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Securely Attached is your source for psychologically informed, research based information about parenting, child development, and the fundamentals of fostering secure attachment relationships with our kids. Through deep dives into specific topics, engaging interviews with specialists and Q&A sessions that answer real listener questions, this podcast will help caregivers to understand the building blocks of children’s social, emotional, and cognitive development. Securely Attached is for anyone who wants to peek under the hood of their child’s behaviors and gain an understanding of the brain science and psychology that drives and shapes the parent-child relationship. Parents to children of all ages, from birth to the teen years, as well as anyone who needs to reparent their own inner child, will find something useful in this podcast! About Sarah Bren, PhD As a licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Sarah specializes in psychodynamic and relationship-based approaches in her work with children and families. She has a particular passion for equipping parents with tools to understand the building blocks of child development and how secure relationships form and thrive. Her work is focused on helping parents find their inner confidence so they can respond to any parenting problem that comes along and raise kids who are authentic, confident, resilient, and kind.

Dr. Sarah Bren


    • May 29, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • weekdays NEW EPISODES
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    • 314 EPISODES

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    The Securely Attached podcast is an incredible resource for parents looking for a deeper understanding of their children's emotions and behaviors. Dr. Sarah Bren, the host of the show, offers relatable and straightforward explanations that make complex psychological concepts accessible to all listeners. After listening to multiple episodes, I have found myself feeling more confident in my parenting skills and more connected to my own child.

    One of the best aspects of this podcast is how it boosts parenting confidence by providing practical advice and guidance without overwhelming or pressuring parents with a long list of "shoulds." Dr. Sarah Bren takes a nonjudgmental approach, giving listeners a solid foundation to inform their decisions as parents. Her insightful perspectives not only offer valuable knowledge but also empower parents to make choices that align with their own values and beliefs.

    Another great aspect of The Securely Attached podcast is its wealth of knowledge on the psychology behind children's emotions and big feelings. Each episode delves into different topics related to parent-child attachment and offers in-depth explanations backed by research and expertise. Whether you have a toddler or a teenager, this podcast has something for parents with kids of all ages.

    While it's challenging to find any negative aspects of this podcast, one possible drawback is that there may be times when certain episodes may not resonate as strongly with every listener. Parenting experiences can vary greatly, so some topics covered in the podcast may not feel as relevant or applicable to certain individuals. However, this can easily be remedied by exploring other episodes or seeking additional resources on specific areas of interest.

    In conclusion, The Securely Attached podcast is an enlightening and reassuring resource for parents seeking a greater understanding of child psychology and attachment-based parenting. Dr. Sarah Bren's relatable approach makes each episode enjoyable to listen to while providing invaluable insights into parenting techniques and strategies. This podcast has undoubtedly boosted my parenting confidence and become my go-to resource for navigating the complexities of raising children. I highly recommend giving it a listen.



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    311. Q&A: How can I get my husband to back off from pushing sports on our son who isn't interested?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2025 19:48


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     How do you know when to encourage your child to stick with an activity versus when it's okay to let them step away? Does your approach change if the activity is a team sport versus an individual activity? What are effective ways to talk to your partner about these concerns without triggering defensiveness or shutting down the conversation? How sibling dynamics along with parental expectations can influence a child's interests and shape their developing identity. A helpful phrase you can use that may reduce some of the pressure and urgency, leading to lessened friction and tension between your partner and child.       ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    310. How smartphones really affect kids' mental health: Surprising findings from cutting-edge research with Dr. Wendy Rote

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2025 58:24


    Dr. Wendy Rote is joining me to unpack some surprising and even counterintuitive findings about kids, smartphones, and social media. She and her team are in the middle of a groundbreaking longitudinal study following tweens over time, giving us rare insight into how technology is shaping the mental health and identity development of Generation Alpha.   Together we explore:   Why the question “Is social media making kids depressed?” might be the wrong one to ask and what we should be asking instead. A finding that might shock you: Kids with smartphones actually show better physical and mental health outcomes in some key areas. What kind of social media behaviors are linked to more depressive symptoms and why it's not as simple as “time spent online.” How compulsive checking could be a major mental health red flag that parents often miss. New, not-yet-published finding on the real impact school cell phone bans have been shown to have on kids. Why do some kids without phones actually report more cyberbullying and what that might reveal about exclusion and social dynamics? The one tech rule that makes the biggest difference in kids' well-being that has a greater impact that time limits and parental control setting.   If you've ever worried about screen time, debated a phone ban, or felt unsure how to support your child's relationship with tech, this conversation will give you fresh perspective, surprising data, and tangible guidance rooted in real research.   LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

    309. Q&A: How do I set boundaries with my neighbor whose child keeps coming over uninvited?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2025 22:26


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     It's okay to set boundaries without needing to justify why you are setting them. How to communicate your boundaries to a friend or neighbor (with a sample script you can use!) to honor your needs without burning a bridge.  Effective communication strategies and suggested responses for setting restrictions on allowing one of the neighborhood kids to come over uninvited - and how you can respond if your friends or neighbors pushes back. What if your neighbor sees that you let other kids come over unsupervised? A reminder that both the mom setting the boundary and the mom receiving it could benefit from hearing.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    308. Is it normal anxiety or something more? Understanding the signs and supporting kids through fears with Jennie Monness

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2025 56:15


    Jennie Monness is joining me this week to break down the difference between developmentally normal (and healthy!) anxiety and signs that your child may need additional support—and how you can adjust your parenting approach to effectively support both.   Together we explore:   Why our instinct to remove discomfort may actually make anxiety worse—and what to do instead. How to support children with separation anxiety, and the surprising stressors that often go unnoticed during transitions. Utilizing strategies to help your child feel more grounded, like routines, visual schedules, and previewing. The difference between information gathering and reassurance seeking behaviors in children - and how knowing this difference can impact which parenting tool you use to best support them. Dr. Sarah's simple “anxiety formula” that helps you know exactly where to focus your support. How to get to the root of your child's fear, when it isn't so obvious to decode and identify for parents. Play therapy techniques and somatic work you can use to explore the fears that are hard for your child to talk about or that they are avoiding outside of playful environments.   Whether your child is anxious about school drop-off, starting something new, or just seems to struggle with big feelings, this conversation will help you feel more empowered to support them—without needing to rescue them from every hard emotion.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST: https://www.jenniemonness.com/ https://www.unionsquareplay.com/ https://charmspring.com/   FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA:

