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Are you finding it harder and harder these days to stick to your boundaries? Whether it's a lack of physical space at your house (hello, homeschooling)… or a lack of breathing room and space in your calendar, causing you to overwork, strive, and feel flustered with it all. Or maybe it's a Boundary Destroyer in your life, which is a whole other ball of wax.   My all-star special guest today is psychotherapist Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. In her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free is a must-read for me and so many girlfriends of mine as we are looking to break free from the nonsense. And more importantly, live a more authentic, fulfilled life by mastering how we create and maintain healthy boundaries. Here's how.  My all-star special guest today is Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including: Through her research, what she found are some common myths that women believe when setting boundaries  What the psychological aspect is behind why we DON'T set boundaries for ourselves? What's happening, really? How to understand what your internal ‘Boundary Blueprint' is and how to communicate our desired (more positive) boundaries are to other people In a work setting, what to do if you're afraid you'll be seen as a “bitch” or if you fear being fired by your client after you state your boundaries And ultimately, at home… what you must do when it's a family member (a parent, spouse or child) who you cannot remove from your life entirely and you're having to constantly state and restate your boundaries all the time? Terri is a brilliant bright light in this field of study and she's going to show us a better way of sticking to our boundaries. In our conversation today, you'll gain a glimmer into her work, teaching each of us how to stop abandoning ourselves for the sake of others without guilt or drama. But rather, she shows us a way that healthy boundaries can help us gain better communication and better relationships… more satisfaction, abundance, and success. All of it is a result of doing the work, gaining clarity on our subconscious beliefs, and sticking to our boundaries. Q: Are you ready to learn how to stick to your boundaries better? If yes, this one is for you. It's time to #DoTheThing! ---- Show notes available with all links mentioned here:https://www.thesimplifiers.com/posts/369-how-to-stick-to-your-boundaries---with-terri-cole-all-star

What an episode we have for you today, listeners. Today on the show we have the phenomenal Terri Cole, whose work about boundaries I have so resonated with in the past. She has a new book out on October 15 called Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, and it examines what we thought we knew about codependency. We have had the godmother of codependency, Melody Beattie, on the show, and Melody introduced the concept to the world. Now, in Too Much, Terri is taking the concept to the next level, introducing us to high-functioning codependency. In today's conversation we define what high-functioning codependency, or HFC, is, what it looks like, some common behaviors exhibited by those who have it, and how those with HFC got to this place. You also might have heard this called “overfunctioning.” You'll hear me say this many times throughout this episode, but I identify as a recovering HFC, and Terri writes that these behaviors are “highly programmed and largely unconscious.” Terri, too, is a recovering HFC, and writes in Too Much that “prioritizing the wants, needs, and outcomes of others over my own well-being was my default setting.” She talks about the moment she knew she couldn't go on this way, and the book is a deeply personal one to her. We also talk about how we draw the line from being caring and a high-functioning codependent — and when we know, as the book's title suggests, that it's too much. By the way, when it comes to romantic relationships, codependents are attracted to narcissists, and the reverse is true, as well. The book talks about how we can prevent this deeply unhealthy combination. In our conversation today, we talk about the cost to a life if one doesn't address their high-functioning codependency, and how the key to getting to the other side is boundaries. Now, Terri is an expert in boundaries; her book prior to Too Much, which I also highly recommend, is called Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. I do think it's important to note that reversing high-functioning codependency is absolutely possible, but it isn't a linear path or a straight line, and that those working through this should expect setbacks. You know what? People could probably live their whole lives with high-functioning codependency, but because of Terri's book, they won't want to, and they don't have to. Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and has been doing this work for over 25 years. She is the host of a podcast I love, “The Terri Cole Show,” and inspires over 600,000 people weekly. She has a deep gift for making complex psychological concepts actionable and accessible so that clients achieve sustainable change. This conversation with Terri meant a lot to me, and I bet it will to you, too. Take a listen.   Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency by Terri Cole   Check out Terri's HFC Toolkit at terricole.com/hfc and visit hfcbook.com/ for more information!

Does your signature reveal anything about you? Does it send a message to those who see it? I start this episode by sharing some insight into how others may make assumptions about you based on how you sign your name. https://graciousliving.typepad.com/the_write_event/2003/11/what_does_your_.html One reason to spend money is to buy things that make you feel good – and happy. But does a fancier car or another pair of shoes really make you happy? Usually not. After a while, that fancy car is just your car and that pair of shoes you had to have just sit in the closet with all the others. Maybe, if we were more deliberate about what we choose to spend money on, it might really make an impact on our overall happiness. That seems to be the case according to research by my guest Michael Norton who has been investigating how and why people spend their money and what it does and doesn't do for them. Michael is a professor at Harvard Business school and author of the book Happy Money: The Science of Happier Spending (https://amzn.to/3iFzDOq) It can be difficult to set boundaries that other people honor. But if you don't set boundaries people can take advantage of you and make you feel resentful. So how do you create boundaries people will respect while not being perceived as cold and inflexible? Joining me with some really great advice on this is Terri Cole. She is a licensed therapist, relationship expert and author of the book Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free (https://amzn.to/3AhKXwz). A lot goes on behind the scenes at restaurants that you are totally unaware of. Listen as I reveal the results of a survey taken of restaurant kitchen workers that let some interesting secrets out of the bag regarding the way restaurants work that you likely never knew. https://abcnews.go.com/Business/13-secrets-waiter-tips-menu/story?id=16948508 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. C welcomes therapist Terri Cole who has worked with many individuals seeking to find appropriate relationship boundaries. She lays out many of the do's and don'ts of managing boundaries, with the idea that it's each person's responsibility to oneself to be authentic. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter's NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/  Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me  Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/

Kelly & Chip talk to psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, about what may be their most "daring" and "purposeful" challenge this year....learning to set and hold boundaries. Terri's book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free gives easy changes and action steps that you can take in your life to change the way you relate to others, your career or just your own life in general and start living a truly authentic life that you love. She gives listeners three specific tips on how to set a boundary that have both Kelly and Chip taking notes and explains how to be a clear communicator. "It all starts with - I'd like to make a simple request..." She is also giving Velvet's Edge listeners a FREE gift with her Boundaries and Codependency Guide Here: boundaryboss.me/velvet "People get codepency all wrong, I have clients who are the most high functioning, self sufficient people who shake their heads no when I tell them what they are dealing with is codependency. They simply can't fathom that, but that's what it is....high functioning codependency."  Website: https://www.terricole.com Socials: @terricole Follow Kelly: @velvetsedge  Follow Chip: @chipdorsch Email: theedge@velvetsedge.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you find it tough to set healthy limits in your personal and professional relationships?  On this episode, we'll find out why some of us have trouble setting boundaries and how we can change. Joining us is psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole who says the most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. Terri's latest book is called, "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free". Her website is https://www.terricole.com/

Kelly & Chip talk to psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, about what may be their most "daring" and "purposeful" challenge this year....learning to set and hold boundaries. Terri's book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free gives easy changes and action steps that you can take in your life to change the way you relate to others, your career or just your own life in general and start living a truly authentic life that you love. She gives listeners three specific tips on how to set a boundary that have both Kelly and Chip taking notes and explains how to be a clear communicator. "It all starts with - I'd like to make a simple request..." She is also giving Velvet's Edge listeners a FREE gift with her Boundaries and Codependency Guide Here: boundaryboss.me/velvet "People get codepency all wrong, I have clients who are the most high functioning, self sufficient people who shake their heads no when I tell them what they are dealing with is codependency. They simply can't fathom that, but that's what it is....high functioning codependency."  Website: https://www.terricole.com Socials: @terricole Follow Kelly: @velvetsedge  Follow Chip: @chipdorsch Email: theedge@velvetsedge.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you finding it harder and harder these days to stick to your boundaries? Whether it's a lack of physical space at your house (hello, homeschooling)… or a lack of breathing room and space in your calendar, causing you to overwork, strive, and feel flustered with it all. Or maybe it's a Boundary Destroyer in your life, which is a whole other ball of wax.   My all-star special guest today is psychotherapist Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. In her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free is a must-read for me and so many girlfriends of mine as we are looking to break free from the nonsense. And more importantly, live a more authentic, fulfilled life by mastering how we create and maintain healthy boundaries. Here's how.  My all-star special guest today is Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including: Through her research, what she found are some common myths that women believe when setting boundaries  What the psychological aspect is behind why we DON'T set boundaries for ourselves? What's happening, really? How to understand what your internal ‘Boundary Blueprint' is and how to communicate our desired (more positive) boundaries are to other people In a work setting, what to do if you're afraid you'll be seen as a “bitch” or if you fear being fired by your client after you state your boundaries And ultimately, at home… what you must do when it's a family member (a parent, spouse or child) who you cannot remove from your life entirely and you're having to constantly state and restate your boundaries all the time? Terri is a brilliant bright light in this field of study and she's going to show us a better way of sticking to our boundaries. In our conversation today, you'll gain a glimmer into her work, teaching each of us how to stop abandoning ourselves for the sake of others without guilt or drama. But rather, she shows us a way that healthy boundaries can help us gain better communication and better relationships… more satisfaction, abundance, and success. All of it is a result of doing the work, gaining clarity on our subconscious beliefs, and sticking to our boundaries. Q: Are you ready to learn how to stick to your boundaries better? If yes, this one is for you. It's time to #DoTheThing! ---- Show notes available with all links mentioned here:https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/terri-cole-stick-to-your-boundaries-all-star

#172 Today's guest is Terri Cole— a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. She has worked for over 20 years with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs, teaching them how to establish and maintain healthy boundaries and create and sustain vibrant relationships. We discuss why she became so interested in boundaries as a therapist, what boundaries can look like for each individual, red flags that you aren't setting enough boundaries in your relationships, the benefits of setting boundaries, how a lack of boundaries can cause people-pleasing and self-abandoning, how to set effective boundaries in your relationships— including with authority figures such as parents or teachers—, what to do when someone doesn't respect your boundaries and when to take space from them, when people manipulate others under the guise of boundaries, and the secret to feeling more empowered in our relationshipsTerri's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/MENTIONED+ Terri's Website + Terri's Book & Workbook + Set Boundaries With Love+ The Terri Cole Show+ Dr. Shefali SHOP GUEST RECOMMENDATIONS: https://amzn.to/3A69GOCEPISODE SPONSOR

Welcome back to Moment. Your moment on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead. This week I am speaking with Terri Cole, who is a licensed psychotherapist, global leading relationship expert and author of the best-selling book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. We chat about how important it is to give from a palce of abundance, rather than control. Terri explains how to step outside of co-dependency and utilise boundaries to protect your energy. I hope you enjoy this moment episode. FREE WORKSHOPS on 30th November & 6th December at 8pm. How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Create Gift Love are pleased to offer 2 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register. And go here to visit our partner Create Gift Love. They are offering an amazing 20% OFF all their products using the code MOTHERKIND20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Self Helpful, “Find Peace By First Creating Boundaries Within Yourself” - This is part three in my series on boundaries, instigated by psychotherapist Terri Cole and the message in her new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. In this episode my chosen co-host is Broadway and screen star, Renée Marino. Renée is author of Becoming A Master Communicator and one of my favorite connoisseurs and practitioners of personal development. Renée listened to my conversation with Terri Cole and at the top of the show, said, “I always thought of boundaries as my boundaries to create for another person, right? Like, so here are my boundaries in my exterior relationships for you. But it's so much about the boundaries we create within ourselves.” This steered the conversation to a new paradigm that is helping me tremendously. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker's new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom's changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What Drives Terri Cole. Terri is my expert on Boundaries from the previous episode and the message of her new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, is our muse for this series. This is where I walk through the seven key areas of life and ask her about her values and motives and her daily habits around them. As you can imagine, we came back over and over to the topic of boundaries and how Terri works to integrate what she preaches and teaches into the everyday practices of her life. Along with her book, Boundary Boss, check out her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker's new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom's changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part one on a series about boundaries. I've spent most of my life with zero boundaries, thinking I was doing the world and everyone in it a favor. Instead, I found myself serving others…with a bitter heart. Or just a worn out heart. To the point where some of those closest with me told me to just go take care of myself, so that…I could take care of them better. But I still grapple with the concept a lot and I need more help. I bet you do too. So, I invited Terri Cole to the show is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of a new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. The message in her book is the muse for our show together here. Terri reaches over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. Let's get into it. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker's new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom's changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many women around the globe act as full or part time caregivers in some capacity and their free labor allows businesses to expand profits and take advantage of their creativity. Often, as a result women are financially dependent and vulnerable. If you do find yourself on the spectrum of vulnerability and financial dependence, know that you are not alone and this problem is a much larger societal problem. It is not only time for unpaid work to be recognized in our society, but also for players at all the levels of our society to share the “caring” burden so that women and all caregivers can have the bandwidth to achieve their own dreams, create their own financial freedom and break the glass ceiling.” But, if you are seeking to grow your own business and earn your own revenue streams– it is possible. There are ways you can empower yourself throughout your entrepreneurial journey in both big and small ways. What you will learn: How I see this societal issue play out in the day-to-day life of women who want to grow a successful portable business while being present for their loved ones What conversation you can have with yourself to make your business a priority What conversation you can have with your family to make yourself a priority Resources and inspiration: Find out more about The Equal Care Day Read the article: Household work would make up 30-50% of GDP—if it were included The OECD Development Centre: Unpaid Care Work: The missing link in the analysis of gender gaps in labour outcomes The World Bank: This is how COVID-19 has affected women's employment Susan Hyatt's IG posts: Weaponized Incompetence 3 ways to address your partner performing weaponized incompetence The book: Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free Learn more about the nonviolent communication method Share Your Love! Do you enjoy listening to this podcast show? Leave your review on your favorite app – iTunes, Stitcher, 

In this remarkable episode, Terri Cole, author of, "Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free," gives the equivalent of a mastery class in explaining and setting up boundaries. This is a not-to-miss episode. Her wakeup call was was learning the cost of not setting up boundaries which helped her to overcome alcoholism because she hadn't been. https://www.terricole.com

In this inspiring episode of Bar Fights, Sarah chats with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship empowerment expert. Author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. Terri shares insights into authenticity, boundaries, and establishing healthy human relationships — especially the one with ourselves.

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If you are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling, it's time to transform your life.   In today's episode, Terri Cole, psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss -The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, will show you how to authentically express your preferences, needs, and limits so you can live the happy, healthy life you deserve. Listen in as Terri and I discuss tips, scripts, and strategies to set healthy boundaries and bring more balance into your life and relationships. Three things you'll learn in this episode: The interplay between boundaries and codependency How to respond when our boundaries are crossed How to tell if you're in in a high-functioning codependent relationship   To connect with Terri, head to:   ·       Instagram: @terricole ·       Website: terricole.com ·       Register for the free Boundary Boss Bootcamp   “Your boundaries are comprised of your preferences, your desires, your limits, and your deal breakers. But here's the thing, it's not enough to know them - we have to know them and then have the skills to clearly communicate them to others in our life.” – Terri Cole   TAKE THE PERSONALITY PATTERN QUIZ!   FB COMMUNITY: The Calm Mom Collective   JOIN ME ON INSTAGRAM: @michellegrosser.coach   “I love The Calm Mom Podcast!” ← if that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing our show!  This helps us support more women, just like you, on their motherhood journey.  Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.”  Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!

In today's episode Emily interviews Terri Cole and the two of them discuss all things boundaries. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert based in New York. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free' and the founder of several programs, including Real Love Revolution, Boundary Bootcamp, and Crushing Codependency. Before becoming an expert in love, boundaries, and codependency, Terri spent years as a bi-coastal talent agent negotiating endorsement contracts for supermodels and celebrities. However, her eventual disenchantment with the world of entertainment led her to make a career change in her 30s and become a psychotherapist and empowerment expert. Her mission has been to help women live self-determined lives that they love by teaching them how to establish and maintain healthy boundaries with ease and create and sustain vibrant relationships. Over the past two decades, Terri has worked with a wide range of individuals, including international pop stars, athletes, Broadway performers, TV personalities, thought leaders, and Fortune 500 CEOs. She empowers a global community of over 800,000 individuals across 189 countries each week through her illuminating videos. articles and blog posts, therapeutic meditations, online courses, and popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. Terri's approach integrates practical psychology with eastern mindfulness practices, resulting in a unique blend that allows her to simplify complex psychological concepts for her clients and students. Her gift lies in making these concepts not only accessible but also actionable, leading to sustainable change. Recognized as an expert therapist and master life coach, she has appeared on popular shows such as GMA3, The Doctors, and NBC News Daily, as well as being featured on the Real Housewives and hundreds of podcasts. She is a contributor to major publications including The Huffington Post, Well+Good, Oprah Daily, and Shondaland, and has been highlighted in People Magazine, The New York Times, Women's Day, Glamour, Elle, Forbes, Vogue, Cosmopolitan, CNN, and Self.  COME TO AN EVOLVE RETREAT THIS YEAR! www.evolvewithemilyretreats.com In today's episode you will hear about: What boundaries are and what they are not Why boundaries are the loving way to interact with others How your upbringing impacts your understanding of boundaries How to know when a boundary is needed & how to set it How people pleasing is unloving Different categories of Boundary offenders Boundary Destroyers & how they're the most painful relationships Scripts to use to set boundaries How to identify love bombing No one's trauma excuses their behavior towards you Connect with Terri here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes book website: boundarybossbook.com Connect with Emily Here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyhayden/ https://linktr.ee/emilyhayden TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@emilyhayden_ Subscribe to The Evolve With Emily Show here: Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3v10YPs iTunes: https://apple.co/3aqW5Ye Soundcloud: https://bit.ly/3dtNINp  

In today's episode Emily interviews Terri Cole and the two of them discuss all things boundaries. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert based in New York. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free' and the founder of several programs, including Real Love Revolution, Boundary Bootcamp, and Crushing Codependency. Before becoming an expert in love, boundaries, and codependency, Terri spent years as a bi-coastal talent agent negotiating endorsement contracts for supermodels and celebrities. However, her eventual disenchantment with the world of entertainment led her to make a career change in her 30s and become a psychotherapist and empowerment expert. Her mission has been to help women live self-determined lives that they love by teaching them how to establish and maintain healthy boundaries with ease and create and sustain vibrant relationships. Over the past two decades, Terri has worked with a wide range of individuals, including international pop stars, athletes, Broadway performers, TV personalities, thought leaders, and Fortune 500 CEOs. She empowers a global community of over 800,000 individuals across 189 countries each week through her illuminating videos. articles and blog posts, therapeutic meditations, online courses, and popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. Terri's approach integrates practical psychology with eastern mindfulness practices, resulting in a unique blend that allows her to simplify complex psychological concepts for her clients and students. Her gift lies in making these concepts not only accessible but also actionable, leading to sustainable change. Recognized as an expert therapist and master life coach, she has appeared on popular shows such as GMA3, The Doctors, and NBC News Daily, as well as being featured on the Real Housewives and hundreds of podcasts. She is a contributor to major publications including The Huffington Post, Well+Good, Oprah Daily, and Shondaland, and has been highlighted in People Magazine, The New York Times, Women's Day, Glamour, Elle, Forbes, Vogue, Cosmopolitan, CNN, and Self.  COME TO AN EVOLVE RETREAT THIS YEAR! www.evolvewithemilyretreats.com In today's episode you will hear about: What boundaries are and what they are not Why boundaries are the loving way to interact with others How your upbringing impacts your understanding of boundaries How to know when a boundary is needed & how to set it How people pleasing is unloving Different categories of Boundary offenders Boundary Destroyers & how they're the most painful relationships Scripts to use to set boundaries How to identify love bombing No one's trauma excuses their behavior towards you Connect with Terri here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes book website: boundarybossbook.com Connect with Emily Here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyhayden/ https://linktr.ee/emilyhayden TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@emilyhayden_ Subscribe to The Evolve With Emily Show here: Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3v10YPs iTunes: https://apple.co/3aqW5Ye Soundcloud: https://bit.ly/3dtNINp  

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global leading relationship expert and author of the best-selling book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. Terri's mission is to empower as many people as possible to stop living out learned boundary behaviors that don't serve them. The techniques, tools and strategies that Terri shares teach people to align their choices and behaviors with their most authentic self so they can be liberated to live happy, healthy lives. Terri has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable. ++This week's Sponsor++ Special thanks to dog food company and vet recommended Pooch and Mutt for sponsoring this episode. Pooch and Mutt works with nutritionists & vets to create trusted products pooches love. From puppies to anxious pooches, they've created a range of products to suit all breeds, life stages, sizes & needs. Motherkind listeners will receive 25% off online purchases using this link https://bit.ly/motherkind-pooch with discount code MOTHERKIND25. @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases: https://mailchi.mp/motherkind/motherkind-mailing-list

Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own? Do you feel like you're getting taken for granted in your relationships? Today, we're having the amazing Terri Cole, psychotherapist and author of the smash-hit book, Boundary Boss. Terri knows that healthy boundaries are key to living an authentic life, and in this episode, she shares her expert insights on how to set them and communicate them respectfully. We'll be talking about why putting yourself last only leads to resentment, and how to reclaim your power by understanding your own preferences, limits, desires, and deal-breakers. So, no matter where you are on your journey to boundary-setting, this episode is not to be missed. Let's dive in! _________Terri Cole: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ _________ Join Us At AWAKEN Your Highest Self – https://www.dannymorel.com/awaken Join The Community – https://www.dannymorel.com/community Connect with Danny: Website | https://www.dannymorel.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/dannymorel/ LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/dannymorel/ Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/Danny.Morel.Page

Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own? Do you feel like you're getting taken for granted in your relationships? Today, we're having the amazing Terri Cole, psychotherapist and author of the smash-hit book, Boundary Boss. Terri knows that healthy boundaries are key to living an authentic life, and in this episode, she shares her expert insights on how to set them and communicate them respectfully. We'll be talking about why putting yourself last only leads to resentment, and how to reclaim your power by understanding your own preferences, limits, desires, and deal-breakers. So, no matter where you are on your journey to boundary-setting, this episode is not to be missed. Let's dive in! Join us at our next event, AWAKEN Your Highest Self, either June 1-3 in Austin, TX, or July 27-29 in Palm Springs, CA: ⁠⁠https://www.dannymorel.com/awaken/⁠⁠ Reunion Experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.reunionexperience.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ (use the code: DannyReunion) _________Terri Cole: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ _________ Join Us At AWAKEN Your Highest Self – https://www.dannymorel.com/awaken Join The Community – https://www.dannymorel.com/community Connect with Danny: Website | https://www.dannymorel.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/dannymorel/ LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/dannymorel/ Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/Danny.Morel.Page

Do you find it tough to set healthy limits in your personal and professional relationships?  On this episode, we'll find out why some of us have trouble setting boundaries and how we can change. Joining us is psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole who says the most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. Terri's latest book is called, "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free".   Nom Nom uses the latest science and insights to make real, good food for dogs. Their nutrient-packed recipes are crafted by Board Certified Veterinary Nutritionists, made fresh, and shipped FREE to your door.  Nom Nom's already delivered over 40 million meals to good dogs like yours, inspiring millions of clean bowls and tail wags.  Nom Nom comes with a Money Back Guarantee. If your dog's tail isn't wagging within 30 days, Nom Nom will refund your first order.  No fillers. No nonsense. Just Nom Nom.  Go Right Now for 50% off your no-risk two week trial at trynom.com/Nobody

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Kelly & Chip talk to psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, about what may be their most "daring" and "purposeful" challenge this year....learning to set and hold boundaries. Terri's book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free gives easy changes and action steps that you can take in your life to change the way you relate to others, your career or just your own life in general and start living a truly authentic life that you love. She gives listeners three specific tips on how to set a boundary that have both Kelly and Chip taking notes and explains how to be a clear communicator. "It all starts with - I'd like to make a simple request..." She is also giving Velvet's Edge listeners a FREE gift with her Boundaries and Codependency Guide Here: boundaryboss.me/velvet "People get codepency all wrong, I have clients who are the most high functioning, self sufficient people who shake their heads no when I tell them what they are dealing with is codependency. They simply can't fathom that, but that's what it is....high functioning codependency."  Website: https://www.terricole.com Socials: @terricole Follow Kelly: @velvetsedge  Follow Chip: @chipdorsch Email: theedge@velvetsedge.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Meet Terri Cole Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with many clients, including stay-at-home moms, celebrities, and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.   Terri started out as head of a successful talent agency working with celebrities and high-profile leaders, yet felt something was missing. She kept seeking to feel happy and content but never quite landed there. Instead, Terri decided to pursue a new career by returning to school to become a psychotherapist. She realized that she was going through life not realizing how crucial boundaries are for a fulfilling life that works or that she was a 'high functioning co-dependent'. We unpacked both of these, how they're intertwined, and shared why you need to get yourself on the boundary bus and how you might also be a high-functioning co-dependent needing a tune-up. Tune in to learn more!      What Are Real Boundaries First off, let's agree to put away any judgment or shame here. I've personally struggled in my own life with setting boundaries and high-functioning co-dependency, and the first step is always awareness. We'll shine the light here on what you might be doing that's hurting your happiness so you can become more aware. Terri defines boundaries as 'your own rules of engagement where you know what's ok and not ok for you. You are clear on your preferences, limits, and deal breakers and communicate them transparently with others. To be masterful and setting and keep boundaries, you've got to be cognizant of what they are, how to make sure others know them, and courageous enough to say something when and if they are broken. Most of us are indoctrinated to be 'good girls' and to be self-abandoning co-dependents, especially when it comes to boundaries. There are all kinds of reasons we're not fluent in boundaries. What matters is to learn how to stop self-abandonment. Terri shared it like this -- 'I am the storm, and my life is the boat.' Can you relate to any of this? I know I can!      A New Kind of Co-Dependent Being co-dependent means being overly invested in the feeling state, outcomes, and situations of people in our life to the detriment of our own well-being (and on all levels) and not feeling we can ask for what we want. It is actually a form of control and typically affects the over-doers, over-achievers, and over-feelers. Many of us are what Terri calls High Functioning Co-dependents, meaning we're doing well in life, achieving our goals, and seeming to succeed. However, if you feel put upon, burned out, and resentful often, you probably are also an HFC. The good news is you can change, starting with awareness and forgiveness of yourself. There are things you can do to change this habit patterning that can affect your mindset, happiness, and health. Read on to hear what you can do to change for good.        Here's How To Stop Being Co-Dependent These are the strategies you'll want to start implementing (I know it's uncomfortable at first) to create solid boundaries and kick the HFC habit.  Learn to say no, and mean it. No is an answer in itself and is crucial to setting good boundaries. Stay on your side of the street and stop taking the other person's emotional temperature. Become a great listener and ask excellent questions. This will help you avoid being triggered or controlling and be curious. Get into mindfulness and meditation (daily) and start building your ability to pause and take the time you need to assess and react how you most desire.     This means learning to tolerate discomfort but remember that you are not fragile. You have what it takes to develop the skills and behaviors to have great boundaries.    The most loving thing you can do is to lovingly let people be autonomous and have full sovereignty in their life and take responsibility for yourself.    For more information about Terri and her work, go to: terricole.com. SPECIAL GIFT FOR YOU-EST YOU LISTENERS: If you'd like to get Terri's book, Boundary Boss, to work on your boundaries (and becoming your strongest You-est You), go to: boundaryboss.me/you     Looking To Help Others Know Who They Are and Design Their Best Life?   If you feel a strong urge to help other big-hearted empaths get unstuck and design their best life, you've got to check out my Life Designer Coach Academy. It is a world-class four-month virtual live coach certification program that will give you proven tools, techniques, practices, and methodology to be a powerful coach. This coaching program is for aspiring and current coaches looking to fill in the missing pieces and gain confidence and mastery both in the coaching core competencies and the integrative health modalities from a mind-body science, positive psychology, and healing arts perspective. To learn more, go to lifedesignercoachacademy.com. Sacred Connection As always, this community is a sacred, safe place built on love and acceptance. It was created to help you evolve and expand into your highest self. Please share your wisdom, comments, and thoughts. I love hearing from you and learning how you are being your truest, you-est you. Please join us in our Facebook group: The You-est You® Podcast Community. 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On today’s episode, I speak with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. We talk about the following and so much more: ✅ What are boundaries and how we can establish clear boundaries ✅ What enmeshment is and how does it start? ✅ What is repetition compulsion ✅ What is the resentment container? Why is this an important part of the work? ✅ What does it mean to be codependent? Why does this occur? ✅ What is narcissism, and how does it occur? ✅ How you can tell when someone is a narcissist? ✅ Some of the ways we can relate to each other in healthy ways in a relationship ✅ The most effective ways to deal with conflict in a relationship I want to thank our sponsors Athletic Greens, who have created AG1, one of the most innovative packets of supplements, including 75 high-quality vitamins, minerals, whole-food sourced superfoods, probiotics, and adaptogens to help you start your day right. If you purchase today, you’ll get a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/yasmeen. Please tag us and tell us what you loved! You can follow @Gateways_To_Awakening on Instagram or Facebook if you’d like to stay connected.

On today’s episode, I speak with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. We talk about the following and so much more: ✅ What are boundaries and how we can establish clear boundaries ✅ What enmeshment is and how does it start? ✅ What is repetition compulsion ✅ What is the resentment container? Why is this an important part of the work? ✅ What does it mean to be codependent? Why does this occur? ✅ What is narcissism, and how does it occur? ✅ How you can tell when someone is a narcissist? ✅ Some of the ways we can relate to each other in healthy ways in a relationship ✅ The most effective ways to deal with conflict in a relationship I want to thank our sponsors Athletic Greens, who have created AG1, one of the most innovative packets of supplements, including 75 high-quality vitamins, minerals, whole-food sourced superfoods, probiotics, and adaptogens to help you start your day right. If you purchase today, you’ll get a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/yasmeen. Please tag us and tell us what you loved! You can follow @Gateways_To_Awakening on Instagram or Facebook if you’d like to stay connected.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, an author, and a total Boundary Boss. She's taught thousands of women just like you to talk true, be seen, and finally live FREE as the most authentic, most empowered version of themselves. Terri is a global leading expert in personal empowerment. For two decades, she has worked with some of the world's most well-known personalities, from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and then actionable.  All of the practices, techniques and concepts she shares are informed by the Five Pillars of Self Mastery, a transformational system based on her personal and professional experience as a licensed clinical therapist for more than 2 decades. She believes we are WAY overdue for a healthy boundary REVOLUTION. Today Terri talks to use about: What boundaries are How critical it is to have good boundaries Why is it so hard to set boundaries How NOT setting boundaries serves us Some telltale signs that you have problems with boundaries How do we set them kindly and clearly without sounding mean What is secondary gain? Can it help explain how it keeps us stuck in our slips, binges and a return to use?    Then we unpack perfectionism and codepepndency with a new version of codepepndecy that will make your head spin. High-functioning codependency!  FOR MORE FROM TERRI COLE Grab a copy of Boundary Boss – The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. https://www.amazon.ca/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1626374348&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=jamiescrimgeo-20&linkId=61b840e1b215a5797523d998df1cd26a&language=en_CA&ref_=as_li_ss_tl Get her free guide: Codependency & Boundaries https://boundaryboss.me/codependency/ Website: https://www.terricole.com Instagram: @terricole Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW   The content of our show is educational only. It does not supplement or supersede the professional relationship and direction of your healthcare provider. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified mental health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, substance use disorder, or mental health concern.  

In this episode of Let's Talk Love we had the pleasure of speaking with licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, Terri Cole. We talk about her new book Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. As a true boundary master herself, Terri teaches us how to assert and maintain healthy boundaries and how using clear, honest and kind communication creates better relationships in our livesWe want to hear from you! Send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IGTV Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionJoin our community for FREE at realloveready.com. By becoming a member you get access to exclusive workshops and upcoming events from Real Love Ready. Learn more with Terri: Take the boundary quiz: boundaryquiz.comFree gift mini boundary lesson & guide: boundaryboss.me/love (make sure to leave out the “www” or the link wont work!) CONNECT WITH TERRI ON SOCIALS: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSWhttps://twitter.com/terri_coleCONNECT WITH RLR ON SOCIALS: facebook.com/reallovereadyinstagram.com/reallovereadytwitter.com/reallovereadyWatch the podcast on YouTube: youtube.com/reallovereadyCredits: the Let's Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

Suzanne interviews boundary-setting expert Terri Cole, author of Boundary Boss, for a great discussion on boundary-setting, codependency, healthy relationships and more How often do you think about your breathing? Probably not much, right? Well, our breath is a valuable resource, an underused engine that can really power up our mojo as I share in the opening. I read my blog, The Forgotten Power of Your Breath. Then I move on to interview Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist, fellow podcaster and the author of an awesome book, Boundary Boss. What an empowering conversation we had! Terri really explains just why we lose our boundaries—and how to get them back in a hurry. Among other things, I learned from her: What boundaries are and why we don't know what ours are How to spot a boundary violation Why we shouldn't ‘be nice' all the time When NOT to set boundaries What ‘boundary destroyers' are and how to handle them What is a ‘High Functioning Codependent'? How to set internal boundaries … and a whole lot more. Much to love and learn in this episode! May you enjoy, Suzanne RESOURCES Suzanne's Joy book set, Box of Joy; Three Books About Happiness – combining her popular self-help titles The Joy of Letting Go, Surrendering to Joy, and How Much Joy Can You Stand? “A best of the best self-help book!”—SELF Magazine Suzanne's blog The Forgotten Power of Your Breath Herbert Benson's landmark book, The Relaxation Response Terri Cole's free boundary quiz Terri Cole's Boundary Boss book Terri's website The Terri Cole Show podcast Terri on Instagram OUR GUEST Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. Terri inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com  

I'm thrilled to have on author, psychoanalyst, boundary and relationship expert and my personal favorite, Terri Cole to the podcast. This interview was truly manifested as I had recently discovered her and watched as she pinpointing my own people pleasing and over functioning codependency in such a new and understandable way that it left me wondering how I'd lived my life not knowing it. We get into how to create healthy boundaries, what a high functioning codependent it (hint, if you're always trying to fix everyone's problems and have it all you might be one), what relationships look like when you begin to have better boundaries and so much more. This is a MUST LISTEN episode!Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com.Jackie has launched her new wellness website Love You Even More! Check out her new course on How To Build Better Self-Worth, read articles on loving yourself and others smarter and work with her on building better self-worth in love, life, career and even your dating life! Find Love You Even more and her new course at https://loveyouevenmore.com!That Girl A Novel is now a podcast! Listen to each chapter free and read by yours truly at That Girl A Novel. Find it everywhere you listen to your podcasts. Or read it on Amazon in paperback or Kindle. Get extra's from the podcast and help support it by joining our Patreon page at www.patreon.com/thatgirlthepodcastFor more about Jackie and her and our guests:https://www.instagram.com/jackiebrubaker/https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlthepodcast/https://www.instagram.com/terricolehttps://www.facebook.com/https://terricole.com www.loveyouevenmore.comwww.jackiebrubaker.comI'm excited to announce my new course How To Build Better Self-worth is now available at my wellness website loveyouevenmore.com.If you've found yourself stuck in a rut, making poor decisions in relationships, feel like you can never get what you really want or are just too afraid to take chances on yourself it's time to do some work on your self worth.I walk you through exercises in uncovering where your self-worth has been broken, how Support the show

Today on the Everything Belongs Podcast, Madison is in conversation with Terri Cole. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. In this episode, Madison and Terri speak on all things boundaries, codependency, our tendency to auto-accommodate with those around us, what avoiding conflict really offers us, how to deal with common boundary situations and so much more! Listen in and find the full show notes here: http://madisonmorrigan.com/podcast-rss-feed/Guest LinksTerri's WebsiteTerri's Listener GiftTerri's InstagramTerri's PodcastMentions:Melody BeattieShawn Meghan BurnDr. Harriet Lerner Elizabeth DiAlto

In this episode, we talk with our special guest Terri Cole about her book “Boundary Boss” and why boundaries are important for thriving, resilient, and unstoppable leaders. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and Finally Live Free.” For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients, from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. Terri shares her journey of becoming the “boundary boss” and explores where our boundary blueprints come from. We also talk about the “Boundary Boss Bill of Rights” and what a “high-functioning codependent” (HFC) is and why it's an issue for some people. At the end of the episode, Terri offers a gift to all MissingLogic listeners: Visit BoundaryBoss.me/MissingLogic to watch the video and grab the boundary strategies and scripts. For full show notes and links, visit: https://www.missinglogic.com/new-podcast If you found value in this episode, please subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts! Enrollment is open to our Self-Study Program, Caring for Others Without Neglecting YOU! This self-study program is specifically designed for healthcare leaders like you, so you can find a way to care for your team without neglecting you. Click Here NOW to learn more and enroll! SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: https://www.linkedin.com/company/missinglogic-llc https://www.facebook.com/missinglogicLLC https://twitter.com/MissingLogicLLC https://www.instagram.com/missinglogic_llc/

Watch the full video interview on YouTube here: https://bit.ly/terricole468 Terri Cole (IG: @terricole) is a New York-based, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert and founder of Real Love Revolution. Today we're discussing her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. Stick around and learn how to set healthy boundaries which will transform your relationship with yourself and your relationships with others. In this episode, we discuss: The concept of boundaries The process of self-awareness The OK vs. not OK exercise What is your boundary archetype? How to address workplace boundaries in a healthy way Creating a proactive boundary success plan Simply say "no" You don't need to problem-solve for others How do we shift our relationship with fear Setting boundaries + how to handle reactions The fear of change The catalyst for change in relationships Make a simple request Setting our own internal boundaries The resentment effect Revealing the secondary gain Good boundaries vs. disordered boundaries Physical manifestations of having disordered boundaries Create a boundary blueprint Living an authentic life Teaching kids age-appropriate boundaries How your family system impacts your boundaries Show sponsors: Organifi

Have you ever felt like a doormat who people can just walk all over you? Or perhaps you have felt like a punisher, attacking any and everyone who may stand in your way? If you have ever felt like this, you are not alone. So many people live in this cycle because they don't have boundaries.   Boundaries are a huge part of my life and I am so excited to share this conversation with you today. Our guest today is one of my favorite guests I've ever had the pleasure of having on The Influencer podcast.   Today we are chatting with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.   She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.   What You'll Learn Today: Hero Child, Clown, Invisible Child and Scapegoat - which one were you growing up and how does that shape your boundaries Creating healthy and simple boundaries starting today Your Preferences, Limits and Non-Negotiables - how to know them and share them How to say NO with confidence and clarity   We are giving away 5 of Terri's books, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. All you have to do is screenshot today's episode, tag @JulsSolomon and @TerriCole and share your biggest takeaway. The first 5 screenshots we see will get a free copy of Terri's book!   RESOURCES TO PRE-ORDER MY BOOK, Get What You Want: How to Go From Unseen to Unstoppable, and get access to a FREE live event with bonuses go to www.juliesolomon.net/getwhatyouwant   To join my EmpowerYou personal development membership for just $29 a month, go to: https://join.juliesolomon.net/membership   Take Terri's boundary quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com/   Access to Terri's free boundary guide: www.boundaryboss.me/influencer   Connect with Terri: terricole.com   OUR PARTNERS Go to www.GoodChop.com/influencer100 and use code influencer100 to get $100 off your first 3 boxes

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global empowerment and relationship expert with a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable. Her own experience of being a self-described “boundary disaster” led to writing the book https://boundarybossbook.com/ (Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free). We discuss some of the fears people have around setting boundaries, the dangers of forgiveness and codependency, and taking the first steps to establishing your own boundaries. Resources: https://www.terricole.com/ (terricole.com) Read: https://boundarybossbook.com/ (Boundary Boss) Get a free guide on boundaries and codependency at http://boundaryboss.me/bigsilence (boundaryboss.me/bigsilence) Follow Karena Dawn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenadawn (@karenadawn) Follow The Big Silence on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/The.Big.Silence (@The.Big.Silence) Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuKGS6i7GBq_Ydyj3jGO_fA (The Big Silence YouTube Channel) “The Big Silence” theme song written and performed by https://www.instagram.com/jamesnicholaskinney/ (James Nicholas Kinney). Executive Handyman, Bobby Goldstein. The Big Silence is produced and published by http://crate.media (Crate Media).

Boundaries are front and center in this episode with guest expert Terri Cole, author of the book “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Alexandra and Terri talk about how the skill of setting boundaries is essential in relationships, and they answer two listener questions together that relate to this issue.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsShare your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Solomon:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole:https://bookshop.org/books/boundary-boss-the-essential-guide-to-talk-true-be-seen-and-finally-live-free/9781683647683Terri's Boundary Quiz:https://boundaryquiz.com/Terri's website:https://www.terricole.com/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What if I told you the secret to living free is to have better boundaries? Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. We talk about boundary requests, disasters, and how they all ties together for creating a healthy relationship with others and ourselves. Guest Info: IG: https://www.instagram.com/@terricole    

Most women are full or part-time caregivers. Their free labor allows organizations and businesses to be more effective, create value and increase profit. Financial vulnerability and dependence should not be their reward. If you want to grow your business or take it to the next level but struggle to do so because you are a mother or a caregiver, and that prevents you in various ways from creating your own source of revenue, know that this challenge is part of a much bigger problem in our society. However, there are things you can do about it at your own micro level to feel more empowered in your entrepreneurial journey. “It is not only time for unpaid work to be recognized in our society, but also for players at all the levels of our society to share the ‘caring' burden so that women can have the bandwidth to achieve their own dreams, create their own financial freedom and break the glass ceiling.” In this episode, I want to share with you my take on this challenge and some inspiration to help you not only have the bandwidth to take your business seriously, but also be part of a movement to break the glass ceiling for women, without being broken. https://tandemnomads.lpages.co/portable-business-accelerator-22/ () What you will learn: How I see this societal issue play out in the day-to-day life of women who want to grow a successful portable business while being present for their loved ones What conversation you can have with yourself to make your business a priority What conversation you can have with your family to make yourself a priority Resources and inspiration: Find out more about https://equalcareday.de/en/homepage/ (The Equal Care Day) Read the article: https://centerforpartnership.org/news-events/household-work-would-make-up-30-50-of-gdp-if-it-were-included/ (Household work would make up 30-50% of GDP—if it were included) The OECD Development Centre: https://www.oecd.org/dev/development-gender/Unpaid_care_work.pdf (Unpaid Care Work: The missing link in the analysis of gender gaps in labour outcomes) The World Bank: https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2021/08/how-world-bank-s-gender-innovation-lab-is-helping-to-close-the-employment-gap-for-women (This is how COVID-19 has affected women's employment) Susan Hyatt's IG posts: https://www.instagram.com/p/CafJvrxOqlr/ (Weaponized Incompetence) https://www.instagram.com/p/CafLXELuWRi/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link (3 ways to address your partner performing weaponized incompetence) The book: https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/B09299YSVX/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=boundary+boss&qid=1646136880&sprefix=boundary+%2Caps%2C229&sr=8-1 (Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free) Learn more about https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/learn-nonviolent-communication/4-part-nvc/ (the nonviolent communication method) Share Your Love! Do you enjoy listening to this podcast show? Leave your review on your favorite app – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tandem-nomads-empowering-expat-partners-tips-inspiration/id1056812170?mt=2 (iTunes), http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tandem-nomads (Stitcher), https://open.spotify.com/show/4mWuNrYGnmK6yuVHt1CEwx?si=QqgfqVkESK2IEnnlzwA9hg (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly90YW5kZW1ub21hZHMuY29tL2ZlZWQvcG9kY2FzdA%3D%3D (Google Play)   Share Your Thoughts! Connect with the Tandem Nomads community and share your comments! https://www.facebook.com/groups/tandemnomads/ (CLICK HERE)

We repeat what we do not repair, Author and Psychotherapist Terri Cole reminds us on this episode of Moms Moving On, further driving home the point that when it comes to setting boundaries after divorce, the change starts within us. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 300,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. If you want to understand more about your boundary style, Terri has developed a free quiz just for you. Check it out here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many myths about what it means to have boundaries and why we may be afraid or unwilling to set them. Many women, says psychotherapist Terri Cole, are often raised to “be a good girl.” This is the highest virtue many women are raised to offer: Being liked. But when we prioritize other people over ourselves, it leads to a place of anger and bitterness. Terri Cole calls it “the disease to please.” Her book Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free will show you have to express your preferences, needs, and limits so you can live the happy, healthy life you deserve. Her mission is teaching women how to attract and sustain healthy and vibrant love into their lives and how to establish and maintain effective boundaries with grace.Links:Terri's special gift for GloThe Boundary Boss bookTerri's websiteTerri's instagramTerri's youtube channelThe Terri Cole Show podcastGLO classes:Speak Your Truth Flow - vinyasa flowThroat Chakra Truth Flow - vinyasa flow Voice Your Truth with Kundalini - kundaliniHealing Energy for Neck & Thyroid - kundalini Udana Pranavayu, Express Yourself - vinyasa flow Take Time for Yourself - vinyasa flowHealthy Decisions - meditation Take Time to Restore & Soften Your Edges - restorative Yoga Nidra for Total Well-Being - yoga nidra program, six classes over three weeks

Ryan talks to psychotherapist and author Terri Cole about her new book Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, the Stoic's concept of controlling what you can control and letting go of what you can't, how the clearest boundaries make the most successful businesses, and more. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She inspires over 300,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.KiwiCo is a subscription service that delivers everything your kids will need to make, create and play. Get 50% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line with code STOIC at kiwico.com.Stamps.com makes it easy to mail and ship right from your computer. Use our promo code STOIC to get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage and a digital scale. Go to Stamps.com, click on the microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in STOIC.New Relic combines 16 different monitoring products that you'd normally buy separately, so engineering teams can see across their entire software stack in one place. Get access to the whole New Relic platform and 100GB of data free, forever – no credit card required! Sign up at NewRelic.com/stoic.Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemailCheck out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookFollow Terri Cole: Homepage, Instagram, Twitter

"Boundaries are not the blocks to epic relationships, they're the bridges.”   Episode Summary:  Wondering how to set boundaries in your life? Terri Cole, psychotherapist and renowned author of her recent book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, joins us this week on SoulTalk to help us dissect boundaries and everything in between. Listen and learn about establishing healthy boundaries in all of your relationships, important keys on communication, and building the confidence needed to live the life of your dreams.   In This Episode You Will Learn:. What boundaries and boundary blueprints are. How to build confidence through boundaries. The 3 questions to ask yourself to gain clarity and help heal unhealthy patterns from your childhood. The distinction between healthy and unhealthy boundaries. The key steps in communication with boundary setting.   Some Questions I Ask: What are boundaries? Is there such a thing as unhealthy boundaries? Why do we keep repeating patterns from our childhood? How do you get to a point of acknowledging a deeper truth and making a shift? What are the key steps or guidelines to effectively communicate our boundaries?     What is your most important takeaway about boundaries?   Guest Links: www.terricole.com Terri Cole's new book:    https://boundarybossbook.com Quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com SoulTalk Guest Free Gift: boundaryboss.me/soultalk    

If you've ever found it tough to set healthy limits in your personal and professional relationships, we have some valuable information ahead for you. On this episode, we'll find out why some of us have trouble setting boundaries and how we can change. Joining us is psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole who says the most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. Terri's latest book is called, "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free". Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! -->Aurate: Aurate is a fine jewelry brand which offers amazing quality at affordable prices. Because Aurate sells directly to you, without the middle man markup, they can offer the same quality as traditional 5th avenue brands at a fraction of the cost. Aurate's gold feels substantial and the diamonds sparkle and shine. Aurate is looking to set the standard for women because they deserve the best—always reminding them to set the gold bar high! Go to www.auratenewyork.com/nobodytoldme and use promo code nobodytoldme to get 20% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you have a hard time maintaining boundaries? Do you feel people sometimes walk all over you because you are just so nice, and you don't know how to say “No”? Do you want to have greater communication skills, especially in the face of potential conflict? Today's guest, licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole, will explore these ideas and teach you how to have healthy boundaries and thereby much more balance in your life.  She explains exactly what boundaries are and how sometimes they can be porous, while others are rigid, depending on our preferences, our limits, and our total dealbreakers. She shares ways to set healthy boundaries in order to have your real voice and feelings be heard. She also discusses why empathic people and narcissists are so often together, even though it is an unhealthy fit.  Terri Cole is a global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of  “Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.” Info: TerriCole.com

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, she has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.   Terri has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.    When the opportunity to interview Terri landed in my inbox, I JUMPED. I have heard her speak a few times over the years and she is always FIRE. I cannot wait to share her genius here with you! Make sure to check out the free gift she is offering all Shameless Moms at boundaryboss.me/shameless. Listen in to hear Terri share: What boundaries are (your own personal rules of engagement) and why they matter Disordered and dysfunctional boundaries The importance of uncovering your downloaded boundary blueprint The danger of the truth that: “Women are raised and praised to be self-abandoning codependents” How to take small steps to better boundaries and pause all of your YESes Why boundaries are crucial in parenting and what disordered boundaries in parenting can look like How fear shows up and prevents us from setting healthy boundaries and speaking truthfully How she works with people through The Real Love Revolution - via a deep dive into yourself Links mentioned: Learn about Terri's course, Real Love Revolution: terricole.com/rlr Terri's free gift for Shameless Moms: boundaryboss.me/shameless Podcast: The Terri Cole Show: https://terricole.com/itunes Terri on IG Terri on Twitter Terri on FB Terri on YouTube   Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponso

Are you often taken advantage of?  Have you been worried about having boundaries? We discuss all things boundaries today, so this is for you. In this episode I talk with Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. We dive into dysfunctional boundaries, boundary violations, co-dependency, dealing with the urge to fix people, and so much more. **Sign up for the Wild Horses Project – email Info@sisterhoodofSweat.com or DM Linda on Instagram**   Questions I asked: How did you become the boundary boss? What would be an example of someone who has unhealthy boundaries? How do you deal with unhealthy situations? What are typical boundary violations? How do we figure out disordered emotional boundaries? How do you deal with people-pleasing? What is the Boundary Bill of Rights? What's a boundary blueprint? Why do we need to make sure we make time for self-care? How do we stop trying to help people who don't deserve it? How do we stop being a fixer? How do we navigate finding self-love? How do we deal with looking for external validation? Topics Discussed: Boundaries Codependency Self-Esteem. Having good boundaries. Being brave. Your VIP section. People pleasing. Being a fixer Quotes from the show: “You have the right to say Yes or No to someone without feeling guilty.” @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat “When you have disordered boundaries, you take on the emotional states of others.” @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat “You have the right to course-correct anytime.” @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat “Being uncomfortable is fleeting and you're not that fragile.” @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat “We end up feeling abused because we didn't get our own needs met.” @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat “You have the right to talk true, be seen, and live free.” @terri_cole @SisterhoodSweat How you can stay in touch with Terri: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes Grab Your Book: https://boundarybossbook.com/ Real Love Revolution Course: https://terricole.com/rlr Free Gift: https://boundaryboss.me/sisterhood How you can stay in touch with Linda: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest YouTube SoundCloud   "Proud Sponsors of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T" Essential Formulas   **Sign up for the Wild Horses Project – email Info@sisterhoodofSweat.com or DM Linda on Instagram**

Are you finding it harder and harder these days to stick to your boundaries? Whether it's a lack of physical space at your house (hello, homeschooling)… or a lack of breathing room and space in your calendar, causing you to overwork, strive, and feel flustered with it all. Or maybe it's a Boundary Destroyer in your life, which is a whole other ball of wax.   My special guest today is psychotherapist Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. In her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free is a must-read for me and so many girlfriends of mine as we are looking to break free from the nonsense. And more importantly, live a more authentic, fulfilled life by mastering how we create and maintain healthy boundaries. Here's how.  My special guest today is Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including: Through her research, what she found are some common myths that women believe when setting boundaries  What the psychological aspect is behind why we DON'T set boundaries for ourselves? What's happening, really? How to understand what your internal ‘Boundary Blueprint' is and how to communicate our desired (more positive) boundaries are to other people In a work setting, what to do if you're afraid you'll be seen as a “bitch” or if you fear being fired by your client after you state your boundaries And ultimately, at home… what you must do when it's a family member (a parent, spouse or child) who you cannot remove from your life entirely and you're having to constantly state and restate your boundaries all the time? Terri is a brilliant bright light in this field of study and she's going to show us a better way of sticking to our boundaries. In our conversation today, you'll gain a glimmer into her work, teaching each of us how to stop abandoning ourselves for the sake of others without guilt or drama. But rather, she shows us a way that healthy boundaries can help us gain better communication and better relationships… more satisfaction, abundance, and success. All of it is a result of doing the work, gaining clarity on our subconscious beliefs, and sticking to our boundaries. Q: Are you ready to learn how to stick to your boundaries better? If yes, this one is for you. It's time to #DoTheThing! ---- Show notes available with all LINKS mentioned here: https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/terri-cole-stick-to-your-boundaries-replay

"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." -Brene Brown   In this episode, Terri and I talk about: How to set healthy boundaries like a boss How to get comfortable with boundaries How to understand the language of boundaries Continue the conversation on Instagram @heatherchauvin_ Apply for Mastery: www.heatherchauvin.com/mastery    Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ 

What are boundaries, exactly, and how do we know if we have good ones? What types of things keep us from setting good boundaries — and how do we set them in the first place? Join us as today's guest teaches us how to be a “Boundary Boss,” and explains why women often have extra challenges when it comes to understanding and setting boundaries. To learn more -- or read the transcript -- visit the official episode page here. Guest BioTerri Cole is a New York-based, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and founder of Real Love Revolution, Boundary Bootcamp, and the co-founder of Crushing Codependency. Her female empowerment courses reach women in over 90 countries. She has been featured as an expert therapist and master life coach on A&E's Monster In-Laws, TED X, The Lisa Oz Show, Real Housewives, and had a weekly radio show on Hay House Radio. Plus, she's a regular contributor to The Huffington Post, Positively Positive, The Daily Love, Well+Good, and has been featured in Italian Elle, Forbes, Origin, Vogue, Self, and was honored to grace the cover of Inspired Coach magazine. Her latest book is “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Learn more about her work at terricole.com. Inside Mental Health Podcast HostGabe Howard is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To learn more about Gabe, please visit his website, gabehoward.com.

  In this Episode Terri Ann Cole talks about setting boundaries, how to say no instead of yes, taking care of your mental wellness and working on producing your most confident self.    Background   Terri Cole is a psychotherapist, relationship expert and transformation coach. founder of Real Love Revolution® and Boundary Bootcamp. the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. founder of Crushing Codependency, her empowerment courses serve people in over 90 countries. Prior to her current work Terri was a bi-coastal talent agent negotiating endorsement contracts for supermodels and celebrities. She became disenchanted with the world of entertainment which led her to change careers to become a psychotherapist and empowerment expert. She has been featured as an expert therapist and master life coach on A&E's Monster In-Laws, TED X, The Lisa Oz Show, Real Housewives and has a weekly radio show on Hay House Radio. She is also a regular contributor to The Huffington Post, Positively Positive, The Daily Love, Well+Good, and has been featured in Italian Elle, Forbes, Origin, Vogue, Self.  She empowers more than 100,000 women weekly through published articles and blog posts, therapeutic meditations, online courses, and her popular Hello Freedom podcast.   Highlights of this episode    Terri Cole gives tips on how to overcome feeling as if you are not good enough   “You got to figure out how to fall madly and deeply in love with you because your relationship with you sets the bar for every other relationship in your life. So, if you treat yourself like crap, you don't rest when you're tired. You talk badly about yourself to other people or just internally, you will inevitably attract people who agree with your low self-assessment. So, the first order of business if you want to have higher self-esteem is to figure out your relationship with yourself."    Terri discusses how to set healthy boundaries for yourself regardless of what others think.    "When it comes to being self-determined, empowered, self-directed, we need to have healthy boundaries, to be able to talk about the way we feel and what we think, regardless of what other people think. Right? And when you know yourself. You realize it's okay like some people won't like what I'm saying or doing. Not everyone is going to approve of me."   In this episode, we talk about:    How Terri became a psychotherapist and how she helps people to understand who they are and why they act the way they do Tips on how to set healthy boundaries from her book boundary boss for yourself and taking care of your mental wellness  Creating a healthy relationship with yourself and social media  How to overcome feelings of unworthiness through channeling your highest self esteem    Resources  Episode Notes: bit.ly/TerriCole Connect with Terri Cole on IG: instagram.com/terricole Connect with Cielo on IG: instagram.com/seaandsky45 Visit Terri Cole's Website: terricole.com Check out Terri's book: boundarybossbook.com How to Leave to Safely Leave an Abusive Relationship here   Services: Are you an entrepreneur ready to take your brand to the next level? Want to increase your digital presence online so you can skyrocket your number of clients & sales? We can help YOU!   Visit BLENDtw Media to learn more about our digital marketing services and send us an email to team@blendtw.com to BOOK a F-R-E-E consultation TODAY.  For more resources to help you live your BEST life, join our community on: Facebook  Instagram Find more inspiring stories & higher wisdom at myvoiceourstory.com  

Terri is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, business owner, and author. Over her long and varied career, she has helped her clients repair disordered, or in some cases, nonexistent boundaries. It can be intimidating to create limits and let go of relationships that no longer serve us, or as Terri calls them, historical handcuffs. In today's episode, we discuss sustainable ways to empower yourself through boundaries. We also talk about the benefits of having boundaries, how to slowly add them into your life, and ways to shift your mindset around codependent relationships. Terri also shares details of her new book Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free, and how her Boundary Bootcamp inspired her to put her findings in writing.    IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT: How Terri transitioned from the entertainment industry to psychotherapy  Themes and patterns that Terri sees in her patients struggling with boundary issues  Coping with the fear surrounding setting boundaries  The relationship between codependency and boundaries  How to stop saying ‘yes' to everything (especially when you want to say ‘no') The first steps to creating a proactive boundary success plan   RESOURCES Go to boundaryboss.me/happy for a free gift for listeners!  Discover your boundary style at www.boundaryquiz.com. ENTER TO WIN OUR $2,800 HOLIDAY SWEEPSTAKES! Thanks Liquid IV. To save 25% on your order, go to liquidiv.com and use the promo code HAPPY. Thanks to Indeed for supporting Earn Your Happy. Go to indeed.com/happy for a $75 sponsored job credit to upgrade your job post.  Text PODCAST to 310-496-8363 for updates and a chance to be featured on the show!   CONNECT WITH TERRI Order her book, Boundary Boss, here: https://boundarybossbook.com Instagram: @terricole Website: terricole.com   CONNECT WITH LORI Instagram: @loriharder Lite Pink: @drinklitepink Earn Your Happy: @earnyourhappy Girlfriends & Business: @girlfriendsandbusiness Listen to Girlfriends & Business

Marni welcomes Licensed Psychotherapist Terri Cole to the Life Check Yourself podcast. Terri is a global relationship and empowerment expert, the author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free, and podcast host. She offers up tips for single ladies who date, how-to say no with ease and grace, and her effective Boundary Blueprint.    Key takeaways from this episode:  Effective Communication Skills How to Set Personal Boundaries How to Say No with Ease and Grace Dating Red Flags   Establishing Healthy Boundaries [2:41] Terri describes boundaries as personal rules of engagement. Guidelines we set to let other people know what is ok and what is not ok with us. They are rules specifically customized around our limits, values, and deal-breakers. They let people know how to treat us. When we were young most of us were told to be good kids and do things for other people whether we wanted to or not. This means, most of us were raised to be self-abandoning, people-pleasing, co-dependents.  Almost all of us have disordered boundaries.  Terri says boundaries are a language we can learn. We got corrupted data and that creates a twisted sense of self, value, and worth. It is a complicated aspect of our personality. In her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free she has step-by-step instructions on how to set healthy boundaries.  When we do things for others that they can and should be doing for themselves we can become bitter and burnt out. It is absolutely okay to say no without an explanation of why you are saying no.  The amount of self-respect, self-love, and self-worth we feel for ourselves sets the bar for every other relationship in our lives. Whether we know it or not.           The Boundary Blueprint [15:33] If you don't set boundaries, you will be a martyr only doing things for people out of a corrupted sense of responsibility. You may try to make people feel guilty and you will give corrupted data about yourself to the people in your life so they won't authentically know you. And, how can anyone authentically love you if you don't allow them to authentically know you or you don't authentically know yourself?   To get started: Get clear about where you need a boundary, then Do a resentment inventory Make a simple request Don't change the rules   Tips for Single Ladies [31:21] Single women should value their time and not get stuck in the pen pal zone when a guy texts but won't ask you out. Ask him to take things to the next level. Who has time to waste? Not empowered single women. Set boundaries in the dating realm, early and often.  A woman who has healthy boundaries says something when someone doesn't keep their word. She pushes back when a guy doesn't call when he says he will. She doesn't collude with a guy's twisted sense of reality when he thinks his time is more valuable than she is.   Make a Connection: Visit Our Website Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here! Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here! Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP Get a Free Coaching Session with Marni on Our Podcast - Sign up Here to Be a Guest On Our Show Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates Boundary Boss

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. On this exciting episode, Nicole interviews Terri on all things Boundaries, live in front of the Coffee Club audience. There are so many excellent discussions here, you don't want to miss this! For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes Be sure to get a copy of her book, ASAP! Platinum Experience registration is open - Apply Here : www.myalignedpurpose.com/platinum My Aligned Purpose is all about empowering women + non-binary entrepreneurs through coaching + courses. To further fine tune your mindset, amplify your voice and increase your assets, check out the free Millionaire Mindset Shift training (https://www.myalignedpurpose.com/millionaire-mindset-shift) and the best dang membership community on the planet, Coffee Club (https://www.myalignedpurpose.com/coffeeclub). Connect with us! IG and Facebook: @myalignedpurpose Email: connect@myalignedpurpose.com www.myalignedpurpose.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/myalignedpurpose/message

Elle Russ chats with Terri Cole about a variety of subjects: Healing mother wounds, boundaries, over-giving, projections, and much more. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss - The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com. Terri is offering a FREE gift to the audience: BoundaryBoss.me/elle   SELECTED LINKS: TerriCole.com BoundaryBoss.me/elle ElleRuss.com

Face to Face with Terri ColeLive on OMTimes Radio Thursday, September 23, 2021, at 10:30 PST / 1:30 PM ESTWatch the Livestream on the No BS Spiritual Book Club on Facebook, OMTimes Radio & TV Facebook, or OMTimesTV Youtube THIS WEEK THE NO BS SPIRITUAL BOOK CLUB GOES FACE TO FACE WITH… PSYCHOTHERAPIST, EMPOWERMENT EXPERT, AND AUTHOR TERRI COLEHaving trouble drawing your boundaries? Join me this Thursday and get some insights from Terri Cole, author of the book, Boundary Boss—The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, after she's shared the stories behind the 10 Best Spiritual Books that influenced her the most on her life journey.Join us this Thursday live streaming on Facebook at 10:30am PT/1:30pm ET/6:30pm UK.https://www.facebook.com/sandiesedgbeer | https://www.facebook.com/groups/nobsspiritualbookclubhttps://www.thenobsspiritualbookclub.comVisit the NO BS Spiritual Book Club Page https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/the-no-bs-spiritual-book-club/Connect with Sandie Sedgbeer at https://www.sedgbeer.comSubscribe to the OMTimes Newsletter at https://omtimes.com/subscribe-omtimes-magazine/#TerriCole #SandieSedgbeer #NoBSSpiritualBookClub

Having trouble drawing your boundaries? Join me this Thursday and get some insights from Terri Cole, author of the book, Boundary Boss—The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, after she's shared the stories behind the 10 Best Spiritual Books that influenced her the most on her life journey. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sandie-sedgbeer/support

Are you overworked, over-giving, overdoing, always fixing problems, and just terribly exhausted most of the time? Today I hope your life transforms the way mine has over the last few weeks! Not a lot of people get to interview one of their role models in life. I'm thrilled to chat with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. After binge-reading the book in between my patients in just days, the way I view myself and the world has completely transformed. Terri chats with us on how she evolved from a “boundary disaster” to a “boundary boss” through years of therapy, working with her own patients, and consistently speaking her truth every single day. Exclusively for Fit As A Fiddle listeners, visit https://boundaryboss.me/fit for a FREE video and downloadable guide to starting your Boundary Boss Journey. Visit www.boundarybossbook.com to get your copy of the book.For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, author, and a leading expert in female empowerment. For two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world's most well-known personalities, from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs. She has been featured as an expert therapist and master life coach on A&E's Monster In-Laws, TED X, The Lisa Oz Show, Real Housewives among many others. Terri is the author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. In this podcast, we speak about how absolutely critical it is to have good boundaries. Terri shares the personal journey that brought her into this work, explores where our boundary blueprints come from, and gives us her five keys for self-mastery. 

Do you like your signature? What message does it send to the people who see it? This episode begins with some insight into how other people might make assumptions about you based solely on how you sign your name. https://graciousliving.typepad.com/the_write_event/2003/11/what_does_your_.html Do you spend money on things that really make you happy? Is another pair of shoes or pair of pants really going to make a positive difference in your life? We often think so at the time of purchase but pretty soon those things sit in the closet like all the other clothes and shoes and we rarely think about them. Being more deliberate in what we choose to buy can really make a difference in our overall happiness according to research by Michael Norton who has been researching how and why people spend their money and what it does or doesn't do for them. Michael is a professor at Harvard Business school and author of the book Happy Money: The Science of Happier Spending  (https://amzn.to/3iFzDOq) It is sometimes difficult to set boundaries for yourself that people will honor. Yet, if you don't set boundaries, you run the risk of people walking all over you or taking advantage. So how can you create boundaries people will respect without coming off as inflexible and unhelpful? Here with some great advice on this is Terri Cole, she is a licensed therapist, relationship expert and author of the book Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free  (https://amzn.to/3x32PUJ) When you go to a restaurant, there is a lot going on behind the scenes that you never see. Listen as I reveal some of the results of a survey of restaurant kitchen staff that reveals some interesting secrets of the way restaurants work, that you likely never knew. https://abcnews.go.com/Business/13-secrets-waiter-tips-menu/story?id=16948508 PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really enjoy The Jordan Harbinger Show and we think you will as well! There's just SO much here. Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start for some episode recommendations, OR search for The Jordan Harbinger Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts.  Save time, money, and stress with Firstleaf – the wine club designed with you in mind! Join today and you'll get 6 bottles of wine for $29.95 and free shipping! Just go to https://tryfirstleaf.com/SOMETHING Get 10% off on the purchase of Magnesium Breakthrough from BiOptimizers by visiting https://magbreakthrough.com/something Go to https://RockAuto.com right now and see all the parts available for your car or truck. Write SOMETHING in their “How did you hear about us?” box so they know we sent you! https://www.geico.com Bundle your policies and save! It's Geico easy! Search for Home. Made., an original podcast by Rocket Mortgage that explores the meaning of home and what it can teach us about ourselves and others.  Learn about investment products and more at https://Investor.gov, your unbiased resource for valuable investment information, tools and tips. Before You Invest, https://Investor.gov. Visit https://www.remymartin.com/en-us/ to learn more about their exceptional spirits! Visit https://ferguson.com for the best in all of your plumping supply needs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is the one we have been waiting for! The episode all about boundaries! This week. Kat (@kat.defatta) welcomes Terri Cole (@terricole) to the podcast. And y'all, she is not just a licensed psychotherapist she is a boundaries expert who recently came out with a new book called Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. Terri's mission is help women stop living out learned boundary behaviors that don't serve them and this episode is the perfect way to start looking at where you may need to adjust the boundaries in your life. Get ready... you're going to want to take notes during this one! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

It is the one we have been waiting for! The episode all about boundaries! This week. Kat (@kat.defatta) welcomes Terri Cole (@terricole) to the podcast. And y'all, she is not just a licensed psychotherapist she is a boundaries expert who recently came out with a new book called Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. Terri's mission is help women stop living out learned boundary behaviors that don't serve them and this episode is the perfect way to start looking at where you may need to adjust the boundaries in your life. Get ready... you're going to want to take notes during this one! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

We will learn: The biggest myths around setting and enforcing good boundaries.  What we gain by staying stuck and how to stop getting in your own way.  How boundaries relate to embracing your true self.    Have you ever struggled to set boundaries for yourself? Have you ever set boundaries for yourself just to find that you continuously struggle to uphold them? Setting and upholding boundaries is a process. Sometimes the best thing we can do is to simply take space, because we don't have enough strength to uphold the boundaries we set.  But for the people we love, taking space isn't always the answer. To have healthy relationships it is essential for us to understand our own personal standards, where to draw the line, and how to hold that line even under pressure.  So how do we start developing this skill set? That's what we're talking about today. Our guest is Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. She is also the author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.   Links from the episode: Show Notes:https://mindlove.com/188 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self: https://mindlove.com/ Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations: https://mindlove.com/premium See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we let fear hold us back from setting boundaries, we miss out on healthy relationships and real love.  What keeps you from setting clear boundaries with the people in your life?Are you afraid of judgment? Being thought of as high-maintenance, mean, or controlling? Or maybe you don’t know HOW to set boundaries in a way that works? In today’s episode, we’re talking with Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist and author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. In her book, Terri teaches her readers how to set boundaries in a way that will help us live healthier, happier lives. I have to be honest (always!): I rarely finish a book. But when I received my copy of Boundary Boss, I couldn’t put it down. I finished it in three days!  As I was reading, I kept thinking about you, my listeners.  If you’re searching for ways to live an authentic life as both fully human and fully divine, you need to set boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about being bossy or controlling or selfish. Boundaries are about making clear your preferences, desires, limits, and deal-breakers to live a more honest, embodied life. Among other things, clearly and consistently communicated boundaries: Are an act of self-love and self-respect Show you to be a trustworthy person Prevent feelings of bitterness and hurt Hold everyone accountable in a relationship Helps you attract the right people into your life But setting boundaries when you haven’t before can also be scary. Fortunately, boundary-setting isn’t all-or-nothing. It comes down to doing the next right thing, one baby step at a time. In Boundary Boss, Terri walks us through those baby steps in a way that is accessible and totally doable. Join us in today’s episode to hear more about how feeling empowered and respected really is possible.  Listen to episode 348 now! In episode 348 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss: [9:15] How boundaries build trust and keep you from second-guessing yourself and others [11:33] How communicating your boundaries is a generous act and does not make you “high-maintenance” [19:36] How enforcing boundaries helps you attract the right people and repel the wrong ones [22:20] The power of direct communication to strengthen relationships [28:05] The different forms of communication and why we use them [34:07] How we can determine what our limits are to be able to start communicating them [39:34] What the different types of boundary pushers are and how to deal with them [44:44] What a “VIP Section” is and how to be discerning about who we allow in it   For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/348   About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto  Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you  tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught. If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

One of the TOP questions I get asked is: “How do I set healthy boundaries?” Today’s episode is PACKED full of all you ever needed to know about setting boundaries. And I am honored to have the one and only @terricole as a guest. She is an INCREDIBLE boundaries expert (and trust me, you will all love her!) In this episode Terri and I discuss: What it means it to be a “self-abandoning co-dependent”. Why self-trust and boundaries with yourself are important for great relationships. The modern definition of codependency and what it means to be a boundary boss. Why high functioning successful women are at high risk of poor boundary setting. Can’t wait to hear your feedback on this episode! Make sure you share it with a friend who needs it, or screenshot and share the episode to your IG story, tagging both @terricole and myself. Also! If you are READY to embody the securely attached woman-then you DO NOT WANT TO MISS- the LIVE masterclass I am hosting on Thursday, May 27th at 6:00pm PST. CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP! P.S. If you liked this episode, then you will love Terri’s latest book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free! Terri shares a specific skill set to help you stop living out learned boundary behaviors that don’t serve you. The techniques, tools and strategies in this book will teach you to align your choices and boundary behaviors with your most authentic self and exercise personal agency. Learn more about her work at terricole.com and find her book at boundarybossbook.com! Click HERE to access the SPECIAL GIFT from Terri!

Lindsey walks through her experience with enmeshment and how she is processing behavioral patterns with her therapist and her loved ones. Through the support of a therapist, dedicated research, and breathwork, Lindsey has found liberation in setting boundaries with those closest to her and is reprogramming her brain to not seek outside validation at the expense of her own growth and happiness. Lindsey hopes this episode will inspire you to reflect on where enmeshment shows up in your life and seek the support necessary to step into your highest self.  We also talk about: Family enmeshment and self-advocacy Seeking outside validation Shame and guilt when you choose to against the grain How enmeshment shows up as an adult  Self-abandonment  How I’m healing in real-time Find more to love at http://almost30.com/ (almost30.com)! Resources: Breathwork:https://www.breemelanson.com/online-breathwork-class ( breemelanson.com) Read: https://boundarybossbook.com/ (Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free) By Terri Cole Follow: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/?hl=en (@nedratawwab) Sponsors: NakedCashmere | Use the code ALMOST30 at https://www.nakedcashmere.com/ (nakedcashmere.com) for 15% off your purchase Four Sigmatic | Use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your order at http://foursigmatic.com/almost30 (foursigmatic.com/almost30) BLUblox | Use code ALMOST30 for 15% off at https://www.blublox.com/?rfsn=3584362.77408a (blublox.com/?rfsn=3584362.77408a) PaleoValley | Go to http://paleovalley.com/almost30 (paleovalley.com/almost30) and enter code ALMOST30 at checkout to receive 15% off your first order Headspace | Head to http://headspace.com/almost30 (headspace.com/almost30) for a free one month trial Almost 30 is edited by http://crate.media (Crate Media)

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. For two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world’s most well-known personalities from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs.  Terri has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible, and then actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change i.e. true transformation.  She empowers over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, Real Love Revolution and Boundary Bootcamp + her popular podcast, The Terri Cole ShoShe is also the author of Boundary Boss -The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free (April 2021) In this episode Terri talks about her work and it’s really like a free therapy session, so make sure to check it out! Find more about Terri here: terricole.com Her Instagram is: @terricole Free gifts: boundaryboss.me/insideout Terri’s new course: terricole.com/boss Upgraded Formulas - Inside Out Health Podcast Special Offers: Click HERE for the Upgraded Formulas Hair Test Kit Special Offer Click HERE for the Upgraded Formulas Main Site & Get 10% OFF Everything with Coupon Code: INSIDEOUT Ready to enhance your metabolism? Learn about my Keto In & Out system HERE. Podcast Listeners get 10% off my Keto In & Out System with coupon code PODCASTKIO10. Want one on one coaching? Learn more about it HERE.

Boundary boss babe, Terri Cole, has the last word when it comes to the power of personal boundaries. As a top psychotherapist, she’s helped thousands of women set and sustain effective boundaries with ease and grace for over two decades.  Her modern diagnosis of codependent behavior is going to hit home for so many of you out there who are seriously slaying it hard in life but become shrinking violets when it comes to articulating your needs with those closest to you — or feel shackled by the need/yearning to people-please, even at the expense of your sanity. We get it. We relate, and boy, have we been there! The good news is, there is a way out. Terri has it all mapped out in her boundary blueprint, Boundary Boss, right down to conversation scripts! In this episode, we deep dive into different boundary scenarios and how you can set limits with anyone using her specific set of tools to help you become the boss of you! Remember,  boundaries are not a punishment; instead, they are an opportunity to cultivate healthy relationships and expectations that nourish us rather than deplete our inner resources.  We also talk about: Why setting boundaries is a trending topic Codependency vs. high-functioning codependency  Creating boundaries with family  The importance of preference The path to becoming a boundary boss Self-growth and reflection Narcissism and narcissistic behavior   Actionable steps to create boundaries  Find more to love at http://almost30.com/ (almost30.com)! Resources: Read:http://boundarybossbook.com ( Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free) Website: https://www.terricole.com/ (terricole.com) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/?hl=en (@terricole) Define your boundary personality: https://www.boundariesbooks.com/pages/quiz (boundaryquizz.com) Bonus proactive boundaries work guide: https://boundaryboss.me/codependency/ (boundaryboss.me/almost30) Sponsors: BTR Bars | Visit https://www.eatbtrbar.com/ (eatbtrbar.com) and use code ALMOST30 for 20% off your first order Issuu | Get 50% off a premium account by visiting http://issuu.com/podcast (issuu.com/podcast) and using code ALMOST30 Daily Harvest | Use code ALMOST30 to get $25 off your first box athttp://www.daily-harvest.com/ ( )http://www.daily-harvest.com (daily-harvest.com) BiOptimizers | Use code “almost30” for 10% off at https://bioptimizers.com/ (bioptimizers.com) Gravity Blankets | 15% off with our promo code ALMOST 30 at http://gravityblankets.com/ (gravityblankets.com) Almost 30 is edited by http://crate.media (Crate Media)

You guys won’t want to miss this conversation with special guest Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, global leading relationship expert, and author of the new book Boundary Boss - The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.     Key Takeaways:  What a healthy boundary is  How to spot the signs for when you might need to create a boundary in your life  How our conditioning teaches us to not have boundaries  How you can begin to understand your downloaded boundary blueprint that is created as your subconscious develops  How to take responsibility in relationships and create boundaries that are respectful of others  What codependency is and how to spot it  How to negotiate when you have conflicting preferences from loved ones  The Boundary Bill of Rights  Healthy communication scripts     Links:    Terri Cole  website: terricole.com   book website: boundarybossbook.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole  FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny  Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes    Video Readings  Affirmation Cards  www.daylunalife.com  www.instagram.com/d.a.y.l.u.n.a/  Book a Reading Here!  Order a Personalized Human Design Box Here!  Parenting Cheat Sheet  PHS Virtual Retreat Day 

Ever feel like life is one non-stop boundary issue? You’re not alone. And my guest, Terri Cole, can help. Before earning a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychotherapy from New York University, Terri ran a talent agency for actors and supermodels. She was your typical Type A overachiever with zero balance and no internal peace, driven by ambition, living on planes and serving as a business executive, confidante, advisor, surrogate parental figure and bounding between nearly every role, with every person imaginable. She began to realize every part of work and life was bleeding into every other part of work and life and the net effect was that everything was bleeding out. Something had to change. She wanted her life back, and she wanted to do something that felt more driven by meaning and service. Changing direction, she went back to school, started a partnership in life and family, and therapy practice at the same time, that’s now been her devotion for over two decades. What she learned in the trenches with her high-profile clients informed and continues to inspire the work she does today. She’s been on a mission. Her dharma, she shares, is teaching women how to attract and sustain healthy, vibrant, Real Love into their lives and establish and maintain effective boundaries with ease and grace. That latter part, she’s come to believe is at the heart of so much interpersonal struggle and is perpetually at the center of nearly therapeutic engagement. So, she figured it was time to share was she’s learned in her new book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free (https://amzn.to/3srgUZC). We dive deep into the world of boundaries in today’s conversation.Be sure to check out her 2017 conversation (https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/terri-cole-real-love/) with us for a deeper dive.You can find Terri at:Website : https://www.terricole.com/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/terricoleCheck out our offerings & partners: Expensify: Automate your pre-accounting process for expenses, bills, invoices, and more with the world’s most widely-used expense management service. Approval Workflows. Realtime Customer Support. Next-Day Reimbursements. Company Card Management. Visit Expensify.com/goodlife to get started with a free trial. Klaviyo: Increase your average order value & volume—Klaviyo accelerates e-commerce sales. Launch sophisticated email automations in minutes. To get started with a free trial of Klaviyo, visit Klaviyo.com/listen

Are you finding it harder and harder these days to stick to your boundaries? Whether it's a lack of physical space at your house (hello, homeschooling)… or a lack of breathing room and space in your calendar, causing you to overwork, strive, and feel flustered with it all. Or maybe it's a Boundary Destroyer in your life, which is a whole other ball of wax.   My special guest today is psychotherapist Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. In her book, Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free is a must-read for me and so many girlfriends of mine as we are looking to break free from the nonsense. And more importantly, live a more authentic, fulfilled life by mastering how we create and maintain healthy boundaries. Here's how.  My special guest today is Terri Cole and she's simplifying how to stick to your boundaries. We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including: Through her research, what she found are some common myths that women believe when setting boundaries  What the psychological aspect is behind why we DON'T set boundaries for ourselves? What's happening, really? How to understand what your internal ‘Boundary Blueprint' is and how to communicate our desired (more positive) boundaries are to other people In a work setting, what to do if you're afraid you'll be seen as a “bitch” or if you fear being fired by your client after you state your boundaries And ultimately, at home… what you must do when it's a family member (a parent, spouse or child) who you cannot remove from your life entirely and you're having to constantly state and restate your boundaries all the time? Terri is a brilliant bright light in this field of study and she's going to show us a better way of sticking to our boundaries. In our conversation today, you'll gain a glimmer into her work, teaching each of us how to stop abandoning ourselves for the sake of others without guilt or drama. But rather, she shows us a way that healthy boundaries can help us gain better communication and better relationships… more satisfaction, abundance, and success. All of it is a result of doing the work, gaining clarity on our subconscious beliefs, and sticking to our boundaries. Q: Are you ready to learn how to stick to your boundaries better? If yes, this one is for you. It's time to #DoTheThing! ---- Show notes available with all LINKS mentioned here: https://thesimplifiers.com/podcast/terri-cole-stick-to-your-boundaries

Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free has officially arrived at its publication date!  I am so excited to share all this boundary wisdom with you and in honor of my first book baby’s “birth” to the world, I am taking a deep dive into a very special topic: Your Boundary Rights.  "Healthy robust personal boundaries are the key to living a fulfilled, empowered, and self directed life."- Terri Cole Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/298

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in personal empowerment. For two decades, she has worked with some of the world’s most well-known personalities, from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and then actionable. With Sounds True, Terri Cole is the author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. In this podcast, Sounds True founder Tami Simon speaks with Terri about how absolutely critical it is to have good boundaries. Terri shares the personal journey that brought her into this work, explores where our boundary blueprints come from, and gives us her five keys for self-mastery. Together Tami and Terri discuss why having healthy boundaries might very well be the apex of how humans can learn to put truth and truth-telling at the very center of our lives.

How to establish healthy boundaries and stop the cycle of people-pleasing? Queen, today is the day you find out! My guest is the incredible Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and a global relationship and empowerment expert. Terri got her Ph.D. in fear (you’ll hear all about her inspiring life story) and she went on to share her wisdom with thousands of women just like you. She’s coming out with a brand new book and today she shares her best tips to become a boundary boss in every area of your life!Terri’s story is one of persistence and courage. Whatever God threw in her path, she overcame with grace and came out with amazing lessons she shares with us today. Terri combines her rich personal experience, the insights she learned working with her clients, and her Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychotherapy to empower and teach women how to attract and sustain healthy, vibrant, real love into their lives and how to establish and maintain effective boundaries with ease and grace.We had such an enlightening conversation - I’m SURE this episode will be an absolute blessing in your life. Tune in now, Queen!Key points discussedHow Terri ended up on the Real Housewives of New Jersey (00:00)Terri’s story that empowered her to become who she is today (05:44)Trusting her gut saved Terri when she found out she had cancer (13:40)After a home intrusion, Terri had to learn how to deal with fear and PTSD (17:51)Teach what you need to learn: How Terri started working with boundaries (23:58)It’s time to join the boundary revolution and communicate clearly (30:23)Terri’s advice for Queens who are afraid of confrontation (34:23)How to understand codependency and set boundaries that make sense for you (39:08)Where to get Terri’s book and how to get the amazing free gift she prepared (46:39)Additional resourcesIsn’t Terri just a miracle? The way she owned her experiences to become the Queen she is today… I was so impressed with her. If you need more Terri in your life, go get her book Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free! We’d also love to know your takeaways, please screenshot the episode and tag us on Instagram! My handle is @ginadevee and you can find Terri at @terricole.And if you haven’t already, subscribe to the Divine Living podcast, share your reviews, and tune in every week to get one step closer to your Queenhood! ⭐ Get FREE meditations, workbooks, and Q&As with me https://www.divineliving.com/audacityFinally, if you want to make amazing connections, spark creativity, and collaborate with Queens like yourself, come join us over in the Q Club! The Q Club is your new favorite at-home destination for all things Queen: femininity, luxury, spirituality, travel, lifestyle, entrepreneurship, high-vibe community, and unapologetic self-permission. There’s still time to join so don’t hesitate, click here and let the fierce, feminine, and fabulous FUN start now!

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and leading expert in female empowerment. For two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world's most well-known personalities from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs. Terri has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible, and then actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change, i.e. true transformation. She empowers over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, Real Love Revolution, and Boundary Bootcamp + her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. She is also the author of, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free (April 2021) For Terri's free gifts, including the More Love Starter Kit, click here: https://www.terricole.com/LDLB Check out her course with Mark Groves, Crushing Codependency: https://mark-groves.mykajabi.com/crushing-codependency Buy her book here (from an independent local book shop): https://bookshop.org/books/boundary-boss-the-essential-guide-to-talk-true-be-seen-and-finally-live-free/9781683647683?aid=9136&listref=books-from-my-podcast-guests Follow her online here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-terri-cole-show/id1038357955?mt=2 _____________________________________________ If you're interested in joining my monthly membership group, Team Never Giver Upper, click here for all the details: https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/TEAM _____________________________________________ Follow me on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs Sign up for my weekly newsletter! Each week, I share a personal story and my favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: http://eepurl.com/T0l91. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of my favorite books here, including many my guests have written and recommend reading: https://bookshop.org/shop/LDLB --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/longdistancelovebombs/message