The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership

  Meredith Bell is a performance improvement expert and author. As the President and Co-founder of Performance Support Systems, Meredith and her team have produced tools and software to help leaders improve performance by inspiring others to do their best work. The 360-Degree feedback tool her organization created has helped countless leaders build effective communication with their teams. Meredith has also written various business books including Connect With Your Team: Mastering the Top 10 Communication Skills. Today, Meredith shares her journey from teaching to co-founding her publishing and software company. She explains how the 360-degree feedback tool was developed and how it helps coaches and leaders. She reveals a simple method of raising self-awareness and a helpful lesson she learned in working with her business partner. Meredith also discusses how to build trust with your team and help them feel valued, as well as how expressing appreciation helps others value themselves. “When we can go in and speak calmly and confidently to someone, the chances are better that they can hear us.” - Meredith Bell This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: The journey that led to Meredith creating her own software and publishing company How the 360-degree feedback tool was developed and how coaches and organizations use it A simple way to raise your self-awareness when working with others A lesson that Meredith learned when working with her business partner How to build trust with your team and make them feel valued How you can give effective feedback to your team and boss How Meredith developed her service mindset Why learning to help a person is a key to assisting in their self-development How expressing appreciation helps people value themselves What's next for Meredith and her team Resources Mentioned: Book: The Prosperous Coach: Increase Income and Impact for You and Your Clients by Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin Book: Connect With Your Kid: Mastering the Top 10 Parent-Child Communication Skills by Dennis Coates Our Favorite Quotes: “Ask some version of this question: ‘What's one thing I can do differently to make your experience working with me better?'” - Meredith Bell “We all want to feel like we matter; it's a core human need.” - Meredith Bell “The better we help other people feel about themselves, the more they can contribute” - Meredith Bell Connect with Meredith Bell: Performance Support Systems Inc. Performance Support Systems Inc on LinkedIn Meredith Bell's Website Book: Connect With Your Team: Mastering the Top 10 Communication Skills Book: Peer Coaching Made Simple: How to Do the 6 Things That Matter Most When Helping Someone Improve a Skill Podcast: Strong for Performance Meredith Bell on LinkedIn Meredith Bell on Facebook Meredith Bell on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Pat Hedley is an advisor, investor, TedX speaker, and author. After a three-decade career in global private equity with General Atlantic, Pat now acts as an independent advisor and investor on innovation and growth for businesses. She selectively takes on advisory and board assignments to help CEOs turn strategy into results. Through her book, Meet 100 People: A How-to Guide to the Career and Life Edge Everyone's Missing, Pat provides inspiration and practical advice on building a network now. Today, Pat shares the most important lessons she learned in her career and why building a network is one of the most valuable things you can do for yourself. She highlights why having a diverse mix of people in your network is essential and provides practical tips for anyone that struggles to find the time to network. Pat reveals her three ‘Cs' of networking and recalls the incredible experience she had building her first network. Pat also shares the importance of asking for what you want and the two things you need to consider when making career decisions. “One of the most important parts of networking is being very thoughtful about making it diverse.” - Pat Hedley This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: The entrepreneurship inspiration in Pat's early life The most important thing that Pat learned early in her career Why the word ‘no' doesn't always have to be the end of the conversation The lessons Pat learned about the value of building a network Why Pat chose to write her book, Meet 100 people Why it's essential to have a diverse mix of people in your network How you can make time for networking Consistency versus intensity The three Cs of networking Pat's wonderful experience when she began networking Why it's essential to ask for what you want An unwritten rule that Pat learned in her career The two aspects to think about when making career decisions Resources Mentioned: Book: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck Our Favorite Quotes: “If you ask the right questions and if you are a good listener, there are ways to really benefit from those conversations.” - Pat Hedley “In a business setting, when someone says that scary little word ‘no,' it doesn't have to be the end of the conversation” - Pat Hedley “You should diversify your network as much as possible.” - Pat Hedley Connect with Pat Hedley: Meet 100 People Website Meet 100 People on Instagram Pat Hedley on LinkedIn Book: Meet 100 People: A How-to Guide to the Career and Life Edge Everyone's Missing Pat Hedley on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Mary McGuire is a consultant and author as well as the founder of Agents2Change. She is also the creator of the Professional Women's Playbook. Following a childhood of challenging circumstances and little early education, Mary went back into the educational system to gain her Bachelor of Arts with Honors in Social Work. She found her passion in organizational performance and started her business, Agents2Change, where she has worked with some of the most prominent organizations in the world to help develop and engage employees. As the founder of Find Your Joyful Life and the author of The Female EDGE, Mary helps women explore their more profound nature and transform their lives.  Today, Mary joins me to share how her challenging childhood helped her build resilience. She reveals how she overcame her internal barriers and other peoples' expectations to find her authentic path. She shares what inspired her to move from social work to corporate consulting and some of the challenges she experienced in a male-dominated industry. Mary also reveals how her programs help women find ‘the female edge' and how she is expanding her reach across various industries. “Resilience is critical for women if they want to succeed.” - Mary McGuire This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: How the challenges in Mary's early life built her resilience and positivity The inner drive for more that inspired Mary to return to her education How Mary had to overcome her barriers and the expectations of others What made Mary move from social work to corporate consulting Things that Mary wished she knew earlier to help her craft her career Some of the struggles Mary has encountered in her male-dominated profession A turning point in Mary's career that helped her find her authentic path How Mary helps women find ‘The Female Edge' through her book and coaching programs What Mary is doing next to take her programs across various industries Our Favorite Quotes: “You will find your own path which is not going to be defined by the environment that you are in now .” - Mary McGuire “Based on the values you have now and the values that you will continue to create for yourself, you will find a path where you can be a very genuine person.” - Mary McGuire “Women frequently undercut themselves in terms of their abilities.” - Mary McGuire Connect with Mary McGuire: Find Your Joyful Life Agents2Change Book: The Female Edge Agents2Change on Facebook Mary McGuire on LinkedIn Mary McGuire on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Donatella Giacometti is the Founder and Chief Communications Strategist of CEO MEDIA COACH Inc. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Communication, Journalism, and Related Programs from Emerson College and a Master of Science, Investor Relations from Fordham University. Donatella provides presentation coaching, leadership development, and public speaking training to the world's most influential speakers. She works across various industries with C-Suite officers, MDs, PhDs, and executives for presentations, media performances, and keynote speeches. Today, Donatella shares her journey into coaching and how growing up in New York nurtured her passion for effective communication. She reveals what inspired her to start her business and the struggles she went through in her career. Donatella reveals a pivotal moment that helped her ignore her inner critic and the advice she would give her younger self. She also recounts an experience that helped her recognize her worth and explains why authenticity is crucial in communication. “We all need to build our conversational skills so that we can speak naturally and with confidence.” Donatella Giacometti This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: The journey that led Donatella to become a CEO coach How growing up in New York developed Donatella's passion for communication What inspired Donatella to start her own coaching business The struggles Donatella experienced throughout her career The turning point that helped Donatella ignore her inner critic What Donatella wishes she could tell her younger self A moment that helped Donatella find her courage and recognise her value The differences Donatella sees across her client base when teaching communication Why authenticity is essential in communication What Donatella is excited about for her business Resources Mentioned: 30 Minute Complimentary Consult Our Favorite Quotes: “You can cognitively know your information, but then you have to be persuasive, and the persuasion comes from your personal passion.” - Donatella Giacometti “I think that now, there is such a broader community of outspoken, courageous women and men who are just honest and authentic with one another.” - Donatella Giacometti “The humanity of having self-confidence and being able to project that in your own unique way is an essential leadership quality.” Donatella Giacometti Connect with Donatella Giacometti: CEO MEDIA COACH CEO MEDIA COACH on LinkedIn Donatella Giacometti on LinkedIn Donatella Giacometti on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Deborah Lansdowne is the Principal of A Pinch of Time, LLC, a concierge and lifestyle management business offering virtual support for executives, owners, and individuals. Deborah started in IT Telecoms