Podcasts about incongruence

What happens when we flip a narrative to, conveniently, fit what we want instead of what is real? Tip of the day: Incongruence destroys trust(truth, authenticity, and transparency) Today we take a look at how all the incongruence around Elon Musk and the recent violence toward Tesla is harming the very mission of those who are doing the acts of violence. Believability requires truth, authenticity, and transparency. None of which is present in these terror like acts of violence. We also address what congruence looks like psychologically, sociologically, and culturally.   Email us – healthyperspectives@protonmail.com Podcast home page - www.healthy-perspectives.com/podcast Sponsor/Support – https://healthy-perspectives.com/sponsor Rumble - https://rumble.com/c/c-2235930 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEXZdWuBoM6KXof4YcP9nkQ LinkedIn page - www.linkedin.com/in/jeremiah-guidos-915b3426  Twitter aka X - https://twitter.com/hphonestviews Locals - https://locals.com/member/jeremiahguidos #healthyperspectives #podcast #jeremiah #mentalhealth #counseling #counselor #mindset #culture #socialresponsibility #psychology #clinical #education #walkingwithGod #Jesus #JesusisLord #LoveGod #Loveothers #incongruence #tesla #elon #musk

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-Dangerous Incongruence #1: Faith with conditions (Goal: Faith without conditions)-Dangerous Incongruence #2: Saint in name alone (Goal: Saint in all of life)-Dangerous Incongruence #3: Passive participant in God's plan (Goal: Active participant in God's plan)

"I'm going to start from the assumption that they're doing that because they're in distress, because they're anxious, because they're possibly feeling insecure, or they're fearing failure. And to expect that they're going to have the ability to then show up well in the space between is unrealistic."Karen & Paul explore how gut feelings that something isn't right often stem from personal or shared history. Links and items mentioned in this episode:Employing Differences, Episode 217 - How can I repair trust?

Credits: 0.25 AMA PRA Category 1 Credit™   CME/CE Information and Claim Credit: https://www.pri-med.com/online-education/podcast/frankly-speaking-cme-393 Overview: Adolescents seeking hormonal treatment for gender incongruence has become more common. A recent systematic review looking at the benefits and side effects found in clinical studies updates our current understanding of this approach. Gain insights and confidence to make informed and compassionate care decisions. Episode resource links: Taylor J, Mitchell A, Hall R, Langton T, Fraser L, Hewitt CE. Masculinising and feminising hormone interventions for adolescents experiencing gender dysphoria or incongruence: a systematic review. Arch Dis Child. 2024 Apr 9:archdischild-2023-326670. Coleman E, et al. Standards of Care for the Health of Transgender and Gender Diverse People, Version 8. Int J Transgend Health. 2022 Sep 6;23(Suppl 1):S1-S259.  Gender Affirming Hormonal Care for the Primary Care Provider Thriving for Transgender Youth Update on Trans-Competent Primary Care Guest: Alan M. Ehrlich, MD, FAAFP Thoughts? Suggestions? Email us at FranklySpeaking@pri-med.com  Music Credit: Richard Onorato

Credits: 0.25 AMA PRA Category 1 Credit™   CME/CE Information and Claim Credit: https://www.pri-med.com/online-education/podcast/frankly-speaking-cme-393 Overview: Adolescents seeking hormonal treatment for gender incongruence has become more common. A recent systematic review looking at the benefits and side effects found in clinical studies updates our current understanding of this approach. Gain insights and confidence to make informed and compassionate care decisions. Episode resource links: Taylor J, Mitchell A, Hall R, Langton T, Fraser L, Hewitt CE. Masculinising and feminising hormone interventions for adolescents experiencing gender dysphoria or incongruence: a systematic review. Arch Dis Child. 2024 Apr 9:archdischild-2023-326670. Coleman E, et al. Standards of Care for the Health of Transgender and Gender Diverse People, Version 8. Int J Transgend Health. 2022 Sep 6;23(Suppl 1):S1-S259.  Gender Affirming Hormonal Care for the Primary Care Provider Thriving for Transgender Youth Update on Trans-Competent Primary Care Guest: Alan M. Ehrlich, MD, FAAFP Thoughts? Suggestions? Email us at FranklySpeaking@pri-med.com  Music Credit: Richard Onorato

Erin Lee joins Heidi Ganahl (in for Dan) to discuss her work with former state Sen. Kevin Lundberg (R-Berthoud) on ballot initiatives seeking to ban biological boys in girls' sports, require schools to notify parents over 'gender incongruence.'

Erin Lee joins Dan to discuss her work with former state Sen. Kevin Lundberg (R-Berthoud) on ballot initiatives seeking to ban biological boys in girls' sports, require schools to notify parents over 'gender incongruence.'Also, Dan postulates and ponders whether President Biden might actually prefer a guilty verdict for his son Hunter to prove the justice system is fair in the wake of the Trump trial.

Dr. Jane Anderson is Vice President of the American College of Pediatricians and Lead Author of their Position Statement, -Mental Health in Adolescents with Incongruence of Gender Identity and Biological Sex- released in February, 2024.--As then former Vice-President Joe Biden was running for the presidency, he said that -transgender rights are the civil rights issue of our time.- Since being awarded the White House, he has made great efforts to transform government, our society, schools, sports and even medicine as he has carried through on his promise of advancing and seeking to normalize something which is not normal spiritually, mentally or even biologically. His administration has often claimed that gender transition procedures are -necessary- and has even used the phrase -life-saving.- Without body mutilating surgeries or the blocking of hormones or taking opposite sex hormones, his administration has warned of depression and even suicidal death.--While the Department of Health and Human Services continues to advance their so called -gender affirming care,- a doctor's group has issued their own position paper titled -Mental health in Adolescents with Incongruence of Gender Identity and Biological Sex- and it doesn't fit the Biden Administration narrative.

Dr. Jane Anderson is Vice President of the American College of Pediatricians and Lead Author of their Position Statement, -Mental Health in Adolescents with Incongruence of Gender Identity and Biological Sex- released in February, 2024.--As then former Vice-President Joe Biden was running for the presidency, he said that -transgender rights are the civil rights issue of our time.- Since being awarded the White House, he has made great efforts to transform government, our society, schools, sports and even medicine as he has carried through on his promise of advancing and seeking to normalize something which is not normal spiritually, mentally or even biologically. His administration has often claimed that gender transition procedures are -necessary- and has even used the phrase -life-saving.- Without body mutilating surgeries or the blocking of hormones or taking opposite sex hormones, his administration has warned of depression and even suicidal death.--While the Department of Health and Human Services continues to advance their so called -gender affirming care,- a doctor's group has issued their own position paper titled -Mental health in Adolescents with Incongruence of Gender Identity and Biological Sex- and it doesn't fit the Biden Administration narrative.

This is such a powerful concept because, through Emergence principle, you know that life doesn't happen to you, it happens through you. All of life is pouring through and as you, or at least trying according to a Divine pattern. You don't experience life directly. You experience your perception of life, or experience life through your filters. Never is there a life outside, happening to you, although that is the illusion. There is a Divine pattern and idea, a real purpose and destiny. It's always seeking to make you congruent to the blueprint or the self-concept that you have accepted, and that is a part of and active in your consciousness. Like the principle of homeostasis, it's always trying to bring us back to a state of balance. This mechanism within you is always trying to make you congruent. For example, if you have a blueprint or self-concept that, “I'm not good with money” or, “I'm not good with money, money is hard, etc.”, when it comes to money, even if you do all the right things to make money, it will be on the path out your doorway as fast as possible. Even if you're given money or win the lottery, as we've seen many times. Why? Because that same mechanism is working 24/7 to bring you back into congruence with that self-concept or blueprint. This is why that saying says, “He or she who is right in mind, they can do all the wrong things and it will turn out right; but, he or she who is wrong in mind, they can do all the right things, it will turn out wrong.” Why? Whatever your self-concept or blueprint is, if you're trying to do a bunch of actions that aren't in integrity with it and you're not changing the blueprint, your life is going to come back into integrity with that. In addition, if you're doing all these things and maybe, even in the case where you have all kinds of what the world would say good things – you have money, you have family, you have opportunity – but you're still unhappy, there's something in your blueprint and self-concept that you're not pursuing or not fulfilling. Your work is to come into ever increasing and inner alignment to condition yourselves, so that you feel, believe and see yourself with a blueprint that matches your highest good and highest desire. The law of life operates automatically on that to bring your experience into congruence with it. You'll never be truly satisfied or fulfilled if your blueprint doesn't match, or isn't increasingly coming into alignment with, the grand blueprint. "That true joy and happiness is on that emerging edge of ever-expanding, ever-evolving increase, and progress." The first step is to look at your own inner self-concept, your own inner blueprint and see if it is in alignment with your highest and greatest desires or have you acquiesced to limiting conditioning. Are you merely trying to change the outer world while remaining the same? Are you just trying to lose weight or make money or win friends and influence others when internally you believe you're not worthy, capable, or unable? That's like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. The ship is going down no matter what you do externally. You need to plug the holes internally. You need to redesign your inner self-concept and blueprint. Finally, when you do that, you don't have to make it happen. You are making it welcome in the law of life. The law of mind operates upon that newly-enhanced blueprint and brings your life into integrity – into congruence with it. To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer. Like this episode? Please rate it, post a review, and share it! Want more free trainings? Check out my free training page: https://derekrydall.com/free-trainings Get a copy of my best-selling book, EMERGENCE, and $1791 in huge bonuses! https://myemergencebook.com Get a copy of my best-selling book, THE ABUNDANCE PROJECT and $891 in amazing bonuses! https://theabundanceprojectbook.com Subscribe to Podcast here, or subscribe in iTunes or Stitcher, via email or Android: https://derekrydall.com/subscribe-to-podcast

Part 2. It suggested that you listen to episode 346, just before this one to get the full picture, the entire story.In this episode, Daniel D'Neuville continues the conversation around pain and pleasure as motivators and how to overcome uncomfortable feelings and sensations to bring ourselves into alignment with our desired outcomes.This process has applications to manifesting, over-coming procrastination, goal setting, and the law of attraction.MINDSET: Every negative kinesthetic./feeling/sensation is an indication that we have an error in our thinking. We're focusing on the wrong thing, we're misdirecting our resources.Daniel references a list of undesirable or uncomfortable sensations/feelings and how to overcome them to move into alignment.1. Overwhelm vs. Manageability2. Confusion vs. Clarity3. Ambiguity vs. Certainty4. Uneasiness vs. Comfort5. Incongruence vs. Congruence6. Fear of Failure vs. Acceptance of Imperfection7. Perfectionism vs. Realistic Expectations8. Lack of Motivation vs. Intrinsic Interest/Desire9. Imposter Syndrome vs. Self-Efficacy10 Discomfort with the Task vs. Eagerness to Challenge Self/GamificationLINKSSUBCONSCIOUS MIND POWER PROGRAMGet The Manifesting Study Guide Here: THE ALIGNED SELF COACHING PROGRAM: http://yesdaniel.comFREE VIDEO TRAINING: 5 Mindset Shifts to UpGrade Your Money GameCheckout Daniel's new membership program THE NEXUS MEMBERSHIPDANIEL D'NEUVILLE's WEBSITE: http://dneuville.comDaniel's YouTube CHANNELFACEBOOK GROUPSPODCAST LISTENER'S FB COMMUNITYEXTREME GRATITUDE PROJECTBass Slap Intro written and performed by bass player & producer: Miki SantamariaMiki's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tune in to this unfiltered, unedited, very raw reflection coming to you from my bathtub... I'm sharing the possible incongruence I've been witnessing in the heart led biz/coaching spaceIf you're feeling the call to swap hustle for heart and finally get your head out of the way of your heart led business then I invite you to join me inside The Embodied Reset Presale pricing on now until Dec 12/23 >> The Embodied Reset ..Connect with me on IG (@nicolepasveer)Want to be a guest on the podcast? Fill out this form

In this episode, Taylor talks about whiplash women experience around their sexuality, and how to feel more empowered being a sexually expressed and liberated woman.Click this link to book a call:www.upgradewithtaylor.com/30m-consult

