The CAPE Podcast

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Damian Porter, also known as The How Not To Die Guy, for a powerful, practical conversation about situational awareness, self-protection, bravery, and what it really means to prepare for unsafe situations. With a background in the New Zealand Army, including Special Forces, policing in Western Australia, and over 15 years as a firefighter, Damian brings lived experience from high-risk environments - but what stands out most is his grounded, teachable approach to helping everyday people stay safer. This is not a fear-based conversation.It's a preparation-based one. Kristi and Damian unpack why most people freeze in dangerous situations, how practice changes reaction time, and why “hypervigilance” isn't the goal - awareness is. They explore how violence often arrives as a surprise, why ego can escalate risk, and how simple behavioural shifts - like using your voice, creating distance, or taking early action - can interrupt harm. The episode also bridges their shared work in child safety and prevention. They discuss: Teaching children to recognise unsafe behaviour Practicing “emergency no” and using your voice The power of situational awareness in everyday settings How offenders rely on silence, compliance, and disbelief Why most perpetrators avoid resistance and exposure How bravery is a choice - not a personality trait Damian shares practical frameworks for handling threats, from verbal deterrence to physical self-defence, while Kristi connects those principles to child protection, early warning signs, and empowering families. Together, they reinforce a simple truth: Preparation reduces panic.Practice reduces freezing.Bravery is chosen in seconds. This episode is about building files in your brain - so if something ever feels “off,” you already know your next step. Key Themes Covered Situational awareness without hypervigilance Why violence is often unexpected The biology of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn Practicing responses before you need them Using your voice as a deterrent Creating distance and changing positioning When force is legally justified - and when it isn't Staying alive, staying out of jail, and managing aftermath Teaching children about safe and unsafe people Domestic violence safety planning Why ego escalates risk Choosing bravery in critical moments Why This Conversation Matters Many people walk through life believing, “It won't happen to me.” But safety is not about paranoia - it's about preparation. Children benefit when adults model awareness and confident boundary-setting. Families are safer when they've had conversations about what to do if something feels wrong. Adults are more capable when they've mentally rehearsed scenarios before they occur. This episode reminds us that: You don't have to live in fear.But you do need a plan. And bravery isn't about being fearless - it's about choosing action when it counts. About Damian Porter – The How Not To Die Guy Damian Porter is a former New Zealand Special Forces soldier, police officer, firefighter, and long-time instructor in practical self-protection. Through his platform, How Not To Die Guy, Damian teaches everyday people - including women, elderly individuals, parents, and children - how to: Avoid dangerous situations Recognise early warning signs Use verbal deterrence effectively Protect themselves when necessary Understand legal considerations around force His mission is simple: teach good people how to handle bad situations.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Michelle Mitchell, parenting expert, author, and educator, for a practical, encouraging conversation about connection, boundaries, and raising resilient teenagers. With decades of experience equipping families to stay connected through the messy emotional years, Michelle brings grounded insights that help parents move beyond fear and frustration and into thoughtful, values-based parenting. This is not a perfection-based conversation. It's a connection-based one. Kristi and Michelle explore why control isn't the goal, why “parenting is just hard” is a myth, and how building trust with teenagers requires intentional, age-appropriate guidance. They discuss: Why connection matters more than control Teaching principles instead of just rules Using friendships as the practice ground for adult relationships How to stay consistent and present, even when your child pushes away Why saying “no” is sometimes the most loving thing you can do Navigating independence while maintaining safety The roundabout metaphor for the normal ups and downs of growing up Michelle shares practical frameworks for guiding teens through decision-making, resilience-building, and critical thinking, while Kristi connects these principles to child safety, advocacy, and helping children grow into capable adults. Together, they reinforce a simple truth: Kids don't need perfect parents-they need present ones. This episode is about showing up, even when it's messy, and giving your children the space to grow safely while knowing they are supported. Key Themes Covered Connection vs. control in parenting Teaching principles rather than just rules Age-appropriate trust and boundaries How to handle teenage pushback without conflict Encouraging critical thinking and problem-solving Preparing children for independence and real-world decisions Staying present and consistent as a parent Using everyday moments to build resilience and advocacy skills Why This Conversation Matters Parenting teenagers can feel overwhelming. Social media, technology, and cultural shifts add pressure, and parents often doubt whether they're doing it “right.” This episode reminds us that: Children thrive when adults show up consistently, not perfectly Trust is earned and age-appropriate, not unconditional Boundaries teach respect, safety, and critical thinking Resilience comes from practice, not perfection Michelle and Kristi model that parenting isn't about controlling every outcome-it's about guiding children to become thoughtful, capable adults who know they are supported and loved. About Michelle Mitchell Michelle Mitchell is a parenting expert, author, and educator with decades of experience supporting families through the emotional ups and downs of childhood and adolescence. She teaches parents to: Build connection over control Set meaningful boundaries Guide teenagers with age-appropriate trust Encourage critical thinking, advocacy, and resilience Michelle's mission is simple: equip parents with tools and confidence so children can grow into capable, confident adults. Website:www.michellemitchell.org Instagram:@michelle.mitchell Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about parenting, boundaries, or guiding children through adolescence, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools for parents and carers.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Jocelyn Brewer - psychologist, former high school teacher, and founder of Digital Nutrition - for a wide-ranging, deeply thoughtful conversation about technology, parenting, wellbeing, and what it truly means to stay human in a digital world. With over 20 years of experience working at the intersection of psychology, education, and technology, Jocelyn brings clarity, compassion, and a refreshingly non-shaming perspective to one of the most complex challenges facing families today: how to live well with technology rather than be consumed by it. Kristi and Jocelyn explore why online safety, digital wellbeing, mental health, and prevention cannot be treated as separate issues - and why bans, rules, and fear-based approaches alone will never be enough. They unpack how children's behaviour online is often driven by a fundamental need to belong, how brains respond under stress and overwhelm, and why adults must build their own regulation skills if they want to support their children effectively. This episode challenges the idea of “digital natives” and reframes young people as digital orphans - growing up in systems designed to capture attention, without enough adult guidance or modelling. Together, Kristi and Jocelyn discuss why behaviour is not identity, how shame shuts down learning, and why curiosity, connection, and co-regulation are far more powerful than control. The conversation also touches on broader systemic pressures - cost-of-living stress, loss of community spaces, comparison culture, and constant information overload - and how these factors shape both parenting and children's online experiences. This is not a conversation about perfection, restriction, or policing behaviour.It's about intentional use, emotional literacy, and building skills for life - online and offline. Key Themes Covered Why digital wellbeing and online safety cannot be separated The concept of digital nutrition and intentional tech use Why behaviour is not identity - for children or adults How belonging drives online choices and risk-taking Why shame and fear undermine learning and connection Understanding regulation, big feelings, and brain development The limits of bans and legislation without education and modelling How persuasive tech design exploits attention and emotion Teaching children to be critical consumers of technology Co-regulation, boundaries, and consistency over control Why adults must do their own work first Staying human in a digital - and AI - world Why This Conversation Matters Many parents feel overwhelmed, confused, or behind when it comes to technology - often carrying guilt, fear, or shame about “getting it wrong.” This episode reframes the conversation entirely. Rather than asking “How do we control this?” Kristi and Jocelyn invite us to ask:“How do we build skills, connection, and awareness - in ourselves and our children?” Children don't need perfect parents or total restriction.They need regulated adults, honest conversations, clear boundaries, and guidance that grows with them. Prevention doesn't start with platforms or policies.It starts with relationships, modelling, and helping children understand why they feel drawn to certain behaviours — online and offline. About Jocelyn Brewer – Digital Nutrition Jocelyn Brewer is a psychologist, educator, and the founder of Digital Nutrition, a framework that helps individuals, families, schools, and organisations develop healthier, more intentional relationships with technology. With a background in teaching and counselling, Jocelyn brings a practical, compassionate, and evidence-based approach to digital wellbeing - focusing on skills, self-awareness, and agency rather than fear or restriction. Her work centres on helping people stay human in a digital world by understanding attention, behaviour, emotion, and choice. Learn more about Jocelyn and Digital Nutrition:https://www.digitalnutrition.com.auFollow Jocelyn on Instagram Jocelyn Brewer Follow Jocelyn on Facebook Jocelyn Brewer Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about technology use, boundaries, regulation, or parenting in a digital world, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools to support families.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Brooke McIntosh - speaker, endurance runner, and founder of the Just One More movement - for a raw, powerful conversation about mental health, courage, healing, and the ripple effect of choosing to speak when silence feels safer. Brooke shares the deeply personal story behind her decision to run 14,000 kilometres around Australia - a journey born from suicidal ideation, unspoken trauma, and a life-changing car accident that forced her to confront the reality that she was not okay, despite appearing strong on the outside. Together, Kristi and Brooke explore how “just one more” - one step, one breath, one conversation - became a lifeline, not only for Brooke, but for countless people she encountered along the road. What began as a mission to spark conversation within FIFO, mining, and construction communities quickly revealed a much wider truth: mental health struggles do not discriminate. They exist everywhere - across families, generations, genders, and professions. This episode dives into the cost of emotional shutdown, the normalisation of masking pain, and how generational silence around trauma, addiction, and abuse shapes the way adults cope - or don't cope - later in life. Brooke speaks candidly about childhood sexual abuse, substance use, shame, and the long-term impact of carrying stories alone for decades. Kristi and Brooke also reflect on the power of vulnerability to break cycles - from the unexpected moment Brooke's father felt safe enough to say “I'm not okay”, to the way children who saw Brooke running began asking questions that opened conversations within their families. This is not a conversation about toughness or pushing through at all costs. It's about courage, honesty, mental fitness, and choosing connection - even when it's uncomfortable. Key Themes Covered Suicidal ideation and the turning point that saved Brooke's life The meaning of Just One More as a daily practice Mental fitness vs mental health Why masking pain is so common - and so dangerous The ripple effect of courageous, vulnerable conversations Generational trauma, silence, and healing Childhood sexual abuse and delayed disclosure Addiction as a coping strategy for unprocessed pain Running as therapy, regulation, and trauma processing Listening to the body instead of pushing through it Breaking cycles for the next generation Why healing yourself can give others permission to speak Why This Conversation Matters So many people are surviving - not living. They show up, work hard, care for others, and appear “fine”, while silently carrying trauma, grief, shame, and exhaustion. This episode reminds us that strength is not found in silence or self-abandonment - it's found in honesty, courage, and asking for support. Brooke's story shows how quickly things can change when someone chooses to speak - and how one brave conversation can unlock many more. You don't need to run around Australia to make a difference. Sometimes, just one more conversation is enough to save a life. About Brooke McIntosh - Just One More Brooke McIntosh is an endurance runner, speaker, and founder of the Just One More movement, using lived experience to spark honest conversations about mental health, suicide prevention, and emotional wellbeing. Through her run around Australia and her ongoing work in communities, schools, and workplaces, Brooke encourages people to build mental fitness, challenge silence, and remember that pain never gets the last say. Follow Brooke McIntosh on her socials:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi sits down with Dr. Justin Coulson to explore a topic that feels increasingly urgent for parents today: raising boys. Together, they dive into why so many young men are struggling to find their footing and what it actually takes to raise a generation that is resilient, purposeful, and grounded. Dr. Coulson shares his own "failure to launch" story-from failing school to a decade-long radio career before finding his true calling in psychology-and explains why the path to adulthood isn't a race. They unpack the "Hope Theory," the dangers of "vanity careers," and the power of "Autonomy Support," providing a roadmap for parents who want to move from controlling their kids to guiding them. This is a candid, insightful conversation about shifting the narrative for our sons and helping them become men who make the people around them feel "safer and stronger". Content Covered in This Episode The "Crisis of Purpose": Why kids today have more freedom than ever but less direction and resilience. Dr. Coulson's Journey: From the bottom 15% of his class to a PhD in psychology and the "Happy Families" brand. The Value of the Gap Year: Why "earning and learning" through life experiences often leads to more success than rushing straight into university. The 2026 Brain Maturity Update: New research suggesting neurological maturity may not occur until our early 30s. Autonomy Support vs. Control: How to help kids "endorse" rules and values rather than just following them out of fear. The Hope Theory: Breaking down the three essential pillars of hope: Goals, Pathways, and Agency. Screen Time and Lost Potential: The neurological "hijacking" of our youth and how it impacts their ability to discover their values. Healthy Masculinity: Defining a healthy man as someone who helps those around him feel safer and stronger. The "Sunday Chat": A practical family ritual for discussing everything from consent to mental health. Why This Conversation Matters We often expect too much from our little kids and not enough from our teenagers. As Dr. Coulson explains, our job as parents is not to slay the dragons for our children, but to prepare them to be "dragon slayers" themselves. Many young men are failing to thrive because they lack a sense of worthiness derived from doing hard, productive things. By fostering "Autonomy Support," we can guide our children toward financial viability and personal fulfillment without resorting to "victimhood" or blaming external labels for a lack of progress. This conversation challenges parents to step up, have the hard conversations, and model the character we want our children to inherit. About Dr. Justin Coulson Dr. Justin Coulson is one of Australia's most trusted parenting experts. He is the co-host of Channel 9's Parental Guidance, the host of the #1 parenting podcast in Australia (The Happy Families Podcast), and the author of 11 books. After a successful radio career, Justin returned to university as a mature-age student, earning first-class honors in psychology and a PhD. He is a father of six daughters and is dedicated to helping families flourish through evidence-based psychological principles. Connect with Dr. Justin Coulson:Website: www.happyfamilies.com.au Podcast: The Happy Families Podcast New Book: "Boys" Dr. Justin Coulson's latest book, "Boys: Building Strong Young Men from the Inside Out," is a culmination of four years of work. It provides a framework for raising boys who are confident, kind, and capable of navigating the complexities of modern masculinity. Pre-order Now: Pre-orders are critical for a book's success. You can pre-order your via the Happy Families website happyfamilies.com.au/boys-book-waitlist Practical Support & Resources If this episode has inspired you to start more meaningful conversations with your kids, Kristi provides trauma-informed education and practical tools to help you guide them toward a life they can be proud of.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Kimberly King - author, educator, and founder of Tough Topics Mom - for a candid and deeply informative discussion on child safety, prevention, and fostering open communication with children. Kimberly shares her personal journey that led her to advocate for body safety, including a formative experience with her son that resurfaced memories from her own childhood. She reflects on the importance of early conversations about consent, boundaries, and safe adults, and how these conversations can empower children to recognize and respond to unsafe situations. Together, Kristi and Kimberly explore: the challenges parents face in navigating “tough topics,” the role of repressed memories in adult perspectives on child safety, and why prevention strategies are more effective when implemented early. They also discuss the unique risks posed by online spaces, how technology affects children's development and safety, and practical tools for teaching kids about safe interactions in both real-life and digital environments. Through stories, practical advice, and evidence-based insights, this episode highlights how consistent, thoughtful conversations can make children less vulnerable to harm, support early disclosure, and strengthen parent-child relationships. Content Warning:This episode includes discussion of: Childhood sexual abuse Grooming behaviours Online safety risks Trauma and mental health challenges Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed. Key Themes Covered: How early body safety education reduces risk and empowers children The importance of recognizing “safe” vs. “red flag” adults Practical strategies for having calm, ongoing safety conversations Online grooming, sextortion, and managing digital risks for children How parents' past experiences shape their approach to safety Creating an environment where children feel heard and supported The role of consistent, intentional communication in prevention Why This Conversation Matters:Child sexual abuse and emotional harm thrive in secrecy and silence. Many parents want to protect their children but feel unsure how to start conversations about body safety or online risk. Kimberly's insights provide practical strategies and encouragement for parents and carers to normalize these discussions, reduce vulnerability, and create safe spaces where children feel empowered to speak up. About Kimberly King:Kimberly King is an author, educator, and advocate for child safety. She is the founder of Tough Topics Mom, a platform offering guidance, resources, and support for parents navigating difficult conversations about consent, boundaries, and online safety. Her books, including I Said No and Body Safety for Young Children: Empowering Caring Adults, have been translated internationally and are used by families and educators worldwide to teach children about safety in an empowering, age-appropriate way.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Monique Christidis - registered nurse, child health nurse of 30+ years, and founder of BaaBaa Baby - for a grounded, compassionate conversation about infant development, sleep, regulation, and the foundational role of connection from birth. Monique brings a wealth of clinical expertise alongside deep empathy for parents navigating the often overwhelming early years. Together, Kristi and Monique explore how babies communicate through behaviour, why crying is not manipulation but communication, and how understanding brain development can radically shift the way parents respond to sleep, distress, and big emotions. This episode gently challenges outdated behaviourist approaches to parenting and sleep, unpacking why concepts like “self-soothing” and “cry it out” can be misunderstood when we don't fully understand infant brain development. Monique explains how safety, consistency, and presence support a baby's nervous system - and how regulation always begins with the adult. Kristi and Monique also discuss the immense pressure placed on modern parents, the loss of the “village”, and how comparison culture and unrealistic expectations can leave parents feeling isolated, guilty, and exhausted. The conversation reinforces that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting - and that learning to trust your intuition is a powerful protective factor for both parents and children. This is a reassuring, science-informed, and deeply validating episode for parents, carers, and professionals - reminding us that connection, not perfection, is what children need most. Key Themes Covered Infant brain development and why the first years are about safety and survival Why babies cry - and why it's communication, not manipulation The role of connection and co-regulation in sleep and emotional development How outdated parenting narratives can undermine parental intuition The impact of parental exhaustion, isolation, and comparison culture Why self-care and regulation in adults directly supports children Understanding sleep without shame, fear, or rigid rules Supporting children through distress rather than withdrawing connection Why there is no “one size fits all” approach to parenting How early connection builds resilience, confidence, and self-esteem Why This Conversation Matters Babies and young children rely entirely on safe, attuned adults to help them regulate, feel secure, and make sense of the world. When parents are overwhelmed, unsupported, or unsure - often due to conflicting advice or unrealistic expectations - it can erode confidence and connection. This episode reframes parenting through a trauma-informed, developmentally accurate lens, offering reassurance that responding with presence, curiosity, and compassion is not “spoiling” a child - it's building safety. By understanding how children's brains develop and how behaviour communicates need, parents can move away from fear-based approaches and toward connection-led care that supports both child wellbeing and parental mental health. About Monique Christidis - BaaBaa Baby Monique Christidis is a registered nurse and child health nurse with over 30 years' experience supporting families. She is the founder of BaaBaa Baby, a private child health service in Western Australia, where she provides individualised support for families from birth to five years. Monique specialises in infant development, sleep, emotional regulation, and early attachment, offering practical, compassionate, and evidence-based guidance tailored to each family's unique needs. Learn more about Monique and BaaBaa Baby:https://www.baabaababy.com.au Instagram: @baabaababy Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about infant sleep, regulation, or building stronger connection with your child, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical resources for parents and carers.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Neil Milton - founder of The Table Talk Project, advocate, and survivor - for a powerful and deeply human conversation about connection, prevention, and the role safe relationships play in protecting children and strengthening families. Neil shares his lived experience of growing up without a voice at home, the long-term impact of childhood sexual abuse, and how unaddressed trauma shaped his relationships, sense of safety, and ability to ask for help. He reflects on how becoming a parent - and later recognising his own experiences as abuse - became a catalyst for creating spaces where children are heard, believed, and supported. Together, Kristi and Neil explore how everyday disconnection within families can increase vulnerability to harm, why children often communicate distress through behaviour rather than words, and how something as simple - and intentional - as sharing a meal can create profound protective factors. This episode unpacks how grooming can occur in plain sight, the dangers of “busy” culture, and why having a designated space for conversation matters. It also explores the ripple effects of connection - from improved mental health and resilience, to early disclosure of harm and strengthened family bonds. This is not about perfection.It's about presence, prevention, and creating environments where nothing is off the table. Content Warning This episode includes discussion of: childhood sexual abuse grooming behaviours trauma and mental health challenges suicide and suicidal ideation family violence and relational harm Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed. Support resources are listed below. Key Themes Covered How disconnection within families increases vulnerability to harm Why children often communicate distress through behaviour The lifelong impact of growing up without a safe voice How grooming can occur in everyday environments The protective power of connection and consistent presence Why “busy” culture can unintentionally silence children The role of shared meals in building trust and safety Supporting disclosure through calm, trauma-informed responses How prevention starts with small, consistent moments of connection Why safe relationships are a cornerstone of child protection Why This Conversation Matters Child sexual abuse and emotional harm thrive in silence, secrecy, and disconnection. Many parents and carers deeply care about protecting children but feel overwhelmed, unsure, or stretched thin. This episode reminds us that prevention does not require perfection, expertise, or constant vigilance - it requires presence, listening, and relationship. By creating regular opportunities for connection and normalising conversation, adults can interrupt grooming, support disclosure, and ensure children know they are not alone. Prevention is possible - and it begins with being heard. About The Table Talk Project The Table Talk Project is a family-centred initiative designed to help households create intentional spaces for connection through shared meals and guided conversations. By encouraging families to come together regularly and engage in meaningful dialogue, the project supports emotional wellbeing, strengthens relationships, and creates protective environments where children feel safe to speak.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Sharon Collon - ADHD educator, coach, speaker, and founder of The Functional Family - for an honest and practical conversation about neurodiversity, online safety, learning differences, and what actually helps families thrive. Sharon is also host of the ADHD Families Podcast, where she supports parents navigating life with ADHD and other neurodivergent profiles. Having supported tens of thousands of families, Sharon's work focuses on turning overwhelming information into clear, doable strategies. Together, Kristi and Sharon unpack what parents are truly crying out for - not more theory, not more labels - but practical tools that make everyday life easier. This episode weaves together neurodiversity, digital safety, emotional regulation, learning styles, rejection sensitivity, impulsivity, and body safety education - highlighting how prevention and support must be adapted for how children actually process the world. This is not a conversation about fear.It's about understanding how your child's brain works - and meeting them there. What This Episode Explores 1. The Reality of an ADHD Diagnosis Sharon shares her own journey of receiving her son's diagnosis - including the overwhelm of being handed outdated information and left to figure it out alone. She explains why families don't need more generic ADHD content online - they need: Clear, practical strategies Real-world application Emotional validation Support that reduces shame, not increases it 2. Processing Modalities: Why Talking Isn't Always Enough Sharon explains that children process information in different ways, including: Conceptual (needing to understand why) Auditory Visual Verbal processing Emotional Intuitive Tactile (hands-on learners) When parents rely only on talking, many children simply don't absorb the message - especially neurodivergent children. This becomes particularly important when teaching: Body safety Consent Online safety Social boundaries Risk awareness Kristi shares how role play - not just verbal instruction - helped her daughter internalise body safety rules. Sharon reinforces the importance of repetition and experiential learning over lecture-style conversations. 3. Online Safety, Gaming & Neurodivergence Kristi and Sharon have a grounded conversation about what's actually happening in online spaces — especially for neurodivergent kids. They explore: Impulsivity and posting without thinking Dopamine-driven reward pathways How predators exploit attention and validation Difficulty reading social cues Why online interactions can feel safer than playground dynamics The very real impact of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) Sharon strongly encourages parents to understand RSD - explaining that for many children with ADHD, rejection can feel like physical pain. Rather than banning technology outright, Sharon recommends: Curiosity over confrontation Coaching conversations (not interrogation) Moving gaming into shared spaces Researching games before approving them Using tools like Common Sense Media to review age-appropriateness Understanding that shame shuts down learning This episode reframes tech supervision as relationship-based guidance - not surveillance. 4. Social Skills & Emotional Safety Sharon explains that social skills are not intuitive for everyone - and many adults would benefit from explicit social skills training. They discuss: Why some children miss subtle social cues Why gaming environments can feel predictable and therefore safer The need for explicit teaching rather than assumption The importance of consent-based connection (including hugs) Regulation before conversation Kristi highlights something powerful: sometimes children - and adults - need a hug before they can process words. Key Themes Covered ADHD and late diagnosis Practical strategies over theory Processing modalities and learning differences Role play vs verbal instruction Repetition and retention Body safety education Online grooming risks Impulsivity and dopamine reward systems Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) Social skills development Curiosity-based parenting Regulation before correction Consent in everyday parenting moments Why This Conversation Matters Many parents feel: Overwhelmed Behind Outpaced by technology Unsure how to adapt for neurodivergent children This episode reminds us: Children don't need perfect parents.They need informed, regulated adults who are willing to adjust their approach. When we understand how a child processes information, we can teach safety, boundaries, and skills in ways that actually stick. Prevention doesn't start with fear.It starts with connection, repetition, and knowing your child's brain. About Sharon Collon Sharon Collon is an ADHD educator, family coach, speaker, and founder of The Functional Family. She supports parents to move from confusion and overwhelm to clarity and confidence through evidence-informed, practical strategies. She is also the host of the ADHD Families Podcast, where she explores neurodiversity, regulation, parenting tools, and family wellbeing. Her work focuses on helping families: Understand ADHD beyond stereotypes Develop regulation skills Strengthen communication Build practical systems at home Support emotional and social development Create Your Family's ADHD Roadmap – FREE Coaching WeekOne clear, tailored plan for your familyhttps://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/roadmap The ADHD Family Questhttps://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/questwaitlist The ADHD Families Podcasthttps://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/podcast Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about neurodiversity, safety education, or regulation, Kristi provides trauma-informed education and tools for families.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Rosalia Rivera - founder of Consent Parenting, consent educator, and survivor advocate - for a deeply important conversation about prevention, healing, and the responsibility adults hold in protecting children. Rosalia shares her lived experience of childhood sexual abuse and how becoming a parent resurfaced memories she didn't yet have language for. Together, Kristi and Rosalia explore why so many parents avoid child safety conversations - whether through fear, overwhelm, or the belief that “this doesn't happen in our family” - and how both avoidance and overprotection can leave children vulnerable. This episode unpacks how grooming operates in plain sight, why children communicate harm through behaviour, and how trauma-informed, age-appropriate conversations can dramatically reduce risk. It's a hopeful, empowering discussion that centres education as a form of freedom - not fear. This is not about paranoia. It's about prevention, connection, and courage. ⚠️ Content Warning This episode includes discussion of: childhood sexual abuse family and domestic violence grooming behaviours trauma responses online and peer-to-peer sexual harm Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed. Support resources are listed below. Key Themes Covered Why “not my child” thinking places children at risk How unhealed adult trauma can impact prevention efforts Grooming behaviours in family, community, and online settings Why children often communicate harm through behaviour The importance of trauma-informed education for parents How consent, boundaries, and body safety protect all children Why silence and discomfort benefit offenders The long-term impacts of abuse when children are not believed How prevention protects children and prevents future offending Why normalising these conversations creates safer communities Why This Conversation Matters Child sexual abuse thrives in silence, stigma, and discomfort. Many parents avoid these conversations - not because they don't care, but because they feel overwhelmed, triggered, or unsure where to start. This episode reminds us that education doesn't create harm - it reduces it. By noticing behaviour, asking questions, and having ongoing, age-appropriate conversations, adults can interrupt grooming, support disclosure, and create environments where children feel safe to speak. Prevention is possible - and it starts at home. Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about how to start protective, trauma-informed conversations with children, Kristi has created practical tools to support parents and carers.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi speaks with Andrew Goss about the lifelong impact of childhood abuse - and the role silence, minimisation, and adult neutrality play in allowing harm to continue. Andrew shares his lived experience of family violence, sexual abuse (including female offending), and the repeated moments where warning signs were visible - but not acted upon. Together, Kristi and Andrew explore why children often try to communicate harm through behaviour, how grooming operates across different contexts, and why asking questions early can interrupt abuse before it escalates. This is not a sensational conversation. It's a necessary one. ⚠️ Content Warning This episode includes discussion of: childhood sexual abuse family and domestic violence grooming behaviours trauma responses Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and step away if needed. Support resources are listed below. Key Themes Covered Why silence and “staying neutral” is not harmless How children communicate harm through behaviour Grooming behaviours across male and female offending Why adults often dismiss or minimise warning signs The long-term impact of not being believed How early intervention can change outcomes Advocacy, boundaries, and choosing how to help safely Why This Conversation Matters Most abuse doesn't continue because no one notices. It continues because adults feel uncomfortable asking questions - or assume someone else will act. This episode invites parents, carers, and professionals to reflect on the small moments where intervention matters, and how noticing, listening, and responding early can disrupt harm. Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about how to start calm, age-appropriate safety conversations with children, Kristi has created practical tools to support parents and carers.

Episode Summary: The conversation delves into the alarming risks that young people face regarding sexual violence, emphasizing the lack of awareness among parents about these issues. It highlights the prevalence of unwanted sexual encounters and the disturbing trend of children perpetrating sexual violence against their peers. Key Takeaways: Parents often underestimate the risks of sexual violence. There are high rates of unwanted sexual encounters among youth. Children can be both victims and perpetrators of sexual violence. Awareness is crucial for prevention and protection. Education on sexual violence should start early. Open conversations about consent are necessary. Support systems for victims need to be strengthened. Community involvement is essential in addressing these issues. Resources for parents should be more accessible. Schools play a vital role in educating children about these risks. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to the Conversation on Sexual Education04:23 - Understanding Parental Challenges in Discussing Sex07:11 - The Importance of Early Conversations10:15 - Navigating Teachable Moments13:22 - Age-Appropriate Discussions and Their Impact16:26 - Counteracting Negative Influences19:25 - Promoting Positive Sexual Relationships22:31 - Empowering Parents to Start Conversations25:23 - Utilising Resources for Effective Communication28:24 - Conclusion and Encouragement for Parents31:45 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

Episode Summary: The conversation explores the challenges faced by the digital generation as they navigate technology independently. It emphasises the importance of introducing technology in a safe manner, akin to teaching children to swim, where they gradually gain skills and independence. Key Takeaways: The digital generation faces unique challenges in technology. Children are often left to navigate technology on their own. Introducing technology should be done safely, similar to swimming lessons. Using apps and platforms can help develop skills in a controlled environment. Gradual exposure to technology fosters independence in children. Safety measures, like floaties in swimming, are essential in tech introduction. Monitoring children while they learn technology is crucial. As children grow, they can handle more complex tech tasks. Skills development in technology is a gradual process. Technology education should evolve with the child's age and abilities. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Cyber Safety02:23 - Understanding the Dangers of Online Gaming05:17 - Navigating Parental Guidance and Restrictions08:19 - Empowering Conversations with Children11:46 - The Importance of Early Cyber Safety Education15:34 - Building Trust and Open Communication20:23 - Introducing Technology Safely21:53 - Resources for Parents on Technology23:46 - Establishing Family Rules for Online Safety25:56 - Understanding App Classifications27:48 - Reflecting on Childhood and Social Media29:19 - Tips for Managing Screen Time31:49 - Transitioning from Screen Time to Offline Activities34:39 - Empowering Healthy Digital Consumption37:12 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of "Conversations with Kristi," Kristi discusses the alarming rise in online child exploitation with Ben Gillenwater, an IT and cybersecurity expert. They explore the challenges parents face in protecting their children from digital dangers, emphasising the importance of education and proactive parenting. Ben shares his personal journey of becoming the "family IT guy" and offers insights into managing children's online presence safely. KEY TAKEAWAYS: The alarming rise in online child exploitation cases, with significant increases in AI deepfakes. The importance of proactive parenting in managing children's online presence. Ben Gillenwater's journey from IT expert to family IT advisor. The role of education in empowering parents and children against digital threats. The impact of social media and online platforms on children's mental health. Strategies for setting boundaries and expectations for children's device usage. The significance of leading by example in digital habits. The challenges of balancing parental control with children's privacy. The need for open communication between parents and children about online risks. The benefits of community and educational resources in supporting digital safety. CHAPTERS: 00:00:00 Introduction and Background 00:06:00 The Rise of Online Exploitation 00:12:00 Ben's Journey to Family IT 00:18:00 Parenting Challenges in the Digital Age 00:24:00 Proactive Parenting Strategies 00:30:00 The Role of Education in Digital Safety 00:36:00 Managing Children's Online Presence 00:42:00 Balancing Control and Privacy 00:48:00 Community and Educational Resources 00:54:00 Final Thoughts and Takeaways For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/8dg5zBwZKhs To learn more and connect with Ben, head over to his LinkedIn page at https://www.linkedin.com/in/bgilly/ or connect with him on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/family_it_guy

Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we delve into the profound impact of trauma on identity, particularly for women as Jessica Ella shares her profound journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse. Jess discusses her unique approach to trauma recovery, emphasising the importance of understanding complex trauma and its impact on identity. She recounts her personal experiences of abuse, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the power of disclosure. The conversation highlights the flaws in the justice system and the necessity of support systems for survivors. Ultimately, Jessica's message is one of empowerment and hope, encouraging others to reclaim their power and heal from their past. Takeaways: Jessica Ella's journey into healing began from her own trauma. She developed a unique method to help others heal from trauma. Complex trauma can significantly affect one's identity and self-worth. The act of abuse is often less traumatic than the secrecy surrounding it. Disclosure is a powerful tool for survivors to reclaim their narrative. Family dynamics play a crucial role in the experience of abuse. Support systems are essential for healing and recovery. The justice system often fails to protect victims of familial abuse. Survivors can choose how to respond to their abusers. Healing is possible, and it requires a commitment to self-discovery. Healing is a continuous journey that requires daily commitment. Children often mirror the behaviors of their parents, triggering unresolved issues. Seeking justice can be a complex and emotional process. Empowerment comes from healing and helping others. Trauma can be understood as an open memory that needs closure. Creating safe spaces for children to express their feelings is crucial. Parents must address their own trauma to effectively support their children. It's important to communicate openly with children about difficult topics. Healing from trauma is possible and does not define a person's future. Resources and education are vital for both parents and children. Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Jessica Ella's Journey 03:09 - Healing Through Trauma: Jessica's Methodology 07:08 - Understanding Complex Trauma and Identity 10:24 - Jessica's Personal Story of Abuse 13:59 - The Impact of Abuse on Mental Health 17:38 - The Power of Healing and Self-Discovery 22:08 - The Dynamics of Power in Abuse 24:23 - The Role of Family in Trauma 27:46 - Recognising Red Flags in Abusive Relationships 29:51 - The Challenges of Family Court and Child Support 31:07 - Trust Issues with the Justice System 32:12 - The Complexity of Child Disclosure 34:08 - Factors Influencing Child Recantation 35:51 - The Confusion of Love and Abuse 37:21 - The Child's Need for Parental Love 40:08 - The Impact of Parental Abuse on Self-Love 42:15 - The Betrayal of Trust in Family Dynamics 44:06 - Navigating the Justice System 47:37 - Finding Empowerment Beyond Trauma 51:53 - Understanding Trauma and Healing Methods 55:54 - Understanding Trauma and Memory Processing 01:00:59 - Navigating Difficult Conversations with Children 01:05:19 - Healing from Complex Trauma 01:09:34 - Supporting Children After Trauma Disclosure 01:12:19 - Resources for Parents and Caregivers 01:16:07 - Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/zl2VFsIw8qA To learn more and connect with Jess please head to her Instagram @iamjessicaella and you can grab a copy of the book "Secret or Surprise" at https://www.secretorsurprise.com.au

Summary In this special episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi McVee and Cheyenne Carter discuss the critical issues surrounding child safety in early childhood education. They explore Chey's journey in the field, the impact of COVID on childcare quality, and the importance of transparency and communication between parents and childcare providers. The conversation delves into the dynamics of grooming and abuse, the psychological aspects of offenders, and the need for better training and support for educators. Parents are encouraged to be vigilant and proactive in ensuring their children's safety, while also understanding the systemic challenges faced by educators. The episode concludes with actionable steps for parents to take in assessing childcare environments and reporting concerns. Takeaways Child safety must be prioritised in childcare settings. COVID has exacerbated challenges in early childhood education. Grooming behaviours are often subtle and manipulative. Parents should be proactive in asking questions about childcare. Transparency from childcare providers is crucial for trust. Staff ratios and breaks are essential for child safety. CCTV can assist but is not a comprehensive solution. Legislative gaps exist in childcare safety regulations. Understanding offender psychology can help in prevention. Parents should feel empowered to report concerns. Chapters 00:00 - Introduction to Child Safety Concerns 02:28 - Chey's Journey in Early Childhood Education 04:25 - Consulting for Better Standards in Education 06:18 - The Importance of Child Safety in Education 07:39 - Kristi's Background in Child Protection 11:19 - Understanding Grooming Behaviours 12:02 - Identifying Patterns Among Offenders 12:28 - The Role of Grooming in Abuse 14:31 - Creating Safe Relationships in Childcare 19:15 - Staffing Ratios and Child Safety 22:01 - The Role of CCTV in Child Safety 23:35 - Legislation and Child Safety Measures 26:23 - Working with Children's Checks and Their Limitations 29:14 - The Psychology of Offenders and Child Safety 31:28 - The Impact of Early Exposure to Inappropriate Content 34:55 - Understanding Different Types of Offenders 36:24 - Ensuring Child Safety in Educational Settings 38:51 - Parental Vigilance and Transparency in Childcare 41:47 - Navigating Compliance and Regulatory Standards 45:15 - The Importance of Consistency in Regulatory Practices 49:37 - Empowering Parents and Educators to Report Concerns 52:40 - Advocating for Better Support for Educators 01:00:19 - Episode Close & Follow-Up Information For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at To learn more and connect with Chey please head to https://www.divergented.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/cheyannecarter/?originalSubdomain=au

Episode Summary: In this heartfelt conversation, Kristi McVee and Jeanie Dean discuss Jeanie's journey from being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse to becoming an advocate for child safeguarding. They explore the challenges of coping with trauma, the impact of addiction, and the importance of supportive relationships. Jeanie shares her experiences working with sex offenders and in child protection, emphasising the need to see the person behind the behaviour. The conversation also touches on parenting through trauma and the struggle to break cycles of abuse, ultimately highlighting the journey of self-discovery and healing. In this conversation, Jeanie and Kristi delve into the complexities of child protection, discussing systemic failures, personal trauma, and the importance of creating safe environments for children. They emphasise the role of organisations and parents in safeguarding children, the need for open communication, and the community's responsibility in ensuring child safety. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by professionals in the field and the necessity for proactive measures to protect vulnerable individuals. Key Takeaways: Jeanie is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and family violence. Coping mechanisms often lead to unhealthy behaviours, such as drug use. Arrest can serve as a turning point for change and self-reflection. Supportive relationships can be life-saving and transformative. Parenting through trauma requires awareness and intentionality to break cycles. Understanding child safeguarding is crucial for protecting vulnerable individuals. Working with sex offenders requires separating the person from their behaviour. Therapy and self-discovery are essential for healing from trauma. Labels like 'victim' can be triggering and limiting for survivors. Personal growth involves accepting oneself without needing a title. Systemic failures in child protection lead to repeated trauma. Personal experiences shape professional choices in child welfare. Creating child safe environments is essential for community organisations. Organisations must understand their legal duties regarding child safety. Parents should actively inquire about child safety policies in organisations. Older children face unique risks that require vigilant supervision. Open communication is crucial for safeguarding children. Community responsibility is vital in creating safe environments for kids. Education and awareness are key for parents in safeguarding their children. Child safety policies must be actively lived and enforced within organisations. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction and Personal Challenges05:28 - Coping Mechanisms and Consequences09:17 - Turning Point: Arrest and Realisations12:33 - Building a Life Together17:30 - Breaking Cycles: Parenting and Self-Reflection21:50 - Navigating Parenting Challenges26:18 - Career Path: From Personal Struggles to Professional Advocacy30:23 - The Complexity of Working with Offenders34:01 - Navigating Personal Bias in Professional Roles38:05 - The Challenges of Child Protection43:17 - The Systemic Failures in Child Safety48:10 - Creating Safe Environments for Children56:51 - Trust and Disillusionment in Public Service57:51 - Bridging the Gap in Public Service58:42 - The Reality of Child Protection Work01:00:57 - Navigating the Justice System for Children01:02:29 - Expectations for Child Safety in Organisations01:04:26 - Empowering Parents for Child Safety01:06:21 - Understanding Risks for Older Children01:08:05 - Meeting Children Where They Are01:10:13 - Creating Safe Spaces for Disclosure01:12:21 - Safeguarding Starts at Home01:14:03 - Community Responsibility in Child Safety01:15:47 - Policies and Culture in Organisations01:17:34 - Observing Organisational Culture01:19:43 - Intergenerational Culture in Sports01:22:02 - Accountability in Child Safety01:23:57 - The Importance of Compliance01:26:31 - The Role of Safeguarding Solutions01:27:42 - Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/GGJWDiFTm9Y To learn more and connect with Jeanie please head to https://safeguardingsolutions.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/jeanie-dean-90a46483

Episode Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kerri Sloper shares her journey as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and her mission to empower children and parents through her children's books. Kerri discusses the healing power of music and writing, the importance of speaking out, and the role of parents in preventing abuse. She emphasises the need for open communication about good and bad touching and how her books serve as tools for healing and understanding. The conversation highlights the significance of breaking the cycle of abuse and fostering a safe environment for children. Key Takeaways: Kerri Sloper is a musician and author who writes children's books about her experiences with childhood sexual abuse. Her books aim to help both children and adult survivors relate to their experiences and find healing. Music and writing have been crucial coping strategies for Kerri throughout her healing journey. Kerri emphasises the importance of speaking out about abuse to help others heal. She believes that forgiveness is an internal journey that does not require forgiving the abuser. Kerri's books are designed to be relatable for children and to help them understand their feelings about abuse. Parents play a vital role in preventing abuse by trusting their instincts and believing their children. Teaching children about good touching and bad touching is essential for their safety. Kerri's mission is to break the cycle of abuse and empower future generations. The conversation highlights the importance of open communication between parents and children about sensitive topics. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Kerri Sloper and Her Journey03:06 - The Healing Power of Storytelling05:44 - Navigating the Impact of Childhood Trauma08:50 - Understanding the Complexity of Belief and Truth11:42 - The Role of Forgiveness in Healing14:57 - The Journey of Writing and Sharing Her Story17:41 - Breaking the Cycle of Abuse20:32 - The Importance of Internal Healing23:20 - The Process of Writing and Publishing Books24:24 - The Journey of Writing and Inspiration26:01 - Understanding the Target Audience for Children's Books28:48 - Exploring Themes of Healing and Resilience30:28 - The Importance of Forgiveness in Healing32:32 - Navigating the Complexities of Disclosure35:42 - The Role of Art in Healing38:15 - Spreading Awareness and Reducing Stigma40:17 - Empowering Parents to Protect Their Children For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/O12JXIWLDDw To purchase Kerri's books please head to https://www.amazon.com.au/s?i=books-single-index&rh=p_27%3AKerri%2B%2BJ%2BSloper&s=relevancerank&text=Kerri++J+Sloper&ref=dp_byline_sr_book_1 and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/kerri-sloper-a56420253

Episode Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi we catch up with Susan Dunlop, Susan discusses her journey through self-development, the challenges of family dynamics, and her understanding of avoidance in personal growth. She reflects on her childhood experiences and the conscious choices she has made to improve her relationships and emotional well-being. Key Takeaways: Self-development requires conscious practice and effort. Family dynamics can significantly impact personal growth. Avoidance can hinder emotional connections and relationships. Recognising patterns from childhood is crucial for healing. It's important to make conscious choices in relationships. Personal growth often involves confronting difficult emotions. Therapy can provide valuable insights into personal behaviour. Breaking free from past patterns is a liberating experience. Emotional well-being is a continuous journey. Connection with others is essential for personal development. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Child Development and Healing03:46 - Understanding Abuse and Its Impact on Development06:46 - The Connection Between Childhood Trauma and Adulthood09:38 - The Drama Triangle: Roles in Trauma Responses12:35 - Parenting and Communication: Breaking the Cycle17:40 - Conscious Choices: Moving Beyond the Drama Triangle23:04 - Emotional Healing: Feeling to Heal26:00 - Understanding the Drama Triangle28:16 - The Impact of Childhood Experiences30:53 - Empowering Future Generations33:30 - The Ripple Effect of Change36:07 - Finding Your Voice and Healing41:05 - Rediscovering Leadership Through Trauma42:34 - The Impact of Sibling Sexual Abuse44:49 - Starting Conversations on Abuse46:13 - Understanding the Complexity of Abuse48:09 - Navigating Historical Cases of Abuse51:34 - Being a Supportive Listener53:42 - The Importance of Trauma-Informed Leadership55:48 - Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/hWvGKx-e8vg To learn more and connect with Susan please head to https://susandunlop.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/susan-dunlop-641526142

Episode Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, I speak with Diane Tarantini, a body safety educator and author, about the critical importance of conversations surrounding child safety and trauma. We discuss Diane's personal journey as a survivor of childhood abuse, the significance of body safety education, and the alarming statistics regarding child sexual abuse. The conversation emphasises the need for open discussions about difficult topics, the impact of pornography on youth, and the role of therapy in healing. Diane shares valuable tips for parents on how to create safe spaces for their children to talk about their experiences and feelings, highlighting the importance of consistent communication and education in preventing abuse. Key Takeaways: Every conversation about child safety is vital. Survivors often hide their trauma until they can't anymore. Body safety education is crucial for children. Conversations about difficult topics should start early. Statistics show a high prevalence of child sexual abuse. Peer-to-peer abuse is a growing concern. Education on consent and safe touch is essential. The impact of pornography on youth is significant. Therapy can be a powerful tool for healing. Writing can help survivors process their experiences. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction and Connection Across Borders02:09 - Diane's Journey: From Survivor to Educator06:22 - The Importance of Open Conversations06:58 - Statistics and Disclosure of Childhood Trauma10:40 - Understanding Peer-to-Peer Abuse14:24 - The Role of Pornography in Child Abuse18:29 - The Impact of Unsupervised Internet Access22:55 - Consequences of Misguided Sexual Education27:20 - Navigating Parenting in a Complex World27:49 - Understanding Body Safety and Consent30:03 - The Dynamics of Grooming and Peer-to-Peer Abuse32:54 - The Impact of Family Dynamics on Abuse35:56 - The Role of Parents in Recognising Abuse38:54 - The Complexity of Emotional and Physical Abuse41:48 - The Journey to Therapy and Healing46:02 - The Role of Trauma in Parenting50:35 - Exploring EMDR Therapy for Trauma Recovery56:11 - Healing from Trauma: The Power of Memory Work59:36 - Understanding Complex Trauma and Its Effects01:02:03 - Empowering Children: Body Safety Education01:06:05 - Fostering Open Conversations with Kids01:12:17 - Navigating Difficult Topics: Communication Strategies01:15:33 - The Journey of Writing and Sharing Stories For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/MboNI4FsHAY To learn more and connect with Diane please head to https://dianetarantini.com/ and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/diane-tarantini-b883938a

Episode Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we catch up with Nikki Butler to discuss the importance of teaching protective behaviours to children and instilling a sense of hope for parents who may feel they have missed opportunities in their children's upbringing. She discusses the significance of recognising non-verbal cues and behaviours that indicate harm, and encourages parents to forgive themselves for past mistakes, highlighting that it is never too late to start making positive changes in their parenting approach. Key Takeaways: It's never too late to start teaching protective behaviours. Parents should forgive themselves for past parenting mistakes. Recognising nonverbal cues is crucial in understanding children. There are ways to work with young people effectively. Hope is an essential element in parenting. Teaching kids about safety is a continuous journey. Understanding a child's language of harm is important. Parents can always improve their skills and knowledge. It's vital to address missed opportunities in parenting. Support and resources are available for parents. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Child Protection and Safety02:40 - Nikki Butler's Journey in Child Safety07:39 - Working with Young Mothers and Their Challenges11:08 - Navigating Teenage Years: Parenting Challenges16:45 - Understanding Teen Development and Identity30:56 - Building Communication and Connection with Teens37:21 - The Importance of Communication in Parenting39:36 - Understanding Teen Emotions and Self-Expression45:36 - Navigating Risky Behaviours in Adolescents50:16 - Recognising Changes in Teen Behaviour57:33 - Building Connections with Teen Friends01:01:34 -The Power of Vulnerability and Sharing Experiences01:08:37 - Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/6FiPVbiu4sI To learn more and connect with Nikki please head to www.nikkibutler.com.au and follow her on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/nikki-butler-577132149/

Episode Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we catch up with Colleen Murphy to discuss the importance of teaching children to trust their bodies and recognise their own signals, especially in environments where they may feel uncertain. Colleen discusses the role of adults in fostering this trust and provides practical strategies for empowering children to navigate their feelings and experiences. Key Takeaways: Trusting your body is essential for children. Children can rely on their bodies even in uncertain environments. Body signals are truthful indicators of feelings. Empowerment comes from understanding one's own body. Adults play a crucial role in teaching body trust. Resilience is built through body awareness. Practical strategies can help children trust their bodies. Encouraging open conversations about feelings is vital. Children need guidance to navigate their experiences. Creating a supportive environment fosters body trust. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Colleen Murphy and Her Journey07:53 - From Hairdresser to Victim Advocate12:54 - The My Body Tells the Truth Program16:54 - Understanding Disclosures from Children21:15 - The Impact of First Responders on Abuse Awareness23:35 - The Cycle of Abuse and Its Long-Term Effects28:50 - Supporting Families of Abuse Survivors33:23 - Empowering Children Through Education34:58 - Understanding Consent and Coercion37:35 - Empowering Children to Speak Up41:21 - Questioning Authority and Building Confidence44:17 - The Importance of Parental Guidance47:39 - Navigating Sleepovers and Safety51:16 - The Role of Community in Parenting54:10 - Empowering Children Through Education57:53 - Validation and Communication in Parenting01:03:57 - Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/fZJUcbJkXjg To learn more about Colleen and her mission, head to her LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/colleen-murphy-17416a182/

Episode Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Andy and Kristi delve into the emotional dynamics of parenting, particularly focusing on how parents react to situations involving their children, emphasising the importance of remaining calm and understanding the underlying fears that often drive parental anger. They discuss strategies for effective communication and the need for support in navigating challenging conversations with children. Key Takeaways: There are people who are there to help you. Remain calm, don't freak out in tough situations. Most anger stems from fear for children's safety. Disappointment can arise from unmet expectations. Conversations about difficult topics can be challenging. Instant reactions often lead to exaggerated responses. Understanding emotional triggers is key to effective communication. Parents should strive for calmness in crises. Fear can drive parental anger and reactions. Support systems are crucial for parents. Episode Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Online Harms and Child Safety04:21 Understanding Online Harms and Their Complexity07:03 The Role of Algorithms in Child Safety09:24 The Debate on Social Media Regulations12:04 Challenges in Enforcing Age Restrictions14:51 The Need for Comprehensive Education on Online Safety17:22 Navigating the Legal Landscape of Online Content20:03 The Nuances of CSAM and CSEM Terminology23:09 Navigating Consent in Adult Content25:11 The Challenges of Law Enforcement and AI27:38 The Role of Education in Online Safety32:42 Understanding Sextortion and Grooming37:58 The Importance of Open Communication39:39 Addressing Broader Online Risks41:41 The Responsibility of Social Media Platforms44:31 Navigating Online Safety and Parental Responsibility47:34 The Role of Education in Digital Safety48:41 Resources for Parents and Guardians51:52 Understanding Misinformation and Influences54:59 The Landscape of Trust and Safety in Technology01:05:07 Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/3hcCp_Nq2Ug To access the Global Child Safety List that Andy speaks about in his interview, please go to - Global List - Online Child Safety.xlsx - Google Sheets or follow Andy on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-briercliffe-760621191/

Episode Summary: This episode of Conversations with Kristi delves into the sensitive topic of child-on-child sexual abuse, highlighting the experiences of individuals involved in the ABAR project. It emphasises the misconceptions surrounding children's behaviour in such situations and the importance of recognising the seriousness of these incidents rather than dismissing them as mere experimentation or curiosity. Key Takeaways: The ABAR project focuses on child-on-child sexual abuse. Personal experiences can shape memories and perceptions of abuse. Misconceptions about children's behaviour can be harmful. Child-on-child sexual abuse is often underreported and misunderstood. It's crucial to recognise the seriousness of such incidents. Psychological support is vital for survivors of abuse. Awareness and education are key in addressing these issues. Children's experiences should not be trivialised or dismissed. The impact of abuse can vary based on frequency and context. Conversations about child abuse need to be more open and honest. Episode Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Child Abuse Prevention03:27 Lauren's Journey as a Survivor05:52 The Importance of Trauma-Informed Care07:17 Navigating the Disclosure Process10:53 The Impact of Dismissive Language12:39 Understanding Child-on-Child Abuse17:32 The Complexity of Child-on-Child Abuse24:14 The Need for Better Terminology26:20 The Role of Education in Prevention30:05 Understanding Victim Behaviour and Support33:03 Finding Purpose Through Helping Others35:47 Parental Guidance on Child Safety41:07 Improving Police Response to Victims47:33 The Need for Support Services in Reporting Abuse49:34 Balancing Healing and Advocacy51:57 Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/2HLoUZvSunE

Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Danielle Cheeseman shares her profound fears and anxieties about motherhood, particularly her concerns about raising daughters. She reflects on her own experiences and the challenges she anticipates in preventing her children from facing similar struggles. Key Takeaways: Danielle felt terrified about becoming a mother. She worried about her children experiencing her past traumas. Her fears were heightened by the thought of raising a daughter. She believed that the risks of trauma were still present regardless of gender. Danielle's reflections highlight the emotional challenges of parenting. The conversation emphasises the importance of resilience in motherhood. Personal experiences shape our fears as parents. Danielle's insights reveal the complexities of family dynamics. She expresses a desire to protect her children from pain. The discussion underscores the need for open conversations about mental health. Episode Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Child Abuse Prevention03:57 Parenting Fears and Protective Measures05:21 The Impact of Recent Events07:05 The Complexity of Trust and Abuse09:02 Navigating Relationships with Abusers11:13 The Role of Family in Disclosure12:33 The Challenge of Believability15:19 Healing Through Discovery16:46 Support Systems After Disclosure18:02 The Importance of Therapy19:53 Preparing for Parenthood22:29 Teaching Children About Body Safety25:33 Navigating Childhood Trauma and Protective Instincts27:22 Recognising Red Flags and Setting Boundaries30:47 The Importance of Trusting Your Instincts32:19 Educating Parents on Child Safety36:07 The Dangers of Sharing Children's Images Online38:38 Implementing Changes for Family Safety41:19 Empowering Children Through Autonomy43:52 The Importance of Open Conversations About Abuse49:39 Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/ncx4a4odqpg To learn more about Danielle you can find her details on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-cheeseman-15b3b89a/

Summary: In this episode of "Conversations with Kristi", Anna Sonoda discusses the grooming process that can occur with children and emphasises the critical role that adults play in recognising and interrupting this harmful behaviour. She highlights the importance of legal consequences and the need for adults to be vigilant in protecting children from potential harm. Key Takeaways: Every adult can interrupt the grooming process. Grooming often starts off appearing sweet. Grooming involves pulling children away from normal activities. Adults must be vigilant in recognizing grooming behaviors. Legal consequences are necessary for protecting children. Extended family may not always act in the child's best interest. Creating space between a child and their support system is a red flag. Opportunities to break rules can be a grooming tactic. Awareness of grooming is crucial for all adults. We must be the cornerstone of support for children. Podcast Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Conversations with Kristi 03:26 Anna Sonoda's Journey into Social Work 07:20 Understanding Grooming and Its Impact 10:16 The Four Steps of Grooming 15:51 Recognising Patterns in Grooming Behaviour 21:12 The Importance of Access and Space 26:06 Establishing Family Protocols for Safety 29:34 Understanding the Prevalence of Child Abuse 30:40 The Importance of Open Conversations 33:57 Empowering Parents and Caregivers 37:09 Recognising Grooming Behaviours 40:24 Building Trust and Open Communication 45:09 Addressing Child Sexual Abuse as a Public Health Issue 48:39 Resources for Survivors and Prevention Strategies 51:13 Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/qBVVrNlK804

CONTENT WARNING - discussion about offender behaviours and methodology In this episode, Kristi interviews phD candidate, criminologist and psychologist Kelly Jackson. Kelly and Kristi discuss the research around offender behaviours and methodologies used in the commission of child sexual abuse and the many ways offenders groom children. This interesting conversation explains in detail the grooming process, the types of behaviours offenders use in order to find victims, the research that proves that stops offenders from abusing kids and how parents can actually protect their children from abuse. This is a must listen episode for anyone who loves to dive deep into the psychology of offenders. Connect with Kelly via her LinkedIn here: linkedin.com/in/kelly-jackson-b49a57150 If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

CONTENT WARNING - language warning, discussing grooming, child sexual abuse, long term abuse and sexual assault In this episode, Kristi talks with Mel James, lived experience child sexual abuse survivor and advocate for First Nations women enduring systems abuse. Mel talks about her personal experience with grooming and child sexual abuse, by a person in authority, who used their position of power in the community to get close to her and her family to abuse her. Mel's abuse lasted more than 10 years and was witnessed by other adults who could have protected her. This is an in-depth conversation about the complex nature of grooming and abuse, and how it can leave lifelong impacts for children along with raising concerns about the conduct and beliefs of supposed 'safe' adults and their lack of action and advocacy for children when it's their job to do so. To follow or connect with Mel James on TikTok www.tiktok.com/uniqueteam2024 or LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/mel-j-67b5a520a If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

CONTENT WARNING - language warning, discussions around child sexual abuse, domestic violence of First Nations peoples In this episode, Kristi talks with proud Palawa woman Rachel Dunn, about the impacts of domestic violence and child sexual abuse on First Nations families and the difficulties in calling-out these tragedies in culture and family. Rachel shares her story and her experience in calling out abuse within her family unit, as well as trying to advocate and protect other First Nations children and women, against the prejudice and beliefs that perpetuate and prolong harm and trauma within community. Connect with Rachel via her LinkedIn here: www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-dunn-7a6060229 If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 13Yarn - 13 92 76. or www.13yarn.org.au Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

CONTENT WARNING - language warning, discussions about domestic violence and trauma In this episode, Kristi speaks with Kate Fylan who has over 20 years experience with a Diploma in Social Worker, a qualified Counsellor and Play Therapist, primarily working within in the domestic violence, childhood sexual abuse and harmful sexualised behaviours spaces and portfolios. Kate offers an interesting viewpoint around gendered based parenting, coercive control, domestic violence, how to have conversations with your kids around these topics and repair your relationships with your children when we make mistakes. This is a great conversation for parents of children of any age about the importance of being real with them and how to have conversations with your kids around important social topics. You can follow or connect with Kate via LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/kate-fylan-41829aa2 or www.katefylan.com.au If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

CONTENT WARNING - Talk of child sexual abuse, intra-familial abuse, control and manipulationIn this episode, Kristi speaks with Deb Aldrick, Author, Survivor Advocate and Lived Experience Speaker about intra-familial abuse or child sexual abuse within the family group. Deb wrote the book, 'Circling the Wagons' about the different ways in which families hide and protect abusers with control and manipulation and how it effects survivors. This episode breaks down the effect and impacts of child sexual abuse and why the lack of protection and belief within our families often creates greater trauma than the abuse itself. Deb's book - Circling the Wagons by Deborah Aldrick is available via Amazon and Barnes & Noble or via Deb's website: www.dragonflyadvocacy.com.au or via LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/deborah-aldrick-188b4530b If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

In this episode, Kristi talks with psychologist, counsellor and social worker Franchesca Isla, principal of Evergreen Therapeutic Services talking about trauma and it's impact on domestic violence both from the side of victims and perpetrators of violence. Franchesca talks about her experiences working with men seeking help for their behaviours and how trauma shows up in our behaviours and how it effects our beliefs and it can prevent us in seeking help. This episode highlights the need to seek help when our behaviours cause harm to ourselves and others and how we can do that. To connect and learn more about Franchescha's work with Evergreen Therapeutic Services, find her on LinkedIn here: linkedin.com/in/franchescaisla If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

Content Warning - talk around child sexual abuse In this episode, Kristi talks about child sexual abuse and child safety with survivor, child safety advocate and parent, John Cardamone. John shares his own survivor story of child sexual abuse at 6 years old where his perpetrator threatened him and his family to keep it a secret. John's story highlights the importance of body safety education, believing kids and being an approachable parent. This podcast episode underlines the 3 important steps of protecting kids and how EVERY parent can keep their kids safe. Connect and learn more about John via his LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/ If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

Content Warning - discussions about domestic and family violence, suicide and self-harm In this episode, Kristi talks with Shannon Miller, a disability and family violence practice leader from the Centre Against Violence, gender-based violence advocate and father about the lack of visibility for children and young people in the conversations around domestic and family violence and gendered based violence. During this episode, Kristi and Shannon discuss the lack of consideration of the impacts of family violence on children and young people, the lack of support of children as their own victim in family violence as well as how to talk to our kids about these topics and issues. This is a great conversation for ALL families whether family violence has impacted you or NOT. For more information about Shannon, check out his LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannon-miller1984/ Check out the Centre Against Violence here: https://centreagainstviolence.org.au If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

In this episode, Kristi speaks with veteran Protective Behaviours educator Holly-ann Martin about teaching body safety education to children living with a disability or where english isn't their first language. Holly-ann shares a wealth of knowledge on how to simplify the body safety messages to ensure our most vulnerable children understand their body safety rights and education. This is a fantastic podcast episode in which even Kristi learnt some valuable and life saving lessons. Be sure to share this episode with your friends and family so that we can all ensure our children, especially those children living with a disability are protected from abuse. For more information or to find Holly-ann's resources, go to her website at www.safe4kids.com.au If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA - Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

CONTENT WARNING - Talk about sexual abuse, child sexual abuse and the death of a perpetrator. In this episode, Kristi talks with author, youth activist, sexual abuse survivor, sexual assault group facilitator and coach, Renee Simpson. Renee is the author of the book 'I want to go home' - a book which explores and shares about her trip across the world on a sailing boat, where she sailed through storms, nearly starved from a lack of food and her journey recovering from child sexual abuse and rape. Renee now facilitates sexual assault support groups through The Survivor Hub and trauma informed coaching for sexual abuse survivors where she encourages survivors to write their own stories and heal their own lives via her 'Shake the Walls' writing course. This is a very interesting conversation about recovering from sexual abuse, exploring trauma and the ways we process trauma and recovery. You can find Renee via her social media @reneemariesimpson or her website here: https://www.reneemariesimpson.com If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA - Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

In this episode, Kristi talks about sleepovers and school camps from her experience as a detective and police officer, as well as a parent. There is a lot of pressure on parents from many sources about sleepovers, so it is important that we take the time to consider all risk factors of where your child may be sleeping overnight. Kristi breaks down her latest blogs and goes through some of the risk factors, sharing stories that have made her reconsider her stance on both school camps and sleepovers. Check out both blogs via www.cape-au.com/blog If you want help in talking about body safety with your kids, grab a copy of the Conversation with Kids 'Body Safety' cards via www.cape-au.com/conversations-with-kids Want to deep dive into child sexual abuse prevention, grab a copy of Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention from Amazon via www.cape-au.com/book

In this episode, Kristi speaks with We are Womxn co-founder, post-graduate Sexology student and 2024 Young Australian of the Year nominee, Kate Raston. Kate talks about her experiences as a consent and healthy relationships educator, working with young people in schools where she helps facilitates safe and open conversations around sex and consent. This conversation is a ripper for parents of school aged kids in which Kate shares many tools for parents about talking with kids of any ages about consent, healthy relationships and sexual education. Follow We are Womxn via social media especially Instagram or check out their website at www.wearewomxn.com.au. Other resources mentioned is the 'Talk soon, Talk often' book by WA Department of Health. Get your FREE PDF here: https://www.healthywa.wa.gov.au/articles/s_t/talk-soon-talk-often

Content Warning - Child Sexual Abuse, Substance Abuse, Suicide and Self-Harm - If any part of this episode causes distress, please see the resources below for support services and help. In this episode, Kristi talks with child sexual abuse survivor and advocate Glen Fisher, author of the book Predators Paradise. Glen shares his story of resilience through a childhood of child sexual abuse and neglect from so many predators, which left Glen to a road of self harm, violence and substance abuse. Glen's turning point was when his own children were born. It was in becoming a parent himself that he realised he needed to heal and make changes so he could be the best father to his kids. Glen shares his journey from broken little boy to fierce fighter, advocate and father and the steps he has taken to reclaim his life, recover from addiction and bring some of his abusers to justice. This episode is for all the survivors out there, especially men struggling with demons that haunt them, needing to know that 'YOU ARE NOT ALONE'. Please check out Glen's Tiktok at: www.tiktok.com/tiger664life66 Glen's FB group Predators Paradise here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/498114067677692/?ref=share&mibextid=K35XfP&rdid=rGKVHZOKQ5ZpMLz3&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F6KGFHDBqDatS4bmA%2F%3Fmibextid%3DK35XfP%26wtsid%3Drdr_040VmOAWpiUByCJSR%26_rdr Glen's book can be purchased via Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Predators-Paradise-Journey-Survival-Resilience-ebook/dp/B07S45XYNT If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

Episode 7 - Is it safe to share photos of your kids online? In this episode, Kristi answers a parents question and does a deep dive into her knowledge, thoughts and experience around the topic of sharing photos of our kids on our social media and online. Kristi goes through 3 considerations for deciding whether to post that photo of your kids or not and 7 tips on posting photos of your kids safely based on her recent blog post. If you have a question you want answered, you can always email Kristi via admin@cape-au.com or check out the FREE resources on the website at www.cape-au.com.

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about sextortion, cyberbullying and suicide. In this episode, Kristi speaks with Carol Todd, founder of the Amanda Todd Legacy not-for-profit organisation based in British Columbia, Canada. Amanda was 15 years old when she took her own life by suicide due to being sexually exploited and cyber-bullied online which led to physical abuse and alienation by her peers. 5 weeks before her death, Amanda shared her story on YouTube. Since 2012, the video has been viewed over 50 million times and is used in educating children on the dangers of sextortion and cyberbullying. You can learn more about the Amanda Todd Legacy or watch Amanda's last video via the www.amandatoddlegacy.org. For more information on Sextortion and how to help your child check out the Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation (ACCCE) at https://www.accce.gov.au/sextortionhelp If you want any further resources on helping you keep your kids safe online, check out my FREE resources on www.cape-au.com. If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA - Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about child sexual abuse, mental health and suicide. Please listen with caution. In this episode, Kristi talks with former prison guard, domestic violence and child sexual abuse survivor Mel Watson. Mel talks about surviving childhood domestic violence, incidents of child sexual abuse by multiple perpetrators, conquering depression and suicidal ideation as an 18 year old and her experience working in the NSW prison system dealing with child sex offenders and inmates. Mel opens up about how dangerous grooming is by both predators and prisoners, the court systems and all the things she wished her parents had done when she was a child. Follow Mel via Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/melwatsonofficial/ Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention can help parents identify the signs of grooming and child sexual abuse as well as teaching prevention strategies and lessons. Check out the website to purchase. If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA - Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

In this episode, Kristi speaks with mum Remi Fletcher about exposing her 4yo son's childcare abuser after he sexually abused him at daycare. Remi shares how protective behaviours led to her son disclosing the abuse, the actions she took after her son's disclosure and how she captured his evidence which eventually led to his abusers conviction and imprisonment. This is a really good podcast for parents of young children wanting to know how we can protect kids from abuse and minimise harm. For resources mentioned in the podcast, check out Safe4Kids via www.safe4kids.com.au or my book Operation KidSafe via www.cape-au.com/book. To support the petition Remi mentioned during the podcast, please go to https://www.change.org/DoBetterAustralia2024 before the end of May 2024. Every signature counts. Please also consider leaving a review or sharing this podcast with your friends and family to help create further awareness. K x

In this episode, Kristi talks with online safety educator and founder of 'Not My Kid', Jen Hoey. Jen shares the story of her 11yo daughter being groomed online by a predator despite her hypervigilence and the impact that experience had on her daughter and family. Jen turned her families tragedy into helping and supporting other families through her online facebook group and extremely helpful content online. Check out Jen's website at www.notmykid.com.au or via her social media on Facebook @notmykid and Instagram at @notmykid_ever. If you are also looking for help with managing your child's online usage, check out our website at www.cape-au.com where we have FREE guides, a device controls webinar or a jam packed self-paced online course so you can know EVERYTHING Kristi knows. Please also don't forget to subscribe and leave a review if you love this episode!

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Alison D'Vine, founder and CEO of SagencyWA, a men's behaviour change and family therapy clinic in Perth WA. Alison and Kristi discuss the challenges that couples face when dealing with domestic violence and explore the many reasons for domestic violence including unpacking the 'man box' and societal ideas and pressures on men and families that contribute to the domestic violence cycle. For more information about the Sagency's 22 week program, please check out their website at www.sagencywa.com.au If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA - Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

Welcome back to Season 2 of The CAPE podcast - a child abuse prevention and education podcast. CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about Gloria's experience as a survivor of child sex trafficking and abuse. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode, Kristi speaks with Gloria Masters, founder and CEO of Handing The Shame Back, a podcast and Youtube channel with resources, survivor interviews and information for Child Sexual Abuse survivors. Gloria shares her personal story of surviving child sex trafficking as a child transforming it into her personal mission of raising awareness and helping survivors heal from their abuse. Check out Handing the Shame Back's website at www.handingtheshameback.org or via their social media on Instagram and Youtube with the same name. If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA - Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.

Episode 21 The impacts of pornography on our children In this episode, Kristi speaks with ex-WA Police Officer of over 20 years, Kayelene Kerr where she talks about the impacts of pornography on our children and what we as parents should be talking about with our kids. This is a MUST listen podcast for parents of girls and boys with young children and teens especially those parents with children from 8 onwards. Kayelene and Kristi leave the podcast with ways to talk with your kids about pornography from little people all the way up to teens and how to help our kids identify why pornography is not a safe 'sexual education' tool. Check out Kayelene's website at www.esafekids.com.au or via esafekids on Instagram and Facebook.

Episode 20 Navigating social media as parents with Maddie Graham In this episode Kristi speaks with Maddie Graham, co-founder of Changing the Conversation where they talk about Maddie's unique experiences with social media, stalkers, oversharing information and the effects of social media on young people. Maddie is a third-year psychology student at the University of Wollongong and also runs Changing the Conversation. Her heart is deeply invested in community development, encompassing school workshops, community engagement, and teaching social and emotional skills. Her mission is to create spaces where authentic conversations flourish, utilising her expertise in human behaviour and social dynamics to make positive impact. Maddie and Kristi dive into the risks with 'sharenting' and the need for more social media education and awareness. Check out Changing the Conversation via instagram www.instagram.com/changingtheconversationn/

Episode 19 Divorce and separation support with Becca Maxwell In this episode, Kristi speaks with Becca Maxwell from Do Divorce Right about the struggles and challenges of separation and divorce when dealing with children and keeping them safe. Becca is a divorce coach who coaches women through navigating the choice to separate or in the process of separation and divorce and the conversations and choices that are necessary through the process. Kristi & Becca discuss the many aspects of separation from what to consider and managing children in two homes. Becca can be found at www.dodivorceright.com or via her Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/dodivorceright. For further details about Kristi and her work go to www.cape-au.com

Episode 18 Cyberbullying solutions and prevention with Maggie Ciobanu from YooChooz In this episode, Kristi speaks with mother Maggie Ciobanu who turned her own daughters cyberbullying into an app to help prevent kids from sending abusive message and make better choices before they engage in cyberbullying. Maggie explains her own daughters and families experiences that led her to try and help other kids from becoming a statistic and victim of abuse online through the app YooChooz. Check out the Yoochooz app via the Apple store or via their website www.yoochooz.com.au You can also follow Maggie and YooChooz via instagram at www.instagram.com/yoochooz/ For any further enquiries about this podcast episode, contact via our website at www.cape-au.com. Also check out our Device Safety 101 self-paced online course for more in-depth advice and help around keeping kids safe at www.cape-au.com/device-safety-101/

Episode 17 Educate to Empower our children with Jayneen Sanders In this episode, Kristi speaks with Jayneen Sanders aka Jay Dale, an author of over 100 stories and educational books for kids aged from 3 and up, covering topics such as body safety, consent, inclusion, feelings, respectful relationships and other important conversations for our children in the prevention of child sexual abuse and healthy childhoods. Jay is an active advocate who has spent her life ensuring parents and educators have the resources available to help keep kids safe and in this episode she discusses the power of education in empowering children and how simple body safety, consent and respectful relationships education can make a huge difference. You can follow and purchase Jay's books here: www.e2epublishing.info www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor/www.instagram.com/educate2empower/ For any further information or to speak with Kristi, you can reach out via the CAPE-AU website - www.cape-au.com