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Tom Ackerman breaks down the Cardinals' hot streak—eight straight wins and a sweep of the Nationals—highlighting standout performances from pitchers like Fetty, Palante, Gray, and Liberatore. Despite sitting just one game out of first in the Central Division, the team faces record-low attendance at Busch Stadium. Ackerman also examines the growing fan presence at Battle Hawks games versus low turnout in other UFL markets. Plus, a deeper conversation on social media toxicity, including the threats faced by Lance McCullers and why some athletes like Max Homa are leaving platforms altogether.

Send us a textWes Fetty joins us today to talk about his life and his Pro Wrestling career! He also is promoting an upcoming event called Rumble at Rhinegeist in Cincinnati Ohio!! So of course we try three beers from Rhinegeist Brewery!!Top Shelf- Top 3 Pro Wrestling Finishers/SubmissionsWe had Blossom from Rhinegeist BreweryBeer Flights- We grill Wes on everything wrestling and some of his sickest Hardcore Matches he has ever had! Trips to Japan and all over the USA!We had Juicy Truth from RhinegeistDive Bar Reviews, Honer takes us to a hole in the Wall place in Cincinnati OH.. If you want to learn more about this place come and find out on the Podcast..Beer had was Bubbles by Rhinegeist BreweryTheme Song for Drunk with Buds by Lost Like LionsSocial MediaX:   @beastmanhuskInstagram:  @beastmanhusk Rumble at Rhinegeist May 9th   Ticket link belowRumble at RhinegeistHop Station Craft BarGet Beer, Cocktails, and fab food while enjoying darts, vintage games. Hop Station is hopping!Coastalos SodasUrban Artifact launched our own hemp derived THC brand Coastalo. Made with real fruit!!Niles BrewingUnique Beers and Cocktails! They host events and trivia weekly. Located in downtown Niles, Michigan!TavourUse our promo code 'DrunksWithBuds' for $10 off your second order.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

Ah ok, es kommt recht spät, aber wir wussten es kommt. „Fetty ist gern ekliges“. Wie vorhersehbar. Zum Klassentreffen tragt Ihr den Haarburger aber nicht.Denn wir wollen ja nicht, dass Ihr uns vor unseren ach so wertvollen Highschool Freunden blamiert.(Staffel 4, Folge 21)

Munaf Manji and Griffin Warner talk MLB betting for Tuesday. MLB is in full swing and the guys are off to a hot start on the bases. Best bets as always.

Munaf Manji and Griffin Warner talk MLB betting for Tuesday. MLB is in full swing and the guys are off to a hot start on the bases. Best bets as always.

Join Gene Fetty & Keith to talk about innovation and history in Glue Pulling for PDR and Collision repair! Check out the Automotive Appearance Institute (AAI) HERE   Save the date October 9-12 for the PDR College Advanced Skills Seminar 2025 @ Anson PDR, in Burelson TX!

The guys talk about the Super Bowl, schizophrenia, and debate whether or not Cheetos are chips. They also power rank Muppets and bring back Robert Felines.Follow the show on X/twitter: @passthegravypod, @AlexJMiddleton, @NotPatDionne, and @RobertBarbosa

This week on Dopey!!!! We are joined by Rachel Siegel of Mountainside! And she tells a crazy adventure of becoming a fentanyl addict in Tel Aviv - Israel! Rachel's story starts in Massachusetts but takes a serious turn to pure Israeli insanity! PLUS emails of cotton fever, crazy Wiley Voicemail and my Dad's 81st Birthday! Plus Elon>?????'Join Patreon at www.patreon.com/dopeypodcast

Happy 53rd National Day to the UAE! Lived here, growing up in the zaatar infused streets of Rolla in Sharjah, to the plush F&B facades in Downtown Dubai, to cozy street eats in Al Ain or fine dine in Abu Dhabi - oh - how can I forget the joys of karak at the highest peak in Ras Al Khaimah - if there is one place you can experience the spirit of the UAE - I think its food. Not just the culture but also its evolution through the years. And one such brand has been The Noodle House - a homegrown Asian eatery curating delicious flavours for locals and tourists alike. Which is why as we celebrate Eid Al Etihad this year, here's a story that sheds light on how glocal concepts can add to a city's growth and share of tasteful endeavours, how recognised brands can empower entrepreneurs further contributing to their scale and set up, what goes into pulling off effective brand partner experiences as an SME and most importantly - which dish is to look out for from the Noodle House x Curious Elephant offering available until end of December. The Noodle House has teamed up with Curious Elephant—a homegrown brand known for its artisanal sauces—to launch a limited-edition Four Hands menu, running from October to December. This collaboration is more than just a fusion of flavors; it's a celebration of homegrown brands and Dubai's culinary creativity. The Noodle House, a beloved 18-year-old brand, takes pride in supporting emerging local talent. In this collaboration, Chef Fetty Aryani of The Noodle House and Melody Mak, founder of Curious Elephant, have created a special menu featuring eight dishes, blending traditional Asian flavors with Melody's signature sauces. The menu offers four small plates and four large plates, each with a distinctive twist—highlighting the playful and flavorful nature of both brands. Catch the full episode across all platforms: ⁠https://linktr.ee/karikonnect⁠

This interview has been a decade in the making but well worth the wait as Big Wednesday is my favorite movie of all time and I finally got someone who was in the film to talk to me Darrell Fetty aka Waxer so enjoy!

Join Enoch, Fetty, and Tacoshoppe as they talk about their experience starting out in GMing, some good times and not as good times. Uploaded by MSouthworth

Join Enoch, Fetty, and tstols as we chat about the S49 PBE Majors Draft.https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/skKwWY2TDLbFor Podcast Network --> https://d3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net/stagi...974af22d412.m4a

Today's episode features hilarious comedians @ChloeLaBranche & Eric Fetty​⁠!!! You can follow me on Instagram here: https://instagram.com/sambuckedup?igs... #buckedup #hiphop #rap #interview #podcast #comedy #rapper

Come join Gene and take his hands-on class at the Anson Facility May 2, 2024 then stay for the Anson Open House May 4th! It's going to be a great event! Sign up here for Gene's class   Anson Open House!

We have much to discuss and don't have time to clone shame each other this week. We breakdown S3E8: Bad Territory of The Bad Batch. This side questy episode had some good discussion but we were eager to talk about our feelings about The Acolyte trailer, which we spent a good amount of time on. There are vulgarities, absurdities, and even a little technomancing the stone. Turn up your headphones, dial back your sensibilities, and join the wretched hive of scum and villainy as we take the low road to resistance on Season Four, Episode Fifty Five of Force Insensitive!Send Email/Voicemail: mailto:forceinsensitive@gmail.comDirect Voice Message: https://www.speakpipe.com/ForceInsensitiveStart your own podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=386Use our Amazon link: http://amzn.to/2CTdZzKFB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ForceInsensitive/Twitter: http://twitter.com/ForceNSensitiveFacebook: http://facebook.com/ForceInsensitiveInstagram: http://instagram.com/ForceInsensitive

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The back-to-back releases of Gunna's 'a Gift & a Curse' and Young Thug's 'BUSINESS IS BUSINESS' leaves the trio split (0:20). The state of Rap in 2023 takes over the rest of the pod, with topics like XXL's 2023 Freshman class (25:40), viral tweets about Sexyy Redd, Biggie and Ye (30:05), and Coi Leray's sample-filled new album, 'Coi'(38:52). This week's music in order played is Oodaredevil "Kimjun," Jenn Carter "Fetty," and Navy Blue "22!"