    307. Q&A: My toddler is so sensitive that even when I'm being silly with him, he loses it. What can I do?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2025 20:16


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   What to do when your toddler spirals from silly to overstimulated in seconds. Unpacking the difference between dysregulation and high arousal—and why this distinction matters. Strategies parents can use to share joyful, silly and playful moment with your sensitive child without overwhelming them. If you stop being so silly and fun, is that over-accommodating and bowing down too much to your child without teaching them that they need to handle this? When these stimulation meltdowns happen, what you can do to recover. How you can build your child's tolerance for the silliness while modulating the intensity to help you. How a playful response can also help move you out of a shame response. Is there a different strategy to use if this high arousal overwhelm comes from a more fun and silly moment versus you losing your cool and yelling?     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:  

    306. C-Sections, birth trauma and the fight for better maternal care with Rachel Somerstein

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2025 62:29


    What if the way we talk about birth is shaping the way we experience it—before it even begins? Joining me to unpack this is journalist, professor, and author of Invisible Labor: The Untold Story of the Cesarean Section, Rachel Somerstein.   Together we explore:   The hidden biases and ingrained language that shape how we view birth—why terms like "failure to progress" reinforce harmful narratives. Why flexibility is a powerful tool in birth and parenting—and why we so often slip into rigidity when we feel anxious or out of control. The societal pressure to “do birth right” and how it impacts a birthing person's experience. The troubling reality of whose life we prioritize in birth and what that says about our values in America. Why do some births lead to trauma while others don't? What the research reveals about the difference. The importance of preparing for a c-section—even if it's not part of your birth plan—so that you feel safe and supported if it happens. Simple but impactful shifts that could make c-sections a more positive experience.   With 1 in 3 births resulting in a c-section, this is a conversation every birthing person deserves to hear. Tune in for a thought-provoking deep dive into the realities of modern birth and what we can do to reclaim agency in the process.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

    305. Q&A: My 3-year-old is ok with sharing, but refuses to take turns - what can I do?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 23:32


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   What is the difference between sharing and taking turns from a developmental standpoint? When the validation of your child's feelings doesn't seem to work well–what to do instead. Why there actually is a form of grief as a part of the taking turns experience and a mindset shift you can use to feel compassion for that feeling (even if it feels completely ridiculous to you from an adult perspective!) Territoriality versus play challenges - unpacking the different skillsets needed for different types of turn-taking experiences.  Games you can play to practice the skills required for taking turns. A reminder to parents that while this can feel high stakes, that intensity may inadvertently add to the dysregulation your child feels and cause them to dig their heels in more.      REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:  

    304. Stress, screens, shifting hormones, and early puberty: Why parenting 6-12 year olds is more important now than ever with Dr. Sheryl Ziegler

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 58:54


    In this episode, psychologist and author of The Crucial Years Dr. Sheryl Ziegler joins me to shine a light on the unique needs and challenges of raising 6-12 year olds - a period often overlooked in parenting conversations, despite being a period of massive emotional, social, and biological development.   Together we explore:   Why puberty is starting younger than ever, what's driving this trend, and how stress and environment play a critical role. How to tell when your child's “teenage” behaviors (like slamming doors or talking back) are developmentally normal versus when they may be signaling something more. How to foster self-esteem and emotional regulation using Erik Erikson's psychosocial stages as a framework. What “industriousness” versus “inferiority” means for kids—and why understanding this distinction matters so much for healthy development. How parenting styles are being shaped by the internet, social norms, and cultural messaging—and how to stay grounded in what your individual child needs. Why the pandemic had a unique impact on kids in this age range and how that continues to show up in surprising ways. Actionable strategies for parents of middle-year kids, including emotional attunement, helping them name and understand nuanced feelings, and how to have brave conversations about tough topics.   With humor, warmth, and deep clinical insight, Dr. Ziegler offers a compassionate reminder that while the middle years may fly under the radar, they are foundational—and your presence during this time matters more than you think.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

    303. Q&A: What can I do when my child refuses to go to school every morning?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 27:14


    302. Is a Neuropsych Evaluation right for your child? Breaking down the process with Dr. Yael Rothman & Dr. Katia Fredriksen

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 60:59


    What if understanding how your child thinks and learns could completely change the way you support them—and help them thrive in the process? Dr. Yael Rothman and Dr. Katia Fredriksen of Neuropsych Moms are joining me this week to demystify neuropsychological evaluations and empower parents with the tools to better understand and advocate for their children.   The surprising ways neuropsych testing can help unlock your child's potential (hint: it's not just about diagnoses). Why leaning into your child's strengths matters—and how to do that without tipping into toxic positivity. The conversation around diagnosis that so many parents fear—and why not talking about it might actually be more harmful. The 3 questions to ask yourself to help you determine if you should get your child a neuropsych evaluation and what you can expect from the process once you've made the decision to move forward. Is there an ideal age for children to receive a neuropsych evaluation? The importance of connecting all your child's doctors and mental health providers and why so many parents don't know this is an option. Clearing up some of the most common myths and fears surrounding a diagnosis like ADHD and autism.  Before you have a conversation with your child about their diagnosis, what parents should do first.   Whether you're wondering if a neuropsych evaluation is right for your child or you're looking for guidance after a diagnosis, tune in now to feel more confident and informed.       LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUESTS: https://www.neuropsychmoms.com/ https://stixrud.com/staff/katia-fredriksen/ https://www.rothmanpediatricneuropsychology.com/    READ THEIR BOOKS:

    301. Q&A: How do I teach sportsmanship to my 6-year-old who struggles with losing?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 19:26


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   Simple, effective emotion regulation strategies that actually work for 6-year-olds when disappointment over losing takes over—and how to use them in a way that feels supportive, not controlling. When to step in and what to say—a breakdown of the best parenting approaches before, during, and after a game to help your child manage big feelings in the moment (and build skills for the future). The secret to teaching good sportsmanship outside of game time—why some of the most powerful lessons happen when no one's keeping score. How the exact same words you say to your child can be either validating and invading - and what makes the difference so you can avoid the latter.  How to keep things fun while still building resilience—because not every moment needs to be a teaching moment (and knowing when to step back is just as important). Unpacking the root drive of competitiveness in children so you know how to best channel this toward healthy and socially acceptable behaviors.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    300. When your child has a chronic illness: Navigating challenges, fostering autonomy, and managing anxiety with Dr. Kate Herts

