Hypothesized duality of personality types
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Life is not easy, and we actually make it harder if we imagine we can sashay through it effortlessly. But we can also make life more difficult than it needs to be by imagining that the path forward is steeper than it really is. In this post I explore the effect of "Mountain Mirage," its causes and its cures.
From hurry sickness to time blindness, our relationship with time is more complicated than we might think. We're exploring why some of us are constantly rushing even when there's no reason to hurry, while others lose track of time completely. Plus, Amelia Lester is back for another Trumpdate. This week we're looking at Andrew Tate's return to the US, disbanding the Department of Education and Mel Gibson wants his guns back... THE END BITS Support independent women's media Check out The Quicky Instagram here Read more about hurry sickness here & time blindness here Follow our new podcast BIZ here Buy tickets to The Mamamia Out Loud LIVE ALL OR NOTHING TOUR HERE: http://outloudlive.com.au/ GET IN TOUCH Share your story, feedback, or dilemma! Send us a voice note or email us at thequicky@mamamia.com.au CREDITS Hosts: Taylah Strano & Claire Murphy Executive Producer: Taylah Strano Audio Producer: Lu Hill Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It's human nature to have standards and to compare, but this tendency can go rogue and unleash harsh judgments on others—with results completely contrary to the original intentions. I have found it helpful to explore what triggers our judgment and to see what impact it has on the other person and ourselves as well. If we can learn to identify our motivations, acknowledge our shadow, try to understand what others go through and look at the impact judging has, we will be better equipped when we are tempted to judge others.
People with compulsive and obsessive tendencies tend to hold on to things—money, objects, time and ideas. We imagine that these things we hold on to make us more secure. But too often they bring us more stress than security. Some of the things we hold on to constitute our identity and worth. These are sacred cows in the worst sense—traits that we feel we can't question much less let go of. And these cows are a heavy burden to carry. We'll start with a story from the Buddha, explore scarcity mindset, and talk about two examples of women struggling with their sacred cows. Finally, we'll discuss how letting go of sacred cows can lead to more fulfillment. lMB8tObSEfl1xD1abKMe
One way to free ourselves from unhealthy compulsive behavior is to understand our motivations, what drives and actually controls us. While we're all unique, there are ancient and common patterns that underlie the roles we take on in life such as mother, father, warrior, healer, savior, priest, jester, caretaker and leader. These patterns are known as archetypes, and they're illustrated in myths and symbols. These patterns exert a magnetic influence that can give us intuitive guidance and energy to help us do what we need to do. Or they can drag us into a perpetual rut of expectations and despair. Heroic energy can flow freely like water, or be frozen and rigid like ice.
Michelle Gladieux, a communication expert, debate coach, executive coach, and author of “Communicate with Courage: Taking Risks to Overcome the Four Hidden Challenges,“ brings years of experience in training leaders in almost every industry for more impactful presentations. Four personality skills consist of: 1) driver for highly assertive person; 2) analyst is great at details; 3) amiable means you are flexible; 4) expressive style is one who is gregarious and loves to talk. The four challenges: 1) hiding from risk when the risk should be confronted; 2) defining to be right and confident; 3) rationalizing the negative and being afraid to bring it up; 4) settling for just “good enough.” Example of ProMoves is just doing a little more than the average reaction. Mainstream media was accurately criticized for biased, unprofessional coverage of the Trump-Harris Campaigns, especially by consistently burying many of Trump's acerbic inaccurate statements such as imprisoning some political opponents.
Self control does have some benefits for relationships. But it also has dangers. If your self-restraint keeps you from expressing positive and intimate feelings, it may leave your partner feeling disconnected and unloved, which doesn't encourage them to express their feelings either, and then things start to go downhill quickly. But if you can be more intentional in using your self control to actually express more, the relationship is more likely to thrive.
Parenting Anxious Teens | Parenting Teens, Managing Teen Anxiety, Parenting Strategies
Hi Parents! In this episode, we're diving into the differences between high-functioning anxiety and a Type A personality in teens. It's easy to confuse the two since both can show up as high-achieving and driven, but high-functioning anxiety hides an inner struggle with constant fear and self-doubt. I'll be breaking down how you can spot the signs of high-functioning anxiety and what makes it unique from a naturally Type A mindset. Tune in to learn practical ways to help your teen navigate their anxiety and encourage self-compassion. We'll also explore how addressing high-functioning anxiety early on can prevent deeper emotional challenges, like burnout or depression. By understanding this distinction, you can better support your teen in achieving success without anxiety as the driving force behind their accomplishments. Whether you're unsure if your teen's drive is healthy or masking anxiety, this episode will help you recognize the signs and provide support where it's needed. Big hugs, Monica Crnogorac Next Steps Book a Free Discovery Call Visit My Website for More Information on My 8-Week Program Connect With Me on Instagram
Live a life you want - filled with join, peace, abundance and calm. Today, we'll learn to hustle without burnout with guest Stephanie O'Dea. Stephanie turned her passion of slow cooked meals into a philosophy for living life and uses it to coach others to live SLOW and with purpose to hit your goals and enjoy the process. Grab a copy of Steph's newest book: Slow Living: Cultivating a Life of Purpse in a Hustle Driven World Connect at www.stephanieodea.com
Since people with obsessive-compulsive personality traits often feel that the right thing is to hold on to money, time, objects and compliments, they may miss out on the benefits of generosity. And since they tend to get engrossed in goals, projects, and fixing things, they may neurologically wire themselves into a narrow focus which excludes generosity. I can't guarantee you'll feel happier if you engage in large or small acts of kindness, but I do believe there is a very good chance that you will at least feel like your life has more meaning—and, silver lining for the compulsive—you'll feel like you have more control over your mood.
People pleasing and obsessive-compulsive personality occur together far more than many might think. Some people heroically put all their determination and perfectionism into making other people happy with the assumption that it will come back to them in love, support or affirmation. It often does not happen that way. In fact, it can backfire.
The world can be really annoying. But we can question how annoyed we need to be. And examining our response can lead us to understand lots about ourselves. It could even make us happier. What do we expect of the world, and how do we handle it when it doesn't meet our standards? This isn't just about letting others off the hook, but an investigation into how we spend our energy, the quality of our relationships, and whether our priorities and our behavior match up.
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Abby Calabrese joins us to share her journey of overcoming burnout and her decision to quit alcohol. She discusses the challenges of motherhood and the chaos it brings and how alcohol became a coping mechanism for stress and burnout. We also discuss Abby's journey through burnout and overwhelm as a working mom and she shares alternative ways to de-stress and take care of herself.Abby offers a video course and one-on-one coaching to help individuals navigate burnout and find balance in their lives.You can follow Abby on Instagram: @itsabbycalabreseGet a FREE section of her Career Alignment course here: https://www.abbycalabrese.com/registerIf you would like to work with Abby or get more information on her video course visit: https://www.abbycalabrese.com/Don't forget to follow the podcast on Instagram: @ididntsignupforthispodcast and for more everyday mom life, follow me on Instagram @honestly.kaitlyn, TikTok: @honestly.kaitlyn and YouTube: @honestly.kaitlyn If you enjoyed this episode, I would love it if you would leave a review and share the episode with someone you think would enjoy it!Want to feel comfy and stylish with zero effort or take back control of your chaotic life as a mom? Get 10% off the Everyday Two-Piece Lounge Set (made from 70% bamboo) and our Six-Month Planner designed to be done in as little as 5 minutes to help you stay organized with code PODCAST10 - www.onyourwayco.com
For some of us chaos is disturbing on a deep level. And it's often beyond our control. But the question is whether the chaos is just out there in the outer world, or in our inner world. Our assessment and our reaction to it determine partly just how chaotic it is. In this episode Gary shares some of his own personal experiences with chaos and how he has dealt with them.
TAKEAWAYSPersonal transformation from a party-centric lifestyle to a health-focused lifeThe significance of wellness and fitness in achieving fulfillmentThe role of community in personal growth and motivationStrategies for replacing unhealthy habits with positive alternativesThe impact of exercise on mental and emotional well-beingThe importance of finding mentors or coaches in fitness journeysDifferences between online and in-person training experiencesNutrition principles, including the focus on whole foods and supplementsThe value of personalized health assessments through regular blood workFuture aspirations in the wellness industry and community engagementTIMESTAMPSIntroduction to Vibe Science (00:00:00)Introduction of the podcast and hosts Ryan Alford and Chris Hansen.Welcoming Eric Hinman (00:00:16)Ryan expresses excitement about having Eric Hinman, a five-time Ironman and entrepreneur, on the show.Eric's Fitness Journey (00:01:31)Eric discusses his shift from partying to fitness, emphasizing enjoyment and mental clarity.Nature vs. Nurture Discussion (00:02:00)Ryan questions Eric about his upbringing and how he chose the healthy path over unhealthy habits.The Role of Exercise in Well-being (00:03:47)Eric shares how he became obsessed with exercise, particularly CrossFit and triathlons, for social fulfillment.Replacing Bad Habits with Good Ones (00:04:49)Eric explains the importance of replacing unhealthy habits with positive activities for lasting change.Community and Support in Fitness (00:06:03)Ryan highlights how the community helps in overcoming challenges and building a new lifestyle.Eric's Entrepreneurial Background (00:09:14)Eric reflects on his entrepreneurial journey, starting from a family insurance business to various ventures.Building a Niche in Business (00:10:31)Eric discusses finding success by specializing in campground and marina insurance.Transition to Wellness Entrepreneurship (00:11:35)Eric shares his transition into the wellness industry, including opening a CrossFit gym and healthy restaurants.Content Creation and Influencer Marketing (00:12:36)Eric talks about his role in content creation and supporting early-stage wellness brands.Authenticity in Influencer Marketing (00:14:28)Ryan and Chris discuss the importance of authenticity in influencer marketing and brand partnerships.Apollo Neuro Partnership (00:15:29)Ryan introduces the Apollo Neuro wearable device, emphasizing its benefits for sleep and wellness.Strategic Consultation for Brands (00:17:19)Eric explains his role in helping brands find the right ambassadors and market fit.Networking and Collaboration (00:20:08)Eric discusses the benefits of authentic networking through hosting and collaboration in wellness.Healthy Habits and Inhibitions (00:21:30)Discussion on Eric's journey to healthy habits and the concept of bad days.Cheat Days (00:22:00)Eric shares anecdotes about his dessert choices and the concept of cheat days.Dessert Choices and Health (00:22:03)Eric humorously discusses his love for healthy desserts and the consequences of excessive maple syrup.Type-A Personality and Progress (00:23:15)Eric reflects on his type-A personality and the impact of overcommitting on his well-being.Moderation in Lifestyle (00:24:32)The speakers discuss the importance of moderation in health and fitness routines.Starting a Health Journey (00:25:00)Advice on how to begin a healthier lifestyle through accountability and habit formation.Online vs. In-Person Training (00:26:30)Eric shares his thoughts on the effectiveness of in-person training compared to online coaching.Foundational Nutrition (00:28:33)Eric emphasizes the importance of whole foods and basic nutrition for overall health.Supplementation Basics (00:29:39)Discussion on essential supplements and their role in supporting a healthy diet.Finding Effective Supplements (00:31:01)Challenges in identifying effective supplements and the importance of bloodwork.Practical Fitness Advice (00:33:47)Eric shares his fitness routine and the benefits of regular exercise.Pharmaceuticals and Hormones (00:34:17)Eric discusses his perspective on using hormones and peptides for health benefits.Future Plans and Events (00:37:00)Eric outlines his future plans, including hosting events and launching a race series. Follow us on Instagram: @Vibe.Science Subscribe to our YouTube Page: www.youtube.com/@Vibe.Science
Living with urgency and living with ease are two opposite approaches to life. If asked which we prefer, most of us would say ease, but few of us actually live that way. Join me in this episode to explore our surprising resistance to ease, the unhealthy side effects of urgency, and suggestions for how to transition from a life of urgency to a life of ease.
Stop thinking you're supposed to be smelling the roses when you know that planting and managing the garden is what really makes you happy. Wouldn't it be nice to be happy? I suspect that most of my listeners would agree, but find that as hard as turning off the sun. It feels out of our control. Everything that's unresolved, imperfected and out-of-order are exposed to the light whether we want to see it or not. I think that to the degree that we can control it, it requires a different approach than the one that's often suggested—or perhaps I should say, an additional approach that doesn't go against popular wisdom, but takes into account the psychological territory we're in. So, in this podcast I will make some realistic suggestions about how people with compulsive and perfectionistic tendencies, planning and list-making in particular, can work with those to achieve some degree of happiness.
Some people are reluctant to go to therapy for fear of wasting their time there. Others may already be in therapy but fear they are wasting their time. This is understandable for the many compulsives who feel strongly about being efficient and effective. But you can go to therapy and use your time there wisely. To help listeners make the most of therapy I've outlined some of the most important tools to make sure that you don't waste your time there—and so that you don't feel like you're wasting time when you're actually doing good work!
Beneath our everyday surface anxieties are deeper more substantial fears, core fears that control our behavior and affect our mood more than we imagine. If we can identify these core fears, and learn to stare them down, they have less power over us. To do this we need to also identify our coping strategies, the ones that allow us to temporarily escape these fears by controlling, overworking, people pleasing or obsessing. Once we do so, we can pursue our passions rather than just avoid our fears.
Seriousness is a questionable virtue. A least for those of us who tend want to have everything a certain way, need to have things resolved, and have a hard time delegating because no-one else will do it as well. When we get stuck in this mode, we need help to let go and appreciate life as it is. One character who has been doing this for thousands of years in the archetype of the Fool. The more we tend to reject his qualities, the more we need them. Seeing his image can help us to find those qualities inside of us and achieve a better balance in life.
Parenting for Type A, driven, ambitious, high-achieving and obsessive-compulsive parents requires a different approach than the one we usually bring to our lives. Rather than pushing it requires waiting, in addition to work it requires play, and rather than achievement it requires connection. And because we don't always come across as we think we do, our children may experience us as being more demanding than we actually are. Both Type A parents and their children will find this informative. Please join us for this research-based exploration of the perils and potentials of the obsessive-compulsive parent.
Believing that we are somehow insufficient often leads us to work too hard, try too hard and think too hard. Enough of that. This episode explores the impact this belief has on us and how we can change that perspective.
What if you had been taken over by a part of your personality, a part of your personality that was meant to help you, but had become a tyrant? Join us for an interview with "Obsessive-Compulsive," also known as OCom, as we explore how to make the best use of this driven part of you. Playful, yet at the same time serious, this episode describes an example of parts work, psychological work that gets past the conflict between reason and feeling that we too often run into when trying to change.
Ever wonder how you got to be who you are? And what you would need to do to change? The answer is not as simple as it's often made out to be. Join us for this episode of The Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast as we explore the deeper dynamics of personality development.
In this episode, Professor Pete Alexander and I discuss his experience with having a life out of balance… His upbringing solidified over-performance which led him to burning the candle at both ends, trying to be everything to everyone. This stress led him serious health problems where he was faced with having to change everything. Professor Pete Alexander is the President of the greatest interior landscaping company in the San Francisco Bay Area - Office Plants by Everything Grows. In addition, he serves as an adjunct college professor, where he helps inspire students to develop and apply key concepts of marketing specifically to their area of interest. He's also a TEDx speaker and best-selling author on reducing stress in your everyday life. Lastly, but certainly not least, he is a certified Laughter Yoga leader and improv comedy cast member, supporting his community to laugh more and stress less. I am your host, Marci Nettles. I have had a lifetime of opportunities where I had the choice to Breakdown or Breakthrough. It is my hope this Podcast may become your light in the darkness, as you listen to the stories of people I consider “heroes.” Each one had a point where they too had to choose to either Breakdown or Breakthrough! Working from home, with my husband/business partner, helping people around the world find new levels of success in their health and wellness, is part of what makes me tick! If you are open to opportunity, let's connect! Thank you for listening! Please connect with Professor Pete: PeteAlexander.com Purchase Professor Pete's book here: MarciNettles.com/books Find Marci at marcinettles.com Don't forget to claim your FREEBIE from Professor Pete by going to Marcinettles.com/freebies While you are there, make sure to subscribe to receive the YBWN Podcast Newsletter, ‘Making Mondays,' that will give you insight into each episode and give you a heads up on what is coming next!
“Hi, I'm Raya and I'm a recovering structure addict”. Like most Type A individuals, I thrive on structure, organization, and time-specific tasks. Unfortunately, my need for structure got so bad that I started dreading quality time with friends and family. Thankfully, I've found ways to stay organized that suit my personality, but those ways are no longer at the expense of anyone or anything! In this episode, I'm sharing 5 ways a Type A personality (AKA Me) stays organized and sane. If you struggle with this, hopefully my tips and resources can help! Here's a glance at this episode: [02:02] There was a point in time where dinner out with her besties felt like a chore to Raya. She knew things had to change. [05:26] One of the great things about Asana is that you can color-code your tasks to help categorize everything that needs to get done. [08:25] Not only does OneNote help Raya identify her tasks for the day, but it includes the goals she's working on, so they're always front and center. [13:05] Raya batches tasks like recording podcast episodes and writing blog articles, to help her manage her time more effectively. [17:57] Learning how to say “yes” to things that are non-work related has helped Raya utilize her time for things outside of just work and business. Rate, Review, & Follow: Did you love this episode? Are you a fan of the City Girl Savings podcast? If so, please consider rating and reviewing the show! This helps spread the word about City Girl Savings, and hopefully helps more people make the best money moves possible on the way to their dream life! To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, please make sure you're subscribed and following the City Girl Savings podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube! Resources mentioned in this episode: Raya Recommends: Task Management Tool Asana Learn about Raya's Financial Focus Coaching Program Follow City Girl Savings on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok Join the City Girl Savings Facebook Group Subscribe to the City Girl Savings Newsletter!
We're honored and delighted to have Dr. Akil Taher, who has done everything from triathlons to skydiving, hang gliding and scuba diving. He did all of this AFTER going through open-heart surgery at age 61.Since heart disease is one of the major risk factors that can contribute to the likelihood of developing dementia, I just had to invite him to share his story of plant-powered transformation. Some Highlights:2:30 Why older people are happier than young people, despite physical illnesses4:31 How what he called the “See Food” diet and a Type A Personality nearly killed Dr. Taher08:34 How denial sent Dr. Taher on a downward spiral 12:00 the importance of fiber in your diet14:10 why pockets in your colon are NOT normal, despite what North American doctors tell you15:47 Making the choice to be in control19:00 First marathon post-bypass surgery and an amazing gift in a dream22:00 First mountain climbing expedition 1 year post-bypass24:28 Dr. Taher's Six Pillars of Health31:40 What is broken heart syndrome?33:41 Going plant-powered is delicious and does not have to be complicated 36:00 What exercises are best for your heart (and your brain?)41:39 Dr. Taher's Book is OPEN-HEARTFollow Dr. Taher on FacebookStart your Brain Health Journey with Five Easy Things you can do Right Now to Improve Your Brain https://harplady.lpages.co/five-steps-to-a-better-brain/To learn even more about the power of a whole foods, plant-based diet for a healthier brain, check out Kate's books, "Don't Let the Memories Fade", "The Vegan Brain" and "The Musical Brain" Check out the Brain Health Matters BLOG for many more ways to improve your brain and your life!
Proving yourself is, on the one hand, part of our social makeup, but it can also backfire if we neglect our true self to impress others. It can lead to heightened anxiety, diminishing the fulfillment that might come with living well naturally. In this episode we explore some of the insecurities that can lead to trying too hard to prove yourself.
The 3rd type of obsessive-compulsive personality is the Server-Friend, who can become either wonderful companions, or people pleasers who lose their true self. Their suffering is not always seen, but it's real. We look at the stories of two examples, one unbalanced, the other very well balanced.
OCPD is reputed to be resistant to change, yet there is abundant evidence that with help and motivation, many can alter their behavior to live in a more well-adapted and fulfilling way. Key is working with the personality traits and enlisting them in the process of change.
What is Shame? An inaccurate & debilitating interpretation of our limitations as humans. Trying to avoid it with perfection makes it worse. In this episode we distinguish shame from guilt and and explore how to override it.
Demand sensitivity is a lens which distorts our sense of what others want from us. This lens misinterprets the most benign hopes for us as demands, and we sacrifice out own needs to meet what we mistakenly think are the expectations of others.
In this episode of the The Healthy Compulsive Podcast we explore the relations between ideals, rules and commandments. People with Obsessive-Compulisve Personality may try to remedy insecurity by becoming overly conscientious. They may convert ideals into commandments, and good guidelines become rigid & destructive.
People with obsessive-compulsive personality are not all alike. Four typical types are leaders, workers, servers, and thinkers. Each type has healthy and unhealthy potential. Developing each of these rather than relying on just one type helps us to live healthier, more balanced lives.
Vacationing can be a trial for perfectionists, obsessive-compulsives, and Type A personalities. Things rarely go according to plan, and the struggle to let go can be difficult. This episode includes two blog posts: A Short Guide to Vacationing for Workaholics, Compulsives, and Type A's, and There Will Be Roosters: A Personal Story about Obsessing.
When cultivating the potential of the obsessive-compulsive personality, an essential ingredient is inspiration. But too often, the frozen version of the obsessive-compulsive personality won't let in the very thing we need.
More often than not I work with the Type-A, overachieving type of person. Usually these individuals are highly motivated, they take direction well, they're organized, and they have a passion for bettering themselves. While these are amazing traits to have of course, they can often be our downfall especially in regards to our health. I am also that Type-A individual, and for a long time I was experiencing symptoms of dysfunction that I passed off as being "normal" and I pushed through. I see myself in so many of you - the people I work with, the people I coach in the gym, and the people I talk to daily. I love that you're disciplined and motivated but I hate that you're not recognizing when you've crossed the line into pushing yourself so hard that your health is actually being harmed by it. And I know that's not your intention, so this episode is designed to help bring awareness to this pattern so you can begin to shift your mindset, habits, and behaviors to better care for yourself. In today's episode, we explore when the Type A personality type can fall into bad health habits, how to shift how you view your health and fitness in a more positive way, and affirmations to help shift your mindset to create balance in your life. Connect with Coach Diana Leigh IG, TikTok, and Threads @coachdianaleigh Email coachdianaleigh@gmail.com
This episode explores the link between unhealthy compulsivity and depression in three parts: understanding what depression may be trying to tell us, how the negativity bias protects us and makes us miserable at the same time, and why compulsives get stuck on the hedonic treadmill. Click here for the written version. TranscriptWhy Compulsive People Get Depressed Part 1: The Missed Potential of Low Mood Constance was meticulous in everything she did. She was famous, and at times infamous, for accuracy at her job, for her fastidiousness in her home, and for her painstaking protocol when running the PTA. Her friends and colleagues said that while she was really well-intentioned, her standards were just too high and she was way too controlling. “You need to let go” everyone told her. But she was determined to get everything just right. And when a big project didn't go her way, she found herself falling into into a funk. She couldn't care anymore. It felt like the drive that had throttled her through life so far was missing in action. But since we're all very enlightened and tend to think that depression is nothing more than a pathological state these days, it didn't occur to her that perhaps the depression was telling her something, and that it was telling her that walking away from unrealistic expectations just might be a healthy reaction. Not only did she miss the message, she interpreted it in a way that made her more depressed. She thought there was something wrong with her. This is the first in a short series about the reasons that compulsive people get depressed. People who meet the full criteria for obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), and those who have just a few compulsive personality traits, are both especially susceptible to depression, and it's important to untangle the depression from the personality. Otherwise they can each make the other worse. Being compulsive can make us depressed, and sometimes we try to cure or cover the depression by being more compulsive. Not a good idea.Bringing awareness to the possible function of depression is particularly important for people who are compulsive because they often endure their suffering in the territory of “high-functioning depression”–hidden from all, but painful nevertheless.These posts will offer a very different way to understand depression, and offer suggestions to help you break the cycle that can occur between compulsive personality and depression. However, I also want to make clear that if you're suffering from a serious depression you should consult a mental health professional for help through psychotherapy, medication or both.ContentsThe Potential Purpose and Value of DepressionThe Evolutionary Benefits of DepressionJung: Depression is the Unconscious Trying To Balance UsAnd Now–The RealityWhat happened to chemical imbalances?The TakeawayThe Potential Purpose and Value of DepressionDepression sometimes has a purpose. Especially if you're compulsive or driven, it can be nature's way of slowing you down when you're racing too far and too fast in one direction. Correctly understood, it has potential value.While there is much to support this idea of depression having purpose, in this post I'll be drawing on two particular and very different sources to support it: psychologist and mood researcher Jonathan Rottenberg at the University of South Florida, and early twentieth century groundbreaking psychiatrist, Carl Jung.Rottenberg has experienced major depression himself, and he's published a book about the science of low mood: The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic. He shares reams of data to back up the idea that there have been evolutionary benefits for low mood. Rottenberg questions the way depression is usually understood. He asks: Why is it that we've invested such huge resources in treating depression, but so many people are still so depressed?Jung didn't have the data at his disposal that Rottenberg did, but he still somehow understood, 100 years before, that if we look for the potential purpose in “mental illness” we can contend with it in a more holistic and effective way.Both urge us to stop pathologizing depression and start listening to what it's trying to tell us. It's not a defect, it's a message.The Evolutionary Benefits of DepressionRottenberg's basic argument is that low mood has had evolutionary benefits that have helped us to survive and develop, so it's been pretty deeply engrained in us. Here are a few of the benefits:It discourages destructive conflict and sensitizes us to social risk. This was really important in the conditions in which we evolved: bands of 75 people struggling for survival. The better you get along, the more likely you are to survive because you can cooperate in collecting food, and in warding off intruders, those nasty, rule-breaking goons who hadn't bothered filling out the paperwork to join the United Nations.It discourages wasteful effort. When you hit a wall, when persistence becomes a liability, depression forces you to stop digging. It reduces the energy that would otherwise be wasted on futile goal pursuits such as trying to get everyone else to be as scrupulous and fastidious as you are.It slows us down so that we can actually concentrate more, and make better decisions about what's realistic. This can prevent calamities such as racing headlong into projects by yourself with the absolute certainty that you have to take it on alone because no-one else will do it the right way.People who are driven can become possessed by an idea and become rigid and inflexible in their drive to do what they feel is the right thing. It shows up in road rage, unwieldy kitchen commands, and passive-aggressive punishment aimed at those who don't comply. It can cause unproductive interpersonal conflict, waste energy, and lead to bad decisions. Depression can lessen that tendency and can help us to slow down and question the strategies we've been so cocksure about.To anthropomorphize in a very unscientific way, depression says, if you don't let go willingly, I will force you to let go grudgingly.Jung: Depression is the Unconscious Trying To Balance UsCarl Jung believed that the human psyche is a self-balancing, homeostatic system. Or at least it can be if ...
Introducing The Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast, offering information, insights, and inspiration to optimize the obsessive-compulsive personality. From clinical, personal and Jungian perspectives, help with depth and a light touch for OCPD, perfectionists, control freaks and micro-managers. Transcript:Wait, The Healthy Compulsive? Isn't that an oxymoron?Not in my book. And I'll tell you how I got there.Five years ago I launched The Healthy Compulsive Project, starting with a blog, and later adding a book. Today I'm launching a podcast, an OCPD podcast, but for many more than just those with OCPD. The goal of the Project has been to help people with obsessive, compulsive, perfectionistic, micro-managing and type A personalities live healthier and more fulfilling lives, lives that are better not despite their compulsive tendencies, but because of them.The audience for the Project includes people with Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder—OCPD, and those who might just have a few of the personality traits and don't meet the full criteria for the personality disorder. It's not intended for people with OCD, Obsessive-compulsive disorder, which is a different condition, with different implications for treatment. I'll explain the differences later.The obsessive-compulsive personality type has much to offer. Harness the drive at the root of it and you've got direction, energy and purpose.The word compulsive derives from the words compelled and driven. And that's not always bad. Lots of good has come out of having an inner drive that's hard to resist.But I'm not Pollyannaish about this either. When hijacked by anxiety and insecurity, this energy can lead to a really lousy life: depression, rigidity, chronic irritability, work addiction, and paralyzing perfectionism. And it can destroy relationships.Healthy and unhealthy compulsiveness are like water and ice. It's the same material. But, one flows freely and the other's frozen stiff. All the insistence and determination characteristic of compulsives can be used constructively or destructively.To move toward the healthier end of the compulsive spectrum takes the willingness to face uncomfortable feelings and to forgo the security of overdoing everything with planning, control and perfectionism.You may notice that I'm lopping together the terms compulsive, obsessive, perfectionistic and Type A. While there are differences between them, there is more overlap than distinction. In the great battle between specificity and efficiency, I'm going to side with efficiency on this one, referring to the lot of them as compulsives, rather than listing everyone that my comments might apply to each time.I'll explain the differences in future episodes, but for now I'll say that a common denominator is that they all feel compelled to bring order to what they experience as chaos—for worse and better. And within the obsessive-compulsive personality there are four subtypes. I'll also explain those later, but for now we can describe them briefly as leader, worker, server, and thinker.The New OCPD PodcastGetting back to The Healthy Compulsive Project I began five years ago…Reactions to the book and the blog have been gratifying and encouraging. It seems that they've helped lots of folks look at their condition in a very different way, and to behave in ways that leave them less depressed. It's also helped some of their loved ones feel less oppressed. Many people who've been diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder have found hope in the perspective that I've outlined, helping them to shake the impression that having a personality disorder meant they were doomed to a lifetime of misery.But a number of readers have suggested that, given how busy they are, and how much being efficient means to them, it would be easier if they could listen to the blog, rather than reading it. So, starting today, the Healthy Compulsive Project will also include a podcast. The content in the recorded podcast will be virtually the same as that in the written blog. This way you can listen to it while you drive to your job, walk your mongrel, cook your red beans and rice, and tackle other mindless projects so that you feel like you're being more productive.The blog has over 80 written entries at this point, with one or two new posts coming out each month. I'll continue to post new, written blogs. The podcasts will include the recorded version of new blog posts, along with recordings of older blog posts.Some episodes will be like an audio magazine—several articles addressing a central theme. Others will include only one blog article.Upcoming themes in the podcast will include:• Origins of the compulsive personality• Psychotherapy treatment• Work• Relationships and Parenting• Perfectionism and Control• Shame and guilt• Archetypes and Carl Jung• Depression and Anxiety• Mindfulness MeditationOne bummer about podcasts is that you can't hyperlink. I like to hyperlink in the blog so that you know that I'm not just making this stuff up. Well, not all of it. Research on OCPD is still scant, but I do quote the studies we do have when they're relevant. If you want to follow up on any research that I quote, you can find links to the studies in the blog.Two final notes about tone and content in this podcast. Compulsives are a serious lot, and this is a serious subject. I will respect that. But compulsives are also too serious for their own good, and the path forward is being a little less tightly wound. (Or maybe even a lot less tightly wound.) So at times my tone will be lighter, more playful and even mischievous. Making room for mirth is an intentional part of the Project.Film and television reviews might seem frivolous as well when trying to escape the confines of a personality disorder. But while information, logic and insight are powerful, they are not always powerful enough in themselves to change us. Characters such as Ove in A Man Called Ove (or Otto, in the more recent Tom Hanks version), Chidi in the television series The Good Place, and Mrs. Poulteny in The French Lieutenant's Woman, can all repel or inspire us to make changes that reason and information cannot.It doesn't take an Einstein to know that doing the same thing the same way will lead to the same problem. Try different for a change.How Has it Come to This?So how did I get here? First of all, I have my own compulsive tendencies which you'll hear about on occasion. Most days I don't meet the full criteria for obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, but I do know all too well how the drive to perfect, plan, please and complete can get out of control.Just as an example, as the outlines of this podcast began to take shape, excitement turned to despair as I realized that I wouldn't be able to make it as elegant and as perfect as I wanted it to be. I almost backed out. My challenge will be not to make it perfect, but to welcome its imperfections—however imperfectly—while still producing something that makes sense and is helpful to you guys out there.Back to how I got here….In my clinical practice I began noticing the obsessive-compuls...
Control freaks and perfectionists unite! Anyone who's ever been known to overwork, overplan, overcontrol or overanalyze is welcome here, where the obsessive-compulsive personality is explored and harnessed to deliver what it was originally meant to deliver. Join psychotherapist, Jungian psychoanalyst and author Gary Trosclair as he delves into the pitfalls and potential of the driven personality with an informative, positive, and often playful approach to this sometimes-vexing character style.
Do you struggle with people pleasing tendencies? Anxiety? Struggling with feeling worthy despite your appearance and successes? How's your relationship with food? And your partner? Is it possible you were under-fathered?In this episode, we discuss:What is the “father wound”My father wound experienceHow it shows up in our body, personality, + health The energetic and emotional qualities and its effect on our livesHow I see this show up commonly in my practiceIf you are experiencing any symptoms that are hindering your gut, hormonal, or mental health, consider joining us in my signature 4-month mind-body program, BODY GENIUS.I've unlocked the first module for you to get a taste of the experience, join the waitlist and check it out here:https://nia-carrillo.mykajabi.com/body-genius
Please Subscribe and Review: Apple Podcasts | RSS Submit your questions for the podcast here News Topic: IgG4 Antibodies Induced by Repeated Vaccination May Generate Immune Tolerance to the SARS-CoV-2 Spike Protein Effectiveness of the Coronavirus Disease 2019 Bivalent Vaccine Show Notes: Sustainable Dish recipe for Salty Grapefruit Limeade Emily Fletcher: Stress Less, Accomplish More Questions: Apeel Fruit Coating Ann asks: Hi Robb & Nikki I've listen to you since the beginning and I've been a fan of Robb's since he was with Loren Cordain. I have a question that is really bothering me. I try my hardest to do everything as healthy as I can afford and can physically manage, but lately, there's a lot of conversation about the new Fruit and vegetable coating that's called Apeel. I feel that this isn't safe, but what are you supposed to do if the only fruit and vegetable that you can find has that on it?? Have you researched this at all? I'd be interested in what you'd have to say Type A personality and High-ish fasting glucose Kelly writes: Hi Robb! I'm a fairly new listener (just started listening a few months ago - thank you for your super interesting range of topics!). I had a question after reading one short line in your book Wired to Eat. You mentioned that being Type A or “wound tightly” can lead to higher readings of fasting blood sugar. I personally would describe myself as Type A and always wake up with a rush of energy in the morning and an urge to “get things done” immediately. I also have a history of anxiety, although it's been amazingly managed with switching over to zero added sugar, zero grains and by getting great sleep. Recently I've been experimenting with my blood sugar to get a sense of where I'm at. I test after meals (usually 1.5 hours) and my blood sugar is always around 77-100, depending on if I went on a walk after the meal or not. Typically it hovers on average at 86-90 postprandial. And from my understanding, the goal is to be under 120 by two hours. So these results seem great! But everytime I test my fasted blood sugar around 6am, it's on the “higher” side of normal - 89-95. Could this be due to my Type A personality as you mentioned in your book? For reference: I'm a 5'5” 30 year old woman. I'm very active (walk about 13-15,000 steps per day), go to the gym 4-5 days per week for resistance training. I eat lower carb, I don't eat grains, I get about 130 grams of protein per day (around 90-100 of that being from complete sources), I eat 1-2 servings of low sugar fruit per day, I'm not shy on eating whole fats (but I don't track, so not entirely sure on what I eat per day - but I always eat until satisfied). In the past, my triglycerides were well under 100, usually around 70 ish and my blood pressure is about 100/65. Thank you for your insight! I appreciate the way you reason things out. Sponsor: The Healthy Rebellion Radio is sponsored by our electrolyte company, LMNT. Proper hydration is more than just drinking water. You need electrolytes too! Check out The Healthy Rebellion Radio sponsor LMNT for grab-and-go electrolyte packets to keep you at your peak! They give you all the electrolytes want, none of the stuff you don't. Click here to get your LMNT electrolytes
You're not imagining it. Stress is making us anxious and it is effecting our thoughts, feelings, and physical bodies. Psychotherapist, John Tsilimparis, is back to explain the importance of identifying/managing stress and understanding how anxiety effects each of us differently. And, gives us a simple stress test ( a great tool – really) that we can take anytime to tell us the truth about our stress and its affects. Building emotional resilience is the key to adapting to change and going with the tide. We must choose to be like to ocean to ride every wave of life.
In the inaugural episode of "Real Parenting Stories", I have a conversation with Colleen, who recounts her postpartum experience and how joining a support group made all the difference. Our guest is a vibrant, sentimental young woman who identifies as a "type A" personality. I had the pleasure of sharing a moment of her life and a glass of delightful Italian wine (my French parents need not know!). Colleen emphasizes the importance of being part of a community and how it can lead to thriving. She explains how she discovered solace in knowing she wasn't alone in her struggles and finding comfort in seeing other mothers in similar situations. Colleen also discusses her struggles with anxiety, particularly during pregnancy, and shares various techniques she employs to manage it. Additionally, Colleen emphasizes how receiving support from loved ones, particularly her supportive mother, helped her on her motherhood journey. I found Colleen's story inspiring and hopeful, and I hope you will too! If you enjoyed this podcast and would like to show your support, please consider giving a 5-star rating. Your ratings help us grow!To stay updated and never miss an episode of The Real Parenting Stories, follow the podcast Instagram account: @realparentingstories
It feels like Infertility and being Type-A don't mix. There are so many little projects to do, so many things to crush and accomplish. However, nothing ever goes to plan and right when you think you have done enough, infertility puts you on a roller coaster of emotions. You can doubt who you are at the core of your being!If you have ever said, "why isn't this working, I have done everything perfectly, why can't I get pregnant?" This episode is for YOU! Uniquely Knitted is a Non-Profit Organization serving all who are emotionally affected by infertility. We are on a mission to bring healing to the traumas of infertility and end the isolation that comes with struggling to grow your family.Learn more at https://uniquelyknitted.org
Bio for Claudia MillerClaudia Miller is a sought-after career coach for women in technology-oriented fields. She's also the creator & host of the Roadmap To The Executive Suite podcast. Episode highlightAs a Guatemalan-American, Claudia Miller struggled to find her voice in corporate America. Listen in on how she relied on education to rise above her humble beginnings and achieve success.LinksEmail:claudia@claudiatmiller.comhello@claudiatmiller.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudiatmiller/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claudiatmiller/?inf_contact_key=b4a331f0fa8c27a480f318b6815d523b YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWxmLccVbCHKDRKgjNXz1Rw Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5sD12Uywtp3sI6ofpAOCYV?si=dd8a03e75f344275 Website: https://www.claudiatmiller.com/ Quotes“You can never do the bare minimum and expect success.”“I knew I wanted more out of life than just my husband and kids.”TakeawaysChildhood IncidentsClaudia was born in Guatemala and has three other sisters. Her family moved to the USA when she was diagnosed with a chronic blood illness which could be better managed there. After her parents separated, Claudia found herself living at a homeless shelter for women. She worked hard on her studies because she knew education would help her out of these hard times. Influential Groups Claudia's Latino background taught her that women should not speak up for themselves, such as attempting to negotiating salary or marketing one's personal brand. The diverse student body at the college she attended allowed her to discover new cultures and expand her way of thinking.Temperament and Personality InfluencesClaudia claims she has always had an ambitious Type A personality.Cultural EpiphaniesClaudia grew up in a culture that strongly emphasized humility and domesticity among women, forcing her to reframe her mindset in a way that would enable her success in business. She had only watched Spanish-language media growing up, so Claudia felt left out when her peers at college discussed some aspect of the popular culture she had never experienced.Moving out of her home to go to college was a big cultural change for her family since it is uncommon to leave Latino households before for marriage. Advice to an Employer Claudia is very solution-focused so she only works with clients she knows she can help. Her clients being open, communicative, and willing to work to get results brings out the best in her. More Great Insights! Claudia coaches women in tech to land fulfilling roles in an average of 90 days with an average of 56% in salary increases. Support the show
Special guest Shirley tells KC, Faye and special guest Tay about the Debate Murder AKA The Fitbit Murder. Sources: an article on CT Insider by Christine Dempsey and an article on NY Daily News by Joseph Wilkinson. Follow us on social media! http://Facebook.com/unholygossipgirls http://Twitter.com/girlsunholy https://www.instagram.com/unholygossipgirls Email us! Unholygossipgirls@gmail.com Check out our merch! https://teespring.com/stores/unholygossipgirlsmerch Leave us a voicemail! https://anchor.fm/unholygossipgirls Warning: content may be upsetting, triggering, and terrifying. Listen at your own risk. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/unholygossipgirls/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/unholygossipgirls/support
Story of failure: Breaking our kitchen window playing baseball.Ethan Bryan is a storyteller whose narratives explore what it means to live a good story.At the age of six, he lost all of his hair due to an immune-system disorder called alopecia. Ethan knows about overcoming personal obstacles and being bullied. He also understands the power of hope, persevering through hundreds upon hundreds of manuscript rejections.The author of ten books, his writings earned him an opportunity to speak at the National Baseball Hall of Fame, an invitation to the White House for the Royals World Series championship, and endorsements from several former MLB players including Jim “The Rookie” Morris.Ethan has appeared ever so briefly in an ESPN 30-for-30 (#BringBackSungWoo) and as a background ballplayer in an Emmy-award winning documentary (First Boys of Spring). He still dreams of playing baseball (throwing out a first pitch) for his beloved KC Royals.A major fan of both Dr Pepper and donuts, Ethan was one of the best benchwarmers on his high school junior varsity baseball team.In today's episode, Ethan talks about:his first Royals baseball game his parents took him to when George Brett hit a walk-off home-runbattling Alopecia as a kid in Kansas Cityasking his dad if he could play baseball without hairretiring from baseball at age 16playing golf and winning conference as a senior at Kickapoo High Schooltaking students to baseball games while attending Baylorhow the idea of A Year of Playing Catch came abouthow playing catch with his daughters formed his writing and visionwhy he's thankful for his daughter's influence on his writingasking a news anchor to play catch and what formed afterwhy playing catch is good for the body and brainwhy playing catch develops trustbeing in a flow state while playing catchthe toll of playing catch on a daily basis and how it strengthenedplaying catch with his dad at the Field of Dreamsmeeting Stan Sipka and not breaking up a no-hittercancelled interviews and in-person meetings being cancelledwriting 90% of A Year of Playing Catch at The Mudhouse in Springfieldfinding his name in an obituary online and his thoughts and actions that followedsending a book to let a grieving family know that someone was thinking of thembeing the inspiration for Dan Bryan (not related) and why he played 365 games of catch in his son's honorstory of playing catch with Dan Bryan after his son's memorialthe story of 99 and a God wink moment with DanRobert Benson as a writing mentor (The Echo Within)story of meeting Robert Benson and thanking him for his workgoing to dinner with Robert Benson and his inspirational quotean inside the book home-run!being a first born, type A personalitystory of a B- on his report cardEthan's definition of success and whyrelationships and community around you to help guide you through failurethe wisdom and warmth of a benchwarmerstory of getting rejected with his new novel and the lessons he's learningnot giving up in the face of failurewearing his emotions on his sleeve and how he works through itprocessing failure and emotions through sweatGrip'n'Rip baseball leagueworking on the sequel to A Year of Playing Catch and why it's intimidatingcatch playing mentorship programa play deprived culture and a loneliness epidemicwhy kids stop playing baseballhow to fix the radical distrust of othersthe science behind playing a game of catchThe Life-Saving Adventure of Graceland Gordon and Her Dogthe scavenger hunt of a lifetimethe day my shoes melted during catch Twitter - @ethanbryanFacebook - @EthanBryanStorieswww.ethanbryan.comDan Bryan's / Ethan Bryan's Game of CatchMiLB ArticleThe Echo Within
Have you ever wondered if you have an overachiever personality? Do you always focus on what's next? Do you judge your worthiness on how well you perform a task or complete a goal? There is nothing wrong with being ambitious and wanting to be successful in your profession. However, having success doesn't mean that you should have to sacrifice family, friends, and relationships for a career. In this episode, Sandy shares why career-driven women can achieve harmony and healing in their homes, workplaces, and faith when they achieve a steady pace along their abundant wellness journey.Sandy Pharaon, is a Speaker & Certified Health Coach with over 15 years of leadership experience in the workplace. She founded Abundant Wellness LLC, to create a community for career-driven women to achieve harmony and healing in their homes, workplaces, and faith through a proven four-step method called P.A.C.E. With her experience working in management consulting, IT audit, and as an IT Financial Systems manager for a Fortune 500 company, Sandy's passion lies in being a wellness advocate who encourages women to prevent burnout and feeling overworked to prioritize their health and well-being in a world where 24 hours never seems to be enough.Connect with TamikaShop Ageless Apparel: https://www.tamikamctier.com/apparelPurchase Tamika's book: https://www.tamikamctier.com/authorJOIN THE AGELESS CONVERSATIONS PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITYhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/550719606378413Connect with Sandywebsite: sandypharaon.comIG:https://www.instagram.com/sandypharaon/