Messy & Magnificent with Karlee Fain

Join us next week as Karlee launches the 13th season of Messy and Magnificent!We'll be cutting through the clutter and noise to simplify things - to remind ourselves of our best wisdom and how very capable we already are.Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are those two-week vacations not really doing it for you anymore?Better question…have they ever really done it for you? Packing your bags, catching a plane to some exotic locale, dealing with airport security, shifting into tourist mode for a week, then doing it all again just to come home, how is that considered rest? The truth is that we were born into a burnout culture. And the “two weeks PTO” carrot on the stick ain't cutting it. Vacations are wonderful, but they aren't “rest”. They're like putting a bandaid on burnout when what we really need is resuscitation. It's time for a cultural exchange that shifts us away from the drudgery of burnout culture and encourages us to embrace a culture of rest. This week, Karlee welcomes Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, a Board-Certified internal medicine physician, speaker, and award-winning author. She is an international well-being thought leader and author of numerous books, including her bestseller Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity. Her insight on the seven types of rest helps people understand their specific rest deficits as a means to overcome burnout, increase overall happiness, and live more meaningful lives.In this episode, you'll identify what burnout looks and feels like, and you'll start to recognize the effect sustained burnout can have on your quality of life and your relationships. You'll recognize how living and growing up in a burnout culture has taught us to treat vacations as cures, and why those breaks never really relieve our emotional burdens. You'll also learn about the seven types of specific rest you need, which of them you need more of, and practical ways you can start to nourish your rest deficits. If you're ready to rip the bandaid off of burnout culture and take the time to deepen your understanding of what rest is and start to get more of it, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Putting a bandaid on burnout vs getting real rest (5:49)The Seven Types of Rest (10:46)Recognizing the energy givers and takers in your life (26:35)Growing up in a burnout culture (31:33)Rest and the virtue of selflessness (39:13)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Video: TED: The 7 types of rest every person needs Dr. Saundra Dalton-SmithBook: Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your SanityFREE Quiz: Personal Rest AssessmentConnect with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith:Website: DrDaltonSmith.comTwitter Handle: @DrDaltonSmithFacebook Page: Dr. Saundra Dalton – SmithInstagram: @DrDaltonSmithPinterest: @DrDaltonSmithConnect With Karlee: Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you think about self-care, the term itself implies that it's just about one person...you. But actually, that doesn't tell the whole story. As we move through our lives, we're supported by stilts. Like a house on the water, you might not always see them holding you up, but you couldn't be there without them. Those stilts are the hands of your community. Friends, family, partners, and pets, some are just ships passing in the night, while others remain steadfast throughout our lives. Particularly when the seas feel choppy and life changes course with little warning, those steady hands become our path to sanctuary. They keep us connected to our roots, and they are what guide us back home to self. This week, Karlee invites you to take respite in the wisdom of Tanika Ray, a pop culture & lifestyle specialist with a holistic view of the cross sections of culture. Her podcast, Mamaste, is a sanctuary for the mommy collective. There, she fosters community and amplifies wellness, self-love, self-care, life lessons, and unapologetic boundaries.In this episode, you'll hear how becoming a mother profoundly shifted Tanika's perspective about what's important, and how it changed her definition of rest. She shares detailed insights from her upbringing, telling the story of her search for authentic community and for her truth, starting from the inside out. Rest can often feel like a defiant act of self-care. But sanctuary needs stilts. If you're ready to find sanctuary and claim the space you need to come “home” to yourself, then this episode - and this community- are for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why community is an important part of creating sanctuary (2:41)How parenting changes your worldview (5:54)Sourcing validation from the inside out (10:36)Why the definition of rest is highly personal (15:16)Getting to the roots of why your fears exist (19:40)Resources included in this Episode: Book: Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity by Saundra Dalton-SmithArticle: What is a flow state and what are its benefits? (no date) Headspace. Available at: https://www.headspace.com/articles/flow-state (Accessed: December 19, 2022). Connect with Tanika Ray:Podcast: Mamaste with Tanika RayInstagramTwitterConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Think about that friend of yours who's always busy. If you want to go to lunch or plan anything with this person, you need to do it a month in advance. A spontaneous cup of coffee in the middle of the afternoon? Forgettaboutit. And because this friend maintains such a full schedule, there's a greater level of value that you attach to their time. Or maybe, this person is you. Squeezing everything you possibly can into that calendar square because when it's full, you feel…well, what exactly? Important? Productive? Valued? Effective? Here's the thing… there's a difference between good work and overworking. To see it, you have to step outside of the busyness box and ask yourself what's really necessary. And most importantly, you have to sit with the answers to find out where your values of productivity came from in the first place. This week, the tables are turned as Anitza interviews Karlee in order to dig deeper into this season of rest. In a society where we've been conditioned to associate busyness with productivity, we have to step back and ask ourselves…what's so scary about resting? In this episode, you'll learn why good work depends on rest, and how to recognize the difference between quality output and flat-out overworking. You'll reflect on your level of self-sacrifice, flipping the narrative around busyness to challenge both societal and cultural perceptions about what makes you valuable in the world. You'll also learn how to think about the concept of time in a way that can help you reserve more of it, allowing space for more joy. You really don't have to do it all. But you need rest. If busyness and self-sacrifice are woven into your identity, and if “doing it all” makes you feel more valued in the world, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why building in time for rest is so essential to the creative process (3:23)Grading your level of self-sacrifice (7:21)Learning to distinguish good work from overworking (8:58)What it really means when you feel like you don't have enough time (20:42)Why doing more sometimes means doing less (28:50)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Book: Stirring the Mud: On Swamps, Bogs, and Human Imagination by Barbara HurdSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your best friend from the neighborhood sends you a text mid-day, asking if you'd like to join them for a walk. The sun is shining, your legs are stiff from sitting at the computer all morning, but…“Too much work to do”. Sad face emoji. Seated at your desk, you push through your body's desire to go. That tug of war feels frustrating. You want to, but work. You want to, but the kids. You want to, but you've already committed to something else you don't really want to do. It feels like, a little too often, you're pushing away invitations to joy and peace in your life. You decide to sit with this for a moment. And you wonder…what doorways might open up if you said “yes” to more of the things you really wanted to be doing?What price are you paying for not moving forward?Our work culture, our unpaid labor culture, and the roles we perform as mothers, spouses, friends, neighbors, and volunteers are all rooted in patterns of exploitation and exhaustion. But what if you could find a way to take back a little more control? What if you could stop automatically defaulting to “no”, even in the face of a busy day? What if you could take just one step away from the paradigm that convinced you that the only “choice” you had was to say “no” to joy more often than you say “yes”? This week, Karlee shares space with Faith Clarke, an Organizational Health & Inclusion Specialist. Through her work, she provides important cultural and historical context to how we navigate the “rules” of society, shedding a necessary light to explain how this conditioning affects us. In this episode, we unpack the reasons why you might be working so hard and resting so little. You'll start looking at your time and commitments in a different way, finding more opportunity pockets for rest. You'll also hear how Faith constructs an “imaginary world” where rules can be broken, using space as an exercise to creatively find more respite.If you're ready to, in the words of Faith, “Grab the thing that's in front of you and say Okay, I can be in control of this! …then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How the constructs built around our bodies affect our ability to rest (2:37)Playing with the rules in order to figure out how to break them, safely (8:21)What it might look like to find “pockets” of respite in your life (13:24)How to invite others into your privilege (14:19)Reversing the narrative of the zero-sum game (18:17)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dr. Jovana WashingtonProgramsConnect with Faith Clarke:WebsiteInstagramConnect With Karlee: Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel overwhelmed? Frustrated? Rested enough? Success takes work. A lot of it. And you're probably feeling the side effects of it in your body right now. But ask yourself this…are you successful by your own definition, or sometimes, does it feel like someone else's? With so many converging definitions, how do you make sure you're staying true to your own inherent values? Or should we back up…Do you know what those values are? This week, Karlee taps into the wisdom and experience of mindset coach Meredith Brisson. Through her work, Meredith helps equestrians hone in on their values, helping them learn how to work with their emotions rather than fight against them. By learning how to find their definition of success, they can embrace their true nature both on and off the track. In this episode, you'll learn what the highly intuitive nature of working with horses teaches us about finding balance and connecting with our actual values. You'll start to identify whose values you're really living by, and whether or not those values are leading you toward your goals- or potentially on a wild goose chase to a destination not of your choosing. Finally, you'll learn how to successfully use your hard-won grit to find more balance, more time for rest, and offer yourself more grace. If you're ready to untangle your definition of success and get more deeply in tune with values that are truly your own, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why the definition of success is personal (3:30)How to weave a little more grace into your grit (6:25)Creating a path to your goals using your values as a map (9:03)Why carving out time for nourishment takes grit (12:37)Making rest possible, even when it feels hard (16:57)Resources Mentioned:Article: Zippia 50+ Telling Paid Time Off PTO Statistics 2022 Average PTO In The United States Comments. (Accessed: December 20, 2022). Article: Margarita Tartakovsky, MS. (Accessed: December 20, 2022). Article: Counseling for young professionals (no date) Panthea Counseling NYC. (Accessed: December 20, 2022). People Mentioned in this Episode:Maria SiroisSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect with Meredith:WebsiteConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This season, we're RECLAIMING REST: why we don't make it a priority, why we feel guilty about needing it, and most importantly, how to personalize our rest and make it achievable on a micro level. When you're living in a perpetual state of exhaustion, it's time to ask yourself how much self-sacrifice you're engaging in, and whose values you're living by. All of this busyness and exhaustion is an invitation to replace perfection with purpose. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why we're talking about rest this season (1:44)One misconception we have about rest (9:22)The five pillars of rest we'll cover this season (17:46)Discovering what's hiding behind our fear of rest (26:59)Why it's so hard to detach our need for rest from feelings of guilt (32:39) Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Study: Norcross JC, Vangarelli DJ. The resolution solution: longitudinal examination of New Year's change attempts. J Subst Abuse. 