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 49:11


    299. Q&A: I know we're supposed to love our children equally…but what if I don't?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 21:23


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   - It may be taboo to say, but it's very common for parents to feel more connected to one child than another.   - A sample script you can use with your kids to articulate the different types of relationship dynamics you have with each of them that will serve to actually strengthen your bond.   - Some kids require extra support which may lead to more friction in your relationship - how you can orient these kids to what connects you over what is more challenging about your relationship.   - Why focusing on children's strengths, especially children who are more sensitive or explosive, can be so crucial.    - How you can form a stronger bond with a child who you may not naturally feel as easily connected to.       ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    298. The science of energy healing: The impact attention, intention, and presence has on our nervous system with Stephanie Filardi

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 55:51


    What if small shifts in your awareness and energy could help you feel more connected, present, and empowered—not just as a parent, but as a whole person?   Energy practitioner Stephanie Filardi is joining me this week to help us explore how being aligned and connected to yourself allows you to make choices that support not only your child's mental health, but your own well-being, too.   In this episode, we explore:   The difference between “woo-woo” energy healing and what research actually shows about the mind-body connection. How we can direct our focus and beliefs to shift our energy and mindset. Why no emotion is inherently bad—and how to work with difficult feelings, rather than against them, in yourself and your child. What meditation can open up for you and how to use it practically in your parenting life. What it really means to “accept what is”—and how this concept can reduce stress and increase clarity. How our kids pick up on our energy (even when we don't say a word). What research reveals about how attention shapes our brain and behavior. The ego's role in pulling us out of alignment—and how to shift from control to connection. A calming, grounding meditation you can return to anytime you feel overwhelmed.   If you're craving more ease and alignment in your life and parenting, this episode is full of actionable insights that will help you shift out of burnout and into a more grounded, intentional way of being.

    297. Q&A: Is my 3-year-old's hitting a sign of aggression or sensory seeking?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 16:47


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - What are sensory seeking and sensory inhibiting behaviors and drives?   - How you can determine whether your child's "aggressive behaviors” are actually sensory seeking - and how this changes the interventions you use.   - Are these behaviors volitional? Our answer might surprise you!   - What to do if your child's aggressive behaviors don't seem to be fueled by a reaction to anything in the environment (aka, they hit the kid next to them seemingly out of nowhere.)   - The occupational therapy strategies that parents can use with your kids to activate their sensory input systems.   - Why helping kids understand themselves opens the door to allowing them to build their regulation toolkit.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    296. How we heal: Rethinking attachment through the lens of AEDP with Dr. Diana Fosha and Karen Pando Mars

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 61:29


    In this episode, the creator of AEDP, Dr. Diana Fosha, psychotherapist Karen Pando-Mars, and I dive into the science of healing attachment wounds and exploring how AEDP can help people create healthier patterns.   Together we explore:   - What exactly is AEDP, directly from the creator of this therapy modality herself   - Unpacking how and why attachment "styles" aren't as fixed as we often think, and may not even be the most accurate way of thinking about attachment security...and what actually is!   - What the research reveals about repairing attachment ruptures and how to get through them in order to establish a secure attachment relationship.   - An exercise in reflective functioning and the types of things you can say to model and build this skill in your child.   - A trick for allowing yourself to stay in a feeling of discomfort or shame without immediately going straight to defensiveness.    - What people with different attachment styles need to start to move more toward secure attachment.   Tune in for a discussion that will shift your perspective on attachment, healing, and the power of connection.     SHOW NOTES: (link)   LEARN MORE ABOUT AEDP: https://aedpinstitute.org/   ATTEND THEIR CONFERENCE: https://aedpinstitute.org/aedp-conference-2025-in-it-together/   READ THEIR BOOK:

    295. Q&A: Why are transitions so challenging for my child with ADHD and what can I do to make them easier?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 31:26


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - The science of why transitions are so hard for the ADHD brain - it's not just that you or your child are "difficult," it's actually the way a neurodiverse brain works.   - What type of executive functioning skills need more scaffolding for a person with ADHD (And the good news, that being intentional about strengthen them can be a real game changer!)   - Some of these underdeveloped skills can create a snowball effect. Learn exactly how you can identify and make changes to your child's day to improve these challenging patterns.   - A few real-life examples of how Dr. Emily breaks down tasks, like getting her son to soccer practice with all his gear or helping him study for a test, that makes it easier for him, her, and their whole family.   - Creating a systematic approach for lessening how much support you offer your child that is most likely to help them internalize these new skills and behaviors.    - A transition hack you can use that will make it easier to go from activity to activity.       REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:   The digital platform Dr. Emily uses with her own child: Quizlet Create a visual guide of your child's routine: Small Dry Erase Whiteboard, A visual timer you can use: 60-Minute Timer  

    294. Parenting styles across cultures: The universal and unique factors the influence secure attachment bonds with Dr. Miguelina German

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 50:20


    The way we parent isn't just shaped by psychology—it's deeply influenced by culture, shaping how our children experience love, discipline, and security in ways we may not even realize. Joining me to unpack this is clinical psychologist Dr. Miguelina German.   In this episode we explore:   - Two overarching parenting frameworks, Attachment Theory and Baumrind Parenting Practices, and how understanding the nuances of each can help us in our parenting approach.    - The importance of “warmth” in parenting and what the research reveals of the positive correlation between our child's perception of high warmth with positive outcomes.   - How generational trauma, values, and cultural norms can inform differences in parenting strategies and styles.    - The impact of being separated from a caregiver as a young child and the attachment rupture that can occur during critical developmental times.   - How to repair a relationship that has undergone an attachment rupture.   Parenting is not one-size-fits-all. By understanding the interplay between attachment, cultural influences, and parenting styles, we can create stronger, more secure connections with our children.       LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. MIGUELINA: https://www.drmiguelinagerman.com/   ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: Ghosts in the Nursery: A Psychoanalytic Approach to the Problems of Impaired Infant-Mother Relationships Angels in the nursery: The intergenerational transmission of benevolent parental influences Dr. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson - The 4 S's   CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

    293. Q&A: How can I find a safe therapist after experiencing complex trauma?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2025 27:23