This week the guys discussThe NAACP has warning people against traveling to Florida, saying the state is "openly hostile toward African Americans, people of color and LGBTQ+ individuals,Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis will kick off 2024 presidential bid,Fetty swap sentenced to 6 years,TikTokers walking into strangers houses are risking their lives for “clout” in new challenge,Coach disappointed, crypto arena was not sold-out out for Brittney Griner's return to WNBA, How to get the intrest of the WNBA up, Carmelo Anthony has retired from basketball,Death of Tina Turner and Jim Brown and much more ! Drop a voice Message by click link  Voice Message 

THURSDAY HR 4 Monster Sports - NBA Play-offs. Florida Panthers MLB Oasis New programing on MAX Fetty going to jail Humans vs the Bee's

On this episode we celebrate 25 years since the release of DMX's debut album “Its Dark And Hell Is Hot”. We discuss parallels in the lives of X, and Tupac, who will have a portion of MacArthur Blvd in Oakland renamed after him. We'll let you know where exactly. And Fetty Wap's lawyers are arguing that his sentence should be lightened due to the motivation behind his involvement in drug dealing. Fetty claims the pandemic led him to pushin' p. A group of exotic dancers become the only in the nation unionized after their election to the guild is accepted. We discuss them as well as their only predecessors from 1996. Plus an update on the NBA Conference Finals and a look ahead to the Haney VS Lomachenko fight tonight! All that and much more on episode 186 of UNPROFESSIONAL AF! (INTRO) DMX- Intro (SHIT WE ON) RICH: Smoke Dza- Just Weed RUK: Symba- Top G (OUTRO) DMX-Stop Being Greedy --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/unprofessionalafpodcast/message

Interview by Manny Akiio https://www.instagram.com/mannyakiio We recently sat down with Lezhae for an exclusive “Off The Porch” interview! During our conversation she discussed life inn Passaic New Jersey, her upbringing, jumping off the porch when she was 10, growing up in Macon & Miami, changing her life when she became a mother, recently pursuing a career as a rapper, her inspiration to do music full time, Lil Kim being a big inspiration to her, recently her music being played on the Joe Budden Podcast, feeling like being Fetty Wap's baby mother hinders her career, how her kids are dealing with Fetty's recent legal troubles, explains what she wants out of her music career, and much more!

We're talking trends, content creation, and internet misconceptions on the latest episode of Beehive Avenue with a few of #AfricanTikTok's favorites, Favor & Ngwaah! Tune in as we hear their perspectives on what it's like to be a creator on the ever growing and evolving platform that serves as a form of comedy, entertainment, and resource for all of us today. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/beehiveavenue/support

You don't want to miss this episode of GInger Bros with Gene and Zan. They talk about their upcoming training event. This is an opportunity of a lifetime and will only be available to a small number of techs.

Episode 60 we dedicate this episode to Mike's longtime friend Trish Oakes who tragically passed away. We want to raise awareness for suicide prevention. Plese reach out to a family member, friend, coworker, Jim Mitchell or Mike Glidewell if you are struggling with anxiety and are having bad thoughts and need help or call 988.Are guests for the show are non-other than Zan Vidic and Gene Fetty. They will discuss and inform us about their new advanced training classes.  And don't miss the controversial (5 stupid questions) question 5 Margot Robbie or Scarlett Johanson question. lol 988lifeline.orgUpyourgame.comRealworldpdr.comDentmatepro.comdentmate.com.aukecotabs.com

Kwa ambao wanafuatilia mpira hapa nyumbani wanamjua mchezaji huyu mahiri wa Simba Queens lakini ambao wanafuatilla soka la wanawake hawa watakua wanaelewa uwezo binafsi na uhodari wake wa kucheza namba tofauti tofauti uwanjani ila ukimkuta kaikamata mbavu ya kulia aidha kwa Simba au timu ya Taifa ya Tanzania. Fatuma Issa ni mtu na nusu, hakuna mpenzi wa mpira au kocha yoyote wa mpira anaweza akamuacha kwenye benchi wakati team inatafuta matokeo au inataka kuwaonyesha walofika kuwaangalia vipaji ambavyo wanavyo kwenye kikosi chao. Kwa yoyote yule na kwa vyovyote vile, Fetty Densa, ni lazima AANZE. Ananikumbusha sana mimi na rafiki zangu wakati tunakua, tulikua chizi michezo hasa baada ya kufika shule ya Sekondari, ilikua kama lazima kila mmoja kuwa na uwezo wa kucheza zaidi ya mchezo mmoja ili tuwe na vikosi imara inapotokea kwenda kufanya uwakilishi wa shule, mkoa au nchi. Binafsi nilikua na uwezo wa kucheza Basketball na table tennis tu ila nina marafikia kama kina Kalova na Mboni Mntambo ambao wao walikua wanacheza Basketball, Netball, Volleyball na chochote kitakajokuja mbele ambacho kinatumia mpira kucheza lol, na tena VIZURI, sio kujazia namba tu uwanjani. Naye Fetty ni kama wanangu hao kutokana na maongezi yetu. Ananiambia hata shuleni mwalimu na wanafunzi wote katika shule yao walikua wakifahamu na kujivunia yeye sana. Akiwa anakua huko Morogoro Fetty ni ‘mtoto wa Bibi' zaidi, yeye ndo alomlea na kumtunzia siri zake zote, na ndo alomfundisha kupika na kumkumbusha kwamba yeye ni mtoto wa kike kwahiyo alihakikisha pia mjukuu wake kwenye masuala ya kupika na usafi wake na wa nyumba pia haachi kujifunza. Bibi pia ndo alipewa ahadi ya kwamba kuna siku mjukuu atakuja kuwa mchezaji hodari kuwahi kutokea hapa nyumbani na so far, so good. Babu yake nae hakua nyuma kwenye kumsifia mjukuu wake pale anapofanya vizuri jikoni kwasababu pengine kuna umuhimu wa kufanya hivyo ili ampe moyo mjukuu wake. Fatuma anatuambia humu kwenye maongezi yetu jinsi ambavyo alihangaika mkoani Morogoro kupata team ya kucheza na jinsi ambavyo alijutuma toka siku ya kwanza kuhakikisha ndoto zake zinatimia. Ukimsikiliza kwa makini utagundua kama ni mtu mwenye mawazo ya mbele kuliko hata umri wake, hiyo inamsaidia pia inapofika wakati wa kufanya maamuzi anapokua ndani na nje ya uwanja. Unaweza ukajiuliza kwa kipaji chake na ujuzi wake kwanini hachezi nje ya nchi? Kwanini amekua Simba huu msimu wake wa nne na amekua akicheza kwa kiwango cha juu sana? Densa anatupa majibu ya swali hilo ambalo nina uhakika wengi wao wamekua wakijiuliza. Mahusioano yake na Mama yake ambaye alikua mmoja kati ya wanenguaji wazuri miaka iliyopita na ndo alimfanya pia mwanae naye atake kuwa Densa (ndo jina la Fetty Densa lilikotokea). Wana mahusiono ya aina gani? Mama alilichukuliaje suala la Binti yake kuchagua soka? Na Mzee wake nae yuko wapi? Nafasi yake kwenye team yake? Team ya Taifa je? Experience ambayo waliipata Morocco wakati Simba ilipoenda kwenye mashindano ya Ligi ya Mabingwa barani Africa? Vipi kuhusu mpira wa miguu wa wanawake hapa nyumbani? Pesa ipo? Muelekeo je? Haya maongezi ni moja ya maongezi bora ambayo nimeshawahi kufanya na natumai yatafungua milango kwa watoto wa kike na wazazi wao wengi kuelewa na kuipambania fursa hii ambayo Dunia nzima imeanza kuielewa. Tafadhali enjoy. Love, Salama. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/yahstonetown/support

Jehyve uses this brick by brick to reflect on this past year. Having accomplished a lot, he was having tons of fun. But, he talks about how he was feeling internally throughout that year. Playing professional sports over seas can take a tole on you mentally. See what Jehyve has to say about reflecting on his past year! --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Brick Talk IG : @bricktalkpod Jehyve IG : @fetty_floyd Twitter : @fetty_floyd Jaims IG : @freejaims Twitter : @freejaims The Off Season Network IG : _theoffszn Twitter : _TheOffSzn

Jehyve Floyd is back for another Brick By Brick segment. Getting a little deep, he talks about the mind vs the heart and being vulnerable. Brick Talk IG : @bricktalkpod Jehyve IG : @fetty_floyd Twitter : @fetty_floyd Jaims IG : @freejaims Twitter : @freejaims The Off Season Network IG : _theoffszn Twitter : _TheOffSzn

Today we're talking to Gene Fetty about GPR Training and how it relates to Paintless Dent Repair.   https://upyourpdrgame.com/  

Interview by Haze of DGB https://www.instagram.com/mike_tall Recently we linked up with Atlanta legend Yung Ralph for an in-depth “Off The Porch” interview! During our conversation he talked about taking advantage of his down time during the quarantine, explains how he has remained relevant for almost 15 years in the music industry, his thoughts on streaming, says he would of been a billionaire if streaming was set up during the mixtape era, explains how Atlanta has stayed on top of the rap game for so long, talks about staying out of other rapper's beefs, jumping off the porch, embracing his role of an OG, his first big single “Look Like Money”, working with Gucci Mane & Yo Gotti on “Bricks”, holding his own on songs with big artists, his close relationship with Zaytoven, the old of recording in Zay's basement with so many artists, the new “Zone Connect” project w/ Zay, OJ Da Juiceman & Yung LA, working with Birdman & Young Thug on “Imma Ride” from the Rich Gang tape, knowing Young Thug before rap, Fetty Wap reaching out to him to work, recording an entire project with him, Fetty giving him $50k cash, his upcoming project “9 Piece” w/ Zaytoven, reveals he has never cashed a rap check for his songs, supporting other artists, telling Birdman to sign Jacquees, learning to know his worth, not d**k riding others because they have money, and much more!

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in this episode we talk about Andrew Tate, Queen Elizabeth, Fetty wap, New music, sports and much more, vibe with us and catch up on all the news!

Dennis Rodman wants to go to Russia. Let's talk about it.

Dennis Rodman wants to go to Russia. Let's talk about it.

Woah...after this whole deal he might only have $17.38 left in his bank account.

