Podcasts about stepfamilies

Those of us facing the common challenges of blending often feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or discouraged. It's easy to drift into survival mode and settle for “not that bad.”In this episode, we'll share a clear plan to move forward in a simple way that's not about the pressure of big, dramatic New Year's resolutions.  Here's the truth: transformation doesn't happen overnight, and there are no easy fixes to the complex dynamics stepfamilies face. But change can happen with small, faithful shifts practiced over time. You'll Discover:The difference between information vs. transformation and why “insight without action” keeps couples stuck How to set process goals (not vague intentions), and capture the “gold nuggets” you want to apply to your family's current struggles How to “work your plan” and experience real WINS in 2026!Resources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to schedule your FREE coaching call with usCLICK HERE to learn more about the Blending Together CommunityFind your Focus & Choose your Path:Bonding:For specific episodes on building healthy Bonds, CLICK HEREBuilding Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanUnderstanding Kids' Perspectives:For specific episodes to gain insight & support your kids, CLICK HEREIn Their Shoes: Helping Parents Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce by Lauren ReitsemaSafeguarding your Relationship / Marriage:For specific episodes to grow a deeper connection and reduce conflict, CLICK HERESaving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts: Nine Questions to Ask Before -- and After -- You Remarry by Drs. Les & Leslie ParrotParenting  & Stepparenting:For specific episodes to develop your parenting partnership and align family expectations, CLICK HEREStepparenting:  Keeping It Sane by Dr. Charles FayParenting Under Fire: How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant Child by Dr. Amy J.L. BakerEffective Co-Parenting:For specific episodes to discover best practices and improve cooperation between homes, CLICK HERECoParenting Works!  Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce By Tammy Daughtry

What if stepfamilies are not in the best interest of your child?What if you as a stepparent are the real problem?Studies show that children brought up in stepfamilies are more prone to delinquent behavior than children raised by their biological parents, a fact that is overlooked and deserves more attention to reverse this trend that contributes to unsafe communities. Yet, data also show that one of three Americans is now a stepparent, a stepchild, a stepsibling, or some other member of a stepfamily.In The Art of Stepparenting—How to Blend Families Without Tearing Them Apart, Author Richard R. Ramos provides insight and wisdom for navigating the many challenges and pitfalls stepparents face with the blending of children from different biological parents into a new family unit.He offers valuable principles on parental personal growth in emotional maturity that is the key to improving your capacity to connect with your stepchildren. He will show you how to reconcile strained and/or broken stepparent-child relationships, share how to win loyalty and earn respect for your authority as a single parent or stepparent, and provide wisdom from the lessons learned by other single parents and stepparents.The Art of Stepparenting—How to Blend Families Without Tearing Them Apart will empower the single parent, stepparent, and foster parent to create a blended family experience that provides you with the richness of restoration, reconciliation, and harmony all families deserve to enjoy.He is the author of "The Art of Stepparenting: How to Blend Families Without Tearing Them Apart." https://www.richardrramos.com/http://www.yourlotandparcel.org

Kick off 2026 with laughter and real talk! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David explore the powerful topic of expectations—why they trip us up, how to let go of what others "should" do, and how to build more peace and happiness in your blended family life. In this episode: Why expecting others to change (especially as a New Year's resolution!) sets you up for disappointment How your personal stories, judgments, and baggage shape what you expect from others—and how to rewrite those scripts Practical advice on shifting your mindset, spotting unrealistic expectations, and finding the positive even in tough times The importance of controlling your own reactions and embracing ownership of your actions and mistakes Why social media and Hallmark movies might be sabotaging your happiness Exciting news about donated Nacho Kids Academy scholarships, courtesy of the amazing Sylvia Krakauer Nacho Testimony: "If it wasn't for Nacho Parenting, I'd be divorced... again!" ~ L.W., Canton, OH, USA

Looking for real talk on blended family challenges, New Year's resolutions, and actionable strategies for stepfamilies? In this episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into stepfamily dynamics and why things can change in an instant. Whether you're a stepparent, parent in a blended family, or just seeking practical advice on setting and achieving goals, this episode delivers with wit, wisdom, and warmth. Episode Highlights: New Year's Resolutions & Why Most Fail: Learn why breaking goals into 90-day cycles (instead of year-long ambitions) leads to success. Psychology of Quick Wins: How seeing progress motivates stepfamilies, with lessons drawn from money management and video games. Realistic Blended Family Goals: Concrete ideas like reducing negativity and celebrating incremental progress. Building Relationships: Candid confessions on communication styles and maintaining healthy family or friendship connections. Acts of Kindness: The episode honors the memory of Ryan Webb by encouraging random acts of kindness in stepfamilies and communities. Tune in for practical strategies, relatable stories, and the trademark Nacho Kids humor as David and Lori help you navigate life's curveballs in a blended family. From paying off your car to learning how to "Nacho" the negatives, this episode is packed with inspiration to start your year strong - one bite-sized step at a time! Nacho Testimony: "The whole Nacho thing made no sense to me years ago when I heard about it. Now, years later, I am so thankful for this method and Lori & David! They saved my marriage!" ~ E.J., Pittsburgh, PA, USA

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed to or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Episode 86: Building Trust in Blended Families with Jen & Hope DeBrot This document outlines the content and key takeaways from Episode 86 of the 1M Project podcast, featuring Jen DeBrot and her step-daughter, Hope DeBrot. The episode delves into the complexities of building trust within blended families, drawing insights from Jen's book, "In the Stillness." It explores practical strategies for fostering safety and trust when introducing new individuals into a family dynamic, offering valuable advice for blended families and emphasizing the importance of trusting in the Lord throughout the process. Key Discussion Points The episode covers several crucial aspects of building trust in blended families: Feeling Safe to Trust: Jen and Hope discuss the initial hesitations and anxieties that often accompany the introduction of a new person into a blended family. They emphasize the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment where everyone feels comfortable expressing their feelings and concerns. Establishing Trust: The conversation explores practical steps for establishing trust, such as open communication, active listening, and consistent behavior. Jen and Hope share personal anecdotes and strategies they used to build their strong and trusting relationship. Tips for Blended Families: The episode provides actionable tips for blended families navigating the challenges of building trust. These tips include: * Patience and Understanding:** Recognizing that building trust takes time and requires patience and understanding from all parties involved. * Clear Communication:** Establishing clear and open communication channels to address concerns and resolve conflicts. * Respecting Boundaries:** Respecting individual boundaries and creating a space where everyone feels valued and heard. * Shared Activities:** Engaging in shared activities that foster connection and create positive memories Trusting the Lord: Jen and Hope emphasize the importance of trusting in the Lord throughout the process of building trust in a blended family. They share how their faith has guided them and provided them with strength and resilience. Quotes "Open communication is key." - Jen DeBrot "You felt like a Mentor to me which is what we needed at that time." - Hope DeBrot "Hard conversations are going to come up because we all come with different experiences and have our own stories." - Hope DeBrot #BlendedFamily, #Stepfamily, #Trust, #FamilyRelationships, #FaithBased, #InTheStillness #JenDeBrot, #Podcast, #FamilyPodcast, #RelationshipAdvice, #BuildingTrust, #HopeDeBrot, #1MProject, #FamilyFirst, #ChristianPodcast

Do you ever spend time reminiscing?We seem to think back a lot from our current empty next vantage point.  It can be great to recall some of those funny moments in our history.  And it's meaningful when we recount the tough seasons we've endured together as well.As we head into the holidays, we thought it would be fun to pull an interview with our kids out of the archives. So, in this episode, you'll listen in on a conversation with our family reminiscing over some of the ups and downs of our Holiday experiences over the past 20+ years. We wonder if it might stir up a bit of hope for your own future as you hear the authenticity straight from all three of our adult children.  We've experienced some high points and low points as a family over the years — and your family will too.  But as you navigate it together, we believe you can experience closeness, gratitude, and joy as a family.  We hope our discussion blesses you this season.In this episode, you'll discover how our kids answered these questions as they share their holiday experiences living in our blended family:What are your favorite memories (including funny ones)?What might have been a negative experience for you?What things made you feel sad, annoyed, or frustrated?What are you grateful for?What do you wish we (as parents) might have done differently?PLUS you'll catch some of their encouragements for YOU!Resources from this Episode:Episodes that focus on Kid's Perspectives:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/podcast/category/Kid%27s+Perspectives/#filterEpisode 71: How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday DisappointmentEpisode 10. 8 Practical Tips for a Successful Holiday SeasonEpisode 149. How to "Blend" Holiday Traditions and Create Meaningful Connection this Season Episode 151. What Has The Potential to Steal Your Joy - And How You Can Hold Onto It  (Part 1)Episode 171.  How to Experience More Fun, Connection, and Joy this Holiday Season [with Rich and Stacy] Episode 173. Expert Guidance for Holiday Success [with Lauren Reitsema & Joneen Mackenzie]Episode 222. Step-by-Step Guide:  Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things WorseEpisode 224. Holiday Negotiations That Work:  5 Tips to Reduce Tension and Disappointment  Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

Questions to Ask YourselfAm I continuing to engage in “first-family” activities with my ex (even though we're divorced), mainly because I'm trying to guard my children from experiencing any disappointment or discomfort?Have I noticed any confusion or resentment from my children when they observe our Perfect Pal relationship and compare it to what's actually happened in their lives?Do I feel compelled to continue as Perfect Pals because I'm worried that if I don't, my ex will react poorly, possibly lash out, turn the kids against me, or punish me in some way?  And so I keep showing up as a close friend and confidant just to avoid retribution? Because of our Perfect Pal dynamic, do I sometimes abdicate or agree with my ex, even when I have a different opinion?Do you (or your new partner) harbor resentment toward your ex because they seem to have a lot of power and control over parenting decisions? Do you end up feeling unheard, devalued, or dismissed?  Does maintaining your Perfect Pal relationship seem like it's more important than having an equal voice in your children's lives?What's your next step in moving toward 'Cooperative Colleagues'?ResourcesEpisode 226.  How Two Homes Raise Kids that Thrive:  A Co-Parenting Blueprint for Caring Parents [with Jay & Tammy Daughtry]Episode 71. Helping Kids Cope with Painful Holiday DisappointmentCo-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce by Tammy DaughtryConnect directly with Jay and Tammy:  CoParenting InternationalCLICK HERE to get FREE resources from CoParenting InternationalCLICK HERE for more Episodes on Healthy Co-ParentingSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then s

If you're co-parenting between two homes, you already know: your kids are watching everything.  How you talk about their other parent, handle handoffs, respond to schedule changes, and react when the ex sends that text.  These everyday issues impact and shape your children's well-being.In this episode, we sit down with co-parenting experts Jay & Tammy Daughtry, who are both adult children of divorce and co-parents themselves. They share their TEAMM mindset: The End Adult Matters Most.  It's a powerful reminder that your co-parenting relationship today is shaping the adult your child will become tomorrow.As marriage and family therapists, Jay and Tammy deeply understand the long-term impact of post-divorce dynamics on kids.  They offer compassionate guidance to help you move from feeling stuck, reactive, or alone and instead adopt a calm, intentional, “business partner” approach to co-parenting.  You'll walk away with hopeful, real-life tools to steady your own emotions, protect your kids from unnecessary emotional burdens, and take small, intentional steps toward a healthier co-parenting partnership so your kids experience stability, security, and are free to love both of their parents.You'll Discover:Practical ideas for building alignment, handling hand-offs, and honoring your child's divided heartWhy “The End Adult Matters Most” changes everythingWhy “emotionally baby-proofing” is essential for children of divorce The benefits of a business-meeting approach to co-parenting (TEAMM meetings)How to approach an uncooperative exResources from this Episode:Co-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce by Tammy DaughtryConnect directly with Jay and Tammy:  Co-Parenting InternationalCLICK HERE to get FREE resources from Co-Parenting InternationalEpisode 84. How to Cope with Sadness, Anxiety and Longing While Your Kids Are GoneCLICK HERE for more Episodes on Healthy Co-ParentingReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Darren and I share some hilarious (and embarrassing) stories from the last 12 years.  Like the time I hid behind a fence from the ex, meeting the kids, dressing the same as the ex, the proposal story, and more about those early stepmom days. We also share more BTS from the "no kids in the bedroom" rule that made the internet go wild. Subscribe to my Substack  ⁠https://substack.com/@jamiescrimgeour Get The Disengaging Without Disconnecting Masterclass www.jamiescrimgeour.com/disengaging  Work With Me.www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching  Get My Ebook -  120 Ways To Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom www.jamiescrimgeour.com/ebook  Episode Sponsors:  Val Fleury Skin | My favourite LED light therapy mask. Go to ⁠www.valfleuryskin.com⁠ JAMIE20 for 20% off your purchase LMNT | My Go To Electrolyte Drink. Head to www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom to get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase. OSEA | Clean skincare that actually works.  Shop OSEA:https://bit.ly/47jvKIj OSEA Ocean Body Glow Set: https://bit.ly/4h16E59 Use code KICKASSSTEPMOM10 for 10% off your first order

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

You want this season to feel special for your blended family. But instead of joy, you're feeling grumpy, anxious, or even a little hopeless. Schedule changes, empty chairs at the table, tension with an ex, and slow bonding in step-relationships can make gratitude feel out of reach. Deep down you might be wondering, “How am I supposed to be thankful when life really hurts?”In this episode, we'll sit with you in that question. And we'll introduce three simple “gratitude lenses” that will help you focus on what's good without denying what's hard. Through honest stories from our personal journey, including Kim's long season of walking with Annika through addiction and into recovery, you'll see how gratitude can keep you anchored so that you can show up well as you face tough realities.   You'll also learn how to hold grief and gratitude at the same time while guarding against three common negativity traps that quietly drain hope and resilience. By the end, you'll have one small, clear next step to begin practicing gratitude in real life, right where you are, in this season and beyond.You'll Discover:Three gratitude lenses tailored for real life, you can start using todaySimple gratitude habits that can make a positive difference How to hold grief and gratitude simultaneously - without having to pretendThe 3 “P” traps that crush resilience—and how you can resist themResources from this Episode:Episode 42. Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - And 6 Tips for YouEpisode 84. Coping with Sadness, Anxiety, and Longing when the Kids are GoneEpisode 154. What practical and Emotional Shifts Can You Expect as You Blend a Family? Episode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your 'Perfectionist' Ideals and Disappointments Episode 202. How to Break Free From Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron and Nan Deal] Episode 189.  Bringing Hope to the Realities of Grief:  A Path to Understanding and Healing [with Krista St-Germain]Episode 187.  Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 51. Overcoming Discouragement (Part 1 of  3)Episode 99. Moving Beyond Painful Guilt and RegretEpisode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them OutEpisode 220. From Marginalized to Mainstream:  How to Reclaim Confidence Episode 215. Does your Relationship Feel Hopeless?  Why Giving Up Might Not be the Answer?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

The holidays can turn magical… …or messy!  This is especially true when two households, multiple calendars, and big expectations collide. You want peace, memories, and connection; the problem is last-minute schedule changes, mixed emotions, and the pressure to please everyone. We've been there. In this conversation, we'll offer practical guidance with a simple plan: five respectful negotiation tips for working with the other home and a kid-centered framework to navigate disappointment when plans don't line up. This year, choose to take a proactive approach so that you can lower tension, avoid drama, and model resilience. The stakes are high. Painful interactions, confusion, guilt, and your kid's sense of stability are all on the line. What does success look like? A calmer season where your family can experience peace and memorable moments, even when things aren't “perfect". You'll Discover:Five negotiation tips for co-parenting that lead to better opportunities for healthy cooperation.Why predictability matters for kids moving between homes, and how early, respectful communication increases collaboration and peace. How to prevent heartbreak by finalizing plans with the other home before sharing exciting news with children. The "Five A's" framework for helping kids manage disappointmentA mindset reframe: missed activities and events aren't failed parenting, they're an opportunity to build emotional resilience and solid character. Resources from this Episode:Episode 67. The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already KnowEpisode 222.  Step-by-Step Guide:  Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse (Part 1 of 2)Episode 33.  How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your ExEpisode 112.  3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt The KidsEpisode 113.  How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 188. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 2 of 2)Ready for some extra support? We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

You're the parent, or stepparent, who wants less conflict and more connection. But a child's resistance, sarcasm, isolation, or hurtful words, such as: “you're not my dad,” can derail plans and result in hurtful interactions. We've been there.In part 2 of this mini-series, you'll discover how to respond well in tough moments of pushback by using John Gottman's 5 steps of Emotion Coaching. You'll hear us role-play around real-life pushback when a child is competing for a parent's love, making accusations and threats, and behaving oppositionally toward a stepparent.We'll offer a better way to manage those moments with words that help kids feel seen, heard, and understood.  We'll also show you the best approach for addressing poor behavior and setting boundaries. The plan is simple: notice the emotion, treat it as an opportunity, listen and validate, help label feelings, then set limits while exploring solutions. Practice this, and you'll be surprised at how you can lower the tension, build relational safety, and strengthen your connection with a struggling child. When pushback hits, it is possible to move away from reacting in ways that don't help and instead, create an atmosphere of mutual trust, respect,  and real connection in your home.You'll Discover:The 5 Emotion Coaching steps from John Gottman (with wording you can steal) and why each step matters. How to decode what's going on underneath pushback and respond in a way that helps your child move through pain, loss, anger, sadness, and confusion. When and how to set behavioral boundaries so that kids are more open to receiving and responding well. A simple script for stepparents to defuse “You're not my dad/mom” moments while building mutual respect and understanding. When and how to engage in problem-solving with your child and foster real buy-in, confidence, and trust.Resources from this Episode:Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John GottmanEpisode 222. Step-by-Step Guide: Facing Painful Pushback Without Making Things Worse [Part 1]Episode 194.  Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Episode 195.  Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental AlienationEpisode 210.  Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveEpisode 211. 8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindEpisode 92.  At a loss and feeling defeated because the kids stubbornly refuse to blend?Episode 132. How do loss and grief impact blended family integration?Episode 189. Bringing Hope to the Realities of Grief:  A Path to Understanding and Healing [with Krista St-Germain]Ready for some extra support?   Schedule your free coaching call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

We know that pushback moments can sting. Eye rolls, refusals, accusations, or shutting down are all things kids in blended families can tend to do. It's easy for parents and stepparents to appease, minimize, deflect, control, try to 'fix-it' or simply avoid pushback (we've done it too). In this two-part series, we act as your guides and name the real struggle beneath kids' hurtful behavior: loss, grief, and fear that come with blending. Then we introduce a clear plan: Emotion Coaching. You'll hear real-life scenarios, why common reactions backfire, and what to do instead to help your child feel seen and supported. The win? A calmer home,  stronger bonds, and practical steps forward. The risk of doing nothing? Escalating conflict, shutdown, resentment, and power struggles. If you're ready to respond to your child's pushback with calm, clarity, and care, this conversation is for you.You'll Discover:The four common Pushback Predicaments: competing for love, accusations/threats, oppositional attitude, and loss & grief. And what's really going on underneath. Why appeasing, minimizing, deflecting, defending, controlling, or avoiding often makes things worse, and what kids hear when we react in those ways. How Emotion Coaching helps kids identify and name big feelings, regulate their emotions, and become receptive to changing their behavior.  Plus, the blended-family benefits (safety, trust, and respect). A simple reflection challenge to build awareness around your typical reaction patterns and your child's reactions to your reactions, so that you can choose a better way to respond next time. Continued Learning on this Topic:Episode 154. What practical and emotional shifts can you expect as you blend your family?Episode 213. Discover How to Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce [with Lauren Reitsema]Episode 159.  How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and HurtEpisode 37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent?Episode 039. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant StepkidsReady for some extra supportWe all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback! 

ResourcesEpisode 221.Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

ResourcesBlend Don't Break by Chad and Jdele BrignacCLICK HERE to connect with ChadCLICK HERE to connect with JdeleSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Have you ever experienced an awkward "stepfamily moment" in public?  Like when someone notices that you and your child have different last names or makes assumptions about your family dynamics?  We've experienced plenty of those moments in our blended family journey, and it doesn't feel very good. In today's conversation, we address the experience of feeling “marginalized” or "less than".  And we'll share what we've done to stand in our true identity and invite others into genuine connection, rather than avoiding the awkwardness.It's liberating to simply normalize the reality that blended families are everywhere, and we embrace three mindset shifts that make a real difference: Be confident and secure about how your family came together Be authentic by offering a simple, positive message that honors your story Avoid comparison traps Our hope is that you'll feel seen, supported, and empowered to carry your story with courage and to know that you aren't alone.You'll DiscoverWhat feeling “marginalized” looks like in everyday moments, and why blended families are part of the cultural mainstreamA simple, unapologetic way to respond to awkward situations without shaming yourself or your kidsFour tools to escape comparison traps and stay confident and secureResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to check out the Blending Together CommunityEpisode 11. 3 Hidden Strengths for Imperfect Blended FamiliesEpisode 156. The 3 Super Strengths of a Blended Family Marriage Episode 114. Beware of Common Comparison Traps that Create Disconnection and Negativity Episode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them OutEpisode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your "Perfectionistic" Ideals and Disappointments Episode 180. Break Free From Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and Security Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click here to get started!

CLICK HERE to learn more about the Blending Together CommunitySuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click here to get started!

Over our 24 years of blending, we've discovered that every couple needs a clear strategy to get unstuck and move toward the family future they really want. In this conversation, we share a proven approach to aligning around your family's goals, creating a values-based parenting approach, and avoiding the common pitfalls that lead to chaos, resentment, and division. We know how confusing and lonely blended family life can feel at times—it's complicated! Even with millions of stepfamilies across the country, it can still feel like you're on an island trying to figure it all out alone. That's why in today's episode—released on National Stepfamily Day—we're tackling this question: How can you reduce blended family chaos and instead build a united front as a couple while connecting with a supportive community that truly understands?Additionally, in honor of National Stepfamily Day, we're introducing a special opportunity to join our Blending Together Community free for 30 days, where you'll benefit from genuine connections, encouragement, and proven strategies that work. You'll Discover:How Parenting ‘by default' often leads to places you never intended to go. But when you choose to parent with intention, you can guide your family toward the future you truly want.The importance of prioritizing a few key family values to create unity, reduce conflict, and avoid getting overwhelmed.Practical ways to communicate your values to the kids without lecturing or undermining the stepparent.How a values-based approach simplifies discipline and builds long-term character, not just short-term compliance.The life-changing difference that comes from being part of a supportive community that understands the unique challenges of blending a family.Resources from this Episode:Episode 218.  How to Positively Influence Your Kids' Character When Your Ex Undermines Your ValuesCLICK HERE to learn more about our Blending Together CommunityQuestions? Email us at:  kim@blendedfamilybreakthrough.comReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed to or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Blended families don't just merge households—they merge bank accounts, bills, and very different money expectations. And while stepfamilies are becoming more and more common, the financial playbook for them is far from simple. Every dollar spent can feel loaded: is it going to your kids, your spouse's kids, or the kids you're now raising together?My guest today, Cameron Normand, is one of the country's leading stepfamily experts and the founder of Stepfamily Solutions. She knows firsthand how money and emotional labor intersect in blended families, and she's built a career helping stepparents navigate the financial and emotional landmines that come with the role.In our conversation, Cameron breaks down why finances in stepfamilies are about so much more than dollars and cents, the “insider-outsider” syndrome that many stepparents face, and what it really takes to create a household where everyone feels seen, supported, and financially secure.Learn more about Cameron at stepfamilysolutions.com. And check out her 10 Essential Stepmom Scripts, which helps stepmoms with some of the most challenging conversations in blended family life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

If you've ever felt like the values you're trying to instill in your kids get undone the moment they step into the other home, you're not alone. We've been there—and we know how discouraging it can feel.In this episode, we share a powerful tool we first learned from Ron Deal called the Inoculation Strategy. It's a simple, practical way to prepare your kids to recognize and resist negative influences—without badmouthing or creating loyalty binds. We'll walk you through real-life examples from our own blended family journey, explain how to stay in the “neutral zone” while teaching important lessons, and encourage you to keep planting seeds of character even when it seems like they aren't taking root. Over time, your kids will internalize what you've instilled—and those intentional lessons will matter more than you think.You'll Discover:The “wild card factor” that often fuels conflict between householdsTwo key realities you must accept before using the Inoculation StrategyPractical ways to engage your kids by using movies, books, current events, and personal stories as teaching moments that countHow to avoid loyalty binds and protect your child's wellbeing while guiding them toward positive values, character traits, and life skillsResources from this Episode:The Smart Stepfamily by Ron DealEpisode 207. Four Myths About Parenting When Your Ex Has Different RulesReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

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My daughters join me to celebrate the milestone of 100 episodes! Considering I wouldn't be where I am without them, it's about time they made their stamp on the podcast! Each of the 100 messages have been personal as they've highlighted what we've learned and the things that we're in the process of walking through. Grateful for the growth and where our family stands today. More to come! 

ResourcesSurviving & Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Patricia PapernowEpisode 217. Feeling Overwhelmed and Powerless?  How to Regain Hope with Tools that Heal [with EJ and Tarah Kerwin]Episode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple ExperiencesEpisode 206. Avoid These 5 Common Pitfalls to Ensure a Successful PartnershipSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Do your children spell love the same way you do? For most kids, LOVE = T-I-M-E. In this episode of The Blended Kingdom Families Podcast we revisit a top series -  Blending Your Bunch, and unpack the powerful connection between time and love in parenting and step-parenting. Whether you're looking for practical ways to spend more intentional time with your kids, or you're a stepparent seeking strategies to strengthen bonds with your stepchildren, this conversation is for you.Inside this episode, you'll discover:- Why children interpret love as time spent with them- Simple, intentional ways to maximize time with your kids- How to balance busy schedules while still prioritizing family- Biblical encouragement on being prayerful, patient, and persistent in your parenting journeyWe pray this episode blesses you todayWant to join the Blended Kingdom Families Community? Connect with us: Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, To support this ministry and help ensure that blended families around the world continue to receive biblical equipping click here: https://blendedkingdomfamilies.com/donate/ For more resources visit: Blended Kingdom Families Website

If you've ever wondered why blending a family feels so hard—even when you're "doing everything right"—this episode is for you.In today's conversation, we connect with EJ and Tarah Kerwin—professional therapists and co-founders of the Relationship Renovation Counseling Center—who open up about the very real and very raw struggles they faced when they merged their lives into one blended family. Despite all their training, nothing could have prepared them for the emotional rollercoaster of stepparenting, co-parenting, and navigating deep-seated personal triggers.But they didn't give up. They got curious. They did the work. And they developed tools that not only brought healing to their own marriage, but are now helping countless couples thrive through their counseling center, podcast, and programs.This isn't a story about perfection—it's a story about partnership, growth, and hope. If you've ever felt powerless, stuck, or just plain exhausted, lean in. There's light at the end of this tunnel.You'll Discover:You aren't alone - even two trained therapists struggled to understand and work through the challenges of blendingHow to reduce tension in your relationship and move toward healthy communication and partnershipHelpful mindsets for moving beyond resentment and dread when your step-kids come for visitationA path to freedom by learning to recognize  your own painful emotions - and nurture yourself through them The value of doing repair work with kids when we mess up by using the right approachResources from this Episode:Relationship Renovation Counseling CenterThe Relationship Renovation Podcast with EJ & Tara KerwinReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Do you fight in front of your kids? Well, you should! You may need to redefine what it means to 'fight' with your significant other and some of the rules around what is and isn't within bounds may need to change as well. Nonetheless, much can be learned from a dispute handled the right way. Our kids don't need to be exposed to any and every dispute, but they should witness the way that we handle and resolve conflict. Realizing that disagreement isn't the end of the world is a blessing that they carry into their relationships for years to come!

ResourcesEpisode 36. How to Change Your "Stories" and Grow Connection [with Mark Warren] Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

If you've ever found yourself tangled in the emotional mess of a high-conflict ex, today's conversation is for you. My guest, Priscilla Smith, knows exactly what it's like to live in that storm. A certified stepfamily coach and child-free stepmom (and speaker at the upcoming Stepmom Summit!), Priscilla has navigated years of tension, loyalty binds, and co-parenting chaos — all while building a stronger marriage and a more peaceful home. She's here to share how she shifted from reacting to leading, stopped letting the ex dictate her peace, and created tools that actually work in real life. In this episode, we talk about: The turning point that helped Priscilla reclaim her calm Why waiting for a high-conflict ex to change will keep you stuck How to take the high road without feeling like a doormat The impact on your relationship — and how to protect it Practical self-care in the middle of constant stress Whether you're in the thick of it right now or supporting someone who is, Priscilla's story and strategies will help you see a way forward — one that's not about “fixing” someone else, but about protecting your own energy, marriage, and peace. About Priscilla: Priscilla Smith is a certified stepfamily coach who helps stepmoms and their partners go from chaos to clarity to calm, especially when high-conflict dynamics and neurodiverse child needs are part of the picture. A child-free stepmom herself, Priscilla brings many years of lived experience, a calm presence, and a deep understanding of the unique challenges that come with blending families. With a mindset-focused approach, she helps clients break free from old patterns, build new tools, and create lasting change in their relationships and daily life. She doesn't just hand out advice, she asks the right questions, helps you connect the dots, and teaches practical strategies that actually stick. Before coaching, Priscilla spent two decades in Human Resources and leadership development, where she honed her skills in strategy, goal setting, and guiding people through tough transitions. She now works with stepfamilies across the globe from her home in central Pennsylvania, where she enjoys reading and hanging out with her dog, Bernie. You Can Find Priscilla: Blendedbloomingcoaching.com Instagram: @blendedstepfamilycoaching Priscilla's FREE Mastering Transition Days Guide: https://blendedbloomingcoaching.myflodesk.com/transitiondayguide  Links Mentioned In This Episode: Join the waitlist for The Stepmom Summit: thestepmomsummit.com Learn more about Stepfamily Coach Academy certification program Are you enjoying The Stepmom Diaries? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show. It will help me reach more stepmoms just like you so they can get MORE out of stepmom life! It's super easy – all you have to do is click HERE and scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “write a review.” Then just let me know what you like best! And the best part about leaving a review? If you send me a screenshot of your review, I'll send YOU my 20-minute Stepmom Self-Care Blueprint. For FREE. It's normally $49 and it's a great tool to quickly set up a self-care plan you'll actually use. Just head HERE to send me your screenshot and grab your blueprint!  

About Stepfamilies of the Bible: Timeless Wisdom for Blended FamiliesBlending families isn't easy—but hope and guidance can be found in scripture. In Stepfamilies of the Bible blended family expert and stepmom, Laura Petherbridge offers heartfelt insights and solutions for navigating the complex emotions, relationships, and challenges of today's blended families. Through inspiring true stories of God's heroes from stepfamilies, discover practical tools to build unity, overcome complexities, foster love, and rely on faith during every step of the journey.This powerful healing resource is the entire blended family, not merely couples. It's designed for anyone currently in—or related to—a blended family. Laura provides encouragement, wisdom, and God's grace. Begin your journey today!Purchase a copy of Stepfamilies of the Bible: Timeless Wisdom for Blended Families here.Connect with Laura Petherbridgewebsite | Facebook | InstagramLaura Petherbridge serves couples and single adults with topics on spiritual growth, relationships, stepfamilies, co-parenting, single parenting, divorce prevention, and divorce recovery.She is an international speaker and author of four books including, When “I Do” Becomes “I Don't”—Practical Steps for Healing During Separation and Divorce, and The Smart Stepmom, co-authored with stepfamily expert Ron Deal and endorsed by Gary Chapman (Five Love Languages), 101Tips for The Smart Stepmom—Expert Advice from One Stepmom to Another and Quiet Moments for the Stepmom Soul-a devotional.Laura has spoken at the Billy Graham Training Center, and for Lifeway, Family Life, Hearts at Home, and Iron Sharpens Iron conferences.

If you're feeling stuck in a blended family marriage that's filled with constant conflict, emotional disconnection, or overwhelming stress, you're not alone—and you're not without hope. Wes and Jennie were right where you are. Ten kids, a new marriage, and the chaos of the pandemic had pushed them into survival mode. Their arguments were frequent and intense. Their connection was fading fast. And they had no idea how to move forward.But instead of giving up, they chose to reach out for help.That's when they found us—and together, we walked through a proven coaching process that provided them with tools to reconnect, resolve conflicts, and build a strong foundation in their marriage. In this episode, you'll hear the breakthroughs they experienced and how they transformed not only their relationship but their entire family dynamic.You'll also hear the amazing update four years later—including BIG wins in building genuine connections with their kids, becoming grandparents, and a special first-time experience as a family.Listen in and be encouraged!  You can experience transformation too - all it takes is one brave step forward.You'll Discover:How Wes and Jennie moved from explosive arguments to calm, clear communicationWhy investing in your marriage is essential for blended family successThe surprising power of understanding your personal past in order to show up better in the presentThe long-term results of imperfect progress, even in the toughest seasonsResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to continue learning, growing, and investing in the health of your relationshipReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

ResourcesEpisode 215. Does Your Relationship Feel Hopeless? Why Giving Up Might Not Be the Answer The 5 Love Languages by Gary ChapmanEpisode 155. How to Easily Enjoy Meaningful Conversations and More Connection with Your Spouse [with Jennifer Zumbiel]Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

In this important episode, we're talking to the spouse who feels stuck, discouraged, or even ready to throw in the towel. We get it.  We've been there too.We're diving into a powerful resource: Dr. Gary Chapman's book, Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away. We'll unpack four painful myths that keep couples stuck and explore six powerful “realities” that can spark real change, starting with you. And yes, we're sharing our own story of how we nearly gave up, what we did instead, and why we're so thankful we didn't walk away.Whether you're barely hanging on or just in a tough season, this episode is filled with vulnerability, truth, encouragement, and hope. We hope you know you're not alone, and there is a path forward.You'll Discover:Four common myths that keep couples stuck, feeling hopeless in their relationshipSix powerful realities that can shift your mindset and help you move forwardWhy shifting your own attitudes and actions is the key to influencing your relationshipHow “reality living” helped us break destructive patterns in our marriage The difference between giving up and letting go with peace and clarityResources from this Episode:Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away by Gary ChapmanEpisode 138. How Relational Dysfunction Plagued Our Marriage and How We Finally Broke FreeEpisode 202.  How to Break Free From Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron and Nan Deal]Episode 200. A Heart-to-Heart Conversation Exploring the Secrets to Lasting LoveEpisode 190.   Where can you turn for help?  Understand the Difference Between Counseling and CoachingEpisode 65. 6 Simple Steps for Inviting Your Spouse to Get Help with YouEpisode 147. Do Sensitive Conversations End Up Creating Conflict in Your Relationship? Episode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (The Stranded Stranger & Trapped Teammate Dynamic)Episode 120. 3 Valuable Lessons That Saved Our Marriage and Blended FamilyEpisode 101. Are you overwhelmed because your marriage feels like too much work? (Part 1 of 2)Episode 51. Overcoming Discouragement (Part 1 of 3)Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

What does it mean to be a "feminist dad"? Maybe a better place to start is asking: what does it mean to be a feminist at all... and why is that term so controversial? There are many ideas and misunderstandings associated with the concept of feminism, and in August of 2021, we were fortunate to explore feminism and fatherhood with the brilliant Jordan Shapiro: author, educator, and senior fellow at the Joan Ganz Cooney Center at Sesame Workshop. In his acclaimed book, Father Figure: How to Be a Feminist Dad, Jordan unpacks how traditional ideas of masculinity shape our parenting, why inclusivity matters, and what it takes to raise "radically inclusive" kids in a rapidly changing world. Whether you're new to the topic or ready to challenge what you thought you knew, this Rewind episode is full of big ideas and practical takeaways.Topics include:•  Fatherhood as an evolving, not fixed, role shaped by changing ideas about masculinity and gender.•  Embracing feminism in parenting by modeling inclusivity, equality, and respect for all.•  Challenging traditional masculine norms and embracing vulnerability and growth as a dad.•  Prioritizing responsibility and adaptability over authority in fatherhood.•  The importance of self-reflection and open dialogue about gender, identity, and family roles.•  And more!LINKS:Farther Figure: How To Be a Feminist DadJordan Shapiro (official website)Jordan Shapiro (Twitter)Jordan Shapiro (Instagram)Red Vault AudioCaspar BabypantsSpencer AlbeeModern Dadhood (website)AdamFlaherty.tvStuffed Animal (Marc's kids' music)MD (Instagram)MD (Facebook)MD (YouTube)MD (TikTok) #moderndadhood #fatherhood #parenthood #parenting #parentingpodcast #dadding #dadpodcast

ResourcesEpisode 214.  Does Permissive Parenting Help or Hurt?  Discover How to Know and GrowRaising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanLove and Logic Parenting Method  - Love and Logic is a research-driven, whole-child philosophy founded in 1977. This authoritative approach is used by parents and leading educators worldwide.Episode 184. The Heart of Motherhood:  Navigating Messy Moments with Empathy and LoveEpisode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 205. 4 Facets of Parenting:  What Bio Parents Need to Know to Achieve Best Outcomes (Part 2 of 2)Episode 168. Actionable Steps for Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 172. 2 Key Elements to Resolve Your Parenting Style Differences - And Get UnitedEpisode 124. How to Effectively Parent Through Each Stage of Development - And Reduce Painful Interactions (Part 1 of 2)Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

In this episode, we're getting real about something that so many blended family parents struggle with: permissive parenting driven by guilt, fear, or insecurity.Kim opens up about her personal journey as a single mom, how her guilt and fear led her to parent from a place of pity, and how that impacted her daughter, Annika. We're also diving into the difference between pity and empathy and how embracing authoritative parenting—rooted in love and limits—can shift everything for your family. Whether you're a parent stuck in emotional reactivity or a stepparent struggling to support your spouse, this episode is packed with encouragement, practical insight, and next steps to help you move forward with clarity and confidence.You'll Discover:The surprising ways guilt, fear, and insecurity can lead to permissive parenting and the negative impact on kidsHow pity and empathy differ and why it matters for your child's developmentWhat authoritative parenting looks like and why it's the most healthy and effective styleReal-life examples of how blended family dynamics impact parenting decisions and often create stressHow to begin shifting your mindset and reclaiming your parental authority so that you can be the kind of leader your kids really needResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to continue learning and growing in your parenting journeyParenting Style Quiz:  What's Your Parenting Style?Episode 99. 3 Tips to Help You Move Beyond Painful Guilt and RegretEpisode 179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and ClarityEpisode 180. Break Free from Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and SecurityEpisode 209. Breaking Free from Self-Doubt:  5 Habits to Build Confidence and Trust in YourselfEpisode 189.  Bring Hope to the Realities of Grief: A Path to Understanding and Healing [with Krista St-Germain] Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourceEpisode 213. Discover How to Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce [with Lauren Reitsema] Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts, too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori is joined by the renowned “Smart Stepmom,” Laura Petherbridge, to discuss her latest book, Step Families of the Bible. Laura shares powerful insights into how stepfamilies of the Bible mirror the struggles of today's stepfamilies. Drawing on biblical stories, she reveals how universal emotions like jealousy, loyalty, and anger shaped stepfamily dynamics both then and now. Listeners will gain invaluable wisdom on handling stepmom challenges, parent/child bonds, step-sibling rivalries, and the importance of empathy, grace, and boundaries in blended families. If you're looking for real talk, practical advice, and spiritual encouragement in your blended family journey, this episode is a must-listen! #NachoKids #BlendedFamilies #StepFamilyWisdom Resources Mentioned NachoKids.com NachoKidsAcademy.com Nacho Parenting Testimonial: "Joining Nacho Kids Academy saved my sanity. I finally understand my role and don't feel guilty stepping back." K.M., Ohio  

What a privilege to have Lauren Reitsema back on the show to dive deeper into how we can authentically bond and connect with kids who are navigating divorce and blended family dynamics. Lauren's passion for relationship skills began in middle school after her parents' divorce, leading her to pursue Communication Studies at TCU. She's the author of In Their Shoes, helping parents connect with children of divorce, and Relationship Essentials, which offers tools for healthy communication and boundaries.For over 15 years, Lauren has taught relationship skills to teens, adults, and professionals. As President of The Center for Relationship Education in Denver, she inspires others to value and invest in their most important relationships.Lauren vulnerably shares from her own journey as a child of divorce and blending, offering practical guidance and real encouragement for both bio and step parents. We explore why it's critical to understand the identity crisis many kids face, lean into hard emotions like grief, and the power of empathy and patience to lower resistance and build genuine, lasting connections. Join us as we unpack Lauren's wisdom. It's truly a game-changer for every blended family.You'll Discover:The impact of broken family identity and why kids struggle to accept changing family dynamicsStrategies for step-parents to manage rejection and disappointment with patience and perseverance.The critical difference between seeking compliance versus nurturing an authentic connection.How embracing the struggle rather than avoiding it can lead to transformative growth and healing.How to create and craft a relationship with your stepchild as you go, without expectation, while honoring the child's pace.  Resources from this Episode:In Their Shoes by Lauren ReitsemaEpisode 40. Uncover the Unspoken Feeling of Kids in Blended Families [Special Resource:  In Their Shoes]Relationship Essentials by Lauren Reitsema and Joneen Mackenzie To connect with Lauren:  lauren@myrelationshipcenter.orgPast episodes with Lauren:Episode 173. Expert Guidance for Holiday Success Episode 161. How to Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? Episode 172. How do Healthy Step-Parent/Step-Child Dynamics Avoid the Pitfalls of Step-Parentification?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

An estimated 100 million people in the United States have some sort of “step” relationship. This could be a stepchild, a stepparent, or even a stepsibling. These relationships are often part of what's known as a “blended” family, where individuals come together from previous relationships to form a new, unique family unit.Blended families face many challenges and difficulties that other families don't necessarily have to navigate. They have to build new relationships within the parent-child and sibling dynamics that have already been established. It can feel awkward at times, and kids may even struggle with feeling like their stepparent is trying to replace or force a bond.While we don't have personal experience on this topic, our guests do—and they are here to share their wisdom with us. Paul and Jeannette Savage are a Colorado-based couple with a blended family of five adult children and five grandchildren. Together, they authored Blended: Navigating the Challenges and Joys of a Stepfamily.In this episode, you'll hear:Common challenges blended families faceThe importance of avoiding defensivenessHow to preserve the original parent-child bondAnd more!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/paul-jeannette-savage-252Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

In this episode, we're tackling one of the most emotionally charged challenges for blended families: navigating co-parenting dynamics and negotiating with an ex-spouse. Whether things are civil or you're experiencing high levels of tension, we share the three strategies that have changed everything for us and for the couples we coach — Clarity, Communication, and Consistency.We'll share what's worked (and what hasn't), including stories from our co-parenting journey. You'll hear how Kim learned to lead with respect, even when she felt disrespected, and how we helped one couple shift from chaos to calm by gaining clarity in the values and expectations of their own home.If you're ready to show up with more confidence, reduce co-parenting conflict, and build influence, this conversation is for you.  You'll gain hope, practical tools, and encouragement.You'll Discover:Why clarity in your home's values gives you confidence during tough conversations with an exThe unexpected power of respectful communication (even when it's one-sided)How consistency in your tone and with your boundaries helps to build trust and increase your influenceActionable steps and communication tips to manage disagreements between you and your exWhy your kids' emotional security starts with how you show up, not how your ex doesResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to continue learning how you can improve your co-parenting relationshipReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesEpisode 210.  Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveEpisode 211.  8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindEpisode 6. Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' and What Can You Do About It?Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts, too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we appreciate your feedback!

Christina welcomes back Michelle to talk about real and tactical tips for navigating the chaos of summer—when there's no school or camp buffer, exchanges get messy, routines fall apart, and stepmoms often end up managing more than they expected. Michelle and Christiina talk about boundaries, managing expectations with partners, and keeping your sanity when everything feels unpredictable. What can you do now to protect your peace this summer?  Listen in! About My Guest: Coach Michelle is a high conflict resolution coach, an attorney, and a badass single mom. She helps parents disengage from high conflict relationships, getting them out of court, and stepping back into their lives. Her unique combination as a certified Martha Beck life coach, a lawyer for almost 20 years, her field of study in Psychology, and her own personal family law experience, makes Michelle a well-rounded coach, capable of helping parents learn how to disengage from a challenging and protracted co-parenting relationship.Find her on IG: coachmichellesdWebsite: www.coachmichelle.clubSo much more than a podcast!!!Instagram: @radicalstepmomspodcastSchedule with Christina: https://chatwithchristina.as.me/Become a Member: https://www.patreon.com/radicalstepmomspodcastwww.radicalstepmomspodcast.com

We know how heartbreaking it can be when your child starts pulling away from you.  It can leave you wondering if your ex is negatively influencing them behind the scenes. We've lived it. In this deeply personal episode, we open up about the painful season we went through with Kim's daughter, Annika. We talk through how to recognize the signs of manipulation, avoid common parenting missteps, and respond in ways that protect your child's emotional well-being.  All while preserving your connection. Plus, we share the powerful strategy we call “the pebble in the shoe” and how it can shift distorted narratives over time and help your child embrace the truth. If it seems like you're living under a black cloud, and you're feeling discouraged or defeated, there is hope. You're not alone, and your story isn't over.You'll Discover:How to identify subtle signs that your co-parent may be manipulating your child — and how you can respond effectivelyHelpful ways to communicate with a hurt, angry, rejecting, distant child.A powerful strategy (“the pebble in the shoe”) to gently counter misinformation without escalating conflictThe importance of remaining steady and staying connected even when your child is distancing themselves from youResources from this Episode:Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveArticle by Dr. Bob Evans:  17 Primary Alienation StrategiesEpisode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [ with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Book by Amy J.L. Baker:  Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant ChildEpisode 195. Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental AlienationEpisode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession Leave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts. Your review will help others find our podcast. Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether