Podcasts about skinned knee

Lawrence and Mat sit down with renowned clinical psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Wendy Mogel to delve into the pivotal role dads play in guiding their children from childhood through adolescence. Drawing from her extensive experience and insights from her acclaimed books, including The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, The Blessing of a B Minus and Voice Lessons for Parents/Parent Talk, Dr. Mogel discusses how fathers can foster resilience, self-reliance and open communication in their children. We explore practical strategies for dads to support their children's growth, navigate the challenges of adolescence and build strong, enduring relationships. Whether you're a new dad or navigating the teenage years, this conversation offers valuable perspectives on fatherhood and family dynamics. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Human connection is at the core of our well-being, but what happens in our brains when we bond, experience conflict, or work to repair a relationship? In this episode, Curt and Pepper unpack the fascinating neuroscience behind our need for connection, explaining how our brains are wired for relationships and why moments of rupture—whether small misunderstandings or significant emotional breaks—can feel so distressing.   By exploring the science of attachment, listeners will learn how early childhood experiences shape our ability to trust, communicate, and reconnect after conflict. Dr. Thompson dives into how relationships influence brain development, how unresolved ruptures can lead to long-term emotional patterns, and why the process of repair is essential for strengthening bonds. Whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or family dynamics, understanding this rhythm of disconnection and reconnection can help us navigate conflict with greater confidence, foster deeper emotional intimacy, and build lasting resilience.   Episode Links and References The Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel Genesis 3 (discussing God walking in the Garden of Eden).    . . . . . Stay connected: Instagram, Facebook YouTube (Unedited videos of each episode AND the Post Show Conversation.) Please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode and we always welcome your reviews on Apple Podcasts.  Sign up to access the Being Known Podcast applications, the weekly exercises that connect what you are learning to your life in a practical way.   

Welcome to Season 2 of The Real Stuff—and we're kicking things off with some BIG news: The Real Stuff is now part of the Dear Media network! This move means exciting things for the podcast—bigger guests, new opportunities, and even more ways to connect with you, our amazing listeners. To start the season, I'm bringing you an episode that's as personal as it gets. My mother-in-law, Sharon, joins me for an open and honest conversation about our relationship—the good, the awkward, and the boundaries that make it work. We dive into everything: how we first met, her real thoughts about me in high school, setting boundaries as new parents, and why she never felt like she was "losing her son." We even address the classic MIL/DIL stereotypes and why ours doesn't fit the mold. The Blessing of a Skinned Knee: https://amzn.to/4jU6xtm  Watch this episode in video form on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjmevEcbh5h5FEX0pazPEtN86t7eb2OgX  To apply to be a guest on the show, visit luciefink.com/apply and send us your story.  I also want to extend a special thank you to East Love for the show's theme song, Rolling Stone.  Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealstuffpod  Find Lucie here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luciebfink/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@luciebfink  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/luciebfink  Website: https://luciefink.com/  Produced by Dear Media. Executive Producer: Cloud10 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Becky Altman's inspiring career journey from clinical social work, to non-profit executive, to corporate HR and independent executive coaching is a true testament to the power of adaptability, the importance of building relationships, and leveraging transferable skills across varied professional landscapes. In this episode we explore insights into how skills like empathy, communication, and resilience can propel personal and professional growth. • Becky Altman: https://www.linkedin.com/in/becky-altman-31915b2/ • Becky Altman Coaching: https://www.beckyaltmancoaching.com/ • Naomi Sugar: https://www.linkedin.com/in/naomi-remis-sugar/ • The Blessing of A Skinned Knee: https://www.amazon.com/Blessing-Skinned-Knee-Teachings-Self-Reliant/dp/0684862972/ 00:00 Introduction to Transferable Skills 00:34 Becky's Career Journey 01:36 Core Values and Beliefs in Social Work 07:25 Resilience and Flexibility 10:19 Transition to Leadership Roles 13:32 Challenges and Learning in Camp Management 20:09 Impact of Camp Experience on Future Careers 21:59 Moving into Corporate HR 25:52 Seeking Career Coaching 28:41 Navigating Rapid Growth and Culture Crisis 29:07 Embracing Curiosity and Empathy in the Workplace 29:25 Taking a Leap of Faith: Transitioning to Corporate HR 31:52 Adapting to the Pandemic: Leading with Humanity 33:39 Balancing Personal Needs and Business Demands 38:55 Navigating Social and Political Unrest 40:28 Building a Coaching Practice 44:53 The Importance of Coaching and Continuous Learning 51:18 Final Thoughts and Advice for Career Transitions

My guest this week is Dr. Paul Kesselman, a clinical psychologist and close friend of mine. It was Paul's second time on the podcast (the previous episode is here) and another great discussion. This time we focused on how to keep open lines of communication with our kids. Topics we discussed included: The advantages of keeping open dialogue with our kids Creating a safe environment for our kids to talk with us The downside of coming to our kids with an agenda Talking at, to, or with kids Making sure children are engaged when we're speaking with them Capitalizing on moments when our kids are available to talk with us How early to start thinking about open dialogue with children Many children's preference to go to Mom to talk rather than Dad How to deal respond when our kids do something wrong Shifting from content to process with our kids Remembering our goals in our interactions with our children Our expectations for how children “should” respond to our critiques and corrections Letting kids know we're there while also respecting their privacy and space The downsides of jumping in to fix or resolve things for our kids The book Paul referenced, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee (affiliate link) Paul Kesselman, PsyD, completed his doctoral degree in psychology at Yeshiva University. He has taught college level courses in child psychology. He has been working in private practice seeing individuals, families, and running groups since 2003. Paul works with children as young as four years of age and sees children, pre- teens, adolescents, families, young adults, and adults. He has also conducted research studies on social anxiety at New York State Psychiatric Institute. Paul grew up in the suburbs of Philadelphia. He and his wife have five children; he enjoys spending time with his family, listening to music, and playing baseball when he is not helping patients and families. He has a passion for his work and enjoys the opportunity to work with issues such as anxiety, depression, ADHD, autism spectrum disorders, learning issues, OCD, anger issues, impulse control disorders, school avoidance and refusal, and adjustments issues. Paul has spoken at both public and private area schools on a variety of topics including ADHD, anxiety, special needs children, and school anxiety. Learn more about Paul and his therapy practice at his website.

Okay, you all, this will go down in history as one of our VERY FAVORITE episodes of all time! We have long loved and admired the work of Dr. Wendy Mogel, who has written fabulous books such as The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, The Blessing of a B Minus, and Voice Lessons for Parents. But we maybe loved talking with her EVEN MORE! She is wise, discerning, honest and DELIGHTFUL! We can't wait for you all to listen in on this conversation! . . . . . Grab a copy of Are My Kids on Track? to follow along with us through the season! Sign up to receive the monthly newsletter to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Go behind the scenes and watch our podcast on YouTube! Download a copy of the Raising Boys and Girls Feelings Chart. Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at raisingboysandgirls.com. . . . . . If you would like to partner with Raising Boys and Girls as a podcast sponsor, fill out our Advertise with us form. . . . . A special thank you to our sponsors: Our Place: Go to fromourplace.com and enter my code RBG at checkout to receive 10% off sitewide. Our Place offers a 100 day trial with free shipping and returns. Nurture Life: head to NurtureLife.com and use code RBG for 55% off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is probably one of the top 5 episodes of the series. I interviewed Christina, a mother of two grown-up children, when Real Parenting Stories was still an embryo project. In my opinion, she completely nailed the parenting job, as her own grown-up children still enjoy spending time with her, one of them being in the teenage years (yes, it is true and possible). We talked about so many foundational topics around parenting and healthy relationships: How to react when your toddler throws a tantrumWhy and how to find a parenting mentor (Christina is definitely one of those for me)How to set up healthy boundariesHow to react when your child says "I don't like you"Avoiding power struggles and negotiations, and avoiding overreacting to allow children to self-evaluateThe importance of writing your own family mission statementHow to be on a united front with your life partnerWhy and how to have a healthy argument with your partner in front of your kidsPlanning for the endgame of parenting and knowing when to let go as children grow olderHere is the book link for "The Blessing of a Skinned Knee". If you enjoyed this podcast and would like to show your support, please consider giving a 5-star rating. Your ratings help us grow!To stay updated and never miss an episode of The Real Parenting Stories, follow the podcast Instagram account: @realparentingstories

Four overrated books back to back for me! Two were DNF's. The House in the Pines by Ana ReyesLand of Milk and Honey by Pam C. ZhangThe Wishing Game by Meg ShafferIt All Comes Down to This by Ann Therese FowlerLoved loved loved The Blessings of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Model. It was the parenting book I've been searching for!

Lisa partied too hard this past weekend and is now nursing an injury. Ashley is struggling to find the right karaoke bar for her talents. As always, Your Mom™ covers a lot of range this week including how to handle other kids mistreating your child, the role of music in family relationships, and the maybe the biggest question of all: why do people even have kids? Stories abound as both Bonnie Raitt and Ariana Grande find their way into the discussion and Producer TJ makes his debut in a bonus segment at the end. The book Ashley references as her favorite child-rearing read is called Blessings of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel. Be sure to reach out to @adamsonashley or @LisaMcCaffrey6 on twitter with any comments or questions for the show. You can also email us at emailyourmompodcast@gmail.com. We hope you enjoy and as always, thanks for listening to Your Mom™ .

In this week's episode of Live Well Anyway with MacKenzie Koppa, our host chats with Shauna Niequist about her new book, I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet. They talk about adjusting to life in New York, diving into teenage children's passions, reinventing your likes and dislikes in new seasons of life, what it is like living on campus of a seminary, what it means to be a creative person, living inspired, and so much more. JOIN US ON PATREON Live Well Together! Patreon Community LINKS MENTIONED Follow MacKenzie on Instagram @mackenziekoppa Sign up for MacKenzie's newsletter “Well, anyway…” Subscribe to MacKenzie's YouTube Channel Live Well Anyway Facebook Group WHERE TO FIND THE SHOW Apple Podcasts Google Play Music Spotify Player FM VISIT OUR SPONSORS Thrive Causemetics - Visit thrivecausemetics.com/livewell for 15% OFF your first order. Caraway Home - Visit CarawayHome.com/livewell and get 10% OFF your order when you use code livewell. Bonafide - Get 20% OFF your first purchase when you subscribe for any product, go to hellobonafide.com and use code livewell. Evite - Make your own perfect and unique online invitations at evite.com/livewell. SHOP WITH US THROUGH AMAZON Thank you for using our Amazon affiliate links to support the show! I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet by Shauna Niequist The Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel Hooked: How Crafting Saved My Life by Sutton Foster Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky

Leaders are readers. Reading has one of the biggest returns on investment, in terms of both time and money, among almost anything else you can do. In this episode, we share our reading philosophy with you, as well as our favorite books of the year. Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Ego-Enemy-Ryan-Holiday/dp/1591847818 (Ego is the Enemy) by Ryan Holiday https://www.amazon.com/Stillness-Key-Ryan-Holiday-ebook/dp/B07MJ3TDCZ (Stillness is the Key) by Ryan Holiday https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Calling-Fortune-Favors-Brave/dp/0593191676 (Courage is Calling) by Ryan Holiday https://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene-ebook/dp/B0024CEZR6 (The 48 Laws of Power) by Robert Greene https://www.amazon.com/Dare-Lead-Brave-Conversations-Hearts/dp/0399592520 (Dare to Lead) by Brené Brown https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-Proven-Build-Break/dp/0735211299 (Atomic Habits) by James Clear https://www.amazon.com/Grit-Passion-Perseverance-Angela-Duckworth/dp/1501111116 (Grit) by Angela Duckworth https://www.amazon.com/Blessing-Skinned-Knee-Teachings-Self-Reliant/dp/1416593063 (The Blessing of a Skinned Knee) by Wendy Mogel https://www.amazon.com/Art-Gathering-How-Meet-Matters/dp/1594634939 (The Art of Gathering) by Priya Parker https://www.amazon.com/12-Week-Year-Field-Guide-ebook/dp/B07HPB166V (The 12 Week Year) by Brian P. Moran https://www.amazon.com/Promised-Land-Barack-Obama-ebook/dp/B08GJZFBYV (A Promised Land) by Barack Obama https://www.amazon.com/Moment-Lift-Empowering-Women-Changes/dp/1250257727 (The Moment of Lift) by Melinda Gates https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Bets-Making-Smarter-Decisions-ebook/dp/B074DG9LQF (Thinking in Bets) by Annie Duke https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Turbulent-Doris-Kearns-Goodwin-ebook/dp/B079RLPFG7 (Leadership) by Doris Kearns Goodwin https://www.amazon.com/Trillion-Dollar-Coach-Leadership-Playbook-ebook/dp/B076ZHG3H3 (Trillion Dollar Coach) by Eric Schmidt https://www.amazon.com/Coaching-Habit-Less-Change-Forever/dp/0978440749 (The Coaching Habit) by Michael Bungay Stanier https://www.amazon.com/Upstream-Quest-Problems-Before-Happen/dp/1982134720 (Upstream) with Dan Heath https://www.amazon.com/dp/0735225311 (A Woman of No Importance) by Sonia Purnell https://www.amazon.com/Hidden-Valley-Road-Inside-American-ebook/dp/B07TZYFR71 (Hidden Valley Road) by Robert Kolker Connect on Instagram: Seychelle Van Poole: https://www.instagram.com/seychellevp (@seychellevp) Vija Williams: https://www.instagram.com/viavija (@viavija) Sarah Reynolds: https://www.instagram.com/sarahreynoldsoji (@sarahreynoldsoji) Wendy Papasan: https://www.instagram.com/wendypapasan (@wendypapasan) Empire Building is a production of http://crate.media (Crate Media)

Parenting is the most challenging and the most rewarding job on the planet. In today's episode Ali & Tonya discuss being single moms and the challenges and lessons learned. Please join our A Woman Redefined Facebook Group. Follow Ali on Facebook and Instagram or visit her website at aliroberts.com Follow Tonya on Facebook and Instagram or visit her website at schillerlandwellness.com The Blessings of A Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogul

Creative Parenting – Join Nina Meehan discussing imagination with Dr. Wendy Mogel. In this episode Nina and Dr. Mogel talk about how vital play and creativity is for families.  Dr. Mogel invites parents to be curious, calm and captivated listeners as their children explore the unconscious through dreams or imagination through story.  They discuss how creativity is essential at the core of the highest level of interaction for children and parents because children live in the world of imagination and play.  DR. WENDY MOGEL is a clinical psychologist and New York Times best-selling author. She serves on the scientific advisory board of Parents Magazine.  In her new podcast Nurture vs Nurture, Dr. Mogel provides guidance to parents around the world.In a starred review Publisher's Weekly described her—now classic—first book, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, as “Impassioned, lyrical and eminently practical...a real treasure.” Her second release, The Blessing of a B Minus, addresses the challenge of parenting teenagers in a culture of increasing anxiety and rapid change. Her most recent book, Voice Lessons for Parents: What to Say, How to Say It, and When to Listen, offers guidance for communicating with children across the expanse of childhood and adolescence.~Links: Website: https://www.wendymogel.com/Podcast: https://armchairexpertpod.com/nurture-vs-nurture-with-dr-mogelSocial: https://www.facebook.com/WendyMogelPhD/Twitter: @drwendymogelAmazon Book: https://smile.amazon.com/Voice-Lessons-Parents-What-Listen/dp/1501142402/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1630005947&sr=8-1

God is always ready to comfort us when we experience pain or suffering. 2 Corinthians 1:1-7

During the pandemic, we’ve been looking at our screens more than ever before. As the country starts reopening, what do we do about our kids’ extreme attachment to their devices? How should we think about it and do we need to do anything about it? Parenting expert Dr. Wendy Mogel joins us to discuss these deep questions about pandemic parenting. Dr. Mogel is the author of “The Blessing of a Skinned Knee” and host of the podcast Nurture vs. Nurture.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Episode 10! Double Digits, Babyyyyyy.  Jennie and Allie are back from Spring Break, and have never felt worse.  Thinking we were out of the woods, after over a year, Allie's house was struck with Covid. The Mommies discuss symptoms, and goals for getting back to fighting shape. Who else is in?! We're thinking of starting a movement of strong mommies, with even stronger immune systems.  Follow us on Instagram for yummy recipes, and workout inspo. Or at least commiserate with us in the process!Fortunately, they are joined by Dr. Heather Orman-Lubell, who answers all kinds of questions, from Covid and Kids, to giving ourselves grace with screen time.  She gives us hope for kids going back to school in the fall, and discusses the importance of getting vaccinated. Below, is the list of resources she shares, for parents...and Jennie realizes she has some catching up to do! Thank you to Tim (@timbostwickrealtor) and Dr. Heather! And thank you everyone for listening!Parenting Resources:"The AAP Guide to the First Five Years""The AAP Guide to Your Child's Symptoms""Baby 411: Clear Answers and Smart Advice For Your Baby's First Year", Dr. Ari Brown, and Denise Fields"The Mommy MD Guides""The Blessings of a Skinned Knee", Wendy Mogel, Ph.D."How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success", Julie Lythcott-HaimsEMAIL: TheVillagePod@gmail.comSOCIALS: @villagecommunity @mrsjennieporter @smallspacemommySUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Pandora, Stitcher, BuzzSprout

My Effing Desk: S1 E7Author + Songwriter VC Chickering: Why Not Me?Author and songwriter VC Chickering on reinventing herself at 45, the scintillating sex lives of divorcees, raising good boyfriends, and what success means to her.Take the listener survey!Support the Podcast on Patreon!Tori's websiteTori on InstagramTori Erstwhile and The Montys YouTube channelTori's funny combo spoken word/song “Still Smokes” from Listen to Your MotherNo Plot? No Problem! by Chris Baty*Tell Him, an Essay on Masculinity by Jameela JamilThe Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel*Martha Graham quote Enjoying the show? Take a minute to rate it and leave a review so new listeners can find it!Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, and Pinterest. Learn more at www.myeffingdeskpodcast.comGet in touch at myeffingdeskpodcast@gmail.com *Amazon affiliate linkTags: VC Chickering, Nookietown, Twisted Family Values, creativity, motherhood, songwriting, author, writer, songwriter, passion, inspirationSupport the show

This week, Dr. Middleton interviews Grace Brown- a mom of 3, former Young Life volunteer, and teacher turned college planning advocate. Grace is passionate about helping students and parents discover the child's unique talents and gifts and then taking that information to help them map out a future. Grace currently works at The College Map, a college planning center located in Orlando. You will love the insight she brings to this week's discussion!   Mentioned in this episode: The College Map The Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel The Blessing of a B Minus by Wendy Mogel Personality Plus by Florence Littauer Where You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be by Frank Bruni   Connect with Middleton Pediatrics: Website ~ Facebook ~YouTube ~ Twitter

Crisco, Dez and Ryan After Hours: 445 - Ryan cried like a little school girl with a skinned knee. I mean... bawled! Kidding. but he certainly had some great memories there. Congrats Rizzie. :)

It's January and we are working to wrap up the next strategic plan. In doing so, one of the first things we evaluate is whether or not the mission and philosophy of the school continue to reflect who we are. After all, a strong mission and philosophy is the roadmap to a successful organization. Marijo Foster, retired Head of the Lower School and current board member, is my guest this month along with several TLS students from across all divisions. Marijo and I take a trip down the mission and philosophy lane and discuss the value of courage-building and how it is woven into the DNA of The Lexington School. I want to thank the students who contributed such words of wisdom to the podcast this month, and as always, here are some resources for those who want to dig a bit deeper as referenced in the podcast. Teach Your Kids to Fail by Jessica GroseMindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck The Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel On Courage a short collection of Weekly Words from the archive of Marijo FosterOne more big thank you to Bo, Erica, Wren, Will, Louisa, Jack, Mia, and Malia for their courage in participating in this month's podcast! Support the show (https://www.thelexingtonschool.org/)

I talk with Karenna Gore, Director of the Center for Earth Ethics from Union Theological Seminary about climate justice, spirituality, and how to parent our children through climate anxiety. She talks beautifully about how the climate justice moment is clarifying our interconnectedness and how to find authentic community in the social movement for life. Lots of recommendations for more resources, see the links below. There’s really some deep wisdom in this episode all, don’t miss it! Links (affiliates included): Center for Earth Ethics - https://centerforearthethics.org  Karenna Gore on twitter - https://twitter.com/KarennaGore  The Blessing of a Skinned Knee - https://amzn.to/2QUUDnK  How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk - https://amzn.to/2XO5xgy  The Uninhabitable Earth - https://amzn.to/2DmAUpk  Global Weirding with Katharine Hayhoe - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCi6RkdaEqgRVKi3AzidF4ow Parenting Forward Conference Recordings - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com  Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt  Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB  *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Guess what, We didn't watch the AFI top 100 movie again. So instead we just talk about all the people in Josh's life that ended up in the hospital this week. Then we talk about Auston skinning his knee. We have a Cody's Corner this week where he gives us a Take It or Leave it and A Suggestion Session. Crazy right. So this week we play music from Tender Defender, Red Hearse, and Metallica. It's a weird combo. Hope you enjoy. AFI Top 100: goo.gl/953i2s YouTube: goo.gl/SnC8Kk Instagram: www.instagram.com/itshouldntbethishardpod/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/ItShouldntBeThisHard Email us at itshouldntbethishardpodcast@gmail.com Spotify Playlist: goo.gl/EiqiVa Anchor.fm: goo.gl/XzzR5Q Google Play Music: goo.gl/pe4mnt Stitcher: goo.gl/3RpbV3 iTunes: goo.gl/Zkt9Vj

Is there a right way to let kids struggle and fail? How do you raise resilient children? And most important, when should you help out, and when should you chill out? We ask Dr. Wendy Mogel, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee to advise a Portland, Oregon couple who worry about their son getting wet in a squirt gun fight. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to How To With Charles Duhigg, wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there a right way to let kids struggle and fail? How do you raise resilient children? And most important, when should you help out, and when should you chill out? We ask Dr. Wendy Mogel, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee to advise a Portland, Oregon couple who worry about their son getting wet in a squirt gun fight. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there a right way to let kids struggle and fail? How do you raise resilient children? And most important, when should you help out, and when should you chill out? In this episode of How To! we ask Dr. Wendy Mogel, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee to advise a Portland, Oregon couple who worry about their son getting wet in a squirt gun fight. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode you will hear: (3:36) In this week’s news, an article from the Wall Street Journal, “Colleges Mine Data on their Applicants” by Douglas Belkin. Some colleges are tracking the online activity of prospective students to evaluate their demonstrated interest in the schools. From how fast they open their emails, if they click any links, to how long they spend reading the content. Belkin shares how schools, such as Seton Hall University in NJ, have a scoring system based on a student’s online activity. Mark and Anika have a robust discussion about whether this is appropriate. They also discuss why there is so much blowback to this practice but they also converse about why colleges are reluctant to not employ some of these tactics to help them bring in their admitted class. (25:52) We are in Chapter 77 of 171 Answers and Mark shares how admission offices evaluate applicants who are transferring from another college. It is important to understand the wide range of approaches that colleges use, both from their admission processes, their admission rates and their dates and deadlines. Mark and Anika discuss this and so much more including what factors are often most important in the evaluation. We also discuss why using the Common Data Set is important for transfers. (38:27) This week’s question is from a listener who wants to know how colleges view applicants that graduate a year early from high school. We discuss how colleges perceive these applicants. Are they hurt in the college process or the college transition? (42:37) Mark continues his interview with Admissions Dean Greg Roberts as they transition into “Understanding the University of Virginia”. Some of the things Greg discusses in this interview include: · Why a large number of public schools do not do a holistic admissions review · How the Varsity Blues scandal is impacting admissions · The different vision that politicians have about what the role of public education should be. (51:44) Mark’s recommended resource of the week is the book, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, Using Timeless Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children by Dr. Wendy Mogel   Don’t forget to send your questions related to any and every facet of the college process to   Every episode of Your College-Bound Kid will align with a chapter from the book 171 Answers to the Most-Asked College Admission Questions. To get a copy visit  and if you want to see what future episodes will cover just click the red button “See exactly what 171 Answers covers.  

Solitude is a precious commodity for moms, especially when the kids are little. Sometimes entire weeks go by without a minute alone. This is the time of life when going grocery shopping alone or even going to the dentist can feel like a big vacation. Yet setting aside some time and space for yourself is an important way to recharge and help you feel like a real person. Over the years, I’ve figured out several strategies for sneaking in some islands of precious time and space for myself, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there. In this episode, I split them up into two categories—Mom time and Mom space—with six ideas apiece. Links from this episode: Extraordinary Moms Podcast, episode 213: Self-Date Night 3 in 30 Podcast, Episode 29: Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with Our Kids The Miracle Morning, by Hal Elrod   Full text: Seven years ago, my husband and I went to Costa Rica with his family and left our then three children (ages 5, 3, and 1), with my parents. This was the first time we'd been on a trip without our kids, and it felt both luxurious and strange to get on a plane without them. Navigating the airport was a breeze, and I actually read a book on the plane! When we arrived at our vacation rental, we were amazed. We could see the ocean from the pool patio. Monkeys were just hanging out in the tropical trees and iguanas sauntered across the lawn. It was paradise. And I was a crazy person.  Instead of relaxing and enjoying the view or heading to explore the beach, I was running around to all the bedrooms, taking it upon myself to help figure out where everyone should sleep, especially the family that had brought their young son. I had this nagging worry that no one had started to cook the dry beans that we had bought for dinner— and you know how long beans take to cook!! I ran to start simmering the beans, and then set about unpacking and settling into my room. I was in full-on-mom mode, even though no one there needed to be mothered—especially not by me. And then I burned the beans.  Appalled and embarrassed that I had burned dinner, I retreated to my bedroom for a little navel gazing. When had I become this person? Was I even capable of enjoying this amazing vacation? Had motherhood turned me into a micro-managing freak? Happily, a good night's sleep and a little time at the beach transformed me from Mom with a capital M into a real person. In a few more days, I was not only a person, I was Whitney. I laughed out loud at my book ("Good Omens" by Terri Pratchett and Neil Gaiman), quoting annoyingly from it to anyone in the vicinity. I woke up early to read my scriptures and write in my journal by the pool. I hiked, explored, and frolicked in the waves.  And then came the most astonishing moment of the trip. Everyone else walked down to the beach and I stayed behind to grab my beach gear. Soon I looked around me and realized I was alone. Alone! I felt so weird and wonderful, and that feeling made me realize how long it had been since I was completely alone, with no obligation to anyone else. My family at the beach was going to have fun whether I was there or not. So I decided not to go. I grabbed my book and hopped on a pool float. I read until I got hot, jumped into the pool, and even practiced my diving because no one was there to judge. I sang out loud. I read and wrote some more. It was one of the best moments of my life, a moment in which I felt completely myself. It was like I was on my own little island—alone. That day helped me realize how rare and wonderful solitude can be for moms, especially in those early years of motherhood, before any of your kids are in school and before any of them are old enough to babysit. In her book, “All Joy and No Fun” (perhaps the best title ever written about parenthood) Jennifer Senior referred to this time of parenthood as “The Bunker Years.” You spend a lot of time at home, yes, because of naps and such, but even when you’re out and about, you’re out and about with kids, so the trips are usually short and hectic. Not only that, but for much of the time, you don’t even have your body to yourself, between breastfeeding and pregnancy. This subset of the Bunker Years is what I call the Body-Sharing Years. Someone is always touching you. The intensity of the Bunker Years may be a bit more acute for moms who don’t have another job elsewhere, but even for moms that do, they’re usually around people all day at work and then around people at home after work. Sometimes entire weeks go by without a minute alone. This is the time of life when going grocery shopping alone or even going to the dentist can feel like a big vacation. I’m sure I’m not the only mom who identified with Flynn Rider on Tangled when he sang his dream: “On an island that I own, tanned and rested and alone, surrounded by enormous piles of money.” I’m also pretty sure I’m not the only mom who makes Disney-movie references even when talking to other adults. The other fantasy I think many moms share is that fleeting idea, when you find yourself actually alone in a car: “What if I just kept driving…” Of course with no real intentions of doing so. Jessica Dahlquist admitted on a podcast episode that that she once drove by a hospital and thought, “If only I could have a little something wrong so I could just go in there and rest.” The crazy part is, I bet most of you who are listening can relate. A word about mom guilt here. It’s OK to feel a little desperate for some time to yourself. And it’s OK to actually schedule in that alone time. It may feel selfish or ungrateful to take time for yourself when there’s so much on your to-do list and so many people on your to-be-with list. But in my experience with moms, especially moms of young kids, it’s rare to find a mom who takes too much time for herself. If the balance starts to tip that direction, you’ll feel it, and you can scale back. I am two years past the bunker years, and I’ll tell you, it’s pretty great. Once my oldest son was old enough to watch the others I could leave them with him to go shopping, run errands, or even just go on a bike ride. But there are still times—ahem, Summer Break—when it’s hard for Momma to get a little space. Over the years, I’ve figured out several strategies for sneaking in some islands of precious time and space for myself, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there. I’m going to split them up into two categories—Mom time and Mom space—with six ideas apiece. Mom Time 1. Plan a weekly Mom date. One of my favorite strategies comes from one of my favorite podcasters, Jessica Dahlquist, of Extraordinary Moms. In episode 213, she talks about how she goes on a weekly self-date night. This was actually a solution her husband came up with, when she was talking about how she just needed some time alone. He said, “Why don’t you just go on a date night by yourself every Thursday night.” He puts the kids to bed while she goes out to do whatever she feels like doing that night, whether it’s shopping without kids, going to a movie, getting some good food, or just going on a walk. So simple, yet so smart. And so refreshing. 2. Designate a Mom weekend. Weekends are supposed to be a break to recharge from the stress of the week. Not so much for moms. Several years ago I found myself feeling resentful about weekends. My husband and kids wanted to use the weekend to recharge and relax from a busy week of school and work. But someone still has to do the work of feeding and cleaning up, etc. And with everyone home, that work multiplies. That meant the weekend was actually my busiest time of the week. I could have laid down the law and insisted that we all split the work, or that we spend every Saturday doing chores together. But I believe in weekends! I wanted them to enjoy their days off. I especially didn’t want to spend every Saturday cleaning. I wanted to be out spending time and going on adventures together. Finally I found a solution. I needed a weekend too, and the actual weekend was not my time. I started picking one day a week, usually a Wednesday just to break things up, and I designated that day as my personal weekend. Now I never miss it. Most of what makes a day a weekend is a mindset. I just kind of take it easy on my weekend, fixing slacker meals or serving leftovers, taking time to read, exercise, hike, or whatever else I feel like doing. Sometimes I get a babysitter, other times I just involve whichever children aren’t in school in my leisurely day. And I usually let them watch a bit more tv than usual. The best result of this change in routine is that I’m no longer resentful of actual weekends. Now that I have my own, I’m eager to help the rest of my family really enjoy theirs. If you have another job in addition to being a mom and can’t pick a weekday, you could split the weekend up or just designate a set amount of time over the weekend for yourself. Karlee Rehrer, a mom and dental hygienist, takes a two-hour mom weekend every Sunday afternoon. Her kids and husband know that this is her time and they entertain each other. She usually just spends the time in her room, napping, reading—whatever she wants to do. 3. Go for an occasional night away. To take alone time a step further, if you can swing it, treat yourself to an occasional night away—even once a year—all by yourself. Often we think of planning a getaway with our spouses, but it can be even easier to figure out a night by yourself, because you don’t have to find a babysitter. And sometimes it’s just what you need. This doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate. You could get creative here—maybe you just ask a good friend if you can housesit for a night while they’re on vacation. But just a night or two where you don’t have to put anyone to bed, make food for anyone else, and you can sleep uninterrupted for as long as you want can be priceless. A great example of a mom who did this is for a while, April Perry, founder of Power of Moms and Learn, Do, Become, got a hotel room for herself one night a month so she could make the time to write a book about her mother, who had Alzheimer’s Disease. She would then read chapters of that book to her mother and father each Thursday when she went to visit them. Because of those weekends away, she was able to finish her beautiful book, Thursdays with Zoe. She talks about this book on Episode 29 of the 3 in 30 Podcast. 4. Get a babysitter. I don’t know why, but with my first few babies, I thought I could only justify getting a babysitter if I needed one—if I had an important appointment that I couldn’t bring them to or if I was going on a date with my husband. But I’m giving you permission right now to get a babysitter even if you just want to go throw rocks in a lake by yourself for an hour. This doesn’t have to be expensive. Most of my babysitting, especially on weekdays when teenagers are in school, comes in the form of babysitting swaps. I was part of an official babysitting co-op for a while, but usually I just find a friend or two whose kids are compatible with mine and we set up a swapping system. This past year, my friend and I alternated Thursday afternoons. I’m also a strong believer in the power of threes—teaming up with two other friends for a babysitting swap, so you get two-out-of three babysitting sessions free. 5. Embrace the morning—or night. This next idea doesn’t really apply to moms with teensy ones. When you have little babies, you just grab every bit of sleep you can. I definitely wasn’t savoring any sunrises during the Bunker Years. But, incredibly, those baby years do pass, and one day you wake up and realize you just had a good night’s sleep. This is when you can start claiming part of each day as your own. For me, it’s the morning. I can vividly remember a time in high school when I decided I wanted to be a morning person. I started waking up early on my own and enjoying some time to myself as I got ready for the day. As the oldest of five myself, alone time was rare then too. I still love waking up before everyone else and having that time to myself to relax, be alone, and prepare myself for the day ahead. It’s also when I do my best writing. Last year, I read the book Miracle Morning, by Hal Elrod, which gives a great blueprint for starting your day with a rejuvenating morning. He uses the acronym SAVERS to guide his morning routine: S—Silence A—Affirmations V—Visualization E—Exercise R—Reading S—Scribing On the other hand, you can gain a lot of freedom by being strict about bedtime and designating a specific time of night as “adult time.” Notice how I say this as if it’s a simple thing. To me it is not. Perhaps it’s because I wake up so darn early, usually around 5 a.m., but am not very good at firm bedtime boundaries. It tends to drag on and on at my house. But I do know moms who are really good at getting their kids to bed early and consistently. My friend Rachel Beckstead’s kids go to bed by 7:00, and they know not to mess with adult time. Even if they’re still awake, they stay in their rooms. This gives Rachel the whole evening to spend some time with her husband and by herself as well. For lots of moms, this is their best time to carve out some alone time. 6. Capitalize on nap time/quiet time. Nap time is a naturally occurring break or two in your day when you have young kids. It’s easy to get in the habit of scurrying around during this time, trying to get work done that is difficult to do when kids are awake. I definitely fell into this trap for a long time. I’d work so hard during nap time that I was exhausted when the babies woke up. But then, a few babies in, I realized that I could use this time to recharge too—either to catch up on sleep, just relax and breathe for a minute, or even sit and read a book. Some moms are really good at enforcing “quiet time” for their kids even after they’re done taking naps—a great way to prolong this time for everyone to recharge. Mom Space 1. The Shower The shower is a magical place where a mom can be alone with enough white noise to drown out most of the other noise in the house. I have gotten some of my greatest inspiration in the shower. I once wrote a poem about how this tiny shower cell was actually the most liberating space in my house. I have no idea where that poem went, but it was a masterpiece. I wrote it in the shower. Granted, there are some times in a mom’s life where you really can’t take a shower without a baby seat in the bathroom with you. Often this means an entire shower with a screaming or whining child. That certainly doesn’t count as alone time. But once your child is past that baby stage, the shower or even a nice soak in the bath can be a great place for a quick dose of solitude. I know it might not be popular with some, but I’ve found that the only way to keep my small children from walking in and out of the bathroom at will while I’m taking a shower is to put on a show for the duration of the shower, and usually while I’m getting ready too. I do not feel guilty about this. I often use the time while I’m getting ready to catch up on some podcasts or audiobooks. 2. The Table I believe in sharing family meals. But there are three a day. You can afford to have at least one to yourself. Breakfast and lunch may be the best opportunities, because they’re usually less formal than the family dinner. Sometimes I eat before the kids eat, sometimes after, but never while they’re eating, because then I would surely be interrupted. When the weather’s nice, I love a good breakfast alone on my back deck to just enjoy the quiet, sit still, and enjoy the view. Julie Cornwell uses her private breakfast time to catch up on reading and personal study. 3. Your Room Whether it’s your bedroom, a home office, or even just a closet, designate a retreat for yourself in your home where you can be alone and find peace, even if it’s for a few minutes at a time. In one of my favorite parenting books of all time, “The Blessing of a Skinned Knee,” Wendy Mogel advises that you set boundaries for your kids about respecting your space, particularly your bedroom. Teach them to knock before they enter, and that your room is not a place to leave their toys, books, or other possessions. Crystal Evans is a mom and school teacher. She retreats to her room for 15 minutes right after work each day for a quick stretch of downtime before she faces a busy evening with her children. She explained to them that she needs them to respect this time, but then for the rest of the night, she’s theirs. 4. The Car Another place you can be alone is in the car. I remember when I first got my driver’s license and drove in a car all by myself. It was an exhilerating feeling. I remember driving to and from work singing as loudly and dramatically as I could. Again with the singing. Obviously, when you have young kids you’re rarely alone in a car, and, also obviously, you can’t just drive off and leave them. But I have used the car as a very brief escape when I had a super colicky baby who wouldn’t stop screaming no matter what I tried. I made sure the baby was safe in his crib and I just went out and sat in the car in the garage just to give my ears a brief respite. A few minutes was enough time to regroup, calm myself, and go back inside to keep trying. My mom used to linger alone in the car in our driveway with the doors shut after we all scrambled out. I used to think she was so weird. But of course I totally do that now. When my kids were younger, I would always be the one to volunteer to pick people up from the airport, just to have that drive to myself. And a work commute can be a great time to collect yourself before heading home to the kids. My teenager and I were arguing one night and it was clear we needed to table the discussion, get some sleep, and resume the conversation when we were both rested and more sane. So I said goodnight and hopped in the car. I drove around in silence for a while, letting myself cool down, and then realized I was hungry. I pulled into the Wendy’s drive-through at 10:00 pm. The window guy took a while to recognize that I was there and take my order, and he apologized profusely. I just said, “Who am I to judge. I’m the one at a Wendy’s drivethrough in my pajamas at 10:00.” To make myself sound even more pathetic, I’ve also had many a good cry in a car in a deserted parking lot. 5. Your Yard One of my favorite places to be alone is just outside at my own home. When I lived in a house with a lawn larger than a postage stamp, I used to love to mow it. The noise of the mower blocked everything else out, and I was alone with my thoughts. I wrote some great essays while mowing. I also love weeding. It’s such a mindless activity. You can just sit and think and pull one satisfying weed after another. Audra Elkington loves to start her day on her front porch for just 5-10 minutes, soaking in the sun, listening to birds chirp, and meditating. 6. A Path Even if you’re pushing a stroller, going on a walk or jog can feel like alone time. The kids enjoy it too, and getting out together is so therapeutic. This was a little tricky in the winter for the nine years I lived in Minnesota, but luckily everything in our city was connected by underground tunnels, so we’d just drive downtown and walk through the burrows. Any kind of path can be a great place to get some space. I remember a particularly rough night with five kids between 1 and 10. As soon as my husband walked in the door I handed him the baby, grabbed my running shoes, and just ran out my pent-up aggression. My favorite kind of alone time is cycling. I got a road bike two years ago, and I love riding for miles and miles. I never bring headphones—I just think and think. I write essays in my head and make up songs to the rhythm of my pedaling. Whatever your own unique mom life looks like, find those little islands of time and space to sneak in a bit of alone time to practice being yourself. There's nothing like motherhood to teach you just how beautiful solitude can be. 

Entitlement is a first-world problem. And it's an embarrassing problem to admit, because it sounds like we're whining about our good fortune: "It's just so hard to raise kids when we have enough money to buy them things...." But just because we're embarrassed that we spoil our children doesn't mean we should ignore the fact nor let it persist. This month I went on a quest for an antidote to the raging entitlement epidemic. I gravitated to four main books on the topic, though there are many more great ones out there:  The Opposite of Spoiled, by Ron Lieber The Entitlement Trap, by Richard and Linda Eyre The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, by Wendy Mogel Smart Money, Smart Kids, by Dave Ramsey and Rachel Cruze As I was researching, I compiled a list of 12 things we can teach our children so they don't turn into spoiled brats: Scarcity Contentment Gratitude Generosity Perspective Hard work Ownership Patience Thrift Consequences Transparency Good Role Models To read the article this podcast was based on, click here.

A simple holiday trip to Grandma’s house teaches us a lot about delegating and the balance between micromanaging and full autonomy in this episode. Why is that important for business?   There are two traps at either end of managing people and delegating responsibility that can both be problematic: 1. Not making space for the story of them to evolve and micromanaging them, or; 2. Giving them full autonomy, perhaps before they are ready or developed for that responsibility.   So how do navigate this fine line? Often, a great first place to look are at the stakes of the project. Look for low and medium stakes issues to delegate – areas that you can leave room for some autonomy, and even some failure, because they can be repaired or fixed if a problem occurs.  Like in parenting, if you want your team to be able to handle disappointment or frustration, you have to let them be disappointed or frustrated. If you want to delegate, you must first let people have low stakes failures and allow them to develop. You have to let employees have space to learn by doing, but it doesn’t have to be a binary choice between micromanagement and hands off.  The projects or tasks that you delegate should also help them appreciate the impact of mistakes and have an insight into the larger pictures. Mindless busy work can be delegated, but it doesn’t help them develop a sense of responsibility that tasks that are clearly tied to the next step will.  Besides the stakes, you want to consider the impact of the project you want to delegate – who will a failure impact? If it’s important customers, that is something you want to observe more carefully.  At some point, you also have to consider that well-delegated tasks are a good litmus test for assessing someone’s strengths and suitability. It is important as a manager to recognize what is important to the staff member, and recognize the skill sets they have and where they work well. They might not be suited for the tasks you want to delegate.  The best way to move into delegation is to make sure people can change the sentiment of “you’re right” to the sentiment of “that’s right”. Pay attention to what part of delegation you get stuck on, and what part they can help you with from the other side. Notice what role the story you have of that person plays into your delegation experience.  And lastly, if you delegate a lot, and it always fails, maybe the problem is you.    Resource mentioned The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, Wendy Mogel, PhD https://www.wendymogel.com/books/item/the_blessing_of_a_skinned_knee The Price of Privilege, Madeline Levine, PhD https://madelinelevine.com/the-price-of-privilege/   What story do you want to tell? So, that's our story... now, we want to hear yours! Pull up a chair and join the conversation in our Facebook Group: bit.ly/shmsgroup OR...  Shoot us an email: talktous@soheresmystory.com Connect with @SHMSpodcast on Twitter: https://twitter.com/shmspodcast  Text the word STORY to 345345 to get access to bonus content and weekly episode delivery.   Want to support us? Love this podcast? Please tell your friends, post about us, or take moment to review us & subscribe on iTunes, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to the podcast!    

In Episode 52, Sara Kuljis and I chat about ways to help our kids process experiences. The ideas work for post-summer camp debriefing but also for our kids' other adventures and experiences. Sara is a 20-year veteran camp director and parenting trainer who has great insights and ideas about parenting and counseling kids. Sara, with her husband Steve, owns and directs Yosemite Sierra Summer Camp, a Christian adventure camp for children ages 8 to 16 years old founded 45 years ago by Sara's parents Jim and Marna Slevcove. Together, the Kuljises also direct Emerald Cove Day Camp in San Juan Capistrano, a day camp that serves children from kindergarten through 4th grade. 9 Ways to Help Kids Process Experiences Plan time to rest/process. Listen to their stories. Look through photos together. Ask thoughtful questions: • What did you enjoy/love? • What was challenging? • When (not if!) you do it again, what will you do differently? Avoid "interviewing for pain" (Wendy Mogel). Bring home a ritual or tradition: • Flower Sundays • WOWs • Goodnight Song Continue with an interest that's been sparked (archery, guitar, etc.). Create a remembrance. Encourage kids to stay in touch with new friends. Books We Talked About Off the Clock, Laura Vanderkam Blessing of a Skinned Knee, Wendy Mogel             Blessing of a B-, Wendy Mogel Like listening to Sara and Audrey chat? Here are our other podcast episodes! https://sunshine-parenting.com/2019/04/ep-85-grit-is-grown-outside-the-comfort-zone-pegtalk/ Ep. 3: Raising Resilient, Independent Kids Ep. 7: Family Pace & Space Ep. 23: Peaceful Mornings Ep. 28:  Focusing on Our Kids' Strengths Ep. 37: How to Get Ready for Overnight Summer Camp Ep. 39: How to Handle Your Camper's Homesickness Ep. 57: The Importance of Adult Friendships Ep. 63: Growing Gratitude Ep. 77: Comparison is the Thief of (Parenting) Joy Ep. 82: Sibling Conflict, Pt. 1 Ep. 86: Conflict Resolution Skills for Siblings (and Everyone Else!)

Living As A God-Centered Mom :: A Discussion About Parenting, Motherhood, and Life with Heather MacFadyen (God-Centered Moms) - Part 2 Focusing on Moms and Mother's Day, our host Christopher J Harris, welcomes Ms. Heather MacFadyen, host of the The God-Centered Mom Podcast (where Mom's can admit that they're not perfect!) and a mom of four sons for a Two-Part Conversation around her story, her growth as a mom, and what's learning as she leads thousands of mom's around the world. While the focus is on Moms, both Moms and Dads will benefit from hearing her story and insight. Happy Mother's Day to all of the Mom's out there! You can listen to Part 1 of the conversation here. If you desire to connect with Ms Heather MacFadyen and God-Centered Moms, you can check them out here: Website | Twitter | Facebook | Pinterest A Few Key Ideas: Many parents make parenting about "me" instead of it being "God-centered" - Heather M. "There is a difference between Child-centered and God-centered." - Heather M. "When a child makes a mistake, our culture is looking for blame. Often that blame comes to the parents." - Heather M. "Some of our children are more compliant in younger years and that may send us the wrong message as parents as they get older." - Heather M. "The sin nature is present in all of us, including our children." - Heather M. We shouldn't be shocked when our children rebel or misbehave. They are living out the same challenges that are in us...sin." "Until our children receive Christ, we are loving unbelievers in our home...and this is our first mission field." - Heather M. "Sometimes we expect Holy Spirit fruit when they don't have the Holy Spirit..." - Heather M. "The parenting resources that our parents were handed may not work today..." - Heather M. "Our culture use to go along with religion, now they don't." - Heather M. "Our goal should not be for us to get ourselves right, but to surrender our not-rightness...and Jesus will get you right." - Heather M. "We've gone from one end of the spectrum - more rules doesn't make our kids better and no rules doesn't make them more holy." - Heather M. "Kids are your assignment. Working outside of the home doesn't negate that assignment." - Heather M. "God can still work in our mistakes." - Heather M. "You can have a horrible upbringing and God still use you to do incredible things." - Heather M. "We can't take this load that we are fully responsible for everything that our kids do. In some ways God wants to develop their story that doesn't include us." - Heather M.   Parents - Are you happy, even if your kids aren't happy? Or are you co-dependent on your child's happiness to manage your own emotions? Does technology impede on our lives and cause us to miss important moments?  Links/Resources: (some items mentioned directly or indirectly through prior research and recommended from my social media family): Hello Mornings (Resources & Podcast) From Pride To Humility: A Biblical Perspective by Dr. Stuart Scott God Centered Mom Resources Webpage What are Mastermind Groups? - Wikipedia 7 Reasons To Join A Mastermind Group - Forbes MOPS - A Place For Moms Website Grace Based Parenting Website Parenting by Paul Tripp Helicopter Parenting - Magazine article The Effects of Helicopter Parenting - Psychology Today The Blessing of A Skinned Knee by Dr Wendy Mogel P.S. - if you have recommendations to add to this list, I'll be glad to review and add it to this list.  Feel free to email me at info(at)thewiseideapodcast.com.   For Coaching, Questions, or Additional Information: You can contact us at info@thewiseideapodcast.com Subscribe via: iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, TuneIn, RSS Feed Enjoy what you're hearing & seeing? Do you mind Rating & Reviewing This Podcast? Your ratings and reviews help us place the podcast in front of new leaders and listeners.

Living As A God-Centered Mom :: A Discussion About Parenting, Motherhood, and Life with Heather MacFadyen (God-Centered Moms) - Part 1 Focusing on Moms and Mother's Day, our host Christopher J Harris, welcomes Ms. Heather MacFadyen, host of the The God-Centered Mom Podcast (where Mom's can admit that they're not perfect!) and a mom of four sons for a Two-Part Conversation around her story, her growth as a mom, and what's learning as she leads thousands of mom's around the world. While the focus is on Moms, both Moms and Dads will benefit from hearing her story and insight. Happy Mother's Day to all of the Mom's out there!   If you desire to connect with Ms Heather MacFadyen and God-Centered Moms, you can check them out here: Website | Twitter | Facebook | Pinterest A Few Key Ideas: Many parents make parenting about "me" instead of it being "God-centered" - Heather M. "There is a difference between Child-centered and God-centered." - Heather M. "When a child makes a mistake, our culture is looking for blame. Often that blame comes to the parents." - Heather M. "Some of our children are more compliant in younger years and that may send us the wrong message as parents as they get older." - Heather M. "The sin nature is present in all of us, including our children." - Heather M. We shouldn't be shocked when our children rebel or misbehave. They are living out the same challenges that are in us...sin." "Until our children receive Christ, we are loving unbelievers in our home...and this is our first mission field." - Heather M. "Sometimes we expect Holy Spirit fruit when they don't have the Holy Spirit..." - Heather M. "The parenting resources that our parents were handed may not work today..." - Heather M. "Our culture use to go along with religion, now they don't." - Heather M. "Our goal should not be for us to get ourselves right, but to surrender our not-rightness...and Jesus will get you right." - Heather M. "We've gone from one end of the spectrum - more rules doesn't make our kids better and no rules doesn't make them more holy." - Heather M. "Kids are your assignment. Working outside of the home doesn't negate that assignment." - Heather M. "God can still work in our mistakes." - Heather M. "You can have a horrible upbringing and God still use you to do incredible things." - Heather M. "We can't take this load that we are fully responsible for everything that our kids do. In some ways God wants to develop their story that doesn't include us." - Heather M.   Parents - Are you happy, even if your kids aren't happy? Or are you co-dependent on your child's happiness to manage your own emotions? Does technology impede on our lives and cause us to miss important moments?  Links/Resources: (some items mentioned directly or indirectly through prior research and recommended from my social media family): Hello Mornings (Resources & Podcast) From Pride To Humility: A Biblical Perspective by Dr. Stuart Scott God Centered Mom Resources Webpage What are Mastermind Groups? - Wikipedia 7 Reasons To Join A Mastermind Group - Forbes MOPS - A Place For Moms Website Grace Based Parenting Website Parenting by Paul Tripp Helicopter Parenting - Magazine article The Effects of Helicopter Parenting - Psychology Today The Blessing of A Skinned Knee by Dr Wendy Mogel P.S. - if you have recommendations to add to this list, I'll be glad to review and add it to this list.  Feel free to email me at info(at)thewiseideapodcast.com.   For Coaching, Questions, or Additional Information: You can contact us at info@thewiseideapodcast.com Subscribe via: iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, TuneIn, RSS Feed Enjoy what you're hearing & seeing? Do you mind Rating & Reviewing This Podcast? Your ratings and reviews help us place the podcast in front of new leaders and listeners. Your feedback also lets me know how I can better serve you.

Brea and Mallory talk about reading with children, and interview author and podcaster Theresa Thorn. Use the hashtag #ReadingGlasses to participate in online discussion! Email us at readingglassespodcast at gmail dot com!   Reading Glasses Tote Bags   Links - iPhone hack - On iPhones, go to settings > general > accessibility > display accommodations > color filters > Grayscale Theresa Thorn - One Bad Mother https://twitter.com/theresathorn Theresa's Book   Reading Glasses Transcriptions on Gretta   Reading Glasses Facebook Group   Reading Glasses Goodreads Group Apex Magazine Page Advice Article   Amazon Wish List   Books Mentioned -   Priestdaddy by Patricia Lockwood   The Last Picture Show by Larry McMurtry The Eleventh Hour by Graeme Base Lady Oracle by Margaret Atwood Lost At School by Ross W. Greene   Far from the Tree by Andrew Solomon Who Needs Donuts? By Mark Alan Stamaty   What Makes a Baby by Corey Silverberg   Radiant Child: The Story of Young Artist Jean-Michel Basquiat by Javaka Steptoe  And Baby Makes Three by  John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman   The Blessing of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel  

Achea, a self-proclaimed "mama bear," shares her insights regarding how much a mom should intervene with her kids' issues at school. She talks about teaching your kids to stand up for themselves, and about the difference between assertion and aggression. Achea also stresses the importance of allowing your kids to fail and learn from their mistakes. Blog Posts Mentioned: Food For Thought…Turn the Other Cheek or Not. Helicopter Parent or Meerkat…Which Are You? Helicopter vs. Meerkat Parent Pt. 2 Raising Little People Books Mentioned: Little Girls Can Be Mean The Blessing of a Skinned Knee    realgirlsfart.com / Facebook / Twitter / Instagram      

These really aren't 'tricks.'... In order for any of this stuff to work...you have to have a strong relationship with the kids you're trying to use these on. -Maria Horner In Episode 22, Maria Horner shares some of the important lessons she's learned as a mom and now passes along to her summer staff each year during counselor training at Catalina Island Camps. "You know, those 'Jedi Mom Tricks' that you do to control my mind without ever yelling or getting mad." -Nick Horner Jedi Mom Trick #1: The Look & The Look with Head Tilt Jedi Mom Trick #2: Give Choices (that are both acceptable) Jedi Mom Trick #3: Clearly Communicate the Rules Jedi Mom Trick #4: Ask Questions I asked Maria to share some of her favorite parenting resources, and this is what she had to say: Here are a couple of books that are a little “off the beaten track”: Good Influence: Teaching the Wisdom of Adulthood, by Daniel Heischman. He’s the executive director of the National Association of Episcopal Schools. I read his book when Nick was in middle school and was struck but his premise that we should be raising our kids to be good instead of raising them to be happy….because while there are plenty of happy people who are NOT good, almost all really good people are also happy.         My Monastery is a Minivan, by Denise Roy. Hysterical. The Blessings of a Skinned Knee, and LOVED Blessings of a B-, by Wendy Mogel Resources 10 Ways to do LESS and be a MORE Effective Parent Michael Brandwein Dr. Chris Thurber Book I quoted at the end of the podcast:             Note: I'm going to stop using my super powerful microphone that is picking up all kinds of background noises of my papers, notes, etc. Sorry for the distracting background noises in this episode.

A teaching story about Torah study from Wendy Mogel’s book “The Blessing of a Skinned Knee” is a terrific reminder that a good example is more compelling than good advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A blueprint for parents who want to raise confident, resilient children. Jessica Lahey is an educator, writer, and speaker. And she’s the author of the New York Times bestselling book “The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed.” Reading from her website about the book it says, “In the tradition of Paul Tough’s book How Children Succeed and Wendy Mogel’s The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, this groundbreaking manifesto focuses on the critical school years when parents must learn to allow their children to experience the disappointment and frustration that occur from life’s inevitable problems so that they can grow up to be successful, resilient, and self-reliant adults.” We all want those things for our children. And the more you teach something, the better you become at it so you just may become more successful, resilient and self-reliant yourself. If you don’t have time to listen to the entire episode or if you hear something that you like but don’t have time to write it down, be sure to grab your free copy of the Action Plan from this episode-- as well as get access to action plans from EVERY episode-- at JimHarshawJr.com/Action. Let's connect:  Website | Facebook | Twitter About Your Host Jim Harshaw My name is Jim Harshaw. And I know where you’re at. You’re working hard and qualified for what you do but you aren’t getting what you want. You have plans on getting to the C-suite or launching a business but ultimate success seems as far away today as ever. You’re at the right place because you can get there from here.  And I can help.  Who I Am I’m a speaker, coach, and former Division I All-American wrestler that helps motivated former athletes reach their full potential by getting clarity on what they really want and taking aggressive action to lead their ideal life not just despite their prior failures but because of them. I’m a husband and father of four. And I’m a serial entrepreneur. I’ve launched multiple successful businesses as well as the obligatory failed one. I’ve been the executive director of a non-profit and have raised millions of dollars. I’ve worked in sales. I’ve even been a Division I head coach. While I was born in a blue-collar home I have spent my life surrounded by Olympians, CEO’s and millionaires. Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” I’ve been lucky. I’ve learned the habits of successful people and guess what. You’re just like them. I know because I know your type. You’re programmed for hard work, which is a prerequisite for success, but you’ve never been shown how to use what you know to create the life you want with the tools you have. I will show you how. Why You are Here You've worked hard to achieve greatness. You’ve set goals and maybe even set records. You’ve definitely failed and you’ve at some point found yourself questioning if you were on the right track. You need to understand this: You are far more prepared to succeed than those who’ve not tried, competed, struggled and overcome like you have. That’s the value of your education as someone who aims high. You are prepared to be as successful as your wildest dreams will allow. Here I will teach you, with the help of brilliant minds that have been shaped by failure, struggle, and adversity, to be who you want to be. I sense that you want this because you have read this far. To take the next step today, click here. FOLLOW JIM Website | Facebook | Twitter

In Episode 3 of the Sunshine Parenting Podcast, I interview my good friend Sara Kuljis about raising resilient, independent kids. Sara is a 20-year veteran camp director and parenting trainer who has great insights and ideas about parenting and counseling kids. Sara, with her husband Steve, owns and directs Yosemite Sierra Summer Camp, a Christian adventure camp for children ages 8 to 16 years old founded 44 years ago by Sara's parents Jim and Marna Slevcove. Together, the Kuljises also direct Emerald Cove Day Camp in San Juan Capistrano, a day camp that serves children from kindergarten through 4th grade. Among many other topics, we talk about how camp helps build independence and resilience in kids, as well as readiness for camp, college, and being away from parents and home. Sara shares three great questions to ask kids after a challenging or new experience: 1. What did you enjoy/love? 2. What was challenging? 3. When (not if!) you do it again, what will you do differently? Books Sara and I mention in the podcast include: The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, Wendy Mogel How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims Present Over Perfect, Shauna Niequist The Opposite of Spoiled, Ron Lieberthe Social Intelligence: The Revolutionary New Science of Human Relationships, Daniel Goleman Sara teaches parenting workshops in Southern California. Contact Sara to have her come speak to your group on parenting topics including: • Positive Behavior Shaping • Effective Affirmation • Pace of Life • Listening Skills Here are some additional Sunshine Parenting posts related to the topics we discuss in Episode 3: How Camp Helps Parents Raise Adults Ready for Adulthood Checklist Parking Your Helicopter What's the Best Age for Camp? Five Reasons Great Parents Send Their Kids to Camp Why Kids Need to Get Uncomfortable Who's Not Ready for College? Making Family Dinner Like a Campfire

In this episode of Dietitians Unplugged, Glenys and Aaron take a closer look at the clean eating craze.  This discussion all started after reading this article from the Daily UK.  Other topics that come up are, Ellyn Satter and the very interesting book, Blessings of a Skinned Knee.  We hope you enjoy this latest episode.