Activist-educator Cara Tuttle Bell is a trained attorney and powerful speaker on sexual harassment and assault prevention. Her work on college campuses dealing with sexual harassment and assault inspired her to train women on how to build assertiveness. She says it is crucial to communication, personal safety, and overall wellbeing. Cara also gives workshops on speaking with authority in salary negotiations, relationships, and work meetings. Her new book "Drowning in Timidity: Women, Politeness, and the Power of Assertive Living" is a must-read, especially for those who think being assertive is synonymous with being aggressive.    In this episode Dr. mOeand Cara discuss these topics: How to be direct without being aggressive Practicing salary negotiation Sexual Harassment in corporate America Why children must be taught assertiveness Bystander intervention in assault prevention Handling sexual misconduct in schools Moral courage, trauma-informed training and more... Visit Cara's website and connect with her online @caratuttlebell today! Transcript (auto generated) [00:00] Cara Tuttle Bell: I also hope that we can move away from this very gendered and loaded idea of assertiveness and understand it for what it really is, which is just being direct, being clear, being fair, considering the competing interests that might be in a meeting or a conversation and engaging equitably with one another. [00:27] Dr. mOe Anderson: Hey, everybody. Welcome to Perpetual Motion, a podcast focused on wellness, personal growth, culture, and relationships. Positive relationships. I'm your host, Dr. Mo Anderson. Bestselling author, award winning podcast host, keynote speaker, and speaker coach. Sometimes I interview expert guests, like today, and sometimes I do a solo show. But my goal is always the same I want to help you. Yes, you review, renew, and re you at the end of each show. I hope you have learned something that will elevate you to the next level of success. If you're new to the show or a returning visitor, let's make this official. Click that subscribe button to be notified of new episodes as soon as they are available. Also, help us grow and reach more listeners by raiding the show and leaving a comment. Just type a little bit. Just a little something, something. All right, stay tuned, because today my special guest is Kara Tuttle Bell. She is a powerful speaker on sexual harassment and assault prevention. What do we need? Some powerful speakers on that. And she also is an expert on why assertiveness is a crucial component of communication, personal safety, and overall wellbeing, she's got a great book. She's the author of Drowning, intimid, Politeness and the Power of a Certain Living. I'll be right back with Kara Tuttle Bell. You can't say Dr. Mo aintellya the fear might suffer the consequences winter's a failure what are you scared of? Why aren't you afraid? I'd rather live like I'm dying to live and die in the day my heart is pure my soul is safe tara, welcome to Perpetual Motion. [02:35] Cara Tuttle Bell: Hi. Thank you so much for having me today. [02:37] Dr. mOe Anderson: This is exciting. I haven't had a guess with your background or for this particular topic. I mean, assertiveness as part of communication is not something that we really think about. In fact, women get criticized for that a lot when they can just be the same way as a guy. And also, sexual harassment, I don't know if it's on the rise or we're talking about it more, but these are such important topics, and I'm glad you're here to help us understand better. Let's start with assertiveness. Why do we need to be more assertive? [03:11] Cara Tuttle Bell: I really hope that we can reclaim assertiveness. I think there are so many reasons that we need to show up and assert ourselves, both for ourselves and for others. I also hope that we can move away from this very gendered and loaded idea of assertiveness and understand it for what it really is, which is just being direct, being clear, being fair. Considering the competing interests that might be in a meeting or a conversation and engaging equitably with one another and I. [03:46] Dr. mOe Anderson: Hope we can as well. And I don't know the history behind it, but I just think about women who run for office or women who are in positions of authority and it seems like they just held to a whole another standard when it comes to confidence and communication. Do you know the origin of that? Is it just the role of women evolving or what the heck? [04:12] Cara Tuttle Bell: I mean, I think we are in the midst of it. I think we are watching this play out. Unfortunately, there are still too few women in these historically maledominated spaces so they remain judged and evaluated by old fashioned norms about male behavior and what we thought male leadership is and male courage looks like and really white male visions of that in most industries, but especially politics, as you mentioned. I think it is very hard for them to walk this tightrope or strike the right balance and get evaluated in the same way. I mean, they're just not we hear it on the news, we see it in the comment section of websites. You see it in headline after headline. You see it on Twitter where women are being judged more harshly for engaging directly, for having stances and opinions, which of course they do. And we should welcome that because I think a lot of people are confusing assertiveness and aggression. [05:19] Dr. mOe Anderson: Yes. And that's what we're getting to. And as you said, that what came to mind is even the subtle ways that this plays out. Even when I hear I'm a speaker, you're a speaker. But I'll hear other speakers so often when they quote someone famous, it's always what Patton said, what Lincoln said, what Ray. I hear women at events for women, women speakers and events from women and they don't have one single quote or statistics or anything from another female or for that matter, from even someone of another culture. I'll go out of my way to try to find something from someone in India or Canada or Australia and it's so ingrained that I think some people don't even recognize that they're doing it before a woman speaker. To give an hour speech and never quote a woman. It just blows my mind. [06:17] Cara Tuttle Bell: It does mine too. I completely agree. And I hope others can work intentionally to really diversify their message and their program and their slides and their images. I mean, you have to do the work and a lot of it is internalized. So I know that we're all busy and these women's speakers are probably like, I've got this presentation tomorrow and they may be finalizing their slides, but it's worth doing, right? It's worth doing because so many people are watching and listening. Now, granted, we are trying to make up for these huge gaps in education, right? Especially like in public education in the US. You probably were taught about a lot of men a lot of military generals, we see a lot of quotes from men's sports coaches as well. They're always a go to. These things are much more present in our mind because we're surrounded by those messages. We get them from day one. I mean, everywhere you go in a restaurant, church is off and on. Church, male leaders. So it's like we've been surrounded by male leadership in a lot of different spaces for the bulk of our lives and we've made so much progress, but we're still working to get towards equity. We haven't landed there yet, so we got to do some of this work of undoing to really be better at inclusion. Right? So it's like diversity and inclusion and belonging, which means we got to correct for the past, we got to address those lingering effects of that kind of socialization. And I mean, I do think asserting ourselves in these spaces, whether it's work, our professional relationships, our community works, our churches, is part of that work. It's part of the action that we can take. [08:06] Dr. mOe Anderson: Right. Very good point. And back to what you said earlier, which leads to my next question. What is the difference between being assertive and aggressive? Because I think a lot of people confuse the two. [08:22] Cara Tuttle Bell: I agree. I think we see both and it can be gendered. We have lots of good studies on this. We are just judging women more harshly. But when you look at these things foundationally, like, what does this mean? What is the definition of these words, then? Aggression? Is that steam rolling? Is that coming at something with force? It could be an abuse of power. It can be physical, it can be verbal, it can be using or depriving someone of resources. It's that misuse and abuse that becomes aggression. Right? It can be violent, it can be the unhealthy expression of anger. I'm actually fine with anger because I'll probably come up in some other answers. [09:10] Dr. mOe Anderson: But we don't want to be constructive or destructive. [09:13] Cara Tuttle Bell: It depends, right? It depends how you use it. I don't want us to live in it so much that we're bitter, but I want to harness anger as fuel so that we have that extra boost of energy to assert ourselves. Asserting yourself means you're showing up, you're being present, you're participating, and that varies. You're participating appropriate to your role in the workplace. You're participating on a committee that you're assigned to. You should be doing the work you're being asked to do and doing it fairly. So there's nothing wrong when I go to a meeting with asserting my own ideas, the agenda, my office and what I'm responsible for, and having that open conversation about whatever the decision is right. [10:02] Dr. mOe Anderson: And how we should make it, advocate for ourselves yes. [10:05] Cara Tuttle Bell: And what we should consider. And then it just sits there. It doesn't mean the other person has that obligation to receive it. But I'm showing up and engaging directly and fairly and equitably. So that, to me, is an assertive communication, which differs from really, if you think of, like, an 80s Wall Street type of movie that American, like, I'm going to call my way to the top dog approach. That's really the misuse of that. That's taking it too far. That's aggressive and it's inequitable, right? [10:38] Dr. mOe Anderson: You made me think about I'm glad you said that anger is okay sometimes because I'm here in the south, and we still have a lot of Southern belle mentality, and even when you are slicing and dicing somebody, you need to be smiling and offering them tea as they die. So many things. I had a couple of folks that I was mentoring at a previous company, and they came here from the East Coast, and they were just having such problems with clients because they were just going in just being normal, really being normal, but not the Southern way. And I was like, hey, you're going to have to and this wasn't male or female, but they were female, so they were getting it double. Like, people aren't responding. I was like, you got to go in this way. You got to come in real low and smooth. You got to ask about their children. We cannot just sit down and start talking about business. We got to drink and eat a little bit. There's so many cultural things in a dish. And then you throw these gender stereotypes and biases on top of oh, my God, it makes me weary sometimes. [11:53] Cara Tuttle Bell: It can be exhausting. And this is why I always talk about politeness, because when I'm talking about assertiveness or Serbia training a lot of women and you're right about south, right? It's a different audience sometimes a lot of Southern women in particular are a little resistant. Part of them wants to embrace assertiveness, and then they're like, but it feels too confrontational. It feels unladylike. I mean, I hear these things from them, and I'm like, okay, that word exactly. [12:24] Dr. mOe Anderson: I know you here. [12:30] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is. It's like, why wouldn't we just be pleasant and don't want to create conflict? We like to smooth things out. I'm currently in the south, and we just have to talk through it. And so I'm like, Listen, I'm all for polite behavior, but I'm really for kindness, right? We should be kind to other humans and patient and all of those things, but not to a fault. Not when it keeps us engaging, not when it keeps us from addressing injustice, not when it means that we're always minding our business while harm after harm and types of discrimination keep occurring. Not when it keeps us from having healthy relationships. So this people pleasing or fear of any sort of discomfort or conflict is the root of so many problems, personal and structural, societal. So I really am always advocating for us to bring assertiveness well beyond your salary negotiation conversation. That's when I think people think, okay, I can visit it for five minutes. I can be assertive for this moment in my life that comes maybe every three to five years, and I'm just going to cram for it, too. They just think, give me a script, I'm going to cram for this the night before. And listen, I'll help you with salary negotiation. I will, okay? So you can come to me for the last minute cramming session. But that's not skill building, right? That's like faking until you make it. That's like, I hope you can be assertive and hold for two minutes the next day when you have the conversation, but probably not because you're not practicing this on a daily basis, and it feels too hard when we make it infrequent and high stakes. And so this is about something that really, I think people should embrace as daily practice. It's self care. It's setting boundaries. It's maintaining those boundaries. It helps us have healthy relationships, and it helps us also be really in touch with those times when people are trying to violate our boundaries, where I want you to have anger, I want you to be in touch with that feeling when it comes up for you so you know what it means, but then harness it for maximum impact. And so that's where the anchor is fine. The anger is probably valid. I mean, there's so many valid reasons to be outraged right now. There's so many. But what are we going to do with that, right? Because I don't want people to live in bitterness and resentment. That's the same outcome of not engaging assertively. That's what happens when people are passive or passive aggressive, is that they're holding onto it. So for me, assertiveness is this balance that helps us be healthy on a daily basis and fair. [15:23] Dr. mOe Anderson: I like that you make that point about clients trying to come to you for the last minute. They come to me with their speeches at the last minute. Like delivering communication is a lifestyle. It's a way of life. It's kind of hard to get to that keynote level in a night. And I would think with salary negotiating, too, with what I think I've seen with people who try that cramming type of thing, is that they overcorrect and all of a sudden they're like, and this is what I wait a minute, what is going on? I can't even hear what you're saying because I don't know you. Who are you anyway? [16:00] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is a burst. It is because it's really like they are really trying to summon up the courage. And so it does come up too quickly, too strong. And then I also see people who just can't hold their position. So even if they can say the two sentences that they've memorized to make the ask, they then undo it with that need for pleasantry, if that's okay with you. Exactly. [16:25] Dr. mOe Anderson: You don't mind, and I'm sorry, and. [16:27] Cara Tuttle Bell: If you think it's okay exactly. Yeah. [16:35] Dr. mOe Anderson: I want this. We got to fix this quickly because I got a granddaughter and I want something different for her. Absolutely. All of the young women there's so much going on, as you said, and we're not going to get into that. But this is pressing, clear and pressing issue. Let's go to being assertive. And I'm just guessing you're the expert on this. Sexual harassment is a problem. It's something you have some expertise in and it's a lingering problem. And I think I'm wondering if being timid as well, in no way am I ever trying to make a woman at thought about anything. But if assertiveness when you talk about your safety and well being, if that can in some ways help you with that. But let's just talk about let's start with why in Twin. Is sexual harassment still Jeffrey Epstein a problem? [17:39] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is. And people ask me this a lot. This is my day job, right? This is the kind of compliance job that I have. So I'm trained as a lawyer and I work on a college campus. And so I'm addressing sexual harassment and assault all day, every day and have for the past eight plus years. And I am very passionate about it and become very assertive. And that's like both the personal and professional journey. I used to be. Shy. Law school really helps. But you also can practice, right? A lot of it had to be a willingness to do the practice. So I wasn't born this way. For your listeners, like, definitely this can be learned. I know it can be because I'm sitting here as the proof and the outrage that I have over the issue helps. Right? I mean, the outrage helps. The anger helps. I try to turn it into fuel to push me through the day, to be able to then bring it in a meeting or whatever it is that I'm working on addressing. And