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   - When you notice unhealthy patterns in how you tend to show up in relationships or in past therapy, how you can communicate that to your new therapist to help treatment be more successful.   - If you're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of starting with a new therapist, we share a conversation starter that may make you feel more confident.   - Strategies for vetting potential therapists - both for professional expertise as well as goodness of fit.   - Red flags to be on the lookout for as you are deciding if a therapist is right for you.   - Why it can be helpful to have a basic understanding of the different types of evidence-based treatments and clinical interventions for complex trauma, or whatever mental health challenge you're struggling with.   - How to take into account the cultural, personal, and clinical sensitivities you may have when making your choice.       REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:  

    292. Can a secure attachment bond protect children against Imposter System? A conversation with Dr. Lisa Orbé-Austin

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 54:41


    What if small shifts in the way you parent could help prevent Imposter Syndrome in your child before it even starts? Dr. Lisa Orbé-Austin is joining me this week to help parents learn how to raise a child who trusts in their own abilities, values, and worth.   In this episode we explore:   - What imposter syndrome actually is (and what it isn't!) from a scientific and psychological perspective.   - Why it's common to see self-sabotaging behaviors in people who are experiencing Imposter Syndrome - and what you can do to help you or your kids combat this.   - The impact of rigid versus growth mindset on children as they develop and grow.   - Are certain attachment patterns more prone to Imposter Syndrome?   - The types of conversations you can have with your child, and even with other adults in front of your child, that will lay the groundwork for resilience.   - Why receiving a neurodiversity diagnosis can be empowering for kids and can help combat many associated challenges, Imposter Syndrome being one of them!   - What does it mean to hyper-regulate and how does our environment reinforce this behavior? Is it more common in men or women? With certain siblings? - We're unpacking it all!   If you're someone who's ever doubted their own success, or is noticing perfectionistic tendencies in your child, this episode is packed with eye-opening takeaways you won't want to miss!     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. LISA: https://www.dynamictransitionsllp.com/   READ DR. LISA'S BOOKS:

    291. Q&A: How can I help my child who's scared every small injury is an emergency?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 25:23


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - What to do when your reassurances to your child doesn't help soothe their anxiety.   - A sample script of the type of thing you can say (and wait to try to avoid saying) to help your child believe that they can cope with the feeling of anxiety.   - When our good intentions go bad - some of the most common “mistakes” parents make when navigating their child's anxiety.   - Understanding the difference between temporarily soothing your child's fears and using a more effective long-term solution.   - Is it anxiety? The questions to ask yourself to help you determine if your child is experiencing anxiety beyond a normative level.   - How to tell your child you are going to start doing things differently when they start feeling anxious.    - Should you respond differently when your child's anxiety is fueled by something that is possible (like a medical misdiagnosis) rather than something we as adults know are impossible (like a monster under the bed)?     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:  

    290. Self sacrifice, mom-guilt, and martyrdom in motherhood: Fighting against the pressure to be perfect with Gayane Aramyan

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 46:50


    In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Gayane Aramyan joins me to unpack the “perfect mom” pressure so many of us contend with on a daily basis.   In this episode we cover:   - Why our expectations of motherhood often don't match reality—and how to stop blaming ourselves when they don't.   - The hidden ways control fuels anxiety and overwhelm, and how loosening our grip can make parenting easier.   - The power of flexibility in parenting, and why giving yourself permission to adapt can be a game-changer.   - What to do when you reach a stage of your child's development that you simply don't enjoy.   - The key support systems to have in place before entering motherhood to make the transition smoother.   - The differences we're seeing with millennial mothers from what has been considered norms of the past.   - How to know when the mom-guilt you feel is getting in the way of your parenting and strategies for challenging it.   If you've ever felt like you're falling short of the motherhood ideal, this conversation is here to remind you: You don't have to be perfect—you just have to be you.       LEARN MORE ABOUT GAYANE: https://www.therapywithgayane.com/   FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:

    289. Q&A: My 5-year-old has been clingy and hyperfocused on one friend, is this normal?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2025 19:31


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - Dr. Sarah and Dr. Rebecca sympathize with this mom and reflects on how great it would be if we could choose our kid's friends - but offer a mindset shift for why that actually wouldn't be healthy.   - Who to turn to for support to help you determine what your best course of action might be.   - A statement you can say to your child that can help you begin to understand why they may be exhibiting more clingy behaviors.   - How to get to the root of your own anxieties and fears so you can determine what you might be projecting onto your kids versus what are actual issues they need support navigating.   - What to avoid saying to your child that may unintentionally cause them to pull away from you.   - A formula you can use (that works with children of all ages!) to help you know whether the questions you are asking your child will likely be helpful or may lead to increased pressure.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    288. Parenting after complex trauma: A mother's journey toward healing in parenthood with Stephanie Foo

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 59:46


    When journalist and author Stephanie Foo was diagnosed with Complex Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD), she left her job and devoted herself to healing—a journey she chronicled in her bestselling memoir, What My Bones Know. Now, as a mother, she's navigating what it means to parent with complex trauma, balancing the high-alert nervous system that comes with C-PTSD while trying to stay present for her child.   In this powerful conversation, Stephanie shares:   - The difference between PTSD and C-PTSD—and why relational healing is essential for many forms of trauma.   - How motherhood reshapes the brain and why it can trigger fight-or-flight responses.   - The unique challenges of rupture and repair with a child versus an adult.   - Why parents with complex trauma may struggle with isolation and finding a supportive community can be so helpful.   - The strategies that have helped Stephanie most, all of which are useful for any parent, with or without trauma.   If you've ever felt like parenting is unearthing deep, unresolved parts of yourself, this episode offers both insight and hope.     LEARN MORE ABOUT STEPHANIE: https://www.stephaniefoo.me/   READ STEPHANIE'S BOOK:

    287. Q&A: Is my guilt over being a working mom hurting my parenting?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2025 25:48


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - Dr. Sarah and Dr. Rebecca debate whether mom-guilt is inherent to all mothers or a societally structured construct (Spoiler: Dr. Rebecca wins this battle!)   - The critical distinction between distress and guilt and why one can be a destructive grenade in parenting.   - Releasing guilt is a form of activism - we're explaining why.   - How to course correct once you've noticed you're parenting from a space of guilt.   - The question to ask yourself that can help guide your behaviors as a parent that come from a place of attunement and trust, rather than guilt or fear.   - Using a “values-driven” distinction to help you determine the root reasons you are making certain decisions, and how bringing this into your consciousness can be helpful.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    286. Empowering girls to navigate media, body image, and societal pressures with Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2025 56:35