with Siemens Business Communications and was the founder of an IT company providing solutions to commercial, federal, and local customers. Deborah has achieved many accolades throughout her career, including being named Entrepreneur of the Year by the National Federal of Black Business Owners, one of the 'Fifty Influential Minorities in Business,' and being featured on the cover of Black Enterprise Magazine. In her concierge and lifestyle management business, Deborah helps her clients achieve a balance in their life while maximizing their most precious commodity—their time. Deborah joins me today to share her journey from a stellar IT career to running her own lifestyle management business. She reveals how she handled working in a predominantly male environment and how mentorship helped her during pivotal moments in her career. She offers some career advice she would give her younger self and why it's essential to not take things personally in business. She also shares what her company does, the difference between male and female clients, and why many women find it difficult to ask for and accept help. “Many times, if somebody is giving you a piece of advice or you are having a conversation with someone, it's easy to perceive them as being critical. And they aren't necessarily being critical.” - Deborah Lansdowne This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: Deborah's journey from working in IT telecom to starting her own business How Deborah handled working in a white-male-dominated industry The power of mentorship Advice Deborah would give her younger self in her career Why it's essential to not take things personally in business The unwritten rules that Deborah has discovered throughout her career Advice for women who travel a lot for work and have children The services that A Pinch of Time provides Who Deborah works with and the differences she has seen between her male and female clients The reasons women find it difficult to ask for and accept help when they need it Our Favorite Quotes: “One of the most important things you do as a leader is listen. You have to really listen .” - Deborah Lansdowne “You need to have supporters; it's not a journey you take on your own.” - Deborah Lansdowne “When you feel guilty, you tend to overcompensate.” - Deborah Lansdowne Connect with Deborah Lansdowne: A Pinch of Time A Pinch of Time on Facebook A Pinch of Time on Twitter Deborah Lansdowne on LinkedIn Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Heather Marasse is an Executive Coach, Facilitator, Strategic Advisor, and Managing Partner of Trilogy Effect. Following a career in change management and product development in the telecom sector, Heather discovered her organizational development and consulting passion. As part of Trilogy Effect, she works with Fortune 500 companies, small businesses, and nonprofit organizations to ensure effective business strategies while also building the human side of each business. She recognizes the courage it takes to lead and loves the challenge of transforming leadership into a meaningful path of action. In today's episode, Heather shares her journey through the corporate world and how it helped her identify her passion for consulting and coaching. She reveals some of the things she realized when looking back over her career and what she wished she could have known earlier in her working life. She shares some of the challenges she encountered in a male-dominated industry and how she found support during some of the most challenging times. She highlights the importance of building connections and having females support each other in the workplace. She also reveals some of the common obstacles she sees for women in the companies she works with and the advice she gives to overcome them. “Trust the people outside of yourself saying ‘You can do this' more than that inner voice saying 'Not yet.'" - Heather Marasse This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: Heather's journey through the corporate world How Heather discovered her passion for consulting Reflections on her career and things Heather wishes she learned earlier in her journey Challenges Heather faced while working in a male-dominated industry Where Heather found support during challenging times while managing family life and work life Why it's essential to cultivate connections and create a network of female support Common issues for women in the organizations that Heather helps Advice Heather gives to women she coaches and mentors What Heather and the team at Trilogy Effect are creating now and their future plans Resources Mentioned: Being Human is Good For Business Leaders Podcast Our Favorite Quotes: “It's actually OK and a good strategy to make these connections and cultivate these networks.” - Heather Marasse “Find mentors and advocates. Look for people who you admire the way they are doing it and make the connection.” - Heather Marasse “Relax, you've arrived; you're at the table. Stop proving, and start providing the value you have to give.”- Heather Marasse Connect with Heather Marasse: Trilogy Effect Trilogy Effect on LinkedIn Trilogy Effect on Twitter Heather Marasse on LinkedIn Heather Marasse on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Kerry O'Callaghan is a Global Brand Builder, Strategic Marketer, and VP of Corporate Reputation and Brand at the GlaxoSmithKline (GSK) Pharmaceutical Company. She holds a Master's degree in Physiological Sciences from the University of Oxford. After training as a scientist, Kerry found she was more interested in why people do what they do when choosing products and brands. She has worked with GSK for over 20 years, and her role has evolved from marketing specific products into a corporate brand role. She has worked on key strategic collaboration projects, including London 2012, Comic Relief, and McLaren, to bring the GSK brand to life. In today's episode, Kerry shares her journey from studying sciences to an impressive marketing career with a global pharmaceutical brand. She reveals why she enjoys working in brand partnerships and the lessons she takes from seeing how these other businesses work. She shares some of the insights she gained early on in her career and some of the things she wishes she had figured out sooner. She highlights a trait she noticed among the men she works with and how she tries to apply it to her work approach. She also reveals the conversations she is having with her daughter about coming into the working world and how the workplace is evolving for the next generation of working women. “There are plenty of people in this world that will support you and won't support you, but you really have to be your own best advocate.”- Kerry O'Callaghan This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: What brought Kerry to her Corporate Reputation and Brand career Why Kerry enjoys working with brand partners and how she learns from them What Kerry learned very early in her career and what she wishes she knew back then What Kerry noticed from men in the workplace and how she uses that in her approach to her work Personal unwritten rules that Kerry had to learn through her career The conversations Kerry is having with her daughter about going into the working world How the workplace is changing for the next generation of women The next steps for Kerry in her life and career Our Favorite Quotes: “Just push yourself forward and don't wait.”- Kerry O'Callaghan. “Make sure that you are always your best advocate and putting yourself out there.”- Kerry O'Callaghan. “Give yourself the best chance possible, and don't be the person that holds you back.”- Kerry O'Callaghan Connect with Kerry O'Callaghan: GlaxoSmithKline GSK on LinkedIn GSK on Instagram GSK on Facebook GSK on Twitter Kerry O'Callaghan on LinkedIn Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Joann Lublin is a Pulitzer-winning journalist, author, and speaker. She is the former Management News Editor of The Wall Street Journal, and in 2003, she shared in the Journal's Pulitzer Prize for stories covering corporate scandals. Joann is the creator of the Wall Street Journal's first career advice column, which she wrote until May 2020, and she is still a regular contributor. In 2018 Joann won the Gerald Loeb Lifetime Achievement Award, the highest honor in business journalism. She is also the author of two books about female business leaders: Earning It: Hard-Won Lessons from Trailblazing Women at the Top of Business and Power Moms: How Executive Mothers Navigate Work and Life. Today, Joann shares the story of her trailblazing career as a journalist and reveals some of the struggles she faced in the male-dominated industry of journalism. She shares her inspiration for her first book and the advice she would have given her younger self when navigating the unwritten rules in office politics. She reveals how she managed her "working mother guilt" and how the workplace has changed over time for different generations of working women. She also shares why businesses need to be more supportive of working parents, both men and women, what a personal board of directors is, and how they can help you with your career choices. “We now have workplaces in which there are many boomer moms in positions of power who can serve as role models, who can be advocates for those younger women.” - Joann Lublin This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: Joann's career and how she started working at The Wall Street Journal The struggles Joann faced in the male-dominated industry of journalism The inspiration behind Joann's book: Earning It Essential advice Joann would give to her younger self on the unwritten rules of office politics How Joann managed "working mom guilt" throughout her career The ways work and life has changed for various generations of working women Why workplaces need to be more supportive of parents, both mothers and fathers What a personal board of directors is and how they can help you advance your career Resources Mentioned: Wall Street Journal Article: Workplace Advice I Wish I Had Known by Joann Lublin Personal Board of Directors - Wall Street Journal Our Favorite Quotes: “We undervalue ourselves; we don't think about the fact that we are a valued contributor.” - Joann Lublin “So many employers now recognise that it's important to attract and retain and promote working parents.” - Joann Lublin “Think before you act, particularly when you are in a leadership role.” - Joann Lublin Connect with Joann Lublin: Joann Lublin Book: Earning It: Hard-Won Lessons from Trailblazing Women at the Top of Business Book: Power Moms: How Executive Mothers Navigate Work and Life Email: Joannlublin@gmail.com Joann Lublin on LinkedIn Joann Lublin on Instagram Joann Lublin on Facebook Joann Lublin on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Tina