what we think in the field is that we're not seeing like a new epidemic. We're just seeing increased awareness, increased reporting of what has for a very long time been very high levels of this type of discrimination and heart. And it is everywhere you look, it is more common in male dominated professions. And you can look for data on this. This is business data, this is insurance policy data. The more there is a disparity in a profession, the more men outnumber women, the more incidents we have. And it's been this way for a long time, the more vulnerable a person in a role is. And that can be geographic isolation, that can be low pay, that can be low influence or authority in the position. That can be the seasonal nature of a position. Whatever it is, it isn't. Giving them security in a position in relation to other people makes them more likely to experience this type of harm. So it remains prevalent because inequity is prevalent and it's connected to the other forms of discrimination. So where you have racism and ableism and transphobia and homophobia and other types of discrimination you're going to also have gender harassment, sexism misogyny, sexual harassment and sexual assault. Now where assertiveness comes in is that the current best practice that we're trying to implement really across the board k through twelve schools it's been in the military they're introducing in churches. I think we're going to see this more and more across corporate America definitely has taken hold in higher ed is by teaching what's called bystander intervention training and that's because we're all bystanders like it or not I mean we're just here navigating the world and you choose and it is a choice whether to be an active or a passive. Bystander now a lot of us were raised to mind our own business. A lot of us worry about the risks of speaking up or of standing. [21:06] Dr. mOe Anderson: Out sometimes and that boys will be boys thing. [21:10] Cara Tuttle Bell: Oh and then the tolerance yes I. [21:12] Dr. mOe Anderson: Had some incidents and it was just blown off like that's just part of it yes and go out of the dark kind of thing like your right. [21:24] Cara Tuttle Bell: We still hear a lot of blaming for the target they're responsible for receiving the harassment and so where I am glad and can promise that there's been progress is a lot of the prevention messages are not so sexist anymore I mean they were they were just sexist application. They were saying women do this to prevent your own assault and we weren't having when I was in college corresponding messaging given to the male students who all of the data suggests are much more likely to be engaging in perpetration regardless of the gender identity of the victim. So men are from all the data we have and that's across fields so it's criminal justice data, psychology, sociology, women's studies that's not actually in dispute. So we haven't realistically confronted the problem for some time but the public health model now is recommending that we teach a lot of bystander intervention and we are so it is now routine practice at colleges and universities in the United States more and more often showing up yes since like 2014 so they're supposed to be doing it. If anyone has any questions, please feel free to reach out. But we're doing it and it's teaching you some strategies. If you see something, say something but it's also giving you choices. So not everyone has to swoop in like a superhero or be loud or address something directly. They can also create a distraction. You can delegate to someone who's better able or who has authority to try to respond when appropriate. We need to think broadly about delegation so it's not necessarily always law enforcement that we're calling it's what's appropriate for the situation. Right. So sometimes it's me like on campus people can call me because it's my job to go do these things and so if someone feels like they don't know what to say or they don't know what to do, who can you take with you? Who can you delegate to? How can you document something? Documentation, we're seeing having really transformative and activist power in recent years, helping us really confront some harsh realities and prove to the doubters some things that a lot of us knew were happening. So sometimes documentation from afar is the thing we can do safely to address an issue. And that takes some nerve too, right? So all of these things we're hoping to equip people to choose from if they are in the midst of situations at risk for sexual harassment or assault, but it can apply to all forms of discrimination. [24:17] Dr. mOe Anderson: What bothers me with the documentation is in the form of a video. If that falls into that category, is when people are just filming just for the purpose of posting and entertaining and not get help. That is just appalling filming women being raped, assaulted and me. And two, to be clear, this cannot just happen to women assault and harassment. Although, as you said, the data shows, it is for adults predominantly going to be women. But are they teaching them that documentation needs to go somewhere and not just post it and hope somebody sees it? Because that's scary to me. [25:02] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is scary. So I'm always making that qualifier. We know that college students consume a lot of video content from some popular sites. And so just quite directly, I'm like, this is not for that. That is not what we're asking you to do. Consent is really key when we're talking about sexual misconduct. Like consent is key. So if you're filming something without someone's consent and you're posting it somewhere without their consent and you're sharing it without consent, you are part of the problem. That's also increasingly illegal, right? So they shouldn't be sharing social content. So yes, I think that is a very important part of the conversation that cannot be left out. I don't care how long the training is running. It's like if you're going to mentioned documentation, you've got to put those really important caveats around it because that's what came to mind. [25:57] Dr. mOe Anderson: And even I believe it's illegal almost everywhere now to post pics the revenge posting of some intimate photo or whatever that was sent to you. And I'm happy that law enforcement and our lawmakers are stepping up, but again, we're looking at largely male populations to make these decisions. So that speaking up and getting involved in folks like you being there to help make this transition is so important. And I was thinking about as well too, to go back to harassment being a lingering problem. We're talking about learned behavior, confidence and being assertiveness. Isn't this sexual harassment? Learned behavior? I can't imagine. I mean, I have two sons. They didn't come here like that. And then heaven forbid that's going on. But from the movies, to their peers, to whatever is of course enough. Do we have to attack all of these industries, magazines and music and everything? Not attack, but you know what I'm saying. [27:05] Cara Tuttle Bell: You know what you mean. It is very concerning, right? Because young people are always getting so many different messages is contradictory messages, right? And so even if they're raised one way, they could then land in a peer environment where they're getting reinforcement on a lot of negative behaviors. And this is true across the board. This could be drug use. This could be alcohol misuse. This could be for like, how they engage in sexual practices. Do they bully and harass people? So that peer dynamic pushes some young people into behaviors they otherwise normally wouldn't engage in on their own. And they tell us that, right? I mean there's really fascinating research on these topics and getting them to display some moral courage, some assertiveness, that's really tough. That is really tough. So we got to really pull it apart. We work through scenarios. We talked to a lot of them about what leadership is because many of them want to be a leader in some capacity and they want to skip over the work, right? They want to just graduate and be like a successful millionaire entrepreneur in their twenty s. And we're talking about like, what skills aren't you practicing and developing? Particularly these students who have been in the home environment, so they didn't have the social experience of the past few years due to COVID on college campuses, we are seeing a developmental delay. I mean, we are like it is not the same incoming class that we had prepandemic in the interpersonal communication skills. So it really did feel like we had these young students kind of just unleashed once some of the restrictions were lifted and they were coming to us with different questions. I don't like my roommate. I don't know how to navigate this conflict, whether it's conflict or laundry or deciding where to eat in a group. So they're just asking us really basic social questions and for tips that they thought they were past at least a few years ago. Now, I always thought they had room for improvement, but it wasn't such a basic level. So I'm very concerned about their ability to engage in sexual communication, ensure that consent is a part of those things, or know and honor resistance and discomfort when they're seeing it. I mean, people are not really teaching them this consistently. So we don't have consistent sex ed in this country. It really depends where they are. A lot of schools are afraid and that's because the parents complain about the type of content. So I very rarely see a college student who has what I would want them to have had before they get to college, which would be medically accurate. Information about their body, the bodies of others. Consent, education boundaries, warning signs of unhealthy relationships. What constitutes stating violence or exploitation, sexual exploitation, a lot of which that like coercion and blackmailing can occur with phones, pictures, and videos now, because otherwise they get here. And people in jobs like mine, we will try to do what we can, but a lot of times they're 18 when they get here. Right. So we've got to engage in some unlearning to try to then relearn or teach them new skills. And, no, they're not getting enough time with me. They're with their peers most of all. And dosage is key. [30:56] Dr. mOe Anderson: Micro dosage. [31:02] Cara Tuttle Bell: We got to talk about what they're learning. Right. And with the availability of online ***********, are they learning more from **** because they're not getting sex at in schools? That is concerning to me. So then it's not surprising when they're reenacting things they saw online and they tell us stuff like, oh, I think they like that. And I'm like, you can't assume everybody likes that. [31:28] Dr. mOe Anderson: That woman or that man is paid. [31:34] Cara Tuttle Bell: It's all about consent. Yeah. We have to help them unpack these things a little bit and work through it. And you touched on this earlier, and this is really important to say is some assertiveness does deter some bad behavior. Not all. Okay. There's always going to be people who are trying to violate our boundaries and trying to cause harm, who are trying to take advantage of a situation so we can't prevent everything. [32:04] Unknown Speaker: Exactly. [32:04] Cara Tuttle Bell: But there is research to support that strong articulation of boundaries. Clear resistance does disrupt and deter some behavior. It may not prevent them from harming someone else, which I understand. They might then just choose another target. But it is worth a try when we think we're in a situation to nip something in the bud early on. Right. And especially if we're talking about sexual harassment in the workplace. Right. Because if the behavior continues and you get to a place where you're going to want to report it or seek some support, they're going to ask if you were clear about your boundaries. They're going to ask the question, did you tell them this makes you uncomfortable? And no, you shouldn't have to. They should just not commit the harm. I agree with you completely. None of this should be happening. But it is happening, and it's happening often. So I do want to just give people as many tools as possible to be able to reduce harm, appease when that's the best choice for safety or extricate yourself from a situation. [33:18] Dr. mOe Anderson: Kara, what about this? I'm thinking about the gymnasts mobiles and others. I mean, they did everything. They reported it. They went to the authorities. I think they went to the FBI. Oh, my goodness. It honestly makes me think about discrimination with African Americans back with the Tulsa Race rides and everything. Who do you turn to when the people coming for you are the people who are supposed to protect you or the people who are. Ignoring it are the authorities. [33:51] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is true and it is so discouraging, okay? Not every human resources department or law enforcement department, these people who are supposed to be who you can turn to, clearly that's not consistently available or going to guarantee success. I mean, very few times can I offer the people I'm working with anything that feels like justice. And that's really disappointing, right? Because a lot of us are raised to have faith in the systems and these procedures. We build trust like that. You hope that your company cares about you, especially if you've worked there for 20 years. We get so many messages about how we care about all these issues, yet when people value submissions, yes, the statements are lovely, but you got to back that up with action. And I know that sometimes the supportive person is hard to find, but I do know because this is my professional network, right? These are the conferences I go to. There are hundreds or thousands of us who do care, and they may not be at your company, okay? They may not be. And a good indication is, look up your sexual misconduct policy. Is it from has anyone updated it since? [35:08] Dr. mOe Anderson: How would you know? Because they'll change the bottom of the document. They'll change the footer on the front page when you look at it. Can you tell from the content that this is not current with our culture and our beliefs now? [35:26] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes. Right, because a wave of activism on this was in the early to mid 90s, really prompted by Anita Hills testimony during the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearing. So that was the Wake up call for America phase one. And sadly, a lot of the work stopped then. So my college students, when they go get at their next job, the ones who maintain contact with us or who took my class, they do things like look up the policy and when was the last time the committee met and what would I do if I experienced sexual harassment in the workplace? And some of them are pretty activist and they ask these questions at the interview. That is risky. You may not get the job offer if you're showing yourself to be what might be perceived as a troublemaker at the interview. But if you care too much about some of these causes that could make the employer nervous, it would be better. [36:21] Dr. mOe Anderson: To know then that HR might be the very person you have to go to. [36:29] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, you and I are on the same page. I'm like, there is another job. I promise you there's another job. Sometimes the students are so worried, but I'm like, you need to be interviewing them just as much as they are interviewing you. These are signs. They are telling you whether or not this is going to be a healthy or a toxic or replaced culture, whether or not they're going to cover for people or actually address the things that are happening. But if you can't find it at your school or in your church or at your place of employment, do some Internet research, because there are many nonprofit organizations, regionally, nationally, I'd help anyone find them. There are attorneys who take things pro bono. There are all sorts of resources now to help people across industries. It is sometimes hard to find them, but I know that they're there. I know that they're there because those of us who have experienced these things and have had help now want to extend that help to others because the support is not consistently available. [37:32] Dr. mOe Anderson: No, it's not. But there are so many who have, myself included, being victims of sexual harassment. And I think, in addition to Anita Hill, I feel like Tyrone Burke's Me Too movement, even though it's come under a lot of criticism. And yes, there have been people accused for everything who may have been innocent, even Child Protective Services. There's always going to be that small percentage. But Kara I was at after that happened, and people don't realize she had been talking about that for a while and had that hashtag made too, for some years before it got retweeted following the Harvey Weinstein thing. Weinstein weinstein. And I remember being with some girlfriends. We'd gone to a movie and everybody was talking about hashtag me too. And afterwards we were talking and we got to talking about it. And these were professional women over about six of us. And every single one of us had been a victim of sexual harassment and sexual assault. And