Love Shack Live

Send us a textEver find yourself biting your tongue just to keep the peace, only to feel more alone than ever?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, navigating daily conflict, emotional distance, and the longing to rebuild a bond that feels real again. We're here for the ones who want more than just “getting by” in love; you want connection that lasts.This week, we're asking: What's the true cost of all those things left unsaid?When we silence our truth to avoid rocking the boat, we think we're keeping things safe. But what if every unspoken feeling is quietly eroding your connection, one day at a time? In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the invisible ways silence creates distance, resentment, and heartbreak, sometimes more than any argument ever could.We'll share real-life stories, common scenarios, and the emotional “leaks” that happen when we shy away from honest conversations. More importantly, we'll explore how naming the hard stuff, however imperfectly, can actually heal what silence has slowly broken.Curious about how to stop tiptoeing around your truth, and start rebuilding trust?Press play. This is your invitation to practice the courage that real love requires.Timestamps: 01:50 Meet Jenna and Jim: A Story of Unspoken Resentments04:30 The Impact of Unspoken Emotions10:59 Common Relationship Dilemmas: The Dinner Dilemma14:56 The Touchy Topic of Coming Home Late17:27 Social Events: When One Partner Assumes18:13 Navigating Social Events as a Couple18:37 The Importance of Open Communication18:58 Finding Solutions Together19:50 The Power of Speaking Up25:45 Parenting Challenges and Communication28:18 The Cost of Silence in Relationships33:45 Encouragement to Speak Your Truth35:33 Join the Better Love Club36:31 Truth or Dare Challenge37:33 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Send us a textHave you ever been told to “just give them space” but all it did was leave you with more questions, more pain, and zero real answers? If you're at a relationship crossroads, wrestling with daily conflict, growing emotional gaps, or the panic that comes with feeling your partner drift away, you're not alone. Love Shack Live is the podcast for those who want to rebuild real, lasting connection, not with more clichés, but with honest conversation and practical skills.In this episode, we go beyond the tired advice about space and separation and dig into what actually helps when your world feels upside down. What if the pain you're feeling isn't just something to survive, but a wake-up call, or even an opportunity? What should you really do when your partner asks for space? And is it possible to come home to yourself, and maybe, eventually, to each other, even when everything feels broken?Whether you're in the thick of separation, considering a breakup, or desperately hoping to fix what's been lost, you'll discover the hidden traps that keep people stuck, like panic, overgiving, or obsessing over your partner, and the surprising steps that lead to clarity, healing, and growth.Curious what most relationship advice never covers? Ready for a conversation that goes deeper, and helps you shift your focus in a way that could change everything? Let's get started.Timestamps:05:25 Common Misconceptions About Separation08:29 The Work of Self-Discovery12:57 The Role of Emotional Wellbeing16:53 Resetting and Recalculating in Relationships24:56 The Need for Mentorship and Support25:25 The Importance of Self-Expression in Relationships26:22 Understanding Relationship Principles27:41 The Need for Relationship Education30:41 The Role of Separation in Self-Discovery35:29 Continuing Personal Growth Post-Breakup40:07 The Journey of Personal and Relationship Growth48:55 Embracing New Beginnings

Send us a textEver set a boundary in your relationship, only to feel more misunderstood, guilty, or disconnected than before? You're not alone. In fact, so many of us try to draw healthy lines, only to end up in new arguments, feeling shut out, or wondering if we're doing something wrong.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, feeling the gap widen, and searching for a way back to genuine, lasting connection. If you've tried to “set boundaries” and it just made things messier, you're in the right place.This week, we're asking:Why do boundaries sometimes make us feel worse, not better?What's the difference between a boundary and a barrier?And how do you set limits that protect your heart, without pushing your partner away?Join relationship mentor Staci Bartley, along with Tom and Brooke, as they bust common myths about boundaries, share the real skills for setting limits that heal, and reveal what it takes to speak up for yourself and stay connected.Curious to know why boundaries backfire, and what actually builds lasting trust? Listen in. This conversation might just change everything.Timestamps: 03:25 Physical Boundaries as a Metaphor07:00 Emotional Boundaries and Compassionate Cruelty16:49 The Misconception of Rigid Boundaries26:26 The Story of Emma and Jake27:53 Silent Resentment in Relationships28:53 The Weight of Disregarding Yourself29:50 The Illusion of Connection33:24 Common Boundary Violations36:37 Emotional Regulation and Boundaries43:53 The Importance of Vulnerability45:20 Practical Steps to Better Boundaries47:55 Final Thoughts and Resources

Send us a textYou're not angry. You're not yelling. You're just… tired.The kind of tired that sinks in so deep, you're not even fighting anymore, you're just holding it together in silence, hoping things will somehow fix themselves. If love feels like a burden lately, if you find yourself walking on eggshells or wondering why it's so quiet at home, you're not alone. In fact, you're living through one of the most common, yet least talked about, relationship struggles of our time: emotional exhaustion.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone at a relationship crossroads. Whether you're trying to save your marriage, navigating space and separation, or aching to reconnect with your partner, we're here to help you rebuild something real and lasting. I'm Staci Bartley, joined by my partner Tom and our daughter Brooke. Together, we'll get honest about what's actually happening when couples stop fighting, not because they've healed, but because they've run out of gas.Here's what we're unpacking this week:Why “peace and quiet” can actually be a danger signThe real-life symptoms of emotional burnout most people missHow magical thinking (“we'll get to it later”) quietly sabotages connectionThe invisible emotional labor that wears us down, especially for over-functioners and the quietly checked-outWhy punishing your partner (or yourself) for not “fixing it” never worksHow modern life is straining our capacity for love, and what to do about itPractical ways to refuel your emotional gas tank (even when you feel totally spent)Why play and joy aren't optional, they're the medicine your relationship desperately needsThe single most important skill you were never taught about love (and how to finally practice it)If you're exhausted from trying to keep your relationship together, or just tired of being the one who always tries, this episode will help you name what you're feeling, and finally offer a way forward. We'll share the science, the stories, and the skills that can help you stop spiraling, reconnect, and rebuild.Here's our big question:What if “not fighting” isn't a sign things are getting better, but the clearest warning that your relationship needs help, now?It's not your fault. You just haven't learned the skills yet. Join us in the Love Shack, let's talk about what no one else is saying, and get you the relief you deserve.

Send us a textHave you ever had that quiet, sinking feeling… the one in your gut that whispers something's off? Nothing's exploded. Nothing's “wrong.”But deep down, you know, this version of your relationship, your life, even yourself? It doesn't quite fit anymore. And you're just dancing through the motions, hoping no one notices the smoke.You're not alone. In this raw, behind-the-scenes episode of Love Shack Live, we're turning the mic inward to talk about the moment before the moment, when something big needs to change, but you haven't found the words yet.This time, it wasn't our relationships that needed a reset… It was our entire brand.

Send us a textEver find yourself saying things you don't mean… or going completely silent because it feels like nothing will help?You're not alone. When emotions run high, we don't default to communication, we default to survival.In this episode of Love Shack Live, we're pulling back the curtain on one of the most important (and overlooked) relationship skills: how to regulate your emotional state before you try to “fix” the conversation.You'll learn:The two emotional survival modes we all fall into, Control and Collapse, and how to recognize yoursWhy communication tips don't work when your nervous system is in overdriveWhat the “Window of Neutrality” is, and how to stay inside itThe real reason your conversations keep going sideways (it's not what you think)

Send us a textYou say you want deep connection, but your walls won't let anyone all the way in.You crave peace, but find yourself pulled back into conflict. You long to be loved, but still feel alone, even when someone's lying right beside you.Here's the truth: You're not broken. You're becoming.And your relationship isn't just happening to you, it's teaching you.In this episode of Love Shack Live, we're peeling back the curtain on how every fight, trigger, and disappointment might actually be emotional weightlifting in disguise. Staci, Tom, and Brooke explore the concept of relational self-awareness, emotional gravity, and how to stop outsourcing your healing to your partner.What if the intimacy, safety, and truth you're longing for won't show up outside of you… until it's alive within you?You'll walk away with a new lens on your past patterns, practical insights on becoming who you most want to be in love, and a powerful reframe that turns even your biggest relationship challenges into the classroom where real change begins.Timestamps:04:31 The Classroom of Life: Learning from Relationships05:39 The Impact of Our Actions in Relationships07:37 The Importance of Relational Self-Awareness10:49 Navigating Relationship Dynamics11:08 The Role of Tension and Conflict13:48 The Feedback Loop in Relationships15:00 The Journey of Personal Growth in Relationships23:51 Relational Awareness and Emotional Pushups26:08 The Superwoman Persona and Its Challenges27:30 Understanding Polarization in Relationships28:32 Understanding Relationship Polarity29:41 Emotional Triggers and Self-Reflection30:39 Discharging Emotions Effectively31:55 Real-Life Examples of Relationship Dynamics34:49 The Power of Perspective in Relationships42:02 Cultivating Desired Qualities in Yourself51:03 The Importance of Community Support53:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Send us a textYou say one thing. They hear another. And somehow, the more you try to explain, the worse it gets.Sound familiar?This is what defensiveness does. It scrambles your message, distorts your intentions, and quietly chips away at emotional safety, until even love starts to feel like a battleground.According to renowned relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman, defensiveness is one of the top predictors of divorce. And not because you're broken, but because it's the armor we all reach for when emotions get big and uncomfortable.In this episode of Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, we're breaking down the truth about defensiveness: why we all do it, what it looks like (even when it's subtle), and how to take off the armor without losing yourself.You'll hear:Real-life examples of common defensive moves (yes, we all have a favorite!)How defensiveness kills emotional safety, and how to rebuild itA simple tool you can use to recognize when you're getting defensive in real timeAnd we'll ask the question that could shift everything:What if the thing you're doing to protect your heart… is actually keeping real love out?Whether you're navigating space, dating again, or trying to save something that still matters, this one's for you. It's time to slow things down, get honest about “that thing you do,” and start building connection from the inside out.Timestamps: 03:39 Flavors of Defensiveness06:44 The Impact of Defensiveness17:14 Personal Stories and Examples25:49 Building Emotional Safety27:26 Understanding Defensiveness28:34 Common Defensive Mechanisms31:26 Personal Stories of Defensiveness34:01 Managing Emotional Capacity35:41 Practical Tips for Handling Defensiveness44:07 Defensiveness in Relationships47:31 Conclusion and Resources

Send us a textHave you ever had that moment in the kitchen?You're just standing there, maybe making dinner, maybe scrolling your phone, and the weight of everything unsaid between you and your partner fills the room like smoke.You want to say something.You really do.But the words feel like landmines.“I'm still hurt.”“I don't know how to forgive you.”“I hate that I can't let this go.”So, once again… you say nothing.And in that silence, something unspoken begins to slowly unravel what once felt unbreakable.If this sounds like your relationship lately, you're not alone. And you're in the right place.Welcome to Love Shack Live, a podcast for couples standing at a relationship crossroads. For those feeling the strain of daily conflict or emotional distance… but who still believe that love is worth fighting for.In this most-loved rebroadcast, we're revisiting a conversation that struck such a deep chord with our community, we had to bring it back:How do you move forward after the past has hurt you both?Is it even possible to rebuild trust, connection, and momentum, especially when the wounds are still raw?Inside, we'll unpack:Why most couples get stuck using the past as a weapon (even when they don't mean to)How shame, not the mistake itself, keeps us emotionally paralyzedA radically compassionate way to stop reliving the same pain—without pretending it never happenedAnd practical steps to finally begin healingWhether this is your first listen or your fifth, this episode will meet you in a new way. Because you're not the same person you were last time you heard it. Growth is sneaky like that.So… can you really let go of the past without losing yourself or your love?Press play, and find out.Timestamps: 02:18 Navigating Relationship Challenges07:14 The Illusion of a Perfect Relationship08:51 The Emotional Toll of Reliving the Past10:09 The Journey of Healing and Forgiveness19:41 The Role of Shame in Relationships29:48 Practical Steps for Moving Forward32:30 Understanding Regret in Relationships33:11 Minimizing Emotional Pain33:40 Avoiding Regret by Showing Up34:57 The Boomerang Effect of Negative Behavior37:30 The Importance of Affirming a Vision43:40 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward53:22 Turning Negative Thoughts into Positive Actions58:00 Celebrating Dreams and Creating New Ones01:01:23 Final Thoughts and Resources

Send us a textAre you tired of knowing what to do, but still finding yourself stuck in old patterns? You're not alone.If you've ever felt the frustration of knowing exactly what could help your relationship but still falling back into old habits, this episode is for you. We're diving into a common struggle: why knowing what to do isn't the same as being able to actually do it. In this episode of Love Shack Live, we'll explore the gap between knowledge and action, and why real change comes not just from learning new things, but from practicing and integrating the skills that love requires.Join me, Staci Bartley, along with my co-hosts, Tom and Brooke, as we break down the emotional hurdles, the practice required, and why love itself can be the best teacher we have.We'll answer the tough questions:Why is it so hard to do what I know is right?What's missing in all the relationship advice out there?How do I actually put these lessons into practice?If you're ready to move beyond just “knowing better” and start doing better, this episode will show you how. Don't miss out, let's get into the real work of love.

Send us a textYou're giving them space… but it's starting to feel like emotional quicksand. You don't know what to say, so you say nothing. Or maybe you say everything and still feel unheard. You reread old texts. Obsess over their social media. Wonder if reaching out will push them away, or if staying silent makes it seem like you've stopped caring.Sound familiar?This is Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, where every conversation feels like walking on eggshells, and the dream of closeness feels more out of reach by the day. If you want to stop guessing and start rebuilding something real, you're in the right place.In this episode, we're unpacking the 3 emotional survival patterns that silently wreck communication during space and separation, even when you're trying to do everything right.So ask yourself:Are you a Controller, a Collapser, or a Drifter?And once you know… what should you do differently?You'll learn how these patterns show up in your texts, your silences, your attempts to reconnect, and most importantly, how to shift into conversations that actually heal instead of hurt.If you've been feeling like you're losing them and losing yourself at the same time, this one's for you.

Send us a textInfidelity cracks everything open. The trust you relied on? Shattered. The future you imagined? Uncertain. And now, you're left asking the question no one ever wants to face: Can we actually survive this?In this week's episode of Love Shack Live, we're stepping into one of the most painful, and misunderstood, relationship challenges: what happens after betrayal. If your partner has cheated and you're trying to figure out whether to stay, how to heal, or even just how to breathe again, this conversation is for you.We'll answer the tough questions, like:What's reasonable to expect from your partner in the early days of reconciliation?How do you begin to rebuild trust when everything inside you wants to protect yourself?What conversations actually matter after infidelity, and which ones will just make things worse?You'll also hear a deeply personal story from Staci about her own experience of betrayal, and how understanding, not blame, became the key to finding her footing again.This isn't a conversation about blame, shame, or quick fixes. It's about anchoring yourself when the ground disappears beneath you. It's about discovering what's underneath the choice to betray. And it's about giving yourself permission to not know what comes next.Because the truth is: what you don't say in your relationship matters just as much as what you do.Whether you stay or walk away, this episode will help you begin the process of making sense of the mess, and finding your next step forward.Timestamps: 01:34 Listener Questions on Infidelity02:40 Personal Story of Betrayal06:50 Coping with the Shock10:43 Understanding Emotional Drivers13:39 Navigating Relationship Ruts20:29 Key Conversations to Have25:42 Common Misunderstandings28:06 Reflecting on Personal Responsibility30:58 Understanding Emotional Drivers31:12 Gender Dynamics in Relationships39:58 Building Emotional Safety47:11 Practical Steps for Healing47:33 The Power of Play51:41 Musical Reflection52:57 Final Thoughts and Resources

Send us a textRight now, it feels like the world, and maybe even your own home, is pulling apart at the seams. Conversations that once felt effortless now feel loaded. The people we love can start to feel like strangers. And sometimes, shutting down or avoiding the tough talks just seems easier. But at what cost?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads, where daily conflicts, growing emotional distance, and a longing for real connection collide. I'm Staci Bartley, a relationship mentor, joined by my husband and co-host Tom, and our daughter Brooke. Together, we're here to help you navigate love's toughest seasons.Today, we're picking up where we left off with Topaz Adizes, a master of human connection and the creator of the Emmy-winning project The And. He's spent years facilitating raw, unfiltered conversations between people from all walks of life, proving that the right questions can dissolve fear and bring people back together.But here's the question: What's really at the root of division, in our relationships and in the world? And what's the one shift that could change everything about how we relate to each other?If you've ever felt like you're losing someone, not because they've left, but because you just can't seem to reach them anymore, stick with us. This episode isn't just about understanding connection. It's about learning how to create it, even when it feels impossible.

Send us a textDo you feel like you and your partner are growing apart? Like no matter how much you try, the connection you once had is slipping through your fingers? Maybe conversations feel repetitive, like you're stuck in the same arguments, or worse, like you're just roommates, living parallel lives under the same roof.If you've ever wondered:Why does my partner seem distant?How do I bring back the spark in my relationship?What should I do if my partner won't open up?Is emotional intimacy something we can rebuild, or is it too late?Then this episode is for you.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads, where emotional distance, conflict, and uncertainty don't have to mean the end, but an opportunity to create something new. I'm Staci Bartley, a relationship mentor who's spent over a decade helping couples navigate the hardest moments of love, alongside my husband and co-host, Tom, and our daughter, Brooke.Today, we're joined by Topaz Adizes, creator of The And, an Emmy Award-winning project that has helped thousands of couples reconnect by asking the right questions, the ones that cut through the tension and lead to real, vulnerable conversations.Could the secret to saving your relationship lie not in fighting harder for answers, but in learning how to ask better questions?If you're desperate to reconnect but don't know where to start, this episode will show you the simple but powerful way to rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional closeness, starting today.

Send us a textAre you stuck in the endless loop of waiting for your partner to return, hoping things will magically go back to normal? Waiting isn't the solution, and it's costing you more than you realize. In this episode, we explore the high price of holding on too tightly while standing still, and why it's time to stop waiting and start living again.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads, where daily conflicts feel heavier, the emotional gap is growing, and the future feels uncertain. I'm your host, Stacey Bartley, along with my co-hosts Tom and Brooke, here to help you navigate the toughest moments in love and give you real, actionable strategies to turn things around.So, how long should you wait? And more importantly, what is waiting actually costing you?This episode dives into the emotional and psychological toll of waiting for your partner to make a decision. We'll uncover how waiting keeps you stuck, drains your confidence, and erodes your self-worth, all while your partner remains unaware of the damage being done. We'll also share why waiting doesn't heal the relationship, and instead, leads to a cycle of emotional burnout and uncertainty.Get ready to shift your perspective. You don't have to wait for your partner's decisions to take control of your own life again. Tune in for practical, transformative tips to regain your power, rebuild your confidence, and stop letting uncertainty define your future. It's time to make space for yourself, even while waiting.Curious about how to move forward even when you're unsure of what's next? We'll reveal exactly how small shifts can create meaningful change that will help you thrive, no matter what happens with your relationship.Listen now, and learn why waiting is never the answer, and how you can start taking steps to live again.Timestamps: 01:36 The Psychological Toll of Waiting02:46 The Cost of Waiting: Mental and Physical Health04:12 Space Without a Plan: A Path to Degradation15:24 Taking Back Your Power: Active Healing29:29 Small Daily Shifts to Move Forward37:57 Conclusion: Living with Purpose

Send us a textValentine's Day is here, but instead of feeling loved and cherished, you're dreading it. Maybe there's a pit in your stomach because this year is different. Your partner has asked for space. They've pulled away emotionally, or maybe they're physically gone. Now, a day that's supposed to be about love feels like a cruel reminder of what you've lost… or what you still might lose.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads, where daily conflicts, emotional distance, and uncertainty don't have to mean the end of love, but a chance to rebuild it in a way that actually works.I'm Staci Bartley, a relationship mentor who's spent the last decade helping people navigate the hardest moments of their lives. Alongside my co-host and lover, Tom, and our daughter, Brooke, we help you untangle the messiness of love.So here's the question we're tackling today: Why does Valentine's Day feel so painful when your relationship is in limbo? And more importantly, how do you get through it without making the biggest mistakes that will only leave you feeling worse?In this episode, we're unpacking the biggest emotional traps that keep you stuck, the #1 mistake people make when they're desperate for connection, and, most importantly, how to reclaim Valentine's Day in a way that strengthens you instead of breaking you down.By the end of this episode, you won't just have a survival plan, you'll have a game plan for making this day something that actually helps you begin to feel good again.So, if you're wondering whether your partner will reach out… if you're tempted to send that “just thinking of you” text… or if you feel like you don't belong anywhere right now, this episode is for you. Let's get started.Timestamps: 01:12 Understanding the Pain of Valentine's Day01:50 The Stubbed Toe Analogy05:01 Common Mistakes in Relationship Limbo09:25 Broadening Your Perspective22:05 Practical Tips for Self-Love on Valentine's Day27:34 The Importance of Self-Discovery36:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Send us a textWhat if the hardest part about your partner asking for space isn't the space itself—but what it does to you? The sleepless nights, the overthinking, the way every conversation replays in your head like a broken record. You tell yourself to be patient, but inside, you feel like you're unraveling.No one teaches us how to handle this moment. Most people react out of fear, chasing, shutting down, or grasping for control, without realizing the way they handle this space is shaping what happens next.In this episode of Love Shack Live, we break down:✅ The #1 mistake people make when their partner asks for space (and what to do instead).✅ Why space isn't necessarily the end—but an opportunity for clarity and growth.✅ How emotional weightlifting helps you shift from panic to peace.✅ The truth about why your partner needs space (it's not what you think).So how do you navigate this without making things worse? And is it really possible for space to bring you closer rather than push you apart? We need you to hear us say—yes.Join us for a conversation that will change the way you see space, separation, and yourself.

Send us a textEver feel like you're the only one holding your relationship together? You keep showing up, biting your tongue, doing what needs to be done—not out of love, but out of obligation. And yet, the more you give, the more exhausted, disconnected, and unseen you feel.The hard truth? Obligation isn't just draining you, it's destroying the very emotional connection you're trying so hard to save.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads. If you're struggling with daily conflict, emotional distance, or feeling like your partner is slipping away, you're in the right place. I'm Staci Bartley, a relationship mentor with over a decade of experience helping couples navigate the hardest moments of love and life. I'm joined by my co-host and partner Tom, and our daughter Brooke, and together we help you understand what's really happening in your relationship—and what you can do to change it.So here's the question: What if the thing you think is holding your relationship together, obligation, is actually pulling it apart?In today's episode, we're unpacking:

Send us a textHave you ever felt blindsided by your partner asking for space? Maybe you're stuck replaying every conversation, wondering how it got to this point. Or perhaps you're grappling with resentment, thinking, Why didn't they say something sooner?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those standing at a relationship crossroads. If you're dealing with daily conflicts, emotional gaps, or longing to reconnect with someone you deeply care about, this is your space.In this episode, we answer your most raw and heartfelt questions:Why should I appreciate my partner for asking for space, especially when it hurts so much?How can I let go of the resentment when they didn't communicate their struggles sooner?Is it okay to reach out during a separation, or will it make things worse?Together, we'll uncover why asking for space is often an act of courage, not rejection, and how this moment can open a door to deeper connection and growth. You'll walk away with actionable tools to navigate the gray areas of space, silence, and second chances.Don't miss this powerful episode that might just reframe how you view one of the hardest moments in your relationship journey.Timestamps: 02:15 Understanding the Need for Space05:48 Balancing Sadness and Empathy08:01 Self-Reflection and Communication11:58 Creating a Safe Space for Difficult Conversations20:53 When to Reach Out During Space and Separation24:07 The Importance of Self-Integrity24:36 Understanding Emotional Drivers25:03 Dealing with Separation and Unrequited Love25:57 The Capacity to Love Many28:47 Effective Communication in Relationships30:54 Creating Space in Relationships39:01 Navigating Separation with Children41:10 Final Thoughts and ResourcesHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic. It doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship. Instead, it can be the start of a transformative journey toward clarity, confidence, and connection.✨ Start Your Self-Paced 30-Day Roadmap: This flexible, step-by-step guide is designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust—on your own terms and timeline. Learn more and get started today: https://stacibartley.com/self-paced/30-day-roadmap✨ Download the Separation Survival Kit: Your must-have resource for staying grounded, managing emotions, and gaining clarity during this uncertain time. Get your free guide here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/optin✨ Explore All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, discover the tools and support you need to navigate this chapter of your relationship. Browse here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a textHave you found yourself in the unsettling quiet of giving your partner the space they asked for, wondering if you're doing the right thing, or if you're losing them altogether? The silence can be deafening, filled with questions: Am I helping or hurting? Is this space tearing us apart, or could it actually bring us closer?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, unsure of how to bridge the growing gap. If you're facing daily conflicts, emotional distance, or moments of doubt about whether love can survive the strain, you're in the right place. Together, we uncover the skills and strategies to rebuild bonds that are genuine and lasting.In this episode, we tackle the burning question: How much space is too much? We'll explore how to honor someone's need for space while maintaining a connection, and why this time apart might be the very thing your relationship needs to grow.By the end of this episode, you'll walk away with practical tools to create clarity during times of separation, establish healthy boundaries, and navigate the emotional uncertainty with intention and confidence.And here's the twist: we're not just talking about “giving space” to your partner. We're diving into how to use this time to reconnect with yourself, strengthen your foundation, and discover the opportunities hidden within the discomfort.So, grab your headphones and step into the Love Shack, where we'll guide you through this challenging season with wisdom, hope, and actionable insights.Your journey starts here.Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Navigating Relationship Crossroads01:14 Understanding the Need for Space02:04 The Challenges of Giving Space02:58 Learning Relationship Skills04:47 Facing the Reality of Relationship Issues07:39 Common Misconceptions About Space19:23 The Importance of Clear Communication20:25 Healthy vs. Unhealthy Space29:30 Understanding the Need for Space30:22 The Emotional Struggle of Asking for Space31:36 The Pressure of Using Space Correctly35:25 Creating a Plan for Space37:12 Setting Agreements and Expectations40:08 Navigating No Contact Periods42:30 The Importance of Clarity and Communication53:32 Tools and Resources for Separation55:41 Reflecting on Personal Needs and Agreements57:14 Closing Thoughts and ReflectionsHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic. It doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship. Instead, it can be the start of a transformative journey toward clarity, confidence, and connection.✨ Start Your Self-Paced 30-Day Roadmap: This flexible, step-by-step guide is designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust—on your own terms and timeline. Learn more and get started today: https://stacibartley.com/self-paced/30-day-roadmap✨ Download the Separation Survival Kit: Your must-have resource for staying grounded, managing emotions, and gaining clarity during this uncertain time. Get your free guide here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/optin✨ Explore All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, discover the tools and support you need to navigate this chapter of your relationship. Browse here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a textFeeling stuck in the space between staying and leaving?That painful limbo, where your relationship isn't thriving, but it's not over either, can feel like a roller coaster of hope, despair, and confusion. Whether your partner has asked for space, filed for divorce, or you're simply feeling emotionally disconnected, you might be asking yourself: Can this relationship be saved, or am I fooling myself?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone at a relationship crossroads. Hosted by Staci Bartley, along with her husband, Tom, and daughter, Brooke, we're here to help you navigate the complexities of love and partnership with honesty, compassion, and practical tools.In this episode, we're diving into what we call The Land of Maybe—the uncertain, emotional space where relationships are tested to their core. We'll explore:Why this space feels like “hell on earth” and how to find peace amidst the chaos.How letting go of control (not hope) can create powerful new possibilities.What needs to happen for healing, even when one partner seems resolved to leave.Real stories of couples who found clarity and growth, whether together or apart.If you're holding on, unsure what to do next, this episode is for you. Discover how to shift from fear and confusion to clarity and strength. Because space doesn't have to mean the end, it can be the beginning of transformation.Let's uncover what's possible. Join us in the Love Shack.Timestamps: 03:19 Listener Question: Avoiding Divorce05:13 Emotional Rollercoaster of Uncertainty07:31 The Importance of Honest Communication11:35 Navigating Emotional Pain and Discomfort21:02 The Power of Letting Go29:29 Creating Emotional Safety33:45 The Consequences of Avoiding Difficult Conversations35:52 The Importance of Honest Communication37:22 Learning to Communicate Effectively39:00 Personal Stories and Examples41:25 The Lifelong Journey of Relationship Skills44:10 Navigating Relationship Challenges47:58 The Power of Self-Reflection53:23 Envisioning a Future of New Possibilities57:38 Conclusion and ResourcesHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic—it doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship. Instead, it can be the start of a transformative journey toward clarity, confidence, and connection.✨ Start Your Self-Paced 30-Day Roadmap: This flexible, step-by-step guide is designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust—on your own terms and timeline. Learn more and get started today: https://stacibartley.com/self-paced/30-day-roadmap✨ Download the Separation Survival Kit: Your must-have resource for staying grounded, managing emotions, and gaining clarity during this uncertain time. Get your free guide here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/optin✨ Explore All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, discover the tools and support you need to navigate this chapter of your relationship. Browse here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a textHave you ever watched someone you love slowly fade into emotional darkness, desperately wanting to help but feeling powerless as they pull away? Or perhaps you're the one who feels the overwhelming need to withdraw, even as your heart aches for connection?Welcome to Love Shack Live, where we guide couples standing at the crossroads of their relationships, helping them navigate the complex terrain between disconnection and lasting intimacy.In this rare and powerful episode, we're joined by Mason, who once identified as avoidant but has since transformed his relationship with both himself and others. Through his raw and honest story, we'll uncover:What it really feels like to be in that "deep, dark hole" of avoidant attachmentWhy highly sensitive people often find themselves pulling away from those they love mostThe surprising truth about why space and separation can sometimes be the greatest giftHow to transform the pain of withdrawal into a journey of self-discoveryThis isn't just another conversation about attachment theory. It's a story of how one person found his way back to life after believing he was "broken" – and how you can too.Join Staci, Tom, and Brooke as they dive deep into the misunderstood world of avoidant attachment, debunking myths and offering hope for both those who withdraw and those who love them.Whether you're the one needing space or the one feeling left behind, this episode illuminates the path forward with compassion, understanding, and practical wisdom for your own journey of transformation.Timestamps: 02:35 Attachment Theory Basics05:14 Debunking Myths About Avoidant Attachment06:20 Mason's Personal Experience07:34 The Struggles of Avoidant Attachment29:37 The Turning Point36:03 Navigating Vulnerability and Avoidance37:23 The Precious Gift of Self-Reflection43:00 Embracing Emotional Presence45:09 Balancing Coping Mechanisms48:25 Facing Yourself and Overcoming Avoidance51:24 The Power of Community Support53:32 Resources and Final ThoughtsHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic—it's not the end. It's an opportunity to reflect, rebuild, and reconnect.✨ Download the Separation Survival Kit: Your essential guide to managing emotional distance, staying grounded, and creating clarity during this uncertain time. Get it here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/optin✨ Explore the 30-Day Roadmap: A step-by-step guide designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust in your relationship. Learn more here: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap/sales✨ Discover All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, find the perfect fit to support your relationship journey. Explore here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a textIt's one of the most gut-wrenching moments in a relationship: your partner asks for space. You're left reeling, questioning everything. Why does this hurt so much? Why can't they just stay and work through it with me? What am I supposed to do now?In this special episode of Love Shack Live, we're diving deep into what it really means when your partner asks for space, and why it's not necessarily the end. With insights drawn from thousands of relationships, we'll explore the anxious-avoidant dynamic, the emotional weight both partners carry, and how this painful moment can actually become a catalyst for transformation.We'll answer your most pressing questions:Why does space feel so unbearable?What steps can you take to navigate this phase without losing yourself?How do you foster growth when everything feels uncertain?Whether you're feeling anxious, avoidant, or just stuck, this episode offers practical strategies to stop spiraling, understand what's really happening beneath the surface, and find your footing again.Because space isn't just an ending, it can be the beginning of something new, something better. Let's take the first step together.Timestamps: 02:36 Understanding the Anxious-Avoidant Paradox03:20 Coping Mechanisms: Avoidant vs. Anxious06:51 The Role of Space in Relationships10:19 Navigating Emotional Pushups14:31 The Importance of Self-Care and Boundaries21:56 Building Interdependence in Relationships26:20 Effective Communication Strategies29:07 Navigating Space in Relationships29:37 Cooling Off Period and Separation Agreement30:41 Avoiding the Land of Maybe31:06 Emotional Impact of Uncertainty31:42 Creating a Separation Agreement32:51 The Importance of a Plan During Space37:02 Dealing with Strong Emotions41:48 Coping with a Partner Seeing Someone Else45:38 Letting Go and Self-Forgiveness49:47 The Love In Limbo 30-Day Roadmap50:53 Creating Fun and Relaxation in Relationships53:38 Song of the Week: Grow as We Go by Ben Platt54:49 Final Thoughts and FarewellHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic—it's not the end. It's an opportunity to reflect, rebuild, and reconnect.✨ Download the Separation Survival Kit: Your essential guide to managing emotional distance, staying grounded, and creating clarity during this uncertain time. Get it here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/optin✨ Explore the 30-Day Roadmap: A step-by-step guide designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust in your relationship. Learn more here: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap/sales✨ Discover All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, find the perfect fit to support your relationship journey. Explore here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a text“I Can't Do This Anymore”Few words can hit harder. In an instant, your world tilts. Your mind races, your heart pounds, and suddenly, you're questioning everything. When your partner says they need space, it's natural to spiral. But what if this isn't the end? What if it's a chance to rewrite your story?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at the crossroads of their relationship. Hosted by relationship mentor Staci Bartley, alongside her husband Tom and daughter Brooke, we tackle the tough conversations and provide real, actionable tools to help you navigate even the hardest moments with clarity and confidence.In this episode, we're cutting through the chaos of relationship crisis to uncover the deeper truths behind those painful words. You'll learn:Why reacting in panic leads to regret, and what to do insteadHow to find hidden opportunities in your partner's need for spaceThe key to breaking free from the fear cycle that keeps you stuckPractical tools to rebuild emotional stability when everything feels uncertainThis isn't about gimmicks or chasing after someone who feels distant. It's about slowing down, regaining control, and discovering why this moment, painful as it feels, might be the start of something transformative.What if the greatest challenge in your relationship was also the greatest invitation for growth? Let's find out together.Subscribe now to join a community committed to building authentic, lasting love, one conversation at a time.Timestamps: 03:45 The Role of Fear in Relationships04:40 Psychological Drivers of Fear08:26 The Impact of Fear on Decision Making22:03 The Importance of Emotional Safety29:07 Distorted Beliefs and Radical Behavior29:23 Facing Fear and Desperation29:57 Common Distorted Thinking Patterns30:47 Blaming and Personalizing32:58 Catastrophizing and Generalizing36:07 Tools to Manage Fear40:40 Navigating Relationship Space42:59 Transformative Shifts and Self-Discovery46:35 Final Thoughts and ResourcesHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic—it's not the end. It's an opportunity to reflect, rebuild, and reconnect.✨ Download the Separation Survival Kit: Your essential guide to managing emotional distance, staying grounded, and creating clarity during this uncertain time. Get it here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/optin✨ Explore the 30-Day Roadmap: A step-by-step guide designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust in your relationship. Learn more here: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap/sales✨ Discover All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, find the perfect fit to support your relationship journey. Explore here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a textWhen your partner asks for space, your thoughts can spiral into overdrive. You replay every conversation, overanalyze their actions, and question everything. It's exhausting, and the more you think, the deeper you sink. To make it worse, you isolate yourself, convinced no one can understand your pain. But here's the truth: isolation doesn't protect you—it traps you.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone navigating relationship challenges. If daily conflict and growing emotional distance have left you feeling stuck, you're in the right place. We're here to help you find clarity, confidence, and connection—even in the hardest moments.In this episode, we'll explore how overthinking and isolation fuel each other, keeping you stuck in a cycle of suffering. You'll discover:Why isolating yourself after your partner asks for space makes overthinking worse.The hidden costs of trying to solve everything on your own.How community and connection offer the clarity you need to move forward.If you're tired of the mental spiral and ready to find relief, this conversation is your lifeline. Join us as we break down the steps to escape the isolation trap and build a foundation of strength and support.Timestamps: 02:01 The Dangers of Isolation03:45 Breaking Free from Isolation07:44 The Power of Community11:15 Signs of Too Much Isolation19:32 Challenges of Talking to Friends and Family23:41 Making Empowered Decisions25:49 Embracing Community for Healing27:42 The Power of Diverse Communities28:23 Emotional Intelligence and Problem Solving29:11 The Importance of Feeling Included29:53 The Role of Emotional Support33:20 Confidentiality and Trust34:35 The Joy and Celebration in Community35:54 One-on-One vs. Group Support42:54 The Roadmap Experience44:52 Encouragement to Join the Community51:15 Active Listening Challenge54:18 Final Thoughts and FarewellHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic—it's not the end. It's an opportunity to reflect, rebuild, and reconnect.✨ Download the Separation Survival Kit: Your essential guide to managing emotional distance, staying grounded, and creating clarity during this uncertain time. Get it here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/optin✨ Explore the 30-Day Roadmap: A step-by-step guide designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust in your relationship. Learn more here: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap/sales✨ Discover All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, find the perfect fit to support your relationship journey. Explore here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a textYou felt the divide long before it was spoken. The missed glances. The quiet tension. Then the words you dreaded: “I think I need space.”Your stomach drops. Panic sets in. You've tried everything—giving more, doing more, being more. And now, it feels like the end. But what if it's not? What if this moment, as painful as it feels, is an opportunity?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads—where conflict feels constant, emotional gaps grow wider, and the desire for something real and lasting remains strong.In today's episode, we tackle the pivotal moment when a partner asks for space. What does it really mean? Is it the beginning of the end—or the start of something new?Together, we'll explore:Why “I need space” is often a cry for self-reflection, not failure.Practical ways to honor your partner's need for distance without losing yourself.How to transform this time into an opportunity for clarity, growth, and deeper connection.This isn't about panic or quick fixes. It's about stepping into empowerment, uncovering truths, and building the foundation for something stronger—whether within your relationship or yourself.Let's dive in. Your story isn't over. It's just beginning.Timestamps:02:39 The Role of Self-Reflection and Overwhelm04:37 The Importance of Relationship Skills07:43 Debunking Myths About Needing Space12:04 Managing Panic and Anxiety17:41 Establishing Agreements During Separation24:04 Managing Panic and Regret24:27 Focusing on Yourself25:41 Understanding and Managing Emotions27:44 Breathing Techniques for Calm29:16 Finding Productive Distractions33:06 Emotional Regulation and Communication38:07 The 30 Day Roadmap43:46 Nature's Healing Power45:17 Final Thoughts and EncouragementHas your partner asked for space? Don't panic—it's not the end. It's an opportunity to reflect, rebuild, and reconnect.✨ Explore the 30-Day Roadmap: A step-by-step guide designed to help you navigate emotional distance, honor your partner's need for space, and rebuild trust in your relationship. Learn more here: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap/sales✨ Discover All Our Programs: From expert mentorship to proven strategies, find the perfect fit to support your relationship journey. Explore here: https://stacibartley.com/programs/index/

Send us a textThe holidays are supposed to be a time of love and togetherness, but for many couples, they're anything but. Maybe you're dreading that family dinner, knowing the cracks in your relationship will feel like they're under a microscope. Or perhaps you're bracing for the political debates, old family patterns, or conversations that could leave you and your partner feeling even more disconnected. Sound familiar?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads. If you're facing daily conflicts, feeling an emotional gap growing between you and your partner, or struggling to protect your relationship in the chaos of family gatherings, you've come to the right place.In this episode, we're answering the question: How can you protect your relationship and create connection during the holidays, even when tensions run high?Here's what you'll take away:How holiday stress can amplify tensions in your relationship—and what to do about it.Real strategies for navigating triggers, setting boundaries, and staying emotionally grounded.Tips for managing family dynamics without dragging your relationship into the fray.Ideas for creating new traditions that honor your relationship and where you are now.We know the holidays can shine a spotlight on the cracks in your relationship. But they can also be an opportunity to show up differently, protect your peace, and strengthen your bond.Press play now for tools and strategies to walk into this season with clarity, connection, and confidence—no matter what's waiting at the dinner table.Timestamps: 02:49 Understanding Contrast in Relationships10:55 Emotional Vulnerability During Holidays15:18 Managing Expectations and Planning24:18 Creating New Traditions28:43 Handling Emotional Triggers31:11 A Thanksgiving Disaster34:16 Managing Holiday Stress37:40 Effective Communication Strategies41:47 Handling Difficult Conversations50:26 Redirecting and Structuring Conversations53:13 Final Tips and Takeaways56:45 Holiday Wishes and AnnouncementsAnd for those ready to take their journey even further, join our waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce at stacibartley.com/waitlist and be the first to know when we open enrollment! (We will have a special offer for podcast listeners!)FollowApple PodcastsSpotifyAmazon MusicRSS FeedSee All

Send us a textEver feel like you're walking on eggshells, second-guessing every word you say or action you take in your relationship? Or maybe you notice a quiet tension—like something unspoken is driving your connection further apart. Here's the uncomfortable truth: manipulation often hides in plain sight. And it's not just them—it's us, too.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone at a relationship crossroads. If you're stuck in daily conflicts or feeling a growing emotional gap, we're here to help you rebuild a bond that's real, lasting, and built on mutual respect. We've guided thousands of couples to rediscover connection—and we're here to guide you, too.In this episode, we're uncovering the often-overlooked dynamics of manipulation. What does it look like in your relationship? Why does it happen even when your intentions are good? And how can you break free from it without sacrificing what you need?Together, we'll explore:The surprising ways manipulation sneaks into everyday interactions.How it damages emotional safety and connection over time.Practical, actionable steps to communicate clearly, ask for what you need, and rebuild trust.Ready to let go of the silent power struggles and create the honest, loving connection you deserve? Press play—this is the conversation your relationship needs.Timestamps: 03:37 Forms of Manipulation06:43 The Power Dynamics of Manipulation24:17 Personal Story: Manipulation in Action30:52 Recognizing Subtle Manipulation in Relationships30:58 The Blame Game: Self-Doubt and Manipulation33:21 Creating Doubt: The Ice Cream Parlor Example35:17 The Power of Asking Directly37:26 Understanding and Overcoming Manipulation40:06 The Importance of Honest Conversations42:36 Empowering Yourself to Ask for What You Need45:18 The Impact of Manipulation on Relationships53:06 Final Thoughts and Upcoming EventsAnd for those ready to take their journey even further, join our waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce at stacibartley.com/waitlist and be the first to know when we open enrollment! (We will have a special offer for podcast listeners!)

Send us a textThis week's election brought about a surge of emotions across the country—some people are feeling relief and optimism, while others face a deep sense of concern and uncertainty. For many couples, these contrasting feelings coexist under the same roof, adding a new layer of tension to their relationship. When the world feels divided, even the smallest exchanges at home can feel heavier than usual.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone finding themselves at a relationship crossroads. If you're dealing with daily conflicts that feel more intense lately or noticing an emotional distance between you and your partner, you're in the right place. Here, we're dedicated to helping you rediscover a bond that feels genuine, resilient, and lasting.In this episode, we're addressing a timely question: How can you keep your relationship steady when outside stress threatens to pull you apart? We'll dive into the subtle ways external pressures impact our closest connections and share actionable, empathy-based strategies for bridging divides when emotions are high.If you're ready to learn how to protect and nurture your relationship in challenging times, this episode is for you.Timestamps: 01:43 Understanding External Stressors03:59 Building Trust in Yourself06:18 Trust and Relationships10:08 Political Divisions and Personal Impact12:47 Creating Connection Amidst Division23:45 Steps to Rebuild Trust and Connection25:36 Letting Go and Finding Joy37:55 Final Thoughts and Encouragement40:03 Join Our Community and Upcoming Events43:37 Closing Remarks and FarewellAnd for those ready to take their journey even further, join our waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce at stacibartley.com/waitlist and be the first to know when we open enrollment! (We will have a special offer for podcast listeners!)

Send us a textEver feel like your relationship has slipped into an emotional stalemate? The connection you once shared now feels out of reach, and every attempt to talk only seems to pull you further apart. It's a frustrating, isolating place to be—but you're not alone, and you're certainly not out of options. This episode of Love Shack Live is crafted for anyone at that pivotal relationship crossroads, where answers seem elusive, and every conversation feels like walking on eggshells.Today, we're diving deep into the real questions that keep so many of us up at night: Can trust truly be rebuilt after it's been broken? How do you have honest, hard conversations without causing more strain? And what does it take to shift from merely surviving to actually thriving together?Join relationship mentors Staci Bartley, her co-host and partner Tom, and her daughter Brooke, as they tackle the toughest questions from listeners just like you. With a blend of heartfelt advice, practical tools, and raw, real talk, this episode goes beyond simple insights. It's designed to be your toolkit for navigating those hard, vulnerable moments with clarity and confidence.If you've ever found yourself wondering, Are we too far gone to fix this? Or felt frustrated when even “I” statements don't seem to help, this episode is for you. We'll show you how to reframe, rebuild, and re-engage in a way that respects both you and your partner's experiences. Real connection isn't just a dream—it's achievable, with the right tools and a little courage. Tune in to discover how to bridge the gap, restore trust, and reignite the spark that first brought you together.Timestamps: 01:22 Curated Questions from Listeners02:03 Addressing Manipulation in Relationships02:52 Effective Communication: Beyond 'I Feel' Statements09:28 Understanding Avoidant Attachment15:30 Handling Dishonesty and Emotional Regulation29:32 Emotional Weightlifting: Building Relationship Confidence31:09 Navigating Family Dynamics and Relationship Challenges33:10 Emotional Regulation During Relationship Separation41:13 Rebuilding Trust: Steps and Practical Exercises45:54 Discovering and Expressing Your True Wants56:56 Vision Mapping: Co-Creating Your Future Together59:18 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textWhat if I told you there are three hidden conversations that most couples never have—until it's too late? We're not talking about the dramatic arguments. These are the quiet, everyday moments, full of small frustrations and unspoken expectations, building up layer by layer until they create real cracks in your relationship. In this episode, we're unpacking the three conversations that could bring you and your partner back to center before it's too late.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone feeling stuck or uncertain about the next step in their relationship. Whether you're replaying the same argument again and again or sitting across from your partner feeling more like roommates than lovers, you're in the right place. I'm Staci Bartley, your relationship mentor, joined by my co-host Tom and our daughter Brooke. Together, we've helped hundreds of couples reclaim their connection, and today, we're diving deep into the questions many are too afraid to ask.So, what are the three conversations you need to have—now—to stop drifting apart? We'll tackle those sneaky expectations that somehow end up in explosions, the tiny resentments that add up, and how to embrace each other's personal growth without feeling left behind.If you've been feeling distant or just plain frustrated, these three talks could be a turning point. Stick with us. These insights may change everything.Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: The Conversations Couples Avoid00:25 Welcome to Love Shack Live01:46 Conversation 1: The Relationship Time Bomb03:55 Unspoken Expectations and Misunderstandings06:10 Different Perspectives in Relationships09:55 The Importance of Communication22:42 Practical Steps to Open Up Conversations25:17 Reflecting on Tom's Support27:32 Conversation 2: The Resentment Review28:23 Addressing Reoccurring Hurts35:04 Conversation 3: The Growth Gap Discussion38:48 Embracing Differences in Relationships45:18 Invitation to Save Your Marriage Program45:49 Final Thoughts and FarewellReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textAre you at the point where the silence between you and your partner is louder than the conversations? The same arguments, the same disappointments, the same distance, growing with every passing day. You've tried everything — from pleading to pretending everything's fine — but the gap only seems to widen. You're not alone. In fact, over a third of couples admit to feeling disconnected and uncertain about their future together.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those facing relationship crossroads. I'm Staci Bartley, relationship mentor, and I'm here with my co-host Tom and our daughter Brooke. Together, we've guided couples through some of the most challenging moments in their lives. We know what it's like to feel stuck, and more importantly, we know how to help you out of it.Today, we're answering the question you may have been avoiding: Is it too late to save your relationship? Or, more importantly, what haven't you tried yet? In this special 200th episode, we're sharing unconventional strategies to break the cycle of emotional disconnection. You might be surprised to learn that doing less, not more, could reignite the intimacy you thought was lost for good.Are you ready to explore the hidden opportunities that you've overlooked? Let's dive into what's really going on and discover why understanding your part in the emotional dynamic could be the key to unlocking lasting change. Your relationship isn't over—it's just waiting for a new beginning. Tune in now.Timestamps:02:00 Understanding Self-Sabotage03:26 The Cycle of Conflict05:49 The Importance of Emotional Safety15:23 Unconventional Benchmarks for Progress23:00 The Power of Doing Less26:29 Embracing the Mess29:26 Starting with Your Part30:15 The Power of the Pause33:32 Discussing What Matters Most36:49 Inviting Your Partner In43:50 Navigating Relationship Changes45:04 Transformative Client Stories52:23 Exploring Memories for Inspiration55:01 Conclusion and Next StepsReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textPicture this: You're sitting across from your partner. The house is finally quiet, no phones, no distractions. But instead of feeling close, there's an empty space between you... a gap that feels impossible to bridge. Sound familiar? You're not alone. 67% of couples report feeling emotionally disconnected, but here's the real shocker: most don't even realize it until it's almost too late.Welcome to Love Shack Live, where we help couples at a crossroads find their way back to a stronger, more connected relationship. In this episode, we're diving deep into a silent relationship killer—neglect. You know the feeling: endless responsibilities, constant busyness, and suddenly, the person who used to be your number one priority feels like a distant stranger.So, how do you stop the slow drift toward emotional atrophy and rekindle your bond?Stick with us as we uncover the hidden signs of relationship neglect, why "I'm too busy" is the most costly lie you can tell yourself, and, most importantly, what you can do today to change course. You'll walk away with simple, actionable steps to reconnect with your partner, whether you're in crisis or just looking to strengthen your connection.Curious about the invisible damage happening under the surface of your relationship? We'll help you spot it and stop it. Ready to roll up your sleeves and rebuild what you thought might be lost? This episode is your roadmap.Your future self, and your relationship, will thank you for tuning in. Let's dive in.Timestamps:02:14 The Cost of Neglect04:57 Avoidance and Its Consequences08:53 The Hierarchy of Relationships11:24 Facing the Fear and Finding Courage20:14 The Hidden Dangers of Neglect28:54 Blame and Accountability29:42 Understanding Betrayal in Relationships31:11 Rebuilding Trust and Connection32:37 Practical Remedies for Relationship Neglect35:03 The Power of Quality Time36:39 The Importance of Being Present42:05 Open Communication and Support47:14 Introducing 'Save Your Marriage' Program49:40 Creating Romance Heaven53:18 Closing Thoughts and Listener AppreciationReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textDo you ever hear people say, “We just fell out of love”? Perhaps you've even said it yourself. It's easy to believe that love simply fades when life gets busy or tough. But here's the truth: it's a myth. Love doesn't just slip away; it evolves. And understanding that evolution is the key to rekindling your relationship.Welcome to Love Shack Live—the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads. If you're facing daily conflicts, growing emotional distance, or wondering if it's even possible to rebuild that deep connection, this show is for you. I'm Staci Bartley, relationship mentor, and I'm joined by my co-host and lover, Tom, and our daughter Brooke. Together, we guide you through what it takes to not only stay in love but thrive.Today's Big Question: Does love really fade over time, or is something else happening beneath the surface?By the end of this episode, you'll understand why love doesn't disappear—it transforms. We'll walk you through the steps you can take to reignite the connection with your partner right now—no waiting necessary. Maybe you've been waiting for love to return on its own. Today, we'll show you how intentional actions can bring it back.Curious? You should be. The answer might surprise you—stay with us.Chapters:00:00 Debunking the Myth of Falling Out of Love01:48 Understanding the Ebb and Flow of Love13:10 The Holy Shit Moment: Realizing Imperfections19:42 Embracing Differences for Growth27:47 Embracing the Cycle of Love29:57 Navigating Relationship Challenges32:24 Rediscovering Connection and Intimacy36:37 The Power of Vulnerability41:33 Practical Steps to Reignite Love51:50 Reflecting on Love and Growth54:01 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textEver felt like you're living with a stranger, even though your partner is right beside you? It didn't happen overnight, but here you are—facing a growing emotional gap and conflicts that seem to have no end. You've tried to talk, tried to fix things, but somehow, the distance just keeps building. And now, you're left wondering: Is my marriage really in trouble?Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those of you standing at the crossroads in your relationship. Maybe you're battling daily conflicts that never seem to resolve. Maybe you've started to notice that the connection you once had is slipping through your fingers. You know something needs to change, but you're unsure where to even begin. That's where we come in.I'm Staci Bartley, a relationship mentor with over a decade of experience helping couples navigate these very challenges. Alongside my husband Tom and our daughter Brooke, we're here to walk with you on this journey. We believe in providing real, practical solutions to the issues that keep you stuck. It's not just about ‘working harder' at your relationship—it's about learning the skills to rebuild a connection that feels genuine, intimate, and lasting.Here's the question we'll answer today: How do you know if your marriage is headed toward divorce? More importantly, what steps can you take right now to change course before it's too late?In this episode, we'll uncover the five key signs that your relationship may be in danger. These aren't just casual warning signals—they're the pivotal moments where couples either find the strength to turn things around or watch as their relationship deteriorates beyond repair. But there's hope. With the right actions, even the most strained relationship can heal. We'll share actionable steps you can start taking today to stop the downward spiral and rediscover the connection you've been longing for.One powerful statistic to consider: the average couple waits six years after identifying a serious problem before seeking help. Imagine what that delay does to the health of your relationship. Today, we'll not only identify these warning signs but also show you how you can start addressing them now—before those six years turn into too little, too late.You'll hear real-life stories of couples who turned things around. You'll gain insights into how small daily actions can either erode trust or help rebuild it. We'll also dive deep into practical tools that can stop resentment from growing and restore emotional safety between you and your partner.So, if you're ready to take control of your relationship and start building a thriving, lasting connection—stay with us. This episode just might change everything.Timestamps: 02:03 The Slow Build of Distance02:38 The Importance of Proactive Action10:04 Emotional Distance: The First Sign19:47 Repeated Arguments: The Second Sign24:13 Boundaries and Emotional Capacity29:17 Understanding Emotional Boundaries30:48 The Invisible Nature of Emotional Pain31:34 The Consequences of Emotional Disregard35:34 Manipulation and Power Struggles42:22 Recognizing and Reducing Drama44:22 Rebuilding Intimacy and Connection47:04 Taking Action to Avoid Divorce50:33 Overcoming Fear in Relationships54:30 Final Thoughts and ResourcesReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textWhat if the toughest conversations in your relationship aren't the ones you're having—but the ones you're avoiding?Resentment doesn't build from the big arguments. It grows in the silence, in the moments when you keep your needs hidden, hoping your partner will just know. But here's the reality: they won't. And that unspoken tension? It will eat away at the love and trust you've built over time.Here in the Love Shack we help people like you who are at a crossroads in their relationships—feeling stuck, emotionally drained, and unsure whether to stay or go. Together with my husband Tom and our daughter Brooke, we're here to help you bridge the gap and rebuild the connection you once had.In this episode, we dive into a crucial question: Why do we let our needs go unspoken, and how can we start voicing them before it's too late?You'll hear real-life stories of couples who let their unspoken needs drive them apart, only to find that the key to healing was simpler than they thought: clear, vulnerable conversations. We'll walk you through how to identify those hidden needs, share them in a way that strengthens your bond, and avoid the resentment that creeps in when they go unmet.Curious about how to stop resentment in its tracks? Tune in now.Timestamps: 02:22 The Movie Analogy: Understanding Personal Narratives04:23 The Importance of Clear Communication05:11 Societal Rules and Miscommunication07:04 The Consequences of Unexpressed Needs10:02 Understanding and Expressing Your Needs21:46 Real-Life Example: Rich and Janet's Story24:46 Teaching Your Partner How to Love You27:14 Understanding Mutual Needs in Relationships27:57 Personal Examples of Miscommunication28:52 The Importance of Asking and Listening30:33 Common Barriers to Effective Communication32:36 Creating an Emotionally Safe Environment34:24 Setting the Stage for Productive Conversations38:15 Focusing on Positive Communication46:45 Practical Scripts for Common Relationship Needs49:06 Building Self-Worth and VulnerabilityReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textEver feel like you're living in relationship limbo? You're stuck in the middle, unsure whether to stay or walk away, and every decision feels like the wrong one. You're emotionally drained, and no matter how hard you try, the clarity you crave just won't come. You're not alone. In fact, 65% of people in struggling relationships feel trapped by indecision—and it's not just an emotional issue, it's a neurological one!In this episode, we dive deep into why making decisions in uncertain relationships feels so impossible, and more importantly, how you can finally start finding your way out of the gray zone. Discover the hidden reasons behind your indecision, how anxiety is hijacking your brain, and why the answers you're searching for aren't out there—they're inside you.We'll cover practical steps you can take right now to start moving toward clarity, whether it's reconnecting with yourself or stopping the endless scorekeeping that keeps you stuck. If you're ready to break free from emotional limbo and make decisions with confidence, this episode is for you!Timestamps: 01:24 The Neuroscience of Anxiety and Decision Making02:06 Personal Stories: Living in Limbo04:21 The Impact of Anxiety on Decision Making06:31 Finding Clarity from Within07:53 The Importance of Self-Understanding10:47 Personal Anecdotes: Stacey's Journey14:34 The Role of Family and Children in Relationship Decisions20:01 The Power of Self-Exploration27:07 Practical Steps to Gain Clarity35:36 Conclusion: Moving from Indecision to Empowerment35:59 Invitation to Further Resources36:54 Weekly Challenge: Resourcing from WithinReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textWhy does it feel like love isn't enough to fix your relationship?You've tried everything—communicating more, planning date nights, giving space, and even avoiding conflict altogether. Yet, the same problems keep resurfacing, and you're left wondering if love alone can really sustain a lasting relationship. The frustration, the exhaustion—it's all too familiar.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the show for listeners who find themselves at a relationship crossroads, facing daily conflicts and a growing emotional gap. Whether you're fighting to reconnect or questioning if love is enough, we're here to help you rebuild a bond that feels genuine and lasting.Today's big question: Is love alone enough to make a relationship last, or are there essential skills every couple needs to truly thrive?Join hosts Staci Bartley, Tom Bartley, and their daughter Brooke as they dive into a real conversation about the myth of love being effortless. In this episode, you'll discover why love needs more than just passion—it needs skills. Does true love really “bear all things,” or are we missing something deeper?By the end, you'll see why even the most loving couples need more than love to make it work. Curious to know what that ‘something' is? Tune in to find out.Chapters:02:42 The Myth of Effortless Love04:03 The Importance of Key Skills05:05 Personal Reflections on Love07:43 The Role of Self-Reflection09:39 Empowering Yourself in Relationships10:12 The Art of Communication23:07 Diagnosing and Labeling Partners32:36 Realizing Personal Responsibility33:07 Understanding Societal Pressures34:12 The Importance of Skills in Relationships36:31 Navigating Change in Relationships39:39 Embracing Human Messiness41:05 The Power of Love and Skills46:45 The Need for Relationship Education52:25 Invitation to Skill Up53:54 Final Thoughts and EncouragementReady to build those essential skills? Join the waitlist for Save Your Marriage: A Blueprint for Avoiding Divorce and be the first to know when enrollment opens. Sign up now at stacibartley.com/waitlist and start learning the tools to transform your relationship.

Send us a textAre you tired of waiting for your partner to change? Frustrated that your efforts to improve yourself seem to be driving a wedge between you instead of bringing you closer? You're not alone.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those standing at a relationship crossroads. If you're grappling with daily conflicts, feeling an emotional gap widening between you and your partner, and yearning to rebuild a bond that's genuine and lasting, you're in the right place.In this eye-opening episode, we tackle a paradox that many couples face but few discuss: Why does focusing on self-improvement sometimes lead to more relationship conflict?Join Staci, Tom and Brooke, as they unpack the concept of "resourcing from within" and how it can transform your relationship – for better or worse.You'll discover:Why your partner might resist your personal growth (it's not what you think!)How to navigate the tension between self-improvement and relationship harmonyPractical strategies to grow individually without growing apartCould your journey of self-discovery be the key to unlocking a deeper, more authentic connection with your partner? Or is it the very thing tearing you apart?Tune in to find out how to turn these growing pains into opportunities for profound relationship growth. This episode might just change the way you approach personal development – and your relationship – forever.Timestamps: 04:41 The Importance of Self-Validation08:19 Personal Stories and Realizations16:37 Navigating Partner Reactions to Personal Growth22:01 The Invitation to Co-Create27:40 Navigating Partner Conflicts with Care28:14 The Importance of Self-Motivation28:50 Understanding and Addressing Anger29:44 Finding Common Ground in Relationships33:22 The Dangers of Codependency35:49 Empowering Yourself and Inspiring Others41:12 The Role of Pain in Personal Growth45:24 Sensory Therapy for Emotional Well-being47:50 Embracing Self-Love49:15 Final Thoughts and ResourcesIf you're feeling stuck in your relationship, visit StaciBartley.com to explore resources that can help you take the next step in your self-growth journey. Connect with us on social media or send us your questions—we're here to support you every step of the way.

Send us a Text Message.You've taken the brave step to focus on self-growth, believing it would inspire positive change in your relationship. But despite your efforts, your partner remains unchanged, and you're left feeling frustrated, as though you're stuck in a holding pattern, waiting for them to catch up.This situation can feel like you're standing in front of a locked door, tirelessly jiggling the handle, only to find that the key won't turn. The more you try, the more stuck and unyielding the door becomes. The emotional toll of waiting for your partner to change can be overwhelming, leaving you questioning whether you've been focusing on the wrong lock all along.What if the key isn't about unlocking their heart but unlocking something within yourself? In this episode of Love Shack Live, Staci Bartley, along with her co-host and husband Tom, and their daughter Brooke, dive into the challenges of personal growth when your partner isn't on the same page. We'll explore practical strategies to maintain your inner stability, navigate these tough dynamics, and find the strength to continue your journey—even when the path is unclear.Key Takeaways:The Waiting Game: Understanding the emotional toll of waiting for your partner to change.Quick Fixes vs. Real Change: Why superficial solutions often fail and how deep personal growth can truly transform your relationship.Self-Focus vs. Self-Sacrifice: How to maintain your well-being without compromising your values.Delayed Gratification: The long-term benefits of staying committed to your personal growth, even when the rewards aren't immediate.Co-Creation Challenges: Balancing differing needs and approaches in your relationship.Timestamps: 02:01 Recap of Last Episode: Self-Focus and Personal Accountability04:17 Challenges of Self-Improvement in Relationships06:55 Facing Unfairness and Embracing Personal Growth09:15 Empowerment Through Self-Focus18:03 The Ripple Effect of Personal Change23:41 Finding Clarity Within Yourself26:31 Understanding Self Focus vs. Self Sacrifice28:41 The Concept of Co-Creation in Relationships29:47 Balancing Different Parenting Styles34:50 Navigating Blended Families38:57 Taking Back Your Power in Relationships44:01 The Importance of Self-Work48:35 Wrapping Up and Final ThoughtsIf you're feeling stuck in your relationship, visit StaciBartley.com to explore resources that can help you take the next step in your self-growth journey. Connect with us on social media or send us your questions—we're here to support you every step of the way.

Send us a Text Message.Tired of feeling like your relationship's success hinges solely on your partner's willingness to change? You're not alone. Many of us find ourselves stuck in this frustrating cycle, feeling powerless and unfulfilled.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those standing at a relationship crossroads. If you're facing daily conflicts, feeling an emotional gap growing between you and your partner, and yearning to rebuild a connection that's genuine and lasting, you're in the right place.In this eye-opening episode, we challenge the common belief that your partner is the source of all your relationship woes. We ask: What if the key to unlocking a happier, healthier partnership lies within you?Join relationship expert Staci Bartley and her co-hosts as they explore a counterintuitive approach to relationship improvement. Discover why focusing on yourself - rather than trying to change your partner - could be the game-changer your relationship needs.Tune in to learn practical strategies for personal growth that can create a positive ripple effect in your relationship. You'll gain insights on how to break free from destructive patterns, deepen your connection, and cultivate a more fulfilling partnership - all by starting with yourself.This episode might just revolutionize the way you approach your relationship challenges. Are you ready to take the first step towards lasting change?Chapters:01:11 Why Focus on Yourself When Your Partner Seems to be the Problem?01:56 The Mermaid Metaphor: Sacrificing Self for Love04:32 Breaking Free from the Victim Mentality Trap06:54 The Consequences of Blame and Resentment11:42 The Importance of Understanding Your Partner17:51 Navigating Role Dynamics in Relationships20:24 The Power of Effective Communication and Asking26:22 Family Dynamics: A Case Study in Personal Growth30:41 Respecting Individual Needs in Family Settings33:14 The Power of Self-Reflection and Breaking Negative Cycles37:00 The Importance of Self-Focus for Relationship Improvement38:45 Facing Relationship Challenges: A Journey of Self-Improvement44:20 Creating Lasting Change: Strategies for Personal and Relational Growth58:07 Embracing True Love: Final Thoughts and ReflectionsResources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards

Send us a Text Message.Are you tired of feeling like your partner never listens to you? Do you find yourself constantly repeating the same things, only to be met with blank stares or distracted nods? You're not alone.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for couples at a relationship crossroads. If you're facing daily conflicts and a growing emotional gap, and dream of rebuilding a genuine, lasting bond with your partner, this episode is for you.In this powerful discussion, we dive deep into the art of listening and being heard in relationships. You'll discover:Why truly listening is harder than you think (and why it matters so much)The surprising reasons your partner might not be hearing youPractical techniques to become a better listener and communicatorHow to share your feelings in a way that encourages understandingEver wondered, "Why can't they just hear me out?" or "Am I really that bad at listening?" We tackle these questions and more.Join relationship expert Stacey Bartley and her co-hosts as they unpack the complexities of communication and offer real-world solutions to help you reconnect with your partner.Don't miss this chance to transform your relationship through the power of listening. Tune in now and take the first step towards feeling truly heard and understood by your partner.Timestamps: 01:42 The Brutal Truth: Are You Really as Good a Listener as You Think?03:17 Why Listening is Harder Than You Think (And Why That Matters)06:39 Emotional Capacity: The Secret Ingredient to Being Truly Heard10:56 The Distraction Epidemic: How It's Killing Your Communication24:55 Speak So They'll Listen: Game-Changing Tips to Be Heard31:16 Breaking Free from the "You Never Listen" Cycle31:52 Own Your Emotions: The Key to Better Communication32:58 Communication Hacks That Actually Work35:24 The Power of Specificity: Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say37:22 Give and Take: Balancing the Scales in Your Relationship38:41 Tough Talks Made Easier: Navigating Difficult Conversations41:32 Reflective Listening: The Skill That Could Save Your Relationship44:06 Listening 101: Essential Tips for Deeper Connection51:06 Creating a Safe Haven: How to Make Your Partner Feel Heard56:42 The Unexpected Romance Booster: Why Dressing Up Still Matters59:53 Your Next Steps: Putting Listening into ActionResources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards

Send us a Text Message.Struggling with constant arguments and feeling like every disagreement is a personal attack? You're not alone. Many couples face daily conflicts and an emotional gap that seems impossible to bridge. Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads, seeking to rebuild a bond that feels genuine and lasting.When every criticism feels like a personal affront, it's hard to maintain a healthy relationship. This episode tackles the deep-seated issue of personalization in relationships, where innocent words turn into emotional wounds.Why do some words and actions from your partner hurt so deeply, even when you know they don't mean to cause pain? How can you stop this destructive pattern that's eroding your connection?Join relationship expert Staci Bartley, along with her co-host and partner Tom, and their daughter Brooke, as they delve into the concept of personalization. Discover why it happens, how it becomes a cancer in relationships, and most importantly, practical strategies to break free from this cycle. Learn how to stay true to yourself during emotional moments and transform conflicts into opportunities for deeper understanding and closeness.In This Episode, You'll Learn:What personalization is and why it occurs.The impact of taking things personally on your relationship.Practical steps to manage and overcome personalization.How to maintain self-awareness and emotional regulation during conflicts.Strategies for planting your flag and standing strong in your truth.Chapters:01:45 Understanding Personalization in Relationships02:46 Personal Insecurities and Their Impact03:48 Real-Life Examples of Personalization06:22 Managing Personalization and Emotional Reactions21:46 The Catch-22 of Vulnerability30:01 Planting Your Flag: Emotional Pushups34:24 Understanding the Importance of Self-Awareness35:48 Recognizing Personalization in Reactions37:02 Self-Observation and Awareness39:55 Reflective Questions for Self-Assessment43:11 Managing Emotional Reactions44:12 Effective Communication Strategies52:35 Practical Tips for Relationship Management57:31 Exploring Personal Strengths and Achievements01:00:46 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsDon't miss out on this transformative episode that promises to equip you with the tools you need to navigate relationship challenges with confidence and clarity. Tune in and start your journey towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship today!Resources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards

Send us a Text Message.Do you feel like your partner should just know how to love you without you having to spell it out?Ever been frustrated because your partner doesn't instinctively know what you need? This common belief can lead to deep resentment and a pile of unmet expectations.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads, facing daily conflicts and emotional gaps, and aspiring to rebuild a genuine, lasting bond. I'm Stacy Bartley, joined by my co-host and lover, Tom, and our daughter, Brooke. Together, we're here to guide you on this journey.Is it really unromantic to tell your partner what you need, or is it essential for a healthy relationship? Today, we uncover the truth about teaching your partner how to love you best and why it's so important.In this episode, we explore:The frustration of unmet expectations in relationships.Why clear communication is crucial.How to move from resentment to understanding.Practical steps to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level.Feeling unheard or misunderstood in your relationship? Stay with us as we debunk misconceptions, share real stories, and provide actionable advice to strengthen your bond.Join us to discover:The importance of communicating your needs clearly.How to create a loving recipe tailored to your relationship.Why effort doesn't negate love but strengthens it.Tune in now to transform your relationship and learn how to truly connect with your partner.Timestamps:03:43 The Recipe for a Healthy Relationship05:23 The Reality of Emotional Understanding11:22 The Headache Analogy19:03 Balancing Contributions in Relationships22:38 Inviting vs. Demanding in Relationships24:56 Navigating Overwhelm Together26:20 Empowering Conversations and Support27:03 Debunking Relationship Myths27:38 Effort in Relationships35:15 The Importance of Asking for What You Need37:11 Overcoming the Fear of Asking42:01 Creating Spontaneity in Relationships42:39 Final Thoughts and EncouragementResources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards

Send us a Text Message.Are you and your partner stuck in a cycle of blame, constantly pointing fingers, and feeling the emotional strain it puts on your relationship? The blame game can create emotional gaps, turn disagreements into battles over who's right, and chip away at trust.This ongoing tension builds resentment, leaves both partners feeling distant, and turns your home into a battleground of frustration and pain. Each accusation can stab you in the heart, making it harder to find common ground and solutions to move forward. This destructive pattern can transform a once-loving relationship into a source of emotional exhaustion and misunderstanding.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for listeners at a relationship crossroads, facing daily conflicts and a growing emotional gap. Our mission is to help you rebuild a connection that's genuine and lasting. I'm Staci Bartley, your host, joined by my co-host and lover Tom, and our daughter Brooke. Together, we bring decades of experience and a personal touch to help you navigate your relationship challenges.Have you ever wondered if the blame game is doing more harm than good? Is there a better way to address the underlying issues without pointing fingers? What about taking accountability and understanding each other's intentions?Stay with us as we explore how shifting from blame to understanding can transform your relationship. We'll share real-life examples, practical tips, and insights to help you find a healthier and happier way forward. Let's delve into the common mindsets around blame in relationships and whether assigning blame is ever truly helpful.Join us as we break down misconceptions, tackle the emotional drivers behind blame, and offer a roadmap to navigate conflicts with empathy and understanding. Tune in and discover how understanding your partner's emotional needs can lead to a stronger, more resilient relationship.Timestamps:02:14 Common Reactions to Hurt and Disappointment03:22 The Cycle of Blame and Its Consequences06:18 Breaking the Cycle: Shifting Perspectives17:00 The Role of Catalytic Moments20:14 Pursuing a Better Path: Focusing on the Want23:08 Understanding Your Wants and Needs23:56 Emotional Overwhelm and Venting24:49 The Importance of Emotional Understanding25:55 The Weed Analogy in Relationships26:39 Fear and Protection Mode28:30 The Blame Game and Its Consequences32:44 The Controller and Collapser Dynamic38:23 Practical Takeaways for Better RelationshipsResources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards

Send us a Text Message.Do you ever feel like your words fall on deaf ears when you're trying to communicate with your partner? It's incredibly disheartening to pour your heart out, only to feel misunderstood and disconnected.Imagine if there was a way to bridge that emotional gap and turn frustrating conversations into meaningful connections. Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads, grappling with daily conflicts, and yearning to rebuild a genuine, lasting bond. I'm Staci Bartley, a relationship expert, joined by my co-host and lover Tom, and our daughter Brooke. Together, we are here to guide you on this journey.In this special episode, we're sharing an exclusive training from The Better Love Club, our paid community, focusing on one of the most significant challenges couples face: communication.Have you ever wanted to know how to truly share your thoughts and feelings without it turning into a fight? How can you ensure that your conversations bring you closer instead of pushing you apart?Join us as we explore practical tips and heartfelt strategies for mastering the art of communication. We'll dive into common communication pitfalls, like “lighting a match and running,” bossiness, and the “all-knowing wise one” approach, and provide insights on how to avoid these traps. We'll also share ways to foster productive conversations and transform dreaded arguments into loving discussions.Stay with us – what you're about to hear could be the key to unlocking a stronger and more loving relationship.Timestamps: 04:18 Common Communication Pitfalls05:58 Light a Match and Run07:37 Bossy Forms of Communication10:06 The All-Knowing Wise One13:40 Never Say Anything17:19 The Abuser Form of Communication20:22 The Pleaser29:27 The Art and Science of Communication30:28 Simplifying Communication31:43 Staying on Topic32:45 Building Blocks of Communication33:51 The Power of Questions36:43 Tone of Voice and Facial Expressions40:10 Owning Your Reactions47:03 Super Tips for Effective Communication54:16 Engaging Conversations55:53 Final Thoughts and ResourcesResources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards

Send us a Text Message.Have you ever wondered if you can truly trust your partner again, especially after betrayal or separation? The pain of past betrayals and the fear of opening up again can be paralyzing, but what if there's a way to rebuild trust step by step? Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for listeners who find themselves at a relationship crossroads.In this episode, we're diving deep into the heart of trust – what it is, why it's vital, and how to rebuild it when it feels broken. We understand the emotional turmoil you're experiencing and the desire to heal and reconnect. We'll share heartfelt stories and practical exercises that have helped many couples rediscover their connection and move forward with renewed hope.Together, we'll explore the small steps you can take to bridge emotional gaps, foster deeper understanding, and create a resilient, loving partnership. Whether you're mending after a separation or simply striving to strengthen your bond, we're here to support you every step of the way.How can you and your partner reach out to one another, heal together, and create a relationship that thrives? Stay with us to uncover the insights and tools you need to transform your relationship.Timestamps: 01:22 Understanding the Concept of Trust02:00 Human Imperfections and Trust Issues04:17 The Fragility of Trust in Relationships06:55 Rebuilding Trust Step by Step11:34 Common Trust Struggles and Solutions17:41 Dealing with Egregious Betrayals26:31 The Importance of Emotional Safety33:36 Understanding the Illusion of Fear34:19 Navigating Betrayal and Emotional Pain38:34 Rebuilding Trust: The First Steps43:07 The Importance of Self-Validation47:08 Effective Communication and Active Listening52:45 Daily Rituals for ReassuranceResources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.

Send us a Text Message.Are you feeling the emotional gap growing between you and your partner, afraid that seeking help might only leave you more disconnected and frustrated? It's daunting when past attempts at counseling have left you feeling even more alone, and you wonder if there's any hope left for your relationship. The fear of another ineffective session can be paralyzing, leaving you stuck in a cycle of doubt and uncertainty.Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads. We're here to guide you through the rough patches, offering tools and insights to help you rebuild a genuine, lasting bond.In today's episode, we tackle a vital question: How can you trust us with your heart and relationship? How do we differ from traditional counseling and therapies? We understand the hesitation and fear of feeling blamed or making no progress. However, our approach focuses on mutual growth, understanding, and teaching practical skills to help you create the relationship you desire.Curious to learn more? We'll dive into the unique benefits of relationship mentoring and how it can transform your connection. Did you know that the average couple waits over six years before seeking help for their relationship issues? Imagine waiting that long to address a physical ailment—it's no wonder couples often reach out in crisis mode. We'll discuss why waiting can be so damaging and how our forward-focused approach can help you avoid that.Join us as we uncover how our methods can offer you real-time support, practical skills, and a hopeful path forward. Tune in to discover how you can transform your relationship and take the first steps toward a brighter future together. Don't wait—start your journey with us today.Timestamps:03:16 The Problem with Traditional Counseling04:49 Focusing on Forward Momentum15:19 The Importance of Real-Time Mentoring21:50 Implementing Skills in Your Relationship24:50 Over-Talking in Sessions25:16 Dating Pool Dilemmas25:52 Understanding vs. Application27:47 The Currency of Commitment29:44 Addressing Issues Early30:57 The Importance of Behavioral Skills33:09 Therapy Session Timing35:22 Specialized Relational Dynamics36:59 Our Unique Approach41:04 Encouragement and ResourcesResources Mentioned:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Work with Me: To find all the ways you can work with us, go here.

Send us a Text Message.In this heartfelt episode, we're diving into a question that's both frustrating and isolating: "What do you do if your partner doesn't want to work on your relationship?" If you're feeling stuck, hopeless, and unsure of what to do next, you're not alone.Join us as we unpack why your partner might be reluctant to work on your relationship. Is it really about a lack of love or commitment, or is there something deeper going on that they might not even understand?Get ready for some eye-opening insights and practical advice on how to navigate these tough conversations. We'll help you see the hidden fears driving your partner's actions and show you how understanding these can transform your relationship. Learn strategies to bridge the emotional gaps and approach these talks with compassion and clarity.Why is your partner dragging their feet? How can you handle this without feeling like you're stuck forever? Whether you're a first-time listener or need a refresher, this episode offers a fresh perspective and steps you can take right now to move forward.Stay curious and hopeful. Sometimes, the answers we need come from the questions we dare to ask. Buckle up and join us on this journey to deeper understanding and a stronger, more connected relationship.Don't miss this enlightening discussion. Tune in now to Love Shack Live!Timestamps:02:11 Common Misconceptions and Emotional Drivers04:12 Personal Anecdotes and Emotional Barriers08:13 The Role of Vulnerability and Courage15:52 Practical Solutions and Encouragement27:47 The Importance of Vulnerability28:38 Addressing Concerns About Getting Help30:25 Creating a Vision for the Relationship31:46 Taking the First Steps Alone32:41 The Catalyst for Change35:28 The Power of One Partner's Effort38:46 Invitation to the Better Love Club40:04 Recap and Final ThoughtsEpisode Resources:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.

Send us a Text Message.Are you feeling stuck in your relationship, unsure whether to stay or go? The constant conflict and emotional distance can be overwhelming. Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast designed for those at a relationship crossroads, facing daily struggles but eager to rebuild a lasting, genuine bond.I'm Stacey Bartley, and alongside my cohost and lover, Tom, and our daughter, Brooke, we tackle the tough issues that many couples face. In today's episode, we explore Navigating the Land of Maybe—a topic that resonates deeply with anyone who's felt trapped in uncertainty.If you've ever questioned the future of your relationship, this episode is for you. We dive into how to manage the emotional turmoil and provide you with practical tips to break free from toxic cycles. Learn how to navigate the difficult terrain of indecision and find clarity and hope for your relationship.Through our heartfelt discussions and expert insights, we'll address the pain points that keep you in limbo. We'll share stories of couples who have faced similar challenges and emerged stronger, offering you hope and tangible strategies to apply in your own life. Whether you're dealing with constant fights, emotional distance, or simply feeling stuck, this episode will provide you with the tools to move forward.We'll answer the crucial question: How do you navigate this impossible land of maybe? You'll discover useful tips on breaking free from this exhausting cycle and moving towards a thriving relationship. This is especially relevant for those currently dealing with space in their relationship, offering timely and essential guidance.Stay with us as we delve into the actionable strategies and insights that can transform your relationship struggles into breakthroughs. Let's explore the tough questions together and equip you with the tools to find hope and clarity. Join us inside the Love Shack, where heartfelt conversations and expert advice help you build the relationship you truly desire.Tune in, and let's journey together towards a more connected, fulfilling relationship.Timestamps: 04:41 The Emotional Toll of Uncertainty06:33 Client Story: Janet and Rich09:26 The Role of Manipulation in Relationships16:02 The Importance of Behavioral Change20:30 Recognizing the Land of Maybe24:59 Seeking Help and Support29:03 Navigating Relationship Guilt and Shame29:35 Physical Attraction and Emotional Disconnect29:47 The Impact of Guilt on Relationship Dynamics31:13 Effective Communication Strategies31:58 Personal Experience: A Real-Life Example33:14 The Importance of Vulnerability34:32 Feeling Conflicted is Normal36:43 Slowing Down to Understand38:31 Switching Things Up39:55 The Catalyst for Change45:06 The Power of Humor in Relationships51:34 Concluding Thoughts and ResourcesEpisode Resources:Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.

Send us a Text Message.Have you ever felt deeply misunderstood by the person you love the most? It's as if you're both living in separate worlds, struggling to connect, and watching the distance between you grow each day. The once effortless conversations have become confusing, leaving you feeling isolated and frustrated.If you're experiencing daily conflicts and a widening emotional gap, you're not alone. Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for those at a relationship crossroads, seeking to rebuild a bond that feels genuine and lasting. I'm Staci Bartley, your guide through these turbulent waters, alongside my co-host and lover, Tom, and our daughter, Brooke. Together, we'll help you navigate the complexities of love, especially when it feels like you're on different planets.Today, we introduce the foundational concept I teach all my private clients—the Movie Framework. This episode will provide clear answers to common yet perplexing questions like: Why does it feel like my partner just doesn't understand me? Why can't they relate to what I'm saying? Why do they dismiss my feelings and needs, even when I've sincerely asked?Get ready to unpack these questions and more. We'll explore the challenges and insights this framework offers and reveal practical steps to reignite your connection. If you're curious about bridging the gap and truly understanding your partner's world, stay tuned. We'll embark on this journey together and discover the magic of the Movie Framework in relationships.Imagine this: each of us has an internal movie playing 24/7, shaping our perceptions and reactions, and profoundly influencing our relationships. By understanding these personal movies, you can bring yourself closer to your partner. Join us as we delve into this transformative concept and learn how to create lasting love.Timestamps:01:57 Understanding Personal Movies05:00 Sharing Perspectives: Real-Life Examples08:08 The Impact of Personal Narratives16:07 Navigating Conflicts and Misunderstandings29:09 Building Connections Through Shared Narratives31:00 Understanding Connection Threads32:54 The Challenge of Long-Term Relationships34:02 The Impact of Unspoken Issues37:51 Navigating Personal Narratives41:17 The Coffee Cup Story: Different Movies45:28 The Importance of Sharing Perspectives48:33 Practical Tips for Better Communication56:56 Follow the Fun: Conversation Cards01:00:14 Final Thoughts and ResourcesEpisode Resources: Separation Support Sessions: Receive immediate support and connect with others facing similar challenges at loveinlimbo.com.Better Love Club: Gain access to unlimited resources, engaging workshops, and a supportive community to enhance your relationship skills. Join the club today.Relationship Conversation Cards: Enhance your communication and deepen your connection with our Relationship Conversation Cards. stacibartley.com/cards