Tchen is the CEO and president of TIME'S UP Now and the TIME'S UP Foundation, an organization aiming to change culture, laws, and companies to make the workplace a safe, fair, and dignified space for all women. After graduating from Northwestern University Pritzker School of Law, she embarked on a corporate law career, working in the firm by day and doing activism work involving women's rights by night. She worked for the Obama administration as the executive director of the White House Council on Women and Girls and chief of staff to First Lady Michelle Obama. After working extensively with companies advising on workplace culture and gender inequity, Tina co-founded TIME'S UP Now as an advocacy organization, working not only for survivor justice but to create workplaces where it doesn't happen in the first place. Today, Tina shares her journey through the corporate law world and why she decided to start the TIME'S UP Now organization. She reveals the struggles she faced throughout her career and one of her favorite moments during a corporate law meeting. She shares the advice she would give her younger self when starting as a woman in the corporate world and the revelations from her Impact Lab's research on sexual harassment. She also reveals the impact remote working during the pandemic has had on equity and inclusion in the workplace and shares her advice for women dealing with any form of harassment at work. “Sometimes you've just got to wait; you've just got to have enough confidence in your own abilities, in the reason why you're in the room.” - Tina Tchen This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: How Tina started working at TIME'S UP Now The struggles Tina faced on her journey and what she learned from them One of Tina's favorite experiences during a corporate law meeting The advice Tina would give to her younger self Research from the TIME'S UP Impact Lab on sexual harassment How remote working during the pandemic is affecting equity and inclusion Advice for women struggling with any form of sexual harassment at work Why we need bystander protections for those speaking out on behalf of employees What Tina is excited about and what she is currently working on How Tina's work is aiming to create safe and fair workplaces for everyone Resources Mentioned: From Ideal Worker to Ideal Workplace National Women's Law Center Our Favorite Quotes: “We've got to, as activists, give people grace and space to learn.”- Tina Tchen “If you feel you are able to push back in the moment, to say something, to discourage the contact, do that.”- Tina Tchen “We can actually change workplaces faster by helping companies change themselves, than we can by public policy.” - Tina Tchen Connect with Tina Tchen: TIME'S UP Now TIME'S UP Now on LinkedIn TIME'S UP Now on Instagram TIME'S UP Now on Facebook TIME'S UP Now on Twitter Tina Tchen on LinkedIn Tina Tchen on Instagram Tina Tchen on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Dayna Steele is a Texas rock radio Hall of Famer, Speaker, a former US Congressional candidate, and the host of the popular podcast The Rock Star Principles, where she shares amazing conversations with successful rock stars in both business and entertainment. Using her entertaining stories and memorable anecdotes from her days as a DJ in her podcast, she provides lessons on overcoming obstacles and achieving success. Dayna is the best-selling author of multiple titles, including the popular 101 Ways to Rock book series. The latest release, 101 ways to Rock Running for Office, follows her journey of running for US Congress and the lessons she has learned along the way. Today, Dayna shares her incredible journey from a rock and roll DJ to running for Congress. She reveals why she chose to run and how her book on her experience can help anyone striving for any elected position. She shares memories from her days as an 80's DJ and what inspired her to go into radio in the first place. She describes the support she received from her radio contacts and how she developed thick skin during those days on the air. She highlights one radio event that made her say ‘enough is enough' and what she learned about asking for what you want. She also shares the lessons she gained from her foray into acting and how she deals with her mother's Alzheimer's diagnosis. “If you are in a position where you can speak up, do it.” - Dayna Steele This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: The journey that led Dayna to run for office and what she learned along the way Why Dayna chose to run for United States Congress How her book 101 ways to Rock Running for Office can help anyone run for any office position, at any level What it was like to be a rock and roll DJ in Texas in the '80s How Dayna got into the world of radio and her first experiences in the business How her connections from her radio days supported her during her campaign How using data can help you get what you want Why Dayna needed thick skin during her radio days The event that made Dayna stand up and say, "that's enough" What Dayna learned when she moved to LA to try acting How Dayna dealt with her mother's Alzheimer's diagnosis and what she is now doing to share the story Resources Mentioned: Book: Rock to the Top: What I Learned About Success from the World's Greatest Rock Stars Book: Surviving Alzheimer's With Friends, Facebook, and a Really Big Glass of Wine Our Favorite Quotes: “Just ask, if the answer's no, figure out why. If you fail, figure out why - and what a great lesson to move forward and try it again” - Dayna Steele “When you think you see an opportunity, go for it.” - Dayna Steel “Know your value, know what you bring to the company.”- Dayna Steele Connect with Dayna Steele: The Rock Business Podcast: The Rock Star Principles Book: 101 ways to Rock Running for Office The Rock Business on Facebook Dayna Steele on LinkedIn Dayna Steele on Instagram Dayna Steele on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Rita Mitjans is the President and Founder of Bizguru Consulting; a firm focused on accelerating performance through sustainable cultures and business practices. Rita is an award-winning certified executive coach and senior executive. In her previous role of Head of Diversity and Social Responsibility at ADP, she significantly increased the number of women and minorities in executive leadership. She has held leadership roles at ADP, Deutsche Bank, and Bankers Trust and serves on the World Trade Resource Advisory Board. Rita earned her MBA from Harvard University and her Bachelor's degree from St. John's University. Rita joins me today to discuss how self-awareness is a crucial ingredient of learning to grow. She shares what she has learned throughout her career and highlights why it is essential to know when to ask for help and say no. She shares how perfection syndrome can affect women's careers and the struggle women endure with the work/life balance. We also discuss the importance of self-awareness, self-forgiveness, and the value of learning from our mistakes and weaknesses. “Without self-awareness, it is very difficult to achieve any level of true growth - because that's where it starts.” - Rita Mitjans This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: How to embed inclusion and diversity in an organization The lessons Rita learned in her career including knowing when to ask for help How perfection syndrome can affect women in their careers Finding the work/life balance and job expectations of doing more with fewer resources Knowing that you can say no and make your opinion heard Why it is vital to recognize that you don't need to be perfect Self-awareness and how true personal growth begins with turning our failures into opportunities to learn Our Favorite Quotes: “In order to embed the concept of diversity and inclusion in a company or organization, you need to understand the organization and what it's like to be one of those leaders.” - Rita Mitjans “When you move into leadership you need to now be able to develop others to do what you are able to do well.” - Rita Mitjans “No one is perfect. No one has all the answers.” - Rita Mitjans Connect with Rita Mitjans: Bizguru Consulting Rita@bizgurullc.com Rita Mitjans on LinkedIn Rita Mitjans on Instagram Rita Mitjans on Twitter  Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Erin Pheil is the Founder of The MindFix Group and a Rapid Transformation Agent, helping high achievers and entrepreneurs permanently remove their mental roadblocks. Her work has been featured in magazines, books, podcasts, presentations, and webinars and has presented dozens of keynote speeches to thousands of leaders. Erin is also the Founder and CEO of Followbright, an award-winning and nationally-ranked web agency she created 17 years ago. She has a Bachelors in Psychology from the University of Puget Sound and a Masters degree in Digital Media from the University of Denver. Erin joins me today to share how entrepreneurs, business leaders, and executives can identify and eliminate their most significant roadblocks and barriers to find peace and success. She shares her experience with fear and impostor syndrome and describes the route problems and issues that men and women have. Erin also reveals the questions you can ask yourself to discover and change the patterns, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors that are not serving you in your life. “It doesn't have to be hard, it doesn't have to take a long time, and you don't have to do more, more, more.” - Erin Pheil This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: The methodology that MindFix uses to help entrepreneurs, executives, and business leaders eliminate their biggest internal roadblocks that are holding them back Removing the route problems and barriers to make your journey easier How Erin overcame her fear of not doing enough or being good enough How many leaders are often driven by a reason that is not healthy How men and women have the same underlying issues How to help yourself, the question to start with, and starting at the surface Discovering the patterns, behaviors, and beliefs in your life that are not serving you Our Favorite Quotes: “We are kind of like rivers; we all have momentum and flow and are moving toward some type of goal.” - Erin Pheil “If we can subtract what's causing the challenges, you don't have to keep trying to be a different person.” - Erin Pheil “We think, feel, and act, according to what we believe.” - Erin Pheil Connect with Erin Pheil: The MindFix Group Erin Pheil on LinkedIn Erin Pheil on Facebook Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - the first chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership, is available to hear for free on my website. Visit www.theunwrittenrules.com to listen today.