none of us were in a position that we felt we can do anything about it and have any support. And that was just it took me weeks just to get over that revelation, because you kind of go around just thinking it's just you like perhaps those young gymnasts were doing, not realizing how many people were being victimized. And we kind of cried together. And when you don't deal with it too, just the post traumatic stress of just being there, and some of that resentment, anger, and explosiveness that it happened and that you weren't able to deal with it. So in addition to you guys teaching these courses and you being there as an advocate, an attorney, a trained attorney, is there also counseling now? Are there more mental health services? [39:29] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, we're seeing just a dramatic expansion across higher ed, which is good and overdue around all kinds of counseling and well being. Right. So we'll see a center for student wellbeing, you'll see expanded staff and many more culturally relevant and sensitive trainings and staff to surf particular populations. If you look at the hiring, you just see it everywhere, like in many, many states, that there are so many jobs because this is an urgent issue on college campuses, not just sexual assault, but I mean, the mental health and well being concerned. And yes, right. So if someone were to connect with us, we offer them a menu of services. They can work with victim advocates or they can go to the counseling center. And there's some specialization and sexual trauma or aspects of identity that they can seek out. A provider who they feel comfortable with, who they think gets their experience, but also understands what they're processing. We have yoga, we have meditation, we have study skills, we have financial education that can be necessary. A lot of places have hardship funds, student health. So our medical providers have a lot more understanding of sexual trauma, childhood sexual abuse, because those exams, like the exams you're touching the body, I mean, that can be very triggering for a survivor. And consent is just important in providing information. So everything that I'm seeing is getting more trauma informed. The progress is just slower than any of us would like. Law enforcement also has been getting more trauma informed training over the years. A lot of assumptions about doing the work, which led to really a lot of dismissal of some of the reports because if they interview a sexual assault victim in the immediate aftermath trauma, she's still in the space of trauma. Trauma disrupts memory encoding, like how our brain is storing them and putting them together. So it would be difficult while we're in fight or flight, we're in the adrenaline surge. These things last for days, not just minutes and hours. And so they've learned that conducting open ended interviews after three to five sleep cycles is actually much more likely to produce a coherent narrative with fewer gaps. [42:13] Dr. mOe Anderson: I know for a long time they just kind of thought you just get to them right away, they're going to start making up stuff or imagining stuff or they'll forget. But you're saying the memory can actually oh, that's for the person experiencing that, that's horrible too. But with time it sounds like it's kind of scattered pieces and you can start putting it together a little better. [42:38] Cara Tuttle Bell: You can. And if alcohol is involved and often is not always, but alcohol consumption, whether voluntary or used to commit the crime, that further disrupts that memory consolidation and encoding. And so really sleep and being in a safe environment and emergency rooms aren't always feeling safe. They're like hectic and loud and there's people in and out. So conducting an interview, even with good intentions, even when they want to get the information to try to go try to get the offender as quickly as possible, was not producing good results. So we're seeing new approaches being adopted here and there. Again, it's not everywhere. And I would like it to be, to do things like the forensic experiential trauma interview, that's one called Fetty, where it's training them to build rapport, create a really safe condition so it doesn't feel like we're interrogating a victim, ask open ended questions, let them go where they want to go, right? Because the brain is navigating through fear and trauma and that's not linear and it's not going to be linear but at the end of the conversation or several conversations it should be the job of that investigator to put that story together. So we were really often are making the person who experienced the harm be the crime scene and then do all of the work of reconstructing the narrative and that was just not the best way to get at the information. That's really what we now know about the brain and trauma has really changed the approach in ways that better equip any type of investigator who understands this is the neurobiology of trauma who has this training to ask better questions and get a better narrative and since what we're talking about is often word against word that narrative is crucially important. Sometimes there's corroborating evidence but a lot of times there isn't and so getting that good account from the person who was harmed is tough work but it's. [44:44] Dr. mOe Anderson: Tough work worth doing right and not being dismissed. The big message here, whatever age you are is that there are people out there who will help you, who can help you and systematically it hasn't always been the case and there's still going to be some of the old attitudes and processes out there but don't give up. I mean we're seeing things coming out now about and I don't want to keep naming organizations but just people who were children, male and female and things happen and they're just now getting restitution, getting justice and we don't want to see that anymore. [45:24] Cara Tuttle Bell: No, it takes a long time and it's very important to acknowledge that these harms and this discrimination occurs across identity, right? So it occurs across gender. Identity occurs in all communities whether you're class level and across race. We do know that there's disproportionate impact, right? That some people have more vulnerable characteristics that let them be targeted and also that let them justice system then fail them than others. So absolutely none of this is fair and consistent across the board but help is available if you know where to look and if you don't know where to look reach out to me and I will help you. There are people who will help you find it. [46:10] Dr. mOe Anderson: Thank you for that. We're going to give your information to in the show notes and when we get to the end but before we do I want to know we're talking about assertiveness but how do we if we're not naturally that way unbelievably? I'm not a natural extrovert people have a hard time believing I'm not really but I had to learn it because I was trying to get run over but how can we learn? I mean I just went at it and role model somebody but was better, more systematic. I practiced until it became second nature but what's the more strategic or what is the recommended way to learn assertiveness? And I want to couch that in two ways. One is I've got young people around me. How do I teach them assertiveness in my kind little Southern bobble beltway so that they don't get in trouble at school, but also for people that it's not their nature. And there are a lot of adults, male and females, who just don't want trouble. They just rather not see anything. [47:17] Cara Tuttle Bell: I know it's hard to start, okay? It's hard. And it will feel painful. It will. And I didn't know there were tools around when I was doing it. And so I was like, you have to jump in this conversation. It really was faking it until you make it. But now I know that there are lots of books. There are now. A lot of them came out in the 70s. That's where we saw the debut of assertiveness Training, 70s Women movement. And some of them are still really good foundational texts. Now some of it's going to feel really dated and just if you read those and they're cheap, you can get a lot of these at used bookstores for nothing, for pennies. Just let the dated stuff go and take the lessons where you can find them. Then again, as I mentioned, a resurgence in the 90s, so you might see some of these books available from mid ninety s. A lot of them are really focused on women at work, so they're career focused and they're about being ambitious. But there's some good lessons in there still. Now, what I like about recent products is that they're much more inclusive also, so it's not so stereotypical about men and women. And these are tools for everyone. And this is really good because a lot of people come to the assertiveness training workshops and sometimes they're making assumptions that are just for women. But there are men who feel like they're getting run over in meetings and they don't know how to advocate for themselves either. This really is for everybody. So you can Google assertiveness training. There are lots of free resources on the web. There are books, there are workbooks. I mean, I do have my book. It has some exercises in it. I've got a workbook only that's available on Etsy, but there's lots of name of your book? My book is Drowning and Timidity Women Politeness and the Power of Assertive Living. It is available at my website, karatuttlebell.com, but also for Kendall on Amazon. You can purchase it at Walmart or through professional women books. It lives in a couple of different places, so it's available. It does have exercises in it. Start with self reflection, right? You've got to know who you are and what's hard for you. So we know what to work on. So quick questions would be when you are walking across campus, are you the person who always moves out of the way on the sidewalk or do you hold your position on a plane? Do you ever get the armrest? Or do you never get the armrest in your family or, you know, romantic relationships? Do we ever eat where you want to eat or someone else always making the decision, are you watching the movies you want to watch, or are you just going along? And so there's all kinds of questions to just do some self reflection about where am I and where is it worth it? I'm not saying fight every battle. I don't know what I'm having for dinner tonight. And I may not care when I go home and make that decision with my partner. You know what I mean? It may be their night to pick, but the question is, are you ever getting what you want ever? And where is it important for you to do so? We can apply this to romantic and sexual relationships. Who's experiencing pleasure and how often and why not? And assertiveness matters there, too. Are we giving more than we're getting? And you just apply that give and take analysis that it was Sunday. Yes. Whatever relationship we're talking about. Right? Like, are you feeling taken advantage of or does it feel really balanced and equitable so that you start with the self reflection, then you start with the small practice. I want you to start small. I want it to feel doable. I want you to ask for something that's really low stakes, so it doesn't matter if you get the yes or not. And I also want you to get comfortable getting hearing no. You'll survive the no, it's all right. You survived the tough meeting. We survived the uncomfortable phone call. We've survived it over and over. We've survived it all thus far. Excellent. You will survive. And that's why that's nice. In my career, and I've also learned to perform extraversion, even though I have to retreat and recharge. If you learn you can do it, I'll learn I can do it. I'm going to have this burst of energy. I've also become really good about setting boundaries so I have that time to recharge. That also requires assertiveness. I got to tell my friends I cannot go out again. I'm, like, try to limit to two happy hours or two social events a week. Otherwise, I feel too depleted. And some of us can't say no to our friends who love us anyway. They love me anyway. They know I don't go to brunch. Okay? I don't go to brunch. Brunch is too loud, and I don't understand middle of the day drinking, and. [52:07] Dr. mOe Anderson: They'll tease you about it. We know you're not coming. [52:10] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, and it's fine then. It's all fine in other ways. Yes. They know I'll fight for them. They know I've got their back. So your relationships should be strong enough to survive that actually, they should be thriving. It's like they should really be seeing you for who you are and letting you be healthy in the ways that you need and so starting small with the practice just really helps you learn to ask if you have kids. I would say make them make phone calls, maybe put the name in at the restaurant. The students are coming in really struggling with just verbal communication, like out loud communication because they're doing it all on their phones. Okay? They want to text or do an online chat. And we're not preparing them for work. Work still requires some phone calls. I mean, at some point, you have to talk to another human. So you can start small in those ways to make them practice talking and to talk to adults and actually talking across the power differential in appropriate ways. But we got to break the scene and not hurt because seen and not heard is how we have a lot of child victimization. That's how we have the gymnasts, which we talked about going on, going on for so long. How do you have hundreds of victims for so long? Well, they did everything right, as you said. They told us and they told us, and they told us, and they told adults, and they told the FBI, you know, and how does this still continue? So I actually want us to raise angry girls. Write that down. Yes. Because the anger is a signal, as we talked about. If you're stressing politeness over their boundaries and well being, they're not going to acknowledge the harm themselves. They're not going to tell you about it. They're not going to seek support. They're going to be stuck in that self blame. And so let anger be the signal. Let assertiveness be the tool. And then the outcome is healthier beings, right, who once they've learned to advocate for themselves and assert themselves absolutely, I want them to have this sense of collective responsibility. And this is part of my message, which I really think was missing in the books of the in the 90s. You've got to advocate for others. That's what changes our communities. You've got to be a bystander who engages or be the witness who goes along and confirms somebody's report who at least acknowledges the harms that are happening everywhere we look and engage collectively. So it's not assertiveness just to get you a raise, which you deserve, okay, get your rates. But that's changing an individual person's existence. That's not creating change in our communities, structural or systemic change. That's not going to bring about gender equity. So we've got to use assertiveness to change our communities and engage collectively as well. And I think that's been missing in too many places, right? [55:32] Dr. mOe Anderson: And we've been so worried about the cost ourselves individually and not thinking about long term the consequences for generations to come, like the inequity with salaries and so many other things. When we think about what the CEOs of the Fortune 500, fortune 100 company, 4% women, all of this is related. It's all related, and it's time we changed it. And start by not being bystanders. Get out there and be advocates and leaders in this area. I love what you're doing. I could just go on and on. We need to do a live or something because I have enjoyed this and your passion around it is wonderful. I learned a lot. I didn't know what was going on on college campuses. I go back for football games and roll out. I couldn't use some of this. Trust and believe. So again, karate. Tuttle Bell, author of Drowning In That You Drowning in Women Politeness and the Power of Assertive living Tools and Tips to help anyone get it. Wherever books are sold, tell them how to connect with you online. That website one more time. Social media. However, we can find you online. [56:49] Cara Tuttle Bell: Sure. The easy way is to find me on my website, which is my name Caratuttlebell.com, and then you can find me on various forms of social media at Karatuttlebell. So I tried to make it easy. You reached out to me on LinkedIn, Instagram, doesn't matter. I'm publicly available. Feel free to reach out. I'm always happy to talk about this, as you can probably tell. [57:09] Dr. mOe Anderson: I can tell. I love it. And I can't wait to call my son and say, brave, angry girl. That's what we're going to be about. Thank you so much. You've been a wonderful guest. [57:21] Cara Tuttle Bell: Thank you so much for having me. [57:24] Dr. mOe Anderson: Wasn't that a great program? I love that episode. I enjoyed it. I hope you did too. Please remember to like, subscribe and share. Learn more about me on my website. Dr. Moanderson.com. That's Moe. You can read book excerpts, watch videos, learn about the services that I offer, and book me for a speaking engagement. I'd love to talk with your group and I'd love to work with you. So until the next time, review, renew, and re you. Thank you.

