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#54: "Imago Dei" The inner life of 'Absolute importance' A unique opportunity to experience an Advent Retreat based on reflections shared by Saint John Paul ll during spiritual retreats that he presented as both a Bishop and Cardinal, prior to becoming Pope. "We come here to recollect and move beyond the everyday noise and activities that hold only relative or functional importance. To connect to the inner self that has its own absolute importance." We began this Retreat #51: Imago Dei, "The Enemy Is At Your Door" plus Bishop Vigano's open letter to the President on November 1st. This is episode #2. Along the way we rediscover "the image of God within" and answer the big questions that our whole culture and the world seem to be so confused about today. Who am I? What's my purpose? Why are we created male and female? How do I find happiness? How do I find love that satisfies? Contact Jack: BWYR Podcast is a production of the John Paul ll Renewal Center or email him at info@jp2renew.orgPlease consider supporting the show:Support the show (http://jp2renew.org/donate/)

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Do you understand what is going on in our environment today and how it’s affecting you and your health? Most of us are oblivious to the different ways in which our society, technology, and innovation is deteriorating both our planet and our bodies. And in this episode of HYDRATE, I chat with Darin Olien on how we can combat these things and live our healthiest lives.   In this episode, we discuss the toxins in our water and the negative effects of dead water, our ego and why it’s important to process pain correctly, how what we’re putting in our mouth is affecting us as a whole, reducing our use of plastics and our EMF exposure, and Darin’s best advice on living optimally.    Darin is co-host with Zac Efron on the widely popular Netflix docu-series called “Down to Earth with Zac Efron” and host of the #1 Health & Wellness podcast The Darin Olien Show. He is also a highly recognized exotic superfoods hunter, supplement formulator, and author of the New York Times bestseller book, “SuperLife: The five fixes that will keep you healthy, fit and eternally awesome.” Plus, Darin is the creator of the 121 Tribe, created to help people learn about whole food plant based eating, recipes, easy to follow education, habit tracking and exercise.   What we discuss:    03:00 - The humility and being grateful   04:30 - What was the catalyst that ignited the fire inside of you?   06:15 - What you're putting in your mouth is affecting you as a whole.   07:45 - Nutrition, hydration and psychology.   14:00 - How our heart doesn't care about today's exterior validations.   14:40 - How we have multiple egos.   15:15 - The story we tell ourselves.   16:10 - A question is the greatest tool.   17:05 - Who am I? What am I?   19:30 - Pain and trauma and dealing with it.   20:00 - How we absolutely want to avoid all pain.   23:40 - How to grieve healthfully.    24:10 - Top 3 realizations after Darin’s house burning down.   26:00 - How we can create a lot of power within ourselves.   31:00 - Reducing the use of plastics.   40:50 - What people think hydration is.   44:50 - The entity of water.   47:30 - The toxins in our water.   53:30 - The molecular change of water.   56:30 - EMF's and cell phones.   57:50 - Deconstructing our modern-day world.   59:35 - "Fear of the sun."   01:01:10 - Zac Efron’s impact on people. Find more from Darin:    Instagram: @darinolien Wesbite: darinolien.com

Welcome to the Thinking Big Podcast. Today we have a special guest Gayla Scrivener. We have a lot of entrepreneurs that listen to the podcast, and at some point we have to make the decisions to start outsourcing US.  The time comes where we have to start working on our business and not in our businesses. One of those area’s is content marketing and that is one of the areas that Gayla’s company takes care of. Gayla is a close friend with a great story and company, and like most successful entrepreneurs, she gave the proverbial FU to the traditional working life and created a career that she could do from anywhere in the world.  Today we are thinking big on how to let stuff go and start outsourcing yourself. Connect with Gayla Scrivener at the following social media link: Website http://scrivenersolutions.com/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ScrivenerSolutions/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaylascrivener/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gscrivener/ Podcast https://www.gaylascrivener.com/category/podcast/   Connect with Sean Osborn at Thinking Big Coaching http://www.thinkingbigcoaching.com https://www.instagram.com/thinkingbigcoaching/ https://www.facebook.com/thinkingbigcoaching/   Until next week, remember to always think big Ratings and reviews directly impact search rankings for the Thinking Big Podcast. So please help us get more ratings and reviews. Leaders are Readers, here are some free books for you to get. Free copy of Think and Grow Rich http://bit.ly/free-think-and-grow-rich-ebook The 7-day Think and Grow Rich Challenge https://bit.ly/tagrchallenge Free Audibles book http://bit.ly/thinkingbigaudible   Episode Transcription: 0:00 Welcome to the thinking big podcast. Today, we have a special guest, gala Scrivener. Now we have a lot of entrepreneurs that listen to this podcast. And at some point, we have to make the decision to start outsourcing us and start outsourcing all the stuff that we do because as entrepreneurs, we start off doing everything. The time comes where we have to start working on our business, instead of in our business. And one of those key areas is content marketing. And this is one of the areas that galas company takes care of. Now gala is a close friend, she's got a great story and company. And like most successful entrepreneurs, she gave the proverbial f due to the traditional working life and created a career that she could do from anywhere in the world. So today, we are thinking big on how to let stuff go and start outsourcing ourselves. 1:26 Well, I want to welcome gala Scribner to the podcast today. I have been looking forward to this because I think we're in an environment. Now, you know, the biggest one of the biggest things I see is people starting a side gig, you know, and it's, it happened before, you know, before this COVID crap and before this pandemic crap, but I think it's going to be forced, and even more and more to where people have a side gig, you know, they have a side business that they're trying to do an online business that they're trying to do. And, to me, every household is going to have one and talking to people that I you know, that I work with. And then I know, the biggest complaint that I get from people is they don't know how they don't have time, they don't have the energy to be doing all the social media stuff, they just don't know, they don't have the tools they don't, and you get burned out. You know, I know people I don't want to post every day or I don't want to post every other day. And really, that's what you do, give me a little bit give us a little overview of how you kind of started what you did, and what drove you to kind of create what you're doing now? 2:39 Well, you'll have to remind me to get back to the social media part. And I want to first I guess, lead with that, that everything that we're doing in an online business, everything that we do in business period, is building relationships and nurturing relationships. And when you think of social media, and oh my gosh, I've got to post every day or I don't want to do this and we're getting the tasks kind of in the way and it fogs us that ultimately what we're doing is just needing to connect with people and and serve serve those folks. But it takes it took me a while to kind of understand that and circling way back in the Wayback years I I have been an entrepreneur for just a short amount of time, really. Back in 2012 is when I took the leap, left corporate life and jumped both feet in to start Scrivener solutions. And I had been in the medical management field for 20 years, right out of right out of high school my first year or so into college. I landed a job at an ophthalmology office. And believe it or not, I I was majoring in marketing at the time in college. This young 19 year old I'm going to be a marketing major. And I soon realized or told myself, I could never sell anything. I'm not a marketer. I'm going to change my degree to Business Administration and I stayed in medical management from this. I went in as this bright eyed fresh 19 year old in an ophthalmology office and was filing their charts and calling and confirming appointments. And then and then going to school part time or full time school part time job and then not three months later the A medical biller went on maternity leave. And why the office manager and the doctor decided to put this little 19 year old in the billing seat, I have no idea. But that's what happened. I, I, I did the medical billing, I learned that just by just by doing. And it was so many years ago, the only electronic claims we had was to Medicare. And I knew I was responsible for the backups. And we had backup tapes that looked like eight track cassette tapes. And we had seven of them, and I had to switch them out. And I took one home in my purse and everything like that I didn't really understand all of that. But I learned just by doing and the lady never came back for from her maternity. So I, I was their medical biller, and then I was recruited to be in another office and, and then my, my I, I worked in the industry for 20 years. And then my daughter was graduating high school. And honestly, I just became burnt out burnt out with the whole industry, just tired of all the red tape and you want to help patients. But every one of them has different insurance. And there's it's such a game. And I became I guess, jaded by the whole process. And I wanted something different. And I was tired of being tethered to a particular location. And the but that's all I knew. And that's all my whole family knows, we've only known that you go work for somebody. And no one in my family was really an entrepreneur, no one. And I was like, I don't know what I'm doing. And the company that I was working for my last, my last corporate gig was managed managing medical imaging company, and we had MRI centers in different parts of the country. And that company was closing. And so I'm like, Okay, I need to find another job. But see, I was director of operations and the, the head guy said, Hey, stay, help clean up this mess or close things down. So I stayed to the very bitter end. And that was a horrendous type of 7:40 process. Because you have to let people go, you have to talk with vendors that the company can't pay, you have to sell MRI equipment that you have no idea how it got into the building to begin with higher cranes, higher construction, and it's just, it was such a big job of closing the company down and it was emotionally hard. But I knew that I did not want to find another job. I wanted something different. And we I had decided like maybe it's time, maybe it's time to do something different. Well, my husband and I we love to camp and we like to, to just explore. And that's just what we do. We we can drive aimlessly, we can just like to go to all these little nooks and crannies. And about that time in about 2011 he was saying let's get a little camper so we can camp and do little weekend things and I looked at him and I said why not be cool if we could just live in an RV, like full time and just meander around and have a job or we could just work from anywhere. It did not take him but two seconds for him to start researching and we because we still had that corporate job our intent was Alright, we're gonna find a place to go we we ended up selling everything we had. So that we downsized and we bought a 38 foot motorhome and Alfa see diesel pusher. And in 2011 we moved into that vehicle full time. And that was like okay, the safety net type thing is is breaking because I was still working for that company. And I needed to go to different parts of the country to close down right where I centered well Instead of me flying back and forth from the home office to, you know, to another part of the country, Monday through Friday, then go back for the weekends, like my husband's a musician and, and his schedule is very flexible. It's like, you know what I'd rather us be together and let's just go to take the RV. And we were renting in Florida at the time. And it's like, I have no, I have no desire to stay or buy property in Florida. So we have our RV, like, we sold everything. We're living in the RV, let's just go. And that last few months that I was with the corporate life, we were in the RV. But then I was like, Okay, what am I going to do? Like, what kind of job Can I have? And I, I found in research because I had been in an industry for 20 years. That's all I knew. I didn't know, I had no idea of the wonderful ways people can earn a living and have freedom and have just love what they do. And I, in research on what kind of company can I create? What can I do? I came across the word virtual assistant. And I was like, Huh, what is this, and reading the job description and all of that it was like, Well, I do all of that stuff. Now anyway. And I haven't really seen my boss in the years that I worked for him, maybe five or six times in person. So I'm kind of like his virtual manager, right? So I can do this, I can do this. So I should have in hindsight, I started growing my side business. Before I like, jumped off. And that is the biggest thing. But seeing that I had this, I had this weird mindset. I had this mindset that if I were to, if I were to work on my business, even though the company I was working for the time involved, was hard, but it wasn't as long. 12:20 I had the time to get started on it, I could make the time, right, I can make it a priority. But somehow if I was working on something for myself, I was cheating. The company I was working for weird, the weird thing. And I had never known to like, work on something and build something for myself. But I waited until the job was completely done. Before I really really hit the ball rolling and I started networking, when just getting my, my my face out there because the only people that I knew were in the medical industry. And I I didn't know what kind of businesses were out there. So in we went back to Missouri to be our home base. That's where my husband and I had grown up. And we we went to start start our business. And at first it was a virtual assistant business because I would work on practically anything that small business would need. And it was just me and freelancing. And then I soon realized that most folks need help talking with their clients, their prospects, and just the cold communication. And all of that entails on what does your website look like? Well, I like working on websites, so I helped him with that. Then social media and being consistent in that email publications, direct mail newsletters, all 14:13 there, there's 14:15 podcasts, there's videos, there's all this the publications that we do and content marketing and the more I studied on marketing my own business and making connections and how I could scale my communication I'm already doing face to face networking, well, how do I What are effective ways to stay in contact right with folks and that was through social media and through through emails and in some of my clients do direct mail, newsletters and things like that. And I soon grew a team to lead a virtual team and I recently just Shout out, it's like, you know, we don't do general virtual assistant where we do content marketing tasks, we take the burden off of the the hundreds of details that are involved in getting our getting seen out in the virtual world out in the digital world. So what my team and I do with Scrivener solutions, we take that burden off. And a lot of our clients have to do everything themselves. I relate to that I did everything myself at first. And, but there's stages, it's like, okay, I want to implement a social media plan, for example, right and go back to to where we first started, oh, my goodness, it's such a pain to be talking or to be out there on social media, I can relate social media, we do that. And we do it a lot in Scrivener solutions. But for me personally, there's one platform that I like to be in, because it's fun. The other platforms I'm in, and I do engage in, but I have helped with that. But it wasn't always that way. Right. And at first, when it was just me, myself and I, in my company, what I would do is schedule time to just block off time and spend an hour. And think of what I'm going to post for the next week or two, just pre think, you know, what am I What am I want to say? And is there something that inspires me? And? And is there a cute post, and I would just get into the habit of I need a post, excuse me a post today, right? And that just worked that muscle, it's like, Okay, I have the consistency, people are seeing me out there. And I had I was involved in in that local networking group. And I also would post into there that group on a consistent basis. And even though and it was mainly Facebook, I did have a LinkedIn, I thought of LinkedIn at the time as simply an online resume. Right. And I wasn't there at first. And I think that I mean, we see folks that have been doing it a long time, and they're everywhere, literally everywhere. But they didn't start that way. So when you're first starting out, or if it's just an office of you, it's okay to be active in one place, find something that that you can be active in and then think ahead, train yourself to think ahead and, and schedule to use a scheduling tool in Facebook, we just schedule right there on on the on the page. And then you can use other other tools buffer Hootsuite or any other third party tools for other things. And so I started with Facebook, and then I would add in at the time, Twitter and then LinkedIn and I did similar posts, but I scheduled them out. And so then I was on three platforms. And at the time was five days a week I at that time, I chose not to post on the weekends in that manner. I would do like organic ones or scheduled ones. 18:46 And not long after that I hired Sharon to be on my team. And she is my social media manager. She She leads all of our social media and I got her into the routine and training her like this is what I want on that. And we soon we're doing the same thing for clients and helping them find their voice and everything like that, to get that baseline and see for my social media, my baseline being out there that branding part of it to be present. My team does that for me. Thank heavens, you know, like for for my blog posts for my podcast for any video or whatever that needs to be publicized. I'm not worrying about Okay, I got to get it on social media. My team already knows that. So that's, that's something to where I found that the value of the details of what am I going to say when I can hire Sharon, who's literally she was a cheerleader for the Tampa Bay Rays years ago. So she is my cheerleader on my team and she is fantastic. Stick of, you know, cheering me on. And I love how she does our social posts. And my clients. I mean, our clients, they love that because it's like, we're on our client side, and we draw things out that our clients are to maybe bashful, right? Are they? posting on social media? I think sometimes we feel boastful. 20:26 Now do you? Do you think it takes some time to get used to either the client what you're posting, or you're getting comfortable posting for a client, knowing how they think and knowing how, because everyone kind of has their feel their, you know, their, their, how they talk? Is it? How long does it take you to kind of really meld with a customer to start posting in their behalf? Because I know, that's a scary thing for me to think about. 20:57 Well, the the thing is, and what I had found is, you know, we we learn from, and I don't want to call this a mistake, but what I've had a lot of learning opportunities, and there are I have been too anxious maybe to take on a social media client, because that's where they're at is only social media, they're not creating what I call a core piece of content, a core piece of content is either a blog post, a podcast, or a video, what is that main message that you're going to be right? You know, expressing. And without that, see, with that main message, let's say, I have a life coach for a client, for example, and she does a weekly video. Well, for us, we can help her work up that video to get on her podcast. And then we would disseminate that out through email and through social, but we can draw things out, 22:01 right? So you're you're actually she says, right, so you're actually taking content from someone that they have something that they've done and reusing that same stuff on multiple platforms, multiple technology, from blogs, to, you know, post to this. 22:18 And that's really what social media is, is, is sharing our ideas and beliefs. And if you don't have it on your website, or in your videos, then, you know, how can you hire somebody to share what you have, right? So and it does take time, though we do have different types of clients, we have an association where we want to make sure and we don't know, the association leader will review the social posts before we publish them. Because sometimes we may I say something not not not disrespectful, but we may highlight a non member not knowingly, right, or something like that, whatever the rules were laid. But we also want to make sure that our clients have a look and feel, but we have an approval process. And a lot of times within three months, there is a level of comfort that they say, you know what, I don't even want to look at these anymore. I want to focus on this other stuff. Because if something comes out, and they say, you know, I don't really like that image, or I really don't like that. We can delete it. Yeah, you know, but that it does take communication. And I am really big on having that communication with our clients. I've had some early on clients that wanted us to take care of their social platform of choice. And we struggled so much because it was like they they just dump the work. You know, they said here, do it. And then they disappeared. It's like, we don't even know you very well. And then you look at their website. And they're so inactive. So I won't even take a client anymore unless they believe in the power of content marketing and want to want to want to go through that process of sticking their neck out for other people to get to know them because they know that if they set you know broadcast their message in one way, whether it's video audio, or the written word that they will attract followers. And then what we do in the in the in the back office, you know behind the scenes, is we help hold up their platform, because we're taking care of all of those little tiny details. Write, so that they can focus on their message. And that we can push their buttons, I like to say we like to push our clients, but 25:08 that is so big and also multiple platforms it's so for me, for instance, I don't get a lot of information, I don't do a lot of blogs, I don't. I don't go to blogs, to learn stuff many people do. And that's why I think it's so important to do things on multiple platforms, because I get my stuff from from podcasts, I do a lot of stuff with podcast and, but I know a lot of people that don't listen to podcasts, they will, they would rather go to a blog, they would rather go to these other platforms. And if you can affect efficiently, get content out on multiple, the same content, reuse the same stuff on multiple platforms. That is that is absolutely huge. And the thing is, I'm not good at blogs, I would need to hire you to go and do stuff like that, because that's just not where I'm, that's not my forte, that's not where I'm at. But it's very critical that that platform gets used as well. 26:03 And there's what I like to do for podcasts, what I do for my podcast is I record it, and then I summarize it for the show notes. And then it's also on my website as a blog post with an embedded, you know, an embedded recorder or audio player. So it helps with also with SEO, and sometimes sometimes I'll draw out, it's like, I had this content that if I did it a little bit different way. And like did a tutorial, that's another piece of content, it's basically the same thing, but I did a video of showing something on let's say MailChimp, and I just dove right in and, and showed on MailChimp and I had like a tutorial video. 26:56 And then 26:59 I posted that on YouTube, then I also posted a little brief description on my website, embedded the video, but then I had off of that video another piece of content, which was some people really like checklist instead of watching the video they want to go through. And so it's like, all I have to do is make a blog post with a little images of the exact steps. And that's a separate one with a little downloadable printable, you know, print pretty version of the steps, right? It's basically an operating procedure of how to do whatever. So for me, I'm, and that's just duplicating it, and you have a little bit different titles, and then you can do some things with your key words, on the blog post. But also from the social media standpoint. It we like it that we can have a an audio piece. And we can direct people to the podcast to if it's a libsyn link, if it is an iTunes link, something like that, and say, Hey, that just broadcasts that a new episode, then we can go in a little deeper and then and draw something out of the episode that would appear on the blog post and point the person to the blog post with the embedded audio player. So that's more than one opportunity to say the same thing in different ways. And you're drawing out the ideas and and that's what we like to do is take that core piece of content and dissect it, I guess you can say 28:50 and God that is so important in it. And I didn't even realize that until maybe a year or so ago that how you can reuse the same content in different ways to absolutely hit a much bigger, bigger audience. Absolutely. That's that is a that's probably one of the biggest learnings I've had in the last couple years is to reuse that because it's hard to come up with content. Good core content is for me is hard to come out with. So it's like, man, if I can reuse that, especially if I can have someone else do that because I'm just not adept at that. That is that is absolutely fantastic. 29:25 And another tool that we just started using it's called headliner. And are you familiar with? 29:33 Yeah, love headline. Yeah, 29:34 I like that, that you know, you just have an image it does a pull out a little clip. And that's a different type of social posts. And it makes your social feed. Interesting, right. And we use you wear all the time experiment and I love what we do because we have different our different clients. You different tools. So we are introduced to different things. And a lot of our clients come to us and they, they use our systems, you know, they, that's what they come to. And that's why I shifted from being a virtual assistant company, as more general administrative stuff, to focus on content marketing, because we have created systems in our company, we've experimented and we actually use, I let my staff loose on my website on my stuff for Scrivener solutions website, and for the gala, scrivener.com website. For both of those, that's our playground, to where if you break it, that's okay. But you know, we're in and following a lot of content marketing news, and what's trending and what should we do? And sometimes our clients are not ready for that, you know, or they feel terrible, because they're not in that, that space, it's like, you know, you don't have to be you need to it all, all. Content Marketing is and another word for it is, is relationship marketing. Yeah, we just need to take a deep breath and just say, How do I communicate to folks? And how can I communicate to whoever you hire, whatever team you build, to help you communicate your message. So that you can be more effective and have more reach, you know, 31:39 and I, you know, going back to your story, and that's one of the things that I, you know, from, from an entrepreneur standpoint, that I absolutely love about your story, and all the stuff that you're doing is, you didn't have a huge grand plan, you didn't have a huge grand idea of your ultimate goal of where you are today, you know, had you tried to think of back then of what you're doing today, you would have not, would have not started you have not going it's that I just love the story of you making the decision. Moving forward, what's the next thing I can do to progress to my dream, which is the freedom which that that is, and to me, that is so, so big that so many people want is that freedom. And what's funny is now, not only have you done that, and you've created that, you know that the true entrepreneur, you started your company, you did this, but what you're doing is actually helping other entrepreneurs, kind of do the same thing. Because we don't understand a lot of that stuff. We don't we're not doing that stuff. We're not the expert to that stuff. But you actually use the system develop the system to help other people use the system. 32:58 That's fantastic. 32:59 I, I am so what lights me up is the ability to work from anywhere. And I find that just an awesome opportunity that each and every one of us have. And you were saying, you know, I think that there's going to be there's more and more people trying to do this side gig, right, you know, from and, and they wish that they could do it full time, or they don't have enough time to do this. They don't have enough time, you know, we we will find enough time to do the things that we really want to do. And and it will it shifts, but there is uncertainty. And there will be something that happens that you say no more. And I'll have to be honest. I mean, the more years that I'm in this, it's like there is no I jokingly say, the more years that I'm an entrepreneur, the less employable I am. I mean, I am so unemployable I just nobody will want me to hire me for their company and I don't want to go Yeah, because I want to have I want to be able to have my office anywhere in the world that I want. If I wanted to move to Colorado for three months, just because I want to and or if I want to have I mean what's big for for my husband and I is that we have nomadic stents. We may be going for four to six weeks and we will now we don't drive around our our big beast is what we call it the 38 foot diesel pusher. We travel even smaller. We travel in our 98 Jeep Cherokee with a rooftop tent. We have solar we have a little refrigerator. And we live out of that for four to six weeks at a time. And we are nomadic. And we, we want to go on roads, where that 38 foot RV will not go, right. And we have gone on so many adventures. And we get so excited. And it's a challenge for us. We're in the middle of, of nowhere. And it's like, oh my gosh, we've got 4g, oh, stay right here. Let's 35:28 Don't move, don't move. 35:29 We're gonna stay here for three days. All right. And we'll we'll work or we were in hot springs, North Carolina, just outside of, of they're just a tiny little town. Beautiful, beautiful. And we're we're going across to a little area in Tennessee, we've stayed there for almost a week. And we had absolutely no service. So we had to pack up every day, go to the little tiny library in town, and we'd work and then we drive back and in pop up the the rooftop tent. And doing that we could stay home and do the same routine and be really stressful about how our business is going. But each time because every time we would go, I'd be stressed out, oh my gosh, we're gonna be going on this, this thing and I'm not prepared. Well, we're never prepared fully for anything in life. So we just we had our deadline, we were gonna go. And we learn more from what we want to do and how we want to grow our business. On those trips, right, and our business has grown every time that we've done that we found what our priorities are, what, what makes us more passionate, and, you know, it shaped our decisions, but in roughing it for four to six weeks. And and we are it takes a little while but we are preparing for a bigger nomadic trip. And so we're laying that foundation now on how our business should run. And we challenge ourselves to say, Okay, we've got to shake things up. There's a and, and challenge ourselves and get out of our regular routine. Otherwise, we're going to be the woulda, coulda, shoulda, people, right. And so I get fired up that I love that we have the opportunity to work from anywhere. And it bothers me that you have to clock in people, so many people, I just have to clock in and, and they're I don't know, I have these, these reflections of the old Dunkin Donuts commercials of the guy hunched over shoulders like time to make the donuts, you know, and I'm used to feel that way when I'd go to work. And now I don't it's an adventure every day. And I love to hope to have the, you know, help my clients to where they can have the freedom that they want whatever they they want. And if helping them with the details of social media and website updates and, and sending out emails, helps them achieve their goals. I love being behind the scenes to make them look good. And in being in you know, sometimes it's hard and sometimes I've had these fleeting thoughts of, Okay, I want to go back I it's just too hard. You know, this build is has come and this payment has not come so. And it's I think sometimes I feel like I'm on a I don't know if this is a thing, but it's their entrepreneurial bipolarism that's one day I can be on top of the world the other day, it's just like Dang. But it's every year it gets better and better. And it just things are are so great. And I had a moment of I am so glad I am and free of working the corporate life because I was about almost three years ago. So my, my older brother he he was very, very ill. He's been very ill for a long time. But it was at a point that family needed to come and I could drop everything and take my parents to Chicago and we were there with my brother We were there with him in the hospital and my 70 year old parents from, from the country to that, when they're worried about their son, right to drive in Chicago traffic, that's just terrible. So I had an email, I was able to

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Who am I? What is my authentic self? Figure out who you are and live your purpose! Such messages are common these days. But so are messages that imply life is a journey of getting to know yourself. This episode examines the Authenticity Paradox and helps bridge the question how do you be authentic when your sense of self is unfolding and constantly changing as a result?  

Meet David Splitgerber David is a franchise business owner who assists people in business ownership exploration through a discovery and education-based method, to help people to discover opportunities that are ideally suited for what they are seeking. David is on the Advisory board for PONG, an advisor for 40 Plus, and guest lectures at Marquette University on franchising. He is married and has coached their 2 boys in their sports for the last 15 years and is now retired from that endeavor. You're no longer the coach of sports, but you are a career ownership coach, what exactly is that? Something that most people don't, don't know exists. What I do is, I help people to explore, quite simply business ownership, and I specialize in the franchise and owners alliance end of things. And what I do is help people to explore. And what that means is first helping an individual get to know themselves. So it's a lot of conversations and meetings and assessments that I have individuals complete that we talk about to learn about the individuals. In other words, who am I? And what is my career bend? So it has some elements that kind of look like in an interview to some degree. The ultimate goal is to both have us on the same page, who am I? What am I about? What's my career been about? What do I like and dislike, and then helping them to also see the future. Helping them try to figure out what do I want my life to look like a year from now personally and professionally? Sounds like you do spend a lot of time in the franchise business a little bit. Can you talk a little bit about what types of businesses are franchise businesses? I think that's a great question because I think there's the a lot of people who have that kind of assumption or belief that it's food and that it's well you know, I don't want to be in the restaurant industry. But honestly, there's probably 50 or 60 to 80 different business industries. I mean, it's everything that you probably have walked past but never even noticed or considered or thought about that were businesses that are franchise. So I mean, there's things that are in everything from like travel, sports and recreation, home improvement, senior care services, children's products, children's services, automotive, employment and staffing, recruiting - there's franchises in that arena. Distributor ships, web or internet or it based businesses, pet related businesses for pet services, there's mobile businesses. So those just a few off the top of my head are some of the industries that are enfranchisement. Let's say I'm someone that's already in a job and I like what I'm doing, I want to keep it but is there anything that you can do to help on that side hustle type of things? Absolutely. That's a great point. And that's probably about 30% or so of the individuals that I talk with are that exact individual saying, I've got a job, I really like it. But I want additional income or something on the side. Or maybe eventually I'd like to go and do something. But is there a way for me to start something and then grow into it? So depends on what the individual is trying to accomplish. So bottom line, it's called semi absentee and there's some that are closer to absentee. And there's some that are kind of absentee, what I mean by that is less than five hours per week, where it's more of an investment, there's less opportunities in that arena. And those are, I'm going to say quite honestly, quite a bit higher investment, because obviously, you're hiring a lot of people to do all the tasks of the business. But yes, there are some where you can work anywhere from five to 10 to 15. At most, there's a few out there, that would be maybe 20 hours a week. So someone can absolutely keep their job in these franchises are set up that way. Can you share with our listeners, one of your most successful or favorite networking experiences that you've had? So first, I'll say I'm right there with everyone else. When I first started networking previously, in my career, I did not really have to network, just because of the businesses that I was in, it was not necessitated or needed to help grow business. So it was new for me. And it was kind of scary, right? I'm more introverted. One of my favorite networking stories is this was about two years ago. And I met an individual at a networking event. And we continue to have conversation after. Through his connection, it didn't help my business directly, which networking doesn't always and shouldn't always be about that. If you're looking at networking, just to grow yourself and your own business, you're probably not going to do because if it's just about me, me, me, people see through that. So anyway, this individual, we sat down, and I actually helped him, I gave him two different referrals that he followed up with me within a few months later saying, you know what, I picked up both of those as clients, and that just almost doubled my business. So it was great for me to help someone like that, and know that the more you help others, the more good comes around to everyone else. How do you stay in front of or best nurture your network and your community? It takes time. And you have to be open to say yes, once in a while. It's important to say yes, when you can and as much as you can. So my goal is, if someone calls me or emails me and says, hey, do you have five minutes or 10 minutes? Yes, I'm going to try and find time, let's find time to chat. Attending some of these network meetings where I'm part of a group that attendance, once a month, or once every two weeks, whatever it might be, is making sure I attend and not miss meetings, they're blocked off on my calendar, and I don't schedule client appointments during those. It's important to continue growing those relationships to help others who have actually helped you. What advice can you offer to the business professionals that are looking to grow their network, any key tips or pointers that you want to share? I'd say be willing to talk. And I know that sounds really simplistic, but I got into some different networking groups that I never knew about that I didn't find online. It was the one when I had conversations with people and actually asked the question, hey, are you part of any other really good networking groups that you would think would be a value. Are there any other good groups and from there, I was able to find some other groups that I'm still part of today that are valuable, made some good friendships made some good business connections on top of that, of course. So I think that's one of the most important things is be open to trying and talking and asking about different networking groups. And don't be afraid to walk away from one if you're not seeing the value of it. But be open to trying new ones and finding the ones that fit for you, your personality, your style, your business, and for the others around you that it's a good fit and a good match for you. If you could go back to your 20-year-old self, what would you tell yourself to do more of less of or differently with regards to your professional career? If I go back, I'd say, take more chances, keep putting your head up, look around more and look at some of the opportunities that are around you. And if someone says, hey, what about this? Be willing to say yes. Be willing to put yourself out there and try different things, do different things, say yes to things and be willing to be uncomfortable. And that a level of un-comfort is going to give you comfort over time because you get used to it more. And where you were uncomfortable before becomes now the new normal. How to connect with David Phone: 262-210-7700 Email: dsplitgerber@esourcecoach.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidsplitgerber/

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What makes you tick? Why are you the way that you are? How many Buzzfeed quizzes and personality tests have you taken to figure it out? Which Disney Character am I? What color is my aura? Which Pumpkin Dessert Matches My Personality? (and for all my fall lovers… yes! That’s a real quiz!) It’s in our DNA to want to know! The amazing thing is… There’s a brain science behind knowing ourselves, our personalities, and other people’s too! This week is the eighth week in our podcast series: The Brain Science of Success. I’ve invited some of my colleagues and leading doctors to come talk with you over the next few weeks about how to maximize the power of your brain to work for you - and not against you!  In this week’s episode of the Epic Success Podcast, I talk with Alex Paulos about the brain science of recognizing people and personalities in your life and in your business. Alex Paulos is the author of the book, “Recognizing People” and an expert on the brain science of personality, facial recognition, and how all of that connects to running a business. The idea of reading faces is an ancient idea that can help you scale your business in a modern world. I can’t wait to deep dive with you into this big idea of Recognizing People (...and yourself)! The biggest take-aways from today’s episode are:   “Temperament (innate personality) is inborn - you are born with it and you die with it.”    Everybody is born with a specific and individual temperament. It’s an innate characteristic that makes you… you. And there is a brain science behind temperament, personality, individual characteristics to who you are. And when you know who you are innately and have that awareness, you are able to see things for what they are and create the reality you actually want. [6:18]    “Breaking down what is actually you will give you permission and confidence to live the real you.”   When you know who you are - your genuine, authentic self - your personality, the drive and motivation behind your actions - you tap into a whole new world of what it means to actually be you. And when you have that awareness, you are able to choose the thoughts that lead you to the best version of yourself and the best life you’ve only dreamed of living. [10:01]   “Pretending to be something that you’re not will keep you stuck.”   You have to have an awareness of who you really are. You have to be able to know who you are, know the motivation behind why you do what you do, and understand yourself at your core. The first step is to get rid of all deception in your life about yourself - good or bad, if it is not true then you are not living in the real version of yourself. Do you see yourself clearly? [53:33] Oh this week’s interview was amazing and I could’ve talked with Alex for hourssss.  We all have this deep desire to know who we really are, and we’re often misguided by personality quizzes and the different ways you can type yourself. The good news is that there is a brain science behind discovering who we really are, the motivation behind why we do what we do, and understanding ourselves at our core.  I can’t wait to see you step into the full reality of who you are and begin to create the thoughts that will create the reality you’ve always wanted! Are you a coach or thinking of becoming one? Now more than ever, coaching is a vital business that is growing faster than ever before and your voice and expertise is needed in the market. And I have something just.for.you! I'm hosting a free, Live coach training session where you will learn a predictable way to enroll at least 10 new coaching clients every single month and NEW coaches can learn the exact RIGHT steps to confidently coach AND profitably launch their business from scratch! It’s happening Live on Monday, October 12th @ 11am PST(12pm MST / 1pm CST / 2pm EST / 7pm UK / 4am Tues AEST) AND on Tuesday, October 13th @ 10am PST(11am MST / 12pm CST / 1pm EST / 6pm UK / 3am Wed AEST) Click HERE and you’ll be added to the list for this free live training session! Today I want to give a shoutout to one of my Epic Success Podcast listeners who left a 5-star review titled “You want more success in life a...”: “Thanks so much for your awesome information. Super valuable.”   I absolutely love sharing the brain-based process of creating success in your life & business with you each week on the Epic Success podcast! Reviews are how I know you’re finding value and help me share Epic Success with more people! If you have something you want to say about the Epic Success podcast, I’d love it if you’d post a 5-star review on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Asking questions is an essential part of being human: Who am I? What is important in my life? How can I be a better parent? How do I help others? How can I save the world?   Right now, the focus on saving our planet is stronger than ever. We are in the midst of a global pandemic and the impact this has had and will continue to have for years to come, has woken may people up to how fragile our world is. In this podcast we explore how, while no one person can save the world single-handed, everyone can make a contribution which adds up to a better world for us all and for future generations.   Thanks for listening. I’d like to personally invite you to access to a range of FREE content I have put together to coach, guide and support people like you to create the success, productivity and fulfilment you are looking for. Click on the link below to open Facebook Messenger so you can choose from a number of different pathways for your success.  https://m.me/mi365.me?ref=pc-Choose-Your-Path  Join the Mi365 Kickstart Facebook page. Mi365 is the world’s most dynamic and supportive coaching experience for people who want to be inspired and liberated to move from living a life by chance to an extraordinary life by design. https://www.mi365.me/free-group Or you can follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/petecohen_/ About Pete Cohen:  Pete is one of the world’s leading life coaches and keynote speakers. People from all over the world have been motivated and inspired by Pete’s presentations. He has professionally impacted on the lives of hundreds of thousands of people worldwide, including business executives, professional athletes and everyday people in all walks of life.  Pete focuses on the importance of closing the gap in our lives between where we are and where we want to be, in our health, relationships professional lives. His approach is to coach you to remove the obstacles that are in your way and helping you install the habits of success.     He is the author of 19 published books, several of which have been best-sellers across the world, including Shut the Duck Up, Habit Busting, Life DIY and Sort Your Life Out. He has also presented his own show on TV called The Coach and was the resident life coach on GMTV for 12 years. His new book Inspirators – Leading The Way In Leadership is available for free here https://book.petecohen.com/    

We're coming off of an incredible weekend of speaking and discussions. In this episode we discuss important questions: Who am I? What grounds me? Why is the fire alarm going off at 2AM? Is it actually raining?Along the way, we explore the Tyranny of the Urgent, the two great paths of transformation (i.e. the paths of suffering and love), the book Jesus, My Father, the CIA, and Me, why it is important to enjoy the journey, and why all great religion is about seeing.

No matter how well we plan, organize, and delegate, sometimes we drop the ball. Sometimes we let people down. Sometimes we fail to live up to our commitments. And sometimes we make matters worse by failing to communicate. This can lead to broken trust and people losing respect for you. So, how do we drop the ball gracefully? Today I’m going to give you five ways. Timestamps 00:00 – Introduction03:10 – Why we drop the ball07:33 – 1. Don’t Overcommit to Begin With10:27 – 2. Develop a System to Track Your Commitments12:11 – 3. Communicate Early15:30 – 4. Be 100% Honest20:47 – 5. Ask for Forgiveness23:45 – 6. Learn from Your Mistakes25:56 – Believe the gospel when we drop the ball Links Getting Things Done by David AllenSign-up for the Redeeming Productivity Newsletter. If you enjoy Redeeming Productivity, consider supporting my work on Patreon, where you’ll get exclusive updates and early releases of new content. Transcript Welcome to the redeeming productivity show. This is the podcast that helps Christians get more done and get it done like Christians. And I’m your host, Reagan Rose. Well, I’m here this is Episode 56. And I’m sitting here I got a ice cold Lacroix. Well, this is a Kroger brand. So, seltzer water, zero calories, naturally flavored lemon, listen to this. Just went all over my computer. It’s okay. It’s okay. Just a few droplets. Well, got another episode for you. So we’re gonna be talking today about the art of gracefully dropping the ball, how to let people down without losing their respect. Ooh, intriguing title. I know. I wrote it. And so here’s the deal. No matter how well you plan, no matter how well you organize, no matter how well you delegate, sometimes you drop the ball. Sometimes you let people down. Sometimes you fail to live up to your commitments and your promises. But sometimes, talking to myself here, we can make matters worse, when we fail to communicate when those things happen. And this can lead to broken trust can lead to people losing respect for you. And the question is, how do we drop the ball gracefully? Well, today, I’m going to give you five ways that you can drop the ball gracefully, and not lose people’s respect, not lose their trust, when you have to break a commitment. So we’ll talk about that in just a second. Before we do just a quick plug for the newsletter, if you don’t get my bi weekly newsletter, you should it on Wednesdays I talk about things that have come out on the blog about new podcast episodes, and just some other things that I’m thinking. And that’s really the only place you can get that just it’s a little more. I was gonna say unhinged musings, but that’s not the word I’m looking for. Though it may be more accurate, that’s gonna say less, you know, rehearse less polish. This is kind of what I’m thinking about in regard to Christianity and productivity that week. And then on Fridays, you get my Reagan’s roundup feature with just as five links from around the web, to help you on your journey to becoming a more productive Christian. So if you’re not on the newsletter, you should sign up. It’s redeemedproductivity.com/newsletter. And also now when you sign up for the newsletter, you get a free morning routine planner PDF. It’s something I’ve pulled together, that kind of will walk you through the steps for creating a morning routine for yourself that involves things like Bible study, and exercise and prayer. And just if you walk through the steps, you’ll have yourself a handy dandy routine in the morning. So check that out the redeeming productivity newsletter at redeemingproductivity.com/newsletter. And also if you’re interested in supporting my work producing this podcast, these videos, blog posts, etc. You can do so on patreon.com/redeemingprod, there’ll be a link in the description if you want more info on that. Okay, let’s get into the meat of things. Let’s get talking about dropping the ball gracefully. So here’s the thing. I really hate letting people down. I do. And I think that there’s I think that there’s a problem there and motivations, which I’ll talk about in a future episode on fear of man. But I really hate that feeling of letting someone down. And I think that in large part, that’s what drives my interest in productivity. Sometimes, obviously, my more nobler reasons are that I do indeed want to glorify God with my life. But what really made me start thinking about how I can be more organized, how I can track my tasks better. The big thing that was motivating me was I just kept dropping the ball, people would ask me to do something, I’d commit to doing it. And then I’d forget. And so that’s what got me into learning about how can I do this stuff better. And I do believe that this is part of being a Christian is we need to be people of our word. God is a God of his word. He always fulfills his promises. He never tells a lie. His yes is always yes is no is always No. And we as image bearers are to likewise be people of our word. And so when you commit to do something, that’s a very serious thing. You You want your yes to be yes. And you know, to be no. But as you know, sometimes it can’t be helped. Sometimes you really did want to do something you said you were going to do, but through maybe an error on your part, or circumstances that are outside of your control. Sometimes you let people down. Sometimes you can’t fulfill that commitment. Sometimes you drop the ball. But since I want people to trust me, I want people to know that they can rely on me that can be devastating. You know, like, you want to be a person known as a person of your word, not just for your own, you know, personal self worth Back to your own reputation. But because you know that you represent Christ, you’re a representative of God, you’re an ambassador, for Christ, it says. So you want to be a person who’s known as a person of your word, person, Person person. I think what maybe is ironic, I guess is that sometimes that fear of letting people down when things, you realize that you’re not gonna be able to feel a commitment, sometimes that fear can actually lead to you making the situation worse. And what I mean is, you might try to find a way to work a bunch of overtime or something, or through the night to make up for a mistake, or for being double booked or double committed. And, you know, trying to make sure no one finds out that, that you didn’t manage your time well or something. But the problem with that is it leads to this like vicious cycle of burnout, where you’re constantly trying to fulfill these different commitments, and finding yourself falling short, and then trying to make up for them and then falling short and other commitments, and round and round we go, that is not a Mulberry Bush, you want to be circling weasel? Hmm. I don’t think any of that’s an expression. But it is now because that’s how expressions are coined on podcasts. So and even worse, I think when it comes to letting people down and dropping the ball, we can even be tempted to lie sometimes, or bend the truth or just leave out some details to kind of cover over our failure. Or we might double down on our promises, we might say, well, I’ll make up I’ll make it up to you. But that actually, again, it can make things worse, and leads you to dropping the ball over and over again. And as a cereal ball dropper, myself, probably probably not what I should call that. But as someone who is who has done this multiple times, and is the reason I’m trying day in and day out to become a little bit more efficient, with my time a little bit more productive, a little bit better. at keeping track of the things I said I would do and making sure I actually have time to do them. It’s because I am. I don’t want to let people down. I want to I don’t want to break their trust. I don’t want to lose the respect. And I want to honor Christ by being a person of my word. So here are five ways maybe there’ll be six but five ish ways on how you can learn the art of gracefully dropping the ball so that you don’t lose people’s respect or let them down or break their trust. 1. Don’t Overcommit to Begin With So the first reason is this. Can you guys hear the Lacroix bubbling? I just love that. It’s like um, the what was that cereal? right in that cereal like it doesn’t exist Rice Krispies, you know, snap, crackle, pop, you can kind of hear the Lacroix. I’ll keep it away from the mics. You don’t have to hear it. I like subtle. If you heard the jokes about Lacroix where it’s like, um, you know, the flavor is not intense. It’s not like sweet. It’s just kind of like hints of flavor. Someone said that Lacroix is like drinking water. And then someone shouts the name of a fruit from another room. That’s what Lacroix tastes like. I thought that was funny. Anyway, what were we talking about? Oh, I was gonna tell you five ways to drop the ball gracefully. The first one in, I think probably the one that gets to the root of the problem, at least, the root of the problem for me, maybe this is same for you is the first reason or the first way to not drop the ball is to not over commit to begin with. I think over commitment can be a source for this kind of thing. Where you you want to say yes to things, you want to be helpful. You want to, you know, do things. And so you promise you say, Oh, yeah, I’ll do that. Let me take care of that for you. But you do that so much that you find that it’s actually too many commitments for you to handle. And no matter how well organized you are, every single one of us has a limit, even though we might try to push it guilty, often guilty of that myself. So I would say the first way that you can drop the ball gracefully, is by not putting yourself into a position where you’re constantly having to drop the ball, because you’ve got too many things on your plate, keep the plate tidy. And this is just the art of learning to say no. This is you know being self aware enough to know your capacity and how much you can do and not to project yourself into the future and assume that the future you is going to have more time than the you right now. You know stuff always comes out life is not as clear as it is when you block it out on paper. So don’t overcommit to begin with. And I think just as a good like practical application to this, keep us thinking calendar. It Doesn’t have to be a stinking calendar, it can just be a normal calendar. But keep a calendar and keep it well. If you don’t want to over commit to stuff, you need to track what you are committed to. And likewise, I actually talked about this in the next one, but track your tasks as well. Unless you know what you’ve said yes to, you aren’t going to know if you have enough time to say yes to more things, if that makes sense. So keeping a rigorous calendar helps you not to over commit to things to begin with. 2. Develop a System to Track Your Commitments Okay, the second way that you can drop the ball gracefully, when you when you are over committed, is develop a system to track your commitment. So I just mentioned calendars. But the other side of that is a task tracking system. And I’m surprised in this day and age how many people still don’t do this that I talked to. And so I’m not just talking about a to do list, I’m talking about a way of tracking the things that you have said you’re going to do. If you have not read the book, getting things done by David Allen, I would commend it to you. It’s a simple systematic approach to how you can kind of capture things as they come into your life and make sure that they actually get done. So you’re not constantly trying to remember in your head, all the things that you’ve said you’re going to do. It’s a great book. And many, many software tools have sprung up around the concept of getting things done, I use OmniFocus. To do this is really popular things. You can do this with a bullet journal or just a simple notebook, but having a just a dedicated space, where you track what are the what are the things, what are the task, what do I need to get done today and tomorrow, things like that. That will go miles to make it so that you don’t drop the ball as often. And again, number one applies here to again, don’t over commit to things. But if you have visibility on what you’re committed to, you’re going to be much more likely to not drop the ball on things. And also transition that will help you to know if you are about to drop the ball on something so that you can communicate. 3. Communicate Early And so that’s the third way that you can drop the ball gracefully. When you know that you’re going to break a commitment. Tell people tell the person or people or boss or friend or whoever in advance, you know, if you something comes up and you know you had plans to go have dinner with some friends or something, and don’t just like ghost him for one. But don’t also like 10 minutes before you’re going to meet at your local Chili’s to get some pain yo poppers and a triple Dipper. Don’t be like oh guy, sorry, I can’t make it. Especially if you knew further in advance of that. And this is again, this is something that I I am guilty of myself is you know, most people will forgive a broken promise or a failure to complete something as intended. As long as you chest tell them as soon as you know about it. Do you know what I mean? Like people understand, like, nobody’s perfect. Nobody gets 100% of the things done that they say they’re going to get done. Like, things come up, you know, emergencies. And even just like foolish things where you double booked yourself. The trick is, tell them when soon as you know. So as soon as you know that you goofed a call a text and email cause a hugely long way to not just save face, but also honor the person that you know, you’re about to let down. And if you know that there is even the potential for dropping the ball on something so you’ve committed to some project and, and the deadline for it is coming up. And you know, man, it’s, it’s gonna be tight. I don’t know, if I’m gonna make this deadline. Don’t just clam up and pretend that everything’s gonna be okay. This is a great time for you to tell whoever’s in charge. But I mean, I find this helpful. I manage people and I really appreciate when they over communicate to me when there’s an expectation for something to be done. And they tell me, Hey, this and this and this came up. I think we’re still gonna get it done on time, but I’m not sure I want you to know, I so appreciate that. Because then I’m able to communicate that and I and I’m able to set my expectations or reset my expectations, rather than being surprised when I thought everything was going fine. Because last time we talked was a week ago, dude, I mean, so communicate early, communicate often. As soon as you know that you’re that you’re dropping the ball on something, or even before if you know there’s the potential to it. So communicate simple enough, isn’t it? Except for it’s kind of embarrassing, right? I think this is the reason that I struggle with this is you again you want you want to please people you want you want to come through you want to be trustworthy. But you kind of don’t want people to see your flaws, your mistakes, especially if you, especially if you have a podcast about how to be productive, and then you drop the ball on something because you weren’t productive on it, you’re not I mean, like, there’s a little bit of a blow to your ego to your pride. And so then you don’t communicate. But again, it just makes things worse. So when when you when you know that you can drop the ball, communicate, communicate, communicate. 4. Be 100% Honest So on the subject of the art of gracefully dropping the ball here is the fourth way that you can drop the ball gracefully and not break people’s trust or lose their respect for you. And that is be 100% honest, be 100% honest. Here’s the deal. excuses are really not helpful. Um, even if they’re true, like, I think there is a difference. Personally, I make a difference. In my mind, I’ve two different categories for excuse and an explanation for something. But an excuse is, as I define it, it’s when you are basically trying to pass the blame. It might not be to another person, it might be the circumstances, but an excuse has these overtones of not taking ownership of the problem to say, Oh, I, you know, I almost got it done. But, but yeah, then then My car broke down, or I almost got it done. But then X, Y, and Z happened to me, you know what I mean? And that is not that helpful. And I just, again, speaking, as you know, somebody who manages people, I would, I don’t mind you, I mean, I understand that things come up, and I want to hear an explanation. But I don’t want to hear an excuse. I don’t want to hear a hint in there of It’s not my fault. And it may not be your fault. But what I mean is people appreciate it. When you take ownership and you’re 100% honest. And so something maybe your car breaks down and you can’t get to an appointment on time. You know, take ownership of that, be 100% honest, tell them exactly what happens. Or if you’re running late, don’t don’t do that thing where Oh, GPS says five minutes, but you haven’t like even, you know, left your house yet. Be 100% honest about it. That is going to go miles even when you mess up, even when things don’t go your way. If the aim is that, Hey, I know I’m letting this person down. But long term, I don’t want to break their trust, I want them to trust me. Well, a great way to have people trust you is to not lie to them. And mainly, again, be extremely, extremely honest, hundred percent honest about why you had that epic blunder. And maybe even if it’s in a work setting, what you could have done differently, you know, practically saying, Yeah, you know, what, I, I could have had this, I could have worked on this sooner. I remember this coming up all the time, like in school, if you guys ever have teachers like this, where you come and you ask for an extension on a paper or some project and you say, Oh, yeah, you know, well, I had all these other things going on. And I kind of pulled an all nighter, and then my cat got sick and was throwing up everywhere. And you know, my dog had worms. And he was you just have so many pets, and they have so many medical conditions. But like, what does the teacher say? The teacher says, Well, you How long did you know this paper was? Do? You say? Well since the beginning of the semester, and they say well, how long did you have to work on it? Well, lots and lots of weeks. When did you start last night right before fluffy started hacking up along? And then they say sorry, paper still do, dude. I mean, like, that’s pretty mean. It’s not mean it’s holding the line. And I get it, I get why teachers do that. And it is helpful, especially when you know that the students making an excuse. But that’s what I mean about taking ownership of it is instead to say I should have started sooner, we could have finished this earlier. You know, I should have left the house earlier, I knew it was potential that this thing would happen to keep me from this appointment. And I should have told you just be 100% on it honest and take 100% ownership, people will appreciate that. And then long term that trust is still maintained. And I think the on the subject of honesty, I talked a little bit about excuses how you can blame circumstances. And I and I mentioned briefly that you can use it excuses, blaming someone else. That’s horrible if you think about it, and sometimes that’s your default. If you’re trying to save face, you kind of maybe don’t come out and say it but you kind of intimate that. Well, so and so didn’t do XY and Z. And you know, so yeah, we really should have done better. And you know, I mean there’s like this half apology, but really you’re just like blaming somebody else. That is that’s pretty rough, especially if you were the one responsible for doing the thing. It’s it’s your problem. Even if somebody else did let you down. You should have been on top of it and why If you’re kind of hinting that it’s someone else’s fault, when it wasn’t, you are like bearing false witness, which is a violation of the law of God, you’re blaming somebody else for your mistake that you do not want to be doing, take ownership for it, be 100% honest, there’s consequences take them. But in the end, you keep your integrity intact. And you will have been a great witness for Christ in the workplace and a great image bearer for him, wherever you are. 5. Ask for Forgiveness Okay, so we’re talking about the art of gracefully dropping the ball, how to let people down without losing their respect. And so far, we’ve looked at five ways of doing that. The first is not to over commit to begin with second was develop a system to track your commitments. Third is communicate early and fourth was be 100%. honest, we hear this, here’s the fifth way that you can drop the ball gracefully, when you’re breaking a commitment and not lose people’s trust or respect. And that is the simple act of asking for forgiveness. If someone trusted you to do something, whether it be as simple as again, you know, making an appointment on time, you know, for coffee or something, or if it’s in the workplace, and it’s the the fulfilling a project in the time that you committed to, or even in the home with your spouse or with your kids is you said you do something, and then you don’t. And even if the circumstances outside of your control, whatever the reason, ask for forgiveness. You promised to do something, you said you would do something, and you did it. Ask for their forgiveness. Apologize to them, not in that weird kind of way, you know, where you don’t actually take responsibility? You say, I’m sorry, for the way that made you feel. I’m very sorry for the way you reacted to that. I’m sorry that you were mad at the car for it breaking down on me. You know, just take responsibility and ask for forgiveness. Say, I’m so sorry. I said that I would do that. And I didn’t. And then mega right. It’s not hard, except for to the bride, simply to ask for forgiveness. I will offer one caveat on this point of asking for forgiveness. And that is simply that sometimes this is the only thing we do. Do you know what I mean? Like if you are a serial ball dropper, there’s that term again, I cannot, I don’t want to say that anymore. But if you’re somebody who who constantly, you know, or repeatedly has failed to meet commitments, apologies wear thin real fast. And it is the only thing you do. And you think that it makes every it smooths everything over every single time. And you don’t actually take steps to rectify maybe your poor planning or organizational habits, or your you know how much you commit to, you’re going to actually make steps to fix that. It’s not long before, people are like, Oh, they just don’t do things. And then they come and say they’re sorry afterwards for it not working out. You’re gonna lose people’s respect, you’re gonna lose their trust and can be a poor witness, if that’s your Mo. But what I am saying here is that when you genuinely mess up, take full responsibility and apologize for it. But then also, you know, as someone who, who genuinely wants to do it right next time, go back and make the steps figure out how do I not over commit? How can I track my commitments better? How can I make sure these kind of things don’t happen in the future? And be serious about that. And when people see that change in you, they will you’ll have their respect, you’ll learn it and they, they won’t look down on you just because you made a mistake once. And that’s it’s important as a Christian, that’s important. It is. 6. Learn from Your Mistakes And okay, here’s the bonus one. I’m gave you five ways to drop the ball gracefully. We’re recommitment, disappoint someone, but to do it in a way that you don’t lose the respect of their trust. And I just would say one last one. And then it’s just learn from your mistakes. It’s going to happen. You are going to drop the ball. You’re going to fail to meet a deadline, complete a promise, fulfill a requirement of you. It’s going to happen. But if you can pause hafter, that situation and look and try to figure out, Okay, what did I What could I be doing different in the future to make sure that doesn’t happen again? That moment that time you spend self reflecting, maybe you’re examining your own mindset towards things like I’ve mentioned fear man a couple times, it’s something I’ve been thinking about about why is it to overcommit Reagan, it’s because I care too much. I think that what people think about me, and so how can I set that at the heart level, so that in the future, I honor people by saying yes to the things that I really can do, and not bring up people’s expectations that I’m going to do something for them. When I know that I don’t really have the capacity to do it. Another part of the self exam is looking at your systems. You know, I mentioned I think in the intro to the last podcast that I had like a breakdown, basically, in my productivity system, one crisis kind of blew the whole thing up. Well, I had to spend a good probably half a day, tearing down my system for tracking tasks, and rebuilding it again and re kind of thinking about, okay, what went wrong? How can I fix this? How can I tweak this so that it’s a little bit more resilient to crisis. And so I did that. And hopefully the fruit of that will be that that type of thing won’t happen again, or at least I’ll have the right steps in place to mitigate a disaster from messing up my whole week, or causing kind of a chain reaction of not fulfilling commitments, see what I mean? So learn from your mistakes, learn from them, improve, and keep going. And guys, listen, if you’re a Christian, if you’ve placed your faith in Jesus Christ, if you’ve been united with Him by faith, then you are under God’s grace, which means you can fail and fail even boldly, you will make mistakes, you will fail to fulfill things. And I think one of the problems that can happen, or maybe a better way to put it is, is this way is that productivity is something that people that are given to perfectionism, are kind of drawn to sometimes and so I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of you listening would be self described perfectionists. And perfectionism is, is is in Christians, a denial of grace, right? It’s a denial that you are imperfect that you are in need of God’s help. And I think reminding yourself of the gospel, reminding yourself that you You are not perfect, you are not God is so helpful when you do drop the ball in a situation like this. It helps you be more honest about your own shortcomings with others and with God. And only then are you able to assess what went wrong, apologize, seek forgiveness if you messed up in some way, and then move on and keep going trying to do better next time in Christ strength. Well, guys, that’s all I have for you this week. Thank you so much for listening and or watching. Appreciate you do check out that newsletter in the description. Oh, and if you are a Patreon supporter, head on over to Patreon. Now that the episodes over, I have a little clip on there that I made for you about an app that has really been changing the way I read Kindle books, and I think you will be interested in it. So check out that clip. And if you’re not a Patreon supporter, you can join and get access to these bonus clips as well. The link for that is in the description. And I will see you again here next week. But until I do remember this that in whatever you do, do it well and do it all to the glory of God.

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In this episode of The Awakened Life Podcast, Chris and John discuss the 3 questions that help you get to the core of who you are, what you want in life, and how you can serve.One of the greatest Yoga teachers, Patanjali, said that whenever we are solely identified with our ego, we bind ourselves to the things that do not have a permanent reality. These things may be our jobs, relationships, bodies, or material possessions, which then lead us to a sea of distress, unhappiness, and illness. Remembering the real you in is not trapped in these things is the key to real joy and freedom.To find our real selves, we need to answer these three powerful questions. Who am I? What do I want? and How can I serve? When you are able to answer these three questions, you get in touch with your spirit, which is the true goal of Yoga. These three questions shift your internal reference point from ego to spirit.Click Play on this episode to learn more about how you can answer these three questions to you're your real self and shift from ego to spirit?Key TakeawaysWhat are you identifying with? Are you identifying with that will lead to suffering (07:07)Getting in touch with your spirit is the true goal of Yoga (09:25)The three questions that shift your internal reference point from ego to spirit (10:03)If it can be taken away from you, it's not you (10:20)Are you adrift in your life without a destination (11:19)When we get aligned with what we want, we see a bigger grander vision of our lives (12:32)The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others (14:22)How this simple but powerful exercise can change your life (15:56)Additional ResourcesFollow the immersion course on Facebook hereIf you haven't already, be sure to join our Facebook Group! This is where we are diving into the concepts and strategies discussed on this podcast in more detail through our weekly Facebook Live sessions.--Be sure to subscribe to the podcast on  Apple,  Spotify, Google, or your favorite podcast app! Also, it would be amazing if you could leave us a review on Apple Podcasts 

Answers From The Afterlife with Nanci L. DanisonAired Wednesday, September 9, 2020, at 12:00 PM PST / 3:00 PM ESTJoin us this “Wisdom Wednesday” on INSPIRED LIVING RADIO as Host Marc Lainhart welcomes to the show for the first time, Author, Lawyer, Pilot, Private Detective, Cancer and NDE Survivor, Nancy L. Danison! Marc and Nanci will be discussing in detail about Nanci’s book, ‘Answers From The Afterlife.’OMTIMES MEDIA & MAGAZINE…LIVE GLOBAL INTERNET SHOW – INSPIRED LIVING RADIO!12PM PT / 1PM MT / 2PM CST / 3pm ET / 8pm UKhttps://omtimes.com/iom/shows/inspired-living-radio/OM TIMES RADIO CALL-IN LINES: 1-202-570-7057ABOUT:“Strap on your seatbelt and prepare for a truly cosmic journey. Answers From The Afterlife, which is the fourth in a series of books in which I document everything I can remember from three of my visits to the afterlife after dying temporarily. It is in question and answer format. This book answers my readers’ questions over the years about my own near-death experiences (NDE’s), Source’s innate nature, Creation, souls, the purpose of life, mating and love, evil behavior, religious beliefs, the death process, suicide, ghosts, and after-death communications, the afterlife and its stages, reincarnation, hell and more.”BIO:I died March 14, 1994, at the age of 43, but voluntarily returned to human life to share what I could remember of the wonders I experienced and truths I learned in the afterlife. At the time of my death, I had been an attorney practicing law in a 270 attorney regional law firm for 17 years as a litigator in the labor and employment law areas, and as a transactional and healthcare fraud defense lawyer in the health law field. I brought my training and skills as a trial lawyer to the evidence I encountered and challenged within the afterlife. “Nancy brings the credibility of a trial lawyer, highly trained to evaluate evidence, to her account of the answers to our most pressing spiritual questions: What is God? Who am I? What is the purpose of this life? What happens when we die?She observed this near-death experience with the detachment of a jurist. That jury of one found no evidence to support the traditional religious model of ‘heaven.’ Instead, the reality she experienced was much more intricate and fulfilling. It felt like returning to a very different but familiar culture.” — June Milligan, M.Ed., CCHt, Healthy Beginnings Magazine (Sept. 2012). It took years for me to recover from the breast cancer scare and trauma of having died, and to assimilate the new knowledge that completely gutted my former Catholic belief system. Then the memories started flooding my mind, impacting me as though I were still in the afterlife. As quickly as I could, I committed those memories to paper, eventually publishing four books, more than twenty CD or DVD sets, and twenty-some YouTube videos to date. I have published these materials to fulfill the burning desire I felt while in the afterlife to tell anyone who would listen that life and death are far simpler and more glorious than we could ever imagine. We are not what we think we are, and our lives as humans are a tiny tip of the iceberg of our eternal existence. My books explain in plain and understandable language the who, what, why, and how of all of Creation in a comprehensive, logical model of life that resonates deeply within us as spiritual beings. © Nanci L. Danison 2012. Connect with Nanci at http://backwardsbooks.com/ and http://nancidanison.com/ Visit the Inspired Living show page https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/inspired-living-radio/Connect with Marc Lainhart at http://www.marclainhart.com/#NanciLDanison #AnswersFromTheAfterlife #InspiredLiving #MarcLainhart

We've been wanting to interview our husbands for-ev-er! What better way to learn a little more about us, our lives and our marriages than from our significant others?! Brandi had the opportunity to interview her husband, Chris and the conversation feels like we're all a fly on the wall in their home. It's totally unfiltered, off the cuff, real and raw banter between husband and wife and it doesn't get any better than this! We strongly encourage you to try this out with your partner as a way to connect and do a little relationship "check-in". The questions they discuss are below but you can totally come up with ones of your own. Questions to Ask Your Partner: What is your favorite thing about being married? When you were younger what did you think marriage would look like? What was your favorite part of our wedding day? What is your favorite thing I do for you? How do you show me that you love me? How do I show you that I love you? What kind of mom/dad am I? What do you think our kids think of us? What do you think their favorite thing to do with us is? What is your favorite memory of our relationship? If we had a week alone (and we weren't experiencing a pandemic) what would we do? What is my most annoying trait? Where do you see our marriage in 5 years? in 10 years? in 20 years? What are you excited about most when it comes to the future? Products Brandi & Chris's Electric Bikes https://rstyle.me/+fVyyQSqRKjH5hgn5Tjzjow Mr. A's beanie is no longer made but here is one that looks very similar https://rstyle.me/+hYbjELUlFU6j7X5-eWQm1Q Brandi's quick drying polish https://rstyle.me/+I_REvwl1VvPSJR3v4Y8khQ Let's Keep the Conversation Going Follow us on Instagram @MOMHOODShow https://www.instagram.com/momhoodshow/ @BrandiMilloy https://www.instagram.com/brandimilloy/ @OrlyShani https://www.instagram.com/orlyshani/ Join our Private Facebook Group by searching "Momhood" on FB

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Welcome to Episode 2 Let’s talk about meeeeeee!!! Who am I? What’s my story? In this episode I deep dive into me and what’s make me who I am today. As I do this work I want every human to know who I am at my core. I LOVE YOU!!!! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/humaning101/support

It didn't take long after my son was diagnosed for someone to tell us, "Kid first, diabetes second." Benny was diagnosed in 2006, but that phrase has been around a long time in the diabetes parenting community. I get it. We shouldn't take away all the things that make childhood fun and special, because of a diagnoses of T1D. We also don’t want diabetes to be the first thing people think about when they consider our children and we don’t want diabetes to dictate every decision we make. But the more I think about it, more I think that phrase misses the mark. Check out Stacey's new book: The World's Worst Diabetes Mom! Join the Diabetes Connections Facebook Group! Sign up for our newsletter here ----- Use this link to get one free download and one free month of Audible, available to Diabetes Connections listeners! ----- Get the App and listen to Diabetes Connections wherever you go! Click here for iPhone      Click here for Android Episode Transcription: Stacey Simms   0:00 This episode of Diabetes Connections is brought to you by The World's Worst Diabetes Mom: Real Life Stories of Parenting a Child With Type 1 Diabetes available at Amazon as a paperback eBook and audiobook. Learn more at Diabetes connections.com   Announcer This is Diabetes Connections with Stacey Simms.   Stacey Simms   0:26 Welcome to a mini episode of the show. I'm your host, Stacey Simms, and I'm really glad that you joined me for this now these episodes I do occasionally are more. I'd call them more editorials. I do interview shows week by week if you're a longtime listener, you know that but this year I added in these mini episodes these minisodes just me, I am not a medical expert. This is more mom to mom advice. Just from my experience as a longtime parent of a child with type 1 diabetes, what I've learned and what I think can help. My son was diagnosed with type one when he was 23 months old.   Stacey Simms   1:00 that was back in 2006. He is now 15 and a sophomore in high school. Oh, my goodness, he is he's very comfortable with diabetes is very confident. He's very independent. And while we are far from perfect, we are doing a great job according to our endocrinologist, and that's all I really need to hear. This subject has been on my mind for a while. So let's just get into it. I want to talk about the saying, kid first, diabetes. Second. It's been around our community for a very long time, probably longer than I've been a part of the community almost 14 years now. But I just don't think it works. It doesn't work for me. I don't think it works for anybody. So let's talk about it. What is kid first diabetes second all about? I think we know what it's supposed to be right? You hear this most often right after diagnosis. And it means that you know, your life shouldn't change that much.   Stacey Simms   2:00 From what it was before, or you know, you shouldn't take away all the fun things that make childhood childhood. And we don't want diabetes to be the first thing people think about when they consider our children. And we don't want diabetes to dictate every decision that we make. Now for some people, kid first diabetes second means letting them have a giant Sundae, or go to a pizza party. Now it doesn't have to be all about food. I did say it to myself years ago when I let my son go to regular sleepaway camp, not diabetes camp for two weeks when he was eight, and he has gone a month every year since then. So I've said that to myself, right kid first, diabetes, second, let's do this. But the more I think about it, the more I think it misses the mark. Kid first diabetes second, isn't right. It seeks to separate the diabetes from the kid, which is impossible to do. Or maybe it's not impossible, but it doesn't sit right with me.   Stacey Simms   3:00 Here's why implies that you're sort of cheating on diabetes. We're going to put diabetes aside, we're going to put it second. So we can do this other thing that every child should be able to do. Put the kid first, what we're saying is that kids with diabetes, shouldn't be able to do that shouldn't be allowed to do that. You're just letting this be a special case, because it's fun. And it's about being a kid. It's as though we're saying diabetes can't be part of a real childhood, a good fun, a wonderful childhood. take it one step further. And we're actually implying that diabetes can't be part of a good fun, wonderful child, or ultimately a person. It sounds dramatic. I know. But I really don't think it is. Looking at this a slightly different way. I talked about it just a bit in my book, the world's worst diabetes Mom, I use the analogy of the Hulk there. Alright, so when Benny was very young and ready   Stacey Simms   4:00 He was diagnosed just before he turned two. We couldn't explain to him exactly what was going on, you know, you know, when your blood sugar is high, you can be so grumpy, you can be unreasonable not that a three year old is always reasonable to begin with. But it was so hard to explain to him what was going on. And it wasn't until, I mean, really till about age four or five, that we were able to start working on a few strategies to help and one of the best involve the Hulk. We started telling Benny that he was a lot like the Hulk. I don't have to explain to the Hulk is right, the Marvel superhero, big green guy, comic book, TV show, movies, that whole thing. Okay, so we started telling Vinny that he was a lot like the Hulk when his blood sugar was high, and he felt angry and mean. But unlike the Hulk alter ego, Dr. Bruce Banner, we said he could learn to control the big green guy. So we started by having him recognize that he was high. This was before the days of Dexcom for us, so we would just test blood sugar, and then Benny would work on removing himself from the situation. He could go   Stacey Simms   5:00 It was room and beat up a stuffed animal. Or he could yell into a pillow. He could sit quietly with me, he could color he could drink water, he could be mad. But he couldn't release the Hulk on other people. It wasn't perfect, but it really helped him process what was going on in language that he could understand as a little kid. So fast forward to the Marvel Cinematic Universe. And this is, of course, the movies, the Avengers movies, and we're big comic book people. We have seen every MCU movie together by family, we all have our favorites. This was really as an aside us such a fun part of our, I don't wanna say our family history that sounds very high and mighty. But my children really were old enough to see these kind of movies just as they were coming out. And now they're older and they don't want to be with us as much and we were able to see all of them together. And it was fun in between arguing about the theories and talking about the characters and we saw the last I want to say four or five movies on preview night I would get tickets on the Thursday before they were released and we always will   Stacey Simms   6:00 A big deal about it. So it was great. And if you're familiar with the movies, or even if you're just familiar with the character that you know, the Hulk is always struggling, but the character is right. He has two distinct sides, Bruce Banner, and the big green guy, and they work in opposition. And that's kind of what we were telling Benny right this side can't understand that side. Or you know, when you're high. You're not you. You've got to get control over that part of you. Then we saw Avengers endgame. And I almost fell out of my chair when smart Hulk showed up. I What is he? I guess he's called Professor Hulk. But whatever he is called. Bottom line is that Dr. Banner has figured out a way to embrace his Hulk side, and the two are at peace. I looked this up. Yes, I did some research into Professor Hulk. Marvel says equal parts intellect and brute strength. The professor represents banners ideal version of self. And that's it. That's my hope for Benny. Now I have to stop for a second and say I can   Stacey Simms   7:00 Knowledge I am saying all of this as a person without diabetes, I'm the mom, I'm not the one living it. So I understand he has to find his own ideal point. This is exactly what I'm working toward. My son can't take diabetes and pretend it's somebody else. Yes, that worked when he was three or four. But in his young adult and adult life, he can't take his bad moods and its highs and lows and push them off on the other guy. I'm of course not saying highs and lows are not real. Obviously they are, they need to be acknowledged. And they in many cases need to be accommodated for by the people around the person with diabetes. But those highs and lows are part of diabetes, so they're part of him. And if Benny is able to embrace the side of him that he sometimes wants to reject, he will be that much stronger. And that brings us back to kid first diabetes. Second, it needs to change. It needs to change in our thinking to simply kid with diabetes. So what is that   Stacey Simms   8:00 That mean in practice, birthday cake? Yes, that is a life with diabetes, sleep over sure that's a kid with diabetes, soccer practice without me there. Same thing. I think if we treat these events and foods, like we're somehow cheating on diabetes, or somehow separate from it sends the wrong message. I mean, think about for us without diabetes. I am not eating birthday cake every day. But I sure I'm gonna have it the next party I get to go to knowing that. Do I then have to say, woman first birthday party attendee second? Or maybe mom first mom who really needs to eat more salad and fewer desserts second, I mean, you share that right? There's that guilt. Right mom, first mom who shouldn't be eating cake second. And it's not always about food. As I've mentioned, milestones and events are very relevant here too. So if you're saying kid first diabetes, second about, let's say a trip with the grandparents, you know the older sibling when   Stacey Simms   9:00 The grandparents did a special trip. And then a couple years later, the younger sibling with type one wants to go insure kid first diabetes. Second. Well, you're really telling your family that kids with diabetes shouldn't be able to do that. You're just allowing it, because it's fun. And it's about being a kid. It's just being a kid with diabetes. It's not easy to change our language about diabetes. I've been saying kid first, diabetes second for years. I looked it up. And it first shows up in my blog, in 2011. But words matter how we talk about diabetes matters. And our kids are listening, even when we think we're being careful. So I'm gonna stop saying kid first diabetes. Second. That is not how I actually parent and teach. It does not work for us. And it's not how I want Benny to think about his life with type one. So what do you think? Agree? Disagree? Remember, I am the world's worst diabetes mom. I'd love to know what you think you can email me Stacey@Diabetes-connections.com, or find me on social media, I'm linking up everything in the episode homepage. The show notes for this will be at Diabetes connections.com. You can find all 320 episodes of Diabetes Connections there. We also have an extremely robust search. So you can search by keyword by topic by date, and find whatever topic you are looking for. But I'd love to get your reaction here, especially if you've listened this far, and you're an adult with type one. What do you think about all this? The World's Worst Diabetes Mom: Real Life Stories of Parenting a Child With Type 1 Diabetes is available on Amazon in paperback eBook and audio book. I hope you check it out and read some reviews. It is all about our journey with type 1 diabetes, but it also features some mom to mom advice. And it gives you some suggested questions to bring to your next doctor visit that always confused me. How am I supposed to know what to ask if I don't even know what I don't know. Hopefully I can help you out there. All right, I will see you back here next week for our regular interview episodes. Thank you so much for joining me.   Stacey Simms   11:00 I’m Stacey Simms, until then be kind to yourself.   Benny   11:08 Diabetes Connections is a production of Stacey Simms Media. All rights reserved. All rounds avenged   Transcribed by https://otter.ai

Who am I? What is my purpose? Why am I here? Why are we here? What are we here to do? These are common questions for human beings and we have been puzzling over them for millenia.  I too have struggled to find meaningful answers to these questions, so for the past decade I have been on an intense quest to seek out experiences, teachings and practices that can help to uncover deep truths about the fundamental nature of reality and our place within it.   For the next several episodes, I will be presenting my findings and recommendations for ways to get at the answers to these questions.  I believe it is in answering these questions and living from the answers that we can avert existential crises in the human story.  I believe we sit at a critical point in the human story, a precipice of sorts, where our next decisions and actions will determine the trajectory of our story as a species.  We have the power to destroy ourselves and we lack the wisdom to wield that power.  What wisdom do we need? I believe it is the wisdom of ourselves...it is coming into direct contact with that part of ourselves that cannot be removed.  It is the part of us that makes us uniquely human...our consciousness...our awareness of our awareness. In this episode, we explore the teachings of Ramana Maharshi, an Indian guru who lived and taught in southern India in the early to mid-1900s.  His teachings have become popularized in the west as more people begin to ask these questions about who we are and why we are here.  He encourages a practice called self-inquiry, where we deeply explore the awareness that precedes and remains before and after experiences (thoughts, emotions, sensations, perceptions).  I share a number of quotes from Ramana Maharshi and talk about ways to access the unchanging and irreducible awareness that is our true self. To learn more about Ramana Maharshi and his teachings, visit: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ramana_Maharshi

Who am I? What am I here for? What am I supposed to do? If you're alive you've asked these questions at some point in your life. Let's explore some biblical answers and step into kingdom identity, callings and assignments.

 It's almost a given that at some point during our lives we will question "Who am I?" What is our purpose and why are we here, usually follow. Joe Heschmeyer joins me this week to answer that question within the context of society today. Deep question indeed! You will definitely want to check out his book Who Am I, Lord? Finding Your Identity in Christ here.

We all make mistakes but how we react to these is what sets all of us apart. You can either sulk in your problems or walk away from it happier. But how can you move on from a difficulty you’ve gone through?Life can be a rollercoaster, we have ups and downs and in the midst of all of that, we are searching for more. We are searching for more meaning, happiness, success, love, acceptance and fulfillment. But what we are really searching for and pursuing our purpose. We want to live ON purpose.In this episode Empowerment Speaker and Author Jeff A.D. Martin shares his journey to live on purpose and help others do the same. Jeff talks about dealing with a family member that got murdered, speaking to young people to empower them to find greatness, his journey with being a police officer, and being a best-selling author. This is an inspiring conversation that you don’t want to miss.Jeff is a transformational speaker, critically acclaimed author and curator of Inspire Legacy Speakers and Inspire Legacy Student Character Curriculum.WANT TO BECOME A BETTER SPEAKER? Let Jeff help you. Signup for his speaking course, Inspire Legacy Speakers Academy and get 25% off! This is exclusive for listeners of this podcast. Use discount code: grindandgratitude         [06:59] We can really move mountains with the movement of what we’re doing here… It allows us to make such a bigger impact in places that we would never think we would reach.         [11:33] I’m saving lives and i don’t say that in a cocky way. I say that because I’ve been able to walk in my purpose. And my purpose has been to stand up and to speak life into people who are going through difficult circumstances.          [12:04] All of us have gone through some type of trauma in our life. We’ve all gone through some type of difficulty. However, if we can learn to stand on top of our story, not to drown in our story, then there’s someone who can learn from your story and be blessed by it. And have their life changed & healed, have them recognize that their life is valuable and important. It all comes down to understanding and learning from your difficulty to push your life forward.         [12:44] A lot of us have to learn lessons from things that didn’t go right in the past and learn how to walk through it stronger than before.         [14:07] It is so important to learn not to allow our situations to hinder us but instead grow from them. There’s always a lesson within that story. We have to learn how to die to the old us so the new us can be born, the new me can be born.         [16:38] It’s important for people to know that your life is bigger, it might take some time to find your gift or that one thing that you’re really great at but don’t give up on searching for it.         [19:23] I decided to walk into my purpose, take the negative energy I had and turn it into something to make an impact on this world.         [21:00] People need leadership. People need to hear the voice of people like you and me so they can find the direction they need to go into to make their life magnificent again.         [22:51] 3 Questions you need to ask yourself everyday: Who am I? What do I want? And what’s my purpose? When you ask these 3 questions everyday, it brings you purpose. As we ask ourselves these 3 questions it starts to bring clarity. When we start gaining clarity on these 3 questions, we gain clarity on our purpose and guide us in life.         [25:04] You have to have the discipline to follow your curiosity. How can you know your purpose if you haven’t tried other things? Whatever you feel you’re being drawn towards, you have to have the discipline to act on that because that’s where you’re supposed be at that time. We have to act on that curiosity.         [27:26] There’s always lessons in your circumstances that you can use to propel yourself forward.         [31:07] There are a lot of broken people in the world. They believe they are destined to be there. And because of that, their children are destined to be the same way. We need to learn that we can break that cycle.         [33:40] I really believe that none of us are here by accident. We’re here for a reason and purpose. While we’re here, again as I spoke about earlier, the problems that we sometimes face in life - it’s a story. It’s a story that you can use to help and heal other people. I want to be able to help others change lives of others through telling their story. I’ve heard, seen, and done it. I know it works. I want to help people to do the same thing.         [40:00] You have to seek out people in your life that are mentors, coaches, goal-getters to help you to level up your life. Find people who will inspire you to search for the greatness within you and take action on that.         [44:59] The way the world works in my opinion is that we go to school, we graduate, go to university, graduate, and work for the next 30 years. If we teach kids, we teach them how the more independent than some of us are in the community.         [53:07] You can start taking the steps right now to push your life forward. You can start today.         [54:36] There are 2 great times to plant a tree, once is 20 years ago and the 2nd best time is right now. Today is the day to start.         [01:00:41] Don’t try to be the impact in the world. Be the impact in YOUR world.            [01:00:17] No matter what your gift is, it doesn’t have to be something that moves people motivationally. It can be whatever gift it is that you have but you have to put it into this world because it can change the life of somebody around you and make their life better. And make your life better because you were here.         [01:03:41] That is the lesson. It doesn’t matter what you do, it’s all about following that gift and just trying to serve and trying to do it to the best of your ability. Don’t ever give up on your dream. Don’t ever give up searching.         [01:04:17] To grind means to wake up every single day and to chase your passion and purpose. It’s putting yourself into action so you could take even the tiniest of baby steps to get towards your purpose.         [01:05:12] Gratitude is appreciating everything around you. It is when you can see something not for what it is but for what it can be. Links:Jeff AD Martin WebsiteJeff AD Martin InstagramJeff AD Martin FacebookJeff AD Martin LinkedInBe a part of the Inspire Legacy Speakers Academy. Use the code grindandgratitudeDanny Stone WebsiteDanny Stone on Instagram

We’ve been raised in a culture that values the outward appearance of our bodies over the inner workings of what truly makes us who we are. How often have you asked yourself: “Who am I? What do I want? What do I need?” We’ve all experienced moments in life where we have felt completely, intrinsically connected with ourselves. However, as we step into our roles as women and mothers, oftentimes we lose sight of the person we once felt deeply connected to. In this episode, Jen and Annie are joined by our expert Balance365 Coach, and Body Image Therapist, Deandra Dey. Join us as Deandra thoughtfully guides us through the intricacies and nuances of getting to know oneself, teaches us how to create space in our own lives for ourselves and how to fully arrive into our power as women. Come be social with us! Balance365 Facebook: Weight Loss Without Restriction Balance365 Instagram: @balance365life

Welcome to our 3 Part Series Back Into The Wild - Part 3 Unapologetically Rewild A series to help women release the struggle from resentment and find freedom in relationships. Marisa Lupo, Coach For Divorced Moms, and I Jeanette Lucero Mindset Coach share our personal struggles through marriage and the steps we took to freedom both in our relationships, and ourselves and now apply within our private coaching practices. Marisa and I share in the experience so many women face every day in waking up and looking around at their life and wondering "how did I get here? This is not the life I am supposed to be living!" We understand women need help in recovering the deeper truth to making the decisions necessary around relationships, knowing that there is always the part we take in any relationship regardless of the outcome. Questions like; who am I? What do I want? What is my part in this? What do I need to change? How do I change? There are foundational steps we share linked below to beginning this process that is extremely effective to open up your truth. Each part of this series will have specific exercises to follow in discovery, awareness, and the process of resolution. We highly encourage completing the entire 3 part series to receive the benefits. The link below will take you into setting up an account where you will have access to all 3 parts and tools provided coaligning in each part of the series. Back Into The Wild FREE Mini-Course: https://85-15-lifestyle.mykajabi.com/Backintothewild BOOK Journal Writing Janet Connor https://janetconner.com/writing-down-your-soul/ https://www.amazon.com/Lotus-Lily-Nourish-Beautiful-Abundant/dp/1573245860 -Self Development: The Compound Affect by Darren Hardy https://www.amazon.com/Compound-Effect-Darren-Hardy For more information on Marisa Lupo one-on-one Divorce Coaching and courses offered please visit: https://marisalupocoaching.com/ Here is her Waitlist for the upcoming course as well: https://marisa-lupo-7875.mykajabi.com/UntyingtheKnotsWaitlist She also has a Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/untyingtheknotsofdivorce/?source_id=232604490823255 For more information on Health Mindset Coaching and courses with Jeanette Lucero please visit: https://www.85-15lifestyle.com/ Join my Private all-women Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/youareabadassmother/learning_content/

Over 90% of foreigners in China speak ZERO Chinese? Turns out, yes. This figure was quoted by Ilya Cheremnikh, founder of Culture Yard Chinese Language School, whom we talked to two weeks ago. That weekend we decided to do something new with the SCOLAR Talk format, grabbed our tripods, microphones, cameras and phones, and set out to Beijing hutongs to talk to the Russian Israeli businessman and a Chinese language teacher, the main hero of our episode today. Ilya's story is an interesting one: born in Russia, Saint Petersburg, he moved to Jerusalem in his childhood and reached China more than a decade ago to start a language school. We had lots of questions to ask from our guest – who was simultaneously "hosting" us in the cosy corner of the narrow-alleyed hutongs in central Beijing, where every day he is relentlessly working to reach his dream of "teaching Chinese language through culture". The product of our experiment is a 25-minute video interview, where Ilya is sharing his and Culture Yard's stories, rewinds back to his university days when he first got interested in China & the Chinese language, explains how he came up with the idea of having a language school, and shares the experience of setting up a small business in Beijing. You can find the video interview on our SCOLAR Academy YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fNWE6TPrWs Please put a like if you enjoy watching it, subscribe to show your support and get updates on our new videos, and send us your thoughts and comments! Culture Yard website: http://cultureyard.net/ Contact details: Address: 10 Shique Hutong, Beijing Phone: 010-84044166 Email: contact@cultureyard.net Episode Transcript: Olim Alimov, Host (Olim): Ilya, where are we? Илья, где мы? Ilya Cheremnikh, Culture Yard (Ilya): we are in Culture Yard. In the center of Beijing, in the middle of the Beijing hutongs. Culture Yard is a Chinese Language School and at the same time a Chinese cultural center. Basically, what we used to do before the Corona, we organized many events, lectures, Chinese film screenings, and Chinese language classes. A big part of them is that classes are very practical. We mostly teach people around different topics that can help them in their daily life, as well as [prepare] for the HSK exam. Nowadays most of our classes are online, because that’s where Corona has brought us. Now we're doing a bit of a similar thing where we teach people from all around the world in groups in an online live setting. Мы в Culture Yard. В центре Пекина, посреди пекинских хутунов. Culture Yard является школой китайского языка и одновременно центром изучения китайской культуры. По сути, до коронавируса мы организовали много мероприятий, лекций, китайских кинопоказов и уроков китайского языка. Фишка уроков в том, что занятия очень практичны. В основном мы обучаем людей различным темам, которые могут помочь им в их повседневной жизни, а также готовим их к экзамену HSK. В настоящее время большинство наших классов проводятся онлайн – Корона нас сюда привела. Сейчас мы учим людей со всего мира в группах в режиме онлайн. Olim: why hutong? Почему хутуны? Ilya: hutong, for me, is the historic centre of Beijing, the capital of China. And if you look – up until 50-60 years ago, this is what Beijing used to look like. And it still preserved a lot of that feeling, that culture. I also really like the felling that it’s low-rises, [there are] a lot of historic places, a lot of old Beijingers who live here. When you are based in this environment, you don’t feel the modern side of Beijing, you’re still connected to the roots of the capital. You still see the old people living their lives like they used to – they have little markets, people grow their own pigeons. This is a big part of the experience for the people who live here, who study here. Being in this area, absorbing it and being part of this historic city. Хутуны для меня являются историческим центром Пекина, столицы Китая. Если так посмотреть - 50-60 лет назад именно так и выглядел Пекин. И здесь все еще царит именно этот духа, чувствуется эта культура. Мне также очень нравится, что есть много малоэтажек, [есть] много исторических мест, много старых пекинцев, которые живут здесь. Когда вы находитесь в этой среде, вы не видите современную сторону Пекина. Вы как бы все еще связаны с корнями столицы. Вы видите, как старики живут своей жизнью, так же, как раньше - со своими маленькими магазинчиками, выращивая своих голубей. Это большая часть опыта для тех людей, которые здесь живут, учатся – быть частью этого исторического города. Olim: now, in your offline classes, do you have sessions with your students where you go out and talk to the locals here? В рамках уроков в офлайн режиме, у вас есть занятия с вашими учениками, где вы выходите на улицу и разговариваете здесь с местными жителями? Ilya: we have a part of our course which called "Survival Chinese". We have a few different modules where we study in the classroom and then we go out. So there is one [module] where we teach people how to shop and bargain, and then we go to the local vegetable market, and they talk to people and practice their Chinese. We have a different one for ordering food in the restaurant, and also we to the local hutong restaurant, and they talk to the people on the road, and we go to the restaurant and then students are trying to order food in Chinese. So we are trying to build it into the experience. У нас есть часть нашего курса, которая называется «Китайский для выживания». Есть несколько разных модулей, где мы учимся в классе, а затем выходим на улицу. Например, есть один [модуль], где мы учим людей, как совершать покупки на торговаться, а затем мы идем на местный овощной рынок, и они разговаривают с людьми и практикуют свой китайском языке. Сначала мы изучаем нужные вещи в классноцй комнате, а затем идем в ресторан, где студенты пытаются заказать еду на китайском языке. Наша цель – сделать такую практику частью учебного опыта. Olim: you have had this business for, what, 10 years now? Этому бизнесу уже 10 лет, так? Ilya: yes, a bit over 10 years. Да. чуть больше 10. Olim: in 10 years, what was the most surprising student who came with zero Chinese, and now you see this person doing – what? за 10 лет какой студент больше всего удивил? Кто-то, кто пришел бы с нулевым китайским , а теперь этот человек делает... - что? Ilya: I can give you a couple of examples that I remember. One is a Dutch lady. She came here with her husband. So he came for the job, and she didn’t know what to do with her time. She decided to see if she could learn some Chinese. She loved it. She went from nothing to (if you’re familiar with the HSK) HSK 5, and then they moved to Suzhou, and now she’s managing a factory – completely in Chinese. We’ve had some journalists who came here with no Chinese, they would only work in English with a translator, and now they can take their interviews in Chinese. There are a lot of interesting stories. A good friend of mine, actually, came here with no Chinese, and then he started a real estate business after studying with us. Я могу привести пару примеров, которые я помню. Была одна леди из Голландии. Она приехала сюда со своим мужем. Он приехал в Китай работать, а она не знала, чем занять свое время. Она решила посмотреть, сможет ли она выучить немного китайского. Ей очень понравилось. Она, так сказать, выросла с совершенного нуля к (если вы знакомы с классификацией уровней HSK) HSK 5. Затем они переехали в Сучжоу, и теперь она руководит заводом - полностью на китайском языке. У нас было несколько журналистов, которые приходили сюда без китайского языка, они работали только на английском языке с переводчиком, и теперь могут спокойно брать интервью на китайском языке. Здесь бывает много интересных историй. Мой хороший друг приехал в Китай без языка, а потом он начал заниматься недвижимостью, после обучения с нами. Olim: so, in theory, you must be killing now – this is the best time for online classes. True or false? Теоретически, сейчас у вас с бизнесом должно быть все хорошо - сейчас лучшее время для онлайн-классов. Правда или ложь? Ilya: true. правда. Olim: if you compare July 2020 to July 2019 – what does the curve look like? Если сравнивать июль 2020 года и июль 2019, как выглядит эта кривая роста? Ilya: I would say, it’s comparable. It’s not better, nor worse – don’t forget that in February with started online from zero. But for me it’s good, because we’ve built a completely new business from nothing in, what, 5 months? At the moment is bringing just as much as what we did before with all of our offline stuff. Я бы сказал, это сопоставимо, но не лучше и не хуже - не забывайте, что в феврале мы начали онлайн занятия с нуля. Но для меня это хороший результат, потому что мы построили совершенно новую бизнес-модель из ничего, за... 5 месяцев? На данный момент то, что мы делаем, приносит столько же дохода, сколько мы получали раньше со всеми нашими офлайн-мероприятиями. Olim: let’s go back to when and why you started all this. You are originally from Saint Petersburg, Russia, then at the age of 8 you moved to Israel, Jerusalem. And then, in 2009 you moved to China. Why did you start studying Chinese in Israel and why did you move to China and began teaching Chinese to foreigners here? What was the process like and what was the thought process like behind those actions? Давайте вернемся к тому, когда и почему вы начали все это. Вы родом из Санкт-Петербурга в России, затем в возрасте 8 лет вы переехали в Израиль, Иерусалим. А потом, в 2009 году вы переехали в Китай. Почему вы начали изучать китайский язык в Израиле и почему вы переехали в Китай и начали преподавать здесь иностранцам китайский язык? Каков был процесс и каков был мыслительный процесс за этими действиями? Ilya: I actually started learning Chinese completely by accident. I was at the university, I didn’t like one of my two majors and I wanted to switch to a different major. And I was looking for something that would feel more practical and challenging. And I saw people in the library every day sitting and writing characters. And I thought: you know what? Learning a language that is a difficult language – or is considered a difficult language – will give me something that I can use in the world. Something that is tangible. So I started learning Chinese at the university, I did a Bachelors degree in Chinese studies. And during my studies I first came to China just for a visit to see what it’s like, because I didn’t know anything besides what was learning at the university. And I came here for a summer, for a couple of months. I completely fell in love, and I was […] so fascinated by this place, and the culture, and the language, and the landscapes. I was in Shanghai, and you know – [you see both] the skyscrapers and the rice fields. I was like: as soon as I’m done with my studies, I’m going to move to China. But then I arrived here and I couldn’t speak a word because I never spoke to anyone. There were no Chinese in Israel at that time, ... На самом деле я начал изучать китайский совершенно случайно. Я учился в университете, мне не нравилась одна из двух специальностей, и я хотел перейти на другую специальность. Я искал что-то более практичное. Каждый день я видел в библиотеке людей, пишущих иероглифы. И я подумал: а что? Изучение языка, который является (или считается) сложным языком даст мне что-то, что я смогу использовать на деле. Что-то осязаемое. Так что я начал изучать китайский язык в университете, получил степень бакалавра китаистики. И во время учебы я впервые приехал в Китай просто для того, чтобы посмотреть, что это за страна. Потому что я ничего не знал о ней кроме того, что учил в университете. И я приехал сюда на лето, на пару месяцев. Я полностью влюбился, и я был [...] настолько очарован этим местом, и культурой, и языком, и пейзажами. Я был в Шанхае, и вы знаете - [вы видите одновременно] небоскребы и рисовые поля. Я подумал: как только закончу учебу, перееду в Китай. Но потом я приехал сюда и не мог произнести ни слова, потому что никогда ни с кем не разговаривал. В то время в Израиле не было китайцев, ... Olim: especially coming here and speaking the Beijing hua, right? [imitates the local Beijing dialect with a lot of “r" sounds] особенно если речь идет о пекинском диалекте, да? [подражает местному пекинскому диалекту с большим количеством звуков «г/р»] Ilya: or even worse – I was in Shanghai, and they switch to their own language, to the Shanghai hua. And I’m like... или даже хуже - я был в Шанхае, и они переключаются на свой собственный язык, на шанхайский "хуа". И я такой думаю ... Olim (laughs): .. "where am I? What did I study for the past 4 years?" "Где я? Что я изучал последние 4 года?" Ilya: exactly. My point was: OK, I come here and I want to study more. So I did 3 more semesters in China. In one small university in Beijing, in Donghua University in Shanghai, and in Qingdao University in Qingdao. And all [three] universities are considered quite good universities, but when I was studying [it was] pretty much the teacher speaking and you taking notes. Even Spoken Chinese class meant was that you had a book called “Spoken Chinese”. But there wasn’t much speaking in the class. And for me this is not what language teaching/learning is all about. For me, learning a language is – one, you learn stuff that helps you in your everyday life or helps you, let’s say, in your job. So, let’s say, you’re now doing business – so learn things that have to do with your business. Or if you’ve just moved to China, you need to know how to talk to your neighbour or buy things in a shop. And you need to have a lot of practice in class, you need to speak a lot, to build up those speaking abilities, because that’s what most people want to do. And I didn’t really get it, not in my studies in Israel, nor in my studies here in China. So this was my main motivation: "you know what, let me try to do something a little bit different". Именно. Мой план был такой: я приехал сюда и хочу больше учиться. Так, я провел еще 3 семестра, учась в Китае: в одном небольшом университете в Пекине, в университете Донхуа в Шанхае и в циндаоском университете в Циндао. И все [три] университета считаются довольно хорошими заведениями, но когда я учился, [в основном] модель обучения была такая, что говорил учитель, а вы записывали что-то. Даже урок разговорного китайского языка означал, что у вас есть книга под названием «Разговорный китайский». Но в классе говорили мало. Для меня это совсем не то, что из себя должно представлять преподавание / изучение языка. Для меня изучение языка - это изучение того, что помогает вам в повседневной жизни или, скажем, в вашей работе. Итак, допустим, вы сейчас занимаетесь бизнесом, поэтому изучаете вещи, которые имеют отношение к вашему бизнесу. Или, если вы только что переехали в Китай, вам нужно знать, как разговаривать с соседом или покупать вещи в магазине. И надо много практиковаться в классе, нужно много говорить, чтобы практиковать эти разговорные навыки – это то, что большинство людей хотят делать. И я действительно не получил такого опыта, ни во время моей учебы в Израиле, ни здесь, в китайских университетах. Так что это было моей главной мотивацией: принести что-то новое в преподавание киатйского. Olim: but it’s one thing to come here, to experience life, to study a bit of Chinese, and a completely another thing to start a business. Tell me about the process of beginning a business in China, especially in the field of education, and tell me what your first 5 years looked like.Но одно дело - приехать сюда, пожить в Китае, немного изучить китайский язык, и совсем другое - начать бизнес. Расскажи мне о том, как начать бизнес в Китае, особенно в сфере образования, и расскажи, как выглядели твои первые 5 лет после основания школы. Ilya: I was lucky to be young and stupid enough to not think too much when I was starting a business.Мне повезло быть молодым и достаточно глупым, чтобы не думать слишком много, когда я начинал бизнес. Olim: lesson No. 1: Be young & stupid. And don’t think too much. Урок № 1: Будь молодым и глупым. И не думай слишком много. Ilya (laughs): Because when you’re young and stupid, you’re just like: OK, I’m starting a business, that’s it. Then you just find out what is the process, how you register. That time a Chinese friend was helping me, we looked online – literally, we were looking online: where do I go? We went to the Dongcheng Bureau of Commerce, because that’s where you need to go to register your business. So we went there, and I was like: “I want to start a business”. Потому что, когда вы молоды и глупы, вы просто говорите себе: ОК, я начинаю бизнес, вот и все. Потом вы просто узнаете, что это за процесс, как зарегистрироваться, и т.д. В то время мне помогал друг из Китая, мы искали онлайн - буквально: куда нам надо идти? Мы пошли в торговое бюро в районе Dongcheng, потому что именно туда нужно пойти, чтобы зарегистрировать бизнес. Мы пошли туда, и я сказал: «Я хочу начать бизнес». Olim: nobody goes there! (laughs). Никто вообще туда не ходит! Ilya (also laughs): I went there. And I was like “so, what do I need to do?”. I think even now foreigners don’t actually go to those places. А я пошел и спросил: "Так что мне надо делать?". Я думаю, что даже сейчас иностранцы не ходят туда. Olim: exactly. They hire an agent! Именно. Они просто нанимают агента! Ilya: But then I didn’t have a lot money, I wanted to save a little bit, so I thought: well, what’s the problem? I’ll just go and do it myself. They were extremely nice. I was getting a lot of help in Beijing from the government officials. All along the way they were guiding me, giving me these long lists of things to do. First, you need to come up with a name, then you need to open a Chinese bank account. At that time you had to transfer money from abroad to a Chinese bank account. Но тогда у меня не было много денег, я хотел немного сэкономить, поэтому я подумал: ну, в чем проблема? Я просто пойду и сделаю это сам. Они (работники) отнеслись ко мне очень хорошо. Я получал большую поддержку в Пекине от правительственных органов. Все это время они направляли меня, давали мне длинные списки тех вещей, которые нужно сделать. Сначала нужно придумать имя для предприятия, затем нужно открыть счет в китайском банке... В то время вам надо было переводить деньги из-за границы на китайский банковский счет. Olim: because you actually registered a WFOE (Wholly Foreign Owned Enterprise – ed.). потому что вы на самом деле зарегистрировали WFOE (полностью находящееся в иностранной собственности предприятие - ред.). Ilya: I registered a WFOE. Да, я зарегистрировал WFOE. Olim: you finished with the registration, and then you actually started the business? Вы закончили с регистрацией, а потом фактически начали бизнес? Ilya: I was doing it at the same time. Я это делала одновременно. Olim: you already had students? Тогда уже были студенты? Ilya: no, I had this space. Because you need to have a place to register a business on. Нет, но я уже арендовал это место. Потому что бизнес надо зарегистрировать на конкретный адрес. Olim: this place (points at the Culture Yard premises)? Вот это самое место? Ilya: yes. Part of the registration is – you need to have a space, but the registration is not over then. So it’s still going on, you’re registering, but I already have the space, I’m paying rent. And I asked them at the Bureau of Commerce: what happens if I already start? And they were like: of course, as long as you’re in the process of registration, nobody would care. And that’s 2009. I moved to China in early 2008, with the business – late 2009 we already started the process of registration. So around that time we started having our first classes here. Да. Требование для регистрации - у вас должно быть место, но на этом регистрация не окончена. Так что все еще продолжается. Но у меня уже было место, я платил за аренду. И я спросил их в Торговом бюро: что будет, если я уже начну вести бизнес? И они сказли: конечно, без проблем, если вы уже в процессе регистрации, ни у кого не возникнет проблем по этому поводу. Это было в 2009 году. Я переехал в Китай в начале 2008 года - в конце 2009 года мы уже начали регистрировать школу. Примерно в это же время у нас начались первые занятия. Olim: what’s your favorite restaurant here? Как у вас тут любимый ресторан? Ilya: I have quite a few, a lot of favorite restaurants.Есть несколько любимых мест. Olim: what’s the one that you go to, and you know what you order, and the owner knows you? Есть такой, куда вы идете и знаете, что будете заказывать, а владелец знает вас? Ilya: there is one that I’ve been recently going to. It’s a little kind of BBQ place, five minute walk north from here. I once criticized them that their cucumber dish that I really like wasn't fresh enough. And since I’ve done it, every time a very old father of the owner shouts from behind: “The cucumbers are fresh today!” Есть один, куда я хожу с недавних пор. Это маленькое место по типу барбекю, в пяти минутах ходьбы к северу отсюда. Однажды я критиковал их за то, что их огуречное блюдо, которое мне действительно нравится, было недостаточно свежим. И с тех пор как я это сделал, каждый раз очень старый отец хозяина кричит сзади: «Огурцы сегодня свежие!» (Both laugh). Оба смеются Olim: so you’ve started 10 years ago. You had 1-3 students, but you already had the cost of the rent. Probably it was 50-70% of what it is today, but nevertheless you had a lot of cost. How long did it take you to get your ROI (Return on Investment – ed.) back? Вы начали 10 лет назад. У вас было 1-3 студента, но уже надо было платить стоимость аренды. Вероятно, это было 50-70% от сегодняшней стоимости, но тем не менее было много затрат. Сколько времени вам понадобилось, чтобы вернуть ROI (возврат инвестиций - ред.)? Ilya: honestly, it was a bit of a roller-coaster. We had periods, already quite early on, when we were doing quite well. But then I wouldn’t be careful with my costs, and I would maybe hire too many people, and there wouldn’t be enough income coming in, and it would fail again. I had a lot of struggle to survive. Честно говоря, это было что-то вроде американских горок. У нас были периоды, уже на довольной ранней стадии, когда все было хорошо. Но я иногда был неосторожен с расходами, и, например, нанимал слишком много людей. Потом не было достаточно доходов, и мы снова были на грани провала. Надо было много бороться, чтобы выжить. Olim: was there a point when you said: I’d better quit? Были ли моменты, когда вы думали: все, лучше это бросить? Ilya: more than once. Not because I didn’t believe in myself, but because I was tired, and I was like: “What’s the point?”. I’ve been doing this, and it’s not completely working how I want it to work, and I’m just tired. Let’s go do something else, let’s find a job. I had those moments. И даже не один раз. Не потому, что я не верил в себя, а потому, что устал, и думал «какой в этом смысл?». Я вкладывал в это усилия, и все работало не совсем так, как я планировал, и я просто устал. Думал: может, займусь чем-нибудь другим, найду работу. У меня были такие моменты. Olim: what did you actually do to overcome those moments? Что вы сделали, чтобы преодолеть эти моменты? Ilya: it’s kind of funny: my low moments, mentally, were not when the business was doing extremely bad. When the business is doing bad, I don’t think. I go and I just do everything myself. I had a period when for 6 months I couldn’t afford any admin personnel, so I was doing everything. I was here since 7 in the morning until 10 in the evening, pretty much 7 days a week. My moment going down was after that was over, and the business was already ok, and I was like: so, what now? I’m tired, I’ve been working so hard. So it’s more about when I have time to think, but it’s not a moment of growth. Things are kind of just OK. That’s when I get a little bit low, not when we’re doing bad. Довольно забавная вещь: мои испытывающие моменты были не тогда, когда дела шли очень плохо. Когда дела идут плохо, я много не думаю. Я просто иду и все делаю сам. У меня был период, когда в течение 6 месяцев я не мог позволить нанять административный персонал, поэтому я делал все сам. Я был тут в офисе с 7 утра до 10 вечера, почти 7 дней в неделю. Мой момент "стушевания" наступил после того, как этот период прошел. Дела уже шли хорошо, и я думал: так, и что теперь? Я устал, я так много работал. Так что тут речь идет о моментах, когда у меня есть время на раздумия, но это происходит не в момент роста в бизнесе. Все вроде нормально. И именно тогда бывает сложно, а не тогда, когда дела идет плохо. Olim: when you’re doing bad you’re on a cruise control. Когда все плохо, вы на круиз-контроле Ilya: exactly. Именно так. Olim: everybody says that Chinese is No. 2 language in the world to study. Do the numbers agree with that premise? Все говорят, что китайский язык – это язык № 2 в мире для изучения. Пожтверждают ли цифры это заявление? Ilya: yes and no. Majority of people who study Chinese, they study it before coming to China. And two, over 90% of foreigners in China speak zero Chinese. Not basic Chinese – zero Chinese. In Shanghai we see it very strongly. So for me, I see my job as educating people that it’s a fun language to learn. Actually, at the beginning it is very easy to get your basics – to have those basic conversations is an easy thing to do, not a scary thing to do. Because the grammar is very simple in Chinese. Because the second you start speaking, you’re like: “Hey, this is amazing! I’m speaking Chinese!" И да и нет. Во-первых, большинство людей, которые изучают китайский язык, изучают его до приезда в Китай. Во-вторых, более 90% иностранцев в Китае вообще не знают китайского. У них не базовый китайский - это нулевой китайский. В Шанхае это очень хорошо прослеживается. Так что я вижу свою работу в том, чтобы показывать людям, что это забавный язык для изучения. На самом деле, в начале очень легко получить базовые знания - провести эти базовые разговоры легко, а не страшно. Потому что грамматика очень проста на китайском языке. Потому что, как только вы начинаете говорить, вы говорите: «Эй, это потрясающе! Я говорю по-китайски! Olim: it’s true (laughs). "Mum, look at me! Hear me say". Да, именно (смеется). "Мам, посмотри! Послушай! Ilya: exactly. Именно. Olim: what is Beijing for you? Что для вас значит Пекин? Ilya (thinks): home? I Think. Думаю, дом. Olim: what is home? Что такое "дом"? Ilya: home is where my roots are. My friends, my partner, my connections, my favorite coffee shop... All of it is here now. Дом – это где мои "корни". Мои друзья, моя партнер, мой круг знакомых, любимая кафейня. Все это сейчас здесь. Olim: is Beijing hutong or is Beijing Guomao (a busy area in the eastern part of central Beijing with many commercial offices and shopping malls)? Пекин - это хутуны или Гуомао (оживленный район в восточной части центрального Пекина со множеством коммерческих офисов и торговых центров)? Ilya: it’s everything. I personally love the hutongs because it is my base, but I go out of this base. I go to all parts of the city, but I like coming here in the evening and having this village-like ## atmosphere. Knowing my neighbors, goin to my little Hutong restaurants. Пекин – это все сразу. Я лично люблю хутуны, потому что я здесь базируюсь. Но я выхожу из хутунов во все районы города. При этом мне нравится возвращаться сюда вечером в такую деревенскую атмосферу. Где ты знаешь своих соседей и можешь сходить в родные маленькие рестораны.

Mark Victor Hansen is probably best known as the co-author for the Chicken Soup for the Soul book series and brand, setting world records in book sales, with over 500 million books sold. He is also a prolific writer with 307 books authored or co-authored. Mark also worked his way into a worldwide spotlight as a sought-after keynote speaker and entrepreneurial marketing maven. He is a charismatic speaker having spoken to 7,000 audiences in 78 countries. Crystal Dwyer Hansen is a business strategist and successful entrepreneur, speaker, and author in the US and China. Crystal, also known as the “celebrity coach,” is a certified life coach and wellness/nutrition expert, whose personal coaching, speaking, CD and video programs, books, and articles have helped people all over the world. Crystal is a Member of the International Coaching Federation and the founder of Crystal Vision Life and Skinny Life®, a wellness company. Crystal is also the author of Skinny Life: The Real Secret to Being Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit. Mark and Crystal are heavily engaged and invested in clean, renewable energy through ownership in two companies, Metamorphosis Energy and Natural Power Concepts, based in Hawaii. The Hansen's join the show to talk about the idea of their latest book, and the first they wrote together, Ask! The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny. Key Points from the Episode with Crystal & Mark Hansen: Mark and Crystal Hansen joined the show to talk about their new book, Ask! The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny. Crystal opened talking about how the book begins, with a fable of a woman named Michaela, who lives a difficult life after losing her parents and everything she owns A being comes into her life and teaches her how to ask and build opportunities rather than staying afraid and constrained Mark chimed in about the genesis of the story, and how important it was to include it as it is in the book Mark is one of the authors of the Chicken Soup for The Soul series, which includes 309 best-selling books and is the number one selling series in the world Crystal is a transformational life coach, clinical hypnotherapist and author who focuses on helping people achieve their vision They met when Mark was speaking at an event her mother told her to attend, and they connected instantly, building a deep friendship long before getting married This project, Ask!, is the first book they’re writing together Asking helps us wake up, illuminate and open the paths to possibility There are three channels to asking that Crystal shared - asking yourself, asking others and asking God Those who don’t ask all three are missing things in their lives, so they endeavored to uncover why this tool to ask gets shut down in our lives Children are all born as master askers, yet as we grow up, we’re taught to suppress that and hold back – the ability to ask gets crushed and slowed down There are seven road blocks to asking, which all of us has at least one of those Unworthiness Naiveté Doubt Fear Excuses Pattern Paralysis Disconnection When we’re stuck, it’s because we don’t have answers, so we may fear asking ourselves This can be a signal to ask why we don’t have answers rather than trying to ask for the answers themselves Three questions we can ask ourselves are, “Where am I? Where do I want to be? What actions do I need to take to get there?” The God part is about your destiny It can be hard to see what our destiny is, and this is what Mark and Crystal say we need to ask God Maybe the gifts we have go beyond the things we see around us, so we need help seeing what we are really here for Even if you don’t believe in God, ask what your part is in this amazing universe. Mark shared the story of a kid named Sparky who failed at everything in high school - sports, academics, etc. His one talent, as he saw it, was drawing, but he got rejected everywhere. He decided to put out his own comic strip, which went on to be the number one comic in the world, Peanuts. Sparky’s real name is Charles Schulz He asked himself, “Who am I? What is it that I can do better than anyone?” And just go manifest that. Crystal talked about the work we need to do to prepare to be a good asker, which takes belief and a sense of deserving. You need to believe that you can ask, and believe that you deserve the answer. This echoes my message around self-love. It’s about having a vision for what you want, but also painting the rest of the picture to understand what you need to build to make it a reality If you keep asking throughout your journey, your life will be revealed to you as you Crystal shared the research that shows that, when you ask a question, a different part of your brain lights up, so you’re bringing more of your mental power into your journey Mark shared the rejection story behind Chicken Soup for the Soul, where they received 144 rejections, but he kept pushing to make it a reality, asking a church congregation to sign up to buy the book before there even was a book, effectively crowdfunding the project Crystal shared her story of getting married young, then getting divorced with a 2-year-old and nothing to her name She was on welfare and food stamps, and decided she wasn’t do her best to change her situation, and made material changes as she asked herself what she could do, what she wanted, and what she needed to put in place to get there. She started doing temp work, got her real estate license and became the top seller and did modeling and commercial work, getting her benefits to protect herself and her child just 18 months after the moment she asked herself if she was doing enough Crystal shared a surprising stat that, based on their research, 80% of things you ask for get a Yes response. We often go into it thinking the opposite is true! They are hosting a free book club for people who get their book that you can sign up for at askthebookclub.com Links: Website: askthebookclub.com, markvictorhansen.com & crystalvisionlife.com Book: Ask! The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny Facebook: @crystaldwyerhansen & @markvictorhansen Instagram: @crystaldwyerhansen & @markvictorhansen Twitter: @crystaldwyerhansen & @markvictorhansen Subscribe to The Do a Day Podcast    Keep Growing with Do a Day Get Bryan's best-selling first book, Do a Day, which is the inspiration for this show and can help you overcome your greatest challenges and achieve in life. Read Bryan's best-selling second book, The 50 75 100 Solution: Build Better Relationships, to tap into the power we all have to improve our relationships – even the tough ones we feel have no hope of getting better. Get started on your journey to Better with the Big Goal Exercise Take your growth into your own hands with the Do a Day Masterclass Work with Bryan as your coach, or hire him to speak at your next event  

Preacher: The Right Reverend Dr Martin Fair, Moderator of the General Assembly of the Church of Scotland Reflection: Who am I? What is my identity? (John 1:1-18) If you would like to give a donation towards the work of Cardonald Parish Church (Scottish Charity Number SC010265), you can do this securely via the Church of Scotland website, using the following link: https://cos.churchofscotland.org.uk/donate/?cong=160912 Music provided by The Church of Scotland - all rights reserved. First Hymn: New Scottish Hymns Band; Second Hymn: Greenbank Parish Church, Edinburgh; Third Hymn: Celtic Worship.

What’s up dirty cones What am I doing? Earn your savasana San Antonio was made to train the hopeless.... to find hope What am I? What turtles mean to me My turtle book and then my shark end of the world story What a power yoga hip opening class did for us Breaking the habit of being yourself By Joe Dispenza What Spartans mean to me by El Conito Let’s talk books, hit us up New book club 4 Aug 6 pm The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield What Hot Yoga means to me Dirtycones.com Thank you for listening

Anthony Fisher is a speaker, coach, author and designer that has been helping men transform their lives for over 20 years. He is a native of Southern California, the founder of The Branding Men Podcast, and is considered one of the top 50 personal brand strategists in the United States. In this episode we dive into four critical questions that every man needs to work through in order to become a “BRANDED MAN.” Enjoy the show!   The Branded Man Critical Questions: Who am I? What kind of man do I choose to be? Where am I going in life? How will I get there?   Get connected with Anthony Fisher: anthonyfisher.com

Welcome to our 3 Part Series Back Into The Wild. A series to help women release the struggle from resentment and find freedom in relationships. Marisa Lupo, Coach For Divorced Moms, and I Jeanette Lucero Mindset Coach share our personal struggles through marriage and the steps we took to freedom both in our relationships, and ourselves and now apply within our private coaching practices. Marisa and I share in the experience so many women face every day in waking up and looking around at their life and wondering "how did I get here? This is not the life I am supposed to be living!" We understand women need help in recovering the deeper truth to making the decisions necessary around relationships, knowing that there is always the part we take in any relationship regardless of the outcome. Questions like; who am I? What do I want? What is my part in this? What do I need to change? How do I change? There are foundational steps we share linked below to beginning this process that is extremely effective to open up your truth. Each part of this series will have specific exercises to follow in discovery, awareness, and the process of resolution. We highly encourage completing the entire 3 part series to receive the benefits. The link below will take you into setting up an account where you will have access to all 3 parts and tools provided coaligning in each part of the series. Back Into The Wild FREE Mini-Course: https://85-15-lifestyle.mykajabi.com/Backintothewild BOOK Recommendations: - Journal Writing Janet Connor https://janetconner.com/writing-down-your-soul/ https://www.amazon.com/Lotus-Lily-Nourish-Beautiful-Abundant/dp/1573245860 -Self Development: The Compound Affect by Darren Hardy https://www.amazon.com/Compound-Effect-Darren-Hardy For more information on Marisa Lupo one-on-one Divorce Coaching and courses offered please visit: https://marisalupocoaching.com/ Here is her waitlist for her upcoming course: https://marisa-lupo-7875.mykajabi.com/UntyingtheKnotsWaitlist She also has a Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/untyingtheknotsofdivorce/?source_id=232604490823255 For more information on Health Mindset Coaching and courses with Jeanette Lucero please visit: https://www.85-15lifestyle.com/ Join my Private all-women Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/youareabadassmother/learning_content/  

Welcome to our 3 Part Series Back Into The Wild. A series to help women release the struggle from resentment and find freedom in relationships. Marisa Lupo, Coach For Divorced Moms, and I Jeanette Lucero Mindset Coach share our personal struggles through marriage and the steps we took to freedom both in our relationships, and ourselves and now apply within our private coaching practices. Marisa and I share in the experience so many women face every day in waking up and looking around at their life and wondering "how did I get here? This is not the life I am supposed to be living!" We understand women need help in recovering the deeper truth to making the decisions necessary around relationships, knowing that there is always the part we take in any relationship regardless of the outcome. Questions like; who am I? What do I want? What is my part in this? What do I need to change? How do I change? There are foundational steps we share linked below to beginning this process that is extremely effective to open up your truth. Each part of this series will have specific exercises to follow in discovery, awareness, and the process of resolution. We highly encourage completing the entire 3 part series to receive the benefits. The link below will take you into setting up an account where you will have access to all 3 parts and tools provided coaligning in each part of the series. Back Into The Wild FREE Mini-Course: https://85-15-lifestyle.mykajabi.com/Backintothewild For more information on Marisa Lupo one-on-one Divorce Coaching and courses offered please visit: https://marisalupocoaching.com/ Here is the waitlist for her upcoming course: https://marisa-lupo-7875.mykajabi.com/UntyingtheKnotsWaitlist She also has a Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/untyingtheknotsofdivorce/?source_id=232604490823255 For more information on Health Mindset Coaching and courses with Jeanette Lucero please visit: https://www.85-15lifestyle.com/ Join my Private all-women Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/youareabadassmother/learning_content/  

Fact: your brand is what gets you hired. As a real estate agent, you need to focus on building your brand around your uniqueness - instead of trying to fit the typical "salesperson" mold. According to Luxury Top Producer and Author Ivan Estrada, you should be asking yourself the tough questions, "Who am I? What's my story?" in order to grow your brand with purpose. Understanding the answers to these two questions while allow you to narrow in on your ideal client and identify how you can serve them. Tune into this week's episode to discover the one thing that is going to push you and your business to the next level! Previous Episodes Featuring Ivan: EP #13: Life of a Celebrity Realtor EP#27: Working with Wealth Ivan's Book, Branding with Purpose Launching this November! We believe Leaders are READERS, below are a few of our favorite leadership books: Entreleadership – 20 years of practical business wisdom, Dave Ramsey The Ideal Team Player – How to recognize and cultivate three ideal traits in your team, Patrick Lencioni Business Boutique– A woman’s guide for making money and doing what she loves, Christy Wright  Our 3 Most Recent Episodes: EP #130: Develop Personally to Succeed Professionally: Have you ever considered what is truly holding you back from accomplishing your goals? Could it be self-doubt, fear of failure, or concern of the outcome? Realtor and Author Dawn Towne is on a mission to encourage us to live now as the women we aspire to be.  EP #129: Be more Effective and Efficient Real estate is an industry with what some would consider a low barrier of entry, it can produce a 6 figure income, and include personal flexibility 9-5 jobs may not allow for. But many agents still struggle and burnout is a common theme. EP #128: Amplify Your Lead Generation & Grow Your Audience: In a sales oriented career, you really have two roles. Completing the sale, but more importantly lead generation. You can staff assistance in every other part of the transaction, but only you, can be the rain maker.  Written & Produced by Kayla Davis | Hosted by Kyle Malnati Calibrate Real Estate 2425 S. Colorado Blvd #250, Denver, CO 80222 http://www.CalibrateRE.com    

Ep. 92 - The Resonant Strings - A Beacon Series Interview Ft. Meido Moore Roshi, abbot of Korinji, a Rinzai Zen monastery, and author of "The Rinzai Zen Way: A Guide to Practice" by Shambala Publications. ========== Zen. In the circles I’ve traveled it is a word that is often said and even more misunderstood. Truth? I am still trying to understand it myself. More truth? When I feel like I’ve built a nice and sturdy framework for it, the structure I’ve constructed topples to sticks and stones. I laugh about it. I cry about it. I let go. I start again. “This,” I think, “is Zen!" But is it? It’s this question that lies at the heart of my conversation with Meido Moore Roshi, abbot of Korinji, a Rinzai Zen monastery in Wisconsin, where he transmits Zen Buddhist teachings that can find roots as far back as 5th century India. Meido is an 86th-generation Zen dharma heir and a 48th-generation holder of the lineage descended from Rinzai Gigen. The Rinzai Zen way, as instructed by Meido Moore Roshi, places particular emphasis on making use of the body as part of the practice, as well as fine arts, and internal energetic work. It was clear to me that he has an elemental connection and appreciation for the natural world, sharing this with his students by incorporating earth, air, fire, and water into their training. While there is certainly an aesthetic to Zen that is quite peaceful and minimalist, Meido is clear that the Rinzai way is much more akin to boot camp than a day at the spa. In this conversation, Meido graciously helped clarify many of the concepts of Zen Buddhism, not least of all these three; What am I? What is this life for? Why is there suffering? Tucked in the green hills and farmlands of Madison, Wisconsin there is, at this very moment, an abbot and his students sincerely seeking the answers to these very questions. Wisdom and compassion are cultivated. The wheel of the dharma turns. Transmission occurs. I am reminded that it is good to have obtained this human existence. “This," I think, “is Zen." Now, it’s time to tune your attention to this Good News Beacon, and press play on a little good news. ========== SUPPORT FIND THE GOOD NEWS ON PATREON >> www.Patreon.com/FindTheGoodNews  ========== MEET MEIDO MOORE ROSHI >> https://www.facebook.com/meido.moore BUY "THE RINZAI WAY" >> https://bookshop.org/books/the-rinzai-zen-way-a-guide-to-practice/9781611805178 SUPPORT KORINJI MONASTERY >> https://www.korinji.org/ ========== FIND THE GOOD NEWS IS PRODUCED BY PARKER BRAND CREATIVE SERVICES >> www.ParkerBrandUp.com   ========== SUPPORT OUR ADVERTISERS •••••••••••••   BRIMSTONE MUSEUM >> www.brimstonemuseum.org   or Call (337) 527-0357 •••••••••••••

In this episode: Who am I? What makes me qualified? Hint: I’ve hit rock bottom and needed to find the “motivation” that no pep talk could provide. Discomfort has become my greatest motivation! The lessons I learned while going through the hardest school I had ever been to. Finding your why to keep going! How did I start my journey as an influencer and health coach? Hey friend! I am Corinne Kelley, a 24 year old grad student, solider, and fitness coach. If you asked my introverted self 3 years ago if I would ever record a podcast I would have laughed and said, definitely not. Well, here we are. Nice to meet you, I am now an introverted podcaster who absolutely thrives from helping other women get out of their comfort zones. It’s not going to be a motivational pep talk that will get you there I can promise you that. We will have brilliant guests who will give you the tips, tricks and tools to take action and take steps in a direction you never thought possible! They are not any different than you and I but they have been through different storms, they have failed a few more times, and they are willing to share that experience with us! Song: "Reckless Love" by Cory Asbury https://youtu.be/Sc6SSHuZvQE

Littler Principal Cindy-Ann Thomas, Mishell Parreno Taylor, Littler Shareholder, and Kiara Harlow, Senior Recruiting Director of The Partners Group, present a multifaceted examination of the diversity and inclusion challenges ahead for the legal industry as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic crisis. In this podcast, Cindy-Ann and her guests address the following: • How will the pandemic crisis and associated fiscal fallout affect the legal industry’s efforts in the D&I space? • Why and how are female attorneys and attorneys of color disproportionally affected by the steps that law firms have taken to weather the crisis? • How does the killing of George Floyd and the resulting nationwide social unrest compound the pandemic crisis and further impact the industry’s efforts in D&I? • What can law firms do to protect any gains they have made to advance diversity in the profession since recovering from the last global crisis?

Welcome back to the fuel your legacy podcast each week, we expose the faulty foundational mindsets of the past and rebuild a newer, stronger foundation essential in creating your meaningful legacy. We've got a lot of work to do. So let's get started. As much as you like this podcast, I'm certain that you're going to love the book that I just released on Amazon, fuel your legacy, the nine pillars to build a meaningful legacy. I wrote this to share with you the experiences that I had while I was identifying my identity, how I began to create my meaningful legacy and how you can create yours. You're going to find this book on kindle amazon and as always on my website, Samknickerbocker.com.I got a question for you. I'd love to heargo for so I was in one of your podcasts and it's you can only book the nine pillars of actually building meaningful legacy. Okay, so this is a book but you said something in that podcast about you were struggling with your identity.True talk to me about about struggling with my dad. Yeah, yeah. So where was the words?Okay, so I love this one turned on you. So my identity I so I had she had to go back to who my identity what what my identity is now is very similar to what it always has been from before so zero to four years old. I peg that for I don't actually know what age I was. But I was in between four and six. I'm fairly common. I was in between four and six, but seven to 11 kids I didn't really know or honestly I don't remember ever. Anybody feeling. I don't remember feeling love or attention or even real, beyond like bossing me around recognition that I was alive. That sounds terrible. And I'm not condemning anybody. That was my perception of what was going on. Okay, but I have an identity. I do remember not feeling valued and So my identity struggled. And then I went to my grandpa's house, we were taking a trip to the dump. We're driving home with little Ford Ranger pickup red Ford Ranger pickup windows down radio on our driving home. It's just him and I. And he reached over turns on the radio, puts his hand on my knee and says, Sam, you have a voice that's very pleasant to listen to. If you could be a leader one day, maybe even on the radio. And for whatever reason, I again, I don't know how old I was, but for whatever reason, internally, like there's a part of me that feels like I internally knew what it meant to have a radio voice and I was like, I'm better looking than that. I kind of took offense to it initially. Because I was like, what, but also, that was the first time I felt somebody loved me cared about me had recognized a gift inside of me. And so my whole lifethat's Since in my whole life but growing up, I had this identity of a leader that I was a leader and that people have a commanding voice and that people are gonna listen to me. So to produce one degree or another, I developed my voice into that presence. Along the way, though, it kind of got lost because I thought that I was protecting my family. When I had taken my mom, she was a stand pusher in the house, and I became the enforcer in the house. And so in my mind, I was protecting my family from greater abuse. And in their mind, I had become the abuser. And they were just describing me as they were as my mom. And so my identity wasn't really in question there was what came out was that how other people viewed me and my identity were a misalignment. And that's huge because so you can't see this on screen. But I have a viewer to draw this out. I'll explain to you I have a building that I now coach people on, and that is the bottom level is your legacy to answer this question, how do I want to be remembered into it? Two years from now, I want to be remembered as a leader, I want to be remembered as somebody who changes lives for the better helps them overcome anxiety, depression, suicide, domestic violence, have the confidence to get out of that. And second is your core values. So you have your, your legacy, how you want to be remembered, then you have your core values, and you could switch those around if you want to. I just think legacy for my structure makes sense. So you have your, like, I'm building like a Greek building here, just so you know. So you can draw it out, right? So I have legacy core values. My core values are candor, integrity, and gratitude. Be just insanely happy about whatever's going on in life and accept it as it is love it. And share love integrity, do what you say you're going to do when you say you're gonna do it. The reality about integrity. I'm going to quote Lewis house here and I love his concept here. It's like a straight line integrity is a straight line. Nobody has perfect integrity. Okay, nobody has perfect integrity. My objective is to cross that line as as often as possible. Okay. don't profess to be perfect or have perfect integrity. My goal is to cross the line of integrity as well as frequently as possible. Okay? So you're not so far off of one side. Yeah. So I'm not like way out of integrity somewhere. Like if I, if I screw up, let's get back online. And let's admit that I screwed up, you know. But the fact is, while I screwed up, I was out of integrity. That's one of my core values. So. So that's my commitment there with integrity and candor, I just say whatever the heck I want to say. And if you don't like it, I'm confident as coming from a position of love. Now, if you feel differently, that's unfortunate. Let's talk about it. I'm never here to hurt you. But I'm definitely here to speak and say, say my perspective. I'm not even saying my perspectives, right. But if I feel like somebody's limiting what I can say, then I don't feel in integrity. So then this is in misalignment. So I'm building my legacy of how I want to be remembered. I have my core values, then I have fulfillment, what really fulfills Sam and that's an important thing. I actually just came out with another journal talking about It's called the fulfillment journal. And in it you write down what are your three main objectives for the day? What are you grateful for? And then how are you going to experience fulfillment today? And who are you going to serve? And then at the end of the day, you journal about how did you experience fulfillment that day, maybe it was different than you thought. But again, my goal is to help you become a creator. So I hope they're my goal is that they're similar. And then the next section is in the future. How will you experience more fulfillment? Right, so you're projecting more positivity in the future, not saying that your fulfillment that you experienced was not good enough. It was it was fantastic, and how can I make it better in the future? So you're again reprogramming or hypnotizing, whatever you want to say, you're doing that to yourself? So that's fulfillment. fulfillment is what everybody's searching for happiness, fulfillment, peace, you can use a lot of different words to describe it. For me, it's fulfillment. Okay. And then you have it. That's the three layers. Then you have your pillars of your thing, your pillars, our faith. fitness, finance and fun in each of those areas, how do you experience fulfillment? And how are you actively engaged in those and, and these are building up my identity. So this, this is going somewhere. So, each of these pillars in that fulfillment journal, I have you write for 10 minutes, don't take your pen off the page. I mean, not saying you have to use cursor, you can take around the page, but write for 10 minutes on each of those sections, what fulfills you that month? And then scheduling how you're going to experience fulfillment on a daily basis. But are those that are those goals? And those ways? Who fulfilment are they in alignment with your how you want to be remembered? Are they in alignment with your core values? Are they in alignment with how you experience fulfillment? If they are great? If they're not, then you're out of alignment with your identity, in my perspective, my coaching, okay, and I want you to be living in more of your truth in alignment. Now, the question is, how do you test if you're in alignment?Based on a feeling I guess, right You think but no. Because what's the again, the in the chi as I'm the ultimate goal is fulfillment, okay? But also there's a legacy. So in a chasm, you start in one place, you go up to the ultimate important thing, and then you go back out to a similar thing in the chasms. So like in Christ, you have Christ repentance, or you have faith, repentance, baptism, or whatever, and then Christ and then what does baptism create in your life? What changes state change does it create? What does repentance do? And why should we have faith? Right? So it kind of goes out back into the same principle? Well, the way you test if your leg if you're actually living your legacy is if people see that you're actually living your legacy. Right? If there's there has to be some level of accountability. somebody's calling you calling you and saying, Hey, what did you accomplish? Where are you going? Are you getting closer to your legacy or not? Right? And so the the capstone of this building is what are my results? How our lives actually being changed, and how am I being perceived in the world? Because you can't live your life one way and say, Oh, my legacy is going to be this charitable person, but you're living a life of non charity, you're living a life of selfishness. But when you die, you hope people remember this selfless charitable person. It's out of alignment. So, so this is my building that I built for people and help them walk through the steps to build for me, I had to do that with first identifying how do I want to be remembered? And second, who am I? What am my core values more than anything? To do that really effectively, you have to let go of your ego, you have to let go of judgment. You have to let go of everybody, your wife, your kids or like, family is not the most important thing to you. But family's important to me. I'm not saying family's not important. But candor, integrity, and gratitude, way more important than family to me. They don't have to be that to you. But like, for me, you have to be willing to say no judgement. I don't care. Like if you think that the fact that God's not more important to me than me being able to be honest with myself. Like, I don't care what you think about that, I have to be able to get to that point where I can be honest with what my core values are. And I have to be honest with what actually fulfills me, and not somebody else's perspective, what should fulfill me if you're fulfilled by video games, and your wife thinks that you should be fulfilled by spending time with her. If you put spending time with her fulfills you, but inside you know, it doesn't fulfill you, then you're being a liar. You're you can't be in alignment in that situation. So for me, being brutally honest with myself in those scenarios was important. So let me get back to the story. I'm sitting there with my brother, while he's wrestled me down to the ground at this point, because he heard me controlling one last sentence What happened? So he came in wrestle me down and said, after he, after I stopped fighting, and he had helped me down there for long enough. And he said, Look, Sam, this is how people feel. This is their experience of you. They feel this emotionally and energetically restricted when you walk into a room. While he's holding me to where I can't physically move now, so what? I'm your Savior, I'm helping you I'm doing right because my identity was so one of love and service, and now it's being rejected. The heck this isn't right. And that, but as I started to see the effects of what I had done, I completely changed like that one experience completely changed the way I operate in the world entirely. What's interesting is, even though it took me I mean, years of kind of oppressive leadership in my house, I would say within months of every time I asked somebody to do something, I said, Look, I want one. Well, a few things. One, I'm not going to ask you to do something that doesn't need to be done. Fair enough. I know I'd be out right? Because nobody believes you right after you're an oppressor. Nobody believes you're a nice guy. Just FYI, change doesn't happen overnight might happen inside of you, but other people actually it used to change. So so one moment ask you to do something that doesn't need to be done. If I asked you to do it, you can say, No, I won't beat you up, I won't force you to do it. If you say no to me, okay, I need you to know that they didn't believe me the first little bit, but after they had some experience, then they believe me. And and three, if if I asked you to do something, and you say, No, I will get up immediately and go do it. Because I'm only asking you to do it because it needs to be done.So again, I had to realign with myself with leadership with understanding what I like, what role I was playing, and getting back to my identity as a leader. And when I did that, it took a few months, but then, rather than me having to ask people to do stuff all the time, they would volunteer. They would say, I can do this right, because it changed the motivation from fear to love. And I believe identity is love. I don't care who you are. I don't generally say this, but because I think it's important for you to identify Find yourself. But I believe that everybody's identity is love. God is love. Okay, she believed the scriptures taken literally for a second. God is love. We are God, we are all in one, he's in us, we're in Him, we are all love, the very act of anything short of love towards yourself or someone else is a breaching of that, that identity and you no longer get to live in love. And so when I change that, I just love people and there was a lot more compassionate, more understanding. So that's why I say my identity is the fuel your legacy nine pillars to build a meaningful legacy. It goes through the nine pillars, which one is like haters, your supporters, your team, your country, your faith, all these different nine them, I forget what they are, but they're just journaling aspect. So there's some anecdotal information there but then the journaling aspect These three questions. Who are those people? Who are your haters? Who are the people who love you? Who are the people who support you? Who are your team? Right? Who are they? How will their life be better? If you live in alignment to your true self? that's crucial, especially when you're talking about your haters, because they're like, why would I want to benefit them? Because they are part of you. If you are all love, you ship you helping them heal themselves is ultimately you helping heal you. If you're part of love, that's my perspective. And so, how is your life gonna be better? And then what can you do today to move towards that ideal? It's something you do multiple times, not like you do it once and you're done. It's a constant meditation of how, how will my actions affect other people for the better if I choose to live in alignment with myself? Rather than focusing on all the things they're going to say that about me? How is this going to benefit them if I can get Give them the confidence. Hey, look, I know Sam, I know he's not perfect. I know, he sometimes doubts himself, but he went and accomplished this great thing. I probably could do it too, right? That's the best case scenario of you being a leader and sticking your head up, and doing something that's unpopular, that people aren't going to like or whatever. And they're gonna like it because they don't believe that they can do it. And the more that they don't believe that they can do it, the more reason you have to go show them that they can, from a place of love and compassion, to help them believe in themselves, not to prove them wrong, not to rub it in their note their face or whatever. It's the motivation of, if I can do this, then you can do it. So even though you don't believe in me, that's fine. I'm going to go show you that as possible so that you can believe in yourself a little bit more. Wow. And all that started because when you were four to six, somebody put their hand on your knee and said you can become you have a good voice, you're gonna voice in your ear later and I was committed. I'm gonna be a public speaker. I'm gonna be a public speaker. And along the way, guess what people told me No, that's terrible. Like, you're always gonna be on the road, your family won't be with you. They took all the things in the book. And so that's why I switched from being a public speaker to a one on one speaker and psychology. And then I was like, I don't really like this as much. I want to be a public speaker, because there's a little bit thing about Sam. He does have an ego, and he does like being recognized. And he does love hearing people share his name. It's great. And I'm not ashamed of it. You know, like, I wish that you could experience the same joy. I feel up on the stage, right? So I'm not ashamed of who I am. There's an aspect of me that likes that. And so, and I'm okay with it. It's not this. I don't think it's purely a self aggrandizing thing. But it sure is awesome. And until you do it, you won't ever know how awesome it is. So don't knock it till you try it.I've been on stage in like six weeks now. And it's like,I know it's weird. Yeah, I gotta entertain somebody. Yeah. So says that's a great question. Thanks for asking. I don't know that I could share it. Share that onpodcast for.Thanks for joining us. If what you heard today resonates with you please like, comment and share on social media tag me and if you do give me a shout out I'll give you a shout out on the next episode. Thanks to all those who've left a review. It helps spread the message of what it takes to build a legacy that lasts and we'll catch you next time on fuel your legacy.

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As much as you like this podcast, I'm certain that you're going to love the book that I just released on Amazon, fuel your legacy, the nine pillars to build a meaningful legacy. I wrote this to share with you the experiences that I had while I was identifying my identity, how I began to create my meaningful legacy and how you can create yours. You're going to find this book on kindle amazon and as always on my website, Sam Knickerbocker calm.Welcome back to fuel your legacy. Today we have a very interesting exciting guests. Some things that I love when I search for people to be on my podcast as people from different industriesdifferent life experiences. And the reason for that is everybody has different legacy and, and it's important to hear how different people are fulfilling their purpose in life. So, today we have on I'm gonna make sure I say his name properly. Andrea site Andry site completely wrong.That's all Andre Andre psyche a man. That's okay. Every time so Andre psych and he's a freelancer performer music, sorry musician, mystic. And he makes daily commits to himself and to the world. He's a human, that the human heart to Him is the most powerful tool for success on the planet. And and he has been bathing. His Okay, I love how this phrase has been bathing his human heart, in self love for years. What's it got? What has it gotten him as a question? We're going to find out today. So, Andre, just let us know a little bit about your history. How did you discoverthe importance ofself love for yourself at and why is it phrased that exact way like bathing, bathing your heart and self love. I love it. Oh, well first of all, like I am a poet, so I'm trying to I'm trying to convey deep emotional meanings through you know, through simple language. And once you get to a point of this, of this, this, whatever it is, it truly feels like there's this, this this ethereal substance that's surrounding you and you're just, you're just floating in it. And that's that's where a lot of your mystical principles or religious principles, or Buddhist or anything of that nature says, Don't get attached to anything because once you once you let go of all attachments and you just you attach yourself to the current moment, you start to see yourself floating through life through the universe and things start to get a little a little interesting for the individualYeah, go ahead and go ahead and share with us your story of how that all came to be where, where you started, and where you are today and where you're headed. Sure. So I was just like everybody else, I'll try to keep this 10 minutes, obviously, just like everybody else. And I went to, I have my path place in front of me, you're going to go to the university, you're going to get, you're going to study medicine. I'm from a Russian family, and you know, my parents are like, you're going to go and be, this is gonna be your legacy. You're gonna be a doctor, you're going to save lives, you're gonna make money, people gonna respect you. And I'm like, yeah, we're gonna do that. So going through high school, I had a lot oflow cop, low self confidence. You know, I was bullied a lot I was picked on. And then it got to a point where I was like, I'm not worth this. So I turned into the bully and I started picking people in and I had this, I adopted this, this masculine mindset of just, you know, go out there and just just beat the shit out of the world until it's reduced to your willAnd I lived in that sort of mindset for a really long time, went through college, went to university, studied biology, studied medicine, and got to the point of graduating and I was like, Alright, let's go work with the doctor and see how this is all gonna pan out. So, as long as I'm working and I'm living with this mindset, it feels like it's me against the world. And I'm but I'm proving myself to the doctor, to my patients to everybody. And my doctor says, All right, like you got great potential. Let me send you to the, to my med school where I went to New York and things will be hunky dory. I was like, cool. Let me think about this.After about a year of doing this and continuing to do this daily grind and showing up and and still loving it. I really enjoy theinteraction between people. I got to a point where I said, I'm going to do this, take the plunge and go be a doctor and had a realization in my mind as I was driving home to my parents.to their home, it should say, I had this flash of clarity at least for that moment that I've never experienced before. And it gave me the understanding that it was love that I was pursuing it was, it was the tenderness. It was the connection the community that I was looking for, rather than anything monetary or anything of that nature. And I and I projected forward and ask myself, is this what I really want to do? Do I want to be stuck, dedicating another decade of my life to education, to to get glory, to give money to get pride to get all of these things? Or do I want to be with my family helping raise my myyoung step steps, Pastorbe with my mom be with my dad, my brother and actually see how their life progress throughout this decade. And to me it just it just hit me, hit me right in the heart. That was the first moment where I allowed love to take over and I said you know what, I don't want to give up this once in a lifetime moment. For sure.Something prestigious, like like a title or, or a paycheck. SoI was coming home to tell them that I was gonna leave for New York in the next couple of weeks. And instead, I was like, Listen, I'm gonna quit my job, I'm gonna leave, I'm gonna leave my apartment, I'm gonna leave everything behind. And I'm going to come and help my mom, she runs her own custom manufacturing business to go and help you with the business. So this is a perfect time because my stepdad died. And she was just really struggling. So I came in, I started learning how to work with my hands, actually started using my knowledge, as hands on knowledge and create things on the spot. And at this moment, I know I was hoping it was already functioning business. She just she was struggling. So money wasn't necessarily a problem there. I'll just go out there and learn sales I learned networking, customer relationships, all that stuff. And I went out and just did my job basically almost took a took the business over from her and became a protegeSo what happened isI started creating, with, with, with, or playing with with just random things, you know, up until this point art was worthless music was worthless. I thought why would anybody be spending time on this, it's just background noise. It was still a lot of tech now just to get me pumped about doing whatever the flip I was doing that was that I founduseful. And I had this moment of transformation, I was running my CNC router to engrave some sort of image, and boom, just lightning just hit me. And I had this understanding this clarity, this embodiment of the knowledge that I am the creator of my life, that anything and everything that happens around me, whether it's the relationships that form in front of me, or even even the state of the world, I accept a responsibility for how it is. And from that moment on, I was like, Okay, I can't I can't sleep on this information. I can't. I can'tI put out the fire of My Spirit on this moment and I have to go and express myself fully. So that moment that realization allowed me to just go into painting, go into poetry, going to music, going to dancing, going to act and go to all these ways of expression, because I understood it to be deeper than just that expression understood to be the creation of the individual that would participate in the world to then create ripples effects that happen between you know, connections of other people. And and it's like the butterfly effect, you know, one good deed lease another good deed lease another good deed and then before you know it, boom, the world is a is a much happier place. And that's it. So once I hit me, I just I just couldn't sit back and stop creating excuses. I dove into meditation dove into spirituality, dove into health, because health is the greatest key to freedom. If you don't have health, you can't do anything, no matter how much desire or passion you might have. So I started cleaning outMy world has started cleaning up clean up my body to show up ready to, for anything, no. And very slowly through a lot of a lot of discipline work and late nights and early mornings. I find myself here and just in a completely transformed life where love has found me personally as to just accept myself for who I am for anything that might happen inside of me. I don't bottle up anything anymore. As you can see, these are all my emotions on all my things here. And it I've come to a place that feels likelike just almost like emptiness, like a Zen Zen spot where I'm in the I'm in the center of the the eye of the hurricane. And from there I can make much better judgments about where I can go and where I can lead other people to find their own peace.Hopefully that was good. Oh, awesome. No, I love it. There's so much here. That is, I thinkcrucial to it's fascinating actually to hear your experiencecompared to my experience while ending in a very similar position. So one thing that I found interesting over, if you listen to the podcast, then you'll hear lots of different stories, I find a lot of people end up in this place of love. But we all have different paths to get there. And for mine, for me, I would say my path was more. There's a lot of similarities, but there's also a lot of differences. So things that were similar that I recognized inside of myself, I'm the seventh of 11 Kids was raised by in an abusive home, mentally, physically, verbally. All those, all those forms of abuse, thankfully, no sexual abuse that that I experienced, and I'm grateful to report that you know, but ultimately, I don't blame anybody in my household for what happened in fact,There's just a lot of compassion there. But there was a point in my talk in my life where you described it as, hey, I'm not worth this abuse from others or this bullying, so I'm going to become the bully or right? For me, that same result happened, but instead of me saying I'm not worth it,in my mind, and keep in mind, this is all my self aggrandizingperception of what was going on when I was, you know, 1011 1213 years old. But I thought, well, if there's if this is it, the extrinsic bullier of all of the group. Well, if Itake the leadership role, and make sure that they do what they're doing, then I will abuse my family less than the other abuser. And then things will be better because there will be less abuse even though I'm the one now inflicting the pain versus the other person. I will do it better andmore controlled than this person. This was my stuff. This is my, what I believed about myself, right? Not necessarily true. And it took me to have my oldest, oldest, but one of my older brothers come in and like, actually show me hold me down in a physically restrictive position and tell I calm down because I was not freaking out when he was getting his grip on me. And then he just explained, hey, this is how people feel, emotionally when you walk into the room. I mean, the tension was powerful. And I was like, what I'm saving you like, in my mind, I'm the Savior and you feel oppressed, like what the heck. But it took me a while for the penny to drop and for me to start seeing it and start looking at it from a different perspective and seeing all the damage I had caused by me being oppressive. It's interesting because most of us grew up with having this person who we felt was betraying us but we've never really felt like that because we were born on the seventh11 so my younger siblings were born into an abusive situation. So we didn't really know anything different. But it's it is different when you see somebody who you thought was your ally become the abuser. Like that's a whole nother part of trauma thatwas lost on me for a while. But as I started to see, it was really interesting. So that's one thing that I think is so crucial for us to understand and for us to ask ourselves, where are we doing that? The reality is, Andre probably still does aspects of that in his life because they're their old habits. I still do it in my life sometimes until I recognize Oh, I'm doing that habit again. I don't like that habit. And then I have to go Say sorry and say, Okay, I'm not doing that anymore. That happens. The one thing thatis interesting, though, is that love is the goal for me love was the goal toto even for my siblings, the ones that I ended up being the oppressor for love was ultimately the goal. I wanted to help them not be abused as much, you know?And when you recognize love was the goal, things changed in your life about what you were chasing? And I'm curious about this one question.When you say don't be attached to things, but attached to the current moment, where did you hear like, Where did you experience or learn that that type of phrasing or experience, like what led you to that experience of Look, I'm not going to attach to anything physical, I'm just going to attach to present. Sofor the longest time, you know, like I said, I jumped into a lot of meditative practices. And as I was experiencing these shifts of myself on my energy, coming from a scientific perspective of being an atheist, I needed the language that could describe what I was going through. So I was like, Alright, here's the things that I've been experiencing what is out there that can put some words to it. So I started diving into, you know, Buddhism, Hinduism, mysticism.hermeticism just a lot of different things.I've been around for a really long time. And Buddhism is one of the things that really grabbed me early on with with that, quote, Buddha said, attachment leads to suffering. And you know, for a while you can mold it over. It's like, what does that even mean? And there's a story where he says, All right, you have a vase, and you love this face. If you're attached to this face, when the face breaks, you're gonna, you're going to feel a severing, and you're going to feel pain, because you've been attached to this face. But if you live every day, as if the face was already broken, then every moment you spend with that base is going to be is going to be filled with pure love. And the day that it is broken, gets broken, which eventually will you don't feel that loss because it's been broken all along, if that makes sense. So, it later so that idea I practice heavily. Like when I when I was starting to just remember, there was there's this moment that I flipped 180 and I could even see myself looking back at myself, and I was like how the flipped and I get hereHow I can see that man I can see that person right there. But I'm not that man, I can see a clear distinction between these two points and it happened right here. And I remember practicing this and I had a girlfriend a time a brand new one just came along and I even told her the same thing. I love you. Not attached to you if you ever want to leave like please, please do. And this is completely backwards from how it was the first relationship you can even second relationship because I was so attached so much codependency like he can't leave. You must be with me. I don't want you to go out there. I don't want to lose you. And the goal was always like how do I love you, I want to love you. I just want to protect you. I want to make sure you feel loved. But what it was, yeah, it was again is the abuser. I was projecting my own insecurities. I was projecting my ownown misunderstanding of what love was. And when I realized to let go of attachment and just be there with the present moment, then it's like the universe opened up and love made more sense. You know, love is just the appreciation of that moment and taking taking it in as it is rather than putting your moneymental projections on an individual or an environment, and then living in a fantasy world that doesn't exist. If you can let go with attachments you can be present and actually see for what it is. And from that, oh my gosh, you can start creating just unimaginable portraits with your life. I completely agree. It's so funny actually. I told my I told a lot of girls that most of them left.My wife didn't though. So thank goodness. But yeah, she's my wife now. But yeah, that that statement, she felt a lot of insecurity when I told her that, like, Look, I don't, this isn't meant to be rude. I was literally on a client call just before this. And same thing. She's the client is thinking about working with me. And as a business partner, I was like, Look, I don't need you to work with me. I want you to I'd love to help you. I'd love to help you in your marriage succeed. But like,if you come work with me,that's great. If you don't, my family's still here.I family still drinks I family still has a house over the head like, I don't need you for me to make money. Now, I'd love to help you make money in which case I'll make money, right? But I don't need you here. And that concept is so that is opposite opposite. Because those people you're telling that to they have the insecurities that they need you and so they're like, Oh crap, well, if he doesn't need me, why is he gonna stick around in an environment where I need him? So that that concept I would highly encourage you to consider as a listener, what what exactly are you holding on to that you need? That would be better off if you let go. Another thing that you said there this is fascinating to me is as an atheist, so for me, I'm a deeply deeply religious person.AndI That being said, I view all religious narratives, right because religion isdifferent than theism in my mind, butIt's like ritualistic, right? Religion is for rituals. Andin that situation, the same thing, it's necessary. What is the narrative that you're going to use to describeyour experiences? Right? Because I think that's what all religious texts were about. That's what everything is about is they had a narrative that they felt, hey, if we share our experience in this narrative, it's an easy understandable at least gives people the basics of what's going on. If they want more information, they need to get connected with themselves or spirit or God or the Creator, whatever. But the end goal is the same right? That I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Andthat one of the I would say that key teachings that is doctrinally in the church, but I would say, very rarely practiced by its members. Okay, is the idea of creation.Like, it's, it's taught into the doctrine of the religion, that you're a creator, your ultimate objective is to become a creator. And this is a training ground like that is the doc, if there was like one overarching that's the whole point of this universe. That's the overarching point of it. They call it the planet happiness, planned salvation, whatever. But point being helping people get to the point where not only do theyknow, right, because we have this language that we're taught from a young age that you're a creator. And it's up to you to be the creator of your universe, but to actually put into practice it and so I love that you found that that you are and the way to do that is to, to unattach yourself from everything. Mm hmm. And that, it's like the simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. Because the more unattached you are, it's almost like the moreconnection you feel with everything. So the less attached you are, the moremore connected, you become,which is this fascinating, seemingly paradoxical thing, but it's not at all.The other thing I want you to speak to here because this is, this is different than my situation. So for me to come to a lot of these enlightenment's in myself, and observations for myself, had to put in a lot of effort, a lot of work.I heard somebody else had this experience that I was like, almost chasing this experience doing everything I could meditating things like that. When you said, almost every time you mentioned that you had this aha moment, it seemed, seems to me that they came duringwhat I would consider a more mundane task. Okay. The reason this is important is because,again, if you're looking at the mind, and how the mind operates, when you're performing mundane tasks, you're in a state of mild hypnosis. You're basically on offer.Pilot not connected to anything, or not attached to process or anything, you're just going about your regular business on autopilot. So explain that a little bit as far as like why you think that your aha moments cameduring that that type of environment. So, the mind is a beautiful thing. And this is why like, you know, I love digging, you know, kind of, like you said kind of mindless tasks, because those mindless tasks are, it's when you allow your your, your your brain your thoughts to just kind of rest into, into a meditative state like you said yourself, alpha brain or beta or delta I'm not to get into one of those. And as I as you kind of get yourself into that mental state, you start to what's the word?contemplate contemplation, right? It's different from thought thoughts, who will sit there and they will eat you up and what if this and what if that future is past you know, all these things that don't exist? contemplationIt's just a thought about, you know, ideas, and you allow an idea to just kind of marinate and evolve into whatever it is, you know, you just plant a seed and you allow the tree to just sprout out there. So to get to that point, same thing, you know, I was meditating I took health seriously, I started cleaning my body, you know, took, start eating organic, took all the pests, pesticides out, exercising regularly, or at least being very active.And all of that. And literally crying almost every night from my meditations because I'll be uncovering so many deep buried emotions and deep Barry just just interactions moments that I was like, Man, that was me. I said that to my mother. I said that to my best friend, and I'd come out just tears. And the next day I would have to come out and just retribution Yo, I'm sorry, I did that. They're like what? So it doesn't matter if you don't remember, I did this. And I know it was it was, I don't say wrong or right because it does don't exist, but I know it was painful for you.Asthree hours a day, probably on in the morning, one but day one at night. And it was that fertile ground I created that then when I found myself in these Monday tap mundane tasks, and I found myself contemplating whatever ideas were all around me, you know, just just clarity this pyramid, I feel like I was in the right place to to have thatlightning strike hit me my aha moment, my moment of enlightenment that allowed me to see something beyond myself. As soon as I took myself out of the picture, then you can start to see the universe that is around you. And I'm so I don't credit the mundane task, but the task definitely gets you into a place where then you can become receptive to whatever is around us. Sure. I think what's fascinating to me as often is to manage so many different schools of thought, right.And I'm of the opinion just from like a neuroscience perspective. So I tend to be more scientificallyminded, then purely ethereal. So like if it's too woowoo. And I'm like, show me some data, show me some realistic reasons why this is happening.And I think it's all there. I think that meditation or any of this can't be tracked. I think there's maybe certain limitations currently of how we're tracking stuff that we don't have complete understanding. But the more and more that we're able to track the more and more like, Okay, this makes complete sense between brainwaves between energy between electricity, electricity, I mean, all those things. They're all real things. And so it's all trackable. But what's interesting is people that aren't there arepockets ofman, what's it called? A different I would say studies whether that'sjust different areas where they're, they're focused on meditation, yoga, things like that. And they arein their mind, for whatever reason that gets translated to the rest of the world who doesn't quite buy into it yet, that meditation looks a certain way. And that is cool. I was having this conversation with my wife a few days ago. She's like, well, Sam, why don't you meditate daily? Why don't you because I was saying, hey, these are things that have helped me in my life. Why don't you meditate? And daily, why aren't you having somebody who does NLP practices on you and all these things that she said? And I was like, okay, so that assumption is that because my top form of meditation doesn't look like what you think meditation looks like that I'm not meditating. In my mind. Meditation is at its basic core, anything that puts you into this, this mild hypnosis state. And so if running, all that's required for your body to run is like three or four processes to run. That's a meditative state. Even if all you're doing is just you're running through, you're lifting weights.Or you're running through your, your driving routine, whatever, those are all meditative states that you can be in. So don't mistake and think that the only way to meditate is to find a dark, quiet room, maybe meditation is playing the drums. Maybe meditation is listening to techno music, right? whatever it is that's so habitual in your life, that it doesn't require active thought, is meditation. It's like basic, basic core. And so I love that and I'm glad you you had brought that out. One that you would prepare yourself for it mentally to flow those to open those those flow states up, but also that you are, you're actively doing things that you already were comfortable doing to allow that negative state. So one more thing here that Ijust want you to speak to. I don't know what's going to come out here, but I'm just interested in it. Andyou had said when you're talking about a peaceful emptinessOkay, so there's so many people I deal a lot with single mothers or our parents in general and they feel empty inside they feel like they're so busy in life trying to help everybody else trying to work for everybody else that they would say they feel empty.My belief is their profit based on based on this statement, right? So I, this is me first, really contemplating this analogy. So I'm formulating My mind is mine.ButI don't think they're really empty. If you are, if you're having stress, if you're having fear, if you feel empty, you're not you're not empty, there's something that you feel a lack of. The peaceful emptiness comes from the lack of connection, sorry, the lack of attachment to what's going on, and that's when you truly are able to empty any attachmentThat's when you're empty. And that's also in my mind that using these words I've never used these verses described as though. But that is the ultimate peaceful state that is the Nirvana that is there like, Look, no, I'm not attached to anything. I don't, I don't have an outcome that I'm attached to does that that doesn't mean I don't have goals. That doesn't mean I don't have objectives. I'm just not attached to Xyz outcome.speak to that for a second, like,the kind of contrast between, I don't know at this point now in the conversation, it's attachment and connection and empathy. So speak that for a second. Okay. So So I completelyagree with with what you're saying. And when when somebody is feeling the way they're, and they feel like they're empty. They're actually full of other people's garbage basically, right? And they're empty of their own desires. They're not they're not following their own heart. Soin this scenario,I guess I wanted to take thisinto a little bit of philosophy. So I don't know if you've ever read Nietzsche or just even that kind of understanding. But he has. He talks that every individual has threestages of life. You're either the camel in our in today's terms, like the sheep, the lion, or the baby, or the child. So the camel, he goes out there and he goes to the world, he just lives doing normal, mundane tasks of whatever it may be just, you know, go to work, have kids buy things, whatever it is, and it's a life right? If you want to choose that you want to live that life. It's also in it's, it's also life. Like every every life is worth living. There's no wrong, right? There's a wrong if you get to the point and start questioning that it's like, wait, what am I really doing here? Get this one of a line. And the job of a line with the second stage is to is to find all that thou shalt and thou shalt are attached to a dragon. Each scale has thou shalt love your mother, thou shalt listen to your boss. That wasShout whatever anything that we've been programmed to believe this dragon has him on every scale and the Java line is to come in there and rip every scale off every single one. And the moment, and it's gonna take a long time, the moment that you've inspected every single contract that you've signed willingly or unwillingly, and you inspect it and say, all right, put this down, you get to a point of this nothingness of this emptiness. Now, life has no meaning. Now, life has no objective, it has nothing that you need to do or need to abide by. And a lot of people can find this spot as scary because it's almost like death, because it is death. It's the personal death is the death of a personality of the ego. That's why most people will not go there. They're afraid of death. But you find yourself there. There's two kinds of people, one will go into nihilistic terms. It's like, oh, there's a point. Okay. And the other people are like, oh, there's no point I get to create the point. If it gets to that point. Now you're the child. Now you have the understanding of if this is all just a huge playground, what do I want to fill up?With a fella with these sort of relationships, I feel with this sort of work, I'm filled with this sort of government, I'll fill it with this, anything and everything until you're just completely satisfied. So that's I want to pick it back to the to the death part. Like personally, man, I love that so much. I think death is the most beautiful misunderstood thing that we share into the world. And there'll be so afraid of the of the unknown, but they're known as the most beautiful, beautiful part. You know, we can consider and conceive what can be what will it be, but if you find yourself in love with death, if you find yourselfnot running toward it, but looking forward to the to the encounter of this event that only happens once in a lifetime, you give yourself the permission to to live every single day, because now you're like, Alright, well, that's gonna come and I'm going to look forward to that. What am I What am I going to do until I get them to the point of getting there? And if you're not afraid of death, every single day, you'd be like, well, I can take a risk. What's the worst thing worst that can happen? Death all over that, you know, soAt least personally for me, that that was initially what got me there just understanding of death a little bit better, and then starting creating the life that I wanted to live. That's, that's beautiful. I love it that another friend of mine he she,regarding deathhe wouldhe describes depression and anxiety or suicidal thoughts. He says, look, you are suicidal. And that's a great thing, right? That's an indication that part of you needs to die. The part of you that is so unhappy with life, the part of you that is worried about X, Y, or Z, all of that stuff, you need to kill that like you need to become a murder of all those pastlives of yourself to so you can truly be present. And it's okay. This is another conversation that my my wife and I have these conversations all the time because that's where my mind is that most of them but we had this conversation.How I don't feel guilty for pretty much anything in life. Like it's just like whatever like that happened. Am I? Is it a little bit embarrassing? Yeah, like in the, if it was brought in certain forms of light is a little embarrassing, but like at the end result like I don't regret anything now are the things that I wouldn't repeat that I would hope never to do again, totally. But when I look back yesterday, I think I did yesterday or this morning or two hours go right?I look back I'm like, No, that was weird. That wasn't even me Who did that? Like? That's how, like what you mean? Do you mean this body perform that action? Or said that thing or? Like what? That's just not even that does not who I am, you know. And so my identity is not tied up in my habits or how I'veunfortunately been programmed over 27 years to be, but my identity internal identity is separate. And so I don't feel guilty about stuff that happened 1020 years ago. It's justlike whatever, like it happened, that's not who Samuel is. So that's just unfortunate that he acted that way at some point or that that other being did, but that guy's dead. And so many people have a struggle understanding that, but if you look at any religion, we all have that built into your religious structure, the idea of repentance is nothing less than having a new view of yourself in orientation to in Christendom, God, but you could say if you don't believe in God into the more the most perfect version of you, the ultimate creator of you, all you have is a new perspective of where you are at in relation to them. That's the definition of repentance and changing and ultimately reorienting yourself towards progression towards a more perfect version of yourself. And so it's built into every narrative religious atheism. Football doesn't matter what it is, any religious narrative is built into the ideaI have progression. And I just love that.I love that. Like, that's why when I started diving into it, like I became anonymous now I'm just like, Alright, I see the truth and everything. So because before man, you say the word God and I cringe.And I'm just like, all right, like, this is what it is. And there's all this beauty around me. Okay, let's take this, here's a piece of the truth, he's a piece of the truth. And yeah, religions or spirituality or anything of that nature, it's all a unifying idea of, hey, let's all get connected with ourselves with with everybody else because we are the same. We're just, we're different expressions of the same entity have the same essence, like so when that again clicked with me. I was like, ah, unconditional love just came flowing and that nothing matters. Like you can come in here and you can say all bunch of negative things or you can just spit in my face trying to punch me and I'm like, Alright, I know you're feeling that way. And you're trying to project that onto me. And how can I get you to forget about that moment, that part and elevate you to a better part?And honestly, like I find so much beauty in, in human interaction now, anytime I go anywhere and just just you'll just meet people, I just best friends everywhere, it's, it's gold and contrasting it to the very beginning of my of my life.I could have never imagined that because again, that mentality me versus the world, it showed itself everywhere. And now it's me with the world. And it shows itself out of everywhere. So that really plays to the fact of you know, what, you get what you want, you get what you think about, if you if you want your life to change, if you want to build a legacy, if you want something beautiful to happen, you have to create that within and then it's going to express itself without and again, so many religions say thatas above so below as the universal the soul.It's, it's amazing. And it's so,so amazing. It's magic. Yeah. And that's the funniest thing when it comes to religion aspeople who have and this is not I mean, it's just is what it is peoplehave not gotten to that perspectivethat, I guess that I hadn't have said this, we all use the same language to describe it. And so what's fascinating about it is you have somebody who doesn't understand it, and you try to say this is this is the feeling and you're using their same language to describe and like, No, that's not what those words mean. Like.Okay, what they, I don't know how else you could say it like, this is the best language I could have is like I love in Christian, right, but it happens in all of them. But the intercessory prayer where Jesus Christ is sitting, sitting there saying, hey, I want to be on you. You'd be me, all of us be in God. And I'll be one of you, right? Oh, that means x, y, z or whatever. But it's like, no, he just wants us all to be of the same intention, same connection, and be literally in each other not. Anyways, once you've accomplished the feeling of we're all connected, and you understand thatunconditional love. That's like what he's saying is the most direct, literal way to say it. And it's still over people's heads.As funny to me. So,yeah, what it is, I read somewhere, it's like you can't, you can't. You can't speak the truth injust blatant terms kind of thing. Because people can't accept that. That's all you have to write it in symbology you have to write in a language that they can personallyplace themselves into. That's at least where like, where my poetry my philosophy comes in. In philosophy, I try to write it blatant truth. I was like, here's what happens. And honestly,I've had much more positive response to the poetry book that I wrote. And it's a lot more you just like kind of like Rumi, little mysticism in there. And it's, you know, I create a, like a lattice of words that create imagery andsensations that then people can project their own life onto and then see themselves in it. And I think that's what separates like, you know, good art or bad or not saying I'm a good artist, but at least I've had good positive reflections of people say, Hey, I see myself in this in this in this poem. And I'm like, sweet, awesome. Yeah. And that's because we all share that, that commonality of that of the pain of being distance from from the source from art from whether you say to God or universe or our greater or greater self, our perfect self. We have that separation here. And it's always that, that that step up to get close to that pureness, you know?h

Kerryn Slater has spent the last 30 years expanding her knowledge and understanding of Human nature, healing and the human experience.  Her years of researching, personal development and a drive to ask the big questions “Who am I” “What is my purpose” “What am I here for” have led to study in many different areas of holistic wellbeing.  Kerryn’s drive for a deeper understanding of the world around her and why she felt so “Different” through a series of synchronistic events led her to the Spiritualist Church where she began her development of Psychic Mediumship at the age of 21. From there Kerryn’s desire for deeper understanding grew and throughout the course of those years she studied Reiki, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy, Hypnosis and Meditation to bring to you the evolution that is Holistic Essentials Therapy and Consulting today. Kerryn brings to you a wealth of personal experience and understanding of the human condition that she has discovered and developed herself as she strove to leave behind years of stress /anxiety and addiction.

Kerryn Slater has spent the last 30 years expanding her knowledge and understanding of Human nature, healing and the human experience.  Her years of researching, personal development and a drive to ask the big questions “Who am I” “What is my purpose” “What am I here for” have led to study in many different areas of holistic wellbeing.  Kerryn’s drive for a deeper understanding of the world around her and why she felt so “Different” through a series of synchronistic events led her to the Spiritualist Church where she began her development of Psychic Mediumship at the age of 21. From there Kerryn’s desire for deeper understanding grew and throughout the course of those years she studied Reiki, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy, Hypnosis and Meditation to bring to you the evolution that is Holistic Essentials Therapy and Consulting today. Kerryn brings to you a wealth of personal experience and understanding of the human condition that she has discovered and developed herself as she strove to leave behind years of stress /anxiety and addiction.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what I’d like life to look like when this is all over. Admittedly, this pandemic seems to shine a light in the places we’ve been ignoring far too long. It’s uncomfortable and it makes me question my confidence.  Who am I? What do I value? How do I want to show up for myself and my family? Where do I concentrate my time and energy and resources right now? What is fair to expect of myself right now? A few weeks ago, we wrapped up teaching our first Teentography kids virtual class and we're starting teaching another one this week. With the help of these kids, I find the answers to those questions coming into clarity. I’ve learned from these kids, who are picking up a camera and sharing their hearts with me, how to lean into creativity and let go of expectations These teens have breathed life into me on the days where I just couldn’t for myself. And they're helping me remember there isn't anything I need to DO or anyone I need to BE in order to claim worth and confidence. As we travel deeper into our theme of worth this month at Momtography and I think about our Teentography students and my own extreme awkwardness and resistance to feeling worthy at that age, I decided to bring a really special guest onto the show today. My best friend, Phyllis Myers. A person I've know since were teens. Someone who is extroverted, and outgoing, and bold, and not afraid to make friends wherever she goes. And one of a handful of people on the planet who knows my own personal struggles with confidence and worth. Today Phyllis and I deep dive into our past selves, our unique struggles with worth, and how self-discovery and our unique friendship has allowed us to grow and support each other in coming back to confidence when we're feeling challenged. Listen to the full episode to hear: Why I’m so passionate about helping other women with there struggle with self-worth How someone discovers who they are and how they know they’ve made that discovery How I give Phyllis credit for helping me break out of my shell and become the person that I am today Who I was during high school and the roll our friendship played during those years Photo Inspiration: Every episode, Momtography Club community Director Jen - our resident 'queen of photo projects' joins us here at Capture What Matters to share a tip you can use to get more comfortable with your camera.  Today, Jen talks with us about getting into the habit of photographing yourself – getting comfortable with putting yourself in front of the camera.  Beryl’s Links: Free Capture What Matters Workshop Momtography Club

Near-Death Experience to an Awakening: Episode 219 with Andrew DeGregorio In today's episode of the Personal Development Without The Fluff podcast, we've got a wonderful conversation with a healer and intuitive counselor, Andrew DeGregorio. His life changed dramatically one day after a surfing accident led to a near-death experience that carved out the start of his enlightenment journey.  “Be present with what is, with what we know and really work with ourselves to deepen our stability, our alignment because whatever happens from that place, we can respond and not react” - Andrew DeGregorio After having a near death experience, Andrew DeGregorio putting him on a long road back to recovery. The months following the experience with going to doctors and being prescribed medications, he started feeling sorry for himself. Being completely out his comfort zone he started asking himself "Who am I? What am I?". As the days and month went by, blaming everything and everyone around him, with relationships failing and losing hope. That's when he had the realization that "I am the problem". Which was a tough insight.  But if that's true, then "I am also the solution". What followed after that is a remarkable story of self discovery. “We’re eternal, nothing matters and everything matters at the same time” - Andrew DeGregorio Resources: Get More Free Information From Andrew DeGregorio at https://www.andrewdegregorio.com/ Near Death Experience into Enlightenment - In This Podcast: How A Near Death Experience Became The Start To An Incredible Transformation Incredible Stories On Finding Enlightenment In Simple Ways Some Of The Best Practices Used To Create Alignment Why Working With Energies In The Body Is So Powerful and much more... “I was blaming everything and everyone around me, though it was the relationship or that person. I was not taking responsibility for my life at all” - Andrew DeGregorio Learn More About Andrew DeGregorio When Andrew was 32, a surfboard bashed into my his when he was out surfing one day. He was left unconscious in the ocean until a complete stranger pulled me out and saved his life. He was never the same again. After that near-death experience, he questioned my identity and purpose. Andrew noticed he became incredibly present to the world in a way he had never experienced before. He took it upon myself to dive deep into my spiritual practice and that was where he discovered his gifts. He worked side-by-side with some incredible teachers and became a student of Luminous Awareness Institute. Since then, he's worked with hundreds of clients (with 5-star ratings on Yelp) that have come to me for reasons that vary from physical pain, trauma, life struggles, business challenges, deepening their spiritual practice, developing their psychic gifts, relationship/family support and too many other topics to name. Time Stamps: 7.30 Andrew Shares His Remarkable Story 26.00 What Happened When Andrew Shifted His Victim Mentality 45.00 A Life Changing Event In Andrew's Life 1.00.00 Guy Shares One Of The Turning Points in His Life 1.30.00 Learning Through Love Or Fear 1.52.00 How To Find Greater Alignment In Your Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For those who could not attend here is the recording of tonight's session. Please make sure to register if you would like to join us tomorrow. THE DARK ROOM: Healing the Heart, Healing the Shadow! There is no light without darkness. What is it about the dark that terrifies us? Rituals, mantras, yoga, healing crystals, and meditation are powerful spiritual practices, yet before we can get to a place of enlightenment there must be time spent in the dark. I have designed an eight week program where you are invited to embrace your shadow self. We will be exploring all that lurks in the dark, tending to all that we keep hidden and healing the wounds that keep us from moving forward. In the DARK ROOM we will be meditating in the dark. I will be using Hridaya Meditation which honors three areas of practice: connecting to our heart center, awareness of breath and a deepening of the self through inquiry where we explore the questions: Who am I? What am I here to do? Am I aligned with my deepest desires? We will be reading The Shadow Effect by Debbie Ford, and weekly reflections will be provided. The DARK ROOM is a virtual spiritual circle, practice and weekly check-in facilitated by Alicia Anabel Santos. We will work on releasing what has been keeping us blocked? What can we learn from the darkness in order to step into our light? . Together we will stand in our power, discovering and tapping into our authentic selves, while being unapologetic about who we are—no longer afraid to shine! The DARK ROOM combines gentle poses and movement, breath work, meditation, and journaling. We meet virtually and via telephone Wednesdays, 8:00PM – 10:00PM EST. Dates: 4/29, 5/6, 5/13, 5/20, 5/27, 6/3, 6/10, 6/17 The Dark Room is probably one of the most spiritually powerful workshops I have facilitated. Doing shadow work is not for the faint of heart. I believe that those who are ready to really dig in and do what is required will say yes. You must be ready and it is OK if you aren’t. Please note that this workshop is PAY WHAT YOU CAN and no one will be turned away. Sending you all so much love, Alicia email me at lasantera.nyc@gmail.com link for registration: https://forms.gle/UxDByeZtUDsZ9MRj7

MY FIRST 100 DAYS AS PRESIDENT! This is the beginning of my successful term in my life this year! Remember history class being taught that a new President shares what they what to change and create in their first 100 days of office. Who was I? What did I create? What did I change? Who did I become? What did I discover? and most importantly... Where am I going? What do your first 100 days look like of your Presidency? #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #first100days

“What” questions. It’s an interesting area. What is this? What am I? What are you? Ask and don’t settle. The why question can be helpful and sometimes that’s the only question that works, but the “why?” gives you a “because.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTGmpLqcp1A

059 Step 4 & prioritiesPlease review and rate your priorities of the following items:1) Abstinence from gambling2)To myself & my higher power3) Family4) Job/profession5) Goals, dreams and aspirations6) FRIENDS, COMMUNITY, & NEIGHBORS7) to special interestsQuestions from tonights priorityA- Make a list of your closest friends and write a short description on your feelings toward themB-Is your action or behavior toward them consistent with your feelings?C- Can you accept them for what they are, or do you find yourself critical of their shortcomings?D- Are you there when they need you?E- How would you describe your relationship with your neighbors?F-What do they think of you?G- What is your role in your community?H- Do you take part in any community activity, such as Little League, Chamber of Commerce, local school activities etc.I- What do you do as an individual to make your community a better place to live?WHEW!! Lot of typing there. I hope you can do some good soul searching too!Self care and staying positive are two of the pillars of Bobbie's beliefs surrounding successful recovery and that will be the underlying focus each day or share. Enjoy Beautiful People!

We grow roots for stability. Being Centred in our truth Digging deep within ourselves Feeling stable is an inner job Who am I? What do I believe in? What's the most important thing about your life? Why do you get out of bed in the morningHaving purpose is the antidote for depression Creating meaning for ourselves CHOOSING OUR OWN VALUESCHOOSING WHERE WE PUT OUR ATTENTION I love you CONTACT ME: Instagram Facebook Community DISCLAIMER: Strong language, 18+Not a doctor, use your discernment