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The ADHD MUMS podcast is a safe place where everyday Australian Mothers with real stories can discuss their struggles with ADHD, motherhood, and life. Great for struggling, burnt out Mum's who want drop the perfectionism. Mixture of solo episodes, stories from typical Aussie ADHD Mums and quality information from experts on diagnosis, medication, strategies for success and how to live a more balanced life as a woman with ADHD.

Jane McFadden


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    85. Real Tools for Real Rage (Mum Rage Part 2)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 26:42


    Okay, so you’ve screamed into your car steering wheel. Now what? In Part 2, Jane and clinical psychologist Dr Jacinta Thompson return to bring the goods: the actual, practical tools ADHD mums can use to manage rage without pretending to be zen all the time. From self-coaching scripts to nervous system hacks, this episode gives you permission to be angry—and shows you what to do with it that’s actually effective. Because no, you don’t need to just 'try yoga' again. And no, you’re not the only one who wants to punch the air when your partner asks what’s for dinner.

    84. I Love My Family… But I'm So F**king Angry (Mum Rage Part 1)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2025 39:28


    If you've ever felt like you were about to rage-clean the entire house, scream in your car, or book a one-way ticket to anywhere then here, this episode is for you. We’re diving into mum rage, sensory overload, and the shame spiral that follows—because if just regulating your emotions was that easy, none of us would be listening to this episode. Dr. Jacinta Thompson is back to break down why ADHD mums experience explosive frustration and what’s actually happening in your brain when you hit breaking point.

    83. Too Much? Or Just Misunderstood: ADHD, RSD & the Power of Emotional Intensity

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 27:20


    Ever been called ‘a bit much’? Apologised for your personality before someone’s even asked your name? You’re not alone - and you’re not the problem. In this solo episode, Jane cracks open the messy reality of emotional intensity, ADHD, and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD). From 2am spiral sessions to crying because someone didn’t wave back - this episode calls it what it is: a misunderstood but very real part of neurodivergent life. No shame. No pastel filter. Just honest strategies to help your emotional wiring work for you - not against you. What We Cover: Why being ‘too much’ is usually just being human with ADHD How RSD can derail your week before breakfast Scripts for when you want to rage-text the school group chat How to pause before you blow up (or implode) What the hell the 10-Minute Rule is - and why it actually works Why emotional regulation isn’t just breathing exercises and wine Modelling emotional resilience (without toxic positivity) Turning emotional intensity into advocacy, connection, and actual power Resources & Links: Download the RSD & Emotional Intensity Kit – includes scripts, reflection prompts, calm-down strategies Related episodes: Handling Family Criticism, Boundary Setting & Boundary Creep on Apple or Spotify (S2 Ep 51) Stop People Pleasing on Apple or Spotify (S2 Ep 50) Listen Now If your emotions feel like a liability (or your kid’s meltdown sets off your own), this one’s for you. Hit play. Share with a friend who spirals too. And share it with the mum who keeps apologising for just being herself. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD emotional intensity, rejection sensitive dysphoria, RSD and ADHD, emotional regulation ADHD, ADHD mum meltdown, ADHD and relationships, ADHD overwhelm, how to manage big emotions ADHD, ADHD parenting stress, ADHD spiralling, ADHD and shame, ADHD self-compassion, ADHD boundary setting, scripts for RSD, ADHD reaction control, ADHD neurodivergent emotions, calming strategies ADHD, ADHD social anxiety, ADHD overstimulation, ADHD mum guilt, ADHD burnout prevention, ADHD advocacy, ADHD friendship strugglesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    82. ADHD or PTSD? Why So Many Women Are Misdiagnosed with Amanda Moses

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2025 43:56


    Too many women walk into a psych’s office knowing something’s not right—and walk out with a label that only tells half the story. ADHD or PTSD? Or both? In this episode, Jane chats with senior psychologist, educator, and PhD candidate Amanda Moses, whose work centres on complex, highly masked neurodivergent presentations. Together, they tackle one of the most misunderstood clinical issues facing ADHD women: misdiagnosis, trauma-blaming, and the dangerous trend of withholding treatment. If you’ve ever been told to 'treat the trauma first' or felt like your neurodivergence was being ignored because of your childhood history, this one’s for you.

    81. You've Tried Everything… They Still Won't Eat: Real Strategies for ARFID at Home

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 42:02


    You're not overreacting. You've spent hundreds trying to keep their “safe foods” stocked, only for them to refuse it the next day. You've stood in the kitchen, holding a full lunchbox, wondering how they'll get through the day - and how you'll keep holding it together.This isn't just fussy eating. And this episode isn't just more information - it's the support you've been looking for.Want real tools to help with ARFID at home? The companion kit to this episode is packed with scripts, trackers, and strategies to make food feel less impossible. Grab it here for just $10.In this episode:What *actually* helps when you've run out of safe foods and ideasHow to feel less panicked when they suddenly refuse the only thing they ate yesterdayWays to reduce the guilt, pressure and dread around mealtimes (for them and for you)Scripts to help you handle family comments or school pushback with calm and clarityHow to track food patterns and build a “yes list” that gives you more breathing roomWhat Jane does at home to manage ARFID without daily battlesThis isn't about getting them to eat broccoli.It's about reducing the anxiety, shame, and exhaustion around food - and giving you a path forward that doesn't rely on force, tricks, or “just one bite” deals.If your child only eats two things, if family mealtimes feel like a minefield, if you're terrified the fridge doesn't have the one thing they'll eat - this episode is for you.

    80. Executive Function, School Stress, and Support That Actually Works with Sue Markey

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2025 28:01


    Ever feel like you're the only one holding everything together - school schedules, emotional meltdowns, forgotten socks, and all? And somehow, despite all that effort, your child's teacher still doesn't quite get it?You're not imagining it - and you're definitely not alone.In this episode, Jane sits down with educator and special ed expert Sue Larkey to talk about what really helps when school feels like a battle, your kid is stuck in ADHD paralysis, and you're just trying to make it to bedtime without losing it.

    79. Navigating School Holidays with Your Sanity & Self-Worth Intact

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2025 40:26


    This episode won't give you a 12-step schedule — just real strategies, honest validation, and permission to drop the guilt.If school holidays leave you feeling overstimulated, under-supported, and one snack request away from snapping — you're not alone.Need extra support this break? The School Holidays Sanity Kit has printables, reset plans, transcript and flexible tools to help things feel a little more doable. DOWNLOAD HERE.--In this episode, Jane breaks down why school holidays can completely fry ADHD mums: the emotional labour, the pressure to make it special, the chaos of no routine, and the guilt (whether you're working or not).This isn't just a vent session — it's packed with practical, neuro-affirming tools to help you reduce the overwhelm, create a rhythm that works for your brain, and survive the sibling meltdowns without burning yourself out.Why unstructured time hits ADHD mums so hardThe pressure to create “core memories” (and how to opt out)Jane's personal rhythm strategy that keeps things doableThe emotional load creep (and how to call it out)How to support PDA and sensory-sensitive kids without rigid routinesWhat to say when you're about to lose it — or already haveRESOURCES MENTIONED:ADHD Planner & Personal Values WorkbookPolyvagal Theory - Dr Mona DelahookeThe Brown Model of Executive FunctionAri TakminPMDD episode with Dr Miranda RobisonADHD Mums Facebook Group CommunityFOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPADHD mums, school holidays, ADHD parenting, executive dysfunction, emotional overload, sensory overload, school break stress, managing ADHD kids, burnout in mums, school holiday routine, ADHD family rhythm, PDA parenting, sibling fights, ADHD overwhelm, dopamine regulation, ADHD and unstructured time, mental load, emotional labour, holiday survival tips, neurodivergent families, ADHD mum strategies, parenting with ADHD, ADHD mum burnout, decision fatigue, holiday reset, co-regulation, ADHD and PDA, supporting ADHD kids, ADHD school break routines, ADHD toolkit for mumsMentioned in this episode:ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD MumsSimplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it.ADHD PlannerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    78. Could it be ARFID? Spotting the signs + why it's not just fussy eating with Margo White

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2025 43:40


    If you're constantly guessing what your child might eat today...If even your “safe foods” aren't safe anymore…And if every mealtime feels like a silent panic attack - this episode is for you.ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder) isn't about being picky or manipulative - it's about safety. And when food feels like a threat, pressure just makes things worse.In this raw and practical chat, Jane sits down with nutritionist and mum-of-two Margo White to talk about what's really going on when food causes meltdowns, refusal, and shame. You'll get a clearer picture of ARFID, understand how it connects to autism and ADHD, and walk away with real strategies you can try today - no guilt required.We talk about:The signs of ARFID (and why it's often missed)Why “just try one bite” doesn't work - and what to do insteadWhat to do when safe foods suddenly disappearHow trauma, burnout, and food refusal are all connectedWays to support your child (and yourself) when it all feels too hardWhether you're living this daily, or just starting to wonder if it's more than fussy eating - this episode will help you feel less alone, more confident, and more in control.RESOURCES MENTIONED: Margo WhiteClaire Britton's ARFID episodeJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ARFID, Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, picky eating, neurodivergent eating, food refusal, sensory food aversions, food anxiety, mealtime meltdowns, feeding challenges, safe foods, food jags, ADHD and eating, autism and food, fussy eater, trauma-informed feeding, neuroaffirming nutrition, ADHD child won't eat, ARFID strategies, lunchbox stress, school food anxiety, burnout and feeding, food rituals, feeding therapy alternatives, child gagging at food, ARFID vs picky eating, ARFID support for parents, neurodivergent mealtime strategies, feeding trauma, food and nervous system, eating struggles autism ADHDMentioned in this episode:A Mum's Guide to Supporting Your Child's Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It'A Child's Diagnosis: A Mum's Guide to Support and Helping Others ‘Get It'See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    PSA! Concerta? Gone. Vyvanse? Broken – And Jane Called It a Year Ago

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 25:45


    77. Self-Sacrifice Is Not Your Friend (And Here's Why)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2025 20:50


    If you've ever looked at your partner relaxing on the couch while you're drowning in mental load and thought, “how are you not stressed right now?” - this episode is for you.We're digging into resentment, why ADHD mums feel so responsible for everything, and what happens when we keep putting ourselves last. This isn't just about snapping - it's about the emotional and neurological cost of being the one who always “holds it all together.”It's time to stop waiting for permission to rest, and start naming what you need.

    76. It's Not Just Picky Eating - Claire Britton on ARFID – Claire Britton's Story (Personal Perspective)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 35:31


    In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we welcome back one of our most popular guests: Claire Britton – occupational therapist, neurodivergent mum, founder of NeuroInclusion, and one of our favourite humans to talk to.Claire opens up about her lived experience with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)—what it was like growing up with sensory sensitivities, food rigidity, and mealtime stress long before ARFID had a name. She takes us through her personal journey from rigid childhood meals to navigating adult food challenges, relationships, and even discovering new foods through dating (yes, Tinder was involved).This is the episode for any parent who has thought, "My child is eating five foods and refusing everything else—what now?" or any adult who's starting to realise, "Hang on, maybe this was me too."

    75. What We Wish Our Partners Knew About the Mental Load - And How to Truly Support Us

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 23:17


    Having the mental load conversation is about as fun as stepping on LEGO barefoot. You want to explain how much you're carrying, but suddenly you're “nagging.” You try to share how exhausted you are, and now you're “overreacting.” Meanwhile, your partner is confused, defensive, and wondering why the conversation about the car getting booked in for a service turned into an existential crisis.Yeah. This episode is for you.PLUS get your episode companion guide for $10 – packed with scripts, validation strategies, and advanced tools to turn resentment into real partnership and shift from "helping" to truly sharing the load. It includes the full episode transcript. Your support keeps this podcast going! Download here.

    74. Keeping Children Safe from Tricky People & Unsafe Situations with Kristi McVee

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 35:27


    ⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away.Most parents assume they'll know if their child is unsafe. But here's the reality: neurodivergent kids are more vulnerable - not because they're unaware, but because they see the world differently.They assume people mean what they say.They trust familiar adults - even when they shouldn't.They think being ‘polite' means saying yes.They struggle to spot manipulation, pressure, or coercion.They keep quiet when they feel uncomfortable - because they're not sure if it ‘counts.'If you've never thought about it this way, this episode is a must-listen.PLUS we've put together a free kit on How to Have Safety Conversations Without Scaring Your Child. Download HERE. What You'll Get From This Episode:How to teach body safety without making it scaryThe ‘What If?' method – Simple ways to help kids recognise & react to unsafe situationsThe biggest safety mistake parents don't realise they're makingHow to help your child set boundaries & say no - even when it's hardRed flags your child might be missing (and how to help them notice)The right way to talk about online safety - without isolating them from social life

    73. Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible: How to Share the Load Without the Stress [Part 3]

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 30:04


    You're juggling everything, but no one seems to notice.You're the one keeping track of school emails, therapy appointments, meal plans, and a million invisible tasks.Your brain never stops. The mental gymnastics of managing everything is exhausting.And when something doesn't get done? That's the only thing anyone notices.

    72. Understanding the Risks – Neurodivergent Children, Social Safety, and Grooming [Part 1] with Kristi McVee

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2025 36:54


    ⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away.Most of us assume we'd see the signs. We believe we'd know if someone was grooming our child. But the truth? Grooming is subtle, calculated, and often happens right under our noses.In this crucial episode, former detective and child safety advocate Kristi McVee discusses the unique risks neurodivergent children face in social situations, online spaces, and within their communities. Many parents worry about keeping their kids safe, but for parents of neurodivergent children, the challenges can be even greater - especially when it comes to understanding social cues, setting boundaries, and recognising unsafe situations.PLUS we've put together a free Kit on Body Safety & Child Protection. Download HERE.

    71. 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load [Part 2]

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2025 23:49


    If you've ever felt like you're juggling every detail while everyone else just lives their life, you're not alone. The mental load is real, and so is the frustration of carrying it all.In Part Two, we're unpacking why so many ADHD mums stop speaking up about the mental load - even when it's pushing us to burnout. Maybe you've tried before and been met with defensiveness, guilt, or the feeling that it's just easier to do it yourself. But what if the way you bring it up could actually lead to change?Want to go deeper? This episode's companion kit gives you practical strategies, conversation guides, and small shifts to help you redistribute the mental load - without burnout, conflict, or micromanaging. Also includes full transcript of this episode. Click here to get the kit. In This Episode: Why it feels impossible to shift the mental load (and how to stop getting stuck in that cycle)How societal expectations make us feel like it's “just part of being a mum”Why resentment builds and how to prevent burnout before it happensThe role of gender norms, guilt, and internalised pressure in keeping us silentSimple, low-energy conversation shifts that can help you get the support you needRelatable? Overwhelming? Exhausting? You're not alone. This episode is your reminder that carrying the mental load doesn't mean you should carry it alone.Resources & Links:Listen to Part 1 Episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums websiteADHD Planner & Values WorkbookMiniseries Ep 5 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website58. What Your Partner Needs You to Know on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums websitePDA episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the

    70. The Truth About Time-Outs and What to Try Instead with Gen Muir

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 54:36


    You know that moment when your kid is in meltdown mode, you're barely holding it together, and before you can stop yourself "Just go to your room and think about what you've done!" flies out of your mouth? We've ALL been there.But time-outs don't actually teach emotional regulation. They teach kids that their big feelings are too much, that they have to handle them alone, or that they just need to get better at hiding their struggles.In this episode, I chat with Gen Muir, parent educator, obstetric social worker, mum of four, and the person I wish had been whispering in my ear when I first became a parent. Gen has worked with over 40,000 parents, helping them navigate tricky behaviours and big emotions using connection-based parenting strategies that actually work. And she's here to break down why time-outs aren't the magic fix we were told they were - and what actually helps. PLUS we've put together a free Kit on Handling Big Emotions & Time-Ins. Download HERE.We're covering:Why time-outs don't work - especially for neurodivergent kids What's actually happening in your child's brain when they're sent awayHow disconnection leads to more behaviour struggles (not fewer!)The skills kids really need to handle big feelings and how to teach themHow to set firm, loving boundaries - without feeling like they're running the showWhat to do when a meltdown makes the whole house feel like a war zoneResources Mentioned: Gen Muir - website and Instagram Little People, Big Feelings by Gen MuirBrick [not affiliated] Beyond the Chaos PodcastSibling Rivalry S2 Ep 4 with Gen Muir on Apple Podcasts or Spotify ADHD Mums Facebook GroupJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or

    69. Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan (And How to Change It) [Part 1]

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 26:28


    Ever tried to have an uninterrupted shower, only to have Fight Club break out in your house the second you close the door? Meanwhile, your partner somehow gets their coffee, their phone time, their 35 minute toilet morning routine - completely untouched?If you've ever thought:Why am I the only one absorbing the chaos?Why does everyone else's needs seem to matter more than mine?Why does it feel like I have to do everything while being “grateful” for the occasional break?

    68. Perimenopause & PMDD: The Hormonal Rollercoaster of Neurodivergent Women with Dr Miranda Robinson

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2025 34:12


    One day you're fine. The next? Brain fog, rage, exhaustion, sensory overload - like your body has a mind of its own.It's not just stress. It's not all in your head. Perimenopause and PMDD hit neurodivergent women harder, turning ADHD and autistic traits up to full blast. And yet? Most doctors still dismiss it.In this episode, Dr Miranda Robinson, an obstetrician & gynaecologist with a special interest in neurodiversity, breaks down what's really happening and what can actually help, so you can stop feeling like you're losing control.Why ADHD and sensory overwhelm skyrocket during perimenopauseHow hormonal shifts make emotional and physical symptoms worse - and what you can do about itHRT, ADHD meds, supplements - what's worth trying & what to ask your doctor How to get doctors to listen (instead of dismissing your symptoms as ‘just stress')How to feel more stable, clear-headed & in controlResources Mentioned:Dr Miranda RobinsonDr Miranda Robinson's Instagram pageEpisode on PMDD. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or on the websiteEpisode on Perimenopause - Haylee's Story. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or on the websiteEpisode on EMDR. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the websiteA Guide to ADHD MedicationJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A...

    67. Why Routines Always Seem to Fail for ADHD Families (and How to Fix Them)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2025 34:30


    ADHD mums know the struggle - routines sound great in theory, but in reality? They fall apart before breakfast. If you've spent money on colour-coded schedules only to watch them crumble in days (or hours), this episode is for you.I break down why traditional routines don't work for ADHD families and how to build a flexible system that actually sticks. You'll hear relatable stories, practical strategies, and a refreshingly honest take on why routines aren't about perfection - they're about making life easier.This isn't about forcing a perfect system. It's about building a routine that works for your ADHD brain, not against it.If you've ever thought ‘why can't I make routines work?' - you need this episode. Hit play and learn how to finally build a system that works for your ADHD brain.Resources Mentioned: Episode - Surviving the Mental Load of the School YearADHD Planner and Values Workbook Family Meeting Guide & Template ADHD Mums Facebook GroupJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics Covered in This EpisodeADHD routines, family routines, mum routines, ADHD parenting, ADHD-friendly routines, why routines fail ADHD, ADHD schedule struggles, time management, flexible routines, executive dysfunction, morning routine, daily routine, household routine, structure, family life, parenting hacks, habit building, organisation, overwhelm, mental load, routine hacks, motivation, planning strategies, executive functioning tips, neurodivergent routines, ADHD-friendly planning, household management, energy management, school morning routine, flexible planning, ADHD mum life.Mentioned in this episode:ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD MumsSimplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and

    66. Perimenopause, ADHD & What Doctors Don't Tell You: Haylee's Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2025 28:42


    If your ADHD traits feel like they've gotten worse - with more anxiety, brain fog, rage, and exhaustion - you might be dealing with something no one warned you about: perimenopause.For late-diagnosed ADHD mum Haylee, hitting 40 brought a wave of unexpected struggles that left her questioning everything. Doctors dismissed her. Anxiety came out of nowhere. Her executive function took a nosedive. And the rage? Next level. It wasn't until she became her own advocate that she found answers.In this episode: Why ADHD mums experience perimenopause more intenselyThe warning signs doctors miss (or dismiss)How hormone shifts impact ADHD traits like executive function & mood regulationWhy brain fog, intrusive thoughts & anxiety can hit harder in your late 30s+The truth about hormone therapy & how to advocate for yourselfWhy this matters: Perimenopause isn't just “the lead-up to menopause” - it can massively impact your brain, emotions, and daily life, especially if you're ADHD or autistic. Yet, most doctors aren't trained to recognise it early. This episode arms you with the knowledge and tools to push back, get the right support, and stop feeling like you're losing yourself.Resources mentioned: ADHD Pre-Diagnosis WorkbookADHD Mums Facebook GroupBeyond the Likes with Amy GerardAustralasian Menopause SocietyWellFemmeJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD, perimenopause, ADHD mums, ADHD women, ADHD and hormones, ADHD burnout, brain fog, ADHD anxiety, ADHD rage, executive dysfunction, hormonal changes, menopause, early menopause, neurodivergent women, late-diagnosed ADHD, ADHD symptoms worsening, medical gaslighting, ADHD and estrogen, hormone replacement therapy, ADHD overwhelm, intrusive...

    65. School Pick-Up Can Be Draining! How to Stop Overthinking & Save Your Social Energy

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 22:08


    Ever walked away from school pick-up mentally exhausted from awkward small talk, unspoken social rules, or overthinking what you said? You're not alone.For ADHD and autistic mums, pick-up isn't just about collecting your child - it's a social minefield that can leave you feeling wiped out, anxious, or like you somehow “got it wrong.”But what if school pick-up didn't have to be so exhausting?In this episode:How to stop replaying conversations in your head for hours after pick-up.A simple way to handle small talk without draining your energy.When masking is helpful and when it's just not worth it.How to know who's worth your energy (and when to let go of the guilt).What to do when rejection sensitivity kicks in and you start spiralling.If school pick-up feels awkward, exhausting, or just too much, this episode is for you.

    64. The NDIS Cuts and the Urgent Need for Immediate Action with Nicole Rogerson of Autism Awareness Australia

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2025 33:21


    Thousands of families are being blindsided by the latest NDIS cuts, with children losing essential support before new systems are in place. Parents are being told their child has “achieved their goals” - only to be left scrambling for therapy they still desperately need. If you're feeling frustrated, exhausted, or just plain angry, you're not alone.In this episode, Nicole Rogerson joins me for a straight-talking, no-nonsense conversation about what's happening, why it matters, and what we can do right now to fight for our children's support.Nicole is the founding director of Autism Awareness Australia, a trusted, independent source of information for our community since 2007. For over 18 years, she's cut through misinformation, fought for real change, and helped families like ours navigate a system that too often leaves us behind.She is one of Australia's leading spokespersons for autism awareness and understanding. She has appeared on 60 Minutes, The 7.30 Report, Today, A Current Affair, Australian Story, and The Australian Women's Weekly, using every platform possible to make sure our voices are heard.But above all, Nicole's an autism mum. Her eldest son, Jack, is the reason she does this work - and why she's so committed to making sure we have the information and support we need.

    63. Surviving the Mental Load of the School Year

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025 30:45


    Ever feel like you're the default manager of every school-related task - lunches, library books, permission slips, and last-minute costume days? The mental load of the school year is relentless, and if you're a neurodivergent mum, it's even harder.This episode dives into why the school-year mental load feels so overwhelming and offers practical strategies to help lighten it - without burning out.In this episode: Why the mental load is so exhausting - the invisible, never-ending tasks that pile upBatch planning and automation tips to reduce decision fatigue and keep things running smoothlySharing the load with partners, kids, and even external systems to avoid carrying it all aloneBreaking free from perfectionism and letting go of unrealistic societal expectationsPreventing burnout by setting boundaries, redefining priorities, and making space for youADHD Mums Facebook communityFollow ADHD Mums on InstagramADHD Planner and Personal Values WorkbookStop People Pleasing episode Dr Winnicott: “Good Enough” ParentingThe Fair Play Deck GameA Guide to School Pick-Up for ADHD MumsJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD mums, mental load, school stress, executive dysfunction, decision fatigue, batch planning, school routines, working mum overwhelm, school organisation, ADHD parenting, school year survival, time management, mum burnout, shared parenting, invisible labour, emotional load, ADHD executive function, school admin stress, automation for mums, family calendar, school lunches, permission slips, neurodivergent mum, ADHD overwhelm, mum guilt, mental load strategies, household management, school planning hacks, ADHD-friendly...

    62. Burnout, Pain & Weird Symptoms? The ADHD Link No One Told Us About

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2025 28:20


    If you're constantly running on empty, dealing with chronic pain, weird health symptoms, or crushing fatigue - this isn't just mum life, and it's not all in your head. ADHD doesn't just affect the brain; it impacts the entire body. Add the mental load of motherhood, and it's no wonder so many ADHD mums feel like we're barely hanging on.In this episode:Why ADHD is linked to inflammation, chronic pain, gut issues, and immune dysfunction.How the mental load of parenting neurodivergent kids can physically impact your health.Why women with ADHD are more prone to conditions like fibromyalgia, hypermobility, and lipidemia.How stress, hormones, and burnout can leave you feeling broken - and what you can do about it.The real reason so many mums feel dismissed by doctors when they ask for help.If you've ever felt like you're falling apart while everyone else seems fine, this episode will help you understand why - and how to start advocating for your health.From here: Join the conversation in our private Facebook group where other ADHD mums share what's worked for them.Follow me on Instagram for updates on my personal journey with lipidemia and my upcoming surgery.Amen Clinics (referenced in ep - not affiliated or sponsored) LEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD, ADHD mums, ADHD and health, ADHD and chronic illness, ADHD and inflammation, ADHD burnout, ADHD fatigue, ADHD and stress, ADHD and physical health, ADHD and emotional wellbeing, ADHD and chronic pain, ADHD and gut health, ADHD and autoimmune disorders, ADHD and hormones, ADHD and perimenopause, ADHD and menopause, ADHD and mental load, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD mum exhaustion, neurodivergent health, neurodivergent mums, ADHD and trauma, ADHD and immune system, ADHD and migraines, ADHD and hypermobility, ADHD and fibromyalgia, ADHD and lipidemia, ADHD and brain fog, ADHD and stress response, ADHD and nervous system, ADHD and mental health, ADHD and women's health, ADHD and emotional burnout, ADHD coping strategies, ADHD self-care, ADHD and lifestyle changes.Mentioned in this episode:ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: A Guide for Women and MothersWondering if it's ADHD or mum life? The ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook is your survival guide, helping you untangle your thoughts and explore ADHD traits - perfect for those curious about self-diagnosis or preparing for an assessment. ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Worbook

    61. Unhealthy Habits & ADHD: Why We Get Stuck & How to Shift

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 26:16


    We tell ourselves we won't do it again - won't reach for that glass of wine after the kids go to bed, won't fall into an hours-long scroll hole, won't spend another $300 on a hyperfocus obsession we'll drop in a month. And yet… here we are.Our ADHD brains crave dopamine, and sometimes that means turning to habits that feel good in the moment but leave us stuck in a cycle. This episode isn't about willpower or self-blame - it's about understanding why ADHD makes these habits so sticky and what we can do to shift them for good.In This Episode, We Cover:Why our ADHD brains chase instant gratification - and how to hack itHow emotional regulation struggles fuel habits like binge eating, impulse spending, and avoidanceThe power of micro-delays, habit tracking, and reframing negative self-talkSimple dopamine-boosting alternatives that actually work How to make impulsive habits harder to access - so we don't have to rely on willpowerResources mentioned:Mummy Needs More Than WineADHD Mums FB GroupADHD Planner and Personal Values WorkbookJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD, unhealthy habits, breaking bad habits, ADHD and impulse control, ADHD and addiction, ADHD and dopamine, ADHD binge eating, ADHD emotional regulation, ADHD and overspending, ADHD hyperfocus, ADHD and alcohol, ADHD and social media, ADHD habit tracking, ADHD-friendly strategies, ADHD procrastination, ADHD and executive function, ADHD self-sabotage, ADHD and willpower, ADHD and instant gratification, ADHD coping mechanisms, ADHD and routines, ADHD-friendly self-care, ADHD burnout, ADHD mindfulness, ADHD and cognitive behavioural therapy, ADHD and stress management, ADHD brain rewiring, ADHD and lifestyle changes.Mentioned in this episode:ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD MumsSimplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook....

    60. Mummy Needs More Than Wine: The Truth About Coping and Connection

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2025 30:43


    We tell ourselves it's just one glass - we deserve it after a long day. But somehow, that glass turns into the easiest way to switch off. And if we're honest, we're not sure it's working anymore.ADHD mums aren't drinking just for fun - we're drinking to cope with the mental load, the overstimulation, the relentless pressure to do it all. And while a glass of wine might feel like a quick fix, it could actually be making everything harder.This isn't about guilt or never drinking again. It's about understanding what's really going on - so we can make choices that actually help, not just temporarily numb the chaos.In this episode: Why ADHD mums are more likely to struggle with alcohol useThe dopamine trap - why that first drink feels amazing but leaves you worse offAlcohol & anxiety - the connection no one talks aboutThe role of perfectionism & stress in why we drinkHow to reset your brain (without feeling like you're missing out)If you've ever poured a drink and wondered, “Do I actually need this?” - this episode is for you.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Topics Covered in This Episode: ADHD mums, alcohol and ADHD, mummy wine culture, ADHD and binge drinking, ADHD and addiction, ADHD and dopamine, ADHD and anxiety, ADHD burnout, ADHD overwhelm, coping strategies for ADHD mums, stress and ADHD, perfectionism and ADHD, ADHD and self-medication, ADHD mental health, ADHD and emotional regulation, alcohol and dopamine crash, ADHD executive dysfunction, ADHD and social anxiety, ADHD and impulsivity, ADHD mum life, neurodivergent mums and alcohol, alcohol and overstimulation, ADHD-friendly coping strategies, breaking drinking habits, ADHD mums mental load, ADHD and self-care, ADHD and substance use, ADHD women and drinking, ADHD and habit change, sober ADHD mum, reducing alcohol ADHD, ADHD-friendly relaxation techniques.Mentioned in this episode:ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD MumsSimplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that...

    59. Trauma, EMDR, and ADHD: Jess's Story of Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2025 26:43


    Feeling like you're carrying the weight of the world? Whether it's the invisible scars of trauma, the daily juggle of ADHD, or the pressure to hold it all together, this episode dives into what happens when life gets overwhelming - and how to start healing.Jess shares her deeply personal journey from life in the ADF to facing PTSD, navigating ADHD, and rebuilding her life with the help of EMDR therapy. This isn't just another survival story - it's about breaking free from the cycle of burnout, asking for help, and relearning how to live a life that feels more like you.The ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: A Guide for Women and Mothers for if you're curious about self-diagnosis or preparing for an assessment. Important to note: This episode contains personal reflections on trauma, mental health, and brief mentions of suicidal ideation. Jess's story is deeply personal and reflects her unique experiences in both her life and career. Please remember that individual journeys and circumstances vary. If you or someone you know is struggling, reach out to a trusted mental health professional or support service.In this episode:How Jess went from military service to healing through therapy.The challenges of balancing ADHD and parenting after trauma.What EMDR therapy really feels like - and why it might help you too.Tips for recognising when it's time to ask for help.If you've ever felt stuck, exhausted, or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you.Listen to Next: Episode - Where does the trauma start and ADHD begin? Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Episode - Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria - Listen on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyEpisode - How ADHD Medication Revealed My Autistic Traits - Listen on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A...

    58. Struggling to Understand ADHD? Here's What Your Partner Needs You to Know [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2025 37:45


    For many ADHD mums, explaining ADHD to loved ones can feel like speaking another language. Partners and family members might try their best but don't always grasp the full picture - or might even feel overwhelmed or unsure how to help.This episode is for both ADHD mums and their loved ones - those who want to help but feel unsure about ADHD, feeling overwhelmed by what it means, or just want to provide better support.In This Episode:Understanding ADHD: Why ADHD isn't about effort or being disorganised - it's about how the brain processes and manages information.Validation Matters: The incredible impact of simply acknowledging someone's experience.Tools for Teamwork: Shared strategies like visual schedules, body doubling, and clear communication to reduce tension.Moving Past Misunderstandings: Practical ways to address challenges like unfinished tasks and miscommunication without blame.Note: Every relationship and experience with ADHD is unique, and this episode is part of an ongoing conversation. The tools and insights shared here are designed to foster understanding and connection but are not a one-size-fits-all solution. If you're an ADHD mum, listen to this episode and share it with someone who needs to understand your journey. If you're a partner or family member, hit play with curiosity - it's a chance to hear how small changes can make life easier for everyone. Resources Mentioned: ADHD Planner & Values Workbook: Tools to help create routines that work for neurodivergent families.Episode - PMS and ADHD. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Episode - Feeling like PMS is taking over your life? It might be PMDD. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Episode - From Skeptic to Advocate: Medication for Children. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Join the ADHD Mums Facebook Community for support and connection.Barkley 2018: Executive Functions: What They Are, How They Work, and Why They Evolved linked HERE.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love...

    57. The NDIS Shake-Up and National Autism Strategy: What Jane Really Thinks [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2025 32:29


    Important Context: Some of the changes I discuss in this episode aren't officially announced or reflected on the NDIS website. However, feedback from a large number of parents who completed my survey suggests these changes are happening as the NDIS plans are reviewed or when new applications go in. There is a huge amount of inconsistency within the NDIS with unclear definitions and varying levels of expertise from NDIS planners who make eligibility decisions. Providers are witnessing these issues firsthand, but some remain silent out of fear that speaking up could jeopardise their AHPRA registration, Medicare provider number, and the careers they've worked tirelessly to build.While the National Autism Strategy offers exciting long-term initiatives, many families are telling me through my survey that they're struggling right now with reduced funding, shifting eligibility criteria, and the emotional toll of navigating these changes.What this episode covers:NDIS Reforms: What parents are saying about how these changes are affecting their children's access to supports.The National Autism Strategy: Why it's a positive step forward but doesn't address the immediate needs of families.Early Intervention Gaps: How families are being left without support during a critical stage of development.Stories from Parents: Real experiences shared through my survey, highlighting the challenges and confusion around these changes.Advocating for Change: What we can do together to push for transparency and better support.What you can do:Share Your Story: Add your experience to my survey or join the conversation in the ADHD Mums Facebook Group.Write to Your Local MP: Advocate for clearer communication and better support for families.Spread Awareness: Share this episode and discuss these issues with your community.If you'd like to read more:Summary of NDIS Changes on 3rd October 2024 can be found HERE and I have a free resource HERE.Early Intervention Requirements FAQ linked HEREADHD Mums Jotform Survey is HERE JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram,

    56. Setting Your ADHD Family Up for a Smoother School Year [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2025 46:50


    Whether it's the start of a new school year or a mid-term reset, managing routines and transitions as an ADHD family can feel overwhelming. From chaotic mornings to emotional regulation challenges, this episode is packed with practical strategies to support your family anytime you're looking to create a smoother school experience.This episode is here to help you:Reflect on what's working and what needs adjusting.Simplify morning chaos with micro-routines and visual aids.Manage sensory sensitivities in uniforms, supplies, and environments.Build resilience and emotional strategies for kids and parents.Resources mentioned:Episode - How ADHD medication revealed my autistic traits. Listen here on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Episode - Raising Strong Children: How to Support Without Always Solving Their Problems. Listen here on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Surviving School Pick-Up: A Guide for ADHD Mums: 75-page guide full of scripts, strategies, and practical tips to navigate school pick-up as a neurodivergent mum.The Essential De-Stress Planner for Hyperactive Mums linked here.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

    55. ADHD Mum: What You Need to Know After Your Diagnosis [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2025 17:39


    Being diagnosed with ADHD can bring a mix of emotions - grief, relief, confusion, and a whole lot of questions. It's a lot to process, and you're doing the best you can.In this episode:Grief, overwhelm, and imposter syndrome.Practical strategies designed for ADHD brains.Unmasking, managing the mental load, and finding what works for you.Most importantly, you're not failing - you're learning how to thrive.Resources Mentioned:ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: ADHD-friendly calendarA Guide to ADHD MedicationThe Gottman InstituteThis episode is here to share experiences, insights, and strategies, but it's not a substitute for medical advice. If you have questions about your ADHD diagnosis or treatment, chat with a trusted healthcare professional. Take what works for you and leave the rest - this is your journey!JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Key Topics Covered in This Episode:ADHD diagnosis as a mum Emotional impact of ADHD diagnosis Strategies for ADHD management Grieving after ADHD diagnosis Rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) ADHD and emotional regulation Masking and burnout in ADHD mums ADHD friendly tools and systems ADHD and relationships Neurodivergent parenting challenges ADHD strengths and superpowers Tips for ADHD mums ADHD friendly calendar tools Practical advice for ADHD mums

    54. How to Talk to Your Child About ADHD: Empowering Conversations That Change Everything (Part 2) [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2025 30:25


    Are you unsure about how to talk to your child about ADHD? Feeling overwhelmed, second-guessing yourself, or worried you'll get it “wrong”? Whether you're just starting this conversation or fine-tuning your approach, this episode has the answers you've been searching for (plus the validation you didn't know you needed).Download the free guide: “Explaining ADHD to Your Child: The Why and How” hereIn this episode: Age-appropriate explanations that just click.How to help your child own their strengths and explain ADHD confidently to others.Avoiding the “too positive” or “too negative” trap - get the balance right.Protecting your child from unsolicited advice and navigating tricky family dynamics like a pro.Why connection matters more than perfection - this is about building trust and self-acceptance.This isn't just a “what to say” guide. It's about laying the foundation for your child to see themselves as capable, worthy, and celebrated.Go deeper with my A Mum's Guide to Supporting Your Child's Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It': HEREListen to Part 1 Here: S02E53: Explaining ADHD to Your Child: Why It Matters (Part 1) Listen on Apple Podcasts | SpotifyResources Mentioned:A Mum's Guide to Supporting Your Child's Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It': Packed with practical tips, relatable stories, and strategies to make these conversations easier.Explore tools, books, and resources to support your child with ADHD HERE.S01E41: Camouflaging ADHD + Autistic Traits in Girls with Millie CarrListen on Apple Podcasts | SpotifyS01E65: From Skeptic to Advocate: Medication for ChildrenListen on Apple Podcasts | SpotifyS02E50: Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum's Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking FreeListen on Apple Podcasts |

    53. Explaining ADHD to Your Child: Why It Matters (Part 1) [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2025 25:34


    As mums, we want to protect our kids, but when it comes to ADHD or other neurodivergent diagnoses, silence can sometimes send the wrong message. This episode dives into the why behind having this big conversation with your child - why it's important, how it can shape their self-confidence, and what happens when they don't have the right information.If you've ever felt unsure about when or how to talk about ADHD with your child - or if you're worried about labelling them - this episode is for you.In this episode, we explore:Why some parents hesitate to disclose a diagnosis and how to overcome this fear.The risks of leaving your child in the dark and how they might create their own (often harsh) narrative.How empowering your child with knowledge can build their confidence and self-compassion.The emotional journey of processing a diagnosis as a parent and finding the right time to talk.Resources mentioned:Episode: How to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis - Spotify / AppleEpisode: Re-release Camouflaging ADHD + Autistic Traits in Girls - Spotify / AppleEpisode: Stop People-Pleasing - Spotify / AppleRecommended Books: Empower your child with relatable stories about ADHD and Autism.A Mum's Guide to Supporting Your Child's Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It': HEREIf this episode resonated with you, share it with another mum who might need to hear it. Join our ADHD Mums Facebook community for support, or follow us on Instagram for more relatable content and updates. You're not alone in this journey.FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your...

    ADHD & Sensory Overwhelm: Identifying Triggers and Finding Relief with Rebecca Torpie [re-release]

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2025 46:56


    Life in a neurodivergent household is full of noise, touch, and constant interruptions. Add the guilt of “not doing enough,” and it's no wonder so many of us feel burnt out. This episode gives you the tools and validation you need to take care of yourself - because when you're regulated, everything else gets a little easier.In this episode, I'm joined by Occupational Therapist and fellow ADHD Mum Rebecca Torpey to unpack what sensory overwhelm really is and how to find relief that works for you.Listen to Next:S02E37: ADHD, Autism, or Both? Kara's Story of Burnout and Sensory OverloadListen on Apple Podcasts | Listen on SpotifyADHD and Autistic Traits in Mums with Dr. Jacinta Thomson [re-release]Listen on Apple Podcasts | Listen on SpotifyResources:Want to know more about Sensory Overload? Visit Rebecca's website: https://www.sensorysmartkidsot.com/Read the blog version of this episode: HereRecommended sensory tools: Explore weighted blankets, sensory pods, and other tools to support sensory needs at home.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.Key Topics Covered in This Episode:ADHD mums, sensory overload, neurodivergent parenting,...

    52. Why Most Planners Fail ADHD Mums (and How to Finally Make One Work) [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2025 7:56


    Feeling like traditional planners just don't work for your ADHD brain? You're not alone. This episode dives into why typical systems fail us and how value-aligned planning can help you ditch the guilt, reduce overwhelm, and focus on what really matters.

    Neurotypical Mum vs ADHD Mum: Is It ADHD or Mum Life? [re-release]

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2024 46:18


    Do you ever catch yourself wondering, “Is this just the chaos of mum life, or could it be something more?” Amanda (ADHD mum) and Sarah (neurotypical mum) share what life really looks like behind the scenes - messy mornings, endless to-dos, and those moments where it all feels too much. It's an honest, funny, and eye-opening conversation about the differences and similarities between ADHD and neurotypical motherhood experiences.In this episode (approx. timestamps):2 mins: Amanda and Sarah's 24-year friendship6 mins: The reality of chaotic mornings: time blindness, transitions, and stress16 mins: Meal prepping, visual calendars, and why “just make a list” doesn't always work21 mins: Parenting with neurodivergence: the added layers 27 mins: Work, life admin, and navigating the mental load36 mins: Medicated vs unmedicated life39 mins: How neurotypical strategies compare with ADHD approaches42 mins: The key differences between mum life stress and ADHD challengesResources:Free ADHD and Autism Self-Assessment Tool recommendations hereADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: Clear the confusion and discover your type ADHD Planner + Values Workbook: A system built for hyperactive brainsWhat to Listen to Next: S02E22: Is it ADHD or Motherhood? Spotify or Apple PodcastsS02E29: 6 Practical Tips for ADHD Mums to Reduce Stress and Create a Calmer Home - Spotify or Apple PodcastsS02E37: ADHD, Autism or Both? Kara's Story of Burnout and Sensory Overload - Spotify or Apple PodcastsJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to...

    Camouflaging ADHD + Autistic Traits in Girls with Millie Carr [re-release]

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 25, 2024 46:39


    If you've ever wondered why your daughter seems to struggle quietly while excelling on the surface - or if you're reflecting on your own experiences as a neurodivergent mum - this episode is for you.I'm joined by Millie Carr, a passionate educator, author, and mum of three, to unpack the subtle and often misunderstood ways ADHD and autism show up in girls. With lived experience as part of a neurodivergent family, Millie shares her insights on recognising masking, perfectionism, and other traits that can make it harder for girls to be diagnosed or supported.This episode is here to give you practical tips and validation - whether you're advocating for your child, yourself, or both.In this episode: The unique ways ADHD and autism present in girls and why they're often overlooked.How masking and perfectionism can make neurodivergent traits harder to recognise.Practical tips for navigating the diagnosis process and advocating effectively.Reframing ADHD and autism as strengths and building confidence in neurodivergent kids.Important Resources:Learn more about Millie's work at https://milliecarrbooks.com Explore my self-assessment tool for ADHD and AutismWhen and where to seek a diagnosis for your child - eGuide hereMy free resources are hereMy Workbooks and eGuides are hereOther Episodes with Mille Carr:Neurodiverse Classrooms: Spotify or Apple PodcastsHow to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis: Essential Do's and Don'ts: Spotify or Apple PodcastsJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let's spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or...

    ADHD and Autistic Traits in Mums with Dr. Jacinta Thomson [re-release]

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2024 46:02


    Wondering if there's more to your neurodivergence beyond ADHD? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Jacinta Thomson breaks down the overlap between ADHD and autistic traits in mums. Learn how masking works, why it's so hard to tease them apart, and how to explore your identity with curiosity and self-compassion. This is the episode for you if you've ever thought, “Could I be autistic too?”This episode was originally released on 26th February 2024, and it's one of our most popular episodes.Key Takeaways:Understand how ADHD and autistic traits can overlap and mask each other.Explore the unique challenges of high-masking neurodivergent mums.Discover the subtle signs of autism that aren't on Google.Learn why self-identification is valid and when a formal diagnosis might help.Get Jacinta's neuro-affirming insights on embracing your identity.Important Resources:Learn more about Jacinta's work at www.timetountangle.com.au.Read the blog version of this episode.Disclaimer: This episode is for informational purposes only. Please consult a qualified health professional for personalised advice.BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email jane@adhdmums.com.au. EXTRA RESOURCES: Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resourcesFind more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD in women Autism in women Overlapping traits of ADHD and autism High-masking mums Neurodivergent parenting AUDHD meaning ADHD traits in adults Autism traits in adults Sensory sensitivities in neurodivergence ADHD vs. autism Neurodiversity in mothers ADHD and autism overlap Routine and sensory challenges Supporting neurodivergent mums

    51. How to Handle Family Criticism About ADHD: Boundaries and Keeping Your Sanity [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 27:35


    Worried about family comments on your child's ADHD? The judgmental questions, the unsolicited advice, the pressure to explain your choices - it's a lot.Get the guide: A Mum's Guide to Support and Helping Others Get It is available on the website, filled with practical tips for advocating for your child while protecting your peace.This episode is here to help you:Respond calmly, even when caught off guard.Set boundaries that stick (without second-guessing yourself).Protect your peace and your child's confidence.Whether you're bracing for the next family gathering or still processing the last one, you'll find practical strategies to handle these moments with clarity and confidence.You'll learn how to tell the difference between genuine curiosity and someone just stirring the pot - and where to draw the line.Hit play for tools you can use right now to feel more prepared, more empowered, and less alone.Related Episode:S02E50: Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum's Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking FreeWhat to Listen Next:S02E46: ‘Tis the Season to Overspend: ADHD Mum vs. Impulse ShoppingS02E48: Running Out of Time: Why ADHD Mums Feel Overwhelmed at Christmas (and How to Fix It!)S02E49: Christmas Chaos: Hacks for Surviving Family Drama, Sensory Overload, and Picky Eaters!BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email jane@adhdmums.com.au. EXTRA RESOURCES: Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an...

    50. Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum's Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking Free [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2024 24:58


    Sick of saying yes when you really want to say no? People-pleasing feels like keeping the peace, but it leaves you exhausted, resentful, and avoiding people you care about. If you're ready to stop the cycle, protect your energy, and show your kids healthy boundaries - this episode is for you.Join our supportive FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/777102743903210/ Connect with me (Jane) on Instagram: https://instagram.com/adhd_mums Timestamps (approx.)2 mins: People-pleasing isn't a flaw - it's how you learned to survive in a world that doesn't get your brain.4 mins: Why is people-pleasing so hard to shake? Let's break it down.6 mins: 3 reasons to stop people-pleasing - and a painfully relatable example of what happens when you don't.10 mins: Building your boundary muscle: Start small, say no with confidence, and stay strong when the pushback comes.18 mins: Your kids are watching. Show them that standing up for themselves is not just okay - it's essential.20 mins: Setting a boundary is step one. Sticking to it is where the magic happens. Here's how to avoid ‘boundary creep.'Resources:Sensory-Friendly Holiday Ideas: Need to create calm during chaos? Explore fidget toys, headphones, and weighted blankets in my Affiliate Amazon Shop.The 5-4-3-2-1 Technique: A quick grounding exercise to manage emotional overwhelm.Box Breathing Technique: Learn how to use this simple method to regulate stress in under a minute.BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email jane@adhdmums.com.au. EXTRA RESOURCES: Still not sure if you have...

    49. Christmas Chaos: Hacks for Surviving Family Drama, Sensory Overload, and Picky Eaters! [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2024 21:17


    Christmas - it's the season of joy, right? Well, not always. Between the family drama, overwhelming sensory triggers, and the constant pressure to create magical moments, the holidays can feel more like chaos than cheer. For neurodivergent mums, it's even trickier to juggle routines, expectations, and everything in between.Timestamps (approx):1 min: Why family tensions skyrocket at Christmas - and how to handle unspoken expectations before they spiral.2 mins: Guilt-free boundaries that actually stick: How to say no with kindness and protect your energy.6 mins: Beating sensory overload: Quiet corners, calm kits, and simple strategies to keep things manageable.10 mins: Picky eaters and Christmas lunch. 14 mins: Handling criticism with confidence: What to say (or not say) when Aunt Karen gets passive-aggressive.18 mins: Simplifying the season: Why connection and small traditions matter more than picture-perfect holidays.This isn't about creating a Pinterest-worthy Christmas - it's about making the season work for your family, with all its quirks and chaos.ResourcesMel Robbins' "Let Them" Concept: A mindset tool to let go of controlling others. Learn more on the Mel Robbins Podcast.Calm Kits for Sensory-Friendly Holidays: Stock up on fidget toys, headphones, and weighted blankets. Shop on Jane's Affiliate Amazon Shop.BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email jane@adhdmums.com.au. EXTRA RESOURCES: Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resourcesFind more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/Key Topics covered in this ep: Christmas family drama Holiday sensory overload Picky eaters at

    48. Running Out of Time: Why ADHD Mums Feel Overwhelmed at Christmas (and How to Fix It!) [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2024 17:22


    The holiday season is supposed to be magical, but for many ADHD mums, it can feel like a chaotic, relentless sprint. Between managing school events, last-minute gift shopping, and endless holiday prep, it's easy to become overwhelmed and exhausted. In this episode, I go beyond the usual holiday tips and dive into proven strategies tailored for neurodivergent mums to help you reclaim your sanity and rediscover joy during the festive season.What I cover in this episode:Outsmart your brain's tendency to underestimate tasks and avoid the classic holiday scramble.Simplify gift wrapping, school event prep, and more - all without burning out.Identify the three key tasks that truly matter this season and feel empowered to let go of everything else (including the spring cleaning!).Learn how to sidestep common pitfalls like overcommitting, freezing under pressure, and chasing unrealistic expectations.Discover how to delegate effectively, use basic tools without falling into the "perfect app" trap, and leverage your support network.What To Listen To Next: S02E47: ‘Tis the Season to Overspend: ADHD Mum vs. Impulse Shopping [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden Resources Mentioned: Buy Prepaid Satchels Online - Australia Post: Simplify your holiday shipping by purchasing prepaid satchels in bulk (not sponsored or affiliated). BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email jane@adhdmums.com.au. EXTRA RESOURCES: Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resourcesFind more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD mums Neurodivergent parenting Holiday overwhelm Christmas planning tips Time management strategies Gift wrapping hacks Managing...

    47. What happens if you take ADHD medication without ADHD? [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2024 13:57


    Ever wondered what happens when someone without ADHD takes ADHD medication? You've probably heard the rumours - instant focus, super-productivity, maybe even a “magic pill” for getting things done. But what's the truth?A Guide to ADHD Medication: Find practical advice, answers to FAQs, and tips for tracking progress with ADHD medication.In this episode, we explore the surprising science behind how these meds work for neurodivergent brains versus neurotypical ones. Spoiler: it's not what you think. We're also tackling the myths that fuel doubt for so many navigating their diagnosis - and sharing real-life insights to help you feel more confident about your journey.Hit play and find out:Why ADHD medication isn't the productivity hack people think it is.What really happens in the brain when you take it.How these meds can transform the way neurodivergent minds tackle daily life.The hidden risks for people without ADHD.Why tracking your progress matters.Signs that your medication is working.Resources Mentioned:A Guide to ADHD Medication: Find practical advice, answers to FAQs, and tips for tracking progress with ADHD medication.Join the Facebook Group: Be part of the ADHD Mums Podcast community - a supportive space to connect and share with other neurodivergent parents.Follow on Instagram: Get daily insights, relatable stories, and updates straight to your feed.Related Episodes:S01E65: From Skeptic to Advocate: Medication for ChildrenS012E38: How ADHD medication revealed my Autistic traitsS02E40: ADHD Medication: Stimulants vs. Non StimulantsDisclaimer: This episode shares general insights and should not replace advice from your healthcare professional.BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a

    46. ‘Tis the Season to Overspend: ADHD Mum vs. Impulse Shopping [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2024 13:06


    The holidays are here, and if your spending habits feel like they've gone rogue, you're not alone. Whether you're a serial online shopper or someone who's mastered the art of hiding packages from loved ones, this season has a way of making impulse buying feel unavoidable.As someone who hates the chaos of shopping centres and has a delivery driver who might know me by name, I get it. Christmas can be a minefield of social expectations, emotional triggers, and last-minute stress that sends us straight into overspending territory. But here's the good news: you can navigate this season without blowing the budget - or your sanity.This episode is packed with real-life stories and practical tips for managing your spending. You'll hear about:Why the ADHD brain loves impulsive buying and how time blindness and dopamine-seeking behaviours play a role.Emotional triggers like guilt, perfectionism, and social pressure that turn “just one gift” into a cart full of purchases.Simple, actionable strategies to take back control.The reality that your kids (and even your in-laws) will likely remember the moments you share, not the price tags on their gifts.Looking for gift ideas? Check out my Recommended Products + Gift Ideas for a mix of thoughtful and fun picks that are perfect for the holiday season. These are items I genuinely love and think you will too!BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email jane@adhdmums.com.au. EXTRA RESOURCES: Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resourcesFind more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD and impulse shopping Neurodivergent spending habits Holiday budgeting tips Managing emotional spending Christmas gift ideas ADHD-friendly gift guide Overspending during the holidays Mindful shopping strategies ADHD mums and money management Tips for avoiding impulse buys Budgeting for Christmas Neurodivergent-friendly

    45. Do neurodivergent women attract narcissists? [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2024 29:45


    Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where your needs always seem to come second? Or maybe you've wondered why some women, especially neurodivergent ones, end up in toxic relationships time and time again. Whether it's a romantic partner, a colleague, or even a family member, understanding how narcissists operate can help you protect yourself and reclaim your sense of self-worth. This episode tackles those difficult questions with compassion and clarity, exploring the hidden patterns that keep us stuck and how to break free.Timestamps (approx):2 mins: The trap of love bombing: why it feels so good at first and how it keeps you stuck in a toxic cycle.4 mins: How childhood experiences with narcissistic parents or caregivers shape the relationships we seek as adults.8 mins: Spotting manipulation tactics like blame-shifting, emotional hot potato, and gaslighting - and how to protect yourself.12 mins: Steps to break the cycle: creating a safe exit plan, building a support network, and finding your way back to yourself.This isn't about pointing fingers or placing blame - it's about helping you see the patterns, make sense of your experiences, and take back control of your life.TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses topics like abuse, manipulation, and toxic relationships, which may be distressing to some listeners. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.Related Episode:S02E28: Protecting Vulnerable Women: Addressing the Crisis of Sexual Assault with Tanya HicksSupport and Help Lines- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email

    MINI SERIES (Episode 9): How Workplaces Can Support Employees Affected by Family and Domestic Violence with Laurie Arrowsmith

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2024 20:18


    Family and domestic violence doesn't stop at home - it has a significant impact on workplaces too. That's why I'm so grateful to have Laurie Arrowsmith from White Ribbon Australia back on the podcast. Laurie shares practical insights on how workplaces can foster safety, support, and equality for all employees.As a Senior Workplace Programme Specialist, Laurie has spent over a decade working with both survivors and perpetrators, creating programmes that drive meaningful change.Key Takeaways:The Workplace as a Safe Space: For many, work offers respite from domestic challenges. Learn how supportive policies can protect and empower employees.Economic and Cultural Impact: Domestic violence costs businesses billions annually. Discover strategies to minimise absenteeism and support wellbeing.Empowering Action: Embedding gender equality and providing training ensures workplaces are part of the solution.Supportive Policies: Understand the importance of family violence leave and how discreet workplace resources can make a difference.Workplaces have a unique opportunity to champion safety, equality, and empowerment. Through proactive policies and leadership, they can make a lasting difference.TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.Let's be real - we can't change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it's worth it. It's not about perfection, it's about offering hope and shedding light on what's often kept in the dark.Flinders University Study: Download PDFSupport and Help LinesIf you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277- Men's Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321- Women's Health Centres:...

    MINI SERIES (Episode 8): Why don't women just leave?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2024 12:25


    **This audio has been replaced with a solo key take away messaging from Jane due to issues with audio quality** - Please email admin@adhdmums.com.au if you would like a copy of the original audio - it is scratchy which for those with noise sensitivity was difficult to listen to**Domestic Violence is one of those topics that's so much more complicated than it seems from the outside. This week, I sat down with Elyse Nauta for a second time, and as always, she brought incredible insight. Elyse has 15 years of experience in child protection, working everywhere from metro areas to remote regions like the Kimberleys. We explored the big question: why don't women just leave? Spoiler: it's not as simple as it sounds.Key topics covered:The Complexity of StayingThe Subtle Grip of Coercive ControlThe Cycle That Keeps Victims HopingUnderstanding Why Perpetrators ActBarriers That Make Leaving So HardHow We Can HelpElyse paints a vivid picture of what life can look like for women caught in these situations. Her insights remind us that understanding the ‘why' behind someone staying in an abusive relationship is key to offering real support.TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support. Related EpisodesCoercive Control and Lived Experience EpisodeLet's be real - we can't change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it's worth it. It's not about perfection, it's about offering hope and shedding light on what's often kept in the dark.Statistics ReferencedWho are the Perpetrators? Why am I using the term men? The Australian data shows that 75% of domestic violence perpetrators are men: Perpetrator StatisticsSupport and Help LinesIf you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364...

    44. Supporting Neurodivergent Kids with Friendships and Boundaries with Bec Sparrow

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2024 47:40


    Friendships can be tricky, especially when navigating neurodivergence. As parents, we often wonder how to help our kids make meaningful connections, set healthy boundaries, and deal with social challenges.That's why I brought in the one and only Bec Sparrow A.K.A. Australia's Friendship Whisperer. With two decades of experience as a writer, speaker, and advocate for connection, Bec has helped countless parents, teens, and schools understand what it takes to create meaningful, lasting friendships. Her passion for belonging shines through in this episode, where she shares insights drawn from both her professional expertise and her lived experiences.We explore:Friendship as a skill: Why friendships aren't instinctive for everyone and how to teach kids (and yourself) to build meaningful connections step by step.Setting boundaries with confidence: Practical tips for helping kids say no and communicate their needs without guilt.Spotting red flags in friendships: Bec uses Dr Brené Brown's BRAVING framework to break down the key elements of trust and healthy relationships.Handling conflict with kindness: How to navigate disagreements without creating unnecessary drama.Expanding social circles: Why building friendships outside of school is essential for resilience and avoiding negative peer pressure.More resources can be found here: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/ Related Episode:S02E35: ADHD and Autistic Friendships with Prof Tony Attwood and Dr Michelle GarnettResources Mentioned:Follow Bec on Instagram: @rebeccasparrow72Find more resources, articles, and info on Bec's online programs: https://rebeccasparrow.com/ Get Bec Sparrow's latest book: Out of the BoxDr Brené Brown's Podcast about the BRAVING acronym: The Anatomy of TrustListen to Bec on the Parental as Anything TEENS podcastBOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely...

    MINI SERIES (Episode 7): Ensuring Safety When Leaving a DV Relationship with Laurie Arrowsmith

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2024 22:04


    Today, we're diving into an important yet often difficult topic - what women need to consider for safety and support when thinking about leaving an abusive relationship. Laurie from White Ribbon Australia is a leading voice in domestic violence prevention and intervention. At White Ribbon Australia, she manages the Workplace Accreditation Program, fostering safer spaces for women and families. Laurie has dedicated her career to reducing violence, supporting survivors, and holding perpetrators accountable. Laurie's here to walk us through those essential first steps, sharing insights that could make a world of difference.Timestamps (approx):1 min – Key steps to consider before leaving an abusive relationship, including understanding the risks and preparing for safety.4 mins – Creating an escape plan with essentials like a “go bag” and securing digital privacy.7 mins – The role of support networks in combating isolation and offering safety when planning to leave.10 mins – Legal protections: applying for intervention orders and working with domestic violence officers for added safety.12 mins – Importance of seeking legal advice and considering mediation as an alternative to family court.17 mins – Exploring options to remain in the home safely by legally removing the partner through sole occupancy orders.20 mins – Recognising manipulation tactics like “love bombing” and the importance of reaching out for guidance.TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.Let's be real - we can't change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it's worth it. It's not about perfection, it's about offering hope and shedding light on what's often kept in the dark.Important LinksDaisy App – A free app developed by 1800RESPECT that provides local support service information while protecting user privacy.Escaping Violence Payment – Financial assistance up to $5,000 for women experiencing family violence, available through organisations like Uniting and Wesley Mission.Government Financial Assistance – Support payments like Parenting Payments, Single Income Family Supplement, and Family Tax Benefits A and B for single parents and families.Support and Help LinesIf you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be...

    43. ADHD and Teens: A Conversation with Maggie Dent

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2024 43:55


    Commonly known as the ‘queen of common sense,' Maggie Dent is one of Australia's most beloved parenting authors, educators, and podcasters. And I finally had the chance to catch up with Maggie!More resources can be found here: https://adhdmums.com.au/resourcesMaggie's down-to-earth stories and no-nonsense advice will leave you feeling ready to take on the rollercoaster ride of parenting teens. From dealing with slammed doors and one-word answers to navigating school dramas and social pressures, Maggie breaks it all down with heart, humour, and a whole lot of understanding. This is your go-to episode for parenting teens with love, patience, and a sprinkle of laughter when it's needed most.Note: This episode includes a brief mention of suicide.Key Topics Covered:What's happening during adolescence and how it shapes emotions, decisions, and behaviour.How to connect with your teen through unconditional love, patience, and understanding - even in challenging moments.Tailored tips for kids with ADHD and other neurodivergent traits to help them build confidence and resilience.Strategies for supporting teens through tough times with compassion instead of conflict.How to set healthy boundaries for screen time, improve sleep, and guide teens in navigating today's digital challenges.Plus a whole lot more!Resources mentioned:Follow Maggie on Instagram: @maggiedentauthorFind more resources, articles, and info on Maggie's workshops and speaking events: https://www.maggiedent.com/ Get Maggie's Latest Book, Help Me Help My Teen: https://www.maggiedent.com/shop/help-me-help-my-teen/ Follow Maggie on her popular podcast Parental As Anything and her new series The Good Enough Dad. BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTSIf you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!CONNECT WITH ME...If you've got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we've got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don't worry if it's been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.LEAVE ME A REVIEWYour review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit's end). WANT TO COLLABORATE?If you're enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email

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