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Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author and activist. As a cultural critic, she writes and speaks frequently about gender norms, politics, and technology and their relationship to violence, risk, and social justice. She is the former Executive Director of The Representation Project and Director and co-founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project, both dedicated to protecting and expanding women's civic and political participation. Her first book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and NPR and has been translated into multiple languages. Her most recent book, The Resilience Myth, has just been released.   Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producer:s Catrina Aglubat and Emily Wang

When you think about resilience, what comes to mind?Our culture loves narratives about triumphing over hardship. And overcoming pain, heartbreak, and even abuse can make us stronger.However, uplifting “overcoming” too often comes at the expense of actually examining and addressing the lack of care, protection, and support people had to navigate on their path to resilience. We valorize grit and perseverance at the cost of people's health and wellbeing, encouraging them to just keep pushing past the point of burnout.My guest today pulls back the curtain on these narratives of overcoming adversity and building resilience to find that so much of the adversity people face is rooted in how we fail to care for ourselves and each other in our society. Real resilience, she says, isn't about your own personal toughness; it's about how we relate to and support each other.Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author and activist. She writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. She is the author of The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth after Trauma and Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, which was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and NPR. She has contributed to several anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World. Soraya is also a co-producer of a WMC #NameItChangeIt PSA highlighting the effects of online harassment on women in politics in America.Listen to the full episode to hear:How Soraya made the connection between our toxic ideology of resilience and how we devalue community support and careHow the idea of “bouncing back” can actually impede change, both personal and socialHow resilience narratives flatten, decontextualize, and depoliticize trauma and recovery Why we need to shift our concept of resilience from individual to communal, cultural, and relationalHow “soldiering on” can perpetuate a lack of options within the systemThe false binaries we have to confront to dismantle the resilience of the status quoHow telling someone they are or need to be resilient shuts down opportunities for real care and supportLearn more about Soraya Chemaly:WebsiteInstagram: @sorayachemalyThe Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma​​Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's AngerBelieve Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the WorldFree Speech in the Digital AgeLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:EP 72: Identifying and Addressing the Burdens of Individualism with Deran Young & Dick SchwartzEP 113:  Curiosity as a Bridge: Uncovering Fears and Building Connections with Scott ShigeokaSeek: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the WorldNicked, M. T. AndersonThe Light Eaters: How the Unseen World of Plant Intelligence Offers a New Understanding of Life on Earth, Zoë SchlangerKneecapChallengersSuccession The White Lotus

Resilience has become a buzzword in today's culture, thrown around by influencers, coaches, and even bootcamp instructors, all insisting we need to “push through” no matter the cost. But is resilience always the healthiest path forward? Does mental toughness, positivity, and grit serve us in the ways we think—or is there more nuance to uncover? In this episode, Nicole connects with Soraya Chemaly, activist and author of The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth after Trauma. Together, they challenge conventional ideas about resilience and explore a new way of thinking—one that shifts from individual grit to collective care and community connection. Soraya's previous book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, was widely acclaimed and named one of the Best Books of 2018 by the Washington Post, NPR, and Psychology Today. This conversation offers insight into what really matters: kindness, compassion, belonging, and care—for ourselves and each other. It's time to rethink resilience as more than just strength in isolation and embrace what it looks like to thrive, together. Connect With Our Guest: Soraya Chemaly Website: https://www.sorayachemaly.com/  Book: https://www.sorayachemaly.com/books  Simon & Schuster: https://www.simonandschuster.com/  Related Podcast Episodes: How to Ask for Help with Dr. Cynthia Bentzen-Mercer Stress Less and Fear(Less) with Rebecca Heiss Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

What comes to your mind when you picture someone who's resilient?  Usually, we hear that it's one person who's faced a setback, and they remain hopeful and willing to work through the challenges to return to some sort of life they had before. Maybe you've heard the phrase “pick themselves up by their bootstraps” to describe this type of person. We know we have. But that doesn't always work, as we continually say.  We have a guest today who's going to help us critically examine that image we have - and help us understand what we're missing.  She'll tell us we need to think critically about when it comes to glorifying resilience, especially if we're doing it for individual gain or to showcase individual strength, without realizing that the opposite of resilience is loneliness – we have to remember the communal and community contribution to the ability to be resilient. We're at a time in history where it feels - no matter your perspective - like the world is burning down around us. We want to trust that we will still be standing. To do it, we need to know when to be optimistic and when to be strategically pessimistic, not beat ourselves up when we're coming up against moral injury, embrace certain ways of thinking - cognitive flexibility, for those who want the big words - and hold onto hope for the collective, above all.   What to listen for: The inaccurate understanding Americans have of resilience – and how it needs to shift from an individual to a collective focus: the opposite of resilience is loneliness.  The mind-blowing study that shows us social status matter – and reexamining preconceptions and research in positive psychology, male-focused hardiness, and more. Rethinking popular portrayals of the upcoming generation – that, maybe, “younger people aren't distressed because they lack the right mindset or don't understand what is happening around them. They are distressed because the world is distressing, and adults have failed them.”  How do we find hope when it feels like the world is burning around us? Have openness to difference, openness to change, and acceptance of limits.  About Soraya:  Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author and activist. As a cultural critic, she writes and speaks frequently about gender norms, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, politics, and technology. The former Executive Director of The Representation Project and Director and co-founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation. Soraya is also the author of The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth after Trauma, a thought-provoking exploration that challenges our most dearly held, common myths of resilience and urges us to shift our perspective from prioritizing individualized traits and skills to uplifting collective care and open-ended connections with our communities. Her first book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and NPR and has been translated into multiple languages. She is a contributor to several anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World.  Soraya is also a co-producer of a WMC #NameItChangeIt PSA highlighting the effects of online harassment on women in politics in America.  Her work is featured widely in media, documentaries, books, and academic research. As an activist, Ms. Chemaly also spearheaded several successful global campaigns challenging corporations to address online hate and harassment, restrictive content moderation and censorship, and institutional biases that undermine equity and negatively affect free speech. Prior to 2010, Ms. Chemaly spent more than fifteen years as an executive and consultant in the media and data technology industries.  

“This is the richness of the traditional wife explosion, right? There's this simple idea that you get to choose. Now you're choosing to emulate a situation that's a fiction in that those women didn't choose anything. They had to dress like that. They had to live like that. They had to be nice to the men like that, because they had no bank accounts. They had no cars. They had no licenses. They had no income. They had no security. So, don't equate these two things because you're just kind of living a dignified version of something that was pretty egregiously harmful, you know. And it's the difference, I think, in knowing that you have an option.” So says Soraya Chemaly, an award-winning writer, journalist and activist whose work has been at the center of mine. Her now-classic, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger lit me on fire—not only for the deftness of her arguments but also because she is a meticulous researcher. What she gave air to in the pages of that book blew me away. She figures prominently in the endnotes of On Our Best Behavior. Her new book, The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma, follows a similar path. Soraya takes something we've been served as an ideal—develop resilience—and flips it on its head, both widening and undermining this definition. She challenges our cultural myths about this concept and urges us all to shift and expand our perspective on the trait, moving from prioritizing the role of the individual to overcome and conquer to focusing on what's really at work, which is collective care and connections with our communities. As she proves in these pages, resilience is always relational.  MORE FROM SORAYA CHEMALY: The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger Follow Soraya on Instagram Soraya's Website To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Jen Barnes dives into the often-overlooked topic of anger in women, highlighting how society has conditioned women to suppress their anger, leading to a range of negative consequences. Challenging listeners to recognize and validate their anger, viewing it as a natural emotion that signals the need for change. Drawing on examples from the workplace, healthcare, and societal norms, she emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and expressing anger assertively, offering practical tips for listeners to harness their anger as a catalyst for personal and societal transformation.   In today's episode, Jen mentioned three books.  Here are the titles and authors for your reference:   Rage Becomes Her:  The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya Lisa Catherine Chemaly   Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leaves Women Dismissed, Misdiagnosed, and Sick by Maya Dusenbery   Queen Bees and Wannabes:  Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of the Girl World by Rosalind Wiseman   If you're like most ADHD women entrepreneurs then you're likely jumping from task to task, not really sure where or even how to actually focus. And each task you start just opens the door to more tasks you have to do so you keep shifting your attention. This is just what our ADHD brains do. AND the good news is, there's a solution. I've developed my 5-Step Master Task Plan to optimize productive while honoring our ADHD brains. I've been using this myself for years and my clients love it! If you're ready to embrace your ADHD and start working with it instead of against it, follow this link to grab yours now!  https://jenbarnes.org/task-master-plan/  If you're not already, be sure to follow The Self-Loved Woman Way podcast and share! AND, follow me on social media! Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes TikTok: @i_am_jen_barnes   DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.   If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.  