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This week on Hell Has an Exit Bryan returns to South Florida to interview his friend Ryan C. Ryan dives right into his early childhood and shares the deep affect that bullying had on him which drove him to having suicidal thoughts as early as 8 years old. Ryan recalls the first time every drinking alcohol as a teenager all by himself. He instantly felt “better” and more “normal” even though he blacked out. Not long after - Ryan began his love affair with ecstasy, followed by crystal meth, pills, fentanyl, crack & Heroin. Overdosing was just like another day in the life once him and his friends discovered pure fentanyl from the dark web.  It took years for Ryan to find the desire within to want to get clean. In and out of rehab and homeless, Ryan still didn't want to get clean but he “wanted to want” to get clean. Today Ryan has 5 years clean and protects his recovery over everything. He Believes that through the 12 step fellowship and the camaraderie shown to him in the rooms, he was able to get clean and find his authentic self. Listen to this great story of recovery with Ryan "C" this week on Hell Has an Exit. If you're in need of help, please visit unitedrecoveryproject.com or call  tel: 833-699-9395 HellHasanexitpod.com  Follow on Instagram & Twitter @hellhasanexit @united_recovery @dbpodcasts Produced by dbpodcasts.com Music by Miles M. Davis

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Nitt Da Gritt is our guest for this episode for this episode. He is the owner and founder of RGF Productions which is most commonly known for introducing the world to Fetty Wap. After our interview with Fetty, Nitt Da Gritt, wanted to let the world know his side of what happened to the career of Fetty Wap and the role he played in it. He talks about helping Fetty Wap come up, financing his music career until Trap Queen is recorded. He talks about what changes between him and Fetty Wap after the money comes in and details how things become a bit sticky with all the people involved in putting out music for Fetty Wap. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/offtherecord-djakademiks/support