1988-1989;1(2):127-34. doi: 10.1016/s0899-3289(88)80016-6. PMID: 2980864.Book: The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie Book: Slowing Time: Seeing the Sacred Outside Your Kitchen Door by Barbara Mahany Book: Stirring the Mud: On Swamps, Bogs, and Human Imagination by Barbara HurdFREE Guidebook: Roadmap for Rest and Regeneration for High AchieversArticle: Why do we buy into the 'cult' of overwork? BBC Worklife. BBC People Mentioned in this Episode:Meredith BrissonFaith ClarkAnitza MartinsTanika Ray Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.com Connect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram Messy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does the combination of your career success and your “always available” devotion to friends, family, and community often leave you feeling like you're left with nothing but energetic scraps for yourself?In other words, how rested are you?If you're feeling like you've put yourself and your right to rest on the backburner for too long, then this is your invitation to recalibrate.This week, Karlee launches the 12th season of Messy and Magnificent, and with it, a proven roadmap for rest and regeneration for high achievers. In this episode, you'll hear how you can start paving the path to a new, more rested “you” by first honing in on your values. Once you're clear on what's really important to you, then you can begin to consider how you'd define what feels restful. This season is a community exploration of what rest really means, and how to make sure you're getting as much of it (or more) than you need. If you're ready to start living a life that puts you first, without sacrificing success, then this is the season for you. People Mentioned in this Episode:Meredith BrissonFaith ClarkAnitza MartinsTanika RaySend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If life has felt less like a cruise and more like a battleship lately, then rest assured that we are indeed all experiencing the same reality. And we are in a time where we need a lifeboat. On top of the general tumult, you're also riding the waves of your personal circumstance. We're navigating loss, employment, health, parenting, friendships, partnerships, and finances. Minute by minute, we're bravely navigating change.In this episode, Karlee shares the mic with Dr. Maria Sirois, pre-eminent positive psychologist, author and masterful storyteller. Maria, a bonafide captain on the ship of change, opens a conversation that will inspire you to pause- in the midst of it all- just long enough to get wise. You'll hear about the science behind neuroplasticity, the neuro chemistry that affects our behavior and ultimately shapes our capacity for resilience. When it comes to getting through the tougher moments that life brings to your door, you'll find out how to stay grounded and tap into optimism. You'll also learn how to build a twofold type of inner hope that helps you through the hard times while always reminding you that the wisdom gained is bringing you to a slightly better “next” moment. Looking for the positive is the lifeboat that's going to keep us alive long enough to land in that next better place.If you're ready to honor the balance and navigate change with better resilience and more bravery, then this is the episode for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Inspiration to find positivity in the toughest of circumstances (12:27)The lesser known history of how positive psychology and resilience came together (16:58)A more realistic definition of “hope” (20:35)What pain does for us (32:09)Why honoring the balance of life helps us lean into the positive (44:04)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Get the FREE Navigating Change Guide BookJoin us @ Kripalu Center, June 26-29th: Navigating Change: Steering Toward Your True NorthPeople Mentioned in this Episode:Kristen NeffPrentis Hemphill Dan TomasuloConnect with Maria Sirois:WebsiteBooks by Maria SiroisConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Get the FREE Navigating Change Guidebook that accompanies this season: https://www.karleefain.com/podcastToday's workplace is in a state of evolution. It's being infused with the thinking of a new generation, and a post-covid one, to boot. That means change is happening around us in real-time. And we have to think and do differently. The burden of all that shifting is a lot for any leader, and it can lead to burnout. But burnout….it serves a purpose. It's an invitation to reinvent. What if we ditched the hierarchical workplace structure in favor of something more collaborative? What if instead of the “boss” and “employee” dynamic, everyone was seen as a co-creator? What if we treated one another like thinking, feeling humans, all navigating a changing world together? In this episode, Karlee sits down for a chat with industry innovator, creative visionary, and legacy builder, Emily Pritchard. Over the past decade, she's disrupted preconceived notions of the social media industry and transformed it into a viable way to drive business. And perhaps most importantly, she's inspiring a new way of embracing our shared humanity in today's workforce.You'll hear her unique perspective on how allowing for a greater element of humanity in the workplace opens the doors to better relationships and more collaborative productivity. She shares how this shift in the traditional paradigm actually helps us become better at communicating what we need and more effective when exchanging feedback. You'll learn how inspiring action as a leader rather than forcing it helps shape a new generation of entrepreneurial leaders.If you're ready to discover a more sustainable, more human path to navigating your business and your life, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:The difference between being a boss, a coach, and an advocate when it comes to leadership (5:53)Why sharing as a leader is an important vulnerability (15:25)What an entrepreneurial ecosystem looks like in practice (23:45)How to create sustainability before hitting the burnout stage (29:54)Why stepping away is important for evolution (46:30)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 57: Trying To Do It All Yourself? How smart leaders stop being the hero and start building emotional integrity with Tom Steding Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect with Emily: The Social LightsConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Get the FREE Navigating Change Guidebook that accompanies this season: https://www.karleefain.com/podcastWe live in a world that puts a lot of value on selfless acts. But what we don't do for ourselves comes at a cost. If you're not getting enough sleep or not taking the time to sit down for 20 minutes of nourishment at lunchtime, those deprivations of needs start to add up. Maybe you're unable to focus at work and that overflow means you have to work late. So, you cancel dinner plans with a friend and weeks go by without you remembering to reschedule, which results in hurt feelings. Sacrificing yourself can actually be burdensome to other people.Making time for self-care is an act of generosity towards yourself and to the most important people in your life. Bolstering our self-image is perhaps one of the most fun and creative segues into the realm of self-care. It's a way to instantly transform the way we see ourselves, helping us to project a greater sense of worthiness upon our greatest asset: ourselves. In this episode, Karlee welcomes Erika Cartledge, the founder/owner of Your Chic is Showing. Through her highly-personalized approach to styling, she helps clients elevate their self-image and build their confidence. As an image architect, she helps people visualize the changes going on inside to reflect the holistic process of designing something new, fresh, and confident on the outside. You'll hear about the emotional importance of our individual approach to self-care, and how those things hanging in our closets offer deeper revelations about the space we think we deserve to occupy in the world. She explains the real reasons we hold on to things that no longer serve us, and how we can honor the person that we were while still making room to move forward. Ericka believes that our wardrobe is the one place where we don't give ourselves grace, and why it's important to allow change to happen in there, too. Navigating the depths of your closet is one way to create the space you need to pause, get purposeful, and be in partnership with yourself and your work. If you're ready to extend to yourself, and to those around you, the generosity of self-care, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Knowing when to stop pushing and start making changes (8:45)How our external shifts coincide with our internal shifts (14:00)Common beliefs about the way we present ourselves to the world (16:14)A candid unpacking of emotions behind an unworn jacket (29:56)Why style is personal and subscription boxes will never “get” you (34:58)Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

*RSVP to be on the show on May 11th with Karlee Fain & Maria Sirois!Get the FREE Navigating Change Guidebook that accompanies this season: https://www.karleefain.com/podcastWho are you in relationship to change?Do your hands start sweating? Does your blood pressure start to rise? Does panic set in?When change enters the conversation, we experience a physical reaction. Whether you're the leader or the parent, we've all been conditioned to feel the pressure of coming up with an answer or making the right decision “ now”. What if you could tame that feeling of urgency and recapture a little bit of control in that moment? Tapping into the roots of your immediate emotional response allows you time…time to make decisions that actually solidify your integrity.In this episode, Karlee welcomes Jack Mason- Goodall back to the show. In 2020, he founded Autism Optimism International, an organization that supports and trains families, professionals, and employers of neurodiverse people around the world. He strives to facilitate relationships based on understanding, acceptance, and compassion for autistic people to lead their best lives.You'll hear why taking time to pause is the key to better, more aligned decision-making. Jack shares tools from his experience that will help you let go of the idea that change always needs to be comfortable. He poses a simple question to ask yourself when you're faced with a big decision, and how you can accept the discomfort of change in order to make decisions that feel authentic and in alignment with who you are, and the kind of leader you want to be.If you're ready to take a minute to be certain that your decisions are in sync with your values, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Giving yourself the space to pause when change seems urgent (4:52)The opportunity change offers us to strengthen our integrity (15:26)How embracing differences supports change (21:31)One question to ask yourself when you encounter change (26:57)Letting go of the pressure to be comfortable (39:42)Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Jack: Autism Optimism International InstagramConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

*RSVP to be on the show on May 11th with Karlee Fain & Maria Sirois*Get the FREE Navigating Change Guidebook that accompanies this season: https://www.karleefain.com/podcastWords matter. Whether they're the words other people say to us, the words we say to ourselves, or the words we impress upon the world around us. They can give us encouragement, break us down, and lift us out of our darkest depths. Words are medicine. And, giving ourselves the space to find the ones we want to say is a precious gift that can heal our wounds and help us honor who we truly are. In this episode, Karlee welcomes Gayle Danley: CEO, Poetry ProsFormer National and International Poetry Slam Champion and Maryland Library Association Poet of the Year. Gayle goes into America's classrooms teaching thousands of children how to access their emotions through the force of words. She shares three decades of poetic process in her online course "Lessons in Poetry," helping writers build emotional stamina for their work.You'll hear how Gayle learned from an early age that her words provided a sense of self-worth that the world around her wasn't offering. By creating a process for her poetry that allowed her to express her truth, she shaped an identity that continues to inspire writers and poets around the world. She shares how poetry has helped her challenge perceptions, navigate change, and process loss. If you're ready to find the right words to help you navigate changes in your life, then this episode is for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:What it means to be “good” (7:17)How a girlfriend goddess comes into being (11:45)Why poetry has the power to challenge the world around you (18:03)How words can help us navigate change (19:46)Adapting and mooring when changes happen to us (31:57)People Mentioned in this Episode: Suzi Banks BaumSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect with Gayle:LinkedInLessons in PoetryConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

*RSVP to be on the show!We are being asked to do more or do differently, especially over the last two years. All the while, it's happening at a time when we have less space to pause and catch our collective breath as we make decisions and navigate our way through. In this episode, Karlee launches a season dedicated to helping you navigate change in a way that allows you to do it with boundless courage and more grace. She shares why change needs to be modeled around the whole microbiome of who we are, rather than simply by addressing individual parts. You'll learn how to summon up courage from the heart, and how to tap into your truth to find clarity in the moment. You'll learn about the head so you can understand the psychology behind graceful transitions. You'll uncover the body's physical signs, leading you to a better understanding of how you really feel. And, you'll discover a vision for moving forward and how to know what makes sense next. The changes we're navigating are new territory for all of us. We don't have to fight-or-flight our way through it. There's a better way. If you're ready to leap boldly into change, even if other people disagree, but you know it's what you need, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:What to expect from our new format and why we're doing it (8:40)How you can be a part of the show (10:44)The 4 pillars of navigating change (12:15)One question that will help you understand your relationship to change (21:10)People Mentioned in this Episode: Dr. Maria SoroisResources Mentioned in this Episode:Get the FREE Navigating Change Guidebook that accompanies this season: https://www.karleefain.com/podcastArticle: Grant, A. (2021, December 3). Feeling Blah During the Pandemic? It's Called Languishing. The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.htmlArticle: Pruitt, J. (2021, January 5). 5 TED Talks That Prove Change Doesn't Have to Be Hard. Inc.Com. https://www.inc.com/jeff-pruitt/5-ted-talks-to-get-your-team-excited-about-transformation.htmlArticle: Leaders Don't Have to Choose Between Compassion and Performance. (2022, February 16). Harvard Business Review. https://hbr.org/2022/02/leaders-dont-have-to-choose-between-compassion-and-performance?cx_testId=6&cx_testVariant=cx_1&cx_artPos=2&cx_experienceId=EXK3YX95ALS3&ab=piano_rightrail_recs#cxrecs_sConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedIn See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Imagine you're walking along your favorite path in the park near your house. The sun is shining, you've got a really rich episode of Messy & Magnificent playing in your ears. You're in your zone. Until… a fallen branch trips you up while your eyes are focused somewhere else. Now, you've got a few scrapes on your elbow and a hole in the knee of your favorite pants. That's kinda what it feels like when change besieges us. It can be sudden or it can be something we've seen heading toward us for a long time. But with so much of it coming at us these days, just like those elbow scrapes, it doesn't always end up pretty. There is a way to navigate change with grace, clarity, and allyship.In this trailer episode, Karlee introduces the 11th season of Messy and Magnificent: Navigating Change. You'll learn how to approach change in a way that gives you the time and space you need to navigate it more effectively. You'll hear how our experience of change relates to community self-care and collaborative ecosystems. You'll learn how to take time to pause in the face of change and how to love and soothe yourself through it all.If you're ready to equip yourself with the tools to navigate change with grace, clarity, and allyship, then this is the season for you. Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As much as we humans feel productive and adept when we run efficiently, we are not machines. We are nature. And nature has evolved to work most efficiently in cycles. These seasons are synonymous with alternating periods of bloom, of letting go, of rest, and renewal.When we allow ourselves to embrace our seasonal nature, we're working in allyship with our bodies, allowing us to sustain our personal growth and professional success. This week, Karlee starts off by introducing a new, more cyclical rhythm to the show that's going to allow Messy & Magnificent to live into what we know to be true about our nature as humans. And through the process of this shift, in real-time, you'll hear how Karlee is personally navigating this big change, along with the risks and potential rewards it carries with it. In this episode, you'll learn why being brave enough to say yes when something feels right, even through the uncertainty, is worth the risk regardless of whether you fail or succeed. You'll hear why piloting our bodies in machine-mode leaves so little space for discovery, the very thing that helps us launch new and fresh ideas. Finally, you'll hear examples of how our bodies provide cues, and why going with that flow rather than staying in auto-pilot tends to lead to better, and sometimes surprising, outcomes. If you're ready to embrace the cyclical nature of change and allow the seasons to do their thing then this is the episode for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:How prolonged periods in machine mode can rob us of space for joy (1:03)An example of how listening to your body can save you (10:53)Embracing our cyclical nature (14:40)The big change we're tapping into on Messy & Magnificent (19:06)Accepting the risk that change brings with it (22:42)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Book: Stirring the Mud: On Swamps, Bogs, and Human Imagination by Barbara Hurd Episode 122: Ready to Make Great Decisions?Episode 123: When Tradition Lays a TrapEpisode 124: Exhausted? Achy? Out of Steam?People Mentioned in this Episode: Glennon DoyleMary OliverMaria SiroisConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Headaches. Muscle stiffness. The yearning for a good, long massage but feeling like you don't have the time to get one. These are all messages our bodies send us. They are cries for attention. “Heeey…something's not aligned in here.”But, we don't always know the language of our bodies. And while it is our responsibility to learn better ways to interact with our physical selves, it really isn't our fault that we're caught in a cycle of self-neglect. Most cultures just don't include well-being in the conversation. Our bodies are seen as inconveniences that need to be controlled or constructed or modified or ignored.But, the manifestation of our dreams requires that we're physically able to be there. Including our bodies in the conversation makes all the difference. This week, Karlee offers up a lesson in the most important language of them all: body language. Because if women and leaders placed more value on becoming allies to our bodies, everything else we're trying to do becomes that much more possible.In this episode, you'll learn why our inability to understand the language of our bodies leads to aches, pains, and feelings of inauthenticity. You'll hear interesting research on why women in particular suffer from physical pain and discomfort, and how you can avoid making the rookie coaching mistake Karlee made for years that ultimately taught her the magic of making things more doable.When we leverage the information our bodies are giving us, it becomes our most vital and prolific resource when it comes to our careers, our health, and our relationships.If you're ready to know for certain that you're giving yourself the best resources to thrive without feeling like you need to do more or push harder, then this episode is for you. Save the Date: Monday, March 21st: International Bring Your Body to Work Day #bodytoworkWhat You'll Learn in This Episode:How our bodies signal the need for change (2:23)Why people who include their bodies in their work - work better (11:08)Why women are more prone to physical strain (13:35)How we can cultivate more connection with our bodies (18:56)How to respond when someone (including yourself) asks for a break (22:22)The magic of making things more doable (25:21)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:The Spirit House ProjectPeople Mentioned in this Episode: Sonya Renee Taylor: The Body is Not an ApologyTara BrachConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

There's no shortage of obligations. Things we don't really want to do but we trudge through anyway. Spending our days in patterns that drain rather than inspire is common.But, what if….What if you took a moment to pause this time and asked yourself a simple question:Why am I doing this thing I'm doing?The rituals and routines we participate in can be hard to break, but when traditions lay traps for our time and emotional health then it's time to get intentional again.The feelings we experience when we're part of expectations that we don't want to be a part of anymore end up bringing us more anxiety than joy. And those feelings of anxiety are trying to tell you that something just isn't working for you anymore. This week, Karlee welcomes the wise words of Suzi Banks Baum. Last fall, Suzi brought up a subject that many of us think about but seldom act upon. If we're going to continue to tell ourselves we “have to do this” and we “gotta do that”, then the least we can do is ask ourselves why. Because it's all about the why. In this episode, you'll learn how to identify the weight of expectation when tradition lays a trap. You'll hear Suzi explain the correlation between feelings of “I don't want to be doing this anymore” and the knowing you have in your body, particularly when it comes to deciding if something still makes sense in your life. She also shares how you can gracefully and respectfully untangle yourself from situations when a change needs to happen.If you're ready to clear your path to find more joy and a whole lot more ease, then this episode is for you.Save the Date: Monday, March 21st: International Bring Your Body to Work Day #bodytoworkWhat You'll Learn in This Episode:What agreement and disagreement feel like in your body (1:03)Why holidays and traditions can become burdens not blessings (11:14)What it feels like to know when something makes sense or doesn't anymore (14:41)How to get out of the contracts that no longer serve you (23:38)A clever mantra to help you determine the right and wrong time to have tricky conversations (25:28)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 106: Trust Your Knowing: How Women Rise From Doubt to Leading Themselves Forward with Suzi Banks Baum Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect with Suzi:WebsiteConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Why is it that we don't listen to our bodies? When you have a headache, you take a pill to relieve the pain so you can go about your day. But what if it keeps coming back? That's a message. When you experience tension in your neck and shoulders, maybe again, you take a pain reliever and consider booking a massage. But what if it keeps coming back? That's a message. All of the folks who thrive in their careers, health, and relationships have some type of interactive relationship with their bodies on a regular basis.We have bodies, and their innate wisdom is there to support us when we include them in the conversation.Care for them is essential because, with their feedback, we make better, more thoughtful, and more informed decisions. This week, Karlee poses an important question: How do you know what is true, and how does your body help inform that knowledge? In this urgency culture that we inhabit, a culture that worships getting things done quicker, our bodies get lost in the action. These are our means for doing and too often, we take them for granted. Our earthly vehicles can be crucial to our decision-making…if we listen to what they're trying to tell us. As Terry Tempest Williams wrote in When Women Were Birds, "My body is my compass, it does not lie." But...​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​What if nobody told you how to read your compass? Or worse, they convinced you that the signs your body is giving you are wrong, so you stopped trusting your internal guidance system or started discounting it? ​​​​​​​​In this episode, you'll learn why we're not taught to listen to our bodies and some of the potential side effects we experience when we ignore the messages we're receiving. Karlee shares a few real-life examples of women who did take a beat to slow down and listen, and she reveals the transformative effects that a simple pause offered. Finally, she shares a quick exercise that will help you check in with your body right now, and how to stay tuned in and ready to receive information on a daily basis. Be sure to catch a very important thought Karlee shares about the war in Ukraine. If you're feeling like you want to be helpful, but also feeling a little helpless at the same time, she shares a few practical things you can do from where you are, right now. (6:06) If you're ready to dare to pause and include your body in the conversation, then this episode is for you. Save the Date: Monday, March 21st: International Bring Your Body to Work Day #bodytoworkWhat You'll Learn in This Episode:A parable about creating change through ease rather than by force (9:59)3 reasons why you might not be listening to your body (11:40)What it feels like when your body is talking to you (16:57)A quick exercise to check-in with your body (23:09)How one woman benefitted in big ways by listening to her body (29:02)An invitation to bring your body to work (32:29) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you remember what that old acronym K.I.S.S. stands for?Keep It Simple, Sister. When you're feeling the weight of overwhelm, that's an invitation to get small and simplify. This week, Karlee revisits a particularly nourishing bite from Karin Witzig Rozell. In the midst of pandemic overwhelm, Karin received the ubiquitous disruption as an invitation to simplify. And that made all the difference, giving her the space she needed to handle everything on her plate, but do it all with more grace through a very confusing time. In this episode, you'll hear how you can get big results by going small and intentional when faced with overwhelm by accepting the invitation to simplicity. You'll also discover the human value of exposing our wildly imperfect moments, and learn how to create your own personal definition of wealth so that you can identify what's important.If you're ready to K.I.S.S. overwhelm goodbye and lean into a simpler way of being, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:The invitation that overwhelm offers us (2:19)Exchanging the burden of fragmenting for the lightness of authenticity (4:27)Defining how you describe true wealth (5:17)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 59: Lifestyle Rich: Free yourself from the tyranny of "I need to do it all" thinking and get big results by going small with Karin Witzig RozellSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you have a go-to handful of stories that you tell about yourself? And if so, how do they land on your audience?Whether it's the stories you tell to your friends, the ones you tell on first dates, or the ones you tell in the workplace, our stories are gateways that connect us to others. This week, Karlee calls upon one sweet bite of wisdom from Dr. Maria Sirois. It's a lesson in masterful storytelling for anyone who's curious about how the stories you're telling are opening up the lines of communication with others. In this episode, you'll hear why storytelling is the key to engagement, and why masterful storytelling has the potential to transform. Going all the way back to our tribal, neurobiological roots, you'll learn what makes a story work, and you'll uncover why three specific layers of storytelling make this type of sharing the most impactful way of communicating.If you're ready to deepen your connections with others through the art of masterful storytelling, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How storytelling helps you connect with others (1:37)What superheroes can teach us about the stories we tell about ourselves (2:59)The way our brains process memory through storytelling (4:39)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 49: Masterful Storytelling: How to Share Your Stories to Transform and Engage with Others with Dr. Maria SiroisSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you had a label, what would it say? Now, would that label need to be swapped out depending on who you were marketing yourself to? A blue label for work, a yellow one for home, a purple one for your friends? All that labeling gets complicated. So it begs the question… Why do we feel the need to have so many different labels depending on the audience?Why can't we just wear the one description that fits us most authentically; exposing our vulnerabilities, our strengths, and just…embrace it? This week, Karlee shines the light on a particular piece of wisdom courtesy of brand building expert Farryn Weiner. When reflecting on how Covid-19 has changed the way she does business, Farryn highlights the importance of shared values, alignment, and authenticity. In this episode, you'll hear how the upheaval of Covid-19 has helped her focus on the type of business owner she wants to be, and how that decision relates to knowing the kind of person she wants to be. She shares why emotional intelligence is becoming more important in the workplace, and reveals how vulnerability is really the key to happiness and fulfillment. If you're ready to embrace who you truly are and create a more holistic fusion of your you's, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:The rising value of emotional intelligence (2:39)Why aligned values matter (5:01)What it means to find emotional success (6:11)Knowing and accepting your personal brand (7:18)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 40: Emotional Success: How to Leverage Your Unique Values Like the World's Best Brands do with Farryn WeinerSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If at any point in your career you've bought into hustle culture, then it's easy to draw the line as to how you got here. You probably sought out this podcast and this community because you recognize that in here, we do things differently. You realize that hustling is exhausting. And frankly, hustling your way to success isn't even necessary.You're here because you heard that we've got the antidote to overwhelm. In this episode, Karlee delivers this precious antidote by first dispelling the myths of vertical success. She explains the origins of antiquated, testosterone ways of thinking and why it just doesn't work in today's world. She shares an example of idea emergence, and why its creator felt the need to protect it in order to see it to fruition. Today you'll hear what it sounds like when imposter syndrome kicks in and how you can gently, humbly stop it in its tracks while you create the space you need to breathe. Karlee also shares the outline of her culmination practice, explaining why taking that time to recap, refresh, and renew makes all the difference. If you're ready to end overwhelm for good and lean into your own culmination practice, then this is the episode for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:The myths around vertical success (3:17)How to protect emerging ideas from being squashed by questions and imposter syndrome (4:16)The questions we encounter when imposter syndrome starts to creep in (5:48)What a culmination practice practically looks like (6:13)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 3: Done Burning Out? The 4 phases of growth and sustaining successCredit: Karlee learned the names of the 4 seasons she mentions from Kate NorthrupSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sometimes, rather than devour that whole bag of chocolates, it's actually more nourishing to nibble on just one (ok, maybe 2…). If you're facing a week or month where your plate feels a little too full, but you don't want to sacrifice what nourishes you, then that single piece of dark chocolate becomes more meaningful. More satisfying. And even more delectable. This month, Karlee's bringin' you the dark chocolate one bite at a time; short, sweet, nourishing concepts that you can expand on at your own pace. In this episode, she asks you to explore what healthy, grounded optimism might look like in your world. You'll learn how to dig deeper to find what's at the root of your emotions, and you'll hear a simple exercise that can help you find balance in that truth. If you're ready to get real about where you are in this moment AND address what needs shifting through simple, actionable words, then this is the episode for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:What unstable shower temperatures can teach us about getting centered (2:13)How to build your AND sentence (4:45)Getting to the truth of what's in your swamp and what's in your pond (5:44)What women who thrive know how to do (7:23)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 1: One Word that Will Elevate Everything You DoSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If this particular time in your life and in the world feels a bit overwhelming, well…you're definitely not the only one.Our world has felt kinda shaky and uncertain for a while now, and we're all just here, together, rockin' along with the boat.That's why it's important to take control where you can. Because one thing we know to be true is there's only one reliable, infallible, and fool-proof antidote to overwhelm.When you're feeling overwhelmed, then that means it's time to get focused.And there's nothing better at bringing more focus into your life than long-term than goal-setting. But, we're not talking about traditional models of goal-setting…ohhh, no, no.For a goal to be sustainable, it's gotta be about what's realistic for you. It's got to be specific to the here and now. AND, it needs to be holistic so that it fits into in all areas of your life.In this episode, Karlee helps you figure out how to cultivate plans that are practical, purposeful, meaningful, and most importantly, how to make them actually work for you. And, even how to make sticking with them enjoyable. If your goals feel like they're depleting or exhausting you, you're about to learn a smarter, more realistic way to make sure your goals reach the finish line.You'll learn why the antidote to overwhelm when making plans is to get specific, and how to make your goals malleable so they work within the context of your changing life. She shares a modern goal-setting strategy that takes some wisdom from decades past, but rearranges it in order to more effectively meet you here in the current moment, and in our current economy.If you're ready to turn your overwhelm into focus and set sustainable goals that work with your life, then this is the episode for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why being malleable in your form and function is important (1:49)How to goal-set holistically so you're supported in all areas of your life (11:19)A fresh version of the S.M.A.R.T. goal mapping system (17:29)Evaluating how realistic your goals are with 3 simple questions (24:32)How to be malleable if the goal isn't sustainable (31:21)People Mentioned in this Episode:Sophie WeillResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 113: Building a Stronger BasketEpisode 114: Putting the Self in SuccessEpisode 115: Want to Be “Enough”? Here's how women get resourcedThe Active Ingredient Podcast with Sophie WeillBook: The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth about Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Kicking off a new year by casting a wider net is common for a lot of folks… but that's not what we do here. Here, we take our cues from nature. And in the natural world, winter is a time for going deeper. It's a time for making sure our bodies are nourished, our bellies are full, and our baskets are filled with everything we'll need for the journey of the year to come. When we start this new cycle by gathering the resources that'll see us through, then we're far less likely to feel depleted down the road. Getting resourced helps us to know the difference between enough work and over-working. Getting resourced equips us with the self-awareness required to lead without harm to ourselves or to others. In this episode, Karlee shares why getting resourced now is the key to your physical, mental, and emotional longevity all year long. She reveals the four C-19 L's that high-achieving women have been struggling with since the early days of the pandemic, and what these four indicators are telling you about the resources you should be building up now. You'll learn about a specific type of leader that really shouldn't be trusted, and why our cultural glorification of these types of leaders only directs us more towards toxic productivity. Karlee also shares five free or low-cost, high-ROI ways you can obtain more resources right now that'll help you fill your basket to the brim. If you're ready to be deeply supported and stop doing all the heavy lifting in order to make what you want to experience next happen, then this is the episode for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:What bodily neglect is telling you about your work (2:19)The 4 L's that Covid has introduced to our lives and how to shake them (11:20)One myth that needs debunking right now (18:11)Pinpointing the resources you might be lacking (21:26)Creative ways to add more free time to your days (27:38)People Mentioned in this Episode:Kate NorthrupAdam GrantResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 113: Building a Stronger BasketEpisode 114: Putting the Self in SuccessEpisode 41: Is Your Work Mojo Down?Grant, A. (2021, April 19). There's a Name for the Blah You're Feeling: It's Called Languishing. Retrieved from https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.htmlFREE Character Strengths Assessment Connect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedIn See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How do you define success? Is it about pleasing your boss, your staff, or your clients? Is it about the numbers reflected in your bank account? Does success mean being available, even though it often wears you out?Now, how many of those reference points for success are really about you, and how many are about other people's perceptions of you?Real, meaningful success depends on your reference point. Our goals have to be shaped around what we value in and for ourselves, rather than what others value in and about us. If you're calibrating your goals based on the preferences, priorities, and needs of others over what you know to be true for you, then YOU aren't the reference point. And that's gotta change. In this episode, Karlee talks about the difference between self-referencing a goal versus other-referencing a goal. She shares real-life examples of meaningful self-reference success points and walks you through a straightforward process that will help you identify a personal formula for success that's based on what you value. If you're ready to lead with clarity, confidence, and a better understanding of exactly what your next steps are, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:What gets obscured in the fog of success (9:39)The difference between goals that are self-referenced and other referenced (12:57)An example of to-the-point self referencing (15:10)The 3 W's that'll help you identify what gives you life (18:37)How to incorporate more of what you value into your life (25:29)People Mentioned in this Episode:Jen Delos Reyes Nancy LevinResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 113: Building a Stronger Basket: How to plug up the leaks of what's draining you and preserve more energy for the things you value.Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

A friend calls desperate for a coffee date. It's your day off and it's been a long week. And, these coffee dates with this particular friend always leave you feeling drained. But, you don't want to hurt their feelings. So you grab your coat and keys and reluctantly head out the door. You've had this business idea floating around in your head for a while now. But every time you get a burst of energy and feel ready to put more time into developing this concept, something always gets in the way. Your current job. A social media side-track. You feel like maybe you should clean the house or do laundry instead. So that idea stays floating in the ether. There's a foundation that we're built upon…it's something we all want and need to preserve. But life and people and work and other distractions always seem to compromise the sturdiness we seek. That, my friends, is leaky basket syndrome. And if you're a woman in this world, you've been conditioned to carry around a basket that's prone to leaking. If you've ever struggled with follow through, or you feel like you're stuck in relationships that aren't feeding you very well anymore but you're afraid to let them go, then know this: You are not a screw up.Your basket is the foundation that every plan and decision you're going to make this year needs to depend upon if it's going to survive. So, we've got to plug those leaks. We've got to plan and get resourced if we want our plans to stand a fighting chance.In this episode, Karlee describes some of the most common culprits of leaky basket syndrome, and why historically, those of us who identify as women have been uniquely susceptible to condoning punctures within our foundations. She'll pinpoint the emotional cues that are letting you know when something is draining your resources and keeping you from living into the plans you make. You'll learn a simple 4-step system for tending to your basket and learn a practical, pragmatic way to mend those leaks for good. Boundaries take practice, but remember… YOU are the curator of the gallery of your life. If you're ready to accept this invitation to build a sturdier basket, then this episode is for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why January is a terrible time to get new goals (1:10)What tending to your basket looks like: a 4-step system (3:63)Identifying leaky basket syndrom (12:45)The one permission you can grant yourself that'll mend up a few leaks (17:00)Some of the most common leaks that might need mending (18:22)How to shake off the need to people-please in our DNA (22:43)A quick, doable exercise for mending those leaks (25:17)Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Congratulations! You've made it to the end of another year…How do you feel about it? In the grande scheme of what's passed, the things you've learned, and how you've grown, where might you point the arrow on your joy-o-meter? Ok, ok…let's scale it back a little. Let's be in the now. What's bringing you joy right now? You see, the holidays carry with them a veneer of happiness and celebratory tendencies, but that's not always how it feels for everyone. Maybe you don't feel like celebrating. Maybe the