    Girls are often sent messages that can leave them feeling unseen, unheard, and boxed in by societal expectations. How can we as parents help them challenge these limiting narratives and grow into their full potential?   In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein to explore:   - How societal norms shape girls' self-perception, from the “pink frilly dress” phase to body image struggles in their teens.   - Research statistics that will blow your mind on everything from when gender bias begins, how widespread it is, and its impact on everything from what parents Google to how often girls and boys are called on in school.   - How to examine and confront the gender stereotypes we unknowingly pass on to our kids when so much of it is unconscious.   - Practical strategies to help kids understand and navigate the societal messages they encounter. Including a simple yet powerful hack for challenging gender roles when reading children's books.   - Actionable advice for fostering resilience and confidence in girls, as well as how to teach boys to work alongside girls to combat toxic masculinity.   If you want to help your kids break free from limiting narratives and thrive as their authentic selves, this episode is a must-listen!     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. JO-ANN: https://www.joannfinkelstein.com/   READ DR. JO-ANN'S BOOK:

    285. Q&A: When is the best time to tell my toddler that I'm pregnant?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2025 19:29


    284. The do's and don'ts of supporting a grieving child: What every parent needs to know with Dr. Dan Wolfson

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 54:15


    Grief isn't something we get over—it's something we integrate. Joining me to discuss this and the best way to support children through profound loss is Dr. Dan Wolfson, a clinical psychologist specializing in grief.   In this episode we explore:   - The skills needed for fostering resilience and helping children and adults learn to grieve in a healthy manner.   - The importance of “oscillation” through grief and how Dr. Dan works with his patients to help them learn to process their feelings without these emotions completely overtaking them.   - How to help determine when and how it's time for your child (or you) to go back to things like extracurricular activities, birthday parties, and other “normal” ways of reengaging with life.   - Parents are often hesitant to show their own grief to their children, however, this can be a helpful form of modeling. We discuss appropriate ways to share your emotions with your child.   - Typical behaviors and regressions we often see in children who are processing profound sadness and difficult emotions, so you know what to be on the lookout for.   If you or your child are navigating profound loss, this conversation is here to remind you that healing isn't linear, and you don't have to do it alone.     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. DAN: https://www.wolfsontherapy.com/danwolfson   LEARN MORE ABOUT EXPERIENCE CAMPS: https://experiencecamps.org/about-us   FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:

    283. Q&A: What can I do when my child feels left out by her friends?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 23:21


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - First things first, why are schools still sending out candy grams in this current climate with a loneliness epidemic on the rise?    - Cliques and posses that form in middle school are often rife with envy, jealousy, gossip, and temptation - how to help our kids navigate this.    - What advice to give your child when they are left out in a friend group.   - How to help a child who tends to avoid conflict in their interpersonal relationships build a greater tolerance for joining in and addressing things directly.   - “There is a difference between a kid who says 'I am going to let this go' vs. 'I am going to hold this in.'"   - Understanding “social currency” and how that impacts children, especially as they move into the stage of development where their attention begins to move away from their parents and much more heavily toward their peers.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    282. Beyond the 6-week checkup: A realistic look at postpartum and early parenthood with Dr. Jessica Vernon

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2025 51:22


    Do you know the signs of postpartum depression? Many parents (and even medical professionals) often miss diagnosing new mothers with a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder. Here to help shed light on this important topic is Board-Certified OB/GYN and author of the upcoming book, Then Comes Baby, Dr. Jessica Vernon.   In this episode we explore:   - Why postpartum mental health conditions are so often overlooked—even in medical training.   - The types of questions Dr. Jessica started asking her prenatal and postpartum patients that allowed them the space to open up and reveal the struggles they were experiencing.    - How the 6-week check-in after birth become the standard practice and what birthing people can expect of their bodies and minds at the 6-week mark.   - Why women experiencing mental health struggles in postpartum are so prone to feelings of guilt and shame - even though there is no difference between medical risks and mental health risks, as a society we tend to attach more shame to mental health challenges.   - What is matrescence and how is it revolutionizing the way we view early motherhood.   - Managing our expectations with the realization that reality and our fantasies often don't match up and how that can cause struggles - from birth, to feeding, postpartum, and early parenthood.   - Free moms groups, books, and other resources for expecting and new parents.   Whether you're pregnant, newly postpartum, or a professional working with new parents, this episode offers essential insights into how we can improve postpartum care and support maternal mental health.     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. JESSICA: https://www.drjessicavernon.com/    PRE-ORDER DR. JESSICA'S BOOK:

    281. Q&A: How can I lessen the academic pressure my high-schooler is feeling?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2025 28:45


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - Even if we aren't adding more pressure to our kids, the world often pushes external achievements on them - how can parents push back against this.   - Why trying to problem solve with your child may seem like it's supporting them, but is actually perpetuating their anxiety.   - The one pillar you can use as a parent to guide all your interactions with your child that can help to defuse the pressure they feel, rather than inadvertently adding to it.   - Saying grades don't matter is like saying, “throw your sense of control out the window.” What to say instead.   - Our society glorifies perfectionism, but in reality kids who engage in highly perfectionist tendencies tend to have higher anxiety and internalize their stress, which can lead to missed signs that they need support.   - We describe a helpful thought exercise you can try with your child today.     WANT ADDITIONAL SUPPORT?

    280. Codependency, insecure attachment, and relationship patterns: Creating stronger, healthier romantic partnerships with Alana Carvalho

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 52:44


    How does attachment security relate to codependency? The Codependent Perfectionist, Alana Carvalho, is here to explore just that!   In this episode we cover:   - How does codependency fit into the attachment system?   - Does this sound like what you're struggling with in your relationship? We're reviewing some for the most common challenges partners face when one person is more avoidant and the other is more anxious.   - Challenging perceptions of what is necessary in a relationship. When we are seeing the world through dysfunctional patterns, we are often unaware of this dysfunction.   - The differences between missatunement versus misperception and how understanding this difference can help us get on the same page on both!   - A tangible exercise you can do with your partner to help you create a stronger dynamic (and why this works to not kick up a threat response so they're more able to engage in the conversation more successfully.)   Whether you're struggling with relational patterns or looking to better understand your partner, this episode offers powerful insights and tools for cultivating healthier relationships.     LEARN MORE ABOUT ALANA: https://www.alanacarvalho.com/   TAKE THE QUIZ: https://www.alanacarvalho.com/the-codependent-perfectionist-quiz/   READ ALANA'S BOOK:

    279. Q&A: How can I maintain a relationship with my mom who has extremist political views?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2025 23:00