Deborah Smith Pegues is the Founder and President of The Pegues Group. She is a global speaker, leadership coach, TV host, Certified Accountant, Certified Behavioral Consultant, and a best-selling author of eighteen books, including her latest book, Lead Like a Woman: Gain Confidence, Navigate Obstacles, Empower Others. Deborah was previously the Vice President of MCA Inc and Manager of Forecasting and Budgeting for Hughes Aircraft's billion-dollar Space & Communications Division. She also served as the Chief Financial Officer of West Angeles Church of God In Christ. Deborah holds a Bachelor's degree in Accounting from the University of North Texas and an MBA in Finance from the University of Southern California. Deborah joins me today to explore the topic of confronting issues. She shares how confidence and faith have played a part in her story and why it is vital to learn to advocate yourself. She reveals the strategies you can use to navigate anger, deal with issues, and be objective. Deborah shares why it is important to understand a company's culture, build your confidence, network, and take risks to get ahead. She also shares why you should look back positively and from the perspective of what you have learned. “Confrontation is one of those words that has gotten a bad rep, but it really just means coming together face-to-face.” - Deborah Smith Pegues This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: How faith and confidence have played a part in Deborah's journey The importance of learning to advocate for yourself Twelve female traits that women need to embrace Strategies for moving through anger and becoming emotionally savvy Being objective when dealing with issues and focusing on the end-game Understanding the company culture and what it takes to get on the fast track Being authentic and leading with excellence Why you should focus on building confidence, risk-taking, networking, and supporting other women Remembering with a positive attitude and focusing on what you learned Our Favorite Quotes: “Confront privately, personally, but powerfully.” - Deborah Smith Pegues “If everyone in your circle looks like you - you've got work to do.” - Deborah Smith Pegues “Nothing grows on top of the table - only the stuff that you bury.” - Deborah Smith Pegues Connect with Deborah Smith Pegues: The Pegues Group Book: Lead Like a Woman: Gain Confidence, Navigate Obstacles, Empower Others Book: Socially Confident in 60 Seconds: Practical Tips for Navigating Any Situation Deborah Smith Pegues on LinkedIn Deborah Smith Pegues on Instagram Deborah Smith Pegues on Facebook Deborah Smith Pegues on Twitter Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Clare Kenny is a global brand strategist, and the Founder of AMOK Strategy Ltd. Clare left school at the age of 18 with a dream of being a successful international businesswoman and worked in marketing, brand strategy, and digital transformation with global organizations. Clare was a Division Head for Coca-Cola and the Commercial Director and Head of Communications for the Asian Football Confederation. She was the youngest Marketing Manager at FIFA, working on Euro 96. In her spare time, she promotes equality and is a mentor for young women looking to thrive in business environments. Clare joins me today to share why it is important for women to speak up and set their own benchmarks. She reveals what it was like to work in male-dominated industries in the 90s and overseas in eastern countries and why you must find your voice and recognize your skills and abilities. Clare shares the risks she has taken throughout her career and a traumatic incident that she, like many other women, have endured. Clare also highlights the power of advocacy and movements such as MeToo and stresses why female professionals need to speak up for other women. “Don't be scared to be different.” - Clare Kenny This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: Clare's work within the Ministry of Sport and football associations What it was like to work in the men's-dominated marketing industry during the 90s Finding your voice and setting benchmarks based on your ability and innate skills Why you should be comfortable with being different Taking risks and finding your entrepreneurial spirit The differences between western and eastern companies and their views on female professionals Clare's traumatizing experiences within the professional environment The power of advocacy and telling the truth so things can change Why it is important to speak up for other women, and why we struggle to do this for ourselves Our Favorite Quotes: “Be brave enough to set your own benchmarks..” - Clare Kenny “The people who have really changed the world and done extraordinary things are different and were different.” - Clare Kenny “Silence is complicity.” - Clare Kenny Connect with Clare Kenny: Clare Kenny on LinkedIn Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Miki King is the Chief Marketing Officer of The Washington Post and an expert in marketing, business development, and strategic operations. She began her career leading marketing teams at The Advisory Board Company during the Dot-Com boom before returning to school to attain a law degree. Previously, she served as the Executive Vice President at Politico and an Associate Attorney. Miki has a bachelor's degree in science and economics from The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania and a Juris Doctor from George Mason University School of Law. Miki is also on the Board of Directors of the International Women's Media Foundation and currently resides in Northern Virginia with her husband and two children. Miki joins me today to share why it is important to build the right relationships and develop a positive reputation that will follow you through your career. She discusses her struggle with deciding to return to school and the importance of having an encouraging support group to tackle self-doubt. Miki reveals how she has learned to say no and the value we will all find by having a space for downtime. She also looks ahead and highlights how we should expect to see a more flexible work environment for women and parents following the COVID-19 epidemic. “You have to choose what it is you are going to listen to.” - Miki King This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: Miki's struggle with making the decision to go back to school The challenges of working through self-doubt and conquering what is going on in your head Why it is vital to have a support group of encouraging voices Committing to your health and fitness and learning to say no The importance of downtime and finding a space that can be yours alone Renegotiating the deal you have at home Managing relationships and how they affect your long-term reputation Looking ahead and what is to come at home and work Resources Mentioned: Mastering Midlife Podcast: I Making Decisions Based On What You Know Today with Miki King Our Favorite Quotes: “We all have to learn to play til you hear the whistle.” - Miki King “If the only reason you have not to pursue the thing is your self-doubt - that is not a good enough reason.” - Miki King “I have had a community of people who have reinforced to me the importance of pushing through my doubt. Having that community is critical.” - Miki King Connect with Miki King: The Washington Post Miki King on LinkedIn Miki King on Instagram Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

    Lucy McCarraher is the Co-Founder of Rethink Press, a publishing company with a 40+ strong team that has published 75 books last year. She is a work/life balance expert, book mentor, and the author of thirteen books, including A Book of One's Own and The Real Secret. She started in publishing at the age of 21 while she was finishing her degree in Australia by creating an Australian theatre magazine. The magazine led offers of journalistic work with big newspapers and magazines and a TV presenter position with her own TV show on arts and entertainment. Lucy is the Founder of the Business Book Awards and runs the BookBuilder program.   Lucy joins me today to share how aspiring women authors can plan and publish their business books. Lucy shares the different types of book deals available to entrepreneurs and small businesses. She discusses women's recognition in business and as experts and why more women need to become authors. Lucy also shares her story and experience with sexism, fighting for recognition, saying no, and the value of finding support from ‘the sisterhood.'   “If you are not very keen on going out and selling yourself, a book will go out and do that for you.” - Lucy McCarraher   This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   The inspiration behind Rethink Press The standard book deal versus an intellectual property deal Sexism and working in the television industry in the 90s Saying no and fighting for the recognition you deserve How business books help small businesses in the non-corporate world Why it is important to encourage more women to write business books The six 'C's that hinder women from publishing books Sharing your problems and finding sisterhood support How Lucy is getting more people to write books through the BookBuilder program How to tell stories, demonstrate your value, and be the expert   Resources Mentioned:   The Real Secret by Lucy McCarraher TUR011 - A White Guy on the Podcast? Don't Judge a Book by its Cover! A Book of One's Own by Lucy McCarraher   Our Favorite Quotes:   “Writing your book vanquishes all of those six C's.” - Lucy McCarraher As a business person writing your book, make sure your book is absolutely aligned with your business, with your services, and to your ideal client because that's where you're going to get the return on your investment.” - Lucy McCarraher “People writing business books are doing a fantastic job sharing knowledge and expertise among the entrepreneur and small business community.” - Lucy McCarraher   Connect with Lucy McCarraher:   Rethink Press BookBuilder Business Book Awards ABOO Facebook Group Rethink Press on LinkedIn Rethink Press on Facebook Rethink Press on Twitter Lucy McCarraher on LinkedIn     Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.    