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Halloween is over vibe #135. Within Brim's Skin -- Brimstone is joined by his wing man Alex DaPonte as they discuss lots of things including why Anthrax is far Superior to Megadeth (Brims biased opinion ~ Alex) and whether or not Alex is ready to move out. They discuss why brim is traveling to Florida for a little while and some bling bling that he'll be taking home with him. Brim can't believe that Fetty Wap was found allegedly drug smuggling with the aid of firearms. Finally, Alex explains how professional drug smugglers do it. Essentially, he explains what gets Within Brim's Skin.

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Leschea and Jayef discuss This year's Celebrity Costumes, The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame inductees LL Cool J and Jay-z, Jada Pinkett's recent revelations about her marriage and 50 and DaBaby at The Rolling Loud festival. Also, Fetty, Freeway and Megan.

***WE DO NOT OWN RIGHTS TO ANY MUSIC*** Welcome Black!! On this weeks episode we link up for a lil session and start the conversation off reviewing some listener feedback and contribution to a topic from the previous week about the punishment that pedos and other sexual offenders deserve. Afterwards we jump right into topics beginning with acknowledging everyones favorite holiday "HOE-a-ween" and discuss its transition from wholesome to whoreable!! We switch topics and end up on Tom Brady and the controversy surrounding his 600th career touchdown; We question if the fan got shorted why and why not. Kevin Gates tells us all to practice semen retention an ancient practice credited with boosting male emotion, spirituality, and physicality; then ask the ladies how they feel about their man practicing semen retention. We then discuss why Jada Pinkett-Smith is still out here airing her dirty laundry in regards to her sexual life with Will Smith, Insecure, Fetty wap, and so so much more. Follow @hiipothesis on IG and Twitter Send your feedback, topic suggestions, interview request, and hate mail to -- hiipothesisthepodcast@gmail.com Featured Songs: Method Man & Redman - How High(Remix); OutKast - 2 Dope Boyz in a Cadillac

Fetty Wap Arrested by FBI reaction, Alec Baldwin shooting, Jada Pinkett Smith Red Table Controversy, The importance of communication in a sexual relationship, Lil Nas X Dad challenges Boosie gangsta, & being a respectful savage, Trans Sydney Starr and Darius McCrary love triangle controversy  Fetty Wap arrest update and reaction  2:05Alec Baldwin shooting on set  9:20Jada Pinkett Smith Controversy  over sex life with Will Smith  15:49Importance of verbal/physical communication in a sexual relationship  20:00How some women self sabotage relationships when they think it's to good to be true 31:53Most men are good until a woman causes him to feel heartbreak  40:58Being a Respectful Savage  42:42Trans Sydney Starr and Darius McCrary love triangle controversy  44:51Lil Nax X dad challenges Boosie gangsta  49:47Legal documents claim investigators discovered $1.5 million in cash, 16 kilos of cocaine, two kilos of heroin, fentanyl pills, handguns, and a large arsenal of ammunition during its investigation into Fetty Wap and five others.The "Trap Queen" rapper was arrested Thursday night, shortly before his Rolling Loud set in New York. While it was initially reported that Fetty Wap was arrested on federal drug charges, new details outline the alleged drug operation in which controlled substances were obtained on the West Coast and distributed across Long Island and New Jersey.Law enforcement claims the group received the drugs on the West Coast and used USPS vehicles with secret compartments to smuggle them East. All six men have been charged with conspiring to distribute and possess controlled substances. Fetty and four out of the other five suspects are also charged with using firearms in connection with drug trafficking.The group faces life in prison if convicted. #fettywap @TheHighestPointPodcastAvailable on all podcast streaming services:https://thehighestpointpodcast.buzzsprout.com/The Highest Point Apparel/Merch:https://highestpointent.com/merch/Support the show: https://www.cash.app/$highestpointentpaypal.me/highestpointpodcast Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thehighestp...Twitter:  https://twitter.com/highestpointpod/Intro and Outro beat by Mazarati Breezewebsite:  https://highestpointent.com/podcasts/Amongst friends we're sharing diverse points of view on family dynamics, society, relationships, hip hop, current events and more!This is a Podcast for those who know they deserve the best & willing to put in the work for progress to reach The Highest Point!Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$highestpointent)@TheHighestPointPodcastAvailable on all podcast streaming services:https://thehighestpointpodcast.buzzsprout.com/The Highest Point Apparel/Merch:https://highestpointent.com/merch/Support the show: https://www.cash.app/$highestpointentpaypal.me/highestpointpodcast Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thehighestp...Twitter:  https://twitter.com/highestpointpod/Intro and Outro beat by Mazarati Breezewebsite:  https://highestpointent.com/podcasts/Amongst friends we're sharing diverse points of view on family dynamics, society, relationships, hip hop, current events and more!This is a Podcast for those who know they deserve the best & willing to put in the work for progress to reach The Highest Point!Tune in and let's build together!!Please subscribe and join the conversation!Support the show (https://www.cash.app/$highestpointent)

In this episode we get to know Gene and Melissa Fetty a little more. We talk about their Tech meetup that's coming up, the PDR 20 group and about life in general.

J & Z do their best Fetty wap impression, talk about buying weed, and Z does a Kermit the frog impression. Follow us on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/aroundthelunchtable/?hl=en