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - Breaking down the difference between having differing political view points versus someone having extremist views.    - How the health of our relationships with our parents is often intertwined with our relationship with ourselves, our kids, and our entire family system.    - How to manage feeling lost, un-seen, and destabilized when a parent shifts to being less of a secure attachment figure.   - Does this change in your parent's views and values mean you have to throw out all the things you have learned from them that inform your approach to raising your own kids?   - When it's best to try to compartmentalize things your parent might say, and when it's necessary to hold firm boundaries.   - Learn Dr. Sarah's simple framework for setting and holding effective boundaries.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    278. Music, mindfulness, and play: Using play to strengthen your child's secure attachment bond with Vered Benhorin

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 50:54


    Music therapist Vered Benhorin is teaching parents how they can use play and music as powerful tools to strengthen connection, foster attachment, and make parenting feel a little easier.   In this episode, we explore:   - Why play is so important for emotional regulation, attachment, and connection—and how parents who don't naturally enjoy play can redefine what it looks like.   - What are “Bubble Moments,” and how can parents tap into these times throughout the day to deepen their relationship with their child?   - How music impacts the brain, reinforcing neural networks that support routines, emotional regulation, and even executive functioning skills.   - The science behind a “sing-song” voice and why it feels so regulating for both you and your child.   - How to expand your definition of play to find activities that feel fun and authentic for you as a parent.   Whether you're looking to strengthen your bond with your child, better understand attachment theory, or discover simple ways to use music and play to make parenting more joyful, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice you won't want to miss!     LEARN MORE ABOUT VERED: https://www.babyintune.com/   READ VERED'S NEW BOOK:

    277. Q&A: Is “nesting” during a divorce better for your kids?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 21:39


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - What does it mean to be “nesting” during a divorce?   - What types of logistical and emotional factors to consider to help you determine if this is a good choice for your family.   - What are the pros and cons of nesting for kids (and for you!)   - How to help kids feel secure during a separation, whether you've decided to nest with your ex or not.   - A script for helping your child understand the difference between love in a parent-child relationship and love in a romantic adult relationship. This distinction can help kids who may be worried that they will get left too.     ARE YOU A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL? Go to upshurbren.com/IFSTraining to register for The Good Mom/Bad Mom Loop, a 3-hour workshop on 2/27 designed to teach professionals how to integrate Internal Family Systems concepts into maternal mental health services to provide improved support for moms.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

    276. The surprising science of sibling relationships: Why your kids fight and how to foster closeness with Dr. Jonathan Caspi

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2025 54:30


    Sibling relationships are some of the longest-lasting and most influential relationships in our lives, but they're also filled with complexity. Dr. Jonathan Caspi, a renowned expert on sibling relationships, is breaking down the fascinating science behind sibling dynamics and sharing actionable advice for parents.   In this episode we explore:   - The surprising science behind why if you give two siblings and two strangers personality tests, the siblings wouldn't be any more similar than the strangers.   - The importance of neutrality in parental interventions with siblings and how this can prevent feelings of favoritism and resentment.   - Practical strategies for managing sibling conflict: Like what to say in the heat of the moment to support their problem-solving skills, what to focus on (and what to ignore) to build closeness and empathy, and how to know it's time to get involved vs. when to let them work it out themselves, and more!   - How to respond if your child struggles when you bring a new baby home with methods that foster closeness and decrease rivalry.    - Insider versus outsider status: How parents can unintentionally create sibling rivalry, and what to do instead.   - The vital importance of parental regulation and how to stay calm when our “mama bear” instincts are triggered.   Whether you're trying to navigate sibling squabbles, encourage connection, or simply understand the dynamics at play in your own family, this episode is packed with fascinating insights and practical tools you won't want to miss!     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. JONATHAN CASPI: https://siblingexpert.com/   READ DR. JONATHAN'S BOOK:

    275. Q&A: How can I help my child learn to be patient when she wants my attention immediately?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2025 16:22


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - What is developmentally typical for 2-year-olds when it comes to manners and patience?   - Understanding impulse control, joint attention, and attunement - and how to use these 3 things to help you know how to respond to your child when they are demanding your attention.   - When to pause to validate your child's desire, and when it's okay to ignore their request.   - How to help your child tolerate waiting (no matter how big their reaction is to being told they need to wait.)   - How to collaboratively problem solve with your child to come up with strategies around what they CAN do to interrupt you when they need your attention.      ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    274. The lifelong impact of early relationships: How secure attachment influences children's ability to make sense of their experiences and cope in the face of adversity with Dr. Alan Sroufe

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2025 56:10


    What role do early attachment relationships play in shaping who we become? In this episode, Dr. Alan Sroufe, a pioneering researcher in attachment, shares decades of insights from his groundbreaking longitudinal study. Together we explore: - How Dr. Sroufe's research answered the question: Do early experiences leave a lasting legacy? - Why resilience isn't just about thriving in the face of adversity, but is deeply rooted in the strength of attachment relationships. - The importance of early relationships in helping children develop a sense of safety, positive self-worth, and durable relationships. - A hopeful message that attachment isn't fixed and that secure relationships in adolescence and adulthood can change developmental trajectories, even after challenging childhoods. - Why the quality, not quantity, of time with your child matters most (and what babies can teach us about connection). - How parents can help shape the meaning children make of their world and guide them through challenges with empathy. Dr. Sroufe's work shows that while early experiences are never erased, they're always building blocks for growth—and recovery is always possible.   READ THE BOOK DR. ALAN'S RECOMMENDS PARENTS START WITH:

    273. Q&A: How do I rekindle my friendships after being so mom-focused for years now?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2025 27:30


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - It can be tricky to maintain relationships when you're in different stages of life from your friends and it's common for some to atrophy after you become a parent.    - Unpacking all the feelings you may have about this: fear, guilt, grief, and more!   - Practical strategies for creating a simple routine that is easy for you to maintain, but will also allow you to keep these relationships from going too long without any checkins.    - When you are changed by motherhood, you may slip into black-and-white thinking with regard to your friendships. We offer you a perspective shift you can use to challenge that.   - How to check in with yourself so you can understand the root of your desires for connection, which will help you create realistic anchors that will actually meet your needs.   - Time management and scheduling hacks that can help you be intentional about protecting the time you do have.   - How to repair bonds with friends who may feel hurt, slighted, or abandoned by you.     ARE YOU A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL?   Go to upshurbren.com/IFSTraining to register for The Good Mom/Bad Mom Loop, a 3-hour workshop on 2/27 designed to teach professionals how to integrate Internal Family Systems concepts into maternal mental health services to provide improved support for moms.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    272. Maternal health, dyadic work, and IFS: Why specialized mental healthcare providers matter with Rebecca Geshuri and Paige Bellenbaum

