Podcast appearances and mentions of marilee adams

Today, Melissa Kay and Dr. Sabrina dive into what it means to "lead with love" in their organization. Melissa shares her appreciation for Dr. Sabrina's supportive way of leading, which focuses on mentoring and creating a healthy work environment. They chat about how important one-on-one meetings are, encouraging vulnerability, and building a culture where everyone feels safe and supported. They also touch on personal growth, tackling perfectionism, and how having a coaching culture positively affects team members and their families. Dr. Sabrina shares how her unique leadership approach led to a 25-hour work week, stellar team retention, and a work-life balance that benefits EVERYONE.Tune in to hear how you can bring these practices into your own organization!Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential Production.Show Highlights:Leading with love is more than just a catchy phrase; learn how Dr. Sabrina puts this core value into practice every day.The most pivotal actions for Dr. Sabrina in learning about “the judger pit” (from Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams) and learning to be curious (from The Coach Approach by Mark Stephens)Melissa's journey—how things have changed for herThe magic happens in 1:1 meetings with A-players!The secret to leading with love comes with insights:Relationships are more valuable than any task that needs to be done.LOVE really means “Letting Others Voluntarily Evolve.”The impact of a coaching culture with a business owner who “leads with love”Want this kind of culture at your business? Book a call with us today to find out more!Resources:Don't wait! Download your Strategic Planning Guide and 2025 Tap the Potential Strategic Planner today!Want to know the best attracting and recruiting strategies for small businesses? We can help! Learn more about our How to Hire the Best course.Retain, grow, and deeply engage your A-players with the Dream Manager Program! The best way to create buy-in from your team members for your vision is to identify how your vision supports them in achieving their dreams. Enroll today!Become an employer of choice to attract the A-players you want on your team! We are now enrolling for the How to Hire the Best course. Sign up today!Sign up for the free A-Player Development Plan/Mini-Course. Track your A-players' development and retain your A-players!Ready to take your life back from your business? Want more time for what matters most and more money in your bank account than ever? Book a call with us today! Get your copy of A Guide To Talking To Your Team About Profit!Master your time and profit! Give us 20 minutes of your time, take the Better Business Better...

Are you making decisions out of fear or love? Wouldn't a thriving mindset be better than merely surviving? In this episode, Dr. Sabrina Starling joins Melissa Kay, Lead Strategist at Tap the Potential, to discuss this topic. You'll learn how to identify and break free from survival mode, how to cultivate a supported work/life integration, and actual steps to help you thrive. Join us!Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential Production.Show Highlights:Facing challenges in survival mode, which triggers fear-based decisionsPay attention to the language you use.Focus on what you want to grow and create.Using The Choice Map (from Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams) to catch your fear-based thinkingDeep-breathing exercises and powerful questions as tools for creating space and loveDrawbacks of fear-based assumptionsJournaling constantly will help you notice wins with a heart of gratitude.“Stop borrowing anxiety from the future!”Protect your time best by caring for yourself first.Dr. Sabrina's tips for self-care as an entrepreneurLinks and Resources:Retain, grow, and deeply engage your A-players with the Dream Manager Program! The best way to create buy-in from your team members for your vision is to identify how your vision supports them in achieving their dreams. Enroll today!Become an employer of choice to attract the A-players you want on your team! We are now enrolling for the How to Hire the Best course. Sign up today!Sign up for the free A-Player Development Plan/Mini-Course. Track your A-players' development and retain your A-players!Ready to take your life back from your business? Want more time for what matters most and more money in your bank account than ever? Book a call with us today! Get your copy of A Guide To Talking To Your Team About Profit!Master your time and profit! Give us 20 minutes of your time, take the Better Business Better Life Assessment, and receive a free paperback copy of my book, The 4 Week Vacation®️.Learn more about our courses, Coach Approach and Leadership Bootcamp at www.tapthepotential.com. Join the Tap the Potential Community on Mighty Networks: www.tapthepotential.com/group Download Dr. Sabrina's Introductory Training: How to Make Your Time Worth $10,000 an HourMentioned in this episode:Have More Time For What Matters Most And More Money In Your Bank Account Than Ever! Go to tapthepotential.com and book a call to learn more!Have More Time For What Matters Most And More Money In Your Bank Account Than Ever! Go to tapthepotential.com and book a call to learn more!

As business owners and entrepreneurs, we have many questions running in a loop in our heads. Most of those are judger questions that limit our scope of achievement and keep us stuck. Dr. Sabrina welcomes April Stroink to the podcast, and April shares her incredible story of using one of Tap the Potential's most popular tools, the Choice Map, to turn her worst year in business into her best year. The key to changing her outcomes was changing the questions she asked herself. Join us for this powerful conversation with April!April Stroink is a money coach, financial advisor, and certified Profit First professional who specializes in helping people create and enjoy financial well-being in their business and personal lives. She's the creator of The Money Fix, a suite of programs to increase financial literacy for entrepreneurs. In her previous life, April managed multiple investment teams throughout Atlantic Canada for a national finance company. She is also the owner and operator of a successful Halifax retail operation. April is a “money coach,” a supportive guide who helps people understand and feel confident about finances and future goals. Known for her empathy and judgment-free coaching, she combines her expertise with her experience of running her family business, and she volunteers on several community boards as she splits her time between Halifax and Soley Cove, Nova Scotia. Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential Production.Show Highlights:From worst year to best year: April's experience with the Choice Map, getting unstuck, and changing her questions (The Choice Map is a tool from Dr. Marilee Adams' book, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life.)A look at typical judger questions that will keep you stuckThe journey to the judger pit often begins with the question, “What's wrong with me?”Making the shift from judger questions to a learner mindsetUsing mental health awareness (May is Mental Health Awareness Month!) and beneficial relationships to overcome the isolation of entrepreneurshipExamples of learner questions to shift your mindsetApril's experience with the Choice Map as the perfect tool for entrepreneurs around financial literacyThe judger pit and victim role vs. taking ownership and asking learner questionsLearner questions to ask around implementing Profit First in your businessSuccess stories of April's clients using the Profit First systemFight burnout! Improve the health of your business and the quality of your life by taking the Better Business Better Life Assessment today!Links and Resources:Connect with April Stroink: Get April's free profit assessment tool and book a free 30-minute consult on her Website; also find her on LinkedIn, Facebook, and InstagramBecome an employer of choice to attract the A-players you want on your team! We are now enrolling for the How to Hire the Best course. Sign up today!Sign up for the free A-Player Development...

Are you a judger or a learner in the questions you ask? As coaches, we should always be refining our skills with a methodology that we bring forward for our clients, and no one exemplifies that better than my guest today. Join us to learn the importance of the questions we ask and the mindset behind them!Marilee Adams, Ph.D., is an award-winning author and pioneer in the fields of inquiry-based coaching, leadership, and organizational effectiveness. She is also an executive coach, coach educator, keynote speaker, and the originator of the Question Thinking™ methodologies. She is the CEO/Founder of the Inquiry Institute, a consultant for organizations large and small, an affiliate instructor for Weatherhead Executive Education at Case-Western Reserve University, and served for ten years as an Adjunct Professor of Leadership at the School of Public Affairs at American University. Her bestselling book, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Results, is a mainstay for coaches everywhere. Dr. Adams and her team at the Inquiry Institute provide training for coaches, leaders, and teams in the Question Thinking™ methodology, working with many high-powered organizations and leaders across the world. Show Highlights:How Marilee uses the Choice Map as a multipurpose tool–get your free copy today by taking a short survey at www.inquiryinstitute.com The basics of Question Thinking™ Why Marilee feels a responsibility to educate and empower clients far beyond coachingAn exercise to understand the Question Thinking™ model of two mindsets, the judger and the learnerHow Marilee uses the tool in a session with a client to guide them with questions in a targeted wayAn example of the power of a question to shift perspective, possibility, and moodWhy we can't get stuck in the effort to ask “the perfect question”Why does asking, “What do I want this question to accomplish?” have a different impact and focus?Takeaways from Marilee in the form of impactful quotes from her book: “A question not asked is a door not opened. Every question missed is a potential opportunity lost. Every question missed is a potential crisis waiting to happen. Great results begin with great questions.” Resources:Connect with Dr. Marilee Adams and the Inquiry Institute: WebsiteGet your copy of the free Choice Map here.Get Dr. Adams' bestselling book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and ResultsNeed CCUs? Explore The Essence of Mastery Summit and receive $180 off by using “Meg” as your VIP code. Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com. Explore the STaR Coach Community and see what's available there for you!

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, Becca takes a deep dive into the fascinating world of mindset and truly transformative coaching with Dr. Marilee Adams. Dr. Adams is a seasoned author and professor in psychology and social work who has created a map that guides you through shifting mindsets (your own and those you lead).Here are the top three takeaways from this enlightening conversation:1. The Choice Map: Uncover the practical Choice Map tool, which empowers you to recognize and shift from a constraining "judger mindset" to an empowering "learner mindset." Enhance your self-awareness and gain the ability to make conscious choices in your conversations, ultimately promoting growth and effective leadership. Be empowered to help other shift their mindset as well!2. Authenticity Over Niceness: Explore the importance of authenticity in your interactions (over "killing them with kindness"). Gain a deeper understanding of how genuine compassion and support, rather than mere niceness, empower others and foster stronger relationships.3. Mindset Matters: Dr. Marilee Adams highlights the profound influence of mindset on personal growth and communication. Discover how embracing a "learner mindset," characterized by curiosity and openness, can be a game-changer in both your personal and professional life.Join Becca and Marilee for an in-depth exploration of practical strategies that you can readily implement to elevate your coaching practice and truly empower those you work with.Dr. Marilee's Info:Inquiry InstituteDownload the Choice Map HEREDr. Marilee Adams' BooksWant to use this podcast for free professional development? Check out our new Podcast Playlists.Podcast Sponsor:[FREE] Sibme Coaching PlatformLet's Stay Connected!Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

Hear Dr. Marilee Adams share powerful insights from her best-selling book Change Your Questions, Change Your Life. She explains how the questions we ask ourselves and others can either expand our mindsets and open us up to new possibilities or constrict our mindsets to limit our choices. Learn more about Dr. Marilee Adams at www.inquiryinstitute.com

Are you in the judger pit? Are you allowing fear-based reactions to shrink you and minimize your impact on your business? Here's the truth: failure, shame, and guilt are all messy and normal parts of the entrepreneurial journey. It feels risky and vulnerable to admit our failures, but we can't let them keep us from moving forward. Let's reframe how we think about our experience and journey as entrepreneurs so we don't give into the tendency to hide our messy parts. Join us to learn more in today's episode! Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential Production.   Show Highlights: A real-life example of a failed 4 week vacation®️, the gremlins that attack us, and the lessons we can learn from a failure Why EVERY attempt at a 4 week vacation®️ is a test that reveals the truth about our systems and team members The mindset framework of the Judger pit vs. a personal development journey How Dr. Marilee Adams' Choice Map Tool (from her book, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work) can help you discern the judger path vs. the learner path How we have seasons in our businesses, like my big season of learning from the COVID pandemic Why you need support and resources, and how we can help! Book a call with us today! Links and Resources: Connect with Take the Better Business, Better Life Assessment: www.tapthepotential.com/assessment   Join the Tap the Potential Community on Mighty Networks: www.tapthepotential.com/group    Let us help you and your business! Book a call with us today!  Let us help you manage your time, your most valuable resource! Get your FREE copy of the Tap the Potential Strategic Planner for 2023 at www.tapthepotential.com/planner. Download Dr. Sabrina's Introductory Training: How to Make Your Time Worth $10,000 an Hour

How long have you been in business? What's the longest time you've been able to be away, fully unplugged? When was the last time you took time off from your business, fully unplugged? If your answers to these questions make you cringe, let me help. I want to support you in taking your life back from your business. In today's episode, I'm sharing an interview from 2021 with a longstanding client. I hope this conversation will inspire you to take action and make plans for your business to run without you. Make the 4 Week Vacation®️ Pledge today as your stake in the ground to say, “I need this, I deserve it, and I'm ready for it!” Today's episode is a replay of Episode 166, an interview with one of Dr. Sabrina's very first coaching clients. In 1998, Chuck Parmely, and his wife, Cynthia, became the owners of the Overhead Door Company of Riverton-Lander in Wyoming, which began as a family business. Having never taken more than five days off in a row, Chuck bought into Dr. Sabrina's vision of taking his life back and implementing the 4 Week Vacation®️. Listen as Chuck describes how he has taken back his life from his business!   Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential Production Production.   Show Highlights: Dr. Sabrina shares Chuck's story from her (then) newly-released book, The 4 Week Vacation®️ How Chuck describes how far he's come since he started working with Tap the Potential How business owners often know we need to do things differently but don't always know exactly what it is we're supposed to be doing  Why the Choice Map™ is a helpful, powerful mindset tool with an immediate impact, teaching business owners how to get off the “judger path” and onto the “learner path” where they can explore, learn, and invite conversation from their team How Chuck reflects on humility and the changes he learned to implement Chuck's tips on how he got his business to where it didn't have to rely on him An overview from Chuck of the unique challenges his company has faced during 2021, and how the principles he learned through Tap the Potential helped to prepare him for it Why The 4 Week Vacation®️ really is about creating a business that is sustainable Links and Resources: Connect with Chuck: Email and Website       Book Mentioned: Change Your Questions Change Your Life by Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Connect with Take the Better Business, Better Life Assessment: www.tapthepotential.com/assessment   Join the Tap the Potential Community on Mighty Networks: www.tapthepotential.com    Let us help you and your business! Book a call with us today! Learn more about our Breakthroughs Retreat scheduled for March 2024! Let us help you manage your time, your most valuable resource! Get your FREE copy of the   Tap the Potential Strategic Planner for 2023 at www.tapthepotential.com/planner.    Download Dr. Sabrina's Introductory Training: How to Make Your Time Worth $10,000 an Hour  

Dr. Marilee Adams is an award-winning author of the book Change Your Questions, Change Your Life. She is also the founder and president of the Inquiry Institute. Marilee offers powerful and practical strategies to change your life by using the method of mindset and question thinking. She now shares her breakthrough coaching with other leaders, colleagues, and teams around the country. Her transformative training will have you asking all the right questions and yield greater results in both your personal life, as well as your professional one. As Marilee says, “Every question missed is a potential crisis waiting to happen.”

When we're looking for answers, why is changing your questions so important? Intentionally using questions helps us make wiser choices, find solutions, and transform our personal and professional lives. In this episode, Dr. Marilee Adams gives you powerful tools of Question Thinking, and how to apply the same information and practical skills in our own lives. Tune in to change your questions and mindsets for the most rewarding outcomes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Of all the mindset tips and tricks, there is one aspect that is often overlooked: the questions we ask ourselves. Questions have the potential to shift conversations, open new ideas, and broaden understanding. The thoughts we have are in response to the questions we ask ourselves, often without conscious thought. Managers can learn how to use these internal questions as a tool to transform difficult relationships, spark creativity, reduce stress, and much more. Today’s guest is Dr. Marilee Adams. Marilee is an award-winning author and pioneer in the fields of inquiry-based coaching, leadership and organizational culture. She is CEO/Founder of the Inquiry Institute, a solutions and performance-focused company providing consulting, coaching, training, keynotes and eLearning. She is the author of the best selling book Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching and Results. Marilee and I talk about the powerful questions we ask (without even realizing it) that shape our thoughts and actions. We get into what you can do to recognize these questions and start to change them, so you can truly transform your relationships and really, your life. Members of the Modern Manager community get a $10 Discount on The Choice Map Course. The Choice Map is your roadmap to creating a foundational awareness of your mindsets and questions. It will help you to live predominantly on the Learner mindset path, or ‘Learner Living’. Get it when you join the Modern Manager community or become a member of the Skills Accelerator. Subscribe to my newsletter to get episodes, articles and free mini-guides delivered to your inbox. Read the related blog article: How to Ask Yourself the Right Questions KEEP UP WITH MARILEE Website: https://inquiryinstitute.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/marileeadams Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/questionthinking Personal LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marileeadams Institute LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/inquiryinstitute/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/InquiryInst Key Takeaways:

"What we typically think of as thoughts are actually answers to the questions we ask ourselves.”  Dr. Marilee Adams is the author of "Change Your Questions, Change Your Life" and founder of the Inquiry Institute, which teaches participants how to create the futures they want using resources like the Choice Map. What stood out to you in this episode? Tag @thebetterquestions and share your thoughts! This podcast is sponsored by CreativeMoneyCoaching.com. Book your free call here and never worry about money again.

When we shift our focus from delivering a message towards reflecting on what questions to ask, a world of possibilities emerges.  However, sometimes the fastest route to asking better questions comes from self-awareness and focusing on our mindset in relation to the task.  In this episode, we hear from the author of Change Your Questions, Change Your Life, Marilee Adams.  Brought to you by PREZENT.AI and Executive Producer, Rajat Mishra.  

Dr. Marilee Adams is an award-winning author and pioneer in the fields of inquiry-based coaching, leadership, and organizational culture. She is the founder and CEO of Inquiry Institute, the originator of the Question Thinking™ methodologies, and a consultant, executive coach, and keynote speaker. Marilee is the author of the internationally bestselling book Change Your Questions, Change Your Life as well as The Art of the Question and Teaching that Changes Lives.Marilee remembers this experience as if it was yesterday. She was leaving the psychologist's office, after hours of testing for ADD, when the doctor patted her on the shoulder and said in a consoling voice, “Don't expect too much of yourself.”What?!That was years before she published her first book, a cognitive-behavioral psychology textbook entitled The Art of the Question, which one reviewer hailed as the “book of the decade” in the field of psychology.Marilee is driven by an unrelenting passion for learning and making a difference with what she learns. She credits this passion for learning as having been her saving grace and the basis for all she has developed. Her work is based on insights into the profound power of inquiry and mindsets in shaping our lives, our relationships, our results, and our futures. This work is making a global impact on individuals, executives, organizations, and teams. Marilee is happiest when people say things like: “Your work is so practical and it has changed my life—or my company, or my leadership, or my team, or even my marriage—Thank you!"

Are you asking questions to build or to tear down? What is the difference between a learner and a judger mindset? Episode 121 ( Marilee is based in New Jersey) In this conversation we explore: The polar opposites of learner versus judger mindsets How to recognize your current mindset How to shift your mindset with the choice map How to be a stronger leader by asking stronger questions How to ask better questions of yourself Why decisions can be more productive when you are in learner mode About Marilee Adams Written 4 books, in August released two new books: (1) 4th edition of Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Results—a business and leadership fable. (2) Change Your Questions Change Your Life Workbook: Master Your Mindset with Question Thinking. Note that the fable book has sold over 400,000 copies in 22 languages, mostly by word of mouth. Marilee is the Founder and CEO of the Inquiry Institute, a consulting, coaching and educational organization that works internationally with organizations and government agencies large and small. Marilee is a Senior Brown Belt in Karate, though that was 20 years ago; these days it's mostly yoga for her! ----- Download your free copy of the Choice Map here and start making more productive choices about your mindset www.InquiryInstitute.com   Excerpts from this conversation with Marilee Adams I think the most powerful leaders are the ones who can ask the most powerful questions and who encourage people around them to do the same thing. ----- 04:59 And you you raise the the learner mindset versus the judging mindset. And that's something that you talk in your book about. Please tell us, what's the difference? What's the distinction? And why is it important?   05:13 Okay, I'm gonna describe each and I'm also going to show you a model that makes it easier to do that. So first of all, let's assume that all of us, every human being has two mindsets. One I call judger. And the other I call learner, it's important to remember we all have both, both are normal. And we will always have them, because we are not only neurologically hardwired for them, but we're also socially ingrained in them. So when I talk about being in judger, mindset, that means that I'm being more close minded more, putting myself or others down, being more judgmental, because judging means judgement fall. And it can lead to a lot of self doubt, and also interacting with other people in ways that are not respectful and may actually be dismissive. So, but that's part of all of us. And even if we don't like that part, that doesn't mean it's not there. And it's really useful to say, oh, yeah, that's me to accept all the parts of me. And if we can speak that we would be speaking from learner mindset, which we all have. And when we're in learner mindset, we're more open minded, more accepting, more able to look from other people's point of view, and be dedicated to what can I create and learn in this situation with this person? So we all have both mindsets all the time. What makes the powerful is that when we can observe the mindset we're in, and then ask ourselves, will this mindset let's say, it's judger? Well, this mindset helped me get to where I want to go in this situation. Most of the time, the answer's no. But unless we can observe our mindsets, we might not even notice that. So it's important to note that I'm just going to, I'm going to show this and I'm going to make a comment about it to your listeners and your viewers. So this right, here it is, I get this confused. But this is called the choice map. And we all have both mindsets, the judger mindset, and the learner mindset. And at any moment, we're in one or the other. And if we're in if we notice, we're in judger, we can start to use the switching lane. So it becomes a very practical how to. So I know that this podcast is mostly auditory, which means people are not seeing it. But I do want to say that if you're interested in the choice map, go to my website, which is www inquiry institute.com. So you can go to my website, you can get the choice map for free. So there's a protocol for how to do it, you take a short quiz, which is also gives you some useful information. But then you can have the choice map and use it. And it's the core of not only change your questions, change your life, but all the other books that I've written and the work that I do that George, you mentioned a bit in the beginning. So does that answer your question? -----   25:25 Do you discourage people from being the judge?   25:33 I would change that question a little bit. So, when they learn about the model of learner judger, and they start to see what the costs have been in their lives, and in particular situations of being in judger, rather than learner, then I don't need to convince them of anything, they start to go, oh, this problem occurred because I was in judger. And I was just obstinate, maybe there's a different way to go about it. And truthfully, judger is, is human beings, it's always our default position. It's where we go. It's when we go reactive, it's it's fear based. And it's very useful to accept that part of us. Because it is part of us, and then to see what there is to learn from it. It's also important, George not to go judge her on other people when they are in judgement. Because then you end up with, like judges squared. Moving to a position where you can actually listen to each other, relate to each other, and maybe come up with some shared solutions together. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by improving your communication skills. We'll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.   Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in executive communication skills. That includes conversation and presentation. He's fascinated by way we communicate and influence behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.   Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/   For weekly tips to improve your presentations visit https://toroktips.com/    

Rayna Neises, ACC, host, reflects on her interview last week with Angie Rischpater (Episode 143). Angie is a physical therapist and she shared how, as a caregiver, you can be an observer or a detective to help your loved one. Instead of swooping in and taking, you can just support. Rayna continues with the topic offering the following suggestions:[1:32] Deal with the problem and not the symptom by digging down and finding the root of the problem.[3:29] Steps to becoming a good observer:[3:45] Understand the difference between observing and looking[4:15] Be mindful of your surroundings and practice[5:21] Pay attention to the details[6:29] Refrain from judgment[7:18] Slow down[8:00] Let the person you are caring for do what they can do.[8:52] The learner (growth) vs. the judger (fixed) mindset.[11:45] Learning to stay in the learner mindset can change how we interact with our loved one and how we support them.[13:45] Check out Marilee Adams' book, “Change Your Questions. Change Your Life” and visit inquiryinstitute.com for a free download of the Choice Map.[14:04] This episode has been brought to you by Content Magazine, a quarterly electronic magazine designed to help you find God in your caregiving season, coming in January 2023.

The questions we ask ourselves as well as the questions we ask our team ultimately drive our thinking, our engagement, our sense of satisfaction and our results. How do you ask better questions to get a stronger learning mindset? Tune in to hear what works.

The questions we ask ourselves as well as the questions we ask our team ultimately drive our thinking, our engagement, our sense of satisfaction and our results. How do you ask better questions to get a stronger learning mindset? Tune in to hear what works.

Did you know that the questions you ask yourself drive your thinking? In today's episode, Dr. Marilee Adams shares the difference between a Learner Mindset and a Judger Mindset, the Choice Map, and what makes a quality question.   Dr. Marilee Adams is an award-winning author and pioneer in the fields of inquiry-based coaching, leadership and organizational culture. She is CEO/Founder of the Inquiry Institute, a solutions and performance-focused company providing consulting, coaching, training, keynotes and eLearning. She is the author of the best selling book Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching and Results. Read the transcript here:   https://www.voiceofinfluence.net/251 Give and receive feedback that makes a difference! Register for our 20 minute Deep Impact Method video course here:  www.voiceofinfluence.net/deepimpact

Join us on Be Brave at Work as we speak with Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Marilee is a pioneer in the practice of intentional questioning and mindset management. She is an Amazon best-selling author, organizational consultant, executive coach, sought-after speaker, and creator of the Question Thinking™ System. She is Founder and CEO of the Inquiry Institute. The Institute's mission is to create a global community of Learners engaging in open-minded, open-hearted inquiry with each other, their colleagues, teams, and organizations as well as with their families and communities. They would utilize Question Thinking™ skills, the Choice Map™ and best-in-class practical and powerful inquiry-based strategies to create the results, relationships, and futures they most desire. Links of Interest LinkedIn Twitter Facebook Website Change Your Questions, Change Your Life, 4th Edition: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Results Change Your Questions, Change Your Life Workbook: Master Your Mindset Using Question Thinking A special thank you to our sponsor, Cabot Risk Strategies. For more information, please visit them at CabotRisk.com Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! More information about Ed, visit Excellius.com © 2022 Ed Evarts

“Are the questions I'm asking going to help or hurt? Are they going to get me what I want? Are they going to be useful to others? If the answer is no, what different questions could I ask that would benefit me and the other person and the situation?”, asks Dr. Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Marilee's research focuses on the impact of language, the importance of mindset, and the importance of asking the right questions in the right way. She coined the term ‘question thinking' in reference to the nature of thought, the questions we ask ourselves, and the mindsets from which we ask the questions. Today she is the founder of the Inquiry Institute, a sought after public speaker and coach, and the author of two books, The Art of The Question and Change Your Questions, Change Your Life.  Dr. Marilee Adams explains that the questions we ask ourselves and others are heavily influenced by the mindset we are in at the time. She shares that there are two primary mindsets that we ask questions from, the judger mindset and the learner mindset. When you can notice which mindset you are in, you can consider whether that mindset is actually serving you and your choices. The learner mindset is best for connection and collaboration, whereas the judger mindset tends to be more critical. Today's leaders need now more than ever to really consider how they ask questions and what questions they ask. The old style of top-down leadership is no longer as effective and will not lead to as much innovatio. It is pivotal to not only be in the right mindset and ask the right questions, but to listen and be cautious of our inner dialogues.  Changing the questions we use and the mindset we ask them from can change everything about our interactions with each other and the world around us. It can lead to innovation that would never have been possible before. We all think in questions, so to really understand each other, we need to consider how we frame those questions and whether they are going to be useful to others or help us really get what we want out of the interaction. When you can recognize yourself in a judger mindset and switch into a learner mindset so you can really value the insight of others, incredibly positive change can occur.  Quotes: “The questions we ask ourselves and others are also dramatically influenced by the mindset we're in at the moment when we ask them. And of course, that mindset impacts the people that we're communicating with and that we're asking questions to.” (9:15-9:31 | Marilee) “Are the questions I'm asking going to help or hurt? Are they going to get me what I want? Are they going to be useful to others? If the answer is no, what different questions could I ask that would benefit me and the other person and the situation?” (10:10-10:28 | Marilee) “The old model of leadership, like top down, the leader has all the answers and everybody else salutes, that is just not going to make it. It doesn't make it any more. And the only way that you gather engagement and trust and real collaboration with people is by asking them questions, by answering their questions, by encouraging them to ask you questions, and encouraging them to ask each other questions.” (31:14-31:45 | Marilee) “Our questions also frame how we listen. So if I listen to someone with the question, ‘What dumb thing are they going to say, now?' I am going to hear something different than if I listened with the question, ‘What invaluable thing will they say now?' I'll actually hear differently.” (32:59-33:20 | Marilee)  Links: Mentioned in this episode: Learn more about Mike Horne on Linkedin Email Mike at mike@mike-horne.com Find more about Leading People and Culture with Authenticity   Learn more about Marilee Adams Website: Inquiryinstitute.com Email: marilee.adams@inquiryinstitute.com Facebook: Facebook.com/questionthinking. LinkedIn for Marilee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marileeadams LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/inquiryinstitute   Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

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Theresa chats to the Question Geek and bestselling international author, Marilee Adams. To find out more and contact Marilee and order CHANGE YOUR QUESTIONS, CHANGE YOUR LIFE visit:Www.inquiryinstitute.comTo find out more about Theresa's bestselling dream, intuition, afterlife, astrology and mystical titles and mission, visit:Www.theresacheung.comhttp://linktr.ee/theresacheungYou can contact Theresa via @thetheresacheung on Instagram and her author pages on Facebook and Twitter and you can email her directly at: angeltalk710@aol.comThank you to Cluain Ri for the blissful episode music.White Shores is produced by Matthew Cooper

In this episode, Eric Tivers is joined by Will Curb, MJ Siemens, and ADHD reWired coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin. Barb also joins the panel as the ADHD reWired podcast family takes in and answers the questions from the listeners of the ADHD reWired Podcast. Brendan Mehan, we missed you this month! Every second Tuesday of the month, the ADHD reWired panel takes questions from our listeners live about their ADHD-related topics. Whether it's personal or professional, the panelists are here every single month to ask questions and offer their knowledge and unique perspectives to help ADHD folks find the solutions they need.  Thank you for listening to the Q & A session this month. We cover a wide variety of topics and provide creative takeaways, no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we all continue working through as we navigate with ADHD. Find the other podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:   What will you find in this episode? [00:01:43] - Welcomin the ADHD reWired Podcast Family!  [00:02:10] - Roxie and Will confirm rumors about their new podcast [00:03:21] - Jane asks, “What can you do when you just cannot get your brain to engage, even if you want to?  [00:03:34] - Eric explains how trying to force it doesn't work; he shifts to prioritizing sleep, and his brain doesn't (typically) work with lack of sleep.  [00:04:27] - Will says going for a walk and getting movement in is helpful. [00:05:05] - Eric talks about how even though taking breaks is difficult, he always feels better after doing so. [00:05:38] - Moira talks about hormones and how expectations can be managed around hormonal cycles, while Eric mentions her podcast [the ADHD Friendly Lifestyle!] [00:06:37] - Roxie talks about riding on someone's coattails, listens to ADHD-related podcasts & content, and enjoys singing karaoke for a break. [00:07:22] - Eric mentions Adult Study Hall and how a pomodoro dance break was really useful and fun! [00:07:52] - When MJ feels stuck, they talk about reaching out and telling someone, talking with their partner for a break, doing jumping jacks, and taking a pet-parent break.  [00:08:53] - Will encourages ADHD folks to write down things that don't work and mentions how scrolling social media doesn't typically work.  [00:09:18] - Eric likes video games but doesn't usually stop at just 5 minutes of playing.  [00:10:03] - Scott asks about being on Adderall and wonders if his experiences are because of taking medication.  [00:10:27] - Eric encourages folks to talk to their doctors and the documented side-effects of stimulant medication.  [00:15:50] - Terry wants the panelists to talk about medications, particularly when kids are reluctant and contrary to medical advice. [00: 16:15] - Eric talks about how the research shows that when parents push medication during adolescence, the likelihood of the teens going back to medication as adults is drastically decreased. Eric encourages to allow the teen to make the call, which makes it more likely for them to go back to the medication as adults.  [00:17:04] - Eric also encourages parents to read about motivational interviewing. [00:17:56] - Moira encourages parents to include the kids as part of the conversation.  [00:20:10] - Eric encourages a healthy-fat high-protein breakfast before giving them their medication and let kids eat when they're hungry.  [00:21:07] - Andrew wants to improve his communication skills and wonders if CBT or other methods could be helpful. [00:21:36] - Eric says CBT or DBT could be helpful.  [00:22:06] - Mentioned: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, and Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny and Kerry Patterson  [00:23:15] - Will talks about trying different communication models, such as a phone call or text to give the brain time to catch up. [00:24:13] - Eric says to take a break but 23] commit to coming back.  [00:25:00] - Roxie realizes trying to get into problem solving before we're ready that we have such a huge breakdown. [00:25:10] - Mentioned: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams [00:25:25] - Kristen asks, “How do I lessen my interrupting in group discussions?” [00:25:36] - Moira talks about hyperarousal and treatments that helped her [00:26:03] - Eric and Moira encourage writing stuff down; Eric talks about some coping mechanisms and sitting in the discomfort of silence.  [00:27:00] - Will talks about cultural conversational styles across the U.S.  [00:27:37] - Suzanne asks about how to respond or having a set of pre-fabricated responses when people make comments about over-planning and other ADHD-related topics, while keeping composed. [00:28:20] - Eric thinks it's cute when someone says, “You'll remember that.”  [00:28:42] - MJ admits to being a chronic over-planner and talks about coping mechanisms they've developed with having ADHD. [00:30:23] - MJ encourages being okay with what we do and to give ourselves grace, and “Slow motion is better than no motion! [00:31:47] - Suzanne also asks if a lot of this is internal dialogue and talks about everything she writes down after grocery shopping.  [00:32:36] - Eric says, “Do what works for you!” [00:32:48] - Moira talks about being selective with sharing about her ADHD and driving with a GPS is always useful for her. [00:34:20] - Hannah asks about international support for people with ADHD. [00:41:10] - Mentioned: adhd-hub.com / adhdactually.com (not reviewed) [00:41:34] - Elaine asks about “transition dread” [00:42:48] - Roxie asks Elaine some coaching questions  [00:45:08] - Elaine talks about food sensitivities  [00:45:45] - MJ also asks Elaine some coaching questions and talks about doing new tasks. [00:47:06] - Elaine is reminded of fun things & wonders about doing brand new tasks.  [00:47:32] - Eric asks Elaine if there is anything she can let go of and talks about “CRS” [00:48:15] - Eric and Elaine talk about admin work while being self-employed and being seen. [00:48:57] - Eric stresses that it is important that you feel seen and understood by the professionals you are working with and to get people who understand you on your team. [00:49:46] - Eric says he will always need help, and needing help is okay. [00:50:38] - Rob asks if neurotypical folks have the same problems or issues that folks with ADHD have.  [00:52:17] - Eric mentions that we may not be fully aware that we do some things better than other people because those things don't feel hard. [00:53:17] - Eric talks about the struggle of putting something in the mail. [00:53:58] - Moira acknowledges that neurotypical people have the same struggles, but that ADHD also affects us socially, at home, and affects our working memory.  [00:54:58] - MJ shares their observations about how certain tasks seem much easier for neurotypical folks than ADHD folks.   [00:56:05] - Grace asks if coaching would be useful even with a brand-new diagnosis and still earned a PhD [00:56:30] - Eric talks about coping skills, intelligence, and gives kudos for resilience and tenacity. [00:56:58] - All the panelists vote “Yes” to group-coaching for ADHD, no matter what stage or how recent the diagnosis was.  [00:57:58] - Jason asks how to go about getting a diagnosis in Canada. [00:58:23] - MJ highly encourages folks to find professionals who specialize in ADHD and why that's important. [00:59:28] - Moira mentions CADDRA and CADDAC who list practitioners in Canada, and the importance of knowing what symptoms to talk about.  [01:00:56] - Eric encourages folks to get on a list to see someone even if it's a long wait.  [01:02:41] - The panelists circle back to Terry's question about keeping kids accountable without nagging them. [01:03:15] - Barb talks about dry-erase boards and letting her son check things off instead of nagging. [01:03:45] - Eric repeats motivational interviewing - it's a great place to start, and says there is no such thing as failing when we're trying new things.    Also mentioned in this episode: Become a of ADHD reWired

This week we welcome questions expert, Dr. Marilee Adams to the Driving Change Podcast. Marilee has spent over 30 studying questions and the impact they have on both your business and your everyday life. Join us as she explains how the brain reacts and responds to questions and how to make sure the questions you ask have the most impact they can. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/driving-change-podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/driving-change-podcast/support

Good evening, this is Richard Jacobs. Today is day 11 of the 13 unlucky days of monsters attempting to suck the blood from your law practice. We've talked about client monsters: the ghost, the backseat driver, the nervous nelly, the vampire, the wimpy, the backstabber, the bungler, the narcissist, and the canary. Then we talked about the marketing monsters: the branding barbarian, the social media serpent, the Rip Van Winkle of referrals, the follow-up fumbler, the SEO siren, the paid leads pusher, the new client hopium dealer, the lowball leech, the omnipresent omnivore, and the budget bully. Now, we are talking about some of the most pernicious monsters: staff, family, and friends, (unfortunately). We talked about the strangler, and now we are going to talk about the devil's advocate and the bride of Frankenstein. The devil's advocate is a staff member or maybe a fellow attorney who is just a devil's advocate in everything. Any idea you come up with, any client you take on, any case that you work through with a partner, or any case that you have a staff member help on, they are always pointing you to the dark side. “What if this happens?” or “I don't think this is going to work,” or “Maybe we should reconsider…” What this does is turn you into a “two steps forward and 1.9999 steps back” person, and you essentially go nowhere. You just jiggle back and forth in position. Meanwhile, the market changes around you, other firms get clients and try new things, and win or lose. The firms that just kind of jiggle back and forth and don't aggressively market, try new things, or adapt to new technologies like live chat, texting clients, or using Zoom for intakes, start to lose ground to other firms and younger attorneys who may have 20 fewer years of experience than they do. They start to eat your lunch, they start to take over, and you start to get very frustrated. At times, you might feel like a dinosaur. You've got to watch out for these devil's advocates; they mean well—they really do—but unfortunately, they have to be coached. If a staff member, family, friend, or anyone else is being the devil's advocate, say to them, “I really appreciate it. You are a good sounding board and you are a great devil's advocate, but I want you to deliberately think, ‘How can I do this?' What advice would you have for me if you knew that there was nothing I could do and that something had to be done and you at least wanted to help me do it as best I could?” Change their frame of mind so that they are supportive instead of a devil's advocate because the devil's advocate only goes so far. If you have idea after idea after idea and that's all you get back, it's going to take the air out of your balloon. It's going to deflate you, and eventually, you'll give up and just sink into mediocrity and helplessness. You won't want to engage with your marketing firms and you won't want to move your firm forward. You are going to lose ground and just lament that you didn't go anywhere while other firms surpass you. As you know, there's a lot of competition in the world of attorneys, especially this year with COVID. The sands are shifting, the tectonic plates are shifting big time. There are big-time winners, and there are big-time losers. You've got to be either a winner or a loser going forward because things are changing dramatically. Watch out for these devil's advocates. Again, they mean well, so turn them around so they help you instead of hurt you. Now, the bride of Frankenstein. I could have called it the spouse of Frankenstein, but in the movie, it was called the bride of Frankenstein. Forgive me if instead of a bride, you have a groom; it's your partner or spouse who is unsupportive. You've tried things in the past, and they are worried about the finances, they are worried about the kids, and they are worried about your financial situation. I can't give you relationship advice here, but I want to point it out. If you have a spouse or a partner who is unsupportive, it can easily suck the life out of you and make you do nothing. I can't tell you to get rid of your partner or spouse. All I can tell you is to be aware that the approval or the withholding of approval of a spouse and the withholding of other things can really make life very difficult. I don't know how you are going to manage it. Again, I don't even want to go there; I just want you to be aware of it, and if it is a factor in your life, it is going to affect your practice, and it's obviously going to affect your personal life. It's going to affect everything. The only thing I can recommend is that you not let yourself be in a situation like that for too long. Then again, you have to decide how long “too long” is for you. Unfortunately, the longer it goes on, the less likely it is to change or improve unless action is taken by both parties. Of course, take your side of responsibility for the whole situation; it might not just be your partner…it might be you too. There are definitely great resources out there that can really help you. I recently read the book, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams, PhD. I am literally just about to finish it, but it's a really great book that can help you with any issues that you have. It can apply to most of the monsters you deal with (maybe even all of them), and this monster in particular because it's such a tricky one. I recommend you check out that book. It's excellent. There's also 5 Love Languages, which sounds kind of funny, but it's a fantastic book. There are five different ways that people express love in any relationship, and you'd be very surprised. When I read through this book and looked at the people around me, like my wife, my kids, and my other relationships, it's literally like wearing a new pair of glasses where you see people in a way you've never seen them before. It's really cool. One love language is physical touch. Another is acts of service, where we do something for someone and they feel loved. Another is quality time, where you spend quality time with them. The fourth love language is gifts, and I forget the fifth one. It is an excellent book. I highly recommend these two books because they'll take the friction out of a lot of your relationships and really help you have a smoother time. If my wife is mad at me, it can ruin my whole day. I'm not saying she's bad or blaming her or anything—I do plenty of things wrong to annoy her—but I know it's important when a partner or spouse is not supportive; it really can take the wind out of your sails, so it's really important to address it. It's not nice to call it a monster, but I'm including it. I hope this helps you. On today 12 tomorrow.

Are You a Victim or are you a Person of Action?    Exploring Our Post-Pandemic Mindset and Changing it for Good   "Something bad happened to me!" We can process the emotion in the best possible way.   We all have a person of action and a victim inside of us. When a problem comes, we can blame others.  But if we choose to become a person of action we decide this is OUR problem.    Making the shift out of the default victim to the transforming Person of Action.   Notice when you're taking the victim role. The clues can show up in your body: tensed jaw, tight shoulders, upset stomach, etc. Coping with stress can also show up in eating junk food and treats. Maybe you're looking outside of yourself for a solution or begin blaming others. Instead ask yourself "How can I move forward?" Be vulnerable. Share how you're feeling with a significant other. "What am I going through right now?" Ask better questions. "What does this make possible?" "What would someone I admire do in this situation?'   What are we responsible for? There are things outside of our control but we have control over a lot if we change our perspective. We can take some action and take a different approach.   Our Amazon products were deemed non-essential and our income was on hold as a result of Covid-19.    Example of unhelpful, victim questions: "Why? Why me? Why is this happening? Why is this happening to us?"   We had to accept our situation because there was nothing we could do about it.   Our Airbnb was also shut down as U.S. travel came to a halt.    We were victims of the pandemic, losing our livelihood.    Maybe you too are in the middle of a trying, difficult circumstance. It's still possible to make progress while frustrated. Grieve with personal responsibility. Acknowledge the emotion and also ask "What's my next step?"   Bad things happen in life and we respond to it in the most honoring way to yourself and the people around you.   Resources:    Change your Questions, Change Your life by Marilee Adams https://amzn.to/31csOLi Mastering the 7 Decisions by Andy Andrews https://amzn.to/30tS7cR   We'd love to hear from you!    How have YOU overcome a victim mentality? How have you been a person of action?    Email us at ruthie@freedomlifejourney.com   Overcome difficult circumstances. Choose to be grateful. Take positive action.

Episode Notes In this episode Rami & Shannon talk about Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Dr. Marilee Adams. They discuss how to shift yourself from a judger mindset to a learner mindset so that you can operate with more empathy & humility in the workplace AND withing yourself (got an inner critic?!). They break down how to spot each mindset and how to make the shift into a learner mindset!

A look at Marilee Adams book Change Your Questions/Change Your Life, and Matt Keller's The Key to Everything.

Have you ever been around someone you are trying to avoid?  Or maybe it is someone that you feel like you just cannot get along with?  Maybe you believe there is someone out to get your job or get you fired?  Maybe it is your boss or manager that you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around because you just "know" they are out to get you?  And any one of these feelings translates into your shoulders creeping up to your ears, your heart rate increases, you have these horrible imaginary conversations with yourself.   And at the end it all may say something like, "I'll show them!".  Welcome to the "Judger Mindset"  our mindset that takes down the spiral path and pit of self-destruction.  Nothing gets accomplished, we get more and more skeptical and we wallow in our pit.  What if I told you there was a way to get out? What if I told you you can change! There is and this is were you have to employ your Question Thinking (tm), start asking switcher questions and get into the Learner Mindset. In this episode of  A New Direction we are blessed with the presence of Clinical Psychologist and Coach to the Fortune 10 Dr. Marliee Adams PhD and her best selling book Change your Questions Change Your Life:  12 Powerful Tools for Leadership Coaching and Life.  This book is a game changer for everyone!  Seriously, Change Your Questions Change Your Life gives you tools to help you take control of those immediate reactions you have to different people and situations and helps you start developing questions to switch you from having a Judger Mindset so that  you can rationally and calmly through the asking of the right question come up with not only better answer but better results.  Change Your Questions Change Your Life is perfect to better develop yourself, teams, leaders, and coaches.  When you purchase your copy you can enter in a code to get your free "choice map" that can help you navigate from Judger, to Switcher questions so you can get to the Learner Mindset.  Read set Get your Copy Here! Please say thank you to our sponsors we are so grateful that they commit their dollars to A New Direction and help us grow! EPIC Physical Therapy, injury, post surgery, nagging aches and pains, gym rats, to professional athletes, the highly skilled and certified staff at EPIC Physical Therapy is there to get you back to where you want to be.  They understand that every body is different, so they design a custom treatment for you using the latest technology and knowledge.  EPIC Relief.  EPIC Recovery. EPIC Results!  That is EPIC Physical Therapy, check them out at www.EPICpt.com and Linda Craft & Team, Realtors, for 35 years they have created relationships that last a life time, that is why when it comes to real estate they are known as the "legends of customer service".  The know that your home is personal.  It is part of your legacy of life.  And they want to get to know you so that they can sell your home in the way it should be sold, and help you buy the home to start your next chapter of life.  Why not click on over to www.LindaCraft.com Don't forget you can listen to AND on The Oak 93.5 fm in Raleigh?  What?  You say you don't live in Raleigh?  No problem you can stream the show every Thursday at 4 pm EDT and Sunday mornings at 10 am EDT by clicking here OAK 93.5  Tell your friends!

Did you know that your thoughts and behaviors are driven by questions? If you want to understand how to manage your thinking and make better decisions, which leads to more powerful actions, tune in to learn how to build your “question thinking” strategy. Receive valuable insight on how to: Notice your questions, so you can analyze them for effectiveness. Re-craft your questions, so you can develop more meaningful life experiences and improve your relationships. Understand human nature and motivation, so your interactions with others are more fulfilling and produce life-giving energy. Efficiently move from thinking to decision-making to tasks that provide greater self-awareness, self-leadership, and team building! Resources Choice Map The Inquiry Institute An Introduction to Question Thinking eLearning Course Muskoka Woods Leadership Studio   About Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Marilee Adams, Ph.D. is an author, organizational consultant and facilitator, executive coach, and professional speaker. She is the founder and president of the Inquiry Institute, a consulting, coaching, and educational organization. Dr. Adams is also an Adjunct Professor in the School of Public Affairs at American University in the Key Executive Leadership Program and is part of the faculty of the Institute for Life Coach Training, the Adler Institute, and Expedition Coaching, and is a coach with the Society of Organizational Learning. Dr. Adams’ books include Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching and Life, 3rd edition (Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2016) and The Art of the Question: A Guide to Short-Term Question-Centered Therapy (John Wiley & Sons, 1998) and Teaching that Changes Lives: 12 Mindset Tools for Igniting the Love of Learning (Berrett-Koehler, 2013) and won a Gold Medal IPPY Publishers Award. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life is an Amazon #1 Bestseller in Learning in Organizations and Business and has sold about 200,000 copies in 18 languages. Dr. Adams works and speaks in the private and public sector for Fortune 500 companies, major government agencies, international consulting firms, and leading universities. Her clients include Ameriprise, AREVA, Inc., Brother Int’l, DHL, Johnson & Johnson, Johns Hopkins Hospital, Lockheed Martin; the Social Security Administration, the National Science Foundation, the U.S. Navy, NASA Goddard, the National Defense University (NDU), U.S. Departments of Treasury, Interior, and Education; Toronto General Hospital, Booz Allen, Organizational Development Network, Society for Human Resource Management; Georgetown McDonough School of Business, George Mason University, Harvard University, and Princeton University, among many others. Dr. Adams holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Fielding Graduate University.

Today, Brandon reviews the book "Change Your Questions, Change Your Life" by Marilee Adams.  The number one skill a leader/manager can possess is the ability to develop the people that work for them. Coaching is a great tool to have as a leader to grow and develop a high performing team.  This book provides insight into the greatest aspect of great coaching...asking great questions. Franly, the better your questions, the better the solutions that are uncovered for the benefit of you and your team. There's obviously more to this, so listen in!  ______________________ For more listening options and several FREE resources provided by New Work Revolution, please visit GrowthandFreedom.media.  Also, if you enjoyed this episode please subscribe to the podcast and leave us a 5 star rating and review on iTunes! 

I feel like a zen master with that title.  We are coming up on the end of the year; the time to be reflective, take stock of what we have accomplished, and plan for all that we hope to accomplish in the coming year. And in order to make this time truly effective, there is one primary area on which we should focus: the questions we are asking.  We don't think about questions. They just exist - like nouns, verbs and Pauly Shore. When I ask my clients to define what a question is, they give a variety of answers that don't quite ecompass the purpose of questioning. A question, to define it, is a request for information where you legitimately don't know the answer. This year I've spoken often about the value of learning and entering situations with a “learning mindset.” It's not my unique idea; there's plenty of information out there on it. But, from what I have experienced over the years, there is no better way to get past any challenge that comes my way.  And in order to have a learning mindset, we need to eliminate assumptions. A tall order, for sure, but the way to do that is to ask a good question. I think back to corporate life and how often people were told to work on “listening skills.” That's nice, but they are irrelevant if we are not asking the right questions. I think also of all the questions people did ask during meetings or over e-mail, dripping with sarcasm, agenda or snark. These aren't questions - they are judgmental statements. We do it in our home life as well. Over time, we create assumptions. Due to the Principle of Least Effort, we know that our brains will take every opportunity to work as lightly as possible. So it jumps over details. Those details become assumptions, and in doing so, we fill the gaps with our own perspective, and that affects how we interact with people.  The questions we are asking ourselves are impactful to our own learning about ourselves. Over the next two weeks I'll cover the questions to ask yourself to recap your year and to plan for the new year. Your capability, your growth, your levels of accomplishment and happiness and joy and sparkles are all a reflection of the questions you ask yourself.  No judgment, pure curiosity. You'll be shocked at what you can learn about yourself. If I can recommend some books on the topic, I'd say the two best on questions that I have read are: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams and The Art of the Focused Conversation by The Institute of Cultural Affairs. Happy reading!

I feel like a zen master with that title.  We are coming up on the end of the year; the time to be reflective, take stock of what we have accomplished, and plan for all that we hope to accomplish in the coming year. And in order to make this time truly effective, there is one primary area on which we should focus: the questions we are asking.  We don’t think about questions. They just exist - like nouns, verbs and Pauly Shore. When I ask my clients to define what a question is, they give a variety of answers that don’t quite ecompass the purpose of questioning. A question, to define it, is a request for information where you legitimately don’t know the answer. This year I’ve spoken often about the value of learning and entering situations with a “learning mindset.” It’s not my unique idea; there’s plenty of information out there on it. But, from what I have experienced over the years, there is no better way to get past any challenge that comes my way.  And in order to have a learning mindset, we need to eliminate assumptions. A tall order, for sure, but the way to do that is to ask a good question. I think back to corporate life and how often people were told to work on “listening skills.” That’s nice, but they are irrelevant if we are not asking the right questions. I think also of all the questions people did ask during meetings or over e-mail, dripping with sarcasm, agenda or snark. These aren’t questions - they are judgmental statements. We do it in our home life as well. Over time, we create assumptions. Due to the Principle of Least Effort, we know that our brains will take every opportunity to work as lightly as possible. So it jumps over details. Those details become assumptions, and in doing so, we fill the gaps with our own perspective, and that affects how we interact with people.  The questions we are asking ourselves are impactful to our own learning about ourselves. Over the next two weeks I’ll cover the questions to ask yourself to recap your year and to plan for the new year. Your capability, your growth, your levels of accomplishment and happiness and joy and sparkles are all a reflection of the questions you ask yourself.  No judgment, pure curiosity. You’ll be shocked at what you can learn about yourself. If I can recommend some books on the topic, I’d say the two best on questions that I have read are: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams and The Art of the Focused Conversation by The Institute of Cultural Affairs. Happy reading!

Part 2 with Bill Priamo - more great discussions! 1:00 - The fear of dealing with people 5:00 Try harder - does not work - those who Bill used to think were soft, actually had a lot to offer 9:00 Timing on when to send your message, positive or negative 13:50 Awareness of others 17:20 Mentors and why they are key - Bills favourite books - Give and Take by Adam Grant and Change Your Questions Change Your Life by Marilee Adams 21:00 The man who is always right will never know when he is wrong 24:00 Bill's final reflections - instilling confidence in others  

W pierwszym odcinku dowiesz się, co planuję publikować, jaką moc mają nasze przekonania i jak przejąć kontrolę nad swoim nastawieniem. Polecam też książkę "Myślenie pytaniami" Marilee Adams.

Entrepreneurship is the most rigorous personal development program we can undertake and today’s guest, Jake Lipman is embracing this. Jake shares how he is up-leveling his life and business through his coaching with Dr. Sabrina and the Tap the Potential team. Jake takes part in Tap the Potential’s Exclusive Small Group Coaching Program. He has attended the Breakthroughs on the Bayou Retreat for two years in a row and is coming back in 2020. Jake shares what his business and life were like prior to working with us, and how he has grown and evolved. Jake is not done. He realizes there is more and he is ready! What I really appreciate about Jake is his ability to ask powerful questions, listen, and connect. He is very people-oriented, and he has built a tremendous culture in his business using his People strength, and that really shines through! Tune in and get ready for some powerful takeaways. Jakob Lipman has practiced immigration law for over twenty years. His practice focuses on employment-based immigration, counseling employers in complex immigration practice and policy concerns. Jake has lectured on immigration-related subjects in a variety of settings and has authored articles on corporate immigration compliance. Jake is recognized by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization as a Certified Specialist in Immigration and Nationality Law. Jake has been married for 26 years and has 7 children and 2 granddaughters. He enjoys hiking, golfing, preparing and eating amazing food and generally goofing around. He is fluent in Spanish.       Show Highlights:   Jake describes being in growth mode at his business, but being stuck there without knowing how to move to the next level. Dr. Sabrina recalls a time when she struggled to wrap her head around the concept of setting up a business so that it wasn’t her doing all the work. Jake shares how it initially felt hard to break out of the mold when clients expect him to be the one delivering. With Dr. Sabrina’s coaching, through small, incremental steps, the groundwork was laid, so that he was able to see the path looks like to get there. Learning to accept challenges and accountability, and managing the blind spots. Jake relates the connection and support in the group and how enlightening it is to see how their challenges are similar to his, even though they come from different backgrounds and industries. Being allowed vulnerability in the midst of the Tap the Potential’s coaching program has been a new experience for Jake. Taking on personal development work to become a better, more effective leader. Learning how to ask better questions, rather than going down the dark path of fear and worry, was a turning point for Jake. How the communication tools and leadership tools at Tap the Potential can help you have better relationships, spilling over in a positive way from your business life into your personal life with your spouse and children. Asking a thoughtful question and listening to the answer is one of the best gifts you can give a person. Jake shares how he is creating the culture within his business, not just among his team but among his clients, as well. (Hint: trust goes a long way!) What to look for in an A-player. The Peoplemap Assessment™ is part of Tap the Potentia’s offerings. Jake is using Peoplemap to find areas of strength, and recognize that everyone has challenges. Questions to consider when people leave: what’s going on that makes someone want to leave? What can we do to change the culture to where they don’t want to leave?  Breakthroughs on the Bayou Retreat - Jake shares his two retreat experiences and what it means for him to be a gift from his gifts.   Purposefully “un-plugging”. What the vision board can represent, and how powerful it can be. If you’re the type to ask, “What’s next?”, you might be a good fit for the retreat!   Links and Resources: Would you be a good fit to join Tap the Potential’s Exclusive Small Group Coaching Program to transform your business into a highly profitable, great place to work and create more space in your life for what is meaningful? Take our Assessment at www.TapThePotential.com/Assessment Apply for Tap the Potential’s Exclusive Small Group Coaching Program: https://www.profitgift.com There are just 5 spots remaining for the 2020 Breakthroughs on the Bayou 4 Week Vacation™ Legacy Retreat. Apply here: www.TapThePotential.com/Retreat www.TapThePotential.com For Resources & Tools from Sponsors - https://www.profitbydesignpodcast.com Subscribe & Share Podcasts! - https://www.profitbydesignpodcast.com/podcasts/   Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfitByDesign/ Connect with Jake! www.visawolf.com Books Mentioned: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life, by Marilee Adams, Ph.D.

Thinking BIG! That’s what my guest, Geraldine Carter, and I will be talking about on today’s show. We’re having a conversation about where we play small, how to think bigger, and the importance of mindset. Geraldine shares with us her favorite tips for having a more positive growth-oriented mindset, and I share some of mine, as well. Come join us!   Geraldine Carter specializes in coaching CPAs to help them grow their accounting practice. Her podcast, She Thinks Big, supports business owners to think bigger about what is possible while creating new thought patterns that lead to higher levels of profit. Geraldine co-founded a company in 2008 that has gone on to generate millions for sustainability, completed an Ironman in 12 hours, and is an ICF Certified Coach with more than 800 hours of mindfulness training. In her spare time, she rides her mountain bike in her hometown of Missoula, Montana, or runs after her 2 tiny kiddos.   Show Highlights:   Geraldine’s favorite tool to share with clients that really helps them grasp the ideas of mindset being at choice is borrowed from Mel Robbins: the “54321” with breath behind it. When you’re feeling annoyed, agitated, upset, stuck, you take 5 breaths, and you count back from 5. Dr. Sabrina’s favorite tool is The Choice Map™ by Dr. Marilee Adams. It’s a visual, and we get to choose whether we want to go down the Learner Path or the Judger Path. If at any time we find ourselves going to the Judger Pit, which is where the Judger Path takes us, we can change our questions to get ourselves on the Learner Path. How mindset plays in to designing your business so that you can reclaim your life. Geraldine explains how to move past an identity crisis in order to fulfill the role that we would like to be creating. Dr. Sabrina discusses where fear comes from, and how the mindsets that are grounded in fear no longer serve us. Same thinking = same results. Where money leaks out of our business because of our mindset: Accounts receivable over 90 days & various examples How to have the awkward conversations Tips for course-correcting boundary issues: self awareness observing the thoughts that go through your head being curious with kindness mindfulness that it’s happening  asking yourself what can you do differently the next time it happens Observing the impact (to yourself and others) of not keeping boundaries can often be a motivator to do things differently next time. How to meld bookkeeping, which, by nature, is historical, and coaching, which is looking forward. Focusing on wins and successes: do more of what works! Learning to systemize what works is where we really start to grow.     Links and Resources:   Apply for Tap the Potential’s Exclusive Small Group Coaching Program: https://www.profitgift.com   https://www.tapthepotential.com   For Resources & Tools from Sponsors - https://www.profitbydesignpodcast.com   Subscribe & Share Podcasts! - https://www.profitbydesignpodcast.com/podcasts/     Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfitByDesign/     The Choice Map™: https://inquiryinstitute.com/CM.pdf Connect with Geraldine!   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shethinksbig/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/geraldine-carter/ Instagram: 12geraldine406   Opt-in Gift from Geraldine!  FREE eBook “Where to Find $50K Hiding in Plain Sight in Your Business” https://shethinksbigcoaching.com/profitbydesign/   Books Mentioned:   The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage, by Mel Robbins   Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life, by Marilee Adams, Ph.D.

This week on The Living Experiment we're talking about Questions — the value of asking more of them, and the potential of making inquiry a regular life practice. Rainer Maria Rilke once advised a young poet to "live in the questions," and that advice can serve all of us. So here, we share the questions we've found most helpful in keeping us on a good path, as well as the questions that tend to get us in trouble. From the reality-challenging questions that define Byron Katie's "The Work," to the Learner and Judger questions that make up Marilee Adams' Choice Map, we explore the evolution that is possible when we ask, rather than assume. Finally, we offer you some experiments to help you consider the questions you might benefit from asking in your own life. Get full show notes and resources at http://livingexperiment.com/questions/

Marilee Adams, Ph.D. is an author, organizational consultant and facilitator, executive coach, and professional speaker. She is founder and CEO of the Inquiry Institute, a consulting, coaching, and educational organization. Marilee is also an Adjunct Professor in the School of Public Affairs at American University in the Key Executive Leadership Program and is faculty for the Institute for Life Coach Training, the Adler Institute, and Expedition Coaching. Marilee consults, trains, and gives keynotes all over the world Prior to 1998, Dr. Adams was a psychotherapist in private practice working with individuals, groups, couples, and families. During that time, she founded and led several public seminar companies. Visit www.InquiryInstitute.com. Get the Inclusion Revolution CD by Sister Jenna.  Like America Meditating.  Visit our website at www.AmericaMeditating.org.  Download our free Pause for Peace App for Apple or Android

Marilee Adams, Ph.D. is an author, organizational consultant and facilitator, executive coach, and professional speaker. She is founder and CEO of the Inquiry Institute, a consulting, coaching, and educational organization. Marilee is also an Adjunct Professor in the School of Public Affairs at American University in the Key Executive Leadership Program and is faculty for the Institute for Life Coach Training, the Adler Institute, and Expedition Coaching. Marilee consults, trains, and gives keynotes all over the world Prior to 1998, Dr. Adams was a psychotherapist in private practice working with individuals, groups, couples, and families. During that time, she founded and led several public seminar companies. Visit www.InquiryInstitute.com. Get the Inclusion Revolution CD by Sister Jenna.  Like America Meditating.  Visit our website at www.AmericaMeditating.org.  Download our free Pause for Peace App for Apple or Android

Shame is universal. It touches every age, gender, and ethnicity — from a child who wets the bed to a presidential candidate who is caught off guard in a debate. Shame operates at your core, often playing out in a debilitating combination of aggression, withdrawal, and perfectionism. But how can you address shame if you have difficulty acknowledging or talking about it? In this week's episode of The Living Experiment, we discuss shame openly, flushing it out of hiding and into the light of day. We talk about where shame comes from, how men and women feel it differently, and how it impacts relationship dynamics. We also suggest steps to shift from shame toward self-acceptance and insight. "Shame" Episode Highlights The life-long and inescapable human condition of shame (3:25) Defining (and differentiating) shame and guilt (6:30) The three primary behavioral expressions of shame (7:25) Secondary and tertiary consequences, including communication problems (7:50) The subtle differences between imposing shame and offering compassionate guidance (10:00) How shame that develops very early in life can manifest in our adult lives and relationships (12:50) Perfectionism as a response to childhood shame (14:25) Shame as a potential outcome of a religious upbringing (15:15) How your own sense of worth influences the way you accept or judge others (17:55) Dr. Marilee Adams' "Choice Map" and the two paths — judger or learner — we can take in any stressful situation (18:45) Gender-specific shame triggers and responses (23:55) Dallas's early experience with shame, and the shadow it cast (26:00) Pilar's experience of shame resulting from childhood sexual abuse (29:50) How (and why) we make sense of irrational thoughts and situations, and why that's not always healthy (31:00) How shame shows up in human behavior (33:50) Dr. Brené Brown's outing of the universal, destructive experience of shame (37:45) Shame-based morality vs. the natural consequences of potentially problematic actions, such as over-consumption of porn or food (38:45) The power of acknowledging and exposing sources and feelings of shame (42:20) How Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy can help people evolve traumatic experiences (44:20) “De-cloaking” — risking the truth about yourself with close friends, and the positive feedback loop that can create (47:10) How to re-frame and diminish shame with self-awareness and compassion (53:00) Making peace with your life experiences — good and bad — to more fully understand and accept yourself and others for who they are (55:40) How a difficult divorce can catalyze the work of self-discovery (57:25) The vicious cycle of poor communication between men and women – women's unarticulated desires leading to men's misguided efforts to fulfill them  — and how to reverse the pattern (1:00:00) Framing failure without shame rather than denying failure happened (1:05:00) Suggested experiments for the week (1:08:20) This Week's Experiments Dallas suggests: Identify and compassionately acknowledge your shame. On a piece of paper, write “I have shame about . . .” and list all of your feelings of shame. On the last line of the page, write, “And it's OK.” Calling shame by its name and accepting yourself sets the stage for growth. Pilar suggests: In the moments you feel shame, change the questions you ask. The next time you're tempted to go down a path of self-retribution (e.g, why am I so stupid; what's wrong with me; what will people think?), ask neutral, non-judging learner questions such as: “What just happened?” “What's useful here?” “What do I want now?” “What would I like to have happen?” “What can I learn?” “What am I actually responsible for?” “What's possible?” “What are my choices?” “What would be the best use of my time, energy, and attention now?” Embrace shame-tinged experiences as fertile ground for growth and self-honoring rather than self-reproach. Look for opportunities to reframe shame-based experiences from your early life to reclaim your sense of worth as a human being now. Get resources and other helpful links at livingexperiment.com/shame.

Wrapping up our successful first season, we offer a big picture view of what we see as the top 10 fundamentals of healthy, happy living, and how they fit into five key domains of wellbeing. We point out some of the essential connections between all these considerations, and we explain why each of them matters — especially those elements commonly overlooked or underemphasized by the conventional media. If you're looking for a quick tour of what healthy living looks and feels like, you've come to the right place. Episode Highlights: Pilar outlines five dimensions of health and healthy living (4:40) Dallas and Pilar share their top 10 biggies (fundamentals for being the most vital human you can be), in no particular order (7:40) #1: Whole food nutrition and hydration (8:00) #2: Rest and recovery (10:20) #3: Healthy movement (12:00) #4: Face-to-face intimate social connection (16:25) #5: Empowered role in directing and managing your own healthcare (19:35) #6: Minimal exposure to toxic chemicals, environments and relationships (25:10) #7: Appropriate balance of stress/challenge and recovery/repair opportunity (29:00) #8: Positive growth-and-learning mindset (32:15) #9: Time in nature and the outdoors (35:50) #10: Conscious, discerning relationship with media and marketing (39:00) The art of conducting (and being) your own "living experiment" (43:55) Share the love! If you're enjoying The Living Experiment, please tell your friends about it (just click the "share this" tool on this page). People are always looking for great new podcasts, and your personal recommendations mean a lot. We'd also love to have you connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, share your thoughts, stories and reflections there. Resources: Pilar's “101 Revolutionary Ways to be Healthy” (you can explore them all and access the free mobile app here, too!). Pilar's "Revolutionary Acts" column in Experience Life Dallas's More Social, Less Media program Byron Katie's “The Work” for developing a healthier, more conscious mindset. The learner/judger Choice Map from Dr. Marilee Adams and the Inquiry Institute. Articles from Experience Life magazine on all of the Top-10 Biggies (search on the topics of interest to you). PLUS ... Sign up for our newsletter so you can stay up to date with us and receive new-show highlights as soon as they're published. Subscribe to The Living Experiment on iTunesto have fresh episodes delivered to your podcast feed each week. Sponsor link: Check out Brian Johnson's life-changing “Habits 101” Master Class for FREE.

Welkom bij aflevering 35 van de Erno Hannink Show Dit keer geen interview maar een bijdrage van mijzelf, vanwege het boek wat ik laatst heb gelezen. Shownotes   Het boek heb ik nu bijna uit, ik ga het nu ook toepassen en weet zeker dat het mij en veel anderen ontzettend zal gaan helpen. Het boek heet : Change your questions, change your life, geschreven door Marilee Adams. Het stellen van vragen geeft je mogelijkheden tot nadenken, zowel voor diegene die de vraag stelt als diegene die hem gaat beantwoorden. Denk meer na en reageer niet te snel. Hierdoor neem je rust en haal je emotie uit het moment. In de kern draait het boek over 2 dingen. Er gebeuren dingen waar je weinig invloed op hebt, die wel invloed op jou hebben. Je kunt hierop reageren door de rol van een veroordelaar aan te nemen. Probeer juist eens de rol van een observator aan te nemen. Als observator kun je vragen stellen, dingen ontdekken en naar de toekomst kijken. Het verhaal gaat over Ben, een man die leiding geeft bij een bedrijf en vaak vragen krijgt. Het staat bekend als de antwoordenman. Maar dan gaat het mis en zoekt Ben hulp bij een coach. Deze verzoekt hem om zich meer op te stellen als een man van vragen, en niet van antwoorden. Neem bij situaties van stress en op het moment dat je begint je geduld te verliezen even een moment rust. Bekijk de situatie en stel jezelf vragen. Hoe verander ik dit en hoe help ik anderen het beste? Zo kun je ontzettend veel veranderen. In plaats van snel te reageren met emotie, reageer je kalm, neem je adem, bekijk je de situatie, stel je een vraag aan jezelf en aan de ander en breek de situatie open. Vergeet niet te abonneren op de Erno Hannink Show via iTunes, Stitcher of SoundCloud. Kun je mij een groot plezier doen zodat meer ondernemers deze podcast kunnen vinden? Geef deze podcast jouw eerlijke beoordeling en recensie. Dit helpt mij enorm om deze podcast te verspreiden. Dank je wel hiervoor. Stuur me een korte e-mail om mij te laten weten dat je dit gedaan hebt en ik stuur je een verrassing. Je kunt mij bereiken op podcast@ernohannink.nl Ik hoor graag van jou. Online jouw expertise delen en daarmee nieuwe leads aantrekken? In contact komen met klanten die jou nu nog niet kennen? Online verspreiden van jouw expertise op een manier zodat het je zo min mogelijk tijd kost. Dan is Online Visibility Done4You voor jou. Het enige wat jij hoeft te doen is jouw expertise uit je hoofd te halen. Wij zorgen er voor dat deze expertise online wordt gepubliceerd en wordt verspreid. Online Visibility Done4You vind je op ErnoHannink.nl

Teleseminar with Marilee Adams on Learner/Judger, the Choice Map and how to use it