Hope Ray, LPC CSAT CHFP CCPS is a therapist, theoretician and the pioneer of Complex Partner Trauma (CPT), a complete framework that pinpoints the endangerment betrayed partners face when their significant others use abusive deception to hide fidelity violating behavior. In 2023, Hope established the Betrayal Violence Institute (BVI) an interdisciplinary network that provides definitions and education for mental health clinicians + coaches, medical + legal professionals, faith-based + community organizations, and general society to better understand the conduct and impact of secret infidelity in intimate relationships. Hope is the creator of Complex Partner Trauma Magazine, a publication for betrayed women and the host of Women Who Discover, a private podcast about infidelity betrayal available on her website along with other programs and resources. Today we are talking about Hope's new model for understanding chronic infidelity that positions it as violence. Dr. Kate and Hope talk about the definition of betrayal violence, which is not usually physical violence, but emotional violence. It is about keeping secrets from your partner on an on-going basis, and always denying any allegations. They also talk about the emotional fallout of partners putting a wall up and withdrawing into their lies, and leaving the partner cheated on in a state of mental confusion. Hope describes DIRE, the traits that exist in this personality profile of a cheater, betrayer: Detachment, Incongruence, Regression, Entitlement They also talk about Victims going through CPT (Complex Partner Trauma) which includes being left in the dark, when you start to see evidence, when you can see the totality of what is going on and when you can begin to heal and set boundaries. It is an important discussion and listeners may relate to some of the signs happening in their relationship.  Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com The Get Naked Podcast listeners can download a free printable booklet from Hope Ray about betrayal violence here: www.hoperay.com/getnaked  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: Hello Fresh: Go to www.HelloFresh.com/50getnaked and use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Let's talk about congruence and the importance of aligning your actions with your beliefs and values. Incongruence can hold you back, so learning to let go of habits and items that no longer serve you is key to becoming unapologetically unstoppable. Tune in and share this episode with someone who needs to hear about the importance of congruence in their life and business.In this episode: Being in harmony with who you are and what you believe in and aligning your actions with your values.Recognizing areas of incongruence in your life -and business- and taking steps to let go of them. Incongruence can hinder your growth.Embracing the process of change and growth"What in your life and in your business are you incongruent about? What are the things you're doing that don't match up with who you are trying to be, who you are growing into, who God created you to be?" "If I want to be the things I want to be, where God is taking me, there are things I have to let go of." " I'm going to this new promised land that God has for me. And I can't bring that [incongruence] with me."In this Episode:Download your 40 powerful prayers here: https://www.jeanettepeterson.com/prayersMentioned in this episode:Prayers

This is The Briefing, a daily analysis of news and events from a Christian worldview.Part I (00:13 - 12:03) Are Americans Losing Their Religion? Big Questions Arise Over Secularization in the United StatesAmerica Is Losing Religious Faith by New York Times (Nicholas Kristof)Part II (12:03 - 20:25) The Incongruence of Belonging Without Belief: What the Apparent Decline of Christianity the US RevealsI left the church — and now long for a ‘church for the nones' by The Washington Post (Perry Bacon Jr.)Part III (20:25 - 26:10) India Wins a Lap in the Space Race Against Russia — But the Moon Race is About Much More than National PrideSign up to receive The Briefing in your inbox every weekday morning.Follow Dr. Mohler:Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFor more information on The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, go to sbts.edu.For more information on Boyce College, just go to BoyceCollege.com.To write Dr. Mohler or submit a question for The Mailbox, go here.

Jonathan is joined by Pieter Valk for a conversation about how churches that adhere to traditional Christian teaching on sexuality and sexual ethics can care for and support gay and trans Christians. Pieter Valk is the founder and director of Equip, a consulting ministry aimed at helping churches to be places where gay and LGBT Christians can thrive in line with the church's traditional and historic sexual ethic. Valk is also the founder of the Family of Brothers, an organisation aimed at fostering family and community among men called to vocational singleness. The Political Animals is hosted by Dr Jonathan Cole, a scholar, writer and translator specialising in political theology: the intersection of religion and politics. Jonathan was a senior terrorism analyst at Australian intelligence agency the Office of National Assessments where he worked on Islamist terrorism and the global jihadist movement. He is the author of The Reign of God: A Critical Engagement with Oliver O'Donovan's Theology of Political Authority and Christian Political Theology in an Age of Discontent: Mediating Scripture, Doctrine, and Political Reality. You can follow Jonathan and the show on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Dr Jack Kruse joins me in an epic three-hour interview to weave the story of human evolution fundamentally tied to light. He describes our transition from furry ground dwelling mammals to upright walking primates, the critical role of the POMC gene, melanin and function of mitochondria as producers of endogenous light, as well as the distortion of the light environment as the key underlying driver of modern chronic disease.Dr Jack Kruse is a neurosurgeon, biophysicist, health optimisation researcher and founding father of the circadian health / mitochondrial medicine movement. This is the first in a series of interviews with Dr Kruse that will also cover water and magnetism, two further installments in a trilogy that strongly challenges the centrality of diet as the chief determinant of optimal health. Stay tuned for further episodes. *This is not a podcast for beginners, and if you want the cliff notes I'd suggest watching Dr Max's summary takes and the closing thoughts. Some explicit language in this interview – Dr Jack is extremely passionate!TIMESTAMPS00:00:00 Dr Max's intro00:05:11 Dr Kruse's backstory00:10:22 Differences between centralized and decentralized medicine00:12:32 Incongruence in Darwin's theories of evolution00:13:27 Evolution of mammals from ground dwelling creatures00:17:57 The POMC gene and its cleavage products allowed mammals to survive the dinosaur extinction event00:28:12 POMC, the leptin melanocortin pathway and human metabolism00:34:37 POMC and autoimmunity00:38:42 To understand the effect of light on biology, we need to understand physics00:41:15 UV light from the sun is critical to stimulating POMC00:46:42 Robert O. Becker's research on bioelectrics and cellular DC electric current00:50:22 POMC, melanin and biological semi-conductors00:59:52 Dr Max's summary of the first hour01:05:05 What is leptin and its function?01:12:28 All mammalian cells generate UV light in the mitochondria and use it to signal01:19:27 The biological function of melanin01:26:19 Dr Max's summary of the function of leptin01:30:05 Reversing vitiligo, grey hair & melanin loss with sun & UV light01:36:43 Melanoma develops in absence of full spectrum (red/infrared) sunlight01:39:38 Dr Max's summary of the first 1.5 hours01:41:22 What are mitochondria?01:47:29 Competing theories on the factors that influenced development of human brain01:49:27 History of biological semi-conductors and importance of DHA in the SN2 position01:56:36 Photoreceptors, neuropsin and mental health conditions 02:08:00 Incongruent light signals between eye and skin creates disease02:12:47 The harms of taking exogenous melatonin02:17:52 Why blocking UV light causes melanoma02:24:32 Rebuttals to ‘light causes all diseases' point of view02:38:42 Understanding light is critical to understanding the root causes of patients diseases02:54:03 Dr Kruse's take on premature male pattern balding and refractory error aka ‘soyjak meme'02:59:49 Why we see low serum Vitamin D in overweight or obese people03:04:49 Dr Jack's closing thoughts03:08:02 Three actionable steps for the listener FURTHER READINGSee Youtube show notes for full list - unable to fit here

Kelly and Chip welcome Dr. Hayden Shafer, an assistant professor at Vanderbilt University Medical Center who provides care through the Program for LGBTQ Health, specializing in delivery of primary care and gender affirming treatments across the state. Dr. Shafer speaks from his medical experience working with patients dealing with gender incongruence and educates the duo on the multi- layered process that isn't typically discussed in our culture. He gives examples and some shocking statics, using science and medicine to hopefully bring light to a community that many of us still know little about. This podcast is meant to shine light on gender incongruence, transgender people and their friends and families to better understand their battles, feelings and lifelong processes that are so often overlooked in media and politics.    Resources: Trevorproject.org LGBTQ provider profile  AAFP    Follow Kelly: @velvetsedge  Follow Chip: @chipdorsch Email: theedge@velvetsedge.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Energy is everywhere, whether we realize it or not and these unseen frequencies have a very real and tangible effect on every aspect of our lives, both internally + externally. Regardless of your level of awareness of your own personal energy or that of those around you, we are all emitting signals every moment of every day and those signals flavor our experiences of ourselves and our interactions with others. Join Vicki, Jo, and their special guest Cat McElveen (Tabwoo Institute Transformation Guide), through this conversation of how to cultivate energetic awareness, how to recognize when we are energetically congruent or incongruent, and how our thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and identity scripts play a key role in the way we carry ourselves and the behavior we act out on a daily basis. We explore the difference between the never-ending search to become fully healed and a devotional practice to being fully human, and how the former doesn't specifically lead to attaining “more” healing or “more” enlightenment. You'll also discover how energetic flexibility leads to an overall happier, more fulfilling and creative life, and how to maneuver through the full range of human emotions with self-acceptance. We want to hear from YOU! Join us inside our FREE Tabwoo Telegram Group so we can continue this conversation and support you! Also, screenshot this episode as you tune in and share your #1 takeaway (and tag @lexidangelo and @tabwooinstitute). Get More Cat: Instagram: @catmcelveen Website: www.catmcelveen.com Get More Tabwoo: Website: www.lexidangelo.com Instagram: @lexidangelo and @tabwooinstitute Tabwoo Insiders FREE Telegram Group: bit.ly/tabwoo-telegram Realms Quiz: lexidangelo.com/quiz Certification Program: The Transformational Arts Level I + II Certification

The Crisis of Incongruence - The Hidden Cause of Unhappiness This is such a powerful concept because, through Emergence principle, you know that life doesn't happen to you, it happens through you. All of life is pouring through and as you, or at least trying according to a Divine pattern. You don't experience life directly. You experience your perception of life, or experience life through your filters. Never is there a life outside, happening to you, although that is the illusion. There is a Divine pattern and idea, a real purpose and destiny. It's always seeking to make you

Tune in this week for a deeper understanding of the psychological tension that keeps people going back to porn time and time again. We're discussing why simply changing the behavior of viewing porn isn't going to help with the discomfort of moral incongruence, and Ryan is sharing what the research says is the best way to approach changing your pornography use.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/moral-incongruence-ryan-hewitt

In the past you've heard me mention what is called Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria. Simply stated, Rapid onset gender dysphoria is spreading as an identity option among the population of teens and young teens as a result of the influence of peers and social media. Of course, when we teach the traditional biblical view on gender we teach that God created human beings on the gender binary, as either male of female. Sadly, our culture sees God's order and design as outdated and constricting. A group of French medical professionals has released this statement: Parents addressing their children's questions about transgender identity or associated distress should remain vigilant regarding the addictive role of excessive engagement with social media, which is both harmful to the psychological development of young people and is responsible for a very significant part of the growing sense of gender incongruence. Parents, teach your kids to embrace and live into God's good design for their bodies.

How do you best assist a church member who discloses that they are experiencing gender incongruence? How do we show compassion and care with people where you disagree with the choices they might be making? How do we lead others in the church to do the same? What advice do you have about seeking to provide an environment that does not exacerbate a person's distress. How do we rid our churches of any bullying, ridicule, mistreatment, and abuse of gender non-conforming people. How do we differentiate between compassion for the person, including an understanding of the distress of their situation or condition, and agreeing with, celebrating, or validating any treatment protocol for transition. Sam Allberry is a pastor, apologist and author.  His latest book is ‘What God has to say about our bodies.' (https://bit.ly/3OFp5wF)http://www.thepastorsheart.net/podcast/gender-incongruence-allberry(Dominic Steele chairs the Sydney Anglican Council of Living Faith, which seeks to minister to Christians experiencing attraction to the same sex or gender incongruence http://www.livingfaith.online).Support the show

Amber joins us to talk about Madison Cawthorne wearing ladies undies and the more important issues surrounding the science and debate around gender incongruence.  Gender incongruence (GI) is defined as a condition in which the gender identity of a person does not align with the gender assigned at birthAbstract on Amber's book, Hiding from MyselfIn nearly an instant I had conquered my lifelong insecurities, fears, and demons by facing them with unapologetic authenticity. I was confidently staring down a societal construct that immersed itself in long-held sexual and gender-related mythology and ignorance. Had I finally overcome the mortal heartache of being a person who to me was anything but natural? Or was I about to be sideswiped by more adversity than I could have ever possibly imagined?This must-read book will help extricate you from your irrational fears and help you uncover the courage and confidence hidden within you to become your best version—unapologetically you. It will help you discover a new understanding of the world, and yourself, all through the lens of one woman's rebirth into the person she was always meant to be.Happy Mothers Day to all the moms!!★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This is one of the most incredible stories of fleeing a communist country I've ever heard. Please enjoy listening to Thomas Lao's story and learning from him! There's a link to his LinkedIn if you want to connect with him. NOTES Covid-19 predictions Personal Protective Equipment Thomas Business - 99 Universal - https://www.linkedin.com/in/thomas-kiang-lao-2185226/ Mastering Q&A How he got his PhD - Poor Hungry and Driven This is the beginning of a graphic story... Communism and Cambodia in mid-70's Critical Thinking vs. Feelings  Critical Race Theory  Education issues What is life? Why did I have to suffer?  ~MInute 32 begins the story of Thomas getting out of Cambodia Fear of Hunger Two movies that do a good job depicting life during the 1970's in Cambodia:  Angelina Jolie movie is close to real - First They Killed My Father The Killing Fields Highway 4 - Small Row Boat - Commercial Fisherman Thailand camp Illiterate in USA. Found food and freedom.  Increase gratitude and appreciation.  Suffering is universal cause of suffering stems from desires of wants there's a cause and end, knowledge.  Leaning to be at peace Law of Nature - Karma. Say and do good things. Be a profession that does no harm. Incongruence with peace is bad.  Law of Causality - Charity work. 5% to charity. Medical Missions. Build monasteries - a place to seek God.  We do things to satisfy ourselves Does your path give you peace? Simple, yet difficult: 5 virtures no killing no stealing sexual misconduct no lying abstain from wine/intoxication Be mindful as possible, the heart of an angel  Bali: a sense of shame with a moral calm Reasons people come to us: Take payment for past wrongdoing. satisfied and then move on. For the greater good. Build/create together. 

The role of incongruent data and the hypothesis of common design as two barriers to assuming the shared biological similarities support the theory of universal common ancestry.

This week, I'm tackling what I believe is the world's number one coaching business killer.It's the one thing that will slow you down to the point of hopelessness, and it's time to address it.Discover how to channel radical result honesty and why it makes the solutions to the results you want so incredibly simple. Find links to everything mentioned in this episode here:  https://www.simonegraceseol.com/177

In this episode of The TEN, we discuss the gross inconsistencies and incongruence of state and federal government in Australia. State leaders happy to isolate their states from the rest of the country as the storyline wheels start to fall off. How much longer will Australians put up with politicians controlling their lives and not showing any accountability? We play clips from state and fed leaders as well as England's House of commons upon their complete removal of mandates as we head towards a mandated third shot of what is an ineffective product. ----------------------------- DM any questions for Q&A to our Instagram page @10podcast You can find us on Instagram (@10thplanetmelbourne) // (@Mannyzen) If you would like to support the show. Please tell a friend and/or leave us a 5 star review. Keep it 10!

Do you want to shield your animal from your feelings? That is a noble idea. But by hiding your feelings you become incongruent. When your feelings don't match up with your actions your animal gets concerned. The neat thing is, unlike us, animals don't judge our feelings. Don't hide your feelings. Talk to your animal, be honest and real and your animal can handle it just fine. Show notes available here: https://www.mindful-connections.com/post/energetic-incongruence

Dr Isabelle Hénault, is the Director of the Autism & Asperger's Clinic at Montreal. She is a sexologist and psychologist from the University of Québec at Montréal, Canada. Her practice and studies have focused on providing diagnosis, education and support to children,adolescents, adults and couples living with Autism and Asperger's Syndrome. Dr. Hénault has developed a relationship and sex education program and works with individuals and groups to increase their understanding of sexuality and conducts relationship counseling. Asperger Syndrome and Sexuality was her first publication (with Jessica Kingsley Publisher in 2005). She is presently collaborating on numerous international research initiatives involving socio-sexual education, interpersonal relationships and gender identity. Dr. Hénault is the co-author of The Autism Spectrum, Sexuality and the Law (Attwood, Hénault &Dubin) published by Jessica Kingsley Publisher, London (2014). In 2020 she published a bookthat was co-authored on the Female profile of Asperger syndrome (Hénault & Martin) atChenelière Education.Contact Information:Clinique Autisme et Asperger de Montréalhttp://www.clinique-autisme-asperger-mtl.ca/514 990-3373Here are links to resources that Isabelle mentions during this episode:Initial Clinical Guidelines for Co-Occurring Autism Spectrum Disorder and Gender Dysphoria or Incongruence in Adolescents“I Don't Feel Like a Gender, I Feel Like Myself”: Autistic Individuals Raised as Girls Exploring Gender Identity

How do you use neuroscience in market research? How should various research techniques get combined to better understand how a consumer experiences a product? What is sensory footprint and brand harmony? How do senses contribute to a congruent brand experience? How would this apply on online shopping experience ? Michelle answers the above questions as she takes us into a fascinating world of application of neuroscience in market research and sensory marketing. Michelle (Murphy) Niedziela, PhD is VP of Research & Innovation at HCD Research. She is a Consumer Behavioral Neuroscientist and Research Innovation Specialist. You can connect with Michelle at Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-niedziela-phd-b581a712/ Email Michelle at mcmurphy.phd@gmail.com You can visit her company HCD Research blog at www.hcdi.net/blog You can follow HCD Research on Twitter (@HCDResearchInc & @HCDNeuroscience), HCD Linkedin page is https://www.linkedin.com/company/hcd-research/ Jagged with Jasravee is facilitated by Jasravee Kaur Chandra, Director- Brand Building, Research & Innovation at Master Sun, Consulting Brand of Adiva L Pvt. Ltd. Jasravee has over 20 years experience as a Strategic Brand Builder,Communications Leader and Entrepreneur. Please connect with Jasravee on Linkedin at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jasravee/ Email Jasravee at jasravee@theadiva.com 0:00 Preview and Introduction to Michelle 1:31 Market Research Techniques incorporating Neuroscience 6:51 Application of Neuroscience in Market Research -Decision Making, Importance of Context, Action Standards 14:56 Sensory Marketing - Sensory Footprint, Incongruence decreases Purchase Intent 19:38 Online Sensory Marketing 22:42 Sensory Marketing in E-commerce - Metaverse, Augmented Reality 27:05 Examples of Brands doing great Sensory Marketing 30:29 Effective Sensory Marketing - Collaboration of Marketing and R&D 31:54 Talent Show by Michelle - Argentine Tango 34:33 Rapid Fire - Personally Speaking with Michelle 37:00 How to Get in Touch with Michelle Follow Jagged with Jasravee on Social Media Facebook Page : https://www.facebook.com/jaggedwithjasravee Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/jagggedwithjasravee/ Podcast Page : https://anchor.fm/jagged-with-jasravee Youtube Page : https://www.youtube.com/c/jaggedwithjasravee Linktree : https://linktr.ee/jaggedwithjasravee Jagged with Jasravee, is an initiative of Master Sun, the Consulting Brand of Adiva Lifestyle Pvt Ltd. Please visit our blog at http://www.mastersun.in/ #sensorybranding #neuroscience #marketresearch

How many leaders are experiencing burnout these days?Burnout doesn't just happen to us - it occurs because of patterns & systems that aren't working to our benefit. This week, Andy walks us through 4 patterns that most often lead to burnout and practical ways to mitigate its effects in your work, life, and relationship. In this episode you'll hear:When stress becomes toxic. Andy describes why stress is good the positive effects it can have on the brain. He then dives into patterns that lead to toxic stress and explores two habits you can adopt to get your body to baseline and become a more effective leader. Who you have to be vs who you are. Leaders are drained of their energy by holding onto responsibilities that they shouldn't because they don't know how to let go and trust. Incongruence between what is on the inside and what's on the outside. Andy lays our 1 x 2 rule - learn to be honest yourself and 2 other people to create a rhythm of connecting, engaging, and gaining foresight from these trusted people in your life. Addiction to the highs and lows of leadership. Many leaders live life “flatlined” because they've learned to numb their lows and have unintentionally numbed their highs.How to find, and maintain balance. Andy shares 4 direct responses to these toxic behaviors and our lives and how leaders can embrace the demands of leadership in a healthy and whole way.  

Are you committed to being a humble leader? Do you want to build a culture in your organization that will help you grow and scale? Are you looking to enhance and accelerate your leadership and impact? Our special guest Tim Toterhi answers these and other questions about leadership, culture and business growth. Tim Toterhi is an HR consultant specializing in talent and performance management. He's also a fractional CHRO, career advisor, author (non-fiction and fiction), and the Founder of Plotline Leadership. Over his impactful career, Tim has helped grow and scale a wide range of businesses and knows well the vital role of culture in growth and scaling. Ever the contrarian, Tim approaches his practice with a playful smile and an eyebrow up.  The Leadership Junkies Podcast is brought to you by Cardivera.com. Show Notes Episode highlights… The truth that HR leaders have a seat at the leadership table HR leaders need to approach their role differently Navigating the HR reality that you can't do tactics and strategy at the same time (being ruthless with your time and responsibilities) People impact takes much less time than you think (feedback doesn't have to take lots of time) Scheduling feedback takes more time than in the moment feedback The three forms of leadership: 1. Ordained a leader; 2. Step up to lead in the moment (opportunistic); 3. Earned leadership role The role of and path to humble leadership (learn on the job, develop workarounds, trust your team) Authenticity alone is not enough in leadership The fallacies of faking it until you make it in leadership Leadership lessons from the martial arts Humble leaders continue to earn the right to lead Leaders must avoid the illusion of completeness (the belief that you're done with learning and growing) Leaders must be experts at workarounds (navigating unique challenges and developing unique / different solutions) Humble leadership is belts off leadership (always be open to learning from anyone, everyone and everywhere … no matter position or experience) Leaders must model what they want to create Implementing belts off leadership in your organization The truth that cultural change can happen on a dime (making sure that your culture trailer matches your culture movie) Incongruence as a culture killer Clarity of mission, vision and values must integrate with consistently living them The importance of aligning culture with performance and compensation Leaders must learn to listen differently Role of culture in growing and scaling Using role profiles over job descriptions If you want to scale your business, scale your people Billy Joel wisdom … “Don't take no shit from nobody” Resources: Tim Toterhi Tim Toterhi Website Plotline Leadership Website The Twenty Guiding Principles of Karate: The Spiritual Legacy of the Master Book The Leadership Junkies Podcast Cardivera Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My friends Bree and Kit share their story as a couple with Bree's gender incongruence/gender dysphoria. Bree talks about the shame, guilt and fear of 40+ years dealing with this and then eventually coming out to Kit. Kit and Bree talk about how their marriage is now even stronger and how they are moving forward. Bree talks about what it is like to deal with gender incongruence and the relief, healing of being more authentic. Bree talks about remaining an active Latter-day Saint and a recent Stake Leader Training where Bree spoke about being transgender and how to better minister to LGBTQ Latter-day Saints. Bree is on the Board at NorthStar (see https://www.northstarlds.org/bree-bruce) and talks about the healing role of NorthStar. Thank you Bree and Kit for being on the podcast and sharing your story. You help all of us to better understand that gender incongruence is real and how we can better support—and better see the contribution of transgender Latter-day Saints.

You are worthy of a life you enjoy living! Congruency is the heartbeat of my company and my values, but that begs the question: what is it? Join me as we discuss the value of Congruence in your life. I also talk about what Incongruence looks like and how to avoid it. It's your life and your values – let's unpack steps to ensure you live in congruence every day. I've also got a Coaching Nugget to help you unpack a surprising block to professional – and personal – success. PS: Don't miss Client Love: Tales from my Inbox!  A great reminder of what's possible for you, too!  Talking Points: Career Transition, Career Change, Career Advancement, Job Search Tips, Job Search, Entrepreneur, Business Launch, Professional Success, #InThisTogether, #NuggetsfromNicole, Congruence, Incongruence, Unforgiveness Here's what we will be covering today:(00:00) - Intro(02:37) - Congruence Defined(05:05) - Incongruence Defined(07:33) - Why Does Incongruence Show Up In Our Lives Anyway?(013:37) - More Reasons For Incongruence(20:03) - An Incongruence Case Study(23:30) - Coaching Nugget: Is Unforgiveness Blocking Your Job Search?(32:43) - Tales From My Inbox(34:27) - Got A Question About Career Transition?(35:18) - So...Now What?Resources from today's episode: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/forgiveness/definition - The Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley: What is Forgiveness? https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692 - The Mayo Clinic: Forgiveness- Letting Go of Grudges and Bitternesshttps://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/forgiveness-your-health-depends-on-it - John Hopkins Medicine: Forgiveness-Your Health Depends on It Have a question about Career Transition? Leave a message here and my production team and I will review them, and I may answer your question on a future show:https://www.speakpipe.com/CongruentConversations - Send in your questions on SpeakPipe! Are we connected on LinkedIn? If not, let's get connected! Connect with me here for more tips and guidance in your Job Search or Business Launch. PS: Mention the podcast when you connect! https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicoleadunbar/ - My Personal LinkedIn!https://www.linkedin.com/company/congruency-incorporated - Congruency International, LLC on LinkedIn! https://congruentconversationsthecareertransitionpodcast.buzzsprout.com/ - Sharing is caring!  Don't forget to tell a friend about the podcast!

Amber Rose Washington is the author of the bestselling book, "Hiding From Myself: My Complicated Rebirth into Womanhood and My Own Skin. She is also a songwriter, producer, VO Artist, A&R, public speaker, and advocate for the transgender community.  Listen as Amber shares her powerful story of growing up in the Catskills Region of New York State, being bullied, coming out as transgender, her spiritual/religious evolution, and how she advocates for the transgender community. 

March 16, 2021 Show 1009. Sex and gender may seem to be simple; we are told there are men and there are women. However, according to scientists, medical and mental health professionals, and others who specialize in human development, the reality is much more complicated. Anne Dilenschneider, PhD, LPC-MH, WPATH Certified Gender Specialist, joins us to explain. In Their Own Words then brings us a bill (HB 1217) promoting fairness in women's sports. Critics say the bill targets transgender South Dakotans. Shawn Moore was a police officer in the Twin Cities for 10 years. As senior pastor of Living Spirit United Methodist Church in Minneapolis and an instructor of reconciliation studies at Bethel University and criminal justice and diversity at Metropolitan State University , he continues to work with law enforcement officials in the area of implicit bias training. Moore gives the Dakota Wesleyan University Stark Lecture via livestream at www.DWU.edu/live this Thursday night at 7:00.

How Spiritual Egotism Can Influence Your Life Both on and off-line In this episode, I'm in the presence of some great minds and dear friends. We talk about Spiritual Egotism. We talk about some deep topics and how being in spiritual alignment can help you create better rapport. We discuss both spiritual aspects and their science links. Brain science and human behaviour. You'll be able to see great synergy between the topics discussed. In no particular order, we cover the following topics. - What is it? - If spiritual ego exists then is it really spiritual? - Why it's important to be authentic in the digital space - Digital footprint - people see, what you show them, they will only know what you do if you tell them - How people are one way online and another way offline - Person? Personality? Archetype? - Online influence and impact (intentional and unintentional) - Believing that your connection with the Divine is somehow deeper or more special than other people’s connection - Directly or indirectly claiming a stance of superiority over another due to ones own projected perceptions - What do we mean by ego or is it actually pride? - Are people aware of it? - Why they might not be? - If people are spiritual then how come they may not be aware of it? - Incongruence? really spiritual? (Ethics) - Do they focus more on how “more spiritually evolved” they are than others? - Attempting to look like, dress like sound like a “spiritual” person, adopted persona - Flaunting how spiritual you are on social media (with photos that demonstrate spiritual postures, setups, locations, tools, etc.) - New knowledge / Becoming overly identified with spiritual knowledge (and how much “you” know) - Wearing a mask of niceness, positivity or wisdom, real self? honestly, expressing oneself? - Heard affect - watching other thinking we have to be like that - Level of thinking - What drives thats >>> ego clubhouse - Know thy self - Ethics around one's meaning and model of the world - How spiritual alignment can help you create deep rapport? - Stages of ego, identity - How does it play out in the real world - Why do we do what we do >>> - The shadow side / dark side of the ego (positive and negative) Marilyn Devonish - International speaker, Author, The NeuroSuccess Coach - https://www.tranceformationstm.com/ Sifu Lak Loi - JKD Trainer, Author, True White Collar Warrior - http://www.martialmindpower.com Sukhi Wahiwal - Business Mentor, International Speaker and Human Behaviour Expert - http://www.sukhiwahiwala.com Jatinder Palaha - Digital Busines Coach, Web Revenue Strategist, Author - http://www.jatinderpalaha.com

Ο Γιώργος και η Ελεάννα καλούν στο στούντιο τον φίλο τους Ιούλιο και συζητούν μαζί του πώς είναι να μεγαλώνεις ως trans αγόρι σε ελληνικό σχολείο. Στο ίδιο επεισόδιο μοιράζεται την ιστορία του ο Αμερικανός RJ o οποίος ενώ γεννήθηκε κορίτσι, πάντα ένιωθε ότι είναι αγόρι και ο Μάρκος που περιγράφει τις δικές του δυσκολίες με την δυσφορία φύλου. Ένα επεισόδιο που εστιάζει στο κομμάτι της αποδοχής για όλους εκείνους που δεν αυτοπροσδιορίζονται ως προς το κοινωνικό τους φύλο με τον ίδιο τρόπο με το βιολογικό τους φύλο. Το Sex Education podcast είναι μία παραγωγή του pod.gr  σε συνεργασία με την Στέγη του Ιδρύματος Ωνάση.Παρουσιαστές: Γιώργος Αραβώσης, Ελεάννα ΠαπαδοκωστάκηΕπιστημονικοί Συνεργάτες: -Ιωάννα Γιαννοπούλου, επίκουρη καθηγήτρια Παιδοψυχιατρικής της Ιατρικής Σχολής του Πανεπιστημίου Αθηνών-Μαργαρίτα Γερούκη, εκπαιδευτικός, διδάκτωρ του Πανεπιστημίου του Ελσίνκι-Αναστάσης Σπηλιάδης, ψυχολόγος, επισκέπτης λέκτορας του Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology & Neuroscience στο King's College του ΛονδίνουΤα στοιχεία που αναφέραμε σ᾽αυτό το επεισόδιο είναι από:The Trans Train 2 Trans Kids: It's Time To TalkTransgender Kids: Who Knows Best?Memorandum of Understanding on Conversion Therapy in the UK The Gender Affirmative Model: What We Know and What We Aim to Learn 'Taking the lid off the box': The value of extended clinical assessment for adolescents presenting with gender identity difficultiesGender dysphoria in childhoodThe complexity of childhood gender dysphoriaEthical issues arising in the provision of medical interventions for gender diverse children and adolescentsEvidence for a Change in the Sex Ratio of Children Referred for Gender Dysphoria: Data From the Gender Identity Development Service in London (2000–2017)Initial Clinical Guidelines for Co-Occurring Autism Spectrum Disorder and Gender Dysphoria or Incongruence in Adolescents

Incongruence alert. Betsy’s Memoirs. by The Tanster

Today’s advanced digital age has changed the way we find clients and do sales. Using social networks to find, connect with and nurture sales prospects is an art that must be practiced. With the numerous platforms online, LinkedIn is the largest online networking site in the world. Putting up a profile and posting content isn’t enough. What’s important is to really connect with people coming from a place of genuine generosity.   In this episode, we assess how you can use your LinkedIn profile to attract clients and help grow your business by optimizing your profile, creating content that relates to your ideal client, and genuinely connecting with people. Connect and converse with people as if you were in a room with them. LinkedIn is the world’s largest networking site. So treat it like one. WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE: Nailing one social media platform before picking up more (2:55) Opportunities on LinkedIn (4:14) Your LinkedIn headline (6:12) Should your LinkedIn profile be your online resume? (7:04) Position your LinkedIn profile as a sales resource (7:26) Incongruence is a red flag (8:00) Using your banner as prime real estate (9:00) Commenting on other peoples content (10:30) Your about section (12:23) Reflecting the pain points of your ideal clients on your profile (13:06) Remember you call to action (13:40) Should you offer a lead magnet on your profile? (14:07) The importance of having a website (16:29) Positioning yourself as the authority (17:28) Publishing regular content (18:10) Long-term strategy: Building trust and authority (19:09) How often should you post content on LinkedIn? (19:43) Having a good mix of content (20:26) The Rule of Thirds for photos and videos (21:15) Engage with people (22:52) Treat LinkedIn as a networking site (24:04) Connecting from a place of genuine generosity (25:10) Know, Like and Trust (21:52) Join the discussion thread for this episode over at The Thought Leaders Business Lab Community Facebook Group. For full show notes and links visit:  https://samanthariley.global/podcast/202-amplify-your-results-on-linkedIn

This is the second part of the Keynote talk I gave to the PSA Ireland event. This is part two – How to Communicate your Message to Create a Community of Raving Fans. This is my message to share with the world. Episode 18 – was part one – How to Create a Community of Raving Fans...so check that out. In this podcast, I ask you if you are operating in a sea of sameness...and what to do about it. I talk about the Elevator Pitch – does it really work? I also introduce you to what I call ‘The U Factor’. It’s something that is missing in traditional marketing message – it’s what makes you YOU! Incongruence in a marketing message hinders your success. Your customers and clients need to know, with 110% clarity, what you do and can do for them. They also need to know you...because that’s how they’ll connect. You deserve success and it starts with your marketing message. It starts here...so you can create a community of raving fans, which results in the holy grail of marketing. I hope you enjoy it as much as my audience did. And my ask of you – if you do, I would love a review. I’d really appreciate that. And then come join the conversation - head over to the Lets Talk Marketing Community, our free, private group on FB. Or chat with me on social. Here's where you'll find me: Website - www.denisefay.com  Facebook  - www.facebook.com/denisefayonline Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/denise_fay_achievemarketing/ Twitter - www.twitter.com/denisefay Linkedin - www.linkedin.com/in/denisefay I mentioned Andrew Dobbin’s podcast – it’s here, Episode 2 - https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/valuable-lessons-in-networking-with-andrew-dobbin/id1455276260?i=1000431525060

What does it mean to hit the 99th percentile in your life and performance?! Find out today when special guest Cheryl Mobley blows your socks off with tips and techniques to re-calibrate your life for success on every level.Please Subscribe to the channel! Hit the Bell for Notifications!You can connect with Cheryl on her LinkedIn page: https://www.linkedin.com/in/recalibratetoday/Check out Cheryl's Be 99 program here: https://www.recalibrate.today/be99-guidingquestionsCheryl's Be 99 wheel at https://www.cheryllynnmobley.com/be99You can also find Vickie Helm in the Success Secrets in Business, Family & Life FB group and page. She hosts The Coffee Break Show every weekday at 1:00pm EST. https://www.facebook.com/metadigmdigital/https://www.facebook.com/groups/successsecretsforbusinessfamilyandlifehttps://www.facebook.com/Coffee-Break-Show-With-Vickie-Helm-109912530804281/ http://www.smartgroupfirm.com/     https://medium.com/@vickiehelm

Dr. Laurie Stephens, Director of Program Development at the Help Group Schools, shares the latest research on gender incongruence and neurodiversity, and discusses what it is like to be someone who is a "double rainbow". Dr. Stephens was instrumental in creating Kaleidoscope, the first of its kind LGBTQ+ program for children, teens, and adults who are also neurodivergent, giving these gender nonconforming and transgender folk a safe place to be their authentic selves and seek the answers on how to lead happy and healthy lives. This program also welcomes parents and allies who want to learn more about supporting this often marginalized community. 

This week we sat down with Danny Coleman—Jill's younger brother, author, speaker, and the only guest we've loved enough to invite back 3 times. Danny just published his book, “Next Level Tribe” and works as a coach to fitness professionals who want to up their own coaching game. He truly understands people and knows how to get results when working with them. Whether you're a coach yourself, or just need advice on building new habits, you'll learn something from Danny's quick wit and wealth of knowledge.   @itsdannycoleman   What are soft skills, and how does Danny Coleman use them to build connections? [3:38] Can you train someone to connect more naturally? [8:20] Preventing clients from disappearing [12:47] When who you want to be isn't in line with what you do [17:37] How change is affected by identity [21:14] Detaching from outcome pain [26:12] Taking tiny steps to build a habit [29:08] How do you get people excited to start small? [34:16] Teaching non-judgement [39:18] Make your clients feel human and feel heard [47:25] Danny Coleman's favorite resources [49:07] What is Danny Coleman's Best Life? [52:23]   Visit cbdforlife.us and use code ‘thebestlife' at checkout for 20% off all products!   Use code ‘thebestlife' at beekeepersnaturals.com for 15% off all of their natural remedies   You can also get 20% OFF Organifi products at organifi.com using code ‘thebestlife'   Don't forget to leave us a review and subscribe so you never have to miss an episode! Comments and questions can also be sent to info@thebestlifepodcast.com, and you can head to thebestlifepodcast.com to join our Facebook Group.   FOLLOW DANNY COLEMAN: @itsdannycoleman FOLLOW US ON IG: @TheBestLifePodcast FOLLOW JILL: @jillfit FOLLOW DANNY J: @dannyjdotcom   You can also follow us on Facebook @Jill Coleman @Danny-J

Queen of Sorcery | Chapter 18 Where Sondra’s writing and publishing stuff is going great, but emotional upheaval is breaking out all over her face as she’s caught between fiction and reality; Alysia’s new book is being noticed in wonderful ways, and staying present is becoming a regular state of existence; and they’re both supporting and loving on each other. Garion becomes aware of a deception before Silk does (WTF) and finds out it’s because he’s brighter than he looks. He becomes an unwilling servant to Ce’Nedra regardless of her abysmal lying ability, and has to deal with feeling jealous of Aunt Pol’s attentions to the girl. Links and mentions: - Goddess Writes virtual studio space for creatives - Internal Journey of a Writer, by Alysia Seymour - Leave a voice message for the show! Head over to the website for the extended show notes and to sign up to our mailing list. + Website belgariadandbeyond.goddesskindled.com + Facebook + Instagram @belgariadandbeyond + Voice Message anchor.fm/belgariadandbeyond Support us! ♥ Patreon patreon.com/belgariadandbeyond ♥ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts and our Facebook page Theme music mixed and mastered by Hanneke Coolen © 2018 Bone Deep Sound Productions This podcast is a Goddess Kindled Universe production © 2019 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/belgariadandbeyond/message

Today's episode is meant to encourage you, and I am NOT speaking only to those facing divorce or going through a breakup. A “life of incongruence” has no bounds and most of us, at some point, find ourselves facing an inevitable transition. Because when you're living a life of incongruence, there will be a guaranteed shift that will occur, whether you like it or not. I talk about my life of incongruence and the shakeup that followed…and boy, was it a doozy!

On this episode of the Healthy, Wealthy and Smart Podcast, I welcome Andrew Tarvin on the show to discuss humor in the workplace.  Andrew Tarvin is the world's first humor engineer, teaching people how to get better results while having more fun. Combining his background as a project manager at Procter & Gamble with his experience as a stand-up comedian, he reverse-engineers the skill of humor in a way that is practical, actionable, and gets results in the workplace. In this episode, we discuss: -How to construct humor and learn the skill of humor -The benefits of humor for the individual and the organization -Types of humor that are appropriate for the workplace -The importance of the “Yes, and” mindset -And so much more!   Resources: Andrew Tarvin Website Andrew Tarvin Twitter Andrew Tarvin Facebook Andrew Tarvin LinkedIn The Skill of Humor TedX Video Humor That Works Website   For more information on Andrew: Andrew Tarvin is the world's first humor engineer, teaching people how to get better results while having more fun. Combining his background as a project manager at Procter & Gamble with his experience as a stand-up comedian, he reverse-engineers the skill of humor in a way that is practical, actionable, and gets results in the workplace. Through his company, Humor That Works, Drew has worked with more than 35,000 people at over 250 organizations, including Microsoft, the FBI, and the International Association of Canine Professionals. He is a bestselling author; has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, and Fast Company; and his TEDx talk has been viewed more than four million times. He loves the color orange, is obsessed with chocolate, and can solve a Rubiks Cube (but it takes like 7 minutes). For more information, please visit, www.drewtarvin.com and connect with Drew (@drewtarvin) on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube & LinkedIn. Humor That Works is available on Amazon and wherever fine (and funny) books are sold.   Read the full transcript below: Karen Litzy:                   00:01                Hi Andrew, welcome to the podcast. I am happy to have you on. And now today we're going to be talking about humor and why humor is important in the workplace and in life. So the first question I have is you say humor is a skill, so how is it a skill and can that really be learned by anyone? Andrew Tarvin:             00:28                I think a lot of people have this question or this belief, like, you know, humor is just an innate ability, right? You're either funny or you're not. I will say that I've done over a thousand shows as a standup comedian and spoken word artist, storyteller, et cetera. I have spoken or performed in all 50 states and 25 countries and on one planet. This one. But when I went to my high school reunion and people found out that I did comedy, they're like, but you're not funny. And that's because, you know, growing up I was never the life of the party or the class clown. My senior year. I was voted teacher's pet. So much more of an academic, much more quiet. You know, I'm a very much an introvert. And then I started doing Improv and standup in college and admittedly was terrible when I first started out. Andrew Tarvin:             01:22                Like we often are in a new skill that we try, but with practice and repetition I got better. And so I realized that, you know, really there there's an art and science to humor. And so what we do with our organization, with humor that works is we teach people the science. So we teach things like comedic structure, things like a comic triple things like timing and understanding how to like position things in different, you know, strategies that humorous use between say association or incongruity or a story, et cetera. All of this kind of science stuff that's easy to, you know, this conceptually you can learn and then there's an art, there is an art piece to it, right? There is, you know, some of that comes from your own perspective, the thing that you like and that you improve with practice and repetition. And so what we say is, you know, with the skill of humor, we can help to teach anyone to be funnier not necessarily, you know, across the board. Funny. It's not like, you know, you can magically teach someone to be so funny, they're going to magically have a Netflix comedy special, but you can learn certain things that are gonna take whatever your base level, you know, ability to use humor is now and take it up to the next level. Karen Litzy:                   02:30                Okay. So let's break this down a little bit because I know the listeners love to get these little nuggets of knowledge that we can start applying today in our life and in our workplace. So you said that with your company that you can teach people what is comic structure and timing. So can you first tell me, cause I don't even know the answer to this question, but what is comic structure? Andrew Tarvin:             02:55                Yeah. So there's certain things that, you know, there's certain ways that you can structure a sentence or a joke that make it more effective. So, one of the big things is, is learning to put the funny part of the punch line of something at the end. So a great example of this is, I think it's a George Burns quote that says, ‘happiness is having a caring, a close, tight knit family in another city’ right? Which I think is a pretty funny, you know, a humorous line. That line doesn't work if you say, ‘happiness is having a family in another sitting who is in another city who is carrying and close and tight knit, right? So you put the funny part, the unexpected, the surprise piece at the end, right? So that's just a simple structure thing. It's kind of the structure of set up and punchline another example of that is something called a comic triple. Andrew Tarvin:             03:52                And so a comic triple is anytime when you have a list of three things, the third item is something unexpected. So, for example, when I give my, you know, when I'm talking about some of the clients that we've worked with, we'll say, you know, we've worked with organizations such as Microsoft. The FBI and the International Association of Canine Professionals. And so that last one is just something different, something unexpected where it's like, okay, Microsoft, okay. Corporate FBI, all that's kind of interesting. They seem serious. That's kind of cool. International Association of Canine Professionals. What does that mean? Right? So it, and again, we put that at the end. So simple things like structure or things that you know, kind of anyone can learn. And that's a starting point. The other thing that's kind of important to understand, maybe not necessarily specifically about comedic structure, but about the skill of humor, is that humor is more broad than comedy. Andrew Tarvin:             04:46                So a lot of times when we think of humor, we do think of comedy. We think of funny, we think of laughter, we think of jokes. But humor is defined as a comic absurd or Incongruence, quality causing amusement. So it could be a joke or it could be just something a little bit silly or something a little bit different that you do that doesn't necessarily make someone laugh, but maybe it makes them smile. And that broader definition means that, you know, maybe you're not a great joke teller, but maybe you're good at telling stories or maybe you're not going to storytellings or jokes, but you're really good at drawing interesting visuals that will get people to pay attention. Right? So that's, that's part of what we mean by this skill. Karen Litzy:                                           And what about timing? How do you teach timing? Andrew Tarvin:             05:33                It can be a tough one to do, but that's, that's where the practice and repetition comes from because even as standup Comedians, like, you know, Seinfeld or, Ellen or that kind of thing, when they're doing new special, when they're going to new materials, they have to get it in front of people to see, okay, where do people actually laugh and how long of a pause should it have. Cause sometimes the difference between getting a big laugh and no laugh at all is how long you pause or how long you allow someone to get something. So, one example within timing is a lot of times when people are first starting out with humor, they'll say something that's actually pretty funny. And they'll leave a brief pause and then they'll start talking again right away. And this is something called stepping on your laughter is if someone starts to kind of laugh, but then you start talking again, people will stop laughing, they'll shut down the laughter response because they want to hear what you say next. Andrew Tarvin:             06:25                And so sometimes one of the hardest parts is a brand new comedian to learn. And sometimes you have to be quiet a little bit longer because it takes the audience a second to actually get the joke to then process that it is a joke process that it is funny and then start to laugh. And that, you know, you need to be comfortable kind of in that short silence to allow them to then laugh and then also to not talk while they're laughing so that, they kind of finish that laughter out as opposed to stopping at short. Karen Litzy:                   06:50                And I would imagine if you're up on stage and your, you know, telling the story or joke that time from the end of you finishing your sentence to a little, maybe pause to laughter building must feel like it's an hour. Andrew Tarvin:             07:10                Yeah. It can feel like a really, really long time, especially as you've, if you do a certain joke over and over again or one that you know, that works because as you went, you think about it and like, oh, that's funny. I want to share that you've already thought about and processed why it's funny. And so you're like, oh, if they don't get it immediately, they must not think it's funny and it's they've never heard that construction of those ideas together before. So for example, I love puns and wordplay and I recently tweeted out, you know, that I'm a pale person. The only time I get Tan is when I do trigonometry. Andrew Tarvin:             07:47                And that joke, particularly when said verbally is it's talking about get Tan. So Tan being short for Tangent. Exactly. So the only time I get there is, you know, it takes a while. It takes a moment for people to be like, wait, why is that funny? Is that a joke? That doesn't, you know, what is what is, you know, that has to do with trigonometry. Oh wait, 10 to there was like cos sign and tan like, yeah. So it takes time for that to happen and you have to get comfortable kind of in that silence. The other thing to, to recognize though is that that's true specifically of, kind of planned humor. Things like conversational humor. They don't necessarily, one you may not have, it might not be a preplan thing, but even conversational humor, something that can be learned and something that can be practiced through, you know, drawing on some principles from improvisation. Karen Litzy:                   08:40                Right. So now I actually took a number of Improv classes to help me with the podcast to help me, like you said, just carry out a better conversation and to yes. And, and all of that. So can you a little bit about improvisation and how that can help with general conversations, especially let's say at work. Andrew Tarvin:             09:05                Yeah. So, you kind of mentioned the fundamental mindset of improvisation. The key that really helps with a lot of that in that is the mentality of yes and, where yes. And is really about kind of taking whatever was offered and building off of it. And so that can be fantastic for conversations. In fact, if you're ever in a conversation and you don't know what to say next, you can just simply yes. And the last thing that was said, so like you can even take, you know, the stereotypical small talk example of, how, how about this weather, right? So I'm in New York. It's sunny, it's 85 degrees. Someone asked me, how about this weather, if I'm say at a networking event, right. Or say one-on-one with a client, how about this weather, I can be like, yes, it is, it's beautiful out. It's, it's sunny out now. You know, if you weren't at this meeting, if we weren't interacting right now, how would you be out enjoying, you know, 90 degree weather? Right. And then so that gives him a chance to be like, oh well, you know, I'd go swimming because it's hot out or I'd stay indoors because it's too hot. Or I'd go out on the bike, you know? And that turns a conversation that was about weather into something more interesting about like in getting to know that person in terms of things like their hobby. Karen Litzy:                   10:16                That's great. I love that because that networking and going to those kinds of events is always so daunting. And especially as an entrepreneur or a small business owner, you kind of have to do those things. Andrew Tarvin:             10:30                70% of jobs are found through networking and, and to your point, entrepreneurs, I'd say it's a way that a lot of people drum up business. And I learned that pretty early on as an introvert, you know, going to networking meetings, like you said, is daunting. It's a little bit awkward. And so for me, I developed a three step process for being able to network with people. And that yes, and piece is the third step is how you continue the conversation is just to continue to build off of what was said. Karen Litzy:                                           Nice. What is step one? Andrew Tarvin:                                     Step one is to ask interesting questions. And so, you know, if we think about Dale Carnegie and how to win friends and influence people, you know, great quintessential business book, he said that you will get, you'll make more friends and a month by getting people interested, by being interested in other people than you will in an entire year in trying to get people interested in you. Andrew Tarvin:             11:24                And so what that translates into is basically getting other people to talk and then shutting up and then listening to them. And you know, if we go to a networking event and we have the same kind of boring questions, the same, you know, what do you do type questions and at least the same boring answers. And that's not distinguishable. That doesn't stand out to anyone. And so instead of you, if you ask more interesting questions, so simple questions, you know, what's the coolest thing that you've worked on in the last three months? That a lot of times people, you will end up answering the question of what do you do, right? They'll say, oh, when I was working at blank. But it gets him to think a little bit differently. It gives him a more interesting response and you can actually kind of connect a little bit closer. Andrew Tarvin:             12:11                And that's an example of something that's a little bit in congruent. So maybe it's not laugh out loud funny, but it is something a little bit different that maybe gets people to smile a little bit more or at least thinking a little bit differently. So that's step one is to ask interesting questions. The second step is to tell a compelling stories. So when someone asks you a question, right? Sometimes we hear this advice of like, Oh, you've got to ask people questions. That's how you build rapport. But if all you ever do is ask them questions and never answer anything that they say, it starts to feel like a weird interrogation. Or like why is this person being so closed off? And so when someone asks you a question rather than just giving a yes or no answer, you can give a little bit of a story or a little bit of a background. Andrew Tarvin:             12:54                So if they're asking, you know, why did you get into healthcare? Why did you get into physical therapy? Or why didn't, you know? Rather than just being like, oh, it was fun. Like, you know, oh, growing up I always felt like this, or I was an app. Like just giving that background allows people to connect with those ideas and maybe they don't connect with physical therapy. But if you're like, oh, well growing up when I used to play soccer, I felt like this. And then on to the next thing, people are like, oh, I played soccer as well, and now you've created a connecting point with this person through a shared interest or a shared commonality. Karen Litzy:                   13:25                That's great. Thank you. Those are great tips. And finally finishing up, like you said, using the yes and to continue that conversation is great. Now since you brought up health care and physical therapy, a lot of the audience, are in those professions. So sometimes humor in that workplace can be a little difficult cause there are times where we have to be pretty serious. So can you kind of talk a little bit about how using humor at work can even work when we have to, you know, sometimes give bad news? Andrew Tarvin:             14:01                I think your is a great point and this is something I think for, for all professions to, to recognize with humor is that it's simply another tool in the tool belt in the sense that it's not something that you're going to use all the time. 100, you know, 24, seven and everything that you do. It's, it's true that there are times that humor may be inappropriate. And, one of the ways that we can avoid inappropriate humor is by following what we call a humor map. And the map stands for your medium, your audience, and your purpose. So your medium is how are you going to execute that humor? Is it an email? Is it in a one on one consultation or conversation? Is it in a phone call? Is it in a presentation to a bunch of people? Because that medium impacts the message, right? Andrew Tarvin:             14:47                The second piece is the audience and who you know, who is the, what do they know? What do they need and what do they expect? Because when you're using humor and say communication, you probably are, you do want to deliver on what that person needs while doing it. Maybe in a way they don't just 100% expect by adding a little bit of something different can add be that humor component. The other thing is also understanding your relationship with that person because you know something that you, if you have a client that you're meeting for the very first time, that's going to be very different than the humor that you might use with the client that you've been working with for 15 years, right? You've got to know each other a little bit better. And then the final piece is the purpose. Why are you using humor? Andrew Tarvin:             15:27                And this is the most important one. This is why as an engineer, I like it because humor can be effective in using or achieving certain goals. So you could use humor as a way to get people to pay attention. Or maybe you use humor as a way to build a relationship with someone to build rapport, right? If you're meeting a client or if you're just now starting to work with someone, you can find a way for you to both laugh together. You kind of show that where you're standing on the same side and then after you've built that rapport, then if you have to get more serious news, that's, that might be when you become a little bit more serious or a little bit more somber or whatever. Right? So again, it's just recognizing that it is, it's a tool. It helps us achieve certain goals and that when we have those as goals, it might be the appropriate tool to use. Karen Litzy:                   16:10                Great. I love it. And I like that acronym of the humor map. That's really easy to remember. Now let's talk about, we're talking about humor, right? There's maybe good humor, bad humor. What is the type of humor one should kind of stay away from in the workplace? Andrew Tarvin:             16:34                I think that's a great question. So to give it a little bit of additional context, a psychologist Rod A Martin defined four styles of humor. He said in general, humor kind of falls into these four buckets. The first bucket is affiliative humor and this is positive inclusive humor. This is to me, I think of like Ellen Degenerous, like her style of humor, her TV show, it's very positive, upbeat. Everyone is included. There is no target, if not aggressive. It's not calling anyone out. It seems like team building events in the corporate world or activities that you may be doing with your clients or your patients, right as positive and inclusive, everyone is included. The second style is self enhancing humor. And this is a humor where the target is kind of yourself, but it's positive in nature. To me it's kind of best summed up by, there's a great Kurt Vonnegut quote that says laughter and tears are both responses to frustration. Andrew Tarvin:             17:33                I myself prefer to laugh because there's less cleaning up to do afterwards, right? It's that idea of like when we're thinking about the challenges or the hardships that we have to go through day to day, it's finding the humor in them so that you laugh about them instead of cry about them. So that's another great form of humor and that's, that's kind of like, you know, finding ways to make your own work more fun. It's, you know, listening to music when you have to go through email or you know, rocking out to a song and you're in the car on the way home, or you know, these small examples of things that are just improving your life day to day. A third style is self-defeating. Humor, self-defeating humor as a negative form of humor where the target is yourself. And so this is, you know, Rodney Dangerfield. Andrew Tarvin:             18:15                I get no respect. That's kind of poking fun at yourself. And this can be a great form of humor when used one in a high status position. So if you are a presenter that sometimes adds a little bit of status to it, or if you're the boss or the CEO as a way to reduce status. Differentials can be very good. And it's best used when sparingly. So like you don't want to use it as every single joke that you do, but every now and then on occasion, and that can be a good form in many ways. But if it's used too much since people started to think like, oh, this person isn't confident or they're not actually good at what they do, or you know, they're throwing a pity party and I don't know if I laugh or not. So there's some limitations to that one. Andrew Tarvin:             18:55                And then finally there is aggressive humor and aggressive humor is a negative form of humor where the target is someone else. You're doing it to try to manipulate them or try to make fun of them or that kind of thing. And so that tends to, to not be appropriate in the workplace. It includes things like sarcasm and satire, which can be okay in a group setting where you're all very comfortable with you, with each other, and it can be a very good form of Catharsis. So I know a lot of like say doctors, surgeons, we do some work with emergency first responders. They sometimes have a dark sense of humor as a group, because it, you know, serves as Catharsis. They see so many stressful, so many crazy things that they need some outlet to relieve that stress. And so that type of humor can be helpful there. But again, only when it's a very close knit group, when the relationships are kind of already formed and you know that it's going to be seen as catharsis and not seen as aggressive. Karen Litzy:                   19:52                Yeah. And I think we've all been in those situations where you're just sitting there and it's like awkward. Like this did not fall the way that the person intended it to. Andrew Tarvin:             20:03                Yeah. And that's why, you know, if you stick to the other three forms a lot more, you're going to be, it's gonna be a lot better. And, and that's the other differences, again, we're not trying to teach people how to use humor to become stand up comedians. Cause yes, absolutely tons of comedians or kinds of comedy shows, you'll see a lot of sarcasm, a lot of satire, a lot of aggressive humor. But that's not our goal. Our goal is using humor so that we get better results. Karen Litzy:                   20:29                And so that was my next question. You just led me right into it. So let's talk about results. What kind of benefits can, let's say myself as an entrepreneur or within an organization, get from humor at work Andrew Tarvin:             20:44                It's great question. And as individuals, there are 30 benefits at least that we found. 30 plus benefits from using humor in the workplace that are all backed by research case studies and real world examples. And so they range from ways to improve your communication skill as a way to, you know, for example, do you use a little bit of incongruity, get people to pay attention a little bit more cause they're like, oh that person just made me laugh. That's a little bit different than what I was expecting. Now I'm listening and paying attention, to helping with creativity and backed in one study they found that kids to watch a 30 minute comedy video before trying to solve a problem. They were nearly four times more likely to solve that problem in kids. You watched either a math video or no video at all. Andrew Tarvin:             21:28                So we can use humor as a way to kind of just warm up the brain to be able to think about things a little bit differently. Give ourselves a different perspective. We can use it for things like relieving stress so we know that, you know, stress by itself is not a bad thing, right? As a physical therapist, you know that you have to stress muscles to some extent in order to get them to grow. That's what we're doing when we're working out is we're breaking down muscles, but then they grow when we rest and we feed them and the body, our capacity for being able to do work is the same thing. We can stress, you know, we needed a little bit of stress to sometimes get to that next level in terms of productivity. But if we never relieved that stress, that's when we see an increase in blood pressure and increase in muscle tension, a decrease in the immune system. Well humor can help counteract those things. When we take a break to actually laugh, we increase oxygen flow through our body, we relax our muscles and we boost our immune system as well. So we can use it for things like that as well. Karen Litzy:                   22:25                Well they are all really great benefits especially to use at work. And now these are, like I said, these are all great benefits. So why is this not being implemented more? Why aren't more people quote unquote funny at work? And I know that's not the right term, but I think that's what people think. Right? Andrew Tarvin:             22:46                Right. Yeah. And what we say kind of with humor in the workplace as a goal isn't necessarily to be, to make the workplace funny, but it is to make things a little bit more fun. And you ask a very, I think, important question to say, okay, why don't people use humor more? And we wanted to do the answer to that. So we ran a study through our site and we found that the number one reason why people didn't use humor in the workplace as they said that they didn't think that their boss or coworkers would approve. Karen Litzy:                   23:12                Interesting. I can see that. Yeah, I can totally see that. Andrew Tarvin:             23:15                Right? Yeah. Cause if you work in a culture and no one's really laughing or smiling all that much, then you're kind of like, oh, I guess it's not welcome. I guess it's not what we do here. It's a, you know, quote unquote serious workplace. And the reality is that 98% of CEOs preferred job can edge with a sense of humor and 81% of employees at a fun workplace would make them more productive. So I think people actually want it. It's just that we're still stuck sometimes in this old mentality that work has to feel like work and we don't that well, we're human beings. And humor is an effective way to reach human beings. And so if we want to be more effective in what we do, we have this tool that we can use. And I think specifically for entrepreneurs and leaders of others or team leads and stuff, that's an important thing to recognize is that if you're the leader of a team or an organization and people don't constantly laugh or people don't kind of have that sense of humor, it doesn't seem like you might be part of the reason why. Andrew Tarvin:             24:12                And it's probably not intentional, right? You probably like haven't gone out to be like, all right, let me squash any remote mode of fun. That happens every single day. But if you don't use it yourself as a leader, if you don't encourage it, if you never laugh or smile in the workplace, if you never kind of express some humor or share a little bit more about yourself, people will kind of take whatever the leader does and say, this must be how we have to act. Karen Litzy:                   24:36                I mean things trickled down from the top. There's no question. It makes me, as you were saying that the thing that came to my mind was the movie the Devil Wears Prada and Meryl Streep's character who was just, I don't think she cracked a smile except like the very end of the film. And you can just sense the tension among everyone that worked below her. Andrew Tarvin:             25:02                Exactly. And I think we, I think we need more, we need more metaphors to the movie devil wears Prada. So I'm happy that we've gotten there for this. But I think you're exactly right. How the managers behave does tend to set the tone. And, but with that being said, one of the things that, you know, I'm a big believer in is that, you are responsible for your own happiness. And so even if you do work for an organization or you do work for a manager or a leader who doesn't really use humor, I think that it's still up to you. You choose how you do your work every single day. And, and it's not really the responsibility of your manager, your coworkers, or your patients or clients or customers to make sure that you're having fun, right? That's an individual choice that you make. And hopefully they don't detract from that. But even at a minimum, like they can't control how you think. Right. One of the things that I like to do when getting bored and emails that I'll start to read each of the emails in a different accent in my head. And this is something kind of fun, something a little bit different to do and no one can stop me from doing that, right? No manager could come up and be like, hey, you're reading emails in the accent in your head. Stop it. Karen Litzy:                   26:10                Yeah, totally. And so when you go into these companies, you go into Microsoft or in working with the government, how do you enter into those situations to kind of explain to them that using humor in the workplace is important? Because I would have to think you have had to encounter some hard nuts to crack. Andrew Tarvin:             26:38                Yeah, absolutely. And in conveying the value of humor is a little bit of a challenge. You know, no one really thinks of humor as a bad thing. They typically don't think of it as kind of a nice to have. But to me it's a must have. If you just look at kind of the statistics, if you look at the numbers, you know, 83% of Americans are stressed out at work, 55% are unsatisfied with their jobs and 47% struggle to stay happy leads to 70% of the workforce being disengaged. And then Gallup has estimated that's a cost on the US economy of about $500 billion lost, you can do the math of that. That's, you know, you take the number of employees and all that. It's an average of about $4,638. Andrew Tarvin:             27:29                And lost productivity. And so then when you're starting to talk with people, so if you're talking with Microsoft or other organizations and saying, Hey, if you know 70% of your workforce is disengaged and each one costs you $4,700, now they start to see like, oh, okay, there's numerical losses here. Because if you look at the benefits of using humor, we talked about some on the individual level, when an organization uses humor, you see an increase and you one create a more positive workplace culture. You see an increase in employee engagement, you see an increase and company loyalty, see a decrease in turnover. And on a lot of organizations, you also see an increase in overall profit. And so when I'm talking with the organizations, it's talking about the business benefit of it. It's recognizing that, you know, well, as a gross simplification of it, I have a dumb question for you. Andrew Tarvin:             28:22                But it's still wants you to kind of answer it, but, would you rather do something that is fun or not fun? Fun, right? Yeah. You'd rather do something fun. So if you were to make your work a little bit more fun, probably stands to reason that you might be a little bit more engaged in it. Or if you were to make your kind of conversations with your patients or your clients a little bit more fun, you might see that they might be a little bit more willing to actually want to go to them or pay attention in them. So that's a big part of when you consistently use humor, that's when people are like, oh they actually look forward to that meeting. They maybe know that it's going to be hard or they know that, you know they're going to have to do some work, but they're like, at least it's not going to be terribly boring. Andrew Tarvin:             29:10                At least it's not going to be awful and that's that fun component. And so that's kind of the higher level. And then we have a bunch of studies and a bunch of background kind of back all those things up. But that's been the messaging is like, this is again, it's not about let's all hold hands, Kumbaya. You know, we should all enjoy our work just because we're happy. Go lucky. It's more of here's a strategic use of a tool that will get you better results. And here's all the research that says that it has done that. Karen Litzy:                   29:42                And when, when we're talking about humor in the workplace, it doesn't mean like your boss coming out and doing a standup bit every morning. Andrew Tarvin:             29:47                Exactly. Yeah. Right. It's more about making it a little bit more fun. It's more about bringing the your humanness to work. Right. And this is one of the things that I'll share with my corporate audiences, you know, I'll say to an entire room full of people is I'll be like, you know what my guess is that many of you, and this is probably true of your listeners as well, many of you are likable people at home, right? And then they go into the workplace and something changes right? At home. They laugh with their friends, they smile, they make jokes, say, are conversational, et cetera. Maybe a little bit silly, you know, maybe they sing in the shower, they dance in the kitchen, whatever. And then they go into the workplace and something changes. They put on a work face and they feel like they have to be like a robot with no emotions or anything like that. And that's not effective for the way that we work today. Maybe that made sense, the industrial revolution, whereas all about efficiency and the most widgets that you could produce. But now when humor, interactions are important now when your emotions impact your ability to be, say, creative or productive, we have to manage the human experience. And humor is just one effective way to do that. Karen Litzy:                   31:00                And so if I'm hearing you correctly, when we're talking about bringing humor into the workplace, it's really about being kind of open and trying to be a little bit more yourself and perhaps letting your guard down a little bit to allow yourself to be present and to, like you said, be funny or to not be so serious all the time. Or to, you know, have more conversations where you're injecting your personality. Because I do think most people have funny things to say in conversation. We're not all like Debbie downers. Yeah, I'm green. And so is that kind of what you're teaching when you're going in and talking about humor outside of, you know, how you talked in the beginning about timing and about the comic triple and having those unexpected things at the end of your sentences or punchlines if you will. So you're kind of teaching these tools, but in the end, as the worker or as the company, it's sort about changing the culture. Andrew Tarvin:             32:10                It is. Yeah. I think that's a great articulation of it. So in the book we had a book that just recently came out and it's called humor that works with missing scale for success and happiness at work. And, you know, we talk about 10 humor strategies for using humor in the workplace across five different kind of key skills at work. And so if you want to use humor to improve your productivity, you know, you can gamify your work or play your work and here are the steps how to do that. Or if you want to use humor and connecting with people here as a way to, you know, kind of a three step process we mentioned earlier about and that's a way to build empathy with someone. But at the end of the day, the bonus strategy and I think kind of what articulates what you're talking about is the biggest thing that we encourage. Andrew Tarvin:             32:52                The biggest takeaway, and I would say the same is true of your podcast listeners, is to simply think one smile per hour. You know, what's one thing that you can do each hour of the day that brings a smile either to your face or the face of someone else. And so that could mean, hey, if you like telling jokes and you want to learn more of them and you have that, you know, like you like that witty kind of feeling great, do that. If instead you're about to, you know, get in traffic and you know, like how can I bring a smile to my own face? Like, Oh, well let me maybe listen to a comedy podcast on my way home from work so that I laugh and show up more present for my family when I get there. These are all just small choices. And to your point, I think everyone, everyone has a sense of humor. Andrew Tarvin:             33:35                I think it might be a very specific sense of humor and sometimes you don't always see it, but I think everyone has one. And so it's like, okay, how can you leverage your sense of humor to bring that smile to the workplace? And the other thing is directing that you don't always have to be the creator of humor. Instead, you can be kind of the conduit of it or the shepherd of it where you know, you don't have to be the one that makes a funny joke. Maybe you find one online and you added as a pss or the end of a long email. Or you find images online using a creative Commons license and have that in your presentation as opposed to having a bunch of slides with just full of text. Maybe you watch a Tedx talk that you think is really, really good that you really like and you like, you share that with people to say, Hey, you know, let's try to incorporate this type of thing a little bit more. So you don't always have to be the creator of it, but you can be that source of it, that shepard of it. Karen Litzy:                   34:24                Yeah. Great Advice. Thank you so much. That really helps to kind of break it down in my mind. And I would assume in the listeners minds as well. And you know, before I have one more question that I ask everyone, but before I do that, you had mentioned Tedx and I do want to mention that you had a great tedx talk that's been viewed millions of times. I watched it, I loved it. Where can people find that talk? Andrew Tarvin:             34:48                Ah, yes. So they can find it. If they just Google my name, Andrew Tarvin, Tedx, it'll show up. Or they Google a skill of humor. Tedx, it's on the official, you know, Tedx Youtube Channel. If you just Google my name, it's one of the first things that comes up and you can getting near your, a fantastic story about my grandmother and we go in and talk. It's funny, it goes into a little bit of that deeper dive of the scale of humor and for me at a, yeah, that can be a great starting point for people. And I know plenty of people have used that as a thing that they share out where they're like, hey, you know, I want to incorporate more humor into the workplace. People don't necessarily know why. So let me send this out to my team and say, Hey, this was a funny talk that I really like. Maybe it should encourage us to have a little bit more fun in what we do. Karen Litzy:                   35:31                Yeah, I really enjoyed it. It was a great talk and it was funny in that bit with your grandmother is classic Classic Grandma classic grandma's stuff. So everyone listening, definitely check out the TEDX. It's really great. And like I said, before I finish, I usually like to ask everyone the same question. And that's knowing where you are now in your life and your career. What advice would you give to yourself as a new Grad? Andrew Tarvin:             36:00                As a brand new Grad. Two things kind of come to mind. The first, is more tactical and I would say do stand up comedy earlier, frequently. Just because one, I love stand up. I love doing stand up. It's I think one of the hardest forms of public speaking you will ever do. Karen Litzy:                   36:22                Yeah. I would never be able to do it. I give you all the credit in the world. Andrew Tarvin:             36:26                Well, one, you absolutely could do it if I could do it. Anyone. But it is intimidating, but it's made me much, much better as a speaker. In fact, that I think the reason that the Tedx talk has been successful is because I did a lot of stand up before it to work on it, to practice it, to try jokes. And it's where I've refined, you know, my sense and my skill of humorous, I'd say do that, you know, first. And then I think the other thing would be get more clear on the articulating the value of humor. It took me a while Kinda to your point, you know, why do companies hire this? At first I was like, no, humor is just a brilliant idea. Shouldn't everyone see that? And the reality is that no one cares about humor and the workplace, like in terms of they never think of it as something that they need. And, and they know that they need communication training or leadership training or they know that they need to improve morale or they know that they need to help people relieve stress. It just turns out that humor can be the tool to do a lot of those things. So getting more clear on how humor can be beneficial, I think would've helped my personal career a little bit more and would've gotten me out to sharing this message with more people sooner. Karen Litzy:                   37:32                Great. I love it. And I don't know that I would ever do standup. But you're making me consider it. Like even when I took, even when I took improv classes, I had like an Improv teacher come to my apartment cause I was too nervous to go to a class because I didn't want to screw up. Andrew Tarvin:             37:51                Yeah. But here's the thing though is you just rock this, this podcast and plenty of other ones in the future. That's all Improv as well. Karen Litzy:                   37:58                I know that's why I took the class, but I don't know. There's something about being, I dunno, it's a fear. I should probably, I'm working on my public speaking. I've been working on that for the past year. But yeah, I think taking an Improv class in front of actual people and with other actual people would probably only benefit me. But it's just so darn scary. Andrew Tarvin:             38:21                It is. That's why you have to, you have to leverage that one light, that one evening that you like, have that like, you know what, I should do it. And then you sign up real quick and then force yourself to like go and there were only reason why I say that is is because I'm a big believer. Improv is fundamentally changed my life because as I mentioned I am very, very much was an introvert and everything growing up and that's how I kind of got into this and so I'm a strong believer that anyone listening, you know if they have the capacity, if they have any slight interest in it, I think should take an Improv class because it teaches you life skills. In fact, one of the most popular blog posts that we have on our website is 10 life lessons from Improv. So much application. It teaches you the human skills to interact with other people on ways to be more present, to think on your feet, to be able to react quickly, to build your communication skills and your confidence. Like there's tremendous number of benefits and once you get used to it, it's so much fun to do. Karen Litzy:                   39:19                All right, I'll think about it next time UCB has like a one on one class. Granted that's upright citizens brigade for those who aren't, I guess in New York. They may not know that. If I can make the cut cause those classes fill up in about five minutes. But maybe I will do it this time. We'll, we will see. And now you mentioned your blog. Where can people find you? Andrew Tarvin:             39:42                Yeah, so if they're interested more in the human in the workplace, if they go to humorthatworks.com we have a bunch of, you know, blog posts out there about different topics on humor. There's a free newsletter to sign up to. There's a link to our new book that has a lot of resources there as well. I information about our workshops and coaching and all that kind of stuff. And they want to connect with me directly. They can find me @drewtarvin on all social media. So whether that's Linkedin, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, a recently discovered, I still have a myspace page. So if my space is your jam, then you can connect with me there as well. Karen Litzy:                   40:23                That's amazing. Well thank you so much, Andrew, for coming on and sharing all of this great information on how to use humor in the workplace. So thank you so much. Andrew Tarvin:             40:35                All right, sounds great. Well, thank you so much for having me, and hopefully this was valuable for the listeners. Karen Litzy:                   40:41                I'm sure it was. And everyone out there listening, thanks so much. Have a great couple of days and stay healthy, wealthy, and smart.     Thanks for listening and subscribing to the podcast! Make sure to connect with me on twitter, instagram  and facebook to stay updated on all of the latest!  Show your support for the show by leaving a rating and review on iTunes

This week Tim speaks with Dr. Natalia Zhikhareva, also known as Dr. Z, PhD, nationally renowned expert on transgender psychology, about the wide range of erectile issues that trans women and trans feminine people experience. They talk about different expectations for genital function (determined by hormones, surgery and sexual orientation), the role gender incongruence and dysmorphia play, and most importantly, how to negotiate a new relationship to sex and intimacy. 

The Crisis of Incongruence - The Hidden Cause of Unhappiness This is such a powerful concept because, through Emergence principle, you know that life doesn't happen to you, it happens through you. All of life is pouring through and as you, or at least trying according to a Divine pattern. You don't experience life directly. You experience your perception of life, or experience life through your filters. Never is there a life outside, happening to you, although that is the illusion. There is a Divine pattern and idea, a real purpose and destiny. It's always seeking to make you congruent to the blueprint or the self-concept that you have accepted, and that is a part of and active in your consciousness. Like the principle of homeostasis, it's always trying to bring us back to a state of balance. This mechanism within you is always trying to make you congruent.  For example, if you have a blueprint or self-concept that, “I'm not good with money” or, “I'm not good with money, money is hard, etc.”, when it comes to money, even if you do all the right things to make money, it will be on the path out your doorway as fast as possible. Even if you're given money or win the lottery, as we've seen many times. Why? Because that same mechanism is working 24/7 to bring you back into congruence with that self-concept or blueprint. This is why that saying says, “He or she who is right in mind, they can do all the wrong things and it will turn out right; but, he or she who is wrong in mind, they can do all the right things, it will turn out wrong.” Why? Whatever your self-concept or blueprint is, if you're trying to do a bunch of actions that aren't in integrity with it and you're not changing the blueprint, your life is going to come back into integrity with that. In addition, if you're doing all these things and maybe, even in the case where you have all kinds of what the world would say good things – you have money, you have family, you have opportunity – but you're still unhappy, there's something in your blueprint and self-concept that you're not pursuing or not fulfilling. Your work is to come into ever increasing and inner alignment to condition yourselves, so that you feel, believe and see yourself with a blueprint that matches your highest good and highest desire. The law of life operates automatically on that to bring your experience into congruence with it. You'll never be truly satisfied or fulfilled if your blueprint doesn't match, or isn't increasingly coming into alignment with, the grand blueprint. "That true joy and happiness is on that emerging edge of ever-expanding, ever-evolving increase, and progress." The first step is to look at your own inner self-concept, your own inner blueprint and see if it is in alignment with your highest and greatest desires or have you acquiesced to limiting conditioning. Are you merely trying to change the outer world while remaining the same? Are you just trying to lose weight or make money or win friends and influence others when internally you believe you're not worthy, capable, or unable? That's like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. The ship is going down no matter what you do externally. You need to plug the holes internally. You need to redesign your inner self-concept and blueprint. Finally, when you do that, you don't have to make it happen. You are making it welcome in the law of life. The law of mind operates upon that newly-enhanced blueprint and brings your life into integrity – into congruence with it. To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer. To Your Emergence! Stay inspired! Derek Other powerful free trainings in the podcast library: The Mighty Mo: How to Create Real Momentum ASK DEREK-How Do You Deal With the Haters (The Gift of Criticism) Where are You REALLY? To get these trainings now or see more episodes available, CLICK HERE! PS – Like this episode? Please share it! Want more advanced training? Join my Emergence Academy.  

In the fifth episode of Talking to Change: A Motivational Interviewing Podcast, Glenn and Sebastian welcome Chris Wagner, PhD, associate professor, department vice-chair, and licensed clinical psychologist in the department of rehabilitation counseling at Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond, Virginia, USA. Chris shares his insights into the work of Carl Rogers and how his theories and method of client-centered counseling helped shape the practice of MI. The following is an indexed list of topics that Glenn, Sebastian, and Chris discuss: Minute - topic 0 - Opening/introduction 8 - Rogers’ radical departure from the expert model of helping 14 - Spirit of person-centered interactions 19 - Rogers’ 6 core conditions 28 - "Inside the bubble" - Incongruence and acceptance 36 - Rogers’ core conditions - necessary & sufficient, but efficient? 41 - Growth perspective 49 - Emotional emancipation 56 - Positive discrepancy 1:00 - Wrap up: MI in groups; Proactive orientation; Beyond discrete behavior change 1:10 - What’s on your mind lately? MI in Dentistry, updating MI groups model, Organic MI training The post Ep 5 Carl Rogers (Person Centred Helping) appeared first on Glenn Hinds.

Sometimes we don't have to pick a side. In today's episode, I talk about issues surrounding how we identify as Mixed/Multi-Racial people and how incongruence can affect our self-image. Colorfully, Natalie More of Some Kind of Brown Offerings Instagram Twitter Patreon Buy a Coffee New Merch E-mail List Sign Up Facebook Page Facebook Group Music at: https://www.purple-planet.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/some-kind-of-brown-podcast/support

“There’s an incongruence between what we say we want and what we put our money behind”   In this week’s episode, we’re asking a question that we don’t really know the answer to but is a conversation that we need to be having in the business arena. How can we run a successful business if we’re not aligning our tactics with who we are as women? This incongruence can cause us to feel stuck and keeps us from creating the business and the life we really want.   “We need more women who are really successful in their businesses and stand out in authentic ways”   Let’s face it, we are still living in a world that is dominated by a masculine lens. The popular tactics in business are still the masculine ones, focused on getting rich quick, aggressive marketing tactics and manipulation. This can leave a lot of women feeling misaligned and incongruent with their business. Even women who hate the tactics still end up doing them. Partly, because they don’t know an alternative, and partly because they are seduced by the promise of results. The trouble is that I find women who are misaligned with their tactics, never achieve their results.   “We can’t continue to be operating our businesses in ways that are misaligned with who we are because we hurt our brand and our integrity. That not only affects how people perceive us, but it affects how we feel”   Some of the more feminine tactics, like relational marketing and storytelling, have been around since the beginning of time. If we align with our true selves and learn how to build relationships and integrity, we will have sustainability and longevity in our businesses. We have to remember who we are and align ourselves with our true identity if we ever want to see real success. The tactics will follow if we align ourselves first. Some Topics we talk about in this episode:   Introduction - 0:58 The Incongruence of What We Say We Want and What We Put Our Money Behind - 6:05 Is the Feminine Way a Longer Game? - 11:35 Relational Marketing and Storytelling - 17:02 Understanding Misalignment, Mindset, and Structures - 22:05 Getting Clear on What You’re Doing - 29:25 The Importance of Aligning with Yourself - 31:22 Wrap-up and Takeaways - 35:38 How to get involved Join the Women in the Business Arena Group on Facebook and continue the discussion starting next week! https://www.facebook.com/groups/womeninthebusinessarena Reach out to us - we’d love to hear more about where you’re at in life and business! Find out more at www.womeninthebusinessarena.com   If you liked this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a quick review on iTunes. It would mean the world to hear your feedback and we’d love for you to help us spread the word!

The Crisis of Incongruence - The Hidden Cause of Unhappiness This is such a powerful concept because, through Emergence principle, you know that life doesn't happen to you, it happens through you. All of life is pouring through and as you, or at least trying according to a Divine pattern. You don't experience life directly. You experience your perception of life, or experience life through your filters. Never is there a life outside, happening to you, although that is the illusion. There is a Divine pattern and idea, a real purpose and destiny. It's always seeking to make you congruent to the blueprint or the self-concept that you have accepted, and that is a part of and active in your consciousness. Like the principle of homeostasis, it's always trying to bring us back to a state of balance. This mechanism within you is always trying to make you congruent.  For example, if you have a blueprint or self-concept that, “I'm not good with money” or, “I'm not good with money, money is hard, etc.”, when it comes to money, even if you do all the right things to make money, it will be on the path out your doorway as fast as possible. Even if you're given money or win the lottery, as we've seen many times. Why? Because that same mechanism is working 24/7 to bring you back into congruence with that self-concept or blueprint. This is why that saying says, “He or she who is right in mind, they can do all the wrong things and it will turn out right; but, he or she who is wrong in mind, they can do all the right things, it will turn out wrong.” Why? Whatever your self-concept or blueprint is, if you're trying to do a bunch of actions that aren't in integrity with it and you're not changing the blueprint, your life is going to come back into integrity with that. In addition, if you're doing all these things and maybe, even in the case where you have all kinds of what the world would say good things – you have money, you have family, you have opportunity – but you're still unhappy, there's something in your blueprint and self-concept that you're not pursuing or not fulfilling. Your work is to come into ever increasing and inner alignment to condition yourselves, so that you feel, believe and see yourself with a blueprint that matches your highest good and highest desire. The law of life operates automatically on that to bring your experience into congruence with it. You'll never be truly satisfied or fulfilled if your blueprint doesn't match, or isn't increasingly coming into alignment with, the grand blueprint. "That true joy and happiness is on that emerging edge of ever-expanding, ever-evolving increase, and progress."   The first step is to look at your own inner self-concept, your own inner blueprint and see if it is in alignment with your highest and greatest desires or have you acquiesced to limiting conditioning.   Are you merely trying to change the outer world while remaining the same? Are you just trying to lose weight or make money or win friends and influence others when internally you believe you're not worthy, capable, or unable? That's like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. The ship is going down no matter what you do externally. You need to plug the holes internally. You need to redesign your inner self-concept and blueprint. Finally, when you do that, you don't have to make it happen. You are making it welcome in the law of life. The law of mind operates upon that newly-enhanced blueprint and brings your life into integrity – into congruence with it. To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer. To Your Emergence! Stay inspired! Derek Other powerful free trainings in the podcast library: The Mighty Mo: How to Create Real Momentum ASK DEREK-How Do You Deal With the Haters (The Gift of Criticism) Where are You REALLY? To get these trainings now or see more episodes available, CLICK HERE! PS – Like this episode? Please share it! Want more advanced training? Join my Emergence Academy.

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Professional marketers have long known the importance of knowing and being able to convey the Unique Value Proposition for their company or organization. Many will spend weeks and months tuning and refining their "UVP" statements. And it IS truly essential that you have, and can concisely state a unique and compelling value proposition. However, effectively expressing your value proposition through your website involves more than just the words you use. Every aspect of your site is communicating your value proposition and conflicting messages may be hurting your conversion. Marketers must understand how to protect their landing pages against the #1 threat to conversion: SITE FLOW DISRUPTION. In this clinic we will reveal how the two dangerous forms of disruption - Discontinuity and Incongruence - can keep customers from responding to your value proposition.