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In this episode of the TILT Parenting Podcast, I'm excited to share with you a conversation I recently had with filmmaker Tom Ropelewski. Tom is the director of the highly acclaimed documentary 2e: Twice Exceptional, which came out in 2015, and he's currently wrapping up post-production on a follow-up film, called 2e2: Teaching the Twice Exceptional. Tom's films center around Bridges Academy, a school for twice-exceptional kids in Studio City, CA that seems to have figured out the best way to meet the educational needs of these unique learners. In our conversation, Tom shares his story and personal why behind making these films, talks about the educational model at Bridges, describes how his films are helping to bring awareness of 2e kids' into the mainstream, and gives us a sneak peek at his new film coming out later this year.   About Tom: Thomas Ropelewski has written and directed for both film and television. He wrote and made his feature directorial debut with the Orion Pictures comedy MADHOUSE, starring John Larroquette and Kirstie Alley. Other film credits include LOVERBOY, THE KISS, LOOK WHO'S TALKING NOW and THE NEXT BEST THING. His television work includes serving as writer/executive producer for three seasons of Paramount TV's action/sci-­‐fi series SEVEN DAYS. Recently, Ropelewski produced and directed the documentary, CHILD OF GIANTS: My Journey with Maynard Dixon and Dorothea Lange. The film has been screened at film festivals, colleges and museums around the world. It has also aired on KCET/San Francisco's “Truly CA” documentary series. He currently resides in Berkeley, CA and is married to screenwriter Leslie Dixon (MRS. DOUBTFIRE, HAIRSPRAY, THE THOMAS CROWN AFFAIR, LIMITLESS).   Things You'll Learn From This Episode: Tom's personal why for creating documentaries How Bridges Academy successfully supports 2e kids The story behind Tom's film, 2e: Twice Exceptional The focus of Tom's follow-up documentary, coming in 2018: 2e2: Teaching the Twice Exceptional How Tom's documentary helped to expand general awareness of 2e / twice-exceptional Why it's critical to use a strengths-based approach when educating 2e kids Get Exclusive NordVPN deal here → https://nordvpn.com/tilt - It's risk-free with Nord's 30-day money-back guarantee! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast, I have a powerful and thoughtful conversation with Dr. Barry Prizant, one of the world's leading authorities on autism. Barry is recognized as an innovator of respectful, person- and family-centered approaches for individuals with autism and neurodevelopmental disabilities. He has more than forty years of experience as a scholar, researcher, and international consultant, and he's an adjunct professor at Brown University, a certified speech-language pathologist and director of Childhood Communication Services, a private practice. Barry is also the author of the must-read book Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism, which suggests a major shift in our understanding of autism. Instead of classifying “autistic” behaviors as signs of pathology, he sees them as part of a range of strategies to cope with a world that feels chaotic and overwhelming. As you listen to our conversation, you'll know exactly why I was so excited to bring Barry onto the show. He is at the forefront of the revolution in helping to change the way neurodiversity is perceived in the world and frankly I'm just so grateful there are people like him in the world doing this critical work. I hope you enjoy the episode.   THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: Barry's personal story for how he came to be doing this work How things can change for autistic kids when we reframe and view their “behavior” through a new lens The relationship between trust and emotional regulation Barry's perspective on the use of language such as “high-functioning” and “low-functioning” autism Why words like “oppositional” and “noncompliant” in relation to an autistic person's behavior are usually completely off-mark The very real cost of pathologizing autism Barry's powerful ideas for how he is trying to shift thinking around the way autism is perceived What should our goals be with regards to the long-term vision for our autistic children? The story behind Barry's book Uniquely Human   RESOURCES MENTIONED: Barry Prizant's website Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism by Dr. Barry Prizant The S.C.E.R.T.S. Model Connect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello Brave Friends! On this, our final episode of Season 5, we have such a great guest for you. Debbie Reber, who you guys probably know already, is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker and the CEO and founder of Tilt Parenting, a resource, top performing podcast, consultancy, and community with a focus on shifting the paradigm for parents raising and embracing neurodivergent children. Her most recent book, Differently Wired, A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope, came out in 2018.Debbie is a wealth of information, and I highly recommend that you check out everything that she offers and get involved in her community. If you have a child who is neurodivergent, she has lots of experts on her podcast and has educated thousands of parents. Please enjoy this comforting, warm blanket of an episode with the wonderful Debbie Reber.Find the Tilt Parenting website here. Find Debbie Reber's book, Differently Wired, here. Find the Tilt Parenting Podcast here. Brave Together is the podcast for We are Brave Together, a not-for-profit organization based in the USA. The heart of We Are Brave Together is to strengthen, encourage, inspire and validate all moms of children with disabilities and other needs in their unique journeys. JOIN the international community of We Are Brave Together here.Donate to our Retreats and Respite Scholarships here.Donate to keep this podcast going here.Can't get enough of the Brave Together Podcast?Follow our Instagram Page @wearebravetogether or on Facebook.Feel free to contact Jessica Patay via email: jpatay@wearebravetogether.orgIf you have any topic requests or if you would like to share a story, leave us a message here.Please leave a review and rating today! We thank you in advance!Disclaimer

This is a special friend of the Mindful Parenting Podcast —meet the TiLT Parenting Podcast with Debbie Reber! Join Debbie and her husband, Derin, for a super honest, super vulnerable conversation about their journey as a couple navigating parenting a differently-wired child. THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: What it was like from Derin's perspective to be the “less-involved” parent when it came to advocacy and getting support for Asher How Debbie and Derin dealt with communication (and other) challenges to become more united, collaborative co-parents The benefits and challenges of raising a child who shares similar traits and tendencies How Derin changed his parenting style to better support and embrace who Asher is What Derin struggled with most in coming to accept having a differently-wired child Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, I'm bringing back a previous guest, executive functioning coach Seth Perler, for a two-part series in which Seth shares with us the exact approach he uses with students he works with when helping them foster their fledgling executive functioning skills. I first had Seth on the show last fall, where he gave us an introduction to executive functioning, but we didn't get to the more practical strategies that I know so many of us are looking for. So I asked Seth to come back on, and that conversation turned into an hour-and-a-half long sharing by Seth of truly valuable tips and strategies and insights. Because Seth shares so very much over the course of these ninety or so minutes, I wanted to split our conversation into two parts. So this episode is part one of what I'm now referring to as a “Masterclass in Executive Functioning.” In this episode, Seth shares with us his protocol for setting up a child for success in their developing executive functioning skills. In part 2 next week, Seth will go in-depth into his specific strategies surrounding building these skills in school and in life.  Seth Perler is a renegade teacher turned Executive Function Coach/Education Coach who is based in Santa Monica, CA and Boulder, CO. He helps struggling students navigate a crazy educational landscape and does his part to “disrupt” and improve education. Seth specializes in Executive Function and 2e. Find out more at sethperler.com.THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:Seth's definition of executive functioning framed so it helps people apply the principles to help kidsA step-by-step breakdown of exactly how Seth works with familiesWhy our relationship with our child is the number one thing to be preserved when doing this workThe importance of parents doing their own personal work / self-care during this processWhy kids “can't do what we're asking them to do because they can't, not because they won't,” so we need to back up and scaffold from where they're atThe role of mindfulness, mindset, and motivationWhy symptoms are more important than labelsWhy it's critical to understand the role of emotional regulation in executive functioningHow we as parents can co-regulate our emotions with our childWhy we want to focus on 3 positives for every 1 negative RESOURCES MENTIONED:Seth Perler's websiteA Conversation with Executive Functioning Coach Seth Perler (original podcast episode)Seth's Executive Functioning AssessmentDr. Gail Saltz Talks About the Power of Different (podcast episode)Carol Dweck and MindsetSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

In this episode of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, I'm bringing back a previous guest, executive functioning coach Seth Perler, for a two-part series in which Seth shares with us the exact approach he uses with students he works with when helping them foster their fledgling executive functioning skills.  I first had Seth on the show last fall, where he gave us an introduction to executive functioning, but we didn't get to the more practical strategies that I know so many of us are looking for. So I asked Seth to come back on, and that conversation turned into an hour-and-a-half long sharing by Seth of truly valuable tips and strategies and insights. Because Seth shares so very much over the course of these ninety or so minutes, I wanted to split our conversation into two parts. So this episode is part one of what I'm now referring to as a “Masterclass in Executive Functioning.” In this episode, Seth shares with us his protocol for setting up a child for success in their developing executive functioning skills. In part 2 next week, Seth will go in-depth into his specific strategies surrounding building these skills in school and in life.  Seth Perler is a renegade teacher turned Executive Function Coach/Education Coach who is based in Santa Monica, CA and Boulder, CO. He helps struggling students navigate a crazy educational landscape and does his part to “disrupt” and improve education. Seth specializes in Executive Function and 2e. Find out more at sethperler.com. THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: Seth's definition of executive functioning framed so it helps people apply the principles to help kids A step-by-step breakdown of exactly how Seth works with families Why our relationship with our child is the number one thing to be preserved when doing this work The importance of parents doing their own personal work / self-care during this process Why kids “can't do what we're asking them to do because they can't, not because they won't,” so we need to back up and scaffold from where they're at The role of mindfulness, mindset, and motivation Why symptoms are more important than labels Why it's critical to understand the role of emotional regulation in executive functioning How we as parents can co-regulate our emotions with our child Why we want to focus on 3 positives for every 1 negative   RESOURCES MENTIONED: Seth Perler's website A Conversation with Executive Functioning Coach Seth Perler (original podcast episode) Seth's Executive Functioning Assessment Dr. Gail Saltz Talks About the Power of Different (podcast episode) Carol Dweck and Mindset Support the show Connect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A few months ago, Asher and I recorded an episode about the upcoming summer camps he was getting ready for, especially Space Camp. In that episode, Asher shared how he worked with his therapist over the spring to prep for tricky situations he predicted might come up while there. If you haven't listened to that episode yet, I highly recommend you go back and check it out … you can find it here. At the end of that episode, we promised to do a post-camp follow up so Asher could share how things went, whether or not his strategies worked, and more. So that's what today's episode is about… Summer Camp, Part 2. I will say that Space Camp ended up being a bit of a disappointment for Asher, and in addition to dealing with his own emotions surrounding his expectations not being met, he also felt bad because he knew so many people were rooting for him. So I'm really proud of Asher for sharing his experience for this podcast. I hope you enjoy it.  Debbie Reber is the founder of Tilt and the host of the Tilt Parenting Podcast. 12-year-old Asher is Debbie's child and is regularly featured on the podcast. Find out more by visiting the About Page. THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:How Space Camp went for AsherThe unforeseen challenges for Asher at camp and how he dealt with themHow Asher would prepare differently for camp if he could do it all over againThe tricky balance between setting too high and too low expectationsWhat it was like for Asher to be at a camp with peers who had ADHD (Eye to Eye Camp)How Asher coped with pre-camp anxiety and jitters RESOURCES MENTIONED:12-year-old Asher Talks About How He's Prepping for a Successful Time at Sleep Away Camp (podcast)Space CampEye to Eye NationalDavid Flink12-year-old Asher Talks to David Flink, a Social Movement Leader on the Front Lines of the Learning Rights Movement (podcast)Support the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

A special kid's POV episode where Asher and I talk all about that rite of passage for millions of children around the world—sleep away camp. This summer, Asher is going to a sleep away camp for the second time in his life. The first time was two years ago, when he went to a very traditional outdoorsy camp with his best friend in the Pacific Northwest. All things considered, that experience went pretty well, and we learned a few things about what can be hard about camp and what kind of situations might be challenging for Asher (and for many differently-wired kids).This year, we're going to give it another try, this time at Space Camp in Huntsville, Alabama, something Asher is, shall we say, INCREDIBLY excited about. And at the same time, when we first signed him up, Asher recognized there would be situations at Space Camp that could potentially be especially tough for him. As you'll hear, Asher came to me and asked to work with a therapist / coach to help him figure out strategies for navigating tricky situations that might come up.So, that's what we're going to talk about today…the different strategies we've used to help Asher get prepared for sleep away camp, as well as Asher's own revelations about what he thinks will help him have a positive experience, even if and when things come up that push him mentally and emotionally.Debbie Reber is the founder of Tilt and the host of the Tilt Parenting Podcast. Asher is Debbie's son and is regularly featured on the podcast. Things you'll learn from this episode:How Debbie and Asher prepped for the kinds of situations that might come up at sleep away campAsher's new strategy for getting “un-angry”How Maslov's Hierachy of Needs has helped Asher learn more about his own emotional responses Resources Mentioned:Camp Orkila Space CampKate Berger on What Mindfulness Can Do for Kids and How to Get Started (podcast)Asher Talks with David Flink, a Social Movement Leader on the Front Lines of the Learning Differences Movement (podcast)Julie George on the Role of Executive Functioning in Differently-Wired Kids (podcast)Eye to Eye NationalKerbal Space ProgramThe Phantom Tollbooth by Norton JusterSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

In this special kid's POV edition of the podcast, Asher and Debbie take listeners inside their homeschooling world. They're about to begin year four of this unexpected homeschooling journey, and after much trial and error, they've found their rhythm and flow (for now) for what works best in their school.Asher and Debbie talk about the transition into homeschooling, what works and what doesn't, how Asher really feels about being homeschooling, how they co-designed they school, and what a typical day looks like. Asher also shares his thoughts on how their relationship has changed as a result of the homeschooling dynamic.Debbie Reber is the founder of TiLT and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 12-year-old Asher is Debbie's son and is regularly featured on the podcast. Things You'll Learn from This Episode:The pros and cons of homeschooling from a kid's POVHow Asher and I have co-designed our school structure, schedule, and curriculumHow structure and flexibility can actually co-existWhat a typical school day looks like in our worldWhat I see as the biggest benefits of homeschooling AsherHow Asher perceives our teacher-student relationship versus mother-son Resources Mentioned:Image of our homeschooling daily scheduleKhan AcademyKerbal Space ProgramKurzgesagt YouTube ChannelTed-Ed VideosSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

Meet Dr. Casey Ehrlich, a mother and researcher delving into the little-known condition called Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA).  As she explains the complex nervous system response that triggers PDA, we're left wondering how many more people are suffering from this condition without proper recognition or support.In this episode, you will be able to:·       Identify the distinct characteristics of PDA and ODD diagnoses. ·       Grasp the importance of building secure, trust-filled environments for children with PDA. ·       Understand the use of declarative language for improved PDA communication. ·       Learn about Dr. Ehrlich's approaches for families raising PDA children. About this week's guest:Dr. Casey Ehrlich is a compassionate coach for parents raising children with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). With a doctorate from the University of Wisconsin Madison, her background in social science and methodology brings a unique perspective to her work. Dr. Ehrlich has gained invaluable insights through her research on conflict, peace, and nonviolence in areas impacted by civil war in Colombia. As a co-founder of the PDA Parents Community and Podcast, she uses her expertise to help parents navigate the challenges of raising children with hypersensitive nervous systems, fight, flight, and freeze behaviors, and trauma.  You can find more information about her programs at www.atpeaceparents.comResources mentioned in this episode:PDA Society https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/Tilt Parenting Podcast: https://tiltparenting.com/podcast-about-children-with-learning-disabilities/Steve Silberman: https://www.stevesilberman.com/books/Rachel Dorsey: https://dorseyslp.com/Tiffany Hammond aka Fidgets and Fries https://www.instagram.com/fidgets.and.fries/Dr. Mona Delahooke: https://monadelahooke.com/books/Follow Neuroversity on all our social platforms:Neuroversity WebsiteIGFacebookTwitterLinkedInPatreon

In this special kid's POV edition, I share a short conversation with my 11-year-old child Asher about the new morning routine we began doing in January 2016.The routine is based on author and speaker Hal Elrod's book The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM). Because I'm always looking for ways to support Asher in developing more self-awareness, we agreed to start off the New Year trying out a new routine. In this episode, Asher walks listeners through what the new 6-step morning routine—consisting of meditation, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, and journaling—looks like, and explains its impact, as well as why Asher thinks other kids would benefit. Debbie Reber is the founder of Tilt and the host of the Tilt Parenting Podcast. 11-year-old Asher is Debbie's child and is regularly featured on the podcast.  Things you'll learn from the episode: How implementing a purposeful morning routine such as the one highlighted in Hal Elrod's book The Miracle Morning has the potential to positively impact a child's dayThe benefits for children on beginning each day by focusing on presence, positivity, and intentionAsher's thoughts on whether other kids could benefit from a new morning routine like the one he's doingHow meaningful a change can be when a child is self-motivated by their own personal discoveries about the benefits of a new habitResources mentioned:The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM) by Hal ElrodPat Flynn's podcast, Smart Passive IncomeKerbal Space Program, Asher's favorite online game (at the moment)Asher and Debbie's visualization soundtrack: Enya's Caribbean Blue, Charles Atlas' The Snow Before Us, and Badly Drawn Boy's I Love NYESupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

I believe that differently wired isn't a deficit – it's a difference. ~ Debbie Reber During this episode of the Vision Driven Mom With ADHD podcast Tilt Parenting founder, Debbie Reber, and I have an incredible conversation about the challenges of parenting “differently wired” children as well as the gifts that can be found when we surrender our expectations and embrace what is. WE TALK ABOUT: ✔️The isolation and overwhelm that often occurs for parents of “differently wired” kids ✔️Shifting the focus from “fixing” our kids to accepting them for who they are ✔️Doing the deep inner work necessary to have a positive parenting experience ✔️The Differently Wired revolution and the paradigm shift that is ever so slowly occurring to support our brilliant kids *If you enjoyed this episode, I'd love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Screenshot the episode on your device, post it on your Facebook profile and tag me @tracynolinbeerman ………….. GUEST RESOURCES Debbie Reber, MA is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, speaker, and the founder of Tlt Parenting, a website, weekly podcast, and resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The Tilt Parenting Podcast has nearly 5 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A regular contributor to ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's newest book is Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope. In 2018 she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. Website: https://tiltparenting.com Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tilt-parenting-raising-differently-wired-kids/id1102055778 Facebook: https://facebook.com/tiltparenting Instagram: https://instagram.com/tiltparenting Twitter: https://twitter.com/tiltparenting FREE 7 Day Differently Wired Challenge: https://tiltparenting.com/7day ………….. ADHD SUPPORTS GUIDE www.visiondrivenmom.com/adhdsupports ………….. VISION DRIVEN MOM RESOURCES Share: #visiondrivenmompodcast Website: http://www.visiondrivenmom.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/visiondrivenmom/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/visiondrivenmomwithadhd MUST HAVE SUPPORTS FOR MOMS WITH ADHD guide www.visiondrivenmom.com/adhdsupports ………….. SUBSCRIBE Apple | Google | Spotify | iHeart | Audible | Stitcher If you're enjoying the podcast, subscribe, rate and review it in iTunes. It's one of the best ways you can help new listeners find us.

Today we have a different kind of conversation for you. It's not an episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast but instead it's an episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast hosted by Debbie Reber. Debbie's show is all about parenting differently wired kids.   The episode that we're sharing with you today is one that I really enjoyed listening to. It's with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, who is one of the authors of the Power of Showing Up, written alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel.     This episode talks about the Four S's of showing up for your kids. I know you will enjoy this conversation as much as I did, and please connect with Debbie and follow her podcast at the links below.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free Video Series – 10 Things You Have To Know When You're Raising a Differently Wired Child: https://tiltparenting.com/10-things/  The Power of Showing Up by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Daniel Siegel: https://amzn.to/3EgEOz7  Tilt Parenting Podcast: https://tiltparenting.com/podcast-about-children-with-learning-disabilities/   Connect with Debbie Reber    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiltparenting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TiltParenting Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tiltparenting/ Website: https://tiltparenting.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

We have talked a lot on this podcast about how to help children with ADHD, Autism, SPD or other conditions. One important aspect about helping neuro-divergent children is parenting them in a supportive way. To help parents find answers to questions about parenting, our guest on the show this week is Debbie Reber. Debbie Reber is the founder and CEO of TILT PARERNTING and is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's most recent book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. Debbie's Tilt Parenting Podcast is the top performing podcast for parents, caregivers, educators, and professionals raising and supporting neurodivergent children, and has more than 4 million downloads. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. She currently lives in Brooklyn, NY with her husband and 18-year-old child.Need help with improving your child's health using integrative approaches?Check out my Instagram page -full of information, latest research, tips and tools for parents who want to be more effective with improving their children's health and behavior.Download my FREE guide: Top 5 ways to reduce your child's hyperactivity in a weekWant to work with me? Set up an Overcoming ADHD Discovery Call.Show NotesFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/tiltparentingTwitter: @debbiereberInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/tiltparentingWebsite home: http://www.debbiereber.comWebsite book page: http://www.debbiereber.com/booksMusic CreditFirst Light - Atch https://soundcloud.com/atch-musicCreative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0

Today's episode is a Kid's POV Special episode featuring another conversation with 12-year-old Asher. Our topic? Conflict. More specifically, handling parent-child conflict between the two of us. We're tackling this topic because I've been getting questions from listeners who want to know a) if we even have conflicts at all and b) if so, how we handle them.The easy answer to the first part of that question is DEFINITELY. We DEFINITELY have conflict. I'm very human in that way, as is Asher. Today, we'll spend the episode answering the second part of that question. We'll talk about the kinds of things that crop up and cause conflict between us, and then we'll share with you what that actually looks like in our world—what I do, what Ash does, and most importantly, how we move through and past it.Pro tip: This is a good episode for co-listening! When Asher and I listen to podcasts, we dump a puzzle out on the dining room table and listen while building the puzzle. It makes for a nice combination! About Debbie & AsherDebbie Reber is the founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 12-year-old Asher is Debbie's child and is regularly featured on the podcast. Find out more by visiting the About Page. Things you'll learn from this episodeThe benefits of talking through and getting clear on expectations (for all members of the family) prior to leaving for a vacationA strategy for using the collaborative problem solving approach to identify, address, and pre-solve concerns ahead of timeHow to make departure day go more smoothlyThe benefits of exploring and researching aspects of a vacation time well in advance of the trip (including accommodations, activities, etc.)A strategy for using written schedules coupled with frequent reviews during a vacation keeps everyone's expectations in checkThe benefits of bringing a child into the planning process (and letting them determine some of what will happen on vacation)Why it's useful to work with your child to discover what they need most on vacation and then incorporating it into your daily plan (ie: rest, chill time, etc.) Resources mentioned for handling parent-child conflictDownload a PDF of our Family Goals WorksheetDownload a PDF of our Vacation Concerns WorksheetDownload a PDF of our Daily Vacation Planner WorksheetLook at our Departure Plan whiteboardSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

This is the third installment in a series of solocasts specifically about homeschooling 2e children. I know many families of 2e and differently wired kids end up going down the homeschooling road, whether they're reluctant homeschoolers and they felt “forced” into the decision because they ran out of other options or whether they knew they would homeschool from the moment their child was born. Whatever the case, this episode is for you.In this episode, I share how Asher and I structure our school, what kind of classes he takes, how I figure out what he's going to focus on, and what a typical school day looks like for us. I wanted to talk about these things because I know that designing a curriculum can be one of the most overwhelming pieces of this puzzle.A quick note: If you haven't already done so, I encourage you to listen to the two other solocast episodes I've done on homeschooling 2e children. In Episode 42 I talk about how I made the decision to homeschool even though I had a LOT of resistance to the idea, and in Episode 48, I talk about the actual transition to homeschooling … basically how we survived that first rocky year. Debbie Reber, MA, is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded Tilt Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in Kids & Family, with more than 4 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass series.     Things you'll learn from this episodeHow Debbie has worked with curriculum advisors in designing the game plan for Asher's classesThe big role developing executive functioning skills plays in Asher's curriculumWhy Debbie believes freedom and flexibility is one of the biggest benefits of homeschoolingHow Debbie has incorporated outside curriculums into her school approachHow Debbie supplements formal curriculum with videos, books, and experiential learningDebbie's favorite resources for teaching, subject by subjectWhat a typical school day looks like for Debbie and AsherWhy Debbie believes it's critical that Asher participate in the actual design of their schedule and curriculum Resources mentioned for homeschooling 2e childrenKathi Kearney (curriculum advisor classes)Kristi Helgeson (curriculum advisor)Gifted Homeschooler's ForumAthena's Advanced AcademyYoga with Adrienne (YouTube channel)Life of FredSupport the show

In this special kid's POV edition, Asher and I talk about having ADHD and goal setting, a topic near and dear to my heart, but also an issue we hear from parents about a lot. Asher is someone who always seems to have a lot of projects he's working on and he sets often ambitious goals centered around those projects. Yet because of the way Ash is wired, he can often get distracted or derailed, which results in him being frustrated with himself.I know a thing or two about goal setting — it's actually the topic of a book I wrote for teen girls in 2015 called Doable, and so I am committed to using what I know about goals to help Asher learn how to successfully set and reach his own goals while also developing his planning, organizational, and time management skills. If you have kids with lots of ideas for things they'd like to do but seem to get stuck before they finish, or maybe even struggle to begin in the first place, this would be a good episode to listen to with them. Debbie Reber is the founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 11-year-old Asher is Debbie's child and is regularly featured on the podcast.  Things you'll learn from this episodeThe connection between ADHD, executive functioning challenges, and goal planningAsher's strategy for setting, measuring, and reaching goalsHow Asher uses both daily and weekly goal planning to keep him on trackWhat typically derails Asher when he's pursuing a goalThe power of the daily check-inAsher's tips for other kids looking to set and reach their personal goals Resources mentioned for ADHD & goal settingDebbie's book Doable: The Girls' Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything by Debbie ReberA Conversation with 11-year-old Asher About His Game-Changing Morning Routine (podcast)Understood.orgProductivity Planner from Intelligent ChangeDownload a copy of Asher's Goal Planning WorksheetThe Color Run (series of 5k races)Support the show

In this episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Jenna Flowers, a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and speaker, and the woman behind the fantastic new book, The Conscious Parent's Guide to Coparenting: A Mindful Approach to Creating a Collaborative, Positive Parenting Plan.Dr. Jenna's book is aimed at helping parents who are no longer together design a healthy alliance and share their parenting responsibilities in a way that best supports their children. In our conversation, we talk about the extra considerations for those parenting differently-wired kids, kids for whom consistency and support is critical to their healthy emotional development. Dr. Jenna also explains how parents of atypical kids can foster a structured, supportive environment in both homes, as well as shares her advice for things parents can do right now to strengthen their relationship with their co-parent, whether together or apart.  Dr. Jenna Flowers is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Author, and Speaker.  She completed her undergraduate studies at  the University of Michigan.  She then graduated with her MA in Spiritual Psychology from the prestigious University of Santa Monica, and Doctoral Degree in Psychology from the professional psychology school American Behavioral Studies Institute. Upon completing her Marriage and Family Therapy licensing board examinations in 2006, she has been in private practice in Newport Beach, California.  Things you'll learn from this episodeWhat exactly conscious coparenting isThe importance of repairing hurts from our childhood in order to become more present with our own childrenHow to help a child not take on responsibility or blame for their parents' breakupWhat to do when both parents aren't on the same pageWhat a designed alliance with a coparent actually looks like Resources mentioned for conscious coparentingDr. Jenna Flowers' personal websiteThe Conscious Parent's Guide to Coparenting by Dr. Jenna FlowersBrene BrownSamantha EttusParenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Dr. Dan SiegelConscious Mothering CurriculumHow Positive Discipline Can Help Children Thrive, with Casey O'Roarty of Joyful Courage (Tilt Parenting Podcast)What it Takes to Live a Healthy, Fulfilled Life as Mother to a Differently-Wired Kid, with Samantha Ettus (Tilt Parenting Podcast)The Gottman Institute: Softening Start-UpSupport the show

I haven't done a solocast in a while, but when you talk, I listen, and this topic has been requested by many of you, so I decided to dedicate this episode to talk about navigating big life transitions with differently wired kids. Our family has gone through our fair share of big changes, which you'll hear all about in this episode, so this is something that I've spent a lot of time thinking about. Especially as a parent of a differently wired kid, I know that there are some extra challenges that might come up when their routines, environment, life circumstances, or supports change, and our kids are also more likely to be resistant to changes (even if they are beneficial). So today I'll be sharing the strategies I've personally found helpful while going through big transitions with Asher. In this episode, I talk about key things such as why being honest when communicating with your kid is so important to help them understand and process change, how being vulnerable can be a way to show support, how to validate our kids' feelings about the changes or transitions, and how to identify their concerns so you can make plans to address them in advance. I also share about what adjustment disorder is and the kind of extra support you might need during transitions. Tilt Parenting Founder & CEO Debbie Reber (MA) is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's most recent book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. Debbie's Tilt Parenting Podcast is the top performing podcast for parents, caregivers, educators, and professionals raising and supporting neurodivergent children, and has more than 4 million downloads. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass series.Things you'll learn from this episodeThe benefits and growth that can come from navigating big changes as a familyWhy honesty is so important when communicating with your child about big changesWhat to share versus what not to share with your child about the transitions you go throughHow to validate the big emotions and thoughts that big transitions can bring up in your childThe importance of doing your own work as a parent to be able to support our kids during transitionsWhat adjustment disorder is and the extra support you might need to help your child through oneHow being vulnerable with your kids can be really supportive for themIdentifying the concerns that our kids have and coming up with plans to address them in advanceCreating new routines to create security for our kids during big transitions For more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session301Support the show

In this episode of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, I talk with Samantha Ettus, a renowned work-life balance expert, author, radio show host, and media personality. Sam is passionate about helping people, and especially moms, find create a more fulfilled, healthier, and more satisfying life. She writes about her ideas in her new book The Pie Life: A Guilt Free Recipe for Success and Satisfaction.I was excited to talk with Sam about her new book and ideas behind what she refers to as “embracing the mess and bumps” that come hand-in-hand with living a truly fulfilled life, since messiness and bumps seem to a part of any parent raising a differently-wired kid's experience. In our conversation, we talk about everything from self-care and intentional parenting to getting our partners up to speed since often moms seem to be the ones holding onto a lot of the information relevant to our kids' day-to-day life.Samantha Ettus is a work-life expert whose goal is to find the spark within each one of us and turn it into a fire. She is a best-selling author, a writer for Forbes, a sought after speaker, a Harvard MBA, and host of a nationally syndicated call-in radio show. Sam has shared her advice on hundreds of television shows and media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood, NBC Nightly News, CNN, The Doctors, and Fox and Friends, and in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times and USA Today. Things you'll learn from this episodeWhy working moms are, in many ways, set up to failThoughts on being a more intentional parent, embracing empathy, and seeing our kids for who they areWhat's reasonable to expect when designing a healthy, fulfilled life, and how to find work-life balanceHow to get your parenting partner on-board / up-to-speed on important matters related to our childrenWhy self-care is so critical for mothers and how to build self-care practices into daily lifeSam's thoughts on juggling work and the unpredictable nature of raising a differently-wired kid Resources mentioned for work-life balance + parentingSamantha Ettus' websiteThe Pie Life: A Guilt-Free Recipe for Success and Satisfaction by Samantha EttusSam's Tedx Talk: The Secret to Unlocking a Child's PotentialWorking Mom's Lifestyle Radio ShowSupport the show

Sheryl Stoller is a PCI Certified Parent Coach® who has devoted herself to coaching overwrought parents of children whose abilities, sensibilities, and behaviors go beyond expectations (gifted, twice/multi-exceptional) since 2009. This is a personal journey as well as an academic and professional one for Sheryl. She is deeply gratified to serve parents the way she had needed when her children were young. Parents who work with Sheryl come to love how they show up to themselves, their children, and others in their lives. Sheryl has been an expert guest on Debbie Reber's wide-reaching TiLT Parenting Podcast and is honored to have joined her Differently Wired Club's team of parent coaches. She integrates many fields of knowledge and training into her coaching. Most recently, she is receiving her Somatic Attachment Therapy Certification; and is a Positive Intelligence (PI) Mental Fitness Coach, through Shirzad Chamine out of Stanford University. Sheryl Co-Leads two communities of practice for PI - Parents and Families, and Neurodiversity; and has received rave reviews for her customization of PI for “Aligned Parents” and “Get Mental and Emotional Fitness” Group programs for 2E parents. Having trained with Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Sheryl is honored that Dr. Shefali has this to say: “There are few who can work with families of gifted and twice-exceptional children the way Sheryl Stoller can. She is not only perceptive, compassionate, and knowledgeable, but also extremely effective and results oriented.  She is trained in conscious parenting approaches and has tremendous success with her clients. I unreservedly recommend her!”

Schools try to help and support families with neurodiverse learners, but there's not a lot of wiggle room for anyone who doesn't fit into the “normal” box. What schools don't acknowledge is that no two kids will ever be the same or learn in the same way. It's the parents' responsibility to advocate for their children and to help (kindly) educate schools, teachers, and other parents about how their child navigates the world. Our system is setting kids up for failure, and that's the last thing our kids or we as educators and parents want. This week on the podcast, I'm talking with Debbie Reber, author of Differently Wired, a parent of a “differently wired” child, and founder of TiLT Parenting. Debbie found herself doing research and creating tools to help her own child and wanted to be able to offer them to other parents.  We talk about how schools can honor learner differences, how our system is set up for failure, and how COVID has positively impacted the way we teach our kids. It's a must-listen for anyone who teaches or parents differently wired kiddos. About Debbie Reber: Debbie Reber, MA, is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a resource for raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has 4 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's newest book is Differently Wired: Parenting an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. Follow TiLT Parenting on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Jump in the Conversation: [3:00] - Going beyond parenting to creating resources for other parents [5:04] - Tilt Parenting - resource and podcast [7:15] - Most common frustrations in school communities [9:21] - How schools can honor learner differences [10:54] - Our system is set up for failure [13:48] - How parents can advocate for their kids [17:41] - Finding community online [22:20] - We're afraid of failing our kids [24:24] - Turbo Time [27:38] - What you need to know about TiLTing [32:27] - Debbie's Magic Wand [34:30] - Maureen's Takeaways Links & Resources Episode 8: Creating Teams of Learning Support The End of Average by Todd Rose The Myth of Average TEDx Talk by Todd Rose Dr. Ross Green and The Explosive Child book The Other Black Girl by Zakiya Dalila Harris Email Maureen Maureen's TEDx: Changing My Mind to Change Our Schools The Education Evolution Facebook: Follow Education Evolution Twitter: Follow Education Evolution LinkedIn: Follow Education Evolution EdActive Collective Maureen's book: Creating Micro-Schools for Colorful Mismatched Kids Micro-school feature on Good Morning America The Micro-School Coalition Facebook: The Micro-School Coalition LEADPrep

“When you are producing in the zone that feels the most comfortable to you, that feels like you are at your best, you can think clearly, you're not overstretched, what does that look like for you? People have not been asked that question. How do you produce best, what does that look like on your own terms?” -Kanesha Baynard In this episode, Master Certified Coach Jill Farmer talks with author and creativity and productivity expert Kanesha Baynard about how to stop spinning your wheels and start being productive. Jill and Kanesha talk us through Kanesha's list of the things we should do more of and the things we should do less of. The list contains more daily doing and less overdoing, more self compassion and less self sabotage, more authentic connecting and less surface interactions and lastly, more rest and less getting it all done at any cost. Kanesha explains the benefits and reasons for the items on the list and their importance. You will also hear about the importance of reminding yourself about purposeful productivity, understanding how you are productive, thinking about self compassion, being authentic in your connections and really taking the time to see and be seen among many other very meaningful gems. Kanesha Baynard is an author, creativity expert, and productivity specialist. She also considers herself to be the love child of Oprah Winfrey and Martha Stewart. Kanesha founded the Bold Living Today community which helps people disrupt unfulfilling patterns through creativity. She specializes in helping teens and parents (re)connect through her F.O.C.U.S. Protocol workshop series. Kanesha also supports creatives through brainstorming sessions, ideation + quarterly mapping retreats, and burnout prevention. Kanesha's work has been featured in Fast Company, HuffPost Live,  U.S. News and World Report, TiLT Parenting Podcast, Parents Magazine, WVON 1690 AM radio, and the Chicago Tribune. 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I'm excited to welcome you to a special episode of the Mother's Quest Podcast that I am extremely grateful for, just in time for Thanksgiving, featuring the amazing Julie Lythcott-Haims and my 17-year-old son Ryan Neale. Julie is an incredible mother to two, a former Stanford Dean and New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult, which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. I'm so fortunate to have had the opportunity to interview Julie for the podcast several years ago when that book was first released. When I heard about Julie's new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, I knew I wanted to invite her back to the podcast again. And, I hoped that my son Ryan, on the threshold of adulthood himself, would join us in the conversation. The stars aligned and Ryan was available the day of the interview, enabling Julie, Ryan, and I to explore the concepts of her book, about navigating adulthood and embracing our differences, especially our neurodiversity, in deeply personal and relevant ways.  In this episode, I'm also excited to share a dedication from Deborah Reber, former podcast guest, fellow mother on a quest, and host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast.Deborah's heart-felt dedication honors Julie and other mothers raising neurodivergent children. I could not agree more with Deborah's assessment about what an exceptional human Julie is, about the power of Julie's commitment to put the stories of a diverse group of young people with different identities on the pages of her book, and about the impact of Julie's work for normalizing and honoring differences.  As you hear our conversation unfold, I know you'll be as struck as I was by Julie's wisdom and humility as she talks with Ryan, helping him to understand that he deserves to be cherished for who he is, that he can approach things like writing in ways that work for his differently-wired mind, and that he can seek out environments, like college, that enables him to play to his strengths and allow him to thrive. Since our conversation, Ryan was able to take Julie's advice to heart, using voice to text without shame to write his personal statement for college applications and sharing his personal insights on a panel at the recent Stanford Neurodiversity Summit. You can follow the link in the show notes to listen.Finally, this conversation is a demonstration that there is no destination to becoming an adult, but an ongoing journey of learning and discovery, that parents and their children can support one another in reciprocity with curiosity, and that we can all benefit from asking ourselves the question from Mary Oliver's famous poem, that Julie gives us as our challenge, “What is it that we want to do with our one wild and precious life?”As we approach Thanksgiving, the five-year birthday of the launch of Mother's Quest, and my 50th birthday, I can say there is nothing I'd rather do than hold space for a conversation like this one and share it with you.   About Julie: Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.    Connect with Julie:  Website  Twitter Instagram LinkedIn   About RyanRyan Neale is a neurodivergent 12th Grader from San Mateo, California. His parents discovered he was differently wired when he was 18 months old but he has been in fully mainstream education for his academic career, with most people around him not knowing about some of the struggles that he faces. His experiences publicly masking his neuro differences have given him a unique perspective on many of the struggles neurodiverse people face, such as public stigma, ableism, and the ever-present desire to fit in. As he has begun advocating more for his needs, he has high hopes to use his perspective and communication skills to increase public understanding of neurodiversity, and hopefully create a more inclusive society for everyone. In his free time, he enjoys playing varsity basketball for his high school team, coaching youth sports, roughhousing with his little brother, and diving headfirst into his many fantasy special interests. He is thrilled to have participated in this fall's Stanford Neurodiversity Summit on a K-12 student panel. You can listen to the panel here. Connect with Ryan:  Instagram   Topics Discussed in this Episode: How Julie's experience listening to students as a Stanford Dean and raising her own children led her to write a book about young adults The painful admission Julie shared about overlooking her own son Sawyer's challenges with ADHD and anxiety and the poignant moment when her son acknowledged Julie's shift in understanding him  The ways that Ryan identifies as neurodivergent, how he has adapted, and the pain he has experienced trying to fit in a neurotypical world  Julie's advice to Ryan about embracing who he is Her recommendation of the book Normal Sucks by Jonathan Mooney  The revelations parents can take from Julie's book How to help young adults figure out what next steps to take on their path to becoming an adult  The lessons Julie has personally gained from writing her books Julie's words of wisdom for Ryan on how to move through his resistance of writing by trying methods that might work better for his differences and strengths  The biggest takeaway that Julie learned in her research and in her own journey writing the book about how to be vulnerable and connected and open to the support of others so that you don't have to feel alone Julie's challenge for all of us that can help us live our best lives as adults   Resources and Topics Mentioned: Ep 52: Third Chapters, Raising Adults, and Loving Ourselves with Julie Lythcott-Haims  Normal Sucks by Jonathan Mooney  Julie's books Julie's Ted talk    This Episode's Challenge: Ask yourself the question from Mary Oliver's famous poem, “what do I want to do with this one wild and precious life?” Explore what would you do if it was only up to you...if nobody else's opinion really mattered. Go to a quiet place, a shower, out in nature, or on a hammock and ask yourself "What is the work that brings me joy? What are the places and spaces where I feel valued and seen?" This Episode is dedicated by Deborah Reber Debbie Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in Kids & Family, with more than 3 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass series. Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens, including Doable: The Girls' Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything, Language of Love, Chill: Stress-Reducing Techniques for a More Balanced, Peaceful You, In Their Shoes: Extraordinary Women Describe Their Amazing Careers, and more than a dozen preschool books based on the series Blue's Clues. In 2008, she had the privilege of creating and editing the first-ever series of teen-authored memoirs, Louder Than Words. Before becoming a solopreneur, Debbie worked in TV and video production, producing documentaries and PSAs for CARE and UNICEF, working on Blue's Clues, and developing original series for Cartoon Network. She has an MA in Media Studies from the New School for Social Research and a BA in Communications from Pennsylvania State University. In 2019, her husband, and 17-year-old twice-exceptional son relocated to Brooklyn, NY after living in Amsterdam, the Netherlands for five years.    Connect with Deborah: https://tiltparenting.com https://instagram.com/tiltparenting https://facebook.com/groups/tilttogether https://twitter.com/tiltparenting   You can also check out my conversation with Debbie on the Mother's Quest Podcast about embracing differences here! Announcement:   Special Q & A Brunch with Julie Lythcott-Haims Join Mother's Quest and Happy Women Dinners for a special opportunity to receive Julie's new book, get it personally signed, and enjoy brunch and a Q & A with Julie at Julie Neale's private home in the SF Peninsula. Cost is $125 and includes brunch and a copy of the signed book. Email jill@happywomendinners.com to secure your spot ASAP. Tickets are sold out with the exception of a small number for Mother's Quest listeners and members.    Mother's Quest is Turning Five - Celebrate With Us! On December 1st, Mother's Quest will be celebrating it's 5th birthday. To honor this milestone, we are having a virtual celebration with poetry, music, toasts and more.  If you've been impacted by Mother's Quest and have wishes to share for our next chapter, I'd love for you to join us. Email hello@Mothersquest.com to get all the details and RSVP.    Mother's Quest is a podcast for moms who are ready to live a truly E.P.I.C. life. Join in for intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring mothers as they share how they are living an E.P.I.C. life, Engaging mindfully with their children (E), Passionately and Purposefully making a difference beyond their family (P), Investing in themselves (I), and Connecting to a strong support network (C). 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My guest this week is Debbie Reber, a New York Times best-selling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in the iTunes Kids & Family category, with nearly 3 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In this episode, Debbie and I discuss what parenting a neurodiverse or differently wired kid looks like in today's world. We put aside the stigma, the school-enforced goals, and the “fix” your child model and focus on the child's strengths and needs. The journey of parenting a differently wired child is a marathon, not a sprint, Debbie offers amazing resources on where to start and how to help your child thrive. Learn more about Debbie's work here.   Follow Debbie Website Instagram @tiltparenting @debbiereber Facebook Twitter @tiltparenting @debbiereber Connect with Dr. Nicole Beurkens on... Instagram Facebook Drbeurkens.com Need help with improving your child's behavior naturally?  My book Life Will Get Better is available for purchase, click here to learn more.  Looking for more? Check out my Blog and the Better Behavior Naturally Parent Membership- a resource guide for parents who want to be more effective with improving their child's behavior.  Interested in becoming a patient? Contact us here.

Deborah Reber, MA, is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with nearly 3 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. Meet My Guest: WEBSITE: DebbieReber.com WEBSITE: TiltParenting.com INSTAGRAM: @tiltparenting FACEBOOK: /tiltparenting Press PARENTMAP.COM: 6 People Changing the World of Learning Differences and Special Needs TODAY: Differently Wired: The moment when school felt like feeding my son to sharks

Greetings! I've got a whole slew of awesome questions for you today (you can read the questions in their entirety just below : ) Here are the Key Links that come up in today's episode, located at weturnedoutokay.com/353 You should go to that link above if you would like to see the video of this episode (instead of just listening in audio)… Cheers and thanks for listening! Karen Links that come up today: My free guide to raising happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/readers If you'd like to get useful tools and parenting ideas in your inbox each week, without the guide to happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Click here for one of the many wonderful Elephant and Piggy books by Mo Willems Click here for a book that your family might enjoy with new readers, You Read to Me, I'll Read to You How NOT to teach your child to ride a bike: https://weturnedoutokay.com/092-how-to-teach-your-young-child-to-ride-a-bike/ Click the following link for one of the very early episodes I did, about how kids develop grit: https://weturnedoutokay.com/002/ Click the following link for my conversation with Amy Anderson, about how to know if your young child is consenting: https://weturnedoutokay.com/066 Click the following link for my conversation with Carey Andersen, sharing her story of her child's nonconsent to a bad kindergarten situation and what they did about it: https://weturnedoutokay.com/045 Click the following link for my conversation with Debbie Reber of the TiLT Parenting Podcast: https://weturnedoutokay.com/350 Okay, just below are the questions! Thanks for reading and listening! Cheers! Tish: What do I say to my 6 year old who can't seem to keep his hands out of his pants? How do I win when trying to get 2 6 year old(s) to practice reading and not lose my mind?  It's a nightmare everyday. I've tried to bribe, threaten, prayed loudly, and I can't seem to find anything that works. It's not as bad when they are out of school and we can do it in the mornings but the evenings are a nightmare every. single. day.  Not doing it is not an option.  We'll be further behind than we are now. Whether we think this is "right" or not doesn't mean they will change their policy.  We are on Book 4 out of 12 we have to read to go the 2nd grade.   Surviving... because this too will pass.     Anonymous: We are in the midst of struggling mightily on [my five-year-old’s] second med trial for ADHD. This one is not making any difference at school except he’s even more talkative and then he’s having a huge emotional crash and sobbing meltdowns in the evenings. Working with the doctor to figure out a new plan this week! Other than that just powering through end of year work chaos. Trying to stay positive as I hear this is so common to have to try a few meds but it’s hard! So we are in survival mode but going to make the most of the holidays! [Karen:] FYI I have discovered some biases in myself, and as a result I'm going to do some more research into this whole issue – meds, ADD, ADHD, coping mechanisms both for kids and parents. This deserves at least an episode, and possibly a series. Stay tuned

There are just 20 spots available in my 2021 Year of Empowerment coaching program for parents… Don't miss your chance to join this powerful program! Be notified when I open enrollment for the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program (enrollment begins 11/23!) by clicking the link below: https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly I am super excited to bring you today's episode, which includes so much good that my heart is practically bursting : ) It's a digest episode, and the first part is my conversation with Debbie Reber, founder of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, http://tiltparenting.com, and author of one of my favorite books, Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. Somewhere in the first few minutes we decide to depart from a kind of standard interview, Q&A sort of conversation and dive into something much better and more fun! Here are some of Debbie's ideas that felt so transformative for me: – "I love that you mention taking care of your body…" Debbie goes on to share how important this idea is, and how often we truly do forget. (My forgetting, as I share today, landed me in the hospital just a few weeks before our conversation.) – "Asking "What if I had no agenda at all?""… Debbie brings this up in reference to children and learning. If we don't have an agenda, we are free to just be in the moment and enjoying the time with our children. And more – if we don't have an agenda we are free to allow our kids on a voyage of self-discovery. This is crucial, even more so with the world turned upside down from the pandemic. – "I have permission to do whatever I want and feel whatever I feel."… Debbie shares this as a way of diffusing judgment. Giving ourselves this permission is so freeing. I hope this conversation is transformational for you, too! In Part 2 I read an essay I wrote recently, called "A hard decision I have made." It shares about the decision I recently made to close my Ninja Parenting Community – and after I read it, I share about something I'm truly excited about, the group coaching program I'm offering for 2021 called "The Year of Empowerment." 2021: The Year of Empowerment Program: … Helps you combat the challenge of others walking all over you, so you feel in charge of your destiny and your family's direction. … Helps you overcome your fears about your child's behavior and others'' judgment of that behavior or your parenting. So you know that you are making the right decisions for you and your family. … Helps you stop feeling guilty or unworthy so you can live your best life and model that for your kids. Each month of 2021 you'll be empowered to truly take the reins in your family life. You will know how to get good behavior from your child. You will know how to advocate for them, to help them love learning and get the best education possible – no matter how bad all of this feels right now. You will know how to feel good about getting the self-care time you need and deserve. How will this program work? 1. Each month of 2021 we will have a group coaching conversation, a powerful, in-depth, 90 minute call diving into the different aspects of empowerment including: – The setting of proper boundaries to eliminate toxic people from your life – Learning to say "no," so you only participate in and do what feels truly good for you – Advocating for your child – Learning the tenets of positive discipline, so your child does not walk all over you anymore – Teaching your child about the world – Living a truly wonderful and empowering life – Consequently modeling "how to live a truly wonderful and empowering life" for your family 2. A year's subscription to the acclaimed We Turned Out Okay Playbook! The We Turned Out Okay Playbook provides a place for you to envision and build out your life and your family's future. The 2021 Year of Empowerment program includes a whole year – 12 issues – of the Playbook, one each month, delivered directly to your mailbox! Each month you'll receive the Playbook, my top-shelf publication that shapes your thinking in a very positive and gratitude-centered way. (Learn more about the Playbook at: https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook) Between our monthly calls and the daily, positive and creative thinking opportunities the Playbook offers, you have extremely powerful tools to shape your life how you want it. Cost and How to Enroll: The program costs $3000 for the year 2021. There are just 20 spots available. I'm offering a Black Friday special: 50% off! Just $1500 instead of the usual $3000! I'm opening up enrollment in the 2021 Year of Empowerment on Monday 11/23/20… Click the link below and sign up to get notified when enrollment begins! https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly Cheers! And thanks for listening/reading! Karen Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. Creator and Founder of https://weturnedoutokay.com View this post, video of our conversation, and all notes and links in your browser by clicking the link below: https://weturnedoutokay.com/350

In this episode, New York Times Best Selling author Debbie Reber of TILT Parenting Podcast shares her personal experience raising a neurodivergent child, the homeschooling process, and navigating the educational and medical system. https://tiltparenting.com/podcast/  iheartspeechtherapy.com SocialsJoin our Facebook group for weekly tips and tools:Cherina WilliamsInstagram@IveGotThisKid_Podcast@CherinaWilliamSLPTwitterCherinaWilliam1 LinkedInCherina Williams YoutubeCherina Williams CCC SLP  

At least 1 in 5 people are differently wired, says Debbie Reber, founder of TiLT Parenting. Differently wired kids are neurologically atypical. They perceive the world differently than their peers and express themselves differently as well. These differences can be subtle or glaring, and as a parent or teacher, it can be hard to know how to respond to these quirks. Debbie and her husband noticed their son Asher's differences early on. He was "more intense, more precocious, more challenging" than similarly aged children and was "moving through the world in a different way" than his peers. By elementary school, his differences were creating challenges. Eventually, the family learned that Asher is "twice exceptional;" he's gifted and has some learning challenges, including ADHD and executive functioning and sensory issues. The diagnoses confirmed Debbie's gut instinct: Asher moves through the world differently than most boys his age. But the diagnoses didn't unveil any magic solutions. The family still had to learn how to help Asher thrive. "It's tricky to figure out a path and a plan when your child doesn't fit the box," Debbie says. "It's important to realize that there is no handbook for these kids. It's really about trying to identify your child's areas of weakness, learning what kind of support might help them right now and then taking one step at a time." Identifying and supporting your son's strengths is also essential. After all, differences aren't necessarily a bad thing. "We value disruptors as the innovators, the people creating new products and solving the problems of the world. Disruption is a buzzword!" Debbie says. "Our kids are disruptors because they're non-conformists, they see the world differently, they're going to challenge authority and question everything. Isn't that what we want?" In this episode, Jen, Janet & Debbie discuss: Identifying differently wired children What to do if people dismiss your concerns about your son's behavior The link between lagging skill development and "bad behavior" Respectful transparency (or, how to talk to your son about his challenges) How to find help for your differently wired kid Why you need to challenge your beliefs about what you (and your child) "should" do Homeschooling as an option for differently wired boys Why non-conformity and disruption are good things Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: tiltparenting.com -- TiLT Parenting online (includes links to TiLT Parenting Podcast too) TiLT Together FB Group Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope, by Debbie Reber Twice Exceptional Boys (w Ramsey Hootman) -- ON BOYS episode ADHD with Ryan Wexelblatt the ADHD Dude -- ON BOYS episode Sensory Processing Disorder w Nancy Peske -- ON BOYS episode Snoop Dogg listening to Let It Go (Video mentioned at 29:02. Trust us & watch this video if you haven't seen it yet!) Why the Future Will be Differently Wired -- Debbie's 2018 TEDx Talk The "New Normal" Kids and Why We Need to Embrace Them -- Debbie's 2019 TEDx Talk "My Boy Can" Parenting -- our first ON BOYS conversation w Sassy Harvey (mentioned at 36:33) LIKE THIS EPISODE? Share it with your friends (and thanks!): Twitter:  Use this link Facebook:  Use this link Linkedin:  Use this link STAY CONNECTED WITH JANET & JEN: Join the Building Boys FB group and the Boys Alive! FB group Be sure to opt-in at  Boys Alive! .com for your free report “3 Simple Tips to CONNECT with Your Boy.”  And opt-in at  BuildingBoys.net, too! Follow us on Instagram:  @on.boys.podcast and @boys.alive Twitter:  @ParentAdvisor and @BuildingBoys  LinkedIn:  use this link for Janet and use this link for Jennifer

Dr. Dan welcomes back his colleague and friend Debbie Reber, founder of TILT Parenting and host of the TILT Parenting Podcast (which just hit two million downloads!).  Debbie created TILT to support parents raising “differently-wired” kids and her work has shifted the conversation around how neurodiversity is perceived and experienced in the world.  She emphasises parenting with joy and acceptance for all children.  Her book Differently Wired was recently released in paperback.   Today Dr. Dan and Debbie talk about their own intimate and personal stories about raising their differently wired kids. The episode includes advice about navigating the stages of a diagnosis from a “fix it stage” mindset to frustration and fear and finally to reframing and acting -- and ultimately shifting to what will work for your individual child.   Debbie explains why her favorite quote (“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”) can successfully lead parents and families to a successful future.  This episode is one parents will return to again and again.   The enlightening interview ends with Debbie’s Parent Footprint moment about ange, which will resonate with many listeners.   Debbie Reber is the New York Times bestselling author of Differently Wired, podcast host, life coach, and speaker.  Before creating Tilt, she spent over ten years writing inspiring books for women and teens and speaking about issues including media literacy, self-esteem, and confidence.  In 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, top parenting podcast, and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently-wired children.  Debbie Reber lives with her son and husband in the Netherlands. For more information visit  www.tiltparenting.com.   Watch this free video to learn more about Dr. Dan and Parent Footprint Awareness Training®.

In this week's episode, we welcome Deborah Reber, MA, a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker, who you may know as the author of Differently Wired: The Parents' Guide to Raising An Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope. Whether you're raising one of these "differently wired” kids--the one in five children with ADHD, dyslexia, Asperger’s, giftedness, anxiety, sensory processing disorder, and other neurodifferences--or engaging with them and their parents in your daily life, this episode is a must-listen!Debbie is the founder of TiLT Parenting, a top podcast, community, and educational resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with nearly 2 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. You can learn more about Debbie Reber at https://tiltparenting.com/.Stay in touch by sending us your questions and comments:Phone: (857) MANNERSEmail: hi@evieandsarah.comReady to connect? Hop into our Group Coaching Community to gain clarity on your parenting, receive actionable advice to put into practice today, and build connections.Join our Facebook Group, Talking Modern Manners for Moms & Dads, by clicking here.Be sure to sign up for our newsletter for all the latest updates on our book! http://eepurl.com/gcDBg1Website: http://www.evieandsarah.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0zm0kIGoOplsQ70z-X14OA?sub_confirmation=1Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/evieandsarahInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/evieandsarah See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, I'm talking to Debbie Reber, creator of TiLT Parenting, the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, and the author of Differently Wired: Raising and Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. While this book was written mainly for parents that need extra support, I think it will resonate with all parents of all kids. Big Ideas Every child deserves to be understood and accepted for who they are. We are all wired differently. Some differences are more visible than others. Each kid needs different tools to thrive in life and we can help them figure out what they need for their individual journey. When parents and children communicate their needs and explain their differences to others, people are more understanding and accepting. 3 Key Take-Aways: Find a community and resources Find the right kind of support (parent coach, couples counselor, online communities) Embrace and accept kids' strengths; teach them to articulate their needs. Gifted kids also have special needs that can be addressed and supported in schools and at home. As a parent, set aside what you think your child's (social, academic, physical) life should look like, and respect your child's own timeline. Quotes Audrey: "Sometimes people are just kind of under the radar. Maybe they aren't diagnosed with something, but their parents just sort of know that they don't move through life the same way that other people do." Debbie: "Many of the kids in my community may not have a formal diagnosis but a lot of them are extra sensitive, have heightened anxiety and are more tuned in and the world is an intense place for them." Debbie: "I wanted to cast a wide net and include any sort of narrow atypicality because there are so many of us. But when we stay in our little buckets, we don't get to tap into the collective and recognize the power in our numbers and why things really do need to change." Audrey: "Sometimes our biggest challenges become our biggest gifts." Audrey: "You did this journey together with your son, learning how to help him navigate the world and then how to help you navigate the world as a parent. You figured out how to embrace your son and all of his strengths and his uniqueness and help him become his best self. And you helped him be able to articulate to the world who he is and what he needs." Audrey: "I've always loved delving into all the personality type inventories that just help us learn how the way we see the world or react to things is different from other people and being a little more empathetic and understanding of that as opposed to thinking it's wrong." Debbie: "We're really looking at this person as an individual human on their own incredible journey. I think it can be really hard when we're just kind of on this treadmill of life, doing what everybody else is doing. Take a conscious step back and say, 'wait a minute--who is this kid and what do they need to do to really thrive?'" Debbie: "It's not easy to take that pause and to really shift your focus." Audrey: "Even for people with different interests, the concept that there is one path is so flawed. Kids who aren't academically inclined or school isn't their thing are left feeling like they don't fit in. Often, it beats them down to the point where they don't have the opportunity to explore their interests." Audrey: "The impact of not letting kids be who they really are and exploring that is coming out in the rise of mental health disorders, substance abuse, and suicide among adolescents and young adults. All of these things can be traced back to the same idea that if you don't fit into some prescribed thing, the world is hard." Audrey: "We all have a lot of parental shame, insecurity, guilt, worry and often loneliness when we are kind of embarrassed by our kids' behavior or confused or just don't get it." Debbie: "There's a lot of judging in parenting. It's pervasive and it's really harmful. It hurts us and when people are judging it is triggering their own insecurities. I think it's so important to find safe spaces to connect and to share." Debbie: "It's important to get clear and remember what the core goal is and that is to support these kids in becoming who they are." Debbie: "One of the ways we can bolster our foundation is to surround ourselves with people who fully support our family. When we do this, we relax, our kids relax, and we all get to go about our business from a place of confidence. Community changes everything. It lifts us up. It deepens our well of resources. It fuels our bravery. It allows us to be our authentic selves. It reminds me that we and our children are not alone. It's time we ditched the doubters, skeptics, and those will never get it and instead surround ourselves with our people." (Differently Wired, pg. 217) Debbie: "Part of the process is for us to speak openly, without fear or shame or worry. That's part of the accepting process of knowing that there is no one way to be normal." Debbie: "I imagine we are going to create a more accepting society if we stop shaming certain behaviors, ostracizing people, or making them feel like they're aberrations when really it's just a different way of being." Debbie: "One of the biggest gifts we can give a kid is the opportunity to truly know themselves and understand how their brain works and what's going on and then how to advocate for themselves, how to speak up." Debbie: "When people understand, it changes everything. People are afraid of what they don't understand. In a society that puts so much weight on conforming and fitting in, when we don't understand something, we tend to make up stories about it or push it aside." Audrey: "For more typically-wired kids, it teaches them super important character traits like kindness, empathy, and compassion." Debbie: "As parents, we can really spin out and get concerned if what we're seeing in our own family isn't matching our idea of what this should look like. Every child is on their own timeline. Everyone is growing in strengths and may have some lagging skills but they even out eventually. If we can keep our eye on the goal to raise a responsible human being who knows themselves, who understands what they need and has the tools to reach their potential, that's what we're going for." Resources The Miracle Morning Learn more about Debbie Reber and TiLT Parenting: TiLT Parenting on Facebook TiLT Together Facebook Group TiLT Instagram http://www.twitter.com/tiltparenting Related Posts/Podcasts If you liked this episode, listen to Ep. 104: Know and Love Yourself AND Your Kids 4 Ways to Focus on our Kids' Strengths Ep. 71: Growing Your Child’s “Bushy Broccoli Brain” Ep. 30: How to Raise a Durable Human with JJ Madden 10 Friendship Skills Every Kid Needs

Today on the podcast we are joined by Deborah Reber, Deborah is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a weekly podcast, community, and educational resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with more than 1 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is "Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World" . In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired.

In the midst of what feels like a whirlwind in my home and family life, it's a pleasure for me to share this encore episode with mindfulness educator, corporate trainer, podcast host and author of “Mindful Parenting in a Messy World,” Michelle Gale. I have a 7-year-old birthday party coming up for my little guy, Jacob on Saturday, my parents have just arrived from Los Angeles, we're still integrating our brand new puppy into our home, and things are just feeling, like - a lot. This is true for so many of us at this time of year as we're helping our kids settle into their new school schedule and environment, tackling homework, and all the things. I remembered that I had this conversation with Michael Gale on the podcast this time last year when we were in a similar flurry and knew I could really benefit from listening again. I always like to share the goodness...and thought this encore episode might help light your way too  this fall season!  A few other announcements: **Stay tuned for a brand new episode with my dear friend, new mother, and incredible philanthropist Pia Infante next week. **And would love for you to join us in the Mother's Quest Facebook group where I'll be making announcements about a Spark Your E.P.I.C. Year workshop in early October to help us reflect on the chapter behind us and set intentions for the new school year. www.mothersquest.com/community to join  Until then, I hope that you enjoy this conversation with Micheal Gale, either for the first time or listening to it again as an encore! And that you find some equanimity and calm in the storm this fall season.  Much appreciation, P.S. Know someone who would love this conversation? Click forward now to pay this forward to a friend who may be interested. Ep 51: Equanimity & The Calm In the Storm with Mindful Parent Michelle Gale This conversation, rooted in how to bring more equanimity to our lives–finding our center of calm in the storm–came to me just when I needed it most, during a start to my fall season marked by big school transitions for my children, travel away from home, and supporting my family after my father’s bypass heart surgery.  In the midst of all of that, it was such a gift to have this time with Michelle, whose journey brought her from working in technology startups like Twitter to a deep dive in mindfulness training. Michelle draws on that training today as an advisor to organizations like Wisdom 2.0, in trainings with corporations like Disney and Google, for summits and workshops for parents that she organizes, and as a parent with her own two boys at home.  An awareness of our impact in the day to day, through being a mindful parent, is something that Michelle embodies in her own parenting, in the appreciation she describes for her own mother, a single parent who adopted Michelle at the age of four months old, and in the ways that she makes mindfulness relatable and accessible to those she teaches.  I learned so much from Michelle in the time we spent together, about answering our own calls for life-long learning, about slowing down, raising our awareness and making the implicit explicit, of the importance of bringing compassion, especially during times of transition, and how to draw on our experience as mothers as a source of learning and transformation.   When we began, I asked Michelle to lead us through a Three Breath Practice which I heard her share about on Deborah Reber’s TILT Parenting Podcast. The practice became the bookends for this episode, the opening that allowed us each to make intentions for our time together, and the challenge that Michelle invites us to integrate into our lives.  As you listen to this episode, I invite you to slow down by taking your own three breaths with us, tap into Michelle’s intention for finding “equanimity,” your center in the midst of chaos, and open yourself to Michelle’s wisdom. If you do, I’m certain you’ll find more of your calm in the storm and connect more fully to your own mindful parenting in a messy world. In This Episode We Talk About: The Three Breath Practice and how I’ve begun using it to help me make better decisions about how to use my time. The concept of “equanimity” and the importance of creating awareness and space for our discomfort so that we can come back to our center. Michelle’s appreciation for  “Attachment Theory” through the lens of her own experience being adopted at the age of four months. Also the realization that she doesn’t have a newborn photo and how that drove her inquiry about who was mothering her before she was adopted. Michelle’s journey to mindfulness and how she roots her practice in the day to day experience of mothering, especially in the challenging moments, like when our children can’t fall asleep alone or when they struggle with homework. Michelle’s ritual before sitting down to do creative work that she has introduced to her children as well before they do homework. Michelle’s passion for changing the landscape of how corporations think about supporting parents and the E.P.I.C. snapshot moment that happened for Michelle during a training at Macy’s. How her experience in circle and community enabled Michelle to call more of that connection into her life and more about the tools she uses to “call in”. How Michelle is bringing her mindfulness practices to her health, especially as she navigates the transition to menopause and the hormonal swings and changes that come with it. Resources and Topics Mentioned: Tilt Parenting Podcast: Michelle Gale on the Power of Mindful Parenting in a Messy World The Sweet Spot: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less by Christine Carter Jonathan Field’s Good Life Project Community where Michelle and I first connected Wisdom 2.0 This Week’s Challenge: Michelle encourages us to find a place in our life where we can consciously use the 3 Breaths Practice that she modeled in the episode. The practice includes: Focusing on your breath coming in and out Letting your body relax; and, Asking yourself, what’s really important and what really matters?  By noticing an area of our lives that needs more consciousness (like reaching for our phone for distraction for instance) and using this practice, we can invite more intentionality, awareness, connection, and equanimity into our lives. Learn More About Michelle: Michelle Gale is the podcast host and author of the book “Mindful Parenting in a Messy World”,  a mindfulness teacher, executive coach and a corporate trainer. She works in corporations, schools and communities teaching and speaking to fellow parents about mindful parenting.   Michelle’s Website Facebook Twitter Michelle’s Mindful Parenting Resource List Announcements: Spark Your E.P.I.C. Year Anyone else feel like they need a reset to their year?  Earlier this year, we declared February the new January and facilitated a Mother’s Quest Workshop/Virtual Milestone Hike experience to help us all start again. Using photos from my favorite local hike, I took a small group on a virtual journey to: Reflect on our last chapter (as we ascend)  Decide what we want to release (using an image of a big bad bonfire!) and what we want to carry forward Then, set intentions along the E.P.I.C. guideposts for our new chapter.  If you decide you want to reset and begin again, we will be doing another round of the Spark Your E.P.I.C. Year Workshop this October. Join the Community Mother’s Quest Q & A with Ashia Ray We've set aside October 3rd from noon to 1 pm for a Mother’s Quest Q & A with Ashia. To register to join us, follow the link here or join us in the Mother’s Quest Facebook Group to find announcements. Click mothersquest.com/comunity to join. To participate in the call, we invite you to join Raising Luminaries as a patron at a level that calls to you.  Want More Reflection in Your Life? Book A Discovery Call Some key themes that emerge from all my conversations, is the power of reflection and the power of being seen. These are elements that I bring, not only to every podcast interview, but to my one-one-one coaching and Mother’s Quest Circle facilitation. If you’re seeking more space for pause and reflection in your life, I encourage you to reach out to me for a discovery call to learn how we might work together.  Visit mothersquest.as.me/discoverysession to schedule a time to talk. 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Episode 33 TITLE Parenting Differently Wired Kids GUEST Deborah Reber EPISODE OVERVIEW   Podcast host, and parent to a neurodivergent son who is twice exceptional, gifted, has ADHD, and experiences challenges with Executive Functioning and Sensory Issues, Debbie talks about how parents can support their differently wired kids.  Is authoritarian parenting effective? What is attachment parenting, and how does our culture view nurturing vs. coddling? What is executive functioning? Are kids really being manipulative or is it due to lagging skills? How can we help our kids have a sense of agency, control and self-direction? What is scaffolding, and how do we teach this to our kids? Debbie gives a special message to kids who are differently wired, and a message to their parents.   HIGHLIGHTS Why self-care is imperative as parents Why vulnerability and open communication with our kids is crucial How parents can support their differently wired kids A message for parents who have kids who are differently wired A message for the kids who are differently wired Our expectations before we have a child (children), and the shifts we have an opportunity to make once we have a child who is wired differently than we are. We can choose to be authoritative parents, or parent the way we had planned, or we have an opportunity to really learn from our child and change how we parent Scaffolding—what is it and why is it important Authoritative parenting—is it effective? Our culture typically doesn’t want us to coddle or spoil our children, when in fact, we may be meeting their needs for attachment and learning in really healthy and adaptive ways (but feeling guilty because we’re not being strict or structured enough) Executive functioning and lagging skills—what is it and why is it important to know about this Kids do the best they can—Ross Greene ADHD (and other neurodiversities) are consistently inconsistent. It can look like manipulation or stubbornness or willfulness, but it’s about lagging skills Where compassion comes in to play with parenting neurodivergent kids (for the parents and the child) BIO   Deborah Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, weekly podcast, and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with more than 1 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired.   Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens. Before embarking on her own path as a solopreneur, Debbie worked in TV and video production, producing documentaries and PSAs for CARE and UNICEF, working on Blue’s Clues for Nickelodeon in New York, and developing original series for Cartoon Network in Los Angeles. She has an MA in Media Studies from the New School for Social Research and a BA in Communications from Pennsylvania State University. In December 2018, Debbie and her family relocated back to the NYC area after living in Amsterdam, the Netherlands for the past five years.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS/RESOURCES   Debbie Reber Website-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/start-here/ Tilt Parenting Podcast-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/podcast/ Differently Wired—Raising Exceptional Kids in a Conventional World by Deborah Reber TedXAmsterdam--Why the future will be differently wired https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZcrDVruby4   The Explosive Child : A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene   The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Hardcover by William Stixrud PhD (Author), Ned Johnson (Author) Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary "Executive Skills" Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential by Peg Dawson EdD, Richard Guare PhD     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber   e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Hello and welcome to this episode with mindfulness educator, corporate trainer, podcast host and author of “Mindful Parenting in a Messy World,” Michelle Gale.  This conversation, rooted in how to bring more equanimity to our lives–finding our center of calm in the storm–came to me just when I needed it most, during a start to my fall season marked by big school transitions for my children, travel away from home, and supporting my family after my father’s bypass heart surgery.  In the midst of all of that, it was such a gift to have this time with Michelle, whose journey brought her from working in technology startups like Twitter to a deep dive in mindfulness training. Michelle draws on that training today as an advisor to organizations like Wisdom 2.0, in trainings with corporations like Disney and Google, for summits and workshops for parents that she organizes, and as a parent with her own two boys at home.  An awareness of our impact in the day to day, through being a mindful parent, is something that Michelle embodies in her own parenting, in the appreciation she describes for her own mother, a single parent who adopted Michelle at the age of four months old, and in the ways that she makes mindfulness relatable and accessible to those she teaches.  I learned so much from Michelle in the time we spent together, about answering our own calls for life-long learning, about slowing down, raising our awareness and making the implicit explicit, of the importance of bringing compassion, especially during times of transition, and how to draw on our experience as mothers as a source of learning and transformation.   When we began, I asked Michelle to lead us through a Three Breath Practice which I heard her share about on Deborah Reber’s TILT Parenting Podcast. The practice became the bookends for this episode, the opening that allowed us each to make intentions for our time together, and the challenge that Michelle invites us to integrate into our lives.  As you listen to this episode, I invite you to slow down by taking your own three breaths with us, tap into Michelle’s intention for finding “equanimity,” your center in the midst of chaos, and open yourself to Michelle’s wisdom. If you do, I’m certain you’ll find more of your calm in the storm and connect more fully to your own mindful parenting in a messy world.  In This Episode We Talk About: The Three Breath Practice and how I’ve begun using it to help me make better decisions about how to use my time. The concept of “equanimity” and the importance of creating awareness and space for our discomfort so that we can come back to our center. Michelle’s appreciation for  “Attachment Theory” through the lens of her own experience being adopted at the age of four months. Also the realization that she doesn’t have a newborn photo and how that drove her inquiry about who was mothering her before she was adopted. Michelle’s journey to mindfulness and how she roots her practice in the day to day experience of mothering, especially in the challenging moments, like when our children can’t fall asleep alone or when they struggle with homework. Michelle’s ritual before sitting down to do creative work that she has introduced to her children as well before they do homework. Michelle’s passion for changing the landscape of how corporations think about supporting parents and the E.P.I.C. snapshot moment that happened for Michelle during a training at Macy’s. How her experience in circle and community enabled Michelle to call more of that connection into her life and more about the tools she uses to “call in”. How Michelle is bringing her mindfulness practices to her health, especially as she navigates the transition to menopause and the hormonal swings and changes that come with it. Resources and Topics Mentioned: Tilt Parenting Podcast: Michelle Gale on the Power of Mindful Parenting in a Messy World The Sweet Spot: How to Accomplish More by Doing Less by Christine Carter Jonathan Field’s Good Life Project Community where Michelle and I first connected Wisdom 2.0 This Episode is Dedicated by: Katie Krimitsos, CEO & Founder at Biz Women Rock and the Women’s Meditation Network and the host of the Meditation for Women Podcast. Katie’s beautiful dedication shines a light, through the example of her mother Linda, of the ways we can make an impact in our day to day lives through being a mindful, loving parent.  You can connect with Katie on Facebook,  Instagram or through her website. This Week’s Challenge: Michelle encourages us to find a place in our life where we can consciously use the 3 Breaths Practice that she modeled in the episode. The practice includes:  Focusing on your breath coming in and out Letting your body relax; and, Asking yourself, what’s really important and what really matters?  By noticing an area of our lives that needs more consciousness (like reaching for our phone for distraction for instance) and using this practice, we can invite more intentionality, awareness, connection, and equanimity into our lives. Learn More About Michelle: Michelle Gale is the podcast host and author of the book “Mindful Parenting in a Messy World”,  a mindfulness teacher, executive coach and a corporate trainer. She works in corporations, schools and communities teaching and speaking to fellow parents about mindful parenting.   Michelle’s Website Facebook Twitter Michelle’s Mindful Parenting Resource List Announcements: Join the Journey to Right Livelihood I’m so excited to be part of a special program, Journey to Right Livelihood as a learner. And as an affiliate, I’ll also offer Mother’s Quest bonuses to deepen the experience for members of my community who decide to come along too. If you’re interested, you can learn more at this link and also come over to my private facebook group, where I had a conversation with the founder, and one of my teachers and mentors, Lindsay Pera. It’s not too late to join us! Click www.mothersquest.com/community to request to join and listen to our conversation  LIVING WITH PRESENCE and PARENTING WITH PURPOSE Online Conference Expert advice to find more peace, ease, presence and spaciousness in your family through the Online Conference hosted by Michelle and a phenomenal group of mindfulness experts. Learn more and purchase the conversations if you choose by visiting the site here. Mother’s Quest Circle If you’re on a quest to live an E.P.I.C. life, but you’ve been feeling challenged, isolated, or unsure of the path ahead, the Mother’s Quest Circle may be the source of connection you’re looking for. The Mother’s Quest Circle provides inspiration, coaching and community for an intimate group of no more than 10 women who are ready to say “yes” to: Reflect together, in a community of like-minded mothers, on what matters most To consciously live a more E.P.I.C. life To take bold action toward one of the E.P.I.C. life guideposts before the end of the session To hold space for sharing, coaching, and championing one another so we are “in community” on our journey Support the Podcast If you’d like to make a contribution to Mother’s Quest to support Season Three of the Podcast and/or help provide coaching scholarships for mothers, follow this link to make a contribution. If you would like to “dedicate” an upcoming episode to a special mother in your life, email me at julie@mothersquest.com   --- Mother’s Quest is a podcast for moms who are ready to live a truly E.P.I.C. life. Join in for intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring mothers as they share how they are living an E.P.I.C. life, Engaging mindfully with their children (E), Passionately and Purposefully making a difference beyond their family (P), Investing in themselves (I), and Connecting to a strong support network (C). Join our community of mothers to light the way and sustain you on your quest at https://www.facebook.com/groups/mothersquest/

About Debbie Reber   Deborah Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, weekly podcast, and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with more than 500,000 downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. Debbie’s newest book is "Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World" (Workman Publishing, 2018). Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than twenty years writing more than eight inspiring books for women and teens, and working in TV and video production for CARE, UNICEF, Nickelodeon, and Cartoon Network. In 2013, Debbie moved from Seattle to Amsterdam, where she currently lives with her husband Derin and homeschools her 14-year-old son Asher.   CLICK HERE for Full Show Notes!

The Mindful Parenting in a Messy World podcast with Michelle Gale is for parents who long to be meaningfully connected to themselves and their children, even as the demands and complexities of modern life are accelerated. Join Michelle as she is interviewed by Debbie Reber on the Tilt Parenting Podcast More than 20 percent of today’s kids are in some way neurologically atypical, or what Debbie refers to as “differently wired.” And because the world isn’t set up to accommodate their unique way of being, these exceptional kids, and the parents raising them, struggle to navigate their journey. Mindfulness can support that path. If you are raising an exceptional kid and want to find out how to tap into the resources at TiLT parenting you can find Debbie at http://www.tiltparenting.com/start-here/   Register for the free online conference Mindful Parenting in a Messy World which runs from September 18th-20th.  Register here: https://conference.michellegale.com/podcast/ Sign up for the Mindful Parenting Online Course ‘The Foundations of Practice” offered October 2018. Register here: https://michellegale.com/courses/  

The Mindful Parenting in a Messy World podcast with Michelle Gale is for parents who long to be meaningfully connected to themselves and their children, even as the demands and complexities of modern life are accelerated. There are millions of kids today who are stuck in a world that doesn’t respect, support, or embrace who they inherently are. These children are what Deborah calls “differently wired”- the more than one in five children with ADHD, dyslexia, Aspergers, giftedness, anxiety, sensory processing disorder, and other neuro differences.   Deborah Reber is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of TiLT Parenting Podcast. Visit Debbie at www.debbiereber.com Register for the free online conference Mindful Parenting in a Messy World which runs from September 18th-20th here. https://conference.michellegale.com/podcast/ Sign up for the Mindful Parenting Online Course ‘The Foundations of Practice” offered October 2018 here. https://michellegale.com/courses/

Today my guest is Debbie Reber. Debbie is a mom of one son, who she describes as "differently wired." As she navigated both the social and education paths of helping him to succeed, she has learned a lot that we can now all learn from as we try to meet the needs of our kids. It's no easy task but when we are able to embrace our kids as they are and support them where they are at, there is tremendous freedom in that. Enjoy! Show Notes: Tilt Parenting: http://www.tiltparenting.com Tilt Parenting Podcast: http://www.tiltparenting.com/podcast Differently Wired (book): http://www.tiltparenting.com/book Debbie's author website: http://www.debbiereber.com Tilt Parenting on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/tiltparenting Tilt Parenting on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tiltparenting Tilt Parenting on Twitter: http://www.instagram.com/tiltparenting This Show is Sponsored by... We love RXBars at our house. Especially my kids! This is a great way for me to provide them an easy snack on the go and not feel bad about the ingredients! Parker loves the Chocolate Chip and Jackson loves the Apple Cinnamon. RXBar is my new favorite go-to breakfast, snack or lunch accessory. Check them out at Target, or you can get 25% off your purchase if you order on their site: Go to: RXBAR.com/emp PROMO: EMP Connect with Jessica: Instagram//Facebook//Email: jessica@extraordinarymomspodcast.com

Dr. Dan welcomes Debbie Reber, founder of TILT Parenting. The two discuss Tilt Parenting as well as Debbie’s new book DIFFERENTLY WIRED: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. Debbie Reber is the founder of TiLT Parenting and host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, which she created to support parents raising “differently-wired” kids and shift the conversation around how neurodiversity (everything from ADHD and dyslexia to Aspergers and giftedness) is perceived and experienced in the world.  Parenting is a journey filled with twists and turns. Debbie shares her personal story about raising a special needs child and how she had to learn to become present, get rid of “the shoulds” and embrace imperfection. Her lively discussion with Dr. Dan touches on regulation (for kids and parents), communication (again for kids and parents), fear, and more. Debbie’s Parent Footprint moment is honest and real, and one that will benefit all listeners. Debbie Reber is a New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, life coach, and speaker who, before creating TiLT, spent more than ten years writing inspiring books for women and teens and speaking about issues like media literacy, self-esteem, and confidence.  Debbie Reber moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, top parenting podcast (more than 250k downloads), and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently-wired children.  She currently lives with her son and husband in the Netherlands. Watch this free video to learn more about Dr. Dan and Parent Footprint Awareness Training®.

Welcome to this episode #26 of the Mother’s Quest Podcast, “Surrender and Embracing Difference” with TiLT Parenting for Differently-Wired Kids founder Debbie Reber. This conversation about seeing diversity as an asset, valuing and embracing difference, couldn’t come at a better time. Debbie Reber is the founder of TiLT, an online destination aimed at helping parents raising differently-wired kids do so from a place of confidence, connection, and peace. She’s also host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, a life coach, speaker and a New York Times bestselling author of books aimed at raising self-esteem for young girls. Before becoming a writer, Debbie worked in children’s television, for a relief and development organization and at UNICEF. Despite this long list of accomplishments, perhaps the greatest thing Debbie has done is become parent, advocate, homeschooler and champion for her own son Asher who is 13, has Aspergers, ADHD and is profoundly gifted. After years of struggle with Asher, Debbie and her husband took a leap of faith in 2013, moving from the U.S. to Amsterdam where she stepped into her own hero’s journey to acceptance, surrender, and presence. In the process, she and Asher have come to an exceptional place, and share their lessons learned, wisdom and real life experiences to make sure other parents of differently-wired kids don’t have to journey alone. Debbie and I had an amazing conversation, about faith, personal transformation through parenting and how to live an E.P.I.C. life of alignment. Debbie invites us to question hidden beliefs about neurodiversity, explore the judgements we make about children who are “differently-wired” and invite us to become more compassionate as a result. She’s also invited us to take her TILT 7 day challenge to support ourselves to gently shift our awareness. This conversation was a year in the making and it was really powerful for me. I was reminded about the gifts our children bring us, even when they don’t come in the ways that we expected and it renewed my commitment to show up fully for my own children, embracing their differences and surrendering to the knowledge that life is a journey and not a destination. Special Message for All of Us I want to note that I bring this episode to you at a unique moment. At the time of this recording, the nation has endured tragedy and division in the wake of events at Charlottesville, fueled by hatred and fear about our differences. Days later, the universe provided us with awareness that we are bound together by something bigger than ourselves as people everywhere took in the total solar eclipse with awe. The definition of eclipse means to darken and block out the light. We eclipse the light and love, and our common humanity, when we fail to recognize, understand, and celebrate our differences, whether that difference comes from the way our brains think in the case of differently-wired kids, the color of our skin, or the religion we follow. But, as Debbie so eloquently describes in our conversation, when we can see diversity as an asset and embrace difference, everything changes. When I noticed that Miki DeVivo, another mom raising differently-wired kids, was launching her beautiful book of poetry this week, “The Naming of Real Things,” I asked if she would choose a piece for me to share as a lead into what felt like a sacred conversation with Debbie, as a prayer and invitation for all of us, during this challenging time, to move from darkness into more light, love and compassion for one another. Here it is... From Miki DeVivo’s  new book of poetry, the Naming of Real Things (shared with permission) Love More Love more fully. Let your love fill in all the cracks Like Japanese gold. Raise your heart To your lips and drink till you are full. Love more widely. Let your love widen beyond all the borders Inflicted by man. Raise your arms To the sky in blessings spread wide. Love more deeply. Let your love deepen beneath the surface Of skin and kin and the way we each choose to worship. Raise your eyes To see the raw humanity standing before you, pain and wisdom so deep. Love more fiercely. Let your love rage like fire and do not be silent. Raise your voice To power again and again, unflinching and fierce. Love more wildly. Let your love wild like flowers blanketing a meadow in the spring. Raise your feet To dance among the blossoms, growing wild. Love more warmly. Let your love warm the icicles of contempt that pierce your heart. Raise your glass To the fountain of hope until your cup runneth over, sweet and warm. Love more freely. Let your love free from the small box you were told would keep it safe. Raise your hands To pick the locks and set yourself free. This Week’s Challenge: Question and explore your beliefs about neurodiversity. Raise your awareness and step into more compassion with Debbie’s 7 Day Challenge. Topics discussed in this episode: How Debbie and I have connected as mothers of differently-wired boys, since Jonathan Fields and Harmony Eichsteadt, of The Good Life Project, made an introduction between us a year ago. How Debbie wrestled with an Evangelical Christian faith upbringing, the questions she explored about her own spirituality, and how she came to believe there is something greater that connects us all. The right turn Debbie’s career took from empowering young girls to championing her own “differently-wired” son and then building a community to support parents to champion their own. The unexpected gifts that raising Asher has brought to Debbie and her life and the key that helped her shift into acceptance. How Debbie followed her intuition and changed everything for the better, to make a big leap of faith, move to Amsterdam, and begin homeschooling Asher. Nature is Debbie’s church and how lacing up their shoes for long walks outside provides Debbie and Asher opportunity for deep connection. Debbie’s new book, coming out in spring 2018, to help parents of differently-wired kids realize they are not alone. How Debbie’s “self-interest” helps her prioritize creating space and time for herself. The quote from Shakepeare Debbie’s son Asher shared, on his podcast episode, as he reflected on the importance of risk and leaps of faith required in order to grow. Resources mentioned in this episode: Miki DeVivo’s book “The Naming of Real Things” The Good Life Project Episode 53 of The TILT Parenting Podcast: Debbie and Asher’s TiLT Parenting One-Year Anniversary Special where Asher talks about his sleep-away camp experience Episode 18 of the Mother’s Quest Podcast: YOLO (You Only Live Once) and other Milestone Reflections with my son Ryan Neale which Debbie and Asher listened to together TILT Parenting and the TILT Parenting Manifesto Debbie’s Differently Wired 7-Day Challenge TiLT Community Facebook Page Quote Asher used after his reflection on his sleep-away camp experience “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” -William Shakespeare Announcements Women Podcasters in Solidarity In this week after the events that took place in Charlottesville, I’m even more committed to a quest I’ve been on to understand the roots of racism and bigotry, how it still shows up today, and how I can become a better ally and advocate to fight against it. I’m raising awareness for myself, and inviting you to do the same, through a special podcast episode coming out in September. If you want to listen to that episode, be sure to subscribe to the podcast and sign up for email updates at mothersquest.com. And if you are a women podcaster yourself, I’d love for you to make the pledge to use the power of your platform for this cause. You can learn more and join the initiative by signing up at mothersquest.com/solidarity. Q and A with Debbie Reber Join us on September 1st, Friday at 10:30 AM PST for a Q and A in the Mother's Quest Facebook Group with Debbie to continue our conversation and check in on the challenge. Click this link to join the Mother’s Quest Facebook Group and get invited to the event. Visit the Website If you haven’t yet visited the website, head over to www.mothersquest.com to explore some of the ways you can get more connected. At the site, you can sign up for our email list (to get show notes delivered to your inbox and our new “Mothers on a Quest” features), click the link to join the Facebook group and press record to leave a voice message for me. You can also download the FREE Live Your E.P.I.C. Life Planning and Reflection Sheets. Sign up! – Free 30 minute Discovery Session I’m rolling out my new coaching offerings and having great conversations with women who are ready to live a more E.P.I.C. life and interested in coaching. If you’ve had a spark moment setting you on a new path or are at a crossroads but feel unsure, guilty or overwhelmed, I’d love to talk with you about how working with me could help light the way, get you clear about what you want, shift your mindset from fear to faith, and get you moving into action. I’ve been there, I’m still on the journey myself, and I’d love to bring all I’ve learned from a decade of coaching, 13 years of motherhood and all the lessons from my podcast guests to support you. Send me an email at julie@mothersquest.com or sign up for a free discovery call by clicking this link if you’re interested in learning more. Acknowledgements A big THANK YOU to our “patrons” for helping to bring these conversations to myself and other mothers through financial and/or in-kind support: Katharine Earhart of Alesco Advisors Jessica Kupferman of She Podcasts Resistance Artist Jen Jenkins Dohner Genese Harris Tonya Rineer, founder of The Profit Party Liane Louie-Badua Cristin Downs of the Notable Woman Podcast Erin Kendall of Fit Mom Go Niko Osoteo of Bear Beat Productions Erik Newton of The Together Show Claire Fry Divya Silbermann Rachel Winter Caren and Debbie Lieberman Cameron Miranda Fran and David Lieberman Debbie and Alan Goore Jenise and Marianne of the Sustainable Living Podcast Support the Podcast If you’d like to make a contribution to Mother’s Quest to support Season Two of the Podcast and/or help provide coaching scholarships for mothers, follow this link to make a contribution http://mothersquest.com/be-a-supporter/ If you would like to “dedicate” an upcoming episode to a special mother in your life, email me at julie@mothersquest.com --- Mother's Quest is a podcast for moms who are ready to live a truly E.P.I.C. life. Join in for intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring mothers as they share how they are living an E.P.I.C. life, Engaging mindfully with their children (E), Passionately and Purposefully making a difference beyond their family (P), Investing in themselves (I), and Connecting to a strong support network (C). Join our community of mothers to light the way and sustain you on your quest at https://www.facebook.com/groups/mothersquest/  

Debbie Reber, founder of TiLT and host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, is a New York Times bestselling author, coach, and speaker. Her most recent books include Doable: The Girls’ Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything, Chill: Stress-Reducing Techniques for a More Balanced, Peaceful You, and In Their Shoes: Extraordinary Women Describe Their Amazing Careers. Before becoming a writer, Debbie worked in children’s television. Originally from the U.S., Debbie and her family moved to Amsterdam, the Netherlands, in 2013. When she’s not homeschooling her 12-year-old twice-exceptional son Asher, working on TiLT, or writing books, she’s running, traveling, and reading. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this special kid’s POV edition of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, 12-year-old Asher and his mom Debbie talk about Carol Dweck's concept of fixed and growth mindsets. To see the show notes for this episode, visit: www.tiltparenting.com/session24

In this special kid’s POV edition of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, 12-year-old Asher and his mom Debbie talk about Carol Dweck's concept of fixed and growth mindsets. To see the show notes for this episode, visit: www.tiltparenting.com/session24

In this special kid’s POV edition of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, 12-year-old Asher and his mom Debbie take listeners behind-the-scenes of their homeschool. To see the show notes for this episode, visit: http://www.tiltparenting.com/session21