DeSteno kan fortelle oss om den overraskende veien til suksess.Når man dykker ned i litteraturen som omhandler medfølelse og takknemlighet, finner man samstemte og oppsiktsvekkende resultater. Den nye boken til psykologiprofessor David DeSteno (2018) ved Northeastern University i Boston tar for seg hvordan prososiale følelser utviklet seg for at vi skulle klare å motstå umiddelbare fristelser til fordel for langsiktig måloppnåelse. Det er ikke uvanlig å anta at mye viljestyrke er viktig for å lykkes. Vi kan tilstrebe viljestyrke gjennom selvfornektelse, men de fleste av oss gir opp nyttårsforsettet før vi ser enden av januar. Viljestyrke er med andre ord et svakt og ustabilt utgangspunkt for å lykkes. DeSteno viser oss derimot at motivasjon og selvdisiplin for å nå langsiktige mål i bunn og grunn er knyttet til prososiale følelser.DeSteno setter sin hypotese inn i en evolusjonspsykologisk kontekst. Han argumenterer for at mennesket er et sosialt vesen som overlever i kraft av sin tilhørighet i flokken. For at flokken skal fungere, må den enkelte være villig til å ofre noe for gruppas ve og vel. En gruppe fungerer dårlig dersom den består av en haug med egoister. Dermed har vi utviklet evnen til å utsette umiddelbare impulser og behov for å sikre gruppa som helhet på litt lengre sikt. Denne egenskapen er altså noe vi har tilegnet oss fordi sosial samhandling gagner oss som rase. Vår evne til å tenke mer langsiktig, utsette umiddelbare behov, utøve selvdisiplin og ofre egne goder for å vinne noe i en tenkt fremtid, er altså egenskaper tett forbundet med våre sosiale forpliktelser, og dermed vil de samme egenskapene ha langt mindre kraft dersom de brukes kun for vår egen del. På et slikt grunnlag, supplert av en haug med underfundige eksperimenter, konkluderer DeSteno med at prososiale følelser knytter oss til fellesskapet og sørger for at vi lykkes med de målene vi setter oss. Når vi forsøker å nå våre mål alene, med viljestyrke som våpen, har vi langt mindre suksess. Dermed er du bedre tjent med å kultivere medfølelse, takknemlighet og omsorg for dine omgivelser dersom du vil lykkes i livet. Når jeg leser boken til DeSteno, tenker jeg på Dalai Lama som stadig forteller oss at vi bør meditere på kjærlighet og medfølelse, noe som gir mening i denne konteksten. Det er vel heller ikke uten grunn at Jesus var så opptatt av å være raus, kjærlig og medfølende.Det neste spørsmålet er hvordan vi skal kultivere medfølelse og takknemlighet i et samfunn som ikke praktiserer buddhisme eller tenker så mye på Jesus. I denne sammenhengen nevner DeSteno spesielt to disipliner som kan vise til gode resultater. Blant annet viser flere studier at meditasjon eller mindfulness er en øvelse som kan stimulerer prososiale følelser. Evnen til å hvile som en observatør til et ego som kjemper «livets kamp», demper stresset forbundet med hverdagslivets jag, og det er en viktig nøkkel til mental overskudd. I overskudd har vi mer å gi til andre, og vi kan løfte oss litt ut av et egosentrisk fokus til fordel for en mer altruistisk holdning, noe som altså er forbudet med det DeSteno kaller følelsesmessig suksess.Dernest nevner DeSteno takknemlighetsdagbok som en øvelse med gode meritter. De fleste av oss er disponert for å tenke negativt, og vi er flinke til å se for oss hva som kan gå galt. Tross alt er det mye mer som kan gå galt enn motsatt. Hvis du ber noen beskrive hva som kan skje i løpet av dagen for at dagen skal bli mye bedre, så kommer de ofte på to eller tre ting, men så er det stopp. Dersom du ber dem tenke over hva som kan gå galt før mørket senker seg, kan de holde på i timevis. Det er greit å være på vakt mot mulige farer, og det sørger for overlevelse. Men det betyr også at mye av vårt fokus er farget av tenkning som grenser mot krisemaksimering. Et slikt fokus skaper stress og en mild panikk for å mangle noe hvis ulykken inntreffer. Det er ikke det beste utgangspunktet for raushet, medfølelse og omtanke for andre. For å endre fokus, kan man med viten og vilje sørge for å legge merke til alt som er godt og alt man er takknemlig for. Dette er noe vi kan praktisere hver kveld i en dagbok, men det er også et fokus vi kan tilstrebe å ta med oss inn i hverdagen. Hver gang vi kjenner en «varm» følelse eller en form for takknemlighet og godhet for andre, kan vi legge merke til det. Hvis vi legger merke til det, kan det hende at følelsen blir værende i 10 sekunder istedenfor 5, og det er tross alt dobbelt så lenge. Mange vil oppleve at fokus på takknemlighet vil endre livet dramatisk.I dagens episode begynner jeg altså med DeSteno, ettersom denne boken inspirerte meg mye da den kom i januar 2018. Deretter springer jeg ut i mange retninger, og noen vil kanskje mene at dette er fri assosiasjon på ville veier. Hvis det finnes en rød tråd i dette, så er det helse og tilfrisking. Jeg snakker om forholdet mellom kropp og psyke, trening, psykoterapi, mindfulness og det som kalles “recoverey”, ettersom det er overskriften på fagdagen i Mandal. Jeg snakker også litt om den siste boken jeg har skrevet som heter Psykologens journal. Den kan selvfølgelig bestilles fra WebPsykolon.no, og den handler om livets store spørsmål. Det er en bok hvor jeg er mer personlig til stede i samtaler om psykologi, filosofi og religion. Det er vanskelig å snakke om de store spørsmålene uten å forholde seg til menneskets religiøse overbevisninger. Med andre ord er tematikk for dagens episode ganske omfangsrik, og du som følger SinnSyn vil ha hørt en del av dette i tidligere episoder. Før vi tar turen til Mandal, klarer jeg ikke å fri meg fra å spille et lite klipp hvor George tar for seg flere av teamene som dukker opp i dagens episode. Den kjente karakteren fra Seinfeld går til psykolog og snakker om suksess, fiasko, Gud og helseangst.Hør episoden i spilleren øverst i denne artikkelen! TAKK FOR AT DU HØRER PÅ OG TAKK FOR DIN STØTTESondre Risholm Liverød har skrevet tre bøker om psykologi og selvutvikling for fagfolk og folk flest, og de kan anskaffes fra WebPsykologens bokhandel. Her får man bøkene til best pris med gratis frakt og rask levering. WebPsykologen ønsker å spre kunnskap om psykisk helse til så mange som mulig, og det skal være gratis og lett tilgjengelig. Vi er opptatt av å formidle psykologi, filosofi og nye redskaper for å tenke annerledes. Vi håper at det vi gjør kan stimulere alle som er litt interessert i psykologi og menneskets muligheter for vekst og utvikling. Det er imidlertid mye jobb å holde liv i nettsiden og podcasten, og dersom du setter pris på dette arbeidet, kan du først og fremst støtte prosjektet ved å kjøpe bøkene mine fra WebPsykologen.no. Du kan også støtte prosjektet ved å dele det i sosiale medier, anbefale SinnSyn til venner og bekjente, skrive om tematikk fra SinnSyn i din egen blogg eller nevne webpsykologen på din egen podcast. Det er også veldig verdifullt med tilbakemeldinger i iTunes. Stjerner i iTunes forteller at podcasten faller i smak, og da vil iTunes holde den synlig på sine topplister og anbefalinger. Jeg er veldig takknemlig for all den støtte vi allerede har fått, og vil takke på forhånd til dere som har til hensikt å anbefale oss til flere. TAKK! KildeDeSteno, David (2018). Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride. USA: Eamon Dolan/Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.Av Sondre Risholm LiverødPsykologspesialistWebPsykologen.no See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
In this episode, we discuss why the way we think about grit and willpower is fundamentally wrong. Self-control is one of the most research-validated strategies for long-term success - but the way we think about cultivating is fundamentally wrong. Emotions don’t get in the way of self-control - they are actually the path forward to sustainable and renewable willpower. How do we develop the emotions that underpin grit, self-control, and achievement? We dig into that and much more with our guest Dr. David DeSteno. Dr. David DeSteno is an author and professor of psychology at North-Eastern University where he directs the Social Emotions Group. He is a fellow of the Association for Psychological Science and the American Psychological Association. His work has been featured in the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and more!What do Marshmallows have to do with success?What do Buddhist monks and hot sauce have to do with the most effective strategies for succeeding over the long term?Lower debt, lower addictive behavior, better SAT scores, and higher overall life success can be predicted by the ability to resist temptation and delay gratificationThere’s NO DOUBT that delayed gratification/resisting temptation is highly correlated with success The real question is - what’s the best way to create self-control. Does willpower actually work? Do our emotions get in the way of self-control?Self-control didn’t evolve so that we could save money for retirement or complete Whole 30. It evolved to help us develop strong relationshipsWhat are the mechanisms that create fairness and good character? Positive emotions. Rather than being a roadblock to self-control, emotions may actually be the best way to develop self-controlRevisiting the marshmallow test for adults - and determining what really works to help adults develop self-control The three emotions of developing self-controlGratitudeCompassionPridePeople who have more of these pro-social emotions (gratitude, compassion, and pride) persevere 40% longer than someone who doesn't. Most successful teams at organizations like Google are predicated on empathy and compassion, not technical skill. These emotions seem to form “pushing vs pulling” - more sustainable and powerful strategy of self-control The pro-social emotions are “the font of virtue” - you don’t have to struggle and remind yourself, they naturally create more self-control53% of Americans feel lonely in their work lives. Loneliness is as bad for your health as smoking. Pro social emotions not only give you “grit” - they give you “grace” - and the ability to invest in others and to help them. Resume virtues vs eulogy virtues - what are they and how do we balance them?Should you be a jerk or should you be nice in order to succeed?Self-control is double sided - it's about both controlling negative impulses (anger, etc) and making positive long-term choices (eat healthily, save money, etc)Meditation does not tamp down your negative responses, it prevents them from arising in the first placeKey strategies for cultivating pro-social emotionsGratitude practicesMeditationPerspective taking exercisesSelf-compassionWhy Pride? Is that really a positive and pro-social emotion?People will work 40% longer when they feel “proud” of the work they are doingEmotionally based strategies for self-control are more robust and sustainableHomework: Choose your emotion and pick a weekly practice to start implementing itGratitudeMeditationCompassion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
To achieve your goals, you probably think you need one key ingredient: willpower. Grit. Self-control. Discipline. To hear a lot of self-improvement gurus tell it, if you want to get your life together, then just get it together. Just do it. Yet while these motivational calls certainly feel good and make us pump our fists, how well does willpower-ing your way to your goals work in reality? If you're like a lot of people, who have a string of half-finished aims heaped in the dustbin of their lives, you know the answer is: "Not very well." My guest todayargues that there's a reason for that -- that while willpower does have a role in our lives, there's actually a better source of motivation at our disposal: our emotions. His name is David DeSteno and he's the author of the book Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride. TodayDeSteno makes the case that cultivating certain feelings will actually enhance our self-control and help us become who we want to be more than simply relying on willpower to get the job done. Get the show notes at aom.is/emotionalsuccess.
Reaching our goals is partly what makes us feel good about life—we want to contribute, we want to feel competent at what we do, and we want to feel like we are learning and growing. But so often we face a problem: what we need to accomplish feels like the last thing we want to do, so we procrastinate or create all kinds of tricks to try to get ourselves to work harder that often don't work. Today we talk with someone who says our overemphasis on a topdown approach to self-control is faulty. In fact, too much of it will harm us in the long run. David DeSteno, a professor and researcher at Northeastern University, talks about a different approach in his new book, Emotional Success. There are three emotions we can cultivate that not only enrich our lives, but they help us be more gritty without the longterm consequences.
Northeastern University's David DeSteno believes you don't have to be a jerk to get ahead. In fact gratitude compassion and pride can lead to better outcomes. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
I denne episoden snakker jeg om flere ting, men mye handler om hvordan prososiale følelser kan berike livet vårt på tvers av ulike områder. Dalai Lama sier at vi skal meditere på medfølelse og kjærlighet, og Jesus anbefaler oss å være romslige, tilgivende og takknemlige. Dette er klisjeer, men det er klisjeer som funker. Den siste boka til David deSteno er full av forskning og eksperimenter som har til hensikt å undersøke påstandene i de gamle visdomstradisjonene. Lønner det seg å være mer takknemlig, ha medfølelse og være opptatt av andre. Svaret er Ja, og nå skal jeg snakke litt om hvorfor, i tillegg til en hel haug av andre assosiasjoner jeg fikk underveis, og som du kanskje har hørt meg snakke om før. I denne peisoden tar vi turen til et hotell i Kristikansand, klokken er halv ni, det er mye snø i midten av februar 2018.Flr foredraget snakker jeg litt om de usedvanlig gode menenskene. Noen mennesker tapper oss for energi og egger til konflikt slik at samværet blir belastende. Andre skaper en åpen, trygg og vitaliserende atmosfære. Hva kjennetegner de beste medmenneskene? Få tilgang til ALT ekstramateriale som medlem på SinnSyns Mentale Helsestudio via SinnSyn-appen her: https://www.webpsykologen.no/et-mentalt-helsestudio-i-lomma/ eller som Patreon-Medlem her: https://www.patreon.com/sinnsyn. For reklamefri pod og bonus-episoder kan du bli SinnSyn Pluss abonnent her https://plus.acast.com/s/sinnsyn. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I denne episoden snakker jeg om flere ting, men mye handler om hvordan prososiale følelser kan berike livet vårt på tvers av ulike områder. Dalai Lama sier at vi skal meditere på medfølelse og kjærlighet, og Jesus anbefaler oss å være romslige, tilgivende og takknemlige. Dette er klisjeer, men det er klisjeer som funker. Den siste boka til David deSteno er full av forskning og eksperimenter som har til hensikt å undersøke påstandene i de gamle visdomstradisjonene. Lønner det seg å være mer takknemlig, ha medfølelse og være opptatt av andre. Svaret er Ja, og nå skal jeg snakke litt om hvorfor, i tillegg til en hel haug av andre assosiasjoner jeg fikk underveis, og som du kanskje har hørt meg snakke om før. I denne peisoden tar vi turen til et hotell i Kristikansand, klokken er halv ni, det er mye snø i midten av februar 2018.Flr foredraget snakker jeg litt om de usedvanlig gode menenskene. Noen mennesker tapper oss for energi og egger til konflikt slik at samværet blir belastende. Andre skaper en åpen, trygg og vitaliserende atmosfære. Hva kjennetegner de beste medmenneskene? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
I denne episoden snakker jeg om flere ting, men mye handler om hvordan prososiale følelser kan berike livet vårt på tvers av ulike områder. Dalai Lama sier at vi skal meditere på medfølelse og kjærlighet, og Jesus anbefaler oss å være romslige, tilgivende og takknemlige. Dette er klisjeer, men det er klisjeer som funker. Den siste boka til David deSteno er full av forskning og eksperimenter som har til hensikt å undersøke påstandene i de gamle visdomstradisjonene. Lønner det seg å være mer takknemlig, ha medfølelse og være opptatt av andre. Svaret er Ja, og nå skal jeg snakke litt om hvorfor, i tillegg til en hel haug av andre assosiasjoner jeg fikk underveis, og som du kanskje har hørt meg snakke om før. I denne peisoden tar vi turen til et hotell i Kristikansand, klokken er halv ni, det er mye snø i midten av februar 2018.Flr foredraget snakker jeg litt om de usedvanlig gode menenskene. Noen mennesker tapper oss for energi og egger til konflikt slik at samværet blir belastende. Andre skaper en åpen, trygg og vitaliserende atmosfære. Hva kjennetegner de beste medmenneskene? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
David Desteno is a Professor of Psychology at Northeastern University where he directs the social immersions group. David’s research examines the mechanisms of the mind that shape vice and virtue, and his work continually reveals that human moral behaviour is much more variable than most would predict. He’s regularly featured in the media, including the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Harvard Business Review to name just a few. David is the author of several books including Emotional Success, The Truth about Trust, and the co-author of the Wall Street Journal’s spotlight psychology best seller, Out of Character. In today’s episode David shares his research on self-control and why harnessing social emotions – like gratitude, compassion and pride – can be an effective and energizing way to improve our levels of grit. Connect with David Desteno: Website: www.davedesteno.com [free_product_purchase id="24033"] You’ll Learn: [01:56] - David talks about the ability to be future oriented and persevere to our future goals is an important part of life. [03:27] - David explains how the human mind tends to discount the value of the future. [05:01] - David lists gratitude, compassion and pride, as the social emotions that help with control and grit? [06:58] - David discusses how being self interested and aggressive is not an effective recipe for success, in the long term. [07:42] - David explains that what is adaptive for helping other people is adaptive for ourselves as well. [09:03] - David talks about how people who practise gratitude, compassion and pride, will demonstrate greater perseverence and less procrastination. He also discusses how the practise of meditation and mindfulnes can improve these qualities. [10:21] - David talks about making a habit of taking pride in steps along the way, not just when you reach your ultimate goal. [14:02] - David explains how pride can lead to perseverance. [15:47] - David gives examples of things that we can do to create a sense of authentic pride for ourselves. [17:21] - David details the intersection between the social emotions and our ability to maintain a growth mindset as we go about our jobs. [18:42] - David talks about our biases on who we choose to show compassion to, and how. [20:00] - David gives some practical tips on how to cultivate more compassion to improve relationships at work. [21:32] - David lists some other emotions that play into our social relationships, impact the choices we make, and our levels of self-control and grit. [22:24] - Lightning round with David Desteno. Your Resources: Emotional Success by David Desteno The Truth About Trust by David Desteno Power Paradox by Dacher Keltner Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for joining me again this week. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see at the bottom of this post. Please leave an honest review for the Making Positive Psychology Work Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. And don’t forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to get automatic updates. It’s free! You can also listen to all the episodes of Making Positive Psychology Work streamed directly to your smartphone or iPad through stitcher. No need for downloading or syncing. Until next time, take care! Thank you David!
What's the best way to build self-control, patience, productivity, and delayed marshmallow eating? For decades psychologists and economists have told us to develop traits like willpower and grit. But psychologist David DeSteno describes a better, easier, and more effective path--the emotions. We talk to David about his new (not-self-help) book "Emotional Success," which argues that the emotions of gratitude, pride, and compassion can help us fulfill long-term goals and (as a special bonus) make us happier and better people. Plus, David and Tamler take a quiz that measures how utilitarian they are, and you won't believe the results!!! (Actually, you will.) This episode is sponsored by Casper. Visit www.casper.com and enter offer code BADWIZARDS to get $50 toward select purchases. Special Guest: Dave DeSteno.
Why cultivating THREE specific emotions, that are now in cultural decline, will lead to your lasting success.
David DeSteno (@daviddesteno) is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University and author of Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride. The Cheat Sheet: Why is delaying gratification so hard and why is it important? Why willpower runs counter to our evolutionary programming and often fails. Why developing prosocial emotions -- gratitude, compassion, and pride -- is a superior strategy for self control. Why reason is biased and allows us to rationalize giving into temptation. What are the health risks of trying to achieve goals by the force of sheer willpower? And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/david-desteno-emotional-success-episode-685/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! DesignCrowd helps startups and small businesses crowdsource custom graphics, logos, Web design -- even tattoo designs! Check out DesignCrowd.com/Charm for a special $100 VIP offer for our listeners or enter the discount code CHARM when posting a project. Want to spend less time shopping for insurance and take advantage of every possible discount? Visit meetamica.com/Forbes and find out why 95% of customers with combined auto and home policies stay with Amica! Did you know that your old and aging tech is costing you time and money? It's time to upgrade to a new HP. AoC Family can go to hp.com/charm, enter code CHARM, and save 35% on select HP Business products with Intel Core processors! CastBox introduces an in-audio search capability that offers a brand new way to search for podcasts you may love based on words or topics. Download CastBox for iOS or Android and enter promo code AOC under Go Premium for six free months of premium features! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!
Social emotions researcher David DeSteno was one of the speakers at IDEAS Boston at UMass Boston 2012. To see a list of speakers and to learn about sponsorship opportunities, visit http://www.umb.edu/ideasboston.
Although we often view our moral character as being immutable, behavioral research has begun to demonstrate the intense flexibility of our moral character. On this program, David DeSteno discussed the biology of character.
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