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2025 57:15


    Discover how maternal mental health care is evolving and why specialized support is critical for mothers with Paige Bellenbaum, LCSW, PMH-C and Rebecca Geshuri, LMFT, PMH-C.   In this episode we explore:   - What dyadic work is and how this can be especially beneficial for mothers and birthing people for developing a bond with their child.   - How Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can support mothers in addressing their inner “mom parts” that contribute to feelings of failure and overwhelm.   - How polarized parts and perfectionism can create distress in motherhood and how embracing a “both-and” mentality can offer relief and self-compassion.   - The questions to ask when looking for a provider to ensure they're trained in maternal mental health and understand the complexities of this life stage.   - Why it's so important for pediatricians, OBGYNs, or anyone who often comes into contact with birthing parents to have even a basic understanding of this transformative experience.   Whether you're a mother seeking support, a professional working with birthing parents, or simply someone invested in breaking the stigma around mental health and motherhood, this episode is filled with practical insights you won't want to miss.     REGISTER FOR THE TRAINING ON FEB. 27: Go to upshurbren.com/IFSTraining to register for this 3-hour workshop designed to teach professionals how to integrate Internal Family Systems concepts into maternal mental health services to provide improved support for moms.   LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MOTHERHOOD CENTER: https://themotherhoodcenter.com/   LEARN MORE ABOUT REBECCA: https://www.rebeccageshurilmft.com/get-to-know-me   ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: Postpartum Support International Ghosts in the Nursery: A Psychoanalytic Approach to the Problems of Impaired Infant-Mother Relationships   LISTEN TO PAIGE & REBECCA'S PAST EPISODES:

    271. Q&A: When switching daycares, should I transition my toddler in steps or all at once?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2025 17:18


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - How to best approach daycare transitions and is there a right or a wrong answer to this question?    - The most important questions to ask yourself to determine which of these scenarios will be easiest for your unique child.   - Is it better to have a single, potentially steeper transition or a slower, more incremental transition?   - The key things to consider (like sleep habits, separation anxiety, etc.) to help you determine which is best for your individual situation.   - Zooming out to see how this change will impact the entire family system and adding these factors into your decision making process.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:

    270. Breaking free from "girl-boss" culture: Balancing career, family, and fulfillment with Neha Ruch

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2025 53:37


    Neha Ruch is sharing strategies for embracing flexibility as you balance, shift, and grow in both your career and parenthood.   In this episode we explore:   - How to redefine what “career” means to you at this stage of life and navigate the evolving roles of being a working or stay-at-home parent.   - Why downshifting your career can be a valuable smaller step if you're not ready to take a full pause.   - Preparing for this transition to feel less overwhelming—emotionally, financially, and in terms of your shifting identity.   - Supporting women in feeling validated and respected in their choices to dial up or down in their careers.   - How motherhood can be a time to foster creativity and the importance of staying connected to what brings you joy—whether it's for work or personal fulfillment.   - A good first step for moms who don't know where to begin in making this shift.   - What a “family administration” meeting is and how to evaluate what's working and what's not—giving yourself permission to let go of what isn't serving you.   Don't miss this episode that will help you redefine what career means to you!       LEARN MORE ABOUT NEHA: https://www.motheruntitled.com/   READ NEHA'S NEW BOOK:

    269. BTS: How do I get my young kids to stop swearing?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2025 29:26


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - Unpacking your own feelings about swearing (or any undesirable behaviors) your child is engaging in.   - How to teach your child to attune to their environment and know when and where certain behaviors are appropriate and when and where they are not.   - Zooming out to identify what your child's intention is when they are swearing (to test boundaries, in anger, in silly moments, etc.) to help you know how to respond.   - When and how to use strategies that have the greatest likelihood of getting this behavior to stop.   - A playful script that can defuse the tension and keep you from feeling triggered.    - The big differences to the approaches you may want to try based on who is the recipient of inappropriate or hurtful language.   - How to get your children to disengage from each other's negative behaviors, instead of being fueled by each other.   - How Dr. Sarah and Dr. Emily handle swearing in their own homes with their kids.   - The benefits of swearing that may surprise you.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: Swearing may be a sign of a higher intelligence Cursing can increase pain tolerance      ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    268. A deep dive on parental burnout: What it is, why it happens, and how to overcome it

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 31, 2024 56:25


    A deep dive on combating parental burnout to start off 2025 with more balance.   In this episode I dive deep into…   - Understanding what parental burnout actually is and how it is different from regular “stress” in parenthood?   - The pros and cons of the rise of the “Parenting Industrial Complex.”   - The output/input formula that will inevitably lead to depletion, and why parents of sensitive children are more susceptible to an imbalance in this equation.   - An exercise you can use to address (and flip!) your personal output/input equation to create more balance for yourself.   - Taking a Family-Systems approach to addressing and treating parental burnout.   - How parental burnout can impact the parent-child relationship, leading to more dysregulated behaviors from our kids, us losing our cool, and creating a self-perpetuating negative feedback loop.   - Why traditional self-care strategies don't work for combatting parental burnout, and my recommendations for practical, realistic, and attainable strategies that actually do!     LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. SARAH BREN: https://drsarahbren.com/   FOLLOW DR. SARAH ON INSTAGRAM: @drsarahbren   ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: The Surgeon General Report: Parental Mental Health & Well-Being  In one study, Parents whose children experienced anxiety or ADHD had two to four times higher risk of experiencing parental burnout (anxiety: OR, 2.54; ADHD: OR, 4.41) compared with those whose children had no anxiety or ADHD. [1] Addressing systemic problems with Raena Boston, Lauren Smith Brody, and Alexis Barad-Cutler Encouraging your child to engage in independent play   CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

    267. BTS: My 5-year-old says she doesn't want a sibling but I want to have another baby. What do I say?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2024 17:51


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   - Translating the question: I don't want a sibling may actually just mean, “I miss you.”   - Zooming back to assess the environmental factors that may be taxing your child, especially when there are a lot of transitions and changes going on.   - How to change the narrative in your young child's mind so they don't associate losing quality time with Mommy and Daddy to having more siblings.   - When to simply validate your child's feelings and when to know if it's time to try to make some changes.   - A script of exactly what you can say to help your child feel more contained and regulated in these moments.   - Why helping your child feel seen in the moment can foster their secure attachment, which may end up indirectly solving the problems you're experiencing.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    266. Emotion regulation through play: Turning everyday moments into growth opportunities with Dr. Abbré McClain and Dr. Jacqueline Salazar

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2024 43:29


    Discover how to use the power of play to strengthen your child's emotional regulation and foster meaningful connection, with Dr. Abbré McClain and Dr. Jacqueline Salazar.   In this episode, we explore:   - How play and relationships can be foundational elements for teaching kids emotional regulation skills.   - Why coregulation doesn't have to be so serious and can be employed through play and playfulness.   - The therapeutic function of play interventions and how they work in play therapy.   - How to adapt play strategies for different developmental stages and unique children.   - Why playing with your kids is different from entertaining them, and how child-led play can be less exhausting for parents.   - Quality over quantity: How even small moments of playfulness can make a big difference in strengthening parent-child bonds.   If you're looking for practical ways to build emotional regulation skills while bringing more joy and connection into your family's life, this episode is filled with actionable insights to get you started!     LEARN MORE ABOUT: Dr. Abbré McClain Dr. Jacqueline Salazar   READ THEIR BOOK:

    265. BTS: My husband and I had a big fight in front of our kids, how do we make sure this doesn't negatively impact them?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 20:13


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...   - Breaking down the different strategies you'd use with kids whether this is a single one-off big fight, or if conflict is more prevalent in your home.   - What a conversation with your child might sound like and how to adapt it to be most authentic to you.   - Specific things to do in order to lessen the negative impact of parental conflict on your kids.   - How to help your child make sense of what happened in a narrative that allows them to understand they are safe and the fight wasn't their fault.   - A developmentally appropriate way to share with your child that sometimes the people we love the most are the ones that we get into the biggest arguments with.   - How to reassure and repair with a baby ore very young child who is still too little to understand your words.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    264. The hidden dangers of EdTech: How technology in schools impacts learning, child development, and mental health with Andy Liddell

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 17, 2024 60:12


    Discover the impacts of EdTech in schools and how parents can advocate for their children's education with technology attorney Andy Liddell   - What EdTech is and how technology like iPads and Chromebooks are being integrated into classrooms.   - The hidden dangers of screens on the learning experience, what is at risk when hands-on learning is replaced by more passive educational experiences, and how to optimize information retention, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills.   - The role of big tech in surveillance capitalism, persuasive design, and selling children's data.   - How much control do schools have over blocking and restricting content on school-issued devices? (Spoiler: Most technology comes with no restrictions in place.)   - How tech in classrooms is displacing social interactions, interfering with relationship development, overstimulating vulnerable children, and putting stress on an already fragile system.   - What parents can do to teach media literacy, advocate for their child's privacy, and push for more thoughtful use of technology in schools   If you're concerned or just curious about the influence of technology on your child's learning and development, this conversation is packed with strategies and insights to help you navigate these challenges with confidence and purpose.     LEARN MORE ABOUT ANDY & EDTECH LAW CENTER: https://edtech.law/   REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: Read the research on EdTech conducted by Jared Cooney Horvath, PhD, MEd Social Media Victims Law Center Wait Until 8th  Fairplay Everyschool Social Studies Documentary    CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

    263. BTS: How do I respond to my daughter's “mean girl” behaviors? Is she a bully?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2024 28:53


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...     - Bullying is often an expression of pain, so leading with compassion for your child is often your best entry point.   - How to readjust your goal, rather than just trying to shut down your child's behaviors, for a higher likelihood of getting through to them.   - Examples of real-life scenarios that middle school girls may be experiencing and how to navigate them.   - The most common reasons middle schoolers act this way, so you can help you identify what the root cause may be to help you get to the heart of the matter.   - Conversation starters you can use to prevent your child from getting defensive and shutting down.   - At some point, this moves beyond exploring your child's feelings and these behaviors simply need to stop - when and how to transition to this point.     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:  

    262. Unifying mothers in a post-election America: Advocating for Women's Rights through bipartisan reform with Erin Erenberg

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2024 56:04


    Motherhood comes with immense challenges, but when mothers come together, they can spark transformative change. In this inspiring episode, Erin Erenberg, founder of Totum Women and co-founder of the Chamber of Mothers, shares her journey becoming a powerful advocate for maternal rights.   In this episode, we explore:   - Erin's personal and professional journey that inspired her to empower and support mothers.   - The Chamber of Mothers mission: Uniting mothers as advocates to create a better America.   - How this bipartisan group is working to include "point of view diversity" and bridge mothers across all sides of the aisle.   - How the Chamber of Mothers plans to work with the upcoming administration to continue fighting for the rights of all mothers in America.   - What is galvanizing the people who are still motivated, and how to fight any feelings of dread people may be experiencing.   - Strategies for accessing accurate information and taking care of ourselves in an overwhelming time of political divide.   Learn how to join a movement that's not only advocating for mothers but creating a brighter future for the next generation!       LEARN MORE ABOUT ERIN ERENBERG: https://www.totumwomen.com/blogs/news/more-on-our-founder   LEARN MORE ABOUT CHAMBER OF MOTHERS: https://chamberofmothers.com/   JOIN A LOCAL CHAMBER: https://chamberofmothers.com/local-chapters/    FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: Chamber of Mothers: @chamberofmothers Dr. Sarah Bren: @drsarahbren   ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: Moms Demand Action - https://momsdemandaction.org/ Vote Mama - https://www.votemama.org/  National Women's Law Center - https://nwlc.org/   CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

    261. BTS: Can my kid also get dysregulated from positive emotions, like excitement?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2024 21:35


    Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   - Dysregulation isn't just a result of negative emotions, kids can also become dysregulated from positive emotions too.   - Embracing your child's excitement before you help them start to down-regulate can be a more successful (and fun) strategy.   - Specific strategies for transitioning your child from those big, exciting moments into calming down in a way that is targeted to their development and nervous system.   - The key questions to ask yourself to help you determine exactly how to pick and choose your parenting battles when it comes to family gatherings.   - The difference between structured and unstructured playtime - and the pros and cons of each.   - Our mom-tips for an activity that is helpful and containing for kids who have “buzzy energy” in these situations.   - How to “pre-regulate” your child before they become dysregulated.     REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

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