In this, our last episode of Season One, the team at Dear Beth welcomes acclaimed, award-winning author and activist Soraya Chemaly. Chemaly's book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger poses a simple, yet provocative question: Why do we not appreciate women's anger as a catalyst for social change? In their conversation with Chemaly, Brea and Leah unpack why her book is so influential - particularly for those working in male-dominated fields such as law. They also explore the reasons why women's anger has long been suppressed and be-littled, while the anger of men is allowed more expression and given more validity. Chemaly encourages listeners to consider how the emotion of anger can be viewed in a different light: as an emotion that can be channeled for personal growth and a powerful tool to fight against injustice.  In the last half of the episode, Brea, Beth, Leah and Jen sit down to reflect on their favorite moments from the past season and the power of storytelling which they captured in their own book: Creating a Seat at the Table: Reflections From Women in Law. Sharing their perspectives on the book and what they learned about the experience of women in law is Professor of Law Dwight Newman and Law Student Brock Melnyk both of the University of Saskatchewan Law School. And we also hear once again from entertainment lawyer and Canadian musician Safwan Javed who shares his perspective on allyship and how to use one's privilege for good.    GUEST BIO: Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author and activist. She writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. The former Executive Director of The Representation Project and Director and co-founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation. Soraya is also the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, which was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and NPR and has been translated into multiple languages. She is a contributor to several anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World.  Soraya is also a co-producer of a WMC #NameItChangeIt PSA highlighting the effects of online harassment on women in politics in America.  Her work is featured widely in media, documentaries, books, and academic research. As an activist, Ms. Chemaly has spearheaded several successful global campaigns challenging corporations to address online hate and harassment, restrictive content moderation and censorship, and institutional biases that undermine equity and negatively affect free speech. Prior to 2010, Ms. Chemaly spent more than fifteen years as a market development executive and consultant in the media and data technology industries. Her upcoming book, The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Strength, Grit, and Growth After Trauma, will be released May 2024. Photo Credit: Elizabeth Dranitzke Additional Reading:  CHEMALY, S. (2024). Rage becomes her. SIMON & SCHUSTER LTD.  Chemaly, S. (May 2024). Resilience myth: New thinking on grit, strength, and growth after trauma. Atria Books.  Bilson, B., Howie, L., & Lowenberger, B. (2023). Creating a seat at The table: Reflections From Women in Law. University of Regina Press.  Co-Editor Bios:  Beth Bilson, KC, PhD has enjoyed a career of teaching, writing, deaning, arbitrating, and community engagement that began at the University of Saskatchewan in 1979, and she has never run out of interesting things to do. Leah Howie, BEng, BSc, LLB, LLM lives in beautiful Saskatoon with her husband, two daughters, two dogs, and two cats. She loves reading, connecting people, travelling, and spending time outside on the prairies, in the mountains, by the river, and in the boreal forest. She enjoys thinking about ways to improve the law in her work in the area of law reform, and teaching and coaching law students as a sessional lecturer for the College of Law. Brea Lowenberger, BA, JD, LLM is a lifelong learner and collaborator who hopes to leave the individuals and communities she interacts with a bit better than she found them. She is passionate about teaching and implementing design strategies that improve access to justice for Saskatchewan residents through her roles as Access to Justice coordinator, director of CREATE Justice, and sessional lecturer for the College of Law. When she isn't working, she enjoys adventures with family and friends, travelling, being active, nature, reading, and creating music and art.  

Ever since Avery became the host of Girlboss Radio, she's had one dream guest at the top of her wishlist. And that person is Soraya Chemaly. Soraya is an award-winning writer and activist, best known for her 2018 book Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger. Avery refers to it "The Bible" and has recommended it (and even gifted it) to hundreds of people. In this episode, Avery and Soraya talk about why, as women, we're conditioned to minimize our anger (and replace it with words like “tired” or “stressed”), and how we can all harness the power of rage for the greater good. Get your FREE sample pack of LMNT electrolyte drink mix with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/GIRLBOSS. New episodes of Girlboss Radio drop every Tuesday. Never miss an episode by subscribing here: girlboss.com/pages/girlboss-radio-subscribe. Girlboss' very first course, Spark Your Career Renaissance, will help you unlock your differentiator to go from stuck to success. Learn more and enroll at course.girlboss.com/courses/spark-your-career-renaissance. Sign up for Girlboss Daily, our must-read morning newsletter, at girlboss.com/newsletter. You'll get A+ career advice, dream job postings, free coffee every Friday and a few emojis (because we're fun like that), delivered right to your inbox. Looking for your next dream employee? Post your open role on our Girlboss Job Board at jobs.girlboss.com.

What is your relationship with your anger? How much of your stress and exhaustion is fueled by repressed anger and rage? And how do you respond when those around you express anger?Our experiences early in life, experiences at our places of work and education, and our conditioning from culture all play significant roles in how we view and respond to anger and rage within and around us. And for women–especially Black and brown women–we learn our anger and rage come off as unbecoming and distancing, which can be the death of a promotion, a deal, or financial advancement.Many experience firsthand the negative impact of expressing our anger, which can bring about a dangerous backlash that can impact not only our well-being but also our safety. But when we shift the focus from seeing anger solely as dangerous or something to be feared and instead befriend and learn from it, so much changes in how we lead and do life.Today's guest wrote a beautifully written and well-cited book documenting the impact of suppressed rage in women on themselves and those around them. Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author and activist. She writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. She is the former Executive Director of The Representation Project and Director and Co-Founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project, and also the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, which was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and NPR.  Listen to the full episode to hear:How suppressing anger harms more than just the individualHow rage is justified and tolerated differently for men and womenHow niceness and a focus on the feelings of others is socialized into girls from an early ageThe anger that hides underneath stress, disappointment, and other ways women minimize their angerThe long-term impacts and risks of suppressed anger on physical and mental healthLearn more about Soraya Chemaly:WebsiteInstagram: @sorayachemaly​​Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's AngerLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:Braving the Wilderness, Brené BrownReproduction, Louisa HallDo You Know Me By Heart, Cameron AveryJames Blake - Say What You WillImogen Heap - Hide And Seek

Soraya Chemaly who is an award-winning author, media critic, and activist who writes and speaks frequently about women's rights, gender, inclusivity, violence, and free speech. The former Executive Director of The Representation Project and Director and co-founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation. Her work appears in The Atlantic, TIME magazine, Rolling Stone, The Washington Post and various other outlets, and her activism has been featured widely in media, documentaries, books, and academic research. Soraya is also the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger and a contributor to several anthologies, including Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World. Her efforts have been recognized by the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication, the Women's Institute for Freedom of the Press's Women, and the Newhouse School for Public Communication. She was recently awarded a Wikipedia Distinguished Service Award and Soraya currently serves on the national board of the Women's Media Center and Equimundo and is a former or current board and advisory member of Emerge America, Women, Action and The Media, the Center for Democracy and Technology, FORCE: Upsetting Rape Culture, and VIDA.   Visit Soraya Chemaly's Website: www.SorayaChemaly.com Book - Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger Follow Soraya on: Instagram  __________________________________ Subscribe to Dr. Lotte's Newsletter Visit Dr. Lotte's Website Stay Connected on Social Media, follow Dr. Lotte on Instagram & Facebook    

Soraya Chemaly is the feminist voice of our time. Her extraordinary capacity to see the whole picture with unrivalled clarity serves as an inspiration to us all. Soraya's authenticity and bravery are beacons of light in a turbulent global situation, and her book Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, is our bible at WAM HQ.  This conversation was recorded on 6th October 2023 and covers a range of topics from how men react to women's anger and the power that anger has to drive change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join my guest, Claire Thompson and me, as we explore the shadow of authority, how that plays into our integrity, small bits about what it means to move with integrity, and over course RAGE! The episode begins with a dive into working for others and beginning to step into our power by bringing awareness to formerly hidden patterns of behavior and how that may be getting in the way of our ability to lead. This then guides us into a juicy conversation on integrity and leads into Rage and the navigation of root emotions. Being a Rage Ritual Practitioner, amongst other amazing offerings, Claire discusses the potency of integrating a rage practice and sheds light on a few ways that might be integrated into our daily lives. Please excuse any dog interferences, even puppies need to rage sometimes. Please subscribe, review, and best of all... SHARE! I hope you enjoy and I'll see you next time.  To connect with Chloe Lionheart:Email: chloe@downwithmydemons.comJoin Claire at her next in-person Rage Ritual Event:https://app.oneboulder.one/event/EF3CHTZ9UG4WOResources:Rage Rituals:https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/rage-rituals-and-how-they-can-heal-us-6a1455bf2014“Love and Rage: the path of liberation through anger” by Lama Rod Owens https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-and-rage-the-path-of-liberation-through-anger-lama-rod-owens/9563937?ean=9781623174095"The Mountain is You" by Brianna Wiesthttps://shopcatalog.com/product/the-mountain-is-you/"Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger" by Soraya Chemalyhttps://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Rage-Becomes-Her/Soraya-Chemaly/9781501189562 "The Power of Women's Anger" a Ted Talk by Soraya Chemalyhttps://www.ted.com/talks/soraya_chemaly_the_power_of_women_s_anger?language=en"The Dreaded Drama Triangle" a Ted Talk by Lucy Barneshttps://www.ted.com/talks/lucy_barnes_the_dreaded_drama_triangle?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshareExtra:Queen of Hearts Compilationhttps://youtu.be/CtCQHCOls2E?si=3nQZ5W2Osznh04BsSupport the show

Best-selling Author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, Soraya Chemaly, joins the podcast to discuss anger, rage and how a new understanding of anger and rage can serve us in our leadership, our life and our impact.In this episode, we explore anger competence and understanding how anger and rage impact us personally and collectively.  And how to use it instead of defaulting back to our assumption that rage and anger are emotions to be avoided, stamped out or punished. Visit Soraya's website.Buy Soraya's book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's AngerCheck out all things Dia Bondi here.

Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author, activist and former Executive Director of the Representation Project and Director and Co-Founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project. She has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation.  She is the author Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger and the recipient of the 2022 Passionistas Persist Trailblazer Award. Learn nore about Soraya Chemaly. Learn more about The Passionistas Project. FULL TRANSCRIPT:  Passionistas: Hi, we're sisters Amy and Nancy Harrington. We founded the Passionistas Project to tell the stories of women who are following their passions and fighting for equality for all. The more we spoke with women for our podcast, subscription box and the annual Power of Passionistas summit, the more we saw a common trait in all of them. They are unstoppable. Whether they choose to use their voices to start a women-owned brand or fight for the rights of the marginalized, we found that all Passionistas are resilient, compassionate and persistent. Each year, we honor women who embody these qualities by presenting the Passionista Persist Awards. This episode of the podcast is an interview with one of the 2022 recipients. Our next award this evening is the Passionista Persist Trailblazer Award. The definition of Trailblazer is a pioneer, an innovator, a person who makes a new track through wild. Tonight's recipient is an activist and author who is pushing boundaries for women daily in this wild country we live in. The award is being presented by Dr. Melissa Bird, a feminist, author, healer and coach. Melissa's purpose in this world is to teach women how to step into their truth and quit playing small. Melissa: I am so pleased to be presenting the 2022 Passionist Persist Trailblazer Award to my amazing, inspiring friend Soraya Chemaly. Soraya is an award-winning author, activist and is the former Executive Director of the Representation Project and Director and Co-Founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project. And she has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation. One of the things I love and adore about Soraya is that she is the author of one of my most favorite books, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger. And I do not think it is any coincidence that on this day of all days, on this year of all years, I get the privilege and the honor of presenting Soraya with this incredible Trailblazer Award. So, Soraya, thank you so much for joining me today to receive this amazing, beautiful, awesome, well-deserved award because you are certainly blazing many trails in my life and the lives of so many of us. Soraya: Thank you so much, Missy and thank you to, The Passionistas Project. I am really, genuinely so honored. It has been a difficult year. It's been a difficult decade, actually, and honestly, it's just nice to know that organizations like yours are thinking about the work that people are doing, that requires this kind of persistence, which doesn't necessarily mean the same thing as hope. But really and truly, I'm genuinely very, very honored and delighted to be able to have this chance to have a conversation with you again and want to just say thank you very much. Melissa: Oh, you are so welcome. God works in very fascinating ways and the fact that you and I are here together. After the Supreme Court has released so many devastating decisions just this week, like in the last literally six days. Yes, I think it is. Um, I think it is awesome actually, that you and I are together at this moment talking about trailblazing, right? And, and about how are we moving forward. Um, as part of the Passionistas Project, as part of the work, um, that Amy and Nancy have brought together and culminated so that so many people can have a platform for change and a platform for blazing trails. And I think that, you know, you and I in our professional work, Soraya, we work with so many organizations and so many people who are trying. The thing that I love about the Passionistas Project is they are doing in such an authentically beautiful way. And so the first thing I really want to talk with you about today is about the Power of the Passionista and this mission of bringing all these women together from literally all over the world to talk about making change with diversity, equity and inclusion. Truly doing it this time. Like the lineup just blows my mind every time I think about it. So what does the Power of Passionista mean to you? Soraya: When I first heard Passionista, my response was a, a little bit viscerally to think, oh, hold on. That's a word that I personally have heard that you have heard that many of us have heard. That's used dismissively. You're so passionate about that project you work on. Right. As though some of the issues that we are fighting against. Um, our pet projects that we do in our spare time because it makes us feel happy, you know, and so I actually had that initial response, but what I really came to understand and think about was the fact that there's no reason to reject the word passionate or the idea of what it implies and clearly means in this context. I mean, these are women from all over the world who are dedicating their lives to making change often in situations of. Grave, danger of risk, um, of political, uh, violence. Uh, increasingly we know this is the case. Increasingly, we know that the people at the forefront of so many movements, environmental movements, climate change, indigenous rights, uh, apportion, reproductive rights, racial justice, it's over and over and over. Women, black women, queer women, trans women, women who are just pushed farther and farther and farther into the margins. And so I think it's really important to understand what it means. Honestly, the word kind of to me lies at the nexus of the personal and political that some people have the luxury to think are. Right? We know that that's a decades old expression from the feminist world, that the personal is political. But a lot of people really still benefit from separating those two things. And, and, you know, we gain nothing by pretending that they're separated. Um, and I actually think the word Passionista, um, makes people think about that if they care to. Melissa: I think we have to have passion to keep moving on. If we remain passionate about the things that deeply impact our lives and our world and the world of other people, particularly all of the women you just mentioned, we start talking about disabled women, women who are engaging in decolonizing work. We start talking about rebellious women, women who are trying to get educated and disrupting the education system. When we think about people being the ones who are potentially gonna get us through. Then we have to understand passion. Because without passion, the drive in hopeless moments becomes diminished. And so what are you the most passionate about? Soraya: When the Dobbs decision came down, I think like a lot of people, I burst out crying. And the thing is that you've been doing this work, I've been doing this work for, oh, it feels like decades, right? Yeah. Like literally, there was no surprise in this at all. There was just profound loss and disappointment and sadness and rage. That's how I felt, you know? And it was just so eviscerating actually, because I think. If you have been on this side of this fight, seriously, you understand what just happened, what we just lost, what it represents. And that's not to diminish other losses at all, but it's such a turning point to have the right taken away. But it is a really critical point and a great unraveling. Yes and yes. Yes, yes. I'm so glad you called it a great unraveling because I think that is profoundly important for people to understand as we're thinking about, I mean, trailblazing the world as we know it will fall apart. And we're seeing it in little tiny anecdotes. Mm-hmm. you know, doctors who have a woman come into their emergency room at 11:30 PM who with an ectopic pregnancy, that's about to blow, but they've gotta get on the phone with the attorney. Yeah. And make sure they can do the procedure. Cuz her life isn't totally at risk yet, but it will be soon. Right. I, I'm just like, maybe now you understand that the single what the single issues. Not issue. It was always oversimplified into this idea of the act of abortion. And that is never what any of us was talking about, you know? And so I think the thing you were saying, what am I most passionate about? And I was kind of winnowed down into this nub of real despair. You know, just that feeling that you get, which is hopelessness. But I will admit that that was swamp. Pretty quickly by my rage. Yeah. And I think by many people who, many people had this experience of feeling this justifiable rage, but in fact, you can't let that rage hurt you. This is the point, right? If the, if the rage you feel is causing you dangerous stress or causing you to hurt yourself in other ways or. To, um, destroy relationships that are important, that that's not a functioning tool. And, and so I'm quite passionate in this moment about acknowledging anger, acknowledging the rage of the moment, and also appreciating that while it's not the conventional, socially acceptable, um, method of displaying. Anger is literally one of the most hopeful emotions because if you can maintain your anger, which is different from resentment, right? Like I feel resentment when I look back at people's decades of work that feels dismissed and lost, I'm looking back, right? That's different from a rage, which is a feeling that things can and must change. Because you don't feel rage. If you feel really genuinely hopeless. What you feel is sadness and despair and depression, and that's paralyzing. And it's okay if people feel that way because in fact, this is a sad, depressing, paralyzing moment. But I would just say that I also believe that, again, it's not, not to say embrace a rage and an anger that are destructive. It's not at all what I mean, but acknowledge that the rage and the anger are justifiable and that they need expression and that no matter what, they are hopeful. They are fundamentally hopeful. We think that in order to make change, we have to, we have to set aside anger and. And yes, what I love to refer to as Righteous Fury. Mm-hmm.  in order to disrupt systems and make a difference. And I remember so many times when I was lobbying at the Capitol in Utah for a Planned Parenthood, I would just be furious. I can't play poker, I can't keep any emotion off my damn face. And I would be so livid and then I would like take this breath and go, what has to be done? How can I communicate what is necessary to these people to help things move forward? Because I had to focus on, not me, but the thousands and thousands of people that are gonna be impacted by that. Those pieces of legislation, either that I was trying to push forward or that other people were trying to push forward. And as soon as I channeled that rage and moved it into, everything changed as long as I wasn't screaming and yelling and huffing at, at directly at human beings and being abusive and confrontational, I still got rage. I still had all the rage. Mm-hmm.  And I channeled it. Melissa: And I'm curious, when you talk about rage, what are the things that you really wanna help people who are part of this Passionistas summit understand. Soraya: Taking our rage and using it to blaze wherever we're going. There are a few things that really still strike me. Um, it's been three years since the book was published and, um, you know, it, it's one of these books I think that has a very long tale because in fact there is an evergreen quality to these ideas. Mm-hmm, you know, and, and we wanna underst. Emotionality and we in particular, I think wanna understand the role it plays in our cognition because if you are a woman, or if I'm identifying, you know, how quickly and easily people dismiss you, if you express anger. Which is why so many of us try not to show anger, feel anger, display anger. We've grown up being punished for it or, um, mocked for it. You know, that's the number one worry women have. It's not that someone's gonna be violent, it is that they will be mocked for expressing anger, which is an expression of need or an assertion of will. Right. And we're, we're, we're not supposed to have either of those, those things. Mm-hmm. , but I, I think. , there are a few things. One is to be a trailblazer and to use your passionate feelings and beliefs. Doesn't require that you take on the whole world all at once or have an institution or a structure. You know, the whole fact of trailblazing is that you find a new way. You find a way that makes sense to you, and then , most times it also makes sense to other people, but they just either didn't do it or didn't think of it or didn't have the time, but are so appreciative of the fact that you might do it. And so for some people that might be organizing a local choir to resist peacefully. In a certain way, right. To other people it may be writing legislation to other people. It may be mobilizing, um, transportation, who knows what it is, right? But I think it's really important to not feel paralyzed by the idea that there's a way to trail blades. The point is it's risky. Yes. You, you, you have to take the. People may call you stupid or you know, any number of terrible, terrible names, which 100% will happen. Okay. How you know you're on the trail. That's how you know you're on the trail. So you really have to, you have to really fundamentally be okay with people not liking you. That's the other lesson that really strikes me about being passionate and being angry as part of. We are so, so expected and socialized to be likable and to put others first, and not make other people uncomfortable. Trailblazing always makes people uncomfortable. It's okay. We need more people to be very profoundly uncomfortable. I'm thinking about my own moments where friends have come to me, or clients have come to me, or organizations have come to me and said, you know, I have this. I really wanna do it, and I don't think I should because if I do A, B or C is gonna happen, people won't like me. I'll lose my family, I'll lose my friends, which is what stops us from doing our core, what we are here to do. Right? Right. It stops us from living at our purpose. Oftentimes what I hear from people is that I must be really unique for writing the, the very first bill I ever wrote on my dining room table when I was getting my master's degree. Thinking about what propels you and the people that you know, all these women who are here as part of the summit, all these people that are connecting with all of us who are involved as either award recipients or speakers. What do you want people to know? You know, there's gonna be a lot of noise, there's gonna be a lot of us versus them. There's gonna be a lot of polarization cuz there's nothing. This country more loves more than polarizing each