    Deb Fowler is the Managing Partner and Co-Founder of Green Room Communications, a PR agency created to meet the healthcare industry's unique needs. Deb is also the Founder of Soft Bones, an organization she started after her son was diagnosed with hypophosphatasia. Soft Bones provides support, information, and education for people living with HPP. From an early age, Deb was determined and strong-minded with a desire to be her own boss. She was the first girl to play on an all-boys baseball team and basketball team. She previously worked as an Associate Producer and Media Director and holds a BA in English and Biology from Hobart and William Smith Colleges and studied pre-medicine and pre-medical studies at Columbia University in New York City.   Deb joins me today to share how she found her path to balancing a successful career and family. She reveals the adjustments she made after spending ten years in TV news to start a family and her experiences of being the parent of a child with hypophosphatasia. Deb shares how women can find inner strength and confidence through reflective thinking, recognizing the skills they are good at, and the things that make them happy. She also discusses how social media influences children and the importance of embracing what your children love, even when this isn't the path you envisioned.   “Really be honest with yourself in what you are good at and what you love.” - Deb Fowler   This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   Making adjustments to balance a career and a family How Deb pivoted from TV news, to PR and running a business Deb's experiences of having a son with hypophosphatasia (HPP) and finding solace in her work The value of being introspective and looking at your journey and learnings The risks and influences our children have from social media Recognizing your skillset and finding your inner confidence and strength Why you should follow what you love and find a market to monetize it     Our Favorite Quotes:   “There are things that we're good at, there are things that we love, and there are things that we learn from our parents that kind of shape that story.” - Deb Fowler “Being part of building a community with other families and, together, sharing stories has been so therapeutic.” - Deb Fowler “I didn't really have that inner confidence until I stepped into my power and owned it.” - Deb Fowler   Connect with Deb Fowler:   Green Room Communications Soft Bones Green Room Communications on LinkedIn Green Room Communications on Instagram Green Room Communications on Facebook Deb Fowler on LinkedIn     Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.    

Beth Perlman is the VP and Program Director at Gartner, working with Fortune 100 C-level executives and chief information officers on aligning operations and business goals with technology for sustainable growth. She has a long career in leading IT Administration and Operations teams and is the former CIO for Constellation Energy as well as the Maryland State Department of Education. She was previously the VP for Enron and Lehman Brothers and holds a BS in Management from Syracuse University. Beth has a passion for helping others, building strong teams, and developing leaders. Beth joins me today to discuss looking for validation from within and finding happiness in your career. Beth shares what it was like to be a female executive in the 1980s and highlights why women should support other women. She shares why it is vital to change your career if it isn't right for you and does not make you feel good. Beth discusses her leadership style and her passion for empowering people to be the best they can be. She also shares why she believes she might have been working extra hard to compensate for her weight, finding inner confidence, and the value of building long-standing relationships. “If it's not a fit for you, it is okay to leave.” - Beth Perlman This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: How Beth's childhood set her up for her future and shaped her career What it was like to work on Wall Street with men in the 80s Why you should make a career move if you are unappreciated while doing great work Why it is essential to recognize that it is about you and what makes you happy Building confidence, self-respect, self-worth, and independence Feeling good about what you are doing when you reach the top Beth's struggles with her weight and confidence in her personal life Why women need to support other women in their careers The value of networks and building relationships that will help you in the long term Taking on the role of ‘fixer' and finding happiness through helping others   Our Favorite Quotes: “I always thought you do good work; you're rewarded. What I realized in business, that has nothing to do with it.” - Beth Perlman “Women don't support women enough - and that's a theme.” - Beth Perlman “There are times that no matter how great your work is, you're not going to be appreciated.” - Beth Perlman   Connect with Beth Perlman: Gartner Beth Perlman on LinkedIn         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Maureen Maldari is an expert in business growth, integrated marketing, and consumer healthcare. She is the co-founder and CEO of the brand content creation agency, The BAM Connection, and has worked with brands including Procter & Gamble, Advil, DirecTV, Hasbro, Northwest Airlines, AARP, and Smuckers over the course of her career. Before The BAM Connection, Maureen worked at the advertising agency, Grey, deemed one of the Top Ten Ad Agencies of 2012 by Forbes, and also served as VP Managing Director of Saatchi & Saatchi. Maureen joins me today to discuss her journey to becoming CEO and co-founder of The BAM Connection, and how leveraging professional relationships benefitted her career. Maureen shares her experiences as a woman in the workforce and the power of knowing your worth and asking for what you need. She also highlights her belief in standing in your power, setting professional parameters, and letting go while trusting that everything will be okay. “You don't have to prove it because you are it. You're doing it. You own your thoughts. You own your actions.” - Maureen Maldari This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: Maureen's early career journey and what she attributes her success to The power of relationships and how they can help catapult your career The importance of self-advocacy, setting parameters, and standing up for your worth Maureen's perspective on showing up as a high-performing woman in the corporate world How COVID-19 has influenced a shift in gender roles and the importance of renegotiating “unspoken assumptions” Maureen's thoughts on the concept of “benchmarking” and her perspective on rewarding employees for their performance A key career lesson Maureen wishes she would have learned earlier Why it is okay to take a moment to be proud of your accomplishments Where Maureen believes the younger generation's anxiety stems from and her advice to them What excites Maureen in her current work at The BAM Connection   Our Favorite Quotes: “At some point, we have to be able to say ‘okay, I need help right now' and be willing to ask.” - Maureen Maldari “I was so busy trying to prove myself that you kind of lose yourself in that process.” - Maureen Maldari “You don't have to always look to prove your value. You are valuable.” - Maureen Maldari   Connect with Maureen Maldari: The BAM Connection Maureen Maldari on LinkedIn Maureen Maldari on Twitter The BAM Connection on Instagram The BAM Connection on Facebook Podcast Episode: Mind Of A Mentor #69 - Maureen Maldari (Cofounder & CEO of The BAM Connection)   Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Mandy Lehto, PhD., is a writer, speaker, and executive coach. She has been featured on and has written for several media brands and magazines such as the Sunday Times, Psychology Today, Psychologies Magazine, The Huffington Post, and CNBC. A former director for a global investment bank, Mandy works with high-achieving women and organizations to help them redefine what it means to be successful. In addition to her work as a coach and speaker, Mandy also hosts the podcast, MoxieCast, and is currently writing her first book, “Enough: One Woman's Journey to Be Less and Be More.” Mandy joins me today to share her journey through life and the insights she learned about womanhood. She explains why she loves being an executive coach and describes her experiences in the investment banking world. She reveals the problems with being a people-pleaser and describes how her childhood experiences shaped her to become an overachiever. She shares her struggles with impostor syndrome and discusses how she is managing her inner critic today. She also emphasizes the importance of getting help, whether through coaching or mentoring, and the power of reaching out to a community of women.    “We all have an inner elder, an inner wise woman, an inner champion. We always have access to them.” - Dr. Mandy Lehto   This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: Mandy's journey from childhood to investment banking and executive coaching What Mandy loves about being an executive coach Mandy's advice to her younger self and why it's okay to let other people, not like you The problems with being an overachiever and how Mandy is learning to ‘self-source' her worth Mandy's experiences with the impostor syndrome and how she dealt with it Judgy Janet the Inner Critic and managing the impostor syndrome through self-soothing and grounding The Elder, the Wisewoman, and other counterparts to our inner critics The power of getting a coach and joining a community Opening yourself up to receiving help Our Favorite Quotes: “The more I work on myself and help others, the more I realize that our being comes with so much power.” - Dr. Mandy Lehto “From being the golden child who always has to get it right to being the woman who knows that it's okay if she messes up - it feels good.” - Dr. Mandy Lehto “Girl, go get yourself a sisterhood that you can trust to empower you when you fail.” - Dr. Mandy Lehto Connect with Dr. Mandy Lehto: Website MoxieCast Mandy Lehto on Twitter Mandy Lehto on Pinterest Mandy Lehto on Instagram Mandy Lehto on LinkedIn   Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website. While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

In Episode #006 of CrisisCast 2020  | Escaping NYC and Flying the Flag For Women with Helen Appleby from The Unwritten Rules Of Women's Leadership Today On CrisisCast 2020 -  A Brit escapes Manhattan at the peak of the pandemic, drives 13 hours and self isolates with their kids in an Air B'n'B. 

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    Terri Meyer and Sandy Greenberg are creative directors with two decades of experience working on Madison Ave. They are the co-founders of Terri & Sandy, which Ad Age named as the Small Agency of the Year in 2017. Collectively, Terri & Sandy have contributed to the branding of several A-level companies such as Mars, Kraft, Gerber, Campbell's, Disney, Nestlé, and Time. The company has won twelve Effie awards and, in 2019, the Effie Index ranked Terri & Sandy as the second-most effective independent agency in North America.   Terri & Sandy join me today to share insight on their careers and their journey to founding and launching their agency. They discuss the struggles they faced along their professional paths, the knowledge and perspective they have gained, and why relationships rule in the business world. They also highlight brands they are currently working with and what they are excited about as their agency moves forward.       “If you don't have a seat at the table, build your own table.” - Sandy Greenberg       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   How Terri & Sandy met and their journey to launching their agency as two creatives What prompted their decision to start their own business after working in a big agency The impact of the recession on their careers and the politics within big agencies Whether Terri & Sandy believed themselves to be entrepreneurial before launching their business What you should do if the people you work with diminish your self-esteem Why you need to have people around you who celebrate and support you professionally Struggles women face in asking for help, why it is essential, and how Terri & Sandy's partnership has helped mitigate this challenge How Terri & Sandy tangibly apply the guiding principles of their agency The importance of building relationships     Our Favorite Quotes:   “The people that grow fast are the people that ask for help.”- Sandy Greenberg “You can be whatever you want to be; you just have to… take it. Step up and take it.” - Terri Meyer     Resources Mentioned: ●      The Power of Who: You Already Know Everyone You Need to Know by Bob Beaudine     Connect with Terri & Sandy   Terri & Sandy Email: terri@terrisandy.com Email: sandy@terrisandy.com Phone: (917) 261-6792       Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.  

Shelley Paxton is a Chicago-based professional coach and the founder of Soulbbatical, an organization focused on helping organizations and leaders realize their purpose and potential. With nearly three decades of marketing and advertising experience with brands including Visa, AOL, and McDonald's, Shelley formerly served as Chief Marketing Officer of Harley Davidson and brings extensive insight and expertise to her coaching practice, working with Fortune 100 leaders and entrepreneurs alike. Shelley is the author of Soubbatical: A Corporate Rebel's Guide to Finding Your Best Life. She has trained under thought leader Brené Brown, and serves as the Chief Soul Officer of her personal and professional life, honoring her values of authenticity, freedom, and courage.   Shelley joins me today to discuss her professional journey from rising the ranks of Corporate America to leaving it all behind on a quest for inner alignment and peace. She shares why she decided to appoint herself Chief Soul Officer of her life, and what this title means to her. She explains the importance of incorporating self-care into your professional life, regardless of who you are or what you do. Shelley also highlights the large-scale impact that this type of self-empowerment could have and some practices and lessons she emphasizes to remain in alignment with her soul's calling.        “Self-worth trumps net worth, every day of the week.” - Shelley Paxton       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   Shelley's journey through and out of Corporate America and what she felt was missing from her professional life at the time The importance of listening to yourself to find alignment rather than merely pushing through Untangling busyness from business and prioritizing being a human being over a human doing How meditation played a role in Shelley's transformation and helped her connect deeper within What people thought when Shelley left Harley Davidson and why she gave herself the title of Chief Soul Officer The one assignment Shelley gave herself in her early soulbbatical and the three passions she hoped to reignite within herself Practical steps for becoming the Chief Soul Officer of your life and the impact that building a movement of Chief Soul Officers could have A practice Shelley incorporates into her mornings, inspired by Brené Brown Shelley's experience with imposter syndrome and her view on gender roles in Corporate America The importance of giving yourself permission, and whether self-worth and net worth are mutually exclusive The truest form of rebellion and the powerful difference between rebelling for something and rebelling against something Shelley's unwritten rules surrounding self-care and how she believes we should reframe holidays/time off What morning autonomy is and how it could be a game-changing gift for individuals and professional teams Why Shelley created a "personal board of directors" and who is on her list A balanced life verses an aligned life and whether you need to sacrifice soul for salary     Our Favorite Quotes:   “We need to stop asking for permission and we need to start giving ourselves permission.” - Shelley Paxton “Each one of us making the choice to become Chief Soul Officer of our own lives is a ripple, that becomes a wave, that becomes a tidal wave of change.” - Shelley Paxton     Resources Mentioned: Rich Litvin   Connect with Shelley Paxton:   Soulbbatical Soubbatical: A Corporate Rebel's Guide to Finding Your Best Life Shelley Paxton on Instagram Shelley Paxton on Twitter Soulbbatical Coaching on Facebook       Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Gerilyn Horan is the Vice President of Group Sales at Hilton Worldwide where she is responsible for overseeing the growth of the Regional, Intermediary, Association, and Corporate sales teams as well as ensuring their team members serve as collaborative partners and advisors for their customers. Gerilyn has over 25 years of experience in executive and leadership roles in the luxury hotels industry, including serving as the former VP of HelmsBriscoe as well as the former Director of Global Sales - North America at Langham Hotels International and Meadowood Napa Valley. She holds a Bachelor's degree in Organizational Behavior from the University of San Francisco. Gerilyn joins me today to share how she got started in the luxury hotel industry and the challenges she's faced throughout her career. She shares how she coped with extensively traveling while raising her son as a single mother and advancing her career and how she coped with feelings of guilt. We discuss the value of building a personal support system to advance your career as a working mother. She also shares the lessons she's learned about ensuring your voice heard and making sure you receive recognition for the ideas and concepts you present to your organization. “There should be no judgment around what decisions any of us make. It's what's right for you and your family at the time.” - Gerilyn Horan   This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast: • Gerilyn's career journey and what inspired her to work in the luxury hotel industry • Coping with extensive travel while raising a child as a single parent • The importance of building a support system and how she coped with feelings of guilt • Lessons Gerilyn has learned about being heard • Why she believes many women are hesitant of stepping into their power, voicing their opinions, and asking questions • Ensuring you are recognized for your ideas and the concepts you bring to the table • What she knows now that she wished she knew at the beginning of her career • The difference between mentors and sponsors and how they impact your career   Our Favorite Quotes: “Your career might not look like what you think it's going to look like in the beginning, but there are ways to get there.” - Gerilyn Horan “Continue to keep your network strong and things will present themselves. There are options.” - Gerilyn Horan Writing the Rules of Women Leadership Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.  While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

    Jay Pryor is a life coach, consultant, LGBTQ educator, activist, and the author of Lean Inside – 7 Steps to Personal Power: A Practical Guide to Transformation for Women. Jay is dedicated to conscious leadership and helping clients realize and fulfill their desired impact on the world. As a transgender individual, Jay utilizes their story in hopes of pushing the needle forward and emphasizing the importance of heart-based approaches in the business world and beyond. Jay joins me today to share their journey to becoming comfortable in their own skin as a transgender/non-binary individual, and the insights they have learned about sexism and male privilege along the way. Jay shares the realizations that have allowed them to offer a unique consulting perspective, as well as their views on leadership and accountability. Jay also highlights the role we all have to play in working towards a more equitable professional landscape and the most pressing societal issues that companies need to address.       “I'm a bit of a trailblazer; I'm always going to blaze my own trail.”- Jay Pryor       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   Jay's journey to becoming comfortable in their own skin and identity How the language used within and surrounding the LGBTQ community has evolved over time The unique perspective Jay has on sexism as a transgender/non-binary individual How the Me Too Movement dropped the invisible curtain and opened up the conversation about sexism How the new generation has helped advance the societal discussion about gender How going off of testosterone impacted Jay How Jay's story highlights why you should never judge a book by its cover The unique perspective Jay has when it comes to consulting women The entitlement of male privilege and how we unknowingly play into it as women How male privilege comes into play in the business world What Jay knows now that they wish they had known earlier and what they would do differently The power of mindset and how Jay's mindset prevents them from slipping into the victim mindset Jay's belief in the importance of leadership accountability The emotional labor that comes with being “the one” and the importance of taking the burden off of women and transgender people when it comes to addressing inequalities Jay's perspective on the next generation What Jay has been investing their time in lately The percentage of millennials and Gen X-ers who have left their jobs for mental health reasons The definition of spiritual intelligence and why we need to step into it     Our Favorite Quotes:   “The world treats you as what they see.” - Jay Pryor “One of the things that we have to deal with as women is the part that we play in the systemic sexism.” - Jay Pryor “I don't let myself be victimized by anything. I am 100% responsible for it. I create it all.” - Jay Pryor     Resources Mentioned: Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg GLSEN® Official Website ●      SQ21: The Twenty-One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence by Cindy Wigglesworth   Connect with Jay Pryor:   Jay Pryor Consulting Official Website Jay Pryor Consulting on Facebook Jay Pryor Consulting on YouTube Jay Pryor Consulting on Instagram Jay Pryor on Twitter Jay Pryor on LinkedIn Email: jay@jaypryorconsulting.com Phone: (785) 841-3011         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.  