thought of family-time brings you anxiety. Maybe you just can't wait until it's over and done with. Maybe there's a whirlwind of other stuff going on in your heart right now and it's got you feeling weighed down. These lows, especially during the holidays, can feel exaggerated in comparison to the jingle-bells world taking place outside our windows.So, how do we tend to that heaviness in order to find respite and tap into what brings us joy? In this episode, Karlee and co-host Anitza Martins talk about what it's like to experience heart-heaviness during times that are supposed to be filled with joy. They discuss how guilt manifests when you're just not feeling festive, and why it's so important to get to the root of our emotions rather that stuff them away. Karlee shares a simple trick she uses to mood-shift and quickly access the nourishment she needs when the storm clouds need shaking. Remember: We thrive on nourishment, not punishment. If you're ready to get to the root of what's bringing you down and flip the switch from self-judgement to joy, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to show up when you're heart is feeling heavy (4:13)Different expressions of joy and what it can look like (8:15)Gaining claritly on what's bringing you down by asking a simple question (9:47)What to expect from the show in 2022 (12:29)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Listen In: The Boundary BrunchSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The seasonal energy of this month is palpable. It's in the crisp wintery air, the sparkling trees, and the holiday tunes that seem to start a little earlier every year. For many of us, it's a season full of family, friends, parties, and the death of any self-control when it comes to sweets. So, because we're big believers in the natural rhythm of the seasons, we're taking this final month of the year to culminate. We're turning inward and reflecting on what we've learned this year. In this episode, Karlee and co-host Anitza Martins dive deep into the reflection pool of not only this past year, but all the way back to the beginning of Karlee's first season as an podcaster. In this heartfelt Q&A sesh, Aniza asks Karlee the real questions about what it's like to lead an organization centered around boundary setting and thriving… and to truly lead by example. You'll hear what Karlee has learned about balancing work while maintaining meaningful relationships, and where she chose to draw the line early on when it came to sacrifice. She shares why the values she holds dear are seasonal and don't need to tending 100% of the time in order to endure. Karlee and Aniza also talk about letting go of the pressure to “do it all”, and why it can be so satisfying to pass the keys to the drivers seat to the experts while you settle into the passenger side. If you're ready to pause, reflect and settle a little deeper into culmination season, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why we're talking about pleasure and meaning this month (1:33)Karlee's culmination: lessons learned and from whom (3:02)Why all values have their season (7:54)The relief in letting someone else be the expert (9:50)Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Ep. 109: Are You Self-Stingy? How to stop skimping on your needs and receive the resources to THRIVE.Listen In: The Boundary BrunchSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This time of the year is all about going inward and allowing yourself some pre-holiday social rest. Chilly hints from Northern Hemisphere skies in the form of snow days and icicles are a literal permission slip to stay home, get cozy, and reflect.So, what have we been reflecting on? A whole year of boundary practice: Are we setting enough of them? Are we letting fear get in the way? How can we set more of them? What if my boundaries make people mad? Know this: A boundary is a contract between you and you; between yourself and what you value. If the boundary you've created isn't respected, even if someone gets upset, their reaction is their decision...and their reaction is usually not your responsibility to manage. Over time, we know that relationships change. The ones that don't hold water anymore will shift currents. And that's how the river keeps moving forward, past all of the fallen trees and boulders that might try to impede its progress.In this episode, Karlee and this month's co-host Anitza Martins are offering up another bite-sized portion of audio dark chocolate for your listening pleasure. And this week, it's Boundary-flavored...our favorite! Today, you'll hear why boundary-setting can sometimes create conflict, and how you can handle that disharmony in a healthy, meaningful way. They'll talk about processing the real information that's wrapped up in other people's emotional responses, and why it's perfectly ok to give yourself permission to walk away. Thriving is all about setting the boundaries you need, maintaining them, and making sure that the current you're rolling with is made up of people who are supporting you in being and finding your best self. If you're ready to stop fearing the boundary reactions of others and create the environment you need in order to thrive, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to overcome your boundary-based fears (2:42)The messaging wrapped within other people's responses to our boundaries (4:01)Separating the reasonable from the unreasonable (7:40)The joy of not doing things you don't wanna do anymore (10:05)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dr. Valerie ReinSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We go through life doing a whole lotta things that we don't really want to do. Laundry. Homework. “Work”-work. Taxes. Ok, so those things you actually do have to do. But, what about those other things you sort of just fall into doing or being responsible for? For example, was your career path something you thought deeply about, or did you just kind of fall into a job? And do you find meaning in the work you do, or does it leave you feeling like you need to hibernate for a few days as soon as you walk out the door? Or maybe the role you play among friends or family (“the mediator”, “the responsible one”, “the fixer” etc.) is starting to wear you out. But, you'd feel really guilty if you just stopped being that person because people need that from you, right? So, you just continue to do it anyway.The thing is...if you really carved out the time to reflect on what actually brings you joy, you might just find a way to align that with how you want to spend your days. Your career. Your family gatherings. In this episode, Karlee kicks off a short and sweet series with special co-host extraordinaire Anitza Martins. They'll unpack the “equation for thriving” as defined by the field of Positive Psychology that explains what's working for people who've managed to cultivate zest, joy and passion, even in tough times.Today, you'll hear how letting go of unwanted expectations that aren't serving you leaves more room to discover what might serve you better. You'll learn a doable way to find space for pleasure in your days, and how that leads to deeper meaning. Meaning gives us purpose. And it has the power to transform the work you do, create positive changes within your relationships, and bring more joy to your human experience.Those seeds just need space to grow. If you're ready to stop skimping on what brings your life meaning and gift yourself more joy, then this is the episode for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:What the field of positive psychology calls the “equation for thriving” (2:53)What it means when “tradition lays a trap” (6:48)What if you struck when the iron was cold? (9:22)Leaning into joy, even when times are hard (13:00)Anticipating change and appreciating the small things (16:11)Resources Mentioned in this Episode: The Boundary AcademyPeople Mentioned in this Episode:Suzy Banks BaumSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you find yourself in the middle of a story, having to make some decisions because one area of your career or health or relationships is shifting, then this is the episode for you.As a busy, high-achieving woman in this world, you're well-accustomed to a tight calendar. As much as you pack into those little boxes, it's still hard to say “no” when your boss, family, social circle, or anyone else asks you to fit just one more thing in there.Like an overstuffed suitcase, you just keep trying to squeeze in an extra pair of pants here, another cozy cardigan there…until you have to sit on top of it just to get the zipper closed.And at the end of every overstuffed month, you ask yourself: “Is this how it's always gonna feel?”Well, here's a thought… What if you just said “no”?What if you took control of your calendar and carved out regular, intentional breathing room…what might that space feel like?Daring to pause, to be intentional, and to refill your cup isn't selfish. It's actually generous.When you're able to show up more nourished and rested, you come through in a better headspace and with a fuller heart. And harnessing that presence and authenticity is one of the most generous things you can do for others, whether it's your boss, your co-workers, your partner, your friends, or your kids.In this episode, Karlee welcomes the founder of Corporate Escape Artist, Caroline Castrillon. After 25 years of corporate success in leadership roles with Fortune 500 companies like Dell and Sony, Caroline made the leap towards entrepreneurship. Today, her company helps successful, driven women who are stuck in the daily grind of too much work and helps them carve out more time to pause and find nourishment. She is a contributor to Forbes and Thrive Global and has been featured in publications including the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Inc., and Success Magazine.Today, you'll hear what drove Caroline to defect from the always busy corporate career ladder in order to harness more control over her life, and how she's helping others do the same. She points out the importance of getting comfortable with fear being present when you're flirting with the idea of change, but you're afraid to take the leap. She also talks about the importance of cultivating a “no” practice, and how to use that untapped power to redirect your days, months, and ultimately, change the direction of your life.Or, in Caroline's own words, how to go from “soul-sucking jobs to career fulfillment”.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The “taboo” things women should be talking more about (7:12)Why we have to get comfortable with fear and keep moving ahead (9:56)Recognizing the power you have to direct your life (16:57)Cultivating a “no” practice (25:09)The one thing you have to know before making a meaningful transition (34:18)How gaining clarity over your life shifts your mental state and ripples outward (47:18)Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Article: Castrillon, C. (2021, July 18). This is how to transition from manager to leader. Forbes. Retrieved November 23, 2021Connect with Caroline Castrillon:Corporate Escape ArtistInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ever wonder how your relationship with money is connected to your relationship with your power? And why many women have mixed, often negative, feelings around money (no matter how much is in their bank account)?Sometimes there's shame, guilt, struggle, or a lack of financial clarity and that messes with our mojo.Here's the deal: If you're feeling unclear or lacking power around money, that lack of unclarity or lack of power can seep into other areas of your life, too. In this episode, Karlee rewinds back to some very important money talk. In the realm of overwhelm, money tension can feel like a grey cloud that just hovers above us, and we don't always give it the attention it needs. But that attention is the only way to brighten it up and get out from under its shadow. She talks about the cyclical nature of money and how you can maximize your relationship with it in each season. If you're ready to take the simple, doable, tailored-for-you steps that'll have you feeling more empowered, clear, and confident about your financial game, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to start removing fear around making money. (17:53)One doable practice to start improving your relationship with money. (23:59)About the four cyclical seasons of money. (24:58)How tracking your expenses and income can be super simple and impactful for your money game. (26:40)What a bold money goal looks like for you. (33:00)Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Money Is My Friend by Phil Laut Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

With a busy schedule running your life, finding both the time and space to breathe, create, and take care of yourself might seem…frivolous.Like something you can just think about tomorrow. Or, the next day. Or, the next day. The next time you find yourself in that go-go-go pattern, what would it feel like if you dared to pause, instead of putting it off until tomorrow? What if you stopped to ask your body what it was trying to communicate in that moment? Here's the truth you may have been ignoring: your body is trying to communicate with you, and it is possible to use that as a professional strategy. Learning how to listen to your body can actually guide you toward some of your biggest wins. It can also urge you not to do something in the form of a headache coming on, tightness in your shoulders and neck, or just a general feeling of overwhelm. This week, Karlee reconnects us with some powerful body talk with guest Suzi Banks Baum: a woman masterful at interpreting the language of the body. Suzi is a writer and book artist with an admirable devotion to her daily creative practice. Throughout the conversation, Suzi shares how her creative practices help her stay solid even when everything feels chaotic around her, how she learned to cultivate these practices, and how listening to her body's information has guided her over the years. If you find yourself wanting more space for yourself throughout your day, or the room to be creative, or if you're feeling worried about what the next right step for you is, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How Suzi stays solid amidst the chaos of life's changes (15:42)How to know when it's time to modify your business (18:36)What body-knowing feels like (21:54)How creative practices help you gain a greater understanding of your interior orientation (36:18)How ritual can help you begin cultivating a creative practice (45:33)How making time for herself helped Suzi take back her freedom and agency (1:04:36)People Mentioned in this Episode: Nancy LevinJudy ChicagoResources Mentioned in this Episode: Episode 32: Curing the Knee-Jerk “Yes” with Nancy LevinThe Dinner Party by Judy ChicagoCamp in a Care PackageConnect with Suzi Banks Baum: WebsiteInstagramConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The holidays are about to envelop us in a way that feels extra sweet. This year marks 2 years since the word “pandemic” became a part of our daily lexicon. The holiday season hasn't felt normal for a while, which might mean that the pressure around it feels more emotionally intense than usual. Maybe there's pressure to make up for lost time, coupled with a desire to make sure things are just absolutely perfect for everyone. From gifts to making and sharing great food, to how you choose to spend your time, there's so much pressure to make sure that everything you do makes everyone else happy. But what about you? Before we get into the thick of holiday dinners and gatherings and gift-giving, it's important to figure out how to include yourself on the list of people you during this (or any) busy time.You deserve a moment to create a doable framework around the holidays that is life-giving for you. Continuing our month-long revisit on the topic of overwhelm, Karlee taps back into the wisdom of Dr. Maria Sirois. In a timely message before we enter the holiday season, she dives deep into how we can continue to care for ourselves through these busy months, and any other “full” phases we might encounter in our lives. This notion of “self-care” is no longer just about getting enough sleep and going to the gym a few times a week. It's all about knowing how to deal with challenging people in challenging circumstances…and in challenging times. Maria outlines beautifully how to make a really small—but hugely transformative—shift in our fullest times so that we still get to experience what we want more of in our life. If you're ready to remember the importance of self and create pathways for your own nourishment this holiday season, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to take a pause and ask a life-giving question to create openness within yourself (16:17)The three-step framework to guide you through the holidays (24:41)What Maria has learned about navigating the holidays (26:32)How to take the pressure off of giving the perfect gifts (30:12)How to consciously craft the holidays in a way that gives you life (32:44)Giving yourself permission to reframe stress-inducing holiday rituals (43:10)Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Maria Sirois' WebsiteContact Maria SiroisJob Crafting – Amy Wrzesniewski on creating meaning in your own workSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folx at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When change happens, it can be an unsettling time. The world around us has changed as a result of COVID-19. By now, we're all used to taking precautions every time we leave the house. We pack masks and hand-sanitizer and what we need to stay safe. But there's also this reckoning that's seeping in. We've gone from “How long is this gonna last?” to “Ok, guess this is life now.” And the realization that these changes are now an all-the-time thing, well, that can leave us feeling a little (or a lot) overwhelmed. Now that we know there's no going back, we've got to learn to adapt. We have to find our balance again. So, how do we learn to support and steady ourselves in this new version of the world? We go deeper. We find focus. And, we look for ways to simplify. Today, Karlee kicks off a month of episodes revisiting the topic of overwhelm, offering valuable moments of reflection as you look back to when the world changed for us all. First, she shares the antidote to the feelings of overwhelm that you might be experiencing right now. She explains how establishing rituals and routines can keep you feeling grounded, even when everything else seems uncertain. Then, she shares a self-sourced guided visualization to reconnect you with your voice, your truth, and your life. If you're ready to incorporate the rituals and routines that will keep you grounded - even when life gets shaken up - so that you can regain your balance amidst uncertainty, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How focus functions as the antidote to fear (13:49) Why we feel off-balance amidst rapid change (18:31)How to find rituals that ground you and create stability in your life (19:15)How you can be in charge of many parts of the way your day unfolds (23:59)A self-sourced truth visualization tool (26:50)Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 6: Feeling The Holiday Stress? Here's a framework for more ease during full timesEpisode 35: Trust Your Knowing: How Women Rise From Doubt to Leading Themselves Forward with Suzi Banks BaumEpisode 13: Making Money Moves: Upgrading Your Finances & Personal PowerPJ Podcast GatheringEpisode 19: Sh*t just hit the fanConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

If you're a human on this planet, you've likely found yourself in a situation or two where you've felt like an outsider. That feeling can inspire us to conform so that we fit the mold and gain acceptance. Or, it can push us further inward towards isolation. Either way, if we're not experiencing deep bonds of acceptance that are based on who we really are, then whether we're surrounded by “friends” or quietly tucked away in the shadows, we still feel alone.As adults in the world, just like when we were kids on the playground, we're always trying to fit in and find our tribes. The search for connection and community never stops. That's because we, like the rest of nature, are in a constant state of evolution.So, we should expect that our friendships, relationships, and the type of work we do will evolve, too. Whether it's feeling alone in a sea of people or standing apart like a wallflower, the path to real connection is laid by leaning deeper into who we are. In this episode, Karlee explains why the concept of “fitting in” is more of an attempt to mold ourselves into being someone we just aren't, and why instead, we should be expanding in order to find “our people”. She lays out the levels of friendship that we experience in various aspects of our lives, and invites you to consider which ones are continuing to nourish you and which ones it might be ok to loosen your grip on in order to create space for evolution. She'll also share 4 important questions you can ask yourself if you need a little push to help you move into what's next.If you're ready to invite more authentic, nourishing connections into your life, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:2 essential reasons why quitting is sometimes necessary (3:22)Learning to expand rather than trying to fit in (8:42)An example of the 3rd level communication that goes into making this podcast (15:37)Evaluating how you experience the 4 levels of friendship (20:28)4 questions that will help you move ahead into what's next (25:32)People Mentioned in this Episode:Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.Dana LemayResources Mentioned in this Episode:**Episode: 3 Styles of professional communication?Article: Psychology Today. 2021. How Many Friends Do You Really Need in Adulthood?. [online] Available at: [Accessed 19 October 2021].Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you feel like you're around people all the time but you never really feel connected?Maybe those “only-one” thoughts start to creep in…“People just don't get me.”“Everyone is more qualified than I am.” “If I want this done, right, I've got to do it myself.”And coming up behind all of that solitary contemplation, you think “ Gosh, this would be so much easier if I just had a little support.”If this rings true for you, whether it's among friends or family, in your neighborhood or your workplace, know that you're not the only one who feels like the only one.Community is vital. It's what makes our experience in this world so enjoyable because it gives us the ability to be open and to share. We want to belong. Without it, we feel isolated.So, how do we learn how to “belong”? The key to belonging lies within our own willingness to present ourselves as we are. The path to self-acceptance is through vulnerability. “We often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world. Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”-Brene BrownIn this episode, Karlee shares the most common thoughts that high-achieving women experience around solitary, “only-one” thinking. She explains how these thoughts actually exacerbate our feelings of isolation, and why we're never really the only one in the room feeling the way we feel. You'll learn why belonging requires vulnerability within yourself first, and how you can find and embrace community in a rather unconventional way through a surprisingly simple activity.If you find yourself in the room, know this: You deserve to be there, you need to be there, and they need you. You are bringing something, and you belong. The only thing missing is you believing it. If you're ready to embrace self-acceptance and vulnerability to finally open your gateway to connection, then this episode is for you. People Mentioned:Brene BrownDouglas Carlton AbramsChitra AiyarResources Mentioned:The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing WorldTED Talk: How to Build Community When You Feel IsolatedBrené Brown on True Belonging | UPLIFT. (2021). Retrieved 13 October 2021Connect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you hear about a brave woman who has set a boundary, do you sometimes think “Well, she can do that, but that would never fly with my family,” or “Gosh, I'd love to be able to say that but in my culture, it would come off as offensive.”So, rather than rock the boat, you pack that boundary-thought away in the hopes that someday, you'll unpack it again after discovering a different way to deliver it. Well, that day is today.Culture plays a huge role in our experience of boundaries - so today we dig a little deeper to understand the origins of your psychology around boundaries.Because boundaries aren't about offending anyone, particularly people you care about.They're simply a means of communicating your needs to others in a way that draws them in.In this episode, Karlee welcomes an expert in the realm of positive psychology and wellbeing, Dr. Senem Eren. Dr. Eren has been a researcher and psychologist for the past 17 years, focusing specifically on supporting and empowering women to exceed in their entrepreneurial goals without sacrificing their health, well-being, or happiness. She's a co-founder and board member of the Center for Muslim Wellbeing in Australia, and an adjunct professor at Ibn Haldun University in Turkey.Today, you'll gain an understanding of when, where, and how the boundaries we create (or don't create) intersect with our respective cultures. You'll learn why it's so important to recognize boundaries within the context of the cultures we're born into, and the micro-cultures we're raised within, in order to comprehend how we view boundary-setting, and our comfort levels when it comes to asking for help. If you're ready to recognize that doin' it all on your own isn't worth the energy and you're ready for a better way, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How the boundaries we're born into shape who we become (10:55)Why it's never too late to repair past mistakes (21:01)How individualist versus collectivist cultures shape our boundary styles (24:45)A new way to look at boundaries (32:47)What to expect when you're setting a challenging boundary (39:41)Connect with Dr. Senem Eren:InstagramIbn Haldun UniversityBoundaries for wellbeing | Dr. Senem Eren | TEDxDocklandsPeople Mentioned:Meredith BrissonGeert HofstedeNancy LevinResources Mentioned:Website: Native LandConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagram See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How many great ideas have you had throughout your lifetime? The kind that come about so suddenly that you feel their energy pulse through your body with so much intensity that it wakes you up and makes you want to move ASAP?And...how many of those have you actually followed through on? If there's some disparity between idea generation and follow-through, you're not alone. And this isn't a guilt trip. There's a reason why so many of those ideas didn't make it to fruition. What if I told you it wasn't your lack of energy or ambition… It was about your lack of community. You see, follow-through takes two important things: nourishment and community.If you want to start something new, you have to start by asking yourself one question:“What do I need in order to make showing up for this possible?”In this special 100th episode of Messy & Magnificent, Karlee launches a month-long series delivering the potent power of community to your door. She uncovers what community really is and why it's so important in our lives, not only for emotional support but also as the force behind getting things done. She shares four incredible benefits of belonging to a community, and the five types of community that every woman should belong to, in some capacity.That whole “If I want it done right I've got to do it myself” mentality will only get us so far before we start to feel stuck. Moving to the next stage requires support. We thrive in community, and it's time we recognize the role it plays in our success. If you're ready to find your ideal community and reap the benefits of connection, then this episode is for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The phenomenon of popular isolation (5:32)How the power of community helps us get things done (7:59)What the word community really means (21:27)The long-term benefits of friendships and community (23:29)The five types of community and why they're beneficial (25:52)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dr. Tom StedingMaria SoriosKate NorthrupResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 57: Trying To Do It All Yourself? How smart leaders stop being the hero and start building emotional integrity with Tom StedingStudy: Brigham Young University. "Relationships improve your odds of survival by 50 percent, research finds." ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 28 July 2010. .Episode 76: Just Thrown A Curveball?! The specifics of how my company builds something new and revamps after our plans are foiled.VIDEO: The Boundary BrunchEpisode 49: Masterful Storytelling: How to Share Your Stories to Transform and Engage with Others with Dr. Maria SiroisBook: You Have the Power: Choosing Courage in a Culture of Fear by Frances Moore Lappe Jeffrey Perkins Article: What Is Community, and Why Is It Important? Featuring Riché C. ZamorEpisode 2: Nobody really gets you? How to upgrade your adult relationshipsArticle: 3 Ways To Benefit From Involvement In Your Community by Anne-Marie Faiola Study: University of Notre Dame. "Your circle of friends is more predictive of your health, study finds." ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 17 June 2019. List: The 5 Types of Community from FeverbeeSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Raise your hand if you've ever thought the following: I really don't have time, but I don't want to upset anyone. I'll just do it. My culture doesn't “get” boundaries, so I have to be available when family comes knocking. I'm a born workaholic. There's never time for self-care. How would I even fit that in to my day?While our needs to work people please can tie our emotions up in knots, the truth is that each one of those thoughts is actually an invitation. A nudge from your internal compass that's trying to point you in the direction of setting a boundary. Boundaries aren't walls you're setting up to keep other people from crossing over. They're bridges you're building within to create more ease for yourself. Boundaries may be the source of all conflict, but they're also the foundation of all well-being. Today, Karlee welcomes bonafide “Boundary Queen” Sarri Gilman to the show. Sarri has spent 30 years working as a Psychotherapist who specializes in helping folks set the boundaries they need to implement at the family level. Her decades-long research in this specific area has shown her the full boundary-making process that people experience as they start to become their own boundary experts. In this episode, you'll hear about the process of boundary-making, and how long on average it takes to actually implement a boundary for most people. She shares a personal boundary story of her own about letting go and moving forward when solace was calling her somewhere new. Finally, she'll explain the fundamental link between self-trust and good decision-making that'll help you make confidence-backed choices with greater ease. If you're ready to honor your inner compass and gift yourself the boundaries being called for in your life, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why boundaries need encouragement (13:10)Restoring the trust in your own compass (17:32)A powerful boundary breakthrough moment (21:35)How to think about resilience in times of trauma (36:06)Cultivating a pattern of self-care (40:58)Creating boundary clarity with family members (43:55)Emotionally prepping for a boundary fallout (50:38)How long it takes to become a boundary expert (57:57)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dr. Tom StedingCatherine Panter-BrickNancy LevinConnect with Sarri Gilman:Sarrigillman.comGet 20% off Now: Transform Your Boundaries Six Course Bundle Code: FRIENDSOFSARRIResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE FREE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTBook: Transform Your Boundaries by Sarri Gilman Book: The Mystery of Knowing Journal: A writing odyssey to be true to who you are by Sarri Gilman and Tasha RockowitzBook: Naming and Taming Overwhelm: For Healthcare and Human Service Providers by Sarri Gilman TEDx Talk: Good boundaries free you | Sarri GilmanSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What if I get push back when I tell my boss I'm not available to work weekends anymore? What if they're disappointed? Will they think I'm not committed enough?If this cycle sounds familiar, then no doubt you've been dancing the “boundary back & forth”. That's the emotional and psychological dance craze that we inflict upon ourselves when we're trying to game-plan someone else's behavior before we set a boundary.But spending your sweet time overthinking, doubting, and perfecting how your boundary lands...well, it's just not doing you any good. Our emotional barometer gets really high around the idea of setting boundaries. We tend to add fear and anxiety to the already significant burden we're trying to unload.But, hey…there's an easier way. Today, Karlee welcomes back boundary pro Dana Lemay. As the Head of School for the Boundary Academy, Dana is a verifiable expert on knowing when a boundary is necessary, and actually putting it into action. Her One-Minute Minimalist program helps other women declutter their lives to lead a more values-driven life experience. In this episode, you'll get a behind-the-scenes listen to the collective wisdom of the women behind the Boundary Academy. This school wasn't built in your typical hierarchical manner. Instead, it's become a sharing community that constantly flips the script on who's the teacher and who's the student. And that's led to a lot of rich and unexpected surprises. You'll hear from Karlee and Dana about what it's been like to launch The Boundary Academy, and the real-life questions women upgrading their boundaries are asking. You'll learn how to get off the emotional roller coaster when you need to set boundaries and feel more grounded, centered, and clear about what you need and how to achieve it. If you're ready to finally unburden yourself from carrying the weight of the world and do a lot less heavy lifting in your day, on your job, and in your social circles, then this episode is for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why OPP's, or Other People's Opinions, aren't going to be your catalyst for change (0:57)What it means when you feel discomfort about setting boundaries (9:20)Why setting boundaries isn't a one-size-fits-all approach (13:37)Shifting our expectations of being everything all the time to being enough (25:56)How you can be a part of the boundary conversation and stay connected (32:13)People Mentioned in this Episode:Nancy LevinConnect with Dana Lemay:dana-lemay.comResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE FREE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTEpisode 27: The Formula For Making Great Choices: Especially when everyone has an opinion about it what you should be doing.Book: Real Teams Win: What Smart Leaders Need to Know Now about Achieving Peak Performance by Thomas L. SteadingEpisode 57: Trying To Do It All Yourself? How smart leaders stop being the hero and start building emotional integrity with Tom StedingSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Your partner has had a tough week at work, so you stayed up late (even though you have an early conference call) baking their favorite cookies before sneaking them into a little heart-shaped box. Your best girlfriend is having relationship woes...again. So you put down the novel you've been waiting to read all day so that you can be there for her, on the other end of the phone. Your boss needs you to be available Saturday to onboard a new client, so you reluctantly bow out of the picnic your new neighbors invited you to join that afternoon. You know there's nothing you love better than a good night's sleep, a great book, and getting outside. But this week, you're not getting any of it. It's true that we can't control what happens outside of ourselves. But we can control what happens within ourselves. And conversations about boundaries start within ourselves. Today, Karlee welcomes Dana Lemay, the Head of School for the Boundary Academy. Dana is a real-life boundary pro who courageously left her “looks good on paper” career to find a life that represented more of what really mattered to her. In 2019, she founded the One-Minute Minimalist to help other women declutter the unnecessary and embark upon a more values-driven life experience. In this episode, you'll learn how to discern whether a decision you're making is being guided by your head or your heart. You'll understand why that knowledge holds an important clue in pointing to where boundaries need to be drawn. And most importantly, you'll learn how to set the emotional boundaries that need setting within your work, your family circles, and your friends.Boundaries matter because it's within that space where we're able to nourish ourselves. If you're ready to learn how how to engage more of your internal resources so that you don't get stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, worry, or always saying “yes”, then this episode is for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:What it feels like to lead with your heart (14:02)The physical sensation of a boundary being crossed (15:36)Our human discomfort of not being in control (19:42)Why rest takes courage (25:10)How to be a one-minute minimalist (30:46)One simple way to declutter your schedule right now (39:19)People Mentioned in this Episode:Nancy LevinConnect with Dana Lemay:dana-lemay.comResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE FREE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTEpisode 15: Building the Habit of Courage: How to stop enduring what drains you with Dana LemayEpisode 32: Curing the Knee Jerk “Yes”: Doable Boundaries That Will Set You Free with Nancy LevinSend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You've been working with seamless efficiency all day to make sure you're out the office door no later than 5:15 today. You're rockin' it ‘cause you've got plans. A hot date. Your kid's first piano recital. A full-body massage you've been looking forward to for weeks. But, just as you're packing up to leave, your boss walks through the door with an urgent request. It'll mean canceling your plans. It's not like you're surprised...she does it all the time. So, what do you do? You love your job but you're really tired of making plans only to have your excitement pummeled at the last minute. “Help!!!!!” you think to yourself in desperation. Then, out of nowhere, your hero Boundary Babe swoops in to save the day! Time stops as your boss stands waiting at the door for an answer. “You called?” she says, outfitted in her shimmery lycra with a “B” emblazoned on the lapel of her cape. “I didn't realize it, but yea...I need to set a boundary here!” you say, exasperated and relieved. Ahhhh, if only it were as simple as calling on a superhero...But, you wanna know a secret? Setting boundaries doesn't require superpowers. And they're easier than you might think.In this week's episode, Karlee introduces a month of boundary breakthroughs that'll help you rescue yourself from the need to be all things to all people- especially in the workplace. She'll help you identify where boundaries might be missing in your work relationships, and give you a simple set of questions to ask yourself so that you can aptly identify the kind of boundary that's being called for. Boundaries are the bridge between you and what it is that you value. If there's something keeping those things apart, then it's time to talk about bridging the gap. If you're ready to shed the resentment, conquer the fatigue, do away with underappreciation, and stop over-committing yourself, then this boundary-setting episode is for you.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Are you an emotional octopus? (1:18)Two questions to ask yourself to frame your boundary before you create it (12:41)Signs of a psychologically safe workplace (15:38) What boundaries don't do (20:39)A real-world example of setting a workplace boundary (21:02)People Mentioned in this Episode:Dana LeMaySarri GilmanResources Mentioned in this Episode:RSVP FOR THE BOUNDARY PANEL: September 20th, 7pm ESTEpisode 67: Boundaries Go Both Ways: How to Unearth Your Boundary Questions and Be an Ally to the WorldEpisode 66: Boundary Bravery: How Women are Giving Themselves Permission to Set Boundaries with Amy ZiegertEpisode 65: Feel Like Your Life Isn't Your Own? How Women Are Building Bridges and Setting Boundaries Like a BossEpisode 32: Curing the Knee Jerk “Yes”: Doable Boundaries That Will Set You Free with Nancy LevinEpisode 30: Reclaiming Your Time: The 3 “B-words” That Give Women Back Their Time and EnergySend your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You've read self-help book after self-help book, but you're still not feeling like you're truly enough. Those hollow investments look great on the bookshelves, but you're seeking more meaningful change. You're ripe for reinvention, but where do you even start? Well, maybe the problem isn't actually you. Maybe it's the messaging...If you are a human woman on planet earth, chances are you've been surrounded by messages telling you that you aren't enough. It's a smog that you unconsciously inhale each day; it influences your mind, body, and interactions with the world around you. In this throwback episode, Karlee and Anitza revisit a simple 3-part process that'll help you discover what “good enough” looks like in your world. You'll get clear on what you really value and unlock the energy you've been missing to get to all the things that are most important to you. This isn't a one-time fix-all solution, but a framework that will guide you to realign your actions with your values and combat smog-messaging along the way. If you're ready to get clear on your values, start enjoying the present moment, and recognize that you're already enough, then this episode is for you. In This Episode, You Will Learn:When you have it all but it still doesn't fell like enough (6:45) Smog messaging: why women constantly feel like they're never enough (15:37)How your body communicates vital information about what's true, what's enough, and what works for you (19:42)3 Steps to Lasting Fulfillment (27:45)The secret sauce that allows women to thrive in their careers, life, and health (39:25)How you know it's time to start getting clear on your values (43:29)Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Episode 91: Walking Our Talk: Cultivating A Productive Downtime HabitEpisode 28: Never Enough? How Driven Women Cultivate Lasting FulfillmentBook: The Grocery Store Adventure Guide by Karlee FainGet the FREE 3 Pillars of Lasting Feminine Fulfillment” Master Sheet HEREPeople Mentioned in This Episode:Kate NorthrupTerry Tempest WilliamsGlennon DoyleConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Why can't I keep up with everyone else?Why don't I have the energy or the answers yet?Am I missing out on an opportunity, or is it just going to put me even further behind?If any of these thoughts sound relatable, you could be comparing yourself to a single way of working and living. The one that's become our cultural norm. The one that's frankly just not working.If all of that grind and hustle got you a life that looks great on paper – but it's leaving you feeling stuck, drained, and unsatisfied at the end of the day, then something is off. This is an indicator that the way society expects you to run your business and your life doesn't fit. And that's okay. It's also okay not to have all the answers right now. You aren't exhausted because something is wrong with you. You're exhausted because something is right with you.You see, we've been taught one way to operate in work and life: aggressively and immediately. But as more women occupy seats at the table, it's become apparent that this way isn't sustainable for anyone. The women who are truly thriving in our modern economy are the ones who are doing things a little differently.In this episode, Karlee breaks down the origins of “hustle culture” and "sperm wisdom", and explains why they're biologically unsustainable in today's world. She passes down the concept of “egg wisdom” and talks about what it means to operate on a different, less anxious timeline. You'll hear doable strategies to help shift your mindset and expectations of yourself, your work, and your business. If you're ready to start living in a way that truly works for YOU in our modern economy, then this episode is for you! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why veering off track is often exactly what you need (2:50)When it's ok to take your time before making a decision (10:12)The cyclical and selective nature of working and living in the world (14:31)Why it's okay to not always know the answer (21:47)Red flags that say what was is not working for you (23:11)How daring to be “you” puts your train back in motion (30:35)Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Episode 25: Feeling Stuck or Exhausted? Great, There Is Something Right With YouBook: Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women by Kate NorthrupEpisode 3: Phases of GrowthConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Two words...Authenticity & Vulnerability. When Messy & Magnificent first hit the airwaves, these values are what Karlee felt needed to be front and center. They would come through in every breath, every episode, every fit of laughter, and every heartfelt expression of empathy. This was what we needed more of in the world then. And a pretty rough year and some change later, this secret sauce is what continues to make us stand out. Living into our ideals. Walking our talk. Practicing what we're preachin'. Being authentically, vulnerably, unapologetically ourselves. So, how do we do it? How do we continue to grow, elevate our message, and stand out from the crowd? We keep digging deeper, sharing more authentically, and wholly supporting this growing community that we've created together. Today, Karlee and Anitza open with a reflection on where we've been, what we've learned, and where we are today. Then, we travel back to one of our earliest episodes where listeners asked deep, juicy questions about how Karlee manages her work & life, and the mindset that helps her embody those ideals. This is a deep dive into how to run a successful business, find real work/life balance, learn from mistakes, and rise authentically. If you're ready to learn how you can approach your life and business with more authenticity and more nourisment, then this episode is for you!What You'll Learn in This Episode:Getting to the heart of why we reach for social media (3:50)The embodiment of a real leader (12:27)When the puzzle pieces of your experience finally start fitting together (15:44)Why personal nourishment should be a fundamental part of your business (22:02)How Karlee manages her schedule and stays on track (36:17)Switching from being driven by motivation to being driven by devotion (42:02)How to foster authenticity and engagement through social media (50:07)Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Episode 91: Walking Our Talk: Cultivating A Productive Downtime HabitEpisode 9: I Answer Your Juiciest Questions About How I Run My Business and My Mental GameReclaiming Time StudioConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It's Friday night, and you just walked in the door. You kick off those uncomfortable shoes, change into your PJ's, and you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror. Staring back at you is a worn-out woman. She's got bags under her eyes, her energy seems depleted...and has that pensive line on her forehead always been there? “Enough”, you say to yourself. Time for some self-care. You open up the bathroom cabinet and sift through your stash of sheet masks. You grab a cucumber from the fridge and place two cool slices over your eyes. You cue up some meditative nature sounds on Spotify and stretch your tired body out across the couch. Those juicy masks and self-care moments are a-ok, but the truth is that real nourishment, the kind that fills you up internally, the nourishment that your reflection in the mirror is really asking for...well, that doesn't come from home spa treatments. Your body is telling you that it requires more resources. This has been a wild year for everyone. We've been really busy trying to rewire our habits and problem solve under pandemic conditions. But, have we given ourselves the time we need to allow our thoughts, emotions, and mental game to catch up to our physical bodies? Probably not. Or maybe just not enough.It's time for you to fill up the tank of your internal resources and reconnect with your professional groove. It's nourishment season. Where do we find nourishment, if it's not in those home spa treatments? True human nourishment exists in the everyday things. Those small (but big!) things that we do to make ourselves just a little bit healthier and happier. Today, Karlee is joined again by Anitza Martins to revisit what it means to seek nourishment, and how to know when you need it. You'll discover the four pillars of being a fully resourced career woman, and how you can reconnect with your natural rhythms and cycles to find that lasting, authentic, soul-satisfying nourishment that you've been craving. If you're ready to reconnect with a more natural rhythm and nourish your being from the inside out, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:How our career needs change through different life stages (1:57)Why aiming for doing 3% better is enough (4:15)3 reasons why now is the time to refuel professionally (7:48)A deeper definition of nourishment (12:03)The Four Pillars of a more fully resourced career woman (20:43)Why tending to beauty is essential (31:52)Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Episode 91: Walking Our Talk: Cultivating A Productive Downtime HabitEpisode 69: Out of Sync? How Wise Women are Receiving NourishmentEpisode 3: Done Burning Out? The 4 phases of growth and sustaining success‬Episode 41: Is Your Work Mojo Down? Here's 4 Types of Nourishment for the Soul Of Your CareerEpisode 35: Trust Your Knowing: How Women Rise From Doubt to Leading Themselves Forward with Suzi Banks Bau‪m‬Website: Native LandVideo: TED Talk, Theaster Gates: How to Revive a Neighborhood with Imagination, Beauty, and ArtConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Raise your hand if you get enough downtime in your days? Your weeks, months, or years? We've been covering the topic of rest, or what we like to call “productive downtime”, throughout the month of July. Now, it's time to walk our talk. Rather than put new episodes together for August, we're doin' the backstroke to dig a little deeper into a select handful of past episodes that really dial in on what it means to pause. So, if the past few episodes about incorporating more rest, reflection, and productive downtime have been resonating with you, then August might just be your moment to start baking in the practice of rest into your regular routine, too.When we talk about being successful, both as humans and in our professional work, we usually refer to climbing some sort of proverbial ladder. Whether it's a corporate or an entrepreneurial ladder, we all want to keep going up. But if we're in a constant state of “up”, we miss out on all the in between. There's value in the in between. If you don't take the time to pause, you're not harvesting the important insights you just worked so hard to get. Growth isn't actually in the shape of a ladder. It's more like a spiral staircase. You still move upward, but with every step you take up, culmination invites you to circle back and reflect upon the wisdom gained from each previous footfall. So when we build in moments to pause, and reflect on our experiences before automatically moving on to the next thing, we can actually harvest the nourishing wisdom that we've worked for.This episode an invitation to go deeper into what's working.In this episode, Karlee weaves audience questions and comments with powerful episode clips to create rich conversations around professional sustainability. She'll map out how you can make space for nourishment, and explains why it's so important to pause and reflect. Leaning into the wisdom of listeners and guests, she'll also identify what it means when we feel guilt for resting, and how that feeling can actually be a clue as to whether or not we're truly living our values. If you're ready to reap the benefits of pause and create space for rest and nourishment in your life, then this episode is for you! What You'll Learn in This Episode:What to expect from the podcast through August (3:23)Why the time to consider a deeper form of nourishment is now (16:58)A “nourishment” refresher (18:28)How pros get past distractions and get time for nourishment (21:30)Following up (and through!) on the 5 Better Questions (29:07)Changing our relationship with guilt (39:05)How to know when you're honoring your values (44:19)Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Episode 73: The Purposeful Pause - How Women Get Colossal Results By Contracting Before We ExpandEpisode 3: Done Burning Out? The 4 phases of growth and sustaining successEpisode 69: Out of Sync? How Wise Women are Receiving NourishmentEpisode 70: Thinking About Change? How We Find Focus and Make Elevated ChoicesWebsite: David L. Cooperrider Center for Appreciative InquiryMaster Sheet for FocusEpisode 71: Tired of Feeling Guilty? How Wise Women are Exploring Guilt and Becoming Better Leaders with Catherine FlavinPeople Mentioned in this Episode:Karen Witzig RozellDavid L. CooperriderCatherine Flavin See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Whatever happened to nap time? While it may have seemed really boring when we were in kindergarten, that little bit of baked-in downtime would be pretty nice to have as a working adult. But, time is money...right? Who has time for 10-minute meditations or lunchtime walks when our productivity is on the line? Well, here's something that might surprise you…Not only is it easier than you think to make room for rest in your workday, but that rest is actually going to make you more productive, a better leader, and more charismatic in the eyes of your co-workers. You see, there's a difference between working hard and overworking. When we prioritize our wellbeing by creating a hospitable environment for ourselves, we stop viewing work and life as two separate things. Therein lies the magic.In this week's culmination episode, Karlee circles back through some of the biggest highlights from our month of rest-seeking. She recaps the historical reasons why rest intentionally wasn't built into our workdays and shares practical ways that you can reshape the paradigm. You'll hear what to do if you're feeling the need to rebound from a rest deficit, and a real-world example of how one business owner flipped the definition of hospitality to include his staff first, prioritizing their wellness to cultivate an authentically hospitable environment for employees and guests.If you're ready to understand the true nature of rest and start to reclaim your productive downtime, then this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why self-care call-outs can rub you the wrong way (7:00)The difference between hard work and overworking (12:59)Why the patriarchal work model isn't working (18:23)Respecting the cycles and seasons of our biological nature (25:54)The physical and emotional benefits of rest (31:49)The 7 types of rest (35:14)A better hospitality mentality (48:30)People Mentioned in this Episode:Saundra Dalton-SmithDan PallottaDan LandesWatercourse FoodsCity, O' CityOff The Bottle Refill ShopElissa SangsterResources Mentioned in this Episode:Episode 87: A History of No Rest: Why “over-working” triumphed and how we reclaim productive downtimeEpisode 88: Ready To Rebound from a Rest Deficit? How Pros Get More Rest and Recovery.Episode 89: Being Hospitable to Yourself: How to build rest and recovery into your work life with Dan LandesJournal: “Worry Isn't Work.” Harvard Business Review, 23 July 2014, hbr.org/2010/08/worry-isnt-work.html.Article: Elissa Sangster, “The Patriarchy Invented The 9-5 Workday. Here's How We Remake It With Women In The Room.” Forbes, Forbes Magazine, 10 Sept. 2019Article: “What's Really Holding Women Back?” Harvard Business Review, 19 Feb. 2020, hbr.org/2020/03/whats-really-holding-women-back. Article: “Sleep Better, Lead Better.” Harvard Business Review, 21 Aug. 2018, hbr.org/2018/09/sleep-well-lead-better. TED Talk: MD, Saundra Dalton-Smith, et al. “The 7 Types of Rest That Every Person Needs.” Ideas.ted.com, 6 Jan. 2021, ideas.ted.com/the-7-types-of-rest-that-every-person-needs/Send your Audio Comments and Questions to anitza@everybodythrive.comConnect With Karlee: WebsiteLinkedInInstagramMessy and Magnificent is produced by the folks at Ginni Media. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.