As We Get Older

Terry Tucker has reinvented himself a few times. He has worked in marketing, hospital administration, and customer service. He was a police officer and SWAT negotiator with the Cincinnati Police Department, started a security consulting business, and became a high school basketball coach. Each change meant new skills and new challenges. His greatest challenge came in 2012 when he was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. Four years of Interferon injections followed, and the treatment almost killed him. The pain and suffering taught him that he had two choices - succumb to the debilitating discomfort and misery or learn to embrace it and use it to make himself a stronger and better human being. He chose the latter.  Terry started the Motivational Check blog to help inspire people to lead uncommon lives, even in uncommon and uncomfortable circumstances. He is still battling cancer and has had multiple surgeries, including the amputation of his left leg. Today we talk about motivation and how to keep going and stay positive about life even when it's really tough.  More about Terry and his work at: https://www.motivationalcheck.com/  

Dr. Jim Taylor earned his Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Colorado and is an international authority on the psychology of sport and parenting. He has worked with the US and Japanese Ski Teams, the US Tennis Association, and with professional and world-class athletes in tennis, skiing, cycling, football, golf, baseball, and many other sports. He has published more than 1000 articles and given more than 1000 workshops and presentations around the world and is the author of 17 books including How to Survive and Thrive When Bad Things Happen. Jim is also a columnist for The Denver Post and writes about sports, parenting, education, technology, and popular culture, has appeared on major radio and television network shows around the U.S., and has been interviewed by The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The London Times and many other major newspapers and magazines. His posts, articles, and interviews have been seen by millions of people around the world. He's a former alpine ski racer who competed internationally, a 2nd degree black belt and karate instructor, a marathon runner, and an Ironman triathlete. In this episode we talk about men and vulnerability, resiliency, parenting, sports, and more. More about Jim and his work at https://www.drjimtaylor.com/

My next guest is Magnus Walker. He grew up in Sheffield England and dropped out of school to come to the U.S. and try the American dream. It worked out pretty good for him. Almost by accident, he started Serious Clothing and his stuff was worn by the likes of Madonna, Bruce Willis, and Alice Cooper.   He has loved Porsche's since he was a kid and started collecting and restoring vintage Porsche 911s. He was in a short film, Urban Outlaw, that was a big hit at the 2012 Raindance Film Festival. His newfound fame led to Porsche asking him to work for them 35 years after he applied to work there when he was 10. Magnus also wrote an autobiography - Urban Outlaw: Dirt Don't Slow You Down, about his rise and fall in the fashion industry. His TEDx UCLA talk is great.   In this episode we talk about how to be adaptive in a complex world, be open to options, and master your perspective not your plan. And just a touch of outlaw cooking.   More about Magnus at magnuswalker911.com/.  

My next guest is Michael O'Neal. He spent 15 years as a designer and a branding guy, then he started doing social media and podcasting consulting, and in 2013, he started a Podcast called The Solopreneur Hour with the best tag line – Job Security for the Unemployable.  He's had over 10 million downloads to date. That's pretty good.   Through his show and his coaching work, he helps people find a path to business success on their own terms.  He can help you create a successful business you can run in our underwear, and with all that is going on in the world economy right now, that could come in pretty handy.    More about Michael and his work at: https://solohour.com

Dan Zeman is back for another chat. He is an exercise physiologist and has worked in the health, fitness and sports medicine fields for over 38 years. In his book, You're Too Old To Die Young, the topic of our first interview, he outlined the new and unique issues all boomer men will face in time.    In this episode we talk about COVID-19, the healthcare system, who is vulnerable, what this event means for your future, and what you can do to help yourself now and down the road. That's a lot!

My next guest is Dr. Glenn Livingston, and he says, "I’m a formerly obese guy with very poor cardiovascular genetics, a guy who almost ate himself to death despite a dozen warnings from doctors and other health professionals who wasted years of his life believing he had a mysterious disease which caused him to compulsively overeat." He has a PhD in clinical psychology and is the Author of the very successful book Never Binge Again, with over 1 million readers. And the book is FREE!   You may have seen his work in Psychology Today or The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Chicago Sun Times, or on national TV and radio. He used to do research and consulting for Fortune 500 clients in the food industry. And after a personal journey out of obesity, he spent decades researching the psychology behind overeating and binge eating. His unique approach to food choices will help you develop a normal, healthy weight and a much more lighthearted relationship with food.    He says you should not let farm animals tell you what to eat. He will help you deal with your inner pig.   Find out more about Glenn and download the book for free at  https://neverbingeagain.com/.  

After a rocky start in life, Tommy Breedlove spent 20 years with one of the largest financial consulting firms in the world, became a shareholder, the International Practice Leader, and was on the board of directors.   And at the top of his career, he walked away from all that. Chucked it and changed his life to follow his true calling.  Now he helps people discover a life of significance and live a Legendary life. Not legendary in the bigger than life sense, but legendary in the sense of becoming the person you've really always wanted to be.  Tommy is a Wall Street Journal & USA Today bestselling author a business, relationship, and mindset coach and a regularly featured keynote speaker at global events. His new book Legendary might help you live a better life. If you realize you are not where you want to be, you have to participate in your own rescue.  Legendary is a guidebook or playbook of tools to help you change course and rescue yourself from a less-than life. More about Tommy at https://tommybreedlove.com Tommy's Free Gifts: To help people through the current health and economic crisis, Tommy wants to give you some of the book for free. Go to https://tommybreedlove.com/GIFTS/ to get the Legendary Life Plan and the Financial Freedom and Mastering Your Mindset chapters.   

Dr. Jason Giles graduated from UC Berkeley with a degree in molecular biology and received his medical degree from UC Davis. He completed his internship in General Surgery and his residency in Anesthesiology & Pain Medicine and became a cardiac anesthesiologist and pain specialist and was working over 100 hours a week at a Level One trauma center. He was a big deal. He had made it.    Then he became addicted to fentanyl and alcohol. Then he got caught, and life came crashing down. But he made it through detox and rehab and never went back to drugs. With a lot of help, he made it all the way back to being an anesthesiologist and then became an addiction medicine specialist. For the last 15 years he has been helping people break their lethal habits.   He is also the designer of VHAB, a new mobile app that is a non-medical tool and community for substance abuse habit change.   In this episode we talk about lethal habits and some new ideas on how to break them, how to become free of the prison of substance abuse.   More about Dr. Giles and his work at https://www.vhab.com/

Dr. Cam Caswell got her PhD from George Mason University in Developmental and Child Psychology and for over 15 years she's been on a mission to help us boomer types build stronger relationships with the millennials in our lives, at home and at work.    Dr. Cam's approach is simple but effective:  Identify WHAT behaviors cause friction.  Unpack WHY those behaviors exist.  Determine HOW to address these behaviors for long-term success. Dr. Cam's goal is to empower you with the skills and knowledge you need to handle whatever new situation or personality comes your way. She is also the parent of a teenager and manages numerous Millennials in the workplace, so she has been there and done that.    In this episode, we talk about the skills and knowledge you need to handle a different generation and whatever new situation or personality comes your way.    More about Dr. Cam at: https://drcamconsulting.com/

In this episode, I talk with Dr. John DeGarmo, an expert in Parenting and Foster Care.   John and his wife, Dr. Kelly DeGarmo, have been foster parents for 17 years and have had over 60 children come through their home while raising their own six children. They are the recipients of the Good Morning America Ultimate Hero Award, and the Up With People Every Day Hero Award.  The two also were honored with their city's Citizens of the Year Award.   He has written several books, including the highly acclaimed Fostering Love: One Foster Parent's Journey and is a TEDx speaker. He writes regularly for many magazines, and is a regular contributor to several publications and newsletters, both in the United States and in Europe. He is also the founder of The Foster Care Institute. He has devoted his life to helping make the foster care system a better one, for all involved, and to help people become better parents.   We talk about adoption, foster care, and parenting in general.   More about Dr. John DeGarmo and his work at https://www.drjohndegarmofostercare.com/      

Mollie McGlocklin is the creator of Sleep Is A Skill. She helps people get better sleep through a unique blend of technology, accountability, and behavioral change. She can help you address the psychology, physiology, and environmental issues that mess up your sleep.   After a lifetime of poor sleep habits that culminated in a bout of insomnia that lasted for months, she dug deep into the psychology, physiology, and environmental issues that affect sleep. With a background in psychology & human behavior, she went down the rabbit hole to solve her own sleep disturbances without sleeping aids. What came out of that personal search was the realization that sleep is a skill that can be learned.   She began sharing what she discovered with other sleep sufferers and found that these skills really worked. Today, she has helped hundreds of people improve their sleep. She’s now spent the past three years traveling the world to test sleep quality in different environments across the globe and share what she has discovered, and sharing the forgotten skill set of sleep.   More about Mollie and her work at:   https://www.sleepisaskill.com/  

My next guest is Ralph Sutton. He is a long-time veteran of television and radio with a large and international fan base. For almost 20 years he hosted The Tour Bus, a rock radio show with a global reach of over 1 million listeners. In 2014 he started The SDR Show (that's Sex Drugs and Rock and roll), a podcast co-hosted with comedian Big Jay Oakerson, and within months – it reached the #1 spot in comedy on iTunes. As he says, it is not for the faint of heart. In 2016 he launched the GaS Digital Network which now has 21 shows and over 4 million listeners a month. That's pretty good.   He also co-hosts The Sherpa and the Schmuck podcast, which has a very different feel and focus than SDR. It's a weekly podcast with a lifelong friend where they try and unravel the mysteries of Life, Health, Wellness, and contemplate which one of them is the Sherpa and which one is the Schmuck. In this episode, we talk about all that and more.   More about Ralph and his shows at:  http://www.sherpaandtheschmuck.com/

My next guest is Chris Widener. He is a Member of the Motivational Speakers Hall of Fame, one of Inc. Magazine’s Top 100 Leadership Speakers, was named one of the Top 50 Speakers in the World, and is a New York Times and Wall Street Journal Bestselling author (he has written 20 books). And he is a businessman, coach, and mentor. Chris is even a Washington State native and his brother was a firefighter in Eastern Washington for 39 years. I probably spilled beer on him somewhere along the line. In this episode, we talk about The Real Man Podcast which he hosts with another fascinating fellow - Larry Winget, current COVID events, values, optimism, leadership, and much more. I am grateful to have him on the show. Find out more about Chris, his personal coaching services, and The Real Man Podcast at: ChrisWidener.com RealManPodcast.com and on Twitter - @ChrisWidener

Old school therapy is "talk it out" therapy.   Phil DeLuca has been a relationship counselor for over 40 years. And he wants you to stop talking so much. After filling his wall with degrees focused on traditional therapy, he found a new approach that worked better.   It's a holistic brain chemistry-based way to communicate that he calls Untalk Therapy that can help couples navigate out of the dead zone and get their relationship back on course.    In this episode we untalk about: How your angry blow ups are incited by your brain chemistry How to stop your partner from perpetuating your anger When avoiding conflict is desirable What healthy communication looks like and how it makes you feel How your health is directly related to the health of your relationship   More about Phil and his work at:  https://gobeyondtalktherapy.com/

Harvey Deutschendorf is an Emotional Intelligence (EI) coach who has shown thousands of people how to relate emotional intelligence to everyday situations.    He has worked in the emotional intelligence field for more than 20 years and is known as the EI guy. He's a regular contributor to FAST COMPANY and writes a monthly column for HR PROFESSIONALS MAGAZINE and is the author of The Other Kind of Smart: Simple Ways to Boost Your Emotional Intelligence for Greater Personal Effectiveness and Success. He was recognized as one of the top 100 Thought Leaders by Trust Across America in 2015.   In this episode we talk about Emotional Intelligence and how to manage your emotions better. Especially during these difficult times.   More about Harvey and his work at: https://www.theotherkindofsmart.com/   and on Twitter @Theeiguy  

Did you know that the average person has about 40,000 negative thoughts a day? If you are awake for 16 hours a day my math says that's 2,500 an hour or 41 a minute. That's a lot of negativity. It might be more than that now with COVID-19 going on. A lot of people are feeling overwhelmed and distracted with the constant volley of messages and information and my next guest, Dr. Coyte Cooper, might be able to help us handle all that. He earned his Doctorate from Indiana University in 2007. He is a coach, author, and podcaster who helps people form powerful habits that can radically improve their lives. Today we are going to talk about his latest book, Flip the Script, and learn a simple process to flip the script on your barriers so you can live a better happier life. In this episode, Coyte outlines a blueprint on how to break free from your biggest barriers once and for all. Instead of 12.8 hours of negative thoughts dragging you down each day, you can learn to reallocate this wasted time, and use your energy and capacity to close the gap on your most meaningful goals. Instead of spending 4,672 hours a year on counterproductive beliefs and emotions, you can learn how to tap into your desire to create a life you absolutely love. More about Dr. Coyte Cooper at coytecooper.com

My next guest is Dr. Randy Paterson. He knows that life is inherently complex and challenging for all of us and that we can – and should – expect to run into situations and problems that seem confusing or difficult to navigate. The current Coronavirus pandemic is a classic example.   He is a psychologist and director of Changeways Clinic, a private psychotherapy service in Vancouver, BC Canada. He helps people find their unique strengths and talents so they can navigate unfamiliar or difficult territory and develop new knowledge, skills, and abilities to move forward. He also presents lectures and workshops around the world on mental health policy, cognitive behavioral therapy, depression and anxiety disorders, and the failure-to-launch phenomenon.    He is author of five books, and in this episode we talk about two of them today that focus on how we make ourselves miserable and what we can do about that.   For more information about Randy and his work and books please visit randypaterson.com.

My next guest is Aaron Schiller. Aaron is a life coach, counselor, and motivational speaker who helps people achieve positive, lasting change, at home and on the job. He helps his clients find ways to truly enjoy their lives. He has led global innovation programs on emotional intelligence and wellness for companies like Walmart, AT&T, and Toyota. He was trained as an Education Specialist at Sonoma State University and is also a coach and trainer for Yale University's Emotional Intelligence Lab. Good thing, because in this episode we talk about emotional intelligence - what it is and why it matters to you. More about Aaron at coachschiller.com/ and at museandthecatalyst.com/.  

Ryan West has been through the ringer. He was born and raised in Des Moines, Iowa and joined the Navy right after high school. He was an aircraft carrier Flight Deck Director on the U.S.S Abraham Lincoln and while the Navy allowed him to see the world, it's also where his health battle would begin. He was diagnosed with a pituitary brain tumor. Then also diagnosed with Acromegaly, a very rare and debilitating hormone disorder. He managed to get through all this and now Ryan has started the Revealing Healing podcast and a blog where he shares his story and the stories of others who have endured incredibly difficult events and how they managed to get through them. In this episode, we talk about how adversity forces us to find strengths and talents we never knew we had, and more. 

In this episode I talk with Bill Ferguson, who started his journey as a Marine Corps Captain, then became a divorce lawyer, and is now a best-selling author and teacher. He was even featured on Oprah.    As a divorce attorney, he gained national attention for his ability to take the conflict out of a divorce. He focused on helping clients heal their relationship, one human being to another, and learned a lot about what creates and destroys love.   Since 1985 he has been helping people heal relationships and make their lives work. He has led over 2,000 Mastery of Life workshops and worked with thousands of people. He has also written 8 books and the first one, How To Heal A Painful Relationship, was featured on Oprah and became a national best-seller. He has written 7 other books and his work has also been recommended by The Wall Street Journal and The Washington Post.    In this episode we talk about relationships and how to make them work better. This takes work.   More about Bill and his work at: MasteryofLife.com

My next guest is a glutton for punishment, he was on the show last year and is back for round 2.   John Schinnerer has a Ph.D. in educational psychology from U.C. Berkeley and helps men learn how to achieve high performance, manage stress and anger, and create happy, thriving relationships.   He has been featured in U.S. News and World Report, Reader's Digest, and SELF Magazine. John was also an expert consultant for Disney-Pixar’s animated movie Inside Out (which is all about handling emotions). He has worked with executives from dozens of Fortune 500 companies and can help you perform your best.    In this episode we talk about mindsets, emotions, the man box and more.

J. W. (Terry) Freiberg has a Ph.D. from UCLA and a Harvard law degree. For 30 years he lawyered for many of Boston’s child social welfare and adoption agencies and scores of psychiatrists, psychologists, and social workers. His dual training made him the go-to attorney when legal questions came up in clinical therapy. He worked at the crossroads of law and psychiatry. Terry is the author of five books, including the one we talk about in this episode - Four Seasons of Loneliness - and argues that loneliness is a sensation, not an emotion. It's like hunger or thirst. We talk about that idea and a few others.  More about Terry at jwfreiberg.com/

In this episode I talk with Elliott Katz. After he went through a divorce, he set out to understand what it means to be a man in a relationship. He found a lot of other men were asking the same questions he was, and they all struggled to find good ideas and useful information. He finally found answers in some of the oldest notions about being a man and shares those insights in his latest book Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man. The ideas in this book can help you build a stronger marriage and a stronger love relationship. It is even available in 24 languages.  Elliott's ideas seemed counterintuitive to me, but I found out how right he actually is. Even my wife thinks he is right. We got talking out of the gate so let's pick it up on the fly. More about Elliott at www.ElliottKatz.com  

Andrew Mann grew up in an upscale neighborhood in New Jersey. From the outside, he had it made. But behind the scenes, he suffered sexual, physical, and emotional abuse at the hands of his parents, especially his mother. He ended up a homeless drug addict on the streets of Camden, the most dangerous city in New Jersey.   He should be dead. And he has been. But he survived and was revived in all the ways that count. We talk about how he came back to live a fulfilling and successful life without drugs. It's an incredible journey. His book, Such Unfortunates, will help you understand addiction, why addicts are the way they are, and how to help them.   More at www.SuchUnfortunates.com

Stoicism has been around since the 3rd century BCE and my next guest, Matt Van Natta, has been studying Stoic philosophy for almost that long. In case you missed it the first time around, some famous stoics of the distant past include Marcus Aurelius (a roman emperor), Epictetus, Seneca the Younger, and who could forget Zeno of Citium? Matt is the creator of the podcast Good Fortune and the blog Immoderate Stoic. His podcasts and writings focus on how to apply stoicism in the modern world. He writes books, drinks coffee, beer, and whiskey, and contemplates the human condition. In this episode we talk about stoicism in the modern world and his new book - The Beginners Guide to Stoicism: Tools for Emotional Resilience and Positivity. The stoics managed life pretty well and this book describes lots of great life navigation tools you can use right now. More about Matt at: https://immoderatestoic.com/ 

My next guest is Dr. Richard Pfau. He came to understand human behavior the long way.   He started in the "hard sciences" at the Baltimore Polytechnic Institute and studied engineering at Johns Hopkins. He spent several years with the U.S. Naval Engineering Experiment Station helping to silence submarines and other ships. He got his bachelors in psychology from the University of Baltimore, graduating summa cum laude by the way, and went on to the Peace Corps in Nepal. That experience led to him to a PhD in science education from the University of Pittsburgh. Then more work in Nepal and 11 years in Africa plus teaching at the University of Connecticut and private consulting as a human resource development specialist. He has been around the block.   Rich's many years of work and research have been aimed directly at understanding human behavior and have culminated in his new book "Your Behavior - Understanding and Changing the Things You Do."    In this episode we talk about how you can: analyze your behavior and change it if you want to understand why others behave the way they do see how your perceptions direct your behavior get more control of your life More about Rich and his work at: https://richardpfau.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/richardpfau/

Miha Matlievski is from Slovenia. He dropped out of high school to chase his dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur. After 12 years of hard work, he had built four successful businesses and a personal net worth of $15 Million dollars.   But during the fallout from the global financial crisis of 2008 and 2009 he got a call from his bank, they decided to foreclose on his real estate investments, and his world came crashing down.  All four companies dominoed into bankruptcy. At 30-years old he was $5M in debt.   Time passed with death threats and thoughts of suicide until he finally took responsibility and came to terms with what had happened - he had failed. It was his fault.   In 2014, he created a new startup, generating eight figures in less than a year and his story went viral in Slovenia. And he paid everyone back!   Now, he helps entrepreneurs around the world embrace failure, and have a healthy relationship with failure, so they can reach higher levels of success. He is the Fail Coach. Because it will happen.   More about Miha at -  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FrameWork4Freedom/ Web: https://framework4freedom.com/ Web: https://www.fail.coach/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mihamatlievski Email: miha@fail.coach  

In this episode I chat with Jake Dermer, the founder of Do It At Your Desk. Get your mind out of the gutter. This is a company dedicated to helping office workers live healthier, more-active, and pain-free lives.    He got his Bachelor of Science degree in Kinesiology from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, and for over 10 years has been a strength coach, wellness consultant, personal trainer, and fitness writer.    His goal  is simple - to rid the world of neck and back pain caused by working a desk job.   Do It At Your Desk Wellness Programs also help individuals and companies reduce medical costs by creating a healthier work environment.   He is also the author of The Desk Job Survival Guide - Exercise and Nutrition for Those Who Sit All Day. If you spend a lot of time at a desk, this might be helpful.   More about Jake and his new book at www.DoItAtYourDesk.com.            

My next guest is a fine gentleman named Mike Nelson. He is a retired physician, and a writer (under the pen name of Michael Deeze), veteran, son, and father. He recently started something called The Legacy Project.   The idea first came to him when his Father gave him a diary of all of his missions as a tail gunner on a B-17 in World War II. He was a 17 year old kid when he went in. He came home 2 years later after almost 40 missions a much older and different man.   His father would never speak of his experiences during the war. But the diary explained it all in horrifying detail. And Mike only got to read it very late in his father's life. After reading it he understood a lot more about his father and why he was the way he was. Mike figured if he had known sooner he might have had a better relationship with him. He decided not to let that happen to his children and set out to document some of his own life.   He started the Legacy Project to help others pass their knowledge and life experience on to their children and their children’s children.   We are going to talk about that today and why it might be a good idea for every man to document his legacy.   https://www.michaeldeezebooks.com/ https://www.facebook.com/michaeldeezebooks/ https://www.amazon.com/s?k=michael+deeze&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss_1

In this episode, I talk with Amy Schoen about how to find the right person for a great long-term relationship. She is a nationally recognized dating and relationship expert and since 2004 has helped hundreds of marriage minded individuals find their lifelong mates and helped couples create relationships that are more fulfilling and satisfying and lead to greater long-term commitment.   Amy got her M.B.A. from Georgetown University and had several successful businesses before dedicating her life’s work to relationship life coaching. She is the author of “Motivate to Marry® – Now There is a Better Method to Dating and Relationships” and “Get It Right This Time- How to Find and Keep Your Ideal Romantic Relationship”, and a fun, short book with a big message, “30 Very Good Reasons NOT to Get Married Until You Are 30!.” She is a contributing author to “101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life, Vol. 2” that features top experts like John Gray and Jack Canfield. You also may have seen her in The Washington Post, The New York Times, or the Wall Street Journal.   More information about Amy at https://motivatedtomarry.com/   You can also connect with Amy on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn! Facebook www.facebook.com/MotivatedtoMarry Twitter http://twitter.com/coachamyschoen Linked-In: http://www.Linkedin.com/in/CoachAmySchoen    

Christopher Rausch is a coach, speaker, workshop facilitator, and retreat leader whose life apprenticeship started hard. That he was able to lift himself from victim to victor is a small miracle.   Today, Christopher empowers people to accept whatever life has dished out so far, embrace change, and take action to make their lives better. He helps people live a kickass life without excuses.   He holds a Master’s Degree in Organisational Management and over the last 30 years has worked hard on his own growth and development and brings that knowledge and experience to his clients.    He also gives back to his community by mentoring at-risk kids from The Brightest Star organization and the Olive Crest Children’s Foundation.   More at www.http://christopherrausch.com/  

Problem-solving and decision-making are critical life navigation tools.    My next guest is Mike Kallet. He is the founder of Headscratchers and the the author of Think Smarter. He spent over 25 years learning to think critically as a technology executive leading teams that created award winning products and services. Now he teaches people how to use critical thinking to improve their problem solving and decisions making skills.    Mike believes everyone can learn to think better. And as he likes to say, these are not just a business skills, these are life skills. In this episode, we talk about critical thinking and how to use it every day.

My next guest is Michael Sorensen, a marketing executive who never set out to be a best-selling author, relationship coach, and personal-development junkie, but he ended up being one. While working through his own issues for over 4 years with a therapist, he hunted up every best principle and practice he could find about living a rich, full, and connected life. He is the author of I Hear You - The surprisingly simple skill behind extraordinary relationships. This book is a non-fiction #1 best-seller on Amazon.com and it's all about validation and how it can improve every conversation you ever have.

My next guest is Dr. David Ludden. He got his PhD in cognitive psychology from the University of Iowa and has a Masters in linguistics from Ohio University. His primary academic work looks at how language is processed in the brain, and how our social world both shapes and is shaped by the language we speak.    He is the author of the textbook The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach and also writes the blog Talking Apes: How natural selection reprogrammed the brain for language on the Psychology Today website.   That's where I found some of his excellent articles on communication issues for couples. In this installment we talk about communication. 

Boomers were born between 1946 and 1964. They have a collective gift and a collective burden - they are going to outlive past generations by a long ways.   Dan Zeman has been an exercise physiologist for over 38 years. He has worked in the fields of health, fitness and sports medicine, has designed exercise programs for athletes from the NFL, NHL and the NBA, and worked very closely with 3 time Tour de France winner Greg LeMond.   In this installment we talk about his new book, You're Too Old To Die Young, where he outlines the new and unique issues all boomer men will face when increasing life-spans and decreasing physical activity sideswipe each other as we get older.   More about Dan at  https://www.imdanzeman.com/.  

My next guest is Dr. Gary Salyer. He helps people find real love that really lasts.   After being married and divorced twice, he set out to find what makes a relationship succeed long-term.   He found four feelings and six rights (what he calls the brain's true GPS system for love) that are key to any loving and lasting relationship.   In this episode we talk about Gary's new book, Safe to Love Again - How to release the pain of past relationships and create the love you deserve. These tools will help you navigate through the roughest seas of love.        

Larry Colton always wanted to be a baseball player. He gave it a good shot.    He holds the UC Berkley single game strikeout record of 19 batters, was a pitcher for the Philadelphia Phillies (he only pitched 2 innings), was the designated hitter for the Portland Mavericks (independent league A ball) for a few weeks and finally left baseball behind to become a writer - and a very good one.    He is the author of five books and one of them, Counting Coup, about a girls’ basketball team in Montana, was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize.    I met him at a baseball coaches clinic in Gresham Oregon and he agreed to come on the show because our local senior league team is named after the Portland Mavericks. This one is just for fun.

My next guest knows what stress is.    His experiences include a dysfunctional childhood, rocky relationships, divorce, suicidal family members, director level sales and marketing roles, and teaching at UC Berkley.   His professional success ,and the stress that came with it, finally landed him in the hospital with a severe case of diabetic ketoacidosis. He was just a few hours away from being comatose. He was knocking on death's door.   Pete Alexander is the author of LIGHTEN Your Day: fast, easy, and effective stress relief for when shit happens.    We talk about some of the 100+ stress relief tools and techniques he describes in the book. You can find something that will help you for almost any stressful situation. Since no single stress relief tool works for everyone, having a large variety of options to experiment with will give you the best chance of finding the right one for you and your situation.       

In this episode I talk with A.M. Pfeffer about his first book titled Of, By, and For the Hanged Man. It's about how to thrive in a messy world.   A.M. grew up just north of New York city and in Denver Colorado. He earned his marketing degree from Indiana University's Kelley School of Business and has been in Los Angeles for the last 20 years working in the entertainment industry and running his real estate related business. He is a devoted husband and father, and a ruthless tennis player.   You can find out more about A.M at  www.ampfeffer.com

In this episode I talk with Dr. Bob Rich about his latest book - From Depression to Contentment - a self-therapy guide. Bob earned his doctorate in psychology in 1972 and has been an academic, a researcher, and an applied scientist until “retiring” the first time when he was 36 years old. But it wasn't too long until he went back to work and became a Counseling Psychologist, running a private practice for over 20 years. He was on the national executive board of the College of Counselling Psychologists for the Australian Psychological Society and also spent three years as the Director. He was the therapist other therapists sent their toughest cases to. He has written 18 books and his latest one talks about how to help get yourself out of depression and find contentment. We talk about ways you can take immediate action, tools to control it and to get rid of it — most of the time.

Winston Churchill once said - There is nothing like the outside of a horse, for the inside of a man. Not bad for a Brit.   My next guest is a cowboy and knew he wanted to be one when he was 16 years old.    For the last 30 years, Scott DePaolo has run the 3,600 acre Butte Creek ranch in Oregon for the Boy Scouts where he teaches horsemanship and lifemanship.    He can quote Maslow, or Beecham, or the Scouting law and apply them in the appropriate dose to help just about anyone live a little better.   And he has that cowboy drawl that's so easy on the ears.    In this episode we explore life from the back of a horse and see what riding one can do for the inside of a man.    You can find out more about Scott and horsemanship at  https://www.scottdepaolohorsemanship.com/    

On this show I talk with Marc Miller who spent 22 years at IBM, moved on to start several thriving tech companies, did a painful stint as a high school teacher, and had a near fatal bicycle accident that changed his perspective forever.   He is the author of Repurpose Your Career: A Practical Guide for Baby Boomers. He teaches people how to find what can really fulfill them, how to chart a course to greater contentment. He has taught people from all walks of life and all kinds of fields of work in 35 countries. Join us for a talk about how to reinvent yourself and build a new future from your past.

Over the last 30 years, Daniel Goodenough has taught thousands of students (including a few billionaires) how to discover their unique and authentic path in life and how to make your mission your reality.    Daniel wrote The Caravan of Remembering - A Road Map for Experiencing the Awakening of Your Life Mission and is a co-founder of The Way of the Heart, an international program for self-development.    He works with people from all walks of life, from all over the globe, and with entrepreneurs and companies who want to succeed in business with integrity, purpose, and heart. In this episode we talk about how you can discover your life mission and make it last.  

In this episode we talk about tools to develop your identity and purpose, how to think better and handle stress, anger, vulnerability, and relationships over time.    My guest is Michael Soto, a former United States Marine and an active volunteer firefighter and emergency medical technician in his home town.    He holds  a Master of Arts in Mental Health Counseling, certifications in Critical Incident Stress Management, is a Certified Trauma Professional, and a Certified Family Trauma Professional.   He works with individuals, couples, and families and is an expert on the topics of stress, trauma, and mental toughness. He is dedicated to helping others improve their lives through education, insight, and change.   He loves music, martial arts, and his Harley motorcycle (which he has not had out for a ride in over 3 years - he's been working too hard).   This interview is packed with ideas and tools and was especially fun for me since I am a former firefighter. 

In this episode I talk with Dr. John Schinnerer, an executive coach and organizational consultant who helps people make the most of their personal and professional potential.   John is a U.C. Berkeley-trained coach with a Ph.D. in educational psychology who has distilled the very best of research-based tools and methods to help clients overcome anxiety, and anger, and move towards a happy, contented, and purposeful life.    Some of the topics we discuss are vulnerability, awareness, mindfulness, old school vs new school, and why we need more intelligence, kindness, empathy, and communication skills.   If you don't know what is going on in your own head, you have no chance to change it. John thinks too many of us go through life half awake, operating from habit and unconscious thinking. We talk about how to figure some of this out.  

After my heart surgery a friend of mine said "keep moving Bob, just keep moving and everything will work out." He was right, and Dr. Ben Reuter would agree with him on that idea. Ben stood on a balance board for our interview about movement and what it can do for you. He believes movement should be treated as a lifestyle, not just an activity, because movement is part of what makes life complete. Want to be happy, healthy, and live a more positive life? Make movement part of your lifestyle! Find out more in this interview.

Have a little stress or anxiety in your life? This installment is about how to deal with that and more. Peggy Sealfon is an internationally-known expert on dealing with stress, fear and anxiety and helps people improve their health, relationships, and find their life’s purpose. She wrote the best-selling book Escape from Anxiety - Supercharge Your Life With Powerful Strategies from A to Z, and is co-author of The Change--Insights Into Self-Empowerment, with Jim Britt (who was Tony Robbins' first mentor). She was a journalist in New York City, Peggy and has written articles for publications around the world, including the New York Times and Newsweek International. She blends eastern and western traditions from mindfulness and spirituality to functional medicine, modern psychology, nutrition and the neurosciences. She also teaches sports performance workshops and works with a lot of male clients. She has a PhD in reinventing herself from the University of Hard Knocks and now helps others deal with the world a bit better and find their path to purpose. She is a fun person.

In this episode Dr. Stephen Schrimpff talks about how to live a healthy life so you can live longer and live better. Stephen was the CEO of the University of Maryland Medical Center, a professor of medicine at the University of Maryland School of Medicine, a professor of public policy at the University of Maryland, College Park, and had a medical practice for over 40 years focused on internal medicine. Busy guy. Stephen is the author of Longevity Decoded - The Seven Keys to Healthy Aging (and 5 other books) and has some great ideas, advice, and information about lifestyle choices, exercise, what we eat, and more. Find out more about what he calls the Big 4.  

In this episode, I talk with my friend and financial advisor Jon Gerhardt about how to manage money as we get older. He has been around the block. He flew helicopters for the Navy, has a Masters degree in Finance and Marketing, has taken a technology company public, and suffered through the lows of the dot-com bust. He has seen a lot and shares his unique perspective on money and how to handle it.