Lisa Calicchio is an established HR leader with nearly 30 years of experience working in global business and HR with companies in industries including hospitality, life sciences, and pharmaceuticals. She currently works at GAF as Senior Vice President, Chief Human Resources Officer, and Head of Sustainability, and has also served as an executive coach to Fortune 500 companies. Lisa is SPHR certified and is a guest blogger at Thrive Global.   Lisa joins me today to share critical insights and lessons she has learned along her professional path, including the power of vulnerability, resiliency, and saying “I don't know.” She highlights the importance of asking questions and gaining clarity, whether you are an executive leader or an employee, and why you should integrate authenticity and a positive mindset into your professional life. Lisa also explains why it is crucial to know your value as an individual as you launch forward in your career.       “Nobody has to guarantee you answers you like in life, but they should be very committed to giving you answers that are truthful, transparent, and have context.”- Lisa Calicchio       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   Lisa's career path and what aspect of her journey she is most grateful for How asking questions can be a catalyst for change and understanding Some of the highs, lows and defining moments of Lisa's professional journey Why it is important to be authentically you in both your personal and professional life The power of learning how to say “I don't know” Lisa's advice to those struggling with balancing the demands of their job with their desire for authenticity Why you should attempt to understand a decision, even if you don't agree with it Why it is okay for leaders to change their minds about things How I define vulnerability, and why it matters The types of businesspeople that have the most trouble admitting that they don't know something Struggles Lisa has faced along her journey and lessons she has learned about resiliency The importance of gratitude, knowing your worth and taking every moment as a learning opportunity A practice Lisa implements to get away from the “woe is me” mindset The importance of actively seeking feedback from your managers and tips on how to do it When data is and isn't effective What's next for Lisa and the aspects of her work she is excited about moving forward   Our Favorite Quotes:   “If you're not careful and conscious about what's at your core, it's very easy to become something that you're really not.” - Lisa Calicchio “Don't let other peoples' definitions of you define you. Know who you are and be confident. You're worthy, no matter what anybody else says. Remember that, above all.” - Lisa Calicchio “Be forgiving of yourself. You're human. You're going to make mistakes, and you're going to learn from them.” - Lisa Calicchio     Resources Mentioned: Brene Brown TED Talk: The Power of Vulnerability Thrive Global   Connect with Lisa Calicchio:   GAF Official Website Lisa Calicchio on LinkedIn Lisa Calicchio on Thrive Global         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

What is the difference between your boss, your mentor, and your sponsor? Many ambitious, motivated, high-performing women in business confuse the roles of a sponsor and a mentor. Even more believe the misguided concept that their boss will sponsor them, vouch for them, and guide them on the path of true success for their careers.   In today's episode, I explain the difference between your boss, your mentor, and your sponsor. I explain how sponsors can be more powerful than mentors and the role that sponsors play in accelerating your career. I share the challenges many ambitious women face when looking for sponsors and the importance of building relationships with potential sponsors. I also explain why it's critical for women in business to seek sponsors beyond their boss and why it's a critical mistake to rely exclusively on your boss to sponsor your career.       “Sponsorships - the ability for someone else to talk about you when you're not in the room - is a really strong career accelerator.” - Helen Appleby       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   The difference between a mentor and a sponsor How sponsors help accelerate your career - even when you're not in the room The challenges of finding a sponsor to advance your career Why you shouldn't rely exclusively on your boss as a sponsor How to build relationships with potential career sponsors The importance of sharing your career aspirations with your sponsors         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

If there was one thing you could do to truly accelerate your career, what would it be? Is it networking with powerful thought leaders in your industry? Is it about simply working hard and doing good work to get promoted up the corporate ladder? Is there another solution to drive your success, achieve your goals, and advance your career as an ambitious female leader?   In today's episode, I explain the difference between visible work and invisible work and how women can accelerate their careers by being more visible. I explain why working hard and doing great work are often not enough for women to advance up the corporate ladder and land the executive roles they desire. I discuss the importance of making a list of the invisible work you do and the value you bring to your company and why it's important for your personal stakeholders to be aware of this work. I also explain why women need to reframe the concept of visibility as a way to educate others about the value they bring to their organization instead of as self-promotion.       “Being visible - making the work they do visible - is the most important thing that can accelerate a woman's career.” - Helen Appleby       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   The difference between visible work and invisible work Why working hard and doing great work is often not enough to advance your career as a woman Making a list of all of the invisible work you do Identifying your personal stakeholders and ensuring they know about your invisible work The difference between self-promotion and educating others on the value you bring to the table Sharing the accomplishments you're proud of         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Ali Kole is the founder of Sensual Embodied Dance and the Managing Partner at Meridien Partners LLC. She is a beauty and retail investor, advisor, and strategic brand development consultant that has held executive leadership roles at several well-known beauty organizations, including Kendo Brands Inc, Ole Henriksen, and SEPHORA. Ali earned her Bachelor's degree in Economics and Public Policy from Brown University and her MBA from Harvard Business School.   Ali joins me today to share her career journey and how her unexpected divorce opened new opportunities that led to her success as a woman in business. She shares the challenges and obstacles she overcame to reach her version of success. We discuss the loneliness of leadership and the importance of seeking mentorship as the leader of an organization. We also discuss the importance of being bold about sharing your voice, ideas, and opinions and how ‘dropping your filter' and building your confidence can help you advance your career.       “Women could stand to have a little overconfidence.” – Ali Kole       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   How Ali's upbringing set her on the path to success How her unexpected divorce opened new opportunities for her career The challenges Ali faced throughout her career and how she achieved her version of success The value of seeking mentors and guidance as a female leader Overcoming the ‘loneliness of leadership' The importance of taking risks and voicing your opinions The most powerful unwritten rule Ali has learned throughout her career Ali's advice for young, professional women     Our Favorite Quotes:   “Some women tend to have too high a filter and they need to drop that filter a little bit.” - Ali Kole “The biggest unwritten rule that I wish I had known was that my personal passions actually matter.” - Ali Kole     Connect with Ali Kole:   Sensual Embodied Dance Sensual Embodied Dance on Facebook Group Sensual Embodied Dance on Instagram Ali Kole on LinkedIn         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Research shows that people are more likely to mentor others that remind them of themselves at a younger age. In many industries, men often hold senior and executive leadership roles, so it can be challenging for women that want to scale the corporate ladder and take their rightful place at the table to find good mentors. So, how do you know who to ask to be your mentor? More importantly - how do you ask someone to mentor you along your career journey.   In today's episode, I explain what mentors are and how they can help you advance your career. I share how to find good mentors in your organization or industry and how to ask them to help you reach your full potential. I discuss the three key areas I focused on to advance my career and how finding great mentors helped me accomplish my goals. I also share the steps you should take to ask someone to be your mentor and the importance of mentoring others that are a few steps behind you in their career journey.       “Mentors are career accelerators. They make a difference.” - Helen Appleby       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   Understanding what a mentor is and how they can impact your career Identifying the three areas in your career where you may need a mentor How to ask someone to be your mentor The importance of taking action on the advice your mentor provides The importance of staying determined and being resilient in the face of rejection The value of mentoring others on their career journey     Our Favorite Quotes:   “People support what they help build. So if you can really show them how they've made a difference for you, then - unconsciously - they will start to support you.” - Helen Appleby “As you look at your career and your life ahead of you, think about the journeys ahead of you.” - Helen Appleby         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Sarah Kate Ellis is the President and CEO of GLAAD, the world's leading media advocacy organization delivering fair and accurate media coverage of the LGBTQ community to create cultural change. Sarah Kate is a communications strategist and a powerful, outspoken advocate that is moving the needle on widespread LGBTQ discrimination through media coverage and speaking out against discriminatory bills. Her stance and comments on LGBTQ acceptance have appeared in countless media publications including The New York Times, USA Today, TIME, and Vanity Fair.   Sarah Kate joins me today to share her career trajectory and how her role in journalism led to her career with GLAAD. She shares her passion for inspiring cultural change through media and journalism, how making mistakes along her journey helped clarify the career path she desired, and the turning point in her career that made her realize she wasn't leading with authenticity. We also discuss the importance of finding and emulating mentors and the power of sharing your goals, dreams, and aspirations with the leaders of your organization.       “Mentor means what you need it to mean.” - Sarah Kate Ellis       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   Sarah Kate's career journey and how she became the President of GLAAD The value of making mistakes and how they can help you determine the career path you should follow Leading with authenticity, honesty, and staying true to yourself and your values Her dual pregnancy with her wife and how it sparked her career in LGBTQ advocacy The challenges that many people in the LGBTQ community face The importance of finding and emulating great mentors Why Sarah Kate believes informal mentors are more valuable than formal mentors The importance of sharing your realistic goals and dreams with others Understanding the value of building a network The upcoming LGBTQ advocacy initiatives     Our Favorite Quotes:   “Any good leadership wants to get you where you want to go because they understand great talent.” - Sarah Kate Ellis “Realistic goals and dreams - if you share those with other people, they will become invested in your journey.” - Sarah Kate Ellis     Connect with Sarah Kate Ellis:   GLAAD Times Two: Two Women in Love and the Happy Family They Made by Kristen Henderson and Sarah Kate Ellis LinkedIn         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

As female leaders, it's important to consider how we present ourselves, our ideas, and our opinions - especially within the workforce. But often, women use words, phrases, and language that does not serve their needs. The kind of language that leaks our power as ambitious, high-achieving, professional language. This language is what I call ‘leaky language' - language that gives away our power as fierce, professional women to be reckoned with.   Today, I explain what leaky language is and how it impacts your ability to rise to the top of your professional career. I discuss when it's appropriate for women to apologize for something and when it becomes ‘leaky language,' undermining your power. I also share the type of words and phrases powerful women leaders should avoid using when speaking or writing emails as well as a few alternative phrases you can use without leaking your power.       “Leaky language is the way you use language that gives away your power.” - Helen Appleby       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   What is ‘leaky language' Examples of leaky language phrases many women use that undermine their power When apologizing becomes leaky language and leaks your power as a women leader Words and phrases to avoid using and alternative phrase you can use without leaking your power         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Michelle Aragon is the Senior Vice President of Business Solutions at MAGNA Global, the centralized strategic investment and media intelligence unit of IPG Mediabrands. MAGNA Global works closely with agency teams and clients to develop intelligence, investment, and innovation strategies to create a competitive advantage in the market. Throughout her career, she has held managerial and executive roles at companies like MRM/McCann, Factory 360, Constellation Brands, and Poke New York. Michelle earned her Bachelor's degree in Communications, Advertising, and Marketing at the University of Idaho and is an active member of the board for the John A. Reisenbach Foundation.   Michelle joins me today to discuss the unwritten rules of overcoming impostor syndrome and building relationships that she's learned throughout her career. She shares how giving into her limiting beliefs early in her career has impacted her ability to authentically embrace herself and what she had to offer. She shares how she overcame the feelings of impostor syndrome and discusses the importance of focusing on areas you need to grow. We discuss the importance of identifying your personal mission in your life and your career. She also explains why it's critical to be intentional when building relationships and the difference between connecting with people and true stakeholder management.       “Once you're clear on what your mission is, then nothing else matters because that's what you're working toward.” - Michelle Aragon       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   Michelle's career journey and how her tenacity, resiliency, and focus on building relationships led to her success What the ‘lie of not enough' is and why women leaders need to be mindful of it How her limiting beliefs impacted her ability to authentically embrace who she was, what she had to offer, and her self-value The importance of focusing on the skills you need to grow instead of your deficits The value of identifying your personal mission The difference between connecting with people, building relationships and stakeholder management Why it's critical to be intentional, thoughtful and authentic when building relationships The challenges that many young, professional women face throughout their careers Being a mentor and role model while continuing your journey as a leader     Our Favorite Quotes:   “There's a difference between connecting with people, creating relationships, and actual stakeholder management.” - Michelle Aragon “It's not who you know. It's what those people know about you.” - Michelle Aragon     Connect with Michelle Aragon:   MAGNA Global Michelle Aragon on LinkedIn Michelle Aragon on Twitter Michelle Aragon on Instagram         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.   While you're there, be sure to grab your free gift - The Unwritten Rules of ‘Giving Good No' - a free chapter of my latest book, The Unwritten Rules of Women's Leadership.

Throughout our careers, we've been told that building connections and expanding our professional network are the keys to lasting, long-term success. And while continuing to build your network is certainly important, for female leaders, it's often more important to develop and nurture our inner circle of close friends and colleagues. In fact, research shows that women who have developed an inner circle - a sisterhood - of close female professional friends are often more likely to land executive positions with greater authority and higher pay.   So, who's in your sisterhood?   In today's episode, I discuss the power of sisterhood and how building and nurturing your inner circle of female friends and colleagues can help you advance your career and climb the corporate ladder. I share how my sisterhood has helped me build my career and impacted my success. I explain why it's critical to ask your sisterhood for support, guidance, and help when facing obstacles. I also share why I decided to launch The Unwritten Rules podcast and what you can expect from each episode.       “Individually, women have power. Together, we can have even more impact.” - Helen Appleby       This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:   How your inner circle impacts your ability to advance your career How my ‘sisterhood' of female friends and colleagues have impacted my career trajectory and success The importance of investing time and energy and asking for support from your sisterhood Identifying who you want in your professional sisterhood What you can expect from future episodes         Writing the Rules of Women Leadership   Thanks for tuning into today's episode of The Unwritten Rules with your host, Helen Appleby. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and LinkedIn and share your favorite episodes across social media. And for even more great content, insight, and inspiration on women's leadership, visit our website.