other. Melissa: What do you think people really need to hear about that polarization so they don't get distracted by all that noise? Soraya: Well, it's so hard, you know, because in fact the stage at which we're in the polarization is intimate, right? We're not talking about someone who lives in another state who feels differently. We may be talking as women about the person who's sleeping next to us in bed. That is a very difficult situation that millions and millions and millions of people find themselves in. The polarization is very gendered and very raced. The political polarization. Mm-hmm. But at the same time, we all know there are a lot of liberal progressive men and a lot of extremely conservative women. Yes. So, you know, I don't wanna suggest that it's straight down the line that fathers and daughters or, you know, so I, I think it's important to acknowledge. The intimacy of the issues that we're talking about and it demands of us different tactics and techniques. It demands, honestly, and this is what, this is why I gravitated towards anger as a way of shedding light on some of these issues of inequal. The inequalities are deeply intimate, right? And so the thing about anger in an intimate setting, whether it's a family setting, a religious community, which is almost always patriarchal, right? Our main religious faiths are all mainstream patriarchal, um, regardless of the community you're in. The thing about disdain, anger is that it, it erases the, even the idea of reciprocity, right? So if you're angry at people, you know, and you don't tell them who exactly are you protecting or hurting. Maybe you're protecting yourself because it's too big a risk to think, I love these people. I have dedicated my life to them. I've taken care of them, or I do it every day. But what if they don't return that care? Right? What if I say I'm very angry? This is very important to me, I need you to support me. And what they do is get angry at me for the way I express myself or laugh at me and diminish my concerns. Those are legitimate concerns because they happen every day. And so I just think we need to acknowledge the risk because in fact, the hard part about thinking about reciprocity is acknowledging. There are power. There's power at play, social power at play in our institutions at every level. So yes, in the government, but in our schools and in our places of worship and at our dining room tables, I always say, if you can't practice a hard conversation at home among the people that in that you trust and who in theory love you and support you, how are you supposed to do outside. I think that's really the thing that keeps people from engaging. Melissa: The topic of this conference is diversity, equity and inclusion, right? And I think that right there, Soraya is why people don't really authentically dig into do I work because I agree. Because if you can't have that conversation at home, right? Soraya: How in the hell are you supposed to have it in a corporation with thousands of employees. So often the onus of these conversations falls on the minority people who are most negatively affected. When we think about intersectionality, it's very often the case that you think about black women, um, or trans women, right? Yeah. And what gets erased is the intersectional nature or relevance or political. Identity of a white straight man, for example, or of a, a, a white straight woman. That identity, because it's so often conflated with a normal person mm-hmm.  as opposed to, and, and a person whose identity doesn't matter. That gets very complicated. And so when you have to do the hard work of talking about those identities, It feels as we know, like an attack on people. That's, that's where the term white fragility comes from, you know? And so imagine being, uh, a woman at the dinner table who wants to talk to her children about whiteness, and that's not really appreciated by her spouse. How is she also gonna talk about male or straightness, right? If she has a child, if she like. It's a very complicated, and I think the reason it gets so complicated is because these conversations are threats to identity. You know, they're threats to how people think of themselves as being good people. I don't know how many men I've talked to who you know, hate identity politics. Without thinking about their own identities, right? Because in fact, from their perspective, which we keep hearing over and over again, they've done what everybody can do, which is work hard and provide and protect and do exactly what they were told to do, which in fact, they are doing, they are. And in fact, there are rewards that come with and those rewards do not extend to other people. That's the point. So the diversity and inclusion conversations come, as you say, to a hard stop because they, they have to happen intimately. Yeah. You know, they, they have, they, that's, that's the only way things are gonna change. Melissa: One of the things Amy, Nancy and I were talking about as we've been trying to get sponsorships for the conference, right? Because as you do, like it's a conference, right? Sponsorships. Right. One of the things we realized really early on, because I'm like, this is a DEI, no-brainer. We have elevated like people with disabilities. Yeah. You know, indigenous folks, like trans women, like we've. I've never been so involved with an organization that actually is doing all of this. Like I, I was really surprised. Yeah. Whoa. Like, this is real, right? We're having such a hard time getting money, and I realized we, we had this moment, this epiphany, Soraya, where I was like, we're elevating the other. A hundred percent. A hundred percent. Every person involved with this conference is the other. Yeah. And corporations can all day talk about how committed they are to whomever we wanna name, but when it comes to putting their money where their mouth is Right, they don't deliver. I agree. And I'm wondering if you think. If you have any ideas about how we can all leave this summit and, and really start to hold people's feet to the fire as we're moving into this new era where so much is gonna get decimated. Soraya: I belong to many different organizations. I've set on the boards and advisory boards of many organizations dedicated to. Um, representation, diversity and inclusion in lots of different industries. And the first thing that happens, of course, is that you, you go after the easy, theoretically, money, people who you already know are predisposed. If you belong to, uh, uh, an organization that traditionally focused on women mm-hmm. , you might go after. Women donors, right? Sure, sure. Yeah. Beautiful. To an organization that focused on black women, there were far less women donors that were black women. So, you know, your, your pool might be a little narrower. Yep. But what what happens is that even as you say, it's, it's not just in your case that you've gone after the other, it's that even a word like Passionista. Marginalize as an organization. Mm-hmm, because of its feminized underlying, vaguely sexualized, you know, kind of con the language, the context, the biases that go into that. Imagine if you had this kind of organization dedicated to men trailblazers, you just probably wouldn't call it Passionista. And so we end up being marginalized just by virtue of the words and identities that we're trying to support. When we do that, we end up, first of all, just going after about two to 4% of available monies that leaves the other 96 to 98. That in terms of private money, comes from men, individual men, wealthy men. Mm-hmm and, and I'm always flummoxed. Why, why are we not asking these very outspoken, wealthy men who claim to be supporters of freedom and you know, on and on and on. I'm like, where's their money? Yes, where's their money going? I mean, I only vaguely tongue in cheek did I suggest to a friend yesterday that there should just be a Men of Conscience organization that handed money over. Here's the money. Mm-hmm, but you know, very often money comes with strings attached. Yep. And that gets very complicated for some organizations, you know? Yeah. Um, so it kind of becomes a vicious, self-fulfilling cycle, cycle of scarcity. Mm-hmm. But we do have to find. To hold people publicly accountable. Yeah. Hold organizations accountable. There's very little transparency. Yeah. That's a big problem. You know, so I don't, you know, I don't have a really easy solution. I would say though, that if you are a trailblazer and gender is a component of your trailblazing, be aware of the degree to which that becomes marginalizing. By default, I mean, for 10 years now, I've lobbying fighting, engage in activism around freedom of expression, online harassment, violence against women, and really and truly, you have to explain which gobsmacking to me still why that's a matter of democracy. Yes, right. When your most vulnerable, marginalized citizens cannot speak without the threat of violence, yes, and harm and rape and lynching and horrible things, your democracy is not functioning. We just live in a society as we know where it's not until the freeze breach. Of the most powerful, who still tend to be cisgendered, straight white men, Christian. It's not until the those rights start getting scratched at that people pay attention to democracy. There's nothing new here. This is the, you know, it's the history of the nation that doesn't make it any less frustrating. How can we come together? I think it's very important to come together. To for, you know, the, the one thing about the internet, despite all of its bad, bad aspects, is that it does enable people to come together to build fluid communities. Um, you can build, you know, chains of ad hoc communities. That are meaningful and valuable and supportive and you know, people can share moments of joy and humor and accomplishment and shared goals and visions. And I think it's very easy, particularly since we seem to be pretending we still are not in a pandemic, but we are right. In a time like this, I think it's very easy not just to feel isolated, but also to withdraw. You know, I felt that tendency where. I think it's better to be alone than to be to, to subject other people to my particular mindset. Right now, I know what that's like. We, we went to dinner last week and this weekend and I walked in. I saw a man and I thought, if he offers me a drink, I think I have to just, I'm just gonna say to him, well, what do you want me to have? Because, What the fuck where you're at. Yeah. That's where I am. Right. I'm like, I can't have a conversation. I need to not have this conversation. Yeah, right. And, but I think that's a bad instinct. What we need is more connection, not disconnection, not connection with people we're angry at. I don't want to suggest that, you know, but we need to build on the relationships that bring us comfort and joy and connect. And we need to make those connections with more and more and more people. I, I love what I, I, what I love about that is that, um, I've been saying that if we really, truly are ready to disrupt white supremacy and racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, all the things, if we are really truly there, then connecting on. And allowing ourselves to let this crumble right is really important because I don't wanna live under a regime that is founded on the doctrine of discovery and manifest destiny. That's exactly right. Like we have been, we've been, nobody knows, frankly, what the doctrine of discovery is. Right. It is the document that our constitution is founded on, which says if you go to a piece of land from wherever you are and you, uh, whatever European Christian country, whatever European Christian country you're coming from, and you discover it, then you have free reign to kill everybody who's on it. So you can discover it. Yeah. And that is the Reader's Digest condensed version in literally half a second. Melissa: But I don't wanna live under that and when we come together and hold each other in all of this and we connect wherever we're at, then we can start to figure out ways to move through this as it is burning around us. Soraya: Yeah. Yeah. And I think too in, in terms of coming to terms with what all of that really means, I think that. What's very clear is that communities that have been under-resourced and PO and and punished for centuries. For centuries, right, they have been responsible for themselves. They have already been at war with the government. They have already been punished repeatedly by the society. Yes. You know, this is not new. Honestly, what's new right now I think is the shock to white communities. Just like, just like when Trump was elected, frankly. Yeah, right. Just the shock of it. To some people that, my God, it can actually happen. And you're like, yeah, yes it can. Yeah, sure enough it can. Cause it has, it's happened over and over and over again. And so that circle of people who are negatively affected is now bigger. And I think part of the problem is the instinct in many communities is, well, we need to do something and then they start from. Instead of stepping back and thinking this would be a really good time to educate myself, to listen, to learn, to support the leaders who've already been doing this, the communities that understand how to do this, you know, and I know this too, I will say this flat out because I have seen this over and over again. What often happens, particularly among. You've seen this too, right? In feminist organizations, but philanthropic organizations that aren't specifically feminists. White women will replicate patriarchal power structures by default, you know, and, and they will act in ways that are corrosive. To other types of organizations and societies. So very hierarchical, very dominant, very power over, very top down. We've seen that. We've seen that destroy organizations over and over again. So I think it's just really important in this moment. To step back and be very self-reflective. How am I contributing to this problem structurally without knowing it? What mistakes have I made? What can I learn? How can I be quiet? How can I learn? How can I learn? Is really, I think, possibly the most important thing that can, the question people can ask right now, we all can learn. Melissa: Soraya:, thank you so much for your time. Oh, thank you. I'm blazing a trail that I can go running down to. Soraya: No, thank you again. Really and truly. And you know, I wanna say thank you to Nancy and Amy especially, um, and always such a delight to talk to you and to work with you in solidarity. Um, so thank you all very. Passionistas: Thanks for listening to the awards presentation with Soraya Chemaly, and thanks to Dr. Melissa Bird for the amazing interview. To learn more about Dr. Bird, visit DrMelissaBird.com. To learn more about Soraya, visit SorayaChemaly.com and be sure to subscribe to The Passionista Project Podcast so you don't miss any of our upcoming inspiring guests. Until next time, stay well and stay passionate.

In this episode Raquel and Jennifer discuss the book Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya Chemaly. Chemaly writes, "...our rage is one the most important resources we have, our sharpest tool against both personal and political oppression. Our anger is a vital instrument and a catalyst for change.” Listen in as Raquel and Jennifer talk about rage, how it shows up in their own lives and how it can be utilized constructively. "Be angry. Be loud. Rage becomes you." Indeed!Soraya Chemaly's website: http://www.sorayachemaly.com/10 Simple Words Every Girl Should Learn, http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2014-05-10-simple-words-every-girl-learn/index.html“Stop interrupting me.” “I just said that.”“No explanation needed.”Let Raquel and Jennifer know what you think about this and other episodes of Madness Cafe on IG @madnesscafepodcast or by email at madnesscafepodcast@gmail.com.And don't forget to rate and review the show wherever you listen!Thanks for listening and responding!

Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author and activist. She writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. The former Executive Director of The Representation Project and Director and co-founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation.Soraya is also the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, which was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and NPR and has been translated into multiple languages. She is a contributor to several anthologies, and her work is featured widely in media, documentaries, books, and academic research. In this episode, we talk about the gendering of emotion, how women's anger is often hidden, misunderstood, misrepresented, vilified, and yet important and deserving of attention. Soraya speaks about her research and we talk about intersectionality, the long-term impacts of not being able to own one's anger, and how we can do more to reclaim our rage. I loved every minute of speaking to Soraya, and hope you enjoy this conversation too. Buy 'Rage Becomes Her' here: https://uk.bookshop.org/a/5890/9781471172113 Support the show

EP204. Soraya Chemaly is an activist and award-winning author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger. Renee and Soraya chat about anger and motherhood, why women don't express anger in our culture and, how can we raise children in a way that promotes healthy expression of anger regardless of gender. This is such an important episode! RENEE REINA Instagram: @themomroompodcast | @reneereina_ The Mom Room Shop TikTok: @reneereina_ Facebook Community Youtube: Renee Reina- The Mom Room Podcast SORAYA CHEMALY Instagram: @sorayachemaly | @ragebecomesher Book: Rage Becomes Her SPONSORS Pull-Ups. Little Passports. Goli. Betterhelp. Binto. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever been called an angry feminist? Us too. Soraya Chemaly is a writer, speaker, and activist who studies the many reasons women have to be angry, and why they're called bitches, hot-headed, crazy feminists when they are. She is an award-winning activist, the best-selling author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, and director and co-founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project. She joins Sabrina to discuss:• The reasons women have to be angry, from microaggressions to macro-level sexism• Why anger is actually one of the most hopeful, forward-thinking, and powerful emotions• Why men and women are conditioned to experience and display emotion differentlyLike what you hear and want more? Sign up for our newsletter full of episode updates and resources on issues impacting women around the world.

First off, a review of the book Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya Chemaly, followed by the first half of our interview with artist, educational publisher, and book illustrator, Eric Hamilton. True Crimes from Rhyme Square  Rage Becomes Her 

“I'm Speaking.”  We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right?   We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they're interrupted by someone else?  Will they choose politeness over being heard?  Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they'll offend?  Listen to hear: The different social norms for boys and girls Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings When to interrupt back The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly Sample phrases illustrating different ways to interrupt What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting Key mentions/concepts: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, by Soraya Chemaly. http://www.sorayachemaly.com/ (www.sorayachemaly.com) "http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2014-05-10-simple-words-every-girl-learn/index.html (10 Simple Words Every Girl Should Learn)," by Soraya Chemaly. Retrieved from http://www.rolereboot.org/index.html (www.rolereboot.org). "https://www.getbullish.com/2014/08/the-art-of-interruption-or-how-to-speak-up-without-feeling-like-an-asshole-vital-voice-guest-post/ (The Art of Interruption, Or 'how to speak up without feeling like an asshole' (#BullCon14 Guest Post))" by Julie Fogh and Casey Erin Clarke of https://vitalvoicetraining.com/ (Vital Voice). Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/know-them-be-them-raise-them/id1581581645 ( Apple),https://open.spotify.com/show/4TUKrwCnfgyMRxjZjJjQWO?si=BiWQGIAtQtque1801ggjTQ ( Spotify),https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9rbm93YmVyYWlzZS5jYXB0aXZhdGUuZm0vcnNzZmVlZA?sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjU08G6wszyAhWBU80KHcTLD14Q9sEGegQIARAC ( Google).  For more doses of information and inspiration: follow onhttps://www.instagram.com/knowberaisethem/ ( Instagram)  https://mailchi.mp/3b8ba41f6629/stay-in-the-know-add-me-to-mailing-list (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visithttps://knowthembethemraisethem.godaddysites.com/ ( www.knowberaisethem.com)

In case you missed it, we're airing one of our season's most popular episodes again! Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning journalist and author whose writing appears regularly in media around the world. Her work centres around defining what it means to be a woman in a world built by men. Her narrative skill, careful research, and humorous tone have been described by the New Yorker as "relentless and revelatory." In her book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, Soraya uses these skills to offer a critical look at the social construction of anger and its effects on women's lives. Soraya and host Eva Hartling share an invigorating conversation about why women should be angry, the 'steps backward' we have taken when it comes to gender equity, which has now been further amplified by the impact of the pandemic, and the many other nuances of living in the 'boxes' that society has created for women.This season of The Brand is Female is brought to you by TD Bank - Women Entrepreneurs. TD is proud to support women entrepreneurs and help them achieve success and growth through its program of educational workshops, financing and mentorship opportunities! Find out how you can benefit from their support!————Visit: TBIF: thebrandisfemale.com //TD Women Entrepreneurs: td.com/ca/en/business-banking/small-business/women-in-business //Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/thebrandisfemale

This week the Real Friends delve into the life (and love's) of Evelyn Hugo as they discuss Taylor Jenkins Reid's incredibly entertaining novel, The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo. The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo in one sentence: Erica: Evelyn's got seven husbands but men ain't shit. Courtney: I typically can see the twist ending before it happens and can you believe that it was a romance novel that finally shocked me with an ending I didn't see coming. Mary Paige: Sex, scandal and fame OH MY! -- Read along with us! C'mon, it's a book club. Here's what's coming up: 7/6: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of a Woman's Anger by Soraya Chemaly 7/20: Dead Until Dark by Soraya Chemaly 8/3: People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry

Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas-Austin. Dr. Neff is considered a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, authoring numerous academic articles and book chapters on the topic. She and her colleague, Dr. Chris Germer, developed an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion. In addition, Dr. Neff is the author of several books including Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive, Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals, and her newest book, Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.    In today's episode, host Shay Beider welcomes Dr. Neff to talk about her new book on fierce self-compassion, what drove her to write the book, and why fierce self-compassion requires a balance of fierceness and tenderness. They discuss her mindful self-compassion program, the different types of suffering individuals encounter in different relationships, and how her son with autism helped her find and practice self-compassion. Finally, Dr. Neff shares her perspective on healing as a way of holding and being with the process of life as it unfolds.    The transcript for this episode is available at: https://www.integrativetouch.org/conversations-on-healing    Show Notes: Books by Bell Hooks Read more about Bell Hooks TED Talk: My stroke of insight - Jill Bolte Taylor Read more about Gloria Steinem here. Learn more about mirror neurons  Carl Rogers quote on the curious paradox Read Soraya Chemali's book - Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger   This podcast was created by Integrative Touch for Kids (ITK). ITK is working to change the way people experience healthcare. ITK supports families whose children have any type of special health or medical need. This includes kids with cancers, genetic conditions, autism, cerebral palsy, traumatic stress, and other serious health issues. We have pioneered a new therapy called Integrative Touch™ and reach 3500 people each year in the hospital and community settings. We engage communities in support of families struggling with special medical needs and offer unique Telehealth programs to families and healthcare providers during this challenging time. Thanks to the incredible support of our volunteers and contributors, individuals are able to receive our healing services at little or no cost.

Scott Pilgrim's precious world is about to get rocked. This week, we'll be discussing Volume 1 of the Scott Pilgrim graphic novel series, Scott Pilgrim's Precious Little Life, written (and illustrated) by Bryan Lee O'Malley. Scott Pilgrim's Precious Little Life (Vol. 1) in one sentence: Mary Paige: Scott Pilgrim's an idiot but a FUN story otherwise. Erica: Took a mediocre man and gave him a whole volume to redeem himself, still couldn't do it. Courtney: Seven evil exes is a small price to pay for being a douche. Read along with us! Up next, we've got: 6/22: The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo 7/6: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger 7/20: Dead Until Dark by Charlaine Harris

This week the Real Friends take a peek into the mind of Jenny Lawson in her latest book, Broken (in the best possible way). Broken (in the best possible way) in one sentence: - Courtney: We all have our problems, some more than others but we can always relate in awkward moments and if you can’t then you're repressing your memories, lying to yourself or straight up an alien. - Mary Paige: Embrace your whole self, the sad, the silly, the awkward and all will be okay. There is always a funny story that can come of it. - Erica: Dick jokes and depression, but make it wholesome. Read along with us! C'mon, it's a book club. Here's what's coming up: 6/8: Scott Pilgrim's Precious Little Life (Vol. 1) by Bryan Lee O'Malley 6/22: The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid 7/6: Rage Becomes Her: The Power of a Women's Anger by Soraya Chemaly This episode hit on some very serious topics, if you find yourself in need of support please reach out to someone. If Jenny's taught us anything, you are not alone. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24 hours at 800-273-8255

Last night I was watching through Instagram stories, when I came across my friend Georgia Holliday's post, which was an extract from a book "Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger", by Soraya Chemaly.Although it was only a page, it resonated with me so much that I decided to delay today's planned episode for another day, and record an episode around this while it was fresh in my mind.So often, women's anger is portrayed in a variety of ways that makes us feel we don't need to take it seriously or look deeper to see what is really going on.In this episode, I discuss women's anger, how gaslighting can be a big part of this and just how dangerous gas lighting can be and how we could try and turn this into a force for good.Instagram: @charlottejonespresents

Cathy and Todd talk with Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger and Executive Director of The Representation Project. They discuss the importance of emotional competence, how to discuss gender inequality with our kids, and why we should pay attention to our own gender conditioning.

Cathy and Todd talk with Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger and Executive Director of The Representation Project. They discuss the importance of emotional competence, how to discuss gender inequality with our kids, and why we should pay attention to our own gender conditioning.

Cathy and Todd talk with Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger and Executive Director of The Representation Project. They discuss the importance of emotional competence, how to discuss gender inequality with our kids, and why we should pay attention to our own gender conditioning.

As with any condition, until we have language for what we are experiencing, until we can name it, we often feel controlled by it. In January of 2019 Soraya Chemaly renamed and redefined anger for us. In a riveting talk based upon her book, “Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger,” Chemaly puts female anger into its societal context, revealing it as a tool of transformation, an untapped resource for change. Soraya Chemaly is the Executive Director of The Representation Project. An award-winning author and activist, she writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. In this illuminating talk and Q&A with journalist Carole Carmichael, Chemaly details the very real ways that women are taught from an early age to control and suppress their anger rather than harness it for change—and the way that this socialization is harmful to women and men, and especially to people of color.

Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning journalist and author whose writing appears regularly in media around the world. Her work centres around defining what it means to be a woman in a world built by men. Her narrative skill, careful research, and humorous tone have been described by the New Yorker as "relentless and revelatory." In her book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, Soraya uses these skills to offer a critical look at the social construction of anger and its effects on women's lives. Soraya and host Eva Hartling share an invigorating conversation about why women should be angry, the 'steps backward' we have taken when it comes to gender equity, which has now been further amplified by the impact of the pandemic, and the many other nuances of living in the 'boxes' that society has created for women.This season of The Brand is Female is brought to you by TD Bank - Women Entrepreneurs. TD is proud to support women entrepreneurs and help them achieve success and growth through its program of educational workshops, financing and mentorship opportunities! Find out how you can benefit from their support!————Visit: TBIF: thebrandisfemale.com //TD Women Entrepreneurs: td.com/ca/en/business-banking/small-business/women-in-business //Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/thebrandisfemale

If the fuming, seething feeling we sat with for weeks after the Capitol was stormed is any indication, feeling anger stinks and is bad for our bodies. But we as women have not been taught how to handle this feeling; in fact, we’re often taught to shove anger down and away, while going on with our day, taking care of others.  This is why we’re thrilled to be having a conversation with Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her, to talk about how women have been conditioned by our society, what our biology actually indicates, and what on earth to do when we feel the steam coming out of our ears, so we can make positive change around us. Have questions, comments, or concerns?  Email us at hello@dearwhitewomen.com What to listen for: Statistics on the hormonal shifts our bodies exhibit when we experience anger The relationship between “I’m so tired” and “I’m so angry” Society’s devaluation of the important work of caring, and how women bear the brunt of that How anger is perceived differently depending on how you look - gender, and race Top tips on how to get better at processing and expressing anger, to make change About Soraya Chemaly: Soraya Chemaly is currently the Executive Director of The Representation Project. An award-winning author and activist, she writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. The former director and co-founder of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women’s civic and political participation. Soraya is also the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger, which was recognized as a Best Book of 2018 by the Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Autostraddle, and NPR and has been translated into several languages. She is a contributor to multiple anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World. Her work as a writer, activist, and organizer is featured widely in media, books, and academic research. Support us through Patreon!  Learn about our virtual community – and you’re welcome to join. Like what you hear?  Don’t miss another episode and subscribe! Catch up on more commentary between episodes by following us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter – and even more opinions and resources if you join our email list.

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In the countdown to the 2020 election I interviewed Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger - an amazing book she wrote after 2016 election delving into the reasons why women can’t be angry without being called “unhinged” or a “b*”. Our conversation includes: how the progressive white male was most “shocked” with 2016 results why the power differential between men and women hurts EVERYONE (hello, judges of Kamala Harris' facial expressions) why the ideology of separate spheres keeps us divided — and struggling to maintain our mental health, hence all those bubble baths and lavender oil treatments. (Raising my hand to that... its great, right, but... is it really enough?) Soraya also shares the historical context of gender roles and intersectional feminism to provide convincing reasons why self-care rituals fall short of any real solutions while remaining vitally important for us to do. --- About Soraya Soraya Chemaly is currently Executive Director of The Representation Project. An award-winning author and activist, she writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. The former director and co-founder of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women’s civic and political participation. Her work as a writer, activist and organizer is featured widely in media, books, and academic research. She is the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger, which has been translated into several languages, and a contributor to multiple anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World. Prior to 2010, Ms. Chemaly spent more than fifteen years as a market development executive and consultant in the media and data technology industries. After several years in market development at the Gannett Corporation, she moved into the datatech sector at Claritas, ending her tenure there as SVP of Marketing Strategy. Soraya currently serves on the national boards of the Women's Media Center, Women in Journalism, and the DC Volunteer Lawyers Project. She has also served on the boards of Women, Action and the advisory councils of the Center for Democracy and Technology, VIDA, Secular Woman, FORCE: Upsetting Rape Culture, No Bully, and Common Sense Media. As an activist, Ms. Chemaly has spear-headed multiple successful campaigns challenging corporations to address online harassment and abuse, restrictive content moderation and censorship, and institutional biases that affect free speech. In 2013, Soraya won the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication’s (AEJMC)'s Award for Feminist Advocacy and the Secular Woman Activism Award. In 2014, she was named one of Elle Magazine's 25 Inspiring Women to Follow in social media, and, in 2016, the recipient of the Women’s Institute for Freedom of the Press’s Women and Media Award. In 2017, she was the co-recipient of the Newhouse Mirror Award for Best Single Feature of 2016 for an in-depth investigative report on free speech and social media, and a Wikipedia Distinguished Service Award for exemplary contributions to the advancement of public knowledge and educational content. In 2019, she was awarded the Feminist Press’ Feminist Power Award. Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Books --- Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here! --- Donate to support the show Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page. --- Get started with Body Kindness Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings --- Become a client Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions --- Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail podcast@bodykindnessbook.com to get in touch. --- Join the Facebook groupContinue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners on the Body Kindness Facebook group. See you there! Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

On today's episode I chat with award-winning writer and media critic Soraya Chemaly. Soraya speaks frequently on topics related to gender, media, tech, women's rights, sexual violence and free speech. She was named one of Elle Magazine's 25 Inspiring Women to Follow on Twitter, and was the recipient of the Women’s Institute for Freedom of the Press’s Women and Media Award. She is the author of the upcoming book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger. On this episode Soraya shares with us her explorations into anger, and the gendered & racial implications of who deserves to be angry. We talk about the politics of emotions, the limited language that we have for expressing & understanding how we feel, and so much more. Keep up with Bedside: Instagram - @thebedside Website - www.thebedside.co Connect with Soraya Chemaly: Twitter - https://twitter.com/schemaly Be sure to rate, review, and of course subscribe to the show! Thank you for listening.

In this episode, we discuss the disparate gender experiences of anger and the impacts it has on individuals, relationships, and society. Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning writer and media critic whose writing appears regularly in national and international media. She speaks frequently on topics related to inclusivity, freedom of speech, gender roles in human systems, data, and technology. Ms. Chemaly is co-founder and director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project and spear-headed multiple successful campaigns challenging corporations to address inclusivity, online harassment and hate, and algorithmic bias. In 2017, she was a recipient of the Newhouse Mirror Award for Best Single Feature of 2016 for an in-depth investigative report, The Secrets of The Internet, about social media companies and their regulation of online hate, harassment, and freedom of expression. Her recent book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, was named one Best Book of 2018 by The Washington Post, Fast Company, Psychology Today and Book Riot. In this episode, we discuss: ·      Gendered assumptions when it comes to the emotions we feel, especially anger. ·      The difference of how genders are taught to process and express anger. ·      Misconceptions about testosterone and the relationship between testosterone and aggression. ·      The impacts of detaching anger from femininity. ·      How anger is perceived differently by race. ·      How vulnerability and fragility is programmed into women from a young age and the impact that has. ·      The unhealthy ways in which unprocessed anger is presenting in our lives. ·      The complicated dynamics – within society and relationships – surrounding caretaking responsibilities. ·      And what we can do to begin to address unprocessed anger. You can find and follow Soraya here: Website Instagram @sorayachemaly Facebook /sorayachemaly Twitter @schemaly Her book – Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger SHOP!! Shop effective plant-based hand soap, cleaners, shampoo, conditioner, and more at PURACY. Use Code PURE15 for 15% off. Check out additional DISCOUNTS in my SHOP! GIVEAWAY!! We are giving away six sex toys from CalExotics, the first woman-owned sex toy company EVER. Susan Colvin, the owner, launched the business 25 years ago and is a pioneer in the space — she's launched over a million pleasure products over the years! Her mission is to bring pleasure to ALL people no matter their gender, race, socioeconomic background, or preferences.  Laguna Beach Lover "Marvelous Tickler"- a new release from CalExotics' Mini Marvels Shameless "Seducer" French Kiss Charmer Glam Rechargeable Butterfly Kiss  Listen to Ep. 34: Live Your Best Sex Life with Isharna Walsh to learn more. www.CalExotics.com.  RUNS THROUGH MARCH 31! Please SUBSCRIBE, SHARE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast! Follow the podcast on Instagram @TheBetterYouPodcast or Facebook @TheBetterYouPodcast. And you can email the podcast at TheBetterYouPodcast@gmail.com Follow me on all the socials: Instagram @kaciemain_writes, Facebook @kaciemain.write, or Twitter @kaciemain_write. Find my book – I Gave Up Men for Lent, the story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl's search for meaning – on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible. And for everything else you want to know about me, visit my website at www.kaciemain.com     Some links are Amazon Affiliate links.

Kelly interviews feminist writer Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger. They discuss the role of anger in the 2016 and 2020 presidential races, modeling emotional competence for children, and Soraya's work as Director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project.

Kelly interviews feminist writer Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger. They discuss the role of anger in the 2016 and 2020 presidential races, modeling emotional competence for children, and Soraya's work as Director of the Women's Media Center Speech Project.

It’s that time of the month, and we are seeing red in this episode. For today’s show, I spoke with my friend, the fantastic Leanna Milburn, about Soraya Chemaly’s ode to female rage, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger. Be prepared for many exasperated “ughhh” noises.  Women have a lot to be angry about, and this book is a fantastic primer on both the roots of our rage, and the social and physical implications of it.  We did a lot of self-censoring this episode, which is also indicative of how deeply we’ve internalized the messaging that women aren’t permitted to show their anger (unless, of course, it falls nicely into some of the ‘noble’ categories, such as a mother’s anger on behalf of her children). What we do get into however, is: the way anger has played into our working lives; the women in rural Canadian communities who are travelling great distances at their own personal costs to give birth; the horrifying history of women’s healthcare; and a round of Never Have I Ever: The Microaggression Edition Grab yourself a drink and let's get into it.

“Men and women are far more alike than they are different. And yet in our society, all of the emphasis is put on the difference. Everybody feels anger, everybody feels sadness, and it makes no sense to be gendering these feelings. As a matter of fact, not only does it not make sense, it is definitively harmful to people and to society.” “As girls, we are not taught to acknowledge or manage our anger so much as fear, ignore, hide, and transform it. Boys learn early on about anger, but far less about other feelings, which handicaps them—and society—in different ways. Socially discouraged from seeming feminine (in other words, being empathetic, vulnerable, and compassionate), their emotional alternatives often come down to withdrawal or aggressive expressions of anger. There's no reason why all children can't learn to be kind and considerate to other people in exactly the same way.” “What would it mean to ungender our emotions? What would the world look like if all of us were allowed to experience and productively express the full range of our emotions without penalty?” Listen in for more great take-aways from the interview I did with Soraya Chemaly, the best-selling author of the book “Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger.” We’re talking specifically about how these issues impact children in the classroom, and how her research can support educators in coping with the stresses of emotional labor that are inherent to teaching. Click here to read the transcript and participate in the discussion or, join our new podcast Facebook group here to connect with other teachers and discuss the Truth for Teachers' podcast episodes.  

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In this full episode of "Exploring Minds", Michele Carroll and Soraya Chemaly explore the main concepts in Soraya's book Rage Becomes Her, including intersectionality, the effects of internalized anger and the gender wage gap. - Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning writer and media critic whose writing appears regularly in national and international media including The Atlantic, The Nation, Verge, Quartz, TIME, Salon, The Guardian and The New Statesman. She speaks frequently on topics related to inclusivity, free speech, sexualized violence, data and technology. She is the director of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project an initiative dedicated to expanding women’s civic and political participation. She currently serves on the national boards of the Women's Media Center and Women, Action and the Media, as well as on the advisory councils of the Center for Democracy and Technology, VIDA, and Common Sense Media. As an activist, Ms. Chemaly has spear-headed multiple successful campaigns challenging corporations to address online harassment and abuse, restrictive content moderation and censorship, and institutional biases that affect free speech. Prior to 2010, Ms. Chemaly spent more than fifteen years as a market development executive and consultant in the media and data technology industries. In the early 1990s, after several years at the Gannett Corporation, where she was involved in establishing the newspaper industry’s first subscriber and advertisers databases, she moved into the datatech sector with Claritas Inc. These work experiences give her unique insights into internet data development, leading her to fight vigorously again their abuses. In 2013, Soraya won the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication’s (AEJMC)'s Donna Allen Award for Feminist Advocacy and the Secular Woman Feminist Activism Award. In 2014, she was named one of Elle Magazine's 25 Inspiring Women to Follow in social media. In 2016, Soraya was the recipient of the Women’s Institute for Freedom of the Press’s Women and Media Award. In 2017, she was the co-recipient of the Newhouse Mirror Award for Best Single Feature of 2016 for an in-depth investigative report on free speech and online content moderation, The Secrets of The Internet, and a Wikipedia Distinguished Service Award, for exemplary contributions to the advancement of public knowledge and the collection, development, and dissemination of educational content. She is the author of the book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger. In 2013, she won the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication’s (AEJMC)'s Donna Allen Award for Feminist Advocacy and the Secular Woman Feminist Activism Award. In 2014, she was named one of Elle Magazine's 25 Inspiring Women to Follow on Twitter. She writes and speaks regularly about gender, media, tech, education, women's rights, sexual violence and free speech. - SUPPORT US ON PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/exploringmindsshow FOLLOW ALONG FOR UPDATES AND NEW EPISODES: Discord - https://discord.gg/YhaAcN3 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/exploringmindsshow Twitter - https://twitter.com/ExploreMinds_TV Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/exploreminds_tv/ Website - exploringminds.show — Exploring Minds with Michele Carroll is the online show committed to exploring the world beyond talking points. Thank you for listening! Support the show.

Shaking off the shame of womxn's rage It has been argued that 2018 was the year womxn’s rage filled our screens, and a pivotal time for womxn freely expressing their anger. In this episode, we talk about whether as womxn we are beginning to shake off the shame that comes with being angry, explore different types of anger but crucially, question who in our society is allowed to be angry, and who is not. Contributors  Charlie Craggs  Charlie Craggs is a trans activist and author of the book “To My Trans Sisters”. She is the founder of Nail Transphobia, an organisation and campaign which aims to educate people on trans issues and make new allies through giving manicures. Charlie is #1 on the Guardian New Radicals List of British Social Innovators, and a brand ambassador for the London Trans Clinic.  Seyi Akiwowo Seyi Akiwowo is the Founder and Executive Director of Glitch, a growing not-for-profit advocacy, campaigning and training organisation that aims to end online abuse. She has spoken all over the world, including in Washington DC, Istanbul and Geneva. Seyi was invited back to Geneva to present at the 38th United Nations Human Rights Council on online-gender based violence. Soraya Chemaly Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning writer and media critic whose writing appears regularly in national and international media including The Atlantic, Quartz, TIME, the Guardian and the New Statesman. She speaks frequently on topics related to inclusivity, free speech, sexualized violence, data and technology. She recently published the book “Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger”.  Kate Durbin  Kate Durbin is a Los-Angeles based artist, writer and filmmaker. Her work explores popular culture, gender and digital media. We spoke to her about her latest piece, a short film called ‘Unfriend Me Now!’ that examines the role how Facebook’s algorithm has spurred increasing political polarisation, and how that polarisation - and namely, rage - has been co-opted by corporate interests. Hosts Clara Finnigan  Clara is a writer, podcaster and founding member of the Feminist Internet. Clara’s work is focused on facilitating alternative and under represented dialogues in new and accessible ways. She is also the co-founder and editor of a new music journalism platform, Hook - which explores how music is made, how it is consumed, and what it does to us emotionally, socially and physically. Sabrina Faramarzi  Sabrina Faramarzi is a journalist, futures researcher and trend analyst, as well as one of the founding members of Feminist Internet. Her work explores patterns across lifestyle and society, as well as women’s issues and internet culture. She has written for The Guardian, Wired and VICE, amongst others and has spoken at conferences and events across Europe, Middle East and Asia.  Feminist Internet is a group of artists and designers working to advance internet equalities for women and other marginalised groups through critical practice. In this podcast series, the group will explore the theme of Recoding Spaces, both online and offline, with the aim of diversifying internet spaces metaphorically, physically and digitally, intercepting homogenous zones and breaking the filter bubble. The podcast aims to not only expose these spaces, but to regenerate them in new and inclusive ways.  The Feminist Internet Podcast, commissioned and produced by Somerset House Studios with the support of the UAL Creative Computing Institute. Producer: Eleanor Scott 
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Soraya Chemaly is the author of the critically-acclaimed book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Womens’ Anger, and that’s exactly what we’re talking about today: women’s anger, its power, and why this anger is often misunderstood and mistreated in society. We also chat about the tropes associate with angry women (eg. the “angry black woman,” the “crazy white lady,” and “the fiery Latina,”) and dive into how dangerous it can be—both personally and politically—for women to suppress their anger. Mica also confesses some discomfort she's been feeling over negative generalizations made about cis white men, to which Soraya responds that its important to consider who's discomfort we're choosing to centre. There is sooo much to learn in this episode. What an honour it was to have Soraya—a political and intellectual powerhouse—on the show!

This week we were joined by guest host Vicky, who loves dogs (she has 3) and books. We discussed: The 1834 Poor Law, which ensured that the poor were housed in workhouses, clothed and fed. Children who entered the workhouse would receive some schooling. In return for this care, all workhouse paupers would have to work for several hours each day. - UK National Archives Italians with white mice - In the 1820s/1830s Italian men were wandering the streets of London & other cities as organ grinders, accompanied by boys with trained monkeys and mice who performed tricks. - Literature Network Forums Palate cleansers: Vicky - "Joe Gould's Teeth" by Jill Leopore Megan - Black Klansman film and the book "Black Klansman: race, hate, and the undercover investigation of a lifetime" by Ron Stallworth; "Sociable: a Novel" by Rebecca Harrington; "Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger" by Soraya Chemaly Pete - "Black Leopard Red Wolf" by Marlon James Alex - is between books and was bereft of anything to share this week, but will come back next time having found lots of new things to read.  

Autumn and Kendra talk with Soraya Chemaly about her new book Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger. A full version of the show notes for this episode can be found over on our website. Many thanks to our sponsor for this week’s episode, The Great Courses Plus! We’ve arranged a special, limited time offer for our listeners: an entire month of unlimited learning—for FREE! Sign up here for your free trial and get one month of access to The Great Courses Plus. Books MentionedRage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger by Soraya ChemalyEloquent Rage: A Black feminist Discovers Her Superpower by Brittney CooperGood and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women’s Anger by Rebecca TraisterThe Power by Naomi AldermanFlorida by Lauren GroffBinti by Nnedi OkoraforCirce by Madeline MillerThe Secret History of Wonder Woman by Jill LeporeThe Incendiaries by R.O. Kwon CONTACT Questions? Comments? Email us hello@readingwomenpodcast.com. SOCIAL MEDIA Reading Women: Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | Website Music by Isaac Greene Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the pod, Beth is joined by her dear friend (and fellow "Nasty Gal") Catherine Cheng for a conversation on anger. It's not something we talk about often, and might not be something we even feel often. But author Soraya Chemaly's new book "Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger" is leading us to consider our emotions, the world we live in, and why women have a lot to be angry about. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/you-can-sit-with-us/support

What is making women angry, and can that rage be channelled for good? Kim Chakanetsa speaks to feminist writers from South Africa and the US. US writer and media critic Soraya Chemaly says women across the world have a right to be angry. Their rights are undermined, they're routinely underpaid and belittled. But from an early age girls are also taught to suppress their anger and calm themselves down when fired up. She says women need to learn to embrace rage as a tool for positive change. Soraya recently published a book called Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger. Dela Gwala is a South African activist and writer, who found feminism in the aftermath of being sexually assaulted. Her white-hot rage at the victim-blaming she faced fuelled her campaigning. It was only when that anger ran out a couple of years later that she says she realised she needed to confront and deal with her other emotions. Dela recently contributed to an anthology called Feminism Is: South Africans Speak Their Truth. L - Dela Gwala (credit: Dela Gwala) R - Soraya Chemaly (credit: Karen Sayre)

"Our anger has all this information, it has all this expertise, it has all this experience and we should respect it in ourselves and in other women." - Soraya Chemaly     This episode is brought to you in collaboration with Fast Mary's.     Today's featured interview is with Soraya Chemaly. She is the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger, named a Best Book of 2018 by NPR, Washington Post and others, including some of our favorites Autostraddle, Psychology Today, and Bitch magazine. This book is about the ways that the social construction of emotion, anger in particular, affect women’s personal, professional and political equality. Chemaly is a prolific writer whose work focuses on the role of gender and identity in culture, education and technology. She is also the director of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project, an initiative devoted to expanding women’s civic and political participation.     Connect with Soraya and learn more about her work on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn.     Soraya's book recommendations: Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower by Brittney Cooper Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women's Anger by Rebecca Traister The Power by Naomi Alderman     In this episode, I also chat with Kristen and Kerry, two of the organizers of 24in48, a 48 hour readathon happening January 26-27. Participants will have an opportunity to win a three month subscription Feminist Book Club box so sign up here if you're feeling lucky: https://24in48.com/ Or if you prefer a little more control in your life, use code PODCAST to get a discount on your February box at feministbookclub.com/subscribe. Connect with the #24in48 community on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter.       About today's sponsor: Fast Mary’s Bloody Mary Enhancer is a naturally vegan, gluten-free, Bloody Mary seasoning concentrate.  Handcrafted and infused to perfection, Fast Mary's turns any ordinary Bloody Mary into the ultimate culinary concoction. Learn more at fastmarys.com     Website: feministbookclub.com Instagram: @feministbookclubbox Facebook: Feminist Book Club Twitter: @fmnstbookclub Email newsletter: http://eepurl.com/dvRgvD   - Logo and web design by Shatterboxx  Original music by @amiofficialmusic Transcript for this episode: bit.ly/FBCtranscript3   Get $5 off your Feminist Book Club Box with the code PODCAST at feministbookclub.com/subscribe.  

What does woman’s anger mean to you? Laura speaks to Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger, about the complexity of the emotion and how it is both triggered and addressed (or not) within our culture. Originally aired with Host Laura Zarrow on December 19, 2018 on SiriusXM's Business Radio Powered by The Wharton School, Channel 132 See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week on Pop Culture Confidential it's all about rage! Joining us is Soraya Chemaly, author of the provocative, infuriating and inspiring new book  “Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger.” Ms Chemaly has written for Time magazine, The Guardian and The Atlantic. She is an activist and the director of the Women’s Media Center Speech Project. In our interview we talk about her new book, her research into women’s anger and rage, how women are taught and conditioned by society to suppress anger and how it can be a powerful tool in our lives. We talk about recent events such as how Serena Williams was penalized at the U.S. Open for arguing with the umpire, the Kavanaugh hearings, Jordan Peterson and so much more.

In this episode, Niki, Neil, and Natalia discuss the history of binge drinking, why McCarthyism is back in the news, and the political power of women’s rage. Support Past Present on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/pastpresentpodcast Here are some links and references mentioned during this week’s show:  Brett Kavanaugh’s nomination hearing has brought attention to the prevalence of binge drinking among young people. Natalia referenced Matt Damon’s Saturday Night Live portrayal of Brett Kavanaugh, and cited Sarah Hepola’s memoir of binge drinking, Blackout: Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget. McCarthyism is back in the news as Mitch McConnell has accused Democrats of such tactics. Neil mentioned a Jonah Goldberg essay in the National Review that argued Joe McCarthy had been right. A series of books out this fall look at women’s rage: Rebecca Traister’s Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women’s Anger; Soraya Chemaly’s Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger; and, Brittney Cooper’s Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower. Natalia added both Phyllis Schlafly’s Power of the Positive Woman and Audre Lorde’s “The Uses of Anger” as two other very different works on the politics of women’s rage.   In our regular closing feature, What’s Making History: Natalia talked about her upcoming involvement in the event, “Yeah She Did: Witches Get Stuff Done” taking place in New York City on October 24. Neil commented on Joe Pinsker’s Atlantic article, “Why Some Parents Turn Boys’ Names Into Girls’ Names.” Niki discussed the expiration of the Violence Against Women Act.

Robin on GOP suicide, MeToo's span from China to Antarctica, Cosby in handcuffs, and the rising of a global political force. Guest: Soraya Chemaly, on reclaiming social media and on her timely new book, "Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger."