Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Steve Whearty.Steve is a certified executive coach and learning & development specialist with over 30 years of experience in leadership and learning professional roles. He began his career as a Naval Flight Officer, serving on active duty in the U.S., Italy, and Japan. Steve continued to serve as a civilian employee of the Federal Government in various roles from 2009-2022, including at the State Department's Foreign Service Institute and the Federal Executive Institute.  Since 2021, Steve has also served as an independent learning consultant, working with a variety of public and private sector clients on leadership development experiences and coaching.Steve received a B.A. in Public Policy from Duke University, an M.B.A. from Cameron University, and a M.A. in Education and Human Development from George Washington University. He resides in Charlottesville, VA.Steve and I met through mutual work opportunities and happened to be on a group call a couple of months ago when the topic of disruption came up.  I asked Steve if he'd be willing to have a deeper conversation about disruption, given that many people are facing a variety of disruptions currently.  I'm grateful he said yes, because this conversation you're about to listen to is the outcome.  And while we don't come up with a lot of answers, we share ideas, challenges, and stories of attempts to respond with agency to the disruptions in our own lives.  Steve, thank you for jumping into this conversation with curiosity and thoughtful reflection.  Thank you for sharing your stories, your questions, and your wisdom.  I'm both inspired and challenged to better my own response to the series of disruptions we call life!You can reach out to Steve at: stevewhearty@sentiero.consulting Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Jessica Zucal.Jessica is an organization system innovator and change enabler.  As a NeuroLeadership trained coach and Emotional Intelligence practitioner, she supports leaders in creating new mindsets that free them from inhibiting believe systems and helps them unlock greater leadership potential.Jessica is the Director of Organization Change & Transformation at Evans Consulting and she serves as faculty in the Georgetown University's Organizational Development Graduate Certificate Program.  Jessica identifies herself as an extreme animal lover and she's trained to partner with horses for her coaching and leadership development programs.Jess and I met several months ago through a work opportunity and during one of our meetings she mentioned something about an appointment for her cancer treatment.  It took me by surprise and was a poignant reminder that we never know what all is going on in someone's life.In our conversation today, Jess generously shares about her journey of being diagnosed with breast cancer in April of 2024.  At the time of our recording it was almost one year exactly from when she learned she had cancer.  You'll hear her reflections on how she's engaged with this life disruption and has come to identify cancer as one of her greatest teachers.Jess, thank you so much for this conversation.  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey.  Your ability to share the inner journey with us in your outer world is an incredible gift.  Your openness to growth and learning is inspirational and I hope you continue to share your story at any opportunity that comes your way!If you'd like to learn more about Jess and her work, there's a link to her LinkedIn profile here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-zucal-3323795/.Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Louiza Kiritopolous-Adams.Louiza is an organizational psychologist and an executive, leadership development, and performance coach.  She has over 20 years of leadership experience across diverse industries and global markets.  She's deeply passionate about unlocking human potential to create a lasting impact at both organizational and market levels.Louiza and I met through the Georgetown University coaching program and her presence in my life has been an incredible gift ever since!In our conversation today we dig into what it means to make life less difficult (from a variety of angles), the connection between our minds and bodies, the value of feedback – and which feedback to take in, which to let go, and really exploring who we are – truly are – as people.Louiza, thank you for this inspiring conversation.  Thank you for capturing the heart of why I do this podcast and articulating it so well.  Thank you for the beautiful and gracious reminders to do the work to know ourselves.  And for the encouragement to show up, see each other with kindness, to give back and pay it forward, and find the enjoyment in life.Connect with Louiza on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/louiza-kiritopoulos-adams/Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Ravi Ram.Ravi is a returning guest and I'm so grateful to have another conversation with him here on the podcast.  Ravi's career and life are guided by his passion for helping others develop, feel a deep sense of connection and belonging, and have fun in the process. He finds meaning in being a source of warmth, energy, and inspiration for others, and his varied hobbies over the years—from playing tennis and the flute, to improv comedy, to yoga—reflect his ongoing commitment to living at the intersection of personal growth and joyful play. Ravi believes that each person has a unique and beautiful gift to offer the world and hopes that each of us can authentically pursue what makes us feel most alive.In our conversation today we explore the pressure of making the right decision, how to respond when it feels like we've made the wrong decision, and how to embrace a posture of experimentation in life.  We talk about how creativity and curiosity are powerful antidotes to depression and anxiety, and the fear and excitement of starting or trying new things.Ravi, thank you for another fantastic conversation.  Your transparent and authentic reflections are incredibly inspiring.  I'm so grateful to have you in my life and I look forward to more conversations!To learn more about Ravi and the work he does in the world, you'll find links below: Ravi's website: www.raviram.meLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ravisram/Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Shimrit Nativ.Shimrit is a Success & Freedom Mentor, CEO and founder of Master Your Path Academy.Having built a 6-figure business in a matter of months, when she first started out, with no prior experience, Shimrit is the perfect example of what's possible when you have a desire & drive to create a significant impact.As a Transformational & Success Coach and Mindset Expert, Shimrit has helped hundreds of driven and creative individuals across the globe create and sustain a consistent baseline of confidence, success and fulfillment.I our conversation today we talk about co-creating our collective reality, the mindset needed to move in this direction, and the skills one can strengthen to create the life you want.  One of the powerful ideas Shimrit shares is that “freedom of thought is a skill.”  I think this is so important and relevant for each of us as we consider how to make life less difficult for each other and for ourselves.Shimrit, thank you for sharing your stories, reflections and wisdom with us here today.  Thank you for making the world a more fulfilling and freedom-filled place!To learn more about Shimrit and the works she does, you'll find links below:Linkshttps://www.shimritnativ.comhttps://www.instagram.com/shimritnativ/?hl=enhttps://www.facebook.com/shimritnativ/https://www.linkedin.com/in/shimrit-nativ/?originalSubdomain=dehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_2lYEmKoB-UGJXosvVl0OgFreebie: Free 3 day workshop  “All the way to the top” https://workshop.shimritnativ.com/allthewaytothetopMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Kenny Leahman.I first learned a piece of Kenny's story from an article in Yahoo News with the headline: Retired CIA officer opens up about coming out as gay during ‘Don't Ask, Don't Tell' era: ‘I was terrified every single day.'Immediately, I wanted to have Kenny on my podcast and today is the day I get to share our conversation with you!  We got to meet in person last year and I've learned more about Kenny's story, his work of dropping cover – in the professional sense, in the sense of coming out as gay, and as you'll hear, in other ways in life, for we all have things we choose to keep undercover.Kenny is retired from the Central Intelligence Agency after a 24-year career.  He now is a coach, educator, and consultant who helps others discover what really matters by focusing on values-based living and leadership.  Kenny says, “Make choices based on what matters.  If it doesn't matter, let it go.”Kenny, thank you SO much for being part of my life and sharing these pieces of your story and life here on Make Life Less Difficult.  Your story is deeply impactful, your wisdom is poignant and prescient, and your vulnerability is inspirational.  Kenny is offering a new workshop, Discover, Decide, and Do What Matters.  You'll find links below to this workshop, Kenny's website, and the article where I first read about him. Kenny's website: https://www.kennyleahman.com/Article from YahooNews!Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Seth Yelorda.Seth has a decade of expertise as a leadership coach and organizational development consultant. His approach centers on clarifying vision, developing leadership skills, and fostering a transformative organizational culture. Seth is skilled in aligning team dynamics and programs to achieve optimal effectiveness and synergy. Seth and I first met in a personal development program almost 15 years ago.  As our paths reconnected a few months ago, it was awesome to hear about the work he's doing in the world and learn some about his personal journey.  In our conversation today, Seth shares pieces of his journey including the learning and transformation that has come from having a child with special needs.  He introduces us to this idea of building our soul muscle.  I love that and am inspired to do the sometimes-difficult work to build my soul muscle.  Seth has a clear vision for his life and is passionate about helping others find their vision.  You'll hear the passion and inspiration in our conversation today!Seth, thank you for joining me in this conversation.  Thank you for your authentic and passion-filled sharing, your wise reflections, and your powerful convictions.  I'm so glad to be reconnected with you! To learn more about Seth and the work he does, you'll find links in the show notes. Seth's website: https://visionclarityconsulting.comConnect with Seth on LinkedIn  Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Anna Sparks.Anna is a returning guest and it's so great to get to talk with her again! Our previous conversations have been focused on books we read and discussed together.  If you haven't listened to them, they are episodes 15 and 34, and we talk about the books Professional Troublemaker:The Fear-Fighter Manual by Luvvie Ajayi Jones, and Unbound, A Woman's Guide to Power by Kasia Urbaniak.  Great books.  Great conversations!This time, Anna agreed to return and share more of her own journey and reflections.  As you'll hear, she's got enough wisdom and insight to write her own book!We talk about a variety of topics, but one of the things we get into is Adult Stage Development.  This is a fascinating model that looks how adults continue to develop in their ways of experiencing, reacting, and engaging in the world.  When I first learned about this model, it was life-changing!Anna, thank you for coming back on the podcast!  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey, your reflections, and your wisdom.  I can't wait for our next conversation!To learn more about Anna and the work that she does, you'll find links in the show notes.Connect with Anna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-sparks/Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today doesn't really qualify as a guest, as much as a co-contributor.  Russ Watts has been regular guest, sharing stories, reflections, hosting conversations, and contributing in so many ways to making life less difficult. Russ is a leadership coach, outdoor enthusiast, mountain adventurer and athlete, and dedicated father and husband.  He lives in Italy with his family.  Russ and I have been collaborating on storytelling workshops and retreats since 2019. A number of weeks ago, Russ mentioned that he was contemplating pain as a teacher.  I immediately was interested in hearing more, especially knowing the times of extreme pain that Russ has experienced in his life with two life-threatening mountain incidents (check out episode 4 to hear those incredible stories!). So, today's conversation is a dive into pain.  While we often strive to avoid pain (and let me say, that certain pain is definitely to be avoided), there's also pain that can indeed teach us, grow us, and transform us.  Sometimes this pain is physical and by choice (for example training for a long distance run or hike or other type of adventure), sometimes the pain is emotional and not by choice (loss, endings, disruptions, health scares). Join us for the conversation today.  We certainly don't have even a fraction of the answers, we just jump into the discovery process to see what can be brought to light.  If this topic interests you, we welcome you to reach out and join us for future conversations. To learn more about Russ and the work he does, as well as our storytelling workshops and retreats, you'll find links in the show notes.  Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Stephen Barry.Stephen is a massage therapist living in the Nashville, Tennessee area.Stephen is someone who I have wanted to have on the podcast for years, so it's truly a delight to finally share this conversation here.Stephen originally connected with me after I was on a podcast called Everyone's Agnostic.  We had a number of things in common including our upbringing in the Seventh-day Adventist Church.  And stepping away from that faith community.  Stephen also recognized my last name and asked if I was related to Doug Tilstra.  My father-in-law, Doug Tilstra, had been one of his professors in university and, as you'll hear in Stephen's story, has remained a prominent friend and support to him.In our conversation today, Stephen shares pieces of his story of leaving religion, coming out as gay, nearly giving up on life, and re-finding community, faith, and love.  Embedded in this is an amazing story of friendship and making life less difficult for each other.Stephen, thank you so very much for this conversation.  I feel so grateful to be connected.  Thank you for sharing your stories with authenticity, vulnerability, love, and compassion.  You make the world a better place!If you'd like to connect with Stephen, you'll find links below.https://www.facebook.com/barryorchestra Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Gai Ben Dor.Gai is a leadership development and change management expert, coach, and facilitator who works with leaders and organizations worldwide. He is an international keynote speaker specializing in leadership and excellence.Gai has a fascinating story – well, many fascinating stories, really.  I was fortunate to meet Gai through the Georgetown University Leadership Coaching network and before we even talked th first time, I was hoping he'd say yes to being on the podcast!  One piece of Gai's story is that he participated in the Marathon Race at the Beijing Paralympic Games as a guide for a blind runner and later led him on a journey through the Himalayas toward Mount Everest. He is also a social entrepreneur, having founded several social enterprises focused on education, sports, and the integration of people with disabilities.With a background as a lawyer and accountant, he brings a diverse perspective to leadership, transformation, and personal growth.Today, Gai is part of KONU, an international consulting firm specializing in leadership development and change management.Gai, thank you for this wonderful conversation. Thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey and story.  Thank you for your reflections, your wisdom, and your inspiration.  I'm so grateful to know you and host this episode!To learn more about Gai, find links to his Ted talk and more here: Connect with Gai:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaibendor/Gai's Website: https://www.gaibendor.com/enInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/gaibendor/TEDx Talk link: https://youtu.be/goiyLgCzgSI?si=XZ_GC2e4x_ovIziwMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Allison Ebert. Allison is an Education Specialist with the U.S. Department of State.  She's also a Leadership Coach through Georgetown University's Institute of Transformational Leadership and has a Master of Education in Leadership and Management.Originally from Minnesota, Allison has been living and working in Germany for the last 20 years.Allison and I met through our mutual work for the Department of State.  Every time we get to connect, I'm always left feeling like I need more time with her!  As the years have passed, fortunately we have had more opportunities for overlap through our coaching work, story retreats, and now a podcast conversation.Allison, thank you for this conversation!  Thank you for sharing pieces of your story and your reflections in such a genuine, authentic, and thoughtful way.  The wisdom shared in this conversation is such a gift!  I look forward to many more conversations!Connect with Allison on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allisonbebert/ Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Lynn Ellen Queen.Lynn Ellen is an executive coach working with clients from around the globe.  One of her core values is making a difference, which she truly does, as you'll soon hear through her stories here.Lynn Ellen also makes a difference in her volunteer work, serving on several non-profit boards.In our conversation today, Lynn Ellen shares two stories of transformation.  The first one focuses on her personal transformation which led to making the second one possible.  When Lynn Ellen first shared pieces of her story with me, I immediately asked if she'd come on my podcast.  The love, the compassion, the human connection all are deeply inspiring and a much-needed reminder that we can all choose to make life a little less difficult for others when we are willing to do the hard work of self-reflection and pair that with seeing others with love and presence.Lynn Ellen, thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey.  Thank you for sharing candidly about your own journey and self-discovery. And thank you for creating love in the world for both yourself and others!  You are an incredible change-maker.To learn more about Lynn Ellen and the work she does in the world, you'll find links below.Connect with Lynn Ellen on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lynnellenqueen/Lynn Ellen's Website: https://leadership.qa/team Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guests today are Jerome Deroy and Julienne Ryan.Jerome and Julienne are hosts of the podcast, Leadership Story Talks.  I was fortunate to meet Jerome and Julienne through the kind introduction of Nadine Keller and Linda Knox of Precision Sales Coaching and Training.  Jerome is the CEO of Narativ, a company that helps companies activate behavioral change from the inside out through the use of story and storytelling experiences.  Jerome came to Narativ after an international career in finance and thought he was going to pursue film making when the opportunity came for him to transform Narativ into the company it is today.Julienne is a business author, communication and HR specialist and frequent Narativ training contributor.  Julienne is the author of the book, The Learned-it-in-Queens Communications Playbook: Winning Against Digital Distraction.  In our conversation today we dive into the impact and power of story.  What makes storytelling transformational?  What are some considerations for telling stories?  How does listening impact the telling and receiving of stories?  And much more.Jerome and Julienne, thank you so much for this beautiful and inspiring conversation.  Thank you for the work you do in the world, helping people connect in meaningful and transformational ways.  You both are amazing storytellers and are creating experiences that are so needed in businesses and our world!You'll find links below to learn more about Jerome and Julienne and the work they do in the world.Narativ websiteLeadership Story Talks PodcastJulienne's book  Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Dr. Adam Dorsay.Adam is a licensed psychologist and a certified executive coach working in private practice. He specializes in assisting high-achieving professionals—including tech executives, entrepreneurs, and professional athletes—with relationship issues, stress reduction, easing anxiety, and attaining more happiness in their lives.Adam delivers lively and well-received keynotes and trainings at institutions like Microsoft, LinkedIn, and the California Psychological Association. He is also the host of the award-winning psychology podcast SuperPsyched, which has featured interviews with everyone from NBA coaches to rock stars to world-famous comedians to bestselling authors and many more.He lives and works in San Jose, California, and is happily married with two children and an Australian Labradoodle named Raffi.Adam is the author of the book, SuperPsyched: Unleash the Power of 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Want.  In our conversation today, Adam shares his wisdom on what connection is, how we as humans are wired up for connection and love, and why, despite wanting connection so desperately, often feel disconnection and alone, perhaps even unloved.  I loved this conversation with Adam and wished we had had about 5 hours to continue talking and learning from him.  I'm excited to share this with you and hope you'll explore Adam's podcast, book, TEDx talks, and other work as well.  There are links in the show notes for all of that.Adam, thank you SO much for this great connection.  Your work in the world is of incredible importance and I'm honored to be a tiny piece in helping it spread!  Thank you for sharing your stories, your struggles, your reflections and your wisdom.  Your transparency and wise counsel are a beautiful combination and gift to others!Connect with Adam:WebsiteSuper Psyched (Book)TEDx Talk: Emotions - The Data Men MissTEDx Talk: Friendships in Adulthood - 5 Things to KnowSuper Psyched Podcast Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Dan Henderson.Dan is a seasoned entrepreneur, investor, and ICF-credentialed coach with nearly three decades of experience in high-growth software and technology companies. As the founder of Gravity Insights, Dan leverages his extensive background to provide leadership coaching and consulting services, guiding business leaders through complex transitions and critical transactions. His unique blend of practical experience and formal training enables him to offer insightful and actionable advice tailored to the nuanced challenges faced by today's executives. Throughout his career, Dan has held pivotal roles, including founding executive positions, leading global mergers and acquisitions, and spending half a dozen years as an early-stage venture capital investor at Virginia Venture Partners where he invested in startups that went on to achieve valuations in the hundreds of millions of dollars.Today Dan's passion is nurturing the growth of other business leaders with the compassion and understanding that comes from having walked in their shoes. Outside of work, Dan volunteers as a business advisor. He is an accomplished musician, playing fiddle and singing in an award-winning bluegrass band, Pictrola, which performs regularly at music festivals, concert venues, and performing arts centers.  Dan lives in northern Virginia with his wife, two daughters, two dogs, and a menagerie of other pets.In our conversation today, Dan shares pieces of his story of learning about ADHD, what it meant to learn about his own ADHD as an adult, and how he has come to help others with ADHD to better understand their brains.Dan, thank you for this great conversation!  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your story and journey.  Thank you for sharing the wisdom you have developed.  You have helped me understand things about my brain that have made a huge positive impact and I know that many others could say similar things!You'll find links in the show notes to learn more about Dan and the work he does in the world! Learn more about Dan and his work: https://www.gravityinsightsgroup.com/Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-henderson-33164/Books mentioned in our conversation:Your Brain's Not Broken by Tamara RosierThe ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa OrlovBrain Hacks by Lara Honos-WebbMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Annie Peguero.Annie is on a mission to help leaders transform fear into confidence and lead with balance and purpose. An adoptee, former federal law enforcement officer and military spouse, Annie's journey has taken her from navigating her own identity and reinvention to her decades-long work of empowering leaders worldwide to embrace authenticity and resilience. She has lived across the U.S., Italy, and Japan, and her work draws from global perspectives and lived experiences.Annie is a Georgetown-trained executive leadership coach, and the creator of the B.R.A.V.E. Framework and founder of The Lion's Garden Academy, a neuroscience-based method for leadership development and personal growth. She is also the author of the forthcoming book Fear Alchemy which equips leaders with the tools to navigate fear and uncertainty with clarity and courage for greater impact.Annie holds a BS in Special Education, a Master's in Park Resource Management, several certifications from the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center and a certification in executive leadership coaching. A lifelong learner and wellness advocate, Annie is committed to empowering leaders to find alignment and brave expansion on the other side of fear in their personal and professional lives. She lives in Northern Virginia with her retired Marine husband and two daughters and loves outdoor adventures, alcohol-free living and impromptu dance parties in the kitchen.Annie is also an amazing storyteller and we first got connected through the telling of stories.  You'll hear about that story in a minute, as well as other inspiring stories of Annie's life.Annie, thank you for this wonderful conversation.  Thank you for your bravery, your stories, your reflections, and your wisdom.  I love the connection with you, the discovery in this conversation, and hope for many more conversations and stories in the future!Connect with Annie:Annie's Website: https://www.thelionsgarden.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anniepeguero/Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-lions-garden/id1412692951  Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Megan Broker.Megan is an executive coach whose mission is to empower leaders to enhance their self-awareness and influence, enabling them to drive greater effectiveness and positive change. With a career spanning nearly three decades marked by award-winning corporate roles within the telecommunications, pharmaceutical, and consulting sectors, Megan has solidified her reputation as a beacon of guidance and transformation.Megan's superpower is quickly establishing rapport and resonating deeply with those she encounters. Throughout her career, she has exemplified her dedication to guiding others toward a meaningful alignment with their values and igniting their inner compasses to lead purposeful lives.Megan is the author of the book, The Pause Effect: Now you can Lead and Belong. In her book she does a beautiful job of weaving together lessons she learned from starting a blended family into leadership lessons at work.  The connections are masterful and relatable at so many levels!Megan lives with her husband in Colorado. She is a proud mother and stepmother, whose journey continues to unfold amidst the enchanting complexities of blended families. Through these experiences she embraces both the joys and challenges, perpetually discovering the magic in the messiness of life's intricate tapestry.Megan, thank you for this beautiful conversation.  From the first moments of meeting you, I knew conversations with you would be personal, meaningful, and thought-provoking.  I'm grateful for the reflections and wisdom you share and hope for many more conversations in the future!You can find links to Megan's website and book below. Megan's Website: https://www.meganbrokerconsulting.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/megan-broker/Book: The Pause Effect Make Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is John Burdock.John is the Executive Art Direction for JannPaul Diamonds.  He also works closely with the CEO in diamond research and development.This conversation is a very special one to me, as John is also my oldest nephew.  He is the third of my nieces and nephews to be a guest on the podcast and I always love having these conversations and learning from the next generation in my family.In our conversation today, John shares about his journey of learning about his brain and working to better understand his emotions.  He shares how he learned about his OCD and has found and created strategies to help him manage obsessive thoughts and anxiety.  This is hard work and we talk about the difficulty of understanding our brains and emotions so that we can better manage our thoughts and feelings so that we can choose more helpful behaviors rather than being controlled by reflexive reactions.One of the books John mentions is You are Not Your Brain by Drs. Jeffrey Schwartz and Rebecca Gladding.  I've included a link in the show notes in case you want to check that out.I've also included links to John's YouTube Channel where he has almost 10,000 subscribers and a couple of tutorials, one of which has been watched nearly 272,000 times.  John, thank you for this great conversation!  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your story and journey.  Your ability to articulate what you experience and discover is of great help to many people and I'm extremely proud of you and grateful to be your aunt!John's YouTube Channel, Epic J Creations: https://www.youtube.com/@EpicJCreationsPopular Tutorials:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CpjKwQkgc8chttps://youtu.be/f1t7bC4_Nto?si=EQ-mnH53odVyBPcmBook: You are Not Your Brain by Drs. Jeffrey Schwartz & Rebecca GladdingMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Adela Warkentin.Adela is a certified executive coach dedicated to empowering leaders through a holistic and transformative approach.  Her work is rooted in a passion for helping others lead with intention and integrity, making a meaningful difference in both their personal and professional lives.Adela focuses on authenticity, self-awareness, and impactful leadership.  She guides clients in discovering and leveraging their strengths and through her 360-degree exploration process, she helps clients unlock their full potential, fostering growth in confidence, mindfulness, and influence.  Originally from Montenegro, and currently living in Germany, Adela has had many international experiences and found growth through the challenges of these transitions as well as career transitions.We talk about these transitions in our conversation today, as well as the beautiful privilege of experiencing the full spectrum of emotions as humans.  This idea really stood out to me as sometimes I don't appreciate the full spectrum of my emotions, but truly, they are a gift.  Adela also shares this amazing inspiration: “We are, as human beings, much stronger than we think we are and we don't give ourselves credit.”  If you are going through a challenging time, I hope you will find encouragement and hope, knowing you are much stronger than you likely give yourself credit for!Adela, thank you for sharing these pieces of your story.  Thank you for your insight and energy, your enthusiasm for a full and fulfilling life! You are an inspiration and I look forward to future conversations with you!You'll find links below to learn more about Adela and her work and to contact her.Links:Website: https://www.adelawarkentin.comLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adela-warkentin/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adelawarkentin/ Make Life Less DifficultSupport:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

Hey Friends!  It's episode 200!  I can hardly believe it!  I'm so incredibly grateful for this journey, for all of my guests, and for all of my listeners!  I love doing this podcast, having these conversations, and am a better person because of this experience and journey!The Make Life Less Difficult podcast has been listened to in 134 countries!  I love this global reach and all my listeners and guests from so many places around the world!In this episode, I share some of the stories that prompted me to create this podcast, how stories have impacted my life -- both hearing others' stories and sharing my own, and the philosophy that underlies this work that I do.I'm also starting something new: I have a "Buy Me a Coffee" page.  This is a way to support this work if you feel so inclined.  I do not want to engage ads or paywalls for this content.  That being said, it takes a lot of time and financial investment to support this podcast and I would be grateful for any contributions to support this work!Here's a link for supporting in this way: https://buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstraIf you have not yet been a guest and would like to be, please reach out!  If you have been a guest and want to come back -- please reach out!  I am so looking forward to the next 200+ episodes and conversations!With so much love and gratitude,LisaMake Life Less DifficultSupport:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

My guest today is Dr. Wencke Meteling.Wencke is a leadership coach with a unique blend of passion, creativity, and energy that uplifts everyone around her. Wencke draws from an impressive background—spanning continents and disciplines—to bring depth and vision to her coaching practice. With over 15 years of academic research, teaching, and leadership experience in institutions across Germany, the UK, and the US, Wencke brings a wealth of insight into the power of historical perspective and the courage to lead authentically.In our conversation today, Wencke shares pieces of her journey that include a transition from academia and being a historian to a distressing diagnosis of breast cancer – both an incredible disruptor of her life and a door to new directions and purpose.  Wencke is now dedicated to helping others find purpose and potential.  She coaches one-on-one and in teams or groups, often in the setting of nature and immersive farm retreats, partnering with horses.  If you have not heard of Equine Facilitated Learning (EFL), you are in for a treat, as Wencke shares her own journey of learning from equine partners and how she now creates those spaces for others.Wencke, thank you for this amazing conversation.  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your story, the reflections of learning you have done – and continue to do – and your wisdom for pursuing and creating the path that truly brings you joy!Please check out the links below to learn more about Wencke and the work she does in the world.  You'll also find a link to watch her video for the song you'll hear toward the end of our conversation.Here's a link to Wencke's song & video:https://vimeo.com/1026142964 Roseanna Stanton and Wencke's website (Fairbrooke Farm is near Gaithersburg, MD):https://www.connectwitheightwire.com/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/wencke-meteling-256836290/ Gus' home: Leighton Farm alias Thoroughbred Placement Resources, Upper Marlboro, MD,:https://goodhorse.org/Make Life Less Difficult

Welcome to an episode that's a bit different.  Today, there are four of us talking and sharing experiences from the perspective of Foreign Service life – mainly as spouses and one contractor.  If you happened to listen to episode 162 which was about fitness, you may recognize these amazing women – Hillery Midkiff, Susie Csorsz Brown, and Morgan Loosli.  The four of us all met while living and working Sri Lanka, starting back in 2020.  At this point, I am now living in the US, Hillery and Susie are still in Colombo, Sri Lanka, and Morgan and her family are living in Shanghai.We recorded this conversation in the spring of 2024, and it got lost in my folders, so hence the delay in publication.  As I listened to it recently, I appreciated the stories and decided it needed to be released into the wild!IF you are not connected with the Foreign Service, a warning that there are a number of acronyms that you will hear and likely not understand.  The most frequent one is probably EFM which stands for Eligible Family Member – the term given to spouses and children who are considered dependents of Foreign Service Officers.  Susie, Morgan, and I are in the role of EFMs.  Hillery is a contracted officer and her husband is an EFM.  Other than that, I think you'll be able to follow just fine despite the other acronyms.We are talking about careers, finding professional fulfillment, and unique challenges that are associated with living and moving internationally.  Sometimes in countries where we have permission to work in the local economy, and sometimes in countries where we do not have permission to work locally.  A certain number of jobs exist at our US Embassies and Consulates that are specific for EFM employment – Susie and Morgan will share about some of their experiences in those positions.  I have chosen to develop my own business and have also worked on a part-time basis as a trainer for the Foreign Service Institute, the training center for the US Department of State.  Susie, Morgan, Hillery – thank you for this conversation.  Thanks for sharing the ups and downs and realities of this interesting life we live.  I'm super grateful for your friendships and how we stay connected across the globe!  (And quick note that Hillery does indeed drop the F bomb at one point in our conversation, so it's marked explicit.  She'll appreciate the shoutout for that.  You are welcome, Hillery!!)And with that, let me turn this over to our conversation that is graciously hosted by Susie.Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Mary Seals.  Mary is an Administrative Assistance for the non-profit, Capitalize for Good.  She has a degree in psychology, is a fellow Foreign Service spouse, an accomplished dog trainer, and mother of 4 wonderful children.Mary was a guest on episode 114, sharing about her family's amazing Giant Schnauzer, Pax.  If you haven't listened to that conversation, you will definitely want to add it to your podcast queue!When Mary told the story of Pax, it was a story of transformation – transforming from being “not a dog person” at all to being a “total dog person”, grateful for the transformation Pax brought to her family, as well as many others through her work as a therapy dog.In today's conversation, Mary shares another story of transformation.  This time about transforming from being a member of a close-knit faith community to stepping away from that very faith community.Religious and faith communities can bring amazing good into our lives and at times, amazing pain and disappointment.  Unraveling our belief systems and structures is not an easy task.  Having had a similar journey myself, I'm so grateful for Mary sharing these pieces of her journey with us today.Mary, thank you for coming back on the podcast.  Thank you for sharing courageously – for living courageously!  You are an inspiration and your willingness to share the questions, the difficulties, the steps, the transformation will inspire many others as well.  Make Life Less Difficult

My guests today are Kerri and Steve Boone.Kerri is a registered nurse and a certified health coach, and Steve is the CEO of Wilkins Medical Group.  They live in east Tennessee.My connection with Kerri and Steve is through the beautiful expansion of our family, as one of my nieces married one of their sons a year and a half ago.You'll hear more about our meeting and surprising point of connection in our conversation, but in short, after several superficial interactions, Kerri and Steve and I connected deeply through shared experiences of loss and grief.I do a lot of work in storytelling and this entire podcast is built on the belief that we connect through our stories and that hearing other people share their stories can make life a little less difficult – knowing we aren't alone.  Despite this foundational and core belief that I hold, I continue to be surprised at the unexpected connections that arise – such as this one with Kerri and Steve.At times people will ask me, does it always need to be a sad story?  One of loss or grief?  No, absolutely not, and I love telling and hearing funny stories as well.  There is the reality, however, that it's more difficult to share our stories of pain, so when we do and we connect with someone else who understands our pain, that creates a deep resonance in us as humans.I say all that because this conversation is such a beautiful reflection of it all – why I started this podcast, why I tell my story, and why I invite others to share their stories.  While it doesn't fix things, while it doesn't take the pain away when there's pain, sharing does indeed make life a little less difficult.  And Kerri and Steve are committed to sharing their story of loss and grief with others as a way to connect, support, and encourage their fellow sojourners on this journey of life.Kerri and Steve – thank you!  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your story.  Thank you for sharing the reflections and transformations you have experienced along with the pain and grief.  Thank you for your generosity and desire to be present with others, whatever they might be going through.  I'm grateful for this connection.Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Tony Cerella.  If that name sounds familiar to you, let me tell you there's a twist to this.  The Tony who joins me today is the son of the Tony who has joined me previously and shared about his journey of retiring from a career in the U.S. Army!  And if you are a regular listener, you might recall that other members of the Cerella family have also been guests here.  Bethany was a guest on episode 163 and Sophia was on episode 180.  Tony, who joins me today, is the son of Tony and Bethany, and the twin brother of Sophie.  At the time of our conversation, he was 15 years old and has since turned 16.  Tony is a deep thinker and enjoys digging into complex topics.  He's lived a rich life in his 16 years, living in multiple countries, speaking multiple languages, and currently lives in Como, Italy.Tony, thank you for joining me on the podcast!  It is great getting to know you better, hearing your ideas and perspectives, and ambitions.  I look forward to seeing where you go in life and know you will make an impact for good in whatever you do!  (And thank you for your patience as it's taken me much longer than anticipated to get this released!!)And a big thanks for the entire Cerella family for being my first complete family of guests on the podcast – what a fun experience, a beautiful and inspiring family!  I love these conversations and continue to feel so honored to host them and share them with you!Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Teresa Ramos.Teresa is a seasoned leader with a diverse career spanning over 23 years in executive roles at top tech companies like British Telecom, Vodafone, Telefónica, and Siemens Group. She has driven digital transformations, enhanced organizational agility, and fostered innovation within and across departments.After her extensive commercial experience, Teresa transitioned to academia, collaborating with leading institutions such as Instituto de Empresa, Stanford, and Harvard where her focus has been on innovation, agility, leadership, digital transformation, and high-performance teams.Currently, Teresa works as an executive coach and digital consultant, collaborating with a wide range of organizations and companies helping navigate the complexities of the digital world and thrive in our fast-evolving, technology-driven landscape.She is a Fellow at the Institute of Coaching at Harvard and a member of the Advisory Council at Harvard Business Review (HBR).In our conversation today, Teresa shares pieces of her journey through various transitions, the importance of playful curiosity, and how she's managed moving back to her home country when it no longer felt like home.Teresa, thank you for this beautiful and enriching conversation.  Thank you for your wisdom, your stories, your curiosity.  You have so much to offer the world and I'm honored to share this conversation here.To connect with Teresa and learn more about her work, you'll find links below:Teresa's website: http://www.globalresults.eu/Connect with Teresa on LinkedInMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Dr. Britt Yamamoto.I'm also delighted to share that the host of today's conversation is my friend, Russ Watts.  This is Russ's second time hosting a conversation here and I hope you'll encourage him to do more!My only dilemma when Russ hosts is that I am slightly envious of not being in the conversation myself.  But, to counter that, I have the delight of listening and being touched and inspired and it is a very special experience.Dr. Yamamoto is an expert in designing strategies and building environments that emphasize ongoing, reciprocal learning within businesses, organizations, and educational institutions.  He is highly skilled in working with leaders to grow their self-awareness, deepen their purpose, and enhance their personal and professional wellbeing.Britt in the co-founder and CEO of Perennial, a leadership training organization that works with community leaders in Africa, Asia-Pacific, Latin America and the Middle East on how to connect to and grow their long-term leadership capacities.  He's a Clinical Associate Professor at the University of Washington Department of Global Health, and the author of the book, Soil of Leadership: Cultivating the Conditions for Transformation.  His book is newly released and is a collection of leadership practices and perspectives informed by his work as an organic farmer.On a personal note, Britt is an avid long-distance runner, a novice podcaster, and as a child of the Pacific Ocean, finds joy in warm water, navigating beach breaks, and looking out for the perfect taco!Britt, thank you for this wise, thoughtful, and stirring conversation.  Thank you for the inspiration to ‘human better together'.  May your work continue to grow deep into the heart and souls of leaders young and old and produce the fruit of transformation that our world craves.To learn more about Britt and his work, you'll find links below:The Soil of Leadership: https://thesoilofleadership.org/Connect with Britt on LinkedInFollow Britt on Instagram Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Nadine Keller.Nadine is the founder and president of Precision Sales Coaching & Training.  She works to help ambitious women entrepreneurs who have hit a revenue plateau increase their revenue in record time!  She helps them get to a position to invest in their business, be well-positioned to weather conditions outside of their control, and most importantly – so they can feel financially free!Nadine and I met through the Georgetown Institute for Transformational Leadership Network annual conference in September 2024.  Nadine's energy, passion, and enthusiasm for life, her work, and connecting were evident from our very first interactions.We also quickly connected via stories of loss – the loss of our husbands.  Our conversation quickly dove into the depths of grief and gratitude and how the two elements can be so mysteriously intertwined.I'm so grateful Nadine said yes to coming on the podcast, sharing pieces of her story, how she has weathered the difficult times, and her reflections of what resilience looks like in her life and journey.Nadine, thank you.  This conversation touches on so many themes that are near and dear to my heart.  Themes that are sometimes difficult to put into words and yet so grounding and connective when shared.  Your stories, your optimism, your resilience… they all inspire me and I know they will inspire so many who listen!To learn more about Nadine, the work she does, and her books and more, see the links below:Thanksgiving book: Gobble:  The Quintessential Thanksgiving PlaybookNadine's website: The Precision Sales AcceleratorConnect with Nadine: Calendly linkMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Morgan Adams.Morgan is a transformative holistic sleep coach who empowers women to conquer their battle with sleepless nights, without reliance on sleep medications. With her powerful sleep toolkit, Morgan not only ensures that women experience a profound enhancement in their sleep quality, but she also guides them in rekindling their relationship with sleep, paving the way for less stressful and more fulfilling days.Having struggled with insomnia and dependency on prescription sleeping pills for almost a decade, Morgan intimately understands the profound impact sleep has on one's quality of life. Morgan's resilience shines bright as a two-time breast cancer survivor. This experience fueled her advocacy for a lifestyle rooted in disease prevention. Her wisdom and guidance extend far beyond just sleep, as she champions holistic well-being in all aspects of life.Morgan, thank you for this insightful and educational conversation!  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey and how you have built out your resilience!  And special shout-out to Kim Brundage for getting Morgan and me connected!You will find links below to Morgan's website and other resources.Website: https://www.morganadamswellness.comIG: https://www.instagram.com/morganadams.wellness/Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Kamini Wood.Kamini is a certified life coach and best-selling author, who is passionate about empowering individuals to reclaim their self-worth and become resilient leaders of their own lives. As the CEO and Founder of Live Joy Your Way, Kamini works with high-achieving adults and teens, helping them navigate self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the pressures of external validation. Through her specialized coaching programs, Kamini focuses on emotional resilience, self-compassion, and the power of living authentically.Her journey, shaped by her experiences as a first-generation American and a mother of five, informs her work with clients to help them break free from the limitations of people-pleasing and self-judgment. Kamini's mission is simple but profound: to guide others in recognizing their innate worth and to foster self-leadership from a place of inner strength and clarity.In our conversation today, Kamini shares pieces of her own journey that has led her to do the hard internal work that is foundational to a joy-filled life!Kamini, thank you for this thoughtful and wise conversation.  Thank you for sharing pieces of your own story, your growth, your mistakes, your insights, your wisdom!  I've been reflecting on our conversation and am a better person for it!To learn more about Kamini and her work check out the links below:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/itsauthenticme/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaminiwoodPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/itsauthenticme/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsauthenticme/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSVaEISjpaXsCdQGbE2lpUwWebsite: https://www.kaminiwood.com/Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Lorca Smetana.Lorca is a resilience expert, teacher, and speaker with a deep passion for helping individuals and communities rise from trauma and challenges. Lorca's unique approach combines her personal experience surviving disaster and loss at the young age of 16, with years of teaching and coaching, focusing on resilience, grief, and the emotional landscapes of leadership. With a background that spans wilderness survival, emergency response, and personal coaching, Lorca offers insight and tools that empower people to transform their toughest moments into profound growth.I'm thrilled to have Lorca on the podcast today to share her story, expertise, and the ways she's helping people not only survive but thrive through life's most difficult challenges.Lorca and I were connected through the kind introduction of Kim Brundage – thank you Kim!Lorca lives in Bozeman, Montana, and alongside the beautiful work of resilience training that she does, she also has a sustainable farm where she and her husband raise two free-range children, homing pigeons, dogs, Icelandic sheep, and a diversity of other birds and creatures for sustenance, humility and delight.Lorca, thank you for this inspiring conversation.  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your story.  Thank you for sharing the journey of grief, choosing love, choosing life.  You embody the tools that you lovingly teach others in a beautiful way!To learn more about Lorca and her work, please see the links below:Lorca's Website: https://www.lorcasmetana.com/Lorca's Blogs: https://www.lorcasmetana.com/blogLorca's TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/bA4s-0D9AK8?si=UbFa0RQPEI27TS0L Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Silvia Iaia.Silvia is an executive coach and an incredibly inspiring woman.  We first met through her husband, Felipe, and the world of real estate investing.  Silvia is the founder of Be Executive, the co-founder and executive director of Growing Assetz and Notes for Growth.Originally from southern Italy, Silvia has lived in many places around the world, including her current home of Santiago, Chile.  My connection and friendship with both Silvia and her husband is truly international, as we have spent time together in beautiful Santiago, as well as Chattanooga, Tennessee, and virtually.Silvia approaches her life and work with passion and intention.  You'll hear this throughout our conversation today.  Silvia, thank you SO much for sharing these pieces of your beautiful journey and life.  Thank you for sharing the learning and growth and discoveries you have made along the way and continue to make.  I can't wait until our next conversation!If you would be interested in learning more about Silvia or the work she's doing in the world, please check out the links below!Connect with Silvia on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iaiasilvia/Growing AssetsNotes for GrowthHurricane Relief Efforts:  The following list was shared by Daneen Akers who is local to Asheville, NC, and a personal friend and amazing advocate (Read more about Daneen here):Rural Organizing And Resilience Wild Abundance Disaster Relief FundManna FoodbankBeloved AshevilleFriends of the Hot Springs LibraryCommunity Housing Coalition in Madison CountyMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Alicia Ford.Alicia is a seasoned US diplomat with more than 17 years at the U.S. Department of State. She has experience serving domestically and overseas in over a dozen different consular and management roles. She is bilingual in English and Spanish and has lived in Honduras, Peru, Barbados, Türkiye, Romania, and Trinidad and Tobago.Alicia is also the Editor, Curator, and Co-Author of Diplomats, a book about US women serving as diplomats around the world. In this book, each contributor shares her unique approach to living this dynamic lifestyle – career, family life, personal ambition, and life goals.  The book also serves as a guide for careers in International Affairs and Diplomacy for anyone seeking a global career.  One of Alicia's motives for publishing this book was to help people and this directly aligns with her current role as a US Diplomat. What was happening behinds the scenes of this recording is a great example of the resiliency of diplomats because Alicia was managing a crisis before, during, AND after our conversation on a Saturday morning. Alicia, thank you so much for this conversation.  Thank you for the work you do in service to the United States of America.  And thank you for your passion for telling the stories of amazing women in the world of diplomacy!You'll find links below to Alicia's book and resources.The views expressed in this interview are in Alicia's personal capacity and are not necessarily those of the U.S. Government.Read Alicia's book: Diplomats: Experiences of Women Serving at U.S. Embassies Around the WorldInstagram: @DiplomatsthebookSign up for the Newsletter: https://forms.gle/yfLMUF17rkAh5PXi9Alicia and her husband in the New York TimesFind the Oasis: Sports Complex, BarbadosMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Nane Bittencourt.Nane is a leadership coach with a mission to empower leaders to achieve their full potential.  Nane is originally from Brazil and now lives in the US.  With over eight years of coaching leaders in English, Portuguese, and Spanish, she helps clients unleash their full potential to drive their careers, seeing their work as a meaningful part of their lives rather than just a job and strategizing accordingly. Nane is dedicated to empowering leaders to provide clear, empathetic, and innovative guidance in today's interconnected world. I find inspiration in my understanding of culture that goes beyond borders.She's been interested in living and working internationally for most of her life and has intentionally pursued these dreams, bringing them to fruition.Nane and I met through the Georgetown Institute for Transformational Leadership Alumni Network, most specifically because she was intrigued about a Story Slam that I was hosting at the Network's annual conference.  Along with agreeing to tell a story at the story slam, Nane also agreed to come on my podcast and share pieces of her journey.We talk today about the challenges of moving to a new country, learning to find and express oneself in new languages and new cultures, and strategies to find an anchor in the midst of these transitions.Nane, thank you for sharing these pieces of your story.  Thank you for sharing the vulnerable reality of facing your fears, stepping into the unknowns, asking for help, and bravely stretching yourself.  You are courageous, wise, and inspiring and I'm so glad we've gotten connected!Connect with Nana on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nanebittencourt/Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Vinay Kumar.Vinay is an executive coach who partners with executive to accelerate their growth from the inside out.  He's also the co-author of Language and the Pursuit of Leadership Excellent: How Extraordinary Leaders Build Relationships, Shape Culture and Drive Breakthrough Results.  His book is required reading in MBA programs and Leadership Development and Leadership Coaching Programs at several major universities and beyond.Rising from humble beginnings, and growing up in a multicultural family, his 35+ years of experience includes Fortune 100, federal government, small business, and consulting. Vinay successfully spearheaded and led a privately held business before becoming a leadership coach, author, and speaker. Vinay has extensive experience with an array of roles including leadership, management, project management, business development, marketing, client services, training, and operations. Vinay brings a calm and warm presence, deep wisdom, deep listening, and keen insights into how to achieve breakthrough results. I've known of Vinay and been impacted by his work for several years and it is thanks for Joan Fletcher (who was on episode 164) that we got connected directly for this conversation.Vinay shares pieces of his journey of learning the cost of reactivity and choosing responses rather than being subject to that reactivity.  Learning that we have a story and having the conscious awareness of that story, so the story doesn't have us is another piece of the conversation and inspiration from Vinay.Vinay, thank you for this beautiful conversation.  Your thoughtful reflections, your stories of growth and development, and your wise perspectives are so inspirational.  I know you have already touched so many people in this world and am honored to share this conversation so a few more people can be touched by you!There are links below to Vinay's book, website, and contact information.Book: Language and the Pursuit of Leadership Excellent: How Extraordinary Leaders Build Relationships, Shape Culture and Drive Breakthrough ResultsWebsite: https://leadingforbreakthroughs.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vinaykumar1/Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Istvan Rab.Istvan is a leader and consultant at a global management consulting firm, working with clients across the globe on strategy and innovation topics. While his interests and his job took him to many places in the world, for most of his life he had lived in Europe and had only recently moved to Vancouver, Canada – where he and his family are ‘starting new', from building new friendships to rediscovering new-old passions in life.Istvan and I met at mutual work events and his energy, humor, and expertise make a wonderful blend.  As I heard bits and pieces of his story, I knew I would like to hear more and invited him to come on the podcast.  In our conversation Istvan shares about having a daughter with special needs, finding the upsides of the unknown, and managing international relocations.Istvan, thank you for saying yes to this conversation!  Thank you for sharing these insights into your journey, your discoveries, your reflections, and your wisdom.  Make Life Less Difficult

Before I introduce my guest today, I want to take a moment to recognize this as the three-year anniversary of the Make Life Less Difficult podcast!  What an amazing journey it has been!  This started as an experiment and has grown into an incredible passion project for me.  The conversations here fill my heart and soul and I hope they do the same for those who listen – whether you listen to just one or many of them!  Every person who has joined me here shares vulnerable pieces of themselves, their story, their reflections, and their wisdom.  Most of my guests begin with the sense that their stories aren't interesting, and they don't have any wisdom, but 100% of the time, their stories are amazing and their wisdom is profound.I love meeting people and having these conversations and I'm honored to have listeners in 128 countries around the world according to Buzzsprout statistics!  I have a list of people who I want to have on my podcast and am humbled that that list only grows over time!  I'd love to discover ways to invest even more time into this podcast and these conversations, so we'll see what the future holds!In the meantime, thank you for being part of the journey!  Today's conversation is a fantastic example of the amazing people in the world and how they make a difference just by being true to themselves and their path of life and discovery. My guest today is Shawnette Rochelle.Shawnette is a certified executive coach, a retired U.S. Army Lieutenant Colonel, and an insatiable world traveler.  She has more than 20 years of experience leading and coaching high-performance individuals, teams, and organizations in both peacetime and wartime.   Shawnette describes herself as always being deeply invested in helping others drive change, even as a kid.  She has a passion for supporting those who are challenging the prevailing norms. In our conversation, Shawnette shares how true leadership begins with leading ourselves.  She began learning this lesson early in life at West Point Military Academy.  Another piece of our conversation that stands out is what Shawnette calls the acceptance mindset.  I'll let her share more about this, but this aligns so much with my philosophy of making life less difficult.  Shawnette, thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey and story.  Thank you for sharing your reflections, your moments of awareness and growth, and wisdom.  I'm so grateful to have had this chance to connect with you!If you would like to learn more about Shawnette and her work, you'll find links below.Shawnette's Website: https://excellenceunbounded.com/Connect on LinkedInMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Alicia Rodriguez.Alicia is on a mission to help people connect – to their deeper, essential selves, to spirit, and to nature – so they can get clear, get bold and get ready to embrace limitless possibilities to forge powerful futures.Alicia is a mentor, guide, and truthteller.  Through 1:1 work, immersive retreats, writing, and speaking, Alicia partners with her clients to help them find what they need to take life-changing action.In our conversation today, Alicia shares pieces of her journey from success in the corporate to building a retreat center in Ecuador, to southern Portugal where she now lives.  We also talk about her journey of writing her recently published memoir, The Shaman's Wife, A Mystical Journey of Surrender and Self-Discovery.  This book tells her incredible story with courage, vulnerability, and strength.  I highly recommend it!Alicia, thank you so much for this conversation!  Thank you for your courage, wisdom, energy, and light.  I'm grateful for this time we got to spend together and look forward to (hopefully) more in the future!You'll find links below to learn more about Alicia's work, to find her book, and explore her offerings.Connect with Alicia:WebsiteThe Shaman's Wife book (releases Sept 10 2024)IG: @msaliciamrodriguezMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Max Palomeque.Max is an executive coach and educator for the FBI, Department of Defense, U.S. Air Force, Georgetown University, and many other clients.  His company, Infourge Leadership brings his philosophy of coaching and leadership development to executives, entrepreneurs, and leaders in both the private and governmental sectors.Max is a proud and distinguished veteran after serving as an intelligence officer, as well as a respected former FBI agent specializing in human intelligence.  He has captivated audiences as a public speaker and lecturer, taking his highly-researched approach throughout the US, as well as across the globe to Europe and Australia.Max and I recently connected through mutual work, and I am so pleased to share this conversation with you.  One of the quotes Max shares is “We don't learn from our past and experiences; we learn from reflecting on those experiences and past.”  And Max lives out this in his own life – I know you'll be inspired by his reflections.Max, thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey.  Thank you for your thoughtful and wise reflections on your own past and experiences. Thank you for sharing the ways you have chosen growth in your own life and continue to do so.  You share in a way that inspires action!  There are links in the show notes to find more about Max and his work, and, in particular, to find his recently published book, The Infourge Compendium of Models and Theories for Coaches, Facilitators, and Consultants.  This is an incredible resource to have in your library, so you won't want to miss it!Connect with Max:Website: https://www.infourge.co/LinkedInThe Infourge Compendium of Models and Theories for Coaches, Facilitators, and Consultants: Get the book! Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Sophie Cerella.Sophie is a student at the International School in Como, Italy, where she lives with her family.  Originally from the US, Sophie has lived in a number of places around the world because of her father's military career.It is a distinct honor to have Sophie on as a guest, and in fact, my youngest guest up until now!  Sophie and I connected after both her dad and mom were guests.  If you haven't had the pleasure of listening to those conversations, take some time to look up Tony Cerella's episodes and Bethany Cerella.Sophie and I talk about a variety of things including how she manages her time on social media and technology, what it's been like for her growing up internationally, acting now to get the most out of life, and more.Sophie, thank you for this engaging and inspiring conversation.  At 15, you have a tremendous amount of wisdom and a thoughtful approach to life.  I hope to have many more conversations in the future!  And I look forward to seeing how life continues to unfold for you.Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Patrick Murphy.Patrick Murphy is a leadership coach and facilitator based in Brooklyn, NY, and owner of Project Murphy, LLC.  He is committed to bringing passion, joy, and contagious enthusiasm to leadership development.I had the pleasure of meeting Patrick through a mutual work engagement and immediately wanted to learn more about his story!  Fortunately, he said yes to coming on the podcast!In our conversation today, Patrick shares pieces of his journey as he tried to figure out what his professional life would be focused on.  Starting out in the film industry, Patrick was met with repeated obstacles that were frustrating and disappointing.  In reflection, Patrick shares that he learned to trust the process of development and also, very importantly, that he didn't need to do it all alone!We talk about the beauty of making a healthy mess in times of exploration, the differences between happiness and contentment, and so much more.Patrick, thank you so much for this fantastic and inspiring conversation.  The reflections and wisdom you share are beautifully partnered with vulnerability and honestly.  I've included links to Patrick's website below if you'd like to learn more about him and the work he does. Project Murphy, LLCMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Ravi Ram.Ravi is the Vice-President of Enterprise and Executive Education at Springboard, an online learning platform that prepares students for the tech industry's most in-demand careers.  Ravi also works as an independent leadership coach and trainer.  Earlier in his career he was a management consultant with McKinsey & Co.Ravi and I met through mutual work engagements and I immediately wanted to have him on the podcast.  I remember hearing Ravi introduce himself at a workshop where we were serving as coach faculty and was so impressed with his down-to-earth, authentic, vulnerable style that embodied such a wonderful balance of personal and professional connection.In our conversation today Ravi talks about being challenged early on in his life to disturb his equilibrium.  He's stepped into this repeatedly in his life and he shares the beauty this has created as well as the difficulty.  We also talk about the challenge of unlearning early beliefs, sorting through the internal vs external voices when making life decisions, and how improv has helped him be present and feel alive.Ravi, thank you SO much for this conversation!  I'm incredibly grateful for your willingness to dive into the deep end of life and ask the type of questions that don't have easy answers… maybe even no answers.  I'm a better person for knowing you and I know the listeners of this conversation will be as well!  I can't wait for future conversations!Connect with Ravi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ravisram/   Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Cathy Carroll.Cathy is the Founder and President of Legacy Onward, Inc., where she serves as a leadership coach for family business leaders. She is the author of the book, Hug of War: How to Lead a Family Business With both Love and Logic.Though Cathy grew up surrounded by her grandfather's business, she initially carved out her career path as an actuary at Hewitt Associates, later progressing to executive roles at Sabre Inc. and United Airlines. In 2009, her father invited her to lead his business as President and COO, where she spearheaded a successful turnaround of five companies that manufacture and distribute sporting goods serving the rodeo market, with a focus on team roping.In 2013, Cathy founded Legacy Onward, Inc., to provide leadership coaching services to family businesses. A sought-after keynote speaker with a global clientele, Cathy is passionate about developing leaders in the complex domain of family businesses. I met Cathy through the Georgetown Leadership Coaching network and am excited to share this conversation today.  In addition to talking about family businesses, Cathy shares generously about Polarities.  The framework of polarities is fascinating and quite practical is managing issues that initially seem to be at odds.  If you haven't been exposed to this idea of polarities, you are in for a treat!Cathy, thank you for this conversation!  Thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey and also you thoughtful insights and wisdom on the complexities of family business.  Thank you for your work to turn our games of tug of war into hugs that hopefully prevent the wars!You'll find links below to Cathy's book and her website to learn more about her work.Hug of War book: https://www.legacyonward.com/hug-of-warCathy's Website: http://www.legacyonward.com/Find Cathy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathyacarroll/ Make Life Less Difficult

My guests today are Mikah Meyer and Larry Edwards.Mikah is an avid outdoorsman who set a record of being the first person to visit all 419 National Park sites in the US in a single 3-year journey.  He also made history by being the first openly gay man to be in an outdoor recreation campaign by REI.Larry, is Dr. Lawrence Edwards, the Artistic Director of the Memphis Symphony Chorus since 1988, often conducting both the orchestra and the chorus.  He is a retired professor, having served as the Coordinator of Choirs for the University of Memphis School of Music from 1987 to 2021.I first was introduced to Mikah and Larry through the short film, Canyon Chorus.  This brilliant 16-minute adventure film explores “the journeys we've had and the people who've been in our lives that are important to us.”  I saw a link in an email from the Adventure Journal, clicked on it, and was immediately drawn into a fantastic story of the friendship of Mikah and Larry.  In such a short amount of time, I laughed, I cried, and I immediately wondered if I could get them on my podcast!Lucky for me and for you, Mikah and Larry accepted the invitation to the Make Life Less Difficult podcast and here's our inspiring conversation.In our conversation, Mikah and Larry share pieces of their individual journeys of coming out as gay, how they met and developed a forever friendship.  This is an amazing story on many levels, and perhaps particularly on how having mentors in our lives opens up so much possibility.  Mikah and Larry – thank you SO much for this delightful connection.  You both share pieces of your stories and journeys with beautiful authenticity, lightness of heart, and grace.  I've been touched and inspired and know that so many others have been and will be as well.You'll find links below to Mikah's website, the film Canyon Chorus:Mikah's website: https://www.mikahmeyer.com/Watch Canyon Chorus: https://youtu.be/hnLdPs1gjls?si=zVIZZGZ2OXSezP6FMake Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Dr. Alex Korb, author of the book Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time.Dr. Korb is a neuroscientist, writer, and coach. He has studied the brain for over 20 years, having earned his undergraduate degree in neuroscience at Brown University and then later completed his Ph.D. in neuroscience at UCLA. He has published over a dozen peer-reviewed journal articles on depression, neuromodulation, and other topics. He is currently an adjunct assistant professor at UCLA in the department of psychiatry and biobehavioral sciences. Outside of the lab he writes a popular blog on how the tendencies of your brain can ruin or enrich your life. As a speaker he educates, motivates, and inspires organizations to understand the neuroscience of wellbeing and put it into practice. As a consultant he works with companies and organizations to help them improve communication about neuroscience and enhance employee wellbeing. He has coached the UCLA Women's Ultimate Frisbee team for over 15 years and is a 3 time award winner for USA Ultimate's Coach of the Year. His expertise extends into leadership and motivation, mindfulness, physical fitness, and even stand-up comedy.I first heard about Dr. Korb's book through another podcast guest, Linda Hoopes.  The name of the book, Upward Spiral, immediately grabbed my attention and within a couple of days I was reading it.  Upward Spiral has two parts to it: the first is a description of what is understood about the neuroscience of depression (written in a language that's mostly understandable for the lay person like myself) and the second is focused on actions we can take to lessen the negative impacts of depression in our lives and how each of those actions cause changes in the brain.  I love that combination as I find it gives me greater motivation to know the why behind recommended behavior changes!I'm delighted to share this conversation with you and hope it'll be as inspiring to you as it has been for me.  There are links in the shownotes to Dr. Korb's website and the book Upward Spiral.Dr. Korb – thank you for this fantastic and motivating conversation.  Thank you for the work you do in the world and for sharing it in a way that's understandable and applicable for all of us who aren't neuroscientists but who want to help our brain be in its best functioning state!Website: https://www.alexkorbphd.comBook: Upward Spiral Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Tom Finn.Tom is a performance improvement consultant and coach for leaders and teams.  He's also the author of the newly published book, The Shift Effect: How Small Shifts Improve Leader Performance, and a previous book titled, Are You Clueless 7 Clues to Profit, Productivity, and Partnership for Leaders in a Multicultural WorldTom has over 30 years of experience in executive coaching, team building, strategic planning, and counsel and training in diversity and inclusion.  Tom and I met recently and after talking to him briefly, learning about his book, it was clear I wanted to have him on the podcast!  In our conversation today, Tom shares his journey to writing The Shift Effect and shares the powerful tool of making these small shifts in our thinking, our language, our actions, that make a huge impact! Tom, thank you for this beautiful and inspiring conversation.  I'm deeply appreciative of the new perspectives and insights I've gained by learning from you, and I know others will be as well.You'll find links below to Tom's website where you can read more about his work, find his books, and more! Tom's website: https://tomfinnassociates.comTom's books: https://tomfinnassociates.com/toms-books/ Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Claire Uncapher.Claire is an intuitive and transformational life coach, energy healer, and speaker.  She is on a mission to help people understand their symptoms don't always mean there's something wrong with them and the traditional model of medicine isn't the only tool at their disposal for emotional healing.Claire's first career was as a nurse and during that time she realized that people didn't always get the real and lasting change they were seeking in the traditional medical setting.  In her work now, she uses a holistic and intuitive approach to go deeper and equip her clients with tools to experience lasting change.  She combines root cause and subconscious work, emotional release, and conversational energy work to help people overcome their inner obstacles and become the best version of themselves.In our conversation today, Claire shares pieces of her own story and journey that lead her to healing, caring for herself, learning to choose and push the easy button sometimes, and more.Claire, thank you for sharing these pieces of your story.  Thank you for the wisdom and thoughtfulness you embody and thank you for the work you do to make the world a more beautiful and peace-filled place!You'll find links below if you'd like to connect with Claire, as well as links to some books we mention, quotes, and a free root cause healing meditation. Resources:· "It's Not Always Depression" by Hilary Jacobs Hendel· "It's Okay To Be Different" by Todd Parr (children's book)· Quote that we discussed: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7UsCutOwdq/· Free Root Cause Healing Meditation: https://claireuncapher.myflodesk.com/bodyspeakmeditation· Or, you can use this link (copy and paste) if you'd like: CLICK HERE to download a free root cause healing meditationConnect with Claire on Instagram @claire.uncapher or through her website at https://claireuncapher.com Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Kim Brundage.Kim is an award-winning headshot and branding photographer on a mission to deliver a truly transformative experience that assures her clients feel nothing short of beautiful and confident, both on and off camera!Kim was a guest on episode 159 and if you haven't heard that conversation, please check it out!In that first conversation, Kim mentioned the book, Come as You Are, by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.  After hearing about it, I read the book, and reached back out to Kim saying, “Oh my goodness, this book is amazing and transformational!  Want to come back on the podcast and talk about it??”The subtitle of the book is: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life.  The author, Dr. Nagoski is an award-winning author, sex educator, researcher, speaker and lecturer.  Her latest book is Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections.So, as you might expect, Kim and I talk about sex in this episode!  If for any reason, it's not your topic of interest, feel free to skip it!I still recommend Dr. Nagoski's book and hope you find our conversation thought provoking and interesting!Website for Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.: https://www.emilynagoski.com/Website for Kim Brundage: https://kimbrundage.com/Make Life Less Difficult

My guests today are Jaylee Kordosky and Jessica Cotton. I was introduced to Jaylee and Jessica through the thoughtfulness of Shannon Yzquiero-Cochran.  Thank you, Shannon!  I'm delighted to have this connection!Jessica is a co-founder of Shenanigans Comedy Theatre, a non-profit comedy club in Huntsville, Alabama.  Jessica and her wife, Kimberly, opened Shenanigans in 2019 to provide a venue that is a safe space for all performers and producers.  From stand-up shows and improv to musical and drag, all are welcome at Shenanigans.  Jaylee first got connected with Shenanigans through one of their outreach groups, Weird Kids.  Jaylee is a social worker, and they now serve the community in a variety of ways and roles.  Jaylee's story and journey has evolved into one of giving back and supporting anyone who comes to the Center with a need.My conversation with Jessica and Jaylee is incredibly inspiring!  The work they are doing, the spirit of innovation, inclusion, and determination with which they do this work… left me with the beautiful realization of so much good that is happening in our world.  In the midst of all the challenges, it's really moving to see tangible impacts for good in local communities and how they are making a difference both locally and globally!Jaylee and Jessica, thank you for sharing these pieces of your stories and the story of Shenanigans.  Thank you for the difference you are making in the lives of individuals, in the broader community of Huntsville, and beyond!  To learn more about Shenanigans Comedy Theater to go www.huntsvillelaughs.com.  There are links in the show notes as well to the additional resources on their outreach page, access to their resources request form, and information about Weird Kids of North Alabama. Links to Resources:https://www.huntsvillelaughs.com/ (Here is the main link to the Shenanigans website)https://www.huntsvillelaughs.com/outreach (This is our outreach page at Shenanigans)https://www.huntsvillelaughs.com/thecenter (The Resource Request form we discussed is at this link if you scroll all the way down the page.)https://linktr.ee/weirdkidsofnorthal (This is our Link Tree for Weird Kids of North Alabama)Make Life Less Difficult

My guest today is Caitlin Avery.Caitlin is an award-winning author, a triathlete, mountain biker, backpacker, black-diamond skier, and yoga enthusiast.I was honored to meet Caitlin through the kind introduction from Andrea Barton from episode 165.  Thank you, Andrea!One of the books Caitlin has written tells the fictional story of a woman who outed her high school rapist through a Facebook post over 20 years after the fact.  The book is titled, Life of Cyn.  As you'll hear in our conversation today, the book is inspired by Caitlin's personal journey and experience.It's deeply moving and a powerful story of shedding shame, doing the hard work of healing and growing, and standing in one's courage while allowing others to support. Caitlin, thank you for sharing your story here on the podcast as well as through your writing.  Your courage and strength shows up both places. Please note, as you begin to listen to this episode, we talk about rape and sexual assault throughout the conversation.  Please take care of yourself first and foremost even if it means not listening today.  I have included a link in the show notes to RAINN where there are many additional resources for anyone who has been affected by sexual assault or violence.Caitlin would be delighted if you would follow her on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook as Caitlin Avery Author.  And those links are also in the show notes. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@caitlinaveryauthorInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/caitlin_avery_authorFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/caitlinaveryauthor RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): www.rainn.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: www.aa.orgAl Anon: www.al-anon